I met F through our SOs at a party. She was openly homophobic during this party and I don’t  like having hateful people in my life so I forgot about her for a while. 

I gave her a chance and started following her on social media after my bf and I bumped into F and her bf at a store. My bf said he missed his friend, so I thought if I tried to be her friend despite our differences, maybe they could reconnect. 

One day she posts a job opening, so I message her to thank her for posting because I’m going to apply. I ended up getting the job, and thanked her for that as well.

She offers to carpool with me to our training, and the entire time she’s questioning me about my mental health, my religion, my politics, a lot. It made me really uncomfortable.

Training day passes, a few months go by,  and the invasive questions do not stop. I stop showing up early at this point because keeping my guard up was exhausting.

One day, I leave work and I get a text from F. She’s confused because she’s been friendly and we should be close by now.  I told her that I still feel like we’re getting to know each other and that when I’m at work, I am there to work. I set clear boundaries about her asking personal questions and to not force me into acting closer to her than I perceive us to be. 

A few more weeks go by and F starts treating me differently and even starts talking badly about me to our coworkers. I started panic attacking at work. 

I texted my boss to quit my job. She called me, and we were both kind of sobbing. My boss knows my mental health situation and felt awful about the anxiety, but we both agreed that the job was holding back any progress on my mental health and ended the working relationship as amicably as we could. 

I found out that F manipulated our boss to think that we were best friends. Our boss said she was sorry that our job ruined our strong friendship, and how awful that must be for what I’m going through. When I told her I barely knew F and that I was confused because F made things worse for me, she said that’s not what F had to say about our friendship. I was confused but left it at that. 

A week later, F texted me to ask what’s going on because she got me the job and had a right to know. I ignored it because the very last text in our convo was where I asked to her respect my boundaries. Ironic. 

The next weekend, F texts MY BF asking him why I won’t tell her why I left. She even tried to manipulate him by using her bf. She said “he’d like to see you once this is over” 

Our bfs shouldn’t have to sacrifice their friendship because we don’t get along. I was done. 

I texted her saying I found her threat to my bf disrespectful, and if she respected me she would have listened to my boundaries the first time. I told her there’s a difference between getting to know me and manipulating me to think we’re close. All she said was “okay, understood” and then blocked my number. 

AITA?