Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I’m on mobile so there may be formatting issues. 

So I’ll start with some background. My cousin and I have been very close for about 2-3 years now. She is 16. We talk on the phone every night for at least an hour, usually more. She’s my best friend. 

At the beginning of the school year, something changed in her. She used to be very innocent, she hadn’t ever kissed anyone or been in a relationship of any sort. This year, she started talking to a guy I’ll call AJ. My cousin is a sophomore and AJ is a senior. They started off as friends but they were always really touchy-feely, even as friends. However, my cousin did have feelings for AJ and would talk about him every night. Here’s the thing, AJ is a player, and my cousin knows this. She says she doesn’t have a problem with it because she doesn’t want a relationship, she just “wants him.” 

So my cousin and AJ had made out a couple of times when he invites her over to his friend’s house over spring break. She accepts and long story short, she ends up giving him head. She was 15 at the time and I was led to believe he was 17. On the same day, they did it again. They took a break for awhile but about a month later, AJ asked my cousin to meet him in front of the men’s room at their school. She went and met him there. AJ then leads her into the bathroom and there, she once again gives him head. However, the third time was a little different. She regretted it and told me she was done with him. At this point, she had turned 16 and he had said he’d turned 18. She told me that she didn’t really want to do it but she felt that he expected it, so she did it. I was completely on board with this and so were all of her other friends (we all have a mutual hate for AJ).

About a week ago, my cousin tells me wants to fw AJ again. I get pissed, so I get distant. I told her I was mad but then didn’t answer her calls because I needed some time to cool down. We ended up in a group call with a mutual friend who I’ll call Jack. Jack happens to be friends with all of us, including AJ. He informs us that AJ is actually 19, as stated on his student I.D. I “jokingly” said I should call the police (by that I mean I said it sarcastically but at that point I was considering telling my aunt/ her mother). We had an argument while Jack kind of moderated the whole thing.  My cousin said that she understands that I don’t agree with what’s going on, but it’s her life and her choices. Jack said basically the same thing. He doesn’t like what’s happening, but there’s nothing we can do to stop it. 

I’ve tried to not say anything since then because I don’t want to lose my cousin/best friend, but I’m really worried. I’m still considering telling someone, but again, I don’t want to lose her. 

Sorry if there’s more info needed. The story is a lot longer than this but I wanted to try to keep it simple.

So, WIBTA if I told someone what’s been going on?

