 This is heavy on my mind this week, so I thought I’d throw all my energy and love in the Supreme Court’s direction…. If you can, please resist assumptions, gossip, or asking for details I haven’t provided. You talk about how you can forgive someone and love someone and at the very same time know that you cannot be with them anymore. I wrote this to several ministers: “I am a Christian and a seeker and I’m trying desperately to reconcile God’s commandment to love my neighbor without judgment and the church’s stance on homosexuality. “Happy,” the athlete wrote, adding the hashtag #iseethemoonnow. She’d answer her phone with: “We’re gonna talk about the gays again, aren’t we, Sister?” Yes, Sister. Should we clear your schedule then? “Figuring out my stance on homosexuality felt like a life and death decision,” she wrote in a 2013 post on her blog Momastery. The children who were killing themselves because the world (and the church in particular) would not accept them WERE my children. And I thought that being a Christian required me to love them, to ache for them, to fight for them with the same urgency I would have if I were fighting for myself. The fact that I had never met them before was completely inconsequential, according to Jesus. Melton’s coming out announcement follows a similar revelation by Eat, Pray, Love author Elizabeth Gilbert, who revealed she had found love with her female best friend in a September Facebook post. But I’m glad they slowed down enough to know me, because my life is better with them in it. He imagines Jim not as a slave but as a human being and he decided that, “alright, then, I’ll go to hell.” – This I Believe, 172 
 
 When I say things like this my Christian friends get very alarmed. Revealing yourself in your writing about this is one thing, but do you want to be on stages with it? So, I am not afraid, I was born to do this. “I know my Jesus, I love Him, and I think if he needed me to believe that homosexuality was a sin, He would have mentioned it.” 
 
 She added that she hoped that her coming out would help her three children, son Chase and daughters Tish and Amma, feel emboldened to be truthful with themselves and others. You talk about how hard you’ve worked together, how you stayed on your mats and didn’t run from each other. When Jesus said that marriage was between a man and a woman, he was responding to a question about divorce, not sexuality. The only words he ever wrote were in the sand. So, with humility, love (and a healthy dose of defensiveness on behalf of my heart and the hearts of my warrior sisters), I offer the following thoughts: 
 
 If I don’t mention something, it’s not because I forgot to. Maybe He wanted us to know him well enough to make our decisions about Him based on our relationship with Him. Maybe He wanted us to wrestle with Him, to work out our own faith with fear and trembling. You talk about how hard, how very brutal it’s all been for the two of you. Self-betrayal is allowing the fear voices to drown out the still, small voice that knows what to do and is always leading us home to ourselves and to truth and to love. Since you didn’t run, you discovered together that fight or flight aren’t the only options. And now I’m going to return that kind of love to you. And suddenly you know that. We are women who have become far too wise to believe in shame. “When Craig and I sat them down to tell them about Abby I started by saying: ‘In our family, we live and tell the truth about who we are no matter what, and then love each other through it — and I’m about to show you how that’s done,’ ” she wrote. Maybe we should all be required to pick an issue that requires US to change and not OTHERS to change. I never promised anybody I’d get it all right; I promised I’d keep showing up forever. If my news does that to you today, please look inside and get curious about whether those feelings have more to do with you and your life than they do about me and mine. You are like a snake trying to fit into old, dead skin, or a butterfly trying to crawl back into the cocoon, or new wine trying to pour itself back into an old wineskin. We’re gonna have to sponsor another revolution because for the gays, the times, they are a’ changing already. Gay people wrote to me by the hundreds to tell me that they read the post again and again, pretending that the letter was from their own parents. People are better than we give them credit for. Many people said that they agree that people are born gay, but that it is still a sin to act on it. His wife accepted this as the way he was being called to serve his God and his people. And I fear that when we suggest that homosexuals save themselves by choosing celibacy, that we insult both the gays and the celibates. I guess I have just always accepted the fact that we are put on this Earth to love. Nothing separates a woman or a family from God’s love. Jesus taught us that sometimes death is necessary for there to be new life. But homosexuality…I can’t see how a woman sharing her God given light with another woman interferes with her Loving Her God and Loving Her Neighbor. Please come close when I say this next part, it’s important: This next step is not a departure from the path of the Love Warrior. But you know what the Bible also says? I need you more than I’ve ever needed you. Hope and faith exist only to help us make it though this life. And I love my friends who are terrified for my soul when I write this way, without agenda. And so, even when it’s highly inconvenient – even when it feels CRAZY – I will listen to the voice, and I will obey it. A little busted up, but not destroyed. That you are whole, finally, and strong – but you are now a different shape, a different size. And then one day God sat my butt down with the Bible again. And the advice from many is: Wait, G. Just wait till after the book has launched to reveal this. And you understand that every bit of it was necessary and that every bit of it was holy,” she said. That’s all.” 
 
 Melton also shared a heartfelt message to her now-fiancée in honor of Valentine’s Day earlier this week. Try to avoid lamenting how sad it is that people “throw away their marriages these days.” Try not to generalize. The world will have opinions and I need this Love Warrior Army. There will be parts of this story I (try to) keep for myself and Craig and the kids. Melton wrote about meeting Gilbert, whom she now calls a friend, in a blog post last September. Listen, I even have a new friend who is a Dallas Cowboys fan. You sit in a therapist’s waiting room to discuss how to handle this with as much peace as possible for the kids. You did promise – back when you were putting yourself back together – that you’d never betray you again. we talk to each other in soft voices, and we smile and we say, “pass the wine, please,” and we ask about each other’s children. I pass a mug to you and ask you to sit down on the couch with me. You have family dinners, plan your family summer vacation together, and you look at each other and realize you’ve never loved each other more, bigger, truer.
– "Happy," is how soccer star Abby Wambach put it on Instagram, tacking on an #iseethemoonnow." The photo was one posted a day earlier on Facebook by prominent Christian mommy blogger Glennon Doyle Melton, who wrote "Abby and I decided to hold hands forever. Love wins." The image shows two hands, each featuring a diamond ring. The engagement announcement came just three months after Melton went public with her relationship with the 36-year-old, which came about three months after she announced she was separating from husband Craig Melton in a lengthy post on her Momastery blog. Wambach's own marriage unraveled following an April DUI arrest. People describes Melton as a long-time same-sex marriage supporter, and cites this 2013 post: "Figuring out my stance on homosexuality felt like a life and death decision. I know my Jesus, I love Him, and I think if he needed me to believe that homosexuality was a sin, He would have mentioned it." Melton has three kids—son Chase and daughters Tish and Amma—and People quotes her speaking on her own same-sex relationship. "When Craig and I sat them down to tell them about Abby I started by saying: 'In our family, we live and tell the truth about who we are no matter what, and then love each other through it—and I'm about to show you how that’s done.'"