Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Kinda long, TLDR at the end.

A little previous context, I'm 25 now, but when I was 17 I dated a 24 year old who mentally abused me horribly. I'm still affected by some of the things he did to me, which included locking me out of the bedroom in winter without a blanket or the heat on. I shivered to sleep several nights out of the year and he would do this to me over completely stupid stuff, like daring to say another man's name anywhere near him. He made me scared to cook or play video games around other people because he would make fun of how I did it and make me feel like a complete idiot if I didn't do it how he liked it. There's a ton more to unpack here, but I won't get into it.

So cut to yesterday. A close friend of mine who is in his 50s is in a local play and he's been posting excitedly about it on Facebook for weeks. He made a post to praise his co-actors and who's name do I see there right next to a raving review of what a wonderful person he is? Yeah. So I messaged my friend to tell him, because honestly I would want to know if I was acting alongside someone who hurt any of my friends like how this guy hurt me. I didn't ask him to quit the play, I didn't tell him outright not to hang out with this person, I literally just told him what he did to me, because I would want to know if I was in his position.

The response I received was something to the effect of "you just selfishly tainted my view on this person. He's an amazing actor and is in a happy relationship. Now I have to get through this shit on opening night in three days because you did this to me"

AITA here? I really didn't think I did anything wrong by telling him and I feel incredibly hurt that his response was so mean and selfish when I thought that my friend would be a little more understanding. He's been abused before too, so I thought he would understand and be more sympathetic. We aren't friends anymore and I don't think that this friendship will recover. I just want to know if other people think that I was wrong for telling him this.

TLDR: I told a friend that he was in a play with my abusive ex, his response is to call me selfish for tainting his view of this supposedly amazing actor.