Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : First post, I'm nervous as heck and I'm on mobile, so sorry if there's formatting issues. Also, throwaway.

So, a few years back my brother moved in with us (my husband and I) when we got a new place, as we were all ready to get out of my parents place and figured it made sense for us all to live together.

I was pregnant with my first kid when we moved in, and had her several months later.

My relationship with my brother did not survive this. Things were kinda shitty before I had her, but they turned absolutely irreparable afterwards.

He made absolutely 0 effort to be around/be a part of my life/my kids life from the moment I stepped into the hospital, and he was blatantly disrespectful while he was blowing us all off.

My brother in law was stationed in Korea during this time, and he made an effort to be and succeeded in being a larger part of my newborn daughters life than my own brother ever has. Yeah. A guy stationed in a different COUNTRY was a better uncle than the guy sitting upstairs. 

anyways, he moved out and we pretty much dropped all contact, mutually. He doesnt really like any of our family so he usually stays away from family events. Its been easy for us to just ignore each other. He doesnt seem to have any issue with this, and I dont either.

However, tomorrow is one of my extended family members birthday. We were all set to go and celebrate, but my mom texted me tonight and told me that my brother is going to be there.

I WOULD just go and ignore him, except I KNOW my family is going to refer to him as "uncle (his name)" around my daughter.

I dont want that. At ALL. 

He has done nothing to be her uncle. Everyone she knows as an uncle, has made an effort to be in her life and she knows they love her. My brother has done nothing to warrant that title except be related to her by blood, and that's not good enough for me.

It would basically insinuate to her that my brother is a close family member, akin to her very beloved Uncle (BIL name), when he absolutely is not.

I would just ignore my feelings and deal with being uncomfortable about it - however, my kid is going to be 3 very soon. She's old enough now where if anyone refers to him as "uncle (name)", she's going to come home with me and ask about him/to see him.

That's why it's an issue. I dont want to deal with that.

However, I know that if I tell my family not to call him that in front of her, I'm going to be called out as the asshole.

Also, INB4 "but he's family!" Both my hubs and I have had difficult relations with blood family, so we subscribe to the "family are those who care about you" line of thinking. 

One of my friends already kinda voted me as YTA because "hes family and [I] cant keep him out of her life forever" but I feel like I can and its warranted.

So, WIBTA for asking my family not to refer to my brother as my daughters uncle, and to just have him go by only his name instead?