Mannn there’s a lot of context to this situation, I typed most of it but I just want to be direct and make this easy for anyone reading.

My mother and I aren’t on good terms. In my opinion it’s because we are both fucked in the head, in her opinion, In the only one with issues...

So after over a year of almost no communication from my family I started cutting social media ties and changed my phone number.

Find some self help groups, read some books, start looking at the world differently. 

Eventually, my mom gets in touch with me. 

I try to explain that I’m not just some nice push over anymore, and I’m really upset with a lot of the decisions she made in my youth, which she just takes personally and Tried to flip the power dynamic and play the victim. 

I also explain I’m trying to grow and get my shit together, and one of the things to do that is increase freedom.

I want a passport and if possible a second residency, as well as more connections to provide me options in life. 

A man lives and dies by his options.

Well every time I ask her his name, she ignores me and doesn’t reply. (Talking via text). I explained to her why I am asking for this info, and it doesn’t help.

I could see that since he abandoned us, he could still be a piece of shit, but it’s been almost 30 years.

I wanna make the man choose and be a piece of shot to me. Not some random chick from work he accidentally got knocked up.

Worse possible scenario, he tells me fuck off.... 

And considering how much my other family doesn’t speak to me, why not. 
