Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve been kind of in an odd place with my best friend of 6 years. I’ve been experiencing a serious downfall in mental health, and have been very lonely. My best friend hasn’t spoken to me in two years unless she’s upset or needs something from me. But she still likes to call us “best friends” and thinks it’s all the same between us. She hangs out a lot with people who she tells me she “doesn’t like” and tells me she doesn’t have time to meet me, call me, text me etc because she’s too busy with studies. Which I mean, I’m not jealous, I’m just trying to understand why she would lie to me. 


Made a post about it yesterday on AITA, and I realised that the details I gave were very improper and a lot of people misconstrued the situation and my relationship with her. Also, I phrased the post in a way that made it feel like my mental health was the reason I wanted her around, which is honestly what I thought it was about too. But on some more introspection, I’m realising that it’s about my relationship with her and how it’s failing. 

I’ve confronted her a couple of times, told her that I’m struggling with a bunch of things anyway, and I can’t handle being disappointed over and over. Told her that if she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore, or if she just thinks I’m too much, I understand, but she needs to be honest with me about it. She denies it everytime, makes huge promises about how she set this alarm for 10PM everyday so she can call me daily, or that she will text me everyday. Even if I ask her not to make such huge promises that she knows she won’t follow through with, she does it anyway. And never follows through. 

I’m a little tired of it now. I had a huge breakdown recently and I was calling people around me desperately, because I was scared of being a danger to myself. I wouldn’t have told anyone that, but I just needed to talk to someone. I knew she wouldn’t pick up, and she didn’t. Later on, I told her what happened so I could ask if she could be a little more present  (20 minutes a month-ish, on her own schedule). She overpromsied again, and it’s been a week and I haven’t heard from her, at all. I understand that she has her exams, I do too. Which is why I don’t hold it against her. But I’m personally just exhausted of this routine. 

AITA for wanting to just cut her off slowly, instead of making it work or talking it through?