Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This event took place around three years ago but it still to this day has made me question my character and thought I’d share for some emotional relief. 

I was in a year long relationship with this girl who I met from a guitar class I took Highschool. She seemed super cool at first, we shared a ton of common interests. I literally thought she was the near perfect match. We get to know each other and she tells me of some troubling issues from her past with unfaithful men she’s been in relationships with. I’m not that sort of guy, I consider the women in my life that I hold dear and how it would affect them if any man hurt them.  After a few months of serious talking and being close friends, we began a relationship.

Near the end of the relationship we got into another argument and I forgot what it was for but I remember we talked it out and it ended up fine. However the next morning after, she doesn’t respond to my good morning text and this was a Friday.  I text her through out the day and no response not even a read receipt which she normally has on. Sunday night she finally gets back to me and says she just needed some “alone time” cause she felt she would easily get angry with me for the next few days since the last argument. I kinda get where she’s coming from. Monday I have class (we are in college btw). I get back and let her know how my day was, very brief convo. She didn’t get back to after my last text even though she was responding rather fast during the convo. I left my phone to charge while I ate dinner and forgot the convo and went straight to home office to do homework. I get back to my phone and see she had text me while I was eating and let her know that I left my phone in my room while I did homework. She responded with “it’s not like you cared to talk to me anyway”.... At this point I had absolutely lost my shit. Like that’s the response I get when you literally ignored me for almost 3 days. So I write a lengthy message (keeping my cool) on how I’m done tolerating this kind of shit and how hypocritical of her to even say that to me. I tell her that I love and care for her but it’s mentally exhausting on me when I’m constantly convinced I’m the bad guy when it’s pretty objective that she is at fault in some disagreements we have. She never responded to me after that but when I woke up the next morning with a few messages from her; one she accuses me of being verbally abusive. She said she deleted the conversation and demanded I send her screenshots cause she wanted to see a counselor to which she would show the messages to but next few hours I’m barraged with messages from her girlfriends telling me how awful I am. But I doubt she showed them all the horrible things she has said to me. I do admit I was aggressive in how a responded to her the night before but not towards her but to how she was treating me and I made that really clear for her. Since then I’ve wondered if I’m really as toxic as she made me seem to be. 