So over a year ago I got into a fight with my mom that lead to us not talking. What happened was my husband and I used the free trial from Hulu for Live TV without telling her and then Hulu tried to charge her early for it. She called me screaming about it. I was supposed to tell her and that was my fault for not doing so and I apologized and told her we would pay her back the money for it because it was my fault. She said not to worry about it because the charge was reversed (because the trial wasn’t over, Hulu messed up).

The bigger fight started when she brought up getting an oil change for my car. Backstory on the car: I got an old car for my birthday from my grandparents that ran fine with my grandparents but basically as soon as I had it in my possession started to die. I could no longer afford to fix it so I started to think about getting a different car, because I was pregnant and would need it. I had no credit so I didn’t know where to start looking. My mom convinced me to sell my car and use that money to put towards a brand new car. My husband (boyfriend at the time) told me this was a bad idea, I should get a used car. My mom said, “you can’t finance used cars.” I believed her for some dumb reason. At the dealership I was told I can’t get the car in my name with no credit and I was ready to walk away but the sales guy and my mom convinced me to co sign. The conditions from my mom was that I let her see my daughter whenever she asked (which turned into every single day). So I let it happen.

My mom proceeded to threaten to take this car away a lot, but the hard truth was if she took it away, it would be harder for her to see my daughter (cause I would have to go north with my husband where he worked). She backed off every time. This time with the oil change, she demanded that we take it to the dealership to get it changed. It costs like $40, but I didn’t have to pay this the first oil change cause it was free. My husband (who I pushed my mom into because I was just done talking to her) told her we couldn’t  afford it and we would take it anywhere else for the oil change (we were in the process of moving as this was happening). She didn’t like that answer and proceeded to insult my husband and call him a bad father. His response was “your behavior makes it pretty hard for us to want you around our daughter.” I agreed with this response because she was being over the top. Her next message to me was “to lawyer up” because my husband just threatened to take my daughter away from her. She then called me and said CPS was on the way and the whole time at our apartment as she is taking the car and a dining table (she gave it as a gift cause she was throwing it away) she is screaming that CPS was coming and they would definitely take my daughter away from me because “just look at how you are dressed, you think you look like a fit mom?”

I told this whole long story to give you guys an idea of how my mom is. She holds gifts over my head and will gladly take them away if I don’t give her what she feels I owe her.

AITA for not wanting her to give Christmas gifts to my daughter?

TL;DR my mom is highly manipulative and holds gifts over my head and takes them away when she isn’t happy. AITA for refusing any future gifts?