Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : My brother and I have always been really at odds. For years we would butt heads over everything. He would insult me or tell me to kill myself (and once held a knife at me from across the room), and I would get outraged and scream at him. Our mother eventually got fed up with it and made a rule that we were not allowed to speak to each other. This really hurt me as all I've ever wanted is to have a relationship with him, but he just screams and insults me whenever I speak to him now. A few minutes ago I went downstairs and tried to strike up a conversation about his new Apple Watch, which he responded to by screaming at me to stop talking to him. I told him all I wanted was for him to be nice for once, but he started telling me nobody likes me and the best night of his year was the night I spent at our grandmother's house because he didn't have to see me. Eventually I called him a rotten egg and went up to ask my mother for advice. She said that the whole confrontation was my fault for breaking her no talking rule. I argued back and forth with her about how insane an idea that was, and eventually told her it was lazy parenting to just cover the issue up and hope it all works out when we grow up. She immediately shut down and walked out of the room, which I responded to by (admittedly unkindly) telling her to go to hell. Confrontations like this are really common in my house, and I feel really lost as to how to confront it. I really want to have a relationship with my brother, but it really hurts when all he does is try to get under my skin and hurt me, then hide behind some nonsense rule our mother came up with.