Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : So this is a complicated situation. Been with my girlfriend around 2 years and have lived together like a month. I love her a lot. Sexually though, we’ve had some issues. She’s down to make out, give head, handjobs, etc. But for whatever reason she’s not into penetration. I really don’t know why. She says it’s unpleasant even with lube. I have tried foreplay, sometimes for hours. It doesn’t seem to help. 

Thing is though, whenever she drinks, she’s totally fine with penetration. She’ll even get on top and ride me, which is just not a thing if she’s sober. I’m starting to feel bad. I look forward to nights when she goes out with her friend after work and comes home tipsy. Sometimes if she doesn’t hit the bar I’ll make drinks for her, hoping one thing will lead to another. 

She’s never really brought this up. But there have been a few times in the morning she’s asked if we had sex the night before. That concerned me and I got scared I had sex with her while she was blacked out. I was always honest though about whether we did it and she never seemed bothered by it. 

By the way, she’s a very functional drunk. Always coherent. A stranger probably wouldn’t even know. But she’s much more adventurous, which I happen to enjoy. 

Am I messed up for this?? 