Since Valentine’s Day was coming up I decided to give Tinder another try because I was ‘in the mood for love’ (terrible, I know). Usually I just set my profile preferences to women only, but this time around I decided to give mankind another chance and set it to both men and women. I’m not picky so I match with pretty much whoever’s in my age range and has at the very least a semi-interesting bio. 
I get talking to a few people, one of which being a very average looking white dude. I suggest going for a coffee date, when he asks me if I have an Instagram. I give him my handle, but he comes back unsatisfied when there are no pictures of myself on there. I ask why he needs more pictures. He tells me that I “look very different” in the pictures I have up. The only thing that changes in my pictures is my weight, as I had been going through very bad cycles of restriction and binging that year. I yo-yo between a healthy weight and slightly overweight- but overall I’m usually chubby, the kind of person you’d say looked “fine” and maybe even “you don’t need to go on a diet, you’re normal” which usually annoys me when I’m overweight because yes, I /do/ need to diet for the sake of my health. But that’s off topic.
I jokingly write, “what, are you worried that I’m going to be fat haha” and make a few more jokes after that. He just says something along the lines of “yes”. 
This stings a bit- he’s not too know that I struggle with disordered eating, but I end up lashing out at him. I’m kicking myself for not getting screenshots, but this was the general gist of the conversation: 
Me: Oh, well, I guess neither of us are going to find what we’re looking for. You’re looking for someone thin and I’m looking for someone with a better personality. 
Him: We’ve been talking for like five minutes, you don’t know my personality. 
Me: You’ve made it very clear that my weight was more important to you than getting to know me as a person, so I’m going to take a wild guess that you’re shallow. 
Him: Having preferences isn’t shallow. 
Me: (And this is where I probably took it too far, and was pretty hypocritical of me) Okay, sure. Having preferences isn’t shallow. So I won’t be shallow for saying that I definitely didn’t swipe left for your looks? You’re no stunner yourself. 
He basically said fuck you and unmatched me. Am I the asshole? 