Basically what happened is about a month ago, my dad and I got in an argument and he hit me. We were arguing about a piece of fudge of his that I ate, I said “I’m glad I ate it” to purposely bug him because I was mad (not proud of it), then he hit me. He hit me on the back, pushed me into a corner, and yelled in my face. He yelled at me to “fuck off”, and keep in mind he’s 6’8. Apparently the real reason for him doing this was that a few weeks before, they were camping and so my boyfriend stayed over for the weekend without them knowing. They say this really broke their trust. 

Nothing like that has ever happened before, and it’s really affected me. My doctor and therapist both say I’ve been traumatized. My depression and eating disorder, which were in remission, came back solely because of this, I had nightmares, and loud noises would make me freak out and I couldn’t calm down. At one point, I was scared to be in my own home. I moved things in front of the door to have a shower because I thought someone would come in and hit me. As well as this, things would happen like something would drop something near where my art teacher was standing, and my first thought was that my sweet art teacher was hitting someone. 

My dad never really apologized, either. He said “I’m sorry for how this all worked out”, which in my opinion isn’t a really an apology. I also told him, through tears, that he wasn’t realizing how big of a deal what he did is, and to that he said I don’t realize how big of a deal what I did was. My mom wasn’t very supportive through all of it, and my siblings said things like “I see both sides”, and “what you said was disgusting”. I asked my mom if we were just going to brush this under the rug, and she said no, but no one did anything. My dad thinks him promising to not do it again is good enough. My mom said if he had hit her she would definitely leave, but I guess for some reason it’s okay to hit me? 

So anyway, I spent thanksgiving with my boyfriend’s family (I live in Canada so this was mid October), and I want to spend Christmas with his family as well. My doctor said I’d be slighting my family, and if I want a relationship with them I shouldn’t, but I really don’t want to spend time with them like that. Also, I’m 18 if that matters. So, WIBTA?

TL;DR My dad hit me, according to my doctor and therapist this literally traumatized me. Because of this and the lack of support from my family, I want to do what I did for thanksgiving and spend Christmas with my boyfriend’s family. 