Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So I’ve been with this guy on and off again for a while romantically which started off with me actually being an asshole, but then it kinda just flip-flopped with him sexually assaulting me when we were supposed to be just friends and all. He blocked me everywhere after that (long story) and we didn’t really talk much till maybe beginning of November when I found his new Snapchat and we started opening up to each other again. We agreed we were friends again, and I told him not to block me this time and he was fine with that.

When talking about his sexual misconduct and all, he refused to apologize because he didn’t feel guilty yet. Then he told me the guilt finally hit him and begged for my forgiveness. I wanted to so badly in the moment, but told him I couldn’t. I know I couldn’t because I was never going to be truly over it and couldn’t have him use my forgiveness against me in the future whenever I bring it up again, and I didn’t know how trustworthy he was. He understood my decision, making it seem like he was going to try a different approach better than simply messaging me a long paragraph, but he never did that.

Eventually it seemed like he got colder towards me. Because he told me in his apology that he couldn’t help but hate me because of his guilt, I asked if that was still bothering him. He assured me it wasn’t but continued to appear cold towards me with him sending memes when I was serious, leaving me on opened, and not taking me seriously in general. I changed my view on the acceptance of his apology to “I don’t even want to forgive you now”. He told me “thank you for telling me” and that was that. I also thought I implied I didn’t want to talk, but clearly that didn’t go through since he started messaging me random stuff maybe two days after. That was when I started making snarky comments and admittedly bitchy replies. 

He calls me out on it, saying “bitchy comments like that makes me want to talk to you less”. I told him his recent behavior was why I send bitchy comments. He didn’t understand, I brought up I didn’t want to talk to him a while ago, and started losing it. I tried to keep my calm as he sent messages in all caps. I told him to calm down with the caps while trying to explain, but then he made comments like “Oi nothing to worry about princess” when I asked what was wrong. I told him he wasn’t a good friend anymore, unlike my current friends. 

Then it turned into me ranting about my problems I had with him. I thought if I gave more specific examples, he’d be able to address them on if I was wrong or not with my interpretations. Like maybe he wasn’t a dick after all. But instead, he told me to get out of his life and blocked me. Some of those messages included, “you suck”, “you bring out the worst in me”, “I can’t believe I thought I could actually be friends with you”, “you’re stupid for letting yourself deal with this”, “MMMMMM”, “STAY OUT OF MY LIFE”. And no I sent nothing in between those messages to garner the change in texting styles.

But the reason I think I could be the asshole is because I could’ve handled that better probably.  I feel like I failed as a friend when I told him I was done being nice. I couldn’t maintain the balance of being nice and being stern with him. Then again, he did break his word at times and our last conversation may have been a misunderstanding.