Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I (P) recently had a text exchange with a neighbor (M) who thinks that I am being "accusatory".  H is the mother of two young girls, one of which is R, who are visiting.  Am I being an unreasonable asshole?

Here is the text exchange:

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Me: Hi M, Please drive up and down our driveway more slowly.  The girls are regularly going up and down.  H saw them just now have to run to get out of the way and it made her very uncomfortable.  Thanks. P. 

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M: Hi P.  I'm happy to drive slower but I did review the video from my dashcam and saying that the kids had to run to get out of the way is not accurate.

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Me: Thanks, M.  Re the dash cam - I did not see what happened.  R felt scared enough to run up the driveway away from the car.  What you did not acknowledge was that the girls felt scared and H too.  The dash cam may tell you that they did not HAVE to run to get out of the way, but it does not tell you the emotional impact of your car coming up the drive faster than we drive and they felt scared enough to run.

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M: Of course my text didn't acknowledge that because I cannot acknowledge what I don't know.  You did not say that they were scared.  Instead, your text was unnecessarily accusatory and you've admitted that you don't know what happened.  That is why I responded the way that I did.  I request that in the future you refrain from making accusations when you don't know the facts.  To get me to drive slower just needs a request.  Indeed, I already drive slower on your driveway that I do elsewhere and now I know that you would like me to go even slower, which I will do.

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Me: Which text had accusations?  My first or second?

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M: When you say that they 'had to run to get out of the way'.

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Me: What am I accusing you of?  The presence of your car made R feel scared and run.  To get out of the way.  That's what H saw.  If I had said you were driving at dangerous speed or put them in danger I would consider either of those an accusation. 

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