Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Me [23f] and my fiancé [27m] are getting married in May. We did not invite my soon to be sister in law [23f] to the wedding. She just got out of prison. She was in there for a year, after years of drug addiction/legal issues.

She has reached out to my fiancé, saying she’s trying to live right and do better, which is great. There was a function at her halfway house that we went to because she invited us. This was the first time I had ever officially met her, and the first time my fiancé had seen her in years. 

I come from a small rural town. Back when we were younger, she really made a name for herself. Stealing from people, selling fake drugs to younger kids, the whole nine. She was “that” girl. She was “car hopping” and one of the cars she hit was my good friends dad’s, her or one of the people she was with stole his GPS. This friend ended up being my roommate in college, and her parents are invited to my wedding.

A lot of our wedding guests will be people who grew up with us, therefore know all about fiancés sister. I don’t want our guests uncomfortable because someone who stole from them in the past is in attendance. My fiancé owns a contracting company, I sell real estate. We’ve settled down about an hour away from our home town, but I still sell houses in that area and he does quotes in that area all the time. Both of our livelihoods depend on our image. As I don’t want anyone thinking we associate with people like her. Lastly, I barely know her. I don’t want her attached to my special day in any kind of way. 

She JUST got out of prison. Maybe she’s changed, maybe she hasn’t. Time will tell. I feel like a natural consequence of robbing people is that other people won’t want you around after that, and she should understand.

After she discovered she had not received an invitation, she messaged my fiancé asking what was going on, so he told her we had decided to have just close family and friends. She lost it. Messaged us both saying she can’t believe we would be so mean, that we shouldn’t have “pretended” to support her recovery. My fiancé responded that our wedding day has nothing to do with her recovery, and we aren’t close due to her life choices. He received another angry message back.

Are we the assholes?