So me and this girl dated briefly, about a month, before she decided that we should break up and she only cited that “we went to fast” as a reason. Obviously I wasn’t okay with this, but said that’s fine anyway. Two days later we’re back in my dorm kissing so obviously I think “well she obviously didn’t mean it, I guess things are fine now”. However she’s mentioned recently that we aren’t dating, we’re more than friends, and she wants to get back together eventually, which when put together are all very confusing to me. The thing is she tried to deescalate our relationship again by saying we should stop kissing too, because for now we’re just friends. Five minutes later we were hooking up again, and we did it again today. 

When I ask her about it she says she does want to get back together, but she keeps trying to deescalate our relationship. She’s said that there’s other things going on in her life that led to her breaking up with me but she hasn’t told me them. Even when we were dating she slowed us down once, then did it twice after we broke up. I just feel so strange about this scenario and I almost feel like I’m being strung along or something. Would I be an asshole if I just totally called things off right now? I feel bad because I really like her, and she does seem to like me but there’s just something that she’s not telling me that really makes this situation feel strange. 