Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So I'm in a club where a bunch of people come together every once in a while and play games, competitively and casually. Some of the games get pretty heated, but it's mostly good fun since a lot of the folks are fun to be around and generally everyone has a good time. Even though I'm pretty much a novice and get swatted down every week, I still have a good time and even get some upsets every once in a while. The issue, though, is an old acquaintance that I'll call "John". 

John is a pretty good player. He's also a pretty sore loser in a sea of good sports. Every once in a while during a tournament he'll flip the fuck out and storm out after a loss, even going as far as slamming controllers into garbage bins and not coming back, leaving friends to pull out the controller(s) and hand them back later. Of the extremely few times I've beaten him, he's never taken the L with grace; even during a no-stakes friendly match he made complaints after I beat him once, blaming it on the stage chosen. Compared to other people who may just take a break to cool off or just peacefully leave the club after a bad experience, his reaction is ridiculous IMO. 

I play to have fun. I can have fun winning and even have fun losing with good company, but here I'm stuck with a lose / lose. I can play the salty player and either win, causing him to storm out and kinda ruin my mood, or just lose and feel bad about it. It's gotten to the point where I've debated disqualifying myself in a situation I run into him to avoid ruining a good time or simply foregoing the club to try and avoid a negative experience. Now, I can't say John is in a good place here, though. I know he's had issues with his mental health in the past and he skipped out on the club for most of last year simply because he wasn't feeling it, despite still playing the games. I don't really know his situation well enough to know if he's venting because of other things or just having a tantrum, and maybe confronting him over it wouldn't be good for him. It'd be kind of embarrassing and a bit hurtful to have someone bitch you out for how you've been acting if you've been going through a lot.

Even disqualifying myself could be a possible bad move though, considering a lot of this goes down in tournament games. Would it be disrespectful to basically call out another player and refuse to have anything to do with them over something like this? WIBTA for refusing to interact with him because he's taking away from the fun of the event?