Ok Reddit, I’ll keep try to keep this short and simple.

So I used to date this guy for a few years, we’ll call him Ryan. This was at a time in my life when I was really insecure and dealing with major depression. The first year of our relationship was great, but over time he started to become more and more abusive. At first it started with him being really controlling and jealous, and escalated to him choking me out one night because a guy at a bar told me “I like your band t-shirt” and apparently I said “thank you” too nicely. So after years of being abused mentally, verbally and physically, I finally snapped when I found out he cheated on me with a mutual friend’s gf and ended it for good.

We have known each other since high school, and shared many mutual friends. When it came out why I had broken up with him (abuse and cheating) he lost some of the friends from our group. We all have distanced ourselves from him because he is violent and a pathological liar, and we are done dealing with it.

About a year after I broke up with Ryan, I started dating someone we have both known since high school. However, my current bf, we’ll call him Wes, ended his friendship with him shortly after I broke it off, claiming he never liked him anyway and this was his chance to finally cut ties with him. When Ryan found out I was dating Wes, he bombarded me with texts, claiming I was a whore, we were both traitors, and threatened to “come after me cuz he’s got guns and I know he’s not afraid to use them.” 

Reddit please be honest, AITA and a bad person for dating someone my ex and I were both friends with at one point?