So my fiancée and I have been together almost 4 years now and we are getting ready to plan a wedding. The thing is that we cannot afford it. I make good money but she doesn’t and, while we live comfortably, we aren’t able to really save much money (other than my 401k). 

So we are heading to the grocery store and she brings up that if we save $300 a month for the next year and a half, we should have close to $10k. Then we can just take a loan out for the rest. I said, absolutely not, I refuse to take a loan out for a one day event. She then got defensive and brought up that we paid $6000 for a fence, and I shot that down as an argument. 

After going back and forth I said we are not having a wedding we can’t afford, if we don’t have the money, we don’t have the wedding. Now she isn’t talking to me and has been in the bedroom for the last 3 hours. 