'Often they are people who themselves have been belittled and will often have someone prominent in their lives who belittled them in some way.' Bachelor in Paradise is supposed to be the sweet sorbet palette cleanser after the acidic toxicity that was Married at First Sight. But as the season continues on, we're beginning to think that it's not the calm break in Fiji we so desperately needed. Do you have a Bachelor in Paradise tip or know one of the contestants? Email us with your tip-off at NowToLoveTips@bauerxcelmedia.com.au In fact, a very strong pattern is emerging in these reality TV shows as of late, and it's everything to do with how these people gaslight the hell out of each other. If you're not familiar with the term, gaslighting means to manipulate someone by psychological means into doubting their own sanity. And on Tuesday's episode of BIP, Bill Goldsmith vehemently denied trying to sleep with Florence Moerenhout on an overnight date in Paradise, something that she says he 100% did. While we didn't see the exchange directly, it was obvious that a lot more was said between the pair, particularly when Flo was left in a flurry of tears after she confronted Bill. READ NEXT: Which Bachelor in Paradise couples from 2019 are actually still together? Bill and Flo had it out after Bill denied trying to sleep with her. (Source: Network Ten) "Bulls- -t Flo, I never said that," Bill raged during their heated argument. "You're so malicious that you f---ing want to make bulls--t up to try and get in the way because I didn't give you a rose." "You said it, it's a quote!" Florence yelled back before adding, "You're unbelievable; you're actually unbelievable! You're actually gonna stand here laughing?" "You're such a f---ing c--t, I can't believe it!" WATCH NEXT: Bachelor in Paradise's Bill denies trying to sleep with Florence Story continues after the video... Twitter was set alight with fans accusing the mechanical engineer of gaslighting the Dutch beauty. After some severe backlash, Bill has since come out and apologised for his behaviour on the show. "Looking back on my time in paradise, I'd like to think I'd handle the same situation a lot differently," he wrote on an Instagram post on Wednesday afternoon. "I was navigating my way through a range of emotions in an environment like no other on this planet. I'd like to whole heartedly apologise to @florencealexandras for speaking about her like I did, no one deserves that. Every single one of us were in Fiji for our own reasons Whether that was the experience, love, relationships, money, opportunities or business either way, no judgment from me 💕🌴[sic]." Bill apologised on Instagram for his behaviour. (Source: Instagram/bill.michael.goldsmith) Apology or not, we still have a serious question for producers of all of these shows? How is it OK to keep showing this behaviour on prime time TV? Sure it lends a hand to bringing some "drama" to the show – but at what cost? And Channel 9's juggernaut, Married at First Sight, was obviously no better. We had Mike Gunner, a perennially single 44-year-old, who consistently made his wife Heidi Latcham apologise to him when it was usually his fault. Mike Gunner and Heidi Latcham on the set of Married at First Sight. (Source: Channel 9) And then there was Susie Bradley. How could we forget her tumultuous relationship with Billy Vincent? Our sweet and sensitive Billy, who was made to feel worthless at every turn. Remember when Susie blew up at her husband for "fibbing" "You really hurt me the way you were before," Susie said after he ended up being the one to apologise. "You need to make a conscious commitment not to bulls--- about anything. Ever." Umm… excuse me, Susie? No, thanks. Billy was gas lighted by Susie for "lying". (Source: Channel 9) Concerned about this, we spoke to Clinical and Health Psychologist Amanda Gordon to discuss exactly why Billy felt the need to back down and apologise to Susie. "Well it all boils down to a lack of self-confidence," Professor Gordon said. "He may have had an experience in his past which has knocked his confidence a bit and so people like that are led to believe that maybe it is always their fault." "Maybe these types of people grew up in an environment where they were blamed and told it was their fault and then grew up not knowing their own reality – which is why they are prepared to accept other people's criticisms beyond what is reasonable." So why do people like Bill and Susie feel the need to belittle those around them? "Often they are people who themselves have been belittled and will often have someone prominent in their lives who belittled them in some way," Professor Gordon told Now To Love. One thing's for sure, this behaviour is terribly toxic and quite frankly, absolutely appalling – and it begs the question – should the networks re-evaluate what makes good TV? We think so.<doc-sep>If the latest Bachelor In Paradise promo is anything to go by, Alex Nation appears to dump Brooke Blurton. Photo: Channel Ten There’s been quite the love triangle that’s formed on Bachelor In Paradise between Bill Goldsmith, Alex Nation and Brooke Blurton. Now if a new promo is anything to go by, it appears Alex makes a decision to set her eyes on just one love interest, and that’s Bill. The preview that aired at the end of tonight’s episode shows Richie Strahan’s ex appearing to end things with Brooke. “My feelings for Bill have surpassed my feelings for Brooke,” Alex says in a piece-to-camera, before we see a scene that appears to be the breakup conversation with Brooke. “My feelings for Bill have surpassed my feelings for Brooke,” Alex says in a piece-to-camera. Photo: Channel Ten “It sucks because I wanted to spend more time with you,” Brooke tells Alex, with heartbreak written all over her face. But nothing’s ever so simple in Paradise, and just when Alex thought she was cosy with Bill, a new contestant arrives to shake things up. “Where’s Bill?” host Osher is seen asking the rest of the cast, before it’s revealed to viewers that he’s on a secret date with Florence Moerenhout. What’s more, it seems Bill is still keen to keep his options open, and isn’t as committed as Alex is. “It sucks because I wanted to spend more time with you,” Brooke tells Alex, with heartbreak written all over her face. Photo: Channel Ten “Is there someone special who’s gonna wait up?” Flo asks Bill during their date in the pool. “Not sure,” Bill casually responds, before we see them locking lips. Meanwhile back on the island, Alex is now having second thoughts about her man. “I’m not sure about Bill right now. I’m very unsure about us,” she tells producers. “I can feel our emotions rising and on the inside, I’m raging.” Meanwhile Bill is on a secret date with newcomer Florence. Photo: Channel Ten Could this have something to do with Flo’s arrival? “Why would she say that?” Alex asks Bill at a cocktail party. Whether it’s Florence she’s referring to, is yet to be found out. “Because she’s a f*****g salty b***h,” Bill responds. “That’s who she is. She’s a f*****g conniving piece of s**t.” I beg your pardon, Bill. Bachelor In Paradise continues on Thursday at 7:30pm on Channel Ten. He’s certainly keeping his options open as he kisses Florence. Photo: Channel Ten Got a story tip? Send it to lifestyle.tips@verizonmedia.com Want more lifestyle and celebrity news? Follow Yahoo Lifestyle on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Or sign up to our daily newsletter here.<doc-sep>
Bachelor In Paradise’s Bill Goldsmith and Alex Nation have struck up quite a connection on the show. Photo: Channel Ten If there’s one contestant on Bachelor In Paradise who’s been very popular this season, it’s Alex Nation. The mother-of-one has struck up some solid romances with Bill Goldsmith and Brooke Blurton, which ultimately led to James Trethewie deciding to leave the island because it all got too much. But now there’s some signs suggesting that Richie Strahan’s ex will be heartbroken, and it’s all got to do with Bill. After filming of the show wrapped in Fiji up a couple of months ago, Bill and Alex had been spotted packing on the PDA in Australia, suggesting they get together at the end. However, Bill has been seen ‘liking’ comments on social media that aren’t so flattering of Alex, which seems to suggest they may no longer be an item. When a photo of Bill and Alex’s first kiss (above) was shared on the official Bachelor In Paradise Instagram account, Bill appeared to ‘like’ a troll’s comment that read: “Who isn’t she on with yuck”. What’s more, the former Bachelorette star has recently been spotted out and about with a mystery brunette, which only adds fuel to the Alex split rumours. Meanwhile last night’s episode featured the second shock walkout for the season, with fan favourite James Trethewie deciding to leave the Fijian island on his own terms. Will they stay together? Photo: Channel Ten The 33-year-old only had eyes for Alex, but seeing her pash Bill and then take Brooke Blurton on a date, was too complicated of a love square for Jimmy to handle. “It’s just hard for me to be here while you’re exploring everything,” James told Alex at the cocktail party before the rose ceremony. “What are you saying though?” Alex tried to clarify. “I think I have to leave Paradise because I’ve been thinking about it all day,” he responded. Last night, sparks flew between Alex and Brooke Blurton. Photo: Channel Ten “The only person here that I feel I really wanted to explore a connection with was you. I don’t know if I can handle watching you exploring everyone else and you need to, because that’s how you feel.” Story continues Speaking to Yahoo Lifestyle Australia on Wednesday, James said he was well aware of Alex and Brooke’s connection, but it was really the Bill romance that affected him, especially as they were roommates. ‘I couldn’t sleep that night,’ he revealed, referring to the evening Bill spent in Alex’s villa. Bachelor In Paradise continues at 7:30pm on Channel Ten. James Trethewie decided to leave the show, and told Alex it was because he couldn’t stand to see her with other people. Photo: Channel Ten Got a story tip? Send it to lifestyle.tips@verizonmedia.com Want more lifestyle and celebrity news? Follow Yahoo Lifestyle on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Or sign up to our daily newsletter here.