Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hi Reddit. I am in a pickle. I am 18F and my roommate is 20F. However she has a friend staying in the living room, 21M. We all agreed we would split the rent and utilities 3 ways. I recently only moved into the house about 2 weeks ago, my roommate did not tell me about her friend. I was under the assumption it was going to be me and her. I have no problem with him staying as long as he pays his part. 

There has been multiple issues with her friend. He constantly sets the heater to the highest temp of 90° after I have said multiple times not to put it past 70°. I believe 71° is room temp and keeps gas prices low. Not only does he blast the heater, but my door when open is directly in front it.  Just today I came home to the same thing. Heater was on 90 with my door right on it, and I know it was like that for awhile because my door was dangerously hot, damn near fire hazard hot. I sent a text to my roommate letting her know it’s not me being a bitch, it’s a serious legit fire hazard. I have said it’s okay to close my door or block so it’s not directly in front of the heater. So that’s one big issue. 

Food is another. We went grocery shopping and spent $90. It’s been not even a week and most of the food is gone. The thing is, I’m not home much  and neither is my roommate. We both work and I go to school full time. So only logical explanation is that her friend is sitting at home all day, eating all the food he didn’t even pitch in for. He doesn’t even bother to clean the house while he’s at home literally all day. He hasn’t paid anything yet so you’d think he’d at least try to keep things tidy. I personally went grocery shopping by myself and shopped for specific recipes and meal preps. I got a pack of chicken drumsticks to use. My roommate asked if “we were making chicken tonight”. I told her no I was going to use it for my meal preps. That was literally yesterday. 

Tonight I go into the fridge to make my meal preps and discover my chicken not only open but half of it gone. I text my roommate who ate it and told her someone needs to explain it. It’s not even that they ate it, I don’t mind sharing at all. It’s the fact that they ate it after I specifically told her not too and then didn’t say anything or even bother to ask. The fact that they didn’t even bother to ask crossed the line for me. I sent her a text and this is what I said 

Me: Imma need someone to explain. It’s more than the chicken itself, it’s the principle. I’ve been nice and willing to share but little by little I’m getting more and more pissed off. I thought there was a mutual understanding and sense of respect. But guess not, From now on. You or your friend. Don’t touch any of my stuff I bring into this house. I’m neither one of your moms

I know at first glance it looks super mean. But I’ve talked to them over and over. Idk guys, am I the asshole? 
 

