Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So a little bit of context. Me and my mother were born in England but her parents (my grandparents) were Pakistani immigrants. About 5 years ago, my grandfather sadly passed away and we held the funeral in the UK where he lived for the past 60 years and that was very hard on my mother who loved him a lot. 

There’s a Muslim tradition that I’m not 100% familiar with since I don’t follow Islam anymore where the deceased has a funeral event every year in their home which happens to be Pakistan. I went Pakistan 2 years after he passed and hated the experience. The country itself wasn’t really the problem it was just me. I couldn’t speak the language, I got badly sick the whole 2 weeks and the power outages made days feel like a hot hell.

Now my mother who held off for a couple of years to go again is saying she wants to attend her fathers funeral this year and she can only go if I come with her because she doesn’t want to go alone. I immediately felt guilty because I don’t want her to go alone and I don’t want her to not go at all all because of me, but at the same time, my mind is set that I’m not going back. I told her I don’t think I want to go and she’s been upset with me that she’s not able to go then.

I tried to compromise that I am willing to go for a week but if it’s longer than I can’t do it and she says we can’t go for less than 2 so I said then I’m not going.

I’m willing to do anything for my mother but I had such a hard time going there and when I came back I never wanted to go back again (absolutely not the country’s fault). 

AITA for not allowing my mother not to go to my grandfathers funeral because I’m not willing to go to Pakistan with her? I feel awful because we all loved him but my mind just keeps strongly stopping me every time I try to think about braving it.