Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My ex and I separated (and subsequently divorced) about two years ago. Since then, she has been very upfront with me that she's writing a memoir about the end of our marriage and her subsequent life being single. She has also told me that I am free to read it after it's done in case I want to object to how I'm portrayed.

The thing is that I really don't want to read it. I'm not ashamed of how things ended, and I don't feel like there's embarrassing dirty laundry that she might air.... I just can't really imagine myself sitting down and going through her accounting of that era for a few hundred pages. 

As I figure it, the publishing market is so competitive that there's almost no way her book will be published anyway (and that's not a knock on her, because she's an excellent writer). However, in the off chance that the book gets published, I will have passed on an opportunity to have some say in it before it sees the light of day.

In short, I don't think she is being malicious, but I feel like her offering me the chance to read it is a continuation of patterns of control and self-absorption that were underlying the end of our marriage. Am I an asshole for wanting nothing to do with that?