My FIL passed on Easter weekend. MIL has trouble moving past it, and still mentioned him on a daily basis. She is also kind of dramatic and immature, and used her loneliness and grief to guilt people doing stuff for her (possibly subconsciously, but I can't be sure). She had not always been kind to me over the years and I have tried to shrug off the passive-aggressive comments towards me and my family, but due to me now having my own kids and a mild postpartum depression, I have started setting boundaries to protect my own sanity. This is not going well with the family but nothing has blown up yet.

I am generally an empathetic person and I understand grief never ends, but I don't want certain weekends to be defined by a tragedy forever. Especially when sometimes it feels like certain dates are used as reasons to make us visit. I want to plan fun things with my kids like Easter egg hunts, but I also want to be sensitive to the situation. It's only been a couple of years - my question is, WIBTA if I planned fun activities on Easter weekend this year? Will there be a time (e.g. few years later) that it ever becomes appropriate?  I understand Easter falls on different weekends each year, but it had been remembered that he passed on Easter weekend and arguing it's a different date may sound even more insensitive?