I’m currently in a relationship with my Gf of 4 years, and she has a daughter (we’ll call Susie) who is 7 years old, who we share with her Dad every other week. Recently we found out through the new Gf of the dad (through social media, mutual friend who makes shirts) that they had “Family shirts” done for a Disneyland trip. So we ask Susie, “why didn’t you tell us you were going to Disneyland?” out of genuine curiosity. And she looks at us confused has no idea what we’re talking about. 

Fast forward a month or so, we pick up Susie from school on the beginning of our week, and she’s going on about how much fun she had at her Grandmas house. During a school week. We then found out that the Dad, new GF, and 2 sons, had gone off on a Disneyland trip with out his ACTUAL daughter, during the school week, and couldn’t even let us have her a day early, (but that’s not that important). The 2 sons, are from the new GFs previous relationships, no way related to the Dad. We ask Susie why didn’t they take her too. And she says because then it would be an odd number and not everyone can go on the ride at the same time (or some bull crap excuse like that). 

Sometime during our week we’re in the car talking about this situation amongst my GF and I. Then Susie shouts, “they said they’re going to bring me back a gift to make up for it, and they’re going to take me next time”. I then say, “whether they bring you a gift or not, they still both suck for not taking you”. So then when she goes back on her week, she ends up telling her dad what I said, and honestly. I didn’t give a shit because I meant it. This if screwed up in my book, how do you exclude a little girl from a trip to Freaking DISNEYLAND. 

Next time we meet to exchange Susie, the dad walks up to my window and says I better keep my F****** mouth shut and stop telling my daughter bad things about him, and threatens me, and on and on. Granted, this is the first time I’ve ever said anything about the dad, because drama isn’t my thing. So I get out of the car, (because I ain’t no bitch and am size-ably larger than him, just in case if had to hold my own ground, ididnt want to have to defend myself from the seat of my car) and just explained I wasn’t lying, and asked him man to man, in front of his daughter and my Gf, “Why couldn’t Susie go with you guys to Disneyland?” He had a couple of excuses. That it was his new GFs sons first time going, and they wanted it to be about them, not that my GFs daughter couldn’t go, but because she wouldn’t have enjoyed it as much as someone who hasn’t been there before. He then also said, because she had already been there with us that she didn’t need to go this time (we had taken my GFs daughter to Disney land, the 3 of us, about 2 years ago). He then keeps going back to how he never talks bad about me (even though they do) and that he’s a good dad and that he doesn’t suck. The exchange never escalated past some mild shouting, and both parties left. 

My GF is annoyed that the situation didn’t need to happen, but does agree what the Dad and New GF did wasn’t okay. So, AITA for being honest in front of the daughter and saying her dad and “step mom” sucked. 

TLDR: Child gets excluded from Disney land family trip (Dad, Step mom, and step moms sons go, but not his biological daughter) I tell her that her Dad and Step mom suck. Dad attempts to confront me in person, but then put him on the spotlight in front of daughter, and explains that they have another trip planned for her in the future. Also says since we’ve already taken her to Disneyland, it’s okay she misses this trip. Dad claims I’m manipulating daughter, but have never said anything about Dad before. Gf gets annoyed, but agrees with me. 