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Ever since I was about eight or nine, I’ve always had a desire for a mental disorder. Its less like a want and more like a need, I need one, so much so that I attempt to convince myself, and sometimes other people, that I have one. Ever heard of mind over matter? I try to use that to my advantage. I spend hours trying to find something, anything that I might have, its almost hurting.

Its less like a want and more like a need, I need one, so much so that I attempt to convince myself, and sometimes other people, that I have one. I spend hours trying to find something, anything that I might have, its almost hurting.

3Magnification

From India: I am a 20 year old male. I have been halla confused and depressed since an year or two . There a many issues harboring my mind. Firstly, since few months I get this weird feeling or say desire of being a woman. I think I am hetrosexual most definitely. this has been lurking within me since some months.It feels to be much better. It might be sexual frustration but I don’t know. I was also nearly sexually molest when young ,by a man, at around 14.

2No Distortion

My boyfriend and I just moved in together. Since we’ve moved in together, he’s been getting angry with me every day. It usually revolves around me being too quiet. The first time we were in the car and he started yelling at me for being too quiet, I then got even more quiet as I’ve been in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship before (and that used to be the safest reaction) and then he started calling me names. I then had a panic attack, as I suffer from anxiety. Prior to meeting him, I hadn’t had an attack for a year. He always calls me names when he’s angry, and then when he’s calmed down he apologizes and says he’s sorry he’s been a dick, but he loves me, and I just need to give him time to get used to me. I’m starting to think that there’s something wrong with me and it’s my fault that he’s angry at me all the time. I’m walking on egg shells in our home and dread having days off work because he works 4am-11am so is home most of the day. He told me that he was sexually abused when he was younger, and I know that he has a “fuck everyone else” mindset, but he’d never been that way with me. I start shaking every time he yells at me now. If I try to talk to him about it reasonably, he gets even angrier and says I’m trying to blame him for everything when I’m clearly in the wrong. The worst part is that I’m a Detective and have worked in the domestic violence unit before and I should be able to recognize whether or not this is going where I think and feel it might be, but I can’t. I’ve never called him names, and have asked him to try not to do it when he’s mad, but he hasn’t stopped. He even says things like it’s no surprise I was single when he met me, I’m lucky because there are men out there that would be worse, etc. I don’t know what to do, or if it will get better. (From England)

I’m starting to think that there’s something wrong with me and it’s my fault that he’s angry at me all the time. The worst part is that I’m a Detective and have worked in the domestic violence unit before and I should be able to recognize whether or not this is going where I think and feel it might be, but I can’t.

5Personalization

I don’t know the best way to explain myself so please bear with me. I tend to have a lot of issues going on in my head. First of all I don’t feel like I think, or have the capacity to think like a normal person. I tend to get different ideas or incorrect information from what people are explaining to me, or it just takes me a long time to process the information that is given to me. This causes me to come off as stupid, or makes me seem that I don’t care. Another thing is I take my transgressions toward others very seriously, when I feel like I’ve don’t something wrong, or let someone down I really take it to heart because I don’t want to be the cause of someone’s disappointment. I feel this is the right thing to do, but I always feel like I’ve don’t something wrong when I express this to my friends or co-workers. Growing up I always felt like I was an intelligent person. I never really thought like a child and was always more aware of myself and how my actions affected those around me than most other children. I love learning, but can’t seem to understand what people are saying to me. I’ve always had this inner monologue that is either pushing me to do something I don’t want to do, or just telling me negative things about myself. I’ve actually caught myself sometimes arguing out loud with this voice. It was me speaking the whole time, but in two different tones. Also I tend to see really horrible images in my head. For example if I see a plane flying by I’ll see it blowing up right in front of my eyes. Or if I’m see a person walking down the street I’ll see them getting hit by a car. I don’t want these things to happen and it really upsets me when I see them to the point where I’ll sometimes start crying. Right now I just had something happen at work that I feel terrible about and it affected everyone in the building. All I keep seeing is me running and jumping out the open window in the office before anyone could stop me. I wouldn’t do it, but I keep feeling this way. These things cause many problems all of my relationships. Any Advice?

Another thing is I take my transgressions toward others very seriously, when I feel like I’ve don’t something wrong, or let someone down I really take it to heart because I don’t want to be the cause of someone’s disappointment.

5Personalization

From a teen in the U.S.: For as long as I could remember I liked being alone. I think it’s starting to really effect me though as I start to get older and enter the adult world. Every time I’m out with friends I feel uncomfortable and awkward. I always feel like I’m putting a front or an act in front of everyone I speak to and I could only feel at ease when I’m at home by myself. When I’m alone I feel as though I don’t think. Like I’m just alone in my room for hours imagining a better life and different scenarios of my pretend life when really I’m just laying in bed doing nothing. Is that normal?

Every time I’m out with friends I feel uncomfortable and awkward. I always feel like I’m putting a front or an act in front of everyone I speak to and I could only feel at ease when I’m at home by myself.

0All-or-nothing thinking

Someone needs to know the truth. Anybody at this point. I am in desperate need of help and guidance. I am struggling with addiction in a major way. In turn, I have not kept track of my bipolar at all and at this point don’t even know where I am at emotionally. Physically I am ill. I have flu. I vomit. I barely eat. I sometimes don’t know how I am surviving. But I am afraid. I am very afraid. If this goes on it might be too late before I even realize it and I do not want this to happen. I have been using cocaine almost on a daily basis for 2 months. (I relapsed)

If this goes on it might be too late before I even realize it and I do not want this to happen.

4Fortune-telling

From the U.S.: For a few months, I’ve been getting these sudden headaches that don’t hurt so much as they feel strange and are very hard to describe. It starts with a sharp, adrenaline charged feeling in my head that becomes a tingling or numbness somewhere else, such as in my hands or in my face, or sometimes it feels like it’s manifesting inside of my head. This numbness usually moves around my hands and face, sometimes to the point where a whole part of my face will be without sensation. I have trouble concentrating, and speaking, during these headaches.

It starts with a sharp, adrenaline charged feeling in my head that becomes a tingling or numbness somewhere else, such as in my hands or in my face, or sometimes it feels like it’s manifesting inside of my head.

1Emotional Reasoning

My friend has always been a bit different from everyone else but lately, I have seen that he can occasionally talk to himself and also replies. He also has an extremely dark sense of humour and doesn’t really feel emotion (doesn’t feel the need for love and never feels bad for anyone). Although he has never hurt anyone he says he has an urge to which is kinda weird too…

He also has an extremely dark sense of humour and doesn’t really feel emotion (doesn’t feel the need for love and never feels bad for anyone).

8Mind Reading

My 19 year old brother may be clinically depressed. He does not want to take any direction in his life. He does not want to do the typical things that a teenager would normally do. Meaning, he does not want to get a job. He does not want to finish college (he wants to quit). He does not want to get a driver’s license. In fact, he doesn’t seem to think that these types of things even matter.

In fact, he doesn’t seem to think that these types of things even matter.

8Mind Reading

From a young man in Australia: Not a major complication but just interested in some different perspectives. I am a physically healthy late-30 year old man. I do not drink alcohol or smoke, I do not do drugs, I don’t gamble, and I try to avoid eating bad food too often. I exercise regularly and have a pretty good life (married, child, dog, run my own business). I also don’t waste money on buying random stuff to make myself feel rewarded”;.

2No Distortion

From a teen in the U.S.: i’m positive that i am depressed. i’ve had countless episodes where i have felt empty/numb inside and shut everyone out as well as having lost interest in many things. i’ve only recently started cutting myself, but i’m working on stopping the habit.

2No Distortion

From the U.S.: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. My parents have met him on several different occasions and it seemed like they got along. My dad would even hug him at the end of the night, which is big for him. Unfortunately, I would get snide comments in an email the next day about flaws and red flags that they saw about him.

2No Distortion

From the U.S.: I have 2 goals and I just can’t get started with them. I know I’m good and yet I suffer from so much lack of confidence. I go to sleep late and watch TV most of the night and then I finally get some sleep but I get up around noon each day. I feel I could be of use to people with my hypnosis and REIKI practices yet I can’t even help myself. My house is filled with stuff I want to give away yet I don’t.

2No Distortion

My mom left me, my dad, and brother about a year ago. Leaving me to do with my depressed family members and picking up the pieces that’s she broke. Now she’s married with a new friend family stating how she should never been happier. I’m not Sure why I could not maleness her that happy. Now my dad wants to leave me and my brother to give start a new life if we without us saying how we are a burden to take care of. I had a boyfriend for a while who I loved but he left also. All I have is love for all these people but they’ve all left anyways. I don’t understand what’s wrong with me that makes everyone want to leave. I have a hard time even having any sort of friendship or relationship now because i know they will all eventually leave me also. I don’t know what to do with myself anymore I have no motivation to do anything ever. I have a constant pit in my stomach and my heart is always in pain. I want to stop hurting im this way but I do not know where to start and how to continue on with much life even after everyone has left.

I don’t understand what’s wrong with me that makes everyone want to leave. I have a hard time even having any sort of friendship or relationship now because i know they will all eventually leave me also.

5Personalization

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years now. He lives with me. Sometimes he is very cold to my son. He is a quiet guy that does not really like to be bothered. He gets annoyed with me too when I bug him. He has said that he is the type of guy that shouldn’t be in a relationship because he likes his space. Well, last night was the last straw for me. My son had gotten him something for father’s day (not his dad) and he brought it over to his desk tried to talk to him and he said not right now and my son was yelling over him saying it’s important and my boyfriend yelled at him and he started crying and came and told me. I went in and talked to my boyfriend and he said it doesn’t matter what he needed to talk to me about he needs to wait. Then later my son came in again to apologize to him for bothering him and yelled at him again. I really think I’ve had it with this. I love my boyfriend and sometimes him and my son have lots of fun together, he’s been around since he was 2. He’s 8 now. But This happens too much and my son should not be treated this way. Am I making the right decision breaking up with him or should I talk to him and see if things change?

But This happens too much and my son should not be treated this way.

6Should statements

current_problem: From the U.S: I’m 14. My parents control every part of my life and sometimes use physical force. For example, not too long ago, my mom yelled at me for being on the phone for 15 min in the basement. She got my dad for backup and he gave me 4 blows to the side of the head and bent my glasses.

2No Distortion

 From a teen in Australia: I am 15, my sister: 13. The past two-ish years, I have a growing built up anger towards her. It has gotten to the point where I’m simply in her presence and I can feel myself getting angry and I swear a lot in my head at her, and I haven’t held a conversation with her for 2 years. (Other than questions like, “where’s the bread?”) And whenever she does try and start conversation with me saying” [My name] guess what happened” I get genuinely mad and annoyed and barely respond.

And whenever she does try and start conversation with me saying” [My name] guess what happened” I get genuinely mad and annoyed and barely respond.

1Emotional Reasoning

I started self harming when I was 12. I punch myself in the leg as hard as I can. I will often be sore for days after. However, because I was born with cerebral palsy, I am not strong enough to leave bruises on myself. I recently began to scratch myself as another form of self harm. I will do this until I skin the area I’m scratching, however I am not able to make the area bleed. I have gotten mixed reviews about whether this counts as self harm. I often try to convince myself that because the punches won’t bruise, and because the scratches don’t bleed, it is not a serious issue. However, some of my closer friends have told me that is still should consider it more serious and that I need to stop before I go any further. What I’m wondering is, are behaviors intended to cause harm to oneself, but which do not cause visible tissue damage or bleeding, considered self harm?

2No Distortion

Recently, a few months ago, found out my dad was a cheat. It was shocking cause he’s such a religious man I never thought it could happen. But our family dynamics were already weird he moved when I was 3 so never really had a relationship anyway. It really hit my mum I guess as her parents had both died within the last year and she took it hard and i feel like she got quite sad. It was already tense that he didn’t want to go to the funeral, due to different religions. Then she found out about a month after her dad died that he was cheating. I was the one that discovered it by text anyway and I told her. Everything’s been a mess now and she’s changed so much. We used to be relatively close and in the first few months she was just always angry at me or crying because of him and since my brothers went to university it’s just been me and her. It feels like she’s so codependent on me and I can’t turn her away cause she’s my mum and that’s not me but it’s hard because I can barely deal with my own problems (depression). Now although it’s been a few months it just feels horrible all she’ll talk about is that other woman, whom she just follows around on social media and my dad. Everyone’s told her to just leave him but she won’t say that people told her it’ll affect us, but it really won’t it’d just be better really. She doesn’t think about what I want anymore just what she thinks or people tell her. She’s always on the phone to other people, got a massive extended family and it’s too the point where I’m just ignored and neglected, despite me making time for her. I feel like she doesn’t even love me anymore. Sometimes she’s say sorry so she knows she ignores me. It’s hard it’s my gcse year and this mess has just made my already bad mental health worse. I feel bad because life’s been hard for her since she’s essentially got with him, she got ill after pregnancy and poor financial decisions have moved her from the middle class to poor. I don’t want her, she’s 50, to be alone and sad. How will I ever have my own life leaving her alone? (From the UK)

I feel like she doesn’t even love me anymore.

8Mind Reading

From a woman in the Philippines: My parents really hate my boyfriend for the following reasons: 1. He had been with so many girls in his life, he even slept with them, he even cohabited with 2 of his girls in the past, and my parents cant stand it, that is why they hate him so much to the point of disowning me if I still choose him. 2. He is a product of a broken family. His father cheated on his mother. So my parents are telling me that he is like his father. 3. Im a professional and he is not.

2No Distortion

I want to learn how to deal with my female friend that has a paranoid disorder. My girlfriend is undiagnosed. However, displays every symptom of the paranoid personality disorder. I was searching for an explanation as to why she has gotten worse in her paranoia.

My girlfriend is undiagnosed. However, displays every symptom of the paranoid personality disorder.

7Overgeneralization

Hi and thank you. I hate to say I’m desperate but I feel like I am. The quick – my sister passed 3 years ago from lung cancer, I have taken sole custody of my 12 year old niece. She was 9 when my sister passed and 7 when my sister was diagnosed. My Niece’s father passed before she was born. I am the sole caregiver. No real family support – we are in Colorado – any family that does exist is in NY.

2No Distortion

My daughter recently moved into my home and shortly after I started to have problems with my boyfriend I feel like he was cheeting on me, then he got an std which thank God i didn’t get it we were not having sexist the time he rejects me all the time . So anyways I left my phone recording one morning while I took my other kids to school .. it was just to hear if called someone he was cheeting with to my surprise I hear him with a. Girl getting pleasure and towards the end he said her name and his talking to her as i walk in … she was the only one here. I confronted both of them but they deny it … now I don’t trust them alone.

I confronted both of them but they deny it … now I don’t trust them alone

7Overgeneralization

A few months back I made a character to vent some homicidal ideations with. As time went on, he became more of an imaginary friend I would talk to all the time I was alone, and somewhat fall in love with. He is a serial killer, without a real reason to kill but he does anyway. Sometimes I imagine killing with him, him killing me, or me killing him. I made him so I could have a way to deal with suppressed feelings of committing murder, but lately the thoughts have become less restricted, more thought of. It’s no longer I could never kill; now it’s & I could, and I kind of want to; I want to be like him, even though another part of me screams not to. I know right from wrong, but I fear the longer these intense homicidal ideations fuel my mind, I may crumble become my nearly lifelong fear. I know he’s become a problem, but I don’t want to get rid of him. I’d feel like I killed him, as dumb as that sounds, especially when I said sometimes I imagine killing him. But he’s my friend. The one I can be completely honest with. What can I do to help myself, without losing him? I don’t know if I can change him, he feels like his own person at this point.

It’s no longer I could never kill; now it’s & I could, and I kind of want to; I want to be like him, even though another part of me screams not to. I know right from wrong, but I fear the longer these intense homicidal ideations fuel my mind, I may crumble become my nearly lifelong fear. I

4Fortune-telling

I was wondering if it would be possible to let me know if i could have a personality disorder? I am 15 years old and a girl. Sometimes i have weeks where i will cry everyday, become angry and sometimes to the extent of hurting myself. Then i’ll have days where i am happy and it seems like everything is fine. I am very sensitive to critism, and even the smallest of things can upset me. I am a very shy person because i get very anxious, nervous and my heart will start beating really fast when talking to people i hardly know or dont know at all, which has recently become a problem and has affected school assignments where we have to do oral presentations. I have trouble staying focused sometimes.

Sometimes i have weeks where i will cry everyday, become angry and sometimes to the extent of hurting myself. Then i’ll have days where i am happy and it seems like everything is fine. I am very sensitive to critism, and even the smallest of things can upset me. I am a very shy person because i get very anxious, nervous and my heart will start beating really fast when talking to people i hardly know or dont know at all, which has recently become a problem and has affected school assignments where we have to do oral presentations. I have trouble staying focused sometimes.

10Labeling

Hello, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 years. I’m totally in love with her and I followed her to NY when she landed her dream job a couple of years ago. Recently, she was fired for reasons here undisclosed. Obviously this was a gigantic blow for both of us. Since then, she’s developed a series of behaviors that have led to me wanting to seek help here. In a nutshell, she has always been a sensitive and highly empathic person and she claims that she’s been given a new calling from a higher being. She spends her nights now looking across the street at one of our neighbors, like in a movie, and with a video game controller, she follows what he’s doing. She says that she is watching over him and that she will make his life better like this since he seems lonely to her. On top of this, she’s fasting; only eating fruits and nuts during a certain portion of the day. All of it seems super calculated and ritualized in great detail. I come from an extremely religious family so I’ve seen similar but never ever like this. And this doesn’t correspond to any popular religion. I’ll say that she has never exhibited behavior like this in all the time we’ve been together. I’m obviously extremely worried about her and on a selfish note, I miss her a lot because she doesn’t seem to need or want me anymore. The other thing is that she seems totally lucid when I speak with her, but what she does seems not right of course. She has not yet lost her temper with me or lashed out at me though even when I try to get her to stop. And another thing is that she’s extremely proud and distrustful of doctors so I’m afraid that if I try to get her to see one, she’ll break up with me. I’m wondering if I could get advice on what to do? Is it okay to start a correspondence with a doctor behind her back and try things out to see if she gets better? For example, since I’m a cook and she used to love my cooking, I’m going try to at least get her to eat by making some of her favorites. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

All of it seems super calculated and ritualized in great detail. And another thing is that she’s extremely proud and distrustful of doctors so I’m afraid that if I try to get her to see one, she’ll break up with me.

8Mind Reading

I have severe anxiety, but I don’t feel like I have many symptoms. — Every now and then, I install an app so I can sing, and I never use the camera. I get frustrated with the app because I always restart the song after I sing a few lyrics. This is also irritating because no matter the amount of water I consume, my throat is dry, and (I believe) interferes with my singing. Whenever I open my mic. I can feel that my throat become dry, and this happens ESPECIALLY before, and during a conversation. It doesn’t matter the amount of water I consume, because I don’t feel satisfied — but ordinarily, I am very DEHYDRATED! –and I ABSOLUTELY, NEED to consume more liquids, but I never feel thirsty unless I eat something, but I simply eat too many things (that are processed!) I’ve tried to rid myself of this addiction, but that would mean cutting all processed things, because I couldn’t handle it otherwise. I have done that not long ago, but was convinced that a small bowl of something would not kill me. I hesitated to eat it, but as soon as I did, I could not stop myself. I didn’t feel guilty, but I felt bad because I am addicted. I love to talk with others, and I’d consider myself social, but these last few months — I’ve felt so anxious to talk, that I began to assume I wouldn’t say a word, therefore, I felt no stress. I do feel like I’ve been improving, but I guess I feel a little lonely sometimes. I don’t have any friends, except for one that I interact with – on social media outlets. I find it annoying that my mother tries to tell me the things I did, or that I lived. As a kid, I felt rejected all the time, and was often ridiculed at school, and also by the few kids in my neighbourhood, I tried so hard to impress. My mom says that I’d deliberately hurt kids, (even run them over with my bike!) She said that I would laugh at the child whilst they cried, but I have zero recollection of this! — I remember people hurting me, and not the other way around! (I would never talk to anyone but my family members.) Can you help?

It doesn’t matter the amount of water I consume, because I don’t feel satisfied — but ordinarily, I am very DEHYDRATED! –and I ABSOLUTELY, NEED to consume more liquids, but I never feel thirsty unless I eat something, but I simply eat too many things (that are processed!) I’ve tried to rid myself of this addiction, but that would mean cutting all processed things, because I couldn’t handle it otherwise.

0All-or-nothing thinking

My therapist says i am “emotionally detached.” In the past i have been told i could have autism. My husband thinks i am a sociopath. I have little to no emotion and can’t quite understand, nor do i care, about the emotions of others. i am beyond antisocial and hate socializing or being around people. i have absolutely no interest in human interaction. I have had homicidal thoughts for most of my life and have been deemed “mentally unstable and a threat to society.” I am unable to form bonds with others, but i can with objects and animals. The death of family members has no effect on me and never really has. My question is, what could this be? is it simply emotional detachment? or could it be autism or sociopathy? how do i go about getting diagnosed and tested if need be?

i am beyond antisocial and hate socializing or being around people. i have absolutely no interest in human interaction.

3Magnification

About a year ago I developed severe anxiety and had several panic attacks a day. Over time I developed more and more symptoms such as intrusive thoughts etc. However after quite some time I developed very worrying symptoms that make me think I am developing schiz/psychosis.

About a year ago I developed severe anxiety and had several panic attacks a day. Over time I developed more and more symptoms such as intrusive thoughts etc. However after quite some time I developed very worrying symptoms that make me think I am developing schiz/psychosis.

3Magnification

I just discovered unfortunately that my boyfriend has strange sex fetishes. He accidentally left his email open on my computer and I found an email from him to an escort describing the type of fantasy he wanted with her. He said that he wanted her to take him hostage and use him for her pleasure. He wanted to serve her. He said that he enjoyed strap-on play, golden shower, boot, foot and rear-end worship. I am so shocked by all of this and am trying to look for answers as to why and how someone develops fetishes like this. With me he is most gentle and loving and this is a completely different person than the one I know. Please help me to understand this. Does this mean he is gay or bi-sexual? Is he deeply disturbed?

I am so shocked by all of this and am trying to look for answers as to why and how someone develops fetishes like this.

3Magnification

I have become rather troubled with my inability not to see my father as “contaminated”, for lack of a better term. I can’t prepare my meals when he is in the kitchen or drink beverages he stands near for fear he’s breathed near them. I can recall not being able to eat any food he even stood near from adolescence, which meant left-overs or seconds were a no. I can’t enter a room he’s been in without spraying an air freshener and I’ve not sat upon the couch for this very same reason. The thought of using the same utensils, regardless of how thoroughly it’s been washed, is absolutely revolting. If I know he’s used it, I cannot. I feel bad, as it must be heartbreaking for your own child to treat you like some sort of plague-victim, but I can’t help it. I have an extreme dislike of human smell, breath, saliva, and mouths in general-I can’t even watch scenes which incorporate close ups without feeling the need to not breathe or expel the air (exhale forcefully) contaminated by the screen-but it is at its extreme with him. I know it probably has something to do with our rather rocky relationship and the fact that, having grown up around him, I’m privy to his poor hygiene practices. As I’ve stated prior, I’ve felt this way from early adolescence, so perhaps these aspects aggravated an already-existent, admittedly irrational, hatred of the human mouth. I know he gets offended, as he should, but I can’t help it. What on earth should I do? Is there any way I can wean myself off of these irrational precautions without making myself overly uncomfortable? Thank you in advance.

I have become rather troubled with my inability not to see my father as “contaminated”, for lack of a better term. I can’t prepare my meals when he is in the kitchen or drink beverages he stands near for fear he’s breathed near them. I can recall not being able to eat any food he even stood near from adolescence, which meant left-overs or seconds were a no. I can’t enter a room he’s been in without spraying an air freshener and I’ve not sat upon the couch for this very same reason. The thought of using the same utensils, regardless of how thoroughly it’s been washed, is absolutely revolting. If I know he’s used it, I cannot. I feel bad, as it must be heartbreaking for your own child to treat you like some sort of plague-victim, but I can’t help it. I have an extreme dislike of human smell, breath, saliva, and mouths in general-I can’t even watch scenes which incorporate close ups without feeling the need to not breathe or expel the air (exhale forcefully) contaminated by the screen-but it is at its extreme with him.

3Magnification

To sum things up, I haven’t had therapy since I was a child. Im terrified to seek help, but lately the thoughts and impulses scare my safety and others. I idealize a lot of things socially unacceptable, my only confidant said if I were to act or attempt such things they would have to turn me in. I have a hard time knowing whats real pr not, and if others are out to get me. Ive been suicidal n self mutilate my entire life, Ive almost lost it a few times. In 2013 I tried to seek help, I think I was suffering PTSD. After wanting me in group therapy I ran and never went back. I also have substance abuse problems, Im irrational and impulsive, and making common decisions is difficult. I shake constantly, always weak but sometimes feel invincible. I may be anemic but nothing confirms it. I sometimes see things that aren’t there but rarely. I dont like people by any means, nor do I have much empathy. To keep my relationships okay sometimes I fake or overly act certain emotions I know I should have. I crave power and glory, to a point it should be a concern, yet sometimes lack motivation? I know I have experienced depression on many,many occasions. There’s things I’d like to do but I know I never could. I’ve been anticipating a major breakdown for about 8 from suppression, hiding, and faking. Ive had a great deal of tragedies, sexual abuse, abandonment, various suicides. I saved a friend once as a teen, I cut myself fairly bad, but I succeeded in taking the box cutter away after he cut his wrists, throat, and tried to stab his stomach. It plays out in my dreams like I remember, when I awake many things I’ve suppressed flood my head. Overall though the things I want to do, the things I find acceptable etc. thats what is scaring me, also that I can’t remember things.. I guess all of it. The thought of seeking actual help, I know what I feel isn’t normal, but I fear what will become of me or my family if I go and completely honest.

I also have substance abuse problems, Im irrational and impulsive, and making common decisions is difficult. The thought of seeking actual help, I know what I feel isn’t normal, but I fear what will become of me or my family if I go and completely honest.

10Labeling

I am new here… I have today received news on my sister. She attempted to commit suicide, she has been complaining about every single aspect of her life and also stated that she is depressive. She mentioned to me a while ago that she considered taking her life and I tried my best to help her by being there for her. Seeing we don’t live in the same country it is difficult for me to be there 24/7. My family that is nearer to her don’t seem to understand she needs help instead of supporting her they cast her out and even go to the extent of telling her if u want to kill yourself do it don’t call us, I find that a bit harsh.

2No Distortion

From the U.K.: I don’t really know how to describe how I feel, and when I try it doesn’t really make sense but here it goes. I go through stages where I feel like I could rule the world, and that I sort of have these superpowers that nobody else does and can’t understand. I feel as though my mind changes so fast and that from hour to hour I could be one persona with certain powers, to the next hour to another. I don’t sleep much during this time, probably why I’m still awake at four in the morning. My mind feels like it’s racing, like my thoughts are going 100 miles and hour and no one can catch up to me.

My mind feels like it’s racing, like my thoughts are going 100 miles and hour and no one can catch up to me.

3Magnification

So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We recently bought a house! He’s an amazing guy, perfect in fact, until he gets mad! Well when he gets stressed or something doesn’t go his way or something goes wrong, he screams so loud and cusses at me even though I didn’t do anything! He acts like a crazy person! It scares me! It can be so little as in the dog is barking at the door or I ask him a simple questions and he doesn’t agree with it! Then he looks at me like I’m dumb and I should be freaking out with him! He always says I don’t have a care in the world, but I’m the type of person that doesn’t get stressed or angry easily. If I can’t do anything about it, why get mad? I believe life’s too short too be stressed and angry all the time. I try to find good in any situation, if that makes sense!

He’s an amazing guy, perfect in fact, until he gets mad!

9Mental filter

It seems from day one my husband has put his mother’s feelings ahead of mine. On our wedding we were only going to have me and him there and 2 witnesses, but because he dare not to tell his mum that, I told mine and got a bit of cold shoulder but he wouldn’t. He said she wouldn’t like it and be upset, so hence we had a wedding that we did not want. I can’t forget it and it keeps coming up all the time.

It seems from day one my husband has put his mother’s feelings ahead of mine. I can’t forget it and it keeps coming up all the time.

7Overgeneralization

From a teen in the U.S.: I will try my best to get all of this stuff out in a condensed manner. Contextually, I may have been traumatized during my 3rd grade school year. I remember the incident unusually well, and can recall definite features 8 years after the fact. I had gotten into an argument with this one kid. In the midst of this argument I had dragged another guy into it (so-to-speak). All-in-all I was harassing the guy, and I said some really awful things to him. That much, I feel guilty for.

2No Distortion

For my entire life I have had to deal with anxiety, and because of this I’ve always had a hard time making friends and opening up to people. Things that have happened in my past does not help this. For about a year now I have gotten very close to my now best friend. I go to her house a lot and spend the night often. Lately we have been staying up late, and have been talking about our emotions and things that are bothering us. I don’t know how to talk about how I feel or how to put my feelings into words. So when we talk it is mostly her talking and me listening. I want to be able to rant to her or to just be able to tell her whats wrong with me when I’m upset. The thing is I never know how to put it into words or how to explain it in the slightest. When I get face to face with people my mind just kind of goes blank. Would you have any advice for me? Thank you for taking the time to read this :)

2No Distortion

From a 14 year old in the U.S.: at the age of nine I experienced scabies with my family. it was isolating and traumatic, and left me with mild but long-lasting and persistent ptsd symptoms. I’ve had solid depression since then and it took over my life. my general feelings of anxiety became a disorder about halfway through 7th grade.

at the age of nine I experienced scabies with my family. it was isolating and traumatic, and left me with mild but long-lasting and persistent ptsd symptoms.

3Magnification

When i get mad i over react. i dont realize it but everyone else does. i break stuff , i say very threatening things and i want to harm whoever angered me. i cry a lot when im mad and i tend to rage almost instanly. it could be very small but within 3 minutes im raging and throwing glass and swearing. i cant help it im afraid i have anger issues, mainly family really gets me this way. and because of how i live i have to TRY to bottle it up (doesnt help at all) bc when i really get pissed everything bottled comes out. my family always tries to tell me WHY i shouldnt feel a certain way and it makes it worse.

my family always tries to tell me WHY i shouldnt feel a certain way and it makes it worse.

3Magnification

Hi, I’m a 13 year old trans guy and I’ve just moved to a foreign country, I don’t speak the language. I’ve been feeling very depressed for over 6 months. Lately I’ve also been noticing how much anxiety I feel when doing things like going to school, talking to people, going to the store and generally going out of my house and socializing. I think people here dislike me and judge me all the time. But other than that, I’ve just been generally feeling very very sad all the time and I don’t know why. I know that gender dysphoria is a factor, seeing as I hate my body and all, but I don’t think it’s everything. I just generally see my life and myself as stupid and hopeless. Sometimes I harm myself too. That’s the short summary.

I think people here dislike me and judge me all the time.

8Mind Reading

My son is 15 and a freshman in high school. He is very athletic and has wrestled since he was 5 years old. He is very talented and wrestles on the national level with a lot of success. However, he recently decided he doesn’t want to wrestle in high school. My husband and all the coaches want him to wrestle at least his first year in high school to see if he likes it. He says he wants to box instead. My husband and his coach said he will regret it if he doesn’t wrestle because he is so talented. I don’t know if I should force him to wrestle one year in high school and see how it is, then, if he doesn’t want to continue that’s fine. Practice is right after school and his older brother wrestled too so he doesn’t have a ride home unless I come to get him. My husband said I should just let him stay at school until wrestling is over and his brother can bring him after practice. I don’t know what to do… is it ok to say “you are going wrestle for at least one more year?” (From the USA)

2No Distortion

From the U.S.: My 16-year-old son has always had friend issues, he struggled with being bullied in junior high and has always spent a great deal of time alone. Now that he is in high school, his Dad and I are getting very concerned. He spends every weekend home playing video games alone. I do not think he is depressed as he doesn’t exhibit the typical warning signs. But he is unhappy and speaks openly about wishing he had more friends.

2No Distortion

First and foremost, I’d like to preface this with the clarification that my parents are good people. They mean well. They’ve tried to help me with my depression and anxiety in any way possible. I’m lucky. But lately they’ve been unintentionally making me feel so much worse. But when I try to communicate this, my complaints fall on deaf ears. They just can’t seem to comprehend that they don’t have me, their own daughter, figured out.

They just can’t seem to comprehend that they don’t have me, their own daughter, figured out.

8Mind Reading

Hi, I have been having dreams of being sexually abused as a teenager during nights. My therapist neither confirmed nor denied they were repressed memories. Now, I no longer can afford a therapist and cannot seek my parents help regarding the same.  My parents have been fighting with me over a year because they came to know that I had sex with my partner.  When I tried addressing how I felt comfortable for the first time with a male, and tell them about my traumatic experiences of being sexually harassed and how even a glance felt invasive…they dismissed me.  They told me I was making excuses for having sex (I’m from a very conservative Hindu family). This line of argument made me hesitate to tell them regarding my dreams and now it has become almost impossible to talk to them. I fight constantly fight with my parents, especially mother because I don’t feel consensual sex is a wrong thing.  On top of all this, I’m having trouble in my relationship.  My partner suffers from depression and me saying no to sex is affecting us badly.  I find sex to be a chore. My body responds but my find is never silent.  I’m indifferent to sex. I don’t feel attracted to my partner anymore. I thought of breaking up with him but have been staying on because I’m afraid he will resort to self-harm to cope with the pain or do something more terrible. He is a great guy and has been supportive when it comes to my pain and troubles.  But we were brought up in different cultures and sometimes he just doesn’t get it.  I’m also losing focus on my studies and work, and sleep all the time.  I overeat, put on 10kg in the past few months and feel tired all the time. (From India)

I thought of breaking up with him but have been staying on because I’m afraid he will resort to self-harm to cope with the pain or do something more terrible.

4Fortune-telling

Ever since I was 10, I have been experiencing homicidal thoughts. They just keep getting worse, and I’m scared that thoughts will become actions. I have enjoyed horror films and shows since I was very young, but I always knew that killing was bad. Now, it’s all I think about. I dream of torturing and murdering random people in gory and grotesque ways. I very much enjoy the feeling I get, but at the same time, I know I cant afford to kill anyone. The urge is very strong to, though, and it affects my daily life in several ways, including mood swings. My parents are very concerned and are trying to get me some counseling, but for the time being, what should I do about all this? If you could give any insight on all this, it’d be greatly appreciated.

2No Distortion

Lately I have been extremely unhappy for no apparent reason. I feel empty almost all the time. It is like nothing can give me genuine joy anymore. I also feel alone a lot, even though I do have friends and close friends. Whenever I try to imagine my future all I see is one full of obstacles. I have become so consumed in sadness and I do not know how to deal anymore. I feel so confused and I do not understand myself anymore.

Lately I have been extremely unhappy for no apparent reason. I feel empty almost all the time. It is like nothing can give me genuine joy anymore.

9Mental filter

My mother’s main principle in life is honesty. She taught my sisters and I to be loyal and always honest. My respect for her has dropped drastically since I discovered her affair with my sister’s sports coach. Through messages, they send nude images and sext constantly, to the point where she refuses to go anywhere without her phone because she fears someone will catch her, or because their affair has completely taken all her interest. I was sitting on the couch a couple months ago, with my phone beside me, coincidentally beside my mothers. It buzzed, and believing that it was mine (we both have white iPhones), I pressed the home button to view the text message. It was an explicit picture of his genitals, with a dirty caption and hundreds of winky faces. It was most definitely NOT my dad. Since then, I have spoken to one friend about it, telling her everything I felt since I couldn’t tell any of my counsellors at school (both of them are very close with my dad) or my sisters. The affair has progressed, I believe, because I discovered my mother has a hotel booked under her name every weekend in our city. Why would she need a hotel in the same city she lives in?

2No Distortion

Since I began masturbating around eight years old or so, I have had sexual fantasies about incontinence. When I was younger, I fantasized about indulging in this fetish with others but nowadays I only think about being incontinent on my own in a cabin far up in the hills in some woods where noone can find me with an incinerator! So basically, it has to be far away from real life and very hidden for me to find pleasure in it and to escape the shame. I do also have completely normal fantasies and nowadays have to force myself to think about this fantasy in order to orgasm, but it doesn’t naturally come into my mind and, until properly aroused, I still find it genuinely disgusting.

So basically, it has to be far away from real life and very hidden for me to find pleasure in it and to escape the shame. I do also have completely normal fantasies and nowadays have to force myself to think about this fantasy in order to orgasm, but it doesn’t naturally come into my mind and, until properly aroused, I still find it genuinely disgusting.

10Labeling

On May 4 I got engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years. That afternoon I took a loan out to purchase him a truck. A week later we tried to get a mortgage on a home and found out that he has something in collection. So I suggested taking line of credit out in my name to bye off the collection. So next here we could then purchase a home and get married. Aug 2 he left for a 10-week course. In the 10 weeks he would only call once a week and he allowed the truck to bounce twice (I first figure the way his pay was going in and the way the payments were going out there wasn’t enough money (2 pays 3 payment in aug.) I didn’t get mad I went up and deposited $1000 to cover it. Once there I found out that he didn’t transfer anymore. I fly down to watch him graduate and see my friends (I was from there) and drive back with him. The trip sucked he wasn’t interested in me based on his saying, attitude and he stated drinking. I tried to talk to him and I was given the cold shoulder. Home (we don’t live together yet) My gut was telling me something was wrong so I decided knowing his password went on because I was concern about his drinking (recovering addict) if I could find something that would help me. Instead I found an email to the girl on course. I asked him about her and said I know because I read the email. He got mad at me saying he can’t trust me and walked out the door. I want to talk find out if it do to drinking, was it an emotional or physical affair. He tells me they were set up emails, and I am a fool and break off our engagement. I told him if we are not emotional together then we will not be financially together and I made him get his parents to co-sign a loan to buy the truck from me. He says he will continue making the line of credit payments. I want to believe him but I have a feeling I will have to take him to small claims court for this.

The trip sucked he wasn’t interested in me based on his saying, attitude and he stated drinkingI want to believe him but I have a feeling I will have to take him to small claims court for this.

4Fortune-telling

From a teen in the U.S.: I’m 19 years old, and I have a great fear of developing schizophrenia. It all started when I watched a video about Marina Joyce and her supposed mental illness, and being the idiot that I am looked up the symptoms and noticed something I sometimes do (thought blocking), but I stopped myself from doing that.

I’m 19 years old, and I have a great fear of developing schizophrenia.

1Emotional Reasoning

Hello! I’m mostly writing this to get feedback on issues I think I might have; I have suspicions. Sometimes I wake up with a knot in my stomach for no reason, or have trouble getting out of bed in the morning, and have trouble keeping calm in public (I’m more than certain I have generalized anxiety and depression – irritability, nervousness, sluggishness, upset stomach/nausea, panic in public situations). I’ve come out of an abusive relationship recently, and have severe anxiety attacks and panic when I think about my abuser, so I also believe somewhere mixed in with generalized anxiety, I have a case of PTSD-induced anxiety and anxiety attacks.

2No Distortion

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for more than 9 months. We first had sex after three weeks of dating, and she asked me to have sex with her. When we had been dating for three months, she slowly started not wanting to have sex, and I even went a whole month without sex. She started taking birth control pills at the three month mark, so this might be why she acts like this.

he started taking birth control pills at the three month mark, so this might be why she acts like this.

8Mind Reading

My parents have said many times that I’m cold blooded because i don’t feel sad or pity when people die in terrorist attack like they do, i really don’t understand why i should, it’s not me. I tried to drown my sister out of jealousy but i played the victim so I didn’t get punished. I like to break friendships up and make my friends hate each other. I like to wreck other people’s groups. I like to twist people’s words to make them feel bad and apologize/’comfort’ me. I only want to become a surgeon when i graduate because i want to operate on people not because i want to help them and my mother always say that of me, but even though that is not my goal, they are still helped in the end, so what’s the problem? I once ran away from home for a while so that my parents can get worried and be punished. I pretend to be the innocent and lovely person around other people. I once accidentally poisoned a cat but I don’t feel regret. I was happy when my baby cousin had a hole in his heart because he was born near my birthday and he took the spotlight away from me. I was mad my granddad died a week before my birthday so my family wont celebrate my birthday cause they are greiving. I fantasize about murdering or torturing people that has wronged me, but i wont do it cuz i will get a criminal record . I wasnt brought up in a abusive family and i have never had a traumatised childhood. I dont know what’s wrong with me.

2No Distortion

From the U.S.: I quit smoking Marijuana and cigarettes. I have no health insurance and used for injuries on top of fear of my anger. Today, the internet crashed in the middle of a workout and without warning, I was filled with rage. There were no thoughts to sort through, I just flipped and destroyed my phone and hurt my hand.

2No Distortion

I have been researching psychopathy and ASPD since I was in my teens. Based on how I am, my lifestyle, my WELL known personal abilities to manipulate and influence, along with my absolute lack of empathy (unless it’s something that affects me directly), and of course that I am very smart and conscious of my decisions. I don’t get in trouble because I am smart enough to avoid getting caught. I will come up with other ways, even if that includes convincing others to join me. I am fully aware of how people show empathy, concern and helpfulness. I have full ability to portray this if the situation calls for it (Death of someone, someone’s personal problems, Etc.) I cheat, I exchange sex for money, I make up sob stories to get people to do my yard work, Etc.

Based on how I am, my lifestyle, my WELL known personal abilities to manipulate and influence, along with my absolute lack of empathy (unless it’s something that affects me directly), and of course that I am very smart and conscious of my decisions.

10Labeling

I’ll start with a background. I’ve been best friends with (Lets call him David for privacy) David for 3 years now. He is diagnosed with anxiety and depression. We started being friends shortly after he stopped being friends with another guy (named Alex for privacy). Alex basically (from what i’ve heard) was a terrible friend. He started ignoring David, lying to him, saying mean things,and even ruining other relationships to be closer to David. I feel like these experiences for David have traumatized him where he is always bringing himself down for every little thing he does. Everything he does is wrong. This, in turn, means everything that I do correct. This makes it extremely hard to be open about things in our relationship, which i think is needed for a healthy relationship. He places me on a pedastool for everything, and I cant feel comforble with that. I know that he is also right in his own way, and its healthy to compromise. I feel like we cant compromise because i am always the right one no matter what. I’ve been getting overwhelemed with it and I’m not sure what to do. I feel like anything I say will make him feel bad about himself for the next few months. Whenever I bring up something, he shuts down and can’t say anything. I usually feel like I just caused a mental breakdown, as he has had a few in the past. He does have a therapist, and has had one for 2 years. I know this might’ve been scatter brained, because thats how i feel right now. Thank you!

I feel like these experiences for David have traumatized him where he is always bringing himself down for every little thing he does. I feel like anything I say will make him feel bad about himself for the next few months.

8Mind Reading

Last night my boyfriend broke up with me over an issue I didn’t think was a big deal. Yesterday my friends and I planned a night out and I made the mistake of not inviting my boyfriend because of this one guy. That guy broke our relationship once and that’s the reason why my boyfriend dislikes him so much. I thought I did the right thing by not telling him about it, but apparently he didn’t think so. He told me that I would have never gone if I knew that guy was coming but the truth is that was the only night I could go out and stay out late so I thought to myself, “Why would I stay at home just because of another guy?” and went for it anyway. While I was on my way to the gathering I got a text from my boyfriend asking me where I am and I sent a message telling him where I was going but apparently the text hadn’t gone and he thinks that I ignored his message because I didn’t want him there. He doesn’t like any of my guy friends. He’s a Muslim boy and I’m not so there’s a lot of cultural clashing in terms of clothing, views etc. My parents do not accept him but I love him with all my heart. I feel numb and I can’t think straight. I don’t know what to do now. Please help me. Please. (From Sri Lanka)

2No Distortion

From a teen in the U.S. Everyday I have thoughts of death, hurting people or myself. I hate it. I cant control my thoughts. I hurt myself and don’t realize it until its done. I have bee diagnosed with, ADHD, Depression, anxiety, and PTSD. My thoughts are disorganized, Some are of saving people and others of killing them. I see everything in cycles. I hate to fail, I get depressed when i fail, and then fail more as a consequence.

I see everything in cycles. I hate to fail, I get depressed when i fail, and then fail more as a consequence.

3Magnification

From the U.S.:  I’ve noticed that when I’m alone in my dorm away from my family, I think about depressing stuff. Like how my grandparents are almost close to death and how I’ll die and ceased to exist. I get all gloomy and tearful. When I’m with family I’m happy as I can be, but alone, my thoughts have been about death. I know that death comes and it has to come but I hate thinking about my family dying. I obviously know that it’s natural but it’s just hard to come to terms with it.

I know that death comes and it has to come but I hate thinking about my family dying. I obviously know that it’s natural but it’s just hard to come to terms with it.

6Should statements

My mom thinks I’m lazy, so to make me study they do tons of things – locking me out of the family Wi-Fi, confiscating my phone (which I paid half the price for) making threats, etc. Due to the fact that all students have a smart phone, my teachers do loads of stuff over it. They give us instructions, inform us about events, remind us about stuff (which I really need because I’m a bit forgetful). We are also expected to use it to ask about our subjects and discuss our projects. I even use my phone as an alarm to wake up, to record down my homework and keep my timetable on it.

2No Distortion

I’ve been in an online relationship a transgender girl for nearly two years and she’s struggled with depression and self-esteem issues since she came out as trans a few months prior to us getting together. She talks to me about how her parents don’t really seem to care about her. One time, her parents were watching a show that made fun of trans folk and they leered at her when she came into the room. Another time, her mom tried to make her out to be mentally retarded to get support money.

2No Distortion

I’m a 25yo male, i’ve been diagnosed with depression with suicidal thoughts more than one year ago and i’m still struggling with it, i’ve started receiving medical treatment since may 2016 now, during this period i’ve been prescribed with Dosulepin, Escitalopram, Fluvoxamine, and Sertraline respectively for one month for each but none of them affected me in a good way. And finalyi’ve been on Fluoxetine for 7 months now and still no any improvement at all. I’ve recently came across an article stating that depression can be caused by some hormonal deficiency so i’ve made a list of most related hormones to the problem and got blood tested for them and the results were as following: TSH:2.23 uIU/ml. (Biological Reference: 0.3 – 4.8) Testosterone Free: 17.0 pg/ml. (Biological Reference: 8.3 – 40.1) Follicle Stimulating Hormone (FSH): 2.6 mIU/ml. (Biological Reference: 1.5 – 12.4) Luteinizing Hormone (LH): 7.1 mIU/ml. (Biological Reference: Adult: 1.7-8.6) Prolactin: 14.0 ng/ml. (Biological Reference: 4 – 15.2) Estradiol (E2): 5 pg/ml. (Biological Reference: 7.6 – 43) Progesterone: 0.4 ng/ml. (Biological ReferenceAdult: 0.2 1.4) Testosterone-Total: 4.62 ng/ml. (Biological Reference: Adult : 2.4 – 8.3) Cortisol-am: 19.25 ug/dL. (Biological Reference: 6 – 19.4) Cortisol-pm: 21.21 ug/dL. (Biological Reference: 2.3 – 11.9) Parathyroid Hormone (PTH): 55.2pg/ml. (Biological Reference: 15 – 65) I’ve stopped seeing any doctors and i’m about to give up trying tbh and i don’t have the power to go find a new good doctor and start the whole journey again with him/her.. Do you think that my tests results indicate a physical problem that can be the cause of the whole depression problem? and what would you recommend me to do next?

I’ve stopped seeing any doctors and i’m about to give up trying tbh and i don’t have the power to go find a new good doctor and start the whole journey again with him/her..

0All-or-nothing thinking

Several years ago I was in a psychiatric hospital for an eating disorder. In the first 3 months whenever I got brought to the dining room I’d lose control of my arm so I couldn’t move it to pick up a fork to eat my food. I had to have the staff move it for me. What’s odd is I wasn’t resisting or I’d stop the staff members moving my arm for me. And I’d try to give it commands but it wouldn’t move. Obviously this is psychological and I did have control but it wasn’t until 3 months later that I could move my arm to eat food. I really have no idea what this was, or why I did it, no ones ever explained this to me. I never knew you could discommunicate part of your body. I’ve looked online for answers but there was nothing and as far as I’m aware I was the only one who ever did this. Is there a name for this behavior or is it just me who has done this?

2No Distortion

Hi, My boyfriend – who took lots of drugs and cannabis – had a psychotic crisis in March this year. He thought he was a psychopath (not a criminal one) and said lots of strange stuff. First I was OK with it then became very anxious of all that happened, i couldn’t sleep and became very tired. I didn’t have much news neither as he went back to his home country. I didn’t know how things were and became more and more anxious. Made myself movies. Read a lot about psychopaths and psychotic people on the internet and with the tiredness, not having much news I began to think I was a psychopath myself, that I am a very bad person and began to have flashes of me doing bad things to people and i got very scared so i didn’t sleep well again for weeks. Being very anxious. Sometime I am good but sometimes suddenly it comes back and I have panic attacks or very anxious time. I am very scared and it is not possible to live like that. I am scared to ask him if he still thinks he is a psychopath. I know it has never been linked with criminal stuff but I turned it into another way. I don’t know by his family if he still thinks he is. I guess he was just saying shit as he was not doing well.

Read a lot about psychopaths and psychotic people on the internet and with the tiredness, not having much news I began to think I was a psychopath myself, that I am a very bad person and began to have flashes of me doing bad things to people and i got very scared so i didn’t sleep well again for weeks.

10Labeling

I’ve had social anxiety disorder most of my life and have coped with it well until it seems recently. Lately, I’m sad and upset all the time, I cry often over nothing more than my thoughts, I don’t get out of bed, and I’ve called out/left work early just to be alone. I feel numb or sad, and I also feel really worried that my boyfriend doesn’t like me anymore or is cheating (though he has given no reason for me to feel this way). I thought it was just anxiety at first, but this isn’t a panicky feeling, this is just utter despair. This is not the first time I’ve experienced this, but the last few times I thought it was circumstantial. Usually this lasts about a month or two before I go back to normal. However, last summer I experienced what may have been hypomania for a month and a half — I had sexual relations with multiple people in a short time, drank heavily every night, and didn’t sleep for a week and felt great. I thought I was on top of the world, that everyone loved me, and I could do anything I wanted. Now I feel utterly worthless, unwanted, unloved, and alone. At this particular moment in time, I feel awful about myself and my life, but I can’t sleep and I feel more awake than I’ve felt in weeks. I’ve been considering seeing a psychiatrist for social anxiety again for a while, but should I consider addressing this issue, or am I worried about nothing?

I feel numb or sad, and I also feel really worried that my boyfriend doesn’t like me anymore or is cheating (though he has given no reason for me to feel this way).

8Mind Reading

From a woman in the U.S.: I had a dream that seemed so real. Someone shot my boyfriend in the stomach and he threw up. After the man shot my kids father he came to me and stood over me for what seemed like a life time. My heart was racing so fast I mean I could literally see the guys face but I have never seen him before in “real life”.  I was sitting across the street from where my boyfriend was shot. I remember for some reason sitting on a blue bench, holding a box, that was filled with snacks. (I never hang around outside on corners) I begged him not to shoot me because I had two babies right up the road. He still shot me in my head it felt so real.. I seen the flash from the gun, I felt the hot bullet; go through left side of my head, (right behind my hair line) and i also felt the the bullet come out of the my right side of my neck/underneath the chin.  I could also feel the warm sticky blood coming from my head and neck. He shot me again and then i woke up.

2No Distortion

My husband and I have been married for almost three years. We dated for over six years before we married. I felt like I knew him so well and we would be fine. I knew he had a temper (at times)but overall he is an amazing person. He really is very loving and kind overall. Sometimes though (more frequently recently) he gets SO angry. He curses at me and calls me names. I feel like he really hates me at those moments. He doesn’t hit me he just yells a lot and I can tell he is FURIOUS! He gets angry when things don’t go his way. His behavior is fine if all is well but if things go downhill just a little (the car breaks down, I’m late for something, or any other inconvenience) he gets angry really easily. I feel like he is a spoiled brat sometimes because he gets so mad when he doesn’t get his way.

I feel like he really hates me at those moments.

8Mind Reading

Hello Doc! My name is Mike. I’m currently 23 years old and live in a very mountainous secluded area in western Pennsylvania. I’m translated from a large city roughly 5 years ago where you could shake your neighbors hand through while you both sat at your respective kitchen tables. Meaning, it was a packed area, Washington D.C.

2No Distortion

From the U.S.: Hi, I have been dealing with depression and anxiety for nearly half my life, I have been on medications and went to see different doctors, but nothing yet has worked. Now, my anxiety is getting worse. I am starting to display what I would call “social anxiety” symptoms. I don’t leave the house unless I have to for work, I avoid going to parties, I avoid meeting friends for lunch or dinner, I even show up late for family Christmas parties.

Now, my anxiety is getting worse. I am starting to display what I would call “social anxiety” symptoms. I don’t leave the house unless I have to for work, I avoid going to parties, I avoid meeting friends for lunch or dinner, I even show up late for family Christmas parties.

3Magnification

From India: I am married and now pregnant. I came to my mom’s house for delivery of my first baby. My eldest sister left her husband and is awaiting a divorce. My mom seems to be really disturbed by my sister’s presence, especially because of her 10 year old kid who has not been taught anything related to good manners. My mom wakes up at 5 am in the morning and throws tantrums and tries to wake my sister up so she could help her in the kitchen. My sister is an adamant and lazy woman. She yells at mom for every other reason. In between these two women who cannot speak their heart without using proper words, it seems like I’m sandwiched. But it seems more like an issue with my mother because her anxiety to get things done immediately is affecting my niece a lot. I’m in my 3rd trimester and my mom seems to be a devil! Uncontrollable emotional torture is what I can say. My sister’s husband was abusive and she came home to be at peace but I don’t think it’s a good thing.

I’m in my 3rd trimester and my mom seems to be a devil!

10Labeling

I never thought it was a issue until I hit a breaking point from my Internship meeting. I was told that I’m not processing things (as he pointed at his head) at that moment I felt like I was retarded. That’s where I began to see a pattern from my previous jobs and through life. I would make a lot of mistakes when I am being told to do something. I’m not nervous, or deaf. I can hear, but when people talk to me I block out/they seem like they mumble rather than talking so I block out. It is troublesome because I have to repeat people all the time, and when I do managers shout at me and I hold back my feelings until I finish my shift which have nightmares about. I feel like I’m slow when doing a task. However it does not makes sentence because I have good grades and do all my homework and yet I can’t do what is asked to be done. I came to the point were I had to confess to my employer and my school, that I have problem and don’t know what it is. All I know that I can’t understand messages or phone calls (Even in high volume) , can’t follow instructions, I try to concentrate what people are saying but the words cant process in my freaking brain which makes me mad and helpless at myself that I can’t do anything right, it is very had to multitask, I sturred/can’t talk right. Even my family notice something was wrong with me when they talk to me because I always do the opposite of what they say. I always thought if I try harder it will be better, but with me my mistakes remind the same. To be honest my mind works differently when people talk to me I mix words up or numbers. I always have to solve what people say if I forget/block out, which makes them repeat themselves, I always compare myself with other girls and be like why can’t I get it like her, you know. As for right now, I am taking notes and writing what people say so I won’t get mix up, but sometimes that doesn’t work so I have show to them what I wrote down “what I think they said.” I cry a lot because this a problem that stops me from maturing and succeeding in my career. I don’t know what is holding me back mentally because it’s effecting me physically. I’m scared because I might not going to find a good job to provide for my family. My school also wants to know what is wrong because they know I’m doing great in school learning medical billing, but they are getting my reviews on what I can’t do which is frustrating.

I feel like I’m slow when doing a task. However it does not makes sentence because I have good grades and do all my homework and yet I can’t do what is asked to be done. All I know that I can’t understand messages or phone calls (Even in high volume) , can’t follow instructions, I try to concentrate what people are saying but the words cant process in my freaking brain which makes me mad and helpless at myself that I can’t do anything right, it is very had to multitask, I sturred/can’t talk right.

5Personalization

When our son was 14, my husband caught him inappropriately touching his 9 year old sister in the pool. My husband held our son’s head under water until he thrashed for air. Our daughter witnessed this. Our son was told that if he EVER touched his sister again, his father would drown him.

2No Distortion

My boyfriend has 2 children, daughter is 8 and son is 12. Daughter is independent and comfortably attached to her father. The son however, is extremely needy! Daughter adores me and son likes me and we all have fun but he does NOT like seeing me with his father. Every time my boyfriend and I talk his son will interrupt the conversation with ANYHING rediculous, with any random question, saying its important. He needs it answered now! or will do anything to interrupt!

Every time my boyfriend and I talk his son will interrupt the conversation with ANYHING rediculous, with any random question, saying its important. He needs it answered now! or will do anything to interrupt!

7Overgeneralization

I Need to prove myself to myself. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for over a decade, since I was 13. Through college I went through five majors and the one I graduated with I hated by the end. I began graduate school because I put in all the work in undergrad and my parents wanted me to try grad school. I dropped out before the first semester was over. I work in an unrelated field, making just enough to live on.

2No Distortion

Why does a person pursue men who are unavailable? Examples: 1. Attracted and “tried” dating a guy in high school who was gay but not out of the closet. 2. Asked out guys that were off limits in college, such as resident advisor and leader of organozation (both students who said they weren’t “allowed”to date other students. 3. A man that lived in another state and would hook up on his business trips. I’ve always suspected he was married. 4. A man with no relationship experience who was emotionally the equivalent of a teenager. 5. A man who was recently divorced with two kids and did not want to remarry or have more kids. 6. A man who was still married. 7. A man who lives in another country, doesn’t speak English, has no money, and cannot come to the US unless get a marriage Visa.

2No Distortion

I am worried that there may be something wrong with me or with my anger management skills. For the past few years, I have experienced very short but very intense bursts of anger which I suppress and don’t act on. They are mostly triggered by my abusive brother who lives in the same house as me because I am not married yet and unable to move out due to national policy. Whenever I see him doing something inappropriate (he masturbates with his room door open) or when he yells at me or when he makes a mess of the house, I get so angry that my body vibrates, I clench my fist so tightly that I cut my palms with my fingernails, and I grit my teeth. These bursts last for about 2-3 seconds then it will pass, and I will feel myself warming up a little and my heartbeat getting stronger. I get very violent thoughts during these episodes but I never act on them at all. I am aware that my brother is very abusive, to the point that even my parents cannot do anything about him because they are afraid of retaliation. So my strategy has always been to just avoid him as much as I can until I can finally get a place of my own and move out.

Whenever I see him doing something inappropriate (he masturbates with his room door open) or when he yells at me or when he makes a mess of the house, I get so angry that my body vibrates, I clench my fist so tightly that I cut my palms with my fingernails, and I grit my teeth.

3Magnification

The last couple of weeks I’ve not slept more than a few hours every night. I am literally so tired all day and dragging. Yet no matter how tired I am, the second I lay down I feel like I can’t switch my brain off and I’m literally scared to death to go to sleep. I’m scared someone’s going to break in and either kill us all or I’ll get up one morning to one or both kids dead. I hear the slightest noise and I gotta get up and walk all through the house. I’m married with 2 wonderfully amazing children. We have a nice home in a nice, quiet neighborhood. Financially things are a little hard but we make due. I had to quit my job last March due to a car accident that injured my previously injured back and neck so I get to stay home with my youngest. In the last year there have been people that have banged on the door in the middle of the night but that hasn’t happened in months now. I talk to people about this and some make me feel like I’m losing my mind. Can anyone help with this?

I’m scared someone’s going to break in and either kill us all or I’ll get up one morning to one or both kids dead. I hear the slightest noise and I gotta get up and walk all through the house.

3Magnification

My friend is sad a lot because she is alone and doesn’t have a boyfriend. She always belittles herself and says she isn’t good enough. At first, I told her to be patient and focus on bettering herself and she would find someone soon. I now see that she is looking for someone else to be her main source of happiness. After pointing out to her what she was doing, I then told her that she can’t love anyone else until she learns to love herself. To which she responded, “I can’t love myself. I don’t know how to.” How can I help her?

2No Distortion

At first I divided them into two categories, the sedating ones that left me a zombie and the agitating ones that made me aggressive and gave my violent thoughts. I think I’ve been on 10-12 of them, including all of the standards. In trying the zoloft for a month I noticed that it started sedating but evolved into aggression, so the two categories might just be one with different timing. Now, I find myself in a situation where my GP is accusing me of faking the reactions. Is there a test I can insist on to validate my views? An expert I can ask her to talk to? Also, she’s been minimizing the effects of things and now the insurance company is using her notes against me to kick me off LTD. Currently, I’m on wellbutrin, because we have to do something and the dogma of the protocol requires that I take an SSRI. I’ll try to keep the emotional out of this, but I am quite demoralized now. In the last appointment my GP asked me if I was suicidal and I went off on her pointing out that she was only asking to cover her own ass and that I knew if I said yes it would mean her calling an ehs crew to come and restrain me (the one thing that I’d told her earlier would make me violent).

In the last appointment my GP asked me if I was suicidal and I went off on her pointing out that she was only asking to cover her own ass and that I knew if I said yes it would mean her calling an ehs crew to come and restrain me (the one thing that I’d told her earlier would make me violent).

8Mind Reading

From the U.S.: Very long story short, I just recently found out that I have another child with a woman I dated a very long time ago. The little girl is a pre-teen years old, the mother was not sure who’s child it was. the man who is on the birth certificate is the only one the child has known as her dad.

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From Canada: I am a 15 year old living in Canada. Since new years day (4 days ago) I have been experiencing bad insomnia, severe panic attacks and dissociation like never before. I have had dissociation since May but it never stopped me from functioning. Over the last few days, it has been really bad and I spent lots of time researching symptoms and they seem to match stories of people with acute schizophrenia.

Over the last few days, it has been really bad and I spent lots of time researching symptoms and they seem to match stories of people with acute schizophrenia.

7Overgeneralization

From a teen in the U.S.: So, just two months ago I was discharged from a psych hospital after trying to kill myself. I’ve struggled with depression, self harm, and anxiety all my life. When I left the hospital, I went back to my school and my ‘friends’ had spread awful rumors about me, which basically made everyone hate me. I just recently switched schools, but I have noticed that something is up when I sleep.

2No Distortion

Soon I’ll be 21 and I never had a romantic relationship before (Never even kissed a boy before). There are two sides of me. There’s the one thinking that I should have a relationship but the other side of me doesn’t want anything at all and by even thinking about being in a realitonship makes that side of me sick. Everybody telling me that I should have a relationship: “how can I say that I don’t want something if I haven’t even tried it?” 2 days ago I registered to an online dating site. I chatted with a few guys and one seems to be interested in me. He is good-looking and has an amazing personality but even thinking about meeting him or having a relationship with him makes me sick not because of him…because of me and I regret registering to the site. I can’t imagine having feelings for him and I feel guilty because I think he is looking for something I cannot give him and he is really nice and I don’t want to hurt his feelings. The truth is that I don’t feel like dating, I don’t want to kiss anyvody nor to have a romantic relationship (sometimes I fantasize about it, but the minute there’s a chance that it could become reality I don’t feel comfortable about it anymore). I don’t want to have a relationship just because I feel desperate that I might never have anyone who’ll be interested in me. I don’t know if there’s a problem with me. There are times that I’m terrified because I’m getting older day by day and I fear that I might never have a partner and be single for the rest of my life. I would like to have kids so I don’t want to be alone forever… I have a feeling that I can’t shake…if I don’t want to do something and force myself to do it there’s a chance that I never want to try it again. But maybe I should force myself into a relationship…I really don’t know. P.s.: I’d like to appologize if my English wasn’t correct and thank you for your time and answer (age 20, from Hungary)

There are two sides of me. There’s the one thinking that I should have a relationship but the other side of me doesn’t want anything at all and by even thinking about being in a realitonship makes that side of me sick. Everybody telling me that I should have a relationship: “how can I say that I don’t want something if I haven’t even tried it?”

6Should statements

From a dad in Israel: Hi. We have noticed that our 4 year old daughter cries for every little thing, and seems to have trouble expressing here self verbally at home and kindergarten. For example: the other day at kindergarten she stood holding here cup in the kitchen, until the teacher noticed that she was just waiting there, instead of saying she wants a drink or she walked up to the teacher and showed here left over sandwich and wouldn’t tell the teacher she finished or wants to throw it away, the teacher had to ask here a few guessing questions to which she would nod to until she guessed the right one.

We have noticed that our 4 year old daughter cries for every little thing, and seems to have trouble expressing here self verbally at home and kindergarten.

7Overgeneralization

From a teen in the Netherlands: I feel so confused.Since I was 10, I have been an anxious person. I was bullied around that time, and I have always been made fun of. I feel like that never really affected me. Then, when I was 12, I remember feeling horrible sensations inside me. I don´t know if those feelings were sadness or anxiety, I just remember being in mere pain. Then, after I turned 13, those feelings were decreasing in intensity. I was definitely still anxious, but I guess I was used to it, so I really cannot remember my emotional experience at that time.

2No Distortion

I have been diagnosed with GAD, persistent depressive disorder, and executive functioning deficits. I’ve been in CBT for 2 and a half years, I’ve tried 9 medications (none have worked), I don’t trust mental health professionals because I’m afraid of what they (and my parents) will do to me if I tell the truth. I was abused by my mother from ages 6-11, I was sexually abused from ages 7-9. Everyone around me hates me, everyone thinks I’m crazy. I think I’m crazy. Nothing ever eases the pain, I cry multiple times a day. My executive functioning is terrible, I have stubborn depression and anxiety, but I think something else might be wrong with me. I suspect BPD because a lot of the things/thought processes I have/do are congruent with the symptoms. I guess I’ll never know though, because I’m too afraid to be honest with a doctor. I feel so empty, I can’t control myself. I have misused drugs, vandalized property, I’m failing 3 of my classes. I feel unstable, like I don’t have a set personality. (My therapist described this as “a weak sense of self”.)

I don’t trust mental health professionals because I’m afraid of what they (and my parents) will do to me if I tell the truth. Everyone around me hates me, everyone thinks I’m crazy. I think I’m crazy.

4Fortune-telling

I am a 17 year old High School student and I have felt this conflict my entire life, but only now can I ignore it no longer. I am a 17-year-old female high school student, and amidst all of the discussion about college and ‘finding the right fit,’ I have realized that the major internal problem I have is that I lack an identity, lack interests, lack emotions, and therefore have trouble with social interaction. I am hopelessly apathetic at heart, and I don’t know how to reconcile the true ‘me’ with the image others expect–that of a ‘normal’ person who has passions and desires. I care about nothing–not politics or current events, not my friends or family or other people, not sports or music or art. Outwardly, I am a high-achieving, well-rounded student. I do well in every subject and participate in a variety of extracurricular activities, some of which I hold leadership positions in. However, none of them truly interests me, and I only continue them to get into college. Nothing ‘outside’ school much concerns me either. The various problems of society don’t matter to me, even when I’m affected. Occasionally a particularly poignant tragedy or example will make feel like helping out, but on the whole, I am completely apathetic. The same goes for the social aspects of my life. My childhood, family, and friendships were and are normal, but I do not have emotional connections to anyone; if somebody ‘close’ to me died, I would only be concerned with how it would affect my own convenience. I don’t have any academic, athletic, or arts-related interests either, and I do not believe the problem is lack of exposure. The only things I like to do are things that make me forget my existence and consciousness–playing games or reading a book or watching television, but the appreciation I have for those things is completely aesthetic and surface-level.

I have realized that the major internal problem I have is that I lack an identity, lack interests, lack emotions, and therefore have trouble with social interaction. I am hopelessly apathetic at heart, and I don’t know how to reconcile the true ‘me’ with the image others expect–that of a ‘normal’ person who has passions and desires. I care about nothing–not politics or current events, not my friends or family or other people, not sports or music or art. Outwardly, I am a high-achieving, well-rounded student.Occasionally a particularly poignant tragedy or example will make feel like helping out, but on the whole, I am completely apathetic. The same goes for the social aspects of my life. My childhood, family, and friendships were and are normal, but I do not have emotional connections to anyone; if somebody ‘close’ to me died, I would only be concerned with how it would affect my own convenience. I don’t have any academic, athletic, or arts-related interests either, and I do not believe the problem is lack of exposure.

10Labeling

About a year ago to the month, I was in the midst of a very painful break-up during my senior year of college. I had been with my ex for 2 years, it was a very serious relationship, we lived together, and the split was entirely unexpected. In retrospect, the relationship was unhealthy… I changed/compromised myself a lot to try and appease my ex, to fit into his life, and I think I convinced myself that I was happy regardless.

2No Distortion

I’m 14 years old, and I think I might have depression, but I’m not sure. On and off for the past year, I’ve been not motivated, and whenever I try to get organized or “Get my life together” it only lasts a few days. Yesterday I fell asleep at 8pm without doing my homework and woke up at 8am. I still felt exhausted, and my mom let me stay home because she thought I was sick, or upset about something. I told her I don’t know why I’m sad, but she thinks I just don’t want to tell her. I pretend to be happy most of the time, but I mostly just have an empty feeling.

2No Distortion

I don’t know why, but people ignore me all the time. I try to be friendly at work or what very little social situations I might be in, but when I speak, they just look away. I could be walking down a hallway at work, say hello to someone, they look right at me and keep walking. It makes me feel like I could die inside.

I could be walking down a hallway at work, say hello to someone, they look right at me and keep walking. It makes me feel like I could die inside.

3Magnification

From a teen in the U.S.: Sometimes I feel like the world isn’t real or I’m not real, kinda like a dream. Family says I stare at nothing a lot, and I talk to myself from time to time, even arguments. I’ve been told my personality flip flops. Like I’m me at one point, but then I suddenly change to another person. I’ve never been abused but was bullied a lot until I snapped and blacked out. Apparently I beat someone up during my black out.

2No Distortion

I’ve been struggling with school. It’s been harder to cope with the stress of moving and having no friends. I feel like I can’t talk to my mother about this because she scares me when I bring up issues in school. Last quarter I had a 3.6 GPA, which is pretty good. So far it’s gotten worse. I have 2 d’s in algebra and English. Normally I’m an amazing English student but I’ve been struggling because of my teacher. She’s an awful teacher always talking about how she’s a published author and we should be perfect at everything. I’ve also been struggling due to the fact that I’ve moved to a place I hate. Everyone here does drugs and drinks. I don’t like that. I miss where I used to live. Life is getting me down. Anytime I read an article about depression I start crying for no reason. I’m worried about myself and my grades, please help!

I feel like I can’t talk to my mother about this because she scares me when I bring up issues in school. Anytime I read an article about depression I start crying for no reason.

1Emotional Reasoning

I don’t know what to do anymore, I avoid my thoughts and feelings by focusing on anything to keep my focus off of how I really feel. I know my actions are unhealthy, I know it is affecting my life negatively, but I am afraid. I can’t get anything done, I can’t focus on important things, because that makes me think about myself, which leads to me feeling worthless and hateful of myself. I have problems remembering things, and I think it is linked to my repression. I need help, but I don’t want my family knowing just how broken I really am, I don’t open up easily, I am not even sure if anyone notices how much pain I am in everyday. I want to scream it at them, but I fear how they would judge me. I also tend to put others before myself, and that is part of the problem here, they have their own issues, the last thing I want is them to focus resources on me, when I feel they would be better spent on almost anything else.

I can’t get anything done, I can’t focus on important things, because that makes me think about myself, which leads to me feeling worthless and hateful of myself. I want to scream it at them, but I fear how they would judge me.

0All-or-nothing thinking

This is all probably going to sound really strange, but I just really feel like something is not right. There is a blur in my life that I absolutely cannot remember. I can remember right before I started school, when I was 4 or 5. Then there is about 2 or 3 years that is completely lost. I have never though much about until here of late. It all centers around a place that me and my family stayed. It was a duplex and I don’t remember living there at all. I remember that house before that and the one after. The first memory I have of the house we lived in after the duplex is me and my older brother “exploring ourselves”. It was more then a “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine.” I feel so ashamed about that and cannot figure out for the life of me WHY we did that?? I can remember touching my stuffed animals in inappropriate places and even doing the same things with another girl that was my age. I started having sex at a very early age, around 12, and haven’t stopped since. In fact, that is really the only risk taking behavior I have ever really had. From somewhere, and I don’t know where, it has been imprinted on my mind that if you care someone, that’s how you show it. I have never had any other experiences with my brother since that very young age, but I know that we did it more then once. I am just wondering were all this was coming from. I recently started having dreams of my brother and me now. I know, it sounds sick, but I can’t help it. This is also something that we have never talked about since it happened. I have also been having like these flashbacks of this man that used to come to the house that I don’t remember living in. (I know he was there from what my brothers have told me) In the scenarios, I am a little girl, around 5,6 or 7. I am yelling for my daddy, (my parents were separated at the time we lived in this house also) and a man in a police uniform, tucking me into bed and telling me to quit yelling and the he loved me and putting his hand over my mouth. I started to investigate this man and he was arrested in 2001 for 7 counts of indecent liberties with a minor spanning from 1976 to 2001. The accusers were girls that he babysat for other women and his daughter. I am just wondering if maybe my mind has blocked out the span of those years for a reason. Is that possible?? Is that why me and brother were “exploring” each other?? It would in fact explain a lot of my behavior. I have anxiety issues now, but I to scared to see a therapist. I am getting married in May and I am scared that if this comes out, he will think differently of me because of what occurred with one of my brothers?? It is possible I am freaking out over nothing??

There is a blur in my life that I absolutely cannot remember. I can remember right before I started school, when I was 4 or 5. Then there is about 2 or 3 years that is completely lost. I have never though much about until here of late. It all centers around a place that me and my family stayed.I am just wondering if maybe my mind has blocked out the span of those years for a reason.

3Magnification

I have reoccurring dreams that my boyfriend ( 1 year ) is/has been gay. The Dream is me finding a photo of him and a other male standing around , looking happy. When i confront him about this male, he admits he use to have a relationship with this male before me and they used to live together. ( not a hidden relationship on his family was all aware of). He assures me that relationship is over and he is with me now. I want to underline the fact that he is not cheating on me in this dream.

He assures me that relationship is over and he is with me now. I want to underline the fact that he is not cheating on me in this dream.

1Emotional Reasoning

From the U.S.: Child (15) has urges to bite hand and twiddle fingers rapidly. Also lacks social communication skills towards other people aside from family. She’s not good at listening likes to do things and figure things out for herself. Also likes to jump and squeeze eyes and fists when excited. She likes to play though she is fifteen.

2No Distortion

From the U.S.: I have been married for almost 20 years. My wife constantly tells me I do not support her or validate her feelings, and in fact never have over the course of our marriage. This includes supporting her when she went back to school for several years with three children at home and I worked full time. I changed my work schedule to be home when she had class.

2No Distortion

From a young woman in Poland: I had a guy whom I work in one office (open space) with and we were in a relationship. I let him push me sexually and push my boundaries. He touched me and I told him no, I told him I am not ready, this is too soon that I feel bad about it and he did it again and again. He would rub my ladies parts and I enjoyed it, had an orgasm but did not feel okay with that I was sad I told him it was too soon and keep on telling him no in the future and then letting him touch me anyway. Then he told me that I only take and not give anything to him, I was not ready but felt bad about “using him” for pleasure so I let him have sex with me, I felt bad and he was pushing me until I pleased him.

I let him push me sexually and push my boundaries.

5Personalization

I have been depressed for over a year now, one cause of which I believe is loneliness; I have a small group of friends I regularly socialize with, I’m very intelligent — modest, I know — and have a wicked dark sense of humor, most people consider me to a be a joker and I can adapt to most people with relative ease despite my actual feelings towards them. However, I have no one that I’m close to, no best friend I can confide in and I’ve never had a girlfriend — nor even kissed a girl, of which is a source of considerable bemusement for me — and thus I find myself alone and contemplating a lot.

2No Distortion