Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Am iI the asshole for having thoughts, like vivid planning, of getting divirceddivorced over lscklack of sex? 

35m with my wife 30f with two kids. Been together ten years. 

Up until 18 months ago our sex life had ups and downs but was over all pretty good. Then one day it stopped, all intimacy stopped. We saw counselors, marriage and sex, and since then everything but sexuality has gotten better than ever, like really really awesome. Intimacy is a slow roll over the last 18 months, but still hardly at the cuddle for more than 10 minutes a week. Basically no sexuality, 3 quickies over the 18 months.

&amp;#x200B;

She says she's trying. She has anxiety issues and is incapable of the lead up, it's all end goal for her, but that means unless the world's align there is no start, I can't kiss her neck randomly, or graze my hand otherwise I'm pushed away and called annoying.

Over the last 6 weeks she has three times said we are going to do something more intimate, bath or more, but it wouldn't happen, it would be oh tomorrow, oh the next day, and then nothing.

&amp;#x200B;

If I bring up sex I'm the bad guy. I do everything that she's asked to help her, I don't know what else to do. I'm not even sure she realizes it's as big an issue for me as it is because it's literally the only thing we don't talk about, that I can't talk about. She thinks our relationship is perfect.

&amp;#x200B;

I feel like an asshole but think about seeing a lawyer more and more often.

&amp;#x200B;

Am I an asshole? 

&amp;#x200B;

&amp;#x200B;

Ps, I'm 99.99% sure she isn't seeing someone else. 