Apologies for length (tldr at the end) and here’s some backstory- L and I have been friends for a couple years, and it was only when I moved to a different state that things got weird. 

It was super hard on L because I was pretty much the only friend he was willing to leave the house for and he was always telling me he wished we’d become roommates. I was doing great after I moved but every time I mentioned my new job, home, friends, etc L would either make it about him or just ignore it completely and go on about how depressed he was. That was my first red flag that this friendship maybe wasn’t as supportive as I thought. 

I went back to visit a couple weeks ago and my friend let me stay at her place while she was on vacation.  She invited L to stay over for a couple nights so he could have a little staycation, which was so incredibly kind of her considering she’s only met him once. L was ungrateful and negative the whole time. The second he walked in, he started complaining about every little thing. Her decor, the dog fur on the couch, the lack of food in the fridge, the closet doors didn’t shut right- the list goes on. 

I was pissed considering she let him stay for free and his constant whining made me not want to spend a second with him. He barely asked about my life and just complained endlessly about his. I paid for our food and Ubers because he was broke and I didn’t get a thank you. I brought back a few pieces of cake from a bakery and he ate all of them without asking. He didn’t even apologize when I told him I was going to save one for myself. 

I should have spoken up but he was doing so shitty mental health wise that I didn’t want him to feel bad about himself. Instead, I flew back home like nothing was wrong and started ignoring his messages. But then he sent me a flurry of texts about how he really needed help and was considering treatment programs but didn’t know where to start. That’s when I started feeling super guilty but still didn’t reply. I haven’t sent anything back for 3 weeks and don’t plan to. A break from talking to him made me realize that a lot of our friendship was just him using me. But I know it sucks to have a good friend stop talking to you out of nowhere. 

AITA for resorting to childish behavior and ghosting him? 

TLDR; stopped replying to a friend after he whined and complained during our vacation. I feel bad because he has bad mental health issues. AITA?