Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This one is really playing on my mind, idk if I'd be pulling an asshole move if I do it and I'm interesting in what y'all think. TL;DR at the bottom.

So a couple years ago I dated this guy for about a year. We'd been good friends beforehand and had amazing chemistry, and overall a really good, fulfilling relationship for both of us. 

We ended up breaking up because of a situation I was going through at home. I was basically in an abusive-parent situation and they stopped me from having any kind of social life, so ex and I weren't able to see each other. He dumped me because it got too much for him to be in a relationship that had so many restrictions, we only really communicated online when we weren't in college together. Imagine being in a long distance relationship with someone who lived 10 minutes away, that's what it was like.

In retrospect, it was totally fair for him to dump me cos it really wasn't a fulfilling relationship, but at the time I was devastated, and admittedly I took the breakup pretty badly. I was young (18) and dumb, and I'm totally an asshole for the way I handled getting dumped. Crying and begging and the works. It didn't help that he still cared for me, so the breakup hurt him too. All in all it was suuuuuper messy and I regret that. We ended up losing contact, we tried to be friends but it was too messy and we were both caught up on each other. Our contact just kinda naturally died off until we stopped texting each other, and we haven't spoken since. We haven't spoken in probably about 3 years now, but still have each other on social media.

So here's the thing. I'm now out of the abusive situation that caused us to break up in the first place, and there's a small part of me that wants to reach out and see what he's up to. I feel like we were a right-person, wrong-time situation, but it's not the wrong time anymore. I'm not expecting us to instantly reunite or anything, I'm not even saying we'd still have feelings for each other. I just feel like we had great compatibility back then, he doesn't seem like he's changed much, and we could probably still be good friends, and perhaps something more than friends now that my life is in a healthier place. I genuinely don't know where it would go, but I really wanna drop him a message and see if he'd like to hang, or get coffee or something and catch up. If he isn't interested I'd be fine with that too, but I'd just like to know. Also, idk if this is relevant necessarily but I know that he's single so it's not like I'd be moving in on someone with a girlfriend or anything like that. 

At the same time though, I feel like I'd maybe be an asshole for just returning myself into his life after so much time has passed. I don't want to pull up old baggage or make him uncomfortable or come off as being creepy. 

WIBTA if I dropped him a line?


TL;DR - dated a boy for a year, both of us were very much in love but he dumped me because my home life was in a bad situation that affected our relationship too much. 3 years later, I'm no longer in an abusive situation at home, and think there could be a chance for us to at least be friends again, as we were really close friends before we dated. I do still have some feelings and would be open to seeing where it could go, but I'm also accepting that he might not be interested and would still value his friendship. WIBTA for reaching out to this guy and seeing if he'd like to catch up? 