using a throwaway just incase any parties recgonize themselves.

I [17F] just recently got a SO [18M] and I'm planning on not telling my parents about him until they confront me, if ever. There are two reasons ultimately: I have privacy issues, and teasing issues. Let me explain:

As a kid, my parents are super protective of me. To the point where my father threatened to completely turn my phone off with when I was on youtube watching a staring contest video. There have been multiple incidents like that. Luckily, my dad has cooled off since, but with it I have privacy issues and anxiety. I have trouble telling anyone anything. I'm getting better I think, but they're still there. Infact, the stress of keeping my first SO hidden from my parents (I wasn't allowed to date yet) kept gnawing at me to the point that we eventually broke up. It's been three years.

Now onto the teasing.

My mom is a very big teaser. She likes to pick fun at nearly everything she can. Infact, my mom still refers to me by a name she used for me when I was a baby. In fifth grade when I had my first crush, my mom teased me relentlessly. Infact, she still does tease me over it.

When I was a baby, my grandfather and great uncle started referring to me with a rhyme, a two worded name. It was my first name, and another name that sounds similar to it (just change the first letter and you have the second word), similar to "Moose Goose". They still call me by this name. I'll explain more about the rhyme later.

Now here's where the teasing all ties together. I've known my SO for years, most of my life infact, so my mom already knows him. I know my mom would definitively tease me about him if she knew. Now here's where everything get's better. His last name is very very similar to the second word of the rhyme my grandfather and great uncle refer to me as. Since I've known my SO for most of my life, my grandfather and great uncle and mother all know his name. Infact, my mother is the only one of the three to refer to him by his first name instead of last name when talking about him. I don't blame my grandfather and great uncle for really only remembering his existence because of his name, but I wish they'd still think of his first name first.

I know that if my parents knew I was dating my SO, they'd treat the both of us, but mostly him, differently. I'm afraid of my mom teasing the both of us, both seperately and together. I'm afraid of my dad looking at him as a potential danger to his daughter, not someone who would make her happy.

Oh, and my SO knows two things I've listed this post. 1) My parents don't know, and I don't want them to know. 2) My mom teases me. Everything else I haven't told him, infact I haven't told him WHY or HOW my mom teases me. I want to, but I'm yet again afraid as to what he'll say about it.

So, Reddit, AITA?