Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Recently my family found out that my grandfather has a combination of alzheimers and parkinson in a relatively advanced state. The doctor says that he might be lucid for a year if he's lucky and that he will start loosing memory, free movement, speech and may even forget how to eat or go to the bathroom. My grandfather does not know this because we talked to the doctor outside while he was inside the room. 
  
My family is working on how to keep this information from him because he has had suicidal tendencies before and they fear that he might kill himself. He has said multiple times that he'd rather die than rot in a bed unable to move or speak. 
  
So know comes the part where I suggest that we tell him that he's sick, that he's not gonna get better and that he should decide what he wants to do. He has always said that he'd rather die, so I mentioned that he should have that option too should he decide that he doesn't wanna fight an innescapable and horrible death. Now my family is extremely furious at me for hating my grandfather and being negative. I work in hospitals so I've seen first hand how horrible his life is going to be soon. If I was in the same position as him I would honestly choose to die too. My family is extremely religious so they believe that only god can decide when he dies.
  
 I know that what I said was cold hearted but am I an asshole here?