My wife was at a friends at the weekend and the friends husband got too drunk and told my wife about the incident on my stag weekend, 18 months ago, about us both being caught by a doorman taking coke in the toilet of a nightclub. (He conveniently left out the part about him taking drugs)

The doorman couldn’t have been nicer about it to be fair. Just told us to stop it and maybe move on to a different club if that’s what we came here to do. We left and nothing more was said. Guy even recommended a few other bars as we walked out.

The next day my wife’s giving me a lectures about irresponsible it was. She knows I’ve taken drugs socially in the past and never really cared. All I keep hearing is what it id been arrested and charged with possession, what if the bouncers has beaten me up, what if her family had found out about it...?

I’ve explained it was 18 months ago. Nothing bad happened. Nothing like that has happened since and I don’t plan on taking coke again because I’m now married with a kid and put my family before anything else. 

She’s dragging this on and on, and says I should have told her as soon and I got home and need to be 100% honest straight away about things like that. It makes her wonder what else I’ve not told her. (Which is nothing because I’m actually a fairly boring guy)

Am I the asshole for not telling straight away?  Which would have potentially cancelled my wedding going by how she’s reacted 18 months on. 