I live in a studio apartment with my bestfriend, but we live on opposite schedules so we never see each other. The rare times we do have the same day off, she spends it with family or her girlfriend, which isn't a problem.

But this weekend we made plans, just us, to catch up and go to a bar we wanted to try, which I was excited for. To then find out, without talking to me, that she then changed the plans to go out somewhere else with family. Her family dislikes me because when we first met I had lost my job, and we met on an app after reconginizing each other from going to the same high school. Her family thought I was just trying to use her even though we were never dating and I've never taken money from her. 

My bestfriend is fully aware of this but still feels like I need to make amends even though they hate me based off a false assumption. 

I felt like it was messed up to dismiss our plans and then try to guilt me into spending time with people that have made it clear verbally, multiple times, that they don't like me. So I canceled and took another shift at work because I figured I might as well be making money instead. My coworker said I was cold blooded and wrong. Am I the asshole?