Reference: I'm 22, she's 23. - Europe.

We started dating mid August, she told me.she has PCOS and could not get pregnant.

Through our entire dating time, she's always said she can't get pregnant, and if she ever got pregnant, she'd just get an abort - No biggie.

We found out 2 weeks ago that she was pregnant, and yesterday she was at the gynecologist, and was told she was 8 weeks in (Law in Denmark is that at 8-12 weeks it's surgical, before 8 weeks it's chemical abortion, aka take a pill)

She'd been quite slow through the entire process, first she forgot to buy a pregnancy test for ~3/4 days, them she slept over on the day she should visit her doctor, and could get a new appointment 3 days later. Add onto the fact, her initial doctors schedule was a whole week later than when she called, means she didn't call in for an immediate time (In Denmark this is possible, and is free, so no economical reason not to)

The entire time she's been hesitant about it, begins questioning my reasons (I work 24/7, I won't be there for the kid, she has no income, and I can't in my current job afford to get even more stressed out) - She kept telling me that having a baby, isn't stressful - Which to my knowledge from every parent I know - it really is.

She uses extremely vulgar language when speaking about abortion, such as 'Alright I'll just kill the baby.

She then told me, that if she gets the surgical abortion, there's a risk she can't get pregnant again - I want a kid in the future but as I am right now - I'm not able to, and frankly so don't think she is either - She lives off welfare currently, has some mental health issues, and for her money to run around, she needs a helping hand from me - Which I don't mind, as long as she works towards getting a future.

She then told me last night, that she had actually been pregnant around 10 years ago - Which was another red flag to me - Because she claims she can't get pregnant, and that the PCO kicked in after her last pregnancy, but no doctor officially told her she couldn't.

Never have i said anything, that could hint towards me wanting a child *yet*, and I've explicitly told her a stern no.

At the gynecologist yesterday, she was asked if she wanted the abortion - Which she said no to, and she wanted to ask me if I still wanted her to abort, so instead of calling or texting me - She didn't reschedule, and spoke with me last night.

I feel like she misused my trust, by telling me she can't get pregnant, when no doctors has said it, and hiding the fact she's been pregnant before.

The fact she is so hesitant to get an abortion, that she's been at least 2 weeks slower in the process than what she could've been, means she needs the surgical procedure, and frankly means I don't feel bad for her - Had she hurried it up a bit, she'd be done with this 2 weeks ago, with a chemical procedure.

Reddit.

AITA?