Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : So, my sister has 3 kids. She's in her early 30s and I'm only 20 btw so there is an age gap, I'm getting my life figured out and she... well has 3 kids. Due to being bipolar, depressed, anxiety and shit I have neglected my relationship with her at times (with all family at times as well) and now that I'm pulling my life together I am trying to be more involved with family, because I love and care for them and I'm really thankful for their support with my mental health struggles. My sister has really been a big help for me at times, when I had no one else I can count on her and been able to go to her house and hang out and with my nephews. Lately, I have not been hanging out with her, which I've recently noticed and I'm trying to make steps to fix. I posted on r/relationships about this, how I want to improve my relationship with her. The problem is, my sister does not plan well (according to my mom she never has, IDK) and I know that she is really busy. For example, a few weeks ago I called and asked my sister what her and the kids were doing Saturday, and if it was an option I could maybe join them. She said they were doing a community clean up with the city/boyscouts, and then a hike and then a movie in the park. I said I would go on the hike with them and then the movie, if she didn't mind. She said sure and said she would get back to me on the times then never did, so I didn't go. Then, on Sunday she calls me "Hey, we are about to be at the house in 2 minutes to pick up something and go to the park, do you want to go?" I said no because, I really don't like last minute things like that at all, anxiety wise. I like to be able to have some planning on when something will be, even if it's a day or two, it helps a lot. The problem is, I can't ever seem to plan something out with my sister, and it's all last minute things which I 9/10 times say no too, due to anxiety. Anyway, in r/relationships I got told by a couple of people that basically I'm being unreasonable and entitled basically, because she had 3 kids and is busy and I cant expect me to get preferred treatment.OK, I get it she is really busy, while I am not. I am 100% focused on bettering my mental health, so maybe I'm lacking perspective here. Am I an asshole for expecting my sister to be able to work with me on times to hang out, and not just last minute "hey Im in town right now" scenarios? Keep in mind, I am fine going out and doing her already planned activities with her and the boys as well, not asking her to cancel plans or work my in her schedule.   


Also, my sister is NTA, i posted on relationships to try and figure out how to talk with this about her and absolve this issue, because she's not doing it on purpose- I just got told I was wrong for expecting this for her. So AITA?

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