Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So for context, I love my mother-in-law, Marie, but she is at that age where she is just terrible with computers. As my day job is in IT I always die a little inside when I boot up her computer. Trying to make heads or tails of everything on her computer is enough to cause an aneurysm.

It's not just messy either. She gets hit by Spyware, Malware, and Ransomware almost weekly now. I've gotten countless phone calls from other family members or her saying that her files are all locked and she can't use the computer. Luckily I have a disk image I can restore to but it's still a process to go to her house and do it. The boiling point is when she bought $500 in prepaid credit cards to pay off a ransomware attack.

Talking to my wife, I suggested that we lock her computer down. Many schools do this with lab computers and it's admittingly not the greatest, but if it means someone who's not computer literate isn't exposed to these things. My wife loves the idea. So the next time we're over I tell her I'll help protect the computer and even tell her I'm going to limit access to things so she may notice some things won't open or run like they did before. She was hesitant but after working with her on it we agreed on a system that works for her.

I load up every tool I can think of to protect the machine (AdGuard, Veracrypt, Rollback Rx, Malwarebytes, etc) and incorporate a lot of group policies to lock down the machine. We're set!

For a month, nothing. I could finally relax and enjoy my life. Well last week I get a particularly nasty email from my wife's siblings and their SO's. Saying how I violated their moms privacy and are treating her like a child (which admittedly is kinda true but not in a mean way). I explain that none of them are helping her with these issues, and that it works for her. They start telling me that everyone has to do their part, which I agree with, but tell them if I can do this particular job more efficiently, then I will; and that if she has any issues getting basic functions done (i.e. going to facebook, paying bills, checking emails) then I can adjust the configuration but she's having no issues and is actually happier now as she doesn't have an out of service computer for days on end.

Still, the family insists that I'm the asshole and even went as far as to say I wasn't invited to a few upcoming events. So I guess the question is: Am I the asshole?