My Mum is an alcoholic. She has a slew of health issues caused by being obese and her crappy diet and lifestyle. She is prone to getting drunk and rambling, and in a recent conversation with my sister she said that both I, and my eldest nephew "are autistic" (neither of us have been diagnosed) and that my Sister should claim Carer's Allowance for her younger child because having "an autistic" brother is such a burden.

She's also said that me "being autistic" was such a harmful experience for my Sister it's a wonder she turned out as okay as she is.

My Sister and I are both upset over this because the diagnoses my Mum is making are way out of her remit to make, and because of the implication that my Sister is allowing her oldest Son to harm the younger, and because we both feel that if anything harmed us as kids it was how she raised us.

I keep going back to the thought that this is a horrible thing for her to say (another one in a long line of them) and that I wish that she would either mind her own business and sort out her own health issues before making false diagnoses about anyone, and that if she can't, her being out my life would be regrettable but better.


I don't know if I'm being unreasonable but I'd really like the input of people outside of this situation. So, am I the asshole in this?