Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Recently my relationship with my girlfriend has hit a bump, she explains to me that sometimes her Ex will every now and again pop up in her head and remind her of him, eventually it got to the point where she was wondering if her brain was trying to tell her to get back with him. Me, questioning on her on a few things, I ask her if the Ex in question were to ask her if she wanted to go back out with him, she responded "today would be a maybe, but a few days ago it would've been a yes". We talked and decided to break up to give her time to think about this as she has quite a lot going on in her life right now, as it would let her make the decision unbiasedly, to which i agreed and was more than happy to support her on, I wish nothing more than for her to be happy, I just don't want to be screwed over in the process. (We also both agreed to not do anything with anyone while we were split)

Cut to Three days later after the split,  after some back and forth texting I ask:  (It goes me then Girlfriend)

How's the thinking coming along?

Thinking?

Y'know about the split

oooooh, Haven't really thought much

Lmao, probably should. Not being harsh but should probably devote some time to think about it

Ahh whatevs i'll get round to it

Lmao alrighty

Ye that's cool w you yeah?

Well the "Whatevs" kinda sounds harsh but i understand that you don't mean it in that way, but also if its like 3 weeks later i might be a little upset that's all

No need to rush something I don't have a time limit on

No i understand it's just, it sounds disheartening to hear for example, 3 weeks after i ask, the same answer y'know?

Not really

its like if you asked me a serious question desperately wanted the answer, asked me if i've been thinking about the answer and i said "i'll get around to it" then 3 weeks pass and i say "I'll get around to it".

Whatever man, you don't have a very good attitude towards this whole thing.

How so? i'm not asking you for an answer just if you've been thinking about it

I'm not against you. i just know that it's gonna take time a lot of mental strain on me so i want to be in a place where i'm ready to let that happen. So it'll take as long as it needs and you should be atleast patient and understand enough to get that? i'm legit just asking for time to figure shit out. It's not a yes or no question that i can easily find answer to. you make it seem like i'm prolonging this to hurt you. I'm not.

No no i'm not thinking you're prolonging it to hurt me, i just wanted to know if you thought about it at all. its not me wanting to wrench an answer out of you. I've reread what i wrote and i see how it came across like that, but that wasn't my intention.

Feels like it

Then i apologise i didn't intend to

Yeah I know. It's cool. Imma go sleep

I'm gonna take a guess that you don't want to talk too much after that, but also have a nice sleep.

I'll Try.

I'll take that as a yes, G'night