Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : My gfs all-time favorite dessert is tiramisu. This was our first Valentine’s Day together, so obviously I wanted to do something sweet. I cook most our meals and am a pretty decent chef, so I already had a meal planned that she knew about, but I wanted the tiramisu to be a surprise. 

That Wednesday night, I get up after midnight while she’s still sleeping and run to the grocery store to get what I need. A pound of mascarpone, vanilla extract, eggs, cream, etc. all-in-all cost me about $20, which isn’t much in the grand scheme of things, but I’m a college student. 

However, there was one ingredient that I couldn’t get. Rum. I’m only 20 and liquor shops close at 9 where I live, so I had no options. We did have lemon vodka though, so I decided that I’d give it a try and if it sucked then I’d just use coffee without liquor. 

I come back and make everything as quiet as I can. After dipping some of the ladyfingers in the vodka-coffee mix, I tried one and thought it worked great. The vodka didn’t overpower the coffee and the lemon added some lighter flavors. I assemble everything and hide it in the fridge. 

Next day, everything goes great and I bring out the tiramisu. Her eyes light up and she gets super happy. Then she digs in and gets the most disgusted frown on her face. I asked if she liked it and she shook her head. I told her I made it with the lemon vodka and she said that was what made it so bad. 

I had a bite and it tasted exactly like it had the night before. 

I’m not above criticism, but this was different. I said that it tasted fine to me and her response was “Well, that’s all that matters.” Normally I’d agree, but I didn’t make this for myself. I made it specifically for her as a gift. It was if you bought something that you knew someone would love, but when you give it to them they say “I don’t like it, but you can have it.” 

After that, I cleaned up the dishes and offered to go get some pre-made tiramisu from the store. She asked why and I told her it’s because I clearly ruined her gift and wanted to make it up to her, which made her feel really guilty about everything. She apologized but I antagonized her a bit more about it and have been using it as my silver bullet for arguments recently. 

I intentionally made her feel guilty, but am I an asshole for it?

