Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : So I was in a relationship with this sweet girl for six months (I am a 23 year old lesbian), and it was this interaction with the nurse that has put the last nail on the coffin:

Short backstory on me: Call me "N". I'm still trying to find out who I really am inside (finding the right job, home, destiny, etc). It was only less than a year ago that I have found out that I liked girls after I have had a bad time with guys (I was bisexual then). My temperament was only on the short end only when I see something I think is wrong, or when things do not go the way I expect. 

Now here is my ex: Lets call her "K". From what she told me, she has severe depression and panic attacks. But when she was not feeling down/scared, she is kind, affectionate, and creative. Rarely gets angry, and always listens when I have issues. So she might seem like she would tolerate me no matter what? Well, this is where the story begins, then, fellow redditors, ask this, "Am I really an asshole?"

So I was over at my girlfriends house the other day, and she told me she has been having suicidal thoughts. I knew K was suicidal and I was scared to leave her alone (her parents would not give two shits about her if she was having these kinds of thoughts). So me and her went over to the nearby emergency room and got checked in. The hospital did the usual thing like checking her vitals and asking questions.

When it was time for me to leave the room for the social worker to talk to her about the more intimate things, I left and waited for a few minutes. Then I came back in and here is how the conversation went (from memory):

N: "So, what is the plan baby? Are they checking you into the behavioral facility?"

Nurse: "So K and the social worker have come to a conclusion that she does not need to be checked into the behavior facility, she is going to give a call to her consular and make an appointment with him".

Now for a little more background: K does not have a car, so she cannot drive herself to her appointments (nor do I have much time out of my day to just drive her back and forth to her appointments), and her parents whom she lives with still works. And whenever she schedules an appointment, she does NOT put it down on a calendar and then the place she sees would get angry at her for not showing up and refusing to reschedule her. So JUST scheduling her for another visit? You might as well be pissing on a wildfire. And another thing is, is that I use to be suicidal myself, and had been checked into the emergency behavioral facility in that EXACT hospital before.

Now, hearing that, I got a little too far off the deep end:

N: "Why the fuck not?!?"

Nurse: "K made her decision, and you should respect that, it is only up to the hospital and her to decide what is best for her", "Now, I will leave you and K to talk this out".

\*K looks at me as to acknowledge what the nurse said was true\*

Now I thought that the nurse left the room, so I said this to K:

N: "Wow, what a bitch".

Nurse: \*comes back into the room\* "Excuse me, what did you say to me?! Say that to my face!", "It is the hospitals decision to decide what is best for their patients, not anyone else's", "now, you may have an opinion, but in the end, it is not up to you". And she slams the door.

K: \*looking at me with great disappointment\* "N, that was really uncalled for, if you have another outburst like that in front of me SPECIFICALLY again, I will break up with you".

Now, I am a very emotional and expressive individual and always have been. I couldn't believe what my girlfriend said to me, and I just started crying softly. And being the nice person she is, she apologized and we made it up and went back to my car. 

A few weeks later: I never had another outburst like that. But one day, through Facebook message, she said she wanted to end the relationship. I looked back at the event that happened prior, and realized what I've done. So, like the ballsy person I am, I went to her home for the last time to do the breakup properly. I gave her the Christmas present I was going to give her (because it was close to the holidays), and the last words I have said to her was a tearful "Merry Christmas". To this day, I felt ashamed of myself for me being the cause of the breakup.

Am I the asshole for being the cause of the end of this relationship? Why or why not?