Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway Account because I don’t want to be bombarded. I’ve been struggling, for lack of a better word, with this sentiment that is inside of me. After determining if I’m the Asshole, I may post additional details in Change My View in order to get more viewpoints. Feel free to attempt to change my view as well.


Back story:
Grew up in Middle Class America. My parents worked from nothing and earned everything they have, stellar examples. I was instilled with a hard work ethic and told that YOU determine YOUR quality of life. Prior to settling into my career, I’ve lived in a second/third world country for three years, lived across the country for a seasonal job, and lived pay check to paycheck. I’ve had as little as $15.00 in my account at times, I understand that feeling.

Through researching and deliberation with my parents, I decided to attend a community college. Got a two year degree with no school debt.

Followed my Father’s footsteps and joined the Blue Collar Company that he works for. I have full benefits, pension, and a salary that increases every year. Here’s the kicker, the company allows me to move horizontally or vertically. The higher I go, this Blue Collar job turns into a White Collar job. Oh, and they’ll pay for my bachelors. 

I’ve gone from living paycheck to paycheck, to having an account that continues to grow. I budget and live within my means. I also got married and bought a house that we’ll be in for the next 5-10 years. Retirement? My pension will max out at around 80% of my salary by the time I’m done. I’ve also got some little side investments.

There’s a lot more details I could share, but the point I’m getting at is that I earned what I currently have. Heaven forbid I lose my job tomorrow, I could support my families lifestyle and find another job within 1-3 months. 

Disclaimer - I may come off as a douche, but that’s not my intention. I am not intentionally bragging, I simply want to illustrate where I came from and what I’ve done. I am not a trust fund baby. Feel free to poke fun of though!


My “problem”:

I lack empathy for people who, by their own doing, failed to research schools, tuition, degrees, and careers. People now complain about “the system” when I feel that they forged their own fate.

 Did you really think you could get a degree in under water basketweaving and then waltz into some big wig corporate job? Why do you feel like a company owes you a entry level job or internship?

 You complain about your student loans, but YOU decided to live above your means and pay anywhere from $20,000-$80,000 for a university? Why?? Where does that make sense?

You work a low paying job, but drive an expensive vehicle. WHAT!? 

Right now, I do not have empathy for you. Your choices have forged your fate. Now, your fate is not SEALED (you can change it if you want), and yes you are now at a disadvantage, but it’s due to your own choices. 


With all sincerity, help me determine, see, and possibly change if I am The Asshole