Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : To preface, we have been together for awhile. Within the last year, I gave birth and experienced extreme post partum depression. It was hard but I took care of both of our children and could tell he was drifting away. He didn't want to engage with me or the children.

I became so paranoid I snooped through his emails, and found one where he confessed to wanting to transition to female. I was two months out of giving birth, an emotional wreck and I tried to take all of my antidepressants. I ended up in a psych hospital and also got a diagnosis of PTSD from sexual trauma at a young age.

We got through it, I came home. I started using a different name for her, we got her makeup and different clothes. She seemed better for a bit, but we were financially strapped and could not afford health insurance. So hormone transitioning was out of the question.

SO started growing distant again soon after, buried themselves in video gamed and got angry at me when I asked them to spend more time with us, or completely shut down. We had a fight while they were at work and she threatened to walk in front of traffic. The cops were called, a wellness check was done, and they gave her resources to go to therapy. 

Meanwhile, I had to cut back on my work hours as I'm having health tests done to check for arthritis and other inflammation, as I'm in a shit ton of pain. It's been hard on both of us. I've been trying to keep things stable and okay. I'm also trying to care for her.

Lately, everything I say, there's something wrong with. She's moody and angry at me, and doesn't talk or communicate with me. I have been having a really rough time, but have been effectively ignoring it to try and mend things with her.

And then she gets fired for too many tardies and absences. Not rrally her fault, as most of the time she was tardy was because of our autistic daughter and having to take her to school. But it's a shitshow. We don't have the money for bills and I'm desperately applying everywhere to find better pay.

She's just given up. She'll barely get up in the morning, we're late all the time. Our daughter has missed school because she drags her feet, and I keep begging her to get into therapy but I'm tired. It's beeen this way since I gave birth. The most restful period I had was literally a week in a mental health facility.

Am I the Asshole? What could I do to help?