So today I get a text from my mother stating my great-grandmother passed away, made me sad yes, she was a great lady... but I haven't seen her in a VERY long time so no tears were shed. 


However, my mother also stated in that same text to my brother and I that she "expects that I will be going with her to the funeral". (exact words)


I haven't responded to her text yet, (tried calling but she didn't answer) but I don't want to go for a variety of reasons:


1. I have a 1 year old daughter that I don't want to make my wife watch alone for multiple days.


2. I haven't seen this grandmother in literally 15 years and kind of just want those to be my last memories of her. 


3. I don't particularly care for seeing the rest of my mothers side of the family.


4. I literally have no extra time off left from work because my daughter was really sick a while back and I used it all up. I work weekends, and that will most likely be when the funeral is. I won't lose my job if I go but I'll take a hit to my check. 

5. I would have to pay for gas/plane ticket out of pocket because my mother NEVER helps with that type of stuff.


Am I the asshole for not wanting to go?