Hi all. So this morning I (M21) was talking to my girlfriend (F20) just as I normally do most mornings. She tells me that she was talking to her ex-boyfriend the night before (this doesn’t really bother me because it’s just talk and nothing more, I trust my girlfriend as we’ve been dating for 3-4 months now). Just some background, we’ll call her ex-bf “Bob”. Bob was, as she describes it, not the best bf in the world. He would never show up to visit her, left her on read for months on end and not talk to her for long periods of times (worst was like 4-6 months), and other more shitty things that I won’t get into. She has told me in the past that Bob hurt her a lot and I understood completely, which is why I told her to not talk to him anymore, but she keeps doing it, so I can’t do much more. Again, her talking to Bob doesn’t bother me. What does bother me is that afterwards she told me that whenever she has suicidal thoughts, that she talks to Bob about it. This had me completely upset and appalled. How could the same person who treated her like shit be the same person to be consoling her whenever she’s feeling down. I’ve done everything for my girlfriend like go out to see her every weekend (I work Mon-Fri and we live in different cities 2 hours apart), attend her recitals, talk to her every day, respect her wishes and boundaries, etc etc… I’ve done everything I can to make her feel happy and please her but she would rather talk about this type of stuff with scumbag Bob than with me… It just makes me feel like all my efforts are going down the drain and mean nothing to her and it's just completely disrespectful, I feel. Then she tells me that because the topic at hand (suicide) is extremely serious, it doesn’t matter who she talks with. AITA for being upset about all this?