Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I had two best friends, a boy and a girl, who were dating at the time. We'll call them Michael &amp; Elizabeth. We were inseparable, we lived together (in a larger shared house) and had the occasional threesome.

After about a year, I met my current boyfriend, and we started casually dating. I told them, several times, how he felt so different and so special and how I was SERIOUSLY into him. I had always preferred non-monogamous relationships, but he insisted on monogamy. I was (and am) so in love with this man that I agreed!

But then things went off the rails. Michael told me that he felt my relationship came out of nowhere, and several times urged me to break up with my boyfriend. He told me that he always kind of felt like I was dating he &amp; Elizabeth, as sort of a three-way-relationship. We had canoodled maybe five times total over the course of the year, so I was, understandably, very confused. I had chased my boyfriend for months, with their support and assistance, if Michael had wanted a relationship with me, he could have said something before, or let me know that's how he was thinking of me, at the very least.

A few months later, Michael &amp; Elizabeth's relationship started going downhill, for a wide variety of reasons. Eventually she broke things off, and he lost his mind completely. He cried to me about how she was the love of his life and life wasn't worth living without her, that he didn't think anybody else would ever love him. I told him that was ridiculous. I urged him to seek assistance for his declining mental health, but he refused, claiming there were waitlists at therapists and inpatient treatment was too expensive. I provided him with information for clinics and even offered to accompany him if he wanted, but he continues to turn down my advice.

Eventually, he began confronting me with bizarre scenarios in an attempt to boost his confidence, I think. It started innocuously enough, "If you hadn't met boyfriend and I had never met Elizabeth, do you think we ever would have dated?" and "do you think we'll ever have sex again?" But soon progressed to "If your boyfriend broke up with you in the near future would you date me?" and eventually "If I were dying and my last wish were to have sex with you would you do it?"

I was very uncomfortable with these hypotheticals, and refused to talk about most of them. I had no interest in him, romantically or sexually, and no interest in pondering the loss of my boyfriend. Despite my telling him it made me uncomfortable, he didn't stop, and I began distancing myself from him.

His lack of respect for my relationship, and constant complaining about his mental health, while refusing to seek treatment led me to slowly cut all contact  with him. Over course of the past few months I've removed him almost entirely from my life, a decision which I've been very pleased with. I no longer receive a flurry of text messages in the night, begging me to talk him out of his depressive state, and no longer have to worry, when I miss a call, that in absence of my support, he may have committed suicide.

Michael has always suffered from a variety of health issues, and a couple of months ago they took a dramatic turn for the worse. He can't stomach most foods, and the medicine they gave him to treat an infection gave him severe tinnitus (his ears constantly ring) and hyperacusis (he cant tolerate noise). The past several weeks, he's been posting on social media that he's become suicidal. Each time he posts, a different friend of his offers support, often going to visit him (at his home, almost two hours away from me) to keep him from being alone. While I think the sentiment is nice, and that the support is obviously effective, I don't believe a visitor every night is going to keep him from killing himself, in the long run. He needs help for his illness. He needs to seek REAL help from a PROFESSIONAL.

He's recently begun reaching out to me, begging me to come visit him, or just to talk to him again. I am still uncomfortable being around him, and have not answered any of his messages. Thinking about thrm fills me with so much anxiety I don't even open them, I just look at the first few words preview that I get in my notification bar. Yesterday he messaged me "I just don't want to be alone at the end."

Am I the asshole for not making amends? I feel like I should forgive &amp; forget, but I don't want to. I know the "nice" thing to do would be forgive him, but I feel like I don't owe him that anymore. I can't handle the guilt and anxiety and stress that comes from being somebody's lifeline, let alone for a somebody that I don't even like that much anymore. The few months between the end of our friendship and the onset of the mental health issues were honestly great. I felt better than I had in a long time, without the burden of somebody else's mental health on my shoulders. Should I put myself back in an uncomfortable position to try and help keep him alive? 