I live with my phone on 'Do Not Disturb' for numerous reason. The other day I notice that I've had about four missed calls from my flatmate (lets call her Sarah) and a message asking 'Are you in?'.  So, I message her back asking what's up - theres no reply after so I put my phone back down. 

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About an hour later, my other flatmate finds me in the kitchen and starts to shout at me because "Sarah has been locked outside in the cold for an hour!". Obviously, at first I felt really bad thinking she had forgotten her key. However it soon transpired that she had returned to the apartment with far too much equipment (we're film students and often book out loads of stuff for shoots) to carry herself and didn't want to abandon anything to make trips. 

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After hearing this I tried to argue that Sarah's choice to be dropped off outside with all the equipment has nothing to with me.  She hadn't planned for me to help previously and as aforementioned, she didn't even know if I was home. Meaning she probably knew while getting dropped off that she might be stuck outside for an hour. Why didn't whoever helped her carry it to the flat also help her get it upstairs? 

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If I had known of course I would've helped her. 

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So, I walked into the kitchen the next day to find them talking about me and we all proceed to have a big old argument about it all and we haven't spoken since.

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Am I the asshole?

 