Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : To preface this, I have severe depression, and have few friends, and of those friends there was only one I trusted with anything to do with my depression. The other day I was struggling with it, and texted him about it, and he told me that all I ever do is complain even though my life isnt so bad, and I'm always inconsiderate of him. I didnt respond, gave myself a few days to clear my head, and realized that I dont really want to fix a friendship with somebody who thinks that about me. Problem is I've been storing my computer at his house due to unrelated reasons, which led to this conversation

Me: I'll come over sunday to get my computer

Him: so you have no desire to fix our friendship

Me: I think it's best for both of us if I distance myself for now

Him: Distance yourself from what
So this says to me so this says to me that our friendship means so little to you that you have no desire to try and fix it

Me: I'm trying to figure out how to explain this without hurting any feelings but dammit it's not easy. To put it bluntly you dont believe in depression, and it's impossible to make any progress with depression if your support system doesnt believe in depression

Him: You're absolutely right however if you really believe I don't believe in depression then you don't know me at all and you're right we should just end this now. Goodbye Panda

Me: From everything you've said it sounds like you dont, what really ended up getting me was "your lifes not that bad" when that really doesnt have much to do with it

Him: You're right however you should also understand that I was in a pretty rough space that day and pretty angry. And I don't believe that the fates are against you however I have never said that I didn't think you were depressed I know you're depressed I've worked very hard at trying to support you and getting help. But I guess that doesn't matter

Me: It's not the first time you've said something like that that's bothered me, I just kept my mouth shut because i didnt want to hurt your feelings. That being said I would be willing to be more considerate of you, but you have to put in the effort too. I know I should be considering how your doing more, that's something I need to work on, but it's up to you

Him: The problem Panda is because you haven't told me when I said things that bothered you I don't know when it is so now you're going to ask me to be considerate when I don't know when it's been bothering you so then I'm going to not be considerate cuz I don't know and we're going to be right back to where we started

Me: Would you like me to start pointing them out? Cause I can, I just dont like to make people feel bad about things they've said

Him: Honestly at this point I don't know if this friendship is salvageable.
The reality of the situation to me cuz I expressed myself in a way that was a little harsh however it still holds true that I feel like you don't really care about my feelings or what's going on with me. And your response is to one put that second to your own concerns belittle me for not caring about you and then putting conditions on trying to fix our relationship

Me: That's not what I was suggesting. Both issues are equally important to me, but if that's how you see it then so be it

Him: I really don't think you understand what I'm saying or that you don't care to understand what I'm saying I don't know what it is.

Me: Funny I'm getting the same impression from you.

Him: I don't see anything funny about this

Me: So nothings changed. I'll pick up my computer on sunday.

Him: No something has changed I will meet you somewhere with your computer I do not want you at my house again