Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST :    I didn't really intentionally single her out, but I needed time away at the time. She broke up with me about half a year ago. Well, we actually broke up twice.

   First time, she broke up with me and told me she doesn't know why it isn't working, she just can't continue on the relationship if she doesn't feel anything. Which I respect, of course at the time though I was angry and depressed. Emotions took over me and I just couldn't really look at her or speak to her. I went to my group of friends (which were hers too) who consoled me and took my side on the matter, saying that I was too good for her. That same night, she calls me and asks if we should get back together because she was crying and felt that maybe there was something there. I said no, I was furious because she put me through those just to get back with me anyways. Fourth day after that break-up she calls me again saying she missed me and would like to get back together again. I will admit, the previous three days, I was going through a bunch of emotions, I went from not wanting to see her, to wanting to get back together with her and try again, then to finally just being friends. Back to her asking me to get back together: I stupidly said yes. Without thinking about the possible reasons besides "she missed me".

   Second time, we broke up 2 weeks later. During those two weeks, I ended up explaining to my friends that me and my Ex we're trying thing out again, which they were not very supportive of, but they acted like it and hoped it would go well. My Ex ended up making a new friend and brought him into our friend group, who she ended up being suspiciously over-friendly with, but I tried to ignore it. Nothing changed in the relationship between me and her. It was just like before and she wasn't trying to better things between us no matter how hard I tried. So I confronted her, I asked if she really wanted stay together. Silence then "I don't know". To which I replied "If you really can't give me an answer, then that's a no." And we broke up there.

   Now this is where it all happens. I didn't feel much after the second break-up because I've come to terms that it wasn't going to work. My Ex wanted to give me privacy with our group of friends (which were my group of friends first, I introduced her to them), so she didn't hang out with us for a while, which I didn't really want her to, and honestly neither did my friends. I started thinking about more of the reason WHY she broke up with me then got back together with me. Which I with my friends, concluded that it seems that she only wanted to get back together because she missed our group, not me. That really pissed me off. This was about a week after our break up. My friends start feeding me rumors and gossip about my Ex and her new friend (the one I mentioned in the last paragraph) were looking kind of being too close. Which I shouldn't feel that mad about, because we weren't together and she had every right. I did end up talking shit behind her back with my friends, which I kinda feel bad about. My friends told me about all the weird and selfish things she has done, without me around, along with all the times she kinda flirted with other guys while we were together. All of those gossips and thoughts infuriated me to the point where I completely ignored her. I couldn't see her at all without getting mad, she really wanted to be friends with me again, but I was suspicious because I believe she was just trying to get back into MY group of friends.

   She finally confronted me directly after weeks of me ignoring her and not wanting to see her. She convinced me to talk. Not really talk, it was more of an argument. I confronted her about her new friend and the reason of her wanting to be my friend so that she could get back into my group. She denied both saying it wasn't true and that the new friend was just that, a friend. I didn't believe her. She told me how I was a jerk for ignoring her and not confront her about these things sooner, the reason for that was because I couldn't even talk to her without getting pissed. Afterwards, I leave and end up regretting not making things better between us. I hate holding a grudge. I end up getting one of my friends to be a mediator and we talked a second time. We agreed to be friends and hugged on it.

  It's been about five months since then, we talk every once in a while. She ended up getting together with her new friend, which I wasn't surprised about at all. But she never went to our get-togethers out of fear of it being awkward and not the same after the break-up aftermath, which it wouldn't be. My friends and I didn't really try to invite my Ex to anything. My friends didn't have a high opinion of her, they thought she was selfish and was using me, mind you I did a lot of things for her and rarely got anything in return. She talked to one of my friends (who was a girl and was the closest to her) about how she missed everyone, that she didn't regret the break-up but she regrets how it all went down. Which my friend said that it was weird. I do feel bad and didn't mean to exclude her, I just didn't try to include her. But that's how it went, and I'm not really doing anything to change it.

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TLDR; My Ex and I broke up twice. She wanted to be my friend again, which we ended up doing, however I had a suspicion that she only wanted to be my friend to get back into our group. My friends didn't really like her anyways. I feel bad for unintentionally excluding her from any group activities. She's a nice enough girl but she is pretty selfish.