for some background information:
I’m 23m, have 2 other siblings(25m, 27m)
my mom(50’s F) and my dad(50’s M) were happily married for a long time until my dad up and left us(while my siblings and i were still in late elementary/early middle school) for another woman who he dated in like eighth grade, and apparently they had been chatting on Facebook and meeting up at hotels without anyone knowing
Stepmom lives in another state, and was also married, and Dad up and decided “screw my family!! i’m leaving them for a woman i dated in eighth grade!!”
did my dad ever talk to us during that time? did he ever visit us ONCE?? No, not a word, not a fucking peep

when my oldest brother graduated, he wanted my dad to come down to watch him cross the stage and come to his graduation party, you guys wanna know what my dad said??
“oh someone in [Stepmom]’s family is graduating so i cant be there”
yeah..someone in his wife’s family is more important than his own

last year, when my grandfather(aka HIS DAD!!!) died, And we expected him to yknow COME TO THE FUNERAL because HIS DAD DIED, you guys wanna know what he said??
“sorry but i’m going to a party with [Stepmom]’s family tonight, i cant make it”
my aunts were PISSED, and they cut off contact with him right then and there

two years ago, my nephew was born
at this point, my brothers and i had one tiny string of hope left, my eldest brother just wanted his son to meet his grandfather
..ready to hear the bullshit that came from my dads ass?
“sorry but [Stepmom] and i are going to a concert”

a week ago i ran into my wonderful stepbrother(23m) at the store, he said he was visiting his girlfriend, we talked for a bit
and then he said something that pissed me off
“there was no family event the day your grandfather passed, i was visiting my mom on that day..they were doing nothing but watching a football game”
i stood there, frozen in shock, and he just shook his head

i messaged my brothers about this, and THEY were pissed
so we all message my dad, asking him why he never spoke to us all those years, why he cares more about his new wife than his own family, why he cares about a football game more than his own dads funeral
he never responded

my brothers and i talked, and decided we’d cut him out of our life, if he wanted to choose his new family over the one he’s had for the past 50 years, then so be it

we told him we’re cutting off all contact with him, and that we wish we could have our fun, goofy dad back, but that wont happen

he messaged us back the next day, calling us selfish assholes, saying how we never respected his relationship with stepmom, saying how we never liked her and how we were the worst people in the world

so now i’ve been thinking...AITA?
