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use body language . mimic his body language and mannerisms . strive to look your best around him . be confident during your interactions . spend a lot of time together . emphasize your similarities . get into some of his interests and hobbies . try to spend more time alone with him . initiate touch whenever possible . try asking him on a date indirectly at first . make the first move . take your time . be direct . prepare for possible rejection . you cannot control someone elses feelings . stay strong .

how to make your guy friend want to date you

flirtation often comes down to the right body language . if you want to send your guy friend the signal you want a relationship , work on flirting with your body when the two of you are together . if he is attracted to you as well , this can help romantic feeling develop . tilt your body towards him when youre having lunch together , watching a movie , or other times when you hang out . look him directly in the eye , bat your eyelashes and smile it may sound strange , but this is a form of flirtation that gets attention try to position your body the way his is when youre sitting together . place your hands and feet in the same position as his hands and feet . if youre having coffee , take a sip when he does . pick up some his expressions . if he has a tendency to say , wow , thats interesting , for example , use this phrase on occasion . dont make it too obvious . he may think youre making fun of him imitate his gestures on occasion , but dont copy every single thing he does . being attractive certainly helps someone notice you in a more than friends sense . when hanging out with him , dress your best . wear your most flattering clothes and , if you wear makeup , throw some on . looking stunning can definitely help attract someones romantic attention . wear clothing that makes you feel good about yourself and that you feel comfortable in . you dont have to try to look like anyone but yourself . if you lack self confidence , youre less likely to come off as attractive to other people . having a strong sense of who you are will help your guy friend notice you . do not simply agree with what he sees and smile and nod . show off who you are while flirtingthink about how you see yourself as a person . do you see yourself as smart , funny , spontaneous , serious , studious however you see yourself , work on showing off that side for him . for example , if youre a movie buff , dont hesitate to share your knowledge while the two of you hang out and watch movies . its natural to develop feelings for someone if you spend a lot of time with that person . try to frequent the same places he does . if you know he hangs out at a local coffee shop , spend time there . invite him out with your friends for group gatherings . go to social events where you know youll see him . if you go to school together , try to interact with him frequently at school . talk to him between classes . sit by him in class whenever possible . have lunch with him . people want to date those who are similar to them . if you have a lot in common , play up these similarities . do and say things to make him notice how alike you are . for example , if you both like a particular director , talk about movies by that director . maybe both of you are really interested in science fiction books or basketball . find your common ground and emphasize it if youre genuinely intrigued by some of his interests , explore them . for instance , you can listen to a band he likes and then chat with him about it the next day . you could even ask him to check out their concert with you . be yourself dont force yourself to be interested in things that dont appeal to you just because he likes them . as friends , you may already hang out alone sometimes . work on having a little more one - on - one time with him . this will give you a chance to get flirty in order to gain his attention . if youre nervous , go to a big social event and spend some time alone with him there . for example , ask him to a party and then find a cozy corner where the two of you can chat . you can also try to hang out one - on - one in casual settings . for example , grab a cup of coffee together after school . if youre having trouble getting a guy to notice you , try touching him whenever possible . this can help him think of you in a more romantic sense . for example , when youre having coffee together , try brushing his arm slightly when youre talking . lean into him a little while youre watching a movie together . do something flirty and playful , like tussling his hair . hug him on occasion . a cozy hug once in awhile can eventually lead to more . many people feel more comfortable transitioning into dating gradually . try asking him what hes doing this weekend and , when he responds , suggest something the two of you could do together instead . for example , bowling sounds fun this weekend , but i have tickets to this concert if you want to go with me . try asking him for advice on somewhere to go , and then ask him to go with you . for example , say where do you get good pizza in this town when he answers , say something like , oh , cool . hey , since you like that place , maybe we could go together . if hes not getting the hint , dont be afraid to make the first move many guys actually appreciate when a potential romantic partner makes the move for them . guys are shy too , so dont be afraid to make the first move . remember , this guy is your friend . this can help take some pressure off . a friend is more likely to be polite and let you down easy , as well . when asking him out , go at your own pace . rushing through things can make you look nervous , making you both feel anxious in the situation . you want to start things off in a good place , so slowly work your way up to asking him out when the time comes . do not rush through your words . when the two of you do interact one - on - one , allow conversation to happen naturally for a bit before making your move . if youre feeling nervous , take a few deep breaths to calm yourself . if indirect invitations arent working , its time to be bold about your feelings . simply say something like , so , i feel a strong romantic connection with you . would you like to go out on a date some time you want to proceed with your relationship , friendship or otherwise , with no confusion . while this may feel very bold , many people appreciate it when youre straightforward . you can also emphasize how important his friendship is to you . you could say something like , i really do love being your friend and if you arent into me in a romantic way , i just want you to know that i am happy with just being friends . nothing about our friendship will change . i want to continue having fun with you and being your friend . even if youve done everything right , theres still a chance your guy friend just wont see you in that way . remember this hurt will fade with time . while it seems like the end of the world now , you will eventually get over these feelings . everyone gets rejected at some point , so dont let it affect your confidence . besides , even if he doesnt feel romantically about you now , that doesnt mean hell always feel that way . stay positive no matter what happens , it doesnt reflect negatively on you as a person . you are awesome , with or without him

come up with a whole story line and stick with it . tell this whole story through and through , and again , dont be nervous . if someone asks how you kissed , dont say making out or tongues , but details on how you moved your tongues . try to avoid the setting your friend , you , and your crush were both in . if you want to be extra convincing , make a video that you were supposed to make about something else and then be tripped by him make it quick so its convincing and make all kinds of kissing sounds .

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dont change things around otherwise people wont believe you . putting in details will make it more convincing also . youll have to make this up . usually people would be very loud when seeing people kiss , or you could even hear them kiss , so it may be less convincing . try picking a place you know you and your crush like , or a hangout place . make sure it matches your story .

again , come up with a whole story , and stick with it . if you know how to write like your crush , write a note in his hand writing saying , will you go out with me , your name , if you prefer , tell a story if you really do have each others phone numbers . if you have an iphone , there are websites where you can make fake text messages . now come up with casual stories about dates and youre good to go

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dont change things around otherwise it wont be confusing . or something like that . this will be so convincing . say that he called you to ask you out , and if you can , show your call history , and make it seem like he called you at those times to ask you out and you know it was only to have a casual conversation really . you can do all kinds of settings to make it look like you really did text each other . make believe he texted , will you go out with me and you replying , yes .   you might want to avoid the banners that may appear on the pictures too that show where the picture was made from . that would be a dead giveaway .

all good relationships must come to an end . try to find days you know youll be absent right after those days to tell your friends you two broke up . act sad when you tell them the news , or even command yourself to cry . remember there is someone out there you wont have to lie about .

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try to come up with a reason . for example , it could be that he has cheated on you or any reason really , as long as you make it believable . this will be good as your friends will think you stayed home because you are trying to deal with the breakup . , youre true love will come any day .

notice the telltale sign of butterflies in your stomach . notice your inability to concentrate . recognize those dreams of a future together . consider whether you think about him or her every minute of every day . notice your daydreaming . note how music leaves you feeling . consider how easy it is for you to stay put . think about how it feels when youre apart . consider if suddenly you seem to care about what he or she thinks of you . think about how you feel when together .

how to know if youre falling for your best friend

the next time you see your best friend , note whether you feel tingly inside . when he or she talks to you , the words in your mind get tangled up in a huge knot and you dont know what to say . you try your best to get those words out of your mouth but it ends up that you just cant bring yourself to . if talking just became a huge challenge for you , it may be a sign youre falling in love . when you go somewhere and get bored . or , if you have extra time and feel like it , you take out your binder and a piece of paper and a few colored pencils and start doodling his or her name on the paper you brought out . you do this to make yourself feel that feeling , that feeling of love and a crush . when youre asleep at night , you dream of you and him or her living a carefree and happy life together . maybe you even dream about a honeymoon . sometimes you get this one dream where he or she asks you out , and you say yes , and until you wake up you feel that that dream is real––you never want it to end . if you try to stop it , you just cant . he or she has altered your mind somehow and you cant get him or her out of there , everywhere you go and anytime of the day thats all your imagination has in store for you , more of him or her . you sit down for a while and start writing , until you run out of ideas and you start to daydream about himher and you like it . until the point when someone snaps you out of it and you go back to reality . your daydreams seem timeless and you imagine that you and him or her are the only two people in the world . you start listening to slow love songs , and those songs explain a sweet love story and strangely remind you of him or her . then it becomes your favorite type of music for a long while . you listen to those songs again and again and you just cant get enough , pretty soon youll know every single one of the lyrics . if youre falling in love , youll likely find that you just cant settle down and you find yourself wanting more and more of him or her . maybe your friends also notice youve been acting strange lately . somehow you seem to be getting a little bit clumsy––you start getting clumsy because he or she is the only thing that seems to go around in your mind and nothing else . if you find you miss him or her at all times , its likely to be falling in love . you are hungry to meet up again , often . you find most happiness when youre both together , not apart . you just cant wait to hang out together again . more than before that is . this is an indicator of growing love . if you feel that you dont have to have a kind of mask around him or her and you feel like you can be yourself and express thoughts and feelings openly , things are off to a great and healthy start

pretty yourself up , flirt , flirt , flirt , talk about things you both like and throw in some jokes . be yourself . just come out and say it .

how to go from friend to girlfriend

your guy friend will notice the extra time you spend to look nice when youre around him and will appreciate it . all you need to do is do your hair in a pretty way straightened , curled , braided , etc . and put on some makeup . be careful not to put on too much makeup dont go overboard and look easy . if you need help with makeup , ask a friend , older sistercousin , or look up makeup guides on youtube . also , wear some cute clothes that you love and feel confident and beautiful in . try to make them a little form - fitting , but again , dont go overboard . he will never know that you want to be more than friends if you dont act like you want to be more than friends twirl your hair or play with his hair and dont forget to smile and laugh . dont act like an airhead , though be smart and confident . never play hard to get it will confuse him . just be a flirtier version of yourself . dont be afraid to talk to him hes your guy friend , isnt he talk to him about the usual stuff and throw in some humor here and there . try to see how he reacts when you ask to make plans to go see a movie or something . if youre not yourself , he will be more confused than ever . dont change who you were when you were just his friend whos a girl . be who you are , otherwise he wont get to know the real you dont make everything youve worked for with him a lie . ask him if he likes you , or tell him you like him . this might not be a great idea , but if you believe that all the signs are there , then go for it . if you dont say anything , youll always wonder what if i had told him that i liked him . dont regret not doing anything . if you take that leap of faith and he doesnt like you back , move on and ask him to try to stay friends . dont let it become awkward . dont let it get you down if he cant appreciate the real you then thats his loss and you dont need that .

minimize contact . put away items that remind you of the person . discuss how much time the two of you wont be in contact for one another . if either of you decides to date someone new , and you do want to maintain a friendship with them , then let them know what is happening . despite your best efforts , you may find that a friendship isnt possible for months , or possibly ever again .

how to go from dating to being friends again

after the breakup it is necessary to minimize contact for awhile . this does not mean that you should completely ignore the person , as it will lead to hurt feelings . instead try to create some space and time , so you both can heal . but if something not break up related comes up , feel free to share it with them . this way you are maintaining a dynamic without the intensity . if that is not possible , try to attach a positive emotion to it , but instead of a romantic one , try to think of it as something a friend or family member would have given you . this will also help with shifting your feelings for the person . take some time for yourself to go through both the good and the bad moments together . really decide if this person is someone who you want to be friends with . if you truly feel that you do want to be only friends , then you should re - establish contact again . during this time work on yourself too and do things that make you happy . it is important to find a time frame that works for both of you . when that time is up , make contact with the other person decide who will contact whom , and carefully ask them how they are doing . if either of you needs more time , then give it . dont let them find out from someone else , because that will definitely be the end of the friendship . but you must also realize that just because you were friends before , you can not discuss the details of your new relationship with them , as it would hurt too much . you may find you will never be able to do this again without jealousy coming from one of you . it takes time to heal , so keep that in mind . all you can do is be patient . but you may find that you have both grown apart , or dont have anything left to give . if that the case , then that is okay . just remember the good times , what youve learned , and move on . sometimes the best thing really is to let go , and let other opportunities come your way .

know that jealousy masks deeper emotions . evaluate your girlfriends self - confidence . find out about your girlfriends past . pay attention to her . establish boundaries . avoid things that can legitimately be considered threatening . make plans on your own . utilize social media . immerse yourself at work . become friendly with your girlfriends female friends . compliment other women . speak to women in front of her . bring a third wheel .

how to make your girlfriend jealous

jealousy is natural and often something that we cannot control . if you choose to make your girlfriend jealous , understand that you may unearth some feelings that she is not ready to deal with like insecurity or shame . jealousy stems from being self - critical . be careful how you choose to make your girlfriend jealous because she might already have an unhealthy perception of herself . your girlfriend may have experienced damaging relationships in the past but be too ashamed to tell anyone or she might have consciously moved past it however , subconsciously , she still may suffer from its negative effects . shame can influence how jealous and insecure your girlfriend will become so avoid exploiting her innermost sensitivities . do not open old wounds . if she has shared something intimate with you , you will damage your relationship by using it against her . whether youre trying to make her jealous to reignite your relationship or as a playful prank , learn what will trigger her jealousy . the attention you pay her will not only allow you to learn how to make her jealous but it will also create a bond . consequently , be aware that the stronger your bond the more toxic jealousy can become . some people are more sensitive than others so be aware of what triggers will push her too far . for example , some girls may find playful flirting with strangers amusing while others may find it very disrespectful and will end a relationship over it . tread lightly . dont go too far with this charade . ask yourself what youre hoping to achieve by making your girlfriend jealous . evaluate what your relationship means to you and proceed with caution if you think that jealousy is the best course of action . relationships can be fragile if you introduce elements that can easily play on your girlfriends psyche . no matter how open - minded she says she is , its easy to play up her paranoia with logic . for example , keeping a relationship with an ex may easily bring about jealousy . if she says that she does not want you to interact with someone , do not use this against her . her paranoia is already at high alert so breaking your promise will do irreversible damage . avoid using an ex to make her jealous . knowing that you already have had a romantic relationship makes it easy to believe you can rekindle it at any moment . do not mention high profile friends . whether you have mutual friends that are on tv , play professional sports , or have high paying jobs , their social status makes them an alluring romantic pursuit . your girlfriend may easily become jealous if you show too much favor to a high profile friend . make plans to watch sports or hit the bar with your buddies . make your girlfriend jealous by showing her that you have a healthy social life . dont make her feel like a burden or that she isnt fun to be around . this is just meant to show her that you are fun to be around . like a photo or leave fun comments to friends that you know she will see . social media can be open to interpretation . your girlfriend may easily become jealous if your social media is littered with likes towards other women . it can also be filled with inside jokes or photos of experiences that she was not there for . your job can be an easy source of jealousy because you probably can spend a lot of time at work and justify it as ambition . be careful if she becomes jealous of your relationship with a coworker because her paranoia may end up costing you your job if she begins asking other coworkers about the two of you . worse yet , your girlfriend may reach out to your coworkers husband or boyfriend and you could ruin your coworkers relationship unintentionally . whether you increase your social media interactions or invite them out to activities , your girlfriend may become jealous if your interest in her friends suddenly increases . this is especially effective if the friend you choose is single or has complimented you in the past . be careful if you get too close to her best friend as it may cause deep emotional damage . learn the dynamics she has with her friends so as not to open up deeper issues . one of her friends may have a history of stealing men . compliment celebrities on tv or strangers within your line of sight . your girlfriend may become jealous because she may automatically compare herself to that person . celebrities are an especially easy target as the media is obsessed with body image and managing persona . while it is perfectly acceptable to interact with any gender , your girlfriend may become jealous if your interactions play on her insecurities . only you will know what is appropriate and what will make her jealous . some women dont mind if playfully touching and joking with a waitress while your girlfriend may become jealous if you smile at your server the wrong way . invite a mutual female friend with you to an activity that normally only you and your girlfriend do together . be cautious not to make this an obvious wedge but rather a harmless afterthought . say something like , i invited julia hiking tomorrow . she said she hasnt been to eagles canyon so i told her wed pick her up if she wanted to join us . this shows that you have been paying attention to other women without being immature or obvious .

dont flirt with this person anymore . flirt with his acquaintances . seem busy . if you are dating this player , look great , and make sure everything about you is perfect . be a bad girl . begin playing him . if the player starts to get more and more clingy , saying stuff like i need you , and other junk , start to let him in a little bit . make the decision .

how to play with a bad boys heart

if he is flirting with another girl a lot , then dont care it might hurt inside , but assume that you are the most attractive person on this earth and that you can get any guy . confidence makes guys melt . got a facebook make it obvious to the player that you are interested in someone else , only if they show the interest in return . write on their walls , exchange gifts , etc . people look at everyones stuff on facebook at some point . plan things . do stuff with friends . have other guys notice you , and notice them . make the whole thing a game . players are difficult to deal with , and no one wants you to get hurt . act in your comfort zone , and dont change for anyone else except around the player and some of his friends . dont ever give in to the player , and dont betray any of your friends . they are there for you , and if you are a good friend , they will be there in return . take special moments to get close to him , and right after seem like there is no connection . be nice , but at the same time , seem like you have no idea that you are not giving the player the attention he wants . players live off of attention . they would not survive if they did not get the attention they wanted . seem interested in him , but when the time comes , be nice but uninterested at the same time . talk to other guys , flirt with other guys especially . do not do things that all players want from girls , but seem interested ever so slightly . will he play you , or have you reeled him in do not do the things that all players want girls to do wait a couple of weeks , see what he does and how to work with each other . if you want a relationship with this guy , you need to judge if he is really capable of that . if you just wanted to play this fool , forget about him , and dont talk to him anymore . he will probably feel the same way girls have felt when he used them .

accept that this is a transition . be aware that when crushing you may have formed an ideal of your boyfriend . tell people that the two of you are dating . be comfortable in your boyfriends presence . be affectionate . care for your boyfriend . aim to have fun . care for your own needs .

how to stop treating your boyfriend like a crush

this is the first part of allowing yourself to be the partner and not the crush for your boyfriend––acknowledging that the fantasy phase of the chase has ended and the reality phase of coming together and forming a relationship is now truly underway . also accept that making a good relationship requires effort––it doesnt just happen . when put to the test during actual dating , your ideal of what you dreamed him to be and the person he really is may conflict . realize this when it happens and learn to respect and love the person he actually is , rather than the one youd imagined he be . this can be a weird stage in your relationship but its vital that you can tell the difference between your preferences and the reality of the person youre now dating , so that you dont have too unrealistic expectations . if you keep it under wraps for too long , itll feel like youre still crushing , keeping things to yourself . it will become fairly obvious to people that youre acting differently and in time , people will see the two of you together , so it is important to decide with each other early on that youll announce to others that youre dating . this definitely shifts things out of the crush zone . this means letting down your guard and letting him see the real you , not just flirty you . having a crush on somebody usually means flirting with them , and giving subtle signs of your interest . try being more open about your feelings . now that youre a couple , there should be no need to hide how you feel . if you do feel the need to hide aspects of yourself , this is a warning sign that the relationship isnt good for you . show him some love in front of people . try to hug each other whenever you see each other , or just have him hold you in his arms when you guys are hanging out . dont keep your feelings limited , you not crushing anymore . do the small things that show him that you care about him , such as noticing when hes down and trying to cheer him up , being someone he can talk to without judgment and helping it out when he has a problem . make it clear to him that hes not replaceable . support him in his endeavors . turn up to his sports matches and cheer him on . clap loudly if he receives an award at school . tell others about his achievements . thats what a relationship is largely about , enjoying each others company . keep up your own interests and activities , be involved in your schoolwork and stay in touch with your friends . your relationship with your boyfriend is an important part of your life but it isnt all of your life and the best thing you can do for your relationship is to continue cultivating all those things that make you unique and strong .

calm yourself before going up to the person . approach them and ask for their email . dont overreact if they dont exchange emails with you . give himher your email if they say yes .

how to get a crushs , boyfriends , or girlfriends email 1

pull yourself together so that you have the guts to ask your crush what hisher email is . take a deep breath in , count to 5 , and exhale , this will help relax yourself . play out the situation in your head and think about what you want to say . to get their email you have to find them first . look for them in places they usually go to . after youve spotted your boyfriend , crush , or girlfriend walk over casually and strike a conversation , dont walk up to them and ask for their email right away then leave , as this will only seem rude . once he or she is about to leave , suggest trading emails . just drop it if he or she says that they do not have an email address or if they decline your offer . if they say no , be cool about it and dont bug them about it in the future . make sure the person confirms they do have an email address , and dont be too anxious about sending an email to them , however dont email them the day you trade emails as you may seem desperate to the person .

get together two or three of your friends in a class that you all including your crush have together . begin to talk and trade emails . if done correctly your crush will come to see what youre doing . explain to himher that you are trading emails . have one of your friends invite himher to swap hishers email also . heshe should now be giving everyone , including you , hisher email . when you get home that day enter hisher email into your address book . send himher and all of your friends who were swapping emails a test email . if heshe emails you back , great , if you dont get a reply , dont worry

how to get a crushs , boyfriends , or girlfriends email 2

tell them about you plan to get you crush , boyfriend , or , girlfriends email . all 3 - 4 of you get some paper and start swapping emails , obviously you would already have your friends emails , youre only doing this to get their attention . try to talk and laugh really loud not too loud youll look obnoxious this will make himher curious and they may come over to your group of friends . even though it may be scary to talk to your crush , boyfriend , or girlfriend , try to sound confident and have a nice smile on your face when talking to them . you could also ask them yourself if youre comfortable asking . write their email in your notes so you wont forget , they may not give you their email again if you ask a second time . , say something like just a test email , reply if you get this . you now have them hooked . reply saying something along the lines of hi , how was your weekend noteonly ask this if its monday or tuesday , otherwise it just seems odd . have one of your friends casually ask himher hey , did you get - insert you name here - s test email heshe should then that afternoon check their email and reply to you . understand that your crush , boyfriend , girlfriend , has other things to do and cant text you all day long .

observe her body position when she is with you . study her eye contact . notice how much she touches you . keep track of how often she cancels plans or is too busy to go out . notice the type of dates she wants to have . pay attention to how she behaves with you in social gatherings like a party . take notice how often she calls or texts . pay attention to how she talks to other guys . listen to what she says about other guys . see if she gets jealous . notice what kind of fights you have with her . ask her how she feels about your relationship . listen actively when she is talking . make changes based on the conversation .

how to know if she doesnt like you anymore

a closed body position is one where her body is pointing away from you , her arms are crossed , or she is hunched over to take up less space . closing her body position sends signals that she is uncomfortable or nervous about something . if she is doing this consistently in a relationship , it may be a sign shes not that into you . if your girlfriend used to stand close to you with her arms down or on her hips , but now she turns away and crosses her arms when you talk , she is telling you that she isnt interested in talking anymore . if she conveys closed body language every time you are together , it is probably time to rethink your relationship because she might be wanting to end it . eye contact is an important factor in body language and can convey a persons emotions . if your girlfriend keeps her eyes locked onto yours while you talk then no problem , but if you find her avoiding eye contact , something may be wrong . if she darts her eyes around , looking at many different things while you talk to her , it might also be a sign that she isnt enjoying the conversation or being with you . physical touch is one way that girls use to flirt with and show interest in a guy . things like putting her hand on your chest , holding your hand , or brushing her fingers through your hair all show that she is interested in you . if your relationship started with a lot of physical touch from you , but now she hardly gives any at all , it could be time to talk to her about where the relationship is going . a change in the amount of public displays of affection , like holding hands , can also be a warning sign . when a girl isnt interested in a guy anymore , she might stop touching him all together and go out of her way to avoid any sort of physical touch . cancelling plans is a red flag that something may be wrong . while circumstances often occur with valid reasons to miss a date , if it happens more than 50 of dates , youre in the danger zone . when a girl starts to repetitively cancel plans or is always busy , she is sending a clear message . a girl that is interested in you will make herself available and want to spend time with you , so if you find your girlfriend constantly ditching plans , take it as a sign . if you see a pattern of canceled dates or if she constantly has other plans it is time to sit her down for a heart to heart . if she is always inviting friends to meet up with on your dates or suggesting group or double dates , this could be a sign that she doesnt like being alone with you anymore . if she is constantly leaving in one room to go talk to another group of people this might be a sign that she doesnt enjoy spending time with you anymore . likewise , going to parties and social gatherings without inviting you is also a sign that something might be wrong with your relationship . girls like to talk , so if your girlfriend is calling or texting a lot less than she did in the beginning of the relationship then consider it a warning . if you are constantly the one making the calls or sending the texts first , it might mean she is beginning to lose interest in you . if your girlfriend is checking out or flirting with other guys in front of you , she is probably looking to get out of the relationship . if she talks about other guys more than she mentions other girls , or if she consistently compares you to other guys , it might be a sign that shes ready to end things . she could be friendly to everyone , but if it comes on suddenly , there are many examples of comments that should raise a flagthat guy in my math class is so smart i bet he would be a good tutor for me or i met this guy at the gym yesterday and he was lifting 150 pounds he couldve lifted me the new guy is kinda cute i wonder where hes from . girls will naturally get a little jealous if you flirt with or check out another girl in front of her . she may also get mad , and this could easily lead to unnecessary confrontation , or push her away . if your girlfriend doesnt care that you are flirting with the waitress on your date then you might want to reconsider your relationship . try flirting with or being overly friendly to other girls on a date to see how your girlfriend reacts . fights are bound to happen in all relationships , but if they start occurring more frequently , there might be a problem . if arguments over little things start to become big blow - outs every time , you should take some time to evaluate your relationship . she may be starting to lose interest in you romantically . the best way to have a good relationship is to be honest . ask her openly how she feels , and be willing to work through any problems if you want to stay together . give her your full attention , and participate in the conversation . rephrase what she says and repeat it back to show you understand just to be sure i understand , youre saying . allow her to speak without interrupting or arguing . ask questions to clarify and elaborate on what she is saying . through honest communication you can discover the root of a problem if one exists . once shes shared her feelings youll be able to determine how to move forward in your relationship . there may be nothing wrong and youre overthinking things . if she is ready for things to end , bringing up the problems may make it easier to handle . if shes upset and you want things to work , youll know what you need to change to keep her happy .

be yourself and stay who you are . do not change the way you dress , the way you look , or apply new make - up . let him notice you . talk with other guys in places where your target guy will see you doing so , if its normal for you to talk to guys . if he just sees you with guy friends in general no flirting or anything , or doesnt even listen to your conversation , do not stare at him at all , or dont stare at him as much as you usually do . make him want your attention . do not act like your all that andor popularconceited or something in any way . be friendly and nice to him . act normal for you and how you feel is cool around him and act as if you never stared at him or liked him .

how to make a guy at school you hardly see jealous of other guys

you shouldnt change yourself for a guy because then he will like the fake you and not the real you , and thats not good . that is taking the wrong direction . dont go there . do whatever you feel like doing and act however you feel like acting . dart if you feel like . if you usually pick your nose , pick your nose wear what you like , say what you like , act how you like . do whatever you feel like . if youre genuinely a quiet , calm , serious sort of person be like that . if you are really kinda crazy , be crazy if he doesnt like you for who you are , hes not worth it . he would rather see your face and real body then all that fake glob on your face and clothes that show your body off . its okay to put on some make - up , maybe even a little blush or something else whatever you want but - dont use what you feel is too much . its for your own good . he wont see the real you if you put fake stuff on you when your really beautiful inside and out . do not care what other people think of you , say about you , or anyone who doesnt like you in a mean way . again , if he doesnt like you for who you are , he is not worth it . a guy is not going to like you right away just because he sees you walking in the hall to class . try to get him to catch you glancing at him at least a few times . get him to stare at you through sheer willpower . as said earlier , if you arent the bold , chatty type who finds it easy to talk to guys , dont do this , as you wont be being yourself if you talk to boys just to get another guy to be jealous when you wouldnt normally . when around him such as lunch , in the halls , or before and after school , let him start seeing you either talking to another guy , flirting with another guy , staring at another guy , or just with guy friends in general . before you do that , be sure he knows that you know he is around by force of will . dont glance at him as you do this . he may think youre trying to make him jealous and thats a turn - off . for example , say youre in lunch , and he sees you with friends . do a dance move randomly if you are the kind of person that does this normally , or go to a guy and put your arm around him . do something like similar to this . other ways to make them want your attention include having something noticeably in common . notice what hes into and if you are into it too , advertise that if you have a band tee - shirt he does , wear it . if you have a book youve noticed him reading , let him see you reading your copy , or something similar . wear his favourite sports teams colours or some supporters gear , carry your binder decorated with greenpeace symbols if he has one , take your flute to school if he plays flute or join the chess club if hes in it . look for things you like that he likes and use them to make a connection . again , do not change yourself for him . this will just mess you up , unless you are being true to yourself doing so . lots of people are conceited , do think they are all that and believe that they are incredibly popular , when they actually arent . if thats you , dont change , be yourself . be nice to him , if the opportunity arises even though you dont know home . be polite , hold the door for him , say hi , let him go in front of you in a queue , these acts are about all you can do with a boy you dont know and hardly see . also , smile . happy girls are the prettiest . dont notice him and let him see you with other guys as much as possible . hell be eating out the palm of your hand in no time

see if he ignores you . when he does get in contact with you , does he say youre annoying or dont talk to me or stop texting me . when he sees your attention on other boys , pay close attention to his reaction . if he sees you with just people that get along with you in general , whats his point of view , does he avoid you . does he talk bad about you to other people . when you dont give him attention , does he care . from here on out , youll see if he still wants to continue having you in his life . always remember this in the end , the truth always comes out no matter what happens . remember this saying , to the more you hate someone , the more you love someone . good luck i wish you the best

how to know if a guy secretly wants you back after a fight

if he does , this simply means he doesnt know what to say to you because he doesnt want you to know that he wants you back . he just wants you to hang on to him . if he does , then he digs you and is hiding his feelings . unless you have either texted him to much or if you were in person you could have been calling his name too much and he got annoyed with it . in that case you should just leave him alone if he has already gotten fed up with you . let him cool down and hell want you back again and feel guiltysorry for being mean to you , trust me on this one please if he sees you with other boys , does he seem jealous or he doesnt care does he do something to try to get your attention or he ignores it is it shock o , anger , or is it guilt because he loves you and wants you back see his reaction to it . if so , he may not be in the mood for talking , or is thinking of a way to secretly get you back without knowing and avoiding could be one of the ways he is doing it to get you going and obsessed with him . if so , he may be jealous of the people that your giving attention to and is saying bad thingsfacts about you to turn them off and so they wont even want to hang out with you anymore . this is the most important step you need to follow . this is the most important thing you need to check out . how is he when you dont pay attention to him at all even if its for just one day or a few days maybe even weeks or months , see how he is with you . , . . true fact . the saying goes on and on and on . . . p

spend extra time on your appearance . look different . wear red . dont go overboard with your outfit . make sure your crush has seen you around . get more involved .

how to catch your crushs attention 1

take the extra 10 or 15 minutes you need to look your absolute best before you see your crush . even just small things can change you from someone in the background to someone who catches their attention . not only can looking your best make your crush notice you , it can also give you the confidence boost you need to approach your crush . pay attention to your hair . even doing a quick comb through can make a big difference . for girls especially , straightening or curling their hair can give them a confidence boost . if you wear makeup , make sure that it is applied well and will last all day . also make sure that you are taking care of your body in general by getting enough sleep and taking care of your skin so you look fresh and healthy . dressing differently than the people around you is a good way to get noticed . this works especially well if you are in an environment where everyone dresses in a similar way . if people at your school dress similarly or in uniform , wear a statement necklace or a pair of cool sneakers to catch the attention of your crush . if you are in a professional work environment , wear something that is appropriate but different . for instance , wear a collared shirt with an interesting pattern or a sparkly headband . if red is your color , go for it . studies show that both genders are more attracted to people when they wear red . pull out a red dress or shirt from your closet to get your crushs attention . if you dont like wearing red , choose another bright color to help you stand out from the crowd . when trying to impress a crush , its easy to take it too far . you want to look nice , but remember to wear clothing thats appropriate for the situation . for instance , if your crush is in your yoga class , dont dress for class like youre headed to the red carpet . remember that everything is better in moderation . this goes for perfume and cologne as well . do your best to be in the line of sight of your crush . if you are in the same class , try to sit near or in front of him . if you see him at the gym , work out nearby . do this until you are sure that your crush has seen you and knows that you existdont do it to the point where youre around your crush more than you should be . theres a difference between making sure your crush sees you around and stalking your crush . get involved in whatever space you see your crush . if you go to school with your crush , join a sports team or an extracurricular activity . if you volunteer with your crush , take on more hours . becoming more involved will make you more visible and show you as a person with drive and purpose , which are both attractive qualities .

write a note and pass it to your crush . introduce the idea without saying anything . ask for help with something . let it slip out to someone else . find reasons to invite the person out . just flirt .

how to confess to your crush 1

notes are one of the most common and effective ways to confess a crush . it tends to be less awkward than in - person confessions , giving you some space and comfort if the person doesnt feel the same way . write a short note confessing your crush , and pass it to the person in person , or put it in their locker . make sure your note is hand - written , legible , and relatively short and to the point . it doesnt need to be clever , or overly romantic . just cut to the chase ive always noticed that you seem really sweet , kind , and cute . id love to get to know you better , because i really like you . when you want to confess to your crush , in person is always better than just over a text , or online . a note is a good balance , because it can be personal , but also gives you some space if youre nervous . if all else fails , having a conversation on the phone , or via skype is always preferable to texting it . in some cases , your actions can make your crush more obvious than saying , you know , i really like you . if your crush gradually becomes aware that you like them , itll be more natural and clear than having to say so bluntly . go out of your way to talk to your crush and bump into them in the hallway . change your routes so you see them regularly , and always make a point of saying hi . always make eye - contact . dont shy away from it , like youre embarrassed . make eye contact and smile flirtatiously when you see the person youre crushing on . show an interest in what they do and what they are like . try to get to know your crush as a friend first , before you confess anything . it may grow naturally . one great way to start a conversation or to get your crush talking is to ask some help with something simple . depending on who your crush is and what theyre like , this can get you into some flirtatious conversations . ask for help with a homework assignment for a class that youre in together . start with a compliment , like , you seem so smart in this class . do you think we could talk a little sometime about this assignment i need some help . pretend you lost something . hey , have you seen a book around here i just had it . when your crush helps out , say , youre so sweet . in some cases , a rumor started could actually work to your advantage . if you tell a friend that youve got a major crush on someone , and that gets around to a friend of your crush , which gets around to your crush , you might have done the job without really doing anything at all . then theyll know , and talking will be a lot easier . tell a couple of your friends , and dont be embarrassed about it . if it spreads , you can always deny it later . if you never actually said anything , therell be no evidence that you did anything embarrassing , or got rejected . never deny it , if youre really interested in someone . why would you care if someone knew you liked somebody thats nothing to be embarrassed about . the scariest thing is not knowing how your crush feels about you . its a lot easier to confess a crush bluntly if youre pretty sure that your crush likes you back . one great way of figuring this out is to invite your crush to some kind of event , like a party , or an after - school activity , which isnt necessarily a date . keep an eye out for things your crush might enjoy going to i know you really like marvel movies , so i thought you might want to come see the new iron man , because my dad gets extra tickets . i was just curious , thought you might appreciate them . if your crush gets really excited , or seems really flattered and really wants to go with you , take it as a good sign and take the next step when you get a chance . be friendly and flirty whenever you get the chance . this can do a whole lot more to communicate a crush than saying so out loud . talk to your crush the same way you might mess around with your friends , or other people youre comfortable around . just be yourself . tease your crush in a friendly way . find funny reasons to let your sense of humor out when you talk to them . instead of saying , hey , how are you today say something like , im thinking of organizing a jailbreak from school . need an accomplice . what do you say in or out theres not much romantic about the phrase , i have a crush on you . instead of telling someone , make it obvious that youre interested , so it will become unnecessary to say out loud .

meet your crushs friends . flirt non - verbally . start a conversation . talk about common interests . ask her about herself . be a good listener . compliment your crush . laugh at his jokes . stay in contact .

how to catch your crushs attention 2

if youre too nervous to talk to your crush , try to talk to his friends . if a friend of yours knows one of your crushs friends , go up together and chat . if you dont have any connections to your crushs friends , try to meet one or two of them by chatting about any circumstances you have in common , like a class or a work project . you could start a conversation with something as simple as , so whens the final project for english due again if you end up talking a lot to your crushs friends , youre bound to meet or hang out with your crush before long . becoming friends with your crushs friends is a way to get into your crushs good books . dont talk about your crush to his friends . if you start asking about your crush immediately after meeting them , it will be obvious that you like him . try to play it cool . if you feel nervous about approaching your crush , there are several things you can do to get her attention and appear interested . make eye contact and smile . eye contact and smiling shows that you are friendly and approachable , but you have to make sure not to overdo it . if your crush doesnt respond the first time , dont keep doing it . if youre a girl , play with your hair , especially if its long . twirl your hair around your finger or brush it to the side . drawing attention to your hair is a way of highlighting one of your assets . if youve never spoken to your crush before , its time to take the plunge . find a reason to talk to your crush , preferably when there arent many people around so you wont get interrupted . if you dont know your crush , talk about something relating to the circumstances that youre in . for instance , if you are waiting in line for something , ask your crush , hey , do you think the wait is worth it if you are in the break room at work you could say , have you tried the cookies susan brought in theyre really good asking a question is a good way to start a conversation . for instance , if you are in the same class you could ask , hey , what did mr . feinstein say the homework was again you could also ask for help . whether it be opening a jar , reaching for something , carrying a heavy suitcase , or getting help with homework , asking your crush for help is a great way to start a conversation . it also will make your crush feel good about himself , which is a good way to have your first interaction with him be a positive one . once you have started talking to your crush , talk about anything you may have in common . people are naturally attracted to people that they have things in common with , so talking about shared passions is a good way to create a bond . for instance , if are both on the school track team , ask your crush so how are you feeling about the next track meet asking your crush a question shows her that you find her interesting and want to learn more about her . since people like to talk about themselves , it also can be a good way to keep the conversation going . for example , ask your crush , so how long have you been working here , or , what other classes are you taking this semester after youve asked your crush about himself , you may be worrying about what you are going to say next , how you are going to respond to what hes saying , what to do if there is a lull in the conversation . all of this can be solved by listening . its difficult to listen to someone and also focus on how nervous you are — listening attentively should take your attention away from yourself and bring it to the subject at hand . try to respond with meaningful follow - up questions , or something that shows your crush you are interested and listening . if your crush is talking about taking scuba lessons , ask him how he became interested in diving , or where hes taking classes , or how long it will take to become certified . dont see a pause in the conversation as an opportunity to change the focus over to yourself . conversations should be give - and - take , so you shouldnt spend the entire time talking about your crush , but it also shouldnt seem like youre just waiting for him to take a breath so you can talk about yourself . showing that you are a good listener and genuinely interested in your crush and what he has to say can help him feel comfortable around you . if it doesnt make you too nervous , make eye contact with your crush to show that you are listening and engaged . dont stare — that could be a little too intense — but try to meet his gaze occasionally . show that youre listening by nodding or make an affirming sound like mmm hmm or right . as superficial as it is , people love flattery . while you are talking , try to compliment your crush on something . a compliment is also often a good way to keep the conversation going because it puts it on a new course . if you know your crush through a sport , you could say , ive seen you playing soccer . youre really good you could also just say , i like your shirt , or compliment her on some other aspect of her appearance . limit yourself to one compliment to avoid looking like you are sucking up to her . another way to flatter and connect with your crush is to laugh at his jokes . it shows your crush that you have a similar sense of humor and that you find him funny . laughing together is a great way of connecting and sharing a moment . as you laugh , you can even say , youre so funny if want to be extra flirtatious , touch your crushs arm while you laugh . this adds another layer of connection and is a way to make your crush feel closer to you . try to keep running into and talking to your crush . every time you see your crush in the hall or around town , say hello . pick up conversations from the last time you talked . if you feel like your crush likes you , amp up your flirtiness or even ask him out

define your style . speak your voice . use social media . use confident body language .

how to catch your crushs attention 3

take a look at your wardrobe . make sure that all your clothes feel like you , and arent just things that youve had for years and cant bring yourself to get rid of . your clothes are a great way to express yourself and show off your personality . if you have a very defined style , it can give your crush some idea of who you are and what youre about , which could make your crush interested in talking to you . if youre a sporty guy , wear your favorite teams jersey . if youre feminine and cute , embrace this side of yourself by wearing pastels and lacy clothes . if youre more of a rebel , wear band shirts and black jeans . dont copy your crushs style . just because your crush has a very preppy style , dont think you have to dress like youre going to a country club if thats not your look . you need to feel comfortable and feel like yourself in your clothes . make yourself heard when your crush is around . if you are in a class with your crush , participate and answer questions . voice your opinions and feedback in work or club meetings . even just try to chat with friends around your crush . this will give your crush a better idea of what kind of person you are . try your best to be cheerful and upbeat around your crush . people are naturally attracted to happy and confident people , so do your best to be positive when they are around . social media is a great way to reach your crush in an indirect way . even if your crush isnt your facebook friend or isnt following your social media , he still may see your posts or pictures through mutual friends . try to craft your social media presence to show you in the best possible light . make sure that your posts and pictures present you as a positive and interesting person . make sure that you arent tagged in any unflattering photos or photos of you doing anything inappropriate . even if your crush makes you feel nervous , do your best to act confident . stand up straight with a relaxed smile . dont cross your arms , look down at the ground or fidget these behaviors can make you look protective or nervous . also try to keep your body turned toward your crush as opposed to away from her .

dont wait . try to stay calm and cool . introduce yourself , if necessary . talk one - on - one , in person . have a specific date or event in mind to follow up with . just cut to the chase . dont worry about rejection .

how to confess to your crush 2

the best time to confess a crush right now . theres no use in waiting , because youre only giving your crush the opportunity to start dating someone else , or find someone else to crush on and forget about you . if you know someone and like them , the perfect time is now . the only time you should wait is when your crush is currently dating someone . telling someone that you like them while theyre in a relationship can make things kind of complicated . its best to find someone else to crush on for a while , and return to the person later when theyre single . despite what you may think , telling someone that you like them shouldnt be a big deal . even if they dont feel the same way , itll be such a nice thing to say especially if you approach them in a calm and cool way , being gentle and humorous in your approach . make it easy and try to take the pressure off yourself . build yourself up before you do it . look in the mirror and say , i got this . im a cool person my crush should want to be with . then go put yourself out there . look your best on the day you decide to do it . wear clean , stylish clothes that fit you well and flatter you , and make sure youre fresh - breathed and clean - haired . if you dont know your crush very well , it can be kind of difficult to confess a crush . the last thing you want to do is to take the risk of saying so and having them say , wait , who are you if youre not sure whether or not the person knows you , go up to them and introduce yourself . it doesnt have to be complicated hey , i dont know if you know me real well . were in the same grade , i think we had mr . robinsons class last year well , ive wanted to tell you something for a while . the best way to have this conversation is in private . its important that both of you feel as comfortable and calm as possible , to avoid making this a super - big - deal , but its also good to have a little privacy so its less embarrassing . passing between class periods can be a great time to catch someone really quickly . right after class or when youre leaving the same class is a good time , too . or , you could try to sit together on the bus . just hang back and say , hey , can i talk to you for a minute never go up to a crush while theyre in a big group , or try to confess in the middle of the lunch room while everyone can hear you . it can be really awkward if it doesnt end up going well . its a private conversation , so do it one - one - one . if you say , i like you and your crush says , i like you too , then what are you just going to say , well . cool . no its important to have a specific date in mind so you can follow up . if a dance is coming up , say , cool , i hoped maybe we could go to the dance together . would you like to if theres nothing school related , or youre not in school , say , i hoped we could get a bite to eat sometime . want to go for pizza this friday say around 7 in some cases , it might be better to not rush it . dont expect much of an answer if you tell someone that you like them . they may want to think about it for a while . thats a good thing . dont worry about waiting . the big moment doesnt have to be a big deal . theres no point in making it complicated , or super - creative , when the content is i like you . just introduce yourself , smile , and say , you know , ive wanted to say this for a long time . ive always noticed you , and you seem really cute and sweet . i find myself thinking about you . i like you a lot . dont follow a script when you try to talk . lots of people who feel awkward in this situation think it will be better if theyre reading from a script , but thatll just make you sound like a robot . talk naturally , as if you were talking to one of your oldest friends . you know what it happens . its happened to everyone . being rejected might sting a little at first , but its a whole lot better than wondering what might have happened if youd have said something , but didnt . youll grow up , youll move on , and so will your crush . just get out there and go for it . if you get rejected , just smile and say , well , im glad to know at least . have a good rest of your week . never complain , scoff , or do anything dramatic . even if youre feeling upset , at least you know now and can move on .

befriend them online first , if you havent already . make sure your crush isnt seeing anyone . talk to mutual friends about your crush . hang out in groups . pay attention .

how to confess to your crush 3

one good way to do a little research and get to know someone before you confess a crush is to be friends on facebook , or follow them on twitter . if youre waiting , stop waiting and reach out online first to make contact . having a couple of online chats can help break the ice when you finally talk in person . to get a conversation started when youre in person , you can bring stuff up that you already talked about online , or reference something that everyone saw on facebook that day . good ice - breaker . one of the most important things to find out before you confess a crush is whether or not your crush is currently seeing anyone . if they are , its probably a good idea to hang back , because you dont want to make things over - complicated for someone that you like . online is an easy way to check , or you can also just watch closely and see whether your crush seems to be committed . talk to mutual friends or ask around . reach out to friends and acquaintances if you want to learn more about the person youre crushing on . find a reason to hang out with people that are friends with your crush and just start asking about them . what do they like do they like anyone do you think theyd be interested all good questions to ask . remember , if it slips out , thats not the worst thing to have happen . might end up making your job and your stress a lot easier . find reasons to hang out with your crush , but not in the context of a date , or a one - on - one hang out . get to know them better by inviting them to do things with your group of friends . organize a simple group hang - out , like a movie night at someones house , or a group dinner somewhere , and invite your crush . if youre still worried about approaching your crush that way , have someone else ask . if you find out you dont actually like them , good . at least you didnt confess a little crush and make a mistake for someone you dont actually have that much in common with . if you want to learn more about someone and find out whether or not you might be good together , part of it is to just start opening your eyes a little . who does your crush seem to enjoy hanging out with what is their sense of humor like what do they like to do in their free time spend some time paying attention and watching not in a creepy way to learn as much as you can . watch for signs of body language when youre around each other . if your crush starts using closed body language , arms crossed and not making eye - contact , it could be a sign shes not interested in you . you might save yourself some grief .

dont be shy , talk about a subject heshe likes , preferably not about school . ask for help on your homework . over time , gain hisher trust by trusting them in return . be yourself . take an interest in hisher life . dont talk about personal stuff , such as ex - boyfriends or ex - girlfriends . dont dive in too fast or your crush will know you like himher .

how to become best friends with your crush

just run up to himher and say hi , then ask them if they want to sit with you at lunch , or something similar . dont flirt with himher , though . heshe may already be in a relationship you never know . youre aiming to get to know them as a friend , not a girlboy friend . if you cant come up with the courage to just walk up to him then pretend you are doing something for class and you need to talk to himher about the homework or lesson . you could try telling them you have to complete a class survey , which can be a really good way to find some information about the person , though it can be kind of risky if they find out there is really no assignment . while this may work in emergency situations long awkward silences , it doesnt give the impression that you want to know himher as a person . ask questions get to know them find out if you really do like himher after all , or if the crush is only skin - deep . if you dont get something , call him or text him and ask for help . this will show that you think they are intelligent . if you think you have lots of trust built up , ask them to come over to your house and explain something to you . tell himher some of your secrets , invite himher to places as friends , and just do things you normally do with your friends . you dont need to fake anything youre just trying to get himher as a friend . buy himher cute gifts , see hisher games if hesshes in sports , and just visit himher occasionally . it might make himher feel uncomfortable . and dont gush about feelings or problems , theyll start to think you are over - excited .

pick a good time . greet them casually . compliment them on something . note their body language . find common ground . find a reason to continue the conversation . offer an invitation . set yourself up to feel good . remember theyre just like you . smile and make eye contact . give yourself a pep talk .

how to be good at conversations with your crush

since theyre your crush , you probably have a general idea of their schedule . think about when youll see them in class , in the hall , or during free periods . figure out a time when you know youll be around them and will have time to strike up a conversation . use common sense and change your plans if you need to . if you planned to talk to them at recess but see them cramming for a test or having a heated discussion with a friend , postpone your chat . you dont want to force them into a conversation when theyre busy . a nice , hey whats up works as a conversation starter in almost any situation . its an informal way to start the conversation , rather than launching into a pre - planned spiel . additionally , your crush might let you know if it is a good time to talk or not . if they say , im just in a hurry to meet someone at the library then you know it might not be a great time . it may sound silly , but using your crushs name can induce some warm fuzzy feelings right off the bat . saying , hey , brad sounds much more personal than hey if you cant make whats up flow off the tongue naturally , open with anything that feels natural to you . you can say something like , are you excited for class today , did you watch the new episode last night , or anything else that can smoothly start a conversation . it doesnt have to be anything major , but its an easy way to get in their good graces right from the start and hopefully launch into a full - fledged conversation . you can tell them that you like their new haircut , a piece of clothing , or any other appearance - related thing . noticing something and complimenting it shows your crush that you pay attention , and provides them with the opportunity to tell you about it . if applicable , you could also mention a recent accomplishment or noteworthy achievement of your crush . you can say anything from , congrats on winning that football game last saturday i heard you played great , to , i liked what you said in class today and i totally agreed . if they engage in conversation with you but continuously look at their phones , glance over their shoulder , or angle their body towards the closest exit , wrap it up . they might be saying friendly things but their focus is not in the conversation , for whatever reason . if they are facing you , listening to what youre saying , and making eye contact , proceed . this could be anything , from the crazy history teacher you both have monday morning to how your little brothers are best friends . finding common ground is a great way to not only find something to talk about , but to forge a real connection . if you cant think of common ground , create some if you dont have any of the same classes or social circles , find something to connect over . if you know he absolutely loves a certain genre of music , tell him you started listening to it and want some recommendations . if you know he is passionate about a cause , ask him how you can learn more and get involved . it doesnt matter if you are total opposites– find something that you can bring up to relate to him and bond over something . not only will you show your crush that youve taken note of what he is interested in , you can also truly learn something new about both him and about whatever subject matter you discuss . if youre shy and this is your first time speaking to your crush , conquering your fear and talking to them is a victory in itself . if you want to take it a step further , try to find a to be continued… moment . for example , if you discuss a television show you both enjoy , say something along the lines of , well , we will have to discuss again after next weeks episode this ensures that you will talk to them again . if youre bold , you can ask for their phone number , social media info , or email address . then , you can continue chatting outside of school . this is the next step if youre feeling particularly bold . even if its something simple like studying for the exam you both have , it will guarantee that youll get more face time with your crush . this doesnt have to be a date - it can still just be two people getting to know each other better . the romantic part may come later . no matter how eager you are to talk to them more and spend time with them , it is best to let things evolve naturally . dont hit them up for their phone number three minutes after meeting them . sometimes , it helps to get your confidence up before approaching your crush at all . do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel good– wear a new t - shirt , spend a little extra time doing your hair , or pump yourself up with your favorite song . embrace those days when you just feel great about yourself , and strike up a conversation then . if you feel good , youll exude that confidence . wearing a lucky shirt , standing up straight , and visualizing a great conversation in your head are all additional ways to give yourself that boost of confidence you need . if doesnt matter what you do to feel good , just do it no matter how cute , smart , funny , or cool your crush seems , they are a person just like you . they feel awkward sometimes , they want to be liked , and they want to make friends just like you do . try not to put them on a pedestal , because it will only make talking to them even more intimidating . for all you know , theyve been admiring you from afar this whole time . you owe it to both of you to try . no matter how anxious or shy you may feel on the inside , its important to look like youre calm , cool , and collected . flash them a big smile and try to look at them when you speak . show them that youre sure of yourself , and they will automatically be impressed . when you speak to your crush , make sure that youre facing them , speak loud enough to be understood , and use a friendly tone . you can also lean towards them to better hear what theyre saying . if you look terrified , theyll most likely feel a bit awkward . camouflage your nervousness and summon up all of your confidence . you are a smart , capable , and charming person . think of your best qualities , and all the wonderful things you have to offer the people around you . love and appreciate your strengths , and thats all that matters . your crush will either see that and be grateful to speak with you , or they will be silly and its their loss . go forth and conquer also , try to calm yourself down right before you talk to your crush . whether you listen to some calming music , go on a walk , have a quick chat with a good friend , or watch a funny video , calming yourself down will help you get rid of the jitters that can come with talking to your crush .

find out why they hate you through a friend . address any misunderstandings . apologize and make things right , if needed . choose a good time to talk . smile . try easy conversation starters . discuss mutual friends . draw on joint activities . ask about their interests . be kind , not argumentative .

how to talk to a crush who hates you

seek out a mutual friend to better understand why your crush might hate you . sometimes your crush doesnt hate you at all , and your perception is wrong . you could ask a friend by saying , id really like to get to know john better , but i think he hates me . do you know if theres any truth to that your crush might hate you because of a misunderstanding . clearing this up can bring you two closer together . lets say you found out from your friend that your crush saw you in their open locker , and this is the reason they hate you . you could approach your crush and try to clear things up . for example , you could say , hey , i think you may dislike me because you believe i stole something out of your locker . i wanted to let you know that the reason i was in your locker at all was because the school administrator thought no one was using it . she opened it for me with a master key . it was purely an accident . you could say , i totally understand why you might think that was a strange thing to see . if i were you id probably think so too . if your crush has a real reason to have bad feelings towards you , apologize to them to try to make things right . be genuine in your apology and try to say plainly that what you did was wrong . dont try to justify your actions . for example , if your crush hates you because you made fun of them in public , you could say , hey , ive had some time to think about that , and i wanted to let you know how sorry i am . that was not right . another apology could go , im sorry i participated in that mean prank we pulled on you . i really regret doing it . find a good time to approach your crush when neither of you is busy . by catching them at an opportune moment , theyre more likely to be receptive to conversation . make sure you pick a time when they are not busy working on something or engaged in conversation with someone else . if you see your crush sitting on a bench , you could say , hey , mind if i sit with you or its a beautiful day out , isnt it a smile makes you seem happy and open . to appeal most to your crush , flash them a smile to let them know youre feeling friendly . if you feel intimidated , imagine your crush as an old friend to feel more at ease . if youre not sure what to say when you approach your crush , try some easy phrases that can kick off any conversation . these dont have to be particularly loaded or customized to your crush , just break the ice . you could say , so , what are you up to this weekend or have you done anything fun lately other examples are do you know what the weathers supposed to be like this week or what was the highlight of your day today , if you and your crush have friends in common , they can be a great source of conversation . try to incorporate your mutual friends in a group hangout or simply discuss how you got to know someone you are both close to . you may discover new things in common . you could say , i met damien in cross country because we both love running . i think youre friends with damien too . how did you guys meet or sarah and i met at a poetry slam . i think i saw you hanging out . how do you guys know each other its possible you and your crush already have certain activities like sports or classes in common . to make for easy conversation , try to draw on shared experiences at school . for example , you could say , i thought school assembly was really funny on tuesday . what did you think or did you see the school soccer match friday night it was really close . ask your crush thoughtful questions about their hobbies to engage them in a positive way . it shows youve been paying attention to the things that are important to them and are interested in getting to know them better . you could say , i noticed you play tennis . did you watch wimbledon this year or i liked the cookies you brought in to homeroom . whats your favorite thing to bake , do not engage your crush in a debate or argument , which can feel badgering , even if you like to do that with your friends . try to be your kindest most appealing self . you can do this by paying an earnest compliment or exhibiting common kindness . for example , you could say , hey , i really like that sweater . it looks nice on you , or i bought an extra soda at the vending machine . would you like to have it

find common interests . start off as friends . be a good listener . be yourself . have confidence . be approachable and kind . take care of your appearance . avoid over - analyzing the situation . make time to talk one - on - one . use your body language . flirt with your crush . give them space .

how to be close to your crush

one of the simplest ways to be closer is to find activities and interests that you and your crush both like . talk with your crush about something they like . identify the interests that match your own , and spend more time on those activities . consider asking things like , whats it like being on the soccer team i used to play soccer or i noticed that you like to draw . what kind of things do sketch i like to sketch in a journal sometimes . do more of the activities that you both enjoy . just make sure that not all your time is spent on this . look at the ways that you and your crush are different . sometimes getting to know someone involves seeing how common interests may be different in approach . though your romantic feelings may be hard to control , its important to get to know the real person that is your crush . wouldnt you want that person you like to be someone you also want to be friends with if you dont feel like your crush would be a good friend , or that your interests are too different , think about what that may mean . would you want to be close with someone who you dont think would be a good friend allow your friendship to lead into romance , rather than the other way around . dont rush into something . try to find ways to keep your mind off your crush , and focus on how to be their friend first . consider asking your crush and his or her friends to hang out with you and your friends for a weekend event . keep the interactions casual at first , rather than trying to find out if he or she likes you . make an effort to listen to what your crush likes . be positive and smile . give signs that you are listening to what he or she is saying . dont be distracted by other things . dont avert your eyes due to shyness . when you actually listen to what your crush is saying , and not just think about the way he or she looks , youll be able to really know what the person is like . after listening , consider responding with , thats really interesting or wow , thats cool . ask follow - up questions . when you are actively listening to your crush , youre paying attention to what he or she is saying . ask for details about what they are talking about , or clarification if something sounds confusing . its important to be your true self . be honest about what you like and dont like . dont try to be fake , or someone that you hate . think about what things matter to you . act and dress in a way that feels comfortable and natural to you . you are a unique and amazing person . get yourself some credit , and be proud of who you are and what youve done . you dont need to shy away from being yourself , and showing others that you are confident . be positive , and surround yourself with other people who are positive . kindness is key . while being approachable and friendly may get your crush to notice you , they may be hesitant to be your friend , or let you be close if youre rude , cold , or stand - offish . try to overcome your shyness by at least having a short conversation . consider compliment your crush . or talk about something that you both are doing . consider saying things like , i like your shirt , or you play the guitar well . be presentable by taking care of your body . have clean hair and nice clothes . you dont need to get dressed up every day , but someone is more likely to talk with you , or notice you , if you have a nice appearance . avoid wearing provocative clothes . you may be sending the wrong message to more than just your crush . for girls , you dont need a ton of makeup or high fashion clothes . but having a presentable and healthy appearance is good . consider wearing a mild perfume . for guys , avoid looking like you just rolled out of bed . make sure to have clean outfits . consider wearing cologne . your crush is likely someone you know , but arent close friends with yet . like anyone new , it may lead to something close , or not . avoid idealizing your crush . he or she is still a regular person , just like everyone else . it takes time to develop a new friendship or relationship . your crush will not notice your overnight . realize that your crush may not intentionally be ignoring you . if its a large class , school , or workplace , oftentimes you may not notice someone until you interact with them a few times one - on - one . find ways to separate yourself from your group of friends , and do something where its just the two of you . consider these ways walk home with him or her after class . hang out in an area of the school , or after school where its just you two for a little while . work on school work together . make yourself available to help him or her out with something . there are various ways to give non - verbal cues that youre interested . make eye contact . smile . laugh when they say something funny . put your hand on their shoulder . place your hand near your lips while they talk . if he or she seems sad or worried about something , give a hug . if you are sitting next to your crush on a long car ride , you can put your head on his or her shoulder . see how your crush respond to your body language . do they act the same way or do they pull back non - verbal cues are a good way to understand what someone is thinking but not saying . consider being openly flirtatious by complimenting your crush . say something that you like about them , without just saying i like you . this can be through non - verbal body language , a note to them , or by directly talking with them about what you like about them . consider saying , i really like talking to you rather than just blurting out , i like you . or consider saying things like , i like your hair or i like hanging out with you or youre really cool . if youre spending a lot of time around your crush , and they seem to be hesitant to talk , try to avoid coming off as clingy . its the same for your friends , family , or anyone you spend time with . showing that you are independent can actually make you more attractive . dont center all your time around your crush . remember that there are lots of cool people and fun things to do out there . and your crush shouldnt be only thing that matters . your crush may notice you more after youve had some time apart . let them miss you a little . hopefully , they notice when youre not around .

be polite . look nice . listen to what they have to say . be interested . be fun and nice . compliment them on something . smile - when approaching someone , greet them face - to - face with a smile . never interruptdisturb . dont flirt . be calm . the goodbye .

how to avoid messing up your first impression

smile or gently wave to those who may happen to walk pass you . you would like the person youre giving your first impression to , to know that you are nice . make sure your clothes are not worn out or inappropriate for the occasion . look presentable . it may give you more insight into what they like or dislike . make it known that you are interested in the person you are talking to , by eye contact . ask them about themselves and their hobbies . if youre talking to someone shy , try to make them laugh and make them comfortable , because though they may not be active in the present conversation , you want to leave them with the impression youre a nice person to talk to , so that next time , they will be more comfortable around you . compliment on their clothing or accessories , not their body parts . save the latter for later , when you know them better . shake their hands , not too light as if they have germs and not too firm as if youre apart of a military just gently . make sure that this person has an interest in talking . the worst thing to do is interrupt someone who is working on something or talking with someone else . try to avoid hitting this person who you barely know . whether a love tap , or not . you dont want to come on to strong whether youre trying to gain this person as a friend or boyfriendgirlfriend . try not to stumble across your words , and make sure you know what you are talking about before opening your mouth . dont over talk , either . you dont want anyone to think youre a know - it - all or a motor mouth when wanting to give a first impression . when ending a conversation , let them know that you enjoyed the conversation with a comment like it was nice talking to you or something you joked about in the conversation like remember , you owe me one if the cubs win you want to leave with the impression that youre nice and have a sense of humor . leave them with a big smile and a pleasant good - bye .

distance yourself from them . remove their contact information and text messages from your phone . remove them from social media sites . stop talking about them and dont allow yourself to think about them . ask your friends not to bring them up . avoid places they and their friends go . get rid of tangible traces of them . allow yourself to grieve and dont get mad . know youll find someone else .

how to stop liking your crush 1

one of the most effective ways to help you get over your crush is by distancing yourself from them . minimize any contact or the potential for contact so that you can get over them without having any lingering ties that could upset you or reinforce your feelings for them . distancing yourself will be hard at first , but its ultimately for the better and will make the process of getting over them easier and faster . one way to assure that you wont have any contact with your crush is to delete his contact information from your phone . also consider erasing any text messages from them that you may have . deleting this information will not only keep you from contacting them in a moment of weakness , but wont be an ever - present reminder of them , either . if youre reluctant to delete their information entirely , consider writing it on a piece of paper that you wont see every day and store it in a safe place . email copies of their text messages and then archive them if you arent ready to completely delete them . remember that even if you delete your contact , they may not delete you . if they contacts you , you can either not respond or choose to send a brief , polite response . the large number of social media sites , such as facebook and instagram , means increased accessibility to people , even those with whom you dont necessarily want to be in contact . by removing your crushs presence from your social media accounts , you can further limit the amount of contact you have with them . if youre concerned that you might hurt your crush or leave others questioning your motives by unfollowing or defriending them on social media sites , find a way to minimize what you see on these apps . for example , on facebook you can simply unsubscribe from their posts , which will make sure that you dont get status updates . its natural when you have a crush on someone to talk about them and to think about them a lot , but this will only reinforce your feelings . consciously not mentioning them in conversations and actively shifting your thoughts when you do think about them will help you get over them more quickly . it may be difficult to not mention them in conversations , especially if you have mutual friends , so try to not talk about them or ask how they are too often . you can also step away from conversations about them . if you need to talk about them to process your thoughts and feelings , do so but dont make it a regular habit . if your friends know that you have feelings for your crush , they may occasionally mention them . this will only remind you of them and may hinder your ability to get over them , so ask your friends to not bring them up or update you if possible . there will likely be situations , especially in groups with mutual friends , where your crushs name is brought up . in order get over them more quickly , step away from these groups until theyve moved on to a new topic of conversation . you and your crush may have many things in common , including friends , classes or workplaces , or favorite places . avoid situations where you run the risk of seeing them . if you take classes together or work in the same place , dont sit near them . if they sit next to you , you can also find a way to relocate or decide to keep it cordial . also do not engage in eye contact with them . then it could make things awkward or spark a unwanted conversation . if you like the same restaurants , for example , try out new places to eat . getting rid of any reminders of them that you may have will help you get over your crush . youll want to remove traces of them from everything from your phone and social media to photographs and other mementos in your home . you can either take a gradual or cold - turkey approach to removing them from your life . it might be emotionally easier for you to remove reminders of them bit by bit , or you can also get rid of traces of them all at once . doing this at all once will be very difficult , but can speed up the process of getting over your crush . delete emails or get rid of letters , cards , or presents from your crush . holding on to these things make you hold on to your feelings for them . delete any photos of them or the two of you together . getting over your crush is a painful process and its completely acceptable to grieve over the relationship you had . but its also important to not get mad at your crush in the process - just as you cant control your feelings for them , they cant control their feelings for you . recognize that your crush was something significant in your life . even if you didnt have a romantic relationship , you still had some relationship to them . its ok to be sad over the loss of this . dont be angry with your crush . they might not even know that you had feelings for them or they might be in a situation where they cant reciprocate your feelings . dont get angry with them over something which they dont have much control . there are many reasons why you may have to get over your crush . perhaps they found a boyfriendgirlfriend or perhaps they were always in a relationship or married . maybe your parents oppose them , or and maybe its something as simple as theyre too old for you . maybe you are wise enough to realize that you wouldnt be compatible in a relationship , even though you have romantic feelings for them . these are all factors over which you have very little control , and about which you cannot be mad at them . if youre having an especially hard time with the process , you can always get counseling to help you with your feelings . there are many fish in the sea and your crush may not be the right person for you in the end . you will find someone else who is great for you , and the quicker you get over your crush , the more open your heart will be to finding this person . focusing on your crushs flaws can help you get over them and possibly even find someone better suited for you .

lean on your support system . focus on yourself and your other interests . try new activities . meet new people . consider flirting or dating someone else .

how to stop liking your crush 2

youre likely not feeling your best as you try to get over this significant person in your life , so this is a good time to lean on - or even reconnect with - your family and friends . from talking about your feelings to distracting you with fun activities , your support system can help you to get over your crush more quickly . friends and family will keep you from wallowing in your sadness . they can provide an excellent distraction by doing fun activities with you that dont involve your crush . concentrate on yourself while you try to get over your crush . this may make realize that you dont have feelings for them . for example , start exercising or try a new fitness activity like yoga , which will also help you focus your mind on something other than your crush . you might also want to take a class that will help you with your job . whatever you do , always make sure that it makes you feel good about yourself . this is also a good time to try out new activities , which will distract you from your feelings . the more often you can do something that distances you from your crush , the easier it will be to get over them . for example , maybe youve always wanted to learn how to rock climb . this new activity will require a lot of practice , leaving less time to think about your crush . getting out and meeting new people who dont have any relationship to your contact is a good distraction from your feelings and your crush . you may find you have a much better time with new friends and acquaintances than you ever did with them . there are many different ways to meet new people , including joining a running group or going to happy hours at new places . group activities are an excellent way to meet new people and distract yourself from your crush . you might not be ready to fully commit to another person , but casually flirting with or dating another person can also help you to more quickly get over your crush . this will boost your self - confidence and distract you from your feelings for your crush . a little harmless flirting may be good to help you gain self - confidence and remember that there are other people with whom you might have a connection . just remember to keep it light and fun .

work on being the best you . take care of yourself . keep yourself clean . look nice . be confident , show them how wonderful you are . be a good friend . spend time together . get to know them . let them get to know you . find things in common . share in their passions . let them be their own person . show your availability . flirt with them . touch them . tell them that you like them . ask them out .

how to attract your crush

if you want someone to be attracted to you the real you , in a lasting way , youll need to be attractive first . you do this by being the best possible version of yourself , bringing out all the qualities about you that are good and taking problems head on . learn fun skills . learn the sort of fun skills that you always wanted to have . this will make you happy but it will also make you more interesting to other people . passion and talent is attractive , and this will go a long way towards making other people like you . help others . no one wants to be with a real jerk . show your crush that you are a kind , wonderful person by helping others . you can help your friends and the people around you , or you can help your community by volunteering relax . be funny . have a good sense of humor . dont sweat every little problem . and dont panic every time you talk to your crush . people want to be with someone that helps them relax , so if you seem wound up all the time , youre going to have a harder time attracting them . change what you want to change , for you and no one else . if you have things that you dont like about yourself , you can change them . theres nothing wrong with that . but make sure youre doing it for you and not for anyone else . forcing yourself to be someone youre not isnt going to work out well long - term and you want someone to like you for who you really are . eat a healthy diet , dont starve yourself , and get lots of exercise . this will help you look healthy and strong , a very attractive quality for most people . you will also feel a lot better , which will show in your everyday interactions . stay fresh - smelling by showering regularly and wearing clean clothes . dont forget deodorant smelling bad can really turn a lot of people away , even if you have a great personality . wear nice looking clothes and take care of your hair and skin . you dont have to dress like a movie star , or even wear brand name clothes . just wear what looks good on you and thats really all that people will notice . confidence is incredibly attractive to both boys and girls . of course , you dont have to actually be confident people are rarely as confident as they seem , just make people think that you are . do this by not constantly apologizing or being down on yourself , and instead stick up for yourself and pursue the things that are important to you . let your crush see the best side of you . be friendly and kind to them , never complain about your hardships or be really negative around them . dont gossip or get really angry around them . let them see you doing things that make you happy and having fun with your friends . people want to date someone who can basically be one of their best friends . you want to get along really well show them that you can fill this role by being a good friend to them . support them when theyre having problems and help them to be their best self by encouraging them to reach for the stars . you cant get their attention and help them get to know you if you never spend time together hang out , either alone or in groups of friends groups is better , in the beginning , so that they can see how fun you are to be around . you can go to movies , play games at the arcade , or go to special events like local concerts . talk to them and get to know them for who they really are . they wont take your attraction seriously if they feel like you dont know them or like them for who they are . talk about things that matter , like what they want out of life or their ideas about current events . this is a great way to get to know someone and much more significant than knowing their favorite color . let them get to really know you . all of the things that you want to find out about them , let them find out about you . be open to questions and dont try to make yourself seem super mysterious . you want them to see you as a whole , real person . find the things that you have in common . these are things that you can bond over and share . this will help you connect with them on a deeper level and begin to build lasting feelings on both sides . start with things like movies and music and move on to things like hobbies . even if you dont like the things that are most important to them , try to understand those things and see the significance . understanding the thing that matters most to your crush and maybe even learning to enjoy it with them is an important part of developing a relationship . now , one reason that a lot of people are reluctant to get into a relationship is because they think it will mean that theyre going to lose a lot of their freedom . show your crush that with you they have nothing to fear by not only letting them be their own independent person , but also showing them that you can be independent too . dont make your crush think that youre into someone else . make sure to project that you are single and you are looking to date . dont flirt with other people too much and dont spend a ton of your time with someone of their same gender . start showing your interest in your crush by flirting with them . they may not be asking you out or showing an interest because they dont realize that you like them , so start dropping hints . just dont start flirting too early on . you need to establish a basic friendship first , if you want to help guarantee success . not there jeez . a gentle touch to the shoulder or forearm or even their hand or face if youre feeling bold , can show them your interest or even really get them to feel that spark these are very intimate , affectionate gestures and their intent is difficult to mistake . do it casually , in conversation , and definitely not randomly . youll need an excuse , or its going to seem forced . if they arent getting the hint , you may need to just come right out and admit that you like them . its terrifying we know . our sympathies . but you can do it be bold and brave taking the initiative may even make them like you more . if respond that they like you to , or even if you want to skip that last step and go straight for this one , you might just have to ask them out yourself . this responsibility is usually going to fall on the guys , but theres nothing wrong with girls taking the lead find some time alone and find out once and for all if you have a chance . dont sweat rejection . if they just dont feel the same way they they arent the right person for you youll find your special someone . it just takes time .

join organizations theyre in . dont be afraid to flirt . sit near your crush .

how to befriend a crush boys or girls 1

maybe your crush is in the jazz band , or the choir , or on a sports team you can join . participating in the same groups as your crush gives you an excuse to be around them . it also increases the chances that when you do talk to your crush , theyll recognize you . only join organizations or clubs that youre really interested in . if youre doing something you dont really like , it will show , and your crush might become less interested . flirting with your crush is a really easy way to get noticed and can lead to them befriending you . flirting can be as simple as complimenting an outfit , the way theyre wearing their hair , and lightly touching their arm as you walk by . all of these subtle hints can let your crush know youre interested . for example , you could say something like steve , is that a new haircut it looks really nice on you , or thats a pretty dress , karen . you could also lightly touch your crushs arm when you say hello in the hallway or at work . dont use too much pressure just lightly rest your hand on their arm to get their attention . if you have a class with your crush , try sitting near them . if you work with your crush , you can sit near them during meetings . this increases the chances your crush will notice you and also gives you a chance to talk to them more . you can get even more notice if you ask , is this seat taken before you sit down directly next to your crush . it can be a great way to get a conversation going and also makes sure that your crush notices you for sure .

introduce yourself . ask your friends to introduce you . keep in touch . talk about shared interests .

how to befriend a crush boys or girls 2

the easiest way to befriend anyone , including your crush , is by introducing yourself . if youre not sure your crush has never noticed you , this is a great first step to befriending them . if you think theyve seen you around but youve never been introduced , this can break the ice and move you toward being friends . for example , if you see your crush in the hallway , you can say something like , hi ive seen you in my classes but i dont think i know your name . im taylor . this way your crush learns your name and youve broken the ice . if youve never met your crush , but you have mutual friends , ask one to introduce you . this gives you a little bit of a connection to your crush and makes the initial introduction easier . ask one of your mutual friends to introduce you by saying something like , hey jimmy , you know kyle , right could you introduce us once youve said hello a few times , you can move on to more substantial conversations . texting is a great way to stay in contact and have a longer conversation while still keeping it casual . send short , simple text messages about things you have in common , even if its just school . you can also have these types of conversation over social media , if that makes you feel more comfortable . you can say something as simple as hey jake can you believe what jason did in math class today once youve been talking to your crush for a little while , you might have a better idea of what they like to do . then you can have a conversation about the things you both like . talking about shared interests is a great way to befriend your crush and get them interested in something more . for example , you could say something like , i know you said you really like all the superhero movies that have been coming out . what do you think of the new wonder woman movie

ask them to do something fun . invite them to lunch . suggest a group date . be patient .

how to befriend a crush boys or girls 3

if you have a shared interest in movies or music , ask your crush to go with you it lets your crush know youre interested and gives you a chance to have a fun memory together , which can make it more likely that your crush will become interested in you . dont forget that some people are shy , and even if theyre interested in and noticing you making an effort , they might not say anything . go ahead and ask them to do something . for example , you can say something like so we both really like action movies , and the new fast and the furious is coming out . do you want to go see it together this way , you have a chance to hang out with your crush without a lot of pressure . if youre nervous about asking outright , make lunch seem like an opportunity to do something else , like talking about a homework assignment or a work issue . for example , if you work together , you can say something like hey james , did you want to grab some lunch theres a place down the street with really good soup and sandwiches , and i thought we could talk about the project . if you go to school together say something like jenny , do you want to sit with me at lunch i had a question about our homework assignment . if youre really nervous about hanging out with your crush one - on - one , suggest you hang out with a group of friends . this gives you a chance to spend time with your crush without so much pressure . if youre going to try a group date , let a few of your friends know what youre doing and ask if theyre willing to go . then you can make it seem to your crush like youre inviting them to come with you and your friends , rather than making a big deal out of spending time with them . for example , you can say something like my friends and i are going roller skating on saturday . do you want to come with us if you like someone , they might not like you back or even notice you right away . be patient , and keep trying to befriend them . it might take a little while , but it can pay off in the end

be clean . have gorgeous hair . have a sense of style . be healthy . be a good student . smile . make up a secret nickname for your crush with your closest friends . get him to notice you . try to start flirting .

how to be crushed on in school girls

no matter how pretty or nice you are , no ones going to like you if you look or smell dirty . take regular showers , and use a light - scented body wash and a loofah . use a sweet - smelling lotion after your bathshower . use deodorant if you want . brush your teeth twice a day and make sure to wear clean , fresh clothes . also dont do anything gross in public like pick your boogers or something . dont wash your hair every day , only wash it 2 - 3 times a week . if your hair gets disgustingly oily in a day without washing , invest in a good dry shampoo . use a good shampoo and conditioner and make sure it smells subtle but pleasant . try to let your hair air dry and use heat as less often as possible . use a heat protectant if you must use heat on your hair regularly . dont bleach or dye your hair too much either . curl it , straighten it , put it in a bun , ponytail , braid , anything you want . or you could just leave it down . use some cute hair ties and hair accessories . switch up your hairstyles and make sure they look cute with your outfit . make sure it is tangle - free and soft . you cant be wearing hello kitty long sleeved t - shirts and huge , grey sweatpants every day . shop at places like forever 21 , hm , aeropostale , brandy melville , lulu lemon , etc . own a lot of black leggings . those go with anything . make sure not to go too crazy with patterns or colours . for example , if you wear a striped shirt , try to wear solid - coloured pants . black and white is a timeless trend . wear what you think looks nice on you and also keep in mind your comfort . poky clothes just ruin your day . also get one pair of good runners nike is a good brand , some uggs , a pair of converse , and some cute flats . good shoes take you good places . wear jewelry tastefully and try to wear real jewelry instead of fake jewelry . being healthy solves all your problems . you have shiny hair , strong nails , porcelain skin , and you feel great . indulge in junk food but dont go overboard , and try to eat healthy foods too . eat lots of fruits and veggies as well as protein like chicken , eggs , nuts , tofu , etc . drink lots of water and get a good amount of sleep in . sleep is one of the most important things ever . try to get some exercise in each week . you could play a sport , ride your bike around the neighbourhood , go to the gym , do some crunches and push ups at home , anything you want . just get that heart beating and muscles working . try to be as organized as possible , as it makes school much less stressful . if you arent an organized person , make a plan to be organized starting the next school year . listen to the teacher this is like 60 of being a good student , take good notes use colourful gel pens to make it more fun , study read the textbook , use index cards , study with a friend , etc . and just try your best . be confident that youre going to ace that testprojectassignment . try to participate and ask questions if you dont understand as well . also make sure to do your homework . at all times . no excuses . getting good grades makes your future that much brighter and it makes you feel good about yourself . people also see smart people as more attractive and enviable . if youre that girl who always keeps a smile on her face and positive thoughts , everyones going to like you . make sure to smile even when youre feeling down and laugh whenever you feel like it . even if no one else is laughing . try not to be negative or looking at the floor all day . just remember to be yourself and be nice to everyone . something like couch potato or a twist on their name or some kind of inside joke is always fun . make sure to only tell your closest friends who your crush is just so you can talk about him with them and not keep your feelings bottled up . if youre really quiet or shy , this is the most daunting step . try to get him to notice you by making eye contact when he does talk to you , or laughing at his jokes . make sure to walk confidently and be slightly bold . if you want to do something old - fashioned , try to accidentally bump into him in the halls . your books will go everywhere and if he says sorry you could say something like thats okay it was my fault too . this just gets him to notice you . he cant like you if he doesnt even know you exist . if youre not afraid , try to make conversation with him and get to know him a bit more . if youre laughing about something no one else knows about with your friends , you can get noticed too . do really subtle things like play with your hair or smile directly at him . try to tease him a little and steal his stuff once youre a bit more comfortable with him . if you want , you could add some physical contact in by nudging him with your elbow or even hugging him once you get really comfortable .

look for signs of interest . make your feelings known . hint to your crush that you want to go the dance . ask them in person . ask them via text . leave them a note . give them baked goods . play hangman . put a note in a fortune cookie . make a mix cd . send them a message in a bottle .

how to ask your crush to the dance

asking your crush to a dance can be nerve - racking , but knowing you have a good shot of them saying yes will go a long way to boosting your confidence . to figure out how interested they are , pay close attention to how they act around you . for example , do they frequently initiate conversation or seek you out in crowds if your crush is consistently going out of their way to speak with you or to be near you , its likely theyre attempting to convey their interests . if they make note of the things that interest you to bring back up later in conversation , thats also a good sign they may like you . if youre still unsure , try getting your friends to gauge your crushs interest . you dont want them to directly ask himher outright , but they can fish for information by bringing you up in conversation and then seeing what your crush says or how they react . keep in mind that if your crush is shy , they may be extra awkward and quiet around you , so you may have to drop hints to help them open up . once youve got a good idea of how your crush feels , its time to reciprocate . you want to let your crush know that youre interested and open to any potential advances . the best way to do this is to talk to them as frequently as you can . this may seem a bit awkward , especially if youre constantly nervous around them , but there are a bunch of easy conversation starters you can try . for example , compliment your crush every now and again when you see them . this can be anything from , that sweater looks really good on you , to did you get a haircut your hair looks really nice today . just remember not to go over the top or try to force it . you can also ask about their interests . for example , if your crush plays sports or is a big gamer , try to ask them questions about their favorite sports teams or an upcoming game release you know theyre excited about . you can also get involved in some of the activities that they enjoy , like going to concerts of bands they like . just make sure you are staying true to your own likes , you dont want to change yourself just to get your crush interested . if you and your crush talk frequently or have at least started to , try talking about the dance in general . you dont have to say anything about going together , but simply talking about the dance will introduce the idea and make it less awkward later when you ask them out . it will also let them know youre interested in going . try talking about the theme of the dance , who is going , or what music you think theyll play . for example , you could say something like i heard jerry and jess are trying to get a group together to take a trolley to the dance instead of a limo . how much do you think thatll cost or do you think the dj will take requests i want to dance to beyonce . talking about the dance will also give you a good idea of whether or not your crush plans to go to the dance . this is the simplest method , even if it is usually the most stressful . to make the situation easier on both you and your crush , try to ask them when youre both alone . for example , between classes , on the bus , or at lunch if you get a minute to yourselves . not having a bunch of people or friends around will make you both more comfortable . make it simple , to start , say something like hey , could i speak to you a moment then , once the two of you are alone ask , i was wondering if youd like to go to the dance with me if youre nervous , try practicing the conversation with a friend beforehand . whether you and your crush talk frequently or not , texting is a great way to communicate without the extra stress of speaking in person . you can take your time and revise what you want to say multiple times . try inserting the question into a normal conversation by building up to it . for example , try talking about school or homework , then lead into the upcoming dance , and eventually ask them if theyd like to go with you . for example , text a simple , so , are you planning to go to the dance or so , do you have a date for the dance yet if your crush says no , then ask , would you like to go with me if your crush plans to go with friends , ask if theyll at least save you dance . another easy , relatively stress - free way to ask your crush to the dance is to leave them a note . if youre feeling bold , you can pass them one in class for an immediate response . however , if youre feeling a bit shyer , simply slip a note asking if theyd like to go with you into their locker . you can even leave directions on the note like , circle y or n and slip this back into my locker by the end of the day . if not , you may have to approach your crush directly for an answer . if you want to make a bit more of an impression , try making some sweet treats for your crush . find out their favorite cookie or cupcake and make them a bunch . you can spell out d a n c e  on top of the cupcakes in frosting . for something more subtle , hand out cupcakes or cookies to all your friends - girls and guys alike - and give your crush a special one with dance written on it . if your crush doesnt like sweets , try doing this with a pizza . if youve got the downtime in class or a study hall , rope your crush into a game of hangman . when its your turn to come up with a word or phrase , mark out spaces for either d a n c e  or will you go to the dance with me then simply hold tight as you wait for your crush to figure it out . you can try this tactic with other games like pictionary or scrabble , too . this might take a little bit more work , but shouldnt be too expensive . you can buy a big thing of fortune cookies online for around 10 . simply change out the fortune in one and then make sure to give it to your crush when youre handing them out to friends or classmates . just make sure that your crush actually opens it and doesnt give it to someone else this is a great idea if you and your crush have similar tastes in music . try putting together a bunch of songs you think your crush would like and write a message for them on the inside of the cd case . you dont need to write anything long , just would you like to go to the dance with me you could also just write go to the dance with me directly on the cd . another cute idea is to put a note asking them to the dance in a bottle or mason jar . you can then fill this jar with candies like jelly beans , mms , sour patch kids , or any other sweet they like . just make sure that your note is big enough to be found and not get lost amongst the candy .

ask him why hes interested in you . watch how they act when they tell you why theyre interested in you . if he is a really genuine person imagine you are in his shoes . calmly and gently say that you are really sorry , but you dont see him in that way . apologize for leading him on or giving him signs , even if you didnt notice or mean to . wait for his reply . change the subject , where possible , and try to act like it hasnt happened . imagine you are the boy . it probably took a good while for him to build up the courage to ask you out . you can always tell him that you are flattered that he asked you out , but that youre not interested in pursuing something romantic with him .

how to turn down a boy when he asks you out

there are boys in this world who just want you for your beauty , and body or because they want to be well known . not because youre kind or smart or independent or brave or strong or courageous and etc . if its all for the wrong reasons then politely tell him youre not interested in being in a relationship with them . some may act nervous and fidgety because theyre lying or because they feel like theyre a stalker for noticing all this . if they laugh and act like its a joke then its probably because theyre not serious or they think its romantic . you can usually tell the difference . you cant really say no and not hurt him , but if you do it gently you can remain friends . explain that you prefer him more as just a friendif he was a friend , but you are flattered . , hopefully , he will react well and ask if you can still be friends , or something like that . if his reaction is sadness , try to console him and tell him that you are always there as a friend - but avoid physical contact as this could exasperate him further . if his reaction is anger and he gets violent or aggressive , just give him a sympathetic look and say im sorry and walk away from him as causally and as fast as you can . or if youre lucky and a friend happens to near by call them out and start a conversation and act really interested with while leaving him like your friend is telling you something very interesting and amusing . probably talk about all the things you look for in a guy and what you dont like . and if you want to avoid him asking you out for a whileor ever just causally say im not really interested in going out right now . i would like to just be friends first before taking things up a notch or just simply im not interested in going out right now . ,

start out with a simple card . write a thoughtful message to your crush . disguise your handwriting . sign both their name and yours . give them gifts . deliver your card or gift . do thoughtful acts of kindness for them . plan a scavenger hunt for your crush . drop clues to hint at your identity . pick a time to reveal yourself . choose a public place . tell your crush where and how to find you . introduce yourself as their secret admirer . learn more about your crush . talk to their friends and family . take note of their schedule . avoid getting to know them too well . make a plan .

how to be a secret admirer on valentines day

this is the easiest and most personal way to make contact with your crush as their secret admirer . you can either buy stationary or create your own personalized card that will contain your romantic message . the first time you contact your crush as their secret admirer , you want to make it clear what your purpose is . pick out a valentines day card or when making your own use reds and pinks to accentuate the romantic theme . write clearly and to the point . explain in your own words how you think theyre fantastic and why you admire them so much . dont talk about yourself . this is their time to shine and youre making that happen by telling them why you think theyre so special . dont simply say i like your hair or other generic platitudes . you want to be sincere , unique , and specific . even your handwriting is an detail that might give away your identity . for example , if you sit beside them in class or in meetings , they may know what your penmanship looks like . since youre writing a love note , go ahead and also take the time to make your script elegant and legible . if you normally write in print , then try writing in cursive . or vice versa if you usually write everything in cursive . if youre worried that your handwriting is illegible and your message will be lost , then use a computer to type your message and pick a fun font . make sure that their name is visible on the card . that way , if the card is delivered in error theres a better chance it will make its way back to your crush . you dont want to send a heartfelt note and then find out that they never received it . obviously you dont want to use your real name . instead , pick a fun pseudonym like the classic secret admirer or your valentines day cupid . make sure you are comfortable with revealing yourself to your crush if you want to use your real name . if you use your real name then youre only an admirer and not a secret one . depending on your research , your crush may prefer daffodils to roses , or maybe they love chocolate chip cookies and that would be a perfect surprise on a tough monday morning . determine what you could give them to make their day a little brighter and attach your card . dont get too personal . jewelry , lingerie , expensive items , or photos are better for when youre dating this person , not when youre trying to get a relationship started . this is the trickiest part of being a secret admirer . you need to get your card or gift to this person without them knowing it was you . sneak notes in their locker , gym bag , car window , or mailbox . pick a location that your crush frequents regularly so that they see it . you could also enlist a friend to be the deliverer . the more anonymous you can be the better . timing is everything . you can either start leaving notes and gifts for your crush leading up to valentines day or you could use the whole holiday to lavish them with gifts and messages throughout the day . if you choose to start wooing your crush before v - day , keep your displays of affection to one a day so that you dont spook your crush . you dont just have to give physical gifts to your crush . for example , if you know theyll be occupied all day , you could wash their car and leave a small note on the windshield from their secret admirer . if you know this person well , you can find out what their needs are and help them out . instead of giving a gift or as a way to deliver a gift or card , you could create a scavenger hunt for them on valentines day . this method is also a great way to lead your crush to you on the big day . start by slipping your crush a note with the first clue . write clues that arent so vague that they cant figure them out and leave them in relatively nearby places . you dont want your crush running town all day so try and keep things within your school or neighborhood . with each clue , leave a small gift like a flowers or chocolates . leave the biggest gift or most personal gesture for the end . their excitement will build during the hunt and you want to save the biggest surprise for the grand finale . you want to pique your crushs curiosity just a little bit . for example , in a note you could say that you love seeing them at the same coffee shop you go to every morning , or that you loved their presentation in class the other day . unless you want to string your crush along forever , you need to be brave and tell them who you are . at some point theyre going to want to know who is responsible for all of the sweet things youve done for them . choose a convenient time for both you and your crush . for example , plan on meeting them after their last class of the day for the big reveal . listen to what theyve been saying about their secret admirer . if it sounds like theyre excited to find out who it is , then its time to reveal yourself . if they dont seem interested , you may want to stop . you cant control another persons feelings and you should be respectful if theyre feeling creeped out . coffee shops , parks , and restaurants are all good starts because there will be people around but not so many that you wont have privacy . remember , you dont want to scare your crush away so pick somewhere relaxing . a bench in a park can be a beautiful setting , but a dark movie theatre will make you seem like a stalker and not an admirer . you could write a note that says something like ill be wearing a red shirt and sunglasses . even though youre trying to convey an air of mystery , you need to be clear in your directions so that your crush can actually identify you . if youre already involved in this persons life , they may recognize you . however , this is your moment to show them that youre their mysterious and sweet admirer . after the big reveal , follow up by asking them on an official date so that you can continue to get to know each other . chances are , you know this person a little bit already . you probably have a few reason already as to why you admire them . however , you will need to know a few more details in order to do things for them and not get caught . if you dont know your crush too well , survey the people who are close to them . you can either ask innocent questions in a conversation or ask them outright what your crush likes and dislikes , or what their class schedule looks like . be careful when talking with friends and family or your crush . if your crush starts to ask around trying to find out your identity , a friend might accidentally slip up . for example , they could comment that youve been asking about your crush a lot and then your cover would be blown . it may be better to tell the people youre surveying that youre going to be your crushs secret admirer if you think they can keep a secret . that way , you have someone on the inside who can help you out . you shouldnt know when they brush their teeth every day , but its good to know if theyre busy in gym class or in a meeting . that way you can plan when youre going to leave little surprises for them without being seen or getting caught . in other words , dont be creepy . if you need to do a little research to find out their favorite candy , thats fine . but dont dig so deep that you find out their shoe size and their pets name . do some preliminary research so that you can deliver them heartfelt notes , but you should really get to know them personally once you reveal your identity . decide what your end goal is . if you want to go on a date with this person on valentines day , then you need to start wooing them a few weeks before . or if you want to just surprise them for one day , you can create a more elaborate , one - time plan . for instance , you could have your crush go on a day - long scavenger hunt on valentines day that leads up to them meeting you that evening for a date .

be polite when you hear the guys request . avoid interrupting .

how to tell a guy you arent interested in a relationship 1

you are being treated with respect by the man who is asking you out , as he values you enough to want to form a more intimate relationship with him . so , be sure to return that respect . listen carefully and look attentive as he explains his wishes . smile and nod if its appropriate to do so , but wait him out . when he finishes and makes it clear that he is waiting for a reply , offer your reasons for turning him down .

avoid coming out with just a no . reject his advance with a compliment . try not to make it to embarrassing for him . make it seem as if anybody who asked you out right now would not succeed . keep it short and sweet .

how to tell a guy you arent interested in a relationship 2

this is harsh sounding and puts an end to the connection . while you dont wish to date this guy or get on intimate terms with him , it still remains important to respect his dignity and let him down gently . begin by explaining that youre flattered by his interest in you and that it is very kind of him to ask . however , youll also need to explain your lack of interest in general terms , without suggesting that there is anything wrong with him . for example , you might say something along these lines thats nice of you to ask but right now im still looking for the right guy . thank you for your attention , thats so sweet and i am really flattered . the trouble is , im just not interested in dating anybody at the moment . but it was so kind of you to ask . avoid laughing or using jokes as a way of negating what he has just asked you . make it clear that youve appreciated the effort and his courage but thats the end of it no need to rub salt into the wound . if you do wish to make humor , use the self - deprecating sort that rebounds on you , not on him or anybody else . and dont overdo it , or itll look as if youre trying too hard . if possible , tell him that your current focus is absolutely on your career , your new business start - up , your university exams , your overseas trip , whatever . this way , it doesnt feel like a personal rejection but is simply an outcome of a broader reality that youre just too wed to something else . its not your place to butter up his ego but its always a nice thing to offer a soft letdown to anyone who receives rejection . dont drag it on and become nervous , chatty or full of excuses . any of these things will make it more awkward for you than it is for him and opens up too many possibilities for him to try to convince you to make space for him in your life .

know that he likes you . dont procrastinate . dont avoid him forever . make a plan . talk over the phone . acknowledge the seriousness . be nice . give him your back - off message . ensure him that your feelings arent going to change . be honest . be willing to listen . agree to end the conversation . be polite . give him space . dont lead him on .

how to tell a guy you dont like him back

if you dont absolutely know that he likes you , dont act upon it . you may ruin a friendship based on rumors that other people have told you or an assumption that youve made because you think he likes you . there are some tell - tale signs that he is truly into you . he consistently asks you out . he persistently tries for body contact . he persists on hanging one - on - one . the longer you wait , the worse itll be . his feelings will grow and it will be impossible to maintain any kind of friendship after you tell him the truth . you can pretend all you want that hell get the hint if you simply avoid him . well , he wont . you need to find a time to talk to him . make it a time when its only the two of you , so that he doesnt get embarrassed in front of a group of people . write down what youre going to say before you say it . if you fumble over your words , youll make the conversation longer , more awkward , and a worse time than it needs to be . in your plan , you should have some points about why you arent interested in him . dont attack him with reasons hes gross—just be honest about why youre not into him . you cant seem to move on from your ex - boyfriend . you just arent physically attracted to him . you like someone else . if you have a conversation on the phone or over text , you can still implement all of these into your conversation . the most important part when doing that is being ultimate . make sure he knows that there is no future chance for the relationship . you need to let him know that you want to have a serious conversation . this way , he takes what youre saying to heart . if you dont take the time to do this , he may not understand the level of importance of the talk . let him down easy . add a compliment or two into your talk but convey to him that its not enough . youre a great friend , but we cant be together . youll make someone very happy , but its not going to be me . even after giving him the reasons youre not into him , he may not fully understand . deliver your official back - off message after youve told him your reasons . we wont have a romantic relationship . we can stay friends if youre going to keep it at friendship . there isnt the right chemistry between us . if you dont tell him flat out that youre feelings arent going to change—he might hope for it . dont let him leave with any questions of you having romantic feelings for him in the future . set some ground rules for your friendship if there is still going to be one . let him ask some questions if he wants to and answer the honestly . theres no sense in protecting his feelings with lies tell him the truth . this will help him move on more quickly . rehearsing the conversation in your head helps , but can also hurt you by creating preconceptions in your head about how it will go . rather than attacking him with your thoughts , sit across from him and hear what he has to say so that he will listen to what you have to say . to ensure that hes gotten your point fully , ask him what he thinks about it all . stand your ground and dont leave the conversation without him understanding that you dont like him . dont leave without clarity . just because you told him that you dont like him doesnt mean you have to ignore him or be rude . dont think of him as weak or broken because of your choice . hell move past it , so treat him like a human being . dont just ignore him forever . dont go out of your way to see if hes doing alright . if you run into him , be cordial , but dont reach out to him outside of that . rejection hurts , and if youre constantly reminding him about it , hell constantly be hurting . this could eventually lead to self - esteem issues , anger , or even aggression—you dont want to be at fault for that . if he decides that he can stay friends with you after having the conversation , make sure to set a clear line of appropriateness . this can be in a separate discussion if either of you need time to think about it . having this discussion will help both of you put some closure on the previous one . discuss if its ok to comment on how one another looks . talk about if physical contact hugs , holding hands , etc . is still appropriate .

exercise to regulate your mood . pick up an old hobby . watch lighthearted television . stay around people . allow yourself to think about your ex in moderation . remind yourself that it was your exs decision to cheat . remember the bad parts of the relationship . cut off contact with your ex . talk things out with only a few people . do not seek out details . use self - soothing activities to feel better . take care of yourself . remind yourself you want to be happy . embrace the good in yourself . look towards the future with a positive attitude . rebuild your self - confidence .

how to forget a cheating boyfriend

regular exercise can help lift your mood , and can help you keep busy . this will give you less time to ruminate over what happened with your ex - boyfriend . try picking up a new exercise routine to help boost your mood and forget your ex . choose a type of routine you like , as youll be more likely to stick to it . if you hate running , dont commit to a weekly run . instead , go for a bike ride after work . start any new workout routine slowly . you may want to talk to your doctor first , especially if its been awhile since you worked out regularly . do you have any old hobbies you no longer do now may be a good time to pick up that hobby . if you can stay busy with a particular hobby or interest , you are more likely to forget about your boyfriend . think about something you used to do that got away from you . maybe you used to be an avid knitter , but got busy with other things . try taking up a knitting project again after breaking up with your ex . if you cant think of any old hobbies , try a new one . find something you enjoy that youve never tried before . for example , maybe you could join a sports league . a new hobby can easily help you get your mind off your ex . stock up on comedies and feel good movies . its a good idea to allow yourself to embrace something silly and lighthearted in the wake of a great betrayal . make a netflix collection of comedies . marathon watch your favorite humor television show . this will keep your mind off the pain and help you forget . theres no sense closing yourself off from others in the wake of a breakup . as you attempt to forget your ex - boyfriend , surround yourself with supportive friends . a solid support system can help you forget how your ex hurt you . you will also feel grateful for all the good people in your life , even if your romantic relationship ended poorly . in a relationship , you get used to having someone around all the time . with a significant other , you feel like someone is always a text or a phone call away . when things end , you may find yourself wishing for that closeness again . remember , you do have people in your life . you have friends and family members who care about you . reach out to them on your bad days . do something fun that will take your mind off your ex . it seems counterintuitive , but this will actually help you forget your ex . studies show if you try to not think about something , youll just end up thinking about it more . instead of trying to obliterate your ex from your consciousness , allow yourself to occasionally engage in thoughts of your ex . do not panic if you occasionally think about your ex . instead of thinking , i need to not think about this . why am i letting this get to me stop and accept the thoughts . think something like , its normal to still feel sad sometimes . im going to let myself experience these thoughts . instead , allow yourself to experience the thoughts for a few minutes . remind yourself why youre upset , but ultimately better off . remember , this person cheated on you and broke your trust . youre better off without him . dealing with a cheating boyfriend may cause you to start to evaluate your own actions and wonder if you could have somehow prevented the situation . if you find yourself doing this , take a moment to remind yourself that your boyfriend chose to cheat and that you had nothing to do with that decision . try saying something to yourself like , this was his decision . i could not have stopped it and i did not cause it . this can actually help you feel better about the breakup , allowing you to move on and forget faster . when you start feeling sad about the breakup , remind yourself of your exs bad qualities . this can stop you from romanticizing the relationship . you can acknowledge your exs imperfections in a healthy , cathartic manner . obviously , the infidelity is a major flaw . however , that is not something you have to focus your energies towards if it makes you sad . you can think about small things . for example , i hate that he always made us late to movies or i hate that he clipped his toenails in the living room . allow yourself to be a little petty . if youre still in contact with him , youre not going to be able to forget him . if you dont want to continue the relationship , then cut off contact . stop texting him , calling him , or interacting with him on social media . avoid the temptation to call him in moments of weakness . if youre upset and need to vent , turn to friends over your ex - boyfriend . you should only reestablish contact when youre ready to have a relationship again . keep in mind , however , you may never feel ready for a relationship again . many people struggle to stay friends with their exes . its okay if you do not want this person as a friend . you do not want to emotionally unload on everyone in your friends group . having everyone know your business may make it hard to forget . you also open yourself up to potentially unsolicited advice . pick one or two close friends and tell them about the infidelity . try to limit your venting , however . you do not want to end up upsetting yourself by making your ex the subject of too many conversations . talk a little about your ex to these friends . then , discuss other topics that help you forget and move on . if your ex - boyfriend cheated , you may want to know everything possible about the man or woman he cheated with . however , seeking out details is only likely to make you feel bad . nothing good will come of looking through old credit card receipts and emails , or looking at your exs social media profile . you do not need to know the details now that the relationship is over . if necessary , have an action plan in place when you feel the need to dig up details . you can think of something specific to do instead . for example , instead of going through your exs facebook posts , have a video game to play instead . dealing with a cheating boyfriend can make you feel sad , angry , and confused . you can use self - soothing activities to help you to feel better as you experience your emotions . some things you might try include taking a long bath . listening to some of your favorite music . writing in a journal or drawing . reading a book or watching a movie . spending time with your pet or with family members . self - care should not be neglected in the wake of a breakup . make sure to take care of yourself while healing . if you neglect things like healthy eating and sleeping , you end up feeling worse . this will make it harder to turn your energy away from your ex . anxiety - inducing thoughts get worse if youre hungry , tired , dehydrated , or deprived in other ways . stick to your regular routine to keep your mood as good as possible . you should also find healthy ways to deal with stress . avoid things like heavy drinking . instead , get a small treat to eat . go to a spa for a day . treat yourself to a new outfit . if an ex cheated , you may sometimes feel yourself trapped in bitter thoughts . if you feel like youre drowning in feelings of anger and resentment , stop and say , i want to be happy . this will help shift your focus to all the positive things you have , instead of focusing on how one person hurt you . remind yourself you actually want to be happy in moments when you feel yourself getting sad . this will help you tune out the small frustrations in favor of embracing the future . for example , you see a romantic facebook post from your exs new romantic interest . instead of getting angry , say , i want to be happy . you will remember your goal is happiness , and youll find other things to focus on . infidelity can make you feel invaluable . remember , you decide how much value you have and not another person . when times get difficult , and you feel bad about yourself , think about your good qualities . write a list of all your good qualities . jot down everything in your life that makes you feel valuable and happy . then , write down things you have to be grateful for . think about things like your friends and family members . theres no sense harboring negativity when considering the future . say to yourself each day , i deserve better . embrace the fact youre a good person who deserves a faithful partner . tell yourself youre going to meet someone better . everyone goes through breakups , and everyone sometimes feels they will not recover . however , youre bound to eventually find someone who is kinder to you than your ex was . each time you start feeling bad about your ex , say something to yourself like , its okay . i can and will do better . if you were cheated on , it can seriously affect your sense of self - worth . take steps to rebuild your self - confidence in the wake of infidelity . prioritize positive self - talk and finding ways to feel good about yourself . make a list of things you like about yourself . this can help you remind yourself you have value . think about your current relationships . remind yourself youre lucky to have close friends and family members who value you , even if someone else hurt you . remember everything you do right . congratulate yourself for your recent successes and take stock of your talents and abilities .

get physical distance . get rid of the evidence . cut off communication . avoid hanging out with her friends .

how to forget a girl who hurt you emotionally 1

literally remove yourself from her . the more you see your ex in person the more difficult it will be to forget about her and the pain she has caused you . find ways to change your routine so that you are not forced to confront her . avoid places that you know she frequents . this may include her favorite restaurants and coffee shops , or shops near where she lives . avoid social gatherings that you know she will be at . this will only cause unnecessary tension and cause you to obsess over the past . if you are both invited to a party or event , tell the host that you are busy . missing a few social gatherings is worth the jealousy and frustration that you will feel if you see her again . remove any of her belongings from your room . get rid of anything you deeply associate with her . it will only bring you unnecessary pain to hang onto any souvenirs from the relationship . do not allow yourself to contact her , including through text or email . it may be tempting to engage with her at first , but this will only open up the door to more pain and conflict . the more you communicate with your ex , the harder it will be to forget her . consider unfriending or unfollowing her on social media . social media allows us to paint a positive picture of our lives . such images of her will only make you nostalgic about the relationship . if this feels too drastic , consider removing her from your news feed or phone contact list . , if you share a friend group , spend time with a new social circle . reconnect with the friends you had before you met her . they are friends with you outside of the context of your relationship with your ex . they will help you forge a new identity without her , and are less likely to bring her up .

agree that changes need to be made , and the relationship cannot continue as it is . sincerely try to empathize with his misgivings about the relationship . look for concrete ways for how some of his needs might be addressed . remember you are not trying to win an argument . express yourself clearly . be patient . be on his side . avoid manipulative tactics . acknowledge your feelings of abandonment . be your most mature self . believe that you are worth staying with , and act that way .

how to talk your boyfriend out of breaking up with you

this allows room for both points of view and states your position as an agreement . it also puts you on more equal footing in the discussion , and encourages a more cooperative approach . a lot of times suggesting a break up is a sign of desperation when needs are not being met . what does he need from the relationship that hes not getting and are these things realistic does he maybe feel pressured by your wishes and are those realistic encourage him to talk about what he needs , and listen to what hes saying . put aside defensiveness and try to understand where hes coming from . ask for specific examples of situations where he felt his needs were being neglected . examine any recent disagreements you might have had , and try to identify the needs that were associated with them . does he need more affirmation from you for his accomplishments and sacrifices does he feel that you are contributing equally to the relationship is he bored with his current routine are some of the expectations from the beginning of the relationship not being met do you have conflicting values about family and relationships let him know that you are willing to compromise and refocus the conversation on specific problems , rather than having the whole relationship called into question . this also means that the next time he mentions break up , you try to confirm what issues hes concerned about . make sure he understands that hes able to address issues without mentioning the break - up as a threat to you . mentioning breaking up without the urge to follow trough can cause lots of anxiety . rather than trying to figure out everything by yourself , try to open up a discussion on finding solutions besides a break up . give him some suggestions for changes you can make to help him get what he needs . these depend on your particular situation , but here are some commonly applicable ones . suggest rearranging your schedule and habits to make more time for him . suggest fun activities you can share that align with some of his goals . let him off the hook sometimes for some social obligations he doesnt enjoy . be realistic and compromise to make sure he supports you at functions where you really need him bu can bow out of non - essential obligations . set up a compromise for when you disagree about movies , music , or other cultural activities . try to mention out loud that its not necessary to have a discussion about this . say its not important to have a discussion about that video . we disagree thats all right . agree to give him more time alone to spend with his own interests , family , and friends , if thats his wish . the goal is to find common ground , so you can work together to solve conflicts . you are each entitled to your opinions , but ultimately the relationship depends on finding ways in which you can both be right . remember that even if what you have to say is valid , how you present it counts . anything that sounds oppositional or accusatory might be taken as the start of a fight , especially if hes already agitated . understand that you probably wont fix everything in your relationship over the course of one talk . allow yourselves time to express your thoughts . exercise common courtesy . dont talk over him , and dont interrupt . things might seem really urgent at the moment , but its important that he feels that youre listening . take his emotional state into account . give him some time to adjust . he might be angry , and possibly confused . set the tone for fairness , and give him room to cool off . move past blame in order to find positive solutions . telling him what happened is his own fault can soothe your ego when hes threatening to break up with you , but if you want him to stay , let him know that you can accept the person that he is . be careful when bringing up the past . aristotle maintained that the main purpose of the past tense was to identify where blame should be placed . be evenhanded in your recollection of past events . and write down relevant past behaviours , so that they wont interfere with everyday - situations . dont berate him over things he cant change . putting him in a state of permanent condemnation over things he has no control over makes it seem like hes incapable of pleasing you . dont assault his character . nobody wants to be around people who dislike their inner qualities . if you feel you have to criticize , emphasize that you are talking about his behavior . and youre doing this to help him . you would want the same from him . understand the difference between expressing feelings and assigning blame . yes , you should respect each others feelings , but starting a sentence with the words i feel . doesnt mean you can say whatever you want without consequences . when you start a sentence with i feel . make sure the rest of the sentence contains a feeling like happy , frustrated , or confused . be aware that its very common to say i feel . to disguise an accusation . i feel youre seeing it wrong is not talking about a feeling . nobody wants to admit they can be manipulative , but sometimes in the heat of an argument , logic flies out the window and its easy to resort to childish tactics to trick the other person into giving you what you want . learn to notice manipulation . the main way to recognize it is that it unfairly limits the other persons choices . look for a good relationship counseling reference for more examples and discussion of manipulative tactics . here are some common ones name - calling only a stupid person would think that . stonewalling giving someone the cold shoulder in order to punish them . giving them time or taking time , is different . if you need some time , mention this i need some time , leave me alone for a minute , i feel frustrated . threats go ahead and leave , but im keeping the dog . appeals to pity how can you leave me after everything ive been through instead , give positive reasons to stay . emphasize that you love him , not that he cant do any better . manipulative behavior doesnt address the real problems in the relationship , and can only breed resentment . as infants , we can die if were abandoned , and so if we think were being left behind , we react with extreme fear and emotional outbursts . these emotional reactions can persist into adulthood if they are not adequately addressed , and can complicate relationships . remember that no matter how painful a break up is , you can survive it . even if you dont want to break up , remembering this can help you find the strength to make necessary changes and express your feelings without breaking down or acting childish . if he needs to think , give him the space he needs . tell him that you want him to stay , but that you respect his decisions . doing this shows you are not desperate or clingy , and that hes allowed to have his own feelings . dont let go of your position of strength . this doesnt mean that you shouldnt admit that you might be wrong , or that you cant show your vulnerability . just remember that whatever happens , you can trust yourself . the overwhelming urge will be to panic , become upset and lash out , but this will only make things worse . take a minute to relax if you feel like youre about to say something you might regret . think of anything that you do well and easily , even just a routine task like doing the laundry , and recall the sense of competence you feel when doing it . if you get really angry or upset , try counting backwards from ten and taking deep breaths . remember you have a lot to offer , and you can prove this to yourself and to him by acting your best . being friendly , polite , strong , and loving is more effective than just listing the reasons why he should stay . remind him of why he fell for you in the first place .

let yourself be sad . give yourself a timeline . talk it out .

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letting yourself be angry and frustrated for a short time can help you cleanse your system and it will be easier to forget her . allow yourself to be upset for a set amount of time and then refrain from indulging anymore . be disciplined with this timeline . try starting with one week . during this week allow yourself to cry , get angry , listen to sad music , or do whatever rituals you feel necessary to your healing . when that one week is up commit to moving forward . dont panic if you find yourself thinking about her . if you try to forbid yourself from thinking about her , you will only think about her more . this is called the white bear effect . if you think about her , accept the thought , and then let it go . talk to a family member or good friend about your feelings . vent about her so that you no longer fixate on the pain . write out your feelings in a journal . writing is a good way to come to terms with a subject so that you stop thinking about it . after you have allowed yourself to vent about her , dont bring her up again . avoid talking about her and try to move quickly from the topic if someone asks you about her .

go on dates . exercise your social muscles . find new ways to be social .

how to forget a girl who hurt you emotionally 3

one tried and true way to get over a past lover is to meet someone new . if you feel ready , be open to making new connections . for the first few dates , avoid bringing up your ex . over time you will be able to talk about her , but while it is still fresh it will only prevent you from moving forward . even if you dont feel ready to date , make sure you are spending time with friends . stay connected to your social sphere . its normal to want to be alone after a break - up . do not isolate yourself for too long or it will keep you from moving forward . it will be more difficult to forget about your ex if you continue doing the same things you did when you were together . find new activities that are not associated with her , and will allow you to surround yourself with new faces . explore new bars and restaurants so that you meet a new batch of people . there are probably many places you never had the chance to explore while you were together . join a new club or find a new activity that will allow you to make new friends . these new friends and activities will distract you from the past . they will also share a bond with you that is totally outside of your ex .

find a new goal . go to the gym . focus on yourself . get a new hobby . get some perspective .

how to forget a girl who hurt you emotionally 4

focus your energy and emotions toward a new goal . when you feel yourself missing your ex , redirect these feelings toward a different goal or passion . obsessive thinking about your ex activates the same craving region in your brain as drugs and alcohol . replace your addiction with something productive . working out relieves stress . excess stress can make you more likely to crave companionship . being single means you have more time to think about yourself . use this opportunity to redirect your attention back to your own needs and wants . think about your professional goals . this is a great time to push your personal growth at work or at school . if there is something you have always been interested , such as cooking or a new sport , now is the time to pick it up . it will be a great distraction from your sadness . see your current pain as a temporary state . with time , it will pass . your mindset is essential to forgetting about someone . keep a positive attitude and tell yourself that you will get over her with time . it may seem impossible to you now , but if you view it as an impossible task , you will never forget your ex .

figure out if a letter is the best means for breaking up . consider other options . decide how to deliver the letter . be honest about the letters intent . explain specifics . be kind . give yourself time to grieve . understand biology plays a role in breakups . resist negative feelings .

how to write a breakup letter

when it comes to break ups , face - to - face interaction is optimal but there are a variety of reasons why writing a letter might be the best option . if youre in a long distance relationship , communication can sometimes be difficult even over a phone or web cam screen . some people are also simply uncomfortable with phone calls and if thats the case for you , a letter might help you get your words out in a calm , straightforward fashion . if your partner might become hostile or emotional during a face - to - face break up , preventing you from explaining your point of view , a letter might also be a better option . closure and open communication is important for a clean , healthy breakup and if you dont think your partner will allow this face - to - face , it may be better to write your thoughts out in a letter . a breakup letter should only be used as a last resort . unless youre experiencing one of the extenuating circumstances from above , its better to try and communicate face - to - face . face - to - face communication is ideal because non - verbal cues can provide comfort during a breakup . a smile or hug , for example , can tell your partner he or she still matters even though the relationship is ending . such moments are absent when breaking up happens in letter form . a breakup letter can also be somewhat cryptic . if theres anything your partner does not understand , he or she will be unable to ask for clarification . a lack of closure can leave him or her emotionally scarred and entering a new relationship may be difficult . if you truly feel a breakup letter is the best route despite its drawbacks , leave room open for communication . tell your partner he or she can call you or see you in a few days or weeks to talk if he or she needs to do so face - to - face . give him or her time to cool down , however , so you can both talk calmly as adults . delivery options are important in regard to a break - up letter . you want to make sure you deliver the letter in a way that does not come off as cruel or spiteful . e - mail , facebook , and other electronic means of delivering the letter are probably a bad idea . as some many people now have smart phones , that means all day internet access . you do not want your partner to open the e - mail on his way to work , school , or any event where he needs to stay focused . mailing the letter may be necessary if youre in a long distance relationship . however , give some kind of heads up . do not pretend things are normal after youve sent the letter . give your partner a heads - up to expect a letter and tell him or her youve expressed some things you feel are easier to discuss in a written format . if you live in the same town , you could deliver the letter yourself or have a friend or family member do so . a break - up should be a clean break with no room for ambiguity . you should be honest from the get - go you want to end the relationship . the letters intent should be obvious from the opening line . easing someone into a break - up seems less cruel , but it actually comes off as a mixed message . it can easily be read as uncertainty , making your partner think theres a chance you might change your mind . your opening line should be concise . begin with a simple sentence that communicates the letters intent . something like , i have come to the difficult decision to end this relationship or something along those lines works . this comes off as certain , leaving no room for confusion . breakups can be difficult and cause a lot of feelings of failure and anxiety for both parties . open communication is important as it removes the stress of not knowing . your partner deserves to understand why the relationship ended , so providing specifics as to why you feel things arent working out is vital to a break - up letter . information - sharing is an important aspect of any relationship . in a breakup , sharing the reasons you feel the relationship should end conveys you respect your partner and want him or her to have closure . the idea of a winner you , as youre leaving and a loser your partner , as hes being left are diminished if youre honest . the blame is not on one individual but rather the incompatibility between the two of you . even if your partner did something that made you unhappy , avoid name - calling and blaming . simply state the specific behavior that resulted in incompatibility . instead of saying , your friendship with your ex is damaging to our relationship try to state it in a way that focuses on your personal feelings rather than applying objective facts . for example , the fact you and jane are still so close makes me feel it would be difficult for me to trust you longterm . specific behaviors that were damaging to your relationship are important for your ex to know . he or she can use this information to improve his romantic relationships in the future . if you phrase things in a non - confrontational way , it may be helpful for him of her in the future to know why a past relationship ended . remember , its not always something the other person is doing . sometimes , incompatibility causes a relationship to end . if this is the case , say so . this is often easier to accept and your ex will not end up feeling bad or guilty about past mistakes . say something like , i feel that we ultimately want to end up in different locations and as im getting older , i want to find someone im compatible with in the longterm . remember , as youre not face - to - face the non - verbal cues that can be reassuring are absent . kindness is important in a break - up letter . you want your partner to understand that , even though the relationship has ended , they still matter . while you need to be firm that youre ending the relationship , theres no need to be spiteful or aggressive while doing so . even if you do have feelings of resentment , expressing yourself is an aggressive way could lead your ex to retaliate with his own letter or an angry phone call . end the letter by saying something positive , like i valued the time we spent together and i hope you find someone you work better with in the future . the absence of non - verbal cues can make you come off as cold , so you want your ex to feel that you do care and that he or she is valued even though the relationship is over . another reasons kindness is important is that letters bind you to your words . in anger or sadness , we often say things we do not truly mean and you do not want you or your ex to carry around physical evidence of a regrettable phrasing or tone . when a relationship ends , its important not to deny or minimize the feelings of sadness that follow . you need to experience your breakup in order to get over it . grieving is a normal part of a relationship ending . even if you know the decision was for the best , you will likely miss your partner in the days and weeks that follow the breakup . many people deal with such feelings by avoiding them . people may take up a big project or start socializing or drinking heavily . however , this is not a good idea . ending a relationship , especially a serious and longterm one , is one of the most difficult emotional blows a person can endure in life . you need to be able to accept and face the pain to process the emotions youre feeling about the loss . biology plays a factor in how we cope with breakups . understanding your biological functions in the wake of a failed romance can help you better cope . the human brain is wired for bonding , so the breaking of any bond is emotionally difficult . a breakup can be similar to drug withdrawal as the feelings of longing for another person remain even weeks after the relationship has ended . areas of the brain associated with drug use are activated during romantic relationships , and so youre biologically wired to miss someone and feel regret or loneliness in the direct aftermath of a breakup . understand such feelings are temporary and , as time passes , they will lessen . while past relationships do affect how you function in current relationship , the acute feelings of pain lose intensity with time . oftentimes , in order to justify or dismiss a relationship , people indulge in ruminating over things they disliked about an ex . such negative thoughts do not help you get over someone . they simply increase the amount of time you spend thinking about an ex , prolonging the process of getting over someone . instead , try to focus on the positives and look towards better prospects in the future .

do not cry in front of them - you dont want to look like a basket case and make them think that theyre making the right decision . get in the car and let out a good scream when youre at least two blocks away from their house . drive to your best friends house for a shoulder to cry on . cry . box up all the things that they gave you , or that remind you of them . print out all emails they sent you gather up all letters they wrote you . cut off all contact with them for at least a month this will help the healing process because you wont be talking to them all the time . if you see them regularly at work or school , always look good . when they do come back around , because youre too great of a girl for them to not come back , make them work for your attention . if you let them back in , make sure youre strict about you staying .

how to survive a break up girls

hug them goodbye , wish them luck with life , and leave with pride . if you have good self esteem , you know that it is their loss . blast angry , loud music , and let it out . they will be able to make you laugh and say all the right things to make you feel better , such as youre too sweet , pretty , nice , popular , and smart for your ex - partner . have a long , good cry . put them in a box for a time when youre less emotional and want to look back at them . do not act hastily and throw out or burn things , you may want them in the future . then , delete the emails and give the paper copies to a friend to keep in a safe place . this will prevent you from going back and obsessing over the emails , but they will still be there if you want them in the future . , dont look like youre trying , but always look good so that they regret their decision . even though you may still like them , make them think that they have to win you back , and that you have other prospects out there waiting for you . make them think you chose to be back with them rather than other people that asked you out .

cry one final time . remove trigger items . remove the person from your social media and contact lists . practice deep breathing . stop ruminating . smile . learn to avoid crying spells before they begin . spend time with loved ones . join a new activity . exercise . although you might feel like staying home , leave the house and take a walk or run . consider changing your style . make healthy choices .

how to stop crying over your ex every day

let yourself have one last deep cry . let all your sadness out . scream if necessary . try to come to a point of final release . then , commit to not crying about this person or relationship again . consider journalling during your cry about all the feelings you are experiencing . describe the things you disliked about your ex . that might make you less sad that you broke up . have a friend with you during your final cry . hugging someone can help , as it causes your body to produce oxytocin , which helps you feel warmer and happier . a trigger is something that will cause an emotional reaction when you seehearor smell it and will remind you of your ex . it could be anything from a piece of clothing or a bottle of perfume or cologne , certain music or songs , notes , drawings , ticket stubs , photographs – anything that reminds you of your ex . put away , donate , or dispose of these things . removing triggers will help you move forward and heal , as the reaction to a trigger item is often involuntary . you could be feeling great and positive and then smell your exs perfume and experience the pain anew . while you might want to keep some mementos , put these in a box and out of sight . unless you broke up on very good terms , consider de - friending your ex on facebook or putting himher on limited profile . seeing constant updates about your ex will not make you feel better and might bring on tears . you also might consider removing hisher contact information from your phone . this will prevent you from texting or calling the person during moments of weakness . when you feel like another bout of crying is coming , try breathing very deeply from your diaphragm . breathe in for a count of five and then exhale for five seconds , making a ts sound . this process will calm your body . see stop yourself from crying for more physical tips on how to stop crying . no matter how tempting it is to rehash every detail of your relationship andor breakup , resist the urge . instead , practice living in the moment . reflect also on what you have learned from the breakup . as you cannot repair the relationship , let go of your attachment to it . go for a long run in a scenic place . take a walk around your neighborhood and inhale the scents of the bakery . listen to people chatting over coffee . watch the changing leaves or blooming flowers . although this sounds very simple , studies have shown that by making positive facial expressions , people can actually feel happier . even though you might feel like crying , smile and see if you feel better . if your crying is triggered by painful thoughts or memories , there are things you can do to combat those feelings . learning to self - soothe , or comfort yourself , can help you stay calm and keep your bad feelings from overwhelming you . try some of these techniques when you find yourself feeling down or flooded with painful memories use affirmations . an affirmation is a way to remind yourself that you have value even when youre feeling down . say these out loud , quietly , or simply write them down . some examples are i deserve to be happy . i deserve to be loved and appreciated . i am more than my sadness . things will get better and i will be happy again . pamper yourself with a warm bath or massage . watch a funny movie , tv show , or clips on online . listen to relaxing music . relax in the warmth of the sun . play with or pet an animal . eat a comforting meal . get lost in your favorite book . oftentimes , we feel sadder when we are alone . after your break - up , make a point of visiting your friends and family . perhaps ask a friend to visit you and bring a funny movie . alternatively , you could dress up and go to dinner with a group of friends . being in public will help you cry less . when you remember what joy and laughter feel like , you can start to feel better . when socializing after your final cry , try to avoid bringing up your ex in conversation . while you certainly should share your feelings with your closest friends , constantly harping on your breakup will make you sadder . when your life has been wrapped up in one person for a long time , it is easy to forget who you are . by joining new activities , whether a sport , club , or musical group , you can craft a new part of your identity . this part of you will not include any memories of your ex . additionally , if you find some new friends , they wont know you as part of a relationship . they will just get to know you for you . activities like salsa or swing dance are particularly good . not only will you learn new skills and exercise but you will meet new people and have platonic physical contact . this can be very important when you are used to having someone to touch . ride your bike or swim . by doing some exercise , your body will release endorphins . this will make you both happier and healthier . one way to feel refreshed is to get a new hair cut . you might enjoy being pampered at a salon . sometimes telling a new or trusted hair stylist about your breakup can be cathartic . updating your glasses or clothing choices is another option . when so much of yourself is associated to your ex , it can be beneficial to make small changes that make you feel better . additionally , you might feel that even though your emotions are out of control , you control your style and can still feel confident and good . avoid drug or alcohol use . although it is tempting to use substances to alleviate the pain you are feeling , refrain from doing so . right now , you might be feeling vulnerable and you would not want to over - use any substances . instead , seek your comfort foods though not in excess . food with serotonin also can boost your happiness levels . good foods would be bananas , yogurt , turkey , eggs , nuts , cheese , or beans .

accept the breakup completely . get rid of all relationship memorabilia . refrain from over - elaborating on the breakup . reduce spending time with mutual friends . avoid venues and events which may result in a run - in . refrain from discussing your ex at all times . never contact your ex for any reason .

how to successfully disconnect from your ex after a breakup

this is the most important step to moving on from a breakup . there are times when you wonder was it me was it my ex can we work on our problems and get back together or will i connect with anyone as much as i did with my ex these questions were all meant to be thought up and answered before the breakup . if the relationship has ended , continue to follow through . if your ex broke up with you , the chance for you to be informed as to why has come and gone . crying due to being hurt by the unexpected surprise is never an excuse , especially since all mourning of a discontinued relationship should be done in solitude . relationship memorabilia is everything that reminds you of being in a relationship with your former lover . these things include your ex lovers clothes , gifts you were given , gifts that were given to you as a couple , pictures , texts between you and your ex , and the connection between you and your former lover on any and every social network . this may seem a tad extreme , but it helps you from undergoing a mental breakdown or unwanted yearning for a particular mismatch of a counterpart later on . burning a jacket that the not - so - significant - other left behind at your apartment may be just as healthy . then again , so would returning said jacket to its owner . totally your call . everyone in your life who knew about your relationship is going to want to know what the cause of the breakup was . the storytelling , unfortunately , leads to the constant reliving of the event and the reopening of emotional wounds and tension . whether you have a good poker face or not , your character may be negatively perceived by others since sharing a stressful moment , or discussing someone you dislike , typically leads to the use of venomous speech and causes you to be as worked up as you were while actually experiencing the incident . just stick to the basics the two of you are no longer together , you are much happier now , and you will never continue the former partnership . never force friends to pick between you and your ex . instead , after the news of the breakup has been shared , allow your true friends to make the loyal – yet mature – moves that they should in order to remain prominent in your life . those whom you have met through the relationship should not be expected to only keep up with simply you mutual friends will feel the need to spend equal time with both you and your former lover . friends that have been a part of your life before you met your ex will not hesitate to cut your former better half out of their daily lives – same should be expected of your exs associates and confidantes . a thorough weeding of the friends list of your social networks is definitely in order as well . the coincidental run - in with a potential , current , or former lover is never unintentional . one of the factors in deciding whether or not you should go to the biannual school fair or college night at the local bar is whether or not you will run into a specific someone or someones . if there is ever the slightest chance of you running into your ex at a public event or venue , do not pass go . altering your plans and regular hangouts should never be the case , however . just be aware that if your ex knows of your usual hot spots for a night on the town , he or she will not give up a chance to make at least one night an awkward time for you . nothing good will ever come from a reunion . never . whether you randomly remember a good experience or a very tragic occurrence , if the event has anything to do with your insignificant other , move the account to the back of your mind and never utter the name of thou - who - must - not - be - named ever again . memories are precious things which you are able to carry with you even when times you spend with others – or those you have spent life - altering moments with – have come and gone . memorable times with your ex could be mistakenly excused as being cautionary tales or moments to look forward to with your next , and hopefully final , love of your life , but these should never be the case . constantly thinking of your ex will cause you to constantly crave to spend time with him or her , or wonder what he or she is up to . mentioning your ex means that you are thinking of your ex – which should never be the case because… . your ex should always remain your ex . the relationship is over , and , if you have accepted the breakup and decided that you would like to move on with your life , interactions with your former lover are over as well . keeping in contact with an ex creates that illusion that the two of you can remain friends , the emotional relationship which was forsaken once you became lovers . never wish the ex a happy birthday . refrain from sending a holiday greeting . delete that urge to ask , how are you this may seem like a step to becoming a bitter ex , but it is in fact part of becoming a smart , emotionally stable individual . you must accept the fact that you cannot change every situation in your life that has gone astray , and you are most certainly also unable to stay in the good graces of everyone you meet . all you can do is let go of the past and stay open to positive future experiences .

minimize possible damage from first dates . be kind . take the high road . dont beat around the bush . address the situation directly being direct and honest need not be harsh or mean . keep to your decision .

how to tell someone you dont want to go on another date

dont sleep with people on your first date - especially if theres any idea that this is not your perfect match dating is meant to give you a chance to talk and get to know someone , you dont have to have sex . frankly , most people can tell within a few minutes whether they are interested enough for a second date - if this is the case with you , dont even offer a kiss goodnight . keep things very platonic and nice , but dont allow it to escalate into sexual action of any kind . this makes it much harder to later convince the hard - headed that you really are not interested . you may not think this person is a match for you , but she is a human being whose only crime was being interested enough in you to want to get to know you better . bear this in mind , even if you found this person boring , overly introverted , too fixated on hisher hobby , or just not compatible . maybe this person was an arrogant , obnoxious boor . if this person was a jerk when you were on your date , remember that this is the last time you will have to talk with himher . theres no need to make an enemy - just be direct and dont get hostile . your phone rings - its himher . this is not the time for prevaricating wavering . dont let it go to voice mail - answer it . dont give in to the temptation to say things like , sure , id love to do it again sometime - call me next week . you think its harmless and vague enough not to matter , but its not . thats a lie , and its wrong . if youre lucky , heshe is calling to say thanks for a nice evening , and nothing more . if thats the case , you need not say anything more than youre welcome . thank you , too . however . if she is calling for another date , go on to the next step . just say , i think that youre a great guygirl . youre just not my great guygirl . i know your great mate is out there . good luck to you . if she tries to persuade you to give it just one more chance , its up to you , of course , but if youve already made up your mind , just say , im sorry , but i dont think we have enough in common for a long - term relationship . thanks , though . thats firm - and final - and leaves no room for doubt as to where your head is at . wavering because you feel sorry for someone is not a good idea . many times , this person is a friend of a friend . your mutual friend tells you how upset this person is that things didnt work out , and how shed really like another chance . maybe heshe has even been crying or is incessantly begging your friend to work on you , trying to get another shot with you . its fine to feel compassion about hisher pain rejection is never easy . but giving in to another date will only compound the error , and you will go through it all over again after the next one . stay firm in your resolve , and tell your friend , its great there is a friend like you who is so kind and cares so much about hisher happiness . the thing is , it would just make things worse . its not that heshe isnt a good person , its just that were not a match . lets leave it at that . if your friend persists , say , youre a good friend , but its not going to happen . tell himher that i said good luck , and lets drop it . now .

make sure you are not already having a huge fight over the end of the holiday season or that you have led him up the garden path about your intentions . find a private area where you can talk and not create a scene . simply sit down and let him know how you feel . listen to what he has to say . leave on good terms .

how to say bye to your holiday boyfriend

this will just leave a bitter taste in your mouth and is not a great way to end something that was good while it lasted . both of you liked each other a lot , or you wouldnt have become involved , right so , be thoughtful and make the break somewhere secluded and pleasant . try to pick somewhere you can share a local dish , favorite drink or other pleasant memory . and dont forget to pay for it . tell him that the fling was fun but that living in completely different places doesnt bode well for your future relationship and that you are dreadful at keeping in touch . tell him that you really enjoyed the time together but that it was only a holiday thing and that it would be unkind to pretend it can continue back in everyday life . hear him out . it may well be that he feels the exact same way as you . if not , let him express his sorrow and be kind to him . it doesnt hurt to ask him to try to be realistic about the whole situation and to let him know how great he was and that youre sure jealous of his next girlfriend . theres no harm swapping addresses if you want to . maybe someday youll cross paths again . and as time passes , it can be good to have a friend in another part of your country or even the world to drop in on and borrow a couch for a night or two

tell the truth . use a compliment sandwich . be direct . treat the person with respect . communicate effectively .

how to reject someone without breaking their heart 1

honesty is usually the best policy . it is disrespectful to lie to someone . if you dont want to date someone , you should say so . sometimes it is easy to be honest . for example , you might be able to truthfully say , no , thank you , i already have a date for that party . other times , you might need to find a kinder way to be nice . maybe you are not attracted to the person . instead of bluntly saying that , try saying , no , thank you , i just dont think we would be a good fit . avoid making up a phony excuse . for instance , dont tell someone you will be out of town this weekend if you wont be . theres a chance that you might then run into them at the movies , which would definitely cause hurt feelings . a compliment sandwich is a really effective way to provide feedback . essentially , you sandwich your negative comment between two positive things . try using this method when you need to reject someone . an example of a compliment sandwich is to say something such as , youre an awesome person . unfortunately , im not interested in dating you . someone else is going to be really lucky to date someone with such a great personality you could also try , you are a really nice person . im only interested you as a friend . i like when we hang out in big groups together be sincere . if you offer false compliments , the other person will likely be able to tell and feel hurt . if you do not want to date someone , it is best to be upfront about your feelings . do not beat around the bush . if your mind is made up , it is best to clearly state your response . if someone asks you to date them and you dont want to , you can be direct and kind at the same time . state your answer clearly . you can make your feelings clear without purposefully hurting someone elses feelings . try smiling and saying , that sounds fun , but no thank you . im not interested in dating you . dont beat around the bush . if you do not want to accept the date , there is no need to say , let me think about it . it is best to get the rejection over with . you dont want to give someone false hope . avoid saying something like , let me check my schedule and get back to you . try to treat the person the way you would want to be treated . this means that you should choose your words carefully . be thoughtful in your response . its okay to pause before responding . you might be taken by surprise and need a moment to collect your thoughts . say thank you . it is a compliment to be asked out . you can say , im flattered . unfortunately , i cant accept . dont laugh . many people laugh nervously in awkward situations . try to avoid giggling , as that is likely to result in hurt feelings . sometimes it is not what you say , but how you say it . if you need to reject someone , think about factors other than your words . non - verbal communication matters , too . use the right tone of voice . try to sound gentle but firm . make eye contact . this helps convey that you are being serious , and also shows respect for the other person . if you are in public , try not to speak too loudly . it is not necessary for everyone around you to know that you are turning down a date .

think about why you are breaking up with her . practice what you are going to say . figure out how to respond to her . find a private time and place to do it . do it in person . talk about the positives with the negatives . listen to her . be ready to feel emotional . dont jump right back into dating . reach out to your friends . dont contact your ex - girlfriend . be nice to your ex - girlfriend .

how to break up with your girlfriend in high school

do you feel like you two have nothing in common anymore does she do things that make you angry are you going off to college and want to stop before the relationship becomes a long - distance one this should not be a decision you make quickly or in anger . think carefully about your reasons for wanting to break up with your girlfriend . explore your feelings and ask yourself if you have good reasons , or if they are issues that you could resolve by talking to her . if youre angry after a fight , take time to think about whether you want to break up or if youre just angry in the moment . if you are jealous of her relationship with her friends , talk to her about that rather than just breaking up over it . if she is abusive , end the relationship . verbal and physical abuse is a dealbreaker . when you break up with a person , they want to know why . be ready with answers for her . be honest but kind . im sorry , im heading off for the army and i need to focus on that and not on our relationship . i am going to be so busy there wont be any time for a relationship ive had a great time with you , but i think weve both changed and arent the same people we were when we got together . we dont seem to have anything in common anymore . ive really tried to give this a go , but i dont want to go out with you anymore . i feel like youre not interested in me . that makes me sad . ive tried to talk to you about it , but it seems like you dont want to resolve it . think about her responses - - sad , angry , silent - - and how you are going to deal with them . do you want to comfort her , or just deliver the message and leave keep in mind that these interactions often dont go as planned , so be ready to improvise . they are always challenging and difficult , but try to be kind and sympathetic to her feelings . im sorry youre so sad . i just dont think this is right for either of us . i know youll find someone much better than i am for you . look , i understand that youre angry , but i dont want to fight . i am going to walk away and we can talk about this later . i know ive made you really upset . im sorry . if you want to talk about it sometime later , please let me know . dont break up with her in the hallway with everybody around . choose a time that isnt during the school day . think about doing it outside , maybe taking a walk . that way you dont have to look at each other - - sometimes that helps with a really emotional conversation . dont do it through facebook , texts , over the phone , etc . no one deserves that kind of treatment . even if youre worried about how its going to go , you need to be brave and do it face - to - face . doing it through texts or facebook may feel a lot better to you , but it certainly wont to her . if you want to have any kind of friendship with her in the future , do the right thing and do it in person . for this difficult conversation , you might want to start by letting her know that you have something important you need to say . she will probably have some idea that its about breaking up . start by saying something nice about her . i need to talk to you , but i wanted to let you know ive always thought youre such a kind person . or whatever happens between the two of us , i wanted to tell you that you are a great singer and i hope you continue with music . tell her why the relationship is not working for you . i dont think we share interests any more or im having a lot of trouble with my parents divorce right now , and i need to focus on dealing with my anger , not being in a relationship . explain that you want to break up . you need to say this explicitly so she knows that this isnt a conversation about trying to make your relationship better . i am breaking up with you - - im sorry . you could also tell her - - i need to break this relationship off . im not ready to be so serious with you . be comforting and say something nice about her . you are such a beautiful person , you are going to find someone who can give you the kind of relationship you want . you could also say , you deserve someone smart and ready to be in the kind of committed relationship you deserve . it might be that she is feeling the same way you are . chances are , however , that she has different ideas about the relationship . she might want to try and continue it , and then it will be up to you to decide if you want to try and work on it or go through with the breakup as planned . even if it goes as you planned , youre probably going to feel emotionally fragile when its over . breaking up is difficult in any situation , because youre typically going to be making the other person feel bad . take some time to yourself to think things over after you have talked to your ex - girlfriend . even though it might seem like a good idea to get back out there and find someone new , its usually a poor idea . youre not at your emotional best , and you should take a few weeks to think through what you want to do going forward . sometimes hanging out with your friends is the best way to move forward . they were with you through the relationship and will be there to support you now . plan fun activities to keep you occupied and less likely to dwell on your romantic situation . if you want to discuss the break up with your friends , thats fine , but dont keep bringing it up - - you need to move on and your friends probably arent excited to hear about it over and over . even if she wants to be in touch , you need a period where you two are not communicating so that the relationship can end and you can both adjust to the new reality . you might be able to communicate as friends in a few months , but dont seek her out . if she contacts you , explain that you need time and dont want to be in contact just yet . when you see her around , be friendly . even if she ignores you or yells , its better for you to be mature and treat her respectfully .

be gentle with yourself . eat healthy . exercise . reflect on your purpose . reflect on why and what kind of makeover you want . treat yourself . splurge on a new hairstyle or a wardrobe change . change the inner , not just the outer . reconnect with what you love . get rid of whats holding you back . try something new . get out and have fun . seek out the right relationship .

how to reinvent yourself after a break up girls

right after a break up , its very common for women to blame themselves . however , instead of piling guilt on top of all the negativity you are already experiencing , try your best to be positive and kind to yourself . remember that you want to reinvent yourself for yourself , not to get your partner back or to prove something to the rest of the world . cut out the negative self - talk . instead of dwelling on your failures and what you could have done differently , comfort yourself as you would comfort your best friend . tell yourself you did what you could , reflect on what youve learned from the experience , and give yourself positive affirmations . if you are finding it difficult to get through your days , try saying some daily affirmations in the mirror . look in the mirror and repeat a phrase several times to your reflection such as , i am worthy , beautiful , and strong . it may sound silly , but telling yourself positive affirmations and doing your best to truly believe in them can help reset your thinking and encourage a more positive outlook on the world . the extreme stress caused by a break up causes different reactions but regardless , taking care of your physical health is of utmost importance , especially when the break up happened recently . you may have difficulty sleeping , turn to food for comfort , or have no desire to eat at all . regardless of how your body reacts , do your best to maintain as many healthy routines as possible . you may crave chocolates or other unhealthy foods but try to maintain a healthy diet with lots of fruits and vegetables . not only will this help you feel better , but your body will also thank you and you will avoid the dreaded post - break up pounds . eating healthy doesnt mean depriving yourself of all treats . if all you want to do is eat your feelings in the form of a gallon of ice cream , try spooning out a reasonable portion of ice cream into a separate bowl and enjoying it slowly . satisfying your craving can actually boost your psychological state , but if you overdo it by binge eating , youll end up feeling worse about yourself in the long run . any form of exercise , whether it be yoga or even just running around the block for fifteen minutes , can also offset some of the anxiety and sadness you experience through an uptick of dopamine and other feel - good chemicals in the brain . a break up can be a great reason to treat yourself to a one - month trial at a new yoga studio or even try out a new activity , like pole dancing or zumba , that gets you working out in a supportive and upbeat community . you may not feel like leaving the house or moving at all . if thats the case , try doing some light stretches or just walking around the block until you are feeling better . after all , every little step counts . losing yourself in a new workout activity or sport can not only be a great way to distract yourself from the negative emotions you are processing , but can also contribute to a fitter , stronger body which could improve your confidence and contribute to the new , reinvented you . in the aftermath of a relationship , its always good to take some time to reflect on your life . after all , no matter how in love you were with the person , your life is ultimately your own and this can be a great opportunity to reflect on your hopes , goals , and dreams - - what you ultimately see as your own purpose in life . if you dont have any concrete goals , now could be a great time to start they can be as simple as learn how to salsa dance or get a promotion . if you already have some goals , such as getting as in school , brainstorm what you can do on a regular basis to get to that point . coming up with regular to - do lists can contribute to your success and also get you back into rhythm after the post - break up trauma . many of us lose track of our goals when were in a relationship . whether this was the case for you or not , try to keep sight of your goals as and think of them as an umbrella to shelter yourself from disappointment . pinning your hopes on yourself and working towards your goals in a concrete manner will help you move on and even potentially put you in contact with people who are better suited to you . after all , reinventing yourself is all about re - centering your focus on your life , including how you feel and how you present yourself to the world . for some , reinventing yourself may be all about getting on track with your life goals while for others , physical alterations are more important . if possible , have a friend tag along or even do a makeover with you . not only will you have more fun , youll also get some friendly guidance that will help steer you away from any potentially regrettable decisions . if you and your ex had a shared social group , reach out to a friend that is either outside of that friend group or is much closer to you than your ex such as a childhood friend who became friends with your ex much later . you dont want to put anyone in the uncomfortable position of choosing sides . theres nothing like a good pampering to ease all the troubles away , so treat yourself to a massage , facial , or a mani - pedicure . or if spa treatments arent your thing , buy yourself a new perfume or even indulge in your favorite candy . if you cant afford expensive spa treatments , doing facials or mani - pedis at home can still give you the same benefits . inviting a friend over can further help lift your spirits as well . doing so will increase your self confidence and also help you psychologically adjust to your life in the aftermath of a break up . if you cant afford a new hairstyle or clothes , dont despair . you can always check out thrift stores for cheap , interesting pieces or dye your hair yourself rather than going to a salon . even a change as small as parting your hair differently can have a dramatic impact on your look and , more importantly , how you feel about yourself . if you usually wear a signature perfume , try changing it up . many of us connect memories with scents and so continuing to wear a certain scent may remind you of your ex and bring you down . buying a new perfume will not only be a great way to treat yourself , but could also help you begin a new chapter in life . when talking about makeovers , people usually focus on the outward changes in appearance but you should apply the concept of the makeover to your personality and emotional state as well . take some time to reflect on what you would like to change about your attitudes or behaviors and what you can do to implement those changes . for example , many people suffer from low self - confidence , especially after a break up . try boosting your confidence by focusing on the positives , in your outlook and your self - image , and changing your body posture to communicate confidence such as standing straight and keeping your shoulders down . many people give up activities they once loved or stop spending as much time on them when they are in a romantic relationship . this is natural but now that you are newly single , take the opportunity to take up reading your favorite books , jumping back into your favorite sport , or spending more time with your girl friends . go through your belongings and get rid of mementos , old clothes , anything that you feel doesnt serve a purpose other than to remind you of the pain of the lost relationship . this includes truly letting go of the relationship you were in . if you two have agreed to be friends , be sure to have a set time out period so that things can cool off between you two . if the break up ended badly , do your best to just forget about your ex and move on with your life . after a breakup is a great time to start a new hobby or learn a new skill . all that time you once spent with your ex can now be channeled into doing the things you want to do . reflect on if theres anything youve ever wanted to do but somehow never found the time or drive to act on that desire . some women even take this as an opportunity to make an ambitious career or education change . if youve always secretly wanted to finish your degree or apply for a job abroad , then take the break up as an opportunity to do it trying something new doesnt have to be dramatic , however . for some women , taking up painting , getting through that stack of classics thats been collecting dust , or taking an online course can be just as satisfying . after your initial mourning period , its important to not get stuck in a post break up rut . whether its going to the park , going dancing , or just reconnecting with close friends , its important to go out and do fun things . remember that at the end of the day you live life as an individual , so get out there and live your life . just be sure to not go out of control . many people resort to harmful or self - destructive behaviors such as drinking too much or acting out during grieving periods . you can avoid this by doing emotional check - ins . for example , if you make plans to meet at a bar with friends but are really only looking forward to the drinks , you should examine where that desire is coming from and plan to do something else with your friends , or ask them to monitor how much you drink so that you dont lose control . dont go to parties or other events that your ex is also likely to attend . you both need a substantial period of time apart in order to heal and move on . if youve already said yes to a party and only find out later that your ex will be there , cancel and make new plans for the evening unless you are positive that you are emotionally ready for a possible interaction . this step may be further down the line , but make sure to take what you have learned from your last relationship and carry the lessons with you . reflect on what kind of partner the new you would like and what you have to offer them . remember , you and your ex broke up for a reason and part of reinventing yourself is to have a happier , more fulfilling life so look for qualities in other people that will make that happen .

take responsibility for breaking up . use compassion . plan what you want to say . find a good time . make a clean break .

how to reject someone without breaking their heart 2

maybe you are already dating someone and you no longer want to be . there are ways to kindly reject your significant other . your first step is to face the situation head on . dont try to delay the breakup . if you want to end the relationship , its best to get it over with . dont wait for the other person to break up with you . it can be tempting to try to be mean or avoid making plans so that your partner will end the relationship . making someone want to breakup with you doesnt make you the nicer person . its just a way of putting the burden on someone else . ending a relationship can be painful . it can also be a very awkward conversation . try to make it as smooth as possible by being as kind and gentle as possible . dont play the blame game . you dont need to say , im breaking up with you because youre a horrible person its okay to voice your concerns . just be honest and constructive . for example , you could say , i cant date you anymore . it really bothers me that you repeatedly break plans with me without any warning . you can also say something nice . you could try , there are a lot of great things about dating you . however , its time for me to move on . you might be nervous if you have to reject someone . sometimes it can ease your anxiety if you make a plan . put some thought into how you will approach the conversation . think about the main points . for example , if you are breaking up because you dont want to be in a relationship , make sure to say that . write down some notes . it can be useful to see your thoughts in writing . it can also help you remember what you want to say . think about the other persons feelings . try out some different variations of this isnt working to figure out what feels natural and honest . anytime you have to have the talk , its going to be difficult . if you choose an appropriate time , you can make it a little more bearable . take the other persons perspective into account . break - up in person . it can be tempting to send a text or e - mail , but you should avoid doing so . it is kinder and more respectful to have a face to face conversation . try to avoid having a public breakup . for example , dont choose a friends birthday party as the setting for an important conversation . give some warning . let the other person know that you need to have a serious talk . try saying , i have to talk to you about something that you probably wont like . ending a relationship can feel complicated . you might feel like easing out of dating is nicer to the other person . however , it is more effective to definitively end things . set clear boundaries . you can try saying , i think its best if we dont communicate at all for a while . consider blocking the other person on social media . that way , no one will be tempted to monitor facebook or instagram statuses . dont lead anyone on . after you have broken up , do not flirt with your ex or try to make plans with them .

watch for red flags . prioritize your feelings . confide in someone trustworthy .

how to reject someone without breaking their heart 3

rejecting someone can cause a lot of emotions . in fact , it can make some people very angry . if you need to reject someone , look for some warning signs . your safety is top priority . if you think rejecting someone could cause them to become very upset , take steps to stay safe . one red flag is a bad temper . if you have seen the person lose their temper before , consider rejecting them in public . it might be more awkward , but youll be safe . know when to walk away . if your rejection causes anger , dont stand there trying to explain yourself . if the person starts yelling or being mean , end the conversation . if the other person seems to have an anger management problem , it is okay to use e - mail or text to reject them . that is an exception to the face to face rule . rejecting someone is not an enjoyable experience . in fact , it can make you feel pretty bad . however , its important to remember that your emotions should be your priority . dont say yes simply to avoid saying no . only accept a date with someone you are interested in . know that your happiness is important . you do not need to date someone that you dont like . consider your motivations . try not to let your friends influence your dating choices . say yes or no based on your own opinions . it can be tricky to know that you need to reject someone . if you know that someone is going to ask you out and you want to say no , consider getting some advice . talk to a friend or family member that you trust . think about asking a sibling for advice . they might be able to help you think of a nice way to say no , thank you . choose a friend who can be trusted to stay quiet . you dont want other people to know about the breakup before your boyfriend or girlfriend knows . be honest about your emotions . try saying , i need to reject someone , and its making me really nervous .

ignore him at first . slowly acknowledge him . let him see you having fun with your girls . let him see you having a good time with other guys . flirt a little bit . be immune to his charms .

how to play a player 1

if you want to play a player , you have to get his attention . do you get his attention by fawning all over him , running your hands through this hair , and telling him how hot he is absolutely not . to play a player , you have to start off by completely ignoring him - - be an ice queen if you have to . if he walks into a room and tries to charm you and your girls , look away , stare into your drink , or barely say hi before you check your phone or disappear to the girls room . hell notice you precisely because you didnt notice him . players expect to be worshipped by every woman around , and hell wonder why his magic didnt work on you . you dont have to be outright rude to him . just look completely uninterested , like you have better things to do than to talk to him . but that doesnt mean you should insult him or call him names , either . after a while , whether its a few weeks later at the same party or a few hours later at the same bar , you can start to open up a bit . you should let him know you see him , but just enough to make him curious and to want to get to know you and win you over . you can do this by introducing yourself , repeating his name when he introduces himself , or by smiling at him from across the room . dont let him make you laugh , ask you to dance , or lavish you with complements . if he insists on buying you a drink , you can let him , but dont let it be an excuse for him to spend the night trying to charm you . take the drink , thank him , and walk away . now that youve got his attention and have shown some minimal interest in him , you need to remind him that you have better things to do than to be with him . let him see you having a good time with your girls by laughing it up with them , hitting up the dance floor with them , or just having a general good time without him . you can do this anywhere , not just out at a bar . if the player is in your school or someone from town , let him see you having fun with your girls no matter what youre doing , whether its eating lunch or going shopping . just make one thing clear you do not need him . to reinforce the idea that you dont really need the player in your life , let him see you hanging out with other guys . whether youre hanging out with your guy friends or if another guy is showing interest in you , you should let him see that every guy wants some of your time and that you like all of the attention - - as long as its not from him . just by chatting or laughing with other guys , youll be showing him that you dont need him . you dont have to grind with another guy on the dance floor to show that hes not needed . dont look over at the player to make sure that he sees you having a great time . he shouldnt even consider that youre trying to get his attention by ignoring him . once youve acknowledged the guy only to mostly ignore him with your girlfriends and other guys in your life , its time to reel him back in again . after you think youve driven him crazy enough , its time to have a quick , flirtatious conversation where you let him fawn all over you and show him that you may be interested . play it cool . dont flatter him . just let him know that you like talking to him . keep things light and fun . thatll make him want to talk to you more . tease him a little bit . dont let him take himself too seriously or think hes all that . let him see that while you like flirting with him , youre not going to fall for his usual lady - killing tactics . you can make fun of him , call him romeo , or refer to the pack of girls behind him as his girlfriends . this will only drive him crazy and make him want to prove how different he is . if you dont let him charm you or flatter you , hell only become more persistent . thats exactly what he wants .

acknowledge that the relationship is really over . dont delay the inevitable . make sure youre the one who personally delivers the news . find or schedule an appropriate time . show your resolve by being firm , decisive and honest .

how to prepare yourself to break up with your boyfriend

come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship . ask yourself is this really what i want do i really want to end a relationship with him how can i do this without breaking his heart ask yourself these questions before you come to a conclusion . once you decide to break up with your partner , immediately think about how , when and where you will take action . do you want it to be now tomorrow next month do you want to be break up with him at the park , your house , at schoolwork decide . dont give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone . that will ruin everything . approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational . dont announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger . help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship . be tactful , not brutal .

be mysterious . be fun . make him jealous . dont be jealous . limit your communication . maintain your independence . beat him at his own game optional .

how to play a player 2

now that youve played hard to get , its time to continue to be elusive while making the player want you . the first thing you should do to make him really want you is to be mysterious . dont open up too much or talk about your past , your hopes for the future , or your biggest fears . instead , make him guess whats really on your mind and speak in hints and innuendos instead of being honest . if you have to leave , dont tell him where youre going . let him guess . make him figure out who you really are , from what you love to do to how many siblings you have . let him do all of the work instead of doling out all of the information for him . dont keep him up to date about your schedule . if youre busy over the weekend , youre busy over the weekend . you dont have to tell him its because youre celebrating your aunt marys 50th birthday . part of the reason players play girls is because theyre tired of girls who drag them down , fall in love , or want them to do serious boyfriend - like things like go to the grocery store or let you cook a never - ending meal for them . well , if you want to make a player want you , you cant drag him down . you should be fun , spontaneous , and up for anything , whether its a trip to the beach or a nice run through a rain shower . always keep things light and fresh . remember , youre trying to play this guy , not marry him . talk about the fun things youll do that day or that week - - stick to the present . this player wont be in your future . laugh , dont cry . this is not the person who should see your insecurities or the things that upset you . even though youre spending more time with the player , you shouldnt make him think that he has your heart . if you run into another guy you know , dont be shy about flirting with the other guy . and if youre going out with another guy , tell the player about it like its no big deal . if he knows there are other guys in your life , hell want you even more because hell have the need to compete for you . if you really want to make him jealous , you can even pretend that youre meeting another guy when youre not . if another guy calls you when youre with the player , dont be afraid to answer . be fun and flirty as you talk to the guy who called you . if you really want to drive the player crazy , then you should show no signs of caring if you see him with another woman or if he gets a text from another woman . players thrive from having multiple women compete over them , or from the rush of trying to juggle a few women without any of them knowing . if you act like you couldnt care less if he sees another girl , hell only want to make you more jealous . to gain the power to play a player , you have to stand out to him . its likely that every other girl in his life has been jealous . this is why youll be different . if someone calls or texts him , dont say , whos that look bored or uninterested as he talks into the phone . if you see another girl he knows , be extra nice to her . show him that you dont view her as competition . players are used to girls who text or call them all the time and dont give them any time to themselves . well , thats where youll diverge from the pack . you can call him or text him once in a while , but let him do the majority of the communicating . if he reaches out to you , dont respond right away like you have nothing better to do than to sit by the phone and wait for his call . dont waste time stalking his facebook profile . go online to do your own thing . if you know hes out , leave him alone . dont text him or call him or hell think youre obsessing over him . if he knows youre out and he texts you , dont get back to him until the next day . let him worry about what you were up to while he was away . maintaining your independence is a larger part of limiting your communication . you should have your own busy life , your own friends , and even some other guys to date while youre seeing the player . dont make your schedule revolve around his make him shift his plans around to see you . if he cancels on you , dont let him reschedule for the next day . tell him youre booked for the next few days . make him feel like he really missed out by flaking on you , and he wont do it again . when youre with him , talk about your other friends or the fun things you do that dont involve him . let him see that you have a life outside of worshipping him . if you really want to play a player , then you have to be a player . make him think that you like him while juggling him with two or three other guys . flatter him and make him feel special while knowing that everything you say is meaningless . you should only do this if you really want to play the player or to get back at him for some reason . changing your lifestyle this extremely can get a bit exhausting .

have him eating out of your hand . know when its time to say goodbye . cut him loose . have no mercy .

how to play a player 3

once youve tantalized the player enough and have remained mysterious , sexy , and independent , he should be eating out of your hand . he may even be obsessed with the idea that he has to win you over or that hell be some kind of a failure if youre always immune to his charms . when hes eating out of your hand , youll know it . hell be calling you all the time , complimenting you , acting jealous whenever another guy or other plans come up , or hell just want to spend all of his time with you . the look in his eyes will tell you all you need to know . if he was shifty - eyed or distracted in the beginning , but now he stares at you like youre a true wonder , then youve got him where you want him . before you cut him loose , you should get him at the peak of his affection for you - - if you cut him loose too early , it wont mean as much to him , but if you cut him loose too late , he may have given up on you . you should say goodbye at the peak of his affections for you , or when you get even the slightest inkling that hes growing bored with you . you can also say goodbye just because youre getting tired of playing him . its a tough job . if he starts getting really attached and even tells you he loves you - - and actually sounds like he means it - - then you should cut him loose immediately . if you wait too long to say goodbye , you may also begin to fall for him , so dont forget to protect your heart . once youve decided its time to say goodbye , you should cut off all contact with the player . you dont have to be honest about why - - you can tell him that you got sick of him , that youve got better things to do , or that youre just not into him . dont make a big production of it or take him out to dinner to end things - - just take a few minutes to tell him how you feel at a time thats reasonably convenient for both of you . or if you really want to hurt him or get him back , just let him catch you out with another guy . when he sees you , dont even look surprised or like youve been caught . that will hurt him even more and hell get the picture . once youve cut the player loose , your decision is final . theres no turning back - - you wont hang out with him again , return his calls , or even grab coffee with him because you feel sorry for him . remind yourself why you played him in the first place . either he really hurt you or another friend , or you just realized that hes the kind of guy who doesnt respect women . if he doesnt respect women , then why should you respect him if you give in and do see him again , hell quickly lose respect for you . if hes a true player , hell only want you if you dont really want him all that much . once youve played a player , youll be better at recognizing them in the future . watch out for these cagey guys and protect your heart as you move forward in your love life . remain humble . dont let this accomplishment get to your head although it does add an extreme boost to your confidence you might start to think that you can get any guy you want or feel that youre playing some guys when they only look at you as a friendthe tables can turn quick if you get caught up with other dudes . they might know the game a little better than you do .

the five stages of grief . be sad . get some alone time . there is a point . remember your ex . reflect on your relationship .

how to move on 1

when we lose something important to us , the healthy response is to grieve . psychologists believe that all people generally go through the same stages of grief , or the same set of emotional responses . understanding these can help you understand your feelings and know that how you feel is normal and healthy . these stages last for different amounts of time for different individuals and certain stages may not present at all . it is important to remember that everyone is different . denial . it may be difficult , at first , to believe that your relationship has ended . especially if you have been together for a long time , the idea of not being together may feel unnatural and unreal . you may perhaps feel that your partner isnt really gone , they just need time to cool down . while this is a normal emotional response , it is important to acknowledge that your relationship is over , as denying this will just make things harder for you and your partner . anger . this is often described as a feeling of why me you may feel the strong need to blame the end of your relationship on any number of factors . you may blame yourself , your partner , your god , your family , your friends , your job , or any other number of factors . it is important not to act out , however . fault is often shared between many factors or may not exist at all . bargaining . this is a time period where people often try to return to their ended relationship . you may beg your partner to take you back , promising to change whatever you perceive as being the source of the breakup . this is likely not a good idea , however . even if the relationship can be repaired , it should be done after serious reflection and positive changes . this stage generally ends when one realizes that the relationship cannot be repaired . depression . this is usually the longest lasting stage of grief . you will feel very sad and often as if there is no hope . you may feel like you never want to love again or that life is pointless . these emotions are normal but remember that feelings of suicide are not . if you feel this way , seek help immediately . like all stages of grief , this stage too will end and you will be happy again . acceptance . acceptance of what has happened to you usually follows or coincides with the depression stage . you will come to understand that the end of your relationship is not the end of the world . you will feel okay about what has happened and you will be ready to move on to the next stage of your life . it is important to be sad . dont pretend that everything is wonderful . bottling your emotions like this is unhealthy and can lead to problems later on . you should allow yourself to be sad . cry , if you want to . this is a normal , healthy response when bad things happen to you . watching sad or hopeful movies , eating comfort foods , or getting some good snuggle time with your favorite pet is a good way to spend time being sad . of course , being sad for a long time or being sad in a way that significantly impacts your quality of life may be an indication that its time to start turning your feelings around . if you cant do this on your own , get help . when you are at this stage , it is important to have time to yourself . while being with others is important and can significantly help the healing process , you need time to yourself as well . use this time to take care of your own needs . focus on what makes you feel better and thinking about what you want at this stage in your life . having others around can be distracting , which is good in moderation but will keep you from taking care of yourself if in excess . set aside at least a few hours every day where you can be by yourself and really process your feelings . in the evening , before bedtime , is usually the easiest for most people . if your home is not a good environment for alone time , try going on a walk in your neighborhood , to a local park , or to your local library . after a breakup , especially if the relationship was long - term , you may feel like you wasted time or that the whole thing was pointless . this is never the case and it is important to keep that in mind . even bad experiences serve to teach us about ourselves , what we want from life , what we value most , and how to better interact with other people . though your relationship has ended , it has undoubtedly provided you with invaluable life experiences . if it did not , you would not feel so upset about it ending . finding meaning in your experience can be a really powerful way to move on , instantly transforming a negative experience into something that while it may not be fully positive will as least make you happy on some level that it happened at all . finding that meaning , however , is difficult and how you do it will depend on you , how you think , and what you gained from the experience . try not to look for negative life lessons , since these will only make you more bitter . instead , look for something that is really a gain in your life . good examples of lessons from tough experiences include now i know that i can survive tough situations . or now i know more about what i want as a person and what is really important to me . or this has made me realize how truly wonderful the people in my life are and helped me to appreciate them while i have them . dont pretend like your ex never existed . like bottling your emotions , this is an unhealthy response . this person played a role in your life and that role needs to be acknowledged . know that the time with your ex is over , but remembering those times fondly will help you feel better in the long term . while many people make themselves feel better by thinking about the bad things about their ex , it is also important to think about the good things . focusing only on the bad things will lead you to be bitter and may lead you to regret things about your relationship that you enjoyed at the time . this poisoning of your own memories will just hurt you in the long run . to remind yourself of the good parts of your relationship , write down the things about your ex that you liked or particularly good times you had together . failed relationships , like anything in your life that ends badly , can serve as a wonderful learning opportunity . reflect on your relationship , the good things and the bad things , so that you can use that knowledge to bring positive change to your life . this will allow you to improve future relationships by learning from your mistakes and learning more about what you want from yourself and another person . think about your partners failures in the relationship , as well as the things they did well . which of these qualities would you like to see in future relationships and what qualities should you avoid in the future maybe your ex was very lazy , which didnt bother you in the beginning but became a problem over time . this might be something to avoid in your next relationship , even if it isnt so much of a problem in the beginning . acknowledge your own faults . there were likely things in the relationship that you handled poorly as well . think about what these things were and how these traits negatively impact your relationships with other people . these can be qualities which affect friends and family as well . think about how and if you want to try to change these things about yourself . maybe you find that you forget to consider the feelings of others , for example . this may be a quality to change , in order to create better relationships with everyone around you . love yourself . remember to think about the good things about yourself as well . you are a good person , even if you have made mistakes . bad experiences in life should not keep you from feeling like you have something to offer the world . list the things about yourself that you and others like . focus on really making those qualities shine and you will feel better in no time .

go out with your friends . write out your feelings on a piece of paper . do not become hisher friend unless you are truly and completely over himher erase all the little notes and messages he gave you or left on your phone . get it all out . find some words of wisdom and live by them . think positively . never be ashamed of your feelings . start a new hobby or pastime . dance it out

how to not stress over a breakup

remember friends always make you laugh . if you want to get over it , you have to be with your friends so they can help you forget about it and make you feel better . it always helps . , erase his phone number . there is no sense in having it anymore if you want to make a true , finished , clean break . cry , scream and feel sorry for yourself . wallow in self - pity . however , one day while you are wallowing you will suddenly say , hey i dont feel like wallowing anymore today . i feel better . and the next day you will feel better and each day after that you will feel even better . soon , something amazing happens , you rediscover your smile and actually laugh at who you were back then . suddenly you are thankful for what the experience taught you . a great piece was posted here on the breaking up is hard to do board a while ago . i kept it , and i read it every morning when i sit at my desk . the first line is , promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb you . for me , that has worked reading a simple little piece someone posted has made such a great impact on how i view it all . it does get better , and within a couple of weeks , the hurt goes away . if you think you are beaten , you are . if you think you dare not , you dont . success begins with your own will . its all in your state of mind . lifes battles are not always won by those who are stronger or faster . sooner or later the person who wins is the person who thinks he can in the beginning of a break - up , you might want to show people that you are fine . this might cause you to go out and act as though you are moving on full swing . you might even start dating immediately . if the relationship meant a great deal to you then you are going to need time to mourn the loss of it . never assume you need to apologize for feeling bad about your new path in life . as a relationship ends , you will need to grieve . take time to get past the emotions of anger , sadness , and loss . once you can accept where you are and that the relationship is in the past , then maybe you are ready for a new relationship . this will let you concentrate on something new and interesting and get you out of the circular thought process you may or may not develop , thinking about your ex too much . turn up your favorite music and dance like nobodys looking . whether you like bubblegum pop or screamo , youll let out some stress

think about whether he keeps breaking plans or avoiding you . listen to your conversations . get physical . watch his behavior with other girls . talk to his friends . does he purposely hang around girls you dont like , if he is constantly telling you he has to go when youre on the phone , hes just making up excuses . does he tell you he wants a break , dont keep annoying him or pestering him as he may think somethings going on and may think about dumping you more just act natural .

how to know if your boyfriend is going to dump you

if he stops calling regularly or text messaging you in the middle of the day if this is something you normally did , that could be a sign . is he as interested in talking to you as he used to be if hes thinking about leaving , he wont want to hug or kiss you as much as he used to . does he flirt with them in front of you he may be telling others that he is going to break up with you , but hasnt told you yet . you can also just gauge how excited he is about the relationship . does he hang around his friends who are girls more often he might be trying to tell you something . , if he does might be a sign he just wants to mess around with other chicks and wants you to feel special in a way too . he may want you as a friend with benefits , or perhaps he wants to break up but doesnt have the courage to go all the way .

in order to forget about a previous poor relationship , you first have to get rid of any of that persons belongings . try going onto google for more steps on how to forget this person , what other sites provide good information , to forget about a certain someone , simply ask a friend for advice , try getting into certain hobbies that youve never gotten into once before , avoid contact with the person that you are trying to avoid . if you catch the persons attention , or accidentally create eye contact , try to fix your eyes on something else or do something different so that that person does not notice you any longer . try not to think about the bad things in your relationship and lighten up , smile , laugh , try to hang out with better people and just focus on them mostly . are you ready to finally start a new chapter , the first part to trying to start brand new is being confident . meet someone new , do not try to fall in love too quickly , as this may cause another painful tension in your recent relationship and it just may end up repeating . get to know this new person . once you both fall in love , do not tell this person about your past or anything . be happy now , because you finally met someone new and you finally have the chance to just be happy .

how to move on and start brand new

if you have no room in your house to get rid of the items , just tell someone in your household to store them safely in a safe place for about 6 months . google provides a lot of useful information . good question sites such as yahoo answers can help you with what youre dealing with . or , just search for an article on this site this site has several articles similar to this one and they have better information . some friends , or even best friends are great with giving advice . be sure to listen attentively and gather all information once theyre done . a little bit of everyones data put together can really help you . discovering new hobbies can help wash away your past and put you into a healthier position . try out a new hobby that will make you focus only on the positive things in life . maybe try becoming athletic , or cloud watching , or maybe even writing writing can help you remember great ideas and just push everything aside . maybe you should try changing your schedule if youre in a social class with this person or whatever . try telling the host of that activity that you cannot join at that certain time because you may encounter something utterly painful . heshe will understand and do their best to help you with avoiding that certain person . avoiding contact puts you into a better position . you cannot see that person , hear them , or anything , therefore you do not know what to think about if you cannot see them . , think about the good things if you want to think about himher and smile . smiling can help you stay confident . try to smile around more people . laughter is the best medicine . do not bring up the whole my - relationship - was - painful discussion or theyll bring it up at times . this may hurt you . if a new friend accidentally forgets and just mentions this person , tell them that it may upset you if they go any further . well lets go being confident can push you onto higher levels in life and make you much , much happier meeting someone new can definitely help you reach your goal . , ask this person , what are your hobbies when is your birthday what drinks do you enjoy asking these questions can cause you to only focus on this person , and this person only . this is what you want , so do not stop yourself once you start to do this . heshe may want to get in the middle , and then its up to you to choose the person you love .

discover yourself . forgive . laugh . embrace your independence . take up new activities . travel .

how to move on 2

reflecting on yourself and your relationship can teach you a lot about yourself as a person . this newly found knowledge can give you a better appreciation of who you are , your strengths , and what you want out of life . you may find that things you sacrificed in your relationship mean more to you than you thought at the time . you may find that hobbies or skills you gave up because of time constraints or the tastes of your partner are actually very important to you . you may find that work you put aside for the sake of your relationship gives you a greater sense of purpose than you thought . you could also find that you sacrificed your friendships more than you wanted over the course of your relationship . this new beginning can give you the opportunity to explore these things that are important to you in ways that you could not before . it is important to forgive during the healing process . forgive your ex for hurting you and forgive yourself for any failures you perceive . remember that blaming people , yourself or someone else , does not make problems go away . blame will only serve to make you bitter and keep you from future happiness . forgiving is essential to moving on . begin the forgiveness process by identifying exactly why youre mad . understanding the real reason that you feel hurt will allow you to better deal with the feeling and identifying who you need to forgive specifically . express your feelings . begin by writing down your bad feelings . this will help you purge your anger . next , express your feelings to friends and family . they will help you understand your feelings better by giving you a new perspective . then , decide if you want to tell the person who hurt you about how you were hurt . find compassion . realize that everyone is human and the person who hurt you did so because they have faults , just as everyone else does . understand that you make mistakes too . it may even be that the person that hurt you was only doing what they thought was right or best . try to understand the reasons for their actions . this will help you forgive them . the act of laughing releases endorphins into your body . endorphins are used to regulate your emotions and make you happy . it will also remind you to find enjoyment in life and get you into the habit of being happy again . finding the humor in bad situations will especially help you to experience them less negatively . laughing and placing yourself in situations with the opportunity for laughter will significantly aid your healing process . spend time with friends who make you laugh . surround yourself with people who , when you are with them , make you laugh and provide you with positive experiences . dont spend time with people who make you sad or are constantly sharing negative emotions . this will hinder your healing process . watch comedy . watch funny television shows or go watch comedy acts at a local club . these activities can be done alone or with others . seeing these things will distract you from bad emotions while reminding your brain how to feel happy again . when we are in relationships , we tend to become very dependent on the person we are with . you lose much of your independence in relationships and this can lead you to stop doing things that you enjoy . while it sometimes feels good to have someone to rely on , being independent can feel good to . it gives you the freedom to do the things you want to do , when you want to do them . you dont need someone elses permission and you dont need to worry about how your actions will make someone else feel . examples of ways you can enjoy your new independence are going to see a movie your ex would not have enjoyed , wearing clothes that you like but your ex found unattractive , spending time with a friend your ex did not get along with , as well as the sort of individual activities like reading books that are hard to find time for when you are dating . the best way to get back to life is to live your life . youre alive and the world around you is an amazing place . everyone has things that theyve always wanted to do and this is a fantastic opportunity for you to try new things and experience the world around you . exercise . exercising releases endorphins into your body , much like laughter . by exercising , you can make yourself naturally happier as well as healthier . this is also an activity which many people find they dont have as much time for when they are in a relationship . getting a healthier , toned body can make you feel like a new person . this feeling of a fresh start can help you move past negative feelings and memories and on to the better things that are waiting for you . volunteering . one of the best ways to make yourself happy is by making others happy . taking responsibility and helping another person will give you a sense of purpose , which you may be lacking at a time like this . it gives you the opportunity to see that everyone has problems and that some problems are much bigger than yours . this perspective can be comforting and teach you to appreciate all of the wonderful things and people that you do have in your life . try volunteering at a soup kitchen if youre looking for something less time consuming . if you want a bigger commitment , try something like habitat for humanity . traveling will give you something to be proud of , as well as creating new memories both good and bad . put yourself in a situation youve never been in before , go somewhere where you do not speak the language . this will create experiences much bigger than those with your ex and you will find yourself excited to return to your life and share your experiences with others .

spend time with friends . meet new people . try dating again .

how to move on 3

it is important to spend time with other people . this will help you remember the inherent goodness in others and that interaction will not always result in you getting hurt . spending time with your friends will distract and help you cope with your pain . they will also help you see the good things about yourself , as well as help you have new experiences to remember fondly . take part in activities with your friends , as this will help you think about positive rather than negative emotions and experiences . go to the movies , attend parties , or try something more ambitious like a hiking trip . take this opportunity to spend time with friends that you may not have seen in awhile . sometimes we neglect people when we are in relationships and this is a great time to reconnect and remember how much fun you have when youre with them . having new friends and or a new social circle is always a good thing . who doesnt want more people that they enjoy being around go out and meet new people , either through your existing friends or through social settings like school , clubs , or a bar . this will give you new things in life to focus on , rather than your recent pain . once you have processed the negative emotions from your break - up and feel like it might be time to move on , you may wish to attempt casual dating . meet someone new and go on a few dates . this will help you understand that there are more people out there for you . it is best not to rush into a whole new relationship , as you might find yourself in an unhealthy rebound relationship . instead take things slow and approach dating casually . you arent looking for a new partner , youre just look for new and positive experiences . with time , you will find someone who feels right and before you know it youll happily be in a new relationship . using the the coping skills and analysis discussed above , you should be better prepared for a more successful and enjoyable experience

resist getting angry . spend time with friends . do things you enjoy . start journaling . know when to ask for help . avoid fearing rejection . separate yourself from rejection . try to see rejection as opportunity . learn your ideal partner preferences . recognize your emotional reactions . evaluate crushes for realistic compatibility .

how to handle your crush rejecting you

its normal to feel upset and a little heartbroken when your crush rejects you , but anger will not help anything . getting angry can be particularly damaging if your crush is a close friend , as getting mad may ruin the friendship . wish your crush good luck and try to smile . if you wereare close friends , let your crush know youd like to remain friends , and that you hope this wont change things between you . its the best way to save face and maintain the friendship after getting rejected . one of the best ways to get over heartbreak and rejection is to surround yourself with friends . whether you go to a movie , get food , go out for a drink if youre old enough , or just hang out at home , its important to be with friends during difficult situations . let your friends know youre going through a rough patch , and ask them if theyre free to spend some time together . some friends will make the effort to reach out to you , but other friends may need to be invited . if your friends dont immediately reach out to you , try approaching them and let them know that you could really use some company . if youre feeling the sting of a crushs rejection , it can be helpful to seek out activities that make you happy . whether you enjoy listening to music , reading a book , watching a movie , or simply going for a walk or bike ride , doing things you enjoy can help you feel good and stay positive in spite of how youre feeling . some people may assume that journaling wont help , but studies have shown that journaling can help people put their thoughts into perspective and remain positive after experiencing heartbreak . invest in a new , high - quality journal . this will ensure that the journal will stand up to any abuse from daily use , and will make you more likely to want to use your journal every day . set aside time everyday to write in your journal . try setting a timer to force yourself to write for longer periods of time . allow yourself to experiment . your journal isnt intended to be read by anyone else , so let yourself be open and honest . give yourself permission to think things through on the page , as youre figuring it out . in other words , it doesnt have to be a perfectly thought - out and well - articulated document . it can just be a jumble of thoughts , feelings , or observations . maybe you were rejected in front of a group of people and youre feeling embarrassed , or perhaps you just had really high hopes that things would work out with someone . whatever youre going through , dont be afraid to talk about how youre feeling if youre really devastated over a rejection . if you dont think your friends or family would understand , try talking to a counselor or therapist . many schools and universities offer free counselors , or you can search online to find a therapist in your area . its natural to feel a little hurt after getting rejected , but its important that you dont let yourself become afraid of rejection in the future . that kind of fear and avoidance are part of catastrophizing , which involves assuming that one experience is part of a larger , more serious pattern . remember that even though rejection may be inconvenient and even painful , it is not a horrible , life - or - death situation . keep in mind that rejection is never permanent . new opportunities will always present themselves eventually . many people respond to rejection by internalizing it . its easy to feel that someones rejection is a reflection of your own worth , but its simply not true . youve no doubt had crushes on some people and not had feelings about others , and it has nothing to do with how attractive or interesting or likable that person is . much of it boils down to compatibility . other times , a person may just not be ready for a relationship . whatever the reason , it does not reflect on you . never let someone elses approval or rejection define your own worth . remember that you are wonderful just the way you are . yes , its unfortunate that your crush didnt feel the same way about you , and its probably a little painful . however , its just one person , and that person wasnt right for you . try to think of rejection as an opportunity to find a better situation with someone who will feel the same way about you . if your crush didnt think youd be compatible together , that just means that theres someone else out there with whom youll be even more compatible . if your crush rejected you , its possible you were more attracted to their appearance than their personality . whatever the circumstances of your rejection were , now would be a good time to be honest with yourself and determine what you want from an ideal partner . think about traits you would want from an ideal partner . perhaps you want someone who is warm and caring , or maybe trustworthiness is more important to you . shared interests or worldview is also a common trait people seek in a partner . whatever it is that you think you want from a partner , figure it out before you start having feelings for anyone else . while ideal partner preferences shape the type of person you actively seek out , you also have an unspoken emotional reaction to most people you meet . sometimes were blinded by our emotional reaction to someone because of their looks or charming personality , but its important to learn to recognize the emotional reaction you feel in someones presence . emotional reactions are typically unconscious , and you cant change that reaction . but as you analyze your emotions over time perhaps through journaling , you can learn to recognize the emotional reaction that you have to a person . even if someone has traits that you find ideal and you have a positive emotional reaction to that person , you may simply not be a good match when it comes to longterm compatibility . learning how to evaluate a crush for real , meaningful compatibility can be the difference between frustrating relationship problems and a meaningful , fulfilling partnership . think about the personality traits you find most desirable . do you have a type does that type typically work well with you or are you only seeing the surface of people you have a crush ontrust your gut . if you find someone attractive but dont have much in common with them , it probably wont work out , and you probably already know this . learn to trust your gut as you evaluate potential partners , as this will help you avoid getting hurt and rejected in the future .

recognize patterns of behavior . stay in the present . be available to your teen . limit judgment . focus on making an effort over the ultimate outcome . learn how to talk to your teen . listen . watch for the warning signs of depression and anxiety in teens . listen actively . apologize . do not judge . identify desirable qualities in friends . learn the signs of a damaging relationship .

how to repair a teenage relationship

teenagers tend to be highly insecure . they dislike feeling like theyre being judged for their choices . instead of laying on the blame when talking to your teen , look for patterns of behavior that are detrimental to a healthy relationship . combating the patterns is more effective than simply chastising your teen for his or her behavior . try seeing things from your teens perspective . why do you think he or she is resistant to having a healthy relationship with you where is he or she coming from in regards to the conflict is there anything youre doing thats ineffective when it comes to communicationdo not worry about who is right . look for the pattern . what behaviors are creating a negative home environment and how can the two of you work together mutually to address those behaviors try beginning a conversation like this i notice that i ask you to do put your dirty dishes in the sink . even when you say you will , you dont end up doing it a lot of the time and i end up having to get on your case . this causes you to get angry . what do you think we can do to solve this problem more effectively when youre frustrated with a relationship with a family member , you may feel inclined to look back at past interactions . this is a means to collect evidence , with a strong confirmation bias , that youre right and your teen is wrong . such a strategy can be detrimental when trying to repair a relationship . youre working on moving forward so dwelling in the past is preventing you from moving beyond negativities of the past . when interacting with your teen , focus on the present moment and the present problem . you cannot force your teen to want to talk to you . if you try to pry , your teen is likely to pull away . however , if you strive to simply make yourself available your teen will come to you when he or she is in need . always let your teen know if they need you , you can be there to talk . do not pressure them or make them feel obligated to share . simply say something like , if you need me , im always here to chat . make sure your teen knows when he or she can reach you when you might not be readily available . have your work phone number available for emergencies . text your teen if you cant take a call at a given moment . teenagers are known for their insecurity . if you come off as judgmental to your teenager , this may alienate him or her from you . try to be as non - judging as possible when talking with your teen . people begin to explore new behavior during their teenage years . sexual feelings emerge and your teen might be curious about exploring aspects of the adult world , like engaging in drinking . allow your teen to express themselves to you without judgment , but serve as a gentle reminder that safety is important . do not be afraid to talk to your teen about the dangers of drinking and unprotected sex . just make sure you do so in a way that makes it clear you want your teen to be safe and happy . do not frame it in a judgmental tone . try saying something like , i know teenagers are curious about trying new things , but i want you to be safe and happy . can we spend some time this week talking about drinking and drug use when trying to repair a damaged relationship at any age , people sometimes get tunnel vision . they feel like they should be hyper focused on potential outcomes . this obsession with meeting goals , which are often difficult to measure in relationships , skews their ability to focus . place your energy towards putting in a solid effort and goals should happen organically . many parents find it difficult to talk with their teen . if you want to build a healthier relationship with your teenagers , learn how to talk to your teen effectively . withhold judgment during conversations but maintain honesty . if certain topics inevitably lead to judgment and hostility , halt the conversation with something like , i dont think we should talk about this . make time for casual conversation . if you only discuss relationship problems with your teen conversation will always feel stressful and forced . talk about fun , unimportant matters like movies , tv shows , celebrity gossip , and other fun interests . ease into making conversation with your teen . you cant expect your teen to want to open up and be friends with you over night . take tiny , gradual steps when it comes to repairing a damaged relationship . parents are sometimes guilty of not truly listening to their teenagers . having a healthy relationship with your teen means listening to his needs and wants and treating them as valid . practice active listening with your teen . its important for teens to feel heard and acknowledged . give non - verbal clues , like nodding and smiling when appropriate , to show you are listening . repeat back what your teen just said in a brief summary . for example , if your teen is saying he feels like his friends ditched him at the hockey game last week say something like , so , youre feeling left out because your friends didnt seem to want to spend time with you this will show your teen youre paying attention and care . active listening prevents misunderstandings , a factor that can damage any relationship . it also forces you to listen and take in what your teen in saying . an underlying mental health problem like depression or anxiety could be affecting your relationship with your teen . such ailments can manifest themselves differently in teens than in adults so familiarize yourself with the warning signs . feelings of sadness , frequent crying bouts , fatigue , loss of interest in activities , and difficulty concentrating serve as symptoms of depression in both teens and adults . there are some symptoms of depression that teens tend to show more often than adults . these include an irritable or angry mood , complaints of various aches and pains , sensitivity to criticism , and withdrawing from friends and family members . a teen may act out when experiencing depression and anxiety as a means to cope with emotional pain . he may experience problems at school , academically and behaviorally , and become addicted to going online or abuse drugs and alcohol . your teen may also develop chronic low self esteem , engage in high risk behaviors , and sometimes lash out at others in violence . if you want to work on repairing a relationship , work on tweaking your listening skills . when someone tries to communicate with you , do your best to show you are listening . actively listening means giving verbal and non verbal cues you are paying attention to whats said . nod on occasion and say things yes and uh - huh . smile and laugh at appropriate times . when its your turn to speak , take a few moments to reiterate what the other person said . briefly summarize the points they made , something like i understand you feel like . or im hearing youre feeling very . if a friend or romantic partner feels hurt by something you did , apologize to that person . teens are often preoccupied with what others think , making them reluctant to apologize . however , whether you feel you were in the wrong or not you should sincerely apologize if you hurt someones feelings . an apology can go a long way towards repairing a damaged relationship . withholding judgment is important to repairing damaged relationships . try to put whatever circumstances lead to you and this persons disagreement aside . proceed without judgment , despite any past negativity . make a conscious effort to see things from the other persons perspective . even if your feelings were hurt , what do you think drove this person to behave how he or she did , ask yourself whether this relationship is truly worth repairing . teenagers often make poor decisions relationship wise due to insecurity . make sure you know the qualities a good friend should have . think about past friendships that were positive as well as your relationships with family members . what did you like about these relationships did you feel supported , secure , safe did you feel this way in regards to the damaged relationship why or why notlook for friends that bring out the best qualities in you . if you dont like how you behave in the presence of a particular person , that friendship might not be worth your time . repair relationships only with those who treat you with respect . some relationships became damaged for a reason . if you feel disrespected , there is nothing wrong with wanting to end a relationship . abusive relationships can take the form of friendships and romantic relationships . teens are often unaware of healthy relationship dynamics as theyre still exploring themselves and the world . learn what a bad relationship looks like so you know what kind of people to avoid . abusers tend to be very jealous . an abusive friend or boyfriend or girlfriend will get jealous easily and worry about abandonment . abusers mistrust you when you try to ease their fears and will likely ignore the things you say . abusers often lash out in anger . an abuser might curse at you , yell at you , or blame you for problems over which you have little control . this anger can sometimes turn violent . you should never stay close to someone who harms you physically .

work your body . compliment her . ask her a few questions .

how to make a girl jealous 1

if you want to make the girl jealous , you should first show some level of interest in her , so she is intrigued by you and has a sense that you want to take things to the next level . body language is the easiest way to let her know you somewhat want her without even saying a word . you should only spend a few minutes giving her your attention , so every gesture counts . catch her eye from across the room . be a man and hold her gaze if she notices you , and even give her a big smile . when you approach her , turn your body towards her , stand tall , and lean in towards her slightly , showing that your body is giving her its full attention . lightly touch her on the arm or back if she seems up for it . maintain eye contact while youre talking . she should feel like shes the only girl in the world - - for a few minutes . once your body had done some of the talking , you should let your words do the work . a few careful compliments can show that youre paying attention to her and that you want to get to know her better . if its someone you already know , then the compliments will show that youre still thinking of her . heres how to do it compliment her appearance . go for subtlety with this one . instead of damn , you look hot , just say , blue is a great color . it really brings out your eyes . compliment her laugh or her smile . tease your way into a compliment . find a way to playfully poke fun at her while complimenting her at the same time . asking just a few questions will show that you want to get to know her and that youre invested in who she is . just a few lighthearted and well - placed questions will hook the girl and will make her want you even more . ask her a flirty question . if she mentions she has a sister , say , is she as beautiful as you are ask her a silly question but act like its really important . ask her what she thinks of men who are in love with their dogs or men who wear leather . ask her something about herself . ask about one of her hobbies or what she likes to do for fun . make the girl think you care about her - - just a little bit .

make her your 2 . talk about lots of girls . use your phone to make her jealous .

how to make a girl jealous 2

once youve shown enough interest in the girl and have flirted enough to make her think she has a chance , its time for a turnaround . slowly start talking about another girl , whether its someone she knows or a random girl you keep calling my really good friend or this girl ive known forever . find a way to mention the girl every few minutes . dont do it every few seconds or it will be too annoying , but make it sound like youre constantly thinking of the other girl . find ways to complement the other girl . without being too obnoxious , say things like , shes like , my favorite person , or she can get any guy she wants . make the other girl feel inferior . you can also make this person up . if youre a good liar , this other girl can be completely fictional . repeatedly say , you should really meet her . i think youd get along . this will drive the other girl crazy . instead of just going on and on about another girl in your life , you should take the opportunity to talk about lots of other girls . just make yourself sound like a ladies man who hangs out with a ton of cute girls whenever and wherever . mention a party you went to where there were so many amazing girls . you can even say that you were one of the few guys there but that it was okay - - youre used to it . talk about a fun weekend trip you took to the beach , and mention how all the girls you were with were wearing the most ridiculous bikinis . just mention this one girl i was seeing after another . make it sound like you go on a ton of dates . just make sure not to sound gross or like a total player . the girl will lose interest if you make yourself out to be too much of a lothario . while youre talking to the girl about being with other girls , your phone will be a great prop in making her jealous . keep your phone handy and check it from time to time and even be prepared to answer it . check your phone from time to time and smile to yourself , as if youve just received a naughty message from a girl . say , excuse me and smile as you type back something that may be equally naughty . have your phone ring once while youre talking to the girl . pick it up and say , hey , how are you can i call you back dont overdo it and call the girl honey or baby over the phone . just make it clear that youre talking to another sexy lady from the tone of your voice . dont overuse the phone tactic . a girls patience will quickly wear if you spend all of your time on your phone .

flirt with random girls . flirt with the girls friends . leave with another girl . let her see you with other girls during the day . dont wait too long if you want her to like you .

how to make a girl jealous 3

once youve talked to the girl enough to give her an inkling about your affections , its time to go into ignore mode and to start chatting up other girls at the bar . you should do this after just a few minutes of talking to the first girl . here are some great targets to try whether youre at a party or a bar , just pick a girl near you and start talking to her . slowly transition from talking to the original girl to being absorbed by the new girl completely . make sure you look like youre laughing and have a great time . take the other girl to the dance floor . dont make out with her or grope her . just dance with her for a song or two and look like youre having a great time . pick a pack of girls to hang out with . make them laugh and let the other girl watch . if you want to stay more local to the girl or if youre done with your random girls , you can make the girl jealous by paying attention to her friends . this will let you stay close and keep her focused on you while making her doubt your intentions . make all of the friends like you . be your most witty , charming , and charismatic self . make a point of ignoring the original girl in front of her friends . even if shes standing right in front of you , act like shes not there . dont isolate the friends too much . try to get all of them to like you while you flirt it up . if you pay too much attention to a close friend of the girls and she starts to like you , then you may create unwanted drama . this is a bold move . if youre out at a bar or a party , leave with another girl at the end of the night . you dont even have to end up going home with her . just let the original girl see you walking out with another girl . acknowledge the original girl with a small nod or a smile as you walk out . let her know that you know shes watching you . you can make a girl jealous even in the daytime . if youre hanging out with another girl , whether its just a friend or someone youre also flirting with , let the girl see you having a great time with someone else . if the girl you want to make jealous sees you with another girl , make sure to look completely focused on the girl youre with . when you finally notice jealous girl , you can say , oh , i didnt even see you there . of course you didnt - - you were too busy having fun with another girl . pick places where you know jealous girl will be . parade into her favorite cafe or dining spot with a gaggle of girls and look like youre having as much fun as possible . if you have a class together , sit away from her and next to another girl , and let her see you whispering to the other girl and doodling in the margins of her notes . this is an important point . if youre just using jealousy to make the girl see you as desirable and to want you even more , you shouldnt spend too much time courting other women or talking about them , or the girl will see you as a playboy and will be turned off . if youre using other girls at a bar or at a party to make the girl jealous , dont spend all night talking to them and then ignore her . come back to the girl you want after a few minutes , before she loses patience . once you see that the girl is really interested , stop talking about other girls or chatting up other girls in the vicinity . the chase is over - - for now .

act with positivity . remove yourself from the game . forgive wrongdoing against you .

how to give up on girls 1

it does no one any good if you act out against girls because youre angry at all women , or blame them for your problems . you are the person in charge of your life , and you have to own that . no one is responsible for your actions but you - and this can be a freeing thought , because if you decide the ladies arent for you , its entirely your choice . no one can tell you that youre wrong . be kind and gentlemanly to women , even if youve decided that dating isnt for you at the moment . making the choice to get away from girls , even for a while , has a certain gravity , and you may find that you gain a certain monastic clarity by giving up on the ladies . if you decide youre fed up with the dating game , quit playing it . making a clean break will help you gain perspective and give you a new and refreshing outlook on life . it may be difficult , but when you find yourself getting hung up on those same negative thoughts about girls or a girl , remind yourself that its just not worth it . youll get nowhere by holding grudges , even if a girl left you for someone else , or you feel that you were led on , or had your heart stomped on . when you hold on to anger , it does no one any good , especially not you . decide that youll be single for positive reasons , not negative ones . focus on the positive aspects of being single , rather than the negative experiences you may have had with girls . give it time . when you experience heartbreak , the only thing that can really make it better is time .

establish that the relationship is definitely over . find a way to move forward . think realistically . dont take him back straight away . get some space . embrace single life , stand tall . deal with things in your own time . let go .

how to know if youre over him and ready to move on and be just friends

once you do this , you can both begin to work through the hurt and the anger and find a way to move on with your life . people deal with break ups differently . some people get very angry and are inclined to burn all his things , some will be very depressed for a long time and hang on to all the memories and some will pretend they dont care . the two of you obviously broke up for a reason so try not to dwell on what could have been or who was at fault the most . remember the good times but dont idealize him just because you miss him make sure you recall the bad times too . when people break up , the shock and upset caused is often so great that it makes their judgement blurred . if you got back together straight away , it might be okay for a while but eventually the old problems will start to creep their way back in . the way you feel now isnt the way you will feel six months or a year down the line . give it some time . even if your goal is to be friends eventually , you need some time to start off with . things will be too raw for you to be friends while one or both of you is still hurting . you need time away from the relationship to evaluate what you want and to learn how to be yourself again . if you are somebody who constantly needs to check his facebook , bombard him with texts or look through old pictures , delete them delete his number , get rid of his things . take every opportunity , do things you couldnt do before and fill your time . however , make sure you give yourself time to grieve for the loss of your relationship . this isnt about showing him youre not upset or that you dont care because obviously you do but have dignity and pride . try not to get too low . there will be so many people telling you different things but just do what feels right in your heart . if it takes you a month or two to stop sleeping in his jacket then so be it and dont feel bad for it . holding grudges and being angry is very consuming and takes a lot of effort . youre better than that and once you face facts , it does get easier . try not to think about it too much , dont let it take over your life . learn how to be by yourself outside a relationship . dont do things just to spite the other person .

think it over . take your time . choose an appropriate location . keep your intentions honourable and respectful . listen . give your ex - partner space . share how youre feeling with someone you trust . cry as much as you need to . take good care of yourself . keep yourself busy . allow yourself the time you need . realize youre still an awesome person . stop yourself from developing bad habits . realize people sometimes grow apart . understand that people are not always who you thought they were . recognize that one of you has fallen for someone else .

how to handle a teenage breakup

relationships sometimes experience moments of doubt where one or both partners simply dont know what to do . they may feel that ‘things will get better or that they should give their partner another chance , but those second chances dont always work out . if youre having doubts , stop and think about them . think about whats causing the doubts , and why theyre bothering you . are your doubts uncalled for , or reasonable do you or your partner have a chance of overcoming these doubts should you give your partner a second chance if you decide its time to end the relationship , make sure you fully understand your reasons and are able to explain them to someone else . prepare yourself to talk about your reasons . but also realize you dont have to justify your reasons . breaking up with someone shouldnt be done on the spur of the moment . but you also shouldnt try to avoid it because youre scared of hurting your partner , or youre nervous about having the actual breakup conversation . once youve had the time to think your reasons through , and you know what youre going to say , its time to speak to your partner . part of your preparation should also be to think about how your partner is going to react . think about your responses to their reactions so you dont have to struggle with what to say . no matter what location you choose , it is kinder to do it in person . breaking up with someone via phone , email or text is disrespectful and hurtful . you wouldnt want someone to do that to you , so dont do that to them . you also need to consider how your partner is going to react to the breakup . you may want to choose a private location so you dont embarrass them if they get upset or angry . you dont have to humiliate someone to break up with them . breaking up with someone is a personal process , its not something you bring friends to . if you feel you need the support afterwards , make plans to meet up with your friends later . if you have a long - distance relationship with someone , and its impossible to get together in person to breakup , using the phone or something like skype is acceptable . breaking up with someone isnt an opportunity to criticize every last annoying thing about that person . its okay to explain why you want to breakup , but dont be harsh or brutal about it . be gentle and respectful . always remember to treat your partner like youd want them to treat you . let your partner know that they still matter to you , and that theyre still a great person . list some of their awesome qualities to help boost their spirit . being honourable and respectful also means not spreading negative comments about your soon - to - be ex - partner behind their back . one thing to keep in mind when youre breaking up with someone is that youre prepared . youve had the chance to think things through and come up with responses . youve also had a chance to start processing your emotions . your partner hasnt . to them the breakup could be sudden andor a shock . as such , dont assume its going to be a quick and easy process . go into the conversation knowing you might need to listen to them plead , beg , complain , get angry or even be relieved . you cant walk away after youve told them youre breaking up , you need to hear them out as well . youve broken up with this person , now isnt the time to suddenly call , email and text them all night . its entirely possible they may never want to talk to you again . if you want to try to remain friends , its worth a try , but realize it might not work out . or it might not be the same type of friendship you had before you dated . after a few days consider sending them an email to ask if theyre okay . or saying ‘hi to them in the hallway when you pass by . dont ignore them if you see them , but you dont have to try to engage them if they ignore you . who you share your feelings with is up to you , but it should be someone you can trust to support you and keep your personal life private . hopefully you have a friend of family member whom you feel you can trust , and you can speak to them about how you feel . if not , consider talking to a counsellor at school . this trusted and supportive person may be able to help out , or they can provide you with advice on who can . whatever youre going through , realize you dont have to go through it alone . crying gets a bad rap . theres nothing wrong with crying because you feel sad , upset or even angry . crying can actually make you feel better because it releases stress hormones through tears . allowing yourself to cry on your own terms will help prevent getting upset at an inopportune time , like in the middle of class or a baseball game . going through a breakup can be extremely stressful and emotionally draining . you have enough to deal with on an emotional level , you cant allow yourself to get physically unhealthy as well . this means you need to remember to continue eating properly , getting enough sleep and exercising regularly . taking care of yourself physically will help you get through your emotional trauma successfully . once youve had the chance to express your emotions initially , keep yourself busy . continue to do the things you enjoy , like reading , going to a movie , baking , etc . you might need to take a moment every now and again to have a good cry or get a hug from a friend , but once thats over , get back to being busy . consider this as an opportunity to redecorate your room or learn how to play the guitar . focus your energy on something productive as often as you can . you arent going to feel better instantly , its going to take a little time before you get back to your ‘normal self , but thats okay . take the time you need , dont rush yourself . but do realize that you will feel better eventually . these bad feelings will not last forever , no matter how bad they feel . each person recovers from a breakup at different speeds . dont compare your healing process to others , you arent them , and they arent you . no matter how the breakup happened , whether youre the one who initiated the breakup , or someone broke up with you , youre still an awesome and lovable person . breakups happen for a whole number of reasons , and they are almost never because of only one person . dont blame yourself for what happened , and dont assume you deserve to feel badly . if you start thinking negatively , take a moment to stop and think of all the awesome things about yourself . write them down if you have to . put sticky notes on your mirror to remind you how awesome you are . as corny as it sounds , it does help unfortunately some people get so bogged down in the emotion of a breakup that they look for unnatural ways to make themselves feel better . and in some cases , those unnatural ways can be drugs and alcohol . this is obviously a dangerous thing to do and its not a road you want to go down . if you notice yourself thinking about drugs or alcohol , or you feel tempted to do things that are ‘out of the ordinary for yourself , get help . dont be afraid to tell your parents , friends or a trusted teacher that you need to talk to someone . it is worth the effort to stop yourself before something truly destructive happens . its no ones fault , and no one did it on purpose , but sometimes after a period of time both sides just realize they werent meant for each other and its time to move on . after getting to know someone , you might start to realize they arent the person you thought they were , or that they dont share the same interests and values as you . heartache can happen when one of the people realizes the relationship is over before the other . even if youre the one who notices first and decides to call it off , its still not your fault . youre simply doing whats right for you , and in the long - run , whats right for both of you . seeing someone from a distance , or even knowing them as an acquaintance , doesnt give you a lot of insight into who that person is . spending more time with them in a relationship sheds light on a lot of things you wouldnt have known about beforehand . and sometimes these things you learn about the other person are not things you hoped for . you might find that the person you thought you could get along with wants to do nothing but argue with you , or maybe theyre too protective or overbearing . it might have been impossible to know this before you starting dating . probably one of the more painful reasons people breakup is because one of the people in the relationship finds themselves in love with another person . hopefully this person broke - up with their partner before they acted on their feelings for this other person , but that doesnt always happen . if youre the one who has fallen for someone else , respect your existing partner enough to breakup with them before you cheat on them . its okay to fall for someone else , but acting on those feeling while leading someone else on is dishonourable .

embrace singlehood . live life for you . stress less . get over the stigma . become a member of clergy .

how to give up on girls 2

nowadays , being single can have distinct advantages . whether its the extra time , the general freedom of movement , or simply getting to spend all your free time exactly the way you want , making the choice to disassociate yourself from romantic attachment can benefit you in the modern century in ways it might not have in past times . , one of the major advantages of singlehood is the sheer freedom to focus on yourself . do what you want , when you want . now you dont have to be beholden to a significant other when you give up on girls , you open the door to have a self - gratifying existence . as a single person , you are less likely to stress about chores and money . enjoy the lack of stressors , and get out and have a good time with your new found freedom . having less to stress about will make you happier , and open the way for you to enjoy your new - found freedom from girls and worrying about them . there has always been a stigmatized , stereotypical idea that single people are lonely and vulnerable . however , today more than ever , it simply isnt true more and more people in the modern world are finding the benefits of singlehood , and society is embracing that . singles are now a majority in the u . s . just over fifty percent of americans are now single . , if you become a priest , a nun , or enter into other monastic orders , the decision to give up on girls is already made for you if you join an order for which celibacy is a prerequisite , you wont have to worry about struggling with your decision , and you have the support of all your fellow celibates . youll also have a new path of self and spiritual exploration that will reduce your need to think about girls .

focus on other things . enjoy yourself . get in shape . have better friendships . look forward to future possibilities .

how to give up on girls 3

when you make the decision to do without the ladies , you have an opportunity to focus your energies on other activities and interests . without having to juggle romance , personal time , and work , youll find that youll have a lot more time to focus your energies on self - advancement . singlehood can be great for your career . when you are single , you can spend much more time being creative and exploring your passions . now that you have overcome the heartbreak , and made a clean break from the romantic sphere , you will have found you have more free time on your hands for activities that you have always wanted to pursue . did your girlfriend never want to go camping did she prefer to stay home and cook dinner rather than go to that restaurant you had been wanting to try when you give up on girls , you can pursue all the activities that girls held you back from . being single can have distinct advantages for your health . single people are less likely to gain weight and youll have plenty of me time to exercise and get more in shape . without the need to constantly worry about finding that next date , or stressing about a date went , you can redirect your energy into getting in shape and being physically healthy . join a gym . spend the time in the evening that used to be consumed with romance to jog , swim , or work out . when you have no need for a girlfriend , you have more opportunity to spend time with friends even if they are girls . when you get the guys together , you wont need to worry about getting home for dinner if you dont want to . youll also have more of your income available to spend on things that you want to do , rather than having to compromise with your girlfriend . as a single person , you are more likely to have close friends , and to keep in close contact with your siblings . not having a romantic life means you have plenty of time for having fun and bonding with your platonic relationships - and this can fulfill the same needs as a love interest . , giving up on girls doesnt have to mean that youre done with love and romance forever . it can be a rewarding time of self - reflection and enjoying your personal space and freedom . you can also use the opportunity to watch other couples and learn from their mistakes . being on the outside looking , even for a while , in can have distinct learning advantages - and if you do decide to get back into meeting girls and dating , youll be better prepared to deal with all that you wanted to get away from . when you take on the journey of abstaining from a romantic love , you have an opportunity to enter into a realm of possibility , adventure , and sheer fun - a realm of focusing on whats best for you . make the most of it - you never know when that certain someone will stumble into your life , and youll find it rather difficult to maintain your vow of giving up on girls .

accept that the relationship has ended . cut off communication . get rid of reminders of the relationship . stay away from places you used to frequent with your ex . deal with your feelings . learn from the relationship . find healthy ways to vent . find a role model . date other people .

how to get someone out of your head 1

you cant move on until youve accepted that you and your former partner are no longer together and that the relationship isnt coming back . dont call , text , email , or otherwise contact or talk to your ex . it will only make it harder for you to get yourself together and move on . there may be a time when you and your former partner can be friends , but that time is definitely not now . absolutely under no circumstances visit their facebook page . unfriend them and stay away . also stay away from his or her close friends . it may be difficult if you have mutual friends , but for the time being , stick close to your own friends . youll avoid getting pulled back into any drama and hearing about what your ex is up to . go through and get rid of any mementos , photos , or other reminders of your former relationship . you cant move on if youre still clinging to remnants of the relationship , and you definitely wont move on if you still attach sentiment to them . hanging out in places the two of you used to go will make it harder for you to move on . you may be able to begin going back to them eventually , but for now , stay away . recognize the feelings that you still have about the person andor relationship , whether its anger , sadness , disappointment , longing , or resentment . dont try to hide from the feelings . instead , allow yourself to feel them fully so if you need to wallow , then wallow . accept your feelings so that then you can begin to move on . think critically about why the relationship ended , including mistakes you made as well as mistakes your ex - partner may have made . use what youve learned from the mistakes each of you made to begin building strategies to avoid similar missteps in the future . using healthy outlets will not only help you deal with your feelings but also improve your own well - being at the same time . beating yourself up or becoming self - destructive will make the situation infinitely worse and make the process of moving on much longer and harder . let your friends and family be your resource - - talk to them and let them be there for you . going running , hitting the gym hello , punching bag , taking a hike , joining a yoga class . all excellent options . write - - but dont send - - an angry letter . let all your ugliest feelings out and let yourself have some catharsis . but do not send the letter . it will make your situation worse rather than better and stop you from moving on . look for a strong role model you can look up to as well as take inspiration from . perhaps a friend or character or public figure who got back up better than ever after getting knocked down . the more you can take inspiration from people who have stumbled and caught themselves , the easier it will be to envision yourself doing the same . its harder to pine for an ex when youre seeking new partners . but make sure to keep your feelings about your ex and the relationship out of your new dating scene . avoid bringing up or grumbling about your ex with a date - - dont let the old relationship taint your new ones .

figure out why the relationship is destructive . know that no relationship is perfect . watch out for manipulation . recognize the cycle of abuse . know when to end the relationship . know how to cut things off . end the relationship . leave the area . do not go back . expect conflicting emotions . get to work . try to reconnect . dont shut yourself off .

how to leave a destructive relationship

sometimes , a relationship will go sour . can you determine why figuring out what went wrong doesnt mean youll fix it , as sometimes its not able to be fixed , but identifying what makes you feel this way can be a huge help . do most conversations that start off friendly or romantic end in fights does your friend or partner not listen to what you say or take you seriously do they mock you , belittle you , put you down , or tell you that they wish you didnt exist do they play mind games or manipulate you , and expect you to know something that you have no way of knowing , such as what theyre thinking do they physically or sexually abuse you , or threaten to do so does the relationship as a whole just cause you to feel drained , exhausted , worthless , or like youre trying so hard for something that isnt giving you results theres never a relationship thats always happy and cheerful , and healthy friendships or relationships do have the occasional argument here and there . in addition , stressful situations and hard times can make a person act like they arent themselves and cause you two to get into fights . however , theres a difference between a fight here and there , and a destructive relationship . if the number of days where youre fighting are outnumbering the days where you arent , or if your friend or partner is causing you serious physical or emotional harm , its time to think about whether the relationship is healthy . for example , if youve identified that many of the conversations end in fights , but nothing else , its quite possible that the relationship is just in a bad place that may fade . however , if the fights contain verbal or physical abuse , manipulation or mind games , or leave you feeling depressed and like the relationship isnt worth saving , then it may be time to cut the relationship short . if you have determined that the relationship is abusive , and you tell your friend or partner that you wish to leave , they may manipulate you into staying by begging , crying , or threatening you or others . dont fall for it . yes , the person can change like they say theyre going to , but whats the likelihood of them doing it recall all the times this person made you feel bad about yourself . if theyve made you feel bad or harmed you many times , theyre not likely to stop because they know you wont leave . on the flip side , if you are the one belittling or hurting your partner , then its best to cut the relationship short yourself . dont tell them that its their fault . be honest . tell them that you dont think its safe for you to be friends with them or dating them , and you need to cut contact in order to try and work on yourself . then do it . dont transfer this behavior to somebody else . if your friend or partner actively prevents you from leaving , such as by taking important things like car keys or money , or threatening serious harm to you , get to a safer place such as a parents house if possible and call authorities . if the relationship is that destructive , theres no way of getting out safely by yourself . if you have determined the relationship is destructive , keep an eye out for what is commonly called the cycle of abuse - the honeymoon period , the tension , and then the blowup . its very common for a destructive relationship to have this pattern with one or both parties , as they can be rather emotional . depending on how destructive this relationship is and if you and the person live together , you may not be able to do it face - to - face . while a face - to - face discussion is best for other situations , it isnt worth the risk if you suspect it wont go over well . if your friend or partner is significantly abusive , do not do this face to face . they likely know you well enough to manipulate you into staying around , and if they cant trick you , you may end up getting emotionally hurt or physically injured . try to avoid over the phone if the person is verbally abusive , as well . if you live with this person and suspect theyll stop you from leaving the house , wait until they leave and call someone you trust to come get you . however , if the situation is desperate , you can try going to a neighbors and phoning a person you trust there , or the police . depending on how you plan to leave , you will have to know how youll do it and how to stay calm . if the relationship is destructive and the other party agrees that its best for it to end , it may be calm , but it may not end calmly . think of how the person may respond and come up with answers to those responses . however , keep in mind that they may throw you for a loop by asking a question or saying something you didnt expect from them . remember to stay calm , no matter what they said to you . if you cant end things face - to - face , its best not to end it officially at all , as this requires leaving something behind . even something like a note or a voice memo can work against you if the person takes it to someone else to try and track you . if youre ending it face - to - face , approach the person . tell them calmly , i dont think this relationship is healthy anymore . i think its best if we go our separate ways . be aware that theyll likely be upset by this , but stay calm regardless of what they do . if the person is not verbally abusive , but is physically abusive , do not carry it out face - to - face . however , a lot of people who are physically abusive will also be verbally abusive , so in this case it may just be best to flee without telling the person if you fear getting hurt . if you dont live with this person , it may be easier to get away from them , since its possible you may only have to see them at school or work . however , if you live with the person , you will need to make plans on how to get away if youve deemed it necessary . you dont necessarily have to move into a new home or apartment , but staying with another friend or a family member will suffice . do not leave any traces of where you will be going . if you are discussing this with the person you plan to be staying with , discuss it in person or over a phone call so that you dont leave evidence in texts or letters that you will be leaving . dont write it in a journal or anywhere you suspect the person may look . if they suspect you will leave and want to prevent you from doing so , it will give them pointers as to where to wait for you or cause them to harm somebody . if you think this person is going to stalk you , file a restraining order . while a piece of paper may not do much to deter the stalker , it will be evidence to the police that this person is harassing you . if the person pleads with you that they can change , dont believe them - theres a reason youre leaving , after all . why would you be leaving the relationship if you didnt feel it was destructive if the person threatens to commit suicide over you leaving , make it clear that you dont control what they do , and believe it yourself . remember that you dont have control over anyone that isnt you . even if you know the relationship was destructive and extremely unhealthy , you may grieve the loss . let yourself grieve , but dont let the grief consume your life . after at least a week , try to get your life back in order . do not return to the relationship , no matter what youre feeling about it . if you find yourself remembering all the good parts and thinking that maybe it can work if you just change this one piece of it , recall what made you want to leave in the first place and how often it would happen . do you really want to be friends with or dating someone who doesnt treat you like youre worth all that you are after youve had some time away from the relationship , find something to occupy your time . you can go to schoolwork , your jobs work , resume an old hobby or pick up a new one , or anything else you want to try . do not take up destructive habits . if you begin to drink excessively , use drugs , or begin injuring yourself , then get help immediately . maybe while in the destructive relationship , you abandoned old friends or family members . try to reach out to them and apologize for shutting them out . if you want , make plans to see them , and make sure to have fun while doing so keep in mind that depending on how you treated your friends , they may no longer trust you or want to be your friend . if they forgive you , dont jump right back into how things used to be - take some time to rebuild the friendship and trust in it . depending on how destructive the relationship was and how long it lasted , you may be scared of opening up to people again , or feel like what they said about you was true . however , remember that not everyone will treat you poorly , and you are not somebody elses words or actions . you are you , and what happened in your past does not make you undesirable , dirty or worthless . keep yourself open to new people . if you feel constantly sad , empty , guilty , or worthless , or if you feel anxious or jumpy all the time , try to see a therapist . its possible that a destructive relationship can cause mental disorders , such as depression . if you begin engaging in self - destructive habits , such as self - injury , reckless driving , reckless spending of money , or abusing alcohol or drugs , get help immediately . nobody should make you behave in ways that are destructive to your health .

know the limits of your knowledge . learn from others . find out what they want . decide how to respond . dont encourage their behavior . cultivate allies .

how to get someone out of your head 2

without the benefit of hindsight , its often quite difficult to know whats motivating the other person or what they truly feel or think about you . rather than assume they must just hate you , allow for the possibility that youre projecting feelings that may not be there . understand that theyre just as human as you are . everyone has struggles in their lives that contribute to how they act - - its entirely possible your enemy is antagonistic because of difficulties theyre struggling with . learn from the quote often attributed to abraham lincoln i dont like that man . i must get to know him better . pay close attention to the people who get along with your enemy . learn from how they handle the dynamic to gain insight into what may not be working between you and your enemy and why . if its a kind of behavior youre comfortable emulating , try picking up tips from your observations to see if you can rejigger the tenor of you and your enemys relationship . knowing what theyre trying to achieve is crucial to dealing with the problem . are they jealous of something you have did you consciously or unconsciously slight them in some way do you do something that annoys them knowing whats driving their behavior can help you get out in front of their negative behavior and possibly blunt the effect their actions have on you . when you know whats motivating the persons behavior , you can begin to address it . youll have two options improve the relationship or learn how to limit their effect on you . if its an issue of a small habit or behavior you have that irritates them , you can consider not doing those things around them or sitting down with them to explain your behavior and help them accept it . if its a more serious issue or you simply cant figure out what their problem is , confront them about it . nothing shuts down misconceptions or bad feelings like addressing them head - on . apologize if its warranted . if you did something either knowingly or unknowingly to upset them , apologize sincerely and dont do it again so you can both move on . talk to the person calmly and coolly . dont accuse or antagonize , just have an honest conversation . even if your enemy says rude or insensitive things about you , your friends , or your family , dont give them the satisfaction of seeing it upset you . in these situations , your enemy is simply looking for a reaction , and when they get one it will only encourage them to continue the behavior . if you want it to stop , start by ignoring them and their comments . dont listen to or spread rumors it only perpetuates the problem . the more emotionally engaged you become , the more power youre giving to your enemy . avoid them . limit your contact with them as much as possible . sometimes distance is enough to diffuse the situation . nothing balances the negative impact of an enemy like having allies . the more people you have on your side and who see you as kind , helpful , respectful , etc . the less impact any potential enemy sabotage can have on you . when youre tempted to say something negative about your enemy , turn that energy around and instead say something nice to another person . spreading positivity rather than negativity will give you the advantage over your enemy .

stay calm . take action early on . know that it isnt about you . do your research . gain allies whenever possible . keep a record . avoid them as much as possible . get a supervisor , teacher , or other authority figure involved . take care of yourself .

how to get someone out of your head 3

bullies love a reaction , and they particularly love an emotional reaction . as soon as they know theyre getting to you , theyre going to keep digging in deeper . if you must react to the bully at all , do so calmly and coolly . being the calm one not only makes the bully look immature , it shifts the power dynamic to make you the powerful one - - a state of affairs that bullies hate . dont allow the situation to escalate before taking measures to manage it . the longer a bad situation goes unchecked , the more negatively it will impact you and the more powerful and entitled the bully will feel . the bullys issue is entirely their own - - it isnt about you , its about their weaknesses and insecurities . dont ever allow the bully to convince you that you brought this on yourself . they alone are responsible for their own behavioral choices . look into the types of bullying behavior , what motivates a bully , and how to understand bully . many bullies are victims of violence themselves and are acting out . knowing this can help you have some compassion as well as help you better understand the true power dynamic between the two of you . build a support network the more people you have on your side who are willing to support you , the harder youll be to target . having allies will also help you feel confident and supported , two characteristics that bullies find very defeating . write down the time , place , and a description of each encounter in case you need to bring a formal or informal complaint against them . having specific times , places , and descriptions of your encounters with this person will make it very difficult for them to deny the truth of what youre saying or to try to shift the blame onto you . the less you see them , the fewer opportunities theyll have to manipulate you . not having opportunities to bully or otherwise manipulate you will leave a bully bored and theyll begin searching for a more gratifying target . if the problem cant be solved by simply ignoring or avoiding the bully , its time to get someone with authority involved . if youve been keeping a record of the events - - which is recommended - - show the other person your records , describe the bullys behavior to them , and explain how that behavior impacts you . find healthy ways to vent your emotions , whether its working out , doing yoga , or writing in a journal . its important that you spend time caring for yourself rather than caring about what the bully is saying or thinking . if the bullying is a significant source of stress , consider talking with a therapist to help you manage the situation .

accept the reality of it . analyze why youre attracted to him . talk to people who know him . take up a new hobby . go out for the day . go dancing . avoid him at all costs . meet other guys . try to think of things about him that actually bother you .

how to get over the guy that has a girlfriend

he has a girlfriend and it is not you . it happens . this is not going to change until further notice . this is difficult to accept sometimes , but you wont be able to get over him until you do . it could be that youre not even attracted to him and there are other reasons why youre pursuing him . perhaps you dont like his girlfriend and are trying to hurt her . something else in your life may be causing his attraction as well . this includes friends of his and ex - girlfriends , if possible . in learning about his personality or certain character flaws he has , you may find yourself becoming not attracted to him . be aware that the reverse issue could happen and you may become more smitten with him the more that you learn . if this happens , realize that there plenty of other guys out there for you . dont spend all day obsessing . figure out ways to fill up the time and it will become easier to move past this . join a sports team , an arts class or volunteer within your community . meeting new people and being exposed to new activities is a great way to take your mind off something that youll realize is not very important in the long run . the goal is to get him out of your head plan a trip to the park or beach , or indulge in a day of retail therapy . a great way to get over a guy is to dress up in some of your most stylish clothes and go dancing . clubs are a great place to possibly meet other guys . even if you dont meet any , the music and physical activity from dancing will put you in a better mood . dance until you feel better . in the early stages , dont put yourself in a situation where you have to be around him . if you share a class or work together , make an effort to limit your time around him to as little as possible . this helps you to move forward with your life . the best way to get over a guy is to see who else is out there flirt with other boys . if you become attracted to someone else , youll quickly forget about this other person . does he chew with his mouth open does he smoke does he not like your favorite band seeing the flaws in him will help you get over him .

get them out of your life - dont call them , text them , e - mail them or visit their facebook or myspace account . be confident - show them that you are happier now without them , even if your still hurting . get rid of anything that reminds you of them - yes girls , that includes all the jewelry , clothes , chocolates , whatever . do new things - do new extreme things like travel , get new friends , get new hobbies , get a complete change in your life . get a journal - write down all of the feeling you feel , all the things you do , and all the people youre with until you feel you have moved on . understand what heshe wants - a big reason people miss or still want to be with their old partners is because you look back at your relationship time after time , analyzing every detail of everything you both have ever done until you want to be with them again , to change everything that you messed up last time . talk to them - now that you feel you are pretty much over them , you still have that little bit of curiosity left . this above was an overview of what you should do to get over them , but here is 30 different things you can do to get over them do not call them do not text them do not e - mail them do not visit there facebook or myspace dont act jealous dont be insecure dont be desperate be confident go on with your life get a new hobby spend time on yourself decide if your life is better with or without them really think about this one learn how to let go forgive them dont say things youll regret be , feel and act attractive take a vacation get rid of bad habits that caused problems in that relationship , so you wont have those problems when you find someone new dont try to make them feel guilty . dont fear loneliness , embrace it to discover who you are be able to admit your mistakes go on a blind date lose some weight , feel better physically and emotionally learn patience be yourself make sure whatever you didnt like in your past relationship wont be in your next one start talking to them again as friends be happy that you can have a new life , stress free .

how to get over somebody in 30 days

most sites say to keep in contact with them , but i found that if i talked to them and looked at their pictures , i started missing them again . so try to have as little contact as possible . if you go to work or school with them , i suggest to only have casual conversation with them as best you can , try not to become friends with them again yet . so dont be insecure , dont be desperate , be confident , try to get on with your life , get a new hobby and other things that make you feel good . and yes guys , that means that new watch , those underwear she thought you looked cute in , pictures you took together , whatever . by getting rid of those reminders , you will be able to put new reminders up of family , friends , or maybe someone new . or smaller things , but still effective , like going shopping , trying new foods , have a party or get together . just have fun with the people you want to be with , dont force yourself to be happy . its only natural to be sad , and you dont just get over it quickly , take your time , but dont stop your life because of them . my favorite part about writing a journal is rereading it again , seeing my progress with getting over the person . you really feel like you have accomplished something and you will always remember them , just not in a sad way like you miss them but more in a way that your happy for the experience with that person . so ask their friends about them and see the real reason they didnt want to be with you anymore , or how they felt when you left them . if you feel ready and brave enough , i suggest you do it yourself . dont ask them right away or in the next week after the breakup , but when you know you are over them , maybe even in a month or so . then they will also feel confident to tell you because they understand what they feel as well . so now is the time to re - connect with them as friends , just friends . not friends with benefits . once you feel close enough in a matter of maybe weeks , or even months , ask them how they felt about how your relationship ended , or any other questions you might have had about your past relationship . then , remind them that you are happy that they are just friends now , and be excited for the rest of your life . , i know you might feel like they deserve it , but you dont have to stoup to their level . ,

dont be embarrassed to cry . find something to help take your mind off your heartbreak for a while , the feeling will pass with time . talk to your friends and family . focus on moving on . keep it in perspective , rebuild your life . talk to a professional . accept it .

how to get over heartbreak

youve been hurt - expect the tears to keep coming . there are few people who can get over heartbreak without shedding tears , so let them flow . if you bottle up your feelings , youll only end up making yourself feel worse later and moving on will be even harder . let everything loose and dont hold anything back . activities you enjoy will help you relax . thats what theyre there for a good friend you trust will be a good person to talk to . a parent or sibling may also be a good choice . focus for a while on your career and family . if you help someone else out , youll feel good , and have a chance to take your mind off the pain . good times are a great way to help you get over heartbreak . keep on going with your day and focus on your work . think about the positive things in your life , and what you have left . think about what you can do with your future , and dont let your loss destroy the rest of your life too . letting the feeling overcome you will lead you down a road that isnt too pleasant . get engrossed in new things , and try not to look back on the past . the more you move forward , the less it will hurt . keep yourself occupied , so you dont have time to be upset . keep moving forward . you may need to see a psychologist or other such professional person if your grief is really destroying your life . a professional will care and will know how to help you . they can almost certainly offer further and better advice . you might never quite be happy about the event that caused your heartbreak , and you might always shed a tear thinking about it , but eventually you will find that you can live without it getting in the way . just remember that every relationship is a learning experience , and every learning experience will positively effect your future . time heals all wounds , especially in the case of heartbreak .

accept your feelings . get some perspective . avoid negative self - talk . be realistic about the future . try to contain the grief .

how to get over an ex who you lost your virginity to at a young age 1

at the end of any relationship , there will be a period of grieving . you have suffered a loss , and so for a while , you are going to feel deeply sad . accept and allow this . take some time to cry and process what has happened . with major emotional experiences , psychologists say that our firsts are usually more memorable and continue to have emotional power throughout our lives . this means its going to take some time to get over your ex . it also means you will probably never forget him . rather than trying to forget , just accept your feelings as they are . by the same token , while emotional firsts are powerful , it is possible to exaggerate their importance . in our culture , losing ones virginity is often viewed as a major turning point in life , but for most people it really isnt a defining moment . after youve had a few days to grieve , try to put things in perspective . you are the same person you were before you lost your virginity . keep in mind , too , that you get to define what the important romantic and sexual moments in your life are . if you dont want to look back at this as the sexual experience of your life , you dont have to . youve had one experience with one person , but a different type of sexual experience with someone else may be more special later . the big moment for you may not have happened yet . for many people , when a relationship ends , there is a tendency to think negative thoughts about themselves . this is especially true if you are not the person who chose to end the relationship . these feelings of rejection can lead to negative self - talk . if you feel rejected by your ex , you might be telling yourself it happened because you are not good enough or not attractive enough . you might be telling yourself you wont find happiness again . if youve lost your virginity to someone and then been rejected , these ideas can be hard to push aside . if you notice yourself thinking these thoughts , try to replace them with more positive ideas . your ex may not want to be with you anymore , but others will . her rejection of you doesnt make you a lesser person in any way . when youre ready to start thinking about the future , there are two realities you should try to keep in mind . first , you will find happiness again . second , you and your ex must go your own ways . try to be realistic about your possibilities for future happiness . you were happy before this happened , and you will be happy again . in your life , you will love other people . try not to dwell on thoughts about getting back together with your ex someday . young love is powerful , but in most cases , doesnt last . you and your ex are both at a point in your lives where you are changing quickly and still discovering who you are . these changes usually push young people apart . its no ones fault , and all you can do about it is move on with your life and allow your ex to do the same . for your own sake , try to limit the amount of time you spend grieving your ex . after a few days , if you can start setting your grief apart from other parts of your life , you can start to get past it . for example , you might decided that you are going to spend no more than an hour a day grieving your loss . maybe youll set aside two blocks of 30 minutes where you allow yourself to really feel the pain , but after that , go do something else that will keep your mind occupied . after a while , try cutting down to two 15 minute blocks . some people find that putting their pain in an imaginary box that they open on a routine schedule starts to make that pain boring . eventually , this can help you to lose interest in these sad feelings and get on with life .

get some distance . talk to others . put the memories away . write in a journal . rediscover yourself .

how to get over an ex who you lost your virginity to at a young age 2

as hard as it may be , when you are trying to get over the intense feelings you are currently experiencing , the best thing you can do is put as much distance between you and your ex as possible . avoid seeing him , and dont call , text , or otherwise contact your ex . this doesnt mean you cant ever be friends , but as long as you still have strong romantic feelings towards that person , spending time with your ex is going to make it harder for you to move on by bringing up powerful memories again and again . take some time , and if later youre ready to be friends and still want that , then give it a try . if you go to school with your ex , this can be difficult , especially if you have classes together . theres no need to be rude or pretend your ex doesnt exist , but avoid situations in which you have to interact . if necessary , ask him to do the same . you dont have to go through this difficult time alone . find a trusted friend or family member to share your feelings with . its okay to ask for help . psychologists have found that , even though it may seem like talking about your ex brings up more feelings of sadness or rejection , people who talk about their breakups regularly get over them more quickly . losing your virginity is a sensitive topic , so make sure to confide in someone who you can trust not to judge you or share your personal feelings with others . although you probably will never forget your ex , or losing your virginity to her , you also dont want to be reminded of this all the time . put any objects you have that remind you of her somewhere you wont see them . this includes any gifts your ex gave you , pictures of the two of you together , or anything else along those lines . some people decide to throw away or destroy these mementos , especially when they feel angry or rejected . some people end up regretting that decision later . a better idea is to put them away in a box where you just wont see them . after youve gotten over your ex and are feeling less emotional , you can decide if you want to keep any of those items . doing some private writing is a great way to process your emotions . get a journal and use it to write about what youre feeling . you can use it like a diary , or write poems , stories , or songs about how youre feeling . this can be as valuable as talking to another person , and can be a place to vent feelings that you think might be too private to share with anyone . if good things happen that make you feel better about life , write about them in your journal too . this can help you start focusing more on positive changes in your life . after a breakup , many people struggle with who they are . even in a short relationship , its easy to start thinking of your connection to the other person as a key part of your identity . getting past this means rediscovering who you are without that person . this is a great time in your life to think about your own goals and to try new things . maybe youll take up a new hobby , spend more time with friends , start working out or playing sports , or make some life change youve been wanting to make for a long time . focusing on the present and creating new positive experiences will help you move past your feelings for your ex .

give it time . avoid rebounds . start dating again when you feel ready .

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the unfortunate reality of any breakup is that it will take some time to get over , and there is no way to fast - forward through to end of the painful part . accept that it will take a while to completely get over your ex , and dont try to rush it . psychologists have found that it takes the average person 11 weeks to start feeling positive changes after the end of a relationship . dont be surprised if it takes a little longer for you . the fact that there was a memorable first in your relationship makes this recovery emotionally intense . many people feel that the best way to get over someone quickly is to go out and find someone else as soon as possible . some people believe that having sex with another person will cause you to get over your ex . these rebound experiences , however , are often not healthy . dating or having sex again before you are over your ex can lead you to make comparisons between the new person and someone you still may love . this can end up making you feel lonelier than you were before you started dating again . rushing into a new relationship before youre over your ex can end painfully for both you and the new person you have started dating . especially if losing your virginity was a negative experience , do not rush out and have sex with other people right away . a negative first like this sometimes leads people to seek out similar experiences with others , leading to more bad experiences and heartbreak . wait until you have gotten your emotions under control before getting romantically or sexually involved again . when you feel you are over your ex , or at least not dealing with intense emotional pain on a regular basis , you can start looking for a new relationship . only you will know when it is the right time . after a hard breakup , many people are afraid to love someone again . it can feel scary to open yourself up to the possibility of being hurt . in the end , though , its worth it . having new romantic experiences will enrich your life and help you see that breaking up with the person who you lost your virginity to is not the end of the world .

whatever happens , do not say anything bad about your ex as he could use this against you if you decide to tell a teacher . treat him like any other bully . record everything that is life threatening or abusive include times dates locations what you were doing , how this incident started take reasonable precautions against ever being alone with him . tell your friends what is happening and get their support . ignore your exs verbal comments . stick to the facts . look for other exes he has left in his wake .

how to get over the ex who bullies you

stick to the facts and the truth . dont drag up past behavior unless its extremely relevant - such as he used to verbally belittle me like that right before he got violent and thats why im concerned about my safety . it doesnt matter that you two used to be an item . what hes doing is bullying and if hes doing it to get you back , have enough self respect to keep saying no . you deserve better than that . no one deserves to be bullied by a partner , let alone an ex - partner . or even if he is a stranger . stay away from him as much as humanly possible . document instances of harassment and report them to the authorities . do not do anything he asks you to do , for he is attempting to take control of you again . he will be as devious as anyone can get . it is recommended you get an injunction or restriction order on the person in order to silence him completely . to do that , you will still need evidence , such as photographs of his behavior . keep friends around you and stay within sight of teachers and authorities , especially those who are sympathetic or known to act promptly dealing with bullies . they will be able to refute the nasty things being said about you . dont be shocked if guys you dont know expect you to act as described , set them straight about it in a firm but casual way . he wishes i was that kind of girl who pretends to be who shes not . im not . go find someone who is . dont blow up and have hysterical outbursts , thats exactly what the bully wants if he put your number on the bathroom wall or something like that . keep your dignity . this will enrage him more than anything else and its a good way to get uninvolved people on your side . dont play the same social games back at him , just keep your dignity . get on with your life after a time , it will become clear that the issues are with him and that he is bad . do not believe any of the negative things he says about you . remember that his motive is to make you feel ashamed and miserable . its easier said than done , but vitally important to your sanity . he does not know you better than you know yourself . listen to what your friends say about you for accurate feedback . if your friends and enemies both agree on something about you , its probably true but may not be anywhere near as bad a thing as the way he puts it . if you need to clarify anything about your relationship with this person , just tell the facts . do not embellish and make sure that what you can say can be established easily by others . they might be a source of support as they have probably been through this too .

stop talking to him . go out with your friends . get rid of the mementos . talk it out . write it out . keep yourself distracted with exercise . do more at work . try a new hobby or activity . make yourself celebrate your freedom . put an end - date on the sadness . make a little change . make a significant change . make some new friends . be selfish for a while . dont rush back into another relationship .

how to get over him

if your relationship is over , stop talking to your ex . that means no facebook or g - chatting , no texting , no keeping up to date with his dating situation online . nothing . even if you plan to be friends later , give it a few weeks at least , to let yourself get over him . every time you see him , your feelings are going to bubble back up to the surface . it makes it really difficult to try to get over someone you have to deal with regularly . if you have to see him at school or elsewhere , keep your interactions as brief as possible . say , i dont have anything to say to you , and walk away . avoid the ex - stalking facebook stage of the break - up . theres pretty much nothing to gain from this . if hes already dating someone else , hes a loser anyway and youre lucky to be rid of him . being single can be a good thing . look at it as a change to get out there and meet more people and have fun with your friends . just use this point in your life to hang out , instead of worrying about a guy . be around people as much as possible . the more youre alone , the bigger the chance youll end up obsessed over the dude again . be around people wholl keep you having fun and thinking about other things . let yourself meet new people you might be interested in when the time is right , but dont rush it . jumping from boyfriend to boyfriend isnt usually the best idea . the cute teddy bear your boyfriend gave you last valentines day cut its head off and throw it in the garbage . the little calendars and cards and letters he made for you toss em . mementos do little but remind you of the loss . dont keep them to help remember the good times , throw them away . if youre not ready to complete lose this stuff , then put it in a box at least . put it somewhere you wont be able to see it for a few weeks . give it to a friend for safe - keeping if necessary . get your friends together and talk about how youre feeling . you dont need to solve your problem , but talking about it honestly and openly is a good way to start the healing process . be indulgent . eat chocolate and watch sappy movies together . talk about your crappy relationship and support each other . no shame . alternatively , sometimes you might just want to be alone for a while . thats fine . theres no one perfect way to get over a guy . do what feels natural to you . sit down with some paper and pencil or pen . write his name at the top of the page . pour yourself a drink , get a box of tissues , and just start writing . pour out everything that youre feeling , everything that youre angry about , onto the page . address it to him . really let him have it . then , tear up the letter , or burn it , or throw it away . dont even give him the satisfaction . use your body and your mind to do positive things , instead of mope . if youre feeling depressed and obsessing over a guy , try to work on yourself instead . exercising helps to expel energy and boost your mood by releasing feel - good endorphins in your brain . get moving if you want to feel better . make your own exercise routine . find a cardio workout by picking 5 - 10 exercises that you can repeat three times each , about a minute for each exercise . do this three times a week at home . spend some extra hours at work , or at school , doing what you need to do . if youre on a sports team , devote extra energy to planning events or extra workouts with your teammates . put yourself deep into some project to help yourself focus on other things . the best revenge is living well . if your ex sees how productive , busy , and happy you are thats the best way to stick it to him . show him what he lost . on the other hand , it can also be good to take some time off , if you need to . call in sick , if youre really feeling unproductive and crappy . take the time you need . use your newfound single - status as an excuse to do other new things . if youve always wanted to write a book , but never had the time because of your relationship responsibilities , youve got no excuse now . pick a new hobby to throw yourself into and distract yourself from the way youre feeling . start reading more . getting lost in a good book can be a great way of forgetting about your troubles . do something creative . painting , drawing , or other art projects are a great way to get busy . pick a daily - baking project , and try to cook something new each day . channel your frustration energy into fun projects in the kitchen . every break up is a mixed bag . on the one hand , youre alone . and it usually sucks . on the other hand , youre alone . that means , you can do whatever you want , without worrying about how your ex will react . theres nobody to hold you back anymore . do what you feel . if you feel like blasting katy perry at 7 am and eating fruit loops in your ugly pajamas , do it . nobodys going to judge that . celebrate the fact that youre single . that thing he always hated to do yeah , do that thing . and enjoy it . the moping around and being sad is an essential part of getting over a guy . dont let anyone tell you otherwise . but , it shouldnt last forever . eventually , youve got to be the one who says , this is enough . decide when youve had it , and when its time for you to get better . then move on . good rule of thumb dont grieve a relationship for more days than months you were together . if you went out for a year , its ok to be sad for a couple weeks . but eventually , youve got to get over it . eventually , all the sadness will just get boring . decide you want something more . decide you want to be happy . do something little , but that feels big for you . let it be a statement of your freedom . color your hair in a new way , or chop it all off . do something crazy , or unexpected , like singing karaoke with your friends . pick something to celebrate your freedom in a surprising way . itll help . tattoos can be great ways to commemorate a big change in your life , like a break - up . or unfortunate decisions that youll be stuck with . if youve had a design in mind for a while , but your guy didnt like it , then go for it . if you just want to get some ink to be cool , then maybe you should think about it for a while . some relationships can hold you back . was yours if so , consider making a bigger change in your life . use your new freedom and your new time to improve yourself . decide to change your life for the better . try moving to a new place , especially if you shared your old one with your boyfriend . move out and explore a new neighborhood . did you sacrifice things so that you could work on your relationship are you doing what you want to do in life right now if the answer is no , then make a big change . switch jobs . move to a new town . do what you want to do . sometimes , when you break up with someone , you can lose a lot of your friends as well . if thats true of your relationship , you might need to find new friends as well so you can hang on to your social life . dont let a break - up ruin your ability to hang out and have fun . hang out with different sorts of people than you might normally hang out with . if youre a sporty - type , hang out with some artsy kids . if youre a smart kid , hang out with some jocks . give some people a chance . you deserve to be happy and feel confident . work on developing yourself for a while , instead of worrying about your relationship . do what you want to do . live the way you want to live . let yourself be a little selfish for a while . make decisions based on what you want . work on things like school , and developing your own identity . be yourself . hang out with your friends . make memories . if youre young , therell be plenty of time to worry about dating . even if youre not young , its good to take a little time to worry about other things . dont worry about finding a new boyfriend for now . worry about living your life . stop worrying about the one . lots of people date for a long time before they have a single serious relationship . if you had one , count yourself lucky . take a bit of time before you start looking for a relationship that you consider serious and lasting .

avoid spending time with the boy . appear neutral towards the boy . confront the boy . get a grip . realize that if he is cheating on his girlfriend with you , he will possibly do the same to you . dont feel bad . resist temptation . ask for help .

how to get over the fact that he used you whilst he had a girlfriend

even if your intentions may be pure , he will think youre returning his affections if you linger with him . at this point , his mind will be clouded , and he will be focused on getting something out of the relationship he has with you . any action you perform that hints of romantic interest will only encourage him to continue , even if you truly didnt mean anything . avoid looking eager , even if you secretly might be . responding to him or looking interested will only encourage him to continue , and he might hurt you badly in the process - physically andor inwardly . be firm when telling him no , and show negative feelings towards him if need be . dont be gentle or kind to him because hell take it the wrong way at this point . if it becomes obvious that he is interested in you , ask him why he is playing around with you while he still has a girl . chances are he will tell you she is boring , and he will claim he wants to break up with her for you . however , avoid falling for that . he is only batting around with your feelings in order to persuade you into giving him what he wants . note that he might deny it . however , keep your guard up and be on the alert for signs that he is flirting with you . firmly tell yourself that he doesnt want you . he is only using you for his own selfish needs . despite how intimate he may be with you , he truly doesnt care about your feelings . he only wants your body . although it might feel good at the start , you will start to realize that youre only preparing yourself for a terrible crash . he will start to detach from you , and he will eventually leave you . you are no different . to him , youre just another girl whom he will use to get what he wants . although he might tell you otherwise , he doesnt love you , and you should avoid hurting yourself . remember you are still young , and you still have a chance to find someone who truly loves you . its best to keep yourself pure for the one who gives you unconditional love so that you wont have to show him the scars you could have avoided . there will be plenty of guys who will rock your world and make you feel like the beautiful girl you already are . think about the consequences , even if there might not seem to be any at the moment . remember that you must stay true to yourself , and you come first - not him . avoid scarring and wounding yourself by stepping into a horrible relationship like that . do something that your future self will thank you for . if worse comes to worse and he wont leave you alone , approach a trustworthy adult , and tell them about the situation before its too late . you could also share your worries with your good friends , but remember that they might not be able to help you or give you the best advice . dont count out your family - realize that they will possibly be the most supporting and helpful in this situation .

give yourself time to mourn . examine the relationship .

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if you loved your ex a lot and had a happy relationship , youre most likely feeling downright depressed . if you pretend that youre fine and dont process your feelings , though , youre only causing yourself long - term emotional damage . take a week or two to mourn over the breakup , but make sure your mourning period is not so long that it interferes with your ability to enjoy life in the future . was the relationship a happy relationship , or was it toxic if the relationship was toxic or manipulative , breaking up was the right move . if you find yourself still wanting your toxic ex back , make a list of the negative qualities of your ex and the reasons why your relationship was poisonous . sometimes losing the worst relationships hurts the most . if your relationship was perfectly happy and compatible and the two of you decided to break up because you just felt as if its time to start seeing other people , remind yourself that people change and grow , especially during the teenage years . typically , in middle school , relationships are not long - paring and breakups often occur at this stage . perhaps your ex broke up because he or she felt drained by the commitment of your relationship and desired for more time with friends and family .

talk to trusted friends and family . look for suspicious communication . observe his schedule and note any deviations from established patterns . talk to your boyfriends cheating partner . create a good time to talk . remain calm . say it . ask about details . find out his intentions . decide how you feel about what you found out . tell him directly . take precautions if your boyfriend is violent . focus on yourself for a little while . outline what he needs to do to earn your trust back . ask for more communication . set rules to rebuild trust . seek couples therapy if necessary .

how to handle a cheating boyfriend

the people who know your relationship best likely spend the most time with you and your boyfriend . perhaps they have noticed a change in his behavior or seen some activity that would confirm his infidelity . since they know you well , they are likely to empathize with you , too , if they have something to share . its hard to broach this difficult topic , but you could try by saying , i believe mark is cheating on me . i trust you and wanted to know if you have seen or heard anything to support that . by letting the person know what esteem you hold them in , they will be more likely to help you if they can . try to control your temper when seeking out information from trusted people to confirm the infidelity . they are more likely to clam up if they feel accused or somehow complicit in the cheating . in todays modern age , its very difficult to carry on an affair with no paper trail , particularly an electronic one . begin investigating your boyfriends public communication channels to confirm that he is cheating . check out his social media pages . are there any unusual posts on facebook , twitter or instagram keep an ear out for any odd phone calls he makes or receives . a disruption of longstanding patterns could be a sign your boyfriend cheating . is he a morning person who has suddenly turned into a night owl think about all the facets of your life together that have recently undergone large changes you cant explain . if your boyfriend is keeping very different hours than he typically does , that is something of note . is he constantly running late lately when he is usually very punctual observe your home life . are you two people who rarely fight who are now fighting all the time think about when any changes in established patterns began and how long they have been going on . can they be explained another way , such as a large project as work if not , they could be meaningful . physical intimacy is an important part of a relationship . if youre normally intimate frequently , but you havent had sex in months , there could be someone else in the picture . do this only if you have found evidence of cheating . many people , even cheaters , feel an overwhelming sense of guilt about their behavior . if you think you know who your boyfriend is cheating with , it can he helpful to talk to them before confronting your boyfriend . they may feel they owe you some information for having disrupted your relationship . if you go this route , stay calm when talking to them . the person you should be mad at is your boyfriend , who had a commitment to you rather than this outsider . its even possible they did not know he was in a relationship . you are only talking with them to find out further details . this can be a controversial approach , and so is best undertaken only if you feel calm and comfortable in this conversation . approach the other person only if you have clear evidence . its best to connect in person or on the phone , so they have to contend with the fact that you are a real person . theyre likely to ignore a message . you could call and say , you may not know this , but mark and i are in a relationship . i believe youre having a relationship with him as well . i wanted to talk to you about it . dont confront your boyfriend on his lunch break or right before you need to sleep at night . you will need adequate time to talk about what has happened . try to find a time when he is not busy with other tasks , or make time on his calendar if necessary . you could say , do you have a good time today or tomorrow for us to talk about something important he will likely make time right then and there . trust your instincts and try not to back out once youve set your time . remain centered , and calm yourself through deep breathing . confronting your boyfriend about something as loaded as cheating may feel very stressful . you may be angry or depressed . before talking with him , take a few deep breaths or talk on the phone with a friend to calm yourself . being overly stressed may cause you to attack him , which will make him defensive . the goal of confronting him is to let him know you know and find out any relevant details that have not been revealed . if you are certain he is cheating , you could say , i have evidence that you are cheating on me . this is more difficult for him to deny than your asking , are you cheating on me if you are pretty sure hes cheating , but not 100 , you could say , i believe you are cheating on me . this feels more declarative and firm than i think . pause and let him respond . it is his job to explain himself . if he denies an affair , present evidence that proves hes lying , if you have it . if you do not have firm evidence , you will need to make a difficult decision about whether you can trust him to be truthful about this or not . gather all the information you feel you need to make a decision about the future of the relationship . good questions might include how long has this been going on are you in love with her and what does this mean for you and me he may have cheated because he wanted to break up but was too cowardly , or he may be desperately seeking forgiveness for this terrible decision . either way , its important to understand whether your boyfriend has a desire to proceed with the relationship or not . if he wants to stay together that doesnt mean you need to want that , too . if you find you do want to move forward , though , youll need to understand if you have a willing partner or not . does what you learned about his cheating make you want to move forward with him dont make a decision in the heat of the moment . if he presses you for a snap decision , buy yourself some time . you could say , im not ready to make that decision right now . i need some time to think . talking long walks or talking with friends are great ways to work through your feelings . if you do not wish to move forward with the relationship , you will need to break up with your boyfriend . find a good time to talk in person . you do not need to provide an elaborate explanation or justify how you feel . you can simply end things respectfully . for example , you might say , ive thought this over , and because you cheated on me , i dont want to be in a relationship with you anymore . deliver your news in a calm way . try not to be vindictive , even if youre hurt . just because you were not treated well by your boyfriend does not mean you need to stoop to his level . if your boyfriend has violent tendencies , be sure to let a friend or relative know where you will be breaking up and when . it can also help to break up in a public place with other people around . you could say something to them like , im breaking up with mark today at 3pm in the park . if im not home by 4pm , please call the police . after your relationship ends , you may be full of mixed emotions . take some time to focus on yourself and restore your self - esteem . it may be helpful to reconnect with people and activities you enjoy that fell by the wayside during your relationship . for example , if you used to love painting , you might join a neighborhood painting class . the idea is just to connect with yourself as an individual rather than as part of your old couple . it is helpful to take all the time you need to heal before entering into a new relationship . take the time you need to strengthen your friendships and relationship with family , and learn to take care of yourself before you start a new relationship . if you decide you want to work through the cheating and continue with the relationship , it will be important to tell your boyfriend what he needs to do to gain your trust back . make a list of all the concrete actions he can take to begin repairing some of the damage hes done . for example , if the person he cheated with is someone you both know , you may need him to stop seeing them even as a friend . or lets say your boyfriends cheating got started through late night drinking . maybe he will need to come home by a given time for a month to begin making you feel as though you can trust him again . your boyfriend should understand that you might need more communication from him than usual to start building trust again . it can be helpful to have predetermined check - ins when you are apart , so you dont start to get worried . you could say to him , i know youre going out with your friends tonight . can you text me after dinner and then again when youre getting in the cab home so i know what to expect telling one another how you are feeling as you work through the aftermath of this affair will keep you connected . it will also enable him to act in a way that is considerate of your emotions going forward . if a disagreement about getting married spurred the cheating , for example , you should make an effort to discuss that part of your relationship . you might say , i understand that you felt unwanted when i rebuffed your proposal . i love you very much , and i do want to marry you one day . i just need to go slow right now , though . setting new relationship ground rules helps build trust that your boyfriend will do what he says he is going to do . this is especially critical as he is telling you he wants to recommit to the relationship . now , more than ever , he needs to prove that he will follow through on his intent . for example , if your partner cheated through an online dating site , you might set a rule that every time you come into the room and he is on the computer , you can look over his shoulder to see what hes doing . this temporary power imbalance can help you restore trust in the relationship , and his small privacy concession shows a willingness to put you first . if you and your boyfriend both want to work on the relationship but dont know where to begin , it can be helpful to have a third party mediate the difficult emotions related to cheating . a couples counselor can provide constructive feedback and exercises to do at home that will help you both build trust again . a counselor can also help you address underlying issues in the relationship that may have contributed to the cheating in the first place , too .

remove all objects or mementos that remind you of your ex . avoid contact with your ex . avoid going to places where your ex could be . avoid using the same routes at school , if possible . refrain from asking you and your exs mutual friends how he or she is doing .

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keeping these objects will only make you miss your ex more and more . for example , if you have a picture frame of a wonderful day that you had at your favorite place , you can place that frame out of your reach until youve gotten over your ex , but dont throw it away you will probably regret it in the future . you should also avoid visiting any places that remind you of your ex , whether it be a local park or the skating center . visiting these places will only make you even more depressed . if you previously maintained contact with him or her on social media , unfriendunfollow and block him or her . if you have your exs phone number , remove it from your contacts . refrain from texting , calling , emailing or using any way of keeping in touch with him or her . if you try to keep in contact with your ex , this could upset him or her , and it is not worth it since the two of you already broke up . for example , if he or she always goes to gameworks , avoid going to gameworks . if you suddenly run into your ex , it could be very awkward . if there are alternative ways of getting to class where you wouldnt have to worry about running into each other , use one of those ways . if you cant avoid your ex at any cost , remain friendly but dont say much when you see him or her . a simple hi is okay , but refrain from chatting casually on the way to class . those friends will probably not wish to discuss this topic , and asking about your ex will only make you want him or her back more .

take care of yourself . make time for your friends and family . do something you love .

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breakups often interfere with the ability to take care of yourself after a breakup , many people lose sleep , have reduced appetites and feel depressed , and some people even have suicidal thoughts . make sure you eat enough , get 7 - 8 hours of sleep , and drink enough water . your friends and family are your support network and theyd love to spend time with you hang out , talk and even plan a fun activity that all of you enjoy . this could be a valuable distraction from thoughts of your ex . whether its eating at your favorite restaurant , chatting with an old friend or taking a walk , bath or shower , doing something you love will definitely help you to enjoy your life again .

learn a new skill . exercise , try volunteering . play games . write something . travel , if you can . confront the issue . understand the problem . relinquish guilt . accept the reality . remember your own worth . find your strength . focus on yourself for awhile . find meaning in your experiences . try new things . meet new people . let yourself have fun and be happy . get help . get help forgetting a person . get help forgetting an event . work on repression and replacing memories . get more help with leaving the past behind .

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learning a new skill is a great , productive way to refocus your mind on something else . think of something that youve always wanted to learn how to do . you probably ignored it because you were too busy before , right take advantage of your new - found freedom and do that thing youve always wanted to do . exercise is another great distraction . not only will taking this opportunity to get in shape give you something else to think about , but exercise also has another important benefit it releases endorphins . endorphins are the brain chemical that help make you happy . your brain wont be able to resist feeling better volunteering is another great way to help you forget your problems . not only will you make a positive impact in your community , but youll build your confidence and your skills . stable , long - term volunteering also looks great on resumes you can volunteer at a shelter , soup kitchen , animal rescue , or for whatever cause you identify with most . gaming is a great way to not only distract yourself but multiple studies have shown that they can also teach your brain vital problem solving skills . it can also provide a safe environment in which to release feelings and express yourself , depending on what types of games you play . games like journey or flower are almost meditative in their relaxed quality . role playing games or rpgs , as gamers call them can allow you release pent - up feelings that you didnt even know you had . violent games can be a healthy way to release anger so long as you play the right ones . board games and other tabletop games , meanwhile , can be a great way to bring new people into your life and help you build new social relationships . writing can be a great way to express yourself in a healthy manner . do whatever kind of writing appeals to you and makes you feel better and more fulfilled . you can help others by improving wikihow articles . you can give yourself a great feeling of achievement by writing a book try fanfiction if youre new to creative writing . if you want to work on your emotions and dealing with them in a healthy way , you can even try keeping a journal . traveling is probably the best thing that you can do to help yourself feel better about the things that have happened to you . especially if you take challenging trips , like going to a foreign country for an extended period of time , youll find yourself proving to yourself that youre made out of tougher stuff than the sadness that you feel now . traveling , if you do it right , challenges your skills and ability to survive and the things you gain from it are things that you really need right now . you dont want to just distract yourself and forget when you have a problem though . this isnt healthy and in the long run youll have problems . confront the problem in order to bring yourself real happiness and long - lasting mental strength . start confronting the problem by analyzing it and coming to understand what happened . did you lose an important relationship did you suffer an environmental change that you resent did someone do something that hurt you figure out what problem is at the root cause of your pain . be real and honest with yourself about why exactly youre hurting , because you cant solve the problem if you cant acknowledge it . understand that the problem you had was out of your control . it doesnt matter what problem it was , believe us , it was out of your control . its impossible to control every little thing that happens . even if you made mistakes , you have to understand that everyone makes mistakes . stop blaming yourself and feeling guilty about what happened . the past is the past you cant change it . all you can do is work to make things better . stop trying to get back to what you had and instead embrace the possibilities of tomorrow . by accepting that the world is the way that it is , you can start to feel happy again . never forget that despite the things that have happened to you , despite the mistakes you might have made , you are still a good person . you can make people happy and you can to great things . you matter . dont let bad experiences take away from you the incredible things you are capable of . understand that by pulling yourself out of this sadness , you will be a better , new person on the other side . when we go through trials like this , they turn us into stronger people . people that are proven to be able to take more . you will find that if you can really overcome this problem , then you will be ready for almost anything life can throw at you in the future . when youre ready to be happy again , its a good idea to spend a little time focusing on yourself . spoil yourself , take care of yourself , and focus on making the changes that you want to make in your life . this will help give you time and opportunity to learn something about yourself and become a better person . youll always feel bitter if you are left thinking that your suffering had no purpose or that those once happy memories are now spoiled because of how things turned out . help yourself to future happiness by finding meaning in the things that happened . look for a lesson to be learned or a knowledge gained . see that your bad experiences are there to make your life better and embrace them for that . a great first step to living your new life is to try something new . this will help you feel the tangible difference between who you were then and who you are now . it will help you see your new strength . do something youve always wanted to do . do something adventurous . you can travel , take a new job , or anything else that you feel gives you new experiences . eventually , youll want to find yourself a new community . a new place to belong , a new group of friends , maybe even someone new to love if that is what you lost . these new people will also help you do new things and have new experiences to build happy memories of . you can meet new people by taking a class , joining a club , or even joining an online community . you might feel , even if you dont realize it , that if you enjoy yourself too soon or you find happiness too soon , that it diminishes the worth of the thing you lost . but that isnt true . and it keeps you from being happy . let yourself have a good time and dont feel bad about it . you do deserve to be happy . if you find that youre having trouble getting back to business as usual on your own , and that maybe your sadness might be out of control or unusual seek help dont think that getting professional help means youre weak or broken . just the same as how youd see a doctor and take medicine when you have the flu , you should get professional help when your brain doesnt quite act right . if youre trying to forget a friend , ex - boyfriend or girlfriend , lost family member or other person , there are specific things you can do to help . forget negative emotions like revenge and embrace positive emotions like happy memories . if youre trying to forget a bad memory like something embarrassing or traumatic that happened to you , the best way to go about it is to build new memories that are positive there are other things you can do , however . repression and replacing memories are two techniques that you can use if you want but use them sparingly . repression especially tends to come back to haunt us for years and years . its better to get help if you feel the need to repress a memory . an important part of forgetting about the bad things that happen to us is to work on leaving the past behind . you cant change the things that have happened but you can move forward and help your sadness mean something . dont give up . you can do it

realize that you have to forget the girl . figure out why you cant stop thinking about her . make a game plan . spend time with your family . spend time with your closest friends . spend time with other girls . make a schedule for your day . improve other aspects of your life . pursue a new interest . start dating again . try to limit your obsessive behavior .

how to forget about a girl you like

before you can start to forget the girl , you have to recognize that its time to stop thinking about her . you should stop denying that thinking about this girl is not only taking up a large chunk of your day and keeping you up at night , but that its also making you absolutely miserable . heres how to know you cant stop thinking about her if you feel like you cant go five minutes without thinking about the girl . if you only end up thinking about the girl even more whenever you try to forget her . if you compare every girl you know or meet to the one youre thinking about . if you find it impossible to be interested in other girls , even if they show an interest in you . if you find yourself obsessively writing about the girl or drawing her face . if every song you hear reminds you of her . if you cant go more than a few hours without checking the girls facebook profile or twitter feed . if you feel like youll never be happy if you cant be with the girl . once youve admitted you have a problem , you need to think about why you cant stop thinking about this particular girl . understanding the root of your problem will help you find a solution . here are some reasons why youre thinking about her you have never met such an amazing girl in your life and are convinced there is no one else like her . shes so special that you have to have her . if this is the situation , tell yourself that you will be able to meet another girl that is even more special if you have patience . you are so unhappy with so many aspects of your life that you feel that this girl will solve all of your problems and will bring you true happiness . if this is the case , you should work improving other aspects of your life , such as your health or your relationships . you think this way about every girl you like . you jump from obsessing over one girl to the next . if this is the case , your obsessive thinking may be keeping you from enjoying your life or any future relationships . youre getting over a serious relationship . if this is the case , it may be even more difficult to stop thinking about the girl , but youll be able to do it eventually . before you do , youll have to take the right steps to learn how to fix a broken heart . once youve reflected on the reasons behind your obsession with the girl , you need to create a plan to stop thinking of her . you may feel that it will never be possible to forget her , but once you develop a plan and commit to execute it , youll find that its easier than you think . here are some things to include in your plan if you havent done so already , cut off contact with the girl . if the girl is in your group of friends or in your class , try not to go out with your friends quite as much , or try to sit as far away from her as possible . but if youre only in touch with her because you keep talking to her , or if she talks to you just to taunt you , then cut things off . the less time you spend around her , the quicker you will be able to forget her . dont stalk her on social media . make a plan to stop looking at her facebook page . if you check it all the time , make a goal to check it one time less each day , until youre able to go a day , or even a few days , without checking her profile at all . you can also take more extreme measures by ending your friendship on facebook , or deactivating your facebook account all together . delete her phone number . if her number is in your phone , get rid of it . if you really need it for some reason , write it down and hide it away . at the end of each day , try to estimate how much time you spent thinking about her . make a goal to think about her for thirty minutes less each day . just note that this may be hard to track , and that if youre obsessing too much about how often youre thinking about the girl , your obsession may get worse . set a date for when you will officially forget the girl . it could be a few months , or even a year away . be patient . before you start forgetting the girl , tell yourself that this will take time , and dont get frustrated if you cant stop thinking of the girl right away , or you feel like youre thinking about her even more when you first start executing your plan . its important to spend time with as many people as possible to remind yourself that the girl of your dreams isnt the only other person in the universe . maintaining a healthy relationship with your family will keep you grounded and from heading into a tailspin of obsessive thinking . heres what you can do if you live near or with your family , offer to help out around the house . youll not only be helping your busy family members , but youll feel more useful . call home to check in as much as you can . before you do , you can even jot down a few things to discuss to make sure that you can talk about things other than the girl . if youre close with your family , ask for advice . hearing other people in your family talk about their ability to get over a past obsession will make you feel less alone , and like your goal isnt insurmountable . your closest friends can make you feel more loved and needed and can distract you from the girl youre always thinking about . spend meaningful time hanging out with your friends , or attending concerts or movies with them , in order to take your thoughts off of your girl . heres what to do find fun activities to do with your friends , such as canoeing , checking out a new restaurant , or training for a 5k together . having tangible goals to reach together will keep from brooding when youre just sitting around talking to your friends . open up to your friends . without complaining about the girl of your dreams all the time , find a way to discuss your problem and see if they have any insight . if your friends know youre going through a hard time , they will try to hang out with you more and may even force you to get out of the house . if youre feeling too upset to leave the house , ask your friends to come over . if your obsession is so debilitating on some days that you dont even want to leave the house , ask your friends to come over with a box of pizza or an old movie - - - youre guaranteed to feel better just from being around them . even if youre not yet ready to see other girls romantically , dont underestimate the power of hanging out with your close female friends , or just being around the girlfriends of your friends . heres how this can help think about what makes these particular girls so great . this will make you see that the girl youre thinking about isnt so unique . after a while , work on seeing other girls on their own terms , without comparing them to the girl you like all the time . dont underestimate the power of a rigorous schedule . theres a good chance that you cant stop obsessing over the girl because you have too much time on your hands . creating a schedule will keep you focused on what you have to accomplish and wont leave much time for idle thoughts . heres what you should do create a plan for your mornings . tell yourself that you have to go for a jog , read five newspaper articles , or accomplish another task by a certain time every morning . create a plan for your days . keep a schedule that includes time spent at work or in school , hanging out with your friends , and pursuing other interests . check your schedule to make sure you dont have a lot of down time . create a plan for your evenings . you may find that you have a lot of free time in the evenings after work or school , so make a goal to read a few chapters of a book , see a new movie , or hang out with your friends every evening so you dont end up staring at the girls facebook profile for hours instead . if youre so hung up on a girl that you can barely function , chances are that this is because other areas of your life are lacking . improving other parts of your life , such as your friendships or body image , will not only make you a happier person , but it will also take your mind off your girl . heres what to do focus on your relationships . if youre having trouble with your friends or family members , try to work them out . youll feel better because this will make you less alone . work on your health . if youre obsessing over a girl , you may not having time to focus on your health , so try to exercise at least three times a week and focus on eating three balanced meals a day . change your environment , if you can . if your room or home are in disarray because youve been too busy thinking about your girl to notice the mess , take some time to clean up or rearrange your furniture . your life will feel less cluttered , and you will be refreshed from the process . if your general environment , such as your city or workplace , is making you deeply unhappy , then maybe your obsession with the girl is only part of the problem . if you can , change where you live or what you do . if youre in an environment that constantly makes you think of the girl , changing it may be a dramatic move , but it will ease your pain . improve your ability to care for others . you may have become so focused on not having your girl that youve stopped looking at the world around you . work on being a less selfish person by reaching out to volunteer in your community , or by helping your friends or family members accomplish a task , whether its to fix a piece of furniture or paint a wall . doing anything out of your routine or comfort zone will make you feel like youre getting out of your rut . any new interest you pursue will not remind you of the girl of your dreams and will make you feel like a more dynamic person . having a new interest will also make you feel like a new - and - improved person and will give you something to look forward to . heres what you can do take up traveling . getting away from where you live can help you get out of your own head . if you cant afford to take a vacation , plan to take some weekend trips and invite your friends along . express yourself . take singing , improv , or dancing lessons . this will help you release your emotions and will also just be fun . get hooked on a new writer . lost love is a favorite topic in good literature , and if you discover a new writer who echoes your thoughts , you will feel less alone . reading will make you a more interesting person - - - just make sure that reading doesnt make you feel more isolated . if youre reading a book , taking it to a park or a library so youre surrounded by people . once you feel healthy enough to start dating other girls , its time to put yourself out there . you can start dating again by asking out a new girl you like , asking friends to set you up , or creating an online dating profile . heres what to do start slowly . when you go on a first date with a new girl you like , take it easy and have fun . work on having a good time and be serious only when the time comes . dont talk about your old obsession . your new girl will be turned off , and you may look like a person with obsessive tendencies . remind yourself that youre not likely to have the same feelings for the first new girl you try dating , but reward yourself for trying . its wonderful that youre ready to move on , but you should work to make your next relationship different from the one you previously had with the girl you couldnt stop thinking about . try to break the cycle of obsession and despair in the following ways dont get too attached right away . though its important to open yourself up to love and you can appreciate a new girl , try not to think about her all the time , or youll get hurt if the relationship ends . dont replace obsessing with one girl with obsessing with another , because you wont feel any better . keep busy and active even if you found someone you really like . even if you feel that you were able to forget the previous girl and truly like the new girl youre with , make sure to maintain a busy , active life and fit the new girl in it . if you devote all of your time to the new girl , youre setting yourself up for heartbreak . if it feels right , open yourself to love . as long as youre not being obsessive , its okay to love again after a while . you shouldnt be so worried about not getting attached that youre unable to have strong feelings again .

allow yourself to feel bad . talk about it . let your friends take care of you immediately after the breakup . write about it . dont blame yourself . distract yourself .

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emotion - focused coping is important to dealing with a breakup . this means allowing yourself to feel grief , sadness , and anger . these are normal and natural emotions that are felt after a relationship ends . give yourself the time to grieve and recover , at your pace . take care of your own emotional needs . if you want to stay a home and cry in your bed , do so . one way to accept your emotions is to tell yourself , it is okay for me to feel bad right now . im going through a difficult time . getting in touch with your emotions and tolerating distress is about accepting the emotion without judging it or necessarily trying to change it . sit with the emotion and observe how it feels . what do you feel in your body this information can indicate how you are feeling and help you process your feelings in a healthy way . your overall perception of social support can help you throughout the process of healing from a breakup . processing your feelings out loud with trusted individuals can help with emotional healing not to mention the support youll feel from others that care about you . it is important to acknowledge that youre hurting bottling it up may result in a melt - down later . ask a friend to come over and support you during this time . you could stay in your pajamas and watch a movie . use this time to connect with your friend and discuss your feelings regarding the breakup . go out for coffee or bite to eat with a family member . a lot of times , your friends will want to keep you busy and help you feel better . let them if you feel up to it . distraction is a great way to temporarily feel better after a breakup . additionally , your need for intimacy may be stronger after a breakup . creative and expressive writing is a very useful tool in processing emotions and thoughts related to a breakup . write down your thoughts and feelings about the breakup on a word document or journal . avoid status updates , blogs , or other online posts because these can leave you feeling exposed . you could write a letter to your ex that you never send . tell him how you feel . let your anger out . you dont have to worry about his reaction if you dont send the letter . individuals that blame themselves for a breakup may end up experiencing distress , anxiety , depression and reduced health outcomes . individuals who do not blame themselves are able to process their emotions better and look at negative events from the past more realistically . instead of blaming yourself or thinking negatively , forgive yourself for any mistakes or transgressionsfirst analyze what you think you might have done wrong . you could write these down if you wish . then , go through each item and say or think to yourself , this was a mistake and i forgive myself for it . i did not want it to turn out this way and i know what i did was wrong . i will work toward not continuing to make this mistake in the future . sometimes when people split up they make ruminate over the relationship , thinking , what could i have done better am i not good enoughhowever , this may lead to more distress and less emotional adjustment . avoid re - playing the situation in your mind over and over again , and thinking about what you could have done to fix the situation . if you find yourself doing this , distract yourself with an activity or think about something else . you can also remind yourself that you may not have been able to do anything , and you could not have predicted the outcome . avoid social media such as facebook . it can be difficult to avoid cyber - stalking your ex and will social media will not serve as a useful distraction if it constantly reminds you of your ended relationship . one study showed that people who looked at their exes on facebook had higher distress and longer for their ex - partner . be busy and pack your social calendar full with activities and events . try new things and rekindle old friendships .

focus on yourself . identify the positive consequences . learn from your mistakes .

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new relationships can cause you to expand your sense of self because you adapt to another person . however , after a breakup it can be difficult to regain your unique identity and make sense of your daily activities . so , work on redefining yourself and celebrate your individuality and uniqueness . some people can get a sense of freedom after a relationship ends , use this feeling to your advantage and explore new activities . explore activities that you previously liked but were too busy to engage in . get a new haircut or style . many people find that breakups , while hurtful and difficult , produce positive results in the end . identifying some of the positives outcomes of the breakup may help you feel less sad or angry . for example perhaps the breakup helped you focus more on school , work , or other obligations . some people feel that breakups allow them to have more freedom . you may also have personal positive outcomes from the breakup such as more confidence , self - reliance , and self - acceptance . in addition to environmental and personal outcomes , you might also have gained more communication skills throughout the relationship and learned valuable relationship skills i . e . learning to admit when youre wrong . some breakups occur due to lack of satisfaction within the relationship , inadequate personal investment , or perception of alternatives theres plenty of fish in the sea mentality . people are more likely to break up if they have a strong social support system outside of the relationship . for example , individuals may be more likely to breakup if they are unsatisfied or not respected . attempt to identify things that you could have done better , but dont beat yourself up . view the relationship as a growing opportunity that will help you navigate future relationships . try to reflect think logically instead of ruminate getting caught up in negative thinking .

decide if you want to be friends . get space . get rid of things that remind you of your ex . be polite and brief if you bump into each other again . hold on to your good memories .

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individuals who are friends before a relationship are more likely to remain friends after a breakup . you will be less likely to remain friends if you completely withdraw from the person after the breakup . however , you may need this time to get space and be alone . though you may wish to stay friends , you may have an easier time getting over your ex if you dont see and talk to him . for now , it can be helpful to remove him from your facebook friend list , delete his number from your phone , and avoid hanging out with him . if your ex wants to stay friends , let him know that youre going to need time and that youll contact him when youre ready . it may be easier to get space to grieve if you are not reminded of your ex by everything around you . letting go of the physical and digital may help you let go emotionally too . for example , if he left a toothbrush at your place , throw it out . seeing it every morning could trigger negative feelings for you and color your day . if there is something that shouldnt be thrown away or given to charity , give it to a mutual friend to give back . delete or toss away the photos if you wish . if you want , you can save the photos of yourself using photoshop or some other editing program to carve out your image without your partner . delete your exs number from your phone . if you need his number , delete every message or voicemail from him––a clean slate it only hurts you to turn the breakup into an ongoing fight . if it is too painful to address your ex at this point , try to exit the situation so that you can avoid talking to him . setting boundaries is an important component of the healing process . if you dont want to talk to him , you dont have to . if you do decide to speak to him , acknowledge him politely and smile . be respectful . aggressive speech such as saying , i hate you or behaviors , such as throwing objects at your ex , do not solve problems . just because the relationship has ended doesnt mean you have to erase it from your life . it is likely that the person you had a relationship with had a big impact on you and your life , and you can cherish those changes . this is especially helpful if you have a lot of anger and resentment toward your ex . focusing on the positive may be able to assist you in positively coping and gaining closure from the relationship . forgive your ex for his mistakes . harboring resentment only makes you feel worse and stunts the healing process . you dont have to tell him face - to - face or even on the phone , you can forgive him in your heart and this is just as effective . avoid ruminating over the happy times . this can lead to longing and prolong your grief process .

make a relationship log . look for relationship patterns . express your emotions . nurture yourself . grieve the loss . put away reminders . disconnect on social media . focus on the present moment . take up hobbies . seek support from others . meet new people . take a vacation . see a therapist , if necessary . feel gratitude .

how to forget about someone important

if youre trying to forget someone , a good way to start is logging the relationship . recording your feelings about the relationship as honestly as possible can help you understand why it ended in a more objective sense . if you lost someone due to death , logging the relationship can allow you to grieve and feel a sense of closure . regarding a broken romantic relationship or a relationship with a friend or family member that fell apart , try and be as objective as possible when recording your relationship . be honest about how you felt around this person . were you happy or did they make you feel uncomfortable was the relationship stable were there any signs of instability you may have missedif youre commemorating a lost loved one , write about a happy memories . what will you miss about this person what are the best times you had together how do you feel about moving forward review your relationship log after writing it . seeing the relationship recorded in its entirety can allow you to have the objectivity needed to move forward . after logging about your relationship , take some time to look for patterns . consider the full scope of your life and any other relationships youve had . are there types of people you tend to get involved with do you befriend people who have a negative impact on you are there reasons for your choices that relate to your personality while reviewing your past relationships , consider some of the following questions . how did the relationship or friendship start who pursued whom were you the active or passive party in the early stages of the relationship who was more dominant as the relationship progressed who made choices about how you would spend your time did you feel like you had adequate say in how things happened when you were this person were you ever pushed to do something that made you uncomfortable emotionally , how did you feel in the relationship happy stressed depressed anxious bored did you feel like your needs were being met emotionally why or why notwhy did the relationship end , who made the decision to end it , and how did you feel in the aftermath , in the early stages of trying to forget someone , you need to be able to express your pain . while you might want to ignore negative feelings , you need to acknowledge them at some point . this way , you can figure out why you are hurting . write a letter to yourself . keep a journal . talk to a friend or therapist . be as overt as possible as to what you are feeling and why . get everything out of your system . you may end up crying . this is okay . its important to purge your emotions in order to move forward . take responsibility as well . in most cases , the reasons a relationship ended do not solely fall on one person . try to see , objectively , if theres anything you could have done differently . do not beat yourself up but just try to learn and understand a bit about yourself . using the broken relationship as a learning experience can help you move forward . once youve examined your relationships and dealt with your emotions , take care of yourself . in the wake of loss , we often let self care rituals fall to the wayside . strive to make sure this does not happen with you . keep up with good sleeping , eating , exercise , and personal hygiene habits . it may be difficult to want to maintain a self care ritual when mourning a relationships end , but its important that you find a way to stay strong and move forward . do something nice for yourself . watch a movie you like . take a hot bath . order take out . spend time with friends . find a healthy way to treat yourself . emotionally and physically , you need care in the wake of a relationship loss . you cannot force yourself to forget someone prematurely . take as much time as you need to adequately grieve as theres no prescribed timeframe over which you should be over someone . if possible , perform some kind of grieving ritual . this can help you gain closure . as rituals are driven by intent and action , many people feel empowered by engaging in them . some people like to burn old items and mementos . if youre mourning a loss through death , writing letters to the deceased and placing them near a gravesite can help . pick a ritual thats meaningful to you and seems like it would help you move on . if youre looking to forget someone , you need to get rid of reminders . go through your home and find anything that reminds you of the person you lost pictures , dvds , presents , certain foods , souvenirs . if youre not comfortable throwing things out , try storing them in a box and have a friend hold onto them until youre ready to fully let go . do an electronic purge too . delete music off your electronic library that reminds you of this person . delete any pictures of him or her you have saved . if the person is your facebook friend , chat pal , or any other type of technological contact , remove or block himher . it will not be helpful to see constant updates from this person . additionally , if you want to forget the person , reducing avenues for communication is a key place to start . removing the temptation of chatting on facebook or twitter can really help you move on . a good way to forget is to find ways to keep your mind focused on the present . ruminating over the past makes it near impossible to forget a loved one . try and remember that you cannot undo the past . the only thing you have the power to change is the present moment . go forward with the intent of making today the best day possible . some people find using a conscious cue helps . for example , when you find yourself lingering on the past stop and say , that was then , this is now , i want to focus on my own happiness . meditation , yoga , and exercise are all great means to keep your mind focused on the present . try signing up for a local gym or enrolling in a yoga or meditation class . hobbies can be a great way to distract yourself and focus on moving forward with your life . try a new video game , take up knitting , join a local sports league , or start doing crossword puzzles . anything you can do to help you stay in the present and move forward can be really helpful to forgetting someone and moving forward . after ending a relationship or friendship , it is important to spend time with other people . it will help keep your thoughts on other things and less on that person . make plans with your existing social network . go out to a bar for drinks . meet someone for coffee . have friends over for a movie night . do not hesitate to reach out to people you havent seen in awhile . get on the phone with a family member you do not talk to often . see if an old classmate is free to grab dinner sometime . catching up with people youve neglected during a relationship is a great way to help you forget and move forward . if the person youre trying to forget is in your social group , it will help to branch out . find a way to meet new acquaintances . you might consider volunteering somewhere . many people meet new friends through shared interests . find a cause you care about and get involved . not only will this help give you a sense of purpose when youre feeling emotionally vulnerable , it will allow you the opportunity to meet likeminded people . the website meet up is a great way to make new friends . the site allows different groups and people to make plans based on a set of interests . you enter your information and a bit about yourself and a variety of groups , catered to your interests , will show up in your interest will surface . if it is feasible financially and time - wise , leave town for a few days . you might take a short flight to a nearby city or just drive into the country . seek new sights and make new memories . being in a new environment can help clear your thoughts . if youre unable to take a long break , even a weekend across town can help you leave unwanted , troubling thoughts behind and allow you to move forward . if youre stuck in a rut and cant forget someone , therapy can help . negative feelings associated with the end of a relationship can be addressed by a skilled therapist . ask your general practitioner for a referral to a therapist or see whats covered under your insurance . if youre a student , you may be entitled to free counseling through your college or university . once youve taken some time to actively work on forgetting , try and feel gratitude for what was lost . it seems counterintuitive , but finding ways to appreciate the good times can actually help you gain closure and forget . if youre grieving a loss through death , feel grateful you were close to someone for as long as you were . allow yourself to happily experience the good times . if youre mourning the end of a relationship , do not forget the positives . even if you and your ex werent right for each other , be grateful you got to experience love . if a friendship has dissolved , remember a great trip you took together and feel thankful for the memories .

try to find someone else that you like . dont listen to any slow songs or love songs . you will just miss her more . if you are friends with her , make it clear to yourself that friendship is all she wants . be sensitive to her , but not overly . there are other women , who will accept you , go out and have some fun . dont cry over a girl who doesnt like you . do not let yourself think that youre not attractive , or that you will never find someone better . if she has a myspace , facebook , etc , avoid her page . dont have her within your top 510etc , unless you are practically best friends . try not to look at her . if you start to think about her , then think about someone else . dont call or im her a lot . unless you have a legit reason , just dont calltext her . dont look at her as the most important person in your life . say no to her once in a while . if you are a student forget her because it could affect your mental health , which will directly affect your exams . there are billions of women in the world , one tiny fish in the sea is not going to make your life worse , you have to be confident in your self and realize that you have the guts to move on . wasting your time with her is going to make your life worse , realize that she is nothing anymore . listen to music , go workout or run , go do a sport you can take your frustration out on ex wrestling , boxing , hockey etc . hang out with your guy friends only guys and go out and have a good time . dont fight with the boyfriend . dont reminisce about the old times try not to get kicked out because of her dont write songs about her anymore find a new best friend dont go to the things that remind you of her like . ice cream you used to buy for her , your favorite shows , things you used to do together . never regret yourself that you loved her . dont think that you are a failure in love . stop thinking of what could have been , it will drive you crazy tell yourself she wasnt good enough for you . try to stay away from your crush if you both work in the same office .

how to forget about a girl you love who has a boyfriend

this might take a while and you shouldnt force yourself to like someone right away . in this position of depression , you are very vulnerable to emotional attacks . just go with the flow and avoid her . go different ways . , she has her boyfriend because she likes him youll just be digging a deeper hole for yourself . go for it . theres plenty of fish in the sea . dont just stay at home thinking about what shes doing with the boyfriend . , there is always someone better . seeing her and her boyfriend there will just hurt . shell just be suspicious . , thats just not cool . , after all , your degree is more important . , it will only make the situation between you and the girl worse . if you fight , one of you might get injured whether or not you fought . it may lead to having the authorities called andor a restraining order , be careful , maybe shes not lucky enough to have a guy like you . , if you find this difficult , consider relocating if the option is available .