My mother moved from our 5 bedroom family home and asked my siblings to help move out. Over the course of 2 years (over mainly weekends) my sister and I collected everything we owned/wanted to keep from the house’s contents.

My brother, on the other hand, took it upon himself to deal with storing the the rest of the house’s contents. He moved about a freight trucks worth of furniture, antiques, sentimental items and art to his friends storage unit, several hours away from my home and my sisters home. Recently my brother found out his friend had been selling items from the storage unit without telling anyone and now needs to find a home for all of these items.

He complained to me that my sister and I didn’t do enough to help with the move and that I’m an asshole for not helping more. 

I pointed out to my brother that my sister and I are in full time work and did spend every weekend we could clearing our family home. Since he is unemployed, he is the only one with no time commitments and also the only one who really cares about the rest of the contents of the house. My sister and I also dedicated a number of weekends over two years to help clear the house while he travelled the world only coming back to help a few months before the house was sold.

He got angry and said some pretty unrelated and shitty things which I know he’s an asshole for, but it’s whether I’m an asshole for leaving my brother to deal with the rest of the house’s contents?

(Every time I tried to help my mum with selling the house, she completely negated any help I offered. I organised visits and meetings with estate agents, builders and lawyers at her request. She didn’t use any of them and despite my protests hired an acquaintance as the realtor. Several months of meetings with businesses only for my mother to pick someone she met personally made me feel like I was wasting my time)