Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : TLDR - A friend who has a history of not paying back borrowed money, asks for money to pay for her tuition fee.


So, we've been friends for 6 years -- since high school. She has a bit of a troubled family life. She's juggled between living with her dad &amp; stepmom (who has a short fuse when it comes to her), and with an aunt who should be paying for her school fees.

She approached me a few days ago and asked for some money to pay for her tuition fee. She told me that her aunt's been having extra expenses because of her dental supplies (she's taking Dentistry), and her sister who's representing her school in another country and has to fly there, so she can't afford a portion of her tuition. I said no. Well, I didn't directly say no; I told her that she should talk to her aunt for the extra, which is relatively small (around ~$250), and that her aunt shouldn't abandon her responsibility of paying for her school fees.

I mean, what I said's true, right? Her situation would've been completely understandable, if only I believed it.

I've been friends with this person for 6 years. She has a debt to me that's about $200 because she wanted to buy some damn shoes for her (now ex) girlfriend. I only revealed this when the said ex-girlfriend asked me about it after their break up. I also know of a time that she's spent a portion of the money given to her for her tuition fee to buy something for the same ex-girlfriend (I think it was a vape lmao). So yeah, I'm skeptical. She's irresponsible with money, and has lied to me a few times for some cash.

At the same time I feel bad -- cripplingly bad, even, because this is her education, right? And she approached me with a "You're the only person I trust &amp; know who would understand me" line. And maybe I am the only person who'd understand, and I turned her down when she needed me.

In the end my skepticism won over me. I only asked one other friend and she told me I did the right thing, but when I start to really thinking about, I also start feeling bad. So, AITA? Should I just suck it up and lend her the money?