I (21F) and my boyfriend (26M) have been dating for a few months and have been having sex regularly. We talked beforehand about our likes and dislikes, and I told him that I don’t like sex to feel too gentle or passionate and that it makes me uncomfortable. I know it’s strange but I was in an abusive relationship before and I’ve found that when I have rough sex I can sort of let go and have fun but when it’s gentle and about connection I get all in my head and I get really uncomfortable and I hate it.

Last night we were gearing up to have sex, and he said he wanted to have “normal” sex, and when I asked what he meant he started kissing my body a lot which I didn’t really like.  I told him I didn’t like it and he stopped but he kept trying to do cutesy things like playing with my hair and chaste kisses and stuff, and I got mad at him and told him to stop. I didn’t really say much I just put my clothes on and left.

I haven’t answered his messages today. AITA?