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Let me just let's let's get him in Guatemala. Look morning guys good Beaver call today. So I've got a really sexy deep voice. We've got a new are guests on the show this week. The pig easy right so you can I top or when you got the pig. So just just to kick off and told you this bit because we've gone he said just get on the air and yeah, yep. I didn't know what was gonna happen. What's coming rather than reiji Sir. Paul does a little bit of background that we let him go go pop. I've got the pig right and just to introduce a little bit more and look played professional rugby league and me, please for Salford. Adriano's harlequins York and Ireland and finished his career with his beloved Halifax. This is the stat that I'll this is the stat that I love this one. I can't believe it. But at least 30 children are as it is 30 children as little canyon worked at Londoner. Yeah a new is where to land for a prop. I thought that was bullied adjusted stuff here that no one on the there were a season whenever best season when I want right away from beating Terry Funk it is Record, so the minimum the top-scoring forward I live acts of all time one try away. And on this is got told that started. It was kind of a try. Yeah. I didn't know when I saw it was a proper legend about one day. We didn't you recently but I saw that try as so that's how that is God. He was from about 70 yards out on it depends on where and how many you have to drink it make me an answer you're good yours was usually from Two yards out Lee and went like you to try as anyway and educational was and Luke went to st. Catherine's Catholic a school and later went to Leeds met and Luke is a fellow of breath air. Is that the correct pronunciation, but all you click rapid which is a charitable organization and the mission is to improve the life and chances of children young people and families inspiring them to engage positivity in the communities. Where do you get that from Pole? Tell you website that silly. Look he's also chief executive of ambulatory inning and founded chairman of and is man Club. So and it's - it have coffee at the money. I've got no not come on Lucas. Engaged and he's got three young children, which is not all yes, you know more than I do after all about it. All right, so that's like thanks for coming over just just just just tell our listeners what he milked over there this morning when you wake up. Yeah, so I recently I bought a VW crafter big big van and I decided that I'd convert it into a live birth camper van and when the owners make when this podcast I was struggling for time, so I said, let's get it in nice and Early, so I said, yeah, we'll do it at 7:00 a.m. So rather than that long commute over we're to the beautiful holes here. I decided that sleep last night in the camper van actually only on the drive. He'll beg him it comes to open a spare room, but I said to him listen come to Texas better. I got up on the bed and he understood straight away Danny. Laughs. Well, he's a it was causing the on it. We have a game within a game of Uno. Oh, no, you had a new video. I'll give her a summit some across Sweden. Yeah sums over it sums of atoms in the room with us. I'm interested it looks it looks absolutely top-notch some some other great night's sleep. It was going to be up early some was and get a little bit cont'd some rooms are bu Productions that we're doing all we will we help businesses with videography real enjoying the story behind the brands and some ended up in that good night. I was sleeping van that he slept through his alarm. It is alarm go off and he heard it actually turn it off and roll over and start snoring and I thought yeah must be Comfort. What happened was you I want happy but then I realized this to comfort he's that comfy in there that maybe that's what it was and maybe not even that nice of a comfort sleep at home. So I'll let him off. I know he's gonna be going right and he's I can tell because he's not eating yet. Wait, we need to get through this podcast and I'm looking forward to this one because the questions you don't know what we've got but prep log questions, none of the line even so I mean, it's real and raw in it. I want to quit hitting me. I want to know I'm was one two, three books that have greatly change or influence your life and why straight away the magic of thinking big always turns out the top Always by David Schwartz. It's just one book that it's always a top of chain. I think a lot of books derived from that book just his way that he talks is all for the always stands out to me and this is for anyone listening. I think all excuses itís talks about a disease that a lot of people have if you've heard of this disease, excuse us out. Is it societies disease or making excuses why they can't do some it with the tool to do it till young the too busy and there's all these excuses and I love it the fact that real if you break it down when most people don't do some it is excuses itís and I've had that disease before but I think that this year especially which will probably go into I made sure that excuse itís right window and there were no excuses to think it's easier to make an excuse and I don't find a solution which is I guess what this whole podcast is about the progress than podcast. Yeah our I like that. I believe I've probably suffered with that for quite a few years. It was calling out today or yesterday and he's wanted it gone to he's getting liver toolbox. And I'm going to go away. Excuse is because it has become this you today. I'm joining up this gym. I'm doing something so I said well just need to transfer over that way. We need to break this cycle of tea. Saying that we can't get in shape. So I know you're a big fan of exercise and Fitness and Wellness, but we share the same problem. How do we fix eggs? You'll still come on. It's simply just going to it and it sounds up that Daft but with anything like with coffee shop with camper van with any businesses I've ever started. I anything I do underneath man Club. It was just about actually getting out and doing it and stay consistent and I think once you just take that break, it's hard to get back into it and it went off that wagon chasing that wagons add. So I'm with his on it. I've I've got a lot of work to do this year. I decided to go to lose weight and get fit and I went to extreme and he said it is starting to run like a 10 kids had to run under killed Tomorrow - did that then after that devote to trim for and we do professional athlete you always had to sum up to try and find a fit. My biggest thing transition is this time of year. Now, I've been preseason last 15 years of my life and now to not have the gall to you've got to be fit by this debt for a game. It's like well just start next week or I'll start lending. I think actually just been really self-cutting the Bullshit and saying let's get into this. Let's get stuck in with anything business whatever you're into and I think what we're doing together and is a can get up early in the morning. I get up middle of the night so I don't sleep very much. But so I'm packing outside Leon's house in the morning. Now what happens for have this is similar thing going on? Yeah. So AB is out. So we start training at 6.30. I said this looks terrible in conversation yesterday. I said look this sounds this gym and this boat company sort of thing. As I said, let's cut the shit. So now we need to just get on it and get it done that way how you do anything is how you doing things? Exactly. So according to you the typical one that just come up mind that probably never would have thought it would have at least it was real and raw sit with God and tell us his autobiography. He probably first book ever written a youngster and just his mindset. I really liked it. I would just watch it was an absolute Warrior whatever player. He would bit before my generation even leaving a chance to watch him real it. But just like reading his book what a beast and what our mindset he had whether he supports a breakdown opponent and also itself and the third one would be probably the one I'm reading at minute and I'm just glad I've left the last two chapters till I'm ready. It sounds Daft that it's David Goggins because if you read David goggin, you've got better and it'll work for some fears there some the accountability Miracles it which is unbelievable concept that You call look at yourself not even just in a mirror mirror actual mirror. I prefer to go on and it's a pick yourself apart. This is too many people are afraid to do that which is why two people pussyfooting through life and not getting shit done and these big things about just getting out there and getting after it and it tells a story which is a stomachs meant it still tickles committed to this day. He still running are out running and some guy dropped past him and looked him shot. They were whatever they measure their things. They were like 40 degrees. They do it for another 40 degrees. He's running. This ignored should have been out running that time, right it was that hot is it ridiculous? These really tall guy looks him shocked. So the guy drives around and comes back and guy says amen what you have doing running at this time. You crazy. Is it on my running? Cause you're not motherfucker? That's right. He's right. We think the father what he said I'm out getting it because you are not and that's why I'm doing what I'm doing. I'm thinking in whatever you want to do in life. You know, you've got to do what others doors you can have what was kind? I think the big point on I went smoothly the RICO was over in Copenhagen work on the business and the caught this concept of at different stages entrepreneurs and business owners go through and even even managers and staff as well. You know, it just transcends I think so. I'm quite interesting sound. I'll read like yourself and learn different things. It's this word grind and then Concepts I got told and it makes perfect sense if there's a stage you go from his muscle and field so you're out there you're muscle. And feel them what's what's working. What's not working? You can't keep the grand going to mean you have a big crush on this about going off food. Don't we? Yep, so anyone listening because I think that context and you see it a lot with these lot of personal bullshit were grinding and they so what's your what's your thoughts on that? You know in terms of work-life balance because I honor well the question of bringing about will be why you doing it and it's time. Own talks about why I'll break something down these which if you've got a lot business listeners some of them this work before them. Is it what what the condition at listen to but I'll ask you two a question, right? I like to use both the same question, which I asked every audience. I got a now I fear I am testing actually question to of its older people in attendance or a thousand put your hand up. If you want to be successful only be able to defeat programmed up. Probably most of them everyone. Yeah, there are sir soon as I put on my daughter. Well you handle with you know, what success is now many things put under 2:00 to 4:00 5:00 map to then I'll pick on those two five two five people into what is success then and some will say money Tulsa. OK tell everyone know what amount of money of may happen or just secure it as a will go on the door the miserable this Society minute, you will guarantee to get that income being the door. They will more than that of almost anyone. There's never a definitive number. What would make you happy? Because once you reach that number, even though wanting more anyway, so they say okay, so we'll say well goal setting and achieving at okay, perfect as a put your user goal ever puts Rondo. We have you set a goal achieved it every box around. Oh, we haven't even set a goal achieved the unachievable which is proposed round of a lot. So maybe goals at in a true measure of success. Then someone will always say happiness and if we are not yet we have a penis is the one no sir who is ever found it. Tanner an old pair of jeans with no skin and it was not in yet another as a scale of 1 to 10 how happy with you but 15, right and everyone's buzzing right? I said energy doing your money don't you still be loyal? So now our P minus 15, so therefore happiness comes on girls just like happiness sadness stood depression anxiety. He can't measure success based on happens because the two most missile conceptions. I believe that everyone has been bought into his everyone could be successful or this idea of success and everyone can be happy. You constantly strive to be up there will eventually be miserable. So where do I think success lies two things one being one? Eleven year old girl told me in Burnley on a Gotham to write the favorite courts down at school. And her quote was when you appreciate everything that you have you have everything that you need and that hit me like a ton of bricks. I like that's the one and then the second one is and ask you two questions now is everyone in life and Littles listen to your podcast going to be rich? No, no financially welfare is every one of them. I love that it eventually he found Rich has less violence. The welfare is an overabundance of money. Nope. Yes honors. No wonder some water. Everyone would have a good relationship now is everyone of amazing kids are going to do great things. No, no. No, he's ever going to go through sheer. Yeah. Yes, Dave. Everyone will go through shit everyone to sure the measure success should be for everyone a quick you can bounce back from his hair back. That's what everyone's measure success of beef because we're all going to a very strong a little of what we're all going to experience Financial. Bikal is we're all going to approach it with mrs. Orso's bundles. Bajada. Only organ have some asshole his kids and learning his parents are surely the ability to bounce back to be on everyone's radar and that's how you still find out how successful your arms back ability. I get Bumfuck ability and I think he's quite interesting you mention that word success as wrong that because although it's all kinds of the talk was like inspiring businesses. It's dark out different things. We've been up till man-cub all and businesses and all different stuff and I am real problem. I remember writing the talk. Like I've never asked myself what successes are what it looks like and I'm glad talk to these people success that up. I was at what do I deem success to be and for me? What I said was just being comfortable in my own skin. I couldn't I couldn't find anything else because for me you always think the challenges with the world a living. We have some deep conversations about people processed in order to know what you think the world will living with with take Very easy to be sucked into our social medias and see what other people are doing and not understand the grand so I can understand. You know, what you do what you put out in terms of social media user with me, but we understand each other what we're doing be an scenes and a lot of activity but there's also a lot of family time as well and they so it just depends what that isn't it and I think it's a never moving feast and he just got in just enjoy enjoy Gary Vee enjoying the process. I like that, you know and I probably never spoke about this public Cloud which will be good where the realization come for me. Was it I kept having an idea of what success was meeting me in my speaking business so far like when I get to x amount per tart with a dart and then last year, I got to the point where my measure of success was if you could get to five figures a month, it's five figures a month that me. Yeah, but I did that and then is whether lesson came it were December or sorry when November 26, so not yes. Before a year then your two days ago when my God text that my missus about to give birth to my beautiful daughter Ada. Basically what happened is had preeclampsia needed to get baby out. So I already prison to drive on women being distraught because four years previously my daughter Barbara. These have been declared critically over an asthma attack as I'm driving on all these faults with from it my back in a way your Loop model pulling a carriage that comfy with your mind. I remember I remember speaking to on the phone. Part-time and we've been good. Yeah, we're in bits. I remember getting to hospital. They end up selling it baby out, which was great. So they get baby out earlier and then as the deliverer bear bam and blocking it believable. I'm actually so it's order up another graphic stuff. Let's go get a shower. It's going to get shower. It was like someone knocked a bucket of blood over my legs and I look down I couldn't see will get anywhere a nurse had pressed the panic button now, so I just opened eyes dead shouted the Midwife will be with us and she got consultant in the common. They all look the Macau followed more people next me that looked at least one to bed and she's hemorrhaged. So basically I she's got blood clot in her womb. Oh, she's passed out at that point and then doctors like I'm a billion bits come speak and I'm a mother forget like the doctor told me he's and his pet sit there till I'm going to go to remove these by and Toes moving the man and he just looked at me casually and it says you are you. Alright. I said, he says don't worry. We've got this and after that moment that up and I looked at my I could have that Final Cut. Like this everyday life I could have cause it has the highest risk of a woman died after birth is would call it will ultimate little bearbette and summer in here - not that Alpha and our beta didn't happen with them are in different stages of pairing them with arbres a rugby player. I need to grind to put money on the table or in a very different position than time now, but with Ada it will like it all made sense it were like finally now it's about work-life balance. So from that day, I literally changed the whole where I'm a business are you're nowhere near as much as I do. Then bottom most content of have been about a cup of on that could take them away and I go we're going all days and all that types of but we spend time with over the fact that most Mondays and Thursdays I can set my daughter nursery. And today I'm picking her up at 2 o'clock. I love that. I can go pick the kids up from school. I used to live on a Sunday afternoon and get on Thursday night Friday. I had started off at my Uncle because I've not been away all week or a little bit stressed out. So I'm a bit of a knob route kids, you know or a little bit stressed because my team is shooting again Sunday. But yeah that moment had and it only came at me yesterday when it were a first birthday and I like shit. You know what she did. She was a game changer. She brought everything back to life for me work like work life balance put everything in perspective that amount of money earned and this is where it came and this is this is raw for me is when Lisa went on a training course my missus recently. The kids are crying at dark and remember I'm coming upstairs and I said to her if I said what so I'm about like he said, what is it? Why don't why do you cry for your mom? She's Let's go away for one night and I go with for we to graduate you always go away. I will I while I was - just they won't not too bothered anymore though gonna wear no matter how many all these are going on what they were getting what they were doing. There are more over that I want they're all missing parents evenings are missing their shit where now they love that a moment I can play around and we know about space with them and I think that's where it's powerful kids are having kids are a balancer. I'm a dumb mistake for a long time not seeing that and I think think he's always just when I was looking back at doing that talking and talk about my dad but without gold so we and success and we've spoken we don't worry and when I look back my dad has always done business is at your around us and it always made choices around us and I think that's one of the most powerful things. We does CE at the Town dear. No. No, I was up. I was in a similar position to probably Alfie and my dad was a fisherman. Used to go with a 15 weeks at a time. Sometimes when we used to say to me when your dad comes on he's going to chat with you because you've done this that and the other then my dad would come and go like the new discipline I missed mr. A lot with me Dad and I used with the man of the house while he was awake because I use I took that on board literally and I just wish when he retired when he retired from fish and he got ill elf so I never really got to spend quality time with my dad through his life and I try and give that back to my Lads now because you don't get them you don't get that time back. So what you're doing with wet life balance is good. I need to practice what I preach sometimes because I never used to but no one will know. Lloyd I've got plenty time because what so we need to get on with his cattle. He wants it. He's looking for I want someone to see I can make sure let's go. What's your feel-good song on music that gets you focused on makes you happy I'll give you a few because there's a few different element sets of feel good straight away is the troll song. So the Justin Timberlake feeling in my bones and goes electric wavy win at certainly that why is that some one of my favorite songs because when it used to come on or bread, my daughter would have been around two or three and the look on her face when that song came on site and back. We'll just lie or my life once you put that smile just started dancing. So that would be one another one that relates to me a little bit minutes bit more of a thought-provoking one is storms it Crown running an organization like and is man Club people ever see Pros on social media that they don't see the cons the shit that you get behind the scenes, you know running a volunteer organization naturally comes with its challenges and and that Crown really came at a time when when I probably needed to show you that and basically what I'm just saying is is that wears a crown of that whatever, you know, he's industry book as much as it the shit comes you've also got to see the goods are not be one another one. That's always been there for me. Michael Jackson Man in the Mirror. Yeah, because I think it's about looking itself and that's the way I view things. Yeah Buckle Man in the Mirror. Yeah, that's a big one. That's about making the world a better place. And I think that's the simple shit. You could go on quick these Lord. I like rap music. A lot of rap music gets me pumped interesting, you know before you split up breaking to use this in any particular song that help secure our yeah 50 Cent all my proper song the one that really there when I'm When I need to go kick a pass, there's a Lincoln Park some cold faint and it will when I got to World Cup got dropped for the first game. I had a terrible year off-field real Badger and I got to walk up and I've been dropped for the first time ever. I love it really hard and I found this Lincoln Park album in a shop while we're out and I put on an everyday. I do actual free extra sessions anyone else a day and then even our Carol got injured in first game and I got a chance against England Gotham stadium, and it will like a sellout And I managed to get one at much for Island. We got absolutely knobbed but I got one that much in it that song just like whenever I needed like a boost it was some of the in it the words in it basically says he's owed this that's all how about I try fact lyrics as well as we got that on but basically it's all about our like people doubt you all the time and then proving them wrong that that type of stuff and it's just real powerful than the how much power is in that song is just I believe it's just got me thinking about it until I'm well, but you look very nice. Nice. I like this one. This is it. This is a good one as well. I like this one. I'll do it. I'll do it going and what patches of 50 pound or less as made the most positive impact in your life in the last six months will question about her ever spend over 50 pounds of this is ADD. What what what would it be or easy? All know that would definitely want to owners are big game for kids. He played an honorable man. I haven't we're on it. I'm telling you. Well the breakfast for the game over. So let's add our complaint now as well. So we just played that overnight that were unbelievable. But actually this is a bit of a random one. We bought the other day a toilet for campervan. There were 29 quid and basically it's a bucket. That's especially it looks like a toilet with toilet seat and everything was a bucket and is for emergency. Use only I just made me laugh because I knew my Lisa need it when she came over there and you should need it and she snuck out Betty of morning and doing the sound chair under my whatever else was still let him beds. I said you are actually yeah, and then when I look back up again, she's gone. It's a bit weird and she'd been in took a piss on this chair, but obviously first person ever to tickets look away and I knew she'd lead itself my some random that a bucket for pissing and shitting emergencies is a good buy, but you try having kids then he going middle at night and it comes a valuable. It's priceless priceless. Concerns with it when they go up in the camp of the last night that the only house and then he's like that we get to bed when you get in the van. It's all hooked up to electrical at what time is it? I've got the toilet. Yeah, and I said no you can come we got a key. I said this this image and load of looking at least Molly all the neighbors getting up and he's now sadly. I was only little part of body parts and you fruit Garden, let's go. Let's go. Let's talk about next and this is this should be a good one for him like it is one. Do you have a lesson from a feel of the old bust lesson from a failure?Lots lots of lessons. I think every true lesson goes from values in it, but I don't think that they ever really is failure is a big everything is truly a lesson. It could say about being a parent being a partner. I've been my biggest one comes from when I got like God from leads that were really our time for me weirdly because even when I were to the longest story goes, so we're now when I went back to leads our world is about 120. 81 so whatever reason the first in fit with the court child that time what plays was around you that in the Jimmy be got Kyle why there's a lot of people I know man, but for whatever reason the coach to want to give me a go even when I got offered to God all these feel Giants on Lord, they've been some pulled politics with when Darryl Griffin came and charging me with feet again. So when I just feel what I mean, it's still be Google Campbellsville Giants. It still says NF and brown. We want Lucas and exciting prospect. Anyway, they won't let me go up and be like, we got all the facts but while Really fucked up this year. Oh still look unbeliever items player. Hello. It's nice to show those you what they should give you a bit more detail. So when I walk here another fucking still I started trading on time will later start leads by John. Who is this big? There's two world champions at that time and it was this big thing for me into that year. When I finally, you know, it went wrong. I went to Dubai I trained out there with New Zealand Warriors because our agrees with wedding, so everything will go right after got like go you'd think that it's a that kick on would have come, you know, get a god. With our chief execs paid me to go. Let me stop his daughter Lena lunders him to buy while I'm not for desktop over forgot New Zealand. So you'd think that my mindset were better never been in trouble just slowly start to just midseason to start to go downhill I start to put on a lot of where I mean by one at Lads I got that big and it's funny now looking back but then it will add when it loads took a picture where the sideshow of our big have really got the put that rubber rubber owes. I didn't it. That's what Lads are like, they don't realize it tight and What'd you talk about we talk about again. We work with your Hispanic culture is like to culture and that's arms yet. He coming for me, but I'm doing also be absolutely torturous going to be further. Then when I say this I fell over and cut my arm on his you'll get first aid kit out with my buddy. Yeah, but you can't do that with your mind because you don't know that I'm struggling can't see it. So that point I was struggling a little bit and then me mrs. Brock up which made it even harder because it was felt that everything will just crumble down around me and and then I'd start drinking started sleeping around and then One night. He exploded gotten a big altercation and I fax by myself starting this police are asking myself. Why me? Why me, you know a lot more my dad's family been in a lot of shit and then I wasn't always such a embarrassed to remove had to tell him that there I was in these police cells it we just horrid and then I remember in Croydon won't will be called managed to tie all out pay a few people got squashed. Anyway - to make some phone calls, but after that day I said, right if things have got to change and I came up with what I talked about. Every day and I would just watch next which meant what can you do next about it? So, I believe we all have two buckets. I can book an account book it and I believe most people who are struggling in life, whether it be of anxiety depression or just in low mood are just not getting shit done. It's because they live in this bucket where they just Fox what they can control everything that they don't have when you focus on that. Nothing will ever happen fear not Mary a depressant you take how much structure to amateur sleeping around and watch because you're thinking or whatever else you're into you constantly folks what you can't control you never move forward to what Next week. What can you do about it? And then as a kick on from that that was next Theory worked so much that I got a gym called facts fit basically like this shit all that. We just transformed above a truck yard guy what next two knocks it were a literally is garage. They put his truck tires in and I put truck tires chains and other weird chicken then I got a lot of other bits of gear donated and I went in there three times a day and it will solve it best condition. I'd ever been in then that year. I went on to best you're dividing will be Korea literally like I remember has been Untouchable. I karatbar just break stuff that shouldn't But wreckage drive-through scoring nods dries when I'm gonna play it will cook everything. Although this raft it woke up and my life just went on and then because I just had a baby. I needed to have a big year which were the Catalyst everything just went. Well thymocyte best deal. I never signed beyond belief even like playing Championship. I was making more and more Super League plays it work it were it would call a there's a there's a funny story of in all that that I've talked all even some other this one and it's what I used to tell this to get more detail in me talk. Before the and is man called stuff. So when I'd finally got myself in this good spirit, so I've been in Tamil because I better I brought my heel which no one knows. So I am embarrassment to training because it's go tell them all that one. I've been in a lot of trouble after night of the game and when I went to a bit ill I've been sinking Lords. I got in trouble side to side until All Odds. I want to ask because most of my life anyway, but I train that night, but I brought my heel and they didn't know no one new song in acupuncture in a broken heel anywhere. I ended up playing a lot of games got this like special or finger point in my life, but never detected it. Anyway after about eight weeks of playing and I had crutches most of time with a broken nail. Well, this point is five just it was just you know, they're faster and the bomb. Yeah for that would just bruised. That's okay putting acupuncture needles in anywhere crowd cheering we want to other figures that I think need crutches. You need to get off. This old could dream round and our plane on a weekend it will Madness right? Anyhow, it's see I'm giad the console and the Got me in for a not an x-ray one of those CT scans. Yeah, but it turned out I had this massive crack Emil. What about it were a bigger crowd they were thick as well. And he said in a normal case had you been about now for eight weeks is we've been playing so you've been playing bad. So you were keep playing the police here and then then as my missus other problem with a cobra and she really died. I talked about a time of Ruby Fuller. I'll never forget you just come on and this How embarrassing life to be she got out of hospital and I thought right what's next at that mentality. What's next? Let's crack on. Let's move forward for a radio male fitting in that led. Now my life we're going. All right, you know I had this great mindset right? She's out of hospital. It's gone. Now, let's kind of go. What can you do? I made her a shepherd's pie right sounds random is and as I as I was very mad at to week of training and I'll coach it's a mcalary soon. And I you know calories, you know proper masculine man, right? He'll put cupboard at a ball Falls our covens London before God's boy. All rights marches look that's got a little bit of a kook no not for him say should listen don't feel right. This is like to cut Luke has been in hospital. I nearly died. Come on go on with it. No, I suppose not right here. I know I went to doctors it turned out fully ruptured me ten millimeter six weeks out. You're my diamond ring Yoruba court and tell him that you're out a rugby. Now this very moment. I'm in my last year and we contract it were beginning that your when needed to get a good pre-season in and kick on because I had a baby coming and ordered that terrible you Before and six weeks out by dropping a shepherd's pie ball on the floor imagine that phone call to Carl and I embarrassing that was not well then and this is this is the thing in out what we've got some of the athletes yet some so literally, you know like that. As such I'm not going to affect this with his perfect now looking back. But the the moral that thing for me was like no matter how good your mind says stuff's going to keep coming. And yeah, you know it was because my mindset was probably a baby with bought an ounce life of going good. I got myself in good condition cow or apple May first preseason game, then I'll be born are sorry and then at least as that critical illness and then I do meter and then it's just like Vernon ba ma ba ba on an airplane. And then after that just kicked on their sure eventually just showed that you keep in To be mindset like a diet in it, right you go to last night. My daughter's first birthday. Lot of time which is a lot of pizza. That's finally either but what most of us do is we started out on a Monday morning. Wednesday comes night last night. You eat a bit of shit. So then you accept that. Okay, that's fine. I'm a little bit. Well if it were that shit now, I must eat shit rest that we can start again Monday and that becomes a cycle Christian life and I think that if you just okay, I've had a little setback. Let's go again. Whatever that areas whether it be a business unique white get sale. Right? Go again, just one no don't mean that everyone's gonna say no does it Well, I've that's what a struggle with consistency especially obviously diet front am I'll do not struggle consistent. So you struggle with discipline. Yeah, this is real. Yeah. He said his father passed on pot. Yeah, of course. I've lost four stone this year, but the effort of putting in the gym because I do enjoy training and absolute Beast. I put it out, but if you enjoy this get that you enjoy this. It's illegal all I know is that right some snakes, but the next questions is what is your favorite core saying if you could share with the world or is it a mic and you know having you know having one that you will use over. No, no. No I'm saying you could share with everyone the well, what is it and why understand gonna be when you appreciate what you have you everything that you need too many people constantly think about right you buy a car and the next door neighbor buys that same cabbage slightly better model. Suddenly. You're not happy. We are that whatever size that root beer. I remember you rub is a kid. So you contract with like 15 grand is a kid. He's not much of a Billy Wright you 15 grand and then you posing with that right? Cause you might meet on 10 and you're buzzing you 15. Your two-year deal is still on. Let me play with you got crack on the found out that one of a kind of you, please just sign for 18 Grand is ruined ruined. Are you pissed off? Yeah, I saw it. I used to see it. It was a body style would be believer follow Buddhism for a long long time, which is up. Keep me on path straight up off of a lot of time. It talks about that exact thing to give you an example of when someone gets about some other than you. No you no longer happily be asked and actually made me think that actually when you do appreciate what you have you will have everything that you need because then when you do get a better car or you do have a nicer Allah They are wearing maybe you just appreciate a little bit more but you don't attach yourself to that concept of needing more and that's why I've lived a very simple life black T-shirt black jeans not have any other Clause because I want to know everything about fashion. But to is it's just not really bothered about how nice you know, my vote friend meal. Manny likes a nice designer top now and again just don't get it never have so for me. It's like to live a simple life. That's why stupid stuff like rather spend my money on a cup of on that unboxing time traveler Alps or whatever kids Legend over Christmas. Six days what better thing to do next time I'm taking full someone up just to go and live on beaches are typified van life. But at same time the grandal come to firm it allowed me to do that Moustakas. I think is it Netflix move on it minimalism. And I that was a book that other movie that I watched it. I still try and do this. I think is it the three three three thing. So I went through my wardrobe and just like knocked everything out. Anyway, I got one set inside t-shirt. At and similar but I've got multiple versions of the same thing because I don't like children. I can't be bothered in the morning to choose something different. I like to have just signed to be owning the if you look at over it, yes or like Mark Zuckerberg Simon Cowell. There's a list of people always say of stuff and the reason why is is because we only get so many good choices are there to make hundreds of thousands a day or the amount of brain power used to make Decisions if you already know a lot this morning my my van, if you don't know I said fall black t-shirts pair of black jeans and my bike trail of they're ready to go. Right but boxes black socks. It's easy for me to mourn a doctor fix shit. Where's that white to our god? It looked at going to go a little black tee shirt black jeans. They don't get Catalan. We're ready to go ready to go with that's a system decisions like to drive space in Miners and dryer online the a drying slicked back to what he is a solid on its own just the ballpark I get that guy. I had a when you talk about appreciation and what you've got. I did the Doncaster TennCare on some day. I come off two weeks all inclusive so want real good preparation, but I did try and keep a little bit of training going while I was away. I was about 10 yards from the Finishing Line. Yeah, I was about 10 yards from me Finishing Line. And all I could see was this Khalid on the floor t-shirt or and the paramedics are working on him trying to save his life. He'd gone it totally gone and the stewards are telling me to run around him his family's they're screaming and crying and I got through on the give him a medal and everybody was like cheering. I just went to the side and I'd lost it. I was I was just crying I thought That guy does his for all I could picture was him and his family. Look Ali was on social media at five o'clock in the afternoon. The paramedics had brought him around he's absolutely doing fine now sound it's odd and he said I'm a bit sore, but the paramedics had brought around but that just for one instance and the kid was a triathlete he would triathlete From Doncaster and it just shows you how it can your life can go like that and I just I just thought Appreciation of what we've got because it couldn't be in a second gone and just his vision of the paramedics working on him is family being distraught. It just made me really think about what I've got and we should appreciate the now because in a second it could could go. Right, then little kick in the last five years what new habit or belief has had the most profound effect on your life. Nice. What are some other thing too that I believe has had the most profound effect on your life to live a questionable happen by accident. So I'll give you a in a way that usual relate to but also the people might so when I do a talk, I have this belief that if I can help one person in that room we're going to do one of my top or whatever business is involved. You just hope that one person if that would kill one person a good service. That's all that matters. So I obviously went to a talk to some bin men, right? This is a talk about all that belief help me. I went to his taught something mental - 1 .5 degrees are in to start work a they got told they had to be there at seven o'clock in morning. I'm driving. They're aware that I'm thinking how will be playing now. In fact, we're playing someone told me you have to be there at 7:00 a.m. And now besides freezing to listen to a motivational speaker or a mental well-being speaker, right whatever feeling and I thought I would not want to be there right? So now I get to do this talk and they all didn't want to be there now. You're probably thinking I was listening this how did you know, they didn't want to be there because as I walked in here, but I'm set the mayor I don't want a fucking beer and his mentor in setting his mates around and said to him I don't have a fucking beer either and then it made me think quite easily in the past. I don't let the opinion of others Define my by session but instead of stood up and I just straightway addressed that I said I can guarantee that majorities don't have a fucking beer. You probably forget. How do I know that because I was too obvious a it and I don't like he's more a nodding when I say that let's cut the shit. I ate a tic a box today. I mean one person in one who used to come away from there. I don't care what the others think because that one person Butterfly Effect once more localized Jade's why defects elsewhere which is the same principle. Of a hunted man called were building all those years ago one month, right which y now we get to 750 minute week or over because it folks on one person's I believe if everyone in the world woke up each dear of the belief that one person would have a better life. The other one is I asked myself a question more stairs a workup is what do you want your life to represent? So we're all going to die. Are you said a minute ago? We're all going over there, but for organ over there deaf World / - on his gravestone whether you whatever religion you however Sherry, however, Y'all go any ground ball game shop in a rocket with dust were all going to die. We'll all of our of the other take one. I'm going for the rocket. Now. We're going to for rocket with a cloud y'all go at their birthday. Definitely - the question I ask myself is what do you ducked represent? In other words your life to when my kids are stood up my grave. What did that does Life represent, you know and I can guarantee, you know instead of my name is Graham. Uh, no, no never had any money. My mother never had any issues. You want some big executive or fancy job or mine Irish nun abroad energy to room at no one else who stood on a gravel. Over there minimum will talk about what my nana were like and it made me realize actually when you do that people talk about whatever person you was not what you had each day. If you can wake up and be that type of person to be say going to do some do it. I don't like having to put 5 to 6 and you can do the next one. So knowing knowing what you know, now what advice would you give to yourself or others at 18 and what advice should the ignore? But the ice advice' add give herself is that you can get through anything don't make permit decisions based on temporal problems think it's quite easy to think that where you are right now in life. He's always always going to be I even at 18 I was at this mentality of like artwork and everyone I used to do weird shit like government in New Year's Day or Christmas Day because I knew no one else would be doing it and I just tell myself that what you're doing now, you're not even building yourself to be a real player you building that. Life stay with us don't ever let that go because now that same mentality is a do of that now to like keep talking about some kind of track training because and I'm saying it as a joke. There's a lesson behind it. There's lesson for him and I've got some times in order to get someone to listen to somebody got reinforced it top when I told him this morning I'm using is an example for Everlasting be up at 5:00 to 6:00. Another of the video ready and he says, why do you need me? You need me away you opposite know I'll already be up already but already at waiting for example go off, right the lesson is Is in life whether it's a business you run into is a family you tell someone you to do something you've got to do that because the only thing we've already got is our word and our that was what we as promises, right? If I told you guys I'm going to come a day which you know, it looks like I'm going to struggle I to make that happen. You never wear try to make a little sacrifice to come last night to be this morning. So I could still back that up and whatever that may be for anyone would be family ever back up what you say and that's 18 of the give myself advice the thing on that what they want. Going to go now as well. And there was a there was a great Point not like example is like to pick on him that shit to show him. No, no and you versus an 18 year old lady. I've got 19 year old working women. So he needs to know that advice today are now because was not that big not we are we have a value in our wall, but we've got lots of their agent and we're all the Lots wacky and I but I'm a massive boy every now we do anything, you know, we don't figure so I get that but one bit I want to discuss. Can you I thought that's his man's I know we know it's like that way. I'm a big believer. What this we can for example add said I was going to leave the room and I'm I just had a bit of a lot of this week was we submit that a little bit being away from the family all week in Copenhagen and it was one of the moments again. We're even though I was working on the business and I was away. There's only four or five days. I think a couple of things that it'd be a bit of a tough call but Monday night and you know that sparked a lot of its trustees in way and a bit to do with that. but then a lot of kids on FaceTime, I'm not happy that I'm not, you know more where we're working on the business which question about where we was last year and its back to girls going for a bit of cramping to I've got way we want to be and you are analyzing everything and as you go in and then as I come back I thought one of the weekend where I don't do anything and a Day always do loads of stuff. I'm just going to want to lay in bed on Saturday and I was like in one of them States about I don't want to be around people apart from the kids, but I build out and one of the new things that the minute eats vardhan. It doesn't let loads of people that was so that everyone went into that room and there was lots of them there and think that was a positive thing. But also I don't want to talk to you about you know, the work with one corporate box. Gather importance of self-care and some people take that to it to an extreme where they'll do so much for others and I want you to clarify that point you're making that right he's as I'm reading stage you'd say what you're going to do because it aligns with your goals and your values and as long as the person with me using it you was back and forth me saying you don't want me down. We could have moved it. We're going to go and it's all far right or what. She what she thought. Swear it some people do tech try and please people as what's your thoughts on that, but first we had there's no you always is was you are you truly happy to do that tanker. I genuinely go to kind of a general happy to do it. Yeah, because my this is one of my little goals in terms of Doom. I've got one of my goals where I'm working it is I did everything I did with think gold to spend time with someone. Yep, right as my goal. My my why is my family? I've got my kids saying they want to spend time with me. I also need some of it keeping it myself backing back instead. Right? So my decision was then guys are love spending time with Paul and All Odds. I'm going to be seeing on Monday. Anyway. Yeah, so I'm I've got I haven't even I'm giving my Sunday up. I've definitely given my Monday could not see you when I'm a dyke his mangled, right? So my decision was real simple. I'm not seeing them on Monday night and I'm having that time with him. So it was just it was just it real simple. But in time, I don't think there's a right or wrong answer is a i today we do that Ultra and a probably a time. In fact some were with me and I think I forgot I had it so I'll fly around on the Ryder Truck find Sox try and find this thing or I don't know just because I said I was going to do it. I felt like I had turned by enjoyed it when I did it and I think we've all got different ways of doing things and it's like where you might take that option this week. You might have said that this week on your business. You're going to do X Y Zed and that might get done. So if it we all have different folks, Don't worry. I think I'm just a big believer in about your word that you know, it's a big thing for me and your world map ended up being more powerful T kids and it was to go which is which is great you've got to do whatever is right at that moment and you and Spence change a lot. Self-care. Yeah, it's important. It's important. So I said that without Automotive of meal probably best self care of ever had. All right with two great Love's in some income and they're just went running for two full days solid. Did you know how many miles 64 miles the time of run before that first marathon? What did he do after dinner? Yeah. Well if I'm not and I'm not to like make it sound to make it sound good, but genuinely because my missus it took on a business these days company the clinic had Trend not even up and my legs past a walking pace for five weeks before I run to like Madness to turn up and do it and I remember saying times good on video and iron it said I said to myself I'm not even questioning myself, but even stopping like did ever came in and made about stopping and I think this year especially when you want to self-care Dependable self-care is to you because you know me sitting around and doing nothing. I've tried all that, you know, I live in those spiders wanted to go work away. I think it's nice now and again, but for me, yeah, I like being busy. I genuinely not just rappers. I'm not distracted myself. I like being busy like my joking with mrs. Yesterday coffee shops going to open so as he stays Clinic where up in already thinking about the coffee shop side that one eye on the next thing and even now I'm like thinking about Is it a little Edge coming for the next thing because that's me. That's why I'm so I think what's hard is when you do this type of stuff is podcasters in little different speakers and you listen a different books. I read different books has is a you think that where that David goggies does it Ivan's got to do it and no like we're not all built the same now this with a guy recently sacked you see we get so much done and figures and that's just me though. Don't compare yourself because you might not be able to fly from here and God spend a morning now try to get coffee shop Bill up and down. It's an idea after idea and getting that done then go ahead and start new journals or whatever that may be focus on your shit and you'll get your shit done in whatever way you always but self-care is different in it for everyone and on your nut ball. I think I was guilty that one because I'm leading on that. He's a resume your work with a pair of us to yeah, you've been around this for me unfortunately being wrong for me for years and you've you see what Luke gets up to or you'll see what was to get observing right? So let's talk about that. Someday, I might have enough it's not happening right now. What what what what would you do in that situation? I'll talk about self-care. I would I would build a 10K added added on the 10K and I would do other things as well because that's what I've done in the past and to my it's how many in the past because I'll put myself forward to do probably most things that even the lads now, even the lads at the man club now Paul's got to start saying no and I don't like saying no, I probably put me hands up for too many things and I've suffered sometimes and it's taking yourself to say Paul if you don't start saying no, I'm going to start taking things off. You won it one point at one point and for me he was going it's all It was all going am I was working up this conversation? Yeah, I'm really mad. And he was and you know, this was the clubs and I've made this mistake and we've we've talked about this is we forget about that Wonder or and then it turned into let's talk football team and this team and Atlanta that's all have different ideas. We always and it's all about adding more value and do more stuff together. Right? But the most things we add we go away from that one, man and we go away from That beautiful butterfly effect that we have at the mangled, right and that's why it works and it's from that guy walks in the door some guys love it and keep coming. But some of the guys will keep coming forget about that one month and it goes off and he was doing a lot of bits and he's going on and going on and he's getting all stressed out and you want using the club like we always talked about right and at such a Exile stopping it would retail stopping I said, you know, no facilitator and take off the Facebook to call that you're doing. All right. And what does that do to you? It was a bit of a reality check and and I like bit like look. I like to be busy and but I was being busy not doing anything not doing anything constructive as such. Yeah. Yeah, and so now I focus on doing and is Man clubs a Monday night and we make sure the experience for the next man coming through that door. Oh is the best it can and we manage the social media in this but we do it I do it I do it structured now. I said no I don't do as much as I used to do and I'm bits and pieces that didn't really matter the point back and it's why it's illegal to answer that question. I know he did on the run. I know you would've done the room, but I've set to the whole each other reason why that why that run came about it. So, you know, I know you said Yeah, we sounds too the whole Marathon upset right definitely understand my point back the right to my point was the lads also said that started the farm the running group a large scale with this and there was all do it evolving out training and you been up to it. Yeah, I'm gonna be able up a building and drops a stone even though yeah, it's not good at the minute because I'm looking at probably heavier than the asshole by but we're back on it about training and the group of been out running. I'll go. Owen my goal of them is to run with them. What's the matter of right there were seven a mold going my goal is to add value to that Global ads and thereby your back. They're fantastic Bunch aren't they? Yeah, they are in there and a couple of times I've had to make tough choices like that. I like where it walk and I have every intention of doing it, right but the way the business when and the businessweek went my business partner on older Copenhagen been aware lot of decisions Monday. I knew that Need to be on point with a business early morning start 600. Ohm energy and I want to have a bit of recap quick decision in right business family and then I've got to make sure I'm all right first but it's Healthcare it took about self-care. Yeah, but self-care for me is unjustly on check-in doing what I want to do everything I do in business and life is so I've got choices and that was one spend some time with the family can't see them. I'm just chill. And the interesting bit is quite interesting to see this in my mind, right? I had to fight and wrestle and girl said I'm a little comfy chair upstairs and meditate and get rid of the thought was so much to do and a marketing plan to write. I'd love to the business to the right and to actually sit on the sofa and watch some Disney movies with the kids and goes against everything I've ever bought. I don't watch movies, right but to sit there and chill and do nothing. I'd read over that weekend. I read a book as well as about And make sure that you've got enough in you your own cup before you fill all the could be Vehicles. All right, and that was quite interesting speaking to pole watching a Lads watching. The social media is a lot of stuff going on your old connecting so that the end goal is the lads are all collecting these value of there because that that group a large ruling came from me saying that I'm doing the whole Marathon right? So there's value there. So it all depends question for you. That's a big question one wise man once told me me so much. They had read somewhere. There's two ways to solve any problem. What was it two ways to solve any problem. This wise man was you you go on there that will Swift even those who said there's no I understand this at all. Give it back. Give it back. What did Will Smith's is towards one of the greatest one of the greatest things in the world and this is why I've got into running but I've got my brother two things and reading and reading really read around on also we talked about self-care though, right? Let me let me let me finish that on this side we get called out and I love you calling out as well as we're good buddies and the other part the other point on that. Lina reading and this is a great Point. That's always been our weekend reading is there because that Division and this is where I don't find you a free connector at Sam's right is Will Smith socks hot running reading says why he said well when you start running that little voice that says stop and he said life is about taking a little that voice and learning that that's not you and every time You stop but listen to it a new winch and when you do that Ultra 64 K, there was you know, even that way I did in Quincy. I did it over. There you go. Always how it got difficult was when I thought I broke my foot one and when my father locked up it locked up and it was like literally gone from being ruined a kilometer an hour to 15, you know, it would gone with my password drops or bring box where I'm getting it uses. I think sometimes like now I love spending time with kids. You're gonna go spend time with your kids later. But sometimes what people don't understand is the idea of doing something like it again the voice starts before you even know it, right. So even on a flight of a cop and Megan your subconscious decide to you know, it's 10-karat weekend. I wanna spend some time with family and it was a seed planted already excuse your site's it gets in right but time, you know, actually, let's be honest now who gets to it thing you needed that weekend what he said, it's our family get that if you're a room that TennCare I'll go too. I felt honestly where you may I tell you what you when you get your first running middle pile good is it I was going to show me on Monday, but I hit it good and he could you get that middle. You want to see my medals you should have got more mental thing is this is weird about being a twin is right. We had last year on the show that way. Yeah, also write an interesting. Like the way he looked at his career and and what he's done and we want happy right winners think differently and I'm out of this thing, you know, but my board there that we didn't wet place, right? I'm giving up on this old. Well worldwide winning and I like the whole idea of just simply being that's when you manure new manager, right? Because when you're winning the being part of it, yeah it if it defines right, where is it? Depends what your goal isn't it? Yeah, and and the next bit where I'm leading with this is because it's so this, you know, this cushy safe. So leaving to give him again. So we all that sounds fill been our unfocused own energy as overwhelmed. What do you do and a landslide in the bit? Right, but that honest I want to ask that question. I felt like I genuinely felt like this year, but I won't call it bird out. I got to a point where I felt a little bit. I'm loser word lost. I got to a point where I was like questioning everything because it was like, okay you want to speak to that client? Okay, so I'd like to be driven done a talk and support site for loads Bankers all these big things and everything been a kid from a single parent background. I'm like a counselor. It's only been out to be a very well sought after speaker and even something overboard at our like I couldn't to be with her. I'm 30 next month and I like shit. Wait a minute like not going to be anywhere. I like you've got a lot before you were like, you know even are halfway through your life. So, where's it all going to go necks? I really like is there another level to this game and it were all that types of questioning and then as I started reflecting on all of thinking are you going to do I think I've done the the ultra a done that as well and I like wild. Little tomorrow for know what really is enough to do. You just keep doing the same things again, but and then someone just came I don't know how it came. That's like what you're offering is look is you do love I don't to say the grimy. I love the process genuinely love the process of starting a business. I've been in the ground would be to of AMC we to do business. I love that. So actually it was where my self-care came when I got back in the game. I went from being like, okay, let's just take it back and work out. I just want in life. Kalista's clinic at that going stress the life out of me and then that smells good and I'd always tough juggling fucking hell. She's brilliant. I've got my me back from being 8 years old, you know walking on my country build our skin kind of cut the weeds up holding. The weeds are 50 B. That's when my business Joe's dad people get so wrapped up in my like mint a little story. They don't realize that for me. My real passion is business always has been from day one like be the service then going on at selling my old boots at you know from get them in. From China and the boats your boat or both are from fracture. May I come in? Yeah. Yeah, like literally I did, you know probably want to be surprised it culture of boo-boos at one point and all sorts of stuff from CDs. It's cooled over stuff that will is past five years. I could never get in trouble now just DVDs at school all sorts of stuff and I were at school like and just kept going and then windy cleaning business and there's always someone remove you chose, Georgia May say you just tell by our yeah, you just tell by and I thought that's why I love I love that color. Idea driving going shit. What can I do with her? What can I can make that into a reality where we like the journal post came with an idea of six questions is to give people whose to work with the right. Let's make it to an actual but it's not like six and a half thousand worldwide and not that that's a big number or without much effort a product that were in my head for me that that's where that shit comes but we go back to the question. We all that sounds feel bad. Now one Focus then jazzed right overwhelm. What is it that you do? Because where I'm leading with this is so really the framework a give you up with a different animals. Yep, right and the leadership framework when I was over in Copenhagen. I got to work with him for two days one to one in our group and in a bigger audience as well. And if you dare, it's called dr. Larry little and nominals psychologist just phenomenal movie to me. It's just crazy the way just dissected stuff and did some real life in the mentioned and for me that's arms out. Take notes because I'm dyslexic I and I can't remember this cat under that and he stopped me and said we're doing taking notes. Hold a cat. Remember if you just tell me somebody said oh no, he said you will remember this and he said I want you to close your eyes and do it. What's wrong? I always think of the white picket fence right up here is that white picket fence describe it to me, you know, what's with it in terms of you, you know that you be typic typical type of algae can see the corners America. Americans all right. So any came back a little bit later on inside talking about a Picket Fences, right? And you just took back that moment what he said because he said something else around it. Yep, right and he started saying the power of his yard visualization or restaurant he goes around and he starts talking about psychology and a tack talking about our business owners because these are the goals of the muscle and feel but it needs at different stages of business cultural not what manages in people in and tending to a process and actual process, right? And that's what we're going for the bank about was well, he's changing things are changing. It's a challenge. He's had a lot of business owners. He called quite a few hours out called me out Scott out what he said then were dictated to Adrenaline Adrenaline Junkies. So we like to win like to move from thing to thing and win win win win when it when he's breaking old back down the animals. Remember you got the truck hotel at the top. Yeah. It was like an introvert. Although people focused. You've got the much-loved monkey and that can get, you know likes people can get quite offended, you know other people Oh, please was a much-loved monkey. But again, that's a very people focused and its products are an excellent extra that other that extrovert and beloved. So they said that's above the lab a lot of the lad. You've obviously got the left on side. You've got the introvert but task-focused competent camel, right Osaka that one way and then we've got where Luke just sits there off the charts. Are we share this ourselves Porter? He's task-focused leading lion and but people as well as yeah, you know extrovert. But he's a big picture don't know the detail. She said a lot of business owners are leaving lines. It's just a natural fact as well. A lot of them got are some of them are a lot of them have be the competent camel and very good at what they do. And what's quite interesting between with me is I don't always believe I was very task focused or not. I was always test for because but I wasn't bothered at the detail really involved in construction health and safety. You could become task-focused quick. We what was interesting Scott was mentioning that it's got some monkey while you're right so great loves of people and they and what's been interesting non Scott with date 13 14 years and in business, I was like is West customer we start arguing with guys who look at the lion bit could go but we could just let it go. I mean you sometimes have that music all of that. It's not easy. We just Clash them out on an opinion personal and and we can see it big picture off we go. But what I watch do we have Scott in the business at times he gets frustrated because he's really good naturally technology, right? So they said dr. Larry little it was Collins all out. And he said what it is people are below the land have to get above our but don't like being above Lambic. It's not about the task and he said you've got a lot of again back to that empathy and be real and and focus on be grateful for the people. Who I've got on the more people focused and then talked about grip and he said people need grid was like right. I think he's gonna get onto the ground evening and he said right first one is Scott you're getting frustrated and you know snap at you people because you want it to be done better or frustrated that I can't go on the way it could have done but he wants to help his people but I got the town's obviously, you know that the guys he said you need grits got so I'm thinking he's going to give us some good here. He's going to go. Because G stands for get over yourself. Get over yourself. Alright, so any problem you've got get over yourself and they said you gotta get above the lab. Right and frustration is a choice and I was like and then you get sometimes anxiety depression. He said like happiness is a choice and the me, you mentioned that to me or did it just and what was he thought back on that have been addicted to Adrenaline and Jumping from thing to thing over the adrenaline thing probably jumping from that Nick's idea to they said he getting that Rush probably is that you know start that next new thing and I've always been like let's get the next new thing going but sometimes we we took my eye off the ball with everything but I figure I've built doubt about starting next thing we'll keep it under I know I'm trying to start businesses and always like with the coffee shop. Guess who knows what they do it going with him to get the camel. Yep. Be the lame way. You can see going in and let them push our mother but then give him that stay when they need it. So and the coffee shop ones is that one I think where it's going to be mighty space myself care where I can go another space upstairs. We're having that we can board games and no kids no phones going there chillout and unwinding that I think that's part of that. So yeah, I think that's where it's at. So the next one is on. Part of his grit and we're going to love this one is next one. What did the acid form and I love this one run towards and the hard thing and what you meant by that was you saying if you understand what you are. So I'm naturally lion camel really hard for me to communicate above the Lancers over itself. Don't see from that things and he said absolute bullshit said, we're not that and get good at anything. He said he can't do you want them love that one? I love this one. I He's fought been inspiring leader and he talked about that. We know a lot of people lead by tail and you actually want to get to the point where you inspire that where you sit and teach and motivate your staff and give them skills and keep on going. I was like, that's why you'll be a transfer more transformational leader your build teams, right? Yep. I love that one. And the last one the T in the grit right? He's time for yourself. He said he's got a lot of time for yourself right there when I come back off the plate. Lane and I'll that right and I'm thinking about great and Grand I'm like actually know what grade is actually no actually know what brand is that was the decision so I thought I'd leave them that but let's jump on jump on Paul. Carter said Gee like a to go myself and get to the next question who in the world. Would you like to interview past or present and why? My Missus and I would be good because she don't ever do this ever and I'd really like mommy's very close. But which is you know, which is madness when you think about everything other that it's okay. It's all but she's she's a very close very shy character. I'd love to but I like a no-holds-barred just proper interview. You don't really get to on Pickering a little one of time. That sound mad that it that it be my mrs. Could you think about some celebrity are some During leader, but I think she's had it tough, but she's quite closed book. And so it just gets on my life and kicks on and even after losing and their brother just sorta like help plan a funeral and then just went on smashed a degree and got first and quite inspiring to me, you know, and yeah, I think she'd be a great great one to sit and if she'd ever do it and listen to her nice and we manful because we want some almost over but I do like this one. Is anything else which in the last year, but we didn't. The only one at fault that you would have asked is this also can go to his about them Uncle because we lost our connection in it. So crazy that we didn't go into that which is which is great for me because that's where it always ends up becoming a lot about for me and I think the main part is I want to know about the person behind it. And this is a key point you mentioned. This is a business podcast the idea of this is you know, that might I go as I like to unleash people's potential technology, but beyond that, I think it's why we all share a collection. The man Club he's I like people to be the best version of the souls. I've achieved a lot of things in life a lot of it through technology, but by reading books a man's that you're very similar, so I just wanted to make sure that these podcasts are about sharing tools and tactics that Beaverton take away and actually do something cool the question. I thought you should have asked his we going to go and you come for lunch. No way. Are you going to go next two trips coming down to tell everyone this publicly first one? I'm going to drive down boxing there to Dover. We'll come over for the night bearing in mind just to let everyone know. I've got mrs. Toole kids ten five and a beer barrels. Just come on. We're going to stay over in the camper van 6:00 a.m. The next morning over France and we'll drive eight hours. We're breaking up a find out what I love about is will strive for four hours to pull over in a random French town where the fire was gets to we're going to sit and I'm a big yet another French food and for our doubts, please call Leisure has a big ski resort and we're going to look really sludge four five six days. Whenever we want to come home because we've got freedom got a vamp sleep in it and drive back the next one which I'm most excited about. You know, I listen we've got Disney World next year with kids. It's already planned in it's already booked but weirdly I'm not as excited about Disney World as I am about picking kids up on the last day of term from school setting straight off down south literally stole uniforms aren't getting uniforms ripped off and we get that David driving down spending the full summer. Literally when I got my map. I'm going to tell them apart on every major. Girl, I'm a little boy came of a good idea the back doors when you open doors is a big piece of two big doors wood doors into bed. I'm going to put on a big map Europe map and every place we've got is going to collect a magnet and I want to get one in. This is my dream from when I got a nice Monica crossed away allow intimacy Rome on what go to Eiffel Tower on a deal with the Coliseum on a do every major landmark around Europe as many as we can in that whatever it is. Is it four five six weeks of in to get for ya. My kid is five week and it literally two days following about the school. I want to drive back and never misses his got a business that she's going to fly down and fly back, you know always been to three weeks, but I just like the idea literally of waking up in the morning and been another Beach and took kids are sort of opened. All right breakfast is on over that women are not Beach wherever that may be where it being nice would be Monaco and it's like the idea that freedom and summer just to Air Force when I'm working out all year this year Summit just her freedom and of just watch them. Wake up in mind and your part of on or might it have been a random field somewhere and there might be a muddy as shit, and I'm going to show them all down and then you know, I just think that that means any children or remember that for the rest of the life exactly and it's all about creating memories. We talk sometimes we can all laugh we can all create massive bank accounts, but I also think life's about creating memories, correct not about creating a big bank account sir. I got that a few years ago Mark, you have to connect to an extremely important. Yeah, but at the end of day My wife got diagnosed with a disease about four or five years ago and emphysema. It's incurable. So now while she's fit enough we go away adult create a big bank account what we sit we wait for our next holiday and while we could create memories we're going to do that because Nick she she might not be able to fly. She might not be able to go anywhere. So we live for the now and that's basically what we do and yeah dog on all of these but apologizing without They all look really pale because you really don't know David. That's all I got the mantle of on Monday. So look at anything else anyone. You know what you got good Christmas by and this is our Christmas special. So just by God, where can we get them be your Journal.com. So we have with of the journals which are good for finding out more about your kids and it sounds mad that but a lot of us, you know, yes you kids other day has been all right don't know actually. All of this free question. Just remember did it change every day, you know like oh did you play with today? And why feel my goal? That's a bit of a boring question. Actually, you'll find way more out when your kid says, I'll play with Daisy today because Janet don't want to play with me anymore. And then you might ask him again later on and you start to see Trends, you know, it might be all the playing with what they're doing what their interests are what it might be like who was kind T at their wanted to do and he started to see all who was they kind to it really builds up really good conversations, and I know so my five-year-old and a little Why does it itself feels it in which I can win that put my little girl. We're asking the questions it really nice to hear some of your answers. I bought a journal for my grandson and he was suffering a little bit last year and the year before and now so much confidence and is lost. Lots of weight goes to the gym plays rugby and he's doing real well at school, but from well Wills 14 in and out but He's totally changed over the last year and a get him to fully General in and yeah, it's real good. Okay doing so nothing else you got on Paul. No, I'm busy. As always. I'm busy. I'm the busiest unemployed person in all are but we'll keep banging on door. We've got some you got some things in the pipeline. I've got some big things in the pipeline. He's coming. Oh look that's priorities. So that's a little check it out while checking out a little chicken out.
This week's Festive Special We have the very inspirational Luke Ambler Motivational Speaker / Entrepreneur / Founder & Chairman of Andysmanclub to name a few things he does these days. Luke is a big family man, engaged to Lisa and has three lovely Children Alfie Aubrey and Ada. Luke, a former professional Rugby league player, playing for the likes of Salford, Leeds Rhinos, Harlequins on loan, York on loan and Ireland. He finished his career at his beloved Halifax making 141 appearances scoring 32 tries. Luke is a fellow of Brathay, which is a charitable organisation.Their mission is to improve the life chances of children, young people and families by inspiring them to engage positively in their communities. Luke is Chief Executive of Ambler Training LTD, Has his own Journal out for adults and Children -  The Bee you Journal and The Bee You kids Journal He is opening his first Coffee Shop in the centre of Halifax The Hive. Luke is also Founder and Chairman of Andysmanclub 2016. Luke set up AMC when his Brother-in-law Andy took his own life in 2016, This has become one of the biggest mental health movements and now has over 21 clubs throughout the UK, Winning the award at the ITV National Diversity awards 2019. #productivity #business  #PersonalDevelopment #mentalhealth #technology 