I (26M) recently asked my girlfriend (27F) if she would consider buying/wearing some different types of clothes that I find attractive. Nothing extreme, specifically I asked if she would get a pair of leggings and a one piece swimsuit. I absolutely love how these look on girls, but my girlfriend only ever seems to wear really long flowing dresses or bikinis, so a pair of leggings and a one piece would make me really happy. I should also preface this by mentioning that I in no way find her unattractive, I just think I would find find her even MORE attractive in my favourite types of clothes. I wouldn't expect her to wear them all the time, just every now and then so I can see her wearing them.

As to when I asked her, she kinda went off at me. She said no, because she said by trying to change her look I was objectifying her. She said that she shouldn't be expected to have to dress 'sexy' just to please me.

Now going back to the reason I asked her in the first place, is because of how much I changed my wardrobe for her. I was not much of a fancy dresser before her. I pretty much wore geeky tees and cargo shorts all the time. She asked if I would change up my wardrobe to look nicer for her and I agreed. So now I pretty much live in collared shirts and long chino pants. I don't hate the style, but I do sometimes miss my old comfy clothes. I do definitely appreciate that I look nicer, and I love how she tells me that I look good.

When she said no to my suggestion, I referred back to her changing my look. She said it's different because she was helping me get some much needed style, whereas my request was only about sex appeal and indulging my own fetishes. We got into a bit of an argument and didn't speak much the rest of the night.

I feel bad for upsetting her, but I also don't think I was being unreasonable or offensive. Am I the Asshole?