So this happened a couple of night ago. I met up a girl from tinder 2 weeks ago, went out on a nice date a few drinks etc nothing crazy left on good terms and agreed to meet again.

Last weekend we meet up and do the same, a few drinks have a good time get to know each other. Towards the end of the night I suggest we go back to hers. She agrees and we grab a drink for the road. While at hers we get intimacy but she doesn't want to have sex, admitally I'm a little thrown off by this but we chat about it and it's fine, there are other alternatives. 

Anyway so here's my slip up, I run to the bathroom and when I come back I tell her I'm not looking to get involved in a relationship, I thought she felt the same way but wanted to make sure. I was wrong apparently and we had a chat about what she did want, she decided she wanted someone commited to her 100%..

I understand my timing was probably the worst it could have been but I wanted to do right by her and not lead her on - I'd rather make it clear earlier than wait until feelings might have time to develop..
We talk a bit more and decide it's best if I go home - I get a cab home.. 

A few days later I message to apologise and for upsetting her. She says she's not upset just thrown off and feel like I'd thrown her efforts &amp; advances back in her face.. She's since deleted me off all social media etc.

I know the ship has sailed, clearly we're not meant to be and that's fine - I just can't help feeling like a bit of a twat for how it all went down, am I a complete asshole in this situation or just a bit? 


P.S sorry for the rant