So I have a really rocky relationship with my mom. She left when I was 6, married another guy and moved to a different country and left me with my dad. As you can probably tell, this messed me up for a long time and I’m only now starting to get over it (i’m 20 now).

I don’t want to have anything to do with my mom, she basically abandoned me for a man and only talked to me once every few years. The last time we talked (2 years ago) we got into a big argument and I told her to never call or message me again. I consider my stepmom that my dad married shortly after she left as more than a mom than her. 

Recently I had a cousin around my age on my mom’s side (her sisters daughter) that lives in America contact me on Facebook. I thought this was strange since I never met her before and am unsure of how she found my Facebook, but I accepted her request. She said she wanted to get to know me since I was one of the only cousins on our side that was around her age. We added each other on Snapchat, instagram etc. and she seemed okay, I didn’t initially really have much reason to worry.

The other day I thought about it all and I figured that maybe she was acting on behalf of my mom and it pissed me off. Of course I don’t have proof but I feel like that’s how she got my Facebook, and that’s why she’s trying to get to know me. I got scared that she was saying everything that I told her to my mom. I blocked her off every social media platform on a whim but now I’m wondering if I made the right choice. I didn’t even ask for an explanation or let her her know that I don’t want her to contact me, I just blocked her. But at the same time I really don’t want anything to do with my mom and if that means I have no contact with everyone on her side then I guess that’s what it’ll have to be. But AITA?


