The incident reads almost like satire of the Confucian social hierarchy where wives and children are worth nothing than meat when compared to men of higher social status. 3 kingdoms isn't satire though and is completely serious with its promotion of Confucian patriarchal oppression in scenes like that one which gives me the creeps as well.       There's this saying 老不读三国 which means that old people shouldn't read 3 kingdoms because it teaches grown men to betray, cheat and steal. I don't know how old the saying is but for at least a few decades to centuries its commonly understood in Chinese culture that its Confucian veneer is not right and its characters are not to be emulated. I still love the story but I still have reconcile it with the fact that its morality is at best hypocritical and at worst a textbook in evil.