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My best friend/roommate is getting married during the summer and asked me if I could play my instrument at her wedding. I was a little confused because I thought I was going to be a bridesmaid in her wedding party, so I would not be able to play. I asked her if it was the case that I was gonna be a bridesmaid and she essentially said no. Instead she has her sister, the groom’s sister, and the maid of honor.

I believed that her sister would be maid of honor, since they’re pretty close. I thought would at least get to be a bridesmaid since she has always told me I would be part of her wedding party ever since we got close. She then said “I would love for you to be part of my wedding and play while I walk down the aisle”.

So, I said I would get back to her about it because I was definitely on the fence about doing it, since it would be for no pay. I usually get paid for playing at weddings since I have been doing it since high school. I brought up the fact that I usually get paid for my time to her since I would have to find the music, and put in time for practicing. She thought that I would do it for free for her since we are “best friends”. 

So I decided to decline, saying I would like to just be a guest. She got upset and said she really wanted live music while she was walking down the aisle and that I was lashing out because I’m not a bridesmaid. She also said that I was being greedy with asking her for money. 

So, am I the asshole here?