Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My sister (35 y.o), Anna, and me (23 y.o.) are not very close. But over the years I tried to have a relationship with her. She's lost many friends and family along the way and does not have a job. She stays home all day and chastises my parents, even though my parents have provided so much for her.

We did not grow up rich and my family has had some financial troubles. My parents have done their best by working multiple jobs to provide for us. However, my sister does not see it this way and thinks they're horrible for putting work above their children. Ironically, my sister is very spoiled and has gotten everything she's demanded. Let's just say my parents are one of the reasons why Anna is not a good person and for enabling her, but that's a different story. 

As a result, Anna absolutely loathes my mom and talks crap about her and my mom is one of the reasons why I believe Anna may have depression. Now I know my mom is not a saint, but she's trying her best. My mom does love all of us deeply, and she really does want to help Anna. 

Anna has made numerous negative comments about my mom, and I don't like hearing them. I'll listen to her rants, but the rants become shouts, and it goes on for hours and is very tiring. I've told her to not be so consumed with hatred and to not waste energy being so hateful. I've told her to focus that energy elsewhere and to keep herself occupied with hobbies. All of our hangouts have just been one-sided conversations about how our mom sucks and thinks I'm siding with my mom and ignorant of everything because I won't join in the rants. I do not want to feed into her negativity. 

I've also offered to help her find a job,but she LOATHES working. I don't think her depression is preventing her from wanting to get a job, but rather she does not believe in working for money. She had an ex-bf who paid for everything and she's made comments to me such as, "You can live the rest of your life comfortably now that you've worked full time for a couple years with the money you saved up. Just get a part-time job and rely on the government to pay for your rent and mortgage." She's so delusional and is very closed-minded, so convincing her otherwise is not worth the time. 

Anyway, I understand that maybe her going to work is going too fast, and I think professional help is the best option for her right now. I've suggested Anna to see a counselor but she is hesitant. There have been times that Anna has been open about seeing a counselor, but Anna said that she doesn't have enough money. I've offered to pay for her sessions, cause I genuinely want to help her out, but Anna refuses to take my money. But Anna doesn't believe in working, so it's a vicious loop...

AITA for wanting to give up on Anna? Anna does not show any signs of wanting to help herself, so I can't force her to get help. I want to help her, but she's such a toxic person and I feel like my mental health is declining every time I'm around her.