Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : When I was a child my mother would very often yell at me. I was yelled at if I spilled some milk, went on the grass while wearing good shoes or even if she was just in a bad mood. Also, I used to be quite close to my grandmother and my mom would also yell at me (well mostly at her) because I would spend too much time with her.  But as I got older I started ignoring her more and more and also started yelling at her instead when I felt like she would yell at me. But the thing is, I'm now 17 and she more or less stopped yelling at me (she instead yells at my sister since she isn't doing at school that great), while I still ignore her and act hostile to her. Even when  she wants to have a normal conversation with me I tend to be uninterested, don't talk back or talk badly about her if she tries to say something bad to me. I'm however fairly neutral to my father, not close to him (am probably closer to some friends at school)  but I often have normal conversations with him. Am I an asshole for not trying to improve my relationship with my mother who isn't abusive against me anymore? One thing that I should however also note is that her parents are even worse than her (stole a dog for fun) so I can see were she picked up some toxic behaviour. 