Okay so I feel like I just fucked up really badly especially with someones life being at stake here but I also am unsure because my intentions were pure.

Okay so one of my best friends who has recently gone though a really rough breakup and is having issues with his family, recently told me that he wanted to end my life. Having been suicidal in my past, I told him that it wasnt worth it and everything gets better and he needs to stay strong (which is cliché but it seemed to help him a bit)

After that, almost everyday he was saying he wasnt feeling good and was in a bad place to which I told him that I and a lot of other people love him and he needs to hold on and stay strong.

Tonight was different though. He told me he couldn't do it anymore and he was ready to end it. This is how the conversation roughly went:

Friend: "I wanna do it now, I wanna let go"

Me: "it's not worth it. You don't need to do this"

F: "I'm losing everyone who is important to me constantly and its always on bad terms"

M: "What you're considering isn't going to fix that problem"

F: "It will kill the problem though, it'll be over"

Okay so this is where I'm going to start directly quoting what both me and my friend said to each other with sight changes to names and other personal information to avoid any bias. This is where I feel that I fucked up:

M: "One of the most important people in your mum, dads, sister, step dads and my life is you. You talk about how you lose the most important people on shitty terms but at least those people are still walking. The shittiest term is someone who is in your family leaving for good. I'm sorry if I'm coming off as harsh but you need to hear this stuff because just telling you that "it'll get better" ain't gonna change how you think."

F: "Sam, Fuck off. You dont have a clue what my family go through, what they have gone through. Tell me again about family leaving and i'll kill you"

So I can see that he thought I meant that his family would leave him because I said "The shittiest term is someone in your family leaving for good." By which I actually meant that thats what his family would go though if he left and not any of his family members. Anyway, I went on to try to explain this:

M: “No [Friend], I'm not saying I know anything about what they go though and I'm not telling you about them leaving. I'm trying to tell you that they fucking care about you and you leaving would put them though more shit that I can tell they don't need. I'm trying to save your life man. Not ruin it"

F: “Stop, just leave”

I know he’s in a bad place and at the end I was clearly getting panicked and somewhat annoyed that I wasn’t helping but I don’t know if I was being an asshole or not. I care about the kid I just don’t really know what the right thing to say to him is I guess.

TL;DR: My friend is considering suicide and I was trying to help him by telling him how he would make his friends and family feel if he did go though with it and I think I may have said the wrong thing but I’m not too sure