I have this Aspie friend whom I have a big crush on. We hang out semi-regularly and attend the same fitness class. The day before his bday several months ago I gave him a book and we saw a movie and had a nice time. This week I said I'd really love to celebrate my birthday with him and would he like to grab a drink the night before my birthday- since we were both busy the next day. He said sure. The night rolls around and I message him and he's just not into it. No apology or rain cheque, just vague disinterest. Next day he said Sorry and that he was tired. I'm trying to be understanding because he's on the spectrum, but I've done a lot for him and he's so wishy washy to me it hurts. Sometimes he's warm and fun to me, but other times I feel so unimportant and unappreciated. I want to be understanding, but we are always having lil tiffs like this. He now seems ticked that I was hurt.