Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST :  TL;DR at bottom.

I'm a childless female in my early thirties, dating a man in his late twenties. His daughter is 8. During the school year, he has her every other weekend and one evening a week.

He comes from a very close knit family. They are very active and involved in their children's lives. His daughter is in many extracurricular activities. In the 3 years we have been dating, she has been in 4H, cheerleading, tumbling, basketball, and almost year round softball. This past summer and fall, she played on 3 softball teams. I honestly did not know this was possible. 

I am not a social person. I don't like crowds or loud noises. In all honesty, I especially dislike crowds of children. I frequently attend her games and practices anyway. She often asks me to go and I love her. 

It also feels like my boyfriend expects me to be there. His parents usually coached his teams. My mother attended some games but usually dropped me off to practices. She attended some games and was the only member of my family to do so. This is normal to me. In contrast, the daughter's first basketball game this season had 11 people attending to watch her.


I think it would be acceptable to attend 2 or 3 games of each sport per season. I'm honestly not sure how many I attend now. It varies depending on my work schedule. My boyfriend seems to think I attend less frequently (at least in relation to the total number of events) than I do.

AITA for kind of hating these activities? WIBTA if I go less frequently while trying to make sure this little girl knows I love her?

TL;DR: boyfriend's daughter is very active in extracurricular activities and his tight knit family attends (what seems to me) an unusual number of them. AITA/WIBTA if I go less frequently? 

For the record, I consider myself the only potential asshole here.



