I'm 15, my dad died when I was 3. The conversation in the title arose when my mother suddenly told me that "A man will be coming tonight to speak to you and I about the trauma in our bodies and our energy imbalances." I've told mam several times before that I don't believe in alternative therapies (homeopathy, etc), yet she still decides to arrange this. I understand why she does it, because she cares and wants to help with my anxiety issues. She told me that "You didn't know how to deal with your dad's death when you were 3 and it's the ultimate cause for your social anxiety now." I was annoyed because I know this is false as I'm the one experiencing it and it certainly is not the cause for my anxiety, probably a very, very minor part of it or none at all. I then told her that I don't care for the effects of my father's death. For me, there's little effect. I never really knew the man and was too young to have a real relationship with him. I of course miss the opportunity of having a father, but not him himself. I think my opinion on his death is just, but my mother has a hard time accepting it being she was his wife. 