Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Lots of background I can't include in the 3000 character limit but will do my best. Divorced from my HS "sweetheart" for about a year. Kids aged 6 and 3. For all his faults, he is an amazing father and his family still are my saving grace on most days and are nice people. Kids are very attached to he and family. We live in NW Florida. 

Six months ago I met and fell madly in love with a new guy. We have a ton in common, including our love of theater. He is moving to LA to start a small theater company with a rather large inheritance he got from his dad's estate. He asked me to come along. It is literally everything I dreamed of doing in life and I have a chance to make it come true. It is my dream job to say the least. 

My ex says he encourages me to go but begs me to leave kids with him. Our divorce was so bitter, I can't imagine giving him an inch let alone take kids so this isn't a possibility. My kids don't want to to either but I feel like this is my one shot to make my dreams come true and I have to take it. 

Even my parents and grandparents who usually stay out of my business are telling me I'm a "jerk" and uncaring mother (I guess that equates to being an asshole) for moving my kids away from thier family. But kids grow up to be healthy and happy in LA without having kits of relatives around so there's that.

Am I the asshole for considering this? 