This is a throwaway account because I don‘t want it on my main.   
My fiance and I got into a fight last night about a Christmas gift he got from my grandparents. They spent about $100 American dollars on a nice, fancy shirt for him. To clear things up a bit, we‘re in a European country, the price of things here are a bit different. You don‘t really get a shirt under about $30. $100 is not as much money as in America but still a decent value of money and a nice gift.   
 I asked him last night if he‘d tried it on or what he did with the shirt (I don‘t remember my exact question.) He said he hadn't tried it on and then he implied he didn't like the pattern so I asked him why he hadn't exchanged it then for something he would like and would fit him. Then we got into the argument.   
 

His view is that this was a gift that is his now and it shouldn't matter what he does with it. He could rip it up in shreds, burn it, throw it in the trash if he pleases or his plan, keep it in the closet and give it away later on. He thinks I was making a way too much big of a deal about „just a shirt.“ and not accepting his point of view (which is true, I am not because I think he‘s being a jerk.)   
 

While I understand that this is his now, I think this attitude is really disrespectful in any case towards the giver. If I give a gift to someone that doesn't suit their preference (color or style) or wouldn't fit them I would want them to go back to the store and get something they actually like and will be using. In the stores here they put an exchange ticket on everything before Christmas so people can return and exchange their presents if they wish to do so.  
 What bothers me the most though and what I would say the whole reason for me making a deal out of this is that this gift came from close relatives and the fact that my grandparents do not have much money. A lot of their savings has gone into medical bills and my grandpa‘s new teeth but they still want to give „valuable gifts.“ It‘s okay he didn't like THIS exact shirt but I feel like he‘s not being grateful for their gesture and kinda of just throwing their money away by not even trying to actually get one he will like and use so their money wasn't wasted.   


Is this as simple as „this is his gift now and he can do what he wants with it“ and I am being an asshole for making a deal out of this?  