My ex and I started dating around junior year of high school. Things were going fine in our relationship until we started having cultural differences. Her being white and me being Mexican. My mother was never fond of her but she let it go. During high school we fought quite a bit but loved each other, but the fighting always ended with my having to apologize and asking for her to take me back (pretty dumb of me lmao). Anyways, she was very manipulative during high school and she always got her way, if I didn't agree with her viewpoint she would always chalk it up as "you're a lousy boyfriend if you dont side with me." She made me lost very close friends of mine because I always chose her over them. 

I was very miserable with her until I decided I had enough and we broke up as high school ended. She bombarded me with countless text messages and voicemails. And I'm talking about 300+ for both in one night.

 The week before she goes to college in another state we decide to try long distance but i told her under one condition: I dont want people to know that I'm with her again until I feel ready. I had set this condition because I was barely getting some of my close friends back and I didnt want to damage things with anybody. She agreed and we departed to our colleges.

The first few weeks were alright until the long distance dilemmas started occurring. I would always tell her where I was and who I was with for safety purposes, yet She couldn't do the same. After our days of class was over all she ever wanted to talk about was how my day was. I always tried to start other topics such as movies, politics, research, science, and the latter, but she always told me, "all of that bores me." I get mad but ultimately let it go. Halloween comes around and we decide to take a break from each other, I go to a party and end up making out with a another female. The next week I visit a friend at another college near me and do the same thing. At first I knew it was wrong of what I did, but we were technically on a break and still fighting with each other.

Just to state: there was no sex, just kissing.

We begin to fight more about the long distance and we ultimately break up for good this time. She still sent me countless voicemails and texts as the first time but i decided to not answer. She begins to barely tell me about how she had a mental condition of bipolar disorder and depression and Thats why she was acting the way she was. I told her I had had enough and didnt want to speak to her again. She leaves me alone for a good few weeks and Christmas break comes along. 

Long story short, we end up having sex at a hotel room and decide to try again. The day after having sex I tell her it wasn't right what we did and I couldn't get back with her. She claimed that I had taken advantage of her but I never did, we both agreed to everything and we always stopped if one of us was uncomfortable. We go back to our schools and she begins to do the same thing again with the texts and calls.

She eventually stops until she somehow found out that I had started getting feelings for some other girl from my school. (She found out because I posted about that girl on my snapchat.) She got her friends to message that girl and basically shit talk about me. Unfortunately nothing went forward with that new female and we stayed friends. My ex tried to "comfort" me while I stayed mad at her for allowing her friends to do that. Somehow she began to send me endless calls and texts and even threatened to kill herself if i didn't take her back. I had no choice but to hear out and talk to her out of it atleast 3 times. She said that I was a horrible boyfriend to her and how I cheated on her for what i did during those parties.

All of her friends kept messaging me to take her back because she wasn't the same bad person she was during high school. Time passed and my ex got on medication and started getting better. She would occassionally beg for me to take her back and I would reply with a firm no. More time passed and this past November I ended meeting someone and we hit it off as soon as we met. We made each other laugh and overall I was finally happy.

But once again, my ex's friend somehow found out through mutual friends' snapchat stories and decided to message this new female telling her how "he always cheats with all of his girlfriend's so watch out." My new female friend lets me know about this and things did not proceed any further. She can barely talk to me now because of what happened with my ex's friend. 

My ex acknowledged that what her friends did was not right and tried once again to get back with me. She kept telling me "I'm a new person because of my medication and I'm not that much of a bitch as I was during high school and first year of college. I can make you happy again if you let me and I know i wont mess it up." I replied with a strong no like before and told her to leave me alone. She did not so i blocked her from everything. Her friends ended up messaging me and saying "she's a new person and you're an asshole if you cant see that. She's way different than before and can actually give you what you want, unlike those two other girls." 

Her friends ultimately accused me of not wanting to be with her because she had a mental disease and how i couldn't handle being with her because of it.

I know she's doing better but I believed we deserved to break up for the best of reasons. I'm really glad that she's keeping up with her medicine and feeling great but I don't want to be with her. Her friends keep saying that I'm extremely stubborn for not wanting to be with her and how much of an asshole I am for not taking her back. I just no longer have those same feelings for her anymore and want her out of my life. Her friends put me in a really depressive mood and it made me question my self worth, if i was even worth being with someone else. I just want to be happy again.

AITA for not wanting to hear, talk, or know about her after all of this? 