Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : AITA for not getting my license while my wife drives.

This is a topic on my mind a lot, and I get judged quite a bit for it by my(29M) wife's (28F) family, as well as my own family.

When I was in high school, like most teenagers, I was looking forward to getting my license and driving. At 15 I started in drivers ED, and ended up passing the written test just fine. After that I began doing the driving practice, and I really struggled. Practicing was hard, specifically driving with my parents. My mom would freak out really easily, and I felt really nervous around my dad and definitely made a lot of mistakes. I eventually took a road test and failed, and that discouraged me for a few months, but then I got really dedicated to practicing, and tried again. I failed a second time due to the parallel parking.

I got really dedicated on the third time. My parents hired a private instructor, and I really tried my best. At this point though, I still did not feel like I was a good driver. I knew my weaknesses, and in certain high risk situations, my instincts were often incorrect, leading to a couple close calls.

On my third road test, things were going fine for the most part, but near the end, I ended up getting into a collision. On my road test. It was awful. It was entirely my fault, and I was extremely ashamed. Since then, I have not reattempted to take a road test.

The rest of my life has been largely unaffected. I lived on campus in university, so I had no need for a car (and no access to one to practice again for a road test) after that, I moved downtown and was within walking distance of my job. Currently I take public transit and it's not really an issue for me, and I'm pretty self sufficient without a car and can take Uber if I need too. I am a successful well adjusted adult.

I don't want to get a car, or my license, because I am concerned that I will get into an accident, harming myself, someone else, or potentially members of my family. The issue is that my wife has a car, and does all of the driving. Now, a part of me feels bad, that I should be sharing that responsibility, but I am legitimately concerned for our safety if I was driving. I don't want to deal with the judgement of our families, but I also don't want to put our future kids at risk while driving with me.

On the other hand, that will be a lot more responsibility for my wife if she has to drive the kids everywhere. I'm hoping that either I can find other ways to help out in the future.

TLDR; I'm a bad driver, and probably a risk to be on the road. I don't think I should get my license for my own safety, and the safety of others. I feel bad though, like I am not contributing enough by not getting it, and face judgement from extended family.

AITA for not wanting to drive?
