Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So a lot of people are probably going to knee-jerk react based on the title and say YTA but please hear me out!

Three weeks ago I was hanging out at a friend’s house with my friend (HS) and his wife (LA). Both are longtime friends of mine. We were just hanging out, playing video games all that good stuff and we got on the topic of why I don’t currently have a girlfriend. When I was in my 20’s I had a two long term relationships, and after they ended I decided to take a break from being in a relationship (for my own sanity and because I didn’t want to hurt anyone else). I’m in my early 30’s now and still single, although I’ve done some dating but nothing serious.
 
Anyways, this seems to bother my friends that I have little interest in a relationship (I’m always being told that that I should get a girlfriend). They both know my reasons/history for not getting back into the dating game but they are determined to “help me” find someone, always trying to introduce me to friends of theirs ect, ect. 

So when HS, LA and I were hanging out and talking about this, they asked me if next time we got together they invited a friend of theirs over to hang out with us, with the primary goal of introducing us. Let’s call her TP. I say sure why not, I figure it’s been a long time and I feel emotionally ready/stable to have a serious relationship again. I tell them sure I’ll meet her.

Fast forward to last weekend, same scenario – hanging out chillin’ playing games except their friend TP is there. She’s nice enough, kinda loud but also really funny and we have some stuff in common. Pretty cool hanging out with her, no problems with her at all.

So as the hangout wraps up, TP says her goodbyes and leaves, I stay a little while longer to chat with HS and LA. They ask me what I thought…I said she was pretty cool but I’m not really interested in pursuing a romantic relationship/dating.. HS doesn’t push the issue (he already knows why) but LA won’t stop asking me why saying we seemed to hit it off… I was being evasive because I knew where this was going and I didn’t want to upset anyone but she was relentless in asking why and eventually said “is it because TP is fat?” (her words not mine). And I finally relent and say yes, that I think she’s a good person and seems nice but I can’t enter a relationship with someone that I’m not physically attracted to. It just wouldn’t end well and would be really unfair to both of us.

LA loses her shit and starts calling me a huge asshole/shallow and all that. Am I? I genuinely feel bad about this whole situation but I’m also going to stick to my guns on this one… being physically intimate in a relationship is important to me and if I’m not attracted to her how is it fair to both of us for me to lie about it?

AITA?
