Obsessive Asian Parents
vonsydov: Most parents are wrong about their kids. Infact, they're compensating for their own failures. Do whatever the hell you want to do. Mostly, you'll need to try out different things.It also depends on your personal inclinations. Are you a creative type ? Then why would you want to be a lawyer or a doctor ... or any professional job. When parents push you to go to MIT etc. just for the sake of it they're motivated by the status it'll give them and the bragging rights. Not if you screw the most important 4-5 years or your life.When parents react, they're much more worried about how they'll be looked upon by their friends depending upon what their kids are doing. They're less worried about your well being. They also panic much faster -- especially if you have other routes. e.g. your startup would need 2-3 years to stabilize, it is entirely possible that your parents keep nagging you to leave that and go to school -- or keep reminding you how you could've become a (fuing) lawyer or a doctor. Asian parents will be extremely status conscious especially if you take a dip to do a startup and its got nothing to do with your ability to succeed.Don't listen to your MOM !!! Women in general think things very different from men and are more status conscious (remember the lipstick and the makeup). Men are driven towards risk. In any case, if you ever want to do a startup you'll need a pretty thick skin and tons of persistence.The other thing--is that when parents push you too much, it results in lack of self-acceptance. Not good. Will make you unhappy in the long run. Its much easier to survive these days than it was 50 years back.Finally, it is entirely up to you to decide what will ultimately define your life. Will it be the same shit over and over again e.g lawyer, doctor, whatever. Or it'll be something new, something that you created. What's the fun in getting something every tenth person has got already. There's no challenge in that. There is however lots of value  in being a researcher at a top university. I learnt the most ever at my first semester at MIT. But go to these places cause you really want to learn from the best and surround yourself with great people, not cause you want to gain status or bragging rights from that. Actually as long as you have the right mindset, you can probably learn a lot of stuff from opencourseware. If you have genuine interest in doing research, PhD is great, by I didn't find a lot of people over at MIT who were just mad passionate about the kind of work they were doing. I think a lot of people are able to attend MIT cause they were very conformist with their studies and undergrad research and eventually got lucky.Oh, and get laid. Pls. More important than the phd.