Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So, in the past, I used to be someone who would just accept things for how they were. If someone wanted something, I would be happy to provide. If someone was upset about something, I would take the fault. If something weren't how I wanted it, I would deal with it.

But my new years resolution was essentially to stop having this attitude: If something bothers me, I'll speak up. If I feel that someone is asking too much, I would say no. If I have too much on my plate, instead of stressing and pulling all-nighters, I would ask for an extension, or for someone to help me out. I feel that this, despite being more selfish in nature, is healthy for me, and in the long run, is healthier for others, as it helps me to serve my own needs and happiness first, which would then allow me to better serve others, but only when once I've helped myself.

It's been going really well! I'm happier overall, less stressed, my friendships are stronger, and, strangely enough, I seem to have a lot more respect from my boss, coworkers, and teachers. But there's been one area that I've kinda been forgetting about, and that's in my own home.

And, so, this is where I could use some perspective:
When my roommate (male, 21) first moved in, I had just finished putting in a TON of effort cleaning up from my last slob of a roommate. All of the dishes were scrubbed. My couch had to be demolded from spilled food. Furniture had to be repaired. The bathtub and floors scrubbed. And as a bonus, I had the bedroom reorganized to make it feel homier and less "this is my side, and this is your side."

Sidenote: The dorm has a kitchen and living room merged into one room, a bathroom, and a bedroom.

Things were good at first, and the place seemed to stay clean, but with time, he started to become messier. Since this was before the new years resolution, I kinda just went with it and adapted. I tried to keep things clean, but he just made messes too fast and I couldn't keep up with my busy schedule. Beard trimmings were left on the bathroom floor and sink. Dried chunks of poop were in the toilet. Dirty dishes were left in the sink (I literally switched to paper plates because he used all my dishes). Trash-cans weren't emptied when they filled up, and he literally let them overflow. Amazon boxes would be left in the middle of the living room for literally months.

Now, I'm not entirely innocent. On occasion, I would accidentally leave some of my long hair in the bathtub after showering. I would sometimes run out of time and leave a few dirty dishes laying around. My own, personal desk is kinda messy. Sometimes, if I got an Amazon package, I would leave it sitting around for a day or two until I got enough time to take care of it.

But... That said, it seems that for whatever mess I left, promising myself I would clean, he would leave double that mess, making it so that I would have to clean up three times as much.

When the new years resolution came around, I started to find myself with more time to clean up after myself. And so I did. But his attitude hasn't changed at all, and I'm kinda getting annoyed. I've always been annoyed, but dealt with it because I figured: "I'm making a few messes too. It's hypocritical for me to judge." I really want the living room to be a nice, comfortable place to be in, and he doesn't seem to be respecting that. I own almost everything in this dorm, since I make the most money, and he doesn't seem to respect the stuff as though it's not his. The dirty dishes in the sink he used, but I own them. I even buy the toiletries, and he doesn't think to go and he leaves the empty tubes of toilet paper on the dispenser without going to the closet to get more.

I've even gone so far as to try to make it easier for both of us. I bought a scrub brush to use instead of a sponge for the dishes. I bought a toilet paper holder for the bathroom so that we wouldn't have to run to the closet to grab more as frequently. I even have a donation box for us to throw stuff we don't want anymore.

All of this is also combines with various stuff like locking me in the bedroom when he has a girl over (instead of asking me to leave), but that's another story.

So, Reddit, give me some perspective. Am I the ass for expecting him to clean when I haven't previously enforced that? Or is it within my right to be upset for him not treating our place and my stuff with respect?

Tl;Dr Despite providing tools and trying to help him out, my roommate doesn't want to treat the place with respect.