Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I am ethnically Chinese, born and raised in Britain.

I've always identified as both British and Chinese, but growing where I grew up, it was always a bit of a sore subject, as I was never seen as English/British. I learned to live with it, so no worries there.

I have a transgender friend who is transitioning from a man to a woman. She and I have bit of a teasing relationship - we take shots at each other.

So last night, she starts taking shots at me when we were talking about cultures. I said something about how difficult it is to be English in some countries, and she said "you're not English though. You're Chinese. Stop pretending to be something you're not."

And I immediately shot back with "ironic, coming from a transgender person."

Her smile immediately wiped out. I could tell she was offended, but I thought she was being a baby.

I have talked to her about how strange and difficult it was for me growing up with two national identities, not really belonging to either. She, too, has talked to me about how difficult it was for her to accept she is a woman.

What do you think? AITA?