Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Yikes. I'm scared to write this because I truly don't know if I'm the asshole or not. 

This is a story about my last relationship. And I'm absolutely over it but I still think about it sometimes and it bothers me so I'm here to talk about it. I want to learn from it for future relationships. 

Me and my girlfriend we're 20 at the time. And we had been together for about 6 months. We had just gone long distance for the summer because she was working far away. First half of the summer went fine. We video called when we got the chance (internet wasn't great there) and planned a trip for me to meet her for a weekend, which went well. It was after the trip that things started to go downhill. I stopped feeling the love. She wasn't making as much time to call me as she was before. But at the same time she told me she was going out drinking with her work friends. I don't really have a problem with that I just asked her to please be safe as she wasn't a drinker before. It's just weird that she had time to party but not time to call me. 

But now we're going full weeks without talking. Texting, yes, but I hate texting and need real face to face time. So I ask her often to call and she usually says she's tired or wants to go out with her friends, or there are people around (which I get, we were both very private people and I didn't like having intimate conversations w/ her  in front of people either). But the frustration is building at this point and I want to talk to my girlfriend. One instance that I remember in particular is when I wanted to call it had been forever since we talked and she said there were people around. I made the suggestion that she could step out side and sit in her car and get some privacy that way ( she lived in dorms, basically). She said that's weird. I said I don't think it's that wierd and that I would do it, but she wouldn't. I let it go.


All of this came to a head a couple times when I finally got her on the phone and told her how it was making me feel for her not to want to call me. She would cry and say she was sorry and tell me she loved me and I would break and say it's ok and we would just be sad together for a but and hang up. But things never changed. I got pretty insecure. And I told her that on occasion that I didn't feel the love and she would always apologize and say she would change things but never did. I still kinda feel like it's my fault for being insecure but it also makes me angry when I think about her apparent refusal to make time for me. IDK what to think. 

 Eventually she was set to come back home and I wanted to make plans to see her when she got back and she said something that was really weird to me. She said she probably wouldn't see me for a bit when she got back because she wanted to see all her friends first.  And I don't mean that day I mean for a few days she said she wouldn't see me. At this point I was pretty much starting to check out of the relationship so I called her one day and ended it. She took it well and said if I didn't love her anymore that it was ok. She then said she still loved me and probably wouldn't talk to me for a looong time as she got over it. And that was that. 

So my question is: am I the asshole for expecting her to make ways to talk to me? Was I asking her too much when I asked her to sit in her car so we should talk? Or for thinking she should want to see me asap when she got back? I know I was being insecure and I'm working on that but was I the asshole for putting that on her? 