So my girlfriend found out her grandpa is sick in the hospital and tells me the same day she is driving 9 hours to go see him and will be gone a week. Apparently it is not looking good and no one knows for sure if he will recover. Normally I would tell her of course you gotta go but not now and here is why.

Firstly we are behind on a couple bills and just barely paid rent this month. My gf lost her full time job and now only works a couple days a week and doing food delivery apps plus donates plasma. All together it doesn't bring in what we need. I have 2 jobs to try to make ends meet and now I'm looking for a 3rd because she is not covering her half. I told her I need you here applying and interviewing for new jobs.

Secondly she is a terrible driver. She's had multiple accidents the last couple years and has not driven long distance before. I'm worried because she is going to be by herself. She has no idea how to change a tire, check oil level or tire pressure for that matter. On top of that it's icy and snowy where she's headed.

Lastly I really depend on her for rides to and from one of my jobs. It does not sit on a bus route. So I'm either stuck walking 45 min to an hour one way in freezing weather or spending anywhere from 40-60 bucks on uber over this week, money I can't afford right now. If she had a full time job I could quit that one and not rely on her.

So yea I told her she shouldn't go see her sick grandpa, but AITA for it?