I have been dating this girl for about half a year. While she was sleeping I went through her phone and found out she has been having intimate conversations with her ex (from the text it actually seemed like they didn't really break up). Her ex was an international student whom she dated for 4 years. They "separated" when he left but based on the texts they were still in love. One night I was helping her charge her phone and there was a message from "Habibi". I knew her ex was Arabic so this got me suspicious. She had trusted me with her phone's password too so it was easy for me to just take a look. I confronted her about it the next day. She said she didn't want to hurt me but she just fell for me really fast. I was about to cry so I said that I was leaving. She hugged me really hard and held me in place and said "no you can't I won't let you" as she started crying. She told me that she was raped 4 years and her host family and friends abandoned her. She said that she can't just ignore him cause he helped her go through it and everything. I started feeling really bad so I stayed for the night. She was cried a lot and had a few panic attacks. I woke up before her in the morning and snuck out. She was the first to say "I love you" and I loved her too but this seemed too much for me to handle. I still miss her. Am I the asshole here?