Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So my boyfriend of 3 years has had this friend since he started university (six years ago or so). I’ll call him “Jeff”. 

I tried very hard to get along with Jeff from the get go, but it was hard. He has a lot of trouble with social situations and has a tendency to say things that rub people the wrong way. I think he also had issues with me because my bf was one of his only friends, and single with him. So when he started dating me, I think he felt like I was stealing him away. 

Anyway, we’ve had issues with him in the past kind of blowing up at me and other folks in the friend group for what feels like no reason. He often takes things said over text way wrong, and starts spiralling into those “everyone hates me” kind of tirades. Recently, he’s been inviting himself over to our apartment A LOT (without asking, just kind of stating that he’ll be coming over so tough shit if you had other things to do!) and I called him out on it none-too-nicely. I said he was frustrating me and he needed to ask first. 

I also made sure to say that I wouldn’t be telling him this if I didn’t want to be friends with him. But yeah, it backfired, and he tells me that it made him cry at his desk all day. So I apologize but I also say that I’m not going to sugarcoat my feelings when he’s bothering me, and that he deserves the truth. 

The next morning, he sends me a text threatening suicide or violence if I ever talk to him that way again. Literally says “it will always be a threat” if I make him feel that way again. Problem is, he works himself into those stupors, so I could literally say the most menial thing and he’ll freak out. 

I told him he needed professional help, and he starts texting my boyfriend about how he’s never gotten along with me and that I am making mountains out of molehills. I haven’t spoken to him since. 

I’ve dealt with this kind of victim shit before and I am not interested in going through it again. He’s obviously sick, but I don’t think I can change his mind and it’s stressing me the hell out. So am I an asshole for just saying screw this and letting him go? 