Don't read this book if you're a mainstreamer. You won't get it. However, if you've led a life that's anything atypical, this book is unashamed about the idea that women shouldn't be shamed into something they're not, that settling is good for no one, and it's better to be single rather than be stuck with a douche. And for gods sake, do something you love with your life instead of wallowing and hoping things get better on their own.