So I just found out about this subreddit, and this has bothered me for a while. So, I figured I'd run it by you guys.

Way back when I worked retail, I had been gunning for a full-time position. I was working my ass off; honing my customer service skills, upselling, doing what I could to get in good with the boss and my coworkers, etc. Another employee who had been there longer got it instead. I was fine, as she had worked hard, too and had seniority. I knew that some other positions would probably open up in the future (as things do), and kept working hard, though.

Well a few months later, I was pulled in and offered the promotion to full time. The same position my coworker had gotten before. When I asked a coworker I was close friends with what was happening to her, he simply said that she was leaving. I assumed she had probably found a better position and quit. So, a few days later, I ran into her on break and she asked if I was excited about the promotion. I told her yes, and asked her where she was going (as in what company/line of work). She suddenly got this really bitter look on her face and just said "Nowhere" and left.

I asked my coworkers about it one night when she wasn't working, and while the few I was close with said she probably just took it the wrong way (apparently she had been struggling, but I honestly never noticed), my supervisor, who I was also relatively close with told me that it may have been my attitude. When I asked her what she meant, she said that when she first met me I seemed cocky and sarcastic, but she knew better as she got to know me. A lot of my other coworkers agreed.

I had never been told this my anyone before, but I've always had trouble making work friends. Even afterwards when I tried to be more aware of my tone and such. I'm not sure if it's my voice, or my ambition/excitement, or something else, but it's always bothered me since. I love people and always strive to live the Judy Hopps style of life: upbeat, ambitious, and genuine. I'm not sure where I went wrong, but if you have any ideas, please lmk.

Tl;Dr: Accidentally offended coworker. Other coworkers say I seem to have attitude if you don't know me well. Not sure how or where I went wrong.