My husband switched jobs within the past year or so and new job allows him to work from home  a few days a week.  He decided to set up his office in our bedroom.  I suggested he set up in the basement where he would be guaranteed silence and very little disruption.  He prefers to work from our bedroom because the view is better.  His job is 90% conference calls so while he is up there, I have to keep kids from disturbing him which basically means the whole top floor of our house is off limits while he is on calls.  It also means I can’t shower in my bathroom, do chores, put away laundry, or even take a nap when the baby is sleeping.  I also work from home but also take on most of the house chores and dealing with kids.  Him being up there negates my ability to take a damn shower or a poop in peace when I want to.   Since we have adequate space in the basement I told him that we would never bother him while he is down there ever but I can’t promise him silence if he stays in our bedroom. He says i am the asshole for not being quiet when he’s on calls while I think he is the asshole for not setting his office up in the dang basement. Please resolve our fight for us.  Thank you!