Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : 
First let me start off by saying I love my in laws and get along with them pretty well but they just come to town excessively. They live approx 4 hours from us and when they come to stay they stay for a week or more at a time.

My BIL and his wife had a baby a year and a half ago and my in laws have visited once a month for a week or more at a time with their two large dogs since the birth. 

This previously wasn't an issue has they had a second place to stay up here that they owned.  However they are planning to sell it this year and still plan on visiting as often as they do. 

My BIL used to have a spare room, but that is now the baby's room.  My SO and I just bought our first house together and we made sure to have an extra room for visitors just in case.  Well MIL has decided that it's HER room and has stated that she can't stay at BIL house because "shes to old to sleep on a couch". 

There are other family members that live in our area that the SOs could stay with.  And the BIL has offered to let them stay in his basement, but it's unfinished at the moment and would just be a box springs and a mattress not a room

My S.O feels as though he has some sort of obligation to allow his parents to stay with us all the time. I do not. I don't mind if they stay with us a few times a year but I'm not interested in giving up my spare bedroom to someone coming in town once a month for two weeks at a time every month. I don't care who you are.  I want privacy and the ability to plan a vacation or make plans where I don't feel obligated to be home instead of hosting all the time.  There have been a few situations where she has become passive aggressive about the fact that even though she's been in town every month for the past year we didn't make time to see her every day she was here.  And I feel it would be even worse if she was staying with us. 


AITA?

TLDR: in laws constantly come in to town and expect to always have a place to stay even though they are selling their house and don't seem to care about privacy or the fact that other people have lives outside of hosting guests. 




