Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hi! This conversation happened a few months ago but I am ready to bring it up to him again, but want some input first. 

Me and my BF are turning 35 this year, we don’t want kids. We’ve been in a relationship for 4 years but close friends for 10 (for the most part).

A few months ago I brought up a vasectomy to him. The reason was bc I was having some mental health-ish type problems that I suspected were at least partly related to my birth control. 

He gave me a flat out “not a fucking chance” type answer and wouldn’t even really consider it. 

I have been on birth control on and off for 20 years and at this point my honest very basic thought about it is that it is a pill designed to go into my brain, fuck with my hormones and make my body not do what it is supposed to do - and more things I won’t go on a tangent about here.

Because of our age, I know I will have to take it for another MINIMUM 10 years and up to 20 years. 3/4 weeks of my life for 20 years taking a pill that fucks with my brain and body. 

I feel that a vasectomy is a short procedure with a day or a few days of mild pain and that’s it. It doesn’t effect your brain. I have mild discomfort ummm... every month. 

The kicker for me was that shortly after (like 15min) that conversation, I mentioned a copper IUD. He was legitimately immediately concerned bc he has heard about them perforating etc ppl. But the fucking with my brain and body thing doesn’t raise as many flags! Why?? Because it’s just been “how it is” for so long? 

Cost - a vasectomy in Ontario is free. My pills are covered by his work insurance right now but up until 2 years ago and would otherwise be $13-20 per month.

And I bring irrational or selfish? Is there something about this topic that don’t know or don’t understand? At our age is it logical/illogical to think this way?

PLEASE... I am not looking for birth control advice or suggestions, thank you in advance :) 

Just to add, he is otherwise amazing, incredibly understanding, kind, intelligent. This type of response was actually kind of out of character for him.. and that’s kind of how I know how serious he was about his “no”! 

AITA or WIBTA for getting disappointed/upset/angry/pissed that he did or if he reacts in the same way - completely dismissive and won’t even consider it? WIBTA if I pushed him to at least look into it? 

Thank you in advance:))