Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : **TL;DR: My passive aggressive housemate has convinced the landlord she's the sole caretaker of the flat and he’s threatened to withhold part of our deposit. Now she’s erected a cleaning record sheet without telling anyone and my housemates are starting to fill it in. But I won’t – so AITA for not following the herd?**

Four of us rent rooms in a flat. Two of us are English, the others are Italian and talk daily in their native language. One of them, who is middle-aged, is passive aggressive (PA) and has hit my red line.

Cleaning is her bugbear, but all of us pitch in with chores, buy supplies and so on. But weeks after I moved in, PA texted the flat and landlord that she was fed-up with cleaning ‘the whole flat’ and only the other Italian housemate cleaned at all. The landlord then threatened to withhold part of our deposit if we didn’t pitch in.

I was livid. Not only did I do my bit, but PA never raised her concerns face to face. When she was not hiding in her room, my attempts to calmly discuss it were shut down and the silent treatment started. The other Italian housemate had seen me clean and said there was no issue with cleanliness when I asked the day before (the previous tenant warned me about PA). Plus, since the landlord was that gullible, I started taking before and after pictures of my efforts, which feels ridiculous, but my deposit was steep.

Since then, the mood has calmed and the flat is kept clean. But a fortnight ago a sickness spread, cleanliness slipped, and PA put up a cleaning record sheet without consulting anyone, adding her name and a date next to each common room she supposedly cleaned. My housemates have begun filling it in too, and although I clean I refuse to sign it out of principle. I don’t give into passive aggressiveness, but I worry PA will use it to single me out as a resident slob and take it to the landlord.

So should I start signing it or stick to my guns? I want to live here in peace, but I’ve fought hard to establish boundaries generally and I feel it’s about time I stopped appeasing assholes for an easier life. But AITA for not following the herd?