Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Context: Me and my girlfriend, let's call her Kate, have been together for 10 months. We are both 17. I had thought about a career in aviation but never really seriously considered it until she told me that's what she wants to do. I researched it and decided I want to be a pilot in the Air Force. 

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She joined Civil Air Patrol, which is an auxiliary of the USAF in January. It's a good way to get introduced to the aviation field and make connections and get the very basics of stuff like drill down, etc. I've been thinking about joining it myself because I want to be a part of something bigger than myself and I want to get a head start on anything that I can that'll help me in AFROTC and the AF itself. I told this to my girlfriend and she flipped out. She got super defensive and tried to talk me out of joining, saying that "you wouldn't like it" and "it would be weird" among other things. I told her that I didn't care if she thought I didn't like it and that if I thought it would help me in my career or getting into a college then I would do it. Then she told me that she didn't want me to join because it was her "escape away from everything" (the text she sent me said that word for word). 

She also sent me this.

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\&gt;"I wouldn't know how to help you be involved in everything. In the same breath that joining would give you freedom it limits me...because this is the one thing that is mine, and it's my escape from everything."

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I've just been so torn up about whether or not I'm being the asshole by wanting to join. It makes me sad because I think this might be something else that's wrong in our relationship manifesting itself into this one big problem. 