Beautiful and just full of so many emotions, the writing is amazing, every word feels weighted with meaning and just a heaviness around the characters. 
 I'm so behind on reviews but I will be back to spew my thoughts about this truly amazing book 
 The writing, the atmosphere, the story, the characters, the themes. Celeste Ng is now an insta buy author for me. The writing is beautiful, complex, and sets the whole atmosphere for this story. 
 70's Ohio, racism, interracial marriage, kids trying to grow up not belonging to their Chinese culture, not being accepted as Americans, a Dad that just wants his Kids to blend so they're subject to less bulling and racism then he was, a Mum so caught up in her own mothers world still trying to break free from the Mans world she just wants to see her Daughter succeed to the fullest, to what she wasn't able to be. 
 Messy family, complicated and hard childhoods all round. Seeing the glaring childhoods, from a white woman being told she needs to get Married and have kids and doesn't fit in with a mans world, to a Chinese Man living in America since he was a kid, shunning his parents culture and refusing to embrace his Chinese heritage after being ruthlessly subjected to racism from the young and old that felt okay to deal out, to their children who don't quite fit in with society and have immense pressure to prove themselves lacking the privilege of immediate acceptance their white peers have. 
 Parents projecting their missed life wished on their children, pressure escalating in a vary of ways and the tragedy of losing a child. This book is so much more then your average contemporary and it's just so hauntingly good. 
 I'm still thinking about this book weeks later and it'll stick with me for a long time <3 
 "It would disappear forever from her memory of Lydia, the way memories of a lost loved one always smooth and simplify themselves, shedding complexities like scales."