My boyfriend and I were having a fun night together before he leaves on a trip. We were dancing around our living room when he stops and looks at me and asks if I’d ever had braces as a kid. I told him no and he smirks and says that he can tell because my teeth are crooked.


He says this in a joking manner but I still find it to be rude and hurtful. I remark to him that it’s a good thing I did not reply to his rude remark with the first thing that pops into my mind. He begs to know what that first thing was but I didn’t think it was kind and it’s not something that I would say out loud. Even on the heels of him being rude either intentionally or unintentionally.


Now he’s sulking around and pissed that I won’t tell him the rude thing I’m thinking about him. He says that he thinks my crooked teeth are actually cute but that he’s disappointed that I have something to insult him back with so quickly. I explained that I don’t really have anything insulting and that I could ‘joke’ back with him but I thought that would not be very nice.

Am I the Asshole for not wanting to joke with him about something that could be sensitive to him after he did the same to me? AITA for not telling him the first thing that came to mind as a retort to his rude comment?