My group of friends have a once a month game night.  It’s mostly just the five of us getting drunk, playing cards or board games, and catching up.   It’s probably sad, but it used to be the highlight of my month.  

One of my friends has a girlfriend who for the last four times has tagged along.  None of us minded when he first asked if she could come, but she’s made these get together completely un enjoyable.  

She’s nice enough I guess, but she’s insanely annoying.   She always has to be the center of attention.  She talks about herself and her opinion almost nonstop and she’s really not that interesting so it doesn’t make for good conversation.  If someone is talking, she will interrupt and find a way to bring it back to her.  If the person keeps talking she will just talk over them.  I’ve sat there and watched her do it and raise her voice on purpose just to be louder than the person talking.  

Another thing that’s been awkward for me personally is that she tries to make me a stereotype.  I’m gay.  I’m not the “gay bff” type of guy though.  Yet she keeps trying to make me into hers.  She’s always getting weirdly touchy feely with me.  She tries to have “girl talk” with me.  One time she learned that I was going out to a gay bar and shows up uninvited and basically followed me around and ruined my entire night.   I’ve tried to be tactful with her since she’s my buddy’s girl, but she does not get the hint.  One time I went so far as to tell her that I don’t have any female friends because I just really only get along with guys (lie), but in one ear and out the other.  

No one except her boyfriend wants her there.   The rest of us have all talked about it.  None of us like her.   We just don’t know how to tell him.  I’m a rip the bandaid off kind of guy and just want to take him out for a beer and tell him.  I would be nice about it.  I already know the gist of what I would say.  “The group dynamic has just changed with a girl in the mix.  We’d like to make it a guys only night and maybe get together with you guys as a couple a different night. “.  