Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Hi guys.

For context:

My family has a timeshare, and for a long time we went on an almost yearly basis. Due to a bunch of reasons, we haven't gone in a few years.

Also, I recently started a business and I'm in the middle of shipping 400 orders. I should be done this week but it could also easily spill over into next week.

Anyway:

This morning my cousin contacted me and said she wants to go on a trip next week. I told her that the last minute timing might make things difficult, but I'd go - it's been a while and she has had a hard year so far, so I figured I'd make it work.

I tell I'll try to talk my mom into it, and the conversation ends.

Well, later, when my mom wakes up, before I can her she gets a call from my grandmother telling her about the trip. During the call, she mentioned that my cousin's best friend is going.

I have awful anxiety so around people I'm not related to I usually can't relax. My cousin also very specifically didn't tell me about this, despite the fact she mentioned the other people she was asking.

So between all the work I'm in the middle of doing, plus the fact I wasn't going to actually enjoy myself, I texted my cousin and let her know I didn't think I'd be going.

I did lead it off with "you didn't tell me Karen was going", and it may have sounded more accusatory than I meant to. I simply meant to tell her what new information made me reconsider going.

Anyway, I told my mom (who planned on not going either) and she told me I was being an asshole and should have lied and just said I couldn't go. While they have been true, I've always tried to be as honest as I can with people specifically *because* my mother lies a lot and I have complicit in her lies many times in the past.

I've already apologized to my cousin, in case I did upset her, so this is a purely academic question.

So, reddit - am I the asshole?