Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Gonna skip several years of backstory and feelings and details because I want to keep this brief and vague for obvious reasons.

Long story short, I was badly harmed by a mutual friend of ours years ago and one of my best friends helped me through it and is intimately familiar with how much this attack almost spiraled my life. She is still close friends with him. That’s honestly fine, it hurts to think about sometimes but it’s okay. 

She’s quite recently engaged and the wedding is soon. I asked for honesty as things moved forward regarding if he’d be invited and what was going on, I’d still be her friend but just wanted to know so I could decide if I wanted to see this man for myself. I was told not to worry about it, and nothing else.

However, I’ve just been informed by someone else that this man was invited, and it was implied by the person who told me that it was meant to be kept on the down low. 

Regardless, I intend to still attend and do my part in the wedding party to be there to see two people I truly do care about get married and start their life together. I will be the perfect picture of politeness and grace at this thing, probably won’t have more than a glass of champagne. Regardless of who is there, I will deal and be okay and be supportive and happy, it’s their day and I’m so excited for them. But if this mess is true and despite knowing what he did to me and me asking to be informed, they invited him and didn’t tell me? After the festivities I am considering just cutting these people from my life without another word because the fact that this is even a possibility really feels like a knife to the heart after everything else. Would I be an asshole if I did this?