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What’s a fantasy/kink you have that you believe is odd/strange?

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yudjpt

Probably my cnc fantasy. There's a couple iterations and if you want I can be specific but the fact that I have them at all is strange.

Spit roast 🤤 Most guys don't wanna touch the other guy. Oooo and a train would be fun where guy 1 fucks guy 2 who fucks me. Or maybe I can be in the middle pegging. 🤔

Want to be fucked while I’m asleep

I’ve always been monogamous in my relationships and have jealousy issues. But for a bit I started thinking maybe I should consider getting into an open or polyamorous relationship. But when I actually thought of it, I think my fantasy is more I want a harem type situation. Multiple women who just want to take care of me and rely on my for their needs. Strange because of the monogamous thing, plus I can barely handle 1 woman in a relationship haha.

I really want to suck a cock. Doesnt seem strange, except i don't find men attractive in anyway, just cocks 🤷‍♂️😂

Is it creepy to take pictures of peoples butts or chests in public?

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x6qrr3

Yeah, as a guy I agree it's creepy, I've never understood why take pictures or videos of girls you see in public,l without they consent, you can find porn on the internet so easily, or if he like more softcore you have instagram and tiktok where there is also millions of girls posting

Super creepy!

Yes

Yeah. It's creepy and should go without saying. No offense but your friend definitely has things twisted here. My rationale for your buddy is "alright if its not a big deal go up to them clear as day and snap a picture. You're in public right? No? Alright why not? Do you feel embarrassed or ashamed to do that when they notice? Why is that?"

Rolf, your "friend" needs to fuck something. Tell him to throw 50 bucks on a prostitute to get his brains straight lol.

What is your favorite body type that you find sexually attractive?

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wxxec7

Petite lady's are my favorite lol

Favorite? I like curvy women. It's not that I don't like other body types, I do really appreciate all shapes and sizes, but curvy is my favorite.

Honestly I don't have a preference. But I do love puffy nipples

Voluptuous is the best term though really any body type besides super skinny. It's just a personal thing but being able to see a persons ribs all the time (in any gender identity, not just women) has always weirded me out a little.

Dad bods!

do you pee in the shower?

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w1ecxb

Doesnt everyone? Yes i'm a girl, yes most of us do it as far as i know

I get peed on in the shower too 😇

There’s two types of people. People who admit they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars.

Yes

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Do women (in or out of relationships) send risqué pics

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nvtema

My girlfriend does that. It’s very nice

My GF does it all the time. Just out of the blue, I'll get a few pics of her in a bathroom, or getting some sun in the backyard, in lingerie, etc. She is very spontaneous.

Every once in a while my wife will do this when she’s feeling really horny and I’m at work. Over the years she’s given me a nice little collection

My girlfriend does it all the time at work. Especially if she knows I'm in a meeting or something

Yes I’ve done it

Men and women : Since rape is an act of violence and hate what is the attraction of the rape fantasy?

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The other comments answered this pretty well, but here are my thoughts on it. Me and my husband have CNC times where I tell him its okay to just randomly have his way with me. It isn't that I want to be raped per say, but that I don't want to make decisions. In my life growing up there was always so much pressure and I had to think about how every little thing would affect my life. Sex is a great way to give up the reins to someone else and get pleasure instead of grief. If you are talking about mommy-novels I think it's more of a correlation than causation. Women love the fantasy bad boy, but its more so about the rough and domineering confidence that the man/woman has, the rape fantasy is more of a side effect of that type of personality I think.

The idea behind rape fantasies is that of power, especially if the person with those fantasies have been in a sexually powerless position before. Me personally, I've been in that powerless position before (yay sexually repressive cults), so I find CNC (consentual non-consentual, basically the same thing) rather appealing because it gives me that opportunity to reclaim that power over my own sexuality.

Thank you for the explanations. I now understand it is not actually forceful violence but instead it is an agreed upon giving of control. I truly appreciate the clarity and the term ‘rape play’ is less of a trigger.

It's about control as a dynamic of BDSM. Rape play, or rather CNC, is not about the act itself, but the handing over of control to a person you trust. The fantasy is therefore at the complete opposite spectrum of reality.

it doesn't have to be about hate, it can also be about a guy's needs, domination, and control personally i love the idea of a man taking me all he wants, no need to hold anything back, with no responsibilities on my end, no expectations to like it, or moan, or cum, or anything like that, just lay there and take it, let him do what he wants, and take out his primal urges on me

Women, what clothes won’t you steal?

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i43vi7

I love taking my bfs boxers cuz they look cute as tight shorts and I also take his jumpers and sometimes tank tops that I can crop and shit

Stuff that is uncomfortable or too ugly. Also clothes that display brand names or logos prominently, but that's just a personal pet peeve.

Normal pants/shorts. Polos.

I was going to say I've never taken my boyfriends underwear then realized I totally had stolen their boxers to sleep in. For me I can't steal jeans because I'm 4' 7" and everyone else, well isn't, so your jeans are safe. Other than that it's fair game haha. But you can borrow my stuff, too! Though pink hoodies that say things like "kinda cute, kinda gross" might not be your style. My bras are cute, though.

What is the weirdest kink you have ever encountered?

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ev7y66

Anything involving shit just confuses me entirely. Though watching some chick get screws power-drilled into her tits is a close second.

A girl on fetlife is asking me to kidnap her, drag her into some Airbnb place, and do anything I want with her. She doesn't want to meet beforehand; it has to be anonymous. She promises not to file a police report, no matter what I do. She refuses to have any safe word. She wants to be choked until she passes out. She wants to get cut. You'd think it's a scammer, but she gave me her SSN and it checks out. Strange, but tempting.

Flaccid penis and balls in mouth whilst swallowing a full bladder of urine. Each to their own

Squeezing a penis so much it’s 1cm thick with two pieces of glass

My coworker told me the other day that he used to work for a bar and the owner lived right upstairs in his apartment. And the owner would come down to the bar and pick up girls to take upstairs. And apparently he was really into “plate-jobs”. What is that? Apparently it’s when you put a clear glass plate on your face and lay down. Then you have the girl shit on the plate so you can watch it come down on you. And his old boss used to say this: “if you’re a real boy scout, you don’t use a plate!”

What age did you lose your virginity?

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15, she was German and didn’t speak English,, I’m English and didn’t speak German, but we figured it out.

21 here. Still haven't. Sorta by choice though. I just want to get my shit together first.

21. I mean, I still haven’t lost it yet, but I’m so close

28, i got you all beat. Hahahaha. (Or I just suck)

Holy shit so many 13/14 omg

Its My Birthday today and no one has yet wished me. Didnt ever think my closest friends would forget. But here we are !

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wmu9zc

No facebook? That's the only way I know my friends' b-days.

I've never really seen the fuss about birthdays, even though so many birthdays have been amazing and filled with love and attention. Don't get me wrong, I love attention, I just prefer to earn it. But I do get that people like to be acknowledged and feel special when it's their birthdays so I'm sorry that your relations have been lacking. Happy Birthday! I genuinely hope you're day picks up and you have the best year of your life so far to follow.

If they're anything like my friends, they're still sleeping for a couple more hours 😆 But I wish you a very happy birthday. Hope you have an orgasmic one

happy IRL Cake day! but saw and not a question, so i hope you crossposted

Jheezzz no one cares..its either you might not know how to make and keep friends in real life! Grow up. Go offline. And do your sidehustle. Stop moaning Karen

What’s the WRONG response to “I love you”?

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“I know”

I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm filing for divorce

"Too soon."

"errrr...ok."

My wife was naked with my friends. Guys: Are you embarrassed or turned on? Girls, Why are some women exhibitionists?

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ipwr0a

It’s a huge turn on and my wife has been naked for a few of my friends.

i don't think my girlfriend would ever do this. she's very very insecure unfortunately and it took her about 2 years of being in a relationship with me before she was truly comfy being naked around me. so i doubt she'd ever go naked in front of my friends, or her friends, or anyone else really. definitely not in public

I get turned on by confident women. Because my mind goes to what ELSE does she do. Not even with ME, just in general. So yes, I would be turned on but I wouldn't be gazing if I knew the woman and knew she married unless she was TRYING to put on a show for me or all of us. The one time I had that was similar was when we (about 20 of us) were all drinking at a party and my friend's girlfriend who was a professional broadway actress/dancer took off her shirt because she was hot and her undershirt and bra came with it accidentally (maybe). Everyone was laughing but she just said "fuck it" and left everything off. Then she was dancing around. She was sloppy at that point but I remember that very well being that she had that kind of confidence (probably alcohol related) after the embarrassment of accidentally being topless.

Turned on, my wife has gone topless at beaches and I purposely left her alone to get drinks at a bar nearby... Definitely took my time, was hot seeing guys check her out

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Is it normal to steadily get more and more kinky as you age?

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smyrlk

Mid 30s M, imo as you get older you just are less worried about tabboos/what other people think. That and just naturally wanting to try different things. Dont know if I'll ever be into r/dragonsfuckingcars though...

36M I feel like I’ve always been pretty kinky but the older I get the less I care about what people think of my kinks. For example I just got a vibrating butt plug for the first time and it’s amazing. Being a straight man I would have been super embarrassed about using something like that in the past but now I think, fuck it. My enjoyment is more important than what people think of me.

30's started getting more kinky 40's got even kinkier 50's (now) wife and I are into so much kinky shit. If our 30 year old versions of us could see us now, they would be saying "Nah, that can't be us" LOL

At 40 I can definitely relate to this and can confirm it's happening to me as well. I like the "leveling up" language. I am stealing that.

I’d say so. When you’re young, you’re happy someone is willing to touch you. It’s all new and exciting. As you get older, the “new and exciting” fades, so you do more and more to keep the “new and exciting” going, which is good for the relationship.

Users of Reddit, have you ever aked you Girlfriend/Boyfriend if they wanted a threesome? If yes, how did it go out and what is the Story behind it?

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kzudvd

No. If I want to disappoint two people I would visit my parents.

We talked about it a number of times a few years back. And really talked.. we decided in the end not to.. not out of mistrust or anything like that we just decided that it was not for us. . It does come up once and a while bit more in a joking or light conversation kind of thing

My wife of over 20 years and I have started talking about it. Lots of details to discuss, and we’re just starting out. We had actually started talking about it a while ago, and were going to try something for my birthday this year, but with Covid I doubt either of us will be comfortable.

My (5 month) girlfriend is Bi and very open sexually. I brought up the subject of bringing someone in for a threesome, and basically we decided that neither of us a yet comfortable enough to see someone else fucking the other. I imagine we'll revisit the topic once our relationship develops more. My advice, make sure that your partner is mentally ready to discuss this topic. I imagine, to someone insecure, this could be read wrong. Try sharing what types of porn/fantasies you both like and that can open the door to other conversations

I'm a gigantic introvert that landed my wife in a very lucky/destined shot. She's much more extroverted than I am, but also very traditional. It is not in our live objective right now to go that way in our relationship, but who knows in a couple of years what changes. We talk about it jokingly tho, we have a mental list of "celebrities we would definitely fuck together". She is a harcore fan of Taylor Momsen and said that she would flip her bi switch only for her(with me watching of course). Also, if I see a good looking dude I always "now that's a dude I'd let join in our fun, but I won't because he's too hot and you might leave me for him".

Question for guys in hetro relationships. Do you always make the first move or suggest having sex?

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I’m a woman in a hetero relationship. I do initiate sex with my SO. He does more often than I do (probably because he wants sex more often) but I would say I initiate every 3rd or 4th time. Since we’ve been together a while and have kids, we pretty much do it on the weekends since that’s what works for us (and I’m less worn out from my job, lol). If your SO doesn’t initiate at all, have you asked her about it? There may be a reason why she doesn’t.

F35 here and I initiate sex about once a week. It used to be less when I was pregnant and worn out from having babies but now I usually want it more often. Her not initiating could be the dynamic of your relationship or she might feel a little insecure. You could ask her if she might want to try since it sounds like something you're into. I love when my husband asks me to do stuff ;)

My girlfriend/fiance/wife only initiated about a 1/5th of the time. Once we were married, it was rare for her initiate, then after the kids were born, it was never; I had to get things started, then still got repelled half the time. That was part of what lead to the divorce. My current girlfriend is the one to get things started most of the time.

I have a very similar situation. Wife likes to have fun in the bedroom but rarely makes first move. 1 in 20 if i had to put a number on it. I have tried to "wait her out" and I also crack before any success. I try all the housekeeping and date night tricks. I have done one thing different than OP. I have brought it to her attention. I have had the sit down serious conversation and thrown around the subtle hints and jokes. It's even created arguments that caused us not to speak for several days. The result is always short lived success. Usually she will make an effort for the next couple weeks and then slowly we return to no effort. I wish I could help OP in some way because I know how demoralizing it is too be in such a one sided situation. I do not want to cheat on my wife but I also can't go another 20 years with a partner that doesn't participate. My best advice is not to blame yourself and stay confident in your efforts towards her.

40F here, married over 10years, multiple children, etc. He doesn’t initiate, I always do, but it’s kind of an agreement we have (we never sat down and discussed but it just kind of happened). My libido was much lower once I hit 35 and he’s quite older than me, so his libido has dropped off too. I have trouble compartmentalizing and have a stressful job and small children. He always says yes when I initiate, but he won’t initiate because he doesn’t want me to feel pressured. But I pressure myself anyway and feel bad if it’s been a few weeks. Not sure if this helps or not!

Threesome with Girlfriend and her friends?

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iiekp6

Well first go and jack off. You can’t think straight when you’re horny. That’s a fact. Second, now with a clear head. Ask yourself this, “Do I want a threesome cause I think I will enjoy it or do I want a threesome cause I think we will enjoy it?” If you can’t honestly say that you’re gf would like it, definitely no. Now let’s say you think “Yeah she’d enjoy it.” Do you honestly believe she’d be willing to have sex with one of her friends? And yes it would be sex with one of her friends. Third and finally, ask yourself this, “If your gf came up to you and told you (I find your friend attractive, would you be ok if I invited him to have a threesome with us?)” would you be ok with that? Threesomes are a nice fantasy but it is not that easy to do. Especially if you’ve only been a couple for 1 year. As for not thinking about those girls. First stop flirting with them. Second don’t jack off and fantasize about them. You have a gf, think about her.

Your gf is 18... Just enjoy her while you can.

I've had threesomes involving friends. It doesn't have to ruin friendships. I would maybe suggest to your girlfriend you might be interested in a threesome in general. If she seems offout to the idea or seems like she is jealous of her friends in general or feels sex is a very emotional thing, probably not gonna happen. But you still could get a three way with her and someone else. There are other hot people.

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Is it "illegal" or subject to termination if you masturbate at work?

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I don’t see how they would know as long as you’re getting all of your work done.

I would highly advise against it on Zoom calls.

Illegal would be exposing yourself to someone. Termination depends on what it says in the employee policies or handbook. It may say something about sexual behavior. But then again you would need to be caught, or admit it to someone. Admitting it to someone could result in some kind of harassment suit. If you're working from home, and doing specific hours for them and get caught on a video chat then yes, I would say you would be fired easy.

for the most part probably not a crime to masturbate while officially working. The working bit is irrelevant to whether you are "indecently exposing" yourself, committing some sort of disorderly conduct, or downloading illegal porn. Most masturbation related crimes involve a public element. Occasionally you could have someone get in trouble for disorderly conduct, in a public restroom, a senator a decade ago gained some acclaim for actions taken in an airport restroom.   Masturbating while at work could involve actions that are not criminal but do create liability issues for the company in the form of sexual harassment, especially if you, talk about it with coworkers, can be heard on conference calls (or private calls) making sounds specific to masturbation, etc.   as for termination offenses, I am mostly familiar with at will employment, which is how 49 of the 50 united states work, and a bunch of other places. in at-will employment you can be terminated for any reason not specifically spelled out by law. any reason includes no reason. the spelled out reasons tend to be, membership in a protected class (**sex, race, religion, family status, irrelevant disability**), **refusal to break the law, use of FMLA leave, and whatever a contract say**s. ideas like theft of time or unprofessional conduct are used by HR departments as preparation for their proof that your firing wasn't for a protected reason.   So under at-will employment you could be fired for masturbating at work, having suspicious gaps between tasks completed, someone suspects you are masturbating at work, and potentially even not masturbating at work (though generally only if you work for a porn studio will that come up), or nearly anything else.

What's the context here, because masturbating in the restroom stall is WAAAY different from masturbating in your office cubicle or elevator. *~~(and I'm assuming the "Working from home" part is just a slight joke)~~*

What is your darkest secret that you would only share anonymously?

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cadi73

That i hump chickens

I have rape fantasies. Not too violent but still.

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I want to be locked in a cabinet when I'm not 'in use'

I get turned on by being bitten on my back and shoulders.

What is a kink you just don’t understand?

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10d21oz

Anything related to pee/poo

Violence. Never understood it

Anything that belongs in a toilet. I can understand every kink or fetish, except for scat and piss

Not a kink. But anytime anyone wears those latex ski masks thinking they’re sexy I’m just like…bro…that is literally the unsexiest thing in the world.

Feet

What is something you didn’t know you were in to until your partner asked?

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hnuaut

DDLG. BDSM of any sort. Rimming until an ex did it. Haven't had it since. I'm pretty open minded sexually.

what's DDLG?

DDLG and BDSM

Debt

Cuckoldry. Always thought it was weird as fuck, but my boyfriend and a girl friend who was also into it convinced me to try it out and eventually I did. We're both in love with it now, and it quite naturally compliments our female dom male sub playtime as well.

Is it morally/socially ok to masturbate in your own home while guests are spending the night?

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zuqlpb

Why not? Your house, your rules. Just be considerate and keep it down... 🤣

Yes, just be quiet about it

If they don't know it did not happen. Now take the finger out your bum and don't moan.

Yeah. It would be weird to masturbate as a guest. Which I have done. At my grandparents' house.

I doubt they'd care so long as you don't make them aware of it. I think you are projecting your own hesitancy with it onto others.

Are you okay with your significant other watching porn?

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yibnn0

Absolutely

Definitely! We even watch porn together and share it with each other 🤗

No problem at all. Sharing links to hot scenes is encouraged even

I have no problem with it. We've watched ridiculous stuff on porn sites for laughs.

Oh yea. Even better as then we can watch it together.

Would you take part in a bi threesome?

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vvub7a

Aren’t all threesomes technically bi for 1 partner?

I'm bi, damn bi I will!

I have multiple times. Fun is fun and pleasure is pleasure

Yes please.

With a select number of “3rd”s, absolutely. Probably only one guy my wife would tolerate (only 2 or 3 for me, and her one is in that list), I’d likely be down for any woman she’d be willing to pick.

What can you do to get happy besides masturbating, drinking and doing drugs?

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p5032e

Have you tried exercising or finding a hobby you can build confidence and pride doing?

Sleep

Take your motorcycle and go for a ride with your pals The wind in yout face The engine thumping between your legs The carefreeness you feel The memories you make on the road with your buddies The new places you see and the people you meet All makes for amazing memories Also you can go have sex with a real person It's very nice You can also get a hobby Or learn something Workout at the gym or home if you have the equipments Make some else happy and feel the amazing feel of making someone happy There are actually too many things you can do which are outright enjoyable

Helping people. Seriously, you will get more satisfaction and a greater sense of purpose from helping others than from anything you listed. Though I would suggest working out might help.

Making art

Is there a way to get rid of a fetish?

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fs1ky0

A therapist might be able to help but if it's healthy activities between consenting adult humans...roll with it.

Just delete them from the cloud

Try and cut porn out for a month and see how you feel, if you don't feel any different do another month

You probably can't get rid of it, and why should you? Your fetishes bring you pleasure so unless they're harming anybody they're not anything to be ashamed of. You may even be able to find someone who shares your fetishes and have mindblowing sexual experiences with them. I think that what you really need right now is to change how you relate to your own sexuality. Therapy might help, but it's important to make sure that the therapist is sex-positive.

Why do you need to get rid of it? What if your gf is into it? Otherwise replace or ignore it...

Is it dangerous, or just unusual, that I get turned on by holding my pee as long as I can, wetting my pants or underwear on purpose, and wetting my bed on purpose?

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ffutol

It's a common fetish - omorashi. If you're having fun and its not destroying your life, it sounds like a healthy sexual outlet (like masturbating). Holding your pee can over time lead to weaker bladder muscles or increased chances of getting a UTI ([source](https://www.sciencealert.com/what-happens-when-you-hold-in-pee-science-2017)). I'm not into this at all so I don't know how big this risk is or if its worth it to you or not.

You just wanna be careful of your kidneys because you can cause kidney problems. I'm not into it I'm just a chronic holder of my pee because of a busy schedule lol Doctors always tell me I can cause my kidneys to have problems

A cursory google search revealed this page: https://steptohealth.com/problems-holding-your-pee/

I'm so fucking horny all the time. How do you guys control your horniness?

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eoozo2

Lots of masturbation

Just convert it to depression

/r/dirtyr4r is where you can sext with ppl. I write hot thoughts down on a document if I can't masturbate for whatever reason. Sometimes it evolves into scenes or whatever, sometimes they just remain disconnected hot thoughts/tidbits. Definitely sneaking away to bathrooms for just a little bit of fun helps. Once you figure out how to enjoy the buildup and foreplay and turn it into something elaborate or creative it gets more tolerable, because then you're putting your horny energy into creating something instead of just suffering in agony.

I just mastrubate or just dont, and just suffer.

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What is your, Not sure to be Proud or Embarrassed, Moment?

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I did a poop so big it didn't flush. I didn't realise it didn't go down with the flush so I had walked away, washed my hands, and gotten on with my day. It wasn't until a couple hours later my husband went to the bathroom and was like, "uh babe, I dont want to alarm you but there's a massive shit in the toilet." So there we both were, standing over the toilet staring down at this colossal log... I asked him why he didn't just flush it and save me some embarrassment, to which he said he did, and gave it another flush to prove his point. We had to tip a bucket of water on it to get it down. Kinda proud, kinda embarrassed lol

I was eating a sandwich while my parents brought home some Chinese food. I was around 13 or 14 and I got extremely horny so I saw that I had ran out of lotion so I grabbed the the mayo I had next to me. As you may be thinking to yourself, "He fucked a mayo container!" Well no... I decided to beat my meat dry but then when my parent were outside I heard then and out of fear felt that big nut coming on and to hide it I proceeded to bust in the mayo jar. I put it back in the fridge, and a day later heard my mom say that it smelled funny and that I should throw it out. **No one** has ever found out.

Have you ever answer the door wearing little or no clothing?

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xbrtvm

The Jehovah Witnesses dont come to my door anymore

Twice, both times on a dare. One time bra and thong, other time topless.

I’ve taken my dog out to go to the bathroom in just a t shirt and panties or just a tshirt

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Once on a dare. But she was was coming over for some action anyway, so...

People who get cum inside: How do you clean up without making a mess?

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wc2qxm

I often lie on a towel for sex (definitely with anal and usually with vaginal). Especially if I'm in a hotel and it's not even my towel. I don't know how girls in porn can keep the cum inside them for so long, because I find it always runs out of me as SOON as his cock is pulled out.

I lick up as much as I possibly can.

I keep a box of baby wipes on my nightstand, so a quick wipe when done, then waddle to the bathroom.

A towel under me and just try to keep it in as long as possible. Or just box of Kleenex to wipe and try to keep it in while I waddle to the bathroom.

We use blankets designed for pets on furniture. Found them on Amazon.

Would you stay in a romantic relationship with your partner if they totally lost interest in sex?

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v08j04

There was a time when I would have said yes, but as I get older I think probably not, unless there is some real true love and some extenuating circumstances, in which case I would speak on the possibility of opening up the relationship.

I wouldn’t. In fact, a dead bedroom almost killed my marriage. My wife went into a serious depression after her father died. It lasted two years. We had sex maybe about 4 -5 times in that period. But not only was the sex absent, the companionship wasn’t there. I got very tired and emotionally drained. I felt caged in. I felt like if the rest of my life was going to be like this, then I would end up doing something I regretted and hurt my wife. So I confronted her. I said I wasn’t expecting going from zero to 100 right away, but that she needed to get out of her funk. She did therapy for a while and that helped. She also went on anxiety meds and had to get off the pill for health reasons. Over a period of maybe 3ish years, and her sex drive came back significantly. And today, we have worked hard and have a very vibrant sex life.

Nope

Of course, I’m gonna stay in a relationship because I trust that person, intimacy and sexual pleasure is different so for me a person is more than sex to be with them.

No, life's too short for that and I love sex too much to not have any at all

Is it okay to fantasize about all your friends gangbang you?

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11h0wkb

Let’s talk

I actually look for porn where the actresses look like people I know

Absolutely!

FWB with other married friends?

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108w1u9

Yup, similar thoughts here. Never will happen, but damn it's a hot fantasy!

Is it even normal to have this kinds of fantasies?

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k3r6au

Very normal. A lot of people are into humiliation. Feel free to enjoy it shamelessly. If you wanna talk about it more, feel free to PM me x

I know a girl who had wanted to try it for money so she did first with her ex a bit after they split and then one other time she did it with a guy who she knew and he liked her but she didn’t really like him as much so she did it with him but for money

It’s not wrong at all.

Nothing wrong with that

Sound like fun! Nothing wrong there, enjoy yourself.

Is it weird for other women to fantasize about cuming in other women?

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lp3r5k

For sure, you're not the only one that feels like this.

I have this but in reverse. I’m a guy who wishes a man would pound my (non existent) pussy

Well, I've know plenty of women who fantasized about having a penis, and not just about having the rod itself but also explicitly about being able to shoot the juice like a man. Doesn't sound like a big step to also celebrate your (imaginary) fertility. I mean that's what that thing is for--fucking a baby into someone. No good having the hammer if you don't nail things with it. Sounds like you'd know how to handle that tool just fine.

Want a threesome so bad

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r7l7ah

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I friends that would love to but they’re not BBC. Also know a few females to play.

Dm me. I'm sure we can try to make this happen.

is having a rape fantasy bad??

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or04sb

No, it isn’t ….🥵

I don't think it's bad, I have this fantasy all the time

its a cnc kink, very common

No, not at all!

I am f also and have that fantasy! <3 You're not alone, babe!

What are some of your unrealistic fantasies

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z1fkke

Fucking both of my gf‘s sisters

Being sucked and licked and worshipped for hours, every inch of my body devoured, ass and clit eaten and tongued, on display for all to see 💦💦🔥🥵

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I want to be a succubus living off of mens cum. Having to seduce someone every night so I can get my sustenance. Worshiping all those cocks just to survive. Alternatively I've wondered about how a mental health facility would handle a woman who thinks she's a succubus. In my head is a fantasy about being committed to a facility for thinking I'm a succubus. The good doctors treating me during the day wondering why I'm not getting better, but at night the orderlies feed my delusion by cumming in me....plus in my free time I'd get to take naps and do arts and crafts. Thats a nice fantasy.

Reverse gangbanged by a group of women

Not sure if this is the place but i have fantasies of my Lady cheating on me on top of that i also have fantasies of sharing her tagteaming and such. whats wrong with me i feel no guilt about it. Are these feelings normal

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ride0j

Nothing wrong with u thats a normal feeling there's an entire lifestyle of that

Very normal! This is a common cuckold/hot wife fantasy.

Let’s have a look at her

You sir are fantasizing about being a cuckold! There is absolutely zero wrong with that!! Check out these for more: - r/Cuckold - r/cuckoldcaptions - r/cuckoldparadise - r/happycuckold - r/Hotwifecaption - r/hotwifetexts - r/normalizecuckolding

For what it’s worth, I wish my husband had these fantasies about me haha

Prefer to masturbate?

DirtyConfession

11dgkku

U can’t compare them

Do u prefer masterbation?

Sometimes I prefer to masturbate, sometimes I need the rush of the real thing Sometimes I want to masturbate with someone else

Married man’s thoughts

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113kkbu

Vanilla marriage spurs desires. You're among many

I have the same thoughts due to my marriage being in shambles and there is not sex life. I know I never will but the thoughts are there

You have the right to feel that way but to do that to your wife is messed up if she’s not on board with it.

How should i feel?

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11i3286

I don’t know any ways to increase it but 4 inches isn’t that small.

There isn't anything you can do to increase the girth. It's genetic. Depending on your age you could still get thicker as you age.

Seems like a big size to me!

Do some guys really have small Penis or do you just have to work for it?

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11cjnc6

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you don’t measure from tip to bottom of balls? the normal way of measuring is from tip to base or tip to base of groin, you get that by pressing down on the fat at base until your at the bone (that’s bone pressed measurement)

Should I be worried

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11acuro

I mean I'm 6 inches at 14..I'm hoping mine gets to a 7.

You’re bigger than majority of the population.

Look man you are already above average. You can check your stats [here](http://calcsd.info) or even get a visual comparison [here](http://thevisualiser.net). If your friends really are bigger, great for them. But you've got nothing to worry about, you have a great size.

Absolutely nothing to worry about. You're a very good size and probably your friends are lying.

7 it’s already big… and you really sure that friends don’t lie?)

What kind of condoms should i use?

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10xgnz4

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god is the only protection

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I’m about your size and there’s no way standard will fit. If you can’t find XL where you live then I guess you’re stuck with online. You could try Durex XXL or one of the MySize sizes - 64 or 69.

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Congrats on the big dick bro. And just use the calculator the bot posted to find the best fit

What do I do about small Penis?

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10uvh1o

you didnt damage anything from smoking weed or masturbating, the alcohol could have very very very very slightly impacted your genital growth but not in a noticeable way at all. if you want your penis to appear longer/bigger then work out and become as lean as possible so it looks more clear and less fat around it.

Use it and have fun with it. Your size is normal. Women won't care about your size, unless you let it bother you. The guy who had the most success with women of any man I ever knew (girlfriends and FWBs) has a dick about that size. It's all about attitude. Make women feel special, sexy, and sexual and they will be all over you and your penis size will have zero effect on that. Step 1 is learn how to flirt. I learned that when I got a job at a convenience store in a nice neighborhood. I had fun making everyone's day better and in the process learned how to flirt casually. Once I learned that, the number of women ended up making legit passes at me was astounding.... including one 40-something (a cougar to me at the time) who stuffed a twenty into my pants as a farewell gift. One key is to try to make everyone's day better. Not just women you are attracted to. If you are pleasant to be around in general, women will want to be around you (and often that will lead to wanting to sleep with you).

4.5 is only just below the average - most people wouldn’t even notice that half inch. Work on becoming a fantastic lover. I’m gay and can tell you that I’ve had some of the worst sex with guys whose penis was above average (7.5”) and the best sex with a guy whose penis was 3.5”. I measured both, so I know that’s the correct size. Many men, no matter their size think that all they have to do is stick it into a hole and thrust a few times and their job is done. It’s fine for the guy, what about his partner? You are more than your penis. You have hands, a mouth, a tongue, and everything else that will help you satisfy your partner when having sex. Listen to your partner and find out what they like when you have sex, drive them wild with your mouth and your hands and worry less about what your penis size is.

Well thats definitely on the lower side of average. What's your body fat? Losing body fat and shaving may make it seem a bit larger than it is.

Is a 6 inch penis enough to satisfy a woman and make her happy?

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hell yeah 6 inches is more than enough, average globally is 5.1-5.5 inches in length. you got good length and good girth brother :)

No 6 is a good size . Do you have girth ??

Missionary is fine for 6" but I find doggy requires more in order to get passed big ass cheeks and penetrate deep enough...

It’s not small

yeah for sure

Is this healthy?

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108s9ib

Hi, penises in puberty grow at different times and rates, depending on each person's genetic profile, but there might be an issue with your blood pressure, regardless of how much above average your penis size is. As a mod team we would strongly urge you to speak with a health professional about your concerns.

I mean how big is it? What sorta problems do you experience ? I think for the most part a big dick isn’t really of that much concern health wise

well how big is it? mine was way above average at 13 years old but it kinda stopped growing at 14

Steady growth at your age is fairly normal. What doesn’t sound normal is lightheadedness when you have an erection. Like others have mentioned, speak to a doctor about it. It’s better to get checked out and not find a problem than not get checked and the problem grows. When you “fainted for a little bit” was that after some masturbation? Did you orgasm and then felt faint, or did you become erect and then felt faint.

That's normal I think... What's the size? Can you measure it?

Will I be like my brother?

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ztyjg1

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Most people stop growing by sixteen but some go up to 21, by that standard your at least two years to go. Whilst I don’t know exactly how big you are ‘just under 6 inches’ is above average, and, if you know them, you can put your accurate measurements into an online calculator to see how you compare to the average size. You’ve no need to compare to your brother, and you shouldn’t really worry about how big you are at your current size, you’ll probably get bigger, but if you don’t , you’re still above average.

How big do you think he is?

People grow at different rates and a lot of different factors are involved. Some stop growing earlier than others and some go through spurts. You could grow some more or maybe not, can’t tell for sure. My younger brother is shorter than me but his penis is bigger and he was an early bloomer whereas I had some growth mainly girth in late teens so it varies for everyone

i am growin 18 you can the penis erects from blood, nothing like bone. get the right diet KEto has the science.

Okay. This is a tricky question. So most people stop puberty between 18-21. So your dick will likely also stop growing around then. Measure your bone pressed length and girth very accurately. And measure again every year or so. Make sure your fully erect. I'm 18 myself and I believe my dick got slightly longer and a bit thicker since I was 15. I got maybe 0.25" longer, I didn't know my girth before but I think it got a decent amount larger just from comparing old photos.

Is it true that asians have smaller dicks?

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zhr4km

There is very little difference in averages. Eastern average is 5.28×4.56 and Western average is 5.79×4.74.

My dad was Asian mum is English.My dick 🍆 is 12 cm . 4.75 inches 🤔😱

Nope, I've seen horse hung asians

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No it is broadly a stereotype. Average size there is negligible statistical difference. Just like every other country on Earth, there are big, average and small guys.

Should I be worried about my size?

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zblvfb

Sex isn’t all about penetration. I have a big one myself and I thought I’d be good at it just because of that. You’ll be fine

I'm 4.2 inches and I have plenty of sex. Girls don't even notice in the moment. Just take control so they don't suck your dick if you don't want them to get a close up of it 😂

I'm a woman and I've had intercourse with over 35 men. Only one was too small, and he was about the size of my thumb. (I'm fairly certain that he had some kind of intersex condition.) 5 inches is plenty. Besides, the most common complaint about size from women is not "too small", but too big and therefore painful.

While I'm a guy with a big one but I've had sex with over 150 men of different sizes and shapes, it never really mattered, sex isn't always about penetration, there's way more to it than that, its both physical and psychological. Although sometimes penetration isn't even possible with mine because it's too thick for some, so ye, too small isn't much of a thing, being too big is though

Please help me in figuring out how to deal with my ridiculous insecurities

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z8eo8m

Your post is welcome here, don't get this mod message wrong, but as a mod team we would advise you to consider speaking with friends you trust irl and also perhaps mental health counseling, because some of your reactions like bursting in tears multiple times today indicate strong mental and sentimental pain. We wish you the best in dealing with your insecruties.

I would try meditation as it can help you realize your negative emotions and make you be able to manage them. Also it will help you realize that you shouldn't be insecure about things you can't control.

You should imagine yourself having a 4" x 4" penis, you will instant get over your insecurity.

This frustrates me as an older man. The problem is , buddy, you keep dating immature women, and by immature, I mean barely out of grade school maturity wise. Women know EXACTLY what they're doing when they make fun of a small dick, even if yours isn't. I'll say it again; they know EXACTLY what they're doing. So now here you are in your own head, needing the biggest penis both length and girth wise, or you're all messed up. You said something about not having enough to be in the hook-up culture. I've been married for 30 years so I'm not sure, but it sounds like you feel the only dudes in it are porn- sized dicks who screw like porn stars with bodies straight out of a movie. Well bud, it seems you have a less than complex, and that comes from within you and is added to by the immature women you seem to date/hook-up with. Start with your self-esteem and leave this woman as soon as you can because she hurt you on purpose, and now knows what to do if you don't fall in line. Work on yourself kid, and eventually, find yourself a real woman, not a girl in a woman's body. I wish you well.

>She made a couple of small dick jokes to me earlier on (because thats just how her friends joke) but she felt terrible about it when I said it really bothered me and stopped >She has also done SO MUCH to help since she recently learned how insecure I got over these things. Things like calling me big, I'm really sorry, but this caught my eye and I can't help but see this as nothing more than guilt from her part. Somebody having much bigger previously and calling you small only to completely U - turn her "jokes" sounds like nothing more than a guilty conscious and could only be saying that because of that reason. I'm sure it would (not) go down well if you made jokes regarding her tits or her body then go on to say the complete opposite later on because it made her feel shit. I know how this feels hating yourself over your size, I live with this shit every day myself. It'll never go. Worst part for me is I'm smaller and more in the undesired range (4.8 - 5 nbp length only) so there is no hope for me other than to live with this pain on the sidelines.

Anyone smaller than their younger brother?

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z4g2ky

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At 15 my little brother and his friends were larger than me.

I am

I have two brothers I’m the youngest and biggest

Don't have a younger brother but that would be so hot.

I’m smaller than my younger brother by a couple inches

Weight gain making it bigger?

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z3qpwc

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Bro stop spamming

Will I grow anymore?

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yzo4r1

No one can tell you but it’s already a good size

It depends on your genes.. Try to workout and make your % of fat less in your body.. That make your penis look bigger and exercise helps you to improve Blood Flow in your body.. And 6.5 inch is above average is good size and enough and 4.5 inch in grith ia avarge.. Finally Techniques and endurance in bed is more important than size... Bro dont worry to much about your size

You might grow a bit more, maybe 7x5 but you could have allready stopped

Possible but you’re totally fine. Very good size.

Yes! It and you can throw more! Possibly til 25. So good luck.

Do I get more pleasure being uncircumcised?

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ysbaqr

Circumcision removes a section of skin from the penis that contains a lot of nerve endings. Also, the uncircumcised penis glans is kept moist and more supple as covered most of the time and when circumcised the head is permanently exposed and becomes dryer and tougher to be able to stand rubbing against clothing and sensitivity reduces to stop erections from constant rubbing on underwear. Obviously circumcised males still get pleasure but differently.

Try this: https://www.reddit.com/r/EdgingTalk/comments/q001ww/uncut_edging_guide_ridged_band_stimulation/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Circumcision removes about 50% of the nerve endings from the penis. So, yeah. Circumcised men actually feel 50% less than a natural, intact, uncircumcised man does.

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Definitely YES. The part that is cut off is the part with the most nerve endings.

Is my penis small? uh just scared...

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yms8i1

You are totally fine! If you only just turned 13 its completely normal to not have any hair yet. Your body just needs a bit more time! I'm sure you will start to see more changes very soon. Your size is probably fine to masturbate with (if you're already into that), and it won't take long until it starts getting bigger and you see some hairs popping up. Does that make sense?

Mate, you have absolutely nothing to be scared of. It all sounds good to me. It's not great to hear, but everyone develops differently, and you sound like you're developing later, but you do acknowledge that you're younger than most, and at this age that means a lot. Nothing you've said is a worry at your age. Whatever happens, be proud and happy with your body. All of your body. So much in this world revolves around unrealistic expectations, especially when it comes to your penis, and you have to ignore them. So long as you enjoy it and it works, that's all that matters!

I'd say you are already in puberty as you have had a growth spurt. Other areas will develop in their own time. Possibly you aren't noticing some changes as they are subtle such as testicle growth as that would have happened to some extent for testosterone production to make you taller but when hair appears it is very obvious. A few months age difference can make a great difference. I was about 6 months older than most of my friends so after sports I was more developed than them when I was nearly 14, by the next school year, most had caught up, although some can be later still so 15 and older. So for you, everything is fine so far.

You will probably see significant growth in the next two years. Be patient and let time do it’s magic. Meanwhile, enjoy being 13.

13 is a tough time. Every boy in the world is anxious about his development and comparing to other guys isn't helpful. Everyone else seems to be bigger and harier. Believe it or not you'll get there. The very first sign of puberty is growth of the testicles. Penis growth, hair and ejaculation (which is always a big deal) will happen a bit later, and not necessarily in that order. It would be interesting to read what you might post here a year from now.

Is it still possible for me to grow?

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yhyugw

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id say def possible but not for sure. some dudes dont get anything past 15-16 years old and ive seen others say they had growth past 18-19. cant ever tell besides waiting and seeing lol

I mean nonetheless it's a good size bro, you're perfectly fine even if you don't grow.

Most guys finish puberty around 19 so its possible to grow more but nobody knows for sure. You're above average and some a lot of people would consider you big.

I understand how you may feel. You will still grow some more, don’t worry.

Am I to be huge?

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yfvl8a

i was around the same size at 13. almost 6 inches. now at 16 i am 8.2 inches. but you may not be the same, cant ever tell really

There really is no way to know; your size now does not infer what your size may be in the future. Only time will tell.

Only time will tell. How tall are you? Are you growing taller at a fast rate?

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Depends on erect size. That’s a larger size for an erect penis. Don’t stress about it too much!

Will I still grow, or am I hopeless?

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ydijkj

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You still have a chance to grow, but nobody will know for sure. You’re almost at the average size anyway, so even if you don’t grow much you’re fine.

Most guys finish growing around 19 so you potentially have about 3 more years to grow. Nobody can tell you how big you will be as size is genetics and not based on any size at any given age.

Very possible you could have a growth spurt in your later teens.

I don't think that you are SOL. Are those measurements Bp? Your length is fine for your age, but your girth is a bit under average. Yes, you are still developing and have plenty of time to grow. Hang in there, you'll be fine. Keep on gaming and don't worry about it.

Yyeah, I'm 19 and I'm not positive if I'm completely done growing. Also, Make sure that your cock is as hard as it will get like first thing in the morning. Plus you need to make sure that you are measuring from the right place. Is it from your balls or from your base,

does height contribute to size?

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ycvjwm

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Im 6'4 with a 7.5 inch so maybe But i know a 6'6 guy with a 6 inch so idk

Nah,it helps a range,the taller you are the more likely you are to be bigger simply because it's proportional. But I've met short men with bigger dicks than me,or men who dwarf me by over a foot,and I'm bigger.

Nope. I’m 5’7” with a 6” and 5 1/4 girth. Being short skinny makes it appear larger too.

I'm 5ft5 with 7.25 so I guess not

I’m 6’4” and 8” so I’d say probably lol

Should I be insecure about my size?

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yaf7fd

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No need for insecurity. You have a very nice sized penis!

I have a 5.1” dick. I’m married and my wife loves it. Some women will be snobby about dick size, but some will not.

will I grow

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y72xcn

1) 6" at 13 is pretty good. Congrats at already being above average. 2) whether or not you'll continue to grow is based on your puberty stage (tanner stage) and genetics. So beyond that generalization, it's a person to person basis. I'd recommend checking out a Tanner Stage Calculator to see where you're at specifically and how much more puberty you should expect.

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That's a nice size for your age and yes, I think it will continue to grow.

Is my penis size smaller than average?

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It's a bit small, but you're still young, i wouldn't worry too much

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I mean I'm indian and I'm 6.1 inches when erect,and I'm 19,but I also want to be bigger,like I wanna reach 6.5 inches before I'm 21.

Heyy I am the same age and like mine is close to your size too

7-8cm erect or flaccid?

Should I start wearing underwear again?

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Personally, I like a good display of freeballing.

If your bulge is really clearly visible, you should start wearing underwear. Find large enough underwear to fit comfortably on you.

Are you circumcised or uncircumcised, and would you wanna change it?

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Circumcised and wouldn't change it. I just learned recent uncircumcised is the norm around the world tho

I’m circumcised and I wouldn’t change it. The pain I dealt with when I had my foreskin was the worst.

Uncut, wish I was

I'm uncircumcised I wouldn't change it.

Circumcised. My girlfriend love's it.

13 is normal for a 16yo?

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x3hbds

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I'm guessing you are talking about 13 centimeters? If so, that's perfectly fine! The average for fully grown adults is a bit bigger, but you probably have some time to grow. You could do a tanner stage test if you want to get some more insights into this.

Is it normal for 13?

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You're good for your age. Average for adults is actually around 5.2".

You are already bigger than some who are fully grown

You’ll probably be big tbh

Hey, As you said 6" (correctly 5.5") is the average for an ADULT , so you don't have to worry. Since you are 13 it's very likely that you'll continue to grow :)

Small penis at 15??

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waorhb

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Go see an Endocrinologist. They can check your puberty markers and at 15 can probably still help you along. To be clear, they will be focused on getting through puberty, not your penis length. I was in this exact scenario.

I would see a doctor amd let it check

Hey, I agree with u/kaseko24. You should see a doctor asap.

Oh..2 inches hard? Think you can ask doc and other who know about hormones, testosterone in puberty and etc

Can I still be growing

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vv1u29

Hey, If you're in tanner stage 5 then it's very unlikely, that you'll continue to grow.

It may be the case, but irrespective the Tanner stages are just a guide to gauge development and are not wholly the truth. All that can be said is you'll stop around 21ish, so you may still grow a little bit more but you may also not. No way to tell.

Hard to tell. But generally in stage 5 you're done putting on most of your height and dick length. More likely is an increase in girth

It's possible but probably not likely if you're already in stage 5. But the scale is not super accurate so there's no way to know for sure at this point.

Would i be considered big?

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vp1pb3

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You're a little above average in both length and girth. It's bigger than the average, so if that's big for you then yes it is.

The average of a fully grown man is about 5.5 inches, so yes your penis is bigger than average. And depending on how far you are into puberty it could maybe even grow some more! The curve is totally normal as well. Almost every penis has some sort of curve!

You're bigger than me, so you're good. 👍

No just average

It is possible you could get another.5" to 1" more length and maybe up to another .5" in girth,but that's up to genetics. Regardless, congratulations on already being slightly above average

Any input on why I am the way I am?

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v20amf

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Because you're lucky, all there is to it

Genetics is the predominant factor. It can also be impacted by the hormonal levels of your mother while you were in the womb, combined with your own hormones while growing up and going through puberty. You are certainly very large in both length and girth and although very rare, it's not unheard of.

I think the government lowers penis size averages by about a half inch to appease the population

Damn man! That thing is HUGE. Think it's just good genetics and luck.

Dopamine increases dick size I hear?

Are Kids Lying?

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ezejeg

Around a 6-6.5 is for sure possible for sure for even 13-year-olds. It just depends on how far you are into puberty. If they are claiming something around 8 it is **very** unlikely.

Yes, they are lying. A 7.5" penis is in the top 0.2% of adults. Not top 2%, 0.2%. Like 2 in 1000. An 8.5" penis is off the charts. It's not impossibly rare, but it's less than 1 in 10,000 You're way above average for your age, and you have 2-4 years of growing left to do. Hell, you're in the [top 10% for adults](https://calcsd.netlify.com). [Here](https://i.imgur.com/giOwmJr.png) is a chart from a study in Brazil. There is almost no size difference between guys from different countries or races. The y axis (vertical axis) is the length in mm. The x axis (horizontal axis) is age. The squiggly lines are the 10th, 25th, 50th, 75th, and 90th percentiles. Basically at the 50th percentile for a given age, half of other guys would be larger and half would be smaller. For the 25th percentile, 25% would be smaller and 75% larger. Use the same math for the others. If you cross the lines of the 16 year old mark and the 90th percentile, you will see that the average is a little under 150mm (5.9" inches), which is well below your size (6.4" or 163mm).

Some might be, some probably can't measure right. I'm almost 15 and I'm 6 basically

Dude your penis is bigger than average. Facts don't lie.

All boys says that have 7+ but it’s not prove)

Men are the ones who obsess over penis size; women don’t really care. That said, how actually disadvantaged in hetero sex/relationships are men with comparatively small penises?

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qi20dt

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You are looking at this a little wrong. No one gets broken up with because they're got a small dick; the relationship never started because the man has a small dick. Men like that can struggle at getting serious with a girl if he can't satisfy her.

Are breasts really considered sex organs?

>85% of women are satisfied with the size of their partner’s penis, This statistic always makes me laugh a bit. When you consider that penis size has a normal distribution, the smallest 15% having unsatisfied partners is pretty much exactly what you would expect. Saying that 85% of women are satisfied is basically confirming that women aren't happy with small. Another commenter said it perfectly; women don't break up with you for being small because the relationship never starts in the first place. Size is a common deal-breaker and most women aren't willing to settle. If women "don't really care" about size you wouldn't have so many guys being rejected for being too small. How disadvantaged are small guys? Well you're basically limited to one or two positions, have no hope of fornix stimulation or any kind of stretch / full feeling, but worst of all I think is the mental aspect. Even women who claim to "not care" about size still typically find bigger to me more of a turn on, and small is the opposite.

Either for men or women we are talking about populations of 4 billions +, so any simplified generalization about sexual preferences or decision making in romantic relationships is by default crude. The few legit surveys (aka not Reddit polls, YouTube interviews etc.) that I know of do show that penis size is low in hierarchy as an evaluation criterion of a relationship for straight women, but it is somewhat more important for gay/bi men in hook ups. Basically I agree with you, I am just adding that women are a LOT, and they are not all the same, some size queens do exist, but they are far less common than the attention that they get in public discussions.

6'3" but a very disappointing penis size of 5.5 inches. I was very insecure about it in my teens and early 20s when chicks would expect an 8 incher and I'd be well short but then one day I said fuck it and started using my fingers and tongue more. Got married and had two kids so the little guy has already done its main job. Anything else from here on is a bonus. So guys be confident in your skin, as long as you dont have a micropenis and the one you have works well then congrats.

I get hurt by penis size jokes - am I too sensitive?

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ta2q62

Hi. Judging also from a previous post of yours that it was removed, I think that you struggle with some rather severe dysmorphic feelings about your penis size - I sympathize with you, but I will urge you again to speak with a mental health professional about these body image struggles of yours, like I have already suggested in that post. As for your question itself (and in this second paragraph I am *not* speaking as a mod), my size is plain average erect, and very small flaccid, so I used to be feeling awkward because of (big) dick jokes. Currently I am just using a direct approach, I state explicitly that I don't like these jokes, and usually the people avoid them in the future, at least in front of me (I use the same approach with rape / racist / sexist etc. jokes). As for your girlfriend, I am sure that she meant well with her "lie" (I wrote quotation marks because with 6.6" that you mentioned in your other post, you do have a rather long one, reality doesn't care about your insecurities), but if I was ever in your place (I haven't, at least yet), I would tell my boyfriend or girlfriend (I am bi) when we would be alone that my dick does not need defending, and that he/she makes matters worse with compliments like these.

You have to instantly turn that stuff around. But do it in a very non-chalant way. As soon as that sort of anti-male hypocrisy comes up there's always some way to bring up the exact female equivalent. Examples: "Just like we all could use a little tighter, know what I mean ;) ?" "Just like she has a tight one ;)" "Can you believe the hypocrisy of that stand up comedian? Body shaming men like that but not one bit of shaming big loose vaginas? They sure go out of their way to pander to insecure women with huge vaginas. That's just insanity Lol." The comments made by her roommate are just examples of typical Mainstream Normalized Misandrist Hypocrisy promoted by mainstream media. The idea that "sexism towards men is ok but sexism towards women is wrong". And taunting all men and boys with that double standard sexist hypocrisy. All just to pander to insecure women who need to trash men in order to feel better about themselves. Simply find a way to mention reverse gender equivalents. There's no better way to illustrate that hypocrisy for what it is. Men and boys are not just punching bags deserving of one-way sexual harassment no matter how much the media wants to promote that hypocrisy.

Hey. We got what we got. A lot of guys (myself included) feel the same way even though being completely average. Your gf probably just blabbed something out, sounds to me like you’re the only person with a problem about it. Life’s not a big dick competition. You’ll get older and realize it doesn’t matter, and nobody cares.

This has probably been posted lots before, but can someone give me any tips for condoms to buy?

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pogep6

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Durex XXL will be your best bet that you may find in stores. You need condoms with a 64-72mm nominal width. The only condoms that are widely available in the US that are that size are the aforementioned Durex XXL and MySize 64 & 69, which are available on Amazon.

It appears you are asking about condoms. If that is incorrect, ignore this message. [Calc SD's Condom Guide](https://calcsd.info/condoms.html) is a good tool for learning about condoms. Pay most attention to the recommended *Condom Nominal Width* and less to the specific condoms recommended. The recommendations are based on what people wear, which is skewed by availability, rather than what actually fits. For even more info, visit penissize's [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/penissize/wiki/index#wiki_condom_choice). *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/penissize) if you have any questions or concerns.*

If you're thinner at the base then you should be fine with the regular size. If you were a lot thicker I'd say to try XL size

Question about buying condoms?

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rcg8r8

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There is no age requirement for buying condoms. You can just go ahead and buy them. If its your first time, I recommend trying a few different sizes and brands to find out what fits best for you. An alternative is buying online, like on amazon. Even if you don't have a creditcard (like another commenter suggested), you may be able to buy an Amazon gift card in a convenience store and use that to purchase the condoms. There's probably a lot more choice on the internet than in your small local store.

There is no age requirements. From your other post opt for the largest one they sell.

It appears you are asking about condoms. If that is incorrect, ignore this message. [Calc SD's Condom Guide](https://calcsd.info/condoms.html) is a good tool for learning about condoms. Pay most attention to the recommended *Condom Nominal Width* and less to the specific condoms recommended. The recommendations are based on what people wear, which is skewed by availability, rather than what actually fits. For even more info, visit penissize's [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/penissize/wiki/index#wiki_condom_choice). *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/penissize) if you have any questions or concerns.*

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Yo no age limit just go in there actconfident ask for it and no one will think a thing about it

Body dysmorphia?

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qrjoof

Mines 4 bro ur depressed I wish I was 7

Yup. Same here. I'm about thirteen and a half and I'm a touch over 6 inches bone pressed. I've asked if its a good size and a lot of people have told me its big, but whenever I look down I can't help but think, "nooo, this thing is tiny" Youre not alone here mate ✊

Hi, body dysmorphia is a serious mental health issue, and as such it can't be diagnosed by random redditors - if you need a serious and legitimate answer to your question, I urge you to speak with a mental health professional irl. That having been said, dysmorphic feelings are a byproduct of many people's insecurities, and if these feelings don't become obsessive and self-tormenting, they can be considered "normal", in the sense that it is normal for us to think irrationally from time to time, as long as we recognize our nonsense :-)

That is definitely in the large category. Our perspective from looking down at ourselves always appears smaller than it actually is. You will get a better perspective when you are viewing it in the mirror or in a photo. I have a upward curve also which makes it look smaller from above.

Will Condoms Work?

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p1e8xx

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It would be fine for you

Go to mysize and search for you

Normal condoms will be fine.

How do I respond to my friends?

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r0mxty

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Just admit you got lucky. (Nothing else you can say)

Hi, I have found your post in our spam folder, sent there by our automoderator by accident. I am restoring it now, but since it has become old, feel free to repost it.

I may be wrong but I think your friends know as well as you do that you aren't the possessor of secret big dick magic. Nonetheless if you have a remarkable dick, people are going to make remarks. This might just be your friends trying to goad you as friend are want to do. Learn to take it in stride those in the know will be talking about your dick for the rest of you life. Next time tell'em "Some men in my family just have big dicks, but hey maybe if you suck it (or hold it/kiss it/ask it/keep thinking about it) yours will get bigger!"

Penis size is genetic It nothing you control and should not harm any friendships

Is it good to satisfy a girl?

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ojkpn7

yes

Yep

Are you having penis dysmorphia? Feeling small?

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ip71uq

Is my penis small? Does size matter?

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ior6ja

>Is it average or under? Neither. You are very large for your age. >How long will it be when I’m 18? (Btw I’m 14) [Here](https://i.imgur.com/giOwmJr.png) is a chart from a study in Brazil. There is almost no size difference between guys from different countries or races. There are no girth measurements due to ethical issues. The y axis (vertical axis) is the length in mm. The x axis (horizontal axis) is age. The squiggly lines are the 10th, 25th, 50th, 75th, and 90th percentiles. Basically at the 50th percentile for a given age, half of other guys would be larger and half would be smaller. For the 25th percentile, 25% would be smaller and 75% larger. Use the same math for the others. If you cross the lines of the 14 year old mark and the 90th percentile, you will see that the 90th percentile is 5" or 127mm, which is a bit smaller than you. Guys at the 90th percentile average growing 45mm or just under two inches. >Does size really matter? Not really. As long as you aren't big or small enough to cause problems, your penis is fine. Women care far more about who the penis is attached to than the size of it. I say it constantly, but the biggest key to success with women is confidence, not penis size or shape. I highly recommend *How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie. It will be a great help to you on that front. If you read the book and apply it to your life in general, then you will do far more for your love life than having what you imagine is the perfect penis. You can pick up a copy from ABE Books [for less than $6 shipped](https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/SearchResults?an=Dale%20Carnegie&bi=0&bx=off&cm_sp=SearchF-_-Advtab1-_-Results&ds=30&recentlyadded=all&sortby=17&sts=t&tn=How%20to%20Win%20Friends%20and%20Influence%20people%20combined). The lessons you learn from that book are not targeted at sex and dating, but one you understand the lessons, you will understand how to apply them to sex and dating.

it is below average for now but considering that you are 14 it can still grow a bit

You think way too much about your penis size especially at your age. Furthermore there is way more to sex and such than how big your penis is.

It’s about average for your age you will probably be just under 6 inches by 18

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am i ok for my gf

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ianlgu

Yes. Make sure you're both of legal age in your area or else you can get fined for rape if caught. Remember to use protection

Yeah it's average cock for sure

Why's my penis small? (14M)

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r7djw9

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At your current age, you are still in your developmental phase. There is a high probability you will continue to grow for several years. I wouldn’t worry about anything. Your current size should is not a reflection of your size when you reach adulthood. Wait it out and see what happens. I continued to grow until I reached adulthood.

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1. Since you're probably still growing, take care of yourself and eat and sleep well to maximise growth hormone production. 2. Your current size is not indicative of your final adult size. 3. You're already on the upper end of average for your age, though that's hard to tell during puberty and whatnot. 4. Try not to worry about your size too much; for one, there's not too much to be upset about, and two, you're still young and developing. If you're already fit and healthy, testosterone boosters won't be that effective (if at all); more testosterone does **not** necessarily mean a bigger penis, it only ensures you fulfil your genetic potential. An overdose of testosterone might cause harmful effects and isn't something to really be playing around with.

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You are in puberty and your penis will grow more. Relax and watch it grow

How can I hide it in public (at school or just in general)?

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q90kxk

wear a hazmat suit and bring a mop everywhere you go. If you're too classy for that fashion style, wear looser clothes maybe tapered jeans and wear dark colors so spots arent as prominent.

You will find some useful relevant tips in our wiki: https://www.reddit.com/r/penissize/wiki/index#wiki\_hiding\_a\_bulge.2C\_vpl.2C\_or\_even\_an\_erection

I thought I was on r/bigdickproblems for a second. For me when I was younger flipping it in my waistband usually helped although it’s risky if you reach up for something 🙃

You should go to a urologist.

you got the same problem as me i'm a teen so everyone jokes about boners and stuff which results in them laughing at me constantly

Addiction or not?

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ssqvtc

It's totally normal and there's nothing wrong with it at all. As long you're having fun and feeling good, you can keep at it without any worries. If it starts taking over your life and takes you away from other activities then it's a problem. But once or twice a day while living the rest of your life? Nothing to worry about at all..

"Different strokes", no? If you have no other(-centered) sexual outlet(s) at the moment, i believe it's completely normal at your age to masturbate frequently. Unless your sexual energy is low, the alternative would be to let things build up and then experience "automatic release" via wet-dreams. Getting yourself off more regularly is probably healthier than letting the dam fail! (<;

I don’t see why it wouldn’t be

No that's completely normal. It's only addiction if it is impacting with your everyday life and stopping you from doing other things you enjoy like seeing friends or going somewhere. Otherwise jerking off daily or multiple times a day is fine, if you feel like you want to do it. Each person is different and so some people only do it once a week while I know a guy who does it three times a day without problems (although I joke to him wondering how he finds the time, haha). 😉

It’s all good dude I do it 3-4 times a day just depends on the person

Is my friend lying?

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q0peds

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7 inches is well above average. The average for a fully grown male is 5.5 inches, so yes your penis is quite big

Girth could play significant role in this

She's right, you have a big dick. 6 is also big, but her ex could have been really girthy which made it seem bigger

So... I'm asian and I guess I've always had the stereotype stuck in the back of my mind about being in the small side... Am I average?

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oeognx

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6.5" length is really big. Like top 10% big. 6.5" girth is problematically big. Like top 0.001% big. For your sake, I genuinely hope you measured incorrectly or are making that size up. Literally the only condoms that will fit are MySize 69 (which will be on the tight side), MyOne/TheyFit 22 (which are the same size) and MyOne/TheyFit 31 (which are the biggest condoms on the market). That's it.

You are somewhat eclectic with your penis size info, you are aware of the small Asian (false) stereotype but not if 6.5" girth is average or not. You can find out for yourself here: https://www.reddit.com/r/penissize/wiki/index#wiki\_average\_penis\_size\_.28for\_adults.29

Above average length and huge girth.

Girth big👍🏻

How do I get over my insecurity

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nn596h

If you're insecurity is whether or not you are big enough. The short answer is yes. To get over your insecurity you need to realize that there isn't anything wrong with your size. When you look at your penis just say to yourself that it's perfect. Although it may take sometime, you'll realize that you are just fine.

By a very quick glance at your profile I assumed that you are a teenager, correct me if I am wrong. If am right, my most basic advice is to accept that insecurity is your natural state at your age: your body constantly changes, your hormones are having a party 24/7, puberty is not the season of emotional balance and security about the self. Accept it as your current situation and learn how to manage it => keep it from being debilitating for you. There is no magical recipe for waking up one morning full of self esteem even later on in adult life, you gain that little by little. As for your specific question, I am an adult as you might have already guessed and my size is a bit smaller than yours, 5.5X5, and there is zero chance for growth for me anymore lol. I am totally happy with my size and the causes of that are in a nutshell, a) I accepted that I am not perfect, can't be perfect, and don't want to be perfect (In the specific discussion, I don't have the size of a top of the tier mainstream porn star, who are considered "perfect" by media standards. So?) b) I learned to manage my insecurities as something naturally occurring and not a reason for panic. c) I got a lot of positive feedback by fucking. After helping one more partner to reach orgasm with that average dick, I came to my senses and thought, "Chill, they can't be all crazy." :-) I hope that the above help.

Ur size is great bro

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mqel5n

I know someone who had seggs at 12/13. (hes not my friend, I just heard it because a lot of people were like ooh did you hear this couple had sex)

perfectly normal age here in the US. (going by missouri standards)

The word "normal" has many meanings, and for this reason there are many answers to your question. I will give you 4 :-) 1. *Is it legal?* Unless you write your country (and if you live in a country with federal structure, also the specific state), you can't get a legit answer. Perhaps yes, perhaps not. 2. *Is it physically natural?* As long as both bodies inolved are mature physically to have sex, yes. At 15 the vast majority of boys and girls have completed the basic stages of sexual development. That said, for a boy or girl with a very delayed puberty it might not be. 3. *Is it psychologically healthy*: Presupposing that "yes" is the answer to 2, yes it can be psychologically healthy, but consent is crucial for that. Sex with an adult at that age is not considered consensual in essence by the majority of psychologists, and I don't need to explain why forcing yourself to a partner physically or even demanding sex verbally is not consensual (the first is also very illegal) 4. *Is it morally acceptable?* Well that obviously depends on the moral values. 15 is an age that you can get a mixed basket of answers, which will be determined basically by the culture and religion of the person that you ask.

It definitely happens with young people that age, so in that regard it's "normal". Fact of the matter is is that some people have sexual intercourse while they're adolescents, others wait until adulthood based on how comfortable they are. That's more important than following any norms since your peers ultimately aren't going to be impacted by the decisions you make for yourself. If you choose to engage in sex, practice safety and understand the potential consequences of your actions. Your partner might be seeking a closer relationship, and if you're not yet ready for that commitment, it's best to be honest with yourself/to your partner in order to avoid straining what would otherwise be a good relationship. As for satisfaction, don't worry about it too much. You're young and will be inexperienced. That's how things work for just about everyone.

Depending on where you are, age of consent is between 16 and 18 for sexual activity. In the US the average age for loss of virginity is 16.9 years of age. Also the vagina is on average 4 inches in length. So if you are above a four-inch erect length you should have more than enough to get the job done.

Is it hormonal

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iyz20e

1. Are you measuring bone pressed or non-bone pressed? There's an explanation of the difference in [the wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/penissize/wiki/index). 2. It sounds like it could be hormonal, especially if you are actually growing breast tissue. Talking to your doctor is a good idea. Some doctors are great, but some are less so. You'll need to be your own advocate and educate yourself on what could be causing the issues. You also may need to insist on the appropriate tests, if your doctor is not receptive to your concerns. [Here](https://www.webmd.com/healthy-aging/features/be-your-own-health-advocate#1) is an article on the subject.

Will I grow?

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f5svvo

>i would love to have 9 or 10 inches so will i grow? No you don't. You think you want that, but you really don't. Reread what I told you [last time](https://old.reddit.com/r/penissize/comments/ebaoji/please_dont_think_im_bullshitting_or_trolling_im/fb5eijj/).

It’s really true ?

You're 16 with over 8"?? 🤣 Be glad with what you have. That's really massive for your age. I'm 22 and you're bigger than me, and you aren't even done growing! Jealous to say the least lol

Do you ever wonder what makes relationships work?

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nps4hy

Is it socially acceptable to ask for advice while in bed together?

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ssh4na

I prefer talking while in bed. If you’re comfortable with them, the communication will make the experience so much better. Be vocal!

I would say but depending on how you two are together. As in, how casual or serious it is. I’d say either way there’s usually nothing wrong but if it’s a one night thing with someone you’re trying to impress, you might not want to.

Only if the trust is high between two people.

Wouldn't suggest with something like a tinder date but like. If you know them we'll. Yknow

I am married and in an open relationship. So I both know what it's like to have a lasting partner and one night stands or FWBs. I personally think communication is big in all situations. I do agree if it's a one night stand there's a certain amount of things that probably don't need to be talked about. But everything only gets better with more communication, at least in my experience.

Is it alright for a man not to be interested in casual sex?

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11d1nj9

It is completely 'normal' to be more cautious and to require certain premises before engaging in a whatsoever sexual encounter. Not being part of a majority (*whether it really is a majority of men who are rather interested in casual sex or whether those men are only louder/more extroverted, boast more etc. is another question*) is completely okay. There are many scenarios where it is cultural/generally more appropriate/appreciated to belong to a minority. Refraining from meaningless sexual encounters/high promiscuity etc. in most cases is seen as being e. g. more multi-dimensional, more civilized, more appreciating, experiencing more nuances of enjoyment etc. You can be proud of being more than the raw, devouring/consummating archetypal male. The higher/more differentiated a species is developed, the more complicate are their mating rituals. It's the same as with other basic needs: Think of people having zero standards: devouring animals raw, climbing trees to eat whole fruits etc. vs. people preparing food, arranging (aesthetically) pleasant dishes etc. The more sophisticated, detailed, ritualized etc. you satisfy everyday needs, the higher you are on the culture/civilization ladder. Be proud and feel like the king of sexual encounters you are😁

I get too attached and I found this out after one case of casual very young. I need to be comfortable with her.

Should I tell my wife?

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113gqkd

How long has it been since birth?

Oo, that's a tough situation. As a woman, I would want to know the truth. I have worried about this myself and asked my husband. But, it does matter how long it's been since she last had babies. It's also not that common for this to happen as the vagina is amazingly resilient. It's more likely the muscles/pelvic floor are probably the culprit.

Procedures? To make her tighter? I’ve never heard of these. Could you explain more

Honestly, I’d probably get a small insertable vibrator and add that to the mix. It can stimulate the both of you. You can present it as something you read online and were curious about trying. Just make sure to add lots of lube

Not getting “wet” like i used to. Should I be concerned?

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110frws

Fruits and veggies

This can definitely happen with age. Ask your obgyn..

do I have a fertility problem

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10ycqfs

I'd hazard a guess and says it's probably the drugs, nothing ever comes good from using em

Are non latex condoms just as good as latex condoms in preventing STDs?

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10y6afs

Non latex as in animal membrane as these are more porous. The polyisoprene protect against STD and are better for your partner so keep using those and enjoy!

Shouldn't Durex have conducted scientifically appropriate tests before selling the product? If so, the results are probably available already or easily obtainable via their customer service.

No, that would not be good for your girlfriend. Non-latex polyisoprene condoms are just as effective as latex.