Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : The background is, we dated one year ago, but he ended up breaking up with me because I was clingy. 

After a bunch of happy and less happy times, we managed to become somewhat regular FwB. Except this last month is a situation I’ve seen repeating itself too many times, and I don’t know what I can make out of it :

Some months ago, I would ask regularly to see him, to which he would reply he didn’t have the time. I would tell him I understand that, but I missed him anyway. Like I understand he was busy, I just wanted to let him know that I’d have liked to spend time with him. I wouldn’t pester him with my demands, but I would regularly renew them in a casual way, and just retreating myself when he said no

Fats forward a month ago, when I asked him one more time, he just replied that it was up to me if I wanted to see him. I somewhat sensed it was forced, but I really don’t trust my guts, so I wanted to make sure if he was really okay with it by asking him. Twice. Both times he said he was sure he wanted it, so I went.

When I arrived, he seemed more detached than usual. I tried to cuddle, but he wouldn’t move or even acknowledge me. Me feeling he literally didn’t care about my presence, I began to cry, telling him that he didn’t want me there he could simply tell me to go. Instead of that he cuddled back (?) and we ended up having sex. I went back home a bit after that

Some days after this meeting, he confessed by text message he was not comfortable anymore seeing me because he felt pressured inviting me and having sex with me. I didn’t understand, I had asked him all the time if he was sure about his decisions, and he always told me he was. I got angry, telling him he didn’t have the right to hold me responsible for his decisions and feelings, and demanded an apology I never got. I ended up understanding there may have been some unconscious pressure on his end, and apologized while respecting his wish to not see me

I’d like to point out that this situation arose many times before, and would always end up with him coming back and being kind and gentle with me. I would always think he would understand that he could not blame me for his decisions, but it sounds like he never learns.

This weekend I ended up texting him that I could not stand hanging on him like this, and that I’d rather cut ties than seeing the same situation happening all over again and hurting. He said whatever, but I wasn’t sure of my decision so he asked me what I expected of him. I simply told that I’d have liked us to be friends, that I was willing to settle for a sexless relationship, whatever it may be

He replied “Well I know you struggle with some social interactions, but I sometimes wonder if you live in the same reality...”... Now I understand I have some troubles figuring people out (and we already talked this out), but it sounded really condescending, and I’m not really sure about the innuendo he made in that sentence

I just replied that I couldn’t understand what he wanted if he wasn’t upfront or wasn’t willing to open himself up to me, and he just replied that I was annoying. And he stopped replying altogether. It’s been a few days now

I just texted back telling I wasn’t okay with the way he was treating me, and that he didn’t have the right to be that condescending just because I was trying to work the situation out.

As I wrote above, it had already happened. Him telling me that I was just a child because I asked too many questions, that I never understood anything. He has the right to be frustrated because there are seemingly obvious things I don’t seem to understand, but it hurts a lot to be talked down like that, and I never got any apology...

WITA in this story ?