Hello and welcome everyone to another episode of the conscious. Junkie bubka show today. I am joined by the beautiful bridge concert who is one of the Lana's amazing vyasa teachers. She's 33 and from Ohio in America where she used to practice law. However, brick wanted to change a lot.A couple of years ago and she traveled to India where she met the man of her dreams who will become her husband in just three weeks after they met everyone thought that it would end up as just another holiday Aromas, but they were wrong because we're four years later now and they are still together and raises even writing a book about it. Welcome to the show Bridge. Thank you Lonnie. I'm so happy to have you first and foremost because you've been one of my incredible teachers here in Salalah. And colleagues and also because like I think it was on the first day that we met that you taught me something about the book that you're writing. Yes. Yeah, so I'm gonna ask some more about that. Okay, and before we start with that, it's just funny guys because you probably hear it. I'm still in Sri Lanka that we record this podcast, but you hear this little Sri Lanka you guys sweeping just as we press play is started sweeping, but I guess that's just life. Okay. Great Are You full time? You're a teacher? In Sri Lanka. Yes in Sri Lanka. Yes in Australia where I live now no and Australia, I'm actually working again in love and immigration law. But so I'm doing this full time and then because I never wanted to make yoga well at one point in my life. I did have yoga as my source of income and I think it's really great when some people can do this and they have a really healthy relationship with yoga and money, but I just couldn't really figure out that perfect balance between I mean being a full-time yoga teacher and then worrying about this also supporting my lifestyle or supporting my life and being able to, you know not have to sit in class and count how many students I had in class and feeling really kind of funny when I would charge my private students a higher rate because you know, it just needed to charge a little bit higher for my time. Yeah, and I found myself often actually giving my private lessons for free because I would think maybe that wasn't good enough for them or something and that they all what does give it to them for free. They're one of my first so, you know, and I kind. I realize I was devaluing myself and this ended up manifesting as almost a devaluation of my only a question. Hmm. So I fortunately found this job in love which was really nice because I could go back to activating that side of my brain. Yes. I really like this. How different right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's a because in law school think we are trained how to think a certain way and so then when we kind of lose this opportunity to use that side of our brain, it does kind of feel a little bit like something's missing and so it ended up working out perfectly for the first two and a half years. I was living in Australia. I was teaching yoga full-time. Yeah. Now it's really fortunate that my husband was able to financially support me. Yeah, but yeah, it was really I was really also feeling a little bit devalued in myself where I was relying on somebody else for a source of income after having been a lawyer. Yeah able to support myself for so long and relying on somebody else's really as an independent woman. It was really uncomfortable. Yeah, I totally get that. Yeah, so when you were living back in the States until what year did you live in the state's? I lived in States up until the end of 2014 and back then you were lucky you weren't a yoga teacher yet. I was actually so I became a yoga teacher a little bit as a joke. I finished law school and half way through law school. I kind of thought I don't know if this is for me because I really wanted to help people. I wanted to work in immigration law and help refugees. Hmm But I started to think that maybe being a lawyer was just a bit to type a little bit too intense. It wasn't a much more kind of, you know, a little bit grounded and serious. It's just I just it was just so about money and so much about these things that I just never really cared about and a lot of the cultures to do, you know based around alcohol and drinking and partying at things like this and just didn't really seem like it was a good fit for me. And so I almost quit halfway through my mom was like no you should your study finish it. Yeah, but anyway, so I thought okay well I'll finish law school, but I doubt you can pass the bar exam because I didn't feel really passionate about it. And so I ended up I was practicing yoga twice a day every day because it was kind of the only place that I felt while you were studying while I was studying because yeah setting was just so intense and I just needed something to counterbalance that and so every morning at 6:00 a.m. I was going to yoga and then going to class and then working and then, you know going to yoga after before. Yeah asleep. So it's just a really it was actually really beautiful opportunity to kind of have yeah being able all to practice the law side of things and then also have yoga Incorporated. Yeah, but then so kind of as a joke as I was practicing so much and I kind of thought about doing the teacher training just to gauge for you when you thought about doing the teacher training in law school. So I was 25 26. I forget my age. Yeah, it was okay and Yeah, so kind of as a joke. I thought okay. Well if I don't pass the bar exam or just becoming yoga teacher. Haha. That was like, you know, my plan B was to be your teacher which not many people are like, oh if I don't pass the bar become a yoga teacher they think I'll take it again, but it's a 50% passage rate. And so she only yeah, so I really didn't think I was in the past. I just I'd because I didn't I wasn't that type of person of being so intensive. Yeah, I'm really disciplined and studying all the time. And yeah, so when I was studying other people were studying late into the night. I was kind of like You're already dreaming about your life. Is he enjoying my life? I just didn't want to be stressed out. And so many people were so stressed out and I just didn't want to feel that but if you want to live that way and but yeah, I passed the bar of course and I think I actually passed the exam because I was not stressed so we have so it's three days long and you have little breaks in between each section. And so during the breaks other people like somebody actually got up and had to leave and go vomit because they were so stressed out in the middle of the exam and other people are like they're barely able to eat. Was because they're just so stressed out. There was a tree out front and I just started doing like dangling from the tree and climbing the tree and hang upside down and just doing some yoga and meditation and pranayama and hear that and honestly, I think that's why I passed it on think it was anything to do with you were you know anymore. I just wasn't you do have to breathe and relax yourself. Yeah. I mean there were students that were my colleagues in law school that were way better, you know with everything in law school like they were much much higher in the ranking system. And yeah, Yeah, they something important something didn't pass on the first phone. I think it's because they put so much pressure on themselves. And yeah, a lot of them, you know, their parents were lawyers and grandparents is a big problem. I think of this Society so much pressure on people. It's very said, yeah, I was the first one in my family to go to postgraduate education. So wow, so I didn't have any pressure. I was just I mean some people might find that more stress inducing for me. I was just like well, I'm the first one. So if I don't make it no harm done, I don't have any kind of unrealistic. I know that's a lot to a family members or anything like that. I was just kind of accepting whatever happened. And so then you you passed and then was that the moment that you first teacher training right after or I had already started it when I had taken the bar exam it was about a weekend. And so I was like, oh, okay. Well, I'm going to become a lawyer now. I was immediately luckily. I was immediately hired on as an associate attorney who I had been a lot of work so which was also very fortunate a lot of people struggling to find a job and I was just really lucky because I specialize in Immigration not that many people back. Then now immigration in America So Glamorous but back then we didn't have a president who were trying to build a wall. So so immigration wasn't quite so interesting. So I was one of the few people that was willing to do immigration law and so it was easy for me to get a job, but I just I kept doing the training because I was loving it. So I would add a beautiful Arthur's but that, you know view over the state house in Columbus and probably super busy. I was just joking. Yeah, it wasn't too bad because it wasn't it. It was a movement every week Thursday, I think from like six to nine or something. It was yeah, it was actually perfect because I can integrate all of the information that I was learning like throughout the week and applying it to my high-stress job. And then we be talking about things like Cobra highlight and investing in. Oh, that's fantastic. Yeah. It was actually super great body that way. Yeah. Yeah, and so we're gonna close my office door and then be doing handstands opens my office door and my colleagues would be like, what is she doing in there and they were like, what's up? I'm just practicing my head statins and harder so funny. So they think they are probably assume that I wouldn't have stayed for very long because how long did you stay in for that? So I started across the bar in November 2013 and I quit my job as a lawyer in May 2014. So not even yeah. No, he's letting her pick it up all year, but and then I actually didn't even finish my yoga teacher training until July 2014. So But I had been offering classes to my colleagues at the law firm and two other friends just for free just because I loved it and I was just I was offering all these little free classes for the community and I really I felt like I was doing so much more for for the world. I felt like it was such a rewarding profession and I wasn't getting any money. I felt like it was more rewarding than anything that I was doing as a lawyer and so a series of events happen ended up kind of making me decide to quit my job at this law firm and I started Jason's telepractice just popping family with contracts and things like that oil and gas industry is quite big on my parents are coming. So just helping them kind of navigate through contracts and things like this. And yeah, and then I ended up opening up a small yoga studio. My parents basement actually my home town of 3,000 people in the middle is your home town called Barnesville is very small, I think maybe we now have four thousand people which is exciting. But and you know, I think a lot of people thought I was caught. Thing which baths? Yeah, so I'm half, you know the women would arrive at this usually women between like 50 and 60 and they were beautiful amazing amazing women, but never had the opportunity to really get in touch with themselves or their bodies. Like it's a from a small town. Yeah young they had kids young so their lives were devoted to their parents when their husbands and their children. So for the very first time, I remember the first class. I let him I just had them close their hand over their heart and just to connecting with with their body and Their breath and I think every single one of them first of the two years because I had never done that before and so I realized it was just one of these very desperately needed things and ended up being really beautiful. We just hadn't us really small group of women in that. Sometimes their husbands are kind of drive up in their pickup trucks and kind of wait to pick pick them up and I got a dog come in for some chili and I be like nah. Yeah. Yeah, they were kind of like, what are you doing to my wife because she's really happy these days. Yeah. Thank you. Yeah, exactly but then no not long after you went to India. Yeah tasted for more. Yeah, Marvin. Yeah. Well a lot of things happen. I had a really tumultuous few years in their twenties. Yeah, Tony's are roughing out to be minus KT. So many people are worried about aging like being your 30s is really nice. It's really settling. There's no so much. Yeah Shannon's dress and insecurity. But yeah, I had a lot of I was getting a lot of panic attacks days. I don't know if it was a residual thing from law school or what a lot of panic attacks and just a lot of things going on in. Yeah. I just needed to do something. I needed to be shaken up. I needed, you know, I needed the world to try to do exactly as part of me is kind of pretty rational person. I think of being a lawyer as well. So part of me is kind of I like the idea of casting my fate to the wind but still having an active participation in in my life. And so I I found this website called yoga trade where they have all these different. Yeah opportunity. It's really really useful for anybody that the young teacher looking I never reply because I think everyone replies and it's such a small chance if you get hired. Well, it was I never mean I think it was just cat. I mean this was a while ago. I think it was actually quite a bit smaller than it is now, I think now it's massive. You know it I know it them from when the yeah, but I applied to actually six different places and I'm you know, my Heritage is Greek is so there was like a beautiful Resort in Santorini and like stealing Retreats and coast and Croatia and like these beautiful Eco Villas and Portugal and this kind of Ratty looking hostel in India. And so I just apply to all of them. I just supplied you basically the first ones I saw and I was like, right. Okay. So this is me taking an active role in my life where I say, okay, I'm going to go somewhere and then I let fate decide where I was going to go out supposed to the first place to respond is where I'll go and of course I'm thinking it's going to be grease because Heritage and I'm like, yes, it's in the stars that I'll be in Greece and I'll connect with my with my family heritage and it'll all make sense. And of course the first place to respond was in the a little battery. No, I shouldn't say crappy but compared to these Resorts that I was applying to choose. Yes. Yeah, I was going to be living digital Zoom things like that. Yeah. So the hostel was like we need a yoga teacher in January. Can you come and I was like, yes, maybe then you went. Yeah. Yeah, so I but I booked my flight and you know and I fast forward to the moment that you met Mitch your loving husband. I'm so happy that I met him. He's a because that happened that Journey right? Yes. It did. What is funny because I had ended some relationships or some relationships that come to an end before I left and I gave myself a wedding ring and was I'm never getting married and I really I just wanted to vote this time this time of travel to myself and being independent woman. It's about self-love and so experience. I'm going to be a single mom and travel until like die. Like I just really had this big picture didn't plan my mother. Yeah with you know International to basically Angelina Jolie with two weeks after arriving in I went with my dad who wanted to make sure that how amazing is you want steak? And the Very day that I Is the day that also miss your act and he has a really started to protest way that he arrived which is basically he was in Delhi and had planned on staying somewhere else, but the internet wasn't working in the only place in all of go ha they had a working website was Wanderers hostel which is where I was and so it's kind of like we had random thing somewhere else and the fake kind of took him there. So but yeah, when we first met it was, you know, it wasn't one of these like Like Pam, I love this man. I love at first sight. I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with him. It was actually like Well, he seems nice. Yeah, and you know, it was just like he was very I could tell he was very keen and you know, I thought he was handsome and interesting and really fun and but I was really not looking for something like that and no because you were getting married with yourself exactly. I was already married. I had no idea you could be dating anybody else. I'd be cheating on myself. And so but we just every time we spent any time together. It was just Perfect. I mean I used to have all these conversations basically in my head about philosophy and who basically like my spirit friends the thing that nobody was ever able to you know, talk about in some people just like oh Britney like here she goes again Dreaming or whatever, but he was the first person to actually not only listen to what I was saying, but actually have something to reply with and he would change my perceptions and or offer an alternative point of view on something that was already. Kind of out there and so it was just so nice to have somebody to actually have these conversations with the yeah, and we just shared so much in common. I mean now I mean knowing I'm now in knowing him more deeply that I know that I knew him then I see that we are almost the exact same person which is funny because I'm from America and he's from New Zealand. They would meet in India and you know on some level you live in Australia. We live in Australia. Yeah. We were just in Sri Lanka and yeah, I mean so many things that are quite different, you know, he was a surfer and grew up by the ocean. Ian and some little things are different but at the core, you know, Jess, it feels like it is saying this is a bit of a cliche but it felt like a soul soul connection so connect yeah perfectly and then still okay this connection is there. Yeah, and then how do you end up getting married three weeks after how did it happen? I mean it is so funny. I like you India's like a mother like a very meddling mother who she just kept putting on so many. Romantic moments for us and we weren't even trying I mean, you know, I think we're both really enjoying each other's company and having fun and like kind of like on one curious kind of like hmm. Like he's probably leaving. She's you know, she's staying here. This probably won't go anywhere but like every time we hung out something really romantic what happened. So the first the first maybe the so the second time we hung out. We were just driving on a backward after yoga we went to yoga to that together and driving home. Um, we just had this really amazing experience together of just driving the other no cars on the road driving into the into the dark night under the stars and you know, it doesn't sound like you guys you just have to experience this kind of thing, but it would just was this Liberation. I don't even know both of us without even talking and we didn't know each other at this point really that well, so just as really intense experience that afterwards we just kind of looked at each other like did you feel that? He's like, yeah, I felt that, you know, like just this kind of like what just happened and then You know, this is the third time we hung out we went out to dinner and we're sitting on the beach and all of a sudden we see all these fireworks along the beach going off and people setting off these wish lanterns and just their shooting stars and it was just like it's going on. Yeah. And yeah, so every time I hung out there was just something we're gonna put a giant erection of we cannot ignore this. Yeah, like if you at one point we were like, okay are we being filmed for like The Bachelorette or some reality TV show because it really felt like somebody was Putting us into a service desk when I were walking on the beach and we were just kind of like it'd be nice to have dinner on the beach and then this little Indian man runs out with a blanket and some candles and puts the blanket out on the beach. I mean nobody else is having dinner on the beach. Nobody else has this setup and we're like, how did this happen? And he's like, would you like a menu and we're like, it's please and I mean just little things like that that just did you ever experience a connection I get before never I mean I've had you know, I have to honor the previous partners that I've had. Has deep connections with them on different levels, but nothing like looking like this. This is this was something this was something that felt like I almost didn't even have any control over. Wow. And would you like call him the one or don't you think there is something as the one, you know, I actually don't believe that there is something as the one I actually do believe that we're not naturally monogamous. I don't think that where the type of animal that is said necessarily does seem to be with one other person but Amazingly I feel like I have is despite my belief and this I actually feel like he is my one and I would never I don't know. I mean I have to we both have to keep ourselves open to the possibility that that's enough that we can change and we have to respect that. We both are constantly choosing to be together. But at this point in my life and I think I'll probably feel this way for the rest of my life. I'm happy to choose this man every single day by our wonderful. Yeah, like why shouldn't have yeah, Mary exactly. Yeah one in the Fast-forward to have moments that you love this. Did he ask you or did it again happen sort of it was another one of these funny spontaneous funny things. We he was actually said to leave to go home to Australia. Well, he was actually going to go on a surf trip to somehow I with his best mate and so we were kind of thinking. Okay. Well maybe at some point I'll come and visit you in Australian see if there's if this goes anywhere but before he left that we found some really cheap flights to the Maldives and so we thought him capable of these and And just to like say goodbye just kind of have like a nice little quote like Emerson end to our relationship. Not really any thought that at some point would connect. You also know like okay when you travel you meet someone like this romance sort of honor it and then yeah, we're kind of we're not ready to let it go but just be like, okay. Well, I'll see you in maybe six months. I can visit you in Australia or something. And anyway, so we get to the Maldives and we did a little bit of island hopping just on the Fly we didn't have any plans to go say in one of these beautiful Resorts or anything like this. We just kind of Hop Boat and ended up on this cute little island that happened to have a great surf spot and and it we just rocked out to this beautiful little spot. I mean this this I don't even know how we got that this truck picked us up from the book and even know how we got in this book is very this truck arrived put this up through all of our luggage onto the onto the back of it and picked us up and like okay, come on. We're like, we don't know where we're going. But okay and and then they dropped us off and this beautiful setting just unfolding right before I set this epic Beach just White white beautiful white sand beaches and beautiful palm trees and this water at this beautiful water that I've never seen the color like this before it and then immediately started raining and so I was so excited and we had already been traveling all day. So we just ran into the water and the middle of this rainstorm and I we're just having fun and all of a sudden he just kind of looked at me because we're hugging or something. He's kind of activity was like, you know, I always thought I would propose to my wife in the rain and we had literally just talked about how you know, we didn't really believe him. all right, and all this stuff probably about an hour before wow, so I kind of just laugh and I was like, okay and and then we kind of were like a little bit quiet for the rest of the day and then we end up talking about it again that I need that got up kind of funny how that happened earlier don't know what he was like kind of just gauging I think maybe my reaction he was like, do you wanna get married and I just shook my head and he was like, I need to say something and I was like, yeah, he was like You want to get married tomorrow? And I was like yeah, that was like you wanna get married to party was like yes. No so creepy. Yeah. Wow, so so we got married the next day and not legally married we but we the next day we exchanged we wrote battles in the exchange vows with each other in the beads. And then so we call that I mean we consider that our wedding day. We got married legally the following year on the exact same day. And then we had a big Wellington wedding celebration. There wasn't an Australian you don't understand. Yeah, wow, so that was dinner three weddings. We had three wedding services and now we're 48 years. Yes. How's that moment and really from that moment on that you step on that plane to India everything changed for you. You let America you left your logic for good you you married someone other than yourself? Yeah. You started a new life in Australia. Yeah. It's a lot of change. It's amazing. Just I've got a few more questions but like as an American Girl, what would you say is the very best thing about the USA in the very worst thing. Oh, you know, it's been nice to actually live overseas because when I was living in America, I'm sorry to say I really didn't like it. I didn't appreciate anything about it. No, I really didn't have a connection with your country. No, I really didn't feel connected to the culture in a lot of ways I think because I grew up basically on a farm and playing in the forest. I had a very peaceful and natural childhood. Basically, like every little girls dream I had horses and you know puppies and kittens and bunnies and beautiful floors, but the stream running through it. And yeah, I really just spent a lot of time in nature. And so when I left, you know, when I went to public school and saw all this stress and anxiety and all of this kind of striving in this want in this almost desperation even in young people. I just couldn't connect with that. So I traveled a lot from as early as I could. But yeah, but now being away from it. I actually see that there is a lot to Value about American culture lichens are really friendly. Yes, which I don't think I want people know because I think seeing the stuff that other people are seeing on TV about America like the reality TV shows of like sack always been looks like crazy. Yeah, we look like we're crazy people but actually Americans are really willing to help you. They're really Excitable. Yeah always ready to celebrate something. I think initially if they don't know you there a little bit like a little bit standoffish. But as soon as they get to know you as soon as you show them any sign of friendliness, they will embrace you immediately, which is really nice. And I also deeply miss my connection to the land. I felt really connected obviously at the tile going up playing in such a beautiful place. It's a really really beautiful diverse land. It's really special place and then roasted Yeah, I think I think what I was saying the things I didn't connect with when I was younger and seeing that it early on it. There's a lot of striving was a lot of you know, people are really trying to keep up with the Joneses. Everybody's really wanting the next thing it is sad because you know Americans up yet. We have so much in America and the idea that we feel like there's not enough as a little bit. It's a little bit disappointing because I think we have so much and yeah, I think I hope it's changing. I don't know maybe hmm. So would you still consider America sort of as your home or is it straight every to your home now? You know what's funny? I actually don't I feel at home only in myself. I am I love America. I love Australia are both wonderful places to live. But neither of them really feel like home. I love being in Sri Lanka. If you know, I haven't really felt this deep connection to a place as much as I felt a deep connection to myself. I Guinness is coming from a lot of travel. And so yeah, anytime sounds wonderful myself. I feel good. And if I would feel disconnected for myself, I feel like I have no home. And as soon as I, you know, do some yoga or something station or whatever it is. I need to do to connect with myself. I immediately feel then you're good wherever you are. Basically yeah. Yeah. So for people who are thinking about making such drastic change in their life, is there one thing that you like it moved you got married and then you move to Australia. Is there one thing which you didn't see coming which like sort of or two things got two things like that really surprised you or annoyed you are like if I would have known this. Yeah. Well, you know, it was actually because we did Mitch and I had such a really strong connection with the start and and when I first moved to Australia, you know we had almost to Balance these two aspects of having this deep connection of almost not even having a choice of being together. We we had to be together. There was really no other option. But the same time that puts so much pressure on us and me moving. Just I mean, I didn't know any of his friends weight as soon as I got to astray we moved in with his friends who just were like, oh, okay and his friends are all very rational people have doctors and physios and things like that. And so I think they were all kind of just like, okay so Mitch went to India and pretty intense. Crazy yoga teacher is Brittany whose name is not break because you change your name back knee at they're just like who is this girl? And they thought I was crazy with that Mitch was it got this was a big very last. Yeah. So I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be this perfect couple and show that no, we're actually serious about each other and this isn't just a holiday romance. And so because of this pressure, we didn't allow ourselves to really kind of bring up stuff that might have been going because you knew each other on the soul level but then there's the other these things around at the stories that we have and you know, he didn't know that I had suffered with panic attacks when you first met because of course, we don't show this to each other and so, you know, of course when I start having panic attacks, he's like, oh, okay like it he was so supportive of this and I think I just going to navigate through this and work through this and he's such a solid of mountain man sees you really able to kind of be that solid base of support which was so useful for me, but I think and he would never say anything. Okay, like it might It's a bit much but he was always there to support me. And so I think you know after a while he was just kind of like he needed to kind of step back and take care of himself and I didn't notice that because I was so stuck on trying to get myself sorted in situated in the new country and meeting all of his friends and trying to find a job and you know and just changing my whole life and changing my name. And so I you know, I think there was a little bit of resentment That Grew just because I was relying on him for so much and he couldn't really say anything cuz I think he felt like well she's got Why so much in a lot of ways of because of this so and so I would say I guess in the advice especially if you're moving to another country to be with other partners know you really want to make sure that you've done your research on the place. I mean in my situation, I have no idea. We're moving to Australia, so I didn't really do and I've never even thought about Australia and my whole life and never thought I was it was really it was kind of one of those low on the list and of places just because it's English-speaking. I think just like America Australia but um, but yeah, so I would just say really make sure you do your homework and do your research and make sure you have your own kind of thing the soon as you can create your own little busy because that's what safety serve like getting into Deadhorse is there right? Yeah, so it's something I just recently I got into a horseback riding. But even you know, it was a little bit of a kind of blow to the ego to go from being a lawyer to taking a job and as a retailer at Lululemon, but and I measure you depends I love her. Yeah. Yeah in my mind. Whatever just take any job just to meet people and make your own friends and adult ourselves flap or do whatever that makes you sort of create something for yourself. Yeah, that sounds very take away. Yeah. Okay. I've got many more things to us. But I just wanted to like this was the last story and I love it. And are you writing a book about it? Which is why I had to write a book because it's such a long Rich story as well. Yeah. Yeah. Wow, but the book is not about your story. It's about unconditional love right? I mean, I do tell it in. Into my own personal life and is it is a technically a memoir and there is some juicy relationship stuff in there. And so, you know some really vulnerable stuff in there about basically me and my life and what I was going through and basically the foundation that was set in order for me to be able to come into this position in my life a situation my life where I was making a knew I could trust myself that I was making the right decision, but the idea so what that's really what the book is about basically being able to connect connect in with this unconditional love or this aspect. That's It goes beyond the love that you can have with a partner those beyond that even the love that you can have with your friends or with your family members. There's I believe in aspect of love that exists in all things that kind of permeates all things is because on a Hut in the Dom this kind of basically this underlying essence of Love That weaves its way through all things. And as soon as we connecting with that deep within ourselves and deep within all things that exist so I mean you could be in love with a flower you could be in love with a dog you could be in love with the chair. That you're sitting on you could be in love with the food that you're eating. You can be in love with literally everything. So the first kind of step is really exciting that deep love this kind of this love that doesn't require any kind of any kind of cause there's not like I love myself because of this in this list. It's just there was just love just love and it's not I love this chair because it's supporting me. It's just like just love the chair. You know, it's great. So wait a minute. This is like a constant state or is it state or is it well, I mean I do. Coming and going it would be great to be a constant said I don't think most of us. I mean, I certainly haven't found that constant and love to be in that kind of state but no, it's just a remembering and it's just a good to know we made during go back to it. Yeah coming back to it again and again and again and again, so is this book explaining about it? Or is it? Yes sir as I talk about as I talk about my life. I told him I leave in a lot of yogic kind of philosophy and little bit of Buddhist philosophy. You as well and more it also just regular philosophy. That's you know, just quite interesting. I really just loved philosophy. And so I weave it through but it's really just kind of setting the tone of being able to find these different ways to connect them with this love throughout your life and recognizing that you know, sometimes when you're going through something that feels painful finding the love there and when you're going through something that feels wonderful final of their yeah just to find a love in all situations and not in this way of being like Oh, I paint doesn't exist suffering doesn't exist honoring that the Do you have pain and you have suffering things are hard sometimes life and just be a little bit shitty you guys sometimes it's a shrine. I'm going to need to accept that and accept that is and not be like no. I only Good Vibes only like I only have next like no love the pain. Yeah, like I appreciate this because we're Dynamic creatures that are capable of feeling capable of you know, we should not push it away because we can't literally impossible to push away. We can only push it inside of us DVR deeper and it manifests in all of these crazy ways for me it was panic. Attacks constantly because I never dealt with these things that were coming up and so but it's just the idea of being able to just love it all like you can still experience the pain and suffering whatever it needs to come up but still love it and appreciate it for being there just kind of like on the very ultimately all perfect with all wonderful and so it sounds like in this project of writing the book everything comes together because it's also rational because you tried to like connect all these things and then with yoga and then with love and then your own story. That's beautiful. Yeah. Really? It's really therapeutic actually for me to write you know, initially I said a running was a call when your people will like this and I was like, you know what I'm just going to write this for myself. She word ghostly, you know, hopefully other people resonate I think people will because I think we all kind of go through as a human as a species. I think we all kind of go through the same struggles and the same insecurities and fears and all with your happen, especially when you know, I was 29 when I'm at MIT and so, you know, that's not quite so old and I think other countries but in America a lot of my friends had already found their father person and we're Married and everybody. I was the girl at every wedding when like the Father of the Bride be like, oh, where's your fellow? Why don't you next and I'm wrong. That's why I just gave myself a ring so I could be like, yeah, then I get these kind of funny looks but yeah, so, you know at 29 when I was starting to think. Okay. Well, maybe is there something I'm missing something. Is there something wrong with me and then I kind of realized no like okay. I'm great actually, and I'm so worthy of marrying myself, and I would love one. I want to be married to somebody like me and I take such good care of myself. And I know what I need a good bath when I when I know I need a bath I'll draw myself a bath or if I need to take my stuff on a date. I'll take myself when I need some alone time our land you to call a friend. Yeah, so just being aware of not rely on somebody else to bring that love into my life to to bring that love into my life myself. Hmm. Hey when you were in studying law, you're doing a lot of yoga. So to his practice always like continue to grow and to be very be like a big part of your life. Was it on and off it was from the moment. I saw I cut this a little bit of yoga in undergrad and I was in university but then it wasn't until I did the other trick with a teacher who's on your side our teacher and they're just because she just really weaved in this philosophy that I had never considered before and that was the really aspects of deep for me was the the philosophy like I like the pushers. I felt I always I really involved in physical. So I liked that but that wasn't what drew me into yoga is to And just this idea. I think she was just describing like as you're breathing imagining that you know, the goddess of the Divine mother is dancing through your whole being and I was like, oh, wow that is just like that felt like being on drugs. I was like, oh my gosh, I can feel this and it felt so enlivening and just amazing and so from that moment on when I just practiced as specifically as possible. My practice style has changed. Sometimes you always just looks like doing a couple of in poses in bed and then doing some pranayama and maybe some Yoga Nidra or some meditation in the morning or something like this. I really like that. I'm gonna totally Pro like loving your yoga to live with you rather than just really focus on one particular practice every day. No matter how you feel you go on the map to Ashtanga or habitat. You do your Vinyasa. Yeah. I really like the idea that you feel how you feel and then do the yoga that you think you need exactly and it changes as well and it changes you change. Yeah. I'm physically, you know I'm not old by any means but you know at 33, I do start to feel like we're posture as I used to do so easily now, you know, I've got this pain or tension to my knees and I think okay. Well I could try to do what I was doing when I was 25 or yes, we would actually get 33. Yeah. Yeah. It's like this is fine. And yeah, I used to do a lot more than yes, I think because I had a lot of kind of built up energy that needed to move around. I'm sitting a lot and so it's got nice girl. Yeah, it is is really nice of love. I love you. Explain Vinyasa. This is This isn't mine. I can't claim this is no but that's okay, but for yeah, I use it now to yes. I like it. We should share it. And yeah, it's how do you explain yesterday? So my one of my teachers Michelle, there are fewer Michelle Cassidy on the Gold Coast. She was the one that describe this to me she calls it purposeful placement of body with breath and I just think that that's it just clearly and practically defines the elements of Vinyasa. So we have your purpose and your placing your bodies. Civically with the breath and so it's just perfect just this really simple idea. You have your purpose or your intentions? You always set your intention before you practice of why you're there and I was something small, right? Yeah easy. Yeah, I can be whatever, you know, it can be something that had to be really profound. It doesn't have to be like I'm enlightened. They can be I'm just gonna let myself have 90 minutes away from my phone and like it. Yeah, it's just like I'm not going to think about as much as I can I have The intention or the resolved to not obsess over my laundry list of things to do hmm and throughout the rest of the practice. Maybe you just devote that time to yourself, you know, and I can be super simple. But as long as you're synchronizing or let your breath be what inspires the movement in connecting in with your intentionally practice, I think that really beautiful. Yeah, and it's all really just about getting that energy moving in the body anyway, so you can have the place release that yeah, I think that pent-up stuff and it's Vanessa. Would you like to teach most What used to be but now I don't know. I've had a big change in the last year I would say so I used to be all about the Vinyasa and now I'm all about the Yen are wonderful about the again. Yeah, it's really nice. I think it's I think it's useful for you know for a lot of people just to stay grounded and it's nice opportunity to also I feel like I have a captive audience because I love philosophy so much. I have 90 minutes to talk about yoga Festival day. Oh, yeah. I'm like, you know what? I don't mind. If you're tuning me out for the whole 90 minutes some aspect on a cellular level. We're hearing what I'm saying, so you can sit there and think about whatever when a cellular level is is going in there. So I really I just really enjoy that's amazing. Yeah, that's cool. Yeah. Hey Brent before we going to catch him dinner to get it. Yeah. It's my last evening meal here. So it's specialist you my favorite part of the podcast will start now and it's got the human as fuck, please. Okay. I'm going to throw questions that you and ideas that you answer them quickly and shortly. Okay? Okay. So is it like the two things? I'm not good at as quick and short I am like you. Okay. I'll try you have a little practice here. This is me being human is bad. Yeah, exactly. Exactly deliberate but you just go what first thing in mind really epitomized. Can we go favorite yoga Brands? I don't know. I only know that because I work there. Okay sunset or Sunrise Sunrise swimming or sir? There's a kill or spinach. Oh, okay. Well or tiger that's a tough on Tiger. Have you ever been arrested? Yeah top or bottom hmm top or bottom position. Oh bottom and maybe history a broken arm twist Valentine hip opener wine or a duck one favorite place in the world yakety. guilty pleasure Something a guilty pleasure something you enjoy but you feel a bit guilty while you're enjoying it tonight. I have to give it a little bit of an explanation what I'm having a really really bad day once every month or once every two months. I might take a bath roll a cigarette from my own tobacco and have a little have a little pop of this. I like your honesty. Thank you then. Do you ever lie? Yes Truth or Dare? Yes, no Truth or Dare. Oh, would you choose? Yeah. Oh dare. Okay, awesome. Not our meditation to Tatian bolster our block bolster. What do you love most about Mitch? What do you need to work on saying? No. favorite quotes Okay, it is actually from Jack kornfield and it goes something I'm going to butcher it but it goes something like this the purpose of our sort of our spiritual practice is not to perfect ourselves is to perfect our love beautiful. And now then a question would maybe is in line with that. What does the world need more of I would say the world probably needs more of. This is a hard one. Actually. I'm thinking about saying quote. Well, I know but yeah, but that's what I feel like I've been talking so much about love with Karen or maybe it's like the directs the red thread in your in your life. Maybe it is the rest of my life. Okay. We'll say love I'm gonna add in I'm gonna add in contentment I think intended because we can't love it until work content is beautiful. All right brick. So when can we expect this book of yours with the tides was not going to be revealed guys? Well, my goal was to finish it by the 17th of March and that is not happening life happened. But Sri Lanka happened surfing happened. I hope that it will be published by the end of this year at the very latest. All right, so how can people stay up to date if they're curious about this book of love? I'm on Instagram and they find you. Yes, it's Britt underscore that underscore Hunters of grit the hunter amazing certain. Yes, because I want to thank you so much. That you shared Your Love Story with us. Thank you already your IDs on yoga and some well some beautiful history of your life. I'm so happy that we met here and that I hope we meet again next year Missy. Thank you so much and Namaste everyone will see you soon next week. Alright guys, so I want to thank you so much for listening. Honestly. I'm so happy to share all these beautiful stories on the platform like this and I'm really excited to have you're listening just a small note that from now on the uneven episodes will continue to be an English but the even episodes will be in touch and it's just because I'm back in my homeland Holland's or gonna dance and I Got some super exciting conversations blend with wonderful people, but they're all that time. We sort of prefer to speak in our own language, but do not worry the uneven episode. So it will remain or will continue to be in English. So once again, thank you so much for listening. And please please please take a little moment to like And subscribe Namaste and see you soon.
USA born Britt went to law school, traveled a lot, got married in 3 weeks, loves her 30's and yoga & meditation make her feel at home more than any country in the world. The two yoga girls meet in Talalla and talk about love, yoga and life. Britt shares about the importance of yoga throughout her life. What started as 'a joke' to keep her sane while studying law would change her life. In her mid twenties she decided to do a teacher training as back up in case she wouldn't pass her bar exam. Ironically many smarty pants didn't pass while Britt did (because of yoga ;))! She got hired as a associate attorney and practiced handstands to her office door. Not even one year in and Britt swapped her fancy office for a tiny yoga place in her parents basement! The community thought that she was practicing witchcraft but Britt taught woman to breath, feel, connect and love themself. She got drawn to teaching yoga because it made her feel like she could do so much more for the world. The second part is about Britt's incredible crazy love story. Yup, she got married just after having spend 3 weeks with her now husband Mitch Hunter. She never really believed in 'the one' but despites that she is happy to choose her man for the rest of her life. However it wasn't just rainbows and butterflies  - they  put pressure on their self to 'prove' that they were a perfect - newlywed -  couple. They knew each other on a soul level but still had to figure out many things around the relationship! Britt suggests that you better do some research on the new place where you are moving to so that you can create your own thing. This will take a lot of pressure from your partner,and it will make you feel more independent! Working for Lululemon gave Britt that space and community for herself. Britt also explains more about vinyasa yoga and both girls think that yoga should flow with you through life - use the tools you need in the moment. Vinyasa for energy and yin to ground and nurture you! Go straight to: 13.45m The soul to soul love story 27.20m The down side from changing your life for love 31.45m Anahata Nada - Finding love in each and every person and situation 35.52m Vinyasa explained 41.10m Human as Fuck Quiz - juicy & funny facts about Britt's life! ★ Find out more about Britt through @Britt_the_hunter on Instagram. Even episodes will be recorded in Dutch with incredible Dutch yogis and heroes. Lots of love and stay tuned,  Lotte van Graas www.theyoganomad.nl    ---   Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-conscious-junkie-show/message 