Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : We've known each other for more than 10 years and have had a FWB relationship for most of that time but nothing that ever lasted more than a few months at a time and always ended mutually. Because of this we have always been good friends and always seem to end up in each others lives every few months. I should also mention that we are both addicts and struggle with substance abuse, but I am almost 5 months sober.

About 6 or 7 weeks ago she (32F) called me (30M) out of the blue asking for help. Long story short, she said she wanted out of her situation with her then boyfriend, alcohol addiction and other shady lifestyle choices (red flags 1, 2 and 3, I know). I offered to help her by letting her stay at my house so she could detox, find a job and get herself back on her feet as long as she was serious. She agreed, ended her relationship and came to live with me.

It was a bit rocky at first but once she got through the withdrawals we started having a lot of fun with each other. She found a job fast and was already contributing (without me asking). About 2 weeks in her first relapse came. I'll admit I was probably a bit more upset than I should have been so we argued about it. I explained to her that recovery is the most important thing in my life and her using makes it extremely difficult for me. I stressed that I want her to be able to talk to me when she is struggling since I am going through the same thing. She apologized and seemed to understand.

A couple weeks go by, she texts me at work saying she invited her ex over to drop off some of her things she left. At first I didn't mind (at least she was up front with me about it), but then she came home drunk and tried to hide it. I had to call her out on it before she admitted to it. She also insisted that she truly only wanted to get her stuff from her ex, but we still had another argument that lasted a couple days. Things cooled off as the week went on and I forgave her. Another couple weeks go by and everything is mostly great.

Unfortunately, last night she had another relapse (and tried to hide it from me again) and that pushed me over the edge. We had a huge argument that lead me to kicking her out that night. I explained her that I've lost her trust because she continues to relapse and tries to hide it from me, and that it is affecting my own recovery. If its recovery we both truly want then a relationship between us isn't going to work. Its going to be the same thing every time.

In the end she was able to find someone to come get her within an hour of me telling her to leave, from some guy she had been talking with on Snapchat. She also left all of her belongings at my house (including her dog and phone) which have since been boxed up and put in the garage. She most likely did not show up for work today. I feel rather guilty because I care about this girl, and that I probably brought this all onto myself. And now that I've kicked her out I've screwed up her recovery process too.