To clarify before I begin all names have been changed. Also, my apologies for the length of this post.

     Ok so I am in my 4th but not final year of college  (took a year “off”) and absolutely adore one of my best friends since freshman year, we’ll call him Dan. Dan and I have been tight for four years and although I’ve always had a secret crush on him, I’ve always dismissed any signs that he was interested in me. We were both in other relationships for a while and during that span of time, I viewed Dan as just a friend and all my former romantic feelings for him disappeared. 

Now that we are both single those feelings of attraction have crept up again and I have reason to believe he is attracted to me but there is a problem. 

     Sarah, one of my absolute best friends on this earth has been part of our very tight mutual friend group since our sophomore year. She has a massive crush on Dan and everyone in our group (including Dan) knows it. At this point I think that Dan is interested in both of us but I have always deferred to Sarah as I know she is way more invested than I am.  I haven’t really responded to any flirting Dan has done with me because I don’t want Sarah to feel like I have betrayed her. 

But here’s the thing Sarah won’t be around next School Year as she is taking a year abroad. WIBTA for making a move on Dan while she is gone? I more or less plan on at least testing the waters with him but does that make me a snake(asshole)?  