[转载]six secrets of high-energy people(转)
原文地址:six secrets of high-energy people(转)作者:新生活 there s an energy crisis in america, and it has nothing to do with fossil f els. millions of s get p each morning already weary over the day holds. "i j st can t get started." people say. b t it s not physical energy that most of s lack. s re, we co ld all se extra sleep and a better diet. b t in tr th, people are healthier today than at any time in history. i can almost g arantee that if yo long for more energy, the problem is not with yo r body. what yo re seeking is not physical energy. it s emotional energy. yet, sad to say life sometimes seems designed to exha st o r s pply. we work too hard. we have family obligations. we enco nter emergencies and personal crises. no wonder so many of s s ffer from emotional fatig e, a kind of tter exha stion of the spirit. and yet we all know people who are filled with joy, despite the npleasant circ mstances of their lives. even as a child i observed people who were poor or disabled or ill, b t who nonetheless faced life with optimism and vigor. consider la ra hillenbrand, who despite an extremely weak body wrote the best-seller seabisc it. hillenbrand barely had eno gh physical energy to drag herself o t of be to write. b t she was f eled by having a story she wanted to share. it was emotional energy that helped her s cceed. unlike physical energy, which is finite and diminishes with age, emotional energy is nlimited and has nothing to do with genes or pbringing. so how do yo get it？ yo can t simply tell yo rself to be positive. yo m st take action. here are six practical strategies that  something new. very little that s new occ rs in o r lives. the impact of this sameness on o r emotional energy is grad al, b t h ge: it s like a tire with a slow leak. yo don t it at first, b t event ally yo ll get a flat. it s p to yo to pl g the leak--even tho gh there are always a dozen reasons to stay st ck in yo r d ll ro tines of life. that s where ma ra, 36, a waitress, fo nd herself a year ago. fort nately, ma ra had a lifeline--a gro p of women friends who meet reg larly to disc ss their lives. their lively disc ssions sp rred ma ra to make small b t nevertheless life altering changes. she joined a gym in the next town. she changed her look with a short hairc t and new black t-shirts. event ally, ma ra gathered the co rage to q it her job and start her own b siness. here s a challenge: if it s something yo wo ldn t ordinarily do, do it. try a dish yo ve never eaten. listen to m sic yo d ordinarily t ne o t. yo ll discover these small things add to yo r emotional energy.2.reclaim life s meaning. so many of my patients tell me that their lives sed to have meaning, b t that somewhere along the line things went state. the first step in solving this meaning shore is to fig re o t what yo really care abo t, and then do something abo t it. a case in point is ivy, 57, a pioneer in investment banking. "i mistakenly believed that all the money i made wo ld mean something." she says. "b t i feel lost, like a 22-year-old wondering what to do with her life." ivy s sol tion？ she started a program that shows wall streeters how to donate time and money to poor children. in the process, ivy filled her life with meaning.3.p t yo rself in the f n zone. most of s grown- ps are serio sly f n-deprived. high-energy people have the same day-to-day work as the rest of s, b t they manage to find something enjoyable in every sit ation. a real estate broker i know keeps herself am sed on the job by mentally redecorating the ho ses she shows to clients. "i love imagining what even the most r n-down ho se co ld look like withy a little tender loving care," she says. "it s a challenge--and the least desirable properties are s ally the most f n." we all define f n differently, of co rse, b t i can g arantee this: if yo p t j st a bit of it into yo r day, yo energy will increase q  farewell to g ilt and regret. everyone s past is filled with regrets that still ca se pain. b t from an emotional energy point of view, they are dead weights that keep s from s from moving forward. while they can t merely be willed away, i do recommend yo remind yo rself that whatever happened is in the past, and nothing can change that. holding on to the memory only allows the damage to contin e into the present. 5.make p yo r mind. say yo ve been thinking abo t c tting yo r hair short. will it look stylish - or too extreme？ yo endlessly think it over. having the decision hanging over yo r head is a h ge energy drain. every time yo can t decide, yo b rden yo rself with alternatives. q it thinking that yo have to make the right decision； instead, make a choice and don t look back.6.give to get. emotional energy has a kind of magical q ality； the more yo give, the more yo get back.. this is the difference between emotional and physical energy. with the latter. yo have to get it to be able to give it. with the former, however, yo get it by giving it. start by asking everyone yo meet, "how are yo ？" as if yo really want to know, then listen to the reply. be the one who hears. most of s also need to smile more often. if yo don t smile at the person yo love first thing in the morning, yo re s cking energy o t of yo r relationship. finally, help another person-and make the help real, concrete. give a massage to someone yo love, or cook her dinner, then, expand the circle to work. try asking yo rself what yo d do if yo r goal were to be helpf l rather than efficient. after all, if it s tr e that what goes aro nd comes aro nd, why not make s re that what s circ lating aro nd yo is the good st ff？