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It's a long and petty one, boys, so TL;DR at the bottom

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My husband and I went to a Shen-Yun performance, and we stopped to get Panda Express on the way home. When the person at the window asks if we want any sauce. My husband asks me if I wanted sauce, and I said, "Yes, please! Lots of Mandarin sauce. I want 2 or 3." My husband tells the person at the window “Mandarin sauce”. I said, "Can you ask for extra sauce, please? Like 2 or 3". He just says, "We'll see how much they give us". So, we wait. When we got our food, I checked and said, "They only gave us one". He sits there, looks at me for 5 seconds, and starts driving off. I was a little astounded and asked why he didn't ask for more sauce, and he gets mad that I would be upset over sauce.

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He said that he didn't know they'd only give me one, so I said that I told him they only gave us one. He said, "Well, you should have asked them for more sauce". I said that he was the one in the driver seat, so why didn't he ask? I didn't think I had to ask from the passenger seat, especially because he didn't say he wanted me to. Regardless, he drove off before I had the chance.

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He has an outburst telling me that I always let tiny things ruin my day. If I don't get sauce or if I see dirty dishes left out on the counter for a few days, I just make him and everyone miserable "every goddamn time". He said I treat him like dirt, and that hurts because he just spent 4 hours going to a performance for me where he was just uncomfortable and had a splitting headache the entire time, but didn't complain. He said I'm not reinforcing positive behavior (going to a performance with me) by getting upset with him. He reminded me of all the times I asked him to get things for me and he did.

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He apologized for his outburst and, and after we got home, he said he would go back to Panda Express to get more sauce. For context on the dishes comment, I recently had an argument with our roommate (his brother) for not doing any chores around the house, and my husband said he was sick of hearing about it from both me and him. He's said I was trying to reason with someone who was unreasonable, so I should stop trying and just wait until we move out.

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TL;DR I asked for some extra sauce at Panda Express, my husband refuses to make an effort to just get some extra sauce, and when I ask him why, he yells at me for treating him like dirt after he's done so much for me.

Am I the asshole?