I live in a college suite (kind of like an apartment) with 5 others girls, one of them being "J". There are 3 bedrooms and one shared living room. The last couple weeks, I had been bringing my boyfriend over to hang out 2-3 times a week (never to sleep over, just for 2-4 hours), around 6 times total. 3 of these times was a weekend, while the other 3 have been during the weekday. We don't make out on the couch, but we do cuddle and do forehead kisses as we watch tv.

I did not think that this was an outrageous amount of PDA, and the tv wasn't super loud but loud enough to be heard if you're in the living room. J had never communicated to me that she was uncomfortable with my boyfriend being around or me watching TV the whole time she had been living here. We don't have an unfriendly relationship, and I never gave her any indication that I didn't *want* to talk or be friends with her, we just never went past politeness.

Tonight, I was doing homework in the living room when she came in, and sat down and started doing homework or some schoolwork. Like ten minutes after she sat down, my boyfriend had come over and we sat on the couch, talked and I turned on the tv to watch a show. The volume was moderate, but my boyfriend and I were talking at normal volume.

When he went to the bathroom, she yelled "hey, do you have to watch that right now?" I said no, and I turned it off. I was kind of stunned, because she never talks to me, and that she was yelling. She then said "Well, aren't you going to apologize?" So I did, and I told her that I never meant to make her distracted/uncomfortable and that if she ever needed me to just hang out in my room, I understood.

She then yelled at me that "she shouldn't have to always tell me," despite not ever voicing any discomfort before. I apologized again, then I awkwardly sulked back to my room. In my experience a living room isn't a library-quiet space, so I hadn't thought to just watch the tv show on my earbuds, but I wasn't playing the show obnoxiously loud or talking loudly with my boyfriend. We have large desks in our bedrooms, and my roommate and I had always gone to our bedroom for a quiet place to do homework and study.

In hindsight, it was kind of an asshole move to have started watching tv while she was studying, as well as inviting my boyfriend and showing PDA in a shared living space. I totally understand why she was mad. But am I wrong to think she shouldn't have yelled at me? I'm not an unreasonable person, and if she had politely asked for some peace and quiet because she was studying I would've profusely apologized and gave her what she wanted.