I’m 16, my boyfriend is 17. We’ve been dating for about 2 1/2 months and we’re still firmly in the honeymoon phase. I know we’re young and it’s a pretty new relationship, but I can really see myself with him forever. Stupid teen thoughts, maybe. But I genuinely do love him.

His mum is lovely. She’s invited me to go on a family holiday with them to Vietnam. Holy shitballs, batman! Of course I wanna go, I’ve always wanted to go to Vietnam.

My boyfriend hates travelling. He said to his mum “I don’t really want to go, so I’d  guess Unneuf doesn’t want to go without me.”

Poof, dream crushed. I said alright and went on my merry way, but seriously. I wanna go. This is a trip I’ve always wanted, and what could possibly be better than spending it with the guy I love? 

I said as much to him. He said “We could always go in the future.” 

I told him “Your parents are paying for us both this time. We may not get an opportunity like this again, and if we do go in the future it’ll be out of our own money.”

His parents, lovely as they are, said they’d pay for me to go. I’m not having that, me and my family will pay for it. They’ve done so much for me already.

Still my boyfriend said no.

So I got sad. Not angry at him, just kinda sad. Aaand he felt guilty.

“No, if you don’t wanna go then we won’t.” I said to him.

“You’re making me feel guilty,” he said back.

I did guilt trip him, to be fair. He eventually agreed to it, because he felt so guilty about how upset I was.

And then I felt guilty. So I started crying. And then he got upset seeing me upset. So he started crying.

He says he’s fine with it, but the way I guilt tripped him left a bad taste in my mouth. I wished I hadn’t done it as sone as I did.

Am I the asshole?

TL;DR: Boyfriends parents are offering to take us to Vietnam. I wanted to go, he didn’t, I guilt tripped him into saying yes.