Ok so I know how this sounds but I have to know because it’s really getting to me.

So my sister is four years older than me and right now she is living at home having just left University and is looking for a job. When my sister was seventeen she was bullied really badly and due to this she would self harm for a really long time. I don’t know how my parents didn’t notice it but when they did they took her to therapy and eventually it stopped. She’s come a really long way since then and I’m so proud of her but she still has scars on her arms that are clearly noticeable. I’ve never been depressed or self harmed so I’m not in the right position to tell her what to do and I can’t even begin to imagine her point of view.

However around the house she always leaves her arms bare and most of the time it’s fine but it really really upsets me sometimes to see them because it makes me so angry that someone could have bullied her to the point that she did that. I know I’m being selfish by saying that because it’s not about me but it’s beginning to affect our relationship as whenever I’m around her now I just feel so sad. I casually mentioned that I could see the scars the other day when we were alone and she got really upset and started crying. I instantly felt horrible and I wish I had never said anything. I don’t know how to fix this and I need to know if I’m being unreasonable.