Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My girlfriend and I have been together for about 5 months now. She talked to me about she used to smoke a lot of weed but now doesn’t because she doesn’t like it anymore. However, the past week she started to smoke again and has smoked 5 times this week. I for one am NOT anti-weed. All my roomates smoke and all my friends smoke. I have no problem with it. I myself do not smoke because I tend to have bad experiences. I expressed to her how I felt about her smoking. I told her I found it unflattering and that she wasn’t her self when she was high. She wasn’t the person I have came to love when she is high. She felt as if the only reason I don’t want her smoking is because I don’t which I understand, but is not the reason. 

I don’t want to be controlling which is why I didn’t say she couldn’t smoke, rather just told her I don’t like when she does. She found it as if I was coming at her and not wanting to do something she enjoys. 

Am I the asshole?