My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and we are about to graduate from college. A month or so ago, he mentioned that his parents want to take their family a European cruise after graduation, and would like me to join them (along with his sister’s long term boyfriend). He said that “they really want to spend some time with me” (because I haven’t seen them since the summer, unlike my parents, who have taken us out to dinner every time they visit). 

However, when he had first brought this up, I had just returned from my spring break cruise with my friends. This was my parents’ “graduation present” to me. We aren’t struggling by any means, but we don’t have too much money just lying around for unexpected trips, especially after I just took one. On the other hand, my boyfriend’s family is very well-off, and a $3000 estimated trip cost would not set them back at all, which it would us. 

When I started crunching the numbers and bringing it up to my parents, I just knew that we didn’t have the numbers to make it work. When I told my boyfriend that, he was really disappointed, since he really wanted me to come. The whole thing has been very embarrassing and tough for me since he still kept talking about the things he wanted to do on the trip with me, and of course I really wanted to go. 

I feel awkward because they invited me along knowing that I had just taken a nice trip and I don’t have the resources that his family has. He’s made no mention of thinking to try to help me out, and my friends have said that I’m not alone in thinking that that’s not a crazy thing to expect. He keeps saying how it won’t be the same without me, and sometimes I just want to come out and say that it doesn’t have to be that way!! He has stopped talking about it, but I just can’t shake this feeling like I’m disappointing him, but maybe that’s just on me. 

So AITA for being annoyed that my boyfriend’s wealthy family invited me on a trip that I can’t pay for and is not making any effort to help me come with?