Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : 25M here, friend is the same. We've been very close over the years where we've confided personal matters to each other. A common subject in talks has been his various woes with dating women. The longest relationship he had ended two years ago and lasted for two years - a relationship that essentially involved him adopting his girlfriend \[same age\]'s infant daughter. Providing for the child left him virtually penniless and forced him to move back in with his parents with him having lived with his girlfriend and her mother during their relationship.

It turned out she was cheating on him throughout the duration of the entire relationship, yet he wouldn't pull the trigger on leaving her. In fact, she dumped him to be with someone else. To this day, he tells me from time to time that he misses that relationship, despite it having been so toxic.

Since the breakup, he's seemingly specifically date various pregnant women as about 2/3rds of the women he'd talk to were already pregnant. His most recent girlfriend was pregnant as well prior to meeting him, but that was a relationship that quickly fizzled out after a month. (She had the baby months later)

I chalked it up to it being some weird (to me) attraction type and never questioned his attraction to pregnant women. Then, in a conversation with his mother last month, she revealed to me that both herself and his father are putting a good amount of pressure of him to provide grandchildren for them very soon. When she asked me if my parents are wanting me to have kids soon I said that mine let me live life at my own pace and if I don't want any, then that is my choice. Her reaction was a simple and stern "Well, I want grandbabies."

What startled me after that reply was that she seemed to miss the days where he was dating the first girl w/the daughter.  I bit my tongue because I wanted to ask how could she sacrifice her son's well being and self confidence in exchange for him raising a baby even if it wasn't biologically his. That breakup wrecked him.

This has caused me plenty of concern recently as he just started to date a new girl \[19F\] last week that is due in a month. From what I've seen, she seems to be the polar opposite of my friend where she goes out to party a lot and has evidently smoked/drank a lot. My friend specifically seems to have gotten attached to her pretty quick.

He's just finally restored his finances again and has improved his self-confidence a bit, but I'm worried that he's about to go down another bad path and lose it all again.

I want to warn him about this girl before he'd go official/before she gives birth and I want to let him know that he shouldn't let people put so much pressure on him to live his life the way they want... but at the same time, I feel I'd be hypocritical in some fashion doing that.