Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : so I have a phobia towards germs. I'm in therapy for it but as it is now i'm very averse to anything that may be dirty, I don't make direct contact with surfaces in public, dislike shaking hands and so forth. I also can't eat food prepared by someone who wasn't wearing gloves, so I don't go out to eat often and usually cook for myself.

i recently moved and was invited by my new neighbors, a young married couple, to their home to hang out and get to know eachother. i had asked in advance if they were asking me to dinner, using the excuse that i had a lot of food sensitivity so i'd have to politely decline. he said his wife may be cooking for them but he didn't plan it to be a dinner for the three of us which was good.

I went over and things were going well but as i was preparing to leave he told me what she was cooking because I smelled it and i made the mistake of talking about how i prepare that dish which let him know I'm not sensitive towards so my lie failed, and he said i should stay for dinner after all. i had just been watching his wife touch all the food by hand as she was preparing dinner and i got very bad anxiety at the thought of eating it. 

i know its an irrational phobia and her hands are clean, and i hate burdening other people, so i kept trying to find a way out of it until she came into the room and asked if i was that scared to try her cooking. i felt kind of trapped in the discussion and didn't want to be rude by continuing to lie so I admitted i have an irrational fear of germs and get very bad anxiety, that it isn't personal and i know she cleaned her hands but i can't eat food i don't cook myself.

she said "wow" and walked away from me and her husband told me I was being rude to come over and refuse to eat. I explained again it wasn't personal and that he had told me it wouldn't be a dinner so i hadn't planned on eating. he told me to leave and now when I see them outside they won't even acknowledge me.

AITA?