I recently got out of a long relationship and now I’m back on the market. I’m 28F and looking for something serious, yet none of my dates have gone beyond the first or second date and it’s frustrating.

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. My friends think I’m being too “needy” but I think I’m actually doing the complete opposite. I’m 100% honest with the men I meet about what I want, who I am, what I expect in a relationship or potential partner. I’ve been hurt before and I’ve been trapped in abusive situations with losers and I’m not looking to waste my time with boys, basically. 

So now I verbalize exactly what I want and what I’m looking for. I shut down unwanted advances and I don’t hold anything back if/when the date does something I don’t like. I figure it’s better he knows now than if we end up dating for a while and fight over predictable stuff. 

AITA for being honest on early dates? I’m getting dejected because it seems impossible to find someone with the same viewpoint and desire to play no games. I’ve kept in contact with some nice men who I ended up befriending and they’re now all dating other women and I just don’t know why. I don’t know why they all end up turning me down for all sorts of reasons even though they’re looking for relationships too. AITA?