Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm friends with 2 guys, we'll call them Andy and Marco. We're all currently 18. Us 3 have been friends with each other since we were very young, and we've always thought of each other as our best friends. This has been changing recently. Andy met a girl online who lives in another country, and they fell in love. She lives very far from where we are, and I'm doubtful that they'll ever get to meet in real life. I'm very glad he's found someone that makes him happy, except he basically puts all of his time into her and spends much less time with us.

He would pretty much ditch me and Marco. As an example, we'd ask him if he wants to get in a call and play a game, and he would decline saying he's not in the mood because "he wants to relax." Minutes later he would start a game with his girlfriend "because she asked." This kind of behaviour has gotten on our nerves a lot, and we feel both very hurt and like he's being a bad friend. We even sat down with him and talked about this before and he acknowledged everything and apologized. Well, that apology meant nothing apparently because he hasn't really changed at all. On one hand I can understand that he has very strong feelings and is infatuated with this girl, and I can understand wanting to spend as much time as possible with someone who lives so far away, but I don't think having strong feelings serves as an excuse for disregarding your friends.

It pretty much feels like a giant slap in the face and a big "fuck you" to me and Marco that he rather ignore us and spend this much time with someone he's never met before over his lifelong friends, even after previously apologizing and saying he'll change. But on the other hand I want to stay understanding and sympathetic to him as he clearly has strong feelings. WIBTA if I get pissed off at him for this (as I think he's being inconsiderate), or do I stay understanding of his feelings?