Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I'll keep this as short as I can. My friend that I've known for 5+ years tells me that she has fallen in love with me. I tell upfront that her being 400+ pounds is a huge turn-off. 

She started working out and I mean REALLY working out. A few years later she has dropped from 400+ to around 280 - 290, and she said she is working to hit 250 by March/April. We are both working together towards things and have started dating but I feel like a total asshole for pushing it on her. 

The other side was whenever we talked she would tell me how her weight was holding her back, how she couldn't run, walk, or go hunting as much. How she wanted to ride horses, and people would tease her or judge her appearance based on her weight. I know it sounds shallow of me to say it was a huge turn off for me (and it was) but I am glad to see her more happy about how she is starting to feel about herself now.

tl;dr Am I an asshole for telling someone that loves me to lose weight if she wants to date? 