Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I live in an expensive part of the country and work a stressful demanding job to pay my bills and have enough left over to save.  This is often 50 hrs a week waking up around 4:30-5 most morning to get to work.



My GF on the other hand has a job that is not as stressful and pays minimal.  She complains about issues with the job, lack of pay, financial hardships, etc.  I have tried to help her get the idea that she needs a new job since the existing one is stressful and not allowing her to get ahead.  She doesnt want to work in an office, she is not entertaining the idea of a union construction job, and wont find more hours at where she is at now.  My opinion is work is not always fulfilling and can often be a grind.  However, you need to put in the time to do things like pay off debts, to travel, and to have nice things.   


She currently lives with her parents but they are looking to move and she will be left stuck here with little options.  I am wary of letting her move in because she is not financially independent.  I dont think it is fair to the relationship to put that stress on it.  Say we dont work out then her moving out means living on the streets.  That is incentive for her to stay in an unhappy relationship and also puts me in a bind if i realize this relationship is not going to work out.  We have been dating for a handful of months.  Am I the asshole for not letting my girlfriend move in?? 