Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Ok...background first then we’ll get to the meat. There’s also a TLDR at the bottom for those who don’t want to read all of this. For those who do...sorry. There’s a lot.

So I just started my second year in college. My first year I met this guy (we’ll call him Chad) who was finishing up his fourth year. He was cool to me and my friends so we decided to hang out with him a few times throughout the year. There were more than a few times he bought booze for us and was overall a swell guy. Until one night... to make a long story short, he was rubbing up on a few of my female friends’ feet and being super creepy about it. It made everyone super uncomfortable, to the point that my friends said they didn’t want him around at anymore parties. I agreed and we never hung out again.

Flash forward a couple months, and I’m at a party with a different group of friends and Chad happens to be there. He makes me some drinks, we chat and I get very drunk. At some point in the night a bunch of us are sleeping in the living room and my friend on the other end of the room jumps up from the couch and runs into the kitchen. A few of my other friends follow her and they talk in the kitchen for about an hour and come back, everyone goes back to sleep. A few weeks later, she tells me that she freaked out cuz Chad was grabbing at her feet while she was sleeping, causing her to wake up and have a panic attack. After hearing about that, my whole friend group (except one guy, we’ll name him Bob) swore off hanging out with Chad since he’d been acting so creepy.

Ok, now to the actual meat. About two months ago was my college’s homecoming game. We (being me and the second group of friends) decided to have a party to celebrate and hang out. Bob volunteered to host at his apartment, and the night was set. All of a sudden, Chad shows up at the homecoming football game asking when the party is and where. Myself and six of my fiends pull Bob aside and tell him that if Chad is going to the party then the rest of us aren’t. He said he’d take care of it.

We get to the party. It’s lit, everyone has a great time and post a bunch of pics and videos on our Snapchat stories and other social media platforms as you do when the party is lit. We all pass out feeling pretty good and not worrying about anything. However, when we wake up about 15 of us (including myself) have texts waiting for us from Chad about how we all betrayed his trust and how he can’t believe that he called us his friends. He blocks everyone who was at the party on every social media he has and has his fiancé do the same. As it turns out, when Bob said he would take care of it he meant he would tell Chad that the party was canceled and just throw it anyway. So when we put a bunch of pics online of us hanging out, Chad saw it and got pissed. He and Bob had a huge fight and weren’t on speaking terms for a while. I think they’ve made up now, but I’m not sure. The rest of us have made no attempt to patch things up with him, and some of us are more than ok with the way that things turned out. After all, Chad was a total creep and we didn’t like him.

So anyway...are we the assholes? I know Bob could’ve handled that differently, but should we have made him choose between Chad and us? Was it really fair of us to put him in that position? We’ve all sort of accepted that Chad isn’t around anymore, and some of us like I said are pretty happy about it given his creepy vibe. We’ve come to terms with what we did, but I‘m interested to hear some opinions from outsiders.

TLDR: A guy I met last year turned out to be a total creep. We found out he was gonna be at a party we were going to, and told the host was a close friend of his to chose between us and him. He chose us, and creepy dude got pissed.