AITA if I was being heckled by a so-called "nice old guy" at a trivia night?  


I was participating in a trivia night. You answered questions then handed your answer sheet to another team to mark. There were 5 rounds, with a 15 minute break between round 3 and 4 (so they did rounds 1-3, marked them, then break, then rounds 4-5, then the final marks). We had completed all rounds, and the other team was marking our card. A question came up in which there was some debate. I grabbed my phone to look it up, seeing as I had no way of changing the outcome of the game, nor could I change any of my answers since the other team had my card. While I'm holding up my phone to say the question was inaccurate, some older guy across the way starts yelling at me claiming I am cheating. I asked him how am I cheating, but he didn't answer, and continued to shout that I was cheating. When I asked if he was playing (he was not), he said yes and that I should be disqualified. So I told him to go f himself when he wouldn't leave me alone. I then ignored him. But one of the waitresses came over and gave us a warning about swearing in the restaurant, and though I said he was being rude and obnoxious, she just said she gave him a warning too and that we had to get one too. 

When I went over and apologized afterward, she claimed he was a nice guy who owns a salon (like that was supposed to make me believe he couldn't possibly be a jerK) and that when he drinks, he gets "opinionated". This actually really made me angry, since he was the one to start harassing me for something he wasn't even a part of, yet I'm treated like I'm the problem because I used swear words. All I got from the woman at the bar is that he's a nice guy so I shouldn't have reacted that way, and "sometimes our frustrations rise come out in other ways". I just said sure, and walked away, regretting my apology, since it was obvious, because he was a regular, that he was getting the benefit of the doubt. It sounds to me like he's an asshole to people when he drinks, but that's excused because he is a "nice guy and owns his own business". I wanted to tell her to go f herself too.