First post, so I’m sorry for bad formatting. My wife and I were heading to bed, and went to tell our son to brush his teeth and go to bed as well.

As we headed down the hallway, we saw our son with his back turned to the door playing with a tall block structure. When suddenly, it falls over, he immediately whispers “aw shit.” 

My wife quickly began motioning for me to go in their with a scowl on her face. I on the other hand, was grinning. 

We both mutually decided to head to our bedroom to discuss first before we go into our sons room. Since it would’ve been conflicting stances and would most likely make my wife look bad because I would be on his side.

Here’s our conversation, it’s not exact but it’s fresh in my mind.

Wife: Why were you smiling? We shouldn’t let him swear, we aren’t trying to teach him bad manners.

Me: He never swears in front of us ever. If we barged in and scolded him right then and there, he would be startled and be reluctant to just leave the door open in the future.

Wife: That’s kind of a stretch, we would be teaching him it’s okay to swear in private. We don’t want him to be saying this in school and get in trouble by his teachers.

Me: Whats wrong with that? He’s not swearing excessively, this is the first time we’ve heard it. That’s what kids do, we swore when we were younger and we’re fine.

Wife: I don’t know, there’s no point in scolding him anymore. I’m going to bed.

Me: Alright, I’ll help him get ready for bed. 

My wife was angry afterwards I could tell, not a ton, but more like frustrated. I’m pretty sure I’m in the right here, we’re doing great in general though. 

This wasn’t a huge fight and I know we’ll make amends tomorrow. Just wanted to know if you wise Redditors have any advice or feedback so I can apologize where it’s due.

Am I the asshole?