Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Bit of a backstory, I am adopted. My adopted parents are amazing and I have been their kid all my life. I’ve never known another family. I do have contact with my bio mom, but don’t talk to her for various reasons.  My parents also have 4 bio children (my brothers and sisters) who are younger than me. 

So my grandparents were over a couple of weeks ago, they are your usual conservative rednecks. The visit was fine until I got up one morning. I went to the kitchen to make myself some breakfast before heading to
School (I am a university student). My grandparents were in the kitchen. We said good morning to each other, I asked if they wanted anything to eat. They decline. Normal boring morning. 

Then my grandma asks “so how’s your real mom doing” 

I am confused at the question, and tell them that she should be home soon, you can ask her then. My grandma corrects herself “no your real mum, the one who gave birth to you” 

“You mean my bio mother” 

My grandma nods.

“Well I don’t talk to her so I don’t know. And for the record she isn’t my real mum, your daughter is” 

The two don’t apologize for the mistake and try to brush it off as them being old (my grandpa is only in his early 70’s, not that old in his family)

Normally I would chalk this up to them being old and not up with the times but my grandpa has a sister who adopted 2 kids in the early 70’s. he and my grandma are well aware about adoption and terminology and all that Jazz. 

And I have always suspected that they don’t see my as one of the grandkids. I was venting to a friend about this and they said I should just let it go and not be mad at my grandparents. 

Of course I will always love them, but I feel I have a right to me mad at this. I’m nearly 19. I have tried to talk to them and they just change the subject instead. 

So AITA? Should I just try and let it go? 

