Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My husband and I are in more debt than I have ever been in my life. Our main goal in life is to save up money and sail around the Caribbean. We have been together 7 years and married for almost 2. We have no children.

My sister goes to Alaska each year to serve at a restaurant and she makes very good money (way more than I make at my current job). My husband and I have talked about it in the past but have always agreed it was too much time apart. After crawling from the wreckage of 2018, I began to seriously consider the job. I talked to my husband and I applied. After I applied, he did say that he doesn’t think it is a good idea that we will be a part for that long. But he seemed to come around and support me. He would ask to talk about it and I would say, let’s wait until I actually get the job. Every bit of information I got from my sister or email from the company, I let him know. 

So I get the job. My husband had seemed to come around and he has been looking for work there as well. The main issue is our dogs, we needed to find housing for them (for us both to go). My sister has been reaching out to all of her friends to find a dog friendly rental. She may have a friend with one that opens in June. I will be working from April 15th- September. I began to book my flight and my husband asks me to wait to see if he gets a call from a application he sent in that day. Later that day he tells me to buy my tickets. So I do.

I just told him I am writing this post and he wants me to add: Our house is far away from family. 3,000 miles away from family. So it would be just him and the dogs. 

Anyways, the day after I buy the tickets, he is no longer supportive. He says I am ditching him. He says he just told me to buy the tickets because he wanted me to change my mind. 

He has been depressed and ornery the past two days since I bought my tickets. He tells me I am ruining the relationship. 

Last night he says he is going to sail up there with our small sailboat. I say that it is pretty dangerous and he brushes it off saying that people do it all the time. So he starts planning his sailing trip and we are both getting excited that he has a way to get up there. Then he snaps again and blames me because sailing is too dangerous and I shouldn’t have supported the choice. 

He keeps asking what he can do to make me stay and I keep saying there is nothing. I need stability in my life and I want this experience. He says if I love him I wouldn’t ditch him. I say if he loves me he would support me. 

I have suggested that he go stay with family while I am away, but he doesn’t want to. He just doesn’t want me to go. 


AITA for wanting to do this and not canceling after I have committed?



TLDR; AITA for going to Alaska to have an experience and make money for 6 months without my husband. 