Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So I'm a 19yo full-time student who lives at home for a lot of complicated reasons that make it difficult for me to leave right now. I still contribute money towards the household (as rent, more or less)b as well as help with many chores and errands. Don't know if this is important to share, but who knows?

Anyways. College is stressful - no duh! So, though it may not be my best desicion, I've taken up casually smoking cigarettes. (I mean, one every couple of days.) However, I do not smoke in my house or in my car - usually I go outside, to a nearby park, or out in my apartment's parking lot. I'm always by myself so I don't bother anyone with the smell, and I use perfume and gum afterwards.

No one in my immediate family smokes, and all my life I've heard the typical warnings and what-not against it, but I feel that I'm willing to take the risks right now because of where I'm at in life. I dont intend to become a chainsmoker or even a very serious one, really.

But. My mom just found out this evening, and she has literally been giving me the silent treatment over it. (A little unusual of her) Not before she told me I could move out if I'm "going to do whatever the fuck I want, anyways."

A big part of me can see why she's upset because she raised me to be a healthy person, but I also feel that she's being a little unfair. Like, I'm not doing anything in or near our home, I'm not addicted, I'm paying for it with my very own money, and I'm legally allowed to purchase the cigarettes. I don't do drugs, I don't party, and I'm a good student. But there's a huge part of me that still feels really guilty and really bad that I've pissed her off so much. I know she cares about me and wants me to be healthy, and I do understand where she's coming from to a point.

But I'm seriously wondering right now, am I the asshole?