Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I hang out with a group of 8 or so people and we get together every week or so to hang out and just chill or go out together. We also all go to school together so we all see each other everyday. It’s a friendly school for the most part too, and it’s a everyone is cool with everyone sort of deal.

One guy who we hang out with though is so toxic and aggravating. Everyone knows it too and feels like it would be better off without him, but we mainly only say it privately. He’s extremely difficult and stubborn and turns everything into an argument. He also tends to victimize himself and say a bunch of annoying shut about how he’s stupid or ugly or lazy over and over again. Also, we all joke around and insult each other but he acts like we always are only make fun of him.

We repeatedly tell him that we find the way he acts really annoying but he just brushes it of or makes it about how he’s annoying everyone to get pity ( which he never ever gets) 

Anyway we talked about preventing him from hanging out with us but it never really came to anything. We are sort of mean to him when we talk just because he’s so aggravating. Admittedly I’m probably the worst to him and I just go off on him sometimes. At one point I started being really harsh just so he would stop hanging out with us. It worked for a day when he said he wasn’t going to anymore but then he came back.

I know that that makes me sound like the worst but in my defense he never changes his behavior ever. We tell him to stop doing something like being self insulting because it’s annoying as fuck and he never stops. We ask him to stop saying stuff thats really annoying and he never stops and when we ask him he just does it more or is self insulting again. Basically am I an asshole for intentionally being a jerk to him to try to get him to stop hanging out with us when everyone feels the same?