I wish I found this #tedtalk , by @RedMDND earlier as it is one that resonated deeply with me and motivated me to further reflect on my painful experience.

In the aftermath of a violent death caused by a woman, I have felt extremely isolated and often dismissed with excuses for why she did it. 
I questioned whether I was a psychopath myself—what other explanation could there be for why I could clearly foresee the pending tragedy? This belief was fuelled by the notion that we see in others what is within us.

Turns out, I was not blinded by her Christian, professional facade; instead, I subconsciously recognized behavior patterns that aligned with those of the male perpetrator from my childhood. 

The journey through healing has been a roller coaster of emotions. Initially, I was consumed by anger, blaming everyone for my loved one’s death because they minimised the violence- dismissing  my pleas for help. However, I now have more understanding why: the narrative of a woman being so dangerous has long been taboo, and this longstanding denial has had far too many tragic consequences.

Despite these traumatic experiences, I refuse to lose faith in humanity because I’ve seen that while darkness exists, so does the light in the strength of people who push for change. Some of the most transformative moments in my journey came from those who held me accountable when my own behavior fell short—and yes, I still need to be called out at times.

By speaking up, I hope to contribute to a safer society for all. We owe it to ourselves and future generations to have these conversations, break cycles, and ensure that empowerment is rooted in truth and responsibility. 

Acknowledging harmful women and holding them accountable is not an attack on women and it certainly shouldn’t divide us—it should unite us in honesty, growth, and healing.

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