Typing on mobile so apologies in advance. 

About 2 years ago, I moved from BE to the UK to come live with my boyfriend (now fiance) that I met online. He and I had long discussions about who would make the move, and as he doesn't speak my maternal language and wants to stay close to his small family, we decided that I would move. I speak English on a near-native level anyway and I have a degree and experience in an international field so making the move wasn't hard. I applied for and found a job overseas, planned my move, packed my stuff, and left.

However, my parents and brothers were and are dear to me.  Realising that, my fiance said we'd visit frequently. Our first visit about 5 months after my move was... a disaster. I had lost my job, it was winter so the weather was bad, ...  In the end, due to a number of reasons, we didn't visit for over a year.

This year, we'd planned to go back for a visit in spring. But due to me and my fiance taking up a new hobby, and both of us agreeing we want to get married this year, my finances are nowhere near sound enough to both fund a visit and a wedding, even a small quiet affair like we'd have. Trouble is, my parents and brothers miss me and talk a lot about how much they miss me and how much they're looking forward to our next visit, and I miss them something fierce as well, but I'd choose getting married to a wonderful man over going over for a 4-day visit. Does that make me an asshole?