Backstory - Currently on Tindr, I (27F) matched with this handsome 29M. We talk for a few days on the app, switch to texting, and make plans to meet. 

In one of our conversations, we're joking around about potential deal breakers in relationships. He reveals that he's straight edge. I'm pretty open-minded so I ask him about what that means and how he feels about being with someone who smokes weed &amp; drinks pretty regularly. 

I told him that I smoke weed anywhere between 2-4x a week and asked him how he'd feel about that. He said he'd just hang out in another room or watch a movie while I'm high. I felt really sad about that because it's not like I turn into a monster or something embarrassing when I get high. I just laugh a lot and want to hug. 

So. I told him after a long discussion about what it means to be "fully present" with someone that I don't think we're compatible. He tried to convince me to meet anyway but I know myself well enough to know that i'd like to smoke &amp; cuddle with my partner. 

I feel like an asshole though for turning someone away who just leads a very healthy life. Am I the asshole? 