Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : The TDLR will be at the end but to make the long story short and just get some clarification, i need to know if i was the asshole after my ex and i broke up. 

We began dating in July of last year. This isn't the first time we dated and the only difference between then and now is that i've cut him from my life. Back in 2013 when we first dated we broke up because my best friend sat down with me one night and told me how he flirted with her and our other friend and she showed me messages of him hitting her up at 2 am asking if she wanted to come over for a bit. I took it immediately as a sign he was cheating on me and broke up with him. We still talked occasionally but i didn't physically started hanging out with him again until June of last year. 

Now, as you can see, some years passed and it was good to see him again because before hand he was a good friend of mine. We hit it off immediately and we decided to try and date again. My idea was that he seemed more mature now and maybe, just maybe, he had changed. I was so wrong. 

To make another long story short, my brother and his wife lost their home in August so they had moved in with me for a while. At the same time my mom's house was condemned and her and my older sister needed a place to stay. My boyfriend was angry because i had to share my room with my sister so they could all work out how to fix their lives again. Since we only ever hung out at my place because his house was basically a bachelor pad. He shared a home with his buddies so he didn't like how they would make weird noises if i ever came over. When my family moved in he felt weird being over there with me when my sister was a bed over so he got mad at me for letting them "ruin our relationship". I told him it would only be for a little bit because they are my family and i was in a position to help them and it really wasn't a big deal. 

Skipping ahead, we still went on dates very rarely and i learned from my best friend (who we will call S) that my boyfriend was seen out with some new girl. My thoughts immediately went to "he's cheating on me again". Skip ahead, after November he refused to come to my house or meet up somewhere like the coffee shop. He said he wanted to have a private discussion to talk. No hiding or whatever. i told him that if he wanted that it would take a while because of him refusing to come to my house and him refusing to let me come to his and meet up somewhere. i tried for the month of November to January to meet up and he kept refusing, saying that it needed to be a private 1 on 1. 

Finally in the beginning of February we got his 1 on 1. he basically wanted to cry like a little girl, saying he was seeing the new girl behind my back and that he started talking to her in August and he really liked her. He said he wanted this to be personal and for me to know it wasn't me but him and i shook my head and told him that if he wanted to break up then he shouldn't have wasted my time with his bs for the amount of time he did. He then told me that he had been meaning to break up with me since August and that hurt a lot. I knew it was bad in November because of his sudden attitude change but since August? that was shocking to me. 

Before he left i said i didn't want to talk to him for a bit, that i needed time to think and process on what he did. He agreed and tried to hug me, saying we could still be friends, but i kept distance and said no. The time i put off, from Feb to June, was to think over the past experience of 2013 and what happened this time. This whole thinking i was doing was to decide if i even wanted to be his friend anymore. did i want to be friends with a cheater? When i know that whoever he's with could end up getting hurt by him because he had an inability to stay true to his partner? 

To help make up my mind, i went to meet his new girlfriend. i didn't know her well but i had no grudge against her. She didn't know he was with me and, according to her and what she told me, when she met him he said he was single. What helped me make up my mind is that she told me she was excited to start looking at things for their anniversary. This perked my attention and i asked her when that was. She laughed and said December 10th. I forced a smile and laughed with her and thanked her for her time.

Then i went home and did a lot of things. Some emotional but the bottom line was that i blocked him on all social media, deleted our conversations, and blocked his number from my phone. i sent a message to our friends in common that i was no longer on talking terms with him and if we decided to meet up and hang out he wasn't invited. 

The only thing i forgot was that we were friends on Xbox too. a few days later when i got on i remembered he was my friend on there because i had a really long message from him. i didn't even read it, except the first sentence. That was because i was kinda forced to in order to open the message to delete it and block his profile on xbox. I won't bother you guys with that but it made me laugh. 

Now more time has passed and things are obviously changing. I have been in no contact with him since my decision to block him but his girlfriend (who is now his ex according to our common friends. i told them i didn't want to know but you know and i know they will tell me everything... bastards lol) is wanting to be friends because she said she didn't know he was still with me. I was told by our friends that i was being rude by not talking to him and straining our friendship group by making them chose between us. i just shrug and say if they want to hang out with him they can go ahead. I'm comfortable being by myself and hanging out by myself. Am i an asshole for cutting him off and supposedly straining our friendship group by making them chose between us? i don't care if they want to hang out with him instead of me. they weren't my only friends and i am comfortable enough to hang out by myself. They just keep telling me that if i just talked with them around him and accepted his presence then we could all hang out without any problems and they wouldn't have to decide who they want to hang out with on the weekends. 

TDLR: My ex boyfriend cheated on me not even 2 months into our relationship so i decided to block him on everything. Our common friends are upset because i'm "forcing" them to chose between him and me. Am i the asshole for blocking him and "forcing" them to chose sides? cause i'm not really. if they want to hang out with him, i'm cool with it. I've told this to them time and time again but they are adamant that i'm "forcing" them to chose. 