I’ll start by saying that I’m not asking her to quit. I’d never do that, it’s just how I am. My girlfriend works at a popular supermarket chain, she started around 2 months ago. The job is easy, for the most part, but she’s never around because of this. Before she started working, we’d be able to see each other a lot. As most relationships work. But now that she’s scheduled for a majority of the week every week, she’s never around. But that’s the least of my worries.

She has a second job, the job she worked before the job she has now. She only covers people’s shifts sometimes, and because of this she takes shifts on days she has off. She works too much. Not because I won’t be able to see her, but because she has no time to eat. She wasn’t like this before working her new job. She keeps picking at her fingers, to the point where it hurts her. She’s constantly stressed out, and has little to no time to do her homework at home so she does it in school. Her parents have told her that they’re not forcing her to work, and she can quit if she wants to. I feel bad because I encouraged her to apply to her new job, and now I realize that it might not be the best for her to work there anymore. 

We were texting last night, and she was super anxious because she felt like she ate too many gummy bears. Because recently, she’s been eating almost nothing all day. The past month or so, she just hasn’t been herself. She was scheduled for every day this week minus Thursday, but she took off Friday and Saturday to be with her best friend on their birthday. Thursday, she took a shift at her other job. I do honestly think she works way too much, and it’s not healthy for her.

Here’s where the AITA part kicks in. I don’t want her to quit, even if it may be better for her. If I told her how I feel about this, I know she’ll overthink it and think too much into it. She’ll probably think that I do want her to quit, and she’ll think she’s a bad girlfriend because she’s always at work and never has time for me (which isn’t true on the weekends, but I have work Sunday so we can only go out Saturday and whenever she doesn’t have work.) She’s not a bad girlfriend at all, and I don’t want her to think that. She has before, for similar reasons, and I don’t think it’s fair that she has to think into things like this so much. I don’t know if I can tell her. The earliest I can see her is probably Tuesday, since I have work Sunday and Monday and she’s going to be at her friends’ for her birthday. Help me out please, because I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want her to feel down like this. I don’t want her stressing out so much because she doesn’t eat because of work. But I don’t want her to overthink everything, and maybe feel worse if I did tell her.