I left my country and settled in a far away country because i wanted a clean break from my entire family tree...i stay in touch with immediate family...i dont really like or agree with my folks (any of them) but i dont like upsetting them all the time by telling them so, so i pretty much stay diplomatic for the duration of phone calls i have to endure...

My dad is well off..and both my parents consider themselves loving and caring...but thats soo not the reality...

Eg. they showed their generosity to my older brother (they all love each other and get along) by buying him a house when he got married...my dad insisted on shorter term loan and cosigned the mortgage which meant higher monthly mortgage payments...my brother could not afford the payments so my dad took over the payments..fast forward 5-6 years, now my dad and mum treat my bro and his wife as if they should be at their beck and call, and almost like servants because they bought them a house...my dad even talks down to them and mum get into arguments with sister in law...i mean they get upset if my sister in law treats her own mother nicer than she treated my mum!!!! I mean cmon!!! Its her mother!!!!

Anyways my parents decided that they want to buy me a house but not in the country i have been living with my husband for last 8 yrs but in my home country...this time, no mortgage, dad cosigning the property, to be paid off in 3 yrs (its £500,000 house!!! With £250 monthly maintenance fee for life!!!! Which i will be legally responsible for since i co-own the property)...i pointed out that i cannot contribute because i have to pay for my house/food here, so they should scrap the plan to buy, and if they want to help, help with the deposit for the house we want to buy here...

Ofcourse my dad went ahead and put a non refundable deposit down for the house in my home country...and i had no choice but to play along...but i made it clear that i wont be contributing towards the house..

and lo and behold, now there is this expectation that i should be extremely grateful to them...

I am soo not grateful...me and my hubby both have auto immune conditions, quality of life is sub par but we are happy living humble life we do have...now they dangle a dream in front of us that we will never get to spend our lives in and yet, i am supposed to show them gratitude!!!??

Note: the house will be registered officially in mine and dads name in feb 2019...i am thinking of letting my bro have it because he is clearly putting up with all the shit i refused to put up with so maybe he deserves it