Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I want to preface this post by first saying that along with all of you here, i love my mom. I want to know AITA  and if so how i could help her better.

My mom is the sweetest person i have ever met, and a phenomenal woman. I am proud of her in so many ways. She is loving, and is always one to hold everyone together. She is my biggest supporter. Without her advice i would not be half the person i am today. I owe her so much. She is the matriarch of our family. 
She works a fairly difficult job during the night, taking care of elderly folk @ a nursing home as a CNA. For the entire 25 yrs i have been alive this was her line of work. 

Many people have hobbies, and ways that they blow off steam, and for my mom her hobby unfortunately (from my pov) is spending her time and money @ the casino.

I don't think that gambling is bad outright, but like many things, an excessive amount of anything can prove to be detrimental. 

Over the last decade i have seen her hobby do more harm than good. Again from my own pov.

For as much as i love my mom, it seems like the reason our family has been in a financial rut is because of my moms inability to discipline herself over her gambling habits. 

My dad is an electrician, and makes very good money. Enough for them to own their own home, but there are times where she would actually take money out of my dads wallet, then proceed to work the slots or bingo cards at the casino. It has been an issue that our family has tried to address time &amp; time again but only seems to get worse. 

Every confrontation has ended in false promises, denial, and a sense that this is a habit that will continue to get worse if professional help is not sought after.

There was a point where we lost our storage unit that had personal family effects, like Christmas decorations gathered over the years since me and my siblings were babies, family photo albums, furniture, personal belongings, etc. Things that were special to us were all of a sudden sold off in that unit because she couldn't foot the bill that month. I would of helped, but i was away @ college and no knowledge of this until i came home for Christmas break only to find why all decorations and tree weren't set up. Dad couldn't pay it off either because the money that was supposed to foot the bill... went to you guessed it... my moms casino outings. That was a tough christmas. My mom of course apologized endlessly, but she even stated that they were just "material" possessions.

 To this day i am still bitter. 

My dad has confronted her about her habit, but he rationalizes her decision to go out to the casino as her "me time", and that in order to have a happy home, you have to have a happy wife. My mom states that when she goes to bingo nights it makes her happy, and fulfilled. I am deeply disturbed, and crushed that my own mother has to resort to gambling her money away to feel good. 

My parents actually sought out a financial guru to help solve some of their financial situations. Although reluctant, it was eventually revealed that my mom has an issue with her gambling. After some rough calculations, even the guru believed that with all the money my parents make, they could do away with their all their debt, within the next 5-7 yrs and habe raised their credit enough to be homeowners, but if her outings continue, they will forever stay where they are. 

My mom felt committed. And she was adamant to make changes. A month went by, but eventually she was right back where she always wanted to be. At the casino.

She used to ask me for money to help pay the rent, and i always gave her money, but then i found out that at one point she gambled with it, and lost. I felt betrayed. 

Since then i don't trust her with money. 

It hurts to understand that the woman who has always been there for you, raised you, clothed you, fed you, put a roof over your head, and taught you, has an issue. 

It was only when i turned 22 when things got worse, did i realize that mom is not who i thought she was. I always held her in such high regard as a child, but the level of respect for her has lowered a bit. I am ashamed to say that. But thats my truth.

 Is it wrong of me to think that? I do understand that no one is perfect. We are human. Everyone has vices. Me included. But i can't help but feel ashamed yet so frustrated that she gives in to those slot machines and bingo cards. 

When i confront her about it,  admittedly sometimes i go off the rails. I don't raise my voice, but i feel a sense of pity mixed with a loss of respect when addressing the issue. I don't like talking to her about it, so i usually avoid the topic altogether, unless i catch her dressed up ready to leave and she asks me for $20. I have no words.

AITA for not giving her money? Or for confronting her about her gambling issue? Should i leave her be? Idk what to do. 



