There’s this girl I’ve had that hots for, for at least the last year and a half. We’ve been friends for much longer. On a few separate occasions I’ve told her how I’ve felt, and she never completely downplayed it but she also never gave me a straight yes or no answer. The only thing I got from her was mixed signals. 

Fast forward to last night. She’s really wasted and snap chatting me, clearly trying to pry. She asks, “Why do you let me do this to you?” insinuating leading me on. 

So now, having confirmed that she doesn’t want anything to do with me, I replied. 

I said something to the effect of I don’t have the emotional capacity to deal with this right now and it’s not the time nor place. “I’m upset with you because you did this through text when I had the courage to say a lot of shit straight up to your face.” 

Am I justified in feeling angry/upset because she didn’t have the gall to tell me in person? This isn’t a rejection thing, I’ve been rejected by more women than I’d like to admit. I just feel sour over this. 