Is EVERYBODY wrong in the post ? POST :     So, back in April of 2018, my ex-girlfriend convinced me I could hypnotize her. Yeah, it sounds stupid but I was fairly convinced because she put up a good act and it convinced me because she had mental problems and I assumed my voice was soothing to where it could control her? Anyway, I had problems believing it myself so I was constantly asking her if it was real. One day, I got extra paranoid and I said, “ Are you lying to me? Promise to me you’re not lying, and I won’t get mad right here right now. If you tell me that you’re lying later, I’ll be mad and paranoid with you. “ Well she told me she wasn’t lying and then of course, A couple days  later she cut herself because she felt so bad about faking the hypnotism thing, and then she let me take the full blame for cutting herself. I thought I was responsible because I was putting a strain on her mind. She came out later to me that she was lying about it, and it wasn’t real and I just... I got so mad. I got so paranoid with her. I didn’t hate her, I still loved her but we made an agreement at that point we wouldn’t lie about anything big anymore because it would make us feel bad. 

    Now, what does she do again? She keeps things behind my back and lied about them, again! I became really paranoid towards her after that first lie, so I ask her if I can have access to her accounts and she, wanting to do anything she can to recover my trust, gave me access to her accounts. I scouted through them and low and behold, one of her messages sent to someone else was something about not telling me that she watched porn. I told her that she shouldn’t lie to me because it would make me irrationally angry and paranoid. I didn’t want to be like that, but it happened. We talked about how she lied about that too and she apologized and said sorry and didn’t think it was a big deal.  At this point, my paranoia just ramped up and I had constant thoughts of “did she hate me? was she using me? why does she do this?!”. I was always wondering if she was lying to me and it really screwed my brain up. At points, I would threaten to break up with her... as a test because if she cried then I thought it would give me a little closure on my paranoid brain. She did end up crying, and I ended up crying and apologizing to her and explaining it was to see if she loved me.  Also, her lying to me made me feel suicidal and betrayed at some points. I made it clear to her about that. 

    Anyway, she lied twice about two big things and my trust completely broke towards her and I became more harsh than ever and she broke off the relationship because she couldn’t handle how ill I was. Thing is, after she broke up and blocked me, she told her friends I was a psychopath. 
    So, reddit, am I the asshole? 