How do you know what you want?
josh_nyc: All I can offer here is a personal observation:Many times in my life when I've asked people for advice in choosing between several options, I've found myself secretly hoping they'd guide me to a certain option... hmm...When I was a teenager, I'd ask my dad for advice and find myself asking leading questions and almost arguing to get him to advise me to pick a certain option. He would get annoyed and end the conversation with "if you already know the answer, why are you asking me?"As I got older and our conversations got calmer, he would often end with "well it sounds like you already know what you want to do."I find that when asking for advice (or venting about a tough decision), this pattern persists.Now I try to have that conversation with myself, knowing I should trust my intuition. It saves a lot of time and frustration! Then, when I ask for advice, I'm actually ready to listen to it.