Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Okay so this has been weighing on me even after having discussed it with my immediate family so there is some background to this and I am ready for the truth Reddit. I have 2 cousins whom are both pregnant and both giving birth in the spring. One is pregnant with her 2nd child and the other is having her 1st. My cousin who is having her 1st child, I have always been closer to since we were little since we were only a year apart. The other had a really tough childhood where alcohol and absent parents were involved. Since childhood however, I have not kept contact with the majority of my family except for agreeing to go to at least one family gathering a year (Christmas, thanksgiving, a birthday or something similar). I have a large extended family and do not like large gatherings so this is always stressful but still important to me that I go to at least one. 

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When my 1st cousin had her first baby, of course there was a lot of excitement and attention given as well as gifts and for a person who didn't have that kind of thing when they were younger, I understand how much it meant to her. This pregnancy however, I had heard inklings that she was requesting my 2nd cousin to share her baby shower with her but wasn't sure so I ignored it because my extended family are also gossipers and I should know better at this point. Then I get an invitation on the book of faces for my first cousins 2nd baby shower. I of course put off responding because I was irritated that she would ask for more gifts after the amount our family had given her the 1st time around and felt she was being greedy. I let my aunt who was hosting the 2nd shower know that I would not be attending. She said that was fine and would let the 1st cousin known. I then get a text from the 1st cousin asking if I was going. I apologized, stated that I wasn't able to attend but sent my love and hoped to see her soon. She then replies that she wishes she could see me more and that she doesn't even want gifts, just the opportunity to see me more. (keep in mind that we have nothing in common and little to no relationship). I explained that I am busy with work and school and that I was sorry she was upset that I couldn't attend (I knew in my head where this was going). She then rebuts that with 'I'm in school full time with one baby and another on the way... are you going to 2nd cousin's baby shower?' I just stopped the conversation after that saying that I am not going to fight with her and that I had to go to bed as it was about 10pm at this point and I have to leave for work at about 6:30am. She sent another text later that night saying that she was sorry that she didn't have any siblings and was pregnant and hormonal and wanted to reach out. I have not responded.

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AITA for not giving in and going? I feel as though she was trying to guilt trip and manipulate by bringing up my other cousin and trying to put me in between a rock and a hard place with asking that. 