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The Friday before my spring break started my friend, i'll refer to her as Elise was concerned about my well being due to how I would stay in my room and not really go outside the house, she would go on and tell me that she is worried that I am depressed. I've made it clear to her about I appreciate her worrying for me but i'm depressed, I just actually enjoy being home more than going out doing something. I'm 19 and she is 21 her argument is that "People your age are going and doing (insert whatever it may be here." I remember telling her its frustrating that she feels as though telling me what other people are doing is going to make me automatically decide to change my interests or go out more. Elise responded  to a long paragraph I sent her explaining how I feel about her worrying about me, making sure to show that I appreciate the gesture while also addressing my frustrations with how she going about approaching me, by saying she won't probe my emotions anymore and getting very defensive while also accusing me of deflecting the "situation". I did not respond to the message because I had nothing more to say about the conversation I wanted to drop the conversation and not worry about it anymore because she made it clear by explicitly telling me that she wasn't going to to change her opinion about her thinking i'm depressed.

Fast forward to Wednesday of spring break she calls me upset about how she was in a car wreck Sunday and how I didn't call and check on her while also telling me about how she has been having a tough break which I was fully prepared to be there and comfort her she went on to lash out at me saying i'm a horrible friend because I didn't know about all of these things going on because I didn't respond to her message. I had no idea about the car wreck, I didn't know she was not living at home with her mom anymore and was staying with a friend but she expressed that I abandoned her and i'm a terrible Friend for doing so.  Am I the asshole?

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TL;DR: My friend feels like I abandoned her by not responding to her message, during the time we had no contact she ended up having a horrible couple of days.  

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