Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Posting from my Fiancé’s account. 

I might be the asshole but am opening it up for your judgment. I got engaged to my boyfriend of 10+ years on Friday while hiking in Joshua Tree.  We are over the moon happy! Just 7 days later my brother texted me during business hours (I work a demanding 9-5++) and let’s me know he’s getting engaged.  Inside I thought you’ve got to be kidding me, this kid has copied me my entire life and can’t handle not being the center of attention for one second. He’s been with his girlfriend for maybe 18 months, and while I am happy he’s found someone he wants to spend his life with, I feel very disrespected that he couldn’t give us a whole week to bask in our engagement bliss. 

So, I responded to his text with “seriously.” He said “yes” and I said, “could you wait a month ?”

I know I should have said “please.”

I just got engaged and would like to just enjoy this time with my fiancé and our families before my brother becomes the center of attention again. Also, if my fiancé’s sister, who has been dating her partner for 15 years, got engaged tomorrow I would be delighted and wouldn’t feel this way at all. I feel this way  because my brother is constantly disrespectful of what’s important to others, lies, talks over everyone, has no emotional intelligence, and no self awareness. 

Am I the asshole because I feel like my brother is disrespectful and I asked him to wait a month before proposing?