I (19M) have a friend the same age who I used to be inseperable with. We would do everything together and had a pretty good grouo of friends. We both had mutual crushes on each other and would go on trips together almost every week, and it would consist of getting really drunk and high, and having really funny or nice nights together. We literally never left each other’s sides.

Recently, he decided to quit college and move in with his boyfriend of a year or so. His boyfriend and I have both agreed that we don’t really like each other for whatever reason but I’ve always been civil and nice to him, since it’s none of my business who he dates.

The real problem started before his boyfriend anyway. My feiend attended college outside my city, so we didn’t talk often as we both don’t really text. We would still hang out when we were both free though, and it was fine. Until he stopped seeing or talking to me altogether. He just does not answer his texts or calls and whenever I or my friends message to ask him to hang, we always get ignored because he’s with his boyfriend and his friends.

This angered me so badly and I also pretty much gave up on him too, but we bumped into each other again recently. We decided to hang out (My friend, a mutual friend, and me) and the whole time he pretty much spoke about himself and would make our mutual friend the butt of all his jokes. This is something of a running joke and our mutual friend laughs it off and doesn’t think anything of it, but that night I could tell they were getting angry and uncomfortable. They left, and I stayed as I figured that maybe being alone with him would resolve my anger and we could go back to being good friends.

Then his boyfriend came home. He sat with us, which was okay since I’m good at being civil and don’t really care, but he began to get increasingly rude to my friend and I. He would make a joke, and when I would laugh he would ask what’s so funny and make things incredibly awkward. He also ignored or laughed obnoxiously at everything I said and after my friend noticing I was incredibly uncomfortable (I rarely leave my house because of my crippling anxiety and he is more than aware of this) but not defending me even slightly I just left. I haven’t messaged, phoned or even replied to his snapchats since, but I do feel really guilty about ghosting him since we were so close. Am I the asshole here?

TL;DR - My close friend doesn’t bother to contact me anymore and his friends make it clear they dislike me, to which he doesn’t care to defend me at all.