So I (32f) am part of a very close family, we all love each other etc. Fam wants to go away for Christmas, to Fiji. I said no, I’d like to go somewhere new. One of my sisters has been guilting me for deciding to miss an opportunity to make memories with the whole family.

Backstory: I’ve been to Fiji three times with one sister, her family and my mum at least three times. I told them I wouldn’t go to Fiji during the planning stages, and left it at that, but my sisters kept planning and ended up deciding on Fiji despite my wishes, because they have kids and Fiji is easy with kids. I also like staying out, drinking and generally running amuck on holiday. Whereas my family is in bed by 9.30.

I feel like I might bet he asshole, because I have it easierand should be more flexible as a single female. Also because I’m willing to miss family time to explore a new place. But I also feel like I’m not the asshole because if it’s a family holiday, it should be a choice of all family members. 

My sisters are older than me and got to travel through their 20s, but because of the age difference during my 20s, my dad was sick so I didn’t travel at all. I’ve got the travel bug late, after dad passed away, while they’re busy having babies. 

So, judgment please?