I’m 24, getting married in March next year, my younger brother is 20. We never got along until recent years, and it’s still a bit rocky due to him being an “ex” drug addict, and now an alcoholic. 

6 months ago he totaled his truck, due to reasons unknown to us, he says the brakes were going out and finally quit when he was taking a corner. At the same time, I had gotten a real good deal on a car at the dealership I go to, but I already had a car loan and didn’t really want to take on the extra payments.  I was talking to him about it a few days after his crash, he said he really needed a new car, and offered to take over my payments and I could get the new car. 

Now, at this point I DID have enough money to cover both, and I know he isn’t as financially stable or able as I. I considered the deal, and eventually accepted. Under the preface that if he ever got into financial trouble, to let me know before anything, because I could handle paying the payment on both cars for a few months if absolutely necessary.  He told me he was all good, working more than usual, and earning more spending money. 

Fast forward to last week, my other brother called to ask if I check out original brothers new car yet? Wtf? Call him up, says he ended up getting his girlfriends grandparents to give him a down payment and cosignature on a brand new truck. Ok cool, but whatabout the payments on the car I gave him? 

Turns out, according to my original loaners, he hadn’t made a single payment since I gave him the car, and was $1700 in the hole, they were sending it to collections and attempting to repossess it unless I got them $1500 up front. Now, the money isn’t a big deal to me. I put up the money to cover it, and the other brother wants it, but that’s a story for another day. 

The issue for me, is I am so close to being married, buying my first house, and starting my life, and he had no issue with letting my credit get rocked for the $8000 left on the car and not saying anything to me about it. He was 100% willing to continue on with letting the car get repossessed without even calling or sending a warning text to me. 

I’ve lost all respect and trust for the kid, I’m definitely not allowing him to be a groomsman anymore, which sucks, because I thought it would help us bond, but I’m also considering just not inviting him whatsoever. 

So, reddit, AITA or would I be for not inviting him, or making him a groomsman? 