Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hey guys. Need some input on this situation, judge away. I'm so so sorry if it's hard to understand :/

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So me and this girl. Let's call her Janet, were really good friends all throughout school (don't want to give away my age but I'm out of school now). We were both on and off friends with a girl named Nancy who was just crazy, I mean she tried to choke someone in front of me when we were very young and for years showed no remorse just said "Well he had it coming". A couple years before this we ditched her for a good 2 years, took her back because hindsight 20/20 we were both extremely mentally unstable.

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Anyways towards the end of our last year we all started falling out. Our other friend got into a fight with Nancy and that was the final straw that I just ditched them all because I figured, oh well. Graduation is right around the corner and I'll meet some new people. I was also being extremely abused at home (like I don't want to talk about it but I'm really slutty now and the abuse explains why...) so that was just another factor that I didn't give a shit and was super depressed. I know that's not an excuse, because Janet was there with me through *everything* but you know when things like that happen you isolate yourself so you don't have to talk about it. But she was also friends with Nancy which is like :/ uh no she's super toxic and stuff.

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After graduation she tried to reconnect with me but I was still depressed, still living with my parents so still being abused, and just didn't want to be friends with anyone really.

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So now this year, it's been a little while. I have more freedom and while I can't say I'm in a better place I'm in a much more social one. I notice she has me added on a social media site I use (she added me first) and she's also friends with some of my close friends because she's still a student in a city nearby us. So I send her a message saying "hey. sorry we fell out. I was having some problems with Nancy and just not doing my best. I don't expect you to want to, but if you do lets be friends?"

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And she responds "Oh sure! I don't hold it against you!"

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Then we send a few messages and then she just ghosts me. Uh ouch. I figure she just doesn't want to be friends? Ok I can deal lol.

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One day I'm hanging out with aforementioned close friends she's friends with and since she's in town she decides to stop by and get lunch with us. I try to play nice and stuff and make a few jokes about when we were in school, ask her how the commute is from our city to her's etc. But she just rolls her eyes, gives a passive aggressive response or acts like I don't exist. So basically I think that's the final nail on the coffin. We aren't ever going to be friends again lol.

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But-Reddit. Who was at fault? I think it was me because she wanted to reconnect but I rejected her, which was a shitty thing for me to do. But on the other hand maybe it was just inveitable?