A year  ago, an old coworker of mine let me lend a wool pashmina and a wool hat for a trip I was taking over winter; I tried to return it to her since then a month after but she said she was OK for now and didn’t want it back at that moment. OK, fine. 

Around Xmas, I started distancing myself after the coworker and I went Xmas shopping together and the next day she told me I’d be going out with her again (I hadn’t agreed to) - I told her that I didn’t want to because I have an autoimmune disease that was flaring up to which she sent me some messages along the lines of “Oh. I see. No matter then. I guess I’ll just go..... alone”  I thought she was kind of crazy; especially after we hung out and she  and her wife allowed their 3 year old son to repeatedly hit me (hard) and expect me to babysit - so I just left her be and distanced myself.  A few months later my mother died, anyway, so I had a lot going on with that - and then I became pregnant and I’ve had a high risk pregnancy since then; so a lot has been going on. 

Skip to this past Thursday I receive a Facebook message that I didn’t read at the time because if I read a message whilst busy I sometimes forget to reply in between a busy social work job / high risk doctor appts and personal life - but it said something about hanging out from what I was able to see. I left it unread. 

On Sunday I receive another messenger message saying “do you still have my pashmina and hat???”  I do, and I told her this 6 months  ago and asked to see her so I could return it - to which she said it was OK right now, maybe later. Again, I left it unread because I’d had a rough weekend / was painful / had worked a very long week and knew I’d have to address the first message too. 


Jump to today I receive a text on my phone “I’m sending you messages on Facebook!” 

I didn’t reply as now I’m just kind of frustrated. She’s messaged me 3 times in 5 days and I feel it’s a bit excessive. I plan on returning her pashmina and hat and I’ve tried on several occasions already, but AITA for leaving her messages unread for a few more days or should I return this ASAP?! I don’t know if I’m in the wrong here by holding onto her stuff despite her messages? 