I've been seeing a girl for three months now; it's been getting serious for the last month (seeing each other multiple times a week, sleepovers at least once a week). She has two twenty-pound dogs who are kind of her babies... she's deeply attached to them, coddles them, brought them to the bar on our first date, etc. I also have a dog who I adore, so I'm sympathetic to her feelings about them. 

Where I do not enjoy their presence, though, is in the bedroom. One of them in particular is deeply neurotic about us having sex and alternates between panicked attempts to get between us or panicked attempts to get out of the room. We've discussed some ways to fix this but she hasn't taken the initiative to actually solve the problem yet. Then, both of them sleep in the bed at night. The neurotic one spends a lot of time trying to get close to me to lick me, and the other one likes to lay right in between us, preventing any cuddling/spooning if I don't beat him to the spot right next to her. Because of them all sleepovers so far have been at her house so she can be there for them (I'm able to leave my dog with a friend some nights to be at her place).

I really like this girl and I respect that the dogs are really important to her. I've dealt with it up til now, but I'm starting to get frustrated with all this. Bed is a sacred space for me to relax and be comfortable (my dog is never allowed into mine), and the cuddling/touch/sex that happens there is one of the main "languages" that I feel loved in. AITA if I tell her we need to start having sleepovers at my house without her dogs if she can't keep hers out of her bed? And what if that's an okay compromise for now but not long-term? If we were ever to live together I think it would be a dealbreaker for me if she insisted on letting them in all the time. FWIW I would be okay with the dogs in the bed by invitation, but the majority of the time I want them out.

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