Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I work remotely while also studying in college and honestly it's a lot to do but I gotta because I come from a pretty backward family and I'm a lil afraid they won't pay for me to do a Masters or leave the country cause I'm a girl. So I know I have to be twice as good as everyone else to get a job abroad or study at a uni I like. 

I don't earn a lot but I do pay for most of my own things, the deal with my parents is that they pay for stuff like medicines and doctors, except I don't like asking them for money so I just pay up anyway. They also owe me a decent bit of money - about 2 months worth of work. But I don't bring it up because I don't really mind. 

I do not get an allowance and I'm the younger sibling. My brother on the other hand is 3 years older and he does get an allowance. He doesn't work (he has an undergrad degree in medicine so I assume he can't do a lot of work atm). But every time he comes home, he insists that I take him out for movies and lunches and drinks. I wouldn't mind if I didn't always feel like he was manipulating me. And so off late I've started saying no. 

He always make it sound like I'm an asshole and IDK if I'm being a bitch? He says that I don't have to save the money. I'm so young and I'm earning so I should just spend it (on things he wants lmao). He says what are you even saving up for. It annoys me that he expects me to answer these questions. But I save so that I can travel and go to design conferences to network better with people in the same line of work as me. I also save up for conferences, clothes and to do things with my friends.

I don't like spending a lot of time with him because he always starts a debate about all of his conservative ideas and starts pushing the notion that women just aren't capable of the same caliber of work as men or some other bull shit like that. Or he tries to convince me to change my dreams and stay in the country because *he* thinks it's a great idea even though he's leaving in a year.

Am I the asshole here?