[3.75 stars] TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE!!! 
 i was not warned, i don't know why no one ever says that about this book. maybe it's a spoiler? i don't really care. i wasn't expecting it, and the attacker had the same name as my attacker, and it was just a lot for me. so, if i can protect someone else from that, i will. 
 moving on, apart from the massive trigger, this book was really good. there's a lot of info dumps, but i found them really interesting. at the beginning i didn't really like 2 of the narrators, but i came around on them. the story was interesting. i was extremely frustrated with Max for much of the book, but also desperately wanted to hug him. i think if you want to learn more about Intersex people, but maybe hate non-fiction, this would be a good starting point.