Hello, wonderful people of Reddit. I’m that guy who’s girlfriend ruined Valentine’s Day. Anyways, I’m writing again because of another incident.

Okay, so I have her IG account, just like she has mine. I decided to be a snoop and download the data on the account (I know, horrible thing to do. It’s an invasion of privacy). I find.....um weird photos and the such. Though when I looked at her messages, I found that she had been speaking with another guy who was clearly flirting with her. They had been speaking for a while actually, and I’m almost certain that he was the guy she would occasionally mention as one of her least annoying “hoes”.

Of course, I do have a problem with her having “hoes”, but I don’t want to be that controlling boyfriend.

Anyways, her most recent messages with him which were no longer than a week ago. The guy is complimenting her and then “ranking” on her, so it seems chill. Then she starts talking about our relationship and he continues with how she should break up with me, she then goes to insinuate that she regrets getting with me. 

This isn’t the only time she’s had other guys doing this kind of stuff with her. In truth, she actually somewhat takes pride on the matter; that she has hoes. 

Anyways, I mention this to her and how I don’t like the guy and she insists that she didn’t know he was flirting and that they are just friends.

I don’t know what to believe. We aren’t in a good spot now, and I’m getting tired and I feel like I’m being used.

TL:DR   I looked through my girlfriend’s DM’s and find that she has been talking with another guy who’s trying to get at her and she leads him on. 