Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I had an online (best) friend for about 4 years. I only knew her for a couple months when she became depressed. She was lonely irl with a ton of family issues. She was my best friend, not out of pity. I wanted to make her feel better and I listened to her rants, and offered my opinions. Occasionally she would disappear to take breaks from social media, but when she came back I was really happy to see her, and she was always happier after the breaks. Everything was all good.

Fast forward another year of being friends with her. I started being less social and had no idea how to respond to people, and much preferred listening. I never initiate any conversations with others unless it directly involves the other person because I just don’t think about talking to people, and I honestly don’t know what to say. So she started thinking our friendship was one sided and that I didn’t care about her since I barely say much in my replies, nor do I talk about my own life. I can see why she thinks that but it’s simply not true. I constantly assured her that I liked her talking to me, I just didn’t know what to say. 

Because of this, she started to attack me, saying that I don’t give a crap about her, and am a shitty person for not being upfront about it. None of these things were true, even though it did seem like it. She also thought I was only friends with her out of pity, but at the time, I really wasn’t. When she would text me at school and I don’t reply immediately, she would also talk about how she’s really sad that I don’t care about her and whatnot. And it hurted me a lot. But I couldn’t tell her that, I didn’t want her to end up sadder than she already was. Sometimes she did talk to me about stuff that I didn't want to reply to, like intimacy stuff with her boyfriend. I'm 15 and very uncomfortable about it, which contributed to her feeling this way further.

She continually implied that I made her depressed. She already has low self esteem issues, and me ‘not wanting’ to be friends with her made her even less confident and able to trust. At that point I was so hurt (but couldn’t say anything) that I actually started being friends with her out of pity because she had no other friend and was depressed enough already. So I just continued to listen to her rants. 

Though I didn’t know what to say most of the time, I was occasionally helpful. I helped her with her highschool courses, helped motivate her get through a year of college, convinced her to get out of a relationship she didn’t want to be in, etc. (still a very small fraction of stuff I could’ve helped her with but didn’t) , and now that she has people in her life and is happy, I was finally able to drift away from her. We still keep streaks, but I guess that’s how our friendship ‘ended’. 

Am I the asshole for being friends with her out of pity for a really long time and made her feel like crap because of how I text people?