When I see relationship posts, one of my go-to responses (if it fits) is your SO is controlling/manipulative/emotionally abusive and you need to pack your bags and go.  


This past week, I found myself in one of these situations with my SO. The argument went three rounds over the span of about a week. If I saw the first two rounds written out on this site, I would have given my usual advice. However, I am looking at this fight in the context of ten years of marriage, so I went in for round three and we resolved the disagreement. All is well now.  


But then I stop to think that I may have jumped the gun with my 'throw a d-bomb over your shoulder on the way out' advice because I might be taking one incident out of context.  


So I turn to the community that I so easily judged and ask, AITA?