Often the advice I give to people today is Fast Forward where you are. Look at yourself in 10 15 20 years time and ask yourself. The question. Is that where I want to be and if the answer is no then you need to find a new path to just get to understand yourself. You don't know what you need in your life until you figure out who you are. Everybody Welcome to impact Erie. You were here my friends because you believe that human potential is nearly Limitless. But you know that having potential is not the same as actually doing something with it. So our goal with this show and Company is to introduce you to the people and ideas that will help you actually execute on your dreams. All right. Today's guest is a former monk whose wisdom has truly gone viral after finishing business school. He turned down lucrative offers from prestigious companies shaved his head and hit the road for three years. He Able to cross India Europe and England living as a monk studying meditating and building food and shelter programs for those in need. He was definitely in love with what he was doing. But he knew that it didn't scale so driven by a desire to share what he was learning with as many people as possible. He re-engaged with the world and dove headfirst into learning about the tools and techniques that might allow knowledge to spread as fast as entertainment and to that end. He joined Accenture helping them build their digital division while learning about the forces shaping the new digital landscape. He learned fast and quickly became their number one social-media influencer in a company of 400,000 people along the way. He also helped advise over 150 Executives on their personal Brands allowing him a very broad base with which to test this theories and leveraging what he learned in 2016. He launched his own Facebook page and it exploded in less than 12 months his inspiring entertaining and highly useful videos garnered over 1 billion views and now he North of 2.5 million followers globally. He makes content not only for his own pages, but for places like The Huffington Post and he has interviewed such luminaries as Tim Ferriss Simon sinek, dr. Shefali Deepak Chopra and countless others in the wake of his ridiculous level of success as both a content creator and digital strategist. He was named to Forbes 30 under 30 list in 2017. The Asian media Awards named his blog best blog in 2016, and he was added to National Geographics. Genius Council for which he is now helping to Source solutions to some of the world's greatest challenges. So, please help me in welcoming the urban monk himself. The man who is proving that you really can scale impact Jay Shetty truly goes both ways. So as I was telling you before we started rolling in my research, like I know Just go watch all the interviews of people have done and I've come across you like a million times and researching other people. So I thought oh this would be the easiest thing ever. Like this guy would have been interviewed a hundred times and you haven't like it's insane to me like you're pumping out so much content. Nobody's nabbed you up yet. So this is going to be really fun to really go deep. Your ideas are clearly very well thought through so mr. Be a lot of fun. Thank you, man. Yeah, I'm patient. Yes Haitian and having the right interviews the right time being with the right. People having it be framed correctly. So I'm very honored to be how much huge fan of the show. Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. Yeah, absolutely. So one thing I want to talk about obviously having lived in London knowing a little bit about what it's like to grow up as an Indian Head in England. How on Earth did you Buck the trend of you once said growing up in an Indian household, you're either a doctor or a lawyer or a failure? Yes. That's right. So how like, how could you not fall prey to that? Yeah. As my three options, right? That was it. There was no flipped option. So according to my parents family or their Community I grew up in I'm a failure. That's crazy. And how did I Buck the trend? I was really really fortunate that very early on. I started to experiment with What mattered to me sometimes I got me in a lot of trouble what people don't know about me is that I was suspended from school three times for trying out all sorts of things like things that people would never imagine if One who goes on to be a monk. I was experimenting with all the drugs in the world. I had multiple relationships. I was really trying to search for some sort of meaning fulfillment. And as far as long as I've known I've been chasing thrill. I really value thrill and feeling like did I not see that coming? Ya know not many people do it. It's very different from 14 to 18. I was like this kid who just wanted to try new things out and my parents rhetoric would always be we'll make sure you get Great, and I used to think well if I can be bad and get good grades and then it's all works, right everyone's happy. So that's that's kind of what I did and at 18. I was really fortunate when I met a monk and this monk was invited to speak and I kind of just went because one of my friends forced me to at that time. I was listening to CEOs and entrepreneurs and business people and marketers who I thought that's what I was aspiring to be like and then I hear this Monk and he captivated me like no one had ever captivated me before it was like staring at the most beautiful woman on the planet, you know, I was completely fixated on him and his message and that is the beginning without me going into too much detail before we probe. That was the beginning of what changed me because I went from being someone who did only want all those things to become successful and trying to but I started hearing my own inner voice. Much more in all that noise that I had around me. I remember one of my parents had a math tutor for me because they wanted to be amazing at math and I was I was pretty good at numbers and I'd have this tutor and he tell me that he goes the reason that you're struggling with the next question is because you're always worried about what your parents think and and that really stayed in my head. I was just like wow, so as long as I'm trapped by what my parents think I can actually never find the answers to the real questions of life and they're all these little things Anning I lost two great friends when I was 16 one girl died in a car accident one guy died because he was involved in drugs and violence that that made me rethink everything. I just thought to myself wait a minute. These were beautiful people people that I loved people that in my opinion were good people and I just lost them in a moment and it was kind of like this collation of little things that just made me think wait a minute having money having Fame this that just doesn't seem to add up and then and then me Among kind of made that shift possible. And as I said, he was completely captivating and then I found out that he'd given up jobs and Google and Microsoft to be a monk and I thought to myself who does that, you know, he's given up everything that I'm chasing and they're all my friends are chasing but he seems happier than anyone I've ever met before and he spoke about this incredible principle where he said that we should plant trees under whose shade we do not plan to sit and he was speaking about this principle of selfless sacrifice and that kind of just penetrated me right there. When he said the words selfless sacrifice for the first time in my life. I felt a thrill about something that I've never felt before I thought wow giving up everything you have for the service of others sounds like the best thing you could possibly do and I don't know why I had that thought because I wasn't a spiritual kid growing up. I wasn't a religious kid growing up. I wasn't even a good kid growing up. I was just a rebel a misfit. Things out an experimental which I still consider myself. And so what I started to do is I was interning at companies and firms and corporate thinking I was getting a grad job afterwards and then I'd spend the rest of my summer holidays in turning in India living with him as a monk. So I'd use all my summer and Christmas holidays to just be out there with the monks and he introduced me to another 200 to 500 monks that were just like him just as smart just as bright giving up everything they had and using all their skills to make the world a better. Other place I want to go back. Yeah, so to why that resonated with you which is really surprising. So and maybe you're just, you know, so far ahead of where I was at the time but that would have sounded absurd to me at that time. Yeah, we're did you already have a sense of unease that like, I'm a rebel without a cause or like what was it about that moment and use you seen very aware of yourself. So I'm hoping that some of that awareness is present then like, what was that moment? I believe the moment was I was I've always had friends who are older than me and I could see a lot of them in the most successful careers successful jobs, beautiful Partners, whatever it was, but I saw a sense of lack of fulfillment meaning and purpose in their lives and I've always been an observer and I would see these people are like five years older than me seven years older than me, maybe 10 years older than me and I'll be watching them and go is that the life I want and often the advice I give to people today is Fast Forward where you are. Look at yourself in 10. Fifteen twenty years time and ask yourself the question. Is that where I want to be if you're in a company look at the person who's 20 years ahead of you and ask yourself. Is that where I want to be if you're in a start-up look at what other startups have got to in similar roles and go is that where I want to be and if the answer is no then you need to find a new part and for me the answer of that time from observing was no the path that my parents or Society or the university. I went to all the community. I had that was positive. Living out for me. It didn't feel like the path for me. So I was almost seeking an alternative or A New Path. I was just so fortunate that it happened to be an uplifting powerful bad as opposed to something that could have actually taken me down the wrong road because that could have been possible to so walk me through the first time you step off the plane in India, it's summer and so I'm living there I'm waking up. I'm almost doing all the practices just as if you were shadowing a CEO. I'm just shadowing a monk. So I'm just shadowing his lifestyle. So we wake up. He's like one of the most elite monks. So we're waking up at like 2 a.m. Everyday after sleeping at like 9 or 10 p.m. And then we study these ancient Vedas which are five thousand plus years old together and we spend two hours. I'm studying with the best of the best here so he can like analyze and assimilate and I'm learning fast taking notes and 4:00 a.m. We go to Collective meditation. We do those practices with the other monks as well 6:00 a.m. We have personal meditation, so I'm literally going Through the life of a monk and falling in love with it. Step-by-step going. Wow. I've never had this experience before that. I just threw myself in and I was practicing it to the T, right. It wasn't like. Oh no my back hurts when I sit on the floor. I can't stay for too long or you know today when people are like I can't meditate for longer than two minutes. I was like, no I'm going to do it for two hours if that's what they're doing. I'm going to give it a go because I can only test the hypothesis will only be true if the experiment is carried out to the degree that they They are so if the hypothesis is if you live like this, you'll a happier more fulfilled. Then I want to do that. All right, so let's explore this then through the lens of creating one's own perfect life. Yes, which is pretty interesting especially because interesting because I think this is so accurate to the way that most people are it's not like, oh there's some Grand missing thing in my life, but you took that first action so codify this for me or for anybody that wants they don't know what their ideal life. Looks like they just know that Not living it yet. So step. Number one is take it seriously to find out if the hypothesis is true or not. You have to take the the the experiment you have to do it sincerely. What comes after that? I think you've been one step before that is opening yourself up to new role models and new experiences. See we live in Echo Chambers. We're just surrounded by the same thinking how often do you bump into a monk? You know, it just doesn't happen. You don't have no one has a dinner party and goes. Oh, yeah. We didn't invite the monkey, huh? From town I'd like the local monk like no one ever does that and so we meet people who are just like us most of the time and we talked about this in business all the time. If you want to be a billionaire spend time with billionaires, if you want to be a millionaire spent of a Millionaire's if you want to be a tech startup spend time with you know, that's that's the common rhetoric that we hear all the time. But what if you want to find purpose and master the mind, there's no one better than among his master the mind. So for me, the first step is just opening yourself up to new experiences. Experiences a new Role Models because most of us can't see ourselves in people. So then we try and fit ourselves into the boxes that we do see and and I mean there's this beautiful quote that I've been saying it everywhere and I wish I wrote it but I didn't so it's by a philosopher and writer named Cooley and he said that today I'm not what I think I am. I'm not what you think. I am. I am what? I think you think I am. And just let that blow your mind from its it's so powerful. I'm not what I think I am. I'm not what you think. I am. I am what? I think you think I am. So we live in this perception of a perception of ourselves, hence. My identity is made by what my parents think I should be my identity is made up by what my college or university thinks I should achieve while you're living in that bubble. And that Echo chamber getting to what you really want to do is Impossible because maybe that just doesn't fit and I think so many people feel that way today that they don't fit into the current education system. They don't fit with the three or four or five careers that you're taught exist. So that process of self excavation and actualization first requires being exposed. You can't be what you can't see if I never saw a monk. I would never have wanted to be a monk if I never meet a billionaire. I wouldn't want to be one because I wouldn't know what that feels like. I don't know what it looks like. I don't know. What It Takes and I think that's the biggest challenge of our society that we're not exposed so that's the first step being exposed to Unique experiences and Role Models second step is finding that experience or role model that you're passionate about and exactly like you said taking it seriously Shadow their network with them spend time with them observe them even from afar it takes that observation being addicted to observing that person's lifestyle And then the third step is going yes or no. Does that work for me? Not everyone who's going to go off and become a monk is going to feel like the way I did and that's cool. But not everyone is going to go and follow and Shadow a billion anger. That's exactly the lifestyle I want they may want the result but do they want the hard work that goes with it? And so for me, that's the third step. It's observing focusing shadowing getting as close to the process of that individual and then going yes or no. Do I want that process not do I want the A result. Everyone wants to be that monk who's fully enlightened, you know can walk through as an incredible or that people just gravitate towards but when you realize he has to wake up at 2 a.m. Everyday and States about four to six hours you like, you know, I don't want to do that. That doesn't sound like me. All right, so a couple things one you said he's as powerful as he is. Yeah fine power for me power being so from amongst perceptive perspective. The greatest power is to be self-controlled. To be able to train the mind and energy to focus it exactly where you want it and when you want it to be you are completely detached and undeterred from external ups and downs you are able to navigate anything. That seems tough challenging fun excitement with the same amount of being equipoised and balanced in Equanimity without being too excited in pleasure or being too depressed in pain, but knowing how to navigate Every situation to me, that's great strength and great power. I heard in one of your talks you were saying that if you look at a literal Lifeline a heartbeat for instance, you know, it's up and it's down and people have this sense that something like Enlightenment would be that the Equanimity forever. Yeah, and just an even Keel and you said but what what does that resemble it resembles a flat line when you die, correct? So what is it? Like what I love about you is you sort of went. Into the Wilderness of being a monk but you brought it back to the real world because when you talk about a monkey talk about them being detached and that to me seems like the only real way to have that sort of super even Keel existence, which is not appealing to me personally. So if you're bringing back that notion of power of having control over yourself not letting your emotions take you everywhere but knowing that life is is the series of ups and downs. What does that power look like when it's brought back? Absolutely. And actually that's the whole aim of Monk train. It's more like a training system than it is a lifelong commitment. It is bringing that mindset into the real world where you get to test it. Now, I got to do that for real when I left being a monk around 5 years ago and when I left it was like, oh my God, I'm in the real world. Now again real world. I have to think about how to apply all this. I'm going to test for real all this stuff that I've learned and I was scared like I was nervous. I was anxious and all those things that I've been trained not to be. Rushed back because For the first time in my life, I had to really put into practice and I love that feeling. I'm so glad that I had to do that. So for me, actually the mindset is completely trainable to bring into the real world. That's what I'm trying to do. And what it allows you to do is it allows you to gain Clarity and perspective when you need it because you know when you can just take a bird's-eye view from something, you know, when you need to get clothes into something, you know, when you need to pull back from something there's a Beautiful verse in the bhagavad-gita that says that Detachment is not that you own nothing Detachment is that nothing owns you and I love it because to me that summarizes Detachment in a way that it's not usually explained usually people see Detachment is being away from everything. Actually. The greatest Detachment is being close to everything and not letting it consume a known you and that's real power. That's real strength. How many people do we know that have had Fame and then that Fame has ruined Them so for me that definition of detachment. Is possible to practice even in the real world rather than saying? Oh, I'm just going to be really simple life. I'm Just Gonna Have Nothing in life. What was the best part about being a monk the best part about being a monk is that your morning routine and practices are so powerful that you can actually Aspire for more incredible values in life because your mind is clear because your mind is clear and you have that ability to have more clarity so you can seek that with his Which is higher. So I'll give an example of what I'm gonna find ya so we about to defeat what is higher. Yes, exactly. So for me being able to overcome ego being able to overcome Envy being able to overcome jealousy being able able to overcome the negative of competitive State there's a positive competitive State and there's a negative competitive State today. People are looking on Instagram or Facebook or YouTube. All you're looking at is all she got that many likes or he got that many liked she got engaged or he got married or oh my God, look at her body or look at that and it's like that starts destroying us inside Envy jealousy ego greed to be able to have enough Clarity to purify yourself of those things is going to alleviate the biggest anxieties and depressions of our time and mental health. Problems and we know that we know that because all the mental health research today suggests that things like isolation overexposure. We now can have more pain consumption in one day because of what we're exposed to than the pain we would have had in a lifetime that's huge like that. That's ridiculous to think that in one day because of the media news and social media. We consume more negative than we did in lifetime for me being able to have time energy and Clarity to focus on self purification. Shin that is the best thing about being a monk because you have that time reflection and a process and an environment that only allows you to become more purified of those things. So if I was the interviewer that I wanted to be able to ask you this question when we were on the topic, but I'm going to go back then as important enough you gave us the three ways that you can really construct your ideal life. But Define an ideal life for me so in an ideal life in Me is a life and this applies to a company and organization and Institution for me is an ideal life is when we all have a head a heart and a hand all three elements together working in alignment without one or the other we start to lose something if you only ever had in a heart, you'll find that life is stable and defined. Yes. Yeah. Sure. Sure. Sure. Sure. So ahead is the clarity of vision what? I want what you want knowing what you want the way you picture life and being able to navigate and make the decisions to get that's a good head. A good heart is being able to understand what your intuition and hot ones being able to connect and tap into that understanding deeper and Beyond The Vision you may have painted for yourself. So I often say to people that you get to where you want in life. Just not in the way you imagined and that's because the path that's paved up. And down is far different to the path we pave so you can have a great head and a great vision and a great Mission and know where you want to go. But if your heart's not able to have that resilience and be able to adapt And I have compassion and care and all of that then then you're not going to be able to make the toughest decisions without your heart but to be able to realize that we need to care and be sustainable and long-lasting requires a heart and a hand. Is that service wanting to pass that on that which you have wanting to give it Forward pay it forward the idea of serving with what you have I often say to people your passion is for you. Your purpose is for others your passion makes you happy but when Use your passion to make a difference in someone else's life. That's a service. That's a purpose and that's the hand. So those are my three elements of an ideal life. I like that a lot. And I when you first said it I'm glad you to find it because when you first said it I thought the heart was going to be the part about like, you know, just compassion and caring for others doing something for other people, but I like that the hand being tied to service. So one thing that I think a lot about is deep. Fulfillment like really when I think about okay. What is a life worth living? Honestly, it comes down to neurochemistry for me and it comes down to experiencing this world in a way that optimizes for for sustainable pleasure, which I'll differentiate between a bowl of ice cream a bump of cocaine. Those are pleasurable and I haven't done the cocaine but the ice cream I can speak for. Okay, I've done both good. Yeah, so I'll trust that it's it holds up, but they don't bring a Lasting fulfillment is not sustainable. Right? So both of them end up creating this self-destructive Loop and purpose really does become that thing that gives you something that is on a neurochemical level deeply satisfying absolutely and how much of this like How did you marry the deeply spiritual the often abstract often times? I'll hear spiritual speakers talk and I feel them sort of drifting off into the ether. How did you marry that to experimentation Neuroscience practicality like one? Why do you find that interesting and then to what are you doing with that? So I studied Behavioral Science at University. So I've always been fascinated by why people do what they do. And when I was reading these books that are 5,000 years old. My greatest Fascination was finding a principal and finding its relevance in modern science. And I said to myself the day I can't find that I'll quit I won't believe in this anymore. So I'm still doing that and I'm ready to quit if someone shows me a piece of Science and I can't find a principal in these ancient literature. So actually what I like to call these Timeless literature's then I'll give up my faith because for me it has to track forward. I'll give you a breezy basic example today. We're in the gratitude. And there's like a million gratitude journals out there. There's a million scientific studies on gratitude and gratitude has been linked to better mental health self-awareness better relationships. I mean, there's so many scientific studies on the on the neuro level that shows that gratitude is great for your mind brain and fulfillment. Now, I look back I gratitude is all over the time this wisdom. One of the first things we were trying to do when we were among was to pay our respects to the Earth for what it gives. Us and you do that first thing in the morning, what is that? If not gratitude when you wake up in the morning you thank the Earth for the food you think the Earth for the water you think the Earth for allowing yourself to walk you start your day with gratitude today, the biggest tip on Forbes an ink and everything is start your day with gratitude. Like where does it come from? It's right there. These things are old. So I'll I get fascinated. I'm intrigued by the parallels and patterns because it saves you time. It's the same way as which if I say that this This business person got invested by this company and that's why they're successful because they had the right investors Etc. That's a pattern. So I know if I'm building a business in that area. I'm going to look for investors like that. It's the same thing that pattern saves you time rather than you trying to figure out does gratitude work how shall I be grateful creating your own process one most it's a really interesting life has taught me to stop believing everything I think and the way that it's taught me that is Relentlessly punishing me every time I over invest in being right and I remember when my wife and I first got together. She used to get chest infections all the time and she told me it's because of the AC and I was like that doesn't make sense and she was like no no my grandmother used to just swear up and down. If you if you're hot and you stand in front of a fan that you're going to get sick and I was like that is the biggest load of like crap I've ever heard in my life that does not make sense like getting sick. Kick comes from either bacteria or virus like it's that simple and she was like, I'm just saying it's my grandma always said and it seems true to me and I was like, oh God, this is exhausting and then one time I went to a doctor and I was like, yeah and my wife is crazy and thinks that when you're hot if you stand in front of a See, it'll make you sick and he goes. Oh, yeah, she's right. I was like, hold on and he was like, well she sort of right. He's like this is what's happening. You have a mucus layer membrane in your throat. That's it keeps it moist keeps germs from Able to break the break through the barrier and so they get trapped they go to your stomach or killed by the acid or whatever and he said but if you get a crack in that then the bacteria or virus can actually get into your bloodstream and that's how you get sick and it's just drying her throat out and I was like whoa, and it was one of those moments where I was like how many wives tales are true? Like directionally, they're not accurate, but they're true if that's it. I mean, yes, and so that's how I think when you think of a book that's lasted as long as it as it has and I know you and I we never talked about this but we share a real A Fascination for storytelling. Yes, because it's a way to convey an idea that resonates emotionally and allows people to carried on and passing on and obviously this all starts long before we have science and can prove any of this but we see the patterns. We need a way to encapsulate the pattern. We encapsulate it in a story. The story is in and of itself totally fake but now in a modern context we're getting lost in that the story is fake even though the take-home message is incredibly powerful. Yes, and so as I mean, it's the classic story right the more you learn the less you realize, you know, mhm and just as I've gotten older and really started to understand this stuff and read as much as I do and quite frankly live and suffer and go through things like my wife having microbiome issues. And at first thinking her all of her descriptions make absolutely no sense. And then you stop passing a judgment on it and start saying what if everything she's saying is actually true like what how would we treat it then write a Lily and so if there is something really fascinating and now I find myself I'm way more emotionally drawn to the science because when I can picture it, I have a much easier time doing something about it. So when you were talking about the things that you learned from meditation, I've gotten tremendous value out of meditation, but it's nothing like what you've learned. So for me it was once I understood that diaphragm breathing made sense because it triggers the parasympathetic nervous system then because I understood it at like was the understanding becomes a force multiplier. Absolutely. All right. Talk about Behavioral Science self-awareness watching your content. Which have you ever looked at? How much content you put out? No, it's a lot dude, like when you search your name like to go because I normally try to watch like basically everything and I was like I give up it's just it's really incredible and going through that stuff. It seems really clear to me that you have massive self-awareness. And what would you say like is a is there a process for people to Gain, more self-awareness and then what are from a behavioral, you know just human behavior level what are things that trip up the average person the first answer. I mean, I'm a huge fan of the book thinking fast and slow. I don't know how if you've read it. Yeah. It's a great book because for me it's got a really close pattern connection again to what I studied so just understanding system 1 and system 2 if anyone watching hasn't read it I highly recommend it just being able to differentiate between system one and system two as Your Kahneman calls it in The Vedic philosophy recall differentiating between the mind and the intelligence knowing how to differentiate the voices in your head is the first level of self-awareness so break down what system one and system two are absolutely system one is your initial response to anything that happens. It's a stop that I can't really say so if you say something I don't like my system one naturally would be a face that I pull a time that I don't agree with that. That's that's an understanding of what system one is your initial default. All reaction in the moment that can be positive often. For example, if someone pulls out a knife you feel scared and you run that system one. That's a good thing. It's safe for you but also system one is someone says something that hurts your ego and you start defending yourself immediately. That's also that's a negative of system one that we would refer to as mind. It's buildup of conditioning those responses are conditioned those default elements are all there because of habit and continuous practice. The system to is more like the intelligence. What I would say is more like the parent if you can pick consider system one to be more like a child system to is more like a parent. It looks more at the long-term and looks more at the bigger picture. It processes that default reaction through a set of checking and metrics to decide whether that's true the child is that the one that wants everything right away impatient quickly responding straightaway reacting when it doesn't get what he wants. Telogen parent on good one knows what the child wants and needs and what's better for in the long term just starting there and being able to reflect and observe the different voices inside of us is a great place to start your self awareness because the biggest challenge is that most of us don't know what we're listening to and we don't most of us don't even know that there are more than one voice inside of us. Just getting over that line is a huge win. Because now at least you're trying to differentiate then what you're hearing and that's going to help you make better decisions in the future. So that was on someone. Does that answer your question? Yes, and second one was what so that's awareness. How can what are like typical things that trip people up that so in your answer just now it's like okay if you want to become more aware just know that those two things are happening, right you can have an initial response and then one that's more calculated now be aware of these two or Things that are also coming for you. The biggest challenge is that there's just so much noise. It's like have you ever had someone in your home? Maybe it's a wife or maybe it's a friend or whatever just playing really bad song too often. Right just playing a song that you really don't actually heard my wife laughs because she knows how guilty right? Okay, there you go, right. There you go and just play a song and just think I'll turn that off and after a while it's been on for so long that you become immune to it. Like it's just there and it's still on is there in the back of your mind and you didn't manage to turn it off? So the noise that I described in life, whether it's your parents expectations, whether it's society's expectations, whether it's your partner's expectations, all of those are like noise in the background and that noise drowns out your ability to understand the mind and the intelligence. That's one of the biggest trip UPS. I was looking at I gave a presentation called build a life. Not a resume. It's also one of my popular videos, but very good video. Thank you man. Thank you so much. And when I did the research so you don't see this in the video because this resets didn't make it into the video. But the research that I was doing was around the most common resume lies. The truth is over 40 to 50 percent of us lie on our resumes. Yeah. If you don't you're missing an opportunity, I'll just say that yeah, there you go. Right so and I started to dig deeper and I was looking at you know, a lot of people lie about their dates of employment. So instead of three days, it's now three months, you know, whatever it may be now I dug deeper and I wanted to meet some of these people and speak to people and so I spoke to people who lie on their resumes and we know that at least 40 to 50% tell us they do know the thing is known as proud of that. No one no one was like, yeah. I know I'm going to get really what it came down to is we're really insecure about our own abilities. Really what it came down to is we're not confident about what we have to offer what he came down to the lack of self-awareness. What it came down to is the lack of understanding. What am I good at? What am I passionate about? What am I bringing to the table? That's what people are really worried about. They were worried about the job when you Beneath the surface the real behavioral trait. I was coming out was insecurities and being unconfident about one's potential that that tells us a lot that indicates a lot about human behavior and human nature that the noise from outside makes us want to fit into a container and that stops us from differentiating between what is my mind saying and what is my intelligence saying and what happens is that noise becomes your voice so that noise becomes what you think is what you're saying and and most people don't realize that until 10 20 30 years down the road. How the hell do you like figure out so your analogy is great. Yes songs on you don't even realize is there any more becomes total White Noise? You're oblivious to it. In fact, you only notice it if it gets turned off, correct. So how do they identify that like do have a process for that? How do you hear the thing that you no longer here so that you can shut it off? Yeah. Absolutely one of the biggest ones and we say this all the time but it applies mostly to this is switching your Association is sweating. Listen to people that you hang out right? It's like changing your circle because if you're only hearing the same thing from that Circle the only way to turn it off without you having to do massive amounts of reflection is changing your circle where you start hearing we all ultimately find the things we want to hear right? We know that all right right now in real time you and I are going to use some cool shit. Okay, let's do it. Let's do it. All right, so I created like a little piece of content for Alexa where I was like, okay, what are the the the four questions that you can ask get because you and I use different words, but I think we're saying the same. Yeah, so I call them invisible beliefs beautiful. So everybody has invisible beliefs and they're totally fucking with you now clear noise. Yeah, so they're they're controlling your life and the only way to get them to stop controlling your life is actually figure out what they are. And so I gave four questions that two of them. I just straight stole from Albert Einstein whatever and it's the most important decision every person will Make in their life is whether they live in a friendly or hostile universe. So just make it a question. Why do you live in a friendly or hostile universe? And so the the point I'll go through all four. But the point was that if you ask these four questions and they're just the tip of the iceberg. But if you ask these four questions, you're going to begin to identify your frame of reference. Basically. Just trying to get people to frame themselves as either optimistic or pessimistic which I think is sort of the the big ham-handed like first thing you need to become aware of so first, do you live in a hostile or friendly universe? Another Einstein one is everything a miracle or is nothing a miracle right? Because you get to choose absolutely. So neither one of those is objectively real but you pick and it's really going to color how you love it. Yeah, and then number three, can you do anything you set your mind to without limitation or are there certain things you can't comprehend and then number four I'm forgetting right now so I won't waste time because you get the I get it. I love them. They're brilliant brilliant questions. So what like they're woefully incomplete. So what could we add to that? That would really bring this home for people. So if that gets them optimistic pessimistic what what other at a really high level? Yeah sure what are other things that people could immediately switch or in fact would immediately switch if they change, you know, the people that they're hanging around but like let's really get real about what some of those things are. So optimism pessimism what else so for me those two questions that I had to ask myself that really change what I do one of my big questions is what advice would I give to my younger self is huge? Because I think that's the stuff that we regret. That's the stuff that we wish we were doing. That's the stuff that has been lost in the noise. When you ask them. What advice would you give to your younger self? The number one answer is I wish I studied this. I wish I tried this out. I wish I gave this a go. You know, those are the all things that somebody didn't do. Yeah, it's all things that things people didn't do. It's always like something that either should have cast started or didn't continue and that's really tapping into someone's voice. Right, that's really tapping into what someone really wants to do and you're going Way Beyond just like oh, what do you like? What are you passionate about so hard to answer that sometimes especially if you're drowning. Does that add to your questions or that's really interesting, you know, I need to know what your answer was. So I used to be I stood a lot of spoken word. When I grew up. I read the dictionary. I read the thesaurus I love language. That's what I was fascinated by and for some reason I gave it up then I find out about monk life became a monk and then almost back ten years on at 28 Eight, I was going I asked myself that question and my answer was I miss words. I miss expressiveness. I miss sharing a message and stories through incredible language and ideas potential Rhymes but flow and all of these things. So that was the answer to my question. One of the biggest ones is was I wish I never stopped right? When did you ask that question? I was actually 28 so two years ago two years ago. Here's the thing that I will tell you right now that your content your content is like the modern. Version of spoken word. So I don't know if that's on purpose or an accident. But like there's an accident watching it. I was like fuck like if he is doing this off the cuff, I have to hate myself a little. Yeah and if he's writing it down he performs it so well that it feels off the cuff, but it's the unseeded but very impressive. Thank you man. Jiseok. I'm genuinely touch coming from no. No, here's the thing like look and I love giving compliments when they're real but more Importantly you compliment the thing you want to reinforce in somebody. So you've got a mission. I find it very interesting, which is can we make knowledge my word. I don't remember. What where do you use wisdom wisdom? Perfect. So can we make wisdom spread as far in as fast as entertainment, which is so similar to what I'm trying to change people's beliefs through entertainment. So I recognize the kindred soul right away and then just watching the content of like whoa, like it's I'm not The prize the number of views that you've gotten because it's songs work because they make you feel an emotion, but they also tap into whatever it is about humans, whatever it is that we convey through Rhythm. So and before the cameras were rolling we were talking about so the one thing that makes me very uncomfortable. I do this thing called impact quotes and impact quotes is the first time where I allowed myself to perform where I'm knowingly I would not say it like this if you and I were standing next to each other, right? This is for the Camera, I know how it's going to be edited. I know we're going to add music to it. So it is a performance but it's also some of our best performing content. So it's like what you were saying earlier about look I just accept that not everybody Geeks out on neuroscience. And so I have to understand like who my audience is and give them something in in a way that will then resonate and go viral. Absolutely. And so I think acknowledging that's really interesting. So anyway, I'm responding just what you were selling your life seems to be an echo of that answer. All right, so there's a few more things happen. Frank I'm here. I'm here. I'm I'm loving this and if you're loving it that Stephen yeah hundred percent. So there are three questions that you get asked a lot. What are they who the big one is? How do I find my passion? Okay, and you can tell me that what you get. I need you to answer each one of them. Yeah, but if you want to run through what each of the questions are and we'll go back or so ya know. I just do them as they are perfect. So, how do I find my passion my simple model, which is the Dharma model it also Dharma means Eternal Duty in The Vedic tradition. And it's very similar to what a key guy is being spoken about today, which is a Japanese version of Reason for being why do we live where is meaning coming from and it talks about an intersect of four areas. What am I good at? What do I love? What is the world need? And how do I get paid for it to me those for help you unlock your passion when you find the intersect across all of those for you're making your passion your purpose. You'll unlock your passion. You'll find your purpose. This is part one. There's two parts Part. One I find my skill set and I engage it to help other people and become better at it. So I'm becoming better what I'm good at and I'm using it to help other people because I'm aware of what I'm quite good at. And I know what knowledge I have what skills I have. I have some self-awareness the other path that people often miss is actually I just start serving people. I just start helping people and I start to notice what I enjoy about that and what I'm good at helping people with so that's Gandhi's part. Gandhi said that you find yourself when you lose yourself in the the service of others. So for me, those are the two Paths of how do I find my passion and finding the intersect between those four areas of the second one is Jane my relationships falling apart. I get asked that all the time. So the answer to that is much harder. It's hard to summarize it but I always start with self-actualization that the problem is we have a list for the one that we want. And we don't have a list for what we need to become and I don't mean to come to attract. I mean become to just be to just get to understand yourself. You don't know what you need in your life until you figure out who you are. And so I find too many people rush into relationships Without Really recognizing and being fully aware of what they need from a relationship. So it all comes back to how a, where're you how much understanding do you have of yourself and what you need and what you want that's my best advice for Japan like a minute and then the third question I mostly get asked is Jay. What do you read? Like, what are your favorite books? Because it seems you read a lot. What are your top three books? They're not groundbreaking in the sense that people may not be like, oh my God. It's the best book I've ever read for me. They changed my life. So that's where I'm coming at a point from I love start with Y by Simon sinek and not because I applied it to businesses because I applied it to my life. And even today I'm constantly refining my why that's all I do every day my deepest morning routine and practice is to refine why I do what I do. It's so easy for me to now do it for money. It's so easy for me to now do it for followers. It's so easy for me to now do it for fame and every day. I have to refine that because I know having lived as a monk and what I practiced that if those become what I want then I'll forget who I need to be so my daily practice and my daily routine is refining my intention which in modern language. Is why so for me Simon's book help me do that the bhagavad-gita, which I would love to do for Vedic knowledge what Ryan's done for stoicism and the bhagavad-gita over 5,000 years old and that book really exemplifies human challenge third book I'd say this one's gonna be hard because it's the last one. Let me think. I'm gonna try to throw something else in there. So I've done one like self-development one more spiritual. Lighten, man. Let me throw a business book in seeing as I'm sure you have a lot of business for years. I love the book exponential organizations. I don't know if you read it by Salim Ishmael and the singularity University and that book for me is an incredible analysis of this success of all the organizations. We see ruling our phone today the way it breaks down their business models and how they were created to me. It's fascinating. So if anyone really wants to start up a exponential Today and that's where they have to go and that's when Peter diamandis that if you want to be a billionaire redefining it as someone who impacts the lives of a billion people and and that's what that business book is really about is how do you create an exponential organization that positively impacts a billion people? So those are my three for today very good. Yeah. I've got one more. Yes. I want to hear you. Talk about your three. He's oh, what are they? Why do they matter so for me? Me my three. He's our element environment and energy. Everyone has an element that they thrive in if you take someone out of it that element they won't be the same modern-day example would be Michael Jordan. He was incredible at basketball. You took him out of basketball put them into baseball. No one remembers his career we talked about one of the best athletes of all time. Your environment is the environment around you you can take a fish out of water and give it a beautiful mansion and a Bentley and all the money in the world, but it would die. And that's what we are like our environment everyone needs an environment which may Thrive which we have to craft your boss. If you're at work is never going to ask you. Hey, what environment you succeed in right like that never happens. So we have to create an environment where we Thrive and then finally it's energy. We some of us love high-energy environments high-pressure some of us succeed in low energy environments and low pressure figuring out your energy in the frequency on which you operate best will help you thrive as well. So for me, those are the Bees to really create thriving environment know your element know your environment and know your energy and so at all times if I see anything going wrong I'm going is my element out of alignment is my environment out of alignment or is my energy out of alignment and that's a great three question test. You can do to yourself when you don't think things are going right and all you have to do is bring that back into alignment love that. All right before I ask my last question working these guys find you online. Absolutely. Can find me my favorite place for you to find me please? See the most stuff is Facebook. I'm Jay Shetty on Instagram. I'm Jay Shetty as well. There's my two bass two best places YouTube as well Jay Shetty Twitter J Shetty. So it's just yes JJ. Yeley. On Any platform that you're on I'm probably they're awesome. All right, what's the impact that you want to have on the world? I think you've said it so beautifully so many times and shared my vision, which is wonderful and it's wonderful to know that we share the same thing. It's making wisdom. Go viral. There's an Study in 2017 that said the most successful people in the world healthy wealthy and Wise choose education / entertainment. The impact I want to have from the world is I want to transform and revolutionize the entertainment industry so that it becomes an educational without anyone knowing so it's still completely entertaining. It's still like watching Netflix, but you're learning about human behavior the my neuroscience and everything. Without even knowing you are to me that's the greatest win that we can have for our society. How many people are going to quit watching Netflix and reading a book every night. I don't know. But if we can make that book come to life on Netflix that's going to change the world because that's what people are going to consume. So for so long media has been used to numb people to switch people off if we can use it to excite Elevate Enlighten people not by just not by like the cheesy way of like a let's follow someone. Through their journey of Enlightenment and I like that kind of stuff. I mean like really entertaining programming where you can learn by being entertained at the same time. If I can do that by changing the most powerful industry in the world, then I will feel that I've had some some whatever an impact because that way I think we'll reach the world without having to get around to change their habits too much. My my thing is how do we meet people where they are and and really deliver a message and a powerful. All expression of love and to me that's the highest form of compassion the highest form of empathy love and compassion is to meet people where they already are rather than expecting them to change. And yeah, that's the impact. I'd like to have on the world. So fingers crossed with your help with the help of everyone is watching, you know, it's going to be a team effort. I can't do it on my own. I'm not expecting to yeah, that's that's the impact would like to have on the world. It's awesome, and thank you. Thank you. Guys, I'm telling you when you look at a tribe of people everybody has different roles and there's always somebody whose job it is to go out to experience the world to bring back the wisdom in a form that has been digested and made easy for other people to take away. Jay Shetty is that man go watch this content. It is somebody who has gone out into the world who's been a monk who's worked at Accenture and everywhere in between and come back with a real ability to explain what is going on and he does it from a Position of not trying to seem smarter than you or better than you, but just that that's his role. Some people are musicians. Some people are the doctors and some people break down the information. I really think he has unique access to the wisdom as he calls it to understand what people are trying to encapsulate in the books modern or ancient and his ability to articulate that in a way that feels like modern rap spoken word. Whatever you want to think of it as it is. Of itself an artistic creation, so you cannot go wrong diving into it that it is not a mistake that he's had over a billion views in less than 12 months, which is insanity. So go check his stuff out hit him up asking questions keep an eye because I think he's going to be one of the greats at really digesting that information and really helping wisdom. Go viral. All right guys, if you haven't already be sure to subscribe and until next time my friends be legendary. Take care. Thank you so much for watching and being a part of this community. If you haven't already be sure to subscribe you're going to get weekly videos on building a growth mindset cultivating grit and unlocking your full potential.
Jay Shetty is making wisdom go viral. After spending years on the road studying as a monk he re-entered the world and began scaling the digital voice of companies to make an impact. Now with a wide-reaching following of his own, Jay is creating engaging, inspiring content for the masses. Watch as he discusses how to find your purpose and redefine entertainment on this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. SHOW NOTES: Jay details how meeting a monk redefined his path early on. [3:53] Jay breaks down key steps in building your ideal life. [12:01] Jay and Tom discuss bridging practical studies with spiritual insight. [23:30] Jay talks about gaining self-awareness and the things that hinder it. [30.28] Jay shares and answers the 3 questions he gets asked the most. [42:40] Jay reveals the impact he wants to have on the world. [49:03] QUOTES: “Your passion is for you, your purpose is for others. Your passion makes you happy. But when you use your passion to make a difference in someone else's life, that's a service, that's a purpose, and that's the hand. " [22:54] “Being able to reflect and observe the different voices inside of us is a great place to start your self-awareness because the biggest challenge is that most of us don't know what we're listening to. Most of us don't even know that there is more than one voice inside of us.” [32:28] “The highest form of empathy, love, and compassion is to meet people where they already are, rather than expecting them to change.” 