Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : For background I live in a suite style college dorm with a kitchen and common area. The suite has 5 people and 3 bedrooms. I live in one of the doubles (the rooms are randomly assigned and I wasn’t lucky enough for the single).

My roommate is a party person, and I am more of a stay at home introverted type. On weekends, she invites her friends, and they pregame/hang out in our suite.  I don’t get why they MUST come in our room when there’s an entire living room and table. They always come to our bedroom too, and drink/smoke weed but I don’t drink or smoke. My roommate is always trying to convince me to try it and that it’s “not bad” but I really don’t want to. I don’t care if they do it outside of here, but I don’t want it in my room, especially weed smoke. Our room is right next to the RA, and if they even smell smoke they have to investigate. Plus, I choose not to smoke for a reason, so I don’t want to smell it.

She doesn’t tell me when they’re coming so often I’m completely in my pajamas with strangers. Once she had a bunch of people in our room partying and drinking while I was at home for the weekend, and I only knew because of her snapchat story. Obviously you can imagine I don’t appreciate drunk people around my things while I’m not there.

To me the bedroom is the most private/intimate space I have, and it’s bad enough sharing it with one stranger, but having a whole bunch in and out does not sit well with me. Her guests are respectful and don’t touch my things, but I still don’t like it. If I had my way I would totally ban guests in here. I can’t trust them not to do drugs/drink in here. I don’t want to get punished for having it in my room when it’s not even mine. We are  “chill” roommates and never complain to each other, so I don’t want to ruin it. She’ll think this is ridiculous because it’s her room too and she should be allowed to have friends, which I understand, but I have limits. 

She’s also known to have a short temper, get “petty revenge” and even physically fight people when they piss her off, so the last person I want to piss off is the one around all my stuff. But my school is strict on alcohol and drugs and I don’t want to risk it. However, who am I to impose my lifestyle on her? WIBTA for telling her not to bring any guests even though it’s equally her room as it is mine?