Is OTHER wrong in the post ? POST : So some back ground information. At 18 my parents kicked me out and I had to go live with my aunt. We’ve had several spats over the past 10 or so years while I was growing up mainly because they tried to control my every move. 

Growing up nearly anything I wanted to do was off limits. From cartoon shows to hanging out with friends. I was constantly in trouble and grounded a good portion of the time. I’ve never gotten along with my mom and in the past 8 or 9 months I’ve gotten very distant. 

My mom is very controlling, manipulative person and tries to get me to do what she thinks is right rather than letting me make my own choices and mistakes. I have a brother and a sister still living with her that I don’t get to talk to very much because of my mom. Now my dad sees that what my mom is doing is wrong but he’s just choosing to ignore it. I guess hoping it will all go away. 

I finally broke down and texted my mom yesterday saying the normal “ I love you and I miss you” type of thing which is true. I mean they’re my family. She then send me this morning on my birthday(I’m now 19) a long drawn out message about how she thinks that I’m just  using them and that I don’t really want to have a relationship with them. 

So I’ve been texting her all day trying to talk through a lot of the hurt and frustration of the past few years especially. But she keeps coming at me with the I think you’re just using me/us. While I was out at a restaurant with my boyfriend she called me. I had my phone in my purse at the time so I couldn’t hear it going off, I always keep my phone on vibrate. She got very upset when I texted her sorry I missed your call. I told her I’d call her back when we got into the car. So I eat and then go out to the car to call her. 

As soon as she answered it was clear the neither of us were in the mindset to calmly talk through it all. There were several digs at each other and neither of us were really listening to the other person. Then she said something that triggered a panic attack and I asked if we could just put a pin in it and call it a day. She refused to hang up the phone. So I stayed on the line and tried to talk through it all. 

She then decided to bash my boyfriend saying he wasn’t a good person and things of the nature. I just recently moved in with my boyfriend to get away from a very dangerous situation and place. He’s one of the best people I know. When she started to say all the things about my boyfriend I just snapped and hung up the phone. I texted her immediately afterwards apologizing and said I felt like I was being attacked. 

So AITA for hanging up or is it a justified response? Any advice y’all have would be greatly appreciated too. I’m not sure what to do. 