My family has done a gift exchange my entire life.  Rather than include every member with a small gift, you "draw a name out of a hat" and get that person a larger gift.  Historically you were expected to spend $50-75 USD.  I've tried to opt out before, but my father convinced me to stay involved.  An opportunity to learn more about a member of the extended family.  Talk to more people in their life, get them something they really want.  Sounds ok to me. 

My issue is my aunt and her immediate family.  The four of them put no effort into it at all, as far as I can see.  I have had one of them get my name every year for the last 6, and have only given what they gave me, away to friends.  They have never contacted me or my family to check in with me, and I haven't seen any of them in several years.  

Part of the issue is there has been a stated price range.  I usually get my gifts from them with the tags still on, and never more than $30 in total.  So, I'm expected to spend $50+ on a personal gift for a family member I've gotten to know better for Christmas, and in return, I get non-returnable goods I don't need or want at below the expected value.  

I don't want to do it anymore, am I the asshole?