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My father was physically abusive to both myself and my mother, my first memory is of him hitting me. After they split he only made one swing at me when I was 15, but acted really creepy towards me, including following all of my buses home from college on his bike without me knowing, and checking me after I showered (up to when I was a teenager) to make sure I was “clean enough”, once making me shower four times in a row because I didn’t meet his standards. (Him calling me “faggot” every five minutes was mild in comparison.)

My mother became increasingly overbearing - walking me to and from school (when I was a teenager), and even as I got older I wasn’t allowed to dress myself, choosing my outfits every morning down to the socks. As I matured it became more and more of a burden. She didn’t have very much luck with men, and when she eventually got rejected, used me as a kind of emotional leaning post, telling me it’s my job “to make your mother feel better”. I was always happy to cheer her up, but constantly taking care of her when she got dumped seemed almost pointless, as she never let me cry to her like this, telling me to “man up”. Just before I turned 11, she got a job as a catering assistant at my school, originally I thought nothing of it but she eventually got contact numbers for all of my teachers, and spoke to my head of year regularly to make sure I wasn’t “causing any trouble”.

She later got with this guy (we’ll call him P) in late 2013, and very quickly moved in with him, taking me with her. Right from the beginning P only let me eat one meal a day, locked me in the house while nobody else was in, blocked me from the Internet (when I had assignments due) and made me shower in cold water (I was a “drain on resources”). He took my TV away, as well as my phone and laptop every night. Mum never stepped in, and when P eventually kicked me out, spent the entire night crying and begging HIM not to leave her.

I eventually found out that when she moved out with P, she took all the money from my savings account (in early 2014). I also happened to find out that they got themselves into £20k’s worth of debt by taking out loans they couldn’t afford to pay back, ending up with a county court summons. (Not helped by P’s refusal to get a job for over a year). I firmly believe that they only wanted me there to help them pay their rent and bills.

I don’t blame my mum for what’s happened to her, but I don’t think I can ever forgive her for just standing by while my mental state got worse and worse.

I live in a house share a few miles away, but I’ve secured a place at a university even further away and I plan on moving near there, and changing my number and email address without telling them. I feel awful for even thinking about it, but it’s my last resort and I feel the only way that I can actually be happy.

TL;DR: Parents were dicks, mum stole money from me and wouldn’t support me, I want to cut all contact with them