Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Two weeks ago I applied for a job. The interview went great, and I even had a second interview in which I worked for a little and was able to interact with the team. I had another offer on the table from someone I am close with that I kept pushing back at the time so when the company told me they would get back to me the next week I said sounds great, I have another offer so as soon as a decision is made it would be awesome if you let me know. 

On Tuesday of the following week they got back to me with an offer to which I asked if I could get back to them the next day and if I had any questions I would email them over. Both of these jobs are hourly, I just graduated college. I emailed them the next day asking if they had a policy in place for reviews for potential raises whether it be 60, 90, or 180 days from the start date. I only asked this because the other position I was considering offered a 60 day raise review. The boss responds and says they typically do yearly reviews other than for title changes. I respond back saying great thank you, is there anyway I could get back to you on Friday and sleep on the decision. I don’t get a response, so I email again asking if Friday is okay. I get an email later that night saying while they wanted to know today, after reading my email they wanted to further discuss my role and I could get back to them Friday. I was shocked and knew that this wasn’t good. The next day I get an email from them telling me I should accept the other job and that after reconsidering I am not a good fit for the company because I want to eventually leave the state (this was already discussed prior and okayed). I ask to call them so I could explain myself as my intentions were getting lost in translation and I get no answer. 

The next day I call the office and am told I will be called back in an hour, again I am ghosted. So I send one final email apologizing for asking too forthcoming of questions and reiterating my desire to work for the company long term, accepting the position, and that again I would love to talk on the phone to sort this out. I get no response until past the end of the workday basically saying that while they respect my decision to ask for a pay raise and “my desire to sleep on working with them” they had other candidates more eager than me. 

I was honestly pretty shocked by all this, am I an asshole?? 