Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Hold on, let me explain. So I Keep this extremely personal diary full of some of my inner thoughts at the moment when I write them. I let absolutely no one see this book and keep it hidden, due to the fact that it contains some pretty slanderous commentary towards several people in my  life  which I sometimes write when I'm angry.

Openly, I insult no one. Nobody can claim that I speak ill of them in public or private, at least not to anyone else. I keep that journal to vent about my frustration, which may sometimes include making really derogatory comments to people. Again, I NEVER intend for them to see this or ever hear about it. I keep my anger bundled up and occasionally let it flow onto the pages of a book that I keep extremely hidden.

However, recently, it came to my knowledge that My mother had found said journal and had been reading it for several weeks. She finally confronted me and says she wants me to apologise for what I wrote 'cause it deeply offended her. I made passing remarks about her being a b\*tch, whore, c\*nt, and a fat f\*uck whale among other stuff. Thing is, I don't feel like I should apologise. I would have never said those things to her face, EVER.

They were meant to be kept private 'til the end of all time, never to be made privy to anyone who was written about in it. She knew that very well before she went and read it because the opening parts of the book specifically say it's not to be read due to that fact.

She violated my privacy and got her feelings hurt, even when she knew that was a possible consequence. Why should I apologise for that? I may have written some slanderous stuff, but it was completely private. She may have never found that book had she not been searching around my stuff unauthorized. The contents are not even a true reflection of my feelings at present, but she doesn't care; she still desires an apology.

I don't feel like doing it. The fact that she is offended is a consequence of her own actions in my eyes. Perhaps I shouldn't have written what I did, but it's not like it was ever meant to be made public. I may very well have burned the thing in the future just so it could never be seen.

So, AITA, should I apologise for comments I never made to her face, or to anyone else for the matter?

\*\*TL;DR Wrote my mom was a c\*nt, whore, slag and a bicycle among other things in a private journal she was never to see, should I apologise even though I never said it to her face?\*\*