Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : (So there's alot to unpack but I'll be clear, what I'm trying to get here is perspective and resolve to make a life decision here. Unbiased perspectives are appreciated and why I'm here.)

This is a bit of a follow up from my previous post where I got upset at my mother for spending my money on a "gift" for me. In similar fashion a fight broke out over the same thing: a check came in on my name for an overpayment of escrow on my old house I sold (about 400$). 

Turns out my mother had plans for the check, and demanded i sign it and give it to her as she needed the money. When I said no, its a check in my name, she proceeded to go into a tirade of how ungrateful i am, how much she sacrificed etc etc. This isn't where I'm looking for justification, its the next part. 

I said enough, I'm tired of the garbage and that I wanted out of this family unit and that I could support myself and do my own thing. The implication is I would sell the house I'm in, give my mother the equity she left in the house, take the value above her equity (as its still my house in my name, my loan and I've made the payments). Now this is something I said in the heat of the moment and I haven't talked to her since, but truth be told I do want out. 

So i need to weigh the karmic balance, my relationship with my mother has been so up and down I cannot tell what's right anymore but she really has generally been a positive influence and I don't know how to feel about kicking her, her boyfriend (and his mom), and my little sister out of the house. 

In order:

- she helped to pay for part of my tuition

- she helped me move out of my father's place who wanted me to take over his business

- after college she let me stay at her place for a year

- she worked as realtor/flipee for my first house (recently sold) and left some (20k) equity in it so i could get a house at a young age

- 2 years after that, as she was breaking up w her s/o she threatened to sell my house to get her equity out unless i let her and lil sis move in. I realize she didnt legally have a right to the equity then but I felt I owed her and agreed

- about 6 months into the stay at my place she found another flip opportunity and got a beautiful house for under market

- she left about 60k in equity at the time and i purchased the second house

- the agreement was i pay the mortgage (2k) she pay utilities (about 600), and its my house

- 6 months into the new house, without my consent her new boyfriend started staying over consistently 

- about 1 month after they started dating he moves in

- 6 months after that his mother moves in (its a big house and can certainly accommodate everyone, but they only contribute the utilities)

So here we are, all I ever wanted was my own place, peace of mind, solitude and my own life. On one hand I have benefited financially because of my mother, and I don't think she's an absolutely awful person. At the same time I wonder how much I have to repay her for all she did in raising me, putting me through school, and helping me purchase homes. 

AITA for saying enough is enough and that I just want to live my own life, and selling the home that 4 other people live in? Or do I need to wait it out until my little sister finishes high school in 5 years (which was my original timeline). I truly don't think my lot in life would have been as good without my mother, so I do truly feel lost in this regard.




