Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My mother has a lot of mental health issues and lost custody of me at around a year old because of neglect/abuse to my grandparents. She would, according to my grandfather, lock me in a basement room with no windows all night and leave in the morning not coming back until seven or later at night, drink my baby formula because “I paid for it so it’s mine!” (gross ik)..I still had part of my amniotic sac on my forehead at three months old and torticollis. 

My grandma passed away in ‘04 and my grandfather passed away this January; I had seen my mother a total of two times in around thirteen years. As far as I’m concerned that was the last of my parents. My mother feels like a great great great aunt that you don’t really remember ever meeting but your closer family talks about sometimes. I barely know who she is.

Well, my aunt bought her a phone and put her on their service plan and she’s been calling me like eight times in a row every other day. Ideally I would talk to her like maybe once every four or five months, and I just..don’t have the patience or time to walk outside in the middle of my shift and talk to my mother for forty minutes about what she had for breakfast. Sooo I barely answer and only if I’m at home and declined her first four calls. 

Am I the asshole for not wanting to talk to her or have much to do with her? She’s never been around, I don’t know who she is, I feel mega uncomfortable talking to her. But I feel guilty because I’m her daughter and I DO care about her but it just takes up so much emotional energy that I don’t have in the first place. 