Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : For context we both drove home from our shared apartment in another state because one of his family members are on their deathbed. I'm saying at my parents house and we drove in his car, but he rented a car when he got here with his family. I've been home this morning/afternoon because he said we would watch the shows we usually watch together every week over skype. Apparently he had to get his glasses fixed so he said he'd be ready in an hour. Then this happened. 

Basically this is what occurred over text 

&gt;Him: hey do you want to go to this Japanese supermarket for valentines day in FarTown(a town that's an hour north of us)
&gt;Me: ok!
&gt;Me: wait that's so far away why in FarTown?
&gt;Him: a large number of interests converge there lol, I wanted to go there for food but I also left my headphone at Jack's house so I need to pick them up, and I also have a secret valentines day reason...but if you don't wanna go I can do all that tomorrow or something lol
&gt;Me: what did you have in mind?
&gt;Him: nvm I'll just go by myself probably
&gt;Me: ok
&gt;Him:I mean if you wanna tag along you are free too *funny emoji*
&gt;Me: I mean I do wanna spend time with you but I don't know what saying yes to these plans means which is why I asked

This city is right next to NYC so I wasn't sure if these secret plans were going to be **surprise! we're going to the city!** or **surprise! we're hanging out with my friend**

&gt;Me: Just cause if I'm picking you up it's an hour to your house and an hour back to mine

I'm trying to work on building my self-esteem right now so I mentioned my thoughts here because I felt like he might not be considering how any trip might be magnified by this distance. I felt bad about it though because he is the reason I'm here in the first place, but also I feel like my time is valuable too. 

&gt;Him: I mean if it's too inconvenient for u I can just go by myself it's ok *shrug emoji*

I got nervous here because he used the word *inconvenient* which seemed loaded since I've been telling him I wanna be there for him through this grieving process

&gt;Me: Ok I'm not gonna go then. It's not inconvenient I just don't like saying yes when I don't know what we're gonna do lol. Are you gonna be busy on Valentines Day then though or just gonna do it tomorrow? Cause I do wanna spend time with u on valentines day *heart emoji*

&gt;Him: For the japanese supermarket I was gonna take you to the chocolate shop embedded in the store but I'll just get something when I'm there since you apparently don't trust me enough with surprises

&gt;Me: Ok I mean I trust you it's just ambiguous I was like if we're going to the city I'd wanna take out cash. Since it's a far ride I wanted to know if it was farther lol

&gt;Him: you can watch (show out of the 3 that i care most about) if you want I'll catch up some other time
&gt;Me: what about (the two other shows he's more into)
&gt;Him: they can wait till I'm in a better mood
&gt;me: ok

Like I said before I'm trying to work on my self-esteem and I don't know if saying no was the right thing here or if that made me an asshole. If he asks again I'm probably gonna stick with not going because I've already changed my answer to no in the text. I tried to show him that I care and wanna hang out for valentines day. I want to know if I'm the asshole because I'm trying to learn the line and how to say no to people. 
