Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : We've been dating for over two years now, long distance so we're not usually at each other's houses. But she's visited me countless times and I've visited her countless times (we're in neighboring states so the drive isn't too bad).

Her relatives are legitimate pack rats. They live in a house so full of junk that you barely have any room to walk. She's inherited that character trait, so her room has almost nowhere to step as it's full of years-old figures, plushies, computer peripherals, and old clothing. The floor is usually covered in clothes and garbage, you can't see the carpet. Her two desks are piled up, so every time either of us uses her computer or gaming console, something always falls. You can visually see the dust on most of this stuff.

I have a really bad dust allergy. Every time I come over, my allergies kick up to the point where it's difficult for me to breathe in or out, like I'm constantly running a marathon. We've tried countless things to help -- running an air purifier at full blast, washing her bedding regularly, attempting to dust the common room, taking a daily shower while I'm over -- and I've seen doctors who have suggested a daily dose of a nasal spray and Allegra. I've also taken Benadryl to try to help as well. Sometimes the efforts help, sometimes they don't.

I've asked her about the state of her room and whether we should try cleaning it to help get rid of a lot of dust magnets. She suffers from clinical depression, so in her words, she takes one look at the room and hates herself and can't find the energy to work on it. I've offered to help her, but she refuses, not letting me do busywork when I'm their guest and especially when I'm suffering from allergies.

For a little more context, she and I are very happy together, it's been a wonderful relationship all around. I have no qualms with her, nor her I, but this is something that's been a constant thorn whenever I visit. My allergies kick up at my home too, but only when I do something like roughhouse with my little brother on carpet or pet my cat.

Reddit, AITA for asking her to clean her room, or WIBTA if I took a firm stance on the basis of my health?