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talk with them . touch them , but not in an inappropriate way . laugh at almost all their jokes . help them . get involved . start seeing them outside of school . ask for their number or email address . dont ever tune them out . compliment them . have them over to your house for a study date . pull them aside and say i heard a rumor spreading that you like me . consider just passing a note to them saying that you like them . if you dont know them well and you are shy , have a friend tell them you like them . hang around them , with your friends , or alone . have a friend eavesdrop a bit on them when you leave the room , to see if the say anything about you when youre out of range .

how to hint in on someone that you like them

make sure you at least have some form of relationship , if its friends to best friends . friends is an excellent way to get to know someone without it being awkward . bump them gently in the hall , maybe accidentally slide your hand over theirs , etc . even if they are corny , people like it when someone enjoys their jokes . however , be careful about laughing too much it will make you appear false and it will get annoying . a small chuckle or giggle will do . if they ever need help with homework , schoolwork , or other problems , offer to help . dont just sit around . helping someone out forms a mental bond that is often mistaken as love . this is obviously a bit manipulative for you to know this while the other person doesnt , but it does work very well . still , if youd prefer not using manipulation to meet your goals , you could always drop this fact with the hey , did you know . method . not only would it hint towards your interest in an innocent , non - creepy way , but it would also form an opinion of you as a knowledgeable person . ask them if they play any sports . if so , what sports do they have any hobbies what music do they like ask them when and where their next game is . try planning a group party , with some of your friends and some of their friends . anything that will get you talking outside the school , go for it . when you do this , wait a little bit before emailing or calling them . when you do call or email , make it quick and not too awkward . pay attention to what this person says . people love when someone listens . if they get a haircut , say its wonderful . if they got a new shirt , say it looks nice . everyone loves compliments . but dont overdo it . dont dress in fancy clothing or play romantic music . for better results , ask if they want to stay for dinner . is that true tell me the truth , i wont be upset , this is sometimes good , sometimes bad . , that way , itll feel less awkward to you , and theyll know how you feel . youll find out more about them , and vice versa .

try different clothes . get to know your crush . dont be afraid to approach your crush . dont half dress or go all paris hilton . dont make it obvious that you like your crush . try not to tell anyone about your crush .

how to get your crush attracted to you

to make you look attractive , try new clothes that make you look cute or adorable . overall , wear clothes that make you feel pretty and comfortable . this helps more than you think . wear bright cute clothes if your crush is athletic or something related to that , if your crush is goth , you probably should wear darker clothes . find out what he likes maybe you both are interested in the same things . however , dont join all the same activities as him . that would make a guy feel like youre stalking him . how will he ever seem to be interested in you if he never sees you around strike up a conversation or invite him to join in an activity your participating in , or join the one hes doing . look decent and feel comfortable in what you wear . dont change your style to catch his attention . if you try step one , and it just doesnt feel right , then dont do it . after all , if it is just a crush , then it doesnt really matter , because chances are , you will eventually find another one . if someone asks how you feel about your crush say , heshes cool , i guess , not , omg heshes the hottest person around if you do , its going to get around , and soon everyone will know . when everyone is pressuring your crush it will make him feel uncomfortable , and his answer will probably be no .

be noticeable . be positive . be nice . be clean . be yourself . be confident . wear nice clothes . act like you dont care . be easy - going and approachable . let your crush see you with other guysgirls . talk to him or her , get to know him or her more . find common interests . be a good friend . create trust . give him or her space . flirt , afterwards .

how to get your crush to like you

the first thing youve got to do is make yourself the kind of person that people notice and want to be around this is the best way to get and keep your crushs attention . get up off the couch and start doing things with your life this will give you something to be proud about , something to talk about , and show others the full , complex person that you are . if heshe says that youre ugly , ask himher the truth somewhere private . you can volunteer , pick up a new hobby , join a club , get a job , or any number of other activities . everyone loves it when one of their friends has the same interests as them . just make sure to only join activities you want to join , and dont be forced to do something you dont want to . no one wants to deal with someone whos always complaining or who constantly says bad things about other people . instead of only seeing the bad things in life , bring out the good in everything and everyone around you . find the positive spin or lessons to be learned from bad situations . your crush will notice and feel much better about your positive personality . no one wants to date someone who might say bad things about them or be mean to them . show your crush  thats not you by being nice , not only to them but to everyone around you . help people , always have a kind word for someone who needs one , compliment people , and find other ways to be nice too . if they look bad , or you dont like their shoes , just tell them politely or just dont look at their clothes . for example , smile and be friendly and just be yourself around them take care of your body . this shows that you care about and value yourself , showing others that you are worth caring about and valuing . wear clean clothes with no holes or stains , wash your hair and body regularly , take good care of your skin and exercise as much as you can . your crush wont want to be around you if you dont look or smell nice . you want your crush to like you for who you are , so always be yourself . dont change yourself or try to be someone youre not . people can usually tell and youll only make yourself frustrated and sad . dont let a crush change who you are do the things that you enjoy and if anyone doesnt like it , then they arent worth your time . who knows maybe heshe likes it when you act like yourself everyone likes someone whos confident . this is a very attractive quality for boys and girls of course , you dont have to actually be confident . most people arent , even if they seem like they are . treat yourself well , dont constantly apologize to everyone , and get out there and do the things that make you you . some great clothes will certainly capture attention . wear clothes that fit the current fashions but also are flattering to your coloring and the shape of your body . you dont have to break the bank , either . try resale or thrift shops in trendy areas or nearby colleges or universities for stylish clothes on the cheap side . dont be clingy or desperate . this will make your crush think you have issues they really dont want to deal with . instead , put on an air of cool . if they dont seem like they want to talk to you , go talk to someone else . throw parties and dont invite them until the last minute . show them that you have your own life and that your world doesnt revolve around cataloging every time they so much as sneeze . you dont want to intimidate your crush . maybe they already like you but theyre worried youll blow them off or bite their head off if they try to talk to you or ask you out be friendly , dont over - react to things , and definitely dont act like a jerk if someone else that you dont like asks you out on a date . let them see you talking to and hanging out with other members of the gender you prefer to date . they need to see that you have other options and that you know you have other options . this will make you more desirable . of course , the best way to get their attention is to talk to them they might not even know you exist if youre too shy , so get out there and have a conversation with them . ask them about what theyre doing this weekend , or how their day went . ask them about things youre doing in school or their opinion on the latest football match . anything that gets the two of you talking is great . no one is going to fall head over heels for someone they dont know and that they know doesnt know them get to know your crush , beyond the absolute basics birthday , favorite color , etc and learn what really makes them tick . of course , the best way to do that is to communicate with them . find things you have in common . this will give you something to talk about but it will also give you something to bond over . youll be friends before you know it and a friendship is much easier to build on . you can compare interests , learn their interests just by paying attention , or you can explore the things they like . who knows , maybe youll find that you really like their taste the qualities of a good friend are also the qualities of a good boyfriend or girlfriend , so start by being a good friend so that your crush can see what they have to look forward to . they say that the person you date should be your best friend , so its probably a good idea to set the bar high , right you can be supportive when theyre feeling down , help them whenever you can , be fun and help them relax , make them laugh especially when theyre having a bad day , and generally be a good friend . there needs to be trust , in order for real romantic feelings to develop and stick around . never reveal a secret they tell you , dont generally go around telling people their business , and be someone that they can come to with their problems without having to worry about being laughed at or judged . give them the space to go out and do the things that they want to do . one fear that a lot of people have about dating is that the demand on their time and affection will mean that they wont be able to hang out with their friends or on their own as much , and that they wont get the time to do the things that they want to do . give your crush some space and alone time and theyll see that you value their happiness above your own . well , they need to know that you like them , dont they flirt with them and show them that you are definitely interested . this will tell them that they can return your feelings without having to worry as much about rejection . but dont flirt too much . maybe tell them to give them a reason to think about you , but not to early or they will just back away . if things dont work out , dont get discouraged . this doesnt mean you cant be friends . later on , that person may feel they , too , like you and finally hit things off . now , if things are going downhill once your relationship starts , talk to your crush about it . if you think you need a break , tell them . if they find out that you are being a little shaky , but you arent being honest about it , the relationship will come to a stop . breakups are the worst , so dont let that happen to you

take a deep breath . put a smile on your face . laugh . be hygienic . be friendly and warm . when youre ready . let the secret out

how to keep calm when around someone special

its the most simple reflex in the human body . when you take a deep breath , your body automatically relaxes . being relaxed is a good way to show your crush that youre a calm and relaxed person . everyone likes to hang around with someone whos cool as a cucumber . in through your nose , out through your mouth . unless the occasion is somber , put a smile on your face , like youre enjoying whats going on around you and are engaged in the conversation . if youre alone , a content look will suffice . this also makes you look relaxed . if your crush says something humorous , laugh . dont laugh at every word that comes out of hisher mouth , just when heshe cracks a joke or double entendre . this is a given . no one wants to be around someone who smells . take a bath or shower everyday , and wear deodorant . if youre a girl , wearing a little makeup is good , but not a necessity . in order to have a friend , be a friend . this almost always is the case . you want to befriend your crush , but at the same time try to avoid the friend - trap . this is where you get so close in a friendship , risking it for a relationship wouldnt be advisable . be close and hang out , but not too often , unless you know heshe likes you too . not to your friends , not on your facebook or myspace . to the girlguy you like . it may be awkward . but thats part of the magic

dont come on too strong but try to get his or her attention . be outgoing . show off . use your eyes . look and smell your best . start a conversation .

how to get your crush to like you for kids 1

if the boy or girl you have a crush on hasnt noticed you , you might be tempted to just tell them how you feel . if your crush hasnt taken notice of you yet though , this can be creepy . it can also lead them to take you for granted . dont stalk your crush . you will seem creepy to get your crush to notice you , youll definitely need to be around them sometimes . but , if it seems like youre following them all the time , this can also seem creepy . make sure when you are around your crush , you are busy with something . you want to look like you have a life of your own , not like youre just hanging around waiting for attention . when your crush is around , try to behave like the life of the party . laugh , talk to others , and be noisy but not irritating . you want to look like a happy person with an active social life . be approachable when your crush is around . a lot of people get tense trying to look calm and cool around their crush . instead of looking calm , they end up looking closed - off . try to avoid this and look like youre friendly and open to talking . look for an opportunity to show off something youre good at in front of crush . do you play an instrument well look for an opportunity to show off your talent when your crush is around are you good at baseball if you notice your crush is around , ask your friends to play catch . its good to look successful , but you dont want to look full of your self . you definitely dont want to look mean . so , show off what youre good at without putting other people down . sneak some peeks at your crush , but dont stare . you want to let your crush see youve noticed them , but dont just keep gazing at them to get their attention . you want to just glance at your crush , every once in a while , for less than a second . when you know your crush will be around , try to look your best . wear nice clothes , and keep your hair and nails neat and clean . you want to smell nice , too . keep your body clean . you might want to wear a little perfume or cologne so you have a distinctive smell . dont overdo it though . scientific studies show subtle smells are more attractive . in fact , many people find too much perfume very unpleasant . once youve caught your crushs eye , say hello . introduce yourself and find something to talk about .

if you like himher , make sure youre nice to them . be friends with this person . get him wanting you . be approachable . if he doesnt ask you to go see a movie , or go to the dance or whatever , ask him . if nothing works for that date , if he says yes , tell him all the details , and when youre getting ready for this event , dress appropriately . if he thinks that these are just two friends hanging out , try to show him , its not . try to not run out of things to say . after around 3 or so get togethers , when you get to know him , he gets to know you , its time to show your feelings . if he says i like you back , then yay , if he says he likes someone else , move on . say oh okay and check your watch or phone .

how to get your crush to like you junior high

a guy doesnt want to be with someone who complains , is angry , or is really mean towards them . try to be as nice as you can , but still be yourself . an example on how you can do this is letting him borrow a pencil or pen , holding the door for this person , and so on . but make sure you do this in general as well , or it will seem really obvious . start by saying good morning , and see you tomorrow and also try to sit near him in groups so you can tell jokes , and talk . if your locker is near his , drop the occasional compliment , joke or question . you could ask , hey , when do we have that social studies test or , nice shirt , i like that bandanimaltv show walk with your head high , one foot in front of the other , smile , and walk by him with a nice smelling perfume . wave at him from time to time , but dont be needy . flirt by teasing him a bit , stealing his pencil and playing with it , taking his glasses and trying them on , goof around and just have fun this person isnt another species , think of this person as a friend , so dont be awkward . if that dance is coming up , or a movie is coming out that you two might like , be approachable . if you really want to go to this dance , just talk to your friends when youre near him and be like i cant wait to see this movie . but i dont want to go alone , because then ill seem forever alone hahaha and laugh with your friends . this will open an option for him , and he can ask you . dont go up to him and say . want to come to the movie with me you can do that , but itll seem needy and kind of weird . when you guys are having a conversation , bring up that you saw a trailer for insert movie title here and it seems so interesting . say when its coming out , and you really want to go . and if he doesnt ask you then and there , be casual and continue talking . ask him . like stated before , dont just tell him straight up . while youre talking , just mention the thingy of choice and say that no one wants to come , and ask him . hey , you wanna come with me be casual . thats how you dont be needy . if you usually wear make up , wear it , if you dont , try to use just lip balm and a little mascara , these two can really make you so cute sit next to each other on the bus , or wherever youre using to get there , smile , and occasionally look at his lips . this will slightly drop the hint you like him . graze his hand a few times , and act like it was nothing , and just keep on walking . keep the conversation going during the moviedanceevent bring up would you rather questions , cool facts , and try not to be too weird . haha . if you two are alone , waiting for the bus , at a park , or a movie , somewhere a bit private , and comfortable , talk about your crushes . ask him if he likes someone . if he says no , then your chances are 5050 with that one . if he says yes , theres a bit more of a possibility that he likes you . then say that you yourself like someone . if they ask who , keep quiet and laughgiggle . say that if you tell them who their crush is , they tell yours . if its the other way around , he might think that you like someone else and just want to know who he likes . doing it that way will make it seem easier for him . i like you just say it . dont think about the bad stuff if you do say it , just think that youre in line for a roller coaster and have to say you want to ride it , thats it , just say you like him . flat out . you two can date now nice job my mom says i have to leave now , bye see you tomorrow and wave goodbye .

learn about your crush . find a common interest . spend time together . be positive .

how to get your crush to like you for kids 2

find out what your crush likes to do . ask them some question about their favorite activities . find out what kinds of music , books , or movies your crush enjoys . this can be great material for a conversation . everyone likes talking about their own interests . if you know any of your crushs friends , you can also ask them some questions about your crushs interests . sometimes , having the news that you are asking questions about your crush get back to them can have an added bonus . it can signal that you like them without coming out and saying it . hopefully , you and your crush like some of the same things . once youve found out what he or she likes , this should give you some ideas about things to talk about when you are together . it can also give you some ideas for things you might be able to do together . dont pretend to like things you dont like to impress your crush . this isnt being true to yourself . also , your crush will find out eventually that you dont actually like or know much about it . this can be embarrassing . for example , if you and your crush have the same favorite band , that can be great material for a conversation . but , if you hate a band and your crush asks you about them , just politely say that you dont like them much . then bring up something you do like . that way , you dont seem negative , but you arent pretending to be someone you arent . once youve had a chance to chat with your crush a little , look for some opportunities to spend time together . use your common interests as a way to do this . if you like to draw and your crush is in the art club , you can join too . if you both like baseball , see if your crush wants to go to a game . at first , its probably a good idea to try to spend time with your crush in a situation where other people are around . but once youve had a chance to get to know each other , try asking your crush to do something where it will just be the two of you . most people enjoy being around people who are positive . so , when youre spending time with your crush , try to be positive and happy . after all , hopefully being around this person makes you feel good . dont put yourself down . nobody likes a bragger , but at the same time , you shouldnt belittle yourself . if you want your crush to like you , you should show that you like yourself . if your crush gives you a compliment , say thanks dont complain too much . everyone has a hard day now and then and needs to blow off a little steam . mainly though , try to keep your conversations with your crush lighthearted and fun .

make eye contact . smile . be yourself . make contact .

how to get your crush to like you for kids 3

once you start spending time with your crush , you can start sending signals that you like him . this is another place you can let your eyes do the talking . at this point , you should start making eye contact with your crush for a couple of seconds , gazing , and then looking away . see if they do it back . dont keep eye contact for too long . it can be creepy . after you make eye contact with your crush , smile to yourself . dont make it a giant grin you dont want to seem too excited . but , a little smile lets your crush know youre happy theyre paying attention to you . however you decide to flirt with your crush , its important to be yourself . dont pretend to be someone else to please your crush . theyll never truly like you if they dont know the real you . also , dont try too hard on the flirting . dont over think it . giving your crush tons of compliments , laughing at every joke he or she makes , or constantly trying to bat your eyelashes or strike handsome poses will not seem genuine . no matter how stressful this is , try to to just be calm and be your real self . after youve gotten to know your crush , if he or she seems to react well to your flirting , try touching him or her in playful way . for example when your crush makes a joke , laugh , and lightly touch his or her arm or hand . another thing is to lightly punch him on the arm . if you are walking past your crush in a hallway or somewhere like that , try lightly brushing your shoulder against theirs . make it look accidental . lightly wiggle your fingers on your crushs hand or arm . stand close to your crush . but , dont make him or her feel uncomfortable . if they move away , respect their space . hold your crushs hand to lead him or her to places . when youre next to your crush , rub your fingers on his or her wrist to tickle it . give your crush a hug when saying hello or goodbye . if you think your crush is starting to like you back , kiss their cheek to see their reaction . however , if your crush hasnt shown signs of interest in you , do not try this . if they have shown signs of interest , take the risk and try it when you two are alone .

accept your feelings . breathe . focus on the positive . if youre hiding your feelings from your crush , you have a reason for doing so . avoid negative self - talk . when you have a negative thought , try to immediately replace it with a positive one .

how to hide your feelings from your crush for girls 1

you have a crush , which is normal and healthy , and youve decided you want to hide your feelings for now . understandable to hide your feelings , you need to stay calm around your crush . to beat your anxiety , you first need to accept that being around them might make you nervous . being nervous is a completely normal emotional reaction . dont fight or ignore the feeling . you dont need to feel angry at yourself or embarrassed about your nervousness . accepting it can help you control it . being around your crush can be really nerve - wracking . you might find yourself breathing very fast or holding your breath when theyre around . this is a normal reaction , but it can make you feel even more anxious . keeping your breath slow and regular is an easy way to calm yourself down . try a simple deep breathing exercise . inhale while counting to five , then exhale while counting to five . breathe in slowly through your nose , letting your stomach expand . then breathe out through your mouth while you contract your stomach muscles . maybe youre shy or just not ready yet . maybe your crush already has a significant other . whatever that reason is , dont allow it to affect you negatively . instead of worrying about things you cant control , focus on things that make you happy . whenever your crush enters your thoughts , try humming your favorite song or thinking back on a happy memory . call a friend or watch a funny video . it doesnt matter what you choose to focus on , as long as it brings you joy . some examples are your pet , the scent of a flower , the memory of your last birthday party , and other happy memories . for instance , you might think , hes much more popular than me . he would never like me back . try to immediately counter this with something positive . you could think , but im popular , too . i have lots of friends and other people have had crushes on me . maybe youre having thoughts like , i cant believe i have a crush on my best friends boyfriend . theyre going to figure it out and ill lose both of them . change that to , okay , so i think hes cute . big deal im not the first girl in the world to have this feeling . crushes are normal and this will pass . maybe youre surprised by who you have a crush on . maybe you thought you liked guys , but now you have a crush on a girl , or vice versa . this is not a bad thing you have no reason to feel shame or think about yourself negatively .

avoid too much eye contact . unfollow their social media accounts . limit your interactions . avoid unnecessary physical contact . it can be tempting to accidentally brush up against your crush .

how to hide your feelings from your crush for girls 2

the eyes can communicate a lot of things without you having to say a word . sometimes thats good a thing if you want to hide your feelings from a crush , however , eye contact probably isnt going to help . try to avoid excessive eye contact with that person , since it might give your feelings away . you dont have to avert your eyes from someones gaze all of the time . doing that may end up communicating something negative , like youre embarrassed or not confident in yourself . excessive eye contact is what you want to avoid . for instance , if you catch yourself staring , focus on something else . if you find yourself spending too much time scrolling through your crushs online profiles , consider unfollowing them twitter , instagram , and tumblr – at least temporarily . use facebooks privacy settings to block their updates from showing up in your feed . otherwise , you may end up liking too many of their posts and pictures , or leaving comments that will make your feelings for them obvious . doing this will also help you stop obsessing over your crush and prevent you from seeing things you dont want to see , like pictures of your crush with their significant other . you probably know exactly where your crush tends to hang out . always being around at those places might make your feelings very obvious to your crush . whenever possible , limit how much time you spend in those places . you may want to avoid them entirely , at least until the crush passes . you shouldnt feel like a place is off - limits to you forever because of crush , but if you truly want to hide your feelings from them , avoid their favorite hang - outs for a while . you might find yourself inventing reasons for the two of you to touch . dont worry , this is a normal thing to do however , touch is a very communicative thing . unnecessary physical contact might make your feelings for your crush very obvious . try to give them plenty of personal space . if you are always standing a little too close to them , your crush will start to pick up on that . they might even get uncomfortable . putting physical space between the two of you will help you keep your feelings private .

speak in a calm voice . have a few topics in mind to talk about . smile and act natural .

how to hide your feelings from your crush for girls 3

whenever you have to talk to your crush , keep your voice controlled and your tone normal . being nervous causes a lot of people to speed up their speech , so focus on talking slowly and evenly . keep your voice light and speak to them directly . if you need to , practice speaking calmly before you have to be around your crush . work on a calm tone of voice . being anxious when youre talking to someone can sometimes make you feel like your mind has gone blank . awkward silence might set in , which will definitely make your crush wonder whats going on . when you know youll have to talk to your crush , prepare a few topics ahead of time . have a few questions ready to ask your crush as well in case the conversation gets stalled . you could talk about things like shared classes , a new movie , music , extracurricular activities , or an upcoming school event . prepare questions like , so have you started your paper for history class yet and did you write down the homework from 3rd period smiling is an easy way to make you appear calmer and more confident to other people . if your crush is a friend that you have to be around fairly often , strive to act as normal as possible when youre together . stick to your usual topics of conversation and your typical activities . try to avoid nervous twitching and fiddling with things unnecessarily . stand up straight and keep your body language positive .

distract yourself . find a different way to express your emotions . repressing feelings for a crush can be really hard . try a new hobby . when youre busy learning something new and interesting , your crush might not seem like such a big deal anymore .

how to hide your feelings from your crush for girls 4

if your crush is around and you start feeling overwhelmed , force yourself to pay attention to something else . get out your class notes and study for an upcoming exam . read a book . talk to a friend . if youre in class , focus on your teachers lecture . if youre not in class , calltext a friend or play a game . even if you end up staring blankly at a page and not reading a word , it will still help you keep your feelings private and under control . if you find another outlet for your emotions , it can help you cope with them better . lots of people find that journaling helps them sort out their feelings . you could also try a creative activity , like painting or writing a song . physical activities can also help you deal with emotions . go for a run or try a new sport . trying something new will help you focus on something else . try to immerse yourself in things that will get you out of the house and around other people . when you find yourself thinking about your crush , actively engage your mind with something else .

first find out if the person you like is single or not . if they have never spoken to you before , its best to introduce yourself first , get to know the person just a little better before you get too worked up about them - you never know , you might dislike them once you know them better , show an interest in this person . talk to himher regularly . flirt with them but leave a sense of mystery , get to know his friends - but not too well , make an effort to talk about things he likes , and loves . lastly , be yourself

how to get someone to have a crush on you

if they are not single , and are currently in a relationship , its almost always not the best idea to pursue this person , unless you are certain they are unhappy in their relationship . otherwise , its best to just either move on , or wait it out until they split up . if you have spoken before , move on to the next step . its important that the person you are crushing on is introduced to you , before you start to get any idea of a romantic connection . a strong relationship has to be built on a foundation of trust , knowledge and affection you have built for them over the time you have got to know them . far too many teenagers nowadays jump into relationships that last a week because they barely know their boyfriendgirlfriend . if you want this to work , its worth spending a little bit of time getting to know this person . when you are around this person , give them all of your attention , dont text but say you are listening , dont file your nails but say you find them interesting , it will send mixed messages and any romantic relationship may not be possible if they think you arent interested in what they have to say . say hi in the corridors , smile at them from across the classroom , make them feel like you think they are important . everyone likes to feel like someone wants to communicate with them . when you are engaging in conversation , lean in , and touch their arm . just that little signal may leave them wondering what you feel . another important thing is when you are talking to them , and the conversation is just getting good , it may be a good time to stop talking . many people make a habit of continuing talking to someone until the conversation gets boring . wouldnt you rather the last thing your crush remembers of your talk is something fun and cool , instead of an awkward silence leave himher wanting more . its always good to get to know your crushes friends , guysgirls find it a huge relief when their crush gets along with their friends . dont make too good friends though , you dont want your crush to think you like hisher friends , heshe will totally go off of you . if you know he loves something , read up on it or surf the internet to get a better knowledge of it , then bring it up in conversation , people love when others make an effort for them . this is the biggest turn on there is . everyone likes to be around someone who is natural and down to earth . nobody likes a fake , uptight person .

smile . maintain good body language . dont be shy . befriend your crush . ask your crush questions . flirt . impress . stay patient . look your finest . ask out your crush . follow up after the date . continue to engage . remind your crush of your interest .

how to get your crush

smile often , especially if you have a bright smile or youve been told you have a great smile . when your crush says something funny , laugh , of course . just dont make it forced . introducing humor of your owninto a conversation is a great way to keep it positive and memorable , and helps keep those smiles flowing naturally . before you even speak to your crush , you can give off positive vibes by having good posture . also remember to maintain eye contact during the conversation , stay relaxed , and use hand gestures confidently . if youre too quiet , your crush might not have a reason to be attracted to you or worse , might not even notice you . this can be difficult if you are an introvert , or if you are naturally a shy person . with that , keep in mind that overcoming shyness doesnt necessarily mean talking a lot . it means speaking well and thoughtfully , and initiating conversation . its more about how you speak than how much you speak . there are a variety of good topics and ways to engage your crush in conversation . find topics to agree on or laugh about . this is a good principle of conversing with anyone find at least one area of common ground or interest in your conversation . you might even try not to end a conversation until youve found at least one source of agreement . stay current . mention recent movies , books , tv shows , articles , or other entertainment topics she might be familiar with . the more mainstream , the more likely she is to know your reference . this is particularly helpful when you have a lull in conversation . stay positive . think of things that pretty much everyone likes hobbies , pets , vacations , weekends , dessert , etc . not every one of these topics will apply , but one or two probably will , and the more general you are , the more likely you are to hit on commonality . then take the conversation more specific from there . avoid negative or sensitive topics . save your discussions of politics , religion , class , or race for another time . obviously , you dont want to mention a topic that could lead to disagreement or even an argument . so , its wise to avoid these subjects . if one comes up and you can see it heading in a bad direction , try diverting the topic with a laugh and something disarming like , yikes . i usually steer clear of that subject at a party . that was a close one . of course , before you land your crush you need to get to know her , and striking up a genuine friendship is an excellent way . a friendship will give you insight into her interests , making it easier to find and share common interests and activities . friendships also build trust , which is helpful when you get to the point of asking your crush out on a date . after all , no one wants to date someone shes suspicious or distrustful of . consider becoming facebook friends if your crush is digitally inclined , and occasionally liking a post or two . this keeps you on their radar , and it gives you a glimpse into your crushs interests as well . dont ditch your current friends . you dont want to be too socially available or not available enough . that means you still want to maintain your current friendships as theyve always been . maintaining friendships will keep you grounded regardless of what ultimately happens with your crush . on the flipside , you dont want to overdo it by being too socially aggressive with your crush . avoid stalking your crush on social media or obsessing over himher . think of the association with your crush as an early - stage friendship . one of the best ways to show interest is to ask specific questions about herself . you could ask about where shes from , family , work , hobbies , travels , or favorite things to do . keep questions specific and lively , but not too personal or private . at some point , youre going to have to begin casual flirting . if your crush does it first , great reciprocate . if not , youll have to initiate . physically , a light arm or shoulder touch during conversation often works . verbally , you can take your compliments up a level . for example , instead of saying she looks good , say shes beautiful . and remember to smile and stay confident . focus on yourself and your own success . scoring a big win at work or joining a gym or sports team can give you the sort of confidence boost that crushes find very attractive . theyll be able to sense the success , but you can also talk about it . light bragging is okay , as long as it doesnt sound arrogant , self - possessed , or obnoxious . landing love wont happen overnight . its a process that includes baby steps and small victories along the way returned smiles , returned texts , great conversations , and more . the flipside of this is you dont want to rush . you could turn your love interest off by moving too fast , or give her the wrong impression about your intentions . so be patient , and try to have fun with it . remember the basics hair , clothes , hygiene , and makeup , if you like . wear deodorant and light cologne or perfume . you dont want to overdo it or look like youre trying too hard , but you do want to look attractive . so , clean up well , find something nice to wear , and play to your strengths—be they hair , eyes , height , etc . remember , this is what youve been building toward a date with your crush . stay calm and make the date casual . chances are , if youve struck up a friendship—or even just a good conversation or two—youll have some idea already of what she likes to do and hence , what might be a good first date . ask directly and specifically . you could say , want to grab a drink one night after work or free to do coffee one day next week i can do tuesday or thursday . once she says yes , agree on a time and remember to get her phone number or email address , if you dont have it already , in case anything comes up the day of the date . you can offer yours as well . texting is a safe way of following up . if youve already had a phone call , then call and speak , instead , or leave a voicemail . youll usually want to follow up the next day , but you could follow up the same day with something along the lines of , did you make it home ok or i had a fun time tonight . talk again soon . goodnight by repeating the previous two steps , dating and following up on dates , you begin to establish a relationship . this is what getting your crush is all about . ask if she prefers texting or calling , and if shes open to calling , call . its a sign of a closer relationship . in the early days of a relationship , try to remain on her radar by speaking about every other day and moving toward daily . in person , your goal should be to do something together about once per week . having a sit - down or a big official talk about relationship status , or facebook relationship status , is scary and can backfire . worry about relationship status details if and when they come up . instead , remind your crush of your interest as if youre an official couple . i had a great time or youre so much fun to hang out with are meaningful statements that show interest , not obsession . give compliments . be real , and make your compliments about the things that you genuinely like about the person . also , since we are talking about a crush , the compliments can be suggestively romantic but not overtly romantic or sexual . for example , you might not want to compliment their physical characteristics directly , but you could say something like , you look great in that dress . contact your crush for no big reason . you might text or call for no reason other than just thinking about the other person . you can check in just to say hi , or to say that you saw something cool that reminded you of the other person . keep it light and thoughtful , and your crush is prone to be flattered . give thoughtful gifts . everyone loves gifts . just beware of coming on too strong with a big expensive gift . also beware of gifts that are too intimate or suggestive . instead , give thoughtful gifts based on her interests or your shared history . examples could be flowers , a small work of art , or a favorite food your partner mentioned . you might also think of a gift based on interest areas , such as sports , cooking , gardening , books , films , or music .

look your best . be around your crush . flirt with eye contact . build common interests with your crush . display positive body language when youre around your crush . slow down your speech when talking to your crush . flirt with the person you like . buy a gift . offer to do things for the person you like . ask for a date .

how to get the person you like to like you back

dressing nice with your hair styled is a great way to get noticed in a crowd . looking your best also provides level of confidence that helps you get noticed . when you know you will see your crush , pick a special outfit and take the extra time to style your hair . the more often you are around someone , the more likely they are to like you . this is a psychological effect called the proximity effect . find ways to frequently be in the same place as your crushcasually show up to your crushs workplace if it is somewhere the general public goes . attend sporting events or club meetings that your crush is a part of . hang out with mutual friends and attend social gatherings where youll see the person you like . eye contact is a quick and easy way to flirt and communicate with your crush . casually glance at your crush for a few seconds to pique the persons interest . when the person you like catches you glancing , lock eyes for a moment and then look away to smile to yourself . wait a few minutes and then repeat the glances towards the person . if you notice your crush looking at you while you are looking away , turn and lock eyes for a few seconds and smile . find out what interests and hobbies the person you like is into . make a point to start learning about or getting interested in a few of your crushs favorite past times . shared interests give you a common topic of conversation and the ability to bond over something . ask for tips or advice on beginning a new hobby . talk about current scores or events related to favorite teams . positive body language conveys a message of openness , friendliness , and approachability . try these ways to show positive body language the next time youre talking to your crush . stand with your body at an angle rather than head on . leave your arms down or with one hand on your hip . avoid crossing your arms because it sends a message of being closed off . use your hand to play with your hair or run your fingers through your hair . touch your crushs arm or shoulder gently while youre talking . brush up against the person you like and then lock eyes as you politely apologize . sometimes when people get nervous , they start talking faster . fast talking can make others feel uneasy and get a negative vibe from you , so be sure to talk slowly and calmly . flirting is the universal sign that someone is attracted to you . use different flirting techniques when you are around your crush to show you have an attraction and want to build some chemistry together . compliment your crush when youre talking . smile genuinely and laugh at the jokes your crush tells . get the person to talk about life by asking questions , and then validate the person by saying things like thats awesome and wow , that sounds hard , but i bet youre great at it . talk about topics that are attractive or interesting to the person you like . show your crush that you care by buying a gift . choose an inexpensive item like candy or an item that reminds you of a joke you share with your crush . take on extra responsibility to do things for your crush . go out of your way to make life easier by offering to help with homework , work assignments , or things around the house . take your crush somewhere to show how much fun the two of you can have . dinner , an active date , and a quiet wrap to the evening ensure that youll have a great date night .

acknowledge it . consider taking some time away from them . start looking around for new crushes . try to just be friends . if being just friends seems like it isnt working , or isnt something that could work , ask yourself if you want to be friends . take care of yourself . nurture your self - esteem .

how to get over a crush whose orientation doesnt match yours

you already know their orientation doesnt match , but spend a few minutes to really think about what this means . no matter how much you may want to , dont push this information to the back of your mind . it hurts , but its a pain youll have to tackle no matter what . there are two possibilities here the feelings will move on quicker , easier , and with less pain if you allow yourself to just be friends with them , or hanging out with them right now could just deepen the feelings . if hanging out with them only serves as a painful reminder that things cant work out between the two of you , then its best to reduce that stress by taking a break . if youre feeling brave , tell them about your crush , and explain that you need some time away to get over it . otherwise , make gentle excuses youre too busy , you have a huge project this month , youve been needed to help out at home more , et cetera . affirm that you still like them and want to hang out once things cool down , so that they know its not personal . you may feel like your current crush is the be - all - end - all right now , but they arent . there are thousands of people nearby who can like you back . it can be very difficult to find someone else who compares in your eyes , but it is a good thing to do , and a healthy possible part of moving on . if you arent straight , try looking for people of compatible orientations at pride events , lgbt clubs , dating websites , or gay bars if youre of drinking age . you have feelings for this person , and thats okay . just put them into a different direction than romance . if this person has qualities that you like in a friend , and you believe you can feel happy and comfortable around them , then the friendship is probably worth preserving . otherwise , its okay to let go of the relationship and move on . if you have a huge crush on this person , hanging out with them but not dating them may feel like torture . dont put yourself through agony just to keep clinging to an impossible relationship . you deserve better . dont say lets be friends if you arent actually satisfied with being friends . remember that you dont have to decide right away . during your time away , you can work through your feelings , and then figure it out . use this time to step back and re - evaluate ways you can improve your own life , instead of devoting all that mental capital to your crush . youll find a few distracting tasks to take care of , and youll be bettering your own situation at the same time . give yourself a mini - makeover even if youre a guy get organized . if its been awhile since youve cleaned out your closetcargaragebasement , get on it sorting through old junk can be a meditative process , and youll probably feel relaxed and accomplished when youre done . work out . exercise clears the mind — when youre so focused on pushing your body , you cant afford to worry about much else besides breathing and moving . rejection is rough , and sometimes its easy to forget that you arent less of a person for it . take care of your mental health so that you can feel good about yourself and move on . write two lists one list of things youre grateful for , and one list of things youre good at work , hobbies , social skills , etc . tape these lists to your wall where you can see them every day . practice positive self - talk . it sounds silly , but it really works . look at yourself in the mirror a few times a day , and say whatever it is that you need to hear . it might be youll find someone better or no one is worth all this moping or even just i am awesome . repeat it until you believe it . work on your hobbies and skills . sing a song , build a birdhouse , beat the tenth level , draw a picture , or whatever you love . then look at your work and recognize how cool it is . volunteer . clean up neighborhoods , teach underprivileged children , work at a soup kitchen , or help out online at websites like wikihow . doing good work will help you feel proud of yourself .

say hello . try to hang out with the person . get them talking about themselves . make him or her laugh . be nice to him or her . offer the person a compliment . ask if you can talk or hang out outside of school . imply youd like to hang out . express your feelings . know its okay to be embarrassed . talk about it with the person . ask if you can start kissing . kiss away .

how to get your crush to kiss you

if your crush doesnt know you exist , try introducing yourself . if youre in a class together , you can use that as an excuse to start talking to your crush . for instance , say you have history together . you could say , hi , im janie . were in history together . what did you think of that boring lesson mrs . johnson gave the other day or hi , im john . i sit across from you in math . i was wondering if i could borrow your notes for the last class . see if you can get the person to spend time with you . if youre able to hang out more , you may be able to make friends with the person . start with hanging out at school first . maybe you can eat lunch together or spend some time together in the library . one way to get to know a person is to let them talk about themselves . question them about their lives , such as asking them about their favorite color , their family , or their favorite books and movies . its important to listen to the answers , too . that is , pay attention to whats being said . one way you can show youre listening is by making comments on what the person is saying or asking related questions . one way to build a friendship is to laugh and have fun together . share a book of your favorite jokes with the person or giggle together over a silly picture . having fun together can bring you closer . lend the person your book when she asks . bring an extra cookie to school for him when you make some for yourself . offer to take down notes if shes going to be gone for the day . little kindnesses like these go a long way towards building friendship . compliments let the other person know that youve noticed his or her best qualities . plus , a compliment will make the person feel good , and he or she will associate those good feelings with you . dont just limit yourself to compliments about the persons appearance . for instance , maybe youve noticed how smart she is or that hes a sharp dresser . just make sure your compliment is sincere and tailored to the person youre addressing . for instance , you could say , you always seem to have the right answer in math class . you are so smart you can use an upcoming event as an excuse . maybe someones having a party or your school is throwing a big dance . consider asking your crush if you can go together . you could say , hey , did you see that dance the schools having it may be dumb , but i kind of want to go . do you want to go with me if youre too embarrassed to ask the person outright , try implying that you want to hang out . for instance , you could say that you really want to go see a new movie , which kind of encourages the other person to say he or she would like to see it , too . then you can suggest you see it together . tell the person that you like him or her . while it can be difficult to do , its the best way to gauge the persons feelings . in fact , its the easiest way to move the relationship forward . for instance , you could say , weve been hanging out for awhile , and i really enjoy being with you . i think im starting to like you as more than a friend . what are your thoughts on that be ready for rejection . that is , your friend may say that she doesnt see you that way . she has a right to her feelings . oftentimes , you can continue on with your friendship . other times , it may become too awkward . still , its important to ask if you want the person to be your boyfriend or girlfriend . everyone gets a little embarrassed when it comes to love and crushes . its okay to feel a bit shy when youre asking someone to hang out with you or be your boyfriend or girlfriend . if youre already together as a couple , kissing may seem like the next natural step . however , everyone moves at different speeds . while you may be ready for it , your boyfriend or girlfriend may not be ready . talk to him or her about how she feels about kissing . as an example , you could say , i like it when we hold hands . how do you feel about kissing me simply asking is the quickest way to move forward , plus it means you have consent . consent is just a fancy way of saying the person gives you permission to kiss him or her . basically , youre just asking the person if you can kiss him or her , or if youre trying to be kissed , youre giving the person permission to kiss you . for instance , you can say , can we kiss or would you like to kiss me you could also say , id like for you to kiss me , if youd like to . consent is especially important as you start wanting to get closer to another person . every person has a right to say what happens to his or her own body . in other words , if you just up and kiss someone , you havent given him a chance to say how much he wants to kiss you , and that yes is essential . maybe he isnt quite ready for kissing , so for now , he may say no . once you both have agreed to kissing , have fun . just be sure to talk again if you want to move on to something heavier .

be yourself . be realistic . look good . spend some time around your crush . help your crush . loan things or share things with your crush . make conversation . be nice and be kind at all times . flirt a little . compliment your crush . break the touch barrier . invite your crush somewhere in a group . work up the courage to ask your crush out .

how to get a middle school crush to like you

act the same way you do when your around your friends , dont act differently around them than the way you act around your crush . if you do , he or she will think youre being a fake . realize that you cannot make a person like you . you can be persuasive and encourage a person by being charming , friendly and happy in their presence but you cannot force their interest to focus solely on you . as such , its important to be realistic and accept that he or she may want to be just friends or wont even want that . however , that doesnt mean that you dont try . it means that you learn to read the signs and respect the decision they make , as hard as it may be if it doesnt go in your favor . dress nicely and neatly . show your flair by wearing things that represent your style . stay comfortable . there is no point looking good if youre suffering . jeans that are so skinny you can barely walk will elicit giggles in sports class , not awe - inspiring looks . do you both like the same things perhaps you play the same sport or do the same activity during lunch hour or after school make the most of things you both connect on . has your crush been having some troubles in a subject youre just ace at hop in and offer some advice , and some tutoring help . what a great way to get closer show him or her your generous side by offering things when in need , such as a forgotten pencil or lunch , or a listen to your newly downloaded hit song . talk about stuff that he or she wants to talk about . talk about stuff that you would like to talk about . ask your crush some fun questions , such as when is your birthday , what is your favorite color . little by little youll get to know her or him . there is no need to be rude or to show bad manners . act the same but with a little bit of flirting and feeling this time . when he or she makes a joke , laugh genuinely . when you see her or him in the hallway , make eye contact and perhaps offer a wink . when you both are staring at each other , dont worry if either of you blushes a little––that just shows you that youre both attracted to each other . dont offer too many compliments , just enough to make it clear that you dont mind noticing the good things about her or him . whenever you are sitting by him or her , angle your toes where he or she is sitting , then bump against your crush gently . gently brush away a hair from his or her shoulder or even face . gently hold her or his arm briefly . be a little touchy - feely without overdoing it . invite her or him to your house for a party or ask him or her to dance with you at a class party . keep your friends around and your crushs friends around at first , to keep it light . when you have the impression that he or she is interested in you , ask him or her for a date . that is , if he or she hasnt already asked you .

understand the risks . ask for a conversation . pick a neutral location . be honest . accept their response .

how to turn a friend into a lover 1

before you sit down to have a conversation with your friend about your relationship and where its going , understand the risks involved in asking to change your friendship into a romantic relationship . your friend could feel the same , but they might not . you need to prepare for your friend not to feel the way you do . when assessing the risks you should also decide how you will react to your friends potential response . if they do not return your feelings , are you willing to stay friends would you rather end the friendship make sure youre prepared for whatever reaction you get . once you feel fully prepared for whatever response you might get , ask your friend if you can have a serious conversation . you can say something like id really like to talk to you about something important regarding our friendship . is there a time and a day thats good for you you can also give them a heads up on whats coming by saying something like id like to discuss my feelings about you and our relationship . when would you be willing to have this conversation this is a sensitive conversation youll be having , so youll want to choose somewhere that you and your friend will have some privacy . if you are already friends , you might be comfortable having this conversation in one of your homes . dont pick a romantic spot in the hopes that it will sway your friends response . if the conversation doesnt go the way you want it to , being in a romantic restaurant can make things awkward . you could also choose a quiet corner of a coffee shop or a nice spot in a public park . depending on how the conversation goes , it might be best to have this conversation somewhere that you can both easily leave . when talking to your friend about your feelings , be honest and up front about how you feel and what you want for your relationship . you can say something like i know weve been friends for a long time , but ive been feeling like maybe theres something more between us . i am starting to care about you as more than a friend and i was wondering if youve felt that way , too . emphasize that you dont want to jeopardize your friendship but that your feelings are such that you felt the need to talk to them . when youre admitting feelings to someone else – especially someone that youve only had a platonic relationship with – its easy to feel very vulnerable and as if you deserve a certain response . keep in mind that your friend might not respond the way you want them to , and that you have to respect them enough to accept their response , whatever it is . if their response is that they dont return your feelings you can say something like i hear what youre saying and i respect your response . lets talk about where we want our relationship to go from here . this way your friend knows that youre not going to continue to pursue them romantically but that you want to maintain your friendship . if your friend returns your feelings and is also willing to pursue a romantic relationship you can say something like im really glad you feel the same where do we go from here this sets up an opportunity for you both to discuss how quickly - or slowly - you want to take your new relationship . if your friend asks for time to think about it , say something like i understand that this is a lot to think about and i am totally willing to give you some space to consider everything . then ask if you can make a plan to meet in a week or longer , or shorter - you can read how your friend is feeling better than anyone to discuss things again .

take the lead . demonstrate your feelings . flirt . do something new together .

how to turn a friend into a lover 2

if you have feelings for a friend , you can start changing the relationship by taking the lead in changing your behavior . so dont just wait around , expecting them to make the first move . initiate a conversation or ask your friend on a date . if you want to transform your friendship into something more , youll have to take the lead on changing that relationship . in a healthy friendship , people demonstrate that they care about one another in a lot of different ways , but if youre trying to move past friendship , youll have to demonstrate the fact that youre feeling new feelings . you can demonstrate your feelings by writing a note or a card , or buying your friend an unexpected gift with a note that says this reminded me of you . you can also just ask your friend what you can do to make them feel loved or appreciated . this indicates that youre looking for ways to take the relationship to the next level without having to have a direct conversation . one of the easiest ways to change your behavior and demonstrate to your friend that youd like something more is to flirt . compliment their clothes , or their hair , or the way they do something – sing , speak , play an instrument . tell them they look handsome or pretty . they should get the message pretty quickly that youre interested in being more than friends . you can say something like i really love the way that shirt looks on you - it brings out the color of your beautiful eyes . you can also say something like i could listen to you play guitar all day long . it melts my heart . if you want to change your behavior and change your relationship , you cant rely on the same things youve always done together . suggest a new restaurant – maybe something with candlelight – or pick a new spot for drinks . you can invite them to drinks by saying theres a new bar downtown - it seems like a sort of romantic place . i know its not what we usually do , but i thought we could change things up a bit . you can also invite them to do something you dont normally do , like going for a walk , by saying i was wondering you wanted to go for a walk with me . itll give us a chance to just talk and be alone .

initiate physical contact cautiously . take physical intimacy slow . dont overdo it . be patient .

how to turn a friend into a lover 3

most friends touch in some way , but if youre interested in more , you can start by slowly increasing – or changing – the type of physical contact you have . youre probably the best judge of what type of contact your friend will be comfortable with , and youll also know what level of physical contact already exists between you . try placing your head on their shoulder while you sit next to them . if they dont move away , or if they put an arm around you , this is probably a pretty good sign that theyre interested in more than friendship , too . if your friend tenses up or otherwise signals that they are not comfortable with increased contact , draw back immediately . aside from possibly ruining your friendship , unwanted physical contact is inappropriate . if things seem to be progressing well , there will probably come a point when you want to turn your friendship into a more physically intimate relationship . you should take transitioning from a friendship to a physically intimate relationship slowly . talk often about the level of intimacy you are both comfortable with and do so before you transition to a different level of intimacy . for example , you can say something like ive been feeling like id like to kiss you - is that okay respect their response . its also perfectly acceptable for you to be the one to slow things down , even if you initiated the change in relationship . you should demonstrate your feelings , but you also dont want to smother your friend with your attempts to take your relationship to the next level . strike a balance between being available and keeping your distance . being available and willing to do anything and everything your friend asks might make your friend like you , but it wont necessarily increase their desire for you . surprising your friend occasionally with thoughtful gestures but also occasionally limiting the amount of time you spend with them sets up the perfect balance of satisfaction and tension . in other words , its okay to play a little hard to get . a healthy romantic relationship takes time to develop , even if it doesnt start platonically . when youre trying to turn friendship into romance , it can really take time for that transformation to be complete . be patient .

see where your crushs eyes go when the person he may like walks into the room . see if your crush is more likely to be somewhere if the other person is there . see if your crush just naturally gravitates toward the person he may like . see if your crush preens around the person he may like . see if he tries to break the touch barrier with the person he may like . see if your crush tries to impress the person he may like . see if your crush talks about the person he may like—a lot . see if your crush starts to blush or looks embarrassed when the other person comes up . see if your crush gets nervous and starts stammering when the person he may like talks to him . see if your crush laughs extra hard at everything the person he may like says . see if your crush sounds more guarded around the person he may like . see if you can spot the chemistry when your crush talks to the person he may like . do some social media sleuthing . ask his friends . ask your friends . ask the person you think your crush likes whats going on . ask your crush .

how to find out if your crush likes someone else

the next time the person your crush likes walks into the room , watch his eyes without being too obvious . does he look at her like hes in a trance , with his pupils getting big , like hes getting excited for a big date does he look at her , look away , and try to slyly catch another glimpse of her again if this is the case , then chances are that he may really like the other girl . when youre in a group setting , try to see how many times he looks at her compared to how many times he looks at other girls without staring at him too much . watch his eyes when hes talking to his potential crush . does he stare into her eyes and look down and look back at her , or do his eyes keep darting around the room , like hes looking for something better to do if hes giving her all of his focus , then its more likely he likes her . think about it . if the person you think your crush may like is around , whether its at a party or at the mall , is he much more likely to hang out , too does he tend to stay in if the person you think he likes is busy or out of town if so , then it may be because your crush only want to be around if the person he likes is there , too . you can even test this out by asking your crush if hes going to so - and - sos party . if he seems hesitant but then you casually mention that his potential crush will be there and he lights up , then this may mean that he likes her . if youre in a group situation involving both your crush and the person he may like and they always just kind of end up next to each other , then your crush may really like that person . see if he sidles up to her , walks by her side , or just always finds a way to strategically make it over to where she is . if this is the case , then hes probably gravitating toward her because he likes her . of course , dont forget the possibility that these two may just be really good friends . to know the difference , look at their body language when theyre together . do they seem excited and nervous and concerned about how they look if so , then they may like each other . but if theyre totally relaxed and seem not too self - conscious , then they may just be friends . make sure that its your crush seeking out the person you think he likes and not the other way around . if your crush likes his potential crush , then youll see him trying to improve his appearance in her presence . hell be puffing up his chest , running his hands through his hair , adjusting his collar , smoothing out his shirts , and taking extra care with the way he looks . if he even looks in a mirror or a window to gauge his appearance before talking to his potential crush , then its likely that he likes her . he may also try to straighten his coat or inspect his clothes for stains . all of this means that hes a bit nervous and wants to make the best possible impression . watch your crush when he talks to his potential crush to see if hes always looking for ways to get closer to her , whether its to take a step toward her , sit so close across from her that their knees are touching , or to pull a thread off of her shoulder . if he even gently shoves her or pushes her , then this may be his way of flirting because he really likes her . watch his body language . does he turn his chest and shoulders in her direction , or away from her if he turns his body toward her , then he may have a crush . see if hes always trying to make physical contact , whether its to touch her earring or bracelet or to tap her shoulder . if your crush really likes his potential crush , then hell be looking for opportunities to look good in front of her . if you find him trying to show off whenever shes around , then this may mean that he really does have romantic feelings for her . this could mean telling loud , bombastic stories , pulling stunts like cannon - balling into a swimming pool , wearing his best clothes , or showing off his dance moves , juggling skills , ability to speak perfect french , or just going out of his way to stand out for her . when his potential crush leaves , see if he takes his personality down a notch . if he suddenly tries less hard when shes gone , its a sign that he really does like her . pay attention to how much he cares for his appearance when shes there and when shes not . if it always looks like he put twice as much time into his hair when she comes around , then thats telling you something . if your crush mentions the person you think he might like about ten times in the course of a five - minute conversation , then its likely that he has a crush on her . if he keeps mentioning things she said , finding tenuous ways to connect her to almost every topic , or even keeps talking about a conversation he had with her , then yeah , theres a good chance hes crushing on her . think about it youre probably looking for every excuse to talk about your crush too , arent you its likely he would do the same . see if he keeps mentioning what his potential crush thinks about certain topics . if he keeps saying , sarah thinks that… or sarah says… every other sentence , then he may value her opinion so much because he has a big crush on her . of course , its also possible that your crush wont mention his potential crush or bring her up very much at all . he may be so smitten that he can barely bring himself to say her name . however , you should look at his face or see what he says if someone else does bring up his potential crush if he starts stammering a lot , looks nervous , turns beet red , or avoids the topic , then he may have a crush on her too . you can always test this out by mentioning his potential crushs name in passing and seeing how he reacts . just make sure youre not being too obvious about it , though . observe your crush when his potential crush comes up . if he suddenly gets all flustered , starts tripping over his words , or even forgets what he was going to say as soon as his potential crush starts talking to him , then this may be a sign that he really likes her . see if he doesnt sound like himself , tries extra hard to be impressive , or just generally seems overwhelmed by her presence if he does , then this is a sign that he may in fact have a crush . of course , he may be able to talk to his crush without freaking out . but if he seems too cool or completely comfortable , then they may just be friends after all . if your crush laughs at everything his potential crush says , even if it really isnt all that funny , then this may be because he just likes her so much that hes inclined to think everything she says is funny . laughter is also a way to release some nervous energy , so if hes always laughing in her presence , it may also be because he likes her so much that it makes him nervous . notice how much your crush laughs when he talks to other people . unless his potential crush is truly hilarious , if you notice that he isnt nearly as responsive with others , then it really may be because he has a crush . another thing you may find is that your potential crush is extra guarded around the person that he likes . he may seem more reserved , more quiet , or less likely to tell his usual corny jokes when hes around the person he likes . this may be because hes really concerned about making a great impression and that hes less likely to fully be himself . if he seems to think before he speaks a bit more around his potential crush and to be more careful when he does talk , then this may be a sign that he really likes her . he may even try to act more tough or more capable when hes around her . while he may complain to you about his fight with his brother or his poor test grades , he may try to seem more perfect around the person he likes . of course , if your crush really likes his potential crush and actually gets to know her pretty well , then he may even begin opening up to her even more than he would to anyone else . but when they first talk to each other , its more likely that hell be more guarded than he would be around people he doesnt like romantically . it can be hard to pinpoint exactly what chemistry means , but it basically means a palpable feeling of energy and sexual tension thats in the air when your crush is talking to the other person he likes . if they seem nervous , excited , giggly , or just not quite themselves when they talk to each other , then you may be seeing some chemistry in action . see if your crush stumbles , acts more silly , or just seems much more excited to talk to his potential crush than he is to talk to anyone else . sometimes it can be hard to pick up on the fact that the chemistry youre seeing is only coming from one side of the equation . make sure that its not just the person your crush may potentially likes who is showing the signals . check out your crushs facebook page , twitter account , or other social media sites to see how often he interacts with his potential crush . if you find that hes commenting on or liking her pictures a lot , posting links on her wall to impress her , or interacting mostly with her while ignoring all of his other friends , then theres a chance that he really does have a crush on her . of course , he may be more subtle and may not interact with the girl he likes very much online , but you do have a chance of finding evidence that he likes his potential crush on social media . see if he likes or comments on her photos right after she posts them . this can be a sign that hes spending a lot of time on her profile . another way to find out whether your crush likes someone else is to ask his friends what they think . though this can be pretty risky because its likely that your question will get right back to your crush , if you really want to know but dont want to ask him , then this can be one approach to take . his friends may know the truth and theres a small chance they can even tell you whats really going on , so if you feel like youre out of options , this can be something to try . just know that , as soon as you ask his friends who he likes , theyll think that you have a crush on him—and theyd be right . your friends may see something that you dont quite see because they have an outsiders perspective on the situation . they may be able to tell you that its obvious that your crush does like the other girl , or they may tell you that its clear that those two are only friends and that youre being paranoid . tell your friends to be honest with you and make it clear that they wont be hurting your feelings by revealing the truth . if your friends dont know that you like your crush , try to be casual about it when you ask them . though chances are that they do know already—just make sure that they dont spill the beans . if youre really feeling bold and even know or are friends with the person whom you think your crush likes , then you can consider asking her what the situation is . you can try to be sneaky about it or even be honest and ask her if theres something going on between her and your crush if there is , then you dont want to interfere with it . she may tell you the truth , or she may say nothings going on when it is try to read her expressions and body language to get the real picture . if you dont really know or trust this person , however , you may not want to ask her yourself . see if you can find someone who knows her better to do some digging for you . if you really want to get some answers , then talk to your crush yourself . you dont have to reveal that you like him and all you have to do is casually ask whether or not he has a crush on so and so . if he says no and sounds like he means it , then you can try to pursue him . if he says no but seems super defensive or weirded out , then theres a chance hes not telling the truth . if he reveals that he does have a crush on someone else , try not to look so upset and get ready to move on . if you find out that your crush really does like someone else , dont be so hard on yourself . it has nothing to do with you people cant help who they like . youll be able to find someone who appreciates how amazing you are before you know it .

ask them casually . ask friends . ask your crushs friends .

how to find out where your crush lives 1

if you are already somewhat comfortable talking to your crush , it will be easiest just to ask them where they live . keep it light , and ask them in a way that isnt too obvious . try framing the question around yourself . say something like , oh , i live on first street what area of the city do you live in if you know they grew up in your city , you can ask , what area of town did you grow up in then follow up with , do you still live in the same place fit it into conversation . before you ask your crush where they live , start a fun conversation . use it to flirt and ask them other questions , too , like what kind of food and music they like . this will make asking for where they live just another fun question . it might help to talk to your crush over online chat or through text message . if you do this , youll be less nervous about starting a conversation . plus , if they tell you their address , youll have it in writing with no risk of forgetting . if any of your friends know your crush , first see if they know where your crush lives . see if you know anyone thats attended a birthday party at your crushs house or studied with them . if none of your friends have been to your crushs house , see if they have any friends that know your crush . if they do , they can ask their friends for you . that way , your crush wont know that youre trying to find out where they live . if none of your friends really know your crush , you might consider asking some of your crushs friends . first , pick one of their friends who seems like a nice and trustworthy person . it helps if this is at least an acquaintance of yours . dont pick their best friend , as this person is most likely to tell your crush that you asked where they lived . send them a quick text or message . say something like , hey i really like jessica , but im too nervous to tell her yet . i was just wanted to ask you where they lived thanks if you can , include your reason for wanting to know . for example , id really like to be able to mail her a card ask the person not to tell your crush that you asked .

dont play hard to get , if you want to start a conversation with your crush , but youre scared of approaching himher , you dont have to , be nice to your crush . try to be a mature person . if you dont have anything in common , find something , look nice . conversation is incredibly important . if youre in class talk to him about the lesson or something he would be interested in . if heshe is interested in you , you might notice them looking at you a lot , or staring . treat himher like you would treat a friend .

how to get along with your crush

it is one of the biggest mistakes you could make and there is nothing more sickening than to see a girl trying to act tough in front of a guy when theyre failing dismally . plus , most guys dont go for that they usually get the wrong impression , because if they like you back and you play hard to get , they may think you dont like them . start a conversation with a friend about something you know the crush is interested in if theyre around and speak louder than normal if necessary not too loud . if heshe joins in , thats great listen to what heshe says and keep talking normally . if heshe doesnt , casually turn around and ask himher , hey , dont you like , too treat himher like a person , not just a crush . treat himher like one of your friends if heshe needs a pen , offer to let himher borrow one of yours . if heshes looking tired or sick or sad , ask if heshe is okay or whats wrong . shellhell appreciate your kindness . laugh if you hear something funny , but laugh like a normal person . if you hear something stupid , but sort of funny , smile , but sort of roll your eyes as if to say how stupid . dont act ditzy or as if you cant do anything . be strong . be smart . and never , ever act dumb . do you have a band you like a lot make sure its not a boy band then mention the name of the group around your crush , talking about a great song they have or something . if shehe looks interested , ask if shehe wants to borrow the cd . things like that . be sure to look out for things that heshe likes you might have something you both love that you can talk about . dont go out of your way to look hot or sexy or stunningly beautiful just for him , but wear clothes that you like and that look good on you . wash your hair . take care of your skin . exercise . brush your teeth . dont wear anything too revealing , as he might get the wrong idea . when you get a haircut , ask the hairdresser to recommend a style that she thinks will work well for you . he might notice and say so try as hard as you can to be yourself . dont talk sweety - sweet or tough or anything . dont talk too much two sentences at a time unless youre telling a story or something that he looks very interested in hearing . try to make him laugh , but dont go overboard with jokes . let him talk . listen to what he has to say and ask him about it later . laugh at his jokes even if theyre not funny if you do a bad fake laugh smile . do not talk with your mouth full . then after he replies you can give your opinion and you could get into a good conversation . if youre afraid of talking to herhim just do it most likely heshe will like it , if heshe is in a conversation just join in . if he makes a move that shows something , he likes you . dont pretend heshe is an alien you cant talk to . theyre a person just like everyone else . they will think you are friends and gradually like you more if they dont already like you

use an invitation to get their address . find out their mode of transportation . sneak a peak at their drivers license . offer to pick them up .

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this is perfect if youre having a birthday soon . throw a party , and tell everyone that you want their addresses so that you can send fun paper invitations with all the party details . send a group message to all your party invites asking for their addresses . it will take the pressure off of asking your crush specifically . even if you dont have your crushs phone number , you can easily add them to a facebook group message . let everyone know they can send you their address in a personal message to keep it private . if your crush doesnt give you their address , this could be a sign that theyre not interested . get a friend to ask . if youre really nervous about asking for addresses , have a friend handle your party invites for you as your present . that way , they can get your crushs address , and it wont be awkward for you . if your crush doesnt drive their own car , whether they take the city bus , a school bus , or a train home from school could tell you what area they live in . ask a friend if theyve noticed how your crush leaves school . if you can , indirectly ask your crush how they get home . say something like , oh , do you take the bus if they dont , theyll probably tell you how they do get home . maybe follow up by asking how long it takes them to get home . if they take a city bus or train , you can look up the line to see what direction it goes . if youre both over 16 , ask to see their drivers license in a funny way . this works well if youve both just gotten your licenses . first , show them how embarrassing you think your picture is and tell them the story of your drivers test . bonus , this gives them a chance to tell you how cute they think you are . then , ask to see your crushs license . as you tease them for their picture , take a glance at their address . make a mental note to look it up later , or pretend you are texting and make a quick note in your phone . if you both have mutual friends or participate in the same extracurricular activities , see if they want to ride with you to a practice or group hangout . if they say yes , theyll have to give you their address so that youll know where to pick them up . take two friends . if youre not comfortable asking your crush if they want to carpool alone with you , frame your invite like this hey jessica my friends steve , ally , and i are carpooling to the event together tomorrow we have one extra seat . want to come with this works best with an event or practice that you already know your crush is planning to attend .

look at their locations . check a directory . look up your crushs parents .

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various social media applications allow you to tag your location , so theres a chance your crush might have tagged their home . look at instagram maps . instagram allows you to tag your location , so go to their profile and check their maps for the places theyve taken the most pictures . start with the selfies , as these are likely to have been taken at their home . check out their pictures . if you live in a smaller town , see if you notice any familiar landmarks . if your crush has a picture with their house in the background , look closely to see if you recognize it . see where theyve checked in . look at their facebook to see if they use apps like foursquare . this probably wont lead you to their address . however , by seeing the places they frequent , you might get an idea of the area of your city that they live in . school or church directories often list the contact information of their members . these may be digital or physical directories . look for them by their last name . this will make it easier to find out where your crush lives . use online and physical phone books . if you dont know the full names of your crushs parents , look on facebook . chances are that you kind find them by looking for people with the same last name as your crush in their friends list .

check the requirements for horse shows . start with a snaffle . measure the horses mouth . choose the ring shape . choose a mouthpiece . check the mouthpiece comfort .

how to choose a bit for a horse 1

most horse showing competitions forbid the use of certain bits . even if you do not attend events , obeying one of these lists is not a bad idea . these bits are generally forbidden due to the pain they cause the horse . a simple snaffle bit is a mild , popular option , that only applies the amount of pressure you pull . always begin with a snaffle , and try the stronger bits only if the horse is difficult to control . you can purchase measuring tools for this purpose , or you can place a wooden dowel in his mouth where the bit should sit . find a dowel that sticks out about half an inch 1 . 25 cm on either side this dowel is the appropriate width for your bit . for most horses , start with a 4–5 inch 10–13cm bit and switch as necessary . usually , a smaller horse has a smaller mouth and will need a smaller bit , and the reverse for larger horses . their are exceptions , however , as some breeds have unusually large or small heads . if you have access to a previous bit , allow it to hang straight and measure the mouthpiece . do not include the rings in the measurement . the outside of the snaffle consists of a ring on either side of the mouth . common options include d - rings , o - rings , and loose rings which are free to rotate in place . the best way to choose these is to try out several , to feel the difference in control and see how your horse reacts . make your decision based on your and your horses personal preference . if you cant try out the bit before buying , go with the popular d - ring . this tends to be less harsh than other bits . snaffle bits come with a variety of mouthpieces as well . a basic , jointed mouthpiece is a good option for most riders , but there are other options . here are a few factors to keep in mind rubber or plastic - coated mouthpieces are more mild than a bare metal bar . twisted wire mouthpieces are the most severe , and should only be used by experienced trainers . thinner mouthpieces are generally more likely to cut the horses mouth or cause pain . confirm that the mouthpiece is comfortable with the following tests make sure the rings or metal connections at the corners of the mouth do not pinch the horses lip tissue . if youre not sure , put the side of your finger next to that ringbar juncture . spin the ring and see if it pinches your own finger which is harder to pinch than soft tissue . the link in the middle of a broken mouth snaffle can pinch as well . if you have this type of bit , test this on the side of your finger as well . check whether the center of the bit hits the rugae ridges of the horses palate , or the roof of the mouth . this is often whats happening if the horse is restless or tosses its head a lot . in this case , switch to a french link mouthpiece , which lays flatter on the tongue and allows a larger range of motion .

start on the internet . move it to real life . get to know them better and remember things about them . open up a bit at a time to this person . integrate your friend groups and get to know his or her friends . hang out in group settings at first . dont get lost in the group hang out one - on - one occasionally . keep it simple . dont back down , allow them to think about it . prepare yourself for either response .

how to get someone to like you back for shy people

if you are serious about wanting to get to know this person , social media can help you out a bit . its okay to check them out online - - but choose one social media platform to reach out to them on . add the person you like on facebook or snapchat or follow them on instagram once they have added you back or accepted your request , say hi commenting is important because they probably get friend or follow requests from many people , and youll be able to distinguish yourself from them this way . bring attention to yourself in a low - key way by commenting on a recent picture something like , i like this or this looks cool a compliment is usually good , but dont think too hard . if its snap chat , send them a picture say hi or ask them whats up people appreciate other people who are interested in their lives , so make sure you genuinely care about this persons life . if you see the person you like every day or at least once a week , try to nod at them in the hallways or say good morning at work , or wherever you see them . start with these and slowly motivate yourself to talk to them more and more . for example , if you are in a certain class together , ask them what the homework is . if its monday , ask them how their weekend was . make sure you say it loud enough for them to hear and start by saying their name . this person might not recognize your voice or might think youre talking to someone else , so say their name before you start your conversation . start by asking one question , then try asking two next time , then three , etc . let the conversation flow naturally , and if it stops , be the one to end it . you could say , okay , thanks ill see you around or it was nice talking to you or whatever you see fit for your situation . if youre still really scared to talk to them at this point , dont freak out take your time and slowly , at your own pace , become more comfortable talking to them . smiling helps , too . if you talk to them often online and have the occasional real life chat , chances are you will get to know them a lot better . if they tell you the date of their birthday , send them a little happy birthday message or even tell them in real life if there is a gift you want to give them but youre too shy to do it face to face , leave it on their desk or in their locker - - or wherever else theyll find it - - in a secret admirer way . also , if they have an interest , try to remember and show your support for it . for example , if they have a sport they like or a team they follow , check the teams game schedule and ask the person what they thought of their teams last game . knowing that someone else pays attention to their likes and dislikes really strengthens the bond between people naturally . if there is an artist they like , you can ask them what their favorite songs are this person will appreciate how much you care about them as a person . the goal for this phase is to become more comfortable around this person you so greatly admire . part of that requires you to stretch a bit and tell them a bit about yourself casually in conversation . you dont have to tell them your deepest , darkest secrets , but answer questions honestly . if they like a certain type of music that you arent familiar with , be honest and let them know you havent heard of that band or artist . if there is a movie you absolutely find hilarious , tell them little spontaneous conversations about likes and dislikes is a really good way to know this person better and let them know who you are yay , youre slowly becoming more comfortable with this person as you become more comfortable with this person , your friends will want to know them , too introduce them or hang out with mutual friends . this doesnt necessarily mean your squads have to become a mass group of bffs or little group of bffs , but at least get to know his or her friends as individuals . this doesnt mean that you will - - or should - - know every last person that has ever talked to your crush , rather find people they are friends with that you can also relate to click to read this really cool article on how to make friends when you are not social . if there isnt anyone they are friends with who you connect with , that is okay , too . avoid using people to talk to this person or only interact with people to impress the person you like remember , you are friends with the person you like on your own terms . dont befriend their squad just so you can get to them , rather befriend them because you actually want to be friends with them . people are individuals and all deserve legitimate friends , remember . cut out the middleman if you want to watch a movie that you know the person you like wants to watch , feel free to grab a friend or two and invite them to do the same . the bigger the group the more comfortable you may be , but try to make it still intimate . inviting mutual friends who might be interested in the group activity is also key . look at you , hanging out with your crush you now have several mutual friends and have hung out with the person of your interest more than twice outside a professional or school setting . now you are less shy around them and can be yourself . time to challenge yourself again hang out one - on - one once in a while . find some things that the two of you have in common and do those things together . talk to them even when the group isnt together or even when theiryour other friends arent around . this will let them know subconsciously that you value them as an individual . this can also make them think , do i like them do they like me or do i just like hanging out with them having some insider jokes is a definite plus . dont worry , this will not make anything too obvious this will just get you both thinking about each other separated from the group . once you get a feeling of where they are at and if they like you back , then proceed to the third and last phase of this plan . be careful to avoid ditching your old friends or making the person you like ditch theirs . let friends know ahead of time when you are busy and make sure you still spend time with your pals whenever you can . if they are romantically involved with someone else , dont hang out one - on - one at all outside a professional setting i . e . work , school , etc . especially if you are the one initiating it . this might come across very wrong and actually end up being detrimental to your friendship . remember , if someone is in a relationship , respect that . as soon as they are back on the market , you have full dibs and can hang out together without causing any trouble . how awesome is it that youre now friends with the person you used to look at from a distance now its time to step out of your comfort zone one more time and tell himher how you feel . you dont have to do this face to face . give them a secret admirer - styled letter with a hint at the end that will undoubtedly point to you . you could even be forward and sign it if youre not going to do it face to face or during skype , face time , or any other video chat , dont text them your confession or tell them via social media . this may come across either as a joke to them or make you seem impersonal . it doesnt have to be a long , eloquent letter , either . use your own words and say what you think they should know if you choose to tell them in real life , keep it casual you dont need to disclose your late night internet stalking or how you think of them every night before you sleep so you can dream about them . you should , however , tell them that you think theyre cool and ask if they would want to try a romantic relationship . use your own words , of course , so that they know youre being genuine . each friendshiprelationship is different and there is no one way to tell someone you like them , but if you want to stay friends , either way , casual is the way to go . although , if you are the type of person who is extravagant or know that this person will appreciate a big and obvious gesture , feel free not to be casual at all get creative and do you . no matter if youre simple or elaborate in your confession , be true to who you are and be creative if this person is a good person , they will appreciate the time and effort you put into letting them know , whether they feel the same way or not . if you are serious about wanting this person to like you back or at least think of you romantically , sooner or later you will need to let them know . of course , make sure you feel ready and are at a place where you can speak comfortably with this person . just let your potential future bae know you are interested in getting to know them romantically . this confession can be as simple or elaborate as you feel . dont over - think this or be afraid you did not come this far to give up now be honest but dont feel as if you have to spill it all . remember that they are your friend and let some of that stress roll off your back . dont put any pressure on them for an immediate response . leave it somewhat open - ended so that they also have time to get themselves together . your friend will be glad you didnt ambush them or make them feel like they had to say yes or no . if they say yes , the feelings are mutual . you overcame your shyness and told the object of your desire how you felt . you should be proud of you for getting through that now is your chance to prove to them that you are the perfect boygirlfriend for them , which will be easy since you were friends first . no , they would rather stay friends or dont feel the same way , have no fear . you can try again later or simply move on . someone else will come along , believe it or not , and you will find love again hey , at least you can cross that off your bucket list . you should still be very proud of yourself for breaking out of your shell . make sure you dont let this stop you from trying again . if they ask you out before you do or tell you they like you first , dont hold back let them know that you have liked them for a while , too this doesnt mean everything will be perfect and easy from now on , but the hardest part is over . enjoy your relationship and remember to stay friends with them even in your newfound love .

decide whether a stronger bit is appropriate . consider your own riding ability . choose the bit . train the horse without a bit .

how to choose a bit for a horse 2

always train the horse with a mild snaffle bit before moving on to a more severe option . stronger bits can provide more control , which may be useful for horse shows . some excitable horses will resist stopping with a mild bit , but focus on ground work training first . some spirited or sensitive horses will object to a harsh bit , and continue misbehaving . think about your typical riding activities . youll typically want a mild bit for riding in the school , and perhaps a stronger bit for more strenuous activity . check the bit regulations of any horse competitions you plan to enter . beginning riders are more likely to harm the horse with a strong bit . you should have a fair amount of riding experience before you try to use one . even then , ask your trainer for advice on choosing a bit , and on adjusting your rein use to adapt to a new bit . there are many variations of bits , and you may need to try several before you find one that works . most english riders just move to a snaffle with a harsher mouthpiece or ring . western riders may try a different style of bit altogether , such as the curb bit . these use leverage to increase the amount of pressure from your pull . the pelham and the slotted kimberwick are two common options which use a curb chain to provide more control over the head . bitless riding is becoming more popular , although it is not yet legal in most competitions . even if you use a harsh bit some of the time , consider training without a bit occasionally . this will improve your own balance and strength , and teach you to direct the horse with cues from the seat . this may even solve some behavioral issues , as many horses calm down when the mouth is no longer agitated . bitless riding is allowed in most jumpers , polo , and endurance competitions . for other disciplines , you will need to compete with a bit — but you may still benefit from the training .

take good care of yourself . smell amazing . dress great , act confident . follow your passions . learn a new skill . be social . live your life , spend time with them . get to know them . share their passions . support them . stay calm . speak up , be friendly . listen to them . dont scare them or act too weird . avoid drama . just ask , ask them in private . have a clear plan . dont worry about rejection .

how to get noticed by your crush

take good care of your body . this not only makes you more attractive , but helps your crush see that you think youre worth caring about . shower , keep your hair tidy , and exercise for good health , not weight loss . a great smell is really attractive . you dont need a lot of perfume or cologne , either . just shower regularly and use deodorant . a little body spray can come in handy if you really want to smell amazing . stop wearing clothes that are torn , stained , out - of - date or dont fit your body or body shape . this makes people think you lack self - worth , since it shows you dont think youre worth taking care of . wear clothes that look great on you . and dont grab the ones looking like they came off your dirty bedroom floor confidence is very sexy everyone likes someone whos confident of course , you only have to make people think youre confident . everyone is a little self conscious . make sure you never talk down about yourself and speak up for yourself when you have an opinion . let yourself be in control of situations from time to time and talk to the people you want to talk to . if you want to be noticeable to your crush , you have to make everyone else notice you too get out of the shadows and start by following your passions . do the things that make you happy and do them without feeling worried about what other people think . people will admire your dedication and youll be happier to boot learn a new skill in order to get people to see just how amazing you really are . you can teach yourself to play an instrument or take up another skill , like running track or something else . just do something youve always wanted to do of course , getting people to notice you means that you have to actually talk to people too . get out there and be more social . go to events with your friends , make some new friends , and get involved in things that are going on . the most important thing is to get up off the couch and start living your life loud and proud . if all you do is sit around , youre going to be boring to other people as well as your crush . how is your crush supposed to notice you if youre hiding in the shadows all the time get out there , talk with them , hang out , and let them get to know you . this is a great step towards really getting to know each other . get to know them for who they really are . spend time talking to them about the things that really matter to them , such as their dreams for the future and the beliefs about politics or religion . this shows them that you really care about them , not just who you think they are . find something to bond over for example , if they are in a club , join that club . dont fake loving it , but learn to appreciate it instead . dont start stalking them though . that will only freak them out . you just have to be patient and let things develop naturally . support them in the things they like to do . for example , if they play sports , show up at a game . but you should also support them when theyre having a tough time . help them with their homework or be a good listener when theyre having a problem . when you talk with them , dont get super excited or start acting weird . just keep calm . theyre a normal person just like you . act natural and theyll find it much easier to interact with you . greet them every now and then , at first warmly , then a bit more flirtatiously . say hi in the halls or talk to them a bit . smile at your crush and make eye contact , but dont be creepy about it . for example , if you do not know your crush very well , get to know himher slowly asking them for the time , talking about a book they are reading , etc . if they are a friend , start flirting slightly . when conversing with your crush , make sure that you spend at least as much time listening as you do talking . dont send them a bunch of notes or hang around after school and wait for them . dont get their phone number from other people or do any kind of stalking . this will make them not want to talk with you or spend any time with you . think about how your actions will really look to them , especially if they dont share your feelings . dont get other people to ask them out for you , dont be a jerk to the person that theyre dating , and dont be dramatic about talking or not talking to them . this will only stress you out and make other people including your crush not want to deal with you . if you want to go out with your crush , just ask them out . cut out the worry from your life and get it over with . at least youll know how they feel and you can move on . besides , theyll appreciate your bravery in asking . if you do ask them out , do it in private . this will be less stressful for you and they wont feel pressured into giving you an answer they dont really mean . they may not even have ever thought about you romantically , even if they would like to date you in the end give them the opportunity to decide . when you ask them out , ask with a specific date in mind . this will keep things from getting awkward . ask something like , would you like to go out to a movie with me this weekend or do you want to come with me to the arcade on friday . if they dont return your feelings , dont feel like its the end of the world . although your crush might have seemed perfect or perfect for you , keep in mind that there are plenty of people out there . you want someone who returns your feelings - so if your crush doesnt , then they just werent the right person for you . you will find your special someone

take note of heavy eye contact . see how close he gets to you . look at his hand gestures . pay attention to awkward behavior . see if he mirrors your behavior .

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if he is constantly staring at you , or in your direction , it may be because he has a crush on you . try to pay attention to the difference between a normal stare when having a conversation versus a more intense , lustful glare . a lot of eye contact is one way he will try to gain your interest and get you to notice him . when you catch him looking at you , see if he pretends to look somewhere else . this is a good sign he has a crush . try standing out of his sight to see if he moves in a way where he can see you again . for example , if you two are talking in a group of people , stand behind someone so he cant see you . then , watch to see if he positions himself in a new spot that allows him to see you . if he tries to stand close to you at parties , or sits next to you at lunch , chances are he has a major crush on you . this is his way of getting as physically close to you as he can to express how he cares and enjoys being near you . people express their emotions with their body language , and that includes hands . girls are known to flip their hair or gently touch the shoulder or hand of the person they are crushing on . guys tend to talk more with their hands when talking to girls they have a crush on because they are excited . if he blushes around you , laughs uncontrollably for almost no reason , cant look you in the eye , or fidgets a lot , then you have your answer . these are all tell - tale signs of someone who is crushing . a common sign of attraction can be shown through imitation . when people do this , they do not even realize it . watch for someone using common words or catch phrases you say or talking about things you are interested in to relate with you more .

find out hisher name . if you guys go for the same extra curricular activity e . g . the next step is finding out the background things , such as hisher friends . you could be close to where heshe is standing and casually talk with your friends while heshe talks to theirs . if heshe has a social networking site e . g . google their full name . if you know his parents names , go to whitepages on the internet and search . never pretend you are someone else and start a fake conversation because you can always stuff up .

how to find out more about your crush

not just first name , but full name . this will help you later . do not just go up to himher and randomly ask , try to get around very sneakily . you can casually ask a friend and gigglediscuss about himher together , or you could pay attention you can do this even when you act like you dont care to when someone says hisher name . if you and your crush go to the same school etc . check the roll as casually as you can . scouts , glance at any forms heshe hands in to see what hisher name is . this can give a clue to the type of person heshe is . if they hang out with the popular people , then you know that your crush is also the popular type . that is just an example . focus on your conversation but at the same time catch little snippets of what your crush and friends are talking about . for instance , if you hear your crush say that they love facebook , and limit themselves to half an hour a day , go on whenever they say they are usually on and send them a friend request - most likely , they will accept itimagefind out more about your crush step 4 . jpgcenter , facebook , myspace etc . perfect go to hisher profile , scroll down to as far as you can down their wall and see the comments they make . if its facebook you can check out their pics as well . also check out their friends pics because friends tend to put photos up and forget to tag them remember , never talk about facebook conversations to your crush that heshe participated in with their friends . this will only make you look like a stalker check out the links . this can tell quite a bit about your crush . this will give you hisher address and phone number . use the address and go to google maps . this will tell you where heshe lives . you can also compare this to where you live . if your crush lives not far , you can casually walk down their street daily and hope they notice you if they do , just say hi . only continue a conversation if they start it . the phone number can be useful in different situations .

be up front . ask about their love life . ask about your friend in a platonic way .

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the easiest and most effective way is to just ask your friends crush about their feelings . if youre having trouble working up the courage to ask such a personal question , theres a few ways to make the process easier . consider the time and place youre going to have the conversation . make sure the crush is in a comfortable area , probably out of earshot from anyone who could listen in . be gentle . dont use confrontational lines , such as everyone knows you like ryan . just come out and say it instead , you might say you seem really happy around ryan . do you think you might have feelings for him dont pry too much if they seem uncomfortable . if the crush seems to get embarrassed during your conversation , back off a bit . they may need time before theyre willing to divulge such sensitive feelings . instead of asking the crush directly about your friend , try starting with their love life in general . ask to see if theyre dating anyone or if theyre currently looking to find a love interest . ask your friends crush less leading questions about your friend , and see if they naturally bring up their potential attraction . try questions such as , so how did you and cayla meet or how long have you known each other

think about whether you have persistent and intrusive thoughts about one person . discover if you have intense swings in emotion . realize that you are fantasizing about an unrealistic future . find out you desire one person . consider whether you have sexual fantasies about that person . discover whether you only see the good in that person .

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you may be surprised at how often you think about that person . it may be irritating to you and difficult to distract yourself from . if your thoughts are very romantic and obsessive about that person , or if they cause you dread and anxiety inducing feelings of near panic , you may be infatuated . for example , you might say to your friend i cant stop thinking about this person if you have major mood swings depending on how you think the person you like feels about you , you may be infatuated . you may feel utter joy and sheer happiness , if you think the person likes you back . or , if you dont get enough of a response from them , or you think that the person does not like you back , you can become completely dejected , sad or upset . also , you switch between the two emotions very quickly . at one moment you entertain the possibility of your feelings being reciprocated , but at the very next moment you hit a wall of fear when you consider something new and decide that the person could not possibly feel the same way about you . you imagine that your life from now on will involve this person , and you find yourself redefining your life in the big picture in terms of this new person . if you believe that your bond is forever with someone you have recently started having feeling romantic feelings for , you may be infatuated . , a person who is infatuated will typically have romantic feelings for that one person . additionally , the infatuated person will want to be the only person for the person they desire . in a report , studies showed that 87 of people who were infatuated desired their love object sexually . having sex , however , was not the main , driving part of the peoples desire for the person they were infatuated with . most often , the people who were infatuated wanted to share an emotional connection with that person above anything else . people who are infatuated typically only notice the good things in the person they have feelings for . they also do not seem to notice or care about the negative qualities of that person . they may be able to tell you about the bad qualities of the person they are infatuated with however , they will not feel very convinced that those qualities are important . this quality of infatuation can become dangerous . because , you may notice that you are with someone who does not suit you well after the initial infatuation period is over .

notice if she follows you on social media . watch for text messages that dont have any real meaning . watch for gentle teasing . look for a cleaned up appearance . watch for special gifts . see how available she is to you . pay attention to compliments .

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one big indicator that someone is totally into you is by checking to see if that person has reached out to you via social media . this means someone is thinking about you when you are not together and wants to learn more about your personal life . if she sends you a text message just to see what you are doing , or texts you all day long , then she probably cant get you off of her mind . constant communication is a clear sign that she has a crush on you . if someone has a crush on you , she may lightly make fun of you , not to hurt your feelings , but to make you smile . the is a common method of flirtation . along with teasing , watch for funny conversations . chances are , she will try to keep conversations light and funny to get you to laugh , if she has a crush on you . it can be hard to tell if someone always tries to look their best , or if it is for you . if you are facebook friends , try looking at her photos to get a sense of what her appearance is like when you two are not around each other . if it seems that she tries to look at her best only around you , then you know she is trying to impress you . if someone stops at a shop you love to buy you a special gift , or surprises you with a little treat , then it is a sign of a crush . she wants to make you happy with her small gestures of affection and show you that she cares . if someone is always willing to spend time with you and never misses a chance to see you , then you can be sure she has a crush on you . watch to see if she attends the same parties as you or cancels on other plans to hangout with you . if someone is crushing on you , be ready for compliments about even the smallest changes you make . someone who likes you will notice when you get a haircut or buy a new pair of shoes , and she will let you know about that new change with a compliment .

find out what that person says about you to friends . ask your friends what they think . be direct and ask him .

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if he is talking highly of you around his friends or family , or brings your name up whenever he gets a chance , he may have a crush on you . it shows you are always on his mind , and he cant help but to talk about you . if you have the opportunity , try asking his friends questions about what he says when you are not around . here is a way you could ask do you know if he is dating anyone i never hear him say anything , and i am just curious . your friends are great resources to turn to because they may have noticed or heard things you have not . ask them if they have seen him give you any lustful glares , or if he talks about you when you are not around . your friends should give you the honest truth . do you know if he likes anyone have you heard anything about who he is into have you noticed him acting different around me do you think he treats me like a friend or something more one of the best ways to find out how someone is feeling is to muster up the courage and ask . it can be a difficult thing to do , for both of you , but it is the only way you will know for sure . here are a couple ways you can ask hey , i have been wondering something lately . do you like me more than a friend if you like him back , you could say , i have been wanting to talk to you about something . i have a crush on you , and i was wondering if you feel the same way

examine body language . watch for eye contact . look at their social media communication . look for compliments . listen for references on their availability . understand different kinds of flirts . talk to your crushs friends .

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people give off noticeable changes in their movements when they feel attracted to someone . while everyone has their own set of bodily cues , there are some common signs to look out for when someones crushing . open postures such as uncrossed legs , open arms , and palms facing up . people will often lean in much closer to a crush when speaking with them in comparison to the personal space they use with platonic friends . sometimes people will play with their hair , jewelry , or will simply make extended eye contact and smile during their conversations with crushes . , prolonged eye contact , even for just over a second , is a common sign of either aggression or romantic interest . pay close attention to how long your friends crush gazes at your buddy . if they fail to maintain consistent eye contact , then it could be a bad sign for any hopes of a relationship . on the contrary , its an excellent signal of affection if they constantly stay locked onto each others eyes during conversations . see if your friends crush interacts with your friend frequently on social media accounts such as facebook , twitter , and instagram . pay attention to the language they use with your friend , and see if they use obvious signs such as smiley face or winky face emojis . people looking to give off signs of attraction will likely dole out many compliments to their crush . watch to see if your friends crush praises them on their talents or academic accomplishments . its important to note that being complimentary isnt always a sign of affection , so its crucial to pay attention to the frequency of their praise and admiration . compliments on physical features are an especially key sign of flirting . did your friends crush notice their new glasses , haircut , or workout routine flirts tend to notice these subtle changes and point them out to convey affection . sexual innuendos laced in jokes and conversations can also be not - so - subtle signs of a flirts desire to spice up conversations with the person of their desire . flirts will commonly drop hints in conversations that reflect their relationship status , such as mentioning theyre recently single or how lonely theyve been . some people may flirt very openly and little guessing is required , while others can be introverted flirts with more subtle signs of affection . physical flirts rely on body language cues to convey their feelings . they often use physical signs of affection before verbal cues , such as eye contact and playful touching . traditional flirts tend to be more polite , preferring to convey affection over a longer period of time instead of using flashy and overt statements such as saying theyre single or rubbing their crushs arm . these flirts also prefer professional environments like bookstores or study groups to build relationships over parties . playful flirts use very clear signs of affection in a boisterous manner . for example , they may joke excessively in a sexual way with their crush or make bold physical complements about their crushs appearance . , find out who your crushs friends are and ask around to see if what the status of the crushs feelings are . chances are if the crush is significant the word has already made its way around to people .

give them affirmations . help them improve . listen to their concerns .

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another solution is to give your friend enough confidence ask their crush directly so you dont have to do the leg work . discreetly feed your friend affirmations such as , everyone knows how confident you are , why not put it to use and ask nicki how she feels congratulate them on little steps , such as starting small talk with their crush or asking them for help with some schoolwork . give them support even when they falter . if they lose their nerve to talk to their crush at a party , let them know its okay to be afraid sometimes and that there will be other opportunities to develop a relationship . if they feel uncomfortable with their body or lifestyle , start supporting healthy habits . go to the gym with your friend , sign up for yoga classes , or start up a diet together . sometimes people can gain confidence just by airing out their insecurities . ask them why they feel uncomfortable confronting their crush , and let them know its normal to feel anxiety about such an important question .

see the truth about your differences . find information about how heshe feels about you . discover most everything about the other person . evaluate the way this person fits into your life . decide whether to cut the relationship off or try to make it work . think about how long it has been .

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often you will start to fall out of this stage of infatuation once you have gone through all of the possibilities of planning a life together and notice the reality of the situation . for example , you know that you want kids and the other person does not want kids . maybe you thought that you could work through this , but as time goes on you start to see how much more important this is to you than you thought . the things you realize about the person after the infatuation period is over are not always incompatible with who you are or your life . for example , you may realize that even though at first you didnt think that her family living in hawaii would be a challenge , that it is a real challenge . however , the challenge is worth it to you . once you have enough data to know whether or not the person you are infatuated with really loves you or does not love you , you will begin to leave the infatuation stage . over time , even the most infatuated person will start to pick up on the patterns that they are going through with loveunrequited love . this accumulated experience will help the infatuation period come to an end . if you have spent a lot of time together , had enough talks , and done enough things together that you finally feel like you really know himher , you will likely be coming to the end of your infatuation . based on what you see , does this person seem like a person who would be well suited for you and who you would be good for after infatuation , couples can successfully transition into long term , loving , and committed relationships . however , the opposite is also possible . it is possible that you were with someone who was not right for you in the long run , but you were unable to see that because of your feelings of infatuation . does this person share the same interests , goals , values and lifestyle that you do does this person bring out the good side in you or was the relationship all about the chemistry that you shared based on your knowledge , decide whether this relationship is a good choice for your life . if you decide that you want to be with this person , move forward and work to build communication , compassion and work into your relationship so that it lasts . if you decide that this relationship is not right for you , you should break up . infatuation lasts between 18 months and three years , typically . infatuation does not generally last longer than that unless it is prolonged by a long - distance relationship or deep insecurity in the person who is infatuated . off againon again relationships can also cause the infatuation period to go on for a longer time .

love yourself first . complement the other person . act out your love . play on a team together .

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love and infatuation are two different things . love involves commitment and compatibility . before you can find this kind of love , even in someone you are infatuated with , you should learn to love yourself . loving yourself means that you do not have to look for love or affirmation in someone else to feel good about yourself . you know that you are worth loving . you are not looking for a partner to make you complete , because you are already enough . if you do not love yourself and need to heal from something , you may want to try to sort through it on your own before you get into a serious relationship . consider seeing a therapist who can teach you how to take steps toward healthy self love . , if you love someone , you work to support their passions and strengths . you also acknowledge and accept the weaknesses of that person . love does not ignore the other persons flaws , but works to help that person grow and work through their problems . make sure the other person complements you as well . before you commit to a long - term relationship , find someone who challenges and brings out the best in you . real love looks for opportunities to do things for the person they love . the more shared positive experiences and hard work that the people in the relationship can share , the stronger the attachment , security and trust that will be built into that relationship . do small things for your partner . wash your partners dishes , leave a note for your partner , or buy them their favorite candy . do big things for and with your partner . take off the weekend to do something special together , plan a birthday party for your partner , or take a class together . do things that require more time , effort and love . this means that you both are focused on making things work for your relationship . you dont work for your own wants or needs , instead you focus on the good of your shared life . for example , instead of watching your favorite tv show alone , rent a movie and buy popcorn . spend the evening enjoying each other and having real conversations .

know how physical attraction works . understand the messages behind body language . check out his body positioning . watch how he interacts with his friends . observe his physical responses to being around you . look at his eyes . watch his smile . keep an eye out for touching .

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your brain chemistry is responsible for who and what youre attracted to . in fact , according to experts , physical attraction works a lot like addiction both stimulate brain chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin . even if hes not into you , it doesnt mean theres anything wrong with you its all down to the chemicals . research suggests that our brains can tell within one second whether were physically attracted to someone or not . when people are physically attracted to someone , they often show it through body language . most body language connected to attraction communicates two basic messages im available and im into you . available body language cues are actions such as smiling , eye contact , and arms and legs that are relaxed and uncrossed . fertility cues the ones that signal that the person is a potential mate for guys include actions such as standing straight , calling attention to the hands , and squaring the shoulders . if he leans in while hes talking or listening to you , or tilts his head towards you , its a good bet that hes into you . good news women tend to be better at reading body language than men . see how he holds himself when hes around you . men tend to physically take up more space when they want to display themselves as powerful and attractive , so if hes sitting with his legs spread apart or standing with his shoulders squared , it may be a sign that he subconsciously wants to impress you . if his legs and feet are pointed towards you , it may also be a sign that hes interested in you . men who are interested in a woman also tend to physically interact more with other guys . if your crush and his buddies are hanging out with you and he playfully bumps , shoves , or elbows his friends a lot especially if they dont do the same , he may be trying to signal that hes the dominant guy in the pack and wants you to check him out . when people find someone attractive , their bodies undergo some automatic responses that display that attraction . knowing what to look for can help clue you in to how he really feels about you . flushed cheeks suggest arousal . this is the reason some women choose to wear blush it mimics the natural flushing of sexual excitement . some people also blush when theyre feeling awkward or uncomfortable , though , so dont rely exclusively on reddened cheeks to tell you whether he likes you . lips also tend to get redder and more plump if someone is aroused . if he licks his lips when hes around you , he might be subconsciously signaling you that hes up for a kiss . our pupils tend to dilate when were physically excited , so if his pupils are bigger than usual , it might be an unconscious signal that he likes you . winking is another cue that is often associated with attraction . smiling can mean that he enjoys being around you . however , pay attention to which muscles move when he smiles . if only the muscles around the mouth move , the smile probably isnt genuine , and it could signal that hes trying to hide discomfort or awkwardness . theres a reason why tyra banks is always telling her protegees to smile with your eyes . smiles that appear genuine will involve muscles around the eyes as well as around the mouth . people who are really attracted to someone will try to incorporate physical contact into their interactions . if he casually brushes your arm while hes talking to you or goes in for a hug without invitation , he may be interested in you . understand that some people are just naturally more into touching than others . some touching , such as a handshake or a shoulder push , may just be friendly territory . other types of touching , such as on the forearm , around the shoulder , near the waist , or on the face , are more likely to be connected to attraction .

listen to whether he looks for common ground with you . see if he asks questions about you . pay attention to how he responds to your cues . notice whether he does favors for you .

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does he try to find common interests with you for example , he may ask questions about what music you like or what tv you watch , or he might make comments like oh , i love pineapple pizza too when youre chatting . if so , he may be trying to express that hes interested in you . does he ask what youre interested in has he asked you if you have a boyfriend he may also ask your friends questions about you , so checking in with them may help you decide whether hes into you . for example , if you say something about how another guy not him is hot or good - looking and he speaks up , he may be showing you that hes a little jealous . if he offers you a ride home or brings you coffee or a snack without you asking , he may be expressing his interest in you . pay attention , though if he also offers favors to everyone else , he may just be a friendly guy .

be confident . signal your interest with body language . practice what to say at home . ask him out .

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research shows that both men and women who are confident - - meaning they know who they are and are comfortable with themselves - - are usually considered more attractive by others . be yourself around your crush and try to remember that if he does like you , he likes you for who you are . or at least he should just like guys do , you can signal that youre interested in your crush with your body language . touching your face or hair , touching or drawing attention to your neck , and maintaining eye contact with him when you chat all tell him that youre interested . if you really want to tell him you like him , it may help to practice a couple of versions of what you want to say at home . that way , you can iron out any kinks and get over your nervousness . its a natural fear to worry about rejection , but if youve paid attention to how he behaves around you and youre confident he likes you , it may pay off to be direct with him . research shows that men actually prefer what scientists call direct gambits , which are honest , open , and state your intention directly .

embrace the new feelings . express your feelings creatively . observe and admire your crush from afar . keep your crush a secret .

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crushes are the stuff that dreams are made of and they reveal more about you than you may think . this is the effect of early adolescence , when young girls and boys begin to grow out of childhood . for example when you see someone you like and your heart begins to beat faster or your palms may become sweaty , or it feels like butterflies are in your stomach , this is your body reacting to chemicals in your brain called dopamine . also known as the pleasure chemical . you may think about your crush constantly . when you wake up , when you eat , and when you sleep they are on your mind . it will feel like youre dreaming . do your best to not feel embarrassed by these side effects of liking someone . these are all natural chemical reactions in the body . release yourself from the expectation of anything happening . just relax in the feeling of liking the person . it may seem like a difficult thing to do . but it will free you from any outcome . these new feelings may seem overwhelming and having an outlet for them could help you make sense of them . write love notes to your crush or create a feelings journal . keep everything you write to yourself . make a playlist of songs that remind you of your crush . play the songs when you cant see or talk to the person . or you can save it for the special day when you do decide to reveal your feelings . , become a secret admirer of your crush . but dont stalk the person . for example notice the little things about your crush . there are obvious things you like about your crush , like their beauty or sense of humor . but also , take the time to notice other things , people might overlook . maybe they snort when they laugh or they have a small visible birthmark . anything that makes them different , learn to appreciate it . get to know your crush secretly . you can find out if they have social media accounts . what do they post about if they post about a specific sports team or musician , do some research . or maybe they like something you like too . its solely up to you if you want anyone to know about your feelings . be as private as you like . heres how remember , no one can read your mind . dont worry , you have the choice of spilling your secret . and if anyone asks , you can deny or brush it off . if youve written about your feelings , keep it to yourself . make sure what youve written is in a safe place where no one can find it . try to act normal around the person you like . dont bring any attention to your behavior . remind yourself , they are a regular person , even if your mind tries to tell you otherwise .

take special care of your appearance . say hello and be friendly . tell your friends about your crush . become friends with your crush if youre not already friends with them .

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you do a little more than to your appearance than what youve been doing before . use a new perfume if youre a girl or a new cologne if youre a guy . wear your favorite clothing item or accessory . make sure its something youve gotten compliments on . start getting fitter and healthier . exercise and eat more fruits and vegetables . , this may seem obvious but many forget this . remember that there is no pressure . you are just being friendly . here are a few icebreakers to use smile and make eye contact . compliment their wardrobe i really like your shirt . make small talk about something relevant are you going to homecoming or did our team win the game last night one of the best parts of having a crush is gossiping about it with your friends . sharing these feelings with them can make your relationship with them better . also , your secret might reach other people and eventually get to your crush . friends may try to embarrass you . understand that this is part of the process . they will tease you even though they like someone secretly too . , this might sound far fetched but you could become your crushs bff best friend forever . from afar , you may still wonder what this person is like . but as friends , you get to know your crush and they also get to know you . you could start by asking questions . what do you like to do on weekends what is your family like what do you want to do when you get older

find out if your crush likes you too . ask your crush on a date . remember that sometimes having the crush is the best part .

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another benefit of talking to your friends about your crush is that they can get information for you . or you can find out for yourself . does your crush look nervous around you does their face become flush or do they look away sometimes those may be good signs . if a girl plays with her necklace , flicks her hair , or rolls up her sleeves , she might like you . if a guy breathes in and pulls his shoulders back or stands like a cowboy , with his hands on his hips and thumbs hooked through his belt loop - he might like you . , think of creative ways to approach your crush about going on a date with you . search on the internet for unique ways or ask friends about how they got their boyfriends or girlfriends to go out with them . and if they say yes , plan a memorable date thats fun for both of you . a few things to remember dont ramble . keep it simple . make it an offer worth their time . surprise them with something out of the ordinary . dont underestimate the power of just being confident . make good eye contact and smile at them . half of the fun of getting a guy or girl is the challenge before the catch . enjoy the feeling of liking someone before getting wrapped up in what will happen next . middle school is a special time for this special feeling .

take your dream girl to her comfort zone . make an effort to be charming . try the spontaneous approach . try the permission approach . try the moving in approach . try the prop kiss . forget about rejection . be ready to kiss .

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this could be a library , a beach , a park , or a diner . this will remove any extra pressure and nerves that she may have . compliment her on something that has caught your eye and never let her know your intentions . many of my friends who are jocks have tried this . for instance , a big win at a school competition might just be a good time to kiss your girlfriend with passion due to school spirit . this works best at the end of a fun date such as seeing a movie or going swimming . you look her deep into her eyes , hold both of her hands , tell her that you are about to kiss her , and just do it . lets say that you and your girlfriend are studying together and all of a sudden it gets cold . you move closer to her , allow her to lean into you , make sure that she enjoys you being in her personal space , tilt her chin , and give her a long kiss . in winter , you could buy mistletoe and hang it on a tree branch . you could then walk with your girlfriend , tell her to look up , whisper mistletoe , and kiss then hug her . be creative . you cannot go throughout life being fearful of rejection . girls love confidence , chivalry , and good hygiene . be sure that the girl at least knows you well enough to determine that you arent only interested in making out . nice guys finish first and even if they dont , they get let down easy . make sure that your lips are okay and that your breath is fresh . dental hygiene is extremely important , and dont let her see you chewing gum right before you make the big move . keep the kiss short , but not too short . generally , about 10 seconds is ideal .

realize that usual flirting techniques may not work . be direct with him . ask about his special interests . give him opportunities to help you . admit your crush , when the time feels right . ask him out . do not rely completely on autism stereotypes . be clear about your feelings along the way . love him for who he is , autism and all .

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meeting his eyes and smiling across a room wont work on a guy who feels uncomfortable with eye contact and doesnt usually notice subtle smiles . however , hell probably pay extra attention to your face , since he has a crush on you , and spend extra energy analyzing your expressions . this means that hell be more likely to pick up on subtle cues , but he may misinterpret them also . for example , a neurotypical guy might pick up that theres this really cute guy i like . might mean him , but an autistic guy is less likely to realize that you arent talking about someone else . try to avoid signals that could be misinterpreted . you dont have to walk up to him and flat - out announce i like you . instead , use the more obvious flirting tactics in your repertoire , and clearly communicate through your words and body language that youre interested . remember , not everyone likes to be touched . its fine to err on the side of forwardness . many autistic people are sincere and straightforward , and they enjoy it when people are clear about what they want . many autistic people love to talk about their special interests , and are happy to teach you or discuss back and forth . if you let him know that youre interested , hell stay interested . one of the positive traits of some autistic people is a heightened sense of social responsibility , or the desire to help others and fix problems . open up to him and allow him to help you navigate your problems . it will bring you closer together . expect him to get excited , and probably admit he likes you too . if he gets flustered , dont worry he just needs time to put into words what he wants to say . there is a slight chance that hell panic or overreact . if so , its probably because he doesnt know what to do not that he doesnt like you . give him time . autistic people often have trouble initiating conversations . instead of gauging his interest by how much he initiates , consider how much he reciprocates . if hes happy when you ask him out , that means hes definitely into you . autistic people are an incredibly diverse group just like non - autistic people , and popular perceptions often arent particularly accurate . get to know him as an individual , and dont rely on stereotypes . mixed signals are confusing in general , but even more so for autistic people . if you have a schedule conflict , tell him its a schedule conflict , and ask to reschedule the date . if youre upset , tell him that youre upset , and why . this will help him respond to you better . that is the greatest gift you can give an autistic person .

dont take advantage of his interest in you . take him aside and clearly tell him how you feel . continue hanging out as much as youd like . consider giving him a little space if he seems to be having a hard time . set limits as needed . tell him if hes doing something you dont like . treat him with compassion .

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since he may be honest and unabashed in his pursuit of you , it may be tempting to put off rejecting him to avoid breaking his heart . this can hurt him , by allowing him to be led on and look like a fool . its best to rip off the band - aid and tell him right away . since mixed signals can confuse autistic people , directly explain that youre flattered but uninterested . while hell feel a little sad , part of him will feel grateful that you were clear with him so he could stop wasting his time wooing someone who didnt want to be wooed . speak as clearly and compassionately as you can . then tell him if you want to be friends or if you think its better that you go your separate ways . dont offer to be his friend out of pity . you wont be doing him or yourself a favor . only offer to be his friend if you truly like being with him . he will probably be okay with going back to being friends . seeing you might be painful to him for a while , and he may be too polite to say it . if you notice that he seems a little sadder or more distant than usual , it might be time to back off for a little while . for example , if he likes to spend hours chatting in the evenings , its okay to say hey , i really cant talk with you after 7 pm . ive got plans tonight . you dont have to mention that the plans involve movies and fuzzy pajamas . explain that a specific action makes you uncomfortable or is socially inappropriate . give reasons if you can . most likely , he will be apologetic and respectful of your feelings . for example , it startles me and makes me feel uncomfortable when you hug me from behind . please stop doing that . if you want a hug , you can approach me from the front , or hug somebody else . it may feel blunt , but clarity is the best way to get through to him . that way , he wont keep doing something you dont like , and then feel embarrassed or guilty about not noticing the signals later . remember that autistic people , while sometimes socially clueless , are good at heart . raising your voice or making accusations will hurt him , and you may feel like a bully afterwards .

get the right attitude . understand that its going to require effort to control your feelings . communicate with the person . use body language , but dont overdo it . drop hints . be original with dates . know that the worst that can happen is that your crush says no . if you realize after a while that you dont really want to go out with this person , you simply want to be friends , stop the flirting . make a list of things about this person that you dont like . stay away from this person . if the crush asks you out , say no .

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if youre all - emotional and cant think straight , you wont be very likely to get any of the following steps right . in that case , check out how how to stay sane when youve got a crush . sometimes a lot of effort . in order to accomplish whatever you want with you and that ooh la la someone whether it be kissing , dating , etc . you cant expect them to just fall for you . it may feel awkward at first , but realize that if your crush thinks youre just trying to be friendly , heshethey will probably want to talk to you . no matter how dumb you feel , eventually youre going to have to try starting a conversation about something youre both interested in . if it seems too hard at the moment to do this , maybe wait a while until it seems like a better time . dont start conversations if you dont understand the subject matter focus only what you know about . this sounds fairly obvious , but think about it if you dont watch football , dont bring it up itll make the other person feel odd if theyre doing all the talking . after you can actually talk comfortably to himherthem , theyre going to get used to talking to you . if youre talking to a guy , licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing . dont do this too much or theyre going to think somethings wrong with you , like you are badly in need of chapstick . playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too , but go easy on this one . if youre a straight guy talking to a girl , make eye contact . dont stare her down , but dont feel embarrassed . girls really like it when guys give them a little spark by looking at them . for both guys and girls , smile . sad people look like they dont want to be bothered . smile when the person looks at you . smile when you talk . and it doesnt have to be a huge , great grin , it just has to be a little something . if you want to hint to them you like them after youve been chatting and all for a while . you dont have to invite them to go somewhere with you if youre uncomfortable with that . once you get confidence , you can hint something like , hey , me , so - and - so , whatshisname , whatshername , and a couple other people are going to miniature golf this weekend . wanna come realize that you shouldnt ask this as though you think theyll say no . say it as if you want them to come for fun , and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you . also , itll make them feel pretty good that youre inviting them with a few of your other friends instead of just taking them by themselves . perhaps after a few of this outings , it wont be so bad asking them on a real date . take them somewhere youre sure theyd love to go . if theyre into basketball , get tickets to a game of your hometown team . if they love a certain restaurant and seem to bring it up in conversation a lot , take them there . if youre getting completely negative vibes , the person clearly isnt right for you . its hard to be rejected but better to know so you can move on . just treat them like you would any of your other friends . then , unless they start loving you , you wont have a problem . this will help you to stay focused on why you dont want to date this person . drop hints that you dont like this person . if you do like someone else , make that clear . if you happen to bump into each other or get paired in class , simply be polite and no more , do not engage in conversation and only offer grunts for answers if they ask you questions . dont beat about the bush . just say that you think theyre a nice person but theyre not your type and youre still looking for mr . ms . mx . right .

give a simple reason . prepare yourself for awkwardness . talk it out . be firm .

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your friend asked you out on a date , but you dont want to join him . instead of lying and potentially getting caught in that lie , just give him a quick reason why you cant . choose something that doesnt allow room for interpretation . just a simple explanation will suffice . for instance , when he asks if you will go to the movies with him , just say , sorry , im busy , and leave it at that . eventually , he will get the message . no one likes to be rejected . unfortunately , the rejection can hurt even worse when it comes from a friend with whom you want to take things further . the truth is the situation is going to be awkward no matter what . youll just need to accept it and hope things return to normal . bring up the weird feelings to your friend . you could say , i hate that things are awkward between us right now . i really dont want you to feel weird around me and i hope we can get back to how we used to be . saying this lets him know you are aware of the awkwardness and that you want to retain the friendship . now the rest is up to him . you owe it to your friend to be up front about your feelings . simply tell him youre not interested , but do it in a kind way , especially if you want to keep the friendship intact . he may not be able to only be friends with you , but youll feel better knowing that at least you tried . you could say , im flattered you feel like that , but i dont want to risk hurting our friendship . you mean so much to me that it would break my heart if we broke up and then werent friends anymore . i think thats how we need to keep it just friends . because of your relationship , you will likely see and talk to each other frequently . therefore , it is even more important that you draw a clear line in the sand . let your non - feelings be known so that he doesnt continue to ask or try to pressure you into a relationship . you can say , now that weve talked about it , i dont want to discuss it anymore . i think its best if we just close this topic for good .

refer back to your ethics . bring up jeopardizing your job . take the blame . talk to a supervisor .

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tell him its not something you do . workplace relationships are always a bad idea . what may seem fun at first can turn into something terrible if you break up . let him know that workplace relationships are not something you engage in . simply tell him , nothing personal , but i dont date people i work with . if he persists , tell him again that you dont date co - workers . then , leave it at that . let him know that getting into a relationship outside of work could jeopardize your careers . this is particularly the case when there are rules at your job against dating co - workers . let him know clearly that you cant go out on a date because it could mess up a career or job that youve worked hard for and that you need . you could say to him , i appreciate your honesty , but i prefer to keep things between us professional . i dont want to cross the line and jeopardize our work , so im going to have to say no . avoid telling them why you are declining if it is something you dont like about them . instead , put all of the blame on you . this will likely make working with them and seeing them easier . for instance , go along the lines of , its not you , its me . let him know you think hes great , but dating someone you work with just isnt something youre interested in . you may be wary of making trouble at your workplace , but you have a right to work in an environment where you dont feel harassed . if the guy keeps bothering you , take the issue to a supervisor . you might say , justin keeps pressuring me to go out with him . at first , i didnt think it was a big deal , but its gotten to a level where i feel uncomfortable working with him . i dont know what to do . can you help

suggest you become friends . be honest . stay kind .

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youve seen him at the coffee shop or gym a few times . youve exchanged a smile here and there , but thats about it . now , he asks for your number . if you arent interested , youll need to let him know . you can say , id like to get to know you more as a person , so why dont we become friends youll see his true colors if he gets defensive and nasty . if hes willing to build a friendship first , you may want to see what the future holds . theres nothing wrong with telling a person you dont have much interaction with why youre not interested . you likely have a valid reason . if they cant accept it , at least you may not have to see them much again . for example , you could say that youre just getting out of a relationship and arent interested in finding a new one , if that is the case . you could also tell him youre just not into him that way . additionally , a no , thank you also works . treat him the way that you would want to be treated if you were in his shoes . avoid saying something like , ew , no way or not a chance . instead , decline gracefully . remember , it took a lot of guts for him to put himself out there . respect that when youre turning him down . you could say , wow , im flattered , but i cant . letting him know that you appreciate him telling you how he feels could soften the blow .

relax . focus on the conversation . look forward to another activity after eating . seek therapy if your anxiety is overwhelming . keep trying .

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this is easier said than done , but it is important to quell your anxiety in order to be able to eat . being nervous is going to make it more difficult to eat and digest your food . it can also cause your hands to shake , leading to spills . try to relax and appear calm and cool in front of your crush . replace automatic negative thoughts with more rational ones . if you are feeling judged , remember that everyone eats . it is perfectly normal and necessary . prepare for eating in front of your crush by eating socially around other people more often . many people eat too fast . slow down . take time to really enjoy your meal and the conversation with your friends and your crush . spend less time worrying about eating and more time focusing on what your crush has to say . its really their company that you are interested in more than the food . talk more between each bite . invite your crush into the conversation . this moment is not the end of the world . there are plenty of things to look forward to . if this moment of eating in front of your crush is freaking you out , focus on the future instead . strike up a conversation about a movie that just came out . if you are eating in the school cafeteria , talk about the classes you have coming up in the afternoon . keep it positive . try to focus on things that make you happy to quell your nerves . talk about your hobbies . maybe you play a sport and have a big game coming up , or youre reading a really good book . the fact is , eating is normal . everyone must eat in order to survive . anxiety over eating in social situations can be the result of feeling judged or suffering from a poor personal body image . if you suspect you may have an eating disorder , ask for help . check with your doctor if you notice effects on your health , like fatigue , severe weigh loss , or loss of your menstrual cycle . ask for support from your friends , family and a medical professional . have hope in knowing that this will get easier the more you do it . you will become more comfortable in the company of your crush after you get to know each other better . also , the more you practice eating in front of other people , you will eventually become more comfortable doing it in front of your crush .

chew with you mouth closed . swallow before you talk . cover your mouth with a napkin .

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of course you want to look attractive in front of your crush . there is nothing attractive about seeing the half - chewed food you are about to swallow . read for more tips on chewing with your mouth closed . practice by chewing gum and making sure you keep your mouth closed . take smaller bites which fit better in your mouth and dont require you to open too wide . eat softer foods which require less bite to get them down . talking with your mouth full makes your words a mumbly mess while showing off your half - chewed food . no matter how great of a quick quip of a response you have to what someone just said , take the time to swallow before you speak . dont feel pressured to answer questions right away . take your time to chew and swallow . this will also keep you from accidentally choking , or spitting food at your crush , either of which could be devastating if someone asks you a question while your mouth is full , put your finger up to signal you need a minute to swallow . model good etiquette by not asking anyone questions when they have their mouth full . you can even stop yourself mid - question and say , sorry , ill wait until youre done eating . if you do take a bite that is too big , or start to cough while you are chewing , grab your napkin and cover your mouth . this will hide any unsightly chewing and if you cough some food out , you can catch it in your napkin .

avoid foods that are messy . beware of foods that have too much crunch . stay fresh not stinky . choose a comfortable portion size .

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you may be worried about embarrassing yourself by making a mess . you want to look good in front of your crush . you certainly dont want to slop food all over your outfit , or gross your crush out by eating food that ends up all over you . make it easy on yourself by avoiding messy options . eating spaghetti can lead to slurping long noodles and slopping sauce all over . choose salad over soup . soup is another slurpy and splashy troublemaker . ice cream is a melty mess . you dont want to have to be licking away at your dessert . take care with finger foods which will get sauce all over your fingers or drip toppings down your arms . some culprits are burgers , and bbq or buffalo wings . eating noisy food can seem very awkward , and draw unwanted attention to you while you are eating , especially if no one around you is talking while you are chewing . choose what you will chew with the noise it makes in mind . avoid foods you have to chew a lot in order to swallow it . this will reduce the amount of time you are making noise with your food . an example of a tough to chew food would be grape nuts . the crunchiest fruits and vegetables like apples , uncooked carrots and celery will make quite the crack . some chip companies pride themselves on making the loudest , crunchiest products . some notorious brands are kettle brand , cape cod and doritos . you dont want to have to worry about stinking the place up . garlic is known to leave your breath stinky , but you also want to avoid things which could stink up the whole area or give you indigestion . fish products , like tuna , can really send off a strong smell when opened in public . spicy foods from indian food to mexican food can be doubly problematic . not only can they give off a strong odor , but they can lead to indigestion and gas . you may feel judged that you are eating too little or too much . measure your food with your hands by comparing portions of your food to parts of your hand . this way you will go into your meal knowing what is the norm when it comes to portions . even if the serving you receive is larger , you can eat only as much as is considered an appropriate portion . your main meat portion of beef , chicken or fish should fit in the palm of your hand , which should equal about 3 ounces . eat a handful , or half a cup of a starch like noodles or rice . a side vegetable portion , like cooked carrots , should match the size of your fist , which would be about 1 cup . a bowl of salad should be the size of both of your fists put together or 2 cups .

recognize if you have a crush . accept your feelings . realize theres nothing wrong with crushes . determine the best course of action . be wary .

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it can be difficult to figure out emotions or feelings if youre autistic , so the first thing to do is to determine if you have a crush on this person . find a way of sorting out what you feel by writing it out or talking about it with a trusted friend , and look for any key signs that you might have a crush . does this person cause a jumble of thoughts to come rushing into your head all at once you could have a crush on them . if you want to spend most of your time with this person , or if something exciting happens and you wish they were there to see it , then you may have a crush . if you stim when excited or nervous , try to keep an eye on how much youre stimming whenever youre around this person . if you start stimming a lot whenever you think of or are around this person , then its possible you have a crush . if you smile a lot when thinking about them or talking to them , you could possibly have a crush . if you could previously speak somewhat smoothly around this person , and now youre suddenly tripping over your words , or are unsure of what to say all the time around them , you could have a crush . if you are shy around this person and are afraid of the impression youll give off in conversation , you probably have a crush . if you regularly fantasize about spending time with this person , or even things like dating or kissing them , you definitely have a crush . if you do have a crush , pretending that you dont have a crush isnt a very good course of action while it can seem like a great way of dealing with it , when you eventually end up admitting it to yourself , itll only end up making it worse . its important to accept your feelings and recognize how you think of this person . sometimes , crushes can make you feel funny or like theres something wrong with you . its important to realize that theres nothing wrong with having a crush on someone , and that most people end up getting a crush at some point in their life . as long as you respect the person you have a crush on and dont do anything to intentionally make them uncomfortable , theres nothing wrong with liking someone . if you dont have a crush , theres nothing wrong with that , either . not having crushes doesnt mean that youre broken or that theres something the matter with you . its possible you may be aromantic , or that you dont feel romantic attraction , and theres nothing broken about that . when it comes to crushes , theres a lot of conflicting advice - tell , or dont tell be affectionate , or just behave normally what you choose to do is often dependent on the factors of the situation , but its usually best to take time out to decipher what you think is best . if your crush is significantly older or younger than you , it may be best to avoid telling them about your feelings or showing affection . you may get taken advantage of , or be viewed as creepy . unfortunately , not everyone in the world has good intentions , and it can be hard to figure out whom to avoid—especially if you have a crush . its extremely important to tell who is a friend and whos not , as confessing your feelings to your crush may open up a window for you to be taken advantage of , and as a result , get badly hurt . dont take this to mean that you should assume everyone is a bad person . many people have good intentions , and if they find out you have a crush on them , their initial response wont be to hurt you . however , there are some people in the world with malicious intent and who may want to string you along or play mind games with you . for this reason , be careful about who you associate with . avoid telling your crush how you feel if they belittle groups of people - for example , if they mock people of a different race than them or use autistic as an insult . this person probably isnt the kind of person you would want to be in a relationship with , no matter if you think they like you back or not .

recognize that rejection doesnt determine your worth . give yourself time to be sad . take some space . have fun . talk to someone about your feelings .

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there are a number of reasons why you could have been turned down the other person is too busy to date , you arent their type , they have personal problems to work through , you arent compatible , et cetera . just like how you wouldnt want to date every single good person out there , they may reject good people . make a list of positive characteristics . consider traits enhanced by autism , and traits unique to you . its normal to feel a mix of feelings after you lose an opportunity for a relationship . take some extra me time , enjoy your special interests , and allow yourself to cry and watch cheesy tv shows . thoughts of self harm andor suicide are not normal . you dont deserve to feel that way , and you can get help . spending lots of time around the other person isnt healthy for you , because it will reignite old hurts . get together with people you enjoy spending time with , do activities that you enjoy doing , and try new activities that youve always wanted to try . whether your idea of fun is going to the beach with friends , watching movies with popcorn , or working on a novel , go for it . its good to break the cycle of sadness and do something you can enjoy . look for activities that can get you out of the house . loved ones can be a great distraction . focus on them , how they feel , and what theyve been up to . this can give you a break from your own problems . learn a new skill , whether its baking cookies or speaking another language . turn to a family member , friend , or mentor whom you trust . they can help by offering a listening ear and helping you work through your feelings .

start flirting . watch their reactions and behavior . ask a trusted friend for advice . tell your crush your feelings .

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when you flirt , watch them and see if they smile , look pleased , andor flirt back . this can help you tell whether they are interested in you too . if they are uncomfortable , tone it down or stop . you may naturally have an idea of what to do , and here are some options look at them from across the room , and smile . find ways to touch them , like fixing their hair , picking lint off their shirt , or touching their arm . dont trap them , though some people dont like touching . smile . play with your hair . face your crush , and use open body language . compliment them once or twice . keep it light avoid smothering your crush with compliments or touching them too much . this can make them uncomfortable . this will help you analyze if they are responding positively to flirting , and if they like you back . someone who is interested in you might flirt back , seek you out to talk more , and show signs of embarrassment such as blushing or looking away while smiling . a disinterested person might use closed - off body language , avoid your touch , show signs of embarrassment while not smiling , and look away as if planning an escape . either you are coming off too strong and need to tone it down , or they are not interested and you should stop . sometimes , a person on the outside can be a more objective judge of what exactly is going on here . they can usually offer good advice about whether the other person likes you back , and what to do next . while confessing to your crush how you feel about them may not be the best idea depending on the circumstances , if you feel like its a good idea , then go for it . if you want the best chances of getting into a relationship , however , look at their signals and analyze them closely before telling them how you feel .

identify your feelings and their source . root out fixation . write a journal . allow yourself to feel your feelings . take a brief break to regain composure . tell your crush . coach yourself through difficult moments . breathe .

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this can help you figure out whether or not your feelings are a passing fancy or something more serious . it will also help you talk yourself through your feelings when you feel them . is this infatuation lust when you feel a warm blush start to spread across your face or a similar feeling , acknowledge the emotion , and positively talk yourself through it . im just nervous because i think hes cute . ive been around other cute boys and its no big deal . im going to be ok . i know that i sometimes get anxious around him . but thats alright people sometimes get anxious around crushes . im going to do my best anyway . fixation occurs when you have an unhealthy obsession about the person that you like and are unable to see them as an imperfect human being . when you are too fixated on a crush , it can put you in a situation in which you can be taken advantage . beat fixation by first recognizing and acknowledging it and then restoring perspective by listening all the positive and negative points . if you have difficulty doing this , talk with a trusted adult and ask them to help you . not only will writing a journal help you be physically healthier , it is also a safe place for you to vent your emotions . writing a journal will also give you the opportunity to clarify your thoughts and come to a deeper understanding of yourself , which could lead to you feeling more grounded when you run into that special someone . it can be easy for you to feel embarrassed around the person you like , and this is completely natural . when you feel embarrassed or self - conscious , you might be tempted to hide your feelings , or to ignore them , which can lead you to feeling even less in control around your potential romantic partner . when you are with others or in a situation where it isnt appropriate for you to express your feelings , you might be able to restore emotional control by removing yourself from the situation briefly . simply excuse yourself and return when you feel better . some ways to exit a social situation gracefully excuse yourself to the restroom . tell your friends you need to step outside for some air . explain that you are feeling restless and have decided to take a short walk . this may seem like the last thing in the world that you want to do , but talking with the person you like about your feelings will get rid of the uncertainty that is amplifying your uneasiness . try to use soft language , as coming on too strong might make your crush uncomfortable . when talking with your crush , instead of saying , i love you , it may be best to say something like ive been noticing lately that i really enjoy your company and i always have so much fun with you , so i was thinking if youre up for it we could go to a movie there are going to be times when you feel especially self - conscious , whether because of circumstance or personal factors , and when this happens use your internal voice to guide yourself through the situation . remind yourself that this is only a feeling , one that youll likely have again if you havent already , and tell yourself in encouraging words how you will proceed . an example you might consider alright . im really nervous , but thats ok . ive been nervous around guys i like before . i know i can get this work done , all i have to do is focus . so im going to turn my attention to this for a while , and i can think about him later . when strong feelings threaten to overwhelm you , it is natural to respond unconsciously by taking shallow breathes . to improve your breathing , for a few breathes try to pay attention only to your inhale and exhale . this will restore your conscious attention to your body and its need for full , relaxed breathing .

see if your friend is suddenly interested in your romantic life . see if your friend has hinted that they want to date you . see if your friend has been complimenting you a lot more .

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if your good friend has a crush on you , then they may start to suddenly be curious about who youre dating . if they never cared about who you were dating before but are suddenly showing interest in who youre dating and asking lots of questions about it , chances are that they wish you were dating them instead . if your friend asks how your dates went all the time when they never used to care , then they may have a crush on you . if your friend always asks , do you think its serious or do you really like them after you go on a date with a person , then they may just be nervous that youre going to get attached to someone else . if your friend gently puts down any person you date or even says theyre not good enough for you , then they might think that theyre the one for you instead . another sign that your friend is crushing on you is that while your friend used to love hearing the details of your dating life , theyre now oddly quiet whenever it comes up . it may make them upset to hear all about the romantic life of their new crush . your friend might have even said that they want to date you and you havent even noticed it . here are some ways that they could have done it if your friend suddenly says things like , i really like talking to you and theyve never mentioned it before , they may be developing a crush . if your friend has made a lot of comments about how much they want a partner , they may be directing this toward you . if your friend hypothetically asks you what you think it would be like if you dated , then—duh—theyre giving you a big hint that they want to date you . if your friend is the type to always give elaborate compliments , then fine , but if your friend rarely praises you and is suddenly telling you that you look nice , that they like your new outfit , or even says that something about your hair or eyes , then theyre probably hinting that they want something more . pay attention . if your friend has never complimented you before and has suddenly started being very complimentary to only you , then it may mean that they want to take things to the next level . but if theyre suddenly complimenting every potential romantic interest in sight , then it may not mean anything .

practice thought saturation . distract yourself . find and combat triggers . write two letters . condition opposite responses to negative thoughts . exaggerate your greatest fear . reach out to your support group .

how to control your feelings around the person you like 2

when you find your thoughts returning over and over again to that particular person , you may benefit from a period of sustained thought about that person . for a set period of time , even 10 minutes can be enough , think only about that person . doing this can lessen the intensity of the feeling , leaving you calmer . try not to think about your future together or what might come focus your thoughts only on that person and their characteristics for the entirety of the time . sometimes , all you need is the right distraction to get your mind off your potential lover . past happy experiences can restore perspective by interrupting the strong feelings you have for that person . think of past times when youve had fun , or a place where you feel safe and protected . repeat a mantra that you find soothing . some examples everythings going to be ok . i am calm , cool , and collected . with every breath , i release anxiety and become more calm . i overcome my fear and live life courageously . in some situations , people become so nervous around those they like that they become clumsy or inarticulate . if this happens to you , find the trigger and think about how you might combat it . if you have difficulty talking to him , bring up a topic youre passionate or knowledgeable about . if you find that when hes around youre all thumbs , invite him for coffee or something that requires little dexterity . your first letter will celebrate your feelings and all the reasons why you feel the way you do . in your second letter , write all the worries , concerns , and sources of anxiety related to the person you like . try to make a case for moving forward , after all , you are a worthy person regardless if your affections are returned . too often , people talk themselves into a negative loop that makes feelings more overwhelming with every passing instant . if you suffer with this condition , find out any automatic negative thoughts you have and interrupt those with an opposing positive thought . for example if he doesnt like me ill be so embarrassed and then people will think im a loser . wait a minute . i had friends before i started liking him , so i know ill have friends afterwards , too . i guess its silly to put so much self - worth on this . tell the entire dramatic story playing in your head to yourself several times . make sure you complete the story by taking it to its natural extreme . by the third or fourth time , you should be better able to recognize the absurdity of these extreme , yet natural , thoughts . if i ask him out on a date and he rejects me , everyone will talk about it forever . ill never stop hearing , for the rest of my life , about the one time i asked this guy out . it will haunt me through college and my professional life , because everyone will already know . note this technique is intended to reveal warped perspective to the person using it . if you find yourself truly believing these things and unable to see how your perspective is off kilter , talk to an adult or a mental health professional . though feelings of embarrassment or the knowledge of your own infatuation might make you hesitant , sharing your feelings with those you trust can help you come to terms with the normalcy of your situation , and leave you feeling less isolated . family members and trusted friends can be a great source of strength through the storm of romantic feelings you might now be suffering .

understand that having a crush creates a whirlwind of feelings . be aware of how the surreal feelings surrounding having a crush on someone can bring about your discomfort . get to know the person first . spend time together . find out what talents and skills your crush has and what flaws and vices he or she has . avoid shadowing or crowding your crush . treat all of the getting to know you stage as a slow but even process . realize that asking someone out takes bravery . practice asking before you actually do it . be respectful of your crushs space and pace . realize that being rejected is not the end of the world .

how to feel comfortable around your crush

these can cause you to feel a little giddy , lightheaded and possibly invincible . or , you may have rose - colored glasses about the whole situation , thinking that this person is perfect and that nothing else matters . as such , your giddier feelings are liable to contain elements of fantasy and can be a source of causing you to feel uncomfortable around your crush because you only see their virtues and not their whole self . use this knowledge to keep your head screwed on as you investigate the potential of this relationship longer term . acknowledge that while your feelings are normal for someone falling for another person , they are somewhat inflated and liable to lead you astray . try your best to keep them under control by reminding yourself that slow and steady wins the race and that its important to think through your feelings before acting on them . most of all , its vital to get to know your crush better , warts and all . crushing on someone you know little about can lead to unreasonable expectations , and can cause you to fantasize that this person is someone theyre actually not . by getting to know him or her , you can be assured that this person is someone youd like to date or maybe youll discover a good friend is the better option . spending time together without creating expectations can ease your discomfort . learn what this person cares about , likes to do and considers of interest . do these things match your own interests while you dont need to have the exact same interests in everything , having a few common interests will be essential to being able to share experiences , stories and news with each other , and itll enable both of you to have things to do together . avoid pretending that you enjoy doing or participating in something that you dont , just to please your crush . this can turn out to be a deal breaker later on when your crush discovers how you truly feel . it is far better to be honest . you can even say that you dont much like the activity or interest but youre willing to give it a go but wont keep it up if it still doesnt excite you . at least thats honest and your crush knows where they stand with you . remember , each person is the whole package––wonderful things , iffy things and vices––just like you . there is a spanish saying––if you dont love a persons flaws , then its not love at all . think of that when youre trying to work out whether this person is right for you . this may seem hard to consider while youve got rose - colored glasses about this person but knowing , understanding and accepting a persons flaws early on can be the pathway to a long - term and harmonious relationship . it can also help to ease your discomfort , knowing that your crush isnt all perfection . in the days when youre trying to get to know this person , easy does it . if they feel that youre always hanging around , always asking questions and always sticking your nose into their business , they may begin to feel crowded and they may feel uncomfortable themselves . it is best to pace out your hanging around together , remembering that its always better to leave a person wanting more of you than feeling theyd rather see less . dont start hanging around your crush more than your real and close friends . doing so will make it obvious you like the person more than as a friend and your own friends will feel peeved at being sidelined . avoid speeding things up or trying to show your deeper interest at this stage . as soon as you try to do either of those things , its likely that youll begin to feel uncomfortable and start to do things that can scare off your potential date or can cause you to look strange . keep reminding yourself that at this stage , all youre doing is getting to know this person better and that there is nothing to be uncomfortable about . avoid listening to what others have to say . they might give indications that your crush does , does not , might or might not like you . frankly , its none of their business and theyre not the two of you . just smile and nod politely whenever others try to give you advice . you can take it or leave it but you dont need to act on it or agree with it . its eventually up to you to decide whether or not youll ask this person out . yet , its done every day by thousands of people everywhere , so take heart from this and prepare yourself for the big question . expect to feel the jitters , to be nervous and to feel some discomfort . the question asking itself is a scary process . however , your crush is a not a scary person––youve taken the time to get to know him or her better , and youre friends . from here , things are going to be sorted out between you , so have faith that youre doing the right thing . rehearsal is the great way to quell discomfort . at least that way , youll have some lines already worked out and itll feel easy than stumbling into asking out your crush . write down your lines , then practice them beforehand . it might help to say them in front of the mirror , or it might not––try anyway , to see how you feel . while ultimately you must decide what lines to deliver to your crush , some suggestions include hey r , i was wondering how you feel about going to the x competition together this weekend . i know you love x and i do too , and i thought itd be a great way to spend a first date together . b , i was hoping youd be interested in coming to x event with me tomorrow , as a date . im happy to drive us . a little more intimate hey s , weve been spending a lot of time together lately and ive grown close to you . i would love to go on a date with you soon . how do you feel about that your crush may not be ready to answer you immediately , or your crush may answer like lightning . either way , be ready for the answer if its yes , youre off to a new start together . say something like thats great , or cool ill start organizing it now . if its no , or i need more time , be gracious . say that you understand and that you just hoped there might be a chance but you accept their decision . it signals that this person doesnt feel compatibility with you , and thats at least honest and fair . it also shows that you have the courage to put yourself out there and ask the questions that need asking . sometimes the answers wont be to your liking but other times they will be . at least youve given it your best shot . now you can think about what didnt work and try differently next time , with a new crush .

see if your friend asks you to hang out solo more . see if your friend pays special attention to you in group situations . see if your friend is more shy around you .

how to find out if a good friend is crushing on you 2

if your friend is suddenly seizing every opportunity to hang out with you on your own , then it means that they want to take things to the next level . if before , youve mostly done the group hang thing , and now , they are asking you to go to the movies , to grab coffee , or even to have dinner , then thats just one step away from asking you for a date . if before , when you hung out in groups , you were just laughing and hanging out with all of your friends equally , and now you suddenly see that your friend is always at your side , making eye contact , or playfully touching you , then it may mean that they want to be more than just friends . take a look at your friend next time youre in a group situation . see if you can catch them staring at you . if they blush when you catch them , then this makes it even more likely that they may want something more from you . if your friend was once very open and candid about everything and is suddenly acting more modest around you , then it may mean that they are suddenly feeling more bashful in your presence because they have a big crush on you . if your friend is a guy and he stops his usual loud burping or vulgar jokes , then he may be crushing on you . if your friend is a girl and she suddenly looks down at the floor more , or is less eager to reveal the details of her latest date , then it may be because she only wants you to be in her personal life .

see if your friend has started caring more about their looks around you . see if your friend has become jealous around you . see if your friend just seems to be around more often . see if your friends body language has changed .

how to find out if a good friend is crushing on you 3

if your friend has always dressed and looked pretty casual around you and now they look ready to go on a date every time youre together , then something may be up . if your friend has changed the way they look around you , then they may have just started caring more about their looks , or they may want you to notice them . if youve run into your friend by accident , check out how he looks . if he always seems to be dressed up , then he may have just given himself a makeover . but if hes always looking sharp around you but casual if you run into him , then the looks may have been just for your viewing pleasure . if your friend is a girl , see if shes started to put on more makeup , pay more attention to her hair , or even to wear tighter or just obviously new clothes around you . see if your friend has started checking their reflection more around you . a girl could look in her mirror , while a guy could check himself out when he passed by a window . this is another dead giveaway that your good friend wants to take things to the next level . if your friend has never previously cared if youre dating someone but has started to act jealous or possessive , then they may have started crushing on you—hard . if your friend starts being unfriendly to the people youre casually dating , then they may like you . if your friend asks , what do you see in that person or why are you wasting your time with them then they obviously wish you were seeing them instead . if your friend acts possessive of you in group situations and clearly tries to pull you away from people you could be romantically interested in , then theyre jealous of you . if your friend keeps looking over at you as you talk to a potential romantic interest at a bar or a party , then theyre clearly checking to see if youre interested in someone else . if you used to see your good friend once a week , and now they seem to be around almost every day , its a sign that they want to take things to the next level with you . if your friend takes every opportunity to hang out with you , even if its to go somewhere with you that has never previously appealed to them , then it may be because they have a crush on you . if your good friend has suddenly offered to help you with your errands , homework , or anything else that feels like a chore , then they obviously just want any excuse to spend more time with you . if your friend lives on the other side of the city but randomly pops up in your neighborhood all the time , then they obviously want to get closer to you . you can tell a lot about how your good friend feels about you based on their body language . if they were always affectionate and continue to be that way then its not much help , but if your good friend used to have very closed - off body language and is now very open toward you , then its saying something . here are some ways to notice if your friends new body language indicates that they have a crush on you if your friend has started leaning in more when you talk or just standing closer to you in general , then they may have a crush on you . if your friend used to look around distractedly but is now always making intense eye contact , then they may want something more from you . if your friend used to cross her arms or direct their body away from you but now faces you with their body and keeps their hands at their sides or uses them to gesture , then they may have started crushing on you . if your girl friend has started to play with her hair when she talks to you , this may be because shes a little nervous since she realized she has a crush on you . see if your good friend has started touching you casually more often . even if they just started playfully shoving you or touching your forearm a lot more , it may mean that they want to connect more intimately .

give your friend the perfect opportunity to tell you . ask your mutual friends . ask your friends friends . ask your friend .

how to find out if a good friend is crushing on you 4

if you want to know whether your friend likes you or not—assuming you like your friend too—then you should give that person a chance to tell you how they feel . this is easier than asking them yourself or even sharing your own feelings if you do have them . heres how to give your friend the opportunity to tell you isolate the person . arrange a solo hang - out session and see if anything happens . if youre good friends , this wont seem like a big deal . if you like the person , try to set up a pseudo - date . invite the person to a slightly nicer dinner or a semi - romantic movie and see if they tell you anything afterwards . have a drink or two . a drink will loosen the persons inhibition and will make them more likely to reveal their feelings . if you have mutual friends who have seen you together , then you can ask them if they think the person likes you . ask the mutual friends of your gender so theyre less likely to go blabbing to your friend . see if they have any insight into your friends actions or if theyve heard anything . ask them to be honest . if you really want to know the truth , they should tell you what they honestly think . if they dont think your friend likes you in that way , they should say so . if youre shy about asking them directly , then you can mention your friend and just make an offhand comment about how theyve been acting different lately and see if your friends mention it on their own . this is a more gutsy move . asking your friends friends is almost the same thing as asking him if they like you themselves . if theyre crushing on you , their friends will know , but its not likely that said friends would tell you . you can try asking a close friend of theirs that you really , really trust , but be careful . this plan may backfire . if youre feeling bold and want to know the answer to your question , then you should just ask your friend if they have a crush on you . if youve had the sense that they like you and have thought so for a long time , then it may be better to have things out in the open . then again—if you dont like your friend romantically , you may think about waiting for the whole thing to blow over . but if you do really want to know if they have a crush on you , dont make it a big deal and just ask . dont be nervous about asking . if youre good friends , then you should be comfortable talking about anything . just tell your friend that youve noticed that theyve been acting differently . first , ask if theres anything they want to tell you . if they dont take the bait , then just ask them if they like you . be casual . you dont have to set up an elaborate rendezvous to ask . just pick a private place and ask your friend how they feel about you while making eye contact and keeping your voice calm and steady .

admit that you have a crush on someone . allow yourself to feel sad . commit to moving on . focus on your studies . stop thinking about your teacher romantically . limit your interactions with your teacher . utilize if - then planning . speak with a licensed professional . talk with your friends . transfer out of the class . distract yourself with extra - curricular activities . spend time with friends . go somewhere new . date someone new .

how to cope with a crush on your teacher

understanding the problem is the first step in moving forward . dont feel bad about having a crush crushes are something that everyone experiences at some point of view and the human brain is actually biologically programmed to fall in love . getting over a relationship is hard even if that relationship never fully materialized . give yourself some time to mope around and feel badly , then pick yourself up and move forward . make sure youre not upset for too long . while feeling sad , also take steps to comfort yourself . try taking a hot shower , listening to one of your favorite playlists and speaking nicely to yourself . knowing that this relationship will never progress is an important step in moving past it . remind yourself again and again that what youre doing is necessary for your own personal happiness and growth . remember that you will have other crushes . in many peoples minds , having a crush on your teacher veers towards the inappropriate sector , no matter how you feel . there will be others who you will prefer in the future , and others who you have a real chance with . focus ahead , without dwelling too much on this dynamic with your teacher . the reason you are in school is to learn and get a proper education , so take the energy you would normally spend thinking about your teacher and re - focus on it and also on your work . youll see improvements in your academic performance and it will take your mind off your teacher . thoughts frequently lead to action and visualizing something makes it more likely to occur and people will see you . thinking about your teacher increases your chances of doing something you might later regret . try focusing on things about your teacher that you dont like . the idea here is not to dwell on the negatives , but to remind yourself that the relationship was not as perfect as you remember it being , e . g . age difference , appearances . , interact with your teacher in class , but do not seek them out or try to spend time with them outside of your designated class time . it just isnt right for you , especially as they will probably quite a bit older than you . it is generally ok to date a person older than you in later life , but a young person dating an older teacher is often considered inappropriate . making decisions in advance about how you will handle your impulses can help you to be more successful in conquering them . think about how youd like to act when talking to your teacher and then follow through on your plan . if you are concerned that your crush on your teacher is impacting your day - to - day life and also preventing you from concentrating on your studies , talk to a therapist or school guidance counselor . if you are concerned about privacy , talk to a therapist rather than a guidance counselor . your therapist is required by a code of ethics to keep what you say confidential . guidance counselors are not bound by the same code , and can easily report information thats revealed to them . your friends may have similar experiences coping with crushes and might be able to offer some interesting advice or perspective . if nothing else , talking about your feelings might make you feel less alone . if you find yourself unable to stop thinking about or interacting inappropriately with your teacher , it might be time to make a more drastic change . talk to your guidance counselor or academic advisor about transferring out of the class . be honest with your counselor about the feelings youre having for your teacher . if they dont fully understand how much these feelings are distracting you from your schoolwork , they might not be willing to let you change classes . trust that they are professionals who are trained to deal with situations like this . pursue new hobbies and renew old passions . join new clubs and sports or recommit to old ones . take the time and energy you previously spent lusting after your teacher and put it towards something productive . also try to get out and find some new people to spend time with to get your mind off them . develop relationships with other people , especially people your own age . work on strengthening current friendships and cultivating new ones . open your mind to meeting and spending time with new people and you may find yourself falling out of love faster than you think taking a trip or changing up your surroundings is incredibly healthy . traveling can help you expand your mind and see the world in an entirely new light . traveling also teaches patience , flexibility and perspective which are all important qualities that will help you get over your teacher . the best way to get over an old relationship is to get involved in a new one . dont rush into anything youre not comfortable with , but allow yourself to be open to the idea of dating and pursuing relationships with new people , because you have to move on . theres no agreed upon length of time to wait after suffering a broken heart . but it is important to take some time to yourself after a breakup to rediscover who you are , what you like and what you value in yourself and in a future partner .

first off , make sure that your relative or friend is going out with your crush . now that you are sure , try to find out if this is a one off fling or something a bit more long - term . you now know that your crush is taken . take in a deep breath and count to ten . try as much as you can to avoid catching sight of them at any cost . hang around with other good mates and if you really feel like it , tell another close and trusted friend about how you feel . still be friends with your mate - it isnt her fault she fancies your crush . get involved with other activities so you can meet new guys . be just mates with your crush .

how to cope with your friend or relative dating your crush

dont ask their friends but go to the source . ask the crush or the relative . sending an email asking them is always good . if they arent then no sweat if your crush has already asked them to be their girlfriend or boyfriend , or they have gone out more than one time , then time to take action . if its only a one off thing then wait a few weeks and see what happens before you do anything drastic . even if you are upset , dont get depressed . keep in mind that even if you had gone out with your crush , it probably would have been over in a few weeks . there are always more fish in the sea you can find other people you like . itll be stressful watching the pair of them together , and you have to be a strong person to do that . itll bring you a lot less pain , but do not completely blank them both out . otherwise theyll wonder what they did to you . however , dont tell a girl who will obviously go and tell your crush and mate . you can make a deal with her that she still spends equal amount of time with you as she does with her boyfriend . meeting new lads will help you get over your crush , but if you seriously think it wont help , then dont try to get involved with another boy just yet . hang out with him and his pals with your crew , but dont start flirting with him . you dont want to risk losing your friendship with your mate if she catches you . friends are more important than a crush . start looking at people at school and hang out with them . dont worry , everyone finds someone .

first make it simple by holding hands . ask if he is nervous for any reason . stare deeply into his eyes . grasp his hands gently and put them around your waist . gently pull him closer to you and put your hands around his neck . lean in , tilt your head to the right slightly , and he will hopefully respond and tilt his head to your left then kiss for a few seconds then gently pull away .

how to kiss your boyfriend gently

if you break the touch barrier , hell feel more inclined to take things a step further . if he reacts negatively to you touching his hands , he might be sensitive , nervous , or just not ready . watch and learn from his reactions . make him feel comfortable and confident . dont invade his space or his privacy . it just makes things uncomfortable and awkward . look at him sincerely . if he returns the gaze , he wants to kiss you , too . look from his eyes to his lips slowly and lean in . if he pulls back , stop . notice the key word here is gently . no rough movements - its awkward . if he leans back in after you both pulled away a bit , then he wants to kiss you again . go with it , but if he goes too far let him know . press lightly on his chest to get him to let off , and tell him youre not comfortable .

first off , know that you wont usually pass out or faint . unsure of how to kiss , keep your lips soft and kissable . make sure youre on good enough terms with your crush that kissing is okay with them . after youve made sure theyre comfortable with it , hint for one . kissing is a two way street - both people need to be engaged and willing . if you get nervous , relax , take a breath when they exhale youll literally take their breath away . focus on the kiss . after the kiss , break away by just a few inches , and smile to let them know you liked it .

how to kiss your crush without fainting

this usually only happens in movies as a physical hyperbole for effect . however , do keep in mind that your excitement will build . the key is to stay calm . take deep breaths , take a drink . if you do that , you should be fine . take a look at wiki how to kiss file for a better look . this means , make sure theyre not chapped , or dry . if they are , take your toothbrush , wet it with warm water , and gently scrub your lips . this will exfoliate them , and leave them smooth . if you dont want to do that , exfoliate with sugar . to do this , put a pinch of sugar in the hand opposite of that one you write with if right handed , put the sugar in your left , wet your writing hands finger tips with warm water and wet your lips , let no more than 7 - 10 dips of water mix with the sugar , dab the mix onto your index finger of your writing hand , and scrub your lips gently in a clockwise circular motion . warning do not do both methods , as it could harm your lips by giving small cuts , drying out your lips , or making then sore from rubbing too hard . after you exfoliate , use a moisturizing chap stick , such as blistex deep renewal , or burts beeswax lip balm . fresh breath is always a plus make sure theyre comfortable with it . if youre extremely close with them , chances are a kiss will be an okay move to make . a good way to make sure theyre okay with it , without asking if youre shy is to try to break the touch barrier by hugging , or simply holding hands . when theyre talking to you , look them in the eyes nonchalantly , and subtly , but noticeably , look from their eyes to their lips , look back up . give a soft smile , and hopefully , theyll get the hint . make a french kiss too when you know theyre okay with it , slowly move in closer . both partners need to move in together , because it shows that both are willing . the popularstandard is girls move in 30 of the way , guys move in 60 of the way . , live in that moment . its perfect after all , right who knows , you may even go back in for seconds .

practice good hygiene . try a new activity together . get him alone . create an intimate environment . break the physical barrier . snuggle in . make steady eye contact . flirt . play fight . tell him youre nervous . ask him to kiss you .

how to make someone kiss you first for girls

generally , people like to kiss people who are groomed and have clean teeth . you want to look presentable if you are a crunchier person , dont worry about the grooming as much . there is a nobility in cutting down on water usage and hygiene product production that some will find more attractive than clean hair . experiencing something new activates adrenaline and heightens awareness , which together make meaningful memories and can help you create a stronger bond with your special someone . try going bouldering , a form of rock climbing that doesnt require a harness . dont worry—the walls are pretty short if theres a restaurant or bar youve both been wanting to try out , go together . while some people certainly do kiss in public places , not everyone loves pda , especially for a first kiss . talk about pressure if youre at a party , you could ask if your partner wants to go on a walk or to talk in a different room . say something like , its so noisy and crowded in here want to go get some fresh air it can be scary to ask someone out first , but if youve been crushing on this person and never gone on a date , its important that he knows youre interested . ask him if he wants to come over to watch a movie , just the two of you . this will vary based on where you are and what your evening plans look like . the most important thing is to be warm and approachable . its easy to be standoffish if you are nervous , but no one will try to kiss you if you are . if you want him to make the move , you have to help him feel confident that you are open to it . make sure to smile just as your guy needs to feel that youre approachable , he also needs to know that youre enjoying yourself with him . if you invite him over to your house for dinner or a movie , make sure the space is clean and the air smells inviting . atmosphere is everything . if you really like someone and feel nervous when youre with him , you might subconsciously box yourself off from him accidentally . dont do this of all flirting techniques , physical touch works best . gently touch his arm when he says something funny . you want him to know that you are ok with physical touch . if you are sitting down to watch a movie , make sure you sit in close proximity to him let him sit down first and snuggle in next to him . you can hint at him by making eye contact and occasionally looking down at his lips . he should pick up on the fact that you are imagining what it would be like to kiss him . dont go too overboard with this . if youre not in conversation , dont stare him down or he will find it creepy . if youre sitting down watching a movie you can occasionally look over at him let him catch you looking , then turn back to the movie . hell know youre thinking of him . women are more successful at flirting when they are bold and direct , studies show . men tend to prefer when women are direct about their intentions . you can say , im so glad were finally on a date together people love hearing that theyre wanted . get him to ask what youre thinking about . if youre feeling bold , say , oh , im just wondering what it would be like to kiss you . , if you can find a natural way to initiate it , play fighting can lead to a kiss—think of the lion king itll increase your adrenaline , it gets you close to each other , and it shows that you feel comfortable with him . just make sure that it is playful , not violent . if he knows that you like him enough to be nervous , it will make him feel more comfortable . no one likes to be vulnerable , and if he doesnt know that youre feeling nervous too , he might be too afraid to make his move . for example , you could say , ive been wanting to spend time with you for a while . i didnt think id be so nervous if all else fails , you can tell him that you want him to kiss you and see what happens . sometimes guys fail to pick up on the hints and you need to be more direct . you could say , id really like for you to kiss me right now . if you want to be slightly less direct , you can say , it would be ok if you kiss me right now , if you want to . dont rush into this . enjoy the beginning of the relationship , and if its been several weeks and youve dropped hint after hint , just tell him . he may be looking for your ok to go ahead , or he may want to kiss you in his own time .

say goodbye , if possible . let yourself cry . be easy on yourself . give yourself a wallowing time limit . say yes to invitations . start a project . enjoy hobbies . close the chapter . remember your options . embrace the learning experience .

how to cope when youll never see your crush again girls

if you are able to see your crush one last time before leaving , it can be very helpful . it will give you closure and a final memory . if you are comfortable , you can even tell them how you feel . it can be a huge relief to get it off your chest . unexpressed feelings can cause stress and sadness , so it might help you in the long run to tell them exactly how you feel about them . when youre going through something hard , a lot of people will tell you to , stay strong . while their intentions are good , its ok to express your emotions . sometimes a good cry can get out some of those awful emotions that words cant . dont bottle up your feelings , because they could come out when you least expect it . sadness isnt pathetic or a sign of weakness . tears just mean you really cared about someone and youre sad to say goodbye . dont be ashamed . when youre young , often times your crushes arent taken seriously by others , nor are your heartbreaks . people may not understand your sadness , but that doesnt mean you should sweep it under the rug . be gentle with yourself , and treat yourself to the things you enjoy doing . draw up a bubble bath , take a yoga class , or play a third round of video games . give yourself little treats to help you in your sad time . its helpful to be honest with your parents and friends about how youre feeling , so they understand what is going on . its good to let your feelings out , but its not good to throw yourself a never - ending pity party . give yourself a limit of how long youll let yourself wallow . maybe its a weekend , maybe its a full week . spend that spoiling yourself , or doing the cliché things that people do to get over a break - up . eat sweets , watch movies , sleep in , cry , listen to sad music , and do anything else that you feel like doing . when youve reached the time limit you set for yourself , stop . turn off the sad music , tidy up , call some friends , and get ready to start moving on . wallowing will never make you feel better . its ok to do it for a little bit and get out those awful feelings , but its not a long - term solution . when youre down in the dumps , it can be tempting to isolate yourself and hide in your bedroom . challenge yourself to say yes to every invitation that comes your way . whether its shooting hoops with your dad , going to the movies with a friend , or running errands with your mom , just say yes leaving the house and surrounding yourself with people who love you can be incredibly helpful . now is a great time to dive into that big project youve been considering starting . rather than sitting around and thinking about your crush , do something productive and fun redecorate your room , start a blog , train for a race , learn how to cook a new recipe , whatever the more energy you channel into a fun project , the less energy youll have to be upset over your crush . you may feel lethargic and down when you know you wont see your crush again , but its important to keep doing the things that bring you joy . dont skip your extracurriculars or cancel plans that you typically love just because youre sad . you may dread going somewhere or following through on your plans , but end up having a fantastic time . give yourself the chance to forget about your crush and remember the hobbies you love doing . if you are never going to see your crush again , its important to close that chapter to move onto the next . you will probably not be able to move on if you sleep with his picture next to your bed , or stalk his facebook every single day . you dont need to burn his photograph or unfriend him , but you should tuck the photo away somewhere and try not to look at their page . the less youre bombarded with memories of him , the sooner you can heal and move on . instagram , snapchat , twitter , and other social media platforms can be great ways to stay in contact with your crush if they live far away . however , these can also extend the amount of time that youre upset and stuck on them . try to minimize your interactions through social media . for example , reduce your daily snapchat messages from ten to five and then to none . it might seem unnecessary , or even harsh , but its much easier to get over someone and close the chapter if you arent communicating with them 247 . your crush was probably awesome , but hes not the only awesome person youll ever meet . it can be hard to know that youll never see him again , but you will definitely have new crushes . you may let them pass by if youre too busy mourning your last crush . get excited about your future , because there will be plenty of amazing people coming in and out of your life . once youve successfully coped with saying a permanent goodbye to a crush , youre a stronger and wiser person . youve learned how to make it through a really tough situation , and youll be able to handle hard things in the future . painful experiences are never pointless– youre officially a tougher and smarter person after it all .

look for signs . know your limits . make sure the person is ready . follow their lead .

how to kiss at a young age

if your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to be around you , and is always gracefully touching your arm , hand , or is always standing really close it could mean they have a kiss on their mind . if you feel the same way , then just act similarly . they might lean in closer to you when you are sitting alone , or they might even fix your hair , this can also be a sign that they want to kiss you , just lean in a little closer . if your partner try to french kiss you , and you dont want to , then just tell them . your first young kiss shouldnt really be a french kiss anyway . when youre young it should probably be a small peck , not really anything more because it may make them feel uncomfortable , you arent trying to make your first kiss a make out session . if you arent sure , ask subtly have you ever kissed anyone , and if they say no , ask do you want to kiss anyone and if they respond with a yes slowly lean in for a kiss but if they look uncomfortable stop an apologize . when your partner wants to stop slowly move away . look into their eyes and smile when the kiss is over to let them know you enjoyed kissing them .

ask the person who dared you if they are serious about it . decide if you want to accept the dare . ask the person if you can kiss them . freshen your breath . take some deep breaths . talk to the person youre going to kiss . move in for the kiss slowly . place your hand on the back of the head and pull it forward gently . tilt your head to the right . be gentle . kiss for the right amount of time . end the kiss . smile . dont overthink it . act confidently . let it go .

how to kiss on a dare

in a game of truth or dare , people sometimes joke about what they are daring you to do . making sure they are serious about the dare could help you avoid embarrassment . replying with a brief laugh and simply saying , are you serious is enough to double check . if they say no then you can always tell them you want to take the dare anyway . ask yourself if you are comfortable kissing someone or not . remember that its okay to say no to a dare . if you feel uncomfortable kissing the person , then dont do it . its better to say no than to do something you dont want to do . since kissing involves two people , you need to make sure its okay with the person you were dared to kiss . they may not feel comfortable with it , even if you want to do it . asking permission is called gaining consent . in situations like this , it is the right choice . kissing someone without asking them first can actually be considered sexual assault . by asking their permission , you make the situation safe for both of you . fresh breath is an important aspect of a good kiss . if you have a bad taste in your mouth , the person you kiss probably wont like it . think about what you ate recently and breathe into your hand to check for bad breath . practicing healthy dental hygiene is a good long - term practice . there are many ways to freshen your breath . brushing your teeth is the best option if you have time . if time is more limited , chew some gum , eat a mint , or swish with mouthwash . if its possible to plan ahead for the chance of a kissing dare , buy a disposable toothbrush to have handy . kissing usually causes excitement throughout your body . it increases your heart rate and makes you breathe more quickly . you want to be calm for the kiss , so take slow , deep breaths for a few seconds . this may apply more to times when the person is a stranger . making small talk and asking how the other person feels about kissing can ease the pressure . talking about the kiss before you do it can give you confidence . when the excitement of the moment rushes over you , its easy to move your mouth forward too quickly . if you go too fast , you may actually hit your mouth against the other persons mouth causing pain for both of you . dont be afraid to lean forward slowly to make sure you connect just right . if touching the hair doesnt feel quite right , you can also place a hand on the shoulder . this type of touching is just a way to help steady yourself and the other kisser . not tilting your head the right way is a common mistake . in general , people are more likely to lean to the right . this may not prove effective every time , but the odds are good . which way to lean is also a good topic for the pre - kiss talk since this kiss is on a dare , its likely that you will not know the person youre kissing very well . it is best to start out slowly and not be too aggressive . dont use your tongue unless you feel your partner initiate it . if the kiss is going well , its okay to let it last a little while . if you start to feel uncomfortable , or you can tell the other person is , go ahead and end the kiss . it seems obvious , but how the kiss ends is important . dont pull away too quickly . if the kiss went on for a while , pulling away and then giving a light , short kiss is a good way to end it . once you have successfully completed the kiss and you are looking at each other , it may feel awkward . smiling at your partner will help put both of you at ease . whether the kiss went well or not , ending it with a smile is better than a frown . the kiss was for a dare , so dont take it too seriously . you may be breathing heavily , so take a deep breath like you did before the kiss . if you feel comfortable , talk to the person you kissed about the experience . breaking the possibly awkward silence will help you move past the kiss and relax . since dares usually take place in front of other people , you may as well act like you did a great job dont show if you are afraid . dont show that you didnt know exactly what you were doing . just act as if it went well and felt perfectly natural . you were dared to kiss someone and you did it . you can feel good about taking a new step and you can feel free to stop thinking about it .

freshen your breath . set the mood . make sure your partner is ready . remember to avoid some kissing pitfalls . make physical contact . move closer until your faces are just inches apart . kiss . pull away . go in for another kiss if it feels right . dont be disappointed if it doesnt go well .

how to kiss someone for the first time

having fresh , kissable breath is a major component of having a knockout first kiss . make sure that you have brushed your teeth and used mouthwash some time before the kiss , or that you chewed minty gum or sucked on a breath mint before the kiss . you can do this an hour or so before - - you dont want your breath to be too minty or it will look like you tried a little too hard to get ready for the kiss . if you had dinner or ate before the kiss , you should avoid ordering any foods that are heavy in garlic , onions , or any intense spices . its important to share your first kiss in an intimate or romantic atmosphere . your first kiss may be something you remember for the rest of your lives , so you should make it special . you dont have to bring out a thousand candles or serenade the person , but you should pick the ideal time and place for a kiss . kiss in the evening . kissing as the sun is setting or after it has fallen is more romantic than kissing during the day . youll also feel less shy about your first kiss if youre kissing in the dark . kiss somewhere private . pick a private location that is free of distractions or onlookers so you can really focus on your kiss . pick a secluded park bench , a nice spot near a beach or a lake , or even your own balcony . look nice . dress up a little bit to signify that youre about to have a special moment . you dont want to have your first kiss in your gym clothes . this is an important point . you can set the mood and prepare your breath all you want , but nothing you do will matter if your partner is not ready for the kiss . before you share the kiss , make sure your partner has exhibited signs of liking you , whether its through going on a date , touching you , or even telling you how he or she feels . if your partner keeps gazing into your eyes , touching you lightly , and smiling , then youll know that shes ready for the kiss . before you get ready for the kiss , you need to make sure to take it slow and to be gentle . if youre too aggressive or rough , your partner will get the wrong message , and the kiss will feel too forced . here are some things to avoid before you go in for your first kiss french kissing . dont immediately shove your tongue in your partners mouth and leave saliva everywhere . if your partner is bold and is gently touching her tongue with yours , then you can move in for a french kiss , but dont try this in the first few seconds of your traditional kiss . biting . nibbling on your partners lip or even tongue can be a kinky way to spice up your kisses . but if you do this during your first kiss , your partner will be caught off guard and may even jump back . the roaming hands . you should make physical contact with your partner , move your bodies closer , and caress your partners head or shoulders with your hands . you should not grope your partner in any inappropriate places during your first kiss . this is doing way too much at once , and will come off as sleazy and will make your first kiss feel insincere . start moving closer to the person you want to kiss , whether its by moving closer together if youre sitting down , putting your arm around the person , or brushing away the persons hair . as you start touching the person , hold his gaze to make your intentions clear . your first kiss will feel more natural if youre already touching the person and comfortable with it . your hands shouldnt rove to any inappropriate places - - keep it pg . your physical contact could even start from some light and gentle teasing . you can playfully hit or lightly push the other person , until your actions become more serious . try making a romantic compliment before you go in for the kiss . just say , your eyes drive me crazy or you look so beautiful tonight . once youve made physical contact , maneuver yourself until your face is just inches away from your partners face . you should maintain eye contact , and you can even smile a little to show your affection for the person . move closer until your hips are nearly touching , and use your hands to graze the persons cheeks , hair , or shoulders . one traditional kissing position is when the guy wraps his arms around a girls waist while she wraps her arms over her shoulders and behind his neck - - you can think of this as the slow dance position . once youre in position , theres nothing left to do but kiss . dont hesitate . if youve both made it this far , then its clear that you are excited about kissing each other . gently lean closer and lock lips . just remember to take it slow . have your lips touch softly as you feel the person out . keep your lips just slightly parted , and continue kissing the person for five or ten seconds before letting go . keep your hands active while you kiss . use your hands to cup the persons face , stroke his hair , or caress his neck . you dont have to overdo it with the hands . just make sure your whole body is engaged so your kiss is even sweeter . slowly pull away from the person . dont abruptly stop the kiss and pull away with your whole body , jumping miles apart from your kissing partner . instead , maintain physical contact while pulling away and holding your partners gaze . keep stroking your partner lightly with your hands to let her know how great the kiss was . take your time to pull away from physical contact . if youre too abrupt , your partner may think youre not into it . if you just cant break physical contact or you keep staring in your partners eyes , then you should keep the kissing train rolling . lightly stroke your partners hair or cheek and move in for another kiss . you should still take it slow as you feel the other person out , but you can be a bit more bold and adventurous as your kissing progresses . if it feels right , you can slowly move in for the french kiss . just make sure your partner is also gently using his tongue so you dont catch him off guard . if the first kiss wasnt as good as you expected , dont worry . first kisses are often awkward because both people are still getting to know each other , and your kissing will improve with practice . you can take a break and try another time when it feels right . even if it doesnt go well , you should still gently pull away from the person and move on . dont dwell on what happened , and visualize success for your next kiss .

research whats playing . pick a movie . consider the genre . ask her for input . plan to meet early . play a game . offer to buy refreshments . choose your seat . make sure your lips are smooth . carry breath mints . wait through the beginning . make eye contact . hold her hand . feel out the mood . initiate the kiss . gauge what her reaction is . take kissing breaks . compliment her .

how to kiss a girl at the movies

use the internet to look into your options to find the best movie to accommodate a good kiss session . theres plenty of apps for your smartphone that will also show you movie times near you . try find a movie that youve both either seen or have very little interest in seeing . this can get tricky with the high price of going to the movies these days . for a more enjoyable time , wait until the movie you actually want to see has been playing for a month or two . if you think or know she wants to see something , suggest it yourself . the idea is to pick a movie that wont be too crowded . consider the duration of the movie . you should decide if you think youll want a three hour movie or can settle with an hour and a half . it could be uncomfortable to smooch to a very serious movie . either go for a comedy , romantic - comedy , or a horror . these movies also get less attendance than the bigger blockbusters . be on the same page as your date . one of the best ways to create chemistry is for the two of you to watch trailers together . be assertive if there is something you want to see , but dont push it too hard . in the end , decide on something together . this will give you a chance to flirt before the movie starts . since shes already agreed to go out on a date with you , you shouldnt be nervous at this part . be yourself . a great way of initiating chemistry between her and you is to play an arcade game . make eyes at her intermittently . dont be overly competitive . a little bit can be cute , but if you take it too seriously , it could ruin your chances . it is a nice courtesy to offer to buy popcorn and soda for you two to share . if this is one of the first dates with this lady , you , the guy , should make the offer . pick a seat that seems to be the most remote . try somewhere in the back row or in a corner . the ultimate idea is to pick a seat that is not too close to other movie goers . apply a thin layer of chapstick before your date to ensure your lips arent chapped . dont be too insistent in applying chapstick throughout the date . you might seem nervous or too anxious for a kiss . keep your cool . you might have purchased a 24 oz . coke , but just carry mints in your pocket anyway . youll be glad to have them . it could be weird to make a move right as the title credits are playing . give it at least twenty minutes into the film . the ideal scene would be a slower one during the exposition . do not sit there and stare at your date . just glance over from time to time . keep this up until you both meet eyes and then quickly turn back to the film . your best bet is for her and you to blush after meeting eyes . if she has her hand in plain view on the cup holder , that is a good indicator that she wants you to hold it . dont go too out of your way to hold her hand . put your hand gently over her hand and wait for her hand to respond to yours . if she is leaning on the opposite side of the seat , she doesnt want you to kiss her . look for her to put her hair behind her ear . this exposes her neck and is a good cue that she is interested . be sly when youre gauging her mood . turn towards her and gently touch her chin with your finger . this is a clear straightforward signal that will tell her , i want to kiss you . once she moves her head towards yours , slowly start moving your head towards hers . if she doesnt acknowledge your initiation , you might just have to sit through the rest of the film disappointed . if she wants to kiss again , youll know it . be charming and a gentleman after the first kiss . dont be cheesy and say things like , well , that was nice , or youre a good kisser . dont just keep on kissing her until the movie is over without a break . kiss for a little bit and then go back to watching the film . wait about twenty minutes and then turn towards her again . she should be on board if she enjoyed the first kiss . guys normally make the first move , so make sure you are confident . if you are confident she will feel comfortable . once the movie is over say you had a great time , if you mean it . drop a suggestion that youd like to hang out again . dont ask her if she had a good time . be smooth but dont be afraid to reveal yourself .

talk . consider the timing , keep it private , move in , kiss him . evaluate

how to kiss your boyfriend for the first time

it may be wise to talk to your boyfriend before embarking on the realms of physical romance . he may not feel ready yet , in which case kissing is best left alone . make sure you are ready for whatever happens . know your barriers and know your comfort zone . find a place youre not likely to be disturbed . intrusion on this special moment could be the stuff of serious embarrassment . once you are both comfortable with it , you could eventually kiss in front of friends or whomever under the circumstances . to continue from here , if you want to make it different and unique , try a different article . for a first kiss , however , its probably best to be simple . sometimes simple is romantic . press softly and close your eyes . tilt your head and pull them in . if youre going to do more than a peck , think about kissing for about 10 seconds and then pulling apart . think about things you will want to change the next time and such . have fun with it

look deep in hisher eyes dont just look down or away — hold his gaze , kiss actively . use your hands . smile at him when the kiss is over .

how to kiss him like you mean it

looking into his eyes is an intimate gesture , and communicates that youre comfortable with him . take advantage of small opportunities to make eye contact before you kiss him . look at him across a crowded room , or find reasons to glance over at him if youre sitting together . lock eyes just before he kisses you . a sustained gaze as you move closer will let him know that youre interested . just dont forget to close your eyes the second before you kiss him . make yourself an active participant in the kiss , instead of just sitting there and passively allowing him to kiss you . move your lips . avoid the dreaded dead fish pose by moving your lips gently open and closed along with the kiss . just try to avoid smacking noises , and pay attention to your partners cues on tempo — if he noticeably slows down or speeds up , follow along . french kiss him back . if hes started french kissing you and youre ok with that , be an equal partner . instead of allowing his tongue to linger in your mouth , venture your own tongue out . small hand motions can show him youre interested , and make the kiss more intense . try these positions tangle them in his hair run them over his shoulders cradle the sides of his face rest them on his chest or waist nothing will make him feel more amazing than knowing you enjoyed the kiss , so show it smile , breathlessly tell him that was amazing and look into his eyes again . he wont have any doubt that you meant it .

start dancing . make sure it is a slow song , unless you both want to kiss to a death - metal scream song . get in position girls shift arms a little , but still keep behind neck . make sure partner is comfortable with all of this . kiss . enjoy the moment . make sure your breath smells good , always carry a mint around . after the kiss girls lay your head on his chestshoulder till the end of the song .

how to kiss at a school dance

, guys move arms slightly backward . upward for quick smooch . downward for more of an i really like you approach . this all signals you want to kiss . do not ask watch body language . gently . avoid the french kiss as that is a bit tacky for the school dance . show your maturity by not running and telling all your friends when done . , guys hold her close to you and make her feel wanted and loved .

be social , happy , and confident . try to hang out with them during recess . join their group for class projects . sit with them at lunch . go out of your way to talk to them and be nice to them .

how to kiss someone in elementary school 1

in elementary school , the people that are liked the most are people who are active and social . being aggressive or causing disruptive behavior could make you unpopular . try to keep your temper under wraps and go out of your way to talk to other kids in school . trying different and new experiences , keeping close friends , and staying away from negative people will increase your happiness . go out of your way to talk to kids in school and try to make as many friends as possible . joining a sport or club may also make you more confident and social . if you arent known as the social kid in school , try to change that . think about the way you dress , the way you talk to people , and how you interact with adults . try to be happier and more outgoing every day until you are a more social person . if you dont know the person that you want to kiss very well , a great way to get to know them is to hang out with them during recess . if they are with a group of people , try to become friends with everyone that they hang out with . make sure to show the person youre interested in special attention , but dont make it obvious to everyone around you . recess allows kids in elementary school to work on their social skills . a great way to become part of the group is to talk to them about something they are interested in . this can be a new video game , a funny youtube video , or a musician that they like . ask them something about themselves . you can say something like hey , i noticed that you have a pokemon bag , i really like pokemon . whats your favorite think of something that they are interested in and start a conversation about that . if your teacher lets you pick your own partner or group for a class project , make sure to team up with the person youre trying to kiss . this will give you an opportunity to talk to them . dont wait till everyone has picked a partner . try to be the first one to ask them if they want to be your partner . make eye contact with the person you want to partner with . if they look back at you , theres a good chance they will partner with you . try to sit down at the same table as the person you want to kiss during lunch . this may be difficult if youre used to sitting in the same seat everyday or your seats are assigned by the lunch aid . if you already have a table that you normally sit at , see if your friends would be willing to move their seats . ask the aid if you can change seats , if you have assigned seats . if you pass them in the hallway or see them after school , make it a point to say hello to them . you dont have to stop for a conversation , but a smile and wave will go a long way . if you are at an event like a birthday party or school trip , make it a point to go up and talk to them . dont talk about kissing at first . talk to them like they are your friend . something as simple as hi , how are you today might open up a conversation with the person . get in the habit of doing this daily so they know you want to be friends .

talk to them about how they feel about kissing . think about how they treat you . if the person doesnt like you , move on . look at their body language and see how they act . act confidently when youre around them .

how to kiss someone in elementary school 2

there is a tendency for younger people in elementary school to socialize with people they dont like romantically . kissing may not be for everyone , so its important that you understand the person you want to kiss , and how they feel about kissing . ask them about kissing . if they seem grossed out or embarrassed , they may not be ready for a kiss . you dont have to give away your intentions to kiss them . say something like my older brother kissed his girlfriend in front of me . what do you think about kissing you can ask their friends how they feel about kissing . if someone does not like you , they probably wont want to kiss you . think about how you talk and treat each other . if they are constantly telling you to go away , that youre annoying , or that they dont want to be around you , its a good sign they dont like you . if they always go out of their way to help you and always wants to talk to you , they may like you . if they tease you , dont lose hope . some kids in elementary school tease other kids because they like them . if they go out of their way to talk to you and be around you , it might be a sign that they actually like you , even if teasing is involved . you cant force or trick anyone to like you . if you feel like your crush doesnt like you , try to find someone else . it might be hard and it may make you very sad , but you shouldnt be ashamed . there are plenty of people that will enjoy your company . try to make friends with other kids in school to take your mind off the person you want to kiss . dont give up immediately . dont assume they dont like you without trying to talk to them . if you want to kiss a boy , there are common signs that point to if he likes your or not . if he fiddles with his shirt or socks , leans or stands with a wide stance , talks with his hands , or seems nervous , theres a good chance he likes you . if youre curious if a girl likes you , she will usually tilt her head towards you , point her feet in your direction , play with her hair , or will blush when shes around you . dont take every action as a sign of something . only consider this advice if this is how they always act around you . even if youre scared or self conscious , act like you are confident . if you smile , stand up straight , and talk clearly , it will appear like youre confident even if youre not . try practicing when youre in other situations so you can do it naturally when youre around your crush .

go to a spot alone with them . gaze into their eyes . hold their hand or put your arm around them . touch your lips on their lips , or on their cheek .

how to kiss someone in elementary school 3

you dont want your kiss to be out in the open with everyone staring at you . try to find a place where there are not a lot of people . if you kiss in school , you may get in trouble if the teachers see you doing it . other good places to kiss are at a school dance , during a school sports event , or if you are hanging out outside of school . just try to stay out of the open when you do it . ask the person by saying , hey , do you want to go and hang out alone over there its a lot less quiet and we can talk . the eyes can show a range of emotions , and are important for romance . pay attention to how the other person reacts when you look into their eyes . if they look uncomfortable , they may not want to kiss you . the other person will most likely be nervous . dont confuse this with them not liking you . if youre unsure , you can ask them do you like being alone with me do you like me or would you mind if i kissed you if they are not pulling away and look comfortable as you gaze into their eyes , you may not have to ask them permission because they may want to kiss you as well . before going in for the kiss , make sure that the person feels comfortable with you touching them in a romantic way . if the person pull their hand away , you know that they feel uncomfortable . never force physical contact with anyone . its inappropriate , illegal , and could get you in a lot of trouble . go in for the kiss and dont think about the consequences . this will probably be very hard to do at first . however , if you never take that first step , you wont be able to kiss anyone . for younger kids in elementary school , make sure to kiss on the cheek so that they arent grossed out or startled by you . if you are kissing on the lips , make sure you brush your teeth or use a mint before doing it .

be blunt with purposeful , determined friends . focus on the positive with creative friends . be patient with your more gentle , caring friends . give the analysts time and space .

how to tell your friend their crush doesnt like them 1

for this kind of friend , dont bother trying to dress up the bad news . dont use clichés and dont try to make them see the bright side . just give it to them straight . the way you deliver your message has to be tailored to the type of friend youre dealing with . this will make the message more effective , and makes it easier for your friend to accept the truth . an example of a message tailored to this kind of friend i spoke to lisa yesterday , and she told me she doesnt like you the way you like her . sorry . these friends are usually the loudest , and youll often find them planning social outings theyre the passionate and outgoing type . with them , you need to work on the content and delivery of your message . help them see the silver lining in the situation by focusing on helping them move on . for these friends , an example delivery would look like so i talked to greg . he doesnt see you that way but youre worth it , and you deserve someone wholl think so . now lets do something to make you feel better , people with this kind of personality dont have the best reaction to bad news they tend to get a bit stubborn and drag their heels . bad news like this needs a bit of reinforcement to sink it for this kind of person , but you need to make sure you provide a lot of reassurance over time . with these friends , say something like mary told me she doesnt have a crush . its going to hurt for a bit , but you can get through this . keep your chin up . for your brainier friend whos used to thinking everything through , be prepared for a lengthier process . after you give them the bad news , theyll need some time to process things before they start asking questions or really needing your help . take this time to prepare for their questions and be ready to support them . introducing these news to this kind of friend will sound something like so i spoke to bryan , and he doesnt have a crush on you . take your time , think about it , im here if you want to talk about it .

respect your friends feelings . dont take anything they say personally . help your friend think of the future . reinforce their self - worth .

how to tell your friend their crush doesnt like them 2

remember that rejection is difficult . your friend might lash out or retreat inwards and blame themselves for the situation . no matter their reaction , you need to make sure youre respectful and treat them with dignity . telling your friend to man up or to stop being a baby is a sure fire way of making them feel worse about the whole situation . if your friend lashes out and starts insulting their crush , tell them that while you understand how they feel , they should avoid using insults . remind them that its not helpful or kind to lob insults , even when youre in pain . your friend , in their pain and frustration , might react by taking it out on you . dont take this to heart youre not to blame . rejection is hard , and your friend might be lashing out at the first target they see to vent their frustrations . while helping your friend through their feelings , you can remind them that they shouldnt attack you . if your friend asks why you told them , explain to that its for their own good you didnt want to see them pursue someone whos not interested in them . dont think your job is done once youve told your friend the truth about their crush . after delivering the hard truth , make sure you stick around to support your friend . help by thinking of solutions . if you can think of a better match for your friend , try to get your friend thinking about them instead . if your friend has a big project coming up soon , try to help them focus on that . its important to help your friend remember that theyre still someone worthy of love . the important thing is to help them save face just because this crush doesnt like them doesnt mean no one else will . use compliments reinforce your friends qualities by saying them out loud . remind them that these things make them a great catch , and that someone will see that too .

talk to your friends crush . decide if telling your friend is the right thing to do . dont psyche yourself out . come out and tell your friend .

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you need to start by confirming that they dont like your friend . try to be subtle when asking your friends crush what their feelings are . revealing your friends identity could cause some serious embarrassment . casually ask this crush who theyre interested in . you can try listing names and asking whether the people listed appeal to the crush or not . if your friends crush tells you they dont like your friend , take a hint . dont try to change their mind , and be civil as you leave the conversation . ask yourself why you wanted to know this information , and why you want to tell your friend . if your friend asked you to find out , then you can let them know the answer without worrying . if you went and sought this information on your own , check your motivations . if you heard your friends crush making fun of them , or if you know for a fact theyre interested in someone else , youre doing the right thing in telling your friend . the more you tell yourself how difficult this conversation is going to be , the more difficult it will become . youll get nervous about telling your friend the news , and you might put it off indefinitely . worse , you might tell them when youre completely unprepared . stay relaxed , and try to handle the situation calmly . remind yourself that youre doing this for the right reasons . you want to save your friend the embarrassment and pain of pursuing someone who wont return their affection . the worst thing you can do after finding out your friends crush doesnt like them is to sit on the information . you might feel the temptation to hold off on telling them , hoping that their crush will come around , but all youre really doing is delaying the inevitable . after youve spent some time thinking about how best to break the news to your friend , you need to get over your apprehension and actually tell them .

ask if she would like to go to your room . close the door . remain standing until she sits down . show her something . make eye contact . touch her arm and begin to move in . lean forward slowly and kiss her . try french kissing . give her one last peck . respect her boundaries .

how to kiss a girl the first time in your room

this can be done in a number of ways , but the best and probably most effective would be ask her if she would like to see your room . something along the lines of , hey want to go upstairs my room is warmernicermore comfortable than here . if she seems against it , dont push it or youll make her uncomfortable and you should avoid making someone uncomfortable . you could also try using some different lines . try saying , all my cds are upstairs , want to give them a listen you could also say , there are some hilarious pictures in my yearbook upstairs . want to take a look suggest you go to your room by saying , my sister always bothers me down here . want to go upstairs where its a little quieter always follow your parents rules about having people in your room and closing doors . she may not be happy with being shut in a room with her boyfriend she hasnt even kissed yet . close the door , but not all the way . leave it cracked open slightly . it probably wouldnt be ideal if either of your parents come in while you guys are kissing , so keep an eye or an ear out for them . if you are not allowed to close your door with a girl in the room , respect your parents rules and leave the door open . if you sit down and pull her down next to you , she might feel threatened or feel that things are moving too fast . give her some time to look around your room , familiarize herself with it , and become more comfortable . she will sit down when she is ready and feels like doing so . when she does , sit down next to her . when you are both on the bed , show her something , like a yearbook , your favorite books or music , or a funny video on your computer . if youre both looking at something or talking while you sit down , youll make the atmosphere a lot less awkward and soon both of you will be more comfortable . say something like , did you see that youtube video about the fox and then pull up the video on your computer . you could also show her a book you like and say , have you ever read this book its one of my favorites . making eye contact will help you both feel chemistry and will also help you to understand what she might be thinking or feeling . look for positive signals from her . positive signals include , smiling , laughing at your jokes , or looking at your lips . if shes playing with her hair or putting her hair behind her ear , she may be trying to get you to look at her face . fidgeting with her clothes might mean shes nervous . if she says stop , then stop . if she stops you , it could be for a couple of reasons . either shes not comfortable due to being in an unfamiliar place , or shes never kissed someone before and is not ready . some people can get nervous others want to save their first kiss for a really special time or place . dont take this personally . try again some other time . it is possible that she may not like you in that way . this can be difficult to accept but dont take it personally . sometimes girls just need a little more time . who knows she might actually want to kiss you later on . make sure you are gentle and move slowly , closing your eyes as you go in for the kiss . move in at a slight angle . if you move in with your face upright , youll bump noses with her and your lips wont meet . this can be awkward dont stick out your lips , but gently press them against hers . dont try tongue on the first kiss . tongue is not good on the first kiss , unless she slips you a little tongue . if she does , go easy . dont force it down her throat . keep your eyes closed while kissing . otherwise , its kind of creepy if youre just staring at her while you kiss . keep it short . the first time you kiss , keep it under ten seconds . if you both end up liking the kiss , you can always continue kissing for longer . if you feel its the right time , you can move on to the french kiss . do this only if the girl is ready . if this is your first kiss altogether , not just the first in your room , you may want to hold off on trying that . if you decide to french kiss , move in at an angle , close your eyes , and begin with a couple close - mouth kisses . kiss her lower or upper lip a couple times . when you open your mouth to kiss her , slip a little tongue into her mouth and bring it back out . the goal is to touch her tongue , and touch it gently . dont ram it in there . take turns meeting her tongue with open - mouth kisses . while french kissing , its okay to keep your mouth slightly open . remember to breathe while kissing . its easy to forget to breathe while kissing . breathe through your nose quietly and slowly . when the kiss is over , it could be cute to give her a small kiss on the cheek or a hug to end the kiss sweetly . this , however , would not be so cute if the kiss ended in her pushing you away . keep this in mind when making a move and be respectful of the girl . if she doesnt want to kiss , gently put both your hands on her waist or softly place your hand on one side of her face . if she responds well to this keep going . if she starts to lean away , open her eyes or closes her mouth then stop what you are doing and move on to a different activity .

relax . match the energy of the person youre with . keep a conversation . use your eyes . lean close to him . touch him . move in for the kiss .

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you have nothing to prove and nothing to lose . kissing is a two way street and the guy is probably more nervous than you are . take deep breaths , but dont make it too obvious that youre trying to calm yourself down . passionate kissing can be frenzied , calm and meditative , or anywhere in between . there is an unspoken process where both parties will try to match the type of passion the other is aching for . it helps to synchronize breathing rates . a good way to begin building sexual tension is to keep him talking . be in a location that is secluded . having the option to sit is an extra bonus . just keep a conversation no matter how mundane it feels . the bleaker the conversation the higher your chances are that hes thinking about kissing you . a great way to signal that youre ready to kiss is to go back and forth from looking at his eyes and his lips . this will create tension that is necessary to have a truly passionate kiss . if he repeats and looks at your lips , he is ready for those kissing sparks to fly . there are ways of being sly about getting close to him , but you want this move to be obvious . this is another clue for him to know that you want to start kissing . it will help if your bodies are slightly touching . even if your body contact is ever so slight , it will feel exciting . try and keep the conversation going , and touch him on the thigh or his arm . another good spot to excite and comfort him is to put your hand behind his neck . be sure to keep your eyes fixed on his eyes , but take quick glances at his lips . tilt your head slightly and move close to his face and pause right before you reach his face . you shouldnt do all the work , but initiating the kiss yourself will excite him . it isnt as popular for the girl to make the first move , but there isnt a rule book to kissing

use the back of your hand . stand in front of the mirror and pretend like she is front of you .

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practice with the back of your hand in the privacy of your own room or when you are alone so you dont look strange because you are essentially kissing yourself . to do this , you should open your mouth as wide as your index finger when you have it laying sideways over your mouth . put your lips gently over the back of your hand . you can move your lips in a circular motion , or pretend like you are lightly sucking the juice out of a fruit , like a plum . practice parting your lips in a circular motion . you can also use your tongue , like youre gently pushing into the flesh of a soft fruit .

open your mouth . start slow . use your fingers . use your tongue . ease the kissing . kiss his neck . bite his lip .

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you do not want to open your mouth too wide or else he might feel strange . just open it big enough to fit his lip securely between yours . show your tongue ever so slightly . dont fully extend your tongue at this stage . start gently kissing your partner on the lips , dont rush . it is good to build the pace naturally . rushing into the kiss can decrease the potential passion . run your fingers through his hair , his beard , or his shirt , and grab onto them . pulling him into the heat of the moment is a good way to fire up his passion . again kissing is a two way street . you might want to wait , if this is your first time , for him to initiate french kissing . gently massage his tongue with yours while his tongue is inside your mouth . when youre ready you can try entering into his mouth . then gently massage his tongue and the roof of his mouth . dont force your tongue into his mouth too quickly . you also dont want to go too deep . after youve been french kissing for a while , try moving your head away momentarily . look at him and smile . then either hell come back in for the kiss , or you can go back for it . this is another way to enhance the passion . lightly bite and suckle his neck . do not do this for too long or else he will get a hickey . if you want to show off a hickey on his neck , then go for it . feel out the vibes from him . while your kissing , one way to show your passion is to bite his lip . dont bite too hard or he might bleed . only do this if youre confident and think he might like it .

pick the right time . go with the flow . be spontaneous . pick the right guy . touch him .

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you dont want to start initiating a kiss in a location that isnt opportune . youre looking for somewhere secluded and where you can hopefully sit . passion cant always be planned out in a step by step process . you need to be flexible and able to easily adapt with the mood of your partner . a boy will be into it if you are spontaneous and confident . if youre going on a walk and see a picturesque trail , then grab his hand and pull him along . exploring places with someone will increase your security and bond together . this can be the hardest part about passion and kissing . only go with this guy if he does something for you . not just buying you material products , but if he excites you or makes you laugh , he may be worthy . periodically through your date with this guy you should give him slight physical attention . you dont need to overdo this , but every once in a while grab his arm when he says something funny .

realize that this can change your friendship permanently . realize that rejection is a serious possibility . realize that romantic feelings can change over time . realize that you dont have to go it alone . wait for an appropriate opportunity . test the waters with subtle flirting . dont arrange a date yet . bring your friend somewhere semi - private when you want to tell her . take a deep breath before you dive in . be honest . give her a convenient way out if she doesnt want to be with you . try to keep the conversation low - key . dont press your friend for a decision . listen and accept whatever outcome you get . be ready to give your friend a little space .

how to tell your best friend you love her

its an all - too - common tale of woe someone confesses true love to a best friend only to discover that things arent really the same after . telling your best friend that you love her forces both of you to re - evaluate the way you look at each other . its important to weigh the relationship you have now against the one you might have only if everything goes well . if your current relationship is really important to you , you may not want to risk it . the fact that its almost impossible to go back to the way things were after your confession doesnt necessarily mean that youll ruin your relationship with your best friend . however , it does mean that youll almost definitely change it . for example , if you used to see movies together in a strictly platonic way , this may become an awkward activity . its very important not to fool yourself into thinking that youll live happily ever after with her if you can just tell her how you feel . doing this is setting yourself up for a huge disappointment if she doesnt feel the same way . you dont have to be a pessimist about your chances , but you do need to be realistic and remember that its her choice whether things move further — not a sure thing . if you cant bear the thought of rejection , you may want to move on . remember that rejection doesnt always mean that youre not good enough . there are a number of reasons why someone may not want to date . for instance , she may not want to have a serious relationship with anyone at the moment . there may even be things that you dont know about that prevent her from dating , like work and school commitments that take all of her time . did your feelings for your best friend arrive suddenly without warning if so , you may want to give yourself a few weeks or months to see whether the feelings stick . feeling attracted to someone today doesnt necessarily mean youll feel the same way forever . dont risk a great friendship with a confession of love only to discover that what you really had was a short - term crush or , as psychologists say , an infatuation . below are just a few signs that these professionals use to identify infatuationinfatuation comes on almost instantly rather than gradually . infatuation is powerful , but short - lived . infatuation is mainly focused on physical attraction . infatuation makes you see the other person as perfect or flawless this is different than seeing someone as perfect for you - - that is , someone who has flaws , but you appreciate these flaws because you are able to compensate for them . infatuation isnt being in love with someone else — its being in love with the feeling of being in love . though it can be a little awkward to talk with other people about deeply personal feelings , its often a good idea in situations like this . having a crush can make it hard to judge situations realistically , so other peoples advice can be a huge help . if it seems like most of your peers are telling you not to go after someone , you should seriously consider their advice . a few people you may want to consider talking to include your other friends her friends if you know them well enough — they may even be able to tell you how she feels about you siblings or parents that youre especially close to a counselor or teacher you trust when you tell your best friend you love her , you want to do as much as you can to make her calm and comfortable . pick a time and a place where neither of you will have other big emotional stresses to worry about . its difficult for anyone to make smart decisions about romantic issues when theyre already under pressure from something else . a few examples of things that can make for a less - than - great environment to talk about your feelings with her include she has something important coming up that she needs to focus on like a big exam or a role in a play . she has just gotten out of a major relationship or is still in one — this is a definite no - go . she is going through a difficult period in her life trouble at work or school , family issues , etc . an example of a good time and place to bring your feelings up is when youre enjoying a comfortable , casual one - on - one hangout on the weekend . dropping delicate hints about your intentions is a good way to judge your chances of success without putting your friendship at too much of a risk . if she responds to your gentle flirting lukewarmly or seems to feel uncomfortable , youll know to back off . see our article on flirting for great step - by - step instructions . a few basic tips you may want to keep in mind can be found belowuse affectionate body language . maintain good eye contact and smile . touch her arm or shoulder when she makes you laugh . gently tease her for minor slip - ups . for best results , have a good sense of humor about it and make it obvious that youre kidding . try to one or two weave compliments into the conversation . if you can do it while also gently teasing her , all the better . keep things lighthearted and dont come on too strong . you may risk tipping your hand too early or even creeping her out . dating is something you do after you establish a romantic connection with someone — not before . treating your best friend to a nice candlelit dinner may seem like a nice thing to do , but it can be confusing for her if she doesnt catch on to what youre trying to do or awkward if she does . save the presents and formal dinners for later . your best bet for now is to arrange a much more casual hang - out session . in addition , youll be spending money maybe even quite a bit of it on something that may turn out poorly for you . if you save your money , you can always take someone else on a date if your best friend doesnt have romantic feelings for you . theres almost no way to have this conversation without both of you having strong emotions , so give her the courtesy of a little privacy . you dont have to be completely isolated for this , but it should be someplace comfortable where your conversation wont be overheard and you wont be interrupted . an example of a good place to have this conversation is a bench in a park far away from other people . youll be comfortable , it will unlikely for other people to interfere , and , best of all , youll have a romantic view . whatever you do , dont make a big public spectacle . remember that theres a significant chance shell say no — in this case , attracting a crowd will be very embarrassing for both of you . when youre with your best friend somewhere private and comfortable , you have one final chance to back out . if youre still ready to go through with things , its time to tell her whats been on your mind . do your best to stay relaxed while you open up to your friend . remember — itll all be over soon , and even if things dont go your way , youll at least have peace of mind . its only natural to get some butterflies and many girls will find a little nervousness cute , but being so nervous that you can barely get your words out will make things a lot harder . see our article on staying calm under stress for more help . dont waste much time beating around the bush . be simple and direct . tell your friend how she makes you feel . this will be different for everyone , so try to follow your heart . a few things you may want to mention are suggested below , but feel free to phrase things differently if you think it will be more genuine . tell her that , lately , youve been thinking of her as more than a friend and that you wanted to know how she felt . tell her that youve been struggling your feelings for some time and that youre just relieved to finally open up about it . tell her that , no matter how she feels , you value her and you want to have a positive relationship with her . this is crucial — you dont want her to feel like youre only interested in knowing her if she wants to be romantic with you this conversation is likely to be a little awkward no matter which way it goes . however , you can make things much less awkward for both of you if you give your friend a reasonable way to say no without embarrassing herself . this isnt as hard as it sounds — basically , just mention that its ok if she doesnt want to get together right now . a few things you may want to mention are listed below tell her that you completely understand if she cant be in a relationship right now . tell her that you dont know whether she has anything going on in her life that might keep you two from dating . stress that you wont be upset if she doesnt feel the same way as you . big , dramatic displays of emotion might seem like a good idea , but they can make this conversation a lot more stressful and tense than it needs to be . try to talk in a calm voice and to use a friendly , lighthearted tone . you can even use a little humor to ease the tension by joking about how antsy youve been to talk about this — a well - placed laugh can make things much easier . note you will probably want to avoid actually using the word love . for many people , this word can have a huge weight that may make the prospect of being with you a little scary . most relationship experts recommend against using the l word until after youre dating . the decision youre asking your friend to make is an important one . dont force her into a position where she has to give you an answer right away or she may not be able to give the best , most honest answer possible . if she seems on the fence , tell her that its alright if she needs some time to think . tell her that youre willing to give her space while shes making up her mind . ask for your friends input throughout the conversation — be sure to allow her to express her self and not to dominate the conversation . when she comes to a decision whether thats right away or days later , listen to what she says . its ok to ask questions about the way she feels , but dont question the decision itself . this is her decision to make and yours to accept not the other way around . if she doesnt feel the same way about you that you feel about her , dont try to change her mind . this is an easy way to come across as desperate . if you really love her , you should want her to be happy , even if you dont agree with her reasoning . if your best friend reacts positively , congratulations celebrate your success by planning a date with your new sweetheart . if , on the other hand , your friend doesnt like the idea of romance , you should be prepared to step back from your relationship — at least for a while . there may be difficult feelings on both side even if your best friend lets you down gently and gracefully . luckily , as the old saying goes , time heals all wounds . spending a few weeks or a month away from someone whos rejected you can be a very good thing . it can allow you to heal , accept the fact that you wont be getting together , and move on to new romantic prospects . when you do meet up with your best friend again , take things slow . you may not go back to the same level of intimacy you had before right away . be willing to gradually work your way back into a close platonic relationship . it may not be exactly the same as the relationship you used to have , but its unlikely to be worse .

use your eyes . sit really close to her to show affection and establish intimacy . work up to the kiss by flirting . maintain eye contact until you kiss .

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gesture by looking into her eyes , looking at her lips , and then back at her eyes to show your readiness . , if she is nervous and you feel like the time is right to kiss her , catching her off - guard by kissing her might take the edge off and pleasantly surprise her — and you touch her hand gently when youre talking to her compliment her eyes or hair or stare longingly into her eyes . never underestimate what a simple touch can do to set the mood for the perfect first kiss . touching your girlfriend breaks the barrier that separates the two of you and paves the way to a more intimate connection , which is the kiss . fix the other persons gaze with your eyes and dont close your eyes until youve gone into the kiss . locking onto her eyes is the best way to pull her in to grab that kiss .

read clear , non - verbal signs from your girl .

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a few signals that show her readiness can save you from making the wrong move she stares at your lips a lot . she starts talking about kissing , or kiss - related topics . is she talking about how she has never had a great kiss is she revealing to you that she appreciates a great kisser if so its time to pucker up and grace her with your kiss . she pauses , as if expecting a kiss , especially at the end of the date . be sure that there is no other reason for her apparent pausing and expectant state . if she is not appearing uncomfortable and appears to like the intimacy with you , then it is assumed that you can go in for a kiss .

go ahead and ask . be creative and ask in a way that puts her at ease .

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since youve never been kissed , you may find it difficult to read your girls non - verbal cues . a few prompts would be i really want to kiss you right now . i want to show you just how much you mean to me . can i kiss you goodnight

be a good friend first . make sure the circumstances are right . spend a lot of time together . find a quiet moment together . make the interaction light and playful . express attraction through light touching . touch is an important part of flirting . hold your friends gaze . work flirtation into your conversation . gauge your friends current reaction . make a bold move . open yourself to the possibility of being seduced . a strange thing about seduction is that it sometimes becomes hard to know who is seducing who . accept the consequences . talk things through . take things forward . consider your chances . recognize that your friend may already want to be seduced . seduction is essentially a form of positive attention , and there isnt a person who doesnt enjoy feeling wanted . determine whether or not a seduction is worth it . pinpoint your expectations . decide what you want from your friend .

how to seduce your friend

making sure you have a great relationship as friends before moving onto anything else should be considered as much more than simply preparing for your big seduction . if you are friends with someone already , he is going to base your seduction on what he knows of you as a person , moreso than the seduction itself . there are friendships in all varying degrees , but many things should be true for all of them . try to make a regular habit of talking to him . even if its small talk , it goes to show that youre interested in him as a person and care about the little things . make him feel good about himself . people choose the people in their life usually depending on how they make each other feel . this is true for relationships as much as friendships . you only want to make your move if you think the timing is right . if your friend just heard some bad news and is looking for a shoulder to cry on , a seduction might not be a good idea . the same is true if there is a lack of chemistry between the two of you at the given time . if you think things arent working at the moment , its better to wait it out . try not to wait too long , however . in doing so , you might let someone else take your friend into a relationship , thus ruining your chances at seduction . as a general rule , the more two people of the opposite sex spend together , the more chance there is for something to spark . before you go in for a direct seduction , sometimes simply asking to hang out often says a lot on its own . if you dont spend time together on a regular basis , you should ask him to meet up . even if you are just meeting as friends , its a great way to maximize the chances of something happening . time in a group is okay , but there is little chance of something special coming out of that . one on one time is different however , as it means the two people are there specifically for time with each other . a proper seduction cannot take place if youre in a crowded area . to be intimate , you need an intimate space . this could be at the end of a night at a party together , or after one of you has invited the other over . a quiet , private setting is important because you dont want any external pressures affecting the way the seduction is received . even if someone wants to be seduced , he may feel shy about it if he thinks his friends will be there to see it happen . even if your friend finds you physically attractive , you will have a hard time of properly seducing him if youre bringing his mood down . emphasize your positive side . this can be done as simply as making a conscious decision to be pleasant around the person you would like to seduce . being cheerful leads to opportunities to flirt more openly , whether you consciously mean to or not . a proper seduction is very rarely a serious thing . its the way thats going to break the two of you past the barrier between friends and something more . light touching can include anything from a hug to a brief touch on the arm . these movements arent risking a lot , and you can usually tell from the way theyre reacting to it whether theyll accept bolder gestures . you can try to keep your flirtations subtle if you want to save the chance of pulling back if you decide your affections arent being reciprocated . while its normal to make eye contact with a friend while youre talking , prolonged eye contact usually hints at something more . studies have shown that holding someones gaze for an extended amount of time can provoke intense feelings . even if you normally spend time with this friend , make a point of keeping eye contact while you seduce him . the reaction of eye contact can be positive or negative . a lot of it depends on whether the other person finds you physically attractive . if the friend you want to seduce is already close and comfortable enough with you , regular conversation should come naturally to the two of you . with the foundations in place , youll want to work playful flirting into your talk . exchanging light , teasing remarks into your conversation is a great place to start . compliments are a more direct way of showing interest , especially if those compliments are aimed at things youre typically attracted to . an example of a flirtatious remark your hair looks great today . i think it really suits you . a simple but important thing to do before you make the final push is to reflect on the ways in which your friend has reacted towards your flirtations thus far . if hes smiled when youve touched him or responded to your teasing with teasing of his own , its probable your friend is inviting you to make a move . on the contrary , if your friend is looking uncomfortable , its probably a sign you should back off . everyones psychology is different . if you are already friends with this person , you should have at least a basic idea how you think hed react to someone hes attracted to . all seductions involve a moment of truth . most often , this means a kiss , although it might also mean an overtly sexual or romantic comment . if your friend has responded well to non - committal overtures , you can move in . kissing on the lips is often seen as something that is reserved for more than just friends . once you think the time is right , move in . dont be too quick about it either . it may be stressful , but its not an experience you want to rush . all bold moves are risky by their very nature . its a good idea to feel out your chances before making a commitment to the seduction . women generally tend to play a more submissive role in seductions , but women sometimes play it off as an active way to pull a man in . if you think there is mutual attraction there , he may well be waiting for the right moment to make his own move . you should let him know that its a good idea to step in . consequences for a seduction could be very good , or very bad . your friendship could give birth to a one - night stand or even a long - term relationship . on the other hand , things can get uncomfortable and awkward quickly . if this is the case , the best way to repair a friendship provided you want to repair it is by talking openly about what happened . explain what you felt and why you wanted to do what you did . its usually best not to pry into questions like why he rejected you . focusing on the rejection itself can lead to bitterness on both ends . if all is indeed lost , you have to accept your losses . not everything is going to work out the way you want it to the same is especially true in pursuing relationships . if the seduction has failed for whatever reason , theres going to be a spot of awkwardness . it is best to turn this into an opportunity for both sides to vent their feelings and say how they feel . this may lessen the impact of the rejection , but its necessary if you want to keep the friendship alive . be honest with how you feel . if the other person tries to brush it off as a joke , it may be best to follow through with that and move past the episode as quickly as possible . otherwise , its a good idea to talk about what happened as friends . make sure to let your friend that you care about her as a friend , in spite of any added attraction youve had for her . you might start a conversation with something like this i know how this might look . while i am attracted to you , i also value you as a great friend . i hope you dont think i feel any less of you because of this . following the seduction , you need to move forward . this is true whether the seduction worked , youre staying friends , or the friendship was ruined as a result . the outcomes vary wildly , but even in the worst case , there is no benefit in letting yourself suffer over it . an important part of life lies in accepting your decisions and learning from them . even if you regret making the seduction , you should forgive yourself as soon as you can . after all , you were taking a risk , and for that , you should feel proud of yourself . if the seduction fails completely and your friendship is terminated , fill the emotional void with something new and fresh . keep yourself occupied . the people who heal from emotional pain the fastest are those who stay busy . dont take it personally . move on , and fuel your frustrations towards getting to a better place in life . if the seduction fails but you manage to remain friends , try to let things resume as they did . staying friends is easiest if you manage to talk things through when the seduction happens . accept that some feelings arent mutual , while others are . if youre rejected at first and the friendship stays together , he might begin to see just how much you value him . if you let the subject be for the time being , there is the chance he might change his mind and realize what a catch you are . if you are already friends with someone , there is some chance you can figure out your chances of success based on your existing interactions . is there already some flirting involved in your interactions together is she involved with someone else already do you get the impression she already finds you attractive if you get a less - than - desired answer for at least one of these questions , it does not necessarily mean there is no hope for you . rather , youll have to play your cards right , and possibly change things about yourself to suit her needs in a partner . having expectations beforehand is an important part of making things work . even if you do successfully seduce your friend , things can go sour quickly if you dont know where to go from there . whether they respond well to your seduction is another thing , but you should keep in mind that you friend may already have feelings for you that you havent noticed yourself . if you go about it in a way that isnt weird or demanding , the gesture can seem affectionate if anything . unlike trying to date a stranger , there is more of a risk factor in meaning to seduce a friend . for starters , you could ruin your friendship . even worse , the fallout from it could affect other mutual friendships as well . on the other hand , a friendship that is strong enough can usually survive a failed seduction , provided things are discussed openly . cross - reference your expectations with your expected chances and decide for yourself whether you should go through with it . there is no easy answer to a question like this , but it is important that you live with whatever decision you make . although going for the seduction may seem like the riskier move , staying quiet can result in just as much pain if you really like the person . it should also be said that there are varying degrees of success that relate to your expectations . if you want a relationship but think youll only get a one night stand at best , it is up for debate whether it is worth it . likewise , it is also dubious to attempt a one - night stand with someone you think may get emotionally tied to you after the fact . there are a lot of degrees by which you could seduce a friend . you may want to get a full relationship with her , and its possible you may otherwise prefer a friends with benefits - type situation . if a friends with benefits arrangement is what youre specifically looking for , its recommended you try looking for one of your friends that is already open and comfortable with sexuality .

make sure you love him first . do something you and your friends usually do . decide what mood he is in - - if he is all goofy he might not take you seriously - - he should be in a happy mood . get his attention by saying his name . look him in the eyes , and say it . keep looking at him , and wait for his response . go to different places together . talk to each other , laugh , enjoy each other , if you get too nervous you can always call . if he loves you he might ask if you have hadrecently had a boyfriend .

how to tell your guy friend youre in love with him

if you tell him and he likes you , but then realize you dont it could ruin your alls friendship if you do something big and flashy he will know something is up . but instead of going with all your friends , just go with him . itll be fun and you can have some alone time with him . if he is not , well , you can change that . i mean youre his friend , right , short and simple . just like insert his name here , what do you think about me and if he says what do you mean , tell him , i think i like you more of a friend . and i was wondering how you feel . . if he changes the conversation , do not worry he knows . did you think he would just get up and kiss you he probably is nervous too . and when and if he does , stick with it . it may be a bit awkward at first , but if things go back to normal quick then it wasnt meant to be . dont text , he can use this against you . if you say nonot for a long time he might feel like you would be uncomfortable so he wont ask you out . if you say yesjust recently he might feel more comfortable asking you out .

work through your feelings before doing anything else . be certain that hes free from commitment . if he is dating someone right now , back off . if he had an ex recently , find out whether he is over the ex yet . if youve recently had an ex , reassure him that youre over this person . hint to your guy friend that youre interested . ask him out on a date . text and e - mail him .

how to make a guy friend a boyfriend

it is important to know that your changed feelings towards your friend are for real and are not just some flight of fancy brought about by a soppy movie or seeing other friends together as couples . this must be a genuine hit - in - the - gut experience , when you surpass the standard friendship reality and envision the two of you together for years to come . ask yourself is this real or am i just wanting something that i know isnt going to work out do i have the fortitude to cope with being rejected if i suggest a more intimate relationship and he rejects me do i think things can be patched up should this happen has he shown me any signs of interest is he currently in a relationship its no good barging in on an existing relationship he has with someone else , proclaiming that hes making a mistake by not choosing you instead . not only will this seem very out - of - the - blue to him but its possible that your friendship wont recover if he sees this as an act to destabilize and existing relationship . nurture your friendship . if you still feel this way down the track and he breaks off with this person , youll be there for him . if he doesnt break it off , then friendship it was meant to be . hollywood movies aside , it is just not that helpful to go around busting up your friends love life . if he still has a fire for his ex , you dont want him as a beau . so , how do you find out ask him do it casually , as part of your usual conversations . get him to talk about his feelings for his ex , whether theyre good or bad . get him to reveal whether hes seen his ex lately , if they still keep in touch , and so forth . if hes not over his ex yet , back off . if he is , then consider him available with caution , of course . let your guy friend know in no uncertain terms that you are 100 percent over that person who broke your heart . still being hung up on an ex is a major deterrent for any person seeking a close relationship nobody wants the drama and disappointment that comes with that . hence , if you want this guy friend to know that youre available , make your relationship health status very clear . let your guy friend know how much you highly think of him and how much you think he would make a great boyfriend for someone one day . it is a subtle yet obvious enough clue to hear that you think he would actually make a fabulous boyfriend . but dont call it a date . in its place , invite him out to the movies one night , as friends . if he asks you out the following weekend and you ask him about again , the next thing you know , you both will find yourself dating . send him comical text messages and e - mails . its a fantastic way to build your friendship and future relationship . guys want to feel that they can be themselves with you . by letting all hang out , youre letting him know that youre fun and cool at the same time .

smile . hold a conversation . dont worry about social status . remember that everything is not a competition . be positive . be chivalrous . get along with her friends . let the cell phone ring . put the focus on her . be interesting on chat . dont be afraid to be cheesy . learn to cook . be yourself at all times . treat the women in your life with kindness . dress well . exude confidence . have interests that feed your soul . display your sense of humor . dont be a suck - up . practice being a good listener . show your consideration and attention . share kindness and empathy . take charge .

how to impress a girl and get her to like you

it isnt always about some elaborate way of getting her notice you and how youre different in a great way . everybody looks a million times kinder and more attractive with a smile . dont be creepy about it . theres a fine line between an attractive smile and the unnerving smile of a sociopath . this is not exactly a crazy idea nor is it one that you would immediately think of as guys tend to think about big , heroic acts first . the truth of the matter , however , is that you can impress a girl simply by being able to hold an interesting , intelligent , and , hopefully , exciting conversation . its something that doesnt matter to most girls . what girls really care about is attitude , confidence , and personality . so if you talk to that girl that is supposedly out of your league and do it in an interesting way , you may just find yourself on her radar real quick . you dont always have to be the best . there are few things that irritate girls more than a guy who always has to be talking about how he is better than everyone else – at everything . everybody has bad days , but its up to you to put a positive spin on it . every gray cloud has a silver lining , as they say , and being able to find it is a very impressive ability . you dont have to slay a dragon or rescue them from an evil king . simply open the door for them , pull out their chair , let them wear your coat if theyre cold , or take their hand to help them out of the car or down some sketchy stairs . and have some manners , will you please girls are not even remotely impressed by burps , farts , or other young boy - type behavior . far more often than not they find these behaviors crude , annoying , and just plain gross . nothing gets a girls attention better than a guy who is having a good time with her friends . not only is the natural competition instinct triggered but she can see immediately that youre likable and fun and that makes a lasting impression . this tells her that you dont care about what else is going on when youre talking to someone – especially her . the best is when they say something along the lines of , your cell phone is ringing . why because you can let her know that it cant be anything more important than talking to her . now thats impressive . ask her advice . ask questions . compliment her answers , her appearance , a talent youve witnessed her display , or her new glasses . anything new about her or that catches your eye is a great topic to give her kudos on . its just like meeting someone for the first time in person so its important to make the same great first impression . be honest about yourself and show her how you are unique just by being you . talk about her ask her what her likesdislikes are . ask about her favorite bands . find out what her favorite music is . send her funny memes or videos . when you do it at the right time , with the right amount of silliness , cheesy lines like , do you believe in love at first sight or should i walk by you again can work like a charm . it not only shows your sense of humor but that youre confident enough to let her know youre interested in her . this doesnt mean reading the directions on the box of mac n cheese and pulling it off correctly . go to a website like foodchannel . com and learn how to make it from scratch , practice it , and then do it with confidence in front of her . shell be hugely impressed . if she finds out that youre not who she thinks you are , not only will it be embarrassing , but you will lose some major points as well . if she doesnt like you for who you really are , shes not worth your time and you can do better . if a girl sees you with your mom or sister and sees you have a good relationship with them and treat them well you have just made your likability soar . this doesnt mean being obsequious , it means being thoughtful and considerate . if they also see you playing with niecesnephews and how much the children adore you thats huge bonus points . some guys might take this the wrong way so understand if youre a t - shirt and jeans guy , then by all means where t - shirts and jeans . but ‘clean t - shirts and ‘clean jeans , not nasty , grungy ones or cheap dime - store ones either . it doesnt take a designer suit and tie though if thats your style then rock it it just takes some attention to how you look . being clean is very important and not just regarding clean clothes . that includes taking showers , washing your hair , brushing your teeth , etc . they key difference between confidence and arrogance or narcissism is that when youre confident youre proud of your accomplishments or whatever it is youve done but then you shift the focus of the conversation back onto her or someone else . its not all about you because you know who you are and are fine letting others take some credit as well , no one wants to date someone who does nothing in life because thats boring . women will be interested in knowing you more intimately if you have a rich and varied set of things that interest you . you should also never be embarrassed by the things that interests you . is it geeky then own up to it because that is a powerful attractor as well . these topics will also get you speaking passionately , which just takes the whole likability factor to stratospheric levels . women love passion and showing you have it is key . we all like to be around someone who makes us laugh . for girls it is even more important as it speaks to the level of comfort and confidence that you have in yourself . the key is to make sure that your jokes arent at the expense of others . that is a big tip - off that maybe youre not so confident and need to put down others to feel better about yourself . this also true of being able to laugh at her jokes , even if theyre not all that funny . remember , we like to be around funny people but we also like it when people laugh at our jokes . laughing out loud , and the ability to do so without reservation , is very appealing as well . no one likes a yes man . a girl might like it at first – everyone likes to always get their way at first . eventually , however , it wears thin because you clearly have no opinion and thus no point of view , which is profoundly uninteresting . it could also mean that you dont respect yourself enough to say what you think , which is also a major turn - off . its scientifically proven that women are more emotionally fulfilled through talking and sharing . this doesnt mean solving their problems if shes telling you about them . it means really listening and demonstrating that youre hearing what theyre telling you . you can let her know your listening through non - verbal cues , such as smiling , laughing , nodding , or reacting appropriately to the emotions of the story . repeat back to her what she said . not verbatim , but by summarizing what she said both reinforces for her what shes just told and that you are listening so attentively that you got it . nothing makes a girl happier or gives her the warm fuzzies quite like knowing that a guy she is or even isnt thinking about is thinking about her . this can be done in a wide variety of ways , such as sending a link to a youtube video you think she might like . text her a funny vine . unexpectedly invite her to join your group of friends for a night out to a movie , concert , miniature golf , of any other fun activity . a lot of women will pay attention to one very specific behavior to see what kind of person you really are how you treat your server at a restaurant . two other key behaviors they watch is how you treat animals and children . if you score on all of these you just might have some swooning on your hands . a guy who is capable of leading , of making decisions and getting others to follow them is very attractive to girls . couple this with being willing to admit mistakes and move on to make the appropriate and necessary changes and you have yourself a winning recipe for getting that girl to like you . women of all ages like to feel protected and nothing says that like being the man in charge who is adaptable and confident as a leader .

tell the friend that you asked if he liked you and he said yes . if they dont believe you , tell them he flirts with you , for example , whispering i love you in your ear , or any other type of little flirting . tell them he is staring at you at the moment you are speaking . remember dont act like youre lying .

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add an additional detail and said you exchanged phone numbers . , for example , look at the person you are lying to directly in the eye and smile , dont act like youre nervous either and that youre telling the absolute truth . if you need to , go on to how to tell a lie without getting caught on wikihow .

discover her conscious romantic standards . figure out her unconscious criteria . chart out her love map . meet her friends . contemplate her past relationships . learn what thrills her . research her preferred method of exercise . use mutual friends to your advantage . use repetition . set the mood with soft lighting . cultivate your mystique . flirt with her . be persistent , when appropriate . dont rush yourself . gauge her feelings . ask her friends . choose your moment carefully . get comfortable with your own vulnerability . reassure her while telling how you feel . express your feelings honestly . try winning her over if you think she likes you back . try it once if youre not sure how shell respond . beware sharing your feelings if you value the friendship . always take no for an answer .

how to make a female friend love you

some of these will be fairly obvious . she may want to be with someone with the same religious values , or a non - smoker . you dont have to necessarily meet all of her criteria , but you should avoid failing to meet her standards , as this will often remove you from her romantic pool . make a list of features shared by all her previous boyfriends . these are likely things she makes it a priority to find in her romantic interests , and may be characteristics you should consider cultivating in yourself . this is often related to her own personal characteristics . many people , including your female friend , search for a partner with the same positive characteristics that they like in themselves , but want qualities in a partner that are opposite to the things they dislike about themselves . after you find out some of the things she dislikes about herself , show her how you can compliment those areas with your strengths . you could say i hate how competitive i am . i think id be much happier if i learned to enjoy things instead of making them into a competition . what about you if you could change one thing about yourself , what would it be psychologists have discovered that as we go through life , we start developing a love map , or an idea of who we want to be in a relationship . some aspects of her love map will be conscious , like she might want an educated partner , but these can also be subconscious preferences , like how affectionate her partner is . by understanding her love map , you can meet her needs better . though there are many variables that will affect her particular love map , look for these criteria to guide you in understanding her love map the expectation of romantic relationships to involve commitment . the accepted duration for a relationship . a belief that the right romantic partner will bring satisfaction . the ideal length of time acceptable before arriving at a romantic commitment saying i love you . the length of time between a breakup and becoming involved in a new relationship . the acceptable length of time spent waiting for a partner to commit . the level of acceptable disagreement on basic life values . whether or not an argument with a partner is exciting or frightening . whether or not a polyamorous relationship is acceptable . the amount of time expected to be spent seperate from friends , family , and social eventsobligations . be on your best behavior when you do so , because these people will give you a window into her life that few others will have at their disposal . if youre serious about your love for your female friend , expressing your genuine caring for her to her friends will likely earn you their respect , and maybe their approval . you dont have to bare your heart and confess your love to her friends try to earn the respect of her friends by being a nice guy . explain how youve noticed shes been stressed and ask what they think you can do . or mention that shes been a good friend and you want to do something nice , what do they think shed appreciate breakups , especially difficult breakups , will cause her to revise her love map , whether consciously or unconsciously . by showing her that you are different from her ex , youll make yourself a more desirable potential partner . science has shown that the chemicals released when you and her experience fear together are linked closely with arousal and attraction . thrilling experiences can give you both a dose of good anxiety , and set the tone for the next stage in your relationship . roller coasters and amusement parks are a great way to get the blood pumping without actually scaring her . a suspenseful thriller can also have this effect , though you might want to avoid slasher and gore - filled films . you dont want yourself associated with the homicidal , even if you do want her heart . the physical response you have to a workout mimics your bodys response to arousal . by exercising together , not only will you both be riding an endorphin high which shell start associating with you , but also , shell likely see you in a more attractive light . this may seem underhanded , but if you really are a good match and she just cant see it , your efforts to win her over can get a boost when supported by a trusted source , like her friends . if her friends think youre great , chances are shell agree . this can only work to your advantage while winning her heart . the more you hear something , the more youll believe its true . this same fact will work in your favor when winning over your female friend . you dont have call every five minutes , which might put her off , but by staying in sight or being around her frequently , youll reinforce the naturalness of your presence there . this may seem a little over the top , and you might not want to employ something as obvious as a candlelit dinner . after all , you dont want to come on too strong . however , studies have shown that large pupils are a signal to which your female friend will unconsciously respond . dilated pupils can be an indication of many things , but for your situation , most important is that pupils dilate when feeling physical or psychological pleasure . going to a movie as friends or a dimly lit coffee shop and making eye contact will send her subconscious the sign that you have chemistry . when you feel like youve met your perfect match , its easy to say too much too soon . holding back can be difficult , but by not giving her all the details , shell find her mind wondering more and more about you , which could lead feelings of friendship to something more . this can be tricky , as every woman will have a different level of flirtation she is comfortable with . take cues from her past relationships . what did you notice other guys did that worked what flopped remember , its important to respect her boundaries , even when trying to win her heart . compliment with a hint of sexiness . instead of saying that she looks good , you might instead say , if only my last date were as breathtaking as you . this way , you indicate subtly that you think you would be a good match while complimenting her . find ways to be physically close . in all relationships , closeness is a sign of comfort and intimacy . though keep in mind , some people need more personal space than others . dont force closeness find ways of naturally and comfortably coming together . the hushed atmosphere of museums makes whispering while standing close normal . allow your touches to linger . you will need to gauge her comfort level before attempting this , as an unexpected touch can come across as pushy . but physical touch releases oxytocin in the blood , sometimes referred to as the love hormone . if your female friend is externally dependent , that is , if she relies on people or things outside of herself to feel good about herself , its likely she will be thrilled if you chase after her . be wary of coming on too strong . many independent women consider that kind of behavior to be suffocating , which wont win you points in her book of love . this is your friend , and even if youve been suffering with these romantic feelings for a long time , the last thing you should want is to make her feel uncomfortable . strong emotions make it easy to get carried away dont allow your strong feelings to compromise your friendship . journaling about your feelings can help you feel less overwhelmed , which can be a powerful preventative for making a hasty , emotional decision . write a personal letter . this will help you get all the things you want to say down on paper , without having said them to your female friend . now you can think about whether these might come across as too strong the last thing you want is to scare her away , especially if theres potential for love . does she constantly want to hang out with you alone do you find her looking at you more frequently , or did she break up with a boyfriend for no particular reason that you know ofthese can all be signals that she is becoming interested in you as more than just a friend . this can be dangerous , as sometimes friends will make decisions on their own that they feel is best for your female friend . however , if she has a friend that you are also friends with , and trust , you can get a clear read on the situation by asking if you stand a chance . be sure you express yourself clearly has she said anything about me i really want to be the one to tell her myself , but ive been thinking lately that we might be good as more than friends . as her friend , this will be a lot easier for you to determine than some stranger off the street . pay attention to her work schedule , home life , social life , and any other factor that might be adding stress to her life or making her unhappy . you dont want these to influence her decision negatively . to give yourself the best odds , you should ask on a clear , comfortable day , when she is not too tired or stressed . unfortunately , as uncomfortable as being vulnerable can be , this is the only way you are going to be able to express your feelings for your female friend . but you can take comfort in the fact that everyone at some point feels vulnerable , and use this to your advantage . as an example , you might confess your feelings by saying , this isnt easy for me . im not the best at being vulnerable , and its always been hard for me to put my feelings out there . i dont want things to change between us if you arent comfortable , but lately ive been finding myself wondering about what it would be like if we went out on a date together . especially if the friendship is important to you and you want it to continue even if she isnt interested in dating , its important that you let her know this . you i hope im not making you uncomfortable by saying this , and i want you to know , no matter what happens , nothing will change on my end if you dont want it to . but i cant stop myself from feeling like there might be something more between us , and i have to know if you feel this way , too . this does not mean hire a string quartet and sing out your love in front of her apartment complex . the way you express your feelings will be unique to your relationship . if shes the type that likes grand gestures , maybe the string quartet is the way to go . but remember , you are shifting the nature of your relationship , and thats a big step already . be careful you dont say anything over the top , or jump into things too fast this may only hurt your chances with her . if youre pretty sure she likes you as more than just a friend , too , theres no harm in seeing where things go . if you can help her see you as a romantic interest , its possible love will grow from the friendship - it happens all the time . if she flirts with you sometimes , or says things like i can always be myself with you , and no one else , feel encouraged to open her eyes to your love for her . if she hasnt flirted with you or otherwise shown romantic interest , you can still reveal your feelings to her . while you cant control how shell react , you can be yourself and see if shed consider dating you instead of just being friends . she may like things just the way they are . revealing your feelings is going to be a game changer . if she says she likes you too , the relationship will change if she says shes not that into you , it will also change . worst case scenario , she wont feel as comfortable with you anymore , and she wont feel able to just go back to your normal friendship . respect her feelings and her answer . no matter how much you love her , you cant make her love you back . she doesnt owe that to you . if you really care about her , dont keep trying to win her after shes already turned you down .