I made an account to specifically ask this because I am unsure if I was an asshole last night .

Okay, so yesterday while I was at work , the first guy I ever had sex with texted me that he was in my city . I had messaged him earlier this year saying that he could visit me the week of the the 24th , but it seems like he came to Nyc early . This is my finals week and my job has lots of intense days so I’ve been putting in lots of work both inside and outside of the classroom. When I got his text I responded that we could meet up for a few hours as I have work to do. He agreed and met me at my apt at 7:30pm.

The context was clear : we both were interested in having sex with each other . It had been 4+ years since we’ve seen each other but we’ve been in contact every now and then we would be in contact hence why I told him he could visit me the week of the 24th.

So we hang out a bit , have sex and cuddle for a little. I start putting my clothes on so that I could get some work done . I ask him what his next move was and he told me he was just going to stay with me. I was shocked because I had not planned for him to stay over and very much wanted my space to study in peace for my finals and just be in my own space alone. The Sex was great but I love alone time and I was very much craving that after he fucked the shit out of me. I expressed this to him and he responded, “I won’t get in your way, I’m just going to be chillin here “
Me: “no, but that is in my way. I wasn’t expecting you to sleep over because you didn’t tell me you were”

Him : “well, I don’t have anywhere else to go”

Me: “I thought your frat brothers were in the city ? If you needed to sleep over why didn’t you tell me in advance ? I would have arranged for us to meet at another time when I didn’t have so much work to do. I was about to cook for myself , take a shower, study and do my own thing”

Him: “I didn’t expect to be here this late , and now that I am , I was just going to stay here. I won’t be in your way “

Me: “yes, but I was not expecting you to stay here ...I’m waking up early and am working late ...”
  
Him: “I can also wake up early , have no where else to go”

So I let him stay over but I was very annoyed . I stayed up extra late and left all the lights on in my room in hopes that he would eventually figure it out and leave. I listened to class recordings and tried so hard to be a nuance because I very much wanted to be alone. I cooked for myself and did not offer him any food , as I had not gone shopping because, again, I was not expecting him . It’s bad enough that I have roommates that I feel crowd my space , but now this guy was literally all up in my space . 

I was finally ready to go to bed. He’s 6’2” ex football player so he’s taking up most of my full size bed . When I get in, he tries to cuddle with me but I actually don’t like cuddling . I had my alarm go off at 5am to get him out early so I could at least enjoy some sleep alone in my bed . When the alarm went off I told him it was time for him to go. He responded , “I’ll leave when you leave “  but that’s not what I wanted ! I wanted him out of my bed . I tell him I have yoga at 6 and want to get ready. He says ok , gets ready and head out.

Am I the asshole for wanting to be by myself after coitus? For trying to put him out even when he expressed he had no where else to go? What do you all think ?