Full review at Smart Bitches, Trashy Books 
 I realized that I've spent the past few weeks just letting the universe decide what I should read. Either it's something somebody mentioned that sounded interesting, or an author went on The Daily Show and pimped her book, or a book that publisher sent me. I haven't gone actively looking for a book in a while, and since the variety that the universe has sent my way has been REALLY interesting, I'm just going to keep on letting this happen for a few more weeks. 
 This book is about all of the things we talk about here: creating a space for women to talk about emotions and desires and sexual fulfillment, and in exploring that, finding confidence in other parts of their lives. It presents that examination through the lens of the Punjabi Sikh community in Southall, near London, and through the eyes of Nikki, a British-Punjabi woman in her early 20s, who is trying to figure out what she wants to do with her life. 
 I felt like this book had a bit of a slow start, but once the erotic story plot kicks into gear, all of the other subplots start moving and then the momentum builds until I could NOT put it down. I loved the way Jaswal wove the erotic stories into the narrative, and she's got a talent for dropping hints of threads that'll be picked up later. 
 One of the scenes I liked the best was when the class was just beginning their discussion of erotica and what they liked. They were speaking in Punjabi, and Nikki notes that they've used a whole produce section to describe a penis. The women all admit that they don't know the Punjabi words for anatomy: no one thought it was necessary for them to know what anything was called. There are a number of times where Nikki and other British-born Punjabi women are talking in Punjabi but use English for words they don't know in Punjabi, or one person is speaking English while the other is speaking Punjabi. I am given to understand that this is incredibly common in immigrant communities and families with multiple languages (Jane the Virgin is another example). The narrative indicates whether a conversation is in Punjabi or English, or a mix, and it was a nice detail that added to the texture of the whole book. 
 I don't know very much about the Punjabi culture, or the Sikh religion (other than Sikh temples serving as places of refuge after terrorist attacks), and I feel like this was written in a way that keeps in mind that the reader may need some explanatory commas. I didn't feel lost or confused, and I learned a few things, as well. I didn't realize that "Singh" and "Kaur" are names that all Sikhs have as a surname or middle name, for example. 
 I've been really interested in books about immigrant communities and the tension between first and second generation people and how things are resolved between them. I liked the exploration of that tension in both Nikki's relationship with her mother and sister, and the widows' relationships among themselves. Plus there's the whole concept that older women still feel sexual desire. That was the part I enjoyed the best, that these women still have this inner spark, even when their culture is telling them that they should not. Erotic Stories for Punjabi Widows is not a romance first and foremost, though there is a romance plot among the many others. It is, however, a story about women's self understanding, and turning against the definition and enforcement of their sexuality to discover it for themselves. 
 - Redheadedgirl