Do you criticize?
Eliezer: Criticism from people I respect tends to have a large impact on me.  Criticism that is clearly technically right can make me say "Oops" and correct it.  Criticism that is vague and ad hominem gets flushed out the window.Just think of what kind of criticism you want to get and actually impacts you; make that the kind of criticism you deliver.  That's if you want to help other people.To the extent you want to help yourself, flattery has always been a favored method.