Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Throwaway because she uses my Reddit account

I understand that, for a lot of people, lack of sex and intimacy can be a deal-breaker.

My SO and I have been dating for about 4 1/2 years now yet we barely have any physical intimacy. She doesn't like to be held for too long, maybe 30 seconds at best, and we haven't had sex in two years. Every time I try and initiate she tells me she just doesn't want to. 

Most of the time I figured I'd get an excuse out of it, but it's always just flat out "No." Oddly enough, my ego doesn't feel bruised since she does so much for me. I don't feel a painful rejection. I've considered that maybe I'm bottling it up. I've sat down and had some serious discussions with her about it. We get a lot out of those conversations but I still feel like we haven't made any real progress. 

Aside from that detail she's quite possibly the closest thing to a superhuman I've ever seen. She runs her own business, helps me maintain the home, destroys me in smash, makes me laugh until my sides hurt, frequently buys me gifts and listens to me vent about work. At the end of a hard day she still has enough energy to go to the gym with me. I reciprocate this as much as possible that it sometimes it feels like a competition and she does it all with a smile. 

She's incredible, but I do feel the lack of intimacy is eating at me slowly