Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : \[note: I totally accept that I will get banned if I delete this, but I may have to delete it unexpectedly anyway if my dad finds this somehow. consequences won't be good for obvious reasons. I'm fine with this because this is a throwaway\]

So I'll try to be as brief setting this up as possible. I have bipolar schizoaffective disorder that I've been in treatment for for about seven years and it's mostly controlled by meds. I have a hard time finding employment due to this and I can't really care for myself, plus my mom is disabled and needs some help with certain things, so I live with my parents at 24. Most people in my life regard me as a man or nonbinary person with the exception of my father, who reserves his right to call me his "little girl". That's why I specified my gender status, sorry if that's TMI. It adds to the friction is what I'm getting at.

My dad really likes to talk to me, usually telling stories about things that happened to him or that he heard on NPR. I'm not really allowed to focus on things too hard or wear earbuds/headphones when he's around because I need to be able to listen to him. He's allowed to listen to music and watch TV when I'm in the room because he has misophonia and my breathing/chewing/etc. annoys him, so I don't consider this unbalanced. However, maybe because I'm mentally ill or maybe just because I'm an irritable person, sometimes I get irrationally annoyed by his talking. I have tried to tell him to stop for a while but he gets understandably upset.

My mom gave me permission to listen to music in the car when he drives me to therapy once a week. This was after some arguments about me not listening or responding to him because I had headphones on. She told him I like to be able to gather my thoughts on the way to therapy, and he pretty much accepts that although he still will try to talk to me (but he doesn't get mad if I don't answer).

**TL;DR:** My dad wants to chat on the way to therapy and I want to listen to music and be quiet while I think.

So, yeah. I realize I'm basically being a petty teenager here when I'm waaay too old for that shit. I'm working on getting out of the house. But for now, am I the asshole for wanting to listen to music in the car ride to the therapist and not talk to my dad?