A few weeks ago, I was woken up when my next door neighbor arrived home, bumping very loud club-style music. It was 4am on a Wednesday but I didn’t act immediately because I figured it’d only be a moment before she turned off her car and went inside. About 10 minutes later, it became apparent that she was just hanging out in her car. I tried to put a pillow over my head, but the bass was up so high that even if the sound was dulled, I could feel the beat. A few more minutes pass until I sent her a text message.



Me: “Do you have any control over the music outside, or is that someone else?”


Her: “Sorry, that’s me. Turned it off.”


Me: “Girl.. it’s 4am on a Wednesday”


Her: “I know. I had a friend call me to take them home after getting plastered.”

Her: “I’m sorry I woke you. I’ll be quiet. Go back to sleep.”


My boyfriend thought I was super rude. I was just incredulous at her seeming lack of self awareness (this wasn’t the first time this happened).


Am I the asshole?