So I'm friends with this person online and she has homophobic relatives. I am gay and also have homophobic relatives, so for years I have had to lie to them about crushes/relationships/etc.

She is bisexual but has never been on a date/hooked up with a woman and she is engaged to a man. She is still bi. I don't think her history matters in her identity. 

One day, she was complaining that her family was homophobic. I offered sympathy and supported her. She didn't thank me for my sympathy and just said she was sad that she could never come out to her family. 

Me: I guess good thing you have a fiance? Not a fiancee?

I then shared a story of having to lie to my family about my first relationship because they would react negatively if I came out to them.

She responded that only having been with dudes didn't make her any less bi and ignored what I said about my family because she wanted to complain about how she worried that, if she ever had kids and if those kids ever ended up being anything but straight, her family wouldn't accept them. 

I think she was hurt because she thought I was erasing her sexuality. I was hurt because she was ignoring the concrete problems I was experiencing when I had previously offered her sympathy.

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