I (34 F) have two sons born 2 years apart. When my oldest son was born my in-laws insisted on opening a life insurance policy for him. This made me a bit uncomfortable, but my husband wasn't concerned, so we gave them his SS# and signed off on it. They claim it will continue to grow like an investment and he will be able to get cash some day. I don't have the details of the specific plan.

When my youngest son was born they had planned to enroll him in the same life insurance plan. We signed off on the paperwork again and thought everything was all set. Recently, my MIL told my husband that the "deal" my older son received is no longer available, so they are considering other investment opportunities and asked my husband what he would prefer. We discussed it briefly and agreed that a 529 college savings plan would be appreciated. We have 529s for both boys, but other people can also open an additional 529 plan for the same child.

After this conversation it made me uncomfortable that the boys would be receiving different investments from my in-laws. I was always raised to treat people fair and equitable. I asked my husband to ask them to change the life insurance policy they have for my older son to a 529, so that both boys would have 529s from their grandparents. 

I thought it was a reasonable request but my husband thinks that if I had the conversation with them about how they spend their money, that I would be an asshole. AITA?