Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So  I’m a high school student (junior), and am very involved in my school’s theatre program. I’m on  friendly terms with everyone in the program, but am only really close with a few people. I’m currently in a student directed one act. So my director’s birthday is Tuesday so she set up a brunch and her best friend, who is also in the program, set up a surprise party not knowing the director was planning brunch. I was originally planning on going to both however my boyfriend got grounded and my other good friends can’t go. I decided it wasn’t worth it to go to the parties only to make awkward small talk and be on my phone. So last night I made the choice of just sleeping in and work on school projects that I’ve procrastinated doing. I texted my director telling her I was unable to attend, but hoped she’d have a good day. And texted her friend basically the same thing. I got a kind message back from my director and a mean one from her friend. Saying since I was in the cast I was obligated to go. I tried to be as nice as possible in response, but she wasn’t having it. She proceeded to insult me, my acting abilities, and my boyfriend. I still plan on giving my director her present on her actual birthday ,but the message from her friend made me feel bad about not going. So tell me, oh wise people of Reddit, am I the asshole?