Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This is a bit of a weird situation and I’m legitimately not sure if I’m in the wrong here.

I’m a trans woman. I recently-ish came out to a handful of people, including my mom, and thankfully everyone’s been pretty understanding and supportive so far. However, I’m not able to socially transition yet and I won’t be for a few months, as I currently live with some relatives who would be less than pleased if they found out. Anyway, I recently asked my mom to stop referring to me using female terms/pronouns because she’s a bit absentminded and I think that if she kept calling me “her” in private and “him” in public she’d inevitably slip up and out me as trans to someone I’m not out to.

I thought I was being reasonable- just calling me “him” for the time being seems far easier than the alternative, and I thought it was a realistic concern- but she was hurt. So reddit: AITA?