Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : One of my (25f) friends, R (27M), is someone I’ve known for about 7 years.
When we first became friends, we almost dated, but he was very open sexually, and I am more private about that. A couple times when we were “talking” I felt a bit violated by his actions — For some relevant detail, my first sexual experience was at age 14 and was completely non-consensual. So my view is very different, but I did share my traumatic experiences with him.

Anyways, R is very into BDSM and masochism etc. in his own words, he likes to push the boundaries of what people think about sexuality. Whatever. Cool. However, this often leads to him sharing details with me about his sexual experiences that make me very uncomfortable. To him, that’s the point. To me, he’s making me anxious and relive certain things I’d rather not think about.

Whenever I ask him not to, I’m usually met with accusations of being a prude. I do have a sex life and am open to new things, but I only enjoy these discussions in the privacy of my long term partner. 

R thinks I’m an asshole for being so “close minded”. Im not trying to be, but graphic details about blood and the sound of a female being hit makes me mad anxious.

AITA??

**TL;DR:** friend has an edgy POV about sex that makes me uncomfortable due to my traumatic past, thinks ITA for asking for discretion