Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : She's actually my ex, we broke up on pretty good terms. We still talk sometimes, but this was definitely part of the reason we split. This has just always bothered me so I want to hear what some other people think.

Basically, we had been together for about 6 months when I found out I had a great opportunity in another state. I knew that she alone was not enough to get me to stay (hadn't been together that long), and that I wouldn't be comfortable asking her to come for the same reason. Also, I knew it would be like a year until I actually left. So I figured I would tell her, and since I was happy with her and wouldn't be leaving for a while, it would be up to her whether we stayed together and see how it went, or broke up.

Around the same time, her mom (who she was really close to) got sick. Like real sick. Like, dying. I knew I had to tell her my plans but it didn't seem like the right time. I actually talked to my therapist about it and she told me not to tell her.

Well, her mom eventually passed and about 6 weeks later when she was doing a bit better I told her. I was upfront about my reasons for the move, and why I didn't tell her sooner. She was pissed because honestly is one of our core shared values, and tells me I should have told her anyway. I told her what my therapist said, that I should wait, and that I really struggled with it. I also said that I felt it was easy to say "you should have told me" after the fact.

So, am I the asshole?