Note: I am genuinely not seeking validation here, and I understand my perspective is inherently biased. I just want to see what some people think of my situation and views

I come from a family of what I believe to be toxic and abusive parents. There are too many details to wrap up in this one post, but basically they are very religious people, and do not approve of most of my choices. At home when I am around them, I have to become a different person and essentially lead a double life, which I find to be very taxing.

After I graduate college and find a stable job I plan to cut them off, disconnecting any and every means of contact, essentially ghosting myself from them.

I’ve talked to both my brother and a few of my close friends about this and they all tell me that I’m wrong for wanting to do so. They say that I’m selfish for leaving because my parents have provided for me my entire life (financially, food, housing, etc.) and are now financing my entire college degree so that I don’t have to take out loans. On top of that, my brother told me I would be tearing the family apart by leaving.

It’s just that I hate my parents so much for being so abusive all throughout my life. Being around them just fills me with rage and makes my skin crawl. I don’t know if maybe I’m right, or maybe I’m just fucked up.

Do you guys think I’m the asshole for wanting to leave? If there is not enough information, I will gladly answer any questions to the best of my ability.