My boyfriend (19m) and I (19f) are in a long distance relationship, and see each other for a weekend about twice a month - sometimes more, sometimes less. My boyfriends best friend (19m) - whom we met through - also lives in Melbourne. This is the weekend that we’re spending together, the first in over two weeks, and he will also be in Melbourne the following week due to a break in his university schedule. 

We spent the entirety of Friday Night and Saturday with our friend. I offered at length to leave my boyfriend at his best friends house and I would pick him up later that night because we had planned to have a date night. He said no, and that he wanted to come home (because he thought staying there would upset me), and we left in the evening to come home. We were with the best friend for 24 hours. 

I assumed that we would then spend Sunday, being our last day together, alone because we had seen best friend both Friday, and Saturday, and had only truely been alone last night. However this morning, my boyfriend messaged best friend and asked what he was doing, and the best friend asked him if he wanted to stay the night - just he two of them. I reacted to this quite badly, and was truthfully genuinely upset because I felt like I hadn’t spent enough “alone” time with my boyfriend. His best friend, on the other hand, hasn’t seen him alone this week so obviously has a valid point in wanting to see him. My issue to this is that my boyfriend would leave on the Monday, and I would only have spent Saturday night alone with him. 

Additionally, I have felt recently like this friend is in the middle of our relationship. My boyfriend disagrees, and says that this is a personal perception, and objectively there isn’t any reason why I should feel like he’s a third wheel. 

I wouldn’t have a problem with them organising a day/night to meet up and stay the night, my issue is that it was out of nowhere and not at all what I expected due to our distance and the length of time between seeing each other. 

My boyfriend eventually decided to stay here because of my reaction, and the best friend thinks I’m dramatically overreacting and is trying to convince my boyfriend of this. Obviously this is upsetting but I guess in some regard valid. 


So reddit - am I the asshole? 