Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So, to give some background I've been with my husband for around 13 years \[high school sweethearts\] and I'm 8 months pregnant with our first child. My BIL and SIL have a 6-month-old \[the first grandchild\] and have been together for 3 years. BIL + SIL moved close to us and his mom still lives where we're all originally from. My MIL has always shown a preference for my SIL ever since her and my BiL got married - which tbh, my SIL is amazing, and a great person. I love her too. MIL and I have a decent relationship overall, and communicate regularly.

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Anyway, when my SIL was pregnant with niece my MIL was enamored. Everyday asking how SIL was feeling throughout her pregnancy, sending her pregnancy gifts, sending boxes upon boxes of gifts for baby \[which went against SIL wishes, as she told everyone to not buy any gifts until after the baby was born as they do back where she's from, but that's another story.\] My MIL always wanted belly pictures and cried when they first initially told her they were pregnant. I know all this because we share a group chat in a chat app, and have for years. We also saw her reaction to the baby announcement because they taped it - it was honestly very sweet.

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So, husband and I finally get pregnant \[we had some trouble\] and I'm excited to move into this new chapter with MIL  - but that hasn't been the case. When we announced our pregnancy to her, her reaction was "You waited this long to tell me?" \[Note: We told her within the same week she was told about my niece - 13 weeks\]. That's the video my partner and I have to look back on. I have received 0 pregnancy gifts, and when she came out to visit us she brought my niece a box of gifts, and brought us 2 onesies - which I tried really hard to be as appreciative as possible for. Throughout the visit, she didn't ask me once how I was feeling, and only asked to touch my belly after my husband asked her multiple times to feel our baby move. \[This was her final day on a weeklong trip\]. I also try to send her weekly updates on his size, and I get a smile emoji back -- god this sounds so petty, but if you see how she responds to pictures of my niece \[in and out of the belly\] there's a clear difference.

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Anyway, onto the AITA moment -- something I've complained about to my husband is the fact that my MIL has not been really showing any concern with how I'm doing throughout the pregnancy. Last night, she sent me and him a private message asking to make sure that she had the correct date on my BIL and SILs anniversary, which is this weekend, because she was sending them a gift, a gift card to a restaurant, and a card. \[Our anniversary was 2 months ago.. and well, we got nothing\]. After not responding to that for a while she then sent, oh, and -me- how are you feeling?

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I was a bit put off by being what I considered an afterthought, so I didn't respond. My husband came up to me a few hours later and didn't think I had seen it. I explained my PoV, and he was just kind of quiet. After I asked him if he would like me to respond, he said that he understood where I was coming from, but that I had previously complained about her not asking me how I was doing, and that by not responding I was just reinforcing her to not ask me again. He also mentioned that I might be being overly sensitive due to being 8 months along right now and that his mom was/is so much more excited about my niece was because it was the first grandbaby vs second, and it's not a slight against me.

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I was feeling pretty strongly about this last night, but as I see her messages to us go unresponded to I can't help but feel like an ass- she is also the kind of person who will take this as a major slight against her and it will cause problems. AITA, or being too petty? Or can I claim this as my hill to die on?