My bf and I's weekends rarely match up.  Especially lately, he's been working more and now has been getting one day off a week.  That day this week is today.  I wanted to make the most out of today with him.  I wanted to spend time with my cousin (who bf is friends with) and his gf.  They are the only couple we hang out with.  I also wanted us to shop together and later on have dinner with my parents.

I talked to him about it on Thursday and he said he didn't know, that he wanted to go drinking with a friend on Saturday night after work.  I tried to talk him out of it, but he said he needed to blow off some steam.  So I told him to just spend the night with me.  I figured there are a lot of ways to "blow off steam" lol and then he wouldn't have to drink to relax.  He went on about how no, he really just wants to get fucked up.  He very reluctantly invited me to go out with them, but said he didn't think I would have fun, so it was a total non-invite.

I explained to him that I really wanted us to go to hang out with cousin and gf in the morning and he wouldn't want to if he was hung over.  He agreed and said that he really didn't want to hang out with.  Him and my cousin get along great and it's the only other couple we ever hang out with.

We argued back and forth for awhile and eventually the best he was willing to do was stay home with me and drink.  Totally missing the point.  I get that he works hard, but I got pissed at this point and called him out on getting drunk is more important than me.  He called me a hypocrite because I go out with my sister once a week and we do usually drink.  I told him it's not the same and if he ever asked me not to drink, I wouldn't.  That's completely true too.  All he said was "bullshit".

I told him fine, do what he wants, but it's nice to know where his priorities are and that was the end of the fight.  Honestly after he had time to calm down I thought he would reconsider.  But sure enough last night he came home and immediately started getting ready to go out.  I was so upset I barely talked to him and he didn't seem to care at all.

He went out and throughout the night whenever I would text him he would take forever to respond and it was with just like one word answers.  He didn't come home until close to 3am.  I know because he woke me up stumbling into bed.  

The next day I waited until 10am to wake him up and ask him to get ready to go to my cousins and of course he was hungover and told me that, "JESUS, I DON'T WANT TO GO TO YOUR FUCKING COUSIN'S"  Shocker.   

So I waited until he woke up again.  It was almost 2pm.  He came out into the living room and apologized.  I told him we still have time to go shopping for the week and go to dinner with my parents.  He looked confused like this was the first time we were talking about it, when we had had this conversation on Thursday.  Now he didn't want to have dinner with my parents.  He just wants to stay in today.  It's 4:38 right now and hasn't even gotten dressed.  I knew this would happen if he went out.  Am I really such a huge asshole that the one day off we have together he isn't completely hung over? 

