Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My partner and I have been together approx 4 years. Her sister is 22, though my partner treats her like she is 17 (coddles her a lot!). For two Christmases and two birthdays, I have given her sister a gift. Really thoughtful gifts that I spent a lot of time considering, shopping around, trying to find something she would really like. First Christmas I didn’t receive anything back, which is whatever. Second Christmas (and birthdays) I also didn’t receive anything back, which felt kinda bad. 

This Christmas I just didn’t buy anything. Though I understand the point of giving a gift is not to receive one back, it just feels super shitty that I spend all of this time thinking about her sisters likes/hobbies/tastes, and she doesn’t offer even a token gesture back. Like I’d be happy with a keychain - at least some thought was there. 

Additionally she’s never even thanked me for gifts. I have to send gifts with my partner as we spend Christmas separately. If I get a gift from someone who isn’t present, I will immediately message them with thanks and occasionally a photo of the item or the item in use. Idk, just seems polite. But I haven’t had that courtesy back - she just takes the gift and says nothing to me about it. 

I’m unsure whether this makes me the asshole or not. I feel like my partner thinks I’m a little bit of an asshole but hasn’t told me to get anything, and seems to understand on some level my reasoning of it just feeling shit to not be a thought. I did get gifts for my partners parents, as they began to reciprocate last Christmas. 

AITA? 