Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Conflicted about this one, mostly because another mutual friend sees no issue and is happy to be reconnecting.

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I've had a friend who'd been close for years. They've got a tendency to go a bit quiet when stressed, but this most recent time it was massively abrupt. I was helping set them up with a new job after their old one fell through, then communication in every medium with me and all of our mutual friends just vanished, utterly. It took me a full month to reach anyone who could even let me know that my friend was still alive (I worried a lot about suicide), and even then all I was able to get was "X is fine, just stressed and probably quiet".

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It's been 18 months since then. Zero communication until I had an actual back and forth for a few days while on vacation (one that had been inspired by them). I have, over the course of the last year and a half, mostly just stopped trying to check in. It went from every other day (we used to speak daily) to once a week, to a couple of times a month, to once a month, to an occasional once-every-season "just checking in" message, which basically never see responses. I brought back gifts from my trip that I knew they'd like, mentioned to them, and got radio silence.

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Recently, a mutual friend of ours was able to establish some kind of contact, and is ecstatic about rekindling communication, and even delivered my gift for me. I still get precisely zero communication. Said mutual friend doesn't seem to think X is doing much better than before and is still extremely quiet, but is hoping to pull X into being more social. I find that I'm not tremendously enthused by this.

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It hurts deeply to get cut out so thoroughly from a close friend's life and even simple communication, and I find it hard to want to throw more energy and worry into what feels like a void. On the other hand, I know extremely well how difficult it is for someone who retreats into isolation when extremely stressed/depressed to reach out for even basic communications, and if it's been long enough that it would be awkward, it's that much harder. It would mean a lot to me to get some acknowledgement, though, but I suspect that's not going to come.

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Am I the asshole for wanting some kind of reciprocation/apology/acknowledgement of the year+ of the silent treatment, or should I just be happy a friend in a rough situation might be coming back?