Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : TL;DR: Mum reacts badly to me coming out to her. She's now trying to help, by suggesting jobs and volunteering which are trans-friendly, and is upset that I don't want her help.


So I'm transgender, and a few days ago I talked to my parents about starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). It went about as well as you'd expect when talking to Asian, Catholic parents about these things ...


Some pretty hurtful things were said, including being told to go on antidepressants (I'm not depressed), and being told that I'm schizophrenic (I'm also not). My Mum also said that I wouldn't be able to go into engineering (what I'm studying at university) because there would be too much discrimination and no one would employ me.


After a day or two, my Mum suggested I go into law instead of engineering as I "have a niche in transgender rights which could be filled". She also suggested that I start going to and volunteering at a more trans-friendly church (which is Protestant, not Catholic) because it "would look good on a CV for the jobs you could go into", implying that apparently I want to go into human rights law.


I told her that I wasn't ready to forgive her for the things she said when I talked to her about HRT, and I don't want to change my career plans just because I'm transgender. She's started to act very hurt and won't talk to me about anything related to gender anymore.


Part of me stands by what I said, as she wasn’t being supportive in the way I'd like to be supported, on the other hand, I know she's probably trying her best in a really uncomfortable situation, and I could have just accepted her help, even if it wasn't the best, because she is trying.


So what do you think Reddit, AITA?


