So for a long, LONG, time, my girlfriend did not have a job as I had a really good one with a high income. I worked a lot but always made time to see her and such. We would always go out to eat at fine restaurants around us, go to shopping trips, travel etc. when she had money, she’d pay her share of whatever but when she didn’t I always picked up the slack. At times when money was rough for me, I still paid for things that I shouldn’t have and had to work extra hours to make up for it. I didn’t mind though, I made enough to the point where I was worry free. 

Our relationship is not the type where the guy is expected to pay for everything, we’ve made an agreement from day one to be a team, pull the weight 50/50 and that’s it. I payed for mostly everything though and never said a word to her about paying me back or doing something equivalent of the money I spent. But recently my girlfriend finally got her dream job and it’s been nice because nowadays, I can relax while i shoot her a text to bring home some takeout or do something of that sort and finally rest my mind at the fact of me not having to pay for as much anymore. 

So last Friday, I went to the convenience store and got myself a can of snuff, but I forgot my wallet. I went back to the car and asked my girlfriend if I could use her card. She looked at me, sighed, rolled her eyes and said “please just pay me back...” in a very disgusted tone as if I pestered her about it all day. my reaction was “are you serious?? Okay.” And I slammed the door shut. I walked in and paid for my can of snuff and walked back to the car. She said “what was that about?” I said to her “pay you back? Seriously? Do you not remember a time where I’d take you to the Cheesecake Factory and blow $170 on both of us and never asked for a dime?” She looked at me and muttered out “yeah”. I came back with “it was $4, if you’re that worried about it I’ll pay you back.” She didn’t want the money back, she understood that she was wrong and it was over and done with. 

After that, hasn’t happened again since. 