When I met my husband he owned his own small contracting business and was making $4,500/mo for his takehome. I was and still am unemployed, but I get a trust fund stipend every month for $3,000. I think it was about a year into our relationship that his company started to lose traction and he decided to sell his projects and go to college. He had enough saved up for a little while. Sometime in his second year he fell on hard times so I started carrying the brunt of our expenses. Any time we did groceries or had a night out, I kept tally of half because he would then owe me. He focused on paying rent and I took care of groceries and expenses like that.

It's five years later. We're married, have a house, a beautiful son. We're both very comfortable. But over the years he's accrued about $2,000 of money he owes me for doing groceries, etc during his rough patch. I told him I wanted to "cash in" the other day and he looked at me like I was an alien. He said our finances are shared so there's no point. He thanked me for helping him out back then and he feels we're better because of it, but that's money I've spent, money now I won't get back.

AITA?