My son has had behavioral problems since he started school and had a really bad kindergarten experience.

For 1st grade we decided to put him in a Lutheran private school. My husband, kids, and MIL and FIL are all members of the church that runs it. We were told, before enrolling him, that the school "specialized" in kids with special needs of all kinds and each student had curriculum based on the needs, strengths, and weakness of the student.

The classes are 1-4 all with the same teacher and 5-8 with a different one. Class size averaged about 6 students in his. From the start it seemed to go badly. The teacher called AT LEAST once a week asking if I can pick him up, most often because he would sit at his desk and refuse to do work. I often had do have him do all his work at home. 

In his 2nd year there things got worse, and after A LOT of pressure we agreed to put him on ADD medication. This led to him not eating and being angry a lot, often crying at school until I had to pick him up anyway.

We thought about taking him out but when we brought it up they convinced us that would be the worst thing we could do and they have several methods to work with him and tons of experience.

In 3rd grade we decided the meds made him miserable and we took him off. The relationship with him and his teacher became even worse and SHE would call me crying asking for help. We moved him to the older kids classroom when she refused to teach him but then he had zero instruction and his grades started falling.

I could take it anymore. He was so sad all the time and felt rejected. I felt like the school was bullying him. I pulled him and put him in public school and amazingly he is flourishing and the teacher says he DOESN'T have behavioral problems, he's just a boy. 

That made me feel awful because now I feel that the teachers needs were put in front of my son's.

After he left, my family was so distraught they stopped attending services and the church or pastor made no attempt to reach out to them.

Until recently. Apparently my son's teacher had a mental break down after he left at some point and quit. They apparently can't replace her. One day out of the blue the pastor goes to my MILs and offered her the job and she accepted (she's a retired teacher).

I feel the school put my son through hell and  didn't care. AITA for feeling like my MIL betrayed the family?