I tried to wrap my head around this. "I always thought I'd be smart enough to not get pregnant if I weren't ready to have a child, I never actually thought aboutgetting someone else pregnant. I um, I don't know. This is all very sudden for me to make such a decision; I'm still trying to figure out what I want to do for a career." I took a deep breath. "No. Wait. I don't want to not be involved. I won't forgive myself if I miss out on this. I want to help raise our daughter. But it doesn't really change my opinion on us."