Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve been planning a small/medium sized gathering at work and it will be done at an all day camp sort of thing in the desert. It’s only my first month at this job and I’m an HR coordinator, but my manager gave me permission to host this gathering under the company’s name to prove myself. It’s a family event and most of my coworkers are a lot older than me and married. Most of them will be bringing their wives and kids. 

My boyfriend of one year isn’t very social and he likes to stick to what he already knows. He has a few close friends but that’s it. However I’m on the other side of the spectrum and I like to meet new people and get to know them. This is probably why I don’t fully understand his point of view. 

I told him about the event and that it will be done on Friday, he knows I’ve been working on it for two weeks now. I told him about it more than once and he kept saying “we’ll see”. So I left it at that. 

Today while we were talking on the phone he mentioned to me that he’s going out with his friends to the desert on Friday. This of course caught me off guard and I asked “so you aren’t coming to the event?”. And he said he wasn’t going to and he’d like to go hiking with his friends. 

I know he has the right to do whatever he wants with his free time, and I would be an asshole if I forced him to come. I won’t talk to him about being upset he isn’t coming, because it’ll sound like I’m trying to guilt him into coming. My question is, am I the asshole for feeling upset/disappointed in the first place?

Thanks in advance! Sorry for the long post and if my English isn’t good, it’s not my first language. 