Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My friend (24f) and I (24m), who also work together, had been sleeping together and hanging out a lot over the past 4 months and had become extremely close as we both went through tough times (family illness etc). We were both two total pillars of support for each other and talked constantly. Due to circumstances of working together, not having enough time and effectively the timing not being right, we were not in an official relationship and over Christmas because of the nature of our work (hospitality) we had no private time together but kept talking. Now we are in the new year she has made a commitment to herself, to do things more for herself and not to count too much leaning on other people, which is something I support her doing. I've found out this means we aren't sleeping together, which sucks but I can get over, and that we aren't going to see each other outside of work really much or at all. She did mention to me she was going to be looking after herself more but I just feel totally cut out.

 I should be leaving for another job soon and having brought this up with her she said that while concentrating on herself, with me leaving we were bound to see less of each other anyway, but that we are still good friends but it may just be like this for a while. When I said I felt like I had been just cut out of her life she explained that she felt she got too attached during a time when she was dealing with a lot and now she is trying to rely on herself and not other people. I almost feel like just another person at work to her now, it's made me feel like our relationship was cheap because of what she was going through and that I'm disposable.

Should she have explained to me how this new year would affect our relationship?
Should I be feeling this cut-out and cheap?
Should I be more understanding of her wanting to concentrate on herself?
Should I stop talking to her, see if she comes back to me? (Too Passive?)

AITA? (Also any advice appreciated! )