Maybe you can't. That's the thing. You can't make anyone happy. That's something they need to discover on their own. They might be able to travel that path while still being in a relationship with you, and they might not be able to. Trust yourself and determine what you can handle.     Meanwhile, and whatever you decide, try being assertive without being aggressive when it comes to talking with her about how you are feeling. Try to take the emotion out of it, while also being compassionate to her needs (she has them, too, and if you care about her, it's best to take those needs into consideration).          I only learned these valuable lessons after the fact. It hurt like a son-of-a-bitch and to be honest, I'm not keen to go through a relationship like that again.  But what I can tell you is that I should have been more insistent that we talk. And if that talk wasn't productive to making me feel valued, I would have asked her to leave. This is something you should consider as well.          Take care, my friend.