Some background first; I play indoor football/soccer. You play with 5 players to a side. My team comprises of a group of 8 or 9 friends and we play on a weekly basis. We're not good, but neither do we suck. This year we're not doing so well. Some of the players have sustained injuries and as a result we're always a bit short on active players.

Last week we had a very important match. We had to win in order to prevent us from being demoted to a lower league. In the days running up to the match it became clear that we would only have 5 players, which means we wouldn't have a sub. A tough situation, as opposing teams generally have 3 subs, but manageable.

On the day of the match one of the players-who consequently is also the guy who is our "coach" sent a text message 1 hour before the game would commence. The message was posted in our group chat and basically stated that he couldn't make the game, as he was still in a theater watching a movie. All other players reacted incredulously, after which the guy said he'd try to make it. He made it clear though via his text messages that he thought we were in the wrong for being pissed at him.

As a result of all this we had to start the match with 4 players, so 1 player short of a full team. I also had to make the arrangements with the ref (registering players), pick up the jerseys etc. After about 5 minutes of playing the guy who was at the theater angrily barged in, stepped onto the field, and played the rest of the game with us (we won by the way).

After the match I approached my team mate and told him that when you play a team sport you cannot just plan a theater visit and only notify the rest 1 hour beforehand. And especially not when you're the coach. He got pissed off, saying he actually took his new date to the cinema and this totally trumped him having to play football with us. He also said I shouldn't complain "because in the end I was there, right"?

Now I'm wondering; am I the asshole here getting annoyed with my team mate and confronting him, or am I in the right?

TL;DR&gt; my team mate planned to leave the team hanging during an important football match, eventually did show up after we complained, and now he says I'm the asshole for confronting him about it afterwards.