Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : AITA - For telling my friend her actions were shitty in this conversation

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Some backstory / context - said conversation takes place in an MMO in the situation where a guild has splintered due to differences in opinion - my friend went to support the other guild, I stayed with the original guild. 

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I am recruiting in chat when member(s) from the other guild say "Guild A is shit now", etc etc. -tldr- "Guild B" is upset at "Guild A" - I choose to ignore 99.99% of these messages, today I chose to respond with two words " Citation Needed " Following this - this conversation happens

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Her: What is happening... &lt;Officer of guild B&gt; just sent me some screenshots

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Me: just your guild members unable to control themselves, nbd. 

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Her: What? - the guys I see in trade are not from our guild

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Me: &lt;John&gt; is Right? 

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Her: Yes.

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Me: and I'm sure the others are.

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Her: Yes is &lt;John&gt;, but &lt;John was in &lt;Guild A&gt; until recently, I mean whatever happened we haven't influenced him - I don't know the other people and they don't have our &lt;Guild A&gt; tag. 

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Me: technically yes, they don't have your guild tag but they are obviously affiliated

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Her: No, I asked him - not everyone that dislikes &lt;Guild A&gt; is from &lt;Guild B&gt; 

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Me: I don't disagree, but not everyone knows the situation either to say that.  (context - discussing more personal details of the split)

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Her: a lot of people know &lt;Former Guild A founder&gt; 

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Her: also some people from your guild whispered &lt;John&gt; 

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Me: Proof?

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Her: he said one was asking for citation.

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Me: I did - linked screenshot with my exact message of " Citation Needed " 

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Her: Yeah, he definitely hates you.

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Me: He's welcome to

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Her: But it's nothing to do with our guild...

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Me: He's a member of your guild?  (Context - &lt;John&gt; is 100% a member of &lt;Guild B&gt; ) 

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Her: He joined a week ago, He was a member of your guild, you probably know better why, and the other guy isn't even a member

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Me: I'll keep that excuse in mind for later, who else whispered &lt;John&gt; ? 

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Her: Don't come complaining to me about the people in my guild ( &lt; Guild B &gt; ) the only reason they are against &lt;Guild A&gt; is for whatever reason you gave them

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Me: So you are blaming me &amp; taking his word without any proof? 

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Her: I just think you should not say things that way. 

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Me: Also, I didn't come complaining to you, and say things what way exactly? - you messaged me? 

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Her: "just your guild members unable to control themselves nbd" 

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Me: To reply to your message, what reason have I given them ( to be against us ) what have I or anyone in &lt;Guild A&gt; done to them.

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Her: Well there are ways to say this &amp; that feels aggressive, you probably know...what do I know?? 

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Me: " The only reason they are against &lt;Guild A is for whatever reason you gave them " - would imply they have a legitimate reason that you also believe

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Her: Maybe they do. 

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Me: Ok, as I've said before I don't really mind being the bad guy but I'd prefer any accusation to come with proof, if someone in &lt;Guild A&gt; who "joined a week ago" started shit talking /any/ other guild I'd kick them on the spot, with evidence. it's bad PR, like with a company or restaurant. 

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Her: You are not a customer &amp; he is free to express his opinions, I understand that to say that in general is not ok but first this is not my guild &amp; second he has been angry at &lt;Guild A since he joined &amp; this is not the first time I told you, maybe the rule of kicking alts or whatever you are doing is backfiring. I don't know &amp; I am not going to kick anyone out of the guild for that...keep in mind when &lt;Paul&gt; did &lt;bad action&gt; to &lt;former Guild A founder/Susan&gt; &amp; you being an officer no one moved a finger...and you are chastising me for not kicking someone that Your guild made angry...? I don't think so.

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Me: if that's how you want your guild to be represented, sure - I'm not chastising you &amp; I'm saying "you" in reference to &lt;Guild B&gt; not you personally.

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Me: - I link the rules specifically stated in the &lt;Guild B&gt; Charter: - 

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Be warned this is  not &lt;Guild A&gt; so shall not speak of them in this guild, we are not a part of them anymore and we shall not try to dare talk bad about them either keep in mind this is just a game, if any of their members try to badmouth you or this guild, report it to an Officer or Lowcat and we will take care of the situation, for the people with friends there its fine they are your friends

Guild Rules

1.) Be polite! We are done with toxic players in the game; we are friendly.

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Me: at what point did I ask you to kick him? 

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Me: I was rebutting your excuse with the values of my guild, &lt;Guild A&gt; - I care about the representation of &lt;Guild A&gt;, if you don't care about &lt;Guild B&gt; that's fine, nbd.

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Her: what does that even mean? 

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Me: no big deal 

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Her: Yea I see that, " I was rebutting your excuse with my values I care about the represenation of &lt;Guild A&gt;". Saying this is not right

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Me: Why? - /you/ messaged me &amp; proceeded to do nothing but make excuses for &lt;John of Guild B&gt; about /their/ fuck up - I would not do the same.

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Her: Because it's hypocritical &amp; implies your guild has better values which is not true

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Me: How is it hypocritical?

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Her: Very

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Me: And we do.

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Her: Lol

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Me: How is it hypocritical? - when you say "it has nothing to do with our guild" in regards to &lt;John of Guild B&gt; 

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Her: I think this is a problem called "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye" " 

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Me: Like your mad over how I replied to you, but I don't really care about the actions of &lt;Guild B&gt;

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Her: there are plenty of those people in &lt;Guild A&gt; but starting with &lt;Paul&gt; that harassed &lt;Susan&gt; &amp; &lt;Sax&gt; how does that present your guild? 

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Me: What of &lt;Susan&gt; &amp; &lt;Sax&gt; behavior? and the others? 

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Her: You Tell me

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Me: would it be ok for me to message every member of &lt;Guild B&gt; " Fuck &lt;Guild B&gt;, &lt;Sax&gt; is shit " ?

aside from &lt;Paul&gt; - not one member of &lt;Guild A&gt; has said a god damn thing to anyone in &lt;Guild B&gt;.

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Her: No, I but at least I'm not going to you saying my guild has better values.... Pff

For a person that just joined 1 week ago and you guys made mad, Wtf &lt;Me&gt; 

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Me: "You guys made mad" 

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Her: Yes

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Me: why are you taking him at his word?

I imagine you'd have brought it up to me, if I actually did something to him. but I can count on one hand the number of interactions I've had w/ &lt;John&gt; 

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Her: Because he is entitled to his own opinion... Just as you told me when &lt;Susan&gt; thingy happened... Right?

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Me: except I have a detailed history, with screenshots of the "&lt;Susan&gt; situation"

and the interpretation of the situation might be a difference of opinion

but record exists that can be cited.

"&lt;Me&gt; bullied me out of the guild"

is hearsay

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Her: Maybe in his opinion you did. Maybe I should not share anymore information with you. It obviously puts me in disadvantage here

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Me: Feelings are not valid sources

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Her: who says that, when &lt;Susan&gt; felt disrespected &amp; left was that an invalid reason? was mine too?

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Me" "the sky is blue" "no I feel that it is orange"

is not a valid statement

"I feel like x is a shitty person" "why?" "I just feel that way" "oh ok, I accept that, with no further questioning / proof required "

"x stole my  bike" you say to the police

"ok, do you have proof it was your bike, say the police"

if we operated on your logic

I could just go say every car is mine

to the police

because I feel it is.

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Her: Ok you just lost it.

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Me: In addition, you are telling me without proof that his word is &gt; mine, which is pretty neat

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Her: How many times I said "I don't know" I feel you just want to argue at this point in for any reason

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Me: " " the only reason they are against &lt;Guild A&gt; is for whatever reason you gave them " 

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Her: Yes and I don't know what reason, I it might be &lt;Victor&gt; kicking their alts/discord... Or whatever

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Me: Ok

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Me: " also some people from your guild whispered &lt;John&gt; " - can you provide proof? " 

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Me: You can either provide proof, or apologize - if people in my guild acted out of line I'll actually discipline them. 

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Me: But I feel your actions are pretty shitty, in attacking me  &amp; making excuses for your guild member. but if that's how you want to be. that's fine. hypocritical. but fine.

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Her: My actions are pretty shitty right...

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Me: Look at this conversation from the top, I was literally minding my own busines