I know the title sounds controlling but hear me out first.  My fiancé is on disability for have a mass in the brain and having it was removed, but he lost his left Peripheral vision on each eye and he gets seizures. If you saw him you wouldn’t be able to tell all that happen to him. I am starting college beginning of next year and he wants a part-time job to contribute our financial situation. I told him helping out with chores around the house and cooking was all he had to do. We came to an agreement only because one we live in Texas and if it gets too hot for him he could have a seizure. Two my job does mandatory overtime so it my be problematic if I can’t drive him to work since I am the only on who can drive(we live in a small city the bus system sucks).  Three next year he has to go back to the hospital to do testing and possibly another brain surgery because we don’t know what the future may hold for us. Finally I don’t mind if he has a job cause I would hate to be coup up in the apartment 24/7 like he does, but in the past times he tried it just ended up in the ER because the migraines became unbearable or he had multiple seizures. Right now agreement was and still is to just help with the house upkeeps and making dinner, but I just feel like rethinking the conversation makes me feel like a controlling a-hole