

Backstory, I’ve recently graduated from college and had a friend the I was very very close with. While at school we would hang out all the time and we always knew what was going on in each others lives, and both told each other we would always be close friends. 

However after graduating we both moved away and now live on opposite sides of the country. At first we maintained video chatting and texting to keep up with each other, but after a while they would always say they were busy when I asked to talk. I totally understand being busy from time to time and I don’t need to be their number one priority, but they would never reach out to say they were free so I was alway me asking to talk and getting turned down. (It has been at least 2 months since we last Skyped)

I then messaged them saying that if they didn’t want to talk anymore to let me know so I would stop bothering them, and they said that they still wanted to keep talking but just had be busy but should have more time now. After a few weeks though nothing has changed, I ask to Skype they say they are busy but might be free later and then I hear nothing. They also never reach out to talk, it’s always me instigating

Also most times I text them I either get no response or an answer days later saying that they are sorry but didn’t see my text. The only time they send me anything is when they are drunk saying that they miss me but don’t answer my responses. 

I really don’t want to give up on this friendship but I’m living in a new place and know nobody so it takes effort to keep in touch with all my old friends and I don’t want to put a ton of time into someone who doesn’t seem to care especially after I already asked them about it. 

WIBTA for giving up on reaching out to a friend who doesn’t seem to want to put in the effort on their end?

I apologize if some of this is poorly worded, I am writing it after having a few drinks