Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My 18 year old son, a senior in high school, is dating a 19 year old college sophomore for almost a year and a half. They are in love, plan on getting married and are dealing with the differences in their cultures. She is Pakistani/Muslim (supposedly non-practicing) while he is about as White Privileged Male as one can get.  We are all having issues adjusting to this new phase of our lives and my son has completely and suddenly distanced himself from his parents, friends, baseball club, work, school, etc. Nothing matters but her opinion and what she wants.

For Christmas this year, her second celebrating it, I asked beginning in October for a list of what they would like. Everything on his list, she purchased. I received nothing from her until the beginning of December and it was just hints of gift sets available at the mall.  I loudly and proudly advised that I would be finished shopping before Thanksgiving as is normal for our family.  

I overheard her that she had purchased a Pandora bracelet. 

So I purchased a Sterling Silver Charm for her bracelet via Amazon and then worked with a parent of the couple they go out with and got them gift cards to an Escape Room in our Downtown plus gift cards to dinner. I prefaced the gift that due to their work/school schedule I couldn’t pick a date for them but now they all have enough to enjoy a great evening out for two couples.

She was/is offended and said that I insulted her by not putting more effort into her gift. That I was rude and inconsiderate. They spent the remainder of the day huddled apart and refusing to partake in the $70 prime rib we had purchased  for dinner.

Of course she didn’t say that to my face, she “discussed” it all Christmas Day with my son and then he sent me a text. That she wrote. Describing how horrible I was of a person to ruin her Christmas. That I was a hypocrite because I had complained to them about the lame gifts my MIL gave to me. Yes I complained to them 10 years after she passed and never did I mention it to my own husband.

And the presents were returned to me overnight. The gift cards of course are non-refundable.

I am furious with her and my son for allowing this to happen. I feel that I am owed an apology for her rudeness. And I think she needs to apologize to my son for putting him in this situation where he’s supposed to pick sides.

She is still pouting and pissy about it while I am doing what I normally do. I know that my son is completely whipped by this girl and if/when it goes bad it is going to be very bad. 

Am AITA?