First time posting, and I just wanted to make sure I get everything right for it. I've been in this relationship with this girl (Call her A) for about a few months. It is a long distance relationship (Like more than 3000 Miles, NV to MD) and We've been going incredibly steady and we have very busy things that we tend to alot. Me being work and school since I'm close to graduating. 

Fast forward to around this week, things were getting stressful and to a breaking point. Since family, work, and a whole lot of life thoughts get in the way. Now, we are both dealing with a bunch from both sides. I wanted to come visit A, and speak to her dad so he can get to know me. She said she won't let me talk to her dad because he doesn't want A distracted but she told him we're really close and are dating. He says in about 3 YEARS I'll be able to talk to him. This sounds insane to me just to say hi and to gain permission to date his daughter. 

This is where the AITA part comes in.

Fast forward to today and I decided to break it up and say that I think we should be friends for the time being and that we have alot going for ourselves and plenty outside things are putting tons of pressure on us. Especially if A wants to be a nurse/doctor and I want to go into auto. At first she was in hysterics and cried which crushed me. So I thought (and it really hurt me to think it) if she cares like she says she does, then she should take a flight down here so we can see eachother and we can be together again. Note that I did alot for her, sending expensive gift packages and making sure I listen to and play everything with her. On her end, she probably thought she did the same. (Come to find out she's been having a depression for so long and has yet to tell me. She also openly said after I asked where our relationship is going and she said "i don't know" and "nowhere" Ouch.) So I told her if you care about me like you say you do and that you'd do anything for me, come down here and show how much you care and we can be back together.


Her friends and such are saying what I did was a dick move but I felt like it was necessary for the circumstances. AITA?
