Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So my girlfriends birthday is today. We are both at work, but texting back and forth. She hints to me over text that she wants me to come pick her up and take her out to dinner tonight. I then tried to figure timing since we currently are an hour apart (she stays at my place on weekends and her place during the week since it’s closer to her work) and tell her I’ll figure something out. She’s says it’s okay, we don’t have to go out because she knows it’s stressful for me and just appreciated the thought. I responded with okay because I really didn’t want to do it and I would just take her out on the weekend like I had originally planned. 

For some context, I work 60 hours a week, 6 days a week. My only day off is Sunday. She wouldn’t get off work until 6:30pm and I would likely meet her at 7:30. She doesn’t have a car so I’d be the one driving to her place, to dinner, back to her place, and then back to mine. I wouldn’t expect to be home until 11pm at the earliest. I have to be up at 5:30am tomorrow. We’ve been dating for 5 years and I haven’t missed celebrating any birthday/anniversary at this point. Not celebrating on the exact day is also pretty common for us since we are both rather busy.

I don’t plan on saying anything to her directly about it, but I was curious for my own thoughts if I am the asshole in this situation for not wanting to do it. If she really wanted me to take her out I would, but it really is a big inconvenience for me so I was relieved when she said we don’t have to. Am I the asshole for not wanting to take her out or being relieved because she we don’t have to?