Welcome to the get naked podcast a show where we explore one beautiful question. What would life really be? Like if we just got naked? I'm your host Taylor Lane, and I'm here to discover the answers right along with you. We are about to strip off anything and everything that keeps you from being you it's time to shine. It's time to rise and it's time to shed because who we truly are inside is yearning to come out. We just have to give ourselves the permission. Well consider this permission slip signed ready. Let's get naked. Today's message is permission to be a paradox a paradox, of course referring to something that is contradicting. It can be a person a situation a statement. A paradox is something that doesn't quite match up all the way it contradicts itself. Now why in the hell would I be giving you permission to be a paradox? Well, I was listening to a sermon by Bishop TD. Jakes shout out. I've been on his content lately and it is very very enlivening. I'll say that and I was listening to this sermon and I got out my oracle cards because I was moved to a place of wanting my own inner guidance. While I was listening to this powerful sermon and as I was reading out the Oracle deck. The irony hit me. And I thought wow this must seem really contradictory to some people if they were watching me right now. And this is too spiritual worlds colliding. This is an oracle deck of cards and a sermon being preached in a church that I'm watching on YouTube and these two spiritual worlds are colliding right here on my couch just because I desire to experience Both just because I desire it. We're going to go over that today. My life is a huge Paradox. And today I want to give you permission. I want to lead you to give yourself permission to be a paradox. Are you ready? Let's do it. It is your Birthright to lead a Life by nothing else, but your desires. Did you hear that? It is your Birthright to lead a Life by nothing else, but your desires so why do we do this thing where we want to belong to a certain style of Life? Why do we need our lifestyle to fit into a certain tag or category or hashtag? Is it for validation? Is it for a sense of belonging is it so that we can follow a path that has already been traveled by already carved out and those people have gotten to success. So we need to take the same path instead of carving out our own path because it's less risky. is it because of the fear of rejection and the fear of judgment and the fear of not doing everything perfectly according to somebody and usually that somebody is someone we don't even need an opinion from I'm here to give you all of that validation that you seek. I'm here to tell you you belong. I'm here to give you the absolute confidence that you need to carve your own path in life because honestly, I believe it is my personal belief that if we all did that if we truly were who we wanted to be we would not be wasting so much time tearing each other down. So I Want To Praise Your Paradox right now. I want you to remember that you can praise yourself for your paradoxal lifestyle any day in fact all day and every day if you need to but right now I want to praise you so that you can hear from somebody who believes in you that it is all right to live a paradoxical lifestyle. So raise your hand if you eat at the least amount of meat possible, but still enjoy meet once in a while raise your hand it is. Okay, raise your hand if you Instagram, this is me, if you Instagram almost every single meal on your stories, but you keep the meaningful details of your life completely private raise your hand if you budge it like a badass boss. And you still have the most abundant Financial Minds that possible raise your hand. If you rely only on yourself to make your dreams come true and you still pray to God at night. Raise your hand if you follow the lunar cycle. But you do not let these General horoscopes tell you how your month is going to go. I praise you for your paradoxal lifestyle. I celebrate it. It is your life. Nobody else has. And I want you to start praising yourself. I want you to start celebrating every aspect of your life as well because that's the permission to be who you truly want to be. That's what you're seeking that prays that validation that confidence you can give it to yourself. Let me go one step further. I really want this message to hit home and land in some hearts today because it is so freaking important. If you're hiding any part of you that is not living up to the image that you put out there. If you're secretive about the things you truly enjoy when you are around certain people. If you hold back the juiciest parts of yourself for fear of being judged by air quotes your community, then it is time to adjust the standards of what you consider to be community. and you might not want to hear that right now, but you need to Your community is not Instagram. I'm sorry. It's not. Your community is not who likes your photos and who gives you reactions on your story. That is not your community. Your community is not your naysayers. It's not your judgers. It's not the friends who do not let you be you. And in fact, it is not the people that you respect and admire but make you feel bad for the fact that you dance to the beat of your own drum. So even your coaches and even your mentors if they do not give you the confidence. To be yourself. They are not your community if they want you to fall in line follow a program do what they say will take you from where you are right now to the goal. You want to achieve and there is no room for being yourself. They are not your community. It's time to adjust your standards for what you consider to be your community and I don't care what community it is. Whether it's the fitness Community the spiritual Community the coaching Community the religious community that you belong to. The fashion blogger Community. It doesn't matter the digital Nomad Community. It's time to start walking your own path. And your real Community will show up. Just popping in here to quickly let you in on a big secret. I've teamed up with two dear friends of mine Hannah and Madison to create an incredible Community for women like you it's called the inner Bloom Sisterhood, and I'm so excited to announce that it's finally open to join the inner Bloom Sisterhood is a safe space for women to discover their truth come together for support of conversation. No judgments and learn from the wisdom. Gifts of other talented sisters, I know so fun by attending our virtual women circles engaging in our private online form of exciting topics and my personal favorite experimenting with empowering lifestyle choices. We can bloom into who we are truly meant to be keep living sister now back to the episode. The world of Instagram would have us believe that once you start doing meditation you all the sudden have to sign up for a yoga teacher training. You gotta do it mandatory. If you haven't done a yoga teacher training you haven't lived you can't just dabble in meditation. You have to pay thousands of dollars and go to a tropical location to do a yoga teacher training or else you're really not on the meditation path. The social media world has us all thinking that if we do something healthy, like if we have celery juice for breakfast, we can't also eat Chinese takeout. Nope, not allowed just because we are body-positive doesn't mean we also can't care about our figures for those of you who are body positive confident in your own skin. Never let anyone tell you. That you should not be focusing on your nutrition. You can focus on both you can want Improvement of your shape. And still love your body. Just because I am a life coach does not mean that I have to run my business on Facebook. My peers would have me believe otherwise my quote unquote community. Made me feel otherwise. But guess what? I started walking my own path and my real Community showed up. Just because I no longer ascribe to the Catholic Church's Traditions that I grew up in doesn't mean I can't enjoy a Sunday sermon on YouTube. I'm loving TD Jakes. His messages are Universal their modern. They hit me in the heart. They inspire me to be me and not give up. and I don't have to hide that from people who don't believe in their Catholic Traditions that they grew up in because I no longer do either and just because they're going to look at me and say Oh, I thought that you were announced those Traditions that you came from. I thought you didn't go to church anymore. I thought you found your own path of spirituality. Yeah. I did. It's called doing what makes me feel Connected To Source. Okay, I'm not following any rule book from the ex-catholic. You know rules of of Life of being a millennial who chose not to follow. the religion that they grew up in I won't do it. And I want you to carve your own path no matter where you came from just because you've been doing something doesn't mean you can't do something else and still have value. Okay. now Let's assume you don't have to answer to your community because you've raised your standards for who you consider to be in your circle and assume that you actually don't have to answer to anyone but yourself. Because ain't that the truth you do not have to answer to anyone else but yourself and when you start giving yourself permission to be a paradox, your true path will unfold in front of you. That's what this whole podcast is about. It's about signing your own permission. Slip When you do watch everything around you start to shift. That's why I'm so passionate about this topic. It is the key to almost every single thing that you desire. The key that opens that door to all that you desire is your commitment to getting naked and not following anything that you used to believe as true. What Instagram would have you believe is true what they told you the rules are what you may be told yourself. The rules are for your life at one point. What Society has told you what your parents have told you what your new friends have told you. Your yoga studio has told you none of it matters your commitment. And your courage to be able to carve your own path? No matter what type of person you consider yourself to be is the key that unlocks the door to all that you desire. so I want you to give yourself permission. I want you to give yourself so much permission that you could go spend a gigantic amount of money on whatever material thing. You really want to have because it does not make you any less spiritual to have possessions that you enjoy. I want you to go ahead and dress yourself to the nines full face of makeup because it does not make you any less confident in your natural skin. You don't have to choose between a life of Purity and sobriety. And being a steady drinker. Because you get to be you. Do dry months when it calls to you when you want to purify your system and your spirit and you've been drinking too much sure do it. But if you really love wine be a freaking wine connoisseur. Love it. Don't let anyone tell you including me who is on my own path of sobriety. I'm doing one year of sobriety from from no drinking so that I can redefine my relationship with alcohol. Okay, that doesn't mean that that is the one way to make sure that you have a healthy relationship with alcohol. That's just my way. So I want you to give yourself permission even though every spiritual person that you follow is coming out of the woodwork saying I don't drink drinking's bad for you. I won't compromise my spiritual life so I can have drinks with my friends. I won't go to events anymore that include alcohol. Whoa, ask yourself. Okay, ask yourself what feels good and what makes sense? This is a big one. You can be feminist AF and really really feminine just because you are a strong believer and even a thought leader. If you want to be in the feminist movement does not mean that you cannot have a feminine lifestyle and do feminine activities. and put your feminine energy first if you want to Do it if you want to shave your body head to toe and get waxed because that's what makes you feel amazing. It doesn't mean that you have to hide that from the feminist Community, like only people with with hair all over their body get to be feminists. That's not true. For the cacao drinking Community fine drink your cacao, but if you are the person who wants to have cacao when you want to have it, but daily, you're going to Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks because that is your jam and you just want a coffee with milk and sugar or whatever flavor you want do it. Have we really gotten to a point where we're afraid to love a certain source of caffeine. Because it might be judged by others in our again quote-unquote Community because people might call you a poser something. The only real posing that is going on is when you try to be one category one type of person belong to a certain script of of somebody who's not you when you try to follow the rules of being spiritual of being a female entrepreneur of being a coach of being a fit person. Anybody trying to be somebody they're not I'm talking to you. Don't dilute who you are to fit the script. Write your own script. Put some sugar in your coffee put some rap music in your ears if you want. Put on some high heels and go dance at the salsa club. If that's who you are, don't hold back people are missing out on all of you because you're trying to decide which parts of you fit. With the expectations of other people in your community in your group in your type of people. Especially when you start walking a path, that's kind of new if you start walking a spiritual path all of a sudden you're like, I got to get a crystal why. If you really want to but is it because we are so inundated with images and styles and morals that come from other people. Social media is a place where you can be creative and be yourself and put yourself on blast. unfortunately the way that we usually consume it not all of us and not all the time. But unfortunately the way that we have been consuming it has diluted. the uniqueness of everyone But listen, you are incredible. You are the whole package don't serve people. Just what's in the outer box of packaging that you would like to show to the world. Give people your layers. Here's what I believe. God did not put us here so that we could try to fit into a category. That makes us feel like we belong on this Earth. God put us here so that we could remember that. We belong only to Infinite Source. That humanity is only a playground. That we are blessed beyond belief no matter what kind of situation we are in that we will always belong to the Divine as long as we are breathing as a human we belong because we chose to be here. We don't need to belong to any one category here on Earth. No, we do not. You get to decide who you are in this life. Following the rules set up by others will never lead you to feeling like yourself and finding out who you truly are and that's when life really starts. I heard that in a another sermon by TD Jakes. He said life does not start when you come out of the womb of your mother Life starts when you find yourself. The path must be carved by you by your desires by your life lessons by your unique perspective by your choices. So I want to give you permission right now to be a paradox if you are celebrate your uniqueness. That's what colors this big beautiful world. Be grateful for your ability to choose. Don't waste that ability on trying to be 100% a certain person a certain title a certain type of being walking this Earth be a paradox if you are pick and choose what lights you up. That's the message today, and I hope it home. It is your Birthright to lead a Life by nothing else, but your desires. the question is will you? If you love this podcast and you're so into the content that I am pumping out on every episode. I have such good news for you. You can ask me a question and I will answer it in our naked advice section of this podcast, you might even inspire a whole episode dedicated to answering your question. So I'll tell you what to do. You can do it right on your phone right now hit subscribe to this podcast and then go leave a five-star. To take a screenshot of that review and email it to Taylor at remote like me.com. That's Taylor act remote like me.com. We will get back to you with a chance to ask your question on this podcast and you're damn right? I will give you some naked advice.
It's time for the first new episode of the week! Check back in every single Thursday for naked wisdom from Taylor. Today I'm excited to give you PERMISSION to be a PARADOX. This short, powerful episode is for everyone who has diluted themselves in order to fit into a certain identity. In this episode I discuss:  - It is your birth right to lead a life by nothing else but your desires. - Do you seek belonging and validation from certain groups of people? - If you feel the need to hold back the juicy parts of yourself for fear of being judged by your “community”…  - Are you trying to fit the role of a spiritual person? Fit person? Influencer? Feminist? Or are you being YOU? - Don’t dilute who you are to fit somebody else’s script! Write your own. - How to be who you truly are to fulfill your purpose on Earth. Want Naked Advice from me on the next episode? Submit your question by emailing a screenshot of your 5 star review to taylor@remotelikeme.com or DM me on Instagram @taylor.elizabethlane and I'll answer you with my best naked advice on an episode in the near future. You could inspire an entire episode from your question! **This episode is sponsored by my passion project: Innerbloom Sisterhood. Start your 7 day free trial TODAY! 