Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : 20m and i'm In college with a 18f. I hooked up with this girl one time 7 months ago, used a condom and she said she was on birth control and 7 months later I get a call last week saying that she's pregnant and that it's up to me if I want to be involved in this child's life. She's not pursuing money (her family is filthy rich) and she just wants to know if I want to be a father and that the reason she hasn't contacted me is because she wasn't sure what my name was and she just found out.  I wonder if she was lying about being on birth control, I know I used a condom and did my part. If I would've known sooner I would've suggested an abortion or something. I'm not signing any papers saying i'm the father or claiming any father rights. I'm also getting a paternity test just to be 100% sure.

&amp;#x200B;

I moved and am now 5 hours away from this girl and I don't see how I could throw my life plans away to be with a baby that I feel no attachment too and a girl I don't even know. I'm in nursing school and time strapped as it is. I know nothing about the mother. I grew up with a shitty father and I know from my experience that the kid would be better of with a non existent father then a shitty one. I told the girl that if she ever needed money I would help anomalously, but I do not want to be a father and that i'm sorry that she's going to have to go through being a single mother. I don't want kids and I'm fairly certain I would make a shitty father, due to not wanting to be a father. I also don't think that because I had sex one time, that it justify's me to have to raise a child and have the total responsibility of how this individual works out in life, I do realize that financially i'm required to support it and I have no problem doing that. I honestly think that the child would be better off without me in life and being with someone who teaches the child healthy boundaries and other things that I have no clue about.

&amp;#x200B;

 She's not holding me responsible and I'm not holding me responsible because what 20 year old wouldn't hook up with a pretty girl. I don't feel bad for the kid because she seems like the type to make a great mom and her family is financially and emotionally secure, meanwhile on my side I don't have family, my parents abused me so I left and my uncles and aunt's told me to fuck off when I needed them, So I don't have family. I honestly feel he's better off not knowing who I am and him knowing that his family from his mom's side is good and it being a mystery on his dads side of what he actually comes from. 

&amp;#x200B;

If the kid got famous or became rich in the future I wouldn't come out of the woodworks and claim it because I don't see it as my child. If he came to me in the future when he got older, I would probably let him get to know me, but I wouldn't try to act like his dad. I don't want any part in raising a child. It's either all in or all out and I'm all out.

&amp;#x200B;

Am I the asshole