Ok, so story goes like this and I’m gonna cut out all unnecessary details. All that needs to be said is that my grandmother died yesterday, and my sister has severe depression, was going to practice a presentation for the family but backed out last minute.my parents get upset saying why did we get together if you’re not going to present (this was a planned meeting and would have happened regardless, a fact which my sister did bring up) and my sister started to break down. Again, severe depression.

So it turns into a huge fiasco,mostly my parents saying “Calm down or we’ll punish you.” And that understandably making my sister more upset. It ends with my dad going up to bed and my mom saying “I just wanted this to be about you’re father, who puts so much into this family, to have some condolences for his mom who died yesterday.” That wasn’t exactly what she said, she tried to phrase it like we (my sister and I) purposely derailed to conversation to be about my sister, when it was very clear that that was anything but what my sister wanted.

Cue apparently asshole me, who says “well if you wanted us to ask dad about how he was feeling, and wanted us to console him, why did you decide to make the entire conversation about my sister?”

I never got a response, so instead of relying on my mom to answer me, I’ve decided to ask all you lovely and callous Redditors, AITA for point out a double standard?