Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My girlfriend and some of my friends went to a birthday dinner last week at a restaurant (that becomes a club later in the night). The music was extremely loud (fact that was brought up by others too) and it was hard to keep up a conversation because of it.

We were all at the same table, but there was a clear division between my friend group, and the birthday girl's friend group. At some point, I decided to ask my friend (Matt) if he wants to go outside with me get some fresh air. I barely see him these days and I missed just chatting with him. He said yes.

Conversation with my girlfriend the other day:

Her: It was really rude when you and Matt went outside, just the 2 of you, to talk. What did you guys talk about?

Me: Nothing, just our lives, what shows we're watching, our jobs, etc. Nothing gossipy.

Her: Yeah but it was really rude. My friends were asking why you guys just got up and went out in the cold.

[ she thought we were talking shit about other people at the table, that Matt doesn't like, which we weren't ]

Me: You regularly go with your friends for a smoke outside. In the same cold. What's the difference?

Her: Yeah but when we go it's to have a smoke. We don't just go out in the cold for no reason.

Me: Yeah but you guys could be talking about the same things just as much, much less gossiping also.

[ she keeps insisting it's ok because they're smoking ]

Me: Ok so if Matt and I were smokers [we're not] and went outside to smoke, that would be ok?

Her: Yes.

Me: Ok. Imagine the same situation, but eliminate the cigarettes from our hands. Are we in the wrong?

Her: Yes.

We didn't argue about this. I love her very much. She loves me very much. I just want others' opinions on this.