Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Small bit of backstory: I'm the youngest of 3, older brothers +10 and +13 years older than me, and I'll be the first in our family to graduate with a Bachelor's. I did a lot of things backwards in life, pregnant at 16, graduated HS from alt ed, which my parents didn't attend (work out of town), nursing school, and now returning to school for a career change. I'm now happily married with two kids. We settled in an area about 8 hours from where I grew up. My parents ended up moving to the same city as us (to be near grandkids), and my brother2 also lives here too. I have a great relationship with my parents, my mom and I talk almost daily and they've helped me so much with raising my oldest and helping financially here and there in the last 10 years. 

My oldest brother (brother1) lives back home (8 hrs away) and is a massive republican - Alex Jones watching, qanon, rally going guy who I used to be close with but honestly have just grown apart with. We've had a few disagreements over the last couple of years and I just look at him in a different light. In my eyes, he's gone off the deep end and one of the tipping points was last summer - I sent my 11 year old to spend a few weeks with him over the summer and she came back and said he showed her Flat Earth YouTube videos, he wouldn't give me a straight answer on what other kind of shit he tried to show her but it was other conspiracy theory stuff. 

My parents and brother2 are republicans as well, and that's ok. People can believe different things and still get along, we just have an understanding to not talk politics. But I just feel anxiety and unhappy when it comes to thinking about my brother1 visiting. 

My graduation is coming up this May and I gave my parents a heads up as they're on a work assignment out of town. This graduation means so much to me because of my young pregnancy, I just feel like this is a massive milestone. My dad mentioned the other day that he let brother1 know about commencement and they were planning on coming up. I had planned on just not saying anything to them, they (brother1 and his wife) wouldn't know it was happening, wouldn't know they weren't invited. But now they're coming. 

I know my mom misses him and it sucks he doesn't talk to her as often but she gets in a frenzy when he comes up here to visit. Oh brother1 is coming! Let's do a bunch of stuff to keep brother1 occupied! I think she thinks maybe if we make it fun enough, he'll move up here someday.  Regardless, I don't want him at my commencement and had hoped for it to be just my parents and my husband and kids.

I let my mom know I had planned on not inviting brother1 and she got very upset. I told her I didn't mean to cause drama but I'd just be happier if it was just parents and my family. She said brother1 is my family and if I don't want him there, then I don't want my parents there because they are Trump supporters too. 

I'm considering not walking now. Some things can't be unsaid. :(


