 

Hello Reddit. My Sister prompted me to write this. This is a long one, so I'll provide a bit of information about who is who before I start.

*Names have been changed*

* Shannon - My sister
* Eric - My aunt's son; my cousin
* Hannah - My aunt's daughter; my cousin
* Jessie - My aunt's daughter; my cousin
* Shayna - Eric's girlfriend  


Around May 2018, my cousin Eric met his girlfriend Shayna. Me and my family were very close with my aunt and cousins at this point, so we would often see Shayna and Eric. From the first time we met Shayna, she always acted toxic to all of us. She'd frequently talk about all of us, including Eric's mum, would always have something negative to say whenever she was around us and just acted like an all round cunt.

One day when we were at my aunt's, Shayna was acting more obnoxiously around the house than usual, leaving messes everywhere, swearing around my cousin's 3 year old son, playing loud music as if it were own house. My aunt then berated Shayna in front of her, then told her to leave.

Shayna then starts screaming at my aunt, calling her all kinds of things and then wished that my aunt had died when she was in hospital. My aunt had breast cancer and there were times when we thought she wouldn't make it, but she is alive and well today.

Shayna then left, slamming my aunt's door which actually broke it, and despite all this, Eric still went running after her and stayed with her, completely cutting off his own mother and sisters. He then 'moved out' and went to live with Shayna, which he was until last week, but I'll get to that.

After a month of no contact with Eric or Shayna, Shayna started obsessively writing Facebook statuses about my aunt. She would write paragraphs and paragraphs about how she was a bad mother, it was her fault her child died (she had a daughter who was hit by a car and died), she's a frequent drug user and should have her kids taken away (which isn't true).

My sister and my aunt have a very close relationship, so my sister messaged Shayna and pretty much told her to leave our family alone or 'face the consequences'.

Shayna then messaged all of us abuse, saying things similar to what she wrote in her Facebook statuses, threatened us with physical violence, then started making claims that we threatened to kill her and that she was going to call the police on us.

Shayna continued writing these statuses and messaging us daily, but then she called the police on us a few times claiming we were using and growing drugs in our homes. She also called CPS on my sister, saying that my sister beats her 1 year old son in public. CPS had to do an investigation because of the type of claim, causing us all stress for weeks as they had to make sure my sister wasn't actually beating her child.

These things continued until about August 2018, where Eric was still living with Shayna but Shayna had stopped the silly updates on Facebook about something we'd done or something someone had said. None of us had spoken to Eric or Shayna since that point, until about two weeks ago.

I was talking to my cousin Jessie and she mentioned that Eric was coming to move back into their house. I started questioning her about it, asking how they could allow him to come back after he stuck with Shayna despite everything she had done, but she told me it was none of my business so I left it at that.

Obviously my mum and my sister were annoyed about it, but he wasn't near us so it wasn't our problem. It then became our problem when Shayna sends 5 messages to my sister, threatening to slit her throat, saying she's going to her house and sent her full address to her, she was threatening to kill my sister's child as well as myself and my mum.

My sister then decides to call my aunt asking why she can allow Eric to move back in despite still being with Shayna and seeing her regularly? My aunt started shouting down the phone at my sister, something she's never done as they've always been so close. My sister hung up but my cousin Hannah immediately started calling my sister again, messaging her abuse and continuously trying to call her.

My sister then went to my aunt's house and starts shouting at my aunt and cousins, which blew up into a giant argument between me, my sister, my aunt and cousins. The cousins and aunt blocked us both on all social media and we haven't spoken since.

At this point, I'm happy that I don't have to deal with them any more. The problem is, my mum is supposed to be going on vacation with my aunt and their mum. My mum doesn't know all the details of what's going on between us all, but my aunt is now refusing to go away with my mum unless me and my sister apologise to all of them. I was happy to just do that and get it out of the way, knowing I'd never have to have contact with them again, but my sister was straight up refusing, saying that if anything, Eric needed to apologise to us for the abuse we received for months.

This blew up into another argument between us, which resulted in my aunt now refusing to go away with my mum at all. This was a very expensive month long holiday they had been planning, and cancelling at this point would have meant they'd lose the majority of their money, which they have all been collectively saving together for this vacation.

Me and my sister both want to cut off the whole part of this family now, but my mum doesn't want to. We have tried urging her to cut off from them considering how many threats were made towards her, but she can't becaus e 'at the end of the day, they're still our family'.

**Are we the assholes if we persuade my mum to cut off all contact to my aunt and cousins?**

TL;DR - My cousin's girlfriend verbally abused me, my mum and my sister, cousin and aunt's stuck up for their behaviour. Me and sister want to cut off contact but mum doesn't want to as they're still family.