Title kinda says it all. This happened while we were still together. **He is no longer the most important person to me.** We were together for almost three years. I had an argument with him and I told him that he was the most important person to me.

That made him INCREDIBLY uncomfortable, and he told me that he shouldn’t be the most important to me, I should be the most important person to myself.

My thoughts on that are 1) does that really need to be said? Like, I feel like it should be implied that, after yourself, your partner is the most important person to you. 2) I feel like...if you truly love someone, *sometimes* their needs will come before your own and *sometimes* they will be more important to you than you are. It shouldn’t be that way all the time, but that will happen.

I explained that to him and he had no response, except that he was still incredibly uncomfortable with that idea. He also didn’t like saying “I love you” except for very rare occasions. Which, I get, but that hurt.

Am I the asshole for feeling hurt and angry over that? Or was he right and I’m wrong?