Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Tl;dr at the bottom, long time lurker first time poster, I’m on mobile etc etc

I’ve been feeling really about about how I treated this girl recently and I’m turning to reddit for advice. We had known each other for over a year and had started talking pretty consistently for roughly 6 months. I was in high school at the time and have retained the social awkwardness I portrayed back then. I tried to make up ways to hang out with her because we weren’t part of the same friend group. I would come up with things like asking if she wanted to play narrative based video games together (which I know she was interested in) via streams and discord. She said that she would love that and so we said we’d do it that weekend. She then proceeded to be busy for the entire weekend. She was never quite specific on what it was so I’m pretty sure it was made up. I thought it wasn’t a big deal and asked if she wanted to do it the coming weekend instead. She agreed and once again she forgot all about it despite being active and friendly during the week. I tried to take no offense to this but I had trouble after two really suspicious weekends. 

Months passed and we never played those games, but we were still talking consistently. I then in my infinite stupidity chose to face my social anxiety and ask her on a date to the movies, to which she replied the classic “....as friends.” I asked her if she actually wanted to go as friends or if it was just social niceties, and she replied the former. So I take the time to plan everything and invite extra friends so it wouldn’t be weird and she cancels and then doesn’t talk to me for two months straight. She used to say hi in the hallways and now walks right past without so much as a glance. I was extremely hurt by this and I was extremely confused as I saw no logical reason for her to act this way. 

After these two months of ghosting she asks me for help with a writing piece of hers. I basically blow up on her and tell her that she actually has to cultivate relationships with people for them to want to help her, and that she shouldn’t except me to turn around from being rejected and promptly ghosted with a smile on my face and that she needed to find somebody else. I used specific details of how she was upset some of her friends chose to stop hanging around with her, and I said that if she treated them the same she treated me then they have every right to leave.

She later tells me she only ghosted me in an attempt to not lead me on. I feel justified in how I felt but I’m regretful of how I acted. What do you think, Reddit, AITA?

Tl;dr: I liked a girl and asked her out, she ghosted me and then asked for my help and I blew up