Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My wife and I have been together for roughly 10 years (dating/marriage). I have told her throughout the course of our relationship I don't really like being the center of attention. We've been to several people's surprise birthday parties. I always express to her later how I would never want one since I would have to feign enjoyment about being surprised. She agrees and says she would never do that because she knows I wouldn't like it. 30th birthday approaching she told me that she was planning on a birthday vacation for us, but wouldn't tell me where. I was fine with it assuming she stayed on budget idc where we go. Several months later, we arrive in Vegas and are surprised by a couple friend of ours also showing up as a surprise. OK fine we enjoy hanging out with them surprise over. Several hours later walking through hotel lobby. Surprise half of my family is there. Am I the asshole for being upset? 