When parents fight in front of kids
Children look up to their parents as role models. You like it or not, every habit of yours can be seen in your child. Be it good or bad. Children are also affected by the environment at home. What they feel at home makes a mark in their brain. It is essential to give a calm and loving environment to your kids. When parents fight over some issues in front of their kids, children are adversely affected in the following ways:
When you actually fight
- Children tend to disrespect either both parents or any one of them. When one of the parents uses foul language for another partner in front of their kids, the children feel that they also have to disrespect that parent.
- They adapt to this unfortunate environment, they also start talking in the same language. And behave in the same manner with siblings or their friends outside.
- They are mentally affected. They feel that there is always shouting at home. They seek peace outside the home. They want to be away from home as much as possible.
- They feel this is the definition of love. The bitterness is instilled in them since childhood. When some stranger talks to them politely they feel attracted to them.
- They feel there is no bonding among the family members. Everyone seems to be stranger for kids. This leads to depressed lifestyles. They lack confidence in their character.
We should find ways to avoid fighting in front of kids. Some of the ways can be:
- Don’t react immediately. I know it is not easy but we are parents and we have to learn to be patient.
- Many times we say wrong things and react without understanding the whole situation. Stop right there, think about it and talk after some time to resolve the issue.
- Keep the argument one to one only. When we drag families or friends, it comes to ego. And then there’s no control on what we speak.
- Control yourself and leave the area. You can always argue in another room where kids are not present.
- Disagreements are always there between two people and it is natural. We should always accept the fact that another person may have a different point of view on the same issue.
- Keep your tone low. High volumes always lead to ugly results.
Every couple has a different way to tackle this issue and I am sure every parent is correct in their own form.