Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : So two nights ago I matched with a girl who seemed pretty cute. We sent maybe three to four messages in total but they were pretty deep from the outset since she opened with a question about what I liked about my personality. Overall I could tell she was pretty smart and part of me wanted to end up trying to see where things but part of me was also hesitant. I was hesitant because I apparently hadn't realized that she had kids when I originally came across her profile. At this point in my life (I'm 27/M) I don't think I'd be ready to have kids or take on the responsibility of dating someone who has kids. I was considering the possibility of trying it out until I came to the conclusion that since I'm not too sure about it, I probably shouldn't go for it since I would be entering a dynamic that might cause more harm than good. As for why I matched with her, some days I'm in the bad habit of just swiping off the first picture or so and then other times I actually take the time to read all the way through a profile. I know this is a bad habit and after this I don't think I'll ever do it again. Anyways, AITA for just straight up unmatching her yesterday morning without telling her my reasoning? We had only sent in total like 4-5 messages each but I feel like a jerk for not saying why we unmatched. Maybe I'm over thinking things but part of me wants to message her on facebook and apologize since I know how it feels to match with someone and then get unmatched. But also I don't know if telling someone "hey I'm sorry I matched with you, but the reason I did was because I don't think I'm ready for kids" especially after I've already done the deed would be a good idea either. 