Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I will try to keep it short but with all the details

My wife is a good person, and pretty hard working in regards to work life balance. She works from home.

I have implored through our 10 years together that she needs to get her DL. This is something she hasnt gotten because of fear or dying in a fiery crash ( she has never been in a crash. With me or with her previous partner)

For the first 6 years of our relationship we could barely afford 1 car much less 2. So i never really pushed for her to have a drivers license , just mentioned it occasionally.

For the last 2 years ive noticed the increasing need of her needing it. I commute 400 miles a week for work and usually have to run errands when i get home or on the weekend. 

Recently I hurt my back and even admist the injury where i could not walk. I had to drive for groceries and or D.r. appointments hers and my children. 

This time has really made me angry and bitter really at the fact that she refuses to be more independent. And its sadly making me notice a lot of other things, like how she won't do basic adulting and relies on me a lot for it. I guess its my fualt though because i used to like being the go to person but this situation is making me realize that she is really dependent on me.

Every time i bring up the conversation i am met with the notion that maybe we are not good for each other. I know such a dramatic response is charged by the past. Where she feels guilty for secretly racking up $20k in credit card debt. And me being constantly stressed about getting out of that hole. And maybe being pissed about it too frequently.


Long story to say...... AITA for being pissed as fuck for her not taking the exam. And bringing it up frequently