1. A system for performing computer aided flow cytometry experiments, the system comprising: a flow cytometer; a data storage configured to store measurements of a set of cytometric events for particles in a sample subjected to a flow cytometric experiment in the flow cytometer, the measurements including p-dimensional data; a processor in data communication with the data storage, the processor configured to: obtain the measurements; model at least a portion of the p-dimensional data included in the measurements based on one or more p-dimensional parametric distributions; provide an initial estimate of parameters included in said one or more p-dimensional parametric distributions; iteratively estimate updated parameters for said one or more p-dimensional parametric distributions, wherein said estimating comprises: calculating, for events in the set of cytometric events, a posteriori probabilities that said event is a member of each of said parametric distributions, calculating, for said events, distances that said event to said parametric distributions, identifying a subset of said events that are within a neighborhood of at least one of said distributions based on a comparison of the calculated event distance for a respective parametric distribution with a predefined threshold, and calculating, for the parameters for the said one or more p-dimensional parametric distributions, an updated estimate based on the calculated a posteriori probabilities for events in the identified subset of said events, wherein said estimating is iterated at least once, and wherein subsequent calculation of the a posteriori probabilities is based on the updated estimate for the parameters; and after said iterative estimating, identify a gate indicating a population of particles from the said one or more p-dimensional parametric distributions using the updated parameter estimates.