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So a couple months ago I had completed my work for a job over the summer in late August. I had earned a little under $1000 over the course of the 3 months I had worked there, and it being a labor intensive job I felt like that money was very hard earned. Over the course of up until about 3 months ago, I had spent about 400 of it on various things over the course of that time, and that leads to the point where my mother had come in.

Me and my mom had been struggling with finances over a very long time. My parents split a while back over finances, and we had been living in various places over the last couple of years. We were in a hotel up until renting the place we currently have, which is pretty much a duplex in a set of 3. I was very proud of what my mom had done for me and what she was able to accomplish especially with her low credit score and financial instability. That was until the incident that occurred relating back to my saved money.

Turns out my mother had not been able to pay the rent for the house for the month of December, and she ended up asking me for the money. Now considering how rough of a spot asking me this put me in, as I didn't want to upset her or lose the house, I ended up giving it to her. Now what irks me isn't the fact that I gave her the money, I would have done that in a heartbeat, what irks me is 3 things. 1) I was left in the dark of our financial situation up until this point, where I was kinda asked out of the blue for the money. I knew we were struggling but I didn't know it was THAT bad. If she had told me I would've looked for another job to help contribute to the house, utilities, etc. 2) I haven't seen any of the money or my possessions back. I loaned her that money, with a promise of seeing it back, over 2 months ago and I haven't seen any of it back. Nor have I seen the stuff that has been put away in storage, or the things that are stowed away in my grandmothers house (which is currently unavailable to us due to a falling out but that's a different story.) 3) I am still performing my duties as a person who lives in this house, i.e. cleaning, organizing, taking trash out, rubbing her back daily due to her back problems, etc.

Its at a certain point that I begin to feel used and not properly loved or compensated for what I'm doing to ease mine and my mother's stress. There's a lot of tension in the house and I am not sure If I am to blame myself, my mother, if its both of our faults or neither. It's been so difficult getting to here and I still love her for what she's done, but I don't want to ruin another relationship with a family member because I don't feel appreciated.

AITA?