My spouse and I have an ongoing disagreement about how the household chores are split. We both work full time. I commute 2.5 hours each day with a regular 8 hr workday and assuming I don't run any errands, am usually home by 5:20pm (out the door before 7am). Spouse works remotely (home office), but workdays are irregular and can often last until 8 or 9pm. 

Given the work schedules, spouse's household responsibilities consist primarily of taking out the trash and recycling, removing dishes from the table, loading the dishwasher, sorting their laundry, and picking up after themself. These total about 1 hr/week.

I take care of everything else. Meal planning, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning up after I cook, vacuuming, changing sheets/towels, and my own straightening/laundry sorting. I also take care of the smaller things - refilling soap/sugar etc, purchasing household items. This totals somewhere between 5.5 and 7 hrs/week, sometimes more. 

I get frustrated because, even working from home and with chores that take less time, spouse often doesn't get their chores done, and I have to handwash items to have a utensil or plate for my meal or the recycling will build up in the collection area. Spouse in turn gets frustrated because they think that since I work less and have time in the evenings to work out or relax, I should be doing some of their chores. I feel like we both live here and as members of a household, we both have responsibilities to maintain and fulfill, and while I'm fine helping out those weeks where things are particularly busy, it shouldn't be every week.

So AITA for expecting my spouse to take care of their chores and getting frustrated when they don't? 