Hey guys, I’m using my throwaway again. My ex and I had a pretty nasty breakup which you can read about in my post history. I know I was completely in the wrong, and that my family was  racist and disrespectful. Since then, I’ve maintained my distance from her, but I really miss her. Honestly I think she was the one before I fucked everything up. Anyways I honestly feel as though my family has changed since the incident. My second cousin (who started this mess) has promised me that he won’t joke about her race anymore since he doesn’t want to offend her. My parents have promised to keep their distance and to stop joking about her parents. However, some of my female friends are warning me against doing this, telling me that they’d refuse to go and that I would be an asshole for springing this up on her. But it’s an all-expenses paid luxury getaway that will allow my ex to get to know my family better. I don’t really understand how inviting her would make me an asshole.