456 APPENDIX 83 CONSTRUCTING THE FAMILY-LIFE CHRONOLOGY To mates Ast aboutllow they met, when they decfded to marry, etc. To Wife io Husband _..howshesawherparents,------Ask how he saw his parents, his her slb Jln1s, her family life siblings, his family life Bring chronology bac:k to when Bring chronology back to when she met her husband he met his wife Aslc about her~ns of marital life r I 'n>ma~ Ask about his expectation of marital life MIi abollt arty manled life; explore about the Influence of the past To mate4 as parents Ask about their expectations of parenting; explore about the influence of the past To c:hlfd. Ask about thechlfd'svlews of the parents, how he or she sees them having fun"' dlsa1reeln,1, etc. To famlly. as a whole.. Rl!assure fal. ritfv tfu,t It Is safe to comment; reinforce need for clear ~ujtl,Qtt~,lv'eclosure, pofntto next meeting, give hope based on stren;ths &i therr relationship over ti,rne. _... Figure B. 3 Main flow of fam,j Jy-life chronology. (Adapted from Satir, v: (1967). Conjoint family therapy: a guide to theory and tecftnique, Palo Alto, Calif: Science & Behavior Books, p. 135. ) 