Me (25M) and girlfriend (28F) have been dating over a year. I’m starting medical school this Fall, and she’s starting Vet school in a different state. We’ll be doing long-distance for 5 years. GF got a late start on her vet school career, but I’m happy to support her because I believe she needs this to feel happy and fulfilled. 

From day one I have made it clear I want a family and that I want to be a father. I’m happy to wait five more years, but as soon as we’re back together I want to start having a family. She’ll be 33 by the time we start trying. 

When talking about being honest during long distance, I told her that if she ever changed her mind about wanting kids that she needed to tell me, because that’s a dealbreaker for me. She believes that spouse should always be priority number one. I think that’s true, but one person wanting children and the other one not is reasonable grounds for a breakup. 

I want her to be happy, and definitely don’t want to pressure her into having kids if she doesn’t want to! But I feel it’s fair for me to want to find a partner who shares those life goals with me. I really hope that’s her, and I don’t feel it’s unreasonable to ask that if she changes her mind whole preparing to start her career she needs to tell me. AITA?