I hope this I see the right type of post for this sub— I think it’s maybe potentially rude than truly assholeish and I definitely don’t think the other person is an ass, I’m just looking for your thoughts.


For context, I look like a Nazi Germany poster—Hitler probably would have creamed his pants if he saw my family, we’re all the stereotypical tall pale blue eyed blondes, mostly due to our Nordic ancestry. I recently got to visit a Scandinavian country and once we got out into the countryside, it was kinda hilarious and cool seeing most people around that looked so similarly to me we could be related. We’d walk into a cafe and see a sea of towheads, I felt like I could just walk behind any random family and blend in as their own. And I wasn’t tall any more, I was more or less normal sized and tables/countertops seemed built for me! When I got home I was mentioning to a friend of mine (South Asian ancestry) that it was kinda cool going somewhere where everyone looked like they were related to me and I thought it was really funny. I noticed her starting to look uncomfortable and realized I sounded like Hitler. I know that my intent wasn’t “we need to build an ethnostate!”, in fact after the initial coolness it got kinda weird, but I understand how people could interpret it that way. She’s a dear friend to me and one of my favorite people in the world, I’m worried she saw the whole conversation as a white girl talking happily about a place with no brown people and thought I would be happier without her or her family. Should I stop telling that vacation anecdote or do you think that most people would understand what I was getting at?