My ex-bff and I had been friends for 15 years. In that time we have been roommates, party girls, closer than sisters, and in love with our relationship. Like sisters, we have had our share of fights and disagreements, but we always made it out the other end. 

Last summer she had become very abusive. I won’t get into the details, because we both could have handled the situation better, but the basic issue came down to her being jealous of my life. Over the years our friendship had become more of a competition for her as she was constantly comparing herself to my life instead of being proud of her own accomplishments and comparing herself to who she used to be. 

We didn’t speak for almost 6-months until I finally reached out to make amends in preparation for my wedding coming up in the following months. Things were going fine. I invited her to be in the wedding and even offered to help her pay for a plane ticket as she had moved out of state in the time we were not speaking. 

Well, she ended up denying my invitation because she had made a new friend in her new hometown and wanted to go to a concert for that persons birthday. The concert was not the same time as my wedding, it was 3-weeks earlier and she claimed the cost was going to be too much to make both the concert and my wedding. 

So the wedding happened, she didn’t show, but we remained friends on social media and didn’t exchange any ill feelings about anything. 

Two weeks ago my amazing husband surprised me with a new Mercedes Benz, my dream car. Of course I was elated, and posted it all over social media. All of the sudden, she’s not following me anymore and we’re no longer friends. I reached out to her asking why she decided to unfollow me and if she was no longer interested in any kind of friendship. She instantly went on the defensive and stated that our friendship will never be the same, that we never could be again because I never apologized for what happened (I did, she didn’t), and that she doesn’t want to see things on social media that cause her to feel like she’s in competition with other people. 

I responded that I did try to make amends, but that I wasn’t texting her much because every text I sent took her 2 days to respond to, that she shouldn’t compare her life to my life. That she shouldn’t feel like she’s competing with me because that’s not fair to her. She took offense to that comment and went off on me, back to the abusive type talk that ended our friendship in the first time. 

From her perspective, my comment upset her and I’m sure that’s what started the barrage of mean comments. From my perspective I was hurt that she didn’t bother showing up to my wedding and then blamed me for the reason why we haven’t rebuilt our relationship when I feel, she’s the one who hasn’t been trying. 