Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Let me just preface by saying I didn’t even expect a Valentine’s Day gift (not a big holiday for us).

Basically, he got me a fish tank. We went to the pet store a long time ago and I saw a betta I liked, and mentioned I would like to get one sometime. He went ahead and got me a tank, some substrate, and a couple little decorations (picked out by my daughter).

It was really thoughtful and I hate to sound ungrateful, but I knew what kind of tank, substrate, and decor I wanted. This is nothing like it. No big deal, really. My daughter picked it out so it’s still meaningful.

The thing that bothers me is that I’ve now sunk over $50 into this “gift” (a heater, food, water conditioner, and the betta itself). He also hovered over me the whole time I was setting up the tank, telling me what to do since he has a fish tank of his own, and basically took over the whole process. I wasn’t able to do anything myself and it didn’t even feel like a gift.

Not to mention now I have one more thing to take care of/maintain on top of our house, other pets, kids, etc etc.

I truthfully would have just appreciated some quality time and maybe a card. Am I being an asshole?