Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This actually happened awhile ago - but I've been feeling kind of guilty about it, so I still think about it. 

I have two kids (2 and 4), and sister-in-law(SIL) has 2 kids (5 and 9).  We both live in the same city.  Her parents (my husbands parents) live in a small town about a 5 hour drive away.  I'm very close with their parents. Both families frequently visit the Grandparents, and sometimes we take each others kids with us (but not always).  Although, because my kids are younger - we take their kids more than they take ours (they've never taken our youngest).  Which is fine - he's a toddler, so I get it. 

It was Christmas break, and both families were planning on spending Christmas break at the Grandparents house.  My husband, SIL and her husband all had one week of vacation.  I was lucky and had 2 weeks of vacation.  

My niece (the 9 year old) was having some problems with her parents (fighting a lot), so my SIL had actually sent her to the Grandparents early.  So she would be there for a total of 3 weeks. 

With my extra week of vacation, I decided that I wanted to head to the Grandparents house a week early as well (my niece was already there at this point).  The primary reason I wanted to go early was because I wanted to put my older son in ski lessons before everybody else got there for Christmas break. My SIL's family does not ski at all. 

I contemplated inviting my nephew to go with us, but then I decided not to bring him.  I feel terrible because the other 3 grandchildren all got to be at their grandparents house together, and he was stuck in daycare by himself.   I also felt a bit bad because there was a slight precedent for bringing the other families kids with us (although I actually hate this precedent!).  My SILs family does almost always offer to take my older son with them when they go, and guarantee that they would have offered to take my (older) son if the situation was reversed. 

I didn't want to bring him for 3 main reasons.  ONE:  I thought it would be kind of awkward for my son (age 4) to be in ski lessons all week, when his cousin (age 5) wasn't.   TWO:  The drive is was 5 hours of dangerous mountain winter driving.  I am a nervous driver anyway and was already stressed about the drive with just my 2 kids.  I honestly didn't want another kid in the car.   THREE:  Honestly - I didn't want to look after him for a week.  I wanted to have a week of vacation with my kiddos.  Inviting him would mean the adults would be outnumbered 4:3, which is not a huge deal, but also adds up to slightly more work for everyone. 


Anyway - AITA?  For what it's worth, my husband thinks I am. 

