Hello! I'm gonna try and keep this short. 

I am a 20 year old full time college student.  My fiance is 21 years old, works full time, and attends college part time. We live with his family (grandmother [70sF], bio mother(40sF), aunt(50sF), and uncle(??M)). Grandmother owns the house, and currently the entire family is trying to find a new place to live, and kick out the aunt and uncle. Just thought I'd let y'all know what her relationship is like with the rest of them.

Me and the fiance were trying to get our puppy to poop before we took her to her puppy class. Aunt is also trying to get one of the other older dogs to go to the bathroom. She spots a pizza box near the side of the backyard. (Note: me and fiance DID have pizza the other day, but we both put it straight into the trash bin, still no idea how it got there) Now, this was earlier today and I have a bad memory (multiple tbis that make being 'normal' difficult), so I'll try to be as neutral as possible, but here's the conversation:

A = Aunt    R = Me     F = Fiance

A: Why is there a pizza box out here?

F and R: No idea.

A: Well, whoever it belongs to needs to pick it up.

R: Okay. *starts walking over to it since I genuinly have no clue and don't really care*

A: I just can't keep up with everyone-

R: *interrupting* Okay. *immediatly walks back inside*


Not a great response, I know. But here is me and the aunts relationship. She has repeatedly stated that I "need to help more around the house", despite the fact that when I moved in, I was working full time and attending full time, and only quit my job due to multiple breakdowns and almost failing out of school. She has continued this, and I genuinley understand where she's coming from. 

But, due to my tbis and possibly my PTSD, if you want/need me to do something, you have to write it down or I will completely forget about it. She has repeatedly not done this very simple request that both I and fiance asked. She has stated, to my fucking face, that I "can't pull the brain damage card" and tried to help 'fix' my mental health issues with supplements and, to be honest, incredibley condescending advice to exercise more. 

Along with all that, she has tried to blame all the dirty dishes that get made on us, BEHIND OUR BACKS. We eat out 99% of the time, and the aunt and uncle are the ONLY people who cook consistently each night. There is honestly more, but the rest is more about her tone and general behavior towards everyone else who lives there (despite not paying rent, and being threatened with being kicked out before due to her behavior).

My fiance agrees with me that he does not appreciate how condescending and passive-aggresive she is, and when asked said that my response was totally appropriate. 

But I'm still kinda feeling guilty about it, so lemme know reddit, AITA?
