Reading the other post about a husband passing away and his wishes made me want to bring my situation here to get opinions. 

My husband passed away in January. 

He made it clear to everyone years before he died that when he died he wanted to be cremated and his ashes scattered in the ocean. 

During his decline in the hospital, and afterwards his ex wife, adult children and many other family members came to me and ‘reminded’ me that he wished to be cremated and his ashes scattered. 

Now two of those people who knew of his wishes want some of his ashes. His sister and his just barely adult daughter. Those two have told me directly, I’ve heard that there are several others that also want some of his ashes. 

His sister wants to plant a tree with some of his ashes, his daughter hasn’t told me any specific plans as to what she plans to do with his ashes. 

At first I was okay with their wishes but I’m not any longer. Those were not his wishes and he was very specific as to what he wanted to happen to his remains. 

I want to take the ashes and scatter them at sea alone, I don’t want a ton of people there and I don’t want to give his ashes away. 

Would I be the asshole if I scattered his ashes without mentioning it to his family and without giving them any?