Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This incident has been SEARED into my memory and i finally want society's opinion once and for all on what happened that day.


I'm going to lay this one out with important details as simply and objectively from my POV as possible here.


Important facts:


Me: 24/male/Asian-Caucasian hapa, from Asia. Pagan/animist. Left leaning "libertarian" (read: liberal centrist.) Voted Obama.


"Elle": 26/ female/caucasian from NY. Atheist. Liberal. Voted Obama.


This happened in 2011, WELL before the Trump election cycle and the punch-richard-spencer/punch-a-nazi thing. We are classmates in a writing class. We had been hooking up (sex) for the past month. We are friendly.



We both go to a wine bar after class to consume literature. We are both solid drinkers and only had half a glass of wine each at the time of the incident, so no intoxication was present. The incident went as follows:



Elle: **reading an article** "Hey, look at this. Apparently the KKK played a big role in banning child labor"

Me: "Seriously? That's... weird for a hate group. How'd they do that"

Elle: "Well apparently in the 20's they campaigned aggressively for a federal ban on child labor, and their role was the determining factor in the decision."

Me: "Wow... though something tells me black kids didn't benefit as much."

Elle: "Yeah says here black kids still suffered under Jim Crow and often ended up doing labor anyways well into the 30s"

Me: "Figures... weird though to think about something even partially good coming out of something evil."

Elle: "yep."

Me: "well, I guess even the Nazis managed to give the world freeways and jet propulsion-"


Without warning, Elle swivels in her barstool and punches me square in the temple. It hurt, it was hard enough to jar my vision away from whatever wine bottle i was looking at. My first instinct is to fight back but my family drilled the whole "men never hit women under any circumstances whatsoever, period, end of story" thing into me so thoroughly that i just sit there and gape at her.


Me: "Dude what the fuck!?"

Elle: "That's what you get for praising nazis."

Me: "What the hell!? We were just talking about the KKK! You're the one that brought this subject up in the first place!"

Elle: "Yeah but are you black? NO. If you were, it would have been inappropriate for me to mention it to you. I went to Jewish sunday school as a kid. You don't play that nazi shit with me." (REMINDER: She is a blond haired blue eyed caucasian atheist)


Me: "How was i supposed to know that!?"

Elle: "You didn't ask did you? Now grow some fucking balls, it wasn't even that hard of a hit. Don't like it? You know where the fucking door is."


At this point 24 year old me puts his head down in his drink, apologizes, and pays for both our drinks before we leave. This has NEVER sat right with me, and it's been bugging me for over 7 years now.


AITA in this situation? Personally I feel like i was wrongfully attacked, and that whether any of us were black, blue, jewish, or pastafarian we should be able to have a calm intellectual talk about difficult topics like how evil people in history either accidentally or intentionally did something that ended up being beneficial alongside their atrocities, especially in a college environment.


I also keep kicking myself for being a pushover/simp/whatever you want to call it so no need to kick me any further, believe me, my metaphorical ass is blue from self flagellation over backing down. I'm older and wiser now by a long shot and don't take shit like i used to, which is probably why this has been bothering me.