Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Here's the thing. We're both in our 20s but I'm a few years older and was never into the party/drinking thing to begin with. I don't really get the point of getting blackout drunk. He's not super into it either, but he will on average have a gaming and drinking or bar/club night with friends or roommates maybe once a week (depending, sometimes more sometimes nothing for 2-3 weeks) 

My issue is, he will almost always get REALLY drunk. The 'I'm not sure what happened last night, I woke up in my toilet, with puke in the sink , or in my bed covered in puke' level of drunk, at least half the time . This included a 'fun' night where he then later  told me he thought he kissed one of his female friends. 

He goes out with people who are (some anyway) much heavier drinkers (and he's a skinny guy who sometimes forgets to eat). One of his friends recently had to be picked up by an ambulance after just lying in the street, too drunk to walk home. It's a group of 21-28 year old guys (legal drinking age is 18 btw so he's been legal to drink for years now) and I don't expect him to not drink.. But we don't live near each other (long distance) and I'll get a bunch of 'help me' 'I'm so sick' 'I don't know where I am' texts at 2 or 3am... And, for example today, its now 3:30 pm and still no word from him after texting me that last night...

AITA if I try and talk to him about it or make a big deal out of it? On one hand he's an adult and I'm not his mother... And it's not a 'happens constantly' thing... But I'm tired of worrying whether or not he got home safe during/after he has a night out