So a little backstory, my grandma (mom’s mom) has always lived with my parents and myself since I could remember. She’s now gotten to the age of needing additional help in her life. My parents were hesitant at first but decided it was best for for all of us to hire a lady through hospice care. This lady stays with my grandma 24/7. Lastly I want to mention this hospice care is costing my grandma and family A LOT of money. Final piece of background info this is our second care lady because my mom and grandma did not like the first one. 

So my mom has been complaining A LOT lately about not having “family time” anymore. She feels that part of her privacy is gone because there’s always a “stranger” living with us. Yesterday she told her the care lady who smokes cigarettes that she has to smoke off her property. She told the lady that my dad is “allergic to smoke”, he isn’t. 

The day before she told the lady she can no longer eat dinner with us when my mom originally invited her to eat at the table with us the first day she arrived. My mom complains that the lady talks too much at the table and it doesn’t allow every to speak about their day. 

So today my mom was just going on to me about how she doesn’t like someone living with us blah blah blah and I told her to stop. I told her I was sick of hearing her complaining about someone who is trying to make her life easier and my grandma’s final years painless. I ended with telling her, it is what it is and I’m done with any conversation that has to do with my mom complaining about this women. My dad was there when I said it and agreed with me that my mom has been complaining a lot. 

Since then, my mom just shut down and hasn’t said anything since. I think what I said was a little too much but I feel like it needed to be said. 

TL;DR: Mom has been complaining a lot about a hospice lady who lives with us and I told her to stop complaining and I didn’t want to hear anymore of it. 

