We've been together for almost 2 years. She's 23 and I'm 24 now. We had great compatibility in the sense that we could handle decision making and disagreements maturely while also being silly and adventurous together. Soulmate material, right? Unfortunately, throughout the 2 years, we never had penetrative sex.

In the first few months of us dating, she tried to have an IUD insertion, but it was unsuccessful. We figured that it was one of those common situations where a woman that never had sex needs time for her vagina to adjust to penetration so that the pain can go away over time.

She was still in university while I've graduated a year ago. We would go on dates almost every weekend, but often didn't have the opportunity to engage in anything sexual because we would end up at her parents' house, so the most we could sneak in is a makeout session. I honestly didn't mind all of this that much, she was my first girlfriend and our relationship was mostly great otherwise. Sure, I had a healthy libido, but I could take care of myself. During that first year, we also had problems with finding the right condoms so that delayed things further. We were having outercourse when we had a place to ourselves, however rarely.

In year 2, she moved in with me for the second half of it, and that's where we could really start to make consistent progress since we would be at each other's disposal almost every day!... minus the period weeks, and minus when she just didn't feel like it since her libido was much lower than mine. She tried to practice self penetration with fingers and a small dildo. She made some progress in being able to fit things in a few inches without it being super painful. It wasn't really enough for sex though. She thought she might have endometriosis, so she went to her doctor. The visits, which were spread over a few months due to how busy her doctor was, didn't result in anything conclusive.

After a year and a half of being patient, I was starting to lose that patience. I didn't see any hopeful signs that we would be able to have sex anytime soon. I also felt like she wasn't prioritizing this problem enough by escalating her doctor visits and seeing more specialists. She was busy and stressed with finishing up school, dealing with her family, and then looking for a job. I empathized with that, so I kept giving her more time. Eventually, close to the end of year 2, we had one of our many "heart-to-heart" conversations where we discussed our situation and how she feels that she is holding me back from experiencing a "normal" relationship where the couple can have "normal" sex. I also expressed that I'm running out of patience and just don't see an end to this struggle in our near future. We both agreed that she should move back in with her parents at the end of the month and that we should break up, but remain friends.