Alright Reddit, here to settle the score between my fiancé and me. We are currently planning our wedding for June of 2020 and while it is a long way away, I know it will go fast and we’re the kind of people who like to schedule things well in advance so we are currently discussing honeymoon locations. Also should mention that we take a super long time to make big decisions (and little decisions sometimes too) partly because I’m pretty picky about a lot of things and partly because he is the most stubborn person I have ever met in my life. 

So here is how we typically make decisions like this. We both lay out what we want and how badly we want it (absolutely necessary, would like it, would just be an extra perk, etc.) Here is what we both came up with. 

ME: I want to go somewhere with a really nice beach (think beautiful turquoise water) no children, minimal interaction with other tourists and privacy. I also hate the act of traveling (like going through airport security, boarding the plane, etc but if fine when we get there) so I would like somewhere relatively close. I really just want to spend time just the two of us since we are long distance and will be up until the wedding. Anything else would just be a perk for me. 

FIANCÉ: also wants to go somewhere with a nice beach but he would prefer the pool over the beach. The pool must absolutely have a swim up bar. He also wants to be able to explore a new place he’s never been to before. Does not want to go to the Caribbean because we have been to Mexico and the Bahamas and he thinks it’s all the same. 

So at first we thought about like the pacific islands. Beautiful beaches for me, places to explore for him. But then I thought about the entire day we would be spending traveling and wanted to throw up. Not to mention it’s a bit out of our budget. 

Then we started talking about one of the more secluded islands in the Caribbean. Antigua, Dominica, etc. but out of nowhere he says “we should go to Vietnam” and now, being his stubborn self, wants to go nowhere but there. I keep telling him that we can travel and see cool places after we’re married but that our honeymoon should just be about relaxing and spending time with each other. 

So who’s the asshole here? Should I just go to Vietnam? It does have pretty scenery, it’s just not my idea of a honeymoon. 
