Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : AITA? 
So I’d honestly like to know what y’all think about my situation and what I can do to help it. I can say that I probably haven’t handled it the best but I’d like to see where other people’s opinions lay. As a a background I am Bi-sexual, that will make more sense as you read.

When I was almost 11 I was molested by a friends uncle down the street. This happened right around the time that Obama was first running for office and the gay rights movement was in full swing especially here in Seattle. My mother is deeply religious and can always be heard saying things along the line of “Gays burn in Hell.” and “I would never tolerate that.” For that reason as well as the fact that my father is very emotionally distant from my family is the reason I’ve never told anyone until very recently. I grew up feeling vilified, like my whole family hated me. Along with my mother making me feel less than dirt my brother bragged about beating up gays and my grandmother saying the same things. When I was 13 we found out that I am highly allergic to dogs and moderately allergic to dogs. We’ve always had at least two dogs and cats that are indoor/outdoor pets. My parents didn’t want to get rid of them and never pursued any sort of solution for me but instead insisted that I had something else wrong with me. Often I would hear jokes such as “I’d get rid of the dogs before you.” and “The dogs are more my children than you.” That led to me having to take all manners of medication that I didn’t need. The allergies crippled me to the point where I missed around 100 days of school per year, as expected my grades fell. I still managed to get into a running start program where I got my ASE’s, as well as transfer into a technical high school program where I used the state to pay for my education. I suffered through my classes but when I felt well I crushed them, sadly that wasn’t often. I still haven’t graduated high school technically. 
My relationship with my family is not great. I’ve tried to ignore it all and build up good relations with them but that has built up resentment. I haven’t been the best son undoubtedly. The past couple years when I have heard them say something homophobic I usually respond with something along the lines of “Stoping being such a judgmental bitch.” which usually gets me punched in the head a few times and kicked out of the house for a bit. 
The last time something like this happened my father came to pick me up after my mother stopped in traffic to bust my lip open and bruise my jaw then kicked me out into traffic. 
When he picked me up I opened up to him about what happened when I was younger. He told me he was sorry for what I have been through but it was wrong for me to be upset with my mothers actions and comments because “She cannot relate to homosexuals because she doesn’t have anyone as such in her life to make it personal.” As well he told me I need to bring this up to her and forgive her for everything. 
I can’t help but feel robbed of an education and a childhood. It was one thing to be molested and have to deal with that and the backlash that comes with being bi-sexual in public school. It’s another thing to not have a support system, to feel hated by humanity and your family, to be lower on the ladder than dogs and referred to as “Gods joke.” I haven’t been able to talk to any of my family not only about this situation but any hardship due to this barrier. 
I genuinely dislike most of my family and I hate that I feel that way. I am upset about how I have been treated and the opportunities I’ve lost. 
I don’t know what else to do or say. I’m sorry that this post is such a mess, I have a splitting headache and I’m fairly stressed out. Thank you for taking some of your time to read this. 