Hear me out. I care about my coworkers, and we are friends outside of work, I care about her baby as well and I’m so excited for her and her family. We work with children, and our kids attend our work. I was invited to her gender reveal, and she kept bringing it up and asking why I wasn’t coming. I finally said that it’s just not my thing. She was upset with me, and told everyone at work I am selfish and I don’t care about her. Made me wonder...am I the asshole? When I was pregnant I chose not to find out the baby’s sex before birth, so it’s just not a priority for me. I fully intend to go to her baby shower, just not interested in a gender reveal. I can tell it upset her, and the gender is very important to her. She also planned my work shower, so I feel extra bad. Am I the asshole?