Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Td;lr: boyfriends parents say bad things about me, the kids ( aged 7-9 ) and constantly fight with each other while I'm there. I'm no longer comfortable going over, AITA for refusing to go over or not?




We are both 19, I'm English and he and his family are polish, this is important as his parents are quite catholic.

We've been together for 4 years and when we first started going out it was fine, his mum was lovely to me even though we don't speak the same Language, she'd try and talk to me and the more I went the more I could understand what she was saying. The dad has always been shy and never really spoke to me unless he had to. I've cooked dinners for them and the family when they've been at work, I've looked after his little brothers when they go out and everything. I'd been to Poland twice to meet all of his family, learned basic polish to communicate with them.

About two years into our relationship I was there quite often, I'd spend more time with them and the more time I spent with them the more I'd dislike them a bit. Not enough to effect the relationship but just at how ignorant they were. The mum used to feed the two young siblings ( age 7-9 now) a load of crap with 4 meals a day and then would laugh at them being fat, bullying them and pulling on their clothes saying they're too tight, they then started making my boyfriend pay £250 a month rent while working at McDonald's 2 days a week while still in full time education, this wouldn't bother me if it was going to the family essentials or towards the younger siblings but the mum was just buying tattoos with what was essentially my boyfriends whole wage. They made him give up a managers course to do an extra year at college (an English high school equivalent) then when he turned up it turned out he hadn't applied early enough so they forced him to give up something he wanted to do for nothing. 

Fast forward to present day and my boyfriend got into an argument about rent and out of no where his parents brought  up out the blue saying that 'one day I will get pregnant and ruin his life' which is crazy as I have never had a pregnancy scare, I have always been on contraception and careful and I have no desire to ever have a child and 'that I'd grow up to be a baby killer' and  'that I handed myself to him like a whore' 

I was so angry as all I had done was do everything I could to earn their respect and the dad had just said all that. I spoke to my parents upset about it the next day and the said my boyfriend shouldn't have told me what they said, well obviously I was very upset about it but I obviously can't do anything about it because they don't know I know so I'm not going to get an apology so I just continue going over. Well the last straw was tonight.

Tonight I go over and his parents are arguing with each other loudly in front of the kids throwing insults back and fourth and I heard the 9'year old brother say to the other one 'do you ever feel something but not understand it and not know who to talk to' and it honestly crushed my heart. I told my boyfriend and we took the kids to go get pick n mix but I said to my boyfriend I can't come over anymore, the house and the family is too toxic. 

AITA for putting that pressure on my boyfriend or am I justified to feel uncomfortable in their home. 
