Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : So last night my father passed away. He had been put into a care home for dementia but he passed away suddenly from congestive heart failure. As soon as I got the news I dropped everything and flew home. I never left the home when I got here and was with him when we passed.

When he was put in a nursing home I asked my mother and sister if I should move home. They said no because:

My job is highly specific and only available in two places in the country.

- My hometown is a rural pit where the only available jobs are government, healthcare, or service industry.  So I would've had to bartend or serve tables and put my career on hold.

- We didn't know when he would pass and thought it might be up to even 6 years.

- When lucid he told us all multiple times not to put our life's on hold for him because life is short and he wants us to live it.

So my sister (who was already planning on moving back because she and her husband worked for the state and didn't want to raise her new baby in the city) moved home and offered to help where sho could.

I called home everyday and came home 5 or 6 times a year to help as much as I could. 

Let me stress how I constant brought up to my sister how guilty I felt for not being home and thought about it moving back multiple times, her response was always "no nature_andthe_woods, dad would've never you wanted to put your life on hold, he would be proud of what you do. Don't ruin your life to come home when you might be stuck bartending for 6 years."

Tonight her and I got in a small argument about nothing which turned into her screaming at me for not being here. She told me she resented me for not moving back and I let dad down.

I told her that you and Mom both told me not to move back and her response was "I was lying to make you feel better and you should've known to come home. The fact that you feel guilty means I'm right."

I left to go for a walk and clear my head but I am devastated my only sibling resents me and feel so guilty I wasn't here more.

Additionally, he died of congestive heart failure not the dementia so this was very sudden. He had been in the home 7 months but we thought he might be there for upwards of 6.

So reddit, AITA for not moving home and being there more? 