Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : (Throwaway even though none of my family are on reddit).

My (37m) parents separated about 10 years ago and my Mum has been seeing a new guy, call him Jack, since a couple of years after that. They don’t live together but nearby.  They go on holidays in the caravan and hang out a bit I guess when they’re at home.

Jack is an arsehole, he is incredibly rude, talks down to everyone and completely ungrateful for anything. He is constantly in a bad mood,  he’ll arrive at Mums in a mood then sulk around like a child until he cracks it and goes home. He throws tantrums if he doesn’t get his way, and blows up, a lot of the time very publicly, over the pettiest of things. He has a habit of just ruining the day. He was always a wanker but has grown to become quite abusive (verbally) and controlling and someone I despise. He also has terminal cancer.

My Mum admits he’s far from perfect, my siblings cant stand him, my uncle has said he’s not welcome back in their house, he has no friends or family who he’s still in contact with, he’s from overseas originally, he walked out on his wife and kids only trying to connect with them 20-30 years later (it went pear shaped of course).

They headed off yesterday morning in the caravan, only after he berated my Mum to tears for not having her phone synced to the car.

I only want what’s best for my Mum, I get that she doesn’t want to be alone but I think this guy is so unhealthy for her and a drag for everyone else.  But my Mum is such a beautiful and caring person that I don’t think she would leave him, especially now he’s sick.

His health recently went downhill and we thought he was close to the end but he has since bounced back.

Am I the arsehole for wanting this guy to fall off the perch?
