Hiya. I'm in my 20's and moved out over 2 years ago. I also lived in a dorm for my freshman year of college, and so I have generally not lived with my mother for a good chunk of the last few years.

Some background - my mom lives less than an hour away. She has always been overbearing in this kind of way but it has gotten worse since she's been with her boyfriend who she does not really get along with. I know she's not happy and that's why I feel bad, but it's getting to be too much.

She calls me almost every day and I don't like to talk on the phone. I work two jobs and am in my last semester of school. I'm busy and don't really have that much to talk about every single day or even multiple times a week. I'm just on that grind. I'd rather just text with her. She will call me when I'm at work ("I don't know your schedule"). I've expressed I'd rather text but she just generally will not. I'm not much of a phone talker in general. Then she will get mad and guilt me saying I'm ungrateful because "she just wants to talk to me," if I can't talk when she calls. I'm getting tired but feel too guilty trying to set some boundaries. I know she does mean well but I am getting stressed with this neuroticism. Am I being a bad daughter or asshole? I feel like I'm being a scapegoat right now but then I feel so guilty even typing this post out that idk.