Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : To preface: We are all teenagers, so for sure some of the stuff here is amplified by the general insecurity and dickish nature at our age, sorry if this is a really petty post!

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I have two friends that I regularly have meals with - my best friend, who is a lesbian (becomes relevant later), and a mutual male friend. The male friend is a bit of a 'player' - he has at least 4 FWBs and often talks about his sex life, which is awkward, since my bestie would be disowned if she got a girlfriend and I'm asexual. We go out for movies/dinner/walks etc around twice a week as a group, but hang out separately as well. Whenever we hang out as a group it's always fun and a good time is had by all, but my bestie generally has to leave first due to her driving and us other two bussing. Invariably, every time that it's just me and the male friend, he makes a comment to me about how much he wants to date my bestie. Comments include 'god, she's so hot', 'what can I say? those booty shorts do things to my dick', 'if she wasn't gay I'd hit that so hard', etc. He never says these things to her - he only ever comments to me once she leaves. There's some underlying resentment there as well because he doesn't believe asexuality is a real thing, and thinks I just need to masturbate to 'fix myself.'

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Male friend also has an outspoken philosophy that if somebody upsets you, the absolute worst thing you can do is try to talk to them about it. If you can't deal with banter and jokes, that's on you, and any conversation around an issue isn't to be respected. Just hit back harder with another joke, don't show weakness or else people will double down on the thing that's upsetting you.

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My bestie is aware of these comments that she makes behind her back and is uncomfortable, but is generally afraid of confrontation and doesn't really want to bring it up with him. The problem is more of a me thing. I find it really rude for him to constantly compliment her to me, as well as his attitude towards woman in general being really demeaning and disrespectful. I've told him in confidence that I have self-image issues and I'd prefer if he could keep the compliments between them two, as all it does is make me feel lesser when he constantly talks about how good my bestie is. My bestie agrees thoroughly and is really supportive and understanding, she tells me that he's just trying to mess with me and that in 15 years people won't care about his good looks, and that me and her both will be outta this town and making good relationships together that will matter far more than any scuzzy comments (she's the best &lt;3). She knows about my jealousy and tells me it's coming from a totally realistic place and that it isn't fair for him to say things like that, especially behind her back.

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I've brought it up with him a few times, but he always plays it off as a joke and tells me to get over myself, and that just because he compliments HER doesn't mean he doesn't like ME any less. However, it's been getting to the point where I'm trying to get away from him as quick as I can at the end of a group hangout because I just don't want to hear about how sexy my bestie is and how much fun she was every time. Like.. I'm here too, dude. It culminated yesterday when I had to leave early for a change and he texted me out of the blue that 'after you left his minidate with (bestie) was so much fun. I texted him back and told him that I found it pretty rude to say that to me and that it made me feel like he wished I'd left earlier, and told him to just say those things to his face instead of to me because it was making me feel unwanted. He told me to cut the jealous crap and that he'd done nothing wrong, and that I was just upsetting myself and needed to stop having a rivalry. I think it's fair to say I'm jealous - but in a group of three, he constantly singles her out as the hottest, smartest, most fun. It's hard NOT to feel jealous. I know it's a petty thing to be upset about, and that I should just be agreeing with him and saying 'yes! she IS hot! I know!' because she is, but it's really ruining my time together with my friends and I don't want that to happen. I don't really have any other friends so I've admittedly put up. I repeated myself and asked him to just compliment her instead of make comments to me. 

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TL;DR: Male friend in a group of three constantly talks about how cool and hot my bestie is to me and won't stop, especially once I leave the group hangout, despite knowing I have issues with that and asking him to stop several times. It makes me feel unwanted by comparison and want him to just compliment her direct instead of me having to hear about it. He thinks I'm jealous and am responsible for being in control of my own insecurities. I'm worried that I'm overreacting and I'm letting my own issues get in the way of things, but at the same time I'm inclined to think it really wouldn't be hard just to NOT make a comment everytime. AITA?