I know the title seems straightforward but please bear with me as there are alot of details. Also   

I’ll start off by saying my buddy is B and my ex is E

So B and I have been friends since high school, We’re both 25.  B left for BC after graduation and didn’t see him until 4 years later when he moved back to his moms. We caught up and eventually started hanging out and becoming more like brothers.  

Now he lives in a town about 100km from where I live,  and despite the distance for years i would drive up on a Friday night after work and hang out with him until Sunday evening.  At times when my other buddies would go out i would drive more than halfway to pick him up and bring him along.  He doesn’t drive so as for meeting up I’m the one doing all the driving.   


Now when he moved to his moms,  he met a couple girls at his job and one weekend I was up we hung out with both of them.  One of them being E.   He became pretty good friends with both of em, but after the past couple years he’s really only kept in contact with E from time to time.  They would hang out sometimes but it became more frequent when i got involved. 

Now we’re at this past October.  Up at his place one morning I had matched with E on a dating app and she reached out to me,  from there on we started talking, more and more each day until we decided to become a couple.  B knows full well I’m talking to her, and during all this B ended up breaking things off with his then GF,  to which I withstood crap from E because I wanted to be there for B and help him out through what was a trying time for him instead of seeing her (During all this I would only see her on weekends as she lived in the same town as B). For 7 weeks in a row i drove to and from B’s place on the weekends to see both B &amp; E.  E however explained to me that B, when it was just them two one evening, confided in E that he had feelings for her.  This was while we were still dating mind you,  and she told me that she didn’t feel the same way.  

Here’s where I royally fuck up though,  because I had a fling who also lived in that same town and one Saturday, both B &amp; E were working and against my better judgement we arranged plans to meet up.  At the time I guess i wanted to see her, but when I was driving to her place I couldn’t shake that feeling of guilt and backed out.  I know that it’s a real shitty thing to do, especially because I had it done to me once before.  So later that night she was going through my phone, unbeknownst to me and came across the convo with my old fling.  Of course she was upset with me, and as I’ve been honest so far,  I never felt like more of a piece of shit.  I really do have feelings for her and I answered every question she asked regarding my old fling.  We came to the agreement that we were still going to try and make it work.  I took all the shit she gave me and then some.  I even drove up after work on a Tuesday to see her to at least show her that I’m trying my best to make things better.  But sometimes your best isn’t enough.   

3 weeks after my fuck up,  i was talking with her on the phone on a Sunday evening and she tells me that she can’t stop thinking about me and that fling.  So we agreed to “start over”.  Her words not mine.  

During that following week,  i could tell she was just losing more interest everyday, and (i dont do it anymore) I saw on Snapchat that she was at B’s place pretty muc everyday that week.   On the Friday I’m driving home,  call her and chat for a little bit. I could tell something was up.  And after our call,  she then proceeds to ask me if I remember that night we talked about B and how he told her he liked her.  Then says that she doesn’t just like him “she’s in love with that idiot”.  Idk but i just sorta lost it.  I had to pull over because my head was spinning and I just wanted to scream.  I was under the impression we were “starting over” and not actually ending things. 

Everything I’ve done the past several years B has been involved.  We were inseparable, and I don’t have anyone else who I’m as close with like i am with him.  

Basically that whole weekend and next week B doesn’t say boo to me.  In fact he acts like everything is ok.  I had to bring it up and he just asks “oh what’s wrong buddy? Is it E &amp; I? Does that bother you?”

I lost it on him because yes it bothers me and how in the flying fuck do you think that it wouldnt.  I’m the kind of guy that wears my heart on my sleeve and he more than anyone knows that.  Or at least I thought.  Within a week when she told me about B they were already posting pics on social media and the like.  It really hurt my feelings,  not because she just up and leaves but because my buddy didn’t have a single shred of doubt that what he was doing was wrong,  or that I would be perfectly fine with them dating.  

I can’t think of either of them without the other and it’s been constantly bothering me.  I told him that I don’t think I can come up to see him like i used to, and that i just need to time to sorta work this shit out.  He doesn’t seem to mind because he still is with her pretty much everyday now and he doesn’t reach out to me at all. 

I apologize for the block of text,  but i just need a third party’s’ opinion on this because I want to see B again, and hang out with him and his family,  because I’m like another son to them,  but I’m angry that he’d done something like that to me.   I wish he would have at least talked to me about it before,  it seems that they’d always had these feeings for each other but decided to act on it right after I date her.  Again,  I’m not wanting to downplay what i did,  i know it was wrong and I took a long look at myself and knew that’s who I didn’t want to be. But i also dont want to just pretend everything is ok between B &amp; I because this just hits me right in the heart.  B would be the the guy i go to whenever I had issues with a girl and now he’s become directly involved.  I still havent seen either of them and this was the week before Christmas this happened.  

So AITA for possibly not talking to B or hanging out with him again? Should I just try to come to terms with it and move on? I don’t know what to do
