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I played lords mobile a few months ago and I joined this clan. As it is a pay to win type game my wife only let me spend 15 a week which I used mostly on heroes. This allowed me to get moderately powerful and I made a few friends. I met this dude (I am assuming he is a he and not the she he said and we will get to why later it’s important) who posing as a female (again assumed) recruited me to his guild out of mine. 

He attracted me with saying he was good friends with the top guild protection yada yada. And did pretty good Sith Lord role play which I found entertaining so I joined. He was overly flirtatious and after I joined the line app group he/she decided to try to keep me from going else where by giving himself/herself to me and sent me supposed pics of herself. 

Before even thinking about reverse image I could tell things were amiss as the images were not of the same person. Not to say the bodies weren’t similar but my suspicion was confirmed when reverse image look up showed was a rips from two different Swedish instagrammers and he/she claimed to live in Florida. 

Now I admit I didn’t tell my wife what I found or what was happening and I regret that but essentially I decided to play along but worked in the back ground to destabilize the guild. 

Read:I made a dummy account and through it fed her details to bad guys and generally did what I could to destroy her as by the end it came out she was doing this to like 9 other people and would commonly just send out straight porn and claim it was her (no face, but I will say he learned how to gain and lose a tan fast) my wife says i crossed a line even though I didn’t send pics I just sent words.

I showed her all the conversations and my evidence that manipulation was at hand and that I was merely enjoying the mind games cause I am a truck driver and traffic makes me feel like being evil sometimes but we disagree on what we call it. She admitted she knows I’d never do anything physical but she think I went to far with the ruse and I should have called him on his bs and moved on. 

I stopped playing lord’s mobile since and behave. The wife has forgiven me but we are working to rebuild trust. 

So Reddit, am I the asshole?