This began when I was a kid and noticed that my parents desk was a mess so I cleaned it as a surprise. My dad got mad at me for it. I'm now 29 and moved back into my parents house. I like to have a nice clean house so i keep my room clean and sometimes go on cleaning sprees where I'll clean the whole house.

We have had some drama in the past because of this. Basically, I try to clean something and my parents freak out, I mean like full blown insanity. I don't even clean it, I just suggest I might try cleaning it and ask if their OK with it. Its at this point that they just start yelling and say "get out, get out right now, its our stuff don't touch it." And I try to remain calm but for some reason I don't instantly comply with their demands because in the moment I just freeze rather than instantly walk out of the room. their yelling gets louder and more aggressive and angrier which ends up making me mad so i may lose my temper and say something like "fine, you want to yell at me for doing nothing... i might as well clean something" I realize this is an asshole thing to do but I haven’t done this in a while but done it before so I guess this is what my parents are worried about.

I hadn't cleaned up their part of the house like their room or their office in years and tonight I finished cleaning my room and since it was my moms birthday (my mom usually actually likes when I clean but I think since my dad hates it so much she agrees with him) and they don't have a problem with just dusting their problem is when it comes to moving their stuff around/organizing. So I figured I would do some dusting, no problem, everyone is happy.

my mom comes to see the room, everything is fine. I ask her nicely "Can I straighten out this pile of papers? Just straighten out not move or anything" She says well OK. So I start straightening out the papers. Then my dad comes up like a tyrant lunatic, doesn't even know whats going on and starts with the "get out! get out! get out!" And like I said I just freeze so they keep getting louder. my mom instantly sides with my dad and everyone's yelling at me and i'm generally calm and waiting for them to stop yelling so loud so I can decide what to do.

So yes, I probably shouldn't mess with my parents stuff in their room.

I probably should leave their room the second they tell me to.

And yes I should probably move out and get my own house.

But I still have the aching desire to make their house perfect.

In the times when I've managed to clean things it in the past and created trouble none of their stuff is ever lost and they usually really like how everything is so clean in the end. So sometimes I think maybe I should just let them get angry and clean their room for the greater good. Well lately I don't (past 15 years) because they are so insane about it.

So am I the asshole? and what should I do about still wanting to make the house clean? or is that a question for [r/Advice]