Welcome to my life because it has supplied episode 277. Today was test Volvo FL exactly the midpoint of this month that both concludes. We make a Cashman accounting for the past year as well as Creator. Shahana preparing for the new year. But Tesla well also has a significant particularly in the Chabad calendar, which of course is effects. Not just how bad but the world itself entire Jewish world and entire world that on this day was the founding of It's mmmm Lubavitch. She was tempted women the year tough relations Ian 122 years ago on this day. So let's talk about that since it's the day we'll also talk about high L, which is later in the week and also about pasha's cassava is coming Shabbos and this is the week of Pastor cassava. So test Vaudeville says, well, those are theme we've spoken about number of times and what was the significance of the shipment of the Yeshiva. So the lab Richard who founded the issue event and the point that his son has been Yahoo! The Frigid ever to be the maniacal to be the leader to lead the Yeshiva and directed it was the focus of it was as he puts in a Country Estates are Jaime roll entire country's entire booklet describing. The purpose of the Yeshiva says there many is shiva's and there are many good years. She was teaching Taylor. He's not here to just add another issue another to learn Taylor alone, but it's the train. Generation of students with Taylor and without feathers at Phil and with Premier cetera to be armed to be able to face and deal with the challenges that are coming. Meaning not just a theoretical and academic but act applied tater. Applying it to real life and doing it in a way that will be in require. I'm a citizen nefesh and they may love and passion which isn't just purely driven by abstract Academia and knowledge and information but a total commitment which comes through pretty me cetera that adds that Caius and that vitality and later in a talk that he delivered and tougher is some McAuliffe and some cos Theta which is 1901 1900. Actually he speaks. Famous talk he gave color Yates Elohim as base David all those that go out into the war of the House of David and describes the achieve in that context as Warriors, but not in the military sense not in the physical sense, but spiritual Warriors who will fight the cynicism and we'll fight the skepticism and we'll fight those that oppose the Divine and that opposed. Mushiya as he elaborates in that talk. So when you think of it that way and you Shiva not just to teach not to minimize it. Anyway, the knowledge of Tater and the learning of theta and becoming a observant Jew being observant Jew that's committed to Mitzvahs behavior and The Vedas at Villa and everything that Judaism asks of us. But in addition to that to be armed to be able to go out and fight those battles that were brewing and will only accelerate the 20th century. So in that sense its relevance to us is extremely extremely relevant because we are in the And where we Face many many battles in that context spiritual relevance judaism's relevance and the high rates of assimilation. So here you see the fruition of the vision of the Debonair SOB that the building of the Yeshiva was to create the training ground for people to deal with these challenges today. And as a result, that's where the debe plucked his his soldiers the young men and women that will grow in our analysis are educated in time commitment. And the relevance to each one of us, of course is that we are not just learning Teta. I'm not just keeping mrs. But we're also here to use it in a way that applies and creates a way to excite people in a passionate way to be committed to making a deliberate act and remembering the goal and bring the Messiah. So in the context of a citizen applied how apropos it is. I myself learned in temperate mmmm which train there. So I'm a product one of the products of this of this training school. taught and trained in the ways of Taylor and citizen a methodology as I said to empower people to Enlighten them to inspire them until ultimately give them all the resources that they already have and revealing them the the compelling sense of urgency to go out there and be a proactive Jew a Jew that driven by Passion to commit committed to changing the environment around you and ultimately the world around us all say Hi l as we know Kyle is of course the birthday of the schnee hammer. It is suck dalen the birthday of both. The Baal Shem Tov and the alter rebbe the media sort of Taylor's considers her clothes the founder of the general cities and the founder of cities Chabad. Both are Heil and the expression was that was they're both born game reveai this year. It's also um dov'è IL involved as I know. Yes and the Wednesday and the embryos says not by she Yamcha by not Lama is time when God basically hung up the great luminaries in heaven the two great luminaries. This case is about something banal Devon who both brought what we just described and revealed the inner dimension of theta the Plymouth cetera. That was always there was given up Matt and Tara but then as the generations especially in later generations was necessary both because the world is a darker place and also as we get closer to mushiya, we have a foretaste of what will happen. Mushy x times to learn the inner Dimension to learn about godliness. Not just what God wants of us. Not just the mechanics of Judaism, but The inner workings of the neshamah of the the higher oil massage in the higher worlds and everything that we accomplish that is so important today because without it. Unfortunately, we live in an environment without it that we can also just have mechanical Judaism and Technical Judaism but not necessarily see and feel it's personal vitality and relevance in our lives - name a decided alien each in their own ways expression used at the alte dumbbell shaped of taught that every person can serve God every person can reach God and the altar debit on how everyone can reach God the example. One of the examples of leading could have been gives is the is that the is that as the the Baal Shem Tov provided the ladder and I'll tell Eva taught us how to climb the ladder and the process created a comprehensive system of citizens Chabad with by the Baal Shem Tov in the market is still on the kudus short points and altitude was marketed, especially after paterberg after he was released from prison after the storytests Kozlov. So we have today a comprehensive blueprint that applies Taylor and Yiddish kite in a personal way in addressing all the challenges that we have and not just the body of Judaism but also the soul of Judaism so you have the fusion of the inner and the outer wear when you have the fusion of that you have not just the technical body of it. You also have the soul of it which is so much the essence of this program, which is taking us to this but citizen of course means see this and neglect because they're part of Part and parcel of one Tate is Ted. I can still go Lana. It's one Teta. It just has different dimension. So you can learn to hit the Shabbos in Ziggler. You'll learn about the laws of Shoppers the mechanics what you're supposed to do what you're not supposed to do when and how and all the details and Premier started will tell you what happens on shops how the world's are elevated how we are elevated how it transforms us now always transformed us and didn't always have to be spelled out except you see this girl individuals. But today we needed spelled out as is discussed at length. We've spoken at length about it and this program. So how yellow when we celebrate scale the birthday the birthday of these two great minutes and then these two great luminaries, we honor and celebrate not just something that happened but something that's happening now and the and in the context of that, of course in the month of elul expression High L. It brings a highest into the month of L. LL always existed L was always the month of accounting for the previous year and the preparation for the new year, but you want to highest in L.A. Vitality. A dynamic energy level D kite a life full of life and passion excitement. That's what the two made us like they own but that's what considers does. So it doesn't create anything new but it reveals the inner dimension of the Soul within at all. So if you think about the teachings of the Baal Shem Tov whether it was the focus on a versus slow loving every fellow whether it was the concept of Perpetual creation concept of Divine Providence at everything a Drew Caesar. Here's is a lesson in the serving God and the other principles. These are all principles that always existed. There's no Critters fundamental hitters, but the emphasis and how to do it. That's what the Baal Shem Tov in the ultra by added. Of course with the maggid that student of the great Margaret the students of the Baal Shem Tov in the teacher of the Alta Deb and all the lab came afterwards. That's what they added. So obviously slow. It's a bit soon detective. I have to let her come on Zack Lord. God will be Theta says rabi Akiva so fundamental principle, but the question is, how do you do that by focusing on the neshamah of it when you see the neshamah, then you could say you know, what, even if I understand something you can see, how could I like a person you can't regular you can't tell me I should be kind and not be mean to anybody but actually love another person as you love yourself, but then when you understand the neshamah, which is about Shem Tov thought and the alter rebbe explains it so beautifully and pay the Klamath Basin Tanya and other elaborations Exodus on this topic preciate. Neshama. You can appreciate the oven and the same thing with our graph approaches Divine Providence has their different opinions on the matter. But Divine Providence is a principle and Taylor that guard runs the show And yet focusing and shining the light to be able to appreciate the other pretty clever was once in the visited in Germany. She was a she was staying in a hotel delegation of German rabbis from German Orthodox. Jordan. Rabbis came to see him and one of the questions they asked them they were sitting in the lobby was what did this come to contribute? They didn't have asses they were extremely committed Community for many many years and if they could have answered with looking around the lobby says what do you see the lobby had these very large Exquisite pillars marble pillars pillars of marble. They described what they see. Well pretty good ever stood up from the sofa and walked over to them with them to the one of the pillars and shined a lamp on the pillar of says, what do you see now you say we see the Engravings? We see the flowers we see the Different the different images etched in the marble. Why didn't you mention that earlier? They said because we were looking from a distance from a distance. So the marble pillars we didn't see the details. You didn't see the flowers. So that's what cities did it did not create anything new it reveals the flowers within the pillars that were always there. and that's what we think thank God for and with gratitude then we honor and celebrate the high L and fitting that it be in high Elwood IL also begin the last countdown of the last 12 days of the month of El Toro Shoshanna each day corresponding to one of the months of the past year and the web ads also to the to the coming year each day corresponds to Counting for the month that cars boxer IL corresponds to tissue that you tessel to Cashman and so on there's much much more to be said But suffice it with that and finally Pasha case of a celeb explains partially cassava connecting it to Kil case of a lot is the work is solving means when you will enter and and beer meaning Soviet when you enter into something it's an intimate and internalized way. So he said say the partial were coming from is about leaving going out to fight a war a battle because battles meant to be found outside of you and kiss overload its is entering in and what happens the midst of be couldn't of the first fruit offering acknowledging that the first fruit the best fruit the blade be couldn't from the world behavior. And that's why I prayed also by human beings and behave better camera and other first the morning my Danny we begin with that you dedicated the Was to God so cassava Daris when you enter the land that just when you will arrive when you'll enter which means you'll be internalized in what in the promised land and it's just slow. That's what cities does it creates a preemies. So the famous expression of the camera and baracus in any anchor the nurses goes like this gun Vavoom, octatrack Monica area Agony before he goes out to steal he prays to God to succeed, but that sounds insane God. I said Lee Siegel Nave in the ten commandments. So you want to ignore God you're in a moment of denial moment of momentary Insanity in of them even have Ellen campaign Nicholas Ray alien can Nicholas by roosters, but you're inviting God and saying God help me do something you told me not to do. How do you explain that inconsistency the dissonance and the answer is because our moon is maki Market means you can have a moon. It's not fake a moon, but you haven't internalized it. So there's a contradiction does not disturb the dissonance between what you believe and what you do and at the moment you do believe in God, she asked him to help and you forget these. Are you ask him to help you do something. That is it he told you not to do what is it has come takes their Moon of markets and puts it into a penis. He's so Viola audits in a pretty Is that is internalized? So it's not just an abstract belief not just a belief that doesn't necessarily affect them permeate every aspect of you but one that does Infuse and permeate every aspect so there we have lessons from test vulval Heil and partially cassava. I'll also give some cross-referencing and here's a good opportunity. This is episode 277. This is the first time you're listening to the program. Welcome if it isn't the first time so you know by now. Oh that all these episodes are archived in exodus supply.com. Yes, we created its own website because of the demand because of the need and to keep it focused and this is applied that combo you can find this and all previous episodes and they're in the cross referencing an episode 82 132 178 and 227 in previous years. I spoke about these themes different angles and different aspects if you're interested in hearing more about it. You just go there and You can go the timestamps the YouTube version when you click on the YouTube version on the desktop or a laptop. Not not on a mobile phone. You will find the time stamp that takes you straight to the topic. You may be seeking. There's also an opportunity there. You'll see there's a forum where you can submit any question you like. Nothing is off-limits. Nothing is taboo and the completely anonymously sent in place looks it has supply.com ask or just look you'll find it easily as well as other acidic resources. Of applying cities to our lives including a whole section of some of evolved and how class section and I am base. These are the classic discourses of the Deborah shop explain them translate them flowing summaries. And of course the essay contest the essays that have been submitted over the past five years by SAS from all over the world applying see this to a contemporary issue or challenge. Let's now go to questions. So question one that we're going to address now is is it prohibited to see a psychic? Thank you so much for your insightful talks. Quick question. Is it against the Jewish religion to see a psychic? Okay, it's interesting. I looked around I didn't really think about this accepted episode 27 where I did discuss it. And so that complements whatever I'm going to say now. So let's first begin with one important statement. Not everyone that Society calls themselves a psychic is a psychic. They're probably I would say the largest percentage. I may be a very large percentage are con artists or looking to make a quick buck and taking advantage of people's vulnerabilities So that obviously there's no that question, of course. And apply yub Kong by a con artist and why spend money but let us speak about someone that may actually have certain strengths. The Taylor does not deny. There's certain strengths and yet there's clear sukham that prohibit the going to anything of that type of form, but it's called a psychic or this called other names Sorcerers fortune tellers. So the Tater talks about the passion shaved impartial we're at last week. And passion shaved him Capital youth has 18 10 to 12 explicitly prohibits the going there and concludes Tom empty and my Chemeketa go straight in God's path. Tell him team a shuttlecock remains be complete be wholesome be straight simple. With God we don't need to find exotic methods and tricks and someone even if they actually have some strengths which again, as I said is also the most cases not even true. It's also a shim in safer vehicle. You Tesla mad Olive and how long are you looking at a time bomb Hills as you say they are Teta paid acute 10 lakh agimo 3 and of course, you still cannot hear the day. It is a whole section A whole simenon. It's even cufi in tests. Which is 179 so it just is clearly prohibited and just stay away from it. And the if you want the logic of it is because as I said be straight with God God has given us the resources. We need we don't need tricksters. We don't need any type of unique approaches. Especially that are not Divine and not driven by Bickle. There is the concept of a prophet a prophet but that also has severe strict criteria. What is a true Prophet versus a false prophet and the prophet is not about him. It's God prophesizing through this purse. So God wants to communicate with us, but anything that had starts having its own power so to speak and it could have is something we stay away from it's like anything that has is not like it could cover my Solace for example, the stars and the constellations. They have strengths given them by God, but it's not their own. All they are is a goddess and the other hates it it's an axe in the hand of the axman. So we don't look at that as well, even though there may be some strengths in mausolea slow, but don't even look at the Mosel because we're beyond my Solace. So that's the brief answer. And as I said, I spoke about episode 27 next question. How do I move on from my parents? Ugly divorce? Hi, Rabbi Jacobsen. I hope you get my letter. You don't know me, but you do know my parents. I recently found your show on YouTube. Although I'm not religious. My dad is and you and you present Judaism in a very meaningful way. I hope you can address my question. I'm 15 years old and I've suffered tremendously by my parents divorce my parents separated when I was 2 years old and my mother hurled all sorts of allegations against my father namely that he was abusive to her. And to me my father my parents finally came to an agreement which gave them joint custody, but then my father met his second wife and my mother moved to a different country and I went along with her. I became estranged from my father and very bitter. I believed all my mother's Lies about my father how he was abusive incapable of loving and manipulative. I even told my father that I no longer loved him and wanted nothing to do with him. I have some very nasty and hurtful things I said. I said some very nasty and hurtful things to him thinking that he is the monster my mom made him out to be my mom even changed my last name to her. Maiden name. I haven't seen or even talked to my father in many years. Thank God. I begun to see through the Mirage as I mature. I can see that my father was a loving kind man who has been unjustly maligned by my mother and I'm fernan unfairly taken out of my life while I can't know what went on during my parents marriage. I know my father never abuse. And as long as he was able to was very involved in my life and a great father. I can see a pattern in my mother's family of not remaining religious of divorce of accusations against their husbands and of Parental alienation, my mom and two of my aunt's have done it. My great-aunt also did it also keeps I also see that my father has had a stable marriage with his second wife and seems to be a great dad to stepkids. Although I haven't seen any of them in years. I could see on Facebook that they all seem to love him. My mom has let me down and I have suffered tremendously as a result of my parents divorce. I'm still young and live with my mom but have begun to be really upset at her for all the Havoc. She's created in my life. I feel I can't reach out to my father after all the horrible things. I've said to him spurred on by my mother and her Venom. I don't want to leave her and I don't want and I don't know what I would be that I would be able to live with my dad and His wife also, my dad is religious and since my parents divorce, I wasn't raised religiously and don't think that I want to do that right now. I really feel trapped. How do I move on from here? I wrote to you because I don't know who else to write to this entire situation is so embarrassing and sad for me. Okay. pains me greatly to read a letter like this to hear this and of course hard going out with full empathy to the person who has written this and yet I feel actually honored that you've written to me and that you have entrusted someone that's a complete stranger with your sacred trust and feel honored also to be able to share this with others because it's vital that people be able to speak up and have the Dignity of expression and know that someone will listen and respect and respect their questions and respect their space and respect their their dignity so though it's painful but at the same time as I said, I feel honored and thank you for the opportunity. So let me share a few words that I can share on a program like this. Obviously. I always add it's important you speak to someone and I would be honored if you want to reach out to me and we speak by phone or in person. But since this is a topic that may affect others and some have not spoken up and suffer. So Don't lie. Let me say a few words first lie. It's horrible. It's terrible what parents can do to children and I'm assuming obviously I have to always say that disclaimer that what's written here is accurate not to suggest the person writing is not accurate, but often a person writes in pain, it's not always necessary exactly and I'm again, I'm not just throwing any aspirations. I just say that whenever you're dealing with something to really get all the facts you need to hear everybody involved but this is not a dictator. So I'm speaking and assuming everything here is exactly accurate. So it's horrible what parents can do to It happens all the time. Unfortunately parents who are supposed to love children the children have nothing but the parents especially in young age. That's what you learn love. That's where you learn confidence that we learn trust. That's where you learn security and self-esteem and so many other forces that are necessary vital to have a live a healthy life. Unfortunately parents can strip that away from children and you're describing exactly that And though you can use your mother. As I said, you have to always know all the sides of the story. I'm not suggesting you father. Did any of the things that your mother said especially now that you've come to that Clarity and I'm accepting that but again the point here is not just about pointing fingers is really how to move forward. That's your real question. So firstly let me say this. I think you must reach out to your father Yes. You said that terrible things to him, but you you were under duress and you were misinformed and you were manipulated frankly. Stan the way you described it. So I don't see any reason you cannot write or talk or some way open up the door to your father. I assure you he's your father and loves you and you can apologize if you feel the need and speak to them. So I definitely would reach out and would not give up on that at all. Now we're to move away to live. That's another step to talk about step number one so that I would immediately advise thought even any hesitation to reach out and you'll be surprised because second point and that is that you need as much resources and support as you can get and your father's your father. Your mother clearly has hurt you and you're not interested in her support and it could very well be at this point. It's time to move out from her house. You growing into an adult? I don't know what age you are. But that's some point you will be able to build your own life. So my objective here is not to go back and deal with the Grievances of the past though that there are legitimate but really to empower you to move forward and build your life. You should be able to find the proper spouse and build a family and a home in a beautiful way and learn from what was done to you how not to do it. And find a good partner in life that will help you that regard. That's what you want. You don't want to be haunted by and wounded by in any way impeded by what happened to your life what happened happened, but we can always heal it we can always grow whether you can build a relationship with your father with your mother. That is wait. It's we wait to be seen but you can try with your mother may be more complicated because she's directly hurt you but the stronger you become the more empowered you'll beat of deal with them. The last thing you want is that your life be consumed with reconciliation with your parents or with anger and resentment and with and with all the negative feelings that come with us this type of Abandonment and this type of abuse and hurt so I'm can't change the past the hurt is not going to go away but you can transform the hurt into something very powerful and beautiful and build a relationship. Again, I say that you should talk to somebody besides what I'm saying right now and I'm just opening the door by beginning the topic and hopefully will give you the courage and the strength to reach out either to myself or to others that can help you with this and I say this to anyone else was dealing with similar situation do not be silent reach out. Obviously look for people you can trust here's a form where I will address it in the purest possible way the most confidential possible way without any judgment without any condescension. Out any preconceived notions everybody deserves to be heard. Everybody deserves to heal everybody deserves to grow through the pains and suffering that we've gone through especially when we were impressionable vulnerable. An unprotected children at the hands of unfortunately vicious abusive adults. And if this program means anything I can tell you that for me one of the groans gratifying things is to be able to provide that type of platform provide that type of voice to yourselves and to anyone dealing with any type of suffering or any type of pain that often we endorse silently and don't feel the ability to express or the courage to Express Freight. Judgment afraid of stigma and so on. So please know that's not the case and suffice it to say as I said the points. I just made more can always be said and if you are listening, please reach out or reach out to somebody that you feel you can trust I have spoken about related topic and episodes 268 and 269. Without let us go to the next question. How much should one reveal about their own past experiences when trying to help others. There are by Jacobson. I'm a boxer and 770 for the past two years. I've tutored a young slave from a remote City via Skype once a week. We've developed a good relationship and I'm tight with the parents to a few days ago. They told me how the kid is depressed being disrespectful questioning life. Purpose low self-esteem asking them different questions. They revealed to me the shocking news how the kid has issues with inappropriate internet usage. I was and I'm still blown away and speechless. And they told me how they reached out to a from therapist remotely but they haven't seen results. So I decided that that's it. I have to save this kid's life and I told him quote I'm telling you a secret that no one in the world besides my must be a nose. My mentor knows that I too went to therapy since I had emotional issues and saw instant results. So I have experience in dealing with emotional issues emotional issues. They were so touched how much I care for their son to reveal such private things about my life. I didn't say I too have issues with inappropriate usage. I too was exposed at age 13, unfortunately, but I'm having a conference call tomorrow with the parents to discuss with them about the therapy. I had how my life changed for the good that cetera to save this young innocent and precious. Neshama Soul which was exposed to pornography at that tender age of 30. Here's the million-dollar question. Should I tell the parents that I had this issue at age 13 to and how I kind of got my act like acting out under control somewhat or just tell them I have a friend who has these issues and so I know a lot of in this field or just refer them to the guard your eyes website which deals with these situations. If I do reveal my true story. I have a better chance of helping the kid by sharing my experience and tools I've used Etc on the other hand saying the truth might cause them to get turned off from having to do with me even though technically they really think hi. You have me as I've helped their son out tremendously in the past. What would you suggest what would you suggest in? Such a situation warm regards? Okay, I don't know if it's still relevant because this letter which was definitely written before yesterday. But I'm sure it's relevant to you and maybe to others that have similar question. So from my point of view the criteria to answer your question is one and one only what will be helpful to help this child. It's not about you venting. You can find a therapist and other people to talk about it's about helping the child. So my leaning is in general that you reveal only that which is necessary to reveal to help this child. Do you? To start speaking about all your experiences, not necessarily not whether the because they'll respect. You're not respect you. It's that important to tell everybody. And about credibility credibility you shown already the fact that you have the empathy that compassion they care and that you share that you do have your own therapy without going into details. I don't see why you have to go further than that. I don't see any need to establish on to explain and to reveal what you went through. We've had this question asked in my months ago and this program regarding should do him how much you reveal about past experiences and so on but they're the question of course is going to affect another person's life here is not affecting someone else's life. Now. If you are suffering from this and questions, should you be a tutor when you yourself have problems. It's another discussion. That's not the issue. Clearly. You've gotten beyond the thank God. So I see no reason unless there's a very strong reason that it will help the child that you should have to share this. And I say this across the board with any given situation you share what's necessary? You don't share what's not necessary. There's no need to go overboard. Everything has its time as place and to the right people. So that's my response to this unless there's something I'm missing. There's always information. I mean, I've been shared here that that would be my opinion and my suggestion. Okay next question immaturity. How do I overcome my feeling immature at age 40? Something I was told repeatedly when I was a child. I'm 40 plus and I feel like I'm immature as a child. I was told this many times. My father even told me before my bar mitzvah that he needs to talk to other of if I'm fit to late filling. Whoo, when I need to discipline my children. I sometimes break out in a laugh while trying to keep a serious face. How do I overcome this? For my reaction to father telling a child whether he needs to ask a row of is I would consider to be quite harmful. But let's break this into a few parts. First of all, no parent is perfect. And we all as parents laugh and smile to ourselves at times when we try to discipline our children. We ourselves were guilty exactly what our children are doing. And we sometimes even think why did the children respect those so much they really knew who are you know, why why do they see us as such Authority? So we all have that type of sense of Nicole duplicity but a certain type of humor you can say lightness about it. So none of us are perfect. That's number one. So the issue of discipline your children, you have a responsibility to discipline as far as your feelings of immaturity goes and unfortunately, it sounds like it was fed by your father or other. Experiences in your impressionable years. Look we all go through maturity. Physically. There's a chronological maturity as a child grows into a adult its adolescence and adulthood and finally into which into the later mature process as we grow older, but then there's psychological emotional and intellectual maturity which means not just your mind grows, but your attitude your emotions that you're not affected by the same things that a child is affected by if you indeed suffering from side table immaturity whether it's an emotional immaturity or other type of immaturity, so that's something you should speak to someone. I see firstly how accurate to this it could very well be it somewhat exaggerated because you still remember the haunting voice of your father and that's still residents still echoes in your psyche and it's causing you to feel that way. Every one of us is as I said is not perfect. Everyone else is also not perfectly mature. We all have immature elements to us. So I need to I would need to hear more with this feeling of immature as is it completely in your mind completely in your own subjective perspective or is there more to it? And if there's more that can be addressed if it's in your head that also needs to be addressed and people can help you with your father today. You're over 40 years old. So you have to rise to the occasion and go reach for it for help. If you think you cannot do it yourself, so my answer to this as I said, we break it into several parts. I would not say I'm not going to educate my children because I'm immature that's not an excuse you do the best you can and you should talk to someone and figure out what do you mean by you're not immature? What does that mean? Exactly? You have Tantrums. Are you unable to control your own impulses? What does the immature mean? Do you have a very thin skin and a lot of different aspects and how that manifests and with loving people and hopefully have a loving spouse you can get through anything and figure out how much is real how much is not real and what you can do about it. And then the day behaving immaturely makes you more mature rise to the occasion. Okay next question. a woman's maiden name Does the rubber speak about a woman not keeping her maiden name after marriage? I don't recall the rebbe ever speak about it. So let's just get that out of the way, but I will say this. Where's it come from the concept remember there was a time that no one, you know one had family names. They were no surnames people were called by their first name some point the Middle Ages. They say more like the 17th 18th century and different countries happen in different ways surnames began to be added because too many people were called by the same name so they gave us her name either based on occupation or based on your father's name. Or based on the city you lived in Etc. A different countries did this in different ways some countries actually did it in a demeaning way, especially for Jews some didn't a more respectful way. So the whole concept of a of a surname of a family name is altogether not a Toyota thing in the trailer. You don't find family names Malaysia on you have the SWAT team Reuben Simeon Levi Etc. So since the concept does not attain a concept the whole idea of a woman assuming the name of her husband is basically part of the culture when it comes to Judaism. There is the concept of the woman deferring to the man a man being so to speak the leader of the household now that a woman is no leader but these type of matters some say they exposed miss pactum the base a vase on the Taylor speaks about the talks about families the base of racism to the house of their fathers base of Viva. So that can be somewhat of a I wouldn't say it's a locker not even a meaning but somewhat the reason that that's the way it warned the mini Gwen that the women assume the husbands names now for professional reasons can a woman continues in a row maiden name or also her maiden name? I've not seen a bottom say no unless there's some particular reason that it seems to be create will create conflict, but I don't think anyone has passed can oh, but the overall That's the custom and the as I said the custom of the land sometimes affects also do dinner democracy dinner when it's not how logic issue. She means we follow the customs of the land which is more or less. I believe the reason that this is done that way with some of the Smock that I just gave the descriptions of the Theta also, we know swattin which tribe you are goes by the father, but whether you're Jewish or not goes by the mother. So knowing the tribe is more connected to a name. It's a name. It's an ID. So to speak the idea of the person and that explains. It's a hella cute and violates a look at the circus why the shave it which is more Gilliam goes by the man and and the father and the it's a minion of users guide goes by the women, which is more that's me so you can say the same thing with names. It's not the ask me. It's more of an ID the ID number. So that's what I have to send this if anyone has more information on the topic by all means this is I'm sharing is what I'm aware of and what I've I've discovered a what I've researched and what I've heard over the years. Okay next question. Talk about women women singing Magoon. Mmm. How do we explain men not being allowed to hear women singing and how do we manage this thing at a Shabbos table when there's an equal mix of men and women? the rabbi Jacobsen I have a question regarding singing the gunam at the Shabbos table due to the prohibition of kaisha collisions. The voice of a woman called cliche are over to be exact in the commodity because the issue is sexual. This is the male sees that the table are not permitted to listen to females over a certain age sink what happens unfortunately, is that whatever I start whenever I start anagen the women take that as a cue to begin chatting since they feel they cannot join in the singing the vibe of the table is very haphazard and I do not like it. Is there any way to counteract this perhaps could the women hum along in a low tone? So at the very least they can participate in Nevada of the Negan It bothers me that women feel as though the nigun does not belong to them. We should not let the halacha alienated important members of our Jewish Family many. Thanks in advance for okay. Yeah, another question of this regard choral singing. I have a I have a question to your Rabbi Jacobsen. How do I explain to my five-year-old son who asked me why girls are allowed to listen to boy singing But boys are not allowed to listen to girls singing that's interesting. I looked at the previous episodes. I thought for sure I would have spoken. About this and I'm almost sure I did but I couldn't find it to be honest. They are after all two hundred and seventy six episodes. So if anybody does know when I spoke about it, I know it's odd request. I don't know how would you know, but who knows please pointed out to me, but we'll continue looking but regardless let's first begin with the actual subject matter itself. So when it says the grammatical issues are votes or societal issues, but you should over the here why women cover their hair after marriage? What does ever ever is expression for sexuality? Some say it's connected to sensuality that things are not because there's something ugly about it or something disgusting about it or obscene on the contrary because it's so pure and holy what do you cover when something is very hot. What are you doing? Something is very holy like the holy of holies. No one enters their the reason Sania is in general the Dignity of sneeze, of course his dignity as we've talked about many times why we cover ourselves and whether it's women or men is the hats the Legacy Michelle malakal go with the walk. Dignity before your God and parts of the body that are designated for intimate experiences. Whether it's Intimacy in marriage or priests or people's personal intimate spaces. This is something we cover physically and also psychologically because remember covering is not just you can cover something and still be very promiscuous in your body language and other forms of expression. So covering is also a certain element of this. Discretion of being discreet could the bus smell of ponemah the Taylor designates what has that sensual power and among the things is besides body parts that we're all aware of are also the parts and that includes the here and includes a woman's voice. Now, you could say a man's voice can also be stimulating and also emotional but it doesn't have quite that power. I remember once a sickening. I'm still looking for the source or the rabbit says Negan is God going him is yearning and women have a deeper element of Yearning that meant So when they sing is coming from a even more intimate place in the soul than a man cool muscle love is a song. It's the the quill of the heart and that heartfelt. This is more there in the feminine side. So the tail is not saying because I ugly voice of because there's something wrong because it's going to because it's going to provoke someone is because of that beauty of that inner beauty that remains Within Now that has to be taught properly because you don't want to make a woman or a girl feel something Less on the contrary something more that's on the general concept of what we're talking about as far as the Practical side of it. So first of all, as will point that out there is Sir. The prohibition is not for a woman to sing this for a man to hear sink woman's allowed to sink this question whether she sees men there's with navy related to mix all these different discussions, but it's not her singing as the issue the issue is that singing should be done among because of that intimate nature and that's why you have today a lot of different groups cropping up with women as musicians and singers and so on and great let them find that expression because it was never a problem that was never the issue with them expressing themselves women expressly on the contrary. I just said their expression of song is more powerful even than a man's expression of song. As far as situations where you have a table with people. Yes, it's true. It can become very chaotic. So there are different how lockers on the matter whether women singing in a group or humming along and you don't really hear their voices and issue. But if you go with a more stricter interpretations, we're even humming and even if it's a group is it should be avoided then I think the way to do it is probably the best way is always to go up front and talk about it going to sing a nigga now and maybe even explain And no it's not a time to chatter. It's a time to participate sometimes you participate just like when the rebel would sing a song Some of the conops. He was only one that's saying and we listened and then we followed up with a song so singing is part of it listening is also a part of it and I'm not trying to be patronizing. I'm just trying to suggest creative ways how you can deal with something of this nature. I think if we apply ourselves and we understand the soul and the basis of the whole concept of women singing be a lot easier to explain it to ourselves and to others I think many of us are self-conscious because it sounds like you know weird and I'm not suggesting. It doesn't initially it sound that way but when you begin to understand how Taylor is so sensitive to sensuality and sexuality because of its beauty because of its power then you begin to understand that everything matters even a touch. Yes, because everything has potency in it. We live in a desensitized world. So okay as who sings who cares if someone touches on what the big thing a handshake but when you're in a very sensitive place where you recognize the beauty Of these forces, then it's a very different story as far as how to explain it to a child. I think the way you explain intimacy to a child in a way you could say that just like boys and girls don't go to school together just like they don't intermingle and socialize together why because that's being reserved from the time they get married and God created a man and a woman to get together in sanctity and be married and joined an intimate way. I'm not saying you have to say all that to the child, but that's the gist of it. And therefore the same thing is with sinking as it is with other things. Why does your mommy where a sheitel and your father doesn't the answer is because here has certain powers that are Shem says same thing a woman's voice has power. So those she could hear you sing because boys don't have quite that power. I think you're going to explain it without any provocative way without being controversial by simply explaining that different women different people men and women have their strengths and the tail is teaching us how to harness them and how to direct them not to how to silence them how to use them for Fullest possible way and be careful when something is is not is not being can be abused the same thing with If the child asks you why do I have to cover myself the answer is because certain parts are more intimate certain parts are more powerful more holy and they need to be respected in a world that is hostile and a world. That's more callous too much too intimate. Okay with that. Let us move on to the next question. The next question is interesting question. Have you interviewed people who have become observant and then return to their previous lifestyle to understand the causes for their choices. The way the person word it a little more bluntly. Have you interviewed people have come and gone to from kite to find out what caused them to return to their previous lifestyle. I've always been afraid embarrassed too insecure to debrief anyone who has done this. So my answer is no I don't interview people and especially not people go through different challenges in life, it's not the way to go I've had conversations with people so that's how I would phrase it conversations with many people and yes, I've heard many different thoughts and feelings and so on I'm not going to create any formula because I don't think that's what we should be doing. I'll talk more in a sensitive way, but I want to begin that I did discuss some of the topics of people who become from and then Have left it and you know, I always qualify what is from me and what means leaving it. So all these words are loaded many ways, but I'm using words that people use meaning abstence ability or seemingly observant and other similarly not many often. I see people who seemingly are observant and are not observing them people who are seemingly not observant and they're very observant. So that's why I'm qualifying that so I spoke about an episode 21 195 and 271 what I like to say about this at least briefly is the following In general when talking about people in their Journeys, I'll tell the nurse have a real shot at Gilliam camcorder never judge a person until you've been in their shoes. We don't know what people go through in both directions, whether when they're coming closer to you the sky than closer to observance and what level of observance and to people who may be traveling God forbid the other direction or those that were born into it. We have to always tread carefully because we're dealing with a soul a holy Divine Soul that's going on is trajectory on his journey. And that journey is a sacred journey and our role is to be the be helpful or supportive, but definitely not to be critical in judgment. So there's every conversation. I've had many with people who've gone on this journey in both directions The key thing was sensitivity. They asked me to help I tried to help I tried to First understand them. So it says, you know, I've been through my whole life. I don't feel for it. Just a few weeks ago. I met with someone who told me that so many times. What do I do? So each case, of course is Case by case. There's no one rules on a case like that. I try to First understand what's going on. Like what? Why were you more observant while s And sometimes you find out there in a marriage. That's a bad marriage and their culture and their spouses not observe and so weakens them the drains them because they feel they don't have a partner. Sometimes it's due to other factors. Sometimes do that the observance they had was never really filled with Vitality. It was by wrote. It was mechanical was out of guilt. Those other pressures out of peer pressure Etc. So that's why there's impossible to talk about all scenarios if the look at them all and you help the person and sometimes they say what is observance you talking about the details of following how laws of Shabbos and Cassius we talk about connection to God. Your soul and spirituality and then often you'll hear spirituality is not a problem. I'm having the details some people sometimes have a generalist spiritual crisis. So that's why it's impossible for me to speak about all these scenarios because there's so many so our role is to understand the person in order to help them in the way. They're asking you to help them to help them help themselves actually. So that's how I would respond to this question. It's not about trying to understand the exact and analyze. You know, what's the matter with you that you're returning to your lifestyle? Because many people had take that attitude that's almost like what's happened to you and maybe going to do chuva and it becomes very extreme. Very very the word. I want to use it. It's a turn-off for person to here and I've seen people who have not been around for a long time in the observance circles. They come in some says Ah you had to say it is true of you came for simple estate. You came for Yom Kippur. It's not a pleasant thing to say to somebody it sounds very condescending very judgmental and you don't even know where the person is. In from and why and when and it sounds like I you know, you came back to where I am. I know exactly what's right and now you're joined us back. I'm there. You're not there. That's a very inappropriate approach. That's why I'm careful how we speak about this topic. So I think I've covered enough and saying about this and with this let us move on if there's any follow-up, of course, please don't hesitate to write sometimes there's more to people's questions. That means the I have no many times. I've read a question gave an answer and then I received a follow-up from the writer that I actually meant a lot more and I just didn't write it out. So if that's the case, please don't hesitate regarding any of these questions or other questions as well. Okay, let's do some follow up now. So is the follow-up in the last week's episodes 273 through 276. I've been talking about mrs. Bassin a she'sa fast tire from pastors kids say that was last Sunday and Ben said it amid also from he said say these words about the four different types of deaths that the Tater prescribes the issues of Fosters the beautiful woman that is seen by someone and Conquest in war during war and mesoderm it is the rebellious child, but brother your son. So hi Robbie Jacobson. I just wanted to thank you very much for answering some of my questions the last few weeks regarding the for mrs. Besant. These four deaths HTC fostered a beautiful woman. Can Captivate cat held captive in after war and been Senator made it the rebellious son. They are concept I owe their concept. They are Concepts. I always wondered about and you shed a lot of light. Thank you for all the sources you quoted. I cannot I cannot imagine the time you put into research these and all topics you speak about much appreciated. Lots of continued had sloka another person writing on this topic says I was fascinated how you took topics that everybody's Is away from controversial topics and topics that seem impossible to explain and you really took the bull by the horns and you explain that with many many sources really powerful for me because I could see from that that even other topics that seem controversial have also answers. So thank you so much for that. Another follow-up was regarding images of women which we spoke about last week and episode 276 Shalom Rabbi Jacobsen. I listened to your segment regarding images of women and Publications and I'm happy that the rebel not only didn't ban them, but even encourage them. I don't think you appreciate how extreme it has become an artist at all where images of women are disappearing from public life pictures or posters that have the do have women's faces. Even if modest are routinely defaced and or ripped off it has gotten so ridiculous that an advertisement showing typical family in a park. So two men together with boys playing no females present at all. Does this represent a normal family quote unquote. We see more and more that girls in many communities are To be seen or heard all the name of sneers. Unfortunately many quote-unquote from communities are not following previous acceptable traditions and Customs from even one generation ago and showing respect for women, but are only becoming more extreme and less tolerant and our rabbinic leaders are too timid or too scared to stand up to these extremist groups and Trends blessings. Okay. Well, I I will just say when I said the rebbe encouraged under certain circumstances that that get that clear as I discuss them so your letter speaks for itself and I really have nothing to add and as I just said if anybody wants more on this topic, I spoke about it last week. Okay, and one more follow-up on healthy intimacy the follow-ups to healthy intimacy episode 273 made me so angry now. The other question was about a woman writing. How she does not feel used and she feels actually abused in Intimacy in their marriage because the husband is not respecting her and that context and that environment so I discussed it and this person writing now is upset with how people responded to it. I hope you're not angry at me. I don't think it's about me. I think it's about what the so she said, but the healthy the follow-ups made me so angry really a woman writes about her concerns that there may be undercurrents of abuse or lack of respect in front. Um bedrooms and all the responses it gets our men whining about not getting enough action or worried that they won't get responses. I'm sorry, they won't get enough when they get married. Seriously. That is your takeaway from This Woman's peace. I mean, the response is themselves just prove the writers point if this doesn't show that there is a problem and I don't know what else will how did a question about awareness of consent and respect for women become yet again about men women are worrying about being sexually coerced at And instead of protecting women and helping to spread awareness men are worrying that they won't get their needs met. Do we not see a sort of imbalance equation going on here? So yes, I totally agree with you and if I recall correctly when I spoke about the topic I did address the issue itself. Obviously whenever you're dealing with a woman complaining or saying something of this nature, you always want to hear both sides so that that's for simple balance and we have to be sensitive to everything here because sometimes the men don't even mean I'm not going by men that are doing things that are inappropriate but sometimes men don't understand that they're being aggressive or they're being inappropriate or they're not receiving the proper consent because they're halak us about this there how lockers how you're allowed to approach a wife grunting intimacy. It has to only be with her complete Goodwill. And complete consent. There's no such thing as God forbid doing something against her will so unfortunately, yes, some people are selfish and they focus on themselves. But thank you for your points and points well-taken. And that's why I read it. Okay with that. Let us now go to the city this the see this question, which is a follow-up part to the 10 hidden spheres to last week's episode. So to sum up quickly. The question. The question was, please explain that 10 hidden spheres where they are located and their role application and relevance to our lives. So I'm not going to review everything I said last week. I'll just sum it up. We spoke about their role of the Spheres in general as an interface Divine attributes from which evolved human attributes the human personality. So they become like a bridge an interface between us emulating God's attributes. So then we can connect to God himself who is of course beyond all attributes in those attributes themselves in those filters themselves. There is a revealed once usually called the SS. It's about Silas as his fears how glorious the revealed ones and there's the concealed ones which are higher than at Silas and I cited the sources of where the location is is attic or addict or a codon and I actually brought which my mom say it. In one place and I am base has also a lack of them Cadman but as he explains in one of the my modem. that that one of the my modem just looking it up. That they're almost proven in the Miami Alum. Hi honey, in the beard and darken sister and my mom they're all McLovin because it's higher than that still is in higher than its else is concerned safe, but we stop there. The question is SS Fierce diagnosis. The highest level is act. We know that very often and most people if you ask them who don't see this as intrinsic muscles are different options. But these sources Clearly say that he's all says it's after the symptom. It's on these levels. I think I did and and accordion and I mentioned Adam kadmon yet. We do have sources that we do find the 10 hidden spheres and 818 self living at symptom. And what's the source for that and that's we're going to continue now and address the second half of this topic. So in the part of this shot say that isil is chapter 4, it's one of the first Says there's a source for the concept of the tenets and spheres now. This is not lifting at Simpson because we know that part of this did not talk a know about the symptom but he talks about it in a Tanks off the concept of tenants fears. This is cited in a detainee in Union page 170 in khimka samokhvalov and in Cordova Shem Tov race amethyst. All signing this Palace, but the part of the says that the 10 hidden spheres besides the fact that we're not talking about symptom. He says is the root of the containers of the Kailyn and the aliens don't have a route because the Ada's are connected to the Divine. So there's no route. They never went through any diminishment. Remember the part of this is not connected to this. It does not know of the symptom which is another discussion what that means. So therefore he says is the root of the kahlan but according to the outside a box in his brings now therapist says clearly and this is in honoka sarap in the beard Exodus causes the beard of Shem. Hey, Moe. molasses So there's a beer in hand across a table. That's a noticeable drop in Chris Collins. I'm sorry, that pink is lasers. so I rap page 164 that he says in the name of the Alta Deb and this is the site's the quote he says there's fear has also an alien stuff but not in axles in that Suppose there nospherus but there's fetus in a tense of so we see from this that there's also an alien stuff and this is clearly a dance off before the symptom also 10 hidden spheres so what do we have from this that the tenants fears have many levels basically we'll discuss that in a minute so how do you consider reconcile that with ideas all that there are no spheres are definitions in place him somewhere because it's himself that's what that is all says in its kind that before the symptom they are passionate completely seamless and as we said before according to the result that 10 hidden spheres are after that symptom So how do you reconcile the Alta Rebel with a desire? So see this answers that example with names that the 10 hidden spheres before the symptom are not really a Macias that not yet substance there more conceptual like names when you call someone by a name before it the name was called. He doesn't yet have that identity. The name draws it out from him. So that's just a hidden sphere hidden sphere would be here. You have it the revealed faculty of let's say a peasant kindness and that hasn't behind the door so called behind the curtain. There's a hidden cache. Said like has no Lawman like hidden caves or even Kate has asked me but when you say a name you say you're a husband you're in this that salmon Ephesus higher than names. So the name draws it out and that's a muscle that's brought in Taylor are if I heal this office. And other places specifically in the minor Hillel Halal. I'm sorry hallel in Derek. Mr. Socko. Just looking for all the sources here. You take advice he 103 C Hollander cancer circus Island in Italian and Page. 277. Some art some art of relations Ian Kimble again from above and I am bass Volume 2 page 968 and that's considered the highest example for SS video signals these names because before there was nothing there the name is what draws it out when he acts on it. So really the review this video is actually are revealed not before the symptom. They become revealed the hidden spheres I should. A become concrete more concrete ties as hidden spheres after that symptom. So in a minor in invited not violated Shem Tov some tests involve. He says that that's the vote that after that SS feels that way that is ourselves. There's no spheres before The Chimps from because there's no mencius. They don't exist yet and example of names can explain that and where's the Mitzi us of ss. Fears is either an attack or attic a khuddam attic or artists as I explained. Okay. Now now as far as the examples the examples of see this brings many different examples from about the SS fearless and there's actually a fascinating other from the debe interruption tests physically abused my meat option has the mime it is zi aim for you based time as top-shelf ass in that Valium page 243 along her order and the rabbit says they're about the Michelle and there's different examples. I'm going from the bottom up from the more tangible to the more abstract. There's the example of Flame in a coal. This is from safety Etc. What is this example that the revealed Flamin Hot coal is the revealed spheres the flame that's within the hot call that you can't see as the hidden spheres. Yet see this goes and says beyond that the most of the part of this is of a Flintstone in a Flintstone. You don't even have a flame within the it's not even conceal the Flintstone you can put into water you can touch and you won't feel any heat. That's not the same with the hidden fire and a hot coal. So that makes it more abstract in the 10 hidden spheres. But even there it's still Flintstone is still a source for flame not for water for example, so it has some shape and form at least potentially so then comes the example of see this of cases are cloning bad to my nefesh. The kick is that are encompassed in the core of the Soul. This isn't there come to the sacrum. I'm Robin that we support chapter 66 what we spoke before volum kyani. Then there's an example of Citizen the my martyrdom of pesach tough cuffs a modality, which is the A veritable Charlotte Piet 481 and come I'm upon the punim of the Cuyahoga moskal the circle and the power of sale that's another example and that's also cited the derrickman to suck on the Mind Robin chapter 67 that I just mentioned and then there's ultimately the highest example of names because even the Creator Hamas Calista Lanyon of say hole there. The power for sale names is the most abstract and that's into the air and the other sources I just cited before. So the lab explains that when it comes to City asks is users Michelle him. Sometimes one muscle explains more the relationship between the hidden spheres and they revealed spheres. That's the example of the hit of the fire in the call the hidden fire in the cold and the revealed fire. If you want to speak about how the tenant is fears, aren't I with our abstract of and and and are Beyond structure you go to the example of the sort of Columbus of the of the Flintstone and the other example that I used. And then the double says regarding the example of names that's so that's definitely a different level of ss. For the second losses are completely higher level the Rebus differ suggesting more than suggesting. It's not just another example. It's actually a higher level of spheres where the other ones can be examples. Now this needs to be reconciled somewhat with the moment of early summer test. So there's a moment of fresh summer cuz I mentioned it before Cordova Shem were there. He says there are three General examples for the Hidden spheres and that reflect three different levels of the tendons fears. The only thing is we don't have the end of that Hampshire of that - so we only have that statement stated there a few more places. I'd give you some sources here is looking I am bass volume to the my miraculous and M are tough - I inhaie page that page 965 and on the Sha Sha La Mesa developers mimer tough, son of a and regarding the function of imba of the 10 hidden spheres. I am based chapter 15 chapter 21 and on and volume 2 page 960 3 and on so I think with that we covered the SS fetus and now let me conclude with the three essays. Quickly because of time limitations. So as always we do three essays. You know what before I go to this is let me just say one more thing. So the practical application of this I think is understood when you understand the concept of the of the interface is that this teaches us all the levels of these spheres teachers. This is all the levels we connect with. So just like we connect with our revealed faculties. That's a hazard. When you do have said what you want to do is connect it with the Hesed that's concealed. So you can reveal more and channel even more love in your life. Then you can Channel it even from a deeper. Of Customs because all these levels of the Spheres is also within us so with its four levels are five levels you go all the way to that semi nefesh and the point is to interface and draw forth from your deepest core Soul into your revealed faculties. And what's even more beautiful. That's an individual is that we also connect to God's the levels in the Divine energies. The first we connect our casa de Shams Cassatt then fashems hidden the has said an addict and then I Shams hidden Hazard an attic and then I Shams in Castle and I could him and then I Shams in the has a knack until a Shams in Hazzard, even if they had symptom but this is a journey each one of them is different because each which is another discussion for right now. But each one of them is in a more abstract way where you're connecting with the Divine attribute first. It's a more defined attribute till it becomes so abstract that it becomes so much more just expression of godliness like the name of Hashem calling him kale or custard. And then there's how take some more shape and form in the lower levels of the ten hit the Spheres until they express themselves in the revealed spheres. Regarding the three essays sa one is in Hebrew, which is terminal some ability contacts me protects him methods that lead to self improvement with Joy by City living on eh 56 car habad Israel. A teacher mcclellan's basic for habad. Okay, so as the as the title indicates That we live in a world that is filled with all kinds of different challenges. And we're always looking for drug to grow and in our journey in our trajectory. People go through challenges where they regret things they've done and they want to improve it or they want to grow. So this essay is dedicated. With two two methods of how we actually produce growth in a person's life based on acidic approach very thorough s a step-by-step process. And doing it all of course with great joy, which is the driving force. So talks about both the healthy person and how we waver from that at times and then different psychological approaches to correct our ways very nice table of expressing different approaches. And then the Taylor sisters approach of how to do this. So very well done. Thank you so much for this essay. Okay, very well annotated as well. The next essay is bring back the fire. Mini Blasberg age 19 Brooklyn New York student at mccrone Alta Seminary. There is a pit a growing black hole. It consumes your energy passion and motivation until all you feel is nothing. And then the day this is apathy as Jews apathy is our biggest enemy. This essay goes on to how do you fight apathy? How do you bring back the fire the passion the how we get Frozen where it comes from how it gets to you? Don't forget to remember socket remembering I'm all like which is the force of apathy and coldness and indifference strategies key action is the main thing and that you have the confidence that you will make it good. Very good essay as well. Thank you for that. And finally the third essay spiritual oxygen masks Hasidic tools for the empathy. I'm passing you risk a cone is 23, Naples, Florida. Yeah. Fortified city is so called because the defensive wall surrounds it defining its borders and safeguarding its inhabitants and against The Perils of the outside world people to require defense against external infants in influences. This essay will aim to characterize the advantages and disarm for the answers of an empathetic nature highlight the central value of empathy in the world and demonstrate how to this offers the tools for empaths to overcome the unique challenges and channel their gifts to know where to create boundaries and went to connect with others not to go too far and goes on to explain this know the heart of a stranger of psychology psychologists Define empathy like one person with one heart considers defines that connection from other scented to centered the vote of the fellas discipline and compassion and love your fellow like yourself. Securing your own oxygen mask before assisting others and then goes on to a whole list of how to how to listen for the empath to internalize and relating with others and self care again, extremely good essay. These essays can all be see now as they're posted literally just fresh these days and meaning that instead of supply.com as well as when you subscribe to our newsletter. We will send them to you every time they're updated. So this has been episode 77 of my life sitting supplied and I want to wish everybody as we continue the month of L A Very constructive melon, beside the month where you reach out to God who is in the field the Milliken the field as we prepare for a new year to be excessive of imitative at all of us and gosh me is Brooklyn. He's in every possible way and we should be blessed. This has been sitting supplied. We're here every Sunday 8 to 9 p.m. Thank you so much be well.
Addressing the Personal and Emotional Needs of Our Community and Answering the Most Pressing Questions of Our Lives -- from the Perspective of Chassidic Thought. TOPICS: • Chassidus Applied to 15 Elul, 18 Elul and Ki Tovo 0:09 • Is it prohibited to see a psychic? 16:02 • How do I move on from my parents' ugly divorce? 19:08 • How much should one reveal about their own past experiences when trying to help others? 28:24 • How do I overcome my feeling immature at age 40, something I was told repeatedly when I was a child? 32:44 • Does the Rebbe speak about a woman not keeping her maiden name after marriage? 36:21 • How do we explain men not being allowed to hear women singing? And how do we manage the singing at a Shabbos table? 39:28 • Have you interviewed people who have become observant and then returned to their previous lifestyle to understand the causes for their choices? 47:14 • Follow up (episode 275): 52:15      o Images of women 53:43     o Healthy intimacy 55:13 • Chassidus question: What are the ten hidden sefirot, where are they located, and what is their function and application in our lives? Part II 57:37 • My Life 2019 essays:     o תובנות המובילות לתיקון עצמי מתוך שמחה, Methods that lead to self-improvement with joy, Tziri Livnoni, 56, Kfar Chabad, Israel 01:09:59     o Bring Back the Fire, Mimi Blasberg, 19, Brooklyn, NY 01:11:33     o Spiritual Oxygen Masks: Chassidic Tools for the Empath in You, Rivka Cohen, 23, Naples, FL 01:12:22  Submit your question now at  https://www.chassidusapplied.com/ask-rabbi-jacobson/ or email: info@chassidusapplied.com. WEBSITE: https://www.chassidusapplied.com/ EMAIL US: info@chassidusapplied.com SPONSOR A MYLIFE: CHASSIDUS APPLIED EPISODE, OR EXPLORE OTHER GIVING OPPORTUNITIES: https://www.meaningfullife.com/sponsorships  MyLife: Chassidus Applied is a weekly video webcast candidly answering questions from the public about all life matters and challenges, covering the entire spectrum of the human experience. The objective of the program is to provide people with inspired guidance and direction, empowering them to deal with any issue they may face. MyLife demonstrates how Chassidus provides us with a comprehensive blueprint of the human psyche as a microcosm of the cosmos, and offers us all the guidance we need to live the healthiest possible life and build nurturing homes and families, bringing up the healthiest possible children, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. MyLife is brought to you by the Meaningful Life Center as a public service, free of charge. 