Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Okay, so this revolves around me [15f] and a former friend of mine [16m]. I just read all that I've wrote and it's kind of all over the place, sorry. We were friends for about 3 years, I think we became friends around early 7th grade (sophomores currently). Right off the bat, the power dynamic between us was weighted pretty heavily in my favor, to the point where we were constantly compared to a mother and son. I gave him advice, I worried for his future (he almost never went to school and had an awful GPA), I tried to help him with schoolwork... I basically ran his life. I know that this is largely my fault, since I tend to be a bit controlling, but I also know that I did not want be in this situation and repeatedly tried to get out of it.

 I'm also fairly sure that he had feelings for me from the moment we started hanging out, which were unrequited. It was confirmed that he was romantically interested in me about 3 months ago, by a mutual friend who came forward and told me that he talked about me near constantly. In response to this I told him that I did not reciprocate his feelings very bluntly, and he replied in a way that suggested he would move on. Since then, he had been increasingly rude and mean to me. He would insult me, try to embarrass me in public by telling my friends secrets about me and shame my habits and interests. When I confronted him about this, he told me that he had just "picked up" my habits, implying that I did the same to him. I understood why he would say that since I have been told I go to far with teasing people, but I know that I had never been that bad to him. 

About 2 months ago, after a slight argument about something I've forgotten in a group chat, I said he and another friend were "the highest maintenance people I have ever met in my fucking life" and left the chat. I immediately felt sorry for saying such a thing and texted him personally that I was sorry. He then called me "emotionally abusive" and essentially just called me a terrible person and stuff like that. I told him that I didn't want to be friends anymore, and he seemed sorry after I said that, but I was done. He texted me a few days later asking if I'd cooled off but I said I didn't want to talk to him. I thought we would just drift out of each other's lives from there on, but I guess not

When school resumed after summer break (just a couple of days later) he begun talking about me to everyone I know, everyone he knows, in every class, in every conversation, even to teachers. He called me a cunt, a bitch, a whore, but it all centered around me being an abusive maniac at my core. He told our mutual friends that associating with me would make them "a cunt too". I eventually came up to him in person and told him to get over me and stop saying the things he was, and for a week or two, he's been quiet. 

Do you think he was right in calling me these things? I do feel bad for controlling him as much as I was, but I also think he was just using me so I would date him later down the road. 