I’ve been complaining for a while that my daughter doesn’t listen to me. Today I asked her to throw an old flier away for me and she started looking at it. She looked for a while then I asked her again to throw it away. She asked to keep it and I said no. We argued, she cried, the wife cane in and took the paper saying we should sort it later. Daughter apologized but I told her that the apology meant nothing unless she threw the flier away. She refused again, I was furious.

I left them in town ( wife suggested I go home due to mood) and met them back at home. I spoke to daughter and explained that she had really upset me by maintaining that the piece of paper which she had never seen before today was worth completely ignoring my request. I told her to throw it away. She started to cry, I insisted, she ran to bathroom and I followed and insisted. She became hysterical but did finally do it. She cried for about an hour and now wife isn’t speaking to me (but daughter is).

Wife says I shouldn’t have picked the fight and made her cry over a piece of paper. I say it is a principle and she needs to learn to do as she is told.

TL:DR AITA if I reduced daughter to a hysterical mess over her refusal to throw an old flier in the bin.