TLDR: Me(27F) and my SO(27M) went on a double date and it was just okay, he thinks we should try again I think it’s not gonna change anything. AITA for not wanting to go on another date with them? 

So me (27F) and my SO (27M) went on a double date on Saturday with his coworker (25F) and her fiancé (26M). This was our first double date with them. My first inkling that me and his coworker wouldn’t be lifelong besties was when she didn’t know who Ted Bundy was. To me, a lifelong true crime fanatic this was a bad sign for future topics of conversation. 

About an hour in it dawns on me that she hasn’t asked me a single personal question about myself, while I’ve been asking her questions, laughing at her stories etc. being generally polite. She’s been talking about herself, her cats (I’m a diehard dog person) or talking to my SO about work stuff. Her fiancée at least tries to start a convo with me at this point but it’s brief. 

Another hour goes by and she has finally gotten around to asking me what I do for a living. I answer and she moves onto how much she loves cruises and all the cruises they’ve been on. At this point I’m just waiting for it to end. 

Fast forward to driving home with SO and I am completely honest and say that I found her self centered and didn’t see a future friendship happening. He laughed it off, said no big deal and I thought that was that. (For what it’s worth, he did agree about her being self centered and not being too interested in me) 

Well, the other night my SO gets wind that his coworker is worried that I didn’t like her (this is a complete surprise to me) and because of this my SO would like to try another double date. I couldn’t hide the annoyance on my face and I could tell this hurt him a bit. His argument is that he still has to see her and doesn’t want to make things awkward at work. My argument is that I just didn’t jive with her and have very little middle ground and I didn’t see the point.

I asked him if he could recall one thing she asked me about myself or my life (besides what I do) and he couldn’t come up with anything.  We just kinda left it there so now I’m wondering AITA for not wanting to see her again? HALP! 