So I think I may be getting a ESH, but I think I just wanted a rant and see that normally people make really good suggestions on how to move something forward.

So I live with my husband and little brother (brother since last October Long story) husband is 29 and brother is 28. I have lived with my husband for 6 years and I have to kick him up the ass quite a lot about being lazy around the house and basically making me his bloody mother. But since my brother moved in I know feel like I have two children, I had a bit of a melt down new year about the mess and feeling like they were taking the mick and it got better. I still do all of the cooking, sort bills and make sure there is food and everything runs but they have at least started to put clothes in and out and wash dishes still got to push them but been better.

Little brother has been trying hard to help out, husband past few weeks since we book a holiday (sept Dubai) has basically just been super lazy. Watched me de icing my car (have a bad back) and walked past, and few other little things. Went to the gym Monday night (aqua fit) great for my back from work. Messaged him during the day and said can you do tea gave him instructions and said I’d be back at 7pm, gets in at 5 past. Brother is upstairs playing x box and husband sat watching Gotham…. He comes in and says he’ll quickly boil some pasta and put tinned tomatoes on it so its not dry.

I walk into the kitchen nothing oven is on and he jumps up and starts going on like Mr Bean as he doesn’t when he’s being shit.. I was just erm I was waiting for the oven to warm up and I am just looking at him. I have a go at him and say to him its just shit. I said last night I am just not sure I want to bother doing any thing for his birthday as were booked to go away for his birthday for 4 nights with friends. I have arranged a meal with friends and a surprise overnight in a posh manor. Because I feel like I am going out of my way to be nice and he just half arses everything. He is generally a good persona do will do things if asked but honestly valentines I got a bracelet that didn’t fit. Nothing for my 30th, the list goes on he is just generally crap at this stuff. Starting to feel like really punishing him is the only way for him to see that I am not his mum. The birthday debacles go on been together 10 years. Not I am just not speaking much.

TL:DR husband being lazy, even lazier since little brother moved in shall I sack off his 40th to teach him a lesson.