So almost my whole family has never maintained contact to my Grandma since my mother (her daughter) had several disputes with her and my grandpa divorced her.   
I was too young back then and have no recollection of that.

  
Since i am an adult now she tried to get in touch with me and we had a very long phonecall.

She asked my like two or three personal questions and after that just went on how my family is mean and how hard-working she was in the past. How she has therefore earned her alimony and she told me very much about her current physical health issues.   
She ended up promising me money which i tried to talk her out of but she was still determined to do it.

My family denies the accusations she is making since there are some quite heavy ones for example that my grandpa hit her in the past. But there are also some smaller ones which i just cant accepts are true. For example she said my mother was always very ungrateful and personally i know my mother and she is a very sensitive person so i can't accept that she is telling the truth.  
A few months later she called again and essential just went on about the same stuff as last time spew hate about my familiy and didnt talk about me at all. She brought up the money she promised me and apologized saying she had some expences and will send me some soon. As last time I neither brought it up nor did i really want it since money isnt a problem for me.   


We havent talked since then.  


So by now I figured out i dont want any more contact with her because it doesnt seem like she actually cares for me and her toxicity towards the rest of my family is really putting me off . Her also promising stuff she doesnt hold up to seems to me like a big red flag especally since i never ask for it and im also always telling her that she really doesnt need to.   


So am I an asshole for choosing that i dont want any more contact with her?   
After all she is still family but i have lived years without her and i dont really feel like having contact with her is positive for my life.  


  
