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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend [23/M] wants me [20/F] to have a flatter chest and butt to make him feel more secure.
POST: We've been together for almost a year and get along really well he's really sweet and kind and very loving. I've always had this big ass and really small waist and slightly blessed in the chest area, so I guess I'm like slim but curvy (think Kylie Jenner) and I've always been really insecure about it but never brought it up to my boyfriend and I'd always wear something long that covers my ass.
A few days ago I wore a really short top (above my ass) and boyfriend mentioned that I've got a really large butt and he's quite surprised. I told him I do squats that's why they're big (idk why I feel the need to lie to him about it) and he told me they're really big and I must do squats because I want men to look at me and check me out and he said he didn't understand why women want everything to be big. Big breasts and big butts etc. but he said in a good natured way I guess, half joking half serious. I asked him if he's an ass person and he said no he's not and he'd prefer it if I have a flatter ass and chest so he will feel more secure. And I don't know how to feel about this. I've always been insecure with the way I look (my butt) and now i feel even worse and it upsets me. I don't really know what he means by asking me to be flatter so he'll feel more secure. Should I talk to him or let it slide?
TL;DR: | boyfriend thinks my ass is too big and I should have a flatter ass so he will feel more secure. Help.<|endoftext|> | [
" Boyfriend wants me to be flatter, I'm not sure how to feel about this. Should I talk to him or let it slide?",
" Boyfriend wants me to have a flatter chest and butt to make him feel more secure. I don't know what to do.",
" Boyfriend wants me to have a flatter chest and butt for him to feel more secure and I don't know how to feel about this.",
" Boyfriend wants me to be flatter and I feel so insecure. I don't know what he means and I don't know what to do."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [17/f] Are my boyfriend [18/m] and I being stupid?
POST: Background and first disclaimer: We've been dating for just shy of eight months now (after being very good friends for about two and a half years), and we're both still very much into the relationship. Things have been going very well- that isn't to say we don't have disagreements, but when we do have them, we talk them out, and for the most part, at this point in our lives we agree on a lot of "big things," and the things that we don't know yet, we both accept that we don't know.
Other disclaimer: I'm not asking, "Are we gonna get married?", just if this plan is as stupid as everyone says.
In the fall, I'm going to DC for school. I've been accepted, put in my deposit, all that. DC is nowhere near my hometown. It's a seven-hour-ish drive, from what I remember. He has been looking at programs in community colleges for EMT-B certification prep or nursing, and although initially we'd planned on breaking things off at the end of the school year, we're now both into the idea of him coming to DC as well. He's applied at a community college in DC; we're waiting for the letter back at this point. He has the finance aspect down between his job and his parents' contributions, so please don't comment on that.
We've gotten very polarized reactions to this. Many people are intent on telling us that it won't work out, we're going to grow, etc., and a few people are telling us, hey, we're "young and in love," so go for it, but don't go into it expecting forever and sunshine.
Is it such a bad idea to both go to the same city and continue to see each other when we can? Regardless of if we separate, we both should have pretty decent job opportunities within the region (not to mention not that bad of a dating pool, should it come to that) relative to the rest of the country, so neither of us is getting fucked over by the others' decision to live there.
TL;DR: | Is it a bad idea to continue a high school relationship if we're hoping to go to college in the same city?<|endoftext|> | [
" Is it stupid to be trying to decide whether or not to go to DC and see each other in the fall?",
" Are we being stupid in this plan? Are we making our decision for ourselves? How do we handle it?",
" I'm going to DC, but I don't want to be in a city where I'm being stuck and I don't know if we'll be able to see each other.",
" Don't know if I'm going to DC, and my boyfriend and I both want to go, but we're both going to DC. Not sure if I should go, and I'm going to school."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17f] am worried about what will happen when my boyfriend [18m] of over a year and I break up for college.
POST: I have a lot of emotional issues. For example, I think I have anxiety attacks (working on finding a therapist) and am in general very emotionally reliable on my boyfriend.
For a while, it's just been me against the world. I guess I have a little bit of paranoia too, which coupled with me being a very independent person causes me not to talk to anyone. I will tell my friends things, but it's kind of a "don't put all your eggs in one basket" for me and my secrets. I haven't trusted anyone enough to let them know the real me.
My boyfriend was the first one I truly let in. He knows everything about me and I can talk about anything with me. I'm really worried that when we break up for college, I'll be so emotionally dependent on him that I'll become very depressed and just overall have a really messed up condition. It doesn't help that I also have a history of depression.
Lately I've been feeling okay, and when I talk to friends I'm usually okay, but it's when it's late at night and I'm alone that it gets to me. Then years. Then anxiety attacks about what will happen when he leaves. It also doesn't help that I'm worried about college and the future in general. I'm very much a planner; it's hard for me to live in the moment. I'm so worried that I'm just going to fall apart.
TL;DR: | I am worried about falling apart after breaking up with the only person who knows the true me (will happen in a few months for college). We will have been dating about 1.5 yrs when we break up.<|endoftext|> | [
" I have a lot of issues and I'm going to be in a lot of pain when my boyfriend leaves. I'm worried that I'll get too dependent on him and not be able to handle life in the moment.",
" I'm worried that I'm going to end up feeling like a \"spoiled brat\" for having an independent boyfriend who knows everything about me and is a great listener and can help me get through the day.",
" I'm worried about what will happen when my boyfriend breaks up for college. I'm not sure how to handle it.",
" I don't know if I can handle being emotionally dependent on my boyfriend for the next 2-3 years of college. Is this the right decision?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (16F) friend (16M) keeps hurting my feelings, but I want to remain friends with him?
POST: English is not my first language, so excuse my grammar.
I've known this friend, let's call him Owen, since 6th grade. We had a short relationship around 8th grade for about 3 months, but we remained best friends.
My other best friend, let's call her Rose (16F), is also best friends with Owen and I feel like he if he chooses Rose above me. I feel like I'm the third wheel here. We hang out about 2/3 times a week and they both mean the world to me.
I'm really jealous when it comes to Owen. I get mad when he and Rose hang out without me knowing or without inviting me. He offends me by saying things like "You're stupid" or telling me I'm a bitch and things like that, but he always pretends it to be a joke.
He didn't use to be like that, but this year he switched schools and he started acting really different. We started growing apart and he started making excuses why he couldn't hangout with us, and just being really rude to us.
Here's the thing that really bothers me:
Whenever Lotte asks if Owen can hangout and I can't hangout he wants to. But whenever I ask Owen if we can hangout the first thing he asks is whether Rose can. When I say that she's busy he always says doesn't want to. Which means that he only wants to hang out if Rose is there.
Owen isn't a good friend. He is why I started smoking and my parents know he's not a good influence for me and they don't want me to hangout with him. I think it's a jealousy issue, because I know I shouldn't have someone like him as a friend but I can't imagine my life without him.
What should I do?
TL;DR: | I have a friend who hurts me a lot and makes me feel like shit all the time. I feel like the third wheel with my friends.<|endoftext|> | [
" Friend keeps hurting my feelings, but I want to be friends with him because he's the only one who's interested in me.",
" My best friend, Owen, keeps hurting my feelings and trying to make excuses about it, but I want to hangout with him even though I can't.",
" My friend is too jealous to hangout with me but I want to remain friends. What should I do?",
" My best friend (16M) keeps hurting my feelings, but I want to remain friends with him because I'm jealous."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] find it difficult to talk to my parents [48M & 46F] about even trivial things and it's starting to upset them.
POST: Hi reddit,
Last September I left home for university. This was my first time away from home for a long period of time, and having been raised in a home where family closeness was of high priority, I expected to become extremely homesick.
However, I have not missed my family at all. Even my sister, who is one of my closest friends, I've not missed. I feel bad about it, as the last time I visited, my mother sat down with me and told me how upset she had been as it had been a long time since I had last called or texted her. I don't like seeing her upset, so I said I would try to contact them more often.
Even when I am home, I no longer feel like I can tell them as much as I used to. When they do ask me questions about my education, my friends, or my new girlfriend, I tend to give short, quick answers. This also upsets them.
I don't know why I do it though. My mother seems to believe that I think she's being nosey when she asks me questions, and I know she isn't, yet she still reassures me that she's just interested in what I'm doing. I feel bad myself, I just don't open up as much as I used to.
A few nights ago, the family was talking about estranged siblings of my grandparents. My mother actually said that it wouldn't surprise her if I lost contact completely with her one day.
I'm at a loss reddit. I don't know what it is that's causing me to be so secretive and quiet with my family when I used to tell them everything. I really would like to get back to how I was, as I hate seeing my family so upset. I want to be able to talk to them again properly, so what should I do?
TL;DR: | Stopped talking to family a lot once I left home, found out this really upset them. I want to change, but I don't know what to change to how to change it.<|endoftext|> | [
" I don't like talking to my parents as much as I used to, even though they are my closest friends. What can I do?",
" I've been homesick since leaving home and don't want to open up with my family as much anymore, so I keep them in the dark.",
" I feel like my parents don't want to talk to me about my career, and my friends or my girlfriend, and I don't know why.",
" I find it difficult to talk to my parents and they seem to be upset at me. I feel bad about it, but I don't know how to fix it."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have you ever had a lifegasm?
POST: I have.
Me and 3 of my mates went over to Berlin to stay for a month last Summer, it was all amazing but I had this one defined moment that will always stick with me.
After staying in a hostel for a few days we decided to stay in a camping complex. It was this big place with a hollowed out swimming pool round the back where people that were staying there socialized and held events, with a bar and cooking spot beside it. The weather was very pleasant.
The 1st day the lads were a bit tired and went for a quick nap 'round 7. I wasn't tired so I took a walk around to the aforementioned spot. I was very confused to see pro skaters just jamming in the swimming pool getting video'd by some director, grinding off the walls and such, very cool! Not only this, but going on *right* next to them was an old school small jazzy dance thing with speakers, I'm not even sure how to describe it as the mix of music played was crazy and there was lot of funky dancing going on. Old and young people having fun. Some beautiful women also...and then *next* to this again, a small volleyball court where a few talented kids were having a game.
So I get a spot on the side sitting down, chilling, overlooking **all** of this, put on my mates high quality headphones, spark a spliff I rolled earlier and listened to Pink Floyd's 'Shine On You Crazy Diamond'. Nice ey? Sitting there on my own in a foreign country around people I don't know having alot of fun, in the warmth of evening, baked, listening to one of my favourite songs. My whole body was just tingling and floating in contentedness watching all of the movements and general buzz around the place, it was epic. How can life get better? I was just sitting there trying to hide the big grin on my face. It's a peak in my life that I would never forget.
Just came through my mind there and thought I would share. Have you ever had a lifegasm Reddit?
TL;DR: | Went to a mixture of events at the same time in a foreign country on my own on a warm evening and chilled.<|endoftext|> | [
" I was in Berlin and watched people in a fun place. Had a lifegasm.",
" Had a really awesome weekend in Berlin, had a lifegasm. ",
" Have you ever had a lifegasm?",
" Have you ever had a lifegasm?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: HYPOTHETICAL - Any State, USA. If you were involved in a serious car accident, and the responsible party were found not to be under the influence of alcohol- but instead impaired because of health reasons- what legal recourse would you have?
POST: Just wondering. Personally- I'm a type 1 diabetic (juvenile diabetes, it's sometimes called- like the Axel Rose, needs insulin shots kind of diabetes- not the overweight Wilford Brimley diaabeetus kind of diabetes.) I was in a store today, and I began to feel the symptoms of hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) - and I grabbed some (mark down easter!) candy and went to sit in my car. I tested my blood sugar, and it was in fact low.
I was 60 mg/dl - for reference an average non diabetic is usually around 70 to 80 comfortably. A T1 diabetic is usually aiming to be between 80 and 110 depending on how strict their doctor is.
Symptoms of hypoglycemia can often mimic drunk behavior - shakiness, dizziness, sweating, hunger, irritability or moodiness, anxiety or nervousness, and headache. Some, all, or none.
So, I sat in my car, ate my chocolate, and waited until about 20 minutes later, and retested my blood sugar to verify that I was back up to safe range (I was back up to 144- I over shot it, cadbury eggs man.) At that time I drove home.
TL;DR: | Situation made me think of potential legal ramifications - when a medical side effect can cause impairment similar to that of being drunk- do the legal ramifications line up accordingly if you cause an accident similar to a drunk driving incident? <|endoftext|> | [
" I was driving home, and I overshot my blood sugar, and had to drive home. ",
" I'm a diabetic, I test low blood sugar, and it's 90 degrees outside - and I was driving home in my car, eating some candy, and it was 90 degrees outside. ",
" I was in a car accident, and my driver was found not to be under the influence of alcohol, but instead was hypoglycemic. What legal recourse would I have? ",
" I was a glutton, and took a candy bar, and the next thing I know I'm home, but I was low on blood sugar, and driving home was a nightmare."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (28M) came up with this idea to make a girl (24f) laugh so that she will like me. Is it stupid?
POST: I got this girl's number, sent her a couple texts. She responded to the first one, but not the second or third one. A rational person here would say she doesn't care about you and you have to move on. I want to make one last attempt. I'm going to call her, which I assume she won't answer, and sing "A whole new world" from Aladdin on her voicemail (and use "something, something, something" for parts of the song I don't remember for comedic effect) and say, "see how many guys will sing to you like I will? Just calling to see if you are available on Saturday to go out for some dinner" Hopefully it gets her to laugh and she thinks its cute enough that she'll accept my plea. What do you think?
TL;DR: | I want to sing a funny song on a girl's voicemail as a last ditch effort to see if she'll go on a date with me. Is it stupid or cute?<|endoftext|> | [
" I want to make a girl laugh at my stupid joke and see if I can get her to like me. ",
" Made a girl laugh and she responded with a smiley face. I need to make her laugh again.",
" I want to make a girl laugh so that she'll like me. She won't answer my texts, and I want to make a girl laugh. I think it's stupid.",
" I'm going to call a girl who doesn't answer my texts and sing \"A whole new world\" from Aladdin on her voicemail to see if she will like me. What do you think?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] am having second thoughts about my new relationship [24M] after about a month, but we've been friends for seven years.
POST: I've been friends with this guy for seven years. He's had feelings for me just about that whole time. I had a boyfriend for five of those years.
A year ago, that boyfriend left me for someone else.
A month ago, I agreed to start "dating" my friend of seven years.
I'm having serious doubts. First of all, my feelings for him nowhere near match his feelings for me. Second, I think about my ex all the time. I miss him, I compare him to this new guy and he wins. Third, I am depressed and busy with school, two things that make me want to seclude myself. So I don't WANT to be around anyone, let alone my new boyfriend.
I don't know how to do this, how to tell him I am not ready for this, without ruining the friendship we had for seven years. I don't want him to be out of my life completely, I just need more time. I need more time before I can consider dating anyone, and I also don't even know if we should be together in this way at all. He's a very sensitive and emotional fellow. Affectionate and kind of dramatic. I'm the opposite. And his emotional needs *annoy* me. ALREADY! After a month!
How can I go about this? I feel terrible, because he's been waiting for this for years...but...I feel trapped and icky. It just doesn't feel right. Help me, reddit!
TL;DR: | Friend of seven years is now my boyfriend, but I don't like it. How can I gently tell him we need to step back? We don't work together.<|endoftext|> | [
" I am having second thoughts about my new boyfriend and I'm having trouble telling him to stop! How do I tell him I'm not interested in this and how can I do this?",
" I've been in a relationship for seven years, and I've been in a relationship for seven years, and now I'm dating my new boyfriend. How can I handle this, without ruining our friendship?",
" I am dating a guy I've been friends with for seven years. We've been dating for about a month. I don't want to date him, but I feel like he's going to be with me for a long time. How can I do this without ruining the friendship we've had for seven years?",
" I'm having second thoughts about my new relationship, I'm going to need more time, I'm uncomfortable with the guy, and I'm having second thoughts about dating him."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22/m] don't know what I'm feeling for my family friend [18/f]. It's been a year already.
POST: Jess and I have known each other for our entire lives. Our parents were friends in college so we'd always spend time together.
However, for the past couple of years, I have been busy with college, so I never actually went out with that family whenever my parents went.
Last summer, we spent the weekend at their house and this was probably the first time I actually noticed her as someone who wasn't just the daughter of a family friend. We talked for a while and she is actually really cool. We have similar interests and a compatible personalities. Every time my parents would go to their house now, I would always tag along, even if it meant cancelling other plans. She's just one of the coolest people I've met.
She's starting community college this Fall and I'm starting grad school at a university that's 10 miles away from her college.
Her parents are strict with her and rarely let her go out. I don't think she's ever been in a relationship before.
Every time I'm around her I just feel great. I've tried to date other girls this year, but every time I'm out with them, I just think of her.
Is this just lust? Should I just ignore this or try to date her? I don't want things to be awkward with our families.
TL;DR: | Love hanging out with family friend. She's starting CC and I'm starting grad school. Don't know what I'm feeling for her.<|endoftext|> | [
" I don't know what I'm feeling for my family friend. She's a cool person, but she's never been in a relationship before. What should I do?",
" I don't know if I'm feeling romantic feelings for my family friend or not. I want to date her but I don't know if it's a good idea.",
" I know my family friend, but I don't know if I'm feeling the same way for her. Should I just ignore it or try to date her?",
" I'm dating a friend that is my cousin and I'm starting grad school at a university that's 10 miles away from her college. I don't know what to do."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Should I (19M) ask out one of my best friend's exes (18F) who he really doesn't like anymore, and she has been flirting?
POST: So they dated Freshman Year (i'm a sophomore now) and had a kinda average teenage relationship of breaking up and getting back together but really liked each other. Now they've been broken up for about 5 months but we all see each other from time to time because of mutual friends and living in the same dorm. She kinda has some resentment against my best friends current girlfriend (one of my other best friends) b/c she tends to think she stole him while they were "on a break and figuring things out..." All the while this girl has been dropping hints that she likes me, like flirting and such, and I've kinda had a thing for her since freshman year.
Do i go for her and possibly upset my best friends who really don't like her and would be ok with but kinda weirded out by my dating her? She is beautiful, talented (great singer and dancer), and really smart (Computer Science major, and a girl... not often that happens lol) and is exactly the kind of girl ive been looking for. I'm afraid if i don't go for her now i'll lose the opportunity to have what I've always wanted but i don't want to make it really weird in my friend group...
TL;DR: | Should i date one of my best friend's exes and make it weird for our friend group, even though she seems like the perfect girl for me and into me?<|endoftext|> | [
" I want to ask out my best friend's exes who he really doesn't like anymore but I don't want to upset his best friends who think she's the one who stole him.",
" How should i approach one of my best friend's exes who she is flirting with.",
" Should I ask out a girl I've been wanting to date but have no idea if she likes me or not, and if she does, if I should be upset or happy?",
" Should I ask out a girl who I really like and is a total pussy, who I've been flirting with for years?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [M/14] Got a girls number now I need help executing my plan to get in a relationship.
POST: So as title says I got her number but the problem is when is a good time to text her. I like her she doesn't know. I have slowly been complimenting and holding the door for her after class and etc. I can only talk to here in one class. That's because the rest of the time she's with friends. We both haven't had first kisses. I have texted her once we played the question game. We have a lot in common. I want to text her but I'm scared I will text her to much. When Is a good time? How long should I wait. A day or two? What can I do to sort of make it obvious I like her without saying it. I really don't wanna mess this up. When I can see us being together. Also is texting on the weekend ok? I want to but I'm scared she'll be with friends and it'll be awkward. Help me reddit. She's the girl of my dreams! Also we both like Pokemon double win. We have known each other for 1 year. We recently got interested in talking last month.
TL;DR: | like girl girl of dreams. Got number need help texting her. Need things to say. How often is good to text?<|endoftext|> | [
" Got a girl number, need help executing my plan to get in a relationship. Texting her on the weekend is ok but I don't know when is a good time.",
" Got a girl's number but I'm scared she'll be with friends and it'll be awkward if I text her too much. Need help on when I can text her.",
" I've been texting her but I'm scared I will text too much and text her too soon. Help me reddit. She's the girl of my dreams. She has a lot in common.",
" I want to text her but I'm scared she'll text too much and I'll mess up the plan."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I trust no one except my uncle who is a Vietnam Veteran. How do I file restraining orders against my immediate family?
POST: These events occurred a few weeks ago in FOLSOM, CALIFORNIA 95630 and I want revenge:
1. My mother and sister trespassed into my home and started a fight with me. Instead of taking their bait and breaking their jaw, I locked myself in my bathroom and called the police (911).
2. The police department came to my home and evicted all of us. My mother and sister claimed I was a danger to myself and others, so the police took me to the hospital for evaluation. I was cleared to go home by a physican, a physicians assistant, and a registered nurse, but the social worker was a bitch and didn't like that I complained about having to spend hours and hours in the emergency room while all hell broke loose around me.
4. The social worker placed me into an involuntary 5150 hold.
5. I was transferred by ambulance to a mental hospital.
6. The stay at the mental hospital was the worst experience of my life. Not only was I not rehabilitated in any way, but I was left with brain damage that has now left me with severe auditory and visual hallucinations.
7. I left the Sacramento area to live with my uncle and aunt in the San Francisco region to escape my demons. It did not work. My mother and sister followed me and have continued to pick fights with me and mock me for having mental illness.
8. I want my sister, father, and mother out of my life forever. My mother and sister abused me physically as a child. My father left our family for years and I had to act as man of the house from a very early age.
9. I don't know the California legal system well enough to know how to file restraining orders against my family and I am requesting immediate backup.
10. If you help me, I will pray for you for the rest of my life which won't be long actually since I have end stage liver disease.
I will never be the same person I was before this incidence, and I fear that what I have done as a result of my brain damage will cause me to burn in hell. I have no chance at heaven.
TL;DR: | Fuck my life. Fuck humanity. Fuck the police. Fuck the United States of America. NATO, major non-Nato allys, and Israel are the only thing saving this country from the apocalypse. <|endoftext|> | [
" My uncle and aunt are mentally abusing me and want to leave me alone. I need to file restraining orders against my immediate family, and I need backup.",
" I don't know how to file restraining orders against my family and I want help in finding a way to get rid of them.",
" I can't trust anyone except my uncle who is a Vietnam Veteran. How do I file restraining orders against my immediate family?",
" My immediate family has continued to pick fights with me and have abused me mentally and physically. I am seeking immediate backup from my uncle and aunt."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Gf (33) of 3 months, has annoying dog. Me (23) not coping with lack of sleep and being frustrated.
POST: I'm not a huge fan of dogs. For starters, the way they smell really bothers me, I can't handle the constant need for attention and all the barking, growling etc.
This is an ALWAYS inside dog. He's always in the bedroom when we are or he sooks. My gf falls asleep easy but I struggle. Her dog can't sit still and is either scratching, chewing or scratching up the carpet keeping me awake. He jumps on the bed and and growls at me if I try to move him. Being a sensitive sleeper, I'm finding it hard to fall asleep.
The dog and I get along fine. He does like me. He just growls when I try to move him. He feels entitled to the bed and this really annoys me.
TL;DR: | gfs dog is annoying and keeping me up. Sooks all night if not in the bedroom. Don't know how to ask her to do something about it/what to ask her to do.<|endoftext|> | [
" Gf (33) of 3 months, has annoying dog. I (23) not coping with lack of sleep.",
" I'm having a hard time falling asleep and my gf's dog gets to me if I try to move him.",
" Gf has annoying dog that I can't sleep. Gf does not like him and he doesn't like me. I'm trying to sleep.",
" Gf and I have annoying dog, he's always in the bedroom and I'm constantly waking up."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it wrong for me [24M] to pursue with a polyamorous person [24F] when I'm unsure of how secure I would feel?
POST: Hey, so I recently met this amazing woman, and I've gotten the impression that she is interested in me as well. The issue is, I have been informed that she is polyamorous, and I have no idea how I would handle a relationship like that. Obviously I have no right to ask her to stop as a condition on dating me, but I'm just doubtful of my ability to feel secure in a relationship where my partner is dating other people. I don't have any moral issue with the idea, but I feel like I wouldn't be able to view a relationship between us as being authentically real or intimate if other people were involved. Complicating things is that fact that this would be my first relationship, so I'm afraid of being even more insecure than I would be otherwise. If we did enter into a relationship, I feel like I'd just be waiting for us to "graduate" to a monogamous one, and that seems very unfair to her since I assume she has no particular plans to stop seeing other people.
This feels really terrible, because I get almost no attention from women, let alone someone as great as she is, so it sucks that this one incompatibility makes it not work. I'm pretty tired of being single, so it feels regrettable that I have to pass up an opportunity to be with someone I like who likes me.
TL;DR: | I'm interested in a polyamorous person, but don't know if I can feel comfortable in a relationship with them. Should I just walk away?<|endoftext|> | [
" I'm unsure of how to be a good boyfriend for a polyamorous woman, and I'm worried that I'll end up getting in trouble if I do.",
" Is it wrong for me to pursue with a polyamorous person if I'm unsure how secure I would feel?",
" I have a lot of doubts about how secure I would feel in a polyamorous relationship, and I don't know how I would handle it, so I'm looking for advice on how to proceed.",
" I have no idea how to deal with polyamorous people, and am unsure of how I'd feel about a relationship with someone who is polyamorous."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: If someone believes that life is based mainly on self-fulfilment...
POST: what is the point if there are no goals, ambition, or dreams to fulfill? The short answer would be to "find goals and ambition," but what if it's not that easy. I struggle with depression and I am currently on medication. I went because a friend thought it could help with my inability to find anything I enjoyed and my lack of energy. It hasn't so far. I also have a deep rooted belief in cosmicism, which makes me question the true significance of our existence to no avail. There really is no point. Everything we have today is based off of things humans found important, but the underlying truth is that none of it really matters. We'll die one day, just like everything else alive. Random events such as ourselves will come and go, with no real purpose. I don't enjoy life due to this questioning and mainly sit in my room for hours of the day playing video games to distract myself in worlds that are actually enjoyable. I wasn't like this is in the past but something changed and I don't really know how much more of this shit I can take.
TL;DR: | I have a deep rooted belief that our existence is ultimately insignificant and I'm making myself more miserable by the minute. *"Ignorance is bliss"*<|endoftext|> | [
" Do I just sit in front of my computer all day? Is life meaningless? Is there any point in living?",
" I'm not sure if I can handle this life and honestly I don't know how much longer I can continue to live this way. I'm not sure if I'm ready for this.",
" I'm stuck and don't know what to do. Help.",
" I'm depressed and I'm on medication and I'm not sure if I can take it anymore."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Dog Vets of Reddit: Question on IVDD and healing
POST: So my dog is a mut of sorts who I adopted about 4 years ago. A little over a year ago I noticed he was in pain and not soon after, he couldn't walk. I took him to the vet hospital in the area and he was diagnosed with IVDD and immediately taken in for surgery. The surgery was successful in releasing the pressure and making the pain stop for my dog. The surgeon also said that the spinal cord seemed to be pretty healthy, a little bruised, but in good condition. Still, they said the chances of a recovery was around 30% or so - he was paralyzed from about mid-abs down. I was happy to hear the spinal cord was in good health but still shocked to hear such a low recovery rate. Anyways, I took him to a couple of post surgery check ups where they tested for deep pain sensation and he didn't seem to have any. They said the outlook on him recovering was very slim.
Well a year has passed and he is as happy as can be. I have a wheel chair for him and try to make his life as easy as possible. Within the last few months though, I've noticed some slight changes... he alerts me when he needs to go out, though he can't completely hold it if I am not there, and more importantly, I think he is starting to get DPS back. This observation comes from sitting here on the couch doing homework recently and when he's not paying attention, I poke his back feet with my pencil. I can see his body twitch the leg and after doing it a few times he becomes obviously annoyed. Now, I tried this before, and he never responded so this is kind of exciting to me.
So, my question is, if he is actually starting to get feeling back, what are some things I can do to help encourage his body to heal? That would be amazing just to have him walking again! It's obvious the muscle mass in the back legs has diminished as well. Any feedback or suggestions would be awesome.
Here is a pic of him in his wheel chair
TL;DR: | Dog was diagnosed and had surgery for IVDD and was paralyzed from his mid abs down.. No DPS initially but seems to have started developing it recently. What can I do to encourage his body to heal and regain functionality<|endoftext|> | [
" My dog has started to feel a little better, I have noticed some changes in his motor skills. I'm curious how I can encourage him to heal.",
" Dog healed on IVDD, I've noticed some slight changes in his body. Should I be encouraging him to heal or is it best to wait and see if he can get back to where he was?",
" Dog has no feeling in his back legs but he is still walking, can he heal?",
" Dog has pain in his back legs but doesn't feel it. Is this just a bad dream? What can I do to encourage his body to heal?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I turn friends with benefits into a serious relationship?
POST: So I've been friends with benefits with this girl for a while. We hang out a lot, and do it more than I would care to mention. Our interaction isn't exclusively limited to sex; we talk a lot our feelings and what's going on in our lives and such. Every weekend we go out on a date, and the dates are a blast. My parents like her, and we have become really close as friends. However, she has maintained that she wants this to be emotion free, since she is a second semester high school senior and I am a junior, and it will be messy when she has to go to college. She doesn't know yet where she's going but the most likely school is very close (less than 20 minute drive) to where I live. She has said that if she goes there she'll keep this going, but I don't want to come to expect that and have it not happen.
Anyway, like all the movies have suggested will occur, I have fallen for her. I think about her all the time (we also text message all the time) and by comparison doing anything else has become not that much fun. I'm probably in love with her, but she has said specifically "Don't fall in love with me," so I'm worried about what will happen if I tell her. I think the feeling is mutual, but I have no way to be sure. How do I find out without screwing up what I have going?
TL;DR: | I'm friends with benefits with this girl, but I want us to get into a serious relationship. How should I do this?<|endoftext|> | [
" I want to be in a relationship with a girl who is looking for emotional connection, but I don't want to bring up the possibility of her going to college. ",
" I'm friends with benefits with this girl, but she's not really interested in going to college. What should I do?",
" We hang out a lot, but she wants to be a serious relationship, but I'm worried she won't like it.",
" I've fallen for a girl who wants to keep this relationship without emotions. I'm worried about whether or not I'll be in love with her."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by biting my fingernails
POST: This actually happened to me on Saturday. A little backstory, I have a bad habit of biting my fingernails, chewing on them for a minute or so and then just spitting them out wherever I am. Gross, I know and my wife always yells at me. Anyway. So my wife and I were out and about, going here and going there, when I stopped at a gas station. She went in to get something to snack on. While she was inside I proceeded to bite one of my fingernails. Not wanting to spit it out in her car, I put it in the straw from a drink I had earlier in the day. It was watered down at this point and I assumed it to be trash. She comes back to the car and we start to pull away. Almost out of the parking lot when I hear, "WHAT THE FUCK?!" I slam on the brakes and my wife jumps out of the car and begins puking right in the parking lot. She had obviously sipped the drink and gotten a disgusting mixture of watered down soda and my fingernail. She now hates me.
TL;DR: | I bit my fingernails and put them in a cup I thought was trash. My wife drank them and threw up.<|endoftext|> | [
" I bite my fingernails, spit them out in a parking lot. Wife hates me.",
" I had a bad habit of biting my fingernails and I put them in a straw before I spit them out. Wife hates me for it.",
" I bit my fingernails and put them in a straw, got a nasty mixture, and now my wife hates me.",
" I just bit my fingernails and spit them out in a parking lot. Wife hates me, and now hates me."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] almost 3 years, constant interaction with her ex-partners
POST: Hey guys,
sorry for my bad grammar. I'm not a native speaker!
Here you go:
I'm very happy with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and I'm definetly not thinking about breaking up! I trust her very much. It's definetly my problem.
Anyway, during the last year I developed some kind of insecurity or jealousy about my girlfriends sexual past. I try very hard to deal with it in a mature way and I think it's getting better! I have also read lots of threads here on reddit, but couldn't find very much advice for my specific problem:
As long as I don't need to see any of her sexual ex-partners (mostly one-night-stands or non-serious short-term interactions) I'm pretty good. I've learned to deal with my thoughts and try not to get in a bad mood because of it. Like I said: it's getting better!
My problem is that some of those guys are in the same social group and I have to see and talk to them on a regular basis. For example: Upcoming birthday party: one affair (2 weeks) and her first boyfriend are coming as well.
I don't blame her for having a sexual past, but can't help but having all those gross and depressing thoughts/pictures in my head. And thats especially when I have to be in the same room as those guys. Maybe some of you have good advice or dealt with the same problem!! Thanks
TL;DR: | I feel bad and depressed when I have to see und interact with some of my girlfriends sexual ex-partners. How to deal with it?!<|endoftext|> | [
" I have a problem with my girlfriend's sexual past and I can't help but think about her ex-partners. I can't help but have all those nasty thoughts/pictures in my head.",
" My girlfriend had a sexual past and I can't help but have these thoughts and pictures in my head. I'm not an adult and can't just ignore them, how can I deal with it?",
" I'm not sure if I'm over-thinking my girlfriend's sexual past, but I think it's getting better. I don't know if I'm over-thinking it or if I'm just not taking it seriously enough.",
" I'm having a problem with my girlfriend's sexual past. I don't see any way to deal with it but I'm trying to learn about myself and my thoughts."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear College Dropouts/Break Takers -- Do you have any regrets?
POST: School and I never got along. I was always the "smart" kid that went unchallenged and hated it. I wound up being homeschooled in high school, and didn't do too much, but I still got in the highest percentile for all the standardized tests.
That allowed me to work full time, and I wound up working a pretty good paying job (35k+) right after I turned 18. Eventually, I decided I didn't want to do it for the rest of my life and opted to go to college and the ripe age of 22.
Now it's been three years, and I only have two years worth of credits completed. There were two semesters that I wound up having to medically withdraw from. This killed my credit completion percentage, and I've had to fight for financial aid every semester. This semester, it seems like I will lose the battle and won't get any aid.
My fiance just graduated and we are set to be married next summer. I don't want to live this college town after we are married. A relative in our home town has a basement apartment we can live in rent-free which will allow us to save up money for the wedding, and eventually a down payment on a house of our own. However, I am really worried that I won't ever find motivation to go back to college.
A degree was never really important to me, but now I'm super interested in politics, and I know I will need one to have a realistic chance to getting elected to office. I've never really "learned" anything... I'm just in it for the piece of paper.
So... who out there has taken that statistically morbid "break" from college and not gone back and regretted it? Or who took a significant break and DID make it back? How hard was it? Is there anyone that dropped out of college and is still super successful?
TL;DR: | I likely will have to take significant time off from college, and am wondering if anyone out there has actually taken a break and made it back, or dropped out entirely and still made a successful life for themselves.<|endoftext|> | [
" Haven't dropped out of college, and I don't have any regrets. I'm really interested in politics, and I need a good resume.",
" I'm not really sure how to make college work for me and my fiance, but I'm really worried we won't be able to afford a house.",
" I'm not sure if I'm going to college, or if I'll regret it. I don't know if I'm going to regret it or not.",
" Do you have any regrets from college? How did you handle the break? How long do you think it'll take to make it back to college and get a degree?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Gifts for day-of wedding helpers?
POST: My fiancé and I are a bit untraditional and decided to nix the wedding party idea. Instead, we have some close friends and family members helping with tasks usually delegated to bridesmaids and groomsmen: shower planning, crafts, etc., as well as readings, handing out programs, and helping to decorate.
None of them have had to buy dresses or rent tuxes, but some of them have put in a lot of time and effort into helping us with our wedding. We want to thank them with nice gifts, but we're struggling to think of something nice and meaningful.
My initial thought was gift cards for each (to different places, depending on the person), but our budget is pretty low. By the time we spent, say, $25 on each gift card (roughly 10-12 people), that's a lot of money. I also thought a bottle of wine for each might be nice, but my parents suggested something more personal and lasting.
Any ideas? No set budget, but we're probably looking to spend less than $15-20 per person. I recognize that many people spend $50 or more on bridal party gifts, but keep in mind that very few of these people have had to spend any money other than what the typical guest spends (travel, lodging). I do not think any of them will be expecting gifts, as many of them will only be helping on the day of.
TL;DR: | No bridal party. We want to give gifts to our day-of helpers (readings, programs, etc). Looking for meaningful/lasting gift ideas that won't break the bank.<|endoftext|> | [
" Is there a way to help these people with their day-of wedding without spending a lot of money? Or is it just a waste of money?",
" I want to give gifts to day-of helpers for their time and effort, but I'm having a hard time figuring out what to give.",
" I've thought of the gift idea for bridesmaids, but am having difficulty thinking of something nice and lasting that will be helpful for the day of.",
" What would be nice for someone who has spent time helping me with my wedding, but may not have had to spend any money?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (18f) just leave him (20m) alone or just wait for him?
POST: I've had the biggest crush on this guy, and when we first met, I was looking for a job and he told me to apply at his. Luckily, I got the job and we quickly became really close friends. Throughout my time working with him, I could never tell if he was really interested though. We'd sit in my car after work and talk for hours, but he'd never make a move or anything so I just thought that he considered us really great friends. Anyway, he's left for college, about 10 hours away, and his last day at work was right before new years, when we finally hung out one on one.
On New Years, we went to a friend's house and ended up upstairs in my friend's room. There, we began to play-fight, and ended up laying on the bed and talking for an hour, until I finally couldn't stand it anymore and kissed him mid-sentence. We ended up making out for a while, and then we went downstairs and watched a movie, cuddling on the couch and touching each other under a blanket. After the movie ended, we went back upstairs and we hooked up, pausing only to look at the clock and see that it was midnight, said happy new years, kissed and kept going ;) and then finished up around one. When it was time to go, we walked to his car and he kissed me goodbye, and he told me "see ya in four months" since he'd be coming back to our job after spring semester was over.
Anyway, the day after, I texted him that I couldn't stop thinking about him, and he responded with "haha what are you up to?" and we had the whole "not much, wbu?" convo before it just died.
we haven't really talked since. his birthday was yesterday, and I called him but he didn't answer. it sucks because I really like him and think he's amazing, so should I just leave him alone since he doesn't seem to share the same sentiments I do regarding hooking up, or should I wait around on the chance that maybe when he comes back, we can pick up where we left off?
thanks :)
TL;DR: | I hook up with close friend (who i really like) day before he leaves for college. he'll be back in four months. should i wait on the off chance that we can pick back up where we left off?<|endoftext|> | [
" I really like this guy, but I can't seem to stop thinking about him, and I have the feeling he won't be coming back to my place. Should I just leave him alone, or should I wait until he comes back?",
" My boyfriend of 3 months left me for college, and I can't tell if he's serious about the relationship or if he's just trying to get away from me.",
" I have a crush on a guy I've known for a while, and he's left for college a week ago, but he still hasn't texted me back. Should I just leave him alone, or should I try to figure out what I can do to keep him interested?",
" I had the best crush on my best friend for a year, but he left for college and now we're just not talking. Should I leave him alone?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (23M) Recently broke up with my now ex girlfriend (21F) of 2 years and she didn't expect it at all. Starting to have doubts, have I done the right thing?
POST: Basically, she is a lovely girl. Kind, good looking and understanding, even when I was in the process of breaking up with her. However, she is new to things in the bedroom and struggles to communicate her likes/dislikes despite me pushing in the nicest possible way for her to reveal them. Secondly, she is a student with lots of free time where as i have just taken on a career that takes up all my time apart from weekends. These were my main reasons for calling it off, as well as me being young and worried i haven't played the field enough, so to speak.
However since calling it off, I have been having doubts about my decision. she is an outstanding girl and one I would have loved to have met just a few years later on. Have any of you ever been in a similar situation? What decisions did you make? any advice in general is welcome.
TL;DR: | Was it worth me finishing it with an absolutely lovely girl for the sake of a few more years messing around and a little less time on my own?<|endoftext|> | [
" I broke up with a lovely girl and now i am having doubts about my decision. Should I have done it sooner?",
" Had a great relationship with a girl for 2 years, but now she is asking for a break up and I am having doubts.",
" broke up with a great girl of 2 years and she didn't expect it at all. Starting to doubt and not sure if i should go for it.",
" Break up with ex girlfriend, feel like she did not expect it, have doubts about making the right decision."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do i [29M] keep my girlfriend [23F]. Help.
POST: Hi,
This is my first post, ever. I love reddit. I have a problem, my girlfriend is starting to lose interest in me.
The situation: i have been in a relationship with this perfect, funny, smart, genuine, BEATUIFUL girl for 4 years. We have been living in different cities the whole time, at first it was far apart our towns, now its a 2,5 hr trainride. So we see each other every other weekend, either at her place or at mine. We are best friends. She is the love of my life.
The problem: As time passes by, we have gotten used to this way of living, and my perfect, funny, smart, genuine, BEATUIFUL girlfriend is starting lose the spark she once had. I havent lost mine and that kinda sucks. This has been going on for 3 months. We have talked about this, and she feels we need to get the spark back (obviously), and do exciting things together. But she has no idea what that might be.
Help: What should i do? Do you have any suggestions of romantic/exciting/(cheap)/fun/spontaniously (i know this post makes everything less "spotaneous", but she doesnt need to know i made it) stuff to do? Give me your best suggestion. Pleaaaase. Im 29 years old, got a job, but not filthy rich, and desperate not to lose my perfect, funny, smart, genuine, BEATUIFUL girlfriend.
TL;DR: | What kind of funny/exciting/spontaneous activites can i do with my girlfriend to get the spark back? <|endoftext|> | [
" I have a girlfriend who is starting to lose interest in me, and we need to get the spark back. Help.",
" my girlfriend is losing interest in me and the relationship. She is starting to lose her spark. Do i have any suggestions of romantic/exciting/(cheap)/fun/spontaniously (i know this post makes everything less \"spotaneous\", but she doesnt need to know i made it) stuff to do? Give me your best suggestion. Pleaaaase. Im 29 years old, got a job, but not filthy rich, and desperate not to lose my perfect, funny, smart, genuine, BEATUIFUL girlfriend.",
" girlfriend is losing interest in me, and i have no idea what to do to get her back.",
" I have a girl, who is starting to lose her spark. We are living apart, but i dont know what to do. Help."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26M] just found out my girlfriend [24 F] considers herself bisexual.
POST: We got into a discussion about sex dreams, and she brought up that the majority of her sex dreams are about other women, and only sometimes include men. Also, when she looks at pornography she mentioned she watches mostly lesbian porn. So I asked her, "soo, you consider yourself bisexual, without a doubt then". She said yes.
In the past she has sort of hinted at it, mentioning that she has had a threesome (wmw) and sort of experimented in college. She has mentioned that she also wants to have a threesome with me and another woman. She claims that they are just erotic feelings for other women, and could never feel romantically for another. So I asked, "have you kissed another woman lately?". She said that only once, a good friend of hers and they were really drunk.
I'm only writing this because it is a lot to try and understand after being with her for over 3 years, and now I am confused on how I should handle it. She talks about getting married, having, kids, etc, but failed to mention these details up until this point. We talked about it late last night, and it sort of ended on an awkward feeling.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend told me she is bisexual, watches majority lesbian porn, and fantasizes about women in her dreams, after being with her for 3 years.<|endoftext|> | [
" My girlfriend is bisexual, and has a threesome with another woman, but doesn't ever mention it to me. I'm confused.",
" GF of 3 years is bisexual and I'm still not sure how to handle it.",
" my girlfriend considers herself bisexual and is having sex dreams about other women, but hasn't mentioned them up until this point.",
" girl I love a lot is bisexual, but she does not think she's ever been in a relationship with another woman."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (21F) get my boyfriend (22M) to stop nagging me about making friends?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. I consider him my best friend, and I'm his. We spend a lot of time together, more so than most college couples I would say. We're both introverted, he honestly more so because he has a speech impediment and anxiety.
Early in college I used to stress a lot about making friends. I joined all sorts of clubs and things to try and surround myself with people. Midway through college I realized that all these futile attempts were making me miserable. I did a lot of soul searching and realized that friends and hobbies weren't really what I wanted. I just wanted personal fulfillment.
Now, a few months later, I no longer attend any club meetings. I don't socialize. I read books and study in my spare time. I work part-time (just for the money, the job is just food service) and don't talk to anyone unless spoken to. I love it this way. I'm honestly so much better off without other people in my life.
My boyfriend, while introverted, has friends. I don't smother him when he's playing video games or attending hackathons with them. That's his prerogative. However, he's really upset about my lack of friends and hobbies. He's used to me being the try-hard social type, constantly sad about not having someone to go to the mall with. How do I convince him that I've finally found happiness and solace living a simple, hobby-free, friend-free life?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend keeps nagging me to be more social. I tried it and no longer wish to be. I'm happy as a loner but don't know how to convince him. Help?<|endoftext|> | [
" I'm bored of socializing and he's frustrated that I don't make friends. How do I convince him to stop nagging me?",
" I'm not doing it for him, but I'm doing it because I want to. How do I convince my boyfriend that I'm happy with my new lifestyle?",
" How do I convince my boyfriend that I'm happier and more content in my life without all the other people in my life?",
" How do I convince my boyfriend to stop nagging me about making friends and hobbies?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [mid 20's M] with my wife [mid 20's F] together for 4 years, I don't want to be with her anymore, but she's my best friend and it would destroy her
POST: My wife and I have been together for four years, and married for a year and half. Our decision to marry was not for a traditional life-long commitment, and we never spoke about it as such. We have no children or pets.
About a year ago I became very sick suddenly and could no longer work, and was completely dependent on her. A lot changed in this time and the past six months I have felt myself drifting away from her. I am now back on my feet and able to live independently.
I've done a lot of thinking and reflecting, and I have decided that I don't want to be with her anymore. I still love her very much though and she is my best friend. I am scared of losing her completely, but I have started becoming depressed. I have sought professional help for the depression, and my therapist seems to agree that a healthy course of action for me would be to move on.
How do I ends things with her? She is incredibly vested in the relationship and very in-love with me. I can't continue like this, and I'm becoming more and more unhappy, but I don't want to hurt her. I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | I don't want to be in my relationship anymore. She is my best friend and I love her. How do I end it?<|endoftext|> | [
" I don't want to be with my wife anymore, but she's my best friend and I love her. How do I end things with her?",
" I don't want to be with my wife anymore, but I love her very much. She is my best friend. She is my only source of happiness. I don't want to be with her anymore.",
" Wants to move on, but still loves my wife very much, but I don't want to hurt her. How do I end it?",
" I'm feeling depressed and drifting away from my wife, but I don't know what to do. I'm not sure what to do."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, Current HS Senior here, wondering how to go about college apps.
POST: So, im have been a long time Reddit lurker. And i finally decided to make this account for purposes such as this. But to the real point, I am a high school senior and i plan on going to college next year. I know that i want to Major in business and minor in auto-mechanics. (sorry that its not engineering or programing) what schools are good business schools, and how do i find out if they are or not. And whether or not i could get into them. my grades are fairly low(2.3), my sat was a 1120 w/o writing. I have lots of outside school stuff to list. Oh and i live in S.C.
TL;DR: | Looking for good in state buisness school, dont want to waste my time. 2.3 gpa, 1120 sat, dont want to go to USC.<|endoftext|> | [
" What schools are good for high school seniors, and how do i find out if they are or not?",
" want to go to college, but dont know what schools are good. What do i do.",
" How do i go about finding out if i can get into a good business school and if i can get into a good business school.",
" want to major in business and minor in auto-mechanics, how to find out if they are good schools."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] of 6 months, don't see each other on a regular basis.
POST: Until the beginning of this semester at university (middle of January) my boyfriend and I had what I considered a very healthy and fulfilling relationship. Lately however, we have only been able to see each other once a week or less. And I have difficulty getting in touch with him more than every other day.
We both have much more hectic schedules than we did last semester as I have more demanding classes and a career related job, and he has been overwhelmed with school, athletics, work and other obligations.
That being said I am still making a big effort to make time for him, and I encourage him to come over and spend time with me even when I have other things I need to do or it is late and I need to get up early. I can't tell if he is not making the same effort, or if he really is so busy that it is actually impossible at times. I know that he is struggling to keep up with everything, and staying up nights to finish assignments while still not getting everything done that he needs to, but I can't help but feel starved for attention.
I have spoken to him about whether or not we should break up (even though I really didn't want to) and while he understands why I'm upset and agrees that our current situation isn't fair to either of us, he told me it isn't what he wants, but that he would leave it up to me.
I don't know if it makes any sense for me to end it over this, because I am not angry at him about anything. I still feel the same way toward him as I did when we use to be inseparable, but I get so lonely and sexually frustrated after days/weeks of not seeing him. I feel like I'm not able to look at this objectively because of how strong my feelings are on the subject so I would appreciate any advice you guys can give.
TL;DR: | Does it make sense to break up with someone whom you care deeply about because you are unable to spend as much time with them as you want to?<|endoftext|> | [
" I want to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like it is unfair to my happiness, but I don't know if it makes sense for me to end it over this.",
" Boyfriend and I have a healthy and fulfilling relationship, but we haven't been able to see each other for a few months now. What do I do?",
" I can't stay in touch with my boyfriend because he is busy and I can't keep up with everything, and I feel like I am starving for attention.",
" Boyfriend and I have a healthy relationship that we are happy to see each other on a regular basis, but I am hungry for attention and I feel like I'm not being given it."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How can I (22M) tell my GF (22F) that I may to leave for 4 months in March for military training
POST: So I've been seeing this girl for about 3 months now and it's been great (she just gave me a key to her house today, and a drawer at her place two weeks ago). But I just got an early warning that I may have to leave in march till july for military training for about 4 months.
This is officer training so it wont be like basic, I will get my phone, computer, weekends, one 3 day weekend a month, and my own place. It's already kinda a long distance relationship now (we live about an hour apart) but I really like her and want to stay with her. Plus we already have a lot of plans in December (it's her birthday, getaways, christmas, etc). I'm afraid she's going to dump me when I tell her though, I really want to keep her but don't want to hide this from her. Thoughts? Is there a good way to tell her? Should I tell her upfront? I don't want to tell her over the phone or Skype. But she's going to question why I'm coming down and if I say we need to talk she's going to fret for about an hour till I can get down there.
TL;DR: | I got early warning that I may have to go to training in march till June and afraid my GF of 3 months may break up with me because of it. Any good way to tell her?<|endoftext|> | [
" I may be leaving my girlfriend for about 4 months for military training. I want to be able to tell her that.",
" I have to leave for 4 months for military training, I want to stay but my GF may not be happy with it. How do I tell her?",
" My girlfriend may have to leave me for military training for 4 months in March for about 4 months. How do I tell her? Should I tell her upfront?",
" I may be going to military training for 4 months, I need advice on how to tell her or let her know."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Receive a letter of exclusion from the university. Need some advice
POST: Hello,
So I received an exclusion from the university that I am attending/ I talked to the people to have a review about my exclusion and they said to write them an email why they should take me back or some proof that I will not fail. Here is my situation lead to this.
So I failed all my course last year, half of it is because of my stupid, unattended at my study. Also, in the exams that I took, I answered my exam in pencil, which what you weren't suppose to do. All of my exam worth 50% and more so I failed.
The second half my year, I got a warning and I actually tried to study. However, I stayed in a shitty flat, half way through the semester, my flatmates got a job at night, which when they get back it would be 1-2 am. They would the play video games and make it quite loud until 4-5 am, this makes me unable to sleep very well (I'm a light sleeper), I tried to talk to them but they were assholes and I couldn't do anything. I couldn't move out of the flat because I was sharing a room with my bf, we couldn't find a flat that let couple in and there is a fine if we break the contract (500$ bonding and extra on top). My bf didn't want to move out either because it was close to his work
I don't want to change the major because at the moment, I don't know what I want to do and other faculty does not interest me at all. Also, even though I failed, I still have a basic understanding of my major (Computer Science).
Before university, I had a pretty decent grade and even got a scholarship from them but since then I slipped.
TL;DR: | got an exclusion letter from the university, they want me to write a letter to tell them why they should take me back <|endoftext|> | [
" got a warning and failed half of the year. Went to university, I had a good grade, got a scholarship, now I have a bad grade.",
" I failed a course and I don't know what to do. Also, I have no idea how to change my major.",
" I failed all my exams in the last year, I got a warning, I tried to study and I failed, I don't know what to do.",
" failed all my exams, get a warning, also get a letter of exclusion from university. Need some advice"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of two months, am i being to jealous
POST: Im a 21 year old senior at my college and my girlfriend is a 20 year old junior. we have been dating for two months, but have been talking for about 6.
She is in a frat, (business coed) every semester her frat host a party for all the girls where they invite guys from campus to strip for them, its suposed to be all in good fun, often times getting quite rowdy. Last semester she ended up getting quite drunk and making out with and licking whip creme off all three of the strippers.
Now i dont blame her for this, we all get wild sometimes, but for obvious reasons hearing about it makes me uncomfortable, and would prefer she not attend this semesters event. It makes me feel odd and jealous because it harkens back to last semesters events. when i ask her maybe not to attened, she says I have nothing to worry about, she choose me, she will mostly be driving people around sober, she has to go for her friends. It just upsets me for her to go back to this.
Am i being unreasonable to request her to no go. Am i being to controlling. id love for all kinds of feedback. Thanks.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is going to a party with male strippers, id prefer she not go, am i being to jealous?<|endoftext|> | [
" My girlfriend attended a frat party and got drunk, she ended up kissing a guy she met at the party and licking whipped cream off the guy.",
" my girlfriend and i have been dating for 2 months, our relationship is getting rocky, i am upset because i feel that i'm being to controlling.",
" Girlfriend got drunk and made out with three strippers, i dont want her to go back and ruin her semesters event, should i be upset or not.",
" girlfriend of 2 months is at frat party stripping and licking whip cream. me and my friends are uncomfortable."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by accidentally sending sentimental letters to a random person for 6 months
POST: During the time that I dated my last serious boyfriend, I got to know his family very well. I quickly took to his two younger cousins, but fell into an especially quick friendship with his younger sister, Erin. Erin was a few years younger than me, and very sweet and kind. When my ex-boyfriend broke up with me, I decided that in order to keep in contact with her since I go to college in another city and she's still in my hometown, I'd write her letters. We didn't talk enough to warrant online chatting, and I figured that it would be really nice to receive something tangible in the mail that showed her that I was still thinking and caring for her.
I set out to write monthly letters/cards, and they were all on lovely stationary and decorations, with thoughtful and sentimental thoughts within. I told her about how college and classes were going, my journey to applying for Graduate school in English, and meeting a really nice guy (my now current boyfriend). I never got a message or letter in return, but I thought that as long as she enjoyed the letters and got a smile or two from them, that I didn't need a reply, and her happiness was enough. During cleaning up my apartment for the next semester, however, I misplaced the slip of paper that had her address on it. I ended up facebook messaging her today and asking her to clarify her address (was it 512 Xxxxxx Lane or Street?).
**"Huh? It's 619..."** (pin drop)
It took a few moments to sink in, but I just fucking realized that **I'VE BEEN SENDING REALLY CUTELY DECORATED, PERSONAL AS FUCK LETTERS TO A RANDOM-ASS PERSON IN LEAGUE CITY FOR SIX FUCKING MONTHS!**
I'm so ashamed of myself. Some random-ass person has been reading my personal letters and I never worked up the courage to ask if Erin had ever received them. I would be mad at myself, but honestly, I can't even do that right now. I can only sit here and hang my head in shame.
TL;DR: | I've been mailing really detailed and beautifully decorated letters (meant for my ex's little sister) to the wrong address for almost half a year.<|endoftext|> | [
" I accidentally sent sentimental letters to a random-ass person for six months and I still haven't gotten a response.",
" Tried to send sentimental letters to a random person who had just moved to my town, and she never got back to me.",
" I sent a bunch of sentimental letters to a random person that I think is a random-ass person. I don't know if I'm stupid, or if I'm being mean to a person that I've only been seeing for a few months.",
" I accidentally sent sentimental letters to a random person for six months. I'm so ashamed of myself."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What would reddit be like without karma?(bring your ideas on how to clean this place up.)
POST: I know i might catch slack for even bringing up the idea of taking away karma but with posts like [this] it is quite obvious something needs to change.
1 year ago reddit was completely different then it is now.
The only reason i started coming on reddit was because of how interesting the posts were on the front page. I learned something new every day by just what was on the front page because back then there was a such thing as "reddiquette".
Now we have forever alones posting away with no more purpose in their life other than collecting meaningless points and feeling warm and fuzzy because they have 10,000 karma.
This place is not even a shadow of what i used to be.
If this is not a good idea can we please brainstorm on what can be done to clean this place up and stop allowing trolls to get their bullshit to the front page with lies just to rack up useless internet points?
/grammar
/punctiation
/spelling
TL;DR: | Lets get rid of karma and have upvotes serve a sole purpose of having interesting posts make it to the front page. If someone does troll they will have no reason to because there will be no internet points to gain from lying post.<|endoftext|> | [
" Karma is not what it used to be and it is not going to get any better. The only reason i want to see it change is because it is a good thing.",
" What would reddit be like without karma?(bring your ideas on how to clean this place up.)",
" How do i get rid of karma?",
" What would reddit be like without karma? What are some ideas for getting rid of karma that might actually work?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16F] am taking a college classes where [30?M] is making advances.
POST: Okay, I'm doing a thing called dual enrollment where high school students can take a college class for free. The class is 90% male, there's only one other girl besides me in the class. Most of the people in the class are 25+, besides another high school kid.
All of our emails are up on the class webpage, so one guy in our class sent out a mass email to everyone saying that if they needed any help they could ask him, ect. I replied (being nice) saying thanks, and nice to meet you.
Since then, he has found out who I am (not difficult with only two girls in the class), and has been sitting next to me every time, asking for my help, striking up conversations while I'm trying to pay attention, and just being over-friendly in general. He has since then been emailing me, telling me how pretty and nice I looked during class and things of that sort. He tells me how smart I am constantly. I do not reply to these emails, maybe one in five if he is asking a question on the homework but other than that I do not reply to the other compliments.
I want to be civil, but this is inappropriate behavior for such an older man. I have to see him in my class for the next few months, so I don't really know how to approach this. I'm not even entirely sure he knows I'm in high school. I have told him I'm only taking this one class, but I don't really know how to casually slip it into conversation and be like "oh yeah, I'm 16 by the way."
I'm very antisocial and introverted, so I did not expect to make friends. I am a generally helpful and friendly person, but I did not announce that I'm 16 when I went into the class, because I didn't believe anyone would actually try something like this.
I do have a boyfriend, and I'm wondering if I should just tell him I have one and that he's coming on too strong as well.
TL;DR: | A man much older than me is making remarks and being flirty. I'm 16 years old, a minor, and do not know how to tell him to politely fuck off.<|endoftext|> | [
" I'm taking a class where the guy in the class is making advances on the other girls, and I don't want to be creepy and weird, but I'm not sure how to do it.",
" College class has a guy asking for my help. I don't know how to respond without being like \"oh yeah, I'm 16\" to this guy.",
" 16-year-old college student with one female high school student in his class has been making advances towards me. How do I be civil and not put him in a position where he feels uncomfortable?",
" I am making friends with a guy I'm going to high school with, I do not want to be mean to him, but I do not want to be too pushy, so I am wondering if I should tell him I'm 16 and that I have a boyfriend."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Brother [22/M] and his ex girlfriend [22/F] have recently gotten back together and she's been here for 4 days straight! Help!
POST: My brother [22/M] and his girlfriend [22/F] were only together for a few months, they would get drunk and come home and fight constantly and wake up my dad [54/M] and I [20/F]. They gambled/ partied constantly and my brother was broke 100% of the time because of it.
They got into a drunk argument one night in July and they broke up, my brother (who's not very close to me) vented to me that she dropped him for no reason, he went out of his way for her and she treated him like dirt.
It's been a month since then, and I wake up the other day to find them sleeping in his room out of nowhere. She has now slept over and has been here for four days straight and I'm on the verge of losing it. She doesn't live here, this isn't an apartment and her staying here for days on end is making me uncomfortable in my own home. She is rude, uses my things, and I plain don't like her for the way she's treated my brother (as I stated we're not close, but he's still family - I care about him).
My dad is hardly here because he works the whole week and goes to his girlfriends on the weekends, so he refuses to do anything about it because he isn't here to have to be around it - but I am! What do I do? Please help!
TL;DR: | Brothers ex-girlfriend treated him like dirt, they broke up a month ago and have recently got back together and she's been here for 4 days straight! How do I make her leave???<|endoftext|> | [
" Brother and girlfriend have been staying together for 4 days straight and I'm on the verge of losing it, how do I get this girlfriend off my back?",
" My brother and girlfriend have been here for four days straight and I'm freaking out because of it.",
" brother and girlfriend have been together for almost a month and have been living in the same apartment for four days straight. How do I handle this situation and get her to leave?",
" Brother and girlfriend have been back to back for a month now, and she has been here for 4 days straight, and it's making me feel uncomfortable in my own home."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] 2 Months, Is this commitment issues? Personal Problem
POST: Hi, so I've been getting some strange feelings for my girlfriend lately. I seem to always think that it could be better with someone else when my logical part of my brain says she is the best girl for me. I always get this way with girls, after a time it just seems that I'm not making the right choice. After we break up, for other reasons, I end up missing her like crazy. I just want to break the cycle though.
I'm an over thinker, I have anxiety from time to time and I think it's a personal problem because this girl is great. I feel if I did break up and get with another girl I would lose a great deal. My feeling say opposite though.
We usually fool around as much as we can and I enjoy it but in the back of my head I feel hesitant and am always thinking of the future, how I'm going to get a job and move out and stuff and it just happens WHILE I'm with her which is annoying, then I come home and think she's not good for me because I don't get that much enjoyment from it. Today we pretty much went all the way, I was thinking a lot about her parents, they're strict and was just concerned if they found out. Could this make these moments seem less enjoyable?
- Thanks!
TL;DR: | I think I have personal problem that limits my feelings for my girlfriend. If anyone has advice or experience please let me know! :) Thanks!<|endoftext|> | [
" I am overthinking about my relationship with my girlfriend, is it a commitment issue?",
" my girlfriend is great, I'm thinking a lot about her parents, is that a personal problem or just a thought that I'm missing out on?",
" I think that my girlfriend is great but I'm afraid of losing her. Can I change my mind?",
" I have a problem with commitment issues. I think it's my girlfriend and I don't want to get rid of her."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Catholic Wedding
POST: Alright so here at the end of June I'm getting married to the love of my life, the only thing she's Catholic. I'm talking Catholic schooling from elementary school all the way through college. I was baptized Catholic and received my first communion, however I stopped going to church and being actively religious shortly after my first communion. I have since been more of an agnostic/free thinker in my approaches to religion. Well we are having a full on Catholic wedding and I agreed to it because I know how much it means to my Fiancee' and her mother and I'm cool with that and our preist is pretty cool seeing as how he put us through only one 3 hour communication class as our Pre-Cana. Here's where the problem comes in our preist gave us a pass to sit in St. Peter's Square and meet the pope and have him "Bless" our marriage. I'm not overly fond of this guy to say the least, but again I see that it would mean the world to my Fiancee'. Should I object to this because of my beliefs, or should I just go with the flow and not create drama, especially since it's our honeymoon?
TL;DR: | Fiancee is Catholic, I'm not anymore and we have a chance to meet the pope. Should I object or not?<|endoftext|> | [
" Catholic wedding but my fiancee is Catholic and I want her to get blessed by the pope and I don't want to cause any drama or be rude to the church.",
" Catholic wedding, but our preist wants to bless our wedding, should I object?",
" Catholic wedding, Catholic preist gives us the pass to go to church and meet the pope, should I object or not?",
" I'm getting married to a Catholic and I don't want to upset my fiancé' and I don't want to create a scene. Should I just accept this and go with the flow or should I be the one to say something to the bride and groom?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M/F] with my GF [20 M/F] 2yr, Constantly worried about her safety.
POST: Hi guys, this is an easy question to word, but hard for me to actually figure out. Whenever I'm not with my girlfriend I am constantly paranoid for her safety and while I can manage without doing something silly like calling her or texting constantly, it's crippling and very draining to fight myself and actually be productive.
I know that there is virtually a 100% probability she is fine, hell, she's with huge groups of family, even and I still get worried! However I can't rid myself of these fears that she's going to get hurt or worse. They're eating at me and are getting more stressful and I'm imagining more vivid scenarios.
TL;DR: | Torturing myself by being way too worrisome about my girlfriend, but I can't figure out what to do with these bottled up emotions I'm trying to deal with.<|endoftext|> | [
" my GF is with family, and I'm constantly worried she might be hurt, she might get hurt, and if she does get hurt I'll be a total loser. ",
" Girlfriend is always a threat, I'm paranoid for her safety, anxiety and stress. How do I get myself out of my head and get my life together?",
" I'm constantly worried that my girlfriend is going to get hurt, but can't be rid of these fears that she's going to get hurt.",
" I get paranoid for my GF's safety and can't even be productive or productive at all."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 F] don't know how to handle a customer [20s M] giving my his number. I have a boyfriend [22 M].
POST: This is going to sound really silly, but it's really stressing me out. I know I'm overthinking it and I would just like a second opinion.
At work, I had a man leave me his phone number on the receipt after he paid (I am a waitress). I have a boyfriend that I'm more than happy to be with. BUT being ignored makes me seriously anxious, and so the idea of ignoring someone is basically unknown to me. It makes my stomach uneasy, literally, to think about totally ignoring someone.
I want to text this guy and be like "hey, I'm flattered and you seem nice, but I have a boyfriend," but I'm worried he would be like 'ok kiwichampion, that's fine, let's just be friends, wanna hang out?' I have enough friends. I don't need to be friends with a guy who tried to take me out. What do I say that's nice enough to say 'no thanks' and spares me from having to ignore someone, but makes it clear I don't really want to have any further contact than that?
TL;DR: | How do I turn someone down without ignoring them and without giving him the opportunity to say 'well let's be friends'?<|endoftext|> | [
" I don't know how to handle a guy giving my number after a customer gave it to me, and I have a boyfriend.",
" I don't know how to handle a customer giving my boyfriend his number. I have a boyfriend. What do I say?",
" I'm really nervous about a guy giving my number to a customer. What should I say? I feel like I'm being a jerk.",
" I don't know how to handle a customer giving my boyfriend's phone number to me, and I don't know how to say 'no thanks' in a way that makes me sound like I don't want to have any contact with him."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She (22f) loves me (22m) but is not longer in love with me. 6 years
POST: The title kind of says it all. My highschool/college sweetheart and I have been together for 6 years, with a few month break 3 years ago. We got jobs on the opposite sides of the country after college, and during a visit she dropped this on me. I'm stuck at her place until my flight tomorrow. I don't know what to do. I'm crushed. I feel like I've lost my best friend. We just had a great time, lots of laughs and sweet talks, but I think this is the end, right? How do I get over the person I essentially navigated my teen years/early adulthood with? I have no idea how to talk to women, I've only ever gotten blackout drunk and woken up next to someone when her and I were apart.
TL;DR: | my girlfriend of 6 years loves me but isn't in love with me. I'm at her place until my flight tomorrow. Now what?<|endoftext|> | [
" I'm in love with my highschool sweetheart, but she's not the same person she was 6 years ago. How do I talk to her and get over her?",
" I'm in love with a girl I've been with for 6 years and she is not in love with me. How do I get over her?",
" I lost a best friend in college, now I have to find a girlfriend to replace her. How do I get over her?",
" High school sweetheart and I have been together for 6 years, we have a lot in common, but she has not been in love with me since college. How do I move on?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: My once amazing workplace has turned mildly hostile as of late, and my out spoken nature could put me on the verge of getting fired. Help, Advice or Similar Stories, please...
POST: I love my job, my co-workers, my hours... I am extremely lucky.
However, recently our Manager was fired by our Corporate Office. Our Assistant Manager quit. We had a mandatory meeting today, in which, the Corporate office told us: We are not to have ***any*** contact with our former bosses (including public places) and that we are not to discuss what's going on with anyone. Period. He, also, made the statement "Don't test me on this, because I will push back."
We have a few co-workers who seem extremely pleased with the way things have gone; and the typical family-like atmosphere has faded away as allegiences are being tested, and allies/enemies are being created.
Additionally, We are constantly recorded. This has always been for our own benefit and has worked to my benefit more than once.
I am very out-spoken and not known for keeping my mouth shut or my temper down. I want to weather this storm, but am struggling to keep my big mouth shut.
Anyone have any "remedies" for controlling tempers, or any similar stories that could be of any help?
TL;DR: | Previously Wonderful work environment has turned hostile. People have come out as being involved with the problems. I have difficulty keeping my mouth shut and could lose my job. Help.<|endoftext|> | [
" My workplace has turned hostile as of late, and I am on the verge of being fired. Advice, Advice, Advice, please...",
" my boss is on the outs and I have a lot of co-workers who seem to be happy with the way things are going.",
" My old workplace has become a bit hostile and I am struggling to keep my mouth shut. How can I cope with this?",
" My once great workplace has turned hostile as of late, and I am on the verge of getting fired. I have a big mouth, but no control. Help, Advice or Similar Stories?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [US][PA] Question about lease agreement for apartment next school year
POST: Hello /r/legaladvice,
My friends and I signed a lease for a 4 bed, 2 bath apartment in Philadelphia last November. Admittedly we didn't really read the lease from top to bottom because we were stupid college kids and the rent price was the same as the dorms. About 2 weeks ago we all received emails saying the first month's rent is due the 1st of September. We aren't allowed to move in till the 17th of September. Earlier this year my mom had talked to a rep at the place who told her the first month's rent was pro-rated due to the discrepancy of rent due date and move in date. After checking the lease I can't find any such mention of a pro-rated rent payment.
I'm guessing I'm out of luck and that a) the rep lied to my mom and b) we should've actually fully read the lease before agreeing to it but I know sometimes landlords put things in the lease that aren't enforceable/legal so I'm here asking if that might be the case.
The lease specifies the 12 monthly due dates and the amounts due for each payment (payment is the same amount and due the first of each month).
We still intend on living in the apartment since it's a good price taking into account its location and other amenities plus the lease is a PITA to get out of.
TL;DR: | Landlord told mom first month is pro-rated, demanding full months payment for ~14 days living in apartment that month.<|endoftext|> | [
" I signed a lease for a 4 bed, 2 bath apartment and it says the first month's rent is due in September, but it doesn't say how much is due.",
" We signed a lease last year for a 4 bed, 2 bath apartment that has no pro-rated rent due. Should we move in for the first month of September or will the first month's rent be pro-rated due to the lease discrepancy?",
" My friends and I signed a lease for a 4 bed, 2 bath apartment in Philadelphia last November. The lease says the first month's rent is due the 1st of September. The first month's rent is not pro-rated. What is the lease agreement for that month?",
" My friends and I signed a lease for a 4 bed, 2 bath apartment and all we received was a pro-rated amount for the first month's rent."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why am I periodically a dick towards a girl that I like who "chose" her ex over me.
POST: A girl I liked broke up with her boyfriend and got with me about a day or two later. we dated for a week before her ex went to her hoping for a second chance. she says she didn't "choose" cause she couldn't say no at the time and that it was "complicated. before all this and now we were and are VERY good friends,we talk all the time and about everything. sometimes when im talking to her ill pull a dick move and do something like "why does this concern me Im not your boyfriend" or "oh yeah that sucks....remember that time you chose X over me? that REALLY sucks" I cant help but do this cause it makes me feel better. Do I have the right to keep doing this and why do I feel good when i do dick moves like that.
TL;DR: | Girl went out with me, broke up with me to get with ex. Im a dick towards her sometims, why? and im allowed to be.<|endoftext|> | [
" I like a girl who breaks up with her ex, who I was really good friends with, and I feel bad when im dick moves like this.",
" a girl I like broke up with her ex and got with me. I have a hard time saying no.",
" I like a girl that I met and broke up with and I like her ex more. I feel good when i do dick moves like that.",
" a girl I like and know very well and have been friends with for a long time chose her ex over me. im a dick and I like it cause it makes me feel better."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: help me go from couch to half-marathon in 14 weeks! [X-Post from /r/fitness]
POST: Originally posted [here] and I was advised to try /r/running.
I'm totally new to running. I was told you guys are awesome, and I can get some great advice and info here. So here's my story: I have decided to take on participating in a half-marathon as a challenge to myself. I'm 31, male, and not totally out of shape. I play ice hockey at the amateur level around twice a week. And I might just be stubborn enough to pull this off.
I plan to bump hockey down to once a week, and run four other days, with two off. I've created a [training schedule you can view here] I've installed MapMyRun on my Android, and plan to use it to track my performance.
I have no idea what I'm doing, so any advice/feedback is appreciated. What should I look out for? How does my training schedule look? What should I eat. How do I avoid injury? What can I do to maximize my success?
TL;DR: | Non-runner starting from scratch training to run a half-marathon in 14 weeks. I'm have no idea what I'm doing. How can I maximize my success?<|endoftext|> | [
" I'm going to try to run a half-marathon in 14 weeks. I have no idea what I'm doing, and I'm running my first half-marathon. I need help with my training schedule and eating.",
" I have decided to take on half-marathon as a challenge to myself. I'm not sure what to look for in my training schedule, or what to eat. What should I do to maximize my success?",
" I'm trying to run a half-marathon, but I'm not sure how to train. Any tips are welcome.",
" I'm a newbie to running. I have no idea what I'm doing, so any advice or tips are appreciated."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend kissed by another guy while i'm away.
POST: Just some back story, she (18f) and I (19m) have been dating for 2+ years. About a year ago I had to move two states away for college.
Midway through, we hit a rough patch where I wasn't able to show her attention because I was so busy with school and work. We kind of took a break? for about three weeks. She has been friends with this boy for a long time, and she went over to his house to confide in a friend because she doesn't have many.
He kissed her, she didn't kiss back her eyes were open, and she pulled away afterwards and felt disgusted with herself and knew it was wrong immediately. She told him it can't happen again and left.
But then they still hung out afterwards and it never happened again. Now fast forward three months, I was visiting her over the weekend and on Sunday before I had to go back, she told me everything, and hated herself for doing it and was so sorry.
I'm telling her I don't want her to talk to him ever again but she just wants to call him one more time to end the friendship kind of, but in her words "maybe we'll talk down the road but we can't talk and can't hang out right now"
I feel like crap and it seems like she doesn't think its a big deal when it hurts me inside so much.
What do I do?
TL;DR: | Guy kissed my girlfriend while I'm away, didn't tell me for three months and still hung out with the guy. Still wants to talk to him down the road<|endoftext|> | [
" Girlfriend kissed a guy while I was away from her. I don't want to see him and she wants to talk about it, but she thinks it's a big deal and I feel like shit.",
" Girlfriend had to break up with a guy she had been with for a year and a half, is she trying to kiss him again?",
" Girlfriend is telling me that she has never kissed another guy while I'm away. I don't want to have to talk to him ever again.",
" Girlfriend kissed another guy who has been friends with her for a long time, she isn't ready to stop hanging out with him."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20s M] with my fiancee [20s F], My parents[60s] want us to have a big wedding, we don't
POST: So my fiancee and I have been together since our sophomore year of college. My parents and especially my dad took some time to come around to us since I am south asian and she is black and asian. It was definitely a process to get them to accept her as they wanted me with someone of my own race but eventually they saw how happy we made each other and how accepting my fiancee was of our culture.
Anyways, my fiancee and I were thinking of just a quick courthouse wedding or a small one with just family and close friends >25 people. The reasons being that neither of us are fans of grand ceremonies and because we'd much rather spend the money on paying back student loans or a house or something. However my parents are insisting on us going to our home country(in South Asia) where my family is relatively wealthy/important and throwing a huge wedding for everyone they know. Neither me nor my fiancee like this idea since we won't know the people there and it being a general waste of money. But my parents are refusing to take no for an answer and are fully willing to pay for it. And every attempt as a discussion tries to get turned into how I should've been with someone from my own race and how it's tradition and what not.
How do we convince them otherwise?
TL;DR: | Fiancee and I want a small wedding here. My parents want us to throw a lavish one back in our South Asian home country. How do we convince them otherwise?<|endoftext|> | [
" My parents want us to go to our home country, have a big wedding, and we don't want to. How do we convince them otherwise?",
" My parents want us to have a big wedding, we don't, and they don't want to pay for it.",
" My parents want us to have a big wedding for our families but we don't. How do we convince them otherwise?",
" My parents want us to have a huge wedding and we don't because we don't like this idea and don't want to pay for it."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by asking out my ex's best friend
POST: So, here it goes. I was dating this Spanish Chica and she had a best friend, lets call her Miss Z. I fancied Z since I first met her, but somehow ended up (it did involve quite few drinks) with the Chica. We go out on few dates and I really liked her. Anyway, fast forward to two months after (July), we break up, both think it's not working as it should. Then two weeks ago I came up with a brilliant idea to ask out Miss Z and she surprisingly didn't say no. She did mention however, that Chica wouldn't be happy if she knew. We chat a bit and I thought it was going really well. And here is the fuck up. She asked me why I am asking her out now, is it because I want to make Chica jealous or what? And she says she wants an honest answer. I, stupidly thought I got it under control and told her that I fancied her since I first saw her and now when things with my ex cooled down I want to try with her. And then BAAM. She flips out that it seems that I was using Chica and that I am that kind of guy and bla bla bla. I thought wtf, she was asking for an honest answer and I was being honest. Well kids, I learned the hard way that you should never be 100% honest at those kind of questions. I was down for a while, but eventually said to myself that if a girl says this kind of things even before knowing me, well, then she is not worth me.
TL;DR: | Dated Spanish girl and then hit on her best friend. She asked me a questions and I gave her an honest answer. I didn't end up with her.<|endoftext|> | [
" Asked out a girl I fancied in one week and she says that I am that kind of guy, well, I was down for a while but eventually said to myself that if a girl says this kind of things even before knowing me, then she is not worth me.",
" I asked a girl out and she was looking for an honest answer, now I don't know what to do.",
" I wanted to ask out my best friend's best friend, she asked me why I was asking her out now, and I was being honest.",
" I asked out my ex's best friend and she was upset that I was asking her out. Now I want to ask her out."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Even though my (25f, introverted) boyfriend (25m, extroverted) of 8 months is awesome, I don't feel the same connection I did with my ex (26m, introverted)
POST: My boyfriend is everything I've ever hoped for. I love him and he loves me, we treat each other well, talk about absolutely everything and want to marry some day. But I always feel like something is off. It's not 100%... and it's because he is extroverted. Our thoughts, wishes and behavior are very similar, and people like to point out how great we get along. It's only this one thing that's different... he doesn't see life as a challenge: socializing is no big deal for him, while I have to fight not to embarrass myself in every conversation and can barely keep friends. He views the world differently.
With my ex, it was the other way round. We were both introverts and loved being it with each other. Life was difficult, but only if we couldn't fight a situation together. I never had to explain my weird thoughts to him. We loved each other to death, but the relationship didn't work out for some reasons that don't matter here. I'm completely over him and usually don't even think about him anymore because the breakup happened a year ago. It's only in these moments when I feel like I don't have the connection with my boyfriend that I should have, that I think about my ex and our perfect friendship.
Don't get me wrong, I don't want him back, but I miss the intimacy of a relationship between introverts.
I don't even know if my feelings are reasonable. My ex was very emotionally dependant on me. I was the very most important person on earth for him. He would have died for me with pride. It wasn't healthy how much he adored me, but I savored it anyway.
Now I don't know if I wish for something completely unhealthy or if there really is a problem between me and my boyfriend other than my doubts.
TL;DR: | We don't have the "us against the world" relationship that I did before, and I don't know if I will be okay without it.<|endoftext|> | [
" I don't feel like my boyfriend is extroverted. I don't know if I want to be with him, but I miss the intimacy of a relationship with extroverts.",
" I love my boyfriend, but I don't feel the same connection as I did with my ex. It's weird and I'm worried that I'm over him.",
" My boyfriend is awesome and I love him, but I don't feel the same connection I did with my ex.",
" Bf is EXTREMELY similar to my ex, but we were both introverts before we met, and I don't know if I want that for him."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, if you work <10 miles from your home and currently drive, what incentives would make it irresistible to bike to work?
POST: I posted something similar in /r/bicycling, but I wanted a broader audience that isn't current enamored with bikes.
My office building was built with only enough parking for 60% of the workforce (by federal mandate). Parking is a fucking nightmare. I get here early enough that I never have an issue, but for many it is an issue.
I work with a lot of government personnel, who I know get 3hrs per week of paid exercise. That's right, they can work 37hrs a week, exercise for 3 hrs, and call it a work-week.
This got me thinking. I was mulling over the idea: If it takes me 30 minutes to drive to work, or 1 hour to ride, this means that riding to work would make my workday 1hr longer (for both ways total). If my company compensated me for that 1hr, I feel like I wouldn't be able to resist biking to work. As it stands, my time is precious to me (we have a newborn in the house). What other incentives could help sway someone to ride to work?
TL;DR: | What would a company have to offer to make it irresistible to ride your bike to work? If they compensated you for the difference of time between riding and driving, would that work?<|endoftext|> | [
" What incentives could make it worthwhile to ride to work to get a longer workday?",
" Incentives to bike to work in the office building, which are usually the most limited. How could you change the incentive for those people?",
" I'm in a hurry to get to work, but my coworkers ride to work. Would I be able to bike to work?",
" What other incentives could motivate someone to bike to work?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By blaming my previous FU on a man period.
POST: Obligatory not today but a few days ago.
Anyway to get things going. I had this on/off relationship with this beautiful blond girl, but every time when my confidence builds up she shoots me down for another guy. So this has been going on for about two years.
Anyway a few days ago we started talking alot. And it ended up with us sexting and the evening after that I phoned her we had a nice chat and all that jazz.
Then the next night I get that feeling of its about to happen again. So I start to ask her why she won't reply in the mornings, why she is being so short with me, etc.
I end up forcing her to tell me whether I stand a chance and then she says "I dunno its hard, there is someone else." I fucking lost it. Just told her 'Thanks thats all I wanted to know goodnight'
The next day I feel shit because I feel like I forced her and "Boo hoo, FSTHalo is such a bad person I must fix it now before its to late." I try to explain why I was like that, could not find a good/funny way to say it. My nose starts bleeding and DING! Periods! That explains girls strange behavior so lemme use it.
After reading what I told her, I considered death as an escape from this major fuck up. 3days later still won't see whether she replied.
TL;DR: | Forced a girl to tell me where I stand in her eyes. Fucked it up. Tried to say sorry blamed it on man periods.<|endoftext|> | [
" Forced a girl to tell me whether she sent me a reply or not by calling her a bitch.",
" Forced a girl to say whether she would reply, failed to explain it and now I feel like I killed her.",
" FU guy period, I force girl to tell me if she replied to me. She says no. 3 days later still not seeing a reply.",
" Girl was being like a bitch and I had a huge crush on her but I was forcing her to reply and I fucked up."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: They always lie to me, advice? [15M]
POST: Every girlfriend or even "almost" girlfriend I've ever had has lied to me or broken my trust in one way or another. I feel cheated, everybody knows I'm a nice, caring person. I'll do everything to make you feel important, yet they always breakup with me for some completely bullshit reason and go on to date one of my friends within the week. Yes, I know I'm young, and teenage girls are fucking stupid when it comes to relationships, but I don't see why this keeps happening to me (about 5 times now). From what I've been told, I'm emotionally mature for my age, and I overreact to things like this.
I need advice. I get hurt pretty easily and I'm close to giving up. Should I avoid girls until I've graduated or keep trying until I find a keeper? Any answer would be awesome, thanks.
TL;DR: | I'm a caring and supportive person who is emotionally stable, finds girls who he thinks won't lie to him about their feelings, and they always do.<|endoftext|> | [
" When I'm in love with a girl, she always lies to me, and even breaks my trust. I feel cheated, but I can't help myself.",
" Girl is crazy, broke up with me, and now I'm dating a girl. Should I stay or should I make a new start?",
" Girlfriend, about 15M, always lies, always takes me for granted, overreacts to things like this. Advice?",
" I've been cheated on by 10 different girls, 5 of them broke up with me, and I'm about to break up with another. How do I get over this and keep my mind?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Plea to redditors with legal knowledge
POST: * First off thank you for clicking.
* Second, I am looking for advice that might preclude the following from happening
**BUT**
i have come to terms with the very real possibility that i am going to join the group of people whom have a black mark on their record for something they honestly never did.
**Situation:** i am 7 days from 21st bady, come home to roommates having a party (Guy1,Girl1,gf,guy2, guy3), roommates = 1 Guy 1 Girl,
Guy's gf says out loud "someone do X [hands are full]"
LegalThrowaway972011 says "I'll do X"
Guy1 "Hey man don't talk about my girl like that!"
LegalThrowaway972011 " dude chill out! she asked for someone to pour drink in mouth"
Guy1 " DUDE don't talk about my girl"
escalations ensues he lands a punch, i only block and duck no offensive attacks.
cool down
he comes back and apologize but i wouldn't accept till he understood that there is freedom of speech(hes from India) and you cant attack someone for what they say. he refused to be peaceful, i walked away.
another fight broke out he landed 2 more while elbowing Girl1 in the face. LegalThrowaway972011 was tackled and choked in own room by Guy2.
Guy3's statment said he went back to my room and as soon as he opened LegalThrowaway972011's door, LegalThrowaway972011 slapped Girl1 across the face.(and thumb and pointer finger size red mark from Guy1's elbow on her right eyebrow. police photo evidence girl1 smiling big.
LegalThrowaway972011 is a righty, and slaps leave hand prints not eyebrow vertical redness.
TL;DR: | 5 vs 1 (me)= punched 3 times charged with battery(Girl1) on account of 5 statements, mc. assault, biting guy2 to release choke hold (self defense)<|endoftext|> | [
" legal throwaway972011 slaps girl1 across face, i am a feminist who has gone back to her room and is very upset. i am not a violent person. what can i do?",
" I'm 7 days from 21st bady, come home to roommates having a party, roommates = 1 Guy 1 Girl, Guy1, Girl1, Guy2, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3, Guy3",
" i am going to be in a group of people who have a black mark on their record for something they honestly never did. if they happen to be a righty, i want to be the good guy. if not, i dont want to be the bad guy.",
" 7 days from 21st bady, roommates have a party, Guy1 and Girl1 are having a party, Guy3 slaps Guy1 on the face, Guy3 is the one who is going to the police."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My girlfriend is being threatened with termination, help please and I might design (photoshop/ illustrator) you something.
POST: My girlfriend is getting threats to be fired at her job for not working some insane extra hours. She already works on everage an extra 2 hours per shift. Tonight she will have to stay till near midnight (the job is 9 to 5) after being directly confronted. Apparently all the employees are treated like this.
Her boss is also the CEO of the company and often times rejects complete projects because they arent to her liking. Then her boss gets upset when things are late, thus making everyone stay late to catch up.
These were not the hours presented upon hire, and my girlfriend does not want to work the extra hours being pushed upon her because:
1: she has an 18 month old boy and does not wish to be away from him for extended periods of each day. day care is already expensive enough, getting baby sitters for the night is asinine. (her baby's daddy got deported, so absolutely no help there)
2: we currently live long distance, are unable to skype date, txt, talk, or hang out together on the internet as much as we would like.
3: she is depressed due to the lack of a social life.
4: she is not getting paid overtime.
Help and I might be able to design you something. im a bit of an uber perfectionist, so it might take me a bit of time.
TL;DR: | trading art for legal advice. girlfriend might get canned for refusing to work hours she didnt agree to at hire, and not getting overtime.<|endoftext|> | [
" girlfriend is being fired because her boss isnt happy with her overtime hours. I can help design a super awesome poster for you.",
" my gf is getting threatened with termination because she isnt doing what the boss wants her to do. help please.",
" girlfriend is getting harassed and threatened with termination for not working extra hours. help please",
" Girlfriend needs extra hours to get her job done, boss is threatening to fire her for not working."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (22f) Present ideas for my vegetarian boyfriend (25m)'s birtday. (Going out a few months).
POST: He got me some comfy shoes (my feet were constantly killing me in high heels!) and this lovely bracelet for Christmas. It sounds like he put a lot of thought into my present (he got me the shoes one day when we were out and my feet were hurting, so I chose those, but it seems like he thought a lot about the bracelet). I want to put as much thought and effort into his birthday present, but it's so difficult to buy for guys! Literally, present ideas on the internet seem to consist of tacky "ring for sex" bells or really expensive tech stuff. He's a vegetarian and loves to cook, but I got him a veggie cook book for Christmas, so that's ticked off the list. I basically have no money, so I can't spend loads- I just want it to be nice and thoughtful. Other random stuff about him, ummmmm- we both like chemistry (that's how we met). I could get him a book of chemistry jokes? Na! That's be awful.
What do you think, Oh lovely redditors?
(Extra points if you get the Na reference. Okay, that's embarrassing, I'm out now!).
TL;DR: | I want to get my boyfriend something personal and sweet for his birthday, other than a willy warmer- which is what the internet seems to suggest!<|endoftext|> | [
" Not sure if I want to buy my bf a present for his bday, but he's a vegetarian and I want to make it fancy.",
" My boyfriend is a vegetarian and loves to cook, so I'm going to try to buy him a book of chemistry jokes. ",
" I want to get him a nice present, but it's so hard to find money for presents, and I have no idea where to start.",
" Vegetarian boyfriend bought me a new pair of shoes, and I need ideas for his bday present. Also, what do you think?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [17/F] GF is extremely emotional and Bipolar, and I [18/M] am not.
POST: My GF and I have been together for over 2 years now. We've been through a lot together, which meant we have a VERY strong love and bond.
I am very emotionally unresponsive. I don't get easily upset, I don't ever get sad even when confronted with hard-pressing situations, and I just tend not to get emotional.
My GF, however, is the polar opposite. She has Bipolar as well as Fibromayalgia, which equates to her being in pain constantly. She has a very hard life, and is struggling with depression. She is extremely emotional, and tends to get upset at anything she can. She dwells on subjects and cant move on emotionally.
I feel like I always have to be there for her, to be a shoulder to cry on, but I can't. I honestly can't stand being that person, I'm just to unemotional to do it. It puts a it of stress on me, and i don't know if I can take it.
We broke up about a week ago for the above reasons, but she still thinks we have a chance. She claims that she can get better, that she can find help elsewhere other than from me. She's deadset on staying with me that she'll do anything. She claims that a medication for Fibromayalgia she's on made her very emotionally jumpy, another problem in our relationship. She would get angry or upset extremely quickly with no warning. She is stopping that medication and thinks she'll be like she used to be, much more stable.
However, i think that no matter what we do now, our relationship won't work out. I think there's too much emotionally variance between us, and eventually it will be a problem again. I want to get back with her, I still love her, but I think that no matter what, it won't work out in the end. Our relationship is just a ticking timebomb.
TL;DR: | Too much emotional variance, she claims we can get better and improve, but I don't think it'll ever work out in the end.<|endoftext|> | [
" GF is very emotional, bipolar, and has Fibromayalgia. I'm not emotionally responsive, and am extremely unemotional. I think this is a huge problem in our relationship.",
" GF is extremely emotional and Bipolar, and I am not. I'm not sure if I can handle the emotional variance of the two of us.",
" GF is emotionally unresponsive and bipolar, and I am not. I want to get back with her, but I'm not sure how or if it can happen.",
" GF is extremely emotional and bipolar, I am not. How do I get back with her?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description
POST: So there is this girl that I was friends with in high school, we didn't talk much. So basically she started going to the same university as me and we started talking. She told me she flirted with me all of high school and that I showed no interest. Anyways somehow we ended up talking about sex blah blah and we both want to have sex with each other. So I kinda led her on for about two weeks, and at the beginning of this she said that she didn't just fuck around, which is weird because she is in a relationship and us having sex would mean he cheating. Actually given some of the things we have said to each other I would consider that she has already cheated, although not physically. Along the way I hinted strongly that I wasn't interest in her emotionally and that I was not looking for a relationship. Eventually I told it to her flat out and she got upset, saying that "she's not just a piece of meat". I guess I set it up so that she would get pissed at me and not sleep with me. I'm a virgin and I think she expects that I would develop feelings for her as a result of sex. I said "If you wanted sex and friendship but nothing more, then why would you be mad for me saying I wouldn't give anything more?" She said "That's not how sex works. We both know it. Plus who said that's what I wanted. I was saying I knew where YOU stood. And for me that's not okay. Because I'm worth everything and more than that." and "Like if it happened it happened but to just come out and say it? You're an asshole.". I feel like she is mad because I said I don't want to develop feelings for her and I was to keep it strictly physical. Well now it's not going to happen anyways, and I obviously screwed up because I shouldn't be talking like that to someone who is dating someone else, but I wanted to know what people think of this just from reading it. If you think I'm an asshole speak up, if not say whatever you feel, and if you need things clarified let me know, I will try to make this a bit more readable.
TL;DR: | A friend reacted badly when i told her that even though she wanted sex and feelings with me, I only wanted sex. How should I handle the situation?<|endoftext|> | [
" Girl who I flirted with for two weeks has already cheated on me with her boyfriend and I'm trying to figure out if I should tell her and how I should go about it.",
" Girl I'm in a relationship with doesn't want to have sex with me because I said I wouldn't. I tried to help her but she's mad that I didn't want to develop feelings for her.",
" I said I would fuck her, but I told her I wasn't interested and she got upset and didn't sleep with me. I don't know if I fucked up or not.",
" I have been friends with my long time girlfriend, we haven't been together for a few months. She is a virgin, but I am a virgin, and she thinks I should have sex with her and that I'm an asshole."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (24M) is having trouble giving my (24F) girlfriend some space
POST: My girlfriend and i have been dating for almost two years, we've both been dealing with personal issues. My way of dealing when I'm feeling really low is asking for her support. Just talking or spending time together will completely change my mood. But in her case, it's different. she pushes away, locks me out. She says she doesn't want my support but i see her struggling and i can't do anything. These past few days she's been pushing away a lot more and she won't text me. We don't live together so i just can't know what the fuck she's going through so i imagine the worse. Im at home, feeling hopeless and powerless to help her. And when this usually happens i blow up and i force my way in and of course thats not good. she gets angry and threatens to leave me because i can't give her space. But what would she have me do?? I know she'll pick herself back up back up but usually theres a part missing.
TL;DR: | Im feeling stressed about this, i don't want to blow up but i don't wanna stand by and look at her suffer. what should do?<|endoftext|> | [
" my girlfriend is not getting what she wants. She's doing what she can but it doesn't always work. Im at home and unable to help her.",
" girl i care about pushes away, i can't get her space, she doesn't want it but i feel powerless.",
" My gf is trying to push me away, she's not good to me, i can't give her space. I'm not sure what to do",
" I feel like my girlfriend is not being supportive enough and im not sure how to do anything else."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] taking girls [20F] virginity. Please don't kill me.
POST: Ok some preface. Been seeing this girl for a bit and she is a virgin. I REALLY like this girl, like super into her and I'm pretty much her first boyfriend.
The last thing I want to do with her is to fuck it up by moving too fast, but I do want to get more intimate with her. I just don't know how to approach it, do I simply ask her if she's ready or is that too much pressure on her? Also, how do I make sure that she is comfortable and not in any pain during the act.
Sorry if this all seems a little jumbled, I myself have not slept with many women and all were pretty much way more experienced than me.
TL;DR: | I Want to know whether it is ok to ask a girl if I can take her virginity. Sorry if this sounds bad.<|endoftext|> | [
" Girl is a virgin. I don't know how to approach the situation, do I make her feel uncomfortable or should I make sure she is comfortable.",
" I'm trying to get more intimate with this girl, she is a virgin, and I don't know how to approach the situation.",
" Girl is a virgin, how do I make sure she is comfortable and not in any pain while taking her virginity?",
" I'm taking a girl's virginity, is it a good idea? Do I ask her if she's ready or is it too much pressure on her? Also, do I make sure she is comfortable during the act?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My grandpa, the man that makes the V22 fly - Can I get some help, Reddit?
POST: My intentions in this post are A) to brag on my grandfathe, and B) to get some opinions. My grandfather, the inspiration to become a (successful) mechanical engineer (Such high aspirations, I know), has as of late been noticed to be in a deteriorating state of mental capacity, and we are fearful of degenerative diseases. This man was the man who developed the flight system for the V22 Osprey Tiltrotor. From my various Lego imitations of his designs and creations to my current pursuit at aviation related engineering, he has been my role model. In light of his health, I just wanted to share a little fact about this man and let all of the COD fanboys know that every time you rack up 18 kills, that's my grandpa's baby your flying in.
Now for a little advice seeking. This year will be his 82nd year, and I want to give him a fantastic aviation-related gift. Completely over the top is absolutely fine. In your opinion, Redditors, what would be a good idea of what to do for him?
TL;DR: | My grandfather of poor health made the flight system for the V22 Osprey and I'm bragging on him - looking for aviation-related ideas for an over-the-top 82nd birthday suprise.<|endoftext|> | [
" Grandpa, the inspiration to the V22 flight system, is in a declining mental state. What should I do for him?",
" Grandpa is suffering from mental health issues, and I want to give him a flying gift. What would you do?",
" Grandpa the man who made the V22 fly, can I get some help?",
" Grandpa, the man that made the V22 fly, is in a deteriorating mental state, and I want to give him a gift for his 82nd birthday."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[23M] just found out my good friend [29F] was hooking up with her best friend's[28F] ex [27M] for at least a year behind her back
POST: So I found out today my good friend Brittany[29F] who I have/had (I don't know anymore) feelings for was hooking up with her best friend[28F] Jen's ex Mike[28M] for at least a year behind Jen's back. All 3 of them have been best friends for years and this is a world changing discovery for me. Brittany and Mike for the most part just seemed like best friends, but looking back there are obvious signs that this was happening that I missed. Mike apparently called things off in a moment of clarity somewhat recently when he realized what he's been doing. I'm really good friends with all 3 of them and I know it would tear Jen apart to know that this happened. Since I've known all 3 of them Jen occasionally gets jealous when Mike starts to see other girls, and the fact that her best friend was hooking up with him would probably break their friendship apart. I realize my feelings for Brittany may complicate matters but I'm really torn on how to proceed. Let them continue to act like nothings happened between them? or let Jen know because this is something that feels extremely dirty and wrong.
This is also leading me to question my feelings for Brittany because I thought I knew her, and this is something so contradictory to the person I thought I knew that I don't know how to feel anymore.
TL;DR: | Girl I like was hooking up with her best friends ex for at least a year behind her back. Tell her best friend or just ignore it?<|endoftext|> | [
" I found out my good friend Jen's ex had been hooking up with her best friend's ex for at least a year behind their backs. I'm torn on how to proceed.",
" I found out my good friend Brittany[29F] was hooking up with her best friend's ex[27M] for at least a year behind her back.",
" A friend is hooking up with a girl she's been close to for a year. I don't know what to do.",
" I found out my good friend Brittany[29F] was hooking up with her best friend's[28F] ex[27M] for at least a year behind her back."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: I can't find the motivation to keep losing weight.
POST: Hi everyone!
I'd like to apologize beforehand, since I'm not a native English speaker. I may make mistakes, so I'd be very grateful if you'd correct me.
I started losing weight on 3rd January this year. I'm a 19 year old, 168 cm (5'6") male, started at 115 kg (253.5 lbs), and I've lost about 12 kg (26 lbs) since then. I've been having a rough time, although it's nothing very serious. I was dumped in november, and since then I've been having some problems with my ex girlfriend, who had to move away. Also, all my friends are currently living in other cities, so I can't hang out with them very often. But I've been trying to find something to motivate myself, and about two months ago I met a girl, and became friends. With that girl in mind it was really easy working out and eating better. But things turned wrong a week ago, when she made very clear that she could not be with me for a good reason. The thing is, I've found very hard to move my ass since then, and have been eating like an animal. I've probably gained a few pounds this week, and still can't find the motivation to get up and start working out and eating well again. It's not because of this girl I've mentioned (I knew this was probably going to happen). It's just that I don't feel like doing this, and at the same time I don't want to gain those 26 pounds. Also, I can barely see the effects of losing 26 pounds. I feel and look exactly the same as 6 months ago.
What do you do when you're like this? I've been thinking about using MFP seriosly to track calories, but the exercise part is still very difficult to overcome for me.
TL;DR: | I don't have the motivation to exercise or eat well, and have been eating like shit for one week. Any tips?<|endoftext|> | [
" I can't find motivation to lose weight, and I feel like I'm wasting my time.",
" I've been losing weight for a long time and I still can't find the motivation to do anything. What do you do when you're like this?",
" I've lost all the weight, but I don't feel like doing anything, so I'm having trouble finding motivation to keep losing.",
" I can't find the motivation to keep losing weight. I'm in a relationship and I'm not hungry. I don't know what to do."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My lab partner [20/M] is falling for me [20/F] and I am emotionally manipulative but don't want to hurt him
POST: I know I'm an emotionally manipulative person. I've hurt a lot of guys before and I really am trying to make an effort to be more careful.
'Brad' a few weeks ago asked me to be his lab partner because we both live in the same dorm. I said yes. We're becoming really good friends (we have the same sense of nerdy humor, we like the same things, our personalities are very compatible). I can tell he's falling for me and to be 100% honest, this thrills me because I get to manipulate him (he does most of the labs we do together and doesn't get upset that he's doing most of the work, when I have favors I need done he does it for me) and it's very convenient for me.
I think he's a great guy. He is such a good friend, very very smart, and is respectful, kind, and sensitive. I want us to be really good and close friends. I hardly meet people I get along this well with. I don't want to treat him badly but I feel like I will. I feel like I'm already starting to. To be 100% honest, I flirt with him and kind of give off the impression that I may be into him. I tease him in a playful way and although I do that with regular friends, I know he is banking on the possibility that there might be something more and I know he feels this way and yet I still do it.
Maybe I'm just a bad person. I don't want to fuck this up because if I do, I'm going to lose him as a friend. How do I not fuck this up? I can't switch to a different partner because the professor requires the same lab partner for all semester. I spend about 10+ hours on the class with Brad doing research in the lab with him where we work together, and then about 10 hours outside of lab in our dorm just working together.
I feel like I either have to tone down all friendliness with Brad or keep leading him on. How do I do "friend territory"?
TL;DR: | My lab partner is falling for me and yes I am a emotionally manipulative person but I don't want to lose him as a friend<|endoftext|> | [
" I feel like I'm falling in love with my lab partner. I don't want to hurt him. How do I not fuck this up?",
" My lab partner is falling for me and I want to be careful. I can't stop flirting, teasing, and doing the \"friend territory\" thing. How do I not screw this up?",
" My lab partner is falling for me, I'm emotionally manipulative, I want to keep it a secret but I don't want to hurt him, and I feel like I'm starting to.",
" Lab partner is falling for me and I am emotionally manipulative but don't want to hurt him. How do I keep him as a friend?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Should I break NC?
POST: My (22F) boyfriend (24M) of a year and a half broke up with me after a really terrible fight three weeks ago. It wasn't something that was planned on, but things escalated and I kept insisting we talk about it when he wanted space. After our final time seeing each other, exactly one week ago, we agreed to be friends (we would still like to be in a band together as we were when we were dating) and we were laughing and talking like we always had by the end. It was very hard for both of us, we had been planning a life together and we both still love each other. The day after, he changed all of his facebook information and I just couldn't deal with having to be so close to the situation for awhile, and so I blocked him. I didn't tell him about it, but I don't want it to be a situation where he feels I'm trying to passive aggressively slight him. I was thinking of texting him today and asking him to get a drink with me, and touch base....but I don't know. I would want it to be a casual thing, so we can start communicating on friendly terms again. He means so much to me, and I want us to be able to remember the good things that happened between us, not the bad. I fear he's developing this strange evil caricature of me (partly to ease his own guilt in how our relationship ended) and I fear the longer I let him feel like I am shunning him, the worse it may become.
TL;DR: | Honestly, I miss my ex. I know he misses me, but thinks I might be an evil manipulative she-wolf. Should I break a week of NC?<|endoftext|> | [
" boyfriend broke up with me, now I'm afraid of him feeling like I'm shunning him. I'm not sure what to do.",
" boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me after a very bad fight. I'm a mess, and I want to know if I should break up with him because of it. ",
" boyfriend broke up with me, I don't want it to be a permanent thing and I don't want to make him feel like I'm trying to be mean.",
" boyfriend broke up with me after a really bad fight, and I'm worried about the way he is portraying me."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are your "tough old people" stories?
POST: I was heading to the library to drop off a book with my friend. We start walking towards the door and we see someone laying by the steps. It was an older woman. We ask her if she is ok and she tells us that she fell down the steps and how her hip might be broken.
I call 911 and they ask me to explain the situation. "We are at the library and an older woman has fallen down the stairs and her hip might be broken."
From the ground the woman says "Don't call me old, please!" I apologize and the 911 operator asks me how old the woman is. I ask her and she tells me "87".
The whole time she is on the ground saying "I can't break my hip! I have things to do today! This is such an inconvience!"
This woman was a lot tougher then I would be in that situation!
TL;DR: | 87 year old woman falls and breaks her hip. Complains how inconvient it is, instead of swearing and crying in pain like a normal person!<|endoftext|> | [
" I was told to explain a situation to a 911 operator in a desperate situation.",
" An older woman falls down the steps. How tough can she be?",
" A woman I talked to on the phone fell down a stairwell and then she started telling me how she can't break her hip.",
" Old woman fell down the stairs and her hip might be broken, how old is she?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21/M] was talking to a girl [19/F] and we stopped due to certain circumstances. Can i try again now that it has been a while?
POST: Hey guys, i have been puzzled about this for so long but never could get any good answers from my friends. I was talking to a girl, and not just any girl but my high school crush, for about 2 months. She would come surprise me at work and we would do cute things like sit on a bench together at midnight and watch the clouds lit up by a full moon and i would always take her out to dinner and it sounds good right? Well later on in those 2 months i noticed a little distance from her and so me, who had previously had a ex-gf of 2 years break up with me because i let us "fade away", was a little worried because i didn't want to let this fade away either. I asked her if anything was wrong and that i could feel the distance as we hadnt hung out or even text each other for a whole week. This was her EXACT words: "I've been meaning to text you! I'm really sorry I've been so distant. Things have been so hectic lately. I just realized i don't really have time to get into anything like this right now. Im not exactly stable emotionally.... /: but it is nothing you have done i SWEAR. Pleaseeeee try to understand"
This happened several months ago and i know she was caught up in a hard semester at school and other personal things but those things are not really prevalent anymore. I have casually dated since we stopped talking but I'm really hung up on her for some reason. I want me and her to work out. I will still check in on her from time to time and send the occasional snapchat but other than that i gave her a lot of time away from me to think and do what she needed to do. My question to you guys is after this amount of time, we ended probably right after Halloween, is it too soon to maybe try and spark something up again? I figured with Valentine coming up i could use that to my advantage.
All help is welcome!
TL;DR: | was talking to a girl. Had to stop because she said at the time she was too busy for a relationship. Can i win her back?<|endoftext|> | [
" Girl i was talking to for 2 months stopped talking to me and i want to try again. I'm not sure if i should do anything but maybe that would be a good idea.",
" Girl i had a crush on broke up with me due to personal issues and i have been trying to think of ways to get her back into my life, but i'm not sure if i should or should not.",
" Talked to girl I was dating for 2 months, was worried about her feelings for me and thought it was too soon to try again but now i know she is not as upset as i am and want to try again with a friend.",
" I was talking to a girl and she was like \"I have been meaning to text you! I'm really sorry I've been so distant. Things have been so hectic lately. I just realized i don't really have time to get into anything like this right now. Im not exactly stable emotionally.... /: but it is nothing you have done i SWEAR. Pleaseeeee try to understand\" and i was like \"that is so sweet\" and i was like \"maybe i can try that out!\" and she was like \"i don't think so\" and i was like \"okay then.\" and we ended up not"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my crush [18 F] When to kiss her...Need help asap!!
POST: I just have a quick question. How am i supposed to know if a girl wants a kiss at the end of the night?
I ask because I was in this predicament last night. I was hanging out with this girl I like and we were pretty flirty and whatever, so I walk her out to her car hug her, open the door for her etc. and that's that. I wanted to kiss her...but i didn't know if i should have or not....help!! Is there any signs or something that i should look out for next time?
I really like This girl and don't want to potentially mess something up by leaning in for that kiss and her rejecting it and having further nights just be awkward etc.
TL;DR: | Walked a girl out to car, wanted to kiss her, didn't know if i should. Any signs I can look for next time to know she wants one.<|endoftext|> | [
" Kissed girl and no signs of her wanting a kiss but she rejected it anyway. I wanna know how to kiss her again.",
" I was hanging out with my crush and didn't know if i should kiss her or not. How am I supposed to know if she wants a kiss at the end of the night?",
" I just want to know if there's a sign that a girl likes me...or if she's just going to reject me.",
" I kissed a girl and she didn't like it. Should I kiss her again?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend's [16 F] parents saw our / my [17 M] text messages and no longer wants us to each other.
POST: Yesterday morning, my girlfriend of 3 months got her phone taken away and the reasoning behind it was pretty simple / not a big deal. (iirc, she said it was because she didnt feed her siblings dinner early when they said they weren't hungry and her parents were upset about it).
At the time I thought nothing of it because her father specifically is rather strict when it comes to her and quick to punish her for her faults.
Early this morning, I checked my twitter direct messages and saw that she had messaged me a lengthy paragraph. She informed that she still hadn't gotten her phone back and that her dad snooped through her phone.
Immediately I realized what this meant. He saw a clear exchange of lewd pictures (from her end) and texts between us. She later detailed in the message that I am no longer allowed to see her and that her father thinks i'm a bad influence. **AND** that her father even went to saying that i'm probably some junkie / pothead because of something I posted on instagram. (Short little edit of clips of us together with some music, nothing but innocent.) Which is crazy to me since I don't drink nor do drugs at all...
I've spent lots of time with her and her family, and they have never said nothing but good things about me till now.
We messaged through twitter back and forth and sort have left our relationship in a grey area. We haven't broken up, but i'm scared that it'll have to come to that. I love her a lot and It would be hard on both of us if it happened.
____
TL;DR: | girlfriend's parents that once loved me don't anymore, saw lewd exchange of texts / pictures on her phone while snooping and told her that i'm no longer allowed to see her or talk to her.<|endoftext|> | [
" Girlfriend's parents saw our text messages, saw our naked pictures of each other, and now want to break up.",
" Girlfriend's parents saw my texts, found me on instagram, and now want us to break up.",
" Girlfriend's parents saw my text messages between us and are now saying that I'm a bad influence. I'm scared and don't want to break up with her.",
" Girlfriend's parents saw my/her text messages, but are now scared of my relationship and we're not allowed to see each other anymore."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I have a fight scheduled for the end of June and need to gain 5-10lbs. Any nutritionists or fitness gurus out there?
POST: I am an amateur boxer who normally fights in the Lightweight division. I have been trying to gain weight for the past few years and my attempts have all failed. I tried to going to the nutritionists in my area but they were all unreasonably expensive and my family doctor simply told me I have a fast metabolism which isn't much help. I've tried a lot of different things on my own like eating around 6,000 calories a day including a gram of protein for each pound of body weight. After a couple months I had only gained a pound or two so I abandoned the painful and time consuming process of eating that much. I have a feeling I probably was just eating the wrong kinds of food at the wrong times of the day. But that's why I'm here for help. I need to find a sort of diet plan that can put on lean mass quickly so I can make weight for my next fight. Thanks for the help Reddit!
TL;DR: | I can not gain weight when I try. I need a detailed day to day diet plan that can put on 5-10lbs of lean mass in a months' time.<|endoftext|> | [
" I'm an amateur boxer and I have been trying to gain weight for a few years. I've tried a lot of different ways of eating and I've failed miserably. I'm looking for a way to lose a lot of weight in a short amount of time so I can make weight for my next fight.",
" I'm trying to lose weight and am having trouble with my body weight. Need a plan that can help me gain lean mass fast.",
" I have a fight scheduled for the end of June and I need to gain weight. Any nutritionists or fitness gurus out there?",
" I have been trying to gain weight for years and every time I try I end up gaining weight for no reason. Any advice on what diet plan is best for me to gain weight fast?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [24M] I can only attract girls I'm not into...is loneliness better than empty relationships?
POST: I've been in three or four serious relationships so far and not one of them was with a girl I was really into--they all just kind of fell into my lap. Girl was into me, it was convenient, I was tired of being lonely, etc. so I went with it. The girls were all attractive, nice, and my friends/family generally liked them. Not bottom feeders by any means, but they just didn't do it for me. I need a girl who is passionate about something. None of these girls had a passion for anything. They were just living their lives.
Right now I'm several dates in with a girl who is a solid 7 or 8 out of 10, has some mutual friends, is nice, good sex, etc but we have zero in common and again no passion beyond shopping and brunch.
There have been 2 or 3 girls I've known that I've been absolutely floored by and feel like I could have had a great relationship with. I even got a couple dates with them but it never worked out--I usually get phased out.
To be honest, I'm not really looking for "the one" at this young of an age, I just want for once to be in a relationship with a girl I really like or potentially love. 1-Any advice? 2-Is it better to be lonely or in a relationship with someone you don't love?
TL;DR: | Can only land girls I'm not into; want to figure out how to fix it. In the mean time, is being lonely better or worse than being in an empty relationship?<|endoftext|> | [
" I've been in 3 or 4 relationships, one with a girl I really liked and one with a girl I really like but don't really like. I'm single and I'm really looking for a girl who likes me, not one who just falls into my lap.",
" I'm in a serious relationship, I've been in 3 or 4, but I've only been with girls I was into. I'm not sure I'm attracted to them. Is it better to be lonely or in a relationship with someone you really like?",
" I have zero passion for a girl who I don't like. What do?",
" I'm not sure if I need a girl who is passionate about something or if I need to be in a relationship with someone who is passionate about something."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M/19] have seen things lately that make me believe my father [M/49] is cheating on my mother.
POST: Note to everyone my parents are together and have been for over 25 years.
So it started earlier in the year when we were on holidays going to India and Thailand. It was my father, brother [25] and myself. On our arrival we stayed in Bangkok for a few nights. Due to a discount we had received, my father had his own room and my brother and I shared another. The rooms were paid for with my debit card. During the second night from memory, I received a call from reception that someone was waiting for me downstairs.
I venture downstairs completely confused as to who would want to see me, I knew absolutely noone in Thailand. A lady is waiting in the lobby and due to no one else being around I assume she was the one requesting me. She asks if I'm ____ (my father's name) and then shows me on her iPad a sum of money next to my father's name and the hotel we were staying at in some form of chat application. I said no, I don't know who that is and went straight back to my room. I never mentioned that to anyone and my father the next morning didn't say anything about it, he may not have known I was aware.
Fast forward to a week ago. My father intends on travelling to India cause his parents are unwell. He travels to India about 2-3 times a year. I needed to do some of his account work, for which I always use his laptop. I've been doing this form of work for years and he's completely aware I need to use his laptop to access the spreadsheets.
The web browser was already open and there's a page open for an escort service and more specifically different girls with their details and description.
I really don't know what to do and whether I should bring this up with my dad. My parent's relationship has had a lot to overcome for many years and I think this would result in a definite divorce.
TL;DR: | Father has used (maybe) escort services before and I'm the only one in the family who accidentally knows of his attempts.<|endoftext|> | [
" I have seen things that make me believe my father is cheating on my mother. I want to know if I should bring this up to my parents.",
" My dad is travelling to India, I need to use his laptop to access his spreadsheets and he's aware of this.",
" I'm seeing a lady that my father has been seeing, who I don't know and I need to report it to my parents.",
" I see my father spending time with a different girl than me. I do not know if to bring this up with my parents."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my GF [24 F]. I am doubting our 3 year relationship for more reasons then I thought.
POST: We've been living together for two years now. We are financially dependent on each other because we split living costs. Without each other we would have to move back home. Our lease ends in May. I plan to transfer to a university the following September. She plans to begin her year long internship required to finish her degree. She hopes the relationship will continue on.
However, I'm not entirely certain I want to continue the relationship. We only ever have sex when she feels she owes it too me but this is only after I'm turned down for days at a time. She makes me feel incredibly guilty for wanting to have sex with her because she has no sex drive. I'm also no longer attracted to her.
She has always been overweight but just keeps gaining. Her grandmother and mother both have diabetes. I encourage her to exercise with me every day. She always refuses. I'll cook healthy meals but she usually eats fast food.
Only once has she ever cleaned the apartment. She told me outright that she doesn't do dishes.
She is incredibly anti social with a quick temper. She says she loves me everyday. I genuinely believe her. I'm the only positive thing in her life right now. She doesn't really have any friends or interests/hobbies.
It would absolutely devastate her if we were to break up. It would also leave us in such an awkward situation. We live in a one bedroom apartment. We done a lot of amazing and fun things together but I feel as if I'm missing out by not dating and meeting a lot of people. I'm not sure what to do. I really do love and care for her but after living with her...
TL;DR: | 3yrs together. If we break up now I'll have to share a bed with my ex-girlfriend for 9 months.<|endoftext|> | [
" GF of 3 years is overweight, uninterested in having sex and a bitch. Should I continue with the relationship or break it off?",
" GF is overweight and anti social. I'm not sure if I should continue seeing her.",
" GF has always been overweight but now I feel like she's not attracted to me anymore. We have great sex but I feel like I'm missing out.",
" Girlfriend, who has always been overweight, has gained a lot of weight and is now anti social. I want to continue the relationship but I'm not sure if I want to continue."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30M aus] with my so [29F viet] 8 months, pregnant and distant, when i bring it up we verbally fight
POST: we tent to fight over the same thing all the time, i love her to death.
but shes always tired an goes straight home, i rarely get to see her, i can't go see her because her mother viet has not invited me around
our twins are due in 4 months.
last week it got almost too much for me to bare that i went to jump off a building, i tell her that i love he she shrugs it off.
2 days ago i went to meet her and have dinner hoping to patch things up, convo starts she is talking to a councilor an starts to go down the same path sounding like she wants more space.
so i pay for dinner walk out feeling like my heart had been ripped out
she gets mad at me find out she wanted me to move in after she had been talking to my sister and mother thats what she didint get to say
i feel like crap when that is all i wanted now she won't talk says she needs space, and i'm back to crying myself to sleep, an not functioning.
honestly i feel like i should have just jumped, because i screwed up i admitted it to her.
i excepted her flaws, when she lied on her birthday she was out partying with her drunk abusive ex whom use to rape her.
i just wish she could except that instead of me saying something i regret i walk away to think because she is my first serious relationship since i was 16, i don't know what else to say
TL;DR: | i want to be involved in a real relationship/pregnancy, she is always tired or wants space an we fight over it<|endoftext|> | [
" my girlfriend of 8 months, like a friend and then suddenly a girlfriend, is not worth it anymore, she is not going to make it work",
" girlfriend of 8 months is abusive, i love her to death but she wants more space. ",
" met my girlfriend for the first time in 8 months and it got too much for me, she cheated on her ex and now she is distant, i can't make her see me.",
" brought up my relationship with my girlfriend, she now says she wants more space and i feel like i made a huge mistake"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: If someone is telling you they don't know whether they want to get back together, does it mean they don't love you anymore?
POST: Hey!
I am female (22). My boyfriend(24) who I've been in a relationship for just over a year recently moved away. I (coincidentally, for school) am moving to the exact same city. We agreed to take a break for the months we were apart, he felt unsure abut whether he wanted to be in a relationship at all, but said he'd really like to try again when I got over there. I agreed.
We talked a couple of weeks after he moved over and he started talking about how it was better that we had broken up now and how he wasn't ready for a relationship and he was just going to keep being uncertain and hurting me. When I asked him directly "well, is this a break or not?", he said he didn't know what he wanted and wished I would just stop asking. I feel I would stop asking if he was clear but with his opinions on this all over the place I need to know whether to give up and move on or wait it out.
He's talked a lot about how he's not ready for a relationship but he really wants to try for me and backflips between saying I make him really happy and saying he needs to be by himself.
Does anybody had some insights into this, his motivations, or wtf is going on in his brain? If I try to talk to him about he just says he doesn't want to talk and I'm putting him under pressure. If it's that he doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want to tell me that's fine. I mean, it's sad, but I'd like to know at least.
TL;DR: | boyfriend completely inconsistent around whether or not he wants to be in a relationship, does anybody have any idea what could be going on up there?<|endoftext|> | [
" boyfriend wants to be by himself, he's not sure if he wants to be a relationship with me or not. Is it a good idea to give up and move on or wait it out?",
" Bf moved away and isn't sure whether he wants to get back together with me. I don't know how to get him to talk, but am putting him under pressure to talk.",
" I feel like he's not ready for a relationship, but he really wants to try and it's making me feel really uncomfortable.",
" Boyfriend moved away from me and I'm moving to the exact same city, he's not ready to be in a relationship and doesn't want to talk to me."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Breakup]I(22m) just told my girlfriend(20f) of five years I wanted to continue the relationship as friends and she took off
POST: Backstory:
I first made the mistake of not giving my opinion when she decided we should move out so she can get her dog from the shelter.
Me being the person who thought everything would be alright went along and we've been living for almost two years together.
She has had the tendency to be controlling, semi-joking/verbally abusive, and a jealous, very jealous person, and it wasn'tfeeling right with me.
I decided if I didn't tell her how I felt I'll be stuck in a situation where it might progress to a family and I wouldn't be happy-go-lucky.
I told her as honest as I could that we should just be friends, that I felt terrible for not saying anything before and she started with telling me I wasted her time, slammed the door and took off.
What do?
TL;DR: | told girlfriend of five years I love her but am not in love with her and she took off, what's the next step?<|endoftext|> | [
" Broke up with my girlfriend of five years, told her I wanted to continue the relationship as friends, she took off and I'm stuck.",
" I told my girlfriend I wanted to continue our relationship as friends and she took off.",
" My girlfriend decided we should move out of our house and I told her I wanted to continue as friends. She took off, I'm sorry for not being honest about how I felt.",
" We're still in a relationship and I want to keep living with her, but I want to be friends."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My husband (26m) is slowly eating me away (27f)
POST: My husband, Jason*, and I have been married for 2 years and together for 5. You are probably used to the "he's wonderful" and "he's perfect" posts here....but he is great. He makes me absurdly happy. He makes me smile, giggle, and get all fuzzy. I can't really explain how silly I get when asked to explain.
But.
Two years before us, he lost his older brother, It was a bar car accident. No ones fault. Older man had a stroke at the wheel and hit his brother's car. Jason was supposed to be driving that car. Instead, he stayed at home. He blames himself.
Everything bad that happens is his fault, in his mind. I get it. He has guilt. I've told him a million times that his brother's death was not his fault. His parents say the same. But...it's everything. Everything you can think of is his fault. Out of a certain food? His fault. Need to get gas before work? His fault. The house needs cleaned? His fault.
I've done everything possible to help. I've used every rational argument. Tonight, we drive home from bar and the fact that we had to stop to get gas was his fault. I told him no, I told him getting gas is fact of life, and he sulked the whole way home. He is still upset about such a simple thing. I don't know what to do. I've told him he needs help, and he rejects it.
What do I do? How do I make him see that not everything is his fault? He is a wonderful person. Amazing. Just....incredible. And he just can't see his worth.
Note: apologizes. English is not my first language.
TL;DR: | My husband blames all on himself after his brother died. How do I make him see that he is a good person?<|endoftext|> | [
" Husband lost brother in bar accident. I try to do everything I can to help him, and he doesn't see how much of a good person he is.",
" My husband has guilt over death of older brother. It's an awful thing, but I can't stand to see him upset. He's wonderful. But I don't want him to see his worth.",
" My husband (26m) has an eating disorder. He is a horrible person. He is still upset that I told him not to. How do I help him see his worth?",
" husband is losing his ability to see his worth, and is not sure how to fix this."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[22/F] husband [23/M] consistently goes onto nsfw after I told him I am not okay with it. How do I handle this?
POST: My husband and I have been married for almost a year now and before we were married we were together for 3 years. We recently had a baby together and since having the baby I have felt very self concious about my body. I have been working really really hard though to get back into shape and to look and feel sexy again. My husband tells me all the time that he thinks I am sexy but goes on nsfw quite a bit.
The issue there: him going on to nsfw makes me feel unattractive to him. It makes me feel as though I am not enough for him and he would rather be looking at photos of other girls. This is the fourth time this has come up into an argument and the first two times he told me he wouldnt go on there again because he didnt need it, then I caught him again and he tried to expalin why and it came out as he was feeling unsatisfied in the bedroom and it was his way to be in his head for a bit and fantisize about different things.
Side note: We have sex quite a bit and I am willing to do whatever he wants and will initiate sex when I am in the mood.
I am having a lot of trouble trying to understand why he needs to go on nsfw and I am just wondering if there is anyone who can try and explain it to me? I am trying to see his side of it but just having a really really hard time seeing it and still feeling okay with my body and our sex life.
TL;DR: | Husband goes on nsfw after telling wife he won't and makes wife feel as though she is not enough for him.<|endoftext|> | [
" My husband will go on nsfw after I tell him I am not okay with it. How do I handle this?",
" My husband constantly goes on nsfw after I tell him I am not okay with it. He wants to be in his head a bit. How do I explain to him that I am not okay with it?",
" husband and I are having a lot of sex and I am having a lot of trouble with my body and my sex life. What do I do?",
" My husband isnt okay with me going on nsfw after he told me I was not okay with it. How do I handle this?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Teacher accused me of cheating should I take it to the Dean?
POST: The assignment was to create a contact form. Using some tutorials I found online I made the form in class and submitted it.
I went to check my grade the other day and found this message
>This looks identical to the zip file I provided to help you with this assignment. You were expected to use the files as a guide and not as the assignment
and he gave me an F for the assignment. I emailed him including the links to the tutorial I used and he emailed me back that I never added extra features to the form like he had put in the assignment sheet.
I spoke to him in class tonight and I told him I didn't copy and that I was told by him that I did not have to add any extra features. He responded that because I named the file the same as his and the submit button was the same that it was identical.
TL;DR: | Teacher accused me of taking his work and resubmitting it. Should I continue fighting? This assignment was worth 6% of my grade. It's midterms and I now have a C-.<|endoftext|> | [
" I went to the Dean and told him I did not cheat and I was told I did. He said he didn't think it was.",
" Teacher accused me of cheating and I sent him a zip file with my code for the assignment. He gave me an F and told me I didn't add any extra features to the form.",
" Teacher accused me of cheating should I take it to the Dean?",
" I tried to create a contact form for a student and he accused me of cheating should I take it to the Dean?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need help navigating a new relationship with a recently divorced guy [F-24 and M34]
POST: Hey Reddit,
I am struggling with a new relationship and what to do. I [F-24] have been dating a guy [34] since October. We both felt a lot of chemistry for each other when we started dating, but he is recently divorced (just over a year) so we agreed to take things slow.
We have been hanging out about once a week since October and our time together is really nice. He is sweet, funny, smart, and the sex is amazing. The problem is that I do more of the setting up dates - he is sometimes slow to reply to texts and e-mails. When I went away for several weeks, he only e-mailed me once after I had already been gone a week and sent him two e-mails. But then when we see each other, he is always very sweet and seems really into me.
My feelings for him have started to get more serious over the past few months and I'm struggling with how to deal. I don't want to keep at this once/week pace and not hear from him for days on end. I'm ready for this to be more of a relationship. I tried bringing up my feelings recently, and he said I was really important to him but he is struggling with being in a new relationship and what love means due to the end of his marriage. He changed the topic really quickly, and it was late so I didn't want to push it.
Since then, he hasn't responded to a text I sent 24 hours ago asking him if he'd like to spend time together this weekend. I know he has his phone on him most of the time, so I feel upset that he is just ignoring it. Should I just completely back off and make other plans for the weekend? Push for a conversation or send him an e-mail to let him know how I feel?
What do reddit?
TL;DR: | Been dating a recently divorced man since October. My feelings have progressed, but I can't tell what's going on with him or how I should deal with it. Do I push for a conversation, or back off?<|endoftext|> | [
" I have a new relationship with a guy who is in a long distance relationship. He is slow to respond to texts and emails. I need to know how to get more out of this relationship.",
" I'm in a new relationship with a guy who is divorced and doesn't respond to texts or e-mails. I'm trying to be more in touch with him, but I don't want to keep at this pace.",
" Dated a guy for over a year, he divorced a year ago. He never responds to my texts. I want to get in a new relationship, but he seems to have moved on. What do I do?",
" My boyfriend [34] and I have been hanging out a lot, but he is new to the relationship and I'm not sure how to navigate the relationship."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with my ex gf[22 F] dated for a few months, mutual breakup, then betrayal
POST: Me and my ex-gf had a mutual breakup after dating for a few months because we both weren't quite ready to be in a relationship so we ended it on good terms. She was dealing with some emotional problems and seeking help while i had to put my life in order in relation to my career. I have a decent job but I haven't set any goals for my future.
Only single for about a week I decided to go out with a couple girls from work who she hates because one of them was drinking and hitting on me in front of her one night and the other because we used to see each other then blew me off in horrible fashion. I never had any intention of pursuing anything with these two girls, nothing happened between us that night, I still had strong feelings for my ex, and I just thought it would be good to get out of the house for a night.
We broke up about 3 months ago and I saw her for the first time this past weekend since we ended it. We have mutual friends and we all went out for drinks one night. Night ended and I told her how sorry I was because my friends had told me she was extremely upset at me. She began to cry and felt betrayed and that she couldn't trust me anymore. She has a lot of repressed emotions from past experiences and said I hurt her just as much as the people who hurt her before. She said if I hadn't done what I did we probably would've gotten back together.
I still feel absolutely horrible for what I did and putting her in bad position. I really care about her a lot and I will literally do anything to gain back her trust. I know it is something that takes time but there has to be something I can do. She's meant the world to me and she still does but she was not willing to give me a second chance. Any help and advice will be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | broke up on good terms, went out with people she hates, cant trust me anymore but i care about her more than anyone.<|endoftext|> | [
" My ex gf broke up with me for a few months, I broke up with her for a few months, and now we are back together. I want to gain back her trust and she is unwilling to give me a second chance.",
" Ex gf cheated on me with other women, I broke up with her over it and she now feels betrayed by me. I am scared of being alone and I don't know what to do.",
" Gf and I broke up 3 months ago, she is dealing with some emotional issues and is looking for help. I have a decent job and I have set some goals for my future.",
" Breakup with ex, met a girl I'm interested in, she was very upset and very hurt by my actions. I feel like I hurt her and my life is ruined."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my EXGF [16 F] 3 Months, She has moved on and seems fine
POST: Basically my EXGF and I just broke up, for the 2 weeks before she slowly started to ignore me more and more and then I finally had it and broke up with her.. I didn't want to at ALL but it was better then staying with her... And I am just getting really upset because she seems PERFECTLY fine about the break up even though at 2 months she said she never wanted to lose me and I am such an important person in her life.. total bullshit.
Her friend Ross and her are really good friends, and she talked about him a bit whilst we were dating.. now that we are not they are spending every minute they can together.. and in front of me they will hold hands and stuff, you know, stuff a couple would do..
Basically I feel like what we had was just total bull crap and I don't know how to approach this or whatever..
TL;DR: | MY EXGF said she loved me, drifted apart, now we broke up, she is so happy without me and already starting to snuggle up with other guys.. what do?<|endoftext|> | [
" Ex GF has moved on and I feel like it was just bullshit.. I don't know how to approach this.",
" Ex GF who said she was never going to lose me and I am so important, she broke up with me, now she has moved on and seems fine..",
" Ex GF moved on, seems fine, she has moved on and seems fine to me.. I don't know what to do with this..",
" Ex GF broke up with me and now seems fine, but she moved on and seems fine to me.. How can I approach this?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Has becoming a dick worked for anyone?
POST: So I've been single for about three years now (m/21), and have really wanted another girlfriend basically the entire time. I feel like part of the problem, if not the entire problem, is that I'm too nice of a guy. I've been told by numerous people that I'm the nicest person they know, and now I'm starting to think that this may be contributing to the problem. After all, guys always here how girls always want the bad boys, and nice guys finish last. So I'm seriously considering trying to not be so nice (which seems to me as if it will be difficult). Before I do though, I just wanna know if others thought this of themselves, and tried to become more of a dick to actually get a girl, and has it worked?
TL;DR: | I think I'm too nice to get a girlfriend, think if I'm more of a dick I'll get one. Has anyone done this with success?<|endoftext|> | [
" I've been single for about three years now, and have been trying to become a better guy for a while. Is this a good thing? I'm not sure, but I don't want to be an asshole.",
" I'm starting to think I'm becoming a dick to actually get a girl, and I want to know if it worked for others.",
" I've been dating for about three years now, and I want to try to be more of a dick to get a girl. Has this ever worked?",
" I want to be a dick to get a girl, but I'm not sure if I'm making things worse, or if it's just that I'm a nice guy."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my GF [23 F] of nearly 3 years. Reject me proposing and we broke up. How to handle this feeling
POST: Some of the details can be found in my previous post we have a rocky relationship because of LDR in different country
Before we met she ask me to break up because her feelings for me is gone. I told her let's just meet up in person first to see if it's true. By then I was on denial that if we meet up she surely will realize her feelings once more.
So we finally met after she return for winter break. Everything feels right and wrong at the same time. We talk like we used to but I feel like she's trying hard to make things normal.
As after 2 weeks she will go back and maybe it will be years until I met her again I decided to sink or swim by proposing to her. After I got some mood going I ask her by giving her cake with picture that meants a lot to both of us. By the time I ask her to open the cake box she understand what I want to say. But after she opens it she breakdown in an instant.
She literaly cry and wail for 10 long minute. Asking why do I love her this much. Why do I care for her so much but she just can't muster the feeling to return my feelings. She proceed to say that she really feels bad to me and can't even to imagine how I felt if she rejects me. I told her just answer honestly. She wail again for 5 minute before saying no and sorry.
Now I understand that her feelings just literally gone if this is not enough to make her love me again. I understand that this is the end and we break up peacefully with both of us hugging and crying for 10 long minutes and promising not to be a stranger before I go back home. And we also decided to be with eachother at least until her winter break here end.
Now my feeling is a mess. The girl of my dream who I thought will be together with me doesn't want me anymore and I can't cope with that fact. As a person I don't have any dream other than to be with her and just living for the sake of living.
TL;DR: | Breakup after rejected proposal. Can't handle this feeling literally want to cry for all day long and still in denial.<|endoftext|> | [
" Girlfriend broke up with me because I told her I love her and she said no. But she broke up with me and now I want to be with her because I love her but she don't want me anymore.",
" I broke up with my GF in an instant and I don't know what to do. How to cope with this feeling?",
" Girl I love is sad for me and I can't cope with it. I want to ask her to be happy again but she just can't do it.",
" Girl I thought will be with me breaks up with me because she feel bad about me. Now I'm feeling like a loser again and don't want to live with her anymore."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How should I deal with the worst group project I've ever been put into?
POST: I wanted to share this email with you guys that I just sent, in return for your thoughts.
**Background: I am in intermediate German in university. We have to do a group project, a soap opera, in two performances. It's worth 30% of our final mark.**
THE EMAIL:
Hey A---,
We agreed on nothing last class. Remember that long moment of silence where everyone stopped talking? That was a silent refusal to your railroading of us into the project that you want to do, one that is not a soap opera.
Also, I completely object to the role that you're attempting to pressure J--- into doing. Pressuring our one female group member into a subservient role in your story is two levels of bigotry and is one of the best examples of academic male chauvinism I've witnessed so far. That's why in the synopsis I wrote, I took the more subservient role and gave her a lead one, to which she replied she really liked the idea of. However, you don't seem to be concerned with that.
If you have no interest in our concerns as group members, you can expect that not all of us are going to go along with what you want and that you'll receive some push-back. Now, you're asking us to define our characters based on a story that is not a soap opera for our soap opera project. I'm not going to do that. I'm going to see how things go tomorrow instead.
Me
TL;DR: | self-appointed group leader is trying to force our only female member into being a stewardess and wants to do a wartime espionage for our soap opera.<|endoftext|> | [
" I am a single female student in university, you want me to play a role that is not a soap opera for your soap opera project.",
" I want to do a project in which I am a subservient group member. You want to force me into a role that is not a role I want to play.",
" I want to be a subservient servant in a story that is not a soap opera, but the project that is not a soap opera has not been set up yet. What should I do?",
" The worst group project I've ever been put into, that is, a soap opera. You're asking us to define our characters based on a story that is not a soap opera. We're not going to do that."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: In California and I want to accept donations for upkeep of an online community. Accountant recommendations?
POST: I (a friend of mine, actually) would like to begin accepting financial gifts from my international user-base to support my video game server.
What I need is someone that knows a reasonably priced accountant (preferably in the San Francisco Bay Area) who can clear up the questions I have about tax.
The big problem for me is knowing how to do the taxes, is it just income tax?
Also I have to know California state income tax. When I look online for answers, they seem to be conflicting. I looked into paying a place to do it, but they charge thousands of dollars, since I think they want to do 100% of the process and be my accountant. All I need is advice from someone that has been through it, and can teach me how to file the paperwork.
I dont trust myself to figure this out by reading stuff and to do it correctly and not go to jail for fraud.
I apologise in advance if I'm asking this in the wrong place, or if this type of question isn't allowed here.
TL;DR: | Please recommend a reasonably priced Bay Area accountant who can give me (a resident of California) one-off advice about accepting financial gifts from both US citizens and international supporters.<|endoftext|> | [
" I need an accountant to teach me how to file California income taxes, and how to file the IRS Form 1099.",
" I need advice on taxes and accounting for an online community. I need help in understanding how to file taxes. I need help with California state income tax.",
" I want to accept financial gifts from an international community. I need someone with a decent accounting background to help me with taxes.",
" I want to accept donations from my international community to help pay for server expenses, and I need a competent accountant who can handle the taxes for me."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (27f) was completely blindsided by him (25m) when he broke up with me.
POST: We have been together since March 2012. We did have a breakup back in May '13 but decided to try and work it out. I thought everything was going well. We were having a lot of fun together and I thought he was happy. He told me that this christmas was the best christmas he has ever had. He talked about marriage and he was so excited about it. He sat me down last night before we started to watch a movie and told me he loves me a lot but that he hasn't been happy for the past 6 months. He said the chemistry has gone and he ended it.
When we broke up last time it was really bad. I started to see a therapist and was put on anti-depressants. I could not handle the no-contact. It drove me to the brink of insanity. I am away for college right now so I have no family around. I have friends but none that I consider real friends, just acquaintances.
I really do not want to be in a relationship with someone who says the chemistry is gone but I don't know how to get through this. Everyone always tells me just keep yourself busy, work out, block contact, but it doesn't work for me. I stop eating. I stop sleeping. My hair starts to fall out. I go out with friends but I my mind is always on the situation no matter how hard I try to forget. I am so determined to not be in this situation and I want to be happy. I know the relationship is unhealthy for me but I don't know how to cope with him not being there.
What should I do? I'm in a state of shock right now because I was not expecting it. He says he is going to do whatever he can to help me through it. I appreciate it but I just don't know how it is going to work. I have an appointment with my counsellor on Friday.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue. Says he's been unhappy for 6 months and the chemistry is gone. How can I get over this?<|endoftext|> | [
" I am in a state of shock because my boyfriend broke up with me. I can't cope with his not being there. What should I do?",
" He broke up with me. I don't know how to cope. What can I do?",
" broke up with a guy I have been with for 6 months and he said he is going to do whatever he can to help me through it. I am not sure how to handle it.",
" He broke up with me and I am in a state of shock and don't know what to do. What should I do?"
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm [20/f], would you also take offence to friends who don't wish you a happy birthday?
POST: It may seem petty, but it's my 20th birthday today. I understand that some friends may be busy or have probably forgotten and that's fine, but I'm talking about the ones who definitely know that it's my birthday, and that I always wish a happy birthday to every single year.
For example, on Snapchat I've had various 'close' friends who watched my snapchat story where it's obvious that it's my birthday, and have been online on social media such as whatsapp yet have said nothing to me.
I'm a very sensitive person so I'm finding it a bit upsetting that some of these people that I have done so much for, always been there for no matter what time it is and sent heartfelt birthday wishes to them annually would be aware that it's my 20th birthday today and say nothing :/ It only takes a few seconds and some of them have been online all day. Or is my disappointment juvenile? Interested in hearing your take on it.
TL;DR: | Close friends that I always wish a happy birthday know it's my bday and said nothing. Should I take offence?<|endoftext|> | [
" Would you take offence to friends who don't wish you a happy birthday? I'm 20 and I don't care.",
" My friends have been online all day and I'm sad that they're not aware that I'm 20 years old and wish me a happy birthday on my 20th birthday.",
" I've had numerous friends on social media, some of whom I know personally, and some who are known to be very close friends, and I'm finding it upsetting that some of them are aware that it's my birthday and that they should say something.",
" Some of my closest friends who know that it's my birthday are always online on social media, but haven't said anything to me."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M/] with my GF [23F] of 4 months became friends with my ex and doesn't know
POST: Sorry for the confusing title: My GF became friends with my ex. And my GF doesn't know the girl's my ex.
Hi, pretty short and sweet I hope.
I had an ex (ish) who was the girl who pestered me on and off for about 5 years -- most recently spring of this year. I was super into her for a while and we truly cared about each other, but it was mostly a chaotic on and off thing with a lot of drama.
I've essentially cut ties with her and have no feelings for her.
Me, my gf, and the ex had hung out once before at a concert with our big group of friends. This weekend we hung out again (with the group) and I saw they exchanged numbers. The extra weird thing is, my ex put me and my gf in a group chat to discuss a plan later that night (which we didn't do).
My gf is going back to her hometown this week and I want to let her know that the girl who she got the number from is the ex. I didn't tell my gf before because I didn't see a need to, the ex just exists on the peripheral of my life anymore.
I know my gf can be a little on the jealous/protective side. For instance, this weekend a girl came up to me who mentioned a mutual friend who thought I was hilarious and xyz, and my gf was forward in wondering if I had a history with her. That can be natural, but I don't want to plant any seeds in her head before she goes, but I can't let her not know anymore after this weekend.
I know I will tell her tonight, but I want to figure out the best way to say it that lets her feel comforted that I am being open with her.
TL;DR: | My ex and current GF exchanged phone numbers this weekend, except my GF doesn't know that the girl is my ex. I want to tell her and don't know how because they've met before.<|endoftext|> | [
" Girlfriend of 4 months became friends with ex who I don't know, doesn't know who she is, and doesn't know I was talking to her.",
" GF and ex have been hanging out a bunch for a while, but don't know who the girl is. Friends with the ex. GF doesn't know. Gf wants to be friends with the ex.",
" Ex of 4 months became friends with gf. Gf doesn't know the girl's ex. Gf didn't know before. Is it a good idea to tell her tonight?",
" Gf of 4 months becomes friends with ex. GF doesn't know. I want to let her know."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] of a few months or so, she's having issues being intimate, and I'm not sure what to do (X-post /r/DeadBedrooms)
POST: Be sure to explaMy SO 16, and has said that she wasn't treated well by some of her exes (one of them might have sexually assaulted her, and another was way older and seems to have exploited her), but it's getting so bad that she cries in most of our time together. I want to help her and support her, and I couldn't even try to have sex with her when she's having a panic attack or anything (even though she's offered that option to me on several occasions), but I can't even kiss her twice before she starts looking at me like some kind of wounded animal, and I'm feeling really rejected and uncared for. I don't want to just leave her, especially if there's a chance I can help her with her issues, but our intimate contact has mostly been limited to me fingering her, and then her offering to give me a handjob/blowjob before getting about two inches from actually touching my dick and having a nervous breakdown. Maybe it's because we're rushing into things- we just started seeing each other a few months ago, and she's still a virgin- but I already feel strongly enough about her that it hurts when she doesn't touch me. I don't know what to do, but I don't want to talk to her about it, because I've already made her cry once today.in in detail with line breaks.
TL;DR: | She cries when I touch her sometimes, but I care too much about her to just break up. What should I do?<|endoftext|> | [
" Girlfriend seems to be having issues getting intimate with me. I don't want to just leave her because of this, but I don't want to talk to her about it either.",
" My girlfriend is having sex problems, and I'm not sure what to do, and I want to support her.",
" I want to help my girlfriend, but she's having a lot of issues, and I'm not sure what to do",
" It's getting so bad that my girlfriend is crying in our intimate interactions and I'm feeling rejected. I don't know what to do, and I don't want to talk to her about it."
] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Looking for a different perspective on love vs. $$
POST: Ok so here it is. I (M,30) am engaged to a wonderful woman (40). I am a roadwarrior with my job and travel M-F 48 weeks/yr. I took this job about 6 months ago and it resulted in me having to move. We got engaged on New Years and moved 1/1/11 to a state neither of us really wanted to go. She had lost her job in May '10 and thought a fresh start would be good so we moved. We have now been here almost a year and she has not found a job, despite looking daily and waiting tables at a small diner where she makes less than she did on unemployment. She works this job because we have had extended conversations regarding her aptitude for depression when she sat around the house all day looking for a job. In the meantime, I foot all of the bills. So what was a great job for 1 person has become a struggle for two, as now I have two car payments, mortgage (couldn't sell my condo back home), rent, and all associated bills that come with such things.
Reddit: here's where I need your help. I feel like a huge piece of garbage because I feel resentful that she has not found something that can, at the bare minimum, support her end of the financial spectrum. We have no kids, she is very frugal and does her best. I travel all week and because this thought line is always at the front of my mind when I get home on the weekends I spend our time trying to figure out how we can get out of this situation. The relationship is going down the tubes at light speed, to the point that we argue so much that I usually just end up sleeping on the couch and leaving for my next trip early. As of right now I am split 50/50 right now as to continue the relationship.
TL;DR: | I pay all bills in relationship, fiancee hasn't found a decent paying job, don't know if I want to continue relationship due to money issue always being, well, an issue.<|endoftext|> | [
" I am a road warrior with a job and I am being financially and emotionally destroyed by my wife's lack of job experience. I have been with her for almost a year and she has not found a job. Is there a better way to view this?",
" I am a road warrior with a great job and a great wife, but I am a burden to her. She is not getting her due due to my constant travel and she feels like we need to find a different way to live. ",
" I need help with how I can get out of this shitty situation and avoid the breakup of our relationship. She has a great job and I need to find a way to pay her back for the life that we have now. I am not sure how to do it.",
" I am engaged to a wonderful woman who lives on the other side of the country for the first time in 6 years. I have no idea how to get out of this situation. Should I wait and hope that things can get better?"
] |
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