Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My husband is usually an EXCELLENT gift giver. Since we have insane work schedules and don’t get to see each other much, he had me open my Xmas gift tonight. I unwrap the package and I see it’s an UGG box. I ask ‘is this what it really is?’ and he says yes. I’m not anti-UGGS. I have a pair a friend gave to me years ago. They’re comfortable. They’re total Becky boots but comfy as hell. I continue to open the box and when I pop that lid and peel back the paper - I see seafoam green. Seafoam green boots. I am a nearly 40 year old woman that dresses like an aging goth kid, or more accurately, Daria as an adult. Seafoam green is a delightful color, but not my jam NOR my jelly when it comes to clothing or footwear. I pick them up and say ‘wow. these are... different. not a color I’d have chosen for myself’. He knows the jig is up. He says ‘you don’t like them’ and I tell him it’s not that I don’t like them, they just aren’t my style and I can’t picture what I’d wear them with. He then tells me that a friend of ours helped him pick them out. They both thought they were totally me and since he wanted to surprise me with something I’d never get for myself he thought they’d be perfect. He assured me they can be returned and I felt just awful but I had to agree, they just aren’t my style but I really appreciate the thought. I end up talking to the friend that ‘helped’ pick them out later in the evening and she tells me she was actually looking at them for herself and sent them to a family member so she hoped she didn’t get them because it might be triggering for my husband since I didn’t like them. 

SOOOOOO - am I the asshole for being honest that I didn’t like the boots? I feel like I was respectful in saying thanks but no thanks but I can’t help but feeling shitty. 

Also - should I tell my friend not to send my husband things she’d buy for herself if he asks for help in buying me gifts in the future? 

THANKS!