So there’s me (m19), my “friend” poe(m18), and my girlfriend, sarah(f18). 

Me and poe have been friends for 3 years, and I met Sarah though him last May. Sarah and poe have been good friends for a while.

Me and Sarah have been dating for 3 months now long distance and we had been together for like 3 months before that. She and  I just got back from a week in California last Sunday. Tomorrow poe is taking the train from his school to visit her. I was alright with this happening when she was planning and when she asks me today if I’m comfortable with it I said yeah but I felt a little uneasy. We kept talking about it and she brought up something I’d never heard about. 

So before they ever made the plan I had talked to her multiple times about how I don’t exactly trust poe with her. I didn’t really have any evidence to support my claims but I always felt uneasy about him. Since poe is also a really good friend of mine I kinda just tucked it away as jealousy. 

But earlier this evening Sarah brought up how poe told her he had feelings for her. The night I told her I was in love with her. This was over the phone and she was with poe that night. She said she had to think about her feelings before she said it back. And she was with poe this night. 

Neither of them had ever brought this up before and I felt betrayed by the both of them. Although she turned him down I still feel very wronged by the fact that neither ever told me. Not when it happened and never when I we had similar conversations. 

We were talking on the phone on and off for hours. She told me she didn’t think it was relevant and that I didn’t need to know. Although she didn’t do anything wrong I still felt like shit because she had been keeping it as a secret. A huge breach of trust the day before he goes to visit her. She talked it down saying it wasn’t a big deal and she didn’t seem to think it meant anything. 

I told her I felt uncomfortable with him visiting that weekend. I felt like a dick but it didn’t seem crazy given the situation. I told her specifically that I wouldn’t break up with her if she did but I made it clear how uncomfortable i felt about it. She denied it and we never came to a resolution and I’m still really upset. 

I wrote this last night and today he is still going to visit her. I talked to him and he called me crazy. 

TLDR: best friend tells my now girlfriend he loved her the same night i did. She’s just telling me this the night before he comes to visit her for the weekend. 