So the other night or so an unsuspecting me was contacted by my bestfriend, let's say Taylor, telling me about how she was experiencing relationship troubles. Nothing out of the normal I would be happy to help her out and be there for her, then she started sounding desperate for someone to be there for her asking "please answer I just need someone to talk to right now". I was pretty worried that she was sad as she had just gotten out of a little bout with depression (and self harm) so I really wanted to make sure she was ok, thinking she was in a really bad state over something he had done. I did the bestfriend thing and asked her what was up and are you ok trying to reassure her, which she then goes onto to say she needs to do something to rebel against her boyfriend and wanted my help because he can be a really controlling person. I agreed to do something and my mind was on the innocent shit like we could just hang out go on a mini bestfriend date to make her happy. She then starts to get a bit more seductive about what she wants to do in order to rebel. I play innocent tryna come up with more chill cute things we could do, nothing truly boundary pushing. It gets way more seductive from her at this point and I'm kinda see where she is going with it when she says she is up to do anything and would like to see me tomorrow, stuff along the lines of there won't be any regrets. I start kind of flirting back taking this as bit of a joke until she says wants me to come over tomorrow before he gets back from work, I played along with that letting puberty hormones get the better of me but still thinking we are only gonna get drunk or fuck around with his shit idk. Then she says if I come over tomorrow we are going to fuck, plain and simple I was pretty shook like the fuck. Then she starts asking if I liked her in that way coz she thought I was still crushing on her and if so tomorrow could be so much fun. I caught on that it might be her boyfriend trying to get some sort of confession out of me coz he asked me that the other day. So I said as much. She sent me a selfie to prove it was her, then a video to really get me to believe. Then the photo got a bit more risky when she sent a photo of her in a bra kind of pulling it down a bit. She asked for one back so I sent a shirtless pic. Ahh and then she sends me a photo of her boyfriends face then a bunch of other shit, like her and her bf in bed laughing together. I realised what had happened here and was caught out I guess. They didn't seem mad or whatever so I made a joke about it then said goodnight. Woke up to an apology from her and a message from him calling me disgusting a perv just some fuccboi that wanted to fuck his girl as soon as she wanted it.

Now I know saying yes to wanting to have sex with my bestfriend was fucked up and as a man I can admit that but some history into why I would have gone through with it

taylor : I was in love with her for a solid 3 years, like real hard. Went through a shit time coz of it battling anxiety and depression till I got over her. Now the entire time I wanted her she said there was attraction from her too making it worse, but it was pretty bad for her as well. So I still have some feelings and basically can't say no to her. She has stopped being friends with me 3 times, once because I tried to get with her when she was single after saying she wanted to take my v card from me. So she knew I would definitely have sex with her if she ever asked. During our conversation mentioned in the main part she had pretty much said she wanted to cheat which Idk in my mind is just about identical to actually going through with it so there wasn't much point to me saying no to save the morality of the situation. She was also the one trying to initiate the whole sexual thing. Once she wants to do something like I guess cheat on her boyfriend nothing I say or do will convince her to anything other then go ask someone else to do it really. There are plenty of examples of her just looking for a yes man. 


The boyfriend: im guessing his it was his whole idea and was behind most of the texting and then the threatening afterwards. He has always pissed me off coz of his behaviour and personality, controlling of his girlfriend and always emotionally manipulating her to do what he wants and sexually assaulting Taylor once upon a time, so this may have factored into my whole agreement to actually say yes to her. 

Now my bestfriend has pretty much stopped talking to me and cancelled plans and shit, and the boyfriend has said he has gone around and told my friends and his that I am a disgusting perv and shit telling them I wanted to fuck his girl. 

Id have to tend to agree with his judgment but he seems to have forgotten: I wasn't the one to initiate anything, she had already said she had wanted to cheat when they were trying to catch me out, if this whole thing was a real life situation would I really have been the most fucked up person and not the cheater, he knew I was once in love with her and would do anything she pretty much asked anyway

I'm sorry this is long and probably contains biased and irrelevant information and self justification, but AITA?