Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My ex was everything I wanted in a partner except for ambitious.  That’s what proved to be our downfall.  He was a “kitchen assistant” at his uncle’s restaurant.  Basically washing dishes, bussing tables, and general cleaning.  I tried talking to him about looking for other work, something he could make a future in, but he was happy there.  

So I broke things off.  I thought it best to be straight forward with him about it.  He didn’t yell or cry or anything really until I had finished.  Then he coldly told me that he would eventually take over for his uncle when he retires and had been being trained on how to run the business for years, was that ambitious enough for me?   

I tried to say yes!  It was literally all I wanted was to know that he had his sights set higher than washing dishes for the rest of his life, but my ex kicked me out of his apt and wouldn’t have anything to do with me afterwards.  

The way it all played out has always bothered me.  He treated me like I was an “asshole” just because I wanted to know he had bigger plans for himself and us in the future. 