Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : This has been something I constantly ask myself and I’m sure other people have felt the same so hopefully this can be relatable to some people. 

I’ll start with how I know I’m a generous person because I love my friends and family and am always looking for ways to help the people in my life. I constantly want to give to everyone so they can be happy and also I just love gift giving. I don’t really have to buy friendships, so it doesn’t feel like that. It’s more of like when I want to buy drinks for a friend or give a person I care about a small gift or just simple little things. Sometimes though, I tend to draw myself back because I feel like people notice this and want to take advantage of it.

One time in particular, a friend had came in from out of town and gotten his car towed. He expressed how he’d be in so much debt and wouldn’t be able to get it out so I offered to help find other solutions. The easiest and quickest solution was to bail his car out then and there, so I told him not to worry about it right away and just pay me back when he can. It’s been almost 8 months and I don’t think I’m gonna see that $300 ever again.

Another is more recently and slightly different, I’ve let a friend stay at my house for about a half week since they’ve been in a difficult situation. They also don’t have a car so I had to drive them to work for a few days as well. I didn’t mind this and they said they’d pay me back in any way they can (buying me drinks or giving me cigs) which was totally okay with me. But when I asked for those things (for instance, just asking if they could buy me a drink when I see them out) they acted like I would owe THEM for it now.

So in conclusion, should I feel bad for asking for my money back? Should I feel like a dick because, even though I give a lot, people never want to return it? 

I know the simple answer here is stop being nice to people that don’t deserve it. But sometimes it’s more difficult than that. I just want to not feel like I owe people things after all that I’ve given them.

I hope some people can relate to this in some way, and thanks in advance to anyone reading 