Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I recently concluded that I have a moderate problem with drinking and drugging. I’ve got two weeks sober and am using AA and other tools. 

My best friend has been a daily weed smoker for years. We generally hang out once a week and marijuana use has always been a staple of our hangout sessions. 

Last night I hung out with her and I told her that I would rather she didn’t get high anymore when we hang out, as I’m afraid of relapsing and seeing her enjoy marijuana will chip away at my resolve over time. She got defensive and replied that that’s not fair because she enjoys weed and doesn’t have a substance abuse problem herself. 


We’re planning on talking about it more after we’ve both had some time to think. I really don’t want this friendship to end. I know she values my friendship as much as I value hers. But part of me feels like if she can’t handle being sober for me (again this is only once a week) then she DOES have a problem. But I know if I say that then she’ll get real defensive. Would I be an asshole if I gave her an ultimatum?