Well, hello there. Thank you very much for joining me. My name is De courcey Williams and this is the uplifting words podcast and I want to thank each and every one of you listening to the sound of my voice right now. I hope everyone's having a wonderful day. I hope everyone's having a wonderful month so far and I know there's been a lots of news that we could draw on that could possibly change that sediment.but the amazing Spirit of this country and the people that really shine in times of adversity like this and if you don't know what I'm talking about, I'm talking about the incidence of violence that we have seen over the last week or so, man. I mean, I don't know what can be done about this. I don't know the steps that can be taken. I don't think somebody going to Starbucks to get their latte with an AK-47 or whatever machine gun strapped to their back is the answer. I don't know. Gun laws. I don't know if they're going to work because the people that break the laws they're obviously not concerned with gun laws. So there's that. I don't know man. We just need more compassion and our society and just less hate. I mean, that's it. I mean looking at someone because of what the color of their skin or the way that their eyes are shaped or the texture of their hair in like hating a person based on that is absolutely ridiculous to me. And I have no idea how to fix it. So what I want to do in this episode is talk about something that I heard from Tony Robbins a little while back. He called it the six human needs. I like to title it why we do what we do. now this list is in no way going to try to explain away what's going on what's been going on in our society with this gun violence, but maybe maybe it might give a little insight as to why certain people do what they do and maybe even what's driving them because I don't think it's pure hatred. I mean yeah hatred has a lot to do with it. But to me, it doesn't make sense. That one human being can hates another human being based on outward appearances. So and I'm this is probably my way of trying to make sense of all this in my mind, which is why I'm bringing this to this episode of the podcast because it doesn't make sense to me and I don't know how to fix it and it seems nobody in Washington knows how to fix it because nobody knows what the answer is. So with that being said, if you've been listening to the podcast for any amount of time, you know that I'm on this journey of self development and I seek out a lot of books. Send podcasts and videos from other people to help keep me motivated and also to try to give you a little insight into human psychology a little bit. So I remember this video that Tony Robbins did like a little while ago man. It was he was doing one of his events and he talked about the six human needs and when he talked about it man hit me like a ton of bricks it was so I mean, I can't even describe. It was like a light went off in my head and I started to look at people in a different way probably with a little bit more compassion to try to try and explain away why people do certain things that they do? Now I'm going to try to relay that here and I hope that you too will be able to use it to look at somebody else and maybe have a little more compassion or at least see where they might be coming from instead of just looking at somebody that's doing something and you just think that they're stupid try and take that time to actually put yourself in their shoes and maybe get a little inside of where they're coming from. Maybe we won't be so judgmental of each other and be so angry with each other all the time. So a couple of tidbits about these needs these are actual needs. These are not once people are going to go after these needs whether it's beneficial to them or not. Sometimes as we've seen people will abandon their morals and their values in order to get their needs met. Now, the needs themselves, they are either positive neutral or negative and the way that we pursue them and a lot of times people get their needs fulfilled in the here and now and are not normally concerned with long-term consequences and everybody values these needs on different levels. And this is where the Human Experience comes in because That values one certain need higher than somebody else. That's when they take the actions to get that need filled that might seem stupid or foolish to somebody else. So just keep in mind though while you're looking at somebody else thinking that they're foolish the things that your the needs that you were fulfilling yourself. There's somebody watching you too and thinking white. Wow, that person's crazy, too. So keep in mind. So here's the first one. The first one is the need for certainty. We feel we feel that we need to have this level of comfort and certainty brings us that a lot of times a certainty is not even real that could be like a false sense of certainty, but this could explain why people stay in certain relationships that are not beneficial to them or why people stay at jobs that they hate or when we see something that we've already done and we already know the outcome. Not going to be a favorable one, but we do it. Anyway, that's that need to be certain because we already know what the outcomes going to be. Now. The need for certainty is supposed to help us to avoid pain and be comfortable but often times it just leads us into more pain. Now, how do we get this need for certainty? Some people try to control others some people give up some people turn the smoking or drugs being human. Sometimes people realize that they get anything that they want to make them feel certain and then they get bored out of their minds. So that leads me to the next need which is the need for uncertainty. We need the surprise and that excitement, you know, the saying goes variety is the spice of life and it is a lot of times people really do like surprises even if they say they don't that feeling that surged at pitter-patter and the harder that that that dopamine hit or whatever it is that That comes from the surprise. We need that in our lives a small example. It might seem a little foolish but people watch the same movie or TV show that they've seen before now a lot of times this does this takes care of two needs. We're certain that it's good because we've already seen it in our minds. We hope it's been enough time has passed since we last saw it and maybe we'll see something that we forgot. So that takes care of the need for uncertainty 2 So here's the big one number three the need to be significant. People need to feel special they need to feel like they belong anyone can tell you when they don't feel appreciated and it drives some people nuts. You see people fulfill this need all the time, either they make a whole bunch of money, or maybe they get super spiritual or maybe they buy lots of material things. Maybe they go out and have toxic relationships with people that's not going to do them any good whether they be very romantic or not. now I can't say that this explains this uptick in violence that we've seen in the last couple of weeks or months, but one example, that is given People that kind of want to go to a place and shoot up innocent people. I think now this is just me I could be wrong, but I think that they kind of get Juiced up on that feeling because if they go pull out a gun and start shooting they're certain that they're going to get a response even if they don't know what their response is going to be. And that's the uncertain part of it because they're not sure what's going to happen. You might create that thrilling experience for them and all of this horror. And then the significance because they go from being that non-existent. Nobody to being the most important person to whoever is watching or witnessing this horror. So not trying to say that that's a valid explanation for why these shootings have happened or like the stabbing rampage that went on. It's just people need to feel important and they'll go to where they feel significant which is why even if the government shuts somehow shuts down the website where people were were kind of gathering and sharing all of their their their hate and their their their Heels, what was it eight Chan or two channel, whatever it was. They can shut that down. But another website will pop up the next day and those followers are just migrated over to that next one. So many people are going to find out how to feel important to me. That's a big one. That's for me why people do a lot of the things that they do because they want to feel important. So with that I'm going to take a quick break man, and I'll be right back. I'll give you the nest rest of the needs in my trying to make sense of this madness that's going on these days. So I'll be right back. 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And people go about getting what they believe in love or what they believe is love and very strange ways first off in most instances people settle for connections because love is too scary. They've been hurt before they don't want to put themselves out there again, and they'll protect themselves by just settling for connections that in itself creates tension for some people because your spirit knows that what's going on is not love. But in our minds will try to talk it down will try to justify it and will try to block out what we really need a couple of examples of being a generous Giver that can fill that need of significance and the need for connection. Some people no more Sports facts than other people for that significance. Or they learn to create big problems and always seem to need help that can feel the need of significance and connection. Also once you start to keep an eye on certain people though, you'll start to notice patterns that form and you'll begin to get that people are driven by the first four needs without even thinking that they're doing it. Now, the first four needs the need for certainty the need for uncertainty the need to be significant and the need for connection and love these are the basic needs of everyone. Don't lead to True fulfillment the true meaning and purpose and people's lives are normally found in these last two needs V need is the need for growth. What's that old saying if you're not growing you're dying progress equals happiness, every time that you achieve something if you don't have the nest asked lined up the law familiarity sets in and that ultimately leads to unhappiness. Sometimes you'll see people who just can't sit around and do nothing. I don't my father's one of them after working at the post office for as long as I've been born for like 30 plus years he retired but then he started to do a whole bunch of odd jobs around the house. And I'm not talking about like little small repainting a room job. I'm talking about he redid the kitchen. He painted the entire outside of the house painted the shutters. They took carpet off of the stairs leading to the upstairs and made that hardwood floor. I mean, he's just kind of just gone on this spree because he doesn't want to sit around and not do anything. He's bored. In other words some people they like to do different things every day. Now this can work in the in the wonderful way to I know if some parents that challenge their kids at a very young age to go out and do something that they've never done before. There's a story. I remember hearing about this man who was teaching who is raising his kids and he always told his kids to go out every day and do something that scares the hell out of you and I'm not talking about life-threatening scare. I'm talking about Being that forces you to stretch when you force yourself to stretch you will your psyche will accommodate and grow and that's what we need and that father recognized that so as little kids. We're not hindered by like the negative thoughts and the emotions that us as adults are plagued with But as time goes on we learn the things that we shouldn't do or things that people tell us or examples of things that we see on TV. The orange social media and as life continues to go on we lose our fearlessness a lot of adults have been mentally and emotionally beaten into submission and we tend to fall into the day-to-day pattern of living at that point. We give up on growing. I know this is particularly tough one for pint for some people. I've heard Jim Rohn say look at situations in life as with the eyes of a child for me. I think that means to look at things if you're seeing it for the first Time if you've done it over and over you might see something that you've never noticed before. So we need to grow. The six need is the need for contribution. Now leaving a legacy of something that we should all aspire to do leaving something Beyond ourselves letting the world know that we were here and we made a difference and that you stood for something no matter if you made millions and millions of dollars and had all the material possessions, you could ever want us as human beings. We can only feel so much by ourselves. There comes a point when we need to share that with somebody else. The best way to do that is to build up something that can be left behind after. Gone, and I mean a positive Legacy many people believe that having lots of money as a life-changing situation. I choose to believe that money is just a magnifier. It really only reveals who people really are now if you're not a generous person money will only intensify that I've never lived by The Credo that money is the root of all evil. I've always flipped it a little bit and thought that people's love of money is the root of all evil money is just a tool just like your laptop or your cell phone or anything else that you use around anywhere. It's just a tool people miss out on the true. Joy and happiness that comes from being a given per a giving person and there's no other feeling like it on the planet. So there you have it the six human needs or what? I like to try to call them is the why we do what we do. So, I hope that you'll go out in the world and start to see people in a different lights and try to understand that people are driven by something. Even if it doesn't make sense to you hopefully will also stop being so judgmental and start to have understanding of other people no matter where they come from no matter what they look like. their skin color or whatever So the question the question is not if people are going to meet their needs. It's really more of a question of how they're going to meet them and if it's going to be empowering or if it's going to be hurtful. Is it going to be obtainable and sustainable because you know willpower never last? So if your actions meet at least three of your needs then the ashes become effortless. And if your actions also meet just three of your needs you can become addicted to those actions very very quickly. So on top of using it to kind of look at other people and how they interacted with the world around us. Look at yourself because really that's the only thing that you can control you can control how you see things how you view things and you can control how you put it back out in the world. So I hope you got some value from these these six special needs or these. Excu man needs and yeah, man, like I don't know what to do about what's going on in the country. I really don't I really wish I had answers. The only answer that I have is compassion more compassion people. We need more compassion. I don't know man. Maybe when you all need to turn off our local news network, no matter which one it is and go out and just experienced people. And the real way experience different cultures cultures and the way that people live. I mean a lot of people a lot of us, we don't travel outside of our home Cities A lot of times. I mean this was a growing number of people that just stay in one place. They never go venture out. The only information that they have about other cultures is from whatever new source that they decide to subscribe to and that's how they base their opinions on everything and everybody. so I really pray for more compassion more love for this country. Please share this out. If you if you feel that there's somebody that needs this information this six human needs as described by Tony Robbins, and I hope you all continue to have a good week and a good month. And yeah, man, let's be more compassionate to one another y'all because I believe that's the answer. So thank you very much for joining me and I'll see you. In the next one. Don't forget subscribe. If you want to leave a comment, please do man I love to hear from you guys. And if you also want to become a donor you can do that through the anchor app. So if you're listening to this on one anchor, please consider doing that and I'll talk to you guys in the next one.
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