Bit of backstory, in order for it to make a bit more sense, in 2010 I moved to the U.S. from Venezuela, just me my mom, brother, and sister. My biological dad and my mom divorced when we were young so the whole impact of it didn't really phase me as I still saw my bio dad every week.

Well after moving to a whole different country, the relationship between my bio dad and I has obviously weakened among the years. There's the usual birthday calls or New Years greetings, but besides that, just small talk every other month or so. Though with these monthly messages always come passive aggressive talks that almost guilt trip me into having a relationship with him. Don't get me wrong, he will always have a spot in my heart as he is my bio dad, but now I have a step dad that I see everyday and bond with daily and love very much. But these messages my bio dad sends me are infuriating, almost as he wants me to talk to him not out of willingness but as "I'm your dad talk to me".

These messages always go something like this "Hey Tazze24 I just wanted to say hi and see how you're doing?" "Oh, everything is going well" "Well Tazze24 I'm so happy, that's good". Now reading aggressiveness through text is tough and this was all translated from Spanish to English so there's definitely some variation, but I think you get the point. Now I certainly know that the "I'm so happy, that's good" was not actually suppose to be nice is because after that, he messaged me about how he wanted to talk to me more and how he and my brother talk all the time. But personally, I don't really want to talk to him daily and have conversations, I just don't really need him to be a father figure anymore.

I don't know, maybe I am the asshole in this situation... It's just annoying being constantly guilt tripped into talking to him more.