Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Ok so a bit of backstory is necessary. My dad moved to canada from the UK when he was very young, 3 or 4 years old I think. Almost as soon as they got here his dad just vanished and nobody knew where he was for almost 10 years. One day they just show up out of the blue and surprise, they're a woman now. Cue 1-2 years of marital confusion and they disappear again, for about the same length of time. This pattern repeats itself a few times until just recently, when out of the blue my dad asks if I would like to meet her, since she'd found out about my sister and I somehow. Obviously it's my choice to see her but I really dont want to, not because they're trans, I really dont care about that either way, but mostly because why would I ever want to spend time with someone who's spent decades of her life purposely ignoring their child?