Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Trying to gather my thoughts.. We’ve always had a strained relationship for many reason and one of them is him not listening to me. Because we’ve never seen eye to eye, I can’t tell when I’m over reacting because my baggage with him or he’s just being a dick. So...

1. Originally for my upcoming birthday we were going to visit my brother across the country (we were going to go last year but I got myself a new job I couldn’t take time off).. I was hesitant for reasons but at Christmas I said let’s do it! He decided the buying the paint would be my gift (I asked him in November just to help me do the project) and we’d hopefully go on the trip next year when I’m in a better place. (What? Myself, not him) 

2. Multiple times I tried to get him to help me find a particular shelf for all my books, he’s always interested and even said at one point “we’ll take care of it don’t worry!” He hasn’t helped me at all and has no intentions of helping me with my shelving situation. 

3.  This project has been dragged on so after two weeks, the weekend to paint was here!!! Turns out there was a 15% sale on paint Monday to Wednesday so no painting that weekend (my dad has more than enough money but it is good to be frugal I do see that, we just had planned for that weekend to paint then plans changed) 

4. We have two doors that me and my roommate would love to replace and I mentioned it if he could pick them up during the sale(and we’d pay or course), he said they wouldn’t fit in his car, I’m not sure why, I don’t press when he makes excuses. 

5. My landlord requested a certain brand of paint, he said it wasn’t a problem. Didn’t get the right paint cause “he won’t notice” 

6. Obviously I knew he wouldn’t come by on Sunday for the VERY last visit (yay!) because Super Bowl but he did his stupid game of saying “oh maybe I will, it would make more sense” but of course he didn’t. So now pushing project 3 weeks and one day, oh well, one more day won’t kill me plus it is super bowl. 

7. For some reason when he came today, he didn’t paint my door, or put the doorknob back on that I took off. He thought we would just paint it on Wednesday. So he left my door knob-less and expects me to wait until Wednesday now.  

Am I the asshole? Expecting too much? Am I crazy? Am I spoiled?  Keep in mind, my relationship is strained as it is, so being around him and having my house chaotic for 3 weeks could easily be skewing my judgement.

If you read all this I appreciate you very much, I’m having difficulty expressing myself right now. 