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{ "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "Thankfully, I've been able to control my anxiety. I haven't been feeling anything other than normal. I notice I mostly get anxiety when I don't sleep good. So, sleeping is my priority for now. I've been doing good thanks to my husband's support. I feel so much better. I really hope everyone else is feeling good too, and if you're not, I hope you do soon. I know it's hard, but you got this!\n\n", "date": "1687527462", "thread_id": "307565", "title": "I've been doing a lot better.", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ivebeendoingalotbetter_307565/" }

[ { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>Soo good to hear you're doing better, and yay for your husband's support! One day at a time, I hope you continue to do better! 💛</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3299179", "thread_id": "307565", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ivebeendoingalotbetter_307565/" }, { "author": "moonspirit1993", "content": "<p><span class=\"ql-size-large\">That's awesome! I'm still getting used to an upped dose of my anxiety meds but I'm slowly getting better as well.</span> <span class=\"ql-size-large\"><span class=\"ql-cursor\"></span></span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3301634", "thread_id": "307565", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ivebeendoingalotbetter_307565/" }, { "author": "femfatale", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie I am so so glad and proud to hear this! I admire you prioritizing yourself and what you need to manage your anxiety. It’s also wonderful that your husband is supporting you. Your post provides not only myself but others with motivation and hope that it doesn’t get better. Thank you for sharing this, and I hope even more goodness for you and others struggling with the same. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305722", "thread_id": "307565", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ivebeendoingalotbetter_307565/" }, { "author": "femfatale", "content": "<p>@femfatale Does * ah! I hope everyone knew what I meant anyway (: </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3305722,nil" ], "post_id": "3309525", "thread_id": "307565", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ivebeendoingalotbetter_307565/" } ]

{ "author": "mader67", "content": "post doesnt work\n\n", "date": "1688902645", "thread_id": "308434", "title": "test", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/test_308434/" }

[ { "author": "Optimisticempath", "content": "<p>@mader67 what were you wanting to post? this one worked :) </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3309309", "thread_id": "308434", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/test_308434/" } ]

{ "author": "LovelyFrog8934", "content": "Where to begin ......❤\n\nI'm 33 going on 34 and I've always felt mentally younger then my actual age which I find quite great and I am happy with how I am as a person I've never really felt *different* I mean we're all different . Everyones lives are different too as well too\n\nI'm a very youthful person which is amazing and nobody can really complain about that of course what I mean im not someone who is *responsible* in the sense of a job etc I don't feel the need of a job I'm responsible in other areas though\n\nI'm a very unique person and lovely person I just sometimes feel like a outcast sometimes considering that I'm mentally younger then my age I mean you're mind can only go far and I see life in a very beautiful way and I want to be accepted as I am and loved as me and do things my own way without feeling like I have to change myself to fit the standards of a true 30 + yr old\n\nI love who I am and I want everything I want in life just like everyone else and still be seen as I am despite my age and how I think and see life ❤❤❤❤\n", "date": "1688794269", "thread_id": "308361", "title": "Want to be accepted ❤❤❤❤", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Wanttobeaccepted_308361/" }

[ { "author": "YourCaringConfidant", "content": "<p>@LovelyFrog8934 I accept you as you are, that's for sure. You never have to feel like you have to change yourself and be someone you are not just to be like everyone else. You stand out from the crowd and just live your life the way that's best for you. Live your life in the way that makes you happy. ♡ Why would you ever want to be like everyone else? It's ok if you are youthful and don't \"act your age\". There's something with all of us. The way I see it is you only get one life to live. Being youthful, playful, and happy has no age limit. Make your life what you dream it to be. You're beautiful, kind, special, and important.  Never change. I accept you. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3308690", "thread_id": "308361", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Wanttobeaccepted_308361/" }, { "author": "LovelyFrog8934", "content": "<p>This is so sweet of you I really appreciate it and I appreciate you so much for making me feel so authentic and being a part of my life and being a loving friend and person. I knew you'd be the 1st one to respond which is amazing! ❤❤❤❤</p>\n<p>I know right now I feel better knowing that a least one person so far gets me </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Its really a unique feeling I feel like a teenager/ adult very young soul vibes ❤ I wouldn't change it for anything all you can be is Yourself!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3308690,nil" ], "post_id": "3308737", "thread_id": "308361", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Wanttobeaccepted_308361/" } ]

{ "author": "theiariese", "content": "hello, just wanna ask if anyone here has experienced having a lump behind their ear ? I am just so anxious knowing that this could be cancerous... the thought of this lump might end my life is bothering me since the day i discovered i have it.\n", "date": "1688823867", "thread_id": "308366", "title": "lump", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/lump_308366/" }

[ { "author": "hopefulPond6108", "content": "<p>@theiariese It may be nothing to worry about. Have you asked anyone to look at it? Take a picture of it?  The shape, size and color might give you some information. You might want to make an appointment with a dermatologist just to be sure. Not all cancers are fatal.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3308732", "thread_id": "308366", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/lump_308366/" } ]

{ "author": "gentleEast6571", "content": "i want to know more about other people’s symptoms of anxiety but is it normal that when im experiencing anxiety i feel lightheaded like im going to faint. i also experience this sensation of smelling this weird scent before going into panic mode. this always happens with my anxiety and is only triggered when i have anxiety.\n", "date": "1644372917", "thread_id": "270874", "title": "anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/anxiety_270874/" }

[ { "author": "airbendxkay", "content": "<p>I for sure get the lightheaded feeling. It’s the panic feeling so overwhelming that it makes me lose focus on everything. I don’t have the smell thing but I feel like my senses are in overload. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2882027", "thread_id": "270874", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/anxiety_270874/" }, { "author": "amiableBlackberry92", "content": "<p>I have many symptoms physical and mental from my anxiety. I scored in the severe on anxiety tests . I'll give the short list....</p>\n<p>Globus/ throat lump.</p>\n<p>Teeth grinding </p>\n<p>Inability to breath.</p>\n<p>Inability to sleep </p>\n<p>Inability to eat.</p>\n<p>Nail biting.</p>\n<p>Dizzy.</p>\n<p>Headaches </p>\n<p>Neck pain.</p>\n<p>Crying.</p>\n<p>I'm sorry your dealing with anxiety. I see a therapist to help me with mine. It does help and it's something I recommend. </p>\n<p>I hope my post helped you somewhat.</p>\n<p>Best ABB 💜</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2882083", "thread_id": "270874", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/anxiety_270874/" }, { "author": "littleBarry177", "content": "<p>@gentleEast6571 Hi. Maybe you can ask for professional help. I think it will be better. Hope you can get better.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3308552", "thread_id": "270874", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/anxiety_270874/" } ]

{ "author": "warmheartedNectarine7064", "content": "Always having to write stuff down and remember it exhausting hate doing things wrong. Or things I'm not perfect at cant deal with it\n", "date": "1621613066", "thread_id": "248553", "title": "Anxiety ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_248553/" }

[ { "author": "NaomiR", "content": "<p>@warmheartedNectarine7064 those are tough struggles for sure. You might find this self-help guide useful https://www.7cups.com/anxiety-help/ and I know you'll find community support and other people who have experienced the same things and know what you're going through!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2678248", "thread_id": "248553", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_248553/" }, { "author": "littleBarry177", "content": "<p>@warmheartedNectarine7064 I also afraid mess up something. Actually, I sometimes take note to avoid missing something. Don't worry. I think you can give yourself time to improve it. Or try to accept it. Maybe it is the right kind of way for you. Although you have to remember it. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3308551", "thread_id": "248553", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_248553/" } ]

{ "author": "RavenTheVeil", "content": "My anxiety is so bad. I hate myself for it. I can't do normal things like other people can; I can't talk to people without having a full blown panic attack, I even got my drivers license a few months ago and I barely drive or get out because I'm terrified. I make myself nauseous thinking about it. I worry about every little thing and family gets annoyed at me about something I can't help. I feel trapped and alone. I don't know how to cope with it.", "date": "1616868494", "thread_id": "243400", "title": "Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Anxiety_243400/" }

[ { "author": "eyecgurlsupport", "content": "<p>hello, i just want you to know you’re not alone. i feel the same way, it’s hard for others to understand how severe my anxiety has changed my daily activities. sometimes friends invite me out and i freak out over it and they just want to hang out and get frustrated.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2635089", "thread_id": "243400", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Anxiety_243400/" }, { "author": "carambole", "content": "<p>Have you tried the scale approach? Make a list of people that you are not very scared to talk to (e.g. cashier at supermarket) up to those that make you panic (e.g. cute girl). Then start very slowly to confront your fears on a small scale. Reward yourself when you meet a challenge. This is how I improved my social anxiety: going out of my way chatting to unmeaningful people like a random guy at a bus stop. It's scary, but it gets better.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2636737", "thread_id": "243400", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Anxiety_243400/" }, { "author": "littleBarry177", "content": "<p>@RavenTheVeil Hi. I can understand. I sometimes mess up something because of my anxiety. You are not alone. Maybe try to do not force yourself, and take little steps. Let us get better.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3308544", "thread_id": "243400", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Anxiety_243400/" } ]

{ "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "Lately I’ve been doing so good with my anxiety. I found out that I barely had any energy and I needed vitamins. I started taking vitamin B12 and it helps me a lot, since I also am anemic. For stress and anxiety I started taking Ashwagandha. Boy, have they helped me out so much. I’ve been able to take the B12 in the morning and the Ashwagandha at around 5pm or 6pm to sleep really good throughout the night. I started off with small dosages, not the recommended on the bottle since I didn’t know how my body would react to it. Thankfully they both helped me so much. I don’t feel groggy or without energy anymore. I feel really good.\n", "date": "1688480419", "thread_id": "308182", "title": "I figured it out .", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ifigureditout_308182/" }

[ { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie Sooo happy for youuu!💛</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305897", "thread_id": "308182", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ifigureditout_308182/" }, { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>im so glad to hear that you have been able to figure your anxiety. i am sure that is relieving for you</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3308516", "thread_id": "308182", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Ifigureditout_308182/" } ]

{ "author": "Alyssav89", "content": "Hello\n\nI've been having a lot of trouble (for a long time honestly) with not thinking about time. I feel anxious while I think about it and try to maximize the time I do have. And yet, I find myself laying around, sleeping in, distracting myself with social media where I could be maximizing my time. My husband tells me try not to worry because the only time we really have is now. Pretty much be present. Which I try to do. But this has been a problem of mine for a long time. Now that I'm older, with 2 kids, I find myself focusing even more on time.\n\nI remember being younger and my father being sort of the same way. Even now, he likes to talk about the past or what could be in the future. A lot of our talks are time related. It's gotten to the point where I've retreated and don't talk with him as often as I'd like. It's the same with my mother. So in a way, I'm cutting myself off from them ans that makes me sad. Sidenote: there's other issues there besides just what I mentioned above.\n\nAnyway, I don't think I'm looking for advice. I just wanted to vent and see if anyone else can relate. I hope I can somehow learn to be better with this issue.\n\nThank you for reading.\n", "date": "1688703108", "thread_id": "308315", "title": "Focused on time", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Focusedontime_308315/" }

[ { "author": "Mdreaming101", "content": "<p>@Alyssav89</p>\n<p>We can't give advice on here per guideline. </p>\n<p>I understand your focus on time. I am like that too now since my b-day. I can understand why time is important to me, why is time important to you? </p>\n<p>It is impossible to remove time from our daily life, as we are fixated on time from scheduling, planning, to even calculating the time needed for our daily activities. Sometimes I feel like I have 10 pages of to-do tasks, but not enough hours in a day. This is even more often when I was working a full time job and a part time job. It got so overwhelming, I just opt to not do anything \"productive.\" Nowadays, I either avoid things or I procrastinate. I feel what you do, sounds a little like avoiding things by distracting yourself with \"unproductive\" tasks. We live in a rush and hustle culture, that most people feel the need to always be \"productive\" - at least in my world. It's okay to settle down and scroll through social media or lay around. The key is moderation. Doing excessively isn't healthy. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3307815", "thread_id": "308315", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Focusedontime_308315/" } ]

{ "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "I don’t know what I should do jobwise. My aupervisors ignore all the ways I go above and beyond at my job and constantly criticize me for little, superficial things\n\ni don’t know if I want to date although I’ve always had the desire to be married until now. I don’t know if I can trust as the last man I took a chance on took advantage of me.\n\ni don’t know if my friends are true.\n", "date": "1688698131", "thread_id": "308312", "title": "Overwhelmed", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Overwhelmed_308312/" }

[ { "author": "Mdreaming101", "content": "<p>@neatBlueberry5213</p>\n<p>You remind me of myself and my current struggle. </p>\n<p>Regarding your job, it might be better for you to seek employment elsewhere if your boss isn't acknowledging your work and finding every small thing to be unhappy about. </p>\n<p>About dating, don't settle for desperation or just because you're lonely. Take it slow and find someone you feel love and will be there for you long term. Don't be afraid to walk away from those who does not appreciate you. Not all people deserve to be in your life. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3307811", "thread_id": "308312", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Overwhelmed_308312/" } ]

{ "author": "Clairebear233", "content": "I have been dealing with anxiety my whole life can anyone else relate?\n", "date": "1614356662", "thread_id": "240375", "title": "Anxiety ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }

[ { "author": "Moat", "content": "<p>Absolutely. I remember being in kindergarten at 5 years old and just being so self aware and worried. I just felt trapped in my body. Still do.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2602441", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }, { "author": "Clairebear233", "content": "<p>@Moat The first time I experienced anxiety was in high school and even now I have anxiety about going outside or going to work</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2602441,nil" ], "post_id": "2602504", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }, { "author": "Moat", "content": "<p>I feel for you. It sucks.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2602510", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }, { "author": "compassionateHope27", "content": "<p>I'm really sorry you've been dealing with anxiety.  I know firsthand that it is really difficult.  I've been very socially anxious almost my entire life.  Just know that you are not alone.  You're so brave for simply sharing this. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p>If you'd like you can send me a private message and we can talk it out.  </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2604672", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }, { "author": "Clairebear233", "content": "<p>Thanks</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2604672,nil" ], "post_id": "2604683", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }, { "author": "calmWishes2119", "content": "<p>Hey there! I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling! I too have had anxiety since high school! How do you cope with your anxiety? If you ever want to talk or brainstorm some coping skills please feel free to message me anytime! I am here for you! You are not alone!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2604749", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }, { "author": "Clairebear233", "content": "<p>I cope with my anxiety by reading books, working out and listening to music</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2604749,nil" ], "post_id": "2605562", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" }, { "author": "littleBarry177", "content": "<p>@Clairebear233 I am sorry to hear that. I think i also be feel anxious about something. Maybe get some help. Hope we will be better.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3307759", "thread_id": "240375", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240375/" } ]

{ "author": "neatMelon4012", "content": "My anxiety has taken over my whole life. It’s very difficult to do things with my anxiety always being high. I can’t really get a job when I need to the most right now. I barely leave my house because I’m scared of having anxiety attacks", "date": "1614711630", "thread_id": "240929", "title": "Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240929/" }

[ { "author": "amiableBlackberry92", "content": "<p>Hi melon, I get it, my anxiety has not served me well. I lost my job last year because of anxiety. I don't go far either just therapy. Therapy and meds help. I hope this helps you. Your not alone . ABB</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2607471", "thread_id": "240929", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240929/" }, { "author": "littleBarry177", "content": "<p>@neatMelon4012 I think i also anxiety. I will not be able to concentrate on something because of this. Maybe get some help. Hope you will be better.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3307758", "thread_id": "240929", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Anxiety_240929/" } ]

{ "author": "SA111979", "content": "I am afraid of driving. I don't know why or where it stems from but I hate highways. Even w gps I feel like I'm afraid I'll get lost or freak out and cause an accident. It's hard because I'm so limited when where I can drive. Anime else feel this way?\n", "date": "1644031245", "thread_id": "270528", "title": "Driving", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/Driving_270528/" }

[ { "author": "ambitiousPeach8888", "content": "<p>I COMPLETELY get this feeling. The day I took my permit test I had to go to the ER with my first migraine because I was so stressed about the thought of having to drive. Since then it's been about 2 years and in my early stages I had panic attacks while driving. I would involuntarily cry if someone talked to me about it. My fear stemmed from fear of getting lost or dying because I didn't trust myself. Today, I am driving around my small town every week at least to learn and I don't cry anymore. I think the key to getting better with it us learning to trust yourself, have someone you really trust with you, and time. Time adjusts you and it may help. I hope this let you know you're not alone, bc I too thought I was alone.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2878746", "thread_id": "270528", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/Driving_270528/" }, { "author": "discreetKitten2439", "content": "<p>A familiar issue, unfortunately. When I gave birth to my second baby, I had some postpartum hormonal disbalance that ended up with increased anxiety. So I had issues with driving too. I live in San Francisco, so at steep hills or near the tram line I could feel a bit uncomfortable. Needed to work this thing out with a psychologist, who managed to normalize my emotional status. But she also recommended me this <span><a href=\"https://www.driveaxis.ca/blog/the-best-used-pickup-trucks-to-consider\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Link</a> where I simply bought a car that I could trust. Do you know what I mean? When you drive a car that you can trust, and you don't expect a breakage and other 'surprises' from it, this is also helping.</span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3290245", "thread_id": "270528", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/Driving_270528/" }, { "author": "powerfulEast299", "content": "<p>I get this to, no one understands, I feel like I’m the only one </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3307704", "thread_id": "270528", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/Driving_270528/" } ]

{ "author": "Christiland", "content": "I've been struggling with depression, anxiety, and stress for quite a while now, and recently found out that my husband was cheating on me. He works hard all day, hard labor, so I understood that he needed to go out to some local shows to relieve stress, and I would stay home with our daughter. He met someone there and he never mentioned to her that he was married. He took her out to bars, hung out with her, kissed her, while I stayed home with our daughter, and while he knew how badly I was struggling with depression. I have always put his feelings before mine, he was emotionally abusive towards me also. He's trying to change now that he realized that he could have lost it all. I decided to give him a second chance, but sometimes, I just feel so sad that he did this to me when he has put me through so much and sometimes I feel like I need to let him know how I feel when I'm feeling these things, but he just shuts me down. I'm still hurt. It barely happened one month ago... I just don't know, if he can't listen to me when I need it, what do I do? He says he doesn't want to argue, but sometimes when I'm feeling this way, all I need to hear from him is that he's sorry, but instead his guilt makes him react as if he's angry with me and my heart is just broken.\n\n", "date": "1688494675", "thread_id": "308190", "title": "I dunno", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Idunno_308190/" }

[ { "author": "blackcat402", "content": "<p>Hello, pardon my rudness, I just have something to say despite my young age and inexperience. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>If there is one thing I have leanred during my life, its that people don't change, and that they certainly do not deserve a second chance. Not once have I gained anything from giving second chances to people, I just have declared that I am available for them to use as they please and then toss me aside. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Don't let him use you as he pleases. If he does not understand the gravity of his sins, he doesn't deserve your kindness. Don't let anyone use you as some kind of a tool. You don't need him in your life, neither does your daughter. Both of you are strong enough to overcome his toxicity. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Seek help from a therapist. Don't sit around and hope for your anxiety and depression to get better, they won't. Your wounds won't heal until to seek their cure. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I spoke rudely, but please keep in mind I wish you the best.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Don't ignore your feelings please, you are just as important as he is in your relationship, if not more. Talk to him, and be clear with what you want from him, let him know you are not sacrificing yourself for him, for he does not deserve it. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Take care of yourself, and have a good day. :)</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306045", "thread_id": "308190", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Idunno_308190/" }, { "author": "Christiland", "content": "<p>Thank you for your words. I'm really close to my sis in law and she tells me the same thing. One thing I do know is that I do need therapy. You weren't rude actually, I appreciate your honesty. I don't know why, but it's been a tough moring for me today. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3306045,nil" ], "post_id": "3306051", "thread_id": "308190", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Idunno_308190/" }, { "author": "blackcat402", "content": "<p>Some mornings you just open your eyes not feeling like getting out of the bed, your mind gets flooded by all the problems and it somehow manages to make them seem greater than they actually are. On those mornings you just need a supportive figure and when you find yourself unable to find one, you just drown farther in negativity. I hope the rest of your day will be much better. If you wanted someone to talk to, I can lend you an ear. I'm no profesional and I'm quite young, but I'll be here if you needed me. :)</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Your sis in law seems like a nice person, btw. I'm glad she's there to support you. I'm also glad to hear you are not gaurded against therapy. It can really help in your journy of healing. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3306051,3306045,nil" ], "post_id": "3306055", "thread_id": "308190", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Idunno_308190/" }, { "author": "Christiland", "content": "<p>Thank you, sometimes someone to talk to helps me a lot and I don't really have much people in my life for that, so I appreciate the offer :)</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>She really has been my rock through a lot, I always let her know how much I appreciate her. Yeah, I've known for a while now, that I am in much need of therapy, I'm looking to see what works for me right now. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3306055,3306051,3306045,nil" ], "post_id": "3306129", "thread_id": "308190", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Idunno_308190/" }, { "author": "insidesunshine", "content": "<p>@Christiland<span> what you're feeling is a normal reaction. It sounds like you care about your husband, with trying to put his emotions before yours. I would totally feel hurt if I found out what you found out. It must be even harder to deal with while dealing with depression. </span></p>\n<p>It sounds like you're working to figure it out with your husband. I hope you're able to make space for your own emotions during this time. Seek support wherever you can to help with your broken heart. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306595", "thread_id": "308190", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Idunno_308190/" }, { "author": "Christiland", "content": "<p>We're trying and he actually has been more understanding, but yesterday I was having a really tough day with my emotions and just needed him to hear me. We talked it out, which is also something that wouldn't have happened before. Some days are just tougher than others to get through and it has been so many years that I put everyone before me and don't take care of myself and it has just gotten to the point where I need to stop being that way when I need to take care of myself too</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3306595,nil" ], "post_id": "3306825", "thread_id": "308190", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Idunno_308190/" } ]

{ "author": "onTheEdge247", "content": "I am sure there are biger problems and pain in this world than mine but everything else seem small compared to the pain I am in.\n\nNothing makes sense to me and I seem to do nothing right.\n", "date": "1686782457", "thread_id": "307082", "title": "Feeling lonely, anxious, tired and painfully sad", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }

[ { "author": "hopefulPond6108", "content": "<p>@onTheEdge247 I’m sorry you’re feeling these things. I found it helpful to not compare my pain and suffering to others’ “greater” suffering because it’s not too useful a comparison. One thing that I know almost always helps is getting more rest. Problems are always bigger when we are tired. I hope you find some relief.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3294008", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }, { "author": "bestTurtle618", "content": "<p>@onTheEdge247</p>\n<p>Your pain is your reality! and you have every reason to feel how you are, I find it very easy to compare how we feel to the bigger picture but I try to focus on how I am feeling for example. I find it helpful to try some soothing techniques like crocheting for example to try and calm my thoughts. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3297821", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }, { "author": "JayyyHereX", "content": "<p>@onTheEdge247</p>\n<p>You're allowed to feel the way you do. What might be tiny toothers, could be a mountain to you. It's okay to feel like this. The world can be a very confusing place at times. It's going to be okay. Find some ways to calm down - breathing techniques, meditation, etc.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298848", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }, { "author": "kindEmbrace4635", "content": "<p>@onTheEdge247</p>\n<p>I know that you may feel that your pain is small but all pain is real and valid. A quote that I have found useful is that \"We should not compare each others pain or traumas as it is not a competitive sport\". I hope this helps :)</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3304557", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }, { "author": "littleBarry177", "content": "<p>@onTheEdge247 sorry to hear that. Yes, if these pain can felt by you, it is worth paying attention to. It is important to pat attention to your feelings. Take care.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305502", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }, { "author": "femfatale", "content": "<p>@onTheEdge247 How we feel is how we feel! No matter how big or small it may seem, to us it consumes our day and mind. Your pain and feeling are just as valid as any other problem or emotion out there. I am so sorry you are feeling this way; I know how it feels myself. Even though you may feel like you’re not doing great, you are! You are here expressing your feelings and by making this post you are helping others realize they are not alone. It helps to write out our thoughts the way you have. ❤️</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305718", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }, { "author": "tinamehta543464", "content": "<p>Same..I m tired of life</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306667", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" }, { "author": "ChocolateCupcake24", "content": "<p>@onTheEdge247 <br>I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so low. Please don't disregard your pain, thinking that it's not worth your attention, any human suffering is big and important. The listeners of 7 Cups can welcome your pain with empathy and understanding, are you in touch with one ?  </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306800", "thread_id": "307082", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelinglonelyanxioustiredandpainfullysad_307082/" } ]

{ "author": "Shawnnaswag", "content": "Why did my panic attacks last so long\n", "date": "1688513911", "thread_id": "308195", "title": "Panic attack", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Panicattack_308195/" }

[ { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@Shawnnaswag I'm not a mental health professional, but there can be various factors that contribute to the duration of panic attacks, such as underlying anxiety disorders, stress levels, triggers, and individual differences. It might be helpful to consult a healthcare provider or therapist who can provide personalized guidance and support in managing panic attacks effectively.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306779", "thread_id": "308195", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Panicattack_308195/" } ]

{ "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "Hello! \n\nHow was everyones holiday? \n\nDo holidays give you anxiety?\n\nIf so, what are some things that cause your holiday anxiety? \n\nHow do you cope with it? \n", "date": "1688534118", "thread_id": "308204", "title": "Holiday Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/HolidayAnxiety_308204/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@heathermarie95</p>\n<p>I think some people have holiday anxiety because....... some people have the idea that they must have some amazing time or attend events or such when in fact there are no rules .... yet social media or the work place \" did you have a good holiday off \" questions make some feel put on the spot to keep up with their perceived expectation of others.  </p>\n<p>I have witnessed people go places they did not really want to  or do things because example  \" going camping or attending some BBQ or gathering  or big firework display\"   is more social media worthy then.................... i just had a me day and binged TV or watched a movie.... or took a nap. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306633", "thread_id": "308204", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/HolidayAnxiety_308204/" } ]

{ "author": "NewHorizon5544", "content": "Hey all,\n\nAnyone else get panic attacks so intense your blood pressure sky rockets and you feel like you are literally on the verge of passing out or even just vanishing from existence?!\n\nI am in therapy and do talk about panic attacks with a physciatrist who is prescribing a new medicine for me to try. \n\nAside from grounding ans breathing techniques does anyone have anything that helps quickly especially in public?\n", "date": "1680811854", "thread_id": "302514", "title": "Panick Attacks TW", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }

[ { "author": "Skansly", "content": "<p>@NewHorizon5544</p>\n<p>anything that helps you calm your racing heartbeat is good </p>\n<p>1. keep your hand on your heart and take deep breathe</p>\n<p>2. keep water bottle on your heart , if its cold water better . if you are sitting in public place just close your eyes and feel as if coldness from bottle is reaching your heart.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3245709", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "NewHorizon5544", "content": "<p>@Skansly</p>\n<p>Thank you for this, I will keep this in mind!</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3245709,nil" ], "post_id": "3245722", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "TheMadHatterWasHere", "content": "<p>@NewHorizon5544 What helps me when I get intense panic attacks is watching cartoons. If in public, I put my headphones on :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3246880", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "NewHorizon5544", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere</p>\n<p>Great idea, thanks a lot! </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3246880,nil" ], "post_id": "3247073", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "AccidentalTentacles0", "content": "<p>Hi @NewHorizon554, I hope you're doing OK. Intense panic attacks can be quite overwhelming and sorry you're experiencing them.</p>\n<p>What I have found helpful in those situations is listening to a calming song that I have pre-chosen, cold water (as suggested by others), and I have an anti-anxiety ring with little parts on that move which can provide a little distraction. I also have a puzzle game on my phone that takes some concentration and takes my attention away from what my body is doing.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3248037", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "NewHorizon5544", "content": "<p>@AccidentalTentacles0</p>\n<p>Hello 👋  these are great ! Thank you for sharing : )</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3248037,nil" ], "post_id": "3248936", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "optimisticpatient9779", "content": "<p>I try to focus on other senses. Cold rag on the back of my neck, maybe hot tea or coffee. Focusing on a song or noise. Maybe if I am feeling out of control I try to think of something I can control…..like breathing or coloring, etc. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>what have you found that works for you?</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3250042", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "intuitiveFan2816", "content": "<p>Yes, I keep things with me that have distracting and soothing textures, I have a favorite shirt that is fuzzy and stretchy that helps distract me from panicking, I keep little leather hearts in my pockets and I rub them in circles. I also use those noise filtration ear plugs, I have found it easier to deal with noises of leaving home with them. I put scented oils in a cotton inside of my mask, I have enjoyed rosemary, lavender, peppermint, grapefruit, bergamot, jasmine, orange, cedar. These do not solve my public panic but they have helped me to get through being in public without melting down or passing out. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3265422", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" }, { "author": "VaehStanifer", "content": "<p>How I help other people and myself during a panic attack is the 5,4,3,2,1 distraction method to take your mind away from seeing and feeling yourself in that state. So you ask yourself these questions and answer them as best as you can</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>What are 5 things you can see around you?</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>What are 4 things you can hear around you?</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>What are 3 things you can feel around you?</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>What are 2 things you can smell around you?</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>What is 1 thing you can taste?</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>If this doesn’t work I make myself detail every little thing I did in the day. And be as detailed as possible don’t try to sum it up. These two methods work really well for me in severe attack’s because seeing myself and hearing myself in a panic attack makes me continue to panic instead of calming myself. These help your mind go into your senses and memory to take the time and focus on your answers. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I hope this helps you and anyone else who reads this❤️</p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306614", "thread_id": "302514", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/PanickAttacksTW_302514/" } ]

{ "author": "Gigio25", "content": "Hi everyone. \n\nThis is my first time writing here so I feel a bit anxious about it. But I need some help. I want to make a change in my life and feel better. \n\nThis week I've been having really bad panic attacks and insurmountable OCD like intrusive thoughts as well as catastrophizing narratives that I just can't escape. I feel I get deeper and deeper into them and it's hard to let them go. Basically what's happening is I'm scared. I recently opened up to my partner about something that was very delicate and took a lot of vulnerability for me to share. It was about something I'm ashamed about but I wanted to share it with them because I want to be as honest as possible in this relationship. I love her so much and sharing this took a lot of bravery, that I am proud of myself for. She was a bit shaken when I shared my story, but was still understanding. She asked for some space but still reassured me that she loves me and will see me soon once she gets back from her trip. I feel bad because I communicated this news impulsively over the phone because the thought of not telling her was eating me alive. Perhaps this was not the right way to deliver my story but I wanted to communicate. I just couldn't hold it in. We spoke on the phone again last night. Reassuring me she loves me but that we just need some space to take a break. She said this doesn't mean we're breaking up, but that we just need some space to be on our own. She mentioned that she feels she's not the healthiest for me right now and vice versa. She let me know everything is going to be ok and to not worry. Once again the last things we both said to each other on the phone is \"I love you\". \n\nA couple days later, we're taking our space and I feel ok, I feel good I just think I need to make a change. I've had a pattern of communicating impulsively and creating a lot of stress for myself and for my partner. Not only this but it trickles outside of my life. I have a hard time focusing on work. I have a hard time enjoying myself with others. I have a hard time reading or watching movies. The change I want to make is creating a secure safe space within myself. I'm dealing with a lot of insecurity. I do think part of it is this feeling of codependency which I thought had gotten better until this week, when I had to become very vulnerable and felt I was going to lose her for sharing my story. Now I feel guilty and worried that I've been worrying. Like, can I exist on my own? Am I lying to myself that I'm ok and that I'm an independent person? Or is this just a hard time for me because I really had to be super vulnerable with someone I love so much and I risked it all to tell her the truth? I feel its the latter. It took a lot for me to be honest but it had to be done. And I know things will be ok. But I need some advice on coping and strategies for change in the future so I can live my life in the face of uncertainty. I worry that she might leave me still yes, despite all the reassurance she gave me. I worry that she'll tell people my very vulnerable story. I worry that I've made too many mistakes for this relationship to go on. I worry that I can't take feeling this anxious about everything anymore. I worry that I can't read books or write or watch a movie without my mind wandering off and creating stories based on triggers that could literally be anything. My brain will find a way to latch onto anything that will send me down a fear spiral. \n\nSo I guess, has anyone felt this way? Does anyone understand this? Does anyone have tangible ways to help ground yourself when feeling so immersed in horrible narratives? I don't want to self-sabotage and I don't want to be a burden. Please help!\n", "date": "1688406748", "thread_id": "308124", "title": "Im Suffering A Lot These Days", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/ImSufferingALotTheseDays_308124/" }

[ { "author": "JJDuctu", "content": "<p>@Gigio25 I´m very sorry to hear about your situation, I hope with all my heart it well get it soon.</p>\n<p>Did you consider seeing a therapist that can help you in a professional and ordered way to manage your situation? Is hard to take the step to go, but it can give help direct and in a non direct way because it help you to realize some factors you didn´t think about.</p>\n<p>About being \"self-sieged\" by your brain, just try to remember that it was designed to survive in the Savannah some thousands years ago, and not to be \"happy\" in a society with all the basic needs covered, so with time and reflection is possible to reduce little by little the importance of the information that is giving to you if you realize that if the information is useful for your everyday life or if is making it´s own movies about past or possible future scenarios.</p>\n<p>Other issue that may help you to clean dark energy is to do physical exercise, move your body on a way you want, no requirements of time or activity, only move your body for some minutes each day, it helps to release the dark energy and thoughts our brain generates and help us to sleep better due to the body tiredness.</p>\n<p>Please stay strong, each human being is important and have something unique to show to the world, we just need to learn how to quit the layers that is making everything darker for us, and show our real light.</p>\n<p>Wish you the best!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305144", "thread_id": "308124", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/ImSufferingALotTheseDays_308124/" }, { "author": "egret35", "content": "<p>Hi Gigio25</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I am sorry that you are struggling.</p>\n<p>I have felt like you feel most of my life. It is the desire to please others and to make them like you or at least not hate you. It can be terrifying, especially with a partner, because the relationship is so important to you. My therapist has helped me work through this problem. I think the thing that has helped me the most is working on my own self-esteem. Reading positive affirmations daily has helped me a lot. I try to take time twice a day for just a couple minutes to do this. There is a great free app for this that I use called Think Up. There are other apps you could use as well. Or you can just read them off a piece of paper. At first I didn't believe the good things I was saying about myself, but over time my mind began to shift. I now feel better about myself, more confident, and less concerned about what people think of me. I know that I am good enough and that is enough for me.</p>\n<p>Your partner loves you and there is a reason for that. You have great worth and your partner sees that and values that in you. </p>\n<p>As far as anxiety is concerned, I use mindfulness to calm me down. That is a technique which focuses your attention on the present moment (usually by focusing on your breath).</p>\n<p>There is a saying that I sometimes repeat to myself when I am worried about something. I used to worry constantly.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>In the past there is pain (regret, guilt)</p>\n<p>In the future there is fear (worry, anxiety)</p>\n<p>In the present there is peace (calmness, security)</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>You can't change the past and you can't forsee the future (unless you are Norstradamis 😁) So I try to let that go.</p>\n<p>After living so many years with fear and shame, living in the present felt like absolute bliss!!!</p>\n<p>That feeling diminished over time, and I probably take it for granted now. But it is So much better than it used to be.</p>\n<p>It is like carrying a giant weight all your life. Someone says, \"You know you can put that down, you don't Have to carry it.\"</p>\n<p>Putting down that weight is an incredible relief!!!</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Not every strategy works for everyone, but there are a ton of different strategies for dealing with intense emotions.</p>\n<p>I believe that for every problem, there a solution. You just have to find the right tool for the job.</p>\n<p>There is hope. The is absolutely hope!!!</p>\n<p>It requires effort, but it is worth it to feel at peace.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I would suggest Googling Mindfulness, positive affirmations, C.B.T. and D.B.T.</p>\n<p>I would also suggest seeing a therapist if that is a financial option for you. If not, I would suggest contacting your county's health and human services department about counseling options. If you already see a therapist you might ask them about attending a coping skills group. The groups I have been in have been invaluable to me and have brought me light years ahead in coping with my anxiety.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Another thing that my therapist has helped me with is in realizing that I am not responsible for regulating other people's emotions. I can only control my own actions, words, emotions, and intentions. Everything else is out of my control. That is good, because I don't need to put all my energy into making sure that other people are happy. Living that way is exhausting, frustrating, scary, and ultimately impossible. Letting that go has been a Huge weight off of my shoulders as well.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>You are complete, worthy, and whole.</p>\n<p>You have worth and you are deserving of love.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I hope you find this helpful and I hope you feel better soon. 😁</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3306047", "thread_id": "308124", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/ImSufferingALotTheseDays_308124/" } ]

{ "author": "conscientiousWheel4169", "content": "I use to be carefree. I used to be well-rounded. I use to have fun. Today however, I'm so bogged down in fear I rarely get out of myself to meet new friends. I think it gets worse the older I get. It's like, too many bad experience with humans. I feel safe and people can't mess with me when I isolate. I want to get a little back of who I use to be and some confidence that I am enough.\n", "date": "1683838936", "thread_id": "304935", "title": "Social anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Socialanxiety_304935/" }

[ { "author": "sooty41", "content": "<p>@conscientiousWheel4169</p>\n<p>I think that many of us can relate to how you are feeling. And i hope that you find 7 cups a safe place to be. Like you, i agree that the more we isolate ourselves the worse it becomes. It spirals downwards and leaves us feeling lonely and depressed. But, yes, it is also safe. Because no one can hurt us if we are alone. </p>\n<p>It may feel safe but it can become an isolating prison and hard to break out of. Was there a significant trigger for this change in behaviour ? Please don't answer that if it feels too personal or uncomfortable.</p>\n<p>I think trying to get back out into the world requires baby steps, to experience successful interactions and build up your confidence. I'm not a great talker, so i try to focus more on group activities, where you already have things to discuss, whether a book group, craft group...or any activity. It takes the focus away from having to talk about ourselves, which can be tricky.</p>\n<p>All the best and let me know how you are getting on. Big hugs xxxx</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3273260", "thread_id": "304935", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Socialanxiety_304935/" }, { "author": "M4LIN", "content": "<p>@conscientiousWheel4169 I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. If I may ask, how do you experience the fear when you're thinking about or doing things that include social interaction? Like what happens physically and what thoughts pops up, or whatever you feel okay sharing. </p>\n<p>Take care. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291907", "thread_id": "304935", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Socialanxiety_304935/" }, { "author": "Bailey1111", "content": "<p>@conscientiousWheel4169</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Feeling like this is totally understandable, and is what so many people feel like on a day to day basis at the moment. It feels like socially, you can't trust anyone, and after some experiences it can be so difficult to restore any positive outlook you may have had on the world. It sounds like you have become introverted and now social interaction is intimidating and scary, that must be extremely difficult for you. Especially considering the contrast between your current position and your old self. I completely understand the way you are feeling \"bogged down\", and that life just hasn't been very good to you, and feel paralyzed and restricted and like you can never return to your old self, but you will get there eventually, because anyone who seeks happiness will eventually find it. I completely understand the comfort you received / experienced when you isolated, but its best to acknowledge that this is the flight response, and that doing this can make a problem seem ten times worse than it actually is. I recommend trying to imagine, the best social future for yourself, and then write a plan on how to achieve it. Don't worry if you don't stick to the plan, that exercise is just helpful to help you realize that your ideal is within reach, you just have to risk opening up with potentially bad but probably good people again. You might have had a tough time, but now you have something younger you didn't have, wisdom! This is what makes it increasingly likely you will choose the right people this time, so don't doubt yourself. You have got this!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305320", "thread_id": "304935", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Socialanxiety_304935/" }, { "author": "littleBarry177", "content": "<p>@conscientiousWheel4169 Air hug, I know this feeling. It is not easy to change, but we may can take baby step. I think the most important thing is follow yourself, and don't force yourself. Hope you can feel better.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305498", "thread_id": "304935", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Socialanxiety_304935/" } ]

{ "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "I've had a few big bomb drops on me lately, and it hits me in the gut complete whenever someone says \"I have something important to talk about.\"  I go into full on panic mode.  Whether or not I know what the person wants to talk about, I melt down.  I just can't deal with big issues.  Because they all seem to come to me and I'm overloaded.\n\nI just don't know what to do anymore but I'm constantly walking on eggshells and just - scared.  It's making me hide from people or run away from them.  I know that's not good, but I'm just trying to protect myself.  It's like I want everyone else to deal with the stuff, and then just come to me and say \"we figured it out, and it's okay, and you can relax.\"\n\n", "date": "1687275824", "thread_id": "307414", "title": "How to Deal With Big News", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/HowtoDealWithBigNews_307414/" }

[ { "author": "MeaningfulSilence", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma </p>\n<p>Hello there thoughtfulmomma!</p>\n<p>It's not bad that you want to protect yourself. 💜 If something makes you feel overwhelmed and gives you anxiety, you shouldn't be forced to listen to it.  </p>\n<p>Relax, do things you like and keep on with your self care that is \"asking you\" to set high boundaries with those that reach you out to share things you are uncomfortable hearing.</p>\n<p>I've heard sometimes we should also \"detox\" from the News for a while, focusing on different things. I understand your need to be less exposed to people's problems, I hope those you know can also understand that your well-being is important.</p>\n<p>Take good care of yourself!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3300328", "thread_id": "307414", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/HowtoDealWithBigNews_307414/" }, { "author": "WatermelonLover22", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma</p>\n<p>Dealing with big news can be incredibly stressful and overwhelming for a lot of people, especially if they have had difficult past experiences, but I'm proud of you for opening up on the internet as that is a really brave thing to do. I completely understand why you feel like this and considering you have had \"a few big bomb drops\" on you recently then you have every right to. Like meaningfulsilence said, its totally okay to want to protect yourself, don't feel bad, if something is giving you anxiety it's within your right to step away to try and restore a peaceful mind. You say, you want them to figure it out without involving you, and that would be amazing in the short term, and then maybe, come back to receiving the news slowly in small steps after several months when your mind is in a healthier state. This way, you won't be preventing your development. For the present though, have you ever thought about telling your friends / family how much this is troubling you? Maybe it is also important to find ways to relax or things you enjoy doing as a better way of expressing your emotions instead of just running away or hiding from them. I completely understand you feel like breaking down whenever someone even remotely hints that they have got news - randomness really doesn't help and can cause you to overthink about your issues. I understand how difficult it is, but I believe in you, and the 7cups community are all here for you! You will get through this, you just need to believe in yourself! Have a wonderful day, and I wish you an amazing life, please look after yourself, and remember you are loved! Stay safe and best wishes!<br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3305342", "thread_id": "307414", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/HowtoDealWithBigNews_307414/" } ]

{ "author": "goldenstar2001", "content": "i ve never had any problems sleeping since now. for 4 days, i ve been living ***. i called the ambulance twice, they told me that i am ok and that it only dependsnon myself. everytime a put myself to sleep i start pannicking that i would't fall asleep. i have 2 exams left and because of the sleep deprivation (i slept 1 hour last night) i can t learn anything. i tried anything from youtube, from breathing techniques to subliminals, but i don't know how to cope with it. any help?\n", "date": "1688372741", "thread_id": "308101", "title": "sleep anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/sleepanxiety_308101/" }

[ { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@goldenstar2001 </p>\n<p>Sometimes the worst thing we do for ourselves when we can't sleep is to force ourselves to sleep.  Rather than putting pressure on yourself to sleep, just try to rest and relax.  Do you have music that makes you feel good?  Play some of that music.  Do you like watching a TV show or a movie?  Put it on.</p>\n<p>I know everyone says that you should shut off all the devices at least 30 minutes before sleeping, but I don't think that works for people with anxiety all the time.  For me, I feel better when I hear some noise from the TV or podcast or video.  It distracts my brain and helps me fall asleep.</p>\n<p>There are some great podcasts, YouTube videos that are all about sleep stories. (Think bedtime stories for adults.)  Those are great for me.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3304926", "thread_id": "308101", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/sleepanxiety_308101/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "I cleaned up early this morning after my kiddos last night, and I got dressed and ready for our nature walk this morning with no anxiety about the time we actually go\n", "date": "1684923547", "thread_id": "305719", "title": "Morning routine", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Morningroutine_305719/" }

[ { "author": "SparklingSeashells", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091</p>\n<p>A nature walk sounds lovely! Do you enjoy listening to bird song, for example?</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3282526", "thread_id": "305719", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Morningroutine_305719/" }, { "author": "kyrinkrystal", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286279", "thread_id": "305719", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Morningroutine_305719/" }, { "author": "kindEmbrace4635", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091</p>\n<p>That's amazing! I'm so happy to you hear you were able to go on a walk without feelings of anxiety. What did you do to help reduce your anxiety?</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3304558", "thread_id": "305719", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Morningroutine_305719/" } ]

{ "author": "Lilac4Roses", "content": "I have been having panic attacks for many years now.  Again and again with them I have agoraphobia.   Others think and say the usual ;  that all I need to do is just come out of my apartment.  Go do this and that, be around people and I will be ok. \n\nI do not want to go into a huge discussion or explanation with them.  I have tried to say, there are times I do have a hard time leaving my apartment. That I really do not like it but it happens and I am working on it.\n\nI do not know what else to say\n\n", "date": "1688249424", "thread_id": "308032", "title": "good afternoon", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/goodafternoon_308032/" }

[ { "author": "Robin7cups", "content": "<p>@Lilac4Roses</p>\n<p>It can be very exhausting to explain your struggle in details and people still not getting the idea. I really hope it gets better. The anxious and scary feelings are hard to deal with but rooting for you &lt;3</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3304219", "thread_id": "308032", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/goodafternoon_308032/" } ]

{ "author": "quickwittedKite5386", "content": "I needed somewhere to vent and where I won't feel bad for being an adult and not managing my anxiety\n\nI just fought with my sister, she's an adult too, we just argued, we didn't yelled nor got physical. But gosh, we have had this same disccussion multiple times and she just keeps doing the same. The reason was she was playing with one of our cats and then cat was breathing too fast. I told my sister to let her (the cat) rest but she said she could rest if she was tired. I replied she used to do the same with our dog, and that actually was bad bc our dog was sick of the heart. I frequently told my family to not make the dog exercise so much but they only stopped doing it when time after and by coincide, of sorts, we find out she was sick of her heart.\n\nRight now I can think I could've told her to just give the cat a few seconds but in our fight, I don't longer remember everything well, just what I wrote before, then I think she said the cat was ok, me saying intense exercise isn't good nor healthy and her saying the cat is fat.\n\nAnd now I'm thinking cat wouldn't have gotten fat if you would have played with her before, this wasn't an overnight situation... sigh\n\nAnyways I'm a bit glad I was able to get into a yelling argument bc she tends to explode easily and I'm still upset over our dog's and cat's death, but mainly our dog since dog lived longer with us, for 5 years and the cat only lived for a couple of months with us. Moreover I was closer with our dog. Well I guess I should talk to my sister on saturday since tomorrow is her birthday and she would definitely yelled at me if I bring it up\n\nUgh, I have work to do and I just feel like crying. I should cry but I know I'll end up all drained and work is almost urgent. so I should try to do whatever I can and then rest.\n\nTo whoever reads this I hope you can rest at least a bit today\n", "date": "1688092158", "thread_id": "307926", "title": "Journal 29th jun 2023", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Journal29thjun2023_307926/" }

[ { "author": "Robin7cups", "content": "<p>@quickwittedKite5386 I hope you're feeling better. If not sending, good vibes your way &lt;3 (sorry about the dog and cats, I adore animals so I can imagine the sadness of losing them) ♡</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3304209", "thread_id": "307926", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Journal29thjun2023_307926/" } ]

{ "author": "BeingTenzing", "content": "I loved someone with all my heart. For her, I risked my relationship with my family and friends. Stood by her during her dark phase. But she got attracted to someone else while keeping me in dark, I came to know of it and didnt confront her hoping to fix things. Tried to work hard to earn for her, but it wasn't enough. Then I went on a project where I simply talked with a girl, but she blamed me of cheating. I didn't cheat on her. She snatched my family and friends from me. I am suicidal and without anyone left. I gave everything I had to her and today I am left with nothing except a desire to just die.\n", "date": "1688236920", "thread_id": "308026", "title": "Why did this happen to me?", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Whydidthishappentome_308026/" }

[ { "author": "helloOcean562", "content": "<p>Any time you have a sense of anxiety pause, take deep breaths, count to 10 and tell yourself you'll be ok.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Write your feelings down in a notebook. Almost like a diary. Wherever you experience that anxiety write in your book, don't even think. Even if it doesn't make sense. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Reflect on your notebook on days you feel more level headed.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Look in the mirror. Literally everyday. Look yourself in the eyes. Tell that person you see \"you got this.\" Flex if you have to.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Excersise </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>One step at a time.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Be resilient for yourself. Your family/friend relationships can be fixed . It's just going to take time.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Do things you used to like. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Understand, you were a scapegoat to someone who was immature. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Create new music playlists that motivate you to grow. Listen religiously. Convince yourself you're ok because today your mind has convinced you that you're not. Thoughts are powerful</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>This is a journey. A marathon. And I'm rooting for you </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3303861", "thread_id": "308026", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Whydidthishappentome_308026/" }, { "author": "BeingTenzing", "content": "<p>I try to remain positive. I did everything for her. I did commit some mistakes out of anxiety and panic attacks. She clings to them to put tge blame on me. Though I never cheated on her.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3303861,nil" ], "post_id": "3304050", "thread_id": "308026", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Whydidthishappentome_308026/" }, { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@BeingTenzing</p>\n<p>so you loved her.... but she was ok in destroying your relationship with family and friends. She used you wanting you to jump through hoops for her .... but what did you really get in return ... found someone else behind your back then accuses you of the thing she might have done... </p>\n<p>You are too good for her she sounds narcissistic and you should be happy you got out of the relationship .. perhaps in time your family and those can see past your turning your back as we all do stupid things when we think we are in love.  </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3303919", "thread_id": "308026", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Whydidthishappentome_308026/" }, { "author": "BeingTenzing", "content": "<p>I cannot believe how people can change. Is money so important that it is okay to sleep around with married men for money? </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Just because I talked with someone, just talked, I was accused of cheating but what was she doing? I did all I could to provide for her. She was ok for 2 years and just as she shifted to another city, which she did with my financial helo, she started cheating on me.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3303919,nil" ], "post_id": "3304049", "thread_id": "308026", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Whydidthishappentome_308026/" } ]

{ "author": "TheMadHatterWasHere", "content": "I had this panic attack on monday. I was sitting in a corner shaking for four hours, while humming under my breathe and watching childish cartoons. I was shaking so violently that I had to hold onto myself, almost hugging myself.\n\nNormally I call my mom (yeah, I'm 26 yo woman calling my mom) when I have panic attack, but this time I felt kinda frozen, and couldn't really move. Paranoia moved into my mind too, and I didn't know what to do. I was so shaken that I don't even remember when I actually managed to fall asleep.\n\nIt was the worst panic attack I have ever had, and I had to handle it alone. I don't know, I just feel like *** now, and has been for days :S\n", "date": "1680198045", "thread_id": "301898", "title": "Worst panic attack ever", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }

[ { "author": "moonlightt11", "content": "<p>That sounds really rough , I'm so sorry you had to go through this , especially alone. Sending love </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3240051", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "TheMadHatterWasHere", "content": "<p>@moonlightt11 Thank you &lt;3</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3240051,nil" ], "post_id": "3258135", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "Peppery94", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere I'm sorry to hear about this panic attack. I understand the stress of panic attacks and I hope you are feeling better! It's the worst when you're by yourself and have to calm yourself. Have you tried reaching out to the crisis line? I'm not sure if you're in the US, but you can call 988 when you're having these panic attacks. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Something that has worked for me to feel better after is treating myself as if I am my own child. Be the parent you needed when you were younger and stressed out </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3254931", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "TheMadHatterWasHere", "content": "<p>@Peppery94 I can call them yeah, but I can hardly speak, when I have a panic attack. Mostly it's best to just call my mother, as she knows what it is about when I call late at night.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3254931,nil" ], "post_id": "3258134", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "Heart4art", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere I'm not an expert on this topic or giving medical advice. I'm only speaking from personal experience. During covid a Dr. dismissed my symptoms as me having a panic attack and told me I needed SSRI antidepressants and therapy....so I did what he said...and then I had another mini stroke, and then another one. It looked a lot like a panic attack! I have family members with a heart condition that was dismissed as anxiety for over a decade too! </p>\n<p>So it frustrates me to no end that mental illness is so stigmatized that other medical issues are often dismissed and overlooked. </p>\n<p>Anxiety can be a symptom of many other things too, sometimes it is just anxiety and sometimes it is not. I know it can be really easy to get down on yourself and feel like you are failure when this happens. I was doing it too...but it was not in my mind that my blood was clotting and my blood pressure was going through the roof, nor was the heart condition in my family's mind. </p>\n<p>What that Dr. did to me was called \"medical gaslighting\", it is not a mental illness in patient causing them to miss a diagnosis, it is a cognitive error and bias the Dr's part. I realized it had been going on most of my life with me and the Dr's I was seeing after that happened to me. </p>\n<p>I try to go to DO's (Doctors of Osteopathy) now because they get more thorough training on how the body works as a system. They have helped me the most!</p>\n<p>Hugs! I wish you the best!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3255111", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "TheMadHatterWasHere", "content": "<p>@Heart4art I am probably not having a stroke, but I will take it into consideration. Thank you for the reply :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3255111,nil" ], "post_id": "3258140", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "Lilac4Roses", "content": "<p>Thank you for your great suggestion of seeing Doctors of Osteopathy. I think it would be of help for me.\n\nHope your days are going better</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3255111,nil" ], "post_id": "3303190", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "Ifra123", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere</p>\n<p><span>Hey, I hope you're doing better now, it's okay to feel and have panic attacks. Anxiety, paranoia, and depression are all human emotions and we can have them at any age you don't need to be embarrassed to have to call your mom. A safe place can be anyone, your boyfriend, best friend, or mum.  Just know that you are not alone we are here to help you out :) Have a great day, sending peace and love.</span><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3258066", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "TheMadHatterWasHere", "content": "<p>@Ifra123 Just feels stupid though. I mean I'm almost 27 yo, and I have to call my <i>mother</i> late at night, bc I can't control my anxiety :S</p>\n<p>I do have paranoid schizophrenia too, so paranoia is a part of my day to day life. I'm just so tired of feeling like this. I wish it would get better, but apparently it doesn't. Had a panic attack last night and tried to handle it myself, which ended with me crying on the phone to my mother bc I was so shaky and scared.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3258066,nil" ], "post_id": "3258139", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere</p>\n<p>Hi, Hatter,</p>\n<p>How are you feeling tonight?  </p>\n<p>So what if you have to call your mother to help you feel better.  Honestly, no one here will judge you for needing to call your mother.  If anything, people here would wish that they could call their mother, or had a mother who cared, or wish their mother was alive, or just wish they had anyone that they could call.  I say you are blessed to have each other.  It's a good thing.  :)  </p>\n<p>I just wish I had some wonderful advice for you to.  Do you have a psychiatrist or a therapist or a psychiatric nurse practitioner or anyone in the mental health support that you can see?  Because I think you need help in the respect that this shaking and not being able to talk has to be extremely hard on you physically.  I can imagine that your brain is firing on overdrive while this is happening.  I'm sure you would love it if they could give you some medication that would control the shaking and not being able to talk.  </p>\n<p>And please let me apologize if I am talking like there is something wrong with you in a \"condescending\" way.  It just sounds like you have a mental health issue, like I do, like many people do, and like probably most of us on 7cups do.</p>\n<p>I had a thought.  Could you call a crisis line when you are not in crisis and tell them what happens to you and that when it hits you can barely speak.  Then ask them what they suggest for how you can communicate with them when this is happening to  you.  And/or ask them what they suggest, or if they have a process in place to help people who cannot speak.  And/or ask them if they can recommend someone who can help you.  It's so important that they can help you, and maybe they can help best--at first--when you are not in crisis.  :)</p>\n<p>Love and blessings,</p>\n<p>tree</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3258139,3258066,nil" ], "post_id": "3258791", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "faithfulBeechwood5614", "content": "<p>I absolutely agree with your comment. You should never be ashamed of contacting someone who’s close to you for help.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3258066,nil" ], "post_id": "3303767", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere</p>\n<p>Hi, Hatter,</p>\n<p>(big hugs)  I hate those shaking panic/anxiety attacks.  But I've never had one that lasted for hours.  You poor thing.  That must take so much out of you.  </p>\n<p>Take or leave this suggestion, for what it is, free.  My therapist and I came up with an idea to help keep my skills in front of my eyes, so that when I had an anxiety attack, I could see my skills when I needed them.  I made bracelets out of beads that spelled out my skills and put them on elastic.  Then I knotted the elastic.  If they looked cheap, it didn't matter.  They helped me.  The words were, \"meditate,\"  \"pray,\" \"ground,\" \"sun,\" \"water,\" \"dance,\" \"forward,\" \"refocus,\" \"deep breaths.\"  I wear them almost every day.  They have helped me.  They don't cure the anxiety attacks, but they help.  </p>\n<p>I wish I could ask for your address.  I would make the bracelets for you and send them to you for free.  I'd be happy to help.  </p>\n<p>Does  watching cartoons help?  I find watching mindless things help distract me.  I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I watch Dance Moms.  Those women act horrifically, but they are so much more messed up than me.  And the dancers are beautiful to watch.  I love to watch dance.  </p>\n<p>I talked too much about myself, but I'm trying to help, by example of what works for me and to say that you aren't alone.  You're surrounded by people like you who want to help the only way we can, by reaching out to you here.  </p>\n<p>Love and blessings.</p>\n<p>--tree</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3258164", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "TheMadHatterWasHere", "content": "<p>@purpleTree4652 I'm only happy to follow the suggestions. Thank you for telling me what helps you. Maybe some of it can help me. Childish cartoons or Disney Channel shows from my childhood mostly helps a lot, and I can kinda relax a little while watching. Deep breathes makes me panic even more, bc then I really realize I can't breathe like I normally do.</p>\n<p>But childish cartoons and some yoga programs works for me mostly.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3258164,nil" ], "post_id": "3258286", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere</p>\n<p>I'm glad that cartoons and yoga help you.  Those are great skills.  :)</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3258286,3258164,nil" ], "post_id": "3258670", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "<p>Sending love your way </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3263810", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "ClassyChicken23", "content": "<p>@TheMadHatterWasHere</p>\n<p>Hello Hatter, that sounds very frightening. We're here for you, have you tried grounding techniques such as the 5 4 3 2 1 method. 5 things you can see, 4 things you an hear, 3 things you can smell, 2 things you can touch, and one thing you can taste. Hopefully, that may help a bit. Although, if you need more support I would be happy to chat with you 1 on 1 if you would want to do that. :)</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3263991", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" }, { "author": "faithfulBeechwood5614", "content": "<p>Oh no I’m so sorry to hear that. I also get pretty bad panic attacks but definitely none as severe as yours. Whenever I get them, I try to distract myself from the overwhelming fear by thinking positive and doing things that give me comfort. I hope you’re able to overcome your panic attacks in the future.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3303765", "thread_id": "301898", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Worstpanicattackever_301898/" } ]

{ "author": "imaginativePenguin1204", "content": "Just wondering if anyone else uses speed cubing to help with anxiety or if anyone here just like speed cubing. My average time for a 3x3 is 50ish seconds.\n", "date": "1687814703", "thread_id": "307765", "title": "Anxiety and Speed Cubing", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietyandSpeedCubing_307765/" }

[ { "author": "Gettingbettertoday", "content": "<p>@imaginativePenguin1204</p>\n<p>Speedcubing sound like it would be anxiety inducing. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3301266", "thread_id": "307765", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietyandSpeedCubing_307765/" }, { "author": "imaginativePenguin1204", "content": "<p>I can see how it might be for some people but somehow it calms me helps me focus and makes me feel accomplished. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3301266,nil" ], "post_id": "3301304", "thread_id": "307765", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietyandSpeedCubing_307765/" }, { "author": "heavenlyWinter", "content": "<p>@imaginativePenguin1204</p>\n<p>hi there, sounds like you are doing great using it, i hope you can feel better always.</p>\n<p>☺️<br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3303730", "thread_id": "307765", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietyandSpeedCubing_307765/" } ]

{ "author": "adventurousHemlock4231", "content": "I have a super extreme anxiety and fear of storms does ay else have this problem? If so how do you deal with it ? I am not coping with it at all\n", "date": "1688152997", "thread_id": "307974", "title": "Storms", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Storms_307974/" }

[ { "author": "SolarGenerator", "content": "<p>I talk with God or someone that I trust @adventurousHemlock4231   https://ibb.co/HPV20QS<br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3303702", "thread_id": "307974", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Storms_307974/" } ]

{ "author": "KindPear", "content": "I've been panicking most nights again and every time I come onto this app to the chat groups the people aren't ever talking about what the group is about.\n\nI'm panicking and go to the support chat and it's just a bunch of pals having fun\n\nWhich is great except I need the support chat for support. I dont know where else to go.\n\nI feel selfish for feeling this way and I'm sorry. I just feel like I'm exploding a little bit and I feel out of control and telling someone sometimes helps and I wish I could find a chat that I could post in without interrupting a conversation.\n\nPanic attacks are horrible and I'm miserable and even 16+ years into this disorder and its still terrifying to panic and that just seems like *** yknow? What happened to exposure therapy the more you do it the easier it'll be\n\nCause that is not how anything has been for me.\n", "date": "1684467665", "thread_id": "305381", "title": "Rant.", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Rant_305381/" }

[ { "author": "AGirlWithAWeirdName", "content": "<p>@Kindpear</p>\n<p>There are a number of support groups here. However, if you don't feel like they are a right fit for you, you could just opt for a listener. It that also doesn't satisfy you, I'm always here if you want to talk. </p>\n<p>Warning: I'm not a counselor, therapist or a psychologist, but I can be a really good support system. I've been managing anxiety for years, so I know I can relate to whatever is going on with you. Hope this helps, cheers!!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3276313", "thread_id": "305381", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Rant_305381/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@KindPear </p>\n<p>I have to agree with you about the support chat.  It's more of just chatting about whatever and less about getting some group support.</p>\n<p>Panic attacks suck.  I've been having more recently.  Recent life events have taken their toll on me and I'm really getting sick of freaking out in the middle of the grocery store.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3284532", "thread_id": "305381", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Rant_305381/" }, { "author": "Lilac4Roses", "content": "<p>I do try to understand others and hopefully I can. I know I get to the point where I could just scream with panic. I have agoraphobia which is a nightmare. I agree having panic daily does not make for a relaxing way of thinking. You are not alone</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3303185", "thread_id": "305381", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/Rant_305381/" } ]

{ "author": "Laura", "content": "Get it off your chest!\n", "date": "1550157126", "thread_id": "193805", "title": "One word to describe my anxiety today is.....", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/" }

[ { "author": "greyphantom", "content": "<p>A puppeteer-monster which lives in my stomach, pushes his claws in it and plays with my nerves so my knees feel wobbly and I'm all jumpy.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908434", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Hopebutterfly", "content": "<p>Like an antagonizing wait in time while the mind goes wild, and i just roam in my own thoughts trying to peice things together to make sense, some comfort, some reality, but there's so many words and worries its hard to do so, but i try. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908436", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "ambitious9", "content": "<p>Annoyed. I try to stay positive then something new happens. Like I get it, this is life. But back to back 😪</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908465", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "enjoyyourself", "content": "<p>Painful</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908469", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Jeosph4u", "content": "<p>Anexity = Physics</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908496", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "fhhrsb", "content": "<p>Frustrating. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908501", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Crh7angel", "content": "<p>consistant and annoying </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908504", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "LonelyCowboy", "content": "<p>Awful </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908508", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "sensitiveangel31", "content": "<p>Disturbed</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908523", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Faithandtrustxoxo", "content": "<p>A change </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908525", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Sunshine444", "content": "<p>Not bothering</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908533", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "fizzyPika", "content": "<p>A low background buzz today.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908540", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "ThrownMyLifeAway89", "content": "<p>Manageable thanks to finally getting he right combination of medication.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908570", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Lateblooming", "content": "<p>Earworm</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908587", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "pamharley003", "content": "<p>not good</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908595", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "DinaElwy", "content": "<p>forever jobless</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908598", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "CocoMJ", "content": "<p>Freedom @DinaElwy</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908598,nil" ], "post_id": "1908644", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>I hope things get better for you my friend and don</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908598,nil" ], "post_id": "1908679", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "carlsita", "content": "<p>frenemy!!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908601", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "amiableIcicle94", "content": "<p>Today I have the high ground... But not by much</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908604", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "MicahMell2003", "content": "<p>Endless.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908612", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "CocoMJ", "content": "<p>Ageless @MicahMell2003</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908612,nil" ], "post_id": "1908645", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "bunniewabbit", "content": "<p>Contained. I think due to trying to help/understand so many other problems that people have, and offering what I can. It really helps me see I'm not alone, and that there's hope. I seem to be able to help so many with my words but never find it in me to help myself, but this is working, and it's amazing!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908641", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "GiaMou", "content": "<p>A leech </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908663", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "peachymeech", "content": "<p>@Laura<br><br>\nManageable, not so powerful and overwhelming today! :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908682", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "None", "content": "<p>Numbing.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908718", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "ipiscesi", "content": "<p>Consuming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908780", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "sunnyLemon239", "content": "<p>Forefront. Today is not a good day. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908784", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "kindPenguin2038", "content": "<p>Consuming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908789", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>I feel Drained at the moment from this weather and I</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1909488", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "specialLily88", "content": "<p>Nauseating </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1909821", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Darkmood", "content": "<p>Sickening</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1909837", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Faty13", "content": "<p>Scary..</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1909847", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "bgdave", "content": "<p>Crazy high</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1910085", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "magnificentMist55", "content": "<p>Chaos</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1910429", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "bgdave", "content": "<p>Terror</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1910951", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "lookingforsunshine41", "content": "<p>I'm more paranoid than i've ever been.I feel that people hate me and judge me,and something tells me I'm a burden to my friends and family.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1910959", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Pipimao", "content": "<p>@lookingforsunshine41 it's not true. All the reasons will be that YOU ARE LOVED; YOU ARE A CHILD OF HOPE AND MOTHER EARTH; YOU ARE A DESCENDANT OF THE SUN; YOU ARE WORTHY OF THE BEAUTY; YOU DESERVE TO BASK IN THE RAYS OF SUNSHINE AND HOPE; </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1910959,nil" ], "post_id": "1918242", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "mikenai22", "content": "<p>tiring...</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1917946", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>Relaxed </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1917959", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=3" }, { "author": "None", "content": "", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908206", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "EnergySensitive", "content": "<p>@Favor2020</p>\n<p>Thank you. Anxiety is actually the least of my worries right now.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908206,nil" ], "post_id": "1908314", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Rebekahwriter13", "content": "<p>bitter and painful</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908160", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>I hate to hear that my friend. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908160,nil" ], "post_id": "1908207", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Rebekahwriter13", "content": "<p>@Favor2020</p>\n<p>Thank you</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908207,1908160,nil" ], "post_id": "1908449", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Darkmood", "content": "<p>tiring</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908166", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>Get some rest my friend @Darkmood</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908166,nil" ], "post_id": "1908208", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "LilyBlossom21", "content": "<p>Subtle</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908170", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "MaryThelobster2", "content": "<p>Constant</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908174", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "helloKiwi4868", "content": "<p>Exhausting</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908176", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "straightforwardWatermelon9084", "content": "<p>Simmering</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908178", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "mikenai22", "content": "<p>headache</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908183", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "CocoMJ", "content": "<p>Sleeping tight is a good medicine. Take care! @mikenai22</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908183,nil" ], "post_id": "1908673", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "mikenai22", "content": "<p>@CocoMJ</p>\n<p>thank you coco. just that I find it struggling.... to even sleep properly</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908673,1908183,nil" ], "post_id": "1908744", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "ipiscesi", "content": "<p>painful</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908188", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "CocoMJ", "content": "<p>Go slow @ipiscesi</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908188,nil" ], "post_id": "1908725", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>Relaxed 😎 </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908205", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Grace843", "content": "<p>Too much</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908212", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "TheNadine", "content": "<p>transient</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908223", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "sensibleTriangle637", "content": "<p>Persistent</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908238", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "discreetJar301", "content": "<p>Overwhelming </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908245", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "taina27pr", "content": "<p>Extreme</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908261", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "anonywest2867", "content": "<p>Old</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908307", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Kissmyfreckles", "content": "<p>Scary and overwhelming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908331", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Cookieanu", "content": "<p>Non</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908333", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "JessiBee44", "content": "<p>BLAH!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908343", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "daydreamingdaisy", "content": "<p>Nauseating </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908353", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Sesianna", "content": "<p>Recurring, with the surety of the tide</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908358", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "bgdave", "content": "<p>Suffocating </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908366", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "IAmAnathema", "content": "<p>Monster. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908377", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "MMarie1994", "content": "<p>A reoccurring nightmare I can't escape. it comes and doesn't leave until I'm ruined and just when I start picking myself back up it comes and takes and destroys more of me.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908379", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "TherapistAngelaHere4You", "content": "<p>Unrecognisable</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908391", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "berryfields2409", "content": "<p>not here today</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908396", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "PastelTaffy", "content": "<p>Unberable and sofficating to the point my boyfriend saying I love you could through me into a panic attack </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908415", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Kite0219", "content": "<p>Menial, for being incomplete, uncompetitive , and generally lacking importance, tidiness, lol, and sobriety.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908417", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "crimsonPeach537", "content": "<p>mentally exhausting and restricting </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908419", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Rosemary0506", "content": "<p>Annoying I</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908420", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "Rosemary0506", "content": "<p>Annoying I</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908421", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "singingandhoping", "content": "<p>Isolating </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908423", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "jazmine1986", "content": "<p>to describe my anxiety today is nervous &amp; guilty, i'm sorry </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908424", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "acaiaboo", "content": "<p>Gone! (For today)</p>\n<p>did a reiki healing session and now I feel wonderful :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908429", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=2" }, { "author": "None", "content": "", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904496", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "sensiblePomegranate2990", "content": "<p>@Laura</p>\n<p>overwhelming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904496,nil" ], "post_id": "1904693", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "diligentTriangle9856", "content": "<p>@Laura secondhand</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904496,nil" ], "post_id": "1905788", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sycomancy", "content": "<p>@Laura bearable </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904496,nil" ], "post_id": "1908305", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Laura", "content": "<p>@Laura</p>\n<p>open minded</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904518", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Tanuj", "content": "<p>Unbearable</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904563", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "magnificentMist55", "content": "<p>Chaos</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904613", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "MoonOwl92", "content": "<p>One word to describe my anxiety is: Coffin</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904638", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "MoonOwl92", "content": "<p>@MoonOwl92 and it's not because I what to die, but I'm afraid of dying</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904638,nil" ], "post_id": "1904639", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "LooneyArtimus", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:16px;\"><span style=\"color:#000080;\">mutilating </span></span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904761", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "affectionateLunch7714", "content": "<p>Sparatic</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904890", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Emmur", "content": "<p>Manipulative</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904935", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "lilacfay101", "content": "<p>Shadows\n\n\n</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904942", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Mellietronx", "content": "<p>calm</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904987", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "CourtneysJeep", "content": "<p>my anxiety is my enemy</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904990", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>Do you take anything to help with your anxiety @CourtneysJeep</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904990,nil" ], "post_id": "1908356", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "CourtneysJeep", "content": "<p>@Favor2020</p>\n<p>no. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908356,1904990,nil" ], "post_id": "1908451", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>Well, you have several options here you can take vitamins, alternatives herbs for depression and you can take depression medication. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908451,1908356,1904990,nil" ], "post_id": "1908678", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Rozeee", "content": "<p>@Laura manageable</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905052", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Etain2019", "content": "<p>Lingering</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905358", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "pluckyScarf1412", "content": "<p>Controlling. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905481", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "thepurplejay", "content": "<p>Terrible </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905505", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "YellowOrchid", "content": "<p>heavy @Laura</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905609", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Seveck220", "content": "<p>Subsiding.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1906501", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Savageboigabiiii", "content": "<p>@Laura overwhelming </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1906653", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "13scar", "content": "<p>Procrastination </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907460", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "lycan9826", "content": "<p>Relentless</p>\n<p>Like a deathclaw from the fallout video games.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907717", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "LonelyCowboy", "content": "<p>Misery</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907727", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "MysteriousGrape830", "content": "<p><strong>Paralyzing</strong> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907889", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "lilacfay101", "content": "<p>Worthless </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908032", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "constantlyjen", "content": "<p>@Laura fluctuating</p>\n<p>Sometimes it's not too bad, and other time it's overwhelming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908043", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "HPS", "content": "<p>buzzing</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908106", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Artemis53", "content": "<p>Not as bad as usual thanks to my friends </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908141", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "SalidaSage123", "content": "<p>Overwhelming and Consuming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908145", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "dynamicCar8335", "content": "<p>distracting.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908149", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "determinedSummer25", "content": "<p>Annoying</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908150", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "ConfusedIndeed", "content": "<p>Comes and goes like waves </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908153", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "jazmine1986", "content": "<p>@ConfusedIndeed</p>\n<p>Same here</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908153,nil" ], "post_id": "1908521", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "ConfusedIndeed", "content": "<p>@jazmine1986</p>\n<p>Can u explain further </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908521,1908153,nil" ], "post_id": "1909322", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "EnergySensitive", "content": "<p>Intense</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908157", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>I hope things get better for you my friend @EnergySensitive</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908157,nil" ], "post_id": "1908206", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=1" }, { "author": "None", "content": "", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904496", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "sensiblePomegranate2990", "content": "<p>@Laura</p>\n<p>overwhelming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904496,nil" ], "post_id": "1904693", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "diligentTriangle9856", "content": "<p>@Laura secondhand</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904496,nil" ], "post_id": "1905788", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sycomancy", "content": "<p>@Laura bearable </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904496,nil" ], "post_id": "1908305", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Laura", "content": "<p>@Laura</p>\n<p>open minded</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904518", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Tanuj", "content": "<p>Unbearable</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904563", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "magnificentMist55", "content": "<p>Chaos</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904613", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "MoonOwl92", "content": "<p>One word to describe my anxiety is: Coffin</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904638", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "MoonOwl92", "content": "<p>@MoonOwl92 and it's not because I what to die, but I'm afraid of dying</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904638,nil" ], "post_id": "1904639", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "LooneyArtimus", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:16px;\"><span style=\"color:#000080;\">mutilating </span></span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904761", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "affectionateLunch7714", "content": "<p>Sparatic</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904890", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Emmur", "content": "<p>Manipulative</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904935", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "lilacfay101", "content": "<p>Shadows\n\n\n</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904942", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Mellietronx", "content": "<p>calm</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904987", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "CourtneysJeep", "content": "<p>my anxiety is my enemy</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1904990", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>Do you take anything to help with your anxiety @CourtneysJeep</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1904990,nil" ], "post_id": "1908356", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "CourtneysJeep", "content": "<p>@Favor2020</p>\n<p>no. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908356,1904990,nil" ], "post_id": "1908451", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>Well, you have several options here you can take vitamins, alternatives herbs for depression and you can take depression medication. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908451,1908356,1904990,nil" ], "post_id": "1908678", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Rozeee", "content": "<p>@Laura manageable</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905052", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Etain2019", "content": "<p>Lingering</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905358", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "pluckyScarf1412", "content": "<p>Controlling. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905481", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "thepurplejay", "content": "<p>Terrible </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905505", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "YellowOrchid", "content": "<p>heavy @Laura</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1905609", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Seveck220", "content": "<p>Subsiding.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1906501", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Savageboigabiiii", "content": "<p>@Laura overwhelming </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1906653", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "13scar", "content": "<p>Procrastination </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907460", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "lycan9826", "content": "<p>Relentless</p>\n<p>Like a deathclaw from the fallout video games.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907717", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "LonelyCowboy", "content": "<p>Misery</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907727", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "MysteriousGrape830", "content": "<p><strong>Paralyzing</strong> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1907889", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "lilacfay101", "content": "<p>Worthless </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908032", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "constantlyjen", "content": "<p>@Laura fluctuating</p>\n<p>Sometimes it's not too bad, and other time it's overwhelming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908043", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "HPS", "content": "<p>buzzing</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908106", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Artemis53", "content": "<p>Not as bad as usual thanks to my friends </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908141", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "SalidaSage123", "content": "<p>Overwhelming and Consuming</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908145", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "dynamicCar8335", "content": "<p>distracting.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908149", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "determinedSummer25", "content": "<p>Annoying</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908150", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "ConfusedIndeed", "content": "<p>Comes and goes like waves </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908153", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "jazmine1986", "content": "<p>@ConfusedIndeed</p>\n<p>Same here</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908153,nil" ], "post_id": "1908521", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "ConfusedIndeed", "content": "<p>@jazmine1986</p>\n<p>Can u explain further </p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908521,1908153,nil" ], "post_id": "1909322", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "EnergySensitive", "content": "<p>Intense</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "1908157", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" }, { "author": "Favor2020", "content": "<p>I hope things get better for you my friend @EnergySensitive</p>", "parent_ids": [ "1908157,nil" ], "post_id": "1908206", "thread_id": "193805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Onewordtodescribemyanxietytodayis_193805/?p=0" } ]

{ "author": "RestrictedSoul22", "content": "Has anyone tried taking 5-HTP supplements towards anxiety recovery? I ordered the Natrol brand 50 mg recently, so excited to see if this works.\n", "date": "1613680543", "thread_id": "239428", "title": "5-HTP Supplements?", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/5HTPSupplements_239428/" }

[ { "author": "RestrictedSoul22", "content": "<p>Well, the 50 mg arrived today. Took just 1 pill of it and already feeling super relaxed and clear-headed, the most that I have in years! Not worried about a thing - highly unusual for me. But feeling motivated and energized to get things done. I'm planning to just take 1 pill per day or just whenever I feel I need a boost - no more than that because I see this thing is strong. 50 mg is the lowest dose and it already had such effect on me! </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2595425", "thread_id": "239428", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/5HTPSupplements_239428/" }, { "author": "RestrictedSoul22", "content": "<p>Also, I want to add that 4-5 hours after taking it, I felt super nervous/anxious. Probably because I was worrying about if taking the pill was okay - this shows me that the pill's effect wears off quite fast (lasting only 1-3 hours at most). This is probably because it wasn't time-release. I've decided to be careful and consult my doctor before taking this further. So I would like to caution and advise you to be careful about consult a doctor before beginning to take it as well. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2595425,nil" ], "post_id": "2597130", "thread_id": "239428", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/5HTPSupplements_239428/" }, { "author": "RestrictedSoul22", "content": "<p>*to advise you to be careful and consult a doctor as well.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2597130,2595425,nil" ], "post_id": "2597132", "thread_id": "239428", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/5HTPSupplements_239428/" }, { "author": "MissSaint21", "content": "<p>Hello! I tend to have a fear of taking medications but within the past two years I’ve been on a vitamin supplement that was recommended by my doctor that is called ‘calm’ it’s basically a magnesium supplement since a magnesium deficiency has proven to be a huge cause for anxiety and when I take it, I feel better within seconds and has played a huge part in taking away my vicious panic attacks. Mind you, the anxious thoughts will still be there but easier to keep from full blown panic mode. Hope this helps and good luck!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2599779", "thread_id": "239428", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/5HTPSupplements_239428/" } ]

{ "author": "practicalOcean9844", "content": "Hello, I am not sure where to post this... I wonder if you could share your opinions? I experience pretty intense \"sonder\". I have been trying to see if if it is characterized under depression, anxiety or psychosis. I can't find an answer. What do you think?\n", "date": "1687970697", "thread_id": "307847", "title": "A question, your opinion", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Aquestionyouropinion_307847/" }

[ { "author": "Gettingbettertoday", "content": "<p>@practicalOcean9844</p>\n<p>Is this the Sonder you reference?</p>\n<p><span style=\"color:rgb(77,81,86);font-size:14px;\">\"</span><span style=\"color:rgb(95,99,104);font-size:14px;\">Sonder</span><span style=\"color:rgb(77,81,86);font-size:14px;\"> — noun. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own.\"</span><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3301942", "thread_id": "307847", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Aquestionyouropinion_307847/" }, { "author": "practicalOcean9844", "content": "<p>Yes it is. But it is so deep and strong. It sometimes comes out of no where and can even bring on a panic attack occasionally.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3301942,nil" ], "post_id": "3301957", "thread_id": "307847", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Aquestionyouropinion_307847/" } ]

{ "author": "kindEyes9789", "content": "Hey there, wonderful friends! 🌟 Are you ready to talk about how we handle those tricky moments when we feel anxious? We all have our special ways to make ourselves feel better, and it's awesome to share them with each other! 😊\n\nFor me, I have a special book where I write down things that make me happy. It's like capturing joy in my life 📔 I also love doing yoga at home and following the yoga videos on YouTube. It's like feeling and loving all the sensations in my body. I also live in a tropical country, which means I can go swimming whenever I want. I also spend time doing shadow work, which means exploring my feelings and thoughts to understand myself better 💫\n\nNow it's your turn! Share your anxiety-coping strategies with us. Remember, we're all unique and have our own special ways of handling anxiety. Let's support and learn from each other on this amazing adventure! 🌈💪\n\nStay brave and stay amazing, my friends! I'm sending you all lots of love and big hugs 🌟\n\n", "date": "1687834950", "thread_id": "307776", "title": "Let's Share Our Amazing Anxiety Coping Strategies.", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/LetsShareOurAmazingAnxietyCopingStrategies_307776/" }

[ { "author": "imaginativePenguin1204", "content": "<p>Some coping strategies I use are listening to music, writing my own songs, and speed cubing.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3301106", "thread_id": "307776", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/LetsShareOurAmazingAnxietyCopingStrategies_307776/" }, { "author": "kindEyes9789", "content": "<p>@imaginativePenguin1204 Hello! I agree that listening to music can make us feel happy and relaxed. Writing songs is awesome too! Is it your creative way to express your feelings? I'm quite unfamiliar with speed cubing. I've searched for it on Google. Is it like solving the Rubik's Cube in a fast way? If so, how fast can you solve the Rubik's Cube?</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3301106,nil" ], "post_id": "3301567", "thread_id": "307776", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/LetsShareOurAmazingAnxietyCopingStrategies_307776/" }, { "author": "imaginativePenguin1204", "content": "<p>Yes it is solving a rubik's cube fast. I can solve mine in 50ish seconds.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3301567,3301106,nil" ], "post_id": "3301568", "thread_id": "307776", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/LetsShareOurAmazingAnxietyCopingStrategies_307776/" }, { "author": "kindEyes9789", "content": "<p>@imaginativePenguin1204 That's awesome! Solving a Rubik's cube quickly is quite a skill. How did you learn to solve it so quickly? If I'm gonna be honest, I never try to learn the tips and tricks. I suppose there are tips and tricks provided online as well?</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3301568,3301567,3301106,nil" ], "post_id": "3301591", "thread_id": "307776", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/LetsShareOurAmazingAnxietyCopingStrategies_307776/" }, { "author": "imaginativePenguin1204", "content": "<p>I started learning how to solve one from a booklet. When I could solve it without the booklet, that is when I got hooked. After that I looked youtube videos and just kept growing after that. So far I can solve a 3x3 4x4 and a mirror cube.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3301591,3301568,3301567,3301106,nil" ], "post_id": "3301595", "thread_id": "307776", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/LetsShareOurAmazingAnxietyCopingStrategies_307776/" } ]

{ "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "My boss sat me down last week and spent the next hour telling me all the ways I'm failing at my job. No warning, no concern about tone or sensitivity when discussing, no thought to my well-being at all. I always give 100% at work and the unfair assumptions and incorrect beliefs she held about me and criticized me for were beyond hurtful.\n", "date": "1687813254", "thread_id": "307763", "title": "Poor Job Performance Evaluation", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/PoorJobPerformanceEvaluation_307763/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@neatBlueberry5213</p>\n<p>IMO giving evaluations is an item very few are good at...... </p>\n<p>As you said some beliefs or assumptions made were incorrect and while i understand you were hurt and upset ....Criticism is awful for most everyone..... no one takes it well IMO  </p>\n<p>Did you defend your work or provide information that would change her assumptions? </p>\n<p>What do you feel her assumptions were based on ... others perspectives or just disconnect as some managers really do not see day in and out performance. </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3301343", "thread_id": "307763", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/PoorJobPerformanceEvaluation_307763/" } ]

{ "author": "harley1313", "content": "My boyfriend an I have been best friends for 29 yrs, we have been together for almost a yr, an the past 3 months have been rocky, been working through them, well I thought we were but he still had a problem, now he left am won't answer my calls..4 days later he comes back, says it's my attitude an tone on how I say things, said it's been going on for a few years, an that I need to get help. Gives me a month to change. So now he left again, a week an half later, last comes back we talk. I cry, he cries.. he says he loves me..today he calls, see how day is going, light conversation about work, asked him since he sat an listened to me talk wed night, an if he didn't have anything pressing to do, I would like to talk an me be supportive an listen to what he would like or has to say. Said he would call me later, nothing, never called, I called rings till voice-mail picks up. Like he vanished again... I've replayed the past 2 nights, figure our if something I said wrong, but nothing... I'm lost an can't figure out or why?\n\n", "date": "1687496831", "thread_id": "307546", "title": "What did I do wrong?", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/WhatdidIdowrong_307546/" }

[ { "author": "fargnugget7510", "content": "<p>@harley1313 wow thats sad man. if he treats you like that you gotta let him go because, it looks like hes not there for you most of the time. i have a rule in dating for myself. i dont date ghosts (or people who ghost me)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3301269", "thread_id": "307546", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/PanicAttacks_49/WhatdidIdowrong_307546/" } ]

{ "author": "easyOak7689", "content": "Been in therapy for a while, things've gone downhill just very fast and literally have no clue how to do anything about it.\n\nSorry if that sounds vague, or if I'm rambling in this thing but I'm just so unclear and everything is so clouded. Like, I'm not even sure what I'm doing anymore makes sense. How do I know if I'm just overreacting, stuck in a loop, or if it's something genuine I'm struggling with?\n\n(Case in point, I've had a therapist but things went awry. Then the office which I was signed up with (and whom I really like the attitude of their site) offered me a new therapist but things went just so chaotic with my old therapist also the closure that I'm not sure I want to continue? But on the other hand I can see another therapist working. But the whole thing felt soooo bizarrely handled that I'm not even sure)\n\nSorry if this is a ramble I'm just feeling like I have no idea anymore. Am just struggling to make sense of what I want and things going completely haywire in therapy (isn't it supposed to be a calming place??) doesn't really help.\n", "date": "1687295308", "thread_id": "307437", "title": "Feel like I'm losing myself a bit", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/FeellikeImlosingmyselfabit_307437/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@easyOak7689</p>\n<p>therapy is hard work and sometimes things get messy.</p>\n<p> to be able to  get to the root of issues ...... before you can rebuild things seem to come crashing down. </p>\n<p>Changing therapists in the middle is an added complication and i can see you can be confused.  </p>\n<p> </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3300048", "thread_id": "307437", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/FeellikeImlosingmyselfabit_307437/" } ]

{ "author": "UncleFester", "content": "Having increasing issues at my job with anxiety. When I signed up for this I though it would just be computer work but it seems like the meetings are increasing. Now I have to do a presentation also, I feel overwhelmed, I feel people generally know which people are anxious and introverts and I feel they aren’t respecting my nature.\n\nI want to be left alone, I want out, I can work hard and long but why do I need to be in situations that aren’t my strengths. I’m not a person which doing more of these things helps, it just hurts and I want to vomit\n", "date": "1687459251", "thread_id": "307532", "title": "Work anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Workanxiety_307532/" }

[ { "author": "SolarGenerator", "content": "<p>It can be not fun to be in a situation that doesn't work with how you naturally are.<br>Like telling a fish to fly.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3299719", "thread_id": "307532", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Workanxiety_307532/" } ]

{ "author": "tealMelon1154", "content": "Recently, I have begun a new relationship with my bf. I have been having constant panic attacks, insomnia, undersleeping and feeling hopeless. I'm on vacation from school while my bf is 2 hours away near my uni. I don't think he believes that I have anxiety or that it's an illness that affects my day to day. Especially while I'm at home I think his past trust issues makes him overthink my anxiety. I feel like I've given enough love and affection but I'm tired in my life. My life sucks rn especially since I have family problems, financial and mental health problems. I feel like I would be better off isolating myself from everyone bc I just wake up everyday to a same old routine. There's no joy just sameness that kills me up inside. I've tried to be happy but it temporarily helps since it all feels fake. Everyday I wake up thinking how I wish I didn't have anxiety or just do anything.\n", "date": "1687026385", "thread_id": "307241", "title": "Wish I didn't feel this way ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WishIdidntfeelthisway_307241/" }

[ { "author": "genSo", "content": "<p>@tealMelon1154 do you wanna talk?</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298119", "thread_id": "307241", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WishIdidntfeelthisway_307241/" }, { "author": "tealMelon1154", "content": "<p>@genSo If you have time to listen I would gladly appreciate your time. But I don't want to inconvenience you however since you offered could you lend a listening ear?</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3298119,nil" ], "post_id": "3298882", "thread_id": "307241", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WishIdidntfeelthisway_307241/" }, { "author": "juliak1968", "content": "<p>@tealMelon1154 </p>\n<p>Hi, I'm sending strength, and also wanted to tell you that you are not alone - many of us feel the same way - and that's why 7cups want invented :-)</p>\n<p>Blessings, Day<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298907", "thread_id": "307241", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WishIdidntfeelthisway_307241/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "Excited about my future\n", "date": "1685615338", "thread_id": "306255", "title": "Right now ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Rightnow_306255/" }

[ { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091</p>\n<p>Yay! Sending good thoughts!🌻</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287877", "thread_id": "306255", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Rightnow_306255/" }, { "author": "trueconfidant123", "content": "<p>Woah @compassionateCar7091! May you have the brightest future and all your dreams come true.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289040", "thread_id": "306255", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Rightnow_306255/" }, { "author": "MattForHelp", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091 Really glad to hear, I wish you only the best. 😊</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3290628", "thread_id": "306255", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Rightnow_306255/" }, { "author": "JayyyHereX", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091 This!! This is what we like to hear! I am so so proud of you! Sending all the luck to you :) </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298850", "thread_id": "306255", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Rightnow_306255/" } ]

{ "author": "innateJoy9602", "content": "\"If you commonly wake up in the morning filled with anxiety, you are not alone. Many people wake up with fight-or-flight sensations and feel baffled as to how they can already feel anxious when their feet haven’t even touched the floor yet.\n\nA variety of factors can play a part in morning anxiety:\n\n \t* excess stress\n \t* low blood sugar\n \t* medication side effects\n \t* poor sleep\n \t* hormonal changes\n\nIf you struggle with morning (or anytime) anxiety, imagine the anxious feelings are your child and your wise, compassionate mind and respectful actions are the parents.\n\n \t* Offer yourself compassion and comfort. \n \t* Anchor yourself in the present moment.\n \t* Give your sensations permission to exist while questioning their accompanying stories. \n \t* Treat yourself like a loving, conscious parent would treat their child.\n \t* Reassure yourself that all sensations, emotions, and thoughts pass, and notice the effects of your own comfort.\n \t* If you tend to disapprove of painful emotions, try upgrading your self-talk and self-care.\n \t* If you wake up with a pit in your stomach, try compassionate self-parenting.\n\nLearning to respond to anxiety like how a loving parent treats a child can make a world of difference.\"\n\nRead the full article on Psychology Today [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-relatable-therapist/202304/how-to-deal-with-morning-anxiety] \n\n✨Takeaway: Anxiety can be triggered by negative thoughts, worries about the day ahead, and physical sensations like racing heart or sweating. Planning the day ahead, making a to-do list, and breaking down tasks into smaller steps can help reduce anxiety.\n\n✨Reflection: Have you ever experienced morning anxiety? What activities do you find most helpful in reducing your morning anxiety?\n\n#Anxiety #Emotions #MentalHealth #Morning \n\n-------------------------\n\nIf you liked this article, you may also enjoy: \"Why Do I Feel More Anxious at Night?\" [https://www.7cups.com/forum/AnxietySupport_53/AnxietySupportResources_412/WhyDoIFeelMoreAnxiousatNight_301456/] \n", "date": "1682117101", "thread_id": "303592", "title": "How to Deal With Morning Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/HowtoDealWithMorningAnxiety_303592/" }

[ { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@innateJoy9602</p>\n<p>Aww always up with amazing tips and comforting words, thankyouu, Joy!💜</p>\n<p>A splash of water on my face helps hehe, it has a nice calming effort! </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3257040", "thread_id": "303592", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/HowtoDealWithMorningAnxiety_303592/" }, { "author": "innateJoy9602", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p>That's a nice tip!</p>\n<p>That's also a quite easy step for me cause it already aligns with morning skin care routine hehe :p💜</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3257040,nil" ], "post_id": "3257282", "thread_id": "303592", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/HowtoDealWithMorningAnxiety_303592/" }, { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>oh wow, thank you for sharing this. it is very helpful. ive always wondered 😀</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298341", "thread_id": "303592", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/HowtoDealWithMorningAnxiety_303592/" } ]

{ "author": "Audaemus", "content": "i think people deal with anxiety their own way, feel free to share cause who knows, maybe you can help someone else\n", "date": "1684920135", "thread_id": "305718", "title": "Coping methods to help others", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" }

[ { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@Audaemus</p>\n<p>How thoughtful of you to open this space for everyone to share what works for them! </p>\n<p>More ideas are nice, since we can always continue to explore and try what works better for ourselves! </p>\n<p>What helps you cope with anxiety usually?💛</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3280175", "thread_id": "305718", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" }, { "author": "NewYorker11", "content": "<p>@Audaemus</p>\n<p>whenever i have feelings or symptoms of anxiety, i usually do something that takes my mind off of thinking too much, like listen to music or play some video games - something that is fun that will distract me from racing thoughts and/or emotions.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3280181", "thread_id": "305718", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" }, { "author": "resourcefulGlobe6827", "content": "<p>That's true some common coping methods don't work for me. <br>Sometimes I need to listen to some loud rock or rap and just let go. Sometimes it helps to speed up and get the energy out. Obviously peace and quiet is great too. I also love to watch comedy when I'm feeling anxious.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3281010", "thread_id": "305718", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" }, { "author": "lovingPiano9039", "content": "", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3283011", "thread_id": "305718", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulStrawberries9219", "content": "<p>i find it helpful when I put ice on my chest or really cold water on my face. I ground myself by walking barefoot on the grass. Talking helps a lot. Exercise helps to release the tension. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3285916", "thread_id": "305718", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" }, { "author": "Amakub28", "content": "<p>These are my ideal ways, also!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3285916,nil" ], "post_id": "3294017", "thread_id": "305718", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" }, { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>hello! </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>i find music, ASMR &amp; self-talk to be beneficial for me. it took me awhile for the self-talk to come naturally but a lot of the time it is positive affirmations. when it comes to music / asmr, i try to find calming sounds or even some of my favorite songs. at the moment i have a playlist called “healing takes time”, which consists of healing type vibes that are helping me through this healing journey of mine. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298339", "thread_id": "305718", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/Copingmethodstohelpothers_305718/" } ]

{ "author": "intuitiveWater8678", "content": "Anxieus after thinking i should let go my long term relationship\n", "date": "1687271824", "thread_id": "307410", "title": "Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxiety_307410/" }

[ { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>Letting go of a relationship can bring on a lot of anxiety especially if you been with them for long term. do you want to talk more about that? what are some thoughts you are having? </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298338", "thread_id": "307410", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxiety_307410/" } ]

{ "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "My supervisor just told me I have an evaluation with her and the two vps tomorrow afternoon to discuss my performance. I've had some really negative interactions with her the last few months and am so anxious. :(\n", "date": "1687277284", "thread_id": "307418", "title": "Job Evaluation Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/JobEvaluationAnxiety_307418/" }

[ { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>i am sure you will do wonderful! </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>what are some ways that help you cope with anxiety? </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>for example: meditation, music, movies, going for a walk </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3298337", "thread_id": "307418", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/JobEvaluationAnxiety_307418/" } ]

{ "author": "bearsfan1244", "content": "I am 20 years old and have been seeing a girl for about 4 months now. At first I was nervous as any other person would be to hangout with someone new in a romantic way. We both went to the same college and for the last 3 months of school we would alternate coming to each others room and spending the night occasionally. Everything was great and I did not see my anxiety worsen. About 2 years ago I was diagnosed with IBS and this is the main cause of my anxiety. I always worry about having to use the bathroom and that makes things worse. Now, my girlfriend and I live 2 hours apart. This has been happening for about a month now and we have alternated which house we go to once a week. The first time I visited her and her parents I created a lie so that I wouldn’t have to eat dinner with them. I told them I had plans and had to leave right when they were going to eat. I am so anxious about having to use the bathroom at their house and it being bad. I have expressed my stomach issues to her and she is very understanding, but I feel bad for not being able to eat dinner with them (due to my anxiety over having to urgently use the bathroom). I do not want to give up on this relationship as our bond is like nothing I have had before and I can tell she is really good for me. I plan to see a doctor soon about anxiety medication and one regarding my stomach problems but what should I do in the meantime? I can not keep putting off eating with her forever…\n", "date": "1686983446", "thread_id": "307206", "title": "Anxiety and Relationships", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietyandRelationships_307206/" }

[ { "author": "Clio9876", "content": "<p>@bearsfan1244</p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:16px;\">I'm so sorry to hear about your IBS. But so excited to hear about your new relationship! Its so lovely to hear about people falling in love and caring about each other. She clearly means a lot to you and that's so sweet.</span>\n<br><br><span style=\"font-size:16px;\">I think it was great of you to tell her about your health issue. It can be daunting and a bit embarrassing to do that. Bodily functions are always a bit yucky and taboo which makes them hard to talk about. So well done for doing that. I wonder if you could take it one step further and talk to her about your worries about dinner with her parents? She might be able to allay your fears or be keen to help you find a solution.</span>\n<br><br><span style=\"font-size:16px;\">Remember that her parents raised her. To be a blunt old fart, they likely changed her nappies and walked around with her vomit on their shoulders. Things like these means they are probably less embarrassed by messy bodily functions than you might first imagine. I might be wrong but it would be a shame not to find out and build a relationship on a lie.</span>\n<br><br><span style=\"font-size:16px;\">In the meantime, welcome to anxiety support! And congratulations on being so open about your anxiety and finding solutions. There's lots of great resources here. I hope you find something useful for you.</span><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3297949", "thread_id": "307206", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietyandRelationships_307206/" } ]

{ "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "Public speaking is a phobia for a lot of us\n\nWhat helps ease your mind when you are assigned to public speak for a project or even for work?\n\nIf it’s hard to ease your mind, what are some thoughts you have when you are public speaking?\n\n", "date": "1686722697", "thread_id": "307040", "title": "Public Speaking", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@heathermarie95</p>\n<p>I watched others.... not people who did all the time but those like me that may need to speak up occasional ... </p>\n<p>Those whom.. i feel over prepared and rehearsed ..............................could easily be taken off their game...... so while having a specific outline is good .......................being able to pivot and work on the fly is one of the best skills for a person that has to do this. </p>\n<p>I find putting ideas of is this outfit right of anything is a distraction .... that really does not matter. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3293758", "thread_id": "307040", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" }, { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>@toughTiger6481 hey, there is nothing wrong with being overly prepared. i find that a good thing. sometimes that can help with anxiety. deep breathes 😀</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3293758,nil" ], "post_id": "3297458", "thread_id": "307040", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" }, { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@heathermarie95</p>\n<p>I never thought there was  anything wrong with over prepared ..............just in my experience that is not a solution for all.</p>\n<p> some who do that have no flexibility of things go off script which happens sometimes in public speaking </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3297458,3293758,nil" ], "post_id": "3297616", "thread_id": "307040", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" }, { "author": "Gettingbettertoday", "content": "<p>@heathermarie95</p>\n<p>After a couple attempts my supervisor no longer tries to get me to speak publicly. All of them resulted with me freezing and someone needing to taking over for me. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3293788", "thread_id": "307040", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" }, { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>@Gettingbettertoday it sounds like public speaking is difficult for you. do you think preparing for any type of public speaking would be beneficial for you? i personally find preparing to be helpful. sometimes going over it at home can help for me too</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3293788,nil" ], "post_id": "3297457", "thread_id": "307040", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" }, { "author": "Gettingbettertoday", "content": "<p>@heathermarie95</p>\n<p class=\"MsoNormal\">I think study could help a bit. It. I am\nconsidering joining Toastmasters International to give me the opportunity to\npractice speaking. The more I know about it the less attractive it is. You not\nonly make speeches you also write them and evaluate the speeches of the others\nin the group. None of those things are appealing at all. </p>\n<p></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3297457,3293788,nil" ], "post_id": "3297466", "thread_id": "307040", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" }, { "author": "heathermarie95", "content": "<p>i hear you. having a class on public speaking is definitely anxiety provoking </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3297466,3297457,3293788,nil" ], "post_id": "3297472", "thread_id": "307040", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/PublicSpeaking_307040/" } ]

{ "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "I have so much going on right now, I'm at a loss how to manage it all...\n\nI'm moving at the end of the month.\nMy current landlord has been giving my private number out to unknown parties without my permission.\nMy boss has been overly critical and verbally abusing me in front of others.\nA co-worker is belittling my position and skill to students.\nMy school division has decided to implement a new library system which means I can't sign in any of the texts or regular books that have been returned for the next week. There are piles everywhere.\n\n:( Thanks for listening. I just needed to vent.\n\n", "date": "1686947910", "thread_id": "307190", "title": "Overwhelmed", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Overwhelmed_307190/" }

[ { "author": "Artur23", "content": "<p>@neatBlueberry5213  oh boy, that's sounds awful. You definitely have to broke the relationships with you boss and coworkers as soon as possible, cause this situation sounds really toxic and dirty. If it's not possible right know, try to minimize your communication with these people and try to express your emotions. If your colleague says that your position is nothing - talk him back and say what you want to answer him. Never hold your emotions or you will feel much worse. I feel your pain my friend. You have my support. You are going through a difficult phase, but it will end eventually and everything will be ok.  </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3297609", "thread_id": "307190", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Overwhelmed_307190/" } ]

{ "author": "wittyPal597", "content": "I really hate confrontation. this past weekend my friend and I had planned a trip that they had already cancelled on once. The first time they said they had too much work. The second time they said it was because they needed alone time. they were not going to bring it up and hope I forgot about plans. Both are valid reasons to cancel, but it is discouraging and it is even more discouraging when your friend’s plan was to ghost you if you did not bring it up. To top it all off, I found out that they went on the planned trip anyway and that they just went alone. I was upset and wanted to address the fact that I felt excluded. It is hard to not take things personally. I just told them I was upset and they turned it back on me and said that I was not respecting their feelings and need for alone time when they feel bad. I hate letting people down but I am also trying not to be a pushover. My time is valuable too. Now I feel even more anxious than I did before. i worry that I am insensitive/a bad person. I feel kind of crazy and I felt ill while I was being berated. I feel like this set me back a month in my anxiety journey.\n", "date": "1687212831", "thread_id": "307376", "title": "Anxious after trying to stand up for myself", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxiousaftertryingtostandupformyself_307376/" }

[ { "author": "Gracehh21", "content": "<p>@wittyPal597 Hi love bug! I'm sorry this set you back a step in your work on anxiety. From what you've described it seems valid to me that you felt betrayed and excluded. Your friend implied they needed alone time but then proceeded to go on the trip you had planned to do together. From what I can see she lied to you about cancelling the trip and went by herself.</p>\n<p>If my friend did this I'd be just as annoyed and upset as you. Maybe when things have calmed down just explain to her how it upset you and that you weren't trying to disregard her need for space. That she should've stayed home if she needed space instead of going on the trip without you. I hope it works out for you. </p>\n<p>Grace</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3297394", "thread_id": "307376", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxiousaftertryingtostandupformyself_307376/" } ]

{ "author": "innateJoy9602", "content": "\"You’ve heard of fight or flight but do you know the third stress response? It’s called a freeze response and it’s more common than you’d think. Put simply: the freeze response renders sufferers immobile. This is an acute stress response, much like the fight or flight response.\n\nAre You Stuck In Freeze Mode?\n\nWhile this sounds like a response to external triggers that won’t impact your day-to-day life, anxiety sufferers can be triggered into a stress response due to their nervous systems being overwhelmed. So, for what would usually be a small, inconsequential thing can set off the symptoms of a freeze response.\n\nThis can be especially stressful if you’re trying to get on with your daily life and work. According to psychologists, people stuck in Freeze Mode will find themselves feeling heavier, struggling to ‘get going’ with work or household tasks and will often stay in the same place feeling frozen for long periods of time. Of course, not being able to do the things that are usually second nature comes with its own issues such as guilt, frustration and low mood - all of which can compound the freeze response even further.\n\nHow To Snap Out Of Freeze Mode\n\nWhile this can understandably feel inescapable for sufferers, freeze mode is something that you can bring yourself out of. \n\n \t* The first thing you can do to help yourself, which may help to gain some clarity, is recognize that what you’re experiencing is freeze mode.\n \t* Be mindful of the symptoms that you’re experiencing and then acknowledge them for what they are. This creates a barrier between you and the response. Next, start at your toes and slowly move parts of your body all the way to your head to reconnect with your body and break free from the disconnect that freeze mode creates.\n \t* Do something completely different in a different room. This could be pouring yourself a glass of water, washing your face or simply opening a window.\n \t* Be gentle with yourself in the days following a freeze response In the hours and days following a freeze response, you may feel tired, aching and even have some residual anxiety.\"\n\nRead the full article on The Huffington Post [https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/do-you-freeze-up-when-stressed-heres-what-that-means_uk_642edf1fe4b0c2da15057cd9] \n\n✨Takeaway: Freeze response is the third stress response similar to the fight or flight response. It can be triggered by overwhelming nervous systems, making it difficult to complete daily tasks.\n\n✨Reflection: Have you ever experienced a freeze response?\n\n#Emotions #Stressed #Stress #MentalHealth #Anxiety \n\n-------------------------\n\nIf you liked this article, you may also enjoy: \"10 Strategies To Build Your Anxiety Toolkit\" [https://www.7cups.com/forum/AnxietySupport_53/AnxietySupportResources_412/10StrategiesToBuildYourAnxietyToolkit_300381/]\n\n", "date": "1681078303", "thread_id": "302759", "title": "Unable To Do Anything When Stressed? You're Probably In 'Freeze Mode'", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/UnableToDoAnythingWhenStressedYoureProbablyInFreezeMode_302759/" }

[ { "author": "mytwistedsoul", "content": "<p>@innateJoy9602 I have. Going outside helps sometimes. But there are many times I'm not aware that I'm freezing up and then dissociation happens. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3249367", "thread_id": "302759", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/UnableToDoAnythingWhenStressedYoureProbablyInFreezeMode_302759/" }, { "author": "innateJoy9602", "content": "<p>@mytwistedsoul</p>\n<p>That's a helpful tip! </p>\n<p>Getting some fresh air does sound like it could be a bit helpful. 💜</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3249367,nil" ], "post_id": "3249862", "thread_id": "302759", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/UnableToDoAnythingWhenStressedYoureProbablyInFreezeMode_302759/" }, { "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "<p>@innateJoy9602</p>\n<p>Freeze and faun are my responses to traumatic/unexpected circumstances. :(</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3297322", "thread_id": "302759", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/UnableToDoAnythingWhenStressedYoureProbablyInFreezeMode_302759/" }, { "author": "innateJoy9602", "content": "<p>@neatBlueberry5213</p>\n<p>I'm very sorry to hear that. They can be common responses to trauma which must be so tough on you. Hope you have some helpful ways to cope and work through them &lt;3</p>\n<p>Sending you comforting thoughts.💜</p>\n<p><img src=\"https://media.tenor.com/DersR5wxlxIAAAAC/ghost-hug-virtual-hug.gif\" data-src-static=\"https://media.tenor.com/DersR5wxlxIAAAAe/ghost-hug-virtual-hug.png\" style=\"width:213.25px;max-width:100%;max-height:213.25px;\" alt=\"ghost-hug-virtual-hug.gif\"><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3297322,nil" ], "post_id": "3297341", "thread_id": "302759", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Resources_412/UnableToDoAnythingWhenStressedYoureProbablyInFreezeMode_302759/" } ]

{ "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "Do you worry more about the near or the distant future?\n\nSome of our worries might be pointing continuously to the present, for example to our health or our current situation in life, which might not meet our previous expectations or standards.\n\nOther worries might focus on how things will develop tomorrow or in a few hours.\n\nOthers might focus further away in time, like on challenges we might face some months ahead.\n\nWe might also worry about things years or even decades ahead in the future.\n\n-------------------------\n\nQuestions:\n\n\t* Do you worry most about your current situation, about things in the near future, or about things that lie months, years, or decades ahead?\n\n\t* How do you deal with these different types of worries? \n\n\t* How have you been feeling these days?\n\n-------------------------\n\n All questions are optional. You can add any comments you wish, as they come to your mind. \n\n I look forward to your answers!\n\n-------------------------\n\nTo receive check-in notifications, click HERE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/AnxietySupport_53/AnxietySupportCommunityTeam_425/JoinTheAnxietySupportTaglist_211697/?p=19]   \n\nLearn HERE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/SubcommunityHelpWanted_2306/HelpWantedForumSupport_260791/] how to join the Anxiety Support forum team. We welcome you with open arms!\n\n-------------------------\n\n Tagging taglist subscribers: [phantom-tagged AS taglist]\n", "date": "1676563101", "thread_id": "298515", "title": "Check-in, Anxiety Support, 16 to 28 of February 2023", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }

[ { "author": "akay06", "content": "<p><strong>1.Do you worry most about your current situation, about things in the near future, or about things that lie months, years, or decades ahead?</strong></p>\n<p>I’d say with me it’s a pretty even mix. I do have hope some days that eventually I’ll get better, but as the years pass and my anxiety worsens, I’m losing hope.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><strong>2.How do you deal with these different types of worries?</strong></p>\n<p>I try to get out of my head for a bit by reading a book, hiking on trails when they’re busy and I know I’m safe or when I know no one will be there and bring mace, or watching a tv show.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><strong>3.How have you been feeling these days?</strong></p>\n<p>Hopeless and sad, but I’m trying to focus on the good things in my life and that I cannot control the future.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3206529", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@akay06</p>\n<p>Hi!</p>\n<p><span>Thank you for coming here to this check-in!</span><br></p>\n<p>I'm sorry to hear that you've been struggling with anxiety and that you're feeling like you're losing hope. It's understandable to feel discouraged when you've been dealing with something for a long time and it doesn't seem to be getting better.</p>\n<p><span>However, it's important to remember that recovery is a process and it can take time. It's also important to keep in mind that everyone's journey is unique and that what works for one person may not work for another.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>It's important to prioritize self-care and find healthy ways to cope with your anxiety. This could include exercise, mindfulness practices, spending time with supportive friends and family, and engaging in activities that you enjoy.</span></p>\n<p style=\"margin-right:0px;margin-left:0px;\">It's great to hear that you're engaging in activities that help you take a break from your anxiety and get out of your head. Engaging in pleasurable activities, such as reading, hiking, or watching a TV show, can be a helpful way to distract yourself from your worries and reduce your stress levels.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\"><span>Ultimately, finding a combination of strategies that work for you is key. It's great that you're already engaging in activities that help you manage your anxiety, and I encourage you to continue exploring different coping strategies and seeking out support when you need it.</span><br></p>\n<p style=\"margin-right:0px;margin-left:0px;\">It's normal to feel sad and hopeless at times, especially when dealing with anxiety. It's great to hear that you're trying to focus on the good things in your life, as this can help you build resilience and cope with difficult emotions.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">You are wise to recognize what you can and cannot control. Focusing on what you can control, such as your thoughts, behaviors, and reactions, can help you feel more empowered, reduce your anxiety and feel better.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\"><span>Healing is a journey and it's okay to have ups and downs along the way. The fact that you have hope on some days is a positive sign, and I encourage you to continue seeking out resources and support to help you on your journey toward healing.</span></p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\"><span>Again, thank you so much for coming here to share your thoughts!</span></p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\"><span>All the best!</span></p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\"><span>Marcelo.</span><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3206529,nil" ], "post_id": "3206720", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "PoohBear197676", "content": "<p>I dont feel like U am myself lately. I dont know why or whats going on but i am not myself lately</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3206529,nil" ], "post_id": "3219989", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "Mcoco23", "content": "<p>@PoohBear197676</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I hear you bear. I too find myself feeling lost lately. 🐻🦋 just know We’re here for you. Your not Alone ❤️ </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3219989,3206529,nil" ], "post_id": "3221157", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "Caitlyn1993", "content": "<p><strong>Do you worry most about your current situation, about things in the near future, or about thing that lie months, years, or even decades ahead?</strong></p>\n<p>I think I worry about everything and anything. I hate worrying about everything, but I do. </p>\n<p><strong>How do you deal with these different types of worries?</strong></p>\n<p>I personally go for a drive, cry, hit something. </p>\n<p><strong>How have you been feeling these days?</strong></p>\n<p>I haven't been ok recently and I'm terrified.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3206573", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@Caitlyn1993</p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Hi Caitlyn!</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">It's understandable to feel overwhelmed with worry when you experience high anxiety. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Worrying is a natural part of being human. But it can be very distressing when it becomes excessive and impacts daily functioning.</span></p>\n<p><span>Can you identify the root cause of your worries? Often, anxiety can arise from a sense of uncertainty or lack of control in your life. </span></p>\n<p><span>Keeping a journal to track your worries and identify any patterns might be useful. Once you've identified your triggers, you can work on strategies to manage them.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Another helpful technique is called \"thought-stopping,\" where you interrupt your anxious thoughts by saying \"stop\" to yourself and then redirecting your attention to a positive or neutral activity. </span><br></p>\n<p><span>Physical activity and relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation are also very useful. </span></p>\n<p><span>Change takes time. It's essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself as you work on managing your worries. With time and effort, you can learn to feel more in control and at peace.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Going for a drive can be a great way to clear your mind and give yourself some space. Just make sure you're driving safely and not putting yourself at risk by driving when you feel very stressed or overwhelmed.</span></p>\n<p><span>Sometimes hitting something can be an effective way to stop the chain of intrusive worrying thoughts, You might also try to engage in intense physical exercise, such as a hard workout.</span></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3206573,nil" ], "post_id": "3206731", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "greenWriter2900", "content": "<p><span class=\"text-break\">* Do you worry most about your current situation, about things in the near future, or about things that lie months, years, or decades ahead?<br>I worry about both -- morning worries about making money, about everyone discovering I'm a fraud, etc. Far future is constant -- no money for aging, climate chaos, systems falling apart. \n\n\t* How do you deal with these different types of worries? \nI try to keep moving although I'm not so successful. But I do much better if I can walk, hike, swim, etc regularly. Sitting means I am caught in an increasing spiral of doom.</span></p>\n<p><span class=\"text-break\">* How have you been feeling these days?<br>It's a bad day, but I have actually been feeling a little better lately. I have these moments where I think \"I can function as an adult human in this world!\" or even \"I can overcome that problem.\" It's not often but it's more than I've had in years.<br></span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3206658", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@greenWriter2900</p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of anxiety and worry, which can be overwhelming and exhausting. </span></p>\n<p><span>You say you feel like a fraud. What makes you feel that way?</span><br></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">The belief that one is not competent or deserving of accomplishments and that others will discover this about you is a very common feeling nowadays in this so demanding world. You might know that it's called \"imposter syndrome. \"</span></p>\n<p><span>One way to combat imposter syndrome is to focus on your successes and recognize the hard work and effort that went into achieving them. You can also remind yourself that it's normal to make mistakes and that everyone has areas where they can improve.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Regarding your worries about the future, it's understandable to be concerned about these things, especially with the ongoing changes in our environment and society. </span><br></p>\n<p><span>In my experience, volunteering or supporting causes you care about can help you feel more in control of the future. That you are doing something about it.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>If you are very concerned about money for retirement, etc. you might do a little research by reading books on strategies to be in a good financial situation when you reach that age.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>It's great that you've identified physical activity as a helpful tool for managing your anxiety. However, it sounds like you're struggling to make it a consistent part of your routine. That's okay, and it's important to approach this in a way that works for you and your lifestyle.</span><br></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">One way to stick with regular physical activity is to set achievable goals. It's important to start small and build up gradually to avoid overwhelming yourself and risking a backlash and relapse to sedentarism.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">It can also be helpful to find an accountability partner, such as a friend or family member, who can support and encourage you to stick to your goals. This can make the process more enjoyable and help you stay motivated.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Another way to maintain physical activity in your daily routine is to stick to the activities that you enjoy like walking, hiking, or swimming. By doing activities that you enjoy, you're more likely to stick with them over the long term.</span></p>\n<p>Anyway, exercising regularly is challenging for most of us. <br></p>\n<p>You might find useful the 7 Cups' Guide on Excercise Motivation:<a href=\"https://www.7cups.com/how-to-get-motivated-to-exercise/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> <u>https://www.7cups.com/how-to-get-motivated-to-exercise/</u></a></p>\n<p>Also, the Healthy Living Community has a topic \"Exercise and Activity\" focused on motivation, and another on \"Getting Started\". Here is the Healthy Living Community:  <a href=\"https://www.7cups.com/home/healthyliving/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><u>https://www.7cups.com/home/healthyliving/</u></a></p>\n<p><span>You could also participate in \"Heather's Wellness Accountability Challenge\" ( </span><span><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">@Heather225</span><font face=\"var(--bs-body-font-family)\"><span> is 7 Cups' </span></font></span><span>Director of Community, and an amazing person in every possible way) You will find here how to participate in her Challenge: </span><u><a href=\"https://www.7cups.com/forum/PositivityGratitude_170/InspirationMotivation_2229/TaketheAccountabilityWellnessChallenge_292893/?post=3147622\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https://www.7cups.com/forum/PositivityGratitude_170/InspirationMotivation_2229/TaketheAccountabilityWellnessChallenge_292893/?post=3147622</a></u></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">I am glad that you have been feeling fairly well lately. </span></p>\n<p><span>Those new thoughts that you are having now from time to time, like \"I can function as an adult human in this world!\" or  \"I can overcome that problem.\" mean a huge step forward, and are an indication that the \"real you\" inside is getting stronger and more confident.  </span></p>\n<p><span>Congratulations on that!</span></p>\n<p><span>I wish you that you continue strengthening your self-reliance and confidence, to manage effectively your projects and activities, in order to build the life that you wish and deserve.</span><span><br></span></p>\n<p><span>Thank you again, Writer, for coming here to share your thoughts!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>All the best!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Marcelo.</span></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3206658,nil" ], "post_id": "3206756", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@HealingTalk</p>\n<p>Hi, Marcelo,</p>\n<p></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3206665", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@purpleTree4652 </p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Hi Dawna!</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Thank you for coming here to this check-in!</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">I think it's totally justified that you worry about your current situation and things that lie months and a year or two ahead, as these worries are based on real, factual problems, and not at all caused by some kind of unfounded anxiety.</span></p>\n<p><span>You deal with your projects, plans, and the problems that arise, in a rational and timely way. It doesn't seem at all that you overthink or are obsessed with imaginary or too far in the future issues. Quite the contrary. You deal with them rationally and timely, but as you say, it's just that the challenges are big.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>I wish you that things start getting better soon, and you get to a more solid and stable base from which to carry on your wonderful projects.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>All the best!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Stay in touch!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Marcelo.</span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3206665,nil" ], "post_id": "3208178", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@HealingTalk</p>\n<p>Thank you so much, Marcelo.  You always help to make me feel better.</p>\n<p>love and blessings, Dawna</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3208178,3206665,nil" ], "post_id": "3208189", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@purpleTree4652</p>\n<p>You are welcome, Dawna!</p>\n<p>Thank you so much for your kind words!</p>\n<p>I am glad that mine help you at least a bit.</p>\n<p>I admire you greatly, always pushing the roadblocks to move forward, facing head-on your challenges and devising wonderful but feasible plans that you battle to make real.</p>\n<p>You deserve all the support you might get for all you do.</p>\n<p>❤️ <span>❤️ </span><span>❤️ </span><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3208189,3208178,3206665,nil" ], "post_id": "3208210", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "NovaIsNB", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:18px;\"><font color=\"#000000\">Not sure, near future and months ahead probably. I can't think decades ahead and I sometimes worry years ahead.</font></span></p>\n<p></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:18px;\"><font color=\"#000000\">Uhh... Not well... Usually by freaking out lol</font></span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:18px;\"><font color=\"#000000\">Extremely anxious. Have a gymnastics meet on Monday so terrified for that.</font></span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3206783", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@SystemOfWolves</p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Hi , Wolves!</span></p>\n<p><span>Thank you for coming here to this check-in!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Being focused on the near future and months ahead, sometimes thinking about what lies a few years ahead, while not much concerned about the far future, seems a very healthy mix to me.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Dealing with \"freaking out\" is a challenge. I copy you here some resources I posted in the previous check-in, that you might find useful for that. Just give some a try:</span></p>\n<p style=\"color:rgb(14,16,26);\"><span style=\"background-color:transparent;color:rgb(0,0,0);font-size:11pt;\">8 Soothing Techniques to Help Relieve Anxiety - University Hospitals: <br></span><a href=\"https://www.uhhospitals.org/blog/articles/2020/04/8-soothing-techniques-to-help-relieve-anxiety\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span style=\"font-size:11pt;color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:transparent;\"><u>https://www.uhhospitals.org/blog/articles/2020/04/8-soothing-techniques-to-help-relieve-anxiety</u></span></a></p>\n<p style=\"color:rgb(14,16,26);\"><span style=\"background-color:transparent;color:rgb(0,0,0);font-size:11pt;\">Anxiety management strategies - BeyondBlue:<br></span><a href=\"https://www.beyondblue.org.au/mental-health/anxiety/treatments-for-anxiety/anxiety-management-strategies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span style=\"font-size:11pt;color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:transparent;\"><u>https://www.beyondblue.org.au/mental-health/anxiety/treatments-for-anxiety/anxiety-management-strategies</u></span></a></p>\n<p style=\"color:rgb(14,16,26);\"><span style=\"background-color:transparent;color:rgb(0,0,0);font-size:11pt;\">Relaxation techniques for stress - MedlinePlus: </span><a href=\"https://medlineplus.gov/ency/patientinstructions/000874.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span style=\"font-size:11pt;color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:transparent;\"><u>https://medlineplus.gov/ency/patientinstructions/000874.htm</u></span></a></p>\n<p style=\"color:rgb(14,16,26);\"><span style=\"background-color:transparent;color:rgb(0,0,0);font-size:11pt;\">Relaxation Techniques: Learn How to Manage Stress - WebMD:<br></span><a href=\"https://www.webmd.com/balance/guide/blissing-out-10-relaxation-techniques-reduce-stress-spot\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span style=\"font-size:11pt;color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:transparent;\"><u>https://www.webmd.com/balance/guide/blissing-out-10-relaxation-techniques-reduce-stress-spot</u></span></a></p>\n<p style=\"color:rgb(14,16,26);\"><span style=\"background-color:transparent;color:rgb(0,0,0);font-size:11pt;\">Relaxation - Mind.org: </span><a href=\"https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/relaxation/relaxation-exercises/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span style=\"font-size:11pt;color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:transparent;\"><u>https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/relaxation/relaxation-exercises/</u></span></a></p>\n<p style=\"color:rgb(14,16,26);\"><span style=\"background-color:transparent;color:rgb(0,0,0);font-size:11pt;\">Relaxation Techniques for Stress Relief - Helpguide:<br></span><a href=\"https://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/relaxation-techniques-for-stress-relief.htm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><span style=\"font-size:11pt;color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:transparent;\"><u>https://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/relaxation-techniques-for-stress-relief.htm</u></span></a></p>\n<p><span>You can practice some of those to deal with your anxiety about Monday's gymnastics meet. They might help you calm down, feel more in control and arrive at the meet in the best possible mood.</span><br></p>\n<p><span> I wish you the best of luck for your Monday gymnastics meet!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Thank you again for coming here to share your thoughts!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>All the best!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Marcelo.</span><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3206783,nil" ], "post_id": "3208187", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "TextingLeon", "content": "<p>1. I used to, but no I'm not now.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>2. As a Christian, I am learning to let go of the control and surrender to the Lord's will. I just do my best, day by day, and let the future be a mystery. Sure I like to plan ahead and make a plan B, but hey, if everything goes wrong, then let's just wing it! 😁</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>3. I've been feeling tired of overwhelming job lately, but I've been good recently, I tried to be mindful of the present and yes do the best for each days!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3206787", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@TextingLeon </p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Hi, Leon!</span></p>\n<p><span>How great that you got rid of those pesky worries!</span><br></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Congratulations on that!</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">It's wise to be fully aware, and to accept, that we can't control most things, particularly in the future, so we can focus on the things we can control, as you say, doing our best day by day.</span></p>\n<p><span>Planning ahead and having a plan B is not a contradiction, as long as we are aware, as you are, that the future is inherently uncertain.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Our plans then become a guide to decide in which direction to take the next step according to where we would like to be, and not a prediction or pretension of constructing our future to the utmost detail, which is impossible and might get maddening.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>I wish you that you find some moments to rest, have fun and recharge, so as not to burn out from your job, and to enjoy life as much as possible.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Thank you again for coming here to share your thoughts!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>All the best!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Marcelo.</span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3206787,nil" ], "post_id": "3208198", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@HealingTalk</p>\n<p>Hi, Marcelo,</p>\n<p>Can I ask for your help with something?  There is a notification in my noti. area for an anxiety featured thread called something like \"12 tools to help with catastrophic...\" and then it gets cut off.  I click on it, but it just takes me to a general page, not to the post itself.  Where might I find that post?</p>\n<p>Thanks.</p>\n<p>--Dawna</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3208712", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@purpleTree4652 </p>\n<p>Yes, there is a glitch in the system that doesn't redirect to the right thread when clicking the \"Featured Thread\" notification.</p>\n<p>This is the thread!:</p>\n<p><a href=\"https://www.7cups.com/forum/AnxietySupport_53/General_2428/12ToolstoHelpCopeWithCatastrophicAnxietyandWorry_298594/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><u><b>https://www.7cups.com/forum/AnxietySupport_53/General_2428/12ToolstoHelpCopeWithCatastrophicAnxietyandWorry_298594/</b></u></a><span style=\"font-size:15px;\"></span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">I found it on the PC by filtering by \"Recent\" posts. It's one of the most recent.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">While on the PC the </span><span>\"Featured Thread\" notifications don't work, </span><span>\"Featured Threads\" become </span><span>the first thing in the Anxiety Community area on the phone app. You can find them most easily there.</span></p>\n<p><span>The thread is based on an article in \"</span><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Psychology Today!\" that has a list of great resources at the bottom (also very recommended):</span></p>\n<p><span><span style=\"font-size:15px;\"><a href=\"https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-pacific-heart/202302/12-tools-to-help-cope-with-catastrophic-anxiety-and-worry\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><u><b>https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-pacific-heart/202302/12-tools-to-help-cope-with-catastrophic-anxiety-and-worry</b></u></a></span><br></span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3208712,nil" ], "post_id": "3210260", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@HealingTalk</p>\n<p>Thanks, Marcelo.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3210260,3208712,nil" ], "post_id": "3210403", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@purpleTree4652 </p>\n<p>You are welcome!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3210403,3210260,3208712,nil" ], "post_id": "3210413", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "selfconfidentTriangle3354", "content": "<p>I worry most about my current situation. It’s very serious. Health, finances, relationships, living situation. Everything is on the rocks at the moment. A lot going on.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I am just trying to focus on getting through the day and trying to be calm and ask for help when needed.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I am wore out.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Thanks for giving me a space to talk.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3210222", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@selfconfidentTriangle3354 </p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\"><br></span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Hi, Triangle!</span></p>\n<p><span>Thank you for coming here to share your thoughts and feelings with the Community.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>I'm sorry to hear that you're going through so uncertain and difficult times. </span><br></p>\n<p><span>Facing multiple and so severe challenges on all fronts in your life must be extremely stressful and overwhelming.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>It's completely understandable to feel worn out and exhausted in this situation </span><br></p>\n<p><span>As I see it, you are wise in focusing on one day at a time, trying to keep calm a,nd asking for help when you feel the need. That's the best and healthiest way to deal with a situation like this, I think.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Reaching out for help is a sign of strength. Reach out to all the people and resources that might be available to support you, that you might think of, including those here at 7 Cups. You are dealing with a lot, you deserve all the support you can get.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Being so stressed and overwhelmed, try to keep in mind the need of taking care of yourself both physically and mentally. </span><span>Things like getting enough sleep, making time for rest and relaxation, eating well, doing some light exercise that you can given your health situation (like going for a walk, or stretching), and engaging in simple activities that might bring you pleasure and satisfaction, such as watching a movie, reading a book or listening to music. </span></p>\n<p><span>You seem a very kind person, who, even stressed and overwhelmed, expresses gratitude for having this space to talk.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>We welcome you with open arms to talk about  your issues in this Community</span><br></p>\n<p><span>You have been in 7 Cups for some years now, so you might know the many resources that this Community offers to help you manage the emotional side of these difficult times.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>You're not alone, you can always come here for support. </span><br></p>\n<p><span>While 7 Cups can't solve your problems in the real world, this Community can help you explore and express your emotions, develop coping skills, and brainstorm options for addressing your practical challenges, as part of your support network.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>You can ask for support on all aspects of what you are going through, that you might feel comfortable sharing, in the Forums, talk them with Listeners in one-to-one chats, and in supportive group chats.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>I hope you find some comfort and support here, and I wish you that things in your life stabilize and start improving soon.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Thank you again for coming to this check-in.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>All the best!</span><br></p>\n<p><span>Marcelo.</span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3210222,nil" ], "post_id": "3210311", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:20px;\">Goodbye!</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">I am stepping down from my role as Community Mentor for the Anxiety Support Subcommunity. </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">As a result, I won't keep posting the check-ins here. This will continue to be done by other members of the Anxiety Support Team.</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">I regularly post check-ins for the Depression Support Subcommunity. You can find my last check-in <a href=\"https://www.7cups.com/forum/DepressionSupport_52/CheckInsFromOurTeam_2337/DepressionSupportCheckInFebruary22282023_298985/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><b><u>HERE</u></b></a>. </span><span><span>If you wish to receive reminders for those check-ins, click </span><a href=\"https://www.7cups.com/forum/DepressionSupportCommunity_52/DepressionSupportLeadershipTeam_404/NEWautomateddepressionsupporttaglist_274831/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><b><u>HERE</u></b></a><span>.</span></span></p>\n<p><span><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">It was an honor and pleasure counting with your participation and support, and exchanging ideas with you at the Anxiety Support Check-ins. </span></span></p>\n<p><span>Your active involvement enlivens our Community.</span><br></p>\n<p><span><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">I thank you all for this.</span><br></span></p>\n<p><span>All the best!</span><br></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Marcelo.<br><br></span></p>\n<p><span>Tagging recent Anxiety Support Check-in participants: </span><br></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">@Aaaamer @akay06 @AnxietyAt40 @Beetlejuice91 @Blabla99 @Brainhack249 @Caitlyn1993 @charmingSky5972 @Curlyheart @diplomaticOcean2966 @discreetCake4348 @Earther @FishPhos21 @goldenOwl8090 @greenKiwi3899 @greenWriter2900 @HairyRose @heathermarie95 @Hiro5 @HopefulLife2016 @indigoTortoise3129 @ivettsztan8 @kareninaa @Kindlettering @LilBlud @mintea26 @optimisticSpring6877 @purpleTree4652 @raspberryZebra09 @RegularGuy0327 @reservedPark4029 @selfconfidentTriangle2600 @selfconfidentTriangle3354 @stagrobby @straightforwardPal4407 @SystemOfWolves @tallWalker4850 @TeaGreenTea12 @TextingLeon @XAngelRuneX @YesImaWomen</span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3216003", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "purpleTree4652", "content": "<p>@HealingTalk</p>\n<p>Hi, Marcelo,</p>\n<p>Are you staying on in the depression support subcomm?  </p>\n<p>I know we'll all miss you here.  I hope I can stay in touch with you there.</p>\n<p>--D.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3216003,nil" ], "post_id": "3216019", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@purpleTree4652</p>\n<p>Yes, I will devote more time to Depression Support from now on.</p>\n<p>Thank you for your interest!</p>\n<p>See you soon!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3216019,3216003,nil" ], "post_id": "3216109", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>         </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3218088", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "PoohBear197676", "content": "<p>I worry so much about things,life,our kids,grandkids,and so much more. I am to the point I am not eating,sleeping good,or taking my meds cause my bidy is to the point of shutting down. I know anytime my body can shut down and then i have to fight to get up cause i have a two daughter to take care of. My husband her dad does help when hes not working or rebuilding our house since we was hit by the storm on Feb 8th of this year</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3219993", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@PoohBear197676 </p>\n<p style=\"margin-right:0px;margin-left:0px;color:rgb(55,65,81);font-size:16px;background-color:rgb(247,247,248);\">I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling so overwhelmed and that you're experiencing difficulties with your health. It's understandable that you have a lot on your plate, with worries about your own well-being, your children, and your home.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;color:rgb(55,65,81);font-size:16px;background-color:rgb(247,247,248);\">It's important to recognize that worrying excessively can be harmful to your mental and physical health and to prioritize your own self-care so that you can be there for your family.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;color:rgb(55,65,81);font-size:16px;background-color:rgb(247,247,248);\">Here are a few suggestions that may be helpful:</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px 0px;color:rgb(55,65,81);font-size:16px;background-color:rgb(247,247,248);\">Remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish, but rather a necessary step to ensure that you can be there for your family.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3219993,nil" ], "post_id": "3223679", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "Mcoco23", "content": "<p>@HealingTalks</p>\n<p><span>Thanks for sharing this 💕😊</span></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3221158", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@Mcoco23</p>\n<p>You are welcome!</p>\n<p>Thank you for upvoting so many of my posts!</p>\n<p>I am glad that you liked them, and I greatly appreciate it!</p>\n<p>Always yours!</p>\n<p>Marcelo.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3221158,nil" ], "post_id": "3221214", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "Blessfullily", "content": "<p>@HealingTalk i worry more about the future, as its uncertain and i cannot imagine how things might change.<br>life starts to unfold as events goes by, so trying to imagine the final result without seening what made the whole image is quite frightening to me.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3232737", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "HealingTalk", "content": "<p>@Blessfullily</p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">It's understandable to feel anxious and uncertain about the future, especially when there are so many variables that are beyond our control. </span></p>\n<p><span>One approach that may be helpful is to focus on the present and the things that are within your control, the things that you can do today to strengthen yourself. </span><br></p>\n<p><span>So whatever the future may bring, you will be better prepared, because of the things you are doing now.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>This is a concept very used in Strategy, the art of dealing with what's uncertain. </span><br></p>\n<p><span>Building your strength today on different fronts (from your health and fitness to your social or support network to your finances), so in all probable future scenarios, you will be in the best possible position to succeed, thrive, or at least stay afloat.</span><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3232737,nil" ], "post_id": "3234405", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulKite124", "content": "<p>Ok imma be completely honest I've been going threw hard times with sexual urges at first it was not bad I would masterbate to pics I saw off *** or videos I saw on the hub, well eventually the porn videos weren't enough to fit my standards this is when my addiction got worse I would masterbate on a daily and for some reason idk why but I would get turned on by looking at my brothers *** idk why I would beat to pictures of him when he is asleep and I knew something was wrong with me at this point. I would always feel terrible not only would I have guilt and shame but I would have massive anxiety attacks about getting caught or someone finding out. I would watch self improvement videos on YouTube and always tell my self that I will stop that I will be a new person but then the next day I do nothing the videos tell me and I just go back to my old self. I have little to no motivation to push my self to become a better person and when I do someone makes me feel bad about myself or I feel bad about myself and I don't wanna try anymore some times I feel like there's no hope for me I *** myself off when I see people doing better than me and reaching there goals while I'm here still doing nothing I just feel like there's no point in living and when I think about getting caught for my actions. Im lost and hopeless and I need help or guidance.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3246592", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "Elena309", "content": "<p>I'm more worried about the future than I am about what's in front of me. The unknown holds fear for me, and I will worry about things happening in the future that are beyond my control. I would want to foresee the future if I could.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>In times of anxiety I try to distract myself by going to listen to music or watch a movie. Or talk to a friend about their worries, sometimes saying their worries is a good way to relieve anxiety.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Most of the school exams are over and it's slowly going into vacation mode, so I think I've been in pretty good shape lately.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287672", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" }, { "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "<p>@HealingTalk</p>\n<p><span>1.Do you worry most about your current situation, about things in the near future, or about things that lie months, years, or decades ahead?</span></p>\n<p>Current situation. When I start to feel settled, I worry that something unexpected will come up to alter my hopes/plans for the near future as it has happened in the past.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><span>2.How do you deal with these different types of worries?</span></p>\n<p>Talk with a counselor/friend, pray/read my Bible, get active.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><span>3.How have you been feeling these days?</span></p>\n<p>Overwhelmed</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3297316", "thread_id": "298515", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/FromtheMods_2559/CheckinAnxietySupport16to28ofFebruary2023_298515/" } ]

{ "author": "mylittlebunnyy", "content": "I feel so lonely and depressed lately. I badly want to share my feelings and talk with someone. I have been holding on to things and trying a lot to heal myself but everytime I end up in the same place no matter how hard I try. I am a mother of a two year old and I have been dealing with anxiety and not being able to regulate my emotions. I want to support and care for my son the best way and sometimes when I am dealing with my own ***, I am not able to give him the best. I feel so guilty and bad about it. I really don't want to put him through that trauma that I am going through. My husband is such a narcissist and is never able to understand what I am going through.\n", "date": "1684322568", "thread_id": "305271", "title": "Feeling very down and unable to regulate emotions ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }

[ { "author": "YourCaringConfidant", "content": "<p>@mylittlebunnyy I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling to regulate your emotions. On the bright side, I am proud of you for recognizing the areas you need to work on. It seems to me you are doing the best you can and I wanted to let you know I am proud of you. Sometimes it is a struggle in itself asking for help so I am really glad you are here! If you ask me, I think your son is blessed to have a parent that really cares about him, his safety, and wellbeing. Parenting is hard so please be kind to yourself. You are trying and that is all your can do. What have your currently tried to help? Have you tried talking to a doctor about the feelings you have? Depression is serious and it can definitely affect your life. I am glad you are here on 7cups though. Though listeners are not doctors and they cannot give advice, listeners are available on here when you need someone to talk to. They can chat with you and offer you support. Talking about how you are feeling (like you did on the forum here) is a great way to let out how you are feeling and can help you feel a little bit lonely hopefully. If you ever want to connect with a listener that is available, you can browse for one <a href=\"https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">here</a>. I really hope you find the support you need. &lt;3 Please take care of yourself and be kind to you. You are doing the best you can and I applaud you for that. :) </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3275029", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "mylittlebunnyy", "content": "<p>Thankyou for your kind words. I am trying my best to deal with everything but it really get so lonely sometimes. I badly need someone to talk to... Atleast to understand my feelings and listen to me.....</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3275029,nil" ], "post_id": "3275574", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "YourCaringConfidant", "content": "<p>@mylittlebunnyy Try is all you can do so I am proud of you. There are listeners available to offer some support to you. Browse for one here--&gt; https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/ or you can put a general request in and you can be connected with one who accepts. ☆</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3275574,3275029,nil" ], "post_id": "3275651", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "TerraAquaVen", "content": "<p>@mylittlebunnyy I'm so sorry to hear you are so lonely and depressed. It sounds like you are doing such a good job caring for your little one. The fact that you don't want to pass your trauma down to him and want to break that cycle is amazing. One thing I loved to do when my little one was 2 is get out for walks in the stroller. I would really focus on on everything, the steps I was taking and how they felt, the smell of the air, the scenery around me. It really helped to clear my head. Maybe you can look and see if there are any new mom support groups around you too if that's something you are interested in. Hang in there, and if you ever need Mom friend to listen to you, please feel free to reach out to me :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3280013", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "mylittlebunnyy", "content": "<p>Thank you so much for such kind words. It made me so happy that I couldn't stop crying. You are such a nice human being. Much love to you :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3280013,nil" ], "post_id": "3291804", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "GuardianOfPeace", "content": "", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3284861", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "mylittlebunnyy", "content": "<p>Thank you so much. I appreciate your encouraging words. It's means a lot to me to see people understanding me. Much love :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284861,nil" ], "post_id": "3291809", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "AayushreeKalyani", "content": "<p>@mylittlebunnyy you are a wonderful wonderful person and I'm so sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve this trauma. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3285593", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "mylittlebunnyy", "content": "<p>You are a wonderful person as well. Thank you for your kindness :)</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3285593,nil" ], "post_id": "3291811", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" }, { "author": "calmGrapes2069", "content": "<p>@mylittlebunnyy I'm sorry you're feeling alone and overwhelmed. I'm sorry that you don't have more support to help you when you need it. I think it's really admirable that you're still really dedicated to your child and you care so much about your son's needs. Your best is good enough and you are loved.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3297038", "thread_id": "305271", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Feelingverydownandunabletoregulateemotions_305271/" } ]

{ "author": "affableStrings4654", "content": "I'm not sure what it is or why this happens, but occasionally I will have days where I am irritable and everything makes me annoyed, and it builds and builds till I get really angry. Things like websites not loading, small messes, sounds I don't like, etc that normally i would be able to handle suddenly become huge problems that I can't really solve easily, because they are out of my control, and i get so worked up about it. I try not to act on my feelings, despite wanting to throw things.\n\nSometimes these moods last for a few hours, sometimes they last for a few days. I am writing this on day two of one of them. I don't know what causes this or how to fix it.\n\nI have found that it does help a little to complain, but then i feel bad for being negative too often. \n\n", "date": "1687205440", "thread_id": "307369", "title": "irritability", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/irritability_307369/" }

[ { "author": "7motivation", "content": "<p>@affableStrings4654</p>\n<p>I can totally relate to situations like that.</p>\n<p>Sometimes I even get so frustrated that, strangely, I suddenly start laughing.</p>\n<p><span>I think it might be an evolutionary coping mechanism.</span><br></p>\n<p>That seems to help a lot too (for some situations).</p>\n<p><span>I think it stops me from fixating on the frustration <br>and instead makes me instantly relax and feel better. </span><br></p>\n<p>I think it happens when the mind decide to laugh it all off<br>and see some humor in the situation for relief.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3296915", "thread_id": "307369", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/irritability_307369/" } ]

{ "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "Although I am the only one running my area, and have done it successfully for over 4 years, my supervisor rarely asks my opinion (based on experience) when making decisions. She lets coworkers who have no knowledge or understanding dictate how the space looks, is used, etc.\n\nHigher up, when we were asked as librarians if we wanted to move forward with a new library system 3 of us said no. We could see no benefit and had facts to back up our position. Because we were a minority, we were bypassed and now I'm looking at a year end with much more stress than needed thanks to a few people's desire for unnecessary change.\n\nI feel what I have to say doesn't matter at any level in my work. I don't feel any attempt has been made to use my expertise. Instead, I've been told several times to just deal with it.\n", "date": "1686600420", "thread_id": "306932", "title": "Invalidated", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Invalidated_306932/" }

[ { "author": "LostTurtle2", "content": "<p>@neatBlueberry5213</p>\n<p>that's poor leadership. sorry. i work with incompetent leader too, at least he knows i do quality work. <br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3296903", "thread_id": "306932", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Invalidated_306932/" } ]

{ "author": "tealMelon1154", "content": "Hi all, I have been drinking alcohol a lot recently to suppress my emotions but it doesn't help that I have anxiety. I'm at a really bad place where I have to have some drinks in my system at least a couple times per week to feel okay. Ik I shouldn't do this but anyone have any recommendations on how to relax without drinking? I have bee hiding this from people I know but drinking helps me feel better somewhat. \n", "date": "1687152263", "thread_id": "307326", "title": "Anxiety and alcohol ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Anxietyandalcohol_307326/" }

[ { "author": "7motivation", "content": "<p>@tealMelon1154</p>\n<p>Yes, relaxing sure can be challenging sometimes.</p>\n<p>Alcohol can seem like the easy way, but it's really just sedation.</p>\n<p>Off the top of my head, I'd say that there are many ways to relax without alcohol.</p>\n<p>The one that's better for a particular person <br>depends on the person and the situation.</p>\n<p>Some people find that:</p>\n<p>If one needs other ideas that are just right for their situation, <br>then one can also search the internet <br>and get lots and lots of ideas to pick from.</p>\n<p><span>Of course, one should always check the results of any advice for accuracy and safety before using any ideas.</span></p>\n<p>If I search Bing Search using <span>using their new Bing Search Chat</span><span> feature with the </span><span>Edge browser for:</span></p>\n<p>Bing Search Chat feature says:</p>\n<p>Then I can chat with Bing Search Chat, <br>for example, <br>I can ask it a follow up question:</p>\n<p>Then Bing Search Chat said:</p>\n<p>Then Bing Search Chat replied:</p>\n<p><span>So there are may ways to get ideas here and from internet search engines.</span></p>\n<p><span>Please remember to always check any ideas appropriately before using them.</span><br></p>\n<p><span>I hope this gives you some ideas <br>and resources to find your own best solutions <br>for your unique situations.</span></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3296593", "thread_id": "307326", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Anxietyandalcohol_307326/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@tealMelon1154 </p>\n<p>The alcohol thing is a tough subject.  I have known many people who use alcohol as a crutch/coping mechanism much too often and it only makes things worse in their lives and relationships.  But, I have also read about some studies talking about how mild/moderate drinking may help with anxiety.  Of course, they also say you shouldn't start drinking to help with anxiety either!</p>\n<p>I struggle with the question of alcohol for anxiety.  I mean, what's the difference of me taking a prescription each day to help with anxiety versus having one drink each day?  Both are drugs, both are generally not good for my body.</p>\n<p>I am not condoning or judging medication or alcohol or cannabis, for that matter.  We each individually need to decide what works for us WITHOUT hurting us or our lives/relationships.</p>\n<p>Beyond medicating yourself with your drug of choice, what do YOU like to do?  I know some people who suffer from anxiety that LOVE running.  They'll run for miles each day.  Others go to the gym and work out for a couple of hours.  Neither of those things are things I like doing.  I find my own things, because then I'll know they'll work.</p>\n<p>I go for regular walks.  They don't have to be long.  It could be down the road and back.  It could be a nature trail.  It could be window shopping in the city.  Just get out of the house, don't take the anxiety with you, and enjoy your time.</p>\n<p>Swimming, kayaking, walk your dog (or offer to be a dog walker for someone else).  Volunteer at an animal shelter where you have to be around a lot of dogs and cats that just want someone to cuddle or play or talk to them.  </p>\n<p>Hobbies that keep you busy - textiles (knitting), cooking, woodworking.  I'm not a huge fan of reading but so many other people use it to help with their anxiety.  </p>\n<p>Is something broken around your house?  A mower?  A coffee maker?  Dig into YouTube, start watching videos, and repair it.  (I LOVE IT when I fix something.  It gives me a great sense of accomplishment.)<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3296711", "thread_id": "307326", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Anxietyandalcohol_307326/" }, { "author": "tealMelon1154", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma I think I just need to try new things. I like exercising but recently that has gotten boring for me. Drawing well I'm really good at it but that bores me too. Maybe I'll try fixing things around the house? That seems like a good idea that I could try. Besides that it has gotten hard to do the things I enjoyed and so I'm pushing people away. I feel like I'm boring but really anything I do just feels dull.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3296711,nil" ], "post_id": "3296873", "thread_id": "307326", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Anxietyandalcohol_307326/" } ]

{ "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "A big problem I have is not being able to shut my brain off a lot of the time.  I'm always in \"what if\" and \"worst case scenario\" mode.  I can keep myself distracted with watching TV or playing games or when I'm at work mostly.  Even at bedtime I listen to podcasts or radio shows or something all night long to give me some moments of quiet.\n\nBut, during all the quiet, not doing anything, times each day, I struggle.  I try to meditate, but my mind wanders to all of my worries and anxieties.  I did okay for a while, but recently there have been a lot of big moments happening in my life so I'm on high alert with my anxiety.\n\nWhat do you focus on when your brain just wants to take you to all of the negativity instead of the positive things?  How do you focus and calm your mind from your anxiety without noise like podcasts, tv, games...?\n\n", "date": "1687030894", "thread_id": "307248", "title": "What do you think about when you don't want to think?", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Whatdoyouthinkaboutwhenyoudontwanttothink_307248/" }

[ { "author": "hopefulPond6108", "content": "", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3295747", "thread_id": "307248", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Whatdoyouthinkaboutwhenyoudontwanttothink_307248/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@hopefulPond6108 </p>\n<p>I'm pretty sure my good wolf is about 5 pounds and my bad wolf is about 1000 pounds.  He gets fed WAY too much.  I'm trying to work on it.  Trying to mentally \"walk away\" from always thinking those bad/what if thoughts.  I just want to stop and to be happy and not so worried anymore.  I don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling bad.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3295747,nil" ], "post_id": "3296698", "thread_id": "307248", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Whatdoyouthinkaboutwhenyoudontwanttothink_307248/" }, { "author": "hopefulPond6108", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma This link is about depression, but this dr also has a book on anxiety. It might be helpful with some tools to help you feed the good wolf more often. </p>\n<p style=\"margin-right:0px;margin-left:0px;font-size:12px;\"><a href=\"https://youtu.be/H1T5uMeYv9Q\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https://youtu.be/H1T5uMeYv9Q</a></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3296698,3295747,nil" ], "post_id": "3296722", "thread_id": "307248", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Whatdoyouthinkaboutwhenyoudontwanttothink_307248/" } ]

{ "author": "blueStrawberries2960", "content": "Hi, I have been told by two therapists that I have “severe” social anxiety, so it’s very hard for me to make friends.\n\nMy entire life, I’d say I only ever had school friends - the kind where we just talk about schoolwork and nothing else, never hang out or talk outside of school. Once the class we shared together ended for the semester, or once we graduated, we stopped speaking altogether, so I wouldn’t consider them “real” friends. I only have a couple of online/internet friends, no irl friends.\n\nIn 2022, I got my first job while finishing up grad school. I started the job in June, and in October, I met another new hire, and we clicked instantly. He started talking to me first because he had noticed that I was quiet and didn’t interact with anyone else. It turned out, he was exactly like me - he also had social anxiety, albeit to a lesser degree than me. We bonded over our feelings in social interactions and related to each other in every way. We were having these deep conversations on the day we met. I’m very cautious about who I let into my life and who I open up to, because I’m not very trusting of others, due to a bad breakup I had with my ex-bff from high school. But me and this coworker hit it off so well right off the bat, that I considered him a friend the day we met.\n\nWe texted a bit, on and off, after that. It wasn’t until around the end of October that we started talking every day for hours on end. We talked about how our days went, had lighthearted conversations, deep conversations, made each other laugh, related to each other, supported each other, shared interests and embarrassing things about ourselves with each other. Naturally, we started becoming really close.\n\nThroughout the entire time I was at this job, I was having a lot of trouble at work: not fitting in, as well as getting isolated and bullied by some senior coworkers. I tended to vent to my friend a lot about the troubles I was having. But I know venting can be a lot, so I always asked to make sure if it was ok that I vented, and I always said sorry when I was done. His response was always to reassure me that I was welcome to vent, because he knew how hard it was to keep it in, and to tell me that there was no need to apologize. His last workplace was very toxic and his boss was abusive, so he understood. Still, I felt a little bad, so that’s why I always apologized, and we tended to have normal conversations in between the vents - so I didn’t believe I was treating him like a therapist.\n\nIn January 2023, I felt close enough to him and trusted him enough to tell him that I also struggle with depression. All of this lead to him alerting his supervisor at work, which led to a whole fiasco of me having to share my mental health struggles with higher-ups at work, and being mandated to visit a work psychiatrist monthly. I was also whisked away to the ER, which was a horrible experience that left me scarred.\n\nAt first, this rubbed me the wrong way, because my friend didn’t tell me that he was going to talk to a supervisor about my personal problems. It wasn’t his secret to tell, and he hadn’t even given me a heads-up. But I forgave him because I knew that at the end of the day, he spoke up about it because he was worried about me and genuinely cared. He was the first person I met (in person, not online) that truly understood me. Because of that, I knew I still wanted him in my life, and I didn’t want to throw away our friendship, because I valued it too much. This was also the first time in my life that I felt like someone truly cared about me.\n\nWhen we spoke again the next day, he let me know that he genuinely cared about me. He reassured me that none of this changed anything between us, and he let me debrief my horrible ER visit with him. He listened to my story and provided support. I was worried with such heavy topics being the forefront of our conversation, that our friendship wouldn’t be the same again. I was hesitant about how I would talk to him moving forward, if I’d even feel comfortable having normal conversations with him again. But I didn’t need to worry about that, as the next morning, I woke up to a text from him saying that he was going to light some candles at church for me, and also pray for me. That genuinely warmed my heart and I felt like he cared.\n\nAfter this whole ordeal, my friend and I got even closer than before. The work psychiatrist wanted me to obtain a long-term therapist, and provided me with a list of places to call. However, my social anxiety is so severe that making phone calls is difficult for me. I told that to my friend, and he made the calls for me. He told me we were in this together, that we were a team in this, that he only wanted me to get better. He only ever supported me in my mental health journey, gave me advice when I vented, told me that speaking to him was a safe space and that I could tell him anything, as long as I was comfortable with it. He made me feel like someone cared.\n\nIn March, I was having a rough time. I was venting a lot again, but I always apologized for venting and told him he was welcome to tell me if I was being annoying or too much. He reassured me that I wasn’t, that he looks forward to hearing about how my day went, so he can offer a different perspective to help me have a more positive outlook. He had also mentioned that he’d be praying for me during Lent, which I thought was a kind gesture.\n\nI was sent back to the ER in the middle of March because of something I said to the work psychiatrist that worried her. Before I was whisked away, I texted him to let him know. Even though he was at work, he immediately responded and tried to calm me down, tried to reassure me that everything was alright. When I got back home, I asked to debrief how the ER visit went, and just like in January, he lended support and a listening ear. The only time he interrupted was to ask if I was texting him from home, because he wanted to make sure I was all settled in and comfortable. Overall, my March ER visit went so much better than the one in January, and he had said he was happy that I was being treated better this time around. I later felt bad that we were spending all this time talking about me, so I asked him how his day went. He proceeded to admit that he had spent the majority of the day worrying about me. I didn’t think there was any need for him to be that worried about me, but still, I was touched nonetheless.\n\nTowards the end of March, I was texting my friend about my day, as we’d been doing pretty much every day. One day, I was venting about a coworker I was having trouble with, and I told him that I had ended up speaking to my supervisor about that coworker. He told me that he was glad I had people to talk to about this kind of stuff. I thanked him for listening to me, and he said no, he meant that he was glad I could talk to my supervisor about my troubles, that I could talk to the work psychiatrist, my therapist, etc about things, not just him. He was glad I had options. Looking back, I’m wondering if he was dropping a hint that he no longer wanted to hear my venting, but was too anxious to outright say it, because he didn’t want me to take it the wrong way.\n\nIt was around this time where there was a week in which we weren’t really talking. We did text each other every day, but they were extremely short and dry conversations. I remember wondering if we were drifting apart, as most of my friendships only last 6-9 months. At this point, in March, we’d been friends for 5 months, so I was nervous that we were approaching the “deadline” for the end of all of my friendships. He had also made a comment about how he was realizing that he just wanted a simple life at this moment, that all he needed was his family, his small friend group (that I’m not a part of), and his faith. He also said he didn’t want any trouble in his life. The comment made me wince, because I wasn’t sure if he was implying that I was trouble, that I was too much for him. But I brushed it off because we kept talking normally after that, with him starting the conversations 99% of the time - which to me, implies that he wants to talk to me.\n\nAfter that, things were fine, so I figured me being nervous about our friendship ending was nothing. April was a good month for me. I went out every weekend on my own to do self-care things, something I’d never done before, but he did all the time; he was inspiring me to do it.\n\nIn early May, I went to a concert by myself, because I didn’t know anyone else who liked or even heard of the artist. My friend doesn’t like that kind of music, but he was super excited for me anyway. I told him while I was waiting in line before the concert that I was dehydrated and worried I was going to pass out (since I was going to be standing in the pit). During the concert, he was checking in to make sure I hadn’t passed out. When the concert was over and I was heading home, it was around 10:30 pm. I had told him multiple times in the weeks leading up to the concert that I was worried I’d be attacked, since I was going to be out late at night alone. Before the concert, he had told me that he was going to be up late watching sports that day, so he’d have his phone on hand in case I needed someone to call. When I was coming out of the concert, he had wanted me to let him know once I got home. When I did, he was happy to hear that I got home safe and nothing happened to me. I had felt like that was very kind of him, and again, I had that feeling that he genuinely cared.\n\nIn April-May, work was rough for me. For context, my friend and I work in different sections, so we don’t see each other at all in person, and we don’t work together. We just text all the time, so he’s sort of more like an online friend in that sense, even though we do know each other in person. The only time we’ve had an in-person conversation was the day we met in October.\n\nSo in the months of April-May, work was rough for me. I had held back from venting about it, due to the comments he made in March about how I had other people to talk to besides him, and how he didn’t want any trouble in his life. He also doesn’t like when I get angry, and he knows I don’t hold back my tongue when I vent, and I often have trouble filtering things out. He’s the exact opposite of me, very calm and zen. Even when he gets angry, it’s more like he’s annoyed at best. He can hold his tongue and can filter his thoughts. So as a result, I think he tends to get a little uncomfortable when I vent. But that’s also why I ask if I can vent beforehand, and why I always apologize after. It’s also why I’ve expressed to him that he can let me know if I’m annoying or too much.\n\nIn the middle of May, something happened at work that made me extremely upset. When I got home, I was texting my friend and we were talking about our days like normal. When the conversation shifted to the topic that made me upset, I let it out and started venting about everything at work that had been stressing me out for the past month. This time, I had started venting out of nowhere without asking beforehand, because he always said I was welcome to vent. I also had not vented in a long time at this point, so I didn’t feel like I was treating him like my ex-bff did.\n\nI was going on probably my longest rant yet: I was typing for 30 mins straight about all my frustrations. Towards the beginning, he was responding to a couple of my messages, and adding reactions to some of them. As I kept ranting, I noticed he stopped reading my messages, so I figured he had stepped away from his phone. I kept typing to let the frustrations out, and eventually, I noticed he came back to his phone, because he had read my messages. I figured I’d give him some time to read and digest, and I fully expected him to give me his usual response: either telling me to breathe, or reassuring me that people at work can’t bother me once I’m at home. Or another response of his that he had towards the beginning of our friendship was to tell me that he was going to respond when he had the time, that he wasn’t ignoring me. At this point, I was so confident in our friendship that I thought I’d get one of these responses. I also had some unrelated, more light-hearted things I wanted to tell him, so once he responded and we could switch the subject, I could tell him what I wanted to say.\n\nExcept, his response never came. For context, he always responds to my messages right away. He rarely takes more than 10 mins to respond to me. At this point, we’d been talking almost every day for 8 months straight. One time, I didn’t respond to his messages for 6 hours, and he freaked out and was relieved when he finally heard from me. Another time, we didn’t speak for 2 days. When we finally did, he had said, “it’s good to talk to you,” as if it’d been 2 years. Yet another time, we didn’t talk for 4 days, and when we finally did, he had said, “how’ve you been?” as if those 4 days had been eternity.\n\nHis lack of a response was very strange and unlike him, so I started wondering if I did something wrong. I realized I never apologized after my rant like I normally did, so when he still didn’t respond 4 days later, I apologized to him. I said I was sorry for the string of messages and for the constant venting, I acknowledged that it was a lot and unfair of me. I also thanked him for always listening and being patient. Again, I had felt so confident in our friendship that I was sure he’d respond to that, but he never did.\n\nIt’s now been almost a month since we stopped speaking, and I have no idea what happened. We were literally joking and laughing days before we stopped talking, even earlier that same day, so this sudden silence came out of left field for me. I have tried talking to people about this situation, but they all said that my friend just needs space and that we’ll talk again. I expressed that I was afraid that he hated me and that we weren’t friends anymore, I was told time and time again that this is a huge leap and absolutely not true, that he just needs space from me.\n\nI understand the space, but I wish he would have just told me that he needed space, instead of just shutting me out. His silence has caused me to completely spiral. In the first few days after my rant, I was angry at his lack of a response. I realized that wasn’t fair of me, hence why I sent him the apology 4 days later. In the week following my apology with no response from him, I experienced the most severe anxiety of my life. I was so nervous that I felt nauseous and almost vomited multiple times, he was constantly on my mind, I was always worrying about what I did wrong, I wasn’t sleeping well, I stopped all hobby-related activities, I lost my appetite, and I wasn’t able to focus at work.\n\nThe week after that, I continued spiraling, but more into a depressed state. I was sad he wasn’t speaking to me, I was wondering what I did, if it was something I said that made him hate me, I was wondering if we’d still be friends, and I was having thoughts that if this one person who understood me so well, and who I clicked with so well, wouldn’t speak to me, then I must be unlikeable. This is my first irl friend I’ve made in 10 years, since high school. It’s not easy at all for me to make friends, and when I finally do, I ruined it all, solely because I don’t know how to keep my mouth shut. And this isn’t just any friend either, this is an extremely close friend who meant a lot to me, who was so kind, caring, and supportive, a friend that I never in a million years thought I’d lose, much less over something like this.\n\nI’ve continually been spiraling over the situation over the past month, to the point where I cannot focus on work. I’m starting to increase my individual therapy to twice a week rather than once a week. I’ve never wanted to take medications before, but I am going to try it because I cannot handle my spiraling thoughts and feelings. I am also hoping to start group therapy, because my individual therapy sessions aren’t enough for me, and I lost the only person who was my social support. Although I do acknowledge that relying on one person for social support is unhealthy, I don’t have much of a choice because it’s difficult for me to make friends. And after this situation, I don’t think I’d want to make any more friends. I don’t think I’d want to open up to and trust anyone ever again, because I did that with this friend, and this is what happened.\n\nI spoke to my therapist today to try to parse out the situation. She said that it sounds like he has trouble communicating to set his boundaries, which is most definitely true. I know that through my conversations with him, and also because I relate to his anxiety and understand how he feels a lot of the time; I often have the thought that we’re the same person.\n\nAt the end of the day, if I want to salvage this friendship, I know it’ll be up to me to reach out first, because between the two of us, I’m more comfortable with setting boundaries and communicating my needs. But that isn’t easy for me, as I’ve only started to do that recently. I used to be exactly like my friend, not communicating because I thought setting boundaries was “mean,” so I understand where he’s coming from. However, I’m afraid to reach out because I don’t know what’s going on through his head. I’d like to think that we were close enough that not speaking for almost a month is hurting him as much as it’s hurting me. But as much as I like to think we’re the same person, I can’t read his mind. I don’t know, and I’ll never know, why he never responded to me. I’ll never know if it’s because it was too much for him and he needed space, or if it was something I said that didn’t sit right with him. In either case, I genuinely felt like - and still feel like - we are close enough friends that something like this can’t come between us. And so, I don’t think I can ever bring myself to believe that this friendship is over, despite the fact that he’s not speaking to me.\n\nMy therapist seems to think this friendship is over, based on the way I’ve been spiraling over his lack of a response. But I refuse to believe that, I feel it in my gut that it can’t be true. She also seems to think our relationship isn’t healthy, due to his lack of communication. While I’m aware that communication is key for a healthy relationship, I think this situation is more complicated than that. His lack of communication is due to the fact that he has social anxiety, something I can relate to and understand. I don’t fault him for that, because I can understand it, but learning to communicate would let him grow as a person. At the same time, I genuinely felt like we had a good friendship and I don’t want to throw it away just because lack of communication is a character flaw for him, one that I don’t blame him for and don’t judge him for; I still care about him despite this flaw. I miss my friend so, so much, and every day that passes, it hurts me that we’re not speaking. I want to be friends with him again. But I’m not sure if he wants the same, because I don’t know what’s going on in his head.\n\nMy therapist has seen me spiraling over the past month. She said, in order for me to move on and have closure, to send him one last message and say, “Hey, we haven’t spoken in a while. I’m wondering if this is something I should get used to?” I know she’s right, that this is the closure that I need to move on and focus on myself. But I’m not sure that I’m ready to send that message, because I’m afraid that if I don’t get a response, that will tell me that our friendship is truly over, but I don’t want it to be over because I still care about him so much, and we had so many good times. Of course, that’s from my perspective. He could have been done with me for a while now, and was just too scared to tell me. Friendship is a two-way street, and if he doesn’t feel the same way about me, then I can’t force him to stay friends with me. But based on the person that I’ve known for the past 8 months, I genuinely don’t believe he hates me and hasn’t been thinking about me at all since we stopped speaking, despite the fact that my therapist thinks differently.\n\nI think that I’m waiting for a sign, a sure sign that he still cares about me and misses me as much as I miss him, but as long as I don’t see him in person (which I won’t, because we work in completely different sections, and also have different work schedules), I will never get that sign, and that’s what’s ultimately holding me back from reaching out. But, if I know my friend at all, it’s that I know he’s like me and experiences a lot of anxiety, so if I want any sort of closure, at the end of the day, it’ll be up to me…but my anxiety about what if he doesn’t respond, what if we’re not friends anymore, is holding me back, and now I don’t know what to do.\n\nAny advice would be appreciated. Thank you in advance!\n", "date": "1686452837", "thread_id": "306826", "title": "Getting closure from losing a close friend?", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Gettingclosurefromlosingaclosefriend_306826/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@blueStrawberries2960</p>\n<p>i would agree with your therapist and send message ....... </p>\n<p>while it is totally understandable but when a person reaches a limit on the amount of venting/ and complaints a person has they do just move away ....... i know you apologized many times but continued the behavior ....i doubt he will get over and start a friendship again since he was most likely overwhelmed by it all</p>\n<p>did you vent and hope they had suggestions..... IF they did suggest a solution did you do that or did you just continue on expecting different results........people will only try to help when they see you taking actions. </p>\n<p>i used to be in his shoes........ people would rant and vent ....... but did nothing to change how they</p>\n<p> reacted to things or let it go...... i had to walk away. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3293766", "thread_id": "306826", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Gettingclosurefromlosingaclosefriend_306826/" } ]

{ "author": "Luvmyself2004", "content": "Having these is very difficult and especially in the morning.\n", "date": "1687016354", "thread_id": "307233", "title": "Anxiety and panic attacks ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxietyandpanicattacks_307233/" }

[ { "author": "vellozoxv", "content": "<p>@Luvmyself2004</p>\n<p><span style=\"color:rgb(55,65,81);font-size:16px;background-color:rgb(247,247,248);\">\"I also have this since I was very young, I know how unpleasant this situation can be. Of course, everyone has their own way of dealing with these problems and calming down, but if I can give you a very good tip that I received a long time ago and helps me a lot (I know it sounds very strange), do the following: get on your knees, touch your forehead to the ground, and cross your hands behind your back. It helps a lot if you also listen to music and don't forget to take deep breaths. The name of this position is balasana or child's pose. I know it's really weird, but there's an explanation and it really calms you down. I swear!\"</span><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3295528", "thread_id": "307233", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxietyandpanicattacks_307233/" }, { "author": "FaeNyx", "content": "<p>@Luvmyself2004</p>\n<p>I agree with you. I just finished end of year testing at school and I had a panic attack during every single test! My teachers let me go outside and get a drink from the water fountain. Don’t be afraid to take a break, y’know? Sometimes it helps the overall outcome.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3295571", "thread_id": "307233", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxietyandpanicattacks_307233/" } ]

{ "author": "SleepySeaTurtle", "content": "My life has had so many awful things happen since last like, May, and I have another huge hurdle to overcome as soon as possible which is super stressful. Lately I'll just get a tight chest and constant worry out of what feels like nowhere and it stops me in my tracks.\n\nPushing past it to get things done to clear this hurdle feels impossible now.\n", "date": "1685842119", "thread_id": "306426", "title": "It's so hard to shake sometimes", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Itssohardtoshakesometimes_306426/" }

[ { "author": "GoingWithGrace", "content": "<p>@SleepySeaTurtle</p>\n<p>What ever these things are I wish you all the strength</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291138", "thread_id": "306426", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Itssohardtoshakesometimes_306426/" }, { "author": "bearsfan1244", "content": "<p>it sounds corny, but i try to think about it as “the grass is always greener”</p>\n<p>rollercoasters aren’t the same if they don’t have downs. everything will work out eventually </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3295341", "thread_id": "306426", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Itssohardtoshakesometimes_306426/" } ]

{ "author": "alexRose2610", "content": "i love the sport i play, it’s my favorite thing to do. however, when i play i get extremely anxious and get scared to mess up. at my middle school, i was one of the better people on my team so naturally all eyes were on me and i was expected to be some godsend. i’m now in highschool and it’s really difficult because A) the stakes are higher now and B) my anxiety is a lot worse than it was in middle school. i dwell on every mistake i make and i don’t know how to improve my skills and to not care what others think of me.\n", "date": "1621960790", "thread_id": "248959", "title": "sports", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" }

[ { "author": "Eudaimonia99", "content": "<p>@alexRose2610</p>\n<p>Sounds like you feel anxious about staking your athletic career high up at this moment. It must be hard to not care about how other people think. This situation distracts you from paying attention to yourself and may influence the performance. See every mistake as a learning opportunity. Once you fix it, it will only make you stronger. Wish you the best.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2685282", "thread_id": "248959", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" }, { "author": "matsukendg", "content": "<p>I've been in the same situation, friend. I think that you need to find the right people that would not care if you play bad or not.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2688010", "thread_id": "248959", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" }, { "author": "Ultimer", "content": "<p>My friend, you wrote about betting... And I immediately remembered about my favorite activity. I stopped playing sports a few years ago, but I continue to follow the athletes and I also place sports bets on <a href=\"https://www.parimatch.com.cy/promotions\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">stoixima bonus</a>. I wish you to reach the heights and success that you dream of! And so be it!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2695909", "thread_id": "248959", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" }, { "author": "Vexshadow", "content": "<p>I agree with the comment above. I also think sports betting can be a great choice to make money. All you need to do is find a reliable strategy and a good bookmaker. I bet on soccer, so I use a bookmaker with <span style=\"color:rgb(0,0,0);font-size:13px;\"><a href=\"https://maxfootballbets.com/england-league-2/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">england league 2 predictions</a></span>. This is a great option, so if you are new to this this is your chance to give it a try.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2837224", "thread_id": "248959", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" }, { "author": "vanessakenna90210", "content": "<p>Performance Anxiety is pretty tough to deal with so I relate. When you have a lot of pressure to do well in your sport, it's scary to mess up because people expect you to be great at all times. What I've learned to do is to stop caring what others think of me and when I mess up I think of it as a learning experience, not a failure. When I view it this way, I realized that I had less anxiety and performed better because instead of focusing on what other people thought and how I was going to perform, I focused on my craft. Hope this helps!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2838305", "thread_id": "248959", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" }, { "author": "Winter4ayear", "content": "<p>@alexRose2610 I've been having the same problem a lot lately. Sports are so demanding in high school that my coach made me play in a tournament the day after my grandmother's funeral. Him and my dad were angry my mom and I wanted to go to the funeral instead of play. It's been so bad that I used to be the best on my team, and now I am nearly the worst. I'm seeking help, and I feel like this is a good step. I will pray for you. I wish you the best in your journey throughout everything, especially your sport.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3235829", "thread_id": "248959", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" }, { "author": "Tnfkdg", "content": "", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3295128", "thread_id": "248959", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/sports_248959/" } ]

{ "author": "23helicopters", "content": "Hi. I have social anxiety since I can remember myself and I am so tired of it. It's holding be back from living a good life. I really want to change and get rid of it but right now I don't have the option to see a therapist. Do you have any ideas of what can I do to improve my situation a little? I'm really tired of being this way and I want to take some actions now\n", "date": "1686762739", "thread_id": "307064", "title": "Social anxiety ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Socialanxiety_307064/" }

[ { "author": "7motivation", "content": "<p>@23helicopters</p>\n<p>Regarding your thread question:</p>\n<p>Talking with peers in safe situations can help over time.</p>\n<p><span>For example, one can try online social events, like on zoom:</span><br></p>\n<p>Those groups may have even other better suggestions too.</p>\n<p>Hope you find the answers you are looking for.</p>\n<p>Best wishes.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3294026", "thread_id": "307064", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Socialanxiety_307064/" }, { "author": "23helicopters", "content": "<p>@7motivation Thank you so much! I'm going to check it out!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3294026,nil" ], "post_id": "3294074", "thread_id": "307064", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Socialanxiety_307064/" }, { "author": "7motivation", "content": "<p>@23helicopters</p>\n<p>One can also take advantage of the many resources here at 7Cups!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3294032", "thread_id": "307064", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Socialanxiety_307064/" } ]

{ "author": "LilliRex", "content": "I fake a smile everyday because when my mother asks me what's wrong I say nothing she gets mad ofc and says that I can tell her, yet when I do she makes me feel bad for feeling that way, I'm to scared to ask for therapy I don't really know if I need it. She told me that if I don't want to hang out with friends that I could just say no instead of just going to hangout, but yesterday I said no and she said \"why didn't you just go play?\" It makes no sense to me! Also I got like a 98% on my depression test on here but I don't think I am. I feel lost in my emotions everyday I don't feel like I can share how I feel because whenever I do I feel like I'm in trouble! I was going to make pancakes and she said something can't quite remember I started to go upstairs and she got mad and asked me why I didn't want to make pancakes anymore but I didn't wanna tell her she killed the mood because I don't want to hurt her feelings! SHE SAYS THAT I STAY ON MY PHONE BECUASE IM LAZY AND I DONT WANT TO DO ANYTHING! BUT I DONT HAVE THE MOTIVATION OR ENERGY TO DO ANYTHING AND I AM TRYING SO DANG HARD TO FIX THAT BUT NO MATTER WHAT ILL ALWAYS FRICKING ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE HER AND OTHER PEOPPE HAPPY AND I KNOW THAT MAKES ME A PEOPLE PLEASER BUT IDC!! I LOVE MAKING PEOPLE HAPPY BUT AT THE SAME TIME I DONT CARE!!! I just want to stop feeling this pain in my mind telling me I'm not worth anything..\n", "date": "1686722389", "thread_id": "307038", "title": "I'm not just fine", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Imnotjustfine_307038/" }

[ { "author": "fabiopilo1991", "content": "<p>Why is so important for you make other people happy?</p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3293571", "thread_id": "307038", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Imnotjustfine_307038/" }, { "author": "LilliRex", "content": "<p>I don't know it makes me happy to see other people happy but when I get home I feel depressed again</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3293571,nil" ], "post_id": "3294042", "thread_id": "307038", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Imnotjustfine_307038/" } ]

{ "author": "Lolthatswild8446", "content": "Hello, everyone! I recently decided to stop dating, as I struggled to properly set boundaries for myself in my “relationships”. I’m proud of myself for recognizing that I needed time to myself. However, I find that a lot of the time I spend now is filled with wondering why I allowed myself to be mistreated multiple times, why I kept running to temporary people hoping they’d fill some void, and wondering how I am/have been perceived by other people currently and in the past. So, although I’m happy that I’m not dating and putting myself first for once, I can’t get over the lingering shame and the anxiety that comes with that.\n", "date": "1685410873", "thread_id": "306042", "title": "Shame and Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/ShameandAnxiety_306042/" }

[ { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@Lolthatswild8446</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p style=\"margin-right:0px;margin-left:0px;\">Hello! It's commendable that you've made the decision to prioritize yourself and take a break from dating to focus on setting healthy boundaries. Recognizing the need for self-reflection and personal growth is an important step towards building a stronger foundation for future relationships.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">It's natural to reflect on past experiences and question why certain patterns emerged or why you allowed mistreatment. Remember, everyone makes mistakes, and growth often comes from learning from those experiences. Instead of dwelling on shame, try to shift your perspective towards self-compassion and understanding. Acknowledge that you are evolving and actively working towards positive change.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">When it comes to how you've been perceived by others, it's important to remember that you have the power to define your own worth and identity. People's opinions and judgments may vary, but what truly matters is how you perceive and value yourself. Focus on nurturing self-acceptance and self-love. Surround yourself with supportive and understanding friends who appreciate you for who you are.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">Consider engaging in activities that promote self-care and personal development. Explore hobbies, engage in therapy or counselling, practice mindfulness or journaling, and prioritize self-reflection. These practices can help you gain further insights into yourself, boost your self-esteem, and provide a sense of fulfilment.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px 0px;\">Remember, healing and growth take time, so be patient with yourself throughout this process. Celebrate the progress you've made and continue to prioritize your own well-being. With time, self-reflection, and self-compassion, you'll be able to move forward with confidence and create healthier connections in the future.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286467", "thread_id": "306042", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/ShameandAnxiety_306042/" }, { "author": "Lolthatswild8446", "content": "<p>Thank you so much for your kind words. Journaling and therapy have both been very helpful but I know there’s still more progress to be made.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3286467,nil" ], "post_id": "3292120", "thread_id": "306042", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/ShameandAnxiety_306042/" }, { "author": "CDK1972", "content": "<p>Hi Lol. Do you jog, walk or exercise. That really helps me when I’m going through my depression and anxiety. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3293818", "thread_id": "306042", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/ShameandAnxiety_306042/" } ]

{ "author": "agreeableTortoise1748", "content": "I am 32years old and recently broken up with my partner who l had believed would be married shortly and children etc. He pulled the rug from under me and eft unannounced during lockdown.", "date": "1592060627", "thread_id": "224222", "title": "Fear of not finding true love, getting older ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Fearofnotfindingtruelovegettingolder_224222/" }

[ { "author": "Person8818", "content": "<p>That sucks. I feel like I also aspire to finding \"true love.\" It seems like the most important thing in life, and yet I'm told at the same time it isn't. Like right now, we're living in this era where \"self-love\" is talked about more and more. I've only ever had one boyfriend and we broke up after a few months, so the likelihood that I'll end up alone seems greater and greater.</p>\n<p>Some part of me feels very depressed by the idea of never finding \"true love,\" but then I wonder why I should be. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2343813", "thread_id": "224222", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Fearofnotfindingtruelovegettingolder_224222/" }, { "author": "agreeableTortoise1748", "content": "<p>@Person7718</p>\n<p>i know what you mean and l agree. I understand the theory of self love but l just prefer being in a relationship. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2343813,nil" ], "post_id": "2343850", "thread_id": "224222", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Fearofnotfindingtruelovegettingolder_224222/" }, { "author": "inloveat66yo", "content": "<p>@agreeableTortoise1748</p>\n<p>Hello.  I'm Becky.  Yes you will find love again.  I promise.  This person was not for you.  Apparently he didn't appreciate the qualities you have to offer.  Please keep your chin up.  Allow yourself time to grieve but don't get stuck there. It's ok to ask for help esp from a professional.  Good luck </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3292130", "thread_id": "224222", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Fearofnotfindingtruelovegettingolder_224222/" }, { "author": "highlyintuition1", "content": "<p>@agreeableTortoise1748</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>you have to just put yourself out there! I mean as far as, deciding the type of person you want and GO to those areas and see if you can connect with them. Millions of people die daily and never get to experience what we have been conditioned to believe in as far as true love!. You will continue to live with or without it. But since YOU want it go out there and get it.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3292140", "thread_id": "224222", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Fearofnotfindingtruelovegettingolder_224222/" } ]

{ "author": "NolongerEnjoy", "content": "I have a terrible case of social anxiety and Ive been trying to work on it by going with a group that im not fully comfortable with. Like recently, i went with a group of 6, myself included, to a restaurant. In my eyes i did good, ordered no problem, and talked with everyone at the table no problem. No one cared. Im not going around seeking approval but if someone is going to complain about it i feel as though that should at least get some acknowledgement. Like i tried, even after i was given the option to not go, i still chose to. The reason its not progress apparently is because i told them it was easier for me to go in places in a group. Okay. Fine, on a completely different occasion, i go into a new mechanic shop just me and my gf. Now there weren't really ppl there other than the mechanics but, because i go into my mechanic shop, the same mechanic ive gone to for 4-5 year now, its not progress, even though ive never been there or met these ppl before.\n", "date": "1686161239", "thread_id": "306632", "title": "New faces make me nervous", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Newfacesmakemenervous_306632/" }

[ { "author": "Anonkelvin007", "content": "<p>@NolongerEnjoy  <span style=\"color:rgb(16,18,20);font-size:14px;\">I'm a little nervous too, but I try to take the focus off myself, pay more attention to my surroundings and talk to people around me, make myself realize that people aren't paying as much attention to you as you think, find myself nervous and distract myself by focusing on music or food, and convince myself that everyone else is just as nervous as you are.</span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291999", "thread_id": "306632", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Newfacesmakemenervous_306632/" } ]

{ "author": "Ska15", "content": "How to handle relationship anxiety? I’m in my first one and have really struggled to keep things together. I always feel like my brain wants to go back to ruminating about something and putting my body in freeze and fawn mode.\n", "date": "1686431784", "thread_id": "306819", "title": "Relationship Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/RelationshipAnxiety_306819/" }

[ { "author": "Thanhx4", "content": "<p>@Ska15</p>\n<p>Hi Ska, </p>\n<p>It sounds like you are in a very situation. Nerves for a new relationship is always normal! I think it's important to decide what is causing the nervousness though. Is it strictly from it being new or something else? I think once you figure that out, your solutions will come easier. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291399", "thread_id": "306819", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/RelationshipAnxiety_306819/" }, { "author": "Ska15", "content": "<p>Thank you so much for the response! There are definitely a lot of tough factors involved being long distance, parents feeling the need to control &amp; fears, and my anxious attachment style/anxiety. I myself have tried to make my own decisions and choose what I want, but eventually seem to fall in the predicament of my family looking at my relationship and seeing my bf as a bad person overall even tho we all haven’t met in person yet. Likewise, they have their own personal beliefs and values on how a relationship should be and I’m still forming mine. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3291399,nil" ], "post_id": "3291404", "thread_id": "306819", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/RelationshipAnxiety_306819/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "I have no anxiety today i'm actually feeling productive instead! I'm doing my crochet business and enjoying a church show as i get some inventory for my home based store\n", "date": "1685856953", "thread_id": "306440", "title": "check in", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/checkin_306440/" }

[ { "author": "LostTurtle2", "content": "<p>Yay!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291364", "thread_id": "306440", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/checkin_306440/" } ]

{ "author": "poshbear", "content": "Feeling of restlessness, feeling uneasy, think about random stuff\n", "date": "1686390458", "thread_id": "306795", "title": "Anxiety sleep loss", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Anxietysleeploss_306795/" }

[ { "author": "LostTurtle2", "content": "<p>@poshbear</p>\n<p>I hope you got some sleep since. Do you have anything in your toolbox for sleepless nights like that?</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291342", "thread_id": "306795", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Anxietysleeploss_306795/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "I'm hanging out with people this holiday and I love! I'm not anxious like I use to be\n", "date": "1685311218", "thread_id": "305988", "title": "Social Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/SocialAnxiety_305988/" }

[ { "author": "7motivation", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091</p>\n<p>Congratulations! This is great news! Thanks for sharing your success story!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3283567", "thread_id": "305988", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/SocialAnxiety_305988/" }, { "author": "RosaHere", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091 Hey there! That sounds like progress. Well done! &lt;3</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291160", "thread_id": "305988", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/SocialAnxiety_305988/" } ]

{ "author": "kareninaa", "content": "Maybe I should cut them off.\n", "date": "1686392692", "thread_id": "306796", "title": "Just thinking about that some people make me feel very anxious and others not.", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Justthinkingaboutthatsomepeoplemakemefeelveryanxiousandothersnot_306796/" }

[ { "author": "OrangeGlow17", "content": "<p>Hey there, @kareninaa. </p>\n<p>I totally hear you - wanting to go no-contact with people who make you feel anxious makes a lot of sense. But I can also see how difficult that can be when it's someone really close to you, like a family member. </p>\n<p>You should be able to feel relaxed and confident about the people who surround you, and maybe that means creating a bit of distance between you and those who contribute to your anxiety. </p>\n<p>I hope you're able to find something that works for you. ❤️</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3290974", "thread_id": "306796", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Justthinkingaboutthatsomepeoplemakemefeelveryanxiousandothersnot_306796/" }, { "author": "cindyzheng1344", "content": "<p>@kareninaa</p>\n<p>If there are individuals in your life who consistently make you feel anxious and negatively affect your mental health, it's worth considering setting boundaries or reassessing the dynamics of those relationships. Taking care of your own well-being is essential, and sometimes that means making tough decisions about who you choose to have in your life. Cutting off or distancing yourself from toxic or negative influences can be a valid choice if it helps protect your mental and emotional health.</p>\n<p>However, I encourage you to have an open conversation with the person that makes you feel anxious. Perhaps it can address the underlying issue and you guys can work together to resolve it. </p>\n<p>Trust your instinct and prioritize your mental health above all. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3291153", "thread_id": "306796", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Justthinkingaboutthatsomepeoplemakemefeelveryanxiousandothersnot_306796/" } ]

{ "author": "diamondintheROUGH2022", "content": "anxiety has taken every thing from me in the last year I have always struggled with anxiety but in the last year it took off and running taking away my friendships relationships mother daughter days my sanity work ethics I just everything I’m alone hurting scared and *** sick of it I’ve been waiting to get on meds for over a year can’t seem to get support help any relief comfort or a break really struggling \n", "date": "1685049063", "thread_id": "305805", "title": "Loss of fulfilling life", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Lossoffulfillinglife_305805/" }

[ { "author": "jperson99", "content": "<p>@diamondintheROUGH2022 <br><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3283887", "thread_id": "305805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Lossoffulfillinglife_305805/" }, { "author": "diamondintheROUGH2022", "content": "<p>thank you so much for your kind words and very well put and great suggestions I struggle finding support through family and friends due to I shut off a lot of people when I started my journey of recovery family is a in and out thing when it comes to support and I struggle with meeting new people due to insecurities and social anxiety I was speaking to a counselor but my kids father unfortunately stole my phone and took complete access to all my accounts smh I’m hoping to find some online groups or something along the lines and just give my self the time and space I need to heal and grow </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3283887,nil" ], "post_id": "3290621", "thread_id": "305805", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Lossoffulfillinglife_305805/" } ]

{ "author": "diamondintheROUGH2022", "content": "Today has been awful as I’ve had to deal with the control of kids father play his mind games just to get my daughter back and remind you he took her when I had a bad reaction to a medication almost died the first thing he thought to do was come to hospital steal my phone go to my moms take my kid for 5 days those 5 days I couldn’t think I couldn’t get anything done I cried cried and cried held on to her baby doll slept with it it was brittle and so today I played his head game and got her back my anxiety was through the roof sweating shaking irritable fear rational thinking idk how I’m going to face him in court when I just lose all my power in fear when he is around it’s been brutal trying to leave him having little to zero recourses help or support is draining me I’m drained but one happy momma to be able to cuddle my girlie and not her baby doll\n\nI hope every one else’s day was more on the light side and if your struggled at all stop and look in the mirror because you got through it and if your still struggling remember to breath work out listen to music reach out take a bath and allow that time for your self to get through it anxiety is frigging scary it hard and it’s far from a good time but your all bad *** strong individuals and we all can make it have a blessed day\n", "date": "1685318125", "thread_id": "305991", "title": "Check in ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Checkin_305991/" }

[ { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@diamondintheROUGH2022</p>\n<p style=\"margin-right:0px;margin-left:0px;\">I'm really sorry to hear about the difficult and challenging situation you've been going through with your daughter's father. It must have been incredibly distressing and overwhelming for you when he took her while you were dealing with your own health issues. It takes a lot of strength and courage to navigate through such circumstances, especially when you feel powerless and drained.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">It's great to hear that you were able to play his mind games and get your daughter back. Being reunited with her must have brought you immense comfort and happiness. It's also important to acknowledge your own resilience and the strength you've shown throughout this ordeal.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">Remember to take care of yourself during these tough times. Self-care is crucial, and finding moments to breathe, engage in activities you enjoy, and seek support can make a difference. You are absolutely right that anxiety is scary and challenging, but you are not alone in facing it. Your words of encouragement to others show compassion and strength.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px 0px;\">If you ever need someone to talk to or further support, don't hesitate to reach out. You're doing an incredible job, and I hope that brighter days lie ahead for you and your daughter. Have a blessed day as well.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286449", "thread_id": "305991", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Checkin_305991/" }, { "author": "diamondintheROUGH2022", "content": "<p>Thank you for reaching out your encouragement and kind words all do so much more justice then one would realize or think I appreciate you hope all is well with you me and my mini are currently working out with our hands and weights haha so cute </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3290617", "thread_id": "305991", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Checkin_305991/" } ]

{ "author": "MissMouse2023", "content": "There is this guy at work that is really handsome and at first seemed charming and sweet, but being around him makes me very self-conscious. His presence is a major anxiety trigger for reasons I’ll describe below. At one point, I felt very attracted to him, however I don’t know if I still am because he has not been very nice to me, and he showed a side that honestly disgusted me. Even though I want nothing to do with him anymore, because he started treating me differently as soon as he saw that I was getting flustered in his presence, I still feel really nervous around him, as if everything about me was being judged, as if every mistake, physical defect, character flaw, and unattractive trait was on display. \n\nUntil about 2-3 months ago, we were on relatively friendly terms, even though he never really started any conversations with me, despite being very talkative with everyone else, and I’m the one who was chatty if we ever talked. I’ve always been shy and awkward around him, however I tried my best to be nice and sweet, while staying professional, but that never impressed him. Then, for reasons I still can’t figure out because my behavior has been perfectly normal and acceptable, and previously friendly, he went from acting nice to acting extremely unfriendly and somewhat mean and rude and making me feel like I was being socially ostracized. I don’t think I was treating him differently from other people either, and everyone else at work seems happy with me, so I don’t know what I did.\n\nUnfortunately, I am quite good at perceiving facial expressions, but it’s not always easy to know the reasons for them. What I have felt is a lot worse than rejection, because I actually felt tension and even hostility, and it feels very unsettling. What truly upsets me is this - even if he wasn’t attracted to me, I was never aware that he disliked me or distrusted me. I’ve been in several situations before where either someone was interested in me and I wasn’t, or I had expressed interest in someone and they weren’t interested, but we were all nice to each other about it. I never even expressed interest in this person (although maybe it was obvious that I was always nervous and excited around him), and he’s treated me as if I was a menace just for existing. I actually don’t even feel comfortable making even brief eye contact with him, because then he gives me a death stare and clearly does not want me to notice him. Then he also glares if he sees that you see him and intentionally ignore him (for good reason), so it is a no-win situation. \n\nI never expected this person to like me back, but I’m puzzled by the way he’s acted towards me. I’m sure he must be used to women being all over him, demonstrating much more interest than I have (unless maybe he’s gay?). In any case, when I first met him he was warm and friendly, and I feel as if he liked my personality. Likewise, I actually used to really like his personality and sense of humor, not just his looks, until he started being a ***. \n\nA few months ago (maybe 4 months ago) I was under the impression that he liked me (he was staring a lot and it was nothing inappropriate but it was definitely noticeable and it made me feel scrutinized). He would also glance a lot from across the hallways and smile in my direction. So then I wasted a lot of time and energy trying to look cute and pretty for him. However, he obviously wants nothing to do with me anymore (I’m not sure if maybe he went into a committed relationship and I was an unwanted distraction?) Unfortunately, that short phase he went through lasted just long enough for me to pick up on it and begin to have feelings, which has made this quite painful for me. Going through a breakup with my fiancé before this happened does not help either. As soon as his short phase came to an end, he treated me like I wasn’t even a human being, which really hurt me and damaged me, especially because I felt like I was led into liking him, which made it really hard to detach emotionally. Worse than that, he actually made me feel like I did something wrong.\n\nFor months, I’ve asked myself “what have I done?”. I flirted with him once but we were both going along with it and it “just happened”. Did I do anything too flirtatious or inappropriate? No. Did I stare too much? No. Did I make it too obvious that I was into him? Nothing that I’m aware of (other than being flustered and fidgety and talking too much when he’s around). Did I ever “mislead him” in any way? No. The only thing I could think of that has some truth to it is that I was just too nervous and socially awkward around him which made him nervous. However, I have a feeling this person is not very logical and I often can’t make sense out of his behavior. \n\nOther explanations are either that he found out that I was attracted to him and felt creeped out by it for whatever reason, or if he ever did have any warm feelings towards me (which I thought he did at first) the fact that he knows that I still stay friends with my ex-fiancé may have disgusted him. \n\nAlmost overnight, he stopped returning my greetings, then looked agitated every time he saw me (even getting up from his seat in his office next to mine to walk around somewhere else when I had to leave my office to do errands around the building), would look away and pretend not to see me when I was talking to our mutual friends and he would walk by and I would look towards him to join the conversation, and then would glare angrily and even display guarded body language every time I made eye contact or even when I walked by him to go from one place to another (what did I do? and what is so menacing about a small thin person to some tall muscular guy?) This made me so uncomfortable that I started avoiding him and had to schedule my day around not accidentally running into him. It made me feel like a prisoner to my desk. If I even accidentally looked at him, he would immediately start getting tense and look over his shoulder. This person made me feel like some sort of serial killer for no reason (full disclosure, I have previously been a victim of sexual harassment and stalking, and I know what it looks like). \n\nI’ve tried completely avoiding him, especially because I feel hurt and self-conscious every time I’m around him, however this is kind of difficult since we work in the same building and I sometimes see him drive by when I walk to work. \n\nThe irony is that when I give him the same treatment that he gave me (not half as rude as he was) he looks puzzled and angry and also glares. My current approach is to not even acknowledge his presence and look away if he’s there. I answer if he has a work-related question and that’s it. Otherwise, I want nothing to do with him.\n\nIf I had my way, I would never see him again as soon as I stopped being friendly with him 2-3 months ago. \n\nThen when he saw that I was uncomfortable when we accidentally saw each other, he also glared as if I’d been rude. A few times when he said hello, I just gave him a polite hello back but tensed up. Because it is awkward for me to be around someone who I used to have feelings for but did not return them (or maybe did in the very beginning but then turned on me very quickly), does he not understand why I look tense and nervous and would rather be distant? Maybe I would like to move on from someone who has treated me this way so I could focus my attention on someone who actually loves me and someone who actually deserves me? He now acts even more uncomfortable around me ever since I have distanced myself completely and showed tense body language (not even intentionally). To summarize where it’s currently at, if we accidentally make eye contact, he gives the “death glare” and it makes me wonder how such hostility built up. So now, I’m afraid of even accidentally coming across him, because the experience poisons my work day.\n\nWhy does he even care about how I act, other than to be a self-righteous jerk? I already gave him the message that I’m moving on, so why does he have to be a ***? This only makes it more difficult to detach, because it is like ripping open an old wound, reminding me of how I felt 2-3 months ago. It means nothing to him, so why can’t he just be at peace with my being nervous and distant? Why can’t he look at the context and at least be forgiving and sympathetic to the reason and try to see my perspective instead of raising his eyebrows and glaring? If he’s truly bothered by everything I do, then why doesn’t this otherwise outgoing person just communicate this instead of using angry looks or scurrying away when he sees me? If he doesn’t want to have an intelligent conversation about this weirdness, than what is it to him? I have the right to not have positive feelings and to feel however I want. Why should I feel good about someone who for two months (enough time to fall for someone) gave mixed messages and a trail of breadcrumbs of interest (all these smiles and glances and greetings that led nowhere but were enough to lead someone on) only to turn on me suddenly? Or did he conveniently forget about this?\n\nThen a couple of weeks ago, he briefly switched back to his “on” mood, where he started staring at me again (this is after I switched to contact lenses). Of course he did not seem to understand or care that this was making me self-conscious and nervous, so he saw that I was very tense and then switched back to his “off” mood. I’m not sure how I felt either about yet another breadcrumb of false hope from a confused person, that would lead me nowhere but to a path where I would be once again mislead, only to be treated later as if I carried diseases, as soon as he changes his mind again. What was the point of this? To rip open a wound that had finally started healing and pour lemon juice on it? \n\nMaybe he could keep this in mind (that I felt self-conscious and mislead) instead of assuming that I didn’t like him? And then, when he goes back to his “off” mood, maybe he could at least be cognizant of the fact that he had given off certain cues? If he doesn’t want someone to like him or notice him at all (which he seems very perceptive to) then why can’t he at least be consistent instead of confusing someone? Does he even understand that I’m completely confused by him and don’t know how to react? Could he at least be sensitive to the fact that a lot of the vibes I give off are just a product of anxiety, instead of judging me? \n\nBeing around him is like walking on eggshells because I feel like I can’t do anything without eliciting some negative reaction. On one hand, If I try to smile and say hello and make eye contact, he would most likely ignore me, or he would assume that I’m still interested, and if I do a single thing that could even be remotely construed as showing interest, it will agitate him and he’ll act like he does not want to be seen. I think he would also confuse my trying to be friendly (which for the most part is all I ever did) with my trying to get his attention. But then, when I started tensing up in his presence, or looking in the other direction, when I accidentally saw him, that was not well received either. Maybe he sensed bitterness? I can’t help how I feel, but that doesn’t mean I would do anything bad to him. \n\nWhat really annoys me too is that he seems to confuse my trying to impress people (a product of social anxiety and feeling self-conscious) with trying to grab his attention. If I try to dress up in cute dresses or “show off” my skills at work to impress people (when sometimes he’s around), he’ll give another one of those “death glares”, as if I should cease to exist. But what even makes him think this is for him, as if the world revolves around him? It’s for me, not him. Likewise, what he may perceive as my feeling upset, has less to do with him, than the way he has made me feel. Even when I fall in love with someone else, I will never forget just how lousy he made me feel. \n\nNever mind that it’s kind of insulting when someone who everyone says is so “friendly” and “sweet” and such a “great guy” and such a “social guy” has barely spoken a word to me, even when we were on better terms, and I’m the one (out of all people) who tried to start conversations? Maybe he could keep that in mind if he wants to dismiss me as an unsocial person (I overheard him say something to that effect once in the hallways). I don’t want anything to do with him unless he is willing to explain this behavior. \n\nIf I have the misfortune of having to see this person at work, how do I deal with the distress it is causing? How am I supposed to forget about this when the way he acts towards me is so triggering and rips open healing wounds? \n\nAnd how do I make sense out of it and react to it? It seems that no matter what I do, I’ll be made to feel like a did something terrible and unacceptable. I’m not perfect and I often act frazzled and flustered, but all I ever did was like him, without even making it obvious. That wasn’t my fault. I never wanted to make him nervous either, and I’m not that kind of person. Part of me even feels like he is jumping to the worst assumptions about me so that he doesn’t have to feel any sympathy. I can’t help it if I sometimes draw people away due to my social anxiety. I’m not like him and we’re not on the same playing field. \n\nIf I can’t engage with him at all, but then can’t ignore him either, without feeling judged as if I’m weird, then what am I supposed to do if I see him. I’ve honestly thought of switching jobs. \n", "date": "1685931135", "thread_id": "306485", "title": "Triggering situation with a guy at work - cannot make sense out of it and don’t know how to respond", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Triggeringsituationwithaguyatworkcannotmakesenseoutofitanddontknowhowtorespond_306485/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@MissMouse2023</p>\n<p>It is awkward and sometimes hard to deal with someone at work that makes you uncomfortable. There should be no reason this would be a reason to switch jobs...... if it is that uncomfortable ix there a way to talk to him after work/ at lunch to clear the air ?   </p>\n<p>Is it possible that you have misread the situation ?   that his looking at you or glares as you said something else?   most of that i see at work is not about personal feelings but work items. </p>\n<p>if you need to talk to a supervisor /HR i would leave out your liking him at first etc as it is a workplace not a dating site..... but at the least people should be able to do their work without feeling liek they need to avoid a co-worker.. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3290425", "thread_id": "306485", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Triggeringsituationwithaguyatworkcannotmakesenseoutofitanddontknowhowtorespond_306485/" } ]

{ "author": "AayushreeKalyani", "content": "From what I know, this phobia is very rare. I have had this phobia of butterflies/moths since a very young age. Anyone here who has the same phobia?\n", "date": "1685655500", "thread_id": "306301", "title": "Lepidopterophobia", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/Lepidopterophobia_306301/" }

[ { "author": "Optimisticempath", "content": "<p>@AayushreeKalyani it does seem like a rare one but I'm glad you have a space in 7 cups to talk about it also &lt;3 </p>\n<p><img src=\"https://media.tenor.com/cz7K5R-C7SkAAAAC/hug-love.gif\" data-src-static=\"https://media.tenor.com/cz7K5R-C7SkAAAAe/hug-love.png\" alt=\"hug-love.gif\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3290339", "thread_id": "306301", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Phobias_250/Lepidopterophobia_306301/" } ]

{ "author": "chickenwing2005", "content": "hey guys i am going through a very stressfull confusing breakup and every morning when i wake up i have very bad stress and anexity it is the worst in the morning, i’m actually able to go to sleep peacefully but i don’t know why it is so bad in the morning does anyone have any tips?\n", "date": "1685867026", "thread_id": "306448", "title": "Morning anexity ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Morninganexity_306448/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@chickenwing2005</p>\n<p>Mornings can be a review time in our mind and if there are some unresolved items we are successful in the day pushing aside............ sort of pop up in the mornings when we first wake.</p>\n<p>maybe time to address items you have been suppressing.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289873", "thread_id": "306448", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Morninganexity_306448/" } ]

{ "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "I've been struggling lately with anxiety when I wake up.  I go to bed, and can mostly shut off my brain, a lot of times due to being exhausted all day being anxious. (a vicious cycle)\n\nThe moment I wake up, even if I've had a great night's sleep, I am filled with anxiety and that \"fight or flight\" fear.  It can be mild (on a scale of 1-10, a 4) or full on (8).  It's like my subconscious starts poking at me as soon as I'm awake.  I'm not even out of bed yet and I'm laying there, feeling scared and anxious - and my brain hasn't even focused on anything yet.\n\nDoes anyone have any suggestions on how they get through this (if it's happening to you, too).  I'm going to talk to my therapist about it because it has gotten bad lately, but I could use a few extra \"tools\" to help me in the morning.\n", "date": "1686149464", "thread_id": "306623", "title": "Morning Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/MorningAnxiety_306623/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma</p>\n<p>Some folks upon waking go through what they need to do in day in their head ..... Is this the type of things causing anxiety or just generalized?</p>\n<p>sometimes i feel if we have a lot to do in a day a normal amount of anxiety occurs ....... i have had random anxiety and it is IMO about items i am not actively dealing with..... for example i know a task needs to be done or a difficult conversation needs to happen and instead of dealing with it i push to back of mind...  i find writing down those items or tackling some of the back burner items i have put off helps with the anxiety levels. </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289343", "thread_id": "306623", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/MorningAnxiety_306623/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@toughTiger6481 </p>\n<p>YES YES YES :)</p>\n<p>It's not about what I have to do in a day.  My days are, and have always been busy.  I'm okay with that.  Busy keeps me from not thinking about those things that give me anxiety.</p>\n<p>I definitely believe that \"wake up anxiety\" stems from me not wanting to have hard conversations or deal with someone/something that I know is going to be incredibly overwhelming and difficult for me.  I'm avoiding issues because I just can't deal with them right now.  I can talk about things with my therapist, but I don't want to have hard conversations with the people in my life that I need to talk to.  It makes me sad and upset.  On one hand I need to protect myself, but on the other hand, not having the conversation is hurting me as well.</p>\n<p>It's tough to deal with.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3289343,nil" ], "post_id": "3289746", "thread_id": "306623", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/MorningAnxiety_306623/" }, { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma</p>\n<p>The quickest way out is to have those difficult conversations i recently had to have one otr two still have one left but the ease up from dealing with the 2 i had was well worth it.  </p>\n<p>life is tough but holding on to stress and anxiety is costing you..... sometimes just mental but other is physical as well .........</p>\n<p>There is never a \"right\" time for anything and i have learned waiting often makes it worse because whomever you are dealing with wonder what took so long....</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3289746,3289343,nil" ], "post_id": "3289843", "thread_id": "306623", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/MorningAnxiety_306623/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "My anxiety is getting better\n", "date": "1685546585", "thread_id": "306168", "title": "Check in ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Checkin_306168/" }

[ { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091 Hope it continues to get better! </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289649", "thread_id": "306168", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Checkin_306168/" } ]

{ "author": "BorahaeAndHappiness", "content": "Hi everyone. I decided to take a leave of absence from work because my mental health is really bad right now. My anxiety and depression are very bad especially my anxiety. It almost feels like my soul was ripped out and replaced with anxiety instead if that makes any sense.\n\nAnyway, I have some plans for what to do on my time off but would like more ideas. I'd like ideas to help me heal during this time. I already have plans to see a doctor so please don't say that. 😊 I'm looking for other things right now that don't have to do with a doctor or medicine.\n\nIdeas so far...\n\nGet outside\n\nMeditate\n\nRead bible\n\nRead a book\n\nListen to music\n\nGo to my happy places (libraries or bookstores)\n\nWhat other ideas do you have?\n\nThanks 😊\n\n", "date": "1684962765", "thread_id": "305743", "title": "Taking time off work ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }

[ { "author": "Jaeteuk", "content": "<p>Good for you for taking time off from work, so you have time to heal from mental health. Stress leaves are important to take when we work for people like us. This is a smart first step for you.</p>\n<p>May I recommend a book(s), seeing how you read the Bible, if you haven't read books from Eckhart Tolle yet, his books are spiritual-based, but are very powerful and brings light into our mental health (how we should think). They are easy to read and aren't very long (thick). </p>\n<p>If you're able to, maybe go on a mini vacation or even a day trip. Stay away from technology devices, and let yourself free. Just enjoy yourself in the moment.</p>\n<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3280260", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "BorahaeAndHappiness", "content": "<p>Thanks for the book recommendation. I'll definitely check that out. 😊</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3280260,nil" ], "post_id": "3280307", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "BorahaeAndHappiness", "content": "<p>I forgot to tag @Jaeteuk </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3280307,3280260,nil" ], "post_id": "3280309", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "VivianFei", "content": "<p>hi I would recommend finding a interest and join a interest group. For example I like drawing group and I joined a drawing group and it has been a meditating experience which I was also able to make a friend. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3280265", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "BorahaeAndHappiness", "content": "<p>Great idea! @vivianfei</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3280265,nil" ], "post_id": "3280310", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "dancingcat828", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness</p>\n<p>Im glad you have have taken some time for yourself. </p>\n<p>For me, hobbies like crocheting, reading and small bursts of intense exercise helps managing negative emotions, perhaps they could help you too!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3280992", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "resourcefulGlobe6827", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness I'm going through the same thing. I have debilitating anxiety and can't work or do school. I would try talking to friend, watching comedy, and going to church or getting together with a group that cares about you. Also talk about your issues with people you trust. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3281000", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "GuardianOfPeace", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness <span>You should be proud that you are taking time off to care for yourself. H</span><span>aving plans and being </span><span>open to suggestions are active steps </span>towards self improvements<span>. <br>I find journaling very helpful. Writing down things like: </span><span>What are some things you like about yourself? things that others like about you? What coping mechanisms you can use when not feeling good? and so on. Other than that, just relax and don't ask too much of yourself. :)</span></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3284858", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "AayushreeKalyani", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness you have already mentioned going outside, but i really wish I had a small waterfall nearby i could go to whenever my anxiety would get the better off me. In case you do have one nearby, you may try visiting one, the experience in itself is so so surreal. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3285596", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "colorfulLily4704", "content": "<p>I’m so sorry to hear you have been struggling lately. Good job recognizing that you need a break from work to allow yourself to focus on your mental health. It’s also really good to hear you are seeing a professional to help you. You seem to have some great ideas about things you can do. I see you already have this on your list, but going outside and getting some fresh air can be really freeing. Maybe you could even try doing your reading outside.</p>\n<p>I hope you start feeling better soon!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286117", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "kyrinkrystal", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness</p>\n<p>Kudos to you on taking a leave from work for your mental health, and as you said, mainly anxiety! anxiety can be treacherous sometimes. its valid. hope the visit with the doctor makes it better too.</p>\n<p>some ideas to maybe help heal, can also include some foods that help with anxiety/stress like, icecream, dark chocolate, veggies, tea, and yoga helps too. </p>\n<p>i hope you feel better soon, @borahaeandhappiness</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286283", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "cccocoapuffs", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness <br><br>Taking time off is a wonderful idea, i think you have a lot of wonderful ideas that you can do to help how you are feeling. something i like to do when feeling stressed is painting. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289472", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "pinkPine1354", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness Play Sims 4 if you dont already its a free game on the PC! I find it to be a very stress relieving game if you like the building on there once you learn it...you can buy expansions and ther games fir more building objects and CAS mode if you enjoy it😊</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289473", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" }, { "author": "adaptableCoconut9108", "content": "<p>@BorahaeAndHappiness try out a new hobby! Painting or coloring books usually help me </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289476", "thread_id": "305743", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Takingtimeoffwork_305743/" } ]

{ "author": "ram7474", "content": "Do you ever wake up and your body just decides that you’re abruptly anxious today?no triggers, you just have to spend the next week or so worrying and overthinking and having fast heartbeats over nothing?Is it just me? If it happens to anyone how do you guys deal with it?\n", "date": "1686081844", "thread_id": "306583", "title": "Random thoughts", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Randomthoughts_306583/" }

[ { "author": "RicardoAbreu", "content": "<p>Yeah been through that ? What do you enjoy doing in your daily basis </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288674", "thread_id": "306583", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Randomthoughts_306583/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@ram7474 </p>\n<p>I'm sorry I didn't see this post, because I just posted about this exact issue.  It's a very real, terrible struggle.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289061", "thread_id": "306583", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Randomthoughts_306583/" }, { "author": "CDK1972", "content": "<p>I had it a lot of times. I just try to stay busy, walk etc. mine eventually goes away for awhile. Then when I get it again I know what to expect. Sometimes I’ll have to take a small dose of Klonopin </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3289146", "thread_id": "306583", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Randomthoughts_306583/" } ]

{ "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "So, at first, going to sleep was a problem. I was able to get my mind to relax when it's time to sleep, so now I'm doing good at night. Now I'm having problems with eating. When I eat, I feel so full, even if I eat 2 large scrambled eggs. I feel like I'm not getting enough food in my body, and I'm eating 2 tiny meals or basically snacks because a meal is bigger. I eat so little, and I'm concerned, because I'm losing weight, and I'm scared to lose too much if I'm not eating correctly. It just bugs me that I can't eat a healthy amount of food. How can I fix this? I think I might need vitamins since my food intake is really low. \n\n", "date": "1685486310", "thread_id": "306114", "title": "Eating", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Eating_306114/" }

[ { "author": "7motivation", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>Regarding your concerns:</p>\n<p>Hope you find the answers you are looking for!</p>\n<p>Some people:</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286326", "thread_id": "306114", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Eating_306114/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@7motivation</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Thanks I appreciate your advice. Thankfully I was able to find and address the problem.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3286326,nil" ], "post_id": "3287481", "thread_id": "306114", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Eating_306114/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie </p>\n<p>I'm guessing (not a doctor, just basing my own experiences) that your anxiety makes you less hungry.  Or, it makes you feel less hungry.  At least, that's what happens with me.  The more anxious I become, the less I want to eat.  And although I have plenty of extra weight, it's not healthy for me to not eat.</p>\n<p>It's okay to eat little meals/snacks throughout the day instead of three big meals.  As long as they're nutritious, of course.  Having a bunch of candy bars or ice cream because it soothes you mentally when you're anxious is not really helping much in the long term!</p>\n<p>Get an appointment with your primary care doctor and have a talk about it.  They may recommend things like protein shakes or Ensure to help make sure you're getting the vitamins you need daily.  They may recommend a nutritionist to help you plan meals/snacks to where you're eating small plates throughout the day that can satisfy your nutrition needs as well as keeping your calorie intake at a proper level.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286403", "thread_id": "306114", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Eating_306114/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>So, i figured i out. It was definitely a mind problem. My anxiety was scaring me. Since I was Googling what I could and couldn’t eat, I was scared when eating. I would eat a meal and think “what if it hurts my stomach?” It happened a few days till one day I told myself that the food I was scared of was food that I would eat before the anxiety attack and that I shouldn’t be scared of it. So, after that every time I eat now, i make sure I tell myself that the food I’m about to eat is food I used to eat and that it wouldn’t hurt me before, so I shouldn’t be scared of it. That’s how i overcame my fear. Now I eat and I feel perfectly fine. Thank God! </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Thank you for your advice I truly appreciate it. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3286403,nil" ], "post_id": "3287484", "thread_id": "306114", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Eating_306114/" }, { "author": "RCMoon89", "content": "<p>I'm kinda having the same issue with food, I either don't want to eat or nothing is appetizing for me. Or when I do eat two bites and I am so full like I had Thanksgiving dinner. And I usually turn to my comfort foods that really helps me want to eat. Focus on your cravings. I know sometimes we can lean toward unhealthy foods, but when we're in our moments are comfort foods or cravings are sometimes the safest route to go as long as we're eating. Sometimes I crave a big fat salad. Sometimes I crave and McDonald's cheeseburger. ❤️ </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288818", "thread_id": "306114", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Eating_306114/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@RCMoon89 </p>\n<p>It's hard when it's a junk food craving.  But fat, sugar, salt, carbs - all comforting.  Whenever I'm out I think \"oh - I'll just get a cheeseburger.... and I have to stop myself and focus on something better for my physical well-being, not just my mental well-being.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3288818,nil" ], "post_id": "3289037", "thread_id": "306114", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Eating_306114/" } ]

{ "author": "resourcefulGlobe6827", "content": "I was doing ok for a week but I'm feeling worse again. I'm getting more anxious, panicked, and hopeless each day. I don't know why its happening and how to get out of it. \n", "date": "1686081638", "thread_id": "306581", "title": "Not again", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Notagain_306581/" }

[ { "author": "GoingWithGrace", "content": "<p>@resourcefulGlobe6827</p>\n<p>Feelings are brutal sometimes but are only temporary so keep reminding yourself of that. Its difficult when doing well and nothing specifically happened to feel bad again but it's kinda like the yin and yang of life. Try remind yourself that things will lighten again, and lots of self care in the mean time. Wishing u well</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288704", "thread_id": "306581", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Notagain_306581/" } ]

{ "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "I'm constantly living on edge thanks to some volatile, unprofessional and very critical interactions with my supervisor. She jumps me without warning and I shut down. I can't defend myself, I just get teary eyed and my heart races.\n\nI do my best to fly under her radar and yet she still comes at me for the smallest things. I'm struggling. :(\n", "date": "1685981935", "thread_id": "306520", "title": "Critical and Unfair Supervisor", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/CriticalandUnfairSupervisor_306520/" }

[ { "author": "DaninUK", "content": "<p>Do you mean at work? If you think you're being bullied go to HR. Don't let it make you more anxious. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288340", "thread_id": "306520", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/CriticalandUnfairSupervisor_306520/" }, { "author": "neatBlueberry5213", "content": "<p>@DaninUK</p>\n<p>Yes, my supervisor at work. My organization doesn't have a dedicated HR department and the last time I had issues with a boss and had enough courage to go to HR with the abuse, they fired me. I'm hesitant to be put in a spot where I might lose my job again.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3288340,nil" ], "post_id": "3288525", "thread_id": "306520", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/CriticalandUnfairSupervisor_306520/" }, { "author": "DaninUK", "content": "<p>I'm sorry to hear that, it's really unfair. You need to fake it to make ... I mean just be strong, even if your not. If she has a go, ask what you need to do to be better. Yes it's tough, but kill em with kindness. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288528", "thread_id": "306520", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/CriticalandUnfairSupervisor_306520/" }, { "author": "glowingPond", "content": "<p>Hi @neatBlueberry5213 , I am so sorry you are going through all of this. Is there a way you could report these situations to someone? Unfortunately in our path in life we can find people that we do not connect with and people that might hurt us. </p>\n<p>I am sorry you are feeling that way and I hope everything will work out for you and you can restore your peace. A big hug your way! </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288558", "thread_id": "306520", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/CriticalandUnfairSupervisor_306520/" } ]

{ "author": "MissysRider07", "content": "Hey, I'm 16 and trying to get a job and have applied for so many places but havent been accepted. I'm worried I'll never get a job because I've never worked anywhere before. \n\nAnd what about when I finally do get a job? What if I'm not good at the job at all and get fired right away?\n\nWhat's it like for the first time working..?\n", "date": "1686009440", "thread_id": "306531", "title": "Work", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Work_306531/" }

[ { "author": "toughTiger6481", "content": "<p>@MissysRider07</p>\n<p>Often first time jobs places give you leeway ........ </p>\n<p>doing a decent job is not hard if you follow directions  and ask questions........and learn the job. </p>\n<p>careful of what co-workers you align with.............. as some have bad work habits and could steer you off course. </p>\n<p>the only people i saw that got fired quickly etc were people who did not follow directions or thought they could wing it......</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288498", "thread_id": "306531", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Work_306531/" }, { "author": "MissysRider07", "content": "<p>@toughTiger6481</p>\n<p>Good thing I listen to the people in charge and not other people (like other students)... </p>\n<p>Thank you :3</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3288498,nil" ], "post_id": "3288502", "thread_id": "306531", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Work_306531/" } ]

{ "author": "Winterkat", "content": "\"Don’t let your mind bully your body into believing it must carry the burden of its worries.\" — Astrid Alauda\n\nIn case you needed to hear this today, take a deep breath. Everything will come together, and you will feel relief . \n\n-winter\n", "date": "1685921636", "thread_id": "306477", "title": "Anxiety Support ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietySupport_306477/" }

[ { "author": "SilentEcho2019", "content": "<p>Thank you for the support. After so many years I finally decided to address my anxiety. I didn't realize there was so much support out here for it.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287378", "thread_id": "306477", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietySupport_306477/" }, { "author": "intuitiveFan2816", "content": "<p>Thank you for sharing 🪷</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287433", "thread_id": "306477", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietySupport_306477/" }, { "author": "DaninUK", "content": "<p>I was just learning to accept / handle anxiety. Now I get this dissociation problem... </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288341", "thread_id": "306477", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/AnxietySupport_306477/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "I have anxiety of running out of yarn rn, i know its sounds silly but that's my mood. I'm going to the store later and getting some more so i feel a little better until I go. I'm anxious on starting another project but i have to finish up the one i have left. I finished my first sweater and it made me feel less anxious because i completed something instead of leaving it and feeling some type of way of just leaving it\n", "date": "1685691931", "thread_id": "306315", "title": "anxiety ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/anxiety_306315/" }

[ { "author": "Hkhan717", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091 </p>\n<p>I am very sorry to hear that you are experiencing anxiety. Can you please tell me how it kind of all started? </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3288003", "thread_id": "306315", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/anxiety_306315/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "I took a day off and it was nice to not have a routine but I've seen results and I'm back to my schedule its good for me and my kiddos\n", "date": "1685605686", "thread_id": "306246", "title": "Back on track", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Backontrack_306246/" }

[ { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091</p>\n<p>Glad you figured what works best for you! :)</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287876", "thread_id": "306246", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Backontrack_306246/" } ]

{ "author": "Caitlyn1993", "content": "This is a hope type share. My boyfriend and I came across this cat yesterday and noticed it was hurt. The police said to bring it to the humane society and we did. We can't stop thinking about it. He talked to his parents and they said we can have it. So if this kitty lives, we will look into adopting it. I'm nervous, they said it was in rough shape. This would be the first animal I have had since giving up my dog(son) in 2018. Please can everyone thinks something good. I'm calling today to get an update. We named it Bob for a boy and Bobbi for a girl.\n", "date": "1685968874", "thread_id": "306506", "title": "Anxiety waiting ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxietywaiting_306506/" }

[ { "author": "Caitlyn1993", "content": "<p>Update: I called and unfortunately the kitty was put down. It was a girl. I'm hurt, but she is going to feel better now.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287852", "thread_id": "306506", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxietywaiting_306506/" } ]

{ "author": "Englishoak1", "content": "The Mother of my serious Boyfriend who I'm technically engaged to passed away, I went to the visitation Today, his 2 ex-wives were there, it was very awkward and stressful, don't think I can mentally handle the stress and anxiety of going to the funeral Tomorrow and doing it all over again, I feel very anxious about it. Would it be terribly selfish and wrong for Me to skip the funeral?  Or okay?  Thoughts? \n", "date": "1685928760", "thread_id": "306481", "title": "Do I have to go to this funeral? Having major social anxiety!", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/DoIhavetogotothisfuneralHavingmajorsocialanxiety_306481/" }

[ { "author": "GoingWithGrace", "content": "<p>@Englishoak1</p>\n<p>.. what does your heart want you to do?</p>\n<p>And</p>\n<p>.. what does your head want you to do?</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287432", "thread_id": "306481", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/DoIhavetogotothisfuneralHavingmajorsocialanxiety_306481/" } ]

{ "author": "Mommie74", "content": "Does anyone else deal with this??\n", "date": "1680808714", "thread_id": "302509", "title": "Agoraphobia ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Agoraphobia_302509/" }

[ { "author": "SolarGenerator", "content": "<p>I am curious if the desire to connect with others with Agoraphobia or something else is wanted.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3246727", "thread_id": "302509", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Agoraphobia_302509/" }, { "author": "Lilac4Roses", "content": "<p>@KrillCactus  Hello, Yes I also have agoraphobia so I can understand. For me leaving my apartment is next to impossible most of the time.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3246727,nil" ], "post_id": "3287110", "thread_id": "302509", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Agoraphobia_302509/" }, { "author": "helpfulSail6925", "content": "<p>@Mommie74 I have it. It's hard battling your anxiety. Whenever I get too lonely I go on the internet and start socializing and it helps tbh </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3287126", "thread_id": "302509", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Agoraphobia_302509/" } ]

{ "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "☆ If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? \n\n☆ If you could add one thing to your daily routine , what would it be and why ? ", "date": "1631167097", "thread_id": "258660", "title": "Daily routine 😮", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/" }

[ { "author": "Impancake", "content": "<p>Probably removing eating when im not hungry and oddly enough most of it isnt sweets. i dont have a weight issue.. i have a eat foods issue 😂 </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>id add doing notes, ever read a book and forget most, or been in a situation and forgotten some the silly moments when your just to upset </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2777660", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Hey @Impancake , thankyou for sharing ! To begin with, I love your username lol ❤ </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">I completely get ya, I like munching on food too haha ! Sounds like a healthy habit though, to eat in moderation ! 😮</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Making notes is a good activity ! I hope it helps you retain stuff better ! </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">As for forgetting when feeling upset , that is super understandable and okay to forget things when not really feeling alright,you're definitely not alone and you deserve to be more gentle with yourself❤<br></span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "2777660,nil" ], "post_id": "2789967", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "caringmermaid2021", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou<br><br>\nHi!<br>\nThis is a good thread!<br>\nIf I could eliminate one thing in my daily routine, it is to have no eating schedule. I eat anytime which is bad because sometimes I feel lazy and not eat at all.<br>\nOne thing I want to add to my routine is to meditate, have a quite time just doing nothing at all. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2777918", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Thanks for appreciating , @caringmermaid2021 ❤</p>\n<p>Eliminating not having an eating schedule and adding meditation to your routine , sounds so great! Both very healthy practices for the mind and body ! Rooting for you ❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2777918,nil" ], "post_id": "2789951", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "None", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou<br><br><br><strong>☆ If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\">  business/finance things</strong><br><br>\n☆ If you could <em>add</em><strong> one thing to your daily routine , what would it be and why ? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"> peace</strong><br> 1Reply</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2781394", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Hey @BlueBirdPIllow , thanks for participating in the thread ! ❤</p>\n<p>Finance and business related things can be stressful and draining, I get why you'd want to eliminate them from your routine ! </p>\n<p>And yay Peace, I relate also ! I hope you're able to add it to your routine❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2781394,nil" ], "post_id": "2789960", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou<br><br><strong>☆ If you could </strong><em>eliminate</em><strong> one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"></strong><br><br>\nMy ex-boyfriend. He keeps on stalking me and hoovering me.<br><br><strong>☆ If you could </strong><em>add</em><strong> one thing to your daily routine, what would it be and why? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"></strong><br><br>\nWaking early up in the morning. I cannot wake up early in the morning.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2781458", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Hey @rosebeinghappy18 , thanks for replying ! 😊</p>\n<p>I am sorry to know your ex is making you feel uncomfortable,  stalking and hoovering don't sound good at all :( I hope they stop doing it ! Please try to stay safe and take care of yourself  ❤</p>\n<p>I relate so much hehe, waking up early is difficult,  I get that ! But definitely has so many benefits . I hope we are both able to add it to our routine, one morning at a time ❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "2789961", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>Thank you so much for your kind words. i hope so too. I am tired of my ex-boyfriend's ridiculous behaviour towards me. I am just waiting it out.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Thank you for understanding. I hope so too that I can make it one day at a timr. Due to my adhd, waking up early the the morning is a punishment for me. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2789961,2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "2792108", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Impancake", "content": "<p>Very much hope they quit the behavior soon. Sounds like it’s frustrating and annoying for you but be safe out there. Ive seen what ugliness can be with someone obsessed. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>oh yasssss i have trouble waking up early too from years working nights. Waking in the morning my sister has said would give some time to stretch, have coffee, daylight, even if its only to watch tv or study something. Idk what thats like but been trying 😂 </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2792108,2789961,2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "2792393", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>@Impancake</p>\n<p>ya, stalking makes me feel frustrated.</p>\n<p>thank you so much for your suggestion. I will keep a note of them.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2792393,2792108,2789961,2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "3189194", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "turquoiseHemlock900", "content": "<p>@SunisshiningandsoareyouI'd want to remove cooking. It takes up too much effort that I don't have.I'd want to add in time with friends.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2782362", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Hey @turquoiseHemlock900 , I hear you ! Cooking indeed takes alot of time and efforts, I get why you'd want to eliminate it ! </p>\n<p>Spending time with good  friends can be so awesome and refreshing,   I hope you're able to add it to your routine too ! ❤good wishes </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2782362,nil" ], "post_id": "2789962", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "crunchyminx", "content": "<p>I tend to clutter everywhere and it gets out of hand cause i always have 3 drinks at a time and i nest wherever i go. I’m trying to get better at though. I’m starting to recognize when it happens.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2788845", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Impancake", "content": "<p>Ive been prone to same thing. Changing a behavior is good if that was your goal. My gram would serve a drink and half way thru come thru and pick up everyones drinks and clean the cups if you walked to a bathroom 😂 </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2788845,nil" ], "post_id": "2792397", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Eudaimonia99", "content": "<p>❌ I want to eliminate the routine of thinking about what to eat for lunch and dinner. It takes a long time to figure out, and I run out of my creativity all the time. </p>\n<p>⭕️ I want to add a drink water timer during working time. I frequently forget to drink water. Because I don't have enough water intake in the daytime, I usually feel super thirsty before sleep.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2788968", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Hey @Eudaimonia99 , thanks for participating  ! 😊</span><br></p>\n<p>I so agree ,  it does take alot of time thinking about what to cook / eat and ofcourse the lesser time left , the lesser creative one could be , I get that ! Something that helps me a little sometimes, is a little planning or a quick check in with the groceries,  ingredients available ~ so that I don't spend time looking for that Haha and then a mental note about what I'd like to make out of them ! Do you think trying this could help sometime ? 😮 </p>\n<p>Woohoo on wanting to stay more hydrated during day time ~ such a good thing to add into your routine ! What do you think could help you more with it ? Perhaps some sort of timers/ alarms / reminders in your phone or device ? Or just keeping a water bottle close by could maybe help too ! what say ?❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2788968,nil" ], "post_id": "2789964", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "DAnonymous", "content": "<p>I want to quit my job and change my life all over again but I have done it so many times that it is exhausting</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I want to be happy again with everything I do and I want to take up art as a full time professional but I am so scared.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2789721", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Hey @DAnonymous , thankyou for sharing . 😊</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">I understand that ,often when we are not content and happy in life , we want to change it and that's okay I think , to continually wanting to be better and improve our life  while doing what makes us happy ! </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">I get how exhausting it can be though ,  but you seem so resilient and that is really inspiring  ! Maybe it's something to motivate yourself for \" I did it before, yes it was tough but I did it and if there's anyone that can do it again ~ it is me \" ,sure you're allowed to take your time and be at your pace !</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Art as a profession sounds awesome ! I am rooting for you and wishing you well !❤<br></span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "2789721,nil" ], "post_id": "2789969", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "MintyRoulade", "content": "<p>I’d eliminate the ruminating over what everyone thinks about me constantly. </p>\n<p>if I could add one thing it would be to make sure I do yoga every day and not skip when I’m tired or too busy thinking about how my day is going to be. I guess I would mainly eliminate analyzing things too much.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2789993", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>The one thing want to remove from my daily routine is my funny bone and sarcasm. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>The one thing want to add to my daily routine is my seriousness. I am never serious.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2792674", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "warmheartedPlace7925", "content": "<p>If I could eliminate 1 thing I think it would be going to the bathroom lol.... Its really annoying when you're in the middle of something and you have to stop to pee lol </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>If I could add something it would probably be reading more for pleasure pand not just for work or because I have to </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Great questions btw </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2793552", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "MaryO12", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p>I would eliminate getting up late. I would add having a healthy breakfast</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2793683", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "GoldenRuleJG", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p><span style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\">☆ If you could </span><em style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\">eliminate</em><span style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\"> one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? Sleeping late  <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"><br><br>☆ If you could </span><em style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\">add</em><span style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\"> one thing to your daily routine , what would it be and why ? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\">More sleep </span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2811030", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>Hey hey @GoldenRuleJG, how's it going? good sleep is so important! ❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2811030,nil" ], "post_id": "3165179", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "GoldenRuleJG", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou great!  😃👊🏽</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3165179,2811030,nil" ], "post_id": "3277306", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Gettingbettertoday", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p>My job: It is the number one cause of stress in my life and gives me no reward beyond a moderate paycheck.  </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3175932", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "honestOrange4156", "content": "<p>Procrastination</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3175953", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "persistentTortoise7793", "content": "<p>I would like to eliminate drinking coffee from my routine. It isn’t helpful for my anxiety, but it is difficult for me to start my day without it. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I would like to add a better sleep schedule to my routine. When I have to get up early to do something, I’ll get up at 5 am. But when I have nothing important to do, I sleep as late as I feel like it. My body would feel much better if my sleep were consistent. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176006", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "WriteToHeal42", "content": "<p>Hi @Sunisshiningandsoareyou,</p>\n<p>I would remove stress eating for the sake of better health</p>\n<p>I would add regular exercise for the same reason</p>\n<p>Thanks for this post!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176036", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>Hey hey @WriteToHeal42, thank*you* for replying. Stress eating is sometimes almost out of our immediate control, I feel? The guilt later due to health reasons can be quite overwhelming! I hope you're able to remove or least, minimize it sometime. Perhaps till then we can try alternating the \"food\" to healthier options? For instance, fruit instead of chips etc! What do you think of alternating to healthier options?</p>\n<p>Regular exercise is honestly a dream for me at this time haha. I hope you're able to incorporate in your daily life also. One day at a time, the small efforts too make a difference!❤ You got this!</p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176036,nil" ], "post_id": "3176661", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "WriteToHeal42", "content": "<p>Hi @Sunisshiningandsoareyou, I like the healthier food idea, and I'm happy to say I did some yoga today! Thanks for the encouragement! ☺️</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176661,3176036,nil" ], "post_id": "3177810", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@WriteToHeal42 Woohoo, super happy for youu! Good wishes as you keep taking daily steps towards wellness!❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3177810,3176661,3176036,nil" ], "post_id": "3177820", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "onwardforevenmore", "content": "<p>if I could, I'd add sex with a man who loves me that I love, a swim/dip in the ocean, and a walk to my daily routine!! I miss both dearly recovering from long covid!</p>\n<p>if I could, I'd eliminate all my routines around calling/visiting/seeing doctors/taking supplements/meds because I long for my old life back before covid!</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I notice both are eliminating things I've HAD to change that I didn't choose, not that I wanted to change and intentionally added in to my life to feel/have a better life.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176088", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Enthenia", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou </p>\n<p>If I could eliminate one thing from my daily routine it would be being exposed to idle conversation. This is fine, in its place but I think it is overdone where I work.</p>\n<p>If I could add one thing to my daily routine I would say more time outside removed from a chaotic world. <br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176132", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "JLarissaNowhere256", "content": "<p>@Enthenia</p>\n<p>I love your answer and can so relate. May you find peaceful moments in your day</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176132,nil" ], "post_id": "3176464", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Enthenia", "content": "<p>@JLarissaNowhere256 </p>\n<p>Thank you! I go outside at least once a day at work. It helps make a difficult situation better.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176464,3176132,nil" ], "post_id": "3177704", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "VictoriaLove7", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p>☆ If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? </p>\n<p>Coffee, because I take too much caffeine 😁 </p>\n<p>☆ If you could add one thing to your daily routine, what would it be and why ?</p>\n<p>Writing 🤓 because I like writing, but haven't got a chance (or the motivation) to do it.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176194", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "JLarissaNowhere256", "content": "<p>@VictoriaLove7</p>\n<p>MyFitnessPal app sends an email and in it they tell you the food you most logged over past year and mine was coffee. I thought it was kind of funny and I maybe have one cup a day. Hope that story made you smile a little </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176194,nil" ], "post_id": "3176463", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "VictoriaLove7", "content": "<p>@JLarissaNowhere256</p>\n<p>I should have used that fitness app too! 😁</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176463,3176194,nil" ], "post_id": "3177451", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=1" }, { "author": "Impancake", "content": "<p>Probably removing eating when im not hungry and oddly enough most of it isnt sweets. i dont have a weight issue.. i have a eat foods issue 😂 </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>id add doing notes, ever read a book and forget most, or been in a situation and forgotten some the silly moments when your just to upset </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2777660", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Hey @Impancake , thankyou for sharing ! To begin with, I love your username lol ❤ </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">I completely get ya, I like munching on food too haha ! Sounds like a healthy habit though, to eat in moderation ! 😮</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Making notes is a good activity ! I hope it helps you retain stuff better ! </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">As for forgetting when feeling upset , that is super understandable and okay to forget things when not really feeling alright,you're definitely not alone and you deserve to be more gentle with yourself❤<br></span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "2777660,nil" ], "post_id": "2789967", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "caringmermaid2021", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou<br><br>\nHi!<br>\nThis is a good thread!<br>\nIf I could eliminate one thing in my daily routine, it is to have no eating schedule. I eat anytime which is bad because sometimes I feel lazy and not eat at all.<br>\nOne thing I want to add to my routine is to meditate, have a quite time just doing nothing at all. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2777918", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Thanks for appreciating , @caringmermaid2021 ❤</p>\n<p>Eliminating not having an eating schedule and adding meditation to your routine , sounds so great! Both very healthy practices for the mind and body ! Rooting for you ❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2777918,nil" ], "post_id": "2789951", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "None", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou<br><br><br><strong>☆ If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\">  business/finance things</strong><br><br>\n☆ If you could <em>add</em><strong> one thing to your daily routine , what would it be and why ? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"> peace</strong><br> 1Reply</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2781394", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Hey @BlueBirdPIllow , thanks for participating in the thread ! ❤</p>\n<p>Finance and business related things can be stressful and draining, I get why you'd want to eliminate them from your routine ! </p>\n<p>And yay Peace, I relate also ! I hope you're able to add it to your routine❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2781394,nil" ], "post_id": "2789960", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou<br><br><strong>☆ If you could </strong><em>eliminate</em><strong> one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"></strong><br><br>\nMy ex-boyfriend. He keeps on stalking me and hoovering me.<br><br><strong>☆ If you could </strong><em>add</em><strong> one thing to your daily routine, what would it be and why? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"></strong><br><br>\nWaking early up in the morning. I cannot wake up early in the morning.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2781458", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Hey @rosebeinghappy18 , thanks for replying ! 😊</p>\n<p>I am sorry to know your ex is making you feel uncomfortable,  stalking and hoovering don't sound good at all :( I hope they stop doing it ! Please try to stay safe and take care of yourself  ❤</p>\n<p>I relate so much hehe, waking up early is difficult,  I get that ! But definitely has so many benefits . I hope we are both able to add it to our routine, one morning at a time ❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "2789961", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>Thank you so much for your kind words. i hope so too. I am tired of my ex-boyfriend's ridiculous behaviour towards me. I am just waiting it out.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Thank you for understanding. I hope so too that I can make it one day at a timr. Due to my adhd, waking up early the the morning is a punishment for me. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2789961,2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "2792108", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Impancake", "content": "<p>Very much hope they quit the behavior soon. Sounds like it’s frustrating and annoying for you but be safe out there. Ive seen what ugliness can be with someone obsessed. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>oh yasssss i have trouble waking up early too from years working nights. Waking in the morning my sister has said would give some time to stretch, have coffee, daylight, even if its only to watch tv or study something. Idk what thats like but been trying 😂 </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2792108,2789961,2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "2792393", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>@Impancake</p>\n<p>ya, stalking makes me feel frustrated.</p>\n<p>thank you so much for your suggestion. I will keep a note of them.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2792393,2792108,2789961,2781458,nil" ], "post_id": "3189194", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "turquoiseHemlock900", "content": "<p>@SunisshiningandsoareyouI'd want to remove cooking. It takes up too much effort that I don't have.I'd want to add in time with friends.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2782362", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><br></p>\n<p>Hey @turquoiseHemlock900 , I hear you ! Cooking indeed takes alot of time and efforts, I get why you'd want to eliminate it ! </p>\n<p>Spending time with good  friends can be so awesome and refreshing,   I hope you're able to add it to your routine too ! ❤good wishes </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2782362,nil" ], "post_id": "2789962", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "crunchyminx", "content": "<p>I tend to clutter everywhere and it gets out of hand cause i always have 3 drinks at a time and i nest wherever i go. I’m trying to get better at though. I’m starting to recognize when it happens.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2788845", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Impancake", "content": "<p>Ive been prone to same thing. Changing a behavior is good if that was your goal. My gram would serve a drink and half way thru come thru and pick up everyones drinks and clean the cups if you walked to a bathroom 😂 </p>", "parent_ids": [ "2788845,nil" ], "post_id": "2792397", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Eudaimonia99", "content": "<p>❌ I want to eliminate the routine of thinking about what to eat for lunch and dinner. It takes a long time to figure out, and I run out of my creativity all the time. </p>\n<p>⭕️ I want to add a drink water timer during working time. I frequently forget to drink water. Because I don't have enough water intake in the daytime, I usually feel super thirsty before sleep.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2788968", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Hey @Eudaimonia99 , thanks for participating  ! 😊</span><br></p>\n<p>I so agree ,  it does take alot of time thinking about what to cook / eat and ofcourse the lesser time left , the lesser creative one could be , I get that ! Something that helps me a little sometimes, is a little planning or a quick check in with the groceries,  ingredients available ~ so that I don't spend time looking for that Haha and then a mental note about what I'd like to make out of them ! Do you think trying this could help sometime ? 😮 </p>\n<p>Woohoo on wanting to stay more hydrated during day time ~ such a good thing to add into your routine ! What do you think could help you more with it ? Perhaps some sort of timers/ alarms / reminders in your phone or device ? Or just keeping a water bottle close by could maybe help too ! what say ?❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2788968,nil" ], "post_id": "2789964", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "DAnonymous", "content": "<p>I want to quit my job and change my life all over again but I have done it so many times that it is exhausting</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I want to be happy again with everything I do and I want to take up art as a full time professional but I am so scared.</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2789721", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Hey @DAnonymous , thankyou for sharing . 😊</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">I understand that ,often when we are not content and happy in life , we want to change it and that's okay I think , to continually wanting to be better and improve our life  while doing what makes us happy ! </span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">I get how exhausting it can be though ,  but you seem so resilient and that is really inspiring  ! Maybe it's something to motivate yourself for \" I did it before, yes it was tough but I did it and if there's anyone that can do it again ~ it is me \" ,sure you're allowed to take your time and be at your pace !</span></p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size:1rem;\">Art as a profession sounds awesome ! I am rooting for you and wishing you well !❤<br></span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "2789721,nil" ], "post_id": "2789969", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "MintyRoulade", "content": "<p>I’d eliminate the ruminating over what everyone thinks about me constantly. </p>\n<p>if I could add one thing it would be to make sure I do yoga every day and not skip when I’m tired or too busy thinking about how my day is going to be. I guess I would mainly eliminate analyzing things too much.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2789993", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "rosebeinghappy18", "content": "<p>The one thing want to remove from my daily routine is my funny bone and sarcasm. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>The one thing want to add to my daily routine is my seriousness. I am never serious.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2792674", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "warmheartedPlace7925", "content": "<p>If I could eliminate 1 thing I think it would be going to the bathroom lol.... Its really annoying when you're in the middle of something and you have to stop to pee lol </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>If I could add something it would probably be reading more for pleasure pand not just for work or because I have to </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Great questions btw </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2793552", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "MaryO12", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p>I would eliminate getting up late. I would add having a healthy breakfast</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2793683", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "GoldenRuleJG", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p><span style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\">☆ If you could </span><em style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\">eliminate</em><span style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\"> one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? Sleeping late  <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\"><br><br>☆ If you could </span><em style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\">add</em><span style=\"color:rgb(153,204,102);font-size:18px;\"> one thing to your daily routine , what would it be and why ? <img alt=\"heart\" height=\"23\" src=\"https://cdn.ckeditor.com/4.5.7/full-all/plugins/smiley/images/heart.png\" title=\"heart\" width=\"23\" style=\"max-width:100%;\">More sleep </span><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "2811030", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>Hey hey @GoldenRuleJG, how's it going? good sleep is so important! ❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "2811030,nil" ], "post_id": "3165179", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "GoldenRuleJG", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou great!  😃👊🏽</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3165179,2811030,nil" ], "post_id": "3277306", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Gettingbettertoday", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p>My job: It is the number one cause of stress in my life and gives me no reward beyond a moderate paycheck.  </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3175932", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "honestOrange4156", "content": "<p>Procrastination</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3175953", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "persistentTortoise7793", "content": "<p>I would like to eliminate drinking coffee from my routine. It isn’t helpful for my anxiety, but it is difficult for me to start my day without it. </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I would like to add a better sleep schedule to my routine. When I have to get up early to do something, I’ll get up at 5 am. But when I have nothing important to do, I sleep as late as I feel like it. My body would feel much better if my sleep were consistent. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176006", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "WriteToHeal42", "content": "<p>Hi @Sunisshiningandsoareyou,</p>\n<p>I would remove stress eating for the sake of better health</p>\n<p>I would add regular exercise for the same reason</p>\n<p>Thanks for this post!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176036", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>Hey hey @WriteToHeal42, thank*you* for replying. Stress eating is sometimes almost out of our immediate control, I feel? The guilt later due to health reasons can be quite overwhelming! I hope you're able to remove or least, minimize it sometime. Perhaps till then we can try alternating the \"food\" to healthier options? For instance, fruit instead of chips etc! What do you think of alternating to healthier options?</p>\n<p>Regular exercise is honestly a dream for me at this time haha. I hope you're able to incorporate in your daily life also. One day at a time, the small efforts too make a difference!❤ You got this!</p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176036,nil" ], "post_id": "3176661", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "WriteToHeal42", "content": "<p>Hi @Sunisshiningandsoareyou, I like the healthier food idea, and I'm happy to say I did some yoga today! Thanks for the encouragement! ☺️</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176661,3176036,nil" ], "post_id": "3177810", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Sunisshiningandsoareyou", "content": "<p>@WriteToHeal42 Woohoo, super happy for youu! Good wishes as you keep taking daily steps towards wellness!❤</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3177810,3176661,3176036,nil" ], "post_id": "3177820", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "onwardforevenmore", "content": "<p>if I could, I'd add sex with a man who loves me that I love, a swim/dip in the ocean, and a walk to my daily routine!! I miss both dearly recovering from long covid!</p>\n<p>if I could, I'd eliminate all my routines around calling/visiting/seeing doctors/taking supplements/meds because I long for my old life back before covid!</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I notice both are eliminating things I've HAD to change that I didn't choose, not that I wanted to change and intentionally added in to my life to feel/have a better life.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176088", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Enthenia", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou </p>\n<p>If I could eliminate one thing from my daily routine it would be being exposed to idle conversation. This is fine, in its place but I think it is overdone where I work.</p>\n<p>If I could add one thing to my daily routine I would say more time outside removed from a chaotic world. <br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176132", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "JLarissaNowhere256", "content": "<p>@Enthenia</p>\n<p>I love your answer and can so relate. May you find peaceful moments in your day</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176132,nil" ], "post_id": "3176464", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "Enthenia", "content": "<p>@JLarissaNowhere256 </p>\n<p>Thank you! I go outside at least once a day at work. It helps make a difficult situation better.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176464,3176132,nil" ], "post_id": "3177704", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "VictoriaLove7", "content": "<p>@Sunisshiningandsoareyou</p>\n<p>☆ If you could eliminate one thing from your daily routine, what would it be and why? </p>\n<p>Coffee, because I take too much caffeine 😁 </p>\n<p>☆ If you could add one thing to your daily routine, what would it be and why ?</p>\n<p>Writing 🤓 because I like writing, but haven't got a chance (or the motivation) to do it.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3176194", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "JLarissaNowhere256", "content": "<p>@VictoriaLove7</p>\n<p>MyFitnessPal app sends an email and in it they tell you the food you most logged over past year and mine was coffee. I thought it was kind of funny and I maybe have one cup a day. Hope that story made you smile a little </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176194,nil" ], "post_id": "3176463", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" }, { "author": "VictoriaLove7", "content": "<p>@JLarissaNowhere256</p>\n<p>I should have used that fitness app too! 😁</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3176463,3176194,nil" ], "post_id": "3177451", "thread_id": "258660", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/IntroductionsWelcomesIcebreakers_2558/Dailyroutine_258660/?p=0" } ]

{ "author": "MissMouse2023", "content": "I recently got this really cute dress that my mother bought for me and thought was adorable. She often buys a lot of dresses for me because she says they compliment my figure which is tall and thin. I often feel better and more confident when I dress up, so I decided to wear it to work a couple of days ago because it was a hot day and it’s a summer dress. It is a bit short on me (it’s halfway between the length of a mini skirt and a knee-length skirt, so it’s almost halfway up my thigh) and the fabric is a bit thin (not transparent, just thin), however most people at my work often dress very casual, and I often see people in tight spandex with tattoos and piercings, so what could be wrong with my outfit? \n\nI received one compliment from a coworker, however my supervisor looked at me funny. Then a couple of my male coworkers who were around my age group looked embarrassed and somewhat disgusted, noticeably looking away from me as they passed by in the hallway. One of them even stared at me with this hostile look, as if I was some crazy person seeking attention.\n\nThis made me very self-conscious, because even though I never had much confidence in my appearance, I was not aware that people thought I was ugly, especially when I’ve seen people with more “revealing” clothes. \n\nShould I ask my supervisor if that dress is ok to wear to work? If so, then should I still not wear it (if other people think I’m not pretty enough to dress that way)? Does it at least help that I’m slender (if that’s all I have going for me)? Or maybe I shouldn’t let a couple of people shame me with disgusted looks just for wearing a cute dress? \n", "date": "1685854418", "thread_id": "306438", "title": "Social Anxiety Caused by Appearance ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/SocialAnxietyCausedbyAppearance_306438/" }

[ { "author": "humanbeing02", "content": "<p>@MissMouse2023  I am sorry some people made you feel that way. You have all the right to wear whatever you want. Like you said it wasn't revealing so that is not cool of them looking at you like that </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286858", "thread_id": "306438", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/SocialAnxietyCausedbyAppearance_306438/" } ]

{ "author": "Miku333", "content": "Hello everyone, I have been suffering from derealization and depersonalization for years but only thanks to therapy with my psychologist I was able to give it a name. Unfortunately, however, I can't figure out how to go back to being \"normal\".\n\nDo you have any books to recommend that have helped you along this path?\n\nIn recent years this condition has been getting worse and I'm really tired of living like this. I think it's related to social anxiety, because it happens to me as soon as I'm with someone or step outside my front door. I'm locking myself up at home and I don't want it to become my prison, I want to do something before it's too late.\n", "date": "1685829447", "thread_id": "306421", "title": "derealization and depersonalization ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/derealizationanddepersonalization_306421/" }

[ { "author": "passionateSkies5431", "content": "<p>I struggled with this for a while, i take lexapro which helps it alot, but outside of medication, try doing things that are familiar to you. Eat a meal you used to eat lot growing up or hang out more in places you've been a lot over your life. You're partially correct in staying in your home, your brain needs stuff that you're used to to help you remember \"hey, this is MY life and nothings changed, this is all still real\" Try to ease into new experiences while you're healing and just do things that remind you of life before this happened to you and i PROMISE it gets so much better. You've got this!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286774", "thread_id": "306421", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/derealizationanddepersonalization_306421/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "I know my boyfriend is the one! I'm just anxious, and excited I don't know what to do with myself sometimes\n", "date": "1685359298", "thread_id": "306012", "title": "Check in ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Checkin_306012/" }

[ { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091 It's wonderful to hear that you feel your boyfriend is the one for you! It can be overwhelming to have these intense emotions. Taking things one step at a time and allowing yourself to experience the joy and uncertainty that comes with love can make the journey all the more fulfilling. Best of luck, and may your relationship continue to bring you happiness!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286450", "thread_id": "306012", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Checkin_306012/" } ]

{ "author": "compassionateCar7091", "content": "My anxiety is gone I used my coping skills💪🏻\n", "date": "1685179722", "thread_id": "305884", "title": "Anxiety", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxiety_305884/" }

[ { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@compassionateCar7091 That's fantastic to hear, and congratulations on successfully utilizing your coping skills! It's empowering to overcome anxiety and take control of your well-being. Keep up the great work, and remember to continue practising those coping skills whenever needed. Stay strong!</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286441", "thread_id": "305884", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/Anxiety_2560/Anxiety_305884/" } ]

{ "author": "blueswinter22", "content": "Has anyone ever been in a car accident that you couldn't move on from? The other driver was 23 year old with better opportunities in life than me. She lied and was given insurance payout of $19,000. She went to a concert the next week. Me and my family have been struggling to find peace and stability. Yesterday it was a year since I've just now felt somewhat ok I want to break down. I could scream in her face I've lost so much it almost broke my family the way I've been treated by everyone has just really been to much. Id understand if I had done something to cause the accident but she just lost control and t boned my vehicle. I have no way to prove this the guilt of hurting my family because I couldn't stop it from happening is never ending on top of feeling like a failure and not wanting to accept defeat its just draining my mental health. Please if anyone has any tips or does it stay this way forever?\n\n", "date": "1685326192", "thread_id": "306000", "title": "Different ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Different_306000/" }

[ { "author": "JerryYao", "content": "<p>@blueswinter22 It is so sad that you just suffered such terrible accident, and the person who caused this didn't got what she supposed to get. However, it is nearly impossible for you to change that, so it is more essential for you to overcome the depression. If you are able to do some work, try to work and earn some money to support your family. You can also learn something new to make sure that you can work more stably. Furthermore, please ask your friends and people you trust for some mental support. Tell them what you feel, think and then when necessary, ask your close friends for help. Try to look at things differently, and I am sure your life will ne easier. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286229", "thread_id": "306000", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Different_306000/" } ]

{ "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "I am able to control my anxiety all day long and thankfully I feel normal during the day. At night is when I feel like there’s something stuck in my throat and I keep trying to clear my throat, but it takes me a while to be able to sleep. I feel like this is the only thing that ruins my nights. I’m hoping I can get through it. I thought it was my cold, but I’m not sick anymore, so I don’t think it is. I’m just annoyed by not being able to relax at night because of my throat problem. I don’t even know if it’s like an allergy or something, but I’m scared to take allergy pills because ever since my only anxiety attack, some things have changed for me food wise. I can’t eat certain things anymore. Maybe I’m making it up in my head or something. I don’t know. Hopefully I get rid of this sooner than later.\n\nI hope everyone is doing good. ❤️\n", "date": "1684475941", "thread_id": "305384", "title": "Night is still a problem .", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }

[ { "author": "JackalopesExist", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>I don’t have much in the way of help or advice, just solidarity. My anxiety always gets worse at night when I’m left to sit with my thoughts and can’t preoccupy myself elsewhere.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3276319", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@JackalopesExist</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I feel like that happens to me too. All day I’m good since my family is with me, but when everyone sleeps, i feel like that’s when it starts. This sucks! Also, if you need someone to talk to, you can message me. Can’t promise I’ll be much help, but we can talk about random things. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3276319,nil" ], "post_id": "3276320", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "selfconfidentTiger8983", "content": "<p>I understand how frustrating and worrying it can be to have a sore throat at night. It is important to address your concerns and find ways to alleviate this problem. Consider consulting a healthcare professional who can help determine the underlying cause and provide appropriate guidance. They can determine if it is related to allergies or any other underlying factors. Remember that seeking proper medical advice will help you find a solution and bring you closer to restful sleep.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3276916", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@selfconfidentTiger8983 </p>\n<p>You're right. I will definitely go and seek professional help next week. Hopefully I do get the information I need. Thank you!<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3276916,nil" ], "post_id": "3276975", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "SentimentalSinbad", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>I think your thoughts are valid, please don't trip yourself into thinking that you're \"making this up.\" It sounds like you're on the right path to confronting the problem, and from what you've said in your post, you've also made pretty significant progress during the daytime!</p>\n<p>Nighttime is when my anxiety tends to strike too. I think it's because of a lack of stimuli! We're left alone in the dark with our own thoughts for hours, and the anxiety can only swell.  What are some practices that you do to keep your anxiety in check during the day? Do you think those practices are feasible for before bedtime, too?</p>\n<p>Thank you for opening up to us, and please feel free to update! We're happy to listen!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3278057", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "Vaishnavi1111", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>Hello dear member, t<span>his is Vaishnavi.</span></p>\n<p>I hear how frustrating it is for you to experience discomfort in your throat at night, impacting your ability to relax and sleep. It's understandable that this is bothersome for you. Have you considered reaching out to a healthcare professional to discuss your symptoms and concerns? They may be able to provide insight and guidance on potential causes and solutions. Taking care of your well-being is important, and seeking support can help you find relief.<br></p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3279938", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@Vaishnavi1111</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Thankfully it has stopped. Maybe because I would think about it too much and I shouldn’t have been doing that. I have been able to sleep lately. I’m so grateful I have been able to overcome it. I didn’t go to get it checked or anything. It just stopped when i stopped focusing on it.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3279938,nil" ], "post_id": "3286191", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "colorfulLily4704", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>Hello! I know you posted this a while ago, but I would be interested in hearing how you are doing now. It sounds like sleeping was an issue for you, and I hope you have gotten some relief from that ever since. Also, congratulations in feeling some control of your anxiety. That is a big step to take, and the journey to get there can be rough. I would also like to reassure you that it isn’t all in your head. Mental health battles are real and the symptoms are valid. Mental health issues can look different for everyone, and just because you think yours seems unusually, it is still completely valid and totally real.</p>\n<p>I hope you have been doing well!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286123", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@colorfulLily4704</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Thank you for your kind words. I am doing better. Sleep is not a problem anymore. My mind had gone to thinking food was a problem after i got over the sleeping thing. I wasn’t eating much, but I was able to overcome that too. I feel a little normal again. When i my brain starts panicking about something I just tell it that stuff that it’s scared of is stuff that I used to do before the panic attack i had. I remind it that all the stuff i used to do back then, never hurt me, so why would I be afraid of it? I’m learning little by little. Sometimes it takes me 2 weeks to get over something that’s bugging me, but other times it takes me a few days. Hopefully i keep controlling it and better days come. Thanks for checking up on me. ❤️</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3286123,nil" ], "post_id": "3286194", "thread_id": "305384", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/ShareYourStory_667/Nightisstillaproblem_305384/" } ]

{ "author": "NewHorizon5544", "content": "I know I need to start medication. I am in therapy and have multiple resources (virtually atm) for talking through issues. But I'm struggling with diving into taking meds, and struggling with how I feel not taking them also. \n", "date": "1685226269", "thread_id": "305933", "title": "I know what I need to do, I just keep putting it off ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/IknowwhatIneedtodoIjustkeepputtingitoff_305933/" }

[ { "author": "CDK1972", "content": "<p>I used to be like that to until I started taking them and found the best one for me</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3282200", "thread_id": "305933", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/IknowwhatIneedtodoIjustkeepputtingitoff_305933/" }, { "author": "NewHorizon5544", "content": "<p>@CDK1972</p>\n<p>Hi there! I'm so glad you found the right one for you.  : )</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Yeah, I'll tell the doctor I'm all prepared and ready then two days later I'm like nope I don't need them I'll give it more time. But after weeks in the house not leaving the neighborhood safe to say I could use the help. I'm just super paranoid about effects </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3282200,nil" ], "post_id": "3282203", "thread_id": "305933", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/IknowwhatIneedtodoIjustkeepputtingitoff_305933/" }, { "author": "CDK1972", "content": "<p>Hi New Horizon. When I first took them 23 years ago the only thing that I noticed was, well how do I say it. It took longer for me to finish when I was having sex. But that only lasted about a year. Now I have no side effects. I didn’t gain wait or anything. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3282203,3282200,nil" ], "post_id": "3282266", "thread_id": "305933", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/IknowwhatIneedtodoIjustkeepputtingitoff_305933/" }, { "author": "CDK1972", "content": "<p>Hi New Horizon. I forgot to mention I was on Paxil for about 17 years then I switched. The first one I tried, I don’t remember the name, it made me feel funny so I switched to what I’m on now which is 20mg of Lexapro since 2017z No side effects Even thought about 6 months ago it took a break it seemed like and I went and saw a counselor and he said stick with it and in about 2 months I’d be back to normal. He was absolutely right</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3283134", "thread_id": "305933", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/IknowwhatIneedtodoIjustkeepputtingitoff_305933/" }, { "author": "NewHorizon5544", "content": "<p>@CDK1972</p>\n<p>Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, and I am so glad you're doing well with it!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3283134,nil" ], "post_id": "3284279", "thread_id": "305933", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/IknowwhatIneedtodoIjustkeepputtingitoff_305933/" }, { "author": "CDK1972", "content": "<p>@NewHorizon5544 Hi New Horizon, just checking in to see how your doing. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284279,3283134,nil" ], "post_id": "3286100", "thread_id": "305933", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/IknowwhatIneedtodoIjustkeepputtingitoff_305933/" } ]

{ "author": "lonelyboy140", "content": "Dose the fear of death Stop anybody else from living ?\n", "date": "1685182456", "thread_id": "305886", "title": "Anxiety suck ", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Anxietysuck_305886/" }

[ { "author": "Optimisticempath", "content": "<p>@lonelyboy140</p>\n<p>aanxiety is terrible ... fearing the what ifs does restrain us from actually living </p>\n<p>how do you cope with these fears and anxious thoughts?</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3285983", "thread_id": "305886", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Anxietysuck_305886/" }, { "author": "matchaLover89", "content": "<p>@lonelyboy140 Hi, I'm Celine. I can completely understand where you're coming from, however, for me, death makes me want to live my life to the best of my abilities. The thing that's scary about death is that it's so infinite and unknown. Everyone has different beliefs, but what's actually true? I think that no matter you believe, you should live your life doing what you love so that you have no regrets.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3286014", "thread_id": "305886", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Anxietysuck_305886/" } ]

{ "author": "FrozenGhost", "content": "has anyone in the group ever done exposure therapy with someone who is trained, with a therapist? Can anyone answer the question how they help you take the step you fear??\n\n", "date": "1684943015", "thread_id": "305730", "title": "Question", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Question_305730/" }

[ { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@FrozenGhost</p>\n<p style=\"margin-right:0px;margin-left:0px;\">Yes, I did. Thank you for reaching out and asking about exposure therapy with a trained therapist. It's great that you're curious about this form of treatment. While I cannot provide personal experiences as a listener, I can share some information on how exposure therapy typically helps individuals take the step they fear.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">Exposure therapy is a type of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) commonly used to treat anxiety disorders, phobias, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Its primary goal is to reduce fear and anxiety responses associated with specific triggers or situations. Here's how it generally works:</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">It's important to note that exposure therapy is highly individualized and tailored to each person's needs. The pace and intensity of exposures are determined collaboratively between you and the therapist. The overall aim is to gradually build confidence and reduce anxiety responses, enabling you to overcome the fear or phobia that has been impacting your daily life.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">If you're considering exposure therapy, it's recommended to consult with a licensed mental health professional who specializes in this form of treatment. They can provide a comprehensive evaluation and guide you through the therapeutic process. </span></p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size:15px;\"><br></span><span style=\"font-size:15px;\">Feel free to reach out to me if you have any further questions </span>😊</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3282644", "thread_id": "305730", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Question_305730/" }, { "author": "FrozenGhost", "content": "<p>@Mya000</p>\n<p>Thank you for taking the time to reply and provide all this info. However, all this info is available to anyone who bothers to do a Google search on this topic. I know all about this therapy, but what I'm asking is how the therapist helps you take a step you fear. I need someone's personal experience, not generic info. That's why I reached out. Lots of listeners have told me that this type of therapy really helped them, but not one person can explain how it helped. What could a therapist or indeed anyone possibly say or do to make someone do something they fear? Wouldn't that individual already have to be able to take that step themselves? Because I can't take it. I have never ever been able to do something I fear and I just desperately want to know exactly how a therapist could make me?</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3282644,nil" ], "post_id": "3284843", "thread_id": "305730", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Question_305730/" }, { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@FrozenGhost</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">Thank you for reaching out and expressing your thoughts. I understand your frustration with the generic information you've come across about the therapy you're interested in. It's natural to seek personal experiences to gain a deeper understanding of how something works in practice. I apologize if my previous response fell short of your expectations.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">In terms of how a therapist can help you take a step you fear, it's important to remember that therapy is a highly individualized process. While I can't provide you with a specific personal experience, I can shed some light on how therapists generally approach helping individuals overcome their fears.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">A skilled therapist creates a safe and supportive environment where you can explore your fears and anxieties at your own pace. They will work with you to identify the underlying causes of your fear and develop strategies to gradually face it. It's important to note that therapists don't aim to force or make you do something you're not ready for. Instead, they guide and empower you to challenge your fears and develop coping mechanisms.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">Through various therapeutic techniques, such as CBT or exposure therapy, a therapist helps you examine your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours associated with the fear. They may help you reframe negative beliefs, teach relaxation techniques to manage anxiety, or gradually expose you to situations that trigger your fear in a controlled manner.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">The therapeutic relationship itself plays a crucial role. By building trust and rapport, a therapist can support you in developing the necessary skills and confidence to take steps towards facing your fear. They provide guidance, encouragement, and a non-judgmental space to explore your concerns.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">It's important to remember that everyone's journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work exactly the same for another. Therapy is a collaborative process, and it requires active participation and commitment from both the therapist and the individual seeking help.</p>\n<p style=\"margin:1.25em 0px;\">I hope this explanation clarifies the role of a therapist in helping individuals overcome their fears. If you have any further questions or concerns, please don't hesitate to reach out.</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284843,3282644,nil" ], "post_id": "3284846", "thread_id": "305730", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Question_305730/" }, { "author": "FrozenGhost", "content": "<p>@Mya000</p>\n<p>Thank you, yes. This definitely clarifies the role of the therapist and confirms for me that seeing one would not help me. All help is self help, so the saying goes and based on your words here, that seems to be true. I don't need a \"safe space\" to explore my fears. I know the underlying cause of them and why I struggle with them today. All those 'strategies\" you mentioned, CBT, reframing negative thinking, exposure therapy, relaxation techniques (deep breathing, grounding, mindfulness etc.). I've tried them all and none have helped me.   Like you said, no therapist can \"make you do something you're not ready for\", in other words, none of them can make you do something you don't already know how to do. I need a teacher, not a cheerleader. I hope I can find one here at 7cups.</p>\n<p>Thanks again!</p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284846,3284843,3282644,nil" ], "post_id": "3285719", "thread_id": "305730", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Question_305730/" }, { "author": "Mya000", "content": "<p>@FrozenGhost I understand your perspective, and it's important to find an approach that resonates with you. It's true that self-help plays a significant role in personal growth and overcoming challenges. If you feel confident in your understanding of the underlying causes of your fears and have explored various strategies without success, seeking a different type of support can be a valid approach. 7 Cups offers a diverse community of listeners who may provide support based on their own experiences.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3285719,3284846,3284843,3282644,nil" ], "post_id": "3285981", "thread_id": "305730", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/SocialAnxiety_247/Question_305730/" } ]

{ "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "I have a very low dose medication for my anxiety that I take on an as-needed basis.  I take it closer to bed time to help my brain stop all the chatter and worry.  Usually I only take it when I'm at really maxxed out with stress.\n\nToday is one of those days.  And, as I'm trying to get through my day, I'm thinking to myself, \"I can't wait until later when I can take my medication and go to bed.\"  I don't want to look forward to a medicine.  I do look forward to my therapy sessions.  And I know the medicine is just another tool that helps me as I'm figuring out my life.  But still...\n\n", "date": "1685489194", "thread_id": "306117", "title": "When Anxiety Gets Really Bad", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WhenAnxietyGetsReallyBad_306117/" }

[ { "author": "CDK1972", "content": "<p>Hi Toughtfulmomma. When I was going through my tough time about 5 months ago. I felt the same. Maybe discuss a daily dose of something with your Dr. or maybe something g to take the edge off during the day</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3283847", "thread_id": "306117", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WhenAnxietyGetsReallyBad_306117/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@CDK1972 </p>\n<p>Yeah, I think it's probably time to revisit this with my doctor.  I was doing really great for a while but I'm having a lot of \"life circumstances\" that have made my anxiety practically non-stop daily and I don't know what else I can do. I'm breathing, meditating, going for walks, seeing a therapist.  It's starting to interfere with my daily life and I can't have that happen.<br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "3283847,nil" ], "post_id": "3284074", "thread_id": "306117", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WhenAnxietyGetsReallyBad_306117/" }, { "author": "AayushreeKalyani", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma i totally get you. I take pills for my anxiety too except i take it every night and even i look forward to taking it. I shared my concern of I'm getting dependant on the med with my therapist and she told me that I'm already taking meds for my anxiety so if i get anxious about taking meds it shall sort of be counterproductive. And it did make a lot of sense. She is helping me feel less apprehensive about myself for depending on the medicine. </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3285600", "thread_id": "306117", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WhenAnxietyGetsReallyBad_306117/" } ]

{ "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "I would like to make friends on here. I want to be able to message someone about my day, or ask about theirs. I want to be able to message someone when my anxiety is getting to me. I want to be able to be someone’s distraction for when they’re going through anxiety as well. My inbox is open if anyone wants to be friends. It would really help me a lot.\n", "date": "1685509373", "thread_id": "306128", "title": "I need friends.", "topic": "anxiety", "url": "/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }

[ { "author": "exuberantTalker9747", "content": "<p>Hiii, i am here if you ever want to talk. </p>\n<p>But i don't know how to text here someone.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3283999", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@exuberantTalker9747</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Sure, I will message you tomorrow. I’m about to go to bed and I don’t want to leave you hanging. Lol! Thank you so much, i appreciate it.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3283999,nil" ], "post_id": "3284009", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "exuberantTalker9747", "content": "<p>Have a good night sleep.</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284009,3283999,nil" ], "post_id": "3284010", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@exuberantTalker9747 </p>\n<p>So apparently I thought we could message if I got on my laptop, but I \ndon't know how to message people either. I think we have to be listeners\n if we want to message each other. This is really inconvenient. 😔</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3283999,nil" ], "post_id": "3284127", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "OnlyWinter", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>Hello Nessie, I'm Winter!  nessie and fish can be friends! 😀 I've got good friends too but I ask them first </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3284042", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@OnlyWinter</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>I would love to be friends! 🙂</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284042,nil" ], "post_id": "3284110", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@OnlyWinter </p>\n<p>So apparently I thought we could message if I got on my laptop, but I \ndon't know how to message people either. I think we have to be listeners\n if we want to message each other. This is really inconvenient. 😔</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284042,nil" ], "post_id": "3284129", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "thoughtfulmomma", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie </p>\n<p>I read your bio and saw \"<font color=\"#9c00ff\">I have a little overthinking problem, and I suck at keeping myself calm.</font>\"<br></p>\n<p>Yeah, I'm right there with you!  It's hard to find any sort of peace when you completely obsess about an issue (which is what I do).<br></p>\n<p><br></p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3284075", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma</p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Yeah, it’s really hard to control sometimes, but we gotta keep fighting! We got this! 🙂</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284075,nil" ], "post_id": "3284112", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@thoughtfulmomma </p>\n<p>So apparently I thought we could message if I got on my laptop, but I \ndon't know how to message people either. I think we have to be listeners\n if we want to message each other. This is really inconvenient. 😔</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284075,nil" ], "post_id": "3284130", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "Antrod8", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie </p>\n<p>I don't know how to message others but you can always message me if you need someone to talk to Nessie</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3284096", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@Antrod8 </p>\n<p><br></p>\n<p>Of course! I’m here for you as well if you need a friend. 🙂</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284096,nil" ], "post_id": "3284115", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "Antrod8", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie😃</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284115,3284096,nil" ], "post_id": "3284120", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@Antrod8 </p>\n<p>So apparently I thought we could message if I got on my laptop, but I \ndon't know how to message people either. I think we have to be listeners\n if we want to message each other. This is really inconvenient. 😔</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284120,3284115,3284096,nil" ], "post_id": "3284131", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "Antrod8", "content": "<p>@iLoveMyNessie</p>\n<p>Nessi, I will take the listeners course after work, I'll save your username, you will be hearing from me! Lol...and now maybe I can support others too, thanks for the encouragement </p>\n<p> </p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284131,3284120,3284115,3284096,nil" ], "post_id": "3284138", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "iLoveMyNessie", "content": "<p>@Antrod8 </p>\n<p>I think I will do the same thing. I would really love to help people too. <br>😃</p>", "parent_ids": [ "3284138,3284131,3284120,3284115,3284096,nil" ], "post_id": "3284449", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" }, { "author": "Antrod8", "content": "<p> I did it Nessi! See if you can search my listener account @antrod88</p>", "parent_ids": [ "nil" ], "post_id": "3284601", "thread_id": "306128", "url": "https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/Ineedfriends_306128/" } ]