Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Hi reddit,

So I live with my boyfriend, who's a fairly heavy weed smoker. He smokes every day when he gets back from work in the afternoon, all day on the weekends and some mornings before he goes to work.

Lately I feel like he's been getting more down. Often he'll stay on the couch and it's hard to get him to do anything. He doesn't have much money to spend on going out/hobbies. 

Full disclosure, I smoke a fair amount, maybe a few nights a week. But I've been trying to cut down/quit. So perhaps that's the root of my frustration too. But I have an active social life and enough money to go out/save etc.

Today he was sad because he only has $30 left for the month- but he spent $20 on weed yesterday. I sat him down and told him that he needs to think about how much he's spending on weed, that it isn't a necessity, that he's using it to escape from his problems, that he seems addicted. Now he's angry at me for 'making him feel inferior', saying that he is 'an addict who doesn't even have any money'.

Am I being too controlling here? I mean it's his life in the end. In the end it is a bit selfish as it would be easier for me if he could afford to do more things. And I do smoke (probably too much) myself. But I would like him to be happy.

Maybe I didn't handle it in a sensitive way. AITA?



