Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : When I came to school I had no friends as did most other people. I found a niche of people and we hung out a lot, eating together and hanging out. When school starts we all get busy so we don’t see each other as much. But our friend Ken always wants to hang out. The thing is, no one in our (decently large) friend group really likes Ken. Why? Because whenever we hang out he would say racist comments to an international student, transphobic comments to our trans friends, etc. and whenever he said a comment, someone in our group would say “hey, that wasn’t very nice,” to which he’d reply “oh, sorry” while chuckling. Except he didn’t change, he kept saying comments like that at every get together we had. He was rude, annoying and nobody really cared for him. But we weren’t about to tell him that as you can’t go around telling everybody you don’t like “hey, I don’t like you, stay away.” This went on for a couple of months. Eventually we started trying to give him subtle cues that we didn’t want him hanging around (not responding to texts, not showing up for dinner if he initiated it). And honestly, I felt bad that we were just ditching him as he had revealed plenty before how he “didn’t have any friends, dealt with depression, had a hard time making friends.” But every time I hung out with him I felt belittled. Then one day he starts texting one of the other friends in the group how he feels that our group is drifting apart and he doesn’t know why. He mentions that maybe people are avoiding him but brushes it off. So some of my friends and I sit him down and politely tell him that we don’t want him hanging out with us anymore and why (he’s said hurtful comments to numerous people). He was in denial the whole time and asked us to “list specific examples” of when this occurred. Obviously we can’t list a certain one as there were many times. Later that night he begins calling and texting everyone in our group saying he’s sorry. But by the next day he’s texted one of the friends who told him and accused them of “lying, I don’t know what you have against me but I’m tired of it, etc.” anyways, he didn’t take it well and has since left the school. 

I’m really stressed out about the whole situation and some of the friends in the group are turning on the people who told him, including me. Was this the right decision? 