So for some context about the friend, let’s name him Luke (obviously that’s not his real name). He was about 12 yo when his mum died from breast cancer in 2011. And he has opened up to me many times about this over the last couple of years 

A little context on me now, I have a twin sister that went to the same school as me and often I was bullied at school and a common subject that would come up was that I fancied my sister (which obviously wasn’t true) and other shit that often really pissed me off. 

(Btw, I’m not comparing my situation to his I’m just providing background)

Cut to 2017 and it was the last year of school. We were fairly close friends with very similar friends but recently I had introduced him to some new friends of mine that went to another school.  This new friends obviously didn’t know Luke very well but they got along.

One night I was on discord with Luke and one of my new friends. Luke was chatting shit about me and my sister and I had had enough saying how I could really piss him off but I wouldn’t say it cause it was too mean. So I pmed the new friend saying that what I would say would be chatting shit about his mum. But of course I would never say that because it would completely undo the friendship with him as it is a very sensitive subject for him.

Luke starts dared me to say what I was going to say, calling me a pussy and shit. After I few seconds the new friend says “He was going to say something about your Mum.”

Immediately, Luke leave the discord and starts messaging me saying, “wtf is wrong with you” and “I’m going to tell everybody that you love shoving spoons up your ass” (seriously, that what he threatened me with). So i try to explain what actually happened, how I never actually said anything.

He starts messaging my new and old friends saying how I love shoving spoons up my ass. Naturally I get pissed off and unfriend him on Facebook and other social medias. 

I’ve again to message my mate Liam (fake name) and I tell him what’s happened and that it’s pissed me off and I sent him this video https://youtu.be/S-eBHDT9fI4 saying “can you imagine if I sent this to him”, (which obviously didn’t send).

That weekend my mate Liam had a small house party with a few of our mates and he invite me and Luke, I say I can’t go and Luke ends up going and stays the night . Luke ends up reading Liam’s messages I send him and presumably sees the video. I guess this enraged him cause he made sure that the last month or so of school was shit for me.

He made a lot of my friends turn on me and he would start chatting shit to me at school and in return I would talk to him in the most condescending, passive aggressive tone that really pissed him off. 

Now in saying all this, I wanted us to be friends or at least acquaintances by the end of the year but that proved not possible as he wasn’t willing to talk about it, it was only only until we were completely wasted that we could talk about it but it seems we are back to square one.

So what do you guys think, am I an asshole for not confronting him and apologising about it?