Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I apologize if this has been a topic of discussion before, but I didn't see one when I searched Reddit.

I am married with one child. We are a single income family that can comfortably afford to have one parent stay at home. Our child is the jewel of our lives. Well-behaved, intelligent, considerate; everything we could possibly want. Education is important to me, so I send her to the best private school I can afford, and we have an upper middle class standard of living overall. I am content with having a single child. 

My spouse drops occasionally makes statements that she wants a second child. Whenever it does come in discussion, I list my arguments in a non-confrontational manner to why this isn't in the best interest of our family. We see how stressed our friends with multiple kids are, how little attention each kid gets in some of the larger families, and how it affects their development. Some of the other families in our daughter's school have discussed no being able to continually afford tuition. I'm in no way judging them, but it makes the point that there is less money to go around per-kid. I have a business background and often apply that scope of logic; I feel like with a second child takes resources from the first, and that will affect not only the children but the parents as well. With one child, we can take turns and give the other rest. Some of my co-workers have warned me about becoming "outnumbered" and the stress entailed with 2 or more. 

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All my arguments are generally met with - "I can't explain it, I just feel like I want a second one." 

Part of me wonders if it is just a status symbol of having the American dream with two kids included. 

I worry about the added bills, the stress, and overall change to our lives. I worry about not being able to afford the best I can for both, yet knowing I reasonably could for one. 

After a lot of soul searching, I figure I'd rather deal with (and am trying to plan for) the added stress and financial strain of a second child than have that her regretting not having a second child.

If we did have a second child, I'd love it and do everything I could to provide it with the best possible life. But I get frustrated because I feel like this is less about providing the best for our children than it is about having more. 

Even if AITA, I'd be nice to get some outside perspective on finding some peace with the argument and figure out how to not be one. 