Some preamble...dishwasher politics are real people. Some say you have to scrub your plate clean before putting it in, some just go for it food particles and all, and some (like me) prefer to make sure all the big chunks and hard stains are gone but are just fine with essentially a quick rinse. My roommate falls in the first category, which I think is ridiculous like at that point just finish handwashing lol, but not a big deal- it doesn't harm me.  Now, let's get into the meat of the issue.

About three weeks ago our sink started filling up with black gunk, no draining, just filling whenever you turn on the dishwasher. On top of this, you can't even use the sink anymore because it won't drain. It was horrible. My roommate, let's call her Sarah, said that she was handy and could fix it and that we shouldn't pay for a plumber. I'm like whatever you got it, so two weeks later she wangjangles the pipes, and the sink is usable again. However, now whenever we use the dishwasher it coats all our dishes in delicious black gunk. YUM! The two of us are finally like enough is enough we're telling our landlady.

Next time our landlady comes over to show the place Sarah tells her the problem. Landlady says that the black gunk is from little food particles clogging the dishwasher and it's going to cost us 450 dollars to fix it. So Sarah comes up to me extremely miffed saying it's all my fault, I haven't cleaned the dishes well enough prior, and that she's had to rewash my dishes multiple times, which I know she hasn't because she exaggerates literally everything.  She's moving out in a week, my friend, and also very stressed out for a variety of reasons that are pretty much her own fucking fault (oh I have no money - proceeds to buy 100 dollars outfit and expensive wholes foods premade dinners, oh I might not pass these classes and graduate- proceeds to not do her work until the last minute, oh my boyfriend broke up with me- totally not her fault that's just a shitty situation heartbreak sucks.) But the point is I'm not trying to start a fight because it's not worth it so all I say is that I've rinsed my dishes and I'm not sure what the issue is ensue minor passive aggressive fight where she touts her rinsing abilities. 

However, I'm pissed about the whole situation! On top of this she keeps saying that I'm a pig and don't clean up after myself, which is just patently untrue. I put my shit in the dishwasher and take it out, I leave some stuff around the house, but so does she!  She's not some super clean freak either. There have been plenty of times where she's left shit in the sink for a couple days. I'm constantly putting her dishes in the dishwasher for her, but once she's got an idea in her head as being true she just fucking runs with it. I've asked my boyfriend if he's noticed me being messy because he's over all the time and idk maybe I'm just being defensive and he confirms yes I clean up after myself. Prior to not being able to use the sink dishes would not be left for over a night and a day. I wipe down the counters, don't leave food out, keep the bathroom clean, etc.  I'm not perfect, but I'm definitely not a pig and I'm not putting dishes into the dishwasher with massive amounts of gunk on them. Another example of her being fucking rude is a couple days ago I'm talking to some dude at my friends party, she comes over sits on my lap, and proceeds to tell him that I am a gross roommate. Like WTF?? Again tho I don't act confrontational. I just push her off and am like she's drunk. 

Minor digression, but I'm just trying to contextualize it that she has this mindset that I'm super dirty. Anyways, I think she's being a fucking asshole for immediately taking the landlady at her word and blaming me. 450 dollars? That's enough to replace the dishwasher, not fix it. On top of this, I have had crappy college kid dishwasher and never had this issue. At most there's been some clogging and issue with draining, to which I just whiped it out and voila problem solved. I get that she's stressed out for a variety of reasons, but I'm just so sick of her taking it out on me. She bitches at me all the time for literally nothing (for example, one time I was writing music downstairs, Sarah was asleep so I was quite literally whispering into my phone to be respectful, she comes downstairs agrees that I am being quiet, but asks that I stop because she can't sleep). My boyfriend fucking hates her because of it (so maybe not the most reliable source when backing me up, but he's the only one who's over my house as much as I and Sarah are.) All of our other friends didn't want to live with her because they knew she'd be drama and to be fair I have the highest tolerance for BS out of all our friends. I've been mostly able to brush off her bitchiness as her being stressed and going through a hard time and just ignoring it, but this dishwasher thing is getting under my skin. I don't want to be blamed for 450 dollars worth of damage for something that I just don't think is my fault!!

BUUUTT I did some research and the black gunk stuff is definitely from food. It's when food gets caught in the dishwasher and gets moldy, which can be easily cleaned with some elbow grease, vinegar, and bleach, according to youtube videos (definitely not worth the 450 landlady claims). However, there's no way it's all from me. Just the sheer amount implies that either the sink food got in there somehow, or it's built up food from multiple years. 

But maybe it is from me. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm not as clean as I think I am, so now for the counter-evidence. When I lived in the dorms I was definitely dirty, but I was also severely depressed. No dishes or anything, but I wasn't doing my laundry and certainly not a good roommate. When I ask her she says I'm messy. Sophomore year roommate, still severely depressed, said I was "semi-messy for her standards". She's a clean up right after you cook type of gal, but she confirms that the majority of the time I wouldn't leave my dishes for more than a day or two in the sink and that she never had to rewash my dishwasher dishes for me. Junior year roommate was a total pig, so he's not a great judge, and now here we are to senior year. The one thing I will admit I'm bad about is taking out the trash, but to be fair we have the smallest fucking trashcan in the world and it's annoying to have to take it out literally every other day. 

I still feel like she had no right to come up with guns a blazin so hard and to be calling me a pig and shit. I'm not going to do anything about it because I think she's just stressed and taking it out on me, but am I the bad roommate or is she? 

Tell me guys, am I the asshole????

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