> but was a lowly bartender who could not even manage her rent.    Perhaps I'm too judgemental but as far as I'm concerned there's something seriously wrong with anyone who has a 4 year degree and is still working a service industry job.  Either you're not motivated, have a useless degree, or the job enables your self-destructive lifestyle (i.e. you're a bartender because it allows you to drink with impunity).     I understand that money is a factor but there's no upward mobility and any sort of office job is going to offer a better chance to transition into your field of interest.   