I've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks. I really like him except that he always mentions his ex-girlfriend. I asked him recently if he thought he was over her and he said he was. But, it just seems weird that he has manages to mention her name in random conversations.

What do you think?

The New Girl

Dear New Girl,

Well, of course he's going to say he's over her... even if he's not. There aren't that many guys who are that straightforward and honest. That being said, he might sincerely be over her. Perhaps, he just "cares" about her still -- which is OK.

I think it's too early to worry about it. Take it slow and see where it goes. If things progress with you guys, then he'll be so in love with you that he'll forget about her. However, if he continues to bring it up, then I can see how it could be annoying... and at that point, you can tell him that you appreciate and respect that they have history, but that it might not be the healthiest thing for you guys if you are trying to build a future together. If you present it in a calm and sincere way, I think he'll respect you for being honest about your feelings.

xo,Natalise

p.s. SONG ASSIGNMENT - Katy Perry's "Thinking of You" (Acoustic Version)If he continues to talk about his ex, you can tell him that you understand, but that you hope he doesn't feel this way!

Sometimes guys mention an ex because they don't know what else to talk about. this especially happens when in the past relationship they spent a lot of time with each other and not with other friends. As you build experiences and comfort level with each other, this should go away. But if you find you are being compared, then that is the real warning sign

Dump his ass. Seriously, why do so many women fall for guys who are not over their ex? There are billions of other guys out there, and you want to settle for someone who could never give their whole heart to you? You've been only dating for a couple of weeks now. I disagree with Natalise, this is the best time to end it now. If you stay with him longer, it'll be harder to break up with him if you find out he truly still loves his ex. I would never bring my ex into a conversation with a girl I really like (unless she asks. Either way, I would talk about her in an indifferent way or if it's necessary to mention her).nnA couple of girls I've liked in the past ended up dating someone who wasn't over their ex. It disappointed me, because I knew I could've given these girls my 100% if I dated one of them. But at the same time, it tells me that these girls aren't worth it if they're gonna settle for someone who they know can't give his whole heart to them. Relationships are about mutual love. If so many of you ladies always ask why can't you get good guys, then maybe here's an answer: We don't think you're worth it. What I mean is that women who want to date guys who are not over their ex barely have any self-respect at all.