Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I (18M) have known I was gay since I was ~11 or 12 years old, and I kinda realised I'd never fancied a girl or woman in my life. I had the expected struggle with coming to grips with it but it honestly wasn't that difficult for me to come to terms with myself. 

However. For all of my life it's been just my mum and I at home, as I'm an only child and my dad passed away before I was born. Mum has never been overtly homophobic, per se. Like, she isn't the type of person to bang on about how gay is disgusting and homos are gonna burn in hell and it's all sick and perverse etc. But she *is* the type of person who makes comments about how she "doesn't see the point" of Pride and claims she doesn't get why marriage equality is "such a big deal". Also, when my cousin came out as lesbian and started bringing her girlfriend to family events, Mum semi-frequently complained about her "shoving her sexuality down everyone's throats" and how she "doesn't mind, just doesn't see why [COUSIN] is so 'in your face' about it". (To clarify, cousin is very much *not* into PDAs so it's not like she and her girlfriend are constantly making out in public or w/e, they just hang out, dance together, etc.) All this to say, I don't believe my mother actively hates gay people or wishes any kind of harm or ill will upon any of us, but she's made it clear in the past she doesn't particularly *like* gay people very much either. 

Because of this, I've kept my sexuality from her. I convinced myself that coming out while under her roof could get real awkward for me. I didn't think she'd be angry but I guessed she'd be uncomfortable, a la how she feels about my cousin, and I couldn't take that level of awkwardness in my own living situation. I'm going to uni in September and will be moving ~1.5hr drive from my hometown for it. My plan was to come out after I moved out so that, even if there was some discomfort there, at least I wouldn't be around it constantly. Suffice to say, this didn't happen. 

Basically, I lent her my laptop to send some emails for work while hers was broken and I guess I left my Facebook open and she say some messages between me and this boy I've been sort of seeing. She confronted me about it and I told her because what's the sense in denying it? She *flipped* - not because I'm gay, but because I'd been lying to her all this time (I have explicitly told her I'm straight and brought girls home in the past). I tried to explain that I wasn't comfortable coming out yet, she took offence and kicked me out. I'm currently staying with my grandparents and I don't know if I'm ever gonna go back to my mum's. 

I feel kinda shitty. Not because I'm gay, obviously I know I'm NTA for that. But maybe mum's right, maybe lying to her was a sucky thing to do. Like I could've dodged questions about sexuality/not brought girls home - more so avoided the truth than outright lying. I love my mum and I don't want to lose her over this. AITA?