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I have a brand new author for you today Veronica of Veronica dot-org nice domain name there, but her name is spelled v IR o ni Ka she's actually from Ukraine moved to Toronto when she was eight at 26 sold most of her stuff and became a digital Nomad. She's now an author speaker performer and you can keep up with her journey at Veronica dot-org definitely check it out. But for now, let's get right to our very first post from her and start optimizing your life. How I stopped feeling inadequate and comparing myself to others by Veronica to the lava a Veronica dot-org. I used to feel like I never be successful. Like I never measure up to the accomplishments of the people around me right after I first began coaching and speaking I spent much of my daily life comparing myself to people I consider successful and I never measured up. I've gone website after website feeling my heart sink as I wondered. How will I ever be able to do this? How can I ever get People to listen to what I am saying. What if I'll always be a nobody what if no one cares what if I'm not good enough the shame was overwhelming and so was the anxiety after I quit my day job and became even worse. I left my career of study my field I'd excelled in academically and professionally to pursue a passion that left me feeling inadequate and insignificant. I was Too Young Too inexperienced to unguarded to unqualified. I wasn't slick enough. Sexy enough or well-dressed enough. I was just me and for a while there that was a painful reality. I fought these demons in my head secretly as I tried to share a message of love. I fought with my constant sense of inadequacy as a coach as an author as a people helper back then I didn't see that. I was judging my work the same way. I once judged my body. I thought I'd made huge leaps in myself. Love journey, and I had but I wasn't done learning yet close to a year ago. I had an epiphany. I was invited to come on television my first ever appearance on TV to talk about my story and the love mindset. I wrote about my experiences at the time for now. I'll just summarize the story for you very simply. I was terrified then I had an epiphany it was the kind of epiphany that felt good but it didn't hit me hard. Some epiphanies make your eyes light up and you know that they're changing your entire life. No, this wasn't like that. This was the kind of Pickney that feels nice, but you don't realize it's life-changing. You look back and see that everything is different that Epiphany was this this is not about me. It's about the people I helped my job is not to be successful. My job is to serve that is how I succeed that little Epiphany cleanse all the work related anxiety out of my mind day by day. As I reoriented my sense of purpose in the world about two weeks later. I held a meet up and there was this sense of ease and never felt before like going out to tea with a good Friend, no fear just warmth then went on the radio and got incredibly excited in those moments before I went on imagining all the people listening and having Transformations induced by what I was about to share then I brought this joy to my one-on-one work and suddenly there we were laughing crying and changing together no more. What will they think or how will I ever become successful enough or how do I get people to listen to what I say or am I saying the right things no more. Just how can I help how can I serve freedom is like I had a new sense of direction a new Compass within me that pointed always to love. This was my duty my purpose my life to give to help to serve at undergone a revolution a silent one. There was no background music or fireworks just growth and he's every day. I felt lighter as I shed my inadequate self-image and my self sabotaging self. Rituals, I stopped checking out the websites of other coaches and authors feeling horrible about my work comparing myself. I stopped obsessively checking my Alexa rank in my Amazon author rank. I saw feeling like I was never going to get my message out there. My stop feeling dwarfed by the accomplishments of others who were teaching what I was teaching. I stopped feeling like I had to earn the right to speak instead. I just spoke Freedom Looking Back. I had no idea how much suffering He has created by comparing myself to others by always evaluating Myself by making it about me and my success and my message I didn't realize how selfish I was being. There is a freedom to We There is salvation in service when I was wrapped up in addiction and eating disorders. My was selfish. My suffering made me selfish and my selfishness made me suffer. Yes, I was traumatized. Yes. I've been hurt but I cared for No One except myself. People only meant as much to me as the emotions they could produce in me. I saw no one deeply especially not myself and I never ever had enough of anything. I made myself suffer with this constant need I felt to preserve myself. I needed to preserve myself financially and emotionally and physically I needed to fix myself and keep myself whole I need to keep making my inadequate self good enough how exhausting I think what a truly rewarding about serving the world is this by giving my time money loves wet blood patient's attention by giving it every day as much as I can. I appreciate pose that there's more than enough to go around simply by giving I proved to myself that I have enough that I am enough when I approach my work and my life from this awareness. I realized that I am deeply connected with everything and everyone around me that is who I am when I give to people I give to myself only Myself I give to people there is no boundary between us when it comes to love to love me and to love you is the same is all an act of unconditional service to compare is to separate to compare is to assume that you are different to feel inadequate in someone's presence is to put them into another category from yourself. And that is all a big illusion. Of course on some level. We are all unique and different when it comes to worthiness strength Beauty power and love we are all the same. No one is inadequate. Everyone is deserving in that we are equal. We are all equal storehouses of human potential waiting to be unlocked by Universal unconditional love. You can spend a whole lifetime unlocking those doors and I'll be a life well-lived that is true success. So what it comes down to there's nothing to prove and there's lots to do my work your work our work is to serve. By helping ourselves and helping others. Our work is never done Mahatma. Gandhi said the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. So let us go and get lost together one pair of sparkling eyes at a time. You just listen to The Post titled how I stopped feeling an adequate and comparing myself to others by Veronica to galava a Veronica dot-org. Please show her some support by visiting her sight. I have it linked in this episode subscription a real quick. Thanks to anchor for hosting this podcast. Anchor is the easiest way to make a podcast. They'll distribute your podcast for you. So it can be heard everywhere Spotify Apple podcasts Google podcasts and many more you can easily make money from your podcast to with no. 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Vironika Tugaleva shares how she stopped feeling inadequate and comparing herself to others. Episode 1232: How I Stopped Feeling Inadequate and Comparing Myself to Others by Vironika Tugaleva of Vironika.org Vironika Tugaleva was born in Donetsk, Ukraine in 1988. Her early years as a misfit began her painful struggle with mental health. As she struggled with self-acceptance, anxiety, and identity, Vironika found solace in words and music. Her first book, The Love Mindset, won the Readers' Favorite silver medal for Best Self-Help book of 2013. Driven by an urge to spread light in the world, Vironika began to do life coaching, speaking, and writing in the personal growth field. In 2014, Vironika sold her things, left Toronto, and became a digital nomad. She launched her 2nd book in 2017, The Art of Talking to Yourself. Currently, Vironika is working on a poetry book, writing and peforming spoken word, and planning arts-related events. The original post is located here: https://www.vironika.org/stopped-feeling-inadequate-comparing-others/ Please Rate & Review the Show! Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts! 