Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I know, I know, similar to another post today, but this is slightly different.

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My whole life I've felt weird about helping anyone if my help isn't being solicited.  I don't have a problem helping if I'm asked and will even offer to help someone if I see them struggling with something because I recognize that asking for help explicitly can be embarrassing or whatever.  But what makes me really uncomfortable is being expected to run ahead of women and pick up something like a suitcase for them without being asked.  Growing up, my mom always made a point to say, "halfeatendanish, go help that woman and pick up her luggage!" if she noticed I wasn't jumping on it immediately.  I've always felt weird about jumping in like that without even being asked.  It feels like I'm saying, "Step aside, weak woman!  Allow a strong man to do the job for you!"  It feels insulting!  Like I said, I have no problem helping out if I'm asked, but my mom has always made me feel guilty for not wanting to throw myself in there.  Is she right?  Should I feel guilty for not doing this?