Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My cousin is married, has 2 kids, the youngest has cerebral palsy and requires constant care. Her husband was unemployed for over 8 months. The job he finally found pays a little over minimum wage. My cousin also lost her job in January so they had to give up the apartment they were living and move back to her parents house with the kids (her husband moved with his mom since the house is not big enough).

My cousin found a job 1 month later so she’s working now. At least both she and her husband are now working.  

Her youngest child requires constant physical therapy and special attention as he is non-verbal and is in a special wheelchair. He’s also had multiple surgeries due to hip misalignments. It’s likely he’ll need more. 

My cousin is also deep in credit card debt that she refuses to pay. I believe most of this debt went into paying medical expenses for her youngest child but she basically lives on the edge engaging into risky agreements with loan sharks to cover loan after loan.

She does have a loving family. Her father somewhat supports her financially (pays for her grad studies, buys food, pays for family vacations). He would eventually pay for his grandson’s medical expenses, I think.

Last year I was doing really well. Had a good job, travelled much. Paid off my debts. I tried to help my cousin. Fixed her resume, contacted her with a few people, and loaned her $1,000. 

Unfortunately I lost my job due to restructuring in my company. My insurance is gone and I have to take expensive meds permanently for a medical condition. It’s been 5 months and I haven’t found another job yet. My current expenses (rent, medical bills, fuel, food, etc) are piling up too. She’s never brought it up, paying me back, not even as a courtesy. Neither did I as it wasn’t my initial intention. Most recently, I’ve seen pictures of her and her family in fancy restaurants and nice hotels and when I’ve casually asked her she says her father is paying for everything. Should I ask her to pay me back? Please, am I the asshole??