Long story short my wife is planning on filing for divorce out of the blue without trying to fix the problems she has with our marriage with counseling or other services. We are in the process of trying to split our finances/debts/things up (luckily we are both young and our only real asset/debt is our house). We have been together for 4.5 years but we were only married for 11 weeks...

In one conversation about how to split some of our finances and random items I asked to get both the engagement ring and wedding band back (worth ~4K together originally). I worked my ass off selling my soul for a contracted project that I was miserable doing for almost 6 months to be able to make the money to buy them. Considering that she had little regard for our marriage I felt it was reasonable to get them back to try and recoup some of my money. When I did this she looked at me like I was an alien but reluctantly agreed.

Am I the asshole for asking for them back to try and get some of my money back?