Been dating her about 8 months now. She has some issues with her dad from her past that have caused some affection issues as well as issues with expressing emotion that have both caused problems in our relationship. For example, hugging family members or anyone other than myself makes her extremely uncomfortable and come time around thanksgiving and Christmas she gets a bit bitter and depressed. I am a very understanding person and genuinely want to help her and help our relationship. 

About 5 weeks ago I suggested she go see a therapist. I did so in a very respectful way and she was extremely open to the idea and agreed she needed to. She even asked her mom to send her some names of people she could see (her mom knows people in the field). 

Fast forward to today I have mentioned it to her a couple times since then in passing just to check on where she’s at with it. Both times she said has names but hasn’t made an appointment. Today I made it a little more clear how serious I was about this and how important it was for not only her but for our relationship as well. She got a bit irritated and said to not bother her about it and that she didn’t want to. I got a bit frustrated and told her that she needed to make it a priority because those issues were bleeding into our relationship. She reluctantly said she would go. She has a habit of avoiding uncomfortable things like this so I feel like that may have been what she was doing.

I kind of feel like an asshole but I’m not sure. What do you all think?