Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Okay guys, this is a double AITA.

For background: We, DH (Darling Husband) &amp; I been together 12 yrs. I have 2 children from a prior. They're 2 and 8 when we met. One 6 year old together.

My MIL (mother in law) has always been manipulative &amp; is one of those people whom makes digs at you in a sickening sweet way so you cannot really confront her. She is passive aggressive. DH's family are all "entitled white people" of the same stereotype. 

I'm not, a yes bitch.

For years, my MIL at events has taken pics requesting my 2 boys to stand out of pics bc they are not "blood family". I let her have that but voiced my concerns to DH. He always responds, "Mom is who she is". Incidents like this happen all the time. But marriage is about compromise right?

Well, in spring of 2017 DH's Aunt, MIL's sister, was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. Tough break for sure. Halloween 2017, MIL &amp; Aunt's mom (G-ma) passes away. They begin planning a trip to Michigan set for June Father's day week 2019 bc G-ma always wanted this. Fast forward Dec 2018 Aunt passes away - heartbreaking.

Fast forward to last week, 1.5 years of planning this trip, MIL and FIL come to visit. We have coffee with MIL whom starts naming off all the people who are going to MI to my 6 year old, only my 2 boys are left off. Thinking it's an error I say nothing. 2 days later at dinner attended by entire family and my 20 year old (other son was not there thank fucking goodness) &amp; MIL starts the same shit of all who are invited in a sing-song voice to the grandkids. My boys are left off again in front of my 20 yr old.

Come to find out entire family has been planning this trip without my 2 sons. WTF? I realize they purposely left me out of planning, very unusual, so my 2 kids could not come.

DH claims he had no idea, which I don't believe. We get into huge fight, he blames dead aunt &amp; says it's all her fault. Being the confrontational bitch I am, I text MIL very nicely &amp; explain I will not be going. She apologizes nicely and also blames dead aunt, I said, still not going &amp; my 2 sons &amp; I will do something else. Both women planned this trip &amp; aunt has been dead 4 months.

During therapy this week my DH admits he lied, &amp; he knew way before me but was planning on taking all 5 of us anyway.

So my DH was going to play me like a fool &amp; take us on a vacay we were not invited on while all knew besides us? I'm beyond hurt by this. I said he looks like a pussy ass mama's boy who was planning to play his RoD for a fool over this? Then I called him a bitch &amp; said all the trust we spent the last year rebuilding is gone. AITA?

I have since told him his family are selfish, narcissistic assholes who wouldn't piss on anyone if they were on fire &amp; I will have nothing to do with them ever again but I won't deny our 6 year old a relationship with them bc I'm not that sort of person. Also, I said my 14 year old will stay clueless to him being uninvited.

AMITA? Did I take it too far?

Sorry so long!