I have a friend who is very overweight, who has another friend who is also very overweight.

We were talking about weight and I expressed the dissatisfaction I’m experiencing after dealing with multiple ongoing health issues over the past few years. My friends friend (let’s call her “Jane”) jumped down my throat about how I could “eat more” and “if you’re fat what am I.” Jane then went on a long rant about how some people can’t help being fat, and how she’s only overweight because of her health issues.

So I said many people have health issues but still figure out ways to take care of themselves. She said she has hypothyroidism, so unlike me she doesn’t have energy to workout.I explained that I too also have hypothyroidism, and that in fact, I don’t even have a thyroid. But that I still manage what I ate even when I can’t go to the gym. 

 I also said that I understand you gain some weight dealing with thyroid issues but not enough to become morbidly obese. That it’s very rare to have a health problem that makes you gain enough weight to be THAT overweight, and hypothyroidism definitely isn’t one of them. At some point people have to acknowledge that some weight gained is their fault and not their disease. She started crying and told me I was fat shaming her, and my friend agreed. 

She’s made a lot of comments in the past about my body, and has implied I have an eating disorder (I don’t, like at all). She always tells people I’m only skinny because I don’t eat. (Also a lie).

My friend is saying I should apologize to Jane but I stand by everything I said she’s been a passive aggressive bitch to me for too long. 

I WILL apologize though if I’m in the wrong, so AITA?