Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Okay, so a little background info:

I work 48 hour weeks minimum and for the last couple of months it’s been 60 hour weeks. I work 4:30pm to 4:30am, usually fall asleep between 6am and 7am after I get off work. Normally wake up around 1:30pm but I’ve been extra tired these last couple of weeks and have been waking up at 2:30pm.

This week my wife asked me if I could skip the extra day this week and take Saturday off so that we could go out for St. Patrick’s Day with our friends/family. Neither of us drink or go out very often at all, so I cleared it with my boss and was pretty excited to be able to tie one on tomorrow. I could use a night of drinking honestly.

Then earlier tonight she informs me that we are being picked up at 2. My first thought was that the bars stop serving alcohol at 2 so that would be kind of dumb, then it dawned on me that she meant 2pm. At first I was king of a dick, thinking that it wasn’t her that made the plans so I was saying stuff like “who goes drinking at 2pm?!?” Had I known that it was her idea I wouldn’t have been an ass about it in that way, but whatever. In all the times we’ve gone to a bar we have NEVER gone before 9pm.

So I explained to her that I guess I’d have to skip, because I’m not waking up on my day off an hour/hour and a half early to go drinking. I like to wake up, have coffee, go to the gym, come home and shower, etc. That would be like if I woke her up at 6:30am (she usually gets up at 8am for work) to take her drinking. 

Now, we RARELY argue, whether it be little stuff or big stuff, but she was kind of butthurt that I “made her feel stupid” (which was not my intention at all, I was honestly just trying to explain why I’m not cool with going drinking at 2pm) and was also mad that I didn’t want to go out anymore. 

At the same time, I was butthurt because to me it’s pretty inconsiderate that she would not only make these plans when she knew I’d be asleep (and yes she knew I’d be sleeping, I text her when I wake up every day) and also that she’s just now telling me the night before. I mean, even if had known it was at 2pm at least I would have been like “okay, guess I can’t make it” instead of thinking all week that we were going to go out and have a good time Saturday night. I went from looking forward to it to being disappointed about it, not to mention that if I had known this I wouldn’t have taken the day off and just worked it because the whole 12-hour shift would have been overtime.

So now we are kind of at odds with each other, because she’s irritated with me for not wanting to go/making her feel stupid, and I’m irritated with her for making plans like that when she knew I’d be asleep and then not telling me until the night before.

So, I’m ready to accept my judgement here... AITA?