Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I [25F] have a friend [29F] who is going through a hard time but not really doing anything to change their circumstances. She has been in a relationship she hasn’t wanted for a couple years now and has gone as far as cheating on him twice. But she won’t break up with him because she considers him her safety net. She also hates her job but is comfortable there so she won’t look for a new one. 

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She is clearly unhappy with her position in life and she takes it out on the people who are closest to her, me and the boyfriend. She constantly pushes me away, doesn’t respond to my texts (or responds with one word answers), makes jokes out of serious questions, and can be very manipulative/cruel when she gets angry. At points in our friendship she has "tested me" by telling me it's okay we reschedule and then getting mad and giving me the silent treatment when I do. She is also extremely jealous of the friendships that I have with other people and will give me the silent treatment when I start doing the same activities with them as I would with her.

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Lately she has started to make “jokes” about her death. Saying things along the lines of “what are you going to bury me in?” and “it won’t be long now, I’m not going to make it to 30.” These jokes are making me and other friends uncomfortable since she has a history of depression. When I told her that the jokes were stressing me out and I asked her if I needed to be concerned, she tried to make a joke out of it and gave me a vague answer. When I told her that I was looking for a serious answer she got upset and gave me the silent treatment for a week.

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To sum it all up, I am worried about her and I’ve tried to make that clear on several occasions (not just the one mentioned) but this relationship is starting to be stressful and I’m losing my patience. This is not the first time she has given me the cold shoulder when she is starting to enter a bad place because she is unhappy with her life. Would I be an asshole if I started to drift away knowing that she’s going through a hard time?