Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Lost a parent a couple of weeks ago, my elderly father. He went relatively peacefully after a long life. I miss him, and the grief comes and goes, but I'm functioning. 

Anyway, a couple of acquaintances have pointedly not mentioned it to me at all, are acting frosty, and are making snide remarks about my lack of effusive emoting. Apparently I'm not acting bereaved enough. But I'm uptight about getting emotional in front of other people anyway. 

I find this situation is trying my patience. My view is that both of these people have a track record of playing the martyr card, long before this. This is just extra aggravation. I don't think it's a competition to see who has the worst luck. Or who is having the most difficult holiday season. Or who is the most depressed, bereaved, etc.

Are they judging me too harshly or vice versa? 

Should I just take comfort in the fact that I am an ice cold a\*\*hole?