Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So long story short, my little brother (27) has not spoke to me in a couple years because during a family Christmas party he was complaining that he couldn't get a job because he is gay, no one likes him, because he is gay, and  he would be condemned to hell, because he is gay. I finally had enough of listening to him complain and explained to him that no one cares that he is gay and that his problem is he is lazy as shit and smokes pot all day rendering him anti-social. I explained to him that if he like to (suck dick) then own it and don't blame your problems on it. Needless to say he started blaming his problems on me and told me that my dad and I treat him horrible and  he never wanted to see us again. That was literally it, I didn't condemn his gayness or tell him he's going to hell, or any bull shit like that. So question is, am I the ass hole for not buying into his pity party?