Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : My mum is such a wonderful person. She has been an amazing mum and a loving grandmother to my daughter. She has just turned 86years old and can no longer live where she is. With her pension she can no longer afford to keep up with the bills and she is now too frail to make it up the stairs. Even though she’ll never admit it I know that she is lonely living alone. Her only options are either a nursing home or to stay with family. 

My husband, myself, and our teenage daughter live in a house that is easily big enough to fit another person in. We have a guest ensuite bedroom on the ground floor that would be perfect for my mum and her needs. I know that she would be happier living out her last years with her family. She has always been very daunted by the prospect of going into a nursing home. 

After visiting my mum one day and discovering that she was struggling, I went home and sat my husband down to talk to him about her maybe moving in with us. He listened to me and everything I had to say and then responded. His response was that we shouldn’t rule out a nursing home and we can find a really good one. I said that I really don’t think my mum would like to go in one and that’s she’d be happier with us. We have the room so I really didn’t understand his hesitance. I then asked him if there was a particular reason why he didn’t want my mum staying and he replied something on the lines of ‘this is our family home, it would be weird having another person here. Would you feel comfortable if my mum lived here?’ I then responded that if he came to me and told me his mother was struggling on her own I would be the one to offer her to move in. I then went on to say that nursing homes can be very daunting places for the elderly and how would he feel if his mum was made to go in one because I said she couldn’t live with us. 

My husband is now in a strop and hasn’t spoken to me for a day. 

I really don’t see that I’m the asshole, but maybe I am? Maybe I was too pushy? It hurt my feelings that he was so hesitant to help my mum. It feels like it was really cold hearted of him. But maybe I just need to try and see things from his point of view? 

So Reddit. AITA? 