Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : TL;DR: accidentally telling that our wife pastor talked to our pastor assistant being too close to my girl church mate and asking him to maybe stop being too close because he's gonna be a pastor 🤷‍♀️ (really dont know why she said that) 

Im born again christian and have been that way since i was younger, growing up in the church and all those stuff. I did stopped atteding for personal reason and just started being active again so im not close and not as updated to whats happening but i have twin who's a lead singer in church worship ministry and 2 more little sisters who's more active than me. 

Anyway yesterday was my/and my twin birthday, we celebrated it thru youth fellowship. When i saw her i gave a tiny comment about how she and our assitant pastor doing in a joking tone. Then she started asking me what i mean and i asked her what she meant lol , then she pulled me in the side and asked me whats happening bc everybody is asking the same question basically everytime we have gathering and in church then i said "you didnt know that our pastor wife asked him(pastor assistant) to stop being too close to you?" And then she started tearing down and pulled me far from the room and went outside.

I was shocked cos i didnt know she would cry! And i dont like seeing people cry! I then apologize and tell her she can have a big bite to my cake later! but she said it wasnt my fault &gt;.&lt;.

She told me how she didnt know about that but shes more hurt that we didnt told her anything (tho in my head i thought she knew!) And she felt like an idiot being made fun whenever people asking her how her and him doing. Like everybody knew about it and its about her but she didnt. 


She then told me that shes been crying to God (crying while praying) about this and shes asking God for why he suddenly just plainly ignore her even in church and stopped texting too. I couldnt say anything more bc i literally have no idea what to say and i just knew about it cos my sisters was talking about it. After that she asked to leave her for a moment so i did. 


I asked assistant pastor if he was mad at me he said he's scared that maybe she'll stop going to church bc of what happen. But she did mention that she felt like  nobody cares about her feeling and nobody come forward to say anything.


I really dont know what to feel. Btw the guy was the one who approach the girl and started everything just bc he knew that the girl had a crush to him so i feel so disappointed how he handle it and ghost her.

Also to add more info, the term i used was wrong when i told her. Bc i said like "our pastor wife ask him to stop talking to her" but it should be like "pastor wife said that he maybe should date someone who have same faith as him" 

Honestly.. i dont think im an asshole but tell me what u think?
