Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I was diagnosed with autism from an early age. My parents made it seem like this was something I should be ashamed of, so they told me I should never tell anyone else.

I started this job 6 months ago. Right from the beginning my manager stressed how much our team was "like a family". I thought that if I didn't tell her now, we'd get off on the wrong foot. So I later pulled her aside and told her that I'm a naturally quiet / awkward person; I don't mean anything bad by it, it's just something I've always been. My last job someone complained that I was antisocial and I didn't want to give off the wrong impression. She said "Ok. Don't worry about it, we're friendly here." 

I still made efforts to be social even though it was uncomfortable. The basics like greeting people, "nice to meet you", smalltalk, etc. If I finished my work early I'd always ask if I could do something more to help, or help anyone else. Called in for shifts, asked to come in early, I thought I was doing everything right. Yes, I was always going to be awkward but I thought my actions could speak louder than words.

Within 2 weeks when she realized I was never going to break out of my shell she started complaining about me. Idk if she knew I heard it, maybe she thought there was more noise in the office than there really was -- but it was within earshot. I'd hear everything clearly. Saying I was too cold, kept to myself, even calling me an asshole. It was like she forgot about our talk, or maybe she didn't care. 

I took it as a wake-up call though and made more of an effort to socialize. I'm pretty much a homebody so my fallback for conversations was talking about nerdy things. I was talking with my manager about some TV shows (we both watched the same one, so I made sure she was interested first) and then she just cut the conversation short, turned to the other person in the room and muttered "It's like dealing with Sheldon Cooper."

I kind of withdrew from her after that. The weeks went on and instead of hearing just her complain about me, my other coworkers jumped on the bandwagon and started to too. These people were friendly with me before that so it hurt. I'd hear things like "Now that she's here it's time for everyone else to leave" , "Oh great here comes our favorite person" , "No one even likes her" , "I wish \[our other coworker\] wasn't quitting so we wouldn't have to see her as much".

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Even after saying all this about me she recently invited me to go to the bar with the others. Honestly after hearing so much people talking about me this way, I turned her down. It feels like if I went out with them they'd just be using me to laugh at how awkward I am.

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I know autistic people can sometimes come off as rude because we can be blunt or accidentally interrupt people. But is it really that rude for a quiet coworker to keep to themselves? It's making me feel crazy because it's not just one person saying these things.