Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Me and my now ex had been dating for two years. We hadn’t really done much sexually because we never really had the opportunity to. 

However, we have had a few moments of blissful alone time where we could make out and such. After about the third time doing this, I decided to take it a step further and started to finger her. Neither of us had really had sexual interactions before so this was new to us. It was fun while it lasted and we were both satisfied.

One thing I did notice though was that she didn’t also touch me back. I just thought to myself that it was probably because she was nervous seeing as this was her first time in that type of situation. 

Fast forward a bit and we’ve had occasions like this a good 3 or 4 times. I finger her, but get nothing in return.

I’d finally had enough and mentioned it to her. I was nice enough about it. Just simply stating it as a fact that she’s never done much for me sexually. And I’m hit with this:

“My stepdad made me give him handjobs when I was younger, so I’m not comfortable touching you.”

Now we had talked about her stepfather in the past and how he had sexually abused her, but that was it. She never told me what exactly happened or how she felt about sex in general due to the experience. Despite me asking a few different times, she refused to answer. 

I was annoyed about this and told her that she should have told me this in the first place. And that struck a chord with her.

I just don’t know what to think about this tbh.