She’s in the mindset that the guy should pay for everything, and against my better judgment I went with it. Any dinner, event, trip, hell even groceries I would help out with. She would pay for something once in awhile, and she would clean my apartment from time to time but I never felt like it was equal. Not that I have anything against paying for things, I believe the guy should pay for most, but there has to be some give and take

Fast forward to June 2018. She moves in my apartment in the city. For six months she’s living rent, bill, and virtually grocery free. Again she cleans but it’s not even. 

Fast forward again to now. We move in together so obviously we’re going to split the rent right? For a couple of months we did. Then the last week of February she tells me she won’t be able to pay anything for the rent due to her own debts and bills. I’m furious and she goes and stays with a friend for a week. I pay the full rent which puts me in a precarious financial situation for my own bills and debts. I was worried I wouldn’t be able to pay some of my own things (I was able to with money left over.) then this month comes. She originally says she could pay a few hundred because again, her own debts and bills. I’m wary but I say ok but you’ll have to pay me back. No real response. We talk again the other night and now she says she can’t pay anything at all again. I say ok so are you going to take care of the rent for a couple of months or pay me back? No because why do I have a boyfriend then?

This was the final straw. I’m supposed to help you out with your financial fires while mine get larger and you’re not even going to help me out when you can? Get the fuck out of my apartment. So once again, and for the rest of this lease, I’m paying the full rent. Paying half of it I would be in good shape. Could pay off bigger amounts in my cards and loans, but now I really have to penny pinch until business gets up again which could be a few months. 

We talked a couple days after this and she said it was a test to see how I would react in a tough situation. Like if she got into an accident or something. I believe this is a very very different situation but maybe I’m wrong and I overreacted 