Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My friend(18f) and I(17f) have been very close for 4-5 years, both of us have, at times, been the other's only friend. I moved a few years back and we barely see eachother irl, so our main mode of communication is snapchat, texting, instagram, and phone calls. We share a lot of stuff, and over the past year or so we mostly interact through snapchat and instagram. On instagram it's mainly just sending memes, and on snapchat we occasionally have conversations, but mainly we send a few snapshots of our day, or the occasional rant about something.

For the past year, I've been extremely frustrated by two things she does. The first is: if I call unannounced, she only occasionally answers or gives some response (like "oh I'm busy I can't talk) but if I text her beforehand asking if she's free/wants to talk, she almost never responds (meaning that most of the time I call "unannounced" cause I have no idea if she's free or has even seen my message)

The second is that: she will make and not follow through with, what are in my eyes, plans to talk. For example, last Sunday was one of the times she called me. While talking, she said "hey, I'm going to be completely free on these three days, do you wanna talk?" I said I'd be free and I'd love to talk. Fast forward to one of the days she said she'd be free, she hasn't said anything so I call her. She says she was talking to her mom and would call back later. I wait, she doesn't call back. It's been a few days and she hasn't even mentioned it. 

Things like this have happened multiple times, she'll tell me she's free on some date or time, I call, no response. I'm fine if she ends up being busy or even just doesn't feel like talking, I just really hate the lack of response. If she just texted me later in the day saying "hey, I actually am doing something/just don't really want to talk" I would have been fine with that. 

I don't think that there's any malicious intent on her end or that she's trying to distance herself from me, but sometimes I don't know. There has been tension in our relationship before, at least on my end, but we've never really had a fight about something big. I find this whole situation extremely frustrating and at this point I kind of just want to be like "hey, this relationship isn't being really fulfilling for me and this is frustrating, is this some larger problem in our relationship, do you want me to do something different, or could you respond more" 

I really don't want to seem entitled to her time, but from my perspective, if you're going to call someone a really close friend, sometimes that means making an effort to change something. I get that she shares a lot with me and I don't want to be ungrateful because I know that it could be I'm the person who she feels secure enough with to say stuff, but sometimes I feel like I've become the "person who doesn't know her friends so she can talk about drama with no consequences." 