Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Last fall, we (myself and fiancee) offered up our basement room (with its own private full bathroom) to a friend in desperate need of a place to stay. He doesn't make a lot and also has a dog, which made finding an affordable place difficult. I felt bad and let him stay with us which was a move that I now think I made too quickly. It was agreed that this would be temporary. He said he needed till the end of 2019. He said his goal was to move to BC and find a place of his own. I was hesitant to agree to this. My fiancee and I are getting married in August and well, I thought this would be kind of weird?? But I said okay, hoping this time would give him a chance to form a plan for himself. I've known him for a long time and I know he isn't the most responsible financially. He has a ton of credit card debt, adopted a dog when he probably shouldn't have and tends to spend frivolously when he probably should be saving etc etc etc...

A little background info: We share a common group of friends. For the last 10 years since his parents kicked him out, he's been living in one of our basement's. His rent is $360/month utilities included. His rent has NEVER INCREASED. He got kicked out of one friends basement and then moved to another. Was kicked out again and now he is here with me. I never knew why but I think I might now...

Fast forward to today: Over the last few months, he's argued with me on a few things and it's really rubbed me the wrong way. When he moved in, he misunderstood me saying, "we don't really use our basement" to mean he gets to take over our entire basement. After he moved in, he had quite literally taken over the whole basement. His stuff was EVERYWHERE. He'd moved my stuff so his stuff without asking so that his stuff would fit. He installed stuff all over my walls in the basement without asking. He basically turned the basement into his own living room. When I told him he had to move as much of his stuff into the room he was renting, he threw a tantrum. He was so fixated on my comment and felt I was taking back something we had agreed upon (which we did not). To this day, he still has stuff all over my basement...

He says he enjoys hosting guests. Which would be fine if it were once in a while and maybe a few guests at a time. But this is not the case. Ex. One weekend, he showed up unannounced with 8 friends in tow, had 4 guests over the next day, then 6-7 guests the day after. He argued with me that he should be able to host guests 1-2x a week. And he often hosts 6+ guests at a time. This has been very hard for me as I'm a very busy person and coming home to a quiet place is my time to relax. 

He likes to host D&amp;D. But they come over Sunday nights...and then they stay over late. Like 11pm. I work early in the mornings and often have to be AT work for 7:30 am. Getting him to agree to a 10:00 curfew was like pulling teeth. I had to compromise with 10:30...

His dog sheds a LOT. It's been so frustrating because I end up having to do the bulk of the cleaning. When I asked him to pitch in to sweep once a week. He told me I just have a really high standard of cleanliness...

Last but not least, he smokes marijuana. A LOT of it. I don't have a problem with it, but I do have a problem with the smell. IT STINKS. I claims he doesn't smoke indoors but holy crap does it ever smell strong. 

There are other issues but these are the things that stand out to me. We've come to some agreements and compromises, but it's his attitude about discussing things that has me really stressed out. It's been a few months and I honestly don't know if I can handle him being here for another whole year. **Long story short? I feel taken advantage of**. $360/month rent is unheard of. In my area for something similar would easily go for at least double that amount. I did it because we are friends and I hoped it would help him save up and make a plan for himself. But so far, he hasn't made ANY plans for himself and instead continues to spend frivolously, eating out, buying things he doesn't need...and of course all of the issues above. 

So I told him this morning that I think he needs to re-consider his deadline and move out in August when my fiancee and I are getting married. We just want to move forward with married life and have kids after the wedding and I don't really want to deal with the stress of him being here. He threw another tantrum and flipped out on me. He came home today and basically holed himself in his room downstairs. AITA here?

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