My husband (31M) and I (29F) have been married 4yrs, together 11yrs and have a 3 y.o. child. Bit of background with both of us, he's an only child with a pretty stable upbringing (loving parents, no traumas etc) whereas I grew up with screaming parents that hated each other, being beaten all the time by my mother because it reminded her of my dad and pretty much no inkling of stability. I have promised myself then when I do become a mother I will never raise my child like how I was raised.

Fast forward to having the 3rd member of our family...my pregnancy was smooth, no complications and I didnt really hate being pregnant. What traumatized me was post birth, recovery and basically the next 2.5yrs of the child's upbringing. Probably TMI but I had significant tearing, hemorrhoids, couldnt breastfeed, sleep deprived for 2yrs, my husband could not tolerate the sleep deptivation so he took it out on me and basically no support from either family which made me feel really lonely. This along with my childhood I guess had led me to being diagnosed with clinical severe depression and anxiety which I have been battling by the scrape of my teeth (some days I just dont want to live on this Earth).

All of that has led me deciding to not having any more children as I dont want to deal with all that trauma again, whereas my husband wants otherwise. Essentially I will be the main caregiver (unless he grows a vagina and a pair of boobs to keep it alive). I told him what I've mentioned here but he's adamant it'll be different the next round because that's what everyone's been telling him and it'll be good for our 3 y.o. to have a sibling.

AITA here or should I compromise????