[header] How to combat learned dependency [title] Reconsider your interpretations of events. [step] People with learned dependency often believe that, when things go wrong, it's because of their incompetence or inadequacy. Start challenging these thoughts when they arise.
[header] How to combat learned dependency [title] Reconsider your interpretations of events. [step] People with learned dependency often believe that, when things go wrong, it's because of their incompetence or inadequacy. Start challenging these thoughts when they arise.
For example, you might question why you got stuck in school in high school. Is it because of your work responsibilities or a childhood habit you've tried to erase? [substeps] Try to come up with more concrete examples to help you remember what happened. Look at situations from an objective point of view and see if you can come up with a more logical explanation for the things that happen to you. [substeps] For instance, if you don't get a job after an interview, your first thought might be, " i'm obviously unemployable. [substeps] Meditation can be a good way to counteract a fraction or two of ignorance in your thoughts. To do so, sit down and meditate on your present situation. Notice how focused you are on your own actions; instead of focusing on your position in the world, tell yourself what actions you think are unfair. [substeps] For example, you might tell yourself, " everyone made mistakes, but it's because of me! " ask yourself whether any mistakes you made were made for people with learned dependency.