Two days ago was my mother's funeral. My (28M) sister (27F) and brother (23M) did not go.

My sister and her husband are 350lb each. They make more money in benefits per month than I do at my career job. Something to the tune of $4,000 a month they receive and they squander it every month. They live only 30 minutes away and asked me to bring them. I told them I couldn't, there's not enough room with my wife, myself, my daughter, and two people who would take up the backseat on their own in my dinky sedan. I told them they have more than enough money (provided they didn't blow this month's benefits) to get transport. They refused and said they would not go if I didn't bring them. I didn't.

My brother lives 3 hours a way. He's pretty destitute going from couch to couch with his girlfriend. He has never held a job but is too "prideful" for benefits. He relies on the generosity of others for the most part, although his girlfriend works part-time in fast food. He originally asked me to come get him but instead I offered to front him the $120 train ticket. This was last week, and a day before the funeral he said he needed it for his cellphone bill and to send him another $120. I didn't.

So neither went. I was the only child who went, alongside cousins, aunts and uncles, etc. At the end of it, a group of my aunts pulled me aside and said I was a complete jerk for not ensuring my siblings were there, as if I'm fully responsible for them being here.

AITA in this scenario? Technically I could have dropped my wife and kid off and then picked up my sister and her husband, and technically I could have sent my brother more money to come. I didn't, though.