My dad was pretty much abandoned by his mother, and they had a terrible relationship. He was open and honest with me about this. I have only seen her maybe 5 or 6 times in my life. I received a card from her every now and then, and I called her and said thank you each time, but her and I never had a relationship.

Yesterday my dad came to my apartment and told me she had been admitted to a hospital and had cancer, and he asked me to go to Tennessee (We live in Texas) with him to visit her. I told him I have work (which is true) and that I was not really interested in driving there to see her. He then told me he was going to take my car, since it had better gas mileage and I just laughed at him and said no. Now he is guilt tripping me because I didn’t go. So AITA?