I’m kind of conflicted, and figured y’all should tell me if I’m an asshole or not. I’m not sure how to write this so I’ll try to do bullet points of both sides. 

Her;

My mom has a sensitive stomach and says she can’t cook, because she will puke from the smell. She also says she has no time. 


Me;

She bakes fairly often (cakes and such) and doesn’t seem to get upset at smelly restaurants. 

I’d be more than willing to cook and have offered many times. In another life I’d love to be a chef, Im mainly subscribed to food channels on YouTube. 

I’ve been bullied my whole life for being a scrawny runt. I’m nearly 6ft and barely 120. I also struggle to build muscle, because I can’t put on weight. 

She’s a health nut. She spends hours at the gym and spends tons of money on lotions to make her look better. We eat very light, non fatty foods. Think salads, sandwiches, cereal, occasionally pasta with tomato or light pizza. 

I’ve tried talking to her, but it has never ended well for me (she’s under a lot of stress and I understand that she can be upset quickly because of it). 

I love cooking, I hate being able to count my ribs and being a walking stick. Am I the asshole for feeling this way?