a coworker of mine is having a little get together at a bar in the middle of a sunday. my coworker invited me but i am not feeling it, as i’ve had a long weekend and usually like to cook and clean most of sunday. i understand that it is her birthday and it was nice of her to extend the invitation, however, we have near to nothing in common. I have tried to hang out with her outside of work and she always seems to sort of rely on other people for the entertainment. she will use phrases like “where’s the excitement?”, “are you guys having fun?” and will stare at me waiting for me to initiate conversation. basically the reason i don’t want to go is because we don’t have things in common, we don’t have fun together, and i’m honestly tired of “putting on face” to create this good time she’s looking for. am i the asshole? 