Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So I've known my buddy P the best part of 10 years . I watched him turn from a teenage apprentice to a head chef to business owner and back to sous chef after losing it all through stupid mistakes (drugs) hes now 26 this year , lives in a shithole home with his parents and 4 younger brothers (nothing wrong with the structure or the parents they just never clean up after themselves) he met a girl about 6 months ago and they are officially in a relationship. Hes changed (obviously) so now I don't see him as much and when I do it with his gf .. again not a problem she's actually quite nice.  Just in that 21 year old "let's party" frame of mind constantly .. anyway... 

The last 3 or 4 times I saw him he was asking me a lot of questions about kids (having had my own son at 26 under very different circumstances eg my own place in a relationship for 6 years etc etc ) so I out right asked him if his gf was pregnant he said "no but we are going to start trying soon" 

I told him straight "You aren't ready for a child , you need your own space, you are in massive debt, you have only been with your gf 6 months you still have so much to learn about each other, you work like 100 hour weeks, how are you going to do that with a baby keeping you up all night " he told me I don't know what I'm talking about  and if I can do it at 26 so can he. 

I've had to bail him out 3 times in his life due to him jumping the gun to early and I feel like hes using the thought of a baby to distract him from his current problems 

I'm just trying to protect him but I know he took it the wrong way and didn't really get where I was coming from. 

So reddit.. am I the asshole? Should I apologise ? Should I let him make his own mistakes or should I come at it from a different angle ? 