For the past week my parents have been trying to Facetime multiple times a day a few times a week.   When we first had our daughter (their first grandchild) they did this often and we asked to limit it to Wednesdays.  Shes 6 months old now, but still a lot of work.  Today after 4 straight days of FaceTime requests 2x a day (often after the 7PM bed time) I had enough and texted my Mom and Dad. 

Me: Facetime is wednesdays.   [daughter] is sleeping.

Mom:  What does this mean? When did  we get an allocation of time to see our grand daughter. Can we reserve a time to discuss this. If I seem pissy, I am.

Me:  We are trying to keep it together here with colds and a fussy baby and dont need you calling everyday.   We had already said we would do facetime on wednesdays.   I dont want to have to get ready for nightly invites into my home and repeat phonecalls when we are busy trying to live our lives.   What is there to discuss?   [wife] and I get 0 waking moments of just us, we are constantly entertaining the baby, and I really dont need to explain myself or my need for some privacy in my own home.


AITA, and if I’m not, what is an appropriate step/boundaries?  Clearly my mom is hurt by this, but how can I maintain my own sense of normalcy when I feel obligated to have a video chat at their beck and call?