Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This was a couple years ago, with a former roommate, F. We lived in an apartment that did not allow pets, as per the lease. Several cats wandered around the complex, and my roommate ended up taking a liking to a kitten. F would take the kitten inside, feed him, and otherwise care for him any time F was home. He was cute, as all kittens are, but I was always begrudgingly opposed to taking him in, on account of it being a lease violation that could cost us the apartment. F didn't care, and dug in further, getting proper cat supplies, and getting the kitten fixed. He let the kitten out when he was at work and keep him inside otherwise. 

After a few weeks of this, the kitten was attacked by some of the older cats and his stitches from the fixing were torn on top of other severe injuries. F told me that his finances were wiped out from the cat supplies and getting him fixed, and asked me to cover the ~$300 operation, or the kitten would have to be put down due to the injuries. I ended up deciding to decline, as he already owed me a lot of money from backed up bills and I had been opposed to taking in the adorable lease violation in the first place. Without my money, he had to have the kitten put down. This understandably tanked our relationship for the remaining 7 months we lived together.

I bring this up now because I've since moved out and became a cat dad myself, in an apartment that allows it. I grew up with pets, but this is the first one that's actually my own. It's given me a lot more context into his feelings at the time, since it was the first pet he'd ever had in his life, and the pain I caused him as a result of my decision. Was I the asshole after all in this situation?