FTPLTL (sorry for formatting/spelling errors) 
TLDR at bottom. Kinda long but i feel some of the context is important.

I have been casually dating this girl for a few weeks now (its exclusive but complicated.. ill dive in to that later down) and its been amazing. We've known each other for a few months but had a connection from the start but only started really getting more serious a few weeks ago when we got really close after a particular event that happened. We talked non stop 24/7 for these past weeks been on dates got physical, the usual dating stuff.

The complicated part comes in because she was talking to someone else up until and before the event that brought us closer together. She asked me for my patience and discretion while she handled that situation to make everything work out, it was a coworker of hers so she didn't want that affecting her job. I agreed to stay patient and let her sort it out in a timely fashion.

Fast forward to the other day and we along with a few friends are drinking and hanging out and i start doing some couple things like putting my hand on her butt and arm around her/rubbing her back etc. She seems to enjoy it and reciprocates for awhile but does tell me to stop and not in front of them. I did for a little while but due to being somewhat intoxicated i went back to doing the stuff again. 
The real issue is some of the people we were with are friends with the guy she was talking to and since she hadn't fully sorted it out she feels i disrespected her by exposing us before she could handle everything. 

Everything seemed fine on the drive home we were holding hands touching each other having a good time until her phone starts dinging with messages as soon as we get home with her friends that were with us questioning what was going on, she didn't elaborate with what they were saying just that they were blowing up her phone about me and us now. 
This is when she and i had a talk where she said she felt i disrespected her and went against my word per our conversation about being discreet she then asked me to leave because she was upset.
 I see her point of view about it but i also feel like its only a issue because her friends were making it a issue after the fact. In my opinion we were having a great night and the drive home was a lot of fun and we were laughing, singing along, smiling back and forth, holding hands and caressing each other her mood instantly changed when her phone started going off when we got home.

TLDR- Girl I've been seeing wanted to be discreet for the time being i exposed us to some of her friends and she is mad at me

Am i the asshole? 
