Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : We were together for 4.5 years, and I had told him since year 1, I am not comfortable with an engagement ring. When I was a kid, I watched someone's ring get caught in the fence and this man lost a piece of his finger. Additionally, I come from a family of contractors so the stories of people getting rings caught into things are plenty (many people don't wear rings in my family, but are happily married). I have this fear my engagement ring would get caught. I offered alternatives like a tattoo, rubber rings, or just a thin band.

For years he said "If I get a ring, you're wearing it, you're irrational, that's so stupid, I'm not wearing a wedding ring then". I told him if it is his decision to not wear a wedding band because he is worried now too, I would respect that ( although he just said it to seemingly get even). I understand my fear my be irrational to someone else, but it is a real fear to me. Fast forward 3.5 years into our courtship, I get an engagement ring. I cry at the proposal, say yes, we are both beaming. BEAUTIFUL ring btw, and I thanked him for it. I wear the ring for 4 months, it gets caught numerous times on things. To a normal person I guess, it wouldn't bother them, but to me, it made me feel anxious. I expressed this to my ex. I stopped wearing the ring the last 6 months of our relationship.  

I will also add that I wore a promise ring for a little while prior to the engagement. It rarely got caught and helped me feel better about rings, including the thought of wearing a wedding band. However, the engagement ring was another story, it would get caught a decent amount of times and its easier to remember I was wearing a ring. I'll also add that I work in a public safety related field and sometimes I wear gloves ( drugs and bodily fluids mostly), the engagement ring ripped through them. 

It's not like I didn't want to wear the ring to hide my relationship status, I didn't like him, didn't really want to be engaged, or anything like that...I legit worry due to the bulkier nature of an engagement ring I could get it caught and it could harm me. I expressed it to him numerous times how I felt and it felt like it fell on deaf ears. 

I'm reflecting back on the relationship (don't want to make the same mistakes next relationship) and this is one of the reasons he broke up with me, citing " YOU SHOULD HAVE JUST ACCEPTED THE RING". I felt like I did accept the ring, I never complained about it, just didn't feel comfortable wearing it. AITA for not wearing the ring? 