Anon account cause Boyfriend reads reddit.

I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant and a VERY light sleeper. That combination alone causes me to lose precious hours of sleep. Our 7 month old Kitty wakes up around 3/4/5 am and runs around under our bed and zips in and out of our bedroom. She drags noisy toys into the room. Boyfriend sleeps through all of this. I began to turn into a curmudgeon because I just can’t get a solid night’s rest.

 I suggest she needs to sleep outside of the bedroom. He wants her to keep sleeping with us but he offers to get up in the night and put her out of the room. He doesn’t wake up when she plays. I ALWAYS ended up being the one to wake up and put the cat out of our bedroom.

I start to wake up to piles of dirt on the floor around my beloved plants. She ends up killing one of them. Boyfriend does nothing. I reprimand the cat. Boyfriend also lets cat climb on the counters, tables, splash in the toilet, claw at carpets, etc. WITHOUT reprimanding her. He just kind of laughs and goes “she’s a cat”. My logic is “sure, she’s a cat but she also needs to be trained.” 

This leads me to do a bit of scholarly internet research about training cats. I learn about parasites, fungal infections, bacterial infections, protozoal infections, and so on. (I understand the risks are EXTREMELY low for catching diseases from cats) I’ve always been a little grossed out by her putting her cat asshole on pillows but this pushes my concern over the edge for germs. We’ve already had to scoop her up and take her to the bathroom to wash squished shit off her paw. My BIGGEST concern is that I’m due in about a month and a half and everything I’ve read says do NOT let your cats sleep in bed with your babies. The cats can unknowingly suffocate a helpless infant. We will have a bassinet and some nights I will be cosleeping because I will breast feed but this is IT, folks. I say no more cat in the bed, PERIOD. My line is drawn because my baby’s safety is my number one concern. 

 He begins to heavily advocate to have the cat in the bed, based solely on the fact that she won’t feel like a part of the family if she isn’t in the bed. I remind him that I can’t sleep through the night. I remind him that I don’t want cat shit and kitty litter in the bed. I even tell him that she can’t sleep in the bed with baby around so she needs to be broken of the habit NOW before baby comes so she won’t blame him for her eviction. All he cares about is her being comfortable. 

Soooo, am I the asshole for not wanting the cat to sleep in our bed anymore?