I'm scared to show love or get close in a relationship. I once mistook pity and infatuation for love and ended up being miserable. Am I gonna let that happen again? Hell no
Oh that's terrible. I wouldn't shut it all out though, you could miss out on someone great.
Not all of it of course, you're right.  But she's gotta bring something to the table before I go all in...can't deal with that damaged goods crap anymore
Yeah you are right. Better to take things slow and figure out what they are all about first.