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Maybe I'll do this at the end of this year or next year, but I need to do an episode kind of unlike all the things I learned this year because seriously, I feel when I think back to 2019 the visual I have is like a snow globe and like the universe God source is like shaking that fucking thing and I'm like, uh, like just like living in this chaos. It's been beautiful right like this year has been abundant. It has been Magic. Kle, it has also been consistent which is a really nice word to step into. I feel like you know, the your prior when I look at 2018. It was a lot of chaotic energy. I was traveling a lot. I was having very high and low income months. When I say low. I was still you know, making $10,000 months, but we would you know, we didn't have like a level of income or a consistency in 2018. It was kind of like we have a peak of 60,000 and then we would drop down to And you know this year in 2019. It has been very level. It has been very consistent and it's been really beautiful to build that and I'm so excited about it because I know that as I embark on this journey of teaching higher level masterminds and really helping women with that next level of business. I know that the tools that I've learned and gained in 2019 are really going to benefit not just me, but my students right so are rising Sisterhood Mastermind. Is going to be open for enrollment soon. If you want to know more about that, you can direct message me on Instagram at badass business babe. I'm keeping it really private and off the radar, you know, I'm really intentional about who I bring into those programs. So Reach Out connect. We also have an amazing incredible new program coming out in 2020. Oh my God, like it makes you could hear me smile. Like I am so freaking excited about this program. I feel like in 2019 and that shake-up. 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I know I'm talking about it now, but it's the holidays, you know, what's around and it's for free for you guys. So have fun and you'll hear more about that later, but speaking of inner work speaking of that journey of development today on the bed as business podcast. I have the honor and pleasure of interviewing Deanna sing, Deanna's. Thing is talking today about how to overcome the fear of failure and really find your courage. She is you know, it's so funny. I always go back and look at people's bios before I do these intros her website calls her a gifted communicator and guys that is a fucking understatement. If there ever was one. She is a magical Communicator this woman speaks in such an amazing beautiful way and provide so much value in her business to entrepreneurs. She helps women in Trailblazers really design these beautiful abundant identities and she shares her personal stories her authenticity and her vulnerability and helping people create change. She has a book called The purposeful hustle, which looks so magical. She's sending me a copy and I'm so excited. I encourage you guys to go check her out and we actually will share details to her website in the comments below but on this episode we are going to talk to you guys about overcoming fear and stepping into courage. She Is a lot of vulnerability here as a professional paid speaker. Her journey of booking deals her journey of getting her books published. She's real she's raw cheese transparent and she has a ton of value to share. So sit back. Relax, Deanna. Thank you so much for being on the show. If you loved this episode if you're taking away breakthroughs, if you're having a light bulb moments, please leave us a review so that this episode can get heard and seen by other women who need to create change in their lives and go ahead and share on Instagram that you're listening to this story so that we can celebrate you. I love you guys. Thank you so much for being here. Happy holidays. Enjoy the show. And remember wherever you are right now is not where you have to be. You ready to talk about fear? Yes my God. I'm so excited. You know, it's really funny. I was writing. I've been the stage right now where I'm trying to really focus on getting our message out there, and so I'm writing featured articles for hopefully to get published on other platforms, and I started to write about that element of fear today and like it's just so Divine that the day I'm writing in depth about fear. I'm sitting down and having this conversation with you. So Deanna, thank you. For being here. Thank you. I'm so excited to be here with you to this is going to be awesome. Where do we even start on this conversation? I think that it's great to talk about this whole idea of fear and and the inverse of it really courage right the antidote. Yeah, tell me a little bit about how fear has played in your life. And because obviously you're talking about this. This is something passionate for both of us. It's near and dear to our hearts, right? So, what's your story around fear? You learned around fear and how have you more deeply got on that journey of embody and courage so I am somebody that used to be paralyzed by the idea of failing at something. I am like, you know, totally into this whole idea of like gotta win gotta win, right and and so the idea that I would do something where there was a high threat of failure or a lot of fear was something that was hard for me to get over I Actually was talking to my mom and I'm like, yeah, you know, I'm going to be talking about failing and she's like, that's great. You're so good at that now, I mean thanks Mom. You know what she even said when I was little like if she couldn't get me out of the door sometimes right when there were things that I just didn't think that I was gonna be able to rock completely and so it's been a real has been the word journey is a great word to use for this because it definitely has been a journey and it's been a learning exercise for me more than anything. So there's a couple of techniques of use You know over the years and been able to build up to help me practice being courageous right and and to be in a place where I could get over this idea that my failing or this idea fear was going to stop me. Yeah. Do you remember moments when you were a kid where you wanted to do something and you were paralyzed in that state of like in action? I'm wondering what our Kind of the stories that come up for you in that moment that keep you frozen. What are the things that you tell yourself when you're Frozen in fear or that, you know, maybe your clients have come across to those self debilitating thoughts that come up when you're Frozen in time. Well, I think one of the biggest ones that I I know I deal with and I know a lot of people that I work with deal with is this idea of being an imposter like do I belong here? Is it okay for me to Speak but do I have you know the appropriate background or skill set or title to be able to step into this space? So a lot of times is this idea that maybe I don't belong here and therefore I shouldn't I shouldn't bring my full self to Bear right? I'm afraid that people are going to be like hey, who do you think you are who gave you permission to speak up or do something? So I think this is like one that definitely chases all of us around. And and what I found in my career that's been really interesting to me is that a lot of times the people that we hold up right? So people who are leaders in our communities and our CEOs of big companies or are just people that we you know admire that they all have this imposter syndrome to so I'm like, we're all walking around here thinking we're not good enough though. That is a huge one and certainly one, you know that I felt when I was when I was a little girl, I think especially then it was also Is age thing like am I old enough my old enough to do this? Yeah that comes up for me a lot. And I think you know, I don't know if this is a stretch but when I was a kid, I remember my parents or my aunt's or just adults around me would say things like oh, well, you're just a kid like you don't get this or you know, maybe you'll understand more when you're an adult or you know, when you grow up you'll realize almost like you're not knowledgeable now, so Wait till you get older and I really feel like that's kind of where the conditioning started for me. Right? I think we do it all of the time where we just count somebody because of whatever right in ages and easy one because we can see it and we know it and so, you know, we won't listen or we won't give people literally like pass the mic right to them because we think that they don't have the experience what I found though is the exact opposite. I mean, I work with a lot of children and quite frankly they are so much smarter than We are because they don't have the conditioning that we've been given to tell us what can't be done. And so they can look at a situation and see it purely for what it is and what could be done without all the baggage that we bring with it. And so to like, you know squash that perspective is something that's really a pet peeve of mine and it's really frustrating. Yeah, and I think too when you're a kid, there's not this fear of like well if I fail I won't be enough or if I fail I won't receive love, you know, they're kind of in that stage of like I'm just going to do this because it's fun and they explore what they're truly passionate about without judgment. All right, I think as I got older I had less pressure of like well if this doesn't work, then I'm going to give that meaning that I'm not educated or I'm not good enough for that. This is the wrong career choice right? Tell me a little bit about some of those practices that we can do to pull ourselves out of that feeling of imposter syndrome. And how does that more deeply into our courage? So I think one of the things is something you just said right now, which is how do we create an inner narrative? That is really nice. I I think that it's so so funny but a really great mentor of mine told me that she started doing this since I started doing it too because she said it was working and I now can attest that it did work or it does work. She said, you know, I had this like voice in my head and it's like she's super mean she's like this mean girl and she'll be like, yeah, you're not good enough yet. Whatever right? She says all these mean things. And so what I started to do is I realized that like, I don't necessarily want her to go away because sometimes she actually, you know motivates me to get things done right or or to try something or to move faster to not procrastinate whatever so she has some good some positive qualities to her. But what I started to do was actually talk to her and say, you know what? I just do not like the tone that you have right now is you know, I think that you could provide some really constraint I constructive feedback and I think that I could really benefit from what you have to say, but I'm going to need you to say it a little bit differently. And so when you're ready to do that, I'll be ready to listen, right which sounds so like insane like what talk to yourself but I think that that's a huge and really powerful technique because then you get to control what that voice does and you get to practice affirming yourself. So I think that's one huge technique when it comes to the Imposter syndrome. One I think another one that you know, I try to encourage people to go about doing is thinking well. What is it? That would make me feel like I wasn't part of this like outside, you know that I'm outside the circle that I'm not in the circle and once they actually sit down and think about that what they often realize is that you know, they're like, oh no other people think this but it's not other people. It's actually something inside of themselves. And so so the things that they'll say like, oh, you know, I just was talking to this wonderfully incredibly intelligent woman amazing leader and she's like, I don't think that I could go for this executive role and I said, well, why not she said, well, I think I could but first I have to go get my MBA and I said, oh really I said, do you mind let's just look at the website really quick and sweep up the website and we look at all the other executive leaders. There's like eight of them and I was like, can you tell me I'm here who has an MBA. None of them even always my God. And so I said so why do you think like I support education? I have a degree for every decade. I love going to school right? I think it's awesome. But I said well, why do you think that you need an MBA when literally none of the other people here? What is it that you really are struggling with or what? What's it the basis of that and she said, well, you know what? I just don't feel like a really confident that I know how to do or casting. I don't know how you know to look at what may be coming down the pipe and how do I do forecasting budgeting, you know in forecasting and I said really that's so interesting. So then I pulled up another Tab and I just typed in forecasting budget learn how to we found like a 12-hour class. We found a couple of Articles we fuck and I took Jesus or anybody in your network who knows how to do she's like, yeah. I'm like, what do you think if you just said hey, could you take an hour and a half and just maybe I won't be Expert in it, which you don't have to be at the exact level. You have to be able to be able to monitor it right but not necessarily be the person who's doing all of it. I said I don't would somebody sit down with you for like an hour and a half and just go through that. So so we went from getting an MBA a three-year plan to like a two-week plan, right? Yeah, and so some I think sometimes we do that. So that's the other thing is just like acknowledge what it is. That's making you feel like you're on the outside and think about what's the shortest path? Me to get past that point and quite honestly, I think even asking the harder question do I really need that or is that just a really convenient? Excuse for me to stay on the outside? Mmm. I love that. I think often times we put these expectations on ourselves of what we need to do first or what we should be doing before we take the leap that we want to take like, you know, I want to be a public speaker just as an example. Let's use that people come to me for that all the time. Then they come up with the story of like, well, I have to go to speaking classes and I have to go, you know, really make sure I get a speaking coach and fix all of my arms and my eyes and my hiccups in the real truth is that they feel like they're not enough as they are they feel like they don't have the assets or the ability to do what it is that they want to do because they feel like deep down. They might not be good enough for that. So that feeling of insecurity, you know, we talked about courage and I think courage is really being able to do something even though you're afraid to be able to say yes. I'm afraid but I'm going to do this anyway, but that feeling of confidence and feeling of I know I know I can do this. I know everything is figure out a bowl. How do we cultivate that within ourselves? Oh that is such a great question. And I love that. You used the verb like you're using this idea of cultivate right like that. That is something that can be created. It isn't something that just falls out of this. Guy, so how do you go about you know cultivating this idea of I'm going to step into the places where I'm afraid? The number one thing you do is you practice it. So what do I mean by that? I would think about something and you know, you can start wherever you feel comfortable so you could start so your friend to the party. We're talking about somebody who wants to go into public speaking you could say to that person. What would be some low-hanging fruit where you could go and practice your public speaking so So could you do a presentation for for your company? Could you ask to speak at an organization that you belong to could you speak at your kids school? Right. Could you what are some just like low-hanging fruit where you could go and you could step into that place where you're afraid? Okay, great. Go do that then. What would be the next thing right? What would be the next thing that would get you a little bit further out of their comfort zone? Okay. So now it's not just your group or your Now it's bringing together an association that you speak at. Can you do that? Yeah. Okay great. Right and just constantly saying like where's the line? And how do I how do I not just take a little toe and put it over but how do I jump over it Okay. Now, what's the next line? How do I jump over it and being really intentional about what that feels like and what that and what that looks like. Oh my gosh, that's amazing. It's about taking that big dream and putting it into these smaller more simplistic attainable steps as you start to cultivate that confidence over time right now. I know you also to have some speaking background. That's a really big part of your brand and your mission and what you do. I know you were featured on tedx. How in the Journey of your own personal life. How did you cultivate that skill set of being confident on stage? I know we're talking about little things that Right, but where there were their practices that you have before you went on stage were there things that you have to overcome before you were able to reach that end goal for yourself? So I have always been very very comfortable on stages. I think you know, I started doing public speaking when I was super young and so that is something that I think is a huge Advantage right that I have kind of coming into this space because it doesn't a hundred people thousand people, you know, 10,000 people. It doesn't it doesn't have an impact on me, which I didn't realize was unusual until I was like in my 30s and I'm like, oh we're get afraid of this. Oh my God, so many people get afraid but it didn't totally totally not on my radar. Right because everybody has different things that that that scared them or that don't scare them but one thing that I will tell you that I do and honestly didn't realize I was doing it and tell people ask me like what what do you do to make sure that you you know, keep your nerves calm and to do that is that before I go onto stage. I actually pray and I say the same prayer every time it's a little it's like a verse from a song so with subconscious Without even thinking about it. I I do it and what it does is it allows me to get grounded in the fact that what I'm doing is really not about me. Well, I think if I started thinking like oh, this is about me then I would probably freak me out but I don't I think about like wow this is what a humbling and amazing experience I get to have and I get to be able to share this time with people. What can I do for them? And so because it's not right. It's just not self-centered. It's very like other Centric And my prayer is very other eccentric to like it. It allows for me to put it in the right spot. So can I do something for other people any day all day right if I think about Jennifer myself then it's like whoa, wait Pastor all the other things are coming in. So I think that's that's just one of my one of the things that I do. Christmas time I feel like we need some like Bells chiming some holiday Wuzzles going you guys. It's the holiday and that means I'm over here at badass business babe giving you some free Kick Ass gifts here a badass business, babe every holiday. We do something called business and for a week, we're going to be giving you some Epic free value to elevate your business and to transform yourself. I'm super excited about this round of business because four five Five straight days. I'm going to be giving you guys some of my favorite most dear friends as guest coaches inside of the badass business babe Community. Yes for five straight days. 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Come join us at badass business babe.com holiday. I'll see you there. Now. Let's get back to the episode. I would love that. Could you share the prayer with us? Oh, yes, so I say dear God give me the words to say if I can hear from you then I'll know. what to do And that to me like it doesn't matter how many times I say it or whatever how many, you know engagements or anything like that. Every time I say it I get chills, right? Because what I'm trying to do when I'm trying to open myself up to is like I don't I just want to be a vessel like I want to be able to be in tune enough with the audience that you've been put me in front of so that I can be a vessel and I can I can provide some something that they're looking for right or something that will help them get. Are there faster and so yeah, that's what I do. I'd love that. I think you know this resonates so much with me because in the beginning of my journey, I very much made a lot of my actions about me and I had this energy of well, if this doesn't work out, it's my it's because there's something wrong with me or if this does succeed I'm amazing. Look how magical I am right and then as I started to grow my business I fell into this deep relationship with service in this deep connection. Section 2 helping other people and I started to realize that my business wasn't about me. It was about the people that I was helping and what was so interesting was that once I did that it was almost like I had the courage to do the things that were a big scary thing because you know what you feel like if there's something bigger than you along the journey with you you are safe you are supported and it almost makes it I guess a little bit more safe for you to take those big chances. That's right. I mean and the book is a perfect example, if you would have told me the book has been out for a little bit over a year. If you had told me even 24 months ago like you're going to write a leadership book. I would have left. There's no way right like the whole idea was to much it was all encompassing. It was like scary is daunting. How does one even go about doing that? Like all of it? It was just too big but instead of sitting down and thinking I'm going to write a book. I sat down and thought like what are the things that people have asked me and how Can I be more efficient with my ability to share my mistakes and share the things that I've learned from and share some of these tools and so as soon as I sat down with that mindset, it stopped being about writing a book and it started to be about like how do I provide this support and and then it was then it was joyful. Yeah, I love that and when you're operating from that place of joy things are actually just way more successful of all the time. Yeah, absolutely. Can we talk about purposeful hustle? Because I have I have so many questions. I want to know for you like this this overall centered theme of being in alignment with the hard work right and learning how to be in a place of service and also show up to go after what it Is that your feeling deeply called to do tell the audience a little bit about this book and what it means to you and what it's true mission is its core sure so purposeful hustle is broken into two different sections. The first is on purpose and the second is on hustle. And the reason why I wrote the book is because I did want to get at like how do people use their purpose to make a difference in the world. Right? How do you have a direct impact on and a positive impact? And the world around us. I think a lot of people are thinking about what's my legacy? What's my impact? Am I leaving the world a better place? Right? These are all questions that I think are burning questions and part of the human experience. And so the first half of the book what we do is we talk about purpose. Why is it important? Why do you have to write it down? What does it look? Like? How do you find it? What you know, what are all the components that make up purpose and I Define purpose as what are you uniquely positioned to do in the world then the second half the book is all about hustle. And so there we really talked about what are the some of the challenges that people face when they're trying to live in their purpose. So if purpose is the why hustle is the how right like, how do I live in my purpose? What does that look like? How do I show up in the world? And one of the things that I did in order to write that section is I listed out over two decades worth of reasons why people gave me that they weren't living in their purpose. I don't have enough money. I don't have enough time. I don't know where to start. I don't have the right education. Keisha knime whatever right all the all the reasons why people and challenges that people had in trying to live and their purpose and then I looked at them and I was like, well, what are the characteristics you'd have to practice in order to get past these challenges and every time I looked at the list and kind of you know kind of reflected on it and and and took that list every single time. I kept coming back to four characteristics. And those are the four characteristics that now make up the second part of the book. It's initiative curiosity courage and resiliency. And I think that if you practice those four characteristics, you can really get past like all of the challenges at least the ones that I've heard in my in my experience and in my coaching, I love that. I love them. They're so strong. They're so to the point and that resiliency that ability to be able to say, you know, maybe I'll fail or it's temporary defeat right? Because we need to change our language around what failure really is, but maybe I'll temporarily feel defeated but I will figure out what the next Biz to take I will solve this problem and move through whatever this obstacle is in my life or in my business. I think that's that's a characteristic. I feel like they should teach kids in school lately. It's actually one of the things that I will not hire somebody on my team if they can't if they can't do this I do some version of this question. Like, can you please tell me I need you to solve a problem. Right? So it's either problem. They've they've stated or one that I give them and then I say I need you. To give me ten ways that you would go about solving that problem or it when I really want to be really really tough cookie. What I will do is I'll say tell me what the worst date would be like on this job like in doing this work. They tell me what it is. I'm like, okay pretend like that happen. Now, what would you do and then they tell me something I said. Well that didn't work. That's how me what else would you do and if they can't get to 10, I don't hire them. Why is that because what I want to see is what we're going to fail if you're an entrepreneur or Doing anything. I don't care what your line of business is or what your sector is or how old you are. How smart you are you're going to feel that's it's a common experience. The question is are you going to be able to fail well, and so I want people who know that it's okay to fail one, but two that they're going to be able to pick themselves back up and come up with some other ideas. They won't let it crush them. Oh, yeah, it's this is so juicy. I love this. I don't know if you know this woman the the Founder of space of Spanx her name is Sara Blakely. She has this video that I remember watching when I was like super young on my entrepreneurial Journey where she talked about how her dad when she was a kid every night at dinner. They would sit around the dinner table and her dad would ask her and her siblings. How did you fail today? Tell me how you failed today and he would celebrate all of the kids. So, you know, her brother would be like, well I missed the goal today at soccer and it yes you fail. That's great. And it really taught her to change her language around what failure actually meant and I always remember that because to her failure was just a part of the process. It was something that was normal and happened and you moved through it and it was okay when you had it happen and you figured out what the next step would be and I love that. You know when you're hiring for your team putting them in a position where they're forced to kind of face this imaginary defeat. Eat and what that would look like and then solving this problem on the other way because I think for many of us when we feel that failure happen we say oh my God, I'm gonna be a total failure. This isn't going to work. My life's over. I'm going to go broke. I'm going to end up homeless. The kids are going to be on the street. Like we fall down this crazy Rabbit Hole of fear, and I think some people honestly fall down that rabbit hole before they start. Oh, yeah, definitely definitely. I mean, you know, it's funny that you're talking about the kids because I just had an epic failure. May I share? Oh, yeah lay it on me. So I wrote this book. I wrote it three times and this is not like playing around. I mean, I rewrote it three times so altogether, it's I definitely it's about 250 thousand words, right? Like I mean just a ton a ton of work put into into this book and I had an agent that reached out to me through Do you know a number of connections and it was a really big well-known agent and she said I'm really interested in your work. Would you mind submitting a proposal so I spent months putting this proposal together? I know nothing about this process right so months putting this proposal together. It's like 70 Pages. It's just my heart and soul whatever I sent it to her and I'm thinking like this is great. I hear all these stories about people who go to agents and then they get denied but this one reached out to me. So this is you know, We're golden and I put so much time and energy effort. Whatever. Yeah, then I get it. I get a message really polite. Thanks so much for submitting. We're going to pass. Are you kidding me? You're going to pass. I put all this time into this and you asked me to do this. Right? Like I wasn't even headed down this direction and you brought me down here. So anyways, I remember though. I sent a message to my husband at this talks about how you have to have your squad has to be in this with you, right? So I sent a text message to my husband and I just copy and paste the The email from from the agent and he writes back and he's like congratulations. I'm like to see this text message, but then the next line was that just one less person that you have to go and talk to you right and so I'm like, oh, yeah, so then I get home and I tell my kids, you know what happened because they'd see me, you know, put this proposal together and how excited I was and everything and my kids are like awesome. Mommy good job. You just totally failed but what how cool is that? And I thought I'm doing too. A job at teaching them how to handle failure right? Like I need you all to be mad with me for just a second. But what was so cool about all of that right as I also sent it to my editor who had been helping me through this process and she sent me back to the most lovely message like Deanna. I'm so sorry. I know how hard you worked on this and everything and before especially since this is a Friday night that she sent it to me that I got it Friday afternoon. So Saturday morning is when I saw her message, but when I wrote her back what I said Ed was like thanks, you know for your note, but I actually already sent it out to another Nate agent because what I did before I even sent it to the first agent is I made a list of other people that I could send it to and like just in case this doesn't work out so planning for my failure, right? So Friday night. Yeah. I had an attitude. I walked around this house like boom boom. Boom, right? My kids are all happy my husband being supportive and I was like, not yet. I'm not ready. I need to be in this moment by Saturday morning because I already had a plan for What I would do when I failed I was good. I was fine. I was ready to move on. I love this. And actually I just want to like thank the universe for a hot minute because it's so funny. We're talking about things that like right now. I'm navigating in my life in some way. So I'm like writing this article. I did I talk to you a little bit in the beginning to tell you like I was trying to get my articles published on other platforms and this is like all new to me whole new monster like, you know trying to pitch myself on Forbes. And entrepreneur and ink and like these are different platforms. I've just never had to do that before and so in my head I'm like riding up this article and I'm like, this is such a waste of time. They're going to reject this. Oh my God, like what a waste and I feel this feeling of like why am I putting all this time and effort into trying to get this article to be perfect if it's just going to be rejected but what you're saying to me is like exactly what I need to hear that element of like know what are you going to do after that? Right? Like who will you also send this to? How are Going to come up with a strategy to definitely get this published and just talk to one less person. If you don't get approved by the first person you talk, right? So I made a list of twenty seven agents. Oh my God, and so, you know, we're just going to go through it. And guess what after 27, I'll decide I'm going to move forward and I'm going to get do another 27 or I'm really now I'm not going to but one of the strategies that I like to tell people is Right a regardless if list so in your situation, this is how it plays out. Okay, so regardless Alice if you regardless of your your article ever gets published what will happen. Well, you've will have done some amazing research you will have put your thoughts on paper and be able to use that in another podcast in a speaking engagement. You will be smarter because of it you will have learned what the process is of pitching. So when you go to do it again, you'll be able to pitch at the end of the day you're regardless if list is something that somebody else might pay a significant amount of money for right for that. Knowledge that experience that that opportunity and and that's something that you're just doing for yourself. So at the end of the day like regardless if the worst thing could happen in the worst case, you know scenario for me is the book doesn't get traditionally published. Well, guess what I know how to self publish and guess what you have a podcast right with lots of people. You can send it out as an email or put it up on a website like regardless if it's still going to have an impact it's going to impact you and it's going to impact the people Who get to read it? So have you lost is there even a potential here for failure? No. Yeah. Oh my gosh, you're like speaking of my soul right now. I love you. I'm so happy on the show. What what for you I think this like last question just to kind of brighten everything up. What would you want the woman out there to know the woman who has a goal has a dream and she has not moved forward on that the way that she really wants to she's playing small she Housing maybe she's kind of half-assing her action. What do you want her to know? I want her to know that she has everything that she needs already. And the biggest thing is she has the permission to succeed. I love that Deanna. Thank you so much for being on the badass business podcast. I adore you and for anybody who wants to connect with you more deeply can you tell our followers in our audience where they can find you? Sure. Well, thank you so much. First of all for letting me be on the show. It's Really fun. This is a topic. I'm super passionate about and so it's been fun to be able to share with you people who want to get connected. Please go to the website. It's www.stlglass.com. NN a SI. NG H.com. You can sign up for our Vlog. I'm also on Facebook and on Instagram and Linkedin and so if you're on any of those platforms and you want to connect Out there, that would also be awesome amazing. Thanks so much. Thank you.
Deanna Singh is recognized as a leading authority in building innovative opportunities within underserved communities. As Chief Change Agent and Founder of Flying Elephant, Deanna is a highly respected thought leader, who has spent almost 20 years researching, designing and building asset-based solutions to complex social challenges. Today she travels the world inspiring and educating audiences. What we talked about: -Imposter syndrome and how to overcome this. -Age limitation -creating an inner narrative that empowers you. -How to control the voice inside your head. -Overcoming fear of public speaking -Living in your purpose -Solving a problem and the qualities you should look for in your team when hiring. -”Failing well” is such an important part of the journey. 