Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My parents had a horribly toxic relationship when I was a kid. Most of my childhood memories involve my parents getting into screaming matches every single night—to the point where I developed a routine on what to do when they fought. I have vivid memories of being 4/5/6 years old waking up to my parents screaming at and shoving each other, and just thinking, “Time to call grandma!” 

That was how I coped with it. I called my grandmother (my mother’s mom) because she calmed me down and then my mother would take the phone when I got caught and the fighting would stop because now they were distracted. 

I have memories of my mother trying to stab my father in the neck/face/arms with pens, pencils, forks, etc. while I was in the room screaming and crying. I have memories of screaming for my father and begging him not to go when he’d finally walk out to get away from the mania. I remember begging him to take me with him and not leave me. (I was a daddy’s girl big time)

He always came back after a few hours, if he even actually left. 

I have memories of my mom secretly asking me who I would pick to live with if they got divorced. I was under ten years old, and my mother was trying to turn me against my dad with these little “questions.”

I found out when I got older that this was all because my mom cheated on my dad multiple times. She met multiple men at different times and would make plans to run away with them and take me, and leave my father. 

Things are better between them now, but I know that my father still resents her—he stayed for me, because if they split he knew it would be a battle to ever see me again. 

Recently, (I’m 21 now) my friend and I were discussing our childhoods. Her parents got divorced when she was a kid, but mine never did. After I explained how toxic/tumultuous my parents’ relationship was when I was younger I made the comment that my parents should have divorced. They never should have stayed together. 

She got really mad and told me I was horrible for saying that, and I should consider myself lucky to have parents that stayed together. I’m lucky I didn’t have to go through what she did (her parents split rather amicably, but of course that is difficult for any kid to understand). 

I just kind of dropped it. But personally, I feel like I would have rather my parents split than gone through all of the traumatic experiences I had to go through. I witnessed abuse between my parents. I was manipulated by my mother. I was terrified for all of my childhood that I can even remember—it affects me to this day. I still can’t handle it when people raise their voices around me. 

AITA for believing and saying that my parents should have divorced? Am I wrong for thinking that way? 