Hey guys so am i the ass hole for not wanting to communicate with my grand parents? My dad died when i was four years old and since then they have been in and out of my life but mostly out of it. In elementary school they made contact with me in 4th grade and would eat lunch with me without my moms permission or knowledge and while they never directly told me not to tell my mom, when i eventually did it was abundantly obvious what they did was not cool. Later the next year (i dont know why) my mom let me go to there house and church stuff and see a movie but later that year they basically didnt communicate with me for years except for the sporadic birthday card. In short they have been mostly not in my life and i have no emotional connection to them beyond some guilt for not wanting to talk to them. My grandfather recently had a brain bleed and almost died and since then they have been trying to communicate with me more now. Not to mention i have an amazing relationship with my grand parents on my moms side specifically my moms dad who has basically been a father figure my whole life. So am i the ass hole for just not wanting anything to do with them?