Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : For background, I'm from South America, and have been living in Japan for a few years. To go back home, it would take at least 2 flights and 28 hours one way, so I never get to visit (can never attend family gatherings, weddings, funerals, etc), since my work schedule is pretty hectic, and I rarely get to take actual vacations. If you're anything familiar with latin american families, you must know this is a pretty big deal for me, and I miss my family and friends (and everything else) like crazy, even though my life here right now is pretty amazing.  
  
Anyway, the longest national holiday in this country is coming up, and this year, it will be a 10-day thing. This is a rare opportunity for me to actually be able to spend a few days in my home country, so I started making plans to travel with my boyfriend a while ago (he is Japanese, and works even more than I do). Due to multiple factors (job change, move, other setbacks), we couldn't get to purchase tickets months in advance, and since this is the only decent holiday in this country, the prices quickly sky-rocketed, and we couldn't afford it. So we had basically given up on going anywhere, and were thinking of things to do during that period that wouldn't break the bank.  
Unrelated to this issue, things haven't been going too well for us as a couple. We have been fighting a lot, there is quite a lack of affection recently, and while it's embarassing to admit, I'm resenting him a lot lately. I have been thinking of breaking up, but we somehow always make up after a fight, and we still like each other (have talked about marriage, etc). So I'm torn about that as well.  
Recently, my father has contacted me offering to pay for my trip back home, because he knows I have been kind of down lately, and honestly, because he misses me. I got super excited, and there is nothing I'd like more than going back for the first time in years, but that would mean leaving my boyfriend behind, when we were both looking for things to do together during the holiday.  
Considering things haven't been great for us recently, and how much I need some time away, I'm pretty much set on taking my dad's offer. That would make my boyfriend pretty upset though. So, Would I Be The Asshole if I went back home and left him with nothing to do?  
  
TL;DR: Boyfriend and I had plans to visit my home country for the first time in years during the holidays. Realized we couldn't afford it, and gave up. Things haven't been going too well with said boyfriend, because of unrelated reasons. My dad has offered to pay for me to go, because he wants to see me. I want to go, but boyfriend would be upset. WITBA if I went?