I’ll start off with some backstory.

I’ve(25) been in a LDR with my gf(27) for nearly 2.5 years and things have been going a bit rough the last few months. We’ve been fighting over basically nothing, a lot, so we’ve discussed the issue and decided to both work on not getting upset over small things.

We had plans to move in with each other in 2021 and to keep the relationship healthy until then, we try to voice chat every day, where we catch up, discuss how our days went and sometimes watch movies and series together.

My girlfriend is into competitive video games a lot, where as I am not really into them. I sometimes join her for an occasional game, but generally let her do her thing when she wants to play. She has a lot of male gamer friends that she plays with, that she has known for over 10 years. I trust her completely around them, because if she had feelings for any of them, then she wouldn’t have chosen to start a relationship with me.

Now onto me being a potential asshole.

Gf tells me that we will have our voice chat a bit later because she promised one of her friends, let’s call him John, that she’d play with him today. I say it’s totally fine and asked her to give me a headsup when she’d be nearly done. She then asks me if I want to join them, I thanked her for asking me, but I declined, as this would be a great time for me to visit my sister and nieces again.

Fastforward 3 hours, I’m at my sisters place, and girlfriend messages me that John will log off after their current game. So I started making my way home. When I got home i got another message from my gf, that John wanted to do an extra game so she’s doing one more. I got a little annoyed at that, because if she told me that in advance I could have spent more time with my sister, but told myself not to overreact and responded that it was fine. So I decided to just browse reddit for a bit while she was playing. When 50 minutes passed and I didn’t hear anything I decided to check if she was done already. And there I saw that she had started another new game. At this point I’m pretty upset that she didn’t even message me beforehand so I asked her if she started another game and she responded that John wanted to do one more and that she would leave after this game, even if he wanted to do more.

After her game ends she tells me to come voice chat with her, but I tell her that I’m not in the mood anymore. We argue a bit about how we aren’t supposed to get upset over small things anymore. But I tell her that I think I am allowed to be upset over this, because I was waiting on her only for her to start another game. She agreed that she should have told me before starting her last game, but because she promised John to play with him until he would log off, she felt she wasn’t in the wrong. I told her that she also told me that she was doing one last game, twice, but she said that didn’t matter because she promised John first.

AITA?