Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Background: we're both in our late 20s/early 30s, been together ~18 months. No serious problems in the relationship.

I have a few tattoos and have an appointment to get a new one in a couple weeks. The new tattoo is something I've been thinking about getting for about a year. It's tasteful but sort of large (it'll be on one of my upper arms). My boyfriend has no particular opinion about my tats either way. He doesn't have any himself and doesn't really like them on other people, but he thinks mine are nice (because they are) and has a very strong "It's your body" attitude toward anything I want to do with mine. I don't always tell him before I change my hair color or style or get new glasses, and he has never even indicated that he has a problem with this - he respects my bodily autonomy and is attracted to me regardless.

The other day I brought up the subject of my upcoming new tattoo with an acquaintance and she asked if I'd told my boyfriend about it. I said no, because I honestly didn't think he'd care that much, and she reacted in a horrified way, telling me that such a big permanent modification to my body is something I should obviously consult my partner about, and I'm a bad girlfriend for not thinking to do so.

Honestly, I think it's nonsense - it's not like I'm getting a face tattoo or having someone else's name inked on me. It's partially inspired by (but not directly commemorative of) a friend who passed away last year, who my boyfriend only met once. The piece is meaningful on multiple levels and the artist has a really great style. I just don't think this is something my partner will have a ton of opinions on besides "Oh, cool tattoo," and he certainly wouldn't stop me from getting it. So, would I be the asshole for not consulting him before getting this?