Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : This guy has been my best friend ever since elementary school. We’re both 25 now, and ever since he met his fiancé in high school we’ve talked about me being his best man. I was honored at the time he told me I would be. I guess I would still call him my best friend since I haven’t made any closer friends than him, but we haven’t seen each other in almost 2 years.


He went to college, I didn’t. We had pretty similar tastes and lifestyles in high school but as time went on we just became totally different people. I’ve never been the type to give a shit about fancy things or tradition, where as he’s alll about the finer things and following tradition. He moved out of the Midwest to the East Coast and I stayed.


So their plan was the wedding will be close to our hometown. Now last night he tells me the bachelor party will be in NYC, and he wants me to fly out there in May for the bachelor party. I admit that I came off as not that receptive to it, and he got heated about it and said it seems like I don’t care about being his best man. He compared me to his fiancé’s maid of honor who has already planned the whole bachelorette trip out.


Truth is, I don’t care about the bachelor party. A lot of shit has changed in my life since he left. I don’t care about weddings, marriage certificates, diamond rings, or parties of any kind, much less bachelor parties with a bunch of guys I’ve never met.


I just bought a car, I’m trying to build credit, I’m working my ass off to get ahead. It’s 2019, life is hard. Anyway, I’d have to take vacation, buy a plane ticket to NYC, plan and partially fund a bachelor party he won’t internally groan at, and then come back home and buy a $300 linen suit he wants everyone to wear for the wedding. I can’t bring my girlfriend because I didn’t ask him about it soon enough so they’d have to uninvite someone.



I really love my friend. He’s a great guy with a good heart, and I know he’s head over heels for this girl. We just don’t relate anymore, even though that friendship chemistry will always be there. We aren’t the same anymore. So I want to know if I’m the asshole for being pissed at him. Am I being unreasonable?