Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : A friend who spoiled our last two D&amp;D sessions by getting steaming drunk (and then subsequently ruined a dinner party I hosted when one of my friend’s parents were visiting our continent) is sending me endless accusatory Facebook messages wanting to have a chat about how I bully, intimidate and belittle her in D&amp;D sessions. 

She has sent different messages to me and my husband (who is also in our D&amp;D group) about whether the issue is just in D&amp;D or also in IRL; we’ve been friends and playing together for over a year and this hasn’t come up before. 

I’ve said sorry,  but that I don’t have time to meet her over the next few weeks due to, frankly, grown up stuff (funeral, new job, infertility issues, work travel etc). I gave up two evenings last month, and my husband spent one separate evening with her, meeting to discuss her behaviour and drinking. I’m trying to be sympathetic, but I’m a grown ass woman and this is just a game we play. She is I guess old enough to know this, but equally was a student for much longer than me and doesn’t have a partner. 

From her perspective, I do play aggressively and I have little time for time wasting, but a lot of my frustration with her is due to her drunkenness. Other - male - players in our group play similarly to me. 

She has now expressed that I’m avoiding her, being too melodramatic about a request for a chat, and that as a friend I should prioritise meeting with her to discuss this even though we are both busy. She is also accusing me of bullying, missing the point of her original request and is threatening to quit the D&amp;D group. 

I think it’s just a game and she should grow up. I’m sorry if she’s unhappy with how I play and I don’t want to make her uncomfortable, but her request for a meeting to discuss this is overkill and her accusations are false and hurtful. 

TL;DR Drunk D&amp;D group member wants me to drop real life shit to attend to discussing with her how my playing makes her feel bullied. 



