Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Recent events have made me question my choice to give my girlfriend's mother an ultimatum regarding her future rights to see her as-of-yet unborn grandchildren. My girlfriend is currently saddled with over $15,000 in *her mother's debt* that was put in credit cards/student loans under my girlfriend's name, and she is intent to get a second job just to help pay off debt that isn't hers.

Apparently, my girlfriend started borrowing her mother money at 16 as things at the household were tight, but under the table payments in cash, which certainly isn't counted in that first total, eventually turned into credit cards after her mom maxed out her own and tanked her credit score.

My future MIL has consistently said that she would pay these back, and took out loans that she promised would be applied to the debt. However, she instead used these loans to pay for vehicles, a tummy-tuck, and trips. For one of these loans, my girlfriend took a lean out on *her own vehicle* as collateral for the loan.

I recently broke when two separate events compounded to give me the impression that this woman will never pay my girlfriend back. The first of these events took place back in December when, as legal guardian of my girlfriend's twin half-siblings, took money from their savings accounts to pay down debt. This money had been given to them by their father to set up college funds and they had no knowledge of the withdrawal. They are 13 years old and certainly do not track those accounts.

The second incident, and the tipping point, occurred last week. My girlfriend pays her family's general expenses for the month and is then repaid when her mom gets her paycheck. She lives at home (for the moment) and thinks this is fine as she has never had much of an issue in being repaid. Her mother has now missed 2 payments and this week came to her asking for an extra $600 to pay the water bill which is apparently overdue by multiple months.

She called asking me what to do and I said to refuse to pay it. She has her own expenses and it is too large of a financial strain to deal with. Her mother and her got in a shouting match that had a lot of, "You live under my roof!" from my understanding. The two are now at odds, and I am in the middle of it.

When I came over to go on a weekend getaway, I told her mother that if my girlfriend paid off a single one of her credit cards, she would never see her grandchildren. She then went on a tirade about how horrible that was, and that I was brainwashing her daughter into hating her family. She has since spread rumors to all of her children and other family members about how terrible and manipulative I have been. My girlfriend is entirely behind me and wants to GTFO of her house to avoid feeling obligated to assist her mother.

So Reddit, am I the asshole here?

TLDR; Girlfriend saddled with $15,000 in her mom's debt. I told her mom she would never see her grandchildren if GF pays it herself.