Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : She (32f) and I (28f) have been dating and it's still very new. I asked her out on our third date a while ago and she let me know she also made plans with her brother after me. She has a rule that partners don't meet her family until 3 months in, which totally makes sense. I get it.

She approached it really weird, but she said she also made plans with her brother so I'll meet him on our date night. I offered to postpone our date, she didn't want to. 

Then she says we can't do any PDA, he only knows me as a coworker so far. I kept trying to ask why, but she beat around the bush, and I couldn't get a straight answer.

I also asked her a bit ago if she's ever cheated and she says in her early 20s when she was a bit wild. But she's been faithful for 6 years with someone else. 

Maybe I'm just being paranoid, but I've spent a lot of my life hiding who I am and now this amazing, wonderful woman comes along and asks for me to hide it from her brother. I just don't get it.

She is blatantly gay, you can tell by looking at her. So I don't think that's the issue.

I don't want to meet her family if I have to watch my actions, what I say, what I do.

I plan on asking again, straightforwardly tonight, "Why do you want me to act different around your brother?" But any answer I can think of just puts me off more. 

AITA if I refuse to meet her brother and pretend we're just coworkers? 