Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Our toddler daughter is in day care a few days a week at a day care.  It’s a ‘normal’ business.  By that I mean it’s not at someone’s house, not at a church, not run by a non-profit organization.  It’s just a business with probably 5-10 adult staff on-hand at any time.   They’ve opened up a second location recently and seem to be doing well.   The parents are happy and they have great reviews online.

My wife and I love the daycare.  They do a great job, it’s clean, well-managed, modern, safe, etc.   However, I feel at times they play on the emotions of some parents.  They sent home a cookie dough fund raiser book to raise $5000 for a new playground.  They’re asking families to each sell 5 units of this cookie dough to raise money for the playground.

My wife immediately was all excited about it and wanting to go to the neighbors and family members to sell some.  I’m like whoa, take it easy here.  I don’t feel comfortable trying to guilt neighbors/family into donating to a for-profit business.

My wife’s argument is that it’s just what you do with kids and there’s going to be many of these fundraisers through our child’s life.  My counter point was, yes there’ll be many of these and it makes sense to do it for things like raising money for youth sports, school trips, non-profit orgs, etc.  But this is for a business.    I tried to use the example, of the little restaurant down the street the wife and I like.  If the restaurant wanted to add an outside dining patio and asked us for money for that, it would be weird, right?  Wife agrees.  But then she would not see how what the daycare is doing is the same thing.

From my wife’s perspective, because there’s a kid involved, it’s just what you do.  And our kid will be using the playground.   That’s great our kid will be using the playground, but we always pay like $200 a week to them, they’re doing great, and opening new locations.  Why do I need to donate money to them on top of that?

AITA for thinking this is pretty ballsy by the daycare and not wanting to guilt my family members to pay for this?

My solution is maybe the wife leave the fundraising forms for cookie dough by the coffee pot at her work if people really want cookie dough that much they can order some, but leave it at that.  No personally asking people to do it.
