Welcome to my life cuz it has applied episode 273. We are now in the week of cough of 75th anniversary of the yard site of the Rebus father oblivious auctioneers and was a binocular been from the some exotic Countach invalid and the 20th of of passed away. One of the unique things about this day is obviously being that of his father. So it's relevant to us personally through the rebel but the rebels great pain and aggravation over not being able to honor his father for so many years. The rebbe As We Know left Russia ref the former Soviet Union. I should say and tougher a Spate s tougher HS. I'm sorry. Tell Felipe Hess right at the simplest a deal with the physical debit that we would get married the next year and his parents couldn't even come to the wedding. They made a second wedding as simultaneous. I should say not a second assemble taneous celebration where they were But essentially if you think we don't know exactly when the last time was that episodes father, but even if it was literally the last time just days before or weeks or months before Tom finish pass when he left that country probably wasn't even then was earlier. So we're talking about by the time the fifth members father passed away. You're talking about twelve sixteen years. I was probably more than that and all those years that evident have the opportunity as the rebel you See Express themselves this way then anybody who did anything for his father any type of Shem was any type of help any type of support? They basically bought themselves the LM Harbor and the little one said to someone expressed himself east of Kansas Hospital initiative builds the cops on that I could repay and I want to repay the debt to anyone that helped that was an individual that helped the rep is father. which itself has a tremendous lesson in life about honoring parents, and we know of course when the rebbetzin Hannah oblivious cocks, I've came out from that country so that I've been tough since I in the 1947 went to France and spent several months to greet his mother and prepare and come back with her to the United States and every day and ever since then every day would visit his mother literally visit and go to her home, which I'm not sure where it was in the beginning but later on President Street thinking Avenue she see this enormous amount of respect even among Arab so much busy time. They could understand parents could understand that was unbelievable role model and Mentor kite and of course fulfillment of this great Mitzvah little baby. It's talk of course is known as amicable and we have only a small percentage of the manuscripts that remained is say there are a lot lot more and when they began to come out from that country in the early 60s I believe it was a little earlier when people started smoking them out, but the early 60s when they came here to the United States that had been immediately began preparing them for publication many of them were written because he was in Exile and the way from anything from sodium and from being able to have ink when he with them written in different colored inks that has the rebels are kind of prepared from Reeds and from other materials and was written on the edges on the gloss of has a heart that he had. And a lot of it from Emory based on commentaries that he referred to but is also C is enormous beak is especially in the city Kabbalah and the rabbit wants began to be published first. It was published the the Navy it's cox-2 shimmers on Tanya then later on on getting such over the river began to explain the Oblivion socks and commentary on a Garrison sugar and then later on Zoya and over the years old. Years, every shop is that ever would designate certain period of time that he would actually take a piece from liability so can either explain it or explain its connection to cities or its application of a discussion, which the rebel always would say that his father relied that that we would figure out on her own. So if you can sum up his scope of his work and his contribution. Maybe comes down to a letter that that if I believe it's wrote to the lab where he writes because we have part of that is also correspondence between the webinar baby. It's like his father. He writes the rebel always connect any condition Teta anything you write about Taylor connected with its foundations and Kabbalah because when it's grounded in the foundations of the Kabbalah, I'm paraphrasing it has that captive ephedra have developed an expression from the mishkan of the monitor, but it means a perfectionist certain rounded. Certain hols completion that you finishing the circle you have the beautiful eloquent picture of an idea when it's grounded in kabbalistic. I kabbalistic sources and you can say that's exactly what I believe you sort of did he himself? Obviously as I heard he once said that everything and then is in everything he writes everything. He says he was a also an eloquent speaker and teacher and all those brushes are all based on the quantitative, but it's the language that he uses his through the lens of Kabbalah. Grounding things and kabbalistic references and kabbalistic numbers and breaking it down then a style that that ever very often emulated which was the Duke emphasis and connection to the right of the author of whatever particular piece in the talmud among the modern Israel is the numbers that how the how the different structure ideas were not say something was described in three different ways oblivious of could explain what's the difference between illuminated and sparkling and bright. For instance or the or other the Shane Isaiah languages are and other places in Teta and this fascinating way created this very eloquent almost poetic way of understanding things again through the lens of Kabbalah with the relying as the never said that we would have we would extract from it. It's connection to them and one of them will see this and it's the direction and hero and directive and lessons in our personal life and our personal Veda and work. So what do we do in a play a day like this? I have officer that I've himself wrote in and in the more than once but he wrote in a very famous now, maybe being famous footnote of a letter that it's his great great schools and great acaryas has great Merit and great responsibility to encourage everybody on this day of cough to study something from his father's Tatum and teachings as the lab himself. As I said did every week throughout the Macias of the Rebel. And those later Years starting approximately in the late 60s and then continue on the 70s and 80s. So of course, that's the first directed the second one is understanding the connection between shmuel said that I said nickel that I said the soul and body of Tara and of the view talk in the spirit, of course of cities coming straight from then a carbon as I said from the some exotic and combining it with way that ebb explains it all so just adds a dimension of appreciating that you need to have the soul of tenants together with the body of Tatum. And finally, I would say the Miss citizen definition of living. It's like he was missing after he was at off and your continuous love and then he was arrested of course for this counter-coup counter revolutionary activity, which means basically spreading Yiddish kite tortured punished and depressed and then center of the Exile and we are in literally hungered and suffered greatly miss. It has nefesh as the devil would talk often if I bring his of clave and sometimes of tishri to the other side of the rabbits and Hannah Interruption Cafe. The masseuse nephews that he had for you describe for every detail in Judaism. So being the Rebus father these are lessons that we can derive in US it has supplied how we to today in terms of much more plenty and without having that God thank God Saudis and challenges and afflictions that he dealt with being able to hamas's service, which is mrs. Hudson complete commitment to users guide with the fullest passion in the fullest commitment. But add one more thing is fascinating to Shimmer the notes you rights, which is printed in the introduction to his notes on Tonya is he has a shimmer to the extensive see how he learned his rocker practice. They describes even his oppression even his days and months in prison and the different prisons. He was in all connected to his life and to his name. They be it's awkward. Both indicate gouda. Levi is good and his cock is were meaning dealing with the goddess of life, which is the in the severities of the difficulties and challenges of life and it's a fascinating to Shimmer because he literally takes everything negative about his life and instead of just complaining looks at it as some type of divine force that he had to endure obviously with pain but sees the Divine even in those darkest elements of his experiences, which of course is a lesson to each of us whatever we're dealing with sometimes. Unfortunately, we deal with setbacks or moments of darkness and sadness and pain and so on. that we can derive from that how even that becomes part of the divine plan and in some ways a divine revelation, even if the Revelation sometimes appears at the moment has been Bleak and that finally there will be the end result will be the growth and look at the rep that Embers a child the son of are oblivious of his oldest son the oldest of three sons of three boys and the rubber becoming the rubber 1954 and then and then leading the new series that ebb is a direct product of Livi so can is mrs. Nefesh that I've been a very powerful sick. And you test in the you love me Santosh in Lima test should add is a very deliver speaks. Very personal. He's acid ever says there in the second that I was asked whether I mind that people criticize me that I think was talking about his strong position on the stock him. I'm not giving up land for its at all and it's just so for Peace So that and of course that I was criticized the time says I was asked whether I mind being criticized and a type of response to Say I don't mind I cannot say but to say I minded that point that I will not speak about this. I also cannot say whatever container weird. I learned this so-called having this discourage. This strength says comes back from my child that's being the oldest son of the chief Rabbi that ever says lavrov should be maroof designed how it's called today of you. Katrina's love so many people would come see my father and being the oldest son. He would send me certain individuals that didn't want to deal with or were people coming from Places that were more critical and so on and being that I also knew languages I was able to speak to some people from a different languages never goes on and says that's also one of the things people criticize me for knowing languages. He says it's leaking least in them. I don't don't dwell in it yet. I also won't denied like other people who deny things and it wouldn't help anyway, because it's public knowledge being that people would come to me often with their own negative attitudes. I heard many much critique already back then and that's where I developed. So to speak the immunity of not being affected by critic critic critique that ever goes on and says interesting these so there's a few choices says not to not to speak. Because this critics is altogether not even a consideration. If I feel it's important to speak I speak in the lab as these words initiative demidov. God not for this was I educated and brought up. To be quiet when I hear that something is going to hurt or harm didn't she see in a short expression needs to have them up middle of you heard it meaning he grew up in a home with a baby. It's how can a mother like a rabbit's ikana their home that told him that you stand up and you don't cower in fear and you don't retreat and you stand with pride and strength, even when it's a challenging situation. It's interesting to listen to Just to See the Way That expresses. How is education Impacted him, of course, there's other references as well. But that's a very powerful so that we have tremendous lessons of the 75th anniversary of half of including of course this take two from is citizen efficient and courage necessary and our times as well to speak up when necessary in a diplomatic way in a beautiful way in baduk in am and so on but not to retreat and not to be fear fearful of what others will think when we have to stand up for something that is right and positive. Godly okay with that. Let's also speak about a moment about passes a cave, which is this coming Shabbos this week. And as well as Shabbos move or Kamel, so a curve a curve has many different meanings. Are you awake? If a curve also comes from the word asks this brings acre from the were a cave the heel referring to ichthus in the Michigan end of days, which is called the heel of mushiya meaning right before Michelle's coming and that a cave. Like the ache of of the human body this the the heel on one hand is called and others that I've noticed in medicine. It's called Malcolm oversee boredom is the angel of death in the human being why because the human being encompasses everything we have hills and mountains alien curtains are them the human beings a small microcosm is a microcosm of all of existence. So the heel which is so almost heel it is so able to take the blunt blows of walking. So the heel has the least amount of sensitive nerves. So it's called the model Hamas about them being that it's so this one of the extremities and not as sensitive as other parts of the body the life force. There is more concealed and yet within that Malcolm overshadowed them within that negative within the heel which sounds so the lowest level we find the great. Mr. Selfridge has the city says that when you want to put your when you want to test the waters and want to before you go into our bath you put your heel in first to test see How hot it is you don't put your head in first the head is far more sensitive or other parts of the body. So the heel has the ability of mastitis nefesh to go into hot water and be the first to carry us. And what is the he'll do it does carry a carries the entire body including the head simcha stated with the we danced with our heels and our souls our legs and our feet and they carry the tail. So the heel has that paradoxical element that one ended the end of the situation the one with the least amount of Gilliam and Revelation and yet yet after they're specifically there. You have the greatest power of masseuse nefesh of taking the First Leap of that type of attitude to this explains because the heel does not have intelligence in it. So the Gilliam the revelations don't block the ability for doing what has to be done. Sometimes thinking too much and calculating I mean to intellectual and car and cerebral about things blocks us from actually doing things. So the heel also indicates action that I need for action and not always sitting and Ponte. Skating or ruminating but going right for it to the heel and Leading The Way by marching forward and the devil would often speak of the fabric is about tell Lucas otaku going to other shoes. So we talked about the power of the heel which lifts the whole body and carries it and walks to other communities to bring you this guy right there with the same emphasis on this power of the heel to lift. Everything up Shou Bou. Welcome LL LL is the heel of the month of the year. It's the end the last month of the year the trader shock husband. Mount of the month of accountability we've taken accounting of everything that went past and are happening the past year but it's also the kind of shock on it in the heel also lies the whole preparation for the future for the year to come It prepares us for the Youth to come the month of compassion the month when we should have been you was up on the mountain for the third time and listening for my sham from God in this last month of the year listening from God the 13 attributes of divine compassion. You giving me this a document. Which then would go on to ultimately lead to Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur when they returned from the mountain with full forgiveness elastic in very harsh. I'm Sarah forgiving as you've asked but the holiest day of the year all born from the month of L, which is Hades shall Begins the 40-day journey and then concluding special team kippered, which is the 10th day of tishri 30 plus 10 42 40th Day. So there you have lessons Galore about How to apply these ideas to our lives where we are now, that's even when we're at the end of a process, even when the bottom of something there lies your enormous amount of strength to grow and to lead and to hold up and lift the entire building the entire structure will be talking of course more about El as the month progresses, but the suffice for now I'll do a little cross referencing because these topics have been discussed. This is already the sixth year of my life because it has supplied episode 273 so Referencing to episode 78 128 128 174 and 223. 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Why is it that there is none application for our service - em from every single word and Taylor, for example, why don't we find any lessons from all from all the times in the Tater that it says by Adama - ml meisha limit Etc so I know there are many my more remembered Rush him and new on numerous verses but what about the many other verses that don't have commentary? Okay. So first of all interestingly this commentary precisely on that versus well and I am bathed I am trying to remember the end of volume 1 Run 2 thirds through volume 1. I wish I could look it up and next time I'll try to give you the page, but you should be able to find it with the index is actually a complete beautiful explanation of Value Double Dash M Mesa Layman top it'll be nice at all. Now there are obviously places we don't have it interpretation every word of verse but we can extrapolate from the interpretations given elsewhere. So first rule every single word not just word every single letter every cell every single Nuance every single movement to know her even Tom the throw up the Negan of the deposit. Every letter is filled and saturated with interpretations upon interpretations, or else it wouldn't have been putting the tail. The Theta only has things that are necessary for us to know for our being a blueprint for our lives. And that's why you'll find entire chapters of let's say I've removed in US history. We only hear how he's born until age 75 the Tater ship except the written terrorist doesn't say much. So it was a history book to give us information. It doesn't seem adequate. And then think of this to consider this the first book of Genesis are Bodacious covers around 2,000 years from the beginning of creation to when the Jews that children are vac of pass away. Mm. It's right the second book Exodus begins with the Exile in Egypt. And then when is it conclude 40 years later when they come to the west to east Bank of the River Jordan after they're leaving his leaving with slime and and the Christians have been better and Martin Taylor and then building the Michigan so one book is coming. Two thousand years another for book's cover 40 years. Does it sound proportion but when you know Teta is a lot head up behind then, you know, it's not about filling in the dates not about an equal coverage of different periods. It's only what's necessary for our living this world a blueprint for our lives and as such every letter and every Iota every Nuance is filled with messages. Some of them are many of them are specifically explained citizen other places. Oh and some we have to derive on you derive from one place. You can take it and apply it to another another place and the same thing of course would take ownership. I'll pet so that's the answer. Sometimes we have to put some more work how far above our football football football the cooler but everything is there if you turn the page Turn the Page and you'll find the answers and directives to our lives next question. How can you say that? You're not getting political when the mere fact that you are addressing a political issue makes it political. There are be Jacobson. I have a comment that applies in general to your podcast. But especially when you apply for this the current events at such times, you typically say you're not going into politics of the situation. However, even by saying one sentence that relates to the politics you're already getting into politics. For example, when you did the podcast after the Pittsburgh Massacre, you said something to the effect that you were not going to get into the politics of what up. Thinks of what happened, but then added that of course such things as security are necessary, but such Solutions will not be the focus of your talk and paraphrasing and did not review the episode 2 exactly capture your words. Sorry about that. I'm on my lunch break. Anyway, even by mentioning security you were getting into politics because Trump's big thing as well as the people who work for Trump always say that the way to fight terrorism is more guns and security and walls and stop education person thinks that the answer to shootings in schools is to have Armitage armed teachers and the other hand many people think that the rise in hate crimes rape crimes is a result and encouragement that haters have received from the present Administration along with gun laws that do not require sufficient background checks Etc. My point is not to draw you into politics, but only to say that if you're going to avoid the politics of the issue are discussing you have to not say anything political at all. Thank you for your podcasts. I listen every week. Okay. Thank you for your comment. However, however, yes, you're pulling it into politics and I absolutely was not I was talking about an event that affects us all and Pittsburgh Massacre is not a political event. Unfortunately, it's a tragedy that we all would have wished didn't happen. The politics of trump or the anti-trump Ian's to me. Is it relevant your gun control getting it arming teachers or not arming teachers or another things or blaming? Umph for encouraging the haters frankly is all politics and it can be argued and much can be said that has nothing to do the Trump shootings happen before him and unfortunately, hopefully they will not happen again, but way you write I can tell it to clearly tell who were you stand if anyone listens to what I said, I do not think you'll be able to tell where I stand on this matter because I did not go into the issue things that could be door short term by all means but this is exactly the problem a massacre happens. And what happens next is that choose ation of the president that he's the one that caused it or his words caused it. And then taking whatever issue he brings up taking other issues. Why shouldn't we all be be on the same page? That security is a good idea. And yes, having armed guards as a good idea and yes not having hateful rhetoric is a good idea and all lands from left and right if I heard that then everybody's talking a politically but as soon as you take them to what you're doing now, that's exactly what I'd never do. So talking about a topic and mentioning gun control as a short term solution by saying that's not the main solution. The main solution is educating our children that there's a God and that there's an eye that here is our That season the ear that hears is is not political. It's actually addressing an issue in a transcending political way and that I intend to do and continue to do however, they says they say color pencil the moment pay. So if one looks with political eyes, then they see everywhere politics. It's maybe step back and say you know what? Let's not talk about Trump. Let's say this was four years ago or 10 years ago 20 years ago 20 years from now. How do we address an issue? Stop take let's take the names out of it political figures out of it and not try to use every situation for either a pro or anti Trump agenda. And that's exactly what the tato teaches us to do to transcend these details and to talk about the actual issues, which is what I've done and I continue to do and no talking about an issue does not make even It's a even others. I'm making it political that does not make everyone that speaking about a political. That's the main thing. I want to emphasize. Okay, next question, which is a topic that comes up again and again, which is so Central to see this damaging prayer. Please shed some light on how we are to approach David in our current modern world. There are be Jacobson. I was wondering if you could shed some light on how we are to approach David in our current modern world. It seems the original mr. Was the praise Hashem God and ask requests of us gem at any time in place during the day. Men and women of all ages were able to fulfill this Mitzvah then later on in history. The ants are a classic daily the great assembly the men of the great assembly. This is proximately before the destruction of the temple that period in time little earlier than that beginning of perky office after we speak about this game gave it over to the VM gave it to the skin and then comes an sicknesses like the Ala they began to formulate the siddur the formal prayer book which we have the promo prayer is that we Right. This was the response. This was a response to people who are starting to lose the bush because the touch so to speak and could not find the correct words with which to express themselves Hashem as well as having the appropriate qivana since that time traveling prayer has been strongly associated with using acid and praying with a Sybil that's a quorum a community a group a minion or minion Sybil is a larger group and being in the stem people. It seems that praying without a meaning is viewed as inferior. Or as that Phyllis of the Tiburon more desirable and accepted by a shame when praying among multitudes. Yes that vent the Advent of see this reintroduce the concept of devoting at length and in solitude a my own experience in your Shiva was that this is the preferred mode of prayer poverty. Even at the expense of Philip. It's about filler with the with a group with a with a community admittedly with the congregation admittedly. This is a loft is a lofty level to attain and only a handful of bokram and Robin in my stream and a select few by the bottom able to truly pray in this manner for the rest of us. It seems Diving is become a best everyday routine chore of reciting Hebrew words hurriedly and at worst apolog on. There is a constant chatter during diving even during schmancer Minister and there appears to be a strong disconnect between what we now call davening and actually connecting with Hashem. I believe the reason for this is that we feel restricted restricted by the Sid and we once again do not know how to express ourselves. Maybe the students structure of trilobites Ebert helped in earlier Generations. But today it seems to be a hindrance. How can we truly express ourselves when the prayers aren't Hebrew which we don't understand and there are times when we cannot talk Etc. I think the time has come to revert back to the original. No system of filler where we take some time each day to thank our Shem praise us him and asked for our personal requests. What do you think best regards? Well, I agree with half of what you said and I disagree with other half. I think you can guess which half I agree that prayer was always meant to have Covenant Phil oblique. Ivana is key goof Polina. Shamah is like a body without a soul like a corpse It's always important Kevon even before cases the Angeles a daily God forbid to say but they created was a downgrade. They actually would did was create something for formal that make it easier for people to dive in properly and we always need to Have the structure but the Covenant but the intention was not to take away the importance of the soul and the coven was only meant to help in that regard. Sid is definitely re-emphasizes and brought back to the surface the importance of Aveda. She believes who had filler which is expression of the gemara should at the service of the heart is prayer and how to do it properly and prayers essential component in cities not just learning but applying it to your heart having an emotional relationship with God developing those emotions and feelings. And that's what diving is as this explains that length all that is great. But to suggest go back no That's correct. And absolutely wrong. What do you need more than the Devil Himself always with the Sid? Why would using musical notes using a have this example be a contradiction to play music in the most powerful passion away. In a city of the formal prayers, of course, there's the Trap of lip service and just mechanical and doing it rushed and so on and so forth. That's why we need to teach but that would be like someone saying let's eliminate the mechanical technical Mitzvahs and just focus on the heart and soul and do things spiritually. We live in a physical world and needs to be grounded in physical words and physical actions chemistries of have a miser which is the movement of the lips is mice action. That's what prayers about and it's meant to be just like it's important to say, I love you. Not just say I feel that I have the feelings. I don't have to express it. So both are correct and both are necessary now how to properly take it step by step. I've talked about this many times prayer doesn't mean darvany. If you want to dive on properly choose add a section of the prayer and focus on it and then grow from there those that have a many hours can maybe focus on lot more than that the pilot advantage of a minion and at Sybil was not meant to undermine the power. Personal connection it was a Synergy that comes with the community that gives strength to each individual. But even when you pray with that mean you still supposed to be praying like you're speaking to God and you Whispering you don't speak out loud certain things are set out loud. But most of the having is between you and a chef so personalizing absolutely but I do not recommend and descend reject your suggestion of trying to change things from the way. It's become accepted not just accepted by all the failures along the way Jews do things but at the same time Absolutely personalize it and add the Covenant. I want to refer to episodes 228. We're actually spoke of spoke about this idea of prayer context of LL when it's a time when we increase in prayer and episode 258 and there I reference many many other episodes. I don't want to review them or just go there Vachon with some nice man. The others are referenced to other times. I've spoken about prayer. next question What can we do to increase Security in Crown Heights High Rabbi Jacobsen? I would like to talk to you today about the recent Spike and anti-semitic attacks in Crown Heights. I would like to share with you on your listeners some ideas we can do in response in response to these attacks. I'm speaking on a spiritual level first. I don't think it would be out of line. If a king is Gathering of tailored finland's docket was organized. Secondly. I was thinking that perhaps not all our national and Ashes the combat community. About the rebels directives. That one should check their mezuzahs and Finland once a year every 12 months as is known that the mezuzah has a special power for schmear safety protection as I shems name and the mezuzah shinda lat you would is an abbreviation for the world Shimmer Dulce slow. The one who protects the doors of Israel that God watches over the doors homes of the Jewish people. Of course, this is an addition to the community council doing their job are rallying the police department to do their job with increased. In the community Etc soon as Tavis maschiach now. So I'm with you security absolutely is not just physical security which also is included but because they can security and not just in Crown Heights. How much did I misspeak about securing that's assault and all Jewish communities and for that matter and opened all the communities all around the world. I second everything you're saying and that's good to bring it up. And that's why I'm reading it and they should help you should not have neither anti-semitic attacks or other attacks to remind us but yes doing everything possible to bring God's It's into our homes into our personal lives into our communities is a critical component in addition to all the other measures we take which is obviously locking your doors and having a stronger police presence, but we know it goes hand in hand. So thank you for that. Does Judaism have a place for Skeptics I have a habit or nature to double think things? I was told by people that skepticism is a trait of our moloch. Or things like Suffolk big amati a moloch meaning the fact that I doubt things and I don't take everything at face value is a negative trait that will stunt my growth in Yiddish kite personally. I feel this approach sounds very similar to other religions where you are not allowed to ask questions. My question is is using our secular intelligence and double thinking a neutral or is and double thinking is that a neutral or negative habit if it's neutral, how can it be channeled? I was wondering what your I was wondering what your Opinion is if you can address this would be greatly appreciated. CS firstly I addressed this topic to some extent and episodes 113 and 229. The answer is there's two types of skepticism. There's healthy and unhealthy skepticism on healthy. Skepticism is someone who ask questions just to justify their position. They have a locked in position Pre-K their preconceived notions, they're invested for whatever reason a certain the desired outcome and then they find reasons to explain it. And if you challenge them, they always have an excuse and a few and their skepticism of any other approach is just a smokescreen. It's not true skeptic. ISM in the sense where they really open to hear another argument and that's why you see people like that as much as you say you get nowhere healthy skepticism on the other hand is a person who's open to hear an answer. They may not be comfortable and they're open to change their position and intelligent open inquiry free inquiry means that you don't have a preconceived notion or a bias or Prejudice or stereotype that shaping you're thinking you're thinking very open-mindedly you listening to every angle you just you the whole town would is based on challenge every ton of every I made a challenges each other. That's the way of learning but it's healthy skepticism. Meaning they're looking for the truth and not looking to be right and we're looking for the truth part of the processes. God gave us a mind a mind is meant to ask questions. A mental Explorer meant to challenge with objective of finding what is the clearest and the most Crystal Clear idea, that's the goal. So absolutely you described as a room for skepticism. That's why NASA the nourishment NASA States. I accept even without understanding but then there's a requirement also finish my which means not just to listen but to understand and to use your great mind and to probe and to learn and to study and to challenge and to argue and Arguments until you get to the most Crystal Clear idea. And that's the answer. So we need to find obviously the proper balance and me to also look at check ourselves to make sure we're doing it for the right reasons. Okay? next question What should be the public role of Jewish Women and where do we draw the line? With the mic drop event and rub on I'm coming out against women joining in. I'm trying to understand the rebels position on the role of women unlike other Orthodox groups. We publish and print pictures of women in the Sheikh Hamad newsletter and other outlets and Publications a my understanding. Is that the rebel want its Lucas. To take leadership public and hidden roles in the Chabad house. On hidden roles in the bottles, I guess. My question is where where do we draw the line between embracing women in a public role? We don't ban pictures /a speaking in public Etc and something not sneeze. So this is a topic I've spoken about extensively and I want to give you all the references as many as I was able to uncover episodes 11 47 and 48 65-67 106 107. 46 147 to 239 through 241 250 251 and 253. So if you want a more comprehensive response with different angles, I refer you to all those episodes as I said, they're all in our archives at attacks. It has supply.com briefly because we have spoken about this. Yes. It is a balance in between two different approach to different elements. Now when we talk about women being a public position like this look is Ever was the Compromise sneeze obviously has to be done with the right discreet ways that ever always emphasizes women's leadership is necessary. But there's a way women lead and their unique way that they lead. So there's no question about compromising it. That's not even an it's not even a discussion. I mean, it's a discussion what I mean to say is of course, it's a discussion because it comes up where you cross. Where do you draw the line? So there you need to have much beam and our bottom that help determine these things we have directors from the rebbe about this and how things should be Two events public speaking and what kind of circumstances what type of audiences and that needs to be discussed in detail? There is no black and white answer to that. It's Case by case. If we example have a 770 an event from the shape and a squad. So you have women speaking of men speaking for them. That's the way that episode that I've been self spoke for them. But then if you have all men events should a woman be speaking there and 770 most likely not but then there are events that happen a kebab houses where you have men and women and women are being. Honored together with their husbands, so I'm not going to go into the detail because each case is a case by case. But yes, there is there are areas gray areas where we need to find the proper balance. But the most important thing is we're not talking about compromising was talking about doing what is right what was asked of us? I'll be Theta and obviously this and based on the web. So there is absolutely a role of a woman in a leadership position button it right sneeze. They can how long should it away and and regarding the same thing regarding speaking regarding publicizing and so on. So forth, so I think if we don't use extremism and we don't use any zealotry we use try to find what it says now Locker what it says on citizen Taylor will find the proper medium the proper balance. And as I said more I discussed in previous episodes the ones I refer to let's do some follow-up. I left some time for follow-up so we don't have to be brushed. So first thing is let me deal with something. I spoke about the see this question last week, which was about the four types of capital punishment. Skill is safer having a Sonic and the city's explanation of all these four as I discussed. I mentioned that there are Hime is a place. I found all four discussed. It doesn't mean and that there aren't other places where it's discussed. I'm going to give some more sources. That's what I'm focusing on now where the data came is probably rooted in but again all for I only found in that a crime the first two are discussed the following places and Taylor are and I'll tell Debbie 30 on a the quantitative chuva is real. It's out. Joshua minor 64dd will the cart. Mmhmm and be a mosque minaret says to my modern from the debit rishabh tough for a summer. Hey discusses more length. And as I said, they're the focus is mostly the first or the first second of the four going even further back be honest, but Forks at this you have the see that I drizzle and Chris MacCallum it as I mentioned the for mrs. Mrs. Bessler mentioned in Christmas kilometer when we say when we speak we mentioned for the sins. I did that would have been responsible. The punishment would have been skill, which is a Pagani in the letter you would and then slave for the began with the letter. Hey and then headache Harrigan Senate devolve into hey And we discussed what those old mean as he says there's a began in Krishna and a pergamon film and pajamas and pajamas filler davening that these four are should be repaired accidents explains how they repaired but the idea is already a group exists already in Kabul and see that I design Christmastime it especially in the kaolian conversion. See that is are there several versions and one of them is called curl Yankees remember that is I'm self than that, right? So it's time medium took Green from his teaching. I was taught to a teachings and turns it into commentary on the city. So there's several versions can yank of talks pretty extensively about it more kabbalistic lie, but it's consistent with the beer W explanations of sins just to round out the topic. We supposed to spoke about education educating about healthy intimacy. This was last week's episode as well received a few comments. I'm going to read a few follow-ups. The question there and we discussed it there and I'm like obviously not going to review what was said there. You can look it up and last week's episode. The question was are we properly educating newlyweds in the difference between healthy and unhealthy intimacy. So received actually quite a number of responses. I'll just mention a few number one high Rabbi Jacobsen. Thank you so much for your weekly my life because it has supplied broadcast. These are invaluable for people like me a boxer who was born after gimel Thomas who never got to meet the rebbe. Personally, I have a follow-up question regarding compatibility in regards to intimacy. I'm dating now and I've heard politically conservative but not from podcasters talk about intimate compatibility. Although generally espousing the view of not having premarital relations. They say it's important to ensure that spouses are compatible and don't discover after marriage that they don't fit in this way as a bar. I've never seen in any sort of romantic relationship. With the opposite gender let alone one with physical contact. So all this is somewhat Theory I've never been in any sort of romantic relationship. Let alone with almost physical context. So all this is somewhat theoretical for me at this point. However, as I'm now dating I've been wondering what this means for me in future relationship in a future relationship specifically when I heard you read the very poignant submission from someone presumably a woman regarding compatibility in the private setting with the husband and wife having From views on what should be considered normal. I agree with you that our generation needs Specific Instructions in the matter. How would I know what my future wife thinks and feels about a physical relationship prior to our getting married. Is this something we should discuss when dating is this sniffs? Is that sniffs since we both will both be people who haven't had any such previous relationships and the only knowledge I we will have is from films the internet Etc. How do we really even know? What is healthy? Is it something I should be able to sense from the girl I a date whether she's an open or closed person. I guess I would say about myself that I have waited. All these years have not had any relationship and would like to marry someone who's not shy about having a healthy relationship with her spouse. It would kill me to marry someone who's less physical and not really interested in or excited by a healthy fulfilling intimate relationship. Sorry for dragging on so long, but I guess is a book a precaution classes on a bit clueless, but do know that I'd be devastated to marry. So an incompatible in this way. Haven't spoken to friends. I know I'm not the only One's confused and concerned about this and from your letter from the letter you read. It seems to be a problem any help would be greatly appreciated. Okay, thank you for your candidness. I'll try to be equally candid in addition to what I said in the last week's program. I just want to re-emphasize re-emphasize something. I did point out the most important thing to remember in a healthy relationship. Of course, according to Judaism and Theta X. It has is that it's a holistic one. It's includes an entire gamut and higher spectrum of life Intimacy is a vital component of obviously, but it's not just physical intimacy. It's the communication. It's even how you eat lunch breakfast lunch and dinner together how you interact how you walk in the street how you don't interact about work and about other matters. It's a full-blown relationship whenever it becomes compartmentalised or fragmented. We are focusing on one thing only whatever may be whether it's money only or it's just how the house is going to look only Often that creates problems because the balance is lost. You have to look at the entire picture where the focus is only an intimacy and not anything else. It can become an obsession. That's the nature of intimacy and it grunting ultimately undermine our relationship so though it's vital and important but unfortunately the secular world has become obsessed with the technique around intimacy and it's all about that and not about commitment necessarily and that has spilled over we've been exposed to these ideas to the point where we think Think and were terrified of that issue in glucose additional homes as it's been now and has been Generations before they didn't obsessed with that two people really liked each other they communicated with them. They related to each other. They have shared values that is shared bit more certain type of humility respecting each other. Then it always came together when it came to intimacy at work because intimacy requires all of that intimacy if it's focused on pure technique and do you do it this way. Do you do that way? Are you making me happy? Making you happy that is beautiful. If it's in context if it becomes the obsession then most cases it's never going to be satisfied. It's going to be tension and conflict. So my advice is find a good partner and make sure you have conversations talk about everything this topic if it's touched upon this Adel aways and sneezes takeaways a modest ways to talk about intimacy or talk about relationships. Remember if you're talking people who are naive who are not yet entered I say Now you vimentin a good way innocent have yet entered into it? The talk is going to be more theoretical but knowing the person getting to know the person who will help tremendously and then when it comes to the bedroom when it comes to intimacy, it works because you have a whole thing going for you two people who like each other their friends their best friends, they communicate so that and and they're not obsessed with own particular thing. Then it works out and if there is an issue, you know how to talk about and something comes up, you know how to address it. That's My overall response And yes, as you take the custom classes and as you get engaged definitely talk too much be a talk to someone who can speak about this with you ask questions if you have and hopefully a good citizen must be able to direct and guide in more details and specifics another follow up in this. Hi Rob, Simmon. Thank you so much for addressing the issue of healthy and unhealthy intimacy. This is something that my ex-wife and I really struggled with I think we really should have found a way to discuss this while dating but at the time it didn't feel sneezes dick modest the little we did discuss was evidently insufficient our expectations of what our intimate life would be were vastly different. We did try to discuss it with our respect. That must be is Ice Beam, but we both found that a difficult conversation to discuss openly and candidly. Lie with others outside the marriage while we did finally figure out something that seemed to work for both of us. I think was part of what ultimately contributed to our parting ways or at least symbolic of some of our differences. I've since remarried and during round 2. I was able to discuss it more openly and candidly with my current wife. Whom I'm Baruch Hashem happily married to for many years. Well, I no longer have a horse in this race. I think it's vital for the younger generation that the leaders take this issue head on and help the guys and girls before they get into the The situation I was in thanks so much for all you do for our community. Okay. I don't have anything more to add than what I responded to the previous writer in this regard. I'm sad to hear that things didn't work out. I would like to believe wasn't just about intimacy and that but maybe other matters as well. It's after the fact God bless you and your new marriage. God bless your ex-spouse and her new marriage and everybody should be happy. But yes, there is a time to speak about things. If for example you do hit a hitch. But once there's marriage in this area do not judge and you can't resolve it yourself. Obviously go speak to a third party that can help but I was just speaking the general approach that I think is the most healthiest approach to make sure things work. Well number three regarding this topic as I said quite a few responses on this issue up Simmon. I'm writing to you this to you because honestly, I'm embarrassed to bring it up with others. I'm a 770 bar are just getting into the shidduch seen. I've never been in a relationship before I do have to admit that I have seen Schmutz online. While I've stopped Baruch Hashem for the last two-plus years. I know that the scenes it portrays in that regular healthy. And is that regular healthy intimacy with a spouse is passe and is the forbidden which is especially tantalizing honestly having a class from a level-headed must be a before dating about what is normal to expect in an intimate relationship with their spouse would be great as it's certainly not what I saw years ago in the Schmutz, but I don't know what it is, by the way my parents seem to have an amazing relationship, but obviously I have never seen any But of the intimate life nor would I want to ever ask either of them about it. Also what to ask doing should do come to know what we were on this. Also what to ask during should do come to know that we're on the same page. Thanks so much for addressing this. Well, I'm glad you're out of that and recognize that that is completely not what intimacy is about that is a abuse and Distortion in every possible way and unfortunately creates them distorted versions visions and distorted attitudes and expectations. So let's make that very clear that anything that comes from anything. That's not the appropriate is not at all something to be looked at or to be aspire to you can have a complete healthy passionate and Powerful romantic intimacy with your spouse. The Taylor Advocates, it's not just it's not just suggest and it's important to do. So as I said, it's a holistic part of the relationship. Meaning that comes with up tire package. That's why there's the relay the intimacy. Is there all the time even when you're just talking to each other you do it, right and it's better than anything that will be out there portrayed in that commercial disgusting fashion exploiting the issue and divorcing it for anything. That's intimate anything that's meaningful anything. That's sustainable anything that spills over to healthy. The relationships and commitments healthy commitments. So I say the same thing I say to you, but I said earlier. Yes, if you if you're in Hudson stage, maybe speak to someone about it, but it comes down to ultimately that entire picture that I described. Okay enough about this now vaccination is still on some people's minds and I understand why so I'll read one or two or let's see. What do we have here? I read one or two questions and try to respond. I think I covered it pretty extensively. Hi Rabbit, Jacob. And I heard your last few episodes in which you speak about vaccinations. It is pretty clear. From what you say that well from what you are clear. From what you are saying that you are of the opinion that not to vaccinate is not the approach of Taylor students access absolutely not to vaccinate, correct. However, I feel on that unlike your usual style that you have purposely skipped one important Point since just because it is the right thing to vaccinate certainly does not mean that kids should be deprived of kinnock because of it is Acceptable for your she was not accept unvaccinated children. It says that nothing overrides child runs learning even the building of the base. I'm English you please talk about the specific this specific aspect which too many are a bunny. Mom regime are not willing to address. Okay, I firstly I did address it. I am not running any school and I can't tell you what policy they should have. I totally agree that every child should be accepted in every school, but then there are legalities and there's other parents and there's a state and there is a city and there's all kinds of laws. I don't know all the details. I'm assuming that's not just some guy in the school decided this it could very well be they're protecting themselves because they could also be the it can be a litigated. And there is I've heard of schools being closed because of this issue. So I'm not even saying that they should be closed and the government is correct about this but it's much more complicated by the issue itself if we had total control over the issue and people would listen so yes, then we can talk normally and we talk about vaccinations and why you would want to be exempt from vaccinating and why we should allow your child in and be a normal conversation, but I think there are other factors involved. So I'm not here advocating that children should not be allowed into school, but you know something Sometimes one has to look at why the parents are so insistent and not vaccinating and maybe they want their child in school maybe vaccination should be explored. Why is it only the extreme one way and not the other way maybe that maybe they should realize the vaccination should be an option obviously in a proper way where it doesn't harm the child Etc as we discussed another person writes on the topics of doctors medicine vaccinations at Center. There were you aware that were in recent recent episodes. I would like to point out that in the quickest serious. There's a section with over 60 pages of letters from the rubbish on the topic. It's a helical am involve starting on page to 69. It's basically chat volume 36. I hope you'll share that as a place to look for those who want to look up the rebels approach as you suggested. Okay, and there's more and maybe I'll just scatter them over the weeks some most as I said I repeating ideas that I think I've covered so I don't know if I have to cover it all but since it's coming in I feel I should. Give some Fair representation of ideas. Thus it has question for this week. How does it has explained the month of elul? Okay. So there are many many my more room in the month of elul some themes that are more familiar. People are more familiar with some less. There is of course number one theme, maybe the number one that the devil always referred to in the quantitative the muscle of Al Terrebonne the melek Posada. So that's the first thing what does that mean? You'd given me this hierarchy I mean radiate the 13 attributes of compassion as I mentioned at the outset of this program radiating the sixth in the days of L asked out that ever what is it? You want of a youngster of is not just a dais a random day chosen it's a day when there's a radiator Radiance and illumination and a manifestation of divine energy. So since there's a chunk of has its particular energy. So why in LL is not L what they a month full of yaumatei time. It should be every day. She'll be a young that because you'd given me the saregama radiate the classic. From the outside Eva and he answers with the most of melon Posada there times when the milk is by ID, which means he's in this formal place in his Palace in his inner sanctum and there's all kinds of preparations. You need to go greet him. That would be like tissue day Rosh Hashanah Yom Kippur and so on and then there's the Malabar saw that his way into the city. He stops in the field and there he's a be accessible to every person even as they are in the field in their clothing in their workday mode. And he shows them a beautiful face and answers their questions and grants their requests. That's l so the Inhumans a document shine, but they shine in our terms in our mundane weekday level and I mentioned so that's the number one that L is that type of connection before we go to tishri. Another theme Exodus of L is true batata preparing to juvie law. What should we taught our Lord Shiva an example? Before you bring new furniture and new appliances into your home. You want to clean the dust? That's how you build a home but there's a lot of dust but from the construction, you're not going to bring in new things into the home for you clean, true batas cleaning up your act before you're able to experience the Divine directly. You want to come over to God in a pure way. You want to say you coming with clean clothing more importantly clean thought speech and action. So L is a process of that cleansing so to speak on the lower level so you can Each the Truvia law of tishri the higher level. Another thing that's brought in the my my room, especially from the physical Abba. Hey - ah husband and Rajesh Khanna is the last month in the year. So it's a month of recounting. Of everything we did in the past year and it's a reddish Arcana among the prepares us to the point that actually says the last 12 days of Ella from high L to Rosh Hashanah the last 12 days correspond to each one corresponds to a month in the past year you correcting and and probing evaluating how the month of tishrei in high L has been you tesl but the lab has its also 12 days. I prepared for the 12 months of the next year. And then there are many other themes including the five Russia tables that have always brings regarding their acronyms of L, which correspond to tailor a Vedic knowledge hassad them chuva and hula that these acronyms since L is such a central month in concluding the year and accountability of the year and preparing for the new year. It covers the entire Spectrum, which is Taylor. Downing tilde the Middle School sudden chuva in general and Gula Redemption Some of you may be familiar with my book 60 days a spiritual guide to counting to the high holidays. I'm sorry spiritual Guide to the holidays. So there I elaborate a lot on these topics in relevant personal terms and it's a good book to check out. It's an English that makes the ideas of L and tissue the 60 days accessible and relevant as a personal journey through this whole period in growing spiritually growing personally growing in your Aveda Chemin connection with God and what your mission in this world is including of course repair. Anything that was needs repair in our lives. Now, we'll do the three essays. So every week we do three new essays were now top 40 top 50 essays the first essay they will be Called Baruch Hashem and Hebrew by mend abootman age 18 hadera Israel a student is she was template women magdala a Mech? So Baruch Hashem, basically right begins and says that we look in general. Look at the entire world. You see there's positives and negatives. Everything is broken down a positive things and negative things. See this teachings boxes illuminate for a person. I'm translating. How we find our direction of what's right and wrong in this Dark World? What's right what's the positive and what's the negative and it goes on to use the time yet to explain exactly that basically a map how to look at a map of Our Lives a map of the world in this context. And then of course once you have that Clarity, you can then know how to how to travel how to navigate your life. Accentuate the positive and minimize the negative well done team that's known but nevertheless originally a creatively presented as a number two is gibbous. The Hooten is nishita or accident. basically women in the context of Exodus Exodus looks and approach to the personality the role of women. in this 21st century The role of women has become a quite a prominent issue in there so many different opinions. And therefore creating so much confusion about the matter. And the essay is goes on to First discuss and how do we address the confusion all the different approaches? Second is how we recognize the true qualities and potential of a woman. Understanding her purpose and then a conclusion a very solid broken down bullet point conclusion of the of the ideas addressed with some practical advice as well. Very good essay as well. And then finally the third essay is an English social anxiety men seek, go Louvre. Oh, I forgot to mention the name of the second essayist you who did climbin age 18 migdal amick Israel a student. And I kind of the militia that called tell Seminar High mushka. And works in the shadow to carry numerosity cartel this third essay social anxiety is mentioned galuf age 22, Long Beach, California. Ta preschool tester Academy preschool. So this addresses as the title suggests. This essay will be comparing houses deals with something like social anxiety disorder and how modern therapist deal with it. The primary source is Tanya chapter 26 and goes on to do exactly that to making that comparison beautifully done and coming away with the tiniest Kiddush and the time is approach of how to deal with anxiety in general including Social anxiety another Well Done, essay. All these essays are posted a consider supply.com or you can get them and or you can receive them in your inbox by subscribing to our Weekly Newsletter and our weekly emailing offerings again, all the material all the archives are all available access supply.com. Everyone should have a very blessed end of the month of Menachem of now we're in the second half which is ready after commission was also above with moons is growing and growing and the light of it the moon grows and we increase in Taylor accordingly leading into the month that will be benching. Next job is Travis move out from El that should be a blessed month and I blessed Tommy to everyone thank you so much. 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Addressing the Personal and Emotional Needs of Our Community and Answering the Most Pressing Questions of Our Lives -- from the Perspective of Chassidic Thought. TOPICS: • Chassidus Applied to Chof Av and Eikev 0:15 • Lessons from Blessing the Month of Elul 16:00 • Is there a lesson from every single word in Torah? 19:11 • How can you say that you are not getting political when the mere fact that you are addressing a political issue makes it political? 22:28 • Please shed some light on how we are to approach davening in our current modern world. 26:43 • What can we do to increase security in Crown Heights? 32:57 • Does Judaism have a place for skeptics? 34:51 • What should be the public role of Jewish women, and where do we draw the line? 37:50 • Follow up:      o Four wounds (episode 272) 41:28     o Teaching about healthy intimacy (episode 272) 44:12     o What does the Rebbe say about vaccinations? (episodes 269-271) 53:50 • Chassidus question: How does Chassidus explain the month of Elul? 56:58 • My Life 2019 essays:     o ברוך השם, Mendy Butman, 18, Chadera, Israel 01:01:27     o גיבוש זהות נשית לאור החסידות, Yehudit Kleinman, 18, Migdal Ha'Emek, Israel 01:02:37     o Social Anxiety, Menchik Goluv, 22, Long Beach, CA 01:03:59  Submit your question now at  https://www.chassidusapplied.com/ask-rabbi-jacobson/ or email: info@chassidusapplied.com. WEBSITE: https://www.chassidusapplied.com/ EMAIL US: info@chassidusapplied.com SPONSOR A MYLIFE: CHASSIDUS APPLIED EPISODE, OR EXPLORE OTHER GIVING OPPORTUNITIES: https://www.meaningfullife.com/sponsorships  MyLife: Chassidus Applied is a weekly video webcast candidly answering questions from the public about all life matters and challenges, covering the entire spectrum of the human experience. The objective of the program is to provide people with inspired guidance and direction, empowering them to deal with any issue they may face. MyLife demonstrates how Chassidus provides us with a comprehensive blueprint of the human psyche as a microcosm of the cosmos, and offers us all the guidance we need to live the healthiest possible life and build nurturing homes and families, bringing up the healthiest possible children, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. MyLife is brought to you by the Meaningful Life Center as a public service, free of charge. 