My (17M) friend (17M) is in two of my classes and my lunch this year. I had a class w him last year and we became good friends but kinda poked fun at each other. He’s a nice guy and it was all in good fun.

This year his dad died. I was there for him but he had seen it coming for a long time so he was as prepared as a 17 year old can be. This didn’t really change anything about him but it was around that time I started to be annoyed by him. He CONSTANTLY complains about everything. The temperature, homework, tests, classmates, you name it. He also keeps making little jabs at me that he’s always made but they’re just piling up. I’m somewhat of the same way, but they were never mean spirited. I think they may be becoming that way though. I feel like I’m becoming kind of abrasive towards him. 

When he was going through everything with his dad, I backed off completely. I was only a friend. No jokes about anything personal. But recently I’m went through a rough patch myself. A hard breakup and a few other things. Obviously nowhere near as hard as the death of a parent, but still some other things. He was aware of the things that be been happening with me but still made his little jokes, and I think they got more mean spirited. I don’t think he understood how low some of the things he said made me feel. I was also diagnosed with OCD and I’m praying he doesn’t find out about that. 

I understand I’ve been abrasive since then, but AITA for seriously starting to resent this guy? I can’t help feeling like I am with all of the things that happened with his family. He’s a good guy but I think he’s like this with a lot of people. He just starts to annoy people after a while