Let me start my saying my husband and I have a great relationship. Other than this small issue, everything else is perfect.

 My husband and I have been having issues with porn for a while now. I use to be completely fine with porn watching (as I occasionally watch it myself), until I learned the extent to which my husband watched it. He looked at it everyday/multiple times a day, saving hundreds and hundreds of pornographic images and or videos to his phone or laptop. He doesn’t jerk off to it, just endless amount of scrolling. What really got to me was the photos of girls that weren’t nude at all. Fully clothed women and some photos of just their faces. This created an insecurity on my end. It wasn’t a trust issue (I know he’d never cheat), it was more of personal insecurity thing (did he want me to look like those women?)

In one heated argument he ended up deleting his reddit app containing tons of porn to make me feel better (he hasn’t re-downloaded the app, although he still goes on reddit through the web browser). In another heated argument, I deleted the Instagram app on his phone since it was filled will half naked girls. I felt guilty after and told him to re-download it. He hasn’t since (but still looks at it through the web browser occasionally). 

This wasn’t affecting our sex life at all and I know men watching porn is normal, so I didn’t want him to quit it completely. We came to a compromise of: he’s able to look and watch porn on his own time as long as he tried to lessen the amount he watched and didn’t save it onto his phone where I can see (we use each other’s phones frequently). 

I understand I may have some deep rooted insecurity issues from my former long term ex who cheated on me several times and manipulated me into thinking I was just being a “crazy suspicious girlfriend.” I’ve tried to become more accepting of my husbands porn watching, ex. watching porn with him and checking out sexy girls online to make me more comfortable of the fact. Everyone knows if you keep something taboo in a relationship it’s only going to get worse. 

Now to the fight we had the other day, he wanted to know if he could save animated pornographic images to his phone as they are a form of art to him. I told him I was still uncomfortable with him saving any type of porn to his phone (even if it’s animated). He got upset saying I restrict him from doing things he enjoys. 

This hurt me and I felt bad he felt this way about me. AITA here?