Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have a (formerly) close good friend that I have loaned a lot of money to, thousands of dollars in the past six months.  They were down on their luck and needed some help getting bills in order so I started helping him out.  When I first started sending it to him, he would say "I'll go pick it up and then I will call you" or "Thank you, I'll give you a call later tonight" and never did.  In fact, he would pick it up and then I wouldn't hear from him for days.  A few times, he would say that he needed it for an opportunity to turn a profit and I would get it back the same night, again, not hearing from him for days afterwards, or make other promises to me that he didn't keep. I started to get upset about him not ever doing these things and started to feel like he was taking advantage of me and not being honest about what the money was for, so I started making accusations.  This would make him angry and say that I don't trust him, he's tired of explaining himself, and I'm trying to control him by telling him what to do.  I tried to explain that it's not about telling him what to do, it's about doing a favor for me when I do favors for him.  Or, that it's only respectful to let someone know they won't be getting their money back if you say you will and it falls through.   Well, this eventually escalated until last week when I gave him $500 for a new apartment, he said he would video chat with me that night so I could see it, and he swore it was the last time.  Then, I didn't hear from him for two days, (with him saying an additional two more times "I will call you") when he needed money again to help his daughter.  When I got mad about it not being the last time, he accused me of trying to put myself over his kids and we got in an argument, where he said some mean things to me but promised I would get it back the next day.  I got really pissed, but sent him the money anyway, telling him he needed to make it up to me because that wasn't right.  I gave him until 6 pm, then texted him pissed off that he didn't get it back and didn't tell me.  I was just heading in to work so when he called me, I couldn't answer.  He accused me of never giving him a chance and that he had done nothing wrong.  I was so angry that I started sending him texts telling him exactly how I felt, to which he replied to stop my drama, grow up, stop blowing up his phone, or he would never talk to me again. I did keep texting and he stopped responding.  I then found out the next day that he has blocked my phone number and blocked me on facebook messenger.  Am I the asshole for wanting to feel appreciated or am I being controlling?