Me and my wife are almost 40, and we've been married for over 10 years. We have 2 kids.

As long as I can remember I've been turned on by lingerie, specifically stockings. Since I started masturbating it's been a major part of my fantasies. My wife entertained this for a few years. She owns a few bits of lingerie but in recent years has totally refused. Her bedroom attire is now fluffy bed socks and teddy bear pyjamas.

I've done nothing but tell her how beautiful and sexy she is, and I think she should be showing her body off. 

Her argument is that it makes her uncomfortable and it's cruel to expect someone to be uncomfortable for your pleasure.

I understand that, but I don't think it's a massive stretch to dress up once in a while.

Am I the asshole?