Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Ok so a few months ago i met this Girl online and we started texting and, after a while, hang out a couple times. now at first i was interested in her because i liked her character and the way she thinks but after we met that Feeling vanished because i didnt like how she looked. By that i mean that i have a few very specific Things that just make me instantly loose all interrest in someone (for example excessively hairy arms) and most of them are based on Looks.   
Now the Problem was that she developed interrest in me, and we even had a Little bit of a fling afterwards, but we talked About a relationship and came to the conclusion that we dont want that from another. but then she started to become more and more attached to me (the typical Friends with Benefits Thing where one starts to like the other more than they should) so i talked about it with her, but she refused. The Thing is that everyone we met (my parents, Friends etc.) and I could see that she is defenitely more attached to me than i am to her, so i tried to break this whole Thing up by telling her that i dont like her in any romantical way. after 5 or so tries that she just wouldnt accept i quit beeing gentle and told her that i dont find her attractive (yes i now im an ass for starting something with her in the first place but thats not my Point) which again took me 3 times of explaining to her why and what exactly i dont like About her until she finally got it. 

But now i feel bad because she is a genuinely nice Person that i dont want to date just because i dont like her Looks, so am i an asshole for thinking that Looks are equally important as character for Dating?