Background info: I’m in college and my dorm is a suite with a common area, with an attached bathroom, it’s important to add the bathroom has a stall with a toilet and a shower without a stall, 2 rooms with 2 people each in them (So 4 suite mates total, with 2 per room). The person I share a room with will be roommate and the person I share a suite with will be suite mate. This will be important later. 

My roommate told me last year that she was sexually assaulted by her ex boyfriend/fiancé (it got confusing towards the end). I won’t go too much into this, it’s a long very confusing story/ies, but the point is she says they had sex and after, she felt like she had been violated. And I believed her whole heartedly and promised to kick the ass of anyone who tries to hurt her again. This event causes her having a lot of trust issues with men and dating in general. Then she got a boyfriend, and I thought YAY! Because this means she gaining her trust back with men, and he seemed nice. 

Then one night, one of my suite mates tried to go the bathroom very late at night, think 2:30am. When she got to the door, it was locked. Something that’s never done unless one of us is getting in the shower, and that’s only for a couple of seconds. She knocked to see who was in there because she couldn’t hear the shower. My roommates boyfriend opened the door and when my suite mate looked inside the bathroom, my roommate was on the floor, half naked, trying to make herself throw up. 

When my suite mate told me this the next day, I was mad, concerned and so upset I was crying. After this incident we (my suite mates and I) told her, the boyfriend is no longer allowed in the room, at all. He had broken my trust in a way he cannot regain it easily. We explained to her that it looked creepy and like he was trying to hide something from us, or he could’ve been trying to assault her, and if he hadn’t opened the door on his own, it would’ve been physically impossible for us to open the door quickly (important note: the door on the bathroom is a pull door, with something on it so you cannot pick the lock, we don’t have keys and the door is about an inch thick). 

Now my roommate seems annoyed that I don’t want him in the room at all. And I want to know, am I the asshole for telling my roommate her boyfriend cannot come into the room? 