I've been with this girl since december 2018. She's a great girl with a wonderful and chill personality. She is everything I want in a girlfriend. She is pretty, supportive, chill, not the jealous type, not clingy etc. However, recently I started to get feelings of breaking up. Here are my reasons why.

Firstly, we have different lifestyles and goals. I believe that since she was brought up in a, I would say, super strict way she lacks confidence in herself. To me personally, that was not a really attractive trait to me. As part of her upbringing, she is also very introverted and socially awkward sometimes. These are things I can totally understand, but for me to envision a long term relationship with them would be very difficult. When we would go out on dates it would be pretty predictable each time. I enjoy her company during the dates however I did not particularly find the dates enjoyable or fun. I asked her about her goals and she seemed uncertain and always mentioned her parents during the conversation. I did not learn these things the few weeks before we made it official. To me she seems like someone I can really trust and rely on for support but not in a girlfriend way.

Secondly, I mentioned above she had strict parents. I know, I have only been dating for about 4 months and her parents have no reason to trust a 20 year old boy. However, her parents have really strict rules for her to live by. For example, she can't leave the house to go out on dates every week. One day she mentioned that I should come hang out at her house more often. I told her, sure, let me know when you're alone and we can hangout. She replies with why do we have to be alone. This kinda hit me. Her house is also fully monitored by cctvs which makes me feel very uncomfortable. She also expects me to come hangout in her house when her parents are home which also makes me feel uncomfortable. For example this semester break I was planning to bring her to the countryside to sight see and distress however when I hinted toward the subject she stated her parents would not allow that to happen which I mean I kinda understood but was really disappointed.

You might be thinking why I have not brought these issues up with her. Well, the problems I mentioned were as follows, lifestyle, goals and parents. I do not by any means want anyone to change their life, goals or relationship with their parents just to fit my needs. That to me is just horrible. To me, I feel like we do not fit well together. I feel that a clean and respectful talk is needed between us tomorrow and I hope she can respect my decision on breaking up. It's unfair to put her through this any longer. I cannot force love in my opinion it happens naturally, and well, I can't seem to find that love for her.

Did I judge to quickly and aita for breaking up for these reasons and right before her bday.