Is NOBODY wrong in the post ? POST : For reference this has happened before with us and I assured my spouse that I wasn’t trying to do anything. So my spouse was using the computer and one of my social media’s was open, my spouse check the messages and saw that I was talking (about 3 messages of nothing essentially) and asked me later on if I was in fact talking to this individual, I deleted the message as to not start anything or get my spouse upset over what I thought wasn’t a big deal. My spouse is telling me how hurt they are and how I lack respect for my spouse and our marriage, I’ve apologized to my spouse and said that if there’s a fix for this they we should fix it. I mean it was only 3 messages that had nothing of context. Am I the asshole for not really thinking it’s a big deal? 