Well, hello there good day. My name is De courcey Williams and this is the uplifting words podcast and I want to thank each and every one of you listening to the sound of my voice today. Welcome to July 2019 has more days behind it than more days coming up. It's crunch time everybody. Have you started chasing after your dreams? Have you started going after your goals yet? It's time to get started. So what I want to talk about today is losing our way. And it seems like the way that the reason that I thought about this is paying attention to all of this. News and social media and it's probably my fault because I kind of pay attention to that stuff a lot because I like to be in the know and when things happen I kind of liked to know about it, but I also use the news in the media to keep up with people that are doing big things big amazing things and I use that as fuel for myself. So when I noticed when I was younger, I noticed there was kind of the switch that happened. Like I can remember one time when I was younger people were kind of they had thicker skin. They people seem tougher. And nowadays. I'm just noticing that we're giving our participation trophies to our kids. We have that that No Child Left Behind that started and I can understand why I was started it was started to be able to give everybody that shot so that there wouldn't be a high level of people succeeding and then you've got people that aren't succeeding in those people that are succeeding are just left behind. But if you notice unfortunately the society that we live in that's kind of how life works out. The people that are successful they totally live a different lifestyle than those of us who are either just mediocre getting by or in complete and total poverty and depression. So what I'm talking about here is more for the parents because everybody talks about the the Millennials and this generation the young kids and they don't know this and they all know that these kids were raised by parents. These kids have their mom and dad's to thank for their inability to deal with certain situations. now in my eyes It starts when our kids are young and the parents don't want their kids to suffer in any way. And of course your parents are going to overcompensate in some areas because when they were kids they remember maybe I'll at feeling or maybe something that they went through that they didn't like and they don't want their children to feel that. So you end up giving in to your kids and you end up allowing them to do things that you are never allowed to do you end up buying them things? And then you say wow, my parents never bought this for me when I was young and then you hear it all the time. And then the next thing you know, you have a spoiled rotten teenager, and now the rest of society has to deal with this person. And of course I get it because I have a daughter. She's now 21 turn it 22 senior in college. She's about to get out and do her own thing. And then I have a son who's 10. So I totally get that. I don't want my son to go through the crap that I went through when I was a kid and then when my daughter was younger, I definitely didn't want her to go through anything rough and harsh. But you got to realize that that is not reality. Like I totally get the Allure of not saying no to your kids you want to give them things especially when you're able to even a lot of times the parents were not really able to we just do it anyway, but this is counter-intuitive to how we develop as human beings. Unfortunately. The only way the we grow is through our struggles and through our failures. The only way that we get better is to lose. Now I also feel that our quick advancements in technology might have jaded essence of this easier Lifestyle the way that everything is set up is that we want it now we want to think about something and then have it in our hands. I mean you think about Amazon offering two-day delivery. Now, they're testing drones to be able to if you order something you can get your delivery within like 40 minutes to an hour. I mean, that's just that's just ridiculous things like this are Messing us up more than its helping us I think. But we can't forget we've got work to do we've got struggles to overcome. Our purposes have to be discovered and the only way for us to do that is through our struggles and through our failures. Now, let me take a quick break introduce some of our partners and I'll be right back. 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Now when social media first came out it was great to be able to reconnect with people to maybe we hadn't seen in a couple of years or people that we don't talk to on a regular basis. It was great to be able to see what that person was up to. I remember Myspace and people had music playing on their sites and their page was right really customized to kind of reflect there. Own ideas and thoughts and personalities and it was great. Now what it's turned into is if somebody buys a lot a they take a picture of it and let everybody else know that they're drinking a coffee. Or it's turned into a place where somebody can share something kind of a milestone in their life. And then you got people trying to tear them down or trolls will we're calling them. So this leads people to believe that everybody else around them is living a much better life than what they're living. What we need to realize though is that people are going through it also, and when you take just that snapshot of somebody's day or that 30-second video you are just taking you're just looking at a glimpse of that person's life. I mean There's no way of knowing what that person is going through for the other 23 hours and 58 minutes of their day. The rest of their day could be complete and utter horrible, but they take that selfie smiling with that Starbucks cup in their hand and make it seem like everything is all right, and then you start to look at your life and you're like, why am I not living like that? I know you've heard me say this before social media is a amazing double-edged. Ward it could be used for good. A lot of times we see it being used for bad. So if you're chasing after your dream, you're going after your goal and you might run into that obstacle and I think a lot of times the first thing that people do is that they consult Facebook or they go on Instagram or whatever social media that they fancy and they'll find somebody that's trying to do something that they're trying to do. And then they get a false sense of the success at that person's having. So whatever obstacle they've run into they might stop and they might give up on that dream and their content to look at other people living there fake dream. Another thing that I really can't stand are like reality shows or like competition shows. A lot of those times you get caught up in looking at other people live their dreams. But you're not doing your part. You're not living your dream like my wife loves love. What's the singing like America's Got Talent or one of those shows and I mean, sometimes I'll watch it with her but a lot of the stories the way that they frame their stories. It's really inspiring and they'll pick the person that's come from the the worst beginning that you can think of they'll pick the person that's gone through Most crap and they'll have this little video lead into this one moment when they get to be on stage in front of whatever judges and they put themselves out there. And they succeed or they fail a lot of times. They don't put the failures out there just a quick note a lot of times. It's the people that get the approval of all the judges or I know on America's Got Talent. It's like the golden buzzer that allows them to go to the final round without having to go through any of the other steps. So it's genius how they do it though, because they play inspirational music and they've got somebody that put Clips together and picture Of the person's family or pictures of like their dog or whatever horrible thing that they've gone through and it's amazing how it's amazing to me how we sit back and we'll watch somebody else live their dream. And we won't go chase after hours. it amazes me how will sit back and work at a job that we can't stand and then we'll get into this whole back and forth in our brains about how we're not able to do XYZ or I'm not brave enough to be able to chase after my dream or I can't do what this person does because I don't have XY and z Tell you something you are lying to yourself. You're allowing yourself to talk yourself out of going after your dream. And I know that every person on this planet has a dream. Every person has something that they want to do some Mark that they want to leave on this planet. But not everybody has the courage to step out and do it. Now a lot of times people say I don't have the money or I don't have the time or I don't have the training when I think for real a lot of people are saying I'm scared of what my parents are going to say, or I'm scared of what my friends or how my friends are going to talk about me. I'm scared that I'm going to be judged. Because if you're not following the status quo, then you're strange. You're you're weird or you don't know what you're doing. Don't be stupid. You have to be reasonable. You have to be you have to be safe. A lot of people that are super successful that you're living up to and I'm now I'm talking about like the Steve Jobs is in the Elon Musk and the the Warren Buffett's I'm talking about those guys when you look at those guys, they took chances. Look at Elon Musk in the story of Tesla Elon Musk. Wanted to build a car something that was never done before. on pure electricity on battery power He was told that you can't operate a car company and not have physical locations where people can come by and test drive your cars and look at Tesla. You really don't have car dealerships of Tesla. You basically go online design your car and you pick it up. Yeah, they've got some sites where you can go look at them and you might be able to test drive but those are really few and far in between. He was told you can't build a car that doesn't operate on gas. Like where would it get its power from I mean, all of these things that he was told he can't do and he ignored them. He took the chance that whole saying of you pay the cost to be the boss. That's what that saying is talking about. So take a look at yourself and really think about Am I living the life that I want to live? And if I'm not what's stopping me? Is it really money? Could you really go take another job that might pay you less? Yes. But it'll free up your time so that you can focus on your little side thing or your side hustle. And then let it be said that living in today's society. You cannot survive today without having a side hustle. You have to do something extra. You have to do you have to do something that fills your heart or that feeds your soul. I mean that's just the way the we live back in the day used to just go get two jobs and just do that until whatever people don't want to live like that anymore. People are realizing man. I got to start taking care of myself. I have to go do this thing. I have to go build this business. I have to go take that chance. And you see a lot of times the people that take the chances are the super successful people. The super successful people aren't the ones that got A's and B's in school. So take inventory of things that you can do. I would highly suggest starting a journal keep a journal of your day to day activities. And yes, that's time consuming. Yeah, that's all that can be a little monotonous but keep a journal of the things that you do and also write down skills and abilities that you possess that you're pretty good at write down stuff that people might comment all the time and say hey, you're pretty good at that or man. You make this look easy. Everybody has stuff like that. All you have to do is find a way to make your living off of it. So don't go to Facebook or Instagram and look at that little snapshot of somebody else's life and think that that's a true representation. The only thing that'll do for you is kind of make you look at your own life and ask yourself. Why do I not live like that? We all have to be okay with what we can do and what we cannot do. Yeah, there are certain things. You can learn you can be training. There are certain habits that you can develop but there are certain things that you just do that. Nobody else can do as well as you do. That can be leading up to what your gift is. The reason that you're on this planet. I mean, it could be something simple like cutting hair or landscaping or being able to code a website and create beautiful websites could be photography. It could be anything that might seem small and unimportant. But anybody listening to this you have your own set of gifts and abilities that you can contribute to society your gifts matter Your Existence matters, your job is to find out what it is that you're good at and don't settle for anything less. All right, so I'm going to wrap it up here. Thank you guys for listening to me drone on. But I'm really passionate about people chasing after their dreams. Now a lot of the stuff I wish was around when I was young and I know you hear it all the time, but we have this entire world at our fingertips with this little device that we all carry in our pain and our hand or in our pocket and a lot of times we're not using it like we should be we're kind of using it like everybody else. So just take a look just take some do some self-evaluation take some inventory of your skills and of your mind. The answers to everything that you were looking for is actually already inside of you. It's just whether you're going to put forth the effort make the sacrifices do the hard work. Because that's what it'll take to realize that. There's no participation trophies in life. That lets get that mindset out of our heads life does not care if you participate. life cares if you make a stand and say I'm not going to live a mediocre life any longer. Thank you guys for joining me. I really appreciate you one more thing. I started a new project. It's called course. He's wine corner and you can visit the site www.questpond.com corner.com. I am sharing my by Joys and my experiences with wine tasting. I mean, I'm all into this thing. And also if you want to learn how to get wine shipped directly to your house. I know wine club. 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