Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : So my new nanny for my 3yo and 1yo has a lot of positive traits and has seemed really good in almost all ways. However I have felt that she has not bonded with my 3 year old and frankly seems to think he is a bit of an asshole. I have explained many times that he is struggling with starting kindergarten, potty training (which he really really resisted) and the loss of his old nanny who left suddenly due to illness. I have told her he will get better and he is acting up because he's not coping, we have been through it before with him and he will come good. But she recently suggested he wasn't socialised enough and has stayed silent when I have said things by text like 'don't leave me! He will come good! I am sorry he wet his pants 4 times today, eek! 😁' etc.

So on a hunch I logged into the nanny website where I found her and saw that her profile was updated and she had logged in the day before. Hoping it was just one of those things, I have checked each day and seen that she is logging in most days. I think it's fair to assume she must be looking for another job.  She already has a second job and would have no time for a third so I feel like it's pretty likely she is looking to replace us. 

I have started looking for a new nanny. I haven't decided what to do if I find one but I am so worried that she will just quit. I have started a new business and the next couple of months are really crucial, I just need reliable childcare. 

I know I should talk to her but I am worried that once she admits she's not happy, she will just quit. I want to be ready if that happens. 

So, AITA? 


