Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So there’s this girl, I’ll call her A, that lied about this guy sexually harassing her I think for attention. So she said in a GroupMe or 20 that this guy was harassing her and stuff, but we eventually found out she was lying. She even admitted it herself. Now she has lied in the past too, about what I honestly don’t know because she is actually a good liar, but she has said she’s lied before. Maybe that’s a lie :/. 

A while ago she started dating my best friends ex and he is straight up abusive, racist, and sexist. Now we told her this, but she kept saying “oh he’s different with me” and things like that. Eventually they broke up, she even said he said something racist towards her then said that he didn’t  later on.


Another time she said this guy hit her and while he did, it may not have been as hard as she previously said (I don’t trust her anymore). I cut this guy out of my life because of this and the fact that he already made me uncomfortable, I just didn’t have a reason to stop talking to him yet.

Now recently, I said that I was mad at A to one of my friends, let’s call him B, and basically he didn’t know what was going on (this is just the gist of things, I can explain more if you ask) and he found out why via me saying something in a group chat. Now he is mad at A because of what she did, and then he and a few others talk to her about her problems and why what she did was wrong.

Now on the bus she apologizes to me, but I didn’t think it was genuine. So I said I can’t accept her apopgu because of that.  Now this girl hears (mutual friend of A and I) and asks to spill tea, I said I’ll message her on insta because I don’t want the entire bus to hear. I just said that she lied about this guy sexually harassing her and that I think that she doesn’t understand that what she did was wrong. So A then proceeds to message me saying and basically said that I was trying to make her lose all of her friends. I said that was a lie because that wasn’t my intention, but then I realized that it may be what I’m doing without realizing.

I screenshots the accusation to a group chat (who also know about the situation and were already annoyed with A in general, the chat was actually made to make a secret poll to remove her from a chat on the day she lied about the guy just before she started talking). And we just discuss it.

While A and I are still talking she keeps saying how she’s trying to change, but she also said that with the previous things and hasn’t. She also lied about not talking to my friends ex when she in fact was. So I keep saying that I can’t believe her. She keeps asking for help, but I say that she isn’t going to listen. B and the others lectured her earlier, that was help. They talked about what she did was wrong and her problems, but she just said she didn’t feel well. So eventually I just said you can’t expect others to change you. 

I’m sorry for this crappy writing my brain feels spaced out and I’m just so stressed from this situation. Please ask questions if you have any.


I feel either that I’m in the wrong or I’m being emotionally manipulated 

