Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : tl;dr My kid is sick and rather than being available to watch my other kid while we go to the doctor, my parents intend to watch my sister's kids while she puts down her horse and/or takes a recreational trip.

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My wife and I have 2 kids, 1 and 3.  The three year old had a cold and croupy cough over the last week, which culminated in him losing consciousness twice.  We went to the ER, emergency stuffs checks out OK, but recommend following up with regular pediatrician.  Regular pediatrician recommends visiting with a specialist in a bigger hospital about two hours away, and while not an emergency it should be sooner rather than later.

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When I get this news, I call my parents asking if they could babysit the one year old for two days, as the appointment may be earlier in the day (we'll get a call with the next available appointment, and we better damn well take it) requiring an overnight or 5 am departure.  Chances are it will be next week sometime.  I'd really like for both my wife and I to be in the room and paying attention to what the doctor is saying, rather than one of us out walking around with the one-year-old or having her in there distracting us

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Their response is that they've already said they would babysit my sister's kids next week.  One day my sister and her husband have a pre-planned trip to a different regional big city.  Another two days (they don't know which yet), my sister will be putting down her horse.  They don't know when that will be, but assuming my sister's horse euthanasia isn't scheduled within a day and isn't the other day they're sitting, yeah they can watch my other kid.  2/5 chance.  They'll let me know when that is and they'll be available...

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I just really can't believe what I'm hearing, and let the conversation dwindle eventually just hanging up without saying goodbye.  They've called a few times since then, but the voicemails are only about logistics.  The horse is being put down this-and-this day, so they're unavailable then.

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In their defense, our family was pretty attached to pets growning up.  Also, my folks were over at our place twice last week taking care of the three year old while he was coughing so bad we didn't want to send him to daycare.  They told my sister they would watch her kids first, whatever day that was she needed them.  Also, I do have my wife's folks and her aunt as possible babysitters we haven't even asked yet (however, she also has her husband's mom and her husband's brother and sister-in-law as well).

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But, it's a fucking horse.  My sister can deal.  She'll need a sitter, what, for an hour?  My kid, while unlikely, might have something seriously or life-threateningly wrong.  In addition to the childcare, I could really use some emotional support right now.  I feel the relatively-rural upper-midwest pressure to be a strong head of household, but I'm really fucking scared.  What does my sister need the support for?  The horse should have been put down three years ago.

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I've thought about replying to texts or calls wondering about how the three-year-old is with questions about whether or not they were done worrying about the dead horse - obviously they need to deal with that first.  That's just too passive-aggressive for me. 

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If I were to call them up, tell them that I thought it was incredibly shitty they were prioritizing my sister's dying horse over my son's serious (but likely minor) medical concern, would I be the asshole?