Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : AITA for not caring that my family doesn't invite me to stuff?

A little back story. My uncle was the glue that held my family together after he died we kind of scattered to the wind. The family tries to keep it together by meeting up for holidays and some birthday and the rare "just because" weekend. 

The problem is I either don't get invited or I get invited at the last minute and the fam gets pissy if I'm busy or tired. I also don't know about family members flying in until they show up at my door step.

Last year I wanted to know what we were doing for Christmas (we never held it in the same place) and was told we were not going to celebrate so I took up a friends offer to celebrate with him and his family. Christmas day while I'm at the friends house I get a call from my mom. She and my sister are at my grandparents house. She's only calling to tell me that I'm rotten for not being there. When I ask why I was told we weren't going to celebrate this year, I get the same list of excuses.

"You're never doing anything so we figure we could just tell you and you would show up"

Wrong. I'm usually tired on the weekday because I have a very labor intensive job. I would perk myself up if people would just tell me shit is going down. I always tell them when I would have free time, thinking that would make it easier to invite me but sadly no. 

"We thought we told you."

Nope. They don't call, text or send me a damn pigeon. 

"Well, we just forgot."

Yeah I can tell!

The shitty part is that when I want to make plans with my family it's like pulling teeth. I basically have to pay for everything before they will even consider doing anything with or for me. 

I don't know why but it's just me that they do this to. Even my cousin who has let my family know that she wants nothing to do with us gets invited to family events. I want to be close to my family but at this point I'm about to tell them all to eat dicks and fuck off. 

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