We have dated for 4 years and we are 20. I cheated on her 2 years ago because she didn't reciprocate love back to me. I only told her recently because I didn't want to lie to her anymore. Because things have been getting more serious. After I told her, we broke up.

We have been broken up for a few months now, and we both want to get back together. I have apologized and have tried my best to express what a dick I was and that I will do what I can do earn her trust back.

She is always distant and refuses to do anything to help make it work. We are long distance also and I am just about to move away again and she doesn't even care if we meet up even though we might not see each other for another 5 months.

I love this girl and want to put effort in to making us work as a relationship again. But am I the asshole for wanting her to also want the relationship and to put effort into it also?

It seems like she wants me to put in all the effort, but not actually do anything herself.

Thanks!