Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I'm going through a lot of pain right now after learning my girlfriend was sexploited basically in middle school online by someone she doesn't know. That and the other things in the past (some physical, some not) hurt for me in multiple dimensions at once and I'm not sure I could ever be at peace with it. I'm strongly considering breaking up but I know it was the past and not against me and even before I was in the picture. I know she's a victim for the particular episode too, and I don't think badly of her. It's just hard for me to deal with and I don't know what to do. We're a few months in and deeply happy. If the past was better I would be so much more confident.

Also, she drinks and smokes and I never have and never will, she's into that sort of social lifestyle too and even though I trust her deeply I just am so uncomfortable with it all. Not sure if that's reasonable of me but I'm just giving as much context as I can. She's also much less concerned with all of this past than I am. It's not like it's easy for her, but she's just suited to better deal with or at worst compartmentalize that stuff than I. Sucks that I can't follow that example. 

Am I the asshole? I feel like it but I don't know what to do. I really don't know if I can do this, yet outside of what I outlined we're an extremely above average relationship deeply happy with each other. I hope it sounds half as shitty as it is rn. 