We’ve been dating for 3 months. She’s an accomplished academician and was born very wealthy. I am an entrepreneur who is doing alright and looking to grow my business. She’s based in North America and I am based in Asia. A long distance relationship.

In the course of a casual late night chat over text, I was posed a question of, what would I do if I’m rich. I responded that my immediate blood family comes first, I will like to provide a comfortable life for my parents. I then said that I would love to enjoy the luxury of traveling and eating well.

She asked , “what about me?”. My immediate response in verbatim was, “you? You have plenty of money you don’t need any money from me.” This was immediately followed up with a serious response, “ if I can afford to, I’ll love to fly to visit you more often.” 

She is very upset and unable to get over the fact I ‘joked’ about her not needing money. This is despite my reassurances that that was not the crux of the message and it was intended as a light hearted jab to her family and personal background. In the course of our relationship, I have never once let her wealthy background or personal finances come between us. I am generous by nature and offer to pay for all dates and outings and she does acknowledge and offer to split every time.

I apologized for getting her upset. She accepted my apology but is insistent that I should not have said that she’s rich and doesn’t need my money. AITA here?