"She grows up, and of course mixes with those who are less interested: strangers will be sincere; she encounters the tongue of the flatterer, he will exaggerate, she finds herself possessed of accomplishments which have been studiously concealed from her, she throws the reins upon the neck of fancy, and gives every encomiast full credit for his most extravagant eulogy."
Desultory Thoughts upon the Utility of Encouraging  a Degree of Self-Complacency, especially in Female Bosoms
Judith Sargent Murray, " Degree of Self-Complacency" in <u>Gentleman and Lady's Town & Country Magazine</u> (October 1784): 251-53.  &lt;<a href="http://www.jsmsociety.com/Desultory_Thoughts.html">Online edition by Bonnie Hurd Smith</a>&gt;