Sorry for any formatting issues, I’m on mobile. 


So, long story short, we haven’t been doing all that well recently because I genuinely HAVE been an asshole for a good chunk of the year. Anger issues, it’s not fun. I’m working on trying to see a therapist as it currently stands but setting up a new doctors appointment and running through insurance isn’t fun. 


Well, we live together. And we’ve been dating off an on for a while, decided to make it official this year by moving in together and blah blah. I just recently learned my anger has become an issue, and a lot of it for the past month has been randomly directed at her. She’s an angel, did nothing wrong, and took it all without a word. A couple of weeks ago she finally said to me “I’m not sure I can do this anymore” which was a massive eye opener for me, and I began to work on trying meditation and other forms of anger control until I could get on some anti depressant medication. 


But back to the story. The other day I noticed she was on her phone, like a lot, and at one point I had glanced over and she was sending pictures, not nudes just general selfies etc, to some guy with a nickname on her phone. And his response included the word “princess” so I asked her about it. She immediately got self defensive and began to raise her voice, to which I did as well and things got a little heated and I said “hey look, can we talk about this like adults instead of screaming at each other?” So we did. Her response to the so called “flirting” was that it was “Helping my self confidence issues, and it’s not like I’m seeing him in person. He’s just a customer from work who gave me his number and I decided to text him because why not” 


I take issue to this, and I said so, to which she HAD called me an asshole, and has now taken off from the apartment for the night. Not sure where she’s going, she blocked me and she’s been gone for about an hour now. I don’t think she’s coming back home tonight because she took her laptop and everything with her. 


Which begs the question, AM I the asshole? Because I honestly don’t know. My anger IS an issue but part of me says she shouldn’t be doing that, regardless of whether or not she’s “not meeting him in person”. But I could also be overreacting, and I’d rather not talk to my friends about it because I don’t like to bother them with personal details. 