 

## Girlfriend tends to hit me during arguments.

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Me (25M) and my girlfriend (22F) were watching a movie. I was holding her ankle with my hand and without knowing I was rubbing it with my finger, I tend to do that sometimes subconsciously and my girlfriend hates it.She has told me several times to stop doing it, but sometimes I just can't help myself and start doing unconsciously. After she told me to stop, I apologized and said that I did not notice that I was doing it. She was angry at me that I did it in the first place and started to rub my neck with her finger to "pay me back". After some time she said "How do you like it?", since at that point I was annoyed that she did it, I said "I like it a lot" then she answered "ok then" and proceeded to rub my neck for the next 5 minutes, knowing fully that I did not like it. After I did not pay attention for some time, she started rubbing my face to get me more annoyed, I told her to not rub my face, then she started to rub near my ear, I told her to stop because the sound is annoying. Then she told me why should she stop when I do it to her. I said you already did more to me than I did to her.

Then she told me to back off from her (we were cuddling up until that point). I backed away and she started to play with her phone and not watch the movie with me. Then I asked her why is she not watching the movie with me, she told me to "fuck off" and leave me alone. I said to her "It is not fair that you are acting like this, since I apologized and let you have your revenge, then she told me to shut up and I repeated to her that it is not fair. She then got very angry and got very annoyed by me and kicked me in the face, it is not the first time she hit me. Usually when I annoy her she hits me and tells me it is my fault since I did not back off and ignored her warnings, so I have accepted that it was my fault. This time instinctively I hit her in her leg (Throughout our 3 year relationship I have hit her 3-4 times including this one and I don't hit with my full force as I do not want and hate to hit her at all) and then she got more angry. I told her it is not fair what she is doing and called her stupid, then she grabbed hear earbuds and told me "call me stupid one more time and I will hit you", so of course I called her stupid and she hit me,then I did it again. She said for every time you call me stupid "I will hit you" so I kept calling her stupid and she kept hitting me until hear earbuds broke. Am I the asshole here?