I befriended this girl we’ll call “Em” in the freshman year of high school. She has a rough family life with her single mom and a brother who committed an extremely serious crime. we’re close friends but the situation started about a month ago, when she tells me she can’t go on a trip that she said she would go to. I thought it was understandable, $120 is kinda pricy for universal studios. I suggested she could cut down on the weed to save up, but she says she hasn’t smoked in a month and that not every parent hands their child money like my parents (which isn’t true).

Then I asked her if she’s going to join the tennis team, something she’s talked about for months. She previously told me she really wants to get back into the sport and that she had a crush on the coach (who’s in his mid 50s). But then she denies ever saying that, which frustrated me cause that whole “i have a crush on ur coach” part wasn’t easy to forget. 

This isn’t the first time she said she’d do something, but leave me hanging. Like homecoming, she said she would go but denied saying it right after i told her i bought my tickets. I nearly spent the night feeling alone and embarrassed. And it’s also not the first time she’s said anything strange. she’s also told me jokes about her mom threatening to kick her out of the house.

So I called her out on this pattern of behavior but she said I just couldn’t take “no” for an answer.  I told her I’m more comfortable with her saying “no” the first time than saying “no” later. All of her responses were not serious, it was just “lol” and “why do you care” while I was going off on a serious tangent. I’ve actually never been “the mom friend” to her, this is probably the first time I’ve confronted her on anything. 

Besides the stuff above, she’s also attempted to lose her virginity to an 18 yr old when she was 15, called me gay for sitting next to her, dropped 2 classes and dropped other close friends (one of them only asked where her hickey came from. It was nothing major, imo). I told her this pattern of behavior is worrying me and disappointing. To this she responds “just don’t talk to me if I’m disappointing”. I finally said “(Em), shutting people out of your life won’t improve it. It’s time to take things seriously cause this really isn’t funny anymore”

I didn’t talk to her except for a “happy birthday” a week later and she texts me a few days after that saying “oof, so are we talking or what?” I forgot to respond to it and 2 weeks later, she blocks me on literally every social media. 

Yes, there are things that has made her life shittier than the average teenager’s. But sometimes she lives under the false impression that my life is great, so I don’t feel a lot of support from her when something happens to me. I support her in the long run, but I do believe there’s a limit to what we support. 

AITA?