Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hi everyone. So I want to start out by saying my aunt is like a second mother to me, she took me in when I was in high school and we have been very close for years now. My cousin, her son, is also like a little brother to me and he is in his last year of high school. My aunt and uncle (the baby daddy, but I will refer to him as an uncle since he has been like a second dad to me too— very successful man who has a good heart) met about 19 years ago at work. He was married to his longtime girlfriend and they had a daughter together who was about 5 at the time. According to him, my aunt and the rest of his family she was a very negative, selfish, toxic person who was more of an enemy than a partner to my uncle. They adopted another child who was a baby and I still to this day don’t really know all the details but apparently she gave back the adopted baby without his approval?? Don’t know. Anyways, according to him that was the last straw and he said his marriage was ruined after that. This all happened right before he met my aunt at work, they had an instant connection that began as friendship and blossomed to a full blown relationship. My aunt knew he was married and had a kid and it didn’t bother her because the relationship felt so real and it sounded like he was on the edge of divorce. Well, she ended up getting pregnant and neither of them were mad or upset. I can only imagine the shit storm that was my uncle telling his wife (yes, they are still married) that he got another woman pregnant and they are actually dating. My aunt and uncle were together a year after my cousin was born (so total of 2 years at the time), but then he went back to his wife, fast forward to 2019 and him and his wife are still married and living together, but according to him they are just married because he doesn’t want her to take all of his money/property and they have a younger son who’s going to middle school soon. He has been telling my aunt for years that he’s going to move in with her: first it was right when she got pregnant, then when his daughter graduated high school, then when my cousin would enter high school to now he doesn’t even know. I’ve spoken to my friends about this and it boggles my mind that no on close to my aunt has said how crazy this is!! She is a very defensive person and it’s pretty scary when she gets mad, so no one wants to step on her toes. ALMOST TWENTY FUCKING YEARS. I recently watched this TED talk that defined what true love is— selflessness and compromise. The speaker outlined how (to an extent) true love is when you make sacrifices for the people you love. My aunt has sacrificed the possibility of meeting a new partner, attending events alone, the picture perfect spouse living situation and arguably her sanity while it seems he still has it all. I feel kind of funny that a random TED talk has spurred this urge in me to tell her that my uncle doesn’t love her, but I think it’s time. WIBTA??