Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway as this is still happening.



To give context, my parents, as they had done with my brother, made a bank account when I was born and put my savings into it. This included random money I got from family, and a monthly allowance the government gives parents for, well, being parents. Parents have no obligation to give this money to their children, but my parents do it because they want to. The account has me as the main holder and my mother as the legal representative. The spoken deal is that I'll be free to use the money from this account once I graduate from college. My parents are also divorced.



Recently, I turned 18. I have another bank account which I use daily, from the same branch. Yesterday, I had to go to the bank to sign some papers to get everything sorted. When getting account access, aside from getting access to my day to day account, I also got access to that savings account, since they're from the same bank. There, I noticed that there were a lot of movements, way more than the supposed monthly deposit. 



As it seemed to me, my mother was borrowing money from my account and then depositing it again. But on one of the movements, 2000€ were taken and they were never put back. I found that odd, but I didn't know how much money I had there before as records only went back 12 months. I still found it strange though, and consulted with my father.



Well as it seems, this wasn't normal at all, she never asked for my permission or even mentioned a thing to me or to my father. After confirming this wasn't normal, I decided to confront my mother.



When I got home, I showed my mother the bank transactions and asked her to explain what was going on. She started screaming at me, asking me how I got access to that, saying that I betrayed her and went to speak with my father before speaking with her, and that she didn't have the obligation to put the money in that account. I told her that I simply didn't like that she took the money without asking me, since I had no problem with borrowing the money. She was having none of it, she kept screaming at me and insisting I acted wrongly and should have spoken with her first. 

She also said that first thing on Monday she was getting a loan and giving me the 2000€ back, but that wasn't the issue for me and IMO she blew everything completely out of proportion. Also, she said that she didn't want me living with her anymore, and that my father did something similar with my brother's account. She told me to go live with my father, and asked me to pretend that she doesn't exist anymore. That includes meals.


I believe I handled everything maturely, I simply went to my father first because I didn't want to accuse my mother of anything unnecessarily. When I approached her I did so calmly but she instantly turned it around on me. I barely spoke, she just screamed at me the whole time and didn't want to hear me. She didn't apologize at all and showed no regret.