Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I met my ex through steam, and we very quickly become very close friends, and we both admitted that we had a crush on each other, and we were both around 13 at the time.

Not too long after that, he came out as trans to his family, and on Christmas, his father did the unspeakable thing that I will never forget to this day, which you can probably guess what it was.

I was devastated, and asked him to call the police, but he refused to. I continually begged him to call the police for months after that, and the situation continually escalated. He tried to kill himself many times and was even sent to a mental institution after he almost succeeded.

I did everything a 13 year old could possibly do. I talked to him constantly about how I loved him and wanted to help him. I tried to help him think of places to hide. I sent him a blanket and emergency food when they started kicking him out in the snow. I talked to him through all of his emotional breakdowns. I sacrificed every free moment of my life to talk to him and help him through his situation.

But the situation kept escalating to a point where every single day for a month he’d have a breakdown and I would do my best to comfort him and convince him not to harm himself. I kept on begging him to call the police, but he wouldn’t. He eventually lied to me that he called the police and said his father went to jail, but fessed up after he got drunk one night. At this point, I was continually having breakdowns because I wasn’t able to get him out of his situation, and I went into a really bad state of depression due to my father trying to get in contact with our family again and making my mom go to court.

At this point I was 15, and was just tired of trying to help. Nothing I did improved the situation. We ended up breaking up, and kept trying to be friends. It didn’t work out, and I ended up blocking him because I couldn’t deal with the emotional stress anymore, and I told him that I hoped he would get help.

I tried to talk to him recently, because I wanted to reconnect and see if he got help. I asked him to please not ask me for help when something happens, because I had already done everything   I could to help him. He said that I was being very selfish, and that he had nobody else to talk to about it. I’m still trying to get over what happened, and it’s wrecked me emotionally. We’re both 16 now, am I an asshole?

Note: He lives in a different country than me, if I was able to call the police for him, I would have a long time ago.

