Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Tonight my husband and I had an argument where we weren’t really understanding each other. We did manage to come to an understanding on some things, but not all. Afterwards I asked him if he would consider going to couples therapy and he got pissed off real quick. 


I tried to explain that i thought it would be helpful to help us communicate, and I didn’t suggest it because I thought there was something really wrong with us. 


He took it to mean that there’s something wrong with us, or I think in the future something will be really wrong with us, and he said if it comes to that then we should just spit up. I said eventually every couple gets to a hard place, and I wanted to try and prevent that by working on issues that COULD become bigger issues in the future. Lots of couples go to pre-marriage counseling to build a solid foundation in their relationship, and his response was they only go bc the church they want to marry in requires it. And what, I don’t think we have a good foundation? I don’t think we work well together?

Our relationship is really good but there are definitely areas where it could be improved, on both sides. Since it’s a lot of misunderstanding I really think an unbiased 3rd party would be helpful. He refuses to even consider it because he doesn’t want to, there’s nothing wrong with him and he didn’t have a fucked up childhood (like me, I am in my own therapy). He said I’ve been going to therapy 2 weeks (actually 3 months) and now I just know everything and think I’m always right. He also thinks he’s always right. 


Even though we’ve been okay now, that doesn’t mean these things won’t build into something way bigger later on. I think we could try and be a better couple with a high chance of success but he thinks we’re fine and now this means something’s wrong but still won’t consider counciling because it makes him uncomfortable. He got mad at me for “pushing” it and I’m the asshole for trying to make him do something I want that makes him uncomfortable. 

AITA? 