Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Okay so backstory - I've been together with my girlfriend for 2 years and it's a bit difficult for us to match our vacations together. Last year we managed to squeeze 2 weeks together (out of 4). However, this year I managed to book 3 weeks (15 working days) on the dates that she was able to get vacations (In other words, I didn't decide when to have vacations, her work decided my vacation) and we are planning to go two weeks abroad and stay one week inside the country.

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So this leaves me with one more week of vacation to take out (plus a few extra days that I get over the year for working overtime and such). And 4 of my friends decided to go abroad for 5 days (Wednesday - Sunday) which would mean that I have to take 3 days of vacation (which would be no problem for me since I still have several days of vacation to use). And my GF would be working this weekend so it wouldn't really affect her much. 

But when I told her about this, she freaked out saying "You never got out of \*country\* with me because my vacations don't match yours, and this years you decide to go to fucking \*abroad country\* with your stupid little friends. Its not fucking fair and I hate you for that". Even tho I had the weekend before this "friends vacation" booked with her at a spa hotel (which would not intervene)

Followed with a text saying how she gives me all her free time and that she does her life around me, but I never asked for all her free time, I even encourage her to go meet her friends more often since she basically never meets her friends and some has even slightly drifted away since she tries to spend all her time with me. Which is also a problem for me because I value my free/alone time. 

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Anyways, so I decided to not book the tickets with my friends because I didn't have energy for more drama (ironically here I am) but I was still disappointed with her controlling, so just a few days before the trip (when my friends had already booked) my GF all of a sudden says its okay for me to. First of all the price of the tickets were up, my friends had already booked both flight and hotel, and it was basically minimal chance for my to be able to get days off from work on that short notice. 

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So now (a few weeks after) we are still having this argument because she still insists that she was right and that I don't care about her because I wanted to go to "stupid \*country\*" instead of spending every single day of my vacation on her. Now she wants to cancel the vacations we had planned together because quite her: "you don't want to be with me anyways, you can go with your friends, I don't care".

Also she told me a few days ago that she is going to approve that I hang out with friends on Fridays, but only if she is working (since she works in shifts).

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Am I the asshole?

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TL:DR - Am I the asshole for wanting to book 3 vacation days with my friends?