Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Some fake names for clarity: Abby and Cindy are my close friends. Abby is the one whose sister-in-law died of cancer. 

Cindy messaged me and told me we should go to the funeral viewing for Abby's SIL. I haven't replied to her yet but am trying to come up with an excuse as to not go. 

I don't want to go because I'm exhausted. The past few weeks I have slept for no more than 4 hours a day because I was working on my thesis. I just want to spend the next few days resting at home. Another reason is because it feels insincere to go when I don't even know her. I would rather donate to the gofundme page they set up to pay for the medical bills. Even if I was there, I wouldnt have any words of "support" for Abby because I don't know anything about her SIL apart from the fact that she had cancer. 

Is it really important that I go? When my grandma died, all I wanted was to be given some space. It didn't matter to me if people went to the viewing. I just don't know if other people felt the same about funerals as I do, or if I'm just an asshole for thinking that way.