So, this is not exactly about me, is about my best friend.
She, let's call her May, has been in a relationship with a guy (let's call him Josh) for over a year. The first few months went pretty well, they seemed pretty happy and everything went cool. After the third month, he started behaving really strange. Josh started not caring about her feelings and ignoring her when May had depressive episode.
May told him that she went through a lot of shit and needed him to help her out, bc she wouldn't be able to go through this without anyone (she moved from his hometown, so she didn't had any friends there). And there is went shit went wild.
Josh started saying that her depressive episodes wasn't his fault, and that was something she had to deal with. Josh told her that he was also in love with his ex, who died a year before they started, and talking a lot of shit about May. She didn't like that too much, but she was still in love with him.
This had gone for over 10 months, and they broke up and went together again like 9 times. So, as time went by, May realized that he was a dick, and started hitting back. She told John that he could go fuck his ex, that maybe his favourite movie was Corpse Bride, telling him to shut the fuck up when he started complaining about her crying bc of stress.
As today, they are still together, bc she isn't able to let him go, as she is still in love with him.
Also, it seems like Josh cheated on May, several times. One day, he started making out with his bestfriend, a 6,1 guy. They both are straight... Or that's what they say.
Anyways, the question is:
Is she the asshole for fucking around with him, making the death of his ex into a joke, telling him that he's not a musician bc he only can play indie (that's more like an inside joke, so he still doesn't get it yet) and telling him that he's a fucking weeb bc he says that his favourite serie is Evangelion (understandable) and that serie had done more for him than anyone in this world (fucking weeb).
Or
Is he the asshole for playing with her feelings, not caring enough about her having depressive episodes, trying to make her jealous with his death ex, and manipulating her constantly?