Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : So, I used the term "if there was a gun to your head / pointed at you" when trying to get my fiance's 9 year old to choose between whether or not he wanted / liked something. He was very much on the fence and we were both struggling to get a solid answer out of him. 

We've been together for 3.5 years and I have taken a very active role in his life, been living with them for almost 3 years now, but my "parenting" has really come under fire recently (as it has for spurts other times as well). I know that it was NOT the best way to handle this. I immediately apologized to her and said that I knew I shouldn't have said it, but it's still upsetting her... A lot. 

He did answer our question, and doesn't seem to be even remotely affected by me saying it, but I am still hardcore in the dog house. It doesn't seem like there's anything I can do to make it better, although I am more than willing to.

Am I the asshole, or did I just make a forgivable mistake? 