Don’t get me wrong, his siblings are great when they’re not trying to mooch off of us. Frankly, none of them have their shit together except one. They’re all 20-30. 3/4 of them have 1-4 kids. One of them was recently homeless, one quit his job, one refuses to try to get a job, and the other one has a job and a kid but never asks us for money. They all also have a boyfriend or girlfriend that they live with.

His siblings call almost every day. I can say that his brother who quit his job is the only one that calls to actually talk. But even then he’ll imply how he’s struggling with money or he’s stressed about it. And of course my husband will offer money to him. $25 or more every single time we give them money. 

His sister was recently homeless. She asks for money from us the most. She was living in his brothers house for like two months because she her and her husband would keep spending the money that everyone gave them. We’ve had to give them hundreds before. She’ll call him and make small talk and then ask for money. Or she’ll butter him up and say something like “by the way if you want to send me $20 I’d appreciate it” at the end of the call. 

His other brother calls only for money and my husband knows that. He doesn’t fake like he wants to talk and he’ll straight out ask for money. We don’t even answer his calls sometimes. 

Yesterday, his brother and sister both called asking for money. They both actually talked to him for a long time so I thought they really weren’t going to ask for money. But no, they did near the end of the call. It pissed me off. Now my husband is asking me is it okay if we send them $50 each. I told him I’m really not okay with that. Then he started telling me the sob story they told him on the phone. It sounds like complete bullshit. I tell him I’ll be fine with you sending them some money but not $50 each. We just sent them $25 yesterday. 

He tried to convince me to be okay with giving away $100 for some bullshit excuse. It’s always diapers, food, clothes, etc. I offer to get it delivered to their house the same day and they make another excuse as to why they’ll just do it. I told him that I’m tired of having to give away money almost every single day. He says it isn’t every day. It’s probably more like every other day but overall we give about $300 a month to them collectively. I told him that we can give them $25 each and then we’re done. I said “They only call you for money and it’s petty as fuck”. He looked kind of hurt by what I said but if he’s hurt then doesn’t that mean he thinks so too? Idk. 

We go back and forth about this almost every day because it never stops. 

AITA?


