Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Sorry for the long post but this is a mess. My grandfather died last week and although we had a good relationship growing up we have been estranged for 10 years as he was an abusive alcoholic. 

During those ten years, his neighbours stepped in to “help” by buying him alcohol and taking his money. 

He died in horrible circumstances and it has been very traumatic for everyone. 
We have decided to have a closed, family only funeral as we really don’t want the drama however my aunt feels that everyone should have the right to say goodbye including his enablers. 

I really can’t face being in the same room as them because there is too much anger. 

