Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : First time posting because this blew up in my face with my parents so please bear with me. So tu set up things, my relationship with my parents has not been great since i was a teenager, i have always been very independent and started drifting away from catholicism (which my parents are, devoutly), i also have a very introvert personality and not very talkative. So that has always been a big difference between us that makes our relationship complicated. 

Back to present day, i am living in Europe while i do my masters and my bf lives in my hometown (america) while he does his phd. Of course LDRs suck and we have agreed to visit each other every two months if financially possible. I went to visit him mid February and stayed at my parents place, did all the obligatory family and extended family visits but it was only for a week so i wanted to spend as much time as possible with my bf. Now that it is his turn he tells me his budget will not let him travel which means 6 months without seeing each other. 

Now, i have a bit more money and it turns out that he has a holiday week which aligns to my exams and class schedule perfectly so i don’t miss anything. This also aligns to the week when my family will take a trip out of town. I decide to surprise him buying a plane ticket and booking a place near the university he works at knowing that my family locks the house down when leaving town.

This happened two weeks ago, i tell my bf after two days and my parents call at the 7th day and ask me about the charge in my account ( they have access to it, for reasons that don’t really matter for this situation). I proceed to tell them my plans and they take it as a major offense that i am going when they are not in town and that i decided to book a place to stay instead of staying in their place. They haven’t spoken to me in a week and now i get a long message from my mom saying she is disappointed and hurt and thinks i did it on purpose to hurt /avoid them.

I want to know your opinion reddit, AITA?