Hello all! Second post here!

So I have a friend who is an artist, we'll call her B. I recently wanted to commission something from her because she's damn good and she's been advertising. I tell her what I want, and she agrees to do it after we agree on a price. 


We don't talk for a week or two until one day I decide to pop in to see how it was coming along. She says she hasn't started since I haven't paid her I apologized and mentioned off hand she should have said something since I was waiting for updates. She tells me I should have known to send the payment first because she doesn't want to be scammed.

Now disclaimer I am 100% supportive of artists, and I know how often people try to steal and rip them off. I'm also 100% supportive of them making the call on when they get paid.

But the way she said what she said hurt me, a lot. I'm not asking for special treatment im 100% fine paying first but she acted like I had the potential to scam her and it really hurt. Again, I'm fine paying early, Im fine with her not starting just hurt by what she said. I tell her im pretty tapped this paycheck and Ill pay her in about a weak. She says "I knew it" and now I kinda don't want to comission her, I'm angry and hurt.

AITA for wanting to no comission her now?

(Disclaimer: we were really good friends, even leading up to this which is why it hurts)