Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : The title isn’t exactly the best, but I have to vent somehow and I don’t have enough real life friends to get a diverse opinion.

So, a few years ago, I played Destiny. And I was able to meet some friends on there. One of them is the friend I’m referring to, we’ll call him Frank. Thanks to Frank, I am now friends with very wonderful people who I wouldn’t trade for anything else. We played many games and we had many wonderful moments together.

But one night, he confessed he loved me. And I reciprocated... but I’m a complete and total idiot who thought the type of love he was talking about was platonic. Nope, he wants me to be part of a three way relationship with him and his wife. I should also note that I’ve constantly mentioned my fiancé in much of our conversations.

It’s been a few months, we chatted and talked about meeting up sometime soon, but I’ve been having second thoughts about this relationship. I thought he would understand me just wanting to be friends but he always says “just give us a chance” and “you love me, right?” The issue being he knows I hate confrontations and I have an issue about saying no (the wonderful gift of low confidence). Recently when I mentioned the doubts I have about this relationship, he proceeds to claim he spent $600 on stuff for me!

HOW? The only things I got from him was enough platinum in Warframe to get 2 new warframes! (For reference, he would have to pay $24.98 to get the platinum for both of them) and that’s it! And the idea that he spent $600 on me and he hasn’t even seen me in person says a lot about him!

Looking back at all the messages, I’ve felt like he sees me as more of a girlfriend than an actual friend. I tried to explain that I just want to be friends and I appreciate everything he’s done for me, but he claims “You're going to give us a shot because I KNOW THAT YOU LOVE ME” and “Your chance to make this up, is to give us a chance. Understand?” (Actual messages, btw)

The main reason I’m hesitant to end this is, well, he’s been friends with the other guys for longer and I read the stories on here about how someone would become your worst nightmare for rejecting them and I don’t want to be the cause of the ruination of a decade long friendship. Plus, My fiancé found the most recent conversation (he read it over my shoulder) where Frank wrote: “You are going to come visit ok. I am NOT taking no for an answer ok. We're going to set something up for may ok? ( The correct response you should respond with is Yes Sir)”, and needless to say, fiancé absolutely rejects the concept of me visiting Frank now.

Should I just end this relationship right now and look like an asshole for talking about visiting him for almost a year or should I try making it up to Frank before ending it? I feel like the asshole either way...