So some context here, I was a Senior and it was  my last semester of HS. I was ready to graduate and only had to pass 1 more final to walk. This final happened to be for my theatre class. We were to perform 3 showings of a play over 3 days. I was a major character and had NO understudy so if I didn’t show up the show could not go on and I wouldn’t be able to graduate with the rest of my class. 

At the beginning of the semester our teacher gave us the 3 days the play was  going to be on so that we could make sure that we had ample time to plan our schedules around it (May 1st, 2nd, and 3rd) My mom tells me she’s thinking about having her wedding (her 3rd marriage) during either the first or second week of May and I told her that if it was on the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd that I wouldn’t be able to be there for it because of the play.

Fast forward and it’s May and we’ve already done our first 2 performances. A month earlier my mom told me that she and her husband were having the wedding on the 3rd at 2pm. I said alright and left at that thinking that she remembered that my final was that day. I should have followed up with her to make sure she remembered and that was my mistake.

So it’s the 3rd and we’re all at the theatre rehearsing our lines and putting on make-up etc. But then I get the phone call.My mom wants to know when I am going to be there for the wedding to help set up. I tell my mom that I’m not going to the wedding and that I had told her I couldn’t go because of the show like I had told her months ago. 

She flipped her shit and immediately began screaming at me. Telling her I never told her that I couldn’t come (bullshit) and that she never heard that I would be busy ( she went to this play and had a play bill IN HER HAND with the dates and times of the showings) and that this is important to her so I should just come anyway.

When I told her no I could not just come because of my role and the fact that my entire graduation depended on me doing this performance (like I had told her) she called me a liar and asked how stupid I thought she was that a play would be my final. She then threw at me that “Well this is my third wedding so I bet you don’t think it’s important anyway you’ll just make it to the next one,” and I got angry and said “yeah that’s exactly it.” 

I know it was petty and childish but she had pissed me off. She didn’t talk to me for a while after that and to this day refuses to believe that I A) told her about the play B) it was my final C) I wouldn’t have graduated if I bailed. So am I an Asshole?