I'm expecting my first child soon and envisioned my mother visiting for a couple weeks before my due date and a couple weeks after (she doesn't have a job). I figured she would help prepare for the birth, throw a baby shower, help around the house, help with new baby, and provide emotional support through the ordeal. She and I could make food like when I was a kid, get massages together, watch movies, and generally bond over my transition to motherhood.

But she lives out of state with a husband who doesn't want to come and a cat with failing health. Every time we talk on the phone she proposes staying for shorter and shorter time, complains about the hassle of a baby shower, mentions problems about overpopulation in the world, and makes coming to visit and help sound like an inconvenience to her.

I'm ready to give up on the fantasy that she will be emotionally good to have around during what I expect will be a difficult few weeks and just telling her not to come.

AITA for expecting her to drop everything and want to take care of me and her grandchild?