Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : From  time to time my wife will chat with her ex-boyfriend (the big one). To  the best of my knowledge, the conversations are harmless, but the fact  that she even wants to maintain a relationship with this person really  throws me off. She has said before how terrible their relationship was  and how badly he treated her, so when I first found out she was still  texting him I was taken by surprise. The fact that I also had a very bad  experience with an ex-girlfriend who spent a lot of time talking to  another man while telling me he was nothing to worry about – he  ultimately ended up becoming her new boyfriend – doesn't help the  situation.

I’ve explained to her that I  do not talk to any of my ex-girlfriends anymore and that I do not  understand why she would want to stay in touch with the person who hurt  her so badly, but she has never really answered this question. She has  asked me in the past if I wanted her to stop talking to this person, to  which I’ve repeatedly replied that I did not want to tell her who she  can and cannot talk to, but that I would like her to let me know  whenever he messages her. The problem is that most of the times she  tells me that she has been talking to him I get upset or angry, and then  she gets upset or angry. I can tell it is affecting our relationship  and I am not sure what to do.