Firstly, I know I have insecurities stemming from mental disorders and I'm thankful for my girlfriend in that she has been a trooper in being patient. I have been doing my best to work on it while at the same time trying to voice concerns before they turn into broken record in my head. I have been told the way I go about bringing these up is accusing her of cheating. I don't want to do this.

She leaves her computer unlocked when I'm around which has full access to text messages, email, and passwords and I know the password to her phone. I do the same thing for her and its mutual agreement, however, I refuse to snoop and have not done it under any circumstances. 

There is one example I need help with. I'm not sure if I am TA for how I said this and is it accusatory of cheating?

&amp;#x200B;

I was working late shift and she had the day off working on her car. On my lunch break we were chatting. I sent a message using a messaging program I know she uses on the computer (but not on the phone almost ever) thinking she was home and done with the car by then. I get a reply of the address to a restaurant we go to frequently that we both know where it is like the back of our hand. Her response was it was in the buffer to send on the phone (from months - maybe years ago) and just hit enter to clear it. I should have taken her at her word immediately  but anxiety kicked in.

It was the truth of course. Here is how the messages went:  


Me: " So therr is a big push to term out the shit people" (bitching about work)

Her: &lt;Address and link to restaurant on google&gt;  Had in cue ignore 

Me: Hmm

Her:  Fighting to get oil filter thing off 

Her: (Video call attempt to initiate - fails)

Me:  Why?

Her:  Replacing Fucker is on tight

Me:  Why the video call? 

Her:  Sorry about call was trying to figure or how to send pic 

Me:  Something doesn't smell right 

Her:  It is not the camera icon at the top. Fine

(She sends another video call, I answer, and she shows me she is working on the car)

&amp;#x200B;

AITA?