Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : Context: So I was friends with these 3 girls for around three years, they were friends long before I came in, and they ignored me/treated me unfairly compared to how they treated each other, but I always brushed it off. I recently came out as trans to them, and they've been transphobic and homophobic, 'forgetting' to use my new name and always lashing out whenever I called them out, listing off their gay/trans friends and saying it's hard to adjust, which I get, but compared to my other friends who take forgetting my name a lot more lightly and apologize and we joke and it's alright. But we were always sorta okay and had big ups and big downs up until recently.


We had to do a group film project with four other people, and two of the girls (let's call them Ashley and Kate) were in the group with me, and all was good. 

The first problem was casting, when they gave my role to this rude dude James when he first mentioned that he might be interested in filling that role. The reasons they said I couldn't be that character (ex. I'd smile during a serious scene, Id laugh) all showed up in James as well, but without anyone saying anything.

The second time I saw a problem was much less serious, but still a bother. We didn't have 'assigned seats' but we'd have places where we'd usually sit, and people mostly respected that. Some days I'd find one of the girls in my seat before I got there, and I brushed that off, but there would be days where I put my belongings there, go do something in a separate part of the classroom, and come back to see that my seat was taken by one of the girls. I'd call them out, and the one who had the most problems with me (let's call her Peyton) would tell me that it's just a seat, and I should move (the other two obviously agreeing). And me, thinking I was overreacting, always did. Whenever they'd go off and do something, and I took their seat, all three told me to move, since it was just a seat, and I would. Small but important detail.

So fast forward weeks later, filming's done, everything seems to be calm, I thought "oh we're done with that, so I won't have to deal with that." I was completely wrong and this is where everything basically snowballed.

We were about to watch it in front of the class, and I was sitting at my seat next to Ashley and Kate for a while, I stood up, and not even four steps away Peyton speeds over to sit in my chair. I walk back, done with what I had to do, and asked her to move, since I thought she was joking around. She pulled the whole 'its just a seat' thing on me and since this was different from the other times, I argued my case. She wasn't budging so I just sat on the table, since it was before class. She was like "oh my gOD" and told me to stop being stubborn. Ashley and Kate backed her up, and I thought I'd lose this time. Eventually, Peyton stood up and left my seat, 'done with my crap' and I was like "cool thanks man" and I blink and suddenly James is in my chair. He tries to defend himself saying "you weren't sitting in it" even though he saw the entire scene go down. I just kept sitting there, and my other friend offered me food, so I stood up and went to go get it and when I came back James has put his arms over the desk to try to prevent me from continuing to sit on the table. He was on my last nerve and so, after many warnings, I sat on his arms. 

Kate, who was previously sitting next to me just said "oh my God." And left to go sit by Peyton. Ashley was still in place and to the right of James, there sat an empty chair. All four of them were now yelling at me to just go sit in the chair, but I said "well why doesn't JAMES sit in the chair" and after refusing to move off James's arms, he moved and I sat down in my chair

After class they were all four mad at me, so I just left for my next class. Since I didn't have any other classes with them, I didn't have to talk to them for the rest of the day.

Later on the same day, I was given a pop figure and since I knew Peyton liked those things, I sent her a text saying "just got your Christmas present!" since this was in December.

She texted back saying "Thanks!" "Still mad at you though"

I sent out a "why" 

Her: "The seating arrangement you had a problem with. The fact that you have gotten to sit next to Ashley for the past 3 weeks and I want to sit next to her and you flip."

Me: "It's not about the seats."

Her: "You even refused to sit in the seat next to that seat when James sat down" "The way you acted about it was childish" (I mean, the childish part was true, but I didn't say that.) "What is it about then?"

Me: "And it's about you guys not acknowledging what I say and treating me unfairly. And what James did was a jerk move."

Her: "He probably did that to defend me" (No he didn't, during the entire time I sat on the table he never mentioned Peyton or her being correct) and then she went on about how she thinks my other group of friends (who treat me a lot better and use my name instead of my deadname) werent a good influence and rubbing off on me in a bad way.

During this I was out and about, so after seeing that text I went back to what I was doing and didn't look back on my phone for a while. When I did it was revealed a shitstorm went down.

In my group chat with all three of them, we sent memes and joked, but out of the blue Peyton started sending screenshots of our private messages and calling me out in front of the whole group chat. I didn't see when she initially sent the pics, so Kate responded "hey, *my name* is in this chat" (which I guess means they trash talk me in group chats without me) and they started talking trash about me in that chat. So when I did read through the messages, I pleaded my case, bringing up all the stuff from before, and I tried to come to a good conclusion with them. After saying how they don't treat me fairly, instead of countering that with any argument, I look at my phone to see:

'Kate: "Throw yourself a goddamn pity party." '

And after waiting to see if Ashley or Peyton would say anything like 'that's not cool' with no results, I left the group chat. 

This all happened on the day before winter break, so during the entire break I didn't hear anything from any of them, and for the first week back, we just never talked to each other, despite having to sit next to each other for 3 classes. 

A week after that, we sort of got familiar again, I started talking with all three of them, albeit very light-heartedly, and I thought things were heading in a good direction. 

Now, two of them have me blocked and I don't talk to any of them, except Kate since we are in student council together. 


Not much I can do now, but I just wanted to know, am I the asshole here?

