"I don’t want to sound like I’m judging you, Lu," Susan went on. "Your daughter seems to be a lovely little girl, but we all suffered in different ways. I’m not saying mine and Min’s was better or worse, but it was more visceral, more sustained. What happened to you was horrendous, especially given your age, and I know your anxiety over what might have happened must have been so hard for you. We all had a different sort of hell.