Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So this might get a bit confusing. 

Albert - A guy I dated for two years from 16-18 years old 
Patricia - The new girl Albert is dating now
Larry - Another guy I dated for a few months when I was 18
Ozzy - My friend of many years
Alicia - Ozzy’s girlfriend of a year. 

Basically, I dated Albert for a few years when I was younger (I am almost twenty now.) Albert and Ozzy are best friends, and Larry is also good friends with those two. 

Albert was not a good boyfriend. Albert cheated on me countless times, continuously lied to me, was very manipulative, and broke up with me less than twenty four hours after my dad died. Albert really broke my heart and my trust in relationships for a long time, and even though I am very over him by now, I still have lingering traits like still having trouble talking about my feelings with my dad passing away and having trouble trusting people I love. 

Larry was also not a good boyfriend, and our relationship was very short. Larry was... very forceful. He disrespected my boundaries and pulled a lot of stuff that made me deeply uncomfortable and still makes me want to gag whenever I hear his name. (sexual assault warning) For example he would start to have sex with me while I was sleeping and wouldn’t let me go back to sleep until he finished. He wouldn’t let me say no to sex, basically. He would do things like call me a slut, a whore, try doing Butt stuff when NONE of that was discussed beforehand and totally threw me off guard. He would guilt trip me into having sex with him constantly and he even got me and my best friend in a very compromising position and took advantage of both of us when he knew we were very, very, very drunk. 

The problem is that I do genuinely like Ozzy and I did like Alicia as well up until a few days ago. Basically me and Alicia got in an argument because everyone HATES Patricia. I’ve never talked to her or hung out with her myself, and frankly don’t care much for her since she likes to talk shit on me without knowing me, but I don’t know her. Ozzy and Alicia have said that Patricia has cheated on Albert several times, physically and mentally abuses him, and is overall just a terrible and vile human being. So from that alone I can deduce that me and Patricia probably wouldn’t get along. 

Alicia, after hating Patricia for ages, suddenly posted on social media about how Patricia is actually the sweetest person ever! I tried talking to her about it because I considered Alicia and I to be good friends and basically was like “Yo that’s a little weird because like you said she is this and did this and blah blah, how come you like her all of a sudden?” Not in a “you’re not allowed to like her way” but in a “you totally hated this person and now you’re buddies, that’s a little weird, what happened?” way. Alicia got really mad at me and thought it was rude of me to question her friendship with Patricia and hasn’t talked to me since even though I have offered to discuss things over coffee to apologize. 

The problem is that the more I think about it, the more I wonder if I really even want Alicia and Ozzy in my life. I like Ozzy and enjoy his friendship but I keep going back to idea of them just not caring about how their friends treat people if they aren’t the ones affected. 

Something that I keep thinking about is when Alicia asked me why I hate Larry so much when Albert is the one who basically broke my heart. I didn’t get into the knitty gritty details as I did here, but I basically told Alicia how he wouldn’t take no for an answer, he was very forceful, and had sex with me while I was sleeping. Instead of answering in an even slightly acceptable way she just said “oh well his current girlfriend hasn’t said anything like that so I guess he’s gotten better” like... ok I guess? Cool if he’s gotten better but that doesn’t change what he’s done to me! 

Ozzy and Alicia are both very proud of not letting other people’s opinions change their judgment on someone until they get to know that person themselves. I think that’s fine when it comes to “oh I don’t like that person they are rude” but is really different when it comes to “that person is abusive, that person is a rapist” 

Cause at the end of the day I feel like I don’t care if a specific person is nice to ME, if they’ve done horrible shit like that to other people then I don’t want them around me. Maybe that’s just the way I am. Ozzy even acknowledges that Albert was absolutely terrible to me yet it’s like he doesn’t even care. 

I guess at the end of the day I’m left wondering if I really want these people in my life because it leaves me wondering how much they really care about me. I’ve cut people off that I considered a friend once I found out that they had sexually assaulted my other friend. I’ve stopped being friends with people for much less because if someone can treat my friend like that, they can certainly (and usually do) end up screwing me over later as well, and I just don’t want that in my life. I feel like they just don’t care about me all that much if they continue to be friends with people who have hurt me so badly. 

So, AITA for not really wanting them in my life anymore? 

TL;DR - I’m friends with a couple who are friends with two of my ex-boyfriends that cheated on me, broke up with me the day after my dad died, and sexually assaulted me. I kind of don’t want to be their friends anymore after drama has come to a head. 