I have been playing ark with the same group of people for a few months after I bought Extinction on sale. I saw the trailer and had to have it. Let's call them A and B. 

I start playing it every day with A who didn't have the Extinction Map so we played on the free Ragnorok Map, we play for a few weeks when another friend (B) buys the base ARK game to join us on Ragnorok. 

Weeks pass , adventures are had , animals are tamed , bases are built, I want our tribe of 3 to take on a dungeon, A vehemently doesn't want to says they scare her alot. I pressure A a little but when she says they give her honest to God panic attacks I relent and commit to doing them with 2 people. 

The Holidays come and A gets Extinction and we start looking for a server to play on , while still playing on Ragnorok with B. I go to bed early one night and B decides to buy Extinction and they both find a server for us all to play on. It's terrible, it's basically a cheat server, hit a tree once and your level 100 and have 10000 pieces of wood. I tell them both I don't like it and would like to find a new one together, A gets all upset that her effort of two days is for nothing and she is not changing servers. B is silent.

Drama transpires on the server with it's owners, they kept resetting and locking the server with no notice, A and B take it on themselves to find a new server without telling me any of this. I come back to find they have moved to an even easier server that is incredibly laggy for me. 

Cut to now , I can't even get through the games main menu before I lose all interest in playing the game or with them. Now both A and B message me every few days asking where I'm at. Am I the asshole? 