Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : A couple of weeks ago I made a post about being in an open relationship with a horrid lack of communication. Judgement was that I was indeed the asshole, which I think I owned up to pretty well to.

TL;DR was there was not much sex. I slept with a problematic ex and didn't tell my SO. Despite our relationship being very emotionally stable (or so I thought) and my trying to initiate intimacy, SO would seek out sex with others but not me. I was upset about it.

It ended up that we broke up. It was amicable, but still really hard since there wasn't any real animosity between us. Just a lack of understanding of how one another works and a major incompatibility in how we view sex.

Anyways, we hadn't really talked about our problems to any of our friends or family since we didn't want to make it a big deal and the holidays came and went. I worked on being by myself as much as I could, trying to figure out how to be better. It's hard because I've got some pretty bad trauma and resulting depression. I do my best not to ever excuse myself because of it though.

Lately it's gotten a lot worse with the breakup and various other factors. My ex has been very supportive since they know the most about my past and has been trying really hard to help. Recently, he's been bringing up the idea of trying to make it work between us and wants a closed relationship again. They are willing to sit down and talk more often and work on the intimacy. They didn't even really care about me sleeping with the problematic ex. But I said no.

I feel awful and desperately would like to get back together, but I keep letting them know I'm not their problem anymore and, as much as I appreciate their concern and efforts, they need to give me space for both of our sakes. They have a really good job, a nice car, and is good with their finances. I've got a minimum wage job with no car and I could be more frugal considering my status. I just don't think we're as compatible as we thought. Mainly I don't think I'mgood enough. I stopped replying to their messages as often as a result.

I'm being told that I'm not being fair to how they feel and that by ignoring them, I'm just continuing the initial problem we had of not communicating, even though they're trying. But I figure I'm sparing them.

TL;DR: Really good person of an ex wants to make it work, but I think I'm too much of a mess for them so I'm not for it. Now I'm not talking to them in an effort to distance myself.

AITA?