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discuss the reason for the break with your boyfriend . listen to your boyfriends concerns , reasons and thoughts . reach an agreement on what this break means for both of you . discuss what will change in the relationship and what will stay the same . consider deciding how long the break will be . once the break starts , follow the rules you agreed on . stay busy . invest more time in doing work or studying . devote more time and energy to doing things that make you happy . be more social . re - connect with old friends you may have neglected . avoid spending too much time by yourself . consider avoiding hanging out in situations with a bunch of couples . catch up now and then . be honest with your boyfriend about your questions and concerns . use assertive statements when expressing yourself . consider how you feel after the break . think about how you will react if you wish to continue with the relationship but he doesnt . think about how you will react if both of you wish to resume the relationship .

how to feel better when youre on a break from your boyfriend

its no good shouting its time we had a break from each other and then storming off . the decision to take a break in a relationship is a really tough one and if you dont take it together , in a calm and considered manner , it bodes ill for the outcome . find a moment to sit down together and be honest with one another . talk about what has brought both of you to this point and why you think a break would be a healthy option right now . do not interrupt or fob off his worries . you both need to hear each other clearly , without passing judgment . this is about setting the ground rules and your hopes for reconciliation post - break . it is an important time to reassure each other that this is about clearing your heads , determining what you both want from the future and being absolutely sure about getting back together . set ground rules you can both agree on . for most people , it is not an excuse to fool around its important to make that clear . determine how each of you will deal with approaches from other people who find out youre on a break that will help to quell the anxiety that a new relationship might be inserted into the space . what changes do you think will be needed what changes does your boyfriend want reach a happy compromise in relation to each others wants . what will stay the same without feeling awkward or uncomfortable will you continue to talk to one another face - to - face will you use social media to stay in touch will you take a complete break from communicating with each other will you set times to catch up and review how things are going you need to face these questions now , and not just wander off blindly in the hope that things will resolve themselves as the break takes place . things unsaid have a way of turning into confirmation that whatever you or he wants goes . it could be a week , a month , six months , etc . alternatively , you may prefer no set time , just subject to review and mutual agreement some time down the track . , create an activity list . this will give you an opportunity to look forward to each new day that approaches , instead of pacing and worrying about if he will call . it is important to learn that your life should never revolve around one single person . that only sets you up to be devastated if they end up wanting a break up . this can be your time to shine academically or professionally . , meet new people and try new things . , that said , learn to tell the difference between loneliness and solitude . solitude is the time for you to reflect about your future , your wishes for the relationship and to consider your feelings about the break . use times of solitude to write your journal , write out your feelings and prepare lists of issues you want to raise with your boyfriend . if you feel like the odd one out , you may end up losing your nerve and feeling awful . you might also make poor decisions based on what everyone else has it is best to hang around with people in all sorts of different stages of life . youll both need to reassess the direction things are going from time to time , so its important to talk at least for the purposes of determining how both of you are feeling about the future . this could be a two - weekly , monthly or even quarterly meet - up . choose what suits both of you . try not to rush things though give each other sufficient time to have done some good thinking before discussing what next . keep notes about the things that occur to you while contemplating the future of your relationship together . it can feel overwhelming when you get back to together and you may forget to raise some of the key issues that you really want addressed . suggest that he does the same thing , so that you can compare notes and not leave the important things left unsaid . for example i feel when you , and i would appreciate it if you would , instead of . whether youve set a deadline or youve mutually agreed that its time to decide what next , you must be honest with yourself . do you want the relationship to resume or has the break changed your perspective and you think that itd be best if the two of you just stayed friends be careful of feelings of loyalty . while its noble to be loyal , this isnt the reason for staying with someone when the fire has died out . you can transfer the loyalty to a friendship . be aware of his feelings but be careful not to let these take over your own feelings . for example , he is really sad and disappointed that youve decided not to resume the relationship , avoid feeling obliged to resume it just because of his sadness . it will pass . since this is a real possibility , and you have probably harbored a lot of fantasy notions about things going back to the way they were , it can be a real whammy . what is really important is to use the break to reach acceptance that this is as much a possible outcome as resuming the relationship . consider what you will do if you do break up for real and you will need to move forward . this is where the keeping busy and resuming your other social linkages comes to the foreplay it will hurt to know things arent going on but youre not being thrown back into a void . rather , you have friends , family and your own pursuits to fall back into . this will be a challenge too , because the time apart was spent thinking things through and possibly reaching conclusions you hadnt wanted to face before . it is really important to talk about what feelings you had during the break , how these have changed your perspective and what changes you want to bring to the relationship and into the future . listen to his changed perspective too . seek to incorporate each others different perspectives into a new and refreshed relationship .

feel the pain . talk to someone . let your tears out . change your thinking . appreciate what you had . tell them goodbye . pour your grief into a creative project . eat well . get enough rest . get out and exercise . exercise will keep you feeling better overall , and it will help keep your energy up . skip the alcohol . do things you enjoy . be kind to your other friends . determine what you want in new friends . make new friends .

how to feel better after a friendship breakup

sometimes , we think friendships arent as important as other relationships , such as romantic ones or familial ones . you may feel like you dont have the right to grieve when a friend drops out of your life . nonetheless , your friends are vital to your well - being , and you are friends with the people in your life for a reason . when you lose one of those friends , youre going to need to grieve that persons lose in your life , just as if youd broke up with a boyfriend or girlfriend . if you try to avoid the pain , youll just hold on to it for much longer . by acknowledging that you are sad , you can grieve and start the process of moving on . your other friends and your family are there to help you out . when youre going to through a hard time , its good to lean on your friends and family . they can lend an ear to hear you out or just be a safe place where you can cry . dont be afraid to ask people for help . it can be helpful to talk to a therapist about the breakup , especially if the person has been your friend for a long time . its a natural tendency to want to be strong and to not cry too much . however , crying is a natural release of emotion , and its important to let yourself feel that emotion . yes , you eventually need to move on . right now , though , youre hurting , and crying is a part of releasing that hurt . you may find yourself thinking some irrational thoughts right now . for instance , you might be saying to yourself , i dont think i can live without this person in my life . or i must have something wrong with me if my friend doesnt want to be friends with me anymore . the key is to change these statements in your head . tell yourself , i can create a new life without this person . i dont need her to go on living . i do need food , water , and air , but i dont need one person . or i dont have anything wrong with me . were just in different places . take a moment to think about the good the person brought into your life . consider the ways she made your life better , and think about the good memories you had together . despite whats happening now , recognizing that the person brought good into your life can help you to move on . you dont actually need to see the person again for this step , but you do need to find some way to say goodbye to the person to help yourself move on . it will help give you the closure you need . one way you can do this step is to write a letter to the person . you dont have to send it , just write it , telling the person all the things you left unsaid and saying goodbye . you can also have a conversation as if the person was there . say all the things aloud that you wanted to say to the person while you were still friends . you dont have to be an artist to use art to help you heal . doing something creative helps channel your grief into something physical . try painting or drawing what youre feeling or even going to an art therapy class . it doesnt have to be good art . it simply has to be a representation of what youre feeling . dont think too much about what youre going to paint or draw . just start doing it , letting your emotions take you where they will . make sure you are getting your fruits and veggies . also , make sure you are eating on a regular schedule . dont forget to include some healthy proteins , low - fat dairy , and whole grains . not eating healthy will just make you feel worse . make sure you are getting enough sleep at night . you should be getting at least 7 to 8 hours at night and even more if youre younger . if youre not getting enough sleep , youre going to feel even more upset and anxious . it also releases endorphins , which naturally makes you feel better . try for 150 minutes of aerobic exercise a week . one way to get your exercise in is to take a walk at lunch . the sunlight will also help boost your mood . alcohol may numb the pain for a moment , but it could lead to a longer addiction . plus , it doesnt allow you to face the pain like you need to do . if you love painting , spend time painting . if you enjoy going to the movies , do that . go out with your other friends and enjoy the people who are still in your life . that is , if you have mutual friends , dont make them pick a side . in fact , try not to say anything negative about the friend you broke up with around mutual friends . it will only drive a wedge between you and your other friends . now that youve had this experience , you can be clearer about what you want in a friend . if you broke up with your friend because the relationship was bad for your mental well - being , consider the qualities that made it bad , and what would be better in new friends . for instance , maybe your friend wasnt trustworthy or didnt respect your boundaries . when youre making new friends , you need to make sure youre not choosing people who are going to cause the same problems . if youre going to make new friends , you need to put yourself out there . talk to people in the coffee shop . join local clubs that feature your hobbies . take a class at your local community college . try to meet new people everywhere you go . you cant just go to these events . you have actually talk to people and try to get to know them .

figure out what youre going to say . do it in person if you care at all . pick the right time . pick the right place . stay cool when you ask her to meet up . cut to the chase . let her see that youre hurt too . let her talk . explain as much as you want . stick to your word . dont be a jerk . keep it short and sweet . try to end on a positive note .

how to dump girls

if you care about the girl at all , then you owe it to her to spend some time finding a way to give her the bad news as nicely as possible . if you dont plan ahead at all , then you may accidentally end up hurting her even more , confusing her , or just sounding like a jerk without meaning to . you dont have to rehearse every word , but you should have a sense of what youre going to say to end the relationship and what reason youre going to give for doing it . here are some things you can say im really sorry , but i just dont think things are working out between us . i feel like were becoming different people and cant find a way to make it work . this is really hard for me to say , but i think we should end our relationship . i know we both have been unhappy for a while because were not really compatible , and we both need to move on . this relationship just isnt working out anymore . ive been spending so much time at work and youve been so busy with your other friends that we havent made our time together a priority . i think its too late to turn back from that . avoid anything like , well , im kinda bored of you . or , ive found someone else . if the girl means anything at all to you , then do her the courtesy of breaking up with her in person . if you dump her over text or email , then youll always be the jerk who couldnt build up the courage to dump his girlfriend like a man . though youll feel a momentary relief when you press that send button , the repercussions of your actions wont be worth taking the easy way out . give the girl a chance to hear you out and to have a conversation about the breakup . if you care about her , then youll want her to have a real chance to get some closure . the only reason you shouldnt break up with the girl in person is if youre in a long distance relationship and wont be seeing each other for a while . in this case , its better to do it over the phone than to wait until the next time you see each other . theres no perfect time to break up with someone . no matter what , the person will be upset , stressed out , and possibly angry . however , you can minimize the damage a bit by making sure youre picking a time when the girl has nothing going on afterwards , and when you know she wont be incredibly stressed because of a huge testbig gameimportant interview the next day . if you pick a time when shes less likely to be stressed , then youll make it easier for her to get the message . if shes constantly stressed and has a lot going on at all times , dont let this delay you from breaking up with her for too long - - just try to find a day when shes less stressed than usual , if you can . your first priority is picking a quiet , isolated place where youre not likely to run into anyone you know . after that , just try not to pick a place that means a lot to you , like the bench where you shared your first kiss or your favorite restaurant . breaking up with her in a place that is meaningful for your relationship will only worsen the pain . just pick a place that is quiet , neutral , and as unromantic as possible . if you take her for a long walk through a rose garden or on a beach , then yeah , the break up will take her by surprise . dont act too serious or sad when you ask her if shes free later . just keep your cool and ask if shell be around later . you can say , theres something i want to talk to you about , but thatll make it pretty obvious that you have some bad news to deliver , so if you can , keep it a bit vague . this doesnt mean you should catch her by surprise completely , but that you shouldnt upset her too much before the conversation or shell want to have the talk on her terms then and there , and you may not be prepared . you can say something nice or make small talk first , but theres no use in prolonging the pain . after a minute or two , once you and the girl have settled in , you should just tell her that you want to end the relationship . the longer you sit there , the more nervous youll get , and the more likely you are to get off track . if you and the girl make small talk for twenty minutes before you break up with her , then youll be much more likely to confuse her . just take a deep breath and tell her that its over as nicely as possible . here are some things that you can say im sorry to say that i think our relationship has run its course . wed both be happier if we moved on . this relationship is no longer working for me . i know weve tried everything , and it just wont get better . it may not be a surprise that i havent been happy in this relationship for a while . i really care about you , but i just dont think we should date anymore . if you really dont care at all , then theres no point in faking it . but if the break up really is hurting you , then make sure she sees it . look into her eyes , talk slowly , and let her see the pain on your face . most people dont think that the person doing the dumping also feels pain in a break up , but both people actually suffer . if she sees that youre not making an easy , careless decision that means nothing to you , then shell have a better chance of understanding where youre coming from . if you care about the girl , give her the respect she deserves and let her tell you how she feels , ask questions , and share her feelings . she may just want to cry and be upset , and thats okay . she may start name - calling and getting angry - - in that case , you may need to wrap things up . if shes rambling on about the same thing over and over , then you can cut her off , but if she genuinely wants to share her feelings and is really hurt , then do her the kindness of letting her talk to you . shell likely have some questions for you , and you can decide how much you want to explain . if youve fallen in love for someone else or realized that the girl youre with is just totally boring , you can do her a favor and not tell her as much . but if you do feel like she deserves an honest explanation of what really went wrong , then you can answer her questions and explain the breakup in more detail . just remember that you only have to tell the girl what youre comfortable with , and the more you say , the more pain you may cause . find a balance between being honest and protecting the girl . really , shell just be asking a different version of why over and over once you feel like you can no longer give her new information , it may be time to wrap things up . you came there to dump the girl , so dont leave there deciding to be together but to work things out , promising her that you just want to take a break for a month , or saying that you should still date but have an open relationship . the girl may break you down by how cute , sad , or just how gosh darn persistent she is , but you cant let her change your original game plan . if you decided to dump her , then you must have had a good reason , so stick to it . this is why you should keep the conversation as short as possible . the longer youre out there , the more likely you are to have a change of heart . dont ruin your reputation by being a jerk to the girl or going on a date with her best friend . even if she did something to hurt you or youre just plain sick of her , theres no need to be extra mean or just to hurt her feelings because you dont feel like dating anymore . you want her to leave with a relatively good impression of you , and for her not to tell all of the girls she knows that you should be avoided at all costs . if you feel some nasty words coming up , bite your tongue . the less time you spend on the conversation , the better . once youve said your part and have her say what she wants to say , then theres no need to sit around together , feeling sad and letting those feelings of nostalgia bubble up . this will only cause you more pain , cause you to rethink what youve done , and leave you feeling even more sad and confused . you shouldnt dump the girl and then just walk away , but if you feel like youve both said everything you need to say and that youre both just repeating yourselves , then tell the girl you need to go . if you really think the girl will try to drag it on , come up with a reasonable excuse for leaving in advance . though the girl wont walk away thinking youre the greatest guy on the planet , you should have her leave without thinking that youre a horrible person . say goodbye like a gentleman , say something nice , and try to smile . if youre inside , hold the door for her when you leave . dont walk away after flinging insults at her , or that will stick with her . you want her to leave the relationship with a somewhat positive impression , dont you

let your emotions loose . dont force yourself to be social . take time to think about your relationship .

how to fix a broken heart 1

theres no shame in having a broken heart . if you hold back your feelings , your grieving period will last longer and youll feel worse . in the beginning , its okay to be honest and open about your feelings . when youre alone , cry as much as you want to . try not to cry too much in public , but if you cant help it , dont be embarrassed . be honest with your friends and family by telling them youre having a rough time . theres no point in being in denial about how awful you feel . write all of your sad thoughts in your journal . youll feel better after getting them off your chest . its okay to be honest about your emotions to yourself and the people who care the most about you , but do not take your grief to social media . dont post on your facebook or twitter account about how sad you are or how awful you feel after your breakup . telling people you barely know about your deepest feelings will embarrass them and you , and this will be something you deeply regret in the future . making time for mourning means not seeing your ex . dont try to prove how tough or okay with it you are by having a weekly dinner with your ex , or texting your ex when something reminds you of him or her . unless you live together or need to be in contact for logistical reasons , such as getting your stuff back from his or her apartment , cut off contact as much as you can . this will help you heal much quicker . you can try to be friends with your ex when youre ready , but it wont always work . if youve had a really devastating break - up , you dont have to force yourself to go out every night right afterwards . making yourself go out into the world and interact with your friends , or even strangers , before youre truly ready will only make your pain worse . heres what to do if you dont feel like going to big , loud parties for a little while , stay at home and do something fun there instead . if you and your ex run in the same circles , try to avoid any events that he might be attending for a while unless you really think you can act cool about it . avoid excessive social drinking . if you are out , it may not be the best time to drink heavily . this will bring your emotions to the surface and you may be having a public outburst . while you dont have to be social , make sure not to isolate yourself . make time to invite your best friend over for a movie , talk to your parents on the phone , or email with your closest friend who lives across the country . after the first week or two , once youre starting to get your thoughts together , its time to reflect on the relationship and on the person who broke your heart . heres what to do write down all of the positive things you gained from the relationship , such as a higher self - confidence , a love for hiking , and a better ability to communicate . write down the negative things about your relationship . maybe your relationship kept you from concentrating on your friendships , or you spend too much time thinking about your significant other instead of yourself . write down the qualities of the person who broke your heart . recognize that the person has great traits but is a flawed human being . the more negative qualities you can generate , the better . write down all the other times when youve felt like you could possibly never love again , only to find that you found an even stronger , deeper love the next time . dont worry if this is the first time youve felt this way .

spend time with your family . spend time with your close friends . get back in touch with long - lost friends .

how to fix a broken heart 2

once youve given yourself enough time to mourn your relationship , its time to slowly ease back into the world . your family members should be some of the most accepting and loving people in your life , and they will be for you when youre trying to fix your broken heart . heres what to do try to see your family as much as you can . if your family members live far away , this could be a good time to take a week - long vacation to see them . if cant see your family members , talk to them . let them know how youre feeling and let them comfort you . if theres something you used to love doing with your family , such as baking pies or watching football on sundays , pick that up again if you can . ask your family members for advice . though your family members may love you so much that they may say anything to make you feel better , ask them about how to deal with a broken heart . though your family may have known you the longest , your close friends may have the best understanding of you and your relationship . theyve probably met your significant other , have heard you discuss your problems , and have a helpful perspective . heres how to do it once you feel up to it , try to hang out with your close friends as often as you can . even if you feel like youre being a drag , your close friends will make you laugh and will take your mind off of your recent heartbreak . use this as an opportunity to take the fun friend trip you and your friends have been talking about forever . whether youre flying to mexico or just driving to a new beach , sometimes a change of scenery with your closest friends can help you feel less broken . just be plain silly . invite your friends to an 80s - themed sleepover or a dance party . just dont forget that your friends have their limits and their patience can wear thin . if you spend all of your time together whining and crying about your broken heart , they may not pick up the next time you call . hanging out with your closest friends will help the healing process , but try to avoid hanging out with too many couples . even if your couple friends make a point of not being extra lovey around you , you may still feel left out and even more alone if youre surrounded by people who are in love . you can talk to your friends about your breakup , but stop when youve gone over the same scenario so many times that youre not getting anywhere and its making you sick . this can actually make you feel worse . if you were in a committed relationship for a long time , then chances are that you left a few friends by the wayside because you didnt have enough time to pursue your relationship along with so many friendships . heres what you can do if you found out that an old friend from high school or college just moved into your neighborhood , dont be afraid to get in touch . you can reconnect and find that your relationship is even stronger than ever . if you stopped talking to a close friend a while after she moved away from you , use this time to call her up and see how shes doing . you will find that youve missed many things about your relationship . if one of your old friends moved abroad , write him or her a letter . this will help you reconnect and reflect in the process .

improve your self - esteem . pursue a new interest . learn to love being alone . do something you werent able to do during your relationship .

how to fix a broken heart 3

after your broken heart , you may be feeling down on yourself . even if theres no reason for this , you need to work to make yourself feel good again in whatever way possible . here are some great ways to improve how you feel about yourself pamper yourself . get that overdue haircut , go in for a pedicure and manicure , or even buy a new outfit or two . feeling better about how you look can go a long way in helping you feel better about yourself overall . feel better about your body . while you dont have to hit up the gym like a maniac , running in the sun , taking a pilates class , or eating three balanced meals will make you feel better physically , which will help put your mind at ease . be helpful . volunteer at your local library or community center , or help one of your friends work on her garden . youll feel better about yourself if you feel that you can help people in the world . now that youre riding solo , you may find that you have more time on your hands . theres no better occasion than to pursue a new interest . pick something youve always wanted to do , or something completely random and fun . here are some ideas learn a new language . this will improve your memory , your ability to land a great job , and will make you a more interesting person . join a new sports league . join a local soccer , basketball , or beach volleyball team . you may discover a new talent and will make great friends in the process . take an art class . find out if you have a knack for pottery , oil painting , or ceramics . take an improv class . develop your funny side and your ability to laugh no matter what . though you shouldnt spend too much time brooding by yourself , you should avoid running around with so many things to do that you dont have a moment for some quality me time . its likely that you didnt get enough time alone during your relationship . alone time should be something you look forward to , not dread . heres what you can do express yourself . sketch , write poetry , or even try your hand at a short story . just avoid only writing or creating art about your ex . develop your love for literature . try to read a book a week and really think about what it means . if this makes you feel too isolated , join a book club . make time to take walks for at least 20 minutes a day so you can really reflect on your life . take time to write thoughtful entries in your journal . dont forget that while your heart is aching , there are benefits to being single . you are now free to do whatever you want whenever you want it , and this is no small gift . heres how you can take advantage of not being in a relationship go to a concert for a band that your ex didnt care for . you may have been missing out on your favorite music because you and your exs tastes didnt jive . eat the type of food your ex hated . if your ex was a vegetarian while youre a big meat eater , try the new korean bbq place in your neighborhood . if your ex hated mexican food while you love it , invite your friends out for fajitas . get hooked on a tv show that your ex refused to watch . though you should avoid drowning your sorrows in television , try watching a new high - quality television show . this will be fun and will also give you something to look forward to . dont do things your ex hated out of spite . just view this as an opportunity to spend more time doing the things you love .

make sure youre ready to start dating . start dating just for fun . open yourself to another serious relationship .

how to fix a broken heart 4

before you jump back into the love game , its important to make sure your heart is mended as much as possible so that you dont feel worse when nobody you meet stacks up to your old significant other , or end up hurting people in the process . heres how to know if youre ready if youve stopped thinking about your ex all the time . your ex can cross your mind a few times a day , and you can have a relapse once in a while , but on the whole , your thoughts should be focused on your present life , your goals , and your future . if you dont compare every guy you meet to your ex . its important to approach dating with an open mind . if youre only out to see how your date stacks up to your ex , then youre not ready for dating . if you only want to date in order to make your ex jealous . if you only want to see new people so your ex will hear about it or see pictures of you and a new special someone on facebook , then youre not being fair to your potential suitors . if youre feeling optimistic , positive , and like you have a chance - - - however small - - - of falling in love again . dont be frustrated if you cant completely stop thinking about your ex . if six months , or even a year or two has gone by and youre still thinking about him or her , that doesnt mean you shouldnt start dating again . it takes time to get over people , and if youre making an effort to move on instead of being stuck in the past , then dating is healthy . once youre ready to play the dating game again , you dont have to jump into it head first - - - just ease your toes into the water and see what happens . youll have the best results if you take things slowly at first . heres how to do it dont jump to conclusions . if your new date doesnt impress you with his looks or attitude right away , give him a chance . you may be too focused on having that initial spark to see if something else is building between you . keep things light . when you start dating someone new , talk about your friends , your interests , and the fun things you hope to do . dont jump into a deep philosophical discussion about how to live a happy life , or share the top ten things youre looking for in a husband . this will scare off your new date . keep things fun instead , and dig into the deeper stuff later . dont talk about your ex . if it comes up , you can briefly mention your ex and say a few words about why your relationship ended , but try to steer clear of this topic for as long as possible . once you and your date start opening up to each other , you can talk about this , but you dont want to seem like your stuck in the past . once youve stopped thinking about your ex , have gone on a few dates , and are ready for real love again , you need to make sure you can pursue a new and healthy relationship while protecting your heart as much as you can . heres what you should do be honest about your past relationship . once youve seen someone for a few months and things are getting serious , dont be afraid to share as much as you want to say about your past relationship . if you keep in all of your painful memories from your last relationship , you wont be able to fully open up . just be careful not to talk about it so much that your new sweetie thinks youre obsessing with your ex . try not to make the same mistakes as you did in your previous relationship . if youre ready to start seriously dating again , it means youve reflected on the things that did not work in your relationship . though each relationship is completely unique , there should be a few helpful lessons you learned , such as not to take anything for granted , to remember to tell the person youre with how much you care , and not to spend all of your free time with your significant other . dont compare your new relationship to your old one . though you can take lessons away from your old relationship , you should treat your new relationship as something exciting and malleable , and work to make the new situation as amazing as possible . open yourself to love . once youre really ready and feel committed and invested in the person youre with , dont be afraid to let go . there is always a chance you will get hurt again , but if youve reflected and found the right person , the risk of getting hurt will be worth the amazing feeling of falling in love .

know that rejection is a common reality . temper your expectations . avoid infatuation . remember that your crush is a human being . leave yourself other social options . try not to procrastinate . be crystal clear . dont question her response . listen to what she says . realize that rejection is not a personal indictment . accept lingering awkwardness . occupy yourself with other people . focus on your personal aspirations . consider trying again - in due time .

how to deal with asking out and being rejected by a girl

if you want to get dates , youll need to ask girls out . if you ask girls out , youll eventually be rejected . its a simple fact - rejection is a near - unavoidable part of the dating process . remember that you arent entitled to a yes response . you are , however , entitled to politeness and civility , provided you extend your crush the same entitlements . no one is perfect , but its hard to remember this if you have suffer from infatuation commonly called puppy love . constructing an ideal version of someone before you know them well is a sure - fire path to disappointment . if youre rejected , it will be crushing , and if you get the date , she wont live up to your impossible expectations . remember that everyone , no matter how attractive , has faults . this will make it easier to work up the courage to ask her out and it will make a potential rejection much less painful . if a girl asked you out and you rejected her , would it be an indication that you hated her probably not . like men , women have complex emotions . a rejection might not be an indication that she doesnt like you - it might simply be an indication that she was having a bad day . always remember that the object of your affections is a living , breathing , feeling human like you . maintain your friendships . rejections are easier to deal with if you have friends to fall back on . if youre single , its also perfectly acceptable to harbor more than one crush at once . this way , if one girl rejects you , youll still be able to pursue others . it can be tempting to wait for the perfect moment to ask someone out , but waiting too long can cause problems . it can send the wrong message - that youre not interested . it can also lead you to become anxious or invest undue emotional weight in the crushs response , which can make a rejection more painful . try to think of the event casually - it will make it easier to ask her promptly and you can avoid adding extra impact to a potential rejection . why endure the stress of asking someone out if you run the risk of being misunderstood make sure your crush knows youre asking her out as a romantic interest and not as a friend - doing so will ensure an honest response . if you are rejected , she will explain herself , which will provide valuable insight . see our wikihow for tips on asking a girl out . respect your crushs decision . if she says yes , dont tempt her to reconsider by saying really if she says no , dont paint yourself as desperate by saying are you sure her decision is final for the time being . by calmly accepting it , you maintain respect for her and earn closure for yourself . if she says no , you can stand to learn something about her or yourself . the conversation following a rejection can be surprisingly frank and illuminating , so listen carefully for a chance to learn how to achieve future dating goals . knowing the reason for a rejection can make coping much easier , especially if the reason is superficial or has nothing to do with you . here are a few reasons for rejection that have nothing to do with the man asking the girl out she is too busy to date . she is working through personal andor emotional issues . she already has a significant other . she enjoys being single . in most cases , rejection isnt a judgement of your character . if a girl decides she doesnt want to date you , it doesnt mean she dislikes you or even finds you unattractive . every instance of rejection is different , but the common thread is that you are not rejected . rather , your request to date is . if your crush is someone you see regularly , its normal but not inevitable to experience residual awkwardness after a rejection . with time , nerves can cool and normal friendship can resume . awkwardness can take the form of silences avoidance irritation unnatural , overly - friendly behavior a rejection can be a blessing in disguise if it motivates you to find happiness in other peoples company . take the opportunity to pursue social avenues you normally wouldnt . spend quality time with friends . ask a different crush out . go on a blind date . positive interactions with other people are scientifically proven to raise our happiness , so seek them out . after heartbreak , it can be rewarding to devote time to improving yourself and pursuing your interests . over time , you will become more attractive and naturally meet people who like the same things as you . one rejection doesnt necessarily mean dating someone is impossible in the future . before asking again , however , its best to consider your options . allow time for circumstances to change before asking again .

figure out what youre going to say . create some distance . do it in person if you really care . pick the right moment . pick the right place . tell him you want to break up . explain your reasoning as much as you want . hear him out . dont be too mean to him . wrap it up as soon as you can . be firm . try to end on a good note . stay away from him for a while . get some me time . start putting yourself out there when youre ready . try to be friends with the boy if you want to .

how to dump a boy

you dont have to spend hours crafting your break - up speech , but if you care about the boy at all , you should put a little thought into what youre going to say before you say it . figure out how youre going to give the boy the bad news , how youll prepare him for it , and what reasons youll give for the break - up . remember that you dont have to tell him everything if you dont want to . if youre breaking up with him because you just dont like him anymore , find the nicest way to say that you just dont think things are working out . if the boy has hurt you or done something really terrible , then you dont have to feel bad about being honest with him . if the break up is pretty much his fault , then you might as well let him know . letting the boy see that things arent going so well before you actually break up with him can help ease the pain . dont kiss him , hug him , and act like everything is perfectly fine or he will be really confused - - and even more hurt - - when you do finally break up with him . if youve decided that the best time to break up with the boy is in a few days , then dont go on any romantic dates or show him extra affection before then . just act a little more distant than usual so he may have a sense that something is up . this doesnt mean you should prolong the pain for weeks . but if you know youre going to make a move in a few days , slowly remove yourself from the relationship in the interim . dumping someone over email or text is really not the way to go unless you dont care about the person at all . if youve only dated for a few weeks and youve decided that the guy is a real jerk , then fine , send him a text saying , i dont think this is working out . im sorry , and move on with your life . but if the person means something to you , then make an effort to meet him in person and to give him the news face - to - face . this will let him ask you questions and get more closer than finding out that hes dumped from a phone or computer screen if you think he deserves this level of respect , then give it to him . if the boy has a violent temper or youre afraid that he might hurt you after you break up with him , then this will be another situation where its better to break up in person . if you and the boy are doing the long distance thing and you know you wont see each other for a month or two , you may want to break up with him over the phone - - its better to do it as quickly as you can than to prolong the pain until you see each other . you dont have to wait for weeks for the perfect moment to present itself for you to dump the boy . but you should try to pick a time when both of you can be alone , relatively free of stress , and in a neutral place where you can have a meaningful conversation . dont dump the boy an hour before his math final or his baseball game , or youll be causing him extra stress that he wont be able to deal with right away . try to pick a time when you know hell have nothing to do afterwards and when you have enough time to really talk to him . ask the boy to meet you so you can break up with him . try not to make it sound too obvious or hell show up filled with dread . pick a place that doesnt mean something special to you guys - - avoid the park where you always hang out or the place where you went on your first date . do it outside a library or somewhere quiet after school if you have to . if you pick a place that has special meaning for you both , then thatll make the process more difficult . though dumping the boy wont be easy no matter where you go , the more you plan ahead , the more likely youll be to minimize your pain . you can be nice first and make a little bit of small talk , but theres no point in dragging it on . as soon as youre ready , take a deep breath , and tell him that its just not working anymore . say that youre sorry if you are and tell him that you want to break up . if hes been nice to you then you can say something about how he was an amazing boyfriend and that you had a great time with him , but theres no point in feeding him lies if you were miserable and just wanted to get out . make eye contact and speak slowly . let him see that this is hurting you too , even if youre the one doing the dumping . you dont have to give him a blow by blow of exactly why youre dumping him - - in fact , that will only cause him more pain and make him feel even worse about himself . if youve met or fallen for someone else , maybe you dont want to tell him that and hurt him any more as long as you dont think he will find out anyway . if you just arent into him anymore , you can find another way to get around that , like saying that you cant make time for him , or that you think youve become different people , but he may be able to see right through that . if he hurt you , then you wont need to give him an explanation of why youre ending it . hell know what he did . if you still respect him , then you can give him the courtesy of letting him talk to you and ask you some questions . if hes just repeating the same thing over and over , then it wont get you anywhere , but if he genuinely wants to know more about why youve chosen to dump him , you can let him ask some questions as long as you dont think this will hurt him more . he may ask if he could have done anything differently even if he could have , theres no point in telling him so , because youve already made your decision . answer any questions you feel comfortable answering , but if its all starting to feel a bit repetitive , then you can wrap things up . theres no point in being mean to the boy - - even if he has really hurt you . you want to end the relationship with your head high , and not leave him with extra bitter feelings toward you . your relationship , however long or short it was , must have had some high points , and you want him to remember you fondly , dont you theres no point in undermining all of the great and not - so - great experiences you had together just by being mean at the end . if you feel the urge to say something really spiteful , hold your tongue . remember that youre the one doing the hurting , and its likely that the boy is feeling a lot of pain . keep the conversation as short and sweet as possible . theres no point in dragging it on or youre both more likely to say hurtful things , and to feel more pain . also , the longer you stay with the boy , the more likely youll be to doubt your decision and to feel some regret . but dont let your feelings of nostalgia or disappointment confuse you into thinking you have done the wrong thing . tell the boy you have to go once youre done , and make an excuse for why if you have to . if he thinks you have nowhere to go , then he may want to keep you around for longer . remember that this is a break - up , not a negotiation . dont let the boy beg you to stay with him or promise that hell change if you decide not to dump him after all . your decision is final , and theres little chance that the relationship will be any different if you go back to round two . the boy may tell you how much he likes or loves you , flatter you , or even beg you and cry - - but you cant let yourself back down under any circumstances . stay strong and walk away , no matter what the boy is doing . just keep saying , im sorry , but ive already made my decision . let him know that you werent asking for his opinion on this one . though its unlikely that youll walk away from the break up as best friends , try to leave the boy with a fond memory . dont run away after name calling or yelling at him , and dont storm away , either . he may want to do that , but you have to take the high road and stay positive , be as friendly as you can , and tell him that youre really sorry about the way things ended . he may fling insults at you , but you cant stoop to that level . give him a hug if hes open to it . but be warned that he may be so hurt that he wont want to touch you . lets face it - - it can be nearly impossible to be friends with your ex , and its definitely impossible to be friends with your ex right after a break - up . so give him some time to cool off , let your own emotions settle , and stop being in touch with him for as long as it takes to heal . dont start having awkward lunch dates a month after the break up because you think thats the mature thing to do if you still have residual feelings , youre only making it harder for both of you to move on . theres no magic formula for how long it will take for both of you to let go of your romantic feelings . each relationship starts and ends at its own pace , so dont feel bad if you still feel confused about the whole thing after a few months . once you dump the boy , you should enjoy spending some time with your favorite person - - yourself . this isnt the time to go crazy , hook up with random people , and socialize with your girlfriends non - stop . though these things can help you forget the break - up , youll be able to deal with it more thoroughly if you give yourself some time to stay in , write in your journal , take walks , read a good book , or do whatever you have to do to feel centered and like yourself again . take the time to do the things you didnt have much time to do because you were always with the boy . this will make you appreciate being by yourself even more . once enough time has passed and you feel whole again , you can slowly start to date other boys . take a risk and let a friend set you up on a date , or accept the coffee date the cute boy in your history class has proposed . you probably wont fall in love with the first - - or the third , or the seventh - - person you meet , but thats not important . the important thing is that you open up your heart again and get ready for love once more . dont rush in to another relationship just to stop thinking about the boy you dumped . rebound relationships are almost always doomed to fail . if enough time has passed and you can really think of the boy without any lingering romantic feelings - - and if he can think of you the same way - - then you may try to be friends after all . remember that in many cases , this simply wont be possible , so dont be frustrated if you cant seem to hang out with your ex without feeling frustrated or confused . but if you really do like each other and want to hang out as friends , then take it slow and start hanging out in fun , casual settings and see if you can rebuild your friendship . the tricky part here is making sure that you both are ready to just be friends . since youre the one who ended the relationship , it may take a little longer for the boy to be ready to be your friend .

draw a broken heart on a piece of paper . think of all the things you like about this person . think of the bad things about this person . look at how many stitches or other items you have left after going through the list of likes and dislikes . realize that this is just a fun test , not a foolproof method of guessing what is best .

how to decide whether to break up or not using a broken heart exercise

for every one thing you like , draw something to patch the broken heart back together stitches , band - aids™ , arrows , safety pins , etc . for example , what are the reasons why you want to break up with this person for every one bad thing , erase one of the items you drew that were keeping the heart together . analyze the result . at a rough guess , if you have 0 to 2 stitches left - its quite possible that youre already walking away from the relationship and patching it together isnt going to work so well . 3 to 5 stitches left - the relationship is quite possibly okay , perhaps average and in need of some enlivening but maybe keep trying a little bit longer . 6 - infinity stitches left - the relationship is great and you are possibly dealing with other competing reasons that have encouraged you to consider dumping this person . in this case , perhaps think about the bigger picture that has led you to question the value of this relationship in your life at this time . it may be that the heart still hangs together quite well but you still feel that its just not worth the effort anymore . or , perhaps the threads are all broken but a part of you is screaming to give it another try . at this point , just use the exercise as one way to inform yourself of your real feelings and realize that the decision is one you still need to make by considering everything about the relationship and your lifes trajectory .

make sure you are actually ready to break up . think about what you want to say first . pick a good time . keep it a secret . show up in person . pick a place in private . use open confrontation . start with something nice . use i instead of we . dont go negative about the other person . dont be mean . ask how the person is doing . be absolutely clear . keep your mouth under control . understand that youll still feel sad .

how to end a romantic relationship teens

that is , everyone fights in relationships sometimes . in the heat of the moment , you may decide its time to let the person go . however , if you take some time to cool down first , you may realize that what happened isnt as much of a big deal as you made it . you dont want to break up and then regret it a day or two later . dont hint at breaking up in your anger , then leave . if you have a huge argument , its not a good idea to say or hint that you may want out and then leave . youll just leave your boyfriend or girlfriend upset and worried that you want to break it off , even if you just want to work through the problems . when you do decide its time to break up , dont just rush into the conversation . decide what you want to say first . establish why you want to break up , and decide how you want to say that . choose a time when you know your boyfriend or girlfriend wont be busy . try not to pick a day before he or she has a big test or game . be considerate of his or her time and that that person has going on . on the other hand , you dont want to hold off forever once you know the relationship should be over . try to pick a date where the other person is not busy but is not too far in the future . its not nice to spread the news around before you tell the person because the news could get back to him or her . in that case , youve effectively broken it off through a rumor , which isnt respectful at all . the exception to this rule is its fine to talk it over with one person you trust completely not to tell anyone else that person can help you decide exactly what youre feeling and what you need to do . these types of conversations should be done in person , not via the phone or texting . it shows you respect the other person enough to tell them to his or her face . dont email or text the news . even a telephone conversation isnt the best . ask to see the person before you bring up the topic . however , you dont want to give any indication that the news could be bad beforehand , as the other person will just worry about it until he or she can see you . you dont want to tell someone youre leaving him or her when youre sitting in a coffee shop . he or she is obviously going to be upset , and most people dont like to be upset or crying where strangers can see him or her . therefore , try to pick a place where you two can be alone . in other words , the best way to break up with someone is to face it head on . it may seem heartless to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend in person that you dont want to be with them , but doing so allows the other person to hear what you have to say and then begin the process of hurting and healing . the problem with other methods of breaking up , such as drawing back from the person , escalating the situation so he or she breaks up with your , or using another person to do it such as setting your boyfriend or girlfriend up with someone else , is that they create more drama and heartache in the long run . they dont create a clean break , or if they do , they do it in a more dramatic way . in addition , talking to the person face - to - face will give him or her a chance to ask questions . it also give him or her a chance to talk it over with you , allowing the person to work through some of his or her feelings . a good way to open this conversation is to begin by talking about something you value about the person . even though youre having a sad conversation , you dont need to start out with negativity . for example , you could say , im so glad weve gotten to spend the time we have together . i think youre a good person . that is , when you use we to talk about the situation , you invite a discussion about how you should move ahead . if youve decided you want out , you need to make it known that its your decision to do so . for instance , you should say ive decided that i need to step away from this relationship , not i think we should break up . when youre breaking up , you dont need to go into how you see the other person as a failure . in fact , if you feel the need to talk about whats wrong , discuss the problems you had with the relationship , not the person . for instance , you dont need to say something like i cant be with you anymore because youre a slob . instead , talk about behaviors , such as , i dont feel like i can be in a relationship with you anymore because of the way you dont take care of your room and your personal things . i feel like thats disrespectful to your parents and to me . while even talking about behaviors can be mean , it can give your boyfriend or girlfriend things to think about for the next relationship he or she has . that is , you obviously have cared about this person for awhile . just because youre ending the relationship doesnt mean you need to hate him or her . establish that while youll always care for that person , you just dont want to have the same kind of relationship anymore . for instance , you could say , youre very important to me , and i will always care for you . however , i dont think we can be together anymore . even if you are ending it , you can invite the person to talk about what he or she is feeling . that gives the person a chance to respond to what youve said . as an example , you could say , what are you thinking about what ive said , if you think that the other person still hasnt quite got the message , its fine to be fairly blunt . you dont have to be mean , just straightforward , such as i know you would like to continue on in this relationship , but i dont . i wish you all the best , though . once youve broken up with someone , dont talk bad about that person . it reflects worse on you than it does on the other person , plus you shouldnt throw hateful words at someone you once cared about . that person deserves better . even if you broke up the relationship and even if it was the right thing to do , youre still going to feel some sadness that its over . thats perfectly normal , and youll need some time to get over it . give yourself as much time as you need .

look for clues . accept that its over . feel your feelings . avoid contact with her . stay away from her online profiles . refrain from intimate contact . avoid acting on feelings of vengeance . have fun . focus on a goal . give it some time .

how to deal with a girl that doesnt love you

when you really care for someone , it can be easy ignore the signals that they do not feel the same way . the longer you ignore these , however , the longer you will draw out your rejection and heartache . some indicators include she wont make time for you . she doesnt return your textscalls . she never reaches out to you to make plans . she says she likes you as a friend . shes not interested in physical affection . she has told you that shes not in love with you . whether youve noticed a series of signs or the girl has straight up told you that she doesnt have feelings for you , you need to do some work to accept that it is true . the heart wants what it wants and it can very rarely be swayed otherwise . dont imagine that you will change her mind . take her at her word and accept that its over . it can be helpful to say it out loud to yourself or a friend . you might say , my relationship with katie is over . katie doesnt love me . when you experience rejection , you are likely to feel a range of emotions , including disbelief , anger , and sadness . do whatever you need to do to feel these feelings and to process them . cry if you feel like crying . talk to your friends . write in a journal . comfort yourself with things you like , such as ice cream , hot baths , or movies . in order for you to heal , you need space . if you love a girl and she doesnt love you , you cant just go on pretending to be friends . youre not friends she is the girl you love . so until you have truly moved on from this heartbreak , you need to avoid any unnecessary contact with her . consider deleting her number from your phone to avoid callingtexting her . stay away from places you know she is likely to be . this may mean missing out on certain parties or social gatherings , but its worth it . if you absolutely must see her for instance , if you work together keep your interactions brief and professional . in the modern era , we have our friends at the touch of a button . unfortunately , this means you have images of the girl - who - doesnt - love - you at the touch of a button too . although it is tempting , avoid visiting her pages on social media . perhaps even consider blocking her at least temporarily . you need the space to heal and you cant do that if you are cyber - stalking her every move . in order to avoid her online presence , you may want to spend less time on social media . unfollow her on social media sites . avoid visiting the pages of mutual friends . if you happen to come across her , quickly put your phone away or close your laptop and walk away . dont let yourself get sucked in . if you know that this girl doesnt love you , do not allow her to turn to you for emotional support or physical contact . although this may be very tempting , it is only going to cause you pain . if she reaches out to you , you must find the fortitude to decline . you really shouldnt be communicating with her anyway if she reaches out to you , simply tell her , i need to take a little space for myself right now . i dont think we should be spending time together . once you accept that she doesnt love you , you may move through sadness and into anger . you may want to lash out or even seek some sort of revenge towards either the girl or somebody new that she is dating . it is perfectly natural to have these thoughts , but its not okay to act on them . seeking vengeance will not make her love you , it wont feel as good as you think , and you could get into trouble . instead , allow these thoughts to come and go , so that you can move on . you should also resist the urge to talk badly about her to mutual friends . it will only make you look catty . in the beginning , you might vent to a couple of close , trusted friends . then try not to talk about her anymore . in order for you to move on , you need something positive to overshadow the negative . try to have some fun hang out with friends and go dancing . spend an evening doing karaoke , or travel someplace new . even if you dont feel like having fun , force yourself to get out there and try . it will probably be better than you think , you cant control who she loves . the only thing you have control over is yourself . now is a great time to focus on some form of self - improvement . have you always wanted to play the guitar , workout more , or excel in school now is an excellent time to put your focus on a new goal . unfortunately , there is no magic pill you can take to get rid of your heartbreak . instead , this process is going to take time . and even after a long string of good days , a bad day might sneak up on you . thats normal . just remember that this is a process , and you are healing a little bit every day .

drop hints . tell him . stay friends . distance yourself . dont try to make him like you . act cool . dont obsess over it .

how to deal with a guy not liking you in middle school 1

do you know for sure that the guy doesnt like you back try giving him subtle cues that you like him . if hes giving you mixed signals in return , dont take it personally . middle school age can be confusing for everyone . the guy may be shy . even if he acts confident around certain girls , it may be because he feels comfortable around them as friends . for example , wait for the right moment , than give him a compliment like , youre a great listener . try sending him a text with a cute nickname that lets him know youre thinking about him and his interests . say something like hey hun . how did your baseball game go its possible that this guy doesnt even know that you like him . if youre not sure whether he knows , you may want to tell him that you like being around him . use the term like , not love . try saying , i like studying with you . if you want to be even more direct , try saying , i like being around you . whether he is in your group of friends or is your best friend if you really think you will be able to outgrow and move past crushing on this guy , you could always try to stay friends . this will be even easier to do if you work through your crush just between you and the guy , without getting mutual friends involved . that way if he doesnt like you back , you can continue hanging out without it feeling as awkward . if you dont feel that you can remain friends , you can tell him the truth , but dont be angry or act like he did something wrong . try saying , its just difficult for me to hang out with you because i had a crush on you , you know its not because of you – youre a great guy . if you dont want to tell him directly that its too painful to remain friends , you can ease yourself out of his life gradually by making yourself less available . for example , you may be too busy with studying , after - school activities or family obligations to meet up . if your crush doesnt seem to want to talk or is acting like he feels uncomfortable , it is best to distance yourself . you may also want to back off if it feels too difficult for you to be friends . it may be hard to do if you share the same classes , but try to avoid your crush during social times like lunch and recess . stop visiting your crushs social media pages . unfollow them or change your settings so that you dont see their posts . its painful , but you have to respect his feelings . you dont want to make him uncomfortable – even friends shouldnt do that to each other . if you do things to try and make him like you back , then you arent being yourself . people should like you for who you already are . dont change your look or the way you act to get someone elses attention . guys who like you will notice you on their own . when you have to be around this guy , keep a cool head . instead of focusing on him and what hes doing , tell yourself positive affirmations about yourself in your head . ignore him . think about how much you are improving , be positive , and choose not to suffer . for example , think to yourself , i feel confident and secure . i accept and love myself . dont keep trying to text or talk to the guy . a crush shouldnt take you away from doing other life activities . if you are spending a ton of time thinking about your crush and you cant stop yourself , you should talk to a parent or guidance counselor to get help dealing with those feelings .

let your emotions loose . get that much - needed alone time . dont force yourself to be okay . confide in a close friend . let go of your bitterness and regret . start to realize that youre better off alone . stop talking to your ex . get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex . take it easy with social media for a while . avoid doing things that remind you of your ex . change your environment as much as you can . stay busy . spend time with your loved ones . write in a journal . pick up a new hobby . do something your ex never wanted to do . dont let him stop you anymore . enjoy your alone time . get some exercise . remind yourself of all the things youre grateful for . get ready to love again .

how to deal with a break up

this is the first thing you have to do if you want to move on . if you feel like crying , let out those tears . if youre angry , scream and kick some furniture . if youre hurt , confused , and upset , cry , yell , pout , complain , shout , and do whatever you have to do to get those negative emotions out of your body . of course , its better to do this when you have some privacy , but dont try to keep everything in for the sake of being composed . youre hurt . theres nothing wrong with admitting that . if you dont show any emotions , then youll just be in denial about how awful you feel . this will make you feel those same angry , bitter feelings - - for longer . dont be afraid to show weakness . crying in front of a close friend is perfectly normal . its okay to admit that its not okay . everyone knows break - ups suck , and theres no point in acting like you dont care when you do . sure , if you pass your ex by , you can look as cool as a cucumber . but when youre alone or with close friends be who you are and show how you feel . you have a lot on your mind and its likely that you need some time to yourself . though you may want to be around people every second of every day because youre terrified of being alone , your best bet is to plan a date with yourself so you have some time to just be sad , stare out a window , write in your journal , or just think about what happened . if you refuse to be alone for a second after your heart ache begins , then youll never be able to truly deal with it . think about it when is the last time you planned a date - - with yourself this can be a miracle in disguise . pamper yourself . take a long hot bath , put on some lotion , do your hair , and take care of your body . dont stop with the hygiene just because youre upset . its okay to mope , be sad , and just hate life for a little while . though you cant be sad forever , being sad for a little while is perfectly natural and much better than forcing yourself to hang out with friends , put a big smile on your face , and laugh about your break - up or make it seem like it wasnt a big deal even if it was . tell your friends that youre going to stop being social for a little while and that you need a break from social events , especially any that will involve alcohol . sure , any good friend will try to force you to come out , but try to make them understand that youre just not ready yet . of course , dont let this go on for too long . if its been months since youve really socialized , then you have a problem . when you do go out there , you can keep a low profile . dont talk too much , laugh , or just act hyper to prove that youre doing just fine . though hanging out in big , loud crowds may not be your best bet when youre dealing with a break - up , confiding in a really good friend or two who really gets you can help you feel a lot better . you can do this over the phone or in person during a the new girl marathon whatever feels right to you . having a person to talk to one - on - one can help you get your feelings out while making you feel less alone . sharing your feelings with everyone can make you feel worse , but sharing them with one or two people who really care can help you heal faster . your friend may offer some comfort as well as some advice for how to move on . itll feel better to get your feelings out there . just dont fall into a pattern where you keep being sad and complaining to the same friend or youll start to recycle all of those negative feelings . bitterness and regret are two of the most common emotions that people going through break - ups can feel . you may be bitter because of what your ex did , because of how much he or she hurt you , or because of all the time you wasted on such a bad relationship . you may regret the way you acted , or regret that you put up with the other person for so long . well , if you really want to deal with the break - up , then you have to kick these negative feelings to the curb and focus on looking ahead , instead of behind you . sure , you may feel like you wasted your time in the relationship , and that can definitely make you bitter . but no time spent on a relationship is really time wasted - - the time you spent in the relationship will give you the perspective and experience you need to approach a new relationship in a more mature and productive way . that may not be a big consolation now , but youll appreciate this in the future . you may regret certain things you did or said , but theres no taking them back now . you can only move forward , not backward , and dwelling on the past will only slow you down . romanticize the whole affair . this may sound silly , but pretending youre a character in a movie whos struggling and making everything dramatic can help you feel better . first , it may make the whole break up seem less intense as blowing it out of proportion makes it more fictional and less like youre involved this doesnt mean to say , however , at some point you shouldnt confront it for what it is . secondly , glamorizing yourself might make you laugh and , after all , laughter is the best medicine . this one takes time . if you really want to deal with a break - up , then you have to see that youre much better off without your ex , even if you may feel the exact opposite . theres no way that relationship was giving you as much joy and fulfillment as you thought - - otherwise , why did it end you may think that the thing you need the most is your special someone , but that is absolutely the last thing that will make you feel better . make a list of all of the reasons why you are better off alone . whenever you start doubting the benefits of your singledom , read the list to yourself - - read it out loud , if you have to . even though it can hurt , it can also help to make a mental note of all of the worst moments in your relationship . dont rehash them all , but remind yourself of them whenever you start to feel sad and lonely . remind yourself why the relationship ended . its most likely a good reason , and nothing that you can really fix . sure , you had some great moments , but did they really outweigh all of the pain you felt though its not impossible to become friends with your ex eventually , it is nearly impossible to be friends with your ex right after a break - up . though you may think its cool to text your ex when something reminds you of him , grab coffee , hang out with him at parties , or just call him to say hi , the longer you do this , the longer you will prolong the pain . sure , youre used to talking to your ex all that time , but that was while you were dating . now , youll need to wait until you heal to talk to him - - and that could take months , or for break - ups of longer relationships , even years . even if youre the one who did the breaking up , dont talk to your ex . if he or she really wants to talk , explain that youre both better off taking a little breather . take your exs number out of your phone . that will prevent you from texting or calling in a moment of weakness . if you and your ex have the same friends , you may have to take turns hanging out with them , or you may have to lay low for a little while . it wont be fun , but its better than opening old wounds . you wont be able to deal with your break - up if every little thing in your room reminds you of your ex . first off , that means giving back any of his stuff . and those gifts he gave you you dont have to throw them out , but its best to put them in boxes for a little while , and that means you fluffy the bear he won for you at the carnival the necklace he gave you for your birthday  take it off and put it away in your jewelry box . you may feel that youve spent so much time with your ex that your lives are intertwined . getting rid of the things that remind you of your ex can help you unravel your connection . hide the things that remind you of him even if they werent gifts . that poster from the concert you went to on your first date its time to hang up some new wall art . this will be highly painful for sure . if you dont feel strong enough to do it on your own , invite a friend over for a spring cleaning session . clicking on your exs profile again and again to see if hes been hanging out with any new girls - - or just to see how much fun hes having without you - - will lead you to no good , my dear . take a week off from facebook , or even two . see how little you miss it . dont try to make your ex jealous by posting lots of pictures of yourself having a supposedly great time . instead , get offline and focus on actually having an amazing time . who cares if your ex knows about it or not if you really are a facebook addict , limit yourself to just 15 minutes a day . and force yourself to log out any time you click on your exs profile . if you want to be dramatic about it , you can always unfriend your ex on twitter , facebook , and other social media sites . if you and your ex loved going to the italian place down the street on date night , pick a new hot spot for your pasta cravings . if you two loved watching jeopardy together , bid alex trebek adieu for a little while . if you always went mini golfing , hiking , biking , or swimming together , put a hiatus on these activities and find a new form of exercise that you love . you dont have to stop doing these things forever - - just until you can do them because you love them , without thinking of your ex . you may feel like you did absolutely everything with your ex and that theres nothing that you can do to not think about him . thats when you can start finding a new routine that can give you a fresh start . though its unlikely that you can move to a completely new apartment or home unless you lived together , of course immediately after your breakup , you can do some redecorating to make your space feel like its completely yours . move your furniture around , hang up new wall art , and put up some new decorations . this will help you clear your head and look at the world with fresh eyes - - not eyes that only land on your ex . if you can , take a mini vacation . just falling out of the same old routine for a weekend can help you get your head straight . at first , you have to slow down and focus on healing , assessing your thoughts , and getting your head straight . but once you feel a bit more emotionally stable and have cut ties with your ex , you can work on having a busy and fulfilling schedule . fill your days with friends , laughter , exercise , fun activities , and heck , even some work . though you should always make some time for yourself , the busier you are , the less likely you are to think of your ex - - or even to try to hang out with him . fill your calendar once youre feeling up to it . dont force it too early . pick up a yoga or dance class that you can do two or three times a week . this will help add some structure to your days . spend time with friends on the weekends as much as you can . if you dont , youll feel sad when youre at home on what used to be your date nights . youll never appreciate your friends and family more than you will when youre going through a romantic rough patch make girls night a regular thing , hang out with your siblings and parents more often than normal , and even get closer to some friends youve fallen out of touch with because of your relationship . remind yourself how lucky you are to have so may people who care about you - - even if your ex isnt one of them . get silly with your friends . play a fun sport , a game , or do charades . just do something to take your mind off of your situation . go to the movies with your friends . try to see every oscar - nominated movie out that year to keep busy . take a road trip with your close friends . the new surroundings will make you feel better . even making time for a phone date once or twice a week with your close friends will make you feel better . keeping a record of your thoughts every day or two can help you feel in control of your emotions and can also help you reflect on how you are passing the time . you will be able to open up , evaluate your situation , and get some breathing room from not hanging out with your friends . you dont have to dwell on all of your feelings about your break - up just recording your daily thoughts will make you feel more at peace . make a date with yourself to do this at least twice a week . youll be surprised by how much calmer it can make you feel . you can also use the journal to set goals for how you want to feel or act in the upcoming days . if you want to enjoy your life again , then you have to keep mixing things up and introducing new rewards into your life . what better reward than a new , fulfilling activity you can do on your own try poetry , dancing , running , biking , sketching , writing a screenplay , playing the guitar , blogging , or doing something completely unfamiliar that youve always wanted to try . take the extra free time you have from not always being around your ex as an opportunity to try all of the things youve always wanted to try , or to discover something new . its okay to pick something you know you wont be good at . failing can be fun and can help you deal with hardships . picking new hobbies can also help you meet new people who are interested in the same thing . if you already have a hobby that you love , try to devote even more time to it . maybe your ex hated mexican food . maybe he hated traveling . maybe he hated big , noisy parties while you couldnt get enough of them . he could have hated hanging out with your sister and her artsy boyfriend . its time to take advantage of the fact that you can do whatever you want and that you dont have to please anybody when you make your schedule . make a list of all of the things you could never do without your ex . then , check them off your list , one by one see how good it feels if you want to find peace , then you have to be truly happy on your own . though being single can be hard , you have to appreciate the perks of the single life before you put yourself out there again . if youre too eager to jump in to a new relationship just because you dont want to be alone , then youre almost guaranteed to run into mr . or mrs . wrong yet again . you can only truly start looking once youre content to be on your own for a little while . indulge in the perks of being single having fun girls or guys nights , being able to flirt all the time , being able to set your schedule and not give in to anyone elses demands . if youre dealing with a break - up , then you may be eating every bar of chocolate or every bacon burger within a ten mile radius of your home and referring to the effort your index finger makes when pushing the on and off buttons on your remote as your daily exercise . though the last thing you may want to do is haul your butt over to the gym , itll make you feel better physically and emotionally . exercising releases endorphins , which are known to make people feel better , and youll be needing that , wont you exercising regularly also adds some stability to your routine , and you may be lacking it . as you begin to truly accept the breakup , you can view your own life from a more rational perspective . you can see that you have so many things to be thankful for your friends , your family , your health , your looks , all of the opportunities you have in your life it may be hard to think positively and notice all the good in your life when youre reeling from a break up , but as you begin to come to terms with it , you can remind yourself how fortunate you truly are , even if youre still looking for love . write a gratitude list . write down at least thirty things that you love about your life . you shouldnt have to struggle to come up with those . make a habit of thanking people for helping you more often than usual . youll feel better about your life , and they will , too . once youve spent enough time by yourself and have gotten enough distance from your ex , you can slowly start putting yourself on the dating market again . start slow , and go on a date with a guy or girl your friend thinks is perfect for you , or go on a low - pressure group date . you probably wont find romeo or juliet on your first try - - or your second , or your seventh . once you get into the habit of looking and feeling good about who you are , youll eventually find the right person . it could take months , or even years , to feel ready to truly open up and be ready for love . dont be frustrated if you just dont think its the right time . once youve found that right person , youll see that all the suffering you went through from this break - up has made you a stronger , more capable , and more loving person .

cry it out . dont broadcast your breakup . reflect privately on your feelings . exercise . get outdoors . talk to your parents . recognize the difference between grief and depression . distance yourself in person . keep your distance on social media . get rid of reminders of your old relationship . avoid rebound dates . hang out with your friends . continue to do things you enjoy . talk to your ex . accept your new status as friends . reach out to your exs new love interest .

how to deal with heartache teen girls

a good cry often makes you feel better . if youre too embarrassed to cry in front of your loved ones , do it in private . shut your bedroom door , curl up on your bed , and let the tears flow . pick one or two close friends to discuss your feelings with . if other friends ask you to bring your ex along to an event , simply say , were not together anymore , and leave it at that . giving everyone a blow - by - blow explanation can make you seem bitter , even if youre not . meditate on your grief . this will help you to release any feelings of anger , which only makes grief worse . you could also start a journal to write down how you feel . dont worry about grammar or spelling . just write . like meditation , journaling will also help you to release negative feelings . vigorous exercise releases endorphins , which help to heal emotional pain . go for a run or a power walk . sign up for a kickbox cardio class . if you enjoy playing sports , ask your friends to play a game with you . contact with nature can do wonders to lift your mood . walk in the park . help your parents in the garden . even if you just sit under a tree and watch the local squirrels steal food from the birds , you could do yourself a world of good . unless your parents were each others first loves , they had to deal with broken hearts , too . when they see that youre hurting , theyll want to help . accept their offer . express your feelings the same way you would with your friends . talking to other people you trust is a great way to get a different perspective on the relationship . talking to someone can be especially helpful when the person is older than you . grief is a natural state that happens to everyone . depression , on the other hand , can be deadly . when youre grieving , you acknowledge what still matters . in depression , nothing seems to matter . seek professional help if you lose interest in things you used to be passionate about . you close yourself off from your friends . you engage in destructive behavior like self - mutilation . you think about committing suicide . dont call or text your ex . back away from their friends and family , as well . its okay to eventually work on a friendship , but its best to back off in the beginning . this will allow you to get used to life without your ex . if you and your ex had friends in common before you started dating , its up to you whether to keep those friends in your life . choosing to keep them means accepting that theyll still want to hang out with your ex . stay civil about the matter . dont bad - mouth your ex or their new significant other . if you have mutual friends , make it clear to those friends that you do not want to hang out unless your ex is not around . it is important to set these boundaries and expectations ahead of time so your friend will know . unfollow or delete your ex from your friends list . stop checking their feeds . dont accept their private messages . make your own posts private so that your ex wont see them . give back your exs class ring or jacket . donate the teddy bear they gave you to a childrens charity . pawn or donate any jewelry they bought for you . separating yourself from these reminders will help you make a clean break . its up to you if you want to get rid of photos and love letters . if it was a bad breakup , delete or recycle them . if youve agreed to be friends , you could stash them away in the garage or attic . for digital mementos , you could save them to a flash drive and ask your parents to hide it for a few years . it is normal and healthy to take some time to yourself after a breakup before you begin dating again . if you rebound with someone new , you risk experiencing unresolved anger for your ex . tell yourself that its okay to be single , and believe it . work out your old feelings for your ex before you start dating again . invite them to your house for a pool party . catch the latest blockbuster , and grab some pizza afterwards . go ice skating or play a friendly game of soccer . spending time with your friends will boost your self - esteem , occupy your mind with fun things , and remind you that you can enjoy yourself without a romantic relationship . maintaining your interests is an important part of moving on . keep on doing the things you enjoy after your breakup . for example , if you like to paint , then continue to paint . if you play an instrument , keep playing . if you play a sport , keep playing that sport . be honest about why youve contacted them . explain your feelings calmly and maturely . dont yell or insult them . if this is your first conversation since the breakup , keep it short , and dont expect instant friendship . you could say dont freak out . im not trying to win you back . i just think were both entitled to some closure . im just trying to get some perspective on our split . tell me honestly why you broke up with me . be aware that this question may bring up some unresolved feelings , so you may encounter some criticism if you go this route . we might not be a couple anymore , but i hope we can be friends eventually . dont spend too much time alone together . instead , hang out with mutual friends . avoid physical contact , which could stir old feelings . if youre trying to rekindle the flame with your ex , you shouldnt try to be their friend . you dont have to become best friends . however , youll at least show your ex that youve accepted their new significant other . when you feel comfortable , just smile or say , hi as you pass each other in the hall . if theyre with your ex when you hang out , include them in conversations .

accept that theyre okay . give them space . be respectful .

how to deal with an ex who seems fine after your breakup 1

you may have trouble understanding or accepting that your ex seems okay after the breakup if the breakup was difficult for you . you may want to know that they are as miserable as you are . instead , you can deal with your ex a lot better and handle interactions with them if you accept the fact that they seem fine with the breakup . if someone tells you that your ex is doing okay or if you see your ex and they seem okay , then just be happy for them . for example , if a friend says , ashley seems cool after the breakup , you could say , okay , thats good . that makes me happy . unless you are prepared to hear that they are happy without you , avoid asking your ex if they are really doing okay or happy since the breakup . you might not like their response . keep in mind that just because your ex seems fine doesnt mean thats necessarily the case . your ex may just be acting that way so you dont know how upset they are . you can deal with an ex who seems fine after your breakup by keeping your distance . you dont have to avoid them like the plague , but do make sure that you arent going out of your way to interact with them . avoid trolling their social networking profiles looking for new posts and pictures . for instance , you should resist checking their facebook profile daily to see if their relationship status has changed . dont call , text , or message your ex unless you have a legitimate reason . for example , calling because you have a child together is a legitimate reason . calling because you saw your exs favorite car isnt . depending on the circumstances of the breakup , you may have some built up anger or resentment toward your ex . when you have interactions with your ex and they seem fine after the breakup you will be able to handle it if you remain respectful . you should also be respectful when you are talking to other people about your ex . avoid yelling , scream , crying or making a scene when you are interacting with your ex . for example , dont walk up to them and start calling them names . talk to your ex in a calm , confident way when you interact . for instance , you might calmly say hi when you see your ex out in public . avoid gossiping or badmouthing your ex . try to say something positive or at least neutral about your ex . for example , you might say , oh , ok if someone tells you that your ex is doing fine .

realize that your feelings are normal . vent . talk to your parents about it . ask your parents about dating . be glad it didnt work out .

how to deal with a guy not liking you in middle school 2

you may feel disappointed , sad , or even rejected . these are all perfectly normal feelings to have . they may last for a little while , but they will fade . express your sadness in healthy ways . let yourself be upset and even cry . let it out , and then promise yourself to let it go . dont tell a bunch of friends , though . for example , dont text your friends about what your crush said or did today . kids sometimes tease other kids who have crushes . try writing down your thoughts in a journal at home , andor listening to music . you may want to choose one best friend who you really trust to keep a secret . whoever you choose to talk to about your crush , when you are done venting , ask that person to stop you if you start talking about your crush after you decided to let it go . your parents are adults and their judgment is fully developed . you can trust and confide in them more than you can trust your classmates , because your parents are more mature and want you to live well . help them to relate to what youre going through . try saying , can you hear me out and be nonjudgmental i would like someone to talk to . ask something like , what mistakes did you make as tweens and teenagers and what did you learn this will help remind them of what they went through and how they felt at your age . if they cant think of any mistakes , try asking something else to open up the conversation , like , how about any funny stories from when you were my about my agetry asking , who was your first crush , ask what your limits are when it comes to socializing with guys outside of school hours . it might not matter if your crush doesnt like you back , if youre not allowed to date yet . try not to get mad or defensive at your parents answers – remember that are guiding you out of love . try asking , am i allowed to go to the movies with a group of friends that includes a guy am i allowed to go on one - on - one dates middle school relationships usually last just a few weeks . think about this imagine that he did like you , and you got your hopes up , only to be broken up with twelve days later . that would have be bad for your self - esteemyou wont have to deal with peer pressure to do anything youre not ready for yet . when you break up with someone in middle school , you still have to see them in class , which can be very uncomfortable . you arent really ready for a relationship yet . your mind and body are still growing , and so are your classmates . if a guy approaches you and says that he likes you and wants to date you , try saying , thanks for thinking of me , but i need to focus on my studies .

learn who you are . think about how you want to be treated . focus on you . forget about guys for a while .

how to deal with a guy not liking you in middle school 3

you dont want to think of yourself as anybodys girlfriend until you know yourself better . otherwise , you risk being defined as somebodys girlfriend instead of what makes you uniqueyou can learn about yourself by thinking about why you liked him in the first place . things you like about your crush can actually give you clues about who you are and want to become . for example , you may feel that you like the guy because he sounds smart when he talks in class . that tells you that you admire the quality of intelligence , and you would probably like to be seen as smart yourself . you may even realize that you dont know your crush as well as you thought you did . you wouldnt want a relationship with a guy who doesnt like you a good relationship is balanced . ask your parents what healthy relationships are like . think about your talents and good qualities . get busy doing things you like to do . get involved with sports , clubs , and school . hang out with friends or find an after - school activity you enjoy . try reading some new books . remember how special and wonderful you are you can develop better study skills to prepare for your future education if you dont date in middle school . being preoccupied with boys gets in the way of homework . some kids who date in middle school even end up dropping out of school you want to have an education so that youll be able to get a good job and support yourself in the future . youre also less likely to get depressed if you ditch the idea of dating in middle school . focus on making good friends instead of thinking about romantic relationships . dating in middle school involves things like talking , texting , sitting around at a fast food place , holding hands , maybe a hug – youre not missing out on anything . but you could miss out on some great friends if youre busy spending time with crushes in middle school . relationships with your friends and even your best friends can suffer . guys in middle school are immature . for example , they may be more interested in playing basketball after school than having a girlfriend . if you wait until youre older to start thinking about guys romantically , you will probably have more freedom to date then anyways for instance , with curfew , time you can spend on the phone or internet , places you can hang out , etc .

boost your self - esteem . take care of your health . express your feelings . develop your interests .

how to deal with an ex who seems fine after your breakup 2

if you focus on yourself and your self - esteem you can deal with an ex who seems ok after your breakup . boosting your self - esteem will make it possible for you to recover from the breakup and be okay like your ex . make a list of all of the good things about you . include things about the way you look , skills you have , and things about your personality . use positive self - talk with yourself . for example , get in the mirror and tell yourself , im a great person with a lot of great qualities . when you are dealing with a breakup , even if your ex seems fine , you need to do things to make sure that you are fine . it will be much harder for you to deal with your ex if you are tired , hungry , or just plain not feeling well . avoid eating junk foods as a comfort . instead , eat a healthy , well - balanced diet . get 6 – 8 hours of sleep each night . an hour before bed , start preparing yourself to settle down and rest . participate in physical activity on a regular basis . for example , start jogging , go swimming , or join an athletic team . do not turn to drugs or alcohol for comfort . you can deal with an ex who seems fine after your breakup if you make sure that you arent bottling your feelings up . doing this can stress you and make the breakup more difficult to handle . cope with the breakup and with your ex by expressing your feelings appropriately . talk to friends and family members to help you process your feelings . talk to someone close to you about how you are feeling . for example , you might say , would you mind talking with for a little while . im having some feelings about my breakup . avoid trying to talk to your ex about how you are feeling . they may not want to talk or respond to you the way you want them to . try expressing yourself creatively . for instance , write a song or a poem or paint a picture about how you are feeling . during your relationship you may have stopped doing some of the things you like to do in order to make time for your partner . you can deal with an ex who seems fine after your breakup if you focus on doing things that you enjoy and are interested in . make a list of activities and events that you would like to participate in . pick one thing off of the list and get information on how to participate in the activity . make a list of skills and talents that you want to develop and how you can do so . for example , you might put fencing lessons on your list .

reconnect with family and friends . reflect on what you have learned . keep a journal . get help if needed . be patient with yourself .

how to deal with an ex who seems fine after your breakup 3

one of the best things you can do after a breakup in order to move on is to make time for the people that are important to you . reconnecting with people that you care about can provide you with support and encouragement . they can also help you deal with the fact that your ex seems fins after the breakup . make time to just hang out with each other . you dont have to have plans to do anything or go anywhere . you can just enjoy each others presence . when your friends and family invite you places accept their invitation . you could have a good time with them and meet new people . breaking up is a difficult process , and you may be feeling upset about everything that has happened . to help make yourself feel more positive , change your thinking about the breakup . take the breakup as an opportunity for new growth and experiences . use it to learn something new about yourself that you can apply to future relationships . for example , think about why the relationship ended . take those problems , and improve on them in your next relationship . journaling can help you deal with an ex who seems fine after your breakup in a number of ways . journaling is a way to express your feelings , organize your thoughts , and set post - relationship goals for yourself . make regular entries in your journal about how you feel about the breakup and how you feel about your ex . include goals and action steps for moving on after the breakup in your journal . for example , you might write , one of my goals is to save the money i was spending on date night . a breakup can cause depression , grief , and anxiety , but you can get help to ensure that you heal in a healthy and supported way . reach out to a mental health professional who can coach you during this time . the therapist may ask details about your relationship , such as the state of the relationship before breaking up , how long you had been together , and whether the breakup was mutual or not . you can also reach out to friends and family members during this time . no matter how the relationship ended or how youre your ex seems to be handling it , dealing with a breakup takes time . in order to cope with the breakup and deal with the fact that your ex seems fine , you should give yourself time to move on . dont let anyone tell you that you are taking too long moving on from the relationship . give yourself time to heal and be okay . remind yourself that everything takes time . tell yourself , theres no deadline for moving on and being fine , so i dont have to rush myself . consider talking to a professional if you have been having difficulty for a long time dealing with the breakup or seeing your ex seem fine .

know this will take time . understand the emotions that you are feeling are normal and embrace them . hide everything that it is too difficult to see right now . try to keep a regular schedule as best as you can . try to get your mind off of it . enjoy spending time with the people who are still in your life . accept the end of the relationship .

how to cope with depression after a break up

especially if the relationship was long - term , this will be a difficult and probably a long process . expect that , and give yourself as much time as you need to healrecover . dont beat yourself up - your feelings or angerfrustration and sadness are natural and normal . cry if you need to . go ahead and cry , use a whole box of tissues and feel miserable for a while . its okay . youre entitled . but eventually , you do need to pick yourself back up and move on . life will go on , and believe it or not , so will you take everything that reminds you of your ex pictures , letters , keepsakes and put it all in a box . then put the box someplace far away like high up in your closet . dont throw it away - you may regret it later . just keep it stored someplace safe , but dont keep re - reading and looking at it all right now and make yourself miserable . just put it away for now and give yourself a break . its going to be hard at first , but you may have to force yourself to eat regular meals and sleep regularly . this too will take time , so be patient with yourself . go out and do something you enjoy , like a hobby you have always loved , whether its biking or karate or drawing , playing guitar , etc . make sure you are focusing on the activity and the joy that it brings you , thereby distracting yourself . spend lots of time with your friends and family during this time . they will be your support system as you deal with the aftermath of the break - up . did you see some of these people much during the relationship if the relationship was intense and long - term , chances are you have not seen some of your friends or maybe even family for months . take time to spend quality time with them and do something fun . make sure your friends and family know what happened , and ask them to be a support system for you , to help you through this difficult time . remember that the relationship happened for a reason , and nothing is ever wasted in life . perhaps you learned a valuable lesson that you will be able to take with you into your next relationship and eventual marriage . or perhaps you are only broken up for a short time and the relationship will be restored . either way though , you must move on with your life .

find a legitimate reason to break up with her . find a quiet , isolated place free of distractions . start off blunt . give her a truthful explanation . take responsibility for your mistakes , if possible . be calm and reassuring . talk to her , but keep the conversation short . follow the list of donts .

how to break up with a girl

you need a reason to break up with her , even if your feelings have simply changed and she hasnt done something wrong . when youre in a relationship with someone , you owe it to them explain yourself . youd want a reason if you were being broken up with , wouldnt you here are some common reasons that people break up with one another cheating . a relationship is between two people . threes a crowd . disrespect . your partner doesnt treat you the way you know you should be treated . manipulative relationship . your partner manipulates you to get what she wants . falling out of love . you realize , after time , that you dont have feelings for her the way you used to in the beginning . distance . the physical distance between you two makes it hard for a relationship to happen . boredom when you are not just enjoying the time you spend with each other breaking up in person can be really hard , but again , you definitely owe it to her . where you do it can be virtually anywhere — a room , a park , or a schoolyard , so long as theres not much to distract you while you break the news . a quiet , public place might be good for two reasons . its harder to fight in public places because you have everyone looking at you . the breakup will usually take less time if you do it in public . never break up over text or email . try not to break up over the phone . these methods can reflect poorly on you , and your soon - to - be ex will probably let every girl know what you did . its not easy , but ripping the band - aid off quickly will be less painful for both parties than dragging your feet in the mud . if you can , go right out and say it example i hate to do this because youve meant so much to me , but i think we should break up . example im really struggling with this right now , so i apologize if this doesnt come out in a good way , but i think we should call things quits . example maybe this wont come as a huge surprise to you , but i think its best if we called things off between us . tell it like it is . draw on the reasons you came for why you want to break up , leaning on them . give her a full explanation , but dont list every single part of the relationship that was bad or out of whack — it could cause her to become angry and combative . example i know its not what you wanted to hear , and if i could change the way i feel , i would . the truth is , i dont know if were really compatible . i dont get along with your friends , you dont get along with mine . you hate sports , i live for them . i tried to ignore our differences in the beginning , but i cant anymore . i honestly think you and i both would be happier with someone else . if your girlfriend cheated on you , manipulated you , or disrespected you , there may not be anything you need to take responsibility or apologize for . on the other hand , relationships are usually two - way streets her actions are affected by your actions , which means you might bear some responsibility for what went wrong in the relationship . own up to it if you feel you should example i know i deserve some of the blame . i shouldnt have let you disrespect me or my friends i could have told you it bothered me , and maybe you would have changed . but its become such a problem now that i dont think we can change it anymore . example part of it is my fault . i pushed you away when you really needed someone , and i guess you could say that i pushed you right into his arms . i understand why you did it , but i cant forgive you right now . hopefully sometime in the future ill be able to . breakup speeches can escalate or go wrong in so many different ways . the key is to stay calm , put yourself in the other persons shoes , and try not to win the argument . shell probably counter with some other facts she may even call you names . you probably would , too , right think about what she has to say , dont lose your temper , and try your best not to make her feel bad . if youre genuinely sad that youre breaking up , and you think it might comfort her , show some gentle affection . ask her if you can give her a hug put an arm on her shoulder look into her eyes and offer her a heartfelt smile . these gestures can go a long way toward reassuring her in a tough time . she might have questions answer them truthfully . she might have a different side of the story she wants to tell listen to her . let her get things off her chest . if you notice the argument going in circles and circles , tell her gently i know this is hard , but i feel were just going around in circles . can i give you some time to think about it offer her the opportunity to discuss things at a later time . say something like i know this is a lot to process at once . it is for me , too . maybe you want to talk about it a bit later when emotions arent going everywhere at once there probably isnt a breakup protocol , but there are definitely things that you shouldnt do when breaking up with anyone , no matter who they are to you . they include dont lead her on . if you dont think its a good idea to stay friends after a breakup , say so . its better than giving her false hope . dont be a tattletale . theres a saying loose lips sink ships . well , its not that serious , but what happens between you and her is no one elses business . its okay to tell your good friends , but dont go telling everyone every single detail of the breakup . dont get with someone else before you break up . thats what is called cheating . have a little bit of patience and wait until youve broken up if youre in love with someone else . dont use the breakup as an excuse to treat them badly . whatever they might have done to you , its honestly not worth it trying to make their life hell . have respect and treat them the way that youd want to be treated . itll make the breakup easier on both of you .

give her some space . give yourself some time to reflect . stay busy . let her see you having a great time . make her jealous optional . if it was too easy the first time , make her chase you . if it was too hard the first time , make it easier . if you hurt her , apologize . show what a better , more mature person youve become . tell her how you feel . take her out . keep the girl this time .

how to win a girl back

the first thing you need to do is give the girl some space . if you start knocking down her door and calling her every five minutes shell only pull further away from you . the amount of space and time you give her depends on what happened when you tried to date her . if you ended a serious relationship , youll need to give her more space than you would if you had just dated a few times . dont call her , chat with her at parties , or email her just to see how shes doing . if you see her socially , be polite and say hi , but make it clear that youre not going to bother her . just dont give her too much space . if you leave her alone for a few months , that will give her plenty of time to find someone new . not only should you give her some space , but you should give yourself some space to reflect and think about what went wrong in the relationship . take the time to sit down and ask what you did to make her not want you were you too attentive , too moody , or too distant whatever you did , you have to make sure never to do it again if you want a moment of her day . write down the things that went wrong . consider what you can do to improve this kind of behavior . dont date anyone else during the reflection period . focus on self - improvement and working on not repeating the same mistakes . dont pursue her until youve figured out what went wrong and know how to change it . though you should avoid getting busy in the bedroom while youre trying to win your girl back , you should try to live a busy and active life so you can work on being independent and pursuing your interests . if youre just sitting around waiting for enough time to pass to start trying to hang out with her again , shell know . continue pursuing your hobbies and interests . dont stop doing all of the things you love because your heart is aching . spend time with your friends . theyll cheer you up and lend you a fresh perspective . work out . your self - esteem will improve if you exercise a few times a week , and all the better if she sees you out running . once youve given her some space and have worked on self - improvement , shell be much closer to wanting you . but now you have to put all the pieces together and let her see what an amazing guy you are and how much fun it is to be around you . be strategic . without looking like a stalker , make sure youre hanging out in some of the same places so she can see what a blast it is to be around you . laugh it up . if she sees you , try to laugh with your friends as much as you can without being too obvious about it . be animated . if shes around , be very animated and interested in the conversations youre having , showing that youre a passionate guy who loves to talk to his friends . dont ignore her when she sees you . give her a small wave and go back to the great conversation you were having . dance . thats right . chances are she was mad that you didnt dance with her more . let her see you getting down on the dance floor and having a great time . let her see you being your best self . there was obviously something she liked about you , so use your assets to your advantage . this is an optional move because it depends on the situation . if your relationship ended because she was so jealous that you were always hanging around with other girls , then you shouldnt make her jealous or shell just be reminded of the reason why things didnt work out between you . but if your relationship ended because she thought you were just too into her , or that she was bored by you , then making her jealous is a great move . heres how to do it if youre on speaking terms , casually mention other girls . you can mention one girl a few times , leading her to wonder , who is this girl or you can just talk about a group of girls , mentioning that you were at a party that was filled with mostly girls but that you were okay with that . let her see you with other girls . chat with her for a few minutes before moving on to flirt with another girl thats nearby . make sure youre close enough for her to watch it happen . dont overdo it . if she hears you talking about other girls and sees you flirting with others , she may want you even more , but if youre all over every girl at every party , you may look desperate or sleazy . if you cant think of what went wrong in the relationship because you smothered her with love , then chances are that this was exactly what went wrong . she must have felt that your love and relationship was too easy , so you should try to make it more of a challenge . be aloof . you should still give her some attention , but act busy or distracted and like youre not giving all your attention to her for once . this will confuse her and will make her want you more . be sparing with the compliments . if you did nothing but compliment her 247 when you were together , give her just one compliment to show that youre not obsessing over her . let her come to you . she was probably used to having you come up to her , touch her , and talk to her all the time now , its time for some role reversal . if youre at a party , let her approach you instead of stopping everything youre doing to head her way . if you broke up because she felt that you didnt give her enough affection or time or that you spent too much time flirting with other women , its time to do the exact opposite and to make yourself available to her and have no other women on your radar . show her that your schedule is free and that youre up for hanging out whenever . shell no longer have to hang out with you during the one hour youre free . dont make her jealous . in your case , you should stay away from the other ladies as much as possible to show that you only have eyes for her . take the time to listen . if she thought you didnt care about her feelings before , maintain eye contact and let her talk without interrupting . you can mention something she said in the conversation a day later to show that you really do hang on to her every word . compliment her . if you never complimented her before , shell see that you changed . if you really want her back , you have to be the man and apologize for what went wrong . if she was hurt by you , shell want to stay away from you for fear of getting hurt again . so man up and tell her you made a mistake . make sure to do this in person . it wont do if you just send her a text message or an e - mail it has to be in person otherwise she will see that you are not very serious about this apology and so she wont take it seriously either . so own up and go apologise for what you did to her . be sincere . maintain eye contact when you talk to her and keep a calm , even tone . she wont believe you if it sounds like youre apologizing just because its what you should do . be specific . dont just say , im sorry for everything . say , im sorry i didnt listen to you when you really wanted to talk . i should have been much more attentive . she will appreciate this , and it will make you seem more self - aware . dont be disappointed if she doesnt accept your apology right away . if she doesnt accept it , shes probably still working through what happened but still appreciates your effort . just say , you cant blame me for trying instead of arguing her into accepting your apology . she should be able to see how much youve changed without you having to say it yourself or to convince her that youre completely different . face it - - many girls are more mature than their male counterparts , so wow her with your ability to be rational and mature . dont be moody . act even - keeled and calm , and shell be impressed . be confident . show her that youre happy who you are and what you do , and shell be happier with who you are too . be responsible . show her that you can manage your finances , hold down a good job , and take care of your dog at the same time . dont be jealous . dont ask her about that guy shes been talking to this will only encourage her to talk to him more , and will make you look insecure for caring . once she wants you a bit more and can see that youre a different person , its time to stop playing games and to tell her how you really feel . how else can you get the ball rolling if it ended badly , shes not going to ask you to pick things up again , so you need to get your act together and open up . tell her at the right place and time . pick a time when shes not too busy and you can be alone , ideally at night or in a semi - secluded location . maintain eye contact when you tell her . no looking around , no checking your phone . no more mr . tough guy . its time to be open and honest and to share your true feelings . first , acknowledge what went wrong , and apologize for it again if you havent already . then , tell her how much youve changed and how much youd love to give it another try . say , i cant believe what an idiot ive been . you were the best thing that ever happened to me and i really screwed it up . let me make it up to you . dont sound like youre begging and pleading instead , make it sound like barely a question at all . let her know that youre going to try again , and hopefully youll get the answer you were looking for . if she agrees to go out with you , you better do it right this time . youre lucky enough to be getting a second chance , and third chances are hard to come by . make the most of your time together and make sure to treat her right . heres what to do turn up the romance factor . bring her flowers and take her to a romantic restaurant . now , you shouldnt overdo it to the point that she feels uncomfortable . just add a little bit of the romance that was probably missing before . compliment her . let her know she looks nice when you pick her up , and compliment her throughout the date . let her know how much youve missed her . find one or two moments during the date when you tell her how glad you are to have her in your life . in the end , be yourself . you can become a better listener , a more attentive person , or just learn to understand her needs , but in the end , youre still you , and you should make sure she likes who you really are . dont try so hard to show that youve changed that theres nothing left of the old you . if the date went well , and if there are more dates to follow , you need to make sure the relationship doesnt end for the same reason if you really want to stay with this girl . if shes a keeper , you must remind yourself that you have to continue making her feel special . remind yourself what happened the last time , and vow not to do it again . look at it as starting fresh . you dont have to rehash the old relationship , but work on building something completely new and much better . relax . just enjoy being with the girl instead of worrying about not screwing up again all the time .

dont break up with your partner by text , phone or email . dont place blame solely on the other person for the breakup . dont lead your ex on . dont be a blabbermouth . dont be petty . try to minimize the heartache . be prepared for a range of emotions . give her a truthful explanation . be reassuring . offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions .

how to break up with your girlfriend nicely

this is disrespectful , and for your soon - to - be ex , it can feel like youre being evasive . have the decency to do it privately and in person . you might not realize it , but there are benefits to ending a relationship in person . for one thing , it gives both people a chance to talk and reflect on the situation . and even though it will be harder to do , it will most likely lead to less drama , which is a good thing . things are never that simple . be prepared to discuss your relationship without pointing your finger . you can probably find bad things about your relationship that you contributed to , if you really wanted . in an effort to be fair , and to not have your ex - girlfriend feel like she is directly responsible for the end of the relationship , be sure to mention the things that you could have changed to make the relationship better . in some cases , the blame will be solely on the other person . in those situations , its okay to tell it like it is . if your girlfriend is cheating , abusing drugs , manipulative , or increasingly disrespecting you , you can lay the blame directly on her actions . in most cases , this can cause an argument , so be prepared . the upside is that youre being honest with both yourself and her why the relationship didnt work , leaving you both with a better chance of finding lasting love later on . isnt that what you both want if you dont want to be friends afterward , dont leave the door open for that possibility . find a nice way to say it . instead of oh yeah , and i dont want to stay friends afterwards , just so you know , try something like you know that i care for you . i just dont think it will be healthy for either of us to stay friends immediately after we break up . hopefully sometime down the road , when weve both figured stuff out , we can get to that place . use discretion when telling mutual friends about your break up . bragging or gossiping could be very hurtful to someone who may already be in a fragile emotional state . on top of that , it could encourage your ex to sling some nasty rumors your way , and generally cause some immature behavior . tell your close friends , but dont publicize your breakup to acquaintances or people you hardly know . its probably a good idea to tell your close friends what happened between you and your ex . its probably not such a great idea to start telling your entire social circle via facebook , or every girl in your school , that you and your ex are history . it just smacks of desperation . being petty can be hard to define , but it usually includes doing things that you wouldnt want your girlfriend to do with you if she were hypothetically breaking up with you . this is called the golden rule . do unto others as you would have them do unto you . its a great rule . dont cheat on your ex before you break up with them . if something is simmering between you and another girl , have the decency to wait a bit , really think about your feelings , and break up with your current girlfriend before you do anything with the other girl . it will look better to your ex , and feel better for you . dont treat them poorly before the relationship has ended . better yet , dont treat them poorly at all . if youre still in a relationship , you owe something to the other person . its not really okay to check out before things have ended . if you dont feel like being nice to your girlfriend , you owe it to her to give her the opportunity to find someone who can . there is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person . its just like ripping off a bandage — if you rip it off all in one go , the pain will be over quickly , but if you do it slowly , it will hurt for longer . you can help minimize the heartbreak in a couple of ways dont be distant . even if you dont really feel like it , offer hugs and other appropriate signs of affection if your ex looks like she needs it . be reassuring , not selfish . find the right time to break up . obviously , theres never a perfect time . but right before a celebration , test , or vacation is a bad time to do it . give yourself enough time , and try to do it when she doesnt have anything else significant going on afterward . resist the urge to argue . when someone is being broken up with , theres a good chance theyre going to be angry . dont feed her anger by provoking , debating , or belittling her . ex - lovers often say very hurtful things when they argue . when you finally break up , you have to be prepared for anything . it could be sadness , anger , or even a lack of emotion . its okay to feel any and all of these emotions during a breakup . if you feel like showing emotion , dont hold back . if the emotion isnt there , for whatever reason , dont force it . its the least that she deserves . if you cant come up with a legitimate reason for why youre no longer interested in the relationship , try thinking it over talk with a friend . it doesnt have to be perfect , but it should be legitimate . you owe it to her . show her that youve given it some thought , and offer her some facts to back it up . dont be aggressive or combative . when explaining the reasons for a breakup , dont talk about other relationships . your relationship is your own , and breaking up isnt about comparing your relationship to anyone elses . stay there for as long as she needs an explanation . dont run out the door as soon as youve said the words lets break up . stay with her while shes processing the information , answering any follow - up questions she may have . if you keep returning to the same questions over and over again , tell her that you think thats happening . if its appropriate , let her know why you think that shell make an excellent girlfriend for someone else sometime down the road . talk about the aspects of her personality that attracted you to her in the beginning , and the traits of hers that stayed strong during the relationship . this way , she wont feel as horrible it could do something good for her confidence , which will probably be shaken by the breakup . unless youve decided that its absolutely the best to not talk after the breakup , give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm . this will give you both time to think , and may help her feel like she is also given a chance to get things off her chest .

ask your parents why . be respectful . explore compromises . seek the help of a trusted adult . understand your feelings . think before you speak . deliver the message . be aware of timing . ensure he understands your point of view . dont apologize or defend yourself . remain calm . suggest that you be friends instead .

how to tell a guy that youre not allowed to date

you might be aware of your parents rule , but not fully aware of the reasons for why your parents have this rule . understanding why your parents have created this rule will help you explore your feelings , as well as communicate to your guy why you cannot date . parents create such rules because they are worried about your safety and well - being . they do not want to see you with a broken heart , or they might be worried about you being sexually active . or , perhaps they think dating will distract you from focusing on your schoolwork . listen to your parents reasons without interrupting them . acknowledge their concerns , and tell them that you want to be safe , too . if your parents are worried about you being sexually active , show them that you are informed about safer sex . you can say , i appreciate your concerns , mom and dad . but , a nurse from planned parenthood gave a talk at school about safer sex last month . here are the pamphlets she gave us . i am well informed about issues of consent and how to practice safer sex . if you are not sexually active and have no desire be sexually active , tell them this , too . for example , i know you are concerned , but i am not sexually active , and i do not plan on being sexually active any time soon . i am just interested in getting to know someone better . if your parents are open to the idea , explore compromises that will make them feel more comfortable . you could suggest group dates instead of one - on - one dates , or they may be more open to chaperoned dances . also , discuss being home at a certain time , or only going on dates with people they have met and know well . if negotiation is not an option , it is ok and common to feel angry andor frustrated . at this point , you can seek out the advice and help of other adults in your life , for example older family members , teachers , or counselors . if you cannot , or your parents will not discuss dating with you , seek the help of other adults - - for example , an older relative or sibling . an older adult might have a better understanding of your parents perspective , and they might be able to explain it to you . they may even be able to help you talk with your parents about the issue . make sure you seek out someone you trust . after you have spoken with your parents or a trusted adult , take time to analyze your feelings . work out how you feel about the situation , and what your needs are . by understanding your feelings , it will be easier to explain to your guy why you cannot date . for example , you may agree with your parents on some issues , but not on other issues . or , you might not agree with them at all , or fully agree with them . the point is to take the time to understand where you stand on the issue . it can be difficult sorting out your thoughts and feelings . if you need help , consult your school counselor or another trusted adult . before you talk to your guy , come up with various explanations that communicate how you feel and why you cannot date in an effective way . by not planning out what you will say , you might end up saying something you regret or do not mean . write down different explanations , and practice saying the best one in front of the mirror . make sure your tone of voice is confident . when delivering the message , make it clear that the issue is not with him , but with your age or your parents rules . this way , you can avoid making him feel rejected or at fault . make your feelings and opinions on the issue clear , as well . you can say , hey , john . i want to talk about what you asked me the other night—dating . i spoke with my parents , and they still think i am too young to date . i agree with some of their reasons , but at the same time , i feel that i am mature enough to date . but , i do still live under their roof , and i have to abide by their rules . i hope you understand . when confronting him , make sure it is an appropriate time . you want to choose a time and place that ensures that you are being heard and understood . try to choose a time when you are both relaxed and not preoccupied with something else . if he is busy with schoolwork , sports , or is hanging out with his friends , choose another time to tell him . avoid bringing up the issue during an intense moment , like an argument . also , dont use your news as a weapon to gain an advantage or to hurt him . before he begins to respond to what you have just said , make sure he understands what you said first . ask him to repeat or summarize what you just said . by doing this , you can avoid any miscommunication . for example , before you respond , can you summarize what you heard me say so i can be sure that i communicated clearly and that you understood correctly . provide any needed clarification , especially if he feels that he is at fault . his agreement with your message should not be an issue . at this point , your priority is to ensure that you were heard and understood correctly . therefore , do not get hooked into apologizing or defending your message . everyone has a different way of coping with something they do not want to hear . therefore , he might be confused or angry . if he reacts negatively , such as anger or inappropriate comments , remain calm . dont yell back or return inappropriate comments . if he threatens you or makes you feel unsafe , stop the conversation and leave immediately . try to remember that his reaction might be because he wasnt prepared for the news . you might need to reiterate and reinforce the idea that the issue is not with him . you can say , i understand that youre angry . but it isnt about you , and the decision is not a reflection of you or your actions . it is about how my parents and i feel . if he does not have a problem with what you said , and understands your reasons , suggest that you guys remain good friends . remaining friends will strengthen and add depth to your friendship . if you stay friends long enough , your chance to date him might become a reality .

choose a good time and place to talk . think about texting him if youre worried about a hostile reaction . plan what you want to say . be honest and direct . withhold some information , if necessary . be careful about being friends . lessen contact for awhile . repeat your rejection if necessary . ignore him if he keeps pressuring you for a romance . do not wait to tell him youre not interested . fade away only under certain circumstances . do not simply avoid him if you have the same social circle .

how to tell a boy you arent interested in a relationship

its best to have the conversation in person , especially if the guy is a friend . this way , you can make sure theres no confusion and address any questions he might have . make sure you pick a solid time and place to talk . there is no good time to tell someone youre not interested , as the conversation will always be somewhat sad . however , you may not want to tell the guy right before a stressful work or school day . you may want to wait for , say , a weekend when hes not busy . pick a place that does not seem date - like . going out to breakfast , for example , may feel like a date . instead , you could tell him you want to talk to him and invite him to a non - romantic public place , like a low - key coffee shop . while face - to - face is usually ideal , in some cases its not the best idea . if the guy has been aggressively pursuing you and making you uncomfortable , send a text rejection . you can email him or text him youre not interested . this will save you from dealing with a potential outburst on his end . you should only do this if you feel the guy will get hostile . in most cases , its best to talk face - to - face . it can be nerve - racking to spill your feelings to someone , so spend some time thinking about your words . you can even write down your feelings and then read over your notes to try to figure out how to best phrase your feelings . try practicing saying your words a few times before meeting up with him . this way , you can deliver the news in a calm , collected fashion . you want to be direct , but not brutal . make it clear youre not interested in him romantically , but that you still value him . romantic rejection is always hard , so try to reject him kindly . start off with a compliment that does not sound flirtatious . say something , i do think youre a really nice person , but . or i have fun hanging out with you , but . then , quickly let the guy know youre not interested . for example , but i just dont see you as more than a friend . im sorry . you can give a reason if you want . for example , youre just not my type or i think we would want different things out of a relationship . sometimes , there may be a specific reason youre rejecting someone . however , its not always best to be brutally honest . if you dont know this person well , theyre unlikely to change troublesome behaviors just because you ask them to and it may result in them getting hostile . for example , if you dont want to go on a second date with a guy because he talked too much , this information may not be worth sharing . if you were close before the guy developed feelings , you probably want to maintain that friendship . however , sometimes guys feel you will eventually come around if they stay friends with you . if you want to remain friends , make it very clear that you only want that . say something like , i want to stay friends , but only friends . i dont want you harboring false hope im going to come around and see you romantically . if the guy does not seem to be getting the hint , you may have to lessen contact or become more casual friends . at first , the guy may be hurt at the rejection . the two of you may want to reduce contact for a set period of time . this way , he can have time to cope with his feelings of rejection . being around you too much after being rejected may make it hard for him to move on . some guys may not take the hint . even if you think youve been clear , you may find some men still ask you out or flirt with you . if necessary , remind them on occasion . say something like , we talked about this . i just want to be friends . if a guy does not leave you alone after you reject him , cut off contact . its not appropriate to keep badgering someone for a romance if theyve made it clear theyre not interested . stop returning texts and phone calls and get rid of him on social media . the sooner you tell a guy youre not interested , the better . if you sense a guy is interested in you , address as soon as possible . letting it linger will only strengthen the guys feelings , making the inevitable conversation more difficult . some people prefer to simply gradually cut off contact from a guy . you may slowly stop returning texts and phone calls and hope the guy takes the hint . if you only met the guy recently , and only had a few dates , this technique is usually appropriate . however , when dealing with a friend who likes you , a more direct confrontation is important . if you know the guy , or if hes part of your social circle , do not avoid the situation . if you know he has feelings for you , simply avoiding him can only last for so long . its best to address the situation rather than avoiding it altogether .

avoid getting even . keep your distance . learn from the experience . take responsibility for how you may have contributed . forgive . let go . express how you feel . know your basic human rights . dont take it personally . avoid blaming yourself . practice resiliency . use self affirmations . have a solid support network .

how to cope with being used by a boy

revenge might feel good for a moment , but it can have lasting consequences . feelings of hurt can overtake you , leaving you bitter , angry , and hostile , but this doesnt mean you should retaliate . dont meet him on a low level be the bigger person and dont hurt him back . disengage from this person and dont allow him back into your life . if you go to the same school , it might be more difficult , but cut as many ties as you can with him . dont allow him to continue manipulating or using you . create as much distance as you can . delete his number from your phone , cancel connections with him on social media , get rid of his email address , stay away from places he might be , and dont talk to him . being used is a painful experience . remind yourself that you are worthy and valuable and no one has the right to treat you with disrespect . recognize that not every guy is out to use people , and remember that good guys exist . you can use this experience to recognize your own inner strength and learn from the experience . no , this doesnt include blaming yourself , but it does mean you can be completely honest with yourself . taking responsibility is different than taking blame . taking responsibility means keeping yourself accountable and owning what actions may have contributed to a negative situation , but not assuming all wrongdoing in shame . it may be most natural to feel victimized and that you had nothing to do with being used and this might be true . but also reflect on if there were any factors that you contributed that made you a target . its okay to admit that there were things that contributed to what happened . this allows you to gain insight and learn from your mistakes . perhaps you were desperate to have a boyfriend , and liked that he gave you attention , even though it wasnt always positive attention . maybe you were vulnerable after exiting a previous relationship and wanted to be liked by a boy . choose to forgive him , when you feel ready . holding onto bitterness can affect your next relationships and make you feel untrusting toward other guys . forgiving him releases you from your hurt and pain . it also releases the role he played in your life and allows you to move on without bitterness . forgiving him doesnt mean you find his actions acceptable or that youre forgetting what happened , but it means you are allowing yourself the opportunity to heal from the experience . choose to accept what happened between the two of you , then choose to not let him have any more power over you or your emotions . stop holding on to the hurt and allow yourself to start healing . you may never choose to tell him you forgive him , but remember that forgiving him is for you , not for him . when youre ready , let go of him and the pain he caused you . write down his name and what happened , including all the emotions you feel . then , get rid of this paper in a way that is meaningful to you . you can flush it down the toilet , safely burn it , or tear it up . writing down the hurt and pain and then disposing of it is a symbolic way of showing you are ready to move on and let go of the pain this caused . its okay to feel angry , sad , vengeful , or rageful after a betrayal . dont bury your feelings , feel free to express them , even if you dont like to experience negative emotions . you dont have to pretend that everything is okay , and you dont have to jump to forgive him . talk to your friends or a trusted adult about what happened and how you feel . use a journal to write your feelings . if words arent your thing , do art , dance , or listen to music . using art can help you express your feelings . when youve felt manipulated by someone , remind yourself of your rights and when they are being violated . you have the right to stand up for yourself and to acknowledge when you are being treated disrespectfully . some basic human rights include the right to be treated with respect . express your feelings and desires . say no without feeling guilty or explaining yourself . protect yourself . there is nothing wrong with you . its not fair to take the burden of hurt and blame entirely on your shoulders . recognize that he has his own issues and unfortunately , they involved you . you may not have done anything wrong , and perhaps your biggest mistake was being unaware of his behavior . its easy to find fault in yourself or to blame yourself for what happened . yet , self - blame can be a form of emotional abuse on yourself . consider your relationship with him , and ask yourself whether he was treating you with respect . did you feel good about yourself when you were with him its likely he did not treat you with respect and that you are not the one to fully blame . maybe you look back and have regrets or feel bad for your decisions . keep in mind you dont know what would have happened otherwise , and that you didnt have the knowledgeexperience then that you have now . remember , blame doesnt fix a situation . it only makes you feel worse about your decisions . realize that you cannot change your past decisions , but you are capable of changing your decisions in the future . accept that absolutely everyone makes mistakes . its how we learn , so be forgiving of yourself and realize that while it is painful now , youll know better the next time . being resilient means you are able to work through problems — both big and small — and bounce back easily . build your resilience by getting adequate sleep , exercising , and nourishing your body with good food . build your tolerance for uncertain situations and for frustration by keeping an open mind and finding positive outcomes in all situations , even if they seem overwhelmingly negative . keep a positive attitude by filtering negative thoughts blaming yourself , anticipating the worst , seeing things as either all good or all bad and engaging positive thoughts using humor , putting a positive spin on situations , seeing the positives in every situation . keeping your mind and body in positive states help you cope with daily struggles as well as large situations . by using self affirmations , you can begin to change the negative stories you may believe in your head and start being able to handle lifes difficulties more easily . using self affirmations allows you to expand an aspect of yourself . after a difficult situation like feeling used by a boy , you may feel worthless or that you are not valuable . challenge these thoughts by focusing on your value and worth as true statements . first , make a list of your strengths . this will help give you the evidence to counter any negative thoughts about yourself . include things youre proud of , your accomplishments , things you are good at . things like being a good friend , creative , kind , and good at math , and so on . if you have trouble , ask your loved ones to contribute . now when you have the thought , i am worthless , you can look to all the evidence you have collected that says otherwise — think about all the people who dont feel this way about you and who value you as a friend and family member . then counter the negative thought with the affirmation i am a valuable person , because i have many people in my life who value me . once you begin to feel stronger and more confident that your affirmations are true , try saying them aloud or writing them down . you can write them in a journal every day , write them on a mirror for when you get ready in the morning , or start your day by saying them out loud to yourself . you may feel silly at first , but stick with it . you may be surprised at how they start to change your perception and your life the longer you keep with it . keep supportive friends and family members close , and dont be afraid to call someone if you need someone to talk to or need a hug . surround yourself with people that care about you and that you care about back . the people in your life dont want you to suffer alone . reach out for support when you need it . even if you feel like being alone , push yourself and go hang out with friends . let yourself laugh and feel good and enjoy the company of your friends . have friends that you can talk to about your problems that will listen and support you . talk to your parents or a trusted adult when you need a listening ear or you want advice . this can be a teacher , coach , or spiritual leader .

figure out what youre going to say . drop some hints . do it face - to - face if you can . pick the right place and time . tell him its over . after the break up , let him ask questions . explain further if its necessary . avoid being too mean . keep it short . stand your ground . if you want to stay friends , tell him that . end on a good note . dont try to be friends right away . take some time to recover emotionally . dont talk about him behind his back . keep the public hooking up with other guys to a minimum . see if you can be friends eventually .

how to break up with a boy

are you going to break up with him because hes not treating you right , because youve lost interest , or because youre both too busy to make it work whatever your reason , you have to figure out exactly what youre going to say and how youre going to say it . if its something like you falling out of love or falling for someone else , then you can find a nice way of ending it that would cause the least damage . though honesty is important , you dont have to tell him everything if it would only hurt him . if youve fallen out of love , you may not want to be so blunt about it . you dont want him to completely break down if it comes as a shock . though you shouldnt be too obvious about it , you dont want to throw your man completely off guard with the breakup . that means that he shouldnt think that everything is peachy keen the day before the break up , or even the week before . once youve made up your mind , you should break up with him as soon as possible , but if you have to wait a few days to do it , then try to act more cold and distant in the meantime . dont tell him how much you love him , or kiss him or act affectionate with him . dont be a coward and send him a note , email , text , or phone call . unless youre in a long distance relationship or he has a reputation for being violent when he gets bad news , you owe him the courtesy of meeting him in person one last time . if you dont do it in person , hell reach out to you anyway , and youll have to rehash the same painful conversation , but it wont be on your terms as much . if you dont do it in person , he will hold it against you after the relationship is over . its important to break up with the boy as soon as you can after making your decision . that being said , you shouldnt go and break up with him the second you you know it , or you might end up blurting it out in public or at an inopportune moment . just pick a time when youll be alone and will have some privacy , but nowhere romantic so he wont get the wrong idea . dont go to one of your favorite hangouts , or he will be even more crushed with the bad news because hell be thinking of all the great memories youve shared . dont do it the second he gets off work or right before a big test . pick a time when hell be reasonably relaxed and wont have anything else to think or worry about . tell him the truth as much as you can . dont be mean or tell lies—tell him simply that you dont think that the relationship is working out . try to avoid lets just be friends or its not you , its me , as these cliches will make it sound like you havent put much thought into his feelings . let him know that its time to move on , that it just isnt working , and that you hope the two of you can do this maturely . look him in the eyes when youre talking . let him see that this is hurting you , too . its likely that he will want a bigger explanation , even if he doesnt say it right away . be open to talking to him . it will show him youre open to talking , and thus that youll work to be a good friend when hes ready . it will also give him the closure that he may need to move on . he may not want to ask questions or talk at all , though he may come to you with questions later . thats fine . if he really doesnt want to talk , dont push it . there are a number of ways he can react if hes stunned into silence or just wants to leave right away , then fine . but he might really , really want to know why . and you might just have to tell him - - to the extent that you can without hurting his feelings . if you think he doesnt care about you , give him one or two concrete examples , as long as it doesnt sound accusatory . usually , you wont need to go into it that much . if you have an idea that its not working , then he will probably be on the same page . though you may be angry , hurt , or crushed , theres no need to go into it by calling him names , being rude , or making him feel even worse . you should go into it with your head held high , and have him think of you as positively as he can when he looks back on the relationship . no matter how bad things are , things were probably pretty good once , and theres no reason to ruin all that just because youre angry or hurt . if he really hurt you , of course , then this doesnt mean that you should be super nice to him . just avoid cursing , slapping him , or being excessively mean . once youve said your part and have answered a few of his questions , then its time to say goodbye . theres really no point in lingering , sitting around crying and holding each other , and generally making yourselves more upset . the more youll sit there , the more all of those feelings will come rushing back , and the more hurt , sad , confused , disappointed and heartbroken you both will feel . once theres nothing left to say , say goodbye . this is not a negotiation , but a notification . dont let your boyfriend convince you that you should really be together , that youve got it all wrong , or that hell change completely and be perfect for you . youve made up your mind , and theres no turning back now . you had good reasons for breaking up with him , and you should stick to them , no matter how hard it may be . its important to be firm , and to make it clear that you are breaking up , not that you need some time apart . let him know that it is over with a capital o . be sure he knows that you want to give him time to get over you , though . let him know that youre not going to make the first move at the friendship , but that once he feels ready to be friends he should give you a call . this will help give you both time apart to get over the relationship . follow up on your promise to be friendly when he does call you . though you both obviously wont be grinning ear to ear and hugging passionately as you say goodbye , you should try to make things as amicable and polite as possible , even if you feel like screaming your head off . be kind , dont look like youre dying to get out of there , and tell your boyfriend that youre sorry for how hes feeling . make it clear that you want things between you to be as positive as they can , even if you need some space in the beginning . name - calling , flinging insults , or shouting at each other wont lead to anything but more pain . this will not work , no matter what good friends you were before the relationship , or how amicably it all ended . theres just no chance you can go from bfgf to bff , so spare yourself the heartache of trying . spend some time apart and even go a week or two without really talking if its possible with your schedules . try to avoid places where hell be so you dont have to have awkward , painful conversations . take the time to heal before you can decide whether friendship is on the horizon . if you do see him , theres no need to be rude or to run in the other direction . be polite but keep things brief . though you were the one who broke up with the boy , you will still be feeling confused , sad , and hurt . thats only natural . both parties in a break - up have hard feelings , no matter who ends it . you may not be prepared for the fact that you might miss your boy and your relationship , but part of you will . so take it easy the next few weeks . lean on your girlfriends , lay off the booze , and get some much - needed alone time . dont jump in to a new relationship or start dating right away . youll need some time to deal with it . just because the two of you are broken up doesnt mean you can go spreading his deepest darkest secrets . you would want him to respect your privacy too , wouldnt you even if youre hurt or angry , you shouldnt lash or make yourself look like a gossip just because the relationship is over . if you do , then other guys may not be too excited about being your boyfriend . when you talk about the relationship to others , remain respectful . a breakup is not a contest , and youre not going to win by hooking up with more people than your ex . if you cant help but enjoy the single life , keep the publicity to a minimum . dont post statuses or pictures of it on facebook , and dont parade around school with a new boy two days after the breakup . this will only make your ex feel worse . even if you have jumped in to a new relationship pretty soon after the breakup , you shouldnt make it public right after the break up . if enough time has passed - - and that could be months , or even a year or two - - and you can hang out with your ex without having any romantic or hurt feelings , then you may try out being friends . hang out in a group setting , make sure both of you are not feeling romantic , and then try hanging out one on one from time to time if it makes you both happy . remember that , unfortunately , this is not the most likely scenario .

give yourself time . give yourself space from your ex . dont fight your feelings . make plans . take care of yourself . impose a daily limit on grieving . beware of the rebound . watch how you act online . remember that your end goal is to move on . seek help .

how to deal with heartbreak

when youre just coming out of a situation that has caused you heartbreak like the breakup of a relationship youre going to need to give yourself time to grieve and to deal with all the emotions that are going to plague you in those first months . dont immediately throw yourself into work or something else that consumes all your time because youll just keep pushing away the emotions rather than actually dealing with them and that will make it harder on you in the long run . you are going to have lots of emotional ups and downs . recovering from heartbreak isnt a straight line of progression upward , but rather a spiral . just remember as you are going through the same emotional circle , that each time around youre better able to deal with the emotions from the heartbreak and that you are getting better . its nearly impossible to get over the heartbreak of a relationship ending , but constantly being bombarded with information about your ex is definitely not going to help anything . this means no stalking on facebook , no texting , no drunken phone calls . block your ex on social media so that you wont be tempted to spend hours pouring over their facebook page and over - analyzing every single thing they post in an attempt to figure out if they regret not being with you and miss you , etc . etc . if youre constantly trying to stay in communication with your ex youre not going to be able to move on , which will make your feelings of heartbreak and unhappiness that much harder and that much harder to bear . you are going to be devastated when you encounter heartbreak . theres no way to avoid that and if you fight those feelings youre going to make it harder to deal with them in the long run . try journaling about how youre feeling . this is an especially good thing to do if youre bad at talking with other people about your feelings . every day , write down how youre feeling about the heartbreak . gradually , youll see that you are getting better . you dont need to pretend youre fine when youre really really not . accept that youre going to be going through some emotional turbulence for a bit . your friends if theyre true friends will understand and support you . feel free to listen to angsty , angry , sad songs to help get those feelings out , but dont stay there . make sure that you dont only listen to songs about heartbreak and breakups , otherwise youre going to have an even tougher time getting over it . while you will need time to wallow in your unhappiness , you also need to remind yourself why life is worth living . at first it will be really hard to make yourself go out and do anything , but trying to do at least one thing a week can be a good place to start . start small . dont try to make yourself go out and host an entire fancy dinner right after the heartbreak . instead , start by getting coffee or a beer with your best friend , or going to hang out at the library . do things that you enjoy , especially things that you werent able to do while being part of a couple . this will remind you why youre better off without the relationship and remind you how to do things on your own . one of the most important things to do while youre recovering from heartbreak is to take care of yourself . a lot of times youll be feeling super unmotivated and it can be hard to simple get out of bed , but going that extra mile for yourself can help you from falling into a huge pit of despair . reward yourself for things that take extra effort like cleaning your apartment , going grocery shopping , even showering . exercising can be a good way to take care of yourself and boost your mood . exercise releases endorphins , which can help make you feel happier and youll feel better about yourself in general . once youve gotten over the initial shock of the heartbreak , you need to make sure that you dont spend too much time wallowing and grieving , otherwise youre never going to let yourself get over the relationship and thats what you need most of all . set a time each day to reflect on the break - up , usually about 20 - 30 minutes . set a timer so that you know when times up . during the day , as thoughts of the heartbreak come up , remind yourself that you have a specific time set aside and until then , youll focus on other things . make sure that you have an activity that requires your attention preferably something fun schedule for right after , so your attention is immediately diverted . get a trusted friend or family member to help you out . give yourself a certain limit when talking about the heartbreak say 30 minutes and when youve gone over it have your friend or family member remind you to put your focus elsewhere . theres nothing wrong with bolstering your confidence with an easy rebound relationship , as long as both parties know thats all it is . youre going to be in a mire of low self - confidence and vulnerability after a recent split and thats a really bad time to try to start something real with someone else . if youre going out and partying try to moderate your drinking , both so that you dont end up drunk - callingtexting your ex and so that you dont think its a really good idea to try to start something with someone because youre feeling down and your self esteem is low . have your friends help you out . if it looks like youre coming in for a fall , have them remind you about rebounds and just make sure thats really what you want which it can be , but youll need to check in with yourself to make sure . this also refers to texting and calling . you really want to make sure that you dont post tons of angry or upset things about your former relationship and you dont want to invite everyone to witness your mental breakdown over facebook status updates . you also want to make sure that youre not just putting things like cant wait for my hot date tonight on facebook in the hopes that your ex or their friends will see . if youre doing that youre still in the throes of the breakup and youre still doing things for their benefit instead your own . the more you textcall your ex the harder it will be for you to move on , especially if they broke up with you . youll be doing nothing more than boosting their self esteem and lowering your own . delete them from your phone , block them on social media , and dont ask your friends or their friends how they are . the heartbreak comes from the trauma of the end of a relationship and once youve moved on from the relationship itself youll be no longer experiencing the heartbreak . your goal is to remember that this is something that you are capable of , even when it feels like your world has come to an end . you still have a future , remember . even though it no longer involves that other person , you still have hopes and dreams and plans for what youll be doing . youll be grieving the loss of the dreams you were working for with the other person , but youll need to remember that you can replace those dreams with new ones . repeat to yourself i want to be happy . this mantra will remind you that even though youre in the dumps because of heartbreak , you have no desire to remain there . remind yourself that youre working towards being happy and getting over your heartbreak is part of that . sometimes you cant get over something on your own and you need to seek professional assistance . there is nothing wrong with this or with you and you shouldnt feel ashamed about it . heartbreak is painful and it stirs up a whole bubbling cauldron of feelings and emotions that can be difficult to deal with . learn to see the difference between regular sadness over a breakup and true depression . if its been weeks and youre unable to get out of bed , or take care of yourself , or you simply dont care about anything , you definitely need to see a professional .

before you even say a word , think long and hard about why you dont want to date himher . if you still want to say no , thank this person if you hung out together for all the good times you had . be clear about your decision , but do not be bluntly honest about the reason . do not say im not ready for a relationship , or even i already have a boyfriendgirlfriend , you are not obligated to discuss or provide a lengthier explanation of why you do not want to date someone . if you already had a friendship , you may ask if you can still be friends .

how to politely turn down a guy

be sure about your decision . , im sorry , but i dont think were compatible , or i dont feel there is potential for a relationship here , are answers that are far preferable to i dont find you attractive , or i feel that you are boring , which will unnecessarily hurt hisher feelings . this may lead the person to believe that you would date them , so unfortunately they may pursue you even more . if the person persists , be very clear that this is your decision , that you are moving on and that they should move on as well . beware though , that if you maintain the friend thing , heshe might not give up so easily .

tell him to stop immediately . show your emotions . push him away . run away . call for help . involve the police .

how to tell a boy to stop touching you 1

if someone with whom you are not in a relationship touches you inappropriately , that is completely unacceptable . confront the offender immediately . dont worry about being polite . loudly say , stop touching me so that other people around you will hear . do not be embarrassed . its the creep whos touching you that should be embarrassedif it is someone young and they say something like , i was just joking , chill out , dont pay any attention to that . a joke is only a joke if both people are laughing . just say , it wasnt funny and i wont let you treat me like that . then walk away . if you feel disgusted or angry , dont be afraid to express that . you have every right to feel that way and communicating that will show the offender that you mean business . dont be afraid to yell at the person or to say something like , stop it , thats disgustingif you know the person , you might be afraid to confront them because you dont want to make things awkward . but its the person touching you without your permission who is making things awkward dont ever worry about upsetting someone who is disrespecting you . you have every right to be upset and you need to communicate this . you can say something like , stop you have no right to treat me that way or dont do that or stop it i dont like that if the person keeps his hand on you , push him away and loudly say , get off me if you are loud , someone nearby will overhear what is happening and hopefully they will intervene . by pushing him away , you should create distance to allow yourself to get away . if the person is a friend , its time to get new friends friends have to respect one another and this person clearly does not to end a disrespectful friendship , you can say something like , i dont like the way you treat me and i will not allow you to be a part of my life anymore . then look for friends who are kind to you . get as far away from the creep as possible . if you arent able to go very far , for example if you are on public transit , then move to a crowded area . the person will be less likely to continue trying to touch you if you are surrounded by others . if you are at school , go tell a teacher immediately . you could say , ms . anderson , i need to talk to you . jerad was touching me inappropriately and he wouldnt stop . this isnt tattling this is defending yourself against someone harming you . if you are near your house , run home and tell your parents or another adult right away . you could say , mom , this creepy guy starting touching me in the park . if the person continues to harass you , call out for help . simply yell , somebody help me and repeat it until someone hears . the yelling will likely alarm the person touching you , causing them to back off , or someone will hear and intervene . you do not need to deal with this alone . if someone has been harassing you and inappropriately touching you , as soon as you get to safety , call 911 . tell them what happened . tell them where you were and what the person looked like . he needs to be arrested so that he will not continue to harass people . you could tell the police , i was riding on bus 44 at 200pm and this creepy guy kept groping me and wouldnt stop .

tell the truth . thank him . be clear , but not hurtful . follow his lead . if he keeps insisting , tell him things arent going very well at school or work and the last thing you need is a boyfriend on your mind .

how to say no to a boy

if youre going out with someone currently and a guy asks you out , just politely say no thank you , im already dating someone . . if youre not dating someone and a boy asks you out whom youre not interested in , tell him youre very grateful that he asked , but youre just not interested right now . if he is not your type , be nice and say you dont feel a strong connection with him . liking someone for looks is a type of connection , so dont flat - out say that you dont want to date him because hes ugly . even though sometimes its hard to refrain from being brutally honest . if a guy gives you a note , talk to him in person or give him your note reply in person . if he calls you on the phone , dont be afraid to speak to him . the worse thing that you can possibly do is send a message through someone else , it may lead him to feel embarrassed , and next thing you know youre having odd run - ins around the neighborhood with unnamed person . hopefully he isnt too persistent

pick the right time and place . prepare what youll say . predict his reaction .

how to let a guy friend know youre not interested romantically in a nice way 1

if theres no question that your guy friend is suddenly getting butterflies in his stomach every time he sees you , its time to let him know you dont feel the same way before things get out of control . but if you want to deliver the news in the best way possible , you have to pick the right time and place so hes comfortable and receptive , although you dont want it to seem like a date . pick a place that is not romantic . if you tell him the news at a nice restaurant , or while the sun is setting on the beach , hell be thrown off guard . tell him at a place where you would never go on a date . tell him in the morning or during the day . the nighttime is more romantic . pick a place where youll be relatively alone and away from his friends . you dont want him to be embarrassed if other people hear you deliver the bad news . pick a time when hes not likely to be busy or stressed - out . dont tell him the night before a big exam , or when he has an incredibly busy day at work . dont dawdle . once you know he likes you , dont wait too long for the perfect moment to say something . the longer he doesnt know how you feel , the more hurt hell be . if you want to tell him in the most effective way possible , then you should prepare what youll say in advance . if you dont know exactly how youll explain that you dont like him romantically , youll be much more likely to make things more awkward or to get caught in a web of excuses that make everything worse . prepare to keep it simple . you wont have to go into all of the reasons why you only like him as a friend . practice your tone . say everything you plan on saying aloud so you feel more comfortable when the time comes . before you tell him , you should predict how hell react . will he be shocked into silence , or hurt if the guy is your friend , you should have some inkling of how hell react , so you should prepare to react accordingly . if hes a shy and sensitive guy , then he may not have much to say afterwards . think of a few reassuring words you can say , or even a few light - hearted comments , that can make it easier . if hes going to be really hurt , prepare to support him . you dont have to apologize for not liking him , but you can be there for him and tell him not to be so upset . hes a great guy , and hell definitely find someone else .

say no firmly . lie if you need to . dont give them any of your information . get away . stay calm . make a report .

how to safely reject unwanted advances 1

as long as it feels reasonably safe , say no immediately . do not smile , apologize , or say maybe . if you dont want someone , dont give them anything . just say something like no , im not interested . do not allow anyone you dont like to touch you or stand close to you . step back if they are too close to you . turn away if they are taking too long to leave you alone . for instance , if you are at a party , you might say no , im not interested , then turn to your friend and suggest going to another room . if you are alone and the person hitting on you threatens you or makes you feel too uncomfortable to say no , tell them a quick lie that will let you escape . you can say you need to use a bathroom , or that you forgot something in your car , or that you need to make a quick call . get into a public place and get help . put walls between yourself and the aggressor as quickly as you can . unstable or inebriated people sometimes attack even in public . dont give them your name , information about your job , where you live , where youre going next , or anything else . if you arent sure yet if someone is hitting on you or bothering you , just ask why instead of answering the questions , and then decided if you are being advanced upon . explain that you are not interested instead of answering questions . if you are told , it was just a compliment , i just want to talk to you . what do you do for work resist the urge to answer the question . instead , say i am talking with my friends right now or i am not interested in continuing this conversation . once someone has made you nervous , put space between yourself and them . if they dont leave you alone , walk away . leave as long as you can leave safely without being followed . leave with friends if you can . if you feel relatively safe , you can stick around , but dont agree to sit with or stand near the aggressor . try going into another room , leaving a bar or party with friends , or moving to sit at the bar instead of at a table so that the bartender can watch out for you . if you yell at them , they may try to hurt you . be as cool and firm as you can . take deep breaths if you feel yourself losing your temper or getting frightened . take special care to stay calm if you are alone , as you are more likely to be violently attacked . if you are in public , an abuser may try to upset you in order to discredit you . stay calm and make sure to let other people know whats going on . tell somebody so that they can look out for you . if you are at a bar , tell your friends . if someone is making you uncomfortable , tell a bouncer or bartender exactly what happened so that they can keep an eye out for you and eject the person if needed . if it happens in the street , tell the people you can see what happened . if you were threatened , report the incident to the police .

talk ahead of time . move his hand away . tell him to stop . explain your reasons . clarify ways that you are comfortable being touched .

how to tell a boy to stop touching you 2

it can be uncomfortable to bring up a conversation about what forms of intimacy you are comfortable with , but it is much better to do this early rather than while you are kissing . if you know that you arent ready for certain forms of intimacy , find a time to bring it up so that there arent any surprises . sometime while youre hanging out , if there isnt much to do , simply start a conversation by saying , hey , could we talk about something you could say something like , ive been having a lot of fun with you , but before things move forward in our relationship , i wanted to talk about our physical relationship . there are certain things that i am ready for and certain things that i am uncomfortable with . do you mind if we talk about itits ok if you feel a bit awkward bringing this up . it can be difficult to discuss these matters . you could even acknowledge that you feel a little awkward by saying something like , im not really sure how to bring this up , but i wanted to talk to you about our physical relationship . or you could say something like , theres something ive been wanting to talk to you about . its a little awkward , but i was hoping we could discuss it anyway . you could then start the conversation by saying , there are certain forms of touch that i enjoy , but other kinds make me uncomfortable . decide ahead of time what is ok with you . maybe you are ok with hand holding and cuddling , but arent ready for him to touch your breasts . decide this before talking to him to make sure that you arent pushed out of your comfort zone by what he is ready for . if your boyfriend is touching you in a way you dont like , you can start by simply moving his hand away . maybe he just wanted to try something or got a little carried away . by moving his hand , you are giving him a clear signal that you arent comfortable . you can simply move his hand from the area that you dont like him touching and put it somewhere that you are comfortable with . for example , if he is touching your butt and you dont like this , move his hand to your hip if you are more comfortable with that , or simply hold his hand in yours . he should get the hint and know to slow down . when moving his hand away you can make eye contact with him , shake your head , and say , not yet . this will clearly communicate that you arent ready to be touched like that . you should not have to do this more than once . if he keeps trying , you need to tell him to stop . instead of moving his hand away , you could move yourself away by scooting over . if youre sitting on the couch together and hes touching you in an uncomfortable way , just scoot further away from him . he should get the message that you didnt like being touched . if moving his hand isnt enough and he keeps trying , its time to tell him to stop . anytime a boy touches you in a way that you are not comfortable with , tell him to stop right away . it can be as simple as saying something like , hey , not now or im not ready for that . you could even just say , please dont do that . youre making me uncomfortable . your boyfriend needs to respect you and move at a pace that you are comfortable with . if he cares about you , he will stop right away and wait until you are both ready . make sure you stay firm when doing this , or else he might think that you were just flirting or being cute . make it clear that you arent playing hard to get , but youre genuinely uncomfortable . you can even tell him , i dont like that . you can explain to your boyfriend what you are feeling so that he understands . you could say , i really like you , but i feel uncomfortable when you touch me because im not ready for that yet . maybe you would like him to touch you someday , but its moving too fast . you could say something like , i need more time to be comfortable with that . lets slow down . when he hears that you are genuinely uncomfortable , he should immediately stop pushing it and slow down . explain to him where youre at so that he knows why he is making you uncomfortable . you could say something like , this is my first time being in a relationship , so im not comfortable being touched yet . dont be afraid to express how you feel . just because you are uncomfortable being touched , doesnt mean you dont care about him . it just means you arent ready for that , and that is perfectly acceptable . you can say something like , i care about you a lot , but im not comfortable being touched like that yet . if you dont like one way that he touches you , but like other forms of touching , clarify that and let him know what you do enjoy . you could say something like , i enjoy holding hands and i like it when you put your arm around my shoulder because i feel close to you . it is important to communicate not only what you dont like , but also what you do like . this will show him what he can do to make you comfortable while building your relationship .

move away from him . tell an adult . leave him . listen to your gut .

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if your boyfriend wont stop touching you after youve talked to him , this is a serious problem and a huge lack of respect on his part . any touching in a relationship must be agreed to by both people . at this point , you need to get distance from him . get up and walk away . if he asks what you are doing , you could say , i told you to stop and you didnt listen . im out of here and walk out the door . dont stick around to argue about it . you dont owe him an explanation . he owes you a huge apology . if your boyfriend has disrespected you and refused to stop touching you , it is time to involve an adult that you trust . you could tell a parent , older sibling , teacher , coach , religious leader , or counselor . if this happened at school , the boy should be suspended . if it happened outside of school , the boys parents need to be involved . if he went even further than touching , law enforcement agencies may need to be involved . make sure to reach out for help . it is not your job to deal with this alone . the fault is solely on the boy who mistreated you none of it is your fault . if you arent sure how to start the conversation , find a time alone with the adult and say , could we talk about something ive been having problems in a relationship . then tell the adult what happened and ask for help . you could say , my boyfriend started touching me in a way i was uncomfortable with , and when i asked him to stop , he wouldnt listen . any guy who doesnt respect your wishes doesnt deserve you . you dont even need to say anything , just leave him out in the cold if you want to say something , you could tell him , this is over because you disrespected me and i wont stand for that . bye its his own fault he had several chances to stop , and you should never be with someone who doesnt listen to you . if you stick with him and dont deal with it now , you will have problems in the relationship later and will continue to be mistreated . find someone who respects and cherishes you and dont settle for anyone who doesnt . dont ever try to rationalize someone elses inappropriate behavior . if you feel at all uncomfortable , you need to acknowledge that and take immediate actions to stop what is happening . you never need to feel embarrassed or ashamed if someone is making you uncomfortable . instead , listen to how you feel and confront the person . you can simply say , youre making me uncomfortable . please stop .

be honest . be firm . dont lie or make excuses . say how much you value his friendship . take the time to listen to him .

how to let a guy friend know youre not interested romantically in a nice way 2

dont waste time beating around the bush . just tell him that you know he likes you , and that youre just not interested in him in that way . tell him you wish it was different and know that it puts you in an uncomfortable place , but that you just dont see him as more than a friend . tell him that it wasnt easy for you to open up about this , but that it was necessary . hell appreciate that you valued him enough to tell him the truth . just because youre being honest doesnt mean that you should get into the top five reasons why you would never date him . if youre not feeling it , thats okay - - but you dont have to make him feel flawed or not good enough for you . dont be wishy - washy about it . if you dont like him , you dont like him . dont say that youre not at the right place in your life to like him right now , or that youll think about it in a year , once youre done with school . this will only make you look like a flake . the more firm and clear you are , the more hell get the message and will leave you alone on the romantic front . though it sounds harsh , the most important thing is to not give him hope . if he thinks theres even a chance that youll like him later , hell keep waiting for it to happen . remember that being firm doesnt mean that you have to be cruel . you dont have to say that theres a 0 chance that youll ever get together , or that theres no way youd ever go out with him . you will essentially be saying this - - but in a nice way . dont apologize . though the situation is uncomfortable , and you feel bad for him , you cant help how you feel . the worst thing you can do is lie about why you wont go out with him instead of being honest and just saying youre not feeling it . though you may think that a lie or an excuse will make him feel less rejected , the opposite is actually true . hell be able to tell if youre bluffing from a mile away , and that will only make him feel worse . if hes really your friend , then you should respect him enough to tell him the truth . here are some excuses you want to avoid dont say , my life is just so crazy busy right now . no matter how busy you are , youd be able to make time for someone special . this will only make him feel unimportant , and even more hurt if he sees you with someone else a few weeks later . dont say , its not you , its me . dont make up excuses about how you need to work on yourself before being in a relationship , or that you dont know how to commit or that you have low self - esteem . if you really wanted to be with him , you would be . dont say , you can do so much better than me . dont put yourself down as a way to make him feel better . he wont . dont say , i like you but i dont want to ruin our friendship . unless hes your best friend in the world , how many times is that one true this should be absolutely true . let him know that he really is an important friend to you , and that youre so lucky to have him . though you shouldnt say you dont want to date him because hes such a good friend , do say that you hope this doesnt get in between your friendship , and tell him that hes been such an amazing friend to you . be sincere . make eye contact and speak slowly to let him know how much he really means to you . you dont have to go overboard . dont spend twenty minutes extolling his greatest features . hell begin to think , if im so great , then why wont she date me once youve said your piece , its likely that hell have something to say back to you . maybe hell ask some questions , ask what he could have done differently , or just tell you hes hurt . or hell even show that hes a bit mad , and youll see that his pride is wounded . whatever his reaction , take the time to let him talk to you while you nod , listen , and ask questions at the right time . dont let it feel like a one - way exchange . dont interrupt him . if he talks , youll have a better sense of how deep his feelings are , and it can help you see where the friendship stands . you may find out if he has a harmless crush or has been in love with you for years .

dont make it awkward . take a break . go back to being friends .

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after youve told him your news , you should avoid being awkward about it . after your conversation , its likely that youll still see each other , so dont avoid him , blush , or try to run away if you see him . just keep hanging out with your group of friends , and be nice when you see him . dont make things more awkward by telling everyone what happened . if youre in the same group of friends , then everyone around you will be making things awkward too . though you can eventually resume your friendship , you should take it easy for a little while . remember that time you liked a guy who didnt like you back well , did you love hanging out with him after you found out the truth probably not . he may be hurting just by being around you , so try to cool it on the solo - friendship front . you can still be nice if you see him in groups , but dont invite him out to movies , coffee dates , or whatever it is you used to do all the time every chance you get . dont ignore him completely . you can invite him somewhere once in a while so he doesnt feel like youre avoiding him . but wait for him to initiate the friendship move . it may take time for you to go back to being friends with the guy after he revealed his feelings . but in many cases , this is completely doable , as long as there isnt too much water under the bridge . give it a few weeks , or even a few months , and resume hanging out just like you used to . who knows - - maybe youll even be able to laugh about the situation one day , or find out that youre developing a crush on the guy two years down the road . unfortunately , there are some cases where its just not possible for you to return to your former friendship . the guy may feel too hurt or embarrassed , and being around you may only make him feel worse . if this is the case , then accept it and move on .

be unambiguous . set clear boundaries and consequences . hold your boundaries . shut it down if it continues .

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you may prefer to let down an acquaintance gently , but be very clear that you are saying no . say only what is true , and dont feel required to offer them extra details . you can offer reasons , but dont elaborate to make them feel better . they just need to hear that you are turning them down . say , for instance , i value your friendship . im not interested in pursuing anything else with you . im not interested , and its not okay that you asked . you know im in a monogamous relationship . im flattered , but id rather not get involved with a coworker . when you say no , be clear about the fact that this is a closed topic . if you need them to treat you differently now that theyve come on to you , say this as well . i dont want you to ask me again . if you do , i will not feel comfortable around you , and i will not want to spend time together anymore . i am going to tell my partner . dont give me a hard time about that . if you keep harassing me , ill tell the rest of our friends as well . we can talk about this eventually , but id rather you not bring it up at work . if you do , i will feel violated and i will have to tell someone to protect myself . if your acquaintance crosses a line you set , enact the consequences you promised . if you dont , your acquaintance will continue to cross your lines . refuse to attend gatherings at which this person is present . do not hang out or offer friendship to someone who harasses you and makes you feel uncomfortable . report the interactions to hr if they happen at work . if this is happening repeatedly , and you have made it clear that you want it to stop , you are being harassed . this is unacceptable , and you should do what you need to do to feel safe . tell mutual friends , and refuse to attend events at which your aggressor is also present . explain your reasons to the host . if its happening at work , report to your supervisor and to hr , and take it higher up if nobody is helping you . if its happening at school , tell your teacher , the principal , and your friends . get a restraining order if you are being contacted or visited against your will .

stay calm . refuse communication . document harassment . dont accept open drinks . stay in touch with friends when you party .

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you may be angry , and you have every right to be . however , especially if you are alone , swearing , yelling , or otherwise venting your anger could provoke an unstable assailant to attack you . take deep breaths , tell yourself this person does not matter to me , and get away as soon as you can . someone who has previously stalked you or crossed your boundaries may claim to have reformed . they may call and write you emails begging for a response or for the chance to see you one last time , just to apologize . refuse this , as they may be plotting something worse . if they really wanted to make it up to you , they would leave you alone . do not reply to any correspondence if you are being stalked . make sure to save the texts or missed calls , as they will be evidence if the situation continues to worsen . save any letters , emails , voicemails , or other correspondence you receive from your aggressor . take notes after any interactions , noting the time , place , and what was said and done . photograph any alterations to your physical environment , such as roses left on your doorstep , broken windows , or creepy notes . if you need to build an hr case or a case for a restraining order , this will be of great help . , predators sometimes resort to spiking drinks with drugs to render victims disoriented and amenable . if you are at a bar or other social event and someone offers you an open drink , especially someone who hit on you , refuse it . if you feel unsafe refusing it , take it politely and dispose of it discretely . watch your glass . if anyone passes a hand over it , dont drink it . if you feel disoriented , cant remember how you got from one point to another , or are otherwise feeling confused while out on the town , get your friends to take you home immediately . dont let a stranger help you . ask for help from a bartender , a friend , or a family member . go out with people you trust , and make a plan for the evening . stay in touch throughout the night , and make sure you have a point person in charge of getting everyone safely home . it can be hard for drunk people , especially those who have been drugged , to communicate what they want or need . some people might end up in dangerous situations that look consensual . make sure you or your groups point person checks in with anyone who is going home with a stranger .

call , text , and message them constantly . be critical of them . be controlling .

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over communicating with a person can be just as destructive to a relationship as failing to communicate with that person . make yourself appear needy and insecure by constantly check - in with them via phone call , text , or direct message . further your cause by contacting them at inappropriate times , such as in the middle of class , a meeting , or a family meal . this will demonstrate that you have little respect for boundaries . with each passing day that you blow up their phone , they may fall more and more out of love with you . partners accepting of each others flaws and quirks . cast yourself in a shallow and unflattering light by nitpicking every action and decision made by the person who loves you . criticize their hair , clothing , movie selection , career choice , and car . your incessant negativity may just drive them away . in many relationships , partners are able to retain some degree of autonomy over their own life . deny the person you wish to drive away the ability to make a decision without consulting you first . your domineering facade may motivate them to cut ties with you so that they can regain control of their life .

be straight with him . say a clear no . say no to reject a guy who asks you to do something you dont want to do , and he will get the message and likely change his feelings . give him logical reasons . use an excuse if you have to . offer to set him up with someone else .

how to make a guy not like you 1

if a guy tells you he likes you , tell him the straight , honest truth you dont like him back . you can say it in a nice way like , thats really sweet , but i just dont have feelings for you like that , or i think youre really cool and funny , but i dont like you in the same way . most guys will take the hint and stop pursuing you . make sure to talk to him right away . waiting to act will only confuse him or allow him to keep thinking that he has a chance with you . know that his feelings might be hurt , but its your right to draw a boundary for what you want and are comfortable with . stick with your rejection . use clear language like no , thank you and no , im not interested rather than no , maybe some other time or no , not really . dont leave room for the possibility that youd be interested later , or he might get the idea that he has time to change your mind . tell him any good practical reasons why it wouldnt make sense for him to date you . he might respond better to reason . if you already have a boyfriend or someone youre interested , thats an easy reason to give him if you live on the opposite side of town and wouldnt be able to easily see him outside of school or work , tell him we live so far away , we wouldnt get to see each other . if youre going to a different middle school , high school , or college than him next year , point out to him that this wouldnt work well . its okay to tell a little white lie to make your point if he wont leave you alone im interested in someone else , im already dating someone , or im not interested in guys are all reasonable excuses to get him off your tail , whether true or not . ask a friend or think of someone else whos interested in him , and then explain to him why that person might be a better match . make sure you have permission from whoever youre setting him up with .

remain calm . be polite . start by offering help on his part . calmly explain to him your feelings . if you have a boyfriend , say so , in a nice way so it wont hurt him . wait for his response . if he seems really upset and might cry , tell him sorry and get to class . if he is or may become violent , walk away quickly and tell a trusted adult .

how to politely turn down a boy in middle school

do not freak out . what would you do if your crush screamed when you told him you liked him relax . breathe in and out or count to 10 in your head . you need to stay calm . this boy probably worked up a lot of courage to ask you out . if you yell at him or rudely scream no it will hurt him . even if you hate this guy , you still need to be a little generous of his feelings . be kind . say something like wow , tyler . im flattered . by showing you respect him youre both less likely to get your feelings hurt in the end . here is a very good example tyler , youre a really great person . you seem very nice and im flattered . but i just dont really see you in that way . i hope that we can remain friends . im sorry . it will just cause more problems for both of you . if he seems okay with it , smile and tell him good , because i really hoped we could still be friends . then explain you have to get to class and calmly walk to your classroom . he will think you really do like him if you try to calm him down and you stay with him .

say no . dont lead the person on . ask your friends for backup .

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be polite about it , but be equally clear that you arent going to go on a date with this person . dont beat around the bush . if youre sure , then be sure . say exactly what you mean . if you feel bad , say , im sorry , but i dont want to go on a date with you , or im sorry , but im not interested . make yourself absolutely clear . you dont need to apologize for not being interested , but it might make the words go over more easily . if you wan to make a quick excuse , then say , i already have plans , or i have a boygirlfriend . be careful if you lie , then you might be found out . if you dont make it clear that you arent interested , then the person might ask you out again . if the person has asked you out disrespectfully , then you dont need to make any bones about saying no . just say , no , or im not interested . you dont want this person to believe that heshe has a chance with you . if you leave things open , then you may need to decline another date down the line . make a clean break so that this person can deal with hisher feelings and move on with life . make sure to actually say the word no . you might also say , i dont want to go on a date with you , or im not interested . be as explicit as possible . if a person wont leave you alone , then do not hesitate to ask for help . call a friend or a family member to come help you get out of the situation . in extreme cases , if you feel very unsafe , then you may need to call the police or get a restraining order . only do this if someone is threatening you or making you feel otherwise violated .

stop making your relationship a priority . do not show any support . act distant .

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in a healthy relationship , couples make time for one another in their busy schedules . if you wish to passively hint that this person is no longer worth your time , limit your interactions with them . instead of hanging out with your partner or the person crushing on you , pick up a hobby , play video games , hang out with other people , or become highly focused on your career . eventually , they may decide you arent worth their time either . when you do spend time together , act distracted or leave early . couples loyally support each other through the highs and the lows of life . if you wish to give this person a reason to stop loving you , revoke your support . do not attend their sporting events or concerts . do not ask them about their test or pitch . when they come to you for help or advice , minimize their problems or support the other party . your inability to provide moral support , may make them search for someone more loyal . partners rely on words and actions to communicate their feelings with each other . by withholding your ability to be vulnerable , you will successfully create an emotional void in your relationship . refuse to share your feelings—when you are hurt , refuse to talk about it . avoid all forms of physical contact . overtime , they may deem you emotionally unavailable and an undesirous partner .

consider your decision carefully . discuss your feelings and decision with the individual . accept that the other person is entitled to react as they choose .

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do not flippantly decide to terminate a relationship or convince an individual that you are not worth loving . before you take any actions you may later regret , pause to contemplate your desire to emotionally distance yourself from this person . furthermore , determine if you can commit to cutting this individual out of your life . it is possible to end a relationship or clarify any misconceptions in a respectful , courteous , and civil manner . engage this individual in an honest and open dialogue about your decision to terminate the relationship or your lack of romantic feelings towards them . after you have explained yourself , stop talking and allow the person to respond . avoid pointing the finger at the other person . use i - statements to communicate your feelings . i feel when you because . it is unrealistic to assume that you are capable of or entitled to controlling someones emotions . this person is not required to reciprocate your desire to move on or your lack of romantic feelings . allow them to feel what they feel and give them the time and space they need to process this change .

avoid him . block him on social networks . find out what he dislikes and start doing it . use reverse psychology .

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simply avoiding places where he goes or hangs out , if possible , will send him a message . if he never sees you , he will likely stop thinking about you or trying to pursue you as much . get on your social media accounts like facebook , twitter , instagram , and snapchat , and block him from seeing your posts and photos and interacting with you . all of the major social network sites and apps have easy ways of un - friending and blocking any user you want . try asking his friends or using what you already know about what he doesnt like to make yourself less desirable to him . if he hates a certain sports team , start talking to him about only that team . if the sound of chewing gum or humming drives him nuts , start doing those things around him . an out - there move to try is acting the complete opposite and give him a lot of attention . be completely overbearing and demanding of his attention , even acting like youre already in a relationship . take it to a ridiculous level if you need to . it may be that he just wanted the attention from you and will leave you alone once he gets it , or he will be so turned off by your over - attentiveness that hell back off .

talk to a friend . talk to your parents or trusted adults . talk to the police if things get bad .

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ask one of your friends or a friend of the guy who likes you to try talking to him about how youre not interested and he should give it up . he might listen better when it comes from someone else . also ask your friends or his friends to stop making jokes about the two of you getting together , or any other encouragement they try to give him . the guy that likes you might just want the attention or be pursuing you because his friends egg him on . if you feel really annoyed or threatened by him , its a good time to talk to a parent or other adult for more help . just tell them that theres a guy who likes you and wont leave you alone . the adult can offer you more advice , or talk to the guy or his parents . if you feel uncomfortable talking to a parent or other adult , try writing down what you want to say first before you say it . also decide what you want from the adult beforehand so you can ask them . say , i just want you to help me figure out what to do about something , or , i need you to talk to someones parents for me . if a guy still persists with unwanted attention in any way after youve made it clear with your speech and actions that you arent interested , talks or sends messages in a way that is threatening , or shows up at your house or somewhere to see you uninvited , speak up and tell the police .

be compassionate . try not to go too deep . suggest someone else .

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you absolutely have the right to say no if you arent interested . that said you dont need to be cruel in order to decline a date . try to empathize with the person . be kind and straightforward . say , i know how it feels , and i feel bad to let you down like this . say , i hope we can still be friends . im not interested in you romantically , but i do truly value you as a human being . think of a time when you felt rejected . consider what you can do to make the rejection less harsh . the more of a connection you make with a person , the harder it can be to brush off hisher offer of a date . keep your conversation light . focus on broad and basic topics . that said you may need to get serious if you are asked out by a friend or someone that you already know well . if it feels right , mention someone you know that you think would adore the person that you declined . offer to introduce this person to someone that you think heshe would like . be aware that this is only appropriate in situations where a person is asking you out casually . if a friend or acquaintance is absolutely in love with you and asks you out , then it may not be kind to immediately suggest an alternative . be compassionate and respectful . if a stranger strikes up a conversation in the supermarket and asks you on a date , then this might be the perfect opportunity to set himher up with a friend of yours . make sure that youre suggesting a match that might actually work – not just making an excuse to escape .

be straightforward . dont go into too much detail . be honest .

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if a person asks you plainly for a date , try to respect himher enough to give an honest and straightforward answer . saying , i like you as a friend but im not interested in you romantically , may sting a bit , but its far less hurtful than leading someone on . in most cases , the most compassionate thing you can do is tell the truth . all you really need to say is , no , or im not interested . if possible , avoid qualifying your no . it is not productive to tell the person exactly why you dont want to go out with him or her . if you give reasons , then you give the asker a chance to defend hisher offer – and you might hurt hisher self - esteem . in some cases , a person may explicitly ask you for reasons . why wont you go out with me if you are pushed , then feel free to give a few reasons – but keep them broad i dont want to go out with you because youre making me feel uncomfortable , or i dont want to go out with you because im interested in someone else . there is no sense in hurting someones feelings and shooting down hisher self - esteem . it would be cruel to say , i dont want to go out with you because youre short , or i wont go out with you because you have bad teeth . give a general but truthful reason for your no e . g . i dont want to date anyone right now or im only dating so - and - so right now . dont lie when the truth comes out , the persons feelings might be hurt . if you are genuine , kind , and straightforward in your rejection , it will be hard for anyone to find fault in your actions . an exception is if a stranger asks you out and you want to quickly get away from the situation . in this case , dont feel bad about lying and giving an excuse , such as , i have a boyfriend . the stranger wont know .

talk to him about the situation . treat him with civility . dont flirt with him .

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do this in private to avoid embarrassing him . explain that youre only interested in being friends and that you dont want to hurt his feelings . talking to him will help him realize the truth . dont give any hope of a romantic relationship in the future . say something like , youre really sweet , but i dont want to ruin our friendship . lets keep it platonic . talk to him in person . dont hide behind a text message or computer screen . tell him yourself . asking your friends to relay the message only will make everyone feel awkward . avoid being rude or hurtful , even if he repulses you . if you have to work with him or go to school with him , that could make things worse for you . simply say , hi when you pass each other and keep walking . limit your facial expressions to a slight smile . if you have to talk to him for a group project , focus on the task at hand . this will totally defeat your goal of letting him know you dont like him . dont play with your hair or make too much eye contact . these actions draw too much attention to yourself . avoid standing or sitting too close or playfully stroking his hand . this could send the wrong message .

tell him you dont like him . pretend that he doesnt exist . forbid your friends to give him your personal info , including your telephone number , msn address , email address , etc . one way guys try to get a girls attention is to hover around her or try to have physical contact with her ex brushing past . although this can be risky , this trick will put him down if you do this correctly . stay away from him as much as possible . whenever your friends talk about him , make fun of him a little bit , but be careful not to get carried away . if he keeps on flirting with you like hitting you in the head or messing with your hair , simply turn around and firmly tell him to stop . smile when he is upset about you not liking him .

how to avoid a guy who likes you that thinks you like him

this step may be the only one you need . dropping hints wont always work for some guys , and this will confirm that you do not have any feelings for him . that way , he wont have to keep guessing , and you can clear the problem before it gets worse . if he stares at you , act like you cant see him . in other words , completely ignore him . if he tries to talk to you , act as if you didnt hear him while turning to the nearest person and beginning to talk to them . that way , he wont dare interrupt your conversation , unless if he is determined enough to . if he does interrupt your conversation , shoot him a warning look while politely but firmly saying , please dont interrupt this conversation . it helps if your close friends know about this situation . that way , they can help you avoid him and start talking to you if he tries to approach you . this way , hell be unable to take any part in your social life outside of school , and you wont have to constantly ignore his calls or persistent messaging . if he tries to stand next to you , keep moving away from him . however , if you want to be safer , go to the restroom , where he cant possibly follow you unless he is a stalker . pretend youre looking at him - this will rouse his interest and excitement . however , pretend to spot someonesomething behind him . this will make him disappointed as he will think you dont even know he exists , which will mean that he will stop thinking that you like him . this is harsh therefore , only do this if absolutely necessary . keep in mind that if this trick is performed incorrectly ex your pretending to spot someonesomething behind him isnt strong enough for him to catch it , it could worsen your situation and make the guy think you do like him . if you have a class with him , sit far away and make sure all seats near you are taken . if you are forced to be with him for a project or extracurricular activity with a lot of other people , pretend he doesnt exist . if you cannot possibly avoid him , tell him to leave you alone . you could also tell whoever is in charge about your problem and ask them to steer him away from you in partner projects . you could have them inform him that you arent comfortable . this is embarrassing , but almost always works for most teachers are understanding . you could say something along the lines of remember when john fell and couldnt get up i think he needs life alert or remember when danny got the math question wrong he started crying like a baby wimp if he overhears , he might back off a bit , for this may make him think you are joking with one of your friends who likes him . hell think he had it all wrong . unfortunately , he might fall for one of your friends . he needs to know when enough is enough , and he will back off if he respects you . he will also start to think that you are getting annoyed with him . this has a powerful impact . however , as much as you want to get rid of him , dont be too mean or cruel . otherwise , you might harm your reputation , and he might want to get back at you in some horrible way .

take a deep breath . remember that , even if you feel like you are doing something wrong , it is not your fault , stop smiling , stop frowning , stop wearing masks .

how to deal with admirers 1

everything you accomplish in life should always start with a good long deep breath . just to get you ready . or for the sake of it you are just trying to live your life , one day after another and heshe got in the way heshe is not necessarily bad but today , you just have some other business to attend to . you do not need himher as an admirer . period . just look as neutral as possible . you are not fake , but you are not cruel either . you are just you , delivering an unpleasant message .

time your day accordingly . find ways to occupy yourself . join or start a new club . make a new friend . stay away from his usual hangouts . surround yourself with a group .

how to avoid a guy who likes you in high school 1

does the guy seem to appear out of nowhere with flowers , or just wanting to talk maybe its because he knows you get to school at the same time every morning . switch up your routine and see if that helps to avoid him a little better . if you do have classes together , arrive at the very last minute - - just make sure you have a friend save a seat for you one thats not anywhere near him . dont try to change your classes altogether . that could hurt your grades and is not the best solution in the long run . if you do have to arrive at school early or stay late , make sure you keep busy so youre not alone for long periods of time . hell be less likely to approach you if youre working with a teacher , especially . see if you can help out around the school . your librarian could probably use some assistance shelving or sorting books and thats the kind of thing that looks good on your college resume , too . not only will picking up a different hobby help you surround yourself with new people and avoid the guy , but you may also find youre so busy with a new passion you dont really care about the situation anymore . do your research first and make sure its not a group the guy is already part of . if its not a good time to join a new club , see if there are any volunteer opportunities in your community you could be part of . a good way to change your schedule and your surroundings is to add new people to the mix . have you noticed someone eating alone at lunch join them . or is there someone who seems to understand concepts in algebra that you just dont get ask for help . making new friends puts you in situations away from your admirer , and you might make long - lasting bonds in the process . a new friend may also have good advice for how to avoid the guy . popping up in the places where you know he usually hangs out sends the wrong message . try to stay away from areas where you can usually find him . sometimes its unavoidable , like if you both play the same sport or have similar schedules . dont skip school or give up your passions in an effort to avoid him . if you must be in the same vicinity as each other , stay focused on the task at hand . no matter how brave or persistent the guy seems , your admirer is probably too shy to approach you when youre in a big group of friends . try to avoid being alone . always eat lunch with a group , and try to go to the bathroom with a friend , too . your friends may get tired of having to accompany you everywhere if they dont know why youre asking them to do it . be sure to let them know about the situation .

dont hang out with him too often . limit physical contact . limit online contact . ignore him , if necessary .

how to deal with a guy who thinks you like him 2

a guy who likes you is looking for reasons to believe that you like him back . hang out with your other friends . find another place to sit at lunch . if you share friends with this guy , dont pay so much attention to him when you do hang out . after about 15 minutes or so , excuse yourself and say you need to be alone or be somewhere else . physical contact is often a form of intimacy . limit it to a friendly handshake , a high five , or a fist bump . dont hug him , hold hands , or dance with him . definitely dont kiss him . treat him the same way you treat other friends and acquaintances . cut back on the likes you give to his posts . he might interpret too many likes as an interest in him . retweet or share only what you think is really important . turn off your chat function to avoid lengthy conversations . sometimes , guys misinterpret civility for attraction or flirtation . if this happens , avoid him to the fullest extent . unfollow him on social media . block his phone number . casually turn in the opposite direction if you see him coming your way . this should give him a clear message . if he refuses to leave you alone , tell someone . this could be your parents , a trusted teacher or guidance counselor , a school security guard , or a police officer . dont let him make you feel unsafe for feelings you have no control over .

dont show sadness in front of him . avoid badmouthing him . accept that you cant be attracted to everyone . take deep breaths .

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this could send him mixed messages . if you feel like youre going to cry , think of something that makes you laugh to counter the tears . if that doesnt work , make an excuse that you have to be somewhere else and walk away . its okay to confide in your best friend , but dont tell everyone that you think hes creepy or needy . less considerate friends might taunt him and make things awkward . if anyone mentions that he thinks you like him , say something like , well , hes nice and all , but i only like him as a friend . dont worry if your friends think hes cute or sweet . if he just doesnt do it for you , that doesnt make you a bad person . you cant force yourself to like him . celebrate this as something that makes you unique . he might try to make you feel guilty for rejecting him . deep breathing will allow you to control your guilt and not dwell so much on his behavior . inhale slowly through your nose . exhale slowly through your mouth . focus on staying calm and doing whats best for you .

look at himher in the eye and talk as clearly as you can . go straight to the point and admit that you are just not interested . dont go back and forth .

how to deal with admirers 2

even if it is loud around you , even if you feel like heshe might not be as sober as you are , just make sure that your message will be said and understood . once in for all . you are not making fun of anyone here , just being honest and as straight forward as possible . forget about this its not you , its me crap . no one likes a liar , and everybody hates fake people . however , only refer to facts and try not to attack himher with emotions . dont say that hisher conversation is boring . on the contrary , say that it is interesting , but that it is just not something you want to talk about . dont say all these things and then apologize because , remember , it is not your fault . admit that you like the attention but make it clear that you dont want to go further and wish heshe let you alone .  try to make it sound definitive without creating a cruel doomsday atmosphere .

breath out , it is almost over . if you feel comfortable enough with the person , try a nice gesture such as a gentle stroke on the shoulder but do not hug , just go .

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but be careful , almost over does not mean completely over indeed , you just delivered a very unpleasant message and you need to make sure that it has been perfectly understood . try to ask simple yesno questions such as are you ok or do you understand what i am telling you . you should avoid questions such as what do you think . what you said is not open to discussion and heshe does not have a say in it . it is your decision and there is nothing else to say about it . people tend to misinterpret this kind of meaningless move . you do not want himher to secretly think ok i got your message but your body language clearly indicates that you actually want more of me . your mission here has been accomplished and you need to move on . do not look back . there is nothing to feel bad about . you had to do it and you mastered it . this is how nice people handle adult situations

write to him . stick to it . talk to him .

how to avoid a guy who likes you in high school 2

your not - so - secret admirer needs to know how you feel , but you dont necessarily have to talk in person . confrontation may be too uncomfortable for both of you , and its often easier to express your feelings when you have time to think about what you want to say . send him an email or write an old - fashioned letter if it makes you more comfortable . a text message can work , too . just make sure that you take some time to explain what youre feeling rather than just sending off a quick text . dont show all your friends your messages or notes especially his responses . that could hurt the guys feelings . if you really need feedback on your wording , consult one or two trusted friends . inconsistency is a surefire way to let the crush linger on , so dont talk to him sometimes and then shut him out at other times . avoid sending mixed signals and make sure you stick to your plan to really get the guy out of the picture . be cordial , but not rude , when you do see him . for example dont go out of your way to talk to him , but respond if he talks to you in a group . if you have done your best to avoid the guy and he still wont leave you alone , its time to confront the situation head on . tell him kindly that you just really dont have feelings for him . remember that if youre nice to him , hes likely to be nice to you , too . saying i think you are really nice , but i just dont have feelings for you , is a good way to let him down gently . dont make excuses for why you dont like him . its perfectly fine to admit you just dont feel the same way . honesty is usually the best policy . you dont have to tell him the thought of dating him makes you cringe , but dont tell him you dont want to date anyone right now if you plan on finding a boyfriend soon .

block him on social media . talk to an adult about the situation . let it go .

how to avoid a guy who likes you in high school 3

if the dude keeps messaging you on instagram or sending you romantic snapchats that you dont really want , fix the problem at the source by removing him from your friends lists . check your privacy settings to make sure he cant see any of your activity or send you messages after you block him . be prepared that removing him from your social media accounts may hurt his feelings . use this as a last resort . if a guy just wont leave you alone , its time to talk to someone . first of all , consider talking to him directly . if the problem doesnt subside after a while , you should probably reach out to an adult . stalking is a serious offense , and its more common in high school than youd think . your high school counselor or a trusted teacher can help you handle the guy and keep you safe . its easy to dwell on a situation like this , especially if youre afraid youve hurt the guys feelings . but try your best not to . after hes finally gotten the hint , rejoice in your freedom then let go , for the good of your mental health . try not to talk negatively about the guy during the situation or after . that wont make you feel any better , and its a drain on everyone else .

talk to her . give her a few days to let this information sink in . avoid making eye contact . nod whenever you pass casually in the hallway and dont smile , so that its not a greeting , but an acknowledgment . dont pick up that phone if she calls you , resist having any conversations with her . find someone for her to hook up with .

how to avoid a girl with a crush

tell her that youre flattered that she seems to to like you but that youre not in a place to date anyone right now . help her to understand that this means youre busy and emotionally unavailable . some good excuses include im really focused in worksports try outs , etc . right now school comes first . hopefully shell leave you alone . if she does not , continue with the remaining steps . whenever she tries to come near you , pretend like you cannot see her there and talk right through her to your buddies . this might break her heart , but thats what you want right a smile will always be interpreted as encouragement . never answer her messages , not even to say youre not interested thats an acknowledgment of reading it and that gives her too big an angle . this will increase her hope and it will be too easy to put a false slant on your enthusiasm . if she persists and seems nice enough , match her with someone else

be calm at first and assess the situation . if this boy is a flirt but is flirting more excessively with you than anyone else , be on the cautious side . if you dont want to have a relationship , you should try to make it clear first off . try not to be caught alone when he may bother you . keep in mind that while the above mentioned steps will help , they are not guaranteed to stop him . the worst just may happen . if you are meeting in person , you have no choice but to immediately respond . if the encounter happens on facebookemail or over the phone , you have time and are lucky . its most likely that after this , you and the boy will avoid each other .

how to deal with a flirtatious boy when you dont desire a relationship

is he really flirting try to see if he flirts with several others - maybe it is juts in his nature to flirt and he isnt planning on approaching you personally for a relationship . in this case , just be polite to him but dont flirt back and give him short answers . it may mean that hes going to ask you out , and you must be prepared . take hints from the conversations . does he excessively compliment you , especially on looks , voice , etc do these comments seem to be those which may appear between two people in love dont be too brash about it at first . if you are unsure about whether or not he is pursuing you for friendship or a relationship , it may help to casually mention how strict your parents are regarding relationships . dont directly indicate him . just mention it - say something like , yeah , my education and career really matter to me . im probably only going to start dating once im in medical school . i have no relationships with guys like that . in school , walk with a friend at all times if possible . if you are alone , appear busy or rushed . if you are friends on facebook , put him on a special list and appear offline more and more so he cant message you . if he posts on your wall or messagese - mails you , give him short answers to show you are not interested . sometimes , it may just be that hes a desperate boy out there for a girlfriend . while this may seem creepy , it is important to appear confident . you are your own person and no one has the right to own you . the boy might ask you out right up front , or hell begin a conversation with you to ask you out . you should normally be able to tell . when boys seek to ask out girls , theyll start it with a very flirtatious conversation and compliment you more than they normally do . they might mention how you are a good team and meant for each other in their opinion . if this happens , go on to the next step . you should ideally have a response ready in your mind beforehand . be firm and tell him you are not interested in him , and you never were , ive never been interested in you . i was just being friendly because i didnt want to be rude . i dont like how you kept pursuing me . leave me alone , i mean it . if online , pause , think over what you must say , and type it in . if you are on the phone , put the phone down to think over what to say . then , text message him your message or tell him on facebookemail . you might feel creeped out by him , and wont want to talk to him anymore . this is a good idea - it will stop him from pursuing you more . block him off your facebook , email , etc . stop accepting his phone calls and ignore him in school .

change your schedule . change seats . avoid hanging out with his friends . avoid online contact . keep texts or calls short . pick up a new hobby .

how to avoid the boy who knows you like him 1

the best way to avoid him is to avoid certain areas you know hell be at certain times . if you tend to bump into him on a daily basis , try walking a different way to class , or to wherever it is you are going . if you see him at your locker , try changing the time you go to drop off and pick up books . if hes in your class and sits in the front , try sitting in the back . if you eat lunch at a table he sits at , try switching it up and sit with a different friend group . changing where you sit every day can also be a good way to change your routine and meet new people while avoiding the boy . the easiest way to avoid a person is to avoid people that he hangs out with . if you have mutual friends , youll want to think about who he will be with on what days . if you have multiple friend groups , you can just bop around between the ones that arent friends with him while you sort out your feelings . if you have a good friend he hangs out with , confide in that person that you are trying to avoid him . theyll be able to help you out by telling you where he is if theyre hanging out with him . just as important as avoiding him in person is avoiding him online . dont read messages or updates from him , and definitely avoid responding to posts he makes . you can hide his updates from your facebook feed while still staying friends . out of sight , out of mind , if he has your number and calls you or texts you , keep your messages short and to the point . if he texts you and asks what youre up to , just tell him not much and dont ask what hes up to . keep in mind , if you are just trying to avoid him for a short time period , you dont want to give him signals that you dont like him . you just want to avoid carrying on a long conversation that will put you in an awkward situation . if the situation is dire and you cant stop thinking about him , try picking up a new hobby . this way you can avoid putting yourself in a situation where youll see him , and you can give yourself a distraction to keep from thinking about him . do something that will take your total concentration , like doing a puzzle . you can also find something to do outdoors , like identifying plants or insects .

make sure there really are no chances . acknowledge your own sense of embarrassment or discomfort about the situation but dont let this deflect you from your mission of telling it like it is . once youve tackled your own feelings , quell any desire to laugh off your crush . be concrete about how you feel . stay open with one another . avoid the guilt trip .

how to repel your unwanted crushes

be absolutely certain that you arent interested in trying to pursue a dating relationship with this person it isnt a good idea to cast this person aside only to realize you did so because of nerves , fears or because your friend felt jealous . the reason to help a crush realize that youre just not interested must be because you truly arent interested , period , ever . any normal person will be worried about inflicting emotional pain on another––be reassured that this confirms youre emotionally attuned . however , it is important to realize that its far kinder to let someone down early on than to play games , lead them on and then toss them away when it all gets too serious , just because you were terrified of telling the truth initially . feeling embarrassed is normal but not a reason to be callous or to withhold your own true feelings . dont ignore the issue . ignored issues turn into big problems that are much harder to deal with . this may feel like a way of diffusing the discomfort of the situation but laughing about it will likely be hurtful for your crush . remember that telling someone how you feel about him or her is a huge step , a giant risk , and being laughed back at is very alarming . stifle the desire to make a joke or laugh . instead try saying something like i really appreciate you telling me that you like me . im really flattered , jane . explain the way in which youre flattered according to the context of the conversation with your admirer . this could also be stated as dont beat around the bush . in other words , tell your crush politely and kindly that you dont feel the same way . after explaining that youre flattered that he or she feels this way from the previous step , its important to go straight to this honesty . say something simple like as i said , im really flattered john , but im sorry––i just dont feel the same level of connection with you . i love our friendship and im keen to stay good friends . avoid going into heavy details as to why youre not ablereadywanting to get involved , such as getting over someone still or focusing on your career right now . sometimes too many details can give hooks for the listener to grasp onto , leaving open a possibility that if x happens , then i am in with a chance . dont leave yourself open to this––it is just too risky . just because someone you once shared good times with , had a friendship with or had a good working relationship with has since declared his or her feelings for you doesnt mean the two of you need to maintain distance from now on or pretend that nothing happened . not only did something momentous happen between you , for those of you still staying in regular contact through friends , work or social relationships , it is important to stay honest and open with each other . accept that things will feel a little awkward for a time but as time passes , youll both be able to acknowledge this occurrence with friendly hindsight and you may even develop a stronger friendship for it . if you dont want to preserve the relationship with this person , its fairly easy to do––avoid him or her , dont spend time around him or her in the company of mutual friends and ask to be reassigned so that you dont have to work together . but thats an awful lot of trouble to go to rather than simply acknowledging each other and being prepared to talk respectfully to each other . this goes back to the feelings of discomfort you may have felt initially , when you were mulling over what to say in return to your unwanted crush . the reality is that the feelings of this person belong to him or her––you didnt make this person feel a certain way and you cannot carry the blame for how he or she continues to feel . at some point in your own life , you will feel strongly about someone who wont feel the same way back . realize that while you will be hurt by this persons lack of returning the feelings , you also realize that youre fully responsible for your own feelings in the matter . see the episode compassionately . provided youve done your best to let down your unwanted crush politely and kindly , you can move on with integrity .

stop watching films or tv shows that this actor is in . delete photos of this actor from your phone . take down posters of the actor . look up bad critics of the actor . if you follow the actor on twitter , unfollow now , understand that you cannot love somebody you do not know . keep telling yourself that you dont have a chance with the actor . avoid substituting the actors last name as your last name . be aware of how this obsession is eating into your real life .

how to stop crushing over an actor

even if it is your absolute favorite movie or tv show , give it a wide berth for a while . if you get to the stage where you feel guilty about not watching it , this is when you know your obsession is out of hand hide their films away at least for a while . if you see this actor in theater , stop going to the theater shows until youre over this actor . this can be hard , especially if you spent all that time gathering pictures of the actors to use as your wallpaper . however , its best to delete them , as this will stop that connection and you wont see the actors face every time you turn on your phone . you do not have to take them down for good , just until you stop obsessing over them , that way when you put it back up you can appreciate them as an actor not your future husband . okay , so the advantage of a crush on an actor is that you can find out lots about this person by just a click of a button . it might help therefore to read a bad film critic or some bad comments about this actor , then use this negativity to get over himher or , avoid twitter for a while . if you are at the obsessing stage and have tried to make contact with them , its now time to stop . it is likely the actor will not reply and if they do , it will be out of sympathy or a routine message sent from their minders or their book of fan messages . so sure you may have seen their interviews , read all about them , seen all their tweets , watched all their movies , but this does not mean you know everything about them . the only things you know about them are the public things you do not truly know them . what you are doing is fantasizing and filling int the gaps to suit yourself , imaging up the ideal person without knowing the reality . that is super unhealthy and can cause you to do the same thing to real people you do know if you dont take care . it may sound harsh but the majority of the time they have wiveshusbands , families or boyfriendsgirlfriends . so , no matter what you tell yourself , they are not going to up sticks and leave that behind because of a tweet you sent them . for example , if you fancied johnny depp , you need to avoid writing mrs depp everywhere if you are too busy obsessing over an actor , it may affect your real life . wondering why you havent got a boyfriendgirlfriend perhaps its because you are too busy crushing over your actor crush to open your eyes to the real world . maybe nobody can measure up to this fantasy image of a person youve created in your head––if thats the case , it really is time to come back down to earth .

avoid eye contact . avoid laughing or smiling at him . walk quickly . use body language to make yourself look unavailable .

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if you cant physically avoid him , the next best thing to do is to ignore him . if you sit across the room from him in class and he is looking your way , dont get caught looking at him when hes looking at you . of course , if he is talking directly to you , you dont want to run away or pretend like hes not there just play it cool and be polite . if he makes a funny joke , avoid laughing at it . you like him , so youll want to smile , but try to go easy on it for a while . you dont want to make it totally obvious and bring more attention to yourself . if you cant avoid passing him in your daily routine , make the exposure time minimal . this way you can remove any opportunity for an awkward conversation or smiling at him . if youre on your way to class , you can pretend like you are running late . just keep your head down and walk faster if you cant walk away from the situation , use your body language to deflect his attention . if he approaches you at the bus stop , give him signs that you are not interested in starting a conversation . keep your arms crossed . dont face his direction - - turn your back if you can . stay busy with a task , even if it is silly , such as rearranging some papers , so that you appear unavailable and uninterested in what hes doing .

sort out your feelings . play it cool . be patient .

how to avoid the boy who knows you like him 3

while youre avoiding him or ignoring him , you need to consider ways to resolve the situation because he isnt going to suddenly disappear . how do you feel about him what do you want your relationship to look like think about what you specifically want out of a relationship , whether it is friendship or something more . if its someone you know well and see a lot , hes probably unavoidable and hard to ignore . if you find yourself getting worked up over seeing him , try some relaxation methods , such as stretching out and taking a deep breath . remind yourself it is all a passing thing . some situations might take a lot of time to work out . this might mean that you confess your feelings openly to find that he feels the same way . or it might mean that he doesnt feel the same way . or that you both feel the same way but still want to be friends and take it easy .

switch fantasy for flaws .

how to get over your crush whos a jerk 1

if youre having trouble getting over this person because of their good looks , try to think of some of their other flaws . for example , think of a time when this person behaved in a mean way toward you or your friends . you cant get anywhere in life just by sitting there and looking pretty .

watch out for over - confidence . calculate the age gap . glance at the phone . track him down . pay attention to the places he frequents when youre not around . beware of flattery . dont dismiss dishonesty . consider the players life story . share your own story . talk about past relationships . defend your own innocence . value your own time . avoid hot - and - cold behavior . change up your meeting place . maintain eye contact . move slowly . take it public . get to know the friends . try to spend time with his friends . introduce your own family and friends . ask for opinions . watch how others are treated .

how to spot a player

healthy self - confidence is great , but theres a difference between being confident and being cocky . if you think this guy seems a little too confident in his efforts to win you over , it could be because hes had plenty of practice . most people become at least a little nervous around people theyre attracted to . a confident guy isnt necessarily a player , but if he doesnt break a sweat while asking you out or seems rather aloof about the whole deal , he might not be that serious about you . if the man is old enough to be your father , it could be a bad sign . older players who are set in their ways frequently target younger , less experienced women who are easier to trick . not every older man is a player , of course , but if theres a huge age gap and he exhibits other signs of being a player , that age gap may work against him . similarly , not every player is an older man . there are plenty of young players out in the world , too . when hes texting someone , lean in his direction and peek at his phone . you dont even need to see the screen in fact , youll learn more by keeping your eyes on him . if the guys a player , hell probably yank his phone away faster than you can blink . moreover , if hes always on his phone or looks at it more than he looks at you , that could be another bad sign . this piece of advice isnt an invitation to swipe his phone and look at his call log , though . many people view that as an invasion of privacy , and even guys who arent players might get upset at the breach of trust . you usually wont need his text or call history as evidence , anyway , since being overprotective of his phone is a bad enough sign on its own . if he still visits the same spots he went to when he was single and picking up women , theres a good chance that hes still in the habit of charming the ladies there . this does not mean that you should stalk him . a healthier way to find out where hes going is ask around and find out who mightve seen him and where he was when it happened . you could also try visiting the spot you met him on an evening he might be there . honest compliments are sweet , but you probably shouldnt trust someone whos quick to flatter you to an excessive degree . players often rely on this sort of sweet talk to win over women . pay attention to the types of compliments he gives you . if theyre general , overused compliments that could apply to nearly any woman—beautiful hair , gorgeous smile , etc . —it could be a sign that he isnt putting much thought into who you are and what makes you special . you should also be cautious around men who specifically compliment your insecurities . similarly , most players are quick to address you with one or more pet names , like honey , sugar , and baby . pet names that develop after an extended relationship are usually okay , but be wary around guys who use pet names from day one . players are also liars . catching him in the middle of a lie can be difficult , but when you do , you shouldnt shrug it off . this is especially true if hes lied to you more than once . lies about his past , where he spent time recently , or who hes been with are some of the most common ones to watch out for . if youre suspicious about something and confront him about it , watch his reaction . players will generally try to laugh it off and change the topic . when that doesnt work , they may admit to the truth but somehow blame you for their lie . most players are egotistical , so theyll start talking about themselves before you even have the chance to ask . if a guy hasnt shared much about his own life , though , ask him about it and watch for inconsistencies . everyone wants to look good in front of someone theyre attracted to , but the player will usually look a little too good . if his life story seems scripted and too good to be true , it probably is . pay attention to the details . if some of the details dont match up , it could be an indication that hes lying about who he is . since most players are overly concerned with themselves , they dont have much time to be concerned with other people . a guy who is genuinely interested in you will want to know about your life and your passions , but a player wont take the time to find out . skilled players may know well enough to ask about your life , but wont be interested enough to remember what you say . bring up things youve talked about in past conversations . its probably fine if he occasionally forgets about small details , but its usually a bad sign if he makes a habit of forgetting . ask about his past relationships and talk about yours . these conversations provide the player with opportunities to manipulate your feelings . he may ask about your past relationships and fixate on the insecurities you felt during those times . by knowing what makes you insecure , he can figure out how to work that to his advantage . when talking about his own past relationships , he may leave out many of the details but stress that hes been hurt in the past . a quick mention of past hurts may not be bad , but if he plays it up to evoke pity from you , it may be another manipulation tactic . players will often accuse the women theyre seeing of cheating on them . usually , this is done in an attempt to steer the attention away from their own guilt and their own cheating ways . pay attention to how the guy asks you out and how he responds when you invite him . good guys will value your time , but a player wont . players usually ask you out on short notice . since they arent genuinely looking forward to seeing you , they turn you into a backup plan and ask you out only when they dont have anything better lined up for an evening . if you always get a maybe from the guy when you ask him out , it could mean that he doesnt want to commit in case another , more preferable offer comes up . a man who frequently cancels last - minute might do so for similar reasons . players are inconsistent in their affections and may sway from one extreme to the other . you may not hear from him in weeks , and then suddenly , hell start bombarding you with more attention than you can handle . during cold periods , theres a good chance that hes spending his time with other women and is too busy with them to bother with you . during his hot periods , hes either lost his other options or lost interest in them . as a result , he returns to you in an effort to fill the void . if the two of you always meet at night , try asking him for a daytime date . most players will strongly resist and reject the idea , and the excuses they give for doing so are usually pretty lame . if you cant change the time of the date , try changing the nature of it . instead of spending time alone or going out for drinks , go somewhere with plenty of people and very little alcohol . the guys odds of getting you into bed will decrease when you do this , so if hes a player , he wont be willing to make the change . try to maintain eye contact when youre together in a public venue . your eyes dont need to be locked the entire time , but his eyes should be directed your way for most of the date . note that the occasional wandering eye may not be a terrible sign , but if his eyes are constantly wandering toward other people , theres a problem . similarly , a wandering eye that remains stuck on another woman is also a bad sign . a player only cares about your body—and , more precisely , whether or not he gets to enjoy it . one of the best ways to weed out the players is to take things slow with every guy you meet . players wont have the patience to stick around . if youre in a relationship with a player , youre probably not the only woman hes seeing . making your relationship public will make it easier for his lies to be exposed to both you and the other women , and for that reason , hell usually reject the idea of being public about it . the way he treats you in public will be one good indication . if he refuses to treat you with any special affection or treats you just as affectionately as other women , it might be his way of keeping your relationship a secret . to that end , he might also avoid spending time with you in certain places if he thinks theres a better chance of being caught there . check social media accounts , too . if he refuses to be friends or followers with you , or if he never responds to any public comments you make toward him , it could be a sign that hes trying to hide your relationship . refusing to update his relationship status might be another social media clue . most players wont want you anywhere near their friends , and it wont be because theyre afraid of another man stealing you away . if he lets you meet his friends , he takes the risk that someone within the group will slip and reveal information about his true self . if you do meet his friends , watch his behavior around them . some players will drop their guard and show their true colors when theyre hanging around their buddies . invite him to meet your friends and family . since a player isnt serious about you , he will usually refuse such offers or make excuses to get out of them at the last minute . moreover , friends and relatives with a keen eye might be able to spot a player when they see one . a player who agrees to meet your loved ones would have to take the risk of being discovered by someone like that . ask around about the guy and find out if there are any rumors about him . people in his own social circle might cover for him , but anyone who isnt attached to him wont have a need to do so . ask your close friends to do their own investigating on your behalf , as well . they probably have a few connections you dont have , and one of those connections might have helpful information . you could even consider talking with the guys ex - girlfriends , but do so with caution . some exes will intentionally paint a bad picture as an act of revenge . additionally , an ex - girlfriend who believes that you stole the guy away from her may take out her negative feelings on you . players lack respect for you , but thats because they lack respect for everyone . it can be difficult to tell when a guy is disrespecting you , but itll probably be easier to detect disrespect he shows toward others . pay particular attention to the way he treats and talks about other women . even disrespect he shows toward female relatives can indicate an overall sense of disrespect toward women in general . watch how he treats workers at the places you visit , too . players may relish in the authority they have over these staff members .

face it . look at your admiration for this celebrity logically . distance yourself from your crush . spend a lot of time watching or listening or whatever at them . find a friend or special someone you enjoy spending time with . you should know to back off if your celebrity crush is taken . if youre cheering on a celebrity who is separatingdivorcing from their significant other , know that this celebrity is probably feeling pain right now , and you shouldnt be reveling .

how to get over your celebrity crush

its more than likely you will never meet your celebrity crush , and even if you do , its also likely he or she wont take an interest in as you are just another fan to them . but , why would you set yourself on someone who doesnt value fans as real human beings dont you want to be with someone who wants to get to know you intimately are you applying characteristics to your crush without knowing whether or not they actually have them though a persons career may be interesting , that doesnt necessarily make the person interesting . its likely that , besides their work , your crush is just like anyone else walking down the street . they may be polite and funny , but they may also be boring , a snob or slob , greedy , or have many other faults that they just dont show in public . take down all posters , dont see a movie they are in or listen to a song they sing , and dont daydream or talk about them with others . immerse yourself in something else that is pleasurable but healthy . until you either get over your crush or appreciate their work but not be obsessed with them , take them out of your life . you may think that you could never get sick of your crush , but youre more than likely wrong . once you see the same movie , listen to the same song , or watch the same interview so many times , youll just be tired of it . soon , youll realize how silly it was to have obsessed over a trivial person . this doesnt mean you cant appreciate their work or talent , but you certainly dont have to make them the center of your attention at all times . see how much more you admire someone who you already know or are getting to know closely then a celebrity who is constantly traveling , working , and doesnt have much time to chit - chat . if someone who is in your immediate life wants to spend time with you , take the opportunity to distance yourself from your celebrity crush . of course you can comment on how handsome or beautiful a celebrity is , but once you start disliking or even hating their girlboyfriend or spouse or want to have a relationship with them while theyre taken , dont take it too far . its obviously inappropriate - how do you know that it would benefit you or your celebrity crush more if you were in a relationship with them if your celebrity is taken , know that they probably found someone right for them , and be happy that your celebrity crush is happy in their relationship . hope that they may find some peace and happiness , but dont jump in thinking that its now your turn to snatch them .

write down your feelings . think about other things . dont think of yourself as a loser just because the person said they didnt like you or that youre too smart , too nice , etc . try talking to a parent , sibling or a friend about whats happened .

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let it all out on paper . you dont need to keep what youve written unless you want to . the act of writing can help you to sort out your feelings and face facts about how wrong this person was for you . plan a birthday party , think about visiting a cousin or getting a new pet . find things to distract you from obsessing about this person and their behavior . take the dog for lots of walks . use the time to enjoy nature and keeping fit . , if its a little too embarrassing to talk about it to your mom or dad , tell your older sister , your grandparent , or even your school guidance counselor

completely rid yourself of that person . get out more . give yourself time . keep looking .

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especially if it pains you to even think about them . theyre not worth a quick thought . if you do something like go to the beach with your best friends , or have a barbecue with your family , youll be too busy having fun to think about the person . go shopping with your bff or siblings . this is something i had a lot of trouble doing . dont yell at yourself if you still like the person , over time the crush will fade . dont worry , youll find that perfect person one day . this person was a lesson to be learned from , so watch for the signs of what to avoid in future

understand the differences between healthy jealousy , and unhealthy jealousy . stop contacting your ex - girlfriend . make improvements to your current lifestyle . stay in touch with friends you share with your ex - girlfriend . stay active on social media . act confident and nonchalant when you run into your ex in public . dont make yourself available for your ex - girlfriend . allow yourself to start dating again .

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this prevents one or both parties from becoming hurt throughout the process of trying to make your ex jealous . a healthy approach to jealousy is when your goal is to deepen or rekindle your relationship with your ex , while an unhealthy approach is when you want to seek revenge or intentionally hurt your ex for breaking it off in the first place . ending all contact with your ex can make her wonder what youre up to , and why youre no longer talking to her . she may suspect that youre seeing someone new , or keeping busy with fun activities that dont involve her . if you dont feel comfortable ceasing all contact , at least wait two or three weeks before contacting her again . an old spanish proverb says living well is the best revenge , which is great to keep in mind when making your ex - girlfriend jealous . improving yourself as a person is healthy , and boosts your self - esteem when youre going through a breakup . exercise more often , devote more time to friends and family , read books , and make other positive changes that will have your ex questioning whether your life is better without her . this indirectly keeps your ex in the loop with whats going on with you , even if youre not staying in touch with your ex . your friends may even mention to your ex that theyve seen you , and that youre doing well without her . for example , inform your friends that you recently got a job promotion , lost weight , or have plans to run the next 5k marathon . the news may circulate back to your ex and make her feel jealous about your accomplishments . your ex may browse your social media profiles out of curiosity to see how youre getting on without her , and to see if youre spending time with someone new . keep all social media posts positive in nature , and try to be mysterious without posting explicit details . for example , share photos of yourself having fun with friends on a friday night without explaining where you are , or what youre celebrating . share photos of yourself spending time with other women , especially those you consider attractive . seeing you having fun with other women can make your ex feel jealous and confused about her true feelings for you . if meeting your ex in person is inevitable due to seeing her at work or spending time with mutual friends , smile and say hello , then move on with your day . this positive behavior can make your ex wonder why youre not unhappy without her , and also shows that youre confident and have moved on . if your ex tries to call or text you , dont reply right away . this makes it look like youre busy , and will make your ex feel curious about what youre up to . this also helps you avoid looking desperate to hear from her . depending on the nature of your exs phone call , put off returning her call for several hours or several days . though you may still have feelings for your ex and want to win her back , re - entering the dating scene is a natural way to make your ex jealous because it makes it look as if youve already gotten over the breakup and moved on . plus , you may end up meeting someone you enjoy spending time with more than your ex .

talk in private . be direct about your concerns . avoid making it about you . reiterate your love for your child . listen to their opinion .

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pointing out your distaste for your childs date when they are around can be a recipe for disaster . whats more , saying i dont like himher in someones face is just plain rude . your child is more likely to consider your point of view if you pull them aside and have the conversation in private . also , be sure to do this early on , and not spring this on your child at an awkward moment like right before they head out to prom . you might start by asking about the state of the relationship so , you and david have been dating for a few weeks now . how are things going getting a feel for your childs opinion of the relationship can help you frame your discussion . plus , depending on their response umm , things arent going so well . i think well probably break things off , you might no longer find a conversation necessary . another option is to ask what your teen finds appealing about their date . this can help you to see their perspective and you may see positive qualities in the person that you did not notice before . once you have gauged your childs impression of their date , gently share your concerns . offer clear examples as to what rubs you the wrong way about their date . be thorough by providing details to support your apprehension . you might say , i dont like the way he talks to you . i heard him say the other day that you better not do this or that . he comes off like you are a piece of property or someone who has to obey him . if you are direct about your concerns , then in the future your teen might start to notice them on their own . its easy for parents to come off as living vicariously through their children , or sheltering their children from situations they went through . your concern is with your teen and their date , so try to maintain focus on the issue at hand rather than digressing into a lecture about your own teen romance drama . for example , avoid saying something personal and judgmental like ive seen that type before . make the discussion about your child by saying things like you dont seem happy or youve stopped hanging with your friends since you started dating them . it can be harsh to hear that your parent doesnt like your significant other . teens often get totally wrapped up in their love lives . showing any sort of disapproval could start a war between the two of you . take the time to remind your teen that you are doing this out of love for them . add in i love you and i want the best for you . i want you to be with someone who appreciates how amazing you are . once youve said your piece , sit back and listen . show that you are willing to hear your child out and get their take on the matter . a give and take discussion is especially important with teens who often feel like their parents value their opinions . show youre engaged and listening by waiting until your child has finished talking before replying . nod , shake your head , or gesture to indicate that youre paying attention . if you dont understand , paraphrase by saying something like so , youre saying the way he talks to you is just a form of affection

get to know them first . be courteous . resist the temptation to grill the date . look for positives .

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as the old saying goes , dont judge a book by its cover . if you decide you dont like your teens date shortly after introductions , your opinion could be misguided . dont jump to conclusions by judging their date prematurely . instead take the time to actually get to know who they are dating . then , you can decide if the date is a positive partner for your teen . plus , trying to get to know them shows your teen that you are making an effort . invite your teens new date over for a family game night or intimate barbecue . make a point to assess their interactions with your teen and the rest of the family . however , keep in mind that one interaction is not enough to get a good idea of who the person is . it may take several interactions before you have a good sense of their character . as an adult , you still want to be a positive role model . even though you may not like your teens date , act appropriately by treating the person with kindness and respect . keep in mind that how you treat the person reflects on your child and your family as whole . greet them and ask about their well - being when you are in their presence . furthermore , some teens choose unsavory dates to push their parents buttons . if you are civil with the date and refuse to act inappropriately , this may diminish the power of any acting out behaviors . its perfectly fine to get to know your teens date on a personal level , but draw the line at full - on grilling . plus , your child will be humiliated if you initiate an interrogation of their date . if you intimidate the date or your teen , they are more likely to keep their relationship on the down - low in the future , which is something you dont want to happen . stick to the basics like who are your parents or where are you from you can gradually get more information about a new date during future visits . despite your instincts signaling that this person is a bad choice for your teen , try to get some perspective . your initial instinct could be wrong , and you could be harshly judging a decent person . take a step back and try to see from your teens point of view . what is it that you think they like about this person do they have any redeeming qualitiesyou might even discuss this with your child by saying something like , you know i can see what you like about jessica . she has a great sense of humor .

trust your child to make good decisions . give your child the opportunity to learn . respect your childs boundaries , but set limits on the relationship . intervene if you believe your child is being abused .

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so your teens date demonstrates questionable behavior or has a disappointing reputation . keep in mind that you dont have to trust the date when you trust your child . if you have instilled good values into your child and they know their self - worth , you can depend on them to choose a partner who has similar values . being able to trust your child comes down to knowing who you raised . have you had any reason to question your teens judgment before if not , give them the benefit of the doubt . odds are , if you have warned your child about a dubious character , others may have , too . in fact , they may get the sense deep down that their date is bad news , but they may need time to come to terms with it . your child is bound to encounter undesirable friends and partners . giving them the room to experience the relationship can help them learn how to successfully navigate these types of situations . be sure that your child knows what they should expect from a healthy relationship . discuss this with them often so that they understand what they deserve . if your instinct tells you to be on alert for your childs new date , try your best to monitor the relationship . you may not be able to altogether keep them from spending time together , but you can enforce rules that restrict their visits . set age - appropriate guidelines and sit down to discuss them with your teen . you might limit phone calls , social media use , dates , or house visits . setting these limits gives you an opportunity to closely observe the relationship to determine whether it is harmless or toxic . if you have evidence that your teen is being mistreated or abused , put your foot down . obsessive communication with the date , unexplained marks or bruises , and marked changes in your childs attitude or behavior may clue you in to an unhealthy or abusive relationship . beware that forcing your child to end the relationship will probably affect your relationship with your child for a while . however , you must do this in order to keep your child out of danger . say something like , ive seen the marks on your arms . i know hes hitting you . i forbid you from seeing or talking to him again . i will also be talking to his parents .

find people who know what youre feeling . admit you have a crush . tell your crush . acknowledge defeat . separate yourself from your crush . meet some new people . take care of yourself . be wary of relapsing . avoid becoming bitter . make a list of bad things about your crush .

how to get over a crush

its hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when youre in the middle of a crush , but plenty of other people have been down this path before you . finding out how they got through it can kick - start your own inspiration to move on . ask a friend or family member for help . most people can sympathize with love on some level , and they might be able to tell you about their own experiences overcoming a crush . even if they dont have personal experience with this problem , they can still give you some level - headed advice . keep your eyes peeled for examples . once you start looking for it , youll see countless examples of other people struggling . books , movies , songs and even news stories often center on someone grappling with an impossible crush . pay extra attention to the ones where someone gets over it , and note what you can learn . before you can get over a problem , you have to acknowledge that it exists . allow yourself to say you have a crush , and to experience all the complicated emotions that go with it . consider writing down a few pages about how you feel . taking some time to express your emotional turmoil can help you feel like youre putting it behind you . list the reasons why you developed feelings for the other person , and why its not going to work . write it in a private journal , or on a password - protected word processing document . or , write it on a few loose pieces of paper and burn them later . state your feelings out loud . you dont have to tell anyone else how you feel , but verbalizing your problem out loud — even if youre the only person in the room — can help it seem real and approachable . it can be as simple as saying i have a crush on steve , and i hate that i feel this way . if youre certain theyre mature and capable of understanding what youre going through , find a time when you can talk to them about it . one of the most difficult parts of getting over a crush is letting go of your hopes for romance . if your best friend is dating him , then you just need to back off . if you just give up , youll likely be tormented by what if thoughts . telling the person gives the small chance that maybe they really do like you back , but even in the eventuality that they dont , you finally can just move on to accepting that . you wont feel like you wasted a chance for happiness . dont be demanding or creepy , try to avoid talking about the physical side of your feelings , as thats not relevant to what you really want to know . simply tell them how much you care about them , and that you just want to know if they feel the same . make it clear you still want to be friends with them although you may need time apart to get over your feelings , and that you want them to be honest . writing your crush a letter may be better for several reasons . it makes it easier for you to explain how you feel without getting stuck , and it also puts less pressure on them . give your crush a letter explaining your feelings , and ask them to read it later when theyre alone . dont contact them for a day , just to allow them time to think about what youve told them . try talking to them the next day when you have time alone . if they avoid you , understand theyre probably just a little intimidated and confused , just give your crush space and try again in a while . maybe the person youre crushing on is already in another relationship , or youre separated by thousands of miles of distance . maybe the other person doesnt even know how you feel , and youre unable to say . whatever the reason , accept that theres an obstacle in your path , and that youre choosing to walk away from it . dont confuse this with personal failure . the fact that you cant be with your crush has nothing to do with your inherent self - worth . relationships dont work out for a multitude of reasons , and most of them are problems that cant be changed or improved . some things are beyond your control . accept the things about yourself that prevented them from having feelings for you . heartbreak typically begins with denial , try to skip that stage . accept that perhaps you just werent compatible . be open to correcting flaws in yourself if you want to improve your chances next time , but make sure not to confuse flaws with differences . bad hygiene is a flaw , and something you can fix . liking a different kind of music , or being a more introverted person are not , and you shouldnt try to force yourself to change them . it may seem like youd do anything to be with the person , but deep down , what you desire more than anything is for them to love you as you are . even if changing for them possibly resulted in them falling in love with the new you , the relationship would likely quickly fall apart after the initial novelty . avoid becoming embarrassingly stubborn . it might go deeply against your grain to admit that you cant do something , and in most situations perseverance is an admirable trait . there are times , though , when perseverance morphs into desperation and stupidity . chasing an impossible crush is one of those times . let it go . if you can , try to give yourself some breathing room away from the object of your affection . a lot of crushes are born of proximity , or simply being around someone who happens to be remotely likable . if youre not around this person as often , the crush might peter out on its own . if youre crushing on a close friend make yourself less available . if you want to try to preserve the friendship , aim to spend as little time as possible with the other person right now without hurting his or her feelings . or , if you trust your friend to respond compassionately , explain your problem and state that you just need a little space right now . if youre crushing on a mutual friend if the friend of a friend is the problem , try to bow out of group social events gracefully . if you have to , explain the issue to your first friend so that he or she wont take it personally . if youre crushing on someone at school take this opportunity to work harder on your studies , and distract yourself from your crush . every time youre tempted to think about him or her , open a book or drill flashcards instead . take different routes to class or sit elsewhere at lunch if you have to . if youre crushing on a co - worker focus more on your work . for the time being , avoid group lunches , casual mid - day conversations , and events like happy hour . if youre crushing on someone you cant physically avoid mentally distance yourself instead . being in the same room as someone doesnt mean you have to think about them , too . think about whatever task youre doing , or daydream about all the awesome things youll do someday — without your crush . if your crush is always hanging out in your current group of friends , try broadening your social horizons . making new friends will distract you from your current misery , boost your confidence , and might even lead you to someone whos a better match for you . here are some places to start find people who share your hobbies . love trivia swing by a few local pubs and ask about the next trivia night . into writing look around online or inquire at local colleges to find a new critique group . play sports search online for intramural leagues , or look up the local chapters of leagues like the world adult kickball association . the possibilities are endless get involved in service . volunteer at a local shelter , or contact an organization that champions a cause you care about , like humane treatment of animals or environmental clean - up . attend a few service events and strike up some conversations with like - minded helpers . take advantage of school or church groups . if youre already attending a school or church that offers extracurricular activities , get involved party - planning committees like for prom or church dances , choir , service groups , or sports leagues are all possibilities . use this time to step back and re - evaluate ways you can improve your own life , instead of devoting all that mental capital to your crush . youll find a few distracting tasks to take care of , and youll be bettering your own situation at the same time . give yourself a mini - makeover even if youre a guy is your wardrobe feeling a little stale have you had the same hairstyle for too long pick up a few new , confidence - boosting pieces for your closet , or investigate a new haircut or color . if youre not sure how to navigate your options , ask a particularly stylish friend or family member for help . get organized . if its been awhile since youve cleaned out your closetcargaragebasement , get on it sorting through old junk can be a meditative process , and youll probably feel relaxed and accomplished when youre done . work out . exercise clears the mind — when youre so focused on pushing your body , you cant afford to worry about much else besides breathing and moving . take up running , swimming , biking , or another activity that can both improve your body and de - junk your mind . practice positive self - talk . it sounds silly , but it really works . look at yourself in the mirror a few times a day , and say whatever it is that you need to hear . it might be youll find someone better or no one is worth all this moping . repeat it until you believe it . getting over a crush is hard work , and if it took you several months to become infatuated , it might take long to dig yourself back out . accept that its a process , and plan ahead so you wont be derailed by a sudden relapse . heres how to deal with one realize that you dont see this person realistically . limerence , or the overwhelming feeling of infatuation that you feel around your crush , can throw you out of logical thinking patterns and make you idealize your crush . repeat to yourself that no matter how you feel , no one is perfect , not even your crush , and recognize that you are intentionally overlooking his or her flaws . treat it like a substance addiction . you wouldnt point a recovering alcoholic toward a bar , so dont put yourself in situations where youre tempted to fuss over your crush . steer clear of intimate situations and avoid frequent contact , even if its over text or chat and not in - person . dont just transfer your feelings to a new target . finding a new person to attach all your feelings to is another form of relapsing — you might not be crushing on the same person , but youre feeling the same emotions . making someone your substitute isnt fair to them , because youre not seeing them for who they are , and its not fair to you , because youre allowing yourself to fall back into the same cycle . demonizing your crush might help you get over it in a short - term way , but its not a long - term solution . heres the problem thinking about how much you hate someone is still a way of obsessing over him or her , so youre functionally stuck at square one . dont make someone else responsible for your happiness . sure , maybe your crush didnt respond to your affections like you had hoped . maybe he or she even made it worse by teasing you or flirting incessantly , knowing full well how you felt . but whatever happened , the only person charged with making you happy is you . youre responsible for taking yourself out of a bad situation and moving forward , so dont hold your crush accountable for making you miserable . try to wish him or her all the best . if you truly care about someone , you want to see that person find happiness — even if its not with you . resist the urge to become angry or start making comparisons if your crush starts dating someone else . try to cultivate a spirit of being happy when the people you like are happy . this is quite tricky but very effective when done and understood in the right way . your crush caught your eyes for all the good qualities you saw on himher . now you have to reverse it . you may think at first that your crush is so perfect but no , everyone has their share of flaws and that is what you have to keep in your mind . time to stop dreaming . think deeply about your crush and find as many ugly characteristics as you can find . list it down on a piece of paper and read it repeatedly . when you see him around , do not look at the good . remember everything you wrote and dont lose focus .

tell your friend you have a crush if you need closure . reveal how you feel if the friendship has changed . dont tell your friend if they are in a relationship . talk about your feelings in - person . let them know how deeply you care about them . accept their reaction , no matter what .

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letting your friend know how you feel might set you free from emotional pressure and pain . you wont have as many questions about how they feel , whether they reciprocate your feeling , or how to read into moments with them . you wont have to deal with what - ifs or what could have been because youll have your closure . closure is especially important if you want to move on from this crush . with so many unanswered questions , you might not feel ready to date other people . if you dont tell your friend you care for them , they might never know the extent of your feelings . letting them know can help them fully understand your friendship and give you support , if needed . if feelings are left unsaid , you might distance yourself from your friend or act differently around them without noticing . in response , your friend might be unsure whats happened . they might worry that they did something wrong or that you dont care for them anymore . opening up about your feelings can get rid of miscommunication . being vulnerable about tough feelings is important in friendships . if you cant express your emotions , you and your friend may not feel connected or safe around each other . when your friend is dating another person , its usually best not to tell them about your feelings . telling them you like them could bring conflicting emotions into the friendship and introduce distance . instead , wait until they are out of a relationship or until you do not feel obliged to act on the feelings . if youre nervous , you might be tempted to reveal your feelings over text or online messaging . but having serious conversations happen much better in - person . being able to see and hear the other person will leave less room for miscommunication . youll see each others body language and be able to respond immediately . try a few deep breathing exercises before you have the conversation to get rid of nerves . write out your feelings before you tell them , if you feel overwhelmed . this will give you an outlet and help you express your emotions in a healthy way . sometimes when people reveal romantic feelings , the recipient may worry that youre only interested in dating . if they dont reciprocate the feeling , they might wonder if youre still interested in a friendship . make it clear that you appreciate your relationship with them regardless of their response . if they say they reciprocate your feelings , you might feel anxious and unsure what to do next . if they say they dont , you might feel crushed . their emotions are as valid as yours , and it is important for you to respect them . dont argue with them or react angrily if their response isnt what you hoped for . thank them for being honest , and distance yourself if you need time alone . hurt , grief , and pain are all normal reactions to have when grieving . dont suppress your emotions or feel ashamed about them . feeling is part of the healing process . if you find yourself unable to move on from an unwanted answer , you may be dealing with depression . talk to a professional like a psychologist or therapist if your feelings cause significant distress .

all this information will be if you are not particularly close or friends with the person . decide first if you want to get rid of them for good . cut off any contact you may have with himher . do not try to talk to them when unnecessary . write a list of all their bad points . try to remember a time that they were not particularly nice to you or annoyed you . remember , if they were not willing to make an effort with you why should you too , spend more time with friends and family . if you have imaginationsfantasies of this person in your mind then replace them with someone else . check out other guysgirls . find new interests or be more involved in activities . look after yourself , you are more important than some person you barely know .

how to get over someone that you know doesnt like you

only for people who have minimum contact with their crush . you must be prepared to get over them and move on . or else do not read this anymore . examples deleting or blocking from social networking websites avoiding going to similar places unless you have to . by doing this youre giving less of a chance to watch them and get obsessive and start finding reasons to like them even more . only when it is important that you do so , you want to do everything in your power to stop liking them and by getting to know them you could find more good things to like . after doing this , keep it somewhere you can look at it , always think of their bad points rather than the good so you have a reason to dislike them . keep this moment of time in your mind , if they could do that , why are they worthy of your time . they dont like you or want to get to know you , its their loss and never forget that . being with your family and friends is a great way to get over anything or anyone . by spending more time with them , your time will be more occupied and you would have those things ruling your mind rather than the thought of them . keep socializing . by having an emotional connection with this person in your mind , you will never be able to let go , your mind is the strongest and most powerful thing and if you can convince your mind into not liking him then you can do anything really . there are so many different people out there and if you dont want someone different , theres someone the same but better . look around , once you find yourself letting go of this person theres a greater chance that youll meet someone that actually likes you . find something different to do . maybe help around with something , get a job , make a blog , make new friends , start a sport , join a club . anything you might never have done before or youve always wanted to do . focus on being a better person or working on your appearance , or meeting new people . just keep yourself as a huge priority right now .

separate fantasy from what actually is . appreciate your friendship for what you have . spend some time apart for a while . set boundaries .

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your crush might linger if you daydream about what could be , but holding onto your fantasies will only lead to more pain . accept the reality of the situation and your feelings of attraction equally . gradually avoid thinking about what your relationship would be like if it could only work out . dont dwell on the past or worry about the future . instead , ground yourself in the present . instead of building up a fantasy life , work on improving what you have . set goals in your work or hobbies , spend time with loved ones , and work on self - improvement to love the life you have . your friendship with this person can still be meaningful , even if you cant pursue a romantic relationship with them . think about all the good times youve had with this person and the positive qualities they have . have gratitude that this person is in your life and that youve had the opportunity to know them . you dont have to give up your friendship with your best friend that relationship can still be important . but spending time with just this person can cause you to dwell endlessly on your feelings . you might need some time away from this person to work through your feelings . tell your friend that you need space for a while if youre comfortable , you can tell them about your feelings . if youre not ready to tell them , however , just let them know youre going through a painful experience and need time alone . sometimes , rebuilding the friendship can take weeks or months . you may not feel completely over your crush until youve found someone knew . take as much time as you need to process your emotions . your friend may feel confused or hurt if youre suddenly avoiding them . let them know that this isnt their fault and that you still care about them . when youre ready to resume the friendship , you can do so without miscommunication . if you want to fall out of love with your crush , set boundaries for yourself and your friend to avoid sparking old flames . you might avoid extended physical contact with your friend , stop flirting with them , or steer away from intimate conversations for a while . share the boundaries with your friend if youre comfortable so they know to avoid those situations .

allow yourself to feel without restrictions . practice self - care . let yourself laugh . express your feelings creatively . regain your confidence .

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dont bottle up your emotions . trying to repress feelings often leads to more pain . rather than ignoring the pain , open yourself up to the full spectrum of emotions . grieve for what could have been . express gratitude that this friend has been in your life . think of the good and bad times . whatever emotions come , accept them . if the emotions are too overwhelming , take a break from thinking about your friend . relax , recharge , and approach the situation again when youre ready . sometimes a good cry can be cathartic . if you need to cry , find somewhere youre comfortable and let it out . in the midst of these strong feelings for your friend , you may neglect taking care of yourself . but practicing self - care in this time will help you regain confidence and maintain supportive relationships as you process your emotions . do activities that strengthen your physical and emotional well - being , and take care of your personal hygiene . emotional self - care might include reading a book , spending time with a friend , listening to music , getting a massage , or learning something new . physical self - care might include going for a walk , exercising , getting enough sleep , staying hydrated , or scheduling a medical check - up . humor really can be the best medicine . comic relief can help you de - stress and keep a light perspective in life . watch a silly movie , read humorous novels , or visit a local comedy club . at the very least , laughter can distract you when you need time away from your thoughts . sometimes people use humor as a coping mechanism in hard times . make sure that youre not using jokes to repress painful feelings . getting your feelings out whether in words , art , or song will help you collect your thoughts and process all the emotions you might be feeling . you can share your work with others , or you can just keep it for yourself . the important part is expressing yourself fully . if youre not the creative type , start a journal . seeing your emotions on paper will help you work through them . while getting over a crush on your friend , your self - esteem may plummet . you may worry that nobody will ever love you like you wish your friend did . believing in yourself again can help you cope with the pain and cultivate hope in the future . write down your strengths on a piece of paper to remember when youre feeling low , and set reachable goals every day to remind yourself that you can do hard things . sometimes low self - esteem is a symptom of depression , which is not as easily cured on your own . if you think you may be depressed , consider telling a loved one or seeing a counselor .

date yourself for a while . take up a new hobby . spend time with your other friends . go out with other people , when youre ready . accept that falling out of love takes time .

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before you get back into the dating scene , spend some time on self - understanding . get to know yourself on a deeper level think about your goals in life and whats important to you . explore your strengths and weaknesses as a human being . knowing yourself better will help you define what youre seeking in a relationship . falling in love with someone can cause you to forget yourself . re - discover who you are apart from your friend and learn to love yourself . getting out and learning something new will give you something else to think about besides your friend . youll also be able to learn new skills and regain some self - confidence . join a cooking class , volunteer at a local shelter , buy an instrument to learn , or try out an activity youve always wanted to do . pick a hobby that requires a lot of time and concentration . you can then use it to escape your mind for a while and focus on something productive . now is the time to revisit an activity you used to do but for whatever reason let go . doing something you love again will help you reconnect with your inner self . having a crush on your best friend can cause you to neglect other friendships . as you develop meaningful relationships with other friends , youll gain emotional support outside of your best friend . invite a friend over to chat , see a movie with them , or even send them a text to let them know you care . dont distract yourself constantly with friends . spending time alone is important , too . if you need some space from others for a while , let yourself have that time . once youre ready to fall in love again , re - enter the dating scene . you dont have to fall into a serious relationship right away date a few different people for a while and have fun just getting to know them . the best way to fall in love again is by meeting new people . join a club , volunteer somewhere new , chat with a classmate or co - worker , or visit your local bar . think about what qualities your friend has that you want in a partner and look for those in another person . you cant expect to find someone just like your friend because everyone is different , but through your friend you can learn what you value in a partner . getting over a crush takes time as your heart heals . in a way , you might always love and care for this person . what matters is moving past the pain and opening yourself up to loving again , even if not for a while . dont beat yourself up if youre still pining for this person . you can find new love in the future . if youre not careful , you may become bitter from the pain and start to hate your friend . dont let yourself fill with negative emotions .

stop only thinking about him . dont cling to him whenever you , your friend , and his crush are together . if the girl he likes is nice , try to make friends with her . try not to care so much about what he thinks . if you have a close enough friend thats a girl , try seeking her advice . try to focus on one of his flaws . dont let this ruin your life , do not let this crush ruin your friendship .

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if you notice anyone else you might like , go for it . try to broaden your horizons and not obsess over him . this can help you to realize that hes probably not as great as you thought . even if its not just the three of you alone . hell think youre weird and could figure out you like him . that way youll be more relaxed around her and him when all of you are together . itll matter even more to you what he thinks about you because youre friends , and youve probably already accepted advice and opinions from him . just ask someone else some of the things youd usually ask him . this will help you to get a fresh , new perspective on things . you never know , she could have some experience in your dilemma . nothing beats another girls advice , just make sure youre asking the right person . dont make him out to be a terrible person , just think of a little thing that kind of annoys you or turns you off whenever you think this about him . you probably have something else to think about besides your guy friend 247 . if hes in your classes , activities , office , maybe even a team , you can still do other things without him . do something with a friend or friends , try new things , get involved in something . although its hard to think of him as just a friend , you can still do things together . you are friends , rightyou have to remember that you were and still are friends with him even if you do like him .

release your hope for him . grieve . evaluate his behavior and your own . remind yourself of things you didnt like about him . remember that youre loveable . renew yourself . be healthy and take care of yourself . date when youre ready . theres no need to rush it , but when dating sounds appealing to you , try it out . take some distance if you can . spend more time with your friends . confide in your friends . dismiss gossip .

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giving up on something you want can be frightening , but actually doing so can be a relief . unconsciously , youve been motivated to pursue him—hes been your goal . make a conscious decision to no longer pursue him . it may help to write this down , to tell a friend , or even to hold a small ceremony for yourself . consider gathering things you have that make you think of him and putting them in a box , throwing them away , or giving them away . once your private space is cleared of reminders , consider holding a small cleansing ceremony . burn some sage incense and walk through your room or your home . when a wish for him comes up , dont suppress it and dont cling to it . acknowledge how you feel , but remind yourself that you are choosing to move on . dont push away feelings of sadness when they come . its totally natural and healthy to be sad when you have feelings for someone and it doesnt work out . take a week or a few weeks to grieve . cry if you can if your feelings are hurt , you are actually hurt , and you will do better to acknowledge it . crying can be extremely therapeutic . listen to music that lets you feel your feelings . exercise . it helps to clear your mind and you will be healthier . write in a diary if you have one . write a letter to him if you want . keep it for a week or two before you give it to him , or dont give it to him at all . the point is to get your feelings out . go on some long walks by yourself . youll have time to think , and youll feel better for the exercise . know when to stop . if youre dropping the people and projects that matter to you , youre grieving too much . consult a therapist if you cant get back into your normal life . did he lead you on , acting like he liked you for attention did you pursue him relentlessly even after he let you know that it wasnt going to work was everyone honest and considerate , or was bad behavior involved if you feel like you misbehaved , apologize . if you feel like he did something wrong , and youre friends , consider letting him know that you feel hurt . you can write a brief letter or email if its too painful to talk to him in person . if you arent friends , it might feel better to not communicate . ask yourself what would feel better , and follow that path . maybe he was totally unadventurous , or maybe he was too much of a risk taker . maybe he constantly interrupted you . maybe you were in love with the fantasy of this guy and not the guy himself . it can be hard to see the real person when youre infatuated . you dont have to demonize him , of course . just take your image of him with a grain of salt . remember , he was never perfect you just had some perfect feelings about him . you were your own unique and interesting person long before this guys opinion ever meant a thing to you the more you remember and act on that , the stronger and more attractive youll feel . realize that just because he doesnt like you doesnt necessarily have anything to do with you . it could be just his problem attraction between two people is influenced by factors of timing , of nature , of nurture , and of factors beyond our control . one persons feelings about you are not a way to measure your character . make a list of things you like about yourself . include big things and small things . group accomplishments , personality traits , and talents . make a list of what you really care for in a relationship , and see if he fulfilled those expectations . he probably wont , and thats okay ask yourself , what can you count on yourself to do what difficulties have you overcome now is a great time to make a change . redecorate your house , or just move the furniture around in your room . pursue a new hobby , sign up for some volunteer hours , get a different haircut . master a new skill take a class , cook a new dish , or make yourself something youve been wanting , like shelf . if you have some extra cash , buy a new outfit . ask friends to do things with you , but also try things that will get you out of your comfort zone . talking to new people will be restorative . feeling bad about yourself after a crush doesnt work out is normal , but its not a great way to feel . taking care of yourself is a way to show yourself that you do matter , and it will also make you feel a lot better . get regular exercise , meals , and sleep . get therapy if you are feeling depressed or anxious . stick to a healthy routine every day . clean up and dress yourself nicely , even when you feel like sludge—it will make you feel better . if you think you tend to like a certain kind of guy , try dating someone different you might be making your romantic choices based on a pattern that doesnt actually work for you . if you always like boisterous overachievers , give a quiet introvert a chance . remember that there is always someone for you . you will find a guy who adores you soon enough . dont rush to rebound , or you might end up breaking someone elses heart . it will hurt you and it could hurt them . its okay to get out and flirt . dont get seriously involved with someone right away , but do flirt a little or even go on casual dates if thats fun for you . once youve let go of hoping for someone , you just need time to pass . the more time passes , the better youll feel . meanwhile , limit your exposure to him . dont hang out , and try not to bump into him too much . this doesnt mean you should hide out—absolutely not—just that you should avoid interacting while youre still in pain . bring a friend when you know youll run into him . we cant always avoid people who like—if you know youll have to be around him sometimes , bring friends who know whats going on with you to back you up . keep it positive . you dont have to glare at him or treat him rudely . when you feel normal again , you might end up being real friends with this guy . just be polite and try to avoid him discretely . of course , you may need some alone time at first , but turning into a full - time hermit is just going to make you feel like hes the only person in the world . go out with your pals , have a buddy night , and socialize as much as feels good . the more you meet your emotional needs elsewhere , the less impact his absence will have on you . if hes a good friend and all your friends are mutual , try organizing smaller outings—just two or three at a time—so that his absence doesnt feel conspicuous . keeping heartbreak private can make it hurt more . it can be a relief to tell your nearest and dearest what youre going through . you dont have to tell everyone , and its probably better if you dont—but if you have a few good friends and relatives who can keep your business private , it might help to let them know that youre going through an emotionally rocky moment . be sure to tell them if what youre saying is private . ask them not to treat the guy you had a crush on any differently—unless he was a jerk , of course . if people talk , they talk . if unsubstantiated rumors are flying around , know that theyll die down soon . dont add fuel to the rumors by getting angry or defensive . instead , when confronted by nosy people , say it is your personal life , raise your eyebrows , and change the subject . whatever you say won´t change their minds , just always be the bigger person , smile and be polite .

make a list of what you like about yourself . write down everything in your life that makes you happy . look at the big picture .

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if you find yourself taking it personally or doubting yourself , try to build your confidence instead . make a list of your favorite things about yourself and spend time nurturing these traits . that way , if someone else doesnt appreciate you , it wont seem so important because you know and appreciate yourself . for example , maybe you like that you are a loyal friend or maybe you like that you are kind to people . write down the great qualities that you have and focus on these . dont take it personally . your crushs rejection likely has nothing to do with you . your crush not having feelings for you is not a statement about you its a statement about them . you are a perfectly lovely person who simply wasnt meant to be with your crush . there are so many reasons that your crush might not be interested , and almost none of them have to do with you . maybe your crush wasnt ready for a relationship . maybe they dont have time right now . maybe they dont want to make a commitment to someone . maybe they have feelings for someone else . dont question yourself . its their loss make a list of everything else in your life , such as the people , activities , and interests that you have . this will help you to see yourself more clearly and not let one persons rejection be blown out of proportion . dont let your crushs rejection define you . there are so many other important aspects of your life . all of these things that make you happy help define who you are . you are the same wonderful person whether someone notices it or not . your worth is never dependent on any other person . seeing all of these other great parts of your life will help you to put one persons rejection in perspective . there are over seven billion people on our planet . so one of them didnt like you . thats ok that one person might have felt like the whole world to you , but they are simply one of many . there are probably millions of people who have similar characteristics as your crush . now that you know what kind of person you are looking for , you can open your eyes to all the other wonderful people out there . over your lifetime , there will likely be many people who you like and many who like you . sometimes you will like someone and they wont like you back . sometimes someone will like you and you wont like them back . sometimes you both wont like each other . and every once in a while you will find someone who likes you as much as you like them . this is to be expected . this is what happens when there are so many different people in the world . think of it as an adventure and journey to finding the right person rather than a form of rejection .

decide whether or not you want to stay in touch . let yourself be sad for a while . spend some time thinking about your crush , but limit it . write it out . give it some time . make new friends . start with a clean slate . try new things . stay healthy . find a new crush .

how to get over a crush because you have moved away

for some people , staying in touch can be a nice way to keep a friend who youve got a little crush on . for others , it can be like torture . decide if youre likely to ever see this person in real life again , or if staying in touch will only make it worse . if you cant be together and dont live in the same area , consider cutting all ties . dump the phone number , texts , pictures , and memories . the quicker you forget this person , the better . social media makes it pretty easy to keep in touch , which can be a blessing or a curse . its easy to chat regularly and keep up to date with their life , but that can be painful . consider blocking them on social media , as well . sometimes , its ok to have a sad , lonely night on the couch , watching romantic netflix movies . have some ice cream and get the tissues out . sometimes , this is just the thing you need to mope around a bit and move on . try to put a limit on it . if this wasnt an actual relationship , theres no reason to mope around for more than a day or two , lamenting your lost crush . youll find someone new . allow yourself to think about the person you liked , but not for more than a certain amount of time each day . set aside 20 or 30 minutes to think about the person so that you can process your feelings of grief and start to accept the fact that your crush is gone . when the allotted time is up for the day , tell yourself that you can think about the person again tomorrow and immediately start engaging in an activity that is productive , such as homework or doing something fun . while you dont want to constantly dwell on the sad feelings that you have , its not healthy to completely ignore them either . write down the feelings you are experiencing through poetry , songwriting , short stories or in a journal . you can also write letters to the crush that you dont actually intend to send . writing about your feelings or composing a never - to - be - sent letter to the person can help you process and release your feelings in a healthy and constructive way . while it hurts a lot , getting over a crush is going to eventually happen . try not to spend too much money on chocolate and tissues . itll take time , but eventually the hole in your heart will get filled . who knows , maybe at the new area you go to , youll find a new crush . while your crush might seem like a person of your dreams , theyre really not as perfect as you may think . if youre quite young , youre going to meet hundreds , if not thousands , of new people in the coming years . it wont be long before this little crush seems like a distant memory . find new people to occupy your attention span . if youve switched to a new school , try your best to make as many new friends as possible . consider making different kinds of friends , or finding other types of kids to hang out with . you might even find a good crush . consider telling them about your situation . not only will it make you new friends , but they might try to set you up with someone , which would also distract you from the fact that your crush is so far away . if youve just moved , youve got a great opportunity to not only get over a crush , but to turn over a whole new page in your life . nobody knows about your past here . nobody knows what you used to be like . you can be anybody . consider making a big style change , or switching things up at your new school . just because you never used to dye your hair purple or listen to punk rock doesnt mean that people at your new school know that . they didnt see your kindergarten pictures . theyll never be the wiser . go to that new cafe that just opened up down the street , join a club , get some hobbies . the more things you do the more people youll meet . eventually youre bound to meet someone who catches your interest . try to mix your life up a bit in little ways . take a different route to school each day , or have something different for breakfast every day of the week . keep looking for new ways to spice it up . its important to get plenty of sleep , eat healthy , and exercise any time youre feeling depressed . lack of sleep is known to affect mood and to make people more emotional , while long - term sleep deprivation is commonly linked to depression . getting a good nights sleep will help you feel refreshed and give you the energy you need to deal with your emotions and to move on with your life . engage in rigorous exercise for at least a half hour approximately five days a week . according to the mayo clinic , exercising for a half hour or more causes the brain to emit chemicals that cause you to feel happier and more relaxed . exercising will not only leave you feeling better physically , but it will help you forget . you shouldnt stay stuck on this crush for very long . as soon as you get to your new town , start letting your eye wander . check out the other cuties at your school and on your block . find someone new to crush on , and your old crush will fade quickly away . if you do meet someone , try not to compare them to your crush . people hold their crushes in higher regard than they do other people , so comparisons will fall short . each person is a unique individual , so its pointless to try to find some one just like your crush .

find a hobby or activity that makes you happy . treat your crush kindly . name your negative feelings . create distance between you and your crush . distract yourself . look for the positives .

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your crush wont be the one providing your happiness , so its time to find something else that will . spend time with people who put a smile on your face . watch a funny tv show . do an activity that you enjoy . spend time with an animal that makes you happy . make deliberate choices to put yourself in a happy environment rather than wallowing over what you cant have . when your crush doesnt like you , its easy to feel powerless and like a victim of their rejection . but ultimately , your happiness and your emotions are your responsibility and not anyone elses . if you have placed your potential happiness in the hands of your crush , its time to take it back and be responsible for yourself . take ownership of your feelings and make the choice to find happiness for yourself . change your thoughts about what happened . instead of seeing this as a terrible tragedy , look at it as an opportunity for growth and exploration . one person didnt like you back , but lots of other people will . now that you know there isnt a future with this person , you can find the right people . even if its hard , make sure to respect your crush even when you find out they dont like you . if you run into them , you can still say hello . theres no need to badmouth them or respond defensively . you dont need to be best friends , but you can still help them if they need it sometime . its ok that they dont feel the same way . there are lots of people that you dont feel that way about . sometimes it just doesnt work out , and thats to be expected . it doesnt mean your crush is a bad person and it doesnt mean you are . two great people just didnt happen to feel the same way . control what you can . you cant control your crushs feelings , but you can control your response to them . you are far from a passive observer in this . you have full control over how you will respond and how you will move forward . choose to think good thoughts , to adjust your expectations , and to respond in healthy ways . dont let your crushs rejection change you . your crush doesnt need to have that kind of power over you . if you feel hurt , thats ok , but that doesnt need to make you an angry , bitter person . keep making good decisions for yourself and make sure that you like who you are regardless of who else does . after all , youre the one who has to live with you negative feelings can be scary and intimidating . it might help you to name them . instead of just sitting there feeling like its the end of the world , try to put it into words . you could write it down , tell someone that you trust , spend some time thinking about it , or talk to a counselor if you are feeling overwhelmed . maybe you feel sad , disappointed , and alone . if thats the case , you can help yourself to feel differently . you could do a fun activity that makes you feel happy , fulfilled , and connected to someone , such as playing a fun game with a group of close friends . you have the power to influence your emotions . when your crush doesnt like you , this is a form of loss . no , its not the same as losing a loved one , but you are still missing someone who mattered to you . its okay to acknowledge that and to feel sad about that and to admit that you are hurt by this . its only natural to feel this way . spend a bit of time feeling these negative emotions so that you can process them and move past them . you dont need to pretend to be perfectly fine when youre not . no one feels great all the time , when someone isnt able to give you what you need , its time to move on . it isnt healthy to keeping longing for someone who isnt interested . you will only set yourself up for heartbreak . to get past this , you need to say goodbye to the high hopes you had for you and your crush . admit to yourself that it didnt work out this time and dont let your crush occupy your heart and mind anymore . this probably means keeping your distance for a while . it is hard to let go of someone if you are constantly with them . you might want to consider not following them on social media anymore or taking a break from social media . it is difficult to get over someone if you are constantly being informed of every detail in their life . to help yourself feel better , distract your mind so that you arent thinking about your crushs rejection . you could play games , read books , draw , play an instrument , or watch tv . anything that takes your mind off your crush will help put you at ease while you move forward . even in a negative and sad situation , there are always positives that you can find . if you train yourself to look for these instead of dwelling on the negatives , you will be much happier and able to handle any of lifes storms . when your crush doesnt like you , it means you wont have a future with that person , but it also opens you up to other opportunities and experiences . a lot of good can come from a difficult situation . for example , you now have more time to pursue other interests . you have more time to spend with friends . you have a chance to look around and see what other people you might be interested in instead of being so focused on one person . you can take time to invest in yourself . you dont need to worry about the struggles and difficulties inevitably present in any romantic relationship . you can learn about yourself from this experience .

journal about it . spend time with family and friends . purse other interests . take care of yourself . look for someone who does appreciate you .

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writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a vital tool for moving on . it can help to provide clarity about what youre feeling and why youre feeling it so that you can move past it . also , since only a sheet of paper will see what youre writing , its a great way to process your true feelings without worrying what anyone else thinks . its just you , a pen , and paper taking some time to sort things out . you can journal about anything if you dont want to write about what happened with your crush , try writing down a list of ten things that make you happy . this will help you to refocus and improve your mood . you can also use journaling as a learning tool . maybe this experience with your crush has taught you something about yourself . maybe you would approach things differently next time . writing these ideas down can be a powerful tool to help you to remember . even though one person didnt have feelings for you , there are likely at least a handful of people who greatly value you . spend time with them and lean on them during this time . your close friends and family can support you when you cry and make you laugh when you need it . when you are surrounded by loved ones , the one person who didnt like you wont seem so important anymore . if you wish to grow your inner circle , make an effort to include new people . maybe theres an acquaintance whom youd like to get to know better . invite them for lunch sometime . making new friends is a great way to move past your crush because you will open yourself up to new relationships . maybe youre hesitant to open up with your friends and family about your disappointment . but its likely that theyve gone through the exact same thing being honest about your negative feelings can help build intimacy with people and strengthen relationships . make sure to find someone trustworthy to confide in . if they spend a lot of time talking and gossiping about people , then your secrets probably arent safe with them . as a general rule , how someone treats anyone is how they treat everyone . this is not only about distracting yourself , but also building yourself up . remind yourself of the things in life that you love . maybe you are passionate about art or environmentalism . maybe youve always wanted to go camping but never had enough time to do it . this is a great opportunity to pursue other areas of life that bring you happiness . this will help you to have a well - rounded life so that no one person has the key to your happiness . if you want to try something new , consider signing up for a class . for example , you could take a drawing class . this will surround you with other people who are participating in a similar area of interest . you can meet new people and grow your hobbies . presumably , to have strong feelings for your crush , they likely inspired you in some way . find other things in life that inspire you . if you are moved by music , listen to your favorite song . if you love nature , take time to watch a sunset . if you are religious , spend time worshipping god . there are lots of other areas in life where you can find inspiration and passion . especially when dealing with disappointment , it is important to maintain your health . as you continue to respect yourself , you will facilitate the healing process . make sure to get a good nights sleep and take time to exercise . this will help clear your mind and release endorphins . be sure to eat well and hydrate and you will be well on your way to moving forward . since you are going through a hard time , why not do something extra special for yourself you could go get a massage or buy tickets to a concert . this will help soothe and distract you while you get over your crush . for all you know , the right person is just around the corner by not getting too hung up on the one person who doesnt like you , you can open yourself up to a great person who does . you dont want to miss someone right in front of you by fixating on the one who rejected you . now that you arent so focused on your crush , pay attention to the other people around you . you might find that someone else is interested and you hadnt even noticedif you arent sure whether someone likes you or not , there are some signals you can look for . for example , if they make physical contact like touching your arm while talking , this can be a signal of interest . smiling and making eye contact can also signal interest , as can flirting . if you are struggling to find the right person , try joining a new activity that will introduce you to more people . for example , if you join a sports team , you will make new friends and maybe even meet a new crush . online dating is also an option if you struggle to meet people . if you are shy , you might have an easier time connecting over a computer than in person . make sure to be honest on your profile and to be safe . dont give out specific information like your address and if you plan to meet the person , do so in public and consider bringing a friend .

think about your friends feelings . consider whats best for your crush . be honest with yourself about your feelings for your crush . decide whether to tell them .

how to deal with one of your friends dating your crush 1

talk to your friend and try to appreciate his or her position . your friend may have genuine feelings for your crush that seem to be reciprocated . if they really are your friend , you should want to see things work out for them one way or another . if your friend really cares about your crush , the right thing to do may be to see how things go . if your friend doesnt seem to feel too seriously about your crush , he or she may understand if you tell them about how you feel . if your friend has strong feelings for your crush and you interfere , you risk ending your friendship . your crushs feelings should be paramount to you if you really care about him or her , so take a step back and consider the situation . does your crush seem to truly care about your friend are there any signs that he or she may have been interested in you it may be difficult to accept that your crush may not have an interest in you romantically , but understand that it doesnt mean you are any less valuable or attractive as a person . maybe you two simply arent right for each other . if your crush seems like he or she is interested in you and doesnt care too deeply about your friend , you may want to consider being honest with each of them about your feelings . there are many different kinds of crushes one can have on another person . how deep are your feelings for your crush how well do you know him or her if you have strong feelings you fear you may not be able to push aside , you may want to tell them the truth . if you dont know your crush very well , it may not be worth the damage honesty could cause to your friendship . if you are uncertain about your feelings , take a step back and give yourself some time . theres no reason to make any rash decisions . infatuation and love are different emotions that feel very similar . infatuation often occurs when you are caught up in the excitement of meeting a person you like , but the feelings often lack longevity . after considering your feelings , the feelings of your friend and the feelings of your crush , youll have to determine what you think the best course of action is . you may feel the right thing to do is to tell them both the truth about your feelings , or you may think it best that you keep them to yourself . if you decide to tell them how you feel , consider talking to your friend about it first . depending on the situation , your friend may understand and step aside . prepare yourself for things to go poorly if you choose to be honest . while everything may work out , you also run the risk of losing a friend and still not being able to date your crush . remember to be sensitive to their feelings as well as your own in your decision .

realize that just because he doesnt like you doesnt mean youre unlikable . back off for a bit , dont interact with him just for the sake of being around him . be glad he didnt lead you on . think about all the things you didnt like about him . spend more time with your friends .

how to get over a manipulative crush

you were your own unique and perfectly content person long before this guys opinion ever meant a thing to you the more you remember and act on that , the stronger and more attractive youll feel . in fact , it may help to think back on all the other ways that this guy demonstrated his poor judgment . are his actions idiotic was he a geologist did he always wear socks with sandals maybe the signs were there all along… not only will you be doing yourself a favor by emotionally disengaging , but , since nothing is more unpleasant than unwelcome attention , you might be able to recover a few shards of a friendship with him . if you simply cannot function around him , or you think you would start to like him more once near , find inconspicuous ways to avoid him until you feel more centered . he couldve pretended to like you in order to manipulate you more . then whered you be you might feel heartbroken now , but at least be relieved that he didnt actively deceive you , leading to more intense heartbreak . maybe he exploited your feelings for him and advised others to do the same . maybe he constantly interrupted you and dreamed of being a pet taxidermist . maybe you were in love with the fantasy of this guy and not the guy himself . dredging all the ugly details will help you realize that , just maybe , hes doing you a big favor by being such a jerk . that way , you didnt realize these flaws until you were at the altar . following step 2 and becoming a full - time hermit is just going to make you feel like hes the only person in the world . go out with your pals , have a girls night , and socialize as much as possible . the more you meet your emotional needs elsewhere , the more you wont pay that lost cause any attention .

let your emotions out . forget your anger and bitterness . focus on your crushs worst qualities . know that you deserve better . remember how amazing you are . stop talking to your crush . stop talking about your crush , too . avoid your crush on social media . avoid places where your crush is likely to be . mix up your routine . lean on your friends and family . do what you love . enjoy your solo time . get out of the house . love the single life . get ready for a new crush .

how to forget your crush

if you want to forget your crush , then the first thing you have to do is to admit that you have strong feelings for this person . if youre in denial about how much your crush means to you , then youll just keep all of those intense feelings inside instead of letting them go . take the time to cry , to talk to a close friend about it , to admit how much youve been hurt , and to acknowledge your feelings . write down what youre feeling , if that helps . if you dont want to open up to a friend , opening up to a journal can make you feel better , too . if youre going to be upset for a little while because things didnt work out with your crush , thats okay . let your friends know that youre going to lie low for a little while and dont force yourself to be super social if youre just not feeling it . that being said , after a few weeks or so , its time to stop wallowing and to start having some form of social interaction . if you spent too much time being alone with your feelings , you may only feel worse . you may have many reasons for feeling angry or bitter . maybe your crush really hurt you . maybe you were so sure things would work out and they didnt . maybe your crush ended up dating one of your friends and youre feeling mad at both of them . these feelings will naturally accompany the situation youre in , but that doesnt mean that they are healthy or that they can help you move on . write down all of the reasons why youre feeling angry and bitter . acknowledging your pain is crucial to forgetting it . once youve figured out where all of your negative feelings are coming from , you can begin to tackle them , one by one . if you come in contact with your crush , dont let them see how angry or bitter you may be feeling . the best thing you can do is act completely indifferent , like you could care less about what your crush is up to . if you keep faking indifference , youll be surprised by how quickly youll really start to feel it . stop thinking about how good - looking , funny , or sweet your crush is whenever they pop in your mind . instead , focus on all of the bad parts about your crush , from their weird fashion sense or their ability to be mean to perfect strangers . make a list of all of these qualities if it helps . when your crush comes to mind , conjure up all of these negative thoughts instead of the positive ones . this will help you remember that your crush isnt really such a great person , after all . if you think that your crush is perfect and that you really cant think of one bad thing about them , then guess what you dont really know that person all that well . there is no such thing as a perfect person and everyone has flaws . the more you think about all of the bad aspects of your crush , the sooner youll see that you two arent right for each other after all . you may think that you and your crush would be the worlds most perfect couple , but thats just not the case . if you really belonged together , then it would happen , wouldnt it for whatever reason , it didnt work out between you and your crush , and its likely that its because youre simply just too good for them . your crush is not your soul mate , and once you realize that , youll be able to find someone who you do deserve . sure , you may have heard all of your friends telling you that you deserve better than your crush over and over again , but this wont sink in until you realize it for yourself . if youre feeling down in the dumps about things not working out with your crush , then its likely that you need to pump yourself up . you probably are feeling down on yourself , and like youre unworthy in some way because youre not dating your crush , but thats the farthest thing from the truth . remember your most amazing qualities , focus on all of the great friends and opportunities in your life , and remember your favorite personality traits . keep telling yourself that you are an amazing person who only deserves the best – and the best simply does not refer to your crush staying positive is key here . if you focus on all of the good things in your life and in your character instead of the things you dont have , then youll be able to move on much faster than you would if you only saw the worst in every situation . it may sound obvious that you should stop talking to your crush if you want to forget them , but chances are that you may still be talking to your crush even if you know its not good for you . you dont have to be downright rude , but you should make a point of avoiding your crush and not talking to them as much as you can . stop texting , calling , or just stopping and saying hi to your crush . the sooner you stop seeing your crush and hearing their voice , the sooner youll be able to really get your crush out of your life . if you have to be in the same place as your crush , like a class , for example , then you should be nice and polite without making an effort . theres no need to be mean and it wont make you feel better . though talking to a close friend about forgetting your crush can help you move on , if you talk about your crush to every single person you come across or every mutual friend you have , then you wont be feeling better any time soon . you dont have to be denial about your feelings , but if you keep mentioning your crush , youll only be opening up old wounds and reminding yourself of the very thing that hurt you . if you do have mutual friends , avoid asking about how your crush is doing . how will that make you feel better if youre only going on facebook , instagram , or any other social networking sites to stalk your crush and to see if theyve been dating anyone else or hanging out with that cute person in your chem class , then you should take a social media break . if you really do love facebook , then avoid the temptation to click on their profile and use it to stay in touch with the people who actually make you feel good . seeing pictures of your crush is guaranteed to make you feel worse , so stop torturing yourself . give yourself a time limit – say youll only spend 15 minutes a day on facebook . if you want to spend that time stalking your crush , then you wont get to see what the people who actually care about you are up to . though you dont have to change your schedule completely , if you really want to forget your crush , then you should try to avoid all of the places where you know youll see them . dont go to their favorite restaurant or movie theatre if youre pretty sure theyll be there on a friday night . if you know theyll be going to a certain party and youre still feeling really hurt , then find something else to do . this does not mean that your crush won and that you cant do anything fun anymore it just means you have to avoid them for a little while until you feel better . if you want to get your crush out of your life , then its time to switch things up . have something different for breakfast . meet a new friend for lunch instead of the same old friends . pick up a new hobby . drive to school or work by a different route . though these changes may not be directly related to your crush , just making an effort to get out of the mindset that got you hung up on your crush in the first place can help you start to look at the world differently and to stop thinking the same thoughts that revolve around your crush . think about it are there certain times of day when you think about your crush the most if so , can you do something differently during those times so you will be more likely to forget about them instead for example , if you always stare out the window on the bus ride home and think sad thoughts about your crush , find a new pump up album and listen to that during your ride home so it becomes a positive experience , instead of a time when you think about your crush . one great way to forget about your crush is to spend as much time as possible with the people who mean the most to you . your friends and family have been there for you through thick and thin and they will make you feel better about your romantic situation just by being there for you . though your social routine doesnt have to be so jam packed that you dont have a minute to yourself , you should make an effort to spend more time with your loved ones , so you can be grateful for all of the positive relationships in your life – instead of obsessing over the one relationship that didnt pan out . dont spend your friday or saturday nights alone or youll wish you were with your crush . hang out with your girl or guy friends instead , and youll be having so much fun that youll forget all about your crush . spending time doing something that means a lot to you is a sure fire way to banish any thoughts about your crush from your mind . you should spend more time pursuing your favorite hobby , whether its running or painting , exercising , reading , or just doing whatever makes you happy . maybe you think youre too busy to make time for the things you care about . if thats the case , then make the time by cutting something else out of your life if youre committed to pursuing your passion , then all thoughts of your crush will slowly drift away . maybe youre feeling so down in the dumps about your crush because you dont have a lot of things that you really care about . it could be time to find out what your passion really is by taking a class out of your comfort zone , signing up for a photography , ballroom dancing , acting , or singing class , or just trying something completely new that you have a feeling might make you happy . though spending time with your friends and family and doing your favorite activities can make you forget your crush , if you really want to find peace on your own , then you have to be comfortable with spending some time with your favorite person – you . if youre really sad and upset the second youre not keeping busy , then you havent really gotten over your crush yet . make weekly me dates and spend that time doing something you really love – or just relaxing and watching your favorite tv show or taking a long hot bath . it doesnt matter what you do – what matters is that you really enjoy doing it alone . dont let last - minute plans with friends get in the way of your me time . you should treasure your me time like its a hot date with your favorite celebrity . dont hole up in your dark sad cave thinking about all the reasons why it didnt work out with your crush get outside and breathe some fresh air instead . just being out in the sun and breathing fresh air instead of hanging out at home will make you feel more alive , alert , energetic , and happier . if you have to do some work , then dont hole up in your room and go to a coffee shop or park instead . just being around other people , even if youre not talking to them , will make you feel happier and will make you less likely to dwell on your crush . make sure to get out of the house at least once a day , even if its just to take a half hour walk . staying inside for an entire day is guaranteed to make anyone feel unhappy , whether theyre trying to get over someone or not . if you want to really get over your crush , then you cant just be miserable by yourself and wait for someone new to come along . you have to be truly content with being on your own , doing your own thing , hanging out with your friends , and doing some casual flirting that wont lead anywhere . you should appreciate the freedom that singledom can bring and know that , while dating someone can be fun and fulfilling , it should not determine whether youre happy or sad . give it time . it can take weeks , or even months , to appreciate being single , but once you do , youll see that you never really needed your crush after all – what you needed was an idea of your crush that you thought would lead you to happiness , but it wasnt the answer you were looking for , in the end . once youve done all the right things – adjusted your perspective , gotten rid of thoughts of your crush , and moved forward to do the things that make you happy – then you can really congratulate yourself for forgetting your crush . you have seen how great your life is without your crush , how amazing you are , and how lucky you are for the life you have . if youre really over your crush , then you can slowly start to open up your heart and start crushing on someone new . if youve really moved on , then celebrate your victory and get excited about all of the love that will come your way .

remember that you have value . find an outlet for your feelings . dont give in to self - destructive urges . look to other friends for support .

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if you choose not to tell your crush about your feelings , or if you do but he or she doesnt reciprocate them , you may find yourself feeling pretty down . these feelings are perfectly normal , but dont allow them to skew your sense of self value . make a list of the traits you have that a dating prospect would find valuable or attractive to remind you of your romantic strengths . remember that not being right for one person doesnt mean you arent a great catch its important that you not just bottle up your negative emotions . find an outlet that you can use to safely express your feelings without any social fallout or embarrassment . try writing in a journal on your laptop . get your feelings out in words to help you better understand and cope with them . if you feel like you need to cry , you should . letting it out can make you feel much better and release tension that has built up throughout your interactions with your friend and crush . dancing , exercising , drawing or any number of other things can serve as a creative way to express your emotions . keep trying until you find one that fits you . sometimes when were upset we make bad decisions thats part of being human , but dont allow your bad feelings to lead you to make choices you know are harmful or destructive . drinking and drugs may seem like theyll help , but they often just make you feel worse in the long run . they can also lead to addiction and serious health issues . its okay to spend some time lying on the couch and stress - eating , but dont allow yourself to stay there for too long . eating fattening foods and not getting any exercise can make you feel worse instead of better . when youre hurting , sometimes the best thing you can do is reach out to a friend or family member . having a shoulder to cry on or a friendly ear to vent to can make a huge difference in how you feel when going through a difficult romantic situation . focus on you and how you feel instead of discussing your friend or crush . dont put mutual friends in a difficult position by making them feel as though they need to choose sides . you may feel embarrassed about the situation , but speaking to others can help you appreciate that heartache affects us all and theres nothing to be ashamed of .

decide when its time to move forward . take control of your life . open yourself up to new romantic opportunities . be kind to your friend and old crush .

how to deal with one of your friends dating your crush 3

there is nothing wrong with spending some time wallowing in your unhappiness , in fact , its part of the process , but eventually it will be time to get up , dust yourself off and start moving on . you may not feel like you want to , but when youre ready , you may need to force yourself to get started . focus on thinking positive thoughts and emphasize the parts of your life that are going well . make the conscious decision to start working on being happy again and take your happiness seriously . dont ruminate on negative thoughts . when you feel yourself starting to get down , force yourself to think about something different . one of the hardest parts about rejection or not being with the person we care about is the feeling of helplessness it can create . no matter how strong your feelings are , they cant change how others feel . take control back from that feeling of helplessness by taking charge of your life and your actions . make conscious decisions before you act . dont just get through the day , choose what you are going to do and then go after it . make healthy choices to double up on the positivity gained through taking charge of your life . choose to eat better , go for a run or something else that benefits you . once you are feeling more like yourself again , it may be time to get back on the dating scene . try to meet some new people and even go on some dates . while you may not find the right person right away , you may find that you enjoy the process and the opportunities it presents . if you get into a relationship , take it slow and allow your feelings to develop naturally . dont put pressure on yourself to date if youre not ready . making some new friends could do just fine . if things didnt work out the way youd hoped , that doesnt make your friend or the crush that youve gotten over bad people . just like with you , not being right for someone isnt a gauge of their character . dont hold a grudge and try to remain friends if youre comfortable with doing so . if you dont feel ready to be friends with either of them again , thats okay . take your time . remember that friendships are valuable . treat each of them with kindness and there may come a day when things can go back to how they once were for each of you . remember that holding on to negative feelings hurts you more than anyone else .

try to not let yourself break down right in front of himher . when you are by yourself , allow yourself to cry if you need to . dont let this person bring you down because heshe is not even worth it . consider the positives of the situation . if you see this person a lot , try not to avoid them . dont totally discount the idea of being friends in the future . the most important thing to remember is continue to love yourself .

how to deal with being disappointed by your crush

even if it really seems like it , this is not hisher fault . also , if you dont know - or barely know - the person you run the risk of freaking himher out , and its possible you could also feel extremely embarrassedashamed of yourself for losing control afterwards . you dont want to make things any harder on yourself by letting - what is already a tough situation - lead to further negative emotions and problems . instead , wait until you can be by yourself to let out your emotions . but dont take it out on yourself even if it is very tempting to do so . spend as much time as you need releasing your feelings . eventually you will feel better , even if this takes some time . especially not if you dont like who the crush really is as a person this does not include how you thought that this person was . think about exactly what it was about your crush that disappointed you , and how this would have affected you if youd gone on to have a relationship with them . its likely that if anything about them especially put you off them romantically - then the thingthings would have made you highly unsatisfied or unhappy in some way . if this is the case , count this experience as being a lucky escape - and remember that there are other fish in the sea . just because you happened to have a strong crush on one person , does not mean that this will never happen to you again with someone else . its even possible that the next time the crush will turn out not to be the disappointment this one has . avoiding is really tempting and we all do it , but in the long run , it really makes most situations worse . itll also make it harder to get what has happened out of your mind . if you are in any kind of regular contact with them , just try your best to treat them as you would any other casual acquaintance or friend . not only does it make things less awkward for them , but itll make getting back to normal much easier for you . unless of course there is a very good reason for this i . e . they treated you badly in some way . even if you feel turned off by them romantically , that does not mean that you cant try this - if in general you get along with them reasonably well or feel theres a good chance you might . you might gain a really great friendship out of this experience . regardless of how disappointed this person made you feel , remember that caring for yourself and your needs is far more important than dwelling on this other person .

pause . smile . ask for clarification .

how to answer when your crush asks you a strange question 1

dont feel like you have to respond right away . take a few seconds to collect your thoughts and take a deep breath . if the question is really awkward and strange , you want some time to respond appropriately . it can be awkward if you say something that doesnt make sense , if you like this person , you should give them the benefit of the doubt that their question wasnt supposed to make you uncomfortable . dont become cold or angry immediately . smile and indicate that you still like this person and want to work out this awkwardness . if you want to buy even more time , ask your crush for clarification on what they asked you and why they asked . here are some example questions what did you say what do you mean by that why are you asking

dont be straightforward , play truth or dare . if they say nobody theres a 50 chance they might be lying . if they look down on the floor with sad eyes , they might be shy or they are heartbroken . if they are startled or froze , their crush might be you , if they say out another peoples name , then there is a 50 chance that they are making it up . there is a 1 chance that this would happen unless that person is straightforward . start with step 1 or 2 then follow 3 onwards .

how to ask your crush who heshe likes without letting himher suspect anything

asking it directly might be too awkward . just start a relevant conversation like hey you know , name already has a girlfriend boyfriend . how nice , i wish i could have one . then , if that person responds then keep going . sooner or later , you will ask hey , who do you like by the way play truth or dare first . if that person chooses truth ask them the question . but if they choose dare , just ask that person to do something like shout aloud the name of your crush if they are telling the truth , that means they are available . if that person just says nobody confidently and with no hesitation , then that person is telling the truth . that is good dont worry , you will find the time to comfort them . just dont get overprotective or lay claims . often times , looking down at the floor may mean they like somebody out of their league , and is just working up the courage to talk to them . interfering out of your own self interest can bring you guys from friends to acquaintances in no time . if you really like that person , it is better to remain friends were you can learn more about them than having them push you away because it is too awkward for them . or they are just shy to tell their secret crush . dont put to much stock in this , and it is best to say immediately , its o . k . you dont have to tell , and to laugh it off , and then try to get it some other way . again , unless the person feels like telling the truth , it is very easy to say either nobody or the name of the hottest person in the class to throw you off track . they might just confess to you good luck and remember , dont get obsessive , or they will figure it out really fast . truth or dare is the best way , but if you are there , it might discourage them from being truthful . and if you are reasonably sure they like you , just ask them out . it is easier and less of a strain to get it over with , no matter how awkward it will be . we have all been there .

be confident , work to his advantage . talk to him when you get the chance , but dont seem desperate . have a reason to . make his friends your friends . show your humour , be confident 2 . enjoy yourself , be yourself

how to act cool around your crush for girls

remember to express your opinion in front of him . some girls change who they are to match their crush , but no matter how tempting this may seem , be yourself 100 of the time . always seem friendly and open to everyone you meet . work this to your advantage , so if he asks you for a favour , or your opinion , be obliged to reply . then youll seem more trustworthy , and hell love you for it . whenever you have something to say to him , say it . take every opportunity you get to socialize . whenever you want to calltalktextemail him , make sure you have a reason true or not as to why you did it . dont tell this to your crush , feel free to type freely . the reason why you need this is to rescue yourself if some other kid asks you why you calledtextedemailedtalked to him . plus , if youre not sure that this guy likes you back , you can have an excuse to talk to him . or ask for his numberemail address . , but dont repeat or laugh at your own jokes . you may seem full of yourself if you repeat it , or laugh loads , but a smile or giggle is fine . once things have started to spark a little , start hinting quite subtly that you like him . eventually , when you feel brave , tell him you like spending time with him and ask him out . as i said before , make sure theres an excuse to do so if anyone asks . dont restrict your every move - make sure you enjoy his company . let loose when you feel the time is right , and be yourself whenever hes near . spending time with him should be fun , not a lesson dont change your entirely self just to look cool . the personality is the main thing for guys to look in a girl , and of course , not the look . but taking care of your looks means keep hygiene , brush your hair , dont be messy etc . now , how to act yourself simple - - - - - have fun enjoy every seconds of your life , have fun with your friends , smile , laugh , be natural . and , while youre doing it , take a glance at your crush make sure hes around and maybe smile at him . he will see the cute side of yours .

spend time on your hobbies . meet new people . try something completely different .

how to accept that your crush doesnt like you 1

throw yourself into the things you enjoy doing to keep your mind off your crush . if you used to spend a lot of time thinking about the object of your affections , reclaim that time by putting it towards a new project , a good book , or a series on netflix that youve been meaning to watch . if you previously dropped some of your hobbies because you were distracted by your crush , picking them up again is a great way to move on . instead of pining over someone who isnt interested in you , mix it up with some new people who will appreciate how great you are . you dont have to go looking for another crush just yet , but dont be shy about reaching out to all kinds of people and making new friends . school , extracurricular activities , community clubs , and volunteer work are all good ways to meet people . expand your horizons and take your mind off the past by challenging yourself . if youve always wanted to do something but never worked up the nerve , theres no better time than right now to give it a try . for example , you could audition for a play , take a solo trip , or apply for a new job .

laugh it off . joke around . tell the person that you dont want to answer that question . say you dont know . tell them that the question made you uncomfortable , if this is applicable . ask them about something else .

how to answer when your crush asks you a strange question 2

assume that your crush is making a weird , not funny joke . give them a chuckle and then move on . smile at the person and laugh a little bit in a natural way . this strategy works especially well for questions that seem to be teasing andor not really serious . if your crush asks you if you have ten kittens in your backpack , theyre probably not being serious . questions like this seem strange but might just be bad jokes . take a second and ask yourself if your crush could have been joking . could they want you to say something strange back have they done this before try to find a way that their statement could be a joke and then respond accordingly . if your crush asks you , have you ever been to the moon , say , yes , i have . just got back this morning if your crush asks you something too personal , tell them that you dont want to answer that . say , i dont really want to answer that question . you could also try , im not going to answer that . be firm but not mean . if its a personal question , saying i dont know indicates that you dont want to answer it . if its not a personal question about you , just say you dont know the answer . its truthful and ends the conversation quickly . for example , if your crush asks you , how loudly do you snore at night , tell them that you dont know because you are asleep . or , if your crush asks you what the capital of a faraway country is , say you dont know if you actually dont know . if your crush asks you something really rude or disrespectful , you should tell them that their question made you uncomfortable . if the person is worth dating , they will respect you and try to understand your point of view . you can say , that question makes me uncomfortable , and i dont want to answer it . please dont ask me questions like this again . change the subject quickly . do not feel the need to continue having this strange conversation . ask your crush about a common interest of yours , their school or workplace , the weather , current events , or anything else that interests either you or your crush . you can also say that you have to go . make up an excuse to get out of the situation . you do not have to stay if you feel disrespected or uncomfortable .

initiate a different conversation . use positive , open body language . give your crush a compliment .

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maybe your crush asked an awkward question in an effort to talk to you or get to know you , but they didnt know exactly what to say . initiate a new conversation with your crush where you talk about something that you actually do want to talk about . initiating conversations show people that youre interested in them and want to get to know them more . here are some sample questions you could ask your crush what did you do this weekend what are your plans this upcoming weekend do you have any pets whats your favorite subject in school why if you could have any superpower , what would it be why whats your favorite food your body language says a lot about you in social situations . if you want to make your crush feel more comfortable , you should make an effort to ensure that your body language is welcoming . here are some tips to do this smile . maintain good eye contact with the person . uncross your arms if they are crossed . turn towards the person . nod while the person speaks . compliments make people feel appreciated . while your crush is talking , think about what you like about them . give them an unusual , thoughtful compliment . here are some examples i really like the way you tell stories . you always make them funny and have great timing . i loved what you said in class about psychology you brought a really unique perspective to the conversation . those socks are great did you buy them because you like avocados