Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve read all of your comments and taken some time to think. In all honesty I’m ashamed of the way I acted, and looking back I can’t believe I tried to defend myself. I think growing up around a racist family has impacted me in ways that I didn’t realise. I spoke to her about the incident and I apologized. We both started crying. She wants to take a break from the relationship, rightfully so. I’ve messaged my family and told them that I won’t be speaking to them anymore until they get their shit together. I’m heartbroken but I don’t blame her. I just hope that I can win her back. Thanks for educating me.