Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST :  My brother (22 M) and I (24 F)still live at home which isn’t uncommon in Sydney. He’s 22, and I'm almost 24. Neither of us are currently in a job that financially supports us independently. As a result, we're still living at home, saving money.

For *years* now, we have shared a bathroom upstairs (minus the toilet) and I am constantly unhappy with the state that it's when used by him. I have no issue if his room is messy. However, a communal area to be treated as such as if you're not sharing with other people really grinds my gears. I love him but he thinks he's Marie Kondo because he fucking loves mess.

I’ve asked him not to leave his boogers on the shower walls. I've had to ask him multiple times to clean up his pubes that he's chopped off and left on the floor. I've purchased a basket forour laundry but he refuses to use it and leaves his clothes scattered. The bathroom mats he doesn't use and leaves the bathroom tiles wet. The list goes on. I don't even know if Marie Kondo could fucking handle him, honestly.

I've tried both polite and aggressive methods over many years. I've sat him down countless times politely. On my off days, sometimes I snap. I'm only human and I do apologise to him. I've learned to take a breather before I say anything. I'm getting increasingly irritated that I have to remind him *over* and **over** politely basic common sense, cleanliness and tidiness.

So, the other bathroom that's downstairs (the only other bathroom, we don't use our parent's bathroom) near my room includes a toilet, which I use for washing my face, brushing my teeth and my daily bowel movements, that's it. It's not as nice as the one that we have to share. The shower downstairs is in awful shape. I could just move there and fix it up a bit, right? I guess I could but I think that resorting to move my routine there would only enable his poor habits and I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of having a nice bathroom all to himself.

As I mentioned, I use the bathroom downstairs solely for washing my face etc. The layout of this bathroom is poor. The towel rack is right next to the toilet, and as such, for a while I used to dry my face towels there. A month ago, I did this petty thing where I got sick of politely reminding him constantly to shut the toilet lid when he flushes. I don't want toilet water splash on my face towels. I wrote on a piece of paper *"Please close the lid before flushing, thank you"* and had it where you couldn't miss it - above the flush. It worked! He made some snarky comment about it, but it worked.

Now, 'm thinking of doing this but for the bathroom. *"Dirty clothes go in here" "Step on the mats instead of the tiles so the water drips on them instead" "De-clutter the basin" "Clean up your pubes"* etc.  WIBTA in doing that? I feel as if I can't treat him as an adult, and at this point I honestly don't know what to do anymore. If I end up doing this I won't care if I sound patronising.