Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : Firstly, I'm very new to this sub, so please let me know if I'm breaking any rules or leaving anything important out.

Kinda long backstory that I apologize for, but I think is all relevant:

It's my first semester ever at college, and I meet this really awesome guy named Tyler. We end up spending nearly all of our free time together but, unlike me Tyler is an out of state student. Eventually, I learn he wouldn't be able to go home nearly all year because of how expensive airfare was. Naturally, as we become closer friends, I get the idea to invite him to my house for spring break because 1) that sounded awesome 2) why the hell not?

Fast forward, and my relationship with my high school friends that also go to this college is kind of collapsing. I always knew all of us were going to try and make our own lives in college, but they were also the people I had such deep relationships with for four years. And now they were now blowing off plans and and just getting so distant so fast. This set me off on the horrible idea of uninviting Tyler, because I desperately needed my home to feel like home, and as great as Tyler was, that just wouldn't be completely authentic with him there.

Unfortunately, I've been going back and forth on this for so long, by now it's like three days before everybody leaves for break. I go knock on his door and muster my courage to tell him. Unfortunately, its not until it's too late that I remember him saying a few days ago that he's also been missing his home a lot more than he expected, but he can't even talk to his parents about it because he doesn't want them to know how hard it's hitting him.

But again, the deed is done, and he even gives me an out. He says he gets what I'm feeling and while he obviously would prefer to go with me, he's not going to force the decision if I obviously feel uncomfortable with it.

To come to the present, this is where it gets kind of brutal. The first time we meet up after break, I can tell the energy just isn't there. He then tells me that his break was really, really horrible. There were definitely more awful experiences, but in summary, for the first week or so, he stopped regularly eating and sleeping, and pretty much didn't leave his bed all day. He also had a panic attack and kind of an overall depressive episode over being so homesick and very much alone for two weeks.

Obviously in hindsight, I would've never uninvited him or taken his out, had I known how awful his break would've been, but I had to prioritize myself at the time.

Am I the asshole?