My little brother unexpectedly passed less than a year ago. He was only a teenager. He had a condition that was serious but well maintained and his death was incredibly sudden and unexpected. Like one day you wake up to a normal day expecting nothing out of the ordinary and by the end of it, it’s the worst day of your life kind of thing.

Obviously nothing can really make this situation better. A few weeks after he passed away I found an event that raised money for the condition that my brother had &amp; I thought it would be a good way of honoring his memory. The event was a couple of months away and my family and I put a lot of effort into raising as much money as we could for our team. On our team page we wrote about what had recently happened, details about my brother and the kind of person he was, and why we were doing the event in his memory. This experience really helped my family. It gave us something to look forward to/actively do for him. It meant a lot to us and gave us a lot of purpose.

We had a lot of small sum donations that amounted to a good amount. For a while we were the only team and then after we were always the top team. Which sounds so trivial but it meant so much to us to “win” for him.

Well closer to the day of the event another team signed up and started getting big donations. They probably had a team of 4 people with $1k donations each. We had a team of like 50 ppl with small sums that added up to around their total.

I went to look at their page and they had a young child with a condition that was doing really well.That’s what makes me feel like an asshole, because I get why they wanted to win too.

We worked really hard in order to catch up to them the last couple of days, but it seemed like every time we caught up to them or passed them they would slam down another $500-1000 donation.

At this point my family &amp; I got pretty crazy competitive and basically did everything we could to win. I’m going to be honest, we probably raised a lot more money because of this &amp; at the end of the day I know that’s what matters - getting the most money for a good cause. Before them we were at like $3-4K and after them we raised like $10k.

At the event as the top team we were allowed to talked about my brother to everyone there. It meant the world to my family /friends &amp; I. Afterwards, the other team asked to talk to us &amp; told us that they had read our story and said that they were trying to actively beat us. 

I guess the thing that really bothered me was that they had known why were doing the event all along &amp; could see how much it meant to us and still tried to beat us. Maybe because I know what it’s like but if in the future a team has recently lost someone I would tell our team that we should help them with donations/win, because I know what it probably means to them.

So, AITA &amp; in the wrong for reacting like that/feeling this way?