Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : As I was about to move in to a new 2 bedroom apartment 1.5 years ago, I was in the process of rekindling a friendship that started around 10 years earlier.

This person I always knew as a badass and good person, but recently she had fallen on hard times. She seemed really depressed and her life seemed like it was crumbling around her, so I spontaneously invited her to move to my city (about 2.5 hours away) to try to rebuild. I was thinking she would get a better job and figure out how to get back on her feet.

A year and half later, and her life situation does not seem to have improved by much. She found a job she likes, but it does not pay well and it's kind of a dead end thing.

I decided that I didn't want to live with her almost immediately after she moved in. She moved in with a cat, and I didn't realize how much living with a cat would annoy me. She is kind of a slob and while she loves the cat, she does not take good care of him or his situation, so my house is covered in hair and it smells like cat. 

She does a lot to annoy me (not locking doors, not doing dishes, not refilling the toilet paper, not refilling water pitchers) and she doesn't clean common areas at all. 

On the other hand, she is a good friend, and if there was anything really important that I needed, she would be there for me (example, I left my suitcase on a bus and she tracked it down to the bus depot for me).

She couldn't pay the rent a few months in a row (I charge her $375+ utilities which is a steal) but she eventually paid me back every penny. But that experience let me know she would never be able to live in the city without me.

I am asking her to move out even though I know it means she will have to quit her job and move out of the city and start over from scratch. Should I be more sensitive in this situation?