It sounds stupid and mean, but bear with me here. My dad is an extremely controlling person, whether it’s something big or something super little and pointless. This is something the entirety of my family agrees on, with the exception of my dad of course. One of those little pointless things he’s decided to control in my life is packing my lunch for school. The main reasons I have a problem with this are because:
a) The food in his house is often far past its expiration date and I don’t feel comfortable eating stuff from there unless I’ve checked the date. I have been packed moldy food several times before
b) The food he does pack just doesn’t taste good. I’ll force myself to eat a bite or two, but almost all of it gets thrown away. I don’t want to waste food. I’ve asked him to pack different foods, but he never does.
c) I literally don’t have room to carry it.

I’ve asked him several times to just let me pack the lunch if he wants me to take a lunch that badly, to which he always vehemently refuses and yells at me about. I’ve asked him several times to, if he wants to pack a lunch, to just ask me first so that I can make a little more room in my bag and get a word in about what food he’s having me take. He always says he’ll ask, but I always walk downstairs to him with a fully packed lunch ready for me, and I’ll ask him again to just let me know before hand. It’s a never ending cycle.
So this morning, I walked downstairs to see a fully packed lunch on the table. I told my dad I wouldn’t take it and explained how I had asked him time and time again to just let me know first. He got angry and started yelling about how unappreciative I am and starting dissing how my mom never packs me lunch (divorced parents) and went on about how it’s his house, so he’ll pack me lunch if he so pleases. I didn’t yell back, I just went upstairs and quietly left afterwards. Honestly, had he just asked beforehand, I would’ve taken it, but he didn’t. He’s still mad at me for not taking the lunch.

So, Reddit, am I the asshole for refusing to take the lunch my dad packed for me to school?