Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My family is going on vacation in a few months. My sister+BIL are paying for themselves, my mom offered to pay for me. I thanked her numerous times. Yesterday, my mom sent me flight info. I was at work so I didn't really look at it. My mom texted me:
  
&gt; Mom: Did you get my email?  
Me: About the trip? Yeah  
Mom: And not a single thank you? Jeez. Whatever.  
  
She had sent this info before, and I had already thanked her for then. That's not an excuse, b/c saying thank you is free. I replied something like this:  
  
&gt; Me: I didn't look at it too closely, and to be fair, I did thank you before. But I'm sorry, I was at work when I got the email, and by the time I got home, I had already kind of forgotten about it. But thank you.  
&gt; Her: Your sister and you are ungrateful. Whatever.  
  
I asked my sister:  
  
&gt; Me: What'd you do?  
Her: I was home yesterday and used her iPad, logged in and forgot to log out. She called me saying to fix it, how could you do this to me, fix this now, etc. She was hysterical and I hung up. I sent her a screenshot showing her how to logout. But she called me back and called me a bitch, ungrateful, etc.  
  
After this, I texted my mom back and told her that I appreciate everything, I didn't mean to hurt her feelings, etc. She accepted that but started calling my sister selfish, spoiled, and mean.   
  
I said something like "Maybe she was selfish at the moment, but I don't think she's a selfish person, and she is a nice person. But even nice people can be mean sometimes."  
  
My mom replies saying that she wouldn't help her with her iPad, she hung up on her, and my sister needs to respect and help her parents.  
  
I reply and say it was wrong to hang up, but she was just frustrated. But she did come back and help you, she just needed to calm down for a minute.    
  
My mom says I always take my sisters side and that my mind is already made up. She says my dad, her, and my BIL are all starting to get fed up with my sister.  
  
I said "It's not fair to speak for BIL. You're being unreasonable, you have to realize that other people have feelings too, and that (sisters) intent wasn't to hurt your feelings, she was just upset at the time, just like you. You called her names, she said mean things to you, nobody is innocent here. If you want to see (niece and nephew) you've got to go through (sister).  
  
I kept trying to tell her to view the situation from my sisters POV. Eventually, I got fed up and said something like "I don't want to talk to you while you're being like this. Please don't text me anymore."  
  
She replies saying that she's hopeless, she'll cut contact, she's cancelling the vacation, she's not coming for easter, etc. I said you're not hopeless, stop beating yourself up. But also stop feeling sorry for yourself, you're always seeking validation. You need to love herself for who you are and not for what other people think of you.  
