Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I was seeing this guy in college for a little over a year. At the end of my senior year i let him believe I was going to grad school in a different city. 

When we met it was at at a bar one night. We hit it off pretty well and we started hanging out a lot after. It started off as just to have sex but then I started coming over so we could just hang out. We’d go out for lunch and do little stuff together but it was still strictly a FWB thing. 

Then summer break happened and I didn’t see him for 3 months. We didn’t really stay in contact we just snapped each other and towards the end of the break we started to face time more. When we got back to school we immediately picked up where we left off. 

Things progressed and the relationship got more serious. But then he told me he had sex with someone else. I was hurt but we never talked about being exclusive. It wasn’t agreed but still out of respect and cause I didn’t really want to I never hooked up with anyone else. Still I forgave him and continued to see him. We agreed that moving forward we would be exclusive.

I wondered why we weren’t officially a couple when he told me that since he aren’t of the same religion he’s scared to take me home to his family. Doesn’t mean he won’t ever but he says as of right now he’s only comfortable with his friends and sister knowing about me and that we hang out a lot. 

This didn’t sit that well with me cause I was worried that maybe that was an excuse and he really just didn’t want to make it official with me cause he knew we probably didn’t have a future together. But I enjoyed spending time with him. He had become a great friend and I didn’t wanna let that go yet. 

Well he told me that he was planning on staying in the same city to complete his undergrad. I told him that I thought I was gonna go to a different city. And for a while I felt that way. I told friends and family that I was planning on going to the school in the different city. Then last minute I changed my mind and I told everyone but him. 

So the past few months we have been in the same city and he didn’t know. We are 15 minutes from each other.  I ran into his friend on campus and I know he told him I was in town because now he won’t stop calling me. 

So before I talk to him I guess I wanna know if I’m the asshole. When I ask my friends I know I get a biased answer because they saw how hurt I was so they obviously thing He deserves lworse.
