At the start of this year I moved into my own home, choosing it was kind of a rush job as where I was living before was getting a bit unbearable. The house was also reasonably priced in a semi-decent area and ticked a lot of boxes I had. 

So this house that I bought had a few little things that needed doing, one of them being having a new door and frame fitted to where my kitchen meets a little back passage. This back passage is unheated so it let's in a terrible draft and just oozes cold.

I'd talked to my sister about this and with her bloke being a joiner she said that she would mention it to him and see if he'd be willing to help out. He seemed more than happy to help so so I put the job off until he had the time.

Anyway so fast forward to the present day, winter is here and it's fucking freezing. Still no sign of the door being fitted and my heating bill is through the roof. I've Brought it up a few times and he's got the things necessary to do the job (not a huge cost though, around £20) but as far as I can tell has no intention of doing anything else, So I went and bought a door and had it fitted.

Now because he'd offered to help, and bought the things necessary to do the job and I've gone elsewhere they're being a bit funny with me, like I'm the one who is in the wrong for accepting the help in the first place. They're adament they had every intention of helping, they've just been too busy. From my point of view, they've had the the best part of a year to do something while it was warm and nothing has been done, so now it's cold and a problem I had to do something. I'd even asked if they could just drop the things they'd bought off (they have a van I have a hatchback) I'd have used them but they said they'd do the full job. 

So, who has been the asshole here? Me for going somewhere else to get the work done even though they offered to help and bought the things necessary or them for leaving me hanging? 