Throwaway account and on mobile. Apologies. Not going specific in case they browse reddit? But happy to answer any questions. 

Basically I have a friend who is throwing a birthday party for herself. Rather than invite people to a bar she is having everyone pitch in to get a private room at a bar with pool and giant Jenga and pay for an open bar - that only lasts 3 hours and has restrictions on drinks (like no shots and only miller and bud for beer)  Originally she said 30$ a person, now she is coming back and say 40$ a person. I had texted her the other day asking if DD’s still had to pay the same fee and that if I did drink it’d be one drink as I am still breastfeeding and don’t want to pump and dump. She said she wasn’t sure and would get back to me today. Well it’s the end of the day and no word, there was a post on the page for her event (where she invited over 100 people) and it said the new total, so I asked “does that include tax and gratuity”
Answer with: “Yes”
I had checked the website the day before and it said they will only serve one drink per person at a time and no shots are served. So I wanted to clarify and I asked “but no shots and only one drink at a time?” I asked this because it had never been mentioned once on the event page and I have a right to know what I’m getting if I’m going to spend that kind of money. I was met with a barrage of “40$ is great for an open bar, thanks so much *friends name*”
And then finally someone telling me “you don’t have to get the deal” (which should be mentioned on the event - don’t ya think?)  and “you can just get an Uber, you don’t have to DD it’s not that serious” 
To which I replied “well I’m breastfeeding my baby. So” 
Then my friend deleted all my comments and sent me text messages telling me to calm down, that her party isn’t about me, that I was complaining and being rude and that I should’ve texted her and asked my questions. 
I think people have the right to know exactly what their money will get them - especially if it’s 40$ for 3 hours only.. and no shots! But my friend never mentioned specifics on the event- just wants everyone to bring 40$ cash and give it to her and then they can all “have a great time” 
I’m happy to share screen shots if needed in the morning and any more info needed but that’s the basics. So AMITA for questioning what my money gets me ?? 


Edit: people seem to be getting side tracked in the comments. I didn’t ask if I should go or not- this isn’t a discussion on my attendance. I was curious if asking for more details about what’s included in the 40$ fee publicly made me an asshole.