Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My friend (22F) and I (23M) have been friends for 5 years, and working at the same company for the last 2. The past 3 years have been somewhat rocky, with constant arguments over petty things (usually issues she has with my character, such as not sharing enough about my life with her, not spending enough time outside of work with her, etc). At some point I suspect she had romantic feelings for me (and others have observed likewise), however I swing the other way so nothing will happen there.

We have a mutual friend who is closer to me than friend, as she is in my team and therefore a direct colleague. I tend to talk about the arguments we have with her, and share the annoyances I have, and she offers me some valuable insight and often helps me resolve the arguments. 

My friend found out that I talk about these arguments with mutual friend, and started another argument with me yesterday. As with all past arguments, she came across rather aggressive, yelling, pointing fingers, crying, making assumptions, and not letting me talk/choosing not to listen to what I had to say when I did talk. All of this was in the middle of my floor at work, where people I work with were able to witness it.

As the argument started to ramp up, I made the decision to remove myself from the situation to try to deescalate it (since other methods I tried didn’t work). She physically blocked me whenever I tried to walk away, and in the end I let her speak her mind for a whole hour before returning to my desk. 

At my desk she started messaging me things about how nasty I am to talk about her behind her back, how it is all my fault, how she can’t trust me, how she’s going through so much at the moment and she just needs a friend who she can trust 100%. I told her that if that’s how she feels, then perhaps we need to create some space between us for a while. Despite this, she continued to message me, call me, she came to my desk, and even followed me out of the building despite me saying that I needed to leave so I don’t miss my bus. At one point she called 5 times in a row until I answered.

AITA for speaking about our arguments with another friend? AITA/a coward for walking away from the situation? AITA for wanting space? Will I be the asshole if I decide I don’t want this friendship to continue in the future as it was in the past (i.e. suggesting we see each other less, maybe once a week for lunch instead of every day)?