Startup vs Girlfriend
philwelch: On the edit, you're making it sound like the startup is your project that she is "involved" in. That's not right--either you, her, and cofounder #3 (presumably) all have a startup together, or you have a startup and you tried to rope her into working for you. She probably feels resentful that she can't get you involved in her projects.Also, it sounds like she's gearing up to leave you anyway, so it's probably too late to ask these questions.