Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So I met my current boyfriend while I was an intern while in school. He was a seasonal employee who was sort of my supervisor. He’d give me work to do and stuff, and I had a crush on him from the moment I met him, but he had a girlfriend. i didn’t know her, but we were in similar graduate programs and I know some of her friends. I couldn’t really hide my feelings, and for the 3 months we worked together, we would flirt a lot and volunteer to work on projects alone. I fell hard. We’re really alike and even our bosses would say that we belong together, even though they knew he had a gf. On my last day at work before I moved for a full time job I got, we all went and grabbed beers, and I pulled him aside and confessed my feelings for him that I’ve had since day one. We made out. I think he felt bad afterwards because of his girlfriend. He was supposed to move in with her two weeks later.

We continued to talk and he texted me one day saying he just had a long and difficult conversation with his gf and was asking me if he should tell her what happened. I asked if they were breaking up and he said yes. Because of that, I told him to not tell her. Well apparently they didn’t break up after that convo, and she found out what happened. He initially lied to her about it because he felt so awful and didn’t want to hurt her. We continued to talk all the time, and apparently they broke up, but they were trying to “work on things” and fix their relationship. He said he had some feelings for me so we continued to talk everyday while he was working on his relationship. Apparently the other girl found out and was furious. They finally officially ended things about a month after he confessed to cheating on her with me. Idk what happened to her except that she was in therapy. He said that things were on their way out with her anyway, and he had feelings for her but also had them for me and wanted to see where they went. 

We started officially dating a month later and I’ve never felt this way before. I’ve never really had a serious relationship before and it’s been a long time since I’ve been with someone and I feel like he’s the one. We talked and got engaged a little less than two months after we officially started dating. 

I feel like it may be a little fast, but I am pretty religious so this feels kind of standard, especially with how I feel. My parents are super happy for us and I am too, but I have some lingering hesitations. He cheated on his gf to be with me, and I know he was telling her that nothing was going on between us while they were trying to “fix” things. When she first found out he made out with me, he told her that I had just confessed my feelings and he rejected me, but only because she was so angry and upset and he got freaked out and scared, so I get it. But he said that things were on their way out with her anyway and he had had feelings for me for a few months while they were still together. And we connect so well, like God had this plan for us to be together. 

Am I the asshole? 

