Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Going to try to condense this as much as possible. So I'll be leaving out a lot. 

I've never had a great relationship with my mother, she belongs somewhere in r/entitledparents. But that's a story for another day. 

Either way, my son is autistic. He'll be 6 this year. Back in Sept of 2016, I was struggling with my own mental illness, and I reached out for some help. Up to that point, I'd been using the ignore it and it'll go away method. It was not working. So after some fighting, my mom agreed to take care of my son for a few weeks, so I could figure shit out.

A few weeks went by, and *insert long list of reasons*, she pitched this idea to give her custody of him on paper. It was all about the money for her, I see that now. But at the time, I thought she was trying to help me. 

Fast forward a few more weeks, and I was starting to do better. My son would spend weekends at my house, and weekdays at my moms house.

Then she stopped picking him up, weeks went by, medication not taken. I started to go back down, and in Aug I went to the psyc ward for 7 weeks to get help. 

When I got out, she refused to let me see my son. Dec rolled around and I still hadn't seen him. I get a message from her saying that she had applied for disability for him, and it was approved with back pay. She asked me to check if I was getting it.

That's weird I thought, considering it was 13 months since I legally had him, and she did all the leg work. But I checked and sure enough, I was getting just shy of 4 grand. 

We talked about it, and I was under the impression that it was all of the back pay, and I agreed to split it with her. Upon looking into it further later, I realized that the amount was wrong. She had given me the date from where the back pay started, as well as the monthly amount, and it was short. 13 months short. 

Realizing what she did, I messaged her again. Knowing from her history that it was intentional, but not wanting to upset her, I said something to effect of "Oh hey, mines short, you should check your account, there should be another ~1700 dollars you're getting, isn't that great!".

Does she take the out? No, she doubles down. With the 'ol, yeah I knew that, but I deserve half of yours anyway. 

I don't even know what to say, after everything, long list of things she's done/said over the last 4 years, and she somehow felt entitled to money that was by all right, mine. She said I was disrespectful and selfish for not giving it to her, and questioning her about it. And how dare I accuse her of lying, she never lied to me. 

To make a long story short, I didn't give her the money. She tells friends and family that I abandoned my son, and I don't want him back, when she's refusing to let me see him because I wouldn't give her the money. Now I have to take my own mother to court, and with the court date looming, I've gotta know.. am I the asshole for not giving her that money? 

