Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Long-ish!!! Apologies &amp; huge thanks in advance for anyone who makes it through!!

We've been together for \~3 years, live together, &amp; are deeply in love, but this is an argument I am very conflicted about &amp; I'd really appreciate an independent opinion. For context, he works Mon-Thu 9-5 at a stressful office job for a multi-national, multi-billion dollar company. He has been there for 5 years or so, is now a manager, &amp; makes 3+ times the amount I do. I am doing my PhD, am in my third &amp; final year, and I work largely from home. I have a supervision about once a month, and this is the extent of the conversation I have about my work with other people. I've tried talking to him about my work before (my PhD is in literature, and he is a reader, so it's ostensibly something he might be into), but he's never particularly interested and I'm not bothered enough about it to keep trying. I'm happy to just keep ploughing away, it doesn't really define me as a person and we both have plenty of shared interests/hobbies to talk about. 

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So recently, he has started a new role on a new project at his job. His old position had lasted 2 years, when usually roles in his company last only a couple of months. He got very good at it &amp; by the end was incredibly bored. He wasn't being challenged and was really struggling to find the motivation, so when he was offered this new role we were both ecstatic. His days seem much busier &amp; every day he comes home enthused about what he has been doing and tells me all about it. After having spent the whole day alone, I really relish these chats and make him a cup of tea so we can both sit together and debrief when he gets in. As with anything, there are bits I find more interesting than others: he is very science-minded and often tells me in great detail about certain structural or organisational issues which I nod and smile though, but he is also a very warm, caring person and has a lot of pastoral care responsibilities, which I find a lot more interesting. Today, for instance, he was telling me about how he was helping someone in his care at work who is having a difficult time personally, and I told him how impressed I was at how he had handled it &amp; we spent roughly 20 minutes discussing the other the ways he could help this person. His line of work can be very cold &amp; exploitative, and I am infinitely proud of the compassionate, caring environment he creates for the people in his care &amp; the extracurricular work he does on mental health care. After this, he started talking to me about a sticky organisational task he has been working on for a couple of weeks, which he truncated with "which I've done a really good job on". He's very self-assured &amp; has pretty great self-esteem, so thinking this was a bit braggy I replied, "oh, if you do say so yourself?"

And this is where the argument begins. Extra context: I am having a difficult time with my depression/anxiety at the moment. I am burnt out, am having significant issues with a psychiatric referral mix up and side effects from new medication, and am finding it's really affecting my productivity. The new anti-anxiety medication has completely ruined my sleep cycle, and as a result today after a sleepless night &amp; an uncomfortable medical procedure at the doctor's in the morning, I came home, decided to have a 30 minute nap to try &amp; recoup some energy for the afternoon's writing, and ended up sleeping through my alarm until around 4.30pm. I have a big meeting tomorrow and am now feeling extremely guilty/anxious about admitting to them I haven't been as productive as I should have been recently. My partner knows all about this, and is as always very understanding/helpful.

So, my partner begins telling me that actually, this organisational project IS really important, and he was disappointed that I wasn't more enthusiastic when he'd initially told me he'd finished it a few days ago. I apologised, saying I hadn't realised it was that significant as he hadn't really explained it fully. He offered to do so there &amp; then, but I said it was okay I would just take his word for it. At this point, we'd been talking about his day for half an hour or so as we were cooking/doing the washing up, and in honesty I was cranky from my unplanned nap, and a little bored of being talked at. He asked why not, and I said because it didn't really matter and I would just find learning about the nitty gritty of this situation dull. This, I admit, was rude of me. I apologised, but I couldn't in honesty take it back. I DO find it dull. I really enjoy listening to the ways he helps and cares for other people at work, and I'm always interested to hear about what his co-workers I have met &amp; know have been up to, but at the end of the day where I've been staring at books for 8 hours or just feeling guilty and unaccomplished, hearing him bigging up what an amazing job he's doing with an important Excel spreadsheet isn't my idea of relaxing. I try not to drone on to him about my work, because fundamentally it will always be less interesting to other people than it is to me, and that's okay. Also, as he has been busier recently his evenings have been very packed - we chat when he gets in, then he usually does a workout, showers, organises his lunch for the next day while I cook, and after we eat he plays video games to wind down until late, so I have been feeling a little neglected, and a bit desperate for some quality time together NOT talking about work or doing work ready for the next day.

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So, AITA? My head is so fogged with this depression slump &amp; new medication that I'm not sure if I'm just wholly in the wrong here. I feel very guilty for not being completely selfless and revelling in his success with him, and I feel like perhaps I feel jealous or as if he is "rubbing it in my face", which of course is wrong and a selfish way of seeing it, but I also feel that he is being unreasonable in his expectations of me, and maybe a little insensitive. Completely happy to hear any &amp; all opinions, &amp; TIA!!!!