Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Basically, my significant other and I always end up arguing over the volume of our voices and TV because a couple times now our neighbor (we live in apartments) has pounded on our wall randomly. My s/o always says “shhh” or “turn it down” which irritates the hell out of me because Monday-Friday our neighbor will have some girl over who, as soon as you hear the door close next door, will start moaning super loud to the point where we can hear it two rooms over. Last Wednesday she was screaming “F—- me harder!!” apparently when it was way past midnight. 

So in the end I don’t care if I’m speaking at a normal volume or laugh loudly occasionally when the dude next door doesn’t seem to care if he interrupts everyone on the floor with the late night meetups. But my s/o constantly chastises me, gets all self conscious if he thinks we’re being “too loud”, and is all nervous the neighbor will knock again on the wall. I personally don’t see a problem if the same courtesy doesn’t get extended to us and if we’re not even being loud, especially on a Saturday night. 

So AITA? Am I being unreasonable or petty? I want to reiterate again that I just listen and speak at a normal volume but I feel like my s/o wants us to speak in library voices and have subtitles on the tv just to avoid our neighbor knocking on the wall or having a bad opinion of us (even though we’ve only seen him like 3 times; never spoken in depth). I can admit that sometimes we or friends we have over can have loud outbursts of laughter or exclaims, but it’s never a constant flow of loudness nor is it a daily occurrence. 

Thanks in advance for any feedback/opinions. Yet again our night has ended sourly over a disagreement over this topic, so I hope to get some honest feedback and different points of view! 