Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I love my mom to death. She’s a very religious Christian. I was raised going to church every Sunday and I’ve also been baptized, however since I’ve moved out and lived alone, I’ve adjusted my views and see myself as atheist. My mom doesn’t know this because she’d be very upset. She had a heart attack ~5 years ago due to stress which she attributes to my siblings being drug addicts and taking the wrong path in life. I’ve been quite successful in my life by going to college and getting a great job. So hopefully you can see my hesitation on telling her my religious stance when I know it’d stress her out greatly and that isn’t good for her health. 

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now. One of the first questions my mom asked is when we started dating was if she is is a Christian. My reply was no and I told her she was atheist. I could’ve lied, however I’m generally truthful with my mom, minus the part about not telling her I don’t see myself as a Christian anymore. What she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her.

My mom has family over for Christmas every year and this is the second time my girlfriend came with me. During the festivities, about two hours or so in, my mom pulls my girlfriend aside in another room and tells her she isn’t giving her blessing to her unless she accepts Jesus and becomes a Christian. I had no clue this happened until after we left and my girlfriend unleashed her anger in the car. Keep in mind that my girlfriend kept her cool for the remainder of the evening until we left. We stayed for another two hours; I have no clue how my girlfriend kept her composure during that time. Props to her.

When we get back to her house, I text my mom asking if she said that, which she confirmed. I told her she was out of line and I was angry because it was completely unprovoked and hurtful. I explained how upset I was with her and that even if I had plans to marry her anytime soon that I would disregard her non-blessing because it’s our lives and not hers. She decided to call me and proceeds to lecture me on why being equally yolked is important to god and that it would never work if we believed in different things. She wasn’t understanding what did wrong and doesn’t believe she said anything out of line. At that moment I considered telling her I was atheist out of anger, however I didn’t because obviously I don’t want to stress out her heart and again, what she doesn’t know doesn’t hurt her. My girlfriend and I eventually let it go; we left it in the past and moved on.

Queue to today. My girlfriend shares a pro-abortion post on Facebook. Her and my mom are friends and my mom decides to write out a lengthy comment on the shared post about why abortion is wrong according to Jesus’ will. My girlfriend and her end up having a keyboard battle over the subject which results in my mom blocking my girlfriend on Facebook. Again, I didn’t know about this until after it happened. I called my mom and railed into her about this. She goes on to say that she’s seen many posts she didn’t agree with and decided to speak up finally, which I told her she shouldn’t have and should’ve just unfollowed her on Facebook so that she didn’t see her posts in her timeline if she had a problem with them. My mom insists she doesn’t think she did anything wrong, but I beg to differ considering the event that happened during Christmas.

Anyways, I’m pretty heated with my mom considering everything. I don’t really know what to do about the situation. I almost want to cut contact with my mom for a bit because of this. Obviously that’s not something I want to do because I love her, I just don’t know what else to do though to make her understand.

Sorry for this wall of text.