Brief background info: I am a lesbian and have only recently come out to my immediate family (\~about 3 months ago, and it was by accident\~). The whole ordeal went 'okay' besides with my mom. She ended up disappearing for a few days, and by the time I left home to go back to university, we had only seen each other once before the beginning of the semester. She is very much still in denial, and rather than talk to me about it and hear my side of the story, she has not talked to me in person at all. She has only sent very hateful texts and a package to my apartment (which included a four page letter and bible). Basically she just keeps threatening the fact that she will never meet a future partner "if I choose this lifestyle" and has threatened not allowing me to meet my future nieces and nephews from my other siblings. 

\~This has all-around been an emotionally painful experience, and I am still worried for my future relationship with my mom\~

So now flash forward to today: I have been dating a girl at my school for a little over a month. Things have moved super fast and I have already met her mom and dad. She has been out since high school and all of her family is super supportive of her. From the very beginning of our relationship, she has been updated about the status of my mom and I's conflict. And since coming out is so recent for me, I told her I wasn't comfortable posting about our relationship on social media because I'm still not out to a few key family members and I also do not want to stir up more conflict between my mom and I. 

She said that she understood and wanted to be there for me throughout this ordeal. 

However, subtly throughout our relationship she's been holding that against me and hated that she was a secret to my family. (even though all of my siblings and other family members I am super close with know about her. it's really just my parents who don't). She also said she wanted to be in a relationship where she could be super involved with the family, which I can't promise for the time being based on my mom's current threats. 

As of right now, I am still somewhat on my parents' dime as I finish my last year at university, and I told her that I do not want to risk losing my education (my mom threatened to pull me from school) and that I'd rather wait until graduation to come out fully and tell my parents about our relationship. (my rational: we've only been together a month anyways)

 We have different ideas on how to approach this: I would prefer to wait to tell my parents because the relationship is fairly new and I don't want to risk my education. She thinks I should approach it head on and confront my mom. 

I completely understand that she does not want to be a secret to my parents for the time being--like the situation just sucks, ya know? Especially since she has been out of the closet for so long. 

Every time we talk about it, I always feel like we walk away from the conversation with an understanding of the situation and we both agree that it's just not worth breaking up over--at least for the time being. However, whenever we get in a disagreement about an unrelated topic, she will bring up my family situation and make me feel guilty about it. Then she will threaten whether or not I am worth the wait. (Which I am confused because even if I did surprise my parents by bringing her home, it would NOT be a pretty scene anyways?)

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When I confronted her on this and said that I need to be with someone more understanding of my situation, she flipped her opinion around again and said that she was willing to stay with me and help me through this. I just didn't believe her based on previous behavior, so I broke up with her... Am I the asshole?