Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway account - My husband (31M) has Tourette Syndrome (TS) ([Link, in case you don't know what it is](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/tourette-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20350465)) and we’ve been together 12 years now, so I’ve seen how much it controls his life, and his is a mild case. Aside from his tic, he has OCD and can often have a major panic attack if he can’t grasp a concept or gets lost driving around, has to go somewhere unfamiliar, etc. (he gets very angry, where our son and I will have to avoid talking to him, etc. or he will blow up.) and it seems to be getting worse as we get older (not better as it tends to do). Over the last couple of years, he’s also stopped showing much emotion and due to emotional abuse from my parents, my brain convinces me he hates me (or maybe he does, idk.) He doesn’t get excited much anymore and, in a way, it’s killing me too. I feel like our relationship is suffering due to this and when I’ve asked him about it, he has said that if he gets too excited, etc. his TS acts up and he can start to tic uncontrollably. I’ve only witnessed this happen to him twice within and it’s very upsetting for anyone involved (his tic is a cough btw, so during one of these spells he literally cannot stop coughing. The only way he knows to “fix” this is to go to sleep. During the last spell, I tried to get him to smoke some of my oil, but he refused.) There are some treatments for TS, but while he was growing up there were essentially none and I think he still thinks that, during our 12 years together, he’s never taken any medication for his TS or had any treatment aside from what he does to try to control his tics on his own. Which includes chewing sugar free gum or sucking on sugar free cough drops constantly. He's been doing this so much that he has damaged the inside of his mouth from the cough drop being stored in his cheek- which is another major concern for me.

I (31F) suffer from chronic intractable migraines, basically I have migraines nearly all of the time and medication tends to give me zero relief. I’ve tried so many treatments to no avail and last month I gave CBD oil a try since it’s now legal in both the state we work in and live in. Medical MJ was also just legalized in the state we live in but NOT the one we work in and it has been shown to help with both TS and migraines, but because it’s not legal in our employers' state neither of us are seriously considering that route. Also note that both migraines and TS are neurological conditions.

Since I started taking CBD about a month ago, I’ve felt significantly better and instead of being in excruciating pain 24/7, I’ve only had about two really bad migraine days. I researched CBD oil a bit before taking it myself and looked into it for TS too and it’s looking good that it could help reduce him of some of his symptoms. 

I asked him in the past if he’d take CBD oil and he said no, I asked why, and he didn’t give much of a reason aside from  “Nothing will help.” I explained to him that there’d be no harm in trying it out, there are virtually no bad side effects. I let it go for about a month then last night, I asked him again and offered to prepare snacks for him so literally all he’d have to do it eat a snack once a day. Again, he said no, so I pushed and asked for a legitimate reason why. He listed off some opposition, “I just don’t want to, it’d cost money (it’s not that expensive), etc. There could be bad side effects.” I tried to explain that there are really no bad side effects, it could help him and worst case it’s another thing that doesn’t help. This didn’t sway him at all so I got snippy and told him that his cigarettes (while they help his tics) are a waste of money and doing far more harm than this ever would (I should have brought up how he's damaging his mouth with the cough drops too, but didn't). He agreed they’re a waste of money but nothing more (him needing to quit smoking is an argument for another day). I lost my cool ‘cuz I’m a woman-child and told him he was being ridiculous and reiterated that it wouldn’t hurt anything, and he was stubborn, blah blah (nothing spiteful) but I didn’t feel like talking to him for the rest of the night because when he has his mind set to a decision, he won’t change it. (Example: We had a similar fight about getting married (after being together 10 years) where it took me over 6 months to convince him it was important to me and he needed to learn to compromise.) 

TL;DR - Ultimately, am I being a see you next Tuesday because I’ve tried twice now to convince to my husband to give CBD oil a try for his Tourette Syndrome despite him saying no? His constant ticing (a cough), having cough drops in his mouth, and smoking cigarettes is damaging his body and when he's older he'll likely pay dearly.  I also need him to start feeling emotions again (because he has essentially shut down due to his Tourette Syndrome). He used to react to things and anymore I just feel like I’m in a relationship with a zombie. There’s SOME (not a ton yet, CBD oil is still being researched) proof that CBD oil could possibly help him and it has helped me with my migraines. I have a feeling that I AM being the asshole here, but judge away. 