Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So me and my ex were engaged about a week and a half ago. We decided it would be best for us to not be together. I need to get some medical stuff done so for the time being we’re still living together. We were really close and together for almost two years. We’d broken up before hand and he immediately jumped to saying another person. Like within a day. This has happened three times before we moved in together. My issue is this. We talked and I wanted to make sure that he wasn’t just going to jump into another relationship to make up for what I lack and then come back to me like the other times. I’m planning to go back to the south and doing this would fuck a lot of things up this time. So we both promised not to get into another relationship for two weeks. So that we both have time to slowly wean off of our relationship, and so we aren’t jumping to someone random. 3 days after that I find out he’s dating someone. He’s over there all the time, he’s stopped caring at all about my feelings: canceled plans to make them with him(things I’ve worked on for a long time), the time we spend together he’s not focused at all(texting, etc) even though I’m doing a lot(cooking crab legs, finding movies for us to watch, etc). It’s been pretty annoying but tonight he was gonna go out drinking(he’s 21 I’m 19) so I said to have fun and be safe, he said it back and left. He’s usually out and back by 10-11 but I woke up at 3 and he texted me at like 1 am saying “not coming home tonight, see you tomorrow”.  He went off to his new boyfriends house. As I’m typing this I feel more like the asshole but I go really upset. I haven’t said anything but I’m still really pissed off. It felt like a huge kick in the face. Am I the asshole here?