And so one of the things that was so crazy to me about this research in these findings was that true belonging is not just about being a part of something, but also having the courage to stand alone when you're called to stand alone, when the joke's not funny, when you don't believe in something, when you have a different opinion, when you're at a family dinner and people are saying things that you actually find hurtful when you're called to stand alone and you can't, then true belonging is very elusive.
Una de las cosas que me chocó de la investigación en sus hallazgos, es que la verdadera pertenencia no es solo ser parte de algo, sino tener el coraje de estar solo, cuando tienes que estarlo. Cuando ya no tiene gracia, ya no crees en algo, tienes otra opinión, cuando estás en una cena familiar y dicen cosas que te parecen dañinas. Cuando tienes que estar solo y no puedes, la verdadera pertenencia es muy esquiva.