Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My daughters are in a wedding of people they don't know as flower girls, even though both my wife and I don't want them to be. The reason for this is poor communication between my wife and her mother. The bride is the daughter of my MIL's friend and coworker, and the two of them came up with this idea and think it's a great idea. When given the chance to say no, my wife did this thing where all she does is express her reservations without actually saying no. Therefore, my MIL ran with the idea. So by the time I found out about it, it was a done deal as far as the people in the wedding were concerned.

This was months ago. Obviously, I could have said no, but it would have required a direct confrontation and cause tension between my wife and her mother. Part of me wanted to say no anyway. The whole situation makes me uncomfortable. I don't know anyone that would want strangers in their wedding, so I'm leery of these people that apparently do. I also feel like we're being taken advantage of. My daughters are essentially performing a modeling gig but receiving no compensation. In fact, we were expected to pay for their dresses (MIL took care of it). Lastly, and most or least importantly depending on whether you ask me or my wife, our alma mater is playing in a football game this weekend that I would only gladly miss for close friends and family. So, while I had plenty of reason to say no and would have been within my rights to do so when I first heard about all of this, I decided on balance, the best thing to do was to keep the peace. After all, it's only an hour on Friday night for the rehearsal and another couple of hours on a Saturday. Not that big of a deal.

Cut to this Monday, with the wedding a mere 5 days away, we get an invitation in the mail. Come to find out, the wedding is an hour and a half away. This is going to take away our entire Friday night and all of Saturday afternoon. Had I known this in the first place, I would have shut this whole thing down months ago.

So, WIBTA if, upon learning this new information, I cancelled the week of the wedding? On one hand, it's obviously wrong that we're just finding out about this. On the other, the poor communication is almost certainly not the bride's fault, and I feel like cancelling would cause her more stress than anyone.