Original post here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/aobtea/wibta_if_i_broke_up_with_my_girlfriend_for/?st=JSLAC904&amp;sh=650bea4d

After reading some of the comments, I realized what a selfish, immature asshole I was being. Also realized that I did not want to lose her despite my initial anxieties. I’m deeply ashamed of the original post, but I felt that I should update since it’s been a few weeks.

I apologized to my girlfriend for the way I acted. She forgave me, but things were different. She was not bringing it up anymore and I could tell she was still really hurt. I felt like shit, which I deserved. I decided to try to show her I’m ready to be supportive. I accompanied her to therapy a few times [not seeing the therapist myself, just waiting for her in the waiting room].  I started researching this topic trying to figure out how to handle it. I ask her about it and tell her I’m here if she wants to talk. I’ve been trying to do nice things for her around the apartment to show my support. I know it probably sounds ridiculous but I really wanted to make it up to her and had no idea how.

A few days ago we had a very long conversation where we laid everything out in the open. I told her why I was so distant at first and how I’m afraid to hurt her, and she told me how badly I made her feel. She told me a few stories about what she went through too along with telling me what she needs from me. It was really emotional. I think we are in a better place now. She seems to feel more comfortable around me again, which I am glad about. The idea of me attending therapy as well came up but sadly we don’t have means for that right now. She still attends twice a week.

As far as our sex life goes, it’s pretty much nonexistent. We have had sex one time since on Valentine’s Day, and it honestly wasn’t enjoyable for either of us. It does suck but I’m okay with waiting until she’s ready. 

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a little intimidated still because I am. I feel all the time like I need to be extra careful with her now which I know isn’t true. It’s gonna take some work for both of us. I appreciate all of the comments, good and bad, that made me wake up. She deserves a partner who has her back and I’m trying my best.

