However, they may choose to wait to have sex for a variety of reasons: it might not be feasible or appropriate, they want to make sure the person is respectful and kind, it’s against their religious beliefs, they only want to have sex in a romantic relationship, etc. They’re pioneers of an emerging sexual identity, one with its own nomenclature and subcategories of romance and desire, all revolving around the novel concept that having little to no interest in sex is itself a valid sexual orientation. For children and teens in school, there is a lot of talk about sex—what it’s like, what it’ll be like, etc. Asexuality is a sexual orientation in which one feels little to no sexual attraction or interest in sex (the former definition is more widely used, but some asexuals use the latter definition.  Starting in 1996, Alexa Internet has been donating their crawl data to the Internet Archive. Demisexuals are considered part of the asexual community because for the most part, they don’t feel sexual attraction. This becomes more prevalent as they approach college and early adulthood. Demisexuals often feel alienated by these conversations because they aren’t interested in sex, they don’t find people sexually attractive, or both. In one of Brotto’s studies, asexual women’s physical arousal responses were no different from other women’s. What is the emotional bond demisexuals need for sexual attraction? “Yeah, it’s just a television show … but this just doesn’t happen.” 
 
 If nothing else, demisexuals and their related subgroups show the rest of us, regardless of sexual orientation, that our version of love and relationships is still very limited, very 1.0. For some demisexuals, it’s after several years of being close friends with someone, and for others, it might be a short but intense experience, such as traveling abroad for a week with them.
– For some, sexual identity isn't about whom you find attractive, but whether you feel much attraction at all. In Wired, Kat McGowan suggests that our expanding understanding of sexuality may still have a long way to go. Asexual people are defined at the Asexual Visibility and Education Network as those "who do not experience sexual attraction." That support network, Wired reports, gave rise to the term "demisexual," which demisexuality.org defines as an "orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond." Then there are gray-asexuals, also known as "gray-aces," somewhere in between; their sexual desire level fluctuates, McGowan writes. Among those McGowan interviews, there are also varying degrees of nonsexual romantic feeling. Some are panromantic, with the potential to develop such feelings for anyone; others call themselves heteroromantic or aromantic. Though the labels exist, there's no need to get caught up in them, say those who use them: "Every single asexual I’ve met embraces fluidity—I might be gray or asexual or demisexual," says a 24-year-old. "Us aces are like: whatevs." It's unclear how common the experience is, with surveys putting the figure between 0.6% and 5.5% of the population. Its rarity means grappling with others' assumptions: "People ask, ‘Who hurt you?’" a student tells the Pitt News. "No one hurt me—this is just who I am." (The Internet offers a refuge to those who define themselves as asexual.)