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Bottoms. What apps have been the most successful for hooking up and finding good tops?

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jukgfl

Tbh, I had good tops on Grindr but it was always a one time thing. I had a good older top, that is always available though 😂. I had amazing fwb on Tinder too. And as a bottom, I found really good other bottoms on tinder too ( sex doesn't always have to be anal 😎🤟) I tried happn but had the cringiest experiences on there

Amazon. You find the best tops for cooking there.

Fabguys is good.

Ngl, Craigslist was probably one of the best ones for me back when it was a thing. It let you cast a wide net, since it didn’t involve using an app directly marketed to gay guys, you could get messages passively without having it open it, and it assigned you random CL “mailbox” so you had the option of not giving out personal contact info if you so chose. I do use grindr, Scruff and bbrt, but they tend to either lock you into guys in your location vector, or open you up to people 5,000 miles away with no real middle ground. Bbrt gives you the most control over your public pictures and the verbiage you can use, but its also fairly niche.

I use adam4adam.com

Where are the best places to get fucked?

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ccq0wx

The butt

Backseat of a car is hot or in a park on a bench or bleacher

Out of the bearded barley Nightly, beside the green, green grass Oh, beneath the milky twilight On the moonlit floor Down by the broken tree house Upon its hanging tire

On the beach. In the grass. Picnic table?

In a sling on a patio.

Any slim or medium build tops that fuck larger bear sized guys on the regular?

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gn131d

I fucking love those ‘mismatches’ short fucking tall, skinny fucking bear or muscle, young fucking old. 🤤

I honestly think that small slim twink tops mount large muscular bear bottoms is extremely hot🔥 and wonderful 😍! Missionary, riding and prone bone all work well for it.

If you have the bottom lay face down, but turn on his side a little bit. Let's do a for example. Bottom lays face down, leans toward his right, and bends his left leg to the side and bends the knee. This gives you a space for your left leg and knee, with pretty spot on aim for a stocky bottom's hole. Secondarily, I highly recommend a sling. Holding up the big fellas takes a lot of energy, let a strong frame do that work for you, and you gents enjoy the dicks and asses!

Doggy/froggy always works for me with the bigger guys. Me on my knees, spreading the buttocks apart, then push his butt up or down till it lines up perfectly.

As a big beary bottom, I love the contrast of being fucked by a smaller guy. I'm fairly fit so most positions are good. Missionary and doggy both hot

Best app to meet bears?

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35j5bt

I know that Growlr is a thing but I've got no idea how good it is.

I'm mostly into bears and cubs and growlr is the app that I've had the most luck on by far (probably 10 to 1 over the other apps in terms of getting someone who I'm interested in who won't flake out and actually wants to meet up and fuck around). For what it's worth, I live in an area that seems to have an unusually high proportion of bear/cub sort of guys. Otherwise I've had decent luck with A4a and a little bit with scruff. Not so much with Grindr (which is a shitty app anyway, having to pay to get notified if you get a message and so on).

Growlr is good, I don't really know what people mean about the older guys who use it.

Growlr is good for bears. Or just tag me in ;)

Bear411 I think is what you're after. Silver daddies too.

How do you learn to be a dom top?

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kfg3wz

You need minimum , a slight attraction to banging a dude in the ass and then u just take control of it. And the more you fuck and act dominant over the dude, the more masculine you'll feel, the more you wanna own him in bed, and it just comes naturally with that. I didnt learn by looking at how other dudes dominate. The more submissive and weak the bottom is, the more i wanted to dominate him and make him feel like hes just a hole for me. One thing i learned is that I love having control and power over everything i do. The lack of control irritates me, in most cases.I was just born as a greedy piece of shit and im glad some men love that.

> Are subs training them? Maybe. I've got lots of twisted ideas, but I'm always worried I'm gonna hurt him, legitimately frighten him, or he'll freak out, or whatever. I guess other guys see it in me because a few have tried to coax the beast out. My boyfriend's figured out how to trigger it quite reliably with a mix of making me both a bit angry and by adding sexual frustration. Eventually I just fucking take it from him. I had to get really comfortable with him before I could do that though. I can't kick into it on my own usually, though sometimes I just am in that zone for no reason.

What kind of moves? Can you give an example?

I am small and I want to dom. How the hell do I do that?

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lc6yus

Learn jiu-jitsu and come at people like a spider monkey

I'm a tall sub-leaning bottom and honestly I'm very envious of your boyfriend. I'd love a twink top, especially one who's okay with switching roles sometimes. Physically, you don't have to throw him around; he's a sub and already inclined to follow you and your instructions. But as manifestations of control, you could reach up and grab his ear, pulling it to bring him down to your level. To lead him somewhere, grab his balls and pull him the direction you want him to go. Hair pulling works too. You could flip the expectation and order him to carry you, or if your size difference isn't bad, to give you a piggyback ride (A riding crop against his ass or thighs may be helpful in motivating him). You can snap your fingers when you want his attention focused; it's kind of belittling and incredibly rude, and it's his place as your sub to respond to it. I know there are subs who like being spit on. Choking during sex is definitely something I would enjoy, just read up on how to do it safely. Well, "safely"; you are cutting off his air or bloodflow. If he's a bit masochistic, he might enjoy you slapping his face or punching his torso, spanking his ass. Just have a discussion if that's okay with him first; you don't want crossed messages to make you come off as an abusive partner. Ropes are definitely a direction to look at going. And it's surprising how big a change reactions can be with just a blindfold. I get the problem with "daddy" and generally don't like it myself. You could go with the classic, "Sir," or if you're relationship is such, "Master." "Boss" can work too. I can't say I have a broad experience with verbal tops, so this is what I've thought about and the bits of advice I picked up when asking the same thing, how do I dom better. Tell him, instead of asking him; don't make it a question, like, "do you like my cock inside you?" Make it a statement, "You like my cock inside you." Have him repeat that back, "I like your cock inside me." Describe what's happening. "Choke on my cock." "Your hole is squeezing my dick." "I'm filling your insides." "I'm choking the life out of you and when you black out I'll fuck your limp body." You can degrad him if he's okay with that, call him a slut, a hole for you to use, breeding bitch, cum bucket, and what not. You can pursue some kinks that play to dom/sub roles. Putting a chastity cage on him, keeping control of his key, makes it clear you control his pleasure. You can go animalistic with piss play, spraying him with your pee to mark him as yours; have him piss on himself to show submission. If you're open to role playing ideas then medical (doctor/patient), pup play, and age play are good mental frameworks of one in control and the other in his care.

For the verbal part that’s pretty easy you don’t need to improvise much, just tell him what you’re gonna do to him before you do it or what you want him to do then order him to do it. Say you’re gonna fuck him so hard he won’t be able to sit for weeks then do it, or order him to kneel and kiss your bulge and watch him do it. If you say it right that’s what the verbal domination is all about. Sure you can throw in some dirty words to make it sexier but you really just need to have the right tone and attitude. If he likes being submissive he’ll go along with it too and enjoy it. As for the physical stuff you don’t need to throw him around to take physical control. There’s plenty of sensitive areas that if you know how to properly hold and squeeze he’ll crumble, especially if he lets you do it. Areas like the hair, ears, mouth, neck, nipples, balls, penis, etc. He’s the submissive so if he tries to use his hands or muscles to stop you from touching just slap him and say no then continue playing with whatever body part you want. Pull his hair when you fuck him, pull his ear a bit too hard for comfort, put your fingers in his mouth and tell him to worship, choke him a little (safely, never squeeze his windpipe only the veins), twist his nipples as hard as you can, grab his balls and pull a little too hard or squeeze a little too tight, straight up slap his dick if he gets hard. Physical domination is also all about attitude he wants to give you control so take it and more importantly use it, control his body. Also as for the daddy thing maybe try sir or something else that isn’t as evocative of a particular image for either of you. You can also try the reverse, maybe you both have trouble with giving you a title so instead remove his name. He doesn’t get one in the bedroom. Then you still get the pleasure of hearing him moan your name while you call him slut, bitch, slave, or whore. All in all just remember you’re the dom so frame the play around you. If you can’t be bigger and stronger bring him down below your level another way, it shouldn’t be hard since that’s where he wants to be. Good luck, and I envy your boyfriend ☺️😈

Hmmm. I am also interested. I can't give you any suggestions as a relatively small dude though. Same complaint about "daddy" too.

If I was being dominated by someone, I wouldn’t fight back (bc I’m not a brat), I like to listen and do what my dom says. So if he’s the same way, you wouldn’t need to throw him around much. I’d be satisfied if I was being pushed down, choked, or just in any submissive position. Like, do what you want with my body, that doesn’t necessarily mean pick me up and toss me across the room.

What's a good place to find a Dom Top?

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gaguu9

A dom top on your first time bottoming.. I pray for your tight hole.

Dom is part of the BDSM community and is about a state of mind and control. You are new to this, you should probably start with slow sex lol

Recon.

Recon.com. Be careful. You have consent always and no matter what the other guy says. It’s a balance that must be achieved. If you’re confused or unsure that’s ok. Be careful. Go slow. And if you’re in pain at any point then stop. Tell him to stop. Don’t ask. Tell. You are a sub. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have purview over your own body sweetie. Give it up. Carefully. Mkay?

Me.

Do you consider yourself an Alpha Male / Dom Top

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jt8lsz

Any guy who considers himself an alpha isn’t an alpha. Who the fuck even says that except on Grindr profiles lol seriously

As a sub bottom, I have noticed how hard it is to find “real” Alpha males. There are a lot of aggressive tops, but Alpha males seem to be different. Different presence, different energy, different way of acting. The one I met truly spun my world around. Got me to see stuff I hadn’t noticed about myself. Understand there was a difference between having sex and being used. He did it without being cocky, raising his voice, or being any of a number of things the stereotype suggests. He “just was” an Alpha. And because he brought someone over once who had pretty much the same energy, I know he wasn’t the only one. Many guys who say they are Alphas aren’t. It’s fascinating and frustrating at the same time.

I won't define an Alpha as what they do in bed, because we spent time for sex like maybe an hour per day?. Firstly Alpha males are born Alpha, it is not a trait in which one can trained to be one. An Alpha give out an Aura, if you're a Beta Male, he can put u in 'heat' by just be close to you without doing anything. An Alpha do behave like a pack animal, they need a Beta Male to exert their dominance. Thus making them territorial too, if your Alpha have marked (yeah there is a sexual ritual for that) you as his Beta, try to avoid getting close to another Alpha, things may get bumpy. They can however become 'rationally' protective while exerting their dominance. Last but not lease, an Alpha has nurturing instinct when around you. As he like to pamper you, they also need to pamper and cares.

I do

I'm very alpha to my bottoms, love to get rough, let you know who's in charge, and alpha enough to bottom and take my alpha's cock too. To me, alphas are a huge turn on. I melt for them and go sub instantly. I typically think that any top who's twunky, beefy, tatted, pierced, and rough but gentle, quiet but assertive and has a commanding presence is most alpha-like. Jeff Bezos, as an example, is very alpha to me. One look at him and I don't think he's a millionaire. They give off big dick energy but don't need to have a big dick. They don't even need to e assholes or carry on with bad attitudes. They could be a doctor and don't have to be a Hells Angel. My alpha crushes my hole and soul only to build me back up again and make me trust and love them for another earth shattering shaggering. An alpha established dominance and commands and invites loyalty to him, his cock, and maybe his friends. That's an alpha in my book. Guys that say they're alpha, could very well be. But I'll be the judge of that if and when I surrender my hole for your use.

DOM TOPS: what do you say in and out of the bedroom to reinforce your dominant role?

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e9hnle

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When I first saw the question, I was like "whaaaaaaaaaa???!?!!" Then I kinda thought a bit more and I was like "Hmmm.... There are things I do subconsciously that may be more dominant or none of my bottoms do" Here is a list of things that I do- 1. I man-spread. Idk people have told me it's obnoxious, but I don't care. 2. I have a deep voice, it hardly goes up. 3. I am the one to provide the shoulder for my bottoms to rest their head. Literally 4. I am usually romantic, both in and out of bed. I can be more dominant, in and out of bed. I love to be dominant in bed if my bottom is ok with that. I do love to manhandle my bottoms. 5. I like to take care of my bottoms, make sure they are comfortable and fine, both in and out of bed. I can't think of anything else that I do. But I could do them subconsciously and don't know it.

DOM TOPS: do you prefer bottoms submissive only in bed or outside, too?

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fyashg

In an idea world, I want my bottom submissive to me in and out of the bedroom. I don’t want my bottom submissive to the world thought - I want him to kick ass and take names and then come home and be my bitch.

only in bed, and only if thats what I feel like doing.

Someone being submissive alllll the time would get old fast. I dont want to be in control over every life decision, money, etc. That's not a healthy relationship. In the bedroom it's really hot though

Like like subs and bottoms in or out of bed

Is this a trick question??? I ask because ideally yeah I like my subs to be 24/7... but that's not the case for most... They get to the sub mindset during playtime but very few could keep it going in day to day life... everyone has a work life, a family life, a persona to navigate everyday interactions... bar that, yeah it would be great to have all subs be in that deep mindset...

DOM TOPS: How do you fuck your sub bottom?

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kc2h0o

Im a bottom mostly and I love wrapping my legs around my top and scratching his back while were kissing. He fucks me so hard I moan loud but god I fucking love it so much

As a sub bottom, the position that drives me wild is quite similar to what yours enjoy: I’m face down on the bed, top laying on me, holding my legs with his, controlling if they should spread or close. His arms holding me in a gentle headlock with some fingers in my mouth. Ideally facing a mirror for constant eye contact, and seeing the top’s ass go up and down in the background with every thrust. Add some possessive whispers in my ear like “you’re mine boy” and I’m basically in heaven.

My favorites are still doggy and missionary style. But I think most tops forget or don't have in mind how spicy is for bottoms to be fucked by surprise out of the bedroom, in uncommon places of the house (room corners, shower), outdoor places, etc... (example [1](https://fr.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5f9d5d35e79a2) | [2](https://fr.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5e22dcbd5121e)). I'm also getting a kink recently about being shoved / deepthroated instead of being requested to suck, either sitting back against a wall with his hand behind my neck, or [this](https://64.media.tumblr.com/7b7aef1ffad291482999b2128d2ab5a5/tumblr_o9uvzercMd1rnj7e1o1_400.gifv) way. I've posted another [comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/TopsAndBottoms/comments/k7m54k/bottoms_what_are_your_favourite_things_about_tops/gfmh2yh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) about this.

My favorite position is laying on my stomach while my top thrusts nto me. It feels even hotter when they lay on top of my back and completely cover me. I feel so protected and submissive in that position 🤤

My current bottom's (and mine) favourite position is riding me on the couch. After a hearty dose of lube, I love making the couch springs squeak while he rides me, his cock rubbing against my chest and my hands groping his butt.

Are there Dom Bottoms?

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hclu8m

So, dom bottoms are sexy as fuck. I'm mostly a bottom, and was exclusively until I crossed paths with this one army guy because he was just so In Charge and he made clear *I was going to fuck him*. Really opened my eyes to the joy of being a top, but still rarely do it. Couple things though. > not into bdsm Really? > I been desiring to cuff a dom to the bed That's Bondage. You know, the B in BDSM. It's a light variation of it, but there it is. >tell me what a whore I am... and "dominate" him And that's Domination, the D in BDSM. BDSM isn't just whips and chains, pain and masters and slaves; it's all the less drastic stuff that precedes that stuff too. These aren't bad things to do or be into so long as you're safe about how you go about it. That brings us to the all import word: Consent. Get it before you handcuff him to the bed, being sure he's okay with you doing it *while* he sleeps. Look into safe methods since cuffs can be rather ridged and unforgiving and could cut into the skin. Read up on aftercare; not everyone just bounces back from even light restraining and could need time to get back to their normal frame of mind. A little concerning though, is this: >take his cum in me without asking That's literally rape. That's not okay. Now, you can communicate with your partner and establish what is and isn't okay for both of you. For example, one of my fuck buddies likes to be woken up with a dick in his ass. If he hadn't given me permission beforehand and I just fucked him in the morning, I'd have been in a lot more trouble. Same for you and your guy. Again, it comes back to the communication between you and mutual consent. If he's okay with you being like, "shut up, I want to ride your dick and you can punish me for it later," then go for it. In your searching to find a guy to play with, it may help to identify yourself as a Switch with a preference to sub. This would identify you as someone who does the "please the dom... him to pick me up, carry me over his shoulder, tell me what a whore I am" thing but also wants to sometimes be the one in charge. Conversely, you're looking for a switch with a preference to top. I also suggest you look into consensual non-consent (sometimes just called CNC). It's basically rape fetish and could be up your alley if it's the control over a top and the top's anger of being forced, well "forced" into a submissive role that excites you. And seriously, it's okay to be into a little bit of bondage.

I read DOOM bottom and I was like FUCK YEAH

There are some of us out there who would definitely be into this.

Well I wouldn't say it's a dominantvbottom. I guess it's more being brat (a sub that is missbehaving and teasing it's top). Correct me if I'm wrong

My guy and I are into some BDSM play. He’s usually an aggressive top but I have an aggressive and domineering side that I like to indulge in once in a while. What I really love doing is tying him to our bed so that he has absolutely no leverage. Then I’ll blindfold him and put a ball gag in his mouth. The only time the ball gag comes out is when he’s eating my hole, sucking my dick or licking my balls and taint. And the rest of his body is mine as well. I get to suck and stroke and tease as much as I want to. I get to ride his cock when, how, and for how long I want to. And, of course, I get to decide if and when he cums. And if he manages to cum before I want him to then I let him know that we’re done when I say we’re done and that dick is my toy. We both really love it. And we have a relationship where he’s Daddy, but sometimes Daddy needs to shut the fuck up and do as he’s told because a boy needs to have his fun. Edit - seems I might have overlooked a couple of things in your post. So I want to say that all that I wrote above is 100% consensual. We’ve had conversations about what we like but more importantly about what we don’t like and what our limits are. We have safe words and use signals when we’re in situations where one of us cannot physical speak. We’ve been in a relationship for several years so there’s a ton of trust built up between the two of us. But that’s not to say you couldn’t have a situation like the one above with someone new. But you need to talk with the other person about all of it before hand. Otherwise it could very well be construed as assault or rape. We’ve woken each other up with sex before, but again, it was something we discussed with each other before and something we both consented. Plus my husband and I know each other well enough to know when something like that would be welcomed by the other.

TOPS: do you prefer masculine or feminine bottoms?

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dp560n

Yes

Prefer a dude with personality who loves to fuck.

I prefer non-alpha masc bottoms.

I like them furry and masculine in *looks*, but I don’t have any preference regarding personality or manner as long as they’re being true to who they are.

I prefer fem bottoms

TOPS: do you find masc bottoms attractive?

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kzcxaw

Interestingly, effeminate tops do like masc bottoms. It feels quite kinky to know that while it may seem otherwise for people, you are submitted to the top. Kinda the same naughty feeling sub hetero guys should feel with a dom wife. And trust me there are lots of not so masculine tops. And they fuck amazingly. Maybe the problem is the overvalue of masculinity, when the top the bottom and even the cat must be masc... not reallistic. I’m quite masc in every aspect except from role, and have found with time that most people who complains about not being enough tops, want an uber macho kind of top.

Omg. I fucking love masc bottoms. Rugby/gridiron, muscle cubs. The feeling of fucking a muscular arse is, for me the fucking best. Nothing better than working over a guy like you until you are moaning into the sheets and are unable to do anything else but enjoy the pleasure of me fucking you... Twinks don’t do much for me. Two twinks fucking look like a pair of stick insects... give me a stocky guy with a nice butt and I’ll fuck you so hard that you’ll feel me for a week...

You sound perfect to me. Ideal combo. You'd probably get me rock hard

I love a masc bottom. ;)

I am personally not interested in them, but there's definitely a lot of demand. Take porn, which is usually a pretty good representation of market demand (cuz capitalism). There's tons of porn studios out there making porn with grunting, hairy bottoms or of buff fraternity-types taking dicks. People are into that for sure.

Do tops like older, masculine bottoms?

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h8o831

I love masc bottoms. It’s my preference and I usually only go for masc bottoms. I can’t aroused with fem guys.

Well, believe it or not, I’m a masc twink who enjoys masc bottoms, or any bottoms really

I would recommend you r/YoungTopsOlderBottoms. And yes, there are some younger twink Tops crave older masc Bottoms. BTW, I think it's super hot when an older masc Bottom is fucked and marked as a territory by a young twink Top 😈.

Same here, I'm a 30-something masculine bottom. It can be pretty lonely sometimes.

Yes!

What's it like being a masculine bottom?

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dwezd3

Gay at the bar: “You’re a bottom?! I would never have guessed. Such a shame. Why are all the hot dudes bottoms.” Girl at the bar: “You’re gay?! I would never have guessed. Such a shame. Why are all the hot dudes gay.” Yeah. That’s what it’s like.

It’s interesting, as a masculine bottom you always have two hurdles people have to clear. They have to figure out that you’re gay and figure out that you’re not a top. I say that because tons of people have told me wow I wouldn’t have guessed you were gay/a bottom. Lots of those people have also said they hesitated talking to me or flirting with me for those reasons. So sometimes it’s tough because some people won’t approach you because they assume one of the two things. That being said I feel like overall most people like a masculine guy so I’ve never had any issues once people realize I’m a gay bottom.

I’m vers with a strong penchant for bottoming. In my experience it doesn’t really matter either way. I think the only people I’ve run into that have a problem with it have been young immature other bottoms that think everyone has to fit into neat stereotypes. And frankly for a multitude of reasons I don’t give a damn what they think of me.

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I like masculine bottoms, just not super beefy or too gym bro-ish, which is often what I attract. As a total top, I’m less concerned with fem masc and more about height. I like men under 5’5. I topped only guy who was as tall as me (6’0) and I couldn’t stay hard. I just wasn’t attracted to him because he was too tall.

Why is the more femme top/masc bottom dynamic so hard to find?

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m5b3nv

A lot of it is societal gender stereotypes. How to put this...there is a *lot* of social conditioning that associates "fem" with "submissive/bottom". Feminine guys are rewarded more in the social sense when they conform to this. Of course there are folks who are looking for the exact opposite, but it's often hard to fight upstream against the 8 million "omg I would breed ur lil boipussy" comments that fem guys are getting when presenting fem (and masculine bottoms are often treated shitty when seeking fem tops because it's considered "unsexy" by the majority). It's sort of a self-fulfilling prophecy too. Get tons of attention for presenting fem/sub/bottom, other fems notice this, they present fem/sub/bottom, get tons of attention for presenting fem/sub/bottom, etc, etc. There's also the uncomfortable fact that a lot of people view "feminine" and "bottom" as almost synonymous. A lot of femboy types view "bottom" as the only "*right*" way to be since they're feminine presenting. They think bottoming is feminine, and feminine is bottoming. There can be a lot frustrating baggage for fems who top too. My ex was incredibly picky with who he would date because he got tired of being approached mostly by """straight-but-curious""" types who viewed his extreme feminine androgyny as a way to try taking dick without it being *too* gay *gay* in their eyes, so he dated exclusively out-and-queer/gay cis and trans men which made him happier but limited his dating pool by a lot since he cut out like 70% of the dudes who messaged him. Many fem tops are trying to avoid fetishization of their fem/top status as well so they tend to be lowkey about it. It all makes finding fem tops very hard unless you're in the right circles.

I know reddit hates to have this conversation but it has to do with myisogyny too. Because we live in a patriarchy, manly is seen as strong and feminine as weak. Since we also live in a heteronormative society, feminine is associated to being penetrated while masculinity is associated to penetrating. Which, transposed to gay relationships, means bottoming is associated with feminity and topping with masculinity. This is or course utterly ridiculous and as queer people we should fight such pre-conceived ideas but it is of course easier said than done. Especially when all of us grew up surrounded by a hetero-dominated culture.

Nyc is overflowing with fem tops

I am an older daddy / bear bottom, and my partner is a younger twink fem top. AMA

you ever see the movie promare

Are tall bottoms a turn off?

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mzcynx

A turn off?! Absolutely not. 😳

6’6” bottom checking in here. Some will like you, some won’t. If you get in your own head and make yourself think tall + bottom = turn off, it will come true. Don’t do it! Get those long legs up in the air and take that dick like a champ!

Some guys like it, some guys don't. Like everything else, it's a personal preference.

Hello fellow tall bottom! I’m 6’4” and mostly bottom. I think guys who are not that tall sometimes get intimidated and/or assume I prefer to top, but so far not one top was turned off by my height. I’m pretty flexible so I think that helps too

Dafuq are your talking about? Tall bottoms are the best thing ever. I get that a lot of tops seem to enjoy the regular small twinky femboy type or whatever, but for a lot of us, you sound like a dream come true. I'm into masculine, braty, hairy, tall, beefy bottoms and my sexy lawyer of a boyfriend makes me drool like a dog.

Older bottoms (40+) do you have trouble finding someone that will top you?

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i6dhc3

I love muscle bottoms over 40. I’ve only had one but it was good. I just like them shorter and smaller than me

I mainly have 20 somethings offering to top me. I'm just not into guys that much younger than me. So I do have some trouble finding tops.

There are really a lot of men out there who like an older bottom. I never have problems finding a top and get sought out quite frequently. (60s here)

I'm in my 40's. I'm sure it's easier when you're younger but there are lots of sites for us older bottoms to find hook-ups.

It’s funny the last new hook up I had 2 weeks ago said he liked my profile and would try me out even if I was 7 years younger then he normally liked I’m 58 he is 42 go figure.

Older Bottoms, what's the youngest top you had?

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goltpt

20. Arab boy, fucked/bred me 4 times over the one night we spent together. I left his city in the morning.

18 was the youngest. This is all I can say about young guys: Yes they have no idea what they’re doing, cum too quickly and want a sandwich right after, but the great thing is they can do it every 30 God damn minutes. Love them!

18, very hard, very fast and over way too quick...lol

24. He was an asshole and really selfish but still a great top.

He was 19 (I checked his ID). I was in my early 40s. He hit on me so I just went with it. Fantastic. He came in the first few minutes but then kept pounding me until he came again a good while later... neve went soft in between. And yes... like others have said, you do need to feed them ***right*** after. As we were talking about life and the big stuff afterward, I said "an unexamined life is not worth living". He immediately mocked me for quoting Madonna. The following conversation ensued. "It's Socrates actually" "Who?" "Socrates, a Greek philosopher." "No... it's Madonna... it's in that song." "Get out!"

Older bottom younger top dynamic?

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abv92a

I’m 47 and my 100% top boyfriend is 30, we’ve been together for 3 years. Before him I was in a relationship with a 22 year-old (when we first met) for 2 years. When I was young I normally dated older or same age guys until I was in my early 30’s then as I started getting older the guys interested in me started getting younger and younger. It was never something I envisioned or hoped for, it just happened and it’s not uncommon but it’s not really explored in porn, for example, or in any other type of media. The most common thing you see is the top Daddy and the bottom twink dynamic so people might assume bottoms will have a hard time once they reach a certain age. That’s really far from reality ;)

I’m kind of getting into it. Just had a 22 yo top me a few weeks ago, and I am in my 50s. It was nice. I am 90% top and in the past only bottomed for guys about my age. But younger as top is very appealing and a certain subset of younger guys seem to be looking for it on the apps.

Since I was 20 almost 10 years ago I’ve enjoyed a bottom much older. It extremely hot and pushes me hard when they try to say “ you like daddy’s ass”. It’s a power dynamic. Now I’m 31 and my FWB is 40. We both don’t care about the age but it does feel strangely powerful to be dominant of an older man.

I'm a vers top (80/20%) and being a daddy I get hit on by young tops who take it as a challenge to get me to bottom for them. They think all daddy's want to fuck twinks. For me it's a confidence thing. Love a younger guy that knows what he wants and goes for it. Typically play hard to get with them but usually know right away if I'm interested and will submit.

I'm 46 and I prefer to bottom for younger tops that are at least mature for their age. I've had a couple of fun younger fwb that were like this. I was 30 and the guy was 19, but very mature for his age which made it easy to carry on conversations. The most recent one was 19 when we met, and I was 44. Again, he was very down to earth, and mature for his age. I'd love to find someone similar to these guys to be with in a relationship. For me I just like the dynamic of being a bottom for a younger guy who is still exploring and trying new stuff to see what they really like.

sub bottoms: why do you like your "role"?

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jgt63x

It’s psychological. Some people have too much control at work and want to let go by letting a man control them during sex. Some get pleasure from pleasing men. Some have daddy issues. Some like being used. It’s a lot. I like being submissive cause I love pleasing guys and I’m not good at making decisions so it works in my favor. I also have daddy issues so I like having older men in control and love me/be friends with me cause it makes me feel good and happy.

I don't even think I could explain why. There is something about having a man have his way with you, something about being there to make his cock hard and make his cock happy, something about serving him and pleasing him. I dont even care if I get off or even hard. It's all about him and his eventual orgasm.

Well, I'm not a bottom. I'm not even much of a "sub". But if I'm attracted to a guy there's a strong impulse to make him happy and seek his approval. I instinctively want to be his sidekick or something. A simple "thanks man" has me beaming with pride. If it's the right guy I like being bossed around a bit. Dunno why. Just feels like I'm in the right place when it happens. I guess I'm just a natural-born beta male. When I was younger this could be exploited and I let myself be used (in a bad way) sometimes. It still makes me feel a little embarrassed to feel like that. My friends can spot me when I'm like this over guy from a mile away, too, and always rub it in.

Being relatively small ( 5'2 for 115 lbs), I can't see me being a top. Plus I really love how men enjoy dominating sub feminine guys. I mean, I am aroused to see them being aroused of having a dedicated toy. It's like, you are the "candy" of another guy who can do whatever he wants to you. Exciting asf for me. However I'm not really into the "degrading" stuff, or at least only the soft one.

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sub bottoms: are you ashamed of your sub tendencies?

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j9mtyo

You should never be ashamed of being yourself because you can't change who you are. I was deeply ashamed of myself and surpressed myself for years and it's my biggest regret.

Nope, embrace your inner slut. Your sexuality has nothinh to do with masculinity. 6”5 here and bottom

I'm pretty far along the spectrum you describe: masculine by day, submissive by cock and also deal with some of the uncertainty that causes. Best way I can explain it for myself is we're not monolithic things and can exhibit differently at different times and that's OK. I can't explain how I am scientifically so I just roll with it. I can't help that your description of a good top totally makes me hard any more than I can help that I'm not romantically attracted to men. It's a human connection thing, a sexual energy thing, I dunno. What I do know is that a top with an attitude like that holds a completely consensual unfair advantage over me and that he'll have a very willing recipient for his needs. It's just my nature. And I hope you are able to find peace with yours.

Please don’t be ashamed of being a total bottom 🥺 I need you

I know it's not answering your question : but sounds super hot to me. We could have hot rough sex in bed...and then a cool normal relationship outside the bedroom. Perfect

sub bottoms, how did you accept your submissive side?

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kz6mes

You aren’t alone. I’ve felt that shame as well. I’ve expelled much of it from inside, but it occasionally still pops out of a psychological corner and goes “boo!”, the jump-scare being one of shame. You aren’t wrong for what you like. You aren’t any less of a human being for what you like. Your desires are common; here are four people (at this point) saying they like the same things that you do. You aren’t alone. Few of us were ever told that kinky sexual desires were just as valid as non kinky ones. That holds true if you recognized it as a teen, a young adult, or a more mature one. When you look at it a face value, it sure looks like you are participating in something abusive, denigrating, violent, even homophobic. It’s really easy to internalize shame from that. It takes a lot of time to unravel that message from where it’s embedded in your soul. I’m a fairly straight presenting middle aged guy, “top” I’m so many other areas of life. I get the best sexual, emotional, and intimate feelings when I’m letting go and being dominated by another guy or guys. It fills a need. It fills the same need that people who want to dominate others have, the same need that people who want an equal sexual relationship have — connection. Being valued. Being appreciated. Even being loved. You have no reason to feel ashamed for wanting this. Connection is the most human need of all. As with the rest of us here, the rest of us even elsewhere, you aren’t alone. Tell the shame part of yourself to pay rent or get the fuck out. :-)

Im a dominant top,. But i dont understand why would you feel shame. No one knows what ur doing in the bedroom aside u and the hookup. Many guys work hard and are confident and masculine and just wanna let go and have someone take over in bed. The guy i dated before, he was someehat masculine, confident guy, works hard but in bed he needed someone to take over. You guys are very hard to get, and most of us top are really into guys like that. A beast on the street, my lil bitch in between the sheets.

I’m bi, usually dominant with women and submissive with men. I can play different roles but that’s my default. I came to realize that what I really love doing is pleasing my partner. I love being in control and giving women orgasms, but with men... seeing the pleasure in their eyes and body as they use me for their pleasure is so exciting. Those two worlds haven’t collided in “shame” except for once when I met a husband of my wife’s friend.... who it turns out had used my hole regularly for a year off and on. From then on it wasn’t necessarily shame, but there was a definite undercurrent of his dominance when we hung out. It culminated in him breeding me when our wives were in the other room while we “played PlayStation”.

I really relate with the OP. At work, I'm pretty type A because I work in finance, and I'd be eaten alive if I weren't. In my social life, I've been told that I carry myself with a self-assuredness that sometimes borders on cocky. Haha! In the bedroom though, nothing brings me greater pleasure than submitting to a man. He doesn't have to be aggressively dominant either, but I want him to take charge. That's not to say that I'm just lying there doing nothing, but I want him to tell me what to do to please him. Or I want him just to use me for his pleasure. If it becomes a daddy/sir scene, even better. I love being called a man's cock whore or cum slut because he knows that I've submitted to him and I'm there to please him. All that being said, it took me a long time to embrace my submissive side because I am generally assertive in every other aspect of my life, and there was this weird feeling that there was something wrong if I didn't want to be dominant in the bedroom too. I would say that after hooking up with a caring, affectionate, but dominant top really helped drive home that I'm a sub bottom. He told me that I was a good boy and that my ass felt like velvet. I realized that I was deriving as much pleasure from pleasing him as I was from him fucking my brains out. I've embraced it ever since.

Accept it as the release from responsibility it is. That's a large part of the appeal for me as it's the one time I don't have to do anything except take that cock deep and moan my appreciation. It's liberating .

sub bottoms, do you want your top to denigrate you or reassure you?

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k434nn

I do prefer it. When a top grabs my hair, puts his hands around my throat, slaps my ass, it turns me on so much. Hearing him moan, tell me that he loves my hole, calls me his cumdump and a good boy, that’s what makes me instantly hard. The knowledge that I’m pleasing a man is what makes me insanely horny.

Degrade me when you give me an order, and reassure me when I do something good.

Also the - good boy + kiss on the forehead after breeding - thing you said is just 🤤🤤🤤

You guys are getting dirty talk? My tops these days have been like most new music. Both not slapping as hard as I want

i would instantly cum myself if anyone ever calls me a Good Boi 🤤💦 like "yes!I am a good boi!thank you so much for noticing...more dick, pls?"

What's something that makes you feel dominated and cared for at the same time?

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fswr08

Fuck me rough while kissing me. Pretty vanilla, but theres something special about having my insides scrambled to oblivion while passionately making out.

For me it’s: During: Doggy position while you pull my hair to look at a mirror at you fucking me and tell me my ass feels amazing. Moderate pressure slap on my ass. Moderate to light choking. Look in my eyes and kiss me momentarily when I ride you. After: Cuddle like 5mn. Tell me you had an amazing time (hopefully it’s not a lie lol).

My husband loves resting his hand on my ass as we walk in public. Anywhere and everywhere. It’s his way of showing the world who is the top in the relationship, whether or not I like it to be advertised, but it also makes me feel protected as he guides me along.

For me, their tone of voice is really big. A man who talks to me almost like a stern but loving father would to his son (I'm not talking daddy son fantasies here) is both a major turn on and a great sense of relief because I know this man will take care of me. Calm, collected, reassuring but assertive. This allows me to relax and take on whatever "punishments" he has in store for me. Bad doms don't know how to assuage our fears of being harmed or allow us to relax our inhibitions. Good doms can persuade us to take down our walls and freely hand ourselves over to you. This one guy I met when I was really young, he liked fucking hard and watching me gag on his cock. He slapped my face as I sucked him and pounded me as hard as he could (he was a tall, muscular cop and I was a short, skinny teenager) so I started to get a little scared. He sensed that so he stopped, craned his neck down so he was at face level with me, smiled the cutest smile and simply said, "hope you're having fun?" And I immediately relaxed and enjoyed the rest of the night. It was so simple but so necessary.

When you grab my ass. When you talk to me while I work. When you moan and let me know I feel good. When you tell me what to wear, so I know what you like. When you stick your tounge down my throat when we kiss. When you tell me to look up at you when Im on my knees. ☺️😍😇

How to use a submissive bottom?

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k2uc1x

This was a hot and reassuring post to read.

Aftercare is very important , lots of cuddles and kisses if you push his boundaries. Having him sit with his back up against the wall and fucking his throat is a lot of fun. He can’t escape the cock down his throat and you can make him take it. Also I love to give a firm (yet gentle) slap on the face when I really get going.

The possibilities are endless. Have him get naked and suck you under the table while you read the morning paper.

You seem to do a good job so far. Still want to mention that aftercare is really important, esprcially after such intense Sessions. That said, you could use cbt and restrain his balls so they are Always bound and under pressure. That means that everytime he moves or shrugs during Spanking, He will feel pain there. Could drive him crazy..

Ughhh what I would give to get a bf like you 😫😫

How do I find sub bottoms that want to be used and bred?

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kde8m4

literally everyone on every hookup app i swear sincerely, someone whos not into the fuck-n-go type stuff

Is it called a service bottom? If so, that’s exactly what I am. I need me a selfish top

I love being just used, fucked rough and hard with the focus on the physical. I also like sex with an emotional connection. Most of the sex between my partner and myself tends you be emotional - my partner (top) struggles with the rough, but he does try. What is really nice is a good hard fucking where I get roughly tossed around to suit whatever position my partner wants, possibly restrained in some way, possibly choked, possibly slapped, and filled with his cum ... and then we'll cuddle and hold each other.

Uh yeah thats me I like to wear chastity and as long as I make you cum im totally satisfied

Hit us up helps and the quickest way

What advice do you have for someone who wants to be a cum-dump bottom?

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g2ue6n

I took 16 loads in November at the houston bathhouse in one night from 15 guys ... got fucked by about 60-70 guys from october- November... my advice to you is be on PREP & take vitamin c & antimicrobial herbs to fight off any bacterial or viral sti’s but be aware catching something is something that can happen....

The safest way to begin to do this is to get a friend - who's a top - to be your wrangler. Let him pick guys he knows and trusts. This worked well for me and I've helped some friends do this. This should end up getting you between 5-8 guys initially - which is a good place to begin. Things to do/think about before hand: * Inform your wrangler about Top preferences * PrEP - be on it for at least two weeks prior. * Decide if you want the men to use condoms or not * Make sure you are doing regular full panel STI testing * Already have at least two full STI testing cycles completed * Test 45-60 days after the event - and every 3 months after that There is risk in doing this. You have to decide if you are comfortable with the risk you are incurring. This is a personal decision and no one should make it for you or overly influence it for you. I have done this, and other thing being fully aware of my potential risks and how I worked to mitigate them. There is some measure of risk in every sexual or social encounter, it is up to you as to how you come to terms with it.

PrEP. PrEP. PrEP. PrEP. Regular STI testing. At least every 90 days. You can set a rule of no PNP. Depending on how much control you want over the scene -- open door cum dump to you approve everyone who comes over -- you might have some luck keeping people loaded out of fucking around with you. It's your sexuality and your body. There are risks involved in everything you do. Take steps to minimize the risks here. Give it a shot. See if this is right for you.

It has been my fantasy but never tried. For STIs part you are gonna just take it. Take prep and get essential vaccines (Hep A B and HPV etc..). Others are mostly curable.

Screen your partners and trust your gut. If anything is shady don’t let them have access to you.

As a submissive top, how do I find dominant / power bottoms? (xpost)

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k3oz1d

i’m a dom bottom, most tops like to dominate and i don’t find that appealing, relinquishing control isn’t something i’m good at. i’m 166cm somewhat of a twink and i love dominating huge submissive tops.

I am versatile but in my relationship, I am the bottom my partner is 100% top but I am 100% the dominant one. As a Puerto Rican, I am passionate and like to take charge. You will find someone trusts me. Maybe when I can go to San Fran I may say Hi! Lol.

I’m a dom bottom! We exist. If you’re looking for specific outlets to discover dom bottoms, FetLife is a good one. Just be open and honest about what you want from partners. I’d say that it’s safe to wager that a lot of “sub bottoms” are actually just sub because they assume they should be. That’s what it was like for me at least. I didn’t realize that i could actually be a dom bottom until my partner said he wanted to be tied up and used as a dildo. Now it’s my favorite role to play. Sorry if that wasn’t much help, feel free to message me if you have questions! Just advertising yourself on your profiles as a Sub Top or as a living flesh dildo might get you some attention. Best luck!

Can you describe how you'd imagine a scenario unfolding? I'm fairly inexperienced and wonder whether I would mind something like this!

FetLife is probably another good source that you could check out. While the gay communities are smaller on there compared to straight there's still plenty of groups, you might find your power bottom dom there 😘

Are Muscle Bottoms into Twink Tops?

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jvs28r

>but rarely come across a muscle bottom looking for a Twink top. Seriously? I'm pretty much a muscle bear and I love getting held down and mercilessly fucked by a twink that I could snap in two if I decided to. It's hot! If you aren't finding these guys, you're just not looking.

6'1" 230lb competitive body builder here. My boyfriend is a 5'6" 112lb twink top. Love that man \^\_\^

There's someone for everyone out there.... I'm a daddy that loves twink tops. It's not very mainstream, but I've made some good connections on reddit.

There's an offshoot of FamilyDick that does exactly what you're looking for sis - so defs there's a market for ya

Where do I sign up for a twink top?

Ass to mouth: Is it dangerous?

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j1udyi

Will it kill you? Probably not. Is it totally a safe act? Not exactly. Anytime you tongue a butthole or mouthhug a schlong that's been in a butt, you're ingesting fecal matter, which we do all the time unfortunately (human fecal particles are in so many lakes and rivers now, they're all over dollar bills) but it's the amount and the "freshness" that seems to make a difference. Hepatitis A is very high among gay men. Probably spread from eating butt or fingering then touching other objects with those dirty fingers. It's generally not life-threatening but it can cause you to get sick for more than a couple of weeks and some people will probably have to be hospitalized. I don't believe there are any long-term effects but it's possible. Giardasis. This one's pretty gross. It's actually caused by protists that are parasites. Once they're ingested they go to your small intestine and start multiplying like crazy, attaching themselves to your intestinal lining, causing inflammation, dehydration, diarrhea, burping, excess gas and making it hard for your body to absorb nutrients. This probably isn't life-threatening for most people but it can be. Most cases will resolve themselves in so many days or weeks. Some people will have it and won't feel a thing. But whoever licks their ass might. Those are the two main issues with analingus but a person can get still get sick from other viruses or bacteria that will be carried in that person's stool. When you eat ass your potentially consuming someone else's microbial culture and you may not be immune to everything in it. If you only suck on wieners that have been in your butt, chances are you'll probably not get sick cuz it's your own gut bacteria and stuff you've already eaten anyway, so you'll be okay. But if you make out with a guy and he just sucked some dirty dick or just ate someone's butt, he could make you sick. Couples after a while of being together, probably end up having similar microbiomes cuz of living together and sharing bodily fluids and therefore immune to each other's butt juices. I don't know how that works if you sleep with other people though. Anyway, guys who screw other guys are encouraged to get a Hep A and Hep B vaccine. There's no vaccine that I know of for Hep C.

I'm pretty confident in my cleanliness so I do it - but sure, its a dick that's been in an arse, so yes there will likely be bacteria that could cause illness. Saying that, I've been with hub for 13 years and never had an issue with illness etc from ATM.

I did it once with one of my Bfs, we literally flip-fucked each other and sucked our dicks after fucking (obviously bare). 2 days later we both got an infect in our throat and had to take antibiotic. Went away within a week but was pretty annoying. Asked myself if in porn they always wash their dicks between the cuts 😂

I've licked many an anus, both men's and women's, and I've never been remotely ill from it. Anybody that does get ill, tell your partner to wipe their arse properly next time.

Thats the same as licking the handle of a shopping cart

Do you do ass to mouth?

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dogrfm

Only if i know the guy and he is real clean. I used to fuck a guy and mid fuck pull out of his hole and eat his gaping ass before fucking him some more. When i would breed him he went crazyy when i would pull out and then lick his cummy hole clean. He was always soo fucking clean i loved doing it but not sure i would do it with another guy

Yeah with my bf after we have showered and know we are clean together. I'm primarily a bottom, but I do love some good ass eating. Mine and his 😍😎

Yes, I love sucking a cock after it's been in my ass but I know I am very clean before hand.

No.

I don't mind when my bottom takes my dick in his mouth after I just fucked him, but I wouldn't do that to anyone else.

What to you guys think about ass to mouth?

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6npkdr

I think it's totally hot, as a top or bottom, either mid-fuck or after cumming. I sucked two or three dicks after they'd been in my hole, raw, at a sex party last night. It's incredibly hot when a random dude starts sucking my dick at one of these parties when he doesn't know I was balls-deep bareback in another guy 5 minutes before.

You want me to stay rock hard right after cumming? Suck on my dick that just bred you

Love when boys clean their cunt juice off my dick before I shove it back in

Yeah I think it's hot as fuck. I like to pull out, shove it down the bottom's throat and ask "how's that fuckin pussy taste?" Bonus points to a pussyboy who will clean his cunt juice off my cock after a fuck.

Bottom and I love it. But I'm always very clean. ;)

Hey bottoms, would you blow a guy after he fucked you with a condom?

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g5nmok

I love ass to mouth. Ideally, a top fucks me raw, deposits a load on my hole, and then allows me the honor of sucking his cock clean.

It depends on the bottom I guess. I don’t mind giving a bj to help them get off after they’re done fucking me. I also try to make sure I’m properly prepped for sex so on occasion, if it is raw sex and all is clean, I don’t mind going down on the guy either. I’m the type of bottom that wants to make sure the top gets off first or we cum at the same time so there aren’t many occasions where the guy has to pull out unless I want their load on my face or ass.

I'm into it, assuming the condom has since been removed.

I'll do that, but sometimes hesitate because latex smells and tastes awful. It takes away from the heat of the moment, but a quick rinse of the dick is much appreciated.

Wait this isn’t a common thing?? I figured everybody does, especially if he’s wearing a condom Wash ya ass

Does anyone else like when after your done fucking a bottom bare they take your dick and start sucking you off?

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jm2cn9

This is pretty standard for me. Not sure I'd suck a cock out of another bottom's ass, but I'm cool with sucking a cock out of mine. It's all about knowing I'm clean. It's especially fun after the guy cums in me... I can usually taste a bit of the cum that way, and I like to show my appreciation for the load.

I don’t do it, but I certainly don’t judge others for doing it, just not my thing

I do it all the time. I don’t think it’s gross because I know how clean I am (and I only do it when I cleaned out before). The best thing about it is how crazy it makes the tops, sometimes it makes them instantly go for round two.

It’s always super hot when a bottom does this That said if I were bottoming I would never do this

I do it. But hey, im a pig

Where do you learn the rope ties of bondage?

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d0m1o4

Books are a good start then buy a section of rope and just practice over and over again and you'll be amazed by the results in no time 😙

Rope tying?

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3f5p4u

This is why you should date a former Boy Scout. I agree that learning to quickly, reliably and correctly tie good, appropriate knots is very important to bondage. I could show you in person, but I don't really have any pointers online, sorry.

Two knotty boys, twisted monk.

Kink does some pretty interesting BDSM tutorials at: http://www.kink.com/site/kinkuniversity They also have links to some pretty solid resources. Most aren't strictly LGBT, but a lot of the skills are...transferable.

You should maybe check out websites like Fetlife.

Is a cock that's 6.5 inches long typically more than enough to choke someone?

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cxehqc

90 percent of the time if you're really goin for it.

It’s a weird thing I’ve found about deep-throating and gagging: the extremes are easier than the average. I’ve found that I can deep-throat 8 or 9 inch cocks without gagging (not everytime, but often enough) and obviously I’m not gagging on something smaller than 5 inches. But the ones in the middle, 6-7 inches are the hardest to do without gagging. I think it’s that the head of the cock is hitting the gag reflex spot dead-on in those cases, while the bigger ones are way past it. I probably need to suck about 1000 more cocks to have a large enough sample to draw any real conclusions from. A slut’s work is never done.

Possibly not choke, but definitely trigger a gag reflex.

Fellow bottoms - What are the filthiest way you ask a top to cum in you?

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i2x6g2

"Pump your hot load into my hole" "Please fill me with your seed (daddy)" "I need your cum inside me" "Fertilize my pussy hole" "Knock me up daddy"

I love a verbal bottom. It's one of the things that really gets me going. Good work.

My bf says stuff along the lines of "splatter that cum so deep inside my slutty ass that I feel it in my throat"

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Claim my ass with your cum

Forced breeding kink?

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kvrwaa

Some people don't have a consensual non consensual fantasy, but there are those who do. For those who do have a fantasy of being available for free use by their partner it can be really hot. I think the idea of laying together after he's put a load is super hot. The best is when they use that load as lube for the next round, or even the next guy Edited commented due to not seeing the "rape" in OPs comment and people commenting about it.

I've often fantasized about being bent over a car while working and somebody coming up behind me and ripping my pants down and forcing me down over the engine and just plowing me long, hard, and deep and filling up full of cum, leaving me there dripping his cum and quivering.

Oh hell yes! I rather like the idea of playing with a Top and telling him over and over again that I don't do bareback and he has to wear a condom. But then he ties me up, gags me (I love being tied up and gagged) and then tells me he's going to breed me anyway. He spits on my hole, teases it for a few minutes with his tip and then just fucks me deep and long before blowing a load deep inside.

ConNonCon can be definitely hot. I enjoy the more verbal / psychological side, save my energy for breeding

CNC is a recognized fetish for a reason.

Cumdump bottoms - What advice(s) would you give to someone who is interested in becoming one?

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g2ue6n

I took 16 loads in November at the houston bathhouse in one night from 15 guys ... got fucked by about 60-70 guys from october- November... my advice to you is be on PREP & take vitamin c & antimicrobial herbs to fight off any bacterial or viral sti’s but be aware catching something is something that can happen....

The safest way to begin to do this is to get a friend - who's a top - to be your wrangler. Let him pick guys he knows and trusts. This worked well for me and I've helped some friends do this. This should end up getting you between 5-8 guys initially - which is a good place to begin. Things to do/think about before hand: * Inform your wrangler about Top preferences * PrEP - be on it for at least two weeks prior. * Decide if you want the men to use condoms or not * Make sure you are doing regular full panel STI testing * Already have at least two full STI testing cycles completed * Test 45-60 days after the event - and every 3 months after that There is risk in doing this. You have to decide if you are comfortable with the risk you are incurring. This is a personal decision and no one should make it for you or overly influence it for you. I have done this, and other thing being fully aware of my potential risks and how I worked to mitigate them. There is some measure of risk in every sexual or social encounter, it is up to you as to how you come to terms with it.

PrEP. PrEP. PrEP. PrEP. Regular STI testing. At least every 90 days. You can set a rule of no PNP. Depending on how much control you want over the scene -- open door cum dump to you approve everyone who comes over -- you might have some luck keeping people loaded out of fucking around with you. It's your sexuality and your body. There are risks involved in everything you do. Take steps to minimize the risks here. Give it a shot. See if this is right for you.

It has been my fantasy but never tried. For STIs part you are gonna just take it. Take prep and get essential vaccines (Hep A B and HPV etc..). Others are mostly curable.

Screen your partners and trust your gut. If anything is shady don’t let them have access to you.

How do you pee in a chastity cage? And can you train yourself to cum hands free while being in chastity?

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jqszao

Sit down to pee, toilet paper to dry the cage as needed. Or get a cage that includes a urethral insert so that the stream *probably* won't spray everywhere. I've never been able to cum hands free, but if love to get there eventually.

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Do tops like chastity?

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lh8vy2

Personally I love it. I find the idea of a bottom getting fucked and not touching his dick at all incredibly hot. Chastity is not always needed, as long as he doesn't touch himself either way. The best bottoms I've had are the ones that accept their hole as their primary sexual organ, so to speak. I especially love fucking a bottom until they learn to cum handless - just like a girl would. Incredibly fucking hot.

A few years ago, I asked a guy I was regularly playing with if he would mind if I wore my cage during our next time together. He had never heard of chastity and wondered why I would want to wear one. I explained the aesthetic of it, the power dynamic of it, how it makes me horny/attentive, and how he would really have my focus on him if he would let me wear it (I didn't want to weird him out or neglect to get his approval first). Long story short...he *loved* it! He enjoyed how much I was all about him haha. He actually asked me to wear it every time we met up after that. I won him over with it. So there's one top that liked it.

This is another of those questions that has no neat and clean answer. "Do bottoms like..." or "Do tops like..." is always the same answer: some do, some don't, many are indifferent. In this case I know some into it but there seem to be more that aren't into it than those that are. Being a top doesn't mean they don't like having a dick to play with.

I don't like it.

I lock up because my penis and testicles are not needed. Some like it and are fixated on it. Some don’t care as long as they’re getting off. Some hate it and insist I have a penile orgasm.

Bottoms in chastity?

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j90lbv

I think it’s kind of hot, yes. The only issue I’d have is that I don’t like bottoms that have no pubes, so that can pull or pinch a bit if they’re not careful. I also thought it was hot that a friend was dating a service top (submissive top) that he kept locked up. The only time he got to come out to play was when my friend wanted to be fucked, otherwise he had no outlet at all.

Yes, I do. It’s not required, but what could be a more beautiful gift from a submissive bottom than giving up his right to orgasm without his dom’s permission?

Complete submission is the biggest turn on, and chastity is the surest way to submit. Lock your dick up and give me the key. 🥵

i think i would like to give this a try!

there are bi bottoms like me who also like pussy so they prob wont cage

Wearing chastity to CrossFit?

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jj9ank

It is but wear tight briefs to support it. It may pull off.

Yes. And make sure you do what I do and show it off when you can

If you feel pain take it off. You'll want a jockstrap to hold in place

i wear underarmour 3" tech boxerjocks for crossfit. keeps the cage snug but not too tight to my body.

Only if you have a nice one! I've tried moving around with my cheap cage on, and sometimes some skin gets caught, or a nut will decide to recede past the the initial ring. Seriously, it's an "and I- OOP" kind of moment.

Is chastity harmfull for health?

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fjk7zk

I've never had an issue and I've been locked up for 2 weeks at a time for the last two years we take breaks and stuff. If something hurts stop doing it, I get a weird pain in my pelvic area and what I think it is, is an internal pulling or something it goes away after I take it off typically. Most important thing is to listen to your body and take measurements of everything too small and it can cause damage, too big and whats the point

In spite of what teenage boys have been telling their high school prom dates since the Stone Age, you WON'T die if you fail to cum x times a day/week/month/whatever. When your body needs to get rid of excess sperm, you have a wet dream. What IS extremely painful is extended edging and the resulting case of "blue balls" Been there done that. NOT FUN!. If you want to try it, get your sexy butt down to the local leather shop and ask the nice man with the nose ring and 5 ear piercings standing behind the counter to sell you a cage to use on yourself. Yes. Use it on yourself. Will it be as exciting as having your master lock it on and walk away with the key? No, it won't. But knowing how the cage feels and how it impacts your sex life while YOU'RE in charge will prepare you for giving over control. Make sense?

If it hurts take it off. Should be comfortable. Your dick will temporarily be smaller if you wear it for extended times. Itll come back.

Why does it seem like so many bottoms like to be treated like sh*t?

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ilf3lz

I can see there being a time and a place for everything. But, as a top, it seems most bottoms I meet are expecting and wanting it to be rough and aggressive. They want to be used and abused, figuratively speaking. I get asked all the time about how dominant I am, what I’m going to do to treat them like a little bitch, boss them around, etc. I’ve had guys get annoyed when I don’t want to choke them, hold them down and restrain them, etc. Sure, that can be fun. But it’s a big expectation to have to live up to all the time. I’m certainly not passive by any means, and I’m usually pretty assertive. But, sometimes I just want to have some calm fun with someone- where both of us are equals enjoying one another’s bodies and company. Call me vanilla, but I don’t always have a ravenous urge to barge in, rip his clothes off, tear it up and take what’s mine. Just sometimes ;-)

porn, I suspect, drives some appetites.

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I am definitely not like this as a bottom, and it kind of concerns me that some bottoms seem to want sex to be selfish and one-sided? Sex is about two people feeding each other energy - it's not a one-way transfer of energy. And if you think that sounds "sappy" or something then holy shit you are missing out on SO much. It should be enjoyable as fuck for both parties, and isn't just a means to get the top off. Idk it seems super weird to me...almost like these bottoms don't respect themselves or something. I love a man being dominant with me and I love being able to make him feel empowered, but there's a difference between being dominant and literally using a person solely for your own purposes as though they are a tool. Such a soulless approach seems so distant and disconnected and I kinda feel sorry for these people.

I accepted my inner whore. You dont have to. Just fuck me

Bottoming for My First Threesome and DP. Help!

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gqh68s

For the dp practice with two dildos. Then on the day warm up on a large toy. Remember your going be stretched and ploughed at the same time for the length of the two dicks so make sure you can take two dildos past your second sphincter when they are stroking at the same and different rhythms. Dps are great fun btw and your rectum is going to spasm and if those tops can keep fucking you through your spasms you’re going to have an anal orgasm.

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As a frequent fistee and bottom for dp, poppers and lube do the trick. Work your hole prior to fucking. Use an inflatable buttplug and wear it for some time. Do not deflate but slowly push it out. Repeat that process, you will see your hole opens up and will gove way to two dicks or a fist

Getting dpd is super hot once you get a good rythem. The best way to start is to have both guys start at the same time with the head of their cocks. Once they're in just push back at your own pace till they're all the way in then the can start to fuck you. Honest my favorite part of a threesome is getting spit roasted. I love having a cock in my mouth while I'm getting fucked.

Omg I want this so bad, but I'm kinda scared of it. Let us know how it goes! Just make sure you're comfortable and safe. Good luck buddy, take care and have fun!

Any bottoms in here ever been DP'd?

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djbp3i

Tried once, but the two guys involved were just too big. It was kind of a spur of the moment attempt, we decided that taking turns would work out better lol. Honestly I'd rather be spitroasted.

Yep! It takes some coordination and stretching but once you get it holy does it feel intense. I’m a cock hungry dick pig and I need as much dick in me as possible. read about my crazy sex weekend where I got [DP'd twice here](https://www.reddit.com/r/TopsAndBottoms/comments/db6wy0/had_a_crazy_weekend_got_dpd_twice/).

IMHO yes, it's hard work but, so worth it. It's important to be very clean so you can be very relaxed. Most any major city will be good to find people. Let us know how it goes.

Never got it to work. You remember that thing at the Oscars with Liza Minelli frantically trying to get into the back of the movie star group selfie? It was like that, but with a penis instead of Liza Minelli. You might be a legend, but if there’s no room, there’s no room.

Try it you may like it

How to DP

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9yzw78

I asked this and got some **very** helpful advice here: https://www.reddit.com/r/TopsAndBottoms/comments/8eeh1i/double_penetration_advice/

Trying DP - any tips?

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2ocflt

I'm pretty sure it's two tips. Enjoy!!

Clean 'er out _real good_ beforehand.

I've done it a few times all with one ex and a particular friend of his. My ex was 7" and a good girth and his friend was 8" and quite thick. - one should be bareback to avoid condoms rubbing against each other. - Don't be surprised if you can't continue too long. That's a lot of dick up your ass. - I did it sitting on the friend's cock and facing him then my bf came up behind me and slid his cock in. That seemed to work best. Only my bf could really thrust as it was too awkward for his friend to. - nobody was able to cum in that position. My bf was not able to fuck me hard enough to cum--too painful for me. - douche.

No tips, unless you want a third. Pictures please.

It's definitely an advanced move. :) Plan for intensity, not endurance.

DP thread: Done it? Want to do it? Love it? Hate it? Got tips? Stories?

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28megz

My ex (yeah same one from the other thread) and I did this a couple of times with a couple of other tops. My bf was always bare, the third used a condom. (Two cocks with condoms can cause friction and wreck the rubbers.) Usually the third would get on his back and I'd sit on his cock, facing the third. He'd fuck me for a while from underneath. One guy in particular, Jeff, had a pretty big thick 8" cock. It usually took me a little while to get used to it. I'm 6'6" but still it took a little time. Then once I was warmed up, my bf would enter me from behind. My ex was about 7" with decent thickness too. Let me tell you, they WRECKED my hole. I never felt more like a total bottom than during those sessions. My ass got gaping wide to accommodate two big penises in me. It helped that physically I was a little bigger than the two tops inside me, but I felt totally fucking full. The only thing I could focus on was the two guys digging deep into my ass. I moaned like a fucking little bitch so loud. It wasn't painful per se but I was stretched to the max. It was fun being the bottom for two guys at once. I liked the fact these guys were probably enjoying the fact that they were wrecking my hole together and were making good use of me. I felt submissive and lower as it was my ass getting double plowed--in a good way. My bf of course liked to talk dirty, talking about how loose a slut I must be to be able to take two dicks. SO HOT! Naturally it takes a little while to relax to the point where my bf could actually start to thrust. They had to stay stationary for a couple of minutes so my battered hole could stretch out. My face was probably all contorted I was whimpering. Eventually my bf was thrusting about 75% of the power he normally plows me with. Jeff underneath couldn't really thrust at all but was enjoying it. Eventually my bf started quickening his speed and shot his load bare back deep in my hole, with his big dicked top buddy still inside. I was in a good agony and took the further humiliation in stride. My bf said later it was probably the most powerful orgasm he'd ever had. Afterward Jeff got behind me, took my bf's place and fucked me until he shot his load in the condom up my ass, lubed with my bf's cum. I got my ass used hard and was stretched out pretty loose. Rekt. But it wasn't permanent or anything, I was back to normal soon enough.

I enjoy the idea. But I love my hole and feel like it would never be the same after DP :(

I've done it a couple times. As a top, it's hot To feel your cock against your bro's dick while you just WRECK an ass together. It's hot to feel the bottom whimper and totally submit to two dicks. It's definitely a challenge to figure out what to do with 6 legs tho

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In theory I think it's hot, or it's really hot to watch in porn. But I don't want my hole to become that loose...two tops can tag team my ass all they want, but one dick at a time please.

Those who have done double penetration, what does it feel like?

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w45sjl

As a top, it was more enjoyable mentally than physically. The *idea* of two us fucking the same arse at the same time was hot. The *action* of two of us fucking the same arse at the same time was awkward. Trying to find the right position. Trying not to slip out. Trying to make sure I didn't push the other man out of his position. It was fun to try, but not fun enough to do again.

as a bottom, it feels like two penises inside me.

Best version of that I ever had was getting it from a dude and a dildo. Everything you imagine DP to be without those other two legs in the way. And yeah, it's intense, and pretty amazing,

As a top, it's a fun experience but not one I'd seek out again. It looks awesome, it's fun to do; but, overall, it's awkward and not the best sensations. But I'd recommend everyone try it at least once just to say you've done it.

4 days ago, me and a friend met a power bottom on grindr who wanted to get dp'd. I laid on my back on the edge of the couch, my legs hanging over, the "hole" laid on top of me on his back, he held his legs back, i went in from behind, my friend went in a missionary position, Got a good steady rhythm going, as i pushed in, he pushed out a little and we alternated. F\*\*ked the hole for a good 20-30 mins. (we are both 8.5-9 inch girthy daddies), made that bottom cum twice. When my friend shot his load it sent me into a frenzy feeling warm ass, warm cock, hot cum on my cock made me blast hard! That hole was leaking cum like crazy. Were hooking up again next week sometime.

Does Dirty Talk Turn You On?

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6bq971

Hell yes!! The dirtier, the better!

Such a turn on!

I love it. Call me a slut, tell me how you're going to use my body.

It's good if it seems sincere. But there's a fine line between hot and cold on this one. The moment female body parts and such are mentioned I'm done.

Not much. Imo twhat turns me on the most is just heavy breathing & grunting. Then again I like it rough sooo

Bottoms: do you like being face fucked? What can a top do to make you enjoy this more?

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jdut3r

I like to start out doing my thing on a man's cock, but I want him to start guiding me a little bit like pulling my hair a hand on my head; gradually getting more forceful. I love a good face fucking, I just need some build up

I personally love having my head guided onto a tops cock, especially when he's grabbed onto my hair. But it is a an acquired taste (no pun intended) and not all subs are into it. Your assumption that subs are concerned about their gag reflexes is right on but if they've open to trying it, you can try to ease them into it by being more gentle to start with.

For me it's a masochist thing so I actually love being grabbed, forced, gagged and even hit during throatfucks. But I prefer to start by sucking gently and deepthroating by myself. My partner asks me if I want it to get rough, and I say yes, and then he starts facefucking me. Until then I'm priming my throat for it by deepthroating at my own pace. Maybe try that?

Just in general when I give a bj, I just like to go my own pace. Unless i'm in a particularly submissive move and facefucking is on my mind, I don't like the thrusting usually, unless it's involentary/convulsing/etc lol. I'm way more of a chill bj giver so if I'm just giving a bj, I will go at my own pace and just want them to relax a bit. Also, when I get a BJ i do the same and kind of just sink down and relax. It's the same with rimming too tbh. I just find oral a bit more calming instead of wanting them to choke me with their cock (but ya know, sometimes that is what i want)

I love being face fucked It’s hard finding tops that get in to it but have found a few that are great at it. One guy I was seeing loved fucking my face against the wall the back of my head was as sore as my throat. His dirty talk and feeding poppers made it hot. No one has said this but verbal all ways makes it hotter for me. I can only take the head over the bed for a few mins at a time I have bad sinuses and feel like I’m drowning in my own snot.

Question about blow jobs and/or throat fucking

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juv8qv

Maybe he likes that the choke?

Dominance

What do you do? Let him fuck your throat, and if you can stick your tongue out and try to lick his balls or move around the shaft at least. If he’s throat fucking you (and you’re down with that) you’re basically a fleshlight, butt you can still move your tongue and maybe use our hands on his balls for example.

First of all, if you don't enjoy it or if it hurts, you don't have to do it. You can hold the base of his cock to control his thrusts. I've found that deepthroating really depends on the angle of his cock. If his cock points upwards or straight, then try being on your hands and knees in doggy position while he thrusts. Or lie on your back with your head over the edge of the bed (but beware, he may get even rougher in this position.)

For you, it's your natural gag reflex that causes you to choke up and trust me, it's super normal. You can try practicing with large dildos or even bananas to get used to the sensation. For him, it's definitely a show of dominance, essentially telling you that you're his bitch now! 😉

Any Tops into fucking throat?

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9b3a7u

Yes. My tip for you is to make sure you're really well practiced. If you throw up while sucking a guy who's truly into rough fucking will keep on going until he cums.

Nothing gets me hotter than gagging and choking, as long as you don't stop! I won't stop even if you puke, I figure it's your job to stop it when you need to. I fact I will hold you in place until you make me stop

Oh hell yeah. I love to throatfuck. Love putting a boy’s head over the edge of the bed and just fucking his throat like a pussy. For sure.

Hell yeah. It’s basically at the top of the wishlist to get someone that will do this.

My guy I'm seeing doesn't let me, because he thinks it hurts me. Lol. I have no gag reflex.

Any experience with fisting?

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l0u91n

Be very, very careful, not for the reasons you might think but because.... ***it's fucking addictive!*** I love getting fisted. If I don't get to do it a few times a month, I start to crave it.

r/gayfisting is your friend As the other replier said the stretch is addicting. You'll have a collection of toys worth 4 figures before you know it.

Start slow, use j-lube (lot's of it) and be prepared for it to take a long time to actually get to be able to take a full fist to the wrist. And if you're not using gloves then be sure that nails are filled smooth. If using toys to train then use good quality silicone ones that are slightly squishy. Also get to know the difference between feeling stretched and being in pain. It sounds weird but while you can push your limits you should know when to stop your session, especially when starting out. If there's any blood then stop! A **tiny** tear might only show a little bit of pink in the lube. But if you keep stretching it then it can become something worse. At least don't play with anything larger (or much longer) should you see that. And take a few days between sessions to recover.

Any tops into fisting?

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jm6pfj

Fisting bottom here. Being fisted is amazing. It's down right additive. My partner tells me he really likes the sense of complete submission. As u/Brokenblacksmith said, it's all about the begging. Once he's had his hand in there and pulled it out, I'll literally say or do anything to get it back in there. He fucks me before, during, and after. Often I have to finish him off orally though because fucking my after a good long fisting session is like throwing a hot dog down a hallway. Plus by then, he's already pissed up my ass and that can get messy.

im not super into it, so i cant say for sure but of the few times i have fisted, the biggest turn on for me was the sounds my partner was making, amd how he was begging for more. however i enjoy those both "normaly" as well. depending on how extreme you fist and what size you are, i would say sex before is typical, it would also give the bottom a chance to losen up more. for me it was my partner who asked for it, but for somebi imagine its just a step up from fingering.

How to get rid of your gag reflex?

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i049nt

A tooth brush can really help you. When brushing your teeth, stick your tongue out and then put it on the front part of your tongue and start running it backwards. When you feel you are going to gag, stop there and then move the brush from side to side on the sensitive spot. Learn how to deal with not gagging. Do this every day and try go a little further every time. Eventually you may be able to bypass your reflex or at least reduce the sensitivity of it. Another tip is to breathe out so that all air is out of your lungs before you put something down your mouth as that also restless the sensitivity of your gag reflex.

Haven't gotten rid of it. A Dom I see likes that I haven't. Lol

The gag reflex is psychological. It’s there by evolution to freak you out when something is about to go wrong. You tame it by teaching yourself to go to a Zen-like state where you free yourself from that innate fear. Set up something with someone where you tell them in advance that you want to practice getting rid of your gag reflex rather than just getting them off ASAP (though ultimately with a happy ending for them of course). It might be a little bit embarrassing to be that honest, but there are definitely guys out there who will be turned on by it. Guys who aren’t my regulars usually have a hard time deepthroating me, and I enjoy training them to do better.

There is really nothing you can do but just train yourself to hold out longer before gagging. Gagging is a natural process and it is extremely hard to overcome. Heck my husband had a bad gag reflex until he had his tonsils removed a few years ago. I didn’t used to have one but I do now, go figure.

Not sure it's possible. If it were I think the guys in porn would get rid of theirs. Wishful thinking though. If you ever figure it out, let us know because I hate mine as well.

Is it ok if I gag?

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er511a

Love it when my cocksucker gags - I'll often grab the back of his head as I feel I'm about to cum and force myself down his throat, my balls on his chin, looking into his eyes, I cum powerfully when he chokes & gags & the tears run down his cheeks - beautiful.

I love when a guy gags on my dick--I love the feeling of knowing that my dick is going hard and deep enough into his face that his body can't physically handle it, and I also love knowing that he's forcing himself to take it anyway. The only important part for me is making sure he keeps going even if he throws up. Bonus points if he makes eye contact the entire time.

It’s *more* than okay for some guys. I don’t have much of a gag reflex, but sometimes I’ll kinda pretend if I know a dude is into that. 😅 (whoever said men can’t fake it clearly weren’t thinking of this scenario)

To choke is the second best compliment for a top, saying thank you is the first. Be proud he can choke you!

Yeah gag on my dick boy, it’s hot as fuck

how do i stop gagging so much while sucking dick?

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9ygyng

Practice.

I have the same problem and I've heard that when you brush your teeth just try and go further back. It's a good way to make sure you are practicing every day and you can progressively work your way up

I love gagging on cock

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Bottom boys who use poppers to open up their holes?

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khv90w

My partner doesn't seem to mind me huffing while he fists me.

not a big fan of poppers generally, don't enjoy the smell, but it did once help me take a fwb I could never take balls deep. So as a top, it might be a turn on if it's like the only way they can take me fully. Dunno how to explain that but I could see it being a turn on a bit. But generally eh, pausing every minute to re-use them can get annoying and i dunno, just usually not in the mood for super raunchy rough fuckin i guess.

I personally love poppers. I do like it when my bottom uses them as well. Not required of course but I don’t know, it’s nice when we are both in a popper high. For me, I get a feeling of being in love with the boy I’m with. Kind of strange I know. But I’ll start calling my bottom my baby, and just getting more romantic.

Lol i dont care if that means i get to fuck balls deep

Neutral to slightly negative, usually neutral. I mean, on the one hand, whatever it takes to take it, baby, yeah! But on the other hand, I like foreplay a lot, and the intimate responsivity during play too. I mean, if he’s struggling to take me, I’ll adjust our position or pace, or stay deeper and retune the action to subtle flourishes rather than wham-bams, or I’ll use whispers and kisses to relax him, or all of the above. Then the sex is hotter and lasts longer. If, instead, he takes an overeager sniff of poppers, dilates, and goes lust-crazy, *needing* the wham-bam-bam-bam, then it kind of robs us both of that better pleasure. There’s a middle ground though. I’ve gone all night before (something people say, but hardly ever literally do) with a guy who used poppers very sparingly. And he loved that slow, passionate sex. Poppers, to him, were more about heightening the sensation than loosening up and wiling out. I’ll never forget the way he said, “Feel it,” like he matured me as a top.

Desperate to try bondage, humiliation and pet play. Can’t find anyone

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6oj04t

Recon

Recon is your best bet. FetLife also works. There's also Craig's List, an adventure that will either inspire you or crush your soul.

Where are you at? If you're in a large US city you can probably join a more niche dating/hookup site (Fetlife or similar) and find someone near you with the same interests. Or just stick on Grindr and put it in your profile you want to try those fetishes out.

Where are you?

If you're in a small town it may be tough. I would suggest making friends online through Recon or similar sites and perhaps traveling to events like Dore Alley, Folsom, IML, or MAL. There are lots of workshops at all those and experienced people willing to train newbies.

Straight/bi guys: into making out/kissing?

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gak16b

It may not be popular but you asked personal preference... no , I don’t kiss on the mouth... nothing against it just not my thing with guys...

As a straight* guy I can totally confirm I like kissing

Bi here making out makes cumming that much stronger

Well for me making out/kissing is a must

Straight/flexible here. Top. I'm down to rim the right ass, but apart from that I don't put my mouth on a guy.

Can moaning be unattractive?

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i8xe6h

Don’t be ashamed of your moaning. I pefer some mones so I know the bottom is enjoying the time togeather. I’m sure your boyfriend actually likes them he’s just trying to annoy u

Only when it's fake do I find it unattractive

I love a guy who moans. The only time I can say moaning is unattractive when it is constant loud annoying moan that you sometimes see in porn. Then that a turn ofd

I’m a bottom myself and there’s nothing I hate more in bed than a silent top... I mean me, I can’t be quiet. When I’m enjoying it I can’t control the moans and such... but the guys who are crickets weird me out. Make some noise boo. But I also hate fake moans. They aren’t all the same and perfect... if they sound anything like a porn I’m immediately turned off.

I'm a top and I personally like it when my bottom partner moans. It's really a turn on for me. It also reassures me that what I'm doing feels good for my partner and feels good for me too. When he said that it sounded so fake is that maybe when he's doing something where he expects you to moan you don't moan and when he does something that he thinks doesn't feel good you moan a lot. That's why he thinks that you're faking it. I think he likes it because he teases you about moaning. It's like he's mating call telling you "let's fuck babe". 🤣🤣🤣 try holding your moan back for a while and let it out when you can't hild it anymore.

What’s an okay/hot level of moaning for you?

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goxz04

More. I love it. As long as it’s authentic. Just don’t fake it like 1990s Bel Ami porn where the bottoms sound like wounded sea otters or Peter Griffin holding his injured knee and going “ahhhhhhh sssssss ahhhhhhhhh ssssss”

I like to hear a low moan, breathing heavy then I love it when he gets louder when he cums

As long as it's authentic and not a porn influenced performance, any level is fine.

Total top here if you want my opinion: no over the top moaning(like a porn star) but most moaning is awesome if it's genuine it'll be hotter, whimpering and squealing really turns me on too.

Softly and not continuously

Why do I always whimper heavily when I am with a guy?

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k4n52r

Probably not what you want to hear... but that’s really hot. I don’t see a problem here unless your partner doesn’t like it

I like it when a guy whimpers. It’s hot

When my bottom whimpers or moans it just makes me harder inside him. I love seeing a boy struggle a bit on my cock

Because you're a good boy.

I do the same thing. Little whimpering noises, soft moans, tiny gasps. It always feels incredibly sexy and makes me even more aroused. I assume it's a natural sound of submission, like dogs and wolves will whimper when submitting to an Alpha.

How do I stop moaning everytime i get fucked?

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kik3qo

Moaning is so hot keep it going

I had worked myself out of moaning — embarrassed, moan loud and frequently, would constantly stifle with my mouth locked shut — until I found a top who broke me of that. In his opinion, most tops like to here the moans. Since he was also dominant, he said a bottom holding back on moans, on being loud, on being vocal — even crying — was resisting his domination. “Fuck what the neighbors think.” Made sense. I’ve stopped holding back. The tops really appreciate it.

Put his underwear in your mouth or get a ball gag

if it's natural and doesn't sound like a banchee keep it up general consensus on here at least is that natural moans = hot af, fake moans = not hot af

In my opinion... why would you want to stop... it's hot to hear how my cock causes the recipient to moan or scream in pleasure...

Tops, what kind of moans are you into?

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l9w1sh

Natural ones. The ones that feel I'm fucking it out of you and you're not putting on or exaggerating. "Porn moaning" is the most off-putting thing I can imagine. It's terrible when he sounds really feminine doing it for me because it reminds me of straight porn where a woman even looks at a cock and starts screaming her head off. hehe But anything natural. The forced stuff feels like performance art to me and leaves me cold.

Depends on the guy, really.Some moaning from certain guys is different from others. I was fcking doggy jacked dude and he was whimpering and grunting most of the time which i found hot. But also i was going missionary on a fem twink and he had his legs and hands wrapped around my body and was moaning "daddy" in his pitched voice which really turn me on. Really depends on a guy.

Uhm, natural, masculine and slightly “I’m hurting” moans. No feminine high-pitched moans and whimpers for me, sorry :(

The "fuck, it hurts, but don't you dare stop" moans.

i don’t want bottoms to moan for me, i want them to moan involuntarily, and whatever comes out it perfect

Tops, how do you like your bottoms to moan?

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gqz82e

I think your question is essentially whether tops are interested in a more high-pitched moan (that can be interpreted as more feminine) or if tops only like moaning that sounds more “masc.” I think it totally depends on the guy. Personally, I don’t like excessive moaning to the point where it feels like you’re just faking it (some dudes start moaning even when you touch a random body part and it’s like... wait nothing even happened yet lol). It also doesn’t have to be THAT loud (we can hear you, calm down lol). Whether the moaning is a higher or lower register is honestly the least of my concerns.

As long as you're moaning, do it however you like.

I'm mostly between 1 and 3. Most guys I've met love the fact that I'm 6'2, pretty toned, hairy, but once there's a dick inside me I am moaning like a slut 😏

however they want

In my experience most tops don't care *how* you moan as much as they care about you doing it. I've been told some bottoms can be very silent. I had a top point out how hot it was that I'd gasp and let out long and low moans while he was dicking me, he said most of his bottoms just scream or stay quiet

Do bottoms get more effeminate when they moan?

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ktmx7u

I feel like a bit of a walking paradox with this. I‘m a “masculine” (as identified by others, I know 🙄) total bottom and tend to be very expressive and verbal during sex. I can be passive to the point of complete submission or the most aggressive power bottom you’ve ever met. Either way I am definitely the grunting, growling type. I feel like this is probably not the default expectation for a total bottom and I’m slightly self-conscious about it. If I’m passive and submitting, I do think my moaning can pitch up a little the more ”dominated” I feel, just not to the point of sounding like a woman (which feels unnatural and performative to me). But I do think, subconsciously or instinctually, there‘s some kind of primal association between feeling passive and feminine. Can’t quite put my finger on it. If I’m power bottoming, it‘s straight up primal and animalistic. I’ll milk his cock with my hole, ride him, pull him deep into me, etc. I get really verbal and egg him on... “fuck yeah“, “your cock feels so good”, “pound that hole”, etc. Nothing remotely “girly” or delicate, except paradoxically I love talk about breeding... “knock me up”, “breed me”, “I’m gonna put a baby in you”. And that is absolutely tied to primal animal instincts around breeding, pregnancy, the purpose of mating. (For guys who are really turned \*off\* by this, I’m quite curious as to why...)

for me, when I used to have sex I remember making "feminine" noises and moans once my partner is inside me. It felt good and he seemed to like it. But if he had stopped and asked me to be more manly in my moaning then I could have done that just as well. Actually I remember doing it and he seemed to be equally turned on by that, and also by me calling him daddy, my man, a real man, etc. It all felt right in the moment and I loved saying it to him. Unfortunately I did fall in love with him when he only saw me as a hookup. I hope I will find a top boyfriend who can make me moan and doesn't break my heart :)

Bottom on the masculine side. Sub in bed. And I moan and beg like a girl when getting fucked. Loud, too.I was embarrassed about this for a long time. Would stifle my moans. Wound up with a dominant top who saw that as resisting being dominated. He wanted to hear every moan, beg, or cry, no matter how it sound or how loud it was. He “broke” me of holding back. I’m verbal even jacking off. I don’t know where the embarrassment / shame came from, if there is even any one place it started. It does feel a hell of a lot better not holding back. I’ve had more guys really get off on it than not. But man do I feel vulnerable moaning like that. I guess that’s the point.

I'm not that much of a vocal top during sex, bu that does not mean I'm not having a good time. I don't mind if the bottom I'm with is vocal or not, we both know what we want and how it gets done. I mean It does not turn me on as much as it could, sometimes I cannot help but laugh thanks to some comedians doing bits on similar sounding things. I just want to say in other sex/relationship subs this topic is pretty much bi-weekly if not weekly. Those posts just come off like the women making them want to force straight men to be more vocal, even if it's not natural. They do not want to hear any sort of replies that are not about these straight guys submitting no matter what. It's just so strange to me.

I don't like the forced verbal enunciations. For me it feels fake. I prefer the involuntary sounds that comes from special circumstances like when a dick hits the deepest part of an ass and the bottom squeals, or when a bottom chokes on a cock, or when the top is cumming and grunts with every ejaculation.

Impregnation kink?

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h14pl9

I’ve been trying to make my boyfriend pregnant for over 20 years. No luck yet, but we aren’t giving up trying.

Bottom, and my heart just fluttered at the thought of being impregnated

Bisexual top here - love impregnating boys and girls! It's interesting for men because some bottoms seem to enjoy the feminising aspect, but for a lot of them it's different to that, it's sort of primal; the idea of having that symbol of virility inside themselves, I think.

I love the thought of getting impregnated by a top. It's just so hot, taking their seed inside you! I'd love to find a top into it hehe.

I’m a top who wants to impregnate bottoms

How sucking sub bottom's nipples make Dom alpha- sub bottom relations stronger ;)

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d6htb0

FUCK ME FRIDAY

top here, i kinda hate my body so wouldn't want my nipples sucked but would absolutely love to suck a bottoms nipples

Hmm, I just had my nipples pierced last Friday so guess I will have to see how that all works once they heal.

My nipples are extremely sensitive. I've literally had to yell at guys and pull their head up to get them to be more careful. There was one guy who was doing it so hard that it felt like rug burn the next day.

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How to stimulate nipples

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klfr88

Oooooh I loooove nipple play. Start with over the shirt sensually touching or teasing. But act like you’re NOT trying to turn him on. Just like put you arm over his shoulder and rest your arm and let your fingers every now and then touch his nipples. He’ll probably eventually turn red or ask what you’re doing. Just act innocent and keep doing it (if you can tell he’s enjoying it). You can also when your cuddling or laying beside each other start rubbing his chest and IGNORE his nipples. Get really close to them and then don’t touch them. Hell probably start to go mad thinking they’re going to be touched and then they’re not touched. Bonus points if you can use your nails (like if you’re scratching his chest intimately, then drag your finger just beside his nipple) You can also gently rub the area around the tip of the nipple and slightly pinch them from time to time. Maybe even pull on them or twist a little. The tongue is a great tool too when doing nipple play.

Paradise electro stimulation! As for yours try vacuum cups

Only just recently started, but generally I prefer much lighter contact. Hard punches and such just hurt and not pleasurably. Rubbing through a shirt, just brushing it up against by arm, just putting a finger on there and just wiggling back and forth, etc are all good. The guy I was FWB before loved for me to do that while also lightly rubbing his cock - not enough to cum, but to tease him a ton. Like a single finger from the balls to tip, meanwhile licking licking over one and rubbing my band against his other one. Drove him mad once I was able to get down just the right amount of force

How do I get larger nipples?

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h8uui5

I don't find that the pumps really work to make them larger permanently. They certainly fill up with fluid after being pumped but then they just go back to normal. Clamps are what you want... and a variety of them. I use cloths pins, vice-grips, and actual nipple clamps from the leather shops. These will all build up a column of scar tissue in the nipple and make them stick out more. At this point, mine look like they are prehensile.

Some use pumps.

There are a lot of pumps and things out there - but most folks start with snake bite suckers from places like Amazon - as they're cheap

Nude Resorts?

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jj86b6

Sawmill Campground is between Tampa and Orlando in central Florida. The more pubic areas shun overt sexual activity but walking along on the nature trails and look over there, a fuck bench.

The nude resorts in Palm Springs tend to be more cruisy than other places I've been. There is a gay campground in pennsylvania called The Woods. Clothing optional. They have a pool and dance hall and even a restaurant and stage. Things are pretty legit for the most part, but sex is always available if you want it. The crowds at all these places swing MUCH older except on the weekends.

I’ve been to a couple in Palm Desert, it’s been 20 years. It was fun, extremely hot during the day. We were on a lot of drugs and alcohol so it made it more fun than it was, I think. A couple guys hooked up in the hot tub at night, it was pretty low key.

CCBC in Palm Springs is nice. Cruising during both day and night. You can fuck out in the open or privately. You can sit in the pool or hot tub and watch guys fuckjng late at night right on the grass. The public porn rooms and steam room are closed during COVID. But if you don’t want to be cruised by other guys they are pretty cool about leaving you alone. I only go with my partner so we line to watch and maybe have guys watch us. Fuck in our room with the curtains open or out in the open. Rooms are nice and clean. Good location. I recommend.

There is a clothing optional campground on Lake Erie in Canada and it's men only. It's an older crowd than I like unfortunately though that seems to be most places. It's quite a bit cheaper than the other family friendly LGBT campground in the area and the facilities are top notch. They also don't have a liquor license and you can't buy alcohol there. This means you're also allowed to bring your own booze and drink it wherever you want and bring a cooler to the club. They throw free keggers at the pool and people who have trailers there throw events with free food and drinks. As for hooking up it usually happens in the forest and there's slings, benches, glory holes, etc. You can hook up wherever you want aside from the pool area and washrooms due to government health restrictions. I never saw anyone hook up in the club though. The downside is that you need clothes at the nearby beach or to go boating as it's not directly on a lake but there is one nearby, as well as restaurants. [http://www.get-tothepoint.com/](http://www.get-tothepoint.com/)

What’s your favorite poses for nudes? Sending or receiving

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efi32y

Tops please more POV pics from the bottom up looking up your junk and torso, it’s pretty hot!

I love seeing a 'basket-of-berries' shot from behind. Getting to see a dude's fuckhole, cock AND balls at a glance is fucking awesome!!

I like dickpics where you can clearly see the hand or the armpits. I also like it when bottoms have a picture where they are on their knees and spread their ass.

Doggy style. Ass and feet are the best

hands behind the back of your head

Do you guys do pet play?

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24xl3t

My partner calls me Baby Boy. Makes my penis swell.

as a bottom, i love it when a top calls me baby boy and i call him sir or daddy. the power dynamic is so hot

Oh yes. My boyfriend likes it a lot when I call him sir. And I love calling him sir. On weekends I will be eating breakfast and will just walk over and put a collar around my neck and put a leash on me. I know we will be having fun that day. If he does it, I instantly turn very submissive to his every want and demand. He wants me to suck him. "Yes sir." I love it and he knows it.

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I'm pretty big into pet play. I've never done anything so far, but I am quite eager. Collars, leashes, it's all extremely hot.

Is it ok for a sub to drink my piss?

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jlg2iy

Piss a bladder out first, then drink loads of water then when you can pee again then get him to drink it. It won’t be as concentrated.

Subs may have a little bit of piss, as a treat.

Sorry to break the circle jerk here, but Dan Savage covered this question in his column and a health professional wrote in to inform him that actually ingesting urine can lead to complications like gout. So yeah, the commenter here who got karma bombed for pointing out that urine is the body's way of expelling material it needs to get rid of is correct... I don't know how high the risk is, but if you care about your partner's health you should have them spit, not swallow. And if you *don't* care about your partner's health you need to get away from them asap...

If Bear Grylls does it, your sub can too

Urine is usually clean unless the person in question has an STI or Urinary infection. Hydrated top will also dilute any waste products you might be worried about.

Do most tops like it for their bottoms to swallow piss?

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j2sw0m

No. watersports is niche.

I like swallowing piss but only if they drink ALOT of water first.

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I think more Dom tops would be in to piss as it reinforces that are Dom and you are submissive.

Most guys ive been with dont really bring up piss unless its a real dom, but anytime ive asked, guys dont mind feeding me their piss. Swallowed so much piss off Grindr!! I wish i was in your situation. Having house buds to regularly feed me their piss is my dream

Tops: Would You Pee on Bottoms to Mark Your Territory?

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iej26q

Personally don't think it's hot, but if my bottom find it hot I will do it, cause I don't think it's gross

In the shower yes. I wouldn't be into them drinking it or doing it outside the shower. Not into being pissed on personally and it's more of a "if my partner wants to I'm down, but if not it probably won't ever happen"

For some reason I've been fantasizing about being peed inside of, but not on. I don't really get off to the idea of being used in a hookup, but this is the exception. "Wait, are you peeing inside me?" Also if it's not clear this is happening in the shower where it doesn't matter. Anywhere else? Nah, never.

As a bottom I like that ;) But Im also into WS and drinking piss

I would prefer to piss down their throat and have them suck me off and then swallow me as I get hard down their throat and cum down it as well

Tried watersports for the first time

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afkv2c

What a lucky guy and hot story 😛 wish I could find more guys near me into WS

Hot! I have always been into watching guys piss..think its the whole growing up trying to catch a glimpse of a cock at a urinal, turned it into a sexual experience... was never really interested in swallowing piss, just watching! but one day, I had just finished sucking off a hot 18yo mexican guy and he had to piss, so I followed him into the bathroom to watch (I had not cum yet so was still super horny)...while watching him i got the urge so stuck my tongue into the piss stream to taste it...and not bad! But it ended there! A year or so later, this asian guy I was servicing a couple times a week and I talked about a little piss play...so I agreed to try it! So next time he came over, he came with a full bladder...and as soon as he walked in, I dropped to my knees, he pulled out his cock and put it in my mouth...and let if flow! It took a lot of work to swallow it all but I did...and then just continued to nurse and suck his cock until he shot his load in my mouth too! ​ After that we did piss play maybe once every couple weeks (we usually played 2-3 times a week). For me it was never about the actual piss, but about taking something from his body and putting it inside of me! This was also a guy who would save me all his cum from when he would JO, and bring it too me...I would use it as lube and shove it deep inside my ass with my dildo...he thought it was hot, knowing that none of his cum was ever wasted!

Talk to him about the taste. Coffee gives it a very unique strong odor and taste. Fruit juices are mild. Artificially sweetened drinks (like diet Coke) will pass the artificial sweetness straight through to the urine, which he might not enjoy.

Urine is sterile so as long as you don’t have an STD/I it’s fine to drink it.

Healthy urine is sterile, your kidneys make sure of that, so there are no major health concerns there.

Where is the most public place you have had sex

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ev12xj

I really want to do more or be outside more but I have had sex countless times in cars out in some parking lots, and I have been fingered on a trampoline...not my proudest moment? But this is an anon account, so.

Sucking dick while fishing at a pond till we were interrupted he then took me behind some bushes and fucked me. Given many road head

In order from least to most public... Sex club Gym shower Gym sauna Condo sauna Gym staircase Condo staircase University library washroom Pool (former work) washroom Public washroom Public park Train tracks Nude beach Stage used for a concert in a public park University quad Outside of a university building The last 3 were only at night.

In the gym

Train tracks, Six flags in the tram, at a club, parking lot of my college in the open, in car at the library and theater.

What are your experiences with having sex in public places?

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jspyli

I fucked this guy on a hiking path. It was late at night and over the summer. It was super hot!

I lost my virginity in some woods nearby where I live, it has a lot of public right of ways through it used by dog walkers. Met up with guy slightly older than me, we went down the path a little and I sucked him off there. second time I met him there I got fucked for the first time.

Lots. I can't host, so the park near my place is my go to spot. Usually sit on the park bench and have guys blow me there.

i did folsom street fair and dore alley where they fuck in the middle of the day and in broad daylight; does that count? ​ If you don't know what either are; search for them in pornhub.

well plenty. And given i live in a very conservative country i am astonished by the courage/stupidity of my younger self. Worse memory was when there was political unrest i stupidly thought regular places was safe. But was faced a minor police harassment due to increase police presence. Like now i laugh, they were there for oppositional political party activists, they were angrily confused because horny gay men wasnt in their radar at all and there was nothing in my or my hook ups idenity to suggest otherwise. The place was highly guarded because its a gov property. but over the course of years i have given numerous BJ there. Even fucked someone in there at night.

Best place for public sex?

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hfeh2y

Denny’s Parking Lot

Squirt.org will usually have a list of public places or beats in your area. Often other users leave comments and updates if a beat is patrolled or the best time of day/night to visit. Also, just as a precaution, be mindful of any local laws and penalties that relate to public sex or “indecent exposure”. Have fun!

I've always enjoyed public bathrooms and parks late at night.

If you're in a bigger city go for a bathhouse. It's public but everybody expects to see guys fucking. Plus you have showers handy.

Any other bottoms or tops have a rape kink/ fantasy?

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f4yqy7

I personally enjoy this kink but in the sense of just really intense power play. I also find rape something unforgivable and absolutely vial, but I love being 'controlled and forced' into sexual stuff with my people.

Yes. It seems to be a fairly common fantasy; as a sub, it’s definitely something I dream about. In BDSM Play, it’s often referred to as “consensual non-consent.” You really have to trust the top. There’s still a safe word. You are giving your consent for someone to do things to you without you agreeing (“non-consent”) until such time as you take control back. I’d love to trust someone that much. I haven’t, though, found anyone like that yet.

Years ago I played with a guy who was seriously into rape. Instructed me that he wanted to be tied down and fucked hard & raw with NO warmup. He was hot. Our session lasted a few hours. Amazing once I wrapped my brain around what he really wanted and the fact that I COULD give it to him. A few months ago I met a guy who said he wanted to be raped. I lubed up my dick and pushed in. He promptly jumped out of bed!! You have to be very careful about the words you use with a new partner - especially if you're the bottom!!!! The porn portrayal of rape is VASTLY different from the reality of having your hole taken brutally and with no preparation. The guys in the porn videos have been working their holes with dildos long before the camera starts rolling! Still think rape is hot??

I was fucking this dude one time, and we were acting out a pizza boy rape fantasy. In our aftercare, he told me that my cock started throbbing and felt like it got harder when he was begging and crying out "please don't rape me."

As long as it's roleplay and both sides are consenting then it's fine. I had one FWB who wanted to be roughed up and in my head I was thinking of suggesting the idea before instantly getting texted to "rape him". Made a lot of rules to follow and of course a safe word but after going through with they really enjoyed and it and too my surprise it only got rougher and dirtier after each session. It peaked at having two other tops I was comfortable with breeding him with me then finishing him off by fucking their loads and mine deeper into him.

RAPE ROLEPLAY?

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d0gbqq

Yeah. I’m super into it as a Top, but I will only do rape roleplay with a trusted bottom I’ve fucked before. On the scale or “I just met you” to “we are married” this one tends to the latter side. Super hot. Love it. Do it. Recommend it. This is NOT something you do with a guy you just met. This is something you do with a trusted companion.

I've done it but I really have to work my ass off to convince guys that they can get a lot rougher and more aggressive with me because they're all afraid that they might cross a line. Once I can get them to lose control though, it can be really fun being at their mercy.

It's a difficult thing for most people to talk about, either the fantasy of it or the reality that they've done. I haven't done it. You really have to trust a top, have done a lot of work with the top you are with, to make it all work out right. Even the top has to trust you in this. The article linked below is one of many articles out there about rape role-play, referred to as "Consensual Non-Consent." It outlines what you and your partner(s) need to do to make it safe and keep some out on the table if it gets too crazy, either before during or after. Your desire is perfectly fine. It's a common desire. It's a difficult desire to pull off. It takes a bit of work, experience, and planning so that it's not actually rape. [https://www.domsubliving.com/5-things-about-consensual-non-consent/](https://www.domsubliving.com/5-things-about-consensual-non-consent/)

r/gaystrugglefuck   You're welcome

Any other guys into "Free Use" or Consensual Non Consent?

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9hwdyc

I have been a part of scenes where I was used in a 'free use' type of way. I was at a sex club, sitting in the jacuzzi when a guy I didn't know came and sat down next to me (there were two other guys in the jacuzzi as well). The guy reached under the water, took my hand and put it on his sizable cock, which I began to play with. He then pulled me onto his lap where he fingered me openly. He got up to get out of the jacuzzi and I looked at him questioningly and he said, "come on, it's time for me to fuck that ass." We went to his room where he 'made' me beg for his cock loudly (the walls did not go all the way to the ceiling so everyone nearby could hear me. His cock was 9" long and he took me doggy style. I went to reach to close the door and he told me to leave it open. Two guys came over to watch and he loudly offered my mouth to them. So one guy pulled his cock out and had me suck him. The guy using my mouth pulled out and came on my face. His companion had been jerking himself and he came on my face too. Soon thereafter, the Dominant guy pulled out (he had not cum yet) and told me he would be back later. I took a shower and headed into the steam room. Now, the steam room is usually a quiet place where people feel their way to each other. I was sitting on the bench and the room was filling up. There was a guy standing in front of me when I saw the Dominant guy come in. He motioned to the guy standing in front of me and said something along the lines of that he should use me because I was a good fuck. The guy in front of me put his cock up to my lips and I began to suck him off. Very quickly, I was very popular and ended up getting fucked by three guys and sucked off several more. All of them came on my face and body. This was one of the most deliciously erotic days for me. I had just let myself be used. I never did see that Dominant guy again.

Dom guy here, majorly into this. My partners husband is (most of the time) a cuck, and he's just available if I get home from work and want to work out some frustration. My boy also knows that I can walk into his work (a kinky establishment), take him out for 10 minutes and fuck him before dropping him back at work. He's also been a mouth for my friends to fuck when we're out if I choose to offer him. It doesn't happen often, but when it does it's so hot to just be able to treat him like property. For me, it only works because we have a very close, loving relationship that prioritises tenderness and us meeting each others needs. I couldn't walk up to a stranger like that, I wouldn't see the point. All of this stuff builds connection and a sense of ownership and responsibility.

Always down to be grabbed and used. Nothing hotter than a man “having his way” With me. I love the thought of a guy just walking up and taking what needs using me for pleasure and moving on.

Love it. Usually do this CNC role play with a friend in NYC. Leave my hotel room unlocked and he comes in and we act out our fantasy, complete with me begging him not to hurt me and resisting getting fucked. I always end up with a creamy hole 😍😍

I fantasize about being used casually and also being the "victim" in a CNC situation.

Is it moral to have a rape fantasy as a bottom

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c1xl1l

I am a rape survivor who has rape fantasies as the assaulted party. Our minds work out our issues in odd ways sometimes, and if that's how your psyche handles it, go with it. Working out why the power dynamic of non-consent arouses you is harmful to no one until you permit it to be so through your own actions, so just be conscientious of others. Fantasy is fantasy, and rape-play where a preconceived scenario is organized and negotiated in the same style as a BDSM session between two consulting parties, with safewords, discussion of soft and hard limits and all that, is a common thing for many people. When navigated respectfully for your own emotional health and that of any others also involved in your exploration of this, there is no moral issue.

Consensual non consent, or CnC, is a popular kink, and I think you may find you’re not even the only person in your social circle who has it it you ask around. Short answer, no, there is no moral standard you’re failing to meet by having this fantasy. Have you talked to your partner about it? They might be supportive and willing to help you explore it further. I highly encourage you to do some reading up on google about this just to add to your familiarity so you don’t feel isolated by what turns you on.

I was molested repeatedly by my much older brother when i was quite young (I was 4 or 5 and he was 16 - 17), which has lead to me having a fixation on incest role plays. I have never told anyone about the abuse, because I didn't think I would be believed, and it would probably kill my mother. I haven't really indulged the fantasy, but i feel like the fixation on it might be my way of making sense with it and getting some control over the very confusing feelings I've had about it growing up. Fantasies can be a safe way to explore and understand yourself. No one is getting hurt and just make sure you and your partner are on the same page about when 'no stop' means that he needs to stop.

as a rape survivor i get of by replaying it. i think the consent in that case can even have a healing effect. same reason i am a submissive bottom.

I wouldn't say I was raped but used to see a Top that very physical and loved rough sex. He liked when I told him to stop and he didn't or told him things like it hurts and I would scream or try and slap him away. I said I didn't call it actual rape as I kinda was into it too but the feeling of fleeing I had were real. I often fantasize about it still and do wish I could find another Top like him.

Bottoms, do you guys have some sort of a rape-fantasy?

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2w6c2b

You mean a fantasy where I'm pinned against the wall... the rough man presses his muscled body up against my back, rests his stubbled chin on my neck, and tells me in his deep voice "Don't try to resist. I know you want this, faggot."... he inches forward, and I feel his hard cock poke into my butt... my dick hardens in my pants, and I make some weak, feigned struggles against his strong hold to act like I don't want it, but his strength traps me in place... I hear his pants unzip... he quickly tugs my pants down so that my bare ass is exposed... I feel his warm, throbbing cock flop against my bare ass... he tells me that he's going to fuck my mouth before he rapes my ass... turns me around, pushes me down to my knees, holds my hair in one hand, pulls my jaw down with the other, maneuvers his cock into my gaping mouth, and starts to forcefully fuck my throat... I choke, but he continues the assault, raping my mouth over and over... my eyes fill with water from being choked, and I have to blink several times to keep my tears from spilling down my face... he pushes his cock all the way in and holds it deep in my throat, and he pinches my nose to cut off my breath... I look up at him pleading for air, and he's looking down at me, smirking, and says, "I own you, faggot"... after a minute of suffocation, he releases my nose and pulls his cock out, which is drenched in my saliva, and I gasp for air... in my weakened state, he easily picks me up, turns me around, and slams his cock in my hole... he lets his cock sit inside me the whole way as he wraps his big arms under mine and puts me in a wrestler's hold... I feel his warm breath on the back of my neck, and as I've stopped struggling and submitted to him, he tells me, "Good faggot"... he then proceeds to drill my hole while grunting and growling... at first I'm silent, but as my hole loosens up and his pounding starts giving me overwhelming pleasure, I can't hold back my moans... he starts pistoning his cock into me with greater speed, his pelvis makes a loud slap as it smacks into my ass with each thrust, and he's growling more than before... he pins me firmly against the wall, pressing all of his weight into me, he makes one last, hard, deep thrust into my ass, and I feel his cock spurting his warm load into me as he grunts loudly... he pulls out, zips his pants back up, turns me around, brings me close to his face, and looks me cold into the eyes to say "Tell anyone, and it will hurt a lot more next time, faggot."... I'm speechless, out of breath, and in a daze from the recent prostate pounding, so I just nod silently with a defeated look on my face... he gives me one last threatening look, and leaves me there, pants still down, with his cum slowly dripping through my insides...? Nah never had one.

Yes, I want to be used and abused. No bruises though. safe word is Vagina. Instant boner killer

Of course not......... *I'm lying*

Personally, absolutely not. While I definitely have a fantasy of bottoming for a gangbang, and of waking up while being fucked (or a dick being inserted into me) when sleeping with someone, that would be fully consensual.

Oh I absolutely have a bareback rape fantasy. And it gets really dirty and abusive.

Fess up: How kinky do you get?

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75qts1

I have one guy who got me into pet play. He'll pet me and call me a good boy and give me belly rubs. He'll fuck me real rough and call me puppy. Sometimes he'll lead me around by a leash or have me wear a collar. Sometimes I'll show up and he'll let one of his friends use me. It's fun.

Had a regular dom I used to meet take me to some woods, stripped me naked, bent me over a tree, fucked me raw, came in my arse and made me lick him clean. Then he pissed in my face before spitting on me and walking away. The single most degrading experience I've ever had... and honestly the hottest sexual encounter I've ever had.

hmm. I've pissed in someone's mouth (he actually sucked it right out of my dick), messed around in two public bathrooms, tied a guy up and spanked him. hard no to scat and blood though. nope, nope. but I'd probably piss on someone again if they were into it, I'm down with public sex lol, and I'll definitely turn someone over my knee and spank em with whatever object they like.

Love fisting, piss drinking and fucking, rough sex, biting, spanking, toys, some bondage, cum, spit and general dom/sub play. Will try most things except blood, shit, vomit, being restrained. cross dressing/sissification never had any appeal to me either but might do if the other guy was insanely hot. I'm lucky enough that I get fulfill most of my kinks fairly regularly. Usually me and the bf try to squeeze 2/3 long kink sessions in per week.

Everything but shit and blood. I won't usually stop it it's only a little messy ether. So far no one has even come close to shocking me. Talk to me when you have a boy tied up for two days and piss on his food and serve it to him in a dog bowl. That's a good start. Fucked two boys yesterday that sucked my dick after breeding them. Made boys piss in heir mouth while I do the same. If it's entered your mind I've probably had t times two. I like to cuddle but damn sluts can't switch gears and I have to keep them in their place.

Do you prefer soft/gentle or rough/aggressive sex?

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hypoce

Both, depending on situation/mood. Sometimes you want a bit more connection, intimacy and romance - sometimes you just want to be thrown around the room like a rag-doll and left covered in cum like the slut you are. Totally depends on how you're both feeling, and it can turn from one into the other in the same session.

I try to combine them into the same session to keep things interesting. Foreplay is soft and sensual with me. I aim to make you feel loved and wanted like a person neglected in their marriage wanting more. I give soft head to start with, but once I get going I can make you squirm. Fucking you is a different story. A whole other language because I can do anything. My intensity depends on the position we're in. If I'm sitting down while you're on top of me, I'm going to hold you close and whisper how beautiful you feel as I kiss you. If I'm on top, I'm going to be slapping my balls against your ass with one hand on your neck to pull you up as you arch your back, and allow me to spit into your mouth. Pace is a translation of your desire in sex. My desire for someone during sex oscillates. And so will the way I handle you throughout but rest assured, you will always be safe in my arms and wanted throughout.

rough feels better physically, mentally if i’m a bit off i’ll go for some gentle. gentle fucking also applies to situations where you need to be quiet for me

Deep and slow because I am into the mental game of feeling it penetrating all the way down. Also am tight and didn't take many so the idea of rough scares me

I generally lean towards gentle/loving. I don’t necessarily like to say “soft” because I want my man holding me tight, being firm and forceful when he fucks me, but in a tender way. I’m not super into being roughed up or dom stuff or anything. There’s always a time and place for that kind of thing, of course.

How to use a submissive bottom?

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k2uc1x

This was a hot and reassuring post to read.

Aftercare is very important , lots of cuddles and kisses if you push his boundaries. Having him sit with his back up against the wall and fucking his throat is a lot of fun. He can’t escape the cock down his throat and you can make him take it. Also I love to give a firm (yet gentle) slap on the face when I really get going.

The possibilities are endless. Have him get naked and suck you under the table while you read the morning paper.

You seem to do a good job so far. Still want to mention that aftercare is really important, esprcially after such intense Sessions. That said, you could use cbt and restrain his balls so they are Always bound and under pressure. That means that everytime he moves or shrugs during Spanking, He will feel pain there. Could drive him crazy..

Ughhh what I would give to get a bf like you 😫😫

Why does it seem like so many bottoms like to be treated like sh*t?

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ilf3lz

I can see there being a time and a place for everything. But, as a top, it seems most bottoms I meet are expecting and wanting it to be rough and aggressive. They want to be used and abused, figuratively speaking. I get asked all the time about how dominant I am, what I’m going to do to treat them like a little bitch, boss them around, etc. I’ve had guys get annoyed when I don’t want to choke them, hold them down and restrain them, etc. Sure, that can be fun. But it’s a big expectation to have to live up to all the time. I’m certainly not passive by any means, and I’m usually pretty assertive. But, sometimes I just want to have some calm fun with someone- where both of us are equals enjoying one another’s bodies and company. Call me vanilla, but I don’t always have a ravenous urge to barge in, rip his clothes off, tear it up and take what’s mine. Just sometimes ;-)

porn, I suspect, drives some appetites.

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I am definitely not like this as a bottom, and it kind of concerns me that some bottoms seem to want sex to be selfish and one-sided? Sex is about two people feeding each other energy - it's not a one-way transfer of energy. And if you think that sounds "sappy" or something then holy shit you are missing out on SO much. It should be enjoyable as fuck for both parties, and isn't just a means to get the top off. Idk it seems super weird to me...almost like these bottoms don't respect themselves or something. I love a man being dominant with me and I love being able to make him feel empowered, but there's a difference between being dominant and literally using a person solely for your own purposes as though they are a tool. Such a soulless approach seems so distant and disconnected and I kinda feel sorry for these people.

I accepted my inner whore. You dont have to. Just fuck me

Any else fantasise about getting slapped in the face as you suck cock? or actually done it before?

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8qa1da

I think more about getting slapped in the face with my man's cock or getting spanked than I should 😋

i do that to my bf he loves it. he's a bitch.

I have a buddy who likes to slap me around some when I'm sucking his dick. It's never hard enough to leave a mark, just enough to make a good pop and show me who's in control. It's part of the roles we play. He's the dom top stud with the 8" dick and I'm the sub bottom cocksucker who'll do most anything to suck that dick. He also likes to spit on me and spank me.

My bitch love it. The harder i slap, the harder his erection is. And then there are some other things too...

Slapped by hand and with the cock yes

Bottoms who like to be slapped in the face

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6fi6oe

Yes please. Face slapping, spitting, dirty verbal talk and throat grabbing are all green lights in my book.

I love being slapped and spanked so much! It's the degrading factor that makes is so great

It's great--if we've talked about it beforehand. Nothing worse than a surprise slap but if I know the guy and consent to cut, that's great, especially if his cock is in my ass and he's calling me a fag as he does it.

Such a fucking turn on to rough up my bottom! Ass and face! But only with those who like it!

i'd rather my bottom slap me. i'll slap your ass though

Any experiences with "straight" guys?

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jmnjno

Yep. They're lots of fun... especially because they get up and leave immediately after they cum and then never contact you again.

A few, sadly they were only painful heartbreak. :(

Yes many. Some good mostly bad

As the only openly gay student in my high school (until the end of 12th when the valedictorian came out as a lesbian) I got bullied and picked on by some of the other students. At the same time, shortly after 9th started, I began getting notes in my locker and by the end of the school year I was very sexually active and was sucking off guys after school on a daily basis. Most of them, my secret hookups, were guys who were still in the closet and some were just curious but there were some, a few of the boys who bullied me, that just wanted their dicks sucked. I've always been promiscuous and I love sucking dick (and, yes, swallowing) so it was always a win for me.

They aren't straight.

Straight/bi guys: into making out/kissing?

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gak16b

It may not be popular but you asked personal preference... no , I don’t kiss on the mouth... nothing against it just not my thing with guys...

As a straight* guy I can totally confirm I like kissing

Bi here making out makes cumming that much stronger

Well for me making out/kissing is a must

Straight/flexible here. Top. I'm down to rim the right ass, but apart from that I don't put my mouth on a guy.