I met this guy this past fall and we quickly became friends. A couple months later, he confesses that he has feelings for me and "can't help but see us ending up together." I did not even slightly share the feeling. With this, he requested space to get over those feelings. He wanted to hang out slightly less, but also requested physical space since I'm very physically affectionate. I was fine with that.

5 months later and our relationship had been seemingly back to normal. He is aware that I am happily dating someone and supportive of the relationship. He's been there for me through many depressive episodes &amp; life changes. He never again articulated any discomfort or feelings. But this past Saturday, we went to a party. Then he calls on Tuesday to express his discomfort about my behavior during the party.

According to him, my physical affection during the party was inappropriate. He expressed two things that violated his boundaries: hugging him and doing things like touching his arm as I reached for a beer. He told me that he found it to be emotionally manipulative since I knew how he felt and he said he found it "creepy" because I did not have affirmative consent for these things and because I am in a relationship.

I was really taken back. No one has ever expressed discomfort from my affection prior and I try to be really conscious of body language and social cues as to what is acceptable. I would have never imagined a good friend of almost a year to react in that way or else I never would have done it.To suggest I was purposefully trying to toy with him or that I would be unfaithful is really hurtful to me. I told him this and asked why he didn't say anything at the party to which he responded that he didn't want to make a scene and that "I would never fault a woman for not saying something if she was touched in a way she didn't want.”

I apologized numerous times over for making him uncomfortable, but also expressed my offense at his perception of me as emotionally manipulative, creepy, or unfaithful. I don't understand why he'd want me as a friend if he truly believed that, and I can't help but feel like he's blowing this out of proportion because he's uncomfortable handling his own feelings towards me (and thus making me the responsible party for him having feelings). If so, I don't think this friendship will ever be happy or healthy for us. 

I told him how hurt I was by how he was describing me. And told me that he is imperfect and makes mistakes and doesn't always say things the right way, but continued to essentially say the same thing over again to me. 

I want to do the right thing. I want to own if I made a mistake and do better, but I also have a gut feeling that he isn't a good friend to keep despite months of being a good friend to me. Did I just royally fuck up? Am I crazy for thinking this is his problem that he's making mine? Should I not be offended? If I choose to end our friendship now, am I just an asshole?