Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Let me start by saying it's hard to explain the this situation, but I'll try to be clear and concise.

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I have a really, really good friend, the closest person to me for the past 9 years.

She and I dated for a short while, broke up and stayed very close friends.

She has been with me during the toughest part of my depression and has stayed the nearly only constant in my life ever since.

Then have been times when we were both going through rough times, but sometimes during those times she told me she really needs to "be there for her".  I was having a hard time just keeping my head above water, but I did what she asked because of how much she means for me.

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The problem is, she is studying in a very demanding university and is struggling.

She has been in a bad place for about 2 years now, through which I tried my hardest being the most supportive I can be.

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But I am exhausted of only being vented to, always complained at, and always be understanding.

She never calls or texts me, almost never answers and we almost never talk aside from her coming over to vent and crash at my place.

She never has any emotional strength to listen to my issues, and I feel like it depends on her (A big deal for me).

She does try to that for other friends in her life, since she is afraid of losing them, but not afraid of losing me since we are so close.

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What I want is for her to try to be there for me too. My depression sometimes really drains me but she never asks or visibly ignores (She told me she notices but can't help now)

Every time I tried to bring this up, she started crying saying she can't handle this now.

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Again, well aware she is not doing this on purpose.  She is having a shitty, shitty time in life right now. But after 2 years of this, I'm exhausted. Instead of being sympathetic for her, I feel used. 

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I love her. I don't want to hurt her. But it's just unfair for me, I'm feeling angry and unable to talk to her.

I just reached a point where I need to do something. I can't keep this going before something snaps in a bad way.

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WIBTA If I tell her she can't lean on me like this anymore unless she makes an effort to be there for me too?

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