Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : A little bit of background, I am 20 years old and my parents got divorced when I was 11. My dad got remarried almost immediately afterwards and our once close relationship has been rocky for many years due to the fact that his current wife and I can never seem to get along. 

On my dad’s side of the family we have a traditional Christmas cookie recipe that everyone makes every year and my dad and I have been making them together every year pretty much since I was able to reach the counter. My brother, 18 (For the sake of the story we will call him S)  makes them with us most years too and since my dad got remarried my stepsister, 15 (for the sake of the story we will call her A) has joined in with us on this tradition.  Also my stepmom has two sons J who lives in another state with A and T who lives with my dad and stepmom. 

Today was thanksgiving so my brother (S) and I went over to my dad and stepmom’s house. My stepsister (A) is also visiting for the holiday and staying through the weekend (she usually lives in another state with her father). The last time I saw all of them was back in August so I was a bit worried I’d get the usual complaints of not seeing them enough but that didn’t really happen this time. We actually had a really really good time. We had dinner and played games, two of T’s friends came over since they had nowhere to go. It was awesome, probably one of the best thanksgivings we have had yet. We tried to take a family picture for Christmas cards but we couldn’t get food enough light since it was already dark out so my stepmom decided to make a plan for S and I to come over Saturday morning so we could do the picture and she and my dad would make us breakfast. Sounded good to me, we agreed all went on. 

Everything was good except my dad and stepmom kept going into their bedroom to our liquor in their drinks because they told everyone else it would be a dry event (but they are never sober so it really doesn’t surprise me that they were sneaking liquor). Not too out of the ordinary though. Everything was pretty normal and good. 

Then T left to bring his friends home. With the friends out of the house things seemed to quickly change. S and I were about to head out but we stopped and talked to my dad in the kitchen and I asked him if there would be any weekends between now and Christmas that he wasn’t traveling for work so I could come over and we could have a Christmas cookie day. He told me which days he’d be out of town and I was like alright I’ll see which of the other days I can get off work and we can do that. He told me he probably wouldn’t bring any to work this year since he doesn’t actually have an office with his new job but he was joking about how he could mail cookies to his coworkers and I started joking about how I could bring some in to my internship to try and butter them up so they will hire me next year. It was all pretty normal conversation but then it got a little confusing. 

A came up and was jokingly being offended that we were going to make cookies without her and my dad told her he already has the stuff so she can make them this weekend while she’s here and she asked if I was going to come make cookies this weekend then and my stepmom reminded her that I had to work all weekend. A suggested Saturday when I’m here for the pictures but I told her I could help in the morning but only a little bit since I have to work at 2. Then my stepmom was trying to say I’d have to be here much earlier on Saturday to help with cookies and I explained “I wasn’t planning to come early I was just saying I will help if I have time. I still have to work all weekend and would like to have another cookie day sometime closer to Christmas when I don’t have to work.” Somehow this led to my stepmom raising her voice and getting angry about how I only want to see them when I need something and that this is why I never see them and I tried to argue back and defend myself saying no this isn’t because I need something, it’s because I want to make cookies with you guys, I’m trying to make a plan here to see you guys.” And it was very clear it was about to turn into a big fight but then S got angry and stormed out the door so I just stopped and said “I guess S says it’s time to go” and then turned and followed him. A stopped me by the door and said goodbye and then told me to tell S she says goodbye too. She was the only one I said goodbye too. Both S and I messaged her after we left and apologized for storming out and she said she understands. We love hanging out with A and obviously we want to get to see my dad but it feels like my stepmom makes it so hard sometimes. 

Was she right though? Am I the asshole in this situation??? I really just don’t even know anymore. She just makes me question everything about myself sometimes. 