Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months now, and we are really happy together. She hasn't been in a "serious" relationship before, by which I mean her previous relationships have been mostly under wraps from her family, and haven't involved much beyond sex. She leads a decently busy life (college student), so up until this point she's considered the idea of something serious to not really be within the realm of reality. I wasn't interested in fully casual, but was fond of the idea of not needing to see each other 24/7 (I also have personal interests and things that keep me busy beyond work), and we've managed to make it work for both of us and are comfortable. I've had 2 serious relationships before (one that was 3 years, another about 1 year), and I feel I've done a decent job showing her what life is like in a relationship where you care for one another beyond lust, and she's been really appreciative and also done the same for me.

Now, to get to the meat and potatoes, with her prior relationships being mostly devoid of this sort of mutual care, she's openly told me that in the past, sex hasn't really carried deeper feelings beyond physical attraction, and so it has meant something different for her before us.

I explain the above as I feel it, and her young age/inexperience in relationships, to be the reason for this behavior of hers  that I'm not a big fan of. She's laughed about how her friends have reacted to some stuff her and I have done together (for example, I have one of those under-the-mattress systems that strap your partner's \[or your\] wrists and ankles to the bed, which she's told them about), and while I laugh with her about it, I feel a bit invaded. Admittedly, when I was early in my first serious relationship, there were one or two friends who I'd tell about certain stuff I did with my SO, feeling like I had to tell *someone* about it because it was just that good. I was 17 at the time, and as time went on (likely after 4 or so months), I realized that the experience itself, and the person I'm sharing it with, are more than enough to keep me happy/satisfied, and that bragging about it doesn't tend to get you anywhere.

One of the things that bothers me about it is that I haven't met a couple of the friends she's talked to this stuff about, making me feel like they could be internally trivializing me as her *sex thing*, and not the guy who cares more about being there for her when her pet gets sick, or watching a movie while eating spaghetti.

Another instance; she was taking a Snapchat of me while I opened my Christmas gift from her, which confused me a bit, but I proceeded to unwrap the present, and saw she'd got me (us) one of those vibrating cock rings. She was laughing the whole time and honestly I just felt really uncomfortable. I asked why she filmed it and she said she wanted to send it to the 3 people who *helped pick it out with her* (one being male, but a friend of mine so i'm not concerned on that front), as well as an **ex FWB** of hers who she claims to be decent friends with now, though they don't hang out, just snap each other, basically. I should clarify, I do trust her, even though I have zero care/respect for this guy for a few reasons, so I'm not really worried about that part, but why did he have to be on the send list of this snap? I told her not to send it to him in particular, but that I guess it's fine to send to the rest.

We have a very healthy sex life, and I'm very grateful for that, but my guess is based on her past experiences, she feels obligated to share personal details about us in the bedroom that I feel only really belong in said bedroom.

Anyway, do you guys think this is unreasonable? AITA? And if not, how should I go about talking to her about this without seeming controlling? Thanks in advance, didn't know where else to go about this.