I was in a relationship with my ex for 8 months when I met “Kyle”. Kyle was a mutual friend of my ex and we quickly became friends. I realized that Kyle and I shared a lot of interests and humor when we would hangout in group settings (my ex included). The more time I spent with him the more I realized I wasn’t a match with my ex. I changed myself for my ex and I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t just for the sake of being compatible. I felt way more comfortable with Kyle in the few weeks I knew him than I did with my (ex) BF of 8 months. I ended up breaking things off with my ex because I knew things wouldn’t be going anywhere especially after developing feelings so easily for someone else. I am now in an amazing relationship with Kyle and my friends and and family all adore him. 

The breakup has caused a rift in our friend group and all my ex’s friends have branded me an emotional cheater and assume that I left my ex just to be with Kyle. The more I got to know Kyle, the more I realize how unhappy I was with my ex, does that make me the asshole and the emotional cheater everyone assumes I am? Was this an emotional affair? Am I just trying to rationalize my wrongdoing? Any feedback would help!



