Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have a 28 year old older sister who is....a shit show. I’m 25, also female, and we have never gotten along. She is very impulsive and spoiled. We had a similar upbringing but I had her as a role model of all the things I didn’t want to be. I’m also currently in therapy for setting boundaries because I always end up being my family’s janitor (I have to solve everyone’s problems). But anyways, her life is always in crisis mode due to her lack of planning.

Well anyways, my sister and her boyfriend broke up on friday and my parents called and demanded offer her a place to stay. She has not talked to me in a few months because she is mad at me, so I said I am happy to host her as long as she is mature enough to call me herself instead of going through our parents. Parents and her complied.

Anyways, she has to move out of her boyfriends house and of course i get a call this morning from my parents saying they are in the city to help her move and I need to join. I work from home and it is very important to me to maintain a schedule. I also have been unable to work for two weeks because I was recovering from a minor surgery.

So I tell my parents no, and they start saying “you can miss work”. I say “I won’t see you before five, and after work I am walking the dog”. But now they have just called me again to renegotiate and say they are here all the way from home (2hr away - I usually go home once a month) and they want to see me, oh and also they need help unloading. Then when I say I can meet for dinner after walking the dog they say I’m full of excuses!

Yes, I don’t really like my older sister, but I think the real problem is that she’s 28 and has been taught that it doesn’t matter how much of a mess she lets her life become because my parents or me will always be there to break her fall. Why not just let her struggle so she learns to do better in the future??

Simple example, she makes the same salary I did when I worked an office job. In the three years I had it I was able to save $35k to take a few years off to focus on music. She has had the same type of job as me and has nothing in savings because she goes out drinking and to concerts every weekend. I don’t care that she does this, but then she always complains about not having money. So my parents come help her move because she’s “broke” and then she signs a new lease for a place that costs triple ($1800/mo) what she was just living in!

Maybe Im wrong, I usually try and manange my problems by myself as much as I can. I could easily rent a uhaul myself, or if I did need help, I would at least assure that the people helping were okay with the timeline!

I just feel like my parents enable her and I shouldn’t be expected to participate in this. But everyone in my family resoundingly thinks IATA. AITA? 

**TL;DR:** sister and parents expect me to stop what I’m doing in middle of work day to help sister move on a whim.