Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hello everyone. I would really appreciate some insight and I will do my best to describe the situation and be as brief as possible.

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My girlfriend and I started dating about a year ago, and when we started dating her main ex boyfriend of four years re-entered the picture and started texting her. At that point they had been broken up for over a year. He was 10 years older than her, and at one point she thought he was the one. He dumped her because his heart was not into it, and she told me many things about the guy that made him sound kind of like an emotionally unavailable and troubled individual. Let me clarify this.

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She told me he didn't really want sex much, she did. He wasn't very affectionate, she wanted that. He barely said he loved her, she complained. He didn't want to travel and do things with her, she did. So when we met, in my head I was like "holy shit, this is the complete opposite of me, I'm all the things she wants, this will be great!" Well in time, resentment grew because she couldn't reciprocate, and also still responded to this guy, and STILL does our entire relationship.

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Our entire relationship he has been in touch with her. It's very platonic, but he is obviously still madly in love with her because a few times he has asked her to see him, has admitted he made a mistake, and misses her, etc. She never reciprocates, but still allows him to talk to her. She said she feels bad, but I feel he is just a pest and I'm in a love triangle. I have asked her to cut contact with him because it makes me feel really uncomfortable, and I truly feel he can't move on with her responding. She even reached out for his advice on voting day, saying he was the only person she trusted with politics. I thought that was inappropriate, because in my eyes that would give him some confidence that he is still valuable, but who knows.

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She thinks I'm being insecure, I think it sucks she can't let go of someone who was apparently such an asshole to her, and ironically can't reciprocate all the things I give her when she told me she wants it. It's very confusing. On top of this, she responds to RANDOM strangers on IG who message her, nothing inappropriate from her side, but I tell her to ignore them... it's weird. Why does she need to do so? I can't help but think it's all attention seeking behavior.

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Keep in mind we are in our early 30's, so this behavior is mind blowing at this point. This came to a head and we have broken up over it, because I can't handle the random dudes in her life and her ex, and she says she can't let go of him. So this led to us breaking up in a messy way.

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So, am I the asshole for asking these things? Am I am "insecure piece of shit" as she put it? Thanks.