Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hello all,

I (30m) help run the family business. My wife (31f) has weird hours, in that she works 4 days on, 5 off. I try and structure my time at work, such that I can sorta be home when she is to maximize our time together (she suffers from depression and this helps her I think). We recently promoted someone to manage the restaurant, which requires a ton of professional judgement that isnt learned overnight. I typically receive 15 texts/week when I'm not in restaurant. Many of these texts come from the assistant manager we promoted while she develops her skillset, some being relevant, and some being unimportant. This irks my wife, because she believes that home time is home time, despite me structuring my work so I can maximize my home time. I've confirmed shes not jealous of this person specifically, just that she doesnt believe I should be bothered if I'm not at work, and that she perceives she comes after work in my eyes.

My explanation is that it's the family's business, and as a single store, we need to know if product is running low, or equipment breaks, as happens on occassion. My thought process is that being home early, but responding to a 30 second text or a couple phone calls a few times a week is better than not being home at all. I've since asked managers to try to double check critical items at the start of their shift and communicate issues in one text rather than adhoc. 

Imo, this could be avoided if I actually worked 40-50 hours per week, but in the past this has caused strife in our relationship.

This all came to a head when my wife was supposed to work this week, but called in sick for the shifts because of her mood. She wanted me to stay home as well, but I obviously couldnt. She ended up checking my phone while I was showering one day, saw texts from my employees during times when she should have been working anyway, and lost it over the fact that I received texts reminding me to bring uniforms in for a new hire, and that a piece of equipment broke down, which "distracted my attention from our time together".

Aita because I allow my staff to text or call me despite the fact that it bothers my wife? I have a business to run, and believe this to be the most efficient way to run it when I'm not in store. I've recently made the asst manager salaried and she takes care of many of the issues other managers bring forth, but she still reaches out for material issues, because I'd prefer my restaurant to run effectively.

To quantify, I spend &gt;40 hours per week with my wife, with what amounts to typically 10-15 minutes of distraction from work.if I worked in my original career, we would likely only have 15 hours per week together.