so...my (now ex-) boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and I have been doubting our relationship for some months every now and then. Normally, I wouldn't be the person to change anything as he still is a very good friend to me and I knew it would break his heart if I ended things. However, I recently talked a lot with a guy from Uni about a lot of personal things and we got a long very well and might have kissed once or twice (to clarify: he isn't the reason I decided to end things). With his help I realized that I wasn't the happiest I could be and decided to break up with my boyfriend. Of course, my boyfriend is absolutely heartbroken and I feel really bad about leaving him since he already has a lot of personal problems going on. Despite that, I've felt really relieved for the past week and have also run across the thought, that staying longer and breaking up a few months later wouldn't have made anything better, although maybe we could have saved our relationship? I have no idea anymore. Am I the asshole in this situation or is it okay what I did?