So context. Me and my wife have been going through a really rough patch in our marriage. So rough thats shes suggested we seperate. Its also important to mote that at this moment we live in seperate countries. Anyway today she thanked me for being strong and doing what i had to do in order to survive. I was confused because earlier that day she gave me a bunch of reasons why we possibly weren't good for each other. I replied with an ok thank you i guess. To which she asks why im unsure of my answer but not so directly. Theres alot of sarcasm involved and self criticizing that after 4 years together im able to translate into the previous statement. I told her i was confused and didnt feel like i deserved her thanks. She asked me to elaborate and so i did. She made a statement about how my texts seemed emotionless or uncaring. I apologized and explained that i had a bit of a mental break down today and was feeling very drained and just need time to reset myself. Immediately she starts calling. She just disregarded that fact that i was already putting my emotions to the side to help her understand what i was thinking and feeling because she felt the need to "be there for me". I ignored the calls. She followed up with some more sarcasm and self criticizing to provoke me to respond. I told her " I literally just told you I broke down today and need some time to recover". She followed up with more self criticizing comments to provoke more responses out of me. I replied with "Im glad we made this about you". Shes still messaging me but at this point nothing well say to each other will help the situation.