Hey there! 

So some backstory about my sister’s and I relationship 
-We used to be super close when she was studying abroad and had a BF at the time, she constantly called me and came to me for advice/rant about her BF.  After she came back, they had a nasty break up where he cheated on her while being in an LDR (and she was caught snooping in his emails/socials) 

- I’m currently in a 6 month relationship with a wonderful guy and we’re going to do LDR in 5 months so we try to spend time with each other as much as possible now, but due to circumstances I only see him on weekends and sometimes not even at all. I do prioritise my time well and I do not neglect my friends/family when I’m with him.

- my Sister has grown increasingly negative about my relationship and keeps saying how LDR wouldn’t work out, and I’ve noticed her picking fights with me over my relationship for unfair reasons (eg calling me cheap for staying a night over at my bfs house when she flew for a month to see her bf specifically, saying I prioritise my Bf over her when I spend 5 days a week with her and just 1 with him) she’s been very negative and this in turn affects my relationship in very unnecessary ways as I get upset and my Bf has to console me due to her childishness.

- we do have a dynamic where she’s very assertive and I’m always giving in, but recently I’ve been sticking up for myself and we’ve been having arguments when I do. it really is tiring as I realised all the things we argued on was unnecessary

- She constantly asks me for updates in my love life and then the next moment shames me for it. She’ll tell me to spend time with my Bf and if I do, she’ll say that I’m neglecting her. She would encourage me on LDR and then discourage me after. She often hinders my plans or makes me feel bad for making them and this leads to me hiding things from her. She judges me for things yet is completely hypocritical etcetera. It’s very upsetting as there’s nothing I want more for us to be good again but now I rather exclude her from my personal life if she continues being so frustrating - things were never this complicated when she was overseas and now she nitpicks on everything 

My question is: AITA if i start excluding her from personal details of my life? She constantly talks down to me like she wants to control my life.  I’ve started to do it as I realised my actions aren’t accountable to her, (be it my love life or aspirations) since it always ends in her saying I’m wrong and she’s right in a matter that’s my own personal life. When I refuse to tell her my plans (eg she asks about if my Bf and I have discussed LDR properly and instead of telling her I just say “nothings certain yet &amp; I don’t really wanna discuss such a private matter  w u when it concerns me and my BF”)  she’ll react negatively, blows up and says I’m snappy &amp; ungrateful to her advice (it’s not even good advice). ITS SO ANNOYING. 