Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : For context, I went on one date with this person, had a great time, and said I’d love to see them again (which is true). But life got in the way and it’s now a week and a half later and I texted them just saying I’m not really in a place where I can be emotionally available to date. Im dealing with some things from a sexual assault (forms for criminal justice tribunal stuff) that’s bringing stuff, that I had thought was dealt and done with, up. I told him all of this, but I feel pretty horrible. I never meant to lead him on or anything, and said as much, I just wasn’t really aware of how much this was fucking me up until now. 

He said it kind of felt like I had lead him on, even though he knows I didn’t do it on purpose. I mean, from the beginning, I told him I have a lot going on, and I just. I’m so mad at myself. I just can’t really be there for someone else in a romantic sense right now. Am I an asshole? How do I make it up, if so?