Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years.  Just a little backstory: Right before we made it official that we were boyfriend/girlfriend and that we were exclusive, he went down to Florida to visit some friends and ended up having a one night stand with this one girl that was friends with his friends down there.  I didn’t count it as cheating because we hadn’t discussed being exclusive and putting a label on our relationship, but it still hurt me a little bit.  

Fast forward to present day, his brother wants to go to this convention this summer down in Florida over my boyfriends birthday.  My boyfriend said I could come with them when he was talking about it a few weeks ago because then we could celebrate his birthday and I happen to be off school that week, too.  Today we are at his parents house, and his mom is asking him questions about the trip and if him and his brother are going to drive or fly, where they’re staying and what not. I got a little bit suspicious because she hadn’t mentioned anything about me, so when his mom left, I mentioned it to him.  He tried to tell me that he never actually said I could go (he definitely did) and kept saying “you don’t want me to have a nice vacation? I haven’t been on a vacation in so long.”  I explained to him that it just hurt my feelings because he told me I could go and I got excited (I haven’t been on vacation in years either) and it was disappointing to hear that he was now planning to go without me.  I also was excited to spend his birthday with him because he has an oilfield job and is only home every two weeks for 6 days, so I already get limited time with him.  Here’s where the backstory from the beginning of this post comes in, too.  He hasn’t given me any reason to believe he would ever cheat or anything, but I have severe anxiety and can’t stop thinking about what happened all those years ago. 

So, Reddit, am I being an insecure asshole about this or do I have a little bit of a reason to be pissed? 