Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway because I don’t want this tied to my main account. 

My husband and I have been together for 7 years and married for 2 years. I am a lawyer. He is in grad school. 

Before I went to law school, I asked my husband where he thought he wanted to live and raise a family.  I enrolled in law school in the state that he chose with the plan that I would take the bar there and then we would live there indefinitely. Of course, things change and I’m open to moving to a new state and taking the bar again if that’s where life takes us. 

Recently, my husband decided that he wants us to move to a different country once he graduates from grad school. He has an informal offer for a job in this country. I told him that I’d be open to him taking the job and doing long distance for a while if it’s his best option, but that I’d prefer that he look for a job locally. This made him upset but he brushed me off when I asked him to tell me what was wrong. 

A few days later, my husband brings up the foreign job again. I reiterate that I’m open to doing long distance but I would prefer that he stay here. He says that he wants me to be open to moving with him. I tell him that I’d consider it but, in all honesty, I can’t imagine ever wanting to move to this country. Moving to this country would mean giving up my career. I’d have to start all over with a new career in a country where I don’t speak the language. 

This upsets my husband and he drops this bomb on me: that he resents that I prioritize my career over his career. 

He’s not totally wrong, we are prioritizing my career but not in the way that he thinks. He thinks that I believe that my career is more important than his. That’s not true. I think his career is equally as important as mine. 

The thing is, he can do the SAME JOB here that he plans to do in foreign country. His argument is that he doesn’t have any offers to do this job here but that’s because he hasn’t applied to any jobs here. 

Staying here for my career would mean that he would get to do the same job. Moving countries for his career would mean that I would have to give up my career and start over. So, yeah, I’m prioritizing my career but I don’t think I’m wrong for doing it in this particular situation. His point is that he would make more money in the foreign country so I’m holding him back by not being willing to move.

People we’ve talked to about this are pretty split. My friends are on my side but they’re MY friends and they’re all lawyers so they’d obviously agree with me. His friends are all on his side. His family is on his side. My family is split. I’m starting to doubt that I’m on the right side of this argument. AITA?

Tl;dr: my husband wants to move countries for his job. This would mean giving up my career. I said I don’t want to do that. My husband says I’m prioritizing my career over his. 