Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Let me start this by saying I'm fairly certain the answer is YTA, but I want to delve in an see.

I made friends with this guy, well call him Tom, a few years ago, and we'd hang out a few times a week. At first things were going well, then he got distant and eventually cut me off. Eventually we got to talking again and he acted like nothing was wrong. It was like he didn't notice how his abrupt cutting me off affected me.

This cycle would go on for a few years, him not talking to me for months, and my "What's up" texts piling up to the point where I would be convinced I was bothering him and he didn't want to talk to me anymore, and then we'd meet in person and it would be like nothing changed. Like we were still friends. And then back to nothing.

I feel like I have put in so much work into this friendship, and he just doesn't care. I've talked to mutual friends about it, and they've said he is just weird about friendships. But I see him making plans with friends, friends talk about hanging out with him or making plans with him. And this is fairly regularly. I'm just not convinced that he is "weird about friendship". I think he just doesn't care about me.

So about two months ago I heard from mutual friends that he is in a relationship. They were happy for him, and of course I was happy to hear he was happy. But there was a certain fatigue I felr to. This is where I get to the AITA. I found myself slightly apathetic to this news. I've been doing some self searching and just feel that I put in 90% of the effort in the friendship, and got little in return. Fair enough if he doesn't want to be friends anymore. But am I the asshole if I just don't care about this relationship he's in. Or really anything he's doing anymore. I just feel a mixture of sadness, fatigue, and apathy when it comes to this friendship. The cycle of him not giving anything and then suddenly acting like we're buddies has gone on for so long. I feel like I'm lying to myself because I hate losing friends.

So reddit, AITA?