<s>[INST] Our 11 year old has always had these uncontrollably yelling screaming appasodes that last one hour, she must always be right, controlling, she kicks and punches, she only like certain things, she doesn t like new people or things unless its her normal likeings same as clothes only like certain ones, she talks loud over everyone and right in your face remind you she s always been like this we just got custody and mom says this is just who Carissa is to me we have major concerns can you help me figure out what wrong so we can correct this for her and everyone else [/INST] Degree understand your concerns went through your details. I can understand your emotions. You should know that child-rearing is an act. A child aged 11 is going through a developmental period where he needs maximum attention and appreciation. If you do not get these two, he will fight for it until he gets it. But if you learn to ignore his activities in tune with the given scenario, he slowly succumbs to the pressure. I am not suggesting that you're doing everything wrong. You should introspect. Definitely there is something wrong in your behavior towards the child. Behavioral disorder of the child is another view point here I must not overlook. To determine or diagnose the children behavioral disorder, I will need more information about her behavior. Or you may consult a nearby psychologist for assessment of her behavior. If you require more of my help in this aspect, please use this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck. </s>