... And also getting mad at him when he said he wouldn’t? 

So I’ve been in a LDR with this guy for 2 years, living on opposite sides of the world. I left a lot of my things over at his place from my last visit about half a year ago. I have maybe $400+ dollars worth of clothing and accessories there and also a $100 wacom tablet. I have quite a passion for this style of fancy Japanese fashion called himekaji. A lot of clothing articles are rare and sought after and there’s quite the buy/swap/sell culture surrounding it. I left a few of my favourite dresses and skirts at his place. 

So I broke up with him a month ago. In short, things didn’t work out between us for 2 main reasons:

I just didn’t love him like I used to these last few months

There was someone else I started to have feelings for (There wasn’t any cheating involved, unless you count this as emotional cheating. I reciprocated feelings for him when he expressed his own and then broke up with my bf a few days after not speaking with this guy.)

After the breakup, I made no mention of my things I left at his place. I was really undecided on when I should ask him to send my things back to me or whether I should even ask at all. I think I was just hoping he’d do it for me anyway. Finally, he sent me a message saying he “considered burning them but then decided to donate them because someone else would appreciate those clothes far more than I ever did”. That was the final straw and I got mad at him, telling him that it wasn’t his call to make I think he made that remark because he always got irritated at how much I fussed over my fancy clothes (not getting stained or creased etc).  

If it makes any difference, I would have offered to send him money compensating for the delivery cost and trouble. 

Is it fair for him to feel this way? I did break his heart after all and I know he would be understandably sad and angry at me and I should let him. But should he put that aside for this simple gesture of returning the things that are mine? Or should I just accept the consequences of dealing with a breakup? I have absolutely no idea at this point. I just need an outside perspective. 