Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : As college students, me and my group of friends were trying to set up a kickback in our large-ish room. Most of us had never gotten drunk with each other and wanted to do it with people we were good friends with. Just a few buds, ready to see what we are all like buzzed. However, one of my 3 roommates just said this the day after we all talked about having a kickback: "Is it okay that I invited some (5) of my friends to the kickback?" Of course we said yes to him, because he said "invited", but now we will end up having almost 15 people in a single room where we can sit 8-10 people and that's a bit much, so now we're considering making his friends come for a kickback a day later than our original kickback.

Now, is that a dick move for us to do? The kickback is supposed to be tomorrow night, so is this too late to change the date?We never gave him permission to invite these friends, he asked if it was okay that he already had, and that we don't actually know ANY of these people. All of us are really insistent on the idea of only getting drunk around people we are comfortable friends with. This ends up violating this tendency that we haven't really discussed with him as well as not giving us a genuine chance to consider inviting them or not. Is it unfair of us to believe that we have the right to say that only those that all of us know are invited? Keep in mind all of the people in our friend group have NEVER seen or talked to a single one of these five people, whereas every other person is a good friend of everyone else in the group. I feel like these issues are very important and justifiably so but I would like to hear an outside perspective on this issue as I may be looking at it from an extremely biased view. Thanks for all of the help.  