Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So some time last year I met this guy (I’ll call dan) we got on brilliantly and spent nearly all our time together. At this same time I was with my boyfriend (now ex, I’ll call him Alex) and the relationship was abusive and I really felt like I couldn’t leave, I struggled to think I could be happy with anyone else and felt obliged to stay with Alex because he’d guilt me with his mental health issues and gaslight me. 
I met dan after a friend of mine was secretly trying to set us up because she didn’t like Alex. I ended up cheating on Alex with Dan a lot, no sex just like making out and he’d eat me out a lot because he said he enjoyed it which is something I didn’t get in my relationship with Alex (our sex life was literally dead).
It went on for a month or two and I was seriously considering leaving Alex for Dan but I was struggling because I was so nervous, I thought Dan was so much better than me. Dan was starting to gently push me to leave Alex and I was going to, however Alex started to get suspicious of Dan and starting playing on my guilt strings and playing the mental health thing (which he wouldn’t get help for like I wanted him too so I felt obliged to look after him because we had been together for around 3 years at this point) 

I just want to add at the time I didn’t realise mine and Alex’s relationship was abusive and I painted the relationship in love and couldn’t see past it, I thought it was normal because it’s all I had known from other relationships. 

Anyway I dont want this post to get crazy long but in the end I didnt break up with Alex and I messed Dan about a lot and I was a major dickhead to him because my insecurities.
Me and Dan barely spoke after I turned into a massive asshole and I later met up with him for his closure and for him to basically telling me why I was a dick which is fine because I deserved it. 

Ok fast forward to now I’m in a very happy very loving relationship with one of my best friends I literally wouldn’t swap him for anyone, I’m getting help for my own mental health and everything’s going great but I can’t help but think about him sometimes and I keep having dreams about him, I’ve still got some of his stuff like a birthday present I bought his mum and clothes. He’s doing great too I assume the last time I saw he was in a very happy relationship and I’m glad he found someone to be with. 
So I don’t know why I think of him, I wouldn’t leave my SO now to be with him.

What I’m asking is WIBAA if I sent his stuff back to him in a box with a letter, I was planning to write all my insecurities and all the things I’d wish I had said before so I feel clear headed, I don’t want anything from it I just don’t want him to dislike me, which I know he has every right too. I don’t know how to explain it or if it makes me really selfish even thinking about it. A note that I’m not writing this for sympathy I just need to know that if I were to do that would I be in the wrong. 
