I had a nasty bug, wasn't sleeping etc. Had hoped it would clear up before the day of the party arrived, but instead had yet to get any sleep yet at 9am the morning of. I was told "Just stay in bed. I'm going to make this happen" (Normally I would be doing all the cooking/food prep) and promptly ignored for the rest of the day/night and never even checked on.

Being sick, I felt awful, looked awful, and likely smelled awful as well. As a result I didn't feel comfortable being anywhere but the bedroom for the 6+ loud hours people were there.

My partner was looking forward to the party, but I just feel more and more furious that no consideration was taken for me or how I was feeling.

Am I the asshole for working myself up so much over this?