Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My relationship with my mother is strained for many reasons that I couldn’t be arsed to go on about right now. Tonight I spent an hour cooking a meal for the both of us and when I walked into the room I had the goal in mind of paying attention to what she says to see if she said ‘thank you’. I have a pretty bad mental illness and my memory is atrocious so I needed to keep focused or I’d forget what she said. I waited there while she went on to say ‘this is good’ and ‘very tasty’ but she didn’t say thank you. I waited and tried to give her cues, trying to be non-confrontational and make a joke out of it before finally feeling defeated and saying ‘you’re welcome’. She immediately claimed she said thank you multiple times and gave a few examples that weren’t there. I know they weren’t there, because I was looking for them.  
 

Sometimes she’ll be outright rude/bitter to me and I’ll call her on it “I did not appreciate what you did just then.” and instead of apologising she’ll change the subject or make a joke out of it. I can’t exactly ask her to apologize and when I later call her on it saying my feelings are hurt she’ll exclaim “I apologized plenty of times!” when I know she didn’t and she will get irritated and upset and I’m still left with hurt feelings.   
 

I feel like she’s taking advantage of my bad memory… and I feel like she doesn’t really care about how I feel. My issue with her behavior is not that she isn’t saying thank you or I’m sorry but that she’s either ignorant she’s neglecting to do so or manipulating me…