I'm in a Whatsapp group with a bunch of Mothers, all with children of different ages, some of whom are pregnant again, some are single mothers, different upbringings, basically a wide cross-section of Mums.

A lot of Mums use the chat to share their troubles, and the rest of us will offer support and advice. Although I don't post as regularly as some, I will always send messages of support no matter what the subject. 

This brings me to recently. It's worth noting that my child was born through IVF, my partner and i struggle with subfertility. I fell pregnant naturally last year which surprised us both, but miscarried over two months later. We're considering adoption for a second child. 

One of the ladies discovered she might be pregnant. It's poor timing for her with regards to finances, and the strength of her relationship, so she's considering a termination. She asked if she was an awful person for thinking that way. Many of the group responded to say that of course she wasn't. 

I was conspicuous with my lack of response. 

Whilst I completely understand her reasons, and I'm pro-choice. I didn't feel that I could respond without my own wants for a child coming through. I felt jealous that she even had a choice. So I chose to say nothing.

So AITA for not showing support to someone when they needed it?

Apologies for any typos or formatting - I'm on my phone. 