Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST :  I am 26 years old and currently at the point in my life where I have an established career in the city I live in and happen to live in a one bedroom apartment by myself.

Sometimes, friends from out of town will tell me that they’re coming to visit my area and ask whether I would be open to hosting them. 

I’ve hosted people before, and find that it involves a lot of physical and mental labor. Often times, I have to be the one to not only wash/clean/prep my apartment for their arrival, but also drive them around, pay for meals as the host or cook them meals, pick up from airport/drive to airport, clean up/wash sheets afterwards, etc. Doing stuff like this is exhausting and also financially a strain.

I live in a one bedroom that is very small and the only place that a guest could sleep in is on the small sofa, which I imagine is not that comfortable. I don’t even have space for a dining table, so I eat on the coffee table. My bathroom isn’t the nicest (apartment needs to be renovated) as well.

One friend from another state told me that she was close by to my city, only 3 hours away, visiting another friend. She brought up the prospect of visiting me, with the assumption that I would be hosting. 

She gave me a one week notice, I’m sure she has known about this trip for a while but we didn’t arrange for anything on my end.

She hinted that her friend was encouraging her to visit me for 2-3 days so that she can get out of his house for a bit. (She’s visiting him for 2 weeks.) 

When she originally asked, I said that I would be open to hosting her. However, upon giving this more thought, I’m having doubts and don’t want to go through all the work of hosting her. If she were to arrange her own accommodations, I would love to spend quality time with her!

WIBTA If I told her that I wouldn’t be available to host? I can brainstorm some alternatives but I’m sure she’d be disappointed. Thank you for reading my post! 