Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : On Valentine’s Day my(26M) GF(26F) received very expensive roses from somebody random. Valentines this year landed on a weekday, and me and my girlfriend are doing a somewhat long distance relationship. I had tried to secretly plan on bringing my own bouquet of roses when I went to visit her that weekend but some person had beat me to giving her flowers. After I begrudgingly gave her my $15 flowers, we went on our previously planned trip to Europe. During the whole trip I could not get off my mind that she had flowers delivered to her apartment by a stranger and she was not conflicted with it, even though she is very cautious about being a young women in a world where suspicious men can kidnap her on late nights where she’s walking to her car. 

While this was going on in my head, I had asked her to call the flower delivery company to ask for information about who sent it because I wanted to rule out that she wasn’t cheating on me. (FWIW, I plan on marrying this woman and we have been together for 5 years.) She called the company and they obviously follow a privacy policy that doesn’t permit giving away their customer’s information. 

This has put me in a weird funk, and I asked her to throw away the flowers because I felt disheartened that I wasn’t the one to give her the flowers she wanted, nor could I even afford that type of gift right now. She refused because they were very expensive and she didn’t want to basically throw away $400. She kept the flowers I bought her in her living room until they died, and these flowers have been on her desk for the past month lol. 

I feel like I’m the butthole here but it still eats me inside knowing that she kept them