Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I (male) practice a couple of martial arts and there was a mixed gender tournament. There was a girl from my area who competed against me in it. I begged her to pull out but she wouldn’t. After a struggle I got her in a submission hold (one that is frowned upon but not banned)and made her tap. She tapped but I kept the hold in for a bit longer and then was awarded victory. I feel bad for what I did but I had to win. I hope her and I can be friends.