caption: Grotto quote graphic about lessons from failed relationships: ``1. Don't forget your own worth; 2. listen to your gut; 3. your fulfillment doesn't come from your significant other; 4. don't stay because you're comfortable or idealizing; 5. Don't dwell on your exes' flaws; 6. pain is necessary for growth; 7. see the person first, not your expectations; 8. you can't force love.''