Hopefully this is not as cut and dry as it may seem. A couple years ago a female coworker (we’ll call her Liz) started dating another girl. Up until this point, Liz was straight. Apparently Liz eventually found out that her girlfriend had been lying to her and had been doing some pretty shady (and illegal) stuff. Liz was obviously upset by this and was confiding in me via text. I was reading the text to my wife to fill her in on the situation and in a long stream of texts, Liz said something like “I haven’t had sex with a guy in two years. I don’t know if I want to continue in this relationship.” I responded with “I know I vent to you about my wife a lot, but I love her more than anything and can’t imagine my life without her. If you don’t feel like you can’t live without her, then you need to end it.” My wife took that as “she wants to have sex with you and all you do is talk shit about me to her.” As much as I tried to convince her otherwise, she wasn’t having it. She basically told me she didn’t want me to be friends with Liz anymore. To appease her, I told her I wouldn’t. However, Liz and I stayed friends at work. Fast forward to this week, and my wife has been acting unreasonably angry towards me. (Not to be a dick, but it is that time of the month, and she does get very moody). So I just gave her some space. Today, she confronts me that she went through my phone and saw that I had been texting with Liz and that I lied to her about not being friends with her anymore. AITA for not telling her I’m still friends with Liz, or is my wife that asshole for telling me I can’t be and then going through my phone?