Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So a little backstory, me and my girlfriend of 5 months are in our very early 20’s. She’s in between jobs so her phone has been off for the last 3 days and I haven’t really communicated with her since she was over at my house for 2 days before then. 

She is very sweet to me most times and has been a very dutiful and good girlfriend that I’ve had no issues with until today where I just got white hot mad and was dropping F-bombs left and right.

So here’s the asshole part, it’s New Years even as I right this I’m at home doing nothing and drinking some shitty beer because I would feel embarrassed to go to any of my friends party’s and have to explain why my girl is at another one.

I texted my girlfriends roomate around 3 o’clock to determine what she wanted to do tonight and I got a pretty deadpan answer “like an I’m not sure” and I was like well perfect let’s go to dinner somewhere you like and we can go to some fat party and get trashed, a perfect New Year’s Eve.

I was wrong I guess...

So she gets on her Wi-Fi messaging hotspot her roomate set up, (if you don’t know what it is just temporary messaging to me) and I ask her once again what she wanted to do tonight, she just flat told me that her friend (let’s call her Jessica) Jessica wanted her to go to a party tonight and she wasn’t sure if I was wanting to do anything.

She said she was sorry for making plans without asking me about tonight which I didn’t think was a big deal, so I told her she didn’t need to apologize for making plans and shit I’m not some controlling asshole.

So let’s get some info about this Jessica because it’s kind of important

Jessica went to our local bar strip and met some people she was a little to trusting of literally 4 days earlier and was roofied and date raped. She did all the things your supposed to do obviously, rape kit, police report, ect.

So Jessica is going to a party and my girlfriend is going with her, and another mutual male friend between them that I trust but not really my friend.

So I ask her if she would like me to go? Really hoping she would say yes because I couldn’t fathom her being that vulnerable on blackout drunk day of the year.
She says yes if I would like to go which I am satisfied with that answer.

I also reiterate that I would feel better to be there considering Jessica’s recent events.

She gives me the whole I’m tough nobody’s gonna do nothing to me which I halfheartedly believe but not much.

I let her know that we should probably crash at Jessica’s place because it’s amateur night and people are drunk driving like crazy and it’s my luck to have some asshole ass blast me while I’m driving home.

She tells me that Jessica is having to many people crash at her house so I was like okay well I won’t drink then whatever I’ll get us home fuck it.

So let me just explain that I’ve been at work the entire time I’ve been talking to her, I move produce around in your local grocery store so nothing to demanding.

I’m about to get off work and I shoot her a text asking if she wants me to pick her up and we can go there together (she doesn’t have a car)

She says to me that I don’t have to pick her up and she will let me know when they are back at Jessica’s place but they won’t be back until after midnight.

At this point I’m like what? I thought we were all going to this party and coming back together from it?

She also says in the same sentence that we can always hang out tomorrow if it was too late for me?

At this point I get the hint that she really doesn’t want me going for whatever reason so I just resign to it.

I’m a little upset so I don’t text her back for about 30 minutes and I get another text from her asking me for a favor, and she asks me for 5 dollars to pitch in for the uber.

I’ve got a pretty good paying job so that’s yknow pocket change of course id give it to her no big deal.

I send her 10 dollars and just send her a message saying, “that’s fine babe I just don’t like that I’m not seeing you on New Years”

She sends me back “hahahaha sorry babe! I didn’t know if you’d want to, or be busy”

At this point I’m slightly irritated so I send her back kind of passive aggressively “yes I would be very busy on a holiday... definitely wouldn’t make time to see you”

She sends me some eye rolling emojis and tells me that it’s not like we made any plans!

And I mean the rest of the conversation is me and her back and forth passively aggressively toting the notion that I needed to make plans with her and me toting the notion that those plans are kind of already supposed to be assumed.

I kind of made the argument that if your my girlfriend in Highschool it’s not like I have to ask you to prom, it’s kinda just assumed that you will go to that event together.

So here’s the Tl;dr

AITA for assuming my girlfriend and I were spending New Year’s Eve together?