A group of more than 100,000 Rwandan refugees, forced from their homes by war and ravaged by starvation, are now facing a new problem: the difficulty or outright inability to connect to America Online. 'Last night I spent almost an hour trying to connect,' Ndeti Mwana, 31, said, 'and still I could not. I have not played NTN trivia in over a week.' Countless other refugees are praying that they have not missed any important e-mail. AOL officials are working around the clock with the U.N.'s High Commission For Refugees to set up makeshift emergency e-mail stations along the Rwanda-Congo border. 'I fear the gods have forsaken us,' refugee Malanda Lumbushi said. 'Will I ever chat with my e-pal, Vader1138, again?' 