Hey guys, this is Lisa and Rebecca and we are here on the secret life of weddings. If you like drama, you're in the right place where we tell you the world's craziest, but true wedding stories. So get ready for the drama on the secret life of weddings. Hey screams, it is Lisa and Rebecca here on the secret life of weddings podcast. Welcome to episode 125. Okay, let's jump into in the news this week. All right, it's a good one Lisa according to boing boing dotnet a couple got engaged at Walmart hours after armed robbery in North Carolina a love-struck convenience store clerk and her fiance now have matching criminal charges investigators said the robber. Took place after 10 p.m. Monday night when a man with a hat bandana and some sort of ornamental sword bottom to the store right? I know right who wouldn't marry that guy. Yeah walked into the store and demanded money from the clerk. He walks out of the store with two thousand nine hundred and sixty dollars according to a release from mdps Carswell allowed officers to search her cell phone Carswell is the clerk of the store. Resulting in them finding videos of her and more the accused getting engaged at Walmart early Tuesday morning after the robbery. They're really said receipts seized during the execution of a search warrant. I was like, wait, wait, wait, they execute I thought they legit like cut their heads off for that. And I thought, you know, I was believing that, you know, the US was in trouble and everything, but I didn't think We're executing people in Walmart's holy. Oh my gosh, when please execute a search warrant at Moore's vehicle, they found money from the store and a handwritten list of materials needed to conduct the robbery at worse and carswell's house police found the weapon and clothing worn by murdering the robbery. The release said she still claims that she's innocent had nothing to do with the robbery. Yeah, right. I like really, you know, at least if you're going to rob a place you might want to get rid of all the evidence. I can't believe the sword. How does that there's photos to and he's got the sword in his hand. I'm like really? Yeah. I know exactly what kind of guy that is to do you? Oh, yeah, they're not cool. They're the type that have those big samurai swords up on the wall. Yes, like a display and it's like, you know, Now that's his first girlfriend for sure. They went and bought their engagement rings out warmer and got engaged. Congratulations. Yeah, not shame me all my rings. I'm just saying just saying just saying well, they're all in let's just put it that way this week of the fuck is bucket / advice Corner. We want to throw wedding dress remorse in the fuck it buckets. Yes you No, as I said to you I've seen so much of this now. It's kind of crazy. It's an epidemic. Yes, everyone and their posts and wedding groups about buyer's remorse and they found another just they love so much. Why the fuck are y'all looking at other dresses? I want to know. Yeah. Yeah, don't get it spent a ton of money and time and emotion attaching and bonding with this. Dress I get it. I do I did it myself. It is an easy trap to fall into but don't do it. This is our advice are warning to you guys. Yes, because otherwise you're going to find yourself with two dresses and one you're going to have to Russian cell. Yeah or changing and it's just silly a little bit. I think but you know, listen. Yeah, I mean you can if you have the money if you have all the money in the world go nuts. Yeah, fuck by 5. I don't care point is most of us don't have and less money to drop onto dresses. So yeah Our advice to you would be stopped looking after you found the dress and put those energies into something else for your wedding. Yeah. Stop setting yourself up for failure here. Yeah, really? Delete all the photos on your phone. And anybody else's phone of you in any other dress get rid of it. Yep, stop comparing because it's something that we you have doubts and it this is our reassurance to It's normal to feel doubts about your dress after you buy it. I had it I even to this day I sit here sometimes going did I pick the right dress? My point is it's never if you think is perfect you're lucky because a lot of people don't have that Perfection on every little part of their day and addresses a very very subjective for women. It has to do with how we see ourselves, which is already completely fucked up at times. Yep. We are, you know, very self-conscious about our Our bodies how we look and things it's just a whole other layer deeper and you just don't need to complicate it further by looking at other options. Yes. Okay. Exactly. Are we cool? I'm okay with the whole sharing yourself in different dresses to try and pick one. I get that that's cool. Yeah before you buy one. Yes, not after not after stop looking stop it. Yeah, you don't need it. It's like when you find your partner star, are you still going out and looking? Yeah. Stop get eight when you find your partner and you're going to be like married typical relationship not talking about Paulie here typical relationship. That's you know, whatever you get off Tinder. Am I right people? Yes, you don't, you know, wait a few months and then log back in and just just to see what's out there. No, stop disrespecting your wedding dress. Okay, exactly respect your choice respect the dress. Yes, let all the others go. I just stopped you guys and no you look amazing in the one you bought and you loved it. You buy it so far in advance to Lisa right that you kind of like anything else. It's like a pair of shoes. Right? I liked them six months ago. But now I don't know, you know, it's human. It's human endless. 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We actually think that's fabulous. Send it to us record your story send it to us or write it out secret life of weddings at gmail.com. And now for Carrie's Story. Hey ladies carry Porter Bond here fan in the Facebook group and listener and I love your show. And when I heard the story that my bride just told me today I said I have to submit this so I don't know if you can take an audio submission, but I'm recording this while it's fresh on my mind. So I'm Wedding photographer in Key West Florida, we do a lot of destination weddings. We have couples that come down and you know, maybe just have the two of them or really small group and don't really do a lot of the traditional wedding who blah blah no limo, or you know Transportation or anything like that. They just sort of hop in an Uber and go downtown after their ceremony and such was the case with my bride today. I photographed their wedding a couple of days ago and they've been in town and so I offered Her a complimentary in studio. Shoot. I love to do women's portraits. So when I do have a bride who's going to be in town for a couple of days, I will give that to her as a gift and so my bride comes in and you know, we're kind of getting going and you know what I always tell them, you know be bring whatever outfits you'd like to bring if you want to bring your wedding dress, you're more than welcome to but you know, this is really just a fun shoot for you so you don't have to but it's totally up to you. So anyway, so she gives To the shoe and we're kind of going through wardrobe and the topic of the wedding dress comes up and that's when she tells me what happened after I left and so it all kind of started. She has one of those wedding dresses that has a really long ribbon that laces up the back its kind of one of those really super fitted corset Style bodices on the top of the dress and then you know the bottom Flows out from there and the back of it laces up as you are probably familiar and then it has like the big long ribbon that typically you will tuck in. So anyway, so I'm there. I'm doing getting ready photos. She's getting laced up and we're kind of cracking jokes about you know, can she breathe and you know, if she can't then it's perfect and one of the Bridesmaids, you know is laughing like, oh the groom is going to have to get Scissors to get you out of this thing because it's so tight and you know, there's just a lot of back and forth with the lacing. It's just really kind of complicated assembly, but we get the dress on her forget about it go on about the wedding ceremony goes off without a hitch. We do some photos afterwards and then I leave my coverage was over so I leave and so now she's telling me the story of what happened after. I left and apparently as the evening had gone on the laces had started to kind of get a little bit looser. And so she was like, you know, the the course that was kind of separating from her from her body was kind of giving little gaps here and there so they said well we want to go downtown and they wanted to wear their wedding attire and sort of do a newlywed Duval crawl on Duval Street is kind of are really famous kind of party Street. And so they were going to go downtown in their wedding attire. And so she's like why don't want to go downtown with it loose like this. So let me get it released back up. So she gets one of her bridesmaids to help her and the bridesmaid is, you know, lacing her up and kind of tightening it up and everything. Well in the meantime, the groom has requested the Uber and it's now only a couple of minutes away. So they're start to rush and she just kind of does it really fast and either doesn't really tie it off really well or whatever and then doesn't bother to tuck the straps and to the inside of the dress. Like normally you have the long ribbon kind of the ends of it and then you tuck it down so that it's like nice and tidy. Well, she had left it out and these ribbons are really really long and they were really I'm calling them ribbons, but they were really like thick kind of straps almost you would say like a ribbon covered strap. uh, it's hard to describe but they're really thick and really strong so they get in the Uber and off they go and all of a sudden the bride gets jerked very forcefully off of her seat and like flies into the inside of the door like against the door as they're driving and so she's kind of shocked and you know, not sure what to think and kind of starts to try to get up and sizes that she a can't move and be she feels her dress like slowly tightening around her and so she's like reaching to her party for help and they realize that she is, you know, in distress and they're trying to get her and she's stuck to the door. And in the meantime her ribcage. She said she could feel the dress like compressing around her ribcage and it's squeezing her and squeezing her and her And is trying to get her up. They don't you know, of course in the moment. They don't exactly realize what has happened. And so she's being squeezed and squeezed. She said she could almost barely breathe every time she breathed out. It was almost like a boa constrictor like constricting her air and it starts to like squeeze into her belly and she's like, it's getting Tighter and Tighter and Tighter and so they're yelling to the driver to stop. Top and they're all trying to get her and now they've realized that her straps her ribbons for her dress were left outside of the car or of the van that they're in and she somehow is it's caught around something. Of course, they don't realize this in the moment, but for whatever reason she is stuck and is like being basically crushed to death by her wedding dress. She's like I could barely breathe my rib cage. Like closing in around my organs and because there was like a significant kind of Gap, you know, there was like a little bit of space between so that you could see the back and forth of the laces that was how it was designed. So you've got an easy probably four to six inches of space, you know from the bottom you kind of gradually going up toward the top and like a V shape you had a lot of leeway and now at this point the The sides of the corset are lace completely closed like there is no space between them and I'm just like she's telling me the story and I'm like, oh my gosh, like it was tight when it was on you and it had that four to six inch Gap. I cannot imagine like we had trouble just getting it tight with that so I could not imagine another four to six inches being squeezed together where the two edges were. Literally touching so they they are yelling to the driver. He apparently comes around a corner and they hear a snap and she said for a split second. She goes. Oh my gosh. I've just broken one of my ribs. And so they stop thankfully that was not the case. But now the corset is so tight. She can barely catch her breath. They opened the door. They realized the manage and the ribbon is like wrapped around the tire or the axle and they are trying to get it undone. It did break one of the straps but not the other so they cut the other strap. But now the thing is so tight that they can't get it off of her. So going back to the getting ready. They get her into back into the space or hotel. I'm not even sure where they ended up but they get Scissors and they literally had to cut her out of the dress. Like they could not unravel the ribbon. It was so shredded and so gnarled up that there was no way that they were getting it off. And of course in the meantime, she's being squeezed to death by this dress. So yeah, they literally had to get the scissors and free her from her own wedding dress and we laughed about it. It now obviously she said in the moment. It was very scary, but we were joking and she said, you know near death experience by wedding dress strangulation almost but oh my gosh, so needless to say she did not end up going downtown in her wedding dress and ended up changing, but I think any bride who is maybe considering a lace-up corset style dress if you are going to go in a vehicle, please. Look in the ribbons. So anyway, I had to share that story. I thought that was the craziest thing that has happened to one of my Brides in a long time. And I thought you might enjoy so have fun with that. Thanks so much for the show and I'll see you soon. Holy shit. That is insanity. That's nuts. Oh my God. I don't know what I would do scream a lot. I mean, oh if I was the person like if I was the bride, I'd be like, oh my God. Oh my God rip this open someone rip it open. Oh, yeah because I can't stand being I get claustrophobic as it is. Can you imagine being claustrophobic in you're having your ribs crushed? Oh, gotcha. Yeah. Imagine if you had fake boobs, like what if it was on the bowl who look it was one of those courses and it did we must a boob. Well, that's I would be afraid of a leak. Yeah SLI, I'd be like, is it gonna like jello gonna pop out? Yeah like that. Yeah, very bad. No suit. Bridesmaids tuck those strings in always and make them short, even if that means cutting them. They don't they're way too long as it is. It's ridiculous how long they make these things. Do you know a similar thing? It's like similar but not similar at all happened to me. Actually. I was in the parking lot of my kids school and I go to pull out and I and I would like driving and the car like it wouldn't go forward and I was like what is going on? So I got out and and the strap from my kids car seat had gotten caught in the wheel underneath and was like, I was trying to drive on it and the car wouldn't pull forward because it was pulling against the seat and side outside. It was the same thing almost and so I had to get out. Oh my God, pull it out. I think I had a guy helped me because it was I had to like back up with Yang it at the same time or something. It was messed up. Oh God, it was so messed up. But yeah, so I'm we're glad the Okay, I hope everything is seen Yang did break and and all is well, but guys just watch those strings. Yes, and oh my gosh. All right scary said note to self always tuck always talk talk that shit in I saw that at the end of the story because it's an audio story. So I didn't hear it before and I was like, is this a story about drag queens always Tuck best advice ever? Oh my gosh. Okay. Our next story is coming from a listener. R hey I've been holding back on sharing these stories because I've been afraid that the people involved would know it's me but fuck it. Fuck it bucket. Yeah good for you. My Alias is Smokey mix smoke erson, which doesn't matter because I don't use names in the story, but I wanted dibs in case I ever send more stories to you. I love it. Yeah like it if they're deep throat. Yes, this is Strip club freak out a couple years ago. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding. We had set the bachelorette party for Florida and all made our way down for what was supposed to be a great weekend the night started off. Well, we got pretty drunk ate great food and decided to go to a strip club with female strippers because we all admire their talent. I love that. Yeah, we get there and everything is going so well the bride is having a great time, but very soon after her arrival and about R-25 shots deep. She is hammered. She's dancing with the strippers dancing with other men, which we at first tried to stop her from doing this but eventually realized we were going to win a fight. So we let it go when a drunk woman wants to grind on someone there is no stopping her apparently. Wow. Okay, then shit. I think that's the universal law of grindage. It's just if a drunk woman wants to grind she's gonna do it. Gonna Grant yeah, then shit hit the fan the soon-to-be bride realized her $12,000 custom engagement. Ring was no longer on her finger. I've never seen someone sober up so fast. Oh no, all the Bridesmaids tried to stay calm for her, but the wedding was two weeks away. So it was hard to not panic. We all stopped what we were doing to try to find the ring. We looked all over I can't imagine how crazy we all looked literally. Holding our phone flashlights up in a dark club with people everywhere trying to find this damn ring. Oh no after about an hour of searching and still no ring. We called to make a police report. Once we had that situated the night was obviously over the mood was killed on the very sad and quiet way home bride-to-be called for future hubby to tell him the bad news. He was obviously not happy because the ring wasn't even paid off yet. Oh, that's Yanks. We spent the next morning going through Instagram videos to try to figure out what at what point of the night she lost the ring. That's smart. Sure. Yeah, we went back and forth you had it in this video at 11:39, but not in this one at 12:14, which was all pretty useless. Now that I look back because mind you we were in a strip club. So needless to say she never got a ring back. We all think there was a stripper who got really lucky. He that night on the day of the wedding the bride had on a fake engagement ring. She never did get another real one, which it turns out didn't even matter. They are now divorced because they both ended up cheating on each other within a couple months of being married the marriage lasted just barely one year. I have so many more stories about this wedding, but also some about my own since I got engaged this past September and I'm already having shit shows occur right before my eyes. Well, then you need to send those in to us. Yes, you do. Oh my God, I was gonna be like, okay, let's make a miracle happen. Let's share this and you know, hopefully the stripper who founded a lot of like a stripper with a heart of gold and she'll, you know, send it to us and we'll reunite them with their ring and y'all are like now they cheated and boned other people and now they're divorced and I was crushed. So do you know what this would be a good time for Moissanite? Oh, yes, let's insert a Charles and colvard up or just go to Charles and covert colvard guys because really I mean $12,000 see you wouldn't have lost $12,000. Do you see ya promo code secret life just saying just saying but seriously Dada that story's amazing, please send us your other ones. We would love to have them secret life of weddings at gmail.com. We want to say thank you to our patreon members this week are newbies are Rianne. I hope I'm saying that right. It's our IA n is that rien Ryan Ryan Ryan. Is it Ryan Rin? Yeah, Ryan. 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Hey ladies, I wanted to ask you a question regarding engagement rings. Well really about my engagement ring first. Let me tell you a little bit about the family. I'm marrying into they Wonderful people I'm truly lucky to have been accepted and welcomed into such a loving giving and fun family. My family is the opposite and most don't like me. So I never felt like I had much of a family growing up a lot of family members felt. My mom was underneath or unacceptable to marry into my father's family and hated her for her class. Whatever the fuck that means. They married in the 80s. My dad's family is not rich they are. Not well-known individuals. They are just assholes that think they are superior to people when really they aren't they sound like really great. I love them Thanksgiving must be awesome, right? Yeah, by the way, Happy Thanksgiving to our American. Listen. Yes who I am jealous of your turkey right now the ones that hated my mother the most were my dad's parents and because I'm my mother's daughter also half my dad's but apparently that doesn't mean shit all They really hate me and I have grown up without knowing what it was like to have grandparents. My mom's an orphan. I love my fiance's grandmother. I called her Nana had hung out with her and talked to her on the phone often. We had a great relationship the first year she gave me a card that she signed off as Nana to me. I cried turns out that Nana collected and sold jewelry on the side. Wow. Dan is a hustler. Yeah and told my fiancé She had the perfect ring for me and showed us the ring. It was beautiful more than I could have ever dreamed of for a ring. And it was like she had read my mind in every way. The ring was perfect for me and made me so excited to wear it. They discussed a payment plan and we left it that a few months later. Nana was diagnosed with cancer on Anna and we forgot all about the ring and engagement plans. We had a wonderful few months with Nana before she died. She was a truly loving. And after the funeral the family started talking about the will and her jewelry business. We asked what would be happening since we had a verbal agreement with Nana and my mother-in-law told me that Nana had specified in her will that any jewelry marked and put aside on layaway for her grandchildren could consider their debts done and take what they had on hold without any more payments. This is where the story gets confusing because after that she told us she had saved our ring from Nana's estate, but had to take A cut from her inheritance to get it. So we would have to pay her twenty five hundred dollars to get it from my mother-in-law. I'm not a jewelry person at all. And the only real reason I love the ring is because it was Nana's and that she had bought it for my fiance to propose to me. My mother thinks it's dirty handed on my mother-in-law to do this and thinks I should just let it go and not make payments as we are paying for the wedding ourselves and saving for infertility. Body treatments are for after the wedding my mother in law states that she thinks every man should buy the engagement ring. Even if it is a family ring. What would you do in this situation? Currently? I'm making small payments of what I can send her wanted $200 per month and I told her I can make a bigger payment after the wedding vendors are paid, but she seems to have different stories about why we must pay for the ring and says she's giving it to us at a discount as the ring could see five to six thousand dollars. Am I being a bridezilla or a brat or do you send something fishy about her stories too? Hmm. Your mother-in-law is taking you for a ride. Yeah. I kind of sorry. I think maybe you should walk away. I think it's hard. Okay. I'm just going to be frank here, please. I think it's gross that she's even charging you. Yeah, sorry, I do lie. I think that's bullshit. Nana said that that the debts were done. Like I don't think her excuse makes any sense. No, I have to pay a part of my inheritance to take this thing. That was our family's anyway, how does the yeah. No, I'm not buying it. I'm not buying it. I think she's trying to get money out of you, which is really gross considering you're paying for your own wedding. Like I just don't I mean if she was paying for your wedding, okay, I could see see, you know, okay, will you guys got to pay for something? You know what I mean? But yeah, and as for she's your mother-in-law thinking every man needs to pay for the engagement ring, even if it's a family ring. No stupid. No so stupid. That's no that's dumb. I'm sorry, but I know you love them and all but that's I'm curious what your fiance's saying because I think this is kind of brutal. Mmm, I agree with your Rebecca. I don't think I don't I think she's screwing around with them. And I think when someone screws with you like that, it's best just to walk away. I understand totally why you want the ring and that totally sucks that she's holding it hostage, but I don't know if there's anything more you can do. I don't know if it's worth the money for you at this point. Yeah, if it's not something you can afford like if you have your heart set on it if this means so much to you that you would pay the money in an instant. You would take other things away from your wedding day to have this ring Forever on your finger fucking do it. Yeah opinion. Yeah, you have to ask yourself. How much is it going to crush me if in ten years I look at my finger and I'm still thinking about that Rick ever don't think it warrants her fiance having a conversation with his mother God. Yes. Do you think that should have been that's the first thing that should have happened is him talking is my be like, well, hold on a second here. Yeah, I mean get exactly what's going on written down. Out on paper like this almost needs to be a contract at this point. I don't trust the the shifting story. So my point is though Rebecca. If you can't, you know, get him to talk to her work it out or for whatever reason how much of yourself is it going to destroy going through this process with her, so don't let it ruin your wedding. Don't let it ruin yourself. And if the ring doesn't mean that much to you that it's going to bother you in 10 years, maybe consider letting a go if it does mean that much to you. Fight also how much have you paid already like well, that's to that as well. I want to make sure that you have a pierced ear there. Okay, if it was anything I've learned in my real estate course. It's went to consult a third party professional and I don't think we count so you may want to ask a lawyer friend, but we are total professionals. We're third party wedding professionals. We say your chain is getting yanked. Yes. That's what we think keep us posted. Let us know how it turns out. Because we would like to know and we hope it does work out for I hope she never turns the other cheek and says just take it just take the damn thing. Yes. Yeah, that would be when she grows up a little bit and does what's good for her son? Yes future daughter-in-law. Yes. Yes for sending your question and okay guys today. I need to talk to you about Casita by Lutron. It's smart lighting control brought to you by Lutron Pioneers in Smart Home Technology. A lot of people think you need smart bulbs to get smart lighting but there is a smarter way Casino. 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All right, and because infidelity is such a massive topic everywhere the groom had his Side chick bring his shoes to the church after he claimed he was only in the wedding as the best man. She ended up lingering around until it was time for The Possession when he took the bride's hand the side chick went off and the bride started hitting him in his face and he hit her back hard. Yeah, he's like no you didn't. Wow, you didn't let me tell you if he's hitting you you might want to yeah, I don't know. Why don't you take my shoes off the bride and hopefully the side chick and beat the crap out of him in the middle of the aisle, right? I'd stick the heel through his eye. Oh, yeah. It's ok. Really wouldn't do that was very violent like really violent. Even for you, is that you far? Is that too far? No, I liked it. It was good. We have an explicit rating. We can say what we want that fine that went dark fast. It was good. I'm just going to put a trigger warning for violence on this episode. That's good an HS warning. He'll stabbings. Well, thank you for that loan. Nugget Rebecca. That was yeah. You're welcome. I'm gonna be dreaming about that tonight. Hey ladies, first of all, I have to say Say thank you for making the podcast. I've always wanted to make if you're welcome. I listen to a lot of podcasts and funny enough. I think I heard about you on Canadian True Crime. That is our girl Steve Steve. We love her. She is the best go listen to Canadian True Crime. If you haven't and you want a break from all this laughter and you want some murder. Yeah, like the murders as much as we do go check out Canadian True Crime that was a couple of days ago. And now I'm on episode 9. I'm an event coordinator and I have seen some crazy. In my 20 years of working in hospitality and banquets. I still love to hear your stories and every episode reminds me of yet another crazy story. I want to share with you see its opening the Vault. Yes, this is what's happening. Yeah, but I was really prompted to share my answer to your question about the best man / officiants or reaching back here. Yeah, like way back that proposed to his pregnant girlfriend during The couple's ceremony. That is not okay and they proceeded to make the reception about them to face-palming so hard. I need Tylenol yikes. I had a wedding about 10 years ago. So my memory isn't perfect. But I believe either the mother of the bride was proposed to by her boyfriend or the Father of the Bride proposed to his girlfriend during the reception eek granted. The ceremony was over and we were at least two hours into the reception because the formalities and dinner We're over and it was just dancing or drinking time. But even then not. Okay. Anyway, keep up the good work and I'll probably be sending you more stories soon about the wedding. I worked where James Van Der Beek was in attendance when the bride showed up three hours late to a forced marriage when the Father of the Bride had a heart attack on the dance floor and my personal worst the time I got snowed in to my venue and had the worst 26 hours of My Life The Wedding that Acme oh my God. I want that's right. Lot's of Luck. Would it be great if all that happened at one wedding fabulous? Yeah like James Van Der Beek was there there was a snowstorm. Yeah. There was a heart attack. Well, that would be good. But you know what I'm saying? Yeah, lots of love and respect to you and I can't wait to pinch more of your podcast sincerely Victoria. Thank you Victoria. You know what I would love what I would love if she could tell us the James Van Der Beek story and then we could talk to James Van Der Beek. Yeah. It'll be fun. I'll I would be like, it's member remember when you were Dawson. Yes, he much all I got I'll leave the rest to you Rebecca. I love it. Oh my gosh. Okay. We got our double Dee's baby and it's a listener story. Hi ladies. Obviously. I love your show. My best friend introduced me to the show and I binge the show like crazy the last couple of months. I theriot is like my second home. I grew up in Buffalo. What? Tup Buffalo. Hey, fun fact at Christmas. Do you ever listen to the Buffalo Christmas stage? Yes. It's on in my are. Yep Star 102.5 and listen see the problem. I have those it doesn't start up until after American Thanksgiving. Is it on ya know it started before really I thought it was I've had it on for two weeks. No, we checked we checked a couple weeks ago. It wasn't on so I must have just missed the start. Yes. Well, it's my favorite is the local commercials. They do like, you know, Don't wander for mr. Lee Market. Yes never stops, right? I want a tops. We had a tops saving you more saving you more. That's right. It's always like like a Tonawanda Chicago Chicago way. Yeah en route 402 da-da-da-da-da and then it I love the weather reports because it's like 75 people have run into each other on the snowy Highway and we're having a blizzard and I'm like, this is so Christmas. See, it's awesome. Yes. I love it. Yeah, amazing Pride I take so much joy, in other people's car crash apparently. No I but what up Buffalo I guess is what I'm trying to get out here. I'm writing because my dating life is definitely laughable or at least I like to laugh at it a little context for one of my favorite and unfortunate dating stories. I decided to move to Florida for a couple years to work at Disney while I was in college. That's amazing. I feel like there's a lot of Florida in the Episode you've mentioned a startling two or three times. Okay, that's totally by accident. Okay. Okay, I was single and ready to mingle as the kids say I am I met this guy on Tinder. You already know this was a bad decision and he was working at Disney as well. We hit it off and everything seemed to be going well or so. I thought I would spend time at his apartment with his roommates all the time and we would go on dates in the park. It felt like it was getting serious and I was excited to see where it would go. Well, it was New Year's Eve and I just got out of work and was planning on spending it with my work friends because he was still working at midnight. He sent me a snap on snap chat saying he wanted to Netflix and chill but I was with my friends and drinking so I couldn't drive over. He didn't reply to the snap I sent so I went back to the party after the party. I walked home and went to snap him. Good night. And he had blocked me. Oh, I was still drunk and tired. So I went to sleep when I woke up in the morning. I was still blocked and completely upset. Like what did I do? Well little did I know that he was dating someone else at the same time. I bet you are thinking well, I hope you are thinking how did I find this out? Well, my roommate at the time was talking about a girl on her Facebook. Engaged as someone that loves seeing engagement stories. I asked her to show me the pictures as she opened the pictures. I saw his face on Harold Lee. He got engaged to this girl on New Year's Day. I want to say this is the first time that something like this has happened to me, but I would be lying. I hope this gives you a laugh even if you don't put it on the show. Thank you for always getting me to laugh out loud while I'm at work. Oh my god. Oh, I got so I want to know he was engaged like was he engaged when he was seeing her ya ain't getting no he got engaged on New Year's and then he was New Year's. She was let's remember. She was under your night that night. She was of New Year's party. He got engaged during that day and he asked her to come over that night for a booty call. It was New Year's Eve. Oh my God. That's what I just was trying to put together in my head. Yes douchebag. Nevermind. I like that. She said I want to say this was the first time that something like this happened to me, but I would be lying. I need more you because I didn't know how many times this has happened to you. That's like holding a sausage up in front of a rottweiler. Yes, you get that to Rebecca. It's not night. It's me more unique. Can you imagine that's like no, you know that you hear those stories of women who like they're married someone's married and then they see a photo online or Over and their spouses in the picture with someone else and it's just like such a mindfuck. I can't even yeah, it's kind of crazy crazy. Well, thank you so much for sending that in that was fabulous. My favorite part about the holidays is reconnecting with family. I love swapping stories and reliving moments together. But keeping these memories live can be hard. That's why I'm giving my family the most meaningful gift this year story worth story worth is so cool. I have set up my mom on it. 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Yeah, and she goes what about the other people who have Christmas trees in their Windows, like what if they don't want us looking at their trees and I said, well, no, that's why we put people put their Christmas trees typically in the front window. So other people can look at it. She goes, I don't want people looking at my tree. She goes I want a private Christmas tree. Oh my God, I was like that's not a thing. Yeah. I said you want a private Christmas tree. So she we call her high maintenance for obvious reasons this child. But yeah, it was fun. We went out to a Christmas tree farm and got the Christmas tree. I almost broke this year this year. I was like, I think we should just get a fake tree. I said to Justin and I had been getting real ones my whole life. I fought the fight the fight like she did today with me. Yeah. I was a kid to my mom will laugh her ass off when she hears this and I this year I finally went the mess is crazy last two years. It has done nothing but fall down on me. Yeah water goes everywhere all over the carpet. Yeah, you have to get rid of it after it's costing the we're buying $70 $80 real trees. It's fucking expensive like yeah. Yeah lat and Jill's been driving us nuts. Liam didn't really want to go Jill did and Justin kind of didn't so I was like, oh to maybe we just go Oh by a fake one, yeah, she fought tooth and nail one. I just was like I'm proud of her and I said it's just the irony of it because I did the exact. Yeah, I was her age. Yeah. That was awesome. Yeah. Anyway, I do both my fake ones up already but I gotta get my real one still but yeah, yeah, we do both. How come you do both. I put the fake one in my the front of my house. So in the window and then Like we're huge on Christmas and we don't hang out in that room. So the second one goes in my family room where we can look at it every day. Wait, so that's the private Christmas tree. Yeah just to clarify. So I mean I need to talk to Jill and let her know that I have a private Christmas tree because I have to there you go exactly right? Yeah. I know. No because then she'll come home be like Mom Rebecca has to yes, we need to yeah. Actually, she walks over at the farm a she goes up to this little tiny Christmas tree this No taller than her and she goes we should buy this one. Yeah, and I joked I said, oh you can have that for your room and Justin shot me daggers, and he goes showed off because he know she's going to ask for that. Yeah, and he is like melts with her like he will buy her anything if she asks him like not really but kinda yeah, she wanted anything that badly I guarantee you she could probably get it from him. Yeah. I said to her I'll tell you what remember that little tree I had in my studio the miniature tree I said, why don't we put that up the fake one? Why don't we put that in your room and she was like, yeah, I'm gonna get a little personal private Christmas tree in her room. Yeah, which will be nice my kids still have their own in their room. Do they they're just like little mini ones, like don't really small it goes on like their desk or whatever. But yeah, and they every year they decorate it. I've seen agers, but they do it every year they put up their tree in their room. Yep. See, I'm just glad to hear that. They've continued the traditions because I don't know. I just don't want Liam to outgrow. I feel like he's gonna get cynical first. I think if you're okay, so I'm a huge Christmas nut. Like it's from the moment. I wake up in the morning starting in the second week of November to after Christmas. There's me Christmas music playing in my house. Like yeah that my kids wake up to Christmas music. You know what I mean? Like, it's a I'm just a Christmas night. We watch Christmas movies all the time. Non-stop, we do everything Christmas. Everything's Christmas cookie bake everything and they've never said I don't want to like they're just so used to it. Right like did you see how they enjoy it? So I think if you if you keep doing it, I think they just they carry it on and I'm glad they will so that's nice fan Traditions, man. Yep. Yep family traditions now, that's super awesome. I love it. So yeah. Thank you for hanging out with us this week on The Secret Life of weddings podcast and Rebecca. Anything Can Happen our weddings and we will be here to tell you all about it. Well, that's it for us this week on The Secret Life of weddings podcast. If you need more drama in your life go over to patreon.com slash secret life of weddings to sign up for additional weekly episodes. The first few episodes are free. So go check it out patreon.com secret life of weddings, and we will see you here next week.
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