Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : A little back story, I’ve struggled with eating disorders all my life and right now I’m at my heaviest weight ever (140, I’m 5’0 so it’s not sexy). My boyfriend knows I have these issues and basically shames me for having them. Sometimes he compares me the other women who have successfully completed a weight loss journey and asks why I can’t just be like them. Tells me how disgusting I am for making myself throw up, that kind of stuff.

To clarify my boyfriend doesn’t go to the gym and he doesn’t eat “healthy”, he has a pretty good metabolism. I’ve gone in and out of spurts where I’ve gone to the gym, and he has never gone with me.

I’ve been more conscious lately of my food choices and am really trying to do it the right way this time.

I had a bad day and he suggested going out for pizza so I wouldn’t have to cook tonight. I’ve been having an exceptionally bad time with depression lately and have had no desire to eat but knew my body was hungry so we went. 

(This is something he always does. Every time I start a diet he’ll try to talk me into eating out somewhere “bad” that I love, and he’ll continue to ask until I give in and grab my purse.)

When we got home he randomly says “so I got you a present..” to which I reply, “Oh, what’s that babe?” His response? “A gym membership”. I immediately burst into tears and ask him why he always tries to make things worse when he knows I’m struggling. (I wouldn’t normally react like this right away, but I recently started a new round of anti depressants and it’s been tough on my confidence)

He gets upset and says I’m over reacting and misinterpreting what he said. He’s now claiming he meant we should both get gym memberships and we should both start trying to be healthier.

I’m not against that, but that’s not what he said. I’d love to get healthier, and I have been trying to do so as stated previously. My problem isn’t the idea that he wants me to go to the gym, but the way he delivered the message.

Am I being petty? Am I... the asshole?