Some background information about me and my situation currently, obvious throwaway

So I have a long history of academic dishonesty and laziness because I don't know how to push past obstacles and actually succeeding, and instead taking the short way out and half assing everything or simply getting the answer from somewhere else, and only really putting effort into useless classes or hobbies.

This has caused me to fail a programming class because I couldn't finish everything in a short time and simply copy answers from other places, barely pass multiple math classes with Cs because I didn't want to do the homework and just winged it, even though I knew I could do better because I'm 3 years faster from the normal student path, and just spend my time on useless things like learning about stupid things like old computers and hardware modding. I also took his credit card without his permission and spend about $200 on things. I did pay him back later though. 

I've been trying to put myself back on the right track by biking and transporting myself to work during the break without any help from my parents, not going on vacations voluntarily to stay at home and work and take care of my dog, so I could learn to mature, but that failed and I'm back on my self destructive path.

My father is a very hardworking person, having come from a village in Asia to North America, and now works at a top tech company in the North America. However, because of the type of upbringing he has as the youngest in the family by quite a bit and all, he doesn't exactly have the best anger management. If he gets angry, people are going to get hurt/cry or things are going to get destroyed. He doesn't exactly have a life outside of work, and comes home tired and emotionally drained every day. He tries to get the best for me, even moving to a new neighborhood for the schooling opportunities there.

Over the course of my indolence and dishonesty, I have many of my things destroyed due to my actions. Laptops, Monitors, GPUs, etc. He says that it is because of my disobedience that those things are gone, culminating with today, where because I plagiarized some solutions to homework that he threw away my monitor, my eGPU case, my GPU, controller, and everything that can connect to a computer that was in my room, all of which I purchased with my money during my summer and winter break jobs. I am saddened by his actions, but I would like to know if what he did was the right thing, to destroy my things, and if in here that I am the asshole and I should change since I brought it on myself, or he is