Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My mother-in-law was baiting my four year old daughter into saying things she didn't want her to say and then threatening to go home when my daughter gave her the answer she knew she would get to the question. That's the TL:DR version.

The longer version is that my niece is going through a biting stage right now and bit my daughter last weekend when they were at my house. They came back for Christmas, and now my daughter remembers that her little cousin bit her and doesn't want to play with her. My wife and I are working with her to get over it and explaining that she's been bitten before and that her cousin didn't mean anything by it, she's just going through a phase and learning that it isn't ok. Understandably, in my opinion, my daughter isn't understanding that yet. Afterall, she's only four. This morning, my mother-in-law asked if she wanted to play with her cousin today, and she said no. As she's said every other day that she's been here since she got bitten. My mother-in-law then said she was going to go home if my daughter couldn't be nice. I got upset by that, but knowing that my wife was on the way home, I just told her about it and decided to let her take care of it when she got here. Then a few minutes later she asked why my daughter wasn't happy. I told her it was probably something to do with the fact that you told her you were going home for, in the four year old's mind, no reason. Then a few minutes later she is asking her more questions about why she doesn't want to play with her cousin and my daughter keeps telling her it's because she doesn't want her to bite her again. My mother-in-law keeps asking like she hopes the answer is going to change and I can tell my daughter is getting frustrated, so I snapped and told her in a not so nice tone of voice that it was because her cousin bit her and she doesn't want it to happen again. Now everybody, including my wife, is pissed at me, and I'm hanging out in the basement doing house work instead of spending time with my family. My wife is upset because she thinks I'm intentionally upsetting her family every time they come over because her sister got upset with me a few weeks ago and said I yelled at her when I answered the same question for the fifth time in a row.

I told my wife I would apologize, but honestly don't feel like I did anything wrong. So, am I the asshole?