Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I just want an outsiders perspective on things. I will take whatever your guy’s judgement is with no complaint.

So for context, me and my fiancé live alone now bc we can’t stand roommates anymore. The last roommates we had was a couple. The main problem we had with them was that they would leave out their dirty dishes for over a week, leave their food to rot in the fridge for months, and leave their dirty laundry on the dining room table. And when asked politely to clean up their mess they would get hissy and will say something along the lines of “ WHAT DISHES ?!I don’t remember having any dishes.” And because of this they view me as SUCH A BITCH they think my fiancé shouldn’t marry me. That is according to a mutual friend of ours.  We think it’s true bc it explains why they have never even acknowledged our engagement.

Also, they tried to bail out of the lease 6 months before it was supposed to end. And since then, they have been such a pain in the ass to deal with to the point we gotten into many fights over it.

Okay now to the issue. I was the master tenant of the last apartment so the whole deposit was sent to me. After looking over the paperwork I was happy to find out that they were getting less than 15% back. We told them that they were only getting x amount bc of services performed only in their room. We did everything by the book so they couldn’t take us to court.They were like okay, and said they wanted the money in check. Check is cut. And we think that is the last time we’ll hear from them. WRONG!

The GF messages my fiancé asking if we combined their deposit. He replies yes and she says “ well that’s wrong. It’s need to be x amount”. I had a lapse in memory and thought I had sent only half the amount and fiancé relays that back to her. Then I frantically pull out the paperwork and realize I was right all along and the bitch was trying to trick us into giving them more money.

He clarified with her again why they only got that amount. And she throws a hissy fit over it.  And I tell my fiancé initially he needed to shut her down. Present the fact and say we’re done. I found out he didn’t do that .

She was arguing with him saying “how do you know this service you deducted was only done in our room?”. Fiancé replies “ bc the pictures used for that service is clearly your room”. They argue back and forth like this. And meanwhile, I’m about to damn near tear out my hair out over this. Bc we went over this already with them and this argument was cutting into the very limited quality time together.I asked for his phone and I type  in “ We are going off these photos management provided. YOU’RE NOT GETTING ANY MORE MONEY FROM US. WE ARE DONE ARGUING WITH YOU”. And she finally left us alone after that.

Then we get into a fight bc I had essentially “violated” his character. Simply put he’s neutral good and I’m chaotic good . His neutral good causes him to be kind and civil no matter how disrespectful someone is being as a long as it’s not physical. He got mad at me for typing that under his account. And explained to me that she wasn’t being rude yet and that he has a set of protocols before escalating to that type of talk. 

I’m a little baffled bc I told him “why didn’t you take your phone away from me. You could have done it any time”. He replies “ well I trusted that you wouldn’t do that”. And I replied “ well I trusted you to shut down the conversation but didn’t”. And he rebuts by saying “ well I was going to but you didn’t let me do it. I had it handled”.

Oh and he also said the reason why he was being so civil with them was so he could earn their trust. So they can say how they really feel about me to his face. So that way he can get really mad and that’s just how he is person.  And I’m so perplexed by this bc he admitted many times he hated them and never wanted to talk to them.

Why be civil with them after everything? His neutral good nature causes me to feel like he’s not prioritizing us and not properly defending me as a fiancé. I love him very much and I still do want to marry him.

Sorry for the long wall of text guys. I don’t even know how I would TL:DR this.