So I wanna start this off by saying I’m happily married,  love my husband more than anything in the world,  but unfortunately he suffers from mild sleep apnea.  I don’t blame him at all or fuss at him about it since it’s not something he can control and he does wear his cpap every night he comes to bed.

Last night however his snoring was especially bad and I could not fall back to sleep once he came to bed,. To clarify he went to bed sometime around or maybe a little before 3 since when I checked my alarm it was around 3:30.

Normally when this happens I nudge him to make him roll over and in the event that that fails I wake him up as gently as I can and ask him to roll over so I can get back to sleep.    It took maybe 15 minutes of this to actually get a response out of him which was just him lazily opening an eye to look at me before falling back asleep without moving and resuming his snoring.  I will admit this did make me a little upset and I shook him a bit harder than I normally do and told him in a stern voice  for him to roll over.

Now this did wake him up, but he looked at me as if I had just cussed at him and in the moment I did feel pretty bad about it since he can be a pretty heavy sleeper at times.   I apologized immediately and got out of bed letting him go back to sleep.

Fast forward several hours later and he was dropping me off at work (we share a car) and he started telling me about this dream he had and asking me what I thought about it.   Meanwhile I had been awake and stewing for  several hours about how Wednesday is his day off meanwhile I work a double between our family’s store and another job downtown resulting in me telling him that I didn’t have the energy to talk right now.  (I will admit that there was a bit of an edge to my tone)

We were pretty much at work at that point and as he dropped me off he quipped that I had been acting like an asshole all night so he’d give me some space.


do you guys think he’s right?  I keep thinking that maybe I should’ve  handled it better but at the same time I’m just so dang tired and wasn’t in the mood to be bubbly and charming. 