Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have been with my husband for 4 years. He is from a different country and culture who speak English as a second language. I am very family oriented so have tried very hard to integrate as I got married by being as friendly and open as possible with my in laws who I see on average 4/5 times a year. His mum is adorable and whenever she is around she shows me a lot of affection (even though she doesn’t speak much English). However, my brothers/sister in law and their partners make very little effort and barely speak to me. I thought it was a language issue initially so brushed it off but recently realised that their English was good enough to ask me to ask my husband for a lift or to ask me for food. 

Recently my husband decided to host a family lunch at home. I cooked and set up a buffet for everyone. One brother grunted hello at me and went to sit down elsewhere, (not the first time. I was told it was because he was not talkative but when sat with my husband you can’t shut him up), his partner didn’t offer to help in the kitchen once, just sat there in silence and only got up to ask for food or help herself to drinks in the fridge, the other brother’s partner barely said hello and just went to the kitchen to help herself to snacks. I heard feedback from my husband that the food was excellent (people were going back for seconds) but no one from his family said anything to me and I was basically ignored in my own home for the day. 

I decided that next time my husband wanted to host his family (apart from his mum who I would smother with love) I would have a spa day and leave them to it. Am I the Asshole for taking this stance? 