If possible, think of a specific circumstance in which your mate felt that your speech was hurtful. Do not be sidetracked by what you really said; the issue is how your spouse feels about what you said.
इस बात पर ध्यान देने के बजाए कि आपने क्या कहा था, इस बात पर ध्यान दीजिए कि उस समय आपके साथी को कैसा महसूस हुआ होगा ।