Alright, so I've been talking to this girl for about 3 months and things have advanced really quickly. we have the same sense of humor, same personality, same passions and interests, same taste in music, we're hella compatible. we instantly clicked and I feel as if we've known each other forever. we haven't had sex and we aren't official yet, but I told her whenever she's ready, I'm ready. I've never connected with someone so deeply this fast before. so, naturally, I'm trying to take it slow and not rush into things because I have genuine feelings for this girl and I want to last with her. I can tell she feels the same way. the problem arose when she told me she was in love with me. it was on our second date. I took her to universal studios and everything was going well. we were holding hands all day and I'd bought her a pair of jurassic park socks and shit was going well. the sun had gone down and she was getting cold cause she had on a tie it yourself shirt or whatever (like the thing where you wrap it inside itself idk how to explain it) and she wanted to go get food.
  
we got in my car and she put her hand back in mine and I tried to pull my hand away to put my car in gear and she said "no don't leave yet. just stay here for a minute. there's something I wanna tell you". I asked what and she said she had a very good time with me and she's never met a dude who she felt so connected to and that she thinks she's in love with me. i told her that I'd had a great time with her as well and that, while I'm not saying I don't love her, I feel like it's too early to say that I love her back. I said I didn't want to rush and I wanted to take it slow because she's worth it. she stopped smiling and asked me why I felt like it was too early. I said that I'd been called excessive and clingy before and it's what ruined my last relationship and I don't want to mess this up because I want her more than anything, I'm just trying to take my time and build something special with her. she said she understood and that she won't say it anymore if I'm uncomfortable with it. I told her I didn't feel uncomfortable and that I want to be with her.
  
things were quiet between us on the ride to where she wanted to go eat at. she was playing music and she had her hand on my shoulder still, but I could tell she was hurt. the rest of the night went well and she never really let it be known that her feelings were hurt. but, the following days leading up til right now, she's been acting more indifferent. not in a drastic way, but I picked up on it. I don't know what to say to her to comfort her. I want to ask her to go out with me tonight but idk if I'm the asshole or not. I do have feelings for her, I just want to pace things cause I've been fucked over a lot. am I the asshole? 