Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST :  Me and my spouse have been living together for six years and both have worked/ been in school full time up until September when she got a job as a supply teacher. Being a supply teacher means her work is not always consistent, if she doesn’t get a call that day she doesn’t work. Last week for instance she only worked one shift and the week before she worked three. I work full time, 40-50 hours a week as well as about 2-5 hours of work at home. 

We have always split household chores 50/50. It only seemed fair considering we both worked an equal amount. I thought it would make sense that since I’m working sometimes 35 hours more a  week than her that she would do more around the house, however, she is still expecting us to split 50/50. 

I have come home from work multiple times since September to the house being a mess (no vacuuming done, laundry to do/ fold, garbage not taken out, dinner not started etc.). She told me that she was waiting for me to get home so we could tag team things, even though she spent all day binge watching a show on Netflix. I didn’t complain and helped her out doing half the work. 

I finally sat her down last week and asked her if she could do more around the house considering I am putting more hours in at work and she is home far more than me. She got really emotional and said I was accusing her of being lazy and not contributing enough. Since this conversation, not much had changed. So I snapped last night. 

I get home from work late after a hellish day. She had a friend over all day and they were baking and hanging out. She says to me when I get in “I already hand washed three rounds of dishes so I have met my quota for the next few days”. I got really mad and told her that I shouldn’t have to clean the dishes nor should I have to do nearly as much as I have been doing around the house. I work way more than her and the least she could do is tidy up and keep our home from looking like a shit hole. I don’t think that’s too much to ask! We have kept to ourselves all day today and she is clearly furious with me. And tbh I’m not pleased with her either. This has nothing to do with gender, as we are both female, it simply comes down to me currently working more than her. 

So, AITA? 