Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My friend (21F) made plans that she was really excited about with her boyfriend (22M), me (22F), and one of our mutual friends (21M). I’ve been extremely excited about it and so has she. She put quite a bit of effort into it.

A few days ago I was assaulted. This post isn’t about that so there’s no real reason to get into any details, but I haven’t told my friend about it and I’d like to just let it go. When I was in the ER I got really freaked out because somebody was speaking with the same accent as the guys who attacked me. I don’t want to be racist or anything but this is all pretty fresh and I don’t want to be reminded of it.

Her boyfriend has that same accent. He’s a great dude and I’ve hung out with him a lot because we’re all in the same friend group, but the idea of constantly being reminded about what happened during a night that I was previously super excited about sounds awful. I had lunch plans with my friend yesterday and I told her that I was sorry but I wouldn’t be able to make it. She asked why and I told her “personal reasons”. When I refused to elaborate she said I was being insensitive and that she had put a lot of effort into these plans. She said I was being a bad friend and then she left early because she was upset.

I didn’t want to lie to her and make up a false story, and I’m not comfortable sharing what happened, but now I’m thinking that maybe I was being selfish and I should have made up a story or something. Am I the asshole?