Basically, there was this girl I knew for less than 3 years, we both have decent careers, think MBB/IB/HF/FAANG, successful yuppies straight out of college, all that jazz. We became acquaintences because I'm bad at pool.  Anyway, I hadn't talked to her for almost past 6 months, and then outta nowhere about a month ago she told me she had been successful in pursing an offer in the UK/EU.  I told her good luck, and I wish her the best, nice knowing her, so on and so on, that was that and I told her that was going to be the last time we talk.  Come back to the present, my buddies from college are still on my ass calling me a dumbass, so I'd figured I could get the internet to agree with me that I'm not a dumbass/asshole.

In short, this is more of a "Am I the dumbass" than "am I the asshole" but its close enough.