So when I first met my husband he played guitar he had tried to pursue a music career for a few years after high school but had recently just given that up to go back to college. That's where we met, college. Fast forward we've been together for 10 years married for five with one kid. Slowly over the years my husband has kind of stop playing his guitar. He will pick it up maybe two times a year. Instead he's picked up lots of other hobbies including homebrewing and hunting, that take up his free time. 

We recently moved to a new city, and he's been talking about wanting to start playing music again. I was all for it and supportive but then he started talking about playing and meeting up with this particular bandmate. There have been some weird stuff with her that makes me uncomfortable here are the bullet points. 

• when my husband and I first started dating 6 months in,  he went down to hang out with some friends. We kiss goodbye say I love you. All good. He ends up taking mushrooms with said girl and they have a long talk about what they want in life.  He decides (while talking to her) that I'm fake?? and he needs to break up with me. Two weeks later we get back together because he is miserable without me. We've been together ever since. 

• A few years later the girl came to visit us for two weeks while dealing with some family stuff. She was weird the whole time she visited. She refused to talk to me. She would text my husband when he was at work asking if she could have some of our milk when I was sitting on the couch in the next room and could have asked me. It was weird

• my husband secretly sent her flowers on Valentine's day. He sent them anonymously, as a supportive friend but he hid it from me. I only found out because the florist sent him a postcard the next year reminding him to buy another bouquet for Valentine's Day. Lucky for him the website still had the old order and I could read the message he sent her. It wasnt romantic, just him being supportive of a friend going through a hard time. I forgave him.

WIBTA if I told him I was too uncomfortable with him hanging out with this person? I don't want to be that controlling wife who dictates who her husband can hang out with but I can't help but see the red flags and feel uncomfortable. 