To preface, I had a best friend, call her Sarah. A girl best friend who I'm sure you all can follow the train of events to realize she had friend-zoned me. We were good friends for about 4-5 years. That's enough of that, I never spoke about my feeling to her nor her to me. It was something of an agreement. I lied to myself that I had lost feeling for her. Moving on, I met this wonderful girl from the other high school in my county, call her Erin. We hit it off and had the best of chemistry. We got together.  However, there are always these little indications that I still had feelings for my Sarah, I brushed them off. Erin picked up on them she went along though. We had some spats about it with me always saying "I have no feelings for her" you know the usual.  Well, it comes time for me and Sarah to go to college. Erin (where she was so small as a child was held back) had one more year left. Well, its the last weeks of August. Football season starts. Erin goes to our Highschools' rivalry game. There she sees multiple people who all said the same thing that I love Sarah. She finally broke and said I need to cool off on messaging Sarah. Well, I did for a week, I even informed Sarah about it. Then Sarah begins to get upset. It goes into an entire day of me trying to compromise between the two and being accused of supporting the other. It ended with Erin and I together and me removing Sarah from my life. I didn't want to lose either. However, I had to pick. Love or friendship. Erin made me write a scathing message to Sarah, which I regretted. I'd later delete all correspondence between Sarah and I. That would prove an issue when I had no proof.  

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Later I would be accused of talking to Sarah again. Apparently, she had messaged my girlfriend's friend, Jennifer, and said we still stay in touch. May God strike me dead as I'm typing this I never came into contact with Sarah since that day in August. That was a fight, I should've handled better. 

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Fast forward, now some 6 months later. Erin and I have had some ups and down. However, all-in-all we're great. We quite honestly make a 4 1/2 hour drive up and down our state work! We talk all the time. She's still the girl of my dreams. I've completely lost all care for Sarah. She messaged me once, while on a date with Erin. I let Erin blast into her, as me. She was on a different number is how she was able to message me.  

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Then today "She" messages me. I am stricken by her apologetic words.. It was only inevitable she'd message me. There were messages of "You owe me at least this" and "Would you really do this for all those years of friendship," "I'm just here to apologize." I told my girlfriend she had messaged me. She said she trusted me to handle it. Then Erin had a change of heart and said not to. I said to let this be the test of how far I've came. She said no the test is for me not to message Sarah. Well, I had already had my thoughts piqued and thought whats the issue in at least giving quarter to someone and hearing them out. I'll listen to Sarah then Erin can say I can't talk to her anymore, everything will be fine...I'll have closure.   Well she goes to apologize. Sarah says she wants her best friend back. I explain my logic why it weighed on Erin and that I loved someone else. It truly did hurt her. Sarah seems to understand. I ask about why she messaged Erin's friend and she said she really thought I would leave Erin for her. I tell her to prove that she's serious delete the messages up. She shows me a screenshot of said messages deleted. She then reiterates she wants her best friend back I say I need time I do forgive her though. 

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Then, it all falls apart. Turns out it was Jennifer messaging with Erin sitting in the car watching me message "Sarah." I am then accused of lying, again, and now I'm blocked from everything. 

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Am I the asshole? 

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\* I know I wasn't supposed to lie to my girlfriend. The guilt I had of not hearing Sarah out was biting at me though; just out of respect to our old friendship. 

\*\*If this goes big and some youtube is going to do a reading of r/AmItheAsshole please refrain from reading mine.   