AITA?
So I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years, he's cheated on me physically twice, and sexted several hundred women since we got together. I promised like 1 year ago not to snoop through his phone anymore (I know, I'm the asshole there, but it's the only way I ever figured out anything was happening), but recently, he's been doing weird shit with his phone. He hides his passcode from me, and when he thinks I've seen it, he changes it again like immediately. This has happened literally like 3 times in one day. I wasn't interested in looking (as per my promise) but now that he's doing that, it definitely raises a red flag or 5.

So, like a normal adult, I asked him if he could show me my phone because of the weird stuff he's been doing, just to make me feel better, and he just told me straight up "no". He explained that he isn't doing anything (which anyone would say whether they were cheating or not, and he HAS lied in the past) and that it just makes him uncomfortable. I tried for several minutes and even had some waterworks and still, not allowed to see it.


Now, the internet will tell me that "privacy is important and the fact that you stayed with him after all of this means that you trust him and that you have no right to look in his phone because you already decided to trust him", but like...I still think I have the right to see what he's doing. I have the right to ask, and I have the right to be upset that he won't show me. I'm his partner and I don't give a fuck if he looks at my phone, I have nothing to hide.

Am I the asshole?