Remove the kernels from the corn and set aside. This video shows a safe way to do this. http://www.food52.com/blog/2259_how_to_dekernel_corn,______,Dice up the jalapeno, making sure to remove the stem and seeds (unless you like it spicy, then keep the seeds).,Add butter, jalapeno and corn kernels to the saucepan. Stir.,Add salt/pepper and spices. More/less can be added according to taste. Continue cooking for another 5-8 minutes. Reduce heat if needed.,Remove from heat. Add milk and stir. Add lime juice.,Transfer mixture to a food processor. Pulse ~10 times or until everything is incorporated. Do not puree.,Finish with salt/pepper and freshly chopped cilantro. Can be served hot or cold.