Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I 31f) found out a few months ago that my husband's uncle (60s) participated in malicious rumor spreading along with my MIL (60s) who we are no contact with. My husband and I knew that he and his family had believed the lies my MIL had told them but I had no idea that his uncle was spreading lies about me to other people while pretending to be cool with me to my face. The number one thing I'm pissed about is that they took private medical information that I never disclosed to them and spread it around without my consent or knowledge. His future daughter in law has been feeling guilty about this for a while and she finally told me about what happened and apologized for her part in it. She was warned about me and told several lies about my mental state right before she met me for the first time. 

I sent him a message yesterday telling him the real facts and I told him how I felt about what he and his family did. I didn't curse or insult him, but I feel guilty for getting my feelings out there. I thought I would feel better and I don't. Did I do something wrong, should I have ignored this huge betrayal? 