Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I seriously can't figure out if it's me taking things to heart or whether he is as much of an asshole as I think he is. I'll try to make this as short as possible and I know how much of a ball ache large paragraphs of text are.


So my mam and him got together two years ago (a month after his own wife died). I was a bit apprehensive of him from the start incase he was using my mam as a rebound or such. To be fair he has been nothing but amazing to my mam so I quickly got over this. But I have a feeling he just puts up with me to please her. 



I'm living back home as I'm saving for a trip of a lifetime and will be away for a while so it's obviously very hard to avoid him when he is around alot of the time. I lost my dad five years ago, and for fathers day me and my mam went to the beach and had a bbq. The whole time we were there he was messaging saying "can you not drop them off and come to mine yet" (I only saw because my mam asked me to change song on her ipad). I got upset and left shortly after. 



We all went to go see my poorly auntie who lives 3 hours drive away for the weekend and when we got back we were talking about it and how we might go again and he came out with "well you never know, that would be the last time you ever see her, she didn't look good at all". Then we went to see my gran in hospital this week and while I was trying to have a conversation with her, he blasted her TV so we couldn't hear each other and wouldn't turn it down till mam snatched the remote off him. 


My boyfriend was nice enough to get me some flowers (rare) for getting a promotion at work, at which point he said they "stink like cat piss" and wrinkles his nose whenever he is near them. He knows I wanted a certain watch for months and months and then he bought my mam one for Xmas and I had to sit there and watch her open it. 



I feel like I'm being petty by being bothered by it but it's so upsetting and annoying and it's actually wearing me down. I don't know what to do other than to avoid him. I tried telling him how I felt about the watch to which he started swearing at me over text saying I've pissed him off, which was never my intentions I just wanted him to understand that it really upset me. I've spoke to my mam about it all and she keeps telling him off but things just keep happening. I keep trying to forgive and forget and just move on but it's getting pretty obvious that I'm now just keeping my distance a bit. What do you think I should do. Am I an asshole or is he? 


