Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My girlfriend is still friends with her ex. I am ok with it because I trust her, and because they were just friends for over a year AFTER they broke up. So more recently they have just been friends, before I even came into the picture. HOWEVER, out of respect for me, she did stop hanging out with him. They occasionally message but basically since being with me, she has ceased almost all contact with him.

Anyway recently, my girlfriend was very upset about a few things. I'm not good at helping people who are upset. I'm pretty stoic and it's just not in my nature. So when she confided in me, I guess she didn't like my responses. She told me that I wasn't being helpful and that what I said came off as rude/uncaring. Basically SOMEHOW I made things worse. She stopped replying to my messages and so I just left it at that, thinking she will cool off.

Well I just found out now that she was just crying over the phone to her ex. She was telling him about the stuff she was upset about and was literally crying, which I don't understand, because she is the type who basically never cries. And given what happened to upset her, I just felt she was overreacting by crying.

Anyway, I know I said I was OK with her being friends with him. But I feel iffy about this, especially because she was upset at me at the time. I would prefer she went to a female friend, but she doesn't have other friends so maybe that's why. But I feel like what she did was not appropriate, especially since as I said, she basically stopped talking to that guy. Maybe like once a month they message to catch up and chit chat. It feels wrong to me but she said to me that I wasn't being helpful. I tried my best and don't know what else I could have done. She didn't have to storm off and ignore me when I tried to help her.