This is optimal living daily episode 1363 the ruse by Casey main of Casey Main.com and I'm just a moloch. Happy Wednesday. Hope you're having a great week and welcome back to Optimal living daily or the O LD podcast where I read to you from some of the best blogs I can find and get permission from I'm supposed to be in Washington DC this week. If you're in the area and want to meet get in touch at old podcast.com or on Instagram at Old podcast and thank you to gust. Oh if You have a business or you know, someone who does you probably know that small business owners, like myself wear a lot of hats and some of those hats are totally great. But some like filing taxes and running payroll for example are not so great. That's where it Gusto comes in custo makes payroll taxes and H are actually easy for small businesses fast simple payroll processing benefits and expert HR Support all in one place Augusto automatically pays and five. 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I've always been curious about and entertained by my dreams and I've had many moments looking up interpretations the morning after a random or particularly. Intense one, but I've never done any real Research into them. I've never investigated with the dream researchers therapists and psychologists say about what our subconscious is up to while we're sleeping. So I turned to Google but this time I avoided The Lure of the many Dream Dictionary websites and looked for the real research. I quickly came across the dream studies portal and education blog started by dream researcher Ryan heard unsure of how much true science exists in dreaming. Analysis and always the skeptic I checked out Ryan's resume and found it was full of academic presentations contributions to books and peer-reviewed Publications and teaching experience apparently more people study dreams than I realized Ryan sight seemed legitimate. So I decided it was a good place to start first. I read an article about renowned psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung and his theories on dreams. Essentially. He believed that we are all In conflict with ourselves. Taught that one of the ways we work to resolve that inner conflict is by using dreams to integrate our conscious with our subconscious Jung called this process individuation according to the dream studies portal individuation is best described as the mines quest for wholeness. This makes sense with Rogers ruse comment. If it's all about feelings perhaps our dreams are doing the work of confronting the feelings. We consciously avoid in our minds quest to resolve any and all Inner conflict it uses dreams to show us the feelings we refuse to face when we are awake. We may not be ready to confront them in real life source of conscious packages that meant to a movie to watch while we sleep as a reminder that those feelings exist. The problem is when thinking about our dreams so often we get caught up in the movie script, who was there what was happening? And what does it all mean? But maybe we are missing the point according to Jung dreams don't predict the future replay the past or Symbolize something happening in our present. Like somebody dream books would have us believe rather. They are showing us are deep-rooted thoughts and feelings. It isn't what happens in the dream that matters. The point is how we feel about what happens the next article introduced me to Calvin Hall a behavioral psychologist who focused on the cognitive dimensions of dreaming in his book the meaning of dreams Hall wrote quote the images of a dream are the concrete embodiments of the dreamers thoughts. These images give visual. All expression to that which is visible namely conceptions and quote. He then went on to outline five important Concepts that dreams provide insight to concept of self concept of others concept of the world concept of impulses and desires and concept of problems and conflicts. It's an interesting way to look at our dreams. We tend to focus on who the characters are and what they say or do or the circumstances we find ourselves in and how we react but maybe the who what Where and when aren't what they appear to be according to haul their reflection of us and our understanding of life. So a dream about our mother isn't necessarily about our mother at all instead. It could be showing us our thoughts on Authority or feelings on opposing views or even a perception we have of ourselves. It's so easy to look at the surface level of the dream and assign meaning to it, but perhaps to value and dream interpretation is always bringing it back to what it reveals about us looking. Inward instead of outward. I love this concept because it makes dreams that much more interesting. It provides an entire new level in which to view them a deeper level one that holds more significance and meaning for our lives. Then I started thinking what if the same is true for Life, maybe the script the daily who what when and where isn't what really matters instead maybe it to is just a ruse to reveal our inner workings our perceptions thoughts feelings. Joys and struggles perhaps like dreams. The purpose of daily life is to resolve our inner conflicts. Maybe all of it is insight into the state of our psyche showing us which parts may need repair all of it serves an important purpose of helping us become whole in that case. It doesn't matter if we get cut off in traffic denied a promotion or have are heartbroken what truly matters in life is how we see it how we feel about it and how that plays into our concept of self we Are always either healing or deepening the hurt if we view life this way significance begins to shift and what we allow to Define us takes on a new shape all of a sudden. It doesn't matter what job we hold what car we drive or the house we live in there's no meaning in our education level relationship status or retirement fund. These are all just part of the script ruses used to surface our feelings the significance lies in the feelings and how they shape our view of the world. Are we humble grateful and optimistic or are we selfish power-hungry and negative? Perhaps what life is really trying to show us through all the plot twists and turns is how to heal ourselves every moment of pain discomfort hatred judgment jealousy and anger is uncovering a wound that needs work dreams may be where our subconscious handles the healing process but life is where we take the stage. You just listen to The Post titled the ruse by Casey main of Casey main.com. I thought that was a super interesting one didn't go where I expected it to. Hope you enjoyed that one to thank you again. Augusto Gusto offers modern easy payroll benefits and HR to small businesses across the country. They were even named best online payroll by PC mag. Get three months free. When you run your first payroll at Gusto.com hold this gu sto.com 0ld. All right, I'll leave it at that. Hope you're having a great day. Thank you for being here and listening to me and for subscribing to the show. I'll be back tomorrow reading to you. So I'll see you there where your optimal life awaits.
Kacie Main shares her thoughts on the healing process. Episode 1363: The Ruse by Kacie Main on How To Heal Ourselves & The Healing Process Kacie Main's affinity for writing started as a child, writing arguably overly emotional letters to family, friends, and boyfriends, and even an anonymous poem to a widowed neighbor. The first paper she wrote in college was nominated for a first-year writing award yet she still didn't think to pursue writing as a career. She spent years successfully wandering through jobs but always trying to figure out "what I want to be when I grow up." As her career path zigged and zagged, writing was always there, lurking in the background patiently waiting it's turn. Then at 32 years old, the patience ran out. She didn't sit down to write her book, it jumped out of her at perhaps the worst, best, most confusing, and most liberating time of her life. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts! Gusto is making payroll, benefits, and HR easy for small businesses. Get 3 months free once you run your first payroll with our link: Gusto.com/OLD  ---   Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/optimal-living-daily/support 