Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : We have been together for 6 years and have been taking about getting married for about a year now. We have discussed how we’ve wanted to elope and have a ceremony at a national park but ultimately decided on going downtown to city hall for a quick ceremony(next month) with my best friend as our witness. We both have always known that having a large wedding with our families was something we never wanted. We are generally shy individuals and the thought of being under an alter and sharing the most intimate moment in front of our parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles makes us absolutely cringe. 

We recently out of the blue told his mom about our idea and it did not go well at all. She was upset that we were making these decisions and throwing ideas back and forth without including his parents in it. She says she’s hurt that they are not invited and that we can only create this moment once. While her point is valid, what if doing a civil ceremony is what we want to create? And not planning a wedding that’ll create a lot of stress and ultimately put my boyfriend and I in an uncomfortable situation? Because we want a private ceremony we planned on having a larger party at a later date for so that our families  can get together and celebrate our marriage. This way there’s no pressure and everyone is just having a good time where we can eat, drink, and take pictures. 

Are we the assholes for wanting to do it our way? Because the reaction we have received from his parents we are discussing not getting married next month and wait for who knows how long. 