Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve been staying with my sister and BIL for 9 mos as their live in nanny. I quit my job, put my things in storage and moved halfway across the country to do this. 

It’s time for me to leave soon and I found out that on my last weekend here my sister is working all weekend. That’s fine, it’s work and not a shift she picked up. I told her I thought we would be doing a final family activity like brunch ( we make at home) or a trip to the mall (that was mostly a joke, but if we actually did that I would still be happy). So that weekend she’s busy working and I’ll be packing and leaving so there isn’t much time to hang out. 

The Friday before that weekend she texts me and asked if I’m leaving that night. I said no, I have laundry and cleaning so I’ll probably be leaving Sunday (was planning on deep cleaning my room and bathroom when I had all my stuff out and washing linens). She proceeds to tell me that she has made plans with her friend after work Friday, just “for a couple hours”. I told her I wanted to have a family night before I left and she asked why I take things so personally and that if I wanted to make plans with her I should have asked. Her friend asked her so she made plans with her. She won’t be back until late evening, missing family dinner, then when she gets home needs to get cleaned up so we would have not much time until we are all exhausted and need to go to bed.  Her friend lives here and they will have many other opportunities To hang out

 I feel that I had made it clear that I wanted to spend time together when I asked about brunch. I didn’t think I would have to continually ask her availability and have her pen me in for a time. She has told me in the past that she pencils people in, that way she can change plans if something better comes along. 

Am I the asshole for wanting to have a family dinner and spend some time with my sister and BIL playing cards and chilling? Is this not a common courtesy when hosting someone at your house to have a last dinner/say farewell thanks for the good times?
