Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : This is really weighing on my shoulders and was hoping Reddit could help. Throwaway to maintain privacy. 

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Background: I'm in my mid/late 20's, haven't lived at home in 10 years, financially independent, great relationships with both parents who are friends but no longer together. 

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I have recently learned that I have to get a small surgery *on my face* to remove a growth. I have never had surgery before, never had local anesthesia and I'm terrified. I have told my parents that I am not scared. Tried the route of if I pretend I'm fine, I will be fine. 

My mother has been depressed lately, unsure of what she wants to do with her life, wants to move but does not know where. She up and left for a three week trip to Florida right after I got the news of my upcoming surgery and I took her car and our shared dog to babysit. 

It is now four days into her trip and she's booked a last minute flight back for my surgery against my wishes. I told her that I don't want her to come. If she does come, I requested she does not stay with me and does not come with me to surgery.

My reasons: 

\-She will make (and already has made) this into a bigger deal than it is, I'm already scared and it will make (and has made) me feel even more stressed out and scared than I have to be.   
\-Even just talking on the phone about it, she cries and makes me panic. Can't even imagine what it will be like in person.  
\-She will baby me and try to stop me from going to work, doing work, feeling like an adult or feeling brave at all.  
\-I have a small apartment, we share a bed when she visits, she sleeps in the middle with the dog, they push me off the bed and wake me up with her night terrors. I want to have a good night sleep before and after surgery.   
\-I want to be alone the nights before and after, stick to my morning routines, get work done, meditate and get myself in a good head space as best I can.   
\-I don't want her to cut her much needed vacation short for my sake. This is extra stress on me, making me feel guilty when I want to be focused on my health.   
\-My dad lives and works close to where my doctor is and will be able to pick me up so she is not logistically needed.

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But the flip side is, she is depressed. This is her moment to feel needed, like a mother, and I am denying her of that for my own reasons. I am letting her needs take the back seat to my mental state.   


So, AITA for not letting my mother be a mother? I feel like I am. But maybe I'm not?