Back in 2011 I met this girl who was amazing in every single way at least in my eyes at the time. Before we started dating, we revealed facts about ourselves that we think the other person should know. One thing she told me was that she was no longer a virgin at 15 years old. (She thought it was a deal breaker because her ex told her so. I didn't mind.) One thing I told her was that I was a virgin and I was devoid of any sexual experience except making out. 

We started going out and we would hang out all by ourselves and nothing sexually would happen because I was trying to be respectful while getting to know her. Anyway, when we would make out, she gets frustrated that I was not making a move so she would grab my hands and put it in places that she wanted to. That started a few months of me pleasuring her without her doing anything to me because I would decline politely. She always took the lead at this point. A few months later she really wanted to do stuff to me too so that happened and it eventually led to her wanting to have sex. I expressed my hesitations to do it but she would get mad and offended as to why I don't want to go through with it. I explained my anxiety about the whole thing and that I was just trying to be respectful whenever I don't make a move during our time alone. It was a constant friction for us that one time I finally said screw it. Let's do it. 

We finally did it and it slowly turned into a daily thing. I finally got comfortable with it but I was still not making the first move usually whenever it happens. Because she complained about it, I started making the first move when I feel like something's about to happen. Months of this happened and she said she was happy about the sex life. If we didn't see each other for 4 days she would throw herself at me for some action. That kind of thing and frequency. Further down the line, one time during sex which started organically, she started crying in the middle. I stopped and asked her what happened. She told me that she felt pressured to have sex with me for as much sex as we had. I was confused by this because she pretty much set the rules for what she wanted from me regarding sex. She didn't want to talk about it and we didn't.

I stopped making moves starting that day but we still had sex when she got turned on but a lot less often. She would still get mad at me even if it was her making the first move. She ended up not wanting to make out because it might lead to sex. So after these, we had a couple of years of relationship where we only held hands, hugged, and a quick kiss on the lips at most for intimacy. Other than the sex, the relationship day to day was good until the last few months before breaking up. The whole relationship lasted for 6 years and we only broke up due to an unrelated reason.

We never got another try to discuss what went wrong in our sex life. I've been thinking about it for a while now and I just want to know. Reddit, AITA?