Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : my ex and i had a very toxic relationship. He was extremely manipulative. When we first broke up, he didn’t want to let me have my time off to move on. He insisted that we had to stay friends because i “promised” to. Eventually he let me have some space to myself although he would call me up or text me out of the blue. But I finally moved on and no longer felt anything for him. He has a girlfriend now but sometimes he still bugs me because he needs help with his studies or someone to talk to. I used to reply him because I pitied him (he loves to victimise himself) and on my birthday, he got me a lot of presents and even wanted to throw a surprise party for me (after we’ve broken up) so I felt like I should reciprocate since he’s being so nice to me. But I realised that I can’t forget about the tremendous amount of hurt he has caused me and him being in my life doesn’t help. Also I feel like he’s just using me as a back up plan in case he loses his girlfriend in the future. And I definitely do not want to be the one comforting him (i know i’m selfish). So recently i’ve been ignoring him and trying to distance myself and hopefully i can cut off the friendship. 

TL;DR - I do not want to be friends with my ex even though he’s pretty nice to me now. 