I have been with my boyfriend for nine years now
Congrats! How is it going?
I think I'm going to break up with him. Nine years and last week he ordered a pizza for us covered in black olives.
That seems very trivial but do you mean that he still doesn't seem to know you?
Exactly. I realized yesterday he does that all the time. 
Have you tried counseling, reading going through a program? Are there good things? I know it is hard when a partner doesn't work on a relationship and keep it good
Nine years. He should know already.
For sure but no relationship is perfect and everything takes work