Alright so this might be a bit confusing to read but that's because I'm confused as to what happened to me, this all took place over the course of two weeks but mostly in the last two days. It all started with a girl, let us call her Dee, Now Dee has had a pretty shitty life, without giving away too much personal information it is safe to say that she has been abused by her parents, her uncle died while taking good care of her, her mother is schizophrenic and chances are Dee will be in the future. right now her only living relative is her mother who she is forced to live with because she can't leave, because her mother forces her to pay for all the food and other things so she can't save to get an apartment. and recently she learned that she and her mother may be getting kicked out of the house. there are other aspects but again I am trying to respect her privacy. Just keep in mind she is pretty stressed. now I joined her server a few months ago and made some close friends on it all was well until at some point she started saying that I've been an asshole recently. Now on the server, we all give each other shit but we all knew it was in jest, like "what's up cunts" that sorta vibe. anyway whenever she said this and I ask her "how have i been an asshole?" she could never give me an answer, it was always "I can't think of something off the top of my head" and while at first, I took this in stride because I just thought she was joking, after a while it really started getting to me she I brought it up but again she just called me an asshole. so I started distancing myself from her, not consciously just I didn't go and talk to her as much as I did other people. And also we still talked and had fun together but mostly in groups so it's not like our relationship was purely her called me an asshole, we were still friends. Now as we become more and more distant she used that as evidence to justify her called me an asshole. At this point, I was pretty fed up with her and along with her other annoying behaviors such as needing constant attention and not respecting others wishing by whining, whenever someone didn't want to do something. This all leads up to me leaving the server during an argument in which she exploded on this guy who yea was rude but she was keeping the argument going, now I tried to break it up with a little humor by going "guys guys we are ALLL assholes, ok?" after which she and her boyfriend turned on me and again she started calling me an asshole and which point I said "fine if I'm such an asshole ill just leave" so I did.

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Now during my time on her server I joined another server where she was an admin, I stayed on this server because most of the friends I had made on the previous one were also here, and things were fine, I didn't talk to her she didn't talk to me. but eventually, she started getting more and more controlling in the server. For instance, she said that we couldn't post "memes" in the general chat and that we had to post them in meme chat, this was confusing to me and a few others because it was fine before and it wasn't in the rules. at which point she simply told us to read the roles and that it was the end of the discussion. Now in the rules, it does say that you "should adhere to the commands of the staff" but I wasn't alone in thinking that that rule wasn't really as "valid" as the others in that it is really just a catch-all rule and makes is so whichever admin or mod that was on at the time could say whatever they want and use punishments for whatever they wanted. we tried bringing this up to her but again she just links the rules and said it was the end of discussion. one thing to note is that there is a feedback and suggestions channel but not once did she say we could, ya know, talk about the rules in there, she always just told us to read the rules and if we didn't stop talking about this we would get in trouble.

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this all climaxed with me and a few others arguing with her in chat about recent events in the server that abruptly ended with her muting all of us and her other "mod-lings" comforting here, saying that she was nice to even let this go on for as long as it had. While we couldn't type in chat we did figure out we could change our nick-names, so we starting having fun with that with things like "My cellmate "likes" me alot" at this point she made another channel where we could "talk" 

which really meant me spending around an hour and a half trying to reason with her while also trying to get her "mod-lings" to stop injecting themselves into the conversation just to either stroke her ego or insult us and tell us to shut up. At the end of all of this we me being physically and emotionally drained she says that she been humoring me long enough and that nothing worthwhile has been said  and that "she didn't want to lose me" at this point I'm just tired so I want to talk about this another day but she says that she can't leave me on mute but she also couldn't unmute me yet because I might start another \*riot\* in discord general chat, which she says is bad because it might scare the other users and that she needs my compliance. She ends all of this by saying that she has let this go on long enough and that she is tired so I say "just go to sleep then" and leave at which point she bans me

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so if you made it, congrats and now I want to know? Am I the asshole here?