Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Two bits of background: I (m24) recently broke up with my girlfriend (f25) of 3 years because she was abusive and manipulative. She belittled me, threw things at me, and would try to convince me I was making it seem worse than it really was.  Also my father died of pneumonia when I was 5 and I do not remember a thing about him. I was raised by my mother who did damn good job. We have a solid, positive relationship and we've never had a blowup fight like this before now.

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I told my mom about the break up and about why, without getting to specific. My mom  was upset because she really liked my GF and hoped we would eventually marry. I told her that while I was still upset now, I didn't doubt that I would find someone else, thinking she was just worrying about my being lonely.

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My mom then told me that she hated how people “treat relationships like paper towels” and throw them away as soon as things get a little rough. I told her a little more about , letting her know that it wasn't on a whim that I had left her. My mom told me that If we had stayed together my ex would have probably stopped the abuse and we could have settled down together. I was getting kind of mad now because my mother was telling me I should have stayed in an abusive relationship. I told her that abuses don't usually stop abusing and if we had married, did she want her grandkids being raised by an abuser? She kept shrugging it off and saying we could have worked things out.

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Then I asked her if she would stay in a relationship with a man who called her an idiot and threw things at her. She said if she hadn't, I would never have been born, because when she married my father he did hit her a few times. I was shocked because I had only ever heard good things said about my father. She told me that if they ever got into fights it sometimes ended with a slap across the face, but that after she had me, he almost never hit her.

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I was still pretty pissed from the rest of the conversation and said “If any of that is true, then no, you should not have stayed with that bastard long enough to have me.”  She flipped the fuck out and started yelling at me that he was a good man and would have been a good father to me.  I said I was probably better off without his influence in my life.  We kept arguing and soon I just left and went home. This was yesterday evening and I haven't talked to my mother yet today and don't know what to say. I know she's wrong for trying to defend two abusers. I also know that what I said really upset her. I feel bad about making her feel bad, but I really did mean what I said.  AITA?