In a large, deep skillet, melt the butter over medium heat. Saute onions in the butter for about 5 minutes or until softening.,To the skillet, add the crushed tomatoes, vinegar, sugar, garlic, salt, pepper, oregano and clery seeds; stir well and bring to just a soft boil.,Place chopped cabbage on top (the skillet will be full, but the cabbage will wilt down); reduce heat to medium-low, cover tightly and simmer for 15 minutes.,______,Turn off heat. Stir in the cream cheese; heat through and serve.,***For Crockpot: Put everthing in the crockpot EXCEPT the cream cheese. Cook on low for 6-8 hours or high for about 3 hours (depends on how tender you like your cabbage). When done, stir in the cream cheese.