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Since teenage years, I have always struggled with my relationship with my parents. The maintenance of a relationship and most interactions with them are almost certain to be negative and stressful, which takes a huge toll mentally. I have been in a happy and stable relationship for 18+ months now, with someone I had known 2 years prior. Parents met him 12 months ago but did not embrace him anywhere near close to how they embraced past SO’s. Fast forward a few months &amp; we are getting nowhere with them &amp; it is taking a huge toll on me mentally. SO struggling too from the perspective of he can see first-hand the affect it was having on me. We both tried to speak to parents about it on numerous occasions and work out a solution, to which they fiercely rejected all. The only solution they’re willing to work with was to only have a relationship with me &amp; were happy to make me live two life streams – one as a partner to SO and one as a daughter to them. From that point, I decided to cut them out and get on with building a life with SO - rather than work on what I felt like was a brick wall with my folks.
 
I started speaking to them just over a month ago, shortly after SO &amp; I found out we were 7 weeks pregnant. Given our history with them, we deliberated whether to tell them early. Finally we decided to tell them early, as figured they would be resentful later down the road if we didn’t. They live in a different time-zone, so I chose email to share the news with them. Admittedly my email was very formal as I chose not to put any emotion into it for all the above reasons. Father replied “Don’t contact me directly anymore, do it through your mother or siblings. I can do without your drama. Good luck in your endeavours and hope things work out the way you think they will.” Mother shortly replied in the more excited fashion which opened up a dialogue between us – she even started whatsapping SO!
Things chug along okay with mother, with me and SO keeping her updated on baby progress via email and whatsapp. Late last week, she shares that she and father wish to visit and spend some time with SO &amp; I before baby arrives &amp; wish to visit it Feb. This seemed very odd to me as Father has not spoken to me since his ‘do not contact email’. SO and I agree to the visit but I ask them to find alternative accommodation – as I do not want my father in my house after his hurtful reaction &amp; behaviour in all of this. This opens up a can of worms, one thing leads to another and mother is upset I won’t ‘just forgive’ my father or let them (him) stay and cannot understand why I am confused that he wants to see me. I’ve literally spelled it out that until father pulls out of his denial and addresses his appalling reaction to my pregnancy, he doesn’t get to play a part in it – child born or not. Mother is very excited and ‘makes the effort on behalf of her father’ she has expressed father is excited and happy – but I have had no contact from him in this regard.
SO and I do talk about how it would work if I decided I wanted to cut all ties with them again and I have not replied to any further correspondence from mother.
 
 
AITA 1 – For not ‘just forgiving’ my father and moving on?
AITA 2 – If I do decide not to have anything to do with them, even after the baby arrives?
AITA 3 – Am I unfairly punishing mother for father’s denial?
AITA 4 – for anything else here?
 
Sincerely,
Confused &amp; Hormonally Baby-Brained.
 
 
 