Welcome to my life cuz it is supplied episode 282. This program is dedicated in memory of David Ben yechezkel, Haleiwa. We are now on the week of parsis Vieira. the fourth Parsha from the beginning of Genesis of gracious of course means we've been entered we've entered into the new year into the New World created on Rosh Hashanah Sanctified on Yom, Kippur celebrated on sulcus and now the Jakob whole Aquatica as we've been discussing in the previous week's yaakov, which means each one of us goes on our journey on our way and you and I each of us is traveling life is a journey and a And in the words of the all today, but we live with art with the times. Let me that site which helps us navigate this journey and make sure this journey is going taking us to the right places avoiding the wrong places and as well as going the right places to know how to travel how fast the travel house load to travel how to absorb and how to learn from all our experiences and fulfilling our greater calling for which our soul came down to earth. So that's a general introduction. Auction to what Tate it teaches us Taylor Malaysian Hydra Toyota is a guide and instruction manual an operator's manual life's operators manual. If you wish a blueprint as the measures says in the rebbe excites very often a blueprint for life and each Pasha has its particular message that relates to that week and it's messages to us in that leg of the journey. So when I'm passionate evaluator, and we will talk about a few lessons. From this Parsha and of course I've spoken about this in previous years, so I will cross reference but let's begin with some thoughts and some of the private right here is filled with many many messages many lessons and it's actually the first time we find that God Appears to someone we have it before as well. But a pastor that should begin that a shammgod repairs to avraham avinu who was sitting at the 10th. He was healing from the Bliss that were told about in the previous chapter. Oh and a shame comes to visit him. This is where we derive the mitzvot bigger Harlem to visit the sick. We learn from God. He came to visit of Rome as he was healing and then we learn the next midst of from the next event that happens right at the beginning of the chapter that while God is visiting of Rome of Rome raises his eyes and sees three strangers three Arabs Nomads traveling and he turns to them to greet them and invite them in he did not know they were angels. He thought they were just Nomads and he greets them. And from there. We learn the Mitzvah of ochronosis organ another great Mitzvah inviting and welcoming guests. We even learned from the fact that I've ROM and Abraham turned from God to greet these guests. That de la crosse's argument God. Let me play it got moved. They'll across the circle in the Kabbalah. Kabbalah has been asking that is greater to greet guests than the receive the Sheena God himself. Tremendous lesson. However, how did I from Avenue know we learn it from a room? How did he know God doesn't make appearances every day once in historical moment. God comes to visit you even if a human being came to visit you in the hospital God forbid or some of your healing you don't just turn away to greet another guest. And here are from Edina turns away to greet the guests from which we derive this lesson and this statement that it's so great. And the answer is quite obvious. When you think about it. I've room was completely dedicated to a life not of his own to what God wants. So he realized and understood very clearly that when three Nomads three Wanderers are traveling through a desert and you don't greet them that in a way is defying God. It's an insult to God so he wasn't turning away from the screen. He was turning away from his Brilliance of God coming to visit him and turning to them was they are created in the Divine image and he's greeting them to honor them and he's honoring God and God was not insulted. This was actually a sign that he's a truly God-fearing person. So someone who turns to God and ignores other people in the name of loving God in a way is also not loving God and the words that brought and I aim to this brings that not only do you love God, but you also love what God loves and who does he love his people so Aroma understood that and understood that was even a deeper way because he could have just had the pleasure of greeting God and that would have been for him good like they said so they can pulse that's either going to fur coat when it's warm when it's cold in the room puts on a fur coat but only he's warm deeper level what I will cost it. Is he lights a fire fireplace. So everybody gets warm including himself. This was the point. So it's a tremendous lesson in life about our relationship with God and with each other and never Should religion in any way compromise our love of other people because when you love others your loving God and maybe in a deeper way the famous story with Alta debe mitla debe and they were they were both studying. They were living in the same building the same house and a child began to cry for a lot of the crib. The middle rubber was so immersed in so engrossed in his learning. He did not hear the cry. I'll tell Debbie didn't came and took care of the child and later were reprimanded the mitla debe for not hearing kale yellowed beta Cry of a child who is learning tailored isn't that admirable he could then here it wouldn't hear anything any distractions. No, but a child is crying and you're learning Ted. That means there's something missing it's subtle because you learn exact wasn't doing other things. God forbid. Means you learn in Tennessee, you are benefiting but in the process others can be neglected the importance of understanding of that loving God and loving others is one and the same as Hillel told the potential convert when he said tell me the entire Torah standing on one foot my doll. Look Sonny. Look a vehicle is David zuikou little cooler either purusa the ultimate the entire Torah is what don't do unto others that which you dislike being done to you. This is the entire Torah and everything else is commentary, but the tour include so much more than just interaction with others. But the end of the day even kosher even Shabbos even the midst has been on the market between us and God if they in some way are not about refining you as Ultrabooks planes in chapter 32 and Tanya is something missing. That's the whole Center the whole Cornerstone and Foundation is that it refines you that makes Spirit more powerful than matter, which is the essence of love as he explains there. Now. She goofy occur naturally enough shriek of a goofy TOEFL that the spiritual More powerful than the body which is allows us to transcend our own self self and self interest and loving other people. So the whole table is for that purpose and it goes hand in hand. When you see a dissonance where people may be more religious between them and God and they ignore others or hurt others. There's something fundamentally missing even in their relationship with God is not like they have something they are missing, you know one detail. They're actually missing the entire bolt. So it's probably better than nothing but it's important especially specially to mention today when we see people sometimes get caught up in their own religiosity which even turns them against others in the condescension and judgment and prejudices and so on it's goes antithetical to the whole Essence and this is a tremendous lesson from the first verse in this week's chapter there many more lessons. So I've discussed it in previous episodes. I'll cross-reference 87 137 186 and 232 though. I don't like to repeat and like to cross-reference frankly this Multicolored message I must have mentioned before as well because it really speaks to me and I think it's so important in our generation especially to emphasize so be it doesn't hurt to emphasize it more than once okay with this. Let me make that announcement that here we have citizen applied that cam is a recently new website that we created specifically for this program and other Hasidic resources applying them to our lives exactly as the name suggests. It has supply.com. So you have they're all the archived. Episodes now 281 episodes and this one will be can be seen there as well. You can also embed it on any website wherever you may be because it's all done through YouTube. You can also access time-stamped and the YouTube version time stamps. You can go to the topic exactly that you're searching for. You also have their form the a completely Anonymous form where you can write any question. Every question is welcome. I will address week after week because the many questions Times it takes a little while till I get to it, but it will be addressed and as well as all the essays the last five years of the annual popular my life has supplied and essay contest as well as other resources on some of evolved and I in vaes and continuously growing as we try to take siddhis and apply it to our lives by addressing the deepest ideas in contemporary and relevant and personal psychological emotional terms. With that, let me go to a few questions that are actually related to this week's chapter as well. Divine revelation Tarver on how did I vram know that it was God talking to him and that hallucination? Maybe it was a loser Nation the same question can be asked about all the new VM all the prophets and even Montara. Is it possible that there was a phenomenal a phenomenal natural occurrence and that it wasn't really what they thought it was or maybe was a mahlock or some other Spirit. How can we know for sure that their interpretation of their experience was accurate? very good question The truth is I believe the Rumba member and overcome made discuss it as well as some other of the early cream like the extremely abusive Alba and perhaps even a moon is the days of the last leg and the kuzuri but it was I but full disclosure. I did not really look it up there. If anybody has information, please share it with me. I will definitely look it up, but I want to to because it was this week's chapter. Let me address it in in what is based on other ideas and things that we know about From different sources. But again if someone has a specific source with discuss directly, please share it and I will of course share it with the listening audience few things need to be made clear. Let's start to talk about Mountain Toyota and and the VM and of Rama V. No, we're not talking about little children here. We're not talking about people who are immature or impressionable and did not know what spirituality is you're talking about people with seasoned experienced skeptic see even who've seen the worst remember of removing a grew up in a home of idolatry and idolaters. His father was an atom manufacturer he and I don't mean and Idols was not just a childish thing. I'll was a sophisticated way of replacing God as maimonides rambam explains in the beginning of he'll serve a deserter. It had a whole spiritual Dimension and it had Masters and has Sorcerers and it had all kinds of powers some were maybe brat real but some more real the problem was they independently divorce themselves from God So Rome was not unknown to him spiritual experiences. So once you're dealing with a person like that who's gone through a lot that we talked about yesterday. You say was a master whose acquaintance he was a master of all the wisdoms including spiritual wisdoms. And then he said at the audacity now, I see that your God is greater than all the gods meaning everything. He's seen we're talking about people who are professionals think of a scholar whose went through as a master of the topic and he says so you can imagine it's coming. My very profound place and one that is resonating. You don't have to wait till this partial you can talk about the fact that our symptoms of attack from to do that Kayden which will speak about shortly which is to bind his son and sacrifice him. How does he know it was God maybe was a loser nation and which would make it much easier because he had experienced and he had gone for a search of rum Avenue did from his youngest age seeking God and when he came and became obvious to him what God is about it. Resonated within it wasn't just some some con artist or charlatans coming and telling him something. Now all you men beings are human beings even on avraham avinu. So there's no question that he had criteria that made it very clear that this is coming from the true God and the same thing with the Jews. I'm not into the same thing with the prophets. These were people who were experienced. Remember the Jews are Martin Taylor though. They had gone through a terrible bondage and Exile in Egypt. They were children and grandchildren of of Rome heatstroke yaakov - rotten the tribes people who spend their entire lives studying praying meditating. In connecting to the Divine. So again, we're talking about people who are very very familiar with what godliness has same question can be asked. How could they say? NASA vanish Mama as the gemara speaks about this that past that ask the question. What kind of nation is this a Russian Nation you give them a contract you don't even read it. You just say I accepted without looking at the the what it says the fine print you don't need to do that would sign a contract without reading it. What's the answer the answer is the Jews than that meet God at Sinai. They were already that hundreds of years that they were dating. If you wish they were very familiar with God has about and they witnessed it. They understood in Egypt and witnessed in The Exodus from Egypt. So now the question is, you know, how long can you date? Are you ready to consummate? Are you ready to get engaged and get married? So if they were beginning the day they could say we got to know you need to get to know you. They knew it. They knew God. So now God says time has come to consummate. Let's marry. Let's commit to each other formally officially after from of, you know had already formally already informally intimate cerveza had already committed. So when you think of that backdrop thing, it's a whole different story. Another additional points, especially by Martin Teta wasn't one person. It was millions of people. Which of course is also used by the Kusa t as evidence starkel evidence. It wasn't one person said something happened to me and everyone believed him. They all witnessed and experienced something and no one denied it. So with avraham avinu individual you could say there was no one else there. And that's why the tail is stuck in that built and of Rome's are the revelation of God the divine revelation. Tavern was built on Matt and Tara. So that is the central picture of it. Now, of course these people always anything happened. They always second-guessed and question. Where's it coming from is this truly a Divine voice and they definitely had means and techniques and methods to test make sure it's objectively true. Not just something that they want to happen as again, we're talking about a caliber of people who had honesty transparency Integrity. We're not looking to come and sell something to anyone and this of course is time tested. From didn't sell it. So that means he was not a gay bird over here. You know, someone comes to sell you that God appeared to me in a wants you to give me a million dollars to build my synagogue you can be wary of that. So that's the overall answer to that question. But how do you explain that cater? And this week's partial? We also have the story of that cave. Closer to the end. I've never heard a rational explanation about that Cade. How was it that of ROM listen to a voice telling him to kill his son, isn't it? Yeah added value of it. Yahwah means in a lot of kill someone if the diet but died before you kill somebody else three sins that you cannot. You cannot do that. You cannot you have to die before you do that idolatry murder and And The Vedas are adult. Sorry Dollar Tree murder. Can't believe I remember the third one. Okay, because diamond come to me in the moment. Is it possible that of ROM failed the test but because the Taylor doesn't discuss negative things about so they came it says that he passed it starting with the second question. I'll give her eyes gilja rice which means incest or some inappropriate sexual relations. Those are the three just had a moment to blank. Okay, relevant us of course is however is murder. So is it part of course, he didn't know the tail is telling us that untruth if the traitor State Assembly. That's not even a possibility. So I don't even want to even entertain that question. If that if he'd failed the test, I'll just use corn even if you go with this logic then what is it enough to tell us the whole story altogether. So if you believe that they do you believe that they do you can't believe half of it. So there's no question. It actually happened. Let me compound the question and respond. There's many different explanations on that kada, but there's one that always speaks. Everyone has their Quest answer that speaks to you. This one I think is a very one that I've used many times in explaining that idea, but it's not by no means the only explanation. The same Pasha this week's by should we read how a shame God tells through the mouth tells them of Rome that's doing the wicked city of Durham is going to be destroyed. Now, what's up drums reaction, you would think finally we've all had the age-old question why the wicked prosper and the good suffer and the righteous suffer? Finally the getting what the what's due to them the wicked city is dumb. So I've Robinson is celebrated. Or at least quietly said finally what does he do? He goes to pray for them on their behalf a whole chapter just to say how he's praying. He is challenging God a shameful collectively Ash. But yeah some issues but the judge of the entire universe is not going to do judgment people say maybe there's some righteous people and it goes back and forth. As a matter of fact God even has a consideration not to tell of ROM his plans because you know, I've wrong with challenging but then he does say I'm Cassidy my room. I'm not going to conceal my So in the same chapter you see how much of our raw material is my son every goes into and challenges God Wicked people that they shouldn't be killed. And then the same breath almost in the same breath. We read his own son. Listen boy 37 year old boy, you could say an innocent person who is not in any way deserving. He doesn't challenge God. Does that make any sense? So if I drama Vino was the so to speak a tough guy and aggressive person and he's always looking to Gloria Gloria dick dousche even meaning discipline from holy place that you could say. He's not a compassion. I'm so fine. So he God says do this. Things he just does but it's a challenge is God. We see as cresset. We see his compassion. Where's his compassion for his only son has been to Africa. I said I have to your son your only son the one you love. Where's the compassion? Why doesn't he challenged gonna say? Why? What do you want from this so clearly I've Rama V know as I mentioned before new much more about God than we can imagine. There wasn't something God appeared to them and kill your son sacrifice your son bind your son, which is Keith says binders and arcade. Had just come out of nowhere. Yeah be a big question of removing a sudden. He's doing such a thing goes against human nature gives against God's law even to kill somebody your own child, but he had a very deep experience with God. He was already tested nine times. This was the 10th test so you can test out real tests, so he had a relationship with God. So he knew of God is asking for that. It's coming from a benevolent place. He may not have understood why or maybe he may have we don't know but he knew is not killing he knew it was not a sacrifice. Vice in vain there was a deeper reason for it and he just followed that he did it quickly. He didn't procrastinate as the ultra devil says Nagisa kadish. So what how do you explain that? And as I said, it's very violent very glaring that something's going on here. So here's one answer one answer is this We see the end of the story that it was never meant to be. So anyone comes and brings the story as an example of human sacrifice God for but know that here and not any case of human sacrifice God forbid trigger is completely completely abhor such a concept. So why was it even a consideration? The end Shane comes and says no do not do this. Mala comes on do this and roam Avenue replaces you talk with a set that with with a the with The deer of the animal that he brings us an offering instead of Yitzhak. So one of the explanations is unbelievable explanation. We parents whoever was apparent place to be a parent. We try our best to bring up our children. We're not perfect. We sometimes can hurt our children. We sometimes do things misinformed or sometimes due to our own mistakes our own errors. Sometimes a deliberate less deliberate. Sometimes we're out of control. How do you assure that a parent love a child in the best possible way when you realize that the child is not yours. It's God's child. You don't love your child only because if The connection because that could be a selfish connection that could actually end up being hurting your child. You think I own my child my child an extension of me. My child embarrasses me many parents said, what are you doing to my reputation? We want things for our children because it makes us look good or because we think that's the right standard and the process trample on a child's needs. How do you prevent that by recognizing that's not your child. You were given a child to guard and protect and to ring up like a gardener to take care of the child and nurture the child, but the child belongs to God. And if you don't know that human error and human mortality human flaws can end up hurting children. What a shame wanted to achieve here was to show of Rama V know it's like you love your son. It's all pink on your kids. Are your only son you love him. Yes. Let's make this love deeper than human love. Let's make it a Divine love and how can you do that? The only way is to go out of your comfort zone because no father would ever even consider such a behavior of even considering hurting his child. No, you are from a Vineyard that compassionate of Rama V. The one that loves your child and you're a loving person. I am God and I'm telling you to do this and what happened as a result that now I've run with you know came to appreciate that his love for his child is not just his is because God gave him this child and he proved it by saying I'm ready to forego my biological natural inclination and love of my child for what God wants to God who gave me this child. It has to be for the good and it was for the good. Ended up being for the good that what now, this love was infused the biological of remain but it was now fused with eternity of a Divine element because he was ready to listen to God and go against his own paternal Instinct had the story never happened. I've run would have continued loving it slow, but we would never know the extent of it and how much he was ready to love and how deep it went. Then now has become Divine and now the story is forever immortalized not just When we redid this week's chapter every day. We say it in the evening. We cited Rosh Hashanah. It's the reading of the Torah again and again because we invoke that event because we want to infuse the love of our children with a love of God and the only way to do it was by saying, let's see if he's ready to deprive himself of his biological of go out of your comfort zone. You don't love your childhood because you love him and therefore I love him. So whatever I say is going to go know you love them because God loves him and God gave him to you you The biological caretaker that's one explanation on this topic. So I'm sure more and let's move on with that. And okay. This is somewhat of a follow-up last week was less Luca and I spoke about that message. So we have a question or asking how can one find what their personal luck local challenge is as explained X is that everybody needs to go out of their comfort zone. So I felt since we're coming from Locke Locke. I don't want to wait till next year to talk about it. Let's just say a few words about that. Well, it follows straight from that K decayed of course is an extreme version Comfort zones sound beautiful, but they are the force may be the most single powerful force that stops us from growing. I'm comfortable. I'm fine. Comfort zone. Three chapter 15 and Tanya powerful chapter about a vodyanoy avoided what means to serve what means not this even if you do something beautiful, but you're doing it out of routine and pattern and have it it's a comfort zone the times of the talmud ultra besides from the gemara manaka-san chapter 15 and Tanya there was the custom to study something hundred times to review a hundred times who does that but that was the custom so it's called Leah vo D. You didn't serve It's a routine. That's what everybody does the hundred. And first time that one extra time outweighs all the hundreds, but you can't get to the one without the hundred but why because you've made a qualitative shift, you've gone beyond your regular routine. So let's look was essentially that personalizing that can be applied to every area of life. Whether it's study of Torah to go beyond a little extra minute or qualitatively deeper another class. S prayer of course the same thing a little more quality a little more focus of a leadership role of a little more before Monica and of course the third pillar will discuss Adams duck charity to go and give a little more than you've given not just the regular ad that's why we always increase its going out of the comfort zone which in turn opens up new channels because if you do what you did you'll get what you got. You want more do more and that's true in every area in life. So that's one way of explaining a lot clock ought to go out of your own comfort zone. Another way. I've discussed in previous years is to go out of your subjectivity. That's a come a lot from the base of Viva three forms of subjectivity. Trap has one is our natural self-interest are natural subjectivity. Number two is our parental influence is based on vehicle. And number three is article which is social pressure the people around us peer pressure and so on all these things can distort us really discovering Ela editor Shadow Rica discover who you really are. I reckon that goes on the land that goes on you because as long as you're under the influence of your own subjectivity or parents or pairs and social maybe you're doing it because of them. You don't know who you are. So local has a self-discovery journey in that sense. Was a few points and with that let's move to the next question since we talked about parents and children and it's a vital point about parents and children. Here's a question on the topic of children and parents what can a child do if he's having issues with his parents and they don't respond. What would you suggest to a young Bakker young man? Which felt from a very young age as parents aren't helping him out not showing love ignoring his issues not doing acts of service for him favoring favoring other siblings over him punishing him for no reason father not being a Duke Micaiah a living example kids is kids is dying to leave home the kid is dying to leave home as he doesn't feel comfortable living at home the kid tried bringing it up to his parents, but father just makes fun of the boy for asking such a question. So the book will give up trying even trying to mend the relationship. Never comes the topics like this. You'll hear the same thing from me before I get to the actual topic. This is a narrative coming from whoever wrote this whether it's the Sun or it's a friend or someone else and every narrative always has more to it. I'm not questioning the truth of this narrative, but what would the parents say? They were sitting here and heard this and they and it was speaking to an objective person like myself. What would they say do they have a different perspective do they have see the child differently is the child accurately really conveying again? I'm not invalidating God forbid and not in any way dismissing was silencing them sentiments involved but to grow to actually give good advice. You need to know the facts as much as possible part of the fact is this boy this bunker feels this way. That's a given. I'm a think. He's writing to me if it doesn't if someone doesn't feel this way, but the question is what else is On I was very possible. It's exactly this the parents are really not they're neglecting for some reason prejudicing him and prejudice against him and argon are hurting. So all this needs to be determined and very difficult to do in a program like this where it's one way. I don't know who wrote this and I don't want to know and I don't know all the details in context with that must be addressed at the same time. Let me say a few points considering that I would not leave any stone unturned as a child as a Bakker go to siblings go to friends find the way get somebody to communicate in your behalf to your parents. And they make fun of you but someone serious in a discreet way in a respectful way. We're not talking about something that will embarrass because parents may be embarrassed by that, but I would not leave any stone unturned And I wonder what that was tried and if it wasn't why not? So try that now you could say the parents ignore that day. They won't come speak in them say it's none of your business. Okay. Well you have to do everything in your power to do what you have to do to see if you can reach the second thing is is to get people involved get person involved knows the family who knows the parents and they may have advice they may actually say these are parents. You can't get through. They have a lot of issues again. I don't want to make that conclusion and come be presumptuous, but that may be possible. It may be possible on the other hand that there may be a way in there. Maybe I love I must be somebody they know now, is it the responsibility of the bucket to do all this the truth is the parents should but if it's really a problem you can just divorce your parents. Now look if end of the day everything you do doesn't work. I'll get to that last you still have your life to live and I know people grew up in very abusive homes and they built lives. I just don't want to go there because that's the last resort. So I would do everything possible to reach to them. If you can't do it through others sometimes older siblings can do it. And again, it's not to shame anyone. It's to get them to the table. Let's address issues now very often. There's new do New Revelations come out when you start digging. I've have situations where events have happened that are not talked about when that child was young. He may have seen something a mother and father may not have liked what he saw. There may be other things that have happened that the parents and the family Secret is a lot of options and from experience. I can tell you that we I have no clue but with a smoke this fire, which means you need to look at everything and see what's going on because it could also be infecting other members of the family. So and finally if all else fails you still have your life to live find healthy influences talk too much. Beer talk to someone that can understand understands you and get guidance to to find your journey in life. Life, you're a bottle figure out how to go through school finish the right Point get married build your life and family and that's ultimately you can control your destiny as much as your challenges may have been even if your parents are not there for you. But again, that's not been established and that needs to be established. Okay? Now reiterate again parents can hurt children. I'm not going to go cues parents every time something's happening. But as I said before with our from of you know, it's vital. It's not about you as a parent. It's about God and that's also what the Rebus said to an individual how not to hurt this children not to hit the street. He was physically abusive to his children. These are not your children. These are God's children and parents must know that sanctity same time children have to respect their parents and we've spoken about that as well. And I want to refer to several episodes episode 13 and 14 64 120 and 199. next this is one about social anxiety. Let's see here. It's not a short question. How can I deal with social anxiety? Is that social anxiety to its two questions I have in this topic and it's a topic we've addressed in the past. So let's go dear Rabbi Jacobsen your the top on my podcast list and I greatly benefit from the way you explain a put life into perspective along as long with your vast Insight. Thank you so much. My question revolves around the topic of social anxiety. I'm a 20 year old from girl. Who has been through the system the last few years. I've been struggling with intense social anxiety and has gotten worse in the last year or so. I want so much to be that girl who has a steady job hangs out with friends after work and is looking for a shit a match on the outside. I am that girl but most people can't see the huge internal struggle. I'm dealing with I'm almost every in almost every social situation. I'm constantly on guard and sweating heart beating worried. I'm going to be asked about myself. And I'm afraid to open up an even more afraid. I have nothing important going on in my life to share. I constantly feel like I've been doing more interesting things in order for me to have stuff to say so no matter what I add into my day to be more interesting. I still can't think of how and what to say in order to just connect in a satisfying way with somebody everything. I do I say, it's not me. I don't enjoy it. The thing is with all this on the outside. I hold myself with poison. Nobody would notice I have social skills and etiquette and I'm extremely in tune with myself and people as well. I know just what to say. I know what just what to say to everyone I can carry on small talk, but once it gets past the point of small talk and actually getting to know me I can't seem to go there or just casual Shabbos Mill conversations. I feel like I have nothing to share and I go blank. I don't like holding a job because I feel this Way around co-workers and I feel like I'm bringing social awkwardness and uncomfortable feelings to them as well. Even if there is well to them as well. Even if they think I'm nice and normal. I almost feel bad that on the outside. I looked normal and they thought that they were getting a cute co-worker but really I can't seem to break in and be one of them who talks about anything under the sun and whatever is on their mind and makes friends with each other when I go to work every one is known for something and I know about their life, but it always bothers me that I'm not like that. That I'm very comfortable with my parents and some family members with and with them. I'm funny at feel and feel at ease. I crave social connections and relationships, but it's so hard for me to have one because it's hard for me to just relax and be I feel like it's so hard to get to know me if I hang out with friends and they say that's knew how you've been feel. Like what's new how you been? I feel like I've nothing to say or quickly try and think of the best answer while being in panic mode when they go on should have dates. It's so hard for me. Connect when I'm sweating not in the present moment and uncomfortable. And in this mode of of putting on the show, I feel so unsatisfied when I'm talking to most people so many things go through my mind during the conversations. I can't keep track or we are talking about I want so much to get married. I have a family. I know I have so much to give to someone and I'm very emotionally wise but I don't know how to bring this out when I'm just so uncomfortable in my own skin. Please share your Insight and advice on this it would mean so much to me. Really appreciate and thank you for inspiring myself. And so many PS. I did get help the last year for this and it boiled down to keeping busy accepting. This is who I am without judgment. I'm still struggling with I'm still struggling though. I want to be able to sit at the shop as table and feel uh, and not feel uncomfortable or worried. If friend will ask me what's new and I'll Panic thank you. I read the entire thing because I received many letters in a deal with many people and I felt that there are others that may be may be valuable for them, too. Hear what this person is feeling and going through and of course my response that I'll share now a second question on this topic is social awkwardness. What does talks to the say about social awkwardness? Thank you so much for your insightful weekly videos. Okay, as always its case by case and it was much be easy but easier and more probably productive to speak to you face-to-face run the phone, but let me say this because I know many people struggle with these issues and not All are ready to speak to someone not only ready to publicize it and actually publicize I don't mean going in the streets. But I mean to feel that they have confidence confidence and Trust as I mentioned before where there's smoke there's fire. I would like to go through the list of some of the called Usual Suspects quote-unquote of what could cause a person to be this way. Of course, there's always the issue. There's always the possibility of something medical some chemical imbalance something that may need a National help and maybe even medication even though I'm not a medication guide, but the fact is that if we have that can help relieve people's anxiety that may be possible but it's also very likely and very and something that needs to be explored. Maybe I shouldn't say very likely explore other possibilities. Usually this type of discomfort is a result very often of having an experience or more than experience that caused this awkwardness because our natural healthy child even though We're all know. None of us are perfect grows up as friends as pretty comfortable. Why would someone be uncomfortable with others is something happens if some way your violated and this can be physically emotionally sexually in other ways and you lose trust in someone it could be mild that could be intense and that causes a certain fear and insecurity in Social settings. It's interesting you say with your parents your well doing well. Okay, I would explore that as well what that means how far? Can you speak to them about this? Is there anyone you can speak to about this that is of course a first step because maybe some memories will come up. Maybe it'll strengthen your because you've expressed it. Remember there's also the fear of the fear itself the fear of looking bad. Why would you look bad because that's how you think of yourself a low self-esteem. So these are some of the usual suspects there may be more we can be bullying a result of bullying it be result of other things some unresolved issues that with parents or with friends or with strangers that you yourself may not yet fully be fully aware of but there are symptoms here that indicate we should be looking at that. So that's why it's hard to serve eyes what to do because depending on what are the causes that would be addressed in the proper way, but I will say this the way to deal with the way to build trust in yourself the way to overcome the panic and fears is to do it slowly to find friends even one two, three that you can trust and To start slowly once you develop trust and confidence and you see people who won't judge you that builds more confidence that allows you then to engage with other people to just go to a party is going to be difficult in this type of circumstances. So I think that one of above all is to create small relationship when I say small individual relationships see what happens. Are you do you have any friend that's close to you? And if not, why can't you find one and they're good friends that will that you can Can confide in obviously you have to have to earn your trust same thing with siblings or family members. So these are all suggestions that I think piecemeal. If you do it step by step. It makes it easier now obviously your age where you should be dating already at 20 years old. So you go dating or say it's a catch-22. I don't I'm going to panic I would say that I would encourage dating because I think to learn how to swim you have to jump into the water. You can't just constantly see yourself as a pariah that I'm not capable of it, but We have a coach maybe have a friend someone that can help you along the way and hold your hand that you can discuss this with. This is some basic principles and my heart goes out to you. But know this you can overcome this every human being deserves in her confidence self-esteem security and have the courage to engage. And therefore I give you my vote of confidence. There's no question. If you apply yourself and have the right people you can overcome this and I've seen it been overcome and grow into a far more socially comfortable person with people you meet and so on but you have to do the work and that's some of the thoughts I had so as far as what Toyota City say, I just said buttocks. It is say there's more on the topic and I discussed an episode 265 specifically and is actually one of the essays submitted. This year's contest SI episode reviewed and episode 273 also addresses this topic, okay. But if anybody wants to weigh in on this you have other thoughts you've gone through this and what you have done, please it's enough. Nothing is more powerful than hearing from someone that's gone through such an experience and learn to grow from it. What did you do? How did you handle it that Grace gives tremendous strength and credibility to those that went through something. They're going through social anxiety. Excuse me. the next question stuck and upset What can I do about feeling stuck in my life? So this two-part question. Yeah. I'm angry. I feel stuck in a Cupboard life. I have five children. I'm a I'm a sloka and I find it all overwhelming. My house is chaotic and I have no desire to pull up my socks to create structure and Harmony every week. I clutch. It's a monthly mood cycle happening. Weekly. I feel fake and stuck. I have to maintain my externalities on my life. But I'm so stuck in forcing it all the time. I crash way too often and just force myself to keep going don't know what my question is. Just feeling stuck. Part 2 same person wrote a little later. Read my letter that I'd regarding the letter. I just sent in I want to add I listened to your recent talk unhappiness that you have to the base Rifka girls and was particularly taken by your quote from the rebbe and not delving into Taurus problems, but just empowering that you can get past the challenges. Thank you. So there you go. You've answered your own question. So first of all this talk that I gave is online. You can access it. I believe on the city supply.com Website and also on our YouTube channel because it has supplied YouTube channel My Life YouTube channel, and if you don't find it, it should be posted shortly this topic so you can answer your own questions exactly right again, I don't know the details and I'm sure there's more to the story than what meets the eye, but I will say this. We all have two voices one voice that's negative that sees the challenges that sees the difficulties that sees the paint but there's another voice the beautiful voice. The voice that's created in the Divine image the voice of Hope. The voice of optimism the voice of transcendence going Beyond yourself says difficult. As this may be the key thing is not to dwell and immerse yourself in your own wallow in your own and your own fears in your own pain. I don't know why you're stuck. I don't know why you feel that way and I'm going to address that in a moment, but I will say the first thing is you got to get yourself involved in something positive. Not just busy good things your sloka. Is there nothing good that you can report people you work with and one and that's what you need to reinforce and strengthen and that will counter the negative because the only way to fight darkness is with light. Now as far as the reasons that's the thing that really is complicated here because how am I supposed to answer that? I don't know what the reasons are is I would ask questions is your marriage healthy and intact. How's your relationship with your children? How's your relationship with yourself with your parents? What's going on? As I said we need to look at The Usual Suspects what's causing you to feel stuck? Have you always felt this way? What changed so without answers to that you can imagine you can't you can't give a diagnosis and definitely not a treatment plan and advice if that note that knowing that but let's assume the stuck is some type of stage in your life. You know, you're going through routines. Maybe things are boring the question then is what support do you have is your husband there for you? Our friends siblings family others community members. Therefore you can you call upon them. Can you do skin involved in a project that you really enjoy a hobby maybe go swimming maybe spa maybe exercise something that you feel proud of yourself at the end of the day. That's how we get unstuck. So I don't know the level of this Tucker's now if it's one that's maybe clinical form of depression. You may need a medical professional. So all this needs to be And determined in order to answer the question more fully but I think I've given enough instruction of how to proceed and as always if you want to follow up please do so and I say this to all the questioners and anyone listening to the program next question unrelated. I will say there are programmed before that I've spoken about this, but I see I didn't cross reference. Not sure why. talking in shul The rabbi Jacobsen. What can we do about talking and shoulder about Jacobson? Thank you for your weekly broadcast. I often listen and really enjoy it. I'm wondering what can be done regarding talking and show. I know that it says in Exodus and halacha about not doing it absolutely famous letter for the outfit about the evolve evolve. But what does it say about how to change it? It is impossible to take away a person's free choice. But what options does it leave for those that want the David properly. It seems that everyone knows it's wrong but very few are willing to do anything. Worst of all is that many of our bonnyman off are often the ones encouraging it some even act as if it is a Mitzvah. It is just shocking and if anyone dares protest the talking their scorn at by The Spits Chabad Spits means that the point of kibosh pits companies like see themselves at the Pinnacle of hebat ultimate combat what to do regards? Okay. Well, there's no question is how locking hypocrite a hypocrite hypocrite everything that happening you spending with females Malcolm with my college buddy. Who and should be between you and God and nothing else. Unfortunately, there are some shows and their people relaxed about this. So how do you address that? And what should one do so let's first establish the standard the standard is it should be unacceptable zero towns, but in a realistic level, what should you start yelling at people who are speaking? Will that work? I'm member a letter someone wrote to the ribbon. He's gay actually shared it with me. He gave me the letter and the debit. He was just beginning to become going to show so he had problem because he was very impatient person and he was very not tolerant of people speaking and shown there was someone right near sitting right in front of them that would speak and show she has the devil what to do. Should he go to another shooter? Yell at this guy? What should he do the rebbe answered in this? Trevor said next time you see someone speaking Shoal think to yourself. Look how beautiful a Jew even a Jew who speaks of sure wants to come to show. Just showing a share that this of course. No way. Is this a license? And justifying speaking. But in this case he needed to hear that because he needs to do what he has to do and it was not the job for him to yell at the people because it was more about him working on himself and not being impatient but speak nishal is absolutely a logically and altered ever writes about it. And unfortunately, it's one of the things people are lakhs. So like all problems that become I don't call an epidemic but are everywhere not everywhere but many places there will be one said one of the things you can learn from the conservator. Form is that people don't speak assure that people have an etiquette in the show. So that episode I spoke about a number of months ago probably so we can say is the following we have to bring this to the attention of our children and ourselves you start with yourself. You have to make sure you go to school. You don't speak even if someone speaks with you so you have to be a living example, that's a place that all of us can begin. We don't surrender and say oh everybody's doing it. I'll also do it So anyone who's really cares about this as to begin with themselves when their family with their children we go to show we're going to speak Tasha after diving is another story people talk say hello and so on regarding other people like anything if you see something that's not right. Do we go yell at them do we go become disciplinary ins to is that our job to judge them, but if you can do it in a with a person in a gentle way and you feel that it will be a positive influence by all means go for it. But that's again Case by case. So like all the issues of this nature you have to do it piecemeal step by step start with yourself see who you could influence in a positive way. And if you have the influence over a shoulder to your part of a part of a full board or faculty and so on. Yes, you can say let's talk about this. Let's bring it up. Let's bring it to the attention of our members. And our community and why not talking anything you want you want to make things better. These are my responses. I don't have anything dramatic to say some magic pill. There are bayum even altered ebony wrote those sharp words about speaking what he hears people speaking and the negative and the real really sharp words. If they're about that. I didn't have an impact with those words. Then I'm definitely not going to come up with better words. So it all comes down to finding ways to influence people for the better and the same is true frankly for other things you So and speaks Russian horror, I'm not talked about in the show leave General. How do you deal with that? A lot of people do that? So we have to feel we're not part of the problem, but part of the solution that's essentially what I'm saying. Okay next question. Okay. We're going to do some follow-up. Now. The follow-up is episodes 280 and 281 and will do that. Yes. In episode two eighty. I spoke about how to keep the holidays from being boring. It was a post-holiday Works program. So just feedback on the last episode 280. Someone had asked about ways to keep the holidays from being boring. We have a small group on Facebook. Ladies who learn. For Jewish studies and many of us use your 60 days guide everyday tremendous feedback from women who said that this deeper understanding that your guide gives added tremendously to their overall experience and made it all that much more meaningful. Also women who have used your book for years person also expressed that way personally. I feel I also feel it's added so much for me as a companion to this out this extraordinary time and opportunities and opportunity for personal cleansing and growth Judaism offers such a great gift. It should not be boring it approach with Wonder and opportunities to tap into its potential. Thank you for the guys and all that you do. Thank you for your kind words those of you not familiar with that guides called 60 days a spiritual Guide to the high holidays used by many. It's become I would say there's almost a cult following behind the people have groups all over the world that follow the journey and I am surprised and humbled by that. Essentially the theme is that the way one does not get bored. As I discussed back then is to recognize the extraordinary within the ordinary to see that every detail of Our Lives is brimming and filled with pulsating energy. Waiting to be released in the words of the capitalists and the Hasidic Masters Sparks Divine Sparks. Waiting to be freed where they're trapped in the food. We eat in the work we do in the places. We travel to our homes everything. And when you see it that way that everything becomes an opportunity and exciting opportunity I should add for turning this world into a Divine home. So thank you for that. Another follow-up was Killers clubs. Okay, so I got quite a few feedback on that one. How much of it was positive. There was also a little critique which I shall read briefly now. First of all, someone writes I commend you for taking on this topic and definitely you will not necessarily become politically correct and not being politically correct and knowing that many people will not necessarily give you brownie points for your attitude, but I commend you for your strong stand on the topic another person wrote. I listen closely because this is a topic that's close to my heart. But I want to ask you. Even though many of the kids clubs are not will not call them. Holy but it's innocent people getting together to be nice and kind and beautiful with each other on a Shabbos. Yes. Maybe you shouldn't be done middle of Dominic but why is it such a terrible thing? That's it. And finally another one writes. I was surprised by your strong stand. You usually are far more balanced and here you were pretty adamant. So let me answer that all in one shot. Obviously this complements what I said, Back then last week's episode on 281. Yes. It is true. We always have to take a balanced approach but there are things that have to be stated for the record and then you can talk about balance. The rabbit did make Xavier that I got you. He made exert a said do not drink more than four small cups. They can't change that. I'm not looking to change and we embrace it like anything the rebels said. So what am I supposed to do take a week stand on that? The whole point of it is applied is to convey the rebels and there are Bam's attitude to things not our own I'm not defending myself. I'm just saying that we need to state that what is the standard now? There's a second point which I can address in a follow-up. What do we do? Practically? I also said that is it the worst possible sin, but I didn't want to say it in a way that minimizes what their debit said about it. Is it the worst thing other I know many more worse things going on in our community in our shows even and so on but it is necessary to stand. What is the standard because we don't measure which is a bigger thing in a smaller thing then comes the Practical side. It's if you're part of those ones that can display this is your week your place of release but once a week of relief you go there meeting that you need to know that it may be an accuracy may sound Innocent but people have been hurt by alcohol. You may not be that one and to be not maybe your group not but they're people been hurt people have died because of it. I'll call is not a thing to tamper with and there's others watching you and you never know what they're going to take off from it. So that's why I go back to the devil ever made a standard. I'm not going I'm not on a Witch Hunt where I'm going to go. Every soul and say close on your kids club. This is my platform. Actually. It's easy. I just sit here in front of a camera and I you pontificate but with all you beside the point I'm making here is we want we the whole purpose of this program is to what are our standards? What's a healthy standard? And then of course, there are things that we are lenient in or we overlooked and song we talked about things like television or Sports and so on there's a standard and then you have to be prudent and practical who you're dealing with if I was in the shoulders the kitchen. Am I going to go down and storm the heavens? No, I would see maybe I would find an opportunity to say something because you want to be productive. You don't want to just sound like a critique critic, you know, I've seen shows where the rabbi tries to do something. It doesn't always work. So I think the first knowing the standard is not a contradiction to the attitudes how we apply ourselves to deal with these issues. So that's the combination of taking a stand strong stand and then let's be practical. This is the the standard now that figure out how to do this and I understand this. Social side to it, but maybe there are other ways to do it in a way that are more acceptable and also more aligned with Out the Devil would want us to do it, you know their condition that happened after the Avenue that first of all is far more of the right time and even there it shouldn't be our who Lanka. We just go start indulging and drinking and drinking and drinking. Okay, another follow-up on Pace last week. I spoke about long pay a short pass and I mentioned that letter of the debit. Hey, the cuff with rabbit says clearly that he I've not seen a Chabad long Pace as well a drama and the on the contrary. Okay, I'll just add to that. I heard a story. Once that zoellick slonim. This is a sheet from Israel who is a grandchild of the ultimate 11 middle. Sent his daughter at that with the room area slonim to heaven and then there's a lime family. So there was this one time that came from those families jobs. Alex London was one of the cinema came to visit lavash once or was it rostov? Not sure that a brush up and he had long pass or not very long, but payers that went some extent and this is a story I heard I've never seen a source that they should have been suspended solids luck said and this as a game about on the getting Stars about once we don't go that way. And they say cut his Pace after that. I have to verify this but I heard this so the rebels has other lab. So I hear I received a few letters saying seemingly that that's what the free decrepit didn't have long Pace. I've heard that the free declare his Pace were seen to have fallen from under his yarmulke. It is possible to imagine that the alternative also kept the space on top of his head. I blable Groner on a video Tells the following that he remembers and optional of Yom, Kippur the first year the physical ever came to America in keeping the First Time Keeper in America that when the he was asked if he could have asked them to turn him around when they sang The Pony has March Innkeeper the end of Yom Kippur and he says we saw the Freda calibers long pay on one side. fall down from from his yarmulke He also says his father who was a Tamara to do the tire of the fleet and grab his head said that he specifically so long payers under the yarmulke. So that's a big groan was testimony. Frankly. I accept what he's saying, but it does not it's contradicts what the letter says and that letter and what we know about this topic based on that is all that I discussed last week who cut his pay us question is where we cut it exactly but definitely did not let it mingle with Beard, so I understand the answer is that it was under the yarmulke so then mingled with the beard but it doesn't say that that's what the night is all did and as I said the rabbit says other lab, so how do you reconcile that? I don't really have an answer. This is true accurate accurate sure. We can find ways to explain it as far as the altar de Burgos. Yeah, you can speculate anything, you know, we don't have any source to say I'd pay us under his yarmulke. What we have is we see the the to Bushy so-called pay is right here above. Above the ear, but we don't see anything hanging down. So That's about that follow up. One more thing about expanding 770. We spoke about last week. Thank you for answering the questions regarding expanding 770. I found it very helpful very useful. And as always very candid. I did want to get clarification on one part when the rebel spoke about not changing with the Chavez stood and eight is that downstairs in the large stroller upstairs? Does that mean that however that however it is now can only be added on and not changed the rebels said clearly. He means the large hole downstairs. But he doesn't and obviously also upstairs. That is why it became very clear that not to change the 770 with the debit Avant. Only to add to it and it was not the rebuild what we see right now, but only to add North and South but the 770 especially the original part that's goes for goes more toward the toward my roof the West Side meaning away from Kingston and goes to upstairs 770. That's what the devil was and the debit a free drink whatever and that should not be touched. So I was only about expanding it to Union Street and as much as you can't Eastern Parkway That's the clarification now, here's a serious question and then we'll do the essays. See this question. I submit a question about how to deal with. Well, let me just sum it up. This is question is what is the difference between a Divine Soul rooted in the Divine name and all of the things that are rooted in the Divine name? So we'll clarify when we read I submitted a question asking how to deal with separation always from the same Source meaning everything comes from God. So separation asking especially why the free they could ever mentions that there are some of a youth comes to my shems name. Learning Target chapter 38 clearly teaches that all comes from a Chemin de you'd give off gay another question, which is similar to this question. So I'll throw that in solemn of rock on I've asked a few questions to you about Agatha session Divine unity, all of the answers and explanations have added a lot to my understanding. Thank you very much. I was learning a Miami describing the uniqueness is unique unityconnect assist all the community of Israel. The shamans Israel has over other parts of creation. That in their Source quote in this sort of the Hidden are unified due to coming from the same Source in asham akkad. Uncle end of quote what is the solution of this Unity Crest Israel has isn't all of Creation in their Source all unified what difference about our Unity it almost sounds like the same question maybe you came from the same person but so be it It's an excellent question and of course caution away, but it's also the same question. You can ask to broaden the question when we say in the name of a day means godliness is everywhere not just Unity godliness. So why do we say there's more Guardian is let's say the best. I mean fish or on Shabbos or a safer Tater whether in Makkah moans, man, is there more godliness and moisture. I've been in a coin god. So the brief answer is that's a question of revelation of God means you cannot divide. God in two parts God is God forbid. There's no such thing as as a composite. Out of this a sham. It's complete Unity. But like we say which mean they had set us that have a sites from Rashi from others that says Hashem says, I mean it says Kasha I'll I played a scam is difficult for me your separation. So the little bastard should say curse shall I put it does say no Iris operation. Why is it your separation? Because I shall never get separate from us from a sales perspective and vantage point. We're always United it is we who move away from the holidays and are not under the same. Send on the same Aura of the power of all the young Tavian that we can feel separate from each other and from Russia. So that's why God says your separation Divine Unity is everywhere. The question is how how conscious are we how we are and how integrated is an Our Lives because that's the whole purpose of additivity Axiom that it should be on our terms. So in that context, there are things that God put into the universe that are more unified than others for example, Toyota. Auris, But there's Unity everywhere you look in science and unity, but it's not so obvious until you see it. The shammes have that Unity manifest in them because they're fundamentally One Nation go ahead but Audits and they bring out of the Sgt to this world. That doesn't mean there is no artist that means it needs to be revealed and in a fragmented Universe, it's sometimes more concealed. So the Jewish nation is charged with a mission to reveal that in the inherent Unity that's already there. That's on a very basic level. You could say. What about the device them is God forbid that exist among Jews. Yes, they can wander away also from their purpose. But in the mile of the Jews are the nodes of the cluster as well as one entity, that's would be more Revelation versus concealed but it's deeper than that. Why no Samus are talking unified because and their fundamental Source in the Divine they reflect the Divine Purpose. The end not just the means the universe itself is can be more fragmented or seem more fragmented because it's not expressing the Divine Essence. It's part of the structure is the means to the end. So everything in existence does work together nature does work with the student symbiosis and unity, but it's not quite so fundamental and essential as it is. Tuna some is which Express on our agents of God and therefore manifest and personify and embody the unity of the Divine. Okay with that, let us go to the three essays every week. We do three essays from the essay contest 2019. The first is show you the hats locker, but I am the secret of success in life Mordecai Siegel 821 crack habad Israel a student in Chivas them create movement or Yehuda and as the title suggests, that's exactly what the addresses. He begins by saying that surely many of you reading the headline of the title of this essay will feel that you're going to suddenly get quick Solutions magical tricks. It's not the case. That's not how it works. There's no such thing as magic. There's no such thing as magic pills and they will never wasn't there never will be and they never really work. It comes with work hard work and effort and it begins to go into that. We are success truly comes from into the details citing the criticisms Kelly climate valve and he says it sides there. About the talking and I'm unna the idea of trust and faith how that is the necessary for True success the lab rates under the very nice tote way and with a good anecdote some humorous anecdotes and how to fight the challenge to what blocks us from achieving such success. Well done. And I thank you for that Erich mielke allievi nazionali tip him shell coaching hasidim. Hasidic tips for Hasidic cultures because the considered coaching. He's from load Israel. It's 45 a job might say book little bit more sensible more suited. He's a presenter. I seen your presenter in a particular group. Okay. So what does he write? Let's see his essay. Coaching that's good. The very nice title tips for Hasidic coaching. So basically since it has comes to really teach us and cultures and how to believe the best possible lives and fulfilling what God wants. So what he does is he actually goes through Tanya paid a chapter 4 and 12 and and this sit in a way in a very practical bullet point way. We cause it a playlist playlist of this music of chania of how you can actually take tips. Tips that he gives and coaching and goes one step after the other first from the tiny. I just mentioned then from today and from Eagle is cages of the Rebel and he dresses each issue. First the first point was about from the time yet, then it talks about music as I said about difficult challenges. And let's see nuclear beneficial Manuka finding peace and calm in your life. That's for my sake a passerby meatball. How many different sources anyway bottom line? Let me see how many there are. six seven eight Yeah. I think there are 11 12 12 tips, very beautifully done. Each is very concise with sources tips of Hasidic coaching. Excellent. Finally. The third is an English one tap in tap out Stan the server Ringo age 18 Montreal Canada student and based Hai mushkil Seminary Montreal. Phones internet technology, the grandparents hated the parents love it and the children can't seem to get enough of it man. He can barely live without it. So it's all about this technology. They say they cannot convey can they can control of they want to but regardless of where they say many find it impossible to resist reaching for device. Only moments after making making such a declaration City's shows us that it is possible for us to live in the 21st century to close the gates on this generation G8 Sahara, which includes the two main issues negative content and waste of time by using it only for the right purposes and only at the right times and goes on to speak about content. And what exactly is the standard Time how to control guarding your Gates and practical Solutions another very practical sa well done as well. I commend you these essays are all now available. They get posted as we announce them and meaningful life. I'm sorry at my taxes applied that calm and you can also get them if you subscribe to our weekly emails and we'll send you the all updates these essays as well as other updates were always updating and putting new material and content. Okay, my friends. This has been episode 282 of my lifes. It has supplied everyone should have continuing High discussion and bringing the power of tishri into our lives are good. Is that good? Givenchy are and we're here every Sunday 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. And will be her next week. So anyone have a very blessed week and hopefully this will be the week of gula especially if we do our part in it in achieving that foot so minus 1/4
Addressing the Personal and Emotional Needs of Our Community and Answering the Most Pressing Questions of Our Lives -- from the Perspective of Chassidic Thought. TOPICS: • Chassidus Applied to Vayeira. 0:15 • How did Avraham know that it was G-d talking to him, and not a hallucination? 09:40 • How can we explain the Akeidah? 15:55 • How can you find your personal Lech-Lecha? 25:05 • What can a child do if he is having issues with his parents, and they don’t respond? 28:11 • How to deal with social anxiety? 33:39 • What can I do about feeling stuck in my life? 43:08 • What can we do about talking in shul? 47:26 • Follow up (episodes 280-281):      o Boring holidays 52:51      o Kiddush clubs 54:57     o Peyot 59:00     o Expanding 770 01:01:50 • Chassidus question: What is the difference between a divine soul rooted in the divine name and all other things that are rooted in the divine name? 01:03:16 • My Life 2019 essays:     o סוד ההצלחה בחיים, Mordechai Segal, 21, Kfar Chabad, Israel 01:07:29     o טיפים של קאוצ’ינג חסידי, Arik Melchiali, Lud, 45, Israel 01:08:48     o Tap In, Tap Out, Shterna Sara Ringo, 18, Montreal, Canada 01:10:43  Submit your question now at  https://www.chassidusapplied.com/ask-rabbi-jacobson/ or email: info@chassidusapplied.com. The objective of the program is to provide people with inspired guidance and direction, empowering them to deal with any issue they may face. MyLife demonstrates how Chassidus provides us with a comprehensive blueprint of the human psyche as a microcosm of the cosmos, and offers us all the guidance we need to live the healthiest possible life and build nurturing homes and families, bringing up the healthiest possible children, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually. MyLife is brought to you by the Meaningful Life Center as a public service, free of charge. 