My wife, my son (1yr), and I are going home for Christmas for three nights. One night at her mothers one at my fathers then at my own mothers. Now her mother was fairly abusive and manipulative to her, she would hit her every so often and they had a very aggressive relationship with a lot of screaming at each other and her mother making her cry. She was even kicked out and had to live with my dad after the baby was born. They (wife’s family) do drugs at her house, the house is smelly and often times has animal feces or urine on the floor. I don’t feel comfortable staying the night their especially not with our son, she insist that we have to stay there for a night and she does love her mother since it’s all she has back home. I get it but I get anxiety just thinking about it. How can I convince her to at least let me and the baby not stay the night, I’m fine with just visiting. I am in the military and don’t want to be around drugs, or the type of people her mother has around. My family is clean and they drink but that’s about it we all have a good relationship with them so that’s not an issue staying their for either of us, but she still wants to stay one night at her mothers. 