Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’m 21 and I still live with my mom. I fully understand that I am old enough to be living on my own, but to make a long story short, my mom struggles with mental health issues and I worry that if I leave her on her own, she’ll start living life in a very unhinged way. (she’s struggled with addiction in the past) 

I’m not going to make myself out to be a saint or anything like that, but I do help her out a lot around the house. For the past 5 years, I’ve been giving her daily assistance with learning the internet &amp; web browsing, a lot of which includes helping her with online shopping. She had a slight addiction for a minute and was ordering 5+ items from a multitude of shops and having me complete all the return/support tickets when she doesn’t like her items...which is almost always. 

I digress. I’m just trying to paint an accurate portrait of our give and take relationship. She’s on social assistance which pays for our rent. I’m grateful that she allows me to live here, but I do pay for most of my own food and things, and lately I’ve been going out of my way to pay for her meals and groceries as well. 

This is where I get frustrated. I work about a 40 minute walk away from my house. It’s a 5 minute car ride. It’s freezing out right now, and taking the bus takes almost as long as walking since the schedules are wonky. 

I asked her if she’d mind dropping me off (since her days are always 100% free) and she says no. I asked her why not, and her reasoning was that her boyfriend is awake and might want to use the car in the 10 minutes she’d be gone. I told her I would really appreciate just a drop off and had full intentions of taking the bus home. Still no. 

She very rarely gave me rides as kid—I relied on the bus for school &amp; hanging out, even in the winter. When I missed my school bus, I’d take a cab. 

I can drive, and I drive rather well... but I never have access to a car to practice, which is why I haven’t gotten my license yet. There’s always an excuse as to why I can’t use the car when I ask to practice/book a road test. 

Sorry for the brick of text. I wanted to paint a proper picture before I ask:

Am I an asshole for being annoyed that she won’t drive me 5 minutes up the road to work, but expects me to be on call for her tech support and questions 24/7 and bring her takeout/run various errands for her while I’m on foot &amp; she drives? 

I know the realistic response is to move out and get my own car... but my dad just passed away recently and I have a lot of psychological hangups/panic about losing my mom now. She takes very poor care of herself without my help, and I fear that if I leave her, she’ll let go altogether. 

I’m just bitter lately because I feel like she has no remorse asking me for a million things because she “puts a roof over my head” (technically the government does but whatever) but when I ask her to drop me off, it’s the end of the bloody world. 