I am a FTM to an infant who is kind of high maintenance (minor medical issues). My husband recently started a new high-stress job. Since then, he has been refusing to help with anything around the house. I don't just mean chores. He won't go to the store and buy his own deodorant, he won't clean up when he spills salsa on a rug/table, he won't pick up take-out on the way home from work and he won't take care of the baby. He is being treated for depression. This is just to let you know I am really overwhelmed because everything household-related is my responsibility - from cooking, cleaning, taxes, yard work, bill paying, to household repairs, etc. We don't have any family around. He agreed that we should get a weekly housekeeper...that way I can cut the cleaning portion of my load to 1-2 hours a day.

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We hired a housekeeper and she worked out great for awhile. She would stay 2-3 hours and charged $150 (with assistant). The first time I left her alone in the house, she basically left as soon as I was gone...staying a total of 50 min. The floors were not mopped, the carpets were not vacuumed and she left all the trash by the back door and didn't put it in the bins (and she didn't tell me, so it wasn't collected the next morning). When I told her all this, she apologized and went back to doing a good job...however, she started staying less and less time. One day, she was here for only 75 min. Things were undone.  So I asked her as nicely as I could -- "I notice you seemed rushed yesterday. Is there a time that would work better for you to come clean?" She said she wasn't rushed and she had done a good job. I pointed out the time (verified with the security log) and that her effective rate was $120/hour if she only stays 1.25 hours. She apologized. The next week, she stayed exactly 2 hours and then quit. She said that she is having surgery in 3 weeks (I don't know if this is true, she was smiling when she said it) and didn't think that her assistants could clean up to my standards. I was really surprised she quit. AITA?

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I ask especially because we had a previous housekeeper who had similar problems. She would come when I was at work and, when I got home, things were left completely undone (dishes in sink, etc.) Security logs would show her coming for less than an hour, but when I brought it up with her she would lie and say she was here for 2 hours but my place was too messy for her and her assistant to clean in 2 hours.

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Now, we have had a replacement housekeeper for 2 weeks. She is just one person. The first week she stayed 3.5 hours. Yesterday, she stayed less than 2. That means her effective rate is $75/hour. I feel like 1) if my house could be cleaned in less than 2 hours, I wouldn't need a housekeeper. 2) If it really can be cleaned in less than 2 hours, I am happy to provide more work like cleaning out the fridge or folding laundry.  Am I just an asshole?