Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Disclaimer: This post is a copy  from r/Rant I posted a few minutes agoand therefore it’s structured as a rant...nonetheless, it’s accurate and hopefully not too biased. It was also edited a little, but I thought I should ask if i’m being the bad kid here. 

Start of post:

I don’t know why my mom has such a huge issue with just respecting my boundaries. A group of strangers are going to come soon, and I’d prefer to not be a significant part of it. However, my mom has a different idea. 

She thinks it’s acceptable to let strangers into my room, while i’m doing something else, just to go to my bathroom. Why? Because It’s the shorter path. God forbid our guests have to walk an extra five meters to go to the living room bathroom on the other direction. She knows I don’t ever want people in my room who I do not know. I’m uncomfortable with it, I always was. We have a grand fucking living room and a massive guest room that are practically attached as one massive room, and multiple bathrooms. WHY do you need to go into my room?!

If you’re wondering why i’m so defensive of my room, no it’s not dirty and messy. There are plushies there, tons of them, and my PC setup is decorated to the brim with plushies and stickers and all over it. I don’t really want strangers going in here, it just makes me uncomfortable. Even my family seeing this makes me uncomfortable as they’re kind of judgemental about it. Additionally, I always lock my door. I absolutely cannot handle the idea that someone might enter my room at any moment, even if it’s a family member. This is why I told literally everyone multiple times to knock the door before entering my room, just give me 3 seconds brace, it’s all I need. But that never happens. I always get a mini heart attack hearing my door handle suddenly and loudly opening, only for the person on the other side to be stopped due to the door being locked. I then ask who it is and i’m usually met by silence. I go and open the door and we go from there. WHY, no really WHY can’t you knock?! All I need is a little “ *knock knock*... OP? You in there? Need ya for something “, but instead you choose to barge in, as in all of my family. The only person here who doesn’t do that is my maid and my littlest sister. 


This is why entering my room is something I do not want happening. I’m that kind of person, mom should know, I was like this my entire life but she tells me it’s “Weird” and “Bad behavior” . Excuse me?! I’m not the one randomly inviting guests without warning their children, then fucking just letting them loose in their child’s room all of the sudden. SHE ACTUALLY DID THIS IN THE PAST, I FORGOT TO LOCK THE DOOR THAT DAY.  I WAS JUST RELAXING, THEN DOOR SUDDENLY OPENS, STRANGERS.PNG . There were other lesser incidents where she kept knocking and saying “Come on OP! Come out now and say hi to the guests!” Even though I explicitly, multiple times, told her not to do that. I didn’t unlock the door. I just sat there in silence because I had literally no idea how to respond.


Now, I was willing to go out of my room at some point to say hi and talk a bit to the guests, but mom instead insists on me wearing our traditional clothes (Kandoorah) and for me to just sit there in silence. She actually told me “Yeah you don’t have to say anything, I just want you to sit there the entire time.” 
I’m not doing that. 

I wore some nicer clothes and went out to my mom. I warned her:

 “Hey, if you try to force me out of my room i’ll probably just ignore you, so it’ll just be embarrassing yourself. I’ll probably come out at some point and say hi.”

Mom: Why aren’t you wearing your kandoorah?

“?...Did you hear what I just said?”

Mom: I don’t want to hear what you said.

“The information did go through though, right?”

No response as she goes into the bathroom.
It’s arguably rude to be talking to your mom like this, but i’m just so familiar with the situation. She’s gonna do something that she knows I don’t want her to do. I’m just trying to make it firm this time. So, i’ve decided. I just locked my room, and took some gadgets with me and i’m heading to camp in our outdoor shack (which is actually really cozy, I used it as a room for a while in the past). I’m good here, I have my switch, a few anime episodes downloaded, my phone, it’ll last me a few hours. If my mom tries to knock on the door for a while, i’m just not going to be there. I may or may not go inside later and say hi to the guests and talk for a bit. If mom asks me why I locked my room and left it, it’ll confirm that she tried to enter or get me out even though i’ve told her not to ever do that since the dawn of time. I’d respond with “I told you I wasn’t going to be in my room didn’t I? Before the guests came? Told you there isn’t gonna be a response, i’m not in there.”.

Even though I do sound a bit anxious socially in here, i’m really not. I just have what I think are perfectly reasonable boundaries, and I need to be ready for interaction. I’ll be able to have comebacks if my mom keeps questioning me further, without making it too awkward.

Rant over, thanks for reading.




