Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I am currently a student at a large university located nearly five hours away from where my family currently resides and am the oldest child and the first to be sent away to university. My family is very close knit and prioritizes familial connection over pretty much anything else. However, recently there has been much conflict between my family and myself centered around holidays.

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Seeing as I am a student who lives an apartment and must work to pay for go out, pay rent, and buy food I got a job at Target to pay for all of these things. This is where the issue arises, as I began work back in September. Black Friday meant that I had to miss out on Thanksgiving with my family, as I live five hours away without a car, reasonably enough this upset everyone and as a response I invited them to come up the following weekend to spend time with me in order to make up for missing Thanksgiving. 

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Now it's on to round two, as winter break comes up and as such Christmas is approaching. My family is demanding I quit my job and get a job at the University so I can spend the entirety of the break with them; However, I don't want to do this because it means I would be taking a large pay cut as well as a massive reduction in hours. In trying to reach an agreement everyone could be happy with, I decided to take off from December 18 to December 28. This means I would get to spend time with my family while my mother is not working, while my father would be free, and while my siblings would not be in school. In light of this, my family has started a campaign against the idea, saying that it is still unacceptable and that I should quit. 

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I understand that my family wants me home for Christmas and to spend time with them, but I also need my job in order to keep paying for rent and affording food. So am I the asshole for not quitting my job and going home all of break?

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Tl;dr: My tight knit family wants me to quit my job in order for me to go home and spend time with them all of break.