I (19F) drove two hours to see my long distance boyfriend (21M) and he has pretty much spent the whole afternoon playing video games and hanging out with his roommates. I have just kind of silently hung out because I’m very shy and don’t know them very well and all they have been talking about is the video games they play. I have no video game interest or knowledge at all, but try and be supportive because I know he really enjoys them. 

As of right now, I have been awkwardly laying in his bed for two hours while he plays a game on his computer at his desk, only being able to talk to him when he turns around to give me a kiss or tell me he loves me. He plays video games every day after school and I only get to see him once every couple of weeks. I’ve tried to emphasize that I miss him very much and I’m even leaving at an inconvenient time for me tomorrow because I just want to be able to spend a little more time with him, but he seems to think me sitting a couple feet away on my phone for hours is spending time together. 

I know if I told him I didn’t want him to play then he wouldn’t, but am I the asshole for wanting him to WANT to not play, and to spend time with my instead. 