 

Burner for reasons

The  title pretty much speaks for itself. I was married for about a year  when i realized that my marriage wouldn't work out long term we just had  different outlooks on life. She wanted kids. and well I did not. She  expected me to get proper schooling and i never wanted that. There were  more things that were expected of each of us that the other never  wanted. and sadly to say we had a lot that we enjoyed doing in the  moment in life in general. it was just the future we could never agree  on.

At a year in we had a fight about  kids (and I am the type of person that likes to think and plan  everything i can out so I am not hurt or surprised by outcomes). after  this fight i sat down on the couch and thought about what i was going to  do if she left me and i realized i couldn't do anything the job i was  in was promising but i just wasn't in a position where i could afford to  live on my own. So i decided that I would try my best to make our  marriage work but never lie to her. i always showed my disinterest in  kids never said i would do or have any interest in any of the things she  expected of me. Along the way i also stopped expecting things of her  knowing it would not work out.

Then it  finally came I was promoted given a good salary. Boom finally i could  afford to move on with my life. soon i filed for divorce and here I am  finished with the divorce and after having a discussion with a friend  telling him this then being called an asshole. So i extend the question  to you Am I the Asshole?