I work in an office with 8 other ladies.   6 of us are very friendly with each other and work every single day togetther, we decided this year to do a Secret Santa with our group of 6 and drew names back in October.  The week of Thanksgiving our Manager &amp; Assistant manager sent an email asking if we all wanted to participate in Secret Santa this year with a $25 minimum.  The 6 of us all agreed that we did not want to buy gifts for the 3 people who never show up to work, are outwardly hostile and when they are at work just seem annoyed with us.  Most of the 6 declined their offer saying they didn't have the money to participate and it ended with a pithy email about how "sad" they are that this "great idea isn't going to happen".  Should we have added them to our own Secret Santa?  Are we all assholes?

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Also, when I declined Secret Santa I suggested that instead of us all buying gifts for each other that we didn't need, we could get a name of a child from the Township and be their Secret Santa.  The managers never responded to that idea.