Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Set up: I got out of the Army in July and started attending college on the west coast in the Fall. Most of my old Army buddies are in completely different areas of the country so I basically never see them and only stay in touch via text. About a month ago one of my best friends (let's call him Brian) from the Army committed suicide. Shot himself in the head, left no note. We knew he was struggling a bit in his transition out of the military but none of us, including his girlfriend, knew it was hurting him that bad. A friend (let's call her Ashley) I made here at college looked after me the entire following weekend to make sure I didn't lose it.

Story: A few weeks after the suicide Ashley, myself and another mutual friend of ours (let's call her Angela) go out to a bar and Ashley finds a guy to dance with while I go and have a few drinks. I have a few too many and everything about Brian committing suicide hits me all at once. I just completely break down at the bar. Angela finds me, comforts me (turns out she had a friend who also committed suicide) and offers to take me home. I'm pretty trashed at this point and the bar was closing soon anyway so I accept, get home, and crash.

Apparently neither me nor Angela had thought to text Ashley that Angela was taking me home. Angela went straight back to the bar after dropping me off but in the meantime Ashley had realized she didn't know where we were and had gotten kicked out of the bar while looking for us (apparently she was trying to push her way through the crowds and the bouncer thought she was trying to start a fight).

Ever since then whenever that night has been brought up she's been semi-angrily accused  me or teased me about leaving her at the bar, even after I've apologized numerous times for not texting her where that I was leaving (though in my defense I was pretty hammered). She knows I was upset about something but I don't think she knows exactly why, though she is aware of my friend's suicide.

Every time she brings it up and uses it as an accusation or way of teasing me it makes me angry because it feels like she's trying to make me feel guilty about grieving for one of my closest friends. I don't think she would ever actually try to make me feel guilty about it, but it's how it comes across. Also worth noting Ashley is kind of emotionally closed off as a result of some bad experiences she's had that affected her pretty deeply.

Am I the asshole?