So I was dating this girl her name is Rachel. Dated her for about six months and everything was fantastic. But me being the polyamorous person I am I ended up ending things because she is monogamous. Well it’s now two months later and she’s thinking about dating this guy Mathew. Now I’ve known Mathew since before I knew Rachel. And Mathew has known for a while that Rachel is very special to me. And Rachel has talked to me about them wanting to see where they could go, but Mathew hasn’t. And I respect the shit out of Mathew, he’s a fantastic guy that always is thinking about others. He’s very generous and altruistic and I know he cares and respects me the same. But the fact that he hasn’t made an attempt to talk to me about wanting to date the girl that I care very much about is irking me beyond belief. I feel disrespected and ignored and like I don’t matter to Mathew at all. I am not very much upset or jealous at Rachel wanting to be with someone else, that’s understandable. But I would like to be in the loop. These are two people that I care about greatly and I think they care about me the same. I’m just here steaming and I don’t know what to do because if I talk to Mathew first it wouldnt be him genuinely talking to me about it before going for it. What irks me even more is that his ex, who he’s been apart from for a month, has been shooting me some signs and I’ve been ignoring them because of how much I respect Mathew. And here he is doing the opposite to me. So fun AITA?