Backstory: I(M) have a son(10) with an ex-girlfriend. We have been broken up for about 8 years and have both moved on in our own lives. About 5 years ago, she met the man who she is currently married to while working in the County right underneath where we are from. 

She married the guy, moved down there with him, which is about 50 miles south, and they had a kid. I also got married and had my own kid as well. 

We’ve always been civil and would meet halfway to switch my son off every weekend. I would get him Friday after school and return him Sunday afternoon. 

About a year ago my EX got a job at a hospital in her city that required her to work nights. Her husband took over switching my son with me on the weekends. This was working for us. 

Just recently, maybe 3 months ago, she and her husband separated. He stopped putting as much effort into caring for my son. And while he still does watch him while she works, he has refused to drive halfway to switch off with me anymore. 

This has me driving 100 miles round trip to get him for 2 days and then driving 100 miles round trip to take him back. 200 miles total. 

Am I the asshole for wanting to tell my ex that we should maybe work it out to an every other weekend visit, (which is what the courts mandated. I only get him every weekend because I obviously want to and to help her not have to worry about him.) Or have her reimburse me for gas or something?