Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : The Alcoholic-Addict (37M) in my life has graduated from a 45 day rehabilitation program(second round in rehab) and is now 90 days sober.
I am a huge cannabis advocate and have been smoking for more then half my life (29F)
His 12 step program in NA is totally against any kind of mind altering substance. 
We have been struggling with out relationship for five years, have been together for eight in June of this year.

The mental and physical abuse didn’t begin until the second year of our relationship. Fear last long then love.

Now that Fate has been able to allow me the choice to distance myself from him, I took full advantage and moved back home to my parents house about an hour and a half away. I have been visiting him and our two dogs (my dogs) on the weekends. We are trying to move forward but I’m having a really hard time forgiving him for the years of neglect, abuse and insults. 
When I picture my future he is not in it.
He is now ready to start a family and won’t stop asking me when I’m going to be moving back in with him. 
I’m just waiting to build the courage to let him and my two wonderful dogs go. 
Am I the Asshole for wanting to hit a delete button on our eight year relationship and say goodbye to my dog after he has gone through so much to better himself? And after we have gone through so much heart ache? 

Thank you