Me (F19) and some friends (about the same age) were meeting up to catch up on our lives. The plan was to get together at around 5pm at the subway station nearest to my appartment (roughly 30min walk). This was arranged by one friend, N (F18), so that I could guide her to the place and not get lost.

Most were already on their way, and when I got there at about 5pm, only N was missing. At 5.30pm, I sent a message, asking her where she was. Two stations away, she said, so we waited. Another fifteen minutes go by and she's nowhere to be seen. I asked her again and she said she was on her way to her home to leave the things she'd bought.

I though, "What the hell?" and asked her what she meant. N told me she'd gone to the mall and bought some clothes she needed, and was gonna go back home to leave them. I got mad, so I told her "But its going to take you at least an hour and a half to get here!" to which she replied, "just wait for me, I 'll be there".

I was furious and asked her why she'd done that, and told me she bought some stuff for her appartment that she needed. I asked my friends if they would mind waiting for her, and decided we would.

Twenty minutes go by and I receive one last message from N, saying she was exhausted and wouldn't meet with us. I sent her "Ok, then we're leaving for the appartment. This is the adress if you change your mind. But, for the next time, be respectful with other people's schedules and tell us if you had to do something beforehand. What you just did is messed up."

I locked my phone and began walking to the appartment with my friends. When we got there, I check my phone and there are at least 20 new messages from N.

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N: I didn't expect this from you. I hurried up, have blisters on my feet for running and you don't even care for my efforts. I always put up with you and you can't even wait for me.

Me: It is basic human decency to arrive on time. And don't you dare to forget that we set the time to be 5pm because of you. You can't go around changing the time when you feel like it.

N: When I feel like it? You don't even understand what I've been through, so keep on living in your perfect fantasy world with no money issues, no depression, with appliances that do everything for you and a family that loves you. You are incredibly stupid for not even having the decency to guide me to your appartment when you know I've only been living in this city for a week.

And then she blocked me.

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I'm aware that I've had a pretty assholish behavior in the past and that what she said could make some sense. We aren't rich, but we don't struggle much. I moved to this city about a year ago from a place where you could get everywhere by walking, and I got used to it just fine. She did the same, a year after, and has only been here for a week, so maybe I'm really not putting myself in her place and I was the one who did something wrong.

I just don't know what to think anymore.

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Am I the asshole here?