Comment: That is fidelity, not chastity. Chaste spouses don't do what it takes to give you an orgasm with non-coital sex. Chastity means no oral foreplay. It means no birth control. It means sex without fun and enthusiasm. No objectifying lingerie. It used to mean no sex on the wedding night in respect the Sacrament or Sunday morning out of respect for the Eucharist. Asexual ideals all._It_means_no_oral_for_the_husband_that_finishes_other_than_in_coitus.