Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Some context here. Me and my girlfriend have been together for just over a year, and things have been going really great. My girlfriend suffers with fibromyalgia, and as a result of this also has to deal with vaginismus. The vaginismus has caused our sex life to deteriorate over the past six months, and we haven't even attempted to have sex since Christmas. 

My girlfriend started to see a specialist a few months ago, but has since stopped. I said when she started to see the specialist that I would be happy to go as long as necessary without sex, so long as she was still seeing the specialist. Now she has stopped, and every time I even talk about sex, my girlfriend accuses me of trying to put pressure on her, which I may be trying to do subconciously, if I'm honest. I only want her to go back to the doctor, I obviously don't want to force sex when it is extremely painful for the both of us.

I'm far from the most sexual person in the world, but this long time without sex is really starting to take its toll on me, and in some ways, the relationship. Not only do we not have sex, but it's getting to the point where we are not doing anything sexual. 

Would I be the asshole if I was to tell my girlfriend that she needs to go back to the specialist, or I would have to think about leaving her?