Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway account here as she is on reddit, too.  I'm really struggling with this one.  

My wife and I generally get along great. We rarely argue, and when we do, we resolve it and move on.  No big issues to the relationship, and very few little ones.  Definitely my soul mate.  

The only thing that's come up as an issue between us is the time she spends on her phone.  When we first started going out this was a frequent issue between us.   I spend very little time on social media, and she was on it constantly on her phone when we were together and it really bugged me.  From her point of view I was being controlling and telling her what she could and couldn't do.  From my point of view I was totally fine with her being as active on social media and YouTube as she wanted, but since our time together was limited due to our schedules, I really wanted our time to be our time.  She had lots of opportunity when I was at work and she was off to keep up on her favorite Youtubers.  Her family lives in a different time zone, so I'm totally fine if she needs to text with them when they're available, but when we're at dinner or hanging around the house I want to talk to her, not sit and watch her scroll through Instagram.  Just to be clear, I don't have any suspicions that she's doing anything sneaky.  She's not texting exes or sexting strangers.  

It came to a head about six months after we started going out, and after several big arguments we worked out some ground rules she and I could both live with.  Things were good for a while.  

Fast forward to the past few months, and things have been creeping back to how they used to be.  She's been under a lot of stress, and with maybe a little depression, so I haven't said anything so far and have just been dealing with it.  She lost her phone for a couple of days recently, though, and I remembered why I made such a big deal out of this.  Without her phone around we had much more engaged, animated conversations.  We'd cuddle up in bed and talk instead of me reading a book and her being on her phone.  We talked about more than what posts we've seen on Reddit or Insta.  Damn, I wish it could be that way all the time.  

So am I being a controlling husband, or do I just miss my wife's company?  Thanks.  Looking forward to y'all's feedback.  