Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So me and my GF have been dating since October, and we live 2 cities apart (2-2:30 hrs) and I come to visit her every weekend (since I work during the week Monday - Friday), if not, every other weekend by car. Last time I was over at her place (so this last Sunday) I brought up the fact that I wanted her to come over to my place, because I needed a break from driving so much, and she got very sad and defensive by me asking her to do something like this. I asked her why it was a big issue for her, and I told her that I would pay for the bus/train fare, no problem, but she says that she can’t visit me because she’s scared of travelling on the bus/train for long periods of time. I didn’t want to make it obvious, but this has clearly upset me and I have been distancing myself more and more from her. To me, this is a huge red flag. A little background to this, I lost my car in an accident in November (due to snow, nasty situation) and for all of November and December, I used any methods, any means necessary to come out to see her. Bus, parents, co-worker carpooling, train, and the list goes on, so she has all the means to come and visit me at least once on any weekend she wants to, but she won't... I even had to walk to her place at one point which took a whole 30-40 mins (because I was carrying groceries for her out in the snow), and now that I’m asking her to come and visit me, she won’t. Also, since the snow is becoming a lot heavier these days, driving is an absolute nightmare, but I don't care because it's scarier to not be able to see her. I feel like in a relationship, both parties should pull their weight and if she really loves me like she says she does, it shouldn’t be a problem for her to come and visit me. WIBTA for wanting to breakup with her because of this?


Tl;dr: I drive to see my GF every weekend, if not, every other weekend, and when I asked her to come visit me, she says she won’t/can’t. Makes me feel like I’m pulling a lot more weight here than I should be, and I feel that what she is doing to me is very unfair.
