A little background info first (on mobile so sorry for any formatting issues). I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 3 months. We’re both in the same class and also just so happen to sit next to each other. We’ve been going through a little bit of a rough patch due to some dishonesty on her side. She’s been dishonest/white lied before, and we discussed and solved it in a healthy manner. I told her the number one thing is just being honest with me. I tried to drive home the point that I wouldn’t judge or fault her if she was just honest. 

Fast forward to the day in class. We’d previously been riffing about some issues about her being dishonest about her dealings with a guy. She had deleted texts, lied about him being gay and overall had not been up front with me and tried to white lie her way out of the situation when I asked who he was (as I had never heard about him). She immediately goes into a defensive shut down when I ask about him (visually upset and frustrated). So I simply left. I got up and talked to friends at the other side of class just trying to give her some space to calm down. They ask me what happened, since they saw the fit she threw. I simply answered that I was discussing things that didn’t up with her. No accusations or statements that she cheated. Things just didn’t add up. I told them nothing that I didn’t know for fact. 

Later that day my phone blows up with people from a group chat I used to be in calling me a bully and a bad boyfriend. She refused to communicate with me for a good 30 minutes and it took a lot to even get her to talk to me. I explained to her that I wasn’t making fun of her and that I wasn’t upset about her friendship with another man, just her dishonesty about it. But she paints me as this humiliating dickhead and bully for discussing my feelings with classmates I trust. She thinks I’m telling everyone she cheated (which is not true). I understand how she can be upset but I made sure to tell her that the stuff she assumed wasn’t the case. So am I the asshole for the way I handled it? 