My now ex girlfriend has severe depression and recently diagnosed PTSD from her childhood. She has no family she speaks with other than her grandmother that’s dying of cancer. She really only has three friends that she speaks with on a semi regular basis after her best friend started spreading lies when her fiancé groped my girlfriend when she stayed at their place one night.

We’ve been together for almost a year and a half but moved in together after 9 months. The last four months after the incident with her best friend’s fiancé have been the definition of hell for both of us.

Her mental issues have kicked into overdrive and it’s been constant fighting and arguing almost everyday. I will admit that I do not have any experience interacting with those with mental issues or depression but God knows I tried my best. I asked people what to do, begged her to go to therapy, and even offered to go once so I can ask questions to help me help her.

Despite my efforts, I just can’t give her the help she needs, what she needs changes constantly and she ends up screaming at me how badly I suck at it. I just suck it up and go to bed alone. We have had several discussions about my lack of knowledge on the subject and she has stated that she knows I’m doing my best.

Last week after another fight, she texted me that she was breaking up with me for those reasons, after telling me that since I have a family that cares for me, anything I’ve earned in life was handed to me. I didn’t go back at her but simply told her that I did my best (which she agreed) but unfortunately I just couldn’t help how I wanted.

After assuming that I’d move back to my parents, I had a buddy come over and help me move a few things. It was at this point she came home and scolded me for moving out in front of my friend. I agreed the stay in the apartment but I told her if I can’t handle living with my now ex girlfriend that I would move out and she said that’s understandable.

We had another fight today because she still expects me to hear her issues and I upset her again. After defending myself for the second time ever in our relationship I told her I can’t do this anymore and I’d be moving out. She then proceeded to get nasty with me and questioned whether I’d pay my half of the rent, even giving me a veiled threat that verbal agreements stand in our area. I found this especially hypocritically since she owes me more than $3000 I’ve lent her under the impression she’d pay me back.

I’m still struggling with this as I can’t wrap my head around whether I’m more in the wrong. I know I wasn’t perfect but I never lied to her, I always tried my best to help, I did anything she ever asked of me.