Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : 2 and a half years ago my (M26) father passed away unexpectedly at a very young age. After he passed in the first few months it was obviously very hard for me and my brother (M22) to cope with, as we both lived with him in his house full time. 

After he passed, me and my brother decided to let the house foreclose with no repercussions to either of our names. We just couldn’t afford his high mortgage as I was finishing up school and him just starting. 

My father did have a large life insurance policy (about 110k) left for me and my brother to split 50/50. 

Right after he passed I told/promised my brother we would buy our own house and start fresh. However after looking for about 3-4 months, time was running thin on how soon the bank would repossess my fathers house and left us no choice but to start renting. 

Fast forward to present day, we are still living in the same apartment. And after some vacations here and there along with paying our rent with the insurance money and not living as frugally as we should have,we are left with about 40k to still split. 

A short time after my dad passing, I met a wonderful girl and have been dating ever since. We are now at the point where me and her have been looking for houses because we both have good/steady income and are at the point in our relationship/lives we are ready to settle down together and take these next steps. 

My brother on the other hand, works about 30-35 hours part time making slightly above minimum wage, not making enough to cover half a mortgage/bills etc. 

My brother is now upset that I walked back on my word. Telling me he has 20k in the bank and he can afford it. 

The thing is, once his “honey pot” runs out, this will leave me to flip the majority of the bills. 

I offered him to move in with us for the time being, only charging him our utility bills. 

I recommended to him to put his half of the insurance money in a new account and told him not to touch it until he himself is ready to buy a house of his own, and pay the utilities in my home with his personal income and save up in the mean time. Until he locked down a well paying full time job. 

When my father passed we were just kids who didn’t know what we were doing and we were about to take on a mortgage we had no business getting into at the time. We just figured we would buy together because we had “all this money.”  

AITA for walking back my word and deciding to buy with my partner instead of him?
