Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : BG: Dating 4 years, Plan to Propose soon. I have 6-year-old son, with full custody. We live together with my parents in NYC. We are looking to move at the end of the school year to NC, for housing and schools. I work as a Freelance Consultant.

For 8 months, my GF was unemployed. She was a CRM/Office Manager for a big fab company, but due to poor business she was let go, while still owed 2 checks.

In Dec, she started as a Hostess in Manhattan. Paycut of $30/hr to $10/hr. Morning commute is about 60mins, at night 90-120 mins, so I pick her up (45 mins both ways )If parents are home. Her default is Uber $45-$60.

A couple of months later, the fab company has new ownership. She was rehired at a higher position w/ a raise + Back Pay. We were reserved but ecstatic she said she wanted to come back on a test basis for 2 pay cycles and then she would quit the hostess job.

It's April and she hasn’t quit. She works about 70+ hrs a week. She works from 9am-5pm as a Director then from 7pm-2am. She works every day, sleeps about 3/4 hours a night.

My reasons for wanting her to quit:

\- First, I think 2nd job is unnecessary. We don't pay rent and some utilities. Yes, we would like to move soon, but I think with our 2 incomes we should be focused on spending less not making more. Better financial habits. Right now we make about $6,000/mo living with my parents. I think we can live without the extra $1600.

\- Not worth it. At $15/hr + tips she makes about $400/week after taxes. Between the Gas, Uber trips, eating out more, Stress shopping, Me needing to commute All of these things eat away at the extra money being made. And those are just the monetary prices being paid. Let alone what it is doing to our relationship.

\- Her health. She says people work 70+ hr jobs all the time. I'm being too sensitive, treating her like she is fragile. These are 2 demanding jobs, the hostess one especially. She's developed a limp being on her feet all the time. She's just overall miserable, which affects any quality time that I try to spend with her.

\- This schedule isn't optimal for me and by her working so much I can't work that much. If she came home in the evening, I could log more hours. Which would allow me to contribute more.

I am tired of this commute. 90 mins just to pick her up. I would gladly give her my car to drive between these jobs but she scared of driving

Friends tell me she doesn't feel secure enough to leave the job just yet. I need to make her feel secure about the situation but idk what to do. I asked her is their a specific amount in mind before she quits if so I would like to contribute at this point, but she says just wants as much as possible before we move.

So, Reddit, AITA here? Should I just STFU and keep doing my nightly commutes and be happy about it?

TLDR: My GF kills herself being a hostess at night, we don't need the money.