Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So i (21f) have been with my boyfriend (21m) for almost two years. I love him very much and we have a pretty stable relationship. There’s only one problem- he doesn’t go down on me. When I first started dating bf he told me he didn’t like giving head because of a bad experience with a girl (smelly vag). I thought fair enough and didn’t want to push him into something he’s not comfortable with. Fast forward and in the two years we’ve been together he’s gone down on me a total of 8 times. For a while there I actually forgot vaginal oral sex existed. Last week his friends were drunk and discussing how often they give head, which is almost always. I felt a bit bummed after hearing this, so asked bf the next day if there was something wrong with my lady bits and is that why he hardly ever does it. I keep things pretty clean and tidy down there and have never had any odour issues, so I figured maybe it doesn’t look normal and that’s why. He responded that he doesn’t even mind, he just doesn’t like doing it cause he “gets nothing out of it”. Which is a damn far cry from his original excuse. This made me really angry. I go down on him all the time. I think he’s being extremely selfish. The whole point of oral is to pleasure your partner, you don’t get anything out of it but the enjoyment of getting them off. I’ve been stressing out that somethings wrong with me or that he’s traumatised from a bad experience, but the whole time he just doesn’t want to do it because he’s selfish and only wants to do stuff that gets him off. Oral should be reciprocated and I’m annoyed at myself for letting him put his pleasure above mine. Ever since I’ve stopped giving him head, cause I’m sick of choking on dick and getting “nothing out of it”. I’m planning on bringing it up with him again tomorrow, if he refuses to compromise I don’t think I can ever go down on him again unless it’s reciprocated. I don’t know where our relationship will be if that’s the result. All I know is that I’m angry I’ve been lied to and treated like my pleasure is secondary. So reddit, WIBTA if I stop giving blowjobs and potentially damaging an otherwise decent relationship all because I want head?