Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : A little context here. I plan every date we ever go on. She has told me before that she's happy with that dynamic between us and I'm generally happy with it because it gives me chances to be creative with my romantic endeavors. My birthday is on 2 weeks and originally I wasn't going to celebrate whatsoever, celebrating my birthday isn't something I enjoy. But she said she'd feel bad if she didn't do anything to try to make the day special, so the bare minimum was for us to spend the day together, we both took off work that day to be together. We agreed beforehand that I didn't want her to get me a gift because at the moment she's not working, and I'd much rather her be responsible with her savings then spend it on me. That being said, whatever we end up doing for my birthday, I'm paying for out of pocket. So I told her that instead of a gift, I'd like her to be the one to make the plans for what we do, where we eat, etc. Considering I've done all of that for literally every other date we've ever been on. But now she's making a big deal about it, because she doesn't want to do all of that. I figure that with all the circumstances being the way they are, that me asking her to do that isn't asking too much of her, but she seems to disagree. Am I the asshole?