The home, Glen St. Andrew Living Community in Niles, maintains that it did not discriminate against Wetzel and that her claims stem from “ongoing squabbles with an older male resident and a couple of isolated incidents with two elderly female residents.” The allegations do not merit a federal case under the Fair Housing Act, no matter how “cranky or offensive” the residents’ words have been, the home’s attorneys said. A federal judge last year dismissed Wetzel’s lawsuit, but a 7th U.S. Marsha Wetzel moved into a senior apartment complex in Niles, Illinois, after her partner of 30 years died and her partner's family evicted her from the home the couple shared. Even among those who have been called bullies, many are unaware how problematic their behavior is until it's labeled. They bickered regularly, and he began calling her “fruit loop” and a homophobic slur, they said. Other incidents included a woman allegedly telling Wetzel that “homosexuals will burn in hell” as she rammed her wheelchair into the dining table where Wetzel sat, upturning the table, court records show.
– Bullying doesn't end as we enter our golden years, apparently. The AP has uncovered incidents of cruelty at senior centers and housing complexes that highlight the surprising ways elderly people bully one another. "There's the clique system just like everywhere else," says Betsy Gran, who once ran a senior center in San Francisco. "It's like Mean Girls, but everyone is 80." Examples? One woman at a senior high-rise considers herself ruler of the parking garage and keys the cars of her enemies. Elsewhere, there are laundry rooms where detergent is stolen or clothing is tossed on the ground. And forget about Bingo rooms—new arrivals who happen to win may end up tormented by angry veterans. Some senior facilities are hosting anti-bullying programs, which at least teach people about the problem. Most senior bullying is about exclusion, rumors, and name-calling rather than physical violence, one expert says, and is perpetrated mainly by women—which highlights the changes in gender disparity as we age. Some seniors apparently bully others to overcome a feeling of lost control that comes with age. But that's little consolation to Marsha Wetzel of Niles, Illinois, who sued a senior apartment complex after she was bullied for being lesbian, the Chicago Tribune reports. "I'd just go in my room and barricade my door and just pray," says Wetzel, now 70. "I just felt like a slug, like I was nothing, like I wasn't even human."