Ok, So I met this girl at college and we became friends and I eventually developed feelings for her due to her humour and how often we would text and call, and work together in class. I confessed how I felt and was shot down and agreed to just be friends but now looking back I've realised how little I actually contributed and when I did I would be ignored or dismissed if she didn't think it was particularly important and previously on call she would say I only call you for the "background noise" and to not feel alone when she's at home but as soon as someone else texts her or her brother comes in she's quick to ignore the fact we're on a phone call so I don't feel like I'm valued as a friend and more as just someone she can call when she's bored of everyone else or no one else wants to talk to her. She's admitted before that she's a flirt and does so for attention claiming it's due to her Freudian personality and admittedly she's not the most attractive girl about average but I still liked her for her personality. Anyway, so I've been trying to get over my feelings for her so we can be friends and so I don't end up hurt when she eventually gets with someone and so I don't end up a bitter and hurt about being in the "friend zone". So, I've been purposefully ignoring and avoiding her whenever she sends one of her vague messages ( she keeps her messages vague and unpersonal so she can send them to more people and start more conversations with people) and told her when she texts me that I don't want to talk right now, but then she claims that I'm being a dickhead for not talking to her, I'm not sure if I'm acting like an asshole for trying to get over my feelings for her or if she's mad cause she's not getting my attention. I suppose on her side it seems like she's rejected me and I'm being salty about it but I've been cool with her after the rejection and talked to her since then but recently I realized I'm still not over her when I got stupidly jealous when she went to a mutual friends party where she admitted the mutual friend had been trying to flirt with her that night, although admittedly he was drunk. She tried calling me a few times tonight so I answered asking what she wanted to which she said she wanted the background noise and then didn't talk so I hung up saying if it wasn't important. She's called me a twat and a dickhead for not talking to her but previously we only talk about things she wants to talk about and I don't feel valued as a friend and more as a backup considering I held her in a high regard. I'm happy to talk to her once I get over my feelings for her but I don't want to explicitly tell her that cause she's already said that "everybody already knows I rejected you"I don't know whether it was a joke but that still hurt as well. So Am I The Asshole for not talking to/ignoring someone?