Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I was recently berated by my girlfriend for this, but I don’t think I did anything wrong and want to hear if I’m the asshole.

Here are the story. In my department at work it’s me, my boss, and a woman who works under me who was hired about six months ago. We all went to lunch together about once or maybe twice a week, which is the same as before she started working when it was just me and my boss we did lunch about the same. We mainly just talk about work or other topical conversations. My boss got promoted a little while back, we still all do lunch together sometimes but lately  he’s been too busy and maybe once every other week I do lunch with just myself and the girl who works under me when he doesn’t have time.

I was at lunch with her a few days back and sent a picture of my lunch to my girlfriend who commented on the food and asked who I went with. I told her I was with the girl I work with, and she responded weirdly and I knew something was up. I asked if she had an issue with it and she basically accused me of emotionally cheating on her with this girl, and that it is flat out wrong to be going to lunch with a married women. My gf told me at a work party I had brought her to a few months back, the girl that worked under me had grabbed my arm and it seemed odd to her. She basically said that that was inappropriate behavior and that it happened because I was encouraging it by going to lunch with her.

I have no recollection of her touching my arm at this party. There is absolutely nothing inappropriate or suggestive being said at these lunches, it is topical or business discussion only. There is never any other physical contact either. I have no interest in this woman who is happily married in any physical or emotional way, and honestly I don’t even find her attractive in any way. Most days we don’t even talk very much I assign her tasks and review her work, probably a combined 30 minutes of conversation a day ( apart from days we do lunch)

I told my girlfriend I would stop going since it was bothering her and I will, but I really don’t feel like I’m did wrong. This is typical of all divisions in our office and similar to what I’ve been doing with my boss before she was on board. I would be doing nothing different if she was a man. To me it helps with team building and working with people, and even though I won’t do it for my gfs sake, I don’t think I did anything wrong to begin with.

Am I the asshole here for thinking I didn’t do anything wrong?



