Is AUTHOR wrong in the post ? POST : I was dating this girl for about 4 months before I went on a month-long solo trip to Europe, something I'd never done before. We weren't exclusive at both of our agreement, but were heading to serious territory. She proposed that if I messed around with anyone overseas, she doesn't care as long as she doesn't know about it, which was fine by me and I asked her to do the same. We talked constantly through the whole trip and it felt like the distance really did bring us closer together. I brought her back a gift from one of the countries I visited (and wasn't cheap at all) which was both a memento from my trip and a kind of token that I was ready to take things to the next step.

I get back and she can't wait to see me. She loves the gift and says she'll have it with her forever. The next week we're attached at the hip - going on dates, lots of sex, cuddling, and all the good stuff. Then, out of nowhere she ghosts me. A a couple weeks later she finally gets back to me saying that she doesn't want to date anymore. Her reasoning was, IMO, bullshit for various reasons especially with how out of the blue it was. If she was lying and had met someone else, I earnestly don't care. We weren't exclusive so I understand. However, when it was clear that we were done, I asked her for the gift back since it does mean a lot to me and I only gave it to her for hopes that things would be more long term. Now, I'm not one to do something like that - a gift is a gift - but given I'm not sure when or if I'll be able to visit those countries again and I was home for barely a week before the ghosting, I felt justified in this case. She told me off like I was being a psycho and completely cut me off.

Am I the asshole?