Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So I recently broke up with my boyfriend and we’ve been on and off for about 6 years. Around two years ago, he found out that he was suffering from severe depression, anxiety and he was bipolar and I wanted to fully support him and be there for him since I was also going through the same thing so I could empathise. 

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It was pretty rocky after that. There were a lot of days where he’d just break down crying for no reason (and he’d say that he doesn’t know why either. He just felt shitty) or him having a nervous breakdown. And I mean, these were basically a daily occurrence. But simultaneously, we’d have really good days where we’d hang out and have such a great time. On those days, he was just a really happy, positive person who loved to mess around and I loved that side of him. 

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At one point he said that he was fine if we broke up because of all the issues and the stress that he put on us and me, but I said that it was okay because at the time I really believed that things would get better. I really did love him at the time.

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But then several months went by and nothing really changed. I felt really conflicted because I didn’t want to come off as an asshole for not caring about his mental health issues, but simultaneously I was so stressed out because on top of the troubles I had with him, I had to deal with school and it was a really heavy workload at the time as well as family issues. So, having him around and trying to make him feel better always stressed me out.

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He'd make a big deal out of the smallest things. If I didn’t say ‘I love you’ back because I was preoccupied, he’d get mad. He wanted to have serious conversations all the time, and he'd take me away from my work and saying “it’ll only take like 5 minutes” with teary eyes but then after I came back, I realised it took half an hour. If I met up with my friends he’d say that I was putting my friends before him. But I couldn’t really break up with him because the moment I left, something bad always happened to him. He also used to say things like “You’re the best thing that’s happened to me in the last six years and I can’t see my life without you”, so I felt like I had to say. And throughout all of this, he’d have visible cut marks all across his arms and he’d be really skinny and underweight from undereating. He also couldn’t get out of bed most days and he basically stopped interacting with his friends (who, at the time did basically nothing to help him out). 

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Just yesterday, I went out for a friend’s birthday and we were out pretty late. I saw that he had called me and texted me a couple of times and I missed a couple of them. Others, I missed on purpose because I honestly needed a break from him. He also sent me numerous texts during the day but I also ignored them. I still don’t really regret because I honestly didn’t want to talk to him at all. 

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He had realised that I was ignoring him because on messenger, I'd say that I was active (since I needed to respond to my friends about what we were doing that night) but I didn’t read or respond to his messages at all. Anyways, I went out that night, had a great time and I basically forgot about him until I got home when I was bombarded with text messages and missed calls. He was going on and on about whether I cared about him and said that I wasn’t pulling my weight in the relationship. He said that I needed to try harder in the relationship and put as much effort as he was. I explained that I wasn't going to put any more effort into him than any other aspect of my life, and that I was stressed enough. Also I said that relationships shouldn't be this much work.

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He told me that if that was how I viewed relationships, *I wasn't capable of love.*

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I. WAS. SO. BLOODY. **PISSED**. 

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Who the fuck says that after years of a stressful relationship? I was basically the only person there for him for years and I had to deal with all the stress he put on me for ages and he still thought that I wasn't trying. For years I had to look after him and make sure that he was okay and it completely wore me down. I just broke up with him. Even though it was over text and some people hate that and think it's rude, I just had to. 

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As of now I don't actually feel upset at all. Maybe it's because I haven't fully comprehended what happened yet, but I also feel kinda free from letting go of it. 

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But now I'm getting messages from all his friends basically yelling at me, saying that he's really upset and heartbroken. I'm also a bit scared about whether something bad is going to happen with him. But in saying that, I'm still really happy that I left it. AITA?