Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Around a year and some months ago (around October) from today my best friend had borrowed my car and and had accidentally reversed into one of those green cable/internet cones that sit on some lawns between houses and it had unfortunately broken one of the latches that holds the bumper securely to the rear end of the car which apparently would cost 600$ to repair.

As soon as this happened he came and told me exactly what had happened and told me that he had full intentions to pay me back as soon as tax season rolled around and in January of 2018, he offered to take me and the car to a mechanic and have it left there to be repaired but instead, since I had to plan when I could be without transportation, he then offered to give me the money so that way he could have at least paid me back and I accepted. 

I then ran into an issue where I needed to use the money to pay for classes since my FASFA deadline had already passed and would not be getting that aid until next semester. 

Despite all this the friendship hadn’t changed and we still remained the same old friends we’ve always been as I would imagine it would since we’ve known each other for about a decade now.

The only concern now is that my mothers boyfriend told me he could repair the latch and secure the bumper for about 75-100$ and when I told him this he had told me that he thought that was great news and that he’s glad I wouldn’t have to pay it all up. He told me he could feel that I was expecting him to ask about the 600$ but told me that if I wanted to pay him back that I could but he had given me that money to fix the problem he caused and that it’s help him a lot to get that 500$ or so back but he’s learned not to expect money from people and had made some joke we chuckled at. 

A week or so ago I sit him down and I tell him that I felt guilty because if it only costs 100$ to fix something and I was charged 600$ I would find it outrageous to not get 500$ back and I told him that was his money and I would pay him back.

Recently I got an offer to trade in my car for a newer model and I had also gotten back a generous return for my taxes which I was going to use to pay him back.

 If I decide to trade in my car without fixing the bumper and not giving him back the money am I an asshole? 