Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : SO and I are both atheists and have Saturday through Tuesday off for the holidays. His parents tends to go a little too hard for the Christian holidays and have four separate events (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) lined up between lunch on Monday and dinner on Tuesday. The events include him, his parents, and x family member (maternal grandparents, paternal grandparents, family friends, etc). 

I was not raised to celebrate Christmas, so I don't and his parents know this. I haven't attended any of their religious holiday celebrations before, but they specifically asked for me this time (text: "Make sure you \[SO\] and Creative\_Accident123 are on time!")

SO says I don't need to go. He's only going to avoid drama by skipping out on a major, religious holiday, but I have no obligation to his family. In addition, his extended family is weird about people of color and I don't want to put myself in that position again (the first and last family meeting was not favorable). 

I'm leaving to visit my own family Saturday/Sunday, then driving back Monday morning. I was planning on relaxing before going back to a hectic three day workweek playing catch up at end-of-month (generally hectic in my field). Turning around and going to spend the next 48 hours with HIS family just sounds exhausting. 

I mentioned to a co-worker that I was spending Christmas Eve/Christmas Day at home, alone, relaxing with my animals instead of with his family. She caused a stir about how disrespectful I'm being regarding the situation (she knows I'm in a LTR w/ SO) and how I should be celebrating with them. I was confused, so I reached out to a few friends for their opinions. All but one agreed that I should go to at least one event and keep up appearances, even if I don't like them and it will be tiring. 

AITA for not going at all? I sent cards to his parents and grandparents. I chipped in for the presents he got them. I just don't feel the need to start pretend celebrating a holiday just for these people. There's not a sign in our home that we acknowledge Christmas. The only presents being wrapped this month are going directly to his family. 

If it was just drinks and laughs, I'd go. It's serious, somber, lots of praying and being thankful for Jesus/Christ/God/Bible/religion basically.