What we sometimes view as a failure to behave appropriately may actually be a failure to communicate. Children get excited, frustrated, overwhelmed and anxious just like adults. They have moments when they can't find the words to communicate. Arguably the most effective way to teach our children how to communicate is by example. So in that moment when your child behaves in a way that frustrates you, pause....and determine if you will react or relate...command or communicate, belittle or be an adult.