We've been planning this trip for months. He just met my parents over Christmas. My parents have accepted that I'm gay and everything so the whole visit was perfect. His mom is apparently extremely moody and not very happy about the whole thing yet, and had no intention of meeting me. His stepdad was also telling my boyfriend that they were helping someone move all weekend so they weren't going to be available anyways.

My boyfriend's aunt who's super accepting booked us a hotel suite to stay in for the weekend. When I found out his dad wasn't going to be available I said it didn't seem to be worth risking it with the weather in central Illinois this weekend. I repeatedly told him let's reschedule when I should come but he refused to do that, and eventually sent me his aunt's number telling me to tell her myself nexuses he's sick of being a "messenger".

We're long distance but he usually drives 6 hours north from Missouri to visit me every few weeks since he's in graduate school and I work full time. I've only visited him once via plane so I know this makes it look like I don't want to bother visiting him ever...I explained my reasoning with the weather, and his parents, but he wouldn't listen.

Am I the asshole?