<s>[INST] We have just started toilet training our nearly 3 year old boy who has short bowel syndrome. When we put him on the toilet he will use it but he can t quite grasp that he needs to tell us when he needs to go and we end up with a big mess because of his bowel. Help [/INST] Dear parents, toilet training is a job which needs tremendous patience. By now you must be aware of his normal bowel habits and timings, even if its multiple times a day. Around that time ask him if he wants to go to the restroom or just take him to the toilet. Be patient he will take some time to adjust to a new way of life, till now he was passing urine and motion in diapers, without hesitation. You need to remind him again and again, without getting angry what is needed now as he is growing. Be patient. He will be fine. Only if its incapacity to hold the see a doctor. </s>