Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm completely disenfranchised by my partner. Every argument where they are being a total A, they did their heels in and escalate it, bully me and keep the argument going actively or passively for long periods of time until I submit or I try to reach out to them and repair it. I used this subreddit to post and let them see they were in fact the A. Partner then made the same post from their perspective and was still called a total A. At this point, this is the only thing that has let them become self-aware after many years. They are completely self-consumed and think only their emotions/feelings are important, not to mention stubborn. It seems there are very few solutions to this on-going problem.