My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. Within the first month of our dating she told me she had sexual trauma from a past relationship. It was frequent and long term, and as a result she periodically goes through periods of near asexuality. 

By the end of the first month we had sex, at her assurance that it was what she wanted. It was good. It would continue to happen at least once a week, sometimes more. I could always tell I was more interested in initiating it than she was. She always seemed to enjoy it, responding in the right ways, but she would show a lot of concern as to whether I was enjoying it, even asking me to be more audible. 

We moved in together about three months ago and did it maybe two times in the first month. Then it all fell apart when she had a really bad ptsd episode. I asked for sex and she said yes, but when we were done she started crying as I comforted her and she kept saying sorry and that she couldnt figure out why she was so “broken”. It was horrible and scarred me significantly to see her like that and know that I caused it. It was a month before I even thought about sex in any way again. 

Now Im beginning to feel very lonely. We’re best friends and enjoy each others company, but it’s hard to get intimacy of any kind out of her. I bring up sex and she insists that she’s trying to get better, but Im seeing no improvement, Im getting impatient, and I don’t want to just be friends who live together. However, I never push the subject when she says she isn’t ready yet. 

tl;dr gf and I haven’t had sex in two months because of traumatic episode. Should I continue to remind her that I want to have sex, or AITA?

