Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : TL;DR: I had a few dates with guy 1 (nothing happened in terms of kisses etc), and now want to go out with a guy I met on Tinder whom I just found out is in the same sports team as guy 1. I am insecure whether I should tell guy1 about that because I think he already knows I don’t want to be with him. 

So a couple of weeks ago I started dating this guy. We went out twice before I confessed to him I was feeling insecure about the whole thing because I still had feelings for someone else who had just recently rejected me. He said he could understand that and if I ever wanted to meet him again I could just call him. A few weeks passed and my feelings for the other person floated away and I called him again. We had two more dates and I realised that...I am just not feeling comfortable in his near. 

On our last date we were watching Netflix and he tried to cuddle with me and I was just like “meh...please don’t”. Eversince that we haven’t been texting much, I think he can tell that I am just not really into him.

Out of boredom I started texting with a guy on Tinder, and we two instantly got along quite well. He asked me out and I agreed. Now I found out, he is in the same sports team as is the other guy I was/am dating. This was PURELY out of luck, I had no idea guy 2 is in the same sports team as guy 1. My best friend, whom is coincidentally also in this sports team, told me I NEED to be upfront to guy 1 that I will be having my first date with one of his teammates.

My original idea was to have the date with guy 2, and tell guy 1 something along the lines of: “hey I think you have already noticed I don’t really have feelings for you and I am sorry etc. and I had a date last night with someone else. I hope you find someone for you, I am sorry I couldn’t be that person.” But my best friend says guy 1 is definitely going to ask her whom I met with and THEN he is going to be mad as hell when he finds out. 

I don’t really know what to do. Nothing ever happened between guy 1 and me (in terms of kisses, cuddling, sex), so I feel like...he already knows I don’t want to be with him. Should I tell him “hey my date is with one of your teammates?” Bc then he is definitely going to think I was “getting in touch” with guy 2 behind his back. 