Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I work in a restaurant and recently we had a few people leave the kitchen and a few from the front. Now our owner, who also acts as manager and chef, is working a station on the line and still maintaining the kitchen prep and business while me and the one other cook left work our regular jobs and pick up the slack. We're also in a city where cooks are few and far between and the few interviews we've had don't show up to their first day. Seriously, like 5 people in a row. 

Thing is, I hate my job and have for almost a solid year, but I stayed because the money is decent and I didn't have another job to go to. However, that just changed. My fiancee got a full time job and I just lined up another position somewhere with better hours that's generally a better fit for me. My job now feels toxic for me, my coworkers are mean and mock each other for fun, the work is stressful, long hours mean that I don't see my fiancee as much as I'd like and I'm always tired because I never get enough sleep.

However, my chef is a good guy. He's a bit of a dick sometimes and he doesn't show me the kind of respect I feel I deserve, but he isn't an asshole and if I leave I might actually be the final nail in his restaurants coffin if he can't find people within a week of my leaving. He doesn't deserve to have his business destroyed is what I mean. Not to mention, I'm actually really close with the few of my coworkers that aren't jerks so leaving will completely ruin work for them, pumping up stress and generally ensuring nobody has a good time.

I know that what's best for me is leaving and you have to look out for number 1, I just feel like such an asshole doing it right now. The timing couldn't be worse.

So am I the asshole for leaving during the most stressful time of the year both in season and situation to do what's better for me in the long run?