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TL:Dr 
Dad is adopted and doesn't want to find his biological family. I do. Ordered an Ancestry DNA test to do myself. I will not share my results with him. AITA?


My Father was Adopted from a foreign country within a few weeks of his birth. The adoption paperwork that he has has his original name and a few bits about his adoptive parents, but no information on his biological parents. I know specific bits of information about the circumstances of his adoption so will be able to verify if the right person is found (not sharing on here though). 

He had a decent childhood with his adoptive parents and grew up knowing about his adoptive status. Both adoptive parents have passed away over 15 years ago.  

There have been many discussions over the years about his genetics and family. Every time he has said he has no desire to find his biological family. He is happy with his life as it is. 

Myself on the other hand, I feel really strongly that I need to find this side. I am nothing like my family on my Mother's side and have strong genetic traits for the country where he was born. I was deeply unhappy as a child being the outsider.
I have ordered an Ancestry DNA test in hope that I can find out more about his family. Having information about medical risks too will be awesome. In a best case scenario there may be a relative linked too. The likelyhood of finding his parents is small due to their age, but there is still a chance. 

If, and I am well aware that it may be an if, a relative is found I do not intend to inform my father. I don't really have a plan in place for how to deal with it if I do find them though. I'm not sure they would welcome knowing their biological son doesn't want to know them. I would not make contact if that was the situation. 

I will be doing the test, this thread isn't to discourage me. But AITA for doing it without informing him? 

Also any advice is appreciated. 
