So little backstory, we have a family of 4 and a data plan that just barely supports it if we’re all being responsible with data. My brother is 11 years my senior and is currently living on his own with his fiancé. My brother as an early Christmas present bought his fiancée a phone and added her to the family plan. My mother is in charge of the family plan, and agreed to allowing her onto the plan. Since then, our data has run out twice as quickly, and since we have a protection mode on, any data we try to use past our cap is severely throttled. (I’m talking 0.00005 mbs). 

My elderly father depends on his map service to navigate around when he gets lost and he is unable to use it if the data is throttled. My brother and his fiancée would be unable to use their data either for the things they would need it for as we are only getting 14 ish days of data rather than a month.

I contacted my brother and told him since he’s living on his own and getting married maybe it’s time that he gets his own phone plan. Since his fiancée was added, it seriously affected all of us and my suggestion was a solution to that. I was hoping to continue dialogue with him trying to figure out what was going on with the data, but instead he sends my message to our mother and she and my father got angry with me telling me I was very mean and it’s none of my business. I’m in hard times right now so I don’t pay for my portion of the bill, so I agree that I can’t make decisions for people, but it was merely a suggestion posed to instigate conversation, not to attack my brother. 

In my mind I thought I was doing a good thing bringing this fact up so we could work as a family to fix it but my mother wanted nothing to do with me for the rest of the night. Am I the Asshole?