Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Background: my wife and I have a dead bedroom. For several years, she’s had issues having pain-free sex, so that’s been a huge contributing factor, but even before those issues, her sex drive had begun declining dramatically (to the point where we’d had many frank conversations about how it was affecting the relationship). 

We’ve recently had very honest talks where she has granted me permission to have sexual experiences with other people (conditional, of course).

We live in a city where we don’t know many other people, so the opportunity for such an encounter is rare... almost non-existent. I’m on Tinder, Ashley Madison, and have even considered escorts. Not much luck with any (can’t justify spending $300+ on an escort and haven’t found anyone I’m very attracted to on apps).

So my next option: I live in a University town and am thinking of going out for beers on the weekend in an attempt to meet someone and perhaps have such an encounter. 

The issue is that when I tell my wife I want have a night out (not mentioning my motives because I’m not sure how she’d react to me straight-up telling her what’s up), I know she’ll want to get a sitter and come with me for a night out. And while I LOVE spending time my wife, the purpose of this night is to have a sexual encounter, which definitely won’t happen one way or another if I spend the night with my wife.

WIBTA if I tell my wife I want to go for beers alone?