How do you create the perfect relationship? How do you finally make your partnership and to something truly special something where you're both thriving really enjoying yourselves and having a great time and actually fully connecting instead of constantly fighting feeling upset frustrated with each other. You know, how do you how do you make your relationship really good one simple tip that I'm going to share with you that really worked for me. Get it all out in the open full transparency full honesty. Probably one of the hardest things to do, but it has the biggest payoff the moment that you and your partner put everything out on the table all the cards completely transparent with each other tell each other exactly how you feel exactly. What's going on. What issues what thou Falls you have? But also what you're great at them what you love. About yourself and the other person you put that all out and you just get clear yet on the skit transparence. It becomes easy to make improvements. I've worked for quite a few years now as a coach and the biggest thing that I realized as I can't help my clients if they're not honest with me, right if they hide something if they try to pretend like they're better off than they are have to try to make me see them in a good light. Try to impress me and never works because they're holding stuff back. They're hiding it and it makes it almost impossible to really make any real Improvement. Well, guess what the same thing goes in our personal relationships. If you're not fully honest if you're not transparent if you're not sharing what's on your heart, it's very difficult for the other person to make things better for you. It's almost impossible because they're playing a guessing game. They're trying to read you and it's very difficult. You know, you're not the other person. You can't read their mind, even if you've been together for a long time. You don't know exactly what they're thinking or what they're feeling you can get a idea but it's difficult and constantly having to do that is like a full-time job, but you see once you really tell each other the truth once you share vulnerably Apparently it's easy if you can both do that and be there for each other and listen fully with your heart and not your head not with your ego then all of a sudden everything opens up. It becomes almost effortless to communicate love flows back and forward and the relationship grows rapidly drastically because you're investing in each other maybe for the first time ever you see most relationships start off. Really good at first, you know, there's a lot of passion. There's that spark you're both in love, you know hormones are going crazy. You're like, oh, yeah, and then it just kind of dwindles down slowly the passion just disappears all of a sudden you don't care about each other as much you don't try as hard for each other. I've been in a relationship now for Over five years and the fun thing is it's gotten better every single month the passion increases there's constantly that spark better than even when it's started which is shocking to people and they think that you know, maybe I've only been in this relationship for a month or two since it's so exciting and it seems like it's always new. It's not new. It's just really well connected. That's what happens when you get to interdependence. That's what happens when you get clear and honest and you search Eric truly honestly without fear and holding back if you can be vulnerable with the other person and let them be vulnerable with you and create a space for that. Beautiful things happen. It becomes easy to connect with each other and even if you go through hard times, even if something goes wrong, You always know you're going to be together. You handle it together. You get through it you help each other sometimes maybe you heard each other but you have each other's backs. And because you're so honest because you're so real. There's no place to hide. And so if you're hurting and you're upset, you put it out there. You don't lock up and retract and hide and pretend like everything is okay. Oh, how are you today, babe? Line, yeah, I'm fine. No, you're not fine. It's the worst thing. I see in couples and marriages at this pretend like everything is okay and get on with it and it just kills the attraction. It kills a good energy. It kills the love. It's a parasite. And people don't notice it because it's fine. It's not fine. Get it all out there better to have a real a little fight be honest then to sit there quietly and pretend like everything is okay get it out. You're inside. Stop letting it eat you up from in here share it put it on the table and make a commitment to resolve. It. Don't give up on each other. You might say some bad things. Maybe it's not easy. But if you make a commitment that you're gonna figure it out together and you both agree no matter what we're going to figure it out. It might get really tough. But let's stay in it until we figure it out. There's always a way that's what I found. There's always a way and it's not as hard as you might think and then might hurt then and there and maybe for a while, you know, you're really struggling maybe the relationship seems like it's not doing so perfectly. So what happened with me in the beginning but after a while if doing that starts compounding it adds up your investing in the other person that person's investing in you your together building this incredible relationship, and eventually you have the perfect relationship. Oh almost overnight, right? Oh, wow. Are you guys so happy together? How did you do that? Right. Oh, what's the trick? There is no trick. It's called the work and it's fun work. It's love work because you love that person. But you still have to put in effort don't buy into this idea of relationships. Just being these magical fairy tales where everything just works by itself. That's the recipe to disaster. That's the recipe to being miserable with each other. But if you're constantly creating goals working on them together deciding to resolve whatever comes up no matter what? Having a strong commitment. Wow, what happens you connect? You're not afraid because you don't think the other person sells of going to run away from you. You know, you feel safe feel taken care of you open up more you invest more into the other person. This is an upward strength and it continues and continues and continues. You've got to be the cause of that. You've got to sit down. It only takes one person to start this by the way. And then it will continue to grow and the other person will return the favor. It's beautiful. Its energy just works. That's how you create the perfect relationship.
I share with you how you can create the perfect relationships in your life. S U B S C R I B E : https://www.youtube.com/user/RafaelEliassen?sub_confirmation=1  Coaching with Rafael: https://www.rafaeleliassen.com/coaching  #RelationshipAdvice #PerfectRelationship #RelationshipGoals #HealthyRealtionship #CreateThePerfectRelationship #CreatingThePerfectRelationship #LastingRelationship #PersonalDevelopment #SelfImprovement #SelfHelp #Motivation #Motivational #MotivationalSpeech #MotivationalSpeaker  What can I learn in 10 minutes that can help my marriage last forever? First, realize that what you see in movies isn’t true. That magical fairytale love where everything always works out is not a reality. If that reflected reality we wouldn’t write them in the first place. Even when it’s true love and you feel she or he is the one for you, a relationship requires constant nurturing. What’s this constant nurturing? How do we do it? The key to creating perfect relationships is transparency. Full honesty, where there is nothing hide. Even if you are angry with your partner or happy with them, angry at your job, stressed about finances. Worried about them leaving you, insecure about something.. on and on…whatever it is converse it out. It’s a hard thing to do but has the biggest payoff. Stop playing poker with your life and lay out all the cards. Stop with the mind games. If you want to create a true, long-lasting relationship this is the formula, guys. Why is transparency so important? Once you become fully transparent with each other, it’s almost like the relationship becomes immortal. No matter what happens or how hard it gets you always have a possibility to work it out. why? Because you are honest with each other. Even if you fight you can resolve it because guess what you are honest in that fight too. It only takes one person to start this :) 