Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So, a couple of weeks ago, I and my group of friends (who might not actually see me as a friend, I fear) were talking and I brought up that my birthday was coming up and I would like to do some things in Asheville with them. Bar hopping and walking around mostly. Fast forward to this week: I text one of the friends, asking if he's still available to hang out this Saturday, for my birthday. He say's "That was this weekend?" and then says that he's doing something in Asheville that day, but he'd be free for the night. I worry, because I feel I haven't been clear in my planning and they see me as being that friend who is always wanting to hang out when they're busy. I text my next friend and ask the same. He says that he's going to an art show. I ask him if he would like to do something after, for my birthday, reminding him that we talked about it a few weeks ago. He hasn't responded to the text.

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Am I an asshole for using the "It's my birthday" card? I hate the feeling when I do shit like that, I feel pathetic and it brings me back to high school where nobody wanted to hang out with me unless it was for something like a birthday dinner or something that makes me want to cry just thinking about.