Super brief history here, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 6 months (though it feels like we’ve known each other for years) and we moved in together and it’s been fantastic (I’m aware how soon it is, there’s a reason for it, disregard the part where you advise it’s too soon, we both know). 

Well, when we’re trying to relax and watch a movie on Netflix she always likes to pick things that both haven’t seen. Me being a huge movie buff that regularly browses IMDb and rotten tomatoes for the best movies, have seen most “critically acclaimed” movies that are out. So when we started to talk about the movie “eternal sunshine of a spotless mind” (fantastic movie by the way, go see it if you haven’t. It’s a classic), she said she had never seen it before and that she always wanted to. So me, having already seen it and knowing she wouldn’t watch it if she knew I had known I had already seen it, she wouldn’t want to. 

So I told her I haven’t, I knew she would love the movie so I really wanted her to experience it. 

After the movie finished, she loved the movie. I confessed that I had already seen it and that just wanted her to experience it. She gets furious, saying that I should never lie about things no matter what it’s about. I tried explaining that I’m well aware that lying is bad, but the morality of this was for you to enjoy something you haven’t before. She then said “what other things could you lie to me about to ‘save my feelings’ , where’s the line draw?”. 

I told her I was sorry, I truly didn’t mean to offend you. And I’ll always be honest with you because I truly have nothing to hide (I’m not a cheater, liar or a fake person, I’m an open book in every way). I also said that I will never do anything to you that I would ever have to hide to begin with, so lying isn’t really a necessity from the start. I didn’t say that I think she was blowing it out of proportion a little bit, and that your really questioning my morality as a person and I’ve never, and will never do anything that will need to be hidden from you to begin with. 

So am I the asshole for lying about having already seen a movie?