So a little bit of backstory, I guess. Me and my girlfriend of about two days had made out a couple times before we started dating but nothing too far because I wanted to wait until we were actually dating until anything more happened. So after a couple of days into our relationship I finally made a move and went down on her. I don’t mind too much if they’re not shaved down there, as it’s enjoyable either way, but I do have a preference towards shaving bc it feels a bit cleaner. After the event, I told her I thought it was important to communicate about things and preferences in bed, and asked her if she would ever consider shaving down there.

The mood immediately changed and she became pretty angry saying that she took offense to me telling her what to do with her body and that it was her right to do what she pleased with it. I agreed with her and tried pointing out that it was just a suggestion and I didnt mind too much either way, but I did have a preference, but she still seemed pretty upset.

Later, she texted me saying that it was “rude” and “disrespectful” that I had asked her to shave especially after the first time I had seen her naked/done stuff. 

I guess I can see why suggesting it could make her uncomfortable, but I think it’s important to have these talks and open communication especially about sex.  So AITA?

TLDR: first time I went down on my gf I asked if she would consider shaving and she didn’t like that