Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Alright, so for context I met this friend almost two years ago, and we're very close. We even dated for a short stint, but decided to remain friends. However, this friend has depression. I am one of those people who will talk to you until 4 AM if you're in a bad place. But we have some few days long periods where we don't really text each other at all. Maybe one of us will break the monotony and say 'Hi' or something, but all my friend really talks about is how much they hate themselves or art. 
    
Tonight, they said Hi to me. I responded with 'Oh hey, you're still alive.' They respond with 'surprisingly,' and then follow up with 'The longer I live, the longer I suffer.' I know they're just trying to joke around, but the self deprication gets annoying. This is basically the only talking point besides the aforementioned art interests. Even when in person, they don't have much to say beyond slights at their expense. 
    
Well, they got mad at me tonight because esch conversation eventually devolves into me giving life advice and them responding with something in the vein of 'Yeah, I know.' I kind of went blunt with it and told them that it seems like their only character trait is hating themselves. I know they're in a rough place, and now I know they don't like having these deep convos, but at the same time it's really hard to differentiate a joke and a cry for help with that specific person. 

Am I the one at fault for these conversations getting deep, or should they try and minimize the amount of 'I want to die' jokes? I went here because I do love and cherish this friend, and I don't want to seem like a dick just because I'm worried for them. If I didn't explain very well, I'll be reading the comments and replying.