Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I guess I should redefine by saying I haven't talked to the ex yet, so would I be the asshole if I did? 

The girl and I aren't exactly friends. She doesn't go to my school anymore, but we occasionally text. We make "plans" every few months saying we should hangout and never do. One of those friends. Thought she does come to me for help/advice. I just want to make it clear that we are friends, but not really friends (if you catch my drift). 

Recently her boyfriend of almost one year found out she had been cheating on him. I do not condone cheating at all. He is a really amazing guy tbh. I have contemplated messaging him, slowly talking, then possibly asking him on a date. So.. would I be the asshole? 