Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Alright please bear with me, we've been dating for about 3 months and it's been going great, I really like her a lot but we can't have sex.

She suffers from Vaginismus which basically a condition where muscles in or around the vagina shut tightly, making sex painful or impossible.

I should note she *never* mentioned this to me once before we attempted, I don't really expect someone to tell me this on the first date but at some point, it would've been appreciated. 

It's about a week into the relationship and she invites me over, one thing leads to another etc etc

We're in the bedroom and it just isn't happening, she looks close to tears so I immediately stop and ask what's wrong, did I do something? 

She then explains her condition and I tell her it's alright and we stop for the night.

Since I now know about this, I don't initiate sex at all, I wait for her to lead, not all days are the same and some days are better than others.

A week later we try again and it's the same story, so we just mess around, do oral, cuddle etc

I suggest we go to the doctors as she's been too shy to go before now, we go together and they show us some relaxation techniques and some exercises that can help you gain control over the muscles. 

She's given herself a strict exercise routine that's she's stuck too for nearly a month now.

She's feeling confident so we try again, it's better than it was before but I can tell she isn't enjoying it and it just makes me feel bad when she's noticeably uncomfortable, so I stop.

I thought to myself this is likely going to be a long term thing so I thought about maybe using some toys to spruce it up a little while she works on her exercises. 

I order a fleshlight and don't tell her, I wanted to surprise her, I also picked up some small toys for her that she could enjoy.

She invites me around the weekend like she normally does and I bring my new gifts, I explain we could maybe try them out and see if we can enjoy ourselves in other ways. 

Well, she flips the fuck out and starts crying and screaming at me, I was taken aback, I didn't expect this type of reaction at all. 

Her main argument was "Am I not good enough for you!??!" and "How do you think this makes me feel?" She didn't really just say much else, just continued to bawl her eyes out. She runs upstairs and slams the door. I try and talk it over but she's having non of it.

Honestly, I'm kinda annoyed, I thought I was doing every right, I've supported her continuously through this and she has the cheek to say I don't care. 

I got up, left and went home, I haven't heard from her since. 

It's been 2 days, I left a text asking if she wanted to talk, no reply. 

Did I do something wrong? AITA?