Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : We live in a moderately affluent school district where there are some families that are well off.  The High school is good- good academics, great arts programs.  I make a good amount, but due to poor decisions in the past, am living paycheck to paycheck.  Almost the standard in the US I think these days- a couple thousand in medical bills that I am paying fine, several more in credit cards- I am not behind but have little in the way of savings.  
Enter the once every 4 year super mega band trip.  HAWAII!  We live in the Midwest.  Cost for the trip BEFORE airfare is $2700.  Airfare expected to be at least another grand. that works out to a $300/mo payment each on the handy payment plan.  I have 1 kid that never asks for anything, and is the saver who is all F this trip- lets save money and go somewhere else. I have the spender who is an incoming freshman who is all "I want to go and i will save money and work even though i have never done it before"  I think it is irresponsible for the directors of the band to plan out such an extravagant trip- it isn't like the rose bowl or anything- the kids will be using rented instruments to play a concert in a park.  I feel like this is really a haves vs the have nots- and I hate that feeling.  Am I the asshole for not wanting my kid(s) to go on this and questioning "when is enough enough?

fwiw- yes there are opportunities for fundraising, but we have alienated a pool of people seeing as we lean blue in a red state, and we already raise $1000 a year for the normal band fees and another $1000 for Show Choir.  