The post was about the ban of single-use plastics, specifically straws. **SISTER** is against this because it’s “ableist” to disabled “folx” and we should instead focus on the “100 companies responsible for 71% of global emissions”. Debate ensues between **OP**, **SISTER**, Disabled Folx X (**DFX**), &amp; others. We discussed ocean pollution, eco-friendly alternatives, boycotting the fishing industry, and how the #1 “company” responsible for over 14% of global emissions is actually China, specifically Chinese coal. Which of course is used to manufacturer cheap goods (cough, like single-use plastic drinking straws, cough) &amp; heating people’s homes.  


It was more of an emotional discussion rather than intelligent. **SISTER** &amp; **DFX** told everyone to “stay in your lane” and to stop “talking over them”.

  
**OP:** (the fishing industry contributes to poverty alleviation &amp; food security for millions of people, or similar).

**SISTER:** You talked over my friend (referring to **DFX**)

**OP:** I didn’t talk over him.

**SISTER**: I know you don’t know them but you did misgender them, just to give you a heads up. They/them pronouns.

**OP:** (goes back and edits post to “I didn’t talk over them”)

  
**DFX** has a very traditional male gender name &amp; has a masculine profile picture. I corrected myself once I was made aware of the issue and moved on with the conversation.

  
Because **DFX** was complaining about alternatives, I reached out to a local company by me who makes compostable straws from plant materials. I contacted them to ensure that they could be used in hot beverages (yes) and if they could make a positionable straw (Yes). Awesome! So I posted the company’s response in the conversation.

  
**SISTER** immediately deletes the entire post, unfriends me, &amp; posts the following public status.

&gt;  
If you are ableist, if you misgender someone and then purposefully do not fix your pronouns, if you are anti-LGBTQA+, if you are racist, if you are sexist...  
&gt;  
&gt;My timeline is not for you. My posts are not for you. And my timeline will not be a platform for you to promote hatred, inequality, inaccessibility, and ignorance.  
&gt;  
&gt;Discussions of opposing viewpoints are always warranted. But continuously denying marginalized folx their voice and talking over them is not.

  
WTF. I sent **SISTER** a PM.

  
**OP:** Such outrage! I called someone named FUCKING (male name) a “him”. I didn’t fucking misgender on purpose AND I changed it to THEY when I was corrected.

**SISTER:** When you knew you misgendered them you should have fixed it &amp; apologized because that is damaging. They have their pronouns visible on their profile to the public for those who need them. And they ducked out of the conversation due to the mental harm it was causing them before you misgendered them.

**OP:** Like I fucking read everyone’s profile who I interact with on Facebook.

&amp;#x200B;

AITA?