My partner (57 m)has progressively let himself go. He’s put in easily 40kg (~80lb) over the last few years, started smoking and goes around in bleach stained shorts and t-shirts with holes all over them. 

I’ve gently spoke to him about it, I am worried about his health, and says ‘I’m trying’, then continues to over eat. I’m tired of people mentioning his weight to me. In terms of his attire, I admit that there are ‘working in the garden/on the car clothes, which are washed  as usual, but have become his regular rotation. He’s on a disability and is unable to work.

I (48f), make an effort every day for him (and me), and despite most of my clothes coming from Target, I pull myself together reasonably well.

I’m starting to feel embarrassed by the way he has become and feel disrespected. I’ve asked him several times in passing if he’d given up and he dances around the question.

AITA ?