I guess you could more accurately say couch or guest room. This isnt a huge issue or anything but it's just one of those things we can't agree on. My wife and I have both had a rough couple of weeks with work and tensions finally got the better of us and we got into a stupid, unimportant disagreement about home decorating in which both of us acted like assholes and got entirely too upset over such a dumb topic. 

As this was later in the night, she ended up telling me she was so upset with me that she didn't want to share a bed with me. This is the first time this has happened, so I asked her to come talk to me so we didn't end the night angry at eachother and because I felt like something else was wrong. She got even more upset and clarified that she thinks I should sleep downstairs tonight. I told her no, i wasn't going to sleep downstairs and I wanted to talk to her and she got mad at me and accused me of not listening to her.

I said I'm not going to be sent downstairs in my own home, and if shes that upset with me and refuses to talk it out then she can go sleep downstairs or in the guest room because I don't have any problem sharing a bed with her. She spent the next thirty minutes yelling about how she doesn't want me in "her" bed, to which I reiterated that it's not her bed, it's our bed and im not the one trying to kick her out of it. she eventually came to bed.

We've since talked about it and realized it was blown completely out of proportion and caused by the added stress in our lives, and made a lot of resolutions to communicate better and make time for eachother. However, she's still mildly pissed that I wouldn't just sleep downstairs when she asked, and I still think it's unfair to make your partner leave their own bed instead of either talking or doing it yourself if you're the one who needs space.

I think we were both shitty here, but settle this for us. AITA?