Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This happened 5 years ago, but sometimes I still question it. So 7 years ago I had a friend whom I was really close with, we would talk every day. I was 15 at the time and she was 16. At the time I was always her ‘sidekick’, she would forbid me from going out with my other friends for a long time, or labelling someone as my best friend if it’s not her, she also told me she had a crush on me and when I rejected her because I am straight she blocked me however a few days after she added me again and I had to apologize for it.
One day she invited me to a party where I met my future boyfriend. We instantly got interested in each other we both loved video games and I fell in love with him in an instant. He asked me for my number etc. When he left my friend asked me if I liked him and I said that I do have a crush on him. A month later I asked him out on Valentine’s Day because I really liked him, and I told my friend about that, but then my friend started crying and said how she likes him and wants to ask him out instead. I felt pretty bad at the time and cancelled my date with the guy so she can ask him instead. A month later they started to date, I was completely heartbroken, but at the same time I was happy for her. A few weeks in her relationship she forgot about me, called me rarely, told me how I am boring, annoying, too negative and depressive and that she needs positive people in her life. A few months later she cheated on him, he forgave her and they moved on...after 6 months in their relationship she cheated again, but this time she directly told me instead and automatically wanted support from me. I was conflicted a bit because of how she mistreated me and I felt like she was using me, and also I felt bad for her bf. Her boyfriend vented to me a lot and told me that she is really toxic for both of us and that we should leave her. Me and her bf did go out with our other friends at the time behind her back, we were not dating yet tho just friends. I realized after that how happy I was going outside with other people and not being bound to one person. I also still loved this guy I was really in love with him, so we decided to break it off with my friend and the next day he confessed to me that he really likes me. He is my first boyfriend and after 5 years we are still together and I love him a lot and I genuinely feel happy and not controlled anymore. However sometimes Id feel like an asshole for doing this to my friend, my mom said I was an asshole but my dad and my therapist say that I should have done that for my own mental health considering her manipulative nature.
I want to know your opinion on this?