I’m a junior (21) in college and he’s a freshman (18/19) in college.


He’s sad because I haven’t been in the mood to “party” and last time we went out to one was a month ago. Before I used to say I will then the day off or the day before last minute (4/5 hours before the party) I tell him I really want to sleep in/stay in. It upsets him and I told him I’ll stop making promises I can’t keep.


Today I told him “I probably won’t want to go out tomorrow” and that made him upset. I have 3 midterms coming up and an essay due soon. I slept all day today and granted I didn’t work on much today, tomorrow I’ll try to finish as much as I can but Sundays are my working days but I don’t want to push this all aside until then tbh.  I will do SOME work tomorrow but I don’t know how much I’ll get done.


The bottom line is - somedays I just don’t want to party. He’s sad because I’m 21 and can go to a bar whenever and as someone who can’t get into bars he needs to wait until there are open parties, and he doesn’t want to go out without me despite me giving him permission. 
He doesn’t want to go out without me because his friends will be trying to fuck other people and he’ll be alone because he’s with me. I feel like a bar person for not going out and staying in a lot when he wants to party. I feel like I’m in the wrong for this.

