Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway for obvious reasons. 

I (28f) have never been close with my sister (30f). As kids we didn’t get along or play together. As teenagers we only had a Don’t snitch on me and I won’t snitch on you type relationship. I became a mom at 16 and my sister helped me a lot with babysitting when I didn’t have daycare. I always expressed my gratitude. Gave a speech at my graduation about how much I loved and appreciated her, couldn’t have graduated without her help, even bought her Mothers Day gifts for years bc she had been like a second mom to my kids. Well I stopped years ago. 

After I graduated what little relationship we had disappeared. I always wanted to be close with her but she’d hardly ever budge. Didn’t come around. Could never get ahold of her. Growing up she always acted like she was better than everyone else. Was very judgmental. Acted snobby and short and rude to me and everyone else. She could never be bothered to do anything for anyone unless we paid her. 

Fast forward to now. 6 months ago I almost died and was in the hospital for a couple weeks. My brother who lives 2000 miles away called. My sister who lives an hour away never showed up to the hospital, never called, never texted. After leaving the hospital I started caring for our handicap mother. I was overwhelmed already and needed help with our mom. I asked my sister multiple times to please come over, even if just for a couple hours one or two Saturdays a month so I could have a break and spend time with my kids. Nope. She can’t. She won’t. She doesn’t have time. I tell her I can pay her $200. She magically makes time. 

After that I told my mom I’m done. I love my sister but I’m done crying and hurting over trying to have my sister when she hasn’t acted like family for the past 6+ years. I’m done feeling judged by her for so long. Done with her being rude and looking down her nose at me. Done having to pay her just to be a part of her life. As it stands we haven’t spoken in months. She’s getting married in October and I don’t want to go. I don’t want anything to do with her now. I’m just done. But my dad and grandparents are giving me shit for it saying I need to get over it and go bc she’s my sister. So you tell me, AITA here? 