Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So this was a few years ago now but still at times eats me from the inside. 

So through my family I met this guy who I became friends with really quickly due to our many similarities and common interests. I soon had a huge crush on him and it seemed like he did too since he flirted with me very obviously and was very familiar with me. So one night me, my bestfriend and crush decided to spend the night at my place. I slept on one mattress my bestfriend on another and crush on the couch. 

After my bestfriend had already fallen asleep me and crush were still talking and lowkey flirting and after a while we ended up in the same bed and making out which eventually led to sex. 

We had previously discussed relationships and the fact that neither of us really wanted to get into one, but before our make out session led to sex we made a promise to eachother that even though we weren’t in a relationship we wouldn’t sleep with other people.   

Later on we also tried discussing the realtionship part but we didn’t get anywhere with it so we just continued on being friends and having sex. I would say that it was just friends with benefits if it weren’t for the fact that he told me he loved me numerous times and I felt the same for him. 
 
Since I have always struggled with voicing my feelings and affections I kind of felt like it was my fault we didn’t get into a realtionship and only talked about it once. 

Cue to like about 5 months in to our whole “thing” I got sick and had to stay in the hospital for a week. During that time I had a lot of time to think about things and figure myself out I guess. So after getting out I decided to have “the relationship talk” again with him only to find out he’s in a relationship with someone else. Also I found that out a week after I got out of the hospital and not from him but my stepfather. 

So, am I the asshole for being mad at him that he got into a relationship and didn’t tell me about it? I was also very cold and ignored him after the whole ordeal. 

(Sorry about any mistakes or stuff being worded oddly, english is not my first language.)