Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This happened quite a long time ago (about 4 (??) months back) but now i'm still troubled with the question of whether i was being an asshole in the situation. Sorry for bad English in advance, not a native.

Tl;dr: ghosted a person after they started acting clingy and weird.

So basically, i know this confession page on Facebook (yes i use facebook) that's pretty popular in my country, the point of this page is for people to make friends and write stories together (kinda like roleplaying but you can say it's more complicated). Now, i was pretty lonely back them, and so i thought it wouldn't hurt to give this a try, so i wrote a confession, introducing myself and stating my preferences, what kind of friends am i looking for,... etc. This wasn't the first time i've ever written a confession on this page, i actually got myself a few friends in the past so i figured this time would go smoothly again.

Ohhh was I wrong.

About 4 - 5 people replied to my confession, said that they want to give it a try. I pmed all of them, none actually went well, but I'll talk about one person that really stood out, let's call her A.

So, since it was stranger on stranger communication, i didn't know anything about A, her facebook wall is mostly empty (only avatar updates etc but it's because she got her posts mostly set on Friends only). We talked back and forth, she introduced herself and lo and behold she's the same age as me, has the same hobbies, quite similar mood swings/personalities, so needless to say, we clicked. I thought i've just found myself a new friend and everything was going well, she seemed to have pretty severe anxiety, but at that point i did too, so i told her it's okay and we'll work through it together. Her next message was my first red flag, though.

A said she easily develops a crush, is clingy, needs affection instantly, and by that i mean INSTANTLY. We'll get into details later, but the way she said these things kinda pulled me back a litte bit, but again, we seemed perfect, i didn't have no one, she didn't have no one, and it felt great again having a friend by your side.

Now this is the part where it got really weird.

At first A and I talked a lot, days and nights for about 3 days, then I had to go back to school because, well, i had school and am still a student. She seemed to have studied in the mornings only while I had a full day (7am - 5pm, top tier school of the city, yes i'm an asian). In the evenings i needed to do homework, dealt with my stress and organized myself, so needless to say, i didn't have the time give her much affection and even if i did, i think couldn't have brought myself to do it due to all the shit i'm going through (depression made me lose interest in everything). A on the other hand was free as hell, and messaged me every. 10. minutes asking what i was doing, could we talk, she missed me,... Keep in mind, I've only KNOWN her for like a week or less, so it was really weird to me. I tried to replied to all her messages saying i got homework to do, i didn't feel like talking, i was busy etc. She was kinda upset, apologized for being "annoying" and left me alone, for about an hour before she started doing it again. She said i didn't initiate conversations and that hurt her, so i promised i would start to initiate conversations with her from that point on. This went on for like 2 - 3 days, I was busy, she demanded affection, we only really talked at night and even then, i didn't really felt like talking and that she was taking all of my free time, she needed instant comfort, affection and reassurance so she wouldn't have a breakdown. I was tired dealing with my depression alone, so I was pretty strained by giving everything i had to her yet not having the guts to talk about my personal problems yet (like come on, would you tell a stranger on the internet that you've known for a week about your personal life? no). I went to ask a few friends about this, what should i do, and almost all of them said I should cut A off. I agree with this idea, but I myself hesitated to actually do it because i'm scared she would throw shit on me and breakdown-- It's actually really hard to confront a person with mental illnesses because you feel like their life's hanging over your head and one wrong move, they're dead. This doesn't defend my action though, and if i'm the asshole, i'm still the asshole.

So that led me to one final decision.

I ghosted her.

At first she kept on messaging me like usual, asking me where I was, why I didn't talk to her, saying she missed me, she apologized if she did something wrong and wished i would come back. I ignored it all. It stopped for like a week, then there they were, the final messages she sent me were super long, like a 5 page microsoft word essay, talking about her past traumas, people that have left and hurt her, why she is annoying, why she hates herself, all kinds of stuff. I was scared at this point. Like, genuinely scared. So, I left her messages there for about 3 weeks before i finally decided to take out my trusty computer, install an unseen extension and see her messages. She has blocked me, but it still shocked me to the core seeing what she wrote to me, how unnerving and weird it was, i feel like i dodged a bullet, but it still made me questions if i was really an asshole because i feel like i couldn't help her through her hard time, gave her the affection she needed and ghosted her in the end. I feel like she's not at fault because the human mind can be weird sometimes, along with her obvious mental problems.

So Reddit, AITA?

