Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Ok. So last week was my birthday! Which was awesome, but I had to deal with my grandparents. I came out to them as transgender about two months ago, and they vehemently denied it. They literally said I was being controlled by the devil, which is why I feel this way, apparently. 
So they used my name at my party, once. Which made me very happy! I was ecstatic! They also used a card for me that said "happy birthday, grandson" on the front and deadnamed me the rest of the time, but I chalked it up as progress. 
Nonetheless, I was still *very* upset. It was my birthday, and though I was very grateful they showed up and I could wear makeup and stuff, and they were respectful, I was incredibly dysphoric because of the constant deadnaming. 
I brought this up today, and my mom became furious with me, saying I need to be patient with them and give them time, and that I "can't expect change overnight". I replied that I didnt, and that I was very grateful for what they've done for my family and I, but I still want to be called by name. I said I deserved to at least be recognized of my identity. 
My mom then said that I was being selfish, and I was only thinking of myself. 

AITA? 