Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : 5 1/2 years ago I moved by myself across the country. My whole family is still back in my home state. I come from a big family, lots of cousins and we were all very close growing up. Since then things have changed. We all still love each other, but my visits home are short and few. 

Six months ago I got married at a courthouse. I love my husband very much and it was a quick engagement and I guess you could use the word "eloped"

My mother was understandably shocked and a little upset when I first told her. We're very close and I usually tell her everything. 

She now wants this summer to throw us a wedding celebration with my whole family when we come visit. She wants a band and to have it catered, and my whole family there, the whole deal. I do not want that at all. My family has very traditional expensive weddings. While I respect that and have enjoyed every one that I've attended and been in, that is not my style at all. I'm not one of those ppl that wanted a big party, I just wanted to marry my husband because I love him. I dont need a party to prove that.

My mother really wants this and tbh, the whole thing would make me super uncomfortable. I dont know these extended family members any more and I'm sure they couldn't care less weather I'm married or not. Like I said, my visits are short and not often and I would prefer to spend my time with the people I love and not partying with people i dont know any more. I'd rather hang out with my parents and brother and grandparents.

My husband is indifferent, he said he'd be happy either way. 

This whole party is for my mom, and shes told me that. If she wants a party just throw a BBQ or something. I should also point out that I am her only daughter. My brother is planning on having a traditional wedding though, so it's not like she'll miss out on both her children's wedding. 

I'm in need of some outside perspective, reddit, AITA?