I'm on mobile, I'll try to make it easy to read.

A bit of background. Since my kid was born 3 years and a few months ago I have felt nothing but dread every time my husband tries to make a move on me. I went 2 of those years without being diagnosed with PPD, making taking care of my child a nightmare, let alone the little time I had for myself well...also a nightmare. i started getting treatment after a huge meltdown in November 2016. This resulted in me being diagnosed bipolar 2 and most recently borderline personality disorder. 

I'm extremely difficult to deal with and I will be forever grateful to my husband for being there for me. However, back when we were dating there was a period when we were living in different countries and signs of an unhealthy relationship started showing. I tried to break it off because I didn't believe in LDR, he would say he couldn't live without me, so he would guilt me into staying with him. I'm talking 2011. Sorry, I digress, but I feel it's meaningful. (We got married in 2012 btw).


Back to the present. We had my parents over for a few months (this is not uncommon where I'm from) and them helping with the kid (great since I'm not that motherly even though I love the kid) made me feel great and gave me an awesome excuse not to have sex with my husband (not to mention our baby still sleeps with us), but when they left he started expecting us to get intimate again. I don't want him anymore. I love him as the father of my kid but I just...it doesn't work. He's controlling, expects to control my bank account. If I have any friends he expects me to see them home so he can see them (even if he does disappear a couple of days a week for hours and I don't inquire). If I'm on my phone he expects me to tell him who I'm talking to. I recently removed his fingerprint from my phone and he got all suspicious.


I feel awful. I'm not working at the moment so he has all this power over me, which he enjoys. I don't know what to do. AITA for wanting to file for divorce ASAP and taking my kid to another country? There are other causes for my wanting to divorce him I can't mention here, per subreddit rules. Real shitty ones.