Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve never posted to reddit so sorry if it’s not formatted correctly or has any other problems but I recently found this subreddit and I want to know others people’s opinions on this situation.

My grandma had lived with my family throughout my whole life and she was a big parental role for me and my siblings. She was diagnosed with cancer when we were all still in elementary school so we tried our best to help. When she asked, we would get her water or make her food most of the time.

Of course, us as kids, we would getting annoyed with it sometimes (we would have rather continued playing games or whatever) but never out right refused anything from her. 

At the time of this incident, our cousins were living with us and they had 2 daughters who were also close with my grandma, they would hang out in her room her and just be really sweet with her. 

My great aunt (her sister) took her to an appointment (something that she rarely did). When they got back, me and my siblings were all called downstairs. They told us that the cancer had come back, and my great aunt started telling me and my siblings (11, 13, and 15 years old at the time) how we needed to step up and if we didn’t we were going to be banned from our grandma’s funeral. My great aunt told us that my cousin’s daughters took care of my grandma more than we did. We were all really hurt by this since we did the best we could to help our grandma. 

Almost 3 years later, me and my siblings have never been apologized to. My grandma eventually passed away and we didn’t even hold a funeral so she couldn’t ban us from that. I don’t really see my great-aunt a lot but when I do she acts like nothing ever happened and i’m still really hurt by what she told me. 

There’s probably way more I could add on background but I think I got most of it. 

So, am I the asshole for holding an almost 3 year grudge against my aunt?