My wife just got a promotion and a 10% raise. I should be ecstatic for what this means for our family and financial future, but it's hard to not let my selfishness and ego get in the way, and think about how she's been more successful than me. We're currently in the same industry.
Maybe you can observe what she's doing and use that to advance in the industry as well.
That's a fair point. But we do different jobs, just in the same industry. So I couldn't necessarily learn from her, but she's close enough to what I do, that I still subconsciously compare ourselves, even though I shouldn't. I know this will all pass in a few days, hopefully. But in the meantime, I hate that I have to actively not be passive aggressive towards her, when I should just be happy.
I'd be worried about having these kinds of feelings towards your wife.