Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST :  So, I’ll try to make this as unbiased as I can. It all started at a debate competition my friend and I were at. It was a usual debate competition, where there were 5 rounds, and between each round there was about an hour long break. Anyway, our second round was about to begin, so my friend and I head up to the classroom where it will we’ll debate. When we approach the classroom, we can see that there’s still a debate going on, so I take a seat on the staircase nearby and my friend follows. Time passes, and I get bored, so as a time filler, I start fooling around. I tell my friend random jokes on from my phone, but then I get bored from that. We had now been waiting for 30 minutes, and the teams debating before us still hadn’t finished. Now, this is where the all the drama started. I start making weird noises on the staircase, and my friend starts laughing. He calls me an ‘autist’ and pulls out his camera to record me. I keep doing it, because it’s amusing both of us, but then I stop being weird, and he stops filming. He says that he’s going to post it on a group chat, and I tell him to stop, but he does it anyway. I ask him to show me the video, he says no, and that I can see it on the group chat. I leave the topic alone, and I continue on with the competition. After the competition, I check my phone, and only one person has responded to the video. The person responds, “Hey I’ve seen a special ed kid at school who looks like him(she was referring to me).” I get pretty offended by this text, but I assumed she was trying out new humor, since the video that my friend posted didn’t include him calling me an autist, and the person who responded to the video was quite against using words like retard and autist to describe something bad. I passive aggressively try to attack the person by mocking them and their sense of humor. They constantly claim that they were not joking and I get mad. Before I can say anything else, another person jumps into the conversation. This person, or person B, is best friends with person A(the person who responded to the video). Person B asks for an explanation of the video, and I tell them everything that happened. Person B then starts ranting on the group chat about how it’s wrong to use autist and retard like that. Under normal circumstances, I would’ve heard her out and agreed, however this time I didn’t because she was aiming the entire lecture at me, and I didn’t believe that i had done anything wrong. I attempt to disregard all of her points by responding ‘lmao’ to each text, and she then calls be a bastard for being a bystander in this entire situation. 

So this is the dilemma. 
- Am I really a bystander if I was the one being made fun of.
- Shouldn’t Person A also be accused because they assumed I was being a special ed kid, even though the video didn’t have the words autist or retard in it?