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So, I have an Instagram account dedicated for saving material of my favorite artists there. I’m not really a stan account but naturally you’re probably folllwing a few. One day, as I‘m skipping through the stories, I see an intriguing text. It’s the owner off the account venting, how they feel horrible cause of this toxic friend in their life. Since I was in a very motivated state of mind and I‘m a good talker- I decided to message her. 
Long story short, I sent a few paragraphs and she thanked me for building her up. Turns out we’re both 18 year old girls living in Europe (although in different countries). 


Few days later our ‚friendship’ has evolved and we’re now texting. Her main problem is this toxic friend, who’s also just an online buddy, but she’s quite the opposite of me (from what my new friend -L- told me) in terms of influence. She never let her talk about her feelings, manipulated her and just kinda uses her i guess, I don’t really understand the dynamics of their relationship but L was pretty deep in there. She said they’ve been texting every day for a year and how she couldn’t imagine life without her ‚friend anymore‘.
My suggestion was that I could support her, while she is trying to cut that person out of her life. And this has been working great, she sometimes texts me when she’s crying or in direct need of comfort.  We still talk about the artist about whose stan acc we met, we also talk about life in general. Mostly her though. She knows about my life but of course not my demons. 

Now,  manipulating friend stopped talking to her at all and she’s freaking out cause she sees her posting on social media. Around that time I start sending her good night pictures of our favorite artist. She feels lost and overwhelmed, so I thought it would be a nice routine. She jokingly calls me mommy sometimes and in general is just super greatful and making lots of improvement. 

Anyway, the plot thickens:
She always tweets snapshots of our chat history on twitter, tagging me (my gf share an account), sometimes it was even selfies of me, I sent in our chat history. Since we both really don’t have crazy amounts of followers that isn’t a big deal usually. 
Yesterday I woke up and checked my twitter- the night before we talked very long &amp; intense. 
I sent her a picture of me with a joint in my mouth (she knows i’m a stoner &amp; that i smoke before bed) and another picture of our favorite artist, who were both attracted to and caption it „good night from mommy and daddy“ .
Of course she posted it. It was uncomfortable before, you know seeing her post random stuff and tagging me, but it didn’t bother me too much. This, I felt, was too much tho. So I messaged her. 


this is a copy of my text: 
hey wassup, i do appreciate you appreciating me haha but i’d love to know when my messages/ pictures are being posted
especially my face or me with drugs, i’d like to have that in my own hand you know
please delete it

her: sorry

me: it’s alright just let me know next time :)

I told her not to worry about it too, like I wasn’t beating mean or unreasonable. 

Since then she has deleted ALL tweets, been online, reading my texts &amp; posting on social media. I’m slowly getting the impression of someone who might twisted reality with her manipulative friend (i never asked for proof/screenshots) to make herself the victim. Ignoring me until I apologize for this incident is the only thing I can think of, which is a dick move right? 
I don’t want other people posting explicit pics of me / something i sent, thinking it’s a private conversation, without me even finding out the next day. I’m a woman of color lmao getting a job is hard enough but what if they find some shit like that one day? Also it’s illegal where I live; police are really strict &amp; getting worse. I know I won’t get arrested over this tweet. I still don’t want it and she shouldn’t be mad? Like I understand she has issues but our relationship is literally based on open communication.

I can see her standpoint of being insecure and wanting people to see her amazing friendship with me or whatever but there’s a line. 

Summery: 

I met a girl online, lowkey became her therapist, she always posts pics of me / our chat history on twitter. Last time it was one of me with a joint in my mouth. I asked her to take it down. She did, and has been ignoring me for a day or two now. 


Am I missing something or is she overreacting? 

Should I have just ignored the picture for the sake of our friendship? or have been more sensitive 