Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm a 21 year old female living with her parents. My relationship with my mother isn't good due to our vastly different personalities, she is very loud and stuff while I'm in the quiet side like my dad. My mom likes to announce every single thing she does while I just do it without making a big fuss about it, be it greeting other people, doing chores around the house, etc. Worth to mention that her whole family is like this and I'm also not on good terms with them because of these reasons but also worse stuff.

Yesterday we went to my nanny's house. She's pretty sick atm so I proposed to go and I brought some fruits and money for her medical needs. She lives with her daughter and her kids so when we got there I went and greeted all of them, just a simple "Hey [redacted] *hugs*" I did this with every person in the house, cause basic manners and I'm pretty close with the family.

 When we got to my nanny's room, my mother announced why we were there while simultaneously asking everyone if I had say hi to then " *Did Frisk greet you? She never greets anyone, don't know what I did wrong while rising her* " Repeat this for almost 7 people looking extremely uncomfortable.

At the end of the visit, my parents were already outside nanny's room while I gave her the money inside an envelope, as discreet as possible cause I know she hates getting money  "that she didn't work for". When I got out my parents were outside the house and my mother screamed *DID YOU GIVE HER THE MONEY?* I think that every single person in the block heard it and I was so embarrassed and upset because she made such a trashy action in a pretty sensible moment. She also did the *Did Frisk say goodbye to you?* for every single person in the house, again. 

It's not the first time she does this, but it was so upsetting this time because I feel she ruined a quiet and special visit with someone I truly care about.

When we got home I told her that I felt terrible because she was always treating me like a child and also making a big fuss over every single thing I did or didn't do and she just said " Well, you're always silent with everything you do and I have to make sure you're behaving correctly." ??? What? Then I told her that just because I wasn't loud as her and her whole family doesn't mean I'm not doing what I'm supposed to, that there's no need for me to be loud about things and that I've always been quiet, that I just couldn't understand why she was so obsessed with me being like her family, that it wasn't gonna happen and that I was glad I have no ties to such a terrible family (I am adopted) Then she said a lot of stuff surrounding my "hate" towards her family and that if I'm against her family, I'm also against her.

She hasn't talked to me since last night and I feel that I did nothing wrong, but my dad told me that it was disrespectful of me talking to my mother like that. So that's my question, AITA?

TL;DR My mother treats me like a child and expects me to act like her and her family, situation escalates to me telling her that's not gonna happen. Hurt feelings ensues.