Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Lets start with the background that led to this issue then some context.  My girlfriend was talking to a friend at work yesterday and discovered that he grows weed at home.  She loves plants in general so this got her excited about idea of growing some at home herself and spent the whole day talking about it and getting more and more excited until she ordered some seeds online from overseas and excitedly told me about it.  My reply to her said I was worried that it would only take one nosy neighbor to see something dodgy over a fence or overhear a conversation and we could be in a lot of trouble and that I was not comfortable with the risks.  I didn't hear back from her for a while until she responded to say she was feeling sick which is what happens to her when she gets a hit of depression / anxiety which had happened because of my reply.  This eventually led to an argument when we both got home from work.  We both got emotional and we couldn't reach a mutual understanding and things are still tense between us today.

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From her point of view, I was being overly and unnecessarily negative towards something that she was excited about and this had made feel feel miserable and made her regret sharing something with me.  Admittedly, I do have a habit of doing this as it has happened in the past that I have acted negatively about things that I think are stupid that she is excited about.  However, I insisted that this is a different case because it's not just another hobby she wants to pick up, it's actually something that is illegal and worst case if we get caught due to factors outside out control it could cost me my government job, could violate the terms of the lease on our rental house and get us kicked out, as well as fines or prison time in an extreme case.  From my side of things, I feel like she is dismissing the risks and the fact that it's illegal because "we won't get caught" or because she learned about it from someone who hasn't been caught but she has also made me feel like I'm the one who is wrong and like I'm overreacting about the risk and looking at worst case rather than what is realistic.

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In my country, possession is still illegal unless you have a prescription from a doctor for medicinal use and cultivation is illegal unless you have a license to do so.  In my state in particular, possession under 15g as a first offense and for personal use typically gets you a mark on your criminal record and a formal caution but cultivation is considered alot more serious as it often gets treated as though you have intention to supply and depending on the information I find, the maximum charge could be anywhere from 2 - 10 years prison and $2200 - $11000 in fines (as per information I found from various local law firms about drug charges).

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AITA for not backing down on my stance that I am not comfortable growing weed in our house?