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I (21F) have an ex (21M) that I met in college and have dated for two years until last August. Our relationship was amazing for two years and I even lived with him for the summer. I understand that he’s a really good person despite the relentless fights we had during the last 6 months of the relationship.

Our last 6 months together was in the summer and we even went on a trip. While the trip was fantastic, I realized there was huge problems in our relationship. 

For one, he was obsessively too caring? Not sure how I’d phrase it. For example, I have ADHD, so I have a HUGE problem leaving my stuff everywhere (phone, keys, wallet, etc). Instead of reassuring my of my lost items, he would get angry/mad that I would do such a thing. I’m also the type of person who wants to do everything myself, since I want to overcome my ADHD and not feel reliant on others to keep track of me. So as a caring person, he would offer to hold my stuff so I won’t lose it, but if I tell him no, he’d get angry. If I lost my stuff, I’d blame myself, and do what I can to retrieve it. 

In essence, his aggressiveness with my care, and my refusal for help really hindered our relationship.

Another problem with his aggression was that he’d get angry at me for no reason. 
Ex: one day he was playing fortnight (I know...) and lost. The next thing I know, he looked at me and yelled at me for just lying in bed for taking a break from homework (I never had a problem with late assignments, I was just tired). 
Ex2: He would also get mad at me for not giving him sex. We would have sex pretty often in the beginning, however as a busy person, I was never in need of constant sex. He attributed this to me not being attracted to him anymore despite me telling him that it was absolutely not true. I would often get scared a little for how angry he gets sometimes and even have provided sex when I wasn’t feeling it so he wouldn’t get mad.

We did confront eachother about our problems and tried to fix it but towards the end of the 6 months, I knew it wasn’t going to work out. 

I felt extremely bad because his family also hooked us up with plane tickets but it was never my intention to use him like that.

Anyways, we both agreed to end our relationship and possibly put it on hold. However, once I started to hang out with a guy I really had interest in (only a week later after we broke up) because he was so similar to me and the opposite from my ex. My reasoning to moving on fast was because I was already starting to dissociate from my ex for six months. Also I’ve been so happy around my new partner during my personal stressful period. 

After I told him
About the new dude, and that it was not just a “break” anymore, he became mad ad told me that if I really cared about him, I’d turn the other guy down. 

I was upset because I still saw my ex as a good person and didn’t want to end things on a bad term, but I also really saw a huge potential with the new person. 

He’s definitely not the asshole, I was just wondering if I was. And if I really am a bad person for moving on even if he told me that it would hurt him. 

AITA - for moving on for own happiness at the cost of my ex’s? 
 