A while back, I got into some major shit with some “friends” I had. These “friends” were complete assholes, and they were sucky af. All they did was try to start drama which was super annoying and immature, and then they’d blame it on other people. 

They’d also managed to slowly get me to start dropping my relationships with other friends, family, etc. Until I realized what was really going on.

They made me feel guilty for the shit they started, and acted like every single little thing I did was horribly wrong or offensive, and the things they’d stuck in my mind are still affecting me now.

Not to mention, they were like 13 year old girls when it came to gossiping. They would do it CONSTANTLY, about their own friends. It was a hobby for them.

We had this huge fight and both sides were being total shitheads TBH. We were both in the wrong. Both sides insulted each other and were rude. 

However, I refuse to forgive them. To me, that would be like excusing all the shit they’d pulled on me in the past, and I don’t think they deserve my forgiveness, or even my respect. Forgiving people who act like that will just take advantage of that and keep doing it, knowing that you’ll forgive them every time.

My parents, however, say that you should love, respect, and forgive EVERYONE, even the people who’ve torn apart your life and hurt you intentionally, because that’s what Jesus tells us to do. They tell me that forgiving those assholes would be showing that I’m moving on, but that’s not the way I see forgiveness at all, and I’m sure as hell thats not how those shitheads see it either. 

So AITA for refusing to forgive people who’ve really hurt me and mentally scarred me? I’m curious.