Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : We've been together a long time and she's always had image issues. For years, she'll say things like "I'm fat", "I'm disgusting", "I'm ugly", etc. I understand how hard it is to not like the way you look, and have always responded with "I think you're beautiful" or similar.  I've always thought she had a perfect body, beautiful face, and I love every part of the way she looks. 

Lately, however, for whatever reason when she'll say something specific about herself ("my chin/face /stomach /whatever"), I've started to notice and see her perspective more. I'm not a fan of this and don't want to ruin the image I have. Today she started again and I told her that I need her to stop degrading herself because it's been impacting the way I see her.

This DID not go well. She told me I'm an asshole, I don't have her back, that I must be a child for letting my opinions be influenced by what she says.  She also said that because I told her that she's starting to influence my perspective that she questions If I've been lying the other times. She says she can't help but say these things because otherwise she spirals. I said I'm responsible for her self esteem, even if I want her to feel good. That also didn't go well.

So...? 