My wife has developed anxiety in the last few years. She has gone to therapy (which helped),  but gave up because she didn't like the results. She has asked me for help before but dismisses *literally every single* thing I research and offer as an idea. I have bought books recommended various types of meditation, CBT, the works. She doesn't even try.

This has really got me thinking. I understand that anxiety isn't something that gets better in a day, but she expects a magic pill. I don't want to raise kids that learns anxious tendencies, or that you should just give up on yourself. I want to tell her that I want to see her work on her anxiety for two years consistently every day before we start trying to have kids. 

How I would actually go about this? I have no idea. 

Knowing what anxiety is I feel pretty bad about the idea.