Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Let me start of by saying sorry for just overall bad writing. I tend to leave words out of sentences so I’m sorry about that

A little backstory about this situation, my mother-in-law has been trying to get this surgery to help her with weight loss. She tried to get where she lives in Puerto Rico but was denied because the doctors felt that she could loss the weight on her own. 

This part has noting to with the situation at the moment but I feel it will come to play if we do officially tell her no. So my wife and I fell onto some hard times, my wife and decided to move to Puerto Rico to live with her family so we wouldn’t be in the streets. We first stay at her fathers house who after 3 months kicked us out for God’s knows what reason so we had to go stay with her mother. 

Everything was fine at first, my wife had to be the translator because she didn’t speak English and the only Spanish I know are body parts and curse words. I would try to help around the house but she was very picky on how stuff was to be done. I would often see her complain to my wife on how I did something wrong and she or my wife had to fix it. Since I couldn’t directly talk to her my wife and I just decided when she’s in the house she’d do most of the chores and when she left for work I would then help. Since we started to that everything got done but it seemed like I wasn’t helping at all and my wife would try to tell her I did but she thought she was just covering for me. Fast forward a few months things had gotten so bad she told my wife maybe it was best to take my moms offer to go back to the Illinois to stay with her until I can get a place. So I said yes to my mom and left. 

It was the most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever done and just the thought of look on my wife’s face is bringing tears to my eyes now. I’m not a super emotional person but being away form her for a month had me crying before bed every night. My wife didn’t take it well either, she became very depressed. Her mother was not supportive at all and failed to understand why she was so hurt. Yeah we were apart only for a month but at the time we didn’t know how long it would take before we could afford for her to get plane ticket. 

During that month there was two instances where her mother tried to get her to talk to other guys. The first time she was at a grocery store some guy had made a comment about my wife I guess stating her was interested in her. Her mother then offered to give her number to him. She was pissed, declined and said she was married. The next time happened at a Chinese restaurant they had been going to forever. When they were paying for the the food her mother asked “ are you interested in her and if want her number you should go ask her yourself. 

 Fast forward a bit. This is when her ex boyfriend comes into this situation I’ve nicknamed name drake because based on a conversation my wife had with him sounded exactly like the lyrics from Marvin’s room by drake


We are doing better now living on our own. Her mother then tells her that she contacted her ex boyfriend and she had told him that she missed him being her son in law. she rather have him be with my wife because she could understand him, that he comes from a good family and that he’d help her more and she wouldn’t be struggling by herself. I have to add she judges are whole relationship from those few months we stayed with her and the fact my wife doesn’t feel that she needs to tell her everything about our lives. So she doesn’t know everything I’ve done and am doing. This guy that is so great had cheated on her with a long time friend and after he told her he was offended that she didn’t want him hanging out with her anymore. 

So basically I don’t want My Mother in law to live with us while she tries to get weight loss surgery and then would have to continue to stay while she recovered. The reasoning is because she is very difficult and I don’t want someone who doesn’t respect my marriage to be staying with me that I would basically have to provide everything for because she wouldn’t be able to work and is terrible at saving money so she wouldn’t have any when she came

AITA because I technically would owe her because of what she has done for us 