Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : AITA for telling my mom she can’t smoke weed while she takes care of my kid?  I am pro-legalization.  I am fine with her doing whatever she wants any other time, she is an adult and can make her own decisions.  Neither my husband nor I have ever smoked or done any other drugs, but my whole family smokes weed regularly and sees nothing wrong with it.  

My mom is a very responsible person, and loves my child (1.5) to death.  She likes watching her overnight a  couple times a month. I thought that it was common sense to not smoke around children (second hand smoke, impaired judgement, etc) so I didn’t think it was necessary to lay out ground rules.  But as I was unpacking her clothes one day after a sleepover I smelt a strong weed smell and saw an ash/burn mark on her jammies.  My kid was on the path to adoption, but still in foster care at the time.  She was born addicted and had a very hard time withdrawing from her bio mother’s bad decisions.  All this paired with being an over protective new mom made me furious.  I called my mother and straight up asked if she smoked near my child, and she immediately admitted she smoked while holding my sleeping baby to help her relax.  She said she knew she shouldn’t have, and will never do it again.  I told her what would happen if she did, which included her visits being monitored and supervised.   She made no excuses and was so scared to lose contact with us.  During the conversation we also discussed that she needs to store her stash somewhere no child can get it.  A few months went by and my husband and I agreed that we felt comfortable again with sleepovers.  But every time she comes back her clothes smell of weed.   Mom’s house and vehicle does have a lingering weed smell pretty much constantly, and I realize the lingering smell can soak into her clothes and it doesn’t necessarily mean mom is smoking while taking care of her.  But ya’ll, the smell is pretty strong.   I want to get along with my mom and she really is an overall positive influence in my child’s life. But I cannot overlook this.  I think if I asked mom about it again that she would lie because she knows what will happen if she admits to it again.  Am I being overly paranoid about the risks of being under the influence of weed while taking care of children?  