Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : My fiancé came from a pretty difficult childhood home. His parents fought a lot, and eventually divorced. His father was an alcoholic and kind of just asshole-y in general, but he’s not the reason for my post. His mother has always been extremely neurotic: high strung, always frantic, very very very set in a routine, socially awkward, paranoid, easily angered, etc etc. I love her dearly regardless of her quirks, but I cannot even imagine having to live in the same house with her for 18 years.

The other night my fiancé and I are talking about something crazy she did, which lead to us talking about the crazy stuff she did when he was younger. He referenced excessive cleaning and counting her silverware nightly. I asked him if he ever considered that she (and her very similar sister) could be high-functioning autistics, and he said he never really thought of that before, but 100% agreed that all of her personality traits pointed to it. I told him as soon as I met them it seemed obvious to me. I was very careful and gentle with my words, as to not seem pushy or insulting. The conversation ended but not at all on bad terms.

The next day when he got home from work he mentioned that he’d been thinking a lot about what I said and that it hit him hard. He said he felt very guilty about getting mad at her so often in his youth if she really had a disorder. I told him I hoped that I didn’t come off too strongly or upset him in some way and he said I definitely didn’t, I just made him think. Regardless, I feel bad that I just potentially completely changed his view on his relationship with his mother. AITA?