I started work at a Big 4 public accounting (biggest in our city) firm 3 weeks ago as a Year 1 tax staff, in a relatively small (but still busy) office in the Midwest.  I also just moved here in late Dec to be with my bf, and am also studying for the CPA exam, with BEC scheduled for March 2nd. It's my first full-time job, and I'm getting situated to the long hours and work lifestyle of public accounting. 

The hours haven't been crazy yet, but as expected my schedule is packed for all of March - about 60 hrs/week, which probably translates to 70-ish hours actually spent working, since I'm new (so that's Monday-Saturday, with some Sundays).  My work won't die down until early April when returns are due, and I've let my family and bf know months in advance that I will most likely be too busy to do much more than work and sleep. 

My dad and I have a pretty good relationship; he called me earlier today, to let me know that he's expecting to bring my grandpa's ashes back from China in early March, and asked me to fly down in mid-March for the burial of his ashes.  Grandpa had passed away in April last year, and my dad has wanted to bring him back for a proper burial since then so I know this weighs heavily on him. 

My dad really values family, and loves me and my siblings like crazy.  He tried to encourage me by saying my brother and sister already have plans to fly in, but my brother is in law school and sister works for a Silicon Valley company, so they both have much more flexibility than I do.  

I pretty much told him flat-out that it's really unlikely I'll be able to take a few days off (fly in Friday, leave and go back on Saturday) to come down for his burial.  He asked me to bring it up with my seniors but I am reluctant to do so - it's my first busy season, and it's widely understood you shouldn't take time off during busy hours. 

AITA for not wanting to go back home for my grandpa's burial? 

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