Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My best friend from college and I have been long distance for most of our friendship (since College, so for 10ish years now). We used to chat on the phone regularly but when I gave birth two years ago, this became increasingly hard for me and now we mostly chat through sporadic texts and Instagram private messages. If it matters, she is currently childless and gets sad about the fact that she is not married and doesn’t have kids yet.

I’ll admit that I was the asshole for a little - early motherhood has been more overwhelming for me than a lot of moms. My kid only started sleeping through the night last week (literally) and before that, I was up every 2-3 hours. So I was chronically sleep deprived, working a full-time job, and trying to keep my marriage stable and happy. I also had a bout of postpartum anxiety, where I obsessed over SIDS for most of my daughter’s first year. My goal was to keep my head above water while still being a good mom and partner.

Excuses made, when I had spare time or a moment to breathe, I mostly wanted to catch up on sleep or take a shower or just watch mindless TV. My long distance social connections (local folks were easier to get together with) became a low priority and I’m sure my friend felt that. She would try calling but I wouldn’t answer either because I was with baby, at work, with my husband, or rarely just decompressing. I tried texting but she’s not a big texter.

Now at nearly the two year mark, I can feel the clouds of early motherhood lifting. I have more energy, a greater sense of self, and I’m finally out of survival mode. I am however still not at a place where I can be spontaneous. My kid will yell and scream if I’m on the phone (very fun phase) and so I need to schedule long social calls ahead of time for when my husband, mom, or another babysitter can watch/distract her during evenings or weekends. She is still too young (developmentally) to be left alone in a room.

When I’ve asked my friend if we can schedule time (I’ve apologized for being MIA and said I wanted to catch up and make up for time lost), she always says sure but then won’t pick up when I call. Then she calls at a random time later and gets annoyed when I can’t talk then. She says scheduling calls is too regimented for her and she’d appreciate some flexibility on my end to show effort. 

AITA?