Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : As long as my Fiancé (who we will call Jon) and I have been planning our wedding, he has expressed that all he wants is a simple elopement on a beach. Just the two of us exchanging vows and committing to spend our lives together. 


Due to our family that is not an option. Everyone wants to be there. As such, we have planned a big wedding that neither of us really wants. 


Jon’s sister (who we will call Emma) is getting married 9 months before us in Mexico. She is getting married on the second day of our trip. 


The rest of the family will be arriving/leaving earlier than us, and we are all doing our own thing outside of the wedding. Jon and I will be staying at a different resort than the rest of the family to save money.


I came up with the idea yesterday that maybe Jon and I should have our own private symbolic ceremony during our trip to Mexico for Emma’s wedding. 


In my mind, I don’t see why the two of us can’t head down to the beach one morning, and exchange vows in the way that both of us have always wanted. I figure as long as it is a private ceremony between the two of us, it won’t be a big deal. 


We wouldn’t tell anyone, and we would go still go through with our wedding in the winter. There would be no witnesses, so it wouldn’t even be a legal ceremony.


When I suggested this to Jon, he laughed at me. 


He said there was no point in doing a symbolic ceremony since we are spending so much money on our “real” wedding. He also told me that it was a really shitty thing to do to Emma, and that it would take away from her big day. 


I told him that this is what we’ve always wanted, and would be free since we are already paying to be there for Emma’s wedding. Also since we wouldn’t tell anyone, it wouldn’t matter. In my world, this is the perfect way to have the intimate ceremony we have always wanted, with the big ceremony/reception for our families sake.


So, AITA for wanting to get “married” during future sister-in-law’s wedding?