Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So basically last year on my mom's birthday I spent all the time I could with her. It was a school night but still from the time I got out of school to 10pm I spent with her. Even though I had a lot of homework to do and 3 tests the next day I still prioritized my mom.

We went to the mall first where we spent some time shopping then after we went to grab dinner. We ate a very nice dinner at this Japanese place then continued to walk around downtown. 

After arriving home at 10pm I told my mom that now I had to do my homework because at this point I would be up until 4am. Keep in mind, my mom is extremely strict about grades. She often will yell at me for having a b+ so naturally she has high expectations for me. I had 3 tests to study for and at least 3 hours of homework so I needed to start right away.

When I told my mom that I had to do homework she asked me instead to play a guitar song and sing for her. I am extremely insecure about my voice and guitar playing. Ever since I was little I was always teased for it so I haven't played a song and sang for someone in over a year. On top of that, I had a lot of work to do so I declined. She begged over and over and I told her that I didn't feel comfortable with it. Finally she played the "why don't you love me" card and I snapped.

I told her that I did love her and it was extremely selfish to say things like that to try to manipulate me into doing things I didn't want to. I had done everything she asked up until this point for her birthday but just one thing I declined to do.

She started screaming at me about how I was so mean to her and how I was really the selfish one. She told me that she never felt loved by me still trying to manipulate me. 

Then she started screaming that it was her birthday and how I should just play a song for her. By the way, my mom was off on business trips my past 3 birthdays so I couldn't believe she was the one yelling at me about not feeling loved.

The whole night ended in both of us resorting to our rooms and not talking to eachother for the rest of the night.

On one hand I feel really shitty but on the other hand I feel like she was trying to manipulate me into doing something I was insecure about. 

Am I the asshole?