Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My mother currently lives in subsidized housing via a program for people with mental health issues. She's on disability and has mobility issues. About a month ago, she messaged me in a panic saying the people who run the program just informed her they're selling the house she lives in and she needs to move out by April. She has a caseworker that's supposed to be helping her find new housing.

Currently, she's in the hospital. She just had hip replacement surgery and is recovering from it.

Here's where the issue comes in... Yesterday evening, I called her to see how she was doing. We talked a bit, updated each other on our lives, she'd called earlier and I hadn't answered because my fiance and I had just gone to see a movie and were setting up the Oculus rift he got us with part of his tax return (important later). All was well until I asked her if her caseworker had any leads on housing... It's something I worry about, since, you know, she's my mother. She said no, and she hadn't really done any looking herself either, even before her hip surgery.  I just offhandedly said, "Oh, well, when you're feeling better you might want to get on your caseworker to see what's up."

She freaked out.

She told me I was treating her like a child, and it evolved from there. She told me I didn't understand her life. I was confused, so I asked what it is that I didn't understand. She started in on how I was telling her about seeing movies and Oculus rifts and she couldn't remember the last time she'd seen a movie. I hadn't meant for her to feel like I was rubbing that in her face; we talk about movies and TV together a lot! Then we went back to the housing thing, and she said, "I didn't tell you about this so you could try and fix my problems. I just wanted to hear that you were sorry for my situation and you'd be here for me and help me any way you could! And that's one word I haven't heard from you this whole time: help!"

I stopped her there because I felt myself getting too angry to have a decent conversation with her. I told her I was going to let her go so she could get some rest and so I could cool down. She just kept asking "really? Really?" Until we hung up. I texted her later to tell her I loved her and I will help however I can but I needed some time to cool down.

My AITA question isn't about me ending the conversation to cool down; I'm starting to wonder if I've been a bad daughter. Should I have immediately offered help and financial assistance when she told me about the problem? Am I the asshole for spending money on myself instead of helping her with her issue, even though she didn't ask for it? I feel like she's saying since I'm her daughter I should have offered something immediately and now I feel guilty because I didn't. Should I have not even said anything about getting on the caseworker?

TL;DR: Mother gets angry at me for spending money on myself instead of offering to help her with a housing problem and reminding her to check up with her caseworker about finding a new place to live. AITA for not putting her before my wants even though she never asked for help and mentioning checking on the caseworker?