Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I was asked to fly out of Southern California to visit my in-laws in Australia. I did not want to, but with the uncle (who i do not know at all) dying of brain cancer, I did not want to be rude and say no, so I agreed to visit for about 7 days. Since they insisted on using their airline miles to pay for the ticket, I was told it was cheaper to fly me out after 14 days, which I found disagreeable since I only get 14 days of PTO per year atm, but it was dismissed. It's their money after all. 

Anyways, I find that the flight itself is quite miserable; delayed (of course, so w/e), I catch the flu, sleep for about 4 hours out of the 15 hour flight, and found that the airline has Australian power outlets that I don't have an adapter for, etc. Minor stuff I suppose, but I complain about it with my mother and step dad as they're picking me up.

The step-dad tells me that I'm acting like a 2 year old, that I'm making my mother feel guilty about the flight, and that if I hated it here so much I can grab a hotel nearby and fly back to CA tomorrow. I actually started walking to one when he caught up to me and said we should stop fighting, since it's upsetting my mother. So I agree to continue to go to their home to stay at.

I find that we are not staying at the home, to my dismay, as I was hoping to rest up and deal with my newfound flu. Instead, we're taking a 1.5 hr drive to their beach house. At the beach house, I find that my room is the study with a couple of desks pushed back, with a pull out bed/couch.

After he puts on some sheets, the step dad asks about whether or not this is comfortable accommodations - I reply that I'm going to look up some nearby hotels. He didn't like that, saying that I'm really "testing his patience".


I understand that it's upsetting to hear only complaints from your step-son after you took the time to accommodate him, especially when your brother has cancer - its stressful for sure. But when I'm being asked to use my all of my time to visit people I do not know, and I find that my concerns are dismissed, I find it harder and harder to enjoy the trip. I suppose I should be more empathetic about his POV.

Am I the asshole here?