My wife has gained 15 maybe 20 pounds recently. We’re high school sweethearts and when I fell in love with her she was a 90 pound cheerleader. 

I knew when we reached our 60’s she might put on a few pounds, but I thought we still had a lot of good years left. 

I’ve tried to encourage her to resume her more active lifestyle and cut calories. She used to run three miles every morning but now she only gets out twice maybe three times a week. 

She’s eating a lot more. Granted, she is four months pregnant, and the doctors said she’d need to eat more, but I think at this point she’s using it as an excuse to let herself go. I’ve done research and women don’t really need to gain any weight while they’re pregnant until the third trimester, and I’ve seen a lot of pregnant women on Instagram who don’t look at any different only four months in because they doubled down and made fitness a priority. 

I still love her more than anyone in the world. I’m just not attracted to her, at all. After a while of not accepting her advances in the bedroom she asked if something was wrong and I was honest with her and she flew into a rage. Now I’m wondering if maybe I shouldn’t have said anything. 

I feel bad I made her upset, but I didn’t want to lie to her. I can see why she’d be extra sensitive to feedback right now, and I know women today don’t like getting any comments about their bodies good or bad. I was really just trying to watch out for her best interests. 

AITA? 
