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Lonely Saturday Avoidance

Another Saturday is here which is my fun only day however, I have no one to have fun with, and being by myself is not a viable option. In order to avoid the pain and suffering that comes with being alone on a Saturday, I plan to find medication that will help me sleep all day since I'm not able to do it on my own. Do you have any recommendations on what medication can keep someone asleep for an extended period of time, but will not become addictive, or cause excessive health risks.

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part3

lonely

this night

my mom came back home very dr\*nk and she had some bl\*od on her lips and was mad, i asked 'you ok' and she push me out lol, now she's asleep so i'm watching outer banks, its a serie on netflix.

['Not lonely']

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evaluation

lonely

i despise being gay

I don't know where i was going with this. It's kind of late anyway. I hate that im gay. I hate it with a burning passion. It makes me feel like an abomination unto all that is good, but that's not really a bother if I don't think about it. What hurts is that i can never have a boyfriend that im really involved with. My family would nigh disown me if i ever stooped to the level of dating a man, and im not in a stable situation while I get my PPL; if anything goes wrong I won't have anyone to fall back onto and my dream career prospect will go down the drain. i cope with this through uncomfortable online relationships. well, singular. I've only ever had one, im currently in it. he's really nice to me but he's disinterested and i can tell he doesn't care as much as i do and it makes me feel worthless. he tells me he loves me and he makes me so happy and yet when he doesn't want me i feel like discarded trash. the only notably positive emotions i ever feel come from him, and when he's not there i have nobody and nothing to turn to for my problems or to make me happy. it's spiraled into obsession and i think im going to ruin it, to scare him off or bore him or annoy him and I might just end it if he leaves me. im sorry for making you read all of this, strangers. please be okay for me

['Lack of community or social support', 'Other']

['Lack of community or social support', 'Other']

['Lack of community or social support', 'Other']

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part3

lonely

Hey!! Im a guy from the UK! Today is incredibly grey and gloomy and im finding myself being really bored!

So, thought id reach out and try and meet some fun new people. Im pretty chilled and dont mind where the conversation goes to be honest. I like a laugh, a serious chat but im also a good listener, so if you need a smile, rant or just wanna waste a few hours, then feel free to message :)

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exploration

lonely

I'd love to makes new friends but it's so hard for me

I'm 23 male from UK 🇬🇧 and I want to make new friends but I am really shy I'd love to have some great conversations with new and exciting people if you are interested give me a message 😊

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evaluation

lonely

18 autistic m from the uk looking for friends only

I have a ton of hobbies and other social media if you like those too Please dm me I have nothing to do everyday and I’m always alone

['Lack of friends']

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part3

lonely

16f feeling lonely and down lately

Does anyone want to talk? I’ve been feeling a bit down and want to talk to someone

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evaluation

lonely

I cant bond or connect with people

Im in my 20s/ male and even though i can make a few friends its always very superficial and shallow. I had a girl i grew up with but after not seeing her for a year we went on a holiday today. Thought its gonna be great but its dead end. Nothing to talk about anymore no connection everything lost. Not even with her and absolute nothing with other girls at all. I cant even talk via chat with them. Anyway i thought this will be a great time but it turned into a horrorshow. Wish i could go home on the spot. For the first time i understand that its not that i dont want contact (i often break up shallow friendships by ghosting) but that im living inside a heavy stone wall all alone. The other person stands outside but nothing she says go through either way - mine or hers. It gets blocked. I was never sad about being by myself but understanding youre alone even with people you like around you is heavy af. The worst thing to understand is that you are the problem and thats why you cant leave it somewhere Btw the girl also wants to go home now. Anyway damn man. It kinda hurts

['Lack of community or social support']

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evaluation

lonely

Finally broke free!

It was exactly yesterday that I finally embraced the fact that I’ll never have a boyfriend or husband, and it happened so naturally. I’ve been lying to myself for years trying to convince myself I was already stronger than this need but now I finally overcame it. As an ugly asexual girl, navigating the idea of being in a relationship or simply wanted was impossible, and it hurt a lot. I knew no man would be attracted to me and I wouldn’t let any man use me for sex, so my chances were basically 0. Yesterday I accepted all of this, but above all that my fantasy of a romantic and non-sexual boyfriend was totally crazy, that no man in this world can go without sex. Therefore, my fantasy completely disappeared, and whenever I accidentally slip out and dream again, I immediately snap back and focus on the truth. I’m so relieved! Finally free from years of hoping and dreaming! I can’t believe I was so weak lmao it’s so much better now

['Lack of romantic relationships']

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part3

lonely

Happy Friday

To everyone of you reading this, I hope you have a great evening and weekend. Be kind to folk and remember to keep your heads up as you are all amazing. Much love.

['Not lonely']

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part3

lonely

I love you 💕

I just wanted to tell this to someone . But I don't have a romantic interest so I guess I am saying it out loud here.

['Not lonely']

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exploration

lonely

51 M #Dallas - Need friends or 1 woman to have a real life

1st: don't bother to read if you can't follow the DBAA rule I am 51 single Man in Dallas and I'm seeking real friends to hang out, walking in nature hiking ect.

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships']

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part3

lonely

15f homeschooled and so lonely

i hate being home with just my family all day. i wanna get out and meet more people but dad’s super fuckin religious so im stuck at home

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

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exploration

lonely

I just need a hug

Hi, I’m 28F and I just wish I had a hug now I’m very lonely woman lately I’m feeling so depressed and down plus suicidal. Thank you for everyone.

['Lack of physical touch']

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part3

lonely

I am not happy to discover that I am a lesbian

I’ve been confused for so long but I think women are conditioned to want male attention and vice versa The thing is, it’s so lonely- the dating pool is so extremely small, women are way pickier than men and you go from having multiple people to speak to too not having anyone at all that is interested The sudden change in dynamics is very isolating and a lonely feeling to think it will be the same for the near future

['Lack of romantic relationships']

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part3

lonely

feeling scared bc of being lonely

i recently moved out from my parent's house and i feel like i'm going crazy. i feel so scared for some reason. everything feels scary. i have lived under my mom for so many years and now moving to a different city feels so lonely and scary. i haven't left home since the day i stepped in this city. i thought i'll be a lone wolf but idk why im so scared. i missing my moral support. i have no good relations with anyone rn. or the people that i used to think are good, doesn't feel the same back. idk why my head is filled with -ve thoughts. i just feel so scared being lonely. has anyone ever felt the same? how did you overcome it?

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part3

lonely

No one wants me :(

And that makes me sad. All my friends are in relationships now, and/or getting married. Lately they have "jokingly" reffered to me as the friend they can't imagine being in a relationship. I laughed and acted like I was ok with that, but it hurt. I feel like a background character in someone else's movie. People in general don't seem to hate me, but no matter how sociable I try to be i feel like they think of me as "another face" and not as an actual "option". Maybe I'm not cute enough, or not funny enough, or not interesting enough. Maybe I'm just not a good option compared to the other choices. Maybe I'm off-putting for some reason. The older I get the more hopeless it seems as the pool of single not-insane people steadily shrinks.

['Lack of romantic relationships']

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exploration

lonely

23M trying to find someone to connect with pls help

If ur serious about wanting a friend pls don’t be shy hit me up I’m a fast reply. A little bit of true about me is I don’t have many friends irl it’s been that way for a long time now is I’m kinda used to being alone but there’s nothing I want more than a true genuine connection with someone were we look after and support each other that’s all I want in my whole life I hate sounding so desperate but I don’t know what else to do. It’s beyond frustrating please reach out if you’re going through the same thing or something similar I promise I’m not a creep or anything just I’m just super lonely and depressed thanks for reading.

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part3

lonely

I miss my dog that passed and i don’t have anyone that can relate

it’s late and i can’t talk to any friends or family about it. i don’t know what to do. i’m isolated

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part3

lonely

[35/m] Slow work day, so I’ll be watching Discovery channel and everything shark related 🦈

Pretty much just as the post says. It’s going to be a slow day, but I have to sit at my desk and pretend to work! Would love to find a ‘coworker’ or friend to help pass the day by, and maybe other days! Short term friends aren’t ideal. Only message me if you know how to banter. The one word responses are overdone. Younger, older, it doesn’t matter! Just dm me!

['Not lonely']

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part3

lonely

How many of you're sure you'll die alone?

Drop down your experience, at least your story will be known and I'll not feel bad thinking "I'm the only one" So starting with me: I grew up with narcissistic parents and trauma made me develop trust issues therefore I couldn't connect with most people or trust them easily I always had trouble forming bonds and friendship so long story short I'm friendless and never had a partner and I doubt I ever will. Thanks

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evaluation

lonely

i really need someone caring to talk to

I am desolate -That means I don't have anybody, for the people who cant understand . I am seriously dying inside, it is killing from inside, to have no physical or emotional contact I think of being gone and I have the tools that i can use. But I still wish to umm have my final moment, being squeezed and told that i am something . something real, to someone. Inside, I'm screaming from this hurting torture. But outside, I'm silent. Inside, I'm drowning from the flood of my tears. But outside, I can't even cry.

['Lack of community or social support', 'Lack of physical touch']

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part3

lonely

Just need to talk

I can’t help but feel like a last resort, even to the people who are most important to me / people I go out of my way for often. I need a friend, or just someone to talk to for a while. Don’t dm if you’re gonna be a creep. Willing to listen if anyone needs to vent as well. (Not interested in flirting or anything nsfw) Thank you to anyone who reaches out

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part3

lonely

Let’s chat all the people who have no one im here for you! 18m Aussie

here to talk to anyone!!! 18m aussie My Names Nathan and yeah I’m just looking to talk to some new people and chill and maybe it can even become a friendship if we hit it off!! A bit about me I’m from Australia, I’m in my last year of high school, some of my hobbies include playing sports, reading, watching movies enjoying some good old history and yeah just being able to enjoy life!! Really hope I can meet lots of great people from different countries! I’m also of south Asian heritage!! So shout out to my asians and definitely dm me!! I’m down to talk!!! Looking forward to meet you all ✌️😀

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part3

lonely

(21m) I’ve never felt real romantic love and I’m starting to accept I never will.

People these days suck, I know exactly what kinda girl I want and I know how extremely rare and possibly non existent she is and it’s really starting to hurt. I know what I want shouldn’t be too much to ask for but apparently it is these days. It’s not just what I want but what I need, I can’t just settle for less, I know what i deserve. I know this sounds arrogant but I don’t care. And I know what you’re thinking… you probably think I’m fat, ugly and a shit person but not. I’m not the worst looking dude, somewhat fit and healthy and I’m definitely a good person.

['Lack of romantic relationships']

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part3

lonely

I need to cry, i need support, i feel lost.

My last post got deleted and it didn't tell me why, so I'm a bit fucked off now I'm having to rewrite this. The venting and offmychest subs also don't allow these vents funnily enough. I need help, I need a fucking human, I need to know I'm acknowledged. Recently I've been randomly sad alot, and I've randomly felt like a cry. For some reason, my family have slowly drifted away from me emotionally. It's actually really depressing, it feels so bleak and lonely, and really lost. I just don't know what to do. I don't have many friends either, so it's only them. Sometimes things can get too much for me, and I want to cry, I just want to sadly cry, and I try to say the words "I want to cry, I'm sad, I feel like a cry" whatever. But for some reason, it's always deemed as silly, or attention seeking or immature. No, it's none of those things, I'm a sad human being who needs help. I just need help I need the validation and acknowledgment to cry. The main problem is acknowledgment, it might sound morally wrong, but I need the acknowledgment to thrive, I'm sick of being alone, I think that's why. I'm not a bad person, I just need help. It feels like the more and more I try venting I dig myself into a bigger existential crisis purgatory hole, and i push everyone away, I need to cry, is anyone there. I hope someone's there. I always dream of having a male there to cuddle and cry to, should it be a dream, should that be a dream. Anyway half of this vent has been cut out to avoid unsolicited deletion. Thanks for reading if you did

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships', 'Lack of community or social support', 'Lack of physical touch']

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evaluation

lonely

Falling in love is the most stupidest thing I ever done.

My bf who I loved endlessly broke up with me. I fallen in love a few times but he was really special. I never loved anyone like I did him.He was very depressed and accepted that he won’t hold a job. I urged him to tell his therapist how he actually felt. I didn’t mind that he didn’t have anything. I loved and treated him the best I could. I took care of him made sure he had everything he needed. Dropped everything to be there for him. He was my everything. Suddenly he had been avoiding me a week prior but did. He got mad that I constantly was worried about him despite him telling me he wanted to off himself. He said I deserved better and he wasn’t going to allow me to worry about him. He said he was avoiding everyone and thats how it was going to be. He ended it after almost a year and I am devastated. He definitely lied about it. Refuses to tell me the truth simply says he’s “to far gone” and all I was is a “dream” and a “fantasy” he could never obtain in his state of mental health. He doesn’t want me anymore. He wants me to find someone “deserving” and I hate that reasoning. I feel like I’m worthless. Why would he leave me if his ex’s cheated, used him, or were abusive... and he never left them. I can’t stop thinking about why I wasn’t good enough. It was stupid I gave someone the chance to hurt me. I opened up and trusted him and I wish I never did. Being alone is better this pain and doubt is unbearable.

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evaluation

lonely

What do I even do?

I live where there's hardly anything to do at all. It seems everyone is only intested in being in their isolated little bubble. I'm considering college just for the chance to make friends but thats a long shot. All I do is sit inside and do nothing all day. I just want solutions I don't want a "Yeah me too buddy ahaha" shut the fuck up I REALLY don't wanna hear it. There are things that help knowing you aren't alone in your suffering but lonliness ironically feels like its even more of a kick to the stomache like..you reach for help but it's so ingrained into society to be isolated that there isn't an answer. I just want real third places. I can't afford therapy infact I'm hesitant to go back because how unhelpful they were and i got a random bill from them because insurance bullshit. I missed out on so much and will continue to till the day I die. What's the point?

['Lack of friends']

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part3

lonely

I'm turning 30

All my friends started avoiding me after I failed Med at 23, been completely lonely since then, can't cope, went into trauma relationship and work, my relationship with my mother got ruined because she kept insisting there's something wrong with me due to lack of life. Sent me into a spiral where I was targeted by some dude with a gun and lived under intimidation for 4 years. I finally managed to get into studies (had to dismantle the toxic gf) found an apartment, after a few months of the regular neighborhood toxicity the guy with a gun attacked my mom and we started talking alot about the incident. My nosey neighbor listened in on the conversations and pegged me as a "Rapist who's trying to rape and shoot her", got arrested and now have a restraining order in the place I want to live near the college. Needless to say it fucked up my studies and I have to repeat the year, I have rumors around me in college, zero friends and lost my job and apartment. Why do lonely people get fucked up the ass so hard? Haven't talked in that period for 2 years, and since I was starting to forget how to talk I even had to start practicing. I started talking nonsense to the guy who attacked my mom from the balcony until we kinda understood eachother (I don't think his kids need this stress). So any advice on how to make it in college next year? Apartment, friends to study with, good habits to keep sane when you don't talk for a week+?

['Lack of friends', 'Other']

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evaluation

lonely

Just lonely

Hi all, my first time posting. I guess I just have to let it out somewhere. I'm a 25 year old guy who moved to Dublin 6 years ago with my mother, looking for better opportunities. Wasted a lot of time not looking after myself, smoking weed and playing video games. Even though the rent is expensive, I have a good enough job and get by. It finally hit me how lonely I feel all the time and how much time I wasted on nothing. I guess I'm just looking for some wisdom on how to start. I know I should start going places and get out. Gym, clubs all that. I tried a couppple of times an had fun with some people, but never got close to calling someone a friend here. It still feels unrealistic when I'm on my own. If nothing, just looking for some like minded people to share my thoughts with. Thank you for reading.

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evaluation

lonely

How can I be pretty?

Please I really need help I just want to people to like me, I’ll do whatever it takes.

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exploration

lonely

47M, looking for long term friendship

Greetings, to those who are reading So, I  just turned another year older, another orbit around the sun.. and entering a new phase in life. I'm looking to meet interesting, witty people with a sense of humour (dark would be a bonus) who are seeking to forge a genuine lasting friendship. A sharp intellect and an ability to engage in a decent conversation is a must, if you're into one session chats then unfortunately we won’t be such a great fit.   I'm an easy-going chilled person into Sci-Fi/Fantasy/Anime tv shows and music. I love learning about new cultures and hearing about life experiences, it doesn't matter where in the world you're from. Nothing is off limit to talk about. I do respond to all messages and requests, if you're someone who ghosts people or a content seller then move along.   Please take the opportunity to get in touch (18 & over please). There's a lot more to me, but I'll save it for our chat.

['Not lonely']

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exploration

lonely

Advice?

I got with a girl I found on Hinge. I had never been with a girl before so I was obviously nervous, but she invited me to her place, and for a couple days I hung out. She took my virginity, but just hanging out with her was the happiest I've ever been. I saw her again after I went on a trip, and she had hickeys on her. I didn't get mad or anything because she said that we weren't dating but it was in the back of my mind. I spent four days with her. We watched fireworks and to me had a very intimate time with her. One of the nights we got drunk and she started crying on me. She never told me what for but I comforted her. The next day she dropped me off, and when I got home I had a feeling that I fucked up somehow. Flash to now and she won't even text me back. I had the happiest moments of my life and now I just feel ashamed of myself. I thought it was special at the time so I let her take my virginity. Now I just feel wasteful that my first time was with someone who genuinely doesn't care about me.

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evaluation

lonely

I can feel myself going towards an asexual route

I'm a 17m femboy, and turning 18 in 3days so I'm gonna be a birthday boy, but besides that I've been experiencing so many events left and right that have just been a roller-coaster, some relationships fall apart, and it just seems like no one even tries to care for anyone anymore, I feel left out, and alone, boyfriends I've had loved once abandoned me, cheated, and even just ghosted me, and for girls I have only ever been through one so I can't say for sure, I just lean gay because it feels like i could be understood, but I don't wanna ever judge women when I haven't even dated as many.. and honestly I feel that sooner or later I'm gonna become hollow on the inside till I just can't love no more Sorry for all this stupid ranting, it's a lot

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part3

lonely

Is there such thing as I soul

All I could ever think from sleepless terror as a child to numbly staring off in the dark is "it just ends". It's all generally random and it just ends. That there were and exist positive perspectives to adopt despite that realization but they never work because ultimately it's all cope....I'm missing something i can never delude myself I possess...I used to think I wish I felt anything living but I don't.

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evaluation

lonely

I always feel lonely

Not so long ago I went to another country visit my internet friends and for an event but I still somewhat felt alone most of the time and cried every night. I even got my first hug there but I don't know what to think about it. I'm always so lonely I cry every night and it hurt physically, it's making me go crazy. Even around my family, the more people the lonelier I feel. The only way for me to not feel lonely is to not talk to anyone at all but then I'll be truly alone. Why does it have to be this way ? It hurts so much no matter what and i can't stand it anymore

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evaluation

lonely

19M looking for someone

I'm 19M boy I don't look very well And maybe that's why I don't have a partner and stay alone all day and that's why I am looking for someone who is a little naughty like me 🙃 and Who knows Hindi because my English is not very well? 🤌🙂

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part3

lonely

insecure about my body

i’ve been extremely thin my entire life, but around 21/22, my body rly started to change and i gained weight. i’ve put on maybe 25-30 lbs. i’m closer to a size 8-10 now after being a 0-4 most of my life. i’m definitely not overweight and i do have a defined hourglass shape, but have gained some pudge in places i’m not used to (esp my belly; it’s not defined and flat anymore, it’s super soft and squishy now). sometimes i just feel so unattractive and worry that im less desirable in dating bc im not super thin anymore editing to add that im in recovery from my eating disorder, which is partly why i gained weight. i had anorexia majority of my life

['Not lonely']

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part3

lonely

Feeling suicidal. I need someone to talk to.

Feeling suicidal. I need someone to talk to. Please DM me directly… Apologize because I have no capacity to reach out to people first. And I also don’t have capacity to reply to every comments, explaining everything in public.

['Other']

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part3

lonely

F24 looking for friends.

Is it normal to date/live with someone and still feel lonely? I don't feel like breaking up, or cheating, but I really miss friends, someone to talk to about day-to-day things, to have a different opinion... I feel like it's not everything you can talk about without being judged at the right time. After years of being like this, living like this is overwhelming...this adds to the fact that I work from home, so I don't have any outside interaction, which is even more of a hindrance. I feel lost in my own mind.

['Lack of friends']

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part3

lonely

I feel like I'm going to die alone

I know a lot of you here feel the same thing so I guess I kinda just wanted to reach out and see if anyone has advice. (For context; I'm a young adult with both Autism and ADHD, as well as suspected BPD. So as you can imagine, sometimes I can be a little "intense" to deal with). I recently got abandoned by my last partner out of nowhere and it made me realize that looking back; all my relationships have been the same. Together for 6-7 months then abandoned because I'm "too much" or whatever. I'm really hurting because I feel like no one will ever truly love me for me, and I hear so many people say "yeah but you have friends and family" but it's just not the same. I want to have someone who's scared to lose me. Someone who will hold me close and say "you're the only one I want". But I feel it's never going to happen. Not to mention the fact I'm not exactly "attractive" and my mental health is not the best either. No matter what I do my mental state seems to be getting worse as well; medication, therapy, friends and even relationships don't help. I feel so stuck because the only thing I want in life is to have a lifelong partner; yk, the typical "getting married" and "having kids" thing?

['Lack of romantic relationships']

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part3

lonely

Tired of being alone -._-.

Countless times… I’ve been left behind countless times. I try to make new friends on discord, Facebook, instagram you name it I’ve been there!!! And when I do somehow get someone to chat with me I’ll be all nice and wanted to chat and it’s good. They respond back but after a while they just stopped responding and slowly fade away. This has happened countless times!! And I’m started to reach my limit. Why is it so hard just to find someone to just chat and hang out. I miss that and I’m tired of being alone, it’s hard when you have no one to game with, no one to chat with. All alone and bored. What have I done wrong? what do I need to do?

['Lack of friends']

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part3

lonely

29 Arab I'd like a good vent call

I'd love to have a good vent chat. It really helps me relax and unwind. Whether it's a deep conversation or just a fun, light-hearted talk, connecting with someone always puts me in a good mood. I can speak both English and Arabic fluently.

['Not lonely']

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part3

lonely

Idk what’s wrong with me

I’m depressed and I don’t know what to do

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Looking for consistent voice chats while working lonely

“Good morning, how are you doing?” this what I will send you every day, making sure you are doing well, then we can hang out the rest of the day together, talk about many random things, vent to each others, talk about the things we like and dislike, and what we find funny, then we would have inside jokes finally which means we became friends.  I am an artist looking to voice chat while I am working, which is from morning to afternoon in European times. So, it will be difficult to talk if you are from the US if you aren't a night owl or a morning person.  I'm seeking a long-term friend who is available for more frequent voice chats, someone who is easy-going and chill, can match my vibe and energy, being talkative, open-minded, and silly.  So when I'm not cracking jokes to make you laugh, I enjoy discussing anime; we can exchange recommendations. Additionally, topics like video games, technology, history, food, cooking, politics, or life in general are on the table. We can also share music recommendations, and joke around. Let's share our life stories, exchange experiences and viewpoints. Even if we run out of things to talk about, I'm good at coming up with random questions.

['Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of friends']

part3

lonely

If only..

Do you ever feel like you’ll never be good enough? That maybe if I was prettier, if my breasts were bigger, my stomach flatter, my ass fatter that then maybe I would be more desirable?

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

evaluation

lonely

I hate my life

As the title says, I hate my life. Not in a suicidal way at all, but in the way that I feel like I’ve wasted my life so far and I can’t do anything about it. I’m currently 16 and seeing everyone else my age enjoying their lives just honestly hurts. During this summer break I have also concluded that I have no friends seeing as I haven’t talked to anyone and no one has talked to me in any way. I hate reaching out to others because in all of my experiences it just feels like I’m making someone talk to me when they don’t want to.

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

part3

lonely

I'm tired of this life. I'm tired of complaining and being so negative. I'm tired of things not going my way.

Never had IRL friends (I guess I had 1, but didn't go out much at all, like enough to count on 1 hand, and idk, felt one-sided). Never had a job - I've applied to so many places but have only had 3 in-person interviews within the last 2 years, and haven't been accepted yet. I have no skills. Not any that I can turn into profit at least. I can never find people who I feel are right for me. And when I do, it's months of talking, then I get left. I just got left for being "too good" for them. Usually when they leave me, they find better. It hurts. I'm so awkward and shy. I try to be better, but idk, I don't like socializing. I'm someone that likes 1-on-1 conversations, and usually even then I'm shy. I just wanna make stuff. Idek what. Write movies or games or a world. I want to create something. I want my ideas to go to use. I want to change the world. I want to be surrounded by good people and vibes and environment. It's always the same loop in my life. I'm so lost idek what I'm saying.

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support']

evaluation

lonely

Want friends but doesn’t know how to talk to people

I wish it was easier to speak to people im always scared to go outside I haven’t had a single friend for 7 years I was bullied alot in school since the bullies are the reason why im in online classes which makes me more lonely since im only on a computer in school and not socializing,but tbh i never knew how to socialize I just want a friend I wanna cry everytime im in public cause im scared of people but i want to talk to people im tired of being alone everyday it just hurts

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

evaluation

lonely

18F lesbian and wanting love

I’m 18F and recently decided to accept I’m lesbian but I want to share my love and flirtation with someone so if you want to talk you can dm me

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

evaluation

lonely

whats the hardest part of being lonely?

^(Is it the fear of missing out, seeing other succeed more than you have, feeling empty, downtrodden, and even bitter, being bored and thinking you're worthless to everyone, or feeling rejected and isolated by society and people?)

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Does anyone want to talk?

I’ve been feeling a bit down and want to talk to someone

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Should i join the military

Pretty much the fucking title I'm tired of being completely alone I'm tired of the same shit everyday I'm tired of being a little bitch who can't talk to people and make shit awkward I'm tired of being a fucking loser tired of fucking thinking what could have been or what should have been I'm tired of being trapped in this shitty ass place fucking tired of being ugly and fucking skinny tired of having no one to talk and go on Instagram and people having good times and accomplishing shit tired of having fucking no body in my life fucking tired of everything man I don't even care. Finna join the military and get my money and work out and go to war or whatever the fuck the billionaires want just send me to school and give me a purpose and brotherhood fuck everybody I don't even have a job fucking asking for life advice on some important life decisions on reddit

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

part3

lonely

Struggled with loneliness but now I am feeling better and created a You Tube Channel

So I have been struggling with loneliness for as long as I can remember. I have been going through therapy and 12 step groups, EMDR, reddit forums, Youtube reading books about this. Lately I have just started feeling a lot better so I created a youtube channel.  The first channel people left some rude comments about my image and ascent. Some people had suggestions about my looks and maybe that's why I was lonely.. I was so hurt and felt even more rejected.  But my therapist convinced me not to give up. I recently started another new channel as I deleted the first one. Yes I use AI because of my first bad experience but I am just trying to tell my loneliness story and share steps and techniques that I learned during these last years. So I'm excited to introduce my new YouTube channel[ ~https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpRrmiJMiJo-3TyP7tLKyvA~](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpRrmiJMiJo-3TyP7tLKyvA) where I share my journey through depression, anxiety, a lonely marriage, and moving countries and I felt alone even when surrounded by people. I will be posting weekly videos. I have been grateful for the anonymous people who I could relate with. Thanks for watching. So far I have 4 videos [Feeling alone in a crowd](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVgKrtS9X0Y&t=14s), [How shyness caused my loneliness](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLETsoWEr9U&t=1s), [Feeling Isolated in a relationship](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L5ETsINqNqg) and [What do when you are lonel](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMFH6IJ-hJA)y. I hope they help someone like me.

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

part3

lonely

I don't have any friends

I don't have any friends. Even when try talking, the conversation becomes awkward or cringe-worthy. I feel like l'm an unwanted creature of the gods. I am poor at my academics because get frustrated about feeling lonely the day before exams, so can't study. It's not an excuse; everybody else has a study group, but I don't have anyone. My hostel room is empty, with only me in it.

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

evaluation

lonely

losing hope

I’m 28M never had a relationship, no friends, no social skills. I keep torturing myself by wondering how could anyone ever like me, I feel like I’m boring. I find myself dreaming of being in a healthy relationship but I feel like I lack the energy to make it happen. I can’t remember what it feels like to be loved. If I don’t keep my mind entertained I immediately feel an overwhelming sense of loneliness and I can’t control it. Social networks and dating apps just make things worse for me, it all feels fake.

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of friends','Lack of romantic relationships']

evaluation

lonely

21/M looking to make some new friends

Hey guys, I’m feeling a little lonely and looking to make some new long lasting friends. A little bit about me; I like video games (like way too much) and enjoy watching all types of movies and tv. I’m also really into music and podcasts. Two things I really enjoy geeking out about are Greek mythology and the ocean even though it scares the hell out of me. Really looking forward to meeting you all.

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

part3

lonely

No Childhood friends

Back in my hometown for a few weeks this summer. I look forward to seeing family but other than that I sadly do not have college, high school or even middle school friends I keep in close touch with. Sometimes I get a little bored and wish I had at least 2 close friends to go hangout with go see a movie, dinner, or even ice cream. My sister, who is probably a little more outgoing than me has so MANY gfs. She is the type of girl that actually has a girls’ group of maybe 8 or so friends PLUS friends outside of that group. A couple she has been close with for at least 15+ years. I’m a little jealous. I’m just as nice as she is and can hold a decent conversation. Why didn’t the people I met along the years never want to stay in touch? From my perspective I enjoyed spending time with them but it wasn’t reciprocated I guess. On occasion I’ll go on social media and see these girls I've known since I was little still friends with people they knew in grade school or high school and just roll my eyes to myself. Wish I had someone like that. Now I’ll try not to be bored the next few weeks perhaps go to the gym, parks, pool, see 1 friend I do know and keep in touch with and maybe just go get ice cream by myself or try a friend meeting app like Bumble bff. Can any of you all relate? How do you spend your time when you go back to your home city?  

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

part3

lonely

30 m single dad

Going through life like everyone else. I’m single and very alone if anyone wants to talk. I like music , concerts , baseball and Pokémon go.

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

exploration

lonely

Anyone had romantic success a long time ago and can't replicate it?

It seems there's people who never had it and people who have a lot of it or small amounts of time single but I want to hear more about people who had it once or twice but can't get it again for whatever reason It's just funny to me at this point. Idk if I should be thankful or what but it's definitely from. not lack of trying

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Can't stop crying

I just want one day where I'm okay. I don't even need to be happy I just want to stop being sad. I feel like I have to kill myself. Cutting myself doesn't work anymore. Getting wasted doesn't work anymore. I can't get out of this state I'm in. I'm just falling deeper into my depression.

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Lack of support, loneliness and plain bored 😕

Hii there! I'm Ashley. I feel lonely as I've got no friends to talk to about my gender fluidity and how it makes me feel very feminine. My pronouns are she/her and I'm a 24 y/o AMAB (which ik could deter some people). I'm looking to make a girly best friend (or date) who would take out time and be genuinely interested. (Psst.. Brownie points if you can encourage me to explore my feminine-side 😊💖) Thank you for your time! ✨

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

exploration

lonely

I will be going to a college that has a lot more girls than guys and I wanna just drop already

I am gonna transfer to a college that has 44,000 students. 64% of students are female and the rest male, so theres basically like twice the amount of girls. I feel so angry, scared, upset, and anxious. at my last college, i always see guys with really hot girls. but I was always rejected. I honestly wanna drop out and just forget about it. im a huge incel and dont even wanna be around girls anymore.

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

What helps you get through the day?

So I’m going through some hard times with my partner to the point where I’ve had to accept the changes her sexting another girl and lying about the extent and a lot of other stuff it was said to just be fantasy to full on relationship with emotional attachment and attraction it’s literally a long distance relationship. I love her but fuck it hurts to know the truth and only get lies from her or sugar coated info. So I’m too stupid to leave so my only option is just to go along with it and ignore it. It’s really hard to pretend I’m okay with it even tho she knows I’m not. She has already said if you’re going to be controlling I’m just going to leave. So I can’t object or have any opinions on it, I just have to keep my mouth shut and pretend to be happy while I’m just ignored and just get attention when she’s not messaging her or on TikTok with her, which is fucken rare. Again to stupid to leave so any advice on ways to either deal with it personally or anything I can do to numb the pain. I started to take long drives like 3 to 4 hours long now just driving listening to some good hard rock music, it really helps but I find if I’m home it’s just really hard. So any advise on what I can do while home to distract or actually work on my inner issues about the whole situation.

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Day 14

Watched a movie today in theatre with my best friend and came straight home. Watched suits and now sleeping Good night guys

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

exploration

lonely

Lonely in real life

Lately, I've been feeling lonely. Yesterday night, I was lying on the bed while daydreaming. I feel that nobody cares about me & accompany when I sad. My parents live in the out of city, but I can't tell everything about them because they're judgmental. My friends real life are so busy with their daily.

['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support']

['Lack of family contact','Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support']

exploration

lonely

Staring off so often reminds me of something

Consciously I'm always trying to hold on but it's more out of necessity and if it weren't for certain things I wouldnt be here at all. I'd be staring off...I recall a time I'd sleep for days and I can't say how long that was spending days doing literally nothing. But I miss those days bc they felt the most natural funny enough...empty and I should be staring off except I choose to be present...it's taking a toll on my mibd though. No matter how meaningful or reasonable it is to stay present simultaneously and without consciously trying, I'm not here at all

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

exploration

lonely

Can I Be Your Friend

hello and my name is Diontay and i don't judge anyboby because i looking for love too like you and trust im definite;y like here to judge

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

exploration

lonely

Do checks! Check if ur awake right now and 5 more times through out the day. Hold your hands up and look at them and repeat I’m awake for like 30 seconds. Then 4 more time everyday. One day ull lucid dream.

When u first wake up recall ur dreams and try to remember them throughout the day. Keep repeating until u lucid dream. 🙂 There’s a not so lonely world in there for us. Almost anything u can imagine u can do.

['Not lonely']

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

exploration

lonely

I need someone to talk to

20M, I want to do it so bad now. I was discharged from the psych ward and i’ve been planning on attempting to take my life again.

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Most people not liking me

Im alone because most people don't like me I feel. It could be because of my appearance or me being overweight I don't really know tbh.

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

['Other']

evaluation

lonely

Have You Ever Experienced ‘Sonder’? Share Your Story

"Sonder" is the realisation that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own, with their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It's a powerful reminder of the depth and richness of human life that we often overlook. Have you ever had a moment of sonder? Maybe you saw someone on the street and wondered about their life, or had a conversation with a stranger that made you realise how interconnected we all are. Share your stories of sonder here! Let's celebrate the diverse and intricate lives we all lead.

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

exploration

lonely

19m hey guys just looking for a quick chat to end the night ask me anything!

You can ask me about my day or about my family for all I care! It was my sisters birthday today so start with that lol anyway really would love if anyone dmed me really looking for someone to talk to

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

exploration

lonely

Looking for the same thing most of you guys are

I'm just looking for someone that won't drop me after a month or two. I'm a 34 year old guy, and it's hard for me to make friends, and seemingly harder to keep them. I like spooky stuff, my music, my movies, all that stuff. I also love animals and the occasional video game and book

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

exploration

lonely

DM if you feel lonely 😊

If you're feeling lonely and need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to send me a DM. Sometimes all it takes is a friendly conversation to brighten your day. Whether you want to vent, share a story, or just have a casual chat, I'm here to listen. Feel free to reach out anytime.

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

evaluation

lonely

People just need a solid guy and we are rare!

It’s hard to find genuine things 38 years old and goodloooking it’s actually harder than you think

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

exploration

lonely

Where to begin

I’m almost 26 and I’ve never been in a relationship, at all. Throughout school and uni I thought it was best to make getting good grades and graduation my priority. If I met someone along the way that was a bonus, despite how lonely it felt along the way. And now that I’ve graduated and got a job, I just don’t see myself meeting anyone. Covid obliterated the social side of university, apart from one really good friend the rest were purely academic relationships. I don’t like going to bars, and even if I did I’d probably get kicked out for being a creep trying to talk to people. I’ve tried doing the whole “just go to the gym, bro” fortune cookie crap most people tell you. I’ve tried dating apps only to have my self esteem annihilated from the lack of responses and ghosting. Try new hobbies they say, tons of hobbies yet most of them are populated by old men (not my cup of tea). I feel in a helpless state where genuinely it feels like I’m just destined to be on my own until I die. I just want to be with someone dammit.

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

['Lack of romantic relationships']

evaluation

lonely

roblox friends?

i have no friends irl. i have no friends in general. looking to start playing roblox again with some buddies hopefully. hoping this can be a distraction from life for me. context: F19 my roblox username is ninshain12

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

part3

lonely

5 people texted me happy birthday

Only 5. Actually 4 and one phone call. One of my sisters (out of 2) texted me, a friend that I last talked to like 2 years ago, and a couple of guys I play music with on occasion. My mother in law called me. My dad forgot and aside from Facebook (which I don't really care about but did get 20 happy birthday posts so I guess there's that?) I got no other birthday wishes. Makes me hate my god damn birthday and my inability to make friends even more.

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

exploration

lonely

M25 send me a dm lets be friends

If you got pics on your phone send them my way with why you took that pic or what the background of the pic is tryna make some conversation and friends hmu see ya in my dms

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Hey everybody. I'm 18 from germany and feel very lonely most of the time. Need friends

I'm in a waiting list for a place in therapy but I probably still have a long way ahead of me. Desperatly need someone to talk to. Especially long term I now this sounds weird but I would prefer girls to talk to. I don't have much experience in talking to girls and I thought maybe it would help to talk to them online. If you are interested I would be so happy if you would text me. See you soon

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

['Lack of friends']

evaluation

lonely

I was just talking about how I was gonna start tryn to learn to lucid dream again. And alrdy had a dream last night it was lucid by any means but it was really wild. I locked my dog up stairs on accident all night and he started barking in the morning but

But the dream I had was of him in the pool it was more vivid for sure and any how he was like sinking under the water. It did feel kinda real just wasn’t aware I was dreaming. It’s funny how out side noises can do that. Like him being trapped up stairs barking translated into my dream.

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

I wish I could tell you what's going on with my brain now

I remember being decent at it...anyway I honestly can't say anymore. I never thought I'd get to the point id literally start doing things and being completely ignorant to the reasons why but I have. I used to be of the opinion it was for personal entertainments sake but now losing the fact I laugh when do these things just leave me at a loss I think everything I do now is to metaphorically poke at myself to see if there's anything there but I don't think there is

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Extrovert looking for introverts to adopt or looking for a best friend ? :D if you are an extrovert you can reach out as well :D or play CS2 together ? ^^

Hey you, are you an introvert who doesn’t usually talk to people despite wanting too? if you are in need of a socially social person to talk to and make friends hmu :D and if you play CS2 or any pc games we can def play together :D I heard introverts don’t really make friends and just get adopted by an extrovert so let me be that guy in your life who saves you from unending loneliness and (hopefully) makes you happy by talking to you. My parents passed away so i try my best to not hurt each other and be there for them All I ask for in return is that you put effort and actually try to talk to me, I know it can be difficult and I don’t care if you’re not good/not sure what to say, as long as you want to speak and try your hardest I’ll be proud of you(and I’ll also tell you I’m proud if you want me too :)) Anyways if that at all sounds interesting, please message me with a moment in your life you’re brain has just shut down and caused something good or bad to happen. Looking forward to meeting you all :)

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Are there any girls that have a fetish for ugly guys?

No I'm not talking about that one time you or your friend dated a guy which your friends thought was unattractive. I'm talking talking about girls that are attracted to literally butt ugly guys. If yes how can you find these kind of girls?

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

lonely

Why does this happen to me almost everytime

Why does this thing happen to me . She messaged me 2 weeks ago , started chatting, we even played games while in a voice call . Everything was going great , but ig it was too good to be true . She removed me today , without any reason. How many times . I make posts , no one dms , and if one person does dm , they either ghost , block , after many days of talking .and when I dm ppl , mostly they ignore, because they get hundreds of dms per post. How many times should I cry myself to sleep . Just why .

['Not lonely']

['Lack of community or social support']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

exploration

lonely

20M here who wants to join a gc here on reddit?

The gc currently has 90 members and it is about chatting, having fun, making friends, and much much more!!!🥳 Everyone is welcome🫶🏼 no matter age/gender/nationality/religion/sexuality/etc. The only rule is keep it sfw, I think i speak for everyone when i say we don't wanna see ur 1 inch pp🤮send me a message if u want to be part of the gc and i'll check on my dm when i can!!!! (ALSO TRY UR BEST TO STAY ACTIVE!!!!!!👁️)

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

exploration

lonely

My wife destroyed every part of our life together.

This morning my commanding office pulled me from a training flight. To inform me of my wife's death. And got me on a flight back to North Carolina. Should arrive at my parents house in about 8 hours. A month ago I filed for divorce and changed duty stations and cut her completely out of my life. I didn't want to hear how this thing with her friend James was temporary and how our marriage would go back to normal after he passed. I am not suicidal or anything like that but I am profoundly saddened I keep thinking how 6 months ago we were happy and in love. And now she took her own life when I just didn't accept what she was doing for a friend who was dieing from cancer. I am riddled with self doubt and blaming myself for her actions. Thinking about everything and our parents had been friends for decades that is now dead in the water another victim of her delusion. I know these were all her choices but still feel guilty for her death. I don't know if hell is real or not but I hope James ends up there for what he has caused.

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

evaluation

offmychest

Boyfriend is a minute man

I want to start off by saying that I absolutely love and adore my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for over a year now and the sex is great but the man can’t last longer than 5 minutes with me. He gets very excited and just as I’m getting started-boom-he finishes. I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t really watch porn or masturbate often (to my knowledge). I’ve expressed to him that I’m never fully satisfied because it lasts so short. He’s gained some weight since we started dating as well so he can hardly gain the energy for a second round unless it’s a good night. He’s gone bike riding more and that has helped his stamina a bit but then it goes back to him finishing in under 5 minutes. I’m not saying I want a 3 hour fuck fest but it would be nice to enjoy a good 20 minute session with the one I love. Our quickest session? 45 seconds haha

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

offmychest

Dick cheese

One night I was sat watching tv with my ex in bed and out of no where he dragged his finger across the underneath of my nose just above the lip. In an instant I smelt the most repulsive stench l've ever whiffed in my life and I started throwing up off the bed like the girl from scary movie 2 Turned out 'as a prank' he scraped a big lump of smegma (dick cheese) from under his bell end and rubbed it under my nose because he thought it would be funny I’ve never really spoken to anyone about it until now

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

part3

offmychest

im so tired of people thinking my choice not to wear a bra is for their sexual gratification.

i understand that wearing bras is the norm in my country and seeing the real shape of a boob might elicit memories from the other times one has seen a boob like that. however I literally cant wear bras. at some point in high school I started getting really bad chest pain. i tried a bunch of different things bust realized it only ever happened when I had a bra on. i dint knkw why but I do know it almost never happens now when I don't wear bras. the chest pain comes back if I put anything remotely tight around my ribecage other sizes and materials do not change this. my situation is either extreme pain or no bra. i was embarrassed and ashamed for years! i would wear three shirts just to cover up the shape, it was way too much of a big deal over the natural shape of my body. I'm older now and I give less fucks so I just wear what I want like anyone else just with no bra, you know? but every once and a while I catch someone staring or I hear some retoric about women not wearing bras to show off and it just makes me so angry! I'm not showing off, I'm not looking for attention. being comfortable should not be a crime for women! and now that i work I've been to scared not to wear one, like I'm genuinely scared hr will talk to me and who knows if id lose respect from my co workers... ugh it just eats me up inside

['Not lonely']

['Not lonely']

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Update 2- My step dad beat me with a chair and got away with it.

(If you’re just reading this now I recommend reading the other 2 parts so everything makes sense) So I didn’t expect to be updating so soon. I’ve been trying to take a break from social media, but I checked my moms Facebook one last time anyways before I did. Jim left her on luci’s birthday. Now she keeps posting between 1-8 videos a day talking shit on him. Multiple of her sobbing, saying how dumb she is and to not be like her. In one video she even said about how she “gave up talking to her 22 year old (me) for him”. It’s hard hold back my “I told you so”s I also feel bad for the kids though. In some of the vids she has posted, she talks about how sad they are. Also for anyone wondering Jim moved back with his mommy again. And that whole side of the family is back to bashing my mom. (They kept posting supportive things when they got back together) Also I guess (according to my moms videos) he left because he didn’t want to apologize for being rude to mom and the kids. I still have her blocked. I feel bad for her at the same time but she needs to learn how to dig herself out of the hole she put herself in. She needs to stand on her own feet and learn to make better decisions.

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I HATE when my husband works from home

I cannot deal. Like leave me alone. He comes over and looks over my shoulder at my computer, asks me to proof read his emails, wants to give me play by play updates about what’s happening at work and I DO NOT care. Like please, please leaveeeeeee at least sometimes. This is absolutely suffocating and I can’t stand it. My job does not have an office. I don’t know if anyone can relate but being with your spouse or literally anyone all day and all night 7 days a week is terrible in my opinion.

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Houseguest etiquette

If you're visiting someone, especially if they have roommates that you don't know, make sure you don't leave bloody toilet paper on the seat of the main bathroom. I shouldn't have to find that and clean it up at 3am. I don't know you but I know I don't like you. Show some common decency and don't be disgusting. Oh and I think you broke the bottom step out to the backyard so now I have to worry about me or my dog falling on that. Thanks, go home soon

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[UPDATE] the girl I've (21m) been talking to admitted that she lied about her age. (Said19 but she's actually 15), i don't know what to do. I need help

Its been almost a month since the original post, and holy crap what a month its been. I almost got fucked up but i came here to say that im fine. Like i said in the previous post. I kept ignoring her, but then i get a message from her mom saying how dare i break her daughter's heart like that. Apparently she's so heartbroken and sad I made it very clear that her daughter f'ed and light to me about her age. And that im 21. You wanna know the twist? Her mom already knows, and she let her stay because that was better than how she used to just hook with random guy's I could stop myself from calling the police. Obviously every single freaking text message from her and her mom saved If not for those text messages i would probably be in jail, because lying about there age is not a defence. It was the most uncomfortable time of my life. Because even tho we didn't have sex I was asked questions about things like was there any groping or long make out, and did i make move often or was it her, the whole thing made me wanna throw up. I even heard and officer say she seemed to be dominant in the relationship or something like that i didn't hear it very well, but think good im fine. The girl is getting help for some undiagnosed mental problems that they found out she has. Her mom and dad i think are also getting punishment for allowing thos to happen to her, i just cut off myself from them completely as soon as i was done Probably not gonna think about dating for a while.

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Great day ended badly

Throwaway for what will be obvious reasons. So here I am, having a productive day at work and this girl I’ve had a flirty, but platonic relationship with starts texting me very forward stuff. As the conversation goes on, I went for a great workout. After hitting a PR, the girl asked me out on a date, which I’m obviously really excited for. To celebrate, I ordered myself some fried chicken and decided to take my dog on an extra walk. When we’re about 8 blocks from my apartment, I have to fart. No big deal, everything has gone my way today. I made sure no one is around and let it rip, which was, unfortunately, me shitting my pants. So the end to my Ice Cube day is me hobbling back to my apartment while crap streams down my legs. Still worth it though.

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People don’t know what they’re talking about sometimes

When you grow up with individuals who are highly toxic, you take on a toxic mindset. It’s only natural that this happens. However, not only do you do that, you also may even idolize these people. When you grow up around your uncles and aunts, you sometimes want to be like them. You take their advice, their “kindness” laced with judgement, their opinion on everything, etc. and hold it as the truth. You’re excited to visit their house and spend time with these individuals. Then, you get older. And you realize that they have no idea what they’re talking about. Maybe some of it is true, but a whole lot of it isn’t. You realize their negativity and their absolute ignorance. It seems like a form of betrayal. Like “you’ve been like this the entire time?” And “ you’ve been spouting these nonsense to me this ENTIRE time???”. These people then lose value. Your precious aunt and uncle are no longer the people you knew, they’re just people now. Unfortunately, I’ve lost a lot of respect for them. Note to self that may apply for other people: These people are not there for you, they will not be there for you, they are selfish individuals who are not your family. These people value wealth over others, and you will never be like them so long as you try to be the best person for this world.

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My emetophobia is just getting worse, and I’ll be on my own soon

So I have emetophobia, a fear of throwing up. I’m currently 22 and live with my aunt and my sister. But in a few months I’ll be living alone for the first time. I’m not really nervous about most parts of that transition except for being sick. This fear is one that I’ve had since childhood but it’s only gotten worse. Im terrified of throwing up, seeing or hearing other people throw up, talking about it etc. but im also terrified of getting sick myself even as much as a simple cold so i do everything in my power to prevent it. But every now and then I do get nauseous and all of a sudden im like a 5 year old. I’m calling for my aunt, crying and im just a mess. I also have r cpd which i believe is what causes part of this fear and it makes being sick 10x more uncomfortable. I just don’t know how im supposed to be on my own if I can’t even be sick without spiraling into a panic attack. I haven’t even thrown up in years, at least 10 ish years but I have scares all the time. So I know I will have these moments soon again and I don’t know how I’m going to combat them alone.

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Being rich sounds like the closest thing to heaven on earth

Yeah I can admit that my desires are purely hedonistic but that won’t change how I feel. The idea of being so rich that I can pick out any woman if I desire to sleep with her, the idea of traveling and seeing every corner of our big world. The comfort and the stress free life I’d live if I was rich. Anything and everything I want handed to me with or without me asking fuckkk mannnn that truly sounds like heaven to me. At least it’s better laying in my small as fuck bed with negative balance in my account trying to balance work and school at the same time, maybe I’m not destined to live such blissful life

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Tiers of life

I feel like in life you can very easily mess it up. Or just because of your background you can mess it up. Like with societal disadvantages. People don’t realize it but there is constant danger in our everyday lives. You could so easily run into financial ruin, illness, hit by a car. But we are safeguarded by society and it categorizes us. I think if you can handle more responsibility then you’re able to live more because you won’t end up dying.

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