Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : For years she has been unhappy and I have encouraged her many times to move to another position or company. She had never wanted to quit for a variety of reasons but now has had just about enough and is willing to move on. 

She has a masters degree and a long career that would give her the ability to find another decent job. She makes a decent amount of money now and I don’t see why she shouldn’t try to get more if not at least the same amount. 

If she does get another job at 50% her current salary she’ll essentially be earning just barely enough to cover childcare, healthcare, and perhaps a little towards retirement but nothing else. And I mean nothing else leftover. 

Is it fair to me and our children for her to insist on finding a job for so much less in pay? Am I an asshole for trying to convince her to set her goals a bit higher. I don’t want to now have to carry the burden of earning all the money for household expenses and disposable income. I also don’t want to have to follow a tight budget instead of having plenty of income with little to no cash worries. Right now we could live on either one of our incomes but if she takes a pay cut and I am downsized (which has happened) we would be in a bind. 

She’s stressed and perhaps thinks a position with less responsibility will be easier on her psyche (she had a mental breakdown). 

I have had some stressful jobs so I get it that’s she wants to move on. But I say to something better. When I bring it up she makes it out that I’m being and asshole for not agreeing with her. 
