Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : tl;dr Friend is on a self-destructive path. I threaten to not be there if he doesn’t go get help.

I have a friend, and I’m one of his best friends if not his best friend.

Recently, he has been talking to me about his issues and feelings because his LDR ex-girlfriend and him broke up over communication issues. Without getting too much into it, this seemed to have triggered some underlying problems my friend already had with a traumatic childhood. He told me he cuts himself, and I have been trying to help him as best as I can with talking. I go to college in another city, so I conferred with another friend who lives near him.

Anyways, a few days ago, I received a Snapchat of cuts on his hand. After freaking out and texting him a lot, I decided to text his dad. It turns out that his dad already knew because someone had called the police on my friend. He sent that snap to a lot of people apparently. Fast forward, we pick him up from the hospital with his dad, and his dad leaves him with my friends and me to talk.

We tried to get him to go see someone at his college, but he thinks that he can handle this himself. Obviously, we don’t really trust him, but we can’t really do anything but try to reason with him. It doesn’t go anywhere. He told us “maybe but probably not.”

So, he wanted to go home, and I drove him home alone. This is where this post comes in. I was upset and frustrated and stressed. I told him that I was considering not being friends with him because he was refusing to get some help. He told me that he doesn’t need it, and he really didn’t like that everyone reacted and wasted his time. I then told him how I couldn’t deal with this, and I really can’t stand to see him go through this alone. I’m not going to say I know what’s best for him because I have no experience in any of this. But I really can’t. He finished with “ok so leave me like everyone else in my life did,” and that made me feel really guilty.

I texted him after saying that I wouldn’t leave him. I’d support him, but I’d highly prefer if he’d get some help. He finally decided to compromise, and he said he’d get help not because he needed it but for his friends.

So, AITA for considering not talking to him because he won’t get help? We’re on good terms now, but this haunts me when I go to sleep.