Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throughout my whole relationship with my wife, I've been stuck witnessing countless feuds between her and her dad. My wife's brother is also in the same toxic relationship with the dad. It has come to a point where both my wife and brother-in-law are fed up and have accepted the fact their dad will never change. In turn, both of them have started distancing themselves. It's unfortunate, because their mom is caught in the crossfire.

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With everything that's been done, I've never been keen of my wife's dad. But that has never stopped me from being the glue that has kept what's left of my wife and her father's relationship together... Up until my grandmother passed away. My grandmother had both her viewing and funeral all in one weekend. My wife's dad had plans to go on a fishing trip during that same time. I didn't expect my in-law's to attend the funeral, nor did I have any hard feelings that they couldn't go. My father-in-law knew I had a funeral, and yet still he asked if I can watch his dog that weekend while they were out. Which basically consists of me driving to their home each day, feeding the dog, and walking him. I agreed, but in hindsight I should've never done it. A dog should be the least of my worries during my grandma's passing.

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At that point, I stopped putting in the effort to communicate/see my father-in-law, which in turn further drifted my wife and her dad. My wife's mom quickly began falling into a state of depression seeing her whole family fall apart. She started reaching out to other family members for support. These family members already knew the history of fights between my wife and her dad, as well how I felt regarding my grandma's death and the dog situation. Long story short, they're asking my wife and I to set aside our differences with my father-in-law for the sake of my mother-in-law's wellbeing.

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My wife is emotionally done with the fights and abusive behavior her dad has done to her for years. She has been on the verge of depression because of this as well. There's no way she is willing to go back and endure more of it. As for me, the dad has lost all my respect. Even with all that said, the rest of the family insists we suck it up. I'm at the point where I'm losing my patience with this whole family. My wife and I are more than willing to have a very close relationship with the mom and help her, but the dad is out of the question. In my mother-in-law's eyes, the only way to solve her issues is to see the whole family together again. The rest of the family won't confront the dad because they are terrified of his aggressive mentality, and he never owns up to his mistakes anyway.

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So guys, is my wife and I the asshole for not wanting to fix anything as my mother-in-law drifts into a further state of depression? She has been having suicidal thoughts, and would hate to be pointed fingers at for it.