Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Context: I’ve lived with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. He’s wonderful and so far living together has been some of the best times of my life. He’s 27 and I’m 25. We don’t really have arguments but one of the only things that seems to really bother him in our relationship is the fact that I don’t do my own taxes. My father has always been the one who handles finances in my family so every year I give him the necessary paperwork and forms and he just files it for me. He does this for everyone in my family (including my grandma, siblings, and mother) because although he is not diagnosed my siblings and I are convinced he has some level of OCD or anxiety and likes for things to be very particular and done “his way”. I never complained or put up a fight about it because I don’t see a reason to have to worry about doing my own taxes when my dad is more than willing to do it for me. If my dad one day did decide that he didn’t want to file my taxes for me than I would be more than willing to suck it up and do it myself. Last year during tax season my boyfriend unexpectedly freaked out when he heard me talking over the phone with my mom telling her I mailed dad my W2s and got very upset when I confronted him about it. I never gave it much thought but he’s outright told me that he thinks it’s really weird that my dad does this for me and that I’m so dependent on him. I see where he’s coming from, but I thought he was being way too dramatic about the whole thing. While he’s not estranged from his family, he is not close with his parents and moved out when he was 17 and is very independent (I on the other hand am very close to my family and didn’t move out until I was 23) so again I can see why this confuses him.

A few days ago I received my W2s for this tax year. My boyfriend made an offhand comment about if I was planning to do my own taxes this year to which I told him that I was probably just going to let my dad file them again this year. He immediately got huffy and kept asking me over and over again why I just didn’t do my own and that he would be happy to show me how. I explained that I didn’t want to have to worry about it and that’s it’s just easier to have my dad do them for me. He then asked if I didn’t trust him enough to show me how to properly file my taxes and asked what I would do if we got married. This threw me off. Of course I trust him, he’s been doing his own taxes since he was 17 and of course if we got married I’d file our taxes together, but no matter how many times I tried to explain myself he didn’t seem to understand that this is just a matter of convenience and it’s so much easier to let my dad handle it than worry with it myself and then have my dad fret over whether or not it was filed properly. He then stormed off to the bedroom effectively ending the conversation. We’ve been tiptoeing around the subject and haven’t talked about it since.

So I don’t know. Am I the asshole for not letting him help me with my taxes and just sending it to my dad to take care of, or is he reading way too much into the whole situation? Please help.