[header] How to forgive someone who hasn't forgiven you [title] Stop viewing this as a blame game. [step] If you're waiting for the other person to offer forgiveness first, then you will likely be waiting a long time. Ironically, it's probable that you're maintaining the reason for a lack of forgiveness, in that it's competitive or about proving you're right after all.
[header] How to forgive someone who hasn't forgiven you [title] Stop viewing this as a blame game. [step] If you're waiting for the other person to offer forgiveness first, then you will likely be waiting a long time. Ironically, it's probable that you're maintaining the reason for a lack of forgiveness, in that it's competitive or about proving you're right after all.
There's no need to get in an argument with this person because this will only make the fight more painful. [substeps] Try to rephrase all of the bad things that you or your friend (s) did. You'll need to step back and remove the blame aspect of it. [title] Realize that you cannot make anyone feel something you want them to feel. The other person might even be coming around to forgive you because the two of you are the same person. [substeps] Give yourself credit for deciding to forgive. Nevertheless, resisting any urge to forgive is out of the question. If the " reason " is weak or insurmountable, then you are one step closer to forgiving and compromising this person.