(Trigger Warning: Self harm, abuse, suicide, that kind of thing)

For context, me and my friends are fairly young, all around 15. We all have bad or incredibly strict parents, so we’re all dealing with our own issues in some way, and we have no real way to get help.

One friend, who we’ll say is called Luke, is the worst. They have massive self-worth issues, self-harms, drinks beer all the time, falls in and out of toxic relationships, and is, quite honestly, selfish. They never listen, and they never want to.

I’ve yelled at Luke over text multiple times about what they do. When they wanted to get back with their ex, I basically said “Fine, go be destructive, I don’t care anymore, but don’t come crying to us when it doesn’t work out.” I’ve constantly told them that I don’t care because I’m just so emotionally exhausted from dealing with them. I mean, why should I bother or care?

The scary thing is that Luke’s been constantly saying that they’re going to commit suicide this year. And I mean CONSTANTLY. Every few days it’s been brought up, and in a kind of way that’s like “ha ha I only have a few months to live anyway lol”

We’re all worried about them, but it just feels...manipulative, at this point. Like it’s just another way for them to get attention. (They glorify their alcoholism and show when they sniff GLUE, for God’s sake.) 

There’s about eight of us altogether, and we see each other at school everyday, so cutting Luke off is probably not going to be as easy as I want it to be. But I’m just so fucking tired of dealing with them. I’m already working through my own stuff. I have awful self-esteem, I’m dealing with getting over my toxic dad, and I likely have ADHD. If they’re not even going to THINK about getting help, I don’t see why I should bother.

I don’t want to deal with Luke anymore but there’s also my other friends, and I keep feeling like that would just be abandoning them because of my own emotional issues.

So, do you think WIBTA if I cut Luke off?