Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : TLDR at the bottom...

My sister [18] has been going to a University out there and has been living in the dorms for almost the entire year but as soon as she starts her second year, due to the cost, she will be looking into apartments or housing outside of the University dorms. My parents are now looking into houses out there to avoid the financial burden of paying for her future living arrangements in a Los Angeles area, to have my mother cook her meals, and so that either I [21F] or my mother drive her to school and home.

I understand why they would want to move out there considering our father (who is the sole provider) would be paying for our bills where we currently live and for hers out there. However my problems with this is I am expected to pack my things and leave the place I have lived my whole life, a place where my friends are, the rest of our family lives, and a place I genuinely like living. I'm not exaggerating either because my parents are planning on selling/renting our current home and both are talking to me as if I have agreed already even though I have not said yes to leaving.

Don't get me wrong I see the value of moving to a city where I will have better opportunities, I can always make more friends while keeping in touch with the ones I have now, and I finally can learn to drive in a real city with actual traffic. I can't help but see the down sides though. I am unable to financially support myself in order to stay, they continue to have my car under their names (even though I pay for the insurance and the tags or registration) so they might use that as something to make me move, and if I do leave I will only be there to make HER life easier like when she comes home. Another important note is she has not learned to drive and refuses to claiming WE (our parents and me) are to blame for not trying harder to teach her even though I tried and in return she messed up my car. She also refused to take public transportation because "why the f would I take a bus."

TLDR, I'm asking if me not wanting to move to Pomona to make my SISTER'S life easier makes me an asshole.