So I dated my ex for around two years (26M/24F).  Overall, he’s a great person and I hope that we can stay friends, despite what happened. 

Basically, a few weeks ago, we were having drinks at his apartment. He said there was something he wanted to tell me and he hoped I wouldn’t judge. I said okay (obviously nervous). He told me that he thinks he’s bi. I asked what makes him think that and he finally admitted that he had hooked up with a few guys before me. 

Now, I just want to clarify that I don’t care if a person is gay, bi, whatever. You only get one life and you should try to find happiness. But I have never (as far as I know) dated a guy who wasn’t straight. So I was a little taken aback. 

The rest of the night was somewhat awkward and we ended up just going to sleep. Over the next several days I started thinking of our relationship. We don’t have sex that often for a young couple. Maybe once a week (always been that way). And when we do have sex I usually initiate. I’m not bothered by the frequency  but I started questioning whether my boyfriend might just be gay and using me to cover that up. I started getting paranoid over whether he’s even attracted to me (he compliments me on my appearance but I’ve never felt...lust). 

Anyway I ended up breaking up with him. He said it was because he’s bi and I denied that was the reason. I blamed the break up on some personal stuff I’m going through and said I needed time alone. 

But that was actually a lie. If he hadn’t disclosed that stuff about his sexuality, I have no doubt we’d still be together. I just couldn’t get past it for some reason. 

AITA in this situation?