Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So me and my ex-gf were together for about 3 years and 2 months. She is a couple of years younger than me, and also lived a very long distance away (we met gaming, of all things). She lives in the US while I'm in the UK. We realised that based on where we were in terms of our education and still living at home that it would be a long time before we would actually be able to see each other in person, but we both decided to try. We ended staying together and eventually seeing each other for the first time late last year, just after my Uni graduation, and it went perfectly.

Cutting story due to the character limit, she ended up breaking up with me 2 months after I got home. She told me that she really did love me, that I was perfect and did nothing wrong, and wasn’t to do with me having just seen her. We talked for a long time and it essentially boiled down to me being her first "serious" boyfriend she didn't know if I was the one for her, and concerns about how her parents would feel about me (they didn't know). She even said that it's "likely" that we may still have a future together, but not now. She told me she understood it was hard for me, and that I could wait for her to know for sure if I wanted, or that I could move on, she wouldn't hold it against me or anything either way.

After about 3 months of being in this emotional limbo, she today tells me that she's seeing someone. The reason she told me is that her new boyfriend (who I know, I met him when I visited her) wanted her to, since we still talk on an almost daily basis (something we'd agreed upon ages ago since we were/are best friends, and I did genuinely want to as well. If you want clarification on this I can post in comments) and he said she "still treats me like her boyfriend". To rub salt in the wound, she told me they've been dating for about a month now.

I don't know what I feel in full yet but I certainly feel like shit. I'm still heartbroken and madly in love with her but she seems to have moved on. I asked her if she has but she said she didn't know. I just feel a little betrayed. I get many of you will be thinking "young love" and all, but this is someone who I was in a relationship with for 3 years. We had spoken with about marriage and even kids before. It just feels like seeing someone new after 2 months is way too quick. I don't know if I should feel betrayed, I feel like I have no right to. I'd expected this after maybe 6-12 months, but 2 just feels too fast. She's still my best friend, and I don't know if I can live without her in my life. But this is just torture.

I feel like I am the asshole for thinking all of this. She doesn't owe me anything, of course she doesn't. I feel guilty for making her feel guilty. I gave up 3 years of probably the best dating grounds (Uni) I would ever have in my life for her, and I lose her just after I leave.

Am I the asshole? Is anyone the asshole? I guess I just want to know if any of this is normal, or if my feelings are normal.