Okay so my mother passed away in February 2017. She had a 12 hour surgery to repair a life long hernia situation. For months she worked out and ate healthy to reach the proper weight for this life changing surgery.

The day comes and 12 hours later the surgery was a smashing success! This 50 year old woman kicked ass and her doctors were beyond exicted as was my whole family. 

She returns home for recovery (doc recommended a rehab facility, stubborn mom refused) she declined and invited her older brother and younger sister to care for her. Younger sister (my aunt) was a nurse and she would be charged with cleaning the surgery site and dressing it...but she neglected it and my mom got an infection...the infection led to her death.

Now on her death day my aunt was a sobbing mess and I consoled her, my mom would have wanted me to forgive her and I felt that her neglect was something I could overlook...mostly because she didn't mean to cause the infection but she skirted the proper wound care and if she only kept her clean she would have recovered and I'd still have a mother. So AITA for still being upset at her and holding her responsibile for my mothers death?