Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Need some honest opinions &amp; possibly a reality check if I’m wrong from this glorious community.....

Good friend of mine is getting married &amp; I have been asked to be a bridesmaid. My husband has also been asked to be the best man &amp; my family has been invited to the wedding. 

While we were out shopping for the brides wedding dress she happened to mention that she is not having kids at the wedding at all. 

Previous to this, because my husband &amp; I were both asked to be in the wedding party she told us both that our son would be an exception to that rule. 

The bride stressed how much it would mean to her if my family could be there as well &amp; she very well knows that anyone &amp; everyone who would normally watch our kid would be at the wedding. 

As a side note: we are NC with my outlaws &amp; they will never ever get alone time with our son so having them babysit while we go to the wedding is completely out of the question. The bride &amp; groom are both privy to all the details of the blow up with my outlaws &amp; are fully aware of the entire situation. 

I didn’t say anything at the time because she had already expressed that we were an exception to that rule. A few days went by &amp; My husband &amp; I both got a text message asking us who would be babysitting our kid? 

I had filled my husband in on what had happened when we were dress shopping &amp; he said he had an uneasy feeling about it &amp; the comment was a ‘hint’. 

So my husband texted back saying that our son would be with Bellarina’s parents as previously discussed, due to the bride wanting my family there. She then informed us that, that is not fair on my parents &amp; how could they possibly have a good time....? 

We asked the bride if we could sit down with her &amp; discuss this &amp; go over what she originally told us &amp; she refused &amp; said she had changed her mind. 

My husband then said well Bellarina’s parents have offered to stay home with the kid. To which she declined &amp; said that was unacceptable “they had to be there”. My husband then said well Bellarina &amp; I will forfeit our places in your bridal party &amp; stay home with our kid. 

She flew off the handle &amp; told us we had to get over the fact the outlaws had done severe wrong by us &amp; we needed to apologise to them &amp; make up, so they could watch our kid for us so we could all be in / go to her wedding. 

Hubby pointed out she was not willing to compromise on what she had previously stated we could do, knowing full well that we have no one else to watch our kid. He said if she was now committed to her mind change {which we fully respect &amp; understand} we would bow out now before planning &amp; purchasing for the wedding got too far along. 

[Please note at this point, our attire &amp; other bits &amp; pieces for the wedding had not been purchased at this time (thank gawd) if they had we would have graciously paid for them &amp; moved on.]

The bride wasn’t having it &amp; demanded we all be there as usual but we had to do something with “the kid”. Hubby took screen shots of this whole convo &amp; texted it to the groom who was horrified &amp; said he was not aware this was going on. 

Hubby explained yet again the kid either got to come or my parents or us would not be in attendance at the wedding. The groom completely understood &amp; then proceeded to contact his wife to find out what the fuck had gotten into her. 

Apparently she didn’t want our son showing up her niece &amp; nephew.... by having our son there would take attention away from her niece &amp; nephew. Hubby &amp; I were like WTAF....???? No one at the wedding knows our kid &amp; my parents would make sure no one noticed him at all. He’s a fantastically awesome well behaved kid unlike the niece &amp; nephew. 

Anywhooo..... the bride kicked up a real stink with her husband so her husband let her know that hubby &amp; I would not be in the bridal party &amp; would not be in attendance to the wedding because of her change of mind. (The groom is an awesome bloke &amp; loves my hubby to bits &amp; fully respects us &amp; our kid, also knowing full well my in-laws are assholes who cannot be trusted). 

The groom said to us he was going to call his wife’s bluff &amp; put her thru hell for doing this to us. 

So as of now hubby &amp; I are not in the wedding party &amp; will not be attending the wedding. 

Are we the assholes???? 