Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My family has a small farm we jokingly refer to as a "Fisher Price farm". We have horses (normal and miniature), a donkey, goats, geese, chickens, a rabbit, dogs and cats. I own some of the animals myself and some belong to my parents- the vast majority of the animals are rescues. My mom absolutely loves inviting people, especially kids, over to hang out with animals they may not normally meet and to ride our horses. She always expects my help handling the animals and children, which I don't mind, I love animals and like kids. 

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The current problem is that my mom thinks I'm way too firm with children around the animals. I think that what I say is for the benefit of our pets' health and stress levels, and to keep the kids safe. She says that I'm a "killjoy", that I "make children and parents uncomfortable by being too controlling" (her words). This stung a bit I'll admit since I dislike having to be the one with boundaries but I consider my mom a people pleaser who wants all the kids/adults to have an idyllic farm experience without any realistic boundaries. Here are some examples of points of conflict:

Kids are chasing chickens around in 90 degree (or hotter) weather, until chickens are panting and obviously overheating. I say "Please don't chase them, they're nervous and it's too hot for them to run this much. There are quiet chickens right here you can pet or hold gently!" Repeated multiple times, eventually dropping the please. Finally pick up the chickens they're chasing (chickens don't run from me, they know my call) and put the chickens in the coop out of reach. Mom says that I'm ruining their fun and that it won't kill the chickens to get a little hot. 

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Kids running around the horses' hindquarters, hitting them in the face with a metal comb, screaming in excitement. I say "Guys, you have to be quiet and calm around horses or they may get nervous and spook or kick. Be gentle when you brush the horses." Mom says it's fine, our horses are safe and quiet. I remind her that the horse in question once kicked out and caught her in the thigh when a horsefly bit her. Mom says I'm scaring the kids and getting worried over nothing. 

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Kids chasing already skittish cats, I ask them to not do that and play with the dogs instead, mom says it won't kill the cats to get chased. 

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There's a lot more unfortunately.

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Eventually my mom says maybe she shouldn't ask me to help her anymore with kids around since I'm "a killjoy and make people uncomfortable". I have never swore at, shouted at, or even raised my voice at kids. I always try to be calm but firm. However the one time I wasn't supervising it (in a roundabout way, to be fair) ended up with the death of one of my chickens so I'm not confident in my mom's ability to supervise all the animals and kids. I often time get left watching 6-8 kids by myself around a barn with large animals while my mom chats with the parents. That's also been frustrating. 

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I guess I'm afraid I am a killjoy and an asshole for being firm and maybe over controlling? I do really try to be polite but I know that I often put what I perceive to be the animals' comfort/wellbeing over kids' enjoyment. I'm happy to clarify anything, I want to be as fair and present all sides as possible.

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TL;DR My mom thinks I'm kind of an asshole and too controlling about kids playing around our animals, i.e. telling kids to stop chasing chickens or lower their voices around horses. 