Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Let me start by giving some background information for our relationship. I (22M) love my girlfriend (21F). We met in the summer of my junior year of college (summer internship) and did distance for a year. I ended up getting a job that allowed me to move back up to her city after graduation and found a studio apartment. We moved in together shortly after as I felt her living situation was less then ideal. My girlfriend was in a car accident two years ago that left her with a hip injury. Her Uncle ended up offering to take her in and she lived with him before I moved up. The living situation between them ended up becoming less than ideal. I didn't want her to pay rent since she wasn't in a position financially to do so. After she moved in she ended up having to get knee surgery again. I tried my best to support her through the surgery and be her caretaker as she would be in a wheelchair for two months. This was a rough time for her. Her mood and demeanor changed as she was dealing with the fact that she would have to push off school and work to deal with the recovery. She ended up getting a job at a bank two weeks ago, after regaining the ability to walk. We both go to work and we come home and essentially prepare for the next day. I'm generally an outwardly affectionate person and during the time of our relationship, my girlfriend would be as well but she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder this past year and has even admitted to me that the she was in a manic state when we met that summer. Knowing this, I have tried to dial back on the level of attention and affection I provide to her and tried to be more understanding. She was on Abilify for a couple of months but has since stopped taking it because its made her gain weight. I know there are moments where she doesn't want to talk or be bothered but it has now come to a point where for the past couple of months, I've been feeling as if she is more of a roommate rather than a girlfriend. I feel like our relationship is at a point where I have accepted that the weekdays I leave her alone for the most part and hope that her mood changes a little when the weekend comes around. She says this is fine and that I should just let her be tired and when she wants to grab my attention she will. I have no problem with that but its just getting to a point where our relationship operates on when she wants to open up and be attentive and affectionate rather than it being something that is mutually given by both partners. I really love her and it may be my age, but I'm just trying to understand how to communicate to her what I am feeling.  If you have read this far then I definitely would love to hear your input about this and I am able to provide more information to any follow up questions that may be asked.