Hey guys, this is Lisa and Rebecca and we are here on the secret life of weddings. If you like drama, you're in the right place where we tell you the world's craziest, but true wedding stories. So get ready for the drama on the secret life of weddings. Welcome to episode 121 of the secret life of weddings podcast. This is Lisa and Rebecca. Let's see what's in the news this week in weddings now out not even close. I forgot something. Sorry. I see this is what happened not just discuss this like 10 seconds ago. We did there is no excuse. This episode is dedicated. Sorry to our biggest fan Nicole. She is a doll. And we just love her so much. So we just wanted to say a quick thank you. She wrote in to us. The best part of my day is when I get off work. I work till midnight Monday to Friday and I get to go home and listen to the podcast. I'm currently listening to all the episodes for the seventh time and they never get old. This pot has seven times. He said the seventh time seven up seven times amazing and they never get old. This podcast is the best stress reliever. I know as my job is pretty stressful. I want to thank Lisa and eka for creating such an amazing place to be able to escape and every single scheme in this group on Facebook new and old for making this group more great to be in now on to some more listening episode 68 here I come again. So thank you Nicole. We really really appreciate it. And sorry. I almost didn't do your dedication Rebecca. What's going on now in the news? All right, you ready for this? I am Okay trigger warning. Oh according to the New York daily news. Third time's a charm right Peter Cook the former husband of Christie. Brinkley is getting ready to tie the knot. Once again, the 60 year old Hamptons based architect has gotten engaged to his 21 year old girlfriend Elba. I can't say her last name doesn't matter. Okay 21. I'm done already. Jan cool, I think I think it's Jan. Yeah, I'm still I don't care to give her any recognition right now. I see we have our that petty we have our judgy pants on today. I've got judgy pants. He's 61. That's like 360. He's 60. She's 21. That's like Lon it's like a Mick Jagger move right there cook confirmed in the news to people saying we are very happy. Yeah, I bet you and your dick our buddy. anyways Okay, Alba is the same age as sailor Brinkley cook, the 21 year old daughter of the celebrity couple sailor was recently eliminated from Dancing With the Stars. This will be Cooks third marriage. He was previously married to 65 year old Brinkley. The super model actress aren't returned Sports Illustrated cover royalty with whom he shares two kids 21 year-old sailor and 24 year old Jack. So his son is older than her. Can we just put I can't After they divorced in 2008. He says like hey Mom. Ooh, that's so weird. Okay. Yeah after they divorced in 2008. He remarried Susan Shaw, but the to split in 2014. Alba is now poised to be the next mrs. Cooke and according to people the relationship doesn't look like just another the ephemeral ephemeral post summer Hamptons love affair. The soon-to-be hitch Duo has reportedly been dating for a year. Oh, well that makes it a lot. Watch it. Yeah, so that's okay. Then Define over the last few months the to have been photographed hanging around New York's Chic and hip crowd at Hamptons events such as the celebration for Bobby Flay's Hamptons magazine cover in July and the Hampton classic Horse Show Grand Prix in September. Anyways, yeah Hamptons for a very special place. Yeah. So anyways, it talked about the divorce everything and yikes. Also, did you hear another season actor also made headlines after proposing to a younger girl friend Dennis Quaid 65 and now it's he was ready to tie the knot. Once again the Great Balls of Fire Star proposed his soon to be wife 26 year old University of Texas PhD You didn't Laura Savoy while the two were promoting his new film in Hawaii. It'll be Quaid's fourth marriage. I have another question. He was a Great Balls of Fire was he like yes face Jerry Lee Lewis. I didn't realize that was Dennis Quaid, you know, it's you know, it's funny. I always mix him up with Randy Quaid. Oh and then I had that's weird and then I think and then I think of how Randy Quaid was in like Independence Day and then I have to really think about I'll get even This moment I got I got just Randy Quaid in there. There's no Dennis Quaid. I know the name but I can't picture him. Yeah, what else has he been in give me something anything? Whoo, Dennis Dennis Quaid. He's been in quite a few movies actually. No, this is why it's ridiculous that I cannot mentally send bring him from rant and we need everyone's yelling at us right now. I know I'll get there. I'll Google it people but I just it anyways. So basically we got two old dudes married to young chicks. And the world just keeps on turning. Listen, I don't have a problem with age gaps. My parents have a 10-year age Gap. That's cool. That's cool. In other news. The sky is blue. Yeah, so fuck it bucket / advice corner or we are talking. Oh God. It says chat about STDs. Okay. Now, this is a this is something I'd like to throw on the fuck it bucket calling me, please because I put that in there so I would not forget to mention this I know exactly what you're talking about. Calling save-the-dates STDs is destroying me emotionally and mentally I can't do it anymore. It's got to stop like it just has to stop. You're like got my STD's today and I can't do this with you at you need to not write that in groups and places like it's yeah call just take the extra time. You don't have syphilis. I want you to actually write got my save the date today can we're sorry if You do have syphilis just because you have syphilis doesn't mean you have to not write save the day. It's you don't find my God. Yes. I'm just write it out. You won't regret it. It's not it's just better so or SD. Can we just can we just adopt SD then or something like the STD it really it's ridiculous. Yeah, I can't keep reading it. And if you don't want to do it for any other reason just assume you're triggering everyone with a real STD. Is that fair in 2019? Okay, great. So, yes, right. That's yeah Summers the STD Warrior. I'm on his various. Mm. Someone's very upset about their genital warts. They just got the news today and you sharing your save the date news is not helping them get over it. So here are some save the date to do or not to do. Okay, so I guess we're throwing the the not dues in the fuck it bucket this week. So it is a great. Great way to collect addresses. Okay. This is true. This is true. If you need to get everyone's our dresses for the invites that it is a good way to collect them. Actually. Here's a here's a fun little hack or life hack is my leg. My kids love to say at your shower. If you haven't done a save the date and this is actually this goes for a baby shower. This goes for a bridal shower any kind of party. Essentially. If you want you can get everyone to put their name and address on the front of an envelope. And then when it's time to send out the thank you cards. You not only have collected all their addresses directly from them which are all current but you just pop that baby in there the cards sign it and then guess what in the mail to them? How cool is that? That's great, but not everybody comes or is invited to a hundred percent. I'm just saying like a bunch of people, you know for sure. So that's a cool way to collect addresses as well. Also a great way to give everyone advance notice of the wedding coming up is the save the date, especially when you're talking a destination what I am I right? Yes. Yes because people any wedding really because what's the timeline for sending out a formal invite? This is like the one of the biggest questions I think people have in the wedding industry. I would say it depends on it's usually 8 to 12. Hold on. Generally. It depends on if there's travel involved and if it's a holiday, so if there's travel involved like a set a destination wedding, you always want to buffer it by like another month or so. I would say and then as far as actual invites to the wedding, yeah, it's 8 to 12 weeks is great and pretty acceptable. But see I don't think that's enough time for an invite. Yeah, like I know it's at that's why I like the save the dates. Okay. So I personally like the save the dates even if it's a digital one. I'm cool with that. Yeah, because especially for someone like me who's in The Wedding industry. I can book that out a year in advance right that date so I can actually go I've missed families weddings because I can't go oh because so many notice so, you know and not only that if it's especially if its destination or even if it's not complete destination if someone wants to turn it into a little weekend getaway, you know what I mean? You can kind of well, that's the thing and I booked my like my wedding was on a Friday of a long weekend people but Cottages months in advance. Yeah, so I wanted to let everyone know if you want to come to the wedding. This is this is one it is so I agree sooner is better and it kind of doesn't I was early with my invite so I'm on that train as well. Yeah. So essentially we are throwing the STD naming in the fucking bucket and we are keeping the rest of the save the date is that fair? Yeah, if you're trying to save on money just do digital ones and like I say, yeah, also don't forget if you invite them with Save the Day. Have to send an invitation or you're a dick. Yes, because you know what? I see that question popping up all the time. Do I have to send them a yes. Yes you do. You are this close to an MI V asshole post and read it if you do not do that. Yes. All right. So our first story hey, Lisa and Rebecca. I just started like talking to people. I just started listen to the podcast about a week ago because a friend of mine told me about it and it was a great way to laugh away your pain when it comes to wedding. That's true. She has been telling me that I need to write into you guys to tell you a story. So here it is. I have not changed any names in this because I don't give a fuck and my Fiance and his friends do not deserve to be anonymous. You'll understand why. About two years ago. I am meet John the man who I fell so madly in love with after only a few months of dating. We had an instant connection. We talked about everything from if we wanted to have kids to our family histories as they were both kind of fucked up to even the smallest of things like how I love chocolate and how he loves chips, ah cute. It seemed to be perfect on our nine-month anniversary. He asked me to marry him and I said, yes. I was so excited to start not only planning my wedding but more importantly start planning the rest of our lives on our one-year anniversary John took me to my favorite restaurant where the table had red rose petals sprinkled on it. It was so incredibly romantic after dinner. We took a walk through the park and just enjoyed being with each other. We went back to his apartment where I was once again surprised to find that his small apartment was covered with rose petals and tea. Lights that night for the first time I slept with John but it wasn't just my first time with him. But with anyone and I have to say it was pretty perfect the next day. I went out dress shopping with my mom because I have to interrupt you for a second. I'm just laughing because the majority of us are like, you know your first time you just you kind of been like, so we're doing this a and then you To do it and then you're like, yeah, you know, it's never a great the first time it's like, holy shit. No offense. You you nailed the first time. Congratulations. Most people. Yes, if you haven't done it yet. Don't get your hopes up just don't know just many of us did in the back of a truck. It's okay. Wow. Wow, I didn't but you know, I'm just sorry, I think you did, but that's okay. I didn't. That's I didn't it wasn't a bed. But anyways, my point is I dice our little PSA for this week got y'all don't get your hopes that high. Oh cake. Okay. Well, hold on. You're gonna feel bad the SEC. Okay. Okay. Okay the next day. I went out dress shopping with my mom because their opinions were the ones I trusted most a couple of times my mom commented how glowing I looked and I just played it off that I was excited to start looking at dresses. Once we were done at the bridal store. I went home to John and that is when my fairytale got shattered. I went to his apartment and overheard him and three of his friends Mike James and David talking boy. These guys are getting outed begged. I'm good. Yes, can we get photos? That would be great great. They were talking about how they had to get John his money for winning this bet. I was so confused until I heard John bragging how he fucked the prude good and hard last night. I was heartbroken. I went into the living room where the guys were walked straight up to John and slapped him straight across the face and then for added pain need his him in the groin. As I watched him fall to his knees in pain. I turned to look at his friends and in tears asked how much when they didn't respond I once again ask them but this time yelling it David finally answered $20 each. My virginity was only worth $60. I took off my ring through it at John and left that was five months ago. I have not seen or spoken to John in these past five months and even though it hurts. I know I'm going to be okay. with love, sweetheart Listen write as someone who King John fuck you. Fuck her up to you from the highest building. Okay. Oh, I'm so Reggie. I as someone who has dealt with something similar not quite as bad, but you may have heard my previous story. If you haven't go back digging through the archives are asking our group what episode it was, but with my ex-fiancée he was a complete cunt to it. It's it's an incredibly difficult thing to put all your hopes and dreams and love into someone and then they destroy you like that especially when you're engaged to be married because you just you picture your entire feature with them, you know, and then they just they're not even only fucking up the relationship. They're fucking up everything you pictured with them for the future. So I'm so sorry. You had to go through that girl. I feel you. It's shitty and I am so fucking proud of you for kicking him in the nuts. Right? Good job. Yeah, right good job. And this will be the best thing that ever happened to you. It was the best thing that ever happened to me getting fucked over like that because I found my husband and now I'm so happy and I have beautiful kids and my kids would have been ugly with the other one. So because I'm not shallow. So I was in love with the person but now he's balding and he's even uglier. So this is really good because now I have beautiful children with a sexy guy. My point is it's going to work out for you. I know the I think you know that you sound like an incredibly strong woman and fuck those guys. They're assholes. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Thank you for sharing it with us though because you know what? It sounds like you've let it you've let it out. You've let it go. I I'm bad that way. I'll hold on to it. But good for you. Good for you. Yeah, John Mike James and David you dudes are really fuckin shitty. Yeah, I grew up. Listen. I would call them concerts except they lack depth and warmth. So, you know, we can't really Soak the warmth. Listen. Wow, I had to use that but I give full credit to a meme. I saw it was an old woman. Oh, this is the best. It was an older woman and she was at an anti Trump rally now. I know we don't normally talk politics and I'm not but I'm just giving credit where credit is due. She was holding a sign that said I would call Trump a cunt except he lacks depth and warmth and I thought it was so fucking clever and I just loved it. So I loved it. I thought it was hilarious like This has to be somewhere. So we're just gonna we're just going to use this for these boys because they sound just awesome. But thank you again for writing in if you have a story anything to do with weddings, you know, really send it to us secret life of weddings at gmail.com quick think of the next time you have to get on an airplane because you need an excuse to buy this suitcase now away makes the coolest suitcase on the market away knows that everyone has a different travel style. That's why they make their carry-on in an array of colors to you sizes. Is and two materials a strong yet flexible polycarbonate and an anodized aluminum. I got the carry on. There is a 100 day trial on everything away makes take it out on the road and live with it travel with it get lost with it. 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Hi, I've emailed you all before but I got married a month ago, and I just wanted to tell you some small things that happened my father who we told my wedding was a A dry wedding and he comes with a mini bottle of whiskey drinks before he walks me down the aisle and then leaves for 15 minutes after the ceremony and comes back with a cliche brown paper bag of whiskey and a bottle of moonshine. This guy likes to party. He wouldn't even dance with me after he got drunk. Ah, I was begging him and he wouldn't even entertain the idea. Well, that's just a dick move. My grandma drove me around the city. I live in for the majority of the Meaning of my wedding causing me to be 20 minutes late for my own wedding literally and it didn't even faze her because she was like, well nobody's going to care. You're the bride which okay, but 20 minutes. My grandma was telling me that it wasn't too late and I could always move back home. Even when we were about to walk into the building. I moved from California to Tennessee to be with my long-distance relationship fiance turned husband's and my grandma almost disowned me over it because they never Wanted me to leave my family decided that me wanting to straighten my curly hair from my wedding because quote they've dreamed of my wedding day with curly hair and I'd be destroying their dreams I straighten my hair. Anyways good for you. That's all the bad stories. But my husband and I try to only remember the good stuff. I've been married a month and my family went home the Monday after my wedding and I don't have to see them as much anymore. So there's that Silver Linings, right? I We also much on the podcast helped me with the wedding process and I have made some friends through the group's all those so great. Thank you so much for writing in your story. And I'm so glad you've made some buddies in our groups. If you want to join our groups. We have a couple actually that you can join depending on your preference. We are on Facebook. So go to fans of Secret Life of weddings on Facebook, or you can join our flip chat group. The link is right in the show notes to both groups to make it super duper easy for you. You to join just as a heads up guys. We started that Canadian wedding Saga but two episodes ago. The one right before Halloween and last week was a specialty episode the Halloween episode. So we're going to continue the Canadian wedding Saga next week because part two is a little bit longer and we want to give it all the time we can thank you to our new Patron Kirby G. They went to patreon.com slash secret life of weddings to get more drama for the Llama. Don't forget guys. The first 10 episodes are three. Yeah ten episodes now our first That's a crapload of free content go get it patreon.com slash secret life of weddings. All right, our next story. Hey ladies, feel free to use my name. The only one who will be embarrassed. Here is me. Haha. So this isn't a drama-filled wedding story. Just my funny engagement story. This all takes place before he proposes every year my future mother-in-law throws a Canada Day barbecue this year. She said she had a big announcement to make at the barbecue and that it would be the best. Last one ever naturally everyone started guessing what the announcement was my fiance's brother and his wife have recently moved to Japan to start their family. His wife is from Tokyo and welcomed their first daughter in January. My immediate guesses were either a they were having another baby or be my future in-laws would be moving to Japan to be closer to their only grandchild. I was really hoping that there was another baby on the way. So the day of the barbecue arrives and unfortunately, I have to work I arrive around 3 p.m. And go to catch up with everyone else by Downing a couple drinks very quickly. It's Canada Day Day Drinking is required. This is true agreed. I'm feeling pretty good by the time my mother-in-law gathers everyone for her announcement. I'm standing at the front of the group close to my mother-in-law. She and I are extremely close and wait for her to continue. I don't remember exactly what she said, but she ended with And when we get home from Japan, we hope to have another family member. They took a trip there this September I started freaking out because oh my God, I was right. There's going to be another baby as I'm freaking out my boyfriend grabs my arm to get my attention and I quickly elbow him in the chest and tell him to fuck off that I'm busy. It's then I realized everyone is staring at me and I turned to look at my boyfriend. Who's Standing there with a ring box and a very disappointed face safe to say I apologize profusely. Let him ask the question. He had been freaking out about all day and agreed to marry my best friend. So the announcement was a fake out so I wouldn't be suspicious and my fiance gets one year of winning Petty arguments with you told me to fuck off when I proposed. I hope this story is cute funny enough to read on the show, but if I understand. Of course, it isn't course. We told it you told your fiancee to fuck off during the proposal you're in. Yeah, like it's yeah you're in yeah, that's our bar. There's there's the bar guys. You have to be this tall to be on the show. Yes. One more thing. If it's not too much to ask if you have any vendors, you know and love in the Kingston Belleville area. Would you be able to let me know I'm going to post this and reading this because I'm going to post it in our groups. Everyone can chime in. Yes. I basically planning the wedding alone. And as most of my friends are Aren't married yet. I can't ask any of them for their opinions. Plus I trust you ladies more than my small town friends. Anyways, thanks for a great show that I've been judged way too. Quickly Megan. Oh my god. Well, congratulations Megan congratulate. I do travel for weddings. Just so yes, and if if Rebecca can't make it I'm pretty sure from Tim Forbes is actually in Kingston OH cute, you know Tim. No. Okay you sounded You said you're a very like oh, yeah, I just went with it tips are good, man. You know, I've known Tim many years Tim Forbes. I want to say it's like Tim Forbes dot C 8m Forbes photography, but look him up will double check otherwise. Hey, wherever Tim Forbes has good dude could see him but I'm 99% Sure he's in Kingston so that could be a Sprinkle. Yeah, he's great and I've known him for years and years and years so good. Did it. Congratulations amazing. Lutely, if you know any other awesome Kick-Ass Belleville, Kingston Ontario vendors come to our Facebook group because we'll have a thread there and and let her know who she can do. She can hire and who's awesome or if you're a vendor and in that area. Feel free to share your link within that threat. Okay. Can I just say not know random shit guys, unless you actually can vouch for the vendor. Don't post them. I hate that shit. Yeah, and if you're a crappy vendor go away, we don't like you. So our next story we have a little bit of a trigger warning for verbal or and physical abuse. Okay, so just a heads up. It's called two weddings in a divorce the sequel to The Nutty engagement party. Oh, I think I know what this is from. Hello, Lisa and Rebecca. This is the sequel to the batch engagement party. Okay. Okay. So as a reminder, this is the one where the girl helps the other girl and she was marrying a guy who was a bit of a douche. He didn't want to pick them up at the salon. They had to go back. House or although she was hiding the family that helped helps them, right? Yes. Yeah. So but like actual divided there. We thought it was the guy because he liked wouldn't go to her house or something yesterday. I'm going to the salon and then we thought it was going to be like an abusive husband kind of situation and then it flipped. It was like a whoa, and then it was actually the girl a mall who was like not telling the fiance for cultural reasons or whatever that you know her other these people her. Friends were helping with the wedding doing all this stuff's like she was ashamed of them or something and it was really messed up. Yeah, so she says I wasn't going to send this in but y'all ask for crazy divorce stories and here is one after a mom's wedding Nadia her sister told us that she had a great time at amal's in-laws house Amal and her husband were going to live with mother-in-law surprise surprise and mother-in-law had welcomed Nadia and doted on her. Nadia felt like she belonged in a family again and had decided to marry her brother-in-law her father had agreed to this marriage from Iraq totally not acceptable in the Middle Eastern culture. And the rest of the family had no objections. My mom had a mini party for her which I attended in my PJs and she left this all happened within a month after her mom's wedding Nadia got married in a family only ceremony at her soon-to-be in-laws. And proceeded to move in with them as well both Nadia and am all Go Radio silent for 14 days. Then my mom receives a frantic call from Nadia saying she is at the airport and need someone to pick her up. My mom goes to her without question when she arrives Nadia tells us that a mall invited her to the wedding because mother-in-law wanted Nadia to marry her other son. They had put on a show of family love for her until after the wedding. Wedding she was given one day in a hotel with her new husband. And then she was to report for household duties at mother-in-law's house where she would live. This is literally what she was told you the following 13 days consist. Sorry, so I'm confused who can you break it down for me for a minute Frank let them just the relationships with the sister and stuff. So I'm a little confused. So Nadia is who's this? I'm also a mouse yester and naughty in a mall or sisters and they married Brothers. Thank you. Okay, just wanted to get married first and then her sister Mary the other guy. Yes got it. So these in-laws are like a malls and laws from the first marriage got it. Yes. Thank you. Let's see here the following 13 days consisted of her and am all cooking cleaning and doing dishes for mother-in-law and her for granted. Grown sons who required three fully cooked meals a day on the 14th day Nadia took too long to clean the bathroom. So mother-in-law started to yell at her Nadia decided to talk back and mother-in-law shoved her. This is like violent Cinderella. This is so not cool. Yeah, then her brother-in-law got there and kicked her out of the house. / mommy's orders her husband took her to the airport. Oh my God. He's like Get out of the country. Seriously. Wow Nadia started crying and I would be like cool you paying going to France like yeah, great Nadia started crying and told my mom that she had nowhere to go. I told my mom to take Nadia to her sister's house, which was an hour away from us, but my mom insisted that she could not refuse an orphaned girl asking for a home. Fuck my life the next six months consisted of constant drama Nadia and her family members would Call mother-in-law begging to let Nadia go back not even her family members would call mother-in-law begging to let Nadia go back mother-in-law would refuse and called Nadia names and then she would put Nadia's husband on the phone to also call her names. What a beautiful family after that Nadia found a new boyfriend and forgot about her husband good for her once mother-in-law figured out that Nadia was done begging. She started calling and telling Nadia that she. Wanted her back. Why would she want to go back to that garbage? Yeah, then her husband started calling and would leave angry voice males calling her a whore because she would not take him back. Nadia's family would also call and try to bully her into taking him back after a few weeks. We found out from Nadia that there is no legal marriage only religious one through a rogue Chic that issues non-legal Islamic wedding licenses. So I dr. Nadia is name. Name into a friend's Islamic divorce papers ha ha not as efficient best use of Photoshop I've ever heard of but I did this is a no way a legal document and changing. It is completely legal. The reason I did this for her is because her family would stop bullying her if they thought she had an Islamic divorce Nadia stays at our house for six nightmarish months. She proceeds to start relationships again relationships CIA. It's deliberate with multiple men one of which kidnaps her. Oh my God. This girl has got some toxic guys in her life. He returns her to our house after my mom calls him in threatens to call the police. Finally Nadia gets engaged over the phone. Okay to another guy suddenly. She packs up her stuff and goes to her sister's house. So her new fiance doesn't know about us sound familiar. She does not even thank my mom for the six months of zero rent and free food nor does she say goodbye. I get home from work and find her packing stuff into her sister's car with in around six months. Nadia has gotten married twice dated at least three different guys and gotten a divorce. All I could think is I wish my mom had taken her to her sister's house from the beginning. I know this is a very long story, but this is only Percent of the shit that took place the rest of it would probably require a trigger warning. We already did it and seemed inappropriate for this fun podcast. Thank you 80s know we loved it amazing. That's wow so much. I think this goes to the same guy. Yes, if there's a guy or a family that is treating you like shit. You are worth more than that get the fuck out now. It's only going to get worse, especially if you're not married yet. Just leave. Okay? Yes. Yes. Okay, so I just have Have to update quickly. You know how we told in last week's Halloween episode about in the fuck it bucket advice the more, you know Corner about burning money. It's not real money. They burn as I got some emails about that. I was like, oh cool. Okay. So when it comes to beauty products, we have so many choices. So why not? Ask for more from your favorite Brands? 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That's thr IVC. Ause M. ET. I see s.com secret life and enter code secret life for Percent off. Okay, double D's. Hey girls. I was listening to this week's episode when 18 and the dating tail reminded me of a date. I had during college. This was one of my very first proper dates. I had I was super excited especially since this guy, I don't know his name. So let's say Larry. I don't know why I'm about to really funny fake name. Yes, ask me out in front of my best friend who always had all the attention for boys. It felt like a bit of a Placement I think it's that I can understand that totally support that. Yeah, so Larry asks for my phone number at a football game and we text back and forth for a while. This was ever so slightly Pretenders so I couldn't properly Internet stock him then. We finally decide to go out for coffee. We met at the main library Starbucks and then chat and walk around campus for a few hours. Did I mention we met for coffee at 6 p.m. This was a date that this guy had clearly done before meet for coffee at the Bree go to the underground. Yes underground Courtyard to chill and talk then Meander through alleys to go to the music building and take turns sliding down the piano ramp overall. It was a lovely time. However, I blew it by being my cynical humorous and murdering himself as he led me underground. I made a joke about leaving the safety of the crowd as we wound through the alleys I talked about how this is where you would leave a Body, when we entered the empty music building and it took a minute to find the piano ramp. I made a joke about him. Just luring me here to murder me to go out with her. At the very end of the date as we made our way back to the library because I wasn't going to tell him which dorm I lived in like a dummy. He asked about all the murder jokes. I waved it off as having a dark sense of humor. Let's just say I didn't hear from him after our first and last kiss. Thanks and love y'all Kate. She said I don't care if you use my name and obviously, I don't remember his so that should be fun as well. Thank you for your great podcast. It's been lovely to know that other people have to deal with their crazy families during planning process. I get married on for four and can't thank you enough for being a guarantee good time as I listened to murder and US political podcast that work many times. You are the light in my day that gives me the extra push to go over cake design again. Oh, honey cake congratu. Congratulations from one murder obsessed person, I guess to a Other I don't know that's it that it's all good. I would have made those Joe. Yeah. Yeah. Well, you know, I've been like, you know what they say never let them take you to a second location. Yes, and we're now at a second location. Yeah run. No, that's amazing. Thank you. I would talk in the third person. I think don't freak them out. Yeah, you just started talking in third person. It's perfect. Yeah, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. So we have a listener post here to share. So I listened to the show during my 45-minute each way commute every day. I'm trying to catch up. Also I listen to the show when I get ready in the morning in the bathroom, and I thought I'd kept it pretty quiet to not wake up my sleeping fiancé Brian who gets up after I leave now a little context. My fiancé is a beer-drinkin gun. Shooting rally car love and triple XL pizza-eating Marine veteran who's now going to college while I work not to plant a societal stereotypes of gender Norms. However, he's just not typically the guy to be as super ecstatic about wedding planning as I am. I will say though. He's just the sweetest and always the best team player for me good for him little did. I know while I've been playing the show as I do my makeup and hair every morning. Brian has also been listening in lo and behold. The man who I had to insist on watching Hocus Pocus for his first time is now a total Fanboy of the secret life of weddings. He not only listens to the show on his drive to class without me. But he woke up this morning to come into the bathroom. And listen with me. He loves the show and thinks it's utterly hilarious. I'm so thrilled and find this incredibly awesome. That is the fucking my God I last that is the best. Thank you. Rebecca and Lisa for reminding me that my best friend is still full of surprises. Even after 5 years of being together. I've also attached a few of our recently released engagement pictures for your enjoyment. Congratulations, Lindsay and Brian you guys are adorable together and this is the best. This is hilarious. Absolutely hilarious. Yes, and I love that. We have dudes listening. Yes, please so cool. I recently We found some new artwork actually, which you may have seen on recent episodes. So we had I couldn't believe it. I was like, I it's funny you get stock artwork. Like we don't we don't have original artwork done. So to clarify when we get the yeah, we do. You know what I'm talking about. Don't be a fortune. But seriously, yeah, you can you know, they're royalty free images, right the the girls that we use like on our advertising for our episodes the little pop art illustrations anyway, Wasn't as many in my defense when we started but I think they've added more to the library since so anyway, I hadn't purchased you hadn't purchased any for the show for a super long time and I was like, oh I should go in and get some fresh artwork. So start looking and then I see like some black women and I'm like, oh my God, we have never had like a woman of color in our artwork before and I was like, I can't believe it didn't even occur to us. Right? I can't believe I know well, but then I was like, maybe it just I'm a hundred percent sure. I never saw them before the that's What I'm saying when I say, okay, when I first did the art back, like don't forget. This has been on for two years now. It wasn't in the library. Yeah, you know what? I mean? Like you kind of bulk buy them. Yeah, and then you just use them. Yeah, so I am a hundred percent sure. They didn't exist before and I but it just didn't even occur to me to look. So anyway, I bought a bunch that have some beautiful women of color to that. I used last week or the week before the Halloween episode and then there was someone dudes too and I was like, yes. It's so great. Yeah, we didn't had a do you can do a dude this week? Okay, there's yes we have to do this weekend. This is for you Brian Brian this artwork is for you. But yeah, thank you so much for writing in we love that. Everybody is listening and different demographics and things y'all are the shit. We love you. All please share it with your friend out. We're about to share it with the share it with everybody, right? Yeah importantly we have A slight updates on your ghost photo. Oh, right. I was like, what are we talking about? So last we heard last week. I talked to my lovely bride and I emailed her and I just said that hey when you have a second, I just have a quick question for you and Shima back. Yeah, I'm back from my trip Bubba anyways, so I said, you know, I'm just curious about this photo. I can't place I was your dad in the room because I don't recall seeing him but I can't place who this person could be the silhouette of a person and she wrote up a rights backhoe send it to me and I was thinking yeah, she probably didn't see it in her Gallery because Did include it but I guess she I mean I wouldn't have noticed if I wasn't looking for like go looking for it, right? Yeah, so she I sent it to her and she writes back and she was like, whoa. Yeah. Oh my God my heart like her heart skipped a beat and and I apologize apologize profusely for scaring my God. I'm not my intent was not to scare her at all. And she said she was just like I'd be scared if he was. Here now, but it's in the past. She said I'm glad I didn't know about it on the day because that would've been a problem. But she's she did say she's like, that's definitely not my dad and I was like, oh, so she's sending it to her family members as well as the owners of the venue of the I should say by nukes not really technically a venue but of the property and asking them about it, so We shall see we're double so we're triple-checking. I think now with Dad to make sure he didn't creep in anywhere that we don't know about but we are I'm trying to debunk the fuck out of this thing the flank really this gets released before we do more investigation in all this. I just you know, Rebecca wants to like like she said debunk this we want to come at this from a purely scientific perspective first, I would say before we go and and yeah, and I want to be super respectful of my horse. I don't want to comes first don't yeah. Yeah. I'm very much that person. I worry about them. He worries too much and I'm like, you didn't put the damn ghost there. That's good that goes just happened. You can't control that. I said I said, it's your ethical responsibilities to put the ghost in the gallery. But um, do you know, yeah, I am so utterly excited and fascinated by this. Yeah, we should have a lot more by next week. I'm Donna the next episode. But yeah, I have plans. I know exactly what I told Rebecca like the moment. She writes you back. I know exactly what I'm doing like, okay. So if she says okay, my dad confirmed a hundred and ten percent not him. Okay. Yeah, I am going to there's really no one else that could have been there's nobody nobody was there. He wasn't even in the building. But we're gonna triple quadruple checking that he didn't sneak in and through the back door and not tell anyone, you know? Yeah, just yeah just double-checking. So if it's not him, like if he's really not him. I want to do a couple things. I want. I want Rebecca. I want you to ask maybe if you can if if what the family thinks like if they thought it may be look like anybody on their side, you know, maybe like a relative or something because the profile of the dad really did look kind of Of similar, so we were wondering out loud. Like could it be a grandpa or something and also because I think that the grandparents had passed away. Also, I am immediately going to call the school where I found out the previous owner of this property who had built parts of the property and live there for 28 years. And because I found his obituary, right? Yeah. I want to call the school and see if they have a photo of him in the archives because Cannot find anything online and I want to go like old school. I want to be like in the library looking at microfiche and shit. Like I was a part of you that guy. Yeah, you know, but I'm so fascinated by this and as well, obviously, we will try to talk to the owners of the home that because apparently they were super friendly and shared with like I said your second shooter the other day that they thought they had a haunting. Yeah, so they probably know. No way more about what's going on with that house than any of us. Yeah, right. Like I've been going through all their photos now the windows and you must because I'm trying to see if there's any other photos with something in it. And yeah, there's just it's shocking like I can't wait until you know, we confirm things and get permission to share this because if this is legit it is so Defined there's no you can't reason it away. That's the problem. Now this photo you can't reason it away, you know most ghosts photos. You're like, oh it's an orbit could be dust it's of yeah camera. It's yeah, there's none of that. It is like a fucking silhouette of an old man. Like it's yeah, it's kind of nuts. I don't even like I'm kind of on a place where I'm like, why did it have to be me? Oh, I wish it was me because it'd be like No problem, but you know what? So if it was you that thing would have hit the news and went viral Ali I'm working on it. I'm working on it. But here's the thing. So I I'm saying I want to go there and actually try to recreate this and I want to like bring a medium and I want to like actually invest I want to like do a proper investigation into this because I am so fascinated both from from an entertainment perspective of like how fun would it be to record an episode down this and like because it's all related to the wedding you shot like it's amazing, right and then also finding out maybe the history of the place and talking to the owners and figuring out who it could be and if it's related to the The family in the bride or if it's related to the property and I'm just so fascinated. I'm leaning towards the property just because I think I think ghosts and spirits and things like that. If it's I'm kind of like on the fence as a skeptic I want to believe but I'm skeptical. Yeah, but I do think people are more likely tied to places, right? Yeah, so I'm leaning towards it's probably the dude that built the place but I want to go and do all of this and last I checked with Rebecca. She said she's not coming. Coming with me. No, I'm not and I think you should know are you like a hundred percent o because I do believe in spirits and I do believe in all of that and I do believe also that they can attach themselves to use like a nice accurate. You don't know that I'm assuming I mean, he's standing there all fucking creepy staring at her. He's just looking at her. Now know so she won't go so I'm like that's and I'm very much I'm someone I feel like I am like that vulnerable presence that a spirit can attach itself to me. Like if he's like doing spin the bottle. I'll bring that shit home the bottles coming right to you attached to her before you only knew like if you only knew the lengths I go to to make sure nothing comes into my home like it's kind of nice. Yeah, I do. So do stuff to tell me I believe in this stuff. I believe in energy and all of that. Yeah, what do you do if I feel like there's because I do believe that there are spirits all around. I've always believed that great but I if I feel like there's something around I always say you're not welcome here. Good night and God bless and I say that without even thinking about it. I just say it right away because I feel like there's something around and and it's and it could be friendly could not B I don't know what it is, but I've always done that because I was advised two years ago to do that. You also are supposed to like I think picture yourself with light around you. That's another thing that I've heard. Yeah as well and it's just like when I buy a home I always make sure I said it to someone who's sensitive to those things to see if there's anything anything off about it Weller. Oh, wow. Maybe I should do that as I got into Realty. I should be like, you know how they're like complimentary staging drone photography and medium coming in to make sure it's not hot it will cause my first house we had happened in that house and it was just something was off so I'm very like, I'm very like it. Yeah, so I know for me I don't have a good feeling going back there. So I can't go back there breaks my heart because I want you to be part of it. Yeah, and now everyone I've just told everyone that all of this another all going to think I'm not looking to Skype you though, right? Yeah. Okay. Yeah, you can still take part. Yes. I just don't I just that's why I said to you I'm usually easygoing, you know, but I was just like this is a this is a hard fucking line. With me like I'm not going back there. I know I told Justin he's like she won't go back. I'm like, no. She's like, I can't believe that I said, no, she won't she won't I tried for 20 minutes to convince her. She's just like not you did. You're like just hear me out. Just hurry up man. No think about it. No, just think about it. There's something off and I know I'm not supposed to go back there. So I'm not going back there. Well, I think I could just got a big beautiful invitation and then there could be a wedding there and I will turn it down. Okay. So what do you pay her? Immediately to go back there you'll see if she accepts it because I do believe for whatever reason at that that is a spirit that I was meant to see it. I don't know why and I don't want to know why I'm okay with not knowing I'm comfortable with that but clear it because I do believe that they they only make themselves aware to you when they want you to know something. Yeah for there's always a reason. Yeah, right, so I do believe in that but I don't want to know what that reason is. I want to know what the reason is. That's why I want it was what I want to bring a medium. So I'm like, I'm a hundred and ten percent we should do that and I want to set it up in a way that you can Skype in and report on your end the way we do each week. Yeah, and I can be on site trying to recreate this with a medium and maybe someone else like a model or something trying to like create that shadow and figure out Where that person had to because I just find the utterly fascinating the science of the light. It's yeah, it's kind of nuts. Yeah, because we're photographers and we know light and the fact that we can't well, I know I can't I can't can't sort it out exactly because it doesn't make sense to me how it reflected on their he saw someone had to be physically standing there and we were not aware of anyone. So it's we have to figure out if nobody was there. What it was? Yeah, so we'll keep you posted guys. It's going to be a thing. If if it's not that if it was Dad, well we had fun but we don't think it is the bride so far doesn't think it was she's pretty sure keep us posted Rebecca, please and yes, we'll do and we'll we'll go from there. Well, thank you so much for hanging out with us on this episode of The Secret Life of weddings podcast and remember anything can happen at weddings. Even ghosts and we will be there to tell you all about it. Well, that's it for us this week on The Secret Life of weddings podcast. If you need more drama in your life go over to patreon.com slash secret life of weddings to sign up for additional weekly episodes. The first few episodes are free. So go check it out patreon.com slash secret life of weddings, and we will see you here next week.
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