Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : TLDR at the bottom.

Going to be a long story.

Backstory:

Im (19f) the youngest in the family and I get treated as like it. Im not going to say a specific number but I have more than 3 sisters. I have a very overprotective narcissistic mother, whenever I argue against her, she will talk behind my back to my sisters on the phone = which leads my sisters arguing with me in the end; basically my mother always turns the whole family against me if I dont listen to her. In case youre wondering, my mother argues on what I should do in the future and what I dont = break up with my bf, never move out of the house, pay her back on her raising me, etc. Its exhausting, frustrating, and it gave me depression/anxiety because of it, knowing that no one in the family will never listen to you and no freedom. We’re not an emotional supportive family type, most likely a financial supportive type. So theres nothing much I get out of this family.

Sometimes most of my sisters will offer to listen on why I hate talking to mother and why I always disagree with her. I cant stand her, even thinking of her makes my blood boil. Claiming I should always be at home and never leaving the house even if I get my degree because Im the youngest, it wasnt fair and home felt like prison = mother always claimed it was because she did it to “protect me” and always said “youre a terrible daughter for leaving me”. 



So the story goes:



Right after I got into college I desperately wanted to move out, I wanted to get away from mother as much as I could. My depression was getting worse the fact that I was told “no good daughter, you should stay” (language speaker btw) and I needed the space away from her as much as possible. One of my sisters insisted on helping me to do so, we’ll call her L. My relationship with my sister L was alright, but I was surprised she wanted to help me move. Though the difference between her and my other sisters would be that she hates my bf. Now at the time my bf was recently at his home country for a few months, and he hasnt talk to my sister L nor will he ever be interested. I know she hates him because near the beginning of our relationship my bf wasnt the greatest person to be around with, and argued once with sister L. Its been 3 years since that last argument and 3 years since my bf has ever come near my family. My sister L still hates him today. My other sisters dont mind him but my bf thought it was best to stay away from my family after the argument.

So back to the story, sister L found an apartment for me, did the arrangements, drove me to see it, etc. It was all great until my mother called me up on the phone and told me I should never move out of the house, sister L backed me up and I cried out of joy because finally someone stood up for me. I moved out and enjoyed my freedom.

After a few months in college, my bf came back from his home country and I was excited to see him after a while. We planned to see each other on the day and hangout. During the time my mother called in to ask how I was, which was strange because she never asked me how I am, she would usually call me up to argue over something small about my life. I said I was fine and asked her if she needed anything or wanted to say something, she said no in return then hanged up. Back to having the day of my life with my bf, he told me he got his license before asking to hangout, I was excited to see him drive. He drove safer than my sisters I can say.

Again my mother called in on the same day in the afternoon, I couldnt call back because my phone died afterwards. I decided to bring my power bank to charge the phone in the car. I was anxious and my anxiety was kicking in because I know that once I miss a phone call from my mother, she sends phone calls to my other sisters = they will send a bunch of text messages, telling me to stop being a bitch and answer mother’s phone calls. This is what its always been like and its my mother being manipulative into getting me to answer her. In the end I get called ungrateful by her = “you’re ungrateful to your mother, you listen to your sisters but not me?”

Its frustrating and it makes me cry. After my phone was charged enough to turn back on, I was waiting for tons of messages, and I was right. I scrolled through message after message and I cried in my bf’s car while he was driving. I was reading words like “you better fucking not make mom mad, im sick and fucking tired of hearing her always talking about you” = I screamed and cried. I called my mother back and said I am driving with my bf, she was furious because she doesnt believe that my bf can drive. I understand that so I took a photo of him driving and sent it to her, she still didnt believe me. My bf tried to calm me down but I was angry and sad, I had flashbacks of conversations with my mother on how she told me I should never leave home even after college, I didnt know why but it came to mind. My mom hanged up and I got more messages from my sisters, then my sister L messaged me.

She found out from mother that I was driving with my bf. She asked why am I driving with him, why am I letting him drive, does he have a drivers license, etc. Questions after questions, I was having an anxiety attack and drank some water but it didnt help, I coughed it out and my bf parked in the parking lot near the stores to calm me down. Then she said to stop pissing mom off, I broke down hard because after all she did to support me I thought she was willing to understand what I was going through despite her hate on my bf. Then I told her = “Why cant you guys just leave me alone and let me live my life without questioning it”

Of course my sister L was pissed off and gave me a huge paragraph saying she is cutting ties with me, because of my lack of maturity, how unappreciated I am with mother and how she cant stand my bf. She sounded like mother but it hurt more because this was the sister who supported me and I didnt think me saying what I said would caused this. I just felt harassed by everyone and was sick of it, broke down and cried like a child. 

The last words my sister L said was have a good fucking life. AITA for saying this to her?


TLDR: I told my supportive sister to leave me alone because I felt like she was harassing me along with my narcissistic mother and other sisters after finding out my bf, who just got his drivers license, drove me around to hangout. She cut ties with me after that because she cant stand my bf and me.