Hey, so for context I have been dating my boyfriend for ~2 years and we have a “closed” (monogamous) relationship. All the people involved in the post are college-aged but very childish (which will become clear after reading the post).

I’m actually very happy in the relationship and I think he is as well. He is definitely too good for me (haha) and I am very lucky to be his girlfriend.

My only legitimate complaint is with his opinion on physical affection. Apparently I’m being “such a tease” when I initiate physical affection but don’t want sex. It’s not like he tries to force me into it, but he is kind of pouty when I decline. I’ll just want some snuggles and maybe a kiss or two and then he’ll try to initiate sex. I’ve tried to talk to him about it, but the best I have gotten is just tolerating him feeling me sexually and calling it “cuddling”.

I kinda gave up on non sexual physical affection with him, but it’s pretty important for me personally. *Cue my genius idea of getting non-sexual physical affection from friends.*

Obviously it’s inappropriate to do this with people in public, so 3 close friends and I have these movie/snuggle parties at one friend’s house. 

It’s really cute and I love doing them, but I am starting to have second thoughts about if this is appropriate to do in a relationship. In addition to group things, I have cuddled with a male friend when it was just the two of us. 

There was never anything that was non-platonic, but things got really physical when we had a ‘tickle fight.’ I want to reiterate that there wasn’t even a little  sexual tension, I just feel like I may have let things go a little too far during the tickle fight. I feel extra guilty because I never told my boyfriend about these things because I thought that it would either only make him feel bad unnecessarily or he wouldn’t care.

Obviously I am planning on telling him what happened, but what kind of reaction should I expect? AMITA for doing these things? Would it be asshole-ish to ask if I can still have the snuggle parties but just be more clear on what is/is not acceptable to do?