Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I hope this doesn’t come across as a post looking for validation if my actions were inappropriate, I’m genuinely curious if I went about things the wrong way.

My boyfriend told me last week about a friend and coworker of his whose dog got badly injured and would be needing a costly surgery totaling over 3k. He mentioned that everyone at his job was putting money together to give her. They are all just bartenders and so is she so I understand that they are not in a place to each donate large sums of money and I understand that she will most likely struggle to pay off such an expensive surgery. I’m a huge animal lover and I know the pain of worrying over a sick pet. I decided I wanted to get a card for her and give her $100. It’s not a huge dent in the bill but I assume every penny counts.

I brought it to my boyfriend and asked if he would give it to her. He said he would give it to her but only if I put his name on it. I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with that, since it was a gesture I wanted to make, and he had already donated money for the group card.

After I told him I wouldn’t put his name on it, he said it would be weird to give her money since I had only met her once. He also claimed it would look like I was trying to one up everyone by giving one card with my money and my name on it when everyone had already given her a pooled sum of money and a group card.

He ended up telling me I just shouldn’t do it. This made me very sad and uneasy. I feel like I was trying to do a good thing. 

AITA in this situation? I know my motives aren’t wrong but would this looks asshole-ish from her perspective?