I’m 28F. BF1 &amp; BF2 are my boys. 

BF1’s boyfriend, I call BF3.

I’m the ‘uncool’ nerd one, and can be a bit embarrassing. Fact. It’s unspoken, but really affects me.

We went to a pub quiz. The quiz was ridiculous- trick questions, weird answers- Quizgoers were grumbling. BF3 is tipsy, ranting, then goes outside. 

We were confused, but let him cool off. 

As part of the quiz, our phones were ‘forfeited’ to one side (if caught on your phone you buy another table a round). 

BF3’s phone had work messages, so I go get him. He ignores it, still ranting. I went inside. He soon comes in to sit down- ranting again...

BF3: Ohhh, guess what the next answer is! The carpet is made out of shark teeth!

Me: This is getting a little embarrassing now...

BF3: You would know ALL about being embarrassing, wouldn’t you?

I froze. BF2 gasped in a ‘Woah, don’t say that shit’ way. BF1 told BF2 to shut up and behave. A while later, I take BF2 home, then drop BF1 and BF3 at their house. As BF3 is climbing out of my car, I get a small wave and a ‘Sorry, Joscelan.’ I kept quiet, and decided to sleep on it and see how I felt the next day. 

I still felt like shit, so I text BF3 and tell him I’m hurt, my insecurities about it, how it cut me deeper than he thinks.
BF3: ‘Like I said, I’m sorry. I’m a drunk idiot. I have a harsh tongue when I’m annoyed. Let’s move on’. 

I felt like he wasn’t taking my feelings seriously just brushing me off. 

Two days later, we’re at our monthly PN (poker) with friends. (F4 is the additional character here). 

During our pizza break, I’d have to climb over the seats in my way, then get the people in those seats to climb out for me to climb back in. I asked if someone could pass me some pizza. BF3 got me some. 

I’d had a drink this time, but with my autism I’m louder than I realise. I made a passing comment of something quite passive aggressive like. 

F4 asks what’s up, so I tell her the story. I can hear the room get quieter and I lowered my voice as I noticed my volume. I had assumed everyone was distracted, but they were starting to listen. BF1 shouted at me to say that BF3 had apologised already. I said a quick sorry getting out of my car or by text isn’t an apology. 

Conversation ends quite quickly. 

The next day BF1 is off. I took it that he was hungover, had to go to work, and wanted to sleep. I later receive a text calling me a ‘sly c*nt’ for how I was whispering. 
I didn’t see my behaviour that way, so I texted him back to explain it from my POV. We end up dropping it. 

Next PN, I tell BF1 I’m still really hurt, and he snaps that I’m a c*nt and to get over it. Then he told me to speak to BF3 because he doesn’t want to be involved- but the reason I was trying to ask how to broach the subject with BF3. 

I sent him a long text about my feelings, my POV, how I should’ve said it differently. Now I feel so uncomfortable. If I text BF1 I get instant attitude, and I haven’t spoken to BF3 as he’ll just tell me to get over it. 

AITA?