Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly 4 years. I have helped her out a hell of a lot as she was having a hard time with her family, work, and friends. It was causing her a lot of stress.

During this time, she seemed to basically invent problems for herself, constantly operating at very high emotion, as if the latest 'thing' was a complete catastrophe and she would then decide to just give up and not try with anything, until the issue was either resolved on its own or was fixed by me. These problems are mostly of her own making

We talked by this, as I eventually couldn't really cope with it anymore (my friends started getting very worried about me being depressed) and it got us both down even though there wasn't really much 'bad' going on in either of our lives. She said she didn't realise she did this at all, and that she was just making normal conversation etc. and would try to be a bit calmer.

I wasn't expecting a major difference, but there's not really been much of a difference at all. When she texts/talks to me now with a new 'thing' followed by the usual stuff she sends like 'i give up' etc. I just ignore it and let her be upset with me, because she is going to be upset anyway and there's nothing I can do about it, so at least then it doesn't effect me quite as much.

Does that make me an asshole?