  **Hi Reddit! This is my first time on this sub but I’m here because this has been driving my girlfriend and I nuts.**  
 

So to get this out of the way to start off with, my girlfriend (*gf*) and I have been seeing each other for almost three years now, we are both girls and we had, for the last six months or so, been seeing a non-binary third. From here on I’m gonna call the third person *Charming* (they live in Charm City) so that the they/them pronouns are less confusing. *Charming* is in school as a guitarist (this is important for later)  
 

So we met *Charming* at a local club (around Halloween), and they seemed super nice at first. *Charming* took *gf* and I to a local coffee shop and showed the two of us around their little portion of the city. It was really, well, charming. *Gf* and I quickly became very close friends with *Charming* and a week or two later we all ended up in bed together. All three of us were okay with this arrangement, and once we all got past the initial awkwardness of seeing someone naked, nobody felt left out.  
 

Fast forward to December and *Charming* seemed to be getting sick of my (somewhat dominating) personality, but they would confront me about any issues they had, telling me that my behavior was unacceptable. I know this is a flaw in my personality and I worked on it. *Gf* and I never really talked to *Charming* about their numerous personality flaws because we just sorta figured they were in the right.  
 

Late in January *Charming* tells us that I am too much of a dominant personality, and that they still want to be friends and that nothing is really going to change.  
 

The three of us talk for most of February but *Charming* doesn’t really make any real attempt to meet us in person (despite constantly saying they wanted to), but *Charming* had a big recital coming up (sort of a final exam in their music program) so we just figured they were busy.  
 

*Charming’s* recital is this week, and *Charming* still hadn’t given us any information about it (despite offering tickets to anyone on Facebook who wanted them). So naturally *gf* and I ask *Charming* what’s up, and they reply that “it would be awkward having us there.”  
 

*Gf* and I were stunned, we had been nothing but supportive this whole time, so we asked what was going on. Charming responds “**I need space, and you guys forcing the issue just farther cements my decision. I’m sorry but you’re not invited.**”  
 

I immediately left the group chat that we were in, incensed that they were just cutting the two of us out of their life.  
 

This has been heartbreaking and my girlfriend and I really want other people’s opinions. Thanks!

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TL;DR: &gt;!More-than-friend of six months suddenly doesn't invite their two girlfriends to their biggest concert ever because it would be "too awkward"!&lt;