Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My dad broke his back in 1997 and and had 12 spinal surgeries in total. He began abusing his pills to better relieve himself of his pain in 2008 and was taking up to 20 oxy, and 10 percs a day just to cope. My  grandmother (his mom) cut him out of the family. My dad was always high, and his brain was fuckin fried. He began using Meth and Heroin for 3 years because the pills just weren't enough anymore.

My dad went to visit his mom in 2015 to rekindle their relationship, but he was so high he missed his flight. So his mom bought another ticked that same day, and when he arrived he was, and these are my grandmothers words, " High as a fuckin kite, and drooling on himself like a retarded child". So my grandmother stuck his ass back on a plane home. We then receive a call from her saying she never wants to see us again and has taken us out of the Will ( she is a multi millionaire and I will not disclose anymore information to keep her privacy) and does not want anything to do with a drug addict son.

End of the year 2016 my dad got clean. He reached out to his ill mother and decided to move in with her to help her. They some how rekindled their relationship and things were looking good for them. My father had one last spinal surgery to under go ( he was told they finally figured out a way to relieve his pain) and he was nervous, because he knew pain medication will be involved. Unfortunately, June 17th of 2017, my dad passed away from an accidental narcotic over dose. They pumped him full of drugs, wrote him prescriptions, and sent him on his marry way. Turns out the prescription mixed with the surgery medication, caused his organs to fail, ultimately killing him.

I see my grandmother for the first time since 2010 on June 20th, 2017 to talk about a service for my father. She was heart broken. Out of no where my dads sister mentions how she is glad he stopped Meth and Heroin... My grandmother never knew about that part and decided to not give him a service.

Lately I have been thinking of reaching out. My father was broken when his mother cut him out of her life. He was in so much pain because of that. But he sucked up his pride and tried to get her back, and he did. I don't want bad blood between my dads family and us, it is not what he wanted. He only ever wanted everyone to love as hard as they can. I want  to do that for him, but my mom and sister are not a fan of this idea. They do not understand why, and think I am choosing his family over my own.

Am I the ass hole here? I know she fucked over my dad and our entire family, but my dad found forgiveness in his heart, so why can't I?

TLDR: grandma cut out dad and entire family for his drug addiction, then my dad and grandma mad up, then my dad died, she found out more details of his drug addiction and decided to not do a funeral or service for him. I want to now reach out after almost 3 years