AITA? I have been with my girlfriend for two years. She has a 12 yo daughter with her ex who was in a motorcycle accident over a week ago. He is still in a coma.  We would like to speak positively to the 12 year old daughter but temper that with realistic expectations. His family and his sex worker girlfriend will not allow us to speak to his case/social worker at the hospital so we can know whats going on and HIIPA doesnt let the the staff speak to us directly. Also the family is texting the 12 year old giving her updates directly (against our wishes) So here we are, picking up the pieces of a 12 year olds heart every night. The latest happened this morning. We were scheduled to meet with the social worker on his care team this morning until his girlfriend forbid it, We have now decided that until someone gives us an update or we can speak to a social worker, we will not be bringing the daughter for visits. This pains me because she should see her dad. (even though they wont let her if her mother is with her) But she should not have to deal with a bunch of strangers telling her her dad will be okay when he wont be. AITA for keeping her away from the hospital until we can know what his prognosis is? As you reply, please keep in mind the welfare of a 12 yo child.