At the end of January I went to interview for being the karaoke host on weekends at a bar that was not yet opened. 

When I meet the contact, he seems professional. They have another business and he says he has been an entrepreneur for years. I find out he’s only 18, so my expectations for their hiring process are lowered a bit because it seemed like he didn’t have much experience in it.  

I told him of my experience. I asked what they were looking to pay, and he said they hadn’t thought about it yet and what I would ask for (red flag). I asked for a reasonable price which he approved. We talked, he showed me around and told me about their plan and their expectations of me. They’re expecting to open up latest by the end of February. 

The interview goes very well, we get along. I sing for him (he wants the host to get the karaoke going at the start of the night). He tells me I have the job and we shake on it. He says he’ll send me an email immediately with more information. Great! I am aware that there’s no contract signed or anything other than word of mouth, so I’m not relying on this or ending my work search.

Two weeks go by and no email. I call, he says basically sorry I’m on vacation, I’ll email you within a few days. Another week goes by. I text him, no answer. Another week and I call again, no answer. At this point I’m very annoyed at his lack of professionalism. Also choosing to refuse getting the hint. 

At this point, I get a full time job that will start in the end of March. I could have still made a couple hundred euros working the weekends at the karaoke place until then. I’m mostly just pissed that he is literally ghosting me. Kind of acceptable in dating, but not so in business. 

At this point I don’t even want the job anymore nor to work with him but I decide to make it my mission that I will not let him get away with his rude and unprofessional behavior. I have called him once a day for the past 4 days and he has yet to pick up the phone. I sent him a professional text message saying I have tried getting in contact, have yet to hear updates and would like to talk as he had told me that the job was mine. He’s seen the message but has not responded. 

I understand that this guy, a kid, might be scared or not know how to tell someone it’s not gonna work out. Maybe they didn’t finish the renovations, maybe a friend volunteered to do it, there’s a lot of reasons why they wouldn’t hire me. Frankly, I don’t want the job and I know 100000% that I can’t change this kid’s behavior and that I should let it go and not ruin my reputation over this. 

I am thinking of calling him from another number, like a friend’s phone or something. I am lucky to not come across assholes often but now that one has decided to cross my path I want to hear him admit to his bad communication and tell me what’s going on.

Aahh I need to just let it go. 