AITA? 

{P- person who owns house 
T-boyfriend}

Okay so, I was at a friend's house for the football game. My boyfriend (T) stole some of their wine. When outside yelling at him (T) about it, the person (P) who owns the house came outside and yelled at us for making so much noise. I then got held by the throat for trying to tell the (p) person about my boyfriend stealing wine because I felt I was in the right for telling P (he would have been caught anyway, he stole half a bottle of Sherry and put the empty bottle in the fridge) because apparently I was too loud. (p held me by the throat and threw me on ice because he didn't care, was just upset about volume.
Now I am with my boyfriend (T) and he is blaming me and saying I am the asshole for ratting (T) him out, though I could not see how I could have NOT. The people (P and family)  would have noticed it being gone and would have blamed ME because I used to be homeless and had to steal for a living. And being held by the throat makes you wanna spill. So I did. 

My boyfriend only stole because he was sad because I had to go back to an abusive mom today. Didn't end up happening because of all this.
So am I the asshole?