Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My daughter, who is 19, is trying to get a restraining order against her ex. The whole situation is a mess, but basically the ex has challenged it so they have to have an actual hearing. He has hired a lawyer that sent her a list of questions to answer. These questions basically all centered around her consenting to be attacked/stalked/harassed my him because she initiated communication. Basically, she’s the victim but they’re trying to make her out to be a willing participant so the restraining order isn’t granted. Anyways, we paid for a lawyer for what was supposed to be the final court date due to the nature of these questions, and our concern for her safety. My husband told her flatly that we couldn’t afford to pay anything further. Long story short, his lawyer asked for a continuation because she didn’t provide some info prior to us hiring the lawyer, and it was granted. It’s $400 for an additional court appearance. My husband is adamant that we can’t afford it, but I think we should just charge it/set up a payment plan/take out a loan or something. Literally anything. He’s brought up that she’s his daughter, not biologically mine, and that we don’t need to go into further debt when her maternal family should cover it. Which is a nice idea, but not realistic. He’s also brought up that it’s her issue as she did not return the info to his lawyer. Which yes, but I can only imagine how stressful and confusing this all is for her. I don’t want to go behind his back, but I feel like it’s necessary. He loves our daughter dearly, but we are financially in a pretty tight spot. WIBTA if I disregarded his financial concerns and paid for it anyways? 