Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I don't know how to condense this properly, it's a *long* story and I'm frustrated even as I write it, but I'll do my best:

My parents think that I'm pushing my son too hard to be social. He's 7 and not uncommonly complains about not playing with other kids in the neighborhood. We have it pretty easy now considering we had to move back in with my parents and I now usually work nights while my parents watch him after school, so they see him more and they're more in control than I am at this point. (It's worth noting that my parents, as grandparents are wont to do, spoil the shit out of him, but then complain that he's becoming entitled, lazy, and selfish.) Just today, he was complaining about a neighbor kid not being able to play with him this afternoon. Later, while still light out, a bunch of kids were outside playing- including the original neighbor kid! I encouraged him (strongly, got him to put his sneakers on, go outside to see for himself) to go out with them, but he ultimately refused- he'd rather stay in and play with the iPad, xbox, Tv, whatever. It bothers me because he is unhappy when he doesn't get to play, but when he has a chance he chooses not to, even when I'm covering all the bases- *there's a kid you usually play with, I can go out and hang around til you feel comfortable, this is what* ***you wanted to do-*** meanwhile my parents seem to think (as soon as he cuddles up to them, no less) that I'm pushing him unfairly.

I totally get social anxiety and the sort of nuances that are perceptible only to children in these situations, but I don't want to encourage behavior that is lazy or cowardly. The neighbor kids are mostly nice (if they're being mean to him, he's not admitting it, although we have all always been very supportive of him), and the worst I can note is that *my* kid has been starting to do inappropriate things that he must be seeing on TV- for example, just today, he made the "jerking off" gesture to me. For no reason. I know he doesn't know what it means, but I think he's coming off as weird, and I do want to encourage his social development in the real world as opposed to the internet world.

After the argument about going out to play, my parents immediately made him comfy and rejected my premise. So he took one step out the door and turned right back around. Now I'm the asshole in this house, but...really? They'll scream at him for not listening the first time, but then give him whatever he wants. Maybe I'm harsh, but at least I'm consistent. I think I might need to move again. I don't mean to come off as ungrateful, I do appreciate them taking us in, but if things go on this way, it might be doing more harm than good. I don't know. AITA?