Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So some back story first. I got a verbal offer from a dream job. I’m still waiting for the formal offer and until then I’m trying not to be happy or confident about it. We’ve all heard stories about things falling through and until I sign anything I consider it not being an offer.

The industry and city I work in has a tendency to gossip and talk a lot. Everyone knows each other. So it’s very easy for things to come to my boss or the new company.

I’ve told a total of 4 friends about the possibility because I wanted some advice and support during the interview process. I’ve told none of them except 1 about the name of the company.

So the one friend I told the name is also my colleague. It started of with him telling me that he “subtly” asked my boss if he thought I would be leaving soon. Upon hearing about this I immediately told my friend: please don’t do this. It’s my career, you can’t interfere with this. Upon which he said oh but it was really subtle, boss doesn’t even realize this was a real question.

Fast forward, the week after I’m going out and about 5 of our mutual friend come to me to congratulate me. Again I tell my friend, stop telling people. It’s not certain yet and I don’t want the company to find out yet. Again he laughs it off as if it’s nothing.

So, a couple days later my boss pulls me apart and told me she heard some rumors. Since he is also my friend I didn’t want to lie. So I basically told him the short of it without telling the name of the company. (My boss has a friend in said company and I don’t want anybody to interfere)

Then today was the last drop. I ran into 2 people I know (friends but not really close) who started asking me about the new job and mentioned the company name (which I’ve been keeping secret). So when I asked them how do they know they said it’s because of my friends friend. Who doesn’t live in the same country and who I’ve never even met. 

So I texted my friend again to say. Can you please ask your friend to stop talking about me and especially the name of the company. 

So AITA for getting upset over this? Honestly I thought I’m not. But every time I tell my friend off it gets laughed away. So now I’m starting to wonder if I’m being overly sensitive for feeling like somebody is interfering with my career

