Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Some context - I’ve been dating this guy for about 2 months now, but he has been part of our friend group for about a year.


Before we started to date I gave him a list of my yellow/orange/red flags as a human and warned him that it’s probably not a good time in my life to date me. He didn’t care and was okay with the following that I told him or he knew before hand:


* Less than a year ago I got out of an extremely abusive relationship and I don’t know what a good relationship looks like. And that I’m seeing a councilor at my school, which isn’t the best but I can’t afford anything else. 

* I’m a full time grad student who lives at home with her parents and I don’t have a job. Lots of my time is spent reading, writing, at the library, or doing volunteer work.

* School comes first and I still have 2 years to go. 

* I’m unemployed and have 0 income right now. I can’t share any expenses for dates, entertainment, trips, drinks, etc. 


I was extremely explicit in my warnings, and basically tried to convince him to not date me. Even though I know I want to be in a long term relationship again one day. He told me he was okay with paying for everything (he has a high paying job and we live in a very affordable area). I’ve tried to be courteous and suggest free/cheap things to do in the area, but he likes to do expensive things and doesn’t mind paying for two. I’ve enjoyed the time spent with him and we usually have a good time. We have a lot in common and have a lot of things to talk about. 


However, he made a few comments about me that were supposed to be a “joke” in front our friends (friends that he has known for a year, and that I’ve known from anywhere from 5-15 years) that has made me reconsider the relationship. 


While we were at dinner with friend he said a few things along the following: [….] “Tell me about it, not only do I have to pay for these things myself, I have to pay for her too!” and “Eventually I’d like to visit X place, but I’d have to pay for two [motions towards me] and I can’t do that now.” and “If somebody [motions towards me] ever gets a job then we can go do X activity with you guys too! haha, just kidding sweetie we know you’re still in school.” 


After that night I felt embarrassed, and started to reconsider the relationship. I haven’t been excited to see him since Friday, and I’ve actually been using school as an excuse to not see him. 


So AITA if I break up with over those kinds of comments? 