Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : **The Context:**   
If you have ever planned a wedding, you will understand that deciding on the guest list is an unpleasant but necessary undertaking. My SO and I drafted a comprehensive list of who should be invited-- starting with immediate family, venturing into relatives, childhood and current friends, and finishing with a smattering of other meaningful people. It's not like we were merciless in our selection, but it's not as if former next-door neighbours, or even well-liked colleagues were making the cut. The final count was somewhere in the area of 100.   


This 100 invitees don't include two classic wedding demographics: Plus-ones and Children/babies. The wedding won't be until next year, so who knows if cousin Doug will still be with his girlfriend in six months (last I heard things were not looking good), and its anyone's guess if Janyssa will finally find her soul mate between now and the wedding. Babies and children are currently at a minimum of 7, but we are at that age where this could easily turn to 12 (I'm looking at you, Chris). Let's pencil in 25, for a total of 125 prospective attendees.   


With guest list in hand, venues are the next thing to look at, and many of our top choices seem to fit 80 to 100 guests. The thing is though, 125 invitees doesn't mean 125 guests. There are a dozen reasons people may decide not to attend-- can't take time off work, can't afford the trip-- whatever the reason, it is a fact of life. For obvious reasons though, we can't book a venue with a capacity of 80 and then find out 105 people want to show up. Heck, we might not even be able to book a venue for 100 if everybody shows up.   


**The Choice:**  
We both have some issues with not allowing plus ones or kids. I'm not judging anybody who chose not to do this at their wedding, it just doesn't work for us personally.   


This leaves us with a moral dilemma -- WIBTA (we be the assholes?) if we created a wedding "A" list, and a wedding "B" list? With this option we send out staggered wedding invites-- the first to our "A list" (including A list plus ones and children), and then based on acceptance rate, we send out a B list (including plus ones and kids). This way if our A listers are attending but not bringing kids or plus ones, we can safely know the B listers will be fine to bring their plus ones and kids. 

  
Obviously we would not tell people we are doing this.

  
**TL;DR:** WIBTA if I stagger wedding invitations to an "A list" and "B list" in order to fit a hypothetical venue. 