My roommates and I moved in together a few months ago and things have not gone very well since then. We live in a two bedroom apartment that they selected. I have the smaller room and the guy and the girl share the larger one. We also share a bathroom. They are vegan and against most technology, and their lifestyle is different than mine. I have a cat named Smeowg. Over the last couple of months there has been a very noticeable silence between us. 


I came home last night from class to a post-it note on my door that said "Smeowg's litter box is full!"

I put one up and said I was aware, but that I was going to clean it in the morning so I wouldn't wake them up during the night. I also said that we should talk face to face instead of through notes.

I woke up this morning to multiple notes on the door from the girl saying that she will leave “as many notes as she wants”, that we "aren't friends, we're roommates" and that apparently it's my fault that Smeowg scratches at things and wakes her up.

To be fair, I need to be better about his litter. They’ve mentioned that to me before and I’ve apologized. But I do need to try harder with it. 

I waited for an hour out in the main room for them to stop avoiding me, and when she came out I told her that I wanted to talk. She told me that she and her partner didn’t care to talk in person because they had nothing to say. I asked what she was upset about, and she told me that they have been taking pictures of dishes that I’ve washed that apparently haven’t been washed well enough, that I would be at fault for any paint that was taken off the wall from our loose shower rod because I hang my towel on it sometimes, and that Smeowg is scratching because he wants attention, which is my fault for not feeding him at the same time every day. (He gets fed daily, time changes depending on my schedule.) I apologized again for the litter box and told her that I did not want to comminicate through notes because it felt passive aggressive and I would rather talk in person since we live together. She told me she didn’t see a point in talking face to face.

AITA? To me it feels like they’ve micromanaged everything since we’ve moved in and do things their own way, and I have NO idea how to make them happy. I was told a while back that my music was offensive because a song I was listening to had the word “fag” in it. It was referring to cigarettes, and I am bisexual. 

AITA? 