So I’ve been best-friends with B for about 4 years now. At her 18th almost two year ago, I hooked up with her brother and have been dating him ever since.

In 2017 we finished college so stopped hanging out everyday, but still saw each other every few months and talked loads. In September 2018  B went to uni so she’s never home a lot and we never talk as often as we both have completely different things going on in our lives.

Now when she is home, my bf likes to be home to spend time with his sister. Obviously we are a package deal, so when he’s home I’m at theirs too.

My bf recently said to me ‘I think I’m affecting yours and B’s friendship’ and I laughed it off and said that we’ve drifted apart since college/ her going to uni. She goes out every weekend whereas I never go out and am looking at settling down with my bf, taking the next step in my life which she isn’t thinking of doing for at least 5+ years.

I mistakenly told B this and she said well you never spend time with me, whenever I’m home you’re alway with bf. But the way I see it is that I don’t go to their house to see B I go there to spend the weekend with my BF.

Am I the asshole for spending time with my boyfriend and not with my best friend when she’s home from uni? 