So, the background.

I have been with my girlfirend for almost 5 years now, and every year we always go to her families home to celebrate big events ( New Years, Name-day, our country version of chrimas ect). Often this involves her parents and her little sister.

This year she had been through alot of stuff in a short space of time (Car accident where she broke her wrist, insurance issues and suing other party for injury). as a result of her broken wrist, she could not do her job effectively enough, so she was not to go there  for  5 weeks. so she has worries about keeping her job too.

With a week left to healing was complete, we planned to go to her parents house again for holiday celebration. But I was away at work the week before this, and said I would catch up and appear a few days later than normal (but before holiday main day happen). 

But I got ill, I had a sniffle and a temperature, normal cold stuff, so I just gave a heads up to her that I might not be 100% when I get there, but I was still coming (was finishing packing my clothes, it was only a 2 hour drive).

She texted back saying she was sorry I was ill, and that it must suck, but said don't come over for holiday, because she did not want to get ill and maybe miss time off work more. and also later mentioned maybe not getting her parents ill, who are in their late 50s (But it felt like excuse, as it came many texts after the 'I dont want to be ill' text). and her little sister always came over every year ill with cold and others got ill from her. so that is good, but not me? 

So I was short in my text reply and said 'Have a fun  holiday', and she said we should talk later, but I did not want to because I felt hurt and rejected in family time holiday, so I did not speak to her yet, and she is back tomorrow (after gone a week).

She said it was understandable, I am still hurt and thought she was freaking out too much and was selfish.

Am I the asshole?


