My husband and I are newlyweds and just bought our first house. When we lived in an apartment, it was pretty constantly messy, because I work about 70 hours a week and I ended up doing the majority of the cleaning (such as cleaning bathrooms, sweeping, vacuuming, etc.). However, I have also been working hard to improve my neatness, because I often would leave dishes out and such. My husband claims that because I would leave dishes out, it made him not care about the cleanliness of the rest of the apartment, which is why he never helped with cleaning tasks otherwise. This has caused multiple fights between us, as I view weekly tasks as separate from the daily tasks of picking up dishes. In other words, even if I miss a dish or two, the weekly stuff still needs to get done. He thinks that he’s under no obligation to do housework if I don’t pick up after myself and that I’m unreasonable (and rude) to suggest that he should. Am I the asshole here?