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13fptbe | Medium rare | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:28:16 |
13fptbe | Flick my bean | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:33:56 |
13fptbe | Watch game and play game | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:51:14 |
13fptbe | Painting | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:17:46 |
13fpt6o | Birth | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:28:45 |
13fpt6o | The one that pops in my head is a bedroom door shutting in my house when there were no windows open and nobody near the door. It makes no sense | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:29:12 |
13fpsle | I thrive alone without being able to leave. Lockdown was a breeze, and I actually preferred it most of the time. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:26:32 |
13fpsle | That I too have demon, something I was unaware of before. Guess a lot of me time is also not good for health. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:30:55 |
13fpsle | People need to revolt against the government. But won’t. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:27:24 |
13fpseg | Smooth as a Kidney stone 🎉 | 0 | False | false | 4 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:31:51 |
13fpseg | Trash lmao | 0 | False | false | 3 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:25:36 |
13fpseg | Just about half way done. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:25:24 |
13fpseg | Some days I hate my job, some days it’s my last job… potentially gonna have a new owner tho, I only foresee shit getting worse | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:38:14 |
13fpseg | hardest year of my life honestly.
but everyone has their own problems. so we all just keep it pushing | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:33:50 |
13fpseg | i had a realization im pretty sure im bi not full gay… still shocking to me | 0 | False | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:01:57 |
13fpseg | Not where I want to be in life, but trying to improve little by little every day until I get there. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:48:22 |
13fpseg | This season is of character development, and I'm really craving filler episodes | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:52:55 |
13fpseg | Meh | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:57:47 |
13fpseg | just waiting for the next "big thing" to happen. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:03:27 |
13fpseg | “Our balls are this close 🤏 to the bandsaw.” | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:06:46 |
13fpseg | Pretty good actually. I started a 2nd job just to be able to travel more and it pays much better than expected. I'm down 10 lbs, only 7 more to go. I went on a great vacation a few months ago. It's been swell. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:20:03 |
13fpseg | It has been such a dark and rainy spring that it feels like the year only just started, while in reality it will soon be half over. I tend to hybernate in winter with serious SAD, so I just start to come out of my shell again. So it feels kind of wasted so far. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:25:04 |
13fpseg | As a New Zealander fuck where do I start, first the clouds pissed on us, then god sends a cyclone to try to blow us away, a fucking gas truck being exploded, bunch of prisoners breaking out and now more floods, and recently a kid (that my mother may or may not be connected to) died in caves. I guess you could say we have a very “wet” year | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:28:48 |
13fpseg | I left my husband and my quality of life has skyrocketed. I feel happy again and I couldn’t be more thankful | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:47:10 |
13fpseg | Eh. It killed my cat just before her 17th birthday, but other than that I guess it's been all right. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:51:28 |
13fpseg | I asked the girl I had a crush on out, she said yes, we have been together for a while now, and I am now trying to choose an outfit for tomorrow's date.
The presidental election of Türkiye is in less then 48 hours and I am very excited about it, hopefully Kılıçdaroğlu will win and we will start to live, not survive.
Also the Forbidden West DLC was a blast.
I obviously had a couple of lows too, for example the last weekend was the worst I have ever had because of a fight me and my girlfriend had, and it was one of those fights which you drift off the first argument and many other is constantly born to the point you do not remember why you started fighting in the first place. But, I am loving this year so far. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:04:27 |
13fpseg | I'm out of therapy, got a new job, going back to class... regaining my self-confidence. Life is pretty okay! | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:06:51 |
13fpseg | I took a leave of absence for health reasons (anorexia nervosa), started to work as a graphic designer, soon I will go to pass my driver's license, and, in principle, life goes on as usual. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:08:04 |
13fpseg | I lost weight by doing weights every morning, won silver in bocee tournament | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:09:32 |
13fpseg | So far this year has been all over the place. Up, down, sideways. 2nd half can only get better from here. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:11:42 |
13fpseg | It’s ok! Hopefully in a few months it will be great!!!! | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 23:00:39 |
13fpseg | Going way too damn fast | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 23:55:26 |
13fpseg | 2022 was f#cked up in terms of family (don't wanna talk about it) and 2023 is getting better in family terms, but stressful due to my gcse exams next week | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 02:19:51 |
13fps7r | You’re going to run into people like that everywhere. In larger organizations you have someone whose job it is to make the call, and you make the case to them. And in general you should allowed to disagree with coworkers but debate and arrive at a decision. Have to you tried explaining your reasoning to him? Will he simply not budge? If he won’t ever cooperate at all that’s a bigger issue and I would talk to my boss about it. | 0 | False | false | 35 | 5 | 2023-05-12 19:35:19 |
13fps7r | Who cares? You brought up your concerns, if they don’t want to take them into consideration, that’s on them. | 0 | False | false | 8 | 2 | 2023-05-12 19:55:15 |
13fps7r | I wouldn't freak out over that one issue. I point out issues so people know them, then let them decide.
If you've outgrown the job, then leave.
You won't make him change. | 0 | False | false | 6 | 1 | 2023-05-12 19:59:11 |
13fps7r | Something you will run into in this business is there are people with 11 years of experience and people with 1 year of experience 11 times.
What you are describing sounds to me like you are working with a Sr dev that has 1 year of experience 11 times. It is what it is.
What you are suggesting is a better solution. All you can do is present what you think is the best solution. You can’t make people above you make the decisions about implementing it. Take the mental win. When I was working as a contractor when we were told to do stupid things we would say “they pay us to put it in then they pay us to take it out”.
It sounds like you might have outgrown the company you are working for. You may want to start looking for a new gig. The best time to start looking for a new job is when you have a job that you can still stand. | 0 | False | false | 3 | 3 | 2023-05-12 22:16:09 |
13fps7r | A key skill is convincing people of your train kf thought in a way that they feel is their idea.
A good method is to privately in 1 2 1s question their choices and let them explain in such a way as to highlight issues and lead them down the right path and let them solve the problem in their head without making them look a fool to others.
It works miracles
It sounds like you're right from your story and probably are. I had a similar situation in my first job with a guy from the dawn of programming. He taught me loads and one dau a year in we got at odds on a problem. I was doing it the way he taught me but he was rejecting my designs on some wrong assumptions. We almost fell out but I was head strong and my results work3d and his didn't.
I ended up sitting with him in the office till 9 at night asking for questions on this methods and working through the problem line by line and being patient. Eventually I was proven right though with some optimisations from him to make our shares solution even better. He was grown up enough to apologise for doubting me and I was grown up enough to apologise for being short tempered with him.
Most stories won't end this way of course, it relies on people having their ego in check. | 0 | 1683931599.0 | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-13 01:39:47 |
13fps7r | It's a risk-reward spectrum. If the reward ain't worth it, I'll use Excel and VBA to generate a webpage. If the reward is there and it's worth the risk, fight like hell.
The question is what do you want to get out of your life and are these the people who will help you get there. | 0 | False | false | 3 | 1 | 2023-05-12 19:29:37 |
13fps7r | When there is a clear cut issue like this and person isn't someone that you can reasonably have a discussion, like this guy, you should create a paper trail, document the issue, and cover your butt. Write up a unit test or some more extensive test as you feel is appropriate to show the extent of the problem. Then write up a bug report or best practices report to detail why this is an issue. Then you have something you can put in front of him and other people so they understand why his choices are problematic. Then even if you're overridden you can show you did your due diligence and they were negligent and failed. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:42:29 |
13fps7r | Ultimately, not every hill is worth dying on. You may have to learn to pick your battles - if it's a real security issue or something that's definitely going to cause issues sooner rather than later, that's probably a battle worth fighting.
If it works but is suboptimal or inelegant, you have to ask yourself if it's worth fighting for, especially given the personalities at play. That being said, I don't know any developers who look at their code from > 6 months ago and say "That shit's beautiful, I wouldn't change a thing." Frequently, we just need to get stuff out the door as best as we possibly can.
You might also consider a more Socratic method if a person is sensitive to criticism. Ask a clarifying question instead of giving your opinion on why their idea is crap. "Hey, u/seniordevguy123, what would happen if that address string were used in this other place where it might not be canonical, do you think that would cause a problem?"
Navigating egos (including your own) is unfortunately a significant part of the job. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 1 | 2023-05-12 22:04:10 |
13fps7r | Theres a human element here, you should speak to the other developer and pitch to him as if he were your boss. do not go around him. Kiss up to him even. If he likes you he will make it known to the others in the office who have undoubtedly known him and his family for years. Be humble and respect his decisions if he doesnt want to spend time optimizing a small useless app.
This is something ive observed a lot of new grads miss out on. If you do this correctly it will play out to your benefit | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:51:06 |
13fps7r | I'm still stuck on the fact that a 5 person company can afford a whole employee to do HR with only three revenue generating employees reporting to the CEO. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 04:13:18 |
13fps7r | I wouldn't be surprised if the frustration in his voice is rooted in some insecurity about his experience level and ability. He's spent a lot of time in this one tiny company, which has probably limited his exposure to good ideas, evidently even fairly common things like how to write DRY code and how MVC should work.
Anyways, if it was me I'd try to calmly and rationally mention a few areas that could be refactored for better maintainability/extendability but try to not make it sound like an accusation. Frame it as paying down technical debt. It was written one way to get a working product but now you can refactor it to make it cleaner.
Do you think it's possible that the boss knows the code is kinda crap? I was in a similar company once. It was a saas product built by a lone wolf and his protege and it was an absolute ball of mud. The difference there is that they had left the company by that point. Our bosses would get kinda defensive about the shit code (even though they knew nothing about it) but eventually we got them to understand even if we had to use soft language with this like "they did this in a very unstandard way" or "there are well established patterns to handle this more effectively" or similar bullshit.
Anyways, to answer your question, you should be able to have a respectful debate with developers on your team, and management should be realistic about short comings in the existing code (though this one can be tough) | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 04:33:16 |
13fps7r | Don’t confront, just add it as an issue in your issue tracker. There it sits, nicely documented, no emotions involved.
Just follow industry-standard engineering processes on issue management. If your company doesn’t have such a process, propose one.
Lay the groundwork on standard engineering processes, or at least a subset of them, and then just follow team policy in a dispassionate way. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-13 04:57:05 |
13fps66 | All of my poetry. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:29:35 |
13fps2v | Don't make a habit out of it | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:58:41 |
13fps2v | I'm having beer tonight for the first time.
Cheers:) | 0 | False | true | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:24:51 |
13fps2v | Alcohol leads to bad things. | 0 | False | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:27:24 |
13fps2v | [deleted] | 0 | False | false | 1 | 1 | 2023-05-12 19:25:33 |
13fps2v | [deleted] | 0 | 1683913753.0 | false | 1 | 2 | 2023-05-12 19:26:11 |
13fps2v | Coors light is a good starter beer. Then try out the ales and ipas | 0 | False | false | 1 | 2 | 2023-05-12 19:26:43 |
13fps2v | hide those keys! | 0 | False | false | 1 | 3 | 2023-05-12 19:35:22 |
13fps2v | Work in some water every now and then. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:53:22 |
13fps2v | Eat first and pace yourself. ;) | 0 | False | false | 1 | 3 | 2023-05-12 19:55:11 |
13fps2v | Lower your expectations a lot. It doesn’t taste all that great. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 22:17:00 |
13fps2b | Fast food competitions, I still feel like I may have the dog in me. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:26:21 |
13fps2b | Saving the world *ahem* NY *ahem* in case of Alien invasion.
What do you mean “Wake up to reality?” | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:36:40 |
13fprlu | I don’t think he ever got caught | 0 | False | false | 5 | 1 | 2023-05-12 19:24:31 |
13fprlu | i don't give a single fuck about it and people who take it seriously to the point where they won't associate with certain star signs piss me the absolute fuck off. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 1 | 2023-05-12 19:25:01 |
13fprlu | It's Ted Cruz. | 0 | False | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:53:54 |
13fprlu | Bad guy. | 0 | False | false | 0 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:25:14 |
13fprlu | Great way to find out some girls age without asking her what her age is. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:27:08 |
13fprlu | Great movie | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:30:58 |
13fprlu | Neat to try to see the lines drawn between the constellations, but the stars that are so far away that it takes thousands or even millions of years for their light to reach us have no effect over who I am. I do believe that the season you are born in effects personality somewhat due to social constructs like birthdays and holidays and the rate at which they fall for people. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:39:27 |
13fprlu | I once found it inconceivable or at the very least a bit unlikely that the relative position of the planets and the stars could have a special deep significance or meaning that exclusively applies to only me, but I was given an assurance that these forecasts and predictions were all based on solid scientific documented evidence so I would have to be some kind of moron not to realize that every single one of them is absolutely true where were they? LIBRA!!! | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:11:01 |
13fprlu | Rock, paper, scissor? Who cares. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:29:35 |
13fprlu | Women love it ! They always ask first and when you tell them they always go " oh no " and make a face . What's the right answer ffs? | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 21:50:59 |
13fppr0 | Nothing. I don’t have a relationship with my mother. | 0 | False | false | 3 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:23:04 |
13fppr0 | I got her owl statues because she loves owls | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:22:57 |
13fppr0 | O shit o shit o shit | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:33:20 |
13fppr0 | A bouquet of flowers | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:24:50 |
13fppr0 | A necklace. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:42:46 |
13fppnr | Farmers | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:23:17 |
13fppnr | Heinz ketchup, sure they try but they always fail and just accept it's the best. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:28:17 |
13fppnr | WD-40 | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:38:54 |
13fppju | On the job experience is the best | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:26:18 |
13fppju | I'm no longer a young profession (early mid 30's with a senior level tech position), but I got my professional start by working full time through college and joining the military afterwards. I was the General Manager of a thriving small business while I was in school (this helped me graduate without any student loan debt, but it was a grind working full time through school). This provided me with a lot of resume bullet points that entry level positions are looking for.
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I tried a very brief stint in corporate America, post-grad, and I learned quickly that the cubicle life wasn't for me. Coming from a military family, I joined the Marine Corps where I spent four years developing leadership and analytics-adjacent skills to build a strong mid-level resume. After doing my four years, I got a mid-level analytics position, and I job hopped every two years or so after that, until I landed a senior-level, high salaried position. Currently love my company, and I have a great work-life balance.
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I hope this helps, and feel from to reach out with any additional questions. Good luck OP! | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:28:04 |
13fppim | Absolutely normal. Early 20s, when you're trying to figure it all out, is one of the most exhausting times in one's young life. The best thing you can do is find a hobby that excites you and a good support group of friends to blow off steam with. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. It eventually gets a lot better.
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Source: someone in their early mid-30's, that had a rough mid to late 20's. | 0 | False | false | 4 | 2 | 2023-05-12 19:29:33 |
13fppim | Yes it is normal. The way you shake it realize the only way to get where you want to go is to come to the truth that your feelings are often false, if not complete fabrications. You have to declare war on any feeling that prevents you from getting the things you want, being the person you want to be or else accept them and watch your life deteriorate into a lazy stupor of self gratification, short cuts, and settling for lower hanging fruit. | 0 | False | false | 3 | 3 | 2023-05-12 19:24:10 |
13fppim | its just ennui, you are starting to understand the world isnt a shiny new experience everyday for you, just mostly more of the same for the next 60 years | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:24:43 |
13fppim | A burntout is normal if you’re putting in the work — but if it’s just out of depression/sadness then that abnormal in your twenties | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:27:30 |
13fppim | Well I did speed | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:42:20 |
13fppim | is this post college? | 0 | False | false | 1 | 4 | 2023-05-12 19:49:12 |
13fppim | I was having a tough time with moderate-severe symptoms of depression caused by really long working hours. I’m doing better now, I think these things helped:
1. Acknowledge you need change
2. Speak with a mental health professional (in the UK this is free)
3. I did 8 sessions of cognitive behavioural therapy through this professional/nurse
4. Started attending weekly meet-ups with a board game group
5. Started taking daily walks | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:00:20 |
13fppim | It is, I would just walk away from whatever is making me feel burnout then I spend however doing the things I love then once I'm in the right headspace again I go back to what made me burnt out in the first place only this time I create a healthy routine to prevent me from burning out | 0 | False | false | 1 | 1 | 2023-05-12 23:32:08 |
13fppdw | My favorite (USA, USA!) dog breed is hands down the black lab. They are dependable, and if you every see one working in its element as a retriever on a waterfowl hunt, you would fall in love too.
My runner ups in order from favorite down:
Australian Shepard
German Shepard
Corgi
Great Pyrenees
Border Collie
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My least favorite dog breed is the pit bull.
I have nothing but bad experiences with these monsters. We have so many dog breeders with so many great breeds, these terrors should be outlawed. I don't want to hear anyone talk about, its all about nurture, not nature. Bull shit. Those dogs are a ticking time bomb. | 0 | False | false | 0 | 1 | 2023-05-12 19:35:34 |
13fppdw | All dogs are least fav. Cats are superior. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 2 | 2023-05-12 19:22:14 |
13fppdw | Akita. Attacked my parents dog. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 1 | 2023-05-12 19:24:12 |
13fppdw | Favourite- corgis.
Least favourite- chihuahuas. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:45:18 |
13fppdw | I like almost every dog but my least favorite are Chihuahua's | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:03:41 |
13fppdw | I love dogs a lot. All of them. Some breeds probably shouldn’t exist though, for their own sake. Some breeds have been altered into uncomfortable shapes and live short, painful lives. Especially the smaller dogs. I’ve had three that have died due to organ failure at generally young ages. Just sad to see. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 20:42:59 |
13fppa4 | Pink grapefruit. | 0 | False | false | 2 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:22:08 |
13fppa4 | Pepsi, could really go for one right about now too. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:22:07 |
13fppa4 | Mountain Dew. It’s like jet fuel. | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:22:37 |
13fppa4 | Coke | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:22:39 |
13fppa4 | I don't give a damn as long as it tastes good | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:23:16 |
13fppa4 | Cherry Vanilla Coke. Wish they’d bring it back already! | 0 | False | false | 1 | 3 | 2023-05-12 19:23:28 |
13fppa4 | Mt Dew Energy and Kickstart | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:25:08 |
13fppa4 | Obey your thirst!!!
😏 The Real Ones know | 0 | False | false | 1 | 0 | 2023-05-12 19:28:18 |