Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So I’ve had this friend since High school. Let’s call her S. S and I are like sisters. We’ve started our friendship off with a bit of a teasing play but now we know each other very well and try to talk a lot. We usually discuss our love lives, stuff like “ughhh men!!” Or things like that nature. I usually initiate conversation but lately she hasn’t really talked to me. At all. 

We’re both young adults now which means we’re still getting our lives together. I understand she has things going on in her life that doesn’t include me and she understands the same. But as of lately, she’s been ultra distant. 

I’ve been trying to plan a cruise. My boyfriend doesn’t want to go out on a cruise with me and I don’t want to go alone. I wanna go in two years- the prices are much cheaper and it seems easier to plan around in two years than say a couple months. I ask her, not including when this’ll be or where, I just say “hey wanna go on a cruise” and she instantly says “I’ll be working.” This was unlike her cause the last thing she ever wants to do is stay working. She’s the party hard type so I was confused. 

I had let it go. If she doesn’t want to go, then that’s fine. I asked my group of friends, including her, if they’d like to do Dollar Days next month. It’s a two day event where things downtown cost a dollar for entry. Things like museums, the aquarium, the science center. It’s fun and it’s a nice weekend event. I shoot her a message and “No I’ll be working”. I didn’t say when it’ll be or what date. 

I feel like she’s pushed me aside, this is extremely unlike her and i don’t know what’s changed. I really don’t want to resort to begging her so if she truly doesn’t want to hang or be around, so be it. 

But does that make me an asshole? 