Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : While celebrating our NYE at a friends party, their couch unexpectedly broke. Now friend has a 9 year old son and after hearing my husband suggest putting a cinder clock under the couch for a temporary fix, he ran outside to get one. As soon as he comes back in with the cinder block he decides he’s going to fix the problem on his own. Awesome! My husband being the practical man he is, takes one look at the size of the block and the size of the couch and says it won’t fit. This doesn’t deter the kid, he’s bound to fix it and make it work. He’s struggling to make the block fit and my husband again says it won’t fit. Now other party goers are interested in what’s going on. The kid is obviously proud of himself trying to fix the couch and keeps trying to push the block under the couch. Husband is visibly annoyed because he knows it won’t fit. Kid tries to lift the couch to make the brick fit and struggles with the weight. Other people suggest my husband help the kid. My husband declines by again, saying the brick won’t fit and it’s going to make the couch un-level on one side. The kid pushes on without his help. Brick is currently residing under the couch supporting the break and couch seems slightly even now. However party goers are now annoyed at my husband because he wouldn’t help the kid-now in his defense he knew it wouldn’t and probably shouldn’t fit and wouldn’t actually fix anything. He’s already planning something else and mentions he’ll fix it later. Mother of said kid says  to let kid think he’s helped and my husband can actually fix it at a later time. I agree. Husband gets upset because he feels attacked by mother because he didn’t help the kid. Now he’s silent and obviously very irritated. Everyone goes about their ways and enjoys the night. Husband is still irritated. So I send him a quick message explaining that he shouldn’t stew on it, this was more about helping the kid feel like he’d fixed it and then hubby could actually fix the couch. Husband snaps back that he wasn’t raised that way “if something is wrong you still tell the kid good job” I agree and say that he’s not the kids parent, it’s not his place to get involved like that. He then goes on to say if this is how I plan on parenting our child (currently pregnant) we’re going to have problems. I say, I don’t agree with that parenting style and say that he missed out on an opportunity to teach the kid a lesson. Rather than telling the kid he was wrong multiple times, he could have shown him why he was wrong and then helped him figure out a better solution.  He goes on to complain about everything thinking he was a jerk ( no one outwardly mentioned this.) he did make it obvious he was upset and someone called him out on it but nothing was mentioned about being a jerk. I say “From a kids perspective you kid of were being a jerk, you only told him was wrong and it wouldn’t work multiple times. It was unintentional because you were being realistic but a 9 year old wouldn’t understand that. Besides everyone but you is over it” he then decides he doesn’t want to speak to me for the rest of the night. And rather than sleeping next to me in guest bed, he’s sleeping in the chair. As he’s getting up to go sleep in the chair I mention how he’s a grown man and he’s so upset by this that it’s ruined his night and he needs to let it go. I tell him the kid is currently laughing and spending time with his mom. Everyone is over it (because it’s really nothing) and he needs to let it go. He’s currently glaring at me from the chair. 