My mother has had ALS for 15 years, and most of the care for her was done by me and my dad. Recently, however, my dad was arrested for abuse and he has completely left our household. We had a hard time with that whole ordeal but now we have quality care for her where all I do now is having to be in the house during sleeping hours so she doesn't suffocate in her sleep or anything. This also means that I put her to bed every night with the exception of when I go out and ask a caregiver to do it. Every night I put her to bed (around 10:15 PM) we always talk about something, usually about my college and work. Over the years it has usually been fine, because before I got a job I was fine with five hours of sleep at night before I went to school. Now though there doesn't seem to be anything worth talking about right at night time that we cant talk about any other time, and I really value my sleep especially since I have sleeping issues. Now I end up trying to get out of our conversation so I can go to bed but she always calls me back and tries to bring the subject back up and I get heated. The most recent discussion I tried to get out of I tried talking about my dad leaving and how if we don't have a stable way to take care of her for the long term, she would have to go to a home. This wasn't anything new and it was a branch from me talking about the good things my dad did for her, because she thought he didn't do anything good for us. I just don't know what the right call is to make because I don't want to talk to her at night time. I honestly just want to sleep but she always gets on me about things that I don't want to talk about like my relationships and what I talk to my friends about. I end up arguing with her almost every night and she ends up crying most of the time, but I don't feel bad for it because I feel like I should be able to talk to my mom about how I feel about things. 