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 == I'm looking for some advice, or something... == 

 I've had a few conversations go off the rails here in the last few hours.  I'm well aware that it's quite hard to see you own faults, so I'd like some objective input.  I see from your contributions you're doing real work, so if you're too busy or don't want to, just say so.  In the event you do have the time and desire: .  "