Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have to make a disclaimer that no mater how long this is, i cant completely and accurately portray this situation

My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost four years and this is our first year living together in a student apartment. We argue very often and have a very rough patches, but i do love her and our lives revolve around each other. I try to help her when shes upset but she often pushes me away, not letting me touch her and saying nothing is wrong when something clearly is. When i eventually pry it out of her its often not the whole truth or just "what i want to hear". This annoys me to an extent I can't describe

I am stupid and sometimes I i sound meaner than i want to when im trying to find out what's wrong, or just tell her straight up how i feel/what i think needs to be done. Shes lately been saying that it makes her feel like I don't care. Allthough in my mind, me trying to get the bottom of the problem so i can help is showing i care

I can only help her to a certain extent and in my opinion if she doesn't want to help me understand what's wrong then i cant help her properly. For 4 years i have been asking her to see a councilor (for this and other reasons) but she refuses saying it wont help and that it doesn't matter. It does matter to me, i think she needs to let everything out and come to terms with our relationship/her personal problems.

So reddit, am i the asshole for telling her to see one, and Telling her i can only help so much?