Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Ok, so I know your about to say "no sweetie, toxic people in your life aren't good for you" but read the story first bc this is more about them than about me.

So I have had this school friend for about two years. We met when she first came to the school and I, being the extrovert who likes to befriend introverts (at the time), went up and said hi. I kind of took her under my wing as I had been at that school for much longer. She was great at first. We became so close that we became a package deal. For the first 6 months of our friendship, we were absolutely inseparable and loved each other (platonically) a lot. At that time she was one of my few friends because most of my friends moved away. All the other friends in my life have been popular people who I just kinda hung out with or friends who I didn't have a chance to grow with bc they moved so having someone who actively wanted to hangout with me probably made me blind to some red flags. It wasn't until last year that I finally started seeing it.
She has a lot of good tropes but also a few too many bad tropes as well. (I really want to paint her personality here  so I don't make her seem like a monster)
Some of her more prominent bad tropes are: she is extremely clingy and has gotten in the way of me making some friends, she is extremely sensitive and cries over extremely benign things, she is extremely judgemental over people, is quick to make judgments and is very narrow minded about things, brings up past memories that are distasteful to put you down, won't stop bringing up different things eg: omg you so owe me bc I introduced you to ______, makes it a point that you should do things for her bc she got you into something or did something for you out of the "kindness of her heart," does something for you and says it's her treat but then suddenly expects you to pay her back even though she told you earlier that you didn't, only talks about a few topics over and over again, over does jokes ALL the time eg: wouldn't stop singing the I'm already tracer thing which ruined it for me, makes jokes at the wrong time eg: anytime you say hard, wet, long, thick, deep, big etc, laughs AT you when you make a mistake, no matter how small eg: voice hitches when I sing and suddenly it's the funniest thing in the world (i have told her nicely to stop but she still does it), is the victimising queen eg: I was telling her to stop attacking a person in a group chat of ours and suddenly it became about how shitty her childhood was???, makes excuses thinking it will fix the situation or starts crying to get people to favour her, tells other people your personal details without your consent eg: I was at comic-con and a guy was getting a picture with me and asked her to take the picture and she legit told him that I was gay??? Like who tf does that... (I told her off for that), acts extremely childish and whines A LOT eg: I was at her house the other day and her dad was showing me his work shop and she suddenly got all pissy bc I wasn't showing her attention for like half a minute, doesn't have any aspirations in life and expects to ride off her parents, is rude to her parents, is rude in general, can sometimes act like she owns you, you do what ever she wants to do even if it doesn't make you feel comfortable but as soon as you want her to do one thing that isn't even that hard/scary she backs out bc she isn't up to experiencing anything new (grew up sheltered and spoiled), refuses to do most of her school work, 98% of the things she talks ab is just her "tea" against people, every time we meet someone she has to point out all of their bad attributes eg: said guy mentioned earlier with the personal info, she immediately labels him as a pervert bc he liked my cosplay and wanted a photo with me, a lot of her opinions are fake bc the moment I say I disagree with them so we can get a conversation going she immediately sides with me and sure for the most part that would be good but I really enjoy having some friendly banter.

Some of her good tropes: is extremely passionate ab the things she loves, has gotten me into a few different things that have changed my life just a little bit, has a similar sense of humour (most of the time) to me, has been with me through my tough times, is always available to hangout, will just sit with you and chill, shares answers to stuff and helps me with my work, is encouraging when I share my stuff with her, always has my back, has helped me vent, knows exactly what I need, similar likes to a lot of things, same music taste that we can talk ab, let's me fangirl to her even though she has no idea what I'm talking ab.

Now both of these lists are incomplete and if I thought about it for longer both would expand. The thing is, she isn't a monster. She is very manageable but the problem is, is that if I spend too much time with her at once she starts acting less nice, more judgmental and flat out clingy. Now you're probably thinking that maybe I'm rubbing off on her and I'm probably being horrible and for some part of that, you're right. I was an asshole back when we first me and I was judgemental but I had an experience that led me to stop doing that as much as I could about a year or more ago.  But now she does it without any prompt from me or anyone for that matter. Other people have told me (as I'm the only one who is really close friends with her) that she insults a lot of people at school just bc they aren't friends with her and I've observed it too. 

I love making friends myself, and having many people to talk to and hangout with but I have been flat out told by people that the reason they don't hangout with me at school or don't like hanging out with me in general is because they don't like her vibe. I didn't know what that meant at first but then I finally got explained that they didn't enjoying having someone who is listening to our conversations but not joining in at all and doesn't even sit with us (sits at the table next to us and eavesdrops) that she gives off a vibe of not liking them, and since she's always around me, they can't stand being around me bc of her.

This definitely made me mad at first bc of the whole "how dare you insult my best friend" sorta thing but I definitely started seeing it more myself and realising what they were saying.  

Now I need to tell you that she IS NOT a horrible person and I still love hanging out with her and being friends with her but it feels like I'm her parent and she's my bratty child more and more with every passing day. Sure, she is the only person that I can talk to about a lot of things and she saves me from being alone during lunches but I feel like she's bringing more problems in my life than she is bringing in good things.

(I just wanted to add that yes, she does literally bribe me to be her friend. Every time I feel like our friendship isn't working, she randomly buys me food and tells me that I'm her only friend, guilt tripping me and also making me seem like a bad person if I drop her bc if I do it would seem like I'm just using her for her money. I have tried to get her to stop spending money on me btw)

The biggest conflict I have with this whole situation is that, it's true that I'm the only person that's genuinely close with her in general. Of course she has other friends but she has made it a big point to me that her only best friend. 

I don't want to hurt her but when (because it will happen, unless she cleans up her act, which is UNLIKELY)  I drop her I will.

she's a genuinely good person under all of the bad but for me there is too much bad to deal.

I hate hurting people but at the same time I need to take care of myself and not just the people around me.

TL;DR The whole situation to me is like an addiction. For a short amount of time it's good/enjoyable but the substance is doing more damage than good and will continue to worsen if I keep doing it but I'm scared of the withdrawal symptoms if I stop doing it. even though the moments where I do it are great, once I come out of it the whole situation is just harmful and slowly ruining me. But I am the one who got me in the situation so I am responsible.



So, people of reddit, I have presented my case and now it's time for you to judge: AITA for wanting to drop my toxic friend?


