Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’ve been with my girlfriend for two and a half years. We are having problems, and most of those problems are beyond our control (not having enough time with each other due to the overwhelming complexities of life, and the stress that comes with that). My best friend I have known since high school, about 15+ years. Our friendship is the type where we don’t get too deep with each other, but we have had tender moments in the past where we’ve shared personal things with each other and he’s always had my back and I’ve had his.

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I meet my girlfriend and our relationship develops far from where I’m from. We were long distance for a while but not so long distance to where we can’t see each other on weekends. We don’t really develop our relationship in the area I am originally from because my roommate was a little crazy and didn’t want overnight guests, but the rent is cheap and I don’t want to move out right away. So I spend more of my time about an hour away in my girlfriends area (about an hour drive away). It takes a while for me to introduce her to my friends. 

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I eventually move to my girlfriend’s area but I’m also feeling unhappy because I’m not really seeing my own friends as often anymore due to the distance, wanting to balance the time with my girlfriend, and also not really knowing how to make new friends in the area. One day I get the chance to introduce her to different friends of mine at first. I’ve known one girl and her husband for about 12 years (I met this girl at one of my first jobs) and they all get along with my girlfriend. My girlfriend really likes them. It wasn’t until yesterday that I introduce her to my best friend from high school because both of them are busy people, since he was in school (college), my girlfriend was in school (college), and my friend had the time and offered to come out and make the drive to hang out for the afternoon. 

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I know it sucks that it has taken this long to introduce her to my friends, but I didn’t really want to overwhelm my grad school girlfriend because of how much time she has to invest into her course load. I realize that maybe I should have made more effort in introducing them sooner. Either way, my friend comes out and everything is going fine at first. Then we go to a nearby place for some drinks and chat. At one point I had to go home and grab something (I forgot to bring something with me), but it was close by and would only take 15 minutes. Girlfriend and my friend seem to be having a good time and my girlfriend says it’s okay to go home really quick, she's enjoying her time, so I leave and come back.

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When I get back everything seems to be okay. I thought it was cool that they were bonding. Girlfriend orders some food, and my friend orders another beer. We hang out for another hour or two and my friend is talking about our past, how we met each other, all the things we would used to do together, etc. We finish our drinks/food and decide to go back to our place to wrap things up as my friend was planning on leaving in another hour and a half to see some other friends. When we get back we talk about his dad a little bit (his dad is not having the greatest time) and my girlfriend excuses herself. 

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About a half hour later my friend decides he needs to go, which is fine because the weather was starting to get a little bad, and it was starting to get dark. He has a long trip home and I understand. Me and my girlfriend say goodbye to him and he goes on his way.

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So immediately after he left, she goes on and on about how she was so glad it was finally over. I was confused about all of this because she had mentioned earlier in the day that she liked him. They seemed to be getting along too. Then she goes into a long rant about how narcissistic and self-absorbed he is, and that she thought I should reevaluate my friendship with him because of it. She is completely angry at this point, and she’s getting even more upset at my reaction to all of this. I literally couldn’t believe she was that upset.

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She told me she couldn’t stand how much he was talking about himself and his career, and she was offended that he asked nothing about her. I do understand why she would be upset about that, but I still stand my ground and say that she can’t make complete assumptions about his character after only knowing him for about four hours. She says she doesn’t think he’s all that great of a person, and I reiterate that he has been there for me in some of my darkest times. At this point she’s yelling, rolling her eyes, and telling me I’m invalidating her feelings in the matter. I’m really just trying to defend my friendship.

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She once again yells about how she was offended that he asked nothing about herself when she was asking him questions. She feels as if the reciprocation is not there and once again questions why I would be friends with someone like that. We are going in circles at this point and I’m once again telling her that she’s getting the wrong impression, that he’s not a bad person, that I thought four hours was not enough time for her to come to that conclusion, and she’s getting angrier at me. At this point I decide to leave, because I’m in complete shock, uncomfortable with how sudden and strong the anger is, and basically acts like a total asshole as I’m leaving. That I’m taking his side and all of that. 

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A little bit of a background: my girlfriend doesn’t really have friends. I’ve met people she used to be friends with at her previous work, and while there were a couple of them I didn’t necessarily like all that much (I was not really all that compatible with them), I still thought they were okay people. She has since devalued those friendships and says she doesn’t really like them. I met another group of friends she had from a longer time ago and I actually liked them, but she said she doesn’t really like spending a lot of time with them because they are draining. So she avoids those friendships too and only sees them when 'she has the energy for it.' For the past year the only people she spends time with is me and people she has an acquaintanceship with in her grad program. She will hang out with new people, find something not to like, complain about them, and then she decides she doesn’t like them. I’m not really sure if she likes anyone, and I’m starting to think she doesn’t really like me either.

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She’s suffering from anxiety and depression, and is overwhelmed with her program. I wonder if this is in response to stress related to that, and I’m trying to be empathetic towards her but having a hard time due to the shock of her response. A part of me feels like I’m the asshole because I didn’t take her side against my friend, maybe I could have handled it differently instead of leaving, but I like my friend and feel as if she’s misunderstanding him. I don’t think she’s wrong in not liking him, she doesn’t have to like everyone I’m friends with, I just think she’s wrong in demanding I completely reevaluate the friendship in an instant. She seems to hate me now for taking his side.

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I have not told my friend what has happened yet. He texted me a while ago saying he had a good time and enjoyed meeting my girlfriend (that he thought she was cool.) I just don’t have the heart to tell him that he drove an hour out of the way to meet someone that hates him.

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