So my friend has been going through rough times lately, his gf broke up with him about 6 months ago and he cant find a job, his mom is an alcoholic and he has temper problems and will lash out at her when she is drunk (she isn’t abusive just drunk all the time) so he left the house as he didn’t want to be around his mother, he almost went homeless before he finally went to his dads house, which he despises staying at because his dad makes him try to find jobs, pretty much my friends temper makes it so that he cant do many applications every week because he gets angry at retyping in all the info. He also has lost all of his jobs or quit because he would become angry with the managers, which I understand but you have to suck up shitty managers.

So he has been telling me all this depressing stuff like I hate my life, ill never get a job im going to be homeless etc. I supported him for a long time and tried my best to just help him get out of his depressive state but with all the stuff going on in his life he started lashing out at me with his temper.

I decided to write to him some serious advice that is kind of critical of his life and I know that it can be hard to accept that but pretty much I told him he needs to stop being sorry for himself, if he wants a job he needs to make his full time job finding a job. I told him he needs to suck up his managers being assholes and that honestly every problem in his life is usually caused by him. 

He didn’t like me saying this and has blocked me and I haven’t heard from him since so reddit, am I the asshole?