This is optimal living daily episode 15 11 between peace and pursuit by Greg Audino of Greg Audino.com. And I'm your narrator Justin moloch reading you blogs or articles every single day of the year to help you live a more meaningful life covering personal growth self-help, minimalism productivity happiness and more today's author is life coach Greg ID know who also happens to host two of our other shows optimal relationships daily and our newest show optimal living advice. Ice where he answers your life questions with his expertise as a life coach now before we get to his post if you have a business or you know, someone who does you probably know that small business owners wear a lot of hats and some of those hats are totally great but some like filing taxes and running payroll, for example, not so great. 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There are the Psychopaths that walk between skyscrapers on tightropes. Then there's everyone in between. What's the common denominator? What I want to do in this Reed is shed light on one simple practice that stands as a sweet spot between a peaceful. Everything is great type of life versus the life of someone who constantly seeks challenges and covering new ground to feel their best. That practice is allowance allowance is the key ingredient for both parties here and though it results in the same goal for each one the path by which it does so and the reason that it's so meaningful is different. What do I mean by allowance? Well, this is pretty first grade really it means allowing things to happen really take a second to consider the weight of that though consider how much that permeates into your life. I'm talking about allowing feelings events catastrophes impulses everything. It's a lot to wrap one's mind around. So let's go ahead and break this thing down it all starts with something happening to you that elicits a negative reaction. Let's say these some things can be broken down into two categories interior and exterior as far as the interior goes a feeling comes over you right at face value feelings can then be broken down into emotions and urges. What does it look like to allow a negative emotion like anger sadness jealousy Etc to allow a negative emotion means to feel it with Resistance is to say yes, I'm feeling angry sad jealous and that's all right. It may not be in my best interest to be feeling this way. But it's how I'm feeling right now. And that's fine. Theoretically if you got to a place where you're so good at allowing everything such feelings wouldn't come up but chances are that's a ways off. So in the meantime to accept these emotions without supplementary commentary about how wrong it is to be feeling them is what it means to allow negative feelings. What about when this feeling is coming off? So as more of an urge, let's say feeling murderous. For example, let's dive in headfirst right when you have a negative feeling that's provoking you to act in a negative way. You're still granted the opportunity to allow this feeling no matter how much you might frighten any part of you whether or not you choose to engage in the action is a different conversation for a different read but to not judge yourself harshly for having certain urges in the first place is where allowance comes in. So where patience comes in if need be it's also the attitude that will enable you the Ability to seek help for yourself. Remember there's nothing wrong with Desiring and pursuing certain outcomes. It's human nature. However to not be resistant of your current circumstances is an integral part of life and there's absolutely a difference between the two and then on the other hand you have the interior feelings that don't have quite as much weight to them but still pry you out of your comfort zone. I'm talking about the random urge to take the long way home, even though you really should get back soon or the inclination to step out of the office and watch the sunset even though you still have another hour worth of Paperwork to sift through that sort of thing is the innocent things you normally resist by saying no now I really shouldn't these kinds of instances make that different conversation about whether or not you engage in certain actions that I mentioned earlier a whole lot easier but still the allowance is the same. It's allowing yourself to get taken away slightly off schedule. It's allowing the small unique callings into your life. Thereby getting more comfortable and in tune with the present then of course there's that rough tumbling exterior. There's those things that happened to you on the exterior that are really out of your hands such as the death of a loved one. Losing your job or your home going up in Flames. Don't get overwhelmed. There are smaller things too. Don't forget about people gossiping about you being treated unfairly at work or my favorite example that seems to come up in every single thing. I write traffic let alone War famine and other tragedy that could be thousands of miles away the lack of control we have over these things can make them much easier or much harder to allowed. Depending on who you are either way to let them be should not be so clouded as to assume that they're undeniably wrong for you or wrong for the world grants you the ability to allow them to happen and understand even briefly that we don't have all the answers in this way allowance lifts a huge weight off the shoulders of those that bear the burden of claiming to know the perfect order of events. That should be taking place. We've been talking for a few minutes here. But how does this tie together? What does all this have to do with different paths towards meeting the As versions of ourselves this may sound like the hottest take ever but the fact is that inner peace and challenging oneself are in many ways the same thing. We aren't living in a state of resistance when you're flowing and allowing things to be as they are even if you're gently pursuing something more appealing. Of course, it's a form of Peace. It's also a challenge though because this is against our instincts to accept things that are way off your agenda and breaks the normal cycle of what you planned on or anticipated is challenge leaning into all of these unexpected undesirable things regardless of how severe they are is a practice in both peace and challenging yourself to leave your comfort zone. The post titled between peace and pursuit by Greg Audino of Greg Audino.com and don't forget Gusto offers modern easy payroll and benefits to small businesses across the country. There are even named best online payroll by PC mag. Get three months free. When you run your first payroll at Gusto.com old don't wait. Now's the best time to get set up. That's custo.com. Oh LD I'll do for today. Have a great day, and I'll see you tomorrow where your optimal life awaits.
Greg Audino shares his thoughts on balancing peace and pursuit. Episode 1511: Between Peace and Pursuit by Greg Audino on How To Balance Personal Growth & Being Happy with Your Life Greg Audino is both a certified life coach and an actor. He combines his passions to create short and digestible videos which shine new light on the turbulent areas of life that many of us already have our minds made up about. Constantly seeking to share new insight, Audino uses humor and a variety of PG-13 examples to offer a refreshing and more relatable approach to self-development. TV fanatics can find him with principle roles on shows like Westworld, Now Apocalypse, NCIS:LA, and Jane the Virgin to name a few. Greg's videos, as well as information about becoming a life coaching client of his, can be found at gregaudino.com. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts! Gusto is making payroll, benefits, and HR easy for small businesses. Get 3 months free once you run your first payroll with our link: Gusto.com/OLD  ---   Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/optimal-living-daily/support 