Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This happened many years ago but it has bothered me bit every now and then.

I had these friends I had known for 8 years. It was mixed group from my friends from elementary school and high school. During and after high school we pretty much spent all our free time either drinking/partying/hanging out or playing games online with this group.

Somepoint one of them decided to get married. I had known him from elementary school and her bride ever since their whole relationship. 

For me weddings have always been family party. In my family it is given that any SO someone has is also invited. Weddings are all about love, parthership and family so in my family it is considered extremely rude to excludes other peoples family members. The invitation to the wedding did not have avec on but I never thought anything about it. 

When we were having bachelors party for my friend the topic of brining SOs to wedding came up. It was then when I realized that my SO isn't invited, but everyone elses is.

It really hurt me. At this point I had dated this girl for 3 years and lived together with her for 1 year. She was and still is very much essential part of my life. 

If I had dated this girl only a short time and if we hadn't lived together I would have totally understood why she wasn't invited. However girlfriends of other people who they had dated way shorter and didn't even live togheter were invited so it made no sense to me exclude her. I only saw it as an way of an insult for whatever reason to not include her.

I also understand that especially for brides weddings are one of the most important days in their life. It is their party and they can invite whoever they want. 

Anyway, after giving it thought after the bachelors party I decided to decline the wedding invitation. There is no way I could go to a wedding without my SO who I will probably spent rest of my life with. It would be too disrespectful towards her. I wished them best in their life and I have not contacted anyone on that group since or no one from that group has contacted me. 

Am I the asshole? 

