My grandfather died of a heart attack last year and his second wife, my step grandma took every chance she could to make it about her own family. Rather than have the service at his church it was hers, we wrote it off as her wanting to be surrounded by friends so we didn’t protest. She then cut his first wife my mom’s mother from the list of people he would be joining in heaven, choosing to include someone that he had never met to be included over his first wife. In addition to the sleight of people the how was cruel they had her niece do a passage instead of my uncle, his son, who loves scripture. Finally we looked at the program and they took every chance they could to write us out as if we didn’t care. No mention of my father or uncle as pallbearers or my mother’s eulogy but hey at least I got recognized as a pallbearer. After that we went to the lung afterwards and they cut us from talking with the rest of her family putting all of his original family tables away where they had to set up when we arrived despite their being cutlery up other places. Following that I decided to take every opportunity to sever ties including boycotting the annual trip up to there for thanksgiving.

AITA?