Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So I (20F) and my best friend (20 MTF) have bee friends since our sophomore year of high school. I’m a third year currently attending a tech University just 2 hours away from home. 

Whenever I come visit, we usually get the topic of the future-relationships, money, etc. It’s fun for a while, but then I get worried. Ever since high school ended, my best friend has done nothing but work at a low paying retail job, in which he recently quit. 

He struggles with Gender Dysphoria daily, as he hasn’t started his transition, so I try my best to understand where he’s coming from, as a non-trans person. He complains often about not being able to find a job, and I understand completely. It’s hard to find a decent job that will hire you quickly, so it can be straight up frustrating, especially for him because his bosses from his last job went out of their way to misgender him, and I wouldn’t be surprised if that would happen to him at other jobs too. 

He is extremely intelligent, and he’s an artist, like me. Yet he doesn’t want to go to college. Sure, college isn’t for everyone. But, I wish he’d do SOMETHING that would help stabilize his future, rather than doing cheap commissions from people he knows on discord. 

If he continues to go on like this, he won’t have any money to do anything. No money to transition, no money to move out, or feed himself, and it worries me. I love him so much and don’t want him to feel helpless or kill himself from being overwhelmed.  

WIBTA for telling him he should learn a trade, or sign up for scholarships to go to school? With his art skills, he could easily get into a nice art school. However, he’s not very proactive when it comes to education, and at times it comes off as apathetic. Would I be an asshole for saying this, although his life is not my own, and college is obviously not for everyone? 