So I [m22] will be moving into a house with my good friend Ryan [m23] and his girlfriend. We’ve known each other since childhood and I have no second thoughts on moving in with him. 

My best friend Becca [f22] asked if she could move in as well and I didn’t think it through before saying yes. We went 2 months thinking all four of us would be living together. I then realized that I feel like if I lived with Becca we might fight and it would eventually lead to us not being close anymore. We are both each-other’s emotional support system and rely on each other for a lot things. Well I texted this to Ryan and we came to the conclusion that I would just tell Becca that she couldn’t live with us. 

Well this is when the story gets interesting: Becca was on my phone and happened to read that text before I told her. She was upset (obviously) but didn’t say anything to me. A few days later she got on my phone and actually put in my passcode to go reread the texts again. She eventually told me that she read the texts and that finalized the decision of me not wanting to move in with her. She said she understood and was fine with it but I definitely feel like there is some built-up disdain. 

So am I the asshole for not wanting to move in with her even though we have been best friends for years? 


