Our dog is 16. For many reasons, we have determined it is time to euthanize her rather than let her suffer. She is blind and deaf with a host of other issues. 

Neither my wife (who is really the dog's owner as she had the dog before we were married), nor I really want to hold the dog or even be in the same room while she is being euthanized.  While we are certainly kind to the dog, neither one of us really has that intense man/dog relationship with her that many people experience with their pets (even though I've had that with all of my prior dogs). Yet, I feel like I'll be judged if we don't do it. There is also a much higher cost to do it somewhere where we can be present. We would certainly be taking her somewhere reputable regardless. 

I don't want to give too many details - just want judgment on whether I'm the asshole if I do not accompany the dog when she is put to sleep. 