Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have been friends with her for 4 years. She is 21 and getting married to her boyfriend who is 24 and an officer in the army. Their wedding invitations came two months ago and I RSVP’ed. Her wedding is in July.

I was talking to my friend yesterday and she told me that she looked forward to seeing him wear his uniform. I was surprised because I thought their wedding was going to be casual and laidback. She also said that some other members of her family will be coming in military attire, including her grand-uncle who fought in WW2. Her fiancé’s friends will mostly be wearing their uniforms too.

I was super shocked and told her that due to my personal experiences with the military (I am a refugee from an unstable country), I would feel very uncomfortable attending this wedding. I would definitely experience some degree of PTSD.

She was sad that I couldn’t go and was very curt with me after. I definitely felt a change in the vibe. Later, a mutual friend said that the bride felt “pissed off” that I had decided to suddenly drop out of the wedding and that now she had to change many things. I feel bad, but AITA for not wanting to relive traumatic experiences of my childhood? 


