Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : A bit of backstory:
  
3 years ago I broke up with my ex that I loved truly and dearly. She worked as a hostess in an Asian only karaoke. This place was riddled with rich Asian dudes from Japan and Korea. Execs of companies like komatsu, Hyundai etc. This was your typical Asian place, where you can pay for a girl to sit, drink and chat with you. I was fine with her job, even though she was one of the very popular girls there. I trusted her, and she never gave me a reason to distrust her. She was "the one" and I was getting ready to possibly propose to her. Until one day, when she told me that this one guy kept on coming in and asking for her. At first, I was happy she finally got regulars, and she seemed happy about it to. But things started to go south. First — expensive gifts, which, ues, were hurting my self esteem, but I kept cool. Then guifts became more personal like Lingerie and stuff. I confronted her about it, and she said she's wierded out by it as well, but I'm the only one she's showing it off to. Then meetings outside work hours, which supposedly we're just "extra income".  And then he called her on a week long trip to Korea... which she agreed to! 
  
Now, no duh I was against it, because I was already starting to develop trust issues from all the intimate gifts , meetings and texting. I told her that if she goes — she can forget our relationship. She did.
  
Now I hated that Korean piece of shit. I'm not an idiot. I know what happens on trips like these. Waving around wads of money in front of a young girl that was raised pretty poor and dreaming of a better life. Of course that bitch agreed to go. I found him online, found his wife and sent her screenshots of his husband's suggestive texts. 
  
Two days later he calls me and threatens me in broken English (99.9% sure he got my phone number and the fact that I speak English from my ex) telling me what a pice of garbage am for breaking his family. 
  
A week later I get a text from my ex, saying "thank you for cancelling my trip. He got fired, are you happy?" (I'm pretty sure that was his wife's work, definitely not mine)
  
So, your just-asses, am I the asshole?
  
P.s. the worst part about all of it, is that I now consider myself a racist piece of shit, because of some shitty pavlovian defense reaction I now subcontiously hate Koreans. 
  
Fuck you, former VP of ******* CIS LLC.