Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My mom has been planning a trip to Indonesia for months, which I’ve said no to going on every time she’s asked. She keeps putting off buying the plane tickets for it, in the hopes that I’ll eventually come around, but I have no desire to go and consistently say no. 

The reason I don’t want to go is because we stayed in Indonesia with her family for 8 months when I was 10, and the memories I associate with it are of puppies dying and my mom’s family treating them badly; people over there don’t like dogs, so they leave them outside, throw sticks and rocks at them when they feel like it, will feed them by throwing a handful of rice and watching them fight over it, etc. The last time we went back, I started crying when I saw the newest litter of puppies, because I knew they would probably be dead once we were gone. The whole thing is a long story, but basically the place just reminds me of bad memories and I don’t like being there. The heat, mosquitos, and lack of indoor plumbing sucks too, but i’d put up with that if it were somewhere other than Indonesia. 

My mom and I didn’t have a great relationship when I was growing up, but we’ve been on better terms in recent years. My dad has told me that this trip is really important to her and that I should go to make her happy. The last time we went to Indonesia (April 2018), I was forced to go despite saying no over and over, and my dad told me that if I don’t want to go the next time, I can say no and not go. Now that I’ve said no and it’s the next time, both my parents want me to go anyway. I don’t want my mom to be sad because I don’t want to go with her to see her family, but I also hated going there the last time and would much rather never go there again. 

WIBTA if I don’t go?

