Okay, so let's set the scene a bit. I have been with my boyfriend since March 13th, 2015. That means this will be the 5th year we've celebrated our birthdays as couples. He's October 28th, I'm November 26th. I always plan the fun stuff for his birthday, and my birthday... Always falls flat. 

Like this most recent birthday, he turned 19. I planned a nice day together, we went to one of his favorite restaurants, I paid, all that jazz. It was a low-key day, but it was nice. 

This year, I'm turning 20. My birthday is on a school day so I'm busy all day, and a month ago I told him to pick the day before or the day after. I'd spend the other day with my family.

It's a week before and he hasn't even chosen a day. I asked him this morning and he said he hadn't asked for either day off, which he has had plenty of time to do. 

This lets me know he has no plans for the day. He'll do what he always does, and tell me "it's your day, we'll do whatever you want" so he won't have to plan anything or make any actual decisions. 

An I am asshole for expensing something more? I'm not asking for a trip to France, but him just planning dinner and a movie or something would be more than enough. I don't need presents, I don't need anything fancy. Just a plan, that he's thought out, something to show me he's put some thought into my birthday. McDonald's and a nice note written on the back of a receipt and I'm happy really. 

I just want him to try.