Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This is complicated, because I work with a few friends who I also live with, and to complicate matters, I’m their boss. 

It starts with A, who is my best friend, refusing to talk to me after an incident (which I have to add, could’ve cost us both our jobs) at work. 
I made it clear to them that I wasn’t talking to them as their friend, but as their boss, and they needed to talk to me about it before we had problems. 
They, of course, refused again, so I had to pull them aside and pull rank. I didn’t want to do this, as I generally don’t with my staff, but I didn’t have a choice due to their behaviour. 
They basically blew up at me, starting to cry and have what was essentially a tantrum, which I refused to engage and sent them home from work.  

They basically told me that I’m an asshole for doing my job, even though it’s been made clear multiple times when we’re at work, we can’t be friends like we are at home. 
I’m very career orientated and they understood, or at least claimed to understand that I need to do what I need to do at work, and it would not affect our home life. 
They said they understood again after I’d told them to go home, but it was completely within their right to be upset with me, and that if they choose to continue to be upset with me outside of work, I have no right to feel anything about it. 


I would’ve treated any staff member the same way, and I have done in the past. 
A knew what they had done was inappropriate and I think that’s why they were avoiding talking to me about it, but now it’s turned into me being the bad guy. 
My other housemates won’t speak to me and I didn’t even want to come home last night. 

Am I the Asshole for treating all my staff the same? 
I’m honestly at a loss. I can’t apologise for treating all my staff the same, but I also wouldn’t want to, because they need to understand the weight of what they did. 