Are you happy, well-rounded? (dealing w/ depression/lack of motivation)
tumblen: Great question and the fact that you are coming here to seek help is a great sign, I'd say.I'm in a different situation: 22, dropped out of school to start a company, etc. But, I have committed myself to developing a satisfying general lifestyle (getting there) so, maybe there are some overlaps.Here are some thoughts:1. In the moments when I feel most stuck and unmotivated it is usually because there is something looming over me that I "have to do."It's taken time, but developing the mindset that I truly do not _have to_ do anything has allowed me actually drop the anxiety and become truly excited about my work.What are your expectations about what you _should be_ doing? Maybe if you ease up on them, you'll find a new wave of motivation along a new path.2. It sounds to me like you, more than anything, need some exploration in your life. But, you are afraid of the risks.My suggestion here is to take time to define clearly what you are afraid of, what the worst case scenarios are and how to sidestep them.Additionally, lighten physical and mental load. Can you and your girlfriend sell the bulk of your stuff, tie down any loose ends and explore the World without making any living commitments for a few months?3. Set small challenges daily (2-3), write them down every morning along with the very specific next action that you need to do to get the ball rolling.When you complete all your challenges, put a big red x on the calendar. With each challenge, you will feel better and better and as the red X's grow, it will be clear how much you've accomplished.(Someone else suggested exercise, that is a great daily challenge.)4. I write ~1600 words daily in MacJournal, just a total brain dump. I don't worry about spelling, grammar or paragraphs I just type. I very rarely go back and read old ones.Somehow, just the act of typing through my thoughts, getting them out and throwing them around has had an incredible impact on my mood, motivation, etc. I feel like my own therapist.5. I think Steve Pavlina's book, Personal Development for Smart People, is one of the most complete and impactful books on improving your lifestyle. In particular, there are some great thoughts on finding your purpose on life. Highly recommended.Again, props to you for grappling with these emotions and talking about them publicly. Keep exploring them with others.Feel free to get in touch with me to discuss more, I'd love to hear how things pan out!