Carrie:  Should n't we be dating men our own age ?
Miranda Hobbes: Good luck finding _ one _ . There are no available men in their thirties in New York . Giuliani had them removed along with the homeless .
Carrie: So , then what 's really going on here ? I mean , is it younger , younger men feel safer ?
Miranda Hobbes: What 's really going on here is sex . Good old - fashioned , eager to please , do what I tell you to , Eagle Scout sex .
Carrie: Yeah , but I 'm not having sex . It 's a kissing thing .
Miranda Hobbes: So , what 's the big deal ? It 's just a fling . It 's not like we 're throwing out our schedules or anything .