Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This guy and I were dating for two weeks or so, but have known each other for longer. I felt he wasn’t always there for me in the past. He even straight-up ghosted me for 5 months over a disagreement. I guess that abandonment affected me more deeply than I’d like to admit. When we finally got together, my insecurities got the best of me and I panicked, asking him not to abandon me like he did in the past.

The very fact he was CAPABLE of just dropping me like that should’ve hinted at his true character, but hindsight being 20/20 and all that.

He got upset with me, saying I had naive expectations and was being too dramatic. We went our separate ways until he reached out and apologized. 

Things were alright until Christmas Eve when he texted me, saying “I like you. Can’t we just date and see where things go without overanalyzing?”

Now keep in mind, this was Christmas Eve and I was spending time with my WHOLE family. I’m talking aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, you name it.  It wasn’t until half an hour after he sent the initial message before I was able to take a minute to check my phone. It went from one to three messages with decreasing enthusiasm from “I like you” to “Just a yes or no would be fine” to “Let’s at least hang out sometime”.

I responded saying, “I like you too. Let’s just have fun and see where things go.”

On with the party. After dinner and presents, I check my phone again. He replies “Forget it. Take care.”

What the fuck.

I tried calling him, twice. Both times went straight to voicemail. At this point, I’m thinking this motherfucker is playing some stupid games. Whatever. Done.

I don’t know why, but two hours later I call one more time and guess what, he picks up.

“What the FUCK is your problem !?” I hiss. At this point I was exasperated to high heaven.

He said his phone died and it took a bit to charge. He’s busy too, you know, and as much as he likes me, if this is how I’m going to act then I can forget about dating.

I’m was well aware he was spending Christmas eve by himself. How “busy” could he be?

I told him yeah. If this is how things are going to be, then we’re better off going our separate ways.

I feel like he was gaslighting me, but maybe not?

Who’s the asshole?