Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Last weekend me and my now ex were hanging out. He had been with a female friend of his who is Rich and pays him to do side work for her all week. As such, he told her that he was going to be busy all weekend because he was hanging out with me and he was going to be unavailable. Everything was fine until Sunday night when she decided to show up at his house without warning and stick around for 3 hours.

Unfortunately her husband is abusive and she was just trying to get away from him but I still think that she overstepped her bounds by coming around without warning especially when he told her that he was going to be unavailable. I'm sure she had other friends that she could have gone to. The thing that bothered me the most was that she was asking him to stay at his house for a few days to get away from her husband and did so right in front of me.

He is still living at home while waiting for his disability payments to kick in but I still feel that it was inappropriate for her to ask him something like that knowing he's with me. After she left, she texted him saying can we please move in together because I can't live with my husband anymore? I was super pissed about it because again that's inappropriate.

Apparently she also asked him what he sees in me and he claims that she didn't say it in the way that I think but I still think it's super rude and inappropriate. It's none of her business. Apparently he told her it's because I'm the only woman who's ever cared about him and that I keep him grounded and keep him from doing stupid stuff that would land him in jail or worse. Again though it is highly inappropriate and rude for her to ask something like that.

I highly suspect that they have something going on between them because why would she be asking those kinds of questions and be asking to stay with him otherwise? When I was angry about her showing up with no warning and asked him about it he got super defensive and literally told me to fuck off if I didn't like it and told me that I was not going to treat him that way. I don't feel like I treated him any kind of way because I feel like he should have set boundaries with her.

Am I the asshole for being mad about her showing up unannounced when we were supposed to be hanging out? And am I in the wrong for being mad about her behavior towards him and accusing him of having something going on with her? I don't have concrete proof as they say trust your gut. I just want to know if I'm wrong in this situation? Like should I have not jumped to conclusions or am I right to be upset?