Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : 
I met somebody on a dating app about a week and a half ago who I thought I had a decent rapport with and had quite a bit in common with. Monday of last week we had established a date for that Friday evening. We continued to chat throughout the week and it seemed to me that, for internet stranger online dating standards, we were getting along extraordinarily well.

The day of the date, i asked if she was still on for that night, and the response I received was essentially “actually I’m out of town, my roommates mom has a medical emergency and I left to help them out” to which I replied that I hoped she got better and left it at that. 

While I fully acknowledge that her reason for canceling was totally legitimate, i walked away bothered for a few reasons

1. no apology for the last minute cancelling of the pre established plan
2. No immediate effort to reschedule, which I’ve always understood to be the responsibility of the person doing the cancelling rather than the person being cancelled upon (is that even a phrase?)
3. The fact that at some point over the course of us chatting she knew that she would have to cancel to help with her roommates mom and wasn’t immediately forthcoming with the information. In fairness to her, contextually it seemed like a last minute emergency, but again the onus of responsibility should on the person doing the canceling to communicate that as soon as they reasonably can.
4. The phrasing “I’m actually out of town” seemed incredibly blasé to me

I hadn’t received a reply after wishing her a recovery by the end of the day, which led me to believe that I had been blown off and that I wouldn’t be hearing from her again. Mildly frustrating, but not the biggest deal in the world. 

After two days, she replied and asked me that Monday if I’d want to meet up with her and I told her that I was no longer interested in meeting up. I made it crystal clear that it wasn’t the fact that she had to cancel that bothered me but the cavalier manner in which she cancelled that bothered me. 

Before I made the decision to say that, I considered if maybe I was overanalyzing things, and I ultimately came to the conclusion that if I had cancelled plans in that matter with a friend or a date or whoever that that person would have every right to be frustrated with me, so I had the right to be frustrated with her. She then unmatched me.

I was fairly convinced that I had done the right thing and that I was correct in feeling bothered, but when talking it through with my friends the opinion is kind of split. There’s some that agree with me that I was justified in calling it off and others that think i burned the bridge too early and that I should have been more forgiving due to the circumstances of her cancelling. Naturally, I’ve been overthinking it all day.

what do you think Reddit? AITA?


