Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I’m a high school senior who’s been involved in band for all four years of high school. I’ve been in numerous honor bands and am lead trombone of our jazz band.

My band director is putting together a new ensemble for the more musically talented students. This ensemble would be playing very challenging music, with most practicing being independent.

I am currently also involved in jazz band, pep band (playing at our school basketball games), drama, bowling, and preparing for college (applying for scholarships). I am also practicing for an audition for a music scholarship and working a part-time job. 

As such, I already have a lot on my plate. I also suffer from anxiety, so too much stress will have some negative results, so I told my director I didn’t have time to practice a whole new set of music, and that I couldn’t participate.

She said that if even one person did not want to participate, then the ensemble would not happen and no one could participate. 

I plan on still saying no on Monday morning, as I will not have time to add another commitment into my schedule. Another one of my friends is also saying no, so I won’t be alone in my decision, but I still feel slightly bad for costing others this opportunity. 

So would I be the asshole?