Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So a bit of backstory here, growing up I was always closer to my dad than my mom. I’m not sure why, but even when I was younger I favored my dad. I always felt like my mother resented this. 

When I was 16 my parents split, mom got custody. My mother by all accounts is crazy. Multiple occasions she both physically and mentally abused me and my younger brother, and later grounded us for “making her so mad.” Needless to say when I was 18, I got out of there. I was tired of the constant fighting and controlling nature of my mom. 

This all came to a head a year after moving out, I fell in love with a girl, (6 years later, my fiancée now). My mom hated her, and told me she would never consider me a son while dating her. Why did she not like her you ask? She was from a poor family. That’s it. So I got cut off from my mom and younger brother. This all lasted until I joined the military. Out of nowhere my mom comes out of the woodwork and tries to act like nothing has happened and be all happy and invite me over for dinner. Not so much as a sorry or explanation of her actions.

Multiple people have told me to let it go, and I should feel lucky to have a mother. But I just can’t get over all the things she’s done in her past to hurt me and my future wife as well. So, AITA for not wanting a relationship with her?