Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : To protect this persons privacy, I have changed their name to James. 

So a little over a year ago I started to have feelings for James. It all started on the weekend after our marching band made it to area. We hung out after that and things went on from there.

About two days later, James sent me a text asking for help. I didn’t think much of it. I really liked helping people. He then texted that he was having problems with his identity. Having come out as bi a month earlier to all this, I knew he was talking about his sexuality. I was happy to help him because I remembered how I felt going through his situation. I asked if he liked boys. He said he didn’t know. I asked if he liked girls. Same response. I had never actually helped someone with this before so I wasn’t sure how to help from there. Since it was late at night, we both said goodbye and went to bed.

Before I fell asleep I started to think that I could possibly shift James over to the “gayer” side of things. He was still questioning so he would think it was his choice anyways. So I started to hang around him more. We actually ended up being really good friends. Everything seemed alright.

Two weeks later, James told me that he liked a girl and he wanted me to be his wingman. Being the helpful person I was, I said yes. I was in emotional pain but I still said yes. Also we found out that we were going to state so I was trying extra hard not to seem sad. The next day I snapped and told him every single reason why his crush wouldn’t work. James came to terms with it, but he wasn’t too happy that I had to tell him. We became distant after that. I tried to cheer him up by confessing my feelings to him, but it made everything worse.

We didn’t talk much after that. We barely talk now. I feel bad for ruining my chances with him, ruining his chances with the girl he liked, and possibly messing him up mentally. 

After a whole year, I finally forgive myself for what I did and move on from James. But now James has led me on and cut me off at least twice. Not only am I not sure if I like him, but I’m blaming myself again for what I did a year ago.