Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So before I begin, I'll give some background info. My girlfriend is from China, studying in the United States. I am a domestic American student. This seems to be part of the problem. Whenever my girlfriend is having troubles with the school (dealing with different departments, or trying to ask questions/get help) she often will get frustrated and come to me for comfort. While venting, she often uses vast overgeneralizations that don't make me feel good and she expects me to agree and say similar things to help. 

Because of this I'll lose my willingness to be supportive and help because I don't agree with these overgeneralizations. For example, she'll start ranting about how, because this one person in the one department wasn't able to help her right away, "everyone in this country is just so inefficient, if this was China they would be fired." It annoys me mostly because from what she's told me, China is also very inefficient with many things and it feels like she's just criticizing my country while comparing to hers. I'm not some ultra patriotic person, but when she expects me to agree with everything she's saying, it makes me a little annoyed, especially since if I don't I'm "not being supportive of her" and "arguing is not what [she] needs right now, it's not the time for [me] to talk about my opinion, I just need to be supportive". 

This problem also stems to other areas. For example, I introduced her to some of my friends, a girl and her boyfriend who I'm close with. We hung out with the boyfriend for a little bit while we had to wait for the girlfriend because she was stuck in a floor meeting at her dorm. Eventually she was done and we hung out for a little bit so they could meet and then we left. Afterwards, my girlfriend was annoyed and ranting how it's annoying that she (the girlfriend) made us wait so long. I tried telling her that there wasn't much she could do because she couldn't skip her floor meeting (otherwise the dorm wouldn't let her sign her boyfriend in to visit later that night). But she just told me she was annoyed that I wasn't taking her side and she just wanted me to criticize my friend to make her feel better (which I didn't want to do because I'm not about to bash my friends behind their back when they didn't do anything wrong in my eyes). 

So AITA? My first relationship (right before this one) was extremely abusive so I have a lot of trouble figuring out if I'm wrong or if I should stand up for myself, so I'm really not sure.