Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Here's the backstory: I (F19) dated this guy, let's say called Ben (M30), on and off for about 3 months last summer. He messed up a lot, mostly through using me for sex and to get over his ex while telling me he liked me at the same time to keep me hanging on.


I eventually figured out what he had been doing and blocked him for a month. During that month I got the space I needed and he realised he actually did like me for real. After a lot of convincing on Ben's part we agreed to start 'seeing eachother'. This was November. After two weeks I had already figured out I couldn't trust him again the way I had originally and told him it was friends or nothing. He was hurt but agreed to friends as we both don't want to lose each other. We have since remained very close friends and hang out at least once or twice a week.


It has now come round to Ben's 30th birthday and I had been invited about a month ago to attend his party. Last week Ben started dating a new girl and has now told me I can't come to his party because of her.


I feel hurt because me and Ben have known each other for a year and he is excluding me for a girl he's known all of two weeks. I felt like our friendship was worth more than that and expressed this to him. He just told me "not to be like that". I just need to know, AITA?


TLDR: ex, now very close friend, has excluded me from his birthday because he has found a new girl in the last week 