Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I know it sounds horrible, but I just can’t convince myself that her being my sister is a good enough reason to keep being in her life. I know her Aspergers is partially to blame for some of the issues I have with her, but just because there’s a reason for the behavior doesn’t mean I should just have to be ok with it.  She is legitimately one of the meanest people I have ever met. She takes genuine pride in saying the most hurtful things she can to others. She is completely narcissistic to the point where she has ruined our younger brother’s relationship with our family by interrupting him so often that he’s completely given up on trying to have conversation with anyone. She is violent and has caused my father to need stitches several times from biting him. She’s hit us with dining room chairs, stabbed people with pencils, and over Christmas threatened to maim my boyfriend. 

Our parents have never done anything to stop or correct her behavior, simply saying that she’s special needs and can’t help herself. She once punched me in the face so hard that she broke my glasses, and instead of disciplining her my mother told me that if I ever hit her back or tried to defend myself against her she would call the police on me and disown me. 

I know my parents are a big part of why she’s like this, but she does know better. She’s not stupid by any means. She doesn’t do it when she’s around her life skills instructor, because he would (and has) chewed her ass out for bullying another student. 

So for the past few years I’ve been distancing myself from her and this holiday season has really cemented it in my mind that I no longer want anything to do with her. I’ve decided to have a conversation with my mother and let her know that I have no interest in seeing my sibling anymore and to please not ask me to attend events that she will be at. I’ve tried for the past 15 years to look past all that and get along with her, but I don’t think I care enough anymore. I used to ignore it and think I was being the bigger person, but at this point I’m not willing to let these things go and I’m tired of fighting every time I see her. 

I hoped so badly that as she got older she’d become a nicer person, but she’s just gotten meaner. We’re both adults now, and I’m at the point where I am really starting my own life and my own family. I am not willing to deal with the stress and anxiety of hoping she doesn’t decide to insult or assault me or my loved ones every holiday. 