Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : My maternal nan recently passed away on the 25/03/19. She had ovarian cancer however passed suddenly. 


The funeral is in a couple of weeks and the news of her passing was placed on social media to inform friends and distant family.


My paternal aunt saw the post and informed me that she was sorry to hear about the loss of my nan.
Just over a week later, she sent me a message on social media, asking how I was and if she could attend the funeral because she said she would like to pay her respects and be there for me. This was the first contact I had received from her in the last 6 to 8 months.


My paternal aunt has only met my maternal nan a few times, and they have barely interacted with each other.


I've recently had a strained relationship with my aunt due to her not attending my wedding in 2017, after saying she would and not informing me that she wasn't going to attend.


This hurt me because she is one of the only links I have to the paternal side of my family, which meant that we were very close.


While I can understand that she would like to pay her respects to my nan, my paternal aunt only knows my immediate family, and I don't want to have to feel like I have to entertain her because she doesn't know anyone else attending the funeral.


I appreciate the support she wishes to give, however I also have my maternal side that will require my support as I will theirs.


I can understand why she wants to attend the funeral, however I will want and need to be able to be with my maternal family.


So reddit, am I the asshole for not wanting my aunt to attend the funeral?