Ok so just some background to the situation. I attend the same university as my friend, but I study under a different School so I've never personally had any experience with this lecturer. I have however heard of her before due to an extremely similar experience another friend had last year in her class, which lead to my choice of advice.

So a friend of mine was given an assignment to discuss whether or not they believed Millennials were entitled. The feedback they received after the assignment was complete was: "It was so ironic that your essay came across as so entitled that I showed your essay to my husband and we had a good laugh at it".

My friend was mortified. It wasn't that they didn't do well on the assignment that upset them, it was that they got virtually no feedback other than what I quoted and the lecturer's husband doesn't even work in our university and had no right to be shown my friends work, never mind ridicule it.

So long story short, when my friend came to me asking for advice I told them to go back to the lecturer. I told them to say they wanted actual constructive feedback for their work, and for their work not to be shared with her husband. They did just that and it somehow blew up in their face. I'm not sure how *exactly* it went wrong as the friend is giving me the silent treatment, but I'm pretty sure both the lecturer and my friend have to attend a disciplinary meeting with the School heads.

I feel awful about the advice I gave. At the time I thought it was the best choice of action since the lecturer was being unprofessional imo, but I really didn't want my friend to end up in trouble since their having a hard time in uni anyway. I'm pretty sure they're giving everyone the silent treatment not just me, but I'm worried I fucked up here since I'm pretty much directly involved. AITA?