Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : We use to be roommates in college. Our first semester of our first year we were awesome friends having lots of fun. Even in highschool we were very close! The second semester, we began drifting apart. I would try to talk to her and she kinda talked down to me and made me feel like crap. When she wouldn't talk down to me, she would hide in her dorm (we had suites). So we didn't talk since college. (about 6 months) Last semester (my second year 1st semester) she asks me out of the blue if I would go to her wedding and wear a dress. Not really thinking, I said "sure! Just talk to me more okay, I miss you!" She said she was busy and that's why she didn't message me. I decided that college was college and before it we were awesome friends in HS &amp; first semester so maybe we just weren't a good roommate match. So for the past few months I've sent her messages and she just responds with one word or makes excuses when I ask if she wants to hang out. I'm like "how come you never message me and when we do talk I have to initiate it?" She says because she's in school or has to work and even was "cleaning" one time. She's ALWAYS busy. I get being busy, I work 2 part time jobs and go to college FULLtime. I make time for people I care about. I thought maybe we weren't good as roommates but we could be friends again that's really why I agreed. I thought her wedding would be good for us to start talking again and I could be a friend to support her.

I feel like it's an asshole move to say yes then bail, I also feel like it's a jerk thing to have time for other people (goes on fancy trips with other friends) and expect me to go support you when you don't do anything to keep this friendship going. I get some comments will most likely say "She's planning, she's probably stressed get over yourself." However, I can't help but feel used. 

How would you guys feel in my situation? Is there anything you would do differently? Have you been in a similar situation and can help shed some light? I want to do the right thing, I just feel shitty that my "friend" doesn't seem to give a crap about me. Yes, I know she's probably busy, just can't I have 5 minutes out of your day or an out of blue "how are you?" Is that too much to ask?

Also, willing to give more info or clarify anything that seems confusing. Kinda writing this from the heart. No editing.