Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Actually it's more AWTAs for not wanting him there. My girlfriend and I are getting married in May. We're having a very small, informal wedding. It's maybe one step up from eloping. We'll have personal friends, my Mom, Dad, brother, brother's fiance, my girlfriend's Mom, and her sister. Altogether, less than 15 people, all of whom we're close to. Hell, even the officiating minister is a personal friend! My girlfriend's mom and sister live across the country, as do some of the friends of ours that are coming. So, it's a big deal that they'll be here and we want it to be a good day of good memories, surrounded by those we love. All well and good. 

Except her sister has this boyfriend. And she claims that oh, he's the one, he's super special. Just like all the others. The girl goes through boyfriends and fiances like most people go through underwear. We've never met this guy, never even talked to him on the phone. I've never even see a picture of him. I'm sure he's fine, despite the fact that he's also an addict. But we don't want someone we don't know at what is essentially a small family gathering with a wedding thrown in. Now, if we were having a big to-do with like 100 people in a rented public space, fine, whatever, she can bring the past 5 boyfriends plus the next prospective one if she likes. But, we don't think it's appropriate for this and we don't want him here. 

When my gf told her sister this, she was extremely upset and didn't talk to her for a while. Her sister and her don't always get along and have a shaky relationship at best, so this was not unforeseen, but still upsetting for my gf. But now, the sister has entered phase two of her plan to strong-arm the boyfriend into our wedding. She decided she and her boyfriend are going to make a trip of it, with our wedding being just one stop on their cross country journey. So, the guy is gonna be here, in town. And not at our wedding. This seems VERY shitty to me that the sister is putting both us AND her boyfriend in this situation, but, that's what she's doing. It is, quite obviously, a new tactic to making us let him come. I mean how cruel must we be to make him sit in his hotel room all by himself while we're having our wedding? Is what she is going for with this. 

Frankly, I'm impressed that she'd plan a road-trip out of spite. But, she did. Are we the assholes for not wanting him there in the first place and even more so for standing firm and letting the  boyfriend chill at his hotel while the sister attends our wedding?