**TL;DR at the bottom**

For context - I had known this person since 8th grade at school. I'm [M] in second year at university now. I had never really been a close friend with them and most of our conversation was digital; we rarely hung out in person. I'll call her Jane.

I'm an introverted person who will sometimes decline going out, mostly due to my anxiety, and I don't leave the house much at all except for Uni, work, or when something has been meticulously planned - while to the contrary Jane is almost never home and is very spontaneous. I had enjoyed our friendship as we had both respected each other's way of socialising. Jane respected my boundaries and never really pushed me to go out anywhere with her - although she had the offer on the table and occasionally I took it. Our friendship was mostly counselling each other whenever we needed it as well as casual chat about our lives and stuff.

In April last year I had organised with my closest 3 friends (not Jane, she doesn't socialise with them and she would likely have her own activities with her friends) to do something for New Years' Eve. I planned this so far in advance because I wanted the date to be saved and take precedence over any other plans, incl. family plans. You should understand that I am very close with these friends, we share everything, and I can't see some of them much at all due to time constraints, and one of them lives &gt;200Km away now. We had decided that NYE would be a time where it's just us and not other people, as this was a rare and special time for us all to meet up without the social anxiety of others.

On the morning of New Years' Eve, Jane messaged me and asked if I would like to go and go to [some event] with her and her friends that night. I declined citing I had my own plans. She then got mad at me for rarely going anywhere or doing anything with her (which to me seemed like a sudden change of standards in our friendship). She unfriended and blocked me. I was quite taken aback and deeply hurt by this and it bothered me for the next few days. I had been considering if I should have said something or tried to make plans, but what could I do? Around Jan 3 she tried to add me back but I blocked her because I was just sick of the guilt she was giving me and her newfound lack of respect for our differences.

Today a friend of hers messaged me asking if I could add her back and discuss things. Saying that Jane "needs me", and saying that Jane had been having dreams where I was hurt in them. On one hand I want to see what she has to say now, but on the other hand I just don't like toxicity as it really ruins my day and I just don't have it in what seems to be my socially defective self. But is it too far to just keep her blocked now? Sure, she started it, but is that really the best excuse?

Thank you for your time.

**TL;DR,** friend blew up at me for declining spending an evening with her, because I already had plans with friends. She blocked me, and when she unblocked me a few days later I blocked her back because I just wanted the toxicity to stop. Now her friend says that she "needs me".