In this TED Talk, the presenter tells us how important listening is. In our world we are not listening enough to our pairs. We are focused, concentrated, deconcetrated, multi-tasking all the time. But the consequence of that is misunderstanding, which can lead to violence and pain.
Recently I felt frustrated because I wanted to tell someone what I was thinking about something he did. My aim was to help him to improve but he was not really listening … even if he was saying « yes, yes, yes ». I felt bad afterwards and in the end I was almost angry of not being listened to. So in this little life experience, I felt how it is important to give your attention to others.
In the following talk, you’ll receive 5 little exercises to improve your ability to listen. Starting from now, I’ll try to apply them ! If you wish to join the effort, I added the list of exercises on the bottom of this articles.
5 exercises :
- Silence : 3 minutes of silence a day to recalibrate and be able to listen to silence again
- The Mixer : listen to how many channels of noise you can hear in a noisy environment
- Savouring : listen to everyday sounds to find out the hidden choir
- Listening positions : adapt your listening position according to what you are listening to and playing with those filters :
- Active / Passive
- Reductive / Expansive
- Critical / Empathic
- RASA : if you are leader, spouse, friend, parent, teacher :
- Recieve : pay attention to the person
- Appreciate : making little noises like « hmm », « ah », « ok »
- Summarize : Using the word « so, you said that … », « if I’m right you think that … »
- Ask : To make sure you understood well
Good listening 😉