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I'm constantly improving myself to be the best that I can be through Fitness Nutrition mindset and lifestyle as father's we pass on many things to our children such as our mindset our habits our attitude and what we've learned along the way each of these will shape who our children are and who they will become the warrior dad's mission is to help you become the healthiest version of yourself to hone your Edge and to live with purpose. My name is Jim Berta me. This is the warrior dad's podcast. Hey guys. Thanks for tuning in for another episode of The Warrior dad's podcast today. I am truly truly honored to be with an American hero Dom raw. So I've been trying to get him on the show for quite a quite a long time. So this is been a long time coming really excited really pumped to have him on the show and the be able to have him share his experience his mindset with you guys. And I know you're going to take away a ton from this interview. So before I bring them on Dom is a 12-year veteran Navy SEAL. The owner of dynamis Alliance and adaptive X both our equipment and apparel companies bringing the best quality and function to the market and every day low visibility gear. They offer products such as jeans belts bags blades t-shirts holsters belt clips and that's just the beginning Dom believes is our duty and our duty to honor and respect the sacrifices made by the men and women who have sacrificed for us Dom's mission is to educate train and equipped fellow Warriors and citizens to Become assets to themselves their families and this country Dom. Thank you so much for coming on the show, man. I really appreciate it. Absolutely Jim. I'm pumped man becoming assets and I don't know if there's a better asset in the world than a warrior Dad. We need more of them. So I was pumped to come on here man. I love what you're doing. You know, it's the base Foundation of bringing our kids into the world in a better place making them better and setting them up for Success, which we know today. We're having a really hard time. Doing especially the masses and then it's important to keep that mentality of okay, so I'm looking at your logo, right? You've got a Spartan helmet and you've got Warrior dad's. Well, first of all, you always go back to the mentality of it took 300 guys to defeat an entire Army and really make a huge impact with a small amount of men and I believe that if we keep that mentality of it only is going to take a small amount of men to be Warriors, but to truly convict themselves of that to make an impact in the world to be better fathers. As and lead the Next Generation. Yeah, that's awesome man. That's actually the first time anyone's actually ever kind of put that together with the logo you like the tie this in the helmet there totally. Yeah, it's awesome. And it's kind of like the everyday guy, right? It doesn't it's not about you know, just being, you know a word as not just being about being a soldier or if you're in the military, you know active duty or for military something like that or first responder. It's just you know, it's Everyday People, right? Yeah. It's in our blood. It's in our blood to be Warriors. It's in our lineage. It's in our DNA. It's in our history and like the tie on there. The modern guy right is losing touch with their ability to become a warrior and it's always been an aspiration about culture to become the warrior. And we you know throughout history throughout every part of their culture. The warrior is almost being segregated as a bad thing now and it's because everybody finds a lot of ease and comfort and to not having to strive to be the warrior, but it's never been in our culture there like, oh the rock or whatever the heck of a celebrity you want to come up with like that's who people are filling their feed with looks like that, you know, go back a thousand years is like your feed would have been filled up with what's the the baddest warrior in town doing and how is he leading his life for his family? How's he providing and house he forging his mindset in order to make this town better. Like that's what it was all about. Everybody was interconnected and we still have that. It's in our blood. It's in our DNA but people are forgetting in there. They'd rather not make them that that choice because it's easier for them to justify shoving their face full of Ben and Jerry's and watching Netflix all night. Yeah, and you know, you mentioned something there. It was a couple things there, you know, you're talking about how this person is leading the town, you know, so I know we're going to get into leadership today because that's a huge aspect. Act of course of the father figure in the family and you know just being a dad in general but then you know, you also mentioned something about putting down that Warrior aspect and I feel like over the years now with people just getting enough to put this whole thing down because I get the whole point behind it, but it's like these participation trophies or you know in competitions and things like that, you know, we're kind of putting down that that male attitude that that Yang aspect too. You know the male the male way and I feel like it's just kind of like no. No you shouldn't do that. You shouldn't do that. You should be more gentle you should be more in touch with your soft side or your feminine side or things like that and it's not to say that a person can't have a soft side, but it doesn't mean that they have to be soft in nature. What do you think about that? And I want to write a book probably going to brighten a couple of books because I want people to understand this and I've known it since I was a kid when you see these things transpire in your life, but I'll never forget. My dad is you know, I'll say this again and I'm sure we'll come up a lot more a lot more. But my dad is one of the greatest leaders that I've had in my life for a lot of different reasons what to do what not to do, but at the end of the day there were times where I wanted to do something on my Other and he either gauged or he didn't engage it was either like that. Let's go run down the street and he was like, I'm good right now. I've got this going on in this this and this or was like Dad. Let's go. Let's go in the boat and go fishing. All right, let's go and it's a choice and you can let kids push you if you let them there's always going to be an excuse and there's always going to be a distraction for what the kids distract you kids will make it more difficult for you. Do you think that I want to go run down the street? Eat every second of the day or do something my kids. Like let's go jump in the freezing cold pool. It's like yeah. I have no problem doing I've been torturing myself my whole career, but at the end of the day, he's driving me to be better, but I have to let him do that. And the problem is the reason I say that first it's because people are getting so used to making the excuse of not letting their kids push them and that goes a long with exactly what you just said about participation trophies and everything else to make them feel better about Sitting in it's all about it's all about catering to their emotional and current state of well-being with no drive. No push no adversity. No Challenge and ultimately you are you are doing nothing but bad and negative things and impact for their future because there are trying to they want to push themselves, but they need you to validate that for them. And when it comes to the pan when it comes to the coach when it comes to the teacher and all Those people guess what path is easier to take these half where you don't let them challenge you you don't have to do anything to sit there and be like, oh, you know what guys everybody's the same everybody needs to get along. Everybody needs to be on the playing field. Like did I have been researching relativism like it's going out of style and I have been like really really really diving into what relativism means and if nobody's right everybody's right and everybody's just on the same playing field. Everybody's just going to kind of get along and play into what everybody else is going on. If I'm a coach it's easier for me to take that path and pull somebody aside and have a really freaking hard conversation. So, you know, what what you're doing is just not cutting it you're slacking. You're not putting the effort into it. You're not challenging yourself and your parents suck because they're not putting the extra time and effort into that what you need. You want to be a better baseball player. You want to be a better football player. I can see it but you're failing because your parents are letting you fail and I'm letting you fail because nobody wants to make you go. Oh cry on the bench to confront the hard truths that you need to face and it is a tough conversation bottom line. It's a tough conversation to have guess what I've talked like this before but I have four kids and now I have no problem saying it and I've experienced these things and I'm learning every day. I got a nine-year-old son every day. I'm starting to understand how he's developing how he's growing what investment have I made since he was born till right now has played out come to fruition what hasn't worked what has worked and I'm going to continue. To learn through that and through kids that I've developed over my lifetime. My nephew's my nieces and the end of the day. It's like we keep trying to put everything in a box when all they need and everything they need is to be pushed and challenged. They need to confront the hard truths except people. Just want to take that path of least resistance parents and teachers and coaches would just rather not confront the more difficult things because then it's a piece of paperwork. They need to fill out or somebody's going to slap on the hand or somebody's to say that you're being intolerant or you're being anything that we categorize people. It's insane. I mean we are literally Getting everybody to be weaker. Yeah, and as a whole and it's really starting to affect our future generations of what they're looking up to and if you look at the Modern household in the modern parenting style like I got to go work. So here's an iPad here. Here's some video games. I'll just go just go rot your brain on the couch. Well, I do what I want to do because I'm being effing selfish and I can't confront the fact that you know what my kids need me the most valuable place that I can be as in front of my kids and we Are not immune to it and you're going to be distracted is going to be things that come up but I just challenge everybody to continue to take the path that's harder to to confront. What's going to make them better. Even if it's going to make them cry, even if it's uncomfortable for you. You've got to be able to step up and do the right thing. Yeah, I mean that ties in with you know, I'm sure you're already teaching all four of your kids these two main key points that anybody that goes to the website. Right, which is dynamis Alliance.com and will mention that again later to but anybody that goes to that site and starts reading around or poking now, you know poking around the internet looking more into you they're going to come away with two things the will to fight mindset and the crush everything attitude. Right? And I'm sure you're already instilling that in your kids, right? Absolutely a hundred percent those those two things and we always need something in the human form in the physical form the connect with And Crush everything came out of one of my best friends that was killed overseas. I was with them Louis the font. I honor him every day. He was made such an impact on me and we would go to the gym. We would go free dive we would go on target. We would go trained to do IED detection. I mean the list goes on and we would always be like, let's go crush it. Let's go crush it. We're going to crush this. We're going to crush that it even got to the point. We're like we're going to go Crush some snacks and Crush launch and eventually it just you know, we were so we just used it all the time, you know after he was killed, you know, I started to look around and the effort that we put into things as like when we did it. We did it with everything that we possibly could, you know, we didn't want to waste any time we knew life was short and we knew how valuable it was to put the effort into what we wanted to accomplish and it could be running. It could be free diving was a big thing. We did a lot and anything we trained in we were like we got to go. Thousand percent. There's no if you hold back at all, we're missing an opportunity every day, there's an opportunity. So when we started to say Crush all those things, you know, the end I was like, you know, we always just crushed everything we did and it was an attitude that we both instilled in each other and we both cultivated in each other and we both validated in each other and you need to do that with people and we all have a choice to have an attitude whatever we are confronted with. It's the attitude that we're faced with every single moment and I try to be positive in Everything that I do but that Crush everything attitude is exactly what it is is like I can have a crappy attitude throughout the day and being negative and have negative self-talk the I'm going to kind of do this half-heartedly. It's like, hey man, once this time goes by you don't get it back and at the end of the day like without you need to apply that effort to everything that you do because when the day ends of the weekend's of the year ends, I really don't want you or anybody else or myself or my family looking back on the air and they're like man, you know, We didn't really try our hardest. We just kind of did it half we did it 50 percent. We did it 25% You know, what if we just tried a little bit harder, like maybe we would have accomplished XY and z and at the end of the day if I put a thousand percent of my heart and my attitude into B into crushing everything that's laid in front of me every day. I'm not going to look back at the end of today Jim and say man, I could have just done a little bit more like I'm doing this podcast. I'm crushing this podcast with you the second I get off this I am going to go do something with my team to make my team better and then I'm going to go Crush some content and I'm going to go with Crush something else that's going to ultimately put me in a state of momentum to not let anything get in my way and just have that attitude. So I think people are given a choice and at the end of the day you need to make am I going to go after this with a thousand percent of myself on my gonna half-ass it with a half heart and I just challenged people to put that thousand percent effort in and then the other mindset well first, let me just connect with my kids. Quick one of the things that we've got going on over the last week and we're always evolving always adapting but there is the you know, there is no try only do. All right. Yep, but when my kids are attempting something, you know, it's all about context. We talk about firearm safety we can talk about that, you know, maybe if we go through it in this but there's a real connection with how you're teaching your kids. It's very very important to have constant context. But if my kids are two or three They might not understand there is no try only do not wait. What the heck you're talking about like yeah. No, I'm trying right now like the way they understand and consume information for my kids in the very beginning. It was to always try and I told my son lately now that he's nine. I was like alright son was like there's still try and now eventually when you become more of an adult you're going to understand that you're going to graduate to there is no try there's only do and I think that this is an important transition there. Because it was important for me at a young age to tell my kids to try no matter what they did. No matter what they attempted weather was talking moving working out swimming. I always made them try when I talk about good raps. Like I always say always get good reps in and even if that's what my kid, even if it's me standing there for an hour suffering through the crying and the not understanding why they're sitting there doing it is like I always connect the why with what they're doing, but no matter what it was. So I always made them attempt it first, even if it was my daughter lifting her hand up to grab something that she didn't want to do. If I at least got that connection, I was happy with it was a win was like, alright, you moved in the direction of forward momentum. I didn't let you quit and I didn't let you walk away. No matter what it was and believe me all their challenges their absolutely your nets never going to be perfect. But I always strive to get good reps with my kids to move forward in the right direction. They both wear Crush everything shirts. They both know what it means. I mean, it's the cutest thing my daughter would like I crushed everything Daddy. I'm like, yes, like please somebody capture this moment. Like it's just warms my heart. But you know the kids know at this point that there is no such thing as letting go and quitting like they all look at me even when it's tough and my daughter wants to start crying. She looks at me and she's like, I know what you're going to do to me next you're going to stand here over me until I do something. So at least let me connect the real. He of it and do something forward momentum or try to talk and it's an amazing thing because my boy is 9 I don't even have to tell him anymore. They don't even have to speak to him. He knows. All right. I'm at least going to try to move this or pick this up or lift it or push it or talk through it. He knows that there's no other option but to try and now we've got an inside thing going on about be like, all right, buddy, you know, you're going to graduate to there's no try there's only do so now he knows it's just about action. So these my kids even understand the put a thousand percent effort in Everything they do without backing up a little bit and I think awesome the application of the will to fight is something where I want everybody listening to this right now to understand that the world of fight is your absolute Last Resort. It's the last ounce of strength that you have left and there's two modes for me. Like I'm even getting passionate and emotional right now to talk about how many times that I've had to rely on it and you need to be able to recognize which state of mind you're in. Because people wear the crush everything sure you might wake up, you know not getting great sleep and waking up in the day. And like now I'm not crushing. I'm not crushing the half of things right now, you know, but at least doing the best you can sometimes we're going to have to fall back on that ability to find our will to fight through those seconds and those moments that are so difficult to get through that were not crushing much of anything. And in order to get back to that state of mind we have to fight with every ounce of strength that we have. I don't care if it's going through cancer surgery a loss of a family member. I mean there are moments where we doubt everybody doubts themselves at some point in their life and we're stuck with our own thoughts and a lot of the times which is why faith is so important. I'm sure we're going to talk about that but it's between me and God and my ability to get to that next step in to put one foot in front of the other and say listen, I have got to summon the will to engage with what's going on in my life. No matter what dances around me and to be able to get all my strength just to move to the next step and say what is going to make me fall back and what am I fighting for? What is my ability to connect my purpose of what I honor and what my faith is to me and when it's just you because listen Jim if we became best friends tomorrow at the end of the day, we're not going to be able to be here for each other a hundred percent of the time neither. Am I going to be there for my wife neither? Am I going to be there for my kids and at the end of the day? We have to have something way bigger than the people around us to be able to fall back on because we are all going to be challenged with something that we have to fight through. And that's the ability to fall back on that will the fight engaging it with everything that you've got until you can lift your head up far enough to say now. I'm crushing a couple things now. I'm crushing everything and now I'm in the zone and it's that transition point and I tell my kids all the time. I'm like what? What are we fighting for? What's our purpose? You know, why do we exist all those things matter of why we decide to get up. Every day and when I'm at a low low, I'm like I got to fight and I gotta I gotta push through the will to fight and if I have a lack of motivation or have a lack of anything, it's my ability to dig deep down that purpose and have it so in the Forefront of my mind that I can fight for that purpose for one more second before one more minute until I get to the point where I'm moving fast enough to be able to say I've got enough momentum right now that that pulled me through that fight. Yeah, that's awesome. And you know, I've actually taken that Mindset of the will to fight and I've actually applied it from my clients when I'm doing you know nutrition coaching or Fitness coaching or something like that and I'm telling people like, you know, it's going to be a fight to find good food. It's going to be a fight to find, you know, good quality water, you know to get up and get the Reps and during the day and exercise or if you're traveling to, you know, go down to the hotel gym or just do the exercise in your room. It's going to be that fight and you just have to have that will to fight and like will to make yourself better and to get yourself healthier to get yourself stronger and make If better so I've actually taken that that idea in that mindset and I've applied that into into my coaching practice, of course in my own life too, you know, and it's just you know, when you when you look at it as okay. I have a problem and this is how I'm going to fix it. Like that's that forward momentum, right? You're not just standing still and waiting for someone else to do it your and that's what I teach my son. Like, all right, you have a problem just figure out a solution just figure out what your next step and how are you going to overcome that solution or overcome that problem? You know, what's the solution going to? And so he's six, you know, and he's he's doing it and he's learning it and then you know him and I enrolled in Jiu-Jitsu because you mentioned about you know, being uncomfortable earlier I think and so it's like getting him to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Right? So it's just getting him and they'll kind of him and I practice here at the house, you know, I'll just I won't put all my weight on them, of course, but I'll put a little pressure on him like, you know, just relax, you know, if you feel uncomfortable and we'll talk through it. You know, I said, yes, it's okay just relax and just to figure out what your next move is and how to do it. So I think all of that is just kind of you know, but again, you're over your over top of your kids. I'm on top of my son, you know teaching him but were there right we're connected with those people in our life in our families and we're taking the time to actually spend the time with them to do those things because something else you said before is like just putting the iPad and kids faces. Well, I mean, there's tons of research on television and and electronic devices on how it literally hypnotizes you And mesmerizes you and just keeps you fully engaged in that one media, but you think about how you were referencing earlier about how it's ingrained in our DNA in our Evolution, you know who were who were teaching the lessons to our ancestors years and years ago. Well, it was their parents and then it was the elders right? It was the grandparents because everybody was involved in the tribe and the the community and all that stuff. So, you know, it's just so important. To engage with your kids and spend that face-to-face time with them and that Hands-On time with them and I mean you hit you hit every single one of those points, but I just kind of wanted to tie that in get people thinking like, yeah, it wasn't just the teachers in school that were the teachers right? It was it was us it was the parents. It was the father's it was the mothers of the grandparents and then of course was learning through experience not just watching through a window, you know, like like it's like looking at a TV's not just looking through a window. It's Getting out there and doing it. So I thats awesome and you know and one of the things that you always say, we're some of the things that I've heard you reference before is that we are only as good as our lattice as the last move we made. Yes, right. So I wanted you I wanted you to talk a little bit about that because I really like that and I think I think there's a deeper meaning there without actually ever hearing you really go too deep into that. So that was actually something I was curious for myself that I that I think it would be really good to share with other people. So we are only as good as the last move we made just talked about that briefly. Absolutely. There's so many things that you just had on and I wanted to get into but I do you're only as good as your last move started to connect with me, you know throughout my career and definitely, you know, post military career, but every move we have the choice to make we are given an opportunity to do it well or to not do it well and even Just in the instance of a fight for example, you know, I teach self-defense my passion. I've hunted bad guys my whole career so I know how to reverse engineer that in an auto protect people and not on people. So the in between is a really good solution to be able to understand yourself. And with that being said is even in a fight. Traditional martial arts, you know, you screw something up or you don't get it, right and they're like, oh hold on and mess that combo of let me go back to the mat and figure it out. Like no you don't get that opportunity in real life. So I'm not going to give it to you here on the mat and at the end of the day each move that I make is deliberate and I have an opportunity for my next move. So if I screw my move up, I'm only as good as the last move that I made so I have to correct my behavior and I have Create correct my technique I have to correct my mindset. Whatever I did in that last move is an opportunity to learn and adapt to be better. So if I walk in and I and I get into a fight and I screw something up and I'm only as good as that movement that I made. I need to find a way to correct that really quick if I walk into the kitchen and I have an argument with my wife and we have that argument and I do things that I know I could have been better because I my ego get in the way and I'm like I walk out of the room like, you know, what right now, I'm only as good as the last move that I made with her and I need to correct that made the suck it up. I need to I need to put my pride aside and walk in there. Tell her I love her tell her that you know, we're focusing on this and then fix it and I have an opportunity corrected. So everything that we do every interaction that we have. We have an opportunity to make it better and I really carry the last move with me if my last move suck. Well, I better fix it with something else. If I walk by with somebody on the street and I'm like, hey, how's it going? I'm like, yeah, whatever dude. I'm having a bad day. Well, you know what? I'm going to carry that with me until I'm like, you know what I'm going to go above and beyond when I walk in a Dunkin Donuts, you know, like hey, how's your day going? Like, you know, what? Absolutely amazing. How's your day going? How you lie? How are you? Like, I want to fix and course correct everything that I do so I can find the best version of myself on the other side in the next move that I make. That's awesome. That's really awesome. I love that. That I actually was I didn't know what to expect from that answer or you know what your answer is going to be but that's awesome. I love those examples what you're talking about with the wife and the argument right? Because you know, we're using things, you know, we're using words like the will to fight Crush everything. So, you know, you mentioned like in an actual fight, right, but then you applied it to something that's more practical for someone, you know, who might be listening that isn't going to be in that situation. Right? But they are going to be in the situation of walking in having their ego High not being able to put their pride aside. And if they listen to this and they remember what you said and they remember those words and remembering that you're only as good as your last move then they go back in they put their pride aside they fix things with their wife. They fix things with their kids, you know, they're not jerks the people in the street or something like that that could have a huge impact, you know, those are the real things that matter, you know other people, you know, you see people chasing on Instagram is you know, the six pack abs if you're in the fitness world or you know money if you're in the business world and you know, the private planes on the Ferraris and like and stuff and those were people were you know chasing as like got to realize what is really important in life. He like you're not going to they're not going to bury you with your Ferrari and your Jet right? But it's your legacy that's going to stay behind who you are as a person and the impact that you made and even if it is just engaging with people on the street, like wow that guy Dom actually asked me like, you know how my day was and he was really interested and you never know and I tell my clients it's like you have to change it. Back to the you have to change the way you think about certain things like you could you could give somebody a compliment on their shoes or the the shirt that they're wearing or the tie that they're wearing and just that one little compliment could brighten up their whole day. Like you have no idea what people are going through they could be having the worst day of their life and their can actually be a story behind that tie or you know somewhat I'm gonna I'm going to interject real quick. Yes said, he said the one little thing that you say could change their day, but I even go like everything I do. Ooh to dissect how we're thinking communicating and processing information. I would even go as far as to say the one little thing that you do will impact their day because the momentum and the what you project and what you are able to accomplish you are having a positive impact on people. I mean, I've had so many people come into my life and say one little thing in one liners it stuck with me forever more than anybody lecturing me for three hours, you know, like just in that moment and we have an opportunity to give that to people all day. Long we could talk to 20 people today that will never see again in our entire life, but we can have the opportunity to change the outcome of their success or their well-being but just one and just buy one thing that we said and it's and it's so true because that's why every opportunity. I see I'm like, this is an opportunity to make the world a better place even in those small interaction. So that's really important. You said that I think that's awesome. Yeah, and I lecture like that correction because I do that with myself and with my son and you know instead of saying I need to or I have to instead of saying just I'm going to or I get to or I want to it just has that better feel too. So I need to go to the grocery store today or I need to drop my son off at school today. No, I get to do that. I'm blessed enough to actually go to the grocery store and and go by you know, good food for my family and cook that food and I get to drive my son to school instead of just having them get on the bus and I get to spend that time with them. So I like that instead of possibly or you know, leaving it up in the air. Because I don't like uncertainty. So I just I get so passionate about this stuff and honestly Jim like we every day like the value of life. I've been given the value of Life pretty extensively. It's I've watched it be taken away from a lot of people that I loved and I've seen it, you know come and go and at the end of the day, I have a very very very high value on life. So those little interactions when I get this hangout my daughter for five minutes with the kitchen table. I'm like, what are we talking about? How was your day? How are you doing? It's an opportunity to engage like going to the grocery store should be fun. Like every little thing that we do that were given an opportunity to people have fragmented and disconnected themselves so much from being present with just what's in their hand like, hold on. I'm checking my Instagram like you with your kids put your phone away. Stop looking at your phone and believe me I'm guilty of it, but I always talk about triggers and neuro linguistic programming and like if I pick up my phone, Like my kids keep me accountable and I love it. I'm a my son's like, you know, we're hanging out and I'm like dude you are absolutely right phone's going away not touching up the rest of those go like he knows that much like he knows that I don't have it out one together. So when it is out, he catches me and I'm like, I'm at that's why if you're not if you don't see me posting and I'm not out there on the internet, that's because I'm spending quality time with my family while my team and I'm in it. I'm very present. If I don't if you don't see me on there, that's exactly what I'm doing. So, you know people need to lift their head up. Up and look around them and live the life that they're being given that so valuable like those materialistic things social media all these distractions that we have like use your intelligence and the brain that God gave you and recognize what you what type of damage that you're doing to yourself and your well-being and your happiness and be present just it's so hard to do in this world. That's why the games in the electronics in front of the kids. Me so much. We have not even begun to see the impact that's going to have and I see kids all the time. My kids know better. If I if they're doing any school work on the iPad and we do it very very very very sparingly. We do it very strategically they have to have permission like we want them to understand technology, but it's very very very selective and they even know when they're going for one room to another not to stare at the iPad. We're going from one room to another guess what habits are building. Guess what Reptar you're giving them. You're giving them a rough to stare in their phone when they're walking down the treat when they're 25 years old. That's what's going to happen. They're going to run into the street. They're going to run over there going to get robbed. They going to get punched in the face. They're going to get there. You are not setting them up for Success. So if you think that letting them stay in the technology this hypnotizing device from going from room to room is a good thing you're wrong. Anyway, that's one Nuance, but it's really important to get people to understand to be present with what they're doing and just be all in well, especially if you're with your kids. I mean, it's also talking about posture to right. So you're talking about NLP and things like that, but you're also talking. Our posture right? So someone who's happy doesn't have usually poor posture. They try to stand up straight right there confident, but when someone slouches with the head down forward head posture rounding of the shoulders and the spine because they're constantly in flexion position, you know, and you're teaching them to walk with a device and look down to tell my son even when we would just walk, you know, he'd want to see like it's what's in front of them. Like look you can use your vision to see what's in front of you without actually having to look down at your feet. But pay attention when we're walking. Going to the parking lot. I want you to pay attention. You know, I tell him like, you know, where the where the safe spots to get to like if you're in a parking lot. Okay, where's a safe spot to get to you know, like God forbid if he was ever in a parking lot by himself or whatever and he needed to figure out how to get out of the way of danger. He's like the curb right there or Hills like where the grass over here so I could let's go get to that and we'll go do that and then one time I had him this was I don't know probably about six months ago. I had him pay attention from the truck. We were going to the Target I had to pay attention like you're going to get us back. The truck from Target. So pay attention ready. We're just walking this way. I said look for landmarks. Look for different things that are going to give you Clues to how you're going to get back here. He got us all the way back to the truck. That's awesome. And it's just like those little things like and it's fun to write. It's like fun to watch him look and figure it out and it's getting him thinking and yeah, man, I all the all those little things that you do, you know any parents listening to this or if you plan on having kids, there's no bigger investment that you can make. Besides your faith and in your kids the future of the world of what you have right in front of you that the very being that you were able to create or have a opportunity to be a part of you have the ability to mold that human being in the something. So special and no amount of money in the world. No material thing no house. No any experience that you're going to go do is worth over giving them the tools they need to be successful invest your time and your I mean as I fight and as I grow and as I continue to learn how to run a business everything that I do is geared towards making the world a better place and finding a way to control my time in order to spend it with my family and for me, that's when the investment you I mean my son's at work with me right now. I take him to work with me every week. I take my son and but now I'm starting to take my daughter so nice we homeschool and we oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. We are very we were very Deliberate about how we interact and we to me, it's a very very important thing because they're so moldable at this age that if you let them go to somebody that you know, you don't know what their views are values are and all of a sudden they get like they will get in your kids heads to the point where they start questioning what you're telling them. Right and it's a very scary place to be you know, you go to a coach. It's like you don't need to try that hard. You don't need to do that you like wait a minute. Will you tell my kids, you know, but at the end of the day like I bring them to work, Because that professional development they're getting in the building is irreplaceable. I was like I can take my kids to a meeting and I let him talk at the meeting. I'll let him even bring up designs and all the time sketch some stuff and say all right, buddy. What do you have to say? He'll get up. He'll brief people have talked to people answer questions. He'll go ship up ship packages out like he's involved. So they'll the life experience that he's getting at 9 years old is invaluable, you know, so he's getting like the real live interaction and I mean I could go into my whole mouth. Phonology of what I what I believe but you know anyway not to get too down the rabbit hole. Well, I do want you to bring up some you've mentioned this work a bunch of times. And anybody that follows you on Instagram were starts to follow you on Instagram. They'll see you're definitely a man of Faith, right and even one of your things I think on your Instagram, you know, like in that little Bio Section or whatever. It's a warrior for Christ, right if I remember if I remember right? So tell me a little bit about How you implement faith into your family into your kids? What are some of the things you know, you read from the Bible you've read passages. How do you bring that as a father to your family and Implement that into their lives? Yeah mean. First of all, what I want to say is because I always have to try to connect why I'm so passionate about this to other people that are having a hard time or struggling with their faith or don't believe in God. And what I want what I try to explain to people now as I evolve my communication is from a very early age. I've always looked to be the best version of myself as I possibly can. I went in to the military at 17 years old. I went through SEAL training going to Seal Team to and I seeked out how to go to be a part of SEAL Team Six. I did that my whole career. I was striving to always try to find to be the best at what I was doing and how to find the edge to be. Best version of myself the strongest mentally sharp effective human being that I could possibly be. I've always had Faith but not like I do now because I had an opportunity to strengthen and understand it and when I got out And I started to dive into what the teachings were what the gospel says what history has taught us. And so many other factors is like I am continuing to strive to be the best version of myself and I have understood and educated myself on other aspects of religion other parts of the world. I've been all over the world more times than I can count and ultimately everything that I do has led me back to Christ. Dr. Understanding what Christ came to the Earth to teach. Nobody in the world will deny that Christ existed. Okay, you have the most powerful and impactful story that's ever been written and humankind and everything from the Old Testament the New Testament validates itself, and it's crossed reference so many times that is undeniable and I without even knowing that first have kept that getting caught. Old back to the church in a way that I can't even explain. I don't believe in coincidences. I believe everything happens for a reason and I've been on pilgrimages overseas. I've been to Italy I've done work Christ has walked. I've been to all these places in research things to I mean, I'm on a mission right now to continue to be able to convey why this is so important and ultimately with the values and principles that God has given us through the Life of Christ walking this Earth. And what he's taught us through all his interactions throughout the Bible it is it is undeniably the most the greatest Human Experience and life system that we have and I don't know what else to say. Other than that than it being completely Divine and Christ calling us to a path. That's much greater than we can understand and when I look in a world that's so broken and so confused and so lost and so so just independent the state of depression and everything that Christ gives us allows us to correct those things and gives us a path and a journey that literally finds our true happiness gives us a path to understand how to love more gives us a path how to be honest with ourselves gives us an ability to be accountable. I mean all the things that we truly want Life that we know we need there right in front of us, but yet we just get distracted over and over and over again and that's why it's become so important for me to convey that to the world in any way that I can because I am a thousand present convicted a thousand percent convicted that Christ came here to Reese to hit the reset button and teach us how to live as human beings. And since I've started to do that really really really taken into my heart and live that In every way that I possibly can it has transformed my life to truly understand happiness the love my wife better to be a way better father like the church and being in church and understanding Christ has transformed my life. I mean, I I'm just telling you like I am so much happier than I ever understood what that meant by by understanding how to convey these things and the Z very even scripture that you know, we talked about Crush everything all the time and there's things that I can connect with And over and over again based off of what you're going through in life based off of what struggles you have in life, but there's a scripture in the Bible that says whatever your hand finds to do do it with all your might for in the realm of the Dead where you are going. There is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom. Okay, we entered this world, right and we're going to leave this world that we're all going to die right all going to go somewhere and like just that alone like whatever your hand finds to do do it with everything that you have, you know, because We don't we might not have an opportunity to understand that we can do that again. But yet we have this beautiful life after we leave here and it's it's purpose-driven in every sense of the word of understanding that you know, we're people are lost and confused. It's because they don't have any values or principles or morals to be able to walk on or walk with and again that that's just something that's important to me and I have been convicted of that this Making me the best human that I can possibly be and we're all going to question things. We're all going to say like is this really the best thing that I can be doing? Is this true? What is truth? And I've found more truth in what I'm doing now with putting my faith first and everything that it's allowing me to see things from a different perspective than never would have saw before. I'm 36 years old. I was in the teams for 12 years. I've done some amazing things that I would never change, but now that being on a path of finding my true happiness and purpose in life. Has not come from any greater place than reading scripture and understand what Christ has called us to do. So I say I'm a warrior for Christ and that is absolutely the truth because if you tell me that I need to pick the number one thing to do every day. It's to make that connection and to understand that you know Christ led a life that he is beside us and when he was crucified and he sacrificed himself and suffered out of love for us at the Very end of it all even in written in scripture. You can't make this stuff up like he was like why have you forsaken me God, right and it's something that we all feel at times in our life, right? And everybody at some point is going to reach a spot where they say. Why have you left? Where is God? Where is God In This Moment like I've seen I've seen people go some those really really hard times in life and it can be very difficult to be like where there is. No God. Why is God not here and with Christ some of his last words being like why have you forsaken me? It's because Christ. It's on that path with us right next to us saying hey, I know how you feel, but I'm here. So it's just something that is as made a full connection with why we exist why we're here and there's so much purpose behind it. And if I can get one person to understand the value that it can bring to their life and they true happiness without chasing their tail and being in the Spin Zone because bullying me with without it. I know that people are in the Spin Zone. I see it every day. I'm like, hey, man, like God loves you and there's a bigger purpose for you in life. And you can find it through connecting with what God is calling you to do and I've seen that switch flipping so many people that it's undeniable and for me, it's just it continues to become the most important thing that I can talk about. So, you know, you asked me Jim and honestly like my heart is there my family is supporting everything about where we're going as a family unit together. Fully try to strengthen that in each other because the more we do that the more we can convey what that love means to us and at the end of the day Jim our service to others out of love is the most selfish thing that we can do. Wow, I'm actually glad we waited to you know towards the end to talk about that because I could I could hear of course you sound the same but I could hear the shift and I could just the passion in your voice just comes across tremendously with that, you know, and I knew I knew that something that you were really passionate about and so I definitely wanted to talk about that today, you know and let people at home kind of, you know, catch a glimpse of that and I think you gave more than a glimpse because I know you've been some through some dark times two. And you just been connecting more and more with your faith and it's not. You know, I think one of the biggest things we all have to realize is human beings. Like you said like we're going to be gone one day is that we're never going to stop learning and bettering ourselves. Not like you get to that point when you're in your 60s or 70s, you're like, okay, I'm done. Like I bet you're going to continue to work on your faith when you're in your 60s and your 70s and you're going to continue to work on all these things right leadership and Fitness and Nutrition and all the things that you're involved in on a daily day-to-day basis, you know, it's just like We're never going to be fully evolved to the point where we can say. Okay, I'm done, you know and so you're still working on it. You're still pushing through and I think that's awesome man. Yeah. The last thing I'll say about that is the other thing too is to connect it back to our children. Is that Jim? If you and I died today what system what value systems we have in place that we know will guide our children to a life of happiness and Leadership and righteousness. To do the right thing in this world to make an impact on a lot of the school system is not going to do it for you. Right? Your football coach is not going to do it for you. These guys can have an amazing impact but there is no better human system that's been placed in front of us in order to make the world a better place. I mean the world is very confused right now you have people at each other's throats and they don't even know why and you look at history. You know, you look at how long it's been since Christ came to the earth and the things that have transpired. Tired. I mean if you look at Christianity, right the largest faith in the world right come Catholic by the way, and so way that's 1.4 billion Catholics in the world. And it's the largest. It's the largest Devotion to Christ that is in existence. I hate that there are fragments of Christianity. I drives me crazy, but what's so important to understand is that is there's a reason behind that is Reason, there's one point four billion of us because we understand the connection and the lineage of what Christ said. Listen guys. This is what I need you to do. This is what is going to bring your ultimate happiness is like this is a this is the church that I'm going to build for you to find that happiness in your life. And there's a reason that it's the biggest part of it. But when you look at the world and how fragment it is that the further people have fallen away from that the more confused I get and I want my kids to understand that there is something in place for them in up with a voice. Bigger purpose than they can even understand is like it says throughout the Bible over and over again God's peace is beyond our understanding. Okay eternity before us in eternity after we leave this earth is far beyond our understanding our past the universal looking out into the stars is far beyond our understanding. We're not meant in our short life to understand everything that happens to us. But I absolutely believe that God has a bigger plan for all of us and everything that happens in our lives and the closer we can get to understanding that path that God has put for us is that Closer will understand yourself the love that you have and that your own personal happiness is at stake. If you not understanding those things and it's there for a reason. I mean we can go into the people that don't believe in people that believe but that's a whole nother conversation. All right. I just all I can do is live by my actions. Like I'm never going to judge anybody else's soul for anything other than nothing. I mean, I'm that's not my job, but my job is to love people and in order to find their true happiness. I need to tell them like look. There's a better path for you. I know that you're not happy and I know that you can do it better and and here's something that's working for me. And all I can do is live by my actions and at the end of the day to me. That's the most important thing I can do. You know, I wake up every day. I fight I train I've make myself better and every way possible faith is the foundation of everything in our family or continuing to figure out how to strengthen that and everywhere we can and you know, I want to make an impact on the world to see people be better versions of themselves. And I truly want that. That's what that's what I care about. Yeah. Man, I have to I'm so pumped for this this interview man. I'm going to go back and listen to this thing probably like three or four times. It's just it was great to hear you talk about all this stuff and get deeper into this stuff. I had a great time doing this. I had a great time, but we're not done yet. So as with every episode I end with 10 questions for our guests these these questions are inspired by James Lipton and Bernard povo and I already kind of give you the quick rundown form. So you ready sir? Okay, so number one, who is your hero? Well, we just talked about it before, you know, 20 30 minutes, but you know, there is no greater hero my mind than Jesus Christ then setting the example that we can live to the life to the fullest right number two what excites you the passion that I have for life in the passion that I'm continuing to understand every day and the things that are being revealed to me in a way that I wouldn't necessarily have seen unless I put Faith first what turns you off. people wasting their lives people not seeing their full potential and people not reaching their capability that really like I see people every day just walk through life so numb and it pains me because I want the very best for people one of the quotes that I've read a long time ago was understanding having the ability to understand when you want something for somebody else more than they wanted themselves and men that hit me so hard because every day I everyday if you work with me, I want the best for you and you know what sometimes I'm going to make you uncomfortable to get the very best out of you and it hurts me to see people not recognize their full potential. Nice. What is your favorite sound favorite sound what the Senators interesting question, I think I love like you know musicals and I love you know, when when women sing, you know, like and yeah, and that's I love that listen to us and it's very relaxing to me. But also if I were to pick something else, I would say that ocean, you know, just listening to the ocean and the natural sounds of the ocean as probably my favorite thing. Nice. Yeah. I know you like to Surf. Yeah. What is your least favorite sound? My least favorite Serum is probably the noise that happens when I crunch on eggshells in my teeth. I it's like I feel like I'm chewing on other teeth. Like it's like one of my things I could if they say it's okay. So that sounds drives me crazy when you said she went on her teeth. That's what got me you might have already answered this but what is your favorite quote or saying? I have a lot of them but one of the ones that really got me through my career and something that really connect with me. All the time was by George Patton and that's a violent plan a good violent plan executed right now is better than a perfect plan executed a week from now and the thing that I want people to understand is that we're never going to have the perfect plan and I see people hesitate all the time a good example is like a Fitbit or freaking thing that measures your damn steps people like I'm gonna wear this thing. It's gonna be awesome and let me spend three hours on the computer on How to set it up let me figure out how to put the damn thing on when they figure out how to track the thing make sure you connect to my just walk. I'll just go just go stop trying to get the technology is not going to help you. You're already lazy enough right? Keep moving like you can do way more than just getting steps you today do squats and live and do push-ups do burpees do jumping jacks. Go jump rope go take your dog for a walk like stop trying to rely on technology to tell you how many damn steps you made and how many like ten thousands of the minimum. I got my 10,000 steps in good for you. You like you can do way more than that and it just drives me crazy on how people will not they'll hesitate and they'll use excuses think try to convince himself that they're going to a certain place and they run in circles trying to try to use something as an excuse in front of them. Anyway, that's another one of my pet peeves. So that's another conversation, right? Yeah in a couple of words. What should a dad be Honorable, I think if a father can put honor first in everything that he does he will strive very very very hard to do the best he can for his kids. I think a father should look to be honorable in every sense of the word. I think father should be honorable to their wives to set a good example for their children, you know your reflection with your relationship with your wife and your significant other is going to ingrained and imprint on them. On what they should be doing when they get older and I think that's important. I think the do's and the don'ts I think if you put on our first that you can have a very successful fatherhood or love it and a couple of words what should a dead not be Unreliable and untrustworthy trust is the foundation of any relationship especially with their children. If you say you're going to do something with your kids. I don't care what you have going on. You better do it. I don't like if you don't put that as a high priority if you make empty promises to your kids if you don't follow through with your kids you are. Are failing and you need to make sure that if you open your mouth to say I'm going to do something for you. You better follow through with it and build that trust with your kids because that is the foundation of the relationship that you'll have with them for the rest of your life. Yeah. I'm sitting here not in my head as you're talking. It's like absolutely a hundred percent agree. All right, if you could try any other profession, what would it be? Well, God is definitely call me tomorrow Ministry and you know getting people to understand how valuable that you know walking in faith is so you know with that being a growing part of my life. I think that if there was something that I could do to impact the world to understand Christianity. That's something that I would dive into I have obviously for kids, which I'm you know, raising my own disciples right now. It's important to know my impact needs to be there first. And then as that grows, I think if I if I wasn't in that situation for I was single and if I understood Faith like I do now, I'd probably start taking a journey to impact the world with faith more nice and finally, what would you like to be remembered for? just making the world a better place and getting people to understand who Christ really is and that we've been given many options in this world and we've been given many choices and the choice to follow Christ and understand what impact we can make on the world out of love and peace and service to others is something that's more powerful than I've ever been able to understand before and I have a very intimate relationship with violence and that and understanding the love Christ has made me understand that violence even more because of what evil represents the world and if we don't take a stand for evil then we will be remembered for nothing and I always say that stand for something or fall for anything. I like that. I like that a lot Tom. Thank you so much for being on here. Tell people a couple places that they could find you on social media your website. Anything where do you want people to find you? What's the next step? So you want people to take? Yeah, we just launched a new apparel brand adaptive ex. You know, it's all it's all related to Adaptive x.com is giving people a functional clothing so they can go out be prepared change their mindset. We say changing the way you think about what you wear because we want you to engage and say, you know walking out of my house. I want people to be a better version of themselves just by engaging with the stuff that we're putting out Crush everything.com. That is obviously one of our things and one of the things I say to myself Every day, we've got lifestyle apparel that gets people to understand and give them reminded give them reminders. I mean, I've got a guy right now Scott is just an amazing human being has gone through a serious tough time in his life and he's been using Crush everything in the world to fight to change the way things and applies his approach to everything he does and I love it. I love seeing that in people because it inspires me and you know, those are the two places, you know, I'm on Instagram Dom Rosso and you know everything that I do I just care about seeing people. To be better versions of themselves were constantly evolving. You know, I'm starting to do speaking engagements more. I'm starting to engage more with Ministry. I'm probably going to write books for people to understand how to be a better version of themselves. Just through what I've learned my experiences. That's all it is. Is that how did how did I get to where I am today? And how do I continue to evolve my mindset? I think that's something I'm going to continue to work on and eventually probably make our own podcast. I love these things. I think you'll learn a lot from them. And you know, we just did one with Team never quit. You know, we did one over there and I talked very passionately about you know, something that gave me the will to fight and why I say all these things and why why I started to really understand how God was important was you know, I had a Helo go down with 17 of my best friends on it. And you know that changed my life and I think that you want to learn more about me there too. You can go check that podcast out. Yeah. I was going to mention that you know accepts Extortion 17 if nobody knows about that definitely check that out educate yourselves a little bit more on that like Tom said it's Team never quit podcast. It's a really good one. I've heard that I've listened to it a couple of times. So it's definitely a great interview learn a lot more about Domin different light and kind of like more military side and speaking of that me and my son wanted to say thank you for your service. I told him that, you know any time that we see any kind of military personnel veteran, you know somewhere and, you know veteran hat or police officer fireman, something like that. He always stops and says, thank you for your service. So he knows I was going to talk to you. They talk to you today, and he wanted me to let you know that and I wanted to say that to of so, thank you again for your service for this country. Great man. Thank you so much. It's been an honor and I would do it again in a heartbeat and thanks to all the guys serve not there right now. Yeah, absolutely, dude. Um, thank you so much. It was such an honor and a pleasure to have you on the warrior dad's pocket. Yes. I really really appreciate your time. And you know, I wish you the best with everything brother. Thanks, brother. Keep leading and God bless. Thank you. You too. Bye. Hey guys. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of The Warrior dad's podcast. If you like this podcast and want to support it, please subscribe leave comments and share it with someone you think would benefit from listening as well. Thanks again and keep on being a Warrior dead.
Today I have the absolute pleasure of speaking with a true American hero, Dom Raso. In this episode Dom talks about his Crush Everything attitude, his Will To Fight mindset, being a Father and finally, why his Faith is so important to him. You’ll probably want to listen to this a few times. Dom is a 12-year veteran Navy SEAL and the owner of Dynamis Alliance and Adaptiv-X. Both are equipment and apparel companies bringing the best quality and function to the market in everyday, low visibility gear. They offer products such as jeans, belts, bags, blades, t-shirts, holsters, belt clips – and that’s just the beginning. Dom believes it's our duty to honor and respect the sacrifices made by the men and women who have sacrificed for us. Dom’s mission is to educate, train and equip fellow warriors and citizens to become assets to themselves, their families and this country. You can find out more about Dom on social media and his website… @domraso @dynamisalliance  https://dynamisalliance.com/ https://adaptivx.com/  Please subscribe and keep on being a Warrior Dad! 