Context: me and my friend are in highschool. Our school does trips to places (usually Europe) for like 2 weeks over March break. It costs around 5,000$ plus some spending money. We both signed up for this trip a couple months ago, and she just told me she wasn’t going. 

When she told me she wasn’t going to be going on the trip, I was surprised and honestly angry, and I think my anger was sort of amplified because this came out of the blue. 

So I asked her why she wasn’t going and she told me that she was worried she wouldn’t be able to find a job in time (the trip is next March) and that “she didn’t want to get to comfortable in a place where she wouldn’t be staying for too long”. Her words, not mine. 

I, admittedly, didn’t take the time to think that maybe she wasn’t being entirely honest, and I told her that those reasons were horseshit. 

She then said, and I quote, “well sorry but my parents aren’t just forking over 5000$ for me” 

I’m paying for a lot of this trip myself. My parents aren’t just giving me the money. I think she has it in her head that I’m rich, which I’m not, at all. And whenever we get in an argument she passive aggressively mentions that I “get everything I want” which I don’t. I’m definitely not poor, and I am in a position of privilege, but not rich by any means. 

When she said this, I took a minute and realized that her parents might not be able to help her pay for the trip at all, and she just didn’t tell me. 

So I apologized to her for “freaking out” and told her it was fine if she didn’t want to go on the trip 

BUT 

I’m still kind of mad. Mostly at the “your parents hand you everything” jab. And I feel like she also should have apologized. 

AITA? 
