Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My ex broke up with me over the phone saying he had lost interest, met someone else, etc. after we had been dating nearly 4 years. We were long distance when he decided to do this one day out of nowhere, and by out of nowhere, I mean he met the person he left for about 4 days before breaking up with me. 

We are going to be in our hometown next week, where we live 20 minutes apart. This break up was a little over a month ago. I asked that we meet in person so I can give stuff back, and he can get stuff back. He said no, he cannot see me in person because that would be too hard for him. He told me to mail his stuff back to him.

I don't want to do that, I think it's ridiculous. We are adults who are both very capable of driving and live 20 minutes away from one another, yet he asks me to mail things back all because, from my point of view, he isn't strong enough to see me face to face. 

Am I an asshole for saying I will only return his things if it's in person? 