This is optimal living daily episode 1142. Are you positive about Positive Thinking by Greg Audino of Greg Audino.com and I'm your narrator Justin moloch reading you blogs or articles or doing reenactments every single day of the year to help you live a more meaningful life. This is a video reenactment episode. But before we get to it small business owners wear a lot of hats and while some hats are great others like the filing taxes and running payroll hat are not so great. That's where it Gusto comes in. It also makes payroll taxes and H are actually easy for small businesses the still automatically pays and files your federal state and local taxes. So you don't have to worry about it. Plus they make it easy to add on health benefits even 401ks for your team and you get direct access to certified EHR experts to sounds like a pretty good way to kick off 2019 for your business, right? But here's the thing tax deadlines creep up super fast and you're going to want to get started now, so don't wait like us don't make it easier on you. It's made my life a lot easier. Here and as a bonus listeners get three months free when they run their first payroll. This is one had you're gonna be glad you gave up try a demo and see for yourself at Gusto.com old that's G you sto.com. Oh LD. So Greg Audino is an actor life coach and super nice guy. He has videos that I love so I'm basically re-enacting one of those for you. So let's get right to it as we optimize your life. Are you positive about Positive Thinking by Greg Audino of Greg Audino.com? Think positively not exactly groundbreaking thought is it like anything that's been repeated enough to simple instruction to think positively has lost a lot of his novelty. Not everyone is as sold on it anymore. We are no longer living in the 1950s when people will blindly say, okay. What a good idea. I'll do that and proceeded to live a life of depression duck behind a branded toothy smile. There's much less Conformity these days people are speaking up mostly for the sake of gaining attention by Whining incessantly but still my ideas are being challenged and that's a good thing. The only problem with ideas being challenged. However is our need for drama. That is drastic changes that go from black to white skipping over the gray flipping things completely upside down for the sake of new discovery as opposed to looking at them from a different yet. Truthful angle. The same is true of positive thinking realists will argue that positive thinking is a hokey waste of time that it's cute. But only for people that are too weak to handle The struggle of reality but realist fear being vulnerable enough to believe in the spontaneity of romance in case it doesn't work out for them romanticist. However will argue that positive thinking is the only way to approach anything that by staying positive you can drive through pain and always stay on the sunny side of life and ultimately make any life you want for yourself a romanticist fear life shaking them into something they don't want in case reality doesn't work out for them for many the relationship to the classic idea. Idea of positive thinking then is rooted in fear. We either resist it out of here that will blow up in our face or we cling to it because we don't want to Bear the pain of life not going the way we wanted to I'm here to propose what I think positive thinking is really all about because it's more layered than motivational hack jobs, like myself make it out to be with real is withdrawn to thinking that reality is non-inclusive abundant possibilities and romanticists withdrawn to thinking that they can Will themselves away from pain. Is there not potential that positivity The and grief can coexist. Is it possible that these two can fuse together and make thinking positively more about learning positively if you'll humor me on this close your eyes or not. If you're driving take a second to think about what's really dominating your life right now any invasive thoughts or issues whether you've labeled them as positive or negative what's running your life after you've got a few ideas now try to look past what they're doing to you and instead consider what they're trying to tell you what you can learn from. Um them and how they can balance you. You can open your eyes now. My guess is that there are a few major something's taking up most of your mental space and because they've cycle through your brain a trillion times. It's getting harder to see them in a new way. So try to think about how they're taking you off balance. Allow me to create an example by addressing a topic that's become increasingly relevant to men around my age. Let's talk about balding. If you're starting to bald in your spending a lot of time envying those who have full heads of are is the envy Not really an opportunity to take a step towards making peace with the things you've been given and that which you can't control taking this approach may not seem very different from what we've come to perceive as positive thinking because at its core you're still making the best of a situation you'd rather not be in. However, the reason many people have found positive thinking to be a bit stale is because normally in a situation like this the narrative would go something like hey, but you still have a sick job think positively your worth is deflected. We're in the truth is you only run out of places to deflect it. We see here though that positive thinking can be much more Dynamic not only because it's inviting deliberate action to be taken but also because it transforms the situation as something that can work for you not just something you have to come to terms with so it's capitalizing on negativity rather than resisting it. It's going past a neutralizing you and instead propelling you forward enough time spent with this type of thinking will help you to realize that all of these things that suck in your life. Really only suck because you allow them to the same mindset can be applied on the flipside of the situation. So if you're the last of your friends to have a full head of hair is seeing them in times of joy, not a reminder. That although it's great to feel confident about your hair. You don't need to become attached in fear losing it because ultimately it won't make you happy the key here is to identify when any happenings in your life. Take a hold over you whether it feels good or bad and extract that energy into inner strengths and values making it happen. Out of this will make literally anything that happens to you advantageous. Even if it's a scenario that just serves as a reminder that you're on the right track. Now you might say but Greg what about objectively bad and painful situations? And yes, I know trust me I try to make this as bulletproof as I can. So let's talk about it. I'd venture to Guess that the death of a close family member is one of the most painful things each of us is likely to experience. Like I said before you can't will away pain and positive thinking is not going to These things from happening. You also will not ever get to the point where you say. Oh joy. My mom died. What can I learn from this to grieve is human to run the whole gamut of emotions is human do not try to avoid them to not feel these things is to not be alive it is okay to feel sadness anger jealousy and so on do not be frustrated with yourself or feeling things. You've been feeling your entire life expecting these things to vanish makes no sense. However as I mentioned before Or they can coexist with more positive thoughts and all feelings of discomfort are absolutely laced with lessons. So if you experience the death of a loved one take time to feel that take time to grieve be patient with yourself during all of these feelings, but when the time comes that you choose to start healing you might say to yourself. Hey, maybe I haven't spent enough time with family over the years as a like to and now I'll start doing that or wow. Life really is short. Maybe this is a reminder for me to start. Living the way I want to live and not be so afraid believe it or not. The list goes on and that's the size of it. Every single thing happening to you is affecting you somehow and if you can develop the habit of being patient and mindful enough to face and question all of these things before or after you react you will then have the opportunity to seek out what you can learn from them. And therefore how they can serve you. This is the truth of positive thinking and why the concept is not actually as trite and one-dimensional Well as many have come to think it is. You just listen to The Post titled. Are you positive about Positive Thinking by Greg Audino of Greg Audino.com come by a site check out his videos. He does coaching and show him some support just visit Greg Audino.com, which is linked in this episode's description and don't forget Gusto offers modern easy payroll benefits and HR to small businesses across the country. If you want your business to be running a lot more efficiently this year. 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Greg Audino asks if you are positive about positive thinking? Episode 1142: Are You Positive About Positive Thinking? by Greg Audino on Optimism & Compassion Greg Audino of gregaudino.com is both a certified life coach and an actor. He combines his passions to create short and digestible videos which shine new light on the turbulent areas of life that many of us already have our minds made up about. Constantly seeking to share new insight, Audino uses humor and a variety of PG-13 examples to offer a refreshing and more relatable approach to self-development. TV fanatics can find him with principle roles on shows like Westworld, SWAT, Modern Family, and Jane the Virgin to name a few. The original post is located here:  https://gregaudino.com/are-you-positive-about-positive-thinking/ Please Rate & Review the Show! Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts! Gusto is making payroll, benefits, and HR easy for small businesses. Get 3 months free once you run your first payroll with our link: Gusto.com/OLD  ---   Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/optimal-living-daily/support 