Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My husband works from home and I stay and take care of our 4mo. I have done 99% of the care. When I ask for help he seems like he is doing me a favor even after he is done working. He told me the other night that he feels like he doesn’t get a break and basically said it’s my job to care for the baby at all times Bc he works. 

He has gotten better about helping mostly Bc I just ask him to do more stuff now and he knows I’m mad and he doesn’t like conflict. But people, he games 4 hours a night with no complaint from me Bc yes he does work and that is a good break. 

He doesn’t understand that I am touched out. Our daughter needed constant contact Bc of reflux. I literally slept on the couch sitting straight up with her for at least 6 weeks Bc of it.  She is slowly getting better but I’m literally with her 24/7.  She still sleeps with me. He rarely takes her for more than 10-20 mins. The longest is an hour ish Bc I took a bath a handful of times. He has started laying with her while she sleeps in the evening. He actually said “ok I’m done” after about 10 mins once. 

Sometimes he forgets I need to shower when I’ve waited for him to stop gaming then gets a little irritable Bc he wants to go to bed. I also take the baby with me to drop my oldest off at school Bc he gets cranky about not getting enough sleep. He snapped at me like I was a dog Bc I wasn’t going fast enough to get socks to leave. When I said he could take my daughter to school then, he said he wouldn’t and he guesses she gets to stay home that day. I ended up taking her. 

Now he is telling his brother, whom he games with and works with, that he got in trouble for gaming so he has to take a break. So he has totally missed what I was upset about. I still don’t care if he games. I just want a break more often and an actual parenting partner. 

During these short breaks I’m usually cleaning. He does cook and will wash the pans when he needs them. My oldest fills the dishwasher. He will sometimes wipe cabinets off. He washes clothes when he is out and does most of the dog care. 

Today he is saying he wants to get up earlier and  basically be more of a partner. But I need to know if I’m just being an asshole and he’s right. 

 So AITA for needing a break from the baby even though I stay at home and my husband works? 

