Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So my friend and I met years ago online and we roleplay, like basically write stories together and we have years worth of original works together and that’s what sparked our friendship and holds it together, it’s like our thing in common and what we do. I have a very very one track mind. I can’t do multiple hobbies at the same time because I put 110% effort into what I do. My friends grandmother died, so I’m ready to give her the space or whatever she needs, and I still message her regularly about daily life and stuff, but it’s obvious our hobby together will be put on hold. I have no problem with this as I respect her and her need to grieve, but I’m 110% into this hobby right now as in when I’m not working and she’s busy I’ll literally sometimes nap in order to “fast forward” time to when she is available. I have plenty of other hobbies I could be doing, but giving my all to something else such as gaming means I won’t be able to get back into the mindset to do this for a little while if I absorb all my free time when I’m not working into games with another friend. 

Basically, I have nothing to do now that she’s taking some time away, so would I be the asshole for throwing myself into another one of my interests knowing full well that when she’s ready to do things with me again, I’ll have moved on for the time being and will be giving my attention and time to different people? I still text her regularly about day to day stuff, but all I do is work, so I don’t usually have anything interesting to say. 

I don’t want her to feel like it’s her fault for not writing with me while she’s obviously grieving, because I don’t expect her to, but I also don’t want to just wait for her to finish and waste my days off work doing nothing :( 