
He’s always like I wish we could be together. The timing is wrong. Work is crazy. I need to leave my gf. I don’t See a future with but I’m giving her a shot and hoping it works out but I’m sad when I think of our future. I’m leaving her soon. I’m glad we got to talk the other day. It was so good to talk to you let’s talk again soon. I didn’t appreciate you enough when we dated. 

He notoriously tells people whatever will make the conversation the easiest. He tells people what they want to hear in the moment. When I bring up something he said that isn’t in line with his current agenda he says I’m crazy and dont remember. I show him texts to prove my point, so naturally he has wanted most of our convos to be over the phone or even in person so I can’t record him. 

He is a nice guy and compromises a lot of his values in order to be a people pleaser. He will do anything to avoid getting in trouble or looking like the bad guy. 

I am stuck on him cause I was the best girlfriend and he could not have cared less. He said the best thing he did for me was not get upset with me or confront me on issues. I helped him through college, wrote his college essays, did his homework when he was busy, helped his parents business for hours without pay, hung out with his crazy mom cause I knew she’d enjoy it and it would distract her from being in my exes business, I encouraged him all the time despite him being so insecure about himself. Like he did anti wrinkle cream at age 20, wore lifts in his shoes to make him taller, couldn’t leave the house with his hair wet, put loads of Rogaine and thickening powder in his hair, and would check himself out in the mirror if we hugged near a mirror. 


Me: Ok. I knew you didnt mean anything you say. You’re just trying to be nice. I appreciate that but goodbye. For real.

Him: Apologies. I legitimately have been very busy, staying up late and waking up early working. I could talk to tonight which is what I was hoping for but its hard to know your schedule too. Also, I don’t appreciate your impatience and constantly rude and accusatory tone.

Me: You never reach out to me without me pushing, you don’t try to coordinate or anything. I drive this entire convo most of the time. If it was important to you then you’d try harder. It’s not important to you but you’re just trying to be nice. I appreciate you not being rude to me, I do. 
I am being direct and honest. I really appreciate you being nice to me but I would further appreciate you being more direct with me. 

He called me ten minutes later but I was busy with plans cause he didn’t do anything to plan a time with me. 

I asked him the next day if he could call and he said this: 
Him: I understand, we are busy people. 
I'll have to see depending on what plays out tonight, I would have a better sense around 8:30 9 

Him: I should be free to talk after 10 but if you got plans no worries of course

Around ten: 
Him: ?

I didn’t respond. I was sleeping cause I work weird hours.