Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Breaking out the throw away for this one. 


Life happened and we were forced to move. Luckily, I had family willing to help. I buckled down and had a job in the new area immediately. It's part time, barely above minimum wage, but it's enough to pay the bills. That's the short of it, really. We moved, I put on my big girl panties and got work. That was three months ago. 


In that time my husband hasn't found a job, but he says he'd rather finish his degree than work. I get it, I support it, he makes money doing that. It would fulfill my need for financial stability, while fulfilling his desire to get his degree. Because it'll make him happy, and help me not stress about money, I 100% support the choice. 


*But*, he hasn't even enrolled in an local colleges. He hasn't started the process of transferring credits. He hasn't ordered his official transcripts for his own record. 


Now, get does stay at home with our toddler. That a tough job, I get it. Kids can be frustrating and keep you busy, I'm not depreciating the effort he gives to this family. She's starting preschool soon, soon he won't *have* to watch her all day, and at this rate he won't be able to start until the winter semester. (She starts preschool in April, so spring semester won't happen, and that's ok. He won't be able to for summer because he'll be transferring his credits and everything then. Fall semester won't happen because it'll take a month or so after he's enrolled for his financial aid stuff to go through.) 


I would personally have no issues with him being a SAHD if I made the money to support us. But I don't. 


I don't know, it just irritates me that he says there is no time to try, but he somehow always finds time for YouTube or Reddit. 50% chance he'll find this. 


I even made all the calls for him, found the right numbers and names for him, all he had to do was enroll for one college, then call the other and initiate the credit transfer, so that he'll be a "student" and ready to take classes as soon as our kid gets into preschool. That's maybe an hour to an hour and a half out of his day. He doesn't have time for that, but has time for hour long YouTube videos? 


I don't know. Am I the asshole for being mad? This is literally the only thing we argue about. Financial struggles are the largest cause of my anxiety, he knows this. I'm just asking for help. He used to do online classes, and I support that, I support if he goes in for classes. School used to be the most important thing to him, and I support his choices, except when they weigh us down.



I want him to be happy, but not at the expense of my mental health. I get, like, $200 a week, guys. $300 if I've gotten decent hours. I live in a larger city, rent is $1500 for a studio apartment. I haven't been able to afford even a haircut because all my money goes to bills. 


What happened to my husband? What happened to his drive? Am I the asshole? Am I asking too much? I'm asking here because I need to know if I'm being unfair, and some advice (whether I'm the asshole or not) that isn't just "leave him". 