Ok, so this was a few years ago, but my family still often brings it up and treats me poorly over it.

I chose to attend a college a few hours away from my home town, I had never really done anything on my own and NEEDED this opportunity, a year in my older (by 5 years) brother decided to enroll at the community college back home.

Immediately my grandmother and aunt began to pressure him to instead enroll at my college and live on campus with me... At the time I was a closeted homosexual to my family, but was VERY open at school... In addition my brother is much more....... "Gregarious" than me. He makes friends easily, and on multiple occasions MY friends have chosen to ignore me in favor of him.

In any case I love my brother, hut I was not comfortable with him being on my campus, and I politely made this clear by stating "I really don't want that, I have my own thing going on for the first time, and i really enjoy it" or something along those lines.

I immediately got told what an unloyal brat I was, and how only trash people turn against their family... It upset me because it wasn't that I didn't want him there EVER, I just didn't want him there ALWAYS.

Anyay, Reddit, Am I the asshole, or is this pretty much normal?