Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : I'd like to preface this with a little disclaimer. I'm not trying to make either me or her the "asshole" I just want to know where a third party, aka relentlessly honest reddit, stands on this. This way I can find out where the problem lies so I can try to fix this.

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Me and my long-distance girlfriend are two very complicated souls for sure. She deals with the backlash of an emotionally manipulative ex-boyfriend and various issues with anxiety, depression and paranoia. I personally suffer from diagnosed moodswings, depression and I'm on the spectrum.

Discussing emotions, particularly negative ones, has always been hard for us. Especially if they are negative feelings towards one another. We both like to avoid confrontation at all costs which, of course, isn't healthy but it's simply how are brains are hardwired to process negativity.

Lately I've been trying to get over my urge to avoid confrontation and trying harder to work on our relationship. This involves a lot of internal confrontation with myself but it has also forced me to be more honest and open about my frustrations. One of which being that I feel like I have to dig to find out whether she is frustrated with me or not. This has led to me feeling insecure about myself and always wondering whether I am doing everything wrong or not.

IN HER DEFENCE:

I am a deeply troubled person. I've not been stable lately. Moodswings, work, school and issues at home have got me pretty fucked right now. To make matters worse I'm a pretty sensitive guy who struggles with regulating my emotions so there's a proportional chance I am making this way bigger of a deal than it actualy is.

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I love this woman to death and please, if any of you could help me identify whether this is solely on me or not it would be a tremendous help. I just want her to be happy and I want to be happy together.

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Thank you in advance.

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