Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My birthday is coming up in a couple weeks and i posted a status on my facebook asking who’d like to go out with me for my birthday. I also made a post on my instagram saying that nobody probably wanted to go out with me for my birthday and i was gonna be at home lonely. Low and behold two of my really good friends, we’ll call them Amy and Jan for the sake of the story commented on the facebook status asking when and what were doing. I decided karaoke and maybe a few drinks. So its a done deal got plans set for my birthday.

Nowwww i have another friend named “Beth” who left a comment on my instagram post. she just commented a skeptical emoji face on the instagram post along with the words hmmmmm, kind of implying she was there if i wanted to go out with her. 

A little back story on Beth: she used to be my best-friend and we have some history together (3 years of friendship). Our friendship ended at one point over a number of things but the main reason is that she tried to steal my current boyfriend. She’s always had to be the center of attention or dominant female in our relationship. I dont do well with these types of people, i dont care to compete especially when i dont view things in a competitive mindset. We both were involved with the same friend group and she was one of main reasons i left. I was the only other girl in the friend group and her need for constant validation from our guy friends and constant attention really started getting on my nerves. She would think it was jealousy when it was really just me getting irritated. She was so self centered that at one point she got mad that my boyfriend and i were hanging out without her and she was angry we weren’t working around her schedule to all hang out together. 

I stopped talking to her in oct and we reconnected at the beginning of this year around April. I kept my distance and i only consider her an acquaintance now. Shes always trying to hang out with me and I’m just not feeling it anymore, i know she wants things to go back to the way they used to be but i just cant bring myself to get close to someone like that. Shes been making advances by trying to be my gym buddy, trying to plan a time and day of the week to hang out every week which doesn’t really work with my schedule as it is sporadic. In a way I’ve mostly been ghosting her.

Im afraid if i invite her she’s going to once again make everything about her when it’s my special day. Shes going to find some reason to start unnecessary drama and I’m just not here for it. She clearly wants to go and knows I’ve been avoiding contact with her. AITA for not inviting her?