Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Nobody really owes anybody anything when you really think about it. I don’t owe my mother a hug when I go visit her. I don’t owe my friends my time and attention. I don’t owe my dog love and affection. But I give it to them anyway, because it makes them happy, it makes me happy, and *it’s the right thing to do.*

So having said that, if my ex from a fairly amicable split decided to message me six months later with a genuine, sincere apology for things he thinks he did wrong, and he made it clear he wasn’t expecting anything from it, I would at least give him the courtesy of telling him how I felt about what he wrote. Because *it’s the right thing to do.*

You know what I wouldn’t do? I wouldn’t ignore them and block them.

I sent a sincere apology to my ex the other, and he blocked me. I didn’t expect anything to come of it, but I at least expected some kind of honest response out of it. I thought he was better than ignoring and blocking. He fucking told me he wanted to be friends *multiple times.* I guess that was a lie he told *multiple times.*

He’s allowed to feel how he feels, I’m not angry over that. But he does NOT get to act like I was the only who pulled shit worth leaving over. Yes I had anxiety attacks, yes I was emotionally a lot to handle at times. But at least I worked on my shit. I sought therapy. I got on medication. I started journaling and meditating and doing things that were good for me because I deserved to be healthy and happy.

Him? He made me feel like shit for having anxiety in the first place. He made me feel like all of our problems were because of me. He never put any effort into the relationship. He ignored my needs. He NEVER ONCE made good on his promises. He promised to help me in making sure my medication wasn’t causing any weird side effects. When it did, he said nothing. He promised to be more present. He didn’t. He promised to fucking *read* some articles I sent him that I thought could help our relationship. He didn’t. And he promised that he would tell me if he ever found himself in a place where he didn’t think he could he in my life in any capacity. He didn’t.

And he knew...he FUCKING KNEW that the one thing I hate more than anything else in a person is being ghosted like that. HE KNEW THAT ABOUT ME, AND HE DID IT ANYWAY. Yes, I pulled some shit that nobody would blame him for walking away from, but SO DID HE. He’s not the only victim here.

And that’s what really fucking gets me. Over the three years we knew each other, I can honestly say that I’m a better person now than I was back then. Much better. I cannot say the same for him. If anything, he got worse.

That said, am I the asshole here? Am I a bad person not worth dating? Anytime I talk about how I feel on reddit, they blame me. Anytime I talk about how I feel to a therapist, they tell me it’s not my fault. And I don’t know why.

So who’s correct? Reddit? Or my therapist? Am I actually the asshole?
