Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : AITA for wanting a good partner?


My current gf(22) is horrible at sex. I (24)was her first when we started dating over 3 years ago. Since she was new to the whole thing I knew there would be a transition phase. But what I didn't know was that she wouldn't be willing to put in the effort. 

She isn't willing to watch porn. She doesnt like the idea of it? That would be fine but she isn't willing to even attempt to research positions and such to try to improve. She has gained weight and isn't really interested in working out, whether to be more fit or for relevant muscles. 

Every time we have sex I have to do all the work. She gets tired on top after ~20 seconds and then wants to switch. She has actively gotten worse over time, since she was having a bit of improvement a little over a year ago.

Maybe tmi here but last time she did oral she tore the frenulum.(skin that joins the foreskin and head. It has happened before, but I feel like it shouldn't after 3 years of a relationship. It's to the point where I prefer to just whack it and go to bed.

I have talked to her about this multiple times through the years, and every time she acts as though I should be the grand master and showed her the "correct" way. I hit adequate pretty consistently but I know I'm no sex guru. I've tried my best to help her but she doesn't receive instruction very well.

I don't want to cheat but I can't help but feel sexually starved for the past long while. I haven't cheated and have no plans to, but I want to have a good partner. 

AITA for wanting her to excercise/workout  and overall put effort into becoming good/better at sex?

Ps. We don't argue needlessly and are a good couple otherwise. This is 1 of the top few issues we have.

