Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : around six years ago, i went to a new school and had to make a whole new group of friends. eventually i found one that i got along with extremely well, and we became very close over time. our friendship stayed pretty strong for the next few years, but not without some minor anger every now and then. one of my friends (i'll call her B) didn't treat us too well. when it came to academics, B would slack off while the rest of us put the work in. she wouldn't pull her weight in group projects and she'd copy our homework last minute. socially, she was very arrogant and probably had a superiority complex? B acted like she was above the rest of us and didn't 'need' us, and wouldn't treat us very well (i.e school work problems) and this slowly got worse as time went by

two years after we met, B got way worse. the usual stuff continued, like not putting effort into school and leeching off our work and marks, but her attitude got a lot worse. she started trying to replace us because we no longer shared the same interests and would scream and yell at us for being curious about her new interests. i also introduced her to one of my other friends who she instantly latched onto and became closer with him than i had been, and would constantly ignore me to talk to him instead. we once had a big project to do for a fair and we got together to work on it. 

she took part in the 'fun' stuff that didn't take any real effort. when it came to the real work she did ONE part of it, probably the easiest, which ended up being garbage which i had to edit and fix. for the rest of the project she sat next to me texting my friend that i mentioned earlier while i did every single thing for our project. i repeatedly tried to get her to work and she would ignore me or brush me off and tell me she didn't know what to write and to figure it out myself. We ended up not doing very well because B prioritized texting over our marks. this also wasn't the first time she'd done something like that, as she'd worked with our other friends for similar projects before and done the exact same thing. as little work as possible so she could still get the marks for our work.

when she got close with the friend from earlier (ill call him P) they got really toxic. the three of us had group chats together, but as they were closer with each other than they had been with me, i was a third wheel almost all the time. they took pleasure in berating me and making me feel bad about myself and would gang up on me and call me names, which in retrospect wasn't terrible, but considering i had issues with controlling my anger at the time and would be set off by very minor things, which they were very aware of, it wasn't nice to deal with. there's also nothing i hate more than being ganged up on because i can't defend myself when they're all making fun of me. they'd also leave me out of things (which i hate as well)

B also had no concern for peoples feelings. when we had to make groups for things and she had to choose some friends over others, she wouldn't even ask if they were okay with her plans. she'd just do it anyways and tell them too bad. she also used to throw things at us when we were hanging out, and generally just treat us badly. literally everyone who knew her during this time period agreed she was not a good person at all. to sum it up, she was increasingly horrible to me and the rest of our friends over these two/three years, and by the end of them, when she got really bad, i decided i didn't want to put up with her anymore and couldn't wait until i went to a different school than her so i didn't have to be around her toxicity anymore. 

our friendship continued after this even though i was just faking it and powering through until i never had to see her again, until one day when she just started straight up ignoring me. it was out of nowhere. one day B was talking to me like old times and the next day she wouldn't answer me anywhere even though she was online. i was so confused and kept trying to talk to her but just got completely ghosted and eventually gave up and stopped chasing after her. a while later, a mutual friend who she still spoke to asked why she just cut me off like that, and B said that it was because ***I*** was the horribly rude one and she didn't want to deal with it anymore. this genuinely shocked me because the rudest i'd ever been to her was in self-defense when she was ganging up on me or looking down on us or ditching us for other people, and it was nothing more than joke comebacks like "you suck/you're a loser" which we had said to eachother many times before??

B ended our friendship like that four years ago and i still hold a very strong grudge and haven't come close to getting over it. we haven't even spoken since then but every time i remember she exists or what she did to me or how she cut me off i actually get furious because i feel so wronged. there's so much wrong with it. she was the one who treated me so badly (and the rest of our friends as well) and then before i could make the move and end things she flipped it around on me and played the victim and said i was the big bully????

 i constantly seek validation from my other friends who knew her as it helps me to stop dwelling on it and everyone agrees she was horrible to me and i didn't do anything nearly as bad as she did. it also makes me angry because she wasn't brave enough to confront me herself and say what she had to say, which points even more at it being a big lie because she knew she was a bad person. i got no closure because i just heard her accusation second-hand, passed down from a friend. i'm a very confrontational person and it makes me so angry that she just got away with that without even having to speak to me and hear what i had to say. 

she's genuinely afraid of me now and i know it's because she lied. she knows how she treated us but hides behind that lie to pretend she's a good person and she can't face me because she knows how badly she handled the situation. the last time we interacted in person i just acted like i didnt know her and she was shaking because she was so nervous.

so yeah again to summarize, my friend B treated me very badly throughout our friendship and when i was finally done with it and planned to end things with her, she turned around and did it to me when she was much worse of a person than i ever felt i was. we weren't even going to the same school at that point so even if she confronted me herself we wouldve never seen eachother again anyways so it's stupid that she wouldn't talk to me directly. its been 4 years and im still so angry about what she did and i just want some kind of closure, and sometimes i just want to knock her out because she's too afraid to fess up and have a real confrontation with me about everything. 

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AITA for still being so angry over it?? was i really the rude one and just didn't know it?? am i terrible for hating her so strongly for just cutting me off and being a wuss about it? most of the people i seek validation or help from are biased because they knew her so i would really like opinions on the whole situation from strangers.

 who was really in the wrong? 