Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My ex-girlfriend was overweight and I was an average, but not fit, guy. On one date we both said to that we should become healthier. So we set goals to exercise more and to improve our diets. We don’t live nearby so we wouldn’t go to the same gyms. 

I started going to the gym almost every day. I really wanted to become healthier, but also wanted to encourage her to lose weight. She told me her super athletic friend was training her and helping her diet. 

Within 4 months I’d improved physically a lot more than anyone had even expected. She’d gained more weight. I didn’t find her physically attractive anymore. 

I asked her friend what they did at the gym. Her friend told me that they didn’t go to the gym together. She had apparently never trained my girlfriend. When we went on dates it would be our “cheat days” so we’d be eating unhealthy foods. Apparently she was still eating badly almost every day. 

I met with my girlfriend, broke up with her for lying to me and getting unhealthier. 

A lot of people are telling me that I’m an asshole for breaking up with her, because I should never have tried to make her lose weight. Plus, by lying to me I got healthier.