To understand this topic you'd have to understand my background. Im a 27 year old male, and I expect the best out of myself. Many people are afraid of appearing arrogant so they downplay themselves, I hate that. I keep in very good shape, and I have a promising career as an executive in the plastics industry.

I have little trouble finding women, but in my life ive only had two "girlfriends". Each of my previous girlfriends didnt last longer than eight months, and each ended on a bad note.

For intimacy I keep a social circle of younger women who I meet casually for dates and/or sex. However as I get older and I approach the big "three zero" I desire a real relationship. I want a wife and kids.

But I also have trust issues due to my past relationships, and my high standards. So I have developed a "screening" process to pull women in my casual circle closer to me, amd test the waters on whether theyre someone I want to be with forever.

I mostly already know where these women live and work, but I dont know "what" they do. I record the make and model of their vehicles and follow them around discreetly to see what theyre really doing. One woman who claimed to be a full time nail technician is actually unemployed and lives with her parents.

I also use the web to find information and use a third party for this. Another claimed to run her own fashion label but is actually just an amazon dropshipper for womens jeans.

There have been times that women will see other men, which is fine in and of itself as we're not committed, but the men they see have extensive criminal records and unpaid debts.

I do these screenings to make sure theyre ready for long term commitments and arent just after my money. My sister thinks that I should just go with my gut instinct instead of screening them, just follow my heart. But that seems illogical as I dont know whats in their hearts. AITA?