Im friends with a woman named Laura. We both have kids the same age. She has had a divorce, suffers heavily from PD, &amp; has ADD, but she is on meds.
There have been a couple instances that make me not want to continue our friendship, but my DD loves her kids. I feel guilty b/c she will FaceTime us &amp; her kid will be crying for mine, she will tell me how her kid wakes up in the night crying for mine. I feel guilty that she might need support and I’m slamming the door in her face.
So here’s why I cut her out:

She had an affair w/ her married boss who recently had a baby
We would have girl talk about her hot boss or how he would flirt &amp; I would make comments like oh gonna work late w/ your boss? But after they slept together I expressed how I thought that wasn’t right. 

When she moved into her house she didn’t have trash service, she said it was to overwhelming to figure it out. She threw all the trash into the garage. The smell was putrid &amp; bugs started coming into the house. She hinted at wanting to take my car to load up the trash &amp; go to the dump but I wasnt having it.

At a play date her kid took a party favor from a bday &amp;  lied to her about it. She said they gave it to her, Laura confirmed with the party host that it was not true but they had extra. Laura let her keep the party favor after lying &amp; stealing it. I was irritated by this b/c my daughter was crying &amp; didn’t understand why she couldnt have one.

She is escorting. 
When she first told me about the sugar daddy website I thought it was a joke like if all else fails I could be a stripper!  We laughed &amp; talked about the guys profile, &amp; how cringey it was. I was saying things like oh 65 isn’t so bad! Just close your eyes! Money is money! She told me about a foot fetish guy who would pay her $100 just to rub her feet. I said sign me up! Sign up Zach (my dh) too! Will he pay for me to get a pedicure? We didn’t talk for ~2 months afterwards, then she told me in passing at a bday party she was actually escorting.

Now this may be petty but she has borrowed my car and used over half a tank of gas. I asked her to pay me twice but she never did.
Will show up at least an 30 mins to 2 hrs late. 
Will say she can’t find her wallet, asks me to pay while she dumps out her purse onto the floor, never pays me back. 
This is petty but she embarrasses me. Kids have no shoes, matted hair, she has had old suckers stuck to her phone. She will bring 2 diaper bags b/c she she doesn’t know what is in it, throws dirty diapers in a pile outside while the kids are playing, house is a mess, car is a mess. She has had to call her kids (under 4) over the intercom at play places &amp; sent workers to look for them.
  
I deleted her off of Facebook but her sons birthday is coming up &amp; I know she is going to reach out.
Am I TA for judging her on these things &amp; should I give her the benefit of the doubt or is cutting her out the right way to go?


