I inherited a new role at work. The last person in the role used to buy cake for the folks who had birthday’s during the month and also have a birthday card signed. The exception was when the birthday person decided to leave for a birthday vacation or simply take the day off.

No one at work wants to tell me their birthday, making me have to struggle to figure it out. Also, many folks are older and specifically don’t want a party. 

The last month we had two birthdays. One who left town and didn’t say a word about it being their birthday. The other left town and is not a fan of sharing their birthday too. 

Then follows the reimbursement request for someone who doesn’t even want a party. Awkward.

If I knew everyone’s birthday and they weren’t so strange about having a small gathering it would be easy. Now, it just feels forced. AITA for not really wanting to keep this birthday struggle going? Should I simply reassign the party planning to someone else?