Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 years now and we've been living together in our house for about 18 months, we lived together for about 6 months or so before buying a house together. Therefore, this is a commmitted relationship.

On to the issue, I'm the tidy type in that I clean-up after myself, I put my things away, I do my best to keep a clean house and do more than my fair share of the house work. Both in the garden and inside the house.

My girlfriend is the messy type, I don't think she does it intentionally, she's just a bit of a scatterbrains but it winds me up none the less. She defintely does less of the chores and in her own way of being untidy creates more work for me to do.

I ask my girlfriend to try and clean-up after herself in various ways, put her clothes in the laundy instead of on the floor, throw away rubbish when she's opened/unpacked something, clean-up her mess in the kitchen, the front room, where ever; I get peeved about her untidyness but it never really turns into a fight. I just try to push in the direction or doing the considerate thing.

On the other hand, If i ever do anything that she doesn't agree with, something as minor as putting the wrong clothing items in the wrong hamper (she likes to keep towels/sheets seperate from clothes) she gets really wound up at me about it, if I highlight how many of her quirks I need to tolerate and how surely she can tolerate some of mine it'll usually turn into a fight where we refuse to apologise or talk to each other for hours, on rare occasions due to work scheduldes even days at a mine.
