A bit of background: For the first two months of college, i was really close with these friends. They’re really cool people and i genuinely like them. About a month ago, all of this started. I’m typing this up while eating lunch alone where we used to eat every single tuesday. 

Recently, my friends have not been responding to my messages in our group chat, and when I bring it up they just say “oh I didn’t see it” or “oh, we were busy”.  These messages can range from “do you want to study for x exam with me?” to “hey, when are you eating dinner?” since we used to study for all our exams together and the rest of the group still eats dinner together every night. I also study better when I have them around because i’m good at subjects the rest aren’t, and vice versa. 

Since they haven’t explicitly told me they’re not interested in being friends anymore, and I have a history of overanalyzing, I’ve been holding on to the lingering thread of hope that everything’s still fine. I know the few meeting spots where they like to congregate, so if I don’t get a response, I usually check these spots and “accidentally” run into them. They’re never upset to see me, and usually go the lines of “we would’ve invited you, but we thought you were busy”. Which strikes me as odd, because all 7 of them hang out together. This leads me to believe they have a secret group chat without me. However, they still do include me in group events, like buying movie tickets all together, and our secret santa gift exchange, so i’m not “cut off” from the group. 

Anyways, tldr: my friends stopped responding to my messages in the gc (and pms sometimes if im asking where we’re meeting), i know where they usually hang out and show up to spend time with them anyways.
