Bit of a backstory, a few months ago during the summer I moved in with my Dad, since my Mom was moving across country with my siblings. I didn’t want to move because I am currently doing my GCSEs in school and moving would’ve meant moving schools and restarting my ongoing coursework for my exams.

For Christmas 2017 (when I was living with my Mom) my Mom bought me a new Phone as my main present with some clothes and chocolate. It was all nice and I was very thankful, and showed my appreciation by helping with preparing the Christmas food and helping clean up. It was a great Christmas altogether.

When I moved into to my Dad’s house 6months later my Mom didn’t say anything about returning the phone to her, since she did pay for it. But this Christmas, my dad bought me the newest iPhone. When I went up to my Mom’s house to spend Christmas with her side of the family, my Mom asked if my Dad bought me the phone, I said yes. My Mom got weird and said something under her breath to my Aunt and I got a bit pissed and asked ‘what was that?’, since she’s always badmouthing my Dad to my other siblings. She replied in an offended tone, ‘Glad to see where his priorities lie’. I asked her what she meant by this. And she went off saying about how he never buys by siblings stuff (which was a lie, he bought my siblings a lot of clothes and toys) and buys be a brand new £1000 iPhone. 

I told her I needed a new one since my old one was running very slow. So she asked if she can have it back. I said ‘Why? You bought it for me for Christmas.’ And she said that it’s hers since she bought it for me, regardless of whether she gave it to me as a present, I need to give it back to her.

So I refused since it was a Christmas present for me, I shouldn’t have to return it just because my dad bought me one.

Does this make me the asshole?