Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Hi folks, this is something that has been pressing my mind for a while, and after some more recent events, it's been heavily on my mind. Sorry it's a little long, but I'll put a TL;DR at the end.

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I'm a 21-year-old college psych student who is about eight hours away from her parents. My mom and dad are divorced (I believe they divorced in 2008) however they keep in very close contacts with each other. Like, people mistake them as a married couple all the time. This is relative but isn't the issue I'm having.

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My mom has a lot of mental health issues and is very gullible when it comes to social media. In the past year, she met someone online, on a popular dating app. The guy is pretty good looking from his pictures, in the army, and I guess he is very charming. I say I guess because she has never physically met the man but is obsessed with him. My mother is almost 60 years old, and this man looks like he's in his early 30s. Which, hey their both adults. What bothers me is that the man (I'll call him R) ask for money constantly to where it has put my mom very far in debt. I believe he is a catfish trying to scam my mother. Every time he says he's going to meet her, he never shows up and says that he can't because 'the captain wants him to stay' or 'he doesn't have the money to get back.' R also says he's in the military (I think the Army), but the pictures he's sent my mom are always in different uniforms. I don 't know a lot about the military, but I know that if you're in the Army, you usually don't wear a Navy's uniform, or etc. Yet, the pictures have different uniforms on each time. Also, the guy always looks different to me in each photo, as if they were different people.

R also asks for ridiculous amounts of money too, the most he has asked for is $4,000 in USD, but wants them sent to Ghana. Before my third year of school started, my mom said that if I wanted to live there I'd have to send R $3000  (I had some money from a car accident I was in and was compensated for) and we would call that the rent. Because I had nowhere else to go (I will explain why in a bit) I did it. I'm not proud of it, but I didn't really have a choice. 

My mom has also asked me to text R, and I say no because I don't trust him and she becomes verbally and emotionally abusive when I say no.

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My dad, on the other hand, is generally a nice guy. I'm really close to him, and he's a bit more street smart. However, my dad does a lot of dangerous shit like drugs and hangs out with crowds I'm not comfortable with. He also believes that R is a catfish, but my mom will lash out at my dad too. My mom thinks my dad is still in love with her, which is not the case. My dad has an on-and-off-again girlfriend who I will call B. B I have met, and from what I have seen about her, I also do not trust her. She has been civil with me, so I return the favor. However, she is more addicted to drugs then my dad has many accounts on apps like Tinder, POF, etc. and she gets physically abusive on my dad. For example, B once threatened to stab my dad, then she blamed her 'rapid mood swings' on being diagnosed with Bipolar 1. (Which btw, that's not how Bipolar works, people with Bipolar do not become rapidly and dangerously angry in a few hours.) People with Bipolar usually go from manic to depressed at the quickest, in a month.) So I think B is really dangerous for my dad.

My dad will also expect B of cheating on her because she was an 'adult entertainer' before she met my dad. She will go out at odd hours and come home 3 hours later. My dad gets really mad about this, and once he strongly thinks she is cheating on him, he will think he has her, come to me or my mother, bawling his eyes out, plot some type of revenge on B (getting her housing taken away, getting her arrested for prostitution, etc.) though after a week they will get back together. This cycle repeats once a month.

 Because my dad stays with B, when they fight, he is homeless and asks me for money. They live in a pretty bad area of town too that is known for gangs, drugs, prostitutes, and dangerous crimes, (I've been groped by strangers when I went to high school in his area twice) so I refuse to go live down there. 

I'm okay with my parents venting to me because, hey, we all need an open ear, but when I try and offer them advice they either ignore it, get mad at me, or block me. A few weeks ago my dad ranted about B kicking him out again, only for today he got back with her and now is thinking about moving cities with her. They broke up the 10th of February and made up the 14th of February. (I wrote this on the 17th of February) I told him that maybe they should really think this over, since it's been an off an on thing for a while, and if your name is both on a lease, then it will be hard for him to get out of that. He told me he talked it over with B, and they would be happy, and he wasn't worried about a 'little fight.' And it's not kind of judge B.

My mom asked me to text R because they got into a fight, and I said, no because I don't feel comfortable fixing their fight. My mom told me to go fuck myself because I don't like R. My mother even said that if it was my dad and her getting back together, then I wouldn't fight them on this. This is also untrue because they are very unhealthy for each other too.

As you can see, I'm very upset about this, and I told both of them that I was tired of being a scapegoat and if they didn't want to listen to the issues I have with their S.O then I'm not going to talk to them. Both of them are in a very unhealthy relationship, I don't really like either of their S.O, and I don't want to really talk to them until they break up with them or get some help, which they don't do either. 

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Both don't really have anyone to talk to because my mom is a hermit (literally, she stays in her house all day) and my dad doesn't trust his friends. Both have been known to have suicidal tendencies, and I feel like if they did break up with their S.O and I didn't talk to them, they might try to kill themselves.

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My sister and my friends think it would be a good idea to not talk to them because I'm in the middle and they use me as a stress relief more than an ear. My brother and some of my family thinks I'm being too hard on them and to not give up on them because they are family and if I give up on them they might hurt themselves, and I'm being selfish.

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I'm in my 3rd year of college and getting ready to explore grad school. Part of me even wants to move out of the state because my life is less chaotic when I don't have to deal with their bullcrap. 

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Am I the Asshole? 

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TL;DR: I think my parents are in unhealthy relationships and they want me to fix everything. I tell them I don't want to hear it, and not to talk to me until they break-up with them. 