Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Background: I have a really good friend, almost like a younger sibling to me. They have recently had an extremely close relative die, and are struggling quite a bit with it. Think nuclear family member. I'd like to keep the exact relation vague, but will provide it if needed. I live across the country from them (US) and I know I'm about all the support system they have. Parents are jerks, SO is pretty self-centered, and not a lot of close friends.

It should be blatantly obvious that I should make myself available for calls and such for a while, and help them out.

However, this friend calls me about every bit of drama they have. SO issues, family issues, work issues, mental health issues... you get the picture. Meanwhile, I feel like the support goes one way sometimes. I have been able to share some of my problems with this friend, but I have to ask for the time focused on me, whereas it feels like they just assume I am available to lend an ear at any given time.

I have a lot going on personally right now, and am honestly exhausted emotionally. I also know that this particular case is not just drama for my friend, but a genuinely horrible experience. I've lost someone of this particular relation myself, and I know not having a support system is horrible. But I just mentally and emotionally don't have the energy to deal with their pain right now.

Would I being a self-centered asshole if I don't make myself available much when my friend needs me right now?