Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My (30) BF (33) and I have been together for 5 years but this has only become a problem for the last 2 and I'm pretty fed up with it.

The only chore my BF will do without being asked (or nagged, in his opinion) is laundry. Not household laundry, just his (not to include sheets, blankets, basically anything that isn't in his laundry basket). If I don't ask him REPEATEDLY to wash dishes, take out the trash, mow the lawn, dust, vacuum, bathe the dog, sweep it usually doesn't get done. I don't think he's cleaned any of the bathrooms in the house in 2 years. His other habit is to wait until he sees me about to do something I've been asking him to do and jumping up to try and do it.


Now I don't like to live in filth, and we have a dog so that adds to the chores I have to do. I feel like he knows I won't live in filth and I'm really not able to just stop cleaning to spite him.


Recently I asked him to please help me out more cleaning the dishes. He caught an attitude and started washing the dishes. I tried to talk to him about it and he snapped at me about how I create more dishes than him. This is true, because I cook way more often (like almost every day often). But we had a agreed that when one cooks the other cleans. He said he doesn't like to cook in a dirty kitchen. 


For the past two weeks after this conversation, every single dish and utensil I've used, I've washed by hand and put away. Now there's a big pile of his dishes in one side of the sink and I refuse to touch them. He says I'm an asshole for not washing them just because I didn't use them. 

I'm tired of doing the majority of the housework and being made to feel like a fucking nag when I try to talk to him about it. So, I decided to cut at least one chore in half.

So reddit, AITA?

BTW, the kitchen (aside from his growing pile of dishes) has been SPOTLESS, for the past 2 weeks and he STILL hasn't made a meal (other than sandwiches for himself).