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Okay so my friend, “Linda”, is my closest friend to me. I love her more than anything and about a year to two years ago she started dating this guy named “Aron”. At first everything seemed fine between them and she was saying how much she loved him etc etc. She was also having a lot of family problems and we were having some drama between us as well, so while she spent more time with Aron, we drifted apart and spoke less and less. A few days not speaking turned into a week, which turned into weeks, then months. After about six months (and a fight) we reconciled and started to rekindle our friendship. 

Between that time she had also broken up with Aron, citing that he was very controlling and not a good person. We still weren’t very close at that point but slowly started building up our trust again. About three months ago, she admitted that he was abusive towards her, although she left him before she got seriously physically harmed. She also admitted to me that since then he had been creating fake Facebook accounts to talk to her and even though she would block him, he would create more and more. She would also catch him randomly appearing wherever she was and he knew where she lived. She was/is fearing for herself. She recently got into a new relationship, but this guy knows Aron. He doesn’t know he was abusive though. 

One time Linda was helping her new boyfriend out in his neighborhood when she spotted Aron lingering nearby. She really freaked out and had a panic attack and left early. She tells me that at night she cannot sleep sometimes she is so scared (she lives alone aside from roommates she shares her apartment with). 

So, I suggested to her to contact the police but she was hesitant because she didn’t have any proof. I completely understood this, being a survivor myself. She admitted that he is an undocumented immigrant, so I then suggested that she report that to the authorities so then that gets him out of the country for good. It would eliminate the threat forever. She said that it sounded like a really good idea, but the actually going through for her was a scary thought. I showed her the steps and said that she didn’t even have to go in person, you can just file a form online. She hesitated still, and said “let’s just go to sleep.” (I was staying the night)


A week or so later, we were FaceTiming and she was feeling anxious and so when we hung up, I just felt so powerless. I knew that she might not ever report him so I decided to then go on the ICE.gov website and report him myself. I did that and also wrote down the abuse he did to her (not naming her) and what she said he had down in the past to other girls, though I don’t know if it was here in the US or his home country. 


Now ever since I’ve done that, I feel that I absolutely cannot tell her. Did I completely betray her trust by doing this? AITA?
