My husband and I just got our taxes back today. Without going into specifics we got a good chunk of change back after working hard all year and claiming our 4 kids. We have a stack of old and current bills to pay which I agree, must come first. On top of that we just moved and owe for this house. My husband is all stressed out because he doesnt actually sit down and go over the numbers. I have. We easily have enough left to spend around 1500 to 2000 on a vehicle for me and our children that would be safe and realiable. (And also new enough to not look like a dumpster on the road, which is where I'm selfish) tonight I tried to talk to my husband about this but he cut me off and got all huffy about how I'm just going to do whatever I want anyway, and how I'm selfish for only thinking of myself. But I already went thru all the bills he asked me to, the house, and the appliances we had to replace and I know what we should be left with. I'm being realistic, I thought. He stomped off and went to bed angry because I'm just a selfish bitch. But keep in mind, we currently dont have a vehicle that runs and is large enough to fit our family of 6. We have a jeep that he drives, and our old broken down van. So am I am asshole for wanting to buy a new to me van that's safe, reliable, and looks nice? 