My mom and I have not been getting along the past year and a half. She was a really shitty mom but got a little better over the years. 

Last year we had a big falling out because she talks so much shit about everyone and I ended up hearing all the shit she talks about me. We havent seen each other much since then but have talked and it has been going good.

So my ex boyfriend and I had a really big fight on Friday and I ended up telling her about it. Right now we are currently broken up, but have talked but not made up and he hasnt come home since Friday night. I told her about it thinking for some reason she wouldnt tell anyone. She ended up telling her bf, my aunt, and one of my brothers that I know for sure. Probably my other brother and who ever else she talks to. 

Well I learned my lesson as yesterday I went over to my aunts and was going to tell her a story about Friday, but not about the fight. I started the story by saying me and EX did this activity on Friday and she said I already heard. My story wasnt about the fight but she must have thought I was going to say that. So I was annoyed last night after leaving. I left it be. Today I text my mom and say so who did you tell about my and EXs fight? She says "just your brother". I said "aunt knows to does older brother know" she said "aunts nosey, probably not brother he hasnt said anything" long story short I said "i told you that thinking you werent going to tell everyone" she says "i am done with this conversation" so i said im not going to Christmas. And Ill just have her bf drop them off when he goes. 

She said thats fine she isnt doing Christmas anyways and that my aunt was. I said good good. She said keep the gifts. I said alrighty bye. 

I will be sending the gifts because the gifts were for my cousins and aunt and brothers and grandma and I want them to have them. They did nothing to me. She wont be there actual Christmas day so I am maybe going over there then and seeing my grandma who is in bad shape. I texted aunt and let her know i wasnt going. She asked why i just said because of my mom but didnt go into detail. I also told my older brother who is coming up from 3 hours away and told him the same thing, said i didnt want to discuss the fight any further. He said "life is to short for you and mom to be petty. You only get 50 Christmas celebtrations and your wasting them." Then something about me and her being childish. 

Am I the asshole? I should not have told her but I was really upset and wanted someone to talk to. Im just so annoyed my mom and I cant talk about anything or it gets spread throughout my entire family. 