Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I know you’ve probably already concluded that i’m the asshole but let me give you same context.

I’ve been friends with this girl for over 6 years. We’re not as close as we once were but i’ll say she’s a good friend of mine. 

Sarah tweets a lot of depressed shit. And yeah we’re young and wanting to die is now kind of a meme but Sarahs tweets are another level depressed. But the way she is irl is kinda different. Her life is pretty good tbh. Her parents paid for uni so she’s not in debt, she has a pretty good relationship with her family, she’s somewhat comfortable with money (as comfortable as a 20 something year old person can be, really), she’s pretty social, is always up for a night out and is overall a social person (not saying social people can’t be depressed just added this in just incase it would be relevant.)

She also has the worst mood swings i have ever seen in a person and she’s pretty fucking passive aggressive. When she doesn’t get her way, she emotionally manipulates people by making them feel bad about their decision and at this point i’m immune to it but it doesn’t stop her. She doesn’t hold herself accountable for her actions and playing victim is basically her middle name but I learn to live with it because everyone has their bad attributes right?

I find that people are usually more honest on the internet so i try to take her tweets seriously but there’s only so much i can do as far as helping her. i check up on her, I always tell her i love her and reassure her whenever i can but there’s nothing like professional help. I suggest good therapists that she can go to but she always gives one excuse or the other about why she won’t go for therapy.

Fast forward to today. She came over to my house and we were just chilling. We’re pretty good friends as i’ve said before so we were both just working on different things in each other’s company. Suddenly she stands up and wants to leave. I look up at her and she’s sniffling. I ask what’s wrong and she just says she wants space and leaves. Mind you, this isn’t the first time something like this has happened so i let her leave.

About an hour later (this is at about 2pm btw), a mutual friend calls me and tells me to check up on Sarah. Apparently she texted another one of our mutual friends ranting about how ‘she pushes hard but nobody pushes her harder’ and some cryptic shit about being tired of everything. Of course the guy is confused and asks her to explain and she replies with ‘you’ll know soon’. 

Her number wasn’t going through, her texts stop delivering and no one knows where tf she is. We’re all freaking out of course and calling her phone constantly. I’m the only person who lives in the same city as her but I was tied up at the moment and couldn’t go to her house so I called her flatmate. Her flatmate said she wasn’t home yet but would be in about 30 minutes but 30 minutes is a long ass time and a lot could happen in that time so I was basically going crazy.

When her flatmate finally got home, she called me kinda pissed and said Sarah was in her room chilling. Apparently she rushed out of work early because she was scared about Sarah too. I was livid. I told her to give sarah the phone and that’s when i told Sarah that i wasn’t gonna keep being her friend if she kept pulling shit like that (not her first suicide scare but definitely the scariest). I told her that i couldn’t handle the emotional turmoil and i was just tired of chasing her instead of taking care of myself.

Also, it wasn’t really a spur of the moment thing that i regret now. I’d been thinking of it for a bit and i still mean everything i said to her.

So, AITA for telling her i couldn’t handle the weight of her friendship anymore?