Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My boyfriend lives in Austin, TX and I am in Annapolis, MD for college. Originally from Pittsburgh, PA. I’ve only been dating my boyfriend for two months, but we’ve been friends for three years. We only got close in the past 6 months or so. Started dating in late December. 


I’m a full time college student six hours from home. My spring break is March 1-18th. I had originally planned on seeing my family until the 12th and my boyfriend in Austin the 12-17th. He bought concert tickets, booked a hotel in Houston, and took off work for my trip. I was excited to see my family and even more excited to see him. 

Unfortunately my grandmother has been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. It has spread to her liver, brain, and bones. We won’t know how bad it is until her appointment March 1st but we may only have a few months. It was found during her hip replacement last week. She’s only 72 and this is completely unexpected. My grandmother is one of my favorite people in the world. I’m absolutely devastated and struggling to cope. I keep thinking about the quilt we started together but never finished, and how I can’t wait to play her in scrabble over break. I want to spend as much time as possible with her and I’m sad I’m so far away now.

I told my boyfriend I wanted to maybe cancel the trip since it seems likely my grandmother could pass before my next opportunity to be home from school, and he told me I have 10 whole days to spend with her and I’m only giving him 6 days of my time. And that I’m giving her more time. And he can’t believe that I’m cancelling. He told me I can’t live my life in fear of bad things happening and I can’t feel guilty for having a life outside my family. 

Now I genuinely don’t know what to do here. I’ve been crying for days. I need to book a plane ticket soon if I’m going, but it feels wrong to go but wrong to cancel. 

Am I being unreasonable? AITA? Thanks Reddit 