Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Basically I (27F) have been in a relationship with someone (30F) for well over two years. 

We have had our struggles lately with the last year being an absolute nightmare. She’s very inconsistent, unpredictable, would ask for breaks randomly and then change her mind within a week for unspecified reasons. Recently she got an executive position in a company and works herself to absolute exhaustion. Needless to say, she has been extremely neglectful to our relationship and refuses to compromise, I’m basically stuck with ‘I’m busy and I can’t be as attentive’. I have already made up my mind and decided to leave but I feel guilty over doing so. 

You see, in order for her to deal with the pressure of a high position, she picked up the habit of taking drugs to catch up. She’d take anything from coke, speed, keta, and everything in-between. She’d mix shit, take it with alcohol, bing on an ungodly amount for days on end. It’s really self destructive and it’s getting extremely out of hand. 

She absolutely refuses to seek treatment. It started off as  ‘I’m not an addict I can stop if I wanted’ to ‘I can’t stop now I’m too addicted’. I’m ashamed to say that I’m honestly starting to resent her, partly because she has a very young son who just started kindergarten. He is extremely attached to his mother and absolutely adores her and she’s neglectful to him as well. 

This week alone she has been hospitalized twice for her addiction. This was a breaking point for me, I began to unload all my resentment onto her; I told her that she’s a self destructive mess who needs to get her shit together and seek help. That she had to think about her family and son and at least try for them, and how she’s hurting everyone around her who actually gives a damn, and I finally said I’m done. She told me how she hates who she became and is really depressed, I straight up said then do something about it; get yourself some therapy, start a drug treatment plan, do something, anything. I ended the conversation with me basically stating that I have no sympathy for her anymore, she somehow keeps bringing this shit to herself, just quit your stressful job and start taking care of yourself, get out of this never ending cycle. 

My BFF thinks IATA and was being too harsh because addiction is not something she can control. From my point of view, she has always been self destructive, if not with drugs then it’s whatever else she can take advantage of. That’s just her. 

I think even if she sobered up this relationship is beyond saving as those past two years honestly made my hair turn gray, but I genuinely care about her and want to know if my approach was an asshole move. 
