Background: Back in November 2018, a friend who was evicted from her apartment needed a place to stay. My husband and I offered her our spare room till she can get a new place. The problem is, she only bathes in the upstairs sink *ghetto style*. (Our shower is in the basement) She used the shower once, last month and was in there for an hour.

Husband complains she stinks. She smokes and the cigs she smokes are horrendous- her clothing reeks of it, however, there's a definite B.O. issue underlying. Particularly during "that time of month". Even our cats don't want to be near her then.

 Husband asked me to say something to her about it, for he's as blunt as a sledgehammer, so if he's the one to approach the subject, he won't be kind.

I'm trying to figure out how to put it to her diplomatically without hurting her feelings. She has deep self esteem and body image issues stemming from ((the bot won't permit me to list the why here))