My mom lives about four hours away and is coming in town with her husband for my birthday. My mother and I have always had a strained relationship, and she is not welcome in the home I share with my sister because my sister wants nothing to do with her.

I see my mom about once a month, maybe every two months if I can’t get time off to go visit her. However, when she comes into town, I am expected to drop everything and spend all my time with her. 

We are supposed to be getting a bad snow storm here over the weekend, and my state is notorious for taking poor care of the roads in a snow storm. I warned her that if the roads are bad, I would not want to drive to the hotel she is staying at and spend all day in their hotel room playing card and board games. She is still planning to come out despite the snow storm, and thinks that I should be willing to drive to their hotel since it’s only a few miles away.

If somehow this storm isn’t as bad as predicted, I will spend time with her, but I also would like to see my friends that want to go out for my birthday. But she thinks I should be spending my time with her since we don’t see each other often.

So Reddit, am I just being a selfish asshole here?