I am a college freshman going to school in the Northeast. I dropped the ball on my roommate-pairing application process (as did my former roommate, let's call him William) and we got paired together despite our obvious differences. Our first meeting and the first week or so went well. I learned he had never shared a room with anyone before and that he wished he'd gotten into a better school than this one. Great, I thought.. this was my reach school. One thing that was off was that he seemed sort of awkward around me, never initiating conversations or making eye contact. 

I'm fairly untidy, and while my mess never crossed to his half of the room, it still looked bad in comparison to his neatly arranged textbooks and perfectly made bed. William woke up at 6:00 every morning while I generally got up around 7:00-7:30. He spent a lot of time studying whereas I spent much of my time playing videogames (with headphones.) He went to bed around 9:30-10:00, and if I was in the dorm at that time I'd either go to sleep too, or move to the dorm's communal lounge area.

Problems didn't really begin until my girlfriend started to visit on weekends. The first two times she visited, it was a last minute decision &amp; I didn't give William a lot of advance notice that she would be coming over. August 31st, I gave him about an hour, and September 7th, about a day's notice. However, both times I was very clear that if he's not comfortable with her being around that she can sleep downstairs in the lounge, but he said he had a friend he could stay with and that it would be fine. Alright, cool. After that, I gave him between 5-8 days of heads-up &amp; she came over three more times over a span of 2 months or so. Despite the fact that things had been fine between us (although he had been just as awkward &amp; silent as usual,) I started hearing through mutual friends that he had been complaining about me to them. Now, I don't mind that he had complaints about me, but it really frustrated me that rather than tell me that something I was doing bothered him, he would complain about me to our mutual friends. It was stuff like how I came back to the dorm late at night sometimes, or how my half of the room was messy, or about how I didn't give him advance notice earlier in the semester. So I oiled my bed-springs to make 'em quieter and even made my bed (once.)

Then, without warning, William moved out on October 30th to another dorm. That evening I sent him a text saying "Hey, I'm sorry things didn't work out. I genuinely hope your new room/roommate is more to your liking and the rest of your year goes well." No reply. Since then, he has never spoken to me in person or otherwise..

Am I the asshole, Reddit?

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