I've moved into my fiancee's family's home with my cat. The family owns four dogs, but my fiancee owns the rowdiest of them, who would be coming with us when we do move out. I don't know if it's worth keeping both pets, but I don't want to give my cat up. WIBTA if I asked if he would/could give up his dog for my cat's sake?


Context: I don't like dogs. I don't HATE them, but I've never really wanted one. My parents had Too Many Dogs (four to five at any given time) and hardly trained them, expecting my brother and I to clean up after them, so my dislike stems from that.

My fiancee's family also has Too Many Dogs. They're trained better, but they aren't socialized. Shortly before I moved in, a neighbor's dog had to go to the vet after two of them broke out of the backyard and attacked it. Thankfully everything turned out ok and no charges were pressed (family paid the vet bill), but one of those dogs was my fiancee's.

My fiancee's dog is some sort of Great Dane mix, almost fully grown as a one year old. Fiancee adopted her on a whim after picking her up off the road as a smaller pup. She listens to a degree, but she has tons of energy and likes to chew up misc items around the house (shoes, pillows, table legs, etc). My fiancee wants to start taking her on walks and socialize her with other dogs before socializing with my cat, but my fiancee is usually too tired to do so when he gets home (its physically demanding, so I don't blame him).

As for my cat, he's currently staying in our bedroom, which is about as big as the livingroom of my previous apartment. He's five years old and front paw declawed (not my choice, my friends adopted him for me from Petsmart as a gift). He's very friendly, but he'll overstimulate himself cuddling up to people and winds up biting pretty hard (likely a result of being declawed). My fiancee is allergic to cats, though it only flares up a little if mine does bite, and he has to hide his feet at night so he doesn't get nipped (he gets hot easily and likes having his feet exposed, so this is an issue).

I have hope that if we can socialize them, they can balance out their negative quirks. I just don't have the drive to take initiative when I don't really love my fiancee's dog, and I don't think my fiancee has the drive to keep up with his dog either. It's been two months since I moved in, and we're haven't even started.

As a side note, it's probably weird that I would knowingly bring my cat into this housing situation, and not fair to my fiancee to have him give up his pet for a pet he probably doesn't love as much either. I don't want to give up my cat because A) he was a gift, and I feel more compelled to keep him, and B) I previously owned two cats before I went to college, in a similar situation as this one (Too Many Dogs), but when I left my parents abandoned them outdoors. I know it wasn't my fault (dorms wouldn't take cats) but I still feel like I abandoned them, and I feel like I'd be abandoning my current cat too, which I don't want to do.

I'm not going to force my fiancee to abandon his dog either. If he wants to keep her, I'll work with him to make things happen. I'm just burnt out on dogs and scared he'd be offended if I asked.

Tldr: I want to ask my fiancee if, theoretically, he would/could give away his dog for my cat's sake, and I don't know if that's fair of me to ask w/o sounding like an asshole.