 

My uncle has lived with my grandmother for his whole life, not really helping in the household, and mostly just watching TV and drinking beer.

Every time me and my brother would visit grandma's house we would barely get a mumbled, grumpy hello from him, then be ignored. He honestly makes me uncomfortable.

A few weeks ago he fell and broke his hip, and he has been in the hospital, then a care facility ever since, because he has a muscle disease as well, and his mind is deteriorating. So far I have dodged visiting him, and today I found out from my dad (who regularly visits) that it makes him angry.

Does me not visiting make me an asshole?