Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I wanna preface this by saying that 1. I’m using a throwaway and 2. This situation is a little bit similar to a popular post on here from the other day. However, my situation is a little bit more nuanced and I was wondering if I’m still an asshole. Four months ago, I met a girl on tinder (she’s 22, I’m 23). We texted for a little and we had a lot in common and she seemed pretty cool. We hung out once and she was hot and easy to talk to, I asked her to come over and she said no. She was going on a trip for a month and I told her to text me when she got back. I got a vibe that she wasn’t really experienced for some reason. She ended up texting me when she got home that night and we texted the time whole time she was away. I’m not really looking for a relationship because they never really work out well for me cuz I always put myself first. She eventually asked me what I was looking for and I told her that I wasn’t looking for anything but I was down to hook up repeatedly and see where things went. She said she’d be open to that as well. I’m not sure why, but from the conversations we had, I came to the conclusion that she was a virgin and I brought that up and she told me that she had been a virgin, but wanted to have sex she just has a hard time meeting nice guys. I told her that i’d be a good fit for someone to lose her virginity to. I was really nice to her and always responded to her texts.  When she came back, we started hooking up. We only actually had sex a few times and we stop whenever I finish. I know that she has feelings for me though so she continues to come over whenever I ask her to, sometimes I’ll ask her to come over but tell her I don’t have condoms and she’ll offer to give me a blow job, but I think she eventually started to feel bad about that. She also never expected much from me and never got upset when I cancelled on her or when I took too long to respond. One time i went a whole day without responding and she asked if she had done something wrong but that’s it. i feel like I’ve given enough hints that I’m not that interested because i usually prioritize my pleasure, i don’t really invite her over during the day, and I’m not an affectionate person and she still doesn’t get it. She did tell me that she has a hard time taking hints and that if I’m not interested I need to be blunt with her but how can she not see? shes also annoyingly insecure and will say things like “yeah IF you’re still interested in hooking up” or she’ll ask me what I consider her in relation to me but I don’t like to overthink that much. 

A week ago I asked her if she wanted to come over and give me head (i was out of condoms) and she said she didn’t think it would be worth it to come over just to do that, i told her that we’d be hanging out too and again, because she likes me she agreed. We talked for a little and then got down to business. Afterwards i kinda was hungry and wanted her to leave. I told her that i was going to go get some food and didn’t extend the invite to her. She looked kinda sad and asked if I was leaving now and should she go. I said i had to put pants on first. Before she left she told me that if she didn’t text me when she got home it’s because she didn’t wanna annoy me and told me to text her if i wanted to. I kind of didn’t want to so i just didn’t text her. About a day ago she texted me asking if i was still interested in hooking up and i ignored it. We previously had a conversation where she told me she liked me and i told her i liked her back, i just didn’t want to be in a relationship. I feel like she’s starting to become a little bit needy and I don’t know how to break it to her. I told her my intentions and made it clear who I am as a person. Yeah, I’m her first, but she is an adult making her own decisions so am I really an asshole?