Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So a couple of really good friends got engaged recently. I was asked to be one of the groomsmen, and I happily agreed. However that happiness as waned of late.

As they have been planning the wedding, I've noticed that the cost has been spiraling out of control, a cost that I doubt they are able to afford. Now that usually wouldn't concern me. It is their wedding, their business. However, that cost is now starting to effect those of us in the wedding party. Their engagement party was at a chalet and we had to spend the weekend there, so that cost. Then they have planned a weekend away nearer to the wedding, a kind of stag and doe trip, and we've already booked and paid a deposit, so that is another cost.

The final straw was this weekend, when we were discussing suits. The groom has decided that we are getting suits made from a Made To Measure boutique that he knows. The problem is the suit is going to cost about $1000. Each. That is way more than I am willing to pay for a single suit. I suggested that we go to a place where we can get designer suits off the rack and have them tailored and it would save us a few hundred each and we would still all look great. But no. It had to be this.

So I made the decision that I couldn't really being their wedding party and keep paying. I told my sister that I am going to tell them that while I appreciate them involving me in their wedding, I don't think I can be involved. To which she told me that I would look like the bad guy here because I had already accepted being in their party. The ironic part is that ultimately I can afford to do these things more than the others. I am doing alright financially, but I don't want to keep paying. I'm doing well because I look after my money and don't want to blow it all.

So would I be the asshole in bowing out of the wedding party at this stage? Is there a way of getting out without looking like one?