Hello friends scene out here. My name is Christian Rivera.I helped intps connect with themselves and the universe through personality typology today. I wanted to talk to you about how to connect with intps whether you are an INTP looking to connect with other intps or someone who isn't an INTP trying to connect with an INTP loved one a partner a friend Etc. Here are a couple ways that you can connect with the ITP in your life and really it centers around connecting. With their dominant and secondary functions that's TI or introverted thinking or and any extraverted intuition. And typically, I think one of the best ways to connect with the 90 PS through that extraverted intuition. Now a lot of people like a partner or a friend or family member we're going to want to try to go to straight to the emotions and when you try to go straight to the emotional part for an INTP, it's like being solicited or cat called in a way that's like completely to direct and inappropriate. We have a lot of boundaries around our emotional state. So it's really important to not just come directly at us expecting us to give you all of the emotional details of what's going on in our lives because a lot of people think that connection is about emotional connection and emotional connection for us in terms of its public display is not about sadness or complicated emotions when it comes to how we're feeling. Out the world are our place in the world. We're thinking about big picture Concepts and and ultimately that's part of it. But for the most part where activated in a sense of wonder passion and play, so if there's opportunities to connect with the int p in your life through those methods Passion Play and joy, essentially those are the ways that you can connect and get some of the emotional experiences out of the INTP in your life. So that's one of those things you consider this. Really fits for any type for any type that is trying to connect with another with an INTP or any type of person in your life family friend partner co-worker things like that accessing play is going to be the way that they're going to get the int P to connect with you. So that could be playing video games together playing video games is one of the ways that intps connect to one another that's why online gaming is pretty pretty popular. A lot of intps will play with other people in In first-person shooters or strategy games or puzzle games or whatever right? I personally don't play video games with other people too much. But sometimes playing couch co-op games are a ton of fun or playing like Cards Against Humanity or board games, right? There's a ton of board games at like Target these days. So there's a lot of opportunities for you to connect with the ITP in your life and have boardgame Night board game nights and ways that you can get together with people and play I even have a PaRappa the Rapper hat. That was a one player game, but whatever. Exemplification of how much I love video games and that's a great way to connect with an INTP because that also rests into some of their SI sensibilities and getting comfortable and hanging out, you know, if you go to an improv class you want to engage with them in something fun like improv an INTP that's good for their growth and is also a way to connect with them and play and you'll end up getting a sense of their passion what they're excited about through connecting with them through play, right? So for us a lot of our emotions end up coming out through our state of play the ability to connect and that could mean like literally going to the store and like poking around with the toys and I don't know doing something that involves getting out of the house and adventuring and just going for a road trip trying something completely different with them getting them out of the house right now. I think if they're on the healthier side of an INTP, they'll be open to that. Right especially if you just kind of give them the proposition of like you want just go go for a drive. Where you want to go listen to music? I want to go hang out. You want to go to the arcade you want to go do you like do something? Right but like no specific ingrained plan. I think there's an aspect of that freedom that is variance exciting inherently to an INTP, even if they're you know, kind of hold up and quiet I think intps have this natural urge for exciting new things. Right? I think for me. I don't like to be personally to dedicated to an Vent meaning if somebody asks me to come out specifically to go to a to go to like a music venue or something like that unless music is one of my intense passions. I might not be as interested to go to a specific thing. I feel like I'm just going to be sitting around waiting for it to be over unless it's really good music or something. But I think the idea of exploring and trying something that's going to be completely different and new and novel is going to be far more exciting than just saying. Hey, let's go do something very specific. Right or like book and parts of the day or the date with things that are going to be kind of fun mixed with freedom meaning maybe go to the movies and then between movies and dinner. You just got to go. I don't know you go to the the lake or something. If you've got something here you like that or you go drive around and experience the city or I don't know. It's say that there's this is fun read place over there. Let's go check it out like just getting curious and excited. Cuz I think one of the things that a lot of people in our lives as I TPS kind of missed the point of is asking us what we're excited about it activates the ti any aspects of Our Lives the introverted thinking and the extraverted intuition of Our Lives comes out through just you learn what we're really feeling by learning what we're passionate about. So I wish growing up that more people in my life ask me. What are you excited about? Because I would have talked about Astronomy and how cool that is and video games and all the video games? I'm excited about and just like, you know, it'd be passionate. I'll be talking about all the fun things in my life. Right? I think I think it's not obvious to ask that question, especially in American culture. We get to a place where we're like, so how you doing? It's always emotional right? It's always like how you doing? How you been? How's life? How's this like everything is just like everything's heavy. It's a little motion. It's like know why don't you ask? What are you excited about? Out you know, what's your story? What have you been up to? What are you doing? Right don't link it to emotions Lincoln to excitement excitement is an emotion but link it to excitement and Novelty. I think that's the best way that you're going to get the opportunity to connect with an INTP is through that intuition and just make room and make space for some of their TI musings and thoughts and like what are their working on? That's another question you can ask is what are you working on? What are you thinking about? Because for the most part an INTP is going to be working. On some sort of project some sort of personal research some sort of idea something at work something that they're ruminating on and it's very exciting to be able to share the details of this project with someone. So if you're capable of holding space for all of this information that they're sort of trying to compile and work through and even if you can kind of compile it and just give them a solution then they're like, oh, that's really okay. I never thought of that. That's awesome. You know, we want more so If you can find some way to tap in to the excitement of an INTP asking what they're excited about what they're working on then that's the way to connect. So if you're a partner of an INTP, especially like intps again get a bad rap for being quote unquote lazy or unexcited. It's just that you're not you're not tapping into what we're excited about. Ask what we're excited about and will be more likely to connect with you and I connect with you emotionally as well. And create that one-to-one Bond. So that's been it for this video. I got a couple of other videos coming up that kind of talk about dealing with the cognitive functions of an INTP and sort of understanding what they are and explaining them in a couple of different videos. Just kind of going through what is introverted thinking what is extraverted intuition. What is introverted sensing and what is extraverted feeling sort of dive into and break down? What an INTP is from the sort of textbook perspective and then a little a bit of how it shows up in me personally and connect that to the cosmic calibration program, which is now a coaching program. So if you go down in the link below bit dot l y / Cosmic INTP all lowercase, it's 15 segments. That's that 15 segments of me sharing a lot of my personal story a lot of my personal advice giving advice to intps about accessing joy and getting work done and being productive and picking one project and Finding ways to Market yourself as ITP money stuff, like all sorts of things that I've learned over time, but being an INTP and through the process you'll have access to me in my Voxer account. So you'll be able to message me whatever you want talked back and forth and I can coach you based on your particular context. So again, go check that out cut a bit dot l y / cosmyk INTP all lowercase and if you want to just follow me on here like And subscribe and then then I also have dopamine dot life dop, 'I am I any is the podcast and go check that out where I talk about mental health creativity and personality typology in audio format every Tuesday. So that's it for this little episode here and I'll catch you next time on dopamine and Cosmic calibration. See you guys.
Connection is a valuable feeling for INTPs whether many of them will admit it or not. We just tend to reach out for connection in different ways, often through play and our logic. Today, for the other people in our lives, I want to share how you can best connect with the INTP in your life by tapping into what they care about. Consider Cosmic Calibration Coaching at http://www.bit.ly/cosmicintp PODCASTS DOPEamine | http://www.dopeamine.life Cosmic Calibration for INTPs | http://www.anchor.fm/cosmiccalibration  COURSES  http://cnote.thinkific.com http://dopeamine.teachable.com  C.NOTE  I'm Christian Rivera, a multimedia designer living in Rochester, NY who produces video, graphic design, websites, music and other content. I also create courses for media and personal development. I've been creating stuff for over a decade for film and tv for marketing efforts around Big Hero 6, Fifty Shades of Grey and Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. I've covered San Diego Comic-Con and other events. 