Long story short, my sister was arrested because her boyfriend called the cops on her for what I've been told was domestic abuse. Unfortunately I do not know all the details but my mother is purchasing a $400 plane ticket to go be with my sister tomorrow. I love my sister dearly and I do not believe these charges are warrented but her boyfriend is a piece of work.

 I however have plans to meet with some of my friends who I have not seen in over 6 months at my cabin this weekend. I don't want to cancel my plans which I've had for 3 months to stand in a courtroom halfway across the country. Am I the asshole?