Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years now, we had a few little breaks and ups and downs but we've never cheated on each other, and so far he is my first and only. He is loyal and doesn't lie and has been there since the beginning. We both started out poor, but now I have $20,000 saved up in my bank and he still struggles to survive (we don't live together or share bills). When we got together when I was 15 (he was 19) from poor backgrounds and dreamed about getting rich and spending our lives together. He didn't work for that time period because of a disability but also because he's somewhat lazy, he used to try a lot in the beginning to get jobs but nothing ever came from them so he just stopped with time and stayed on welfare. 

Right now I'm 20 and he's 24. I'm in my second year of med school and have had a lot of well paid experience, scholarships and bursaries that I've saved money (as I still live with parents) and I will finish school with an excess of $20,000 in my bank, While I wouldn't call this 'rich' as he does it is still a nice financial position to be in. Meanwhile he tried to get back into education for a few years and failed, but last year it seemed like he had his shit together and got top marks and was admitted into college too on an Architecture BS.

As far as his personality goes he's pretty mature so now he just focuses on his work, but as far as his finances go he's still struggling to survive from bill to bill. He wastes a lot of money on ordering food and cigarettes, while I live a very modest life trying not to spend anything; although, he does still spend what spare money he has on me for presents and gestures but again I tell him that's a waste of money and he shouldn't do that. 

So, when we go out for meals or we do activities together he says I should pay, that we should be a team and help each other out financially, essentially he says MY money should be 'our' money. He says this because we were poor together, and over time the dynamic changed slightly as I acquired more money and he did not. He wants us to act as a married couple and we DO plan to get married at some point in the future, but I don't think that justifies sharing my money with him right now.  


I know the career path he's taking means he'll have a good income in the future, and at that point we may possibly share our income to pay the bills of the household, and I even mean to become a housewife at some point and live off of his wage while looking after our future children. I have never paid for one of his meals and we can't go on vacation together because he can never afford it, but I don't think I should pay his half of vacations we mean to spend together, or meals, or anything else just because I have money. I don't think it's reasonable that my money should be 'our' money, until we are on an equal footing financially. 

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AITA here for not helping him out or paying for things, should MY money be 'our' money?  


Thanks