I try my best to be aware of how I’m coming off when chiming in on conversations but I’ve had people tell me it’s annoying sometimes, or that I’ll over explain details at times and it ruins the conversation. I’ve even been accused of “mansplaining” when all I’m trying to do is add information I’ve gained through research to the discussion.  I don’t hear it all the time but I don’t really want to offend anyone. I feel like either I have to sit out and not add to the conversation like a bump on the log or that I might be misunderstood when I do chime in.  

The most recent example I can think of is when a couple of my friends got together with our girlfriends and we somehow got on the subject of genetics. I got excited because I’m a 4th year bio/chem major that plans on going into a masters or higher in the medical field. I’m not a PhD but I have at least some credible knowledge on the topic. My friend’s girlfriend was talking about something she read online about genes that wasn’t entirely accurate or inaccurate and I filled in the gaps of why it didn’t work the way she understood it too.  It got a little heated because she was vehemently defending this article she read when from what I can tell they weren’t going real in-depth because it was meant for the layperson. She was offended and thought I was just telling her she was wrong and then accused me of mansplaining when really I was just trying to help since she herself said she was a little confused before I chimed in. 

I mean I guess I could have just tried to be polite and gave in and said it worked the way she thought it did for the sake of the group but then the group would have been misinformed.

My girlfriend calls me Wikipedia btw and she thinks it’s cute and actually refers to me for info all the time so maybe I’m just overthinking it.

AITA???
