 I’m a tomboy, and I always have been. I’ve never worn a dress willingly in my life, I wear boxer briefs, men’s jeans, men’s shirts. I don’t carry a purse, never have, I just keep my wallet and cellphone in my pockets. I don’t like being forced to be feminine. 

The only hugely feminine thing about me is my hair. It’s not too long, but it’s about armpit-length and I hate it. Majority of my friends are male and we like to play sports, and just having to tie it back and brush it out of my face is a pain. My long hair is inconvenient and ugly, and it gets caught everywhere, and it sheds, so I want it cut to look androgynous. 

However, my boyfriend is very against my decision, saying it will make him upset if I cut my hair. He’s afraid of me looking like a trans person/looking like a boy. 

He will say something like "I support your decision" and then two minutes later BEG me not to cut off my hair because he loves how it looks. He shaved his head almost two months ago without asking for my opinion, and although I did not entirely like it at first, he liked it and I grew on it. I told him he would most likely get used to my shorter hair, and he still wouldn't believe me.

He compared me cutting my hair to getting a face tattoo, when that's barely the case here. I've tried to tell him that hair grows back but he gets irrational and defensive, and says that he will really miss my hair and he would get sad if I cut it.