Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My friend ALWAYS ALWAYS has to have a significant other. It’s honestly become such a pet peeve with everyone in our friend group because we see all her relationships go wrong and we feel that she needs to just be single to learn about herself and work on self growth. However, I work at the same business company that she does and I’ve become uncomfortable with all the events that I have seen unfolding. She has been in a relationship for 2 years and she had gotten into that relationship quickly (I’m talking like within a week of dating they became official and said I love you). She’s just not happy with her boyfriend anymore and I’ve been hanging out with her many evenings when we get off work. We work on different floors so we will usually meet at the parking structure and go out for drinks or to catch a movie. She’s been bringing this coworker along who is a guy to hang out with us. He has mentioned that he has a girlfriend that he’s getting engaged to but I can tell very obviously that he is into my friend. And it seemed like my friend was into him based off my observation of their body language. She is an lead executive and he works directly under her supervision, so she’s his boss. They both have significant others whom it very clearly seems like they are emotionally cheating on to me. She hides from her boyfriend that she’s hanging out with him before and after work and he’s hiding the same thing from his girlfriend. She got super defensive and upset when I brought up to her that I think her hiding this from her boyfriend is not a good sign. She mentioned to me that the coworker had asked her how she would feel about things leading to more between them. I told her that because she’s the head of the department, that it would be super unprofessional of her to be hanging out and having these intimate flirty discussions with someone she supervises. I also told her that if she’s unhappy with her relationship then she needs to end it instead of hanging out with another guy without her boyfriend knowing. She goes to the club with him, they go to dinner, they go running together, etc. They hang out so much to the point where she bails on plans with me and our group of friends to go do something with him. The more she tells me about things, the more angry and disappointed I feel with her because I think what she’s doing is morally wrong and fucked up. Fast forward a week later, she told me that they both broke up with their significant others, went out on a date together, spent the night at each other’s places and now they are officially together but hiding it from her department at work (all within a span of 3 days following them ending their previous relationships). To me this is just so wrong what both of them did to their significant others. I am extremely disappointed in and ashamed of her choices. I am livid that she lacks self awareness and introspection because she gets on mine and our friends’ case for seeing our boyfriends a lot when all she has done lately is hide from her now-ex about who she’s been hanging out with and bailing on plans with friends to go see this guy who wasn’t even her boyfriend up until this point. Am I the asshole for not supporting her relationship? I care about her and want her to be happy but I don’t agree with the way things happened. I don’t even want to be around her or even talk to her at the moment or else I will go off on her because she thinks she has done nothing wrong. 