Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So some background: I am a 21 year old university student, but currently on break. Part of the reason why i'm writing this because my brother recently had a shouting match with my parents about religion, which is a sensitive topic for them. He asked them if it was possible to be erased from multiple timelines and my parents both lashed out at him almost simultaneously, because he has been asking this exact question and others like it for about two years now, being very persistent to the point where he pesters them daily. 

My Dad got very angry and told him to go to his room, telling him to shut up along the way. Later, I was watching Netflix in the family room and my brother, who we'll call Thomas (Not his real name) came into the room and told me that he didn't exist, and that our Grandmother was visiting him in his dreams, telling him that he will be smited by God. I don't know what to say to him anymore, as both of my parents, my older brother, myself and even other relatives have sat him down and tried to tell him that there's nothing to worry about and that he should just live his life, but he doesn't seem to want to listen. I've already told him everything that I thought would help him, so I decided to be blunt, and I said something to the effect of "This is why people don't like to spend time with you, why do you continue to torment our parents every day?" He responded by saying "I need to confide in somebody." I then told him not to confide in me, and to find someone else. I realize that it was harsh, but I've tried being nice and apparently that hasn't worked. 

Thomas has Asperger's Syndrome, which means that he could be able to fit in reasonably well with other people with a few quirks if he worked at it, but the problem is that he doesn't want to work at it. He wants everyone else to change around him to accommodate him, and as a result of this maladaptive behavior, he actively pushes people away from him, resulting in very few friends. 

Thomas is very conservative. Now this in itself, wouldn't be an issue for me, but it becomes an issue because he never shuts up about it, and brings it up at every possible turn, even at family gatherings. He is incredibly idiotic and uninformed about politics, making downright false and disingenuous statements about how "Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton tried to weaponize the U.S. government to promote their Communist agendas," while also saying that Donald Trump is a kind-hearted man. Those two statements are among the more tame things he has said, but he believes these things wholeheartedly while also spouting these crazy statements to complete strangers. The worst part is my Dad doesn't correct him when he says these things. He never tells him to knock it off or what he's saying is false and/or bad. I believe he does this because my Dad is also a hardcore conservative, but I don't think he's as extreme as Thomas is. My Dad lets him ramble and says either "Yep," or "Whatever." Unless it's about religion, in which my Dad challenges him and is quick to debunk everything Thomas says. These discussions and arguments happen almost every single day. 

He doesn't seem to realize that his behavior is the problem though, to him, he is never the bad guy and it's always someone else's fault. This obsession with religious figures is just another in a long line of hateful obsessions that also include Weeaboos, Liberals, Communists, Jews, Women, other autistic people, Muslims and pretty much anyone from the Middle East or who is of  Middle Eastern descent and I'm pretty sure he hates black people, as I've heard him refer to other black people using the hard-r n word in public under his breath. 

I want to hold him accountable, as I don't think my parents actually do enough to help him outside of yelling at him and taking him to therapy sessions that he doesn't take anything out of. I think he's spoiled, because he seems to view everyone who wants him to have even a little bit of accountability as some type of villain who exists to torment him. He recently went off about one of his close friends, who we'll call Joe, who cut him off after many years after Thomas started sending threatening and unhinged Facebook messages. One of which read in all caps "YOU'D BETTER FUCKING GET BACK TO ME SOON YOU BIG NOSED KIKE." Among other hateful and unironic statements. Thomas then started doing the same to his significant other after Joe blocked him. However, unlike Joe, she retaliated and told him that he has a bad case of the Dunning-Kruger Effect, and that neither her nor Joe would contact him again. This sent Thomas into a rage, as he blamed her for "insulting his stupidity." While being completely unaware and inconsiderate as to how he was coming across to them.  

I'm wondering if I'm the asshole here because of what might be a lack of understanding of Asperger's and Autism. I was prompted to write this mostly because I overheard a conversation Thomas had with my Dad where he told him that I'm not very patient with him, and that our older brother, who we'll call Ryan, has much more patience than me. My Dad retorted by saying that he doesn't make it easy for me or anyone else he knows. Ryan later told me that I need to be more understanding of him and his Asperger's and that I need more patience. However I think they're blind to the fact that we're dealing with an individual who could very well be dangerous if left unchecked. 

TL;DR: My brother who has hateful obsessions with various races, ethnic groups, ideologies and religions got into a shouting match with my parents about trivial religious nonsense. He then started ranting to me about it, saying that he wanted someone to confide in after I asked him why he torments our parents and family members. I told him not to confide in me, because I’m sick of him not listening to mine or anyone else’s advice. I basically told him that if he won’t listen to my advice on how to overcome the problem, then don’t bother talking to me about it. I won’t help you if you won’t help yourself. 