I was friends with a girl(M) and sat next to her in a forensics class. We weren’t the closest of friends, but we got along well enough, and had some good in-jokes. One day, the teacher, (T) assigned us a group project on the history of Forensics, so naturally we agreed to team up. We planned this shit out, me agreeing to bring the framework for the project(a cheap plastic skeleton) and M agreeing to bring the 40 facts we needed, and we’d piece it together the next class period. So, the next period rolls around, and I have the skeleton in my backpack, and I’m ready to get started. M doesn’t show up. I start texting her, most of my texts somewhere along the lines of “WTF, where are you” and “we have a project due on wednesday”. 

I don’t get any work done that day, and i’m still waiting for her to reply to me. Throughout all of this, I’m texting her like mad, even trying to call her phone once or twice. The next day, around twelve, I saw that she was on Discord for about ten minutes, and didn’t say anything. I get madder. 

Throughout all of this, when I was frustrated, I would send her a message along the lines of “I’m going to punt you into the sun.” This is important. 

So at about 7, I give up on her, and ask my mom for help to assemble the skeleton. I scrap together the facts in about twenty minutes, and then me and my mom(bless her little heart) begin taping. Then M finally starts talking to me again. In a group chat. And she’s furious. 

She had been sick these past two days, and was mad at me for bullying her. I was honestly confused about this, until she posted screenshots of my first messages. 

Me: “M I’m going to punt you into the sun. 
Where the fuck are you. 
We have a project.”

You get the jist of what I sent. We start fighting about this in the group chat, but this is a chat filled with her friends. We probably should have taken the argument to DMs, but she didn’t start, and I am bad when it comes to asking for what I want with friends if it only really affects me. 

One of her friends was quick to shut down the argument. The next day, I present the skeleton alone, and get a decent grade. Over the next few weeks, I attempt to act normally whenever I bump into her around school. This means waving and saying hello during lunches, or when we bump into each other. She glares at me for this, and I feel worse and worse about this. She moves seats away from me in class, but this gives me more room to spread my shit, so I’m not complaining. After a few weeks, I still don’t want to lose her as a friend, so I write her a nice letter, asking for an apology for not contacting me about her being sick, and if she had told me sooner she was sick, I would have done all the work for both of us. This, *infuriated* her, as she was still angry about this, and we argue some more. I finally have had enough, leave the group chat, tell her not to talk shit about me(as we still have mutual friends.) and block her. We haven’t spoken since. 

So Reddit, Am I the Asshole for being angry at M?