Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So I made this throwaway account to ask this since my bf uses reddit sometimes. I'll try to make it short. 

This morning we made plans to meal prep and then workout so I got to his place before stores opened to avoid rush hour traffic. We talk for a few minutes in his bedroom about me leaving in the afternoon and we might as well workout now then meal prep after. As we start to leave he spends 20 min in the bathroom which is fine no big deal then he makes a smooothie. He makes one every mornign so I'm just waiting on the couch. Then I see him start to empty the trash bin to throw it away. I say with some attitude, "What are you doing?" and he says "Throwing out the trash, its full". It really was flowing out as there was another bag of trash next to it already but I didnt see the point of him start to clean as we were about to leave. This is where I give him attidude and say, "Don't do that" and "You're wasting time". And this is when he snaps at me and loudly says, "I feel like you're trying to control my life right now" and other sentences about why he cant throw the trash away if its full. I tell him beacause his apartment is already mostly messy and dirty and throwing the trash away when we are leaving and I have a set time to leave wont make a difference. As I'm saying this without even raising my voice he loudly says, "CALM DOWN" four times at me and to stop talking. So I do and we move on with the day. 

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Now he does admit that his place is mostly dirty and that he is starting new daily clean habits to change it. Anyways later in the day its brought up again because I dont feel he should've snapped like that. The exact morning as I got to his place he rushed me in and was rude when I took two stops becase I have a broken toe and I took a second to allow him to unlock the door. I mentioned he can be just as rude sometimes and say rude remarks with attitude and I never escalate the sitaution or get loud or anything. I just ignore it and move on so I expect the same from him. He says that he NEVER wants any attitude at all directed towards him and if he ever gives me attitude again I should call him out on it instead of saying nothing. I feel thats impossible to never give even a little attitude when I dont see it as anything personal. I told him he should act the same way I do instead of always giving attitude back. So reddit am I the asshole thinking its impossible to never give attitude? 