First, sorry for the wall of text there’s a TL;DR  at the end 

(FYI: I personally DON’T like porn for ME, I can’t get off from it.) 

So me and my SO just got into an argument where I absolutely lost my shit. 
For starters, we have had multiple fights in the past about his lack of communication / lying habits.

This fight in particular started because my SO was watching porn and masturbating, in the bed with me while I slept... I initially thought he was looking at my nudes and got turned on and we ended up having sex. Afterwards, he asks to shower. I showered last night so declined and just went back in bed after cleaning up. I was curious as to what nudes in particular he was looking at, so I opened his phone and found the porn. I was a bit sad, ngl I felt like I wasn’t good enough because I was RIGHT there and he has so many of my nudes... I was just shocked. 
When he gets back into bed I simply ask him what he was looking at.

(a little while back, I bought a dildo and wanted to start using it - his response was “what’s the difference between that dildo and another dudes dick” / “you have me, you don’t need the dildo” so I was curious to see what the fuck his excuse was for watching porn if I’m “right here” ) 

He ignores the question and just says “reddit”, then I ask “why were you touching yourself then?” And he lies to my face and says “no, I was just touching my balls I wasn’t masturbating”  (I KNOW he was masturbating, I’ve been with this dude for 3ish years..) 

After a while I keep asking and he finally admits to watching porn. I ask, “why didn’t you tell me in the first place? Why’d you lie?”and his response is “I was embarrassed.” I get it, I do, but he still lied...

I then ask him what the difference between me using a dildo and him watching porn and fantasying TO the porn: “the dildo is a physical object, porn is not.” 

I’m honestly pretty pissed he’s able to go ahead and say “no I don’t like the dildo, it’s basically cheating” and further discourage me from using it, to him just watching porn and masturbating? He also said that it was a “substitute” for having sex with me?! But, I can’t have one?! 

I brought that up and he said “Nono I never said you COULDN’T use it, I said I didn’t like it” (oh yeah, so telling me it’s basically cheating is really going to make me feel great about using the dildo).

I generally wouldn’t care if he watched porn IF he wouldn’t put me down for using a dildo?? Is it just me, or is he a hypocrite?

Sorry for the long post, wanted to get as much info in here, but finally I just want to ask: Am I The Asshole here?

TD;LR : my SO hated the idea of me using a dildo, told me it was “basically cheating” because he’s “right here”,  then goes on to watch porn in our bed right next to me and expects me to be a-okay with it.