Is podcast is brought to you by what my reading the UK's most influential wedding Brandt. Hello and welcome to the podcast. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hope you enjoy the last episode about bride speeches. Yes, it was a risk. I got an interesting and and if you haven't already then in your email with the details of your speech and do then please do podcast at what my wedding. Don't quote. Are you? Okay? Yes. I'm a little bit lost for words. If you hadn't noticed I've just got no words to speak. So no for a change that and that is exactly what this podcast about. His it's about don't change for your wedding day ever since yes I've ever been in this industry. There has been an emphasis on how you should somehow improve yourself for your wedding day. Hmm be that aesthetically yeah, or how Sized you are or how creative you are. And there is this pressure that I think is just getting more compounded whether that's social media. I mean asked me to blame for some something something here or you know, the whole influence of phenomenon. Yeah, you know where you have these people whose entire lives online. Yeah, and then their weddings are online. Yeah, and it just Seems to be this like ongoing completely unobtainable showreel. Yeah, and then I just don't think that it has the most positive influence read on the rest of us. Yeah, and it's a tricky one for us to navigate that whole social media thing. Is it because obviously we're sharing. Yeah incredible images to inspire everybody to have the best day that they I possibly can within their means so it's a tricky one for us. Yeah it is because you don't want to be a hypocrite. Absolutely. We're not here to try and cause some controversy. Yeah, that's all. Yeah. We just want to Emphasize and point out that if you are a fan of what we're doing if you listen to our podcast that you are not there thinking. Yeah my wedding my way. Yeah, but actually that means I've got to look a certain way. Yeah, I've got to do things a certain way. Yeah. I've got to save up and save up and use all of my savings so that I can create the same as thetic. Yeah that I see even on what my weddings Instagram feed or An influencer that you follows its gravity to relieve the last thing that we want people to be thinking isn't it that they like to say have to change themselves in some way to meet the expectations of somebody else's set for their own wedding is a key and as a brand we have never ever promoted weight loss. Yeah or having some fatty diet or spending Aid is in the gym like, you know, you can imagine how many advertisers were approached. Each by on a very regular basis to do this that and the other whether it's personal training or one of these ridiculous T's. Yeah. I mean, it's what what it what even is that and thank goodness that some of these social media platforms are actually taking it upon themselves. So just stop yeah that kind of content even being published. Yeah. It's been so refreshing to see that the has the last couple of weeks promoting one something that's completely unrealistic. It and to not with any kind of research like you don't know what the risks are it just it Beggars belief really and I can't believe that it went on for so long. Yes, and some of these so-called influences stroke celebrities who are obviously have their own social media accounts who promote these kind of products without any thought in exchange for cash because let's face it. They don't use their stuff. Today, they just want to advertise it because they've been paid from it. They have a responsibility to their followers some who I imagine a very young and impressionable yet to behave responsibly and not try and encourage people to be a certain aesthetic or to look like they do or think that they can look like they do because they don't even look like that themselves just going to say because they don't even look like they down now, We've been to various media events and I think it's such a shame because these people but it particularly women because that's you know main demographic who don't look anything like their Instagram grade you either and what a shame. Yeah, because they're perfectly lovely in real life. But for some reason they feel again that they all have to meet this I said you can that's what everyone else wants to look like and it just becomes this great big. Kle and domino effect of unrealistic expectations and that's a real shame and we don't want you to have to feel pressured to be any other sort of way than what you are. Now know exactly like no one has to drop a dress size for their wedding. No, but it's not just about that either because of any kind of body shaming his complete bollocks. Yes, people come in all shapes and sizes. Yeah fall short wide. Tomorrow, yeah, whatever and the way that you look isn't the only reason why your partner has decided to spend the rest of their lives of even if it is, you should probably find a new one. Yeah just saying and I'm going to give you some cold hard truth down one day. Yeah you and your partner will both be old what? Old know both the wrinkly probably hard of hearing your hair will thin your bits and Bobs will sag, so you'll have to have the laughs make the memories and see the places. We will together. Yeah droopy bits and all exactly and that's it. Isn't it that you're entering into this marriage? It's not just about the wedding which we talked about all the time, isn't it? You're entering into this marriage with that with a person because they love you for who you are how you are. You as a whole not how you might look yeah on a day that hasn't happened yet. Yeah, exactly one of my favorite and most poignant quotes. Oh, yeah. Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many. So again, you know this one day it's brilliant day. It's an amazing celebration. You should have the best day possible and you should absolutely feel the best. Possible version of yourself absolutely what we're trying to get to because we're not completely without compassion just saying, you know wedding day is a good platform. Yeah, I'd say particularly for things like a healthier lifestyle. So say you are burning the candle at both ends sure or you eat all the biscuits which makes you feel lethargic and Well quite a nice place the knife and you know stress as well, which actually as we know planning a wedding can make it worse because out of everything that is one of the things that can really affect your skin. Yeah, your anxiety can lead to hair loss or those thing extreme. Yeah, you know, so take a break. Yeah have a rest. Yeah have a kit kat but not 15. Yes and whatever you need to do. To feel relaxed. Yeah appreciative gone a bit off on a tangent, but that's how this podcast is. Well, that's all right, then what you're trying to say is if you're wanting to make changes to your lifestyle. Anyway, you can use the wedding as a catalyst for that which is what you've basically said. Yeah, but it has to be a change for life not yeah, not just whether whether or not this pressure on like breaks my wedding. I've got to go to grow my hair. Yeah. I've gotta be as thin as I can. I've got to do this I've said because what is that what the hair thing like Then why do people feel they have to grow their hair long for the wedding and then I know so many people that after was a chopped it off as like what if you really didn't like it and I know a few people who have had their have worn their hair in a way on their wedding, but they would never ever normally have worn their hair. So like some sort of elaborate up to and then later on. I mean, this is a very simplistic example of don't change who you are and how you are they look back at their wedding photos and been like it doesn't even look like me because I would never ever wear my hair like that. Why did I wear it all up on top of my head when I always have it down and so they look back at their photos and they're thinking doesn't look like me at all. No, it's true. It's just little things don't feel you've got to conform to anything at all your daily so much more relaxed and enjoyable if you are true to yourself. Yeah, so, you know, how do you like to dress exactly. Do you usually wear makeup? Yeah any makeup lots of makeup How do you feel most comfortable? Yep, like when you know go on at night out and it's considering all those things because that's really all you need to consider. Yeah, when it comes to preparing for your yeah wedding. So it's funny actually is when we were just chatting about this particular podcast. Becky asked about my teeth. So I had braces and I was in my early 20s, but didn't wear my retainer. I know so about 18 months before the wedding. I thought oh, what a shame, you know because I had these my perfectly straight teeth and not one my retainer. So I then had lingual braces fitted all right for 12 months and then had a permanent retainer fitted on so you could say oh, well you had you know your to stand for you were doing well. I had them done the rest of my life actually and that's it. Isn't it? I certainly wanted them to be, you know to be be as straight as I once had them. Yeah for my wedding day and the photos because I wanted to smile and but that's the thing that you want for your life not it wasn't just a case of what's the photos overdrive the straight teeth and then suck it up afterwards and then let him go back wonky. Exactly. It's one of those things that you want to implement that change in your life anyway, and we can't not do this podcast without mentioning. What are some extreme aesthetic procedures which Becoming more and more prevalent and extreme. So we're not saying you shouldn't do this or you should do this because if you really want a lip enhancement then that's up to you. Absolutely, but don't and also I'm all look for anyone doing anything. They want to themselves. Yes safely. Yeah and not on a whim Thor your wedding not a for your day. So, you know any kind of aesthetic cosmetic procedure like that. Do you research? Absolute find yourself a reputable experienced practitioner. Yeah, make sure you are fully versed in what the risks are. Yeah and what you can do if you don't like the results. Oh, yeah, right because you leave that very close to a special occasion like your wedding day. You could well you could entirely change your whole face for one because we're just doing it. Yeah think so even with the most professional of professionals it can well the risks attached. Yeah it kinda why you have Sign a disclaimer exactly to make actual legit reaction absolutely anything anything like that? And again this whole like aesthetic Phenomenon with you know, the big lips and the cheek bones and all of that again, if that's how you genuinely want to look that is fine, but don't feel you should look like that because the media is telling you yeah, that's how you should look like. Absolutely Becky is in fact for you. Oh you already love stop don't you understand? For a little while, actually the Cosmetic Surgery industry in the UK is worth three point six billion non-surgical treatment such as Botox and fillers account for nine out of ten procedures and are worth two point seven five billion. Wow, but here's the facts the non-surgical cosmetic industry is almost entirely earn regulated. Is terrifying and if that's not the scary fact then I don't know. What is wow. So this these very very intense like mahogany Tans. Yeah, like everyone knows that tan skin is damaged skin. Yeah again, I don't want to like sound like your mom or anything like that. I am a mom but it just means that's what it means to me when I say I'm like, well, you've got some sun damage that's been going on. Yeah, and that's not good. To look great. Yeah, that's going to Aid you yeah, you know, but if you like that tan look then maybe do some fake tan. Yeah, if you want just try and do it safely. Yeah, it's didn't do anything extreme the we fully wedding, but don't feel again. It's like that whole thing about changing yourself like You know you are who you are you yeah born with what you've got and that's the person who your partner found in love with absolutely. They're also less invasive treatments live well, but people you know as it's more for correction and the things like I was talking about my teeth, so to treat red veins for example, like if you said yeah, there's a share or but again, even for like laser treatments and things you've got to find a reputable place. Make sure you know what the risks are because having that treatment great. I want to get rid of the red veins on my face, but actually they could be made worse. Like wow, like that's one of the risks that you have to understand and again when you see all of these things on social media and they might even be advertising certain treatments or the even acts. I've seen it recommend again certain places now, they're different to you their experience their reaction. There result will be different. Yeah. Yes to your results and I think in the case of something something like that. If it's something that you need to take a lot of time to research and all of those things and you don't to be Hasty about it before you get in married, can you not seek the advice of your makeup artist? If it's something you're conscious of can they not do something for you just for that day without you having to make any exchange name changes and what that would be like to discover that you know, I wouldn't it. Yeah you go for trial and you say listen. I've got this thing that I'm conscious of. Don't want to do anything about it for life. But just for today, I'd like to not have to think about it. Yeah, you do anything to help me with that. It's like me on my wedding day. I have got we talked about lashes before zero eyelashes. They are so short and so straight and so rubbish that I wore false lashes on my wedding day. I think quite a lot of people probably do hmm. I'll have individual has applied to their own. Yeah way back then it wasn't really a thing to have like lash extension. So I just went falsies, but at the same time I didn't want it to look extreme. I just wanted to look like I had eyes which I think is okay to one, isn't it? Yeah and still but still like myself not have loads of eye makeup on and all of that but just accentuate that little area that I'm very conscious of yeah, and even things like lash extensions now, if you'd listened to our Beauty Basics podcast, you know that Becky and I her big fan lover becomes Yeah, but my sister had a really bad experience and you can totally understand that if you were to hear that that it would put you off. Right? And actually she normally goes to the same lady that I go to but she's going on holiday and she need them done before she went on holiday he go so she just found somebody in her nearest town. Yeah and The Beautician literally glued all of the extensions to her Lashes in like clumps. All right. So where her own lashes were trying to grow themselves that they would naturally they were almost being pushed back into the skin because there was so much falu gosh, and now over gluing and so she couldn't have them for a holiday because she had to go and have them removed and her eyes were so sore afterwards that she couldn't have Replacements either. Yes. It's essentially a holiday without the extensions that she wanted that she paid a lot of money. And with very red sore eyes, I mean something like that you can get an infection. Yeah, I mean, can you imagine that's terrible isn't it? So again don't decide like a few days before I don't have much of sentience. Yeah, you need to have a trial or two. You need to have anything like that. You need to have worn them for a good couple of months. Yeah the run up so you can make sure you're comfortable with you having a feel and and you're happy with how they're applying them. Yep, and all those kind of things and that goes for anything. He might be bleeding. I know that's becoming more and more popular. I mean I admit I quite fancy. Yeah, there's I've got I don't know if you people have no eyebrows like not I mean I can spend all day pence in the men and I they're just they're just not there the rivers the fair ever so fair and my friend perfect Kelly who it's perfect die is them for me, but I can't have them like too dark because then they look a bit odd with my hair and they fade really really quickly. It doesn't last very long known you I'm trapped three days. And at this point where I can see Becky looking across at me. Like you've got no Rose. I just don't have any. So for me, I think that would be great. You know, I would you learn how to keep going back and having you dyed it be like a good investment and yeah save money in the long term. You need to know the process of that because yeah, may I now have to have a skin test Micah blading Kelly was time and she's I mean she does an amazing job. I've seen some of her client talent and how well it's worked but you don't just go once I don't know no and it looks super. Yeah, you sometimes have to go back three times. You have been through that whole slug period yeah, so they look, you know, there's a Eva and don't you know, you don't want one brow. I'll sit off to the left and one it's the right in your face. So there are gaps over the scab falls off sometimes some of the color comes off at the scab. So you like to say you got to go back and a top top make sure it's all it's a it's a big lens. Yeah. Yeah, but a really exactly with a lot of these procedures one you have to be Absolutely. Sure do it for yourself. Yeah, don't do it for anyone else. Yeah, don't do it because you think that's what you should look like without so you should have done the human the whole lip thing. I've got a couple of friends and it just makes me sad and I like oh, you know if you seen so-and-so know I just feel that you know, my lips my lips are really thin because I don't and I don't I don't think that's actually the case mmm because the comparison has just got Bonkers, you know, because actually but that is not what people look Look like naturally. Yeah, and again not saying that's wrong. Yeah, well that they shouldn't do that but don't feel pressured to that that you should exactly exactly comparison is the thief of Joy that's right. That was a comparison is the thief of your own self-worth. Yeah. I think a lot of the time yeah, you're absolutely right which brings me nicely onto the boat. Ohms. Yeah. We're not saying people shouldn't have it. I know loads of people that have it and they look so good two in fact. Push your skin feels good. She reluctantly just had my birthday. Yeah, in fact my dad believe it or not when he sort of semi retired from Dentistry when and trained I did it in Botox yet interesting. He didn't love it. I know he didn't feel confident okay with it. So he only did he otherwise, I think he only did it for a while as I could just I just don't think it hasn't been doing which is exactly what he should have done. Yeah trusting Antony's best friend is a nurse and he's trained to do Botox as well. Yeah, so it's it's definitely a growing industry is indeed. It's indeed. The average age of the person getting married now is xxx female things as you want. If you're mayor Anna you should not be needing those Ox again. It's difficult for us. They don't do this. Do do this knee lever. I just think it's this whole pressure people have lines on their face. Yeah, even in your teens yo-yo if you are a very Person or very frowny person. Yeah, and there is nothing wrong with trying to enhance. Yeah best bits. Absolutely and perhaps not enhance a bit. So you don't like it's fine. Like we've just said loads of people have it and it's great and you can't always tell if someone's had Botox works when it's been done. Well don't build yourself up so much that two weeks before the wedding you like right? Whack it all in give me all the Botox like more than you would normally have or Just don't change your normal routine. Botox is essentially a toxin. That is a muscle relaxant. Okay, so what it means is that you are unable to move certain muscles in your face, which reduces those particular expression lines yet, which by default means that it reduces those expressions. Now that in itself is an interesting one because on your wedding day. Do you want to reduce the amount that you Like you're laughing and smiling and and that's what I mean, isn't it? It's like yeah when you get this extreme thing like there's nothing wrong with any procedures. We don't want you to tell you that it's wrong. I think it should be embarrassed or anything like that because you really shouldn't if you if that's what if that's you know, what about you? I'm definitely interested in it, but the pressure bothers me. Yeah and how much it's unregulated. Yeah. Me and I think it's the level of addiction that comes with those sort of things fully. Yeah, I can tell you just from having my eyelashes done absolutely addicted. Like I haven't got them on right now and well, we're a my eyes. That's how I feel. Like we're my eyes gone and every time I go back I'm always a bit like a little bit longer like a bit thicker this time or and I know that's that's how it that's what you get used to it. Get used to it you get used to how you look you've had the Botox and you think you can adjust to the new Way that your face expresses itself and all those things and you just you change and you get used to it. And then I just worry that people will get to a point when it's their wedding and they've just gone too far because they're so consciously changing these things. I would be so interested to hear from your IE our readers. Yeah, like thoughts on this subject sites and what your experiences are what perhaps me or friends experiences are ya podcaster what we're reading dot product UK? Yeah, right. It in and let us know and then I can add all these things onto the show notes page anything you send in that we think is useful and valuable to other Brides listening rooms listening even because this is you know, we're talking about Brides here making aesthetic changes to themselves. Well, it's I mean, you know 2018 of cosmetic procedures were women. Really yeah - higher than I actually thought if I shun me but yeah any experience you've got with this on the lead up any advice anything like that email it in and You get it in the show notes so that can help or the brides-to-be. Yep in the make decisions. Absolutely the extreme skincare regime's I mean extreme I get lost and I'm quite into you know makeup and Yang's are like a like products like buying products like shiny packaging. I like the kind of things that people say marketing. Yeah, but you don't need 55 products. Phone to try and look like whatever the Photoshop version of the model is because the products, you know, no problems only 19. Yeah, and the front of whatever campaign is you said before it's to do with your stress levels that can impact your skin massively. Are you drinking enough water out hydrated enough? I and you know this and Simon who edits the podcast knows this. I'm like a prune. I hardly drink any water at all. Simon's forever checking me fingertips to see if they're in called or not and I've started the last week and a half up in my water intake to two liters a day as is recommended or eight glasses of eight ounce glasses of water at the 8x8 wall. I've learnt a clam. Yeah, that's right, you know just like a normal high ball glass 8 ounces eight of them a day in assorted and I have pretty crappy skin. That's one of my big things if I could peel my whole face off and start with fresh skin than I'd absolutely do it funny though because I look at you and don't think that at all and that is one of the biggest points. It's a snake. Yeah, all about self insecurities that we all have like I hate my skin with a passion. This is funny because I think you look quite fresh face because you don't wear a lot of makeup. Yeah. I mean like yeah, it's not like that because it looks bloody worse. If I put like jeez then I just looked like a big cake face. Anyway, that's by the by but it's right like you might look at me and think you skins perfectly fine, but you have is your own insecurities, isn't it? But anyway back to the point of helping your skin and me saying, Now drinking this 2 liters of water a day. I've been doing it for two weeks really really consciously making myself get up in the morning. First thing. I do is drink a glass of water and then I make sure throughout the day. I have the other seven always if I find that if I'm starting first thing with one it sort of gets me going. Yeah, and I don't know if it's the right way or wrong way to do it, but I just do it last time. I can't sit there with a bottle of water and just you know, I have a sip every now and then I set myself certain times get up fill the glass up neck it done. And then I know that that water intake is done some I'm not very good. Good, it consumed in liquid. I don't know if that sounds like the most ridiculous thing you've ever heard, but I'm not very good at drinking just not and never have been but ever since this last two weeks. I've been doing it. My skin is definitely better like you go and you haven't you I'd say and I never know whether it's Placebo or not with me when I really try and reduce water during the day. Anyway, yeah, not necessarily like two liters, but I can't say that it's made. That much of a difference for me right with me. It's more if I'm you know, like how like how happy you are how good you feel? Yeah within yourself like if I'm doing exercise like yes, so I enjoy it. I'm not afraid to admit that I don't ya do it for me. I'll do it for health reasons, but I do it because I like doing it. I like switching on you should feel good. I like the way like my body feels more flexible and I feel stronger and all those things and I find from you know, keeping on top of like My exercise not eating all the sugar. Yeah not messing with my skin too much, you know? Yeah quite simple products that that's what's me. Yeah, you know if I sit and Italy V8, yeah, it's finding that thing that works for you and it can be really tricky really really tricky and I find I find that my skin goes through Cycles. It's definitely always worse a certain time, but I don't think there's anything I can do about that perhaps areas, but then again it's going through trial and error of all the different products and things all the money at might not you know now and again it we've got to go back to again, you know, if you see in your Instagram feed on your Facebook page or whatever it is and you've got somebody that is there to influence you and tell you that this 200 quid face cream is the best thing they've ever used your I can pretty much guarantee you that that's probably the third face cream that they've said is the best face cream that I've ever used in the last order is recommending a really harsh or retinol that you put on your face and you're like and then here And then be all angles and acid on them put some retinol on you know, and all this is that it's just that and again, you know, I've tried to do as much research as I can and please when you're listening to this podcast we are not dermatologist. Yeah. So if you have a skin issue go and see one. Yeah, we said this before or go to your GP and go referral but please we are telling you to go and do that before you start putting all these harsh because it's not regulated either. Either. Yeah, it really isn't and so again, you know, you definitely saw, you know, exactly what's in the products of stuff and you don't the concentration of ingredients in a product are the order in which they were written. So the first ingredient that you see listed is the highest concentration of that thing, but it's not just that it's what ingredients are mixed with other ingredients. Yeah, and some of them like just they're sort of combination is irritating and you wouldn't necessarily know that You know serum a mixed with serum be really shouldn't mix them together at all. And or one might cancel out the effects of the other. Yeah. So again, it's if you don't know keep to the simple basic. Yeah and don't start a new skin routine a month before no you need to know in case you have a good reactions or anything. It's just in yeah, just be careful before you start. Any new Beauty regime's don't do them too close to the wedding and do it to make a change to your lifestyle. If it's to do with self-care those sort of things. Don't do it just for your wedding do it as a change to your life. Exactly. Yes. So we focused on a lot on the Aesthetics of your how you look but actually this podcast is not just about that. Yeah. It's about don't change yourself. Stay true to yourself and that goes for anything else to do with your wedding. Absolutely. Echo or the color scheme or what? Everyone wears the importance of certain Traditions or the non importance of certain traditionally the fact that everyone's having a compass grass. When well, you know, it's phenomenon say that because I do some Trends come and go. Yeah, it is what it is. You like them great use them but you don't after yeah, that's not what it's all about. And that's it. Yeah, if you see things exactly see them because of the way that our submissions work. Yeah, we'll have these sort of Of you know similar gowns for a while or yes, and we look alike. Wait. Yeah, that's how it is. That's absolutely fine. Yeah, and at the moment we are seeing a lot of pampas grass has them now. It is not my bag at all. I'm not saying I don't I'm not saying I do not appreciate it. Looks it looks great. But the people yes Stephen I can't let my what they've done with it. Yeah, but for me, I'd be like, well, I just wouldn't know what to do with that. Just know how how do you what do ya like not A and it's okay. Therefore don't feel the pressure for you to have Pumpers got and that's fine because it's not you doesn't seem to be changing your whole self if you thought yeah. Well they're doing that. But why would I even do with it? Where would I start then? There's your answer don't start with it. No doing exactly or this whole thing with detail. I you know, it's great if you can bring in your personality to your wedding, but perhaps as a couple you are very simplistic prayers you like candy starling. Two years which are quite impaired by the and strip back and neutral color scheme and all the rest of it. It doesn't mean that your wedding is going to be lacking. Oh, absolutely. Yeah. It doesn't mean volumes of who you are is a key. It's just that the emphasis is perhaps on things that are more difficult to see. Yeah. So like the music yes, or their food. Yes, or your shoes look, Diodorus, but you know what? I mean, right? Yes, it's different for everybody it again it's so if it's been quite an interesting one doing this particular podcast because we don't want to contradict. Yeah, it was the beginning of what we do because yeah, we give you inspiration was showing you yeah these amazing weddings pampas grass on open Foursquare has dude and you can take inspiration from that. Yeah, or you can just Scroll on by yeah. Yeah, either all yeah fine. Yeah, like just have the best day. Yeah, and even if you take yeah one small thing for a whole of the whole of the internet then yeah and make the rest up as you go along. Yeah. That's that's also a great. Yeah. Absolutely. So let's summarize many. Thanks. We understand that. You want to look the best version of yourself. We do. It's very important that You appreciate yourself a hundred percent a way that you look yeah, there's a lot of incorrect information. Absolutely. I'm not just come out and say it downright lies. Really. Yeah on the internet there in social media feeds about things that will change the way you look when they don't. Yeah, and they probably got lots of risks and adverse effects. Yeah attached to them as we know not only like physical adverse effect. It's It's those internal mental. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, the Cosmetic industry particular aesthetic cosmetic industry. So Botox and fillers is almost entirely unregulated. Yeah, so please take that on board and even like the less invasive things beauty treatment. Yeah still have risks with them. Absolutely and we just want you to feel amazing and have the best day do whatever's right for you. Yeah, but actually we met Having some kind of cosmetic enhancement, that's fine. Yeah, but don't feel that you want it to look like X. Yes who 99.9% of the time doesn't look like that either. Yeah, because there's just no point. The expectations are just unrealistic and and remember if you're making that change don't make a change for one day of your life. No, it's a big change that you are happy to have forever. Yeah forever ever. Yeah, no one wants to look back on those on their photos and think Look to themselves. Yeah, I was unhappy. Yeah, because I think that's what it comes down to isn't it? It's like it's all I look back there and remember a time where I felt like absolute shite. Yeah, like I can't think of anything worse than that. It's a like we said at the start. It's Wouldn't do bring out your insecurities because you are very aware of yourself because you are obviously the focal point of you know, the dates of people walk down that aisle. It's in some guys. Yeah or another where everybody is looking at you. Yeah, but take that time to really work on yourself. And I know it sounds all airy-fairy and cliche and stuff but it's all about self love and being happy with who you are and knowing you've got a partner that wants to be with you forever. The way that you are for who you are always always remember that yeah, I don't feel the pressure. Like you said to turn yourself into somebody that you're not because you don't need to you're perfect as you are and don't forget also not to change your personality for your wedding as well. Remember to inject yourselves into the wedding and not go on the trends that are happening that you see on Instagram unless you really like the militia effective think you're gonna like it for a long time exactly be true to yourselves if you do want to write in To ask so I know that we have had some DMS that kind of Point towards this kind of pressure and I don't know whether people are a bit embarrassed to talk about it or they'd rather be anonymous or whatever it is, but it's difficult to cover in an episode like this is personal. It is personal. But if you do feel pressure or this particular episode has resonated with you and the way that you're feeling and you do want to email us and then you know, we are more than happy to do another absolutely follow of yeah, and we'll share some of your experiences. Try and make everyone yet feel a bit more confident and just chat. We know that you like chatting to us, you know, we get the DNA as where I've had some great conversations and emails with some of you and I know but we're not experts but we've been there we get the pressure. We understand it all which is the point of having this episode is to say don't feel the pressure. But if you do drop us a line and we'll let's just have a chat bring it and then maybe everybody will feel a bit better about themselves. Yeah, but everyone knows that they're not the only person that feels Like that exactly. So yeah email the podcast at rock my wedding da Hood at UK. Let's have a big chat about self-love. Yeah, and on that note. 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They say that comparison is the thief of joy which we totally agree with but when it comes to weddings, we feel like it can be the thief of self worth. We are continually bombarded with images of perfection. from the shiny curated grids we see on Instagram to alleged "reality" TV. This notion of perfection and changing yourself to fit a certain mould is prevalent on every social media platform all day every day. We all know that perfection doesn't exist and striving to meet someone elses vision of perfect, especially for your wedding day is down right unhealthy. We want to talk to you about loving yourself. If you want to make aesthetic changes to yourself thats absolutely fine but we want you to know the risks involved and we want you to know that for one day - it's possibly not worth it. You're making a commitment for life when you enter into a marriage and any changes you decide to undertake should be for exactly that. For a life of growing old with your partner who loves you exactly the way you are. This episode isn't all about aesthetics, its about personality too. It's about having the day you want and not being swayed by wedding trends because you think you should and your bridesmaid really likes the idea of you having a massive floral moongate because she 'saw it on Pinterest and everyone has one these days' meanwhile you don't have Pinterest and what the heck is a moongate?! Follow your heart, follow your style and your day will be perfect. We should mention that we realise our Instagram feed, website and Pinterest are full to the brim of all sorts of wedding inspiration. Some which we realise people might find daunting; out of their budgets; entirely unrealistic perhaps. But we strive to share a real eclectic mix of weddings for those with budgets from 500 quid to 50 grand. We're not here to make judgements on peoples preferences, we just want to share as much as we can to help inspire you and bring out your personalities and inject them into your wedding days. We never want any couple to think that they aren't worthy and that they can't possibly live up to this bonkers world of Instagram perfect weddings. We've said it before and we'll continue to say it; all the imperfections are what lead to an utterly perfect day. You are all amazing. Style is entirely subjective so what suits one couple wont suit another and thats fine. As long as you are in love and you're saying your I Do's for the right reason then that is all you will ever need. Disclaimer: We love pampas grass - we're just too creatively inept to make them work - if you are too but love them, get yourself an amazing florist from The List to make your dreams come true. Check out the show notes page to see couples who really had their days their way and let their personalities and personal style sine through. 