Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So I've got a job and living arrangements all squared away in a country far distant to my own and I'm pretty excited about it. However, my reasons for doing so are admittedly somewhat... shallow (if that's the right word). The truth is that it's (mostly) because I want to be in closer proximity to a girl that I have a huge crush on. We went to college together and were pretty good friends. I was always really into her but never acted on it. Clearly I'm still hoping that it's still a possibility. 

I revealed this information to another female acquaintance recently, and she sort of lost her shit. Like, screaming. She told me I was being a huge creep, and, yes, an asshole, and that I should just leave this person alone and get on with my life. Naturally I got super defensive and dug in about it. But I'm not sure that she isn't right. 

tl;dr Uprooting my life and moving to a new country to maybe have a shot with a girl I like. Friend thinks that's a creepy reason and a surefire trait of an asshole. Is she right?