Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So I am 20 and my 18 yo gf of over a year ended up pregnant. In our defence the condom broke and she was on the pill so we were like no big deal. Oops. About the time she got pregnant we broke up and I never told anyone she was pregnant. It was easy since she wasn't around so no one noticed her growing belly, and we agreed almost immediately that we would not be keeping him. She didn't want an abortion but we knew we weren't ready to take proper care of this baby so we went to an adoption agency. This made it even easier to not tell anyone since our son wouldn't be around anyway. So the months  pass and there are complications resulting in an emergency c section a month early. Our son ends up in the nicu, and his mother spends a few days in the hospital. His new parents are there day of and everything seems like it's going to be ok. But in super stressed and tired of dealing with this alone so after a week or so I let my dad in on what's up. He freaks (understandably) but want a to see him. I drive us both to the hospital and explain that we are having an open adoption, which means we will still have regular contact and even visitation. He gets mad again, and refuses to come in and see him now. I visit him while my dad stays in the car, and then we go home. That night my parents and I have this big argument. They want to adopt him but I don't want them to. He has a family and in signing the last papers in a few days, they can still see him but if I wanted then to raise him I would have just kept him in the first place. They threaten to sue for parental rights under some obscure native American children's act and I have to contact a lawyer and threaten to deny paternity just to get them to stop. Mind you to this point neither of then have seen him. Neither has asked to see pictures. Neither has even asked his name. And now instead of helping me deal with this they are threatening legal action. I beg and plea with them to go see him before we gets out of the hospital but they won't. Finally, after 3 weeks of daily visits alone, he gets out and he's heading home with his family the next day. I make one last trip to say goodbye, begging my dad one last time to come with me, to be part of his life, to know his grandson who will actually be around a few times a year, to support me in maybe the hardest moment of my life, and he won't do it. So I go alone and I sob like a little kid because who wouldn't. It's been a few months and now I told him how much that hurt me and ask him again to maybe be in his life and he goes off on me like it's such a ridiculous request. Am I the asshole or is there blame to go around?