Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Backstory:
My soon to he exhusband was abusive and a cheater. He is in the military, and I caught him sexting and owning a tinder account while deployed back in January. He also had multiple affairs before this, that I dumbly forgave. We almost got divorced over a year ago as well, when the cops were called when he assaulted me at a party in front of multiple people. He manipulated me in going back to him, as at the time I was jobless and homeless, and constantly pressured me into coming back as I pretty much had nowhere else to go.

Now, two months later, I live with my grandparents. We are seperated as in my state, you have to live seperately for a year to get divorced. In my state it is legal to see other people while seperated (I haven't)

I started talking to someone who is very kind, but they live an hour and a half away. We want to meet up sometime soon, and have both expressed interests in eachother. However, based on my past traumas, I feel very nervous that if I begin seeing someone, he would get angry and find a way to mess with my life. He constantly posts my photos on social media expressing how much he misses me. Constantly messages me about how sorry he is and how sad he now has nothing to come home to after deployment.

I am 100% over him, no chance of ever taking him back. EVER. However, because of his manipulation I feel very worried that somehow i AM the asshole. He knows i want to see other people and constantly calls me, messages me, and etc crying. Am I the asshole, wibta if I end up dating someone. even if it's not the gentleman who has been talking to me. For all I know, we just end up good friends. But a lot can happen in a year and I worry that somehow I would be the asshole moving on and finding someone new.
