Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Context:

My ex from college (dated for about 6 months) broke up with me 2 years ago because he realized he didn't care enough about the relationship to continue over long distance. He was my first love and broke my heart, so things were rough for me. We had no contact for about a year in which I had a casual fling and got over him 100%, but started talking again and got closure about a year ago (right before I met my current bf). 

We're on good terms now. We chat on facebook or catch up over facetime every few months or so. We've stayed friends because we were best friends before dating, same college friend group, dated for only the end of college briefly, and it's just nice to stay connected to someone who meant a lot to you from the past, especially from such a formative time. 

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I have now been dating my current bf for almost a year. Everything is amazing, and I love him. It is a way more serious and mature relationship than my last. Last week, we were talking and he expressed he is insecure about my ex, specifically because it was a "first love" type thing. I have reassured him there is literally nothing going on and I am not interested in my ex romantically at all anymore (all true!!). Any romantic feelings feel so far back in the past. I am way over it and 100% into my current bf. He trusts my reassurances and is also friends with an ex, so he somewhat understands.

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The Issue:

Today, I was scrolling through my phone and my boyfriend saw 2 things that upset him:

1) While my current boyfriend and I were in the hooking up/not sure what we are stage, ex and I had a life update chat with my ex on facebook messenger in which I told him "I miss you (definitely not in the same way I did before) ! Hope you are well, hope to see you soon!"

2) A few months ago (after my boyfriend and I started dating), my ex was in town and asked to hang out. I couldn't make it at the time but offered to facetime to catch up.

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His point of view:

1. He is worried that I was still into my ex (by saying I miss you) at the time we had already started hooking up.
2. He is very upset that I have never mentioned that I facetime my ex occasionally, and that when my boyfriend and I saw each other/texted (don't remember which it was) that day I didn't mention it happening. He thinks it is disrespectful and that I meant to lie by omission.

My point of view:

1. The I miss you was completely platonic on my end. It happened a few months after we had that good closure conversation and I wanted to express good will and friendship. I was hanging out with an old college friend at the time so naturally I thought of him and missed that he wasn't there too. IN A FRIENDLY WAY, which I tried to express! And current boyfriend and I were not yet serious, so it reflects nothing on our relationship, in my opinion.
2. The idea that talking to my ex would be disrespectful to my current boyfriend honestly did not cross my mind :( , as I do call my other college friends sometimes and never mention it either. Not on purpose! Had it come up, I would NEVER lie about anything, it just wasn't thought of. It also was a quick call for mayyybe at most an hour and we haven't hung out in person nor been romantic/sexual at ALL after our break up. Also at the time, my boyfriend and I had only been official for about 2 months and I had ZERO idea he was so insecure over my ex. So, it was literally a non-issue to me at the time, and to specifically bring it up would make it sound like I thought it was a bigger deal than it really was. I think it would have been weird to bring it up with no prompting or any reason to. 

So am I in the wrong? Please let me know if anything I did was me being the asshole! I just seriously can't tell what would have been the right choice of action each time these things happened in the past, and I want to be better in the future.

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