<s>[INST] the guy i know is really attached to his mother and always compares me with her..however he doesnt hates his father as mentioned in the oedipus complex definiton. but he is never able to accapt my love completely because of his love for his mother. he overreacts at times and i can feel that he is torn between me and his mom.. i dont want to hurt him but cant leave him either.. where to seek for help [/INST] Idealization of parental figure and internalizing the primary caregiver is quite a normal phenomenon in development of any person. From what you are describing, it seems this has gone too far and is causing significant interpersonal problems between you two.  The first thing to do, I suggest, is for you to talk to him about this. This would not only start getting the process of getting help but also will let you know his reaction to getting help. Any kind of help offered will obviously work with the hard work of the actual people involved and hence this is very important. Interpersonal therapy appears to be a good form of talking therapy for you too but before anything of this sort is sought out, please have a preliminary assessment by a mental health professional to see if there is any need for you both to seek help or is it that it may be you that may be overly sensitive. Sorry for suggesting this, but a competent professional has to look at all angles of a problem. Guidance </s>