Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I was raised in an abusive home with a stepfather. He told everyone I was his biological child but I'm not. His whole family knows this.

I decided to go "no contact" with my abuser at 16. I kept in contact with his family as I saw them as my own and didn't blame them for not knowing. 

I moved back to my hometown where the family was. My older child went to my "grandmother" sometimes and all seemed good. Then I got married and got pregnant with my second. Immediately my grandmother is lecturing me about how I cant have this baby and I was irresponsible to get pregnant again (I've been in my own house and financially independent for 6 years since I was 16) We were hurt, as it was a planned pregnancy and were shocked by the disappointment at our news.

I had a c-section with my older child, which was no concern to any of the doctors in my second pregnancy. I was given the okay to have a natural birth and it was a normal pregnancy. 

That's when my grandmother decided that my previous csection was because I was incapable of giving birth and was too small framed. I insisted that I was going to give birth natural. When she knew she couldn't convince me to do it her preferred way, she stopped sleeping and eating, told everyone that she was haunted by nightmares about my death. Because of this behavior, she got very sickly, and any excitement about my pregnancy in my family was gone. Everytime it was brought up, it was a horrible thing and I was going to die. I felt fine. 

Fast forward to the birth, my husband and I wanted no one else in the room. So my grandmother decided to wait in the waiting room, much to my dismay. We let my mother in law peek in and say hello while I was in labor, which made my grandmother cry (even though I saw her while I was arriving) and I went out and tried to console her and apologize. While contracting. 

The day we brought my younger child home from the hospital, my grandmother stopped by. I let her hold the baby and she begins screaming about how we lied about the condition of our vehicle. My husband asked her to hand him the baby and leave. She physically refused to let him or I take the baby. We eventually got the baby back and she left.

A month later, I found out that they were contacting my mother, my mother in law, etc behind my back to try to make plans to see my children. They (grandmother and her husband) never replied or asked to make plans with me regarding my children. They didnt even try to ask to see the kids. My grandmother's husband blocked me. I tried to tell her that we needed to deal with the events before I would be comfortable with her taking them.

She told me that she was getting a lawyer for visitation. (Even though shes not any biological family) i havent contacted her since. The entire family hasn't talked to me since. I thought I was in the right but none of them do. 

So am I actually the asshole?