Hi there folks, be as brutal as you need.

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My partner and I have dated for 2 years, 1 long distance and 1 physically together.

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Background information on me, the potential asshole: I am obsessed with picking at bumps in my skin, if there's a zit I'd rather have a deep gash bleeding than any form of zit, pimple, acne, or those little white dots that appear on your skin. I frequently scratch myself until bleeding with my hairline usually taking the worst of it. None of this hurts when I do it as I've been doing this my whole life, I used to pick my hairs as well but I only do that for my armpits now. Long story short, if there's a bump in the skin it's gotta go.

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I started dating a guy who has some problems with acne. It's not cystic, nor does it flare terribly, but he constantly every single day grows around 20+ individual pimples on his body. They are almost always on his back, along his neck and collarbone and face.

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He was reluctant to let me pop them in his past, but let me do so freely when we were long distance. When we moved in together he became more and more reluctant to let me do it until he started denying me flat out. I used a sterile needle and applied a lotion to help heal the small holes most of the time, I always washed my hands and kept things clean.

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Now, I won't lie and say that I was totally fine with him saying no. I do know that it is his body and his choices, but for whatever reason I get anxious and stressed about acne specifically. I take care of mine, but if he walks around with a big juicy one I feel unrest in my body, both from disgust and also from a desire to get rid of it.  

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We came to a sort of truce where I'd ask if I could pop it and he'd decide if he'd let me or not in the moment, but I will feel so incredibly stressed, anxious and grossed out if he walks around with unpopped acne so I told him that I'd like it if he could at least do it himself. He told me that this was not something he wanted to do and I should just let his body take care of it naturally, but he gets acne every single day anyway so unless it gets popped its constantly there.

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We haven't discussed skin-care products yet because:  
1. I am not knowledgeable enough on the field at all.  
2. I firmly believe that by using a sterile needle, hot water, cold water and being gentle with the hole you make doesn't leave scars as it hasn't left any noticeable ones for me (of course I can be wrong, I just haven't seen anything to prove it wrong).

3. He worries about money a lot due to a credit card debt on his side and would likely feel emasculated if I bought it for him (likely, not guaranteed).

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I definitely feel like an asshole, but I also feel uncomfortable and don't know how to proceed because I am not sure if I can feel completely relaxed unless I get to indulge in this popping obsession or if he starts using some sort of skin care to prevent acne outbreaks.