Bit of backstory.

My wife’s family are the definition of toxic. They’re self centered, self serving, low intelligence, hate speech spewing. “Family
Over everything” because they heard it in a movie once, garbage people.

After 10 longyears I’ve finally made her see the toxicity that these people really are and visits have become scarce. 

They all revolve around “grams house”. And gram has been sick for the last 8 months. Triple-bypass, lungsfilling up with fluid and so on. Gram is obviously dying.

Now Gram for the most part is a good person, she raised the 6 kids that have caused all the toxicity but I’ll let that go. 

So we got a call last night that gram is most likely not going to live thru the next 2 days. My personal opinion is good. Let her die, she’s 95 years old and still babysits 4 kids that these scumbags just dump on her because they don’t wanna be bothered. She’s still paying for her genuinely medically diagnosed lunatic daughter living in the house. And her absolutely vile human being of a son who just mooches. And every time he’s threatened to be thrown out, he just holds onto the “mom won’t let you” card. And he wins. 

Now I’m sitting in the hospital waiting room, my wife is in the icu with her grandmother, and she’s found out that her mother and uncle have decided gram should die at home. But they’re not telling anyone. 

Mind you the 29 year old grandson who’s given up his whole life to take care of his grandmother lives there as well. Pays his own way and has taken care of gram, crazy daughter (his mom) and scumbag son (uncle) his whole life.  He’s supposed to get the house after she dies. But if she dies in the house he’ll have to disclose it to every potential buyer (we live in a state with that law), have to clean up the mess, and have to deal with his crazy mother losing her shit because she saw her mother dead. 

But thru all this, I just don’t give a fuck. I’m here for my wife because she needs support, but
Even that is hard to muster sometimes. Most of
The support she needs is to deal with her scum bag family. I told her that the second I see her being dragged into drama, I’m physically pulling her out of it and we’re leaving. 

TL:DR - wife’s grandma is dying and I genuinely don’t care

Am I the asshole? 