Simon:  She 's going to be the hardest to leave and the hardest to hang on to because she 's Ruthie and she 's _ 13 _ and she 's got a boyfriend . And while she understands that I want to leave the rest of the family , she does n't understand how I can leave her but I do n't think she 'll hold it against me , she wo n't have the time to hold it against me . She 's emerging from childhood to adulthood full speed ahead with thoughtful intelligence , a great sense of humor , and a high self esteem . I 'd like to think I had something to do with how great she 's turned out so far and I hope to remain a positive influence in her life , but here 's the thing - I know she feels my pain , we 're that close . And as hard as it is , I really do think it 's best to put a little distance between us right now because I would never forgive myself if I put any rain on Ruthie 's parade , and truthfully I know she will be just fine without me .