Hi, I'm Brittany loose and welcome to sampler the show where we play you hand-picked moments from podcast that you just have to hear. So today on sampler women have taught me how to look on the bright side Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft. The sister team of the podcast happier. So Gretchen is a writer and she wrote a really popular book on happiness. A penis called The Happiness Project. It was a big head and a New York Times bestseller and happier the podcast kind of grew out of that and Elizabeth is her co-host and she is television producer and writer and Allah Gretchen likes to call her my sister the sage. So on the show, they cover everything from personal mantras to listener letters to closet cleaning to Sister banter. It's all about just like providing listeners tools with just how to make Our Lives easier better less stressful and just all around happier Gretchen and Elizabeth welcome to sampler. We're so happy to be here. So happy very excited very excited. Okay. So what I love about you guys is show is that it's actually not really about being happy constantly, I think of it as like how to be kinder to yourself while getting on with just the living of your life. Yes. That's a very good way to put that's great. Thank you know because sometimes people think that like to be happy, Means that you would be on a 1 to 10 scale you'd be at a 10 24 hours a day 7 days a week and that's not realistic and it's wouldn't even be a good life. So it's really like, how are you just having as good a life as you can as happy life as you can so Gretchen's been a sort of Happiness Guru for years. Where is I'm not so I kind of in the outside perspective and you're so different. It's like weird foils for each other. Yeah, because we're different from each other. I'm actually I'm glad you guys mentioned that because I Going to give listeners a taste of what you guys show sounds like and the piece actually that I want to play kind of deals with how you know, you navigate different personality types. So Gretchen you wrote about this in one of your books, but you guys also bring it up a lot on the show and it's called before Tendencies framework and it basically outlines the four ways in which a person can respond to inner and outer expectations. So really quick, we're going to play a clip of You guys talking about the for Tendencies on your show. So the for Tendencies are upholder questioner obligor and rebel, right? Right. Okay, so a polder readily response to outer and inner expectation. So they me to work deadlines and they can practice guitar on their own without much fuss questioners question all expectations. They hate anything arbitrary or unfair or irrational so they make everything an interactive by patient because if they approve it, they'll do it if they don't they're not convinced they Do it next obligors obligors meet our expectations, but they struggle with in our expectations and then finally Rebels rebels resist all expectations outer and inner like they want to do what they want to do in their own way. If you ask or tell them to do something they're very likely to do the opposite. So those are the four Tendencies and as you can imagine it has a lot of implications for how you would most readily form habits. I'm an obligor. She's an upholder. Mmm. Whereas I am a total obligor. Yeah. What you guys talked a lot about on your show, like just really looking inward being introspective and seeing how you fit in in the world. So today inspired by the work of your podcast all of the clips that were going to play for you guys directly address the contributing factors to what makes you happy or unhappy and how we choose to navigate finding happiness and maintaining happiness. Hmm that brings us to our very first clip. It is from the tax season podcast, which is Hosted by Darrell Campbell who goes by the name tax tone? So text own grew up in a rough area of Brooklyn East New York, and he spent his 20s in our jail on his podcast. He talks about his life and interviews arranger guests from musicians to activists, but in this particular episode, he actually brings in a psychologist to give him therapy on Mike something. He was like totally afraid of really hesitant about doing and the psychologist is dr. Maya pettifer and as soon as she sits down with Stone and she refers to him in the clip by his birth name Daryl. She immediately disarms him by telling him how handsome he is. So here's tax tone talking about how his looks affected him as a child. I was the kid. I was like a little dark skin kid. I had good skin. I had curly hair and and then in my neighborhood that that was like an issue for some reason like even the drug dealers that I looked up to the tough guys that was on the corner. They will always say stuff like yeah, what's your good hair is, you know, I mean and shit like that like fuck that me when I was younger because I was like, oh they think I'm soft because I got good head, you know, I mean and growing up where I grew up in East, New York. In the 90s you had to be tough to go to school because the crackheads were tough back then understood the crackheads wasn't zombies. They wasn't they couldn't comprehend. The crackheads would choke you up and take your coat. So I used to go to school my cousin for Lana every day and I had to protect her. So I remember going to war with crackheads stray dogs, like all types of things. So it was like I had to be tough in order to survive. So it was like, I think it was because of my physical appearance that I Being beautiful. I don't know you are. Thank you. I don't know but that's what made me like going to be in tough because it was like people used to describe me and every time he described me it'll be like older dudes. They'd be like, you're pretty black that call me pretty or you know, I mean they say, oh, yeah that good-ass hand. I used to be like nah, this is why people think they can play with me, you know, I mean, so I got Rel aggressive over time. Okay, but Daryl we're not talking with Not 20 years past where in the present yes, you're not walking to school trying to fend yourself and your cousin off from crackheads. So what's the necessity and being as tough and bullying other people? No, I don't believe anybody. Yes, you do. Who do I believe those who you think are about to bully others? Yeah. You're right. You're right. I do that's not your concern. You're right, but you know what it is. I'm a I'm afraid for myself. I don't want anybody to bully me. I'm not really buying that it's true. No, that's not possible. Let me tell you why you put yourself on Twitter. You think that people are not going to talk shit and try to bully you that's what they do. So that's that's a lame. Excuse really what makes you bully other people. It's a defense. No, it's a way for you to let out all the stuff that you haven't let out in years past people are easy targets herbs, whomever it is. And so you go from 0 to 60 and you just like let out on people they become an easy target. That's not fair the game that I play is don't even get next to me. Okay, but that game that you're playing is You went from using that as a means of protection and now it's isolating you you're like in Grayskull, you know, that's what they used to call the shelter on Atlantic Avenue. Yeah and Bedford. Yeah, that's what you're doing. And so you want to enjoy the fruits of your labor and this world that you've created through being on podcast helping artists do stuff, but you're still going to be very much alone. I'm cool with that. No, I don't really think you are. You don't think I'm cool because I think it makes you sad what wow, I don't have the reasons why but I think that you probably self-medicate you smoke a lot of weed. Yes. You drink a lot of alcohol. Yeah. That tells me you're not happy. I guess. I want her to be my therapist she really pushes back. I mean therapist or not that she really put it on the line. Yeah. Wow when I hear tax Stone living in the past, I think about moments in my own life. You know what I mean? We're sort of like I'm gonna get really stressed about something or if I have an anxious response sort of like where it's coming from and then you realize it was something, you know, it happened 15 years ago that really holds no relevance anymore. Can you guys tell me about and your own respective lives when living in the past has hindered you Well, when I was in 7th grade, I had kind of one of these very typical things where people who are very my very good friends kind of all turned against me at the same time. And I think ever since then I have never had a best friend and I feel like I have to stay Diversified not really taught me. Yeah, that's why I'm your best friend. Yes you all right? Yeah. Yeah. I mean I think for me for whatever reason I did not feel attractive in high school and I felt like Nobody wanted to go out with me and like my prom dates were like from other schools kind of thing. Yeah, and even though looking back, I don't know. I look fine. I don't know why I had this such a deep feeling about being ugly. But it I think that I mean that fed my romantic trajectory until I met my husband for sure and I only had like, maybe three boyfriends my whole life because I never felt like anyone wanted. Want to go out with me? Yeah, this is so astonishing to me because here I am your sister and I always thought you were like the tall pretty popular one. I mean, I felt like you were very hot and i'mi'm a I assumed you thought so I this is like a total Revelation. You didn't know this. No. No because no you were like the life of the party you had so many friends you had parties like you're way more like what was always popular but not romantically popular. I mean it wasn't like some Some person in a corner. I think it was just feeling you know what I mean? Yeah, I think a lot of people follow you. Oh, yeah. No, it's definitely a common feeling so actually our next clip deals with another really common feeling guilt. So this clip comes from the podcast one bad mother. Hmm. Is this show about motherhood and the not so pretty not so perfect version of motherhood sort of like, Life without it's hosted by Biz Ellis and Theresa Thorn who aren't afraid to get really honest about the realities of being a mom. So I wanted to play for you guys because you're both moms and you give a lot of advice to Mom's on your show and you get a lot of questions from moms. So in this clip, the two of them are talking about the phenomenon of mom guilt. Hmm here is Biz telling Teresa what makes her feel most guilty. There's all the little ones like let her watch too much television hot dogs for a week. Once. Yeah, and I may like or I feel really guilty for taking any sort of personal time. That's a good big one for me. So like if I especially now that she is older and she is playing by herself and I like have to say to her. All right? No, I'm doing this thing go play by yourself. Hmm, even though I know that is good for her and it's good for me and all the stuff like I do feel like like the middle of the You know that whole waking up and like she was going to that horrible face and like there are a lot of nights out of want to be like go get back in bed toughing. Yeah 7Up. Yeah get back in bed, but then I'm like I should just go sit with her because again, it's that guilt is like the future and pending Delta of life one day. She's not gonna give a shit. Yeah. All I'm gonna see is her door closed 24 hours a day and my face. Yeah and all she needed was like 10 minutes of comfort get your fucking ass off the bed go in there and you comfort. Her that is like a particular type of guilt. It's almost like pre guilt like that feeling of like this is happening too fast and everything. I do everything. I do feels so permanent because this moment is so fleeting. So if I don't do it perfectly like I'm gonna hate myself right as waiter and I get you know, and I will I will have missed this opportunity like that. It's almost like it's foreshadowing ago work. Yeah. It's like it's like Imagining the worst. Okay, it's done. Are you sure and trying to prevent your own future? Well, what's interesting to me is a really not talking about guilt or talking about regret? Yes. It's really they're going to regret having lost this time their children. Yeah, which I also think about but I don't do a lot about it. No because it because in that sense, it is fleeting. And so if you're not taking advantage of these opportunities to like cuddle in the middle of the night then yeah, you're going to regret it later when you when there's no there's no opportunity to do it. What do you guys feel guilty about as moms I lose my temper very easily like that's that's definitely something that I do a lot and I feel bad about it and I'm good about apologizing but I will definitely lose my temper a lot. She does. Yeah, and you know, you just snap I snap. Yeah, she's a snap it's very unpleasant, but it's not long no last long, but it's frequent. I feel guilty that I am not at all domestic or homemakers. Really know and our mother was it was you know, stay-at-home mom who cooked and went to everything at school and did all of those traditional sort of June Cleaver type things and I'm the opposite. I don't cook at all. So I'm not a mom but I really identified actually with like the guilt part of this clip. Like there's something almost. I feel like distinctly female about guilt. Like how do you find that guilt presents with your female listeners in particular? And it's funny because it sort of does it does you're right. It is very female that kind of defines being a woman in a lot of ways for a lot of people and I think there's also goes to Gretchen's 10 personality tendency thing because I don't think Gretchen feels a lot of guilt because she's an upholder. Mmm. Whereas I am an obligor says guilt like an obligor thing. I think it is. Don't you Gretchen? Yeah, I think it is because as Anna polder Biz might have thought. Well, I really need my sleep. It's really important to me to get Is asleep and so my daughter, you know, maybe she would appreciate it if I went in there but it's really important for me that I could sleep. And then she could just she would just go back to sleep. I'm not saying she would necessarily make that call. Yeah, but that would be a very upholder way to do it but with an obligor, it's like that external expectation is so pressing. It's hard to have the inner expectation out Leo. There's a lot of obligors out there who feel a lot of guilt. I'm trying to discipline myself against guilt, but I think it's this feeling that you're talking about Brittany where women are just moving through the The world feeling like they can do nothing. Right like they're not doing enough work. They're not doing enough at home. They're not doing enough in their marriage. Yeah what Gretchen's making a face when I just I think that sometimes people over like a scribe too much to being a woman or a man and that it's more about what's coming. What's your internal situation? I'm not sure that it's so much of a woman thing versus an obligor thing. Sometimes people leaped assuming that it's the female experience when I'm not sure it's the female experience the I don't necessarily think that it's like a Like a natural female think do you know what I'm saying? Like warrant? I think of it more as like the like the extra social. Yeah, it's taught and like the social expectations that are placed upon you as a woman could lend itself toward experiencing guilt more often well into your point. We just did this thing about thank you notes and whether whether Elizabeth should have written thank you notes after after birthday party. It's an expectation that seems attached to women then it's just the thing with like I said the Halloween party where people are bringing all these crazy special treats. It's no one's looking to dad to bring those treats. Dad. Doesn't even you know, a dad doesn't sit there and go. Wow. I'm a bad dad because I didn't bring a Frankenstein shaped cookie, but then I wouldn't have felt that way either right and ago said I'm a liar you are as I always tell her she is not the norm. She's always right. Well, we're going to take a quick break you guys. All right, but when we get back we are going to get your insights on how We get back on course when we feel like we've fallen off. 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So in this clip, they are interviewing their BuzzFeed coworker culture executive editor side Jones. He's talking about how he dealt with grief and isolation shortly after the death of his mother and say even his mom had often discussed traveling together. So after she passed away he decided to take a trip to Spain. I get to Barcelona and I just wasn't ready and this is something you just live with for the rest of your life with grief. Like it will come up right people will ask what does your mom do for a living or where do your parents live and like you were just going to have to find a way to work through that conversation? I wasn't there yet. So I would just say I'm a writer and I just always wanted to see Spain which was also true on one of these days, you know friends from the hostel and I we went to one of the beaches and the beaches are just Gorgeous just absolutely beautiful. Like I couldn't even handle the view. You know, you just you gasp I drew when I was growing up a lot with color pencils. I would just like spend a lot of time drawing and color pencils and the ocean was the color blue that you would pick. You know, when you were a little kid it was that that that jewel blue, you know in the greens and just everything and you kind of go this can't be real like water actually can't look like so yeah. I it was just Was gorgeous and as with these friends and you know, we had sangria and it was so bright and at different moments, we would like kind of break off and some people would go swim out. And so, you know, I one point just kind of got up and headed out into the water and and swam and and I remember noticing that the waves were almost seductive like it was almost kind of like a deceptive calm. It looked very beautiful. and there weren't a lot of you know white Crest but it was like, whoa, this is actually kind of intense and you know, you kind of go with it and then the Beauty and the serenity of the surrounding kind of made me even more relaxed and so I'm out there and I'm just in the middle of the water and I'm probably somewhat drunk and I realize I'm really far from Shore and I'm also starting to realize I'm tired like physically tired, but also Deeply emotionally like existentially exhausted. I'm just over it and the moment I realized like Oh, my legs are kind of tired. I'm kind of tired of paddling it was it was like another wave actually over my body. I was like, actually I'm tired of everything. My name's Sayid means happy and fortunate in Arabic and my mom put a lot of thought into that name and we always were talking about happiness and how hap that's who I am and so in grief. I felt like I wasn't even who I was anymore. I couldn't feel this way and be Syed and so I'm just thinking about this as I'm just like kind of putting less and less effort into swimming. and then finally, you know, I'm just kind of debating back and forth and I'm just like why not just let go like why not just stop, you know, like you are really really tired and you are alone in your family and people commit suicide all the time because of grief and I kind of had made up my mind essentially that I just wasn't going to put in any effort in it to it and I felt like that was a compromise and by the time I'm I like totally let go and I remember like feeling my arms like kind of hit like, you know the size of my body and I just let my legs drag and I had been I mean many many yards out into the water and the moment I did that that's when I felt my toes brush against the sand. Wow, that's a story. Wow. Yeah, I don't even know how to receive is deep. I just find it. So interesting that I like at the moment that he was ready to give up. Right, you know, I mean just whatever coincidence Universe fate whatever just wouldn't allow for that right? See I thought he was going to say is and then I gave up and started going going under and then I was like, oh my God, I want to live. Yeah. I thought that's where the story was going to go. But this is a much more faithful intervention. You have a feeling that he really was willing to let go but he just happened to make it too short. Yeah, how have you guys ever dealt with grief actually during that clip. I was thinking graduate your work in pursuing happiness was sort of a you've talked about this concern about Jamie. Yes, and his your husband one time illness. Yeah. So I husband this is the story with a very happy ending but my husband had hepatitis C, which he got from a blood transfusion. When he was eight years old, I had a heart operation. So he had that when he was 8 and hepatitis C kind of lingers in your bloodstream for about 30 years, which is a good long time and it often leads to like total liver failure or liver cancer. And so it was definitely something that hung over our heads and it was a destiny that felt very close, you know, like this is this isn't happened yet, but it feels like something that could play out and then by the miracle of modern science a new drug came on Wow, ask not this January the last January and he's totally cured so it's it is amazing. But I think for I think it really did shape my thinking because it felt like this was the future. That was there's there's a moment in Joan didion's book The Mirror magical thinking about the death of her husband. Yes, where he has a heart. Back in there in the cardiologists office and he says to her well now we know how I'm going to die and she says, oh you can be hit by a truck. Like there's no reason to think you're gonna die of a heart attack and she said but he did die of a heart attack. That was how he died and I always have that feeling but I think you and I have talked about this your work and happiness was like girding yourself preparing yourself for that because it really did seem like a very, you know likely Ability as she would be a young Widow. Oh, but it's funny because I didn't understand that you understood that and then when you said it I was like I because it was like in a way to attempt to control things. Wow control my happiness by sort of like planning it out and building this whole architecture and and understanding and figuring out a to-do list and everything and you were like, you know what I think this might be coming from a very different place. It's like you think see both talk a lot and you've written about daily habits. Yes that either reinforce. Good things or bad things and in your podcast you to talk a lot about how to incorporate those good habits and small practical like really doable ways. So you to know very well that sometimes we all need a little help incorporating those better habits into our everyday lives. And in this case that can mean reaching out for advice. Mmm, which brings us to our next clip. So it is from dear sugar radio from WBUR the Boston radio station it basically turns and the dear sugar advice column into a podcast. So people write letters asking these really revealing and super vulnerable questions. And in this clip co-host Cheryl Strayed reads letter about a complicated sibling relationship and her co-host who's another advice columnist Steve Almond gives his advice. Dear sugars. My sister has been married for almost 30 years to a man who has become very wealthy as their wealth has increased. They have bought real estate that sits empty 80% of the time they now own five such properties. I live with my husband and son in a two small house, which we struggle to pay the mortgage on my husband works very hard and makes a decent salary. I stayed home to raise our son and I'm now working part-time. I cannot find a full-time job. My sister and brother-in-law have given us old sofas used cars and a bit of cash at Christmas for the last few years. They have a lot of money. My brother-in-law has a net worth of around 30 million dollars their wealth is causing me so much anxiety. They have been generous with my mother. They believe they have been generous with us, but they have the ability to he's so much stress for us. I know I sound like an entitled brat. I don't want to be this person. I've struggled with this with my very wonderful therapist for a long time. Now, she seems to be advocating for me to walk away from my family to get myself out of the way of the pain and disappointment. I feel I want them to give us money. I want them to help us buy a new house or pay off our current mortgage. It would mean nothing to them financially to help us do this. I cannot go on living like this. I hate being this person my relationship with my sister. Has always been strained. I feel like I may need to cut them out of my life so I can go on living mine help me put this in perspective. Thanks signed entitled and or Justified. Wow, look it's never the money. It's what the money represents and what this letter to me expresses is that this woman that you entitled and or Justified have the wish that your relationship with your sister were. Stronger and that she would give to you ease of mind that she would intuitively be generous towards you but you can't demand generosity. You have to be generous to me because I'm in this state of stress and it's your responsibility. You have the means to relieve that in there for you should and of course, it's terribly humiliating to experience that as a kind of demand because it feels as you're identifying child. Can entitled but I wonder Cheryl if this sister rather than showing love and support through money. We're deeply concerned and connected to our letter writer, you know and empathetic with the struggle that they have to keep themselves in the middle class and pay the bills and pay the mortgage. I wonder how much that would diffuse that expectation that she would solve the problem with money. The money feels like the problem and it really stands in the way of I believe the real human problem here, which is two sisters who can't be generous with one another. Well, I got to say it doesn't sound like that to me. It sounds like it's about the money. I was I don't really like that was like paragraph 5 my relationship with my sister. Yeah. I feel like it's about the money, which maybe that's fine. But I didn't pick up that there was a deep need for a connect more connection of the sister. I've what I noticed in that is she never said if she asked her sister honey. Yes. Because if she hasn't asked her sister might think she would be offended offended. My first my advice would be well, why don't you ask her and if she says no, I mean well then that I don't know where you stand but the sister very well might say yes and also does her sister know the reality of her situation that like, I can't get a full-time job. We're having trouble playing the morrigan's because to her sister might I think like well, they're just doing fine. You know, they don't have multiple properties but they've got their house and they've got their work and she might not realize and I think when you have a lot of money, it's easy to lose touch with the fact that other people might be struggling even if they're not visibly struggling so weird, you know, so you're right. It's like what's what is the sister know it was weird to me that like the to that like the options to me. I know he's to be like should I like do I deserve? All this money for my sister or should I cut myself off from my family completely and it's like either she pays off my mortgage or she's or she's dead to me. Right which to me was like such even a weird thing that like even This Woman's therapist didn't even pick up on like I don't know. I see my therapist every Tuesday night and there's no way in hell that this woman would help me for any reason that I really needed to cut myself off for my entire family, especially over something like money. I think you wonder what is not in there might be That there's a lot of missing information. That's what maybe Steve is. Right, and this doesn't have anything to do with money. No. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. Really. This is a very dysfunctional family and she would be better off cutting them out. Yeah, that's what the therapist knows but we're not hearing them. Yes, let right because it does seem crazy. How do you guys even record a podcast with a sibling like, you know, I mean, I love my sisters a lot, but I don't know that I could host. Something with the with them every week what it was like a dream come true when we had the opportunity to do this because for years we had been saying it would be so fun to collaborate and then and then this came about and we jumped at it. Yeah, and I think it works because Gretchen is like the boss, you know, it's her show and I'm her co-host but at the end of the day is her show so she has final say but I think it's much easier because there's an understood Dynamic, you know, I think it would be harder if we were if we were truly sharing the show and I will say doing a show with an upholder is great because she does do everything and I know she will so it's easy for me and you never let me down. Yeah and of lights are the guys do a great job for me a list of this want to do like the most important relationships in my life. So I feel like it's just been a joy and everywhere and then we have like these sisterly Adventures. Yeah, like We're here today talking to you. It's so fun. Well question Elizabeth that brings us to the end of the show. Oh so fun to talk to you. It's the first hands. Oh my God. I'm so glad that you guys came a sisterly adventure for our scrapbook. Well, thank you guys so much. Thanks Frank you to recap the clips featured on the show today. The mom guilt clip came from the podcast one bad mother the on like therapy session was from the tax season podcast. The story about grief was from buzzfeed's The Tell Show and The Sibling letter was from WBUR s dear sugar radio. This episode was produced by Rose Reed Sarah abdelrahman math to Nelson and myself with help from Cape Parkinson Morgan. It was edited by Amy Rose dresser and Alex blumberg. Our theme music was made by Micah Valium and our ad music was made by Mark Phillips additional music was by Bobby Lord. The show was mixed by Matthew bowl. And Ryan Staples sampler is a production of gimlet media. Next week on sampler. We are getting into one of those topics not discussed in polite company politics. I'll fool look is terribly important. And the real advantage that men have if they have a uniform. Yeah, they know that you wear a suit the tie when it comes to women. We either look like a Vogue model or an unmade bed.
The sister duo of Happier Podcast visit the office to talk good habits, self-knowledge and balance. Also, the sisters listen to stories of people struggling to find happiness and dole out some helpful advice. **Warning, this episode contains adult language** Episode #22 features clips from the following episodes  (please go to our website www.gimletmedia.com/sampler for links to all episodes):  Tax Season, "The Therapy Episode"  One Bad Mother, "Episode 23: Mom Guilt"  The Tell Show, "Saeed Jones - Letting Go"  Dear Sugar, "Episode 31"  The Facts:  This episode was produced by Rose Reid, Sarah Abdurrahman, Matthew Nelson and Brittany Luse, with help from Kate Parkinson-Morgan. It was edited by Annie-Rose Strasser and Alex Blumberg. Our theme music was made by Micah Vellian and our ad music was made by Mark Phillips. Additional music was by Bobby Lord. The show was mixed by Ryan Staples and Matthew Boll. Sampler is a production of Gimlet Media. Our Sponsors:  Wealthsimple (Get your first ten thousand dollars managed for free at http://wealthsimple.com/Sampler) Spotify (Try Spotify’s Discover Weekly Playlist by visiting http://spotify.com/discoverweekly) Backblaze (Go to http://backblaze.com/sampler to sign up for a two week free trial) 