A little background. My wife and I are of different nationalities, and whereas she is still religious--in the sense she'll go on the holidays--I do not believe in God although I was raised and confirmed Catholic. (This isn't a religious debate so please keep that in mind). I was forced to go to weekly mass (at a Catholic school) and complete all the religious sacraments even though I told my parents, from a young age, that I don't believe in God. This belief was solidified over the years following so many things.

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When my wife and I got married, she kept her last names and I was fine with that, but there was the question of whose last name would the kids takeI love my wife dearly but I just couldn't see myself going through life with my children having two last names (I really don't know how to explain this one. I used to think that I'd be cool with pretty much whatever as long as my kids are healthy, but when the moment arrived there was something unexplainable to it). Probably very American of me, but it just didn't sit right. I was/am fine with her not taking my last name but it felt too much to ask of me to that we do things her culture's way in regards to our kids--at least for this theme.

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After months and months of long discussions, we finally came to a compromise. Our kids would take my last name, but they would be baptized in her religion. This was fine with me because I don't believe in God and she's still semi-religious. Unlike most compromises, where both sides feel like they got a bit screwed, we both came away feeling like we each got a win. Fast-forward to the present. We have one child and another on the way. Recently she asked me about their baptism and I reminded her of our arrangement, and mentioned that the baptism is her responsibility. She knows of my beliefs and stance towards God and religion. So, she looked into it. It didn't take her long to come back with some info, but I again reminded her that if she wants our kids baptized it's her choice and responsibility and that I'm not in the picture for that one because of my beliefs, or lack thereof.

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Well, it turns out that not only do both parents have to be present for the baptism, but I would have to take religious classes because I'm not her religion. There are two parts, come to find out, about this baptismal process that I refuse to do because of what I believe. Taking classes. 2.) I genuinely cannot bring myself to stand up at an altar and answer a priest in the affirmative that Yes, I do give this child to the kingdom of God. To me, that would be like saying, Yes, I give my child to nothing. (She got this info from talking with her priest).

Neither of us was aware of this process and we figured it was something she could do on her own. I won't do the classes, again, and I don't see myself up at the altar telling the priest that I give my child to God. So, WIBTA if I renege on a compromise made with my wife?