Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Over the last few years I have had a lot of family deaths and met a lot of family at funerals I haven't seen in a long time.

One of them was my cousin. A college student recently married.

The man she married is a person who came to the US on a visa to go to school, when he finished school he decided he didn't want to leave, and convinced my cousin to marry him so he could have an easier time becoming a citizen.

They did not date before this, they do not have a relationship now, and after 2 years he has made no forward effort to become a legal citizen.

Now I wouldn't care if not for one detail my Dad and Aunt talked about with my brothers and I in the room.

The man my cousin married has purchased a stolen Social security number and is using it to work. So some person out there is probably have a hell of a time with the IRS right now.

Am I the asshole for getting upset about this? My dad offered (apparently) to play the big bad mean uncle and report him before they got married so that my aunt wouldn't have to worry about my cousin getting charged if he was caught, and says he won't do it now because she is family.

I have no such convictions, I've met this cousin maybe twice in my 20+ years of life, and what I know of her and him, and what I've experienced talking to both of them, is that they are not the nicest of people, and all I can think about is how right now, there might be some grandma, or some teenager with his first job, or some parent struggling out there because of his identity theft.

The odds of him being charged I think would be pretty high, and probably the same with my cousin (Accessory?)

So, Would I Be The Asshole for reporting the both of them?