Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This happened a few years ago and I’m still internally torn whether I was the A-hole. 

I was a student in a 3-term post-graduate program with a 20 student class size that shared the same schedule. In my 3rd term, our class got a “new” student. He seemed nice at first and I made friends with him within a few hours. Throughout the day, my friends and I began noticing that he was a little peculiar. For example, he made some very inappropriate jokes that were racist, sexist, and personal in nature. We didn’t confront him about it since we had to be around each other for the next 4 months.

After a few days when we were sure that there was something off about him, my friends and I tried to distance ourselves from him. He didn’t really get the hint, so we tried harder while remaining civil. The rest of the class also noticed and was doing the same thing. No one liked working with him on projects because of his personality and frankly, he was not a very good/smart student and couldn’t pull his weight.

Fast-forward after a few months of alienation, he gradually became noticeably depressed. No one was ever directly mean to him but the atmosphere could be read from a mile away. He didn’t talk to anyone outside of group projects, ate lunch by himself, and his overall demeanour was just... sad. My friends and I felt guilty that we were avoiding him but also felt it was not our responsibility to use our energy, and frankly, sanity, to help him feel included.

A month before graduation, he stopped coming to school. He didn’t notify the teachers or the program coordinator and we were worried that something had happened to him. A few of us (myself included) tried reaching out to him on social media but he didn’t respond. I found out through a new random mutual friend several months later that he was alive (thank god). It doesn’t seem like he ever finished the program and I have no idea how he is doing now.

I can’t help but feel responsible for his experience, but at the same time he was a terrible person to be around. He never seemed like an inherently bad person. Rather, I believe he just didn’t have a filter and was socially awkward. 

So Reddit... AITA?