Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : Before you freak out, hear me out.

My mom is a sweet woman, very kind yet stern, and a good mother. My father on the other hand is rude, abusive and just a selfish, horrible person. I could be biased but, it's how he is.

My father messes with my mother mentally. He has physically and mentally abused two of my brothers (unsure of my other one, hes much older than I am), fucks with my mental state (I think abuse? I honestly dont know), and has actually hit one of my elder sisters friends a while back when she still lived with us. My father has accused my mother of cheating when she has no time and is currently traveling all the time for work. Currently, while mother is away, we have no money because of him quitting his job (this is like the 3rd or 4th time within 2 years), demands money from my mom and has added more stress on my mother, making her work two jobs while shes home.

My mother is not happy in the relationship. I know this for a fact because when we're in the car or alone, shes complaining about him. He never let's her go out with friends yet he does it all the time. He even leaves me alone at times. He does smoke marijuana as well, my mother absolutely despises it. At times he'll smoke with my 3 brothers. Its still illegal where I live.

They did try to get a divorce in 2010 (I think that was the year) but it completely wrecked my mom. It wasnt fun. At all. While they were separated, my dad was actually with another woman. They weren't even legally divorced yet. Though that stopped after a few months after they got back together. I really wish they hadn't. I tell my mom this all the time. It would probably be so much better for her to get away from him. Hes toxic and everyone in the family can see it. Even his own mother.

Am I really an asshole for wishing this?