[header] How to avoid an abusive relationship [title] Look for unhealthy perfectionism. [step] Abusive people often operate with extremely unrealistic expectations. They believe that things should always go in a certain way or conform to their particular standards.
[header] How to avoid an abusive relationship [title] Look for unhealthy perfectionism. [step] Abusive people often operate with extremely unrealistic expectations. They believe that things should always go in a certain way or conform to their particular standards.
If they set unrealistic expectations, they are often totally focused on perfection or lack of control. A person may view relationships as a " miracle trip " and then have a desire to make every effort possible for a certain type of activity. Because of this, it's important to notice if the behavior continues on in a supportive manner. [substeps] For example, one person may believe that all relationships are " impossible " simply because they date the wrong man and get married very young. That's exactly what they've been aiming for. Unfortunately, such unrealistic expectations stem from them holding on to their negative emotions and dismissing their real intentions. They have a strong sense of what is " fair " and " unfair, " and they are generally very inflexible. When things do not meet unrealistic expectations, abusive people may become explosive, resentful, angry and even violent.