Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My ex and I had been together 14 months at this point when I decided I'd had enough and wanted out. He had been emotionally manipulating/controlling me for around 7 months which was turning me against my own family, my friends and acquaintances alike. It was basic stuff to begin with like playing my emotions and belittling me, eventually escalating to him basically keeping me confined to my room. 

Most of my stresses started over the summer as it came out that I suffer from pretty extreme anxiety and had up until that point been majorly unaware of it. I'd had a stable life up until last summer when I was preparing to move to university 200 miles away from home. This was a huge deal to me and my ex was acting really off about it which stressed me out a lot.

After I moved into my flat and started the term, he initially didn't give two shits until my best mate at the time  forced me into doing some pretty fucked up stuff that I didn't want to do (using threats). After I told my bf, he got mad at me over it and come the start of this term, started to get mad at me for talking to certain people and was constantly monitoring my actions via social media, demanding my location.etc. This in turn led to me losing my social life and becoming permanently locked in my room out of fear for what he might say if I met a friend.

It was also after this he began to suspect he had some serious mental health problems and was genuinely struggling with severe mood swings and was hurting himself/had thoughts of hurting himself. I blamed myself for this as it only really properly manifested after I told him about what had happened. It eventually resulted in him calling me to tell me he was going to drown himself in the river on my hometown. I was terrified and started worrying the house down in panic. I promised him I'd always look after him and help him through the issues but recently my eyes were opened to him doing some fucked up stuff like, going through my phone when he came to stay and sending screenshots of private conversations to himself without me knowing (he kept them in a folder on his pc and sent them to others), having a go at me for talking to my family and for telling them the nasty stuff he said and how he'd isolated me from everyone here. I had spoken to him on many occasions about his behaviour and kept forgiving him over and over but the stuff mentioned was the final straw. 

At this point I was so pissed I left him but I've heard that he's been struggling again recently and has/has considered seriously hurting himself after the breakup. I still care about him and want to support him through getting help but I don't want to speak to him anymore because he keeps trying to manipulate me back into being with him again and he's angry at me for my choice so I feel like an asshole for both leaving him and for choosing to not support him when getting help for his mental health.
