Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway, long time lurker, first time poster. Please forgive formatting issues as I am on mobile. TL;DR below.

My grandmother (and my sister) were basically the ones who raised me since my parents worked all the time. According to them, I was a really affectionate baby and would always hug/kiss/cling to my grandmother. Now, physical contact (16F) makes me kind of uncomfortable. I can only accept small tokens, like touching cheeks for a second with my dad, for example (comes up later) without feeling jittery. Thing is, she keep trying to pull me into hugs randomly or kiss whatever body part is available (cheek, hands, arms, legs when she lays down). Not like brushes, by the way like full on smacking, lasts for seconds, lowkey wet(?) kisses. I told her I loved her but could she please tone it down? 

She didn’t take it well. She said that she spent years of her life raising me, taking me to school, teaching me how to swim and how to sing Chinese songs (we’re Chinese, so filial piety and all that, which factors in later). I don’t want to make it sound like she feels entitled to my affection because she doesn’t but she said that she’s getting old, doesn’t have time left and why do I not love her like I did when I was younger? She also brought up how I show affection with my dad and that I didn’t “show disgust whenever we (my father and I) touched.” I tried to say it wasn’t on the same level, but she didn’t listen to me.

Fast forward a bit, she told my dad. He told me that when he was busy, she took up the responsibility to raise me and I need to listen to what she wants. He also said how she was the oldest member of the family, she doesn’t have a lot of time left, etc etc and to just suck it up. 

I get that boundaries are a thing so it might look like I’m asking for validation, but in my culture it’s usually adults first, kids last and I’m the youngest in my family (closest one in age is 10 years). Now I’m thinking I should have just sucked it up and not said anything because like everyone keeps saying, she’s not going to be around forever. Obviously, I love her and I’m grateful she raised me well and did her best, but touching just makes me feel too off. 

TL;DR: Physical affection makes me uncomfortable, grandmother doesn’t like it when I tell her. 