Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Tried to be objective, would also post on r/relationshipadvice TL:DR at the bottom.

   Quick background,  I used to breed Shi Tzus. USED TO. I stopped because my heart breaks every time I sell a puppy and have to let them go. So the last litter I ever bred, I kept two, and gave the others to loving people that I can trust. Their mother, we bought on our first month(my wife and I) and tragically and poetically, DIED  THE DAY AFTER OUR WEDDING DAY. Of the two puppies that I kept, one recently passed away. Only found out when I came home after a few months(I work overseas, about 9/12 Mos). I am a grown-ass man, with tattoos all over, I kid you not, I cried in the restaurant we were eating at. Like cried like a little girl when they finally mentioned the passing. 

   When my daughter was born 3 years ago, I fought and lost when my family and wife decided that my pups should stay outside of the house because my daughter may have had allergies. It came to the point where they told me not to put my dogs ahead of my daughter's health. I'm feeling pretty guilty as is because I wasn't able to look after my remaining Shih and Golden Ret like when I used to work in my country. My mother takes care of them, along with a Toy Poodle, a Belgian Malinoise and 2 Labs. Now that you have an idea of how soft I am when it comes to dogs, here goes.

   Yesterday, my wife told me that my brother in-law(BIL) found a Shih Tzu, 3-5mos old, very rare color and my BIL and mother-in-law(MIL) thought she(puppy) would make a great gift for my daughter. I told her as clear as day that I don't want another dog, she went ahead and brought the puppy home. I know she really wanted a dog. When she came home, eyes sparkling, puppy in hand, I knew there would be a ripple on the water, didn't expect it to be a fucking TSUNAMI. 

   I asked her calmly, "You need to post this on social media". She told me that it wasn't her decision to make since she wasn't the one who found the puppy, and somehow that I am implying that her BIL stole the puppy, also, I should be thankful for the gesture. That was the end of that, so I thought. Found a suitable place for the puppy to sleep in, went to bed myself and hoped that tomorrow we'll have a civil discussion about our options.

   Now begins the cluster fuck. I woke up to a chat from my wife "Good job, now my family hates me" then proceeded to send screen caps after screen caps of her convo with her whole family. Turns out I offended them by telling my wife to give the puppy back and/or post a photo of her missing. They told her that I'm being unreasonable and that I'm ungrateful, that if they posted the photo, someone(not the right owner) might swoop in and take the puppy. In their defense, BIL told my wife that he asked around the village and waited a long time for the owner on the site. Somehow, they think that it was enough action taken. Our country doesn't have a reliable channel for such occurrences, so I kind of get where they're at. I disagreed respectfully, **am i the asshole for jeopardizing my marriage over a lost puppy**. I am still taking my stand, amidst the bashing and my borderline hard headed-ness, feet firmly on the ground, the puppy should come home and we need to do everything we can to make sure of it.

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TL;DR

Brother-in-law found lost puppy. Gave it to my wife as a gift, I told her to send it back and post the missing dog on social media. Came off as a disrespectful, ungrateful asshole in their eyes. I still won't budge even after the backlash and possible marriage-ending disagreement with wife and her family. 