Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I posted this the other day without a response, so I hope it's okay to try again.

My brother-in-law (wife's brother) is deployed overseas. His wife works every weekend in addition to having classes during the week. So what's the problem? Neither one of them can keep their son, my nephew, on the weekend, sometimes even during the week as well. So guess who keeps him? Family.

My brother-in-law has said the money he makes while deployed is more than enough to pay for everything. In fact, he expects to make a big dent in their debt while he's gone (he's put a new truck, motorcycle, guns, video, games, and other electronics on credit in addition to his student loans). So why does the mother work if they don't require the income? From her own mouth, she told me she doesn't want to lose her tenure at her job. Instead she wants to work there until she finishes school, then she'll get another job based on her new degree within the same company. I admit, that wouldn't be a bad reason if the world revolved around them. Currently she drops her son off with a baby sitter Monday-Friday during the day, so she sees him at night during the week. During the weekend, she often won't see him at all until Sunday afternoon, but then only to take him to her mother's so she can work or study. Then the cycle starts again. Meanwhile, she constantly tells my wife how much she misses him and loves him. Okay, let's assume that's genuine since I can't read her mind.

Review time. Dad is out of the picture but brings home plenty of money for the family to live. Mother is going to school and working every weekend even though she doesn't have to do either.

If the wife insists on working, why can't she stop school and work a regular shift during the week, freeing up her weekend to be with her son? Because they don't like that idea.

One last layer to complete the crap cake: my wife adores her family and jumps at the chance to keep our nephew. She adamantly defends them all, saying her brother's wife works very hard and her brother is depressed because he's forced to be away from his family. But I don't care, they're adults and they can suffer the consequences to their actions like the rest of us. Then my wife comes at me with something hurtful: even if I have problems with the parents, why would I take it out on our nephew by not caring for him? He's innocent and needs help no matter the situation. She also is saying I would break her family apart if I tell them any of this. She's expressed that my frustration and unwillingness to continue this situation is hurting her immensely. She says I'm forcing her to choose between me and her family.

Now we're supposed to keep him this weekend, and I'm predictably upset.

So here's the question: AITA for not sucking it up for my wife's sake and accepting the situation for now? It may only be for a few more months, and we may only need to keep him once each month. I need some outside perspective.