Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have a co-worker I've had feelings for since I met her when I got hired. Initially I tried to keep work and infatuation separate because I just got hired and it's bad news, but we're assigned to work together a lot and the more I got to know her the stronger my feelings got. We soon started texting a lot and talked about hanging out outside of work. A few months into talking she mentioned her boyfriend during conversation and I expressed my surprise. What surprised me even more was that she's been with him for years. She reasoned that she likes to keep it private so she doesn't talk about it much, but regardless we continued a good personal friendship and work relationship.

Down the road, some drama happened between us where she broke up with her boyfriend and i got excited by the opportunity to jump in (disregarding my no work romance philosophy), but kept my distance so she had time to be emotionally available. We had a fallout when I confronted her about this mystery guy she's been hanging out with on Snapchat (which was a bad idea) and she admitted she's been dating someone new but claimed didn't want to tell or confirm to anyone. We talked it out but it wasn't the same after.

Work was slightly more awkward, we only interacted with each other only when we had to for work and only briefly. Luckily we didn't have to work together in the same room. A few months of this and we were assigned to work together again, but this time I had more self control and respected her space. I stopped stalking her Snapchats and such and focused more on myself. We slowly warmed up to each other again with me joking around a lot and she reciprocated better than before. We regained our texting and friendship again but I kept my distance when relationship was brought up. I also found out that she had a new boyfriend.

Finally, she also broke up with him after a few months because he was very jealous to say the least, and she kept talking about not being with guys for a long time. I still had a small amount of feelings but it wasn't until she asked me to hang out was when I told myself I should try it out and see where it goes. Joke's on me, she kept mentioning a friend the whole time and I started getting suspicious again. Eventually that friend turned into new boyfriend, but this time I was jaded from my past experience. We had plans to go out but I cancelled it because I was hurt from hearing the news and it didn't seem right if I still had feelings for her. We still talk, and we actually work together  a lot better now than before, but when she mentions her boyfriend I completely shut out of the conversation. 

I'm trying to make peace with myself and move on, because if she didnt see me romantically the first few times, it's obvious she won't have feelings for me ever. If I do something we're both interested in, she seems upset that I didn't include her (she never asks me to hang out) and tries to tag along when I want to go out alone for lunch, and I find an excuse where she can't come with me. I have a feeling she thinks I'm being moody and passive aggressive. Sometimes I do ask her to hang out but it's a mixed bag of answers. If she feels like we'll be together alone for the plan, she wants to bring an extra friend. Soon I just plan on not even making plans with her because her answers always seem conflicted to me. AITA?