Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My stepson is 8. I've been with his dad for 5 years, married for 1. I've been involved in my step son's life for 4 years. Last year, my step son was diagnosed with a learning disability that is not an insurmountable obstacle, but is bad enough that the specialist recommended a specialized school for him.

Between my husband, my stepson's mom, and me, we didn't make enough to afford the school. My parents offered to pay, and my husband and my stepson's mom agreed because it was best for my stepson. My parents are generous people and just came into a large amount of money from my grandmother's passing, which they have put away entirely to fund their grandchildren' education. They also live on the other side of the country, so we rarely see them, but when we do, they definitely take on a grandparent role with my stepson.

The thing is, my husband and his ex refuse to tell my stepson where the money for his education is coming from--ever. I don't think they need to tell him right now, but I think when he's older, it's unfair not to tell him that the reason he will graduate debt free from college is because of my parents' generosity. My step son's mom is open about the fact that she does not want him to know because she doesn't want her son to value my family's contribution over hers. My husband won't even engage with her over it, but I can tell he agrees with her and is uncomfortable with the difference in resources.

I'm not trying to do this so my stepson will like me more than his mom or anything like that, I just feel terribly for my parents because they aren't being recognized or thanked and never will be. On top of that, my stepson often asks why my parents don't come around very much and don't take him out and buy him gifts like his bio grandparents do, and it makes me so sad that he can't see what they're doing for him because they love him like they love their other grandkids.

My husband is refusing to engage with me about this and it's making me feel terrible. I know I'm just a step parent and not a bio parent, but it hurts me to see my family be treated like this. I just want my stepson to know one day so he can look back and understand that my parents love him much as they love their other grandkids. It's making me question how much my husband values me and how he sees me as a step mother. Am I wrong? Should I let it drop? I'm hurt but also very conflicted, because I want what's best for my stepson, but I also want my parents to feel appreciated.

AITA for wanting my stepson to know the truth, even though his bio parents don't agree?