Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : For the record, I do believe I am indeed the asshole up until the last comment and when I PMed. Also sorry this is super gotdam long. 

So at like 3AM last night, I posted (on an alt) in r/needadvice about cleaning my room, mentioning how late it was, and I got 3 comments. One was genuinely helpful! The other two were “Go to bed or you’re grounded”, and “It’s too late now. Go to bed, deal with it after work or on the weekend, now isn’t the time to deal with it”. 

I was salty about that last one too, especially because in my original post, I explicitly stated that I *knew* how late it was and that I *should* go to bed, but I wanted, like, you know, A PATH FROM MY BED TO THE DOOR BEFORE I FELL ASLEEP (my room is disgusting guys, hence posting on r/needadvice). 

To the whole “you’re grounded” one, I got seriously peeved. I posted on r/needadvice for *advice* not for shitty jokes/satire/whatever. I also didn’t get a lot of sleep, so I was just irritated in general. I commented back to them, in essence saying, “Seriously? Fuck off” (it was much longer than that). 

Still irritated, I commented on the other one, “soooo nothing genuinely helpful then? just stuff I already stated I knew?” 

Got downvoted on both of those comments but eh. 

I know I was being the asshole up til this point. The person who commented “Just go to bed” is a moderator for r/needadvice. They then commented back, saying “Heh. This would bother me, if I were the pig, and not you” in reference to me saying I’m tired of living in a pig sty. It hurt a bit. Then they locked my post. 

I decided to use the “message the mods” function to send an apology to all of them. I said, “I’m sorry I got so worked up commenting back in my recent post. I didn’t get much sleep last night and I was salty I didn’t get any real answers (which doesn’t excuse my bad behavior, I just wanted to explain myself)”. 

Lo and behold, same moderator messages me and says, “It doesn’t matter. It is only because of my gracious nature that I didn’t permanently remove you from the sub. But people are trying to help you and you’re shitting all over them. Your bad day doesn’t give you license to do that to our subscribers”. 

Fair enough, but that’s exactly what I *just* barely apologized for. 

So I messaged back, saying “And that’s why I was apologizing. I feel like I’m a good natured person, and I try hard to be. I feel justified in what I said in my first comment, however. I didn’t post in r/needadvice to hear “clean your room”. I should’ve gone about it kinder, how I usually do, but honestly? What’s the point of posting in this sub if you’re not going to get advice?

I must apologize to you directly, however. The ‘clean your room’ comment really got to me, and I don’t know why. I let it inflate the anger in my comment back to you. You were right in saying I should get some sleep, and I should not have attacked you for that. 

Thank you for commenting on my post in the first place, I’m sorry I took that for granted and attacked you for nothing, you didn’t deserve that. I really am genuinely sorry, I wouldn’t have messaged otherwise”. 

To which they said, “Just try to remember that people are putting in the effort to share advice with you, and even if you don’t like it, they’re putting in the effort. Try to appreciate that”. 

Like honestly? I’m putting my neck out here. So I messaged again, saying “I do, but not when the ‘advice’ is ‘clean your room or you’re grounded’ 😂 Please try to see from my perspective as well, I’m trying very hard to explain my side and I’d appreciate if you could see that”. 

They were very prompt with their first two responses. It’s been around an hour and a half this time around. I’m suspicious I blocked or muted. 

So, being full aware, I *am* the asshole for the first portion, what did I do in the second portion to warrant such jaded responses? WITA there? 