Growing up my parents have always been hoarders and they have always had animals that shit and pissed all over their house. When I was a kid, I didn’t think much of it, but I left and joined the military as soon as I could to escape the trend that my family was trying to get me to follow as well. I love my parents and even though we were very poor, I never wanted for anything growing up. Now that I am older (29m) and have a son (3 months) they want him to come stay with them and I can’t stomach letting him be in a place like that. We will come over to visit, but their house is toxic and very unkempt. I told them while my wife was pregnant that they needed to get the carpets and subfloors replaced in the house if they ever wanted our son to come over. I guess they assumed that that was an empty threat and now that he is here they are realizing that it wasn’t. I don’t want my son to miss out on time with his grandparents, but I also don’t want him in their house. 