Throwaway account.

My sister (17F) and I (19F) usually joke a lot but I feel like she should know if she crosses a line. Or maybe she wanted to see me upset. I don’t know.

I’m a lesbian and I’ve been out to my family for a while. Though, sister is the one who outed me to my parents without my OK and sometimes makes rude comments about lesbian related stuff that I own.

Now, yesterday morning she was laughing about something, and proceeded to make me listen to this one song. I didn’t even know who it was by until I looked at her screen where it said The Weeknd. I don’t really like this kind of music but proceeded to give it a chance anyway.

That was when this particularly lesbophobic verse (to me, at least) came up. It discusses attraction to girls being a phase and “fucking girls straight”. [I found the song and here are the lyrics.](https://genius.com/Gesaffelstein-and-the-weeknd-lost-in-the-fire-lyrics)

I started crying on the spot because of how awful and violent that was, and tried to explain to her how, but she didn’t seem to care as I cried. Lesbians have a history of “corrective rape” by men, conversion therapy, just being doubted in general.

I got really overwhelmed with the emotions and anger and told her that her music taste has always sucked, and she needed to find better people to listen to, morally at least. Apparently that struck a bigger nerve than I expected.

This really upset her and she went to go cry to our parents that I had basically “bullied” her. My parents got angry with me and told me to cool it, that I was overreacting, that I hurt her, that I was too sensitive. I just feel the most hurt in this situation…

I have past experiences with men who have these kinds of mindsets and I remained feeling really awful throughout the day.

AITA?