As title implys I'm a college kid living on campus. I'm a third year so I've had my fair share of RAs who either dont care or care too much. This is my first RA that i get along with really well, we knew each other beforehand as well.  

Recently I have been having some issues with them not being an RA to our housemates. We live in a apartment and have 5 housemates, on top of everything we live in trans-inclusive housing, so issues of body image/gender disphoria/euphoria are topics that come up. My RA has recently started working out with the new year. And counting calories. And grabbing their stomach. And constantly talking about how fat they are. 

Problem is, I'm the "fattest" one in the apartment. Weight wise I am by far the biggest one in the apartment and everyone else is thin without trying, and my RA could be chubby but that would be pushing it. Now, i understand that everyone is allowed to have their own issues, and my RA is just trying to get support. They have a history with eating disorders and so they get plenty of it because most of our personal apartment has some sort of mental health disorder - including me. And they arent mean, they never comment on my weight, even compliment me on my body. But they comment negatively on their body at least 3 times daily and are constantly talking about their eating habits. If i enter a conversation with them its a 9/10 chance that their weight tranier, eating habits, or weight gain will be brought up.

I was never planning on saying anything, but last night i had a dream. And in this dream my size became the focus point. I kept gaining weight and people would say i look fine but then say how big they are and i had to sit by and look the way i did and compliment them. Its starting to affect how i view my body. I used to care very little and just worry about if im being healthy over my size. But now i worry about how much fat i can grab, ive stopped eating due to stress. I need to no longer be in this environment. 

WIBTA if i ask them to stop? I would also need to talk to their boss because i live with the RA so any issues that i dont feel comfortable talking with a housemate about would normally call for an RA but if its an issue with a housemate that is my RA would call their boss in. 