Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hello all, I posted this in another r/ place or whatever it is called (sorry I'm new to this).
I want to get as many perspectives as I can because I am between a rock and a hard place and it is giving me some heartache.

I have been dating my Chinese (this is relevant) girlfriend for 3 years. We have a great relationship and we are fairly sure we are serious about one another.

She has met my parents, but she is very hesitant to introduce me to her's. Now, I do understand why. Her parents are very conservative and likely wouldn't approve of her dating a foreigner but they are very keen to see her married. They regularly try to set her up on blind dates and now that it is Spring Festival, where unmarried women in particular get a hard time, she is going to be subjected once more to heavy criticism from her family for being 'single'.

This sort of thing is quite common in China so I am trying to make accommodations for it. Principally this: My girlfriend gets a lot of pressure to go on these blind dates and she does sometimes cave. She goes on these dates solely to keep her family off her back, she tells me everything that happens, no intimacy happens in these dates, she turns up, does the minimum, makes her excuses and leaves. She discloses everything about these to me which I appreciate and I understand the social pressure she is under is quite large, but even so I can't deny that I feel a bit hurt by it.

The main thrust of the problem is this though: I totally understand her hesitation in telling her parents about me. I understand completely that she risks possible ostracisation from her family. I would not dream of going in over her head on this and forcing her hand. BUT We are stuck in a rut. We agree we are serious, but we cannot take our relationship further without her family finding out. And, some may think this selfish but I am not content to stay in this somewhat covert state indefinitely, and the date thing is something that I am losing patience with. So, reddit, what can I/we do? Also, am I being an arsehole?