Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : My girlfriend and I are both high-school aged. We started dating nearly four months ago. We started talking a bit before I started liking her; she hit up me first. She mentioned that she did weed and I didn't think anything of it because I wasn't romantically interested in her yet.  

I ask her out and the day after, we're on call and she tells me she's high. She asks if I'm mad, and I say no. She falls asleep on call, and in that time I realized that I was very unhappy because I am personally against weed/smoking, and I didn't want an SO that did it. I told her this the next day, and she said that she would stop for me.  

Then about a week later, she "asks for permission" to do it again. I repeat my feelings. She regularly "asks for permission" until about two weeks later when I go out of state for the night, and she smokes, feels guilty the next day and tells me. Towards the end of November, we got into a bit of an argument over it and when I got home, she texted me a lot about how she hated her self, she would rather have me happy than weed, and she promised she would never bring it up again. That promise lasted maybe a week or two before she started bringing it up again.  

About a week ago, we had a pregnancy scare and she told me that if the test ends up being negative, she is going to smoke to calm down. I regretfully told her that I'd be fine with it considering the stress she was under. A couple days ago, we argued about it again.  

My stance: I get very bothered when I even imagine her doing it, more often than not just the thought of it puts me in a bad mood almost immediately. I never realized how much I was against weed until I started dating her. I have told her many times that I am not comfortable nor willing to be in a relationship with somebody that does it or smokes in general. It's a very big turn off for me. I have tried many times to become more accepting and open-minded but I cannot help being bothered by it.  

Her stance: She has been doing it since about March or April, 2018, I believe. It started out as something to help calm her down, relax her, but progressed into doing it for fun with her mother, who provides it for her. In her words, she could quit it anytime she wanted to, but says that, because I ask her not to, it only makes her want to do it more. She says if she had to she would choose me over weed, but she really does not want to make that choice. Many times her reasoning for doing it has contradicted itself; one day she says "I'll stop after I'm 18, high school is what's causing all the stress", the next day she says "After I'm 18 I should be allowed to do it because I'll be an adult." She told me recently that when she was giving me these reasons she was just trying to say the "right" things.  

What we agree on: My girlfriend and I are very much in love with each other and want nothing but to spend the rest of our lives together. We accept that either way, no matter what the outcome of this issue is, there will not be complete happiness for either of us. We both agree that we are partially in the wrong, I am unable to change my ways, and she is too stubborn to stop.  

So, kind strangers of reddit, I ask you, am I the asshole?