Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I\[25f\] have been going out with my bf\[25m\] for a few months now. He's wonderful but he's really bad at communicating when he's upset and tends to shut down. We're also long distance which I think adds to this.

He texted me about an issue the other day and asked if I was mad. I said no. He responded that my reply sounded passive aggressive. I sent him another text with an explanation that I wasn't mad about this issue, just disappointed. I didn't hear from him so I tried to call him to reassure him I wasn't mad. He didnt pick up so I left a voicemail. I didn't hear from him again for over 8 hours, and keep in mind he had the day off. In that time, I was thinking the whole day that he had convinced himself that I was being passive aggressive and that he got mad about it and thats why I didnt hear from him. Like I said, he has a tendency to shut down and not want to talk when he's upset. So, thinking he was upset, I tried to call 2 more times and sent 4 texts over the span of the 8 hours asking if he was ok.

At the end of the day he said he was away from his phone but saw that I tried to contact him "like 20 times". I said I thought he was angry at me and I just wanted to reach out, and I thought the amount I tried to contact him was pretty appropriate. He implied that I was being crazy and possessive. I said if he had just acknowledged my initial message by saying "cool, I have to go Im gonna be busy for the next while", that would have been totally fine. We're long distance so I have stressed that communicating is super important and he has agreed before, but now hes kind of throwing it in my face, saying "Well you were saying before that we should talk all the time and now I have to let you know what Im doing?" I could see how things could be interpreted that way, but honestly not talking for 8 hours was a weirdly long time for us and I thought he was mad. I'm not expecting him to text me every hour of every day, and usually we have times where we don't chat for a few hours and thats totally fine by me, but this time it seemed like he deliberately ignored me and I just wanted to talk it through. AITA?