Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This is a throwaway account because reasons. On mobile so sorry for formatting if it’s an issue. 

About 3 years ago, I was diagnosed with HSV1, or ‘oral’ herpes. 

The fun thing thing about herpes is that there are two types and you can get either HSV1 (oral) or HSV2 (genitals) but you can get either type on either your mouth or on your genitals. Each type is more commonly found on the respective body parts, but it’s possible to have oral herpes on your genitals and genital herpes on your mouth. 

My question is because I have oral herpes, but on my genitals. 

I haven’t told my boyfriend about my condition. My reasoning is that if I had oral herpes on my mouth, I wouldn’t bother sitting him down for a big chat about it. It’s such a common condition and there’s no stigma for people with oral herpes on their mouths. I know some of those people do disclose with their partners before kissing them etc, but I find that unecessary.

My doctor told me that because I have HSV1 on my genitals and not HSV2, the risk of transmission to my boyfriends genitals are even lower than normal. Oral herpes doesn’t spread to the genitals as easily as genital herpes does. 

I never sleep with my boyfriend when I’m having an outbreak. I would have told him if I were diagnosed with HSV2 on my genitals, or my mouth cos I go down on him. 

I hope that makes sense - and my question is Am I An Asshole for not telling him? 