Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My so has a female friend who tends to rub me the wrong way. She generally just gives me bad vibes but I do have actually reasoning to not like her. 
My first reason is this; my so drove to my house while being under the influence and I was really upset about it. I borderline yelled at him because I was shocked he’d do something like this and he was acting like he did nothing wrong. He ended up telling her what happened and she basically said that I was acting crazy and that he’s his own person and he can do what he wants but I feel like driving under the influence is not an okay thing to do.
My other reason is he’s lied to me about being with her before. This was the weekend before my birthday and he was out shopping. He was being vague and kind of secretive but I chalked it up to it being about my birthday. Eventually I get a text from one of my friends saying that she had seen my so with his friend. When he came to my house I asked him about it and he reacted in a defensive angry way, even saying I had sent my friend to spy on him.
Whenever I try to talk to him about how I’m feeling he always gets defensive about her and says I don’t have reason to not like her. He sums it up to me not liking the attention he gives her instead of me.