Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Two years ago, I was walking home through my neighbourhood with my friend at about midnight. We were approached by a group of nine guys who surrounded us, and before I know it I was on the ground, blood everywhere, completely dazed and confused, having the living sh*t kicked out of me by myself as my friend managed to get away when the first punch was thrown. I ended up in hospital having headscans and assessments as the doctors were worried about possible damage to my head. 

I didn’t realise it for about a year, but I have pretty bad PTSD-like symptoms from this, and I’ve been trying to get over this experience ever since. Two weeks ago I walked home from my girlfriends house who lives about 15 minutes away, at around midnight again. I saw the silhouettes of a group of guys ahead of me on the road, and I had what I’d class as maybe my first ever panic attack? I froze completely, legs went to jelly, and was overcome by fear before quickly running and hiding behind a parked car. I had to call my mom to come and pick me up as I couldn’t move.

Since that night two weeks ago there has been two attack’s on men walking by themselves in my neighbourhood, similar to what happened to me originally. 

Last night my girlfriend was out with friends drinking and decided to get the bus home instead of a taxi, even though I had told her a taxi would be much safer. When she got off the bus, she called me and basically wanted me to walk to meet her, walk her the 3-4 minute walk back to her house from the bus, and then for me to walk home alone, all at about midnight. She knows about the attack, she knows how badly it has affected me, and yet she still wanted me to do this. 

I told her that Im really sorry but I just couldn’t make myself do it as I’m really struggling with it at the moment. My car is in the garage so couldn’t drive to pick her up, which she also knew about. I offered to hop in my moms car with my mom (I’m not insured on it to drive it alone) to come get her to drop her home, and she went crazy at me for even suggesting that.

She went on to tell me that there are certain things a boyfriend are EXPECTED to do, that it’s the male’s job in a relationship, and basically went through how I’m flawed as a SO. Even after I explained the situation again, about how when I even offered a solution she rejected it as it wasn’t exactly what she wanted, she refused to see it from my point of view. 

I understand why she would want that, but I feel like she’s not even coming close to considering my needs and feelings. 

Am I the asshole here?