It happened today and I am still fuming. 

Basically, we were supposed to meet yesterday for dinner but my bf had some work to clear so we decided to meet the next day (today). However, halfway through yesterday, when he went to meet his friend even though he had work to do because he wanted to get some news about his friend and his date. They went out till 12 midnight and he came home and told me through text that he will wake up early at 9am to do his work and come over at 12pm to find me. I told him he will have a hard time waking up early as he is a heavy heavy sleeper but ok, I trust him. 

Fast forward to today, he woke up late, just as I predicted and told me that he has no mood to meet me and wasn’t in the right state of mind to drive to my place. My bf suffers from depression and so, ok i try to understand but I am honestly quite pissed at this moment because: 

1. we planned this already? 
2. he has the mood to meet his friend yesterday but doesn’t have any to meet me the next day? 
3. i hate it when plans change. like abhor it and i understand this is something that i have to work on. 

So we had a bit of a fight and then he said he needed some time alone. so he went off to drive somewhere and i found out he went to find his friend instead. I was seriously pissed at this point but i held it in. I asked him if he is able to meet for dinner instead. But he said no as he has dinner with his family. Ok, i won’t touch any family plans. 

Turns out, he wasn’t going for dinner with his family but instead with that friend of his. At this point, I was seriously pissed off and went full-on crazy. like really crazy, calling him names etc. As his friend was a girl, I even told him to go and date her instead (she is attached) since he would rather find her instead of me. 

I was raging so badly, I wasn’t functioning straight. I’m ashamed to say that I was trembling with anger and I even punched the wall. 

My reasoning for getting so angry was because he would rather find someone else to meet and ask for advice rather than finding ME to talking about it. And the fact that he has mood to find his friend yesterday when he was supposed to be doing work but doesn’t have the mood to meet me. 

He just told me he was very “off” that day, most probably due to him not taking his medications for a period of time. 


AITA for not considering my bf’s feeling and his mood given his depression and that I over-reacted? 