Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I have known my friend for 10 years now (and dated at one point but broke it off mutually) so I know a lot about his life. He is a nice person, but in my opinion, is a complete pushover. He is 25 years old, has stable job, and earns a decent amount. Since the time that I have known him, he has been completely devoted to his parents, to the point that they can do no wrong. His parents are immigrants from India (as are mine) and he feels that they have sacrificed a lot for him to come to this country, get him a private elementary school education and paid for part of his college (which was mostly paid for by scholarships, his parents paid for around 20k). 

&amp;#x200B;

Currently, he lives at home with his parents and pays for the electricity &amp; phone bills and monthly payments for a leased car (they all share one car). He saved up around 80k and his parents saved up around 20k to put a down payment for a house together. All of that is fine and all, but here's the problem: his parents have exhibited behavior that goes outside of normal Indian parent expectations, in my opinion. When they decided to get a new car, his father consistently complained about any of the cheaper models, and they ended up getting a more expensive one. Alongside that, the parents consistently disliked the houses within the realistic budget that he set and they ended up being adamant about one particular house that was way over budget. These are the two main things, but there are lots of little things I picked up on over the years about them hinting at wanting a certain phones, complaining about gifts, etc. 

&amp;#x200B;

So my  problem is, my friend comes complaining to me all the time about such things. He always laments that he wishes he had richer parents, that he's jealous of our mutual friends who have no real responsibilities, that he wishes he could just be young and carefree. I have always tried to be supportive, but at the same time, I always say things like it is. Today, I kind of said fuck it and ended up telling him that his parents are being selfish by wanting a more expensive house, fully knowing that within 5 years or so, he will be footing the mortgage payments. I also said that his parents should've tried harder to save more money over the last 16 years that they have been here instead of expecting so much out of their son. I also said that he should pick one or the other: be a completely doting son and do what he feels like he needs to do...or, do some things for his parents but also think about saving for his own future. 

&amp;#x200B;

Needless to say, he got mad at me. I know what I was definitely harsh (especially calling his parents "selfish") but I really was tired of the same recycling of him coming to me to complain about his responsibilities but never putting his foot down in front of his parents. So am I the asshole and do I owe him an apology now?