Is EVERYBODY wrong in the post ? POST : I'm 19F &amp; the only one living with my parents, who work long hours, so my mom likes to book an appointment for a deep tissue back massage every so often. She asked me to drive her to her appt, which is in another city about 45 min. away. We planned to visit her sister on the way back since we'd be in town. I agree, &amp; so we made the plan for the 2 of us.

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Then about 20 min. before we leave for the appt., my dad comes home from work. He asks where we're going, &amp; we tell him about the appt. We keep in mind he is very tired from work, but he insists on driving us. We initially refuse, since we made these plans for us &amp; didn't want to deal with his post-work crabbiness, but since he kept insisting, he ended up driving us.

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Halfway through the drive, he says "(my mom's name), I love you but don't you think I get tired from driving you to these appointments?" My mom &amp; I are quiet, astounded that he made it seem like we forced him to go when we both knew it was supposed to be just us. I'm usually outspoken towards my parents but I didn't want to further aggravate him, but I was fuming inside.

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After the appt, we vist my aunt. I was too mad &amp; finally called him out. I said something like, "Dad, you didn't have to drive us, we didn't even ask you &amp; you made it seem like you FORCED you but we didn't. You could've just stayed home, no one invited you. She's the mother of your children, she's put up with you for over 20 years, don't you think she deserves some self-care? You don't even appreciate what she does for us!" I was near tears, he was quiet. My cousins &amp; aunt were awkwardly sitting nearby, &amp; after the silence everything proceeded as normal with some tension.

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When I get into a fight with either of my parents, we forget or act like it hasn't happened by the next day or just avoid each other until we're over it. The car ride home was quiet &amp; I listened to music.

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The next day my dad confronted me, saying he didn't like the way I addressed him in front of our family like that, that it could've waited til we were alone. I said had I confronted him in our own home, he wouldn't have given my words a 2nd thought. It's true my mom works hard &amp; deserves some relaxation, &amp; he wouldn't have thought about it otherwise if he wasn't called out so blatantly about it. The fact that he brought this up the day after it happened proves my confrontation in front of the family worked, &amp; that he did think about it. I just want him to better himself for my mom &amp; their marriage in general (she often complains about his attitude but that's a diff. story) &amp; I honestly don't think he is a good father figure in general, so I'm vocal about it. In the past, he's ignored my confrontations when it comes to my mom, &amp;she isn't the submissive type so she does speak up but she gets tired of dealing with his attitude sometimes.

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Was I wrong for calling him out in front of our family like that?