Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'll try to make this as short as possible. I'm(18F) going to a music fest over the summer with my friends Erica (19F) and Liz (17F), for the second year in a row. Last year, the three of us went, along with Erica's cousin(20M), because our parents would only allow us to go if a guy came to "chaperone". I'm now dating him, but I wasn't at the time of the festival. A few months ago, I asked them how they'd feel about my close friend coming with us, as I knew she'd get along with them + liked the same bands. Liz said she'd prefer it to be just the three of us. I saw where she was coming from and dropped the idea.

Well now Liz is in a relationship with her coworker Jared(25M), and they're constantly joined at the hip. I disapprove of their relationship for obvious reasons, but I don't inherently dislike Jared. Erica and I have tried to be understanding, but we've been irritated because Liz has been assimilating Jared into our lives by bringing him everywhere we go and engaging in excessive PDA. We told her that we won't hold it against her, but can't support the relationship due to the age gap. Anyway, Liz mentioned the idea of Jared coming to the fest with us several times. We've both told her no, as we thought it was gonna be just the 3 of us and we didn't wanna change that. Liz started trying to list reasons he should come: that he could buy alcohol in-festival, and that he could "protect" us. She also tried to say that it wasn't fair that I got to bring my boyfriend last year, but she can't bring Jared. I think the situations are completely different since I wasn't dating him last year, he's Erica's cousin + our friends, andd our parents wanted him to go. Liz told us she understood where we were coming from and we thought the matter was done with.

Apparently not. Liz texted us today asking if Jared can come to the festival with us, and that he bought a 10 person tent for the 4 of us and sent a photo of them putting together the tent. We didn't respond for awhile and she started calling us and texting us separately. Erica and I are trying to figure out what to do in this situation. At this point Liz isn't even giving us a choice. We feel like Liz is disregarding our feelings on the matter, and also being a bit of a hypocrite since she was the one so insistent on it being the three of us. It's not even that we dislike Jared, we just think we'll have a better time without him there. When they're together, they're all over each other and it irritates me and Erica.  Is it really that hard for Liz to go a weekend without Jared? We just want a carefree weekend with our gal pals and bringing Jared would change the entire dynamic.

Am I being unreasonable here? I mean, maybe we're making a big deal out of nothing. But it really irritates me that Liz won't take no for an answer and keeps pressuring us to agree.