Little backstory first, so I’ve been engaged for 2 years and in those years I’ve bought a house (last year) and started saving for my wedding (this year). We wanted to get a house first because my son was about to start kindergarten. We didn’t want to have the wedding and then save another year to get the house in another city and then have to transfer him.
Anyway, well when I proposed to her. We set a date shortly after to be dated to 2 years later. I told my family and everyone that asked about it the date. WELL, apparently not everyone. Just recently my real brother came to me about some information that my STEP brother was planning to propose to his girlfriend of like 4 months. She already knew about the ring because he showed her it when he got it but hadn’t officially proposed yet. (Don’t ask me why he did that because I don’t know why either.) Anyway, I told my real brother “Okay? So what?” He then tells me the date they chose, it was exactly 1 week before ours! They were also using the exact same colors as ours too! I told my real brother, no way they’d do that to us. So I kept my cool about it and we had a family get together and everything was fine. My step brother didn’t bring up anything about it. A few days later I look on Facebook and they posted about the proposal with the exact date my real brother told me about. My fiancé and I are furious! I call my Dad about it and he says he can’t talk right now (he’s with them) so he’ll call me back. I say okay and a few hours go by and he texts me telling me to call him tomorrow which of course makes us even more mad. Because when something like this happens, we like to talk about it right there and then. So I ignore his call the following day because the previous day I was so mad I had to take an ibuprofen and didn’t want a repeat of it. So I call him the next day and I couldn’t believe the words he was saying. Without going into detail he kept defending my step brother over me. He tells me they planned everything including the date before they told my dad and step mother. Even though my step brother and his girlfriend both knew when our wedding was. My dad told me to get over it and it’s “not a big deal” and that if I “keep pushing it, he’s not coming to my wedding.” My dad is my best man by the way. I told him “well that’s fine” and he hung up. My argument is this, what family member does this to another family member? Like, who intentionally rains on another family member’s parade? My outer family will now have to go to 2 weddings on the weekend in a row, my family is already busy enough on the weekends as is.
Are we the assholes (my fiancé and I) for getting mad about this?