Do you have a story that you tell yourself about why you can't have what you want about how you're a victim or about how things that happen to you or bad? And they just aren't there to help or serve people get in your way, you know just stories that are negative. These stories will ruin your life because if you tell yourself that this thing happened and because of that I can never achieve XY and z or I had Did this happen? And so that's why I'm not happy. You're stuck. You're rationalizing your poor results. You're basically explain to yourself how and why you can't have what you want. And in that case you're burning all your energy and all your resources on dwelling instead of progressing. And if you continue to tell yourself these stories your life will pretty much stagnate forever. So long as you have a story about how this is holding you back or that person did something to you and it's not fair. You can never truly breakthrough. I used to think that when bad things happened it meant that the world was against me it meant I wasn't meant to have what I wanted. Maybe it's an opportunity for you to rise to the challenge and that's what I realized. I realized that wait a second just because something bad subjective, right? Right. It's happening to me. And something is difficult doesn't necessarily mean that I can achieve my goal. Maybe in fact, this is a test perhaps it's a challenge that I need to overcome to prove that I have what it takes to achieve my goal. So then when I started creating YouTube videos for the first six months nothing just crickets. Nobody watched nobody responded nobody cared if anything a few of my friends kind of made fun of me and really it was heartbreaking because I really wanted to do it was my passion. It's my purpose to just help other people live their dream. I was under qualified. I didn't believe in myself right side all these odds against me and you can easily say well, it's just not meant to be you don't know anybody on the inside and you don't have enough help or support system. You can expect to go and Achieve old. Things and then I said to myself. Well, maybe this is a test to see if I really really want it and so I started studying marketing. I started studying how to make better content. I improve my character my speaking abilities improved and all of a sudden things started to go my way my first client my second client and no time. I was making six figures. I was my business journey and health. I lost over 30 plus plus kilograms and I Ember in the beginning I would try workout program. I would try diet. Yeah, it's not working for me. My weight isn't going down. I've been on it for a week. Give up two months later. Try something new try for a week. It didn't work drop off again. It's not working right? It's just it doesn't work for me. I'm big boat, you know, it's so easy to find the story too attached to it. It's so easy to rationalize to yourself. It's not fair resist that Temptation those stories are what ruin your life not the things that happen to you. Now one point in my career. I developed really really bad RSI repetitive strain injury basically, meaning that I've wrists were pretty much useless. I couldn't type anymore which was one of my main ways to really create content, you know producing come and in general just working with clients. I would take a lot of notes so So all of a sudden my main tool for doing what I love to do has been taken away from me. And I remember the first thought that came to my mind was like why me. I'm just trying to do some good here. Why is this happening? I'm trying my best. It's not fair. Right and then I called myself and I'm like, wait a second. That story's not gonna help me out much. And so I changed I changed the story to this is an opportunity for me to grow. I'm going to improve as a coach. I'm going to improve my memory so that I remember more About each client that I work with what they're going through so I don't have to take notes. I'm gonna get better at making videos. So I don't have to right. I'm going to get better at speaking off the cuff and improvising and improve my characters speaking ability again, and guess what my business doubled tripled things got even better. Where is it could have been the end of my career. Oh now I got to do something else because I can't do this because oh, well this happened to me right and it's so easy to look at it that way. It's so easy to get swept up in your emotions and these thoughts that really aren't serving you at all. But I want you to resist that Temptation and truly take the time to carve out a better story line that fits the end goal create your own narrative. Don't get caught in your old thinking Loops if you're still stuck and you don't have what you want. It's because you're thinking in a way that doesn't produce the outcome. So change your thinking change your perspective and the Things outside will very quickly change for you. See it's not about what happens out here. What happens out here will happen regardless of what you do you can be perfect. You could have the most sincere intention and just pour out your heart and try your very best and things still may not end up working out. However, how you interpret that results and then continue to move forward and continue to take action is what really determines whether or not you get the life that you want or if you get stuck and Rationalize everything and then there's no way out. There's just no hope because once you really buy into that story, once you're really convinced yourself that this is what it is and there's no way and I'm just not good enough or whatever it is. Right. I'm just too I'm too injured. There's no comeback for me or you know, I'm just too overweight. I can't get out of this or you know, I'm just I'm so messed up in the head. I can't really grow anymore. I have all these limiting beliefs. There's no way right or I've been making the same income for 20 years Raphael. No way for me to double it. Now of course there is but if you tell yourself that and you truly believe that and you buy into that, I guarantee you will stay stuck. But if you take back go get your money back on that story, right you take out all your investment into it all the emotional attachment that you have to telling yourself that this is why you're stuck you're free you can do whatever and that doesn't mean that you get everything you want right away, but if you're persistent and you truly truly commit It you truly can have what you want. Your goals can really be achieved. I'm proof of that in my own life and I never believed it. I used to wish for things now I go out and I get him whatever it is that I want. That's a real possibility. If only you will change the stories that you tell yourself. I hope that you've enjoyed this video. Be sure to drop me a like to let me know and also make sure that you've subscribed to the channel so that you can keep up with my newest uploads and also hit that notification. Well, if you want to get notified every time that I upload.
I share with you how your mental story is ruining your life and how you can change it for the better! S U B S C R I B E : https://www.youtube.com/user/RafaelEliassen?sub_confirmation=1  Coaching with Rafael: https://www.rafaeleliassen.com/coaching  #BreakThroughLimitingBeliefs #LettingGoOfLimitingBeliefs #LimitingBeliefs #YourLimitingBeliefs #TellADifferentStory #BreakTheChains #MentalNoise #GetRidofLimitingBeliefs #BelieveInYourself #BelievingInYourself #LawofAttraction #PersonalDevelopment #SelfImprovement #SelfHelp #Motivation #Motivational #MotivationalSpeech #MotivationalSpeaker  What is a common mistake people make without realizing it? They keep themselves stuck. They keep themselves from what they want. That house, car, relationship, they can have it all but they keep themselves stuck. At least, unintentionally. It all comes down to the stories you tell yourself. What is one area you are stuck in? And  Why are you stuck? The way you answered is what keeps you stuck. “I am too messed up in the head, I can’t grow anymore” “I can never get consistent, so I will never be successful” “I am from the wrong background, I will never be rich.” You let these stories wander in your mind without realizing the repercussions. The reason you have been stuck is that you have bought into these stories. Now you might say, “My situation is different, you don’t know”. That just proved my point of how engraved these stories are in your mind. The only way to get unstuck is to recraft these stories. Turn these stories upside down so they work for you. “I know I am messed up, accepting that is the first step to getting better” “If I find what’s blocking me from being consistent, I can be successful” “ I am from the wrong background maybe that’s a good thing as it will fuel my work-ethic” Create your own narrations. Don’t let these measly stories have power over you. You are so much greater than these stories :) 