oh if I had three wishes ah what would I wish for, ya, I think first and foremost like the most important one is you wish for very good health, right


and then the next two ah err maybe the next one is you have err I wish that I will go back to when I was five years old


yeah


yeah correct correct you will know what to do you know what to do and what not to do, and then the third wish


I don't know leh probably there's a two wish that I need keep the last which until when I need it lor, ya ya the emergency you know


so what about yourself (m)


did you travel a lot


so where's the where's the last place that you went, oh that's nice


there's a problem, yeah


on time to leave #New York#, because because ah my I got the last time the last company that was working for I'm a chef


(hmm) <mandarin>他:ta</mandarin> stuck <mandarin>在:zai</mandarin> #New York# <mandarin>就是不可以回来:jiu shi bu ke yi hui lai</mandarin> then <mandarin>我的:wo de</mandarin> head chef <mandarin>每天他的:mei tian ta de</mandarin> mood hor <mandarin>很像很像在:hen xiang hen xiang zai</mandarin> PMS <mandarin>这样:zhe yang</mandarin>


around the same age lah, ya we are around the same age I'm twenty seven this year, twenty seven this year correct it was nothing


yeah, so what are you what are you working as, oh oh then then it's like all all shutdown and all that so they make you on go on unpaid leave is it


okay


what ya is the hardest hit really aviation is the hardest hit, I think so ya


better , so how long have you working been working as a cabin crew


seven years, !wow! that's long ya is a long time, I've ya like it brings you to places I think if if you if you really like traveling this will be one of the jobs that will you know be an advantage to you


, yeah, yup I'm a chef err I've been a chef for, well, many years like I think about nine years I started out very young yeah, very very young so I actually my family my mom has a F&B stall so I've been helping her since young


okay, and then I realized that I could open one of myself and then I did I open one myself and I realized and I learned err


, because yeah there were a lot of issues in the company and then all the HR issues lah then couldn't deal with it anymore and


yeah, correct correct, because


because you you have to stand like twelve hours thirteen hours but at this at at at the same time you know you because there's a surplus in chef right <mandarin>很很像很多:hen hen xiang hen duo</mandarin> restaurant <mandarin>关吗所以有很多:guan ma suo yi you hen duo</mandarin> chef hor


so you will feel very very unfair like you have been like it's a kind of like modern time modern day slavery lah that's why actually ten of us left the restaurant, ya at one time


ya ya correct, know


yeah, (hmm) <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> [loh], yes I graduated from Shatec, yeah the first first world problems


that's what they call first world problems, yeah


ya correct same recipe, ya lor so my husband and I, is now looking to get a hawker stall to start somewhere, yeah


yeah but it's Malay one, and then but instead of doing that hor because <mandarin>他的那个:ta de na ge</mandarin> cost <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> high <mandarin>所以我们要:suo yi wo men yao</mandarin> focus on one single dish we are thinking of selling err you know mutton soup <mandarin>你有吃过:ni you chi guo</mandarin> #sup kambing# mah


uh but instead, ya the the taste is


yeah that's what we want to do, oh <mandarin>就是就是:jiu shi jiu shi</mandarin> is the mutton


yeah that that that's very true <mandarin>真的是要:zhen de shi yao</mandarin> really eat what you can when you're young and do what you can when you're young


when your time when your time comes ah you everything also cannot eat then what's the point of living already, so what's your favorite kind of food, fried food ah


then I suppose you have a you have a air fryer at home, I know I I always wanted one but there's no space in my house waiting for my new house to come


supposedly supposed to come beginning of next year but this COVID thing has pushed it for another six months, err Punggol


yeah it's at Punggol, where all the new BTOs are lah, but it's near my friends and my sister so it is a good area, and is where all my important ya, is where all my important people are in my life, ya that's why


so how long have you been together with your boyfriend, !wow! congrats is he a cabin crew too, oh okay


holding it back for awhile, the night actually the night before they locked down I mean the week before we had a bridal shower for my friends, for my friend ya we had a bridal shower she was supposed to get married that weekend and then they had a lockdown and she had to cancel it


they held it off as in it's postponed so no refund yet lah until she decide to go ahead with it <mandarin>很像等等到:hen xiang deng deng dao</mandarin> this whole thing blow over then <mandarin>再:zai</mandarin> restart lah


oh okay like a like a dining hall is it, oh okay okay I understand like a #Tong Lok# private dining section and all


right right no hers is held at a hotel I forgot which hotel it was ya is at a hotel


yeah it is,


yeah


ya so I didn't have a <mandarin>席酒:xi jiu</mandarin> but I understand lah I mean the <mandarin>席酒:xi jiu</mandarin> sometime is for the <mandarin>父母:fu mu</mandarin> you know most of the time is for the for the family and the parents, , my sister did it for for my parents lah so I don't think she was very happy that day


oh it's okay cannot hear you eh cannot hear the cannot hear cannot hear the music through the phone


teleportation, yeah


is the best leh you can go anywhere you want practically without any consequences you can like teleport on top of a on top of the pyramid Egypt and then teleport back within the minute I mean I mean that's what okay for you traveling is very important because you can get to see and unwind


for me traveling is very very important because <mandarin>可以看到:ke yi kan dao</mandarin> the rest of the world you know <mandarin>因为你会觉得你的世界不是不是不是只是新加坡那么小有很多很多:yin wei ni hui jue de ni de shi jie bu shi bu shi bu shi zhi shi xin jia po na me xiao you hen duo hen duo</mandarin> beautiful scenes and things and wonders that is really out of the world


ya if you don't see that, ya that's the thing


then <mandarin>你自己:ni zi ji</mandarin> leh <mandarin>为什么你要:wei shen me ni yao</mandarin> teleportation


yeah, yeah that is that is true yes teleportation is the best superpower to have, yeah if I were to have a superpower


I think I think I I honestly think they're already halfway there because you see the VR system


well


no I'm I'm definitely not afraid of heights actually I love heights, yeah like I would love to do skydiving


ya I would love to do skydiving like it will be like one on my bucket list, yeah <mandarin>在:zai</mandarin> Vegas <mandarin>应该是应该是:ying gai shi ying gai shi</mandarin> you did it ah


you did where in Vegas, yeah it's (m) !wow! that's nice super jealous dude


correct <mandarin>你只有一次的生命:ni zhi you yi ci de sheng ming</mandarin> you only live once man, no how much was it was it expensive


oh that's cheap


fifty fifty chance to survive that kind


my friend did it in Vegas for one thousand leh, yeah yeah I thought it will be around that price but four hundred is very affordable man, yeah


yeah it's not too bad four hundred is not too bad I I would do it if given a chance, Vegas yeah, the city of sin everything, that happens in Vegas stays in, hopefully not your skydiving if you stay in Vegas means you are dead


yeah so what are you where are you going to work later


yeah, yeah and other than hawkers and hawker centre is booming though, the queues are long the sales are good, it's even better pre-COVID


ya WhyQ mah WhyQ <mandarin>我看到一个他们叫:wo kan dao yi ge ta men jiao</mandarin> WhyQ, but <mandarin>他们他们的:ta men ta men de</mandarin> system new <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> lah <mandarin>有一天:you yi tian</mandarin> hiccups <mandarin>看到他们在那边不知所措不懂要怎样做一个太多:kan dao ta men zai na bian bu zhi suo cuo bu dong yao zen yang zuo yi ge tai duo</mandarin> order Liao


they are not ready you know for the big big bulk of order but okay lah, , I think that, yes they have changed their app they have actually like improved their app during the CB period


so that they can ya accomodate, more people ordering, so that's not bad, I was working I was actually still in the kitchen during the circuit breaker period, yeah during that time during that time yes


yes that's what we were doing <mandarin>不错:bu cuo</mandarin> leh <mandarin>生意蛮不错的:sheng yi man bu cuo de</mandarin> ok lah, , yes mostly dine in


we change the entire menu actually to suit it for takeaway <mandarin>很像那些不可以打包就没有放在:hen xiang nei xie bu ke yi da bao jiu mei you fang zai</mandarin> menu <mandarin>如果可以打包的那种比较耐的我们就放在:ru guo ke yi da bao de na zhong bi jiao nai de wo men jiu fang zai</mandarin> menu [loh], set <mandarin>这样子:zhe yang zi</mandarin> then other than then <mandarin>我们:wo men</mandarin> the head chef actually <mandarin>有做一个:you zuo yi ge</mandarin> Zoom the cooking class


<mandarin>所以:suo yi</mandarin> people from America actually people mostly people from America they joined the cooking class with my chef to cook and then the Singapore version one we actually send them the groceries and then they cook together with my chef, ya because my restaurant <mandarin>很多:hen duo</mandarin> CB mah


yeah <mandarin>满大的:man da de</mandarin> changes ah is really a big change but I think we adapted quite fast and well


ya is err I think we earn a few a few thousand eh by what that one class one class only I think, three K if I'm not wrong ya, cause there's a sign, up fee mah, is like you are buying a concert ticket to go in and then they will give you a code and then you can join in


ya before the cooking class actually, I


ah


ya correct


yes to, yeah, yes to do the beef stock is very long first you have to first roast the beef shank bone and then you have to cook your vegetable in the consomme and then you have to drain it out oh it is is really beef beef one is the worst because you have to roast the, yeah, roast the bones first and is a thick bone yeah so it's very hard to roast it through, yeah


yes correct


every single thing yes every single even our skin for Wonton we have to make from flour ourselves


I think every job has its difficulties lah every job has its difficulties for sure


what's the weirdest request you had on the plane


yeah, yeah, ya understand like you you learn to like multitask your fire is on then you gotta do this you gotta do that


yeah you just learn on the job, so how did you give him the half cup of half half half half cube of ice


well that's very amusing man half cube of ice, not not my close friend I've acquaintance that used to work in Singapore airlines but I don't really talk to her so I don't know how bad it is for people who are there like on a personal level ya only from the news and all that


that I've learned, yeah


#asam pedas#, ya you know #asam pedas# the sour yeah, the spicy and hot sour, gravy that you normally you put with seafood like fish


yeah and naturally with the fish roe and all that is really nice but that one I'm very confident in cooking I can I can say that I cook a pretty good #asam pedas#, yeah


I I I loved it at first I was like then I suddenly had a craving for it and I was like ya I think I like it but but, the thing is after eating it like maybe two days in a row right you realize that your digestion not very good leh


ya it's made of a is made of err err err starch that is not so easily digested


I've also tried the other one the white colour one the Lala one


yeah, yeah <mandarin>就有一点批评他的味道呢这样:jiu you yi dian pi ping ta de wei dao ne zhe yang</mandarin> not here not there


oh yes I love Chinese cuisine actually, ya, like all the China vinaigrette vinaigrette there's one that is my favourite the vinaigrette black fungus oh my goodness that's heaven, yes


now now you are making me hungry, now I'm hungry, ya I really every time I go to a Chinese restaurant if they have it I will I will order it lah <mandarin>我一定会叫一次:wo yi ding hui jiao yi ci</mandarin> yeah


(hmm) <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> appetiser


I I will understand that sometimes you you talk too much and then you will just oh my god I'm so done with talking like I'm so done with cooking when I'm home


yeah I don't want even want to do anything, I like Chinese food


yeah


why not


yeah, ya correct the one that you grate on the the that thing to grate up fresh is not that strong


the one that you are eating nowadays is actually not wasabi is horse radish, that's why it's yeah that's why it's so strong like so pungent to to your nasal and all that


do, sushi that was my that was my cravings for the nine months of pregnancy I had with my kid, every day I wants to eat sashimi everyday I want to eat Japanese food


so ya so raw eggs raw eggs


is a big no no but the rest in moderation is fine, ya half boiled cannot


yeah <mandarin>我怀孕的时候真的是你:wo huai yun de shi hou zhen de shi ni</mandarin> crave <mandarin>很奇怪的东西我记得我怀孕的时候我不可以吃辣椒:hen qi guai de dong xi wo ji de wo huai yun de shi hou wo bu ke yi chi la jiao</mandarin> I cannot eat, my mother's food at all like I will vomit I don't know it's just a sudden change


I cannot once I eat like Malay food or like anything with spiciness I will vomit, is very weird but I love spicy food lah but it's very weird during pregnancy yeah, ya is one of the baby's craving


she is three years, old now, so she's grown up all grown up, yeah


she's quite nice now but


I think all mothers do leh


yeah it it is after you see her smile and you she tells you I love you mummy you know, I, ya you forget about all the naughty things that she did to you and biting your


biting your nipple while you breastfeed and, then causing it to bleed, oh my goodness that is


no not not not in a, long long time, maybe but the chances are very very low thinking that I've gone through it I don't think I want to go through it again


yeah I mean like giving birth in Singapore is not cheap man, my hospital, my hospital bill for because I went to emergency C section it was ten thousand dollars in total leh


yeah it's really, ridiculous but probably the fact that I went to a private hospital, it it was ten thousand dollars yeah, err I was with


yeah, in the water that was that was my birth plan, , but the thing was I was with NUH my whole two trimester like I was with NUH cause that's the hospital that offers like birth life life the water birth


ya correct ya <mandarin>他们真的是没有:ta men zhen de shi mei you</mandarin> thorough check was at NUH, regular check the baby heartbeat okay check your weight okay done so I felt like it was not thorough enough and then


, well check <mandarin>你有没有:ni you mei you</mandarin> infection like there's this virus that is very common in pregnant women so he's he swabbed me and then he said you are positive for this virus eh you cannot give birth, natural birth, oh


then I say oh okay I'll go home and take my clothes he say okay so I went home and then I gave birth to her on that day


tiny <mandarin>她是一个:ta shi yi ge</mandarin> premi <mandarin>她她:ta ta</mandarin> at on on her birthday they actually called a pediatrician to make sure that her lungs were fine everything she was a high risk lah but everything was fine she didn't incubate her or anything, so ya ya that's her birth story yeah (ppc)


awake lor, anesthesia, they poke the anesthesia in so I was awake, and then I could feel what they were doing to my body, just no pain, it was so weird, it was so weird, they actually push from the top like one grown guy push my body with his whole body weight to push the baby out


ya just slightly swollen she was breathing fine on her own just no she was completely fine no issues with her at all ya


uh a baby that's not


a baby that's not breathing means you already know that it didn't make it but you still have to give birth to it I tell you is very heartbreaking and I will cry and I will cry, and I will worry if yeah sometimes is like hours apart like two hours before you supposed to give birth and then two hours later your baby is gone you don't know why


yeah


ya,


ya recently she has been telling me err mummy are you going to die, then then I'll tell her yes yeah I'll tell her yes mummy is going to die someday then she say but I don't want you to die then she will cry


then ya then it warms my heart that she actually understand what is death and she doesn't want her parents to disappear you know, yeah yeah


ya correct you have to know exactly what to say so that you know it it's not so morbid but is still answer her questions, so what about yourself yeah how many kids do you want, ya <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> the best


then <mandarin>你你要去赚那那笔钱:ni ni yao qu zhuan na na bi qian</mandarin> then <mandarin>你时间呢你有时间培他:ni shi jian ne ni you shi jian pei ta</mandarin> mah


we bought a BTO at Punggol like four four years ago


yeah I do that, I do that I do I have a folder in Pinterest of like what kind of theme what kind of colour scheme I want and then the kind of doors that I want it's all in my Pinterest oh my goodness


err I think me and my husband taste are similar so it's a good thing, that yeah it's a good thing that that, we like the most most of the same colours and same themes and same stuff, , so everything I show he's like yeah that's very nice just very nice then he'll show me a few things then I said oh yeah it's very nice then I realise that we have the same taste so I don't think there will be a problem doing our house up


ya settled correct


yeah stopped oh my goodness


ya so you have to continue paying paying your CPF and everything but you can't live in it, oh my goodness that's so sad, that that is worse that is worse yeah house first


yeah especially your perspective as a mum you will your whole entire entire priority list you will be very confused of what comes first because there is you there's your child and there's your husband both all all all three of this right you should you don't know which one to love first you may feel that you are letting your husband down if you love yourself more and then you may feel that you are letting yourself down if you love your child and your husband first then it's all err a gush of like hormones then <mandarin>你又在:ni you zai</mandarin> recovery


all over the place, I remember <mandarin>有一次我:you yi ci wo</mandarin> I think <mandarin>我刚刚生完孩子还是没有生完孩子那一次我就穿一个:wo gang gang sheng wan hai zi hai shi mei you sheng wan hai zi na yi ci wo jiu chuan yi ge</mandarin> I wore a body con dress,


then <mandarin>我就哭我就哭不停我就吵一个很大很大的:wo jiu ku wo jiu ku bu ting wo jiu chao yi ge hen da hen da de</mandarin> one very big argument with him because <mandarin>他讲我屁股很大:ta jiang wo pi gu hen da</mandarin> but honestly on a normal day <mandarin>还讲过屁股很大我跟他讲:hai jiang guo pi gu hen da wo gen ta jiang</mandarin> thank you


well my husband thinks I'm fat I'm not attractive anymore, you know he never used to say this but ya lah he does used to say like all the time, and it doesn't hurt me but during that pre post natal you will have all this and you really have to have someone who understands that is just the hormones


is really just the hormones, ya it's really just the hormones, it but it makes a strain takes a strain on the relationship you know, yeah it does so you have to, love yourself and focus on what is good


yeah


professional help like don't be shy to ask for professional help is the best you can do for everybody and yourself


ya really don't don't be scared to feel that there's something wrong with me because it's normal to have something wrong with you after giving birth, err it was, it was very rough leh like because he was also her first time father mah so ha <mandarin>不怎么了解:bu zen me liao jie</mandarin> how these hormones actually affects our our our brain and our actions and all that but we tide through and it was very rough though it was really very rough but we tide through and


and <mandarin>真是不简单:zhen shi bu jian dan</mandarin> beneath <mandarin>真的是:zhen de shi</mandarin> remind <mandarin>自己:zi ji</mandarin> that it's just a phase it will blow over, just focus on taking care of your baby and yourself and it will blow over yeah


!wah!


ah


oh


okay start, okay, okay you can start right now so just with the first questions lah if you have three wishes what would you wish for, if you have err three wishes what would you wish for


yeah that's very true


err ya study more like when mother say ah <mandarin>读多一点书:du duo yi dian shu</mandarin> then then I then <mandarin>我会:wo hui</mandarin> like [orh] maybe every day uh go and do all my revision <mandarin>复习:fu xi</mandarin> everything, ya tI hink that's the best


ya ya ya of course of course, yeah, ya you never know when you might need it


oh if I had three wishes ,


correct, yeah you know sometimes when people are bed ridden on the on the <mandarin>病床:bing chuang</mandarin> right and !wah! at that point of they really wish they could turn back time or take care of themselves and everything but yeah it's like <mandarin>太迟了:tai chi le</mandarin> lah that time, the second one will be if !wah! if had three wishes !wah! I wish that this COVID nineteen like <mandarin>观瞻病毒:guan zhan bing du</mandarin> will be over <mandarin>快点来快点:kuai dian lai kuai dian</mandarin> over because I really can't take it anymore


this year has been quite crazy lah because yeah because like a lot of things then stay home then I guess this is the year that we found that !wah! <mandarin>留在家里的真的很辛苦:liu zai jia li de zhen de hen xin ku</mandarin> because ya you can't do anything then technology is really really important because <mandarin>你不可以踏出家门:ni bu ke yi ta chu jia men</mandarin> just to buy like your favourite #mee pok #or your #kuay chap# you know that kind of food yah so it's really tough


, so hope for this COVID to be over in this year by two O two O and my third wish will be I hope that I can go back to travelling soon I miss I miss travelling yeah


like I had, not really yeah it's a way of life you know uh <mandarin>释放释放压力:shi fang shi fang ya li</mandarin> like that, ya, after a long day of work then oh my god you and you go home <mandarin>就算:jiu suan</mandarin> lie on the bed and like plan for your next err itinerary for your next err travel like or <mandarin>我要去哪一个国家:wo yao qu na yi ge guo jia</mandarin> everything !wah!


ya but like, oh, !wah! the last place I went was in I guess in March I went on a holiday to err new york city#, ya the I was, ya <mandarin>对我跟我的男朋友:dui wo gen wo de nan peng you</mandarin> ya that was the start of the COVID at that point of time then I think that at point of time in times square <mandarin>还很多人啊:hai hen duo ren a</mandarin> but yeah doesn't seem like you know the virus was


ya there's a problem yes I'm really shocked then after I left #New York# then everything start to go like a bit crazy, ya I think I'm also <mandarin>蛮幸运的:man xing yun de</mandarin> yes correct


okay, oh my gosh <mandarin>就是说他:jiu shi shuo ta</mandarin> stuck <mandarin>在:zai</mandarin> #New York# ah


ya ya, ya ya ya <mandarin>当然啦因为自己的孩子们:dang ran la yin wei zi ji de hai zi men</mandarin> like it's always it's always ah your <mandarin>宝贝:bao bei</mandarin> like that ah yeah you will definitely worry lah


no matter what, oh I'm this year I am around so yeah I'm twenty nine going to <mandarin>三十岁:san shi sui</mandarin> because haven't pass my birthday yet, ah yes correct correct, yeah


ah twenty seven ya ya, it's like our golden age lah but like this thing had to happen I thought like or during the SARS that time like or you know !wah! it it was really bad already but at that point of time know we were still in school <mandarin>我们不用担心太多:wo men bu yong dan xin tai duo</mandarin> but right now like oh ya !wah!


!wah! is crazy, but I didn't know that (hmm), what am I, what am I doing right now, oh actually err I'm working as a cabin crew yeah, yes


yeah it was on the <mandarin>新闻:xin wen</mandarin> that we had to go for those uh unpaid leave but I didn't go but I was I'm currently working like they have posted me somewhere to work first then like volunteering scheme


yes, so, but I mean all is well ah like every time you will look at the <mandarin>新闻:xin wen</mandarin> look at the newspaper you look at the <mandarin>新闻:xin wen</mandarin> right like the <mandarin>十点新闻:shi dian xin wen</mandarin> everything they say oh know how many how many cases every day !wah! it's very hard for the airline to continue to like err make some progress or <mandarin>进步:jin bu</mandarin> lah like !wah! it's crazy


ya like let's hope that this year will be ya because this to this year is like the <mandarin>鼠年:shu nian</mandarin> so next year will be like is it <mandarin>牛:niu</mandarin> the the cow year


ya so let's hope for <mandarin>新年:xin nian</mandarin> to come then everything will be over, yes correct, , for me ah weighing around let me count I think around err <mandarin>七年七个月:qi nian qi ge yue</mandarin> something like that yeah how about yourself


yeah seven years, is a long time ya, but I really like this job lah


yes correct right but right now oh no or how about yourself you are a chef a chef right, oh !wow!


!huh! you are <mandarin>老板娘:lao ban niang</mandarin> yourself lah


oh yeah all the red tapes and stuff


I know but oh chef I think is really good you know especially right now like I think a lot of places are looking for chef actually because y'all ah <mandarin>就是你们专注一些:jiu shi ni men zhuan zhu yi xie</mandarin> things that people don't know like you know like french or some pastry chef


, some people are like certain Chinese chef !wah!,


!aiyo! yeah they really don't know all these things


yeah


!wah!


what am I going to do next


surely scare them so you graduated from uh were Shatec, !wah! nice hor I always wanted to cook you know the problem of our girls nowadays they are we don't know how to cook some people don't even know how to on the <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> gas


everybody want to go there then !wah! scared <mandarin>煮一个蛋怕那个油喷到自己:zhu yi ge dan pa na ge you pen dao zi ji</mandarin> like that [orh], then I think like ah better don't fry an egg ah ha, ya !aiya!


out of ten maybe I think only two people know how to cook okay lah maybe five people know how to light up a <mandarin>火:huo</mandarin> lah you know the gas everything, yeah


yeah !wah! it's really tough so, oh eh that's really cool, so I mean what what what food do you all specialize in like you know Chinese like <mandarin>中国餐还是:zhong guo can hai shi</mandarin> or <mandarin>法国菜:fa guo cai</mandarin> or you know that kind


!wah! amazing !wah! that is damn nice


ah #sup kambing# yes


(oo) !wow! that it will appeal to the Chinese market


ah, then I'm like, I'm so young only, how come how come my <mandarin>胆固醇有点高:dan gu chun you dian gao</mandarin> also I'm also like oh my gosh why then I yeah


ya no regrets lah , yeah oh my, !wah! the actually


my favourite kind of food I love fried food, ya that's why my cholesterol is like err very high, oh yes oh I think <mandarin>那个电器:na ge dian qi</mandarin> air fryer is really <mandarin>最好的电器:zui hao de dian qi</mandarin> is my best investment ever


oh okay where is your new house at, oh six months where where is it located


like is it at the Punggol, of course, !wow! eh that's actually very good because I mean it's it's it's good to stay near to people that err matters to you so whenever you want to go for visiting or you want to go for like a chill out session with like all your <mandarin>朋友:peng you</mandarin> like


you know sometimes like after a hard day of work you say okay <mandarin>我要去:wo yao qu</mandarin> I want to just go chill out I want to go <mandarin>喝一个啤酒:he yi ge pi jiu</mandarin> my friend okay can bring your beers there and like eh how's life everything you don't have to travel all the way yeah, me around two years but actually we are going to get married soon but this COVID


err he is not lah he's working in a <mandarin>银行:yin hang</mandarin> but, ya right now, yeah everything is affected pretty badly so we are just


yeah, oh no then how about I mean so she had to cancel her banquet lah then did they refund her or anything


oh


so like she booked it in a hotel or some <mandarin>酒楼:jiu lou</mandarin> some people like to have it at a <mandarin>酒楼:jiu lou</mandarin> because <mandarin>酒楼:jiu lou</mandarin> is like although it's it's also like a hotel setting just no room, yeah


yes yes yes correct correct, yes correct ya


, but I sure hope she will get her her deposit back because right now is know everything is so uncertain they said oh maybe <mandarin>可以十个人一桌现在:ke yi shi ge ren yi zhuo xian zai</mandarin> only <mandarin>五十个:wu shi ge</mandarin> pax then !wah! <mandarin>真的是很难去安排:zhen de shi hen nan qu an pai</mandarin> because <mandarin>你邀请亲戚还是你要请你的:ni yao qing qin qi hai shi ni yao qing ni de</mandarin> friends !wah! is really a hard decision to make


only 50 pax who to choose like but it's your own wedding then you want to choose <mandarin>请亲戚不请朋友好像过不去可是请朋友的不请亲戚:qing qin qi bu qing peng you hao xiang guo bu qu ke shi qing peng you de bu qing qin qi</mandarin> like people will talk yeah


yeah oh it's really a tough decision like err !wah! <mandarin>遇到是:yu dao shi</mandarin> is like cannot lah , oh so where do you had your wedding, !wow! wise choice


that's true that's true, oh I see


!wah! err don't know who is blasting music, err just downstairs my house I don't know if can hear it, can't ah okay


[orh] I'm like okay err not at this time , okay oh so uh I have I because I saw the questions list then I thought eh !wah! <mandarin>挺有趣:ting you qu</mandarin> one then I there is this things that uh that I feel like (oo) okay if you have unusual superpower what would it be


teleportation oh my gosh that's exactly what I wanted <mandarin>因为我一直想一直想:yin wei wo yi zhi xiang yi zhi xiang</mandarin> !wah! what superpower if I have a superpower, like <mandarin>我可以要拥有什么:wo ke yi yao yong you shen me</mandarin> superpower, , !wah! teleportation is really good but why why, what's your reasons for teleportation


yeah


yeah definitely, yeah


free tickets for life yeah it was know tickets are so expensive if I can go and save on time


, so I can do more like meaningful stuff, yeah, like uh even more meaningful stuff like house reno and stuff like that, so I can do that and I can visit so many <mandarin>国家:guo jia</mandarin> at at such a short time span !wah! I think it's a win win situation for me leh


ya well I hope I hope like you know if if next time if technology is gonna be really really good right err teleportation is really a, (hmm), ya if they can do this teleportation thing right !wah! I think it's like <mandarin>是最好的一个东西:shi zui hao de yi ge dong xi</mandarin> lah


oh VR system oh yes amazing right


oh actually I'm really really scared of heights <mandarin>有时我我从那个那个:you shi wo wo cong na ge na ge</mandarin> building <mandarin>那边我将跨过去看其实我的脚:na bian wo jiang kua guo qu kan qi shi wo de jiao</mandarin> I a bit jelly


yeah I feel jelly like soft have you have you any how about yourself, !wow! I'm so envious, skydiving err <mandarin>高空高空降落:gao kong gao kong jiang luo</mandarin> something I don't know


I don't know <mandarin>高空高空跳伞吧:gao kong gao kong tiao san ba</mandarin> yeah, definitely, yeah you should definitely do it err really no regrets <mandarin>不会后悔晚真的真的:bu hui hou hui wan zhen de zhen de</mandarin> I did it


yeah, no but it will be such a nice place to do right because of all the like turn everything !wah! nice for the pictures I did it in uh let me think I did it in New Zealand that time in Auckland


I can't lah but initially I thought like {ppb} I can't do it I really can't do it but like <mandarin>我这一生一定要做一次因为:wo zhe yi sheng yi ding yao zuo yi ci yin wei</mandarin> yeah like no regrets, just go for it


yeah, but but when the, , when the instructor was like, , you know I was at the door of the airplane right then the instructor was like are you ready, then I haven't I haven't got the time to reply and oh shit I'm out of the aircraft


oh okay I'm out already, everything was actually around four hundred Sing dollars, ya inclusive of <mandarin>照片:zhao pian</mandarin> and the video is and yeah plus one time everything then you know new zealand everything is could should be quite <mandarin>安全:an quan</mandarin> lah


ya you I mean I wouldn't dare to do it in some other countries not to be named, yeah, but like <mandarin>你有看到他的那个安全带好像有点生锈了:ni you kan dao ta de na ge an quan dai hao xiang you dian sheng xiu le</mandarin> err actually can I still jump out will I still be in one piece when I land


have I bought my insurance yeah, !wow! one thousand


yeah I thought so too when now you say one thousand dollars well four hundred is okay not too bad, but, ya but where in Vegas right I'm sure you're doing it in Vegas yeah definitely because Vegas is like the city of sin, yeah


ya ya ya ya that that means you have another meaning yes correct !wah!, oh I'm going to work because right now I am I'm deployed as a transport ambassador if I see I'm sure you have seen the <mandarin>新闻:xin wen</mandarin> that they say [orh] cabin crew has been deployed to a few places like <mandarin>医院:yi yuan</mandarin> lah


yeah, bus interchanges we have it in where ah MRT stations <mandarin>地铁车站:di tie che zhan</mandarin> then we also have it and they where is it like a lot of places lah like contact centres as well so


yeah, oh man so many places because of the airline is not doing really really well so yeah so they say oh why not now y'all give back to the society by doing all this then when the airline recovers when you all can come back as a cabin crew and continue with your job lah, but is is a question mark right now they say the crystal ball is really unclear like <mandarin>我们现在也不懂下个月会发生什么事:wo men xian zai ye bu dong xia ge yue hui fa sheng shen me shi</mandarin> everyday we are just looking at the numbers hoping that the numbers will err <mandarin>快点下去因为:kuai dian xia qu yin wei</mandarin> we really I think the airline can't handle all these things anymore then right now there is no there is no err <mandarin>财源:cai yuan</mandarin> lah know this word is so nobody dare to say because all the older people you know they are actually fearing for the


like the R word like the big R, yeah


yes correct so


ya that's why, ya so how about your how about your industry like because I heard a lot of cafes are actually err <mandarin>倒闭:dao bi</mandarin> like within such a short period of time you know


oh man


yeah, yeah I I am surprised actually and right now they are very smart they're coming out with their own delivery platforms


yeah, ya <mandarin>因为他们好像突然:yin wei ta men hao xiang tu ran</mandarin> like so many orders they <mandarin>好像支撑不了那么多:hao xiang zhi cheng bu liao na me duo</mandarin> orders then it's usually <mandarin>一个新的一个:yi ge xin de yi ge</mandarin> system right then <mandarin>他们有点好像:ta men you dian hao xiang</mandarin> !wah! <mandarin>可能会有点:ke neng hui you dian</mandarin> ya like what you say <mandarin>会有点:hui you dian</mandarin> hiccups here and there


slowly but surely


oh, !wow! so what were you doing during the circuit breaker period, !wow! yeah I mean you are considered one of our front line workers, definitely you know


ya when everybody was at home y'know doing nothing y'all are out there like dishing out a lot a lot of orders, ha, !wah! then like do you all have to come up with like a new marketing strategy or like new because I'm sure that y'all seldom do take aways like mostly are dine ins and stuff like that so do you have to


and then <mandarin>突然间:tu ran jian</mandarin> like oh they say oh everything has to be like <mandarin>要打包带走:yao da bao dai zou</mandarin> then how do you then everybody will be thinking like how how to pack all these things nicely is the customer's experience then what do y'all do like any anything that your business has done


!wow!


!wow! then , oh


that's true that's true !wow! eh that's actually a very <mandarin>好主意:hao zhu yi</mandarin> because I mean nobody will have think of that then !wah! you when things happen right your boss actually oh okay maybe I can do cooking classes online then yeah that's how do y'all earn money do you all earn from that the cooking classes


!wow! I'm amazed, !wow!


ah so before that and then <mandarin>你们要准备哪些食材:ni men yao zhun bei nei xie shi cai</mandarin> so you will come up with a list to prepare all the ingredients, and stuff like that, oh before the cooking class actually starts lah


oh okay


!wow! that's a lot of


, you know the one that they always prepare the food for the airline, so !wah! to cook a broth it takes so long then I was wondering oh my you know when y'all have to do like you know like example like french onion soup or something right


y'all actually have to prepare the beef stock in advance already, and how long does it take ya


but but can I ask you something why can't be why can't you all just buy it know to <mandarin>偷偷地在那种:tou tou de zai na zhong</mandarin> NTUC the shelf you know <mandarin>买那些:mai nei xie</mandarin> beef beef stock


then it won't be as good lah oh yeah, that's true, lah you get what you paid for


[orh] all natural, !wow!


well I'm sure everyday is like arms day for you all you know you all will have a muscular <mandarin>很多肌肉的:hen duo ji rou de</mandarin> arms because you know it's not easy when I chop the when I chop the chicken and I chop the celery everything you know and then the next day I go home with like muscle aches on my arms yeah


!wah! my


sometimes we meet people who have like weird requests but like <mandarin>每天都是这样:mei tian dou shi zhe yang</mandarin> so we get used to it actually, yeah, what's the weirdest reques err <mandarin>让我想一下:rang wo xiang yi xia</mandarin> what's the weirdest request err I was on this flight from Singapore to Mumbai


, the customer I think maybe a lot of people has heard it before so I was initially because I was like maybe my first few months so I was quite you know like quite <mandarin>嫩:nen</mandarin> lah at at point of time, yeah, like very fresh from school so err I went because this person stopped me and say [orh] he would like to have a cup of Coke so I say ok sure Coke then after that I say


would you like it with ice or not so he said err half half a cube of ice then I was so shocked I was like oh half where do I find half a cube of ice, ya but <mandarin>这个工作室挺有趣的:zhe ge gong zuo shi ting you qu de</mandarin> lah like because you meet people from all walks of life and people handling will become like like a everyday thing for you, like how you yeah how you cut how you like do all the chef's stuff you know know some people like I told you couldn't even light up fire but for your ah it's like breathing in air like that ya you can do it every day and stuff like that


it's like easy peasy, yeah, I just choose a smaller piece I I went back and I asked this customer actually request for a half cube of ice then I say <mandarin>我们有:wo men you</mandarin> half cube meh


and then after that my seniors they were like oh okay okay just give him this cube then I asked him sir half cube is it ok


yeah do you have any friends working in the airline industries as well that is affected, ah


yeah oh my, ya lah so uh how about hotels like mean you you say you do like Indonesian cuisine right, yeah


dish that, #asam pedas#, I know is a hot, yeah


!wow!, well actually it's like noontime lready right we haven't I haven't had lunch but it's okay, like you are making me hungry because I really really really like err spicy food, yeah


yeah how about yourself


oh yes correct because is it because is made of light sweet potato starch or something, yeah, ya <mandarin>消化不良:xiao hua bu liang</mandarin> right


yeah I I totally know that feeling because after for me is actually after one bowl of it then the next day I had some problems so, oh my, yeah oh so you only have tried that particular one with the with the guy in a bowl hair shaped with the <mandarin>暴牙:bao ya</mandarin> you know the one with the thumbs up


oh


of course of course you can definitely <mandarin>这个不用说你一定可以做个比较好的:zhe ge bu yong shuo ni yi ding ke yi zuo ge bi jiao hao de</mandarin> because you are a chef, so like you I will assume that <mandarin>你比较喜欢那种重口味的:ni bi jiao xi huan na zhong zhong kou wei de</mandarin> that kind of cuisine or


ah Chinese, !wow!, you know that was what that comes to my mind


ya I have it downstairs at near my place as well is !wah! the the black fungus it's really really the best, yums


like the the <mandarin>冷菜:leng cai</mandarin> right like, the first a few cold dishes, then followed by some yeah !wow! can you make that yourself


oh that that's true that's true yeah yeah yeah yeah it's like it happens to me as well because I've been talking like most of the time when I'm on the when I'm on board with so many passengers especially you know some China flights right like because I mean there's not only Chinese (um crew there is also like foreign crew from overseas as well so sometimes we have to <mandarin>讲华语:jiang hua yu</mandarin> then after sometimes I check in to the hotel I can don't don't talk for the whole day


like just <mandarin>闭门思过:bi men si guo</mandarin> and not talk, yes !wah! totally understand, !wow! but you like Chinese food so I mean you like do you like


, or is it is it for me I will eat lah I like I like spicy food so everyday if if one day I never eat spicy food the next day I will kind of like makeup for my spicy cravings cause I really need my chilli but I mean different form but the only chilli that I really don't eat is wasabi


[orh] because I just don't let the feeling of like you know the the the the spice like goes out up my nose and like half choking me like <mandarin>哏到呼吸不了然后我我因为好像淹到完后我的泪水:gen dao hu xi bu liao ran hou wo wo yin wei hao xiang yan dao wan hou wo de lei shui</mandarin> my tears like it's going to start flowing down


yeah, oh the one that you grate lah the one that you, grate on the the metal thing


yeah, oh horse radish, yeah I can't take it so I guess you like <mandarin>日本餐:ri ben can</mandarin> as well sushi and <mandarin>生鱼片:sheng yu pian</mandarin> everything


oh my, but but can you actually eat it when like <mandarin>你怀孕的时候你可以吃:ni huai yun de shi hou ni ke yi chi</mandarin> like <mandarin>生的食物:sheng de shi wu</mandarin> meh


well why why is that so, !wow! I didn't know about that


yeah, but how about the cooked like full boiled egg like no full boiled half boiled I don't think maybe it's also quite dangerous lah, how about like the full boiled egg the solid one you know you put in the Lontong that kind


can right, !wah! that is something new I learned today !wow!, why


oh okay yeah, I I guess it's what your baby is craving


!wah! I'm so envious I've always wanted to be I'm a a mother but right now because there's so many things on mind so I can't


(oo) so nice !wah!, yeah, I guess it because it <mandarin>这个也是在:zhe ge ye shi zai</mandarin> train <mandarin>你的毅力:ni de yi li</mandarin> like that you know it's like oh determination I can do this I can do that let's say I am doing things that I have not been to I can't do in the past but right now I can show you this you you actually deserve like a certificate of achievement for being a mom


, ya must have owe must have owe the little one ah for the past life, ya but I I guess like


yes correct but I'm I guess that all this is definitely worth it lah like you see all the like growing up all the parts of growing up and stuff like that, yeah !aiyo!


ah so sweet


so they will actually like start biting ya correct, I heard this from my friends as well, !wah! are you plan on having a planning on having a second one


very very low, yeah yes I have to agree


ten thousand, oh, how come it was a emergency C sec like why


I mean did y'all plan on the <mandarin>自然生产:zi ran sheng chan</mandarin> initially, ya, oh yes correct correct


do a thorough check ah,


in water (oo)


!wow! like


!wah! two point two is actually quite quite tiny


okay that's that's good at, eight months plus, two point two KG, oh then did they put you to I mean err like on to sleep while they operate on you or you were awake at that point of time


!wow!, through the cesarean, oh but she wasn't on the incubator lah, no, but just just slightly smaller only right


yeah


yeah, yes you will suddenly recall right


angel baby, oh no yeah


that means that means they lost the heartbeat while I mean


yeah, oh my <mandarin>哇:wa</mandarin> now, !wah! I got like goosebumps like on me right now but I I love to hear stories like that, I really really love to hear stories like that because I mean right now at my age right you know everybody's becoming mothers and I'm preparing myself also mentally and emotionally so !wah! birth stories like that


oh I'm I'm sure right now she's at really really like it's like at the age where it's like naughty yet very cute yet she's learning new things every day


!huh! why suddenly


oh my, oh of course like you have been like <mandarin>他的资助:ta de zi zhu</mandarin> so like for the past three years I don't think she wants to leave you then sometimes but I mean I'm sure that she will learn all these things when she grows up


like <mandarin>一定会学到的所以:yi ding hui xue dao de suo yi</mandarin> like when she when she ask you all this kind of questions I think it will take you by surprise like oh how I'm going to answer her I'm going to answer tactfully but not too much info because I don't think it if like <mandarin>他的小心脏:ta de xiao xin zang</mandarin> can take all this information suddenly like it's like a gush of info


have you always wanted oh me mine, err one at the time


first because me and my yeah me and my fiance we actually agreed on like just having one first, , then we'll see how it goes because yah like what I agree lah <mandarin>经济上还有还有时间上可能:jing ji shang hai you hai you shi jian shang ke neng</mandarin> is not as easy as it seems to be you know last time ah during our grandpa grandma times !wah! <mandarin>十个十一个:shi ge shi yi ge</mandarin> football team no problem


okay just yeah but right now you know to have to actually raise a kid ah to do it I mean we when we want to keep we want to raise the kid well want to give the kid, the best


like <mandarin>一些钱就可以:yi xie qian jiu ke yi</mandarin> raise a kid up in a way yes <mandarin>真的不简单:zhen de bu jian dan</mandarin> !wow! so (hmm)


so so !wow!, yes one house like so expensive ah yes yeah, goodness so you all bought a BTO lah at that point of


four years ago oh and I'm sure you all are getting it soon already four years is a <mandarin>太长的时间的:tai zhang de shi jian de</mandarin> but it's the normal time ah, !wah!, soon lah but right now <mandarin>我得你们可以:wo de ni men ke yi</mandarin> settle <mandarin>一下你们的:yi xia ni men de</mandarin> renovation renovation and like furnitures and all those like what kind of design you all want maybe you all can look at like Pinterest or something to see like


design yeah right, ya because I'm going through that right now so previously I was doing a lot on that and I guess it really really helps lah because right now I mean since y'all are waiting why not have you all have the extra a little bit of more time yeah I think it will be really really nice and it gets you excited [orh] my new house is coming err you know what I like this kind of design but does your husband like is involved or you are the one that is like going through all the designs and stuff like that


oh that is so sweet


!wah! ya I mean that's why you all you all got married and yah because like <mandarin>你们有一样的:ni men you yi yang de</mandarin> like <mandarin>思想样的头脑:si xiang yang de tou nao</mandarin> so everything is like okay <mandarin>可以:ke yi</mandarin> settled, this is good ah <mandarin>这个很好:zhe ge hen hao</mandarin> very good


ya, yeah you know what because when it comes to design right if two people have different kind of like thinking like <mandarin>这个不好:zhe ge bu hao</mandarin> leh <mandarin>我不喜欢我不喜欢这种:wo bu xi huan wo bu xi huan zhe zhong</mandarin> err, (uh huh)


yeah


circuit breaker then everything I got the keys to my house already yeah but it's like a empty house so I can't do anything yeah <mandarin>很伤心:hen shang xin</mandarin> that point of time I was thinking, yeah, yes correct


ya actually I'm like you yeah I I'm like you because for me right I'm getting married first then I then I eh I'm I'm getting, is it I'm getting my house, first ya house first, then you know house first, and after that then need to get married already mah, , but it's like err your yours is even better because you got daughter already how I wish I have a daughter also


really, !wow! okay


oh my


yeah, ya <mandarin>会有点好像很混乱:hui you dian hao xiang hen hun luan</mandarin> very messy like that ah


!wah! then how how do you yes how do you settle all this kind of things then like what what do you use


!wow! that,


yeah, well he doesn't love me !aiyo!


of course, what is good


yeah, so I'm just afraid what when <mandarin>这个:zhe ge</mandarin> hormones <mandarin>这个:zhe ge</mandarin> <mandarin>东西来的时候我怕我不可以:dong xi lai de shi hou wo pa wo bu ke yi</mandarin> take it like


it's, oh I heard about it yes correct, I see !wah! thanks for the advice !wah!


ya really, then did your husband actually realize that you are actually having this hormonal change because of pregnancy


of course, yeah, definitely I think taking care of <mandarin>的小瓜:de xiao gua</mandarin> right


to think but only when like sometimes when you are alone or


yeah, ya so


then very boring [right] <mandarin>很闷:hen men</mandarin> hor, okay so you want to err we we look through the script lah <mandarin>如果要问就问:ru guo yao wen jiu wen</mandarin> from the script <mandarin>不要问就:bu yao wen jiu</mandarin> anytime anyhow anytime <mandarin>问:wen</mandarin> ah


okay, , , my son ah ya lor I think one of the three shortest in <mandarin>他的:ta de</mandarin> class [orh]


then, err one how tall is he now <mandarin>一点四二还是一点四三:yi dian si er hai shi yi dian si san</mandarin> [bah] around there, uh that means one,


uh, !huh! serious are you serious, eh, but but <mandarin>他:ta</mandarin> this year <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> sec two [right]


sec two <mandarin>一点五零:yi dian wu ling</mandarin> is, considered quite short for <mandarin>男孩子:nan hai zi</mandarin> leh, !huh!


eh


oh so your older son is taller than the the father lah, eh


ya but the the <mandarin>你的你的两个:ni de ni de liang ge</mandarin> boy when they were younger <mandarin>的时候:de shi hou</mandarin> does the older one err apparently is a bit taller than the younger one, [orh], [orh]


uh


uh, uh


then okay what then then I don't know I thought I thought if they are happy being the height that they are and they're not conscious then actually <mandarin>就顺其自然:jiu shun qi zi ran</mandarin> [orh]


but he's the he's really the the the shortest in <mandarin>他的:ta de</mandarin> class, shortest ah, but he, he he doesn't come to you and say mommy can <mandarin>不可以:bu ke yi</mandarin> do something to <mandarin>帮我长高一点:bang wo zhang gao yi dian</mandarin> he don't say lah


my didn't ask me to do things lah but got <mandarin>埋怨:man yuan</mandarin> lah got complain lah why you so short lah, you know,


ya lor


but it's not significant [right], ah ,


no then the the strategy <mandarin>就是你跟你的:jiu shi ni gen ni de</mandarin> boy <mandarin>讲那个头发梳高一点:jiang na ge tou fa shu gao yi dian</mandarin> lor <mandarin>放多一点:fang duo yi dian</mandarin> gel lor, so, but not not malnourished [right] not malnourished not not falling sick [right]


ya ya, <mandarin>遗传嘛遗传:yi chuan ma yi chuan</mandarin> what can you do about it <mandarin>遗传你又不可以去:yi chuan ni you bu ke yi qu</mandarin> change your genes last minute what


err one point it's about same [orh] one point six five [orh] <mandarin>一点六五:yi dian liu wu</mandarin> [orh] then, ya but I, no, oh the proportion his proportion is quite good because uh I got another friend exactly Kenna same height mah but <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> friend <mandarin>就:jiu</mandarin> proportion not good so look shorter but when you put two of them side by side you can tell that they are the same height ah


then I'm I am shorter than you leh I only one point <mandarin>一点五七:yi dian wu qi</mandarin> eh, ya lor about there lor about there lor, my girl now is one point five five


every year got change every year got add <mandarin>一点点:yi dian dian</mandarin> one CM two CM, err this year got this year got <mandarin>加:jia</mandarin> two, uh


but, uh


about seventeen still stays the same lah, eh do you know ah <mandarin>我更:wo geng</mandarin> Jialat leh <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> primary six <mandarin>的时候:de shi hou</mandarin> hor primary six <mandarin>的时候我:de shi hou wo</mandarin> one point five five eh, so <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> from sec one to sec four [orh] I only grow two CM eh


uh so when I was in primary school ah <mandarin>我是班上最高的女孩子:wo shi ban shang zui gao de nv hai zi</mandarin> leh then by the time I finished secondary school I'm one of the shortest ah, uh but I don't know how come lah don't know how come people grow in secondary school I grow all that I need to grow in primary school lah then <mandarin>就:jiu</mandarin> a bit a bit Teruk lor after that then the height doesn't increase anymore lor


but <mandarin>他的父母:ta de fu mu</mandarin> leh


then, (mmhmm) (mmhmm), oh okay, ya ya ya but then that means the <mandarin>爸爸有:ba ba you</mandarin> one seven so the child at least <mandarin>会:hui</mandarin> one six five [orh]


so one five five one five seven, I, but I have a friend the son hor very very picky ah peanut allergy seafood allergy <mandarin>一大堆:yi da dui</mandarin> allergy ah but grow until one nine two eh and he he doesn't eat well the only thing difference is that he play a lot of basketball


but that that guy only started playing basketball when he was seventeen in poly lah, [orh] and then from seventeen to nineteen <mandarin>他长差不多:ta zhang cha bu duo</mandarin> fifteen CM eh


ya ya ya ya ya but, but <mandarin>他讲你压很力嘛:ta jiang ni ya hen li ma</mandarin> but when <mandarin>你:ni</mandarin> play basketball <mandarin>的时候你跳的时候:de shi hou ni tiao de shi hou</mandarin> you are essentially <mandarin>在压那个穴位:zai ya na ge xue wei</mandarin> mah


so that's why those sports that got jumping jumping one ah they also trigger <mandarin>那个穴位:na ge xue wei</mandarin> so that's why they also will <mandarin>长高:zhang gao</mandarin> but I don't know lah don't know got theory or not lah, but, I I do gymnastics but I still one point five seven so I that's what I say, uh


but <mandarin>两个都会用到那个:liang ge dou hui yong dao na ge</mandarin> front part of the feet mah, front part of the feet, is it


but <mandarin>小的就不会:xiao de jiu bu hui</mandarin> lah, ah, oh COVID this year covid no CCA nothing then <mandarin>又:you</mandarin> safe distancing <mandarin>什么都不可以做:shen me duo bu ke yi zuo</mandarin> Sibei Cham, (ppc)


ya lor ya lor ya lor !aiya! but never mind lah I think height is just one factor lah if they can grow they grow lah if they cannot grow then #bo pian# lor just let it be lor , , eh, eh eh do you have the PDF file open


you randomly <mandarin>看里面有什么:kan li mian you shen me</mandarin> interesting <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> questions then <mandarin>你:ni</mandarin> pick eh, err eh I'm still looking eh I'm still looking eh eh, !aiyo!


I also look at the question, , ya, oh ya but I don't think lah humans will find another way to <mandarin>生存下来:sheng cun xia lai</mandarin> lah it's just that don't know which way <mandarin>而已:er yi</mandarin> lah humans won't ever be extinct one lah


I don't think you will be extinct also what we will just have another way to <mandarin>生存下来:sheng cun xia lai</mandarin> but we won't actually go extinct [right], I don't know I'm not looking forward to that day err I just hope that


, but first impression won't change meh, ya, okay what is the pettiest reason that you would dislike someone


that means that means (ppc) when you try to explain to someone else <mandarin>他根本不可以明白为什么你会这样子做:ta gen ben bu ke yi ming bai wei shen me ni hui zhe yang zi zuo</mandarin> lor, uh


(mmhmm) you know for me ah, err it will probably be yellow teeth eh


(uh huh), because not not not yellow due to <mandarin>抽烟:chou yan</mandarin> ah but you know some people when they brush teeth [right] they don't brush near the gum, then near the gum line <mandarin>就会有一层污垢:jiu hui you yi ceng wu gou</mandarin> mah then ya then err it err it is very distracting lah when I'm talking to someone and the teeth <mandarin>黄黄的:huang huang de</mandarin> then after that suddenly I will be thinking of visualizing <mandarin>拿一个牙刷跟他刷牙这样:na yi ge ya shua gen ta shua ya zhe yang</mandarin> lor then I'll be very distracted lah then after that <mandarin>我就会觉得:wo jiu hui jue de</mandarin> !aiya! <mandarin>好像:hao xiang</mandarin> <mandarin>好像不怎么喜欢跟他讲话这样:hao xiang bu zen me xi huan gen ta jiang hua zhe yang</mandarin> lah that's one of the one of my poly <mandarin>的一个朋友就是:de yi ge peng you jiu shi</mandarin> this reason ah I didn't want to actually talk to him much ah


look at the teeth, uh, !wah! that one cannot ah, !wah! that one really cannot ah, ya


uh, but, but but <mandarin>如如果那个人是你的家人:ru ru guo na ge ren shi ni de jia ren</mandarin> leh


err extended family members eh, so <mandarin>你:ni</mandarin> whole family hierarchy <mandarin>没有一个人:mei you yi ge ren</mandarin> smoke ah, then if if if classmate class gathering then someone smoke leh


!huh!, , ,


uh, eh, [orh] <mandarin>所以他抽完烟他会:suo yi ta chou wan yan ta hui</mandarin> chew chewing gum <mandarin>或者会漱口:huo zhe hui shu kou</mandarin> or something like that lah


ha then totally it's okay one ah no no no no smell at all, (mmhmm) okay that's that's good I mean them we need to learn some tricks from him because I think a lot of people who smoke don't know how to get rid of <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> smell


[right], , err zachary ah there's err there's one there's one colleague actually a few of my colleagues right now ah <mandarin>都有抽烟:duo you chou yan</mandarin> ah I think err john uh okay uh eve and yvonne and err but I and johnny <mandarin>没有:mei you</mandarin> lah so eve and yvonne does and then <mandarin>有一个:you yi ge</mandarin> new guy <mandarin>叫:jiao</mandarin> jacquerie <mandarin>的也是:de ye shi</mandarin> quite a fair bit lah


uh, uh, <mandarin>对不是不是上瘾就是偶尔一群人在一起:dui bu shi bu shi shang yin jiu shi ou er yi qun ren zai yi qi</mandarin> then okay lah then after Makan after drink then they just go one corner and then just smoke lor but but but I heard ah <mandarin>我听说那个:wo ting shuo na ge</mandarin> eve [right] <mandarin>她的:ta de</mandarin> determination <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> strong lah when when she's pregnant then she totally didn't smoke ah


uh, uh uh <mandarin>对你可以:dui ni ke yi</mandarin> ad hoc lor want to smoke then smoke lor want to <mandarin>戒:jie</mandarin> then <mandarin>戒:jie</mandarin> lor want to start then start lor, but then


is it I don't know leh I I I I don't know if a lot of their friends do it lah but I heard that err johnny and valerie don't smoke mah so when they have a meeting the four of them together <mandarin>一半抽烟一半不抽烟:yi ban chou yan yi ban bu chou yan</mandarin> [orh]


, ya, ya ya ya ya ya ya so <mandarin>他们会:ta men hui</mandarin> ya lor at least leave the room or do something else lah, correct


because I, oh ya eh but I thought I thought if you smoke at least the smell will linger on your t-shirt what won't it


uh, I don't know leh <mandarin>有跟跟:you gen gen</mandarin> brand <mandarin>跟:gen</mandarin> the brand of the cigarettes <mandarin>有关系:you guan xi</mandarin> meh I'm not sure


ya I don't my father my father <mandarin>以前是:yi qian shi</mandarin> smoker but and he's he's quite a heavy smoker one day can smoke twenty sticks one ah err but I but I'm so used to the smell cigarette I cannot tell when he don't have the cigarette smell lah so I also don't know how to get rid of the cigarette smell ya so I also don't know lah (ppc) (ppc) but ya lor ya lor but smoking <mandarin>又:you</mandarin> waste money ah then <mandarin>又:you</mandarin> not good for health uh so we don't know how they


no lah my father died of a stroke when I was sixteen ah, ah and the and the and the, the stroke was actually caused by <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> cigarette <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> tar lor, ya ya ya ya he got the err err bloods blood clot in the brain and the blood clot was caused by <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> cigarette <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> tar


uh, ya cause <mandarin>他躺在:ta tang zai</mandarin> sofa <mandarin>那边:na bian</mandarin> then foam foam foam foam foam mah then sent to hospital mah then when you start foaming that means something is wrong then they did a scan or whatever [right] then actually they were contemplating <mandarin>要不要动手术:yao bu yao dong shou shu</mandarin> but in the end they decided that no point lor because it's in a bigger area is a big area of the brain ah


err if they they clog and then he start foaming lose consciousness err and then if you wait long enough I think it will burst lor, but at the moment in time when he go hospital <mandarin>的时候:de shi hou</mandarin> it was clogged lah and the blood was not flowing and then he wasn't conscious and then after that <mandarin>不到三天:bu dao san tian</mandarin> then <mandarin>就走了了:jiu zou liao liao</mandarin> lor so they


uh, so from from the day <mandarin>他吐白沫:ta tu bai mo</mandarin> to the day he pass on ah it's probably about <mandarin>三天而已:san tian er yi</mandarin> lor, but it's, it's good, he was fifty nine, so chinese <mandarin>不是讲:bu shi jiang</mandarin> lor <mandarin>很难过六十七十八十:hen nan guo liu shi qi shi ba shi</mandarin> lor


so he was fifty nine <mandarin>过不了六十:guo bu liao liu shi</mandarin> lor, err but he married late lah so he had me when he was forty four so when he passed away I was sixteen plus minus ah, ah but then then after that then <mandarin>就:jiu</mandarin> pass away lah but the good thing <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> after you have a stroke ah if you don't pass away [right] I think <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> recovery <mandarin>很辛苦:hen xin ku</mandarin> ah


ah, uh ya lor ya lor, yeah I know she's still recovering [right], err still dragging, uh not


it's not good, eh


okay but <mandarin>有没有:you mei you</mandarin> <mandarin>有:you</mandarin> effect <mandarin>她的:ta de</mandarin> living ability [right], but brain brain brain conscious lah


<mandarin>这样她自己也不开心:zhe yang ta zi ji ye bu kai xin</mandarin> mah


but subsidize <mandarin>也是要还钱对吗不可能:ye shi yao huan qian dui ma bu ke neng</mandarin> subsidized zero dollar mah


but the but the the thing is physical is physical mah then <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> mental <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> emotional leh


, !aiyo! <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> lor !aiya! what to do [right], but but


uh, uh, uh


, uh you took her in [right], so, but you cannot take it [right], eh, ya lah <mandarin>她自己的情绪都不好:ta zi ji de qing xu duo bu hao</mandarin> mah


[orh] <mandarin>所以那些气全部发在你身上:suo yi nei xie qi quan bu fa zai ni shen shang</mandarin> lor


ya but, Kajiao, uh, will be better


but I mean if I were to put myself in her shoes ah <mandarin>我觉得我都会有忧郁症:wo jue de wo dou hui you you yu zheng</mandarin> eh because !aiyo! <mandarin>真的是什么都不可以做然后一点尊严都没有:zhen de shi shen me duo bu ke yi zuo ran hou yi dian zun yan duo mei you</mandarin> leh


but <mandarin>不是很虔诚的:bu shi hen qian cheng de</mandarin> lah


oh <mandarin>洗肾没有中风这么严重:xi shen mei you zhong feng zhe me yan zhong</mandarin> mah <mandarin>洗肾还可以:xi shen hai ke yi</mandarin> function daily mah


but yet, uh, eh so so <mandarin>你你:ni ni</mandarin> mother-in-law <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> five years ago <mandarin>中:zhong</mandarin> stroke but then how many years ago did your father-in-law pass away


ah you mean <mandarin>他先中:ta xian zhong</mandarin> stroke <mandarin>先:xian</mandarin> then <mandarin>你的:ni de</mandarin> father-in-law <mandarin>才:cai</mandarin> pass away, so during that period of time when after <mandarin>你:ni</mandarin> mother-in-law <mandarin>中:zhong</mandarin> stroke and <mandarin>你:ni</mandarin> father-in-law <mandarin>还没有:hai mei you</mandarin> pass away <mandarin>那个不是两个人都在生病:na ge bu shi liang ge ren dou zai sheng bing</mandarin> [orh]


uh, for for <mandarin>老人家:lao ren jia</mandarin> lah for <mandarin>老人家:lao ren jia</mandarin> lah


uh, then !wah! then then then actually your mother-in-law [orh] the mental state <mandarin>一定不是很好:yi ding bu shi hen hao</mandarin> leh cause she got stroke and then <mandarin>她的老伴:ta de lao ban</mandarin> after that <mandarin>又走了:you zou liao</mandarin> so essentially


so dementia lah


uh


is is not physical pain ah it's pseudo pain ah


so <mandarin>她好像变:ta hao xiang bian</mandarin> baby <mandarin>这样:zhe yang</mandarin> lah, then <mandarin>又不可以沟通又不可以体谅又不可以什么:you bu ke yi gou tong you bu ke yi ti liang you bu ke yi shen me</mandarin> lor


, I, wheelchair ah


but where can you bring her to that means <mandarin>就是:jiu shi</mandarin> restaurant ah <mandarin>吃而已:chi er yi</mandarin> lah, eh then, uh uh


so initially from the rehab then she went to your place for about two months then after that <mandarin>就住那个:jiu zhu na ge</mandarin> home for five year straight


I mean <mandarin>还会:hai hui</mandarin> delay [right]


I mean she's still staying in the home now [right], and , she will stay in the home until <mandarin>她:ta</mandarin> pass away [right], so then


so, uh,


, ya ya ya because <mandarin>她这种情形给你们照顾你们照顾不好还变成你们错:ta zhe zhong qing xing gei ni men zhao gu ni men zhao gu bu hao hai bian cheng ni men cuo</mandarin> mah


uh then <mandarin>她这种情形真的是需要专业人士才可以照顾:ta zhe zhong qing xing zhen de shi xu yao zhuan ye ren shi cai ke yi zhao gu</mandarin> mah, uh but <mandarin>老人家如果不体会的不体谅的话就会讲子女不孝顺不要她:lao ren jia ru guo bu ti hui de bu ti liang de hua jiu hui jiang zi nv bu xiao shun bu yao ta</mandarin> lor


but very good she also cannot put down her whole life just to take care of the mother what she still have her job her family her children her everything else what


but in the in


uh, !huh!


!wah! <mandarin>这样不是给你很多:zhe yang bu shi gei ni hen duo</mandarin> burden emotional


!huh!


, but, uh


uh, uh, uh, uh


uh, uh, uh, but <mandarin>你跟他按摩的时候她真的会比较舒服一点:ni gen ta an mo de shi hou ta zhen de hui bi jiao shu fu yi dian</mandarin> ah


I thought I thought <mandarin>是因为她要那个:shi yin wei ta yao na ge</mandarin> attention of the person then <mandarin>就一直用按摩:jiu yi zhi yong an mo</mandarin> as a excuse as a reason to get the the person's attention no lah


#umsa umsi# ah, ya lor I mean you want you get better lor you don't want then you just as well just move on [orh] I mean !aiya! whether you whatever religion you are you move on already at least you end the suffering there and then ah


, oh <mandarin>你家里有按摩有有有血压测量器:ni jia li you an mo you you you xue ya ce liang qi</mandarin> ah


[orh] okay okay, uh, uh, uh, uh


!huh!, uh, ya


<mandarin>她是怕死又不敢接受死亡也不准没有准备好死可是又不想活:ta shi pa si you bu gan jie shou si wang ye bu zhun mei you zhun bei hao si ke shi you bu xiang huo</mandarin> lah , <mandarin>这样不是很矛盾:zhe yang bu shi hen mao dun</mandarin> here also cannot there also cannot


uh, but <mandarin>去:qu</mandarin> nursing home the good thing <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> everybody else also in similar shoes mah then the professional there can distract her mah so


no audience, uh uh, uh because when you have audience ah then you'll want to showcase more of your negative emotions mah but at the nursing home the nurses are you know <mandarin>直接了当做了该做的东西给你吃完药他们就去做别的东西:zhi jie liao dang zuo le gai zuo de dong xi gei ni chi wan yao ta men jiu qu zuo bie de dong xi</mandarin> or <mandarin>到:dao</mandarin> time for interaction <mandarin>推你出来:tui ni chu lai</mandarin> interaction <mandarin>做完又推你回去:zuo wan you tui ni hui qu</mandarin> then when you have no audience <mandarin>你:ni</mandarin> Bopian and you got to follow the schedule and the routine mah


then <mandarin>你:ni</mandarin> no audience like old people <mandarin>不是像小孩子:bu shi xiang xiao hai zi</mandarin> lor no audience then <mandarin>他们也没有机会:ta men ye mei you ji hui</mandarin> act out lor, ya lah but if you don't put her in a nursing home the one that suffer <mandarin>是你:shi ni</mandarin> ah because they will project all their negative emotions onto you ah then you will be the one they have to <mandarin>自我消化负面情绪:zi wo xiao hua fu mian qing xu</mandarin> uh


!huh! very hard uh why ya you've got to self-manage and self-regulate all those negative emotions that are not yours to begin with, uh then how to do that then even if <mandarin>你可以:ni ke yi</mandarin> self-regulate self <mandarin>消化了:xiao hua le</mandarin> then in the end <mandarin>她又再跟你讲我想死推我下去:ta you zai gen ni jiang wo xiang si tui wo xia qu</mandarin> then <mandarin>你又再来:ni you zai lai</mandarin> Balik <mandarin>多一次不是:duo yi ci bu shi</mandarin> no end then sooner or later your stress level higher than hers uh


so you couldn't bring yourself to smile lah


!wah!, !ow! !ow! !ow! like that lah


, <mandarin>心理治疗:xin li zhi liao</mandarin> lah, , so


ya la ya la but <mandarin>等死也是一个准备:deng si ye shi yi ge zhun bei</mandarin> mah <mandarin>因为你死的时候你也要:yin wei ni si de shi hou ni ye yao</mandarin> <mandarin>你要懂怎么应付你自己的情绪:ni yao dong zen me ying fu ni zi ji di qing xu</mandarin> mah <mandarin>因为不然如果你:yin wei bu ran ru guo ni</mandarin> <mandarin>死亡如果死亡降临的时候你过于惊恐害怕也不大对:si wang ru guo si wang jiang lin de shi hou ni guo yu jing kong hai pa ye bu da dui</mandarin> mah


like err what is the first sense that you will lose and what is the last sense that will remain and then the last sense that will remain <mandarin>是你的听觉:shi ni de ting jue</mandarin> lor, so ya and then what will happen first err what is the things that you will recognize in your body a few months before that and then what will happen to your appetite first and then when you feel that you have loss of appetite what do you do


so I think majority of the <mandarin>老人是怕死而且抗拒死的可是我的这个邻居她对死的态度很积极:lao ren shi pa si er qie kang ju si de ke shi wo de zhe ge lin ju ta dui si de tai du hen ji ji</mandarin> ah, got got got got got then she was telling me about the book mah so the last sense of err your last sense that you will lose is the sense of hearing so which is why she even told her children that when she pass on even after the equipment have certified her as dead [right] the sense of hearing will still be around for ten minutes so they actually she actually told them not to cry or to say things that will disrupt her peace uh


so when <mandarin>她要走的时候她要很安详地走:ta yao zou de shi hou ta yao hen an xiang de zou</mandarin> lor


she's still around she's still around she's the one that will sometimes on facebook I will go with her for walks and all that lor she's still around


uh then I I think she's one of those rare <mandarin>八十三岁的人:ba shi san sui de ren</mandarin> that don't don't don't don't Pantang ah cause some old people quite Pantang one [right] don't like to, uh don't like to talk about dying don't like to talk about what one then she went to the hospital herself to tell the doctors that don't need to resuscitate me


the friend ah, then <mandarin>我还有一个她就讲说等她要走的时候叫她的:wo hai you yi ge ta jiu jiang shuo deng ta yao zou de shi hou jiao ta de</mandarin> friend err children <mandarin>带她去:dai ta qu</mandarin> east coast park then once a week bring her some food <mandarin>就可以了:jiu ke yi le</mandarin> then whether she stay or she go then she will settle herself then I say you all very funny uh this kind of thing say until like that but different mindset lah


, <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> lor <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> lor but <mandarin>你也不能怕死:ni ye bu neng pa si</mandarin> lor <mandarin>就是你每一天活的时候要有意义要积极可是也不能怕死:jiu shi ni mei yi tian huo de shi hou yao you yi yi yao ji ji ke shi ye bu neng pa si</mandarin> lah <mandarin>也不能:ye bu neng</mandarin>


you know if it's coming it's coming ah but doesn't mean that <mandarin>你自甘堕落或者是自抱自怨:ni zi gan duo luo huo zhe shi zi bao zi yuan</mandarin> or anything like that lah


uh, uh


, , so <mandarin>她真的会走去:ta zhen de hui zou qu</mandarin> Macritchie <mandarin>走来走去走:zou lai zou qu zou</mandarin> lah then after that <mandarin>她会回来煮东西:ta hui hui lai zhu dong xi</mandarin> then <mandarin>煮看哪一个邻居她觉得:zhu kan na yi ge lin ju ta jue de</mandarin> [orh] <mandarin>这个邻居今天不舒服需要吃什么她就煮给这个邻居吃有时煮给那个邻居吃:zhe ge lin ju jin tian bu shu fu xu yao chi shen me ta jiu zhu gei zhe ge lin ju chi you shi zhu geina ge lin ju chi</mandarin> then <mandarin>她会去:ta hui qu</mandarin> volunteer in community service then <mandarin>会去:hui qu</mandarin> volunteer in church so at least <mandarin>她的:ta de</mandarin> remaining time on earth while she accept that death is inevitable [right] it's still spent in a very productive way lah


ya but she didn't uh she's eighty three [right] but last year she was still working you know as a coffee shop err cleaner, so she at eighty two years old she was still working, not, not becau- oh she stopped because of COVID


ya because if you stay at home [right] you can't help it <mandarin>你会胡思乱想:ni hui hu si luan xiang</mandarin> [right] so the only way to prevent you from <mandarin>胡思乱想:hu si luan xiang</mandarin> Ing is to you know go and do something and then you come back you're tired you sleep already lor then don't need to, no need to <mandarin>钻牛角尖:zuan niu jiao jian</mandarin> ah no need to keep digging holes and keep keep keep keep doing whatever that need to be err that cannot be change [orh]


ya lah good lah such people, , ya lor then and your mother-in-law is seventy this year ha or eighty eighty ha, but she at seventy five already had a stroke [right]


ya lah but housewife <mandarin>也有很多:ye you hen duo</mandarin> pattern mah so she's not the she's not the will go out with friends kind of housewife and she's not the kind, so she's the


so <mandarin>她的:ta de</mandarin> emotional toolbox <mandarin>跟她的精神寄托:gen ta de jing shen ji tuo</mandarin> [right] everything is kids and family related lah,


she also don't know, , !aiyo! so sad , kitchen uh


then <mandarin>她不她不会笑:ta bu ta bu hui xiao</mandarin> lah <mandarin>她平时跟她的孩子讲话还是跟护士讲话也不会笑:ta ping shi gen ta de hai zi jiang hua hai shi gen hu shi jiang hua ye bu hui xiao</mandarin> lah


so she, so after <mandarin>她中风她的那个语言能力没有收影响:ta zhong feng ta de na ge yu yan neng li mei you shou ying xiang</mandarin> [right]


so I mean talk as in err err <mandarin>咬字清楚:yao zi qing chu</mandarin> then <mandarin>别人也听得懂:bie ren ye ting de dong</mandarin> that kind of talk lah, but then in nursing home right now <mandarin>有人听她讲:you ren ting ta jiang</mandarin> meh


[orh], [orh]


uh, but <mandarin>她儿子也没有反应也没有兴趣听:ta er zi ye mei you fan ying ye mei you xing qu ting</mandarin> lah


uh


actually, actually <mandarin>换成是我我也接受不了:huan cheng shi wo wo ye jie shou bu liao</mandarin> leh


but, I I I, I, I don't know ah I don't ya, uh uh, yeah


err


, !aiyo! <mandarin>这样打击不是更大左撇子左边不可以用这样我还可以做什么什么都不可以做:zhe yang da ji bu shi geng da zuo pie zi zuo bian bu ke yi yong zhe yang wo hai ke yi zuo shen me shen me duo bu ke yi zuo</mandarin> Liao mah, [orh] <mandarin>就用右手刷牙:jiu yong you shou shua ya</mandarin> lah replacing


uh, then <mandarin>你没有跟:ni mei you gen</mandarin> maid <mandarin>讲:jiang</mandarin> take a step back lah take tell the maid to let her do it herself


!huh!


ya lah but, uh, negativity lah, ya


well uh I read an article recently lah that says that


, in our emotional toolbox you cannot just have one thing lah so family is one thing you need to have friends you need to have other things inside otherwise you will crash lor, then on


but <mandarin>她:ta</mandarin> that mean like exactly like what you said mah because she's not educated and she's not a modern woman she doesn't even know what to do to help herself, and and that makes it very sad because she's just stuck in a circle, and and and and the fact that she's alive right now but <mandarin>又不是真正地活着:you bu shi zhen zheng de huo zhe</mandarin> ah <mandarin>她活着可是她不是活着:ta huo zhe ke shi ta bu shi huo zhe</mandarin> leh <mandarin>她只是存在着而已:ta zhi shi cun zai zhe er yi</mandarin> leh <mandarin>她只是在:ta zhi shi zai</mandarin> existing there as a pile of human cells


but, there's no fulfilment there's no satisfaction there's nothing you know I I I I feel so sad for her I mean I feel sadder for her caregivers but I feel so sad for her, it's like and you don't even know how many more years or months this is going to go on and on for


and, yeah I mean <mandarin>有故事你可以积极的拿来分享:you gu shi ni ke yi ji ji de na lai fen xiang</mandarin> but <mandarin>那些故事不应该成为绑住你幸福的一个东西:nei xie gu shi bu ying gai cheng wei bang zhu ni xing fu de yi ge dong xi</mandarin> mah <mandarin>的一个包袱:de yi ge bao fu</mandarin> mah


I'm I'm you know today <mandarin>不是:bu shi</mandarin> eh today <mandarin>还是:hai shi</mandarin> yesterday the news <mandarin>不是有:bu shi you</mandarin> report about jason Chee [orh], the guy who lost err, ya and and I recently just realized that his eye he lost one eye also you know


ya and yet after he operated out that eye he went back training for table tennis again leh so imagine with one limb and one eye he still train hard for table tennis eh and he's the sole breadwinner of his family


then I'm like okay !wow! that's so <mandarin>非常励志的一个故事:fei chang li zhi de yi ge gu shi</mandarin> ah, uh


, I think probably because the stroke is in her brain it might affect some of her cognitive ability [right]


Bopian <mandarin>了了:liao le</mandarin> lor, [orh]


!aiya!, so sad, but but even if you find out the truth <mandarin>到底是不是忘记吃药也也于事无补了:dao di shi bu shi wang ji chi yao ye ye yu shi wu bu liao</mandarin> mah


, then you better make sure you do whatever is necessary to prevent,


so sad actually !aiya!, !aiya!


uh I mean my my mother <mandarin>不是:bu shi</mandarin> stroke lah but my mother <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> depression ah so it's also stuck in a cycle that soon <mandarin>损人不利己:sun ren bu li ji</mandarin> lah so it's it's it's quite sad that they cannot get themselves out of the cycle and cannot get themselves to to to a better place ah


ya she passed away already, err ya yup err but the depression pills doesn't seem to be a very err effective ah, ya lah doesn't seem to be very effective because it's not the because the pills actually what the pills do is they take the edge off the feeling but if you don't have a positive coping skills the next thing that knock you down will just come along very fast mah


uh okay the the pills will regulate your mood [right], but if you don't have good err mental skills, the next thing that can make you upset again will come by very fast mah


though it doesn't work the it will get it will get worse and worse actually <mandarin>他们能够靠的就是自己的:ta men neng gou kao de jiu shi zi ji de</mandarin> regulating lor that means they got to do self talk lah self-encouragement ah and got to change their thought process ah but <mandarin>如果你只是靠:ru guo ni zhi shi kao</mandarin> pill <mandarin>的话:de hua</mandarin> hor <mandarin>你的:ni de</mandarin> pill <mandarin>越吃越多你就发现你越来越不能调适自己的情感:yue chi yue duo ni jiu fa xian ni yue lai yue bu neng tiao shi zi ji de qing gan</mandarin> [orh]


then <mandarin>你就会变得非常个敏感:ni jiu hui bian de fei chang ge min gan</mandarin> ah


stuck down there already lor, so, (mmhmm), oh !wow! that one's got to start from long long ago because she has an older sister that she's quite close with and her older sister was actually taken as a comfort women by the world war two japanese soldiers


so when her older sister was returned back to home the older sister got depressed of course lah then the older sister locked herself in her room and started err cutting herself and burning her private part lor


I don't know how long no one I no one told me and I never ask lah, but but <mandarin>那段日子对她们来讲是很大的伤害:na duan ri zi dui ta men lai jiang shi hen da de shang hai</mandarin> lor


uh, misery


so you either get out of it on your own or you lock yourself in the room forever lor so for my mom I think that was what started her negative thinking as in she start to believe the world is a bad place and there are bad people


then when you have that kind of mindset [right] you go out and you meet some unhappy things instead of reflecting she will say it's because that person is bad, but but <mandarin>你这种:ni zhe zhong</mandarin> thought process is not good for you in the long run mah <mandarin>就变成:jiu bian cheng</mandarin> everything also everyone you blame everything and then after that when things go wrong she cannot self regulate she will blame


and, so so afterwards [right] when <mandarin>我上:wo shang</mandarin> secondary school <mandarin>的时候:de shi hou</mandarin> when I went with her to IMH <mandarin>的时候:de shi hou</mandarin> then they were saying if she had been younger and if she was in singapore they will do this thing called CBT for her cognitive behavioural thinking which is to correct her thinking


because when she's stuck in their thinking that people are bad people <mandarin>要害她:yao hai ta</mandarin> then <mandarin>她会:ta hui</mandarin> become very suspicious then when things go wrong she will blame people she will not be taking self actions to correct it and when you become like that [right] <mandarin>你会:ni hui</mandarin> get very depressed very easily because it seems like nothing ever is in your control


so if she was a younger they'll probably start her on the twelve session of CBT thinking correction that by telling her that you know you are there are some things out of your control but your emotions are in your control and your reactions are in your control and you can choose to react differently


but too bad lah by that time <mandarin>她已经不年轻了吗而且她也改变不了她的思维想法了:ta yi jing bu nian qing le ma er qie ta ye gai bian bu liao ta de si wei xiang fa le</mandarin> mah


so so it's actually quite sad lor, but, !huh! sorry, she was seventy err err two thousand fifteen minus nineteen thirty eight how old is that ah


the two zero one, but <mandarin>她七十七岁:ta qi shi qi sui</mandarin> pass on <mandarin>可是她:ke shi ta</mandarin> err <mandarin>忧郁了我看至少有四五十年:you yu le wo kan zhi shao you si wu shi nian</mandarin> eh


uh <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> lor <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> lor <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> lor <mandarin>对:dui</mandarin> lor but, ya correct but for <mandarin>我的那个:wo de na ge</mandarin> neighbour <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> eighty three year old the neighbour [right] <mandarin>她就跟我:ta jiu gen wo</mandarin> share before that her life was not that easy lah and there was one point in time where she was addicted to gambling not living a good life and she even ran a illegal gambling den and she was captured by police before lah


then but for her err <mandarin>她的专列点:ta de zhuan lie dian</mandarin> ah <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> when she started reading a lot of philosophy books, so so she she didn't have a chance to go to school but she pick up chinese through reading books and when you start reading books your knowledge increase <mandarin>对吗:dui ma</mandarin> so when your knowledge increase <mandarin>你的:ni de</mandarin> whole world actually essentially change [orh]


so for her her childhood probably wasn't ideal err but because she pick up knowledge outside of her childhood and she until today is still reading so that's why , I mean, err she only started reading when she was sixty plus lah and now she's eighty plus ah


and she started reading, ya it's never too late, uh, uh then <mandarin>她六十多岁会开始去学华文去读书是因为那时她的孩子都长大了:ta liu shi duo sui hui kai shi qu xue hua wen qu du shu shi yin wei na shi ta de hai zi duo zhang da le</mandarin> mah


eh, #keng yan# ah, I think <mandarin>我们现在刚刚一个钟头出一点点:wo men xian zai gang gang yi ge zhong tou chu yi dian dian</mandarin> but I think we should go onto one minute one eh one one hour one minute, ya because I think initially we were waiting for <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> clapped sound [right] ya !whoa! my goodness okay then err err after we hit one hour one minute <mandarin>我们就可以停了然后我们快点去:wo men jiu ke yi ting liao ran hou wo men kuai dian qu</mandarin> submit and then wait to hear from her lor


<mandarin>我要去厕所了我坐在这边一个钟头了:wo yao qu ce suo liao wo zuo zai zhe bian yi ge zhong tou liao</mandarin> , ya then I think I think we both have to go and <mandarin>准备晚餐:zhun bei wan can</mandarin> already [right], !huh!


yup okay so (err) okay whoever is recording we stop now [ah], okay stop


yeah I put it against my ear already


!aiya! follow <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> script <mandarin>很像:hen xiang</mandarin> no creativity leh <mandarin>我要讲什么不可以:wo yao jiang shen me bu ke yi</mandarin> meh, ya


ya, eh ask you ah, you say your son, is <mandarin>很小只:hen xiao zhi</mandarin> [right] <mandarin>还是:hai shi</mandarin> very short or not very tall, uh


how tall is he now, (oo) okay, only this year, he started to shoot up


, serious ya ya because, yes


short, yes he is he some more he's born in january leh, !hais! whatever lah <mandarin>十二月:shi er yue</mandarin> or whatever later all, he basically go to the class he is looking up at them [orh]


I one five eight, one six okay lah he wants to say <mandarin>他是:ta shi</mandarin> one six five ah


one six one six eight, one point seven ah you know a a one seven does make a lot of difference mah


yes yes yes is it's obvious, ya


will be more okay, but this younger one, hopefully if he goes one six hor if he shoots up another ten CM


what lah but this year he grows up a fair bit, that's why, #bo chup#


he really don't really don't really, bother,


you want to do something but then he doesn't want to bother you know, shortest, either the shortest or the second one I gave up on asking


ha, still until today still like then especially see photo then he say Neh see see can see or not can see or not let's say a little bit lah come on it's like when they all stand together <mandarin>你可以看得出:ni ke yi kan de chu</mandarin> they're all that age mah


then <mandarin>我就:wo jiu</mandarin> okay lah so what if you will <mandarin>你去搭人家的肩膀:ni qu da ren jia de jian bang</mandarin> you put a bit higher, a bit higher only what actually I can't really tell know, I think


so when they ah when they comb their hair up ah, , they basically, eat a three to five CM leh, , !hannor!, !hannor! but then very ugly


so Lehs their hair is really ugly because they like to comb up, err, no no, ya, that's what I said, why should I be so worried because they eat well


they eat well, sleep well <mandarin>什么都:shen me duo</mandarin> okay lah so it's just this one <mandarin>没有办法的:mei you ban fa de</mandarin> lah genes is like that, your yours also [har] how how how tall is your husband ah


is it he looks taller he looks taller than he


okay lah about there lah the one CM really make, your girl leh,


when is the when's the last time, she actually got change like her number change, so that


because I got one I got one good friend ah she said that her daughter hasn't grown since fifteen, so <mandarin>她是年头的:ta shi nian tou de</mandarin> so <mandarin>十五岁:shi wu sui</mandarin> until now


so, it's <mandarin>没有加了:mei you jia le</mandarin> lor, so


, at least okay okay, okay okay, (oo) I see


that that case a bit funny because her brother, which now <mandarin>今年是二十一:jin nian shi er shi yi</mandarin> is tall it's a one seven something plus plus one seven eight ah [bah], err mum is my height


the dad, the dad, it's maybe one seven, maybe a bit over one seven


, no no no the girl the girl is not one six five the girl is about a bit shorter than me, about, but the thing is she's she's a very picky eater when she's young


(hmm) <mandarin>太迟了玩玩:tai chi le wan wan</mandarin> basketball


okay that got hope, okay okay


is it, [orh] okay


eh you know my boss do trampoline [right], no


it does seems to help it does seems to help he seems to grow a bit more, but, ya lah because of


ya ya ya I have, oh my goodness


how do you think humans will become extinct, you think we ever would become extinct oh so, so pessimistic


but because of this COVID nineteen ah, so, unless our earth is, something happen lor, we will not be here to witness it


you, ya


first impression counts a lot, pride, what is the pettiest reason, sorry sorry say again


petty ah, let me see, maybe it will be the habits lor like like like some people got very bad habits when they are in front of you


[orh], okay, (mmhmm),


for me is, I I don't think I got I mean I'll go and


scrutinise ah scrutinise until like that, but I think if <mandarin>他开他开嘴他开嘴他讲话有口臭:ta kai ta kai zui ta kai zui ta jiang hua you kou chou</mandarin> and whatever, oh ya of course, that that, I that's why I okay I don't want like people who smoke


that's probably the number one I mean anybody who smoke around me <mandarin>我就会:wo jiu hui</mandarin> okay can I change place here, I've done this err err so many times you know, what's that


my family members don't smoke, uh


although they put on the date they do use indian, oil you know, I I notice I noted that, he's really clean


uh


ya lor, eh does, so your colleague lah your colleagues smokes one [right]


so ya, yes, yes


okay but I think the first two that you said hor they are they are they are casual smoker,


because if you are not very addicted to to it


I think they smoke to feel in [orh] to feel to be like okay <mandarin>我的朋友:wo de peng you</mandarin> do it so I, I am doing because I think all my a lot of a lot of their friends do it


and but the thing is they don't smell, they don't smell and <mandarin>我很像没有注意到他们:wo hen xiang mei you zhu yi dao ta men</mandarin> chew gum [orh]


I don't smoke so , then actually


oh, oh okay


is is your father is your father still around, oh sorry, but but <mandarin>不是不是:bu shi bu shi</mandarin> cancer lah, !huh! oh because it block ha, vessel


(oo) okay, how how did you all know <mandarin>医生讲的:yi sheng jiang de</mandarin> ah


, so


oh that's fast, !wow!, how how how old is he


, ya my mother-in-law, did I tell you about my mother-in-law


she's I will consider it recovering ah, still dragging yes, people okay the doctor will say it's a miracle, well the thing is


if if I'm her I'll say <mandarin>其实:qi shi</mandarin> I don't want this because it's actually she's in pain, this she's born in forty so <mandarin>八十:ba shi</mandarin> lor this year


happened five years ago, the head lor the <mandarin>就是:jiu shi</mandarin> vessel burst, so, yes yes so he's she's she's half side


left side <mandarin>就是不可以动了:jiu shi bu ke yi dong le</mandarin> lor, because of that burst ah, uh, uh, but she's confuse, err, , she's in nursing home


that's why she will never get her wish, because she's subsidized


is, no it's really ya lah but it's pretty okay lah it's because the kids are willing to pay then <mandarin>她有积蓄:ta you ji xu</mandarin> mah, so


there's nothing much we, we can do what, ,


but what can we do, what can we do you see <mandarin>我有试过:wo you shi guo</mandarin> did did you know that actually I did try we actually have her, we actually, when it happened that time <mandarin>五年前:wu nian qian</mandarin> okay


then after that it happened in the middle of the year, so she was recovering she take a long time in the rehabilitation hospital, okay so <mandarin>到后来讲:dao hou lai jiang</mandarin> eh okay you all really have to get her home already must get her home or go somewhere, so <mandarin>那时候:na shi hou</mandarin> out of the siblings <mandarin>只有我们家:zhi you wo men jia</mandarin> okay we said okay we got space so okay lah fine we took her in we took her in for two months


cannot


you know, uh so


I wanted her to go into a recovery mentality, which, she, ya but she doesn't want [orh] she's like, she's like she she's she's depressed ah in my opinion I think she's suffering also from depression


no I don't


is the one that has kidney issues mah, oh, so the thing is for so many years <mandarin>他一直洗肾的:ta yi zhi xi shen de</mandarin> but the thing is my father-in-law passed away because of stroke


he okay what what happen is he fell down


then about, two years or one and a half years later two years, it's a, ah yes, so


so <mandarin>一个人拿一个:yi ge ren na yi ge</mandarin> lor, because there are siblings around mah so, before that they were staying on on their own, it's like <mandarin>年头:nian tou</mandarin> renovate then after that, ah ya ya so it's their own house <mandarin>他们全部结婚了:ta men quan bu jie hun le</mandarin> all all moved out mah all got their own place


so when it happens to book


so, I won't say dementia [bah] because <mandarin>他们有去:ta men you qu</mandarin> diagnosed <mandarin>过她:guo ta</mandarin> but they say actually she's not


okay, no because <mandarin>不是讲她的:bu shi jiang ta de</mandarin> stroke there's a burst the the the the the blood vessel actually burst


okay after it burst already actually it affects


so is a poking kind of pain, it's not physical pain so <mandarin>她整天让要人家:ta zheng tian rang yao ren jia</mandarin> massage [orh], so she is


yes, so


you know you got take it easy, you know, so basically they they whatever whenever they can bring her out to eat, they will bring her there and if like, wheelchair mah ya wheelchair lor so we transfer her lah


uh, ya ya, then <mandarin>有有没有试过:you you mei you shi guo</mandarin> like <mandarin>带她回家:dai ta hui jia</mandarin> sometimes you we can do this over a weekend okay <mandarin>你可以带回家:ni ke yi dai hui jia</mandarin> for a weekend


coming five no coming, coming five years [bah], , yeah


eh <mandarin>等一下:deng yi xia</mandarin> ah thirteen it was happened when my son was sec one so fourteen fifteen sixteen, seventeen, ya, ya


delay what what do you mean delay, ya,


no no no don't have, in fact at first when we wanted to bring her home, there were people around who actually asked us you better think carefully whether you should or not relatives ah


people there was this there was this relative there was a nurse okay who had done this and say that you think think think very carefully know, ya and in fact when we send you know her back into nursing home everybody say actually


that's the best that's the best for her,


she will still, four, one girl the girl <mandarin>很孝顺:hen xiao shun</mandarin> the daughter is very good


!whoa! I don't mind having this kind of daughter lah, ya, I don't mind having this kind of daughter like


and she sent her maids down she sent her maid down like, periodically <mandarin>送饭给她吃:song fan gei ta chi</mandarin> lor, because she know the mother doesn't like the nursing home food, so she will actually you know go and do the food and then send it in to her


can ah she can smile I mean, she know <mandarin>我们有心她知道她的孩子:wo men you xin ta zhi dao ta de hai zi</mandarin> actually I I tell you is <mandarin>她还没有:ta hai mei you</mandarin> confused <mandarin>到:dao</mandarin> she doesn't know, she knows


actually okay what happen is this you know when she was in my house you know when I talk to her and then that time I spend a lot of time talking to her


okay is like is like to me that was my full time job kind of thing you know, so <mandarin>她有跟我讲过:ta you gen wo jiang guo</mandarin> know then she will cry, and she'll say, you need to


do it to me lor, so I was like I was like what, you want me to do this, why you why you why you are like giving up like that so I keep telling her why are you giving up like that


okay so she relies on it but <mandarin>你不可能一直给她吃:ni bu ke neng yi zhi gei ta chi</mandarin> [right], one hour <mandarin>不可能:bu ke neng</mandarin> [right] because you have dosage control one mah


so <mandarin>她是那种就是要人家一直:ta shi na zhong jiu shi yao ren jia yi zhi</mandarin> massage [orh] until <mandarin>我有试过试我试过:wo you shi guo shi wo shi guo</mandarin> because <mandarin>那时候我请工人:na shi hou wo qing gong ren</mandarin> mah just for her sake so <mandarin>下午她坐在那边:xia wu ta zuo zai na bian</mandarin> hor, then I I make her okay because <mandarin>他们:ta men</mandarin> stroke patient [orh] if they <mandarin>不运动那个:bu yun dong na ge</mandarin> part <mandarin>会肿:hui zhong</mandarin> [right]


so the maid is a massager, so <mandarin>会比较舒服:hui bi jiao shu fu</mandarin> lah


maybe lor, but <mandarin>没有想过:mei you xiang guo</mandarin> lor


maybe lor maybe is should have thought of lor but, !aiya! <mandarin>老实讲家婆是家婆:lao shi jiang jia po shi jia po</mandarin> mah


#umsa umsi# ya lor,


oh ya just now wanted to say this this part [right] because <mandarin>她不是叫我我推她:ta bu shi jiao wo wo tui ta</mandarin> like that time I was thinking that okay <mandarin>她真的是:ta zhen de shi</mandarin> give up <mandarin>了:liao</mandarin> lor, blood pressure went up very high, so high until I have to call ambulance in


!huh! ya ya ya ya because we have to do this like we have to measure her blood blood because blood pressure <mandarin>太高的话:tai gao de hua</mandarin> scared the stroke will come back


so call ambulance lor, then you know when ambulance people are here you know what she was doing, eh give me a minute ah, okay, okay eh so so that she's going to pass on like that


so, , like like she's gonna be gone like that one, it's


uh, that's why I say <mandarin>有时候去:you shi hou qu</mandarin> nursing home


!huh! not what, no audience <mandarin>对对对对对:dui dui dui dui dui</mandarin> quite true <mandarin>就是因为没有:jiu shi yin wei mei you</mandarin> audience


then at least let her


!wah! <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> Chim very that's that's a very hard word , uh ya lor


that time that time actually my my son what was the one who tell me, mommy can you please get her out, really, it's destroying you and because it's destroying you it's destroying us, !wah!


err ya, because everytime people touch her or move her or ask her do exercise, uh then she will cry lor, she will cry as if like you know <mandarin>是我们在:shi wo men zai</mandarin> torture <mandarin>她:ta</mandarin> lor


so actually not actually at first <mandarin>就是我们回:jiu shi wo men hui</mandarin> nursing home we thought they will give them therapy [right] so actually you know when you go nursing home, they are supposed to do physio for them [right]


it's


uh,


oh


got this kind of book one meh


!huh! you mean


[orh] that's the neighbour ah okay


ya ya, yes


(mmhmm)


it's like at least


they will just basically <mandarin>躺在床上:tang zai chuang shang</mandarin> [orh] <mandarin>真的等死:zhen de deng si</mandarin> eh, ya recently I heard one one of my friend's father-in-law <mandarin>就是这样:jiu shi zhe yang</mandarin> lor <mandarin>就是那种真的:jiu shi na zhong zhen de</mandarin> very very


what was she when she was younger ah <mandarin>她做什么的:ta zuo shen me de</mandarin> ah, so basically that's why she's very active she needs a very active life


then why did she stop


oh okay <mandarin>他们家庭:ta men jia ting</mandarin> lah, [orh], (mmhmm)


that's why I admire those kind of people lor,


eighty,


she's a housewife, no, she's the one that <mandarin>煮一大堆:zhu yi da dui</mandarin> [orh], so she likes to cook she likes to cook and then when the kids come back you know like weekend <mandarin>去她家吃:qu ta jia chi</mandarin> then she's very happy cook cook cook


and then she cook already <mandarin>你没有看她在那边吃:ni mei you kan ta zai na bian chi</mandarin> lor, ya, correct lor so she likes to cook so that's why when she was here