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Dear Holly: You Got to Take Home Snoopy Last Weekend
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Snoopy time.
The garbage pick-up day after Christmas.
My son casually made this today for fun.
My mom prepared homemade pies to counter my 9 mile hike from this morning.
Manly Christmas!
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Leave a comment Posted on September 7, 2015 September 7, 2015 Nostalgia, parenting, Storytelling, Uncategorized
I'm Responsible for My Son's "Good Old Days"
One advantage of getting to review cars for this blog is that I get free access to XM radio. I've been flipping back and forth between XMU (rock music for college kids) and Alt Nation (modern alternative rock).
I recently was introduced to a perfectly nostalgic song called "Stressed Out" by Twenty One Pilots. My favorite part of the song contains these lyrics:
"Wish we could turn back time, to the good old days
When our momma sang us to sleep but now were stressed out"
Somewhat surprisingly, until I heard that song a couple of weeks ago, I had never truly fathomed that those "good old days" I myself lived through in the 1980s, some of the warmest and fuzziest moments and memories in my life, occurred only because of my parents.
Flash forward from 1985, when I myself was 4 years old, to 2015; now my own son is 4 years old.
My son lives in a wonderland of stuffed animals as friends; a land where monster trucks are a legitimate means of transportation… and where he can typically get away with eating mac-and-cheese for most of his meals as long as he eats his veggie-fruit pouch.
He lives in this wonderland in 2015 because of his mommy and me.
And I lived in that wonderland in 1985 because of my own parents.
It takes a good parent to create that wonderland for their own kid; which I assume if you are reading this now, then you must be one as well. Granted, providing a loving home is ultimately all it really takes to make that wonderland.
A child's imagination takes care of the rest; as long as that child feels loved and cared for and listened to and played with and encouraged.
No matter which toys make up that wonderland, no matter how big or small the house is, and no matter how many other kids are in the wonderland in that big or small house with a lot or little toys… all that matters is that there is obvious love in that household.
That's what creates "the good old" days for the kids we bring into this world.
It's that simple, yet that epic:
I am responsible for my son's "good old days." All I have to do is simply love my son, something I am completely wired to do anyway.
And yet I never think about the sacrifices I make in my life to love him. And I'm pretty sure my own parents never did either when they were raising me.
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5 Comments Posted on September 24, 2010 Health, Nostalgia, Spirituality, Storytelling, Uncategorized
Popular (Yet Subtle) Songs Dealing with Abortion
Pop music finds a way to safely put into words what we sometimes can't easily speak.
Yesterday as I was driving home, a song came on the radio that I had never heard before- "Red Ragtop" by Tim McGraw. I'm the kind of person who always listens carefully to the lyrics of a song; and part of the 2nd verse caught my attention: "We were young and wild; we decided not to have a child. So we did what we did and we tried to forget and we swore up and down there would be no regrets."
It's important in songwriting to say something without actually coming out and saying it. In Aerosmith's 1989 hit, "Janie's Got a Gun", the words "rape" and "incest" are never used, but for anyone who has halfway listened to the song before, it's pretty obvious it's a story about a girl who is sexually abused by her father and eventually takes revenge by killing him.
Abortion is such a heavy and delicate topic; laced in political, moral, and religious factors. It's an extreme thing- typically people are either hard-core against or for it, while there are obviously some in the middle who believe abortion is excused from their opposition reasons in the event of rape, incest, certain death of the mother, etc. But to never bring it up in the entertainment genre of music would be odd, given that it's an event that happens every day- an event that has affected many people, most of whom I am not personally aware of who they are.
So I find it very interesting to see songs become hits that deal with abortion. Aside from "Red Ragtop" which went to #5 on the Country charts, there are two particular songs I want to examine. It was only a few years ago I found out that in these songs the protagonist's girlfriend gets pregnant and has an abortion. They were both performed by alternative rock artists and were popular while I was in high school. And the songs both have a strong emotional tune to them while straightforwardly telling their stories with lyrics that evoke shame, sadness, and a sense of regret and guilt mixed with the realization of the need to move forward in life, despite their personal choices.
The first of these songs is "The Freshmen" by The Verve Pipe which rose to #5 in 1997. While this song is officially about a guy dealing with guilt after his girlfriend commits suicide, I can't deny the fact that some of the lyrics paint the picture of abortion as well- which according to Wikipedia, is the actual story behind the song: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Freshmen_(song). Here are some lyrics from "The Freshmen".
When I was young I knew everything
And she a punk who rarely ever took advice
Now I'm guilt stricken, sobbing with my head on the floor
Stop a baby's breath and a shoe full of rice
I can't be held responsible
'Cause she was touching her face
I won't be held responsible
She fell in love in the first place
For the life of me I cannot remember
What made us think that we were wise and we'd never compromise
For the life of me I cannot believe we'd ever die for these sins
We were merely freshmen
We've tried to wash our hands of all of this
We never talk of our lacking relationships
And how we're guilt stricken sobbing with our heads on the floor
We fell through the ice when we tried not to slip, we'd say
The other song, more surprising for me, is "Brick" by Ben Folds Five, which also was a hit in 1997: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brick_(song). Below are lyrics from the 2nd and 3rd verses. After reading them, the reality of this song becomes much clearer. I had always thought of "Brick" as a decently happy song; at worst, a song about a happy guy and a depressed girlfriend. But it's obviously much more than that:
They call her name at 7:30
I pace around the parking lot
Then I walk down to buy her flowers
And sell some gifts that I got
It's not me you're dying for
Now she's feeling more alone
Than she ever has before
As weeks went by
It showed that she was not fine
They told me son, it's time to tell the truth
She broke down, and I broke down
Cause I was tired of lying
Driving home to her apartment
For a moment we're alone
Yeah she's alone
I'm alone
Now I know it
So beyond our own personal convictions on abortion, the songs mentioned here give us the gravity of it: Even dressed up in a catchy song, the truth is, the subject of abortion itself leaves a feeling of sadness and regret. The narrators of these songs have been deeply affected by their decisions. It appears they've learned to forgive themselves, even if under the guise of "we were young and irresponsible", yet they aren't able to forget; as consequences resurface.
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Leave a comment Posted on November 25, 2009 October 18, 2015 People, Uncategorized
John Mayer's Battle Studies: The Newest Installment from the Half-Jewish, Tattoo-Sleeved Guitar God
There are certain male musicians who while they seemingly have a unisex audience, it's mainly women who are openly proud fans. Key examples: Kenny Chesney and Keith Urban.
Then there are those male musicians who seemingly have a feminine audience, yet they also earn the genuine respect of men who recognize their talent despite their charm. Key examples: Michael Buble and Jason Mraz. But the epitome of this category is none other than the 6' 3", tattoo-sleeved, half-Jewish, Connecticut native, John Mayer.
His most romantic songs are typically my least favorite- "Your Body is a Wonderland" and "Come Back to Bed". What draws me most to his music is a quality found in his lesser hits like "83" and "Something's Missing". Half nostalgic, half philosophical.
In reviewing any genre of entertainment, I can't say any one thing is the best. I can only say what is my personal favorite. Because my favorite is simply an opinion; I am not qualified to declare what is best- that would go beyond a matter of opinion.
That being said, my favorite John Mayer album is his 2003 Heavier Things. It features the hits "Bigger than My Body", "Daughters", and "Clarity" ("ah whoo-ew… ah whoo-ew"). Along with its less featured songs "New Deep", "Home Life", "Split Screen Sadness" and "Wheel".
The cover of this album itself perfectly captures the style and direction of the music. It represents a simple sense of timelessness, yet at the same time somehow reminds of me of Eric Clapton and/or Sting between 1988 and 1993.
I say that to say this. John Mayer's newest album, Battle Studies, is a hybrid of two of my favorite things of his: 1) The album Heavier Things and 2) his very much underappreciated song "I Don't Trust Myself with Loving You" from his 2006 album Continuum.
Very bluesy: "Fell down on my knees, asked the Lord for mercy, said 'help me if you please'" ("Crossroads").
Very jazzy: "Who says I can't get stoned?" ("Who Says")
Very soft rock: "I've got a hammer and a heart of glass- I gotta know right now which walls to smash" (War of My Life).
I decided half-way through this decade that John Mayer is incapable of releasing an album that isn't good. I stand by that. Battle Studies is completely up to par with all his other recordings. But just like how Dave Matthews Band will never be able to top their Crash album, in my mind John Mayer will never be able to top Heavier Things.
Actually I see Battle Studies as a direct sequel (yet not necessarily a continuation) of Heavier Things. So in other words, I love it.
A year ago I posted a review of my favorite albums of 2008, and in a prophetic moment, I praised the then unknown song "People are Crazy" by Billy Currington. A few months later it was released as a single and went to #1.
Therefore, I will predict the soon-to-be hits from Battle Studies. The most obvious is the industrial-infused groovy tune "Assassins". John has never sounded more like an African-American lead singer of an alternative rock band than he does in this song. Maybe it's because this song has so many Michael Jackson qualities about it.
Like it was written with "Smooth Criminal", "Dirty Diana" and "Give in to Me" in mind: "I work in the dead of night when the roads are quiet and no one is around… I'm an assassin and I had a job to do… Little did I know that girl was an assassin too."
Another song destined to be a radio favorite is "Half of My Heart". Perfect catchy melody. Perfect opening line: "I was born in the arms of imaginary friends." Perfect choice of a female vocalist to do a song with: Taylor Swift.
The only downfall is that there's not enough Taylor Swift in this song. She just does background vocals towards the end. Every time I hear it, I keep hoping the song has magically changed since the last time I heard it and that the song has become a true duet like the immaculately crafted "Lucky I'm in Love" by Jason Mraz with Colbie Caillat. Great song though: "Half of my heart is a shotgun wedding to a bride with a paper ring."
Often when a musician or actor becomes a superstar, showing up in the tabloid magazines, the authenticity of their art suffers. Despite dating Jennifer Anniston and Jessica Simpson (to name a few) , his art hasn't suffered (just his personal reputation). He's still got the talent. Just as much as ever. Going beyond the rut of "the same three chords" compositions and "I miss you baby" lyrics.
And not that this takes away from his music at all, but this lifestyle definitely shows up in his song content. Like in "Perfectly Lonely"- "Had a little love but I spread it thin. Falling in her arms and out again. Made a bad name for my game 'round town." It's also evident in the future hit which will inevitably be featured on several romantic comedy soundtracks, "Heartbreak Warfare".
Gone is the charming, mysterious John Mayer from the beginning of the decade. Gone is the gentleman. Apathy and aimlessness are starting to show up in his attitude and lyrics. I don't like his music any less because of it. But I do recognize the change.
Though this may actually be hurting him with his current single, "Who Says", which is his lowest charting single, breaking his string of 5 consecutive Top 10 singles. This song much departs from his former classy charm, containing lyrics like this: "Call up a girl I used to know, fake love for an hour or so" and "I don't remember you looking any better. Then again I don't remember you".
Not to mention the song's constant references to marijuana use.
John Mayer is suffering from what I call "King Solomon Syndrome". King Solomon had it all: Extreme wealth, fame, and wisdom. And 700 wives. And 300 concubines. But by the end of his life when he wrote the book of Ecclesiastes, he said it was all meaningless. None of it made him happy.
At least at an early age, John Mayer recognizes something's missing.
Related Post by the Same Author:
John Mayer's Stupid Mouth http://wp.me/pxqBU-wz
And one more thing… Now that you've read my take on John Mayer, why not read my perspective on being a dad? That's right- parenting from a dad's point of view. I have been documenting my thoughts as a dad since the week we found out my wife was pregnant. I formally invite you now to read my "dad blog" by clicking on the link below:
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