Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm a single mom and my daughter and I live with my folks.  I pay rent.

So my 3 year old and I (33f) are in the kitchen, listening to music on my phone and making dinner together.  She was actually helping which was pretty cool.  My parents come in and start making their dinner.  So they're puttering around and my dad says "you want to shut off the noise?" not in a mean way, but not particularly politely either.  I have had a few confrontations with him in the last year and I've asked him to be politer to me than I otherwise would've bothered in order to set a good example for my kid.  I said "I'm happy to turn my music down if you can please ask politely" I was looking for a please or at least referring to my music as music and not noise.  He says nothing and goes back to what he was doing, obviously annoyed, but just as obviously not planning on doing as I ask.  

A few minutes later he says "seriously time to turn the noise off" and I replied "please ask politely, my music is not noise."  My mom chimes in at this point asking him why he can't ask nicely and also pointing out that I was using the kitchen before them.  My dad is getting more and more obviously bothered/frustrated.  So then he says to me "well if you're going to be that way I could just turn on my own music on my stereo that would blast this out of the water."  To which I responded "I'm just asking you to please ask me politely." And then he stomps out of the room.

He then comes back in and says again "it's time to turn off the noise" to which I reply "I will gladly do so once you ask me with respect." At which point he stamps over to his stereo muttering about how he's going to fix me and play his music really loudly.  I say "is this really the example you want to set for your granddaughter?"  He doesn't even respond.

My mom goes over and tries to explain that I'm being reasonable and he's acting childishly and if he just asked me nicely I'd turn it down or off.  At this point he's full blown pissed off, slamming him hand on things and spluttering with rage.  

So I look at my daughter and I tell her we're going out to dinner in town because Grandpa is being unreasonable and disrespectful.  He turns on the music and blasts it and as we're getting ready to leave she says "Grandpa the music is hurting my ears." He didn't even respond (I don't think he heard her tbh, he's hard of hearing).

But we left and now I'm feeding my child pizza which I can't really afford.  I never yelled or raised my voice or spoke disrespectfully.  I just asked him to speak more politely and respectfully to me in a calm voice.  

Am I the asshole?