My boyfriend has a cousin who has always been a bit cold towards me. Don’t know why. I have never done anything to her. She’s a lot more warm with other significant other’s of the family. I’ve talked to my boyfriend about this and he generally agrees with me. I don’t dislike her, but I also can’t really say she’s my favorite person either.

Her daughter’s birthday party is coming up, and initially my boyfriend said (not word for word), “eff her, she’s a bitch. I’m not going.” The party is on a Saturday, and I work on Saturdays so I wasn’t really planning on going anyways. I’m also not really close to the daughter.

Now, today my boyfriend says that he’s going, and I was like, “oh, you’re going?” And he says, “yeah, I’m going for the food.” Then I proceeded to joke around and be all like, “if you hadn’t gone at least I would have *respected* you because  now you’ve gone back on your word” (kinda like that episode in Friends where Phoebe points out how Ross goes back on his beliefs on evolution). I even threw in a Naruto joke about how going back on your word isn’t “my ninja way.” So, I felt that with all these references, it was obviously a joke. He even laughed at the first one. And THEN he made a complete 180 and was like “quit shitting on me” and “why are you mad at me?” I just stopped talking after that.

So, Reddit, am I the asshole?