Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Hi! Please excuse my grammar, english is not my native language. Also I know it might sound silly or obvious, but I do feel conflicted.

For some context: Cisco (28M) and I (26F) met at university and have been good friends for about 5 years now. We did our first internship together and when we graduated, we both started working at the same building. He is a pretty amazing person. He has driven me to the airport, hospital, took care of my drunk ass, helped me move. Good friend. I had a crush on him when we first met but he had a gf so I never really pursued it. 

January of 2017, just before he broke up with his gf we got really drunk together and hooked up. We were both complete messes at the time and I know it was wrong. We remained good friends and hooked up a couple times more (after he broke up) but nothing more than that. 

I met Betty (26F) at our building because she and Cisco were going out for a while. A few months later she and I became friends, hanging out a lot. I never mentioned Cisco and I hooked up, as far as I knew they were no longer going out and I never felt I needed to tell her. 

Early this week she invited me to a party and mentioned Cisco might come and that they would still casually meet, but she didn’t really know how he felt about her. She was into him. 

At that point, I felt I needed to “warn” her. Yes, he’s sweet and all but to please be aware he would not take it further. He told me multiple times he was not planning to be in a relationship anytime soon and was going out with a few different girls. And that he knew the way he treated said girls led them to think he wanted more so he was clear from the beginning. I told her all that over text. She kept asking me questions and I kept telling her some stuff I knew about him. Later I realized I overshared and told her “please don’t think ill of him. It was all complicated and we can talk more in person”. 

I wake up today to a huge text from her. He pretty much called me a terrible friend, “spilling” his secrets to others and that she didn’t know what my intentions were but she thought it was mean that I told her about him and I. That i’m not trustworthy and that she only kept me talking to see how far would i go on “betraying my friend”, which felt like plain manipulation. She said we shouldn’t be friends anymore and told him the same, that she didn’t want to associate with “that kind of people”. She went on about us hooking up last year. It was harsh. 

I later called him, explained and apologized. He didn’t care a bit. 

To me, it was girl talk with a trusted friend. She didn’t see it that way. She thinks I was on some kind of agenda. 

Am I The Asshole?

TL;DR: I told my friend the guy she fancied didn’t want a relationship. I went on and overshared stuff about his life bc I’m friends with him. She thinks I did it make him look bad and cut ties with both of us.

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