I know that sounds pretty bad from the get-go but hear me out first. My mother had recently turned 50, and wanted a party to celebrate this lifetime achievement. In her mind it would be a small house party like we have every year but just slightly better or over the top. 

I decided to go all out, getting reservations for a small club. Inviting her group of close friends, there’s about 10 people, I specifically planned for no kids because this was supposed to be special. I made sure I had drinks covered, music she liked and all the decor set up.

When she got here she was shocked, we had a blast at first. Eating food, drinking, it all went wrong on the dance floor. My moms friends were pretty drunk and began doing some scandalous dances, such as twerking and grinding on friends in a joking manner. 

That’s when it got more serious and my mom joined in and began twerking furiously, being the supportive daughter I am (and very drunk) said “Yeah, fuck it up bitch!” Like in a friend way, not like being derogatory.

She immediately froze, and began tearing up, I was so confused. She ran out of the venue and I went after her, she explained that she felt massively disrespected and ashamed on her birthday. She went back in later to finish the party, but everyone was acting awkward afterwards. I dropped her off in silence, we haven’t spoken since.

Am I the asshole here?