Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My father has cause a lot of issues, not only with my fiance, but also with past girlfriends I have had. My Dad is an alcoholic, hard headed, stubborn, never can admit he does anything wrong, and likes to put the blame on everyone else. My fiance' and I have been together for almost 4 years. She's a great person, never has any issues getting along with anyone, smart, funny, and just all around awesome. I couldn't ask for someone better.

 During our first year of dating, my dad was just getting to know her and I was bringing her around more. My Dad comes from an Italian background, so Sunday (sometimes Satruday) dinners with the family are a big thing. So we would go over usually once  a week.


My Dad, being an alcoholic, was drunk 99% of the time we would go over for dinner. Him being drunk led to him being kind of flirty with my fiance' (at the time was just my girlfriend). For some reason, the topic of girls who are "sluts" got brought up the family dinner (was brough up by my dad) and he mentioned that my girlfriend was a "slut, but in a good way". This was probably the worst thing he has said, but there was also instances of him flirting with her, telling her that shes gorgeous, and also was tickling her in the stomach area, in a "joking way" apparently. My dad has always been a friendly/flirty person with most all women, so even though I did find it inappropriate, I didn't think much of it and kind of let it go. 

My fiance' didn't say much about it at first, but after several times of being tickled by him, she started expressing to me how uncomfortable it makes her and how inappropriate it really is. It took me a while to realize it, and I guess its because I grew up with my father acting like this and was used to it. Now being an adult, I am starting to see my father is not normal and the things he is doing is not appropraite, and I am totally understanding of how she feels. He also sent a text to me one day when we were having a summer party (which included a slip-n-slide) and asked if my girlfriend was going to be in a bikini when he got there.


My fiance started to become distant from him, and one day he finally asked what was going on and she explained to him how she felt. He said he was sorry and wanted to appologize, but to this day ( about 1.5 years later) he still hasn't. He claims he has tried over and over again and we keep blowing him off, but its not the case at all, and thats what he tells other people. I am starting to beleive his drinking is starting to mess with his memory and he is having a hard time distiguishing between what he actually does and what he thinks he does. 

I explained to him he needs to appologize and until then I am going to be distant as well. That has not seemed to phase him. Now with the holidays coming around, I am starting to feel guilty about it because I have a feeling I wont be seeing him on Christmas. I didn't even hear from my dad on Thanksgiving. I am trying to stand my ground though so he understands that he cannot act this way and until he appoligzes to my future wife, this is how things are going to be.


I am having a hard time with this because I am always a nice person and feel bad being mean to someone,  regardless of what they have done. Plus the fact its my own father. Am I the asshole or am I not the asshole?
