Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So I know what Schadenfreude is and that it’s common reaction in people, but does it make me an asshole?  Especially when it happens to people who treated me badly/bullied me in the past? 

Just a few examples:
• Ex boyfriend getting a divorce 
• The stuck up bitch who was always mean to me and actively spread rumors about me still works a dead end job.
• The jerk who got me super drunk and aggressively tried to have sex with me, only to kick me out of his house when I said no is still trying to be a thug/dj and failing miserably at it and all aspects of adulthood. 

I know that hurt people hurt people and the most satisfying revenge is to live your best life. I made peace with this after high school (full disclosure, that was almost 20 years ago).  Then social medial happened. I used to maintain a very close group of friends and family who were allowed to friend and follow me.  Then about 5 years ago, I started excepting friend requests from people who I haven’t seen or spoken to in years. This opened a sort of flood gate of info on the people who treated me horribly in my past. 

So now, once in a while I’ll see someone tagged, liked or linked to another person, and  I’ll think “oh yeah,  that’s the guy who stole my bag, dumped it out in the back of the bus, then laughed hysterically as I had to crawl around and collect everything.  Let’s just clickity-click that profile and see what he’s been up to...Aaaaand he’s a giant fucking loser!”  Then this wave of satisfaction will wash over me. 

I guess I’m probably still pretty hurt, which is why I love seeing these assholes fail. On the other hand, I’m  not doing anything to actively hurt them. Does loser voyeurism make me the asshole?


