I’m a teenage girl, that wanted to go to a birthday party of my cousin, same age. 
She wanted me to help her out with her party preperations and usually because her house is close to my dad’s work. He can easily give me a ride or pick me up from there.
So I really wanted to ride along with my dad, because I had to lend a big helium tank for my cousin which means i had to bring it. 

My dad however (who always was fine with bringing me) made a big deal out of it. He had to wake up “earlier” to bring me, because he already wakes up late. (My dad btw works as a private individual and owns the half of the place) 
so I just said he could wake up just a bit earlier, because it would just take 3 mins for him to bring me to her and go to work. My dad then said I was being egoistic and never was considerate of him. 

My mom later joined the conversation and asked him how can he be a dad if he doesn’t even want to bring his child. 
My dad kept saying we force him to do too much and didn’t chose this life and always jokes about leaving. Well that hurts you know. But my mom kept saying it was him that wanted a child. 
His argument: he was young and the first child (my sister) he wanted himself, however the second child (me) wasn’t his choice. It felt as a stupid argument, because once you’re a dad you will always be a dad. Having multiple children doesn’t change the fact that you have responsibilities. 

So after a while he then said: “okay, I’ll be leaving tomorrow at... “ but I was still infuriated by the fact he made a big deal out of it and said kinda ashole-y: “You know, I don’t want to sit in a car with such a person that doesn’t want to do the small things for his daughter” 
and walked away. So now I’m just going to take the public transport with a big helium tank.

I feel like I was kinda rude to my dad. But I also think my dad needs to know that he should be more responsible of his children, because all my life I remember him as a passive parent, smoking and gambling all the time. And because of that I’m beginning to dislike my father. But I don’t want a bad relationship with him. 

Tl;dl: Wanted to go to a birthday party close to my dad’s work. 
Had to bring a big tank that’s half my size. Father doesn’t want to bring me because he has to get up “earlier”. 
Said: “why not wake up earlier”. 
Proceeded calling me egoistic and later told me he didn’t want to have this life as dad. Then he invited me to ride after feeling forced. 
I answered that I didn’t want to sit in the car with that kind of a person that doesn’t love his daughter enough.

