Me and my boyfriend are financially tied in more than one ways for years now, I basically own his business, he owns the house where we live in.
He hesitates to make things more serious between us, you know, actually get married &amp; and have kids. I still owned a dusty very tiny apartment on the other side of town, where I officially reside, but never go to, and have troubles letting go, because basically, I don’t feel like his place is my place, although I helped decorating and some of the furniture is mine as well.
Once upon a time I had troubles with commitment, didn’t want to get married, and kids were far from my mind as can be - I guess at that time we were perfect for each other - but for the last couple of years I’m over 30 and I realize I really want that. He doesn’t want that, and was always straight that he never did. His priorities are on his career and our business success, which is going quite well, actually. I think because I officially own the company, so he doesn’t want to end this, he will tolerate me more?...
In any case, not so long ago I was sad &amp; very drunk &amp; I slept with a random guy.
I am always honest with my partner, so I come clean and told him this was the most stupid mistake. I asked how will he ever trust me again, etc. he said he trusts me even more for coming clean, as he would have never found it out, and that he had been emotionally unavailable for a really long time. He saw it somehow as his fault as well, and said we will change this, but still doesn’t want to get married, the family, etc. not because of cheating, but because he doesn’t think it’s right time due to the fact he has to concentrate on business. He justifies that for having kids he needs time, which he currently doesn’t have. He also justifies he’s not sure at all about having kids.
Nevertheless, after cheating, I feel like actually, life doesn’t need to be like this, we’re financially stable enough, so I broke up with him anyway and I’m looking for something else.
On the other side, he didn’t take the cheating so seriously, at least in front of me, but was very upset about breaking up.