This happened about a month ago, but it still sort of bothers me.
I’m non-binary. (I respect your opinion if you believe that this isn’t a valid gender identity, but I find the idea convincing from both my personal experience and a biological capacity.)

Additionally, I am extremely androgynous. I have been been asked what I *am* in everything from a swimsuit to a skirt to, once, rather remarkably, full nudity. 
In a practical sense, this means that, because most people classify others as male or female, I have a lot of Schrödinger’s conversations- I don’t know what a stranger perceives me to be unless they say something obviously gendered.

Additional relevant information is that I’m mostly anatomically female. I do have some mild dysphoria from that (I genuinely hate most of my secondary/post-pubertal sexual characteristics, and am active working towards fixing that issue), but I can usually avoid situations where I know it’ll crop up.

So, walking up to a public restroom, pay my 50 Euro cent and reflexively try to enter the women’s restroom, because honestly, I just need to piss. The attendant waves me in the direction of the men’s room.
After a moment or two of hesitation, I call upon my limited German and tell him I am female. He looks me over, shrugs, and doesn’t try to stop me agin. Some of the other patrons are noticeably uncomfortable, and I leave as quickly as possible.

So am I the asshole for making everyone else uncomfortable? I’d have been happy to use the men’s but I lack the anatomy, and I’m unsure what the etiquette is about sitting and peeing there.
Thanks in advance for your time.
