Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve had a good friend for about 2.5 years now and she’s always been sort of into her Instagram. She’s smart and kind, but also socially anxious and pretty self-centered. Like not selfish, just self-centered. I unfollowed her Instagram recently and got confronted on it. 


The last year or two she has gotten more into the Instagram and into this idea of being an influencer and into her “aesthetic”. All with this light pink filter into this very ideal life of hers that frankly isn’t that accurate. She probably spends about 3-4 hours a day on it easily. She follows about 5000 accounts and has around 6000 followers. More than that, the amount of her mental energy that goes towards it is pretty bizarre to me. I don’t spend much time at all on Instagram and basically only follow friends. 


About 6 months ago she made a smaller private account for just friends and she posts more stuff from parties or personal insights into her life. I’m quite a bit more comfortable with that and it’s not that fake. 


I unfollowed her main account a couple of days ago because I would get a weird feeling seeing it. That it’s just not real and how much time goes into these pretty fake posts. I didn’t feel a need to follow it either, as I can see her day to day on the other one. 


She confronted me about it in the most non confrontational way today, with a couple long DMs. I had said that I preferred to follow her other one because t was the friend I knew and loved. She went off about how it upset her because it’s something she’s passionate about that people don’t accept and wishes people would be more supportive of her hobby. And she says I don’t have to look at it all of the time, which is true, the amount that it bothers me is not greater than our friendship or anything. 


I do see how she feels, and I’m not sure if it means I’m unsupportive as she says I am. 


Yeah. I know it all sounds small and petty, especially given the subject matter, but I do take friendship pretty seriously, especially as Im getting older and don’t see these friends as much in person. Thanks for reading through this, it’s a bugs life.  