Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : For context: we’ve been dating for 1.5 years. Also for context, we’re both pretty private with our phones, her more than me. Her notifications don’t go to the lock screen, and she has a complicated password I’d never guess (not that I’d normally care; I barely even noticed until now). 

This happened last night and I can’t shake through whether or not I’m justified. We were cuddling and a name called “Ken 😜” popped up on her phone on FaceTime. She tried to reject it really quickly but it seemed suspicious to me. I asked her who was that and she hesitated a moment before admitting it was her ex. This bothered me because we both don’t really say positive things about our exes, and I have no idea why he’d FaceTime (I don’t know if it’s just me, but video calling seems a lot more personal than phone calls or text messages). 

I asked her if she normally talks to her ex and she says no; they never talk, and doesn’t know why he called. I asked why was his name saved as that if she never talks to him, and she got annoyed and maintained that it was from when they were dating and she never deleted it. 

I asked her if she’d mind if I saw her text messages; not for everyone, just for that specific person. Or if I could look at her call logs. She looked at my like I had four eyes and was **PISSED**. She said that why do I want to go snooping on her phone? It’s a breach of privacy. I replied that I didn’t see it as snooping; it was just suspicious that a name she supposedly never talked to FaceTimed her, and it wouldn’t really take much to confirm her story. She restated that if I kept up acting crazy, she’d lose me, and I’m acting ridiculous. We fought, and as of now, we’re not speaking. 

I never really had a reason to not trust her, which is why I think I might be acting crazy. At the same time, it would’ve taken a quick 5 second glance to confirm her story. As it stands, it just sounds sketchy, and I can’t tell if she’s just that private, or is hiding something. I would normally NEVER go through my partner’s phone without probably cause, but an ex FaceTiming you and the sketchiness just seemed weird. 

AITA for wanting to go through her phone?