Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I wouldn’t post this here but I really feel like I’m in the right and my coworkers have told me I’m wrong, so I’d like opinions from people who are removed from the situation. Also, my apologies for how long this is.

I started at a company about 2 years ago. The people in it are very close knit and almost everyone knows each other. When I started, I was on the younger side at 22 (ages range from 21 to 60s). Immediately a man in his 30’s started to come onto me pretty strong. These advances always happened at social events and when there was alcohol involved they were honestly foul.  

After several requests for dates and many inappropriate pick up lines on his end I just lied and said I had a boyfriend which apparently was the key to stopping him. 

A year later I was recounting this experience to a friend and she said “why do you think I avoid him? He did the exact same to me and (another girl at the company).” This fact didn’t surprise me but the fact that no one talked about it did surprise me.

I started asking around this year and it turns out he does this to many young women who have just started to work here. Always new employees, always under 25. When I asked my more seasoned coworkers for advice they said I was overreacting to call this harassment and that he’s just “lonely” and trying to find someone. I ALSO found out that he lied to people and told them that we did go on the dates he propositioned me for (pretty funny in the present day because now I’m out as gay to pretty much everyone I work with). 

Now on to the present situation: last night he showed up to a social event with one of the new employees as his valentines date. It makes me nervous to think that she might go through the same thing as many women before her. I want to at the very least warn her of his past behavior so that she can make a decision on what she wants to do. But my coworkers tell me the past is in the past and I shouldn’t mess with what could be a potential relationship. Since they actually did go on a date it could be true that he’s not harassing her but it feels wrong for her not to know. 

So, WIBTA if I potentially ruined a relationship and warned this girl about this man’s behavior?