Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So today in my daily call with my mom I just told her to visit me less (she lives in another close country)  because I can't stand living in close proximity with her even just for a week. She cried on the phone and I feel bad,  but living with her even just for a week drove me to hurting myself and raised my suicidal tendencies (in contrast of how utterly happy I am when I live alone) 

She's clingy, hovering and a control freak. Everytime I said I planned to move country to further my career she always said 'what about me', 'who will take care of me if you live far away'. But at the same time, she always ask me for money because she's been unemployed for a long time,  and the only way for me to give her money is to search for bigger income and opportunity overseas. 

Now she visited me a lot already.  Everytime she did we always fought with each other to the point of tears because of our differences. I grew up poor so I always tried to save money, she grew up mostly rich so for example she likes using my money to buy *a lot* of food and useless things for me, but in the end it's too much and spoiled. She did a lot of things like that. She tried to control a lot of things in my life like the time i sleep and the time I take a shower. If I don't follow her words she will be mad. 

She does that based on her love for me, I know. She's a soft old woman, she cared for her children, take care of my apartment when she visited normally, cook for us,  etc. And I love her a lot.  But I just can't stand living with her because I feel like I'm not free and it does bad things to my mental health. It's like she's still caring for a teenager or a child instead of an adult that I am. 

am I the asshole for doing this? 
