Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Background; my friend, one other person, and I are in a group chat where we talk rather consistently every day. The friend in question and I have been friends for around three years, and have talked pretty much every day for around two. She is, however, recently went totally silent in the chat for around a week and a half. During that time, I’ve had multiple really shitty things happen that I would have really liked someone to empathize with me or at least acknowledge me in any way, including my dog regrowing lumps in areas where she’d had cancer, getting them removed, and then going to the animal hospital a day later because she scratched the stitches out, and a call from a debt collector saying that my father who left home (and subsequently died) owed 7,000 dollars to a credit card company, and that it now falls on my family to pay it, etc. etc. I posted all these things in the chat, because I would have liked some kind of outreach of support, as, I think, friends ought to do for one another. The friend in question has been online fairly frequently (around once every 15 minutes for a few minutes whenever she isn’t at work), and has read everything I’ve posted, and said nothing. I wasn’t incessantly spamming these messages, but just went over what happened. This was included with a few messages I sent her in dms, like wishing her a happy Thanksgiving, that were also read but unresponded to. I checked in on her to question what was going on, because I felt a bit abandoned.  
The sides:  
Her side: She says, that very basically, she hasn’t felt up to talking. That sometimes, she loses pretty much all of her emotional energy, and closes herself off to everyone but her and her immediate family, and that we’ve talked about this before, and it just hasn’t come up this way, and that I was acting rather dramatically by coming to her about it, given that we’ve established that she can be (or just is) very emotionally unavailable. That she’s here for me in case of emergencies, but that she spends basically all of her energy on trying to fix her life and maintaining her relationships with her family, and doesn’t have the energy to check in on friends or reach out when she knows they’re not having an easy time. She likened it to a person feeling unable to get out of bed in the morning or take showers when suffering from a depressive episode. Additionally, she finds that the conversation lacked any purpose or solvency, because I can’t change the way I feel about her doing that, and she can’t change the fact that she just doesn’t have the emotional investment to be there.   
My side:  
My side basically boils down to that I never asked her to have an entire conversation with me or pour over every detail of what was going on in my life, but that after being friends for as long as we have, it felt very shitty for her to say she lacked any emotional energy whatsoever to leave me on read while she was very consistently online while I very evidently would have just liked a “that sucks, I’m sorry,” or “that sounds difficult.”   
I acknowledge that, even though usually we talk every day, sometimes she just isn’t up for it. And that generally, she’s a very emotionally unavailable person to people outside of her family. But I think that claiming that a word of encouragement for a friend, or maybe a reciprocation of well-wishes (as in happy Thanksgiving), takes so much emotional energy that she just can’t do it, is dramatic at best, and seems rather selfish or fickle at worst. I suggested to her that, the same way that many depressed people find cognitive strategies to at least go through the motions of a normal day, her emotional unavailability may not lack the solvency that she says it does, and that much of it may be her own thought processes. Which, again, isn’t to say that she owes me the energy to hold conversations every day or anything, but that at the point where she closes herself off for now weeks at a time, where she can’t find the energy to extend any sort of sympathy toward anything that was going on, it becomes a barrier to the friendship where I don’t feel as though she’s trying to show she cares.  
After around a three hour conversation on the topic, we both went silent and haven’t said anything since. I’d like to know if I’m the one in the wrong here, because I’d like to repair things between us as soon as possible. So, AITA? 