Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hey guys. This is my first post on AITA, and I came here because I can’t figure out if I’m the asshole in my upcoming story.

So for my 18th birthday, I had plans to go to brunch with my family at an upscale restaurant in a nearby city. These plans were cancelled because my twin brother had a last minute party the night before the brunch was supposed to happen, and he didn’t want to get up for brunch. This was fine, we all figured we would get dinner instead. In comes my mother.

She lets us all know last minute that she has plans at 6:30, for a church group that she has skipped in the past. Therefore, our dinner would have to be around 4:30 (instead of what I thought would have been 6:00-7:00) and instead of going to the restaurant in the city, we would have to choose somewhere in my hometown. All of this is told to me around 1:00 the day of. I was pissed off, but I didn’t want to tell my mom to change her plans, (the church group is one of the only times she really socializes) so I bit my tongue. 

My mom asked me what restaurant I wanted to go, and I just told her to pick whatever she wanted, as I planned the whole brunch meal and it didn’t work out, and I didn’t feel like planning again. I said I wasn’t really happy about having to go earlier, but it was fine, brunch turning into dinner turning into early dinner isn’t that big of a deal.

THEN, my brother informs us that he has made plans to meet his girlfriend’s family for the first time, and could we push the dinner back a half hour to an hour? I got pissed again, say whatever, you guys do what you want, and leave. 

My mom then comes talk to me again about an hour later, and ask what we’re doing and where I want to go for dinner. I say I don’t care, we don’t have to do anything at all. My brother hearing this, comes back again, and says that his girlfriends family cancelled and now he has invited her to our dinner.

At this point, I say I would prefer to cancel the dinner altogether. I wasn’t in the mood to spend time with anyone anymore, and it was way too complicated. I thought we should have made a plan and stuck with it, but everyone else’s business and last minute plans (that didn’t have to happen) got in way. In the end, my mom got pissed off at me, my brother and dad said nothing. 

So Reddit, should I have just sucked it up and gone along with whatever ended up happening? Should I have agreed to continue to try to plan this dinner at my own expense, but for my family’s sake? Am I the asshole in this situation?