At least, that is how it started... 

We are moving house. I had been clearing the kitchen over the last few days, taking it slow, we have time and it is one of the last tasks, but getting it done while also using the space... She comes in this morning starts clearing in there, says she is going to throw away food that is still good (balsamic vinegar) because we can not find the lid. I find a lid, not the right lid, and wrap some cling film about d to secure it all while she is saying how inexpensive it is and how we can just buy a new one. I tell her that is wasteful and how we can still use it, she is getting visibly frustrated and raising her voice a little over the fact that I want to keep it and not waste it. She then starts calling me a control freak because I wouldn't let her throw it away, I react and say that i don't want to waste food, frustradely, granted. She then went off to the bedroom and kept telling me i was being controlling and that i was a control freak.
 
I went to ask her to speak about it, because i had got annoyed and i told her that and i wanted to explain how her calling me a control freak made me feel, and because i was annoyed and because i didn't relent (and didn't get to explain my feelings about what she was doing and what i was doing etc as she was not letting me in the midst of that) to talk about how i wanted to explain why i was making a stand on this decision she starts shouting me down and telling me she doesn't consent to the conversation.

Seems petty (perhaps) but this is a small part of something bigger and is a standard for how she reacts when i want to talk about how what she does effects me and want to talk about our marriage in general. 

Am i the asshole?