Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : A couple of my friends and I had a bit of a get together over the weekend, and my friend was going to be there. We'd been spending more time together, flirting, etc and hinting at each other, so I thought this would be the obvious time to ask her out. Full disclosure, we'd already slept together multiple times at this point. When I brought it up, she said no, that she's not ready for a relationship, and would like to keep things casual. I told her that I'm not interested in casual, that obvious feelings have developed, but that's okay, because we're both adults and can make decisions. I haven't really spoken to her since, and it's starting to make me wonder if I'm being an asshole for avoiding her, as she has been my closest friend for the greater part of a decade. One of our mutual friends also went behind my back and told her that I've slept with an old FWB since the weekend, further poisoning the well.