Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : For context, about 8 months ago I was in a long-distance relationship with a guy I knew online. It lasted a month, and we met a couple of times, but he dumped me and we didn’t speak for months.
On New Year’s Eve, he messaged me out of nowhere, presumably slightly drunk judging by his friendliness. I thought nothing of it and just went along with it, but he then continued messaging me the next morning. Over that day, he started being very romantic towards me, and I was pulled in by it, because he was charming and I hadn’t had a relationship since he left me 8 months prior. Early the next day, he mentioned that he’s seeing a guy he really likes in a day (we’ll call this guy Joey) but continued to be equally as flirty towards me, and he seemed extremely interested in a relationship. On the morning he was supposed to meet Joey, I asked him about it and he answered with short, vague messages, before telling me to stop talking about it; I presumed it’d fell through, he wasn’t meeting Joey after all, and it’d put him in a bad mood, an assumption that was further proved by him spending the rest of the day and night playing video games. I cautiously tried to be flirty with him later in the day in an attempt to cheer him up but told him I’d stop if he wasn’t in the mood; unsurprisingly, he sent a very vague message saying that he didn’t want to. I took this to mean that he just didn’t want to on that day, due to his failed meetup with Joey earlier, and assumed that he’d be more like his usual self the next day.
I began messaging him that next morning, and he seemed a bit more distant; I was always starting conversations and he took a while to respond, but otherwise he seemed his usual self as a whole, making me think that he’d be romantic again (by this point I was interested in him, so I wanted him to be romantic). I sent him a single flirty message later in the day, and he unexpectedly flipped out; he claimed that we’d agreed to stop (I assume he was referring to the message the day before, which I mistakenly thought only referred to that day). That was followed by the revelation that his boyfriend (presumably Joey) was sitting right next to him and read the message; I wasn’t told that he’d got a boyfriend, yet my ex went on a tirade about boundaries, and pushed all the blame onto me. A few minutes later Joey sent me an angry snapchat message, telling me that my ex – who had been flirting me a day prior – was ‘his’, and that I upset him (I assume my ex told him my snapchat name, because I sure as hell didn’t). Following that, I apologised profusely and distanced myself from my ex, realising that he’d manipulated me. AITA?