Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Our vacuum is broken, so I borrowed our neighbor’s super fancy dyson. I vacuumed ALL day, I moved the small furniture, I picked up every shoe in the entry way, every toy, every last thing and vacuumed under it. I used the hose and vacuumed along all the baseboards and in the corners of the ceiling where there were a few little cobwebs, I vacuumed out the air intake to the hvac, I vacuumed out the lint area of the dryer. I made full use of having the vacuum today.

My husband came home from work, we had about an hour until I had to leave for work. There were dishes in the sink, laundry to be dealt with, and our toddler is sick. Basically there’s plenty of things he could do.

He says - should I vacuum again? Since ours is broken?

I told him I found it hurtful that he wanted to redo what I spent an exhausting day doing - I vacuumed the last couple rooms while carrying our sick toddler.

He said it’s my fault I got offended and it’s my fault I’m upset - he always says this when I get upset - that we are responsible for our own feelings and that nobody can make us upset but ourselves - as if that’s some sort of cop out for being rude.