Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : The background:
My husband's mother works for a company that requires a lot of travel, she missed both of my children's birth the past 2 year because she was out of state. My BIL worked for the same company for a fee years with no experience in the feild and made more money than me and my husband have ever made combined. Durning his employment he was out of town or state often.
My husband has told me that he wants me to stay at home and raise our children and he would prefer to work 2 jobs rather than me taking even a part time job.
My husband is currently working a job that is to put it lightly is not paying the bills. He has agreed he needs to find a new job and he has said he will take a new job or a second job if he can find one right away.

Our current situation, we are on government assistance. Even with such assistance we can not pay our bills. We do not spend any money on anything other than bills, and maybe 40-60 bucks a month on toiletries, diapers and things not covered food stamps. We haven't paid to eat out in 3 years. With the government shut down we just won't make it very long off what he is currently making. To add to the current sense of doom, our current living situation is coming to an end in 6 months as the people handling the estate want to sell the house we are living in. So we will have to find somewhere to live with most places in the area being at least ×3 what we are currently paying for "rent" not to mention deposit and so on.

I have talked to him about working for the company his mother works at, although she has never said we both know she could get him a job like she did for his brother. I made it very clear that it would only be temporary until we can put some money aside to have a cushion to go find a job that fits better or get more educated or whatever he wants to do. My husband has told me he doesn't want to but not why. I have asked if it was about the traveling, asking his mother for a job, or something else and he just told me he didn't want to talk about it.


My husband is an amazing father and husband. I would miss him dearly, in our whole 8 years of our relationship we have never spent more than a few nights away from one another. I have heard my MIL talk often of families being welcomed to come stay with them durning long stays and holidays. I would be 100% down for that. I just feel like this is the only way we are going to make it work if he wants me to stay at home with the children or even have a home to stay in.

Am I the asshole for wanting my husband to take a good paying job that would require a lot of travel, taking him away from me and his two children in order for us to be able to possibly get out of poverty?