We are on vacation in Edinburgh with a couple. Despite being very vocal about not liking to travel, it ends up being "my present" for every other occasion, and she never understands my under-enthusiastic reaction. It'd be like me giving her a videogame because I wanted to play it.

Yesterday when we finally got to the apartment, after a day walking around, we cuddled for a while, but it's a hot room and she was resting right on top of my stump. When it got uncomfortable I asked her to please move.

15 minutes later she gets up upset. What is wrong?, but you know what's coming next. Nothing, she said. Eventually she says "I'm going to eat". Alone? I ask,wondering if she had set it up with one of them. Yeah alone. She didn't ask if I wanted to go, or if I wanted her to bring me something.

I don't know why she is pissed but I persist "wait, let me get my boots on, I'll go with you." She goes out, while saying she isn't her mother. I'm still getting ready, (it takes a bit longer, one armed) but that's when my patience reaches it's limit. Boots off, feet back up on the bed. She always gets pissed at a fly on the wall, and I end up being the punching bag.

She eventually gets back (like half an hour later despite going next door) and she grabbed me a sandwich. It could be a good faith gesture, but it's like going to McDonald's and bringing someone a burger without asking what that person wants. I was right here. Asking me what I wanted, would be the normal thing to do. 

I think she realized she was on the wrong, and decided to try and act like she wasn't pissed and what she did was normal instead of apologising, going back to the market to buy a sandwich, which would better account for the 30 minutes.

When I didn't act like what she did was remotely normal, she tried to blame it on me.

She starts by saying "she is not like her mom, and she is not here to take orders". I haven't really asked for anything. Then she goes for another defense, that I don't talk to her, and we just lie on the bed or "I can't even lay next to you without you asking me to get off".

Then it was "People went to eat without us!" which if it was true it's an understandable reason to be mad, but at them. Alas I heard them leaving after her. 

They message us to go to the pub. She replies she doesn't want to leave me behind (after leaving me behind).

"Aren't you going to eat the sandwich?" I did what any person with self-respect would do. Got my coat on, and said "I'm going out to eat". When I got back she was sleeping/locked in the living room. 

It's the next day. I had agreed to go to Glasgow, not because I'm curious to see more men in kilts playing bagpipes, but because she wanted to. But I'm not going.

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I know I hold a grudge and tend to overreact but I never start a fight, because I just want peace and quiet. But once it's on, it's on and I can't turn it off.

AITA?