Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My husband and I have been together for 9 years and this past year he has decided to become best friends with his ex. She has always been in our lives here and there but nothing like this. I should note they didn’t go out for long. Anyways recently he is constantly hiding his phone and I finally got sick of it and did some snooping, which I know isn’t the best idea HOWEVER I was going crazy! We were recently visiting family in my hometown, where she lives as well. My husband decided to make an appointment at the doctors and I was just hanging out with my family at home. Anyways fast forward to the snooping in the messages he said he wanted to meet up with her and he planned his appointment around her lunch break. He never actually ended up seeing her because his appointment changed but it was the fact that he was planning on being sneaky behind my back.  I wouldn’t have cared if he told me but finding out like this is frustrating. The messages between them seemed intimate, nothing like flirting or anything. Just really deep conversations. Anyways my husband says I shouldn’t have been snooping, but I said he should have told me about this. I don’t like that he talks to her and is it fair for me as his wife to find this relationship inappropriate. AITA?