TI1rough another variation of the role-playing. the client sits on the ~hot­ senl~ facing an empty chair (>nto which he projects his many selves. This techt1iq11c provide.,; nn npporlun ity for the oppniaing forces within a person to talk with ench other. haw il out with end, other. forgive t:Hcl1 other. compromi. ~c or get to know each other. This cnn help the family member tu1dersland himself. his dreams. fantasy,md reality (King and Gerwig 1981, p. 45). Thrnugh rolc-pla~;ng, family 111c111bers c:111 express, :icknowlcdg c und identify feelings and emotions gencrat C'd by the clay to day :1djm:1 menu: to e:ich other's reality and copin~ 1,·ith hc,1lth ;111d illness situntions. Throuf!_h such a"·areness. each family m~ml>er can discover additiv11al aspects of the self. This opens newcxpcdc1n:c F and nlttnwtiv es lo tra11sform fcdings and emotions to better opportunities for achic\'ing a positive sctr-c;c Hwept thnt enables one to learn to ram for other 1111m1bcrs. 6. Explore the Benclits of Power of Silence. Encoura~c family members lo use the power uf silence us 1111 inlc1·vcntio11 to tr;msforrn the emotions or fcel. in)l. s that in:flue11C'e the nllillldc into less painful, less obstinate and more objective cxpcric1K e oflookini; into the self for crt!ali\'e opportunities to heal. nurture or care. This is particulal'ly useful during emotion-laden family encounter or recurrent ps~'chologicnl irritation s of daily disappointments or co11llkts. Family members can karn lo use silence (";111 slow deep breathing) a;; an acli\'c cxpcdcm :c ofbdng aware of one's senses. acc;epting and hl!ing tolerunl of till' self nncl others despite the frustrations, <lb:appoin tmcnts or stresses. Slow. deep bi-eathing relaxes the body nnd provides for belier oxygc1rntion of lll'ain cells. This allows n more objective ;ind less emotional expc,;cnc,~ of being with the self while analyzing the problem or the issue for better problem-solvi ng. Learning is facilitated when experiences have meaning to the learner Focus and relate leamin~ experiences to the clicnt's/fan1ily's, meanings, aspirations and bes1 choice among options avaj J. tble in t11e family situation. To emphasi ze the importance of"meaning" in learn Lng, the following exercise i1, usetl as an adaptation of a similar exercise i\lu1,trated by Abbatt (p-41) Look for about two i;econds nt the two diagrams below. A. B. 101 