I’ve been dating a guy, about 6 weeks. It’s been fun, he’s been thoughtful and accommodating. Yesterday he came over to my place and a couple things I’ve noticed make me want to end things with him - my friend says he was rude to them (and I fully believe my friend), he kept talking over me, explaining things that I already know. 

I know that ending things with him for those reasons is reasonable, but the reason I noticed them is because of a conversation about politics we had. 

First thing to know about me. I’m disabled, Jewish, Hispanic, and bisexual - I and people I love are directly affected by Trump’s rhetoric. I understand that some people think the system is doing more harm than any individual president can do, but I think that mindset is irresponsible due to the massive numbers of people being demonstrably hurt by Trump’s administration’s policies. Vote 3rd party in local and state elections to give them more recognizable candidates for bigger elections, canvass for whoever you want in the primaries, but when it comes to national elections, especially presidential, first priority for me is getting someone in office who will prevent the most harm from happening. I grew up in Florida - I’ve seen how third party votes act as spoilers. 

Maybe it’s a little judgmental, but I want to date someone who at least leans left (even if it isn’t as far as me) and votes practically in the elections (e.g. recognizing that voting your heart for a Green Party candidate because that’s who you truly want as president means that you’re eschewing your responsibility to do what you can to keep the worse viable candidate out of office). 

Anyway, my political diatribe is over. This guy is the one that brought up politics. He just. . . Doesn’t do them. He says he’s politically agnostic. 

He bought into the “Hillary is no better than Trump, I don’t trust her, the DNC is evil for how they pushed her in over Bernie” propaganda. He said that he definitely thinks Trump is awful, but that having a choice between two terrible candidates was a tipping point for him, and that the system is awful (agreed) and we need to get rid of it instead of voting between two evils (disagree - we need to change the system, but voting third party when they have no chance isn’t going to do that, and is going to allow whoever you think is worse a higher chance of getting in). 

I tried to find something we agreed on, but it seems like we have a fundamental disagreement over what’s more important (fixing the system long term or preventing harm short term). And also in political engagement - I go to protests, I phonebank, and the injustices in our political system are important to me. He doesn’t seem to have an opinion other than “everything sucks tear it down.”

I think this would cause long term problems. Do I suck if this is why I turn him down?