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The Worst Foods For Your Brain
Not bacon, cream, or the usual suspects. I'm talking about a steady diet of negative influences that makes us feel lousy to the core. Such as:
Fake news in all its mean, snarky iterations
By extension, only getting news from one point of view. It's important to hear what the other side is thinking, too — but not so much that we start hurling things at the TV
Following the minutiae of celebrities' pretend-perfect lives
Living in the past, whether you have good memories (those glory days as a high school athlete) or bad (your dysfunctional family)
Social media that makes us feel our lives aren't as glamorous, exciting, happy, or satifying as other people we know
Obsessing. Make a plan, take action, move on
Seeing the glass half-empty
Influencer unboxings. Hey, many times they didn't even PAY for the stuff!
Holding on to anger
Not cutting ourselves enough slack : our finances, weight, wrinkles, job, house, parenting skills etc.
Forgetting that you are good enough just as you are
This entry was posted in Health, Observations, Uncategorized, Women's Health and tagged appreciation, bloggers 50+, brain, celebrity news, fake news, happiness, healthy mindset, positive thinking, positivity, self-awareness on February 2, 2022 by adguru101.
Good News Monday (early edition): A Sigh of Relief
Despite the looming threats of new COVID devastation, many are feeling optimistic after Biden's decisive presidential win. For any readers who are disappointed, I hope this will usher in a new era of civility and a return to classic American values of inclusion. Unless your ancestry is Indigenous, we all came to this melting pot from somewhere and we all deserve to live in a country that welcomes us.
Here's a great piece — brought to my attention by the Enlightened Mind blog — that shows worldwide jubilation about the end of 45's reign of terror. I have no doubt he'll continue to tweet his nastygrams, but hopefully to a smaller audience and without daily media coverage of his sociopathy. Cheers!
World now looks at how Biden will reshape U.S. policies after turbulent Trump era
Shibani Mahtani, Miriam Berger 1 day ago
Elections expert Q&A: No evidence of fraud and fail-safes everywhere in US.
The world looked ahead Saturday to new American leadership, with U.S. allies and rivals alike starting to predict what the change in the White House would mean for their relations with the United States and for American engagement more generally. Activists join a pro-migrant demonstration on the U.S.-Mexico border at the San Ysidro Crossing Port in Tijuana, Mexico, after Joe Biden was declared winner of the U.S. presidential election. (Guillermo Arias / AFP/Getty Images)
Here are the latest developments:
Congratulatory messages poured in from around the world to Biden and vice president-elect Kamala D. Harris.
Spontaneous celebrations broke out on streets in London, Berlin and other cities.
President Trump has continued to make unsubstantiated allegations of electoral fraud, retweeting misleading claims about the integrity of the vote count.
Trump's far-right allies, notably Brexit party leader Nigel Farage, encouraged him to keep up the fight and railed against mail-in ballots.
It did not take long after Joe Biden's victory was projected for world leaders to unleash the normal flood of congratulatory messages. But for those abroad who have felt uneasy with President Trump and his norm-breaking style, it was a much-awaited moment of optimism and even jubilation.
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Shouts of "Biden!" and cheers broke out in Berlin, London, Toronto and other cities when the excruciating wait for an announcement came to an end. On Twitter, echoing Paris' mayor, people tweeted out, "Welcome Back, America."
Many hope that Trump's unilateralism and America-first populism will give way to an era of renewed U.S. global leadership and an embrace of multilateralism to tackle common challenges.
"It's good that there are finally clear numbers. We look forward to working with the next U.S. administration," tweeted German Foreign Minister Heiko Maas. "We want to invest in cooperation for a transatlantic new beginning, a new deal.
Reinhard Bütikofer, a German member of European Parliament, quipped, "I heard a Pan-European sigh of relief, when Biden's victory was called." Marianne Hoenow from Connecticut celebrates the victory of president-elect Joe Biden and vice president-elect Kamala D. Harris in front of the Brandenbug Gate next to the United States Embassy in Berlin on Nov. 7, 2020. (Markus Schreiber/AP)The U.S. election gripped the world, making way for plenty of memes
Though Trump had yet to acknowledge his defeat, some of the foreign leaders closest to him did not delay in sending their congratulations to Biden and Vice President-elect Kamala D. Harris.
British Prime Minister Boris Johnson tweeted his congratulations., saying, "The U.S. is our most important ally and I look forward to working closely together on our shared priorities, from climate change to trade and security."
Poland's right-wing President Andrzej Duda, who has been politically aligned with Trump, cautiously tweeted to congratulate Biden "for a successful presidential campaign." Egyptian President Abdel Fatah al-Sissi, whom Trump once called his "favorite dictator," sent his best wishes to Biden, and Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi congratulated the president-elect. He also noted that Harris's Indian heritage is "a source of immense pride." Villagers in Painganadu, India, prepare placards featuring Sen. Kamala D. Harris on Nov. 6, 2020, a day before Joe Biden and Kamala D. Harris were declared winners as president-elect and vice president-elect. (Aijaz Rahi/AP)
Harris's family hometown in southern India — the birthplace of her maternal grandfather — had already been holding celebrations in her honor ahead of the traditional Diwali festival. Meanwhile, Jamaica's prime minister, Andrew Holness, also saluted her family ties to Jamaica, the birthplace of her father, as well as her "monumental accomplishment for women."
In Biden's ancestral hometown in Ireland, a crowd gathered to pop champagne. "I want to congratulate the new President Elect of the USA @JoeBiden Joe Biden has been a true friend of this nation throughout his life and I look forward to working with him in the years ahead," wrote Irish Prime Minister Micheál Martin in a nod to Biden's Irish heritage.
Perhaps the first foreign leader to congratulate Biden was Frank Bainimarama, the prime minister of Fiji, who said in a tweet — even before the election was formally called — that they must work together to confront a warming planet and rebuild the global economy.
Hours later, congratulations from world leaders and others — who were watching the vote count unfold over days — were finally uncorked as soon as U.S. news organizations declared Biden the winner. Leaders with diverse views and priorities — from Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau and French President Emmanuel Macron to Zimbabwe's President Emmerson Dambudzo Mnangagwa and Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky — were quick to share their enthusiasm about working with Biden. Residents in Ballina, Ireland, climb a scaffold as they hang out American flags and bunting for president-elect Joe Biden on Nov. 07, 2020 in the ancestral home of the Biden family. (Charles McQuillan/Getty Images)
Nigerian President Muhammadu Buhari urged Biden to "deploy his vast experience in tackling the negative consequences of nationalist politics on world affairs — which have created divisions and uncertainties — and to introduce greater engagement with Africa on the basis of reciprocal respect and shared interests."
Some U.S. rivals, however, reacted differently. The People's Daily China, an official newspaper of the Central Committee of the Chinese Communist Party, chose instead to taunt Trump by retweeting his boast that he'd won the election and commenting "HaHa" with a laughing emoji.
Iranian Supreme Leader Sayyid Ali Khamenei did not directly mention Biden or Trump in a tweet denouncing the election as a sign of the "definite political, civil, & moral decline of the US regime." But Iranian Vice President Eshaq was more optimistic, saying, "I hope we will see a change in the destructive policies of the United States, a return to the rule of law and international obligations and respect for nations." Man reads a copy of Iranian daily newspaper Sobhe Nou with a cartoon depicting U.S. president Donald J Trump and a headline reading 'Go to hell gambler', in front of a newsstand in Tehran, November 07, 2020. According to local media reports, many Iranians are rooting for Democratic candidate Joe Biden. (Abedin Taherkenareh/EPA-EFE/REX/Shutterstock) In Europe, few sad to see Trump go
Politics and pandemic
The pandemic has added urgency to Biden's pledge to reverse Trump's approach, which has left the United States estranged from the World Health Organization and facing the highest numbers of deaths and new cases at home.
After Trump withdrew from the WHO, Biden promised to rejoin it on his first day in office. Biden is a "globalist at heart," wrote Natasha Kassam, a research fellow at Sydney's Lowy Institute political think tank, in the Guardian.
Other Trump policies are also in doubt. The Times of India, which anticipated Biden's win with the headline "Bye Don, It's Biden Finally," said that H1-B work visas — allowing nonimmigrants to work in the United States — are unlikely to return in their previous numbers, even if the Biden administration has a more favorable immigration policy. But it noted that the Democrats could be stronger about challenging human rights violations in India.
In China, relations with the United States have fallen to their lowest point in 40 years amid bitter disputes over trade, technology, human rights and the novel coronavirus. But hopes have been stirred that a Biden win might act as a circuit-breaker and offer possible cooperation in certain areas.
Still, an op-ed in the nationalistic Global Times tabloid noted deep partisan divisions in the United States that it said would not be easily eased.
With Trump determined to contest the election results in court, some foreign commentators expressed their fears.
"The squatter" was the title of the Saturday cover of Der Spiegel, a leading German news magazine. A defiant, fatigue-clad Trump is depicted holding a rifle, barricaded in the Oval Office with a bullet-holed picture of a smiling Biden in the backdrop.Trump's claims of stolen election have some recent precedents — in Gambia and Guyana
In Britain, the Guardian declared Trump in a "fight against reality," but noted in an editorial that Biden would have his work cut out to "rebuild the U.S. government's credibility after Trumpism hollowed out its institutions."
In Japan, a burger outlet near a U.S. naval base followed a long tradition of naming a burger after every sitting American president by adding the Biden Burger to its menu, according to public broadcaster NHK.
The Biden Burger pays homage to his Scranton, Pa., roots. It comes with Philadelphia-style cheese and potato chips to represent Pennsylvania, a major chip producer. The Trump Burger has a dash of jalapeño, "supposedly reflecting Trump's sharp tongue," NHK wrote.
Mahtani reported from Hong Kong and Berger from Washington. David Crawshaw in Hong Kong; Steve Hendrix in Jerusalem; Michael Birnbaum in Latvia, Riga; Kareem Fahim in Istanbul; Danielle Paquette in Dakar; William Booth and Karla Adam in London; Niha Masih in New Delhi; James McAuley in Paris; Susannah George in Kabul; Chico Harlan in Rome; Isabelle Khurshudyan in Moscow; Amanda Coletta in Toronto; Lesley Wroughton in Cape Town, South Africa, and Kate Chappell in Kingston, Jamaica, contributed to this report.
This entry was posted in good news, Uncategorized and tagged Biden, bloggers 50+, Good News Monday, happiness, inclusion, kindness, optimism, politics, relief, US Election on November 8, 2020 by adguru101.
Good News Monday: A Pandemic Love Story
Reprinted from the New York Times:
"For a 67 year old widower, the pandemic might seem the most unlikely time possible to fall in love. Yet by stepping outside the box where most seniors feel comfortable, online dating created unexpected opportunity. Discovering another widower on the same page regarding Covid led us to being tested. We shared negative results, building the kind of trust absent from typical fledging relationships. The spark revealed in our first face-to-face meeting kindled quickly into something much stronger. In weeks, relative social isolation led to bonds typically requiring months in a busier pre-Covid world. We look at each other and shake our heads, smiling. A new hashtag sums it up: #mypandemicmiracle."— Mark Alberhasky, Atlanta
Photo by Rakicevic Nenad on Pexels.com
This entry was posted in good news, Uncategorized and tagged bloggers 50+, fulfillment, Good News Monday, happiness, Love is love, online dating, pandemic relationships on November 2, 2020 by adguru101.
Good News Monday: Boredom Buster
Guess who else is bored with COVID-19? Penguins!
It seems they'd been extra fidgety over at the Newquay Zoo in Cornwall, England until a donor came up with an ingenious solution: a bubble maker.
No mere entertainment, the CPC (chief penguin caretaker) explained that the bubbles also keep the penguins' predatory reflexes sharp.
One wonders… could there be a tie-in between champagne and aggression in humans? Is this why some wedding celebrations turn into drunken brawls?
Anyway, the article and video are seriously cute.
This entry was posted in good news, Observations, Uncategorized and tagged amusement, animals, bloggers 50+, boredom, bubbles, Cornwall UK, Good News Monday, happiness, humor, humour, penguins on July 20, 2020 by adguru101.
An Amazing Rescue
To make up for missing Good News Monday this week, here is a wonderful story of a trapped whale being rescued.
Photo by Francesco Ungaro on Pexels.com
This entry was posted in good news, Uncategorized and tagged bloggers 50+, fishermen, Good News Monday, happiness, San Francisco, uplifting, whale rescue on April 8, 2020 by adguru101.
Happy Blue Year
January is a month of reflection, renewal and resolutions — especially for those of us who've indulged a little too much (ahem) over the holidays.
I've decided my mantra for this year is "blue", as in: trying to adopt some of the habits of people who live in the so-called Blue Zones. Named after the blue circles first drawn on maps by researchers, Blue Zone communities include significantly higher numbers of healthy elderly people compared with the rest of the world, with better-than-average odds of reaching 100.
I'm (v-e-r-y slowly) reading Dan Buettner's book on the lessons to be learned by studying these communities. The common denominator: it's not just about an individual belief system, but shared values that reinforce those beliefs. By copying what "Blue Zoners" seem to do instinctively, we may be able to improve our own likelihood of doing the same.
Photo by Gabriel Peter on Pexels.com
Boasting the highest concentration of male centerarians in the world, Sardinians eat a largely plant-based diet, are physically active every day, and have a close-knit family-centered community. Sheep herders, who walk at least five miles a day, lead the pack.Admittedly, one factor is the result of generations who've lived in this secluded area: they're passing down the genetic marker M26, which is linked to extreme longevity.
Okinawans rely on their family and community even more than most, resulting in a culture with the longest-living women in the world. Their tight-knit social circle provides strong emotional and practical support that reduces stress and reinforces shared healthy behavior through all of life's challenges.
Loma Linda, Calif., U.S.A.
Residents of the U.S.'s only Blue Zone live an average 10 years longer than the rest of the country. As members of the Seventh-day Adventist Church, the community follows a shared set of principles. Many are vegetarian, with a diet rich in plants, nuts and wholegrains. Observing the Sabbath — a day of rest and reflection — provides an opportunity for weekly spiritual and physical recharging.
Nicoya, Costa Rica
Nicoyans thrive on a diet that emphasizes beans, corn, squash and tropical fruit. They also spend lots of time outdoors, helping their bodies stay strong. As for their mental health, Nicoyans' belief in a "plan de vida" (guiding life purpose) provides a spiritual framework that helps them reach age 90 and beyond.
Ikaria, Greece
A third of these island dwellers live into their 90s with low percentages of chronic disease, including dementia. Their habits include a daily nap, late bedtime, and following the Mediterranean diet, which emphasizes vegetables, whole grains, beans, potatoes, olive oil, and fresh seasonal fruit. A strong sense of local pride keeps Ikarians invested in their community.
One thing the Blue Zones have in common is that they're either physically or intentionally isolated. Still, even if we can't (or wouldn't) choose to live that way, the key elements of a healthy, long life include being part of a close-knit community, getting plenty of fresh air and exercise, and eating a largely plant-based diet.
Worth trying, right?
This entry was posted in Health, Uncategorized and tagged 90s, bloggers 50+, blue zones, good habits, happiness, livng longer, mediterranean diet, New Year, resolutions, wordpress on January 4, 2020 by adguru101.
10 Simple Stress Busters
It's been a crazy few weeks.
DH has been busy with end-of-term meetings, presentations and the like. I've been in charge of scheduling contractors for lingering punch-list items including a sink replacement — it is SO much fun to have your children visiting when you can't use the kitchen sink –, replacing two window blinds that had arrived damaged, painter touch-ups, fixing the garage door, etc. Plus finding someone to clean the windows, finding someone to cut the grass, and everything else we have to squeeze in before we leave for the summer.
I don't do well with stress. (Does anyone?) So I try to remind myself to do these simple things:
Walk whenever possible. We now live about a quarter mile from the supermarket so, instead of driving over when I need a few things, I take the rolling grocery cart or a couple of shopping bags and walk there. It takes longer but is weirdly relaxing.
Buy flowers. They smell lovely, look pretty, feel indulgent, and improve air quality.
Spend time alone. Go for a stroll, take a bath, exercise, give yourself a facial… whatever clears your head (literally or otherwise).
Read or watch something funny. Laughter is the ultimate stress buster.
Do something creative. It doesn't have to be award winning or museum quality: Bake, garden, rearrange your closet — anything that fuels your imagination.
De-clutter. If there's no time for a full reorg, even neat piles on my desk help me feel more in control.
Simplify entertaining when you're short on time. Unless you find it relaxing to make a fancy dessert or bake bread, don't bother. Your friends want to spend time with you, not admire your gourmet prowess.
Do the dishes tomorrow. Guests stayed late? Put the food away and let the dishes soak overnight.
Don't overschedule. This usually happens because I (and you, too?) want to make everyone happy, often at our own expense. Be realistic about how much you can fit into a given day. If you have to cancel, do so as early as possible to minimize other people's inconvenience or disappointment. And try not to feel guilty.
Remember to breathe. Inhaling lavender helps.
Special shout-out to MSW blog for more thoughts on this topic.
This entry was posted in Health, Observations, Uncategorized and tagged bloggers 50+, happiness, relaxing, simplifying life, stress, wordpress on May 5, 2019 by adguru101.
Good News Monday: Cat Owners Live Longer
A University of Minnesota study conducted over a 10-year period found that cat owners lowered their risk of heart attack by nearly 30%. Meowza!
Other research supports these findings, and lists even more benefits:
Reduced risk of heart disease is similar to going on a low-salt diet
Boosts your immune system
Helps children avoid developing allergies
Lowers cholesterol and triglyceride levels
Reduces the risk of stroke
Heals bones and muscles
Lessens feelings of loneliness and depression
Here's the full article I found, complete with adorable photos.
This entry was posted in good news, Health, Heart health, Uncategorized and tagged bloggers 50+, cardio health, cats, depression, happiness, nine lives, pets, stress reduction, wordpress on February 11, 2019 by adguru101.
10 Habits That Lower Your HQ (Happiness Quotient)
You feel it in your gut when things are going well. And it's equally gut wrenching when they aren't. We're often told that happiness is a choice, which can seem banal at best and downright condescending at worst. Who are these Pollyannas prattling on about looking on the bright side? Makes you want to swat them upside the head!
But although there will be times in our lives when stress, loss or illness make it understandably difficult to stay positive, some daily habits can either cause us to be miserable or reinforce our sense of gratitude, accomplishment, laughter and love.
1. CLINGING TO TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
While it's easy to ignore many people we truly can't stand – an obnoxious co-worker, for instance – it's often harder to walk away from a friend, romantic partner or family member.
Relationships should be a two-way street based on mutual respect and the recognition that compromise is necessary when you each have different needs or desires. If you sense that some of your relationships are unbalanced, and you feel that you consistently give more than you get or that most encounters leave you feeling drained, it's probably time to re-evaluate.
A frank conversation may put things back on track, or you may find that a time out leads to a lasting sense of relief when they're not around to push your buttons.
2. TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONALLY
The bitter truth: Not everything is about you. If someone is rude it could be because they're having a crappy day. The waiter didn't screw up your order to punish you. When an opportunity falls through it's not because you "always" have bad luck. Habitually casting ourselves as a victim inevitably makes us unhappy.
3. SECOND GUESSING
It's a fact of life that not everyone will agree with your every decision. Take an honest look at your actions. When you do your best and act honorably you can feel secure in your choices, even if you don't do or say what somebody else wants to hear.
4. BELIEVING IN "MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY"
You may the hero of your own story, but inflexibility won't do you any favors. While it's great to be confident, feeling overly entitled is sure to bite you in the ass at some point.
5. SAYING YES WHEN YOU MEAN NO
Don't let anyone "guilt" you into doing stuff you don't want to do. You'll resent every minute! Guilt is a major happiness time-suck.
6. PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN
While endlessly bragging about (or exaggerating) your achievements is rude and boring, it's equally important not to beat up on yourself. Be your own best cheerleader, celebrate your successes, and forgive yourself for the legitimate mistakes you make.
7. REINFORCING THE NEGATIVE
Sometimes things go wrong. Sometimes we're irritated with our partners. Sometimes our kids drive us nuts. But although we may feel vindicated after an occasional bitch session, constant complaining is likely to leave us feeling angry and dissatisfied.
Instead of focusing on the negative, especially petty annoyances, seek out friends and partners who reinforce what's going right, encourage your goals and are truly happy – not jealous – when life goes well for you.
And when you DO need to work through a troubling problem, try to envision a positive outcome rather than dwelling on what can go wrong.
8. ENDLESSLY WAITING
"I'll move when I find the right job." "I'll travel when I have more money." "I'll dump him after (fill in the life event)." Putting things off until the "perfect" moment is b.s. Because, guess what, no such moment exists.
Start small. Read about that exotic destination or acquire a new skill. Put aside some money a little at a time. Whatever you can do to move forward today puts you one step closer than you were yesterday. Anything's better than standing still, and…
9. GIVING IN TO FEAR
We may obsess over past failures, hold on to worries, or be terrified of change. But taking risks is part of life and rarely occurs without discomfort.
Don't waste energy feeding your fears. Challenges help us learn, grow, and discover how strong and resilient we are.
10. COMPARING
Chances are, someone else is (smarter), (prettier), (richer), (more accomplished) than you are. After all, look at their perfect Instagrams.
Wait a second; those images are all highly curated! The truth is, comparisons only add value to your life when they inspire you. Envying a friend's happy marriage? Start dating. Wish you had that guy's career? Learn more about it.
One foolproof way to boost your HQ? Take time to appreciate the small stuff: your good hair day; that beautiful sunset; a hot bath; the fact that you still have (almost) all your own teeth.
And it never hurts to eat dessert first.
This entry was posted in Observations, Uncategorized and tagged advice, annoyances, attitude, bloggers 50+, gratitude, happiness, negativity, relationships, self-esteem, wordpress on May 23, 2018 by adguru101.
Allure magazine has recently reported that they'll no longer use the term "anti-aging". It's about time.
Since we've only got two options — getting older or checking out — there's not much point in fighting the inevitable. Instead, let's embrace some of the positives and enjoy being our best selves.
Antiques are so much more interesting than newbies!
1. YOUR DOUBLE CHIN DISAPPEARS. With the passing years, fat pads under our chins usually get smaller as our faces become less round. (Bonus: more visible cheekbones!) So if you're considering a fat removal procedure in your 20's or 30's, you should probably wait.
2. YOU'RE HAPPIER. According to a study in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, happiness steadily increases from your 20's to your 90's as anxiety, depression and stress levels tend to go down.
3. YOU CAN WAVE GOODBYE TO THE BAGS UNDER YOUR EYES. When we're younger, these are often fatty deposits. In older women, they're more likely caused by fluid retention, which decreases as we go about our day.
4. SEX IMPROVES. Caveat: The study they cite in the magazine contrasts higher levels of satisfaction for women in their 40's and 50's vs. women in their early 20's. Older women know their bodies better, are more likely to ask for what they want, and may be more spontaneous. (Note: no mention of post-menopausal issues, though.)
5. YOUR SKIN IS GLOWIER. Again, they're talking 30's-50's, when moisture levels are highest and problems such as acne tend to resolve themselves. Moisture levels drop as hormones and hydration decrease, so 60+ skin often needs extra help.
6. YOU'LL SAVE ON WAXING. As testosterone dips in your 40's, body hair starts to be lighter and thinner. Post-menopause, skin becomes thinner and waxing may be more irritating than a gentler process such as sugaring. Or, fuhgeddaboudit.
7. YOU'RE MORE OPEN-MINDED. A University of Michigan study found that women in their 50's were more empathetic than those who were younger. Mature people may have strong opinions but we're also more likely to understand other points of view.
For more thoughts on aging, plus a delicious cocktail recipe, click here.
This entry was posted in Aging, Beauty, Cocktails, Observations, Uncategorized and tagged Aging, bloggers 50+, classic drinks, Cocktails, fat removal, happiness, sexuality, skin care, waxing, wordpress on January 15, 2018 by adguru101.