Basically, my birthday came to pass. I have several friends who I thought were close. On my birthday, only my immediate family remembered and said anything, other than one of my close friends P. Well, come to find out, my fiance had messaged P the night before to remind her. I only found that out today and I'm actually more hurt by this than I was originally by no one telling me.

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I know there are a million reasons to forget a birthday, and I don't think any of them are assholes, but I feel like I'm being an asshole by making a big deal out of it and by caring so much, because I know it shouldn't matter really. P doesn't know I know she was reminded, and I didn't really say anything about it to anyone else, though I did express to my brother and my fiance how much it really is bothering me. My mom told me I was being an asshole by talking about it so much and I should move on, that she and my dad never celebrate their birthdays and stuff like that. 

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I don't know, am I an asshole for being so bothered by this? Or am I an asshole because I bring it up? 