Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Hi, I'd like to first give a disclaimer because I am on mobile.

About a year ago when I graduated highschool I moved in with my sister who is 6 years older than me and has a daughter who is 10 years younger than me. It was great because she had an apartment with an extra bedroom, and I had no idea where I wanted my life to go after I graduated. Not to mention I had already been staying with her over weekends and breaks because my niece has a (currently undiagnosed) developmental delay, she barely talks or signs and can be a little agressive and clumsy, and my family does not trust her with people we don't know well.

After less than a month of living with them my sister had helped me get a job in the pharmacy where she worked and everything was good. Then the next spring we decided it was a good idea to move across town to be closer to my niece's school because the apartment complex was horribly managed.

We were beyond lucky to get approved to rent half of a duplex 2 blocks away from the school and around 1.5 miles from our workplace for near the same price as our apartment. However that's when things took a slight downward turn.

My sister in general has always taken care of the bigger bills like rent, where as I take care of more of the smaller ones since I hadn't had as long as her to save up (babysitting all through high school ment it was pointless for me to get a part time job since i was never in town). This ment that while I was buying new household items we would need she was paying a month of rent on each place while we moved.

Around this time my niece also needed to get dental surgery, which wouldn't have been bad if they hadn't had to put her under to do it (she gets aggressive around strangers especially ones that touch her) this came out to a much larger bill than my sister was quoted which lead to her being really stressed.

Given how stressed she was I was drawn to do anything I could to try and make her feel less stressed, as I tend to be a very empathetic person and her stress was physically effecting my neice and me. So I would buy her her favorite coffee, I started making more "adult" meals, and I also took to doing the dishes every night.

It's been nearly 9 months now and my sister is no longer a walking ball of stress, but I still clean the kitchen and do the dishes every night. And I know it shouldn't be a big deal. But I just find it exhausting after working all day while she's been home to just see a stack of dishes in the sink that I know I will end up cleaning.

The only times she's done the dishes are when I was sick or not home, and it's almost like she's come to a point of "it's not my problem" with them where she'll use an excessive amount of dishes over the day and not even bother rinsing them off. She never puts the clean dishes away, and only sweeps or mops if my niece makes a particularly large mess on the floor.

I've reached a point where 90% of the time it's an emotional and physical chore to deal with and I'll procrastinate until late night to do it even though I'd rather go to sleep right away. I just get stupidly depressed every day when I look at our kitchen and see all the mess she's left for me.

We work roughly the same amount of hours doing the same type of work, and we both take charge of cleaning the rest of the house. However I just feel like it would be a dick move to make a big deal over a dirty kitchen. Especially given how much my sister does for me all the time and has been doing since I was born.

tl;dr My sister basically set me up with a dream life for a 19 year old where I have a job (with benefits) a house and anything I could need. However after 9 months of cleaning our kitchen every night I'm annoyed and exhausted that she doesn't help.

Am I the asshole? Would I be the asshole for complaining to her about something this small?