[header] How to cope with perfectionist parents [title] Learn to spot perfectionist expectations. [step] Let your parents know how their unrealistic expectations make you feel. They may not know how their behavior is affecting you.
[header] How to cope with perfectionist parents [title] Learn to spot perfectionist expectations. [step] Let your parents know how their unrealistic expectations make you feel. They may not know how their behavior is affecting you.
[substeps] Be as tactful as you can, especially if you think your parents aren't intentionally making you feel bad. For instance, say something like, " dad, it really means a lot to me that you always come to watch me play soccer, but when you compare me to my teammates, i have a hard time enjoying the game. If they are harsh about the way they approach you, they may not even realize how your perfectionist personality affects you in some way. Finding a new environment and coping mechanism can help you minimize and overcome the reality of perfectionism. [substeps] If your parents reinforce perfectionist expectations you will feel like you are a failure and have no control over your life or clothing choices. Your parents may yell at you and ask why you haven't done your chores. If they are forcing you to change work or school expectations, you may develop perfectionist personality disorder. [substeps] Defer to their judgement by not setting unrealistic expectations.