Comments on: ARA: I spent $800 on his gift, he got me a wallethttp://blog.timesunion.com/ontheedge/ara-i-spent-800-on-his-gift-he-got-me-a-wallet/44338/
What's trending in your life, and in oursTue, 14 Jul 2015 14:37:08 +0000hourly1http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.2By: GOOSEhttp://blog.timesunion.com/ontheedge/ara-i-spent-800-on-his-gift-he-got-me-a-wallet/44338/comment-page-2/#comment-314100
Fri, 15 Jun 2012 20:10:02 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-314100Less than 195 days until Christmas, so you know what that means…about 140 days until ARA’s from ungrateful girlfriends and clueless husbands start rolling in.

Can’t wait!

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Fri, 02 Dec 2011 12:26:16 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-234057Whiny Brat-Yes
Material Girl-Yes
Art Work for a present-Tricky unless that piece was truly desired. And prices/value can be subjective.
If she made her BF aware of her feelings, this could turn out to be an unplanned test of her fiscal and emotional stability.
If I had an extra $800, it would go on the mortgage, for her it should go against college (or other) debt.
Unless she is trolling for a Sugar Daddy, then she was chumming the water.
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Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:54:55 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-233691Kristi responds:

Anne, “a lot” is all relative. I know plenty of people who would say “$100-$200″ is quite a bit (and others who have a limit that is several thousands of dollars deep).

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Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:54:40 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-233690You are equating the item “wallet” with his affection for you. You obviously spent a huge amount of time “showing” your BF how you feel by spending the money & time on purchasing the art work. A man is not going to think like a woman and I think this situaton is bothering you because you are sensing a discrepency deeper in your relationship. The inequality in the relationship, be it money, power, level of emotional investment, who washes the dishes, etc… is what is really bothering you.
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Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:53:08 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-233687$275 seems like a lot of money to me! We do not spend a lot on presents. Maybe $100- $200 at most.
I think a lot has to do with what people are used to doing.They kind of feel each other out. The first year we spent about $50 on each other.
$800 seems a lot. And maybe he “only” spent $275 because he knew you did not have a lot of money, and did not want to make you feel awkward. Gift giving is fraught with peril, have a conversation next time.
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Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:21:05 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-233666All I really want to know is how does the reader know what she got already? I hope she can tell us. And I love Leighs comments!! LOL
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Thu, 01 Dec 2011 14:39:28 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-233584I don’t think that we should bash the reader. I can understand being frustrated when you have gone to great lengths & spent more money than the person you are exchanging with — it could bother me too. You also don’t know if the boyfriend is planning on giving another gift besides the wallet.

With that said, I do agree with others that the point of the holiday is not about money — but the thought behind the gift. If it bothers you this much, this early before Xmas, you are just going to stew about it — you should talk to him and explain how you are feeling. You can tell him that you spent $800 on a really great gift for him and that you expect that he is spending far less on you, then ask him what does he want to do — would he rather have you return your gift and get a less expensive gift instead?

I strongly agree with setting spending limits ahead of time — it avoids these types of situations.

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Thu, 01 Dec 2011 08:47:21 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-233515This made me laugh. I don’t think I’ve spent $800 on Christmas gifts for my husband in the 10 years we’ve been together. And my $7 wallet is 5 or 6 years old and still going strong…if you have to ask a question like this, you’re probably too insecure to be in any relationship and if I were your boyfriend, I’d be running away right now.
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Wed, 30 Nov 2011 22:59:27 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=44338#comment-233386So… Did a month go by that I wasn’t aware of…I thought we still had 25 days until Christmas….??

I would say that you are being a brat. You’ve only been together 1 year what were you expecting…?? You choose to spend $800 dollars. I have never spent that much on HUSBAND…. and $275 for a wallet isn’t cheap. He didn’t go to wal-mart and buy one for 20 bucks !! Since Christmas hasn’t happened yet how do you know there isn’t more than the wallet…maybe gift cards or money can go in that.

Or maybe…since you’re worried about money its appropriate he got you just a wallet….