Yeah I know this is a mess. Basically my long distance gf (I'm 20 now she's 19) accused me of rape on some advice forum on Reddit. I know ghosting isn't generally okay but I got seriously pissed off at what she wrote about me. She made it seem like I was the bad guy, telling everyone how I was being too rough with her and how she didn't like how we just went our separate ways after the sex was over. We were both virgins and she said before that she liked BDSM, and she said yes. I don't think it's okay that she go out accusing me online when I literally asked her if she wanted to have sex, and she literally said yes so I thought it was fine. 

The reason I'm asking if I'm an asshole is because she seems to think I am and I do admit I thought about messaging her, but decided it's way too risky. I don't want to let her jeapordize my future. She was crying before the sex and telling me she wasn't sure she wanted to stay together and when I hugged her it turned into sex. I probably would've handled it better but yeah. Also she didn't outright accuse me, she asked if it was rape but in her text she heavily made it seem like it was and twisted the story. It really scared me because my future could get ruined. So I ghosted her even though she said she still really loves me. 

Am I the asshole?