Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So I am the oldest child in my family and have been working in the creative industry for a few years since I graduated. My brother, who I get on with very well, is also working, but in a professional and what I think most people would describe as a 'grown-up' job.

We live in the suburbs of the capital city. A few years ago I decided to move out of the family home to live in the city with friends. This was a very big deal at the time as in our culture children usually stay in the family home till they are married (and sometimes even after marriage). My relationship with my parents was extremely fraught at the time, but it has now recovered and gone back to mostly the way it was. I come home pretty much every weekend and see them all the time, I just like the independence of living on my own. My parents still hate that I don't live with them and implore me to move back all the time, which I feel some guilt about. I was planning on moving back home later this year to save up some money for a down-payment and mortgage for a house.

My brother on the other hand, after graduation, got a job in another city where the rent is about half of what I pay on average. Obviously, he has managed to save much more money than me, even though he hasn't been working as long as me. I make a decent amount of money for what I do but I have much higher outgoings, and I also am much more spendthrift than my brother - I like to spend money on holidays, clothes, going out etc.

This all came to a head a few days ago when I overheard my parents talking to my brother about helping him with a down-payment on a house in the capital as an investment. They went quiet when I walked into the room and when I questioned them about it, they very pointedly asked me how much I had in savings, how much I earned and how much I paid in rent every month. They then asked my brother how much he had in savings. The subtext was that I had been extremely foolish with money and that I should be embarrassed that my younger brother had more in savings than his older sister. I found it really humiliating to be put on the spot and tell them exactly how much money I had.

I don't really have an issue with parents lecturing their children about their finances, that is a normal thing for parents to do. What I did find hurtful was that my parents had obviously decided to reward my brother with a house because he had more money than I did. Now, I don't expect anything from my parents - I've never ever expected them to help me with a down-payment on anything. I just found it really hostile that they were basically punishing me for moving out - my dad made me calculate how much money I've 'wasted' on rent in the city out loud. That's fine, but it was my choice to spend that money. They laughed out loud when I told them how much I had in savings.

A few months ago I had a vague conversation with my dad about how it might be a good idea to buy a house with my brother, possibly with some help from my dad. Their thinking has obviously now changed and they would rather come to an arrangement with my brother.

For context - my brother moved to another city because that's where he got a job, so he didn't have much 'choice' about moving out. This is opposed to me, who 'chose' to leave the house when I didn't really need to. I also want to say that my brother found the whole thing uncomfortable and felt a bit sorry for me.

AITA/oversenstive brat for being hurt about this? Am I not seeing things from their point of view? I now feel quite distant from my parents and don't want to share anything with them about my life.