Hey All, 

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I'll try and make this brief. My boyfriend and I are together 4 years. I get along great with his parents, but his older brother literally hasn't said more than 10 words to me in our 4 years knowing each other. At first I would greet him and ask how he is, and I would get no response. He would walk past me in the kitchen, finish what he was doing and go on his way. 

So last year I spend Christmas with my boyfriend and his family for the first time. I showed up with gifts for everyone, including the brother (a PlayStation gift card), but was too nervous to give it to him directly because I thought he hated me or something so I gave it to my boyfriend to give to him when I left. I never got a thank you. 

So fast forward this year, I was again invited to Christmas with my boyfriend and I want to accept, but the first thing that came to my mind was "What am I going to get the brother?". I asked my boyfriend and he didn't really know. He said I could get him another gift card, or I could just get him nothing because he won't get me anything and he probably won't say thanks either. 

I immediately refused and said I couldn't show up with gifts for everyone but him, but then I thought about the facts that I talk to everyone but him, and if I can't face him long enough to give him his gift, should I be getting him one in the first place? Also, to be fair to him, he's seems very socially inept. He rarely leaves the house, and I've heard that he treats mostly everyone except his family the way he treats me, but it's never been confirmed. 

So I leave it to you redditors, would I be the asshole if I showed up with no gift for the brother who ignores me?