AITA for getting a wee bit to wasted and spilling a year prior’s frustration!

Myself and my wife got a liil drunk before new years and met up with SIL’s friends from her home country. Somewhere along the way we, mostly I, went on a rant about how messes up half of her family is to her sister’s friends. 

Little bit of info : got married last year in her home country as it is closer to her family and they can’t travel to our current country, for very frustrating reasons, diff post will be needed. 2 of the siblings did not attend our wedding due to religious belief, ( had a lesbian wedding as there it is legals, current country of residence it is not )!so only mom and brother attended. A bit annoyed as all our friends made an effort and even my own mother who was not fully accepting got her ass on a plane not to miss the big day. Whole time before wedding we were there no effort was made to see their sister, and only 2 days before we had to travel back was there plans made to meet up and lister to them moan how short we are there and stay longer and such, please note up until this point we have been there for 2 weeks already!! 

The thing that gets under my skin is I am suppose to accept their religious stance and not say a thing, but then you show up the day after the wedding to come have an ‘after party’ if I can put it like that. No apologies or niceties , I must just accept that was the way it was going to be and pretend it is ok! It is not ok! It is not ok to accept this and it is not ok to assume my wife and myself must dock up 10k and more each time to go visit them as it will not be done from their side to here. This is the only way she sees her family, if WE go there! 

I suppose I am an ass, I don’t regret what I said, perhaps just how and when and to whom I said it! Mind you, if I had the chance I’d say it the same way personally, but I have boycotted the visits, I refuse. You want visits, save up and come here! Ironically enough as I write this I don’t to message arguments and such, I prefer face to face! 

So drunk me blurted all these things out and some!

Patiently waiting for that phone call coming my way! 