The biggest question that we have to ask ourselves as we're on our mission trying to achieve our big goals. It's not what are we getting? What's the material outcome or result of all this hard work the question is who does this have me becoming who am I becoming as a result of all this action that I'm taking old time. I spent studying and learning all of the people that I'm around. Who did they have me becoming who am I becoming? And do I like who I am becoming because you can lose everything all your material possessions can get swept away all your friends and family. They could leave your abandoned. It's unlikely, but it could happen you could run out of resources and get into a financial crisis, but you're always going to have to go to sleep at night and you're going to have your own mind your own conscious to deal with every time there's no Escape. That you can never run away from you. And so no matter how many places you travel to and no matter how many different people you've met your likely to keep experiencing a similar experience over and over again, unless you change you you see I traveled the world and experienced different countries and I worked with so many different people and I tried many different relationships early in my life. And I realized that wait a second. It's kind of like I'm on a repeat here. Why am I? In the loop. Why is it the same thing every time? Why do I keep eating the same food? Why do I keep meeting people that are so similar to the last person that I meant and how come all of my experiences and up looking alike. Now in my life, they've become much more diverse and the reason is because I've evolved my character has changed but the old saying is true wherever you go there you are and so you cannot run away from yourself. You cannot try to escape your character and if you feel like you're doing the wrong thing and you're not Who you want to become the end of the day? No matter how great you are no matter how much you achieve your going to feel miserable. And we really don't want that do we we don't want to feel miserable. We want to feel happy fulfilled engaged and love with life passionate right a little bit of fire in the belly, you know, that'd be great. We can have that all of us. Each of us can have that each of us can experience that but we need to work on the character and so instead. Ed of focusing on what thing you want at the end think about what you want to be like think about how you want the world to receive you and perceive you think about what would feel right to you and who really is your ideal self. I always ask myself if the ideal perfect version best version of Raphael turned up to my board or step and said hey. Here's what I look like here's how I talk to people. Here's how I connect. Here's what I spend my time doing. What would he say? What is he doing? Who is he with? That's the real question to ask of yourself your ideal version your best self the person that you really desire to become you can be that now step into that right now, what would that person do today? And if you act from that place all your goals and all your worries and all your It's become very small and insignificant relative to this person that this whole character this entity this new beautiful engaged Lively version of you and we can't access that so long as our mind is on all well. I just want that one thing and once I get that then I'll be happy you're stuck forever. If you're still saying to yourself. I can't be happy until I get x y z Z you will not be happy once you get x y z you'll find a new XYZ and that's going to keep going again and again and again, I'll once I graduate once I get that job once I get married once I have kids I once I retire once the kids move out then I finally will be happy. That's ridiculous. We keep looping and looping and looping and looping. Oh and once my business is earning, you know, right now, I'm only making six figures. I want to make eight figures. You're still the same person. If you keep doing that that's just a loop and your experience will feel hollow and you won't be fulfilled and they won't mean anything and I've worked with plenty of clients that are wealthy beyond my imagination and even Beyond probably what you think is what anyone could ever spend in a lifetime, but does that mean that they're fulfilled and engaged and happy creative and loving their life? No, not at all. It just makes them more of who they are. That's all money ever does. That's really all I can ever do just make you more of who you already are. So if you're putting off your happiness, if you are not the person that you want to be right now, if you're not pulling that in today, if you're not challenging that in this moment, you keep looping yourself forever. The question to ask is who am I becoming the question to ask is am I a little bit better today than I was yesterday. And what about this evening versus the Morning, because if it's not getting a little bit better, you know what it's probably getting a little worse. What doesn't improve the teary eighths so law and natural law you cannot Escape it. You will not be the lucky outlier. It just doesn't happen. You have to put in work and you have to make a decision on who you want to be caught and if you're not deliberately pursuing that and acting from that place I'm telling you. There's a very small chance that you'll ever even be able to enjoy the things that you accomplished just because the person that you want to become is likely to have a ton more gratitude more energy more liveliness may be more approachable that connect easier with people. They know more people. I don't know who is your ideal you I know that for me who I am today is a direct reflection of my 18 year old self saying, this is my ideal meat. and of course now that's exactly who I am because I envisioned it and imagine that and started acting from that place as if I was already there and it's not even acting as if it's more like taking on those personality traits just stepping into it. It's a real thing you have access to all of it. You can be bolder and more confidence and you can be more engaged and more passionate. It's not some weird distant thing. It's right here for you. It's accessible today and you can learn and study. You can get even better and better and better. But again the question is who are you becoming because those goals are great. They're all nice and everything and the people that are relationships even better. But at the end of the day, who who does it have you becoming who does it all lead to not what who will you be at the end of that road? And will you be happy being that person? That's the real question and if You can figure that out. Your life will become a lot easier all your problems will seem almost insignificant and getting what you want will be a breeze instead of a struggle.
How you can become the person you ultimately want to be and live the life that you have always wanted ! S U B S C R I B E : https://www.youtube.com/user/RafaelEliassen?sub_confirmation=1  Coaching with Rafael: https://www.rafaeleliassen.com/coaching  #ImprovedLife #ImprovingYourLife #LivingBetter #LiveBetter #LifeChanging #LivingTheUltimateLife #BeTheBestYouCanBe #BecomingYou #BecomeYourUltimateSelf #BecomingYourBestSelf #BecomingYourUltimateSelf #SelfConfidence #HavingConfidence #EarnConfidence #SelfImprovement #SelfImprovement #SelfHelp #PersonalDevelopment #Motivation #Motivational #MotivationalSpeech #MotivationalSpeaker   What is the best way to improve life? Why do you do what you do? Why do you exercise or read or set goals? Because you want certain outcomes in your life. Why do you want these outcomes? Because you think they will make you happy and successful. Will they though? Let’s say you get everything you want, tomorrow. That body, that car, that money, you have it all. Now what? Did you change? Did your beliefs about you change? Did your outlook on the world and people change? Did you resolve your trapped emotions? No, you only got the outcome. You didn’t get a transformational journey. No matter what car you drive, you will go to sleep with the same issues you had today. What do we learn from this thought experiment? The journey is what you should focus on. Goals, desires, wants, needs are great. But they don’t mean a thing if they don’t change you. A better life means a better you. You have to change as a person. So, whatever you do today, tomorrow and a day from tomorrow. Look at who you are becoming. Look at what changes that journey is going to bring in your life. Going to therapy; look at who you will become at the end of your sessions. Working out; look at who will you become if you do it every day. Starting a business; look at who will you become after working on it daily. Focus more on the incremental steps rather than the grandiose goal you are after. Because if you don’t, you are just chasing clouds. 