Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Please don't mind the exposition I get into, it's just that I don't really know what to leave out without making this seem incomplete so I just left this long. Tl;dr at the end.

The friend (25f) (who I will refer to as R) and I (24f) met in University while I was living in Canada around 2013. We were in the same class and because her lab partner ended up dropping the class (which I don't blame her for, it was a fucking hard class😭) and we were both the only women in the class to wear the headscarf, I figured we would get to know each other anyway so I let her join our group.

That was a good idea on my part because she turned out to be interesting and funny and totally easy to hang out with.

Our friendship blossomed real quick, we were practically sisters. 
We were both the only girls in our families so it was as if we were filling an empty space. Even my mom, who never allowed me to have friends when I was young (and she certainly didn't allow me to have anyone to stay over) liked R. 

So, fast forward to 2015, my mom decides to move back to the US, where we were originally, so I tell R I'm moving and she and I agree to keep contact.

2016 rolls around and we make good on our promise. 

2017 comes and this is the year everything kinda falls apart. Potentially.

Now, my brother is on Reddit, idk how often he uses it but he might get mad if he recognizes this story cuz it's kinda about him too. Sorry bro, but its important to me to get this question answered.

Anyway, since we're Muslim, we don't date we just get married. So since I had a friend who was a young single Muslim lady, and I had 3 brothers who were also young and Muslim, my mom got some ideas.

For the most part, I thought it was a good idea to see if she was compatible with one of my brothers (namely the one who's 22, and here on Reddit) so I decided to arrange a little meeting between them and my parents. 

All parties agreed.

Now, my mom is kinda traditional in how she sees marriage. When she got married to my stepdad (who was in attendance) they talked like twice over the phone and then they were married.

R didn't want that (shocking I know), she instead wanted to talk more to my brother and get to know what kind of person he was, in terms of religion and life goals. 

What she wanted wasn't too unreasonable, but my mom got slightly offended that she wasn't into marrying right away, so this meeting and all other protential meetings were soon called off. 

After this event, R didn't come around anymore. We talked on the phone like, once since then and my mom is convinced that this event was the reason she's avoiding me.

I don't think it's that simple. 

See, she was having alot of issues with her own family, in 2015 they came to Canada and they all took a trip somewhere and they forced her not to wear her headscarf. She was really upset about that. Plus, her family was giving her a hard time about other things too, so she was super stressed out.

I think all these factors (her family, my family, me (I'd like to think I'm a pretty considerate person but who knows if I added to her stress)) kinda burnt her out and she needed time.

So I left her alone. I messaged her once in May to tell her happy Ramadan, and once in June to inform her that my grandmother died. I'm pretty sure I didn't even know if I told her about what else happened because 2018 was a rollercoaster for me and my family. 

I tried to contact her some months and months later but she never answered. I checked her Facebook to see how she's doing but there are no new posts. I even texted her once but nothing back.

At first I was like, "she needs her space", then my thoughts went to, "does she hate me?", after that they went back and forth from, "am I a bad firiend?" and, "I'm such a terrible person who  never realizes how fucking stupid I am", to, "wtf she's not the only one going through shit! Why is she being selfish??"

Now I just think we no longer have any need to contact each other. 

I tried to keep contact. I tried to be considerate.

Now I'm just tired.

But I still feel this guilt just eating away at me, so now I'm here to ask you internet.

Tl;dr I left my friend alone so she could deal with her shit but now, a long time later, she isn't answering my calls so I'm not going to bother contacting her again, AITA?

Please don't hesitate to tell me if this doesn't make sense.