Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I kinda feel like an asshole here but I want to know what you guys think. My wife's best friend is having infertility problems and none of the treatments are working. She asked my wife if she could be a surrogate out of the blue and after days of thinking about everything she decided that she's gonna help her friend. I understand that their bond is huge and what she is doing is noble but I really don't wanna be a part of this.
  
I have a couple of reasons:
1- My wife is gonna be pregnant with a kid that's not mine.    
2- There could be complications or there is a possibility that she can have severe problems or outright die due to her existing conditions (Anemia).   
3- I don't want to be helping her carry the baby for nine months just to give it away.  

  
AITA here? Honestly I tried telling her in the most gentle way possible that I'm absolutely not on board with this but she is stuck calling me a sexist and an asshole. I'd rather divorce than be a part of it and she knows it yet she still chose to do it. Any advice?

