Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I work for a relatively large consulting firm and am comfortable with my job and the people I work with. It's pretty chill here compared to more competitive territories in the US or Asia Pacific.

My gf lives in Japan, where we met a few years ago while I was on exchange. I absolutely love her to bits. We Skype regularly and I fly off on my holidays to see her in person. In our discussions, the topic of us being together in a more permanent situation gets raised quite frequently.

She tells me that she doesn't really like how people are in Japan, with the usual cold demeanor they have with strangers and their unreasonable standards. However, it is still the country where she was born and raised - so of course she still feels at home there. 

I like Japan as a country to visit, but I'm adamant that it isn't a country that I'd like to continue my consulting career in. Even if I spoke fluent Japanese (which I do not), Japanese companies tend to work crazy hours and have very backwards culture around certain societal norms that I take for granted in my country.

She's recently gotten a full time job in her chosen field, and wants to wait it out for a few years before a decision is made. However, I've made it clear that I have no intention of moving where I am. That she has to move here, if our relationship is to progress. Am I an asshole?