Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : AITA for feeling smothered by a new friend I made 6 months ago?

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Sorry for the length in advance, I just want to make sure I don't miss any important details.

In July 2018 I (F 32) started seeing a new hair stylist, Pablo (M 36) who I initially thought was gay. He's very flamboyant and metrosexual, we bonded quite easily and I made the mistake of saying that I thought we might have been best friends in another life. It's not long before he mentions his GF, Lana (F 28)... now things start getting a little weird. Pablo tells me that right before him and Lana started dating he had been in a very serious relationship that was heading towards marriage, when the girl suddenly ghosted him with no explanation whatsoever.  He goes on to tell me that even though he is 100% committed to Lana, he's not over what happened and he just hasn't really been giving it 100% (yikes, but I decide not to judge him because I've had my heart broken too and know what it feels like to be trying to move on)...

Soon Pablo invites me to hang out with him and Lana. We link up for happy hour, I meet her and she is really sweet and wonderful. I like her a lot.  Now Pablo and Lana start inviting me out more and more as well as paying for me (even though I wanted to paying for myself), first it was weekly then progressively more and more... I have a really busy schedule and pretty full life, so I'm just not available that much and can't hang out as much as they would like to.... I'm actually relieved when the holidays come because they finally let up on asking me to hang out as much.

Now during this time I actually think things are getting better and our friendship is balancing out... WRONG! Pablo messages me and tells me to go to the \*\*\*\* (expensive clothing brand) website and pick out my Christmas gift, anything I want! This makes me feel a little uncomfortable because me and my friends don't spend that much money on each other during the holidays and I usually do home made gifts, so I pick out something very modest. We meet up before Christmas to exchange gifts (I made them a thoughtful couples gift) and everything seems pretty good... Then a few days later he sends me a picture of a second gift he has gotten me.... Okay, what? WHY??????

Now I'm asking myself if Lana knows about this? Pablo gives me the impression that she does know because he bought her the same gift as me plus more.  So I start asking if I'm just not used to someone being so generous towards me and if I'm making this into something it's not???

I decide to ignore my gut feeling and not get all weirded out by it. (I've never been comfortable accepting gifts from men because in my experience they take it to mean I want something more.)

Jump forward to about a week ago. I'm in for another hair cut and  Pablo brings up the gift thing... he goes on about how he usually spends so much more money on his friends, and that my gifts were so cheap that's why he bought me two... okay? Then while I'm getting my hair washed Pablo says "Do you know what I like about your body? I love how curvy your hips are and that you're not fat."  I just feel like this is too "friendly"....

I should also take this time to say that I am in no way sexually attracted to Pablo. I think he has a really cool personality and we get along really well as friends, except that I think he wants to hang out too often and is too friendly sometimes.

Now I start confiding in my best friend and she says that is completely inappropriate and disrespectful to his GF.  I agree and decide its best decide to talk to his GF about it next time I see her. So, the next day Pablo invites me to hang out with him and Lana, I agree. We end up going to a concert a day later and there's just no good time to talk to her... Plus I ate something that wrecked my stomach. I was in so much pain by the end, I told them I needed to go home and didn't feel well. They said that they were going to go hot tubing and that if I felt better I should join them. I told them the chances of that were basically non existent. I go home, take some tums and crawl into bed. as soon as I'm snuggled under the covers I get 3 texts.... 2 from her and 1 from him... both basically saying "we're at the hot tub, when are you coming over?"

Now at this point, I'm getting really annoyed. I reply back "My stomach is wrecked so I'm taking some tums and going to bed." Lana replies to "Feel better" and Pablo replies "Damn! You still look good though!  Coming back out tonight?" I didn't reply and I put both of their numbers on do not disturb mode. (also no this is not a group text, they both message me separately... her not so much, but him like everyday.)

I'm also starting to realize that Pablo has my schedule memorized. He messages me the next day "Good morning!"

"Morning." - Me

"Going to the gym today?"-Pablo

\-\_- (my face) "I'm here now." - me

"damn! I wanted to go with you!" -Pablo

\-\_-  I start getting annoyed again and don't reply.

"Are you off tomorrow?" -Pablo

"Yes, but I have a completely full schedule already."-Me

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..... okay, so He knows what days I go to the gym, and he knew I was working that day, so asked (already knowing the answer) if I was off tomorrow.

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I honestly don't know If I'm the asshole for not wanting to hang out every god damn single day and blowing this out of proportion and Pablo is really just a nice, generous guy?

.... Or, if Pablo has a secret crush on me or something?

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If I am the asshole... how do I say in a nice way that I have a life of my own, with friends and family that I want to see too and that I don't want to see them everyday? I've told them before that I'm not a very high maintenance friend and that I don't need to text or see people THAT often. I also feel like the more often he tries to see me the less I want to see him. I like having space and time to myself, and I am very, very close with my family and see them at least 5 times a week. Plus I have best friends I've known for 10 years that I prefer to see when I get the chance.... I have also told them this in a nice way, and I just think it is selfish of them to try and bogart all of my time. They stress me out and annoy me when they ask me my plans every single day and then want to invite themselves to do things. Sorry, but I am a serious gym goer and don't want distractions. I spend two hours at the gym and have a set routine.

I definitely feel like the asshole here, but 'I also feel like he is becoming obsessed with me or something... i really don't know.

Please help!