So I recently studied abroad in Europe, and even though I learned a lot of good things, one not so good thing I picked up is smoking the occasional cigarette. And by occasional, I mean no more than once a month, usually only when I’ve been drinking and that doesn’t happen often. 

My girlfriend, for obvious reasons, is not a fan of this habit. She’s worried about the health implications, which I understand, and she also doesn’t like the smell it leaves behind. I always explain to her that one reason I like them is because I’m pretty introverted so when we’re at bars or parties, it gives me a nice excuse to step outside and have a moment by getting away from music and people. As for the health stuff, I don’t really feel like it’s making a big impact as little as I smoke them, and I point out to her that if I got drunk every weekend that would probably kill me faster but she wouldn’t have a problem with it. 

She’s still not okay with it and has caused a couple disagreements. I’ve already promised her that if it got to the point I was craving one when I wasn’t drinking or started smoking more often than I am now, I would give them up but until then I don’t see the problem. Am I the asshole for not listening to her and quitting?