Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I had a good friend I'd been friends with for a few years. She was my friends wife. Things went to hell between them, and they split up. I ended up on her side because he accused me of sleeping with her behind his back, which pissed me off royally because I was loyal to a fault to him. She and I did everything together pretty much after that, and she was my favorite person in the world. I looked forward to seeing her when I'd get home from my hitches. But slowly I found myself thinking about her in ways that weren't pg. Pretty soon, I realized I had deep feelings for her. I realized this after I found myself getting jealous of men she brought around. Id stare at her when she wasn't looking. Bought her gifts, etc. She was always on my mind. Low and behold one night I was drunk, we were texting, and I finally confessed everything to her. She told me to listen to a song, and I did. I was elated because I thought finally I had been right about my feelings. Around valentines day I get a message from a mutual friend of ours asking me if I had sent her gifts. I said yes, I had. She told me our friend had been dating someone the whole time. I was crushed to say the least. I messaged her and asked her if it was true. Her only response was "I didn't know how to tell you". I told her it was my fault for opening my mouth, but I couldn't be around her any more. I heard in the coming weeks that she told everyone I had crossed a line, she saw me as a brother, etc. But she had dated another guy she considered a "brother" as well. I was hurt even more. This was months after my mother died unexpectedly too. So my emotional state was not well to say the least. The last time we spoke, I let loose on her all the stuff she had lied about, and made her leave the party she was at. I also told the guy she was with not to let her spend all his money.

Lately, I've been thinking this was all my fault, and I was an idiot to think it could have gone otherwise. Am I the asshole?