Hey all. Around July/August, my boyfriend of around two years broke up with me. It was after a series of toxic fights, my own insecurity, his gaslighting, and him throwing furniture. I was planning on breaking up with him, but he managed to “beat me to the punch” so to speak, and did it over text message.

At the time, I was relieved because neither of us were happy. I was insecure over him with other girls (something I ended up talking to someone for), and he is also depressed/has anxiety.  He tried reaching out to me a few times around the time of the initial break up, and always brought it back to things I did wrong/starting a fight. If I didn’t respond, he would keep blowing up my phone until I did - and would then start a fight.

Fast forward to now, I’m now dating someone else (and have been for three months) and am incredibly happy. Yesterday, my ex reached out to me - first asking about how my job is going.

To be honest, I was weirded out him reaching out and responded only vaguely in one word answers. I didn’t want any sort of fight to start, so I thought answering (but only vaguely) would be a happy medium.

Well, he was pissed about that and began saying things like “I guess you’d rather not talk, I’ll just go fuck myself then”. After that, I didn’t respond at all, which only made him mad. He starts going on about “how could I move on so quick” and if he meant anything to me, I’d help him get closure. I didn’t respond to anything.

Today, a mutual friend of ours who lives out of state texted me. He began by making small talk and then said that I need to talk to my ex because his anxiety and depression has been really bad and I owe it to him.

I really don’t want to, because it always ends up in a fight. But they make me feel like it’s my fault because he has a mental illness.

AITA?