Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : This happened ~1.5 yrs ago. I had known this guy for years. He was my older brothers best friend since middle school, a long time family friend. The guy, Tom, was 29 at the time. I had just turned 20.

My brother and wife(Alan/MegaBitch) came to town to visit our mom. Tom came to hangout as he did whenever Alan came to town.

Tom asked my brother if he could ask me out. Alan said yes, so Tom and I went out a few times while Alan was still in town.

It was discovered during the trip that megabitch was cheating on Alan. I took it hard. Alan didn't deserve it. I had even officiated their wedding. My brother and megabitch left, they ended up getting divorced.

After a few dates, Tom and I slept together. We were both adults and we both wanted to, so why not? He was really good at it, we had amazing sex.

He was coming to stay with me a lot after that, bringing stuff over and leaving it at my place. Buying me groceries. I thanked him and told him it wasn't necessary, but he said he didn't want to eat all my food. He also bought a jumbo pack of condoms and left it in my bedroom.

I told him before we started sleeping together I would not want to be exclusive bf/gf unless things started to get serious.

A few days later, I'm talking to my brother on the phone, trying to help him through a very hard time in his life. He tells me, "Tom told me you took his virginity. Wasn't expecting that."

Tom had told me he only had one girlfriend before me, but I didn't know he would be a virgin at 29. To clarify, I wasn't judging him, but to find out from my brother?!?!

I decided to have a talk with Tom. I reminded him that I still wanted to see other people, and I felt I had lead him on, because it was obviously very serious. He didn't care if I saw other people as long as he was my main guy. An open relationship. I asked him why he would be ok with this.

"Because I'm in love with you."

I didn't know what to say so we just laid there until I told him that I didn't feel the same way. He said it was fine and that I may grow to love him. THIS WAS TWO WEEKS INTO SEEING EACH OTHER BTW.

In the meantime, he kept generally doing things you would do in the honeymoon phase of a realtionship. I've been there when I've felt head-over-heels for someone.

It terrified me. I didn't feel the same way at all. I liked him but had been hoping for something casual. AND I TOLD HIM THAT. I felt because I had taken his virginity he was immediately incredibly attached to me.

He came over mid December. He had bought me an early Christmas present, a massage table and when I saw it, I felt such pressure and broke it off. He was angry and cried. He took his stuff but left the massage table. I tried to get him to take it but "It was a gift."

We haven't spoken since, but I hear he is engaged now. My brother said I made Tom realize something was missing from his life. I didn't care he was a virgin, he just got way too serious too quickly.