Ok so, this happened a few months ago and let me set up some back ground information. Ex and I had a very serious and long relationship, 5+ years and it lasted through high school and into college. It ended horrifically and we have no talked for years until I heard that her dad passed away, and he was a real stand up guy. So, I reached out to my ex to ask if it was ok if I could send a card in regards to her fathers passing. She said it was ok. The thing is, I never told my current gf about me doing so, because I don't want to bring up any sort of fight or argument. So....am I the asshole here?