I’ve hit max vacation time at work and have been told to take a vacation since I will not accumulate anymore vacation days. 

I decided to take a couple days off in conjunction with one of my customers. I am building their phone system and they are my main customer at the moment, so I decided to take some time off when they are also taking time off. I did this so the project won’t be pushed out and take longer. 

I decided to take a couple days off and mentioned it to my husband. I told him what I wanted to do, visit my brothers. I asked if he was ok with that and he said yes. I THEN asked my one brother if I could stay with him while I was in town. 

I am calling off work during a school week, so it would impact one of our kids. I asked my husband if he could man the fort. He said yes. I have asked him a couple more times if he is ok with me leaving him for a couple of days. He is a stay at home dad and doesn’t get a break from the kids very often. I try my best at giving him a break, but his job is 24/7 and has it waaaaay harder than me. I know this and respect him immensely. 


Now I feel like the asshole for taking time off of work and going to visit my family, see some friends, and go to a club night without him.  I’m also doing some work stuff and having lunch with some engineers that are in my market that I don’t see very often. Face time is HUGE in the company I work for and figured since they were on my way home, I’d hit two birds with one stone. 

Am I the asshole for going on vacation without my family? 