So this story starts about a year ago. For clarity, we’ll refer to everyone as Andy (me), April (my SO), Leslie and Tammy. We all planned a trip to see a band we all like, which would have been about a 7 hour road trip. Leslie bought the tickets, and did not make us pay service fees (we’ve all done this before, we never make each other pay service charges). 

Before the trip, Tammy started having anxieties about the whole thing. She started fights, would ignore us for days/weeks, and was weirdly passive-aggressive about where we stayed, when we would get on the road, or what we planned to do while there. The show was in Boston, and we planned to leave Friday and get home late Sunday. We only had the weekend to do stuff, so we tried to fit in things we all wanted to do, but Tammy had a long (at least week’s worth) list of things she wanted to do, on top of the concert. 

Just before we were supposed to leave, Tammy bought us tickets to the date of the tour in our hometown that the band had just added. She told us we all owed her the ticket charge + \~$25 for service charges. We told her we would pay her back after the trip when we could, which we thought was fine considering Tammy had not paid Leslie back until the day before the concert. 

Tammy refused to drive, blamed her pre-trip frustrations and anger on boy troubles, and then when we got there was MISERABLE the whole time. We went out of our way to do things she wanted (even walking the Freedom Trail in the New England downpour) and tried our best to make the trip worth it. When I asked if anyone had money to tip the maid, she yelled at me that she didn’t have any money after spending $400 on tickets for us for the second date. She also complained about where we decided to stay (an AirBnB) then when it fell through and we needed to get a hotel, said she “told us” that we should have gotten a hotel in the first place (she never met up with us for booking). 

The final straw came in Salem. We (minus Tammy) wanted to go since it was the weekend before Halloween. She complained that we “only cared about Halloween” and she “wanted to see Historical things” - this was outside the Salem Town Hall. Despite this, she dropped $200 on souvenirs, and we drove home in near-silence. 

After it all, she refused to pay Leslie (who had eaten the extra cost for the hotel) for the parking, and told her she didn’t want her in her life anymore. She then told her she “knew” April and I would never pay her back. We all tried to reason with her (she’s often a lot of drama, but we always try to be supportive and steer her to better paths) and she blocked us all on social media and subtweeted about cutting “toxic people” out of her life. We told her to sell our tickets, and she told us we were basically fucking her over. 

TL;DR: A friend was miserable and mean to us on a trip with her, we told her we no longer wanted to go to a concert with her, she called us toxic. AWTA?