This is super long but I really do want to know if I’m in the wrong, and you need background info decide, I believe. 

I guess from my post history everyone could see that I have quite a few problems with my roommate. Anyways, everything is just building up and I let some of it leak today. 

So I live in a dorm room for 3 but there is actually 2 because one left (I had asked the two of them to start helping me clean up every week, but one had a fit and left. The other said that’s no problem and here we are now). Also I was (and am) the only one actually buying cleaning supplies. 

So both of them were/are pretty gross, leaving crumbs/wrappers/misc all over the carpet, leaving our shared sink a mess, etc. Now it’s super noticeable as to who’s doing it because technically the room is split up into sides (I’m going to start calling the remaining roommate Hannah). On Hannah’s “side,” there is the empty desk, the empty bed, and Hannah’s desk. On mine, there’s my bed, my desk, and Hannah’s bed. The side with Hannah’s desk, where she spends the majority of her time, is an absolute mess (on all sets of furniture, even though all of them technically do not belong to her). I have continued pointing out to her, “how could you get the carpet dirty so fast” or “I just vacuumed” but not in a too serious/stern tone but it’s enough where she stops what she’s doing to pick it up. Every time she says “sorry, I didn’t notice.” I never believe her because it’s always chucks of trash/toothpaste/whatever. But anyway. 

Lately she has been going to the gym which has led her to leave her towels/gym clothes all over the floor/furniture. She has also taken up painting, causing her to leave paint all over the sink. I left her a detailed note (she was asleep and I had to run errands by the time she woke up) asking her to pick up after herself because I didn’t want to embarrass her by saying her sweaty clothes were stinking up the room so bad. This is our way of communicating the chores, I write out an alternating pattern and hang it up where she can see it. I just added this particular detail at that week. I complete my chores before her, so I don’t mess with the note until the next week on the designated cleaning day. But I also say to clean up the little messes throughout the week. 

So after this note it takes her an afternoon to actually get to it and she leaves it up (we frequently have guests, which will be relevant later). She uses the supplies I provide and I notice that she has a habit of leaving things like disinfectant wipes open because she “doesn’t notice she’s doing it.” But every week? No. I decide to take all of the stuff and just put it away just for me to use. There are still ways to get stuff to clean, like renting it or going to the store (which is not far away), so I think I’m being reasonable. The cleaning day passes and she doesn’t have her part done, but all I do is circle her part in the note. Then it gets done. Okay. 

Anyway, fast forward to today (Monday). I just vacuumed last Friday (and of course there’s trash all over Hannah’s side) and she cleaned the counter on Saturday. I get up later than Hannah on Mondays and I go to brush my teeth and see coffee spills all over the counter and in the sink. 

I am FUMING. How could she “not notice” brown liquid all over a cream, smooth surface? So I record the mess (with a bottle of soap that I bought, which I decided to leave out) and post it on my Snapchat. I caption it “I wonder when I’ll blow up on my roommate for always making such a big mess?” I know that I have my roommate and our friends on my story. I made no attempt to block her or them. Please note that this was not an attempt to create any drama, but to just express my feelings because obviously no one is listening to me in real life. 

I later get a text from Hannah saying that I was talking shit behind her back about her, how I’m always rude and she is always the one to apologize for it. How I’m always saying she’s dirty in front of guests. I have no idea what she’s talking about. I wasn’t talking shit, I was telling the truth. And I brought up this issue multiple times way before I even posted on my snap, in all forms of ways: the notes, texting, and in person. Other people even call her out when she visits their rooms and leaves food on the floor. I don’t ever recall being rude when asking her to clean up after herself, or bringing it up when there’s company (unless they decide to read the note that was left up), but maybe, who knows. What I’m really focused on is how I was talking shit, even though it was the truth? Was I talking behind her back, even though I made several attempts in the past to get through to her AND I didn’t block her from my story? 


