1. A method for operating a server a session initiation protocol (SIP) server having a maximum capacity for servicing requests, the method-comprising steps of: a) receiving a plurality of requests for an SIP message session, wherein said plurality of requests comprise: session initiation requests, session modification requests, and requests for binding a user to an address; b) classifying each request according to a value, wherein said classifying step comprises: b.1) running a classification algorithm at run time, the classification algorithm comprising steps of: b.2) receiving a rule set, each rule comprising headers and conditions, wherein the rules with a numerically higher priority value have precedence over the rules with a numerically lower priority value and wherein a first matching rule will be applied for the rules with a same priority value, and the rules are sorted in decreasing order of priority such that a matching process can be stopped after a first matching rule is found; and wherein headers are classified as one of: simple headers, pseudo-headers, and derived headers, and wherein, in conjunction with user-defined derived headers, the user is allowed to specify complex data types comprising structures and complex data variables associated with arrays, pointers, and scalars; b.3) creating a condition table by taking a union of all conditions in the rules; b.4) creating a header table by extracting a common set of headers from the condition table; b.5) extracting the relevant headers from the header table; b.6) determining a matching rule; b.7) creating a bit vector table; b.8) selecting the matching rule according to data in the bit vector table; and b.9) applying the matching rule to place the request in an appropriate queue from among a plurality of queues comprising a high priority queue, a medium priority queue, and a low priority queue; and wherein said value of the request is based upon a plurality of message types, the message types comprising: register message; presence subscription and notification; bye messages; specific destinations; source of the message; whether the message belongs to a session-in-progress; whether the message belongs to a new session setup; and within a message, retransmission of a message vs. the first instance the message is being sent; c) determining a priority for handling the request according to the value, such that requests with higher values are assigned higher priorities; d) placing each request in one of multiple queues according to its priority value; and e) dropping the requests with the lowest priority when the plurality of requests are received at a rate that exceeds the maximum capacity.