Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : For a little context: I’m in high school and this is one of my first relationships and his first. 

I’ve had at least two encounters I can remember where I see girls leaning on his shoulder. I’m a super jealous person and he knows this. The first time I was laying on his lap on my phone or something and when I looked up, a girl who I am friends with [girl 1] was leaning on his shoulder watching a YouTube video. I immediately got up and left so I didn’t act out. I didn’t tell him about how I felt about it until a while later, but I did tell a good girl friend of mine. [girl 2] The girl is also his best friend but I knew she wouldn’t tell him since she knew I wanted to talk to him. However, a couple days ago I walked into school to see her laying on his shoulder reading a book while I sat there with her. I was really hurt. 

In general I just stared at him. I didn’t mean to I was just hurt and a bit dumbfounded that he did it... again. I later asked him about it a day later. 

He told me, “I thought you would be okay with it since it wasn’t [girl 1].” 

I replied with, “No it still made me jealous, but I’m mostly a bit mad at [girl 2] because I have talked to her about it and she told me she understood what I meant.”

He then proceeded to defend both of these friends. 

He told me he values physical contact. I don’t know about the rest of you but I see a lean on the should as one of two things. 

1. A flirting tactic
2. A trusting gesture

I understood why [girl 2] did it. She trusts him as a friend and she was going through some stuff. I felt a bit disrespected at the time because of what I told her in the past and I was trying to explain this to him. 

He told me that they both have no ill will and it’s restricting for me to not allow him to do that. 

I told him I don’t trust [girl 1] and that I was worried about losing him to her (as they’ve had a fling type thing in the past). He then defended her by saying, “[girl 1] is one of the most people I have ever met and she would never do that.” 

Overall this made me worry because I do have some trust issues with other women so it is hard for me to bond with them. I didn’t know if I was judging her too harshly even though I did believe and see the rumors of her cheating on her boyfriends and selling sex. 

His proposal was to only do that when I wasn’t around. I told him that it made it feel untrustworthy. At some point during this conversation that lasted over the course of two days, I gave up. I told him he could do what he wants in front of me or not. I can and I will get over it. 

Inwardly I wanted him to say no, but that’s a selfish thing for me to believe he would do. 

TLDR: Am I the asshole for not wanting my boyfriend to have too much physical contact with other people? 