Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : A little context: My dad and I have been on some very thin ice for the last few years because of emotional abuse, gaslighting, lying, and substance abuse. This past year I did not speak to him for six months (we live across the country so this is easier to achieve) because I finally could not handle it anymore after I caught him lying once again to me. My parents finally divorced recently and he has been making real efforts to improve himself as a person (he claims he is substance free, lost a lot of weight, and he just got hired to a real job for the first time in years) so he is spending the earlier part of winter break with us and then my mom will be with us for Christmas. Also I’m 22, still in college currently, and curse like a crusty old sailor. 

Story: I picked my dad up from the airport a few days ago for his week here with the kids. While in the car I’m talking with him and I start cursing like I usually do. He asks me to not curse in front of him because it’s disrespectful. Now, though he is my father this man has done nothing in the past eight years deserving of my respect, and he has used this tactic of ‘respect’ before in order to control me. I am my own adult at this point and frankly I can curse if I fucking want to. So, point blank I informed him “No.” He asked me a few more times but I did not give in and the conversation died then moved on. I believed that was the end of it as I continued how I usually do and he did not say anything again. 

Last night we go out to a very fancy restaurant that my younger sister is employed at (I’m super proud of her) so that my dad could see where she worked for the first time and he could treat us to a nice meal. We were there for three hours and during that time I tell stories and make conversation and curse as I usually do. We had finished everything, wrapped up the food, paid the bill, and we’re getting ready to take a nice family photo that I really wanted to get when I decided to tell one last story. I say fuck while telling it and my dad interrupts me and tells me again to not curse in front of him. I ignore his rude interruption, especially because we had already had this conversation, said it again and finished my sentence. My dad immediately stands up from the table, tells me very publicly that he will never take me out again, and storms out. It was extremely mortifying for both me and my sister who’s workplace this was. I ended up getting just a sibling picture (which I’m glad I still did) and rode home in silence. I’m currently hiding in my room because if I see him I’m only going to say unproductive mean things and I don’t want to do that. 

Just to add a note: my siblings don’t give one shit about my cursing, you could not hear any other tables so I assume not a single other table could hear or cared to hear our conversation, and we are currently in New England where curses come every other word. 

So, please let me know if I’m just a raging asshole and need to get over myself. I feel a little crazy right now.

TLDR: My dad asked me not to curse in front of him. I told him no and a few days later at the end of dinner he storms out on me at the restaurant my sister works at because I said fuck. 