Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My boyfriend has a new acquaintance who is a girl. They have known each other for about a month. The girl is in a relationship, but spends her time whining about her boyfriend to my boyfriend about how she is not sure they should be together. My boyfriend has encouraged her to work her relationship out.

She constantly asks my boyfriend if he's going out that night. She's sent him drunk selfies at night. She asked him to go to her old high school alumni ball with her, because her boyfriend couldn't come and she had already bought a couple's ticket. (my boyfriend refused because he had a friend's birthday party that night). She jokes about how much she likes a certain hoodie my boyfriend has. She jokes about how much she likes the way he talks. She has used phrases like "where have you been all of my life". Ever since they met, she has always been aware that my boyfriend is in a happy relationship. Her actions feel extremely flirty to me and my personal opinion is that she is an inappropriate cunt.

We have talked about this with my boyfriend. He says he has no interest in her and I believe him. He says that he understands why I would be uncomfortable but he doesn't want to be rude to her. Again, I get it - he's kind of the human version of Mr. Peanutbutter and just wants everyone to get along and be happy.

At the same time I feel very irritated. I want him to set hard boundaries with this girl because honestly I wouldn't be surprised at anything she'd try to do at this point. I would like him to tell her to fuck off permanently. He doesn't want to be too harsh to her and would still like to be (platonically) friendly with her. Technically he hasn't done anything wrong and I know he has no intention to. However, I also feel like he hasn't made enough of a clear statement about how he is not interested in her, because clearly mentioning his girlfriend (aka me) hasn't been enough to deter her.

Am I the asshole for wanting him to cut her out of his life completely? Also am I overreacting to her behaviour or would this be considered normal between platonic friends who have known each other for a month?
