Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My home estate/neighbourhood is quite a nice place, and unfortunately that attracts burglars and vandals, loitering and antisocial behaviour.

A friend of mine’s husband and 3 other residents proposed we as an estate come together to form a private security firm, run by residents, staffed by residents, and each household pays a pound a week towards operating costs. Staff were proposed to be trained, armed with non-lethal weapons, trained to restrain and detain where necessary etc....so I joined the residents forum as a potential funder of this. My partner is a police officer so I know how strained the police are.

Unfortunately they have decided to mobilise before the project is a legit operation and they have civilians confronting criminals who could potentially be armed. This is the UK so it’s likely “just” knives and the like. But it’s still dangerous.

A post went up yesterday by my friend along the lines of “well done to *husband* for attending an incident on *street* this evening” so I commented with “Oh my god! I have serious concerns about this, I’ll PM you”

Her husband replied (can’t remember what) but I went to reply and I had been removed from the group.  I messaged my friend, expressing genuine concern. I unfortunately didn’t screenshot it, but I said something along the lines of “your kids need their dad, I’d hate your husband to get hurt doing what is borderline vigilante work when untrained and unarmed” and she gave me no end of crap about how she deserves to feel safe in her home, police would take too long to respond etc etc and she made out that I can’t be trusted (she thinks my partner will report this at work - which he probably would if I told him about their operation) and that I’m selfish and all kinds of really personal stuff I won’t get into.

I suffer anxiety and I’m worried I’ve been an asshole by suggesting they shut down for the time being until they have the proper permits and passes. :( AITA?