In the last few years I've gotten really tired of shaving my legs and since leaving high school with catty girls and realising that the rest of the world doesn't really care so much, I've just done it less and less. I'll do it for photographed occasions now and that's pretty much it. I'm occasionally mildly self-conscious about it and then I remember that body hair isn't a crime and life goes on.

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A year or so ago, I asked my boyfriend how he felt about me "pulling the chute" as I'm told it's called and was surprised (and a little sad) that he told me he finds it less attractive. We've been together for 8 years and I had been letting it grow longer and longer before bothering to shave for the last few years really, and he never said anything about it (maybe wisely since I'm all about that "you don't get to tell me what to do with my body" stuff). 

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Thing is, he never says anything the other way either. He doesn't ooh and ahh or give me more calf rubs when I do shave my legs, I wouldn't even guess that he noticed. But he says he does notice, and finds it more attractive when I shave them. I guess since to me it feels like a stupid, pointless, socially imposed job that only women have to do, and doesn't actually benefit anyone practically, I don't want to spend time on it. And so my proposal was, if you want me to do it, you gotta show some appreciation when I do!

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But that never happened, so a few months later, I offered up a second alternative: my legs can be silky smooth as often as he's willing to put the effort into shaving them! I thought it was kind of a sweet plan. He gets what he wants but also has to do the labour to get it, so he can understand there's a time cost for what he enjoys, if minor. So we did that for a while but it petered out and I've had furry legs for two months or so now. It isn't like it's an issue on a regular basis but I guess I wonder if this is one of those things where I'm being a jerk for not spending a little extra time to do something nice for this dude, or if he's in the wrong for wanting shaved legs but not appreciating them (now that sounded childish on my part. I'm leaving it in. It's a childish question anyways). This is very much a molehill, and not a mountain. I guess I'm looking for, am I a little bit of an asshole?

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So the breakdown (tl;dr for the acronym-lovers out there): I don't like shaving my legs, and don't feel I should have to. Not hugely resentful of it, just lazy and annoyed that society puts a lot of pressure on women to waste their time on their appearance when there's better stuff to do. Boyfriend likes shaved legs. It's isn't like it costs me much, am I being a jerk to deny him something he likes for a little effort from me? 