Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So to simplify a lot of back story, my SO has been going to this bar in our city for over a decade. I've been dating my SO about 2 years. We both know the owners and bartenders and regulars and were even at the house of one of the bartenders for superbowl Sunday. Everything has always been pretty good.

Today we were day drinking at the bar with a bartender he has known for YEARS and I've known a while. She asked my SO to open the door to the bar as he was coming in from a smoke. He complied. Immediately, the couple that had been sitting next to us closed the door and started talking shit (we live in LA, it's like 60F, not that cold, and sunny, they said things like "fuck this, Wtf, close the fucking door") and my SO made a comment "oh *bartender's name* asked us to open that" when they closed the door. His intention was to let them know he'd been asked to prop open the front door. The bartender in question said we could open the other door that is farther down the bar if it's a problem. Then she went to the back. She didn't hear what these people had to say about us.

The guy next to me immediately started going off about how he offended "these fucking bikers" (we had riden our bicycles) and that it's time for them to go because us fucking bikers control everything. At this point my SO is protesting that we weren't trying to dictate the conditions of the bar, but were just listening to the bartender (our friend) who asked us to open the door. The guy next to me calls my SO a liar for dragging the bartender into it, and says it's past their curfew and it's time to go. My SO does egg him on because we both thought we were in the right and he was overreacting. ("*bartender name* asked me to open the door but if it's SUCH a big deal then close it") 

The bartender had been in the back for most of the bantering and when she came out, it felt like she sided with this stranger. She did say she never wanted the door open and that the owner was in the bar and asked her to open the door, so she wasn't really responsible. "shit rolls downhill" was her exact quote. Our (I thought) friend was nearby and witnessed the whole thing and told off my SO after the stranger left for picking a fight with a guy bigger than him? (my SO is 5'x6' and 140lbs this stranger was like 6' and bulky). AITA for feeling like no one had our backs in that situation? The bartender has been my SO's friend for a decade and always sweet to me but her reaction was to say she didn't even want the door open and both parties "are super nice guys". Our bystander friend said my SO should never speak up for himself against a guy that can kick his ass in a bar setting. We're both fuming and I just want to know if we're in the wrong for this.