Here are the details... I met this guy thru a mutual friend... this guy I’ve been talking to doesn’t even live in the same state as I do, we’ve visited each other about 3 times in the course of 10 months. We’ve communicated via text, calls and FaceTime. During my second visit we slept with each other. I’ve had conversations with him regarding the nature of our relationship and where it’s headed. He stated numerous times that we aren’t exclusive, that I can date other people and he encouraged me to do so.  He has some issues with his legal status in this country and for that reason and the long distance he felt like we can’t put a label on it...And it wouldn’t be fair for me to wait for him and deal with his situation.. 

During this time I slept with someone and I didn’t tell him about. 

He found this out recently through a phone call in which I told him that I was asked out on date but wasn’t planning to go thru with it because I wasn’t interested. He then tells me I’m free to do whatever I want but if I do then he and I aren’t a thing... I was confused.... I said, wait we are a thing? I thought we weren’t? And then he asked me... have you slept with someone else besides me? And I responded with yes. That’s when the shit storm occurred. He never wants to speak to me again and I’ve respected his wishes. We weren’t dating, he never called me  girlfriend and yet I feel like shit for hurting him like that. 

Am I the asshole here? 