Dropped partner off a few days ago for a flight (Airport is ~15 min from house). Asked them as they walked away to please let me know their return flight arrival time for today. They said they think it's 10am. I said I'd really like to know the arrival time so I can plan my morning and so I don't wait around the airport. No text. Had phone conversation yesterday in which I reiterated for them to tell me when the flight gets in, it was in the morning and surf looked good plus I may want to sleep it. No text. Last night I text that "I really don't want to ask again" as I was getting frustrated and by this time it's 6pm the night before they arrive. No text. I finally go online and look up flight trackers so I can know for myself. Finally get a text with the flight # but no arrival time, after I've already looked it up. It gets in at 1020. Had I gotten there at 10 I would have been waiting for ~30min.

This morning comes and they never send me a text about when their getting in. I know what time because I looked it up. I get a text when they land that says "U comin?". I drive, pick them up, but can't help but express my frustration with how they wouldn't give me the information after repeated requests. I didn't yell and attack them (though they may have felt attacked) and they proceeded to blow up on me, yelling and kicking me out of the car and speeding off as soon as we got to my spot (used their car to pick them up).

Time and timing has been an issue (they don't care about schedules at all, I do) and so they knew how this may affect me and I really tried not to let it, hence why I tried to ask them multiple times.

They are pissed because it doesn't seem like a big deal to them. I'm pissed because I feel they don't respect me or my time enough to look up and forward an email.

Am I the asshole?