Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : A little bit of an introduction, both my ex and I are 17 and we just recently broke up a few weeks ago. The breakup hasn’t been very smooth, it’s been pretty hard on both of us, I won’t get into details but essentially we just haven’t spoken much. I didn’t take the break up well because to me it was kinda out of nowhere, I found it hard to just stop seeing and talking to the person I spoke to every day for over a year. 

Anyways, the past few days we started speaking more over the phone and on text, it was civil and at some points really nice. We spoke about making plans for her to come over to my house today to catch up. With everything that has been going on this made me pretty hopeful because I still love this girl and just a single day where I can express how I feel to her would be amazing.

Then we get to last night, she texted me around mid day and we had a chat for a bit til she asked me for space, and to not text her until later that night. I happily did that and decided to have my best mate over for some COD. Sometime over the night I posted an older picture of myself shirtless on Instagram. For a bit of context my insta only has people I actually know and family, so I thought no bi deal. A few hours later I get a call from the ex asking why I’ve posted the picture and if I’m moving on from her. I got defensive and asked her why it was a problem to her if we weren’t together and that I haven’t said a word about anything that she had posted on social media. At this point I kinda realised that if I kept the argument going it would just get worse and worse so I offered to delete the post, and in return she said something along the lines of “fuck you, you’re moving on, I never want to see you again”. I try to tell her that no, I’m not moving on and that id still love to see her tomorrow. The response I got was “fuck you I’m going to kill myself”. After a bit of back n forth with her saying multiple times that she’s going to kill herself and it’s all my fault, she blocks me. I go back inside and ask my friend who is good mates with her too to chat to her and calm her down. He got chewed out and blocked himself so at this point I got worried. Ex has a history of self harm and mental health issues so I took this seriously. I gave her a few more texts saying that I will call 000 unless she can call me and prove to me nothings going to happen. This probably came off as a threat to her but I was panicking and didn’t know what to do. I tried texting her parents to no response because at this point it was 4am

Ended up having to call 000 and explain the situation and they sent an ambo and cops to her place, waking up the whole house. She ended up having to explain that she was fine to her parents and the paramedics, who wanted to take her to the hospital regardless. The thing that makes this even worse is that she told everyone I told her to do it and that I’ve been harassing her the past couple weeks. I have text message proof of everything so I don’t know why she’d lie. The cops then told her parents that if I message any of their family to get an AVO on me. 

Pretty much this whole morning her parents have texted me saying that they’re really disappointed for me calling 000, which is fair. I’ve just tried to explain to them that I panicked and after being threatened with suicide what else am I meant to do, especially because she’s hurt herself in the past. Her parents then deny she’s ever harmed herself, which I know that they know of. Regardless, I apologised to them and explained that I didn’t mean to start any trouble and that I respect them, it’s just that I was real worried. 

I know I probably did a few things wrong throughout this whole thing, but I’m willing to admit that and try to change, am I the asshole?