Throwaway because my husband Reddits.

Neither my husband or I are neat freaks but I wouldn’t say we are total slobs either. There’s usually a bit of clutter on our dining room table and the bathroom may not be sparkling clean at all times, but it’s far from old food laying around or visible grime. I try to deep clean each room every couple weeks so it doesn’t get too bad. 

Anyways. My brother in law moved in with us a couple weeks ago. Nobody knows how long he is staying. Whatever, we have a guest room, it doesn’t cost us any extra to have him there until he can get back on his feet. A couple of days ago I flew home to see my parents and help them through a tough time. Important to note, before I left both my husband and I cleaned the house so his brother would be comfortable while I was gone. I thought it was looking pretty good.

Today my husband texted me that my BIL deep cleaned the house and now it looks great. My immediate reaction was to annoyance and embarrassment. I’m ashamed that a guest felt like they had to clean up after us and I’m kind of mad he just took it upon himself to clean up our house. I didn’t think it was that dirty. I told my husband to tell his brother thanks but then told him how I felt. He thought I was being ungrateful and unwilling to accept help. So reddit, am I the asshole here? I know his brother was probably only doing it to be nice but I am still upset that he spent hours scrubbing all our stuff. 

TL;DR: my brother in law cleaned my whole house, am I wrong to be unhappy that he did it?