Not sure if this should be posted here or /r/relationships but here goes: 

My boyfriend and I have been together now for 8 years, having lived together for almost 5 years. Recently, I had received a contract/job offer that would require relocation. It's not my 'dream job' per se but definitely a solid stepping stone that would set me on the right path towards it. And hey- it's only one year. 

They pay is slightly better but I think there is more value in building my reputation, establishing a larger network and using this opportunity as a journey of "self-discovey"/ finding my own independence.  

We're both in our mid to late twenties with no kids. As for obligations, it would only be towards our cat as we don't own a vehicle or mortgage. 

Our currently living arrangements are complicated. We're living at his parents' house to save money while they live in another property a few towns over. They're very nice people but it can be strenuous as they often come to visit every other weekend. 

As such, before we moved I together, we had plans to buy a house within 5 years. At the time, he was in school while I worked. That was about 4.5 years ago. While I understand that school was a priority and took up roughly 3 of those 5 years, he has since found a stable job that he enjoys but has shown little to no interest in house hunting or talking to me about plans for the future. 

I've been doing my best to express that this is something that is of great importance to me but am often rebuffed and told to stop nagging so much. 

As our 'deadline' approaches, he has shown more interest but I'm not sure if it's because he genuinely wants to live together, or because his parents want to come back to the main house after the 5 year mark.

After discussing this job opportunity with him, I thought that he would be happy for me but he expressed that he would be against long distance relationships and unwilling to even try. For two people who have been together for almost 9 years, I figured that 1 year away would be considered a small time apart. I had also mentioned that now would be a good time as we're both still young and aren't commited to things like a mortgage for example. He became even more upset and reassured me that he would like for us to grow together and that he would like for us to marry in the future. 

Whether it's something trivial like going to bed early or promising to do more things together, he's been known to say things with the best of intention but has a hard time following through with the action. 

That said, I'm not sure if he's all that committed to a future together even after talking about it... AITA? 