I suffer from an illness that causes me to have regular bouts of vertigo.  These present as bad balance, walking around stumbling a little bit, needing to steady myself.  This same illness also makes me slur my speech on occasion.  So the other day I was at a dinner with my wife and her parents and I got up to go to the bathroom.  It was a bad day illness wise so I was stumbling a fair bit and my speech wasn’t at all clear.  I tripped and fell over in the restaurant and it was a bit of a scene.

After the restaurant we went back to their house, my wife drove my car because of my episode and I swear I saw them exchange a look of “I told you so” when I handed her the keys.  We were staying with her family overnight because we live about two hours away, and didn’t want to drive four hours for a dinner in one day.  So her mom turns on the news and we all settle in.  At some point during the evening both of my in laws had excused themselves to the kitchen, and a bit later I went to get myself some water, still having trouble walking but not quite as bad as earlier.  I over heard them say “[my name] is absolutely trashed, I can’t believe it, our daughter married a drunk”.  I knew right then that this was why they’d disapproved of me our whole marriage.  They thought I’m an alcoholic!  I walked right in and demanded to know what they were talking about, and then just lost it.  I told them I knew they thought I’m an alcoholic, that I’m drunk right now, and that I’m not.  My FIL laughed in my face and said “son you’re slurring right now why don’t you go to bed we can talk in the morning” and I just LOST IT.

I started yelling at them, why the fuck would you assume I’m lying about this, hasn’t wife told you about my illness, I’m sick of being treated like a degenerate because I’m fucking sick, etc etc. This isn’t an uncommon reaction to seeing someone with my illness, and I just let out all of my frustration from every time I’ve been treated like a drunkard because of it.  There was name calling and four letter words and honestly from the time I started to the time I stopped I don’t think they said a single word.  I only stopped when my wife came in and intervened.  

They then said that I had to leave their house immediately, so me and my wife are staying at a motel tonight.  

My wife is furious at me, she says that I should not have spoken to them that way, and she says that they can believe what they believe.   She’s furious with me and says that I did have some wine so what do I expect them to think 

AITA? 