I (30M) made dinner plans with my ex wife (31F). She was going to be visiting the town I live in so I figured why not catch up if I had the time. 

The day of the plans, my current gf (29F) starts to express her concern about how I’m choosing to spend time with someone who wasn’t very nice to me when I haven’t been paying that much attention to her. (It’s not the first time she’s brought up feeling unimportant and unappreciated. And my ex wife was a biiiiitch when we were together.)

My gf said she was uncomfortable and went to bed. I left to meet up with my ex, but on the drive, I started to feel like I had made a mistake. Like I was ignoring the pleas of my gf for intimacy and connection. 

(Icing on the cake: I got a call from work saying they needed me. So I felt doubly like I should skip dinner plans.)

So I cancelled. I went home, had dinner with my girl, worked for a bit. 

Now my ex wife is angry because we had those plans for a while and she was “really looking forward to it.” She feels like she came all this way for me only for me to flake. 

But we are not very close friends. She wasn’t great in the past. I don’t know what I even gain from seeing her and I love my current gf more than anything. 

Still. Cancelling last minute seems shitty too. AITA, Reddit?


TLDR - I cancelled long-term plans with my ex last minute to hang out with my current gf when she seemed uncomfortable. Now ex is upset. 