Comment: Be there for him but don't condone or make excuses. Trying to make it less than what it is won't help him! I have a brother who is a drug addict and alcoholic. He has done horrible things but mommy keeps bailing him out and excusing his behavior...it has made him worse! I feel for you, more than you'll ever know!! Also as a victim of sexual assault, anyone who "down plays" it is only hurting the victim and future victim's from reporting. Truth is whether it was just hot sauce or not it was a foreign object in a place it doesn't belong and that  is considered sodomy and that is a sexual assault! A finger up it without consent IS sexual assault. Please support your brother in love and love is truth! It is the only way to truly help him!