I am known to be a bit of an asshole, but this time I am not sure. Title is such for addition of context. 

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Short backstory. I just turned 30, this woman (or girl, we've known each other for almost 20 years) is a family friend through her parents, and the families have always been in good relationship. She got married for the first time in college and got a kid, divorced after two years, got another one some 18 months ago, got married instantly, divorced 6 months later. I wouldn't call her irresponsible, but she tends to sort her priorities quite weirdly (if a trip to the coast is more important than a physical exam, then...well...). I try to keep my distance and not get into any arguments, but on a regular basis I see all the problems. Both fathers hate each other, and their relationships with her and the kids are quite strained. She finds it hard to find and keep the job, and is generally very moody because of the whole situation. Her parents help her a lot actually, and kids have fairly healthy sorroundings.   


The issue is - she needs a job. Her parents are willing to finance her kids as much as possible, but her...not as much. She is seeing another guy now, and although he seems much better than previous two guys, I trully doubt he is capable of surviving with her.  
She, along with her parents, pleaded with me to ask my boss to hire her. I've been working there, I do my work well, and apart from boring middle-aged coworkers, I like it quite a bit. First reason I have no intention of doing that is because I don't want to risk my good reputation by bringing in someone who can make more potential mess than a helmet to Viggo Mortensen's boot contents. 

Second reason - she needs to start sorting her life properly. I don't mind looking after her kids once in a while, but not if she wants to spend that time photoshooting with her friends for instagram or whatever. I don't mind them all coming to barbecue at my place, but I don't want her sitting on her ass texting while her kids are trying to hit each other in the head with firewood or whatever.  


It is not about hating kids or single mothers, I primarily don't care. I have a single mom neighbour who I've always been friendly with and we still exchange garden produce. I hate the "oh let me live a little" behaviour after making crucial life decisions. 

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