Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and although we had SO many ups and downs, and he was very hard to be in a relationship with (very petty about everything, temperamental, emotionally abusive, etc) I always deeply loved him and always thought we would be okay. When we were good we were amazing, and when we were bad, I hated him so much. But recently. Something changed. I just felt this urge to be single, to explore my options, I am only 21, he’s 3 years older. I have never really properly been single and I just felt so tied down with him all of a sudden. I suppose I felt I could do better than be tied down with him. He made me happy when he was treating me well, but i kept wondering what it would be like to be happy ALL the time in a relationship. 

So I kept thinking about ending us, and I just kept getting so so scared. I don’t know why, I just couldn’t do it. I said to myself I would do it late January when his exams were over. We agreed not to do Christmas presents etc because we were both very low on cash (I had just completed a semester abroad). But Christmas came, He bought me very expensive presents. He treated me like a princess the whole Christmas season, his family too. They were all so exceptionally lovely to me. And I thought maybe I can power through these break up thoughts and il be okay, il get over it! 

However he text me yesterday, New Year’s Day. Asking why I had been acting so differently over the past few days and the week before Christmas. He said he felt like I had no interest any more and he basically described how I felt. And I couldn’t lie. I had to tell him. So I text him to please meet me to talk, but he wouldn’t. He said he knew what was coming. And so he wouldn’t listen to me, and I had to text him and explain how I was feeling (he gave me no choice, said he did not want to see me). He obviously has taken it so so badly. He is so angry, so upset, so disgusted, says I just used him over the Xmas period etc. And in a way it’s true. I should have ended the relationship as soon as I had doubts but I didn’t. 

Basically I feel lowest of the low, I feel like absolute shit. I feel so guilty. Who the fuck ends a 3 year relationship on New Year’s Day after being treated amazingly like that over Christmas? 

All I know is that it was a long time coming, and I just picked the worst timing ever. 

He says his family hate me and are disgusted with me. 

It literally just looks like I stayed with him for Christmas and then on the first of January was like nope, see ya, I want a new life now. 

I already think I’m an asshole, even though I just did was was right for me. I think I just handled it badly.  I just want your opinions. 

