So...my mom and dad split up over 20 years ago and he has been remarried for similar length of time. My mom had custody of me and my brother and never met anyone permanent. When I gave her a Save The Date I said she could invite someone but I had to approve of the person as I didn’t want randoms at my wedding. It’s now less than 6 months away and I asked her who she is bringing, she flew off the handle when I said she couldn’t bring a man (she doesn’t have one in mind) and I expected her to bring a friend. Am I being unreasonable? She said “I shouldn’t be told who to bring to my daughters wedding!” In a shrill voice. But that daughter is me 🤔 and surely what I want goes? I understand that seeing my dad with his wife is shit, but that’s why I said to bring her best friend.  I’m very aware I have been a people-pleaser all my life and I have been trying to get out the habit, but have I gone too far? 