Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I'm 21 year old gal and play video games with voice chat, I'm in related discord servers etc etc. I'm also blessed/cursed with a voice that can easily be mistaken for a young boy and joke when asked the Professor Oak. I come clean to newer people if asked but never mention it unless related. I've considered myself a tomboy and I've been told based off text- only conversations that it is hard to tell I'm a girl based off language alone.

This recently caused a scuffle. "Derek" is a regular in an older and bigger server and apparently has never known I'm a woman. He started talking about his recently failed attempt to ask a date that could have dipped into /r/niceguys territory and asking what he did wrong. Derek didn't like the advice he got and then went off to declare girls are bad and disloyal blah blah the works.

Someone mentions me to get my attention and input. Looking at his past messages I say his attitude is why he's rejected. He asks why a kid should be in this conversation and I explain I'm a woman and that's why my perspective might be useful.

Somehow he turns this into a problem that I'm a bad and weird person for hiding the fact I'm a woman and trying to trick people into being "just friends"??? (I never deny being a girl!) I exited out and didn't think much of it.

In the time I'm gone, others joined in and more people who didn't know I'm a woman apparently agree with Derek that me not telling everyone I'm a girl is weird since having a girl present "changes" the atmosphere and people should be aware of it. I say it's bull.

I talked to IRL girl friends if they ever felt they needed to say they're a girl to their own communities and many say yes, under the context that they wouldn't be respected otherwise. I'm confused on what this means.

I don't think it's wrong to leave the fact I'm a woman out of my online identity. AITA?