So for reference, my name is Shanshan. Yea I know, weird asf. It means “blooming flower” in my native language but it hasn’t done me any favors growing up in America. I got teased so much growing up and even to this day (I’m 19) I get weird looks when introducing myself. When people see my name at work on my name tag they ask me if it’s my real name. Whenever I’m ordering from Starbucks or any situation where I don’t have to use my real name I always use a different name (my personal go to is Adelina, I love that name)

I was talking to my mom yesterday and somehow the topic of names came up. I told her that she should have picked a different name for me when I was born, and she was like “why, your name is beautiful” and I was like “yea not here though” and she seemed hurt by it.

I’m just wondering AITA in this situation. I mean I’m the one who has to live with the name so can’t I feel a way about it?