Devon day Moretti is an ISS a personal trainer and holds her nutrition survey caishen so that she can work with women to show up confidently in their bodies in their choices. And in their lives. She is also the host of a popular podcast, not your normal woman with her co-host Julia parsec a former guest on our podcast in an episode entitled pure joy, if you haven't checked out that episode yet, please scroll back through and you'll understand how they are. So similar and so different all at the same time hailing from San Diego, California Devon or Devi to her friends believes that fear of judgment rejection and not realizing how dope their authentic self is is what holds them back and relationships today. We dive deep into her monogamous relationship eating disorder recovery and why selfish pleasure is so important today's conversation is extra special for me because we step out of the norm and interview. Enneagram type 3 otherwise known as the achiever about relationships casually dating and monogamy, Please Subscribe rate and review to the podcast if you love the interview today, and please don't hesitate to share it with family or friend or co-worker that, you know will get value out of the message. If Devon's message resonates with you today. Please connect with her at Devon day Moretti.com or on Instagram at Devon Dave Moretti. Without further delay, let's get into today's episode with Devin from San Diego, California. Welcome to the believe be real be bold podcast for authentic dating. My name is David Glazer online personal trainer and obsessed with the Enneagram personality assessment after going through a couple of breakups and 2017. I came across some really inauthentic people when dating in Denver and instead of getting frustrated. I decided to create a community of authentic people myself. Come along with me on this path to authenticity as we welcome expert guests and real-life daters to share their tools tips and knowledge to help you show up as your most authentic self. Hey guys, welcome back to the bee leave. Be real be bold podcast. I'm so honored to introduce to you guys my guest Devon day Moretti from San Diego, California. How are you? How are you? I'm so excited to be here. Yes. I have been trying to connect with you ever since I met Julia barzakh from one of our previous episodes and just like trying to connect because you bring so much value to your community and now to our so thank you very much. Thank you. Yeah, I'm so excited. For this episode with you and Julia and I listen to the episode that you and Julia recorded. It made me even more excited because I knew what we would be talking about and then it gave me a bigger taste of what all would be discussed and like yes, I'm on my favorite things. Right right, we'll get into that but a first and foremost the two of you hosts a podcast together called not your normal woman. And how did you guys come up with like your call your theme and your content and really the purpose behind the podcast her and I face time all the time and we always have I would say insightful conversations or just conversations where we're kind of like coaching each other through stuff. We're talking about like how we coach our clients and I feel like everything we share is pretty valuable or it could be to somebody else. And so one day I was like, you know, I Really craving something else and my business and our conversations are always really great. Why not just start a podcast and so we just were like, okay, let's do it. I like book a I booked a flight out to see her and her and I'll I got all our photos done and tried to come up with a name we came up with not your normal women because we consider ourselves not normal compared to what Society deems as normal. And we decided we just wanted to talk about the various things of what that encompasses. So, you know are non conventional dating lives more specifically me on that part are eating disorders body dysmorphia all of the things that we've overcome and just being and sharing our real life experiences and hope that I can help other women. Yeah, it's super relatable. And of course I wanted to bring Julian and talk about rejection. And ghosting, but of course you guys have such different perspectives and it comes across in such a complementary pairing over the podcast that I've enjoyed every episode. Do you strive for like putting out more episodes? Yes, we do. We do it the reason we have it and not to make excuses, but I have been working on a really big project and Julia is this is her first year of being self-employed and we kind of Didn't realize how much work would go into creating a podcast and because her and I are doing a lot right now. We decided we were going to just take a pause on that for a moment. But our goal for 2020 which is insane to say will be to record more episodes. We really do want to prioritize it and it's something that we really enjoy but we gotta set boundaries and make sure that we can show up for the other things that we really have to show up. Yeah, it's so incredibly hard to juggle everything that you want to accomplish and achieve it is. Yeah, and we're both we work for ourselves and we don't have any assistance and so being a one person running the show is really overwhelming. Sometimes I frequently struggle with burnout. I can totally relate to that. So one of the best things I've ever done is finding interns or having my virtual assistant Christina in opposite side of the world so that she can work while I'm sleeping, you know? Yeah, that's nice. That's really so, how is it and why did you decide to work with women on their self image and self love my my business kind of started with a personal journey. I was really into Fitness and Nutrition but not so much for the right reasons Marcel for the wrong reasons because I struggled with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. So I was constantly researching ways to change my body through Fitness and Nutrition and as I started to heal my relationship with food in my body and More into personal training and started training women. I realized how common it was for women to struggle with the same things. I want struggled with and I decided that I wanted to take a Twist on my business and teach women how to take care of their bodies because they love them and not because they hate them because most of the time people come to me as a trainer to change their body because they hate their body and I wanted to completely alter that perspective for women and help them work through some of the has ordered patterns they have with food and their body because of diet culture and the society that we live in and I you know was a personal trainer at a gym started to take clients online. And as I did that I created a course in and that includes my coaching that is all on self-love and body positivity and it's just way more fulfilling for me. And the last thing I'd ever want to do is coach people the way You know, I was coached back when I had an eating disorder and you know catalyze or exacerbate some of the deeply rooted issues. They're struggling with right maybe an example would be to like overly be concerned with calorie counting. Yeah. I don't do any meal plans or calorie counting. I really teach them to hunt and soothe her intuition and be mindful about their choices and make sure that their diets consist of happiness and you know there. Helps as well because when one is compromise test, it just leads to a host of problems. Hmm and something that I've learned over the last 18 months or so of hosting the podcast and being single is that self-love is the root of everything. It's like our strongest Foundation that we can work from and you've discovered how to pair that with food and and exercise. Yeah, and you know as I drove more into self confidence and helping women build their self-confidence. and understand their worthiness I realized that it seeps into all other aspects of Our Lives because when we feel confident and good in our skin that shows up in our dating life. It shows up in our work. It shows up in the way that we speak the way that we dress the way that we associate with other people and so it's just become so important because it is really the core of what makes our life incredible and you talked about our diet culture and you talked about our society today and when people Struggle with body dysmorphia or eating disorder art sometimes seeking external validation and if we include self love in their coaching, then we then we make them. I think you're you chose the words autonomous and those decision-making that come from intuitive eating and really appreciating and respecting who you are as a person as a person. Yeah. Absolutely. I think it's really important, you know, ultimately teaching women to operate. From their own autonomy and helping them make choices based off what they want instead of, you know, what they've been learned or what somebody else tells them that they should do with their bodies with their life with how they date how they have sex all the various things. Mmm. So, when did your business start to snow wall and gain momentum? So this was where I forget what year probably around 2016 2017 when I was personal training at the gym. Like I had said I took clients online. One of my clients was just completely loved my coaching and talked about me and that helped a lot to have all of those referrals. And she talked about me online which helped build my social media presence and then you know as I got out of the conventional gym started working at another gym with another trainer and be built a clientele together. I constantly posted like workout videos, you know to put stories of me training my clients and it just really brought a lot of attention and because my clientele was building online. As I was building it in person as well. I decided that I just wanted to take it completely online, which was a really scary thing because there's of course A Drop in income and then I'm going to be completely self-employed and that was terrifying but I was just ready to get out of the gym environment and do what I was most passionate about and as I did that it was just like amazing how everything just kind of fell into place by going after what I was really passionate about About hmm. I can totally relate to that moving my business 100% online. This may was very scary and I saw I also saw that dip in income. Thankfully thankfully we're creating multiple streams of income as entrepreneurs and self-employed individuals. And so maybe one is peaking while the others are just staying level and then they they kind of fluctuate from month to month. Yeah. And you know when you see that Financial drop initially it creates more. More of a force to really get shit going. Yeah, it's kind of like an inspiring out of a need not desperation because when we operate really well under pressure and as as the achiever, I can definitely understand. Why yes. When did you find the in your Graham and what resonated with you most about your personality type the achiever? I think I discovered the Enneagram actually. ago, so I haven't really and I haven't dove into it too much other than my personal which is number three of the achiever very much relates with me and I it's so interesting when you read things that perfectly describe who you are and I'm like, oh geez like, you know me so well and I think you know, it really resonates with me because it talks about how like when I'm in cheever. So I am constantly trying to do things and constantly trying to grow it works in my advantage and disadvantage all the time. I am very success driven and they're known to be Workaholics as well, which is also in relation to my horse or my cat. I'm a Capricorn. So in relation to astrology because a Capricorns are known to be Workaholics and I I feel like I'm constantly doing something in my business. And if I'm not I feel like a sense of lack or something. I just feel kind of off so I've been working through that because I think that you know, the thing that the Achievers struggle with his worthiness and I feel like mine kind of stems from if I'm not doing a cheating or trying to become the best version of myself, then I'm lacking that and some that Is something like practicing self-acceptance is one of the biggest things that the achiever has to really work on? Absolutely. Yeah, when you're at your best your very self accepting and you learn how to give yourself Grace. So when we were talking about self-love earlier, that's a key component for the achiever to really become their greatest version of themselves. It was a foundational principle self-love. I like to back pedal or backtrack just a little bit and go to self-awareness and personal Discovery in order to find self-love and the in your Graham has helped me do that so much as the Challenger or type 8. It really helps to have you understand yourself better when you dive in and get really introspective and I've learned a lot of that through therapy and just reading more books on healing trauma and Stephen when I learn about that stuff or I learn about why I am the way that I am it makes me have a deeper understanding and gives myself and give myself more compassion because I'm like, oh that makes sense. This is why I act out in this way or this is why I feel the way that I do about these things and it just allows us to invite that compassion that self-love a bit more when we can understand why it's happening. Hmm when you've created Foundation of self-love and then worthiness coming from yourself stems from that. Do you find yourself being a better leader for your community? I do I do very much and I feel more connected when I'm connected with myself because when you feel off you don't necessarily want to be around other people or you just don't show up in the most the most energetic. Way possible and you just kind of like want to close off and so when I'm feeling more loving toward myself, I'm more loving and understanding to others I can connect with them deeper. It allows me to understand them better. It works for everybody. Yep. Absolutely that self-awareness personal Discovery and then growing into self love gives the achiever so much graciousness for others and fun like you said for themselves to yeah, absolutely. Now as an achiever when you're not at your best, are you often seeking admiration from others or an external Source when I'm not at my best I tend to isolate. I think sometimes yes, I look for you know admiration and just Assurance from somebody else, but I've noticed you know as I've gone through my healing I think sometimes now when I'm just feeling off in like okay, I just need to like isolate myself and like try to understand what's happening right now and I'm packing my feelings because I don't ever want to come off super super needy or like I'm lacking something and I need you to give it to me. Mmm, I want to be able to give that to myself. Yeah, is it lacking authenticity or like your your true version of yourself that you're that you're seeking Again by isolating. Um when I'm when I'm isolating, it's me trying to understand what's going on, but there are times when I isolate because I feel I don't feel good. And I don't know that I want people to see me like this right now and these are all things that that I've you know, I've been actively working through especially with my my healing this past year because what I realized when you work through, you know, your body image stuff and you're eating disorder, there's all kinds of other things you got to work through and specifically and my dating life a lot of what was reflected to me in my last relationship was my own shit and it's become really important for me to work through that stuff. And as you go Through your healing process. It is so difficult and uncomfortable and painful, but I know that it really allows me to become a better version of myself. When I do go through those painful moments and like really dive into why am I isolating right now? Why do I feel this way why I'm be well I am I being afraid of getting vulnerable right now. Hmm. I totally understand that. Absolutely I've Found that the self-awareness and personal growth and discovery that we can find on. Our own is great. It's tremendous and it's it's definitely valuable to work through that on your own and then when we've done that we enter into a new relationship and like you said those Reflections teach us even more So what is dating like in San Diego for you? Dating in San Diego. So when I moved here, I actually I coming up on a year next Tuesday of being here for failure. So exciting but I moved here from New York and I got out of a relationship. So when I left New York, I was leaving a relationship and I wanted to commit myself to being single because I'm notorious for always being in a relationship as a way to escape my feelings. In my heartbreak and my pain so when I talk about isolation to me, sometimes it's like kind of although it can be problematic. Sometimes it's a big growth in my previous experiences because I want to isolate myself instead. I would just be with people all the time, too. Avoid how I was feeling so that's big for me. But when I came here I decided that I wanted to learn to be alone and to be able to be in solitude to sit with my uncomfortable emotions and feelings and I decided that I didn't want to date anybody. Oh I wanted to date but I didn't want to be in a serious relationship for a year and I wanted to also practice all the things that I've been working on and myself is Actually working through some of the stuff that I realized in my last relationship that is problematic in my relationships on my behalf and practice that in the dating experience. And so I have been dating for a year. I've seen people casually I've saw one person beginning of the year casually for like three months and then I would like date again and and breathe. Recently, I've been dating someone casually for like five months now sure what is casually mean to you because it could totally mean something different to me or the next person or casually dating to me right now is we are going on dates. We are having sex and we aren't exclusive and anyway, so I still have freedom to go on other dates sleep with other people. Beyond Bumble or henge and I very much am still single but I have somebody that I consistently see hmm like a somebody who becomes a priority in your life for somebody that's just a little bit closer than others closer than others. Hmm. And is this an agreed-upon like conscious non-monogamy or like what else would you call the lifestyle choice that you've made for yourself? Right now I think the lifestyle Choice I've made right now, you know, I'm coming up on a year and it wasn't like a only in a year. I can now be open to a relationship. It just kind of naturally happened. That way I felt like, you know, I wanted to at least have six months of really truly being single and then open myself up and it was around the summertime when I was like, okay, I'm open to a relationship, but then I you know, I've been very much in a place where I'm not opposed to relationship and I'm not not ready for one. I just don't have a pool to be in one and I still very much want to continuously explore and date and meet other people especially just because I moved here so making those connections and dating is a wonderful way to do that. And so it's it's kind of been, you know conscious but my the person that I'm seeing now, I'm You know, it's gravitating more towards that direction, but I still am very much in a place where I'm like, I'm good where I am and I think I want to stay right here right now are the two of you on the same page with that. Yeah. Yeah good. So there's open communication throughout the five months. You said that you guys have been seeing each other they are very open and communication, right? I have conversations about how you know, I also because I was Notorious for the other aspect is it of it is I am notorious for being in relationships and because of that I was always jumping right into a relationship and now I very much want to get to know somebody for an extended period of time before seeing them or like dating them exclusively and to me like it's around the three six month Mark of seeing each other before We are like, okay, let's be exclusive or like let's make this more serious because you want to make a good healthy decision for yourself after getting to know somebody very well. Yes, and he's very much on the same page of I need to get to know somebody and you know before jumping into something and because you don't really truly get to know somebody, you know a month in it and I've noticed in my dating experience this year. It takes about three months for me to finally see all of them. Oh shit, of course. We all have our shit. I have my shit but it's a matter of can I do with that shit because I'm not going to change you so I have to be able to accept what's here before. I like decide that I want to be with you jump into a relationship early on I might be like what the fuck is this after three months or so, but it's kind of my fault because I didn't really take the time to get to know them. Yeah, I can I can understand that completely. Absolutely. So right around that three month three month Mark is where our true colors start to come out if you're familiar with attachment Styles, that's when that's when avoidance which has to anxious and anxious switches to avoidant and some Tendencies from secure to one of those Polar Opposites can actually occur. Yeah. Yeah, very familiar with the attachment styles. That was one of the books. I read in the beginning of the year. To help me work through some of my stuff. Hmm. It's it's like probably required reading for every person on the planet my gosh. Yeah so much about yourself that that book Peg me. So well as an avoidant attachment style that I took away from it. All of the tools necessary to arrive back to secure. Yeah. So if you're casually seeing somebody for three to six months, do you feel any pull towards anxious avoiding or do you stay right with a secure attachment style that whole time so part of my healing actually, I worked with a guy who is a shadow worker for three months and a lot of what I wanted to work through was my anxious attachment and my quote unquote daddy issues and I've been known to date men who are exactly like my father which is not a good fit for me. And usually it's usually go toward avoidant people people who make me not to say someone makes me feel small but they bring out a lot of the same feelings that my dad brought out in me that feeling of like not worthy of like I lie. Something and constantly trying to get their validation and their approval and you know, as I worked through that I have made a commitment that I would not date people that way or who were who would bring that out in me or who were basically my father and this is the first person I've dated that I feel super secure with and does not remind me of my dad and any it by any means he's very secure. Iran compliment him on that a lot very secure in who he is very secure in a relationship and I feel secure in it because again, like I feel like it's the first relationship. I've been in that satin actually healthy attachment. And so I think because of that like naturally I just feel more secure and I also he has impeccable communication skills, and it's really nice because when I Do open up I feel heard. And so it makes a dramatic difference in how I show up in a relationship and you know, I don't know what's going to happen with us, but I am so grateful to have met him because I realized how important it is to be and like this really healthy Dynamic and to be with somebody who can have really great communication skills and who will be receptive and own up to their own shit. Like that's so so so important for me. Hmm. That sounds like Trending more towards the partnership you're looking for. Yeah, yeah or by definition the word partnership. Yeah comes for comes from at least one person being secure attachment style and then having a lot of Grace for the anxious or the avoidant. Yeah, so you're super open about sex sexuality and pleasure. Why do you feel that? Teaching others about self-exploration and pleasure is so important. So I because I struggled with body dysmorphia. I was at one at one point in my life. It wasn't that I didn't like sex they did like it but I didn't want to do it because I felt so uncomfortable in my body and a lot of that healing came from doing the Deep work that I do with my clients of helping them unpack all of that shame and all of that disordered and dysmorphic Vic type beliefs they have about themselves and then I as I, you know worked with my clients a big question that came up often was how do I feel comfortable in the bedroom? Because I feel calm starting to feel comfortable in myself, but I still feel uncomfortable in the bedroom and getting naked and you know them seeing all the perceived flaws and so I decided to dive more into the bedroom space and talk about feeling more confident in that. Aang and one of the tools that I encourage women to feel more comfortable in that space is to engage in self exploration because again just like in relationships when you love yourself that love overflows and all other aspects of your life and in your Partnerships, and when you feel confident in yourself that confidence seeps into your relationship with someone else and when you're feeling comfortable in your body, you're going to feel more More comfortable in a space with somebody else and I always like to tell my clients if you don't feel comfortable looking at yourself naked and touching yourself. How do you expect yourself to feel comfortable when somebody else does that to you? And so getting comfortable in the space by yourself touching your body seducing yourself doing all those things. I think are really important to want to get to know yourself better, which makes it easier to have better sex because now, you know how to communicate and tell them how to touch you because They're aspect is women have a hard time because their Partners not touching them. Right but they can't communicate with how to touch them. Right if they don't know how to touch themselves. So it's really just again coming back to feeling comfortable with yourself knowing yourself exploring yourself and figuring out all of the things that make you tick so that you can then bring that into the bedroom with somebody else and it just makes things all the more easier it's taking Ownership of your sexuality as a person and our orgasm is our own responsibility. Yes it is. Is that something that comes up for you and your community? Yeah, and one of the things I tell people is your pleasure is your responsibility and I work with a lot of women who will you know, Shane their Partners they never make me calm XYZ or I have to fake the orgasm and I'm like, well, that's not serving your partner. One if you're faking it because they're going to think they're doing a good job. And when you are engaging and a sexual experience with someone the way I decide if someone's enjoying themselves is through body language. And so if I can sense that they're feeling really good. I'm going to keep doing that thing. So if a woman's faking an orgasm you are affirming to that person keep doing that. Oh, that's not serving anybody. And it is again our responsibility because they don't know how we feel on her body. So we got to tell them how we're feeling. I've heard of this like from my from my female friends, you know, we're very open. We we talk about all things sexuality and I've almost heard that exact same comment come up time and time again. So how do we open the door to talking to our partner about our sexuality their sexuality and then the partnership that developed around that I think you know that really depends on the type of partnership you have because You know, if you're if you're if you're in a relationship, I think that sometimes it's easier to have those conversations versus if you're having a one-night stand right? So I think that one when we have these conversations about our sexuality or things that we'd like to explore with our partners one that should be a conversation outside of the bedroom because it can be really vulnerable conversation can bring up some insecurities in the last thing you'd want to do is bring up insecurities when you're already feeling super vulnerable. The other aspect is when you're in the bedroom when they're doing something right affirm it so, you know if it's a moan or if it's just like that feels really good because it's going to tell them to keep doing it or you know, just saying I really like when you do that or I really like when you touched me that way or this makes me feel really good because it's again letting them know. Okay keep doing that. It could be as simple as that, you know, if you want your partner to do something more. Just compliment how much you enjoy it when they do that and that can bleed over into other areas of our relationship as well. NASA. Wheatley can yeah, that's it. Sometimes we have like you put a lot of pressure on ourselves to have these conversations, but it can just be a casual like conversation. It doesn't have to be this like long scary conversation that's going to create some conflict, you know, and that conversation could actually likes Stir things up in like kind of a flirtatious way and get the ball rolling in the right direction of okay, let's start this conversation on the couch and then it moves or maybe it doesn't move from the couch. Maybe it it stays right there and you you and your partner get exactly what you discussed and what you wanted out of that conversation. Anyways in the physical act right away another like another question to ask is just like my partner and I just had this conversation recently. What does your masturbation look routine look like? How do you touch yourself? And I told him you know, I was like I really like when I push myself this way by blah blah blah blah and I was like, you know, I've had its previous Partners do it and I really enjoy it. And then next time we had sex you did it and I'm like, yeah it's and none of us have a roadmap for the other person's emotional needs or physical needs people always say that communication is the most important. thing in a relationship, but it can also be the most important thing in our sex life as well it is because the other aspect is we are also uniquely different and radically different and we all have different Kinks and different desires and different turn-ons and want to be touched differently, especially women because I'm bisexual and I explore with women and when I You doing that? I realized oh shit like this is what guys struggle. This is why they have a hard time finding the clinic because they're all so different and all women like to be touched differently and that's why communication is so important because you have to be able to tell your partner because you know, I've had Partners we like well my last partner like this and like cool but I am different human being and I like different things. I like that. Perspective so how can we bring in other flirtation methods like sexting to kind of like bring some excitement back into the bedroom or to Stir It Up in the first place? Hmm. Well one, you know, this is kind of like a little bit off of the question you asked but I think that women should do Boudoir shoots for not just you know, I think you could do it for your partner, but I think really doing it for yourself because my Variants with doing Boudoir shoots is that it's allowed me to channel my inner sexy and I think a lot of women have the fear to go into a Boudoir shoot because you're basically naked but I think that Boudoir is a type of different photography because you are asked to come as you are and to just show up authentically and your unique sexiness and when you look at those photos, you're just like, oh my God, like I look right. Right, and I've had many clients do that. I've encouraged them to do that or they're like, you know after month 1 if I you know commit to XYZ, I'm going to do a boot bar shoe and it just makes their confidence Skyrocket because they just get to see them truly radiating In Their Skin and when they can to see their sexy and a photo, I feel like sometimes it just allows them to bring that into the bedroom and it's just a beautiful, you know active just feeling sexy. with who you are and other things I think when it comes to just inviting and more sexy doing things that allow you to do that. So maybe it's dancing naked with your partner or maybe it's taking a pole dancing class. I recently did that. That's really fun or you know, taking some news for yourself or for your partner. Whatever it is that makes you sexy if you got it flaunt it. Yeah, absolutely. So if somebody loves your message and it With them today, what's the best way for them to get a hold of you? My Instagram Devon day Moretti or my website, which is Devon damer. Ready.com. Mom, well the same super simple. Yeah. Do you have anything special or big or an event coming up that you want people to pay attention to or I mean shoot your Instagram stories are full of amazing content. Yeah, I appreciate that. I do have a free guide called sex with the lights on which embodies self-confidence in the bedroom and I'm working on releasing new project which will come out very soon, which is An extension of that. So the best thing to do right now is to opt in and download that free guide and then you will get the latest update on when the other things come out awesome and if there's something that we didn't touch on today that you wanted to expand on or we didn't even start to talk about it. What would that be has helped me in my dating experiences and my clients and this is something that I do to help my clients feel more confident when they go on dating experiences and just really operating from a place of I am worthy of, you know, love and of all of the things that come with a relationship is often times we go on a date and we are sitting there like do they like me and we're constantly thinking about how they're perceiving us. And I think the best thing to do when you go on a date is to walk into it and ask yourself. Am I going to like this person? Because when you flip that script you just show up differently you want to get to know them and see if they're a good fit for you instead of feeling, you know, small its smallness and not feeling worthy enough. And is this person going to like me and trying to get that validation from somebody you don't even know that you'll like yeah, I can totally relate to that and it takes at least two or three dates to even say yes. Do I want another date after that? Oh, yeah. I recently had that. I like went on a date. And the first day I feel like sometimes the first state gives you like this. You just see things completely different. It's like this person is sort of Trapped above La second day in like, oh my God, what was I thinking in there before? I like to say keep your standards high and your squats low. Yeah. And so when you're going into a first date, you know what you're in charge you're in charge of whether or not this person earns or Deserves a second date with you. Absolutely, because your standards are set your values are set you've identified what your intentions are and you know that if they don't fit the don't fit what you're looking for, then don't force. It. Don't push a don't push for a bad second date don't have a scarcity mindset one dating. I think that's the key is like you had an abundant mindset when you're going in there trying to ensure that they qualify. Yeah. Absolutely. Oh, yes, always absolutely. Yeah. Well, thank you so much devenir. I know your time is very valuable and and I'll respect it. So what do you say in the next six to 12 months? We reconnect and when you're in Denver, I won't let you leave without getting together for at least coffee. Oh my God, absolutely. I would really like that. Okay. Well, thank you so much for having me. It was such a pleasure being on the podcast and talking about all these things and you ask such great questions. Thank you very much. I appreciate it. Yeah. Well, thank you.
On this week's episode, we welcome Devon Day Moretti, 3w2 on the Enneagram, who is an ISSA Personal Trainer and holds her ISSA nutrition cert to work with women to show up confidently—in their bodies, in their choices, and in their lives. She also host the popular podcast, Not Your Normal Womxn with Julia Parzyck, former guest on the podcast in episode Pure Joy. Living in San Diego, Devon or “Devi” to her friends, believes that fear of judgement, rejection, and not realizing how dope their authentic self is what holds them back in relationships. Today, we dive deep into her “Monogamish” relationship, eating disorder recovery, and why self-pleasure is so important. Today’s conversation is extra special for me because we step out of the norm and interview an Enneagram type 3, The Achiever, about relationships, casually dating, and monogamy. Please subscribe, rate, and review the podcast if you loved the interview today! 