This author has self-awareness. 
 I think she read the reviews of some of her early books, and quickly revised that one of the biggest criticisms was how dominant the males were, that imposed their will on their females. So, patter, patter, patter (that's Kresley Cole running back to the drawing board, no mockery, just what I imagine what happened) - and she wrote down issues readers frequently have with these kinds of books. 
 1) The slut-shaming. Melanthe more than once, notes the double standards when it comes to men and women. Women are expected to be pure and sacrificial, and men could shag their way around the world. Melanthe even goes as far to say, there is no "male equivalent" of the word harlot. One or two I could've accepted. When I see continual references, I felt like an agenda was being shoved down my throat. It's going: See! I can write women who are feminists! Don't be aggy with me! 
 Over and over again, double standards were mentioned. 
 Why? 
 If a woman is truly tired of being labelled a slut, tell everyone to piss off and hang out with like-minded people (especially if you won't face social/economic or violent repercussions - a big worry for women who are trapped in backward places - which Melanthe is not! She's a Soceri! She can make portals to go anywhere!) For me, I saw it more as an agenda of the writer, than it having relevance to the plot and characters. Thantos, the guy that is horny for you, cannot copulate with anyone else for five centuries (literally, he's tried) and is a virgin - can you blame him for taking an interest in your sexual history?!? Just give him a rough ballpark. Not turn it into some feminist rant.