Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : In a nutshell, we have struggled to get along our entire lives and are polar opposites. We live very different lifestyles. I am married with 2 kids, typical poor middle class and have a lot of debt. On the other hand, he is 40, makes six figures and is just now deciding to settle down. He has always been selfish and unable to empathize, while I am selfless and easily put myself in other peoples shoes. We had a falling out about 3 years ago that further strained our already strained relationship. We still don't really talk and when there is family gatherings it is awkward. He lives out of state and is having a  "destination" wedding at a lavish resort that is going to cost me and my family over 3k to attend. I am about maxed out on my credit cards due to a paycut I am recovering from a couple years ago and I don't see the need to attend when I can barely afford it especially we don't have a good relationship. My mom would be devastated of I didn't go and it would dedinitely piss some people off. AITA or do I max out my credit cards again for the sake of showing face in front of family?