Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : My husband has a very high stress job.   I quit my dream job to help support him and moved to another country  with our three kids for this job of his.  I’m slightly resentful of this at times.  I openly admit it. This is why I’m asking for strangers advice as to whether I’m a complete asshole about this sitch.  

He  has late night meetings sporadically because head office is in a different time zone.  Most of the time he’s pretty good about letting me know ahead of time.  Some times he’s not so good about it and I am bothered by it. 

Sunday (yesterday) evening I asked him what time he would be home because I had a group of my son’s friends coming over to play after school and for dinner.  He offhandedly mentions that he has a late night meeting and won’t be home before 10 pm.  I asked him how long he knew about this and he said he’s not sure - he forgot to mention it.  

I told him that it really bothers me when he doesn’t consider my time to be important.  It makes me feel like I’m the hired help that will just go along with his schedule regardless of my needs and the needs of our family.  It bothers me in so many ways that I can’t quite articulate.  

He accused me of not being supportive of his hard job.  We’ve had this conversation before and it never ends well

To keep the peace, I kept most of my feelings to myself and have just been inwardly upset and bothered by it.  Who’s the asshole Reddit?  Or are we both? 