Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Very long, telenovela-type story here. I meet a guy off Tinder, he’s an out-of-town medical resident visiting my city on a hospital rotation. We meet up a few times before he returns home (400 km away). I figure that’s that but he continues to text me daily and asks me to come visit him. So I do and I very stupidly have unprotected sex with him and take plan B the next day. He’s a doctor and I basically trust his judgement. 

Fast forward a few weeks later and I’m at my own doctor for a routine visit. She gets me to pee in a cup and I am shocked to find out I’m pregnant. At this point me and Tinder guy are still texting 20x a day. I call him immediately and tell him the news. 

Him: Well, you have to abort it right away.
Me: And what if I decide to keep it?
Him: Then never speak to me again. I don’t want to know the child exists. 

Clearly I should have ended contact with him then and there, but I was scared, hormonal and hopeful he would change his mind. We already have plans for me to visit him another weekend so I do so. During my visit he puts it in my head that we could have a long, happy relationship together - if I have the abortion. The cards are already stacked against me raising a child on my own so eventually I agree to terminate. 

Surprising no one but me, he ends it with me (over the phone) the day after the procedure. He cites work as the reason, saying he’s already on probation for some unethical stuff and he needs to focus on his residency. I accept the news calmly but start wondering what the hell this guy is up to. I look up his public record but can’t find his registration information anywhere. My friend helps and manages to dig up the fact that Tinder guy gave me a fake name, lied about his age and oh yeah — he’s married. I call him to confront him. 

Me: How would your wife feel if she knew about this? 
Him: You mean my ex? Yeah we’re separated. Go ahead and tell her. She probably won’t want to reconcile with me but whatever. 
Me: And what about your residency? What about your probation? What if I reported that you swipe Percocet and submit your own urine under a patient’s name so you can get faster test results? 
Him: Please don’t do that. (He starts crying) 

So I make the decision to call his wife’s office and leave a message with my name. She calls back thinking it’s work related. I tell her I want to talk to her about her husband, and she can call me from a private number if she wants to discuss it further. Basically I’m putting the ball in her court. Next thing I know, Tinder guy is calling me in a rage saying that I hurt his wife’s feelings, they’re back together and he told her everything. (Btw this is 2 days after he said they were separated.) I made her cry at work and he’s going to file a restraining order against me. 

I tell him not to worry, the next time he hears from me will be through a formal report. I file the complaint about his unethical dealings (faking his identity, taking narcotics from work, falsifying test results) and now I’m waiting for the state licensing board to schedule a hearing. 

So AITA for basically trying to ruin this guy’s life? On the one hand, his drug smuggling and lies didn’t bother me while we were seeing each other, so clearly I didn’t think they were THAT unethical. So I feel very conflicted having reported him out of spite (and probably misplaced hormonal feelings). On the other hand, he’s already on probation for “something else,” his ability to manipulate and lie to people is pretty worrying in a neurosurgeon, and it would be irresponsible not to report what I knew. 

TL, DR: Met a doctor guy on Tinder. He lied to me, got me pregnant and broke up with me after the abortion. I contact his wife and report his shady dealings to the medical licensing board. 