十五招找回生活热情
感觉生活没有热情,所做的所有事都笼罩着一层暗灰色,了无生趣？ 是工作太空虚乏味？找不到生活的乐趣和刺激？你是否感到自己陷入困境却不知如何摆脱呢？ 生活热情不会平白无故从天而降,抑或浮现在稀薄的空气中。它是自我发现的过程,需要你真诚面对自己,仔细审查内心的"真我"。这个"真我"没有信仰限制,没有过去的伤疤,更没有自我为中心的追求和畏惧。 如果你希望从今天起,展现真实的自己找回对生活的热情,以下15招教你踏上转变之旅: 1. shift yo r thinking. if yo believe, like i did, that yo aren t great at something, or yo don t feel excited abo t anything and therefore have no passion - then release that notion. if yo believe that yo are too old, reject that falsehood. those are exc ses which will keep yo st ck. 1.转变思维。如果你像我曾经一样,认为自己做不好任何事或对任何事提不起劲儿而导致你失去热情,那马上摆脱这样的想法。你认为学新知识太迟？甩掉这些假话吧,它们是你让自己继续沦陷的借口罢了。 2. become aware of joy. get a small pocket notebook and keep it with yo . keep track of the times when yo feel happy and f lfilled. what are yo doing when yo feel good？ write it down in yo r notebook. pay attention to what feels good to yo . 2.留心发现快乐。随身携带一个小笔记本,记下当你感到快乐和满足时的每一刻。当你感觉开心时你正在做什么呢？用笔记下来,并且留意那些让你感到美好的事物。 3. pinpoint the major drag. what s ca sing yo the most fr stration？ yo r job？ a relationship？ yo r leis re time？ a general lack of p rpose？ isolate the primary ca se and the elements of it that bring yo down. 3.查明让你停滞不前的主要原因。是什么特别使你萎靡不振？工作？感情？你的闲暇时间？没有目标？将最主要的那个原因和其他次要原因分开写出来。 4. what were yo r dreams？ when yo were yo nger, or even now, what did yo dream of being, doing, achieving, discovering？ write those down in yo r notebook. dredge them p and reignite those dreams. 4.你曾经的梦想是什么？当你年少时或就是现在,你想成为什么人,做什么事,获得何种成就或者发现什么？努力回忆这些内容,将它们写在本子上,重新点燃你的梦想！ 5. acknowledge yo r skills. maybe yo aren t a virt oso at something, b t yo have many skills. yo may not recognize them as skills, b t others do. ask yo r friends and family what yo are good at - no matter how small. make a list of yo r skills, and make note of the skills yo really enjoy. 5.肯定自身的才能。或许你不是一名艺术鉴赏家,但你有许多其他才能。你可能没把那些看作是自己的一技之长,但其他人却恰恰相反。问问你的朋友家人你擅长什么-不管多么微不足道,将这些才能列成清单,并将自己所青睐的几个打上记号。 6. let go of sho lds. many people hold themselves back from happiness beca se of the word "sho ld." i sho ld stay in this job beca se i can t find a better one. i sho ld become a teacher beca se my parents want me to. i sho ld not try something new beca se i ll look foolish. dismiss this word from yo r vocab lary while on yo r passion search. 6.让"应该"的条条框框随风去。许多人由于"应该"要做什么而失去了自己的幸福感。我不可能再找到更好的工作所以我应该继续呆在原公司。我应该成为一名教师因为爸妈希望我这样。我不应该尝试新东西,那样看起来太傻了。将这个词从你的人生字典里甩掉,踏上寻找热情的旅途吧！ 7. try something new. anything. go for a weekend trip to a new location. take a class on bird watching or painting or dancing. strike p a conversation with someone yo don t know well. shake p yo r life a bit. peep o t past yo r c rrent existence. it will broaden yo r perspective. 7.尝试新事物。任何新的事物。周末去陌生地点旅游,报名观鸟、绘画或舞蹈课程,和不太熟的朋友聊天等等。从点滴激发你的生活乐趣,让你的存在感慢慢显露。它将会开拓你的视野。 8. be a voye r. investigate someone else who is living an amazing, passionate life. these are all reg lar people who have learned how to live passionate, advent ro s lives. 8.做个生活"偷窥家"。留心观察那些对生活充满激情的人,他们都是懂得如何将生活变得生机勃勃并富有创造力的聪明人。 9. unlock yo r past. if yo have something holding yo back, an old tra ma or past anger, do something abo t it, or yo will ndermine yo r efforts at passionate living. how can yo live with passion when yo have a hole in yo r heart？ go to a co nselor or other helping professional and heal the past so yo can create yo r f t re. 9.对过去敞开心扉。若过去的创伤或愤怒阻止你向前,一定要采取措施面对,否则这些过往会一点点破坏你充满激情的生活。试想,当你的心有空洞时你怎能积极地生活呢？让咨询师或心理专家帮助你治愈你的过往吧,你将会创造属于自己的未来。 10. define yo r val es. what is important to yo ？ what val es define yo ？ yo r passion m st be centered aro nd yo r primary val es so that yo r life reflects who yo are. 10.认清你的价值。什么是你认为最重要,最有价值的？你的热情必须围绕着你最在乎的东西,从而可以通过生活发现自己究竟是谁。 11. sketch o t a vision. it s two years down the road. who are yo now？ what are yo doing？ start sketching a vision for yo rself, as tho gh yo have no limitations on who yo can be or what yo can do. j st pretend for now. 11.拟定一个大致目标。将目标期望实现时间定为两年。现在你是谁？正在做什么？开始为自己拟一个计划吧。你可以成为什么样的人,你可以做什么,一切都可以随意发挥。从现在开始假设。 12. research. start to create a little c riosity and interest in possibilities. look online at other careers, or advent ro s travel, or classes in basket weaving. 12.钻研。培养对可能实现的事情的兴趣和好奇心。上网找找其他可发展的事业,尝试冒险的旅行或参加竹篮编织家政课等都是不错的途径。 13. consider an ed cation boost. yo don t have to go back to get yo r mba to change careers. there are many certification programs that train yo to begin something brand new.if yo have the time and money, then go for the mba！ 13.考虑学业进修。你不必出于事业考虑而专门重返校园拿mba证书-除非你有足够的时间和资金。现在有许多证书培训课程就是为想改头换面的你而设置的。 14. weigh yo r priorities. money is often the factor that holds people back from their dreams. if i had to choose between a lot of money b t living in mediocrity or living with less money b t feeling happy and f lfilled - i wo ld choose the latter. how abo t yo ？ if so, decide the least amo nt of money yo and yo r family co ld live on, and work from there. yo might have to move, scale back, live lean. is it worth it to yo ？ 14.分清优先级。金钱总是最阻碍人们实现梦想的因素。如果要在"活得平庸却有很多钱"和"钱少点但却充实快乐"中选择,我会选择后者。你呢？如果你也是,那么就从能支撑你和你家庭最基本的钱开始努力吧！你可能会搬家,节衣缩食,深居简出,你认为那样值得吗？ 15. keep trying. the process of finding my passion took a co ple of years. yo may have to try a few and eliminate a few things before yo discover what feels great. it may creep p on yo rather than knocking yo in the head. have patience. keep digging. 15.坚持不松懈。找回热情的过程花了我几年的时间。在途中你可能不得不尝试一些,又放弃一些,直到你找到真正使你满意的东西。热情只会缓慢降临在你身边而不会突然出现。你得有耐心,一直挖掘下去吧！ yo do have a passion, b t yo can t wait for it to come to yo . yo have to go find it. act ally, yo have to ncover it beca se it s already with yo . 其实你本来拥有热情,但你不能只是坐着等待它的降临,它需要你努力去寻找。事实上,它已经在你身边了,只等着你去发现。