** spoiler alert ** 
 I found this book frustrating. Harper was a mess - she was right in the end to realize that she was "stunted", but Nick wasn't much better. He never seemed to realize his contribution to the end of their first marriage. I know with first person point of view, we don't get in his head, but his words and actions didn't really show growth. Also, he did remarry so "loving her his entire adult life" didn't stop him from moving on. And his second wife leaving him didn't seem to teach him anything either. Of course, she didn't call him on his controlling ways - the road trip with business meeting, move back to NY, go to lunch for 4 hours crap, so what should she expect. I just didn't see either of them growing and jumping out of the ferry was just plain stupid. 
 Kristan Higgins is a good writer, but this is the second of her books I haven't liked.