Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My girlfriend of around a year has depression and anxiety. She is taking medication for both of these and is seeing a therapist regularly. Next year she wants to go to university in the Netherlands, she currently lives in east Europe. I just started studying abroad and realised how difficult and expensive it really is to settle in in a different country. Note: This is her plan as was for a pretty long time. She is already looking into universities and applications.

Today I wanted to ask her how she has the whole moving and settling in process planned out because I wanted to give her advice. We don't talk a lot about money but I know her family is not well off. So I asked her if has planned this in-depth with her parents and what her plan is. (Note: she often just does things without her parents knowing and often gets in trouble by her mom for spending too much money) She tells me she is stressing enough already and I make her feels like a failure. I said that I was pretty short-sighted when it came to monthly budgeting and upfront costs of buying cutlery, dishes, etc. She just answers "Thank you very much".

Later she tells me that this had resurfaced her suicidal thoughts, that she cried for an entire evening and she couldn't get any work done.

Am I the asshole?