My wife and I are both in our early 30s. My wife quit her job two years ago when we had our twins. I’ve always been the primary earner in our household (I work in a high-paying field, while my wife didn’t even attend college), so it wasn’t a big transition. A year ago, we started the process of relocating to a rural area where I commute to my job every other week (I stay in an apartment while I’m there and spend every other week at home). We both love the outdoors and were happy to raise our family away from the chaos of the city. We have lived here in our new house for six months.

My wife recently began complaining that she felt isolated. I suggested that she try making friends in the town where we live, but she said that it’s too small and mostly old people (it is small, less than 500 people, but it’s not just old people). Now she’s saying that she wants to go back to work. This is ridiculous for a multitude of reasons. First of all, the closest town where she could realistically get a job is over an hour away. There’s also literally no childcare anywhere near here. I told her my concerns, and she said that this was important enough to her that she wants me to consider moving.

I’m furious at her for so quickly wanting to give up the life we built together. I put a lot of money into buying this property and building the house. We both agreed that raising our kids in the country was the best thing for our family. I want her to be happy, but I feel betrayed.