My husband is a phenomenal guitar player. I sing very well. We used to do gigs together as a duo before we had kids. 

Now he’s got the music itch again, since his regular job doesn’t involve music. He is joining friends once or twice a week to come on during their gigs and do a few songs to give them a break and scratch the music itch. But since I can’t be there, he’s doing the singing himself. 

He is not a good singer. He’s got a pleasant tone when he doesn’t get too nasal, and I enjoy hearing him around the house, but he has major pitch problems and a limited range. It’s not just a little pitchy; sometimes he just can’t find the pitch at all and just throws a random note out there. He also likes to tackle more difficult songs than he’s able to sing. He knows he has these issues but thinks that with a little daily practice in his car while commuting, he could get good enough to perform. I don’t share that outlook. I’ve given him some pointers that have improved things a bit, so he knows more or less what I think, but not in such blunt terms as “you should not perform singing in public.”

I’m not jealous at all. I’m happy he’s doing something that makes him happy, and look forward to playing music again, with him and others, once the littlest one will sleep without me. I don’t want to crush the joy he is getting from this, but I’m also embarrassed for him to put himself out there with his current skill level. So WIBTA if I was frank with him about it?