My husband use to work at a company where he would finish work at 2:30 (instead of 5pm) on Fridays. He’s since left that job, but part of his agreement at his new position is that he is allowed to leave work early one day of the week (Wednesday) to pick his 12 year old daughter (from a previous relationship) up at school. 

On Wednesday’s, he usually gets home around 3:45 instead of 5:30. He then usually makes supper and gives my SD a ride home between 7&amp;8pm so that she can have a consistent morning schedule. 

We have 3 other children (3 months, 4 and 7). Our two older kids take gymnastics and for the first time, their gymnastics lesson has landed on the same night as we have my SD. The 4 year old from 5-6, and the 7 year old from 6-7.

I think it’s great that the nights aligned because instead of me having to make supper and take all 3 of our kids to the 5pm lesson, I can start supper then take the baby and our 4 year old, and my husband finish supper then bring the 7 year old and his 12 year old to the later lesson (gymnastics is in the same city as his ex, so he drops off the 12 year old before or afterwards). 

My husband thinks he should change which day he leaves work early because he feels that it’s not fair to the 12 year old. I know it’s not ideal, but I don’t feel it’s a huge burden for the 12 year old and IMO the fact that he gets to leave work early should also be used to contribute to the rest of the family’s activities as well. 

If it was the only time we spent with his daughter I would understand where he’s coming from but she’s with us the majority if of every weekend so there is lots of opportunity! 

AITA for asking him to use that time for the rest of our family as well? Or should I respect that he want to change the day he leaves early so that he can protect the time for his 12 year old?