Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Alright, so roughly been with this girl on and off for two months. (She's an abuse victim, so there have been a lot of breaks.)

We get along really well in person, but things spiral over text quickly. Anyway, she has two kids one of which is in the hospital due to health issues. I've been more than happy to take her and go up there with her, and even surprise visit her up there because I want to be supportive; there's never been a time where I've said no to visiting the hospital this far.

So the holidays are here, I have family in town. I call her and ask: "hey would you like to come to dinner with us, and if you want after you can spend the night." She says yes, okay.

Go pick her and her eldest up, go to dinner, everything is good. After dinner, I walk out and my dad asks what we are doing - and I said "nothing, we are going home, we will see you there."

So, I get in the car with her, she calls her folks to see if she can spend the night. (She lives with her emotionally abusive grandparents.) They say sure. Okay. So we drive back to her place to pick up some sleeping supplies for her and her eldest then head back home - it's at this point she asks: "Can we go to the hospital?" 

And I said no, because:
1. It's already pretty late and I have work tomorrow.
2. I told my father/family we are heading back home; so I feel obligated.
3. I asked her if she wanted to go to dinner and to spend the night - that was the plan and what we both agreed to. If she wanted to do something more I'm not sure why she wouldn't have brought it up. 

So, she says okay and such, we go home - cuddle and talk for about an hour and go to bed; no issue. 

Next morning take her home, no issue so far but as soon as she gets in the door her grandparents asks how the hospital was and I could see a switch flip in her. We go back outside to say bye, I can tell she's upset so I ask what is going on; she says she's upset about not going to the hospital. 

In my mind, she had plenty of opportunities to say something along the lines of: Well, then I want to go home so I can go to the hospital. Or, It's really important to me or I'll be upset if we don't go, etc. Especially considering we had to drive to her house already where she could have stayed and gone to the hospital. 

Instead, she bottled this up and acted like everything was fine. 

Noting: I have never said no to going before - even when she's brought it up last minute before without mentioning it. I actually rather enjoy going up there and seeing her being all motherly and the last time we went she taught me how to calm the baby down so - rewarding. I've also apologized for the instance even though I didn't really feel like it was my bad and have explained my position to her.

So, am I the asshole for saying no?