Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Ok so some background context before we get into this I(17 mtf) have a friend (also 17 mtf) for the record mtf is the acronym people use for trans women. Anyway so my and my friend who we will call j have known eachother for a time, almost 4 years. But recently as I talk to her it feels like se concentrating on the things that make me look bad, in a weird way. So we had a mutual friend a while back who I dated, let's call em L during this period he made sexual advances I made clear were not welcome, anyway long story short turns out the guy is a dick and he leaves out town. Recently when L is brought up she goes into something along the line of "you don't have it as bad as me, I had it the worst" in different ways. It happens almost every time. I want to sometimes say "yeah I get it you had a bad time, doesn't discount mine" one of the other things is that she is into body horror stuff(mostly works by junji Ito), which is cool but I hate it, I'm not exactly squeamish but it makes me wildly uncomfortable. She knows this and yet brings it up so often, and tries to get me to read it.  Another problem lies in our dysphoria, which usually lands us on common ground but she does the "trust me it's easier for you cause you're skinny" act which I hate because I have got an eating disorder, which she knows about. But keeps telling me things like "I would kill for your body", etc. I hate it because once again diminishing my problems because hers are worse. And then there's the subject of V. V is a mutual friend that we both dated, her before me. We have both broken up with him on amicable terms. However anytime I bring up Something happy that happened with him when just talking about relationships she always butts in with something like "HAHAHA it's so funny how you dated him even though I'm still in love with him" the same thing happens when ever I bring my current partner but in a different matter that always frames me as being bad for bringing up my happiness because she doesn't have it. For the record when I was dating V J has broken up with him months beforehand and was cool with out relationship. I don't know what happened and it's tiring to be told that my problems don't matter because she's got worse ones, or how somehow I've wronged her. And it's getting irritating and I just want to shout that not everything is about her and for her to just let people have happiness without bringing her problems into it immediately.  WIBTA if I called her out?