So this past summer I (M 22) was looking to  buy a new car and upgrade from my first car I’ve had for about 7 years. To not go too far into detail about it, my dad got involved in my new car purchase and coerced me to go against my better judgement and buy this 2006 bmw that he found online for about the same price instead of the one I had picked out and was going to buy (2007 Volvo S60 R) which, might I add, was in perfect condition. When I looked at the bmw it seemed to be in decent condition apart from some obvious problem areas that I knew would need to be addressed (new wheels, appeared to be an oil leak, needed new driver side headlight) which also gave me a bad feeling in my gut. long story short I end up buying the bmw cause my dad went ahead and out some of my money in as a down payment for it (he likes to eat involved with things). 

Ok so fast forward about 6 months and I have so far sunk about 2000$ into this car on necessary fixes that turned out to be big repairs (I’m still kicking myself in the ass for buying this money pit). One thing in particular that still hadn’t been fixed was the driver side headlight. The problem with it was that water had been able to leak into the headlight over years and years causing the clear plastic to be permanently cloudy and also messed up some electrical components which caused the adaptive headlight not to work (turns the lights left and right when going around corners and is a very intricate assembly so can’t be fixed with a simple bulb replacement). Since I don’t have a lot of money being a recent grad and am only working an entry level job, I can only make the repairs once I save enough money and the whole replacement OEM headlight assembly would cost about 5-600$. 

Also for a side note I’m big on doing things correctly the first time and of course I’ll try to save money when I can but I will opt to spent the extra buck when something really counts and needs to be done right. 

So a couple of weeks ago my dad gifted me a replacement headlight assembly so I could save the 500$ for something else. The other day I took the old one out and tried putting the new one in. First I hooked up all the plugs to make sure it worked but there was one plug that didn’t have a spot to connect to. I looked closer and realized that these were not the same kind of headlight. The main difference being that the replacement did not have the adaptive headlight assembly inside it and was just a regular bulb (the light from the replacement was yellow and much dimmer than the original passenger side light that was white light) On top of that, the holes for the screws didn’t line up right with the frame and required a little persuasion to fit. Also on the original there’s a separate arm piece that clips into one corner of the headlight and then is screwed into the frame. The replacement had the spot where the piece sits in but not the part where it clips into the headlight itself so it sits in the opening loosely. Without this arm attached, the headlight wiggled around. So now I’m thinking that the replacement is just a cheap knockoff. I told my dad about the light and that as much as I really appreciated his gift I can’t use it cause I’m worried about it coming loose or breaking (being as that it wouldn’t be completely mounted and the material felt very fragile) and he acknowledged. So I figured I’d just take it out and put the old one back in the next day as I was running out of daylight and didn’t feel like fiddling with it anymore (kind of a pain in the ass to get it in/out) 

The next day I get up around 10 cause it’s a Saturday and It’s the only day I get to sleep in. When I go downstairs my dad tells me that he was able to get the headlight mounted correctly and that he fixed it. When I go out I see that the arm is attached to the frame on the spot on the light where’s it’s supposed to be. I look closer and I see a big crack in the side of the opening where the arm sits and super glue all around it (looked like he forced it in and it snapped). Then I see a big smear of superglue that dripped off the arm area onto the front of the headlight onto the clear plastic that had been partially wiped but looked like it was wiped off a bit too late and managed to dry. So now not only can I not return the replacement headlight because it’s damaged but I’m pretty much stuck with it. I told him that I appreciate him trying to help but as much as I tried to not get mad I got pretty upset at him doing things to my car without my knowledge. 

AITA for trying to give my dad back the gift and getting upset with him about him “fixing” the replacement and rendering it nonreturnable?