So my girlfriend is complaining when I don't check on her and now I feel like it's a man's duty in such relationships to always be first to say hi and all. This is actually bagging me, and without thinking hard around it beginning to use it as a measure of love. I mean that she won't spontaneously keep in touch until I start, could only mean she doesn't really love me right? It's really getting heavy on me that I'm starting to think maybe I should just end the relationship. That we are countries apart isn't helping either. Well, to be honest I am partly to blame, when i have so much on my hands, which I usually do, I hardly touch my phone, &amp; sometimes work in no network areas. To come back to my phone after a couple of hours &amp; not even a 'hi babe' message really bugs me. Even more hurtful when she says 'u didn't bother to check up on me, y should I?'. We recently fought about this behavior. But I'm I am asshole for thinking it's not anyone in particular's  duty to reach out in a relationship, it really should just be spontaneous, whoever feels the need, or misses the other, or is in a position to?