I saw an interview with a porn actress; I must have been 11 or 12. She talked about what she does, how she has to lube up. She showed off her fluffing technique, then giggled and said it’s a secret every porn star keeps it close to their beasts. She said she often enjoyed her work, but sometimes she had no sex drive, which made things hard. Pun intended! I admired how she laughed so much and seemed so self-assured. She was proud of herself and her job and talked about the stigma sex workers face and how she was an activist for change. "Sex is wonderful," she said, "it has the power to make people happy." It wasn’t anything to be ashamed of. She said, "we all want something, and there will always be someone to help you get it if you dare to look, if you are allowed to, if they may give it."