Welcome to My Life see this applied episode 267 We're coming literally from the 25th year of gimel Thomas yesterday. Which we discussed at length last week. But the power of that day as we discussed should remain with us as a source of inspiration. Though it's a painful day and it's a confusing day. But above all as we discussed last special last week special edition. It's about inspiring and motivating which was the way that ever directed and guided us and educated and empowered us to take a day like that and say what have we not done yet to bring the gula. And if we eliminate all the negative effects at least on the reveal level of gimel Thomas. So now we're in downtown was going into the week of pastors hookahs and I discussed last week as well the connection to who cast to this day who casts of course is cookers Arte de its theme is its primary thing the name of the chapter. This is the hook of theta. This is the law of theta and referring to para Duma. As the method says whenever it says Joyce Joyce means matter beds boy for a Mirza. This is it is the god pointed because it was something that was not clear and way she needed more than just regular instruction the point James Cook is that David? What was it? So when he when the neighbors trash and was showing emotion of a new all the different impurities and how you purify from them then when it came to Too Much mess meaning the impurity connected to death make sure they will began to This car Came Upon Us all measure the measure says his face became action green yellow different interpretations what that means but he was Disturbed and he said by meditate or Jose. How will this impurity of death be purified? And that's why God responded Zeiss cooking solitary here. Let me show you and directed the show them the Pod of Doom of the red heifer that when you're bringing an offering of the red heifer, you know take it's Ash. It's actually not an offering in the conventional sense. You take the ashes from the that remain on the altar. Over that sounds actually the altar it was done. The red heifer was brought outside of the Machina so wasn't on any of the altars. They say Ultra I meant to say how whatever was used to burn that to red heifer. Then you take the Ash and you mix it with mine kind living water and that would be sprayed upon the person who's in pure that will purify them. So, of course the big question is what was disturbing my schlepping? He God gives God takes and God gives just as God allows for the impurity to come into play also gives us the wasted purifying and and this was the chapter where he was hearing from our sin and God all the different ways of purification why Suddenly by the pier in purity of death more than all others. He's wondering and is the scar communities Disturbed. Wow that be purified. So many of us remember and I remember vividly the city of the Debbie said 30 days the chelation after the debits in time, which was status and home page for adoption and class. And durable speaking. Of course Very personally, it was passionate order. This Parsha is read twice a year. It's reading the regular order as we're reading this week, but it's also read in the fourth chapter special chapters that are added between the period and other leading to Paisa see a fascist: yeah, partially soften the Shadows before putting pashupati and then Parcels up ladies. So that was the weak the relation of the debits and after harvest father was read that chapter that I've asked the question what does too Himself, and most of the bane of all people was Hoffman to do shocking that Sue Has wisdom personified wisdom through the highest levels of understanding. She knew all the explanations that death even though death is painful. It's only an external level because the soul continues on they'll be case. I'm acing either say the Kalia having to send brings an essence of what Disturbed themself and their ever said very simply because death emotional Lee it tears your heart so all the explanations in the world are not enough to console my should have been most empathized with the pain of that the disconnect even for one moment when there's a disconnect between soul and body between Ella Coos with godliness with this material world. So in some ways a rift in a Schism in the ultimate victim Basham allocation crime Kokomo Yang in that connection to that cleaving and that connection that allows This Life Force to live Fi and energize the body even one second and that's what bothered him that emotional pain and that's what Hashem had to come in and intervene. So to speak at the bring in a whole new picture something that would not have done on his own. This will decide Taylor here is the way clearly the number speaking then about himself. That when you have that broken heart in the motional anguish over such a disconnect all the mind in the world is not going to have a meta titles. How will that be purified? How will that be redeemed? So what topic is the answer for a drama? What does it respond? How does that result is all the issue taking Ash and water. So Tuesday's cook acetate. It's a hookah, hookah, cocked Executives RT means it's a super rational Mitzvah as a matter as well as she brings that this is the mitzvot that is do that. Jews will be will be I will be criticized for a bracing something that doesn't have any real logical sense. And yes, it is does come to explain and cook the Tater this week's Paris. Who comes out to them explains because fire on water the age the ash that came from burning the red heifer and the mixing with water fire and water are the two movements the two Central tracks upon which the entire Tower is built. Mitzvahs specimens for slices have positive and negative tested and Gloria Roxy and shoes as he says everything is about yearning and integration tension and resolution. Life itself is driven by robots and shove the heartbeat the breath contraction expansion exhale inhale. So when you want to correct the separation of life from the national into the body, you need to reintroduce the ROTC ensure of which is the very pulse of Life the pulsating life that continues to give energy from a higher source into the lower entities as to this explains about her. Sorts of issues of which is the vision of your testicle, but it means a lot more than that. It means the energy the energy of existence is constantly being renewed rothsay and serve a dual action literally like the heartbeat like the breath and therefore in Nevada session when a person experiences a form of death, which means something is non. Something is not alive or not live properly not vibrant. The way you reintroduce vibrancy is what you do your exercise the pulse the heart to get it going again in Nevada. That means a lot C ensure of the yearning for something greater and return an integrated within us. So obviously the full sense of life eternal life will be Term that for the root is amazing, but in Nevada, even when were in a situation where we still not need the coulomb, it has Rush him and he's amazing. You still can bring life back to our lives by having that constant lordship the shoes of tension and resolution. That is the source of all life. So spiritually speaking. It means that every person psychologically speaking has to have something they aspired to some angst something you yearn for some ROTC and then you need that to be internalized and said constant dance back and forth. so that's a connection directly to the discussion of gimel Thomas all forms of death will pass in anything but including of course in relating to us gimel Thomas if you want to reconnect to the level because there's the concealment of gimel Thomas the way to do it is to yearn for everything dilemma stands for everything the number teaches everything that ever guided Us in and internalized it in your life by actualizing it so that actually is the tick on is Appear of gimel Thomas itself because it re introduces and we energizes our connection to the devil everything that ever stands for his teachings and especially regarding Ebola in doing everything possible to transform our environments and introduce the out of the unity of Hashem of Hashem. Echad Al officially lived in Gala. So whatever we do should species sense that Divine Purpose within it. That's what we do with also be sure of So if we remain complacent and say you know what? Okay, it's a sad day or life is like whether it is the more things change the more they stay the same that type of cynical attitude. It's not about gibberish of life. Let's say we should live means that every morning every moment like a heartbeat not one moment passes that you need a heartbeat. You need to constantly contract constantly expand constantly reach for a new goal internalized it grounded and then go for the next goal. I'll constant process. That's what keeps It's our connection alive and that's what makes gimbal tumblers turning it into a vibrant experience. So who cast is like the Ticker on Magnum before the market that year 25 years ago Sunday gimel Thomas was the first day mature Shabbos gimel Thomas was the choice Shabbos was the first day of hookahs like it says about the devil who's this talk was was on my tray Shabbos havdalah Davis, but so Shabbos posthumous Earl the person that era ever Olive meaning If the beginning of the first day of Passover and the rebbe explains how that statement was at summer Sonic rights in describing. This tulkus is both are connected schmoyer and we're here and here to create a was with satiable faster kind of wanted to cater to do he challenged the very concept of a level of emotional of a new and what is hookahs do hook as repairs the rift split until we ultimately through our work and we do our part in our yearning and are internalizing then we have The ability to ultimately Merit to see it in full sense with our own eyes reunited and reconnected with the world itself will be realigned with the it's created with Hashem and Mala others. There's a sham commander and hasn't been legal tradition that all go Buster you have to keep ER chandipur all the verses in the prophecies excited, especially in chapter 36 of Tanya how the world will be Ryan others racist met after you'll see that each of the lake and of admit that ho no no no, They are a garment a veil Shield to conceal will all be revealed. Well, uhm now our college but he Maria shehata smile and many many other verses that all indicate on that re integration the reunifying and how do we do it? It doesn't just happen. It happens through our work. When we do my ends up in a similar way in our personal lives our Collective lives. We create the Kaylee the container that it should happen in the fullest sense of the word and after the Of years of work we are at stage. We're ready to Gladden is ready to erupt and be revealed in this world in a way that everybody will see it with our physical eyes that will see a world that's not disconnected but connected and aligned with its purpose. Edison Kalin an alignment of the energy and its container. So the whole world see it as a material shell that needs to discover and recognize that this shell is a really a shell to the fruit and energy within which is the Divine energy within everything that exists. So that's a lesson from focus on our connection which pleases immediately a segue into the first question. We're going to address which is hey Rob semen is a sham waiting for every Jew to become from religious observance and every non-jew to accept the Sheva mitzvos bnei are the seven noahide laws before he brings us the complete Gula the complete Redemption. Thanks, man. Okay, very good question. I believe I've addressed it before the many many different episodes. So not all of them. Well, there's so many of them that I can't I couldn't identify exactly which one I discussed this but let's talk about it because it's a very good question because we have seven have billion people on this planet we have can you move over 14 million Jews? So if you have to wait till we reach everyone everyone becomes complete shame attended Mitzvahs and every non-jews Embraces the shoving something in there that can take some time, but that I had hello. So the web address this in a number of cities is a second option tells Ian where I are trying to remember which see if it could be huge fat. Maybe I'm wrong about that with a double says Prince was also a few points number one point there that he brings is from Tanya in time. He says that when they brought a card room into the sailors, which was a flower offering and they said mikdash it elevated Natchez that flower but all the men had sameach the flour all over the world everything from the world of vegetation. Why because it's all connected when God created an object something from the world of mineral world of the vegetable world or the animal world to roll into connected later. They would multiply in large numbers. So when you elevate one complete one, element all the so-called and family also gets elevated which tells us that you don't necessarily have to go in every corner of the earth and Elevate them to find the spark and literally every blade of grass. Every fiber of existence, you know, they'd the general category elevates the entire category Elevate some parts of it you elevate all of it. So that's one point second point is that Nation Generations are cumulative as we discussed last week as well, which means we are not stand we don't stand alone. We are midgets that stand on the shoulders of giants. That's why it's called a chain like a social dislocation Joshua's. So we're not coming only with our efforts were coming with all the efforts they came before us. Which accumulate the billions and billions of Good Deeds of Mitzvahs on mysterious never sacrifices commitments all build all release energy into this world spiritual energy. So we're standing today. We're not just standing and saying, okay. Let's reach a few people know many many have been reached. So the world is saturated by this at this point with that energy. So now it's just a matter of the Tipping Point. And once you have the Tipping Point the rest will follow. So that's Point number two point number three as far as individuals go most souls in this world today are a Google are Reincarnation of previous Souls. I say most meaning rubric cruelly almost all the rare exceptions. So when you see someone that you call non-observant, do you see someone who's not yet Embrace something that doesn't mean that they're in the shamans is not connected to because it could have done it in previous generations. In previous lifetimes now they have to finish a certain job. So we're not just talking a completely clean slate. Everyone comes with a whole history behind them and finally and finally being that each person has his Aveda. It could be that their Good Deed. There's no person on Earth has not done a good deed whether it's a Jew or non-jew that good deed could be the theed that tips the scale because it's also cumulative. So to say that we have to reach every individual although we do and we have to do our effort at do all we can. To reach every individual but there's an element that when the energy comes into play then it affects everyone else even those that may not be directly impacted to use an example is a famous story based you also they say on the market that they want sudden based methods to their students and major hitters and major Innovation and table students were very excited. They never heard it before and unprecedented Revelation. Then one of them went back home goes into shoulder David. Here's a sheer of relatively simple people. Learning they're learning this idea. And one of the other one was teaching this year. Suddenly says this idea person who's not even in that league. So in a sense, he got disturbed us here was a kid news that we who great Scholars all heard from our market for the busiest with whoever it may be if you're a simple person is saying exactly the same Innovation. So so he asked is it happens teacher and the rebbe answered simple that once it's in it is open posture had Cena like we say in Zaire Pasa, which means a new channel opens. With an idea in brings an energy into the world a door has opened and that makes it easier for anyone to access it. So the same is true in this context the energy that we release that we bring into the world when we refine our lives and we refined our environment is not just affecting us. It affects everybody even those that are not necessarily doing that after this moment. And therefore when you think of the cumulative energy and all the points I made earlier. It makes total sense that no, you don't have to reach every individual we have to do our part and hopefully it has that ripple effect may be directly or indirectly and elevates the world and then when the goal of comes then it will activate in everybody soul that commitment to users guide and that commitment to the shelving systems and therefore the non-jewish world. And when you look around the world today, you see a civilized world and you see commitments that have brought brought kindness and Justice and virtue to the world. You cannot just dismiss it, even though they're individuals. You can say that saying certain country. They're not living by it, but the country is living by it and that country is is represents all its citizens. So in that sense of the impact of even of a group or individuals or a majority, in fact, even the impacts even in What even if it's not a minardi is I said it impacts the universe. So when you make the world a better place, it's a better place for everybody. Even those that may not be directly participating in every good deed. In addition to the fact that as I said, every person does have some good deeds under their belt meaning what they've accomplished. So what does that tell us in Practical terms of tells us that when we talk about that we're on the threshold of gokula that ever saying and open your eyes people say where we see it. You see all kinds of problems. Well, first of all, you look around the promise compared to previous generations, you can it was are completely over pale in comparison. That's not even that's a mile statement. Number two. There are beautiful positive things in the world today that whether it's Civilized World whether it's a world that lives by certain humanitarian values and rights and so on cannot be ignored the fact that their problems does not take away from that Collective shift you go back a hundred years which all men over a hundred and fifty million people were killed during the two world wars in the 19th and the 20th century. So though there are pockets and they're still problems. But number one is the letter says that itself is part of the Revelation because it's exposing all these issues is bottle of Islam not volume in a famous many Seekers, but especially put in tough. She remembered Zion that end of the public and that I've explained that the things that we see that are negative are part of that when the light is shining and you're about to enter into a new state of gula it shines a light even on the Cracks that were previously on not seen an Finally an additionally I should say to that the mere fact that we are aware of it and we are doing something about it bothers us is also a sign of something there was a time where Injustice and oppression was common today. It's seen as not acceptable even though people do it is still seen unacceptable and we do whatever we can to fight. So we are a state where we are cumulatively has led us to a place where the world is ready for Redemption. The levers words. What we need to do is consciously and psychologically put ourselves in that mindset that heart set and act on it. And that allow negative things to bring us down but to forge ahead and to use the light a little light dispels much Darkness, especially when the darkness is only the absence of light based on ignorance not based on any powerful formidable Force. It's only the absence so psychologically and emotionally when we align ourselves to that that's how we push it forward and hopefully quickly reveal the olive that finally the Google emerges. In existence in the fullest sense of the world coulomb it especially okay. next question fear on page 139 of your book of the new edition of your book toward a meaningful life you right fear of God is not actually fear at all. But a know and respect for a higher presence in your life question why no words are probably the least effective way to communicate on respect. I'm sorry while I know words are probably the least effective way to communicate or and respect seem to present more positive meanings. The word fear to me has wrapped is read as wrapped up in it a concern for reprisal of some sort of potential punishment. Why use the word fear at all? So it's a very good question. And of course it leads right into another question. What is it Matt? What is meant? Are we meant to be afraid of God? So firstly the word fear is not used fears an English word. The wood heaters used the Monte recession Malika. He - mm. I'm here discussion questions. What is you know me so the literal translation you hear a Visage and love of God. It was a shame fear of God, but immediately when you think of the word fear, what is it? Evoke what are we afraid of some people are afraid of the dark afraid of crime afraid of danger afraid of destructive force. Does that what it means that God is God forbid acquainted with all that obviously not that's why the far better than interpretation is off a sense of respect and maybe the word fear shouldn't be used the truth is in unit itself. See this brings from from Nicola and I'm from Kabbalah that you'd has levels is you decided. Sua the fear of being punished is you decide Amos a sense of all of the exaltedness of the Divine. Here is the anus which is similar to you recited. Sua is he retarded is really a law. So there are many different levels of certain type of respect that we have for something greater than us. So true. There is the concept of gear and packets on trembling before God, but that should not be confused with a demoralizing fear of let's say a criminal or danger. Or other fears that we have psychological emotional fears real or imagined. Because those fears are demoralizing and they're frightening here. We're talking about a fear. If you're going to use that word of something greater, like being accountable were afraid of being accountable. But I frankly choose the word awe and respect much over fear because fear confuses us and is associated with negativity stuff. So I don't know if we should use the word fair at all, except when you're talking perhaps in the context menu say like for example, you need to give an accounting so you like afraid to do that. Why is it Involved because you feel that you're accountable even there. I really wouldn't like to use the word fear because again is demoralizing the overall may not fit there as well. So there you probably have to look for a word. That's more like I a type of humbling where Ava is about love and running towards something you love fear or here is more of a standing with Reserve with a certain respect. Say the give a bit odd about that even though there's a celebration of such an Innkeeper, but it's Paradise, but that's Rumble because you standing before the king and there's a certain tentativeness is even a certain feeling inside that you feel do I deserve to be here, but that's not a fear of the fear of a criminal or the fear of destructive forces. That's a fear that belongs by sensing. There's something greater than Nia. That's why the word or respect seems to be much more fitting. I discussed this topic in the past in episodes 84 and 181 and I refer you to those episodes which can be seen all now and a new website called since apply.com and you just can search for these episodes. And if you go to the YouTube version of the video time stamps, you can actually go to that actual topic that you're looking for. So this is a good opportunity to also point out that you have the opportunity to write any anonymous question to us. Every question is welcome. Every question will be addressed. As well as looking at all the essays of pre of this year's contest and previous years and there's a full array of resources at Exodus applied that cam. So please take advantage of another question now. Should I as a female you're going to a male healer? So it's a topic. We actually addressed a few months ago. I guess maybe even longer episodes 248 249 but since mooc has most questions came in on this topic. I felt let's address it. I'm a single girl is person writes I go to a chiropractor man who helps me tremendously. He's a Healer who goes back to past experiences and tries to relive the negative feelings in a safe. Environment while I'm feeling the feelings. He gives me comfortable words Etc. It's like a male therapist. Basically, I feel comforted by him during the session, but I know he's adapter and it ends there the fact that I'm getting validated by a man and I'm a single woman. Is that okay? There are clear boundaries that he is a doctor and we have no other relationship. I'm just wondering because I'm at sneeze. They could girl modest girl. Thank you. so if you think of a doctor is a if you think of a therapist or contract as a doctor, yes a doctor of course has the ability because he's dealing with the medical or related to the Health and Welfare of human being and therefore Lala has like Shimon Iggy and others don't apply there. However, you can also make the case. This isn't a black and white doctor medical doctor. This is more of a chiropractor or more of a Healer and you say it's more of an almost like a therapist soothing words going to This lives not getting into now a past experiences. I should say. Am I mistaken says past experience and previous lives not to go into the competence. Let's say we're talking assuming that this healer is a competent and credible and legitimate and all that. Why not look for a woman? I don't know if anyone was saying is so that's prohibited for you to go see this person if they're helping you, but it could well be that just to be safe. It's maybe better to find a woman if there is a competent woman of comparable credentials and your experience is a positive one with that person. So I don't have a there is no black and white answer to this because as I said, there is the ability to explain it the context of a Healer or a doctor, but especially since you asked The question which are really tells me that maybe there's something bothering you and you don't want to open up any door because there's always challenges when it comes to being personal with someone talking about your personal life is a form of intimacy, even with the best boundaries may be wise to perhaps also explore the option of a female therapist or female chiropractor in the same way. They can do the same job. Next question on this topic woman's Fabregas the rabbi Jacobsen. I have a question regarding men leading for brains for women. It seems strange to me that men are permitted to leave for bring this from women. I have as I've seen advertised in my community for different special days. I suppose I could understand why it's okay for men to deliver classes. Sure. You didn't two women since it is taking place in an academic setting and they would be no choice shosh. No concern of anything untoward. Although by the same token, it would make sense to permit women delivering she ran into men since we do not pasukan that coil the issue at Alpha means the voice of a woman is sexual applies to a woman speaking voice yet. For some reason that would be considered a breach of sneeze for a woman to give a class for men but not when men give classes to women, but I digress but I do not understand why the guest speakers build women struggling as our men how can a woman truly open up and seeing a Make Her float this resolution. Lucian's and even dance if there's a man presiding I would think that they would they would feel rather inhibited and restricted. There's so many knowledgeable inspirational women around why can't they run? The women's Brains in an appropriate manner? I think it's ridiculous that the women need to hear a man from laying in my opinion is not a real for bring but rather a speech or sheer class. I also think that male must be in conducting for bringing Zagros seminaries is a serious breach of sneeze modesty. What do you think? Thanks for your incredible? This pass through the skills of marks three years since I started listening to my life to this applied. Well, I addressed this very directly almost word for word question. Not exactly your question by the same idea and episodes 248 and 249. So first I'd refer you to their and their make it very clear that I absolutely agree with you. There's no reason for that and it does it could be a breach and it definitely is not even if it's not a breach. It's not it's already going on boundaries. That one should be careful. Unfortunately. They've been situations to call those things that came out that were not such positive things. So I totally agree and there's an exception once in a situation where a person coming to from bring a one-time thing a special guest speaker for special day. Maybe it's men and women are there or there's a special sessions with women, but it's a one-time. Thing and that's something that is under a regular basis like a niche in seminary or school that as I discuss then you find that there are precedents and may be acceptable but it's not regular they're not getting to know this person person traveled was coming there from another place or it's a Once in a guest speaker that happens very on frequently. So that may be different for the reason the obvious reasons. So I don't need to elaborate more because already discussed is back then and those episode but since these episode since these questions have come in I thought appropriate to review them again and refer you to those episodes. next question How do we understand polygamy in Judaism? We know that a person's soul mate is decreed 40 days before conception. It's a good model. How does this teaching applied to polygamy? Can you please explain this concept? Thank you. So polygamy, of course is allowed in the Tater ability for one man to have more than one wife. Like for example slime on metal and others. You talk about format and tater like yaakov. So there's a whole discussion whether they were bombed by a locker with it was the same situation, but still the spirit of theta they definitely kept actually need not obvious kind of call it a large linen or they fulfill the dead even before I was given. How logically their discussions about it, but definitely the spirit of it. So how do you make others that make sense? Especially when you go back to home machine you read Joplin and came about a some I'm just amplifying the question male and feel the female. He created them human being separated them and then they look for each other so late. How do you explain polygamy in that? Context one man? One woman who are both part of one holds element lucky. And we do find in practice. So firstly let's start on a very basic level to leave me even though it's allowed it was never endorsed. It was never I should say was never considered preferable. So the cases we find are exceptions. It's not something that you find that every person practiced polygamy many did that and most of that. Even when you talk about avraham avinu took up a leg is how drug that was not polygamy was a blockage you've talked only has Rifka. With yaakov, as I said that you could say perhaps a form of polygamy. We have so my melon condone, but you hear about the criticism of Slam urmila that he shouldn't have had so many wives. And in general that came the payment of a negation, why did he make us hate them if it's the spirit of Taylor to have it so why did you make us hate them? So true there's their circumstances and their situations things that happened that he saw but the that that was causing problems and jealousies and so on but how does the Tater condone something that can be negative and yet that Tatum stands even till today even though spy them some sliding do not hold by that but generally speaking it's not it's frowned. Pain, let's put it that way. So I'll explain the to exercise of either should be not of allowed period why allowed and then frown on it and why is it allowed the first place? So up in nuclear, you could say that a woman or the way of a woman works and women and men work. You could talk and How likely that a woman is loyal to one man. And women came to polygamy cannot work both ways a woman through condition car Calum who and other things that explain how a woman should be loyal to one map. But how do you explain the spiritual level that's not the other way around and why shouldn't a man be loyal to one woman? So I think Ebola talks about soulmates the idea concept is that like taking a curve that the soul mates each one fulfills part of the mission. Half of the mission you can say and together they fulfill the unit United mission that God created them in the Divine image, but there are times with that mission is not enough one woman. The case for example with the foreign boys you have layer your article below and zilpah. We should take this barzeh. Why because they are varied of yaakov was meant to bring the to all SWAT team into the world 12 SWAT team have diverse missions to cover the entire Spectrum one woman would not be enough, even though one woman could have had technically 12 children, but I was still being all this the genes of that woman being that had to be as diverse as possible. So each one of the four Amorous each one. I'm sorry of the four wives of yeah Covino provided a different type of Aveda. That gave that Shavers a certain strength that came from that one now. Why is it that after women split into four so to speak why can't you active that's a longer discussion, but generally because the my spea is one but the Macabre the issue which is the recipient can Branch it into many ways and that's why you see a woman's the one that carries the child. So the seed of the man is a singular type of force. And that determines the certain elements of the personality of the child the woman brings a certain diversity and that's why there is situations where is allowed because what you have is a situation that one man has four different wives in this case or others polygamous situations different ones and each one each woman brings a different part of that very did that would be given the mission to that to her Offspring all with that one seat of the match. So the man That Singularity that unifying element and the woman provides in this case a certain diversity that you don't have with only one wife, but that I've been litigation and in general the Taylor that was not seen as a positive because it's a lot of complications in real situations where a person like a caboose a holy man, and then that create a situation they would be even there. They were jealousies. We know the story of leuven and Layin Rahul and so on. But there because it was a novice in a merkava. It retained a certain Integrity. But as soon as you have a little lack of that Integrity, there's a it's a harder and to have more than one wife can cause other problems so though there is spiritually a concept of having that situation. It's considered to be an anomaly not the natural. So that explains idea what these more explanations why is a woman different than a man in this regard? And overalls I said because the man is the must be that's the area. That's my shit. So it's one ahead the woman diversifies in channels that which is why there is foreign moist and three of its four is a much more diverse approach three is the minimum which is the three than necessary for something to stand upon. You have the three masses by Paisa in you have the four cups of wine same idea. So we talked about Hoffman, which is eyeball Kaufman's than the Cuda Saba. They have one could but being that which is Emma Bunton Smith of the mother the woman being a diverse been as like the expansion of the river which goes in many directions. And therefore they can be one Hoffman and several levels of being a one spark but then breaks down into four different that case could be for could be more than 4 but it breaks into Parts which is what being a does it takes the spark the unified spark and concentrate is part of hokhmah the option and develops. It flushes it out takes the seed and turns it into a fetus and the fetus develops into a full-blown child in the mother's womb. I hope that helped answer it and let's go to the next question WhatsApp. Is WhatsApp appropriate so WhatsApp for those that don't know what it is as the level would say often enough are bringing mentioned in the New York Times or other secular platforms says if you don't know what it is, Toby, I'll let somebody off. So may you be blessed if you don't know what it is WhatsApp is a one of the social platforms today social media very popular that billions of people use the easy way to communicate families uses a song. So the question is asked to asking I'm a many different WhatsApp groups. Most of them are rub and total related. Here are my two issues with them number one videos and auto auto audio clips of the lab are so easily available and thus cheapen their value to it's a major Traction there ever says we need to be like the rash ball who would shut out everything else and give a hundred percent attention to whatever he was doing famous sick of half SWAT option landed there. We spoke about us Hawkins man success in time that type of focus. So these are the two questions very good questions. The truth is you could broaden the question and say old technology to cheapen things. Because once you have technology so easy to use once upon a time yet the struggle to find a mimer let some submitted Eveready writes in his introduction to is it that a lot that a crime? I think shot it Shuba he writes. I think I said it sugar he writes that if he's publishing the Little Devils are real publisher of my modern of his favorite spot him and see this. So here is that it is publishing even though he knows mini guide them in a ganache that they value more excessive a manuscript the rear manuscript because people Pursuit when it's rare and here now becoming published it's easy and yet he's doing it because today's day and age we need to make it as easy as possible for people to study. Everyone always been more on the fact that as soon as the technology came into being it made things people took for granted once upon a time you had to memorize things then when they first created the first tablets thousands of years ago, some people saw that as the downfall of civilization won't have to stroke and you can imagine the printing press what that was said about and then later when the digital world was created people said, that's the downfall people won't read. So yes, there is a downside you can say because it's so easy and so common and therefore people will take for granted but there's an upside it makes it easy to study and as the dep is says about modern technology speaks about sworn in today. So today the fact that they're encyclopedias and indexes and so on. Yes, you could say, you know, what makes things so easy to find so the man says so use that and then since I look M at its me the Traders are looking at its media and it's infinite you use the extra time yet you have That instead of spending so much time searching because you can find it easily online or computer and so on use the extra time to go deeper into the table. So encyclopedias have their value, but obviously exactly a big it's a complete idiot a Buddhist. It's not a replacement of learning Ahmad and struggling with it, but it makes things easier. So that's the answer to that though. Yes. It seems to be a good sheep and things it's true. That's why you find that every even especially in the early years. They're not want pictures take any did not want recordings. He wanted Quezada even of the fabric was that were recorded because to Value it you have to appreciate it that way but end of the day there is also the other value because you can reach many more people who may not be ready to struggle or may not be around. So to Outkast that ever citizen Theta 2 all over the world today not used technology is not using a gift. God gave us a kayak added as that ever writes awesome power to be able to reach millions and millions of people instantaneously with Taylor and a message of God and a warm kind word and so on. So well are challenges like old Comforts in this world. You could also argue 500 years ago people struggle much more in a shtetl or a small town today. We have freedom we take it for granted. So we have the evening bad. It's actually the challenge of comfort zones of prosperity and the apathy it creates. So should we go back and turn the clock back and not take advantage of all the benefits and Comforts that we have no take advantage, but then ignite within yourself a passion equal to the passion. Had with real obstacles to overcome apathy to overcome in differents overcome the comfort zone and taking for granted our lives and use that passion to go to reach Greater Heights. And yes, it's a challenge. It's much easier to want maschiach when you're desperate when you need then when things are comfortable. So all these new technologies are opportunities to bring Taylor citizen too much farther and places that could never have been reached before and we have to use that Comfort not to take it for granted or two. To just relax but use passion to take it to a whole different dimension that today. We have the opportunity to reach that we could never have reached. So be passionate about reaching millions of people with these Technologies. As far as Point number two years. It could be a major distraction. That's why a person has to have tremendous focus and seeing that the shear demand Teta the midst was they do the myth showing their status. But if that is also accentuated and enhanced by technology, for example, learning a sheer you can learn on the phone because you don't have a safer with you then if it's controlled by your focused attention to what you need to do like the rash mitaka then take LG becomes another tools like saying I'm not going to use a book. The book is also technology in a way, but it makes it easier to learn. So the key thing is not to be hypnotized and not be seduced with technology controls you but rather you control it meaning you use it as a tool to access. If you have a question today, you have to go to a library. You can just search for it online. You can communicate with others. Although these groups with people ask questions to each other real Tater learning going on across the world. You can have thousands of people that once upon a time you can only have those people that were living in your town your soul. We have a sheer you could have actually a virtual class and for bringing a share all over the world. So this is up to us. So bottom line is it's all up to our free will do we have more challenges with these Comforts. Yes, we do, but it's always up to 3 1 as they would say junk in junk out that's technology. If you bring put in junk you get drunk you get more junkie little accelerate the job if you put in good things and you come with a good attitude technology can enhance and amplify and in many ways strengthen intensify. Whatever good it is that you're doing, okay? Let's do a few follow-ups. So last week's program, which was a special gimel additional gimel Thomas addition elicited a lot of comments. I'm not going to read them all. Most of them were extremely beautiful comments actually didn't get any critique on this last episode, but the really powerful I want to thank you for your kind words just to use one expression is that you really allowed me to experience give Motel allow me to prepare and experience chemo Thomas in ways. I never could have imagined instead of focusing on small things. He's not even on the pain really give direction and guidance of how to use this day to turn into something that would make the devil proud. So thank you and there are many similar sentiments that I received and I want to thank you for those kind words. So one person I ever spoke one of the topics I spoke about was PD and nefesh spoke about so long, right? You mentioned color fraying at the machpelah. They look more so my fellow when he went with the scouts few weeks ago we read so it says they arrived at Hebron it says washing your feet. Even though it was the 12 Scouts yet what it says one person who came to heaven. So Raschi site there from the community and in the state of death Lama Dalai Lama days 34b that it was color who went off to 7 and his own to pray and he asked Slovakia should ask him a lot. He actually ask for compassion that they were the obvious and the those in the murders of machpelah should be Siege on his behalf. They shouldn't get caught up in their plot and conspiracy. So someone says isn't that pigeon nefesh. So technically that is pretty nervous. And that maybe there was source of the lost and Allah is ar-rahman Robin. That's a lesson that the model some more or less where call of says her name is asking for that time in my life. Basically the should be compassion for him, which is a form of pigeon after so you could say the sources there. However, the loss of PD enough fish is not actually there. So if anybody has sources we see the word PDF is used for the first time please I still am waiting to The Source I'll be looking around if anybody has at least send it to me and I'll be I want to share it to the public. Okay. Another topic will do following up was an episode 263 spoke about Amash Pia Lobby Jacobson. I've worked on a project we searching my spear daily for six months and just considered for using your material but was overwhelmed to find the related episodes by Divine Providence. Just this week meaning week to 60 episode 263 you Touched on my Spear and listed which weeks mentioned it. I've learned a few things on the subject spending an hour a day and your videos added to it in the future. I'll write more on the matter, but I thought to mention the emphasis that must be it is a relationship on a very good historically regardless that it can also help physically. The Bible says all the pieces for full expression and despite individuals requiring different amounts of mysterious nefesh sacrifice, if all the parts of our Vader service feeling Putting on filling fill a prayer learning growth in Mitch's and if so him are there a person has potential Taylor like the Arts Sports and secular subjects in public schools will have them is a medium for relationship and connection and connection and disgusting one is learning asking for tips deeper Insight or guidance in limos and learning creates relationship and context making the RAV. By engaging I say the Quran meaning of pointing that out. I say making your Rabbi your Mentor is by engaging the must be in, Nevada. That's officially engaged. If they don't do much time in the Cobble must talk about the time including that video of those that aren't Jewish as well as they can obviously toil on the matter is obligatory sometimes taking time and sometimes proceeding quickly. She's basically pulling focus on the effort that has to be invested with out with God's help will grasp how to make solid mesh beam mentors. All right the future I believe must be in past has been profoundly difficult and misunderstood for all and is important to understand progressively Australian students reach further. I'll have two more points it won a person needs to know who they are. Not every individual is biased and he's in my spear not every individual is brought every individual is vice and he must be up for their negative inclinations. For example, there are different in summers. Mean to Amela some of my friends family infrastructures that Guard from negative. Not sure what he means something to be sure they are doing enough positive which affects others. Also there are cases that people are worried about mental health and the use of must be a they must know they're doing they're very appropriately and completely unfocused conversation on this before. They meet need the toilet more serious matters is the Mosel mental well-being are obviously dealt with by professionals, but I think most people understand this without atmosphere. Number two not clear everything the person is writing but I'm just reading it. Number two the myth sign bonds the community those with education to the Jewish public traditionally with less education. Any person can be a must be on another with knowledge of this context Phil and Shabbos candles Schaefer helping others Jews with these mistress is an obviously solve which must be is directly connected are each in each of these campaigns the general educator education moved to it'sa includes everything of a Immunity and and all the community needs and is only one of the many it takes practice to know which must be receives which emphasis in the structure. Every person has their particular needs. This is appropriate if Simon attitude is a much clearer based on matters of context and education background location and available time. Thanks. Okay. I read it as it is unedited as you see and I hope I made sense definitely the certain points and thank you for that. At another follow-up which is an episode 264. We spoke about limited contact between cussin and kala their Rabbi regards to if they're ever said any limits for a bride and groom to be in contact with each other during the engagement. So I'd like to cite this in complementing what you discussed in the recent book asset when Hagen von Hagen is model are high in by huzzah. It's a book of that gathers costumes. They bring their and chapter 26. Five page 461 the following quote. They should not meet each other more than once a week and one more time on telephone and the least and the less the better honks end of quote. They quote in the footnote 144 schottische deduction page 205. Another sources. Keep up the great work best. Okay, thank you and one more follow-up and handshaking which was an episode 261. Just tying up some knots. Finishing some topics. So there we spoke about the handshaking so someone wrote and you can always go back to those episodes to see the full discussion. Hi, I would like to add a comment on the topic of handshaking you discussed. I used to be embarrassed about it as well until I attended a University graduation. I would rather not disclose which country I live in we're many International female graduates of what I presume to be Islamic, but possibly another religion also refused to shake the professor's hand on stage in front of thousands of people. Even have it procedure where you place your arm diagonally across your chest as a signal to the professor that you can't shake as an aside another interesting customers that some religious students were called out. As name son of name or name daughter of name instead of their last names now that we need other religions to make us feel proud of or less embarrassed about our own religion, but I'm sure can help people to feel that the world then accept as the world except some respects these things and that of other religions can be proud of Stand Tall. Call The Kramer. Can we how much more so can we? Okay, thank you for these follow-ups. And now we'll go to the see this question for this week. This is a follow-up. Someone said last week you discussed that you just touched upon briefly the role of a ribbon at sadek that comes with solemn is not a form of idolatry because the web is a transparent Channel and you mentioned the posted by ukulele Kayla the case law on ya Covino. The yacht's of some is bear establish them as bear and passers-by use luck and said that he couldn't locate early case law. Can you please explain this concept? How can it sobbing be called by God's name? So this of course follows up our discussion there. So let me begin with some sources. This question is obviously asked by the commentaries. So let's first coat Raschi Nashi from the McGill Martin McGill you test out of says the following and that posture can be useless, but you can only kill. Okay. So here's the language of a shoe. Because beautiful coral yaakov. Kale. God called yaakov. Kale. God Peter / - as I said megillah 1888 So an idiot ETA on the Pacific and the my movies vyasa from is Vella and other my modern and outside them all here. My modem are And that's impossible. We have my modern tough less llama gimel from the Rubbermaid trash. I'm I'm at uh freshman valid that is the lever mirages minor with how girls from the number of shop and population involved all discuss this topic and the language of data. Terry says like this. That since he was Ashley, ah to fulfill her shamelessly of the she react when he does Ashley, he's called on the name of the mashaallah sluggish olodum commercial Sammamish and altered episodes including Taylor that he grow. The Michelle are today booster. The Slayer is the Jew in this case the act of doing what a shame says. So therefore you can call him looking sharp and be creative kale. That's why you could say Yakov is called kale also an interesting minded or she might should say at the Shimmer from the Deborah shot. It's not that known but in safer my modem tough relation involved operation noon on page race. I doubt the race that's 274. He has a the shim and safer increment in the end of nimnim noise, which means that God does not have any guide limits and addresses this issue. Actually, how can a human being be called God? So he says that the grandmother was based on the question. He says is that an applicators? I'm a skill rather. Somebody said they can God create another God. She's so the rebel rishabh says how labor emmis that's the time of those are equally clearly case, of course working currently active care. And explains it up. He considers kassadin to Ferris says me see even hated other halves. It has a low base. I'm Andreas year of the oven basically hated it Shambhala Equanimity close payday Aroma like Duck bit more of a low because the aquarium says there is a limit but based on this one has a little bit of sharp says that someone who understands our picks it has this concept because when I talk about obviously, we're not talking about God forbid another God we're talking about the bit love that slea. Of of this case Yakov is to that extent that he's no longer an entity of his own. He's just an extension of the Divine. So these are some sources and some of the explanation on the topic. Of course I get us and we have to mention also that in the top the in Tanya he talks about a molecule shaming as little as she says in get us that kadish. Simmons eye We discuss this as well. So that explains some of the idea. Obviously. It's a very dark as they can sensitive matter, but you have to remember that we're not talking about a replacement. God forbid or not. Don't but another we're talking about a bit incompletely. So the guardian is that shines through him that allows them to be called kale and this even extensive in that jelly color common. Mom Amish and that's why says my Beta is beta baahubali elements just as a barista creates World a vegan yack of creates worlds because he has the power of the it. To do so so it's all coming from a Shem not from any other entity. God forbid. Okay. Now as we always do the three essays, these are all part of essay contest 2019 and we're going in order of the marks of all these essays and what do we have? We have the marks of these essays and they are Essay, number one, let's do the essays as a number one is. Just pick that up one second. growth through trauma by Hadassah sensitive 826 West Hollywood, New York And she writes we all go through traumatic experiences in our lives from the outside. Some traumas may seem more extreme than others, but all of them shatter beliefs or expectations that we have about ourselves about others and about the World perhaps you discovered that someone you deeply respected or trusted. Did something immoral perhaps you suffered a loss or someone that you love then couldn't imagine your life without perhaps you were forced to move to a new city and had to leave behind everything. You knew perhaps you had a lifelong dream that you realized when never come true when these experiments experiences come to us. Our first instinct is often to blame others or ourselves goes on to explain the different ways. We experienced it. But how do we is there a healthier way to approach trauma? Is there a way not only to recover from the experience but turning into a point of growth? In this essay, we will explore a unique type of personal growth that can come only come through trauma based on the second essay from the fifth Chabad Rabbi is famous series Hampshire some evolved In This Moment 11 sharp discusses two processes of growth and the essay goes on to explain agricultural Trauma from c-23 intellectual Trauma from a rhythmic doctoral algebra interpersonal Trauma from self to other embracing personal Trauma from self to beyond the trauma of redemption a birth story. And the take away your personal Redemption excellent essay and well recommended very creative the language and expand the ideas. That's sa first test in next essay. What will the neighbors think what will the neighbors think by Rifka cone age 34 Greater Manchester England a sloka she writes we often pride ourselves as being Unique Individuals following our core values, but honestly, we may be surprised to find ourselves following the crowd and caring what the neighbors will say. What will my friends say, there's a natural desire to conform to find security and validation from others. The first line is still controlled. The code of Jewish law is the following. It would have been terrible says been Tama says be bold as a leopard Swift as an eagle the fleet as a deer as strong as a lion to fulfill the wall of your father in Heaven to be bold as elaborate means that one should not be embarrassed when confronted by scoffers. And goes on to explain based on Taylor see this how we build that type of Courage of not being affected embarrassed in front of others call a spade a spade. I'm not alone the world isn't that big with practical exercises are very good essay as well. And thank you and finally this third essay respectful parenting. Discipline through obvious is sterile and has said yourself on wood Eisenberg age 29, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. There's a well known story of the middle of rubber this writer writes that while we he was engrossed in learning his child fell out of bed. He was so engaged in his learning. He did not hear the child crying and I'll tell them but then rebuked him for the fact that he did not hear the child crying said no matter how lofty your involvement. You must never fail to hear the Cry of a child. And there are applied it to the Cry of children falling out of the Cradle of their Heritage Howard is important to also take this lesson literally and goes on to talk about it how you apply this story and the rebels explanation that in our lives today and sensitivity and empathy in parenting basically respectful parenting based on this principle. Excellent essay. Every parent should read this essay. Every potential parents should read this essay. So thank you for that. And with that we conclude this week's episode 267 of my life because it has supplied. We're here every Sunday 8:00 to 9:00 p.m. We welcome all your questions at City supply.com ask go to that website. You'll find plenty of resources. We also depend on your support in dedicating program or programs told memory of a loved one or an honor of a loved one should only have celebrations. So, please consider a sponsorship been going to In four life.com sponsor or since applied that come / donate or sponsor. 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Addressing the Personal and Emotional Needs of Our Community and Answering the Most Pressing Questions of Our Lives -- from the Perspective of Chassidic Thought. TOPICS: • Chassidus Applied to Chukas 1:04 • Is G-d waiting for every Jew to be observant and every non-Jew to to accept the Sheva Mitzvos before bringing the complete Geulah? 12:32 • Are we meant to be afraid of G-d? Is “fear” the accurate translation? 21:45 • Should I, as a female, be going to a male healer? 26:20 • Is it appropriate for men to lead women's farbrengens? 29:06 • How do we understand polygamy in Judaism? 32:07 • Is What’s App appropriate? 39:28 • Follow up:       o Pidyon nefesh at the Ohel (episode 266) 47:05       o Mashpia (episode 263) 48:35       o Limited contact between groom and bride (episode 264) 52:23       o Handshaking (episode 261) 53:10 • Chassidus question: How can a tzaddik be called by G-d's name? 54:18 • My Life 2019 essays:      o Growth Through Trauma, Hadassa Shemtov, 26, West Hollywood, NY; 59:08      o What Will the Neighbours Think? Rivka Cohen, 34, Greater Manchester, England 01:00:44      o Respectful Parenting: Discipline Through Ahavas Yisrael and Chesed, Yosefa Wood-Isenberg, 01:01:47          29, Philadelphia, PA 