So let me start by saying I \[27M\] absolutely adore my fiancee \[29F\]. We have been together for almost 4 years but things have gone downhill pretty hard in our sex life. This is going to be a long story so I really would appreciate if you could sit back and read it all and give your honest opinions.

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Starting from the beginning she and I actually got together because I was friends with her ex-husband. After getting to know both of them I found out he was a verbally abusive drunk who at times even got her to lock herself in the bathroom in fear of him hitting her (I do have to point out he never did hit her) so I stopped giving a crap about being his friend but I became really close to her. We were close friends for just about a year before the inevitable happened and we had sex, they eventually got divorced, and she and I got together. After they had gotten a divorce she says her biggest issue was that he would never touch her or have sex with her.

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Starting out we honestly had sex 2-3 times a day everywhere. I mean in the car (I had a Scion FR-S at the time, so good luck trying to imagine how that worked out), when we went camping, in my apartment, in her car, I mean it when I say everywhere. Things were like that for 2 years. After being together for about 6 months we ended up moving from Colorado to Just outside of Washington D.C. which is obviously a big move and she had never been out to this side of the country. I understand she would be a little depressed because she had never been to this side of the country and was starting over.  Our crazy sex life had continued for about a year after we moved then it started going downhill. We are at the point where we have sex MAYBE once a month. When I talked to her about it she would make comments like "well you aren't sweet anymore" so I tried doing things I used to do like lay with her and watch movies, make comments about her hair, tell her she's pretty, and other things to the point where she even gets giddy about what she says is "butterflies in her stomach". We'll have sex but then the next week it'll be something like "oh you don't help around the house and it makes me not want to have sex with you" So I'll keep up on the dishes, start doing more laundry, and try to clean a bit more around the house (with that said I have NEVER been good about doing housework and I have NEVER hidden that). Honestly she'll even say a girl is cute and I'll agree but she'll make comments like "But you won't find a girl who likes to F\*\*\* like I do". I'm at the point where we ended up argueing about it last night because this is becoming a big deal for me and she said "I'm not the pornstar you make me out to be" with my only reply before I got up to walk away was "you mean the pornstar YOU make YOU out to be" (more info for that can be added if needed)

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I love the crap out of her but our relationship started with and was built on sex and the comments she made when we first got together about our sex life never dying but I'm out of options, I've done EVERYTHING I can to change myself for her but it's never good enough. 

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I'm sorry for the long rant but I want peoples opinions. If you need more info please let me know.