Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My GF (20F) and I (22M) have been together for about 3 years. We have been playing the long distance game for about a year now, as she moved about 3 hours drive to the city to be with her family, while I stayed due mainly to work as well as my family being here.   


At the moment she is searching for work after being made redundant, but has been unemployed for nearly 2 months now.  I have been working full time, as well as working a 2nd job part time a few nights a week to get ahead on my finances. My life at the moment is basically stretched between work and sport, while hers has been netflix and helping around the house while her family work. However I have been trying my best to visit, and over the last few months have been visiting fortnightly to every 3 weeks or so, while due to her financial situation she's only come down a couple times, one of which was she hitched a ride with a family member who was coming down to visit some family friends, but only stayed the night. I understand her lack of visits due to her finances, but I have offered quite a few times to pay for fuel so she can come and visit, which she declines because she doesn't want to take my money.


She is coming back to my town for 3 weeks to be paid to housesit for a family friend of hers, which is only feasible due to her lack of work. We will ideally be spending a fair bit of time together while she is in town, but she is only coming for the housesitting job, she wouldn't of come otherwise.  


The last time I went to visit was 2 weekends ago, when I was in the city for a work function, which she was my +1 for. I haven't visited since as I knew she was coming to my town anyway, and I plan to make the most of having her around so I thought I would use the weekends before to get stuff done. I have a big family holiday coming up in the start of May, and so am preparing for that, while also trying to actually take time out on my weekends to play sport, help out around the house (recently helped my dad with a paving job at home) and just bum around, stuff I can't do when I'm visiting my GF. It's a bitch driving 3 hours there and 3 back, and is generally quite an expensive weekend factoring in fuel, meals and entertainment.   


Last night we had an argument about how over the 2 month period between March and April I will only spend 1 weekend at hers, while she is going to be spending 3 weeks in my town. I told her that's a bit unfair as she will be coming down so I don't have a reason to drive to her house, but she told me that she just doesn't think I visit enough. I told her she needs to understand I have a life outside of our relationship, and that due to her work situation she is able to get things done during the week, while anything I want to do outside of work is generally reserved for weekends because I simply don't have the time. She just replied with "whatever, night" and ended our phone call.   


Reddit, AITA for not visitng?