So, let me begin with obligatory statement acknowledging that I am a novice, and to excuse if my post is done incorrectly.

Background first, I have been married just over 2 years and have a 1 year old. I work for the military and get paid well, but half of my income is from additional allowances for food, rent, etc. Financially my wife has never had a job that paid more than 20-30k a year, and is unable to comprehend how a budget works, so we tend to barely come out even every month (spend what I earn, minus contributions to 401k).

We have argued over this many times, but to summarize it I am putting it into one story: I haven't traveled out of the country in years and in a hope to start saving a bit each month I've brought up the idea of saving towards a fun trip (i.e. machu picchu, europe, south america, etc). After much thought, my wife came back with disneyworld or a week in Jamaica for an event for the band Hanson (yes they still exist and have a die hard fan base). I have been to disneyworld multiple times, even with my wife and our daughter will never remember a thing so I see that trip as a waste. I have also been to Jamaica, and am not interested in spending $4k to sit at a resort to occasionally see a band that I think is average.

For that same cost we could walk to mount everest base camp in nepal, or spend a week or two in spain/france. Am I an asshole for saying that Jamaica is a dumb waste of a trip? Granted when I am older, I am all for it, but at 33 I want to travel/explore the world. I also suggested she do Jamaica and I do my own hiking trip since the baby wouldn't be able to do that anyway. Unfortunately, I know me going anywhere on vacation alone would be the end of the world. Hell, I spent a month in the california desert for training living in a truck and my wife tried to say it counted as a vacation. 

I feel like my wife is a bit immature. She never left home until she married me, and her parents always lived above their means so it has been a tough adjustment for her. Saying that, we continually argue about the same BS, and I am interested to hear thoughts of others.