One day a boy was bathing in the river and he got out of his depth went too deep too far into the river and he started to drown as he was drowning. He started yelling and screaming for help. Please somebody help me. I'm drowning. He said and the man traveling down the road heard his cry for help. So the man went down to the river. He saw the boy drowning and he said to him, how could you be so stupid to go so deep? You're going to drown and the boy answered help me first scold me later. Now. This is a very very powerful lesson because so many times someone just needs a little bit of help. But what we tend to do is preach advice. Tell them that I told you so because we know better we are superior we knew that this would happen. We are already ahead of them, right we are above them and we're talking down to them. Is there struggling they're in trouble remember this one day you'll need some help you'll want somebody to pull you up to be there to lean on the shoulder to cry on some support somebody to actually hear you out. Listen to your problems and be there for you and at that point you're not going to want advice. You're not going to want them to tell you that they know better or that you should have done this that or the other or if only you would have had the foresight you. Wouldn't be in this situation in the first place at that point. You just want a helping hand. The lesson can come afterwards after you help the person you can tell you can teach them you can preach to them. That's fine because at that point you've already supported them and they've learned their lesson they're willing to listen, but if you try to push if you try to force advice down someone's throat, the only thing that will happen, is there gag free. flexible kick in and they'll throw it right back up at you don't give advice when someone needs help be there for them support them do something to actually help them actions are so much greater than words and it's so easy to get caught and telling and not doing
I share with you the importance of supporting someone when they need help rather than preach to them. S U B S C R I B E : https://www.youtube.com/user/RafaelEliassen?sub_confirmation=1  Coaching with Rafael: https://www.rafaeleliassen.com/coaching  #StoryTelling #SharingAStory #StopPreaching #PracticeWhatYouPreach #GivingAdvice #Support #Supporting #StrugglingInLife #GetHelp #NeedHelp? #IamHereForYou #SelfImprovement #PersonalDevelopment #Motivation #SelfHelp #Motivational #MotivationalSpeech #MotivationalSpeaker  What is often preached but rarely practiced? A boy was bathing in a river and got out of his depth, and was in great danger of being drowned. A man who was passing along a road heard his cries for help, and went down to the riverside and began to scold him for being so careless as to get into deep water, but made no attempt to help him. "Oh, sir" cried the boy "please help me first and scold me afterward." The man represents all of us. All of us who are ready to give advice and opinions to people who are struggling. We tend to look down on them to satisfy our ego. We put them down and say “Look how they are struggling” then smack some smug advice in their face. People who are struggling need your help, not your advice. It’s no wonder that depression and anxiety rates are through the roof. And why wouldn’t they be? Why would people open up? If all they are going to get is judgment. Let’s just try to understand people who are struggling. Even by just trying and listening to them, you might just give them the support they needed. 