So my friend (15F) has been messaging an older guy (20M) that she knows from her youth group. 


I did not know how old this guy was until recently when she sent me screenshots of her messages with him on Instagram and he blatantly asked her out because he “liked her for awhile” and “thinks she’s pretty.” She said she only ever thought of him as a friend but could see a possibility of being with him if he were closer to her age. He said that maybe she’d be lucky enough to get a kiss from him. I found it quite disturbing and since the age gap was mentioned in the messages, I asked her exactly how much older he was compared to her. 

Looking out for her, I told her that it seems a little immature of him to hit on someone five years younger than him and that it sparks a red flag, especially since they’re both at completely different stages in life. She told me to not ruin this high for her and that he’s “pretty” and that I should stay out of her business. 

I don’t want anything bad to happen to her cause I care for her as a friend and I’d feel awful if I didn’t take this seriously. 

AITA in this situation?