Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : My ‘boyfriend’ and I have had a turbulent relationship. When we first started dating, he told me he was broken up with his ex but still friends. Except he was so paranoid about her finding out about me which I found strange. We’ve been together for 4 years and throughout this time I’ve found out that he was in fact cheating on (us both I guess) and still to this day tries to send her messages telling her how much he loves and misses her. This has broken me. I can ever trust him again, and I don’t want to be with him. He has abused me emotionally and sometimes physically. We have broken up too many times to count. Despite this, I still love him and care for him deeply. I don’t want him gone from my life but I also don’t want to be in a relationship with him. Now we are at the point where I’m stronger and I’ve told him if he wants to see me, he’s going to have to work for it. He still thinks I’m his partner but to me, I never will be. I also have a crush on another guy, he seems to like me too. If anything happens between us, I don’t want to tell him about my current ‘bf’ because I figure what he doesn’t know won’t hurt. If it’s just casual dating do they really need to know? I don’t want to use this guy, but I also don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket, and I don’t want to scare people away with all this drama... WIBTA if I didn’t tell them about each other? 