Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : The title is pretty tame but the truth is a lot more specific. 3 years ago I was dating someone for 6 years when she cheated on me and later went into surgery months later which changed her life.

We broke up but because of the love I had and the surgery I elected to try and be the bigger person and remain her friend and even try to mend the relationship. I went through depression and had anxiety for a few years because of what happened.

She insisted the guy she had met(cheated on me with) was an asshole, that it was a mistake and she had zero desire to ever see him again.


Fast forward a few years and I told her clearly I can't get over what happened so I won't be offended if she moved on with someone else, someone who can be there for her and all. That I'd even wait for her to find someone first because this isn't some scheme where I'm trying to hurt her feelings.


My only request as per the title was "I will be your friend as long as you go with anyone but that guy. I'm not saying you can't go with him but if you do I don't want to talk to you because of the drama surrounding it."


Immediately I was called an asshole and not a true friend. I was blasted by not only her but others for not being supportive. She claims that if she did go with him it would be because she hasn't been with anyone else besides me and him. She claimed as a friend I could not tell her who she could and could not date. I agree 10000% but that doesn't mean I have to be her friend in any circumstance...at least I don't think so.


Am I the asshole for not wanting to be involved in that?