Husband and I are both in our early thirties and fortunate enough to be in a financially comfortable place where we can quit our jobs in the next year. My husband works 12 hour shifts, 4 days a week and I work a regular 9-5. I recently sold some intellectual property and made mid-7 figures off of it. This puts in a place where we can pay off the remainder of our mortgage and live comfortably off the rest for quite a while. 

Right now, because of my husbands long hours and stressful job, he plays video games for hours on end as stress relief. I understand this, and it is sometimes mildly annoying when I would prefer we do interactive stuff together, but I understand the comfort he gets from it. My fear though is that when we both quit, he will just sit at home and play video games all day. I don't want to be an asshole and call all the shots because it was "my money" that is helping us retire, but at the same time, I want both of us to lead active lives so that we can live long and be healthy long into our retirement. 

I plan on taking up a bunch of home projects in the first couple years, maybe going back to school, and continuing to work on projects similar to the one I sold. I've asked my husband what he wants to do and he said he just wants to relax after 15+ years in the work force. So, I want to tell him that he has to have a plan for retirement before quitting, is this fair? 