Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So, where to begin. So basically, I work a  lot - part of the time is delivery work, and part of the time is other  writing projects and game projects - I want to try and make it as a  writer. Part of that work is writing emails to industry people. I've  been taught to spend out a lot, to get out there and try to connect with  people, but writing to people in say the television industry takes me  some effort - to find emails, to cater the email to them, etc - and I  have to write a lot. So I set myself up a reward system - if I do 40  emails in a five day week, I get to go out and go to the cinema and grab  some food. This is where the trouble begins.

We  get to today and I've just about managed my goal - but here's the  problem with the reward system; I'm not sure I want to go eat and go to  the cinema. I have a problem where I enjoy things less because I should  be working in those times - which is part of the issue but also a side  issue, I guess you'll decide later. Anyway, I have the problem that I  don't feel like cinema, but the alternative (Buy a game to play) doesn't  feel right - I should be getting out the house. So I talk to my dad.  Annnnd... the conversation goes a little like this. Skipped to the  important bit.

Rob: Maybe I should buy a cheap video game and play that.

Dad: That'd be a waste of time.

Rob: Right. That's the point.

Dad: Why don't you help me instead?

Rob: The point of the time is not to work.

Dad: So you don't want to help me?

Rob: I don't want to spend my reward time helping repair cars.

Dad: So you don't care?

Rob: I can help you out during the week if you want.

Dad: You're working during the week. So you're not going to spend time with me.

At  this point I just ignored him and went back to the stuff I was working  on. And since then (about an hour ago) I've been thoroughly pissed off,  and yet...

There's some things to  understand about this. By 'helping dad out' he means help fix the cars.  Now, there's a lot of history behind this, the crux of which is this -  dad has some four cars, all in disrepair and all 'projects' for my dad.  This includes a gypsy caravan, a stag triumph with the roof leaking, a  car which was recently repainted and restored to a basic paint shell for  a STAGGERING amount of money - which has sat there since without . He's  close to a hoarder, only I don't call him that because I've seen what  true hoarding looks like. And the garage roughly reflects that -  everything is everywhere and it's a fucking mess. After I personally  cleaned out the last bombshell garage. That's another story though.

Again,  lots of painful history with the garage. I mean I would spend free time  with dad, but I'm extremely reluctant to help repair the cars anytime,  let alone in my reward time. I know nothings ever going to be finished, I  don't know what I'm doing and I don't like repairing cars - I'd rather  be doing many other things. Maybe I would be more willing if he was  making progress himself, if he was doing much of anything himself. But I  see no progress - many of these cars have been here for over a decade. I  live in a perfectly nice house with engine bits all over the garden.  Suffice to say I'm not my dad's biggest fan. There's a lot of backstory  stuff and sometimes I wonder if he's a narcissist. But then he's alone  most of the day and struggles to do much with his day thanks to sleep  problems, knee problems, back problems etc.

So, there you go. If you've got any questions feel free to ask. Really I just want to be able to talk to someone about it all.