Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : After a 2 month struggle to recover from a hypoglycemic  (diabetic shock) event, our eldest "Kit-son" (cat) of 19 years passed away last week. We spent the last month doing in home hospice, which amounted to myself and my husband handling round the clock feedings, medications and caretaking.    Our Kit-son's passing was the hardest thing we've ever been through and we were not ready for him to go. He was the light of our lives. A week later I still cry each day and my husband is still not good. Mostly I'm just trying to support my husband and get through this week, holding it together without falling apart and collapsing. Our cats are our children, and we love them as strongly as any parent loves their child. In short, we are in mourning, made slightly more difficult by the fact that traditional avenues of mourning  (wake, funeral, bereavement time, people understanding) available with humans, are not as common with animals.

My co-worker has been really kind throughout the whole ordeal. But  a couple days after my cat died, I returned to work, and she stopped into my office asked how I was. When I said, "not good" she started to talk about her dog, who has just been diagnosed with diabetes and she kept talking and talking. I listened to her, but I didn't want to. I could not absorb it or express the same level of concern or care that I normally would. In fact, I felt a bit resentful that she would talk about her stuff when I clearly had just suffered a great loss. It felt like now that my cat had passed, I should just wrap it up and be done with it.  That felt incredibly disrespectful to my cat and my feelings.

When I got to work the next day she came in to my office, briefly asked how I was doing  and then promptly started talking about her dog again. And I just didn't have the energy to interact or be supportive. So I just listened and  at the end I only said "I'm sorry". Normally I would be much more supportive and helpful, talk about things she could do, or things to try, but I can't talk about that stuff now. I just want to get through the week. 

She comes in to talk about her dog every day now, who is not doing well (been to the emergency a couple times), and although I listen, I don't really say much and I cannot bring myself to care. I feel like she should have been more respectful of my loss. I can't tell if she knows I am "checked out" when she talks to me, so her feelings probably aren't hurt, but it seems like she should have some awareness.

So who is the insensitive jerk here: me or her? both?