Don't choose to lose weight for anyone but you. Make an awesome life for you and yourself and people will simply want to be around you. It all starts with you, positive selfishness.    And those assholes who take pot-shots at you and tell you that you'll never change, better yourself in spite of them, or outright to spite them. One of these days, you'll be so far passed them. You'll know you have when they start talking about how you 'used to be'.     That's when you've won. Smile and leave their bitterness in the dust.