So I'm not sure how much detail to put here but mandatory I'm on mobile so sorry for any format issues. TL:DR at bottom

I am late 20's and have just moved back in with my parents to save for a house. I've got a pretty low paid job, but should be able to save up enough in a year, maybe year and a half. Anyway, I am struggling to adapt to living back home with my parents as it is. I moved out over 10 years ago to go to uni, get a job get on with life etc. I moved away from my home town 10  years ago so moving home back has been strange. However, I have great friends from school who I'm still close with, but unfortunately don't see as much as I like, (no-ones fault, most are just married/kids/busy lives) so I spend quite a bit of time at home.

Growing up there were/are no major issues. They are essentially good people no abuse or anything like that. I do have some issues regarding privacy though, for example before going away on holiday as a teenager my dad once went through my luggage (can't remember why, just that it led to an argument.). Also they do slightly irritating things like knocking on the bathroom door when I'm in the shower/toilet telling me they've made me a cup of tea.

I have on several occasions asked my parents, mainly dad to please ask before using my things. For example my car (which I bought, pay insurance for etc). This morning I woke up/came downstairs about 9:30 to dad walking in the the door explaining he took my car to get my radio fixed at a local store. I was literally planning on doing this today, and was using it as a reason for me to get dressed/ready so I could go into town and carry out some other tasks. But it just threw my whole day off and I lost all motivation to even get dressed (I'm also diagnosed with depression, so I try and set myself tasks to help me get up at the weekend). He noticed my mood was off, and asked what was the matter and I explained how it makes me feel as if my opinions don't matter if anything I say seems to be ignored.

Go to this evening, dad comes in and said a neighbour is just borrowing my jump leads (which I keep in my car). Note, he's not asking IF someone can borrow them. Just that they ARE. I mean the answer would obviously be yes, if he'd asked, but he didn't. And considering the conversation we had literally earlier today I just loose all fight and don't see any point in bringing it up anymore. I have had the same conversation both parents so many times before.

My question is I am the asshole for getting irritated at my dad for taking my car and other things even when it's sometimes to do something useful (like fix the radio) when I have explicitly asked him not too several times?

I think I am a bit sensitive about my car as well (it's not new or anything) because it's the only thing outside of the house that I can really call mine. And I love driving it to work.


DL:DR I am the asshole for over reacting when my dad helps me out and takes my car without asking me first.