I am not that great of a writer so please bear with me as I try to start this out. I am 26, ex US Army going to college in a town near where I grew up. I just started dating a single mother about 2 weeks ago and it's like instant chemistry with all three of us. The boy's dad is an absolute dead beat, and being US Army I've seen plenty of those so I've done my best to make the boy feel like he's special and deserving of respect. 

I am also huge into DemoBass systems. My car is my passion. I drive a 2009 BMW M-series with the truck and back seat filled as best I can with sub-woofers. I get so much pride out of being the person you can hear coming from miles away. I've won local car and bass contests because it's something I put my heart and soul into. 

So here is where he stories cross paths. My girlfriend hates my system. She say's its obnoxious, it hurts her ears and it's a major sticking point between us progressing in our relationship. I tell her that I will always want to be loud and proud but I can turn it down when she's around. She agreed but told me she still doesn't like it. She also said that I am never to play my bass with her son in the car. I also agreed. 

Well yesterday, her dead beat ex didn't show up to pick up her son but she had to work. She asked me if I might be able to watch him for the day. I happily agreed. We were out cruising around and he kept begging me to crank my system up but I said your mom wouldn't like that. So finally we were at a light and some choad came up next to us with a weak ass system and finally my pride got the best of me and let Aiden absolutely crank the system. It was so loud and impressive that he was actually vibrating in his seat. We laughed so hard when the choad slinked away in his little rice grinder. I had the volume up for maybe 5 minutes before I said his mom wouldn't like it so we should turn it down.  All was good, five minutes of fun. 
I told Aiden we don't want to keep secrets from his mom but maybe lets just not talk about this and it was between us. 


So all was good, girlfriend was super appreciative that I watched him for the day and even started talking about the next night she has off and her mom can watch Aiden, she'll stay at my place for the first time. I was like on cloud nine. 


But then overnight I just started getting angry text after angry text from her because I guess Aiden told her about the choad and how we buried him at the intersection. I tried to respond that it was only five minutes, bass doesn't damage hearing anyways and he really loved it. She called me an asshole for violating her rule, she said I was immature for having the "stupid bass" anyways and her last text was "we're done!" before apparently blocking me. 

It's 541 AM here and I'm lost because things were going so well and now this? I'm just devastated and wish she would listen to reason. 


am I the asshole for this?
