This is optimal living daily episode 11 31 carry the weight by Tynan of Tainan.com. And I'm just a molecule personal narrator reading to you every day including holidays. And this episode is brought to you by skillshare skillshare is an online learning community for creators and they have over 25,000 classes in design business and more perfect for the new year. And I have a special offer just for you get two months of skillshare for free. That's right skill shares. Offering optimal living daily listeners two months of unlimited access to over 25,000 classes for free to sign up go to skillshare.com / old that's skillshare.com. Oh LD to start your two months now for now, let's get right to it as we optimize your life. Carry the weight by Tynan of Tainan.com. For most of my life at least until my late 20s. I was a slacker. I did almost nothing to help around the house choosing to procrastinate on things assigned to me until someone else just did it themselves because I was easier than goading me into doing it even in friendships. I would rely on my good friends to come up with plans or invite me somewhere and then I join the only reason I got into college was because my best friend at the time Phil pushed me into filling out an application. I wouldn't have done it. Otherwise there were Exceptions of course, but in general I was probably a burden I was a good friend and family member in other ways. But in terms of carrying the weight of those relationships, I wasn't putting in my fair share. It's embarrassing to say that but it's true a couple years back Todd wasn't as invested in said as I was we had started it as a side project, but it seemed like there was enough potential that it was worth going full time I wanted to do so, but Todd's priorities were elsewhere. So he worked. It's a lot less than me if set was going to continue. I would have to take full responsibility for it. I remember crystallizing the decision down very clearly. I could either decide that I would carry all of the weight for set or I could do what was fair which would result in set stalling put in that context and it wasn't that difficult of a choice. I decided that I would carry all of the weight no matter what so for a while. I carried all the weight for set. I felt resentment from time to time, but overall is it Really good experience. I like the responsibility. I felt myself become stronger and more disciplined. I gave myself a chance to rise to a challenge and I met it. I even felt good that I was working for Todd carrying some wait for him when he couldn't or wouldn't he certainly done that for me any number of times during our friendship sometimes all it takes to change yourself is to try out a new mindset. Once you see that it's better and you can't imagine going back. That's what happened with me and caring way. Wait, I decided that in all cases. I would carry whatever weight needed to be carried as I've written about before my friends and I bought an island one friend Elliot and I came up with the idea and then I did almost all of the legwork to make it actually happen people asked me if I would get to make all the rules or own more of the island because of that but I never thought of it that way ten of us put in our money. So it's all of ours if I can put in some work to make it happen. Then I'm happy to be able to do that for my friends. Of us went up and started clearing a path up to the top of the hill which is back-breaking work. Literally one guy had to rest is back for a whole day people caution me that with such a large group would be hard to get everyone to put in equal effort to make it fair. I didn't see it like that at all though getting to do hard work that benefits people I'm close to is a privilege if I didn't have so many friends who are also eager to carry weight. I'd be happy to carry it all and do all of the work myself even on the small scale now I try to do A little chores whenever I can if I'm staying at someone's place and their dishes are dirty. I'll wash them if friends and I are going on a trip. I'll do whatever planning needs to be done. I don't say any of this to make myself seem like a saint by the way, if anything I realized that I'm late to the party and I know that I'm still trailing behind most of my friends who have been carrying some of my shares since I can remember the small Silver Lining of only making this change recently is that I may have a lucid enough perspective on it to share. When you carry all of the weight you make other people's lives better. You also make your own life better in both predictable and unpredictable ways, you develop strength and confidence knowing that although you can work with others and accept their help. You can also manage a lot by yourself. If you have to you build discipline, you become the kind of person that gets invited to everything because no one has to worry about carrying weight for you. You feel a sense of Pride knowing that you're providing for others be willing to carry all of the weight. When you see a situation where someone needs to step up and put in extra effort be that person maybe you already are but if you're like I used to be and you wait for someone else to take care of it. Try carrying more than you're used to I bet you'll like it more than you think. You just listen to The Post titled carry the weight by tying in of Tainan.com. And thank you again to skillshare. They have a great Learning Community. 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Tynan shares his thoughts on carrying weight in life. Episode 1131: Carry the Weight by Tynan on Personal Responsibility & Hard Work Tynan was named as one of the top 25 best bloggers in 2013 by Time Magazine. He believes in making deliberate decisions and breaking away from the herd mentality. He likes learning new things, building habits, exposing the world, connecting with awesome people, and creating good work. The New York Times Bestseller “The Game” featured him as one of the main characters, as he was one of the most famous pickup artists in the world. In 2008, he sold everything he owned and went on an extended world trip, becoming a fervent minimalist. Fun facts: he’s a college dropout, was a professional poker player, Courtney Love was his roommate for 9 months, and he once built a swimming pool in his living room. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts! Join the millions of students already learning on Skillshare today with a special offer just for my listeners: Get two months of unlimited access to over 25,000 for FREE. To sign up, go to Skillshare.com/OLD  ---   Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/optimal-living-daily/support 