Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm in nursing school right now, and my dad is putting me through it. I am very gracious for this, and I know that this makes me more privileged than others. Although, I don't think this excuses what he has done (and is still doing) to my family.

I'm going to attempt to make a long story short. I'm originally from Spain (Mom = Spanish, Dad = Filipino). My dad is in the Navy so that's how he got himself to Spain where he met my mother. I grew up in Spain for 10 years, and then we got stationed in America. Ever since my dad got the chance to put the whole Atlantic Ocean between my mom and her family he has been treating her like complete, utter, absolute shit. 

I think my dad has some sort of Bipolar Disorder or PTSD, but at this point I don't care because I wish he would drop dead tbh. For 11 years he has been treating my mom, 4 siblings, and I like garbage. He justifies it all because he pays for everything, and that sense of control/power over us has made him do some pretty ballsy stuff. My mom deals with it because she wants to wait until my youngest sister gets her college paid for by him, and then she wants to go back to Spain (I am going to make this happen for her). 

For some more context, my mom is a pretty independant woman. Regardless of his verbal and sometimes physical abuse, she managed to get a job out here and she managed to learn english. Although, because of this, the abuse just gets worse. My dad always falsely accuses her of cheating and being a whore. This usually occurs when my mom goes to work, my dad really believes that she actually prostitutes herself. He will go around the house yelling that she's a whore, loud enough for my baby sisters to hear. I have tried to tell him to grow up and settle things the mature way, keep the arguing contained, my sisters don't have to hear this bs. He just takes this offensively and threatens to kick me out (this was back when I was in High School). Now that I really can get legaly kicked out, my mom told me to stay on his good side. My mom is depressed, and tired if this. 

I am a couple months away from graduation. I am grateful that I get my school paid for, I am lucky. But I want to cut ties with this asshole after I'm done. I always imagine myself taking care of my mother when she gets older, but I will gladly pay for the cheapest, shitiest nursing home for my father. Thinking like this makes me feel slightly bad for him, because unlike him I am an empathetic human being, but the hell he has put us through for 11-12 years will never leave my psyche. 