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So I’m a second semester freshman at my college, and throughout my entire first semester I was having a fair amount of issues with my roommate (whose name will remain unrevealed for the sake of her and me just in case she finds this and figures out it’s me).

She never paid for her half of the microfridge, which I asked her about a few times. She also would regularly use it for her own food, and would stick her disgusting, smelly fucking pizza (I swear I’ll never get a job at Dominoes with how much I ranted about it online) in the fridge and store it there for a week. After I started to sort of push her out by storing my food in there more and more (up to that point I had only put in a few water bottles), she starting leaving her pizza OUT in the room for around a week and a half at a time. I actually had to buy multiple, very strong air fresheners to block out the scent, but one time, near the beginning of the semester, it got so bad that I couldn’t fall asleep because the scent was causing my eyes to water. That too was something I addressed with her, and she even admitting to not liking Dominoes that much. Then, when I got back from winter break, while my mom was helping me get settled in again, she noticed just how filthy she had left the freezer and microwave. They were disgusting, and my mom even said that we would probably have to use an ice scraper to clean it.

She also continuously used her phone and played videos (a lot of which were really high pitched, annoying videos) without headphones, which I called her out for three times throughout the semester, and while she did stop for a bit, she started up again around the end. After one of my confrontations with her, SHE asked ME to not use my alarm (a Sonic alarm), which I need to use because of the fact that I’m a very heavy sleeper, who can’t wake up on time without it. My disabilities counselor (I have a fairly bad case of ADHD) even recommended it for me. She also was very loud when she was on the phone with her friends. Meanwhile, the one time I was getting into an argument with my parents on the phone (they were fighting about something while I was trying to get something done with their help), she told \*me\* to quiet down.

There are also other, minor things she did that annoyed me. She would knock my trash can over whenever it was near the middle of the room, so it would fall over and shit would fall out, but instead of picking it up she would just fucking leave it and all the shit that fell out all over the floor. She slept with her head on the side of the microwave (we had our beds aligned parallel against one of the walls , with the microfridge in the middle). This made it harder for me to use the microwave, especially because she would charge her phone using the microwave outlets. She seemed to have a 9:30 lights out policy, because she would always turn the light off around that time. which fucked with me because I’m a late night owl. She would use my fan which I had bought for myself during the heatwave we had at the beginning of the semester, and then have the audacity to point it at herself alone. When we were both up late working on something and our movement sensitive light would turn off, \*I\* would have to be the one to get up to turn it back on, even though she was on the side closest to the switch/sensor, because she would just let it stay off. Meanwhile, it was also harder to get it to turn back on because her stuff was in the way of the sensor.

Admittedly, I have my own issues that prevented me from addressing this with her directly most of the time. One of the symptoms of my aforementioned ADHD is that I have RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria), which causes me to have a sort of fear of rejection times ten. The thought of bringing up some of this with her, especially the minor things, actually causes my heart to start clenching up on itself. As for the things I have already addressed with her, I actually get more and more afraid to ask again the more I have to so, because the possibility of her getting angry at me gets larger in my mind the more I ask. I’m also afraid to bring it to my RA, because I’m afraid she’ll see my problems as being minor OR she’ll bring it up to my roommate and that’ll make things more tense. I also just had an internal issue with doing anything involving cleaning while she was in the room; it made me uncomfortable to do so. Also a side effect of my ADHD, I have SPD (sensory processing disorder) which causes me to either desire sensory input sometimes, or suffer from sensory overloads. This seems to mostly effect my auditory input especially. For example, I need there to be at least white noise in the background wherever I am, because the sound of silence is very unnerving to me. However, sudden loud noises, or more than two loud noises at once, or even the sound of someone talking to me while I’m in pain, cause my senses to go into absolutely overload, so my annoyance with her seeming lack of headphones is more along the lines of almost panic inducing at times.

Near the end of our first semester, I remember her telling me that she was probably not going to be coming back for the spring semester. I got excited. No roommate, and no more from her? I thought it was great. I didn’t tell her that mind you, but I still thought it. When winter break started, her name seemingly disappeared from where my it was supposed to be listed for indicating who my roommate was. It stayed that way for five whole weeks. I was beyond excited at this point. My mom told me that she had asked about it, and the housing department said that I might get another roommate at any given point, but if I got a new roommate while in the middle of the semester, they would inform me at least an hour ahead of time (and even the hour ones were just for emergency cases). Nothing changes for five weeks.

I get back from the break, and set all my stuff up. I get excited and maybe brag a bit to my friends that I don’t have a roommate. I got comfortable having my own space to go back to after a day of class. I liked being able to stay up till four am without worrying about staying really quiet for someone. I liked watching my shows with no headphones. I was happy. It was like this for five days.

Then, out of nowhere, after a very stressful day of dealing with my shitty fucking phone and slow ass computer, she walks in. No notification from the housing department. Nothing but a text from her saying “Jess?” And one of the first thing she says after she walks into my room? She tells me that she was gonna put something in MY fridge.

Am I the asshole for being angry about this whole situation? My friends don’t seem to and my parents don’t either, but my sibling Ray does, so I just wanna know. Sorry about the rant.