Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : To preface, I have a good relationship with my dad generally. My parents divorced when I was young, and I'm a lot closer to my mom, but he's always been involved in my life.

He got sober (drugs &amp; alcohol) when I was around 10. Recently he had a hard time (divorced my stepmom) and relapsed, this time with gambling etc. He's always been very needy and relies on me emotionally a lot, and as he works on building his sobriety back up he's been doing this a lot more.

I have a lot going on personally and I'm already really drained by this. He keeps apologizing to me and I appreciate it, but at a certain point it feels like he's apologizing just to apologize so he can keep doing what he wants. The other day I said, "Dad I love you, but I can't talk about this anymore. I need you to talk to your sponsor or a friend." He was very hurt by this and said I'm cherry-picking our relationship, which made me feel terrible. 

I know he's lonely right now, and my other siblings are kind of selfish. I'm old enough now that we can talk about this stuff, I just hate feeling obligated to at the expense of our relationship.