My parents divorced when I was too young to remember. My mom got custody of me because my dad had gambling/financial issues. I would visit him on weekends but as I got older, visits grew less frequent. I even remember him not showing up to my highschool graduation. Around 10 years ago he married another woman and has 3 kids with her now. I'm 22 now, in school full-time and working part time, still living with my mom. 

As time went on, I would often forget to text him and he would never really text me, except maybe once every four months. He lives ~3 hour drive away and I don't have a car, or alot of money/time to take the train down to visit, and the one or two times I do visit every year I'm met with "why do you never come visit". 

This is where I begin to wonder AITA because I'm done with making every effort and only being met with complaints about why I never visit. My siblings there even call me a "ghost brother" which kinda hurt me to hear. Meanwhile every time I ask to meet up halfway (they have a car, and don't work weekends...) I'm told to just take the train down and see them. I just think of it as a two way street and if they're not making any effort, why should I? 

This is a big deal for me even though it may not seem significant because I have anxiety and I'm already stressed out enough about putting myself through school. It's always gnawing at the back of my head like "shit I should really go visit ..." but I just hate confrontation and hate how they have no sympathy for me trying to get an education. 