The price of the flights got a little too pricey so I suggested we just rent a tow trailer to put one of our cars on it. This option would end up being cheaper and more convenient to our family members, as they wouldn’t have to take time off work, fly in, drive 12 hours back, etc. My wife had initially expressed her concerns about me driving the moving truck with the car attached because I have little to no experience with towing a car. I told her people do it all the time and not to worry and that I could handle it. She eventually agreed and I booked the rental tow-behind. Our move is in two days and now my wife is freaking out, saying I never take her feelings into consideration and that she’s not comfortable with me driving 12 hours with a car being towed behind and it’s causing a lot of unnecessary stress. In my mind, people drive across country all the time with these moving trucks and have their cars towed behind no problem. I even offered to pay to fly one of her parents up as a compromise so she wouldn’t have to drive 12 hours by herself, but she declined, saying it’s not about having someone with her it’s about me driving the truck she’s worried about. She says I don’t compromise and I don’t take her feelings into consideration. But in reality, I’m saving us time, money, and she doesn’t even have to worry about driving the truck as that would be my responsibility, and even though she was uncomfortable with it, she still agreed. My wife suffers from anxiety and it gets worse during big life changes. I tried to explain to her that her worrying is just her anxiety causing stress and that I am comfortable driving the truck and have no issues with it. She says it’s not about the truck but really about me taking her feelings into consideration when making decisions. But if I’m comfortable driving the truck and she doesn’t even have to drive it, shouldn’t I be the one who decides if I can handle it or not? In my mind her concerns are irrational and I shouldn’t have to just comply with her concerns if I don’t agree with them, right? Where is the line drawn? I want to listen and take her concerns into consideration but when they are something that truly isn’t something that needs to be worried about how can I explain that to her without sounding like an asshole?