Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My [36f] and my partner [37m] have been together for over three years now, engaged since January 2018 and are getting married next summer. We are planning a super simple, small wedding with one or two people on each side of our wedding party. My partner’s relationship with his family is one of estrangement as of about nine months ago. Prior to that, he did have a relationship with his older brother [40m] as long as my fiancé covered the cost of any alcohol/food/activities when him and his brother go out and leave an open invitation for his brother to live with him (all expenses paid) at any time (even when his brother had his own housing). His brother (and his father) both have problems with alcoholism and are both very awful to women, which has led to some really bad (and sometimes scary) situations for me, and I no longer have any contact with them, nor do I plan to in the future. When my partner moved in with me, we agreed that his brother was not welcome to live with us, and eventually my partner agreed to stop paying his brother’s way in social situations. Since we’ve set boundaries with the family, it’s led to this estrangement (it stemmed from an incident where his dad was particularly awful to me and my partner stood up for me, and has been perpetuated because my partner does not want to take them out to get drunk to show he “forgives” them or pay his brother’s way anymore) not to mention that both his dad and brother have been sending him an incessant barrage of swear-word, insult-ridden drunken texts and emails. All this said, my partner really still wants to rekindle some sort of relationship with his brother (I totally get that, family is family), but for some reason wants his brother to also stand at our wedding. As someone who is paying for 50% of this wedding I really don’t want someone who has always been disrespectful to me and openly dislikes me standing and saying a speech that will likely be very disrespectful and embarrassing to me, not to mention has only been disrespectful to my partner and won’t help or participate in anything a groomsman should to be standing at our wedding... I think my partner is scared he may lose the opportunity to make up with his brother if he doesn’t include him in the bridal party, but REALLY.... AITA for not wanting this drunken buffoon standing at our wedding?? 