Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Sorry if I explain this horribly but hear me out—

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So my girlfriend (19f) and I (19m) have been together for \~4 years now. Both of us have always been on the chunky side, but never *fat.* Our stomachs never hang over our jeans, and we're fairly conscious about what we eat. Before we lived together, when I was 17/18 I would go to the gym regularly every day as a part of counseling, to try and improve my appearance and work on getting over severe social anxiety. I loved it, I'd just put in some headphones and watch Flash or something on Netflix while running. 

I got a new desk job when I turned 18, and I've been here since. A couple weeks after I got hired, I stopped going to the gym completely. Since then, I've been careful with what I eat as I knew to stop my normal workout routine would have some negative side effects. I sure as hell lost basically all my muscle mass, and put on about 10 pounds over a year+.

Back at the beginning of this month, I began going to the gym regularly 4 days a week with a longtime friend of mine (19m). I never was into the idea of working out *with* someone, but for 9 years he's always been my anchor whenever I have to be in public, helping me leave or fix a situation where I'd likely make it worse or freak out. He basically helps me realize I'm not alone in this vast sea of people. And he's not really *out of shape,* I mean he's kinda pear-ish but he wants to improve his heart. He also doesn't really talk to many people unless they approach him first. 

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Since I've been going again, my lady friend has been constantly asking to go with me and getting upset whenever I say no. I've explained time and time again I don't want her to watch me work out, and to be 100% transparent, I'm not extremely comfortable in public with her. She's so friendly and loves talking to strangers, and I'm always just standing there avoiding eye contact or looking like an idiot. She knows I have issues, but she doesn't necessarily take them seriously.

The gym has always been the one place for me where I feel comfortable, and like I don't *have* to interact with a single soul except the front desk workers. This has been perfect for me. People pretend I don't exist, and I return the favor. It's *ideal.*

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So finally, **am I the asshole for not wanting to go to the gym with my girlfriend, because I'm afraid she'll bring unwanted attention to me?**