Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So my now ex-boyfriend is a big believer in love and symbols, specifically wedding rings I guess. We were in a pretty committed (yikes) relationship at the time, and the subject of us getting married someday came up. I wasnt opposed to the idea of getting married, but I was pretty set on not having a wedding ring or at least not wearing one.

When I told him I didn't want one or I wouldn't wear it he got pretty upset and I just could not understand why. He said the wedding ring is a symbol of our love. Plus if I never wore it how would people know I'm married, especially if I went out and someone tried to hit on me thinking I'm single. He also mentioned he worried I'd cheat or something because there would be no proof on my hand that I'm married.

I had a few reasons of my own. 1. I have never enjoyed wearing jewelry in my life, especially rings. It honestly makes me uncomfortable to have something around my fingers like that. 2. I dont need a ring to prove I love someone. 3. If someone tried to hit on me why can't I just TELL them I'm taken? Either way it's not like everyone looks for or respects a wedding ring anyway. 4. I'm not going to cheat.

 My biggest fear though was number one. I don't know why, but I just can't stand to have rings on, every time I'd try I'd get anxious and be unable to focus. He said it's something I can get over if I tried, but I dont want to get over it honestly. I would rather just not wear jewelry, I don't like how it looks anyway so it's not holding me back from anything. Plus I was honestly a little offended he didn't trust that I could go out on my own without proof that I'm not single. I also felt like he was being a bit possessive, I don't think like I should need this physical symbol of him on me at all times.
 
He would say it's okay and I dont have to wear it but then he'd say he'd be very upset if I didn't. Made me feel pretty guilty and I just don't know. So am I the asshole for not wanting a wedding ring?